The Confident Man Podcast

Tired of constant distractions? Feeling like your phone has a magnetic pull on your hand?In this episode of Thriving Man, "3 Big Truths About Attention," we dive deep into why our ability to focus is one of our most powerful assets – and how you can actually improve it!Join David Maxwell from ThrivingMan.com, as we explore why attention is the real currency of life, how it brings meaning and power, and practical ways to train your focus like a muscle.Stop letting your attention be controlled and start building a thriving life.Subscribe, Like, and Share to empower yourself and conquer your everyday chaos!Introduction: The Boredom EpidemicWhy we instantly grab our phones during downtime.The silent cost of losing our ability to pay attention.A sneak peek at the 3 Big Truths about Attention and how they impact your life.The Power of Attention DefinedWhy paying attention is hard work in a world bombarded with stimuli.Attention = Time + Focus: Understanding the true equation.Taking control of your focus to control your life.Attention as CurrencyWhy attention is the real currency of life, not just time.How where you put your attention defines your life's direction.Investing your attention for a meaningful life and stronger relationships.Attention Training: Building Your Focus MuscleThink of attention like a muscle: you can build it up or let it atrophy.Practical steps to start training your attention (e.g., setting phone limits).Discover resources at ThrivingMan.com to help you focus on the 4 main areas of your life: Spiritual, Physical, Mental, Emotional.Actionable Questions:Are you controlling your attention, or allowing it to be controlled?Are you investing your attention into the important and meaningful parts of life?What are you actively doing to train your attention?Attention, focus, distraction, productivity, self-improvement, mindfulness, personal growth, men's health, thriving man, time management, digital detox, mental clarity, meaningful life, build focus, improve attention, attention training, attention span, digital addiction, control attention, intentional living.

Last time, we talked about how we've become tired and wired, constantly "on" with too many mental tabs open. Today, we're diving deeper into the critical question: why does losing our brain's on-off switch matter so much? The answer is simple: it's costing us – in our potential, our satisfaction, and our ability to truly rest.First, we'll explore how the inability to focus hinders our potential. Imagine trying to hit a game-winning shot while distracted by a dozen other things. We've lost the crucial art of dropping everything else to focus on one thing, whether it's a critical work project, quality time with our kids, or even navigating the road safely. When you can't be present, you can't truly excel.Next, we reveal how this constant "on" state sabotages our satisfaction. The male brain, in particular, thrives on making steady progress towards a goal. But when our minds are constantly bombarded by distractions – akin to someone trying to sell you dessert during an intense football practice – we lose the profound satisfaction that comes from focused effort and achievement. This constant mental chatter prevents us from savoring our accomplishments and enjoying the journey.Finally, we'll uncover how losing our on-off switch ruins our rest. We were designed for a natural rhythm of work and rest, reflected in days, weeks, and even seasons. However, modern life has eroded these vital barriers. Our homes have become extensions of our workplaces, and our minds struggle to unplug, leading to a lingering voice of doubt that hinders true mental relaxation. When all parts of life are blended together, nothing has its own distinct time and place, leaving us with a "blended" and often unsatisfying experience.Join us at ThrivingMan.com, where we're dedicated to helping you conquer everyday chaos and build a life you can be proud of. In our next episode, we'll uncover why we find ourselves in this perpetual "on" state and explore the ongoing war on our attention and peace.On-Off Switch, Brain Health, Focus, Attention, Distraction, Productivity, Potential, Satisfaction, Rest, Work-Life Balance, Mental Fatigue, Burnout, Digital Overload, Information Overload, Mental Chatter, Present Moment, Deep Work, ThrivingMan, Men's Health, Personal Development, Self-Improvement, Conquer Chaos, Build a Thriving Life, Cognitive Function, Mental Clarity, Quality of Life, Boundaries, Digital Boundaries, Stress Management, Unplugging, Mental Rest, True Rest, Constant Connection, Mind Management.

In today's fast-paced world, it feels like we're constantly on, always connected, and perpetually busy. But despite all the tech designed to make life easier, why do we feel more stressed and tired than ever?In this video, we're diving into "3 Reasons Why We're Tired and Wired" and exploring the crucial skill of "catch and release" to help you regain focus and find peace amidst the chaos.We'll uncover how we've lost our mental on-off switch, leaving countless "tabs" open in our minds and blurring the lines between work and leisure. Discover how this constant mental juggling leads to stress, procrastination, and a life lived in shades of grey.Next, we'll expose how our addiction to checklists and the "tips and tricks rabbit hole" can actually prevent us from taking action. Are you constantly searching for the "secrets" to productivity, only to find yourself more overwhelmed? We'll discuss how trying to do it all, or conversely, running away from it all, keeps us from living a productive and peaceful life.Finally, we'll introduce the powerful meta-skill of "catch and release." Learn how to mentally and physically engage deeply when it's time to focus, and then truly disengage and let go when it's time to rest. This isn't just about time management; it's about mastering your mental energy.Join us at ThrivingMan.com, a community for like-minded men striving to thrive in all areas of life amidst everyday chaos. Hit subscribe, like, and share to help us reach more men who need to hear this message!Tired and Wired, Catch and Release, Focus, Mental On-Off Switch, Stress, Overwhelmed, Productivity, Peace, Time Management, Digital Detox, Work-Life Balance, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Busyness, Constant Connection, ThrivingMan, Men's Community, Self-Improvement, Personal Growth, Overcoming Chaos, Reduce Stress, Improve Focus, Digital Overload, Information Overload, Mental Juggling, Checklists, Productivity Tips, Procrastination, Letting Go, Mental Engagement, Mental Disengagement, Thriving, Life Skills.

Title: Transform Your Self-Talk: Become Your Own Best Ally (Not Your Worst Enemy!)Do you feel like you're constantly battling yourself? Our culture often pushes us to be our own worst critics, but what if you could become your greatest supporter? In this episode, Reese from ThrivingMan.com dives deep into the power of self-talk – the silent soundtrack that shapes your entire life.We'll explore why your internal dialogue is the cornerstone of true security and how it impacts everything from your daily mood to your long-term success. Discover how a mindset shift, like the characters in "Blue Lock" and "Naruto," can transform perceived victimhood into resilience. We'll challenge the idea of "bad days" and show you why your internal narrative, not just your circumstances, dictates your joy and performance.Learn practical strategies to observe your thought patterns, nurture a positive inner voice, and even "lecture" yourself into becoming your own best coach. Stop self-sabotaging and start building a thriving life you can be proud of!If this content helps you, please Like and Share!In this episode, we cover:The critical choice: ally or enemy in your own mind?Why self-talk is the foundation of security.How your mental soundtrack colors your perception of life.The difference between a "bad day" and a "bad mindset."Real-world examples of mindset's impact on joy and performance.Practical steps to observe, nurture, and lecture your way to positive self-talk.Find more resources to help you at www.thrivingman.comself-talk, mindset, personal growth, self-improvement, insecurity, mental health, resilience, positive thinking, inner voice, thriving life, self-sabotage, self-confidence, mental soundtrack, life coaching, men's development, Thriving Man, inner critic, positive affirmations, self-belief, emotional intelligence, personal development, self-mastery.

Insecurity's Natural EnemyWhat if there was a natural enemy to insecurity? Something that automatically conquers your insecurity and takes it away? In this video, David from Thriving Man reveals the powerful truth he discovered that's been transforming his life for 28 years: the more you discover how you are designed, the more secure you become as a man.We often focus on our flaws, but the secret to conquering insecurity isn't to fight it directly. It's about shifting your focus to your unique, God-given design. Just like we naturally adapt to new technology, we can grow into our authentic selves.Join us as we explore:Why trying to be someone else actually fuels insecurityHow your journey of discovery in the 4 D's of life (Mental, Physical, Emotional, Spiritual) leads to natural securityThe power of focusing on growth rather than fixating on your insecurityStop trying to be perfect and start embracing your authentic self. Learn how focusing on your natural strengths and weaknesses, and committing to growth, will organically melt away your insecurity and empower you to live a thriving life.

Show Notes: Transform Your Life: How Good Relationships Create True SecurityWelcome to the Security Series! In this episode, we're diving deep into a surprising truth: while releasing the need for external approval is crucial, healthy relationships are absolutely fundamental to understanding and experiencing true love and security. It's not about being "mushy" or self-indulgent; it's about becoming your own ally and building a foundation of inner strength.We discuss how love, like any vital resource, needs to flow. When it's hoarded or kept in isolation, it stagnates and ultimately dies. Just as an economy needs the flow of money, your emotional well-being needs the flow of give and receive love. This is why the idea of "love yourself" isn't about being alone; it's about being in a position to love and be loved by others, learning what that truly looks like from those around you. We'll explore Dr. Henry Cloud's insights on how we learn love from our earliest relationships and how allowing others to see your flaws and still like you can teach you to like yourself.But what if you didn't have those strong examples growing up, or you find yourself isolated now? Don't worry, we've got you covered! We'll share actionable advice on how to find healthy relationships that will bolster your security and well-being.In this episode, you'll learn:Why security is about being comfortable and loving yourself, not about self-indulgence.The crucial role of others in learning to give and receive love.The danger of isolation and how it stunts emotional growth."Green Flags" to look for in healthy friendships: authenticity, the ability to celebrate others, a general slant toward positivity and gratitude, and resilience.Where to look for these supportive relationships, including healthy churches and community groups."Red Flags" to watch out for: dependency, consistent negativity, and a habit of quitting.Your Challenge:Make a list of "green flag" people in your life to reach out to.Contact them within the next week to start a conversation.Identify any "red flag" relationships that might be holding you back and consider how to create healthy boundaries.Don't forget to subscribe for more insights on building true security from the inside out! and find more resources at www.thrivingman.comsecurity, relationships, love, healthy relationships, emotional well-being, self-love, isolation, personal growth, authenticity, positivity, resilience, dependency, friendships, Dr. Henry Cloud, give and receive love, find friends, green flags, red flags, personal security, inner strength, well-being, emotional health, connection, community, transformation, self-acceptance.

In this powerful episode, David Maxwell of Thriving Man tackles a struggle many of us face: releasing the need for approval and letting go of what others think.Introduction: The Trap of Seeking ApprovalDavid opens with a relatable illustration: trying to impress a professional drummer while playing in a band, highlighting how easy it is to get caught in the trap of focusing on what others think. This desire for external validation can prevent us from truly living as the men we were designed to be. This episode, part of the Insecurity Series, is all about helping you live a thriving life.The Historical Struggle with External OpinionThe struggle with what others think is not new. From fashion choices to relationship decisions (like picking a partner for appearance rather than connection), we often let external perceptions dictate our lives. David clarifies that it's not about never caring what people think, but about releasing the need for approval. When you live for others' approval, you lose control of your own life.Two Keys to Releasing the Need for Approval1. Build a Healthy DetachmentHealthy detachment is not coldness or indifference. Instead, it's a mature and balanced way of relating to the world. It allows you to:Focus on your individual well-being while engaging in respectful interactions.Navigate complex relationships without losing yourself.Practice compassion without enmeshment and engagement without undue emotional burden.Live authentically, without playing a part or acting out a character.Cultivate empathy and build healthy connections, avoiding the people-pleasing trap.Healthy detachment requires truth:Be honest about your own strengths and weaknesses.Be truthful in your dealings with others, speaking honestly about your actions.Jesus is presented as an example: loving and empathetic, yet speaking uncomfortable truths and not letting others control him.2. Learn to Release ControlYou cannot control what others think of you, so stop trying. This doesn't mean you don't care, but it means their opinions can't control you. David illustrates this with examples like wearing uncomfortable fashion trends or putting on an "I don't care mask" – both are attempts to control perception. The key is to simply be you.Trying to control others' opinions often stems from our own insecurity. As you become more secure in who you are, acknowledging both your strengths and weaknesses, you'll develop a peace that permeates all areas of your life. While protecting your name and integrity is important, you ultimately cannot control what happens in other people's minds.Your Call to ActionStart by focusing on building your healthy detachment:Individual well-being: How are you growing as a man? Explore resources at Thrivingman.com.Respectful interactions: Are you cultivating strong friendships and relationships?By taking these steps to release the need for approval, you will unlock a whole new aspect of your life and truly begin to thrive.

Ready to ditch the "I got it" facade and step into real growth?

Ready to boldly go where you've never gone before? Just like Captain Kirk on the Enterprise, there's a spirit of adventure inside each of us that yearns to connect with the unknown. But often, life feels less like a starship and more like being stuck in orbit, held back by the gravity of fear and insecurity.In this episode of ThrivingMan.com, join David Maxwell as we explore how to Unleash Your Courage: Living with a Spirit of Adventure. We'll dive into why that adventurous spark seems to fade as we get older and how to reignite it, breaking free from the paralysis of "what ifs."We'll uncover two powerful ways to cultivate this vital spirit:Willingness to Put Yourself Out There: Remember when you were a kid, learning to walk, undeterred by tumbles? We'll rediscover that "why not?" attitude that allows us to take smart risks and try new things, understanding that messing up is just part of the journey. It's about being authentically you, even when it feels a little scary.Separating Performance from Identity: What if a setback didn't define you? We'll explore the crucial skill of detaching your worth from your achievements. Whether you soar or stumble, your fundamental value as a person remains constant. This inner security is the bedrock that allows you to navigate both failure and victory with grounded wisdom.Ready to take the first step? Here's your mission:Get Grounded: Identify the unwavering foundations of who you are – your faith, relationships, and core values.Pick Your Adventure: Choose one area where you can intentionally step outside your comfort zone – whether it's being more outgoing, trying a new hobby, approaching dating with fresh eyes, deepening your faith, or building new friendships.Reflect and Grow: Start a habit like journaling to process your experiences and track your growth along the way.Visit Thrivingman.com for more resources to help you on your journey.It's time to stop holding back. Unleash your courage, embrace the spirit of adventure, and become the man you were designed to be!#Courage #SpiritofAdventure #Boldly Go #Insecurity #Fear #Hesitation #ComfortZone #NewExperiences #Risk-Taking #TryingNewThings #Failure #Performance #Identity #InnerSecurity

From Self-Critic to Self-Cheerleader: 3 Lessons from Uncle Iroh & Fire Lord Ozai➡️ Tired of the negative voice in your head? Learn 3 actionable steps to go from constantly criticizing yourself to becoming your own biggest cheerleader! We're using the iconic contrast between Uncle Iroh and Fire Lord Ozai from Avatar: The Last Airbender to show you how.Hey Thriving Men! David Maxwell here from ThrivingMan.com. We're tackling insecurity head-on!Learn why your inner "idiot" is holding you back and how to cultivate self-compassion. We'll analyze Iroh's wisdom and Ozai's negativity to unlock the secrets to self-acceptance.Here's how to transform your inner critic:Open Up Your Worldview: Like Uncle Iroh, see the world beyond yourself to reduce self-obsession and criticism.Build Solid Relationships: Mirror Iroh's nurturing relationships to shift focus outward and build self-worth.Find Your Joy: Embrace simple pleasures like Uncle Iroh to build inner peace and combat negativity.It starts by looking outward, not inward.#SelfHelp #SelfCompassion #PositiveThinking #AvatarLessons #IrohWisdom #OzaiContrast #InsecurityHelp #PersonalDevelopmentForMen #ThrivingMan #InnerCritic #SelfLove #RelationshipAdvice #FindingJoy

Stop Blaming, Start Owning! 4 Keys to Take Control & Crush InsecurityTired of saying "it's not my fault"? We all do it, often without realizing it!Learn the 4 crucial keys to owning your journey, taking radical responsibility, and finally letting go of insecurity and the need for perfectionism.Welcome to ThrivingMan.com! I'm David Maxwell, helping you conquer chaos and thrive. This is the FIX for insecurity we've been diagnosing! Learn why taking responsibility (even when it's hard - my first job story!) is the ultimate power move.In this video:Stepping into Ownership: It's a choice! Learn how self-ownership empowers you (like Jinwoo!).Recognize Perfectionism: Your "do it right or not at all" mentality might be keeping you from growth and responsibility.Embrace Failure as a Teacher: Shift your mindset! Failure isn't your identity, it's your greatest lesson (growth mindset!).Make the Mindset Shift: Separate your worth from your performance for true freedom and resilience.Ready to take control? Practice separating who you are from what you do. Discover the freedom of authentic ownership!Check out more resources to help you grow as a man at www.thrivingman.com.#OwnYourJourney #TakeResponsibility #Insecurity #OvercomeInsecurity #Perfectionism #PersonalGrowth #ThrivingMan #MensMentalHealth #SelfOwnership #FailureIsLearning #GrowthMindset #Accountability

Unmasking Yourself: Why We Project a False Image & How It Hurts Us

Self-Hatred ≠ Humility: Unmask Your True WorthEver notice those overpowered anime characters? Take Jin Woo from Solo Leveling. He starts out weak and becomes a total boss, yet he often still doubts himself.A lot of people think that's humility, but it's not. True humility isn't about thinking you're less; it's about being secure enough to think of yourself less and focus on others.I'm David Maxwell from thrivingman.com, where we help you conquer the chaos and build a truly thriving life.Today, we're tackling a common trap: mistaking self-hatred for humility. We'll unpack C.S. Lewis's powerful quote: "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less." So many of us get this wrong, constantly putting ourselves down, thinking that's what we're supposed to do. But this mindset hurts us and hinders our growth. Let's dive into how this plays out and how to naturally break free.The Mask Problem: Remember Jim Carrey in "The Mask"? Slapping on a persona because he didn't know how to be his authentic self? A lot of guys today struggle with this, wearing a "mask" to pretend or play a part because they're insecure. I saw this in myself after I found God, trying to cover up my insecurities by acting "humble," constantly putting myself down. It didn't work! It held me back. We've got to be careful we're not hiding behind a mask, preventing ourselves from learning how to be genuinely authentic in our worldview.The Gravity Issue: We often see ourselves as the sun in our own solar system, with everything revolving around "me." But while we're not the center of the universe, we're definitely not the trash of the universe either! We tend to go all-or-nothing: either we're the most important person, or we're worthless. This self-hatred doesn't benefit us or our relationships.The Focus Shift: The key to true humility isn't dwelling on your perceived shortcomings; it's intentionally shifting your focus outward, towards serving and helping others. Think about walking into an event and your first thought being, "Who can I help feel comfortable here?" Genuine care and service is the core of humility. But be warned: serving to "network" or get ahead is just another form of pride. We want to authentically serve because it's a natural expression of humility. Interestingly, it's often in serving others that we discover and develop our gifts.True humility is being secure enough to take the spotlight off yourself.Check your Masks: Are you hiding behind a persona?Check your Universe: Does everything revolve around you?Work on Shifting Your Focus: Intentionally look for ways to serve and help others.For more help on living a thriving life, head over to www.thrivingman.com.

Why “Thinking Less" of Yourself is Self-SabotageHey, it's Reese Maxwell here, and welcome back to the series on insecurity!If you're new here, make sure you hit that subscribe button and the bell notification so you don't miss out on future episodes where we dig deep into understanding and overcoming the things that hold us back.Last week, we talked about the draining trap of external validation. Today, we're tackling another sneaky form of self-sabotage: thinking less of yourself.We often hear the "suck it up" mentality, the idea that being hard on ourselves will somehow whip us into shape, like those disciplined Marines or the stoic figures we admire. But is self-hatred truly an effective motivator?Think of it like a firework – a burst of initial energy, but then it quickly fades, leaving you feeling drained and deflated. We see this play out in everything from restrictive dieting to the relentless pursuit of physical perfection.But the problem goes deeper than just burnout. Self-hatred is incredibly distracting. When you're constantly beating yourself up internally, you become trapped inside your own head, unable to truly focus and perform in the outside world. I remember my own struggles with self-doubt during masters swimming and even just trying to enjoy a high school party, my mind constantly consumed by how I felt.Ultimately, this inward negativity is destructive. For me, the cycle of self-loathing after struggling with porn only made things worse, each cycle breeding more cynicism and pulling me into an increasingly self-focused spiral.Stop using self-hatred as a weapon against yourself. It's not making you stronger; it's holding you back.In this episode, we'll explore:Why the "tough love" approach towards yourself often backfires.How self-hatred drains your energy and motivation in the long run.The way negative self-talk distracts you from your goals and experiences.The destructive cycle of self-loathing and its impact on your well-being.How focusing inward through self-hatred isolates you.Let's break free from this self-sabotaging pattern and discover a more effective path to growth and self-acceptance.Question for the comments: In what areas of your life do you find yourself using self-hatred as a form of motivation? Share your experiences below.Find more help at www.thrivingman.comSelf-sabotage, Negative self-talk, Low self-esteem, Self-doubt, Insecurity, Self-hatred, Motivation, Personal growth, Mental health, Overcoming insecurity, How to overcome negative thoughts?, How to build self-worth?, The dangers of negative self-talk, Overcoming self-doubt and insecurity

Chasing Shadows: Why Outside Approval Never Fills YouEver nail that promotion, graduation, or win that award you thought would finally make you feel... satisfied? And then... crickets? You're not alone.Welcome to Thriving Man, where we help you conquer the everyday chaos and build a truly thriving life. In this eye-opening episode, David Maxwell dives deep into why chasing external validation – the approval, praise, and achievements recognized by others – will always leave you feeling empty.We dissect the fleeting highs of milestones like graduations, job promotions, and bonuses, revealing why these "wins" often feel underwhelming despite our expectations. We'll expose the vicious cycle of insecurity that living for external validation creates, turning you into a servant of others' opinions instead of the master of your own life.Think external validation lasts? We'll look at how quickly society forgets yesterday's heroes and viral sensations, highlighting the short-lived nature of these external "wins." We'll also explore the dangerous power dynamic that emerges when you rely on others for your sense of worth, leaving you vulnerable to manipulation and scams.From classic movie tropes of characters losing everything in their quest for external approval to the ever-shifting sands of societal "must-haves" and even nutritional advice, we'll illustrate how easily external forces can control us if we haven't cultivated a strong inner life.Ready to break free from chasing shadows?This episode will help you understand:Why external achievements often fail to bring lasting contentment.The short lifespan of external validation and why it needs constant chasing.How relying on others' opinions can strip you of your autonomy.The vulnerability that comes with seeking constant outside approval.Why developing your inner compass is crucial for true fulfillment.Take control of your life and discover where true contentment really lies.Ask yourself today: "Who am I really living for?" and "What am I truly living for?"Ready to build a thriving life from the inside out? Visit us at www.thrivingman.com to explore our courses designed to help you grow in the four fundamental areas of every man: Spiritual, Physical, Mental, and Emotional.External validation, Seeking approval, Need for validation, Insecurity, Self-worth, Inner contentment, Happiness, Fulfillment, Living for others, People pleasing, Why am I never satisfied?, Why does achievement feel empty?, How to find inner peace?, How to be happy with yourself?

Title: The Inner Quest: Why We Feel the Need to Prove Ourselves (And How to Break Free)Welcome back to our series, where we're dedicated to helping you CONQUER INSECURITY SO YOU CAN LIVE A LIFE OF FREEDOM AND CONFIDENCE. In our previous episode, we explored the importance of security and its impact on your life. If you haven't seen it yet, make sure to catch up!In this video, we're diving deep into the root of insecurity: the relentless need to prove ourselves. Have you ever felt that intense pressure to validate your worth through achievements, performance, or external approval? You're not alone.Join us as we explore:The Drive to Prove: We'll share personal stories and relatable examples, like the anxiety of high-stakes performances and the constant pressure to excel.The Naruto Complex: How the desire to prove ourselves can fuel ambition, but also lead to unhealthy obsession.The Myth of External Validation: Why achievements and external praise can never truly fill the void of self-worth.The Instability of External Approval: How relying on others' opinions creates a rollercoaster of emotions and fleeting satisfaction.The Drama of External Validation: How it turns everyday accomplishments into high-stakes, anxiety-inducing events.We'll tackle the crucial question: Is trying to prove ourselves helpful or hurtful? Is it healthy or unhealthy?Key Takeaways:The desire to achieve and improve is not inherently bad.However, using achievements to fill a lack of self-worth is a recipe for disaster.True confidence comes from internal validation, not external approval.Understanding your motivations is the first step towards breaking free from the need to prove yourself.This video will help you examine your own motivations and understand why external validation is a shaky foundation for confidence.Don't forget to:

Is Insecurity Sabotaging Your Life?Are you one of the many men struggling with insecurity? You're not alone. In today's world, insecurity is reaching epidemic levels, silently sabotaging lives and relationships. But what if you could break free from those feelings of inadequacy and live with genuine confidence?In this video, we dive deep into the root causes of male insecurity and explore how it manifests in surprising ways:The constant need to impress.The aggression that masks inner fear.The escape into virtual worlds.The relentless cynicism and negativity.And so much more.We'll uncover the truth: many of the challenges we face stem from our own internal insecurities. But it's not all doom and gloom! We'll also explore the incredible benefits of conquering insecurity, including:Freedom Up Here: Silence that inner critic and become your own best ally.Freedom to Act: Overcome analysis paralysis and pursue a meaningful life.Authentic Relationships: Build genuine connections by being your true self.Contagious Security: Inspire others to embrace their own authenticity.This is the first video in a series dedicated to helping you CONQUER INSECURITY SO YOU CAN LIVE A LIFE OF FREEDOM AND CONFIDENCE.Join us as we embark on this journey to self-discovery and empowerment.Don't forget to:

Heartbreak or rejection got you down? Don't let it define you! This video acts as your Breakup/Rejection Survival Kit, packed with actionable advice to help you heal and move forward. We start by understanding the purpose of dating. Learn why leaning on your friends ("Hang out with the boyz!") is vital to avoid isolating and wallowing in pain. We'll give you practical tips for letting go – from stopping the replay loop and journaling to taking ownership and avoiding the pitfalls of rebound relationships. Remember, life goes on, and this video will help you see that. Find more resources for a thriving life at thrivingman.com. Share this video to help someone else through a tough time!Breakup, Rejection, Getting over a breakup, Dealing with rejection, Handling breakup, Handling rejection, Moving on after breakup, Coping with breakup, Coping with rejection, Heartbreak

The big question that keeps you up at night: Am I really ready for marriage? It's normal to feel unsure, and the idea of "readiness" can feel overwhelming. Join David Maxwell from Thriving Man as we cut through the cliches and explore what it truly means to be ready for this massive step. You don't need to be perfect, but there are key questions that can guide you. Today, we're dispelling the myth of perfect readiness and revealing the honest self-checks you need to determine whether you're on the right track for a lifelong commitment.www.thrivingman.com has a wealth of resources to help you thrive as a man!Am I Ready for Marriage, Signs You're Ready for Marriage, How to Know If You're Ready to Get Married, Marriage Readiness Test, Questions to Ask Before Marriage, When to Get Married, Is It Normal to Be Scared to Get Married, Commitment in Marriage, Building a Strong Marriage Foundation, Thriving Man Marriage Advice

Want to attract the right person and build a lasting connection?This show reveals the secret weapon in dating: authenticity. Learn why being genuine is far more powerful than trying to impress.We'll show you how embracing your strengths and weaknesses, and ditching the need to be perfect, leads to real attraction. Stop settling for "yeses" based on a fake persona and start getting "yeses" for the amazing person you indeed are.Discover the freedom and joy of authentic dating!Practical TipsMyers-Briggs is a great free testStrengthsFinder is a great paid testThe Flag Page is great for connecting with what you likeThe 5 Love Languages is great for seeing how you give and receive love.Habits for authenticity, reflection and journaling, prayer, and having real friendships.Share this with a person you think it could help.If you want more resources to help you succeed in the areas that really matter, go to thrivingman.com.Authentic dating, Be yourself dating, Genuine connection dating, Dating advice be real, Stop trying too hard dating, Attract someone by being yourself, Self-awareness dating, Dating for real connections, Honest dating, Love based on authenticity

Let's face it, the first date can be exciting but also nerve-wracking, especially when those awkward silences creep in. What do you even talk about?First dates don't have to be a minefield of awkward silences! On "No More Awkward Silences," David Maxwell of Thriving Man provides the essential strategies to spark engaging conversations and make a fantastic first impression. Discover how to prepare without overthinking, ask open-ended questions that reveal her personality, and rebound gracefully to keep the dialogue flowing. Get ready to unlock the secrets to confident and successful first dates!www.thrivingman.com has a wealth of resources to help you thrive as a man!First Date Conversation Starters, Awkward Silence First Date, What to Talk About on a First Date, First Date Tips, Second Date Tips, Dating Conversation, How to Avoid Awkward Silence on a Date, First Date Questions, Making Conversation on a First Date, Thriving Man First Date

Tired of endless dates that lead nowhere?This show cuts through the confusion and redefines the purpose of dating: to intentionally discover if you're meant for a lifelong journey together in marriage. Think of it like choosing a spaceship – you wouldn't want to launch into the cosmos in the wrong vessel!We'll explore how to make your dating process successful, whether the answer is a resounding "yes" or a respectful "no." Because either way, you found out, and that's the win! Learn why dating is a crucial process that takes time, revealing true character that fleeting encounters can't hide. Discover how to spot those critical red flags and confidently "peel out" when necessary – that's precisely what this season of exploration is for!We'll also help you distinguish between non-negotiable deal breakers and personal preferences, avoiding the traps of overthinking and the fruitless pursuit of perfection. Instead, we'll focus on identifying individuals who share your fundamental values and demonstrate a willingness to grow alongside you.This isn't about fleeting physical attraction; it's about building a deep mental, emotional, and spiritual connection – the bedrock of a lasting marriage. We'll address the impact of engaging in the intimate aspects of marriage before commitment and why waiting can be the key to a clearer perspective on your partner and your relationship.If you've ever wondered, "Why do I keep attracting the wrong kind?" or questioned your judgment, this show offers practical insights and encouragement. Remember, even a "no" is a valuable lesson that propels you forward.Ready to date with intention and find the right co-pilot for your life's greatest adventure?For more resources to help you succeed in the areas that truly matter, visit ThrivingMan.com.Dating for marriage, Intentional dating, Finding "the one", Dating as a process, Sustainable relationships, Identifying red flags in dating, Dating warning signs, Knowing when to end a relationship, Realistic dating expectations, Why do I attract the wrong partners?, Successful dating (finding out if it's a yes or no), Avoiding the wrong relationship, making smart relationship choices

Can couples be friends, or is that just a pipe dream? In a world obsessed with compatibility, why don't we hear more about building relationships from the foundation of friendship?Today we're diving into a fresh perspective on love. In this episode, we explore The Friendship Factor: Why It Makes or Breaks Your Relationship—and how getting this right might be the secret to a thriving, lasting relationship.First, we'll unpack why Friends Like Being Together. It's not just about romance or putting your best foot forward—it's about finding someone you genuinely enjoy and can be authentic with. From casual hangouts to deep conversations, discover how comfort and shared hobbies reveal the real person behind the date.Then, we'll tackle Tough Times are Easier with Friends. Life's challenges hit hard, but a partner who's also a friend becomes your rock. We'll explore why vulnerability and emotional support are the unsung heroes of resilient relationships—because even monks didn't go it alone!Finally, Fun is the Emotional Glue of Relationships. Romance isn't just grand gestures; it's the inside jokes, everyday adventures, and shared laughter that build lasting memories and keep the spark alive.Join us as we break down these three pillars, offering practical insights and real-world examples to rethink how you approach dating and marriage.Stick around for a powerful call to action—share your own stories, subscribe, and help us spread the word. Tune in and discover why friendship isn't just a bonus in love—it's the foundation of a relationship that thrives.Find more resources to help you grow as a man at www.thrivingman.comFriendship in relationships, Couples as friends, Friend-based relationship, Importance of friendship in dating, Friendship in marriage, Comfort and authenticity in relationships, Emotional support in relationships, Fun in relationships, Shared experiences in relationships, Building a strong relationship through friendship

"The 4 Phases of Relationships"Are you navigating the confusing world of modern relationships? This insightful show breaks down the journey to lasting love into four crucial phases: Talking/Hanging Out, Dating, Engagement, and Marriage.Discover the purpose of each stage, from the initial exploration of common ground and mutual enjoyment in Phase 1, to the deeper value alignment and connection-building of Phase 2. Learn how the engagement period serves as a vital final review, emphasizing the importance of pre-marital counseling to prepare for marriage's practical and profound realities.Finally, understand that marriage isn't the finish line, but the exciting launchpad for a shared life. This show highlights how successfully navigating the initial phases creates a stable foundation for a thriving and enduring partnership. Learn from real-life examples and gain valuable insights to avoid common pitfalls, like rushing into commitment.Tune in to understand the building blocks of a successful relationship and learn how to intentionally progress through each phase to set your marriage up for lifelong happiness.Perfect for: Anyone seeking clarity in their romantic relationships, individuals considering marriage, and those wanting to build a stronger foundation for their future together.For more resources to help you succeed in the areas that matter, visit thrivingman.com.Relationships, Dating, Marriage, Engagement, Talking Phase, Connection (Mental, Emotional, Spiritual), Pre-marital Counseling, Relationship Stages, Building a Foundation, Relationship Success

Momma's Boy Anonymous: Breaking the Unhealthy Relationship ExpectationsIs your girlfriend's nickname "Momma"? Then we need to talk. In this crucial episode of Momma's Boy Anonymous, we dive deep into a common but damaging relationship pattern: men who unconsciously expect their partners to be more like mothers than a wife or girlfriends.Why do so many men fall into this "Mommy Complex," and how does it sabotage their relationships? It's more common than you think, and it's not a recipe for a healthy partnership.What comes to mind when you hear "Momma's boy"? We'll unpack the good and the bad, and why too many men seek a maternal figure in their romantic relationships. Remember, loving your mom is great, but your partner shouldn't have to be her. This isn't about criticizing mothers; it's about empowering men to grow!She Won't Fix You: Are you expecting your partner to constantly provide emotional support and solve all your problems? We break down the unrealistic expectation that your significant other is there to "fix" your emotional or practical issues. Learn why true partners support you but aren't responsible for mending your insecurities. We'll provide actionable steps to take ownership of your well-being, including self-reflection, seeking mentors, and considering professional help.She Can't Take Responsibility for You: Do you rely on your partner to manage your schedule, make decisions, and handle life's practicalities? This infantilizing dynamic undermines attraction and respect. We'll discuss the importance of shared responsibility in adult relationships and provide concrete steps to take charge of your finances, time, social life, and decision-making skills.She Needs a Leader, Not a Child: Women are often drawn to men who exhibit leadership qualities. We clarify the difference between healthy leadership and being controlling and explore why lacking direction or avoiding conflict can be detrimental. Discover how taking initiative, making decisions, and providing direction fosters a more balanced and fulfilling relationship. We'll offer practical tips for developing confidence, assertiveness, and a clear vision for your life.Breaking free from the "Mommy Complex" is the key to unlocking healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Reflect on your patterns and discover how your personal growth as a man can make all the difference.Ready to break the cycle?Visit www.thrivingman.com to learn more and explore our resource: Emotional Success 101.When you embrace the man you were designed to be, your relationships will naturally fall into place.Momma's Boy, Relationship Expectations, Unhealthy Relationships, Mommy Complex, Self-Reliance, Personal Growth, Emotional Responsibility, Taking Responsibility, Leadership in Relationships, Fixing Relationships, Adult Relationships, Independent Decision-Making, Assertiveness, Relationship Problems, Men's Issues

Destination: I Do - The Real Reason We DateWe are talking about dating and the purposes behind it. This is important to us as we are looking for relationships.Dating is to see if they are the person you want to marry. If it is anything less, we fall into some nasty problems. This is why dating shouldn't be a casual pastime, but a purposeful journey to find a life partner.We are going to explore the pitfalls of aimless dating and how to avoid them.Eternally Casual DatingDating casually is a pretty crappy hobbyWhen dating is a hobby, the inevitable heartbreak will always show upQuestion: "Why would you have a hobby that only ends up hurting you?"Casual dating prevents genuine connection.If both parties are not 100% committed, you will never get to the true depth of a relationship.Dating Girls to Impress Other GuysDating to impress other guys….. is weird! No, it really is! Please don't do this, we beg you!!When we date for external validation, we will always be swimming in the shallow end of relationships.Dating to impress other people brings inherent insecurity to a relationship.You Stay StuckThe fear of emotional pain keeps many men away from deep meaningful relationshipsThis is a problem because they think past hurt dictates future outcomes.Avoiding commitment prevents necessary change.Casual dating will not push us to grow.RESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLDPurposeful Dating, Serious Relationships, Avoiding Heartbreak, Men's Dating Advice, Casual Dating Pitfalls, Fear of Commitment, Bill Belichick dating

Too many men are acting around women and it hurts them from making a real connection. Today we provide actionable advice on building genuine emotional connections with women.We are going to talk about the 2 secrets to making real connections with women: being genuine and emotionally powerful. Real men have passion and aren't afraid to express it. Passionate men are always more attractivePassion isn't a personality, it is a man who has strong feelings and can connect with them to be a more powerful manSecret 1: Be GenuineMen have a common tendency to change their personalities to please potential partners.This is unsustainable for a long-term positive relationshipThe Solution: Self-Discovery (Not the Cliché Kind):What are your core values?What are your passions and interests?What is your purpose in life?Being genuine leads to confidence and attracts genuine connections.Secret 2: Be Emotionally PowerfulThe Misconception: emotional intelligence equals weakness.Emotional power is about understanding and focusing your emotions.We must learn to recognize and articulate our emotions.Jesus' example: Cry, Anger, Battle, Passion, Obedience, LaughterWomen value men who understand their emotional landscape.Knowing your emotions allows you to control them.Start working on these first, before you dive into the dating poolRESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLDDating Relationships Love Romance Singles Dating advice Dating tips Long-term relationships Serious relationships Communication Emotional intelligence

Stop Guessing: 3 Proven Signs She's Right For You.Are you wondering if she's "the one"? In this episode, I share the first 3 things I looked for in my wife, Emma, to know she was right for me. These aren't just abstract ideas, but practical steps based on my own experience. Let's dive in!#1: Same Faith FoundationFaith is central to everything.Explain how a differing faith would create significant challenges.“Missionary dating" and why it rarely works.“I can change her” is a dangerous mindset.#2: Shared ValuesBeyond religion, core values are crucial.You need to be in alignment on important areas like: Physical health, Family values, Views on travel and relocation, etc…If you'd like a potential future series on identifying personal values, let me know in the comments below#3: Trustworthy Friends and Mentors ApproveThe importance of external perspectives.Oxytocin and the love goggles approve.Trusted friends and mentors can offer objective insights.Bonus: Chemistry Outside of Romance"Do you get along in real life?"Seek settings outside of romantic dinners.Activities like: Serving the community, working together on a project.This reveals true character and consistency over time."If you want more resources to help you succeed in the areas that really matter, go to thrivingman.com."Relationships, dating, finding the right woman, marriage, faith, values, trust, compatibility, love, christian dating.

Have you ever felt like you're trapped in a relationship where you're constantly walking on eggshells? Where 'love' feels more like a hostage situation? Today, we're exposing the hidden traps, the subtle signs that the woman you're with might be toxic.The Siren Myth:Creatures luring sailors to their doom.1 - The Cling Factor"Velcro Love: When 'Need' Turns into a Noose."Extreme dependency: Constant calls, inability to make decisions, emotional meltdowns.Initial appeal vs. long-term burden.Have you experienced this? Share your stories in the comments.2 - The Isolation GameWhen Your World Shrinks to Just Her.Systematic isolation from friends and family."Divide and conquer" brainwashing tactic.Dangerous phrases: "They don't understand you," "I'm your only friend," "Why do you need to see them?"3 - The Compliment CageMandatory compliments and validation.The "friend guy" dynamic.Constant approval seeking."Walking on eggshells" and "honesty vs. peace."Importance of honest communication.4 - The Time ImbalanceThe One-Way Street: When Her Time Is Gold, Yours Is Pennies.Unequal availability and expectations.Control through the "want and need" dynamic.Respect for time on both sides.5 - The Outside PerspectiveWhen Friends and Family See What You Can'tEmotional investment vs. objective observation.Importance of trusting your support system.Don't ignore the warnings. Your family and friends are most often trying to help.You deserve a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Don't settle for less.Don't let insecurities dictate your relationships.Build a thriving life to avoid toxic relationships.Visit ThrivingMan.com for support.

On today's show we are are helping you identify unhealthy relationship dynamics and red flags. We do want a woman who is into us, but it can cross a line in a weird way and set up some bad relational issues.She Wants You to Complete HerThere is a danger when a woman expects you to fulfill her emotional voids.If she wants you to be the one to ‘complete her' ‘fix her'…RUN!This attitude has short-term appeal but brings long-term damage.She Treats Other People Like TrashHow does she treat those closest to her?How does she treat service workers?She Plays the VictimDo you see her showing a pattern of shifting blame?If nothing is ever her fault in life, that means nothing in your relationship will ever be her fault. This means it will be your fault. She will blame you.She Wants as Her Only FriendShe is jealous of all your other friendshipsShe is always controlling your full scheduleIf she wants to be your everything, then you're just her toyShare this with a person you think it could help. (or is with a girl like that right now. Maybe they will get the hint.)If you want more resources to help you succeed in the areas that really matter, go to thrivingman.com.

In this episode, we explore the biblical basis for men leading spiritually in their homes. We focus on servant leadership and the importance of men taking responsibility within the family. What does it mean to be the spiritual leader of our homes as men? Many men today struggle with understanding and fulfilling this role.The truth is God designed men for spiritual leadership, and we'll explore what that looks like.Understanding God's DesignGenesis & CreationDistinct RolesBiblical FoundationJesus' Example: Servant LeadershipThe husband's roleJesus as the Model: Jesus is the ultimate example of servant leadership.Sacrifice & Love: His sacrifice and love as the model for husbands.Battles as a Spiritual LeaderPersonal Spiritual Growth Men must prioritize their relationship with God. Leading Family GrowthCharacteristics of a Spiritual LeaderConfidence & HumilityEmpowering OthersCommunity Focus Many men don't lead because they aren't taking up spiritual leadership.Spiritual leadership is the foundation of all other areas of a man's life.Challenge: Now is your time to become a spiritual leader!Start today! Take the first step towards becoming the spiritual leader God designed you to be.RESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLD

We live in a world bombarded by unrealistic portrayals of relationships, often fueled by rom-coms, influencers, and reality TV. These portrayals can create unhealthy expectations, leading to disappointment and relationship struggles. Today, we're diving into these unrealistic expectations and how to shift to a healthier, God-centered perspective.The "Fixer-Upper" Fallacy: The idea that a woman will magically solve all your problems is a dangerous myth. She's a person with her own needs, dreams, and struggles, not a solution to your life's issues.Happiness is an Inside Job: While a relationship can bring joy, a woman is not responsible for your happiness or entertainment. True happiness stems from within and is rooted in our relationship with God. The honeymoon phase is temporary; real life requires more.The Myth of "Easy Street": A relationship, even a great one, doesn't automatically make life easy. It requires effort, communication, and a willingness to work through challenges together.The Call to Die to Self: Marriage, as a sacred covenant before God, involves dying to our selfish desires and putting our spouse's needs before our own. It's a call to sacrifice, not a free pass to a life of ease.Beyond Romantic Love: A woman cannot fulfill all your relational needs. Men need strong friendships, mentors, and above all, a deep connection with God. We address the common scenario of guys who abandon their friends once they enter a relationship.The God Factor: A healthy relationship starts with a healthy individual. When our identity and fulfillment are rooted in God, we can approach relationships with realistic expectations and give our wives the love and support they deserve.No One is Perfect: Remember, no one, including the "best" woman, is perfect. She is a partner, not a savior. Expecting perfection sets the relationship up for failure.The Power of Healthy Expectations: Entering a relationship with realistic and God-centered expectations is crucial for its success. It allows for grace, understanding, and genuine connection.Key Takeaway: When you have God as your foundation, you can approach relationships with healthy expectations, leading to stronger, more fulfilling partnerships.Share this episode with someone who could benefit from it!For more resources to help you succeed in the areas that truly matter, visit thrivingman.com.

A thriving marriage requires active effort. This episode explores practical ways husbands can rekindle the flames of love and connection with their wives.I. Spiritual Foundation:Praying for Her Living ItII. Nurturing Emotional Connection:Speak LifeUnderstanding Her Love LanguageHonoring HerIII. Physical Intimacy Beyond the Bedroom:The Power of Non-Sexual TouchKey Takeaway: Rekindling the marriage fire requires intentional effort, prayerful support, and a commitment to understanding and appreciating your wife. It's about building a strong foundation of love, respect, and consistent affection, both physical and emotional.RESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLD

What to do if you're afraid of asking a girl out.Fear of asking a girl out is a universal feeling for men everywhere. You can't expect not to feel fear, but you can do some things to increase your confidence. When you do this you will have the courage to move ahead in spite of your fear.God designed men to lead women- that means we need to take the first step- even when we are scared. Here are a few tips to help you when you want to ask a woman out.Make a basic outline.Know what you like about her so you can say that in a natural wayKnow what you want to ask: number, or date.Keep it simple and direct.Don't ruminate, act. Don't overthink it or you will be planning your wedding before you even ask her out!Keep your plan simple and act on itThere is a RespawnThere are billions of women in the world. This one person isn't the only person.There only needs to be one right person.If you enjoyed this video, share it with a friend you think it could help.If you want more resources to help you succeed in the areas that really matter, go to thrivingman.com.

How do you find the right woman for you? This is a question many men struggle with. However, they often focus on the outside stuff instead of the inside stuff.To find the right woman, we have to start by understanding a few key things that we will talk about in today's video. Understand the purpose of dating - Dating isn't an end to itself - It is a means to an end - Relationships and ultimately marriageBe the Real You - If you aren't authentic, how can you attract an authentic woman? - This means you have to work to grow who you are as a man - What is your worldview? What things do you like and not like? - Too many guys are always changing who they are for a woman and never figure it outHave a meaningful purpose in life - What are you living for? What are you doing to make a difference in the world - Serving self is lonely and boring - Men of purpose are more attractive and find women of similar purposeWatch and Enjoy!David & Reese Maxwell RESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources:https://www.thrivingman.com/coaching4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful Lifehttps://www.thrivingman.com/the-4d-modelFIND OUT ABOUT OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLDhttps://www.thrivingman.com/speaking

Sorry for the mix-up when this episode was originally released! Here is the right version.Don't be afraid of women Putting yourself out there regarding relationships with women can be intimidating. It always has been but it doesn't have to be. As men, we want to fight against the fear that leads us to the two extremes of relationships many men deal with.AvoidanceDon't avoid the girl you like.You need to know the person and know you like them, not just the idea of them.The only way to get out of your mind is to get into reality.Avoiding causes us to give a weird energy to our approach as well.Obsession. Don't follow them around like a weirdo.Don't spend too much time in your mind. Things get blown out of proportion there.Don't invest so much mentally that by the time you finally talk to the person, you're thinking about what you'll name your childrenObsession gives you a bad filter for reality tooShare this episode with a person you think it could help.If you want more resources to help you succeed in the areas that matter, go to thrivingman.com.

Why Men Should Lead in RelationshipsToday we are unveiling a new process for the podcasts. We are switching to shorter segments that are more focused. We made the change after getting feedback about what works best for many of the men in the audience. David and Reese will each do a show for around 8-10 minutes each week. They will be focused and easy to connect with on a busy schedule.We are starting by focusing on relationships.Men should be the leaders in their relationships with women. David discusses why and the most important parts of it on today's show.Leadership Starts with self-leadershipServant leadership is the greatest form of leadershipShow Up EscapismFor more help thriving as a man go to Thriving Man

Today's show talks about the power of community in our lives. Many men are struggling in life because they don't have a community of like-minded men who are there to challenge them and help them. We discuss why we need other men in our lives and some community options you have today.Communities can help us overcome challenges, achieve our goals, and celebrate our successes with us.The Power of Community: Why You Need ItThe Lone Wolf SyndromeThe lone wolf syndrome of men and why we often try to live as lone wolves.There aren't many places for like-minded men to get better.Where do you go to find men who want to connect and grow?The Pitfalls of Solo Life The challenges of trying to achieve goals alone.“Networking” - men who use relationships for their own goalsThe Power of Community: A supportive community can provide motivation, accountability, and encouragement.Being connected with other men makes the good parts of life betterLife is often better doing it with othersThere is a negative version of the community we have to be careful not to get into: unhealthy habits, etc…The Thriving Man Community: Your 21-Day TribeThe Benefits of JoiningThe Importance of AccountabilityCelebrating SuccessThe Power of Public CommitmentThe Importance of Regular Check-InsThe Value of Mutual SupportCHALLENGE:Quit trying to improve all by yourselfDon't be a lone wolf, most wolves are in packs, there is a reasonJoin the 21-day challengewww.21dayturnaround.comRESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching ResourcesDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLD

Welcome to the Thriving Man Podcast, where we help you build a thriving life and conquer your everyday chaos.Today, we're diving into the 21-Day Core 4 Challenge, a practical way to jumpstart your personal growth and create lasting change by making the core four areas of your life regular habits.The key to living what you value is to systemize the core areas of your life. We discuss what that looks like as we discuss the motivation behind the 21-Day Turnaround.Why the 21-Day Turnaround Challenge?This challenge is about aligning your daily habits with your core values. As Benjamin Franklin said, "A goal without a system is just a dream." Our brains need to know not only the what but also the how. That's where systemization comes in.Systemizing the Core 4The Core 4: A Blueprint for a Life Well-LivedSpiritual Health: The Power of Daily Scripture Reading or ListeningWe challenge men to read through a Proverb every day. 2. Physical Health: 30 Minutes of ExerciseWe all need to move and devote 30 minutes each day to movement because it is important for our overall healthWe discuss the high bar, and low bar principle and how physical health benefits our lives. 3. Mental Health: Sharing Gratitude with OthersThe importance of our focus and finding the good in our life.Gratitude is key to cultivating a positive mindset. 4. Emotional Health: Intentional EncouragementThe key to how we talk to people in relationships and how we should focus on the most important relationships in our lives.Bringing intentionality to relationships benefits us in many ways.The Power of ConsistencyWe discuss common challenges to this system, such as not involving others and not having set times and ways to do your habits.We'll explain the importance of consistency and how it leads to big returns. "How you spend your day is how you spend your life." We'll also share stories of people who have successfully changed their lives.Sign up using the link below and join the Thriving Man Facebook group. Invite a friend to do it with you. It's better together!www.21dayturnaround.comRESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLD

Helping you Build a Thriving Life and Conquer Your Everyday ChaosThis week, Reese and David share stories about their journeys of self-discovery, realizing that true success comes from within. Their focus this week is how personal growth is essential for a fulfilling life. They preview the four core areas of personal development and how inner work can lead to a practical strategy for building a better you.Inside Out: The Common Denominator in every area of life is YouThe Myth of Outward SuccessChasing external validation and achievements often leads to emptiness. The show discusses the importance of shifting your focus inward.The Power of Inner WorkInner work is the process of self-reflection and growth. It's about understanding your values, motivations, and what truly matters.The Core 4: The Building Blocks of a Fulfilling LifeThe show introduces the four key areas of personal growth essential for a fulfilling life: spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional health.Spiritual HealthThey discuss the importance of spiritual health, defining it, and offering practical tips for nurturing it.Physical HealthThe importance of physical health is covered, along with its definition and practical ways to improve it.Mental HealthThey delve into mental health, and its significance, and provide suggestions for strengthening it.Emotional HealthThe episode explores the concept of emotional health, and its definition, and offers practical tips to cultivate it.Call to Action: The 21-Day TurnaroundA jumpstart program is introduced to build key habits in the four core areas. The program includes:Physical: At least 30 minutes of daily exercise.Spiritual: Daily reading of Proverbs for reflection.Mental: Posting something you're grateful for in the Thriving Man Facebook group.Emotional: Intentionally encouraging someone each day.The program is designed to take less than an hour a day and emphasizes consistency. If you miss a day, simply restart. The key takeaway is that growth is a journey, and every man's greatest battle is internal.21dayturnaround.com

In this episode, we'll discuss how false promises can damage our self-respect and personal growth, and how the 21-day turnaround can change the narrative. We'll also explore the importance of self-trust and practical strategies for building positive habits.Today's episode will cover:The impact of broken promises on self-esteem, motivation, and anxietyHow repeatedly breaking promises can lead to a cycle of self-doubt and procrastinationThe 21-Day Turnaround: a jumpstart to progress and self-respectThe power of small steps and building positive habitsPractical tips for staying motivated and overcoming challengesThe Cost of False PromisesHow breaking promises to ourselves can negatively impact our self-esteem, and motivation, and increase anxiety.Creates a Cycle of Failure: We explain how repeatedly breaking promises can lead to a vicious cycle of self-doubt and procrastination. The momentum of negativity can be strong, but we must focus on consistently doing what truly matters.The 21-Day Turnaround: A Jumpstart to Progress and Self-RespectWhat it is: The 21-Day Turnaround is a program designed to help you build key habits in the four most important areas of your life: spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical.Building key habits:Physical: Aim for at least 30 minutes of exercise most days of the week.Spiritual: Start your day with the Proverb's chapter of the day.Mental: Post something you're grateful for in the Thriving Man Facebook group.Emotional: Make a point to encourage at least one person each day.It can be done in under an hour a day.If you miss a day, you have to start over from the beginningThe key is to focus on growth.Every man's greatest battle is always within himself. We'll discuss the significance of these core four areas in more detail next week.The Power of Small StepsWe explain the benefits of breaking down large goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. This makes them more achievable and valuable.Everyone starts small and then increases; like training for a triathlon by gradually increasing the distance each week.Building Positive HabitsWe highlight the importance of focusing on a few habits at a time and gradually building momentum. Focus and simplify!Do each chosen habit every day to build consistency.Overcoming ObstaclesWe provide practical tips for staying motivated and overcoming challenges.Reframe challenges as opportunities for growth."Failure is only the opportunity to begin again. Only this time, more wisely." - Uncle Iroh (from Avatar: The Last Airbender)Overcoming obstacles is an individual journey but we all need support. The Thriving Man Facebook Group is a great resource for support and encouragement.ChallengeStart the 21-Day Turnaround Program today! This free program can help you achieve your goals and live a more fulfilling life. It's short, accessible, and impactful.Visit our website at www.21dayturnaround.com for more information.Join the Thriving Man Facebook GroupRESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man...

In this episode, we discuss the importance of the relationships between men and women. We talk about how focusing on one woman, being a student of her, and going on a journey of discovery together can lead to a more fulfilling relationship.Main PointsFocus on one woman: Don't try to understand all women. Instead, focus on understanding the woman in your life. This will help you build a stronger relationship with her.Be a student of your woman: This means taking the time to get to know her for who she is as an individual. Pay attention to her likes, dislikes, and dreams.Relationships are a journey: Don't see your relationship as a destination. It's an adventure that you and your partner will embark on together. There will be ups and downs, but if you focus on learning from each other and growing together, your relationship will thrive.OutlineWhy understanding women is the wrong approachAll women are differentFocus on understanding your wife/girlfriendKeys to take relationships to the next levelFocus - avoid Tinder culture and distractionsMarried men: focus on your wifeSingle men: focus on getting to know the real womanStudy - become a student of your womanDating: get to know her for who she isMarriage: continue to learn and grow togetherKeep notes on her preferencesJourney - relationships are an adventureOpen world vs linear world in gamingDiscover each other's individualityFace challenges and celebrations togetherChallengeDating: what is your goal? Win the girl or get to know her?Married: get curious, ask questions, take notes, be intentionalCall to ActionBuild intentional time to be curious and grow your relationshipDownload the Love Nudge app with your wifeI hope these show notes are helpful! Let us know if you have any questions.RESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLD

Learn how to navigate the holiday season with grace and gratitude. Discover practical tips for managing stress, coping with negative emotions, and cultivating a positive mindset.In this episode, we dive into:Developing strategies: For maintaining gratitude during challenging moments.The Power of Gratitude: A powerful tool for managing stress and improving mental health.Practical Tips for a Grateful Mindset: Learn actionable strategies for shifting your perspective and cultivating a more positive outlook.Key Takeaways:Shift your attentionMake a list of what you're thankful for and have it readily accessibleDo something physicalEngage in physical activity: Work out, exercise, clean, etc.Go to a peaceful setting=Take a short walk outside (10-20 minutes).""If needed, take a break in a private space (e.g., the bathroom)."Process the negative feelingsProcess negative feelings through journaling: Write a 'psalm' expressing negative emotions, followed by a shift to positive ones. This can be done as a prayer or reflection.CHALLENGE:Create a personalized gratitude list and refer to it whenever you need a mental boost.By implementing these strategies, you can navigate the holiday season with greater ease and emerge feeling refreshed and rejuvenated.RESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the four fundamentals of a successful life. Discover how our speaking engagements have empowered thousands of people across the worldChristmas, gratitude, mental health, stress management, self-care, holiday stress, positive mindset, mindfulness

Learn how to incorporate gratitude into your daily life. Discover practical methods, frequencies, and settings to foster a heart of thankfulness.Are you truly living a life of gratitude, or simply saying you're grateful? While gratitude is a noble attitude, it can often take a backseat to the hustle and bustle of daily life. Let's explore how to intentionally cultivate gratitude through daily rhythms.Building Your Gratitude RhythmsTo truly embrace gratitude, we must actively choose it. This involves incorporating specific methods, frequencies, and settings into our lives:3 Methods (How):Remembering: Consciously recall moments of thankfulness throughout your day.Resting: Pause and appreciate the present moment, free from distractions.Connecting: Spend quality time with loved ones, fostering deeper relationships.3 Frequencies (How Often):Daily: Incorporate daily practices like journaling, highlighting a daily positive, or sharing gratitude at the dinner table.Weekly: Dedicate time for Sabbath rest and reflection.Seasonally: Celebrate holidays and traditions with family and friends, emphasizing gratitude.3 Settings (Who's Involved):Personal: Cultivate individual gratitude practices.Family/Friends: Share gratitude experiences with loved ones.Church: Participate in corporate worship and community-based gratitude initiatives.Your Challenge:Choose one method, frequency, and setting to start building your personal gratitude rhythm.Ready to Thrive?Explore additional resources to empower your journey:gratitude, thankfulness, mindfulness, well-being, positive psychology, personal growth, spiritual growthThriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLDBy implementing these strategies, you can transform your life into one of genuine gratitude and fulfillment.========================

Being present is easy to say but hard to implement. As men, we love to solve problems and get things done. This often causes us to be somewhere else in our heads when we are with people, which can damage our relationships and our work abilities. If we are somewhere else in our brains, we will often miss things in the moment.Being present is a skill we can practice and improve. It's not something that is only for those who have that ability. We can all practice it and improve at it.When we become more present, we can have better relationships and be more successful in all our endeavors.Process Your PastThe past is a reality in our livesGood or bad, we must deal with events of our past or they will affect the presentNo matter the past that happened to us, we can't let it affect the present in a negative wayBad past events - we relive or live out in an unhealthy responseGood past events - We live in the past and don't recognize todayWe must learn how to process our past and then live in todayFocus on the NowLiving today takes focus and workWe have to decide to live in the presentBe still and know that I am GodThis is a reality many don't get cause they don't slow down to let God speak to themAim Towards The FutureWe miss the present when we are so focused on the futureGoals and growth are great and you should pursue them, but their purpose is to align our presentWe should not be so focused on the future that we sacrifice the presentThe habits of our lives in the present should feed the goals of the futureGoals are there to motivate our present decisionsCHALLENGE:Knowing your values helps you live in the presentGet our free Values Start-up Kit to help you begin your journey of thrivingRESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLD

We had a mix-up on the first release, here is the right version.Gratitude is something people talk about, but putting it into practice is difficult. Plus, many people talk about it in a “touchy-feely” way, which throws us off as men. The reality of gratitude is something we need in our lives if we want to thrive.In this week's show, we discuss gratitude, what it is, and some of the pitfalls that keep us from developing a grateful attitude in our lives.Gratitude is cultivating an awareness of realityPsalm 104 God sustains all aspects of creationWe get used to things and expect them to stay the sameGratitude is a mentality that comes with practice - new neuro pathways in the brainGratitude is a choice of where we put our mindPitfalls that Hinder Our Awareness of RealityEntitlementWhen things are going good, we get used to it, and when things go bad, we notice it.Things “should be good” God Owes MeBiblical view: the only reason the world doesn't fall apart right now is because God is holding back the chaos.The natural setting of this world isn't life, but death. But God gives life.Victim mentalityJames Clear Quote on Focus"If you look for evidence that people are conspiring to hold you back and the world is working against you, then it will take you no time at all to find precisely that. If you expect to encounter helpful people and experience a world that is working with you, then you find plenty of evidence to support that view as well. The raw material for a sweet life or a bitter life is always there. The story you emphasize is the one you notice."Writer and Nobel Prize winner Gabriel García Márquez on what matters in life:"What matters in life is not what happens to you but what you remember and how you remember it."CHALLENGE:At the end of each day, think about one thing you are grateful forRESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLD

What motivates you in life? What helps you have the energy and perseverance each day to keep going?We all have different motivations. Some are selfish, and some are altruistic, but they often come down to our values. What we value will ultimately motivate us in our lives.We want to do the work to recognize our values so we can focus on them and let them empower us to live a thriving life.On today's show, we discuss how values direct our lives and keep us from getting distracted or off course.Values Keep Us Connected to Our PurposeValues are like a bridge between the wisdom of God and our everyday livesValues give a specificity to eternal principles and allow you to connect with them.Jim Dobson “I believe it [the midlife crisis] is more a phenomenon of a wrong value system than it is the age group in which it occurs. All of a sudden you realize that the ladder you've been climbing is leaning against the wrong wall.”Values are a Great FilterValues inform your decisions and responses to life.If you do not choose, someone else will choose for you.“Your values are tested daily by those who do not embrace them.” John MaxwellValues help you keep scoreValues force you to face reality every day: the difference between how you want to live and how you are living.You have to discover what's important to you if you want to make progress.Your value score isn't about the outcome of the day, but the input of that day.It's not about how the day went, it's about how you went through the day.It empowers you because it's not about what's outside your control, but what is in your control.CHALLENGE:Get your free Values Starter KitRESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLD

What good are values? How do they help us in the everyday chaos of life?That is what we are talking about on the show today. We will discuss how values are essential for us as we navigate life. Just like a compass helps sailors arrive at their destination, values guide us to live empowered lives. This means each day can be rich and full of meaning no matter what you do for a job or how many tasks you have to accomplish.Values Help Us Live Focused in the Chaos of LifeValues can act as a compass and bring focus amidst the chaos.Values give us direction on what action to take.Values help us cut out the unnecessary or unimportant in our lives.Values are an Antidote to AimlessnessWithout values, we aren't aiming our lives in any specific directionValues force us to choose.If we don't choose a direction for our lives, someone or something else will choose for us.The current of life draws us towards the easy and the urgent. The easy and the urgent are rarely the important.Not choosing is a choice.Values are an Antidote to OverwhelmA million different voices are screaming at us that we NEED to do their thing. (Buy their product, take their course, follow their advice, etc.)There is a dangerous assumption in our world that we can do everything.You CANNOT do it all. “Teach us to number our days, that we might gain a heart of wisdom.”(Psalm 90:12)We don't need to do everything. We just need to do the right thingsThe difference between a light and a laser is the focus.The difference between surviving and thriving is the focus.CHALLENGE:The Values Starter KitRESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching ResourcesDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLD

Samwise Gamgee was an iconic character in the Lord of the Rings series. He was an everyday gardener who was put into some unbelievable situations. The amazing thing about Sam was that he didn't let the good or bad situations change him. He had a strong identity and stuck to it no matter the situation.Many men today are facing an identity crisis. This is due to their lack of foundational values. When a man has strong values, he will often have a strong identity. He can stand up in hard situations and is less likely to back down in the pressure cooker of life.Today's show discusses how our values help shape our identity.The Current Identity Crisis among Men“You have to be great and world-changing!”All the unrealistic men on TV and social media.Who am I? Do I need to be like them?How we often look to accomplishments to validate ourselves.Values Help Connect Our Current Identity and Future IdealsThey help you become more confident in who you areThey give you a pathway on how you should liveValues Help Us Focus and Keep Moving During Hard TimesValues guide us and keep us focused on what we can controlValues are meant to guide your personal behavior, not define your circumstances.Values guide how we live more than how we feel, where we are at in life, or how others respond.CHALLENGE:Download and go through the Values Starter Kit PDF at www.thrivingman.com

Core strength often involves our abs and whether we are exercising. However, we want to discuss a different type of core strength in this week's show: Inner Core Strength.This has nothing to do with abs but has everything to do with your Values. When a man has values and seeks to live by them, he is stronger in every area of his life. When a man ignores his values, he will live a weak life of following others. Join us as we focus on values and why they are so important to men today.Society has a lot of weak menWeak men lack purpose and wander through their livesWeak men selfishly focus on themselvesA weak man's world is easily wrecked by circumstancesWeak men will often seek escape from hard choicesThe AnswerThe answer isn't just to try harderThe answer is to build your core strengthCore strength in men is their valuesValues = Core Principles that Guide Our LivesSome values are universal and some are personalLack of Values Makes Men FollowersThey will become slaves to other people's opinions and their appetitesRESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLD

As men, we tend to go to extremes in different areas of our lives. This can be a good thing when applied appropriately, but many of us struggle with different types of extremism in our everyday lives.On today's show, we discuss some of the common extremisms many guys struggle with. These are simple attitudes that can hurt us as we try to build a thriving life.We also give a simple attitude adjustment near the end of the show to help you fight against extremism in your life.If You Can't Do Something Right, Don't Do It at All!Many men use this to justify not tryingThis attitude can ignore the learning processGo Big or Go Home!This attitude is seen in the blaze of glory mentalityWe focus on going big in every area of our livesThe problem is we often look at regular everyday life as not “enough”We use this attitude to justify sacrificing the important areas of our lives to reach a “pinnacle” of successYou Have to Give Everything You've Got!There are certain areas this attitude applies, but it can't be in every areaSome men use this attitude to brag about the grind so they feel better about themselvesIn the end, we often pick the wrong area to give everything we've got and ignore the important areas of our lives: Relationships, health, growth, financial wisdomThe Truth of Success is Found in the Small Daily DecisionsMomentum is what builds lasting success and we build momentum with small daily decisionsWe want to build the daily habits of success that will give us a solid foundation for successOnce we build the habits, they become ingrained into our lives and a part of who we are as menCHALLENGE:What are your top habits that pour into your long-term success?What habits are you building that you can carry on your journey?Your legacy is how you lived your life, not the reputation that follows you after you dieRESOURCES TO HELP YOU THRIVE AS A MAN========================Thriving Man Coaching Resources4D MODEL FREE PDFLearn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful LifeDiscover OUR SPEAKING AND HOW WE HAVE EMPOWERED THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ACROSS THE WORLD