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In today's episode, Jeremie Miller is talking with the authors of Ditch the Ditty: Doing What Matters Instead of Doing it All about their work and how it applies to the work of advocates. Episode Time Codes 01:28 Introductions 04:26 Can you share the story that lead to the concept of ditties and the importance of ditching them? 08:22 "Ditch the Ditty" focuses on the unique dynamics women face, can anyone be impacted by ditties? How do these hidden pressures show up differently for caregivers, first responders, and other helping professionals? And How does the book help people recognize when they're taking on more than they should? 10:35 The four Ds: ditties, delights, duties, and deeds 14:11 Do you have any suggestions on how to make ditties a team effort? 20:43 What role do differences in power play when trying to ditch a ditty? How can I possibly ditch a ditty that my boss is handing out? Or as a leader, how can I navigate the difference between delegation, which is something I'm supposed to do? 31:20 How can colleagues and teams help each other avoid taking on unnecessary ditties? 38:26 Do you have a suggestion on how to handle people who are struggling with this new version of you both at work and family and friends? 44:39 Can you give some ideas on how an organization can work towards changing the culture of ditty distribution and acceptance of ditties in an equitable fashion? 51:39 Get more information about the book and the authors Resources Ditch the Ditty: Doing What Matters Instead of Doing it All by Lindsey Godwin, Molly McGuigan, and Miriam Novotny

In today's episode, the RAFT team is talking about PERMA, a simple, but powerful, way to think about well-being and resilience. It comes from Dr. Martin Seligman, a leader in positive psychology, and it's all about five key elements: Positive emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. During the conversation, the RAFT team unpacks what PERMA looks like in our work and lives, why it matters for advocates, and how we can use it to build sustainable joy and resilience in a field that demands so much of us. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 01:25 RAFT intros 02:45 What is PERMA? 05:50 The team shares personal stories and how they reflect the PERMA categories 19:27 Using PERMA at work 33:10 Final thoughts from the RAFT team 36:00 Outro Resources Advocate Resources

In this episode, the RAFT team is joined by survivor, author, and advocate Emily Bernath. She shares her survivor story, how she healed through spirituality, and how that led to her book series, Broken Lenses. Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions about sexual violence and assault, including personal survivor experiences. We encourage you to prioritize your well-being while listening. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:25 Trigger Warning 00:55 Gratitudes 05:00 Who is Emily Bernath? 06:55 How Emily's writing started 09:30 Emily discusses levels of healing through her advocacy journey 15:15 "How do you know that it's love?" -- How did you know who to trust through this journey 16:15 "Coincidences don't just happen" - Emily speaks about faith leading her journey 19:10 "Freedom brings healing" 21:10 "The world hasn't given survivors a lot of hope to report" 21:30 How Emily knew she was being sexually assaulted 23:15 "As soon as a survivor comes to me - the one thing I can not do is nothing" 25:38 Emily shares how she found her trust in her faith 33:05 "What do you believe is the biggest challenge in the sv/dv field?" 39:00 Emily speaks on trusting and obeying the voice of God. 46:15 Emily discusses a peak point of advocacy 49:50 Emily discusses her books. 52:55 Should everyone write/share their story? 57:10 Emily tells us more about her social work/grad school journey 1:00:55 "How do you stay healthy and balanced?" 1:03:35 Nicole talks about leaning into our strengths & Emily shares her individual strengths 1:11:00 What's in the future for Emily? 1:12:55 Appreciations 1:14:35 Outro

Join Jeremie, Nicole, and Joy as they focus their conversation around human-centered workspaces, specifically what a workspace that is human-centered looks like, and how it's done at RAFT. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 01:05 RAFT's mission statement 01:50 What is a 'Human-Centered Workspace?' 06:01 The 4 principles of Human-Centered design 13:10 Designing A Human-Centered Workplace: 13:35 Planning for job outcomes 21:20 Launching a collaborative work group 28:50 Learning from your employees 37:15 Designing and testing solutions 51:00 How RAFT can help you create a more Human-Centered Workplace 52:00 Outro

Join Joy, Sophie, Mariam, Jeremie, and Nicole on the RAFT Team as they discuss the RAFT core values—1) Fail, Learn, Grow; 2) Support; and 3) Transparency—and how those values impact their mission and teamwork. Episode Time Codes 00:00 – Intro 00:40 – RAFT's 3 core values 01:05 – Value #1 – Fail, Learn, Grow 01:35 – Joy's take 03:00 – Sophie's take 03:45 – Mariam's take 04:20 – Jeremie's take 06:53 – Nicole's take 08:40 – Is there a downside to Fail, Learn, Grow? 13:10 – Value #2 – Support 13:40 – Joy's take 16:30 – Sophie's take 18:40 – Mariam's take 19:12 – Jeremie's tale 20:50 – Nicoles take 23:10 – RAFT's DEI survey and how we used it to support each other 24:55 – Are there any downsides to our support value? 30:30 – Value #3 – Transparency 31:00 – Nicole's take 32:22 – Joy's take 34:20 – Sophie's take 35:55 – Mariam's take 36:30 – Jeremie's take (being a transparent leader) 45:15 – What are any unofficial values in how we work together as a team? 50:35 – Contact RAFT at info@raftcares.org to learn how we can help you discover your organization's core values 51:00 – Outro

How do you take care of your mind, body, and spirit when you don't have the time, money, or resources? Join the RAFT team as they share their own budget-friendly self-care tips. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:25 Welcome 01:05 RAFT Team Intros 02:40 What would you do on a self-care day but you had no money to spend? 07:40 Match your time available to what you're trying to do 10:20 Being present in the moment is very free self-care 11:00 Being clear on what you want from your self-care activities 13:47 Scheduling in self-care is self-care in itself 17:50 What do you do when you NEED to leave the house, but just don't have a lot of money? 27:35 Self-care is a learned journey 28:50 What do you do when you need "alone" self-care time? 35:20 What's a self-care thing we can do to help out our future financial self? 46:10 Outro

Join Maegan, Nicole, Sophie, and Joy as they come together to reflect upon Women's History Month and answer questions about what womanhood means to them, inspiring women, strengths, and advice they received and wish to share with others. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:25 Welcome 00:55 RAFT Team Intros 02:55 What does womanhood mean to you? 03:05 Maegan 04:05 Nicole 06:25 Sophie 07:50 Joy 10:15 What does it mean to us to be women in the anti-gender-based violence movement? 10:30 Joy 12:10 Maegan 13:50 Nicole 33:20 Sophie 17:20 Who is a woman you know personally who has greatly inspired you? 17:30 Sophie 17:58 Nicole 18:30 Maegan 21:50 Joy 24:15 Nicole 26:20 Who's a famous woman that you greatly admire? 26:30 Nicole 29:44 Joy 31:45 Maegan 33:25 Sophie 35:30 What's a special power that women have? 35:35 Maegan 37:25 Joy 38:50 Sophie 39:20 Nicole 41:03 The best advice we've gotten from a fellow woman 41:10 Nicole 42:15 Joy 43:30 Maegan 45:10 Sophie 46:35 What's some advice that you would share with other women? 46:50 Joy 49:50 Nicole 51:15 Maegan 53:25 Sophie 54:15 THINK FAST Questions 1:00:00 Outro

In this episode, the RAFT Team comes together to reflect upon their personal highlights of 2023 and discuss all things gratitude. From embracing gratitude through challenges and reminding yourself to practice gratitude, you will learn a few ways to incorporate gratitude in your daily life. Episode Time Codes 0:00 Intro 0:35 RAFT Team Intros 01:20 Reflections on our personal highlights of 2023 01:30 Nicole 02:10 Jeremie 03:10 Joy 04:55 Sophie 05:55 Maegan 07:30 Embracing gratitude through challenges 07:55 Joy 09:50 Maegan 11:20 Joy 12:45 Nicole 16:10 Sophie 18:45 Jeremie 22:15 How do you remind yourself to practice gratitude? 22:35 Maegan 23:45 Jeremie 25:00 Nicole 26:50 Sophie 28:10 Joy 30:40 How will you lead with gratitude in 2024? 30:50 Joy 31:45 Maegan 32:15 Nicole 33:20 Sophie 34:35 Jeremie 36:00 Thank You! 36:50 Outro Resources New Year Gratitudes Worksheet

You've seen changes you want to make in your organization, you're collaborating with co-workers, but now you might be wondering, "What are the leaders thinking about and looking for with change initiatives?" Join Jeremie and Amber as they continue discussing how to make organizational changes by focusing the conversation around the leadership's point of view. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro01:00 Jeremie recaps part 1 episode and highlights topics of episode 202:25 Amber introduces herself04:45 How to respond, as a senior leader, to a passionate pitch07:25 How to encourage gratitude and be positive without making someone think you've said "Yes"10:35 How to prioritize a good idea when it's bad timing14:15 How to empower your team member after the first pitch meeting18:30 Tips for leaders on how to reflect on their own biased21:55 How to push through the hesitancy and let go when you should say "Yes"27:05 Your responsibility, as a leader, to announce a new idea to your team28:15 How to continue the thread of change and support your team member when the change works out30:40 What to do, as a leader, when the change maker's goal fizzles out, and they aren't prioritizing their initial goal32:50 What can leaders do when the change pilot flops37:20 "What happens when the pitch comes in and it's just not going to work?"41:25 Final Thoughts44:15 Outro

Join Jeremie in a conversation with Charlie Gilkey about principles from his book, Team Habits: How Small Actions Lead to Extraordinary Results, including small actions that bring lasting change and creating a team that can solve problems without you. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:40 Jeremie highlights talking points and welcomes Charlie01:40 Charlie introduces himself04:55 Charlie shares his view on the challenges of trying to make a big change / Broken Printer analogy08:10 Grants and development challenges10:15 Time allocation and management12:30 Eight Categories of Team Habits15:10 Feeling a sense of belonging in an organization with a high turnover rate20:30 Cynicism as an effect of burnout22:40 A different approach/breaking down a challenge into pieces25:25 Three dimensions of power in an organization37:00 "When you go into an organization, you treat changing team habits like you're walking on someone's land that they have been tending and cultivating"44:25 "Am I being affected by the inertia that we've just always done it this way?"46:15 How to get through "If we try to change this and break it, that's not good"49:40 Future-ready your business by creating a team that can solve problems even without you52:10 Charlie's last thoughts54:25 How our partners and listeners can receive a copy of "Team Habits" gifted by RAFT55:10 Outro Resources Team Habits: How Small Actions Lead to Extraordinary Results by Charlie Gilkey

Have you ever seen something you want to change in your organization, but not sure how to get others involved or talk to your boss about it? Join Jeremie in a conversation with Amber Beam about making changes in your organization by collaborating with co-workers and successfully bringing ideas to leadership. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro01:40 Amber introduces herself & speaks on her passion for closing the gender gap02:55 What is it that makes a winning pitch when trying to make a change in your organization?06:45 How can you approach speaking to your leader, & how to prepare for that conversation?10:10 What's one thing most people who bring a new idea to leadership ignore?11:50 Should we go in as an individual or bring in co-workers who support the change?14:15 How to bounce back from a soft-no16:20 How to use your strengths and your team's strengths to strengthen your pitch19:00 Accountability and Responsibilities between yourself, team, & leadership21:00 Fail, Learn, Grow23:00 How to manage pushback/conflict from other team members26:00 How to coordinate the team's "big ideas" for change and not overwhelm leadership30:00 What do you do when they say no?37:00 Final thoughts & Amber's words of wisdom40:00 How to contact Amber41:15 Outro

Join Nicole and Joy from RAFT in a conversation with Dee, Jackie, and Tatiana of The SOAR Collective, an organization working "to mobilize advocates to demand accountability and revolutionize the way anti-violence organizations operate." Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:50 RAFT & SOAR Collective Introductions01:50 Who SOAR Collective is, their mission, and how/why they started04:00 Survivors Know assessment/research09:30 The key findings & powerful data12:15 Jackie and Dee share how prioritizing their mental health meant leaving their prevention job14:40 Tatiana speaks on "the power that someone in a supervisor role has to create a safe environment" and psychological safety16:00 "Leadership at anti-violence organizations often replicate the same toxic, abusive, violent environments, & power dynamics that this movement is aiming to prevent" Jackie20:45 The potential for change, issues that have come to the surface, and solutions for systemic change24:55 What are some tangible things that anti-violence workplace can do to create a healthy/safe working environment for staff?35:00 "We cannot possibly serve ALL survivors, if we don't have the resources to serve ourselves” Tatiana40:10 "When you support advocates, you support survivors" Dee43:00 How can advocates get involved with the amazing work SOAR Collective is doing?48:00 Gratitudes54:00 Outro Resources The SOAR Collective Survivors Know

In this episode Raft's founder, Indrani Goradia, introduces us to a friend she met by chance when their flights were delayed. Monique shares her past experience navigating life as a leader & advocate in the domestic violence field while in an actively abusive relationship. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:28 How Indrani met Monique & how they connected01:35 Active abuse & being part of society is in our everyday lives03:14 How Monique navigated her "two lives" as a victim of active abuse & a domestic violence advocate05:45 "Was I drawn to this work (as a helper & nurturer) the same way that sometimes I have been drawn to that relationship?"06:35 Helping from an HR perspective & having to report personal details to HR13:23 "What advice do you have for your younger self?"16:30 "Nobody needs pity... but, we all need empathy"18:02 How to reach out without overstepping20:45 Safety planning31:22 A Thanks to RAFT for support, education, & training32:33 Send questions to Monique for a follow up podcast!33:35 Outro Resources NCDSV Personalized Safety Plan National Domestic Violence Hotline Interactive Safety Plan

This month's podcast features Grace Harvey, who recently stepped away from advocacy work and was surprised to see her advocacy skills transferred to work in a completely different field. If you think you need a change but are hesitant to look for something new, Grace has an encouraging message to share with you. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro01:13 Grace's Origin story04:34 Grace shares why she left the advocacy field08:00 How Grace's life has changed & the positive impacts of leaving advocacy12:30 What is it like working a job where you're not advocating?18:30 Finding a new job after leaving the advocacy field & the transferable skills20:15 Task prioritization & time management24:35 Good communication skills & adapting to your audience28:40 Attention to detail & guidelines32:35 Problem-solving skills36:32 Finding what you're doing in your current work & turning it into a resume skill40:43 Grace's final thoughts

In this episode, the RAFT team is joined by our Founder, Indrani Goradia, to discuss our "Why?" Inspired by Simon Sinek's theory of starting with your "Why?" to help connect your work to your purpose in a meaningful way. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:24 Nicole introduction - Explains inspiration for Podcast02:40 Maegan introduction - Shares strengths/value statement03:22 Indrani introduction - Shares why she started RAFT/core values05:00 Nicole's core values07:04 Mariam introduction - Shares her why for joining & growing with RAFT08:09 Joy introduction - Shares her strengths & her why09:28 Sophie Introduction - Shares strengths & her why11:45 Nicole shares why connection is important to her13:13 Mariam shares why data and research is important to her14:21 Maegan shares why growth & process mapping is important to her16:23 Indrani talks about strengths - how to recognize them, how to use them21:32 Joy shares why love of learning & kindness is important to her22:21 Indrani, Nicole, & Joy speak on Kindness & Empathy for ourselves30:36 Mariam - How RAFT answers her “Why”30:48 Maegan - How RAFT answers her “Why”32:19 Sophie - How RAFT answers her “Why”33:09 Joy - How RAFT answers her “Why”36:07 Thanks for listening!

Today we welcome Joy Ingram to our team as a new workshop facilitator and learn a little about her background. Join RAFT as we discuss some reasons for high turnover rates within SV/DV advocacy organizations and a few ideas to combat this issue. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro01:10 Nicole introduces new RAFT team member, Joy2:45 Joy shares her background and advocate experience6:45 Joy presented at NCADV in August 20229:20 Joy's workshop experiences10:00 Why is turnover so high?11:55 Challenges and Support13:30 Barriers to support15:00 Support strategies for organizations17:55 Why is it difficult to schedule time for support at work?21:06 We need to prioritize our wellness22:15 Lunch practices24:00 Reassessing workplace culture25:35 Generational impact on turnover27:05 Boundaries to learn28:35 Overlapping personal and organizational values30:30 Outro

Today on the RAFT podcast, Jeremie and Johnanna Ganz continue their discussion about occupational identity and how it connects to leadership and the development of organizational culture. Episode Time Codes 0:00 Intro0:45 Johanna reviews what it means to have a strong occupational identity.2:51 What is “Organizational Culture Development”? How does it relate to leadership?3:00 Definition of formal and informal organizational culture4:20 How organizational culture connects to occupational identity management through leadership.5:36 Johanna shares 6 factors that can promote or prevent the rate of burnout that people experience in an organization.6:30 Johanna emphasizes the role that leaders play in shaping these 6 factors.7:01 Discussion.8:41 How a strong occupational identity amongst advocates and leadership can create an “us” vs. “them” dynamic.9:41 Johanna discusses 3 factors that can cause this “us” vs. “them” mentality to occur.13:49 How to better manage and/or alleviate this dynamic.14:31 Discussion.16:06 If we know that strong, potentially unhealthy occupational identity exists in an organization, how can that organization ensure that new advocates entering the organization maintain a healthy occupational identity?17:30 Johanna shares 6 ways that leaders can help promote healthy occupational identity among new advocates in an organization.23:08 Discussion.25:00 Johanna and Jeremie discuss what leadership can do for a brand new advocate that comes into an SV/DV organization with an interest in the work but limited experience and/or connection to the movement (both personally and professionally).27:49 Johanna explains the relationship between micromanagement and occupational identity.30:00 Johanna shares advice for advocates who might be dealing with a supervisor that struggles with micromanagement.33:39 Johanna shares advice for leaders who notice micromanagement occurring in their organization.34:25 Discussion.37:29 Discussion about the challenges that come with grant reports: Johanna explains 4 ways that leaders can encourage their successful completion.44:27 Jeremie and Johanna discuss how to change organizational culture and cultivate healthier occupational identities in a field that can be resistant to change because they have operated in one specific way for such a long time.46:59 Johanna shares tips for creating structural change in the SV/DV field in order to move towards healthier occupational identities.50:39 Discussion.53:06 Johanna shares how to get in touch with her and learn more about her work.54:43 Outro Resources Learn more about Johnanna and her work

Today on the RAFT podcast, Nicole and Mariam share their reflections on NCADV's National Conference on Domestic Violence. Episode Time Codes 0:00 Intro1:40 Nicole and Mariam talk about meeting each other in person for the first time and how it felt to connect with so many advocates at the conference.4:20 Discussion about planning for the conference: Travelling, making time for self-care activities, breaks, navigating the conference schedule, etc.7:00 Mariam and Nicole discuss their connections to Saint Louis, Missouri: Exploring the city and visiting friends while there.10:45 Discussion about making time for self-care while at the conference. Knowing when to decline activities in favour of rest or personal time.13:05 Nicole and Mariam discuss the different workshops they attended at the conference and choosing workshops which interested them specifically.14:30 “Circle, Square, Triangle” Reflection Tool.15:11 “Circle” Takeaway: Nicole and Mariam share the questions still circulating in their mind as they reflect on their time at the conference.19:43 Transition to “Square” Takeaway: Mariam and Nicole discuss what points from the conference reaffirmed what they already think and know about SV/DV work.27:03 “Triangle” Takeaway: Nicole and Mariam share what takeaways from the conference they hope to implement in their work and life.31:00 Mariam shares her appreciation for the innovative discussions and topics covered at the conference.33:05 Nicole discusses the impact of trauma and holding empathy for people who have experienced trauma.35:51 Final appreciations from the conference.38:49 Outro Resources NCADV

Jeremie and Johnanna conclude their discussion on occupational identity, a state of identifying closely with one's job. Join RAFT as we learn about how to manage this identity in mission-driven fields, such as SV/DV advocacy. Episode Time Codes 0:00 Intro0:26 Johanna shares signs that work relationships might be switching from healthy and functional to unhealthy and dysfunctional3:00 Discussion about "venting" at work. Johanna shares what "venting" can be reflective of and the harms of venting.4:55 How to get out of a "venting" mindset: Being a "challenger-listener" vs. "supportive-listener"6:50 Discussion7:30 The difference between a feeling and an interpretation of a feeling8:23 Discussion about interpretations of feelings and how interpretations of feelings show up at work and in everyday life12:15 Johanna shares tips for feeling less bad about taking time off by focusing on developing a healthy occupational identity15:45 How time off and rest helps prevent burnout17:30 Learning to take time off and not feel guilty for it is like training a muscle18:05 Experiencing a toxic workplace vs. overidentifying with one's work, which is leading to a toxic view of that work18:30 Definition of toxic workplace19:50 Example of someone who overidentifies with their work vs. someone who is experiencing a toxic workplace22:30 Should advocates serve fewer survivors as a way to maintain a healthier work environment and avoid burnout? Jeremie and Johanna discuss this question and how overidentification with one's work might impact this.26:06 How overidentification with one's work might influence advocates to see survivors as more fragile than they really are29:10 How focusing on good actions rather than outcomes helps create a healthy occupational identity33:07 What happens when one attaches their worth to the outcome of their actions34:50 How advocates transitioning out of the SV/DV field with a strong occupational identity can successfully adapt to a new role where they do not have such a strong occupational identity36:59 Preventing overidentification with new job38:00 Reframing the value that your job provides you40:05 Johanna shares her experience with disconnecting her sense of self from her work: Leaving an SV/DV role, how she managed burnout and the sense of identity loss.42:41 Discussion44:30 Johanna shares tips for advocates transitioning out of the SV/DV field who have burnt out and are coping with the loss or grief of no longer doing work that they strongly identify with50:30 Outro Resources Learn more about Johnanna and her workOccupational Identity Management Part 1Occupational Identity Management Part 2

Jeremie and Johnanna continue their discussion on occupational identity, a state of identifying closely with one's job. Join RAFT as we learn about how to manage this identity in mission-driven fields, such as SV/DV advocacy. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro01:20 Johnanna introduces herself, experience, and research02:20 Recognizing our Comfort, Learning, and Panic Zones07:00 Review of Occupational Identity: Strong vs. Over-identified12:05 Four Skill Development Areas12:20 Self-Awareness14:00 Emotional Literacy17:50 Accountability21:45 Adaptability24:40 Q&A on Skill Development for Advocates25:40 How can someone who is over-identified, but not quite burnt-out, start building healthier occupational identity?30:10 How to expand social relationships as an introvert32:25 What about over-identification with personal values?40:40 Are there any unique challenges/benefits of Occupational Identity for Advocates who are also survivors?45:35 How does occupational identity lead to an us vs. them dynamic in many organizations between the front line advocates and the leadership?55:15 Outro Resources Learn more about Johnanna and her workOccupational Identity Management Part 1Occupational Identity Management Part 3

Today we discuss occupational identity, a state of identifying closely with one's job. Join RAFT as we learn about how to manage this identity in mission-driven fields, such as SV/DV advocacy. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro01:00 Johnanna shares her background and work.04:30 Definition of occupational identity06:30 Definition of strong occupational identity07:10 Discussion08:20 Healthy occupational identity11:00 Unhealthy occupational Identity12:20 Discussion about struggling to turn off the identity15:10 When occupational identity rubs off on colleagues who don't have the same identity or don't want to.20:50 Discussion on how organizational structure and culture can set people up to have a strong, sometimes unhealthy, occupational identity22:30 Things people can do to avoid a strong occupational identity25:45 Risk 1: Overidentification--seeing yourself as one with your job, colleagues, and mission30:20 Risk 2: Exploitation of self and others32:00 Risk 3: Toxic work culture32:50 Risk 4: Burnout34:50 Setting healthy boundaries: Self-awareness, knowing your values, asking "who are you outside of work?", emotional literacy, and skills of accountability48:00 Outro Resources Occupational Identity Self-Assessment ToolBoundaries, Habits, and Supports Exploration ToolLearn more about Johnanna and her workInsight: The Surprising Truth About How Others See Us, How We See Ourselves, and Why the Answers Matter More Than We Think by Tasha Eurich

In honor of Women's History Month, the women of RAFT share their career and life experiences--advice, strengths, and lessons learned. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:40 Anneka introduces the topic in celebration of Women's History Month01:00 Q1: One lesson or piece of advice we've learned from another woman?01:10 Nicole: Take care of the people you work with02:45 Discussion04:25 Anneka: There is no need to feel self-conscious about emotive communication06:09 Discussion09:55 Q2: One thing you wish you could tell your younger self as a woman navigating her career?10:14 Esteniolla: You are under no obligation to stay at a job.14:04 Discussion15:20 Mariam: It's okay if you can't always separate your personal and work-life16:25 Discussion18:45 Nicole: Find other women that you enjoy working with and who can help you get your foot in the door20:25 Nicole: Not all women will connect with you, but you can still learn from them22:40 Nicole: A job is a job.23:16 Discussion25:40 Q3: One strength you bring to the workforce as a woman? How did you develop it?26:00 Esteniolla: I'm not apologetic about who I am (beliefs, work style, communication, etc) and I am always in a state of growth.29:22 Discussion33:25 Mariam: I am okay with letting go of expectations of myself35:25 Discussion39:45 Anneka: I am a really mindful listener40:50 Discussion42:35 Closing43:20 Outro

Do you struggle with procrastination? Join the RAFT team as we dive deeper into S.M.A.C.K., a procrastination prevention tool designed by clinical psychologist and Procrastination Coach, Dr. Christine Li. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:27 Esteniolla introduces the topic and the guest, Dr. Christine Li.01:19 Dr.Christine Li reintroduces herself to listeners and shares her journey to becoming a Procrastination Coach.03:30 Dr. Christine Li shares how she relates to her work personally.05:45 Q&A: What is a working definition of procrastination for us to discuss? Are there atypical procrastination patterns?09:55 Q&A: What are the top characteristics of procrastination?11:12 Key Lesson: Procrastination is any thought/feeling/belief system that complicates getting to the finished line.12:30 Q&A: Can you walk us through S.M.A.C.K.? Simplicity. Mindfulness. Anxiety-Reduction. Communication. Kindness to self.14:20 Explantation of Simplicity.15:20 Explantation of Mindfulness.16:40 Explantation of Anxiety-Reduction.19:00 Explantation of Communication.20:22 Explantation of Kindness to self.22:15 Esteniolla shares an example of how she used S.M.A.C.K. to stop procrastinating in her preparation for this RAFT podcast episode.24:55 Debrief and discussion of the shared example.25:55 Discussion on whether one should start with a lighter task or the heaviest task when trying to prevent procrastination.28:10 Key Lesson: We can learn to make heavy tasks light or, at least, feel light.30:45 Q&A: What about the advocate who is overwhelmed and is facing a tight deadline at work so they procrastinate? How does should this advocate use S.M.A.C.K.?34:24 Q&A: When is S.M.A.C.K. not enough? When does one realize that struggles with procrastination are a symptom of a much bigger issue (ex. dysfunction in the workplace)?37:30 Q&A: At the time of this recording, Valentine's Day is a week away and many people, like myself, have procrastinated preparations for the holiday. What do you have to say to them?38:57 Key Lesson: Keep it SIMPLE.40:45 Dr. Christine Li shares how listeners can be in touch and stay connected to her work.42:23 Outro Resources Procrastination Coach WebsiteProcrastination Coach LibraryMake Time for Success Podcast

Do you struggle with procrastination? Are you unsure about the difference between procrastination and rest? Join the RAFT team as we answer these questions and more with clinical psychologist and Procrastination Coach, Dr. Christine Li. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:30 Jeremie & Indrani introduce the topic and the guest, Dr. Christine Li02:30 Dr.Christine Li introduces herself as Procrastination Coach05:20 Key Lesson: Difficult things, like procrastination, can be made easy. Perception is key.07:30 Q&A: What language can our advocates use to avoid blocking or negative framing of their struggles with procrastination?10:50 Q&A: On prioritizing, how do advocates do it when overwhelmed with life and work?16:55 Key Lesson: Don't bring the previous hour into the new hour.20:30 Q&A: How does one know the difference between resting and procrastinating?36:15 Q&A: Can you talk about the impact procrastination has on our energy?42:40 Q&A: How do I realize, especially as a leader, that what I am procrastinating on is actually not a priority?45:10 Q&A: How can our listeners get started with preventing procrastination in their lives? How can our listeners find out more about your work?45:40 S.M.A.C.K.: Smack procrastination away through simplicity, mindfulness, anxiety reduction, communication, and kindness.50:50 Outro Resources Procrastination Coach WebsiteMake Time for Success Podcast

In this episode, Jeremie and Indrani discuss their own challenges with reflection and share some of their personal reflection practices. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:20 Jeremie introduces the topic and the team.01:19 Jeremie asks, "Why do you find it difficult to reflect on things that have happened?"01:36 Indrani shares how her attitude toward reflection has changed.02:36 Søren Kierkegaard: "Life can only be understood backwards, but must be lived forward."02:51 Jeremie and Indrani discuss uncertainty and failing fast and forward.04:07 The difference between reflecting on the behavior of others and yourself.06:49 Why Jeremie finds it difficult to reflect.08:32 Schedule time to reflect.08:58 Reflection and connection to work and leadership.10:04 The book Jeremie can't wait to read in 2022, "Flourishing Enterprise."10:49 Indrani shares why it's important to reflect.12:57 Reframing experiences as part of a reflection practice.17:32 Visual and physical methods for reframing.21:25 Reflection Practice: Gratitude Journal.23:27 Indrani's Gratitude Practice.30:14 Reflection Practice: Consolidate notes into a journal and review on a consistent basis.31:42 Reflection tool from Charlie Gilkey of Productive Flourishing: The Quarterly Review.36:58 Reflection tool from Charlie Gilkey of Productive Flourishing: The 10/15 Split.45:04 Indrani's closing thoughts on reflection.47:11 Indrani wraps up with Søren Kierkegaard quote47:29 Outro Resources Flourishing Enterprise: The New Spirit of Business by Chris Laszlo and Judy Sorum Brown"The Quarterly Review: 9 Questions to Help You Stay the Course and Adjust with Confidence" by Charlie Gilkey"Build Daily Momentum Using the 10/15 Split" by Charlie Gilkey

In episode two of the annual RAFT holiday podcast, the RAFT team continues their discussion on tips and tools for thriving, not surviving, the holidays. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:18 Jeremie introduces the topic and the team.03:52 Jeremie's Tip #1: Create a holiday budget and stick to it.06:20 Jeremie's Tip #2: Start saving for the holidays at the start of the year.07:20 Jeremie's Tip #3: Celebrate the holiday the week after it. Usually cheaper.08:49 Team Discussion on other ways to alleviate financial stress.17:33 Indrani's Tip #1: Do not shame others by imposing expectations (old or new) about food.19:49 Indrani's Tip #2: Make a holiday list of activities (small or big) and ask the word "Why" repeatedly. Gives clarity about your wants, priorities and decisions.22:00 Indrani's Tip #3: Think Again Practice: Ask WHY for everything to slowly undo harmful patterns, expectations, and behaviors.24:12 Team Discussion on convictions and beliefs33:25 Nicole's Tip #1: Create a festive and bright environment to combat seasonal depression34:55 Nicole's Tip #2: Cook only your favorite foods37:05 Nicole's Tip #3: Stay connected to family/friends38:55 Team Discussion45:23 Jeremie wraps up Episode 246:18 Outro Resources BOOK: Think Again: The Power of Know What You Don't Knowing by Adam GrantBOOK: Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek

In episode one of the annual RAFT holiday podcast, the RAFT team discusses tips and tools for thriving, not surviving, the holidays. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:19 Jeremie introduces the topic and the team welcomes readers.02:40 Anneka's Tip #1: It is okay to say "no" to social invitations.03:55 Anneka's Tip #2: Give to yourself in addition to others.04:55 Anneka's Tip #3: Practice empathy and gratitude during the holiday06:00 Team Discussion on prioritizing family relationships/gatherings11:11 Esteniolla's Tip #1: Do not engage in family gossip. Redirect it.13:42 Esteniolla's tip #2: Protect sensitive information you don't want to share.16:00 Team Discussion on navigating family dynamics across/within cultures and in different stages of life.33:51 Jeremie wraps up Episode 134:04 Outro

In this episode, Jamie (@bad_mmama), a professional MMA fighter, shares her journey from survivor to advocate. Learn how she leverages her training in physical and non-contact defense to empower other survivors. Listeners, please note that there is discussion of domestic violence in the podcast and specific discussion about rape at 35:55. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:26 Listeners are welcomed and RAFT team members, Indrani and Esteniolla, introduce themselves01:34 Jamie introduces herself02:15 Question: What was the switch that you flipped that gave you the courage to leave the abusive relationship?04:30 Question: How did you finally realize—this is not love?07:35 Discussion on inter-generational trauma and the "normalcy" of abuse11:58 Question: What tips or guidance do you have for those listening who are currently experiencing abuse or have loved ones who are?14:28 Discussion on available domestic abuse prevention resources15:38 Question: How did you make the shift from survivor to advocate?22:33 Question: How do you take care of yourself and manage your time as a single mom who is an advocate?24:30 Question: What do your powerHER defense classes/workshops look like?28:00 Discussion30:00 Question: How can our listeners learn more about your defense classes?31:20 Components of powerHER model: Boundaries, Awareness, Threat Recognition, Avoidance, & Self-Care33:57 Question: What made you turn to MMA fighting and connect it to your advocacy work?35:55 TRIGGER WARNING: Discussion on recent public incident of sexual assault in the news + situational awareness for bystanders39:15 Question: So back to our question, what made you decide that MMA fighting was the route to take?44:20 Discussion46:23 Closing remarks47:30 Outro Resources National Coalition Against Domestic ViolenceWomen Against Abuse@bad_mmama (Jamie Colleen)

In this episode, join the entire RAFT team as they discuss how to ask for help and the various things one must consider as they hone this practice. Tips range from the timing of how to ask for help to determining the right people to ask for help. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro00:29 Listeners are welcomed and the RAFT team is introduced00:55 Introduction of topic: How to Ask for Help01:26 Recap of How to Ask for Help, Part I02:25 Mariam Tip #2: Think about timing when asking for help03:30 Team Discussion12:54 Anneka's Tip #1: Identify specifically and communicate clearly what you need help with to manage expectations15:13 Team Discussion19:30 Indrani's Tip #1: Take the time to determine who is the right and safe person to ask for help26:00 Team Discussion33:00 Outro Resources TED Talk: The Art of Asking by Amanda PalmerBlog: Three Ways to Ask for HelpPodcast: Tips for How to Ask for Help, Part I

In this episode, join the entire RAFT team as they discuss how to ask for help and the various things one must consider as they hone this practice. Tips range from how to be specific in your ask to the right mindset needed when asking for help. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:30 Listeners are welcomed and the RAFT team is introduced. 01:19 Introduction of topic: How to Ask for Help 02:44 Jeremie's Tip #1: Leaders in the SV/DV field, realize that you are not alone and your team is looking to support you! 05:50 Jeremie's Tip #2: Leaders in the SV/DV field, be transparent with your team about big picture items so they know where to support. 07:53 Team Discussion 11:36 Esteniolla's Tip #1: You have no chance of help, unless you ask 13:33 Esteniolla's Tip #2: Remember how rewarding it is when you help others 14:40 Esteniolla's Tip #3: Let go of the feeling that you will owe someone for helping you 21:28 Mariam's Tip #1: Be upfront and specific with your ask for help 23:48 Team Discussion 30:19 Hear from Anneka, Indrani and more tips from Mariam in How to Ask for Help, Part II. 30:36 Outro Resources University of Texas, Austin Technical Report: VOICE: Victim Services Occupation,Information, and Compensation Experiences SurveyRAFT Blog: Three Ways to Ask for Help

In this episode, Heather Slutzky from Anchor & Flame shares how she anchors caregivers in their resilience without compromising the flame that ignites their passion for the work. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:28 Jeremie welcomes listeners and Introduces Heather Slutzsky, Principal Celebrant of Anchor & Flame 01:45 Heather introduces herself and how her healthcare career led to being Principal Celebrant of Anchor & Flame 08:55 Q+A: Tell us more about what it means to anchor in rituals? 13:23 Discussion 20:02 Q+A: Say more about the difference between gratitude and celebration? 24:00 Discussion 30:16 Q+A: Can you speak to the role of meaning-making in resilience? 32:30 Discussion 43:34 Q+A: Your "go-bag" Anchor & Flame podcast episodes, say more about these? 47:15 Q+A: What are you up to right now? How can people connect with you? 49:50 Outro Resources Anchor and Flame PodcastGo Bag Podcast EpisodeAnchor and Flame YouTube ChannelHeather Slutzky on LinkedIn

In this episode, Sherry Hamby, Director of the Life Paths Research Center and Founder of ResilienceCon, discusses universal and cumulative trauma and resilience. EPISODE TIME CODES 00:00 Intro 00:30 Jeremie Welcomes listeners and introduces Dr. Sherry Hamby. 00:50 Dr. Hamby introduces herself. 02:27 Q+A: You talk about trauma as a universal experience and more common than people think, how does compassion fatigue and vicarious trauma experienced by SV/DV advocates fit into this overall experience? 05:30 Q+A: Do you have suggestions on how people can talk to friends/family that don't buy into the concept of vicarious trauma? 11:45 Q+A: You also talk about resilience being more common than people think. How does resilience fit in with the helping professions experiencing compassion fatigue and vicarious trauma? 18:16 Q+A: Based on your research, what is a resiliency portfolio? 24:40 Q+A: You talk about strengths-based approaches to resilience. Can you share a little bit about that and give examples? 30:00 Q+A: How does resilience relate to growth? And what is the potential for growth after experiencing trauma? 32:20 Q+A: Do you have ideas on how organizations and leaders can support their advocates in building resilience? 37:22 Q+A: We know that advocates experience vicarious trauma and the work can bleed into their family life. Do you have suggestions on what advocates can do to help their families understand vicarious trauma and build resilience? 39:50 Q+A: Do you have 1-2 resiliency tools that advocates can start using immediately? 41:15 Conclusion & How to get in touch with Dr. Hamby 42:17 Outro RESOURCES Website: Life Paths Research CenterResource: ResilienceCon

In this episode, learn how social journaling can be used to make powerful, meaningful connections with the self, the we, and the us. EPISODE TIME CODES 00:00 Intro 00:39 Jeremie Welcomes listeners and introduces Alex and Nikolay from Oh-lay, a workplace culture design company. 01:37 Nikolay and Alex introduce themselves and their mission. 03:01 Tool Overview: Social Journaling 05:58 Q+A: Where did social journaling come from? How did it start? 08:05 Q+A: Can you share your experience using social journaling with advocates? 10:45 Jeremie reflects on the RAFT tool, PERMA, and how it connects to social journaling, especially M for Meaning. 11:55 Q+A: What are the benefits of social journaling? 15:46 Discussion on Critical Awareness by Brene Brown, and how it connects to the benefits of social journaling. 19:32 Q+A: On resilience, how are people growing through the experience of social journaling? 25:16 Q+A: What does it look like for Ohlay to come into an organization and work with them? What questions are explored? 29:53 Social journaling as a support to and medium for pre-existing curriculum for advocates 30:52 Q+A: How can advocates engage in social journaling with Ohlay? 33:33 Summary of social journaling purpose and process 34:55 Outro RESOURCES Website: Oh-lay.comTool: PERMA

In this episode, Indrani and Jeremie discuss self-love and acceptance through the lens of time management. EPISODE TIME CODES 00:00 Intro 00:30 Jeremie Welcomes Listeners and Introduces Indrani 00:57 Indrani: Why This Topic is So Important 02:52 Jeremie: Not Taking What Comes First 04:33 Indrani: Time is Not a Piece of Elastic 06:04 Discussion 08:50 Jeremie: Time as a Piece of String 09:45 Discussion on Time Management/Task Priorities 14:32 Indrani Shares Successful Story Where a Difficult Boundary is Set as Self-Love 16:40 Discussion: The True Amount of Energy Spent on Our Jobs and Making Other People Feel Better 21:11 Discussion: Suggestions on Failing to Implement Boundaries and How to Try Again 26:02 Discussion: Setting Boundaries + Learnings from the Book Tiny Habits 32:30 Outro RESOURCES Book – Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything by BJ Fogg, PhD

In this episode, RAFT invites Stacy Brookman, a resilience and life story expert, to share a new resiliency tool for advocates. EPISODE TIME CODES 00:00 Intro01:20 Stacy introduces herself03:25 The Tool Overview: Life-Story Writing04:20 Jeremie Shares How He Used the Tool to Reflect on His Leadership05:15 Where did Life-Story Writing come from?10:13 Discussion and Reflection on the Tool14:25 Using the Tool to Work Through the Year of COVID-1916:09 The 4-Step Process of Life-Story Writing17:20 Step 1: Acknowledge & Embrace Your Tough Stories18:02 Step 2: Enable Your Stories Through Free Writing20:53 Enhance Your Story21:20 Elevate Your Story24:10 Q&A: How Can Someone Who has Limited Time Use this Tool?32:00 Q&A: How Can People Use This Writing Process to Build Resilience to the Challenges they Face in Their Lives?36:00 Q&A: How Can People Use This Process to Help Make Decisions?43:14 Outro RESOURCES Podcast: Real Life Resilience: Stories of Recovery from Life's Most Difficult TraumaWebsite: Stacy BrookmanFREE DOWNLOAD: Freewriting Your Life Story Guide

In this episode, each RAFT team member continues to share their experiences with making difficult decisions. How do you make a choice with neither decision seems ideal? Listen as the team discusses the tools and processes they use to support them in being intentional about decision-making. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:25 Jeremie Shares How We Can Use Our Top Core Values to Make Decisions 06:43 Team Discussion 11:22 Mariam Shares How She Used a Pro/Con List to Make a Critical Decision Concerning Childbirth 14:19 Team Discussion 21:10 Indrani Quilts Together Key Learnings & Themes Through a Meditation on Decision-Making. 27:50 Final Team Reflections 33:25 Outro Resources Printable Find Your Core Values Exercise

In this episode, each RAFT team member shares their experiences with making difficult decisions. Listen as the team discusses the tools and processes they use to support them in being intentional about decision-making. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:28 Team Welcome 01:00 Advocate Scenario: Go Back to Work at the Shelter During COVID-19 and Spend Funds for Childcare or Work from Home and Provide Childcare Myself? 01:45 Alyce Discusses Tips Ranging from Permission to Change One's Mind to Not Remaining in a "Second Guessing" Cycle about a Decision. 10:22 Team Discussion 16:24 Esteniolla Discusses How She Uses Prayer to Decrease Urgency and Build Peace and Courage about a Decision 23:00 Team Discussion 27:25 Outro

In this episode, Indrani offers a body scan. It is a perfect and brief tool that helps build resilience. Relax and enjoy. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:21 Breathe with Intention to Start 01:06 Body Scan Begins 12:01 Three Deep Breaths to Transition Out of Body Scan 12:29 Outro

In this episode of the RAFT Podcast, Indrani reveals a new tool called W.A.I.T., a tool for intentional decision-making. Listen in as Jeremie and Alyce apply the tool using their unique styles and learn how you can, too. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:57 Intro to Conversation 01:40 Tool Objective: Guides the Process of Being Presented with a Decision and Making it. 3:03 Indrani Explains Each Component of W.A.I.T.: 3:04 W = "Who, What, When, Where & Why" 3:50 A = Awareness of your five senses & Reaction 4:50 I = Investigate your inner self & Reaction on Your Body 6:09 T = Time. Give Yourself Time to Breathe & the Gift of Time 8:11 Indrani Facilitates Initial Responses from Jeremie and Alyce on the Tool Description 11:50 Jeremie Shares the Decision He Worked on Using W.A.I.T. 19:14 Alyce Shares the Decision She Worked on Using W.A.I.T. 23:50 Indrani Reacts to Alyce's and Jeremie's Decision-Making 25:35 Helpful Takeaways & Guidance for Listeners Using the Tool 28:43 Summary of Discussion 30:10 Outro Resources Watch the Virtual Staying Afloat 2020 ConferenceLearn more about PERMA in Martin E.P. Seligman' book Flourish

In this episode of the RAFT Podcast, Jeremie, Indrani, and Alyce discuss tools that Advocates and Management can utilize to mitigate the stress and anxiety that often accompanies change. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:25 Intro to Conversation 01:28 Tool #1 - Intentional Body Scan Meditation with a Written Reflection 07:30 Discussion: Takeaways of Tool #1 10:20 Challenges Among Advocates During Change: Shame, Isolation, Blurred Boundaries 13:22 Tool #2 - Set Boundaries Between Home & Work 14:44 Tool #3 - Connect with a Trusted Network 17:45 Discussion: Takeaways of Tool #2 and #3 23:35 Lessons from Change - Clear & Frequent Communication, Flexibility, Becoming Focused 30:40 Discussion: Reflections on Lessons Learned 37:27 Summary & Conclusion 39:07 Outro Resources Email info@raftcares.org for FREE RAFT Workshops.

In this episode of the RAFT Podcast, Jeremie, Indrani, and Alyce discuss tools that Advocates and Management can utilize to mitigate the stress and anxiety that often accompanies change. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:25 Intro to Conversation 01:28 Tool …

In this episode of the RAFT Podcast, Indrani and Alyce continue their discussion about the day and the life of an advocate. Join us with our guests Susan Shipman, Executive Director, and Trace Fleming-Trice, Sexual Violence Program Director, at 2nd Chance, which serves survivors of domestic and sexual violence in Anniston, Alabama. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:34 Intro to Conversation 01:05 Discussion - There is No Typical or Dull Day as an Advocate 12:16 Discussion - What Gets in the Way of Taking Care of Ourselves 04:32 Indrani - The importance of gratitude 11:58 Discussion - What are you grateful for today? 24:46 Indrani - Connecting Back to Gratitude 27:09 Final Thoughts - Giving Gratitude & The Difficulty of Receiving It 32:00 Conclusion 33:44 Outro Resources Send your scenario to info@raftcares.org and we will try to provide some tools to help on a future episode. Online Support Yoga Nidra MeditationSelf-Care for Advocates Facebook Group RAFT Blog Posts How to Build Resilience as Advocates5 Physical Practices to Strengthen Your Emotional HealthSelf-Care: How to Start a Gratitude and Success Journal

In this episode of the RAFT Podcast, Indrani and Alyce discuss the importance and impact of a gratitude practice in the day and the life of an advocate. Join us with our guests Susan Shipman, Executive Director, and Trace Fleming-Trice, Sexual Violence Program Director, at 2nd Chance, which serves survivors of domestic and sexual violence in Anniston, Alabama. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:36 Welcome 02:10 Guest introduction: Susan 03:03 Guest introduction: Trace 04:32 Indrani - The importance of gratitude 08:31 Discussion 11:58 Susan - What are you grateful for today? 13:27 Trace - What are you grateful for today? 16:38 Discussion 17:25 Final Thoughts 18:19 Outro Resources Send your scenario to info@raftcares.org and we will try to provide some tools to help on a future episode. RAFT Blog Post Self-Care: How to Start a Gratitude and Success Journal

In this episode of the RAFT Podcast, Indrani and Alyce continue their discussion about the day and the life of an advocate. Join us with our guests Susan Shipman, Executive Director, and Trace Fleming-Trice, Sexual Violence Program Director, at 2nd …

In this episode of the RAFT Podcast, Indrani and Alyce discuss the importance and impact of a gratitude practice in the day and the life of an advocate. Join us with our guests Susan Shipman, Executive Director, and Trace Fleming-Trice, …

In this episode of the RAFT Podcast Indrani, Alyce, and Jeremie discuss a common occurrence for sexual and domestic violence advocates: going over the allotted time with a client, especially at the end of the workday. How can you set a boundary to end a meeting with a client without feeling guilty or like you betrayed them? Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:39 Welcome and scenario 02:24 Indrani – Breaking habits with Going to the movies to find a tweak. Find the "why" of saying no. 11:02 Discussion 13:39 Jeremie – Using your core values to make decisions 19:39 Discussion 24:18 Alyce – Reasons for not setting a boundary 27:10 Discussion 33:00 Alyce – what happens when we have healthy boundaries 34:39 Discussion 39:00 Conclusion 41:04 Outro Resources Send your scenario to info@raftcares.org and we will try to provide some tools to help on a future episode. Poem by Portia Nelson – "Autobiography in Five Short Chapters"Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. by Brené BrownDOWNLOAD: Finding Your Core Values Exercise Episodes about saying "no" and "Yes! No. Yes?" When Family and Work Values CollideFeeling Guilty When Saying No to Your SupervisorTake Care of Yourself First, Then Take Care of Your Family

In this episode of the RAFT Podcast Indrani, Alyce, and Jeremie discuss a common occurrence for sexual and domestic violence advocates: going over the allotted time with a client, especially at the end of the workday. How can you set …

Indrani's Light has gone through some big changes in the past year, and is starting 2020 with a fresh new look, new team members, and a brand new name: RAFT – Resilience for Advocates through Foundational Training. In this episode Indrani, Alyce, and Jeremie discuss the rebrand and what lessons they have learned through the renaming process. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:30 Welcome and Update on Indrani's Light Foundation and RAFT 03:15 Alyce Jurgenson introduces herself 06:40 Indrani discusses how to deal with a life change by remembering a time when you thrived 14:10 Discussion 17:14 Alyce explains the meaning of RAFT – Resilience for Advocates through Foundational Training 21:34 Discussion 25:27 Jeremie discusses how changing the name to RAFT taught him a lesson in communication 29:38 Discussion 34:25 Conclusion 36:37 Outro Resources Rebranding Indrani's Light Foundation: A story of changeSign up for Advocate ResourcesSign up for Organization ResourcesBecome a RAFT volunteerGive to RAFT and help support our mission

Indrani’s Light has gone through some big changes in the past year, and is starting 2020 with a fresh new look, new team members, and a brand new name: RAFT – Resilience for Advocates through Foundational Training. In this episode …

Have you struggled with responding with compassion and love when an individual challenges your boundaries or your truth? Listen to this episode of the Caring for the Caregivers podcast as Indrani and special guest, Mark Silver, share their wisdom and experience with addressing challenging responses and staying in your power when faced with challenge. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro01:30 Indrani- Scenario and Introduction of Guest Speaker, Mark Silver08:02 Mark- How to use training and practice for challenging responses10:20 Discussion14:16 Mark- saying No from a place of strength18:25 Spiritual Power Discussion25:20 Honoring the Physical Vessel32:03 Summary and conclusion Resources LINK: Mark Silver- Heart of Business

Have you struggled with responding with compassion and love when an individual challenges your boundaries or your truth? Listen to this episode of the Caring for the Caregivers podcast as Indrani and special guest, Mark Silver, share their wisdom and …