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As dads it is easy to see the significant role we play in the development of our sons. But what if our role was just as significant in the development of our daughters? I am joined by Dr. Meg Meeker, to learn about the undeniable influence dads have on the development of their daughters. Our daughters gain a lot from their moms, but there is a void only filled by fathers. You'll learn: • Why you are so important to your daughter • When you become important to your daughter • The best things you can do for your daughter throughout the course of her life If you want to learn more from Dr. Meeker, please visit www.meekerparenting.com. Book recommendation: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters - https://amzn.to/4cpMwaI — Get your FREE 7-day devotional download: https://fatheringourfuture.com/2025/03/22/free-7-day-devotional/ Get your copy of the new devotional for dads, Following Our Father: https://shop.ingramspark.com/b/084?params=VA6KP8OJ9Nh6EJM8xkhLDg1exkXKTtM9kswBjBoKxmD(Amazon options: https://amzn.to/427aK4L) Get your free gift, a copy of Cut The Crap (E-book): https://fatheringourfuture.com/2024/08/04/free-download-for-new-dads/ MERCH: https://fatheringourfuture.printify.me/products Become a financial partner with Fathering Our Future and make a direct impact on dads: https://fatheringourfuture.com/support/
Parenting does not come with instructions, and too often, mothers find themselves overwhelmed by the pressures of perfectionism, leading to feelings of mom guilt. Dr. Meg Meeker, a practicing pediatrician and renowned parenting expert, joins Shelley Johnson and Kathy Tucaro to share valuable insights on how to navigate the challenges of raising children. She is the host of the podcast Parenting Great Kids. She is a practicing pediatrician and top parenting expert, speaker, and author of seven books including a bestselling book that became a movie called Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters. Dr. Meeker has appeared on The Today Show, Dateline NBC, Fox and Friends, NPR, Oprah and Friends, and many others. She emphasizes the importance of getting the basics right in parenting, offering guidance on avoiding pitfalls like helicopter parenting and pushing kids too hard. With a wealth of experience and common-sense advice, Dr. Meeker highlights the crucial role that parents play as role models and sources of support for their children. Tune in for practical tips on fostering healthy relationships with kids and empowering them for success in life.https://instagram.com/megmeekermdhttps://www.facebook.com/megmeekermd/https://meekerparenting.com/https://meekerparenting.com/podcasts/www.meekerparenting.comhttps://women-road-warriors.captivate.fmhttps://womenroadwarriors.com/ https://www.podpage.com/women-road-warriors/https://womenspowernetwork.net #Parenting #Parent #Mothers #Kids #MomGuilt #RaisingKids #Children #HealthyParenting #DrMegMeeker #ShelleyJohnson #ShelleyMJohnson #KathyTuccaro #WomenRoadWarriors
Dr. Meg Meeker is a global leading authority in child-father relationships. She has over 35 years of experience as a pediatrician; is the author of the bestselling book and now movie, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters; host of the popular parenting podcast, Parenting Great Kids; TEDTalk and international speaker; and father-inclusive advocate. As an expert in the field, Dr. Meg equips dads (and those who love them) with coaching, tools, and training based on extensive practical experience and research. Go deeper with Sean at www.SaveMyFamily.us
In a recent episode of the Dads with Daughters podcast, hosted by Dr. Christopher Lewis, the special guest Markus Wolf opened up about his experiences as a father to two daughters. Markus shared valuable insights into the multi-faceted journey of fatherhood, touching on themes ranging from emotional intelligence to the importance of male connections. Here, we delve deeper into the key topics from their enlightening conversation. The Joy and Fear of Knowing You'll be a Dad The Initial Ecstasy When Markus found out he was going to be a father, the joy was immediate. "I was ecstatic," he said, reflecting on that transformative moment. Unlike some men who may be taken by surprise or even ambivalence at the prospect of fatherhood, Markus had known from a young age that he wanted to be a dad. He even felt that having daughters was a form of karmic balance, avoiding the potential rebelliousness he feared from having a son. The Inherent Fears Despite his enthusiasm, Markus admitted that the journey of fatherhood comes with its own set of anxieties. One of his biggest concerns has always been about maintaining open lines of communication. He emphasized that building a home where his daughters feel safe to express themselves emotionally is crucial, yet challenging. This desire for transparent communication stemmed from his own struggles with emotional intelligence, something he recognized needed constant work. Crafting Unique Relationships with Each Child Individual Awareness One of the critical parenting strategies Markus highlighted was the importance of recognizing the distinct personalities of each child. For example, his daughter Madison is a "fireball," prone to expressing herself loudly, while Sienna tends to close off and become quiet. Understanding these differences has allowed Markus to tailor his parenting approach, ensuring that he meets each daughter's emotional needs effectively. Skill Development Through Coaching Techniques Drawing from his career as a fitness coach, Markus has seamlessly integrated coaching principles into his parenting. He speaks of a "confidence model" where he gradually builds his daughters' skill sets in a manner that empowers them. Much like his clients who increasingly master fitness routines, his children too are slowly being endowed with various life skills. Whether it's making breakfast or picking up their toys, these seemingly mundane tasks are steps toward building a well-rounded individual. Balancing Emotions and Strengthening Connections Managing Temperaments Markus is candid about one of his personal challenges—being a bit of a "hothead." He regularly finds himself working on temper control to avoid alienating his daughters. For Markus, being in a better emotional state often involves engaging in physical activity and maintaining connections with other men. These practices help him manage stress better, creating a more harmonious home environment. The Role of Male Connections The COVID-19 pandemic brought to light an essential aspect of Markus's life—male interaction. Prior to the outbreak, he found much-needed camaraderie in his daily interactions with clients and friends. The pandemic made him realize how vital these connections were for his mental well-being. According to Markus, this communication acts as a stress-relief mechanism, enabling him to return home balanced and prepared for fatherhood duties. The Mentor and Coach Pivot Incorporating Coaching into Parenting Markus describes his approach as "Miyagi-ing" his kids, reminiscent of the lessons from "The Karate Kid." By embedding valuable life skills subtly into daily routines, he's preparing his daughters for the real world without them even realizing it. This stealth approach to skill-building enables Markus to parent effectively, ensuring his daughters are ready for life's challenges while maintaining a supportive relationship. Role Models and Inspirations He also spoke about the crucial need for every man to retain some level of selfishness, not in a negative sense, but in terms of self-care. By maintaining his own well-being, Markus not only becomes a better father but also a better role model. The "loneliness epidemic" among men is something Markus is keenly aware of, actively working to combat it through his practice of connecting with other fathers and men. The Imperfect Yet Rewarding Journey of Fatherhood Markus Wolf's journey through fatherhood is not about being perfect; it's about being present and continuously striving for improvement. He emphasizes that fatherhood is a blessing that requires a balanced approach—recognizing individual needs, maintaining personal well-being, and building strong, open relationships. Markus's story serves as a powerful reminder that fatherhood, with all its challenges, is an evolving adventure, filled with moments of joy, learning, and profound love. For more insights and advice on fatherhood, join the "Dads with Daughters" community and explore resources that could make your parenting journey a little smoother. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:05]: Welcome to dads with daughters. In this show, we spotlight dads, resources, and more to help you be the best dad you can be. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:16]: Welcome back to the Dads with Daughters podcast where we bring you guests to be active participants in your daughters' lives, raising them to be strong, independent women. Really excited to have you back again this week. Every week, I love being able to have these conversations with you where we are walking on this path together, where you and I are working to raise our daughters in the best way that we know how. And the most important thing that everyone needs to understand, no matter if you have 1 daughter, 2 daughters, 7 daughters, doesn't matter, is that we don't have to do this alone. And every week I love being able to have a conversation with you, to walk with you as we are walking down this path together, as I said, But knowing that, we don't all know everything. There is not the there is not one right way to father, and there's not one playbook to follow. So it is important for us to be able to learn from others, find other resources, find more tools for our toolbox that we can pull from to be able to be the best dads that we want to be that will help our daughters to be the women that they want to be in the future. That's why every week I bring you different guests, different people that have different experiences, that are walking this path alongside of you and are doing things maybe in a little bit different way. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:38]: But that's okay because we can learn and grow from all of their experiences as well. And this week, we have another great guest with us today. Markus Wolf is with us today. And Markus is a father of 2 daughters, and I'm really excited to have him here and for him to share his experiences with us. Markus, thanks so much for being here today. Markus Wolf [00:01:56]: Thanks for having me, Chris. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:57]: It is my pleasure. Love having you here today. 1st and foremost, question I always start off with. I love being able to have the power to turn the clock back in time. I know you have 2 daughters. So So I wanna go back to that first moment. That first moment that you found out that you were gonna be a dad to a daughter. What was going through your head? Markus Wolf [00:02:13]: I was ecstatic. I really was. I knew I wanted to be a dad since I was very young, which some dads never expect to have a child. Some of them never even wanted to have a child and I knew it. I knew it since I was in grade school. I was like, it was part of the vision. I'm going to be a father. So when it happened, it was just kind of I knew I was with the right woman. Markus Wolf [00:02:32]: I knew everything was just pieced together perfectly. So I was really, really excited, especially girl for some reason. I think, I was pretty tough as a son, and I just didn't want the payback that my father got. So it was kinda nice to just know that I was like, okay. Great. I only have to deal with a a daughter and then I got a second one. So that was like, okay. Never gonna deal with a son. Markus Wolf [00:02:51]: Nothing wrong with having sons, of course. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:53]: So you said you always knew that you wanted to be a father. Talk to me about that. What was it about being a father that really, I'm gonna say intrigued you or made you want to be a father yourself? You know, Markus Wolf [00:03:06]: Chris, it's kinda hard to explain. Right? It just some kids grow up and they wanna be firefighters. They wanna be doctors. And then some of them fulfill that that vision. And it was just part of the process of, like, what I pictured myself. I said to myself, I wanted the white picket fence house. I wanted kids. I wanted that lifestyle. Markus Wolf [00:03:23]: So I'm not really sure how to even explain it. It was just something that I knew that I desired. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:27]: I talked to a lot of different dads. A lot of different dads tell me that walking into fatherhood is a bit scary. There's some fear that goes along with being a dad. A lot of it comes back to the fact that there's no playbook to really follow that outside of the mentoring or what you've seen in your life. As you look at the experiences that you've had thus far as a father, what's been your biggest fear in raising daughters? Markus Wolf [00:03:50]: Communication is something you really want. It's one of the hardest things when it comes to parenting. And the the again, part of what I always pictured was my children were gonna always be able to come to me for support and to open up emotionally. And then I realized really quickly, and I think kids do this, relationships do this as well. They expose what you haven't been working on. And I wasn't working on my emotional intelligence. I mean, God bless my wife, Lindsay, for even, like, always just putting up with my, you know, I'm very like, you could call it passionate, but I usually just call it hot tempered. And when you have children again, they're not going to want to come to a human being who just doesn't know how to sit there and and, you know, understand where they're coming from and really be able to just not try to, you know, do the manly thing of just fixing their scenario. Markus Wolf [00:04:38]: So that's the one thing I'm always afraid of. I just want them to not feel like they're ever afraid to come to me to be, I need support with X, Y, and Z. And then, because perhaps I'm not showing the greatest of light, they don't come to me. That'd be the, the, probably the worst thing because they, I don't know. I mean, I feel like I've always valued having mentors and I don't need to be their top mentor, but I would like to be someone that could come to. Markus Wolf [00:04:59]: And I'm definitely gonna be following back up with that on the mentorship piece because I think that that's something that you are incorporating into your fatherhood and I wanna delve a little bit deeper into that. But before I do, I wanna ask you a little bit about when you raise children, it's not always easy. There are ups, downs, sideways, everything in between. And there are good days, there are bad days, there are you know what I mean. So, what has been the hardest part for you in being a father to a daughter? Markus Wolf [00:05:29]: I mean, you kind of said it. I'm very regimented. It's just the way I can handle the toughness of life, if you want to say. And things have to be put in place so perfectly. And that's not parenting. And that's even different when you have 2 different children that have different requirements, different skill sets. I've tried with one of them will work on a Monday and then it won't work on a Tuesday and it's incredibly frustrating. And then again, yeah, it's a constant roller coaster. Markus Wolf [00:05:53]: That's probably the toughest part because it would be so great if they just did exactly what I asked them to do all the time, but they don't. So it's probably that constant battle I have to have with myself to just slow it down and not desire so much. It's just, like, let it go type of thing. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:06:11]: Now you talk just talked about the fact that what works with one child may not work with the other. And every child is is different and the personalities are different. So talk to me about what you've had to do to be able to build those unique relationships with each of your daughters that may be different from each other. Oh, I Markus Wolf [00:06:28]: mean, first, yeah, you have to almost understand what their qualities are, right? I mean, I have my oldest daughter Madison, who she's just a fireball. So she'll rather yell, she'll scream. So she'll still voice her and she'll still communicate with words. And then you obviously have to, you know, deal with that. You just have to try to, like, bring the person bring Madison down a little bit. With my other daughter, Sienna, she just closes off. Like, she doesn't use words. She gets really quiet. Markus Wolf [00:06:52]: So then you're always just trying to figure out, well, now I know that this one is up and you gotta bring this one down to balance and the other one's a little bit down and you gotta bring it down. So that's been the first one. It's just being aware of how they respond to certain type of emotions. And then when you understand it, then you're like, okay, cool. Now what do I have in my tool belt to to bring one down and bring the other one up? Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:07:12]: Now you talked about that sometimes you can be a little bit of a hothead and you have to temper that. As you said, you don't want your children to be afraid to come to you because of that. How have you had to work on that to be able to get to a point where either you're in the right space or that you've had to had those conversations with your daughters, and you might not have had to have them yet with them so that they understand. But how have you been able to realign yourself in being a father and knowing that your emotions may be a little bit more heated and you have to be able to adjust for that. Markus Wolf [00:07:50]: I'm in fitness. I'm in health. And for me, I believe it's always about putting yourself into like a better state. So if you're like energetic, the stress is relieved. So usually, I think most dads can agree that the milk spilled on the floor is not why you had this huge yelling outburst or the TV not being shut off when you asked for it to be shut off is not really why you're you're yelling. Because if you really put things into perspective, you're like, okay. Am I really gonna get mad at this at a child for not shutting off the TV? Or am I mad because there's a whole bunch of other things I'm incredibly stressed out about that I hadn't just, you know, worked through. So for me, I have to always put myself into a state. Markus Wolf [00:08:26]: And one of them that I've really worked on for the last 2 years is I have to have a male connection at least once a week. That is like a mandatory and it's worked fabulously because once I do it, I come back and I'm I could recognize myself being like, oh, okay. So I think it was just because I needed a little bit of like stress relief. So I mean, obviously stress stress relief can look different for so many other men, but that has been the one that just brings me to the state that I need to be for parenting, if that makes sense. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:08:52]: It does. And now you talked about the fact that you are a mentor, but you're also a coach. You are and you're incorporating some of those things that you've been doing in your own business as a fitness coach, as a coach in general into your parenting. So talk to me about how you've been able to pivot that in being able to do what you're doing with clients and trying to incorporate that into the work that you're doing in trying to be the father that you want to be? Markus Wolf [00:09:29]: I stumbled upon this. It must have been just almost like an epiphany. I was just obviously I was coaching a lot of men and parenting every single day. And then I started to realize there's something there where the ultimate goal, I believe this is my parent and style. I don't know if this is all fathers is my job is to set them up for the world, right? And the more skill sets I give them, the more, like, you know, let's say even like the emotional intelligence skills around the house. All these like little things are foundational tools that you do for clients. Like clients, they need to have foundational tools to get food prepared so they could eat healthier meals. They could go outside and prioritize themselves. Markus Wolf [00:10:08]: So there's there's very much I tried to work in. What is the process number 1 for this child? I mean, where are we at? Like, you know, at 3 years old, they could barely pick up many things. But at 4 years old, they can empty the dishes. At 5 years old, they can make their own breakfast, things like that. So I started to realize that my coaching style was always like that. It's kind of like a, I call it the confidence model where you take someone and you just, what is the one thing that could boost their confidence? But it's a very easy thing that they can do. And then each time you have to recognize what is the next thing they need to do to again move towards those skill sets that you were speaking of. So I've been doing it with my children. Markus Wolf [00:10:42]: They're excellent at things around the house now without realizing that it wasn't, I'm asking, like, you know, it's not doesn't feel like a chore, I guess, I suppose you're saying. Because, again, I'm gonna use this great reference because I've been watching Cobra Kai for those past couple weeks, which is I Miyagi then. You know, it's mean I just and I do that with my clients. I Miyagi them to just suddenly have these skill sets and now they're like, oh my goodness. Now I'm like equipped for the world and I'm like, yes. I did what I needed to do. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:11:05]: Now even in Cobra Kai and Karate Kid, Daniel san ends up figuring out that he's getting Miyagi ed. So your kids are going to figure it out sometime. And they're probably going to be like, what the heck, dad? Why are you doing this? How are you gonna react? Markus Wolf [00:11:19]: I might even just do what I just did right now. I might smile a little and just said, you know, this is this is what I'm I'm trying my best. I'm like, I'm trying my best. I have good intentions and I think sometimes that's, like, at least gives you half the pass. But, yeah, if I get exposed, I will get back to you and I'll let you know how I handle it. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:11:34]: So talk to me about you talked earlier about the fact that you found within your own life that you need to have those connections with other men, other fathers, other individuals, so important for you. I don't like referencing COVID too much, just because there's, so important for you. Markus Wolf [00:11:55]: I don't like referencing covid too much just because this feels like something you just want to put behind you. But it made me recognize that what I had in the past was like a third home. I had a place to go out and when I would personal trained before covid, I was interacting with 5, 10 people a day. And then when you go from 5, 10 to 0, you start to realize that that was something that was a requirement for you. You like being heard, you like hearing other people's stories. And then when you eliminate that, I started to replace my wife for that. So really, it was just get back that same outlets. And then then again, I I can't explain why it feels so good, but it was it was exactly what I just needed. Markus Wolf [00:12:32]: I just need to talk to others and hear others and just get out and about. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:12:35]: You know, I've come to find that some men are for some men, that is not an easy thing to do, to reconnect, to make those connections, to make those friendships, especially once we become adults. Don't seem to have problems usually when we're growing up. We make those connections. We have friendships. But as we get into our adulthood and we start focusing on family, profession, other things, the push for maintaining friendships, building friendships goes away. As someone that mentors others, that coaches others, why do you think that happens? And what have you done to be able to try to help other men to reconnect like you are? Markus Wolf [00:13:16]: That's a really great point. You made me remember what it was like being with my father or being raised with my father and he had 0 friends. So I think that was already a glaring sign. And the first things that I feel like I recognize was I talk about that a lot with clients, even sometimes the very first interaction. I say to them that when we were younger, when we were men, it was 95% of our time were with other men. Locker room banter, playing video games, going outside, and you're pretty much just hanging out with men your whole entire life up until the point when you're dating the person that you're eventually gonna have children with and then get married. So for me, I personally just started to use I'm a meathead at heart, Chris, to be honest. So I just work out with men because it just seems to be a 2 birds with 1 stone type of scenario. Markus Wolf [00:14:05]: And I think a lot of men can can connect with that. Maybe it's not working out. Maybe it's, hey. I'm gonna go join a softball team, and that might even just be enough to do the thing. Markus Wolf [00:14:14]: No, it does. And I think that it's important to understand that. That's one of the reasons why in fathering together, we develop the online communities that we have, but we also have in person opportunities for dads to connect with other dads and be able to open up opportunities for men to be able to connect, connect with their kids, connect with each other because connection is so important. But we, as I said, sometimes forget about that and focus so much on other aspects that leads to the prevalence of loneliness. And you'll see lots of studies that are out there right now that talk about the pervasiveness of loneliness in malehood right now. And most men don't wanna talk about it, and they just wanna kind of push it down and keep pushing forward because that's what we do. We push through, right? So it's not an easy thing to deal with, but it's also important to for us to deal with because if we don't, our kids are watching and our kids will also identify and see what's happening. So one of the questions that I have, I guess, is this because you work with a lot of dads and men in the coaching that you do through fitness, through life. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:15:32]: What are some of the biggest challenges that some of these men that are coming to you, working with you right now are dealing with? And are you seeing commonalities amongst them? Markus Wolf [00:15:41]: 100%. I feel like at this point, because I've worked with 100 and it's just patterns. And usually the one pattern that I'm noticing a lot is the values they have are outside of themselves. So it's never a bad thing to provide. That's one of a very important role you're supposed to do as a parent, as an adult. But I couldn't understand that because I'll admit it, I was quite selfish in my twenties, which kind of prepared me for how to, you know, be successful in fitness. But their line in what it does, it prioritizes self, it prioritizes if your energy is not where you want it to be, you prioritize it. If your stress management is not where you want it to be, you prioritize it. Markus Wolf [00:16:21]: And most of the men I work with, and this is what I fear for my kids, is, like, they don't prioritize themselves. They prioritize appeasing work, their boss, wife. You gotta keep your wife happy, but she's in control of her own happiness. In my personal opinion, that if you're not in control of yours, that's probably a big, big issue. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:16:40]: For those men that you're working with that have a hard time identifying those priorities, because sometimes men do. Sometimes they are floundering a bit and there are individuals that are listening right now that may be thinking, I just don't know where to start. Where should they start? Markus Wolf [00:16:55]: Using that same model that I spoke about, it's usually the easiest route is the first route. So even if it's just going for a walk and listening to an audiobook you've been wanting to listen to forever, It's probably a larger sense of accomplishment to some men than you would even believe. To others, it would be that's just a typical Monday morning. I go for a walk on the beach and I listen to an audiobook or something. But for them, some of these men, they they they just keep saying that they're going to do something. And that's that action, I believe, is already enough for them to, put forward towards where they need to go. And if you're already doing that again, what is the the thing that you keep holding off at? Because that's likely the thing that's gonna push you forward. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:17:33]: I appreciate you sharing that as well. Now, we always finish our interviews with what I like to call our fatherhood 5 where I ask you 5 more questions to delve deeper into you as a dad. Are you ready? Ready. In one word, what is fatherhood? Markus Wolf [00:17:43]: It's a blessing. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:17:43]: When was the time that you finally felt like you succeeded at being a father to a daughter? Markus Wolf [00:17:47]: I take my girls on a on a monthly date. And usually, on days where they finish school, you have to drag them out of the playground just to leave to go home. But on our monthly dates, they will run and they cannot wait to to join me. And I feel like that's they're looking forward to it. That's already a good sign. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:18:03]: Now your kids are still young, so they might not have a lot of answers for this. But if I was to talk to your kids, how would they describe you as a dad? Markus Wolf [00:18:09]: I think they totally answer it with, I'm the fun guy who tends to yell a lot. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:18:14]: Now let's go at this point maybe 15 years down the road. What do you want them to say then? Markus Wolf [00:18:19]: As long as they could say something, that's the man I trust, That's the man I I look up to. That's the man that I am looking to get him a partner like. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:18:26]: Who inspires you to be a better dad? Markus Wolf [00:18:27]: Ben, 100%. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:18:28]: Now you've given a lot of piece of advice today, things that you've learned along the way. What's one piece of advice you'd wanna give to every dad? Markus Wolf [00:18:34]: Choose your battles. If you're like me, you want like, I just told you, I I wanna add skill sets to them. I want them to have things to be better in the world, but it's not gonna happen overnight. So just sometimes let it go. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:18:46]: And that's definitely not always easy. Markus Wolf [00:18:48]: No. It's probably the toughest thing I've ever done in my life. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:18:51]: Now, if people wanna find out more about you and what you're up to, where should they go? Markus Wolf [00:18:55]: They can find me on Instagram, coach Markus Wolf, m a r k u s, Wolf, and drop a whole bunch of knowledge bombs if they want anything. And also just, again, resonance. So if you're a father and you're just looking to resonate with someone who's been holding on to healthy habits even with 2 children, just give me a call. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:19:10]: Well, Markus, I just wanna say thank you. Thank you for being here today, for sharing what you've learned thus far, and I wish you all the best. Markus Wolf [00:19:17]: Appreciate you, Chris. This was a pleasure. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:19:19]: If you've enjoyed today's episode of the dads with daughters podcast, we invite you to check out the fatherhood insider. The fatherhood insider is the essential resource for any dad that wants to be the best dad that he can be. We know that no child comes with an instruction manual and most dads are figuring it out as they go along, and the fatherhood insider is full of resources and information that will up your game on fatherhood. Through our extensive course library, interactive forum, step by step roadmaps, and more, you will engage and learn with experts, but more importantly dads like you. So check it out at fatheringtogether.org. If you are a father of a daughter and have not yet joined the dads with daughters Facebook community, there's a link in the notes today. Dads with daughters is a program of fathering together. We look forward to having you back for another great guest next week all geared to helping you raise strong and powered daughters and be the best dad that you can be. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:17]: We're all in the same boat, And it's full of tiny screaming passengers. We spend the time, we give the lessons, we make the meals, we buy them presents and bring your a game. Because those kids are growing fast, the time goes by just like a dynamite blast, be the best dad you can be. Be the best dad you can be.
Navigating the often turbulent waters of raising teenagers can feel like a never-ending cycle of setting boundaries while trying to maintain trust. As parents, we frequently find ourselves at a crossroads, unsure of which direction to take. It's comforting to know that we're not alone in this journey. In this episode of Parenting Great Kids, Dr. Meg Meeker welcomes Sean Donohue, a renowned parenting coach widely known for his relatable advice on platforms like TikTok. Sean shares his personal journey from a disconnected teenager to a dedicated father, guided in part by Dr. Meeker's book, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters. Together, they explore the complex dynamics of raising teenagers, emphasizing the power of connection, love, and resilience in parenting. Throughout their conversation, Dr. Meeker and Sean discuss the impact of divorce, how to foster emotional availability, and the unique challenges fathers face today. Sean's insights underscore the value of validating teenagers' experiences and creating a supportive, empathetic home environment. This episode offers listeners practical advice on building trust, connecting with teens, and balancing the roles of strength and empathy as parents. Episode Highlights: 00:27 Meet Sean Donohue: Parenting Coach 02:13 Sean's Personal Journey 04:07 Challenges of Parenting and Personal Growth 06:26 The Importance of Connection 10:29 Reflections on Divorce and Stepfamily Dynamics 15:24 The Role of Love in Parenting 20:01 Understanding Teenagers 25:59 Facing the Challenges of Parenting Teenagers 26:48 The Importance of Emotional Connection 35:35 Encouraging Positive Communication Between Parents 40:14 Balancing Strength and Empathy in Fatherhood 44:16 Conclusion and Resources for Parents Need parenting help? Grab a coaching spot with Dr. Meg Meeker! Watch today's episode
Episode 132 - Books for Dads - Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, 10 Secrets Every Father Should KnowBook: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should KnowMeg MeekerDrawing on her thirty years' experience practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine, teen health expert Dr. Meg Meeker explains why an active father figure is maybe the single most important factor in a young woman's development. In this invaluable guide, Meeker shows how a father can be both counsel and protector for his daughter as she grows into a spiritually and mentally strong young woman.Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Dr. Meg Meeker is a compelling guide for fathers seeking to positively influence their daughters' lives. Drawing from her extensive experience as a pediatrician and adolescent health expert, Dr. Meeker presents a persuasive case for the critical role fathers play in their daughters' development.Key PointsFather's Influence: The book emphasizes that a father's active presence is perhaps the most crucial factor in a young woman's growth and well-being.Practical Advice: Dr. Meeker offers concrete strategies for fathers to become effective counselors and protectors for their daughters.Comprehensive Coverage: The book addresses various aspects of a daughter's life, including self-respect, perspectives on drugs, alcohol, and sex, and spiritual development.StrengthsExpert Perspective: Dr. Meeker's 30 years of medical practice lends credibility to her insights.Real-Life Examples: The inclusion of true stories helps illustrate the book's principles in action.Actionable Guidance: Provides specific advice on setting boundaries, communicating effectively, and navigating challenging periods in the father-daughter relationship.Key TakeawaysFathers should strive to be heroes to their daughters.The book outlines common mistakes fathers make and their potential consequences.It emphasizes the importance of a father's faith in shaping his daughter's spiritual life.Strategies are provided for maintaining communication during difficult teenage years.Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters is a valuable resource for fathers looking to strengthen their relationships with their daughters and guide them towards becoming confident, well-adjusted women. Its blend of medical expertise, practical advice, and real-life examples makes it a compelling read for any father seeking to positively impact his daughter's lifeFrom cradling his newborn to walking her down the aisle, a father must relish his paramount responsibility—guiding the course of his daughter's life. Meeker reveals• How a man can become a "strong father"• How a father's guidance influences every part of a woman's life, from her self-respect to her perspective on drugs, alcohol, and sex• How to lay down ground rules that are respected without creating distance in your relationship with your daughter• Why you need to be your daughter's hero• The mistakes most fathers make—and the serious consequences• How to help daughters make their own good decisions and avoid disastrous mistakes• How a father's faith will influence his daughter's spiritual development• How to get through to you daughter, even during her toughest don't-talk-to-me years• True stories of daughters who were on the wrong path—and how their fathers helped to bring them backLearn how to grow, strengthen, or rebuild your relationship with your daughter to better both your life and hers in the bestselling Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know.
Full show notes at www.LearningLeader.com The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk Read our book, The Score That Matters https://amzn.to/48nSff1 Dr. Meg Meeker has spent more than thirty years practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine and counseling teens and parents. Dr. Meeker is a popular speaker and bestselling author of several books, including the national bestseller, STRONG FATHERS, STRONG DAUGHTERS; THE 10 HABITS OF HAPPY MOTHERS; and BOYS SHOULD BE BOYS. Notes: One of the best things fathers can do is raise their daughters' expectations of life. That will directly affect how your daughter talks, how she dresses, how well she does in school, and even what sports or musical instruments she chooses to play. You can help her set goals, help her define a higher purpose for her life, and as a result, her self-esteem will skyrocket. And it will bring you closer, because she'll recognize you as a leader and an ally, helping her to chart a better course. Don't post anything about your kids on social media. It makes them think they are your trophy to show off. And be mindful of how you talk about them to others. Do you only focus on their accomplishments? They are listening to what you say about them… Be the man you want her to marry – See it, do it, teach it. What are the 5 strongest character qualities you want your children to have? How are you showing that to them every day? You are setting the standard. They are watching carefully. You will create what is quote, “normal,” in their life. Are you living with integrity, working hard, not speaking poorly behind others backs? You are showing them how they should behave. If you were watching yourself from outside your body, would you like what you see? We have to live it every day. Your daughter sees you (her dad) as her hero. The smartest, strongest, best person in the world. Kids want their dad's approval. "I want attention just for being me, not for performing a sport." "You don't just love them. You love their company." Always do good work, but don't boast about it. "He believed in me." -- The power of the belief that Meg's dad had in her. Teach her Humility - Genuine humility is the starting point for every other virtue. But teaching it is tricky. Your daughter needs to feel unique and important in your eyes. Humility doesn't make sense unless it's modeled. To fulfill her potential, your daughter needs to understand who she is, where she comes from, and where she's going. Humility is seeing ourselves honestly… Self-centeredness is a problem if we base our entire lives around our kids wants and desires. Clarify your morals (without apology) – If you want her to live by a code or set of values, you must first live by them. If you don't want her to lie, then you should never lie. If you don't want her to use cuss/swear words, then you should not use them. If you don't want to her to drink, then don't normalize it in your house. She wants to see conviction and leadership in her father. Teach your kids to serve in a soup kitchen. Be in service of others. Gain perspective by seeing how others who are less fortunate than you live. Embrace them when they fail. The dad plants the default in the minds of their children. What do you want that default behavior to be? How to approach your daughter's boyfriends? Shake their hands Be curious, ask questions Invite them over for dinner
In this lecture, we examine John chapter 17, verses 20 to 26 from the New Living Translation, where Jesus offers a heartfelt prayer not only for his immediate disciples but also for future believers. His plea is for their unity, mirroring the oneness he shares with the Father. The speaker emphasizes the significance of this prayer, highlighting the profound implications of Jesus' desire for his followers to experience the deep love the Father has for them. This deep dive into scripture sets the tone for understanding the relational dynamics between the Father, the Son, and believers.The discussion shifts to the context surrounding this prayer, noting its timing just before Jesus' impending crucifixion. It encapsulates the emotional weight of Jesus' farewell, as he pours out his heart to God in front of his closest friends. The speaker shares personal anecdotes about recent interactions with congregants and the broader church community, drawing parallels between these narratives and the themes in the passage.As the lecture unfolds, the speaker introduces Coldplay's song "Daddy," touching upon the generational longing for paternal affection. This leads to a poignant reflection on the role of fathers and the emotional impact of their absence on children. Using insights drawn from various works, including Dr. Meg Meeker's "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters," the speaker elaborates on the father-daughter relationship, asserting that no presence shapes a young woman's character more than that of her father.The core messages of the prayer are broken down into key themes, specifically focusing on the love of the Father for both the Son and believers. The speaker highlights that Jesus desires for us to understand this love, which is rich in empowerment, vocation, security, and identity. Each facet of the Father's love is explored through references to John's Gospel, illustrating how Jesus embodies and models this divine love.The speaker categorizes the gifts of the Father's love into four buckets: empowerment, vocation, security, and identity. Empowerment relates to the intimate dynamic of the Father entrusting authority and life-giving power to the Son. Vocation reflects Jesus' calling as an extension of the Father's work in the world, fostering a deeper understanding of one's purpose in life. Security is portrayed through the unwavering presence of the Father, affirming that His love remains constant regardless of circumstances. Finally, identity underscores that Jesus' deep-rooted sense of self is given by the Father, and through Him, we too can find our true identity.Transitioning to potential barriers to experiencing the Father's love, the speaker addresses wounds that arise from earthly parental relationships. Acknowledging how these wounds can distort the perception of God as a loving Father, he proposes a path toward healing. The importance of forgiveness and moving beyond bitterness is emphasized as essential steps toward opening oneself to divine love.Ultimately, the message culminates in the reminder of the Father's unyielding embrace, drawing a powerful illustration from the Prodigal Son parable. This underscores the notion that, regardless of our life's choices and distances, the Father's love is always waiting to welcome us back home. The speaker concludes with an invitation for attendees to reflect on their own experiences of paternal love, encouraging them to seek prayer and support to heal and reconnect with the fullness of the Father's love.
Fellas, I'm truly honored to have Dr. Meg Meeker on the show today. Dr. Meeker is a leading global authority on child-father relationships, with over 35 years of experience as a pediatrician. She's the author of the bestselling book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, a book that has profoundly impacted our community and is frequently recommended by our members. Dr. Meeker has dedicated her career to helping fathers step confidently into their roles and understand just how crucial their presence is for their children. In today's episode, we'll explore why fathers are more important than ever, how dads can better connect with their children, and the life-changing power of showing up fully as a dad. Dr. Meeker shares eye-opening insights on what children really want from their fathers, how to be more intentional, and the small actions that can make a huge difference in your child's life. We also dive into some of the biggest challenges dads face today, from balancing career and family life to overcoming self-doubt at home, and why it's never too late to build or rebuild a strong connection with your kids. Expect to gain a fresh perspective on the influence you have as a father, practical advice on how to engage more deeply with your children, and the mindset shifts needed to become the dad your kids need. This episode is packed with powerful insights you won't want to miss. Enjoy! A Wide-Ranging Conversation Through… Enough with the Dad jokes already! Put yourself in your kids shoes A little positivity can change a child's life Why daughters crave affection from Dad The best way to show your kids you accept them Can you push your kids too hard in sports/activities? Dealing with regret and not spending more time with your kids The balance between being engaged but not smothering How kids thrive with faith and spirituality in the home Get the Full Show Notes Want access to the full show notes, including links to all resources mentioned during today's conversation? Visit FrontRowDads.com/459 More About Front Row Dads Connect with us @ FrontRowDads.com & Instagram Want to hang out with other FRDs in Austin? Watch this 3-min video from our last Front Row Dads Live event. Tickets avail now for December's event. Not able to travel? We got you. Join our next online event, built just for kickass dads who know there's more to learn. FrontRowDads.com/summit FRD is solving a huge problem for dads. Our culture has turned “Dad” into a joke. Go ahead, google Dad and you'll find Dad Bod, Dad Jokes, Dad Weed, etc. Culturally, it's a Homer Simpson mentality, and it's BS. Our community is built for solid men. Men with range. Those who are badass, and know there's still more to learn, together. Most guys find it hard to find “their crew.” Finding other committed men, who are successful in life, and want to put family first – these guys are rare. Is this you? In FRD, hundreds of men from all over the world show up for each other, to share resources and raise the bar of fatherhood (our core values) If you're reading this, you want to grow. Podcasts are great, but guys… when you're ready to stop just listening to content, and want to JOIN the conversations – the FRD brotherhood is ready for you. One more thing… Has this podcast helped you? If so, please tell us how we're doing. Please take a minute and leave a review. Seriously, they matter. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Subscribe to this show on Apple Podcasts | Spotify
Are you tired of being told you're overreacting whenever you express your emotions?! In today's candid conversation, we're joined by Jo-Ann Finkelstein, EdM, PhD, who is a clinical psychologist and the author of the newly released book Sexism & Sensibility: Raising Empowered Resilient Girls in the Modern World. Listen in as we discuss how subtle sexism shapes the self-perception and potential of women and girls. We tackle everything from damaging dress codes to societal expectations that quietly chip away at confidence. With stories that will make you nod in agreement (and occasionally drop your jaw), this is a discussion that promises not just insights but also actionable advice on combating everyday sexism. Whether it's confronting school dress codes or dismantling societal expectations, this episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to challenge the status quo and empower the next generation. Tune in as we dissect the subtle yet profound ways sexism infiltrates our lives and learn how to arm yourself and your loved ones with the knowledge and courage to fight back! Resources We Shared: Join our newsletter! Get connected to No Guilt Mom and get our Stop Doing Checklist absolutely FREE, so you can start taking tasks off your plate today! Jo-Ann Finkelstein, EdM, PhD Sexism & Sensibility: Raising Empowered Resilient Girls in the Modern World Join our FREE No Guilt Mom Podcast group Visit No Guilt Mom Check out our recommended books and books from today's podcast guest HERE! Rate & Review the No Guilt Mom Podcast on Apple here. We'd love to hear your thoughts on the podcast! Listen on Spotify? You can rate us there too! Check out our favorite deals and discounts from our amazing sponsors here! #parentingpodcast #mompodcast #parentingtips #momlife #selfcare #sexism #toddlers #preschoolers #tweens #teens #raisingstrongdaughters #empower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We're excited to have Larry Hagner back on the show! Larry is the founder of The Dad Edge, and is one of the leading voices on all things fatherhood. He's got 4 kids between the ages of 18 and 8, and has been podcasting and helping other dads for nearly a decade. This was a really cool conversation because it comes as Larry prepares to launch a new book that he was NOT expecting to write - the story of how it came about is crazy, which we talk about about 9 minutes in - plus his spiritual journey over the past few years, and some incredible advice for new and experienced dads alike. Make sure to grab a copy of his new book, The Spirit of Fatherhood! In this episode, we discuss: 0:00 Welcome to interview number 2 with Larry Hagner! 4:45 How Larry navigated a major physical setback 8:47 God's wild plans for Larry to write his latest book 17:38 Larry's spiritual journey over the past 3-4 years 23:23 Biggest lessons from the new book (The Spirit of Fatherhood) 27:15 The toughest part of the writing process 33:43 Advice for new dads in today's culture 42:13 Is God doing something in this "masculinity"/self-improvement space? 45:42 Where is fatherhood going over the next 5-10 years? ✅ FREE "QUIT-PORN" CASE STUDY VIDEO: Learn the system that has helped HUNDREDS of men around the world realize their potential, restore their relationships, and reconnect with God. Resources Mentioned: First interview episode with Larry Hagner High Speed Daddy The Spirit of Fatherhood by Larry Hagner Legacy Builders: Operation Timothy Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker 5 Things Post by The Dad Edge The Dad Edge on Instagram The Dad Edge on Facebook Larry Hagner on LinkedIn The Dad Edge Website The Dad Edge Mastermind The Dad Edge Summit Get Your Question Answered: ❓ Submit Your Question Here LET'S CONNECT ➡️ Free Recovery Resources from Sathiya ➡️ Follow Sathiya on Instagram ➡️ Watch on YouTube Please subscribe and review on Apple or Spotify!
My good friend Nicole Segreto joins me today with her two daughters. I wanted to speak with all of them about their family dynamic and talk to Nicole about what it's like to raise two strong daughters. I also wanted her daughters perspective about family and how they see the relationship.
Fatherhood is often described by many as a profound journey filled with love, challenges, and personal growth. In this week's episode we speak with David Peralta, father, entrepreneurial coach and founder of The Soul Centered Founder to discuss the transformative experience of raising strong, empowered daughters. This episode delves deep into the essence of fatherhood, exploring themes such as emotional healing, the importance of presence, and the power of unconditional love. The Initial Reaction: Finding Purpose in Fatherhood When David Peralta first learned he would become a father to a daughter, the news had a profound emotional impact on him. This newfound responsibility and bond created a sense of purpose that reshaped his life's trajectory. Peralta's immediate reaction reflects a common sentiment among fathers—a mixture of excitement, fear, and overwhelming love. Fatherhood: A Journey Rooted in Love Peralta describes fatherhood with one powerful word: "love." This simple yet profound definition encapsulates the essence of his approach to parenting. For him, the ultimate goal of fatherhood is to foster an environment where love is the foundation. His daughter views him as loving, humorous, and occasionally irritable—an honest testament to the multifaceted nature of parenting. Personal Growth and Healing: Unpacking Emotional Baggage We delve into the necessity of personal growth in fatherhood. Peralta reflects on how his unresolved trauma initially impacted his parenting style and family dynamics. It created a cycle of conflict and violence that, unbeknownst to him, mirrored his internal struggles. Through therapy, he began to confront and process buried emotions, particularly anger, which proved to be a monumental task. This journey towards emotional healing has been transformative for Peralta, enabling him to become a more present, understanding, and compassionate father. He emphasizes that this emotional openness is essential for cultivating a loving relationship with his children. Communication: The Path to Understanding and Connection One of the most significant themes discussed in the podcast is the impact of open communication within the family. David Peralta highlights that actively listening and providing a supportive space without trying to "fix" problems can profoundly enhance the father-daughter relationship. He began to embody emotional openness, choosing to participate in his daughter's emotional world rather than dictate solutions. The Influence of Role Models: A Father's Inspiring Presence Peralta draws inspiration from his own father's unconditional love and calm demeanor. This role model has motivated him to strive for continuous personal growth and better parenting. The admiration and lessons derived from his father underscore the value of positive role models in shaping one's approach to fatherhood. Embracing Unconditional Love and Acceptance According to Peralta, true success in fatherhood stems from embodying the states we want to be in, such as love, compassion, and balance. These qualities are essential for fostering personal growth and creating an environment where daughters can thrive. He advises fathers to clear any obstacles that hinder these states to achieve balance and success. Recognizing and Addressing Internal Conflicts Peralta provides insightful advice for fathers to recognize that many conflicts may originate within themselves. By addressing their own internal struggles, fathers can transform their approach to relationships, leading to healthier and more fulfilling connections with their daughters. This self-awareness and emotional literacy are critical components of effective parenting. The Continuous Journey of Personal Growth Dr. Christopher Lewis reminds listeners that personal growth is an ongoing journey. Both he and Peralta acknowledge that fatherhood presents continuous opportunities for learning and transformation. The key is to remain open to growth and seek support when necessary, which ultimately benefits both the father and the daughter. The podcast episode concludes with a call to action for fathers to embrace emotional healing, open communication, and unconditional love in their parenting journey. David Peralta's story serves as a powerful reminder of the transformative power of love and presence in fatherhood. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:05]: Welcome to dads with daughters. In this show, we spotlight dads, resources, and more to help you be the best dad you can be. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:15]: Welcome back to the dads with daughters podcast, where we bring you guests to be active participants in your daughter's lives, raising them to be strong, independent women. Really excited to have you back again this week. And as always, every week, I love being able to sit down with you, talk with you, and walk with you on this journey that you're on in raising those amazing daughters that you're raising and helping them to be the strong, independent women that we always talk about. And to get there, we definitely do not have to do this alone. And the show is here to help you to see that, to be able to understand that experience that and to know that there are so many other people that are walking on this path alongside you that you can reach out to. Or if you're a little shy, you don't have to reach out. You can listen and you can learn and be willing to learn along the way because none of us know everything about fatherhood. We walk into fatherhood a lot of times not knowing much at all. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:18]: At least that was my experience. And you have to learn along the way. And society does not always champion being vulnerable in that way and putting yourself out there to say, I don't know, but you're going to be a better father when you do. So it is so important to be able to do that. And that's why every week I love being able to bring you different people, different guests, different individuals with different experiences that can share the journey that they've been on to be able to help you in your own journey. And you can take you can pick and choose the things that you hear to be able to find those things that will work for you because not everything that's going to be shared is going to work for you. But there are many things that can work for you if you put them into place. Today, we got another great guest with us today. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:09]: David Peralta is with us today. And David is a father of a daughter. We're going to talk about that in his own journey as being a dad. He's also in charge of the soul centered founder. We're gonna talk about balance in life and and trying to find that holistic balance and what that looks like as a individual, what that looks like in your personal life or professional life, and how you can incorporate some of these different principles into the work that you're doing as a father as well. David, thanks so much for being here today. David Peralta [00:02:40]: Thanks so much for having me, Christopher. It's a pleasure to be here. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:42]: It is my pleasure having you here today. And one of the things that I love doing, 1st and foremost, is I love having the power to turn back time. So I wanna go all the way back. I wanna go back to first moment that you found out that you were going to be a father to a daughter. What was going through your head? David Peralta [00:02:55]: Well, so a lot was going on. My, my wife and I, we had gotten married 4 months prior. We had met just 4 months before that. It was very clear from the moment that we met that we had found the person that we were willing to commit to for the rest of our life, but we were not expecting to get pregnant so soon. And so when she took that pregnancy test because she missed her cycle, we were not expecting the result, but I'll never forget the moment I saw that us sign. I felt this incredible energy enter me that I knew this is the energy of the father. This is the divine fatherhood energy. Suddenly, I felt connected to it in a way that I did not know was possible. David Peralta [00:03:39]: And I felt that this was gonna be the the start of a brand new chapter in my life, and it was this profound love that I felt for this being that was now just starting to grow inside of my wife. So it was really, an incredible blend of emotion, of profound love, of a sense of purpose and destiny, and that was just the start. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:58]: I love that. And I think each of us have that different feeling as we're moving forward. Some of us are scared out of our minds. Some of us are elated, and a lot of us are a mixture of the 2. So and then as you move forward and you get closer to that due date and then you have a heavier child, then there's a whole different set of feelings that happens that come into place. Now I talk to a lot of dads, a lot of dads that are that have gone through different phases, stages within their own fatherhood. As you think about raising your daughter, and I know your daughter's 12 now, as you think back to these years that you've been with her, what's been your biggest fear in raising a daughter in today's society? David Peralta [00:04:40]: I've never thought about it that way in terms of my biggest fear. Well, so I have to put that a little bit differently. Yeah? Because, it's not it's not a fear that I've had in terms of raising her. It was the darkness that I had to face inside of myself that I didn't know I was gonna have to face. Yeah? The darkness that she brought up as just bringing her light into this world brought up this side of my self that I did not know was there. And so it wasn't so much a fear so much as it was the incredible challenge to have to meet that, discover that part of myself, and then learn how to overcome that part so that it wouldn't cause basically damage and destruction in in our relationship and in our life. This these unhealed wounded parts to myself that I didn't know I had been carrying. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:22]: Would you be willing to go a little deeper? David Peralta [00:05:24]: Oh, absolutely. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:25]: Talk to me a little bit about what that darkness was for you and what you had to overcome as you were dealing with that. David Peralta [00:05:32]: Yeah. Absolutely. So to go a little bit back, back to that moment, actually, when I discovered that I was father. In the moment prior to that, my wife and I had been arguing. And because we were freshly married, we weren't really sure where we were gonna be going. We were in Austria at that time with her family. Were we gonna be living in the US? What were we gonna be doing? Our plan was actually to go back to India where we had met, and we were studying meditation. And so this discovery of this pregnancy completely through our life up in the air, we had no idea what we were gonna do. David Peralta [00:06:01]: To provide some additional context, right, for what was going on when I found out that I was gonna be a father. And so while I felt this incredible love, my wife started crying because she wasn't sure what this life together was going to be like, and all this uncertainty that she was feeling, and also some conflict that was coming up in our relationship. And so that continued during the pregnancy as we continued to get to know each other. Basically, what we discovered was that we both had a lot of wounding from our childhood that we were bringing into the relationship. We were not aware of this at this point. The way that this manifested in our relationship was fighting, blaming. Anytime one of us hurt the other, it was really that wound being triggered in each of us, and the other one was simply the catalyst for that wounding for the trigger, excuse me, for the triggering of that wound, but we didn't realize that at that time. It took us over 10 years before we got to this point of realizing this. David Peralta [00:06:57]: So the point is this. We're arguing a lot during the pregnancy. We're fighting a lot during the pregnancy, and there's also a lot of love, but then this continues during our daughter's early years. My my wife has since so first of all, jump forward. We have reached an incredible point in our relationship, just so that people know we've gotten through the mud and we're back to this state of incredible profound love for each other. My wife ended up becoming a, a counselor for women, and during her studies what she discovered is that what happens during the pregnancy and what happens during infancy has a I mean, she didn't discover this. This is known, but we learned this together. It has a profound impact on the life of a child, that the emotions and the experiences that a child is exposed to while in the womb and any conflict and any stress that a child is exposed to in those early years, that affects how the brain is wired. David Peralta [00:07:49]: That affects the kind of stress response that a child is gonna have for the rest of its life. Right? They're gonna come into a world that rather than feeling safe and full of unconditional love, potentially they're gonna enter a world where they feel like there's lots of conflict, there's lots of anger, there's lots of all kinds of emotions that are overwhelming for a baby. So by the time my daughter reaches 3 years old, she's grown up in this environment. There's also love, but there's definitely not an absence of negativity. That was definitely there. And so, she starts to show this behavior in very challenging ways. In other words, she starts to act out. She starts to act out and show I'm feeling all these emotions. David Peralta [00:08:30]: They're uncomfortable for me. I cannot stand them. I can't stand all these feelings that I've been having, and so there's a lot of fighting. My wife and I are still unconscious at this time. We're still not picking this up, and so we believe that she's misbehaving. And me, in particular, I tend to get rigid in the face of that, and so I punish her even further, which just compounds the behavior because not only is she trying to express that she's uncomfortable with what she's feeling, but now I'm punishing her for it. And so it creates this spiral of conflict and eventually violence where she starts to get physically violent with us, and we still don't get it. I still don't get it until it climaxes when she's about 7 years old. David Peralta [00:09:15]: And we've gotten so helpless and so hopeless, and we don't know what to do, and we're dealing with so much stress as a result of these challenges that we're facing with her and with each other. And then that's when we realize that we need help. That's when we realize that the resources that we've got by ourselves are not enough. We didn't have proper examples in our relationships with our parents. We didn't have anybody telling us what to do. We didn't have anybody showing us, right, the way, and certainly nobody who said it was potentially going to be like this. And so as a result of this, my daughter was basically showing, you are carrying all this conflict inside of you. You have to deal with this conflict, and you need to stop projecting it onto me. David Peralta [00:10:01]: And so that was the start of a multi year process where we began to understand this and discover this and learn how to heal that conflict that we were carrying inside of ourselves. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:10:14]: Sounds like quite a journey and definitely something that is ongoing because you don't just heal right away. You don't just unveil what that trauma per se is. Because as you said, it was unconscious to you, that it was ingrained in your personality, ingrained in who you were, and you had to unpack all of that for yourself to be able to be that better parent that you wanted to be for your child. Now, and this might be that might have been the hardest part. But I guess one of the questions that I have is as you look back at the last 12 years for you, what's been the hardest part specifically of being a father to a daughter? David Peralta [00:10:57]: Yeah. So the hardest part was when I realized the hardest part was getting back in touch with my sensitivity. And what I mean by that is I now recognize that I was born super sensitive, very sensitive heart, very sensitive soul, and so easily overwhelmed by negative emotions, easily overwhelmed by pain. My parents both, you know, like many parents carrying their own unresolved wounds and trauma, you know, they were carrying this pain themselves, and so it was just too much for me as a child. And so the way that I survived that was by really shutting down parts of my heart, really shutting down my ability to feel emotion. And I didn't know that because I always saw myself as a very loving, caring person. But when I saw this anger start to come up, this was also part of the most difficult thing was I considered myself a very calm person my entire life, and it was only when my daughter really reached the peak of her behavior that I saw a level of anger and explosiveness come up in me that I did not know was in me, and it was scary for everybody. It was scary for her, it was scary for my wife, and it was scary for me. David Peralta [00:12:07]: And so that was one of the most challenging things, but even more challenging than that was once it started to become clear that this was the root of the issue, that this pain that I was carrying was the root of the conflict with my wife and with my daughter. When I first started therapy sessions, specifically somatic experiencing therapy, and I had to start feeling the emotions that I had kept buried for so long, that was hands down the most difficult thing that I had to do because I had, at that point, like, 37, 38 plus years of having just basically shut down to these feelings. And so I remember in the beginning, it was I almost couldn't do it. It was like I could just tap into it for a millisecond, and then I felt overwhelmed, and I felt like it was too much. But I knew I had to do it because I knew that this was the only way that I was gonna develop that loving relationship that I had always envisioned. I'd always imagined myself as being a loving father. And I knew that the only way to reach that vision that I'd had for myself for so long was to go through this pain. And that was the most difficult thing. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:13:25]: So you went through this process for yourself, this process of unveiling this pain for yourself so that you could be that better father, this work that you put in, it's not always easy, it's going to definitely take time. How has it made you a better father in the end? David Peralta [00:13:41]: It hasn't just made me a better father. It has restored me to being a human being because I had not been a human being. I had been a functioning human. I had been a surviving human. I had been, I'm getting by human, but I had not been a human being. And what I mean by that is what I feel now is a human being is able to feel everything. A human being's heart is open to every experience, positive and negative, And and and that heart is able to hold all of those experiences and and gives us a profound sense of peace, a profound sense of contentment, a profound sense of of stillness. And so once I started to experience also, like, this joy of living, of just being alive, not not even accomplishment. David Peralta [00:14:34]: I didn't have to do anything to feel joy. I simply felt joyful once a certain level had been unblocked and uncovered. And so, of course, if I am radiating that, if I am embodying that, then that is what I am modeling for my children. And now, because I'm not carrying all of this pain that felt overwhelming, there is now space. There was never space for anybody else's feelings because I was already overwhelmed with what I was carrying. Anybody else's intense emotions? No. No space for you. You've got to stop it. David Peralta [00:15:13]: You've got to calm down, but now there was space. So now if my daughter's having an outburst, there is much more space for me to be present for her, for me to recognize that she's in pain, for me to recognize that she needs comforting, that she needs an unconditionally loving figure as she's in the presence of expressing this pain. And this is an ongoing process. Right? I'm not completely through this, but these are the ways in which it has made me a much more present, a much more loving, a much more understanding, a much more compassionate father. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:15:47]: So talk to me a little bit about how you've taken all of this, all this work that you've done on yourself, and how you're helping your daughter to be able to take what you've learned to incorporate it into her own life. David Peralta [00:16:04]: Yeah. So a lot of it, like I said, is simply embodying. Simply being this is the first thing. And then the second thing is to have completely I shouldn't say completely because I'm still in the process of doing this, but to do a way of the mister fix it model. In other words, the part of me that always felt like if there's a problem, I have to fix it. If my daughter is having a problem, I have to fix it. If my wife is having an issue, I have to fix it. Right? I have to help them fix it, and now I listen, and I give space. David Peralta [00:16:30]: And my daughter says that she can finally talk to me, And so she shares with me a whole lot more than she did before. And so this helps her to tap into her feelings and her emotions when she's having a hard time. And this is still a struggle for her because she's also still carrying an overwhelming amount of this pain that she carried from childhood. So we're still in the process of helping her process and integrate all of that. But the point is, if from where I am, I can love her unconditionally for who she is, regardless of how she behaves, then she feels seen, she feels accepted for who she is, she feels loved for who she is not for what she does and not for how she behaves. And I have seen this bring back this light into her eyes that started to go dead during these most challenging years. And so I have seen this express I've seen this light express itself through her and help her discover a passion for theater and a passion for dance, and I see this light come out in these things, and I haven't had to do anything for that light to express itself other than to be in that light in myself, recognize that light in her, and love that light in her, and then she just naturally blossoms. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:17:55]: Now I know that you are really talking I mean, you're talking a bit about balance, that balance of what we do in our lives and how we find that balance, which is not always easy to find. And some would say that it's not that we can't find a true balance, that there is not a way to find that true balance. I don't know if that's true, but I think that we can work toward finding a balance. And I know that you do that. You work to try to find that equilibrium in our work life, our personal life, our full self, as you were talking about. Talk to me about how what you've learned yourself and what you've what you're doing to incorporate that into the people that you work with. And are there certain things that we can do that you and I can do on a daily basis to start this process for ourselves? David Peralta [00:18:47]: So this to me is the essence of what we call success. In other words, I believe we have a really distorted model of success that's built on accomplishment as opposed to embodiment. I believe, true success is when we embody the states that we want to be, and that this is more important, and that this is what enables us to do what it is that we want to do. So in other words, there's a lot of people, a lot of men, a lot of fathers who have visions of businesses that they wanna create. Right? There's things that they wanna do, and there's things that they wanna accomplish, and they end up finding that there's a lot of obstacles in their way, and they struggle, and they and they spend their energy in a 1000000 different directions, and they put so much of their energy into their work to try to get it either off the ground or keep it operating, or once it's operating to get it to the next level, and so there's this profound lack of balance. So much of their energy goes to their work, and so little energy goes to the rest of their life. And what I have been discovering in my own life and through the mentors, and teachers that I've worked with is that this is a backwards approach, and that the foundation for success in what we do comes from love, and that love comes from our relationships, and that love comes from ourselves. So in other words, we have to have love for ourselves, love for who we are, and acceptance of who we are, and all these things, and then we can have love in our relationships, and that love is this empowering energy which fills us with life. David Peralta [00:20:18]: We have love in our relationships with our spouses, and we have love with our children. That love is a creative energy. It's a creative force. So then when we have a vision for what we wanna create in this world to our business, that vision is now empowered by love. And so by being empowered by love, the act of creating that vision is so much more smooth. It's so much more in harmony, and it is so much more synchronous with the rest of life that it it doesn't just feel like I mean, I believe we are interconnected with life and with everything. The universe essentially responds to us. The universe responds to our intention, and it responds to what it is that we're trying to create. David Peralta [00:21:03]: And it helps to create that because it's responding to that creative force that is flowing through us that love. And, so, the foundation of success is developing that love and clearing out whatever's blocking that love in our life. And, so, I would say the first step that people can take is to want to do that. In other words, to recognize that if things are out of balance, perhaps things are out of things are not necessarily out of balance in life around us, they're out of balance inside of us. And so we have to have that desire to discover how to create that balance, the desire to discover what is blocking that balance inside of us, what is blocking that love inside of us. And then once we have that desire, once we have that intention, then it's my belief and experience that life will respond, and life will start to bring to us the people that we need, the lessons that we need, the teachings that we need to discover how to unblock that, and then how to, you know, step by step continue moving forward into embodying that love. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:09]: And embodying that love, like you were saying, some of some there's going to be people that there's going to be dad a dad that is listening right now that is saying, I have no clue what you're talking about. I have no clue. How do I embody that for myself? How do I embody that for my my child? What would you say to them? David Peralta [00:22:28]: Yeah. So so what I would say is, like, where is the conflict in your life? Is the conflict with your spouse? Is the conflict with your child? Is there a specific behavior that is the core trigger of that conflict? How do you feel when that behavior, when that conflict is taking place? That's the core. So in other words, if when I'm with my daughter and she would start to really act up in a certain way, I would start to feel angry. So that was the root. So the first thing I have to do is I have to start becoming aware of that anger. I have to start feeling that anger in a healthy setting. Right? Not in a setting where I'm reacting to my daughter, but I have to later on, either with a therapist or a friend or somebody, you know, who can hold space, I have to think back on that moment when my daughter or my wife acted a certain way, and I felt angry. And then, I start to feel that anger. David Peralta [00:23:17]: And what does that feel like? It feels hot. It feels uncomfortable. I feel full of rage. And then, once I start to tap into it enough, I start to integrate it. It doesn't it stops being suppressed. It stops being explosive. And then once I can feel that, then I can start to ask myself, what do I feel angry about? And then I can start to feel what is underneath the anger and, oh, I feel freshly sad, or I feel really hurt that when I was a child, I was not given space for who I was. I was treated this way, or I was treated that way. David Peralta [00:23:54]: So the core is hook into what is the conflict what is the conflict in your life at the moment, and then what emotions and what inner feelings does that conflict bring up? That's where we start, and that is the road. The emotions that we feel are the path to unconditional love. Feeling those emotions leads us straight back into the heart and into love. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:24:17]: I appreciate you sharing that because I think it is a continuum. As I said before, it is not something that is going to be a static thing, you're going to have to keep working on it. It is not something that you're going to fix in one fell swoop. So all of the things that David has talked about, as you heard, he started working on this a long time ago, and he's still working on it today. So know that if you want to make these changes for yourself, that it is not going to be a quick fix. And you're going to have to understand that and be willing to to work on it and to be able and be willing to work on it for years to come. David Peralta [00:25:02]: I love the saying of the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is today. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:10]: I love that. Yeah. I think that it's very true. Now we always finish our interviews with what I like to call our fatherhood 5, where I ask you 5 more questions to delve deeper into you as a dad. Are you ready? Absolutely. In one word, what is fatherhood? David Peralta [00:25:22]: Love. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:23]: When was a time that you felt like you finally succeeded at being a father to a daughter? David Peralta [00:25:29]: When my daughter opened her heart and started sharing the pain that she had felt when she was younger, and that she was starting to feel and restore this trust in me that had been lost. Now if I was to talk to your daughter, how would she describe you as a dad? David Peralta [00:25:43]: Hopefully funny and loving and maybe irritable. I think, I think I still have that that tendency when she when she rubs me a certain way. That's my reaction, And so I have to watch. But I believe then she would say that, yes, she has a very loving, humorous father who still needs to keep working on himself. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:03]: Now who inspires you to be a better dad? David Peralta [00:26:05]: Oh, my father. Absolutely. He was that unconditional love, and I never saw him get angry. No. It was not true. Once. Once. I one time saw him get angry, and he held that space for us as children even in spite of his past. David Peralta [00:26:18]: So, yeah, definitely my father. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:20]: Now we've talked about a lot of different things. Things that you had to do to be a better father. Things that you're working with other people on to help them be better parents. As we finish up today, what's one piece of advice you'd wanna give to every dad? David Peralta [00:26:34]: One piece of advice that I'd like to give to every dad is I don't know about every dad, but to people who are still in a state of conflict with others, with their wife and with their kids, to consider the possibility that the conflict is not with them, but that the conflict is inside of us, and that we are bringing conflict to the relationship rather than constantly seeing the relationships as a source of conflict. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:27:01]: Now, David, if people wanna find out more about you and the soul centered founder or just to get to know you better, where should they go? David Peralta [00:27:10]: They can go to soul centered founder.com. That's the site for this organization. And if anybody's interested in just having a conversation or kinda just sharing about their experience, you can actually just book a free discovery call with me. And I'm I'm happy to talk to anybody at all about what their experience has been. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:27:27]: Well, David, I just wanna say thank you. Thank you for sharing your own journey today, and I wish you all the best. David Peralta [00:27:34]: Thank you so much, Christopher. Really appreciate it. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:27:36]: If you've enjoyed today's episode of the Dads with daughters podcast, we invite you to check out the fatherhood insider. The fatherhood insider is the essential resource for any dad that wants to be the best dad that he can be. We know that no child comes with an instruction manual and most dads are figuring it out as they go along, and the fatherhood insider is full of resources and information that will up your game on fatherhood. Through our extensive course library, interactive forum, step by step roadmaps, and more. You will engage and learn with experts, but more importantly, dads like you. So check it out at fathering together dotorg. If you are a father of a daughter and have not yet joined the dads with daughters Facebook community, there's a link in the notes today. Dads with Daughters is a program of fathering together. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:28:25]: We look forward to having you back for another great guest next week, all geared to helping you raise strong and empowered daughters and be the best dad that you can be. We're all in the same boat, And it's full of tiny screaming passengers. We spend the time. We give the lessons. We make the meals. We buy them presents and bring your a game. 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Dr. Meg Meeker is a dynamic and inspirational advocate for father-inclusive parenting, with over 30 years of experience as a practicing pediatrician. She is an international speaker, bestselling author of "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters," and the host of the popular podcast "Parenting Great Kids”. She has built a social media community of 700k+ followers and regularly contributes to discussions on pediatric health and child-parent relationships. Today, Dr. Meg Meeker delves into the societal challenges fathers face today, addressing negative stereotypes perpetuated by media and cultural narratives. She discusses the impact of these stereotypes on fathers and their children, advocating for a balanced view of fatherhood. Dr. Meg Meeker also provides practical advice, outlining the four key needs of children from their dads: Affection, Attention, Affirmation, and Acceptance. The episode also explores the dynamics of marital relationships and effective communication between spouses. Dr. Meeker shares insights on how wives can empower their husbands and avoid undermining them, fostering a supportive partnership. The discussion includes the impact of social media on children's mental health and how fathers can set healthy boundaries to protect their well-being. www.thedadedge.com/482 www.thedadedge.com/bark Instagram | Facebook | X | YouTube www.linktr.ee/meekerparenting www.meekerparenting.com
We're excited to have Larry Hagner back on the show! Larry is the founder of The Dad Edge, and is one of the leading voices on all things fatherhood. He's got 4 kids between the ages of 18 and 8, and has been podcasting and helping other dads for nearly a decade. This was a really cool conversation because it comes as Larry prepares to launch a new book that he was NOT expecting to write - the story of how it came about is crazy, which we talk about about 9 minutes in - plus his spiritual journey over the past few years, and some incredible advice for new and experienced dads alike. Make sure to grab a copy of his new book, The Spirit of Fatherhood! In this episode, we discuss: 0:00 Welcome to interview number 2 with Larry Hagner! 4:45 How Larry navigated a major physical setback 8:47 God's wild plans for Larry to write his latest book 17:38 Larry's spiritual journey over the past 3-4 years 23:23 Biggest lessons from the new book (The Spirit of Fatherhood) 27:15 The toughest part of the writing process 33:43 Advice for new dads in today's culture 42:13 Is God doing something in this "masculinity"/self-improvement space? 45:42 Where is fatherhood going over the next 5-10 years? ✅ FREE "QUIT-PORN" CASE STUDY VIDEO: Learn the system that has helped HUNDREDS of men around the world realize their potential, restore their relationships, and reconnect with God. Resources Mentioned: First interview episode with Larry Hagner High Speed Daddy The Spirit of Fatherhood by Larry Hagner Legacy Builders: Operation Timothy Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker 5 Things Post by The Dad Edge The Dad Edge on Instagram The Dad Edge on Facebook Larry Hagner on LinkedIn The Dad Edge Website The Dad Edge Mastermind The Dad Edge Summit Get Your Question Answered: ❓ Submit Your Question Here LET'S CONNECT ➡️ Free Recovery Resources from Sathiya ➡️ Follow Sathiya on Instagram ➡️ Watch on YouTube Please subscribe and review on Apple or Spotify!
The Importance of Fathers: A Conversation with Tim Rarick In this episode of Currents, hosts Dana and Shannon engage in a thought-provoking discussion with Tim Rarick,a professor at BYU Idaho specializing in marriage, family, and human development. The conversation centers around the critical role of fathers in both parenting and society. Tim discusses his experiences speaking at the United Nations on the importance of fatherhood, addressing how societal and media influences often downplay the value of fathers. He emphasizes that his primary identity is as a father and husband, despite his academic credentials. The episode explores how fathers can combat toxic masculinity, contribute uniquely to their children's development,and strengthen family dynamics. Practical advice for fathers, whether married or estranged from their children's mothers,is also provided, along with insights on how to build interdependent relationships between men and women. The discussion reveals that strengthening familial relationships is foundational to positively impacting society. “I just found that the better husband I am, I naturally become a better father, and if I'm doing well at those, and it's not just time allotment, it has more to do with focus and where my heart is.” Tim Rarick “I think if we recognize that role first, you as a father, me as a mother, then it does influence everything that we do, every decision we make and where we're going with our lives.” - Dana Robb “It's been said by Uri Bronfenbrenner, ‘The family is the most humane, the most economical, and by far the most powerful system known for building competence and character.' He said that in the mid 80s after researching this quite a bit… but I wonder what he would say now. I still believe that statement is true, that the family has that potential. Sadly, what we're seeing…is with the rise of screen media, we have now a competitor with parents.” - Tim Rarick “Research shows that fatherless boys have a greater tendency to become toxic males than boys who have involved fathers.” - Tim Rarick “It's the whole idea that power equates worth, and you'll get power any way you can get it, that's toxic masculinity. And fathers who are involved and loving are one of the best antidotes to that.” - Tim Rarick “Fatherless girls are more susceptible to believing that all men are toxic or allowing toxic men to use them.” - Tim Rarick “The family is never stronger than the marriage.” - Tim Rarick “What can I do to be intentional about my marriage rather than just being on autopilot? Because that will make you a much better father.” - Tim Rarick “Sure, have a big goal, but break it down to something bite sized and what's the next good thing that you can do, and make sure you're doing it with the right heart because if you're not, you're going to run into obstacles and you may quit early.” - Tim Rarick “I am hopeful that any person can change and anybody can improve their relationships.” - Tim Rarick “Changing the world begins with changing the home.” - Dana Robb “No matter where you're at, what you've experienced, we all can decide what we're going to do moving forward as husbands, wives, mothers, fathers, or sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, we're all a member of somebody's family, and we decide what we can do moving forward, if we get the right influences and we get the right information. Everyone can change, and there's always a brighter future ahead.” - Tim Rarick Tim Rarick is a husband and father first and foremost. He is also a professor at BYU-Idaho, a public speaker, writer, family advocate, and a Latter-Day Saint. Additional Resources: Dad—A Girl's First and Most Influential Love Fathers Be Good to your Daughters: The Link Between Fatherlessness and a Sexualized Cultureyoutube.com Homefamilygoodthings.com Raise - Confident Parenting in the Digital Agejoinraise.com National Fatherhood Initiative: Fatherhood.org Keith Zafran, thegreatdadsproject.org Take Back Your Marriage, William Doherty Take Back Your Kids, William Doherty Books recommended: Girls on the Edge, Leonard Sax Improving Father Daughter Relationships, Linda Nielsen Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, Meg Meeker Families Without Fathers, David Pompenoe Man, Interrupted, Philip Zimbardp Of Boys and Men, Richard V. Reeves Why Gender Matters, Leonard Sax
Act One Podcast - Episode 43 - Interview with Screenwriter Andrea Nasfell and Producer Brady Nasfell of the new film, MR. MANHATTAN.Brady Nasfell has produced feature films and television for Netflix, Sony, Lionsgate, Fox Sports, NBC, VH1, Discovery Networks and independent distributors. Recent films include MR. MANHATTAN (starring Alexa and Carlos PenaVega), FOURTH OF JULY (starring Joe List) and STRONG FATHERS, STRONG DAUGHTERS (starring Bart Johnson and Robyn Lively). Brady produced the Grammy Award-winning comedy special SINCERELY LOUIS C.K., as well as KEVIN JAMES: IRREGARDLESS (Spring 2024). Other specials include JOE ROGAN: STRANGE TIMES, TOM SEGURA: BALL HOG, and CHRIS D'ELIA: NO PAIN. His documentary work includes THE LAST DISPATCH, OVERCOMER WITH JUSTIN WREN, UFC ROAD TO THE OCTAGON, UFC ULTIMATE INSIDER, and the UFC EMBEDDED web series, which won the Best MMA Programming award in 2016.Andrea Nasfell is a feature writer with over a dozen produced credits, including the television Christmas movies EVERY OTHER HOLIDAY (Lifetime) and HOLIDAY FOR HEROES (Hallmark Movies & Mysteries). She's also the writer of theatrical comedies THE RESURRECTION OF GAVIN STONE (Blumhouse) and MOMS' NIGHT OUT (Sony Affirm), which won a Dove award for Inspirational Film of the Year. Andrea is a member of the WGA and teaches screenwriting at USC and Asbury University. She earned an MFA in Creative Writing from Spalding University. The Act One Podcast provides insight and inspiration on the business and craft of Hollywood from a Christian perspective.Support the Show.
In this episode of the Dads Making a Difference podcast, Cam sits down with Dr. Meg Meeker, renowned pediatrician, author, and parenting expert. Dr. Meeker shares invaluable insights and practical advice for fathers navigating the challenges of raising strong, confident daughters in today's world. Prepare to be enlightened and empowered as she unravels the complexities of the father-daughter relationship and equips you with the tools to forge an unbreakable bond with your daughter.“Whenever your daughter meets a guy, a friend, or a boyfriend, she compares that guy to you.” - Dr. Meg Meeker In this episode, you will:Discover the four essential elements your daughter craves from you, and how mastering them can transform your relationship.Learn how to effectively communicate with your daughter, fostering trust and understanding, even during the turbulent teenage years.Understand the critical role you play in shaping your daughter's perception of sexuality and self-worth, and how to approach these sensitive topics.Gain insights into the signs of mental health issues in young girls and the appropriate steps to take when addressing them.Explore the impact of social media and technology on your daughter's well-being, and strategies to create a healthy balance.Tune in to this insightful episode as Dr. Meg Meeker imparts her wealth of knowledge and experience, empowering you to become the father your daughter needs and deserves. Don't miss this opportunity to strengthen your bond and guide your daughter through the challenges of growing up in today's world.Resources Mentioned:Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know by Dr. Meg Meeker Boys Should Be Boys: 7 Secrets to Raising Healthy Sons by Dr. Meg Meeker Connect with Dr. Meg Meeker:WebsiteConnect with Cam Hall:WebsiteDads Making A Difference Connection CallFacebookInstagramTwitterLinkedInYouTubeEmail - cam@dmdpodcast.comWant to join a holistic group coaching call with Cam? - Send him a message on Instagram @dadsmakingadifference
The Fatherhood Insider: A Gateway to Enhanced Paternal Engagement Dr. Christopher Lewis welcomes fathers to explore the Fatherhood Insider, a hub designed for paternal growth. Emphasizing the importance of active fatherhood, he encourages dads to utilize resources such as course libraries, forums, and expert advice with the singular goal of honing their fathering skills. Joe Lee's Remarkable Transition: From Monotony to Spontaneity Guest Joe Lee, a dedicated father, discusses his structured life and the unique activities he enjoys with his daughter. Be it practicing Taekwondo, computer learning sessions, or ice skating adventures, Joe underscores the essence of breaking routine and imbuing life with spontaneous moments. An Inspirational Journey from an Entrepreneur to Author Joe Lee shares his motivations for penning 'Ripping Off the Mask From Hustler Entertainer to CEO' and his entrepreneurial evolution. Reflecting on the empowering experiences that guided him to authorship, Joe underlines the process of building a support network and navigating the responsibilities of single fatherhood. Fatherhood's Complex Layers in Modern Society As a vigilant single father, Joe addresses the pressing fears and challenges in raising a daughter in today's society. He advocates for attentiveness, support, and open communication as the pillars of a father-daughter relationship. With a fine balance between professional life and parenting duties, Joe strives to provide structure, support, and valuable life insights for his daughter. A Vision of Fatherhood: Protecting and Teaching the Next Generation Envisioning his role as a protector and teacher, Joe Lee hopes to instill resilience and strength in his daughter. He emphasizes the value of fathers being present and actively involved—not just in the big moments, but also in the everyday tasks, like doing their daughters' hair. As a 'girl dad,' his commitment to nurturing and mentoring his daughter shines as a beacon for other fathers who listen to 'Dads with Daughters TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:05]: Welcome to dads with daughters. In this show, we spotlight dads, resources, and more to help you be the best dad you can be. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:16]: Welcome back to the dads with daughters podcast, where we bring you guests to be active participants in your daughter's lives, raising them to be strong independent women. Really excited to have you back again this week. Every week I love being able to sit down, talk to you, help you, and work with you as you go through this journey that you're on in raising your daughters. I know I've been on the same journey. I'm still on that journey. I'll always be on that journey. Once you're a father, you're always a father. And what's so important is that you never give up. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:46]: You keep moving and you keep working at it because there's gonna be times where it's gonna be hard. There's gonna be times where it's gonna go smoothly, but there is always opportunities to learn, to grow and to be even better. So that's what this show is all about. This show is all about helping you to be the best dad that you can be to help you to connect and engage with your daughters. And that's why I love being able to have these conversations with you every week. I also love being able to bring you different dads, different dads that are doing fatherhood in different ways and bringing you people that have, are from every walk of life, fathers, mothers, other individuals with resources that are gonna help you to be that engaged father that you wanna be. This week, we've got another great guest with us. Joe Lee is with us today. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:35]: And Joe is a father of a daughter. He's got a 6 year old daughter at home. We're gonna talk about his journey that he has had thus far with his own daughter, and I'm really excited to have him here. Joe, thanks so much for being here today. Joe Lee [00:01:48]: Thank you, Chris. I appreciate being a part of the show and being on here. The way that you guys, have come along, I think I was set at the beginning stages of that when you started the organization and group on Facebook. So it's a pleasure being here and being a dad myself for the last 6 years. I've always helped other folks with their trials and tribulations prior to me becoming a dad. So it was one of the reasons why I joined your group back then. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:11]: So first and foremost, what I love to do is I love turning the clock back in time. So let's go all the way back to that first moment that you found out that you were gonna be a father to a daughter. What was going through your head? Joe Lee [00:02:20]: Oh, man. I I said, you know, of all people, why, you know, why do I hit the girl? Right? And but I smiled all the time. I smiled all the time. Like any other father, you wanna have that boy, But, you know, it's been a pleasure, and I see that I've inspired a lot of men when I first started this journey and how I used to talk about her coming into this world. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:41]: So as you think back to the time that you've had with your daughter thus far, I know that when I talk to dads about being a father to a daughter, many people tell me that there's some fear that goes along with it. What's been your biggest fear in raising a daughter in today's society? Joe Lee [00:02:56]: So there's a couple things, to be honest with you, Chris. 1, if I think about my life coming out of New Orleans and the fact of even just raising a kid today, I don't think it's scary. I think it's a matter of being afraid. What could possibly happen? And I say that because I've often been asked and had conversations with dads or women, all of the same. And I talk about the days when we used to walk around the neighborhood at 6, 7, 8 years old. We 2, 3, 10, 15 miles away from home. Today, that's the fear factor. You can't do that anymore. Joe Lee [00:03:26]: Predators will take your daughter or son out of your backyard and draw daylight. It doesn't even matter. That's one of the biggest things, and I think she's taught me a lot more too just in general about life as I've gotten back, as I've always been into the health and fitness side of the house, playing semi pro football, bodybuilding, etcetera, this late stage in the game for me and and by the way, I'll be 53 next week, Chris, just to share a little bit with you. So I still keep myself healthy. But working with her in Taekwondo has, gotten me back into stretching. It has gotten me close to God because she's in private school, and every week she has homework to read a, a verse from the Bible. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:03]: Now raising kids is never easy. Raising daughters is not always easy as well. What's been the hardest part for you being a father to a daughter? Joe Lee [00:04:12]: It's making sure that I'm being attentive. Right? It's making sure that I am supportive, of a female, for 1. I am actively listening, and I'm not just being a dictator because I'm her father, but I'm also fostering open communication. I think it involves setting a positive example that I am empathetic to what she's going through, and I'm finding ways to be resilient to teach her to be resilient. My daughter jumped onto a computer right at the age of 4 months, and she literally crawled over into my lap and was just curious about it. And, you know, she didn't peck on the keyboard. She tried to mimic everything that I was doing, and I'm like, yes. She has that look in her eyes. Joe Lee [00:04:48]: So from there, that helped me with being a father to a female and what I have seen in the prior 15 years of women now becoming more evolved in the corporate America side of things. So it only meant sense for me to think about, hey, how do I best guide my daughter? Because she's gonna need more than just being a female. She's gonna need more than just going to school and to be able to survive out here in this world of, corporate America and in life. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:19]: Now you are busy. You have a lot of things going on. You're doing a lot of different things. And you're trying to also be that engaged dad that you wanna be. Talk to me about balance and how you've found balance in the things that you're trying to do professionally, but also in who you want to be personally for your daughter. Joe Lee [00:05:38]: Yes. So one thing, I have 2 calendars. I manage calendars. Where most people, years before me, may have missed Christmas or some specific holiday or birthday around a making a business deal, I do my best to manage my schedule around her schedule and not the other way around. So just like I have her in Tae kwon which is generally Mondays Tuesdays and every other weekend, in my business calendar that's lined side by side, I plan my business days around her schedule. And that's been a major, major benefactor to me to make sure that we can get what she needs to get and she can get the time with me. As far as balance wise, yes. And where she is today with her academics in a private school that she's in right now, it's great because she's now being challenged. Joe Lee [00:06:26]: The preschool, kindergarten, I was often told, and even her mom was told, your daughter's gonna be something. She's very smart. She's very diligent. And I know with myself, I've been the one that put a lot of that sergeant slaughter, get it done, be detailed because that's how I am in my life. And that has helped me provide that balance with her. So from TaeKwonDo, we come in, we get our structure to study, we get bedtime. I keep her schedule the same as much as possible, but there are times when I do random with her. And then on the weekends, when I have her for longer periods because it's not a school night, yes, that's all broken up. Joe Lee [00:07:03]: She gets that play time in. We get regular television time in. She gets 30 to 45 minutes on her tablet of free time when we have to. When we ride in the car, I make games out of her homework. So for instance, her spelling words, I randomly joke around with her and I said, you can't beat me. I can spell better than you can. Right? So we start playing these games in the car when we're riding. So I balance it all out. Joe Lee [00:07:29]: And, again, the biggest part is is just being spontaneous sometimes. Yes. I'm very structured. Yes. I'm very attention to detailed 90% of the time, but you have to break up the monotony. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:07:40]: You definitely have to break up the monotony because at times it it does definitely it definitely can overtake you and you have to be able to be engaged with your daughter. How do you find that you are able to connect best with your daughter and what's been the favorite thing that you and your daughter like to share together? Joe Lee [00:08:03]: So I'll answer the second question first. Sharing something together, we do share the taekwondo thing together. We share going to the gym together. She likes go to the playground. But more importantly, when I'm in here doing, exercise in the house, she's right there too, you know, for the average man who can't do push ups on his knuckles. She can do 15 to 20 push ups on her knuckles right now. So that's that's one thing. The second thing is chores. Joe Lee [00:08:24]: When I say it's time to clean up, you know, she's happy to do chores. Ever since she was 2, she has been about doing her chores. Even the preschool days at at preschool, she would fix her little cot and she would stand next to it. And the teachers had often told me that. So those are some of the things. But going to the gym and then sometimes we go to the park. Right? She likes to skate too as well. So we'll in the wintertime, we'll go ice skating. Joe Lee [00:08:48]: So at least twice, during the year. And if we can make it a 3rd time, we'll go a 3rd time. But more, you know, outside of that, she's a barrel of I wanna learn. She has a bunch of that inside of her, and it's her computer. We sit here on our computer side by side. Some nights, I'm working to try to get contracts done. I've set her up to where she can complete her homework, and we're sitting side by side. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:09:08]: Now I know that just recently you wrote a new book called ripping off the mask from hustler entertainer to CEO. And I guess first and foremost, talk to me about what made you choose to take the time, the effort to write this book, And what are you hoping that people are taking out of the book itself? Joe Lee [00:09:30]: So the main subtitle probably says it all, which is dedicated to succeed against all odds. Born and raised in New Orleans in the early seventies and survived, and I will say survived New Orleans from the 19 eighties to the 19 nineties when I decided to leave in 1991. And all through my life, I have been a hustler. I have had that hustler mentality, which is an enterprising and entrepreneurial mindset and spirit, which is the true definition of what a hustler is. Most people see that term or see that word, and they think from the streets. And while I came from the streets and were born and raised from the streets in New Orleans, which was one of the worst places to live in the 19 nineties. And I left there in 1991. And in 1994, it became the murder capital of the world. Joe Lee [00:10:17]: So with that, the inspiration just came from my lifestyle of helping people, seeing roadblocks that I say that there's a problem to this. We've gotta get up. We've gotta be active. You can change your story. You don't have to travel someone else's journey. Right? It's not the destination that inspires people. It's the journey that inspires everyone. So with that, I've always said, as far back as I could see my dark past is how clear I wanna see my future. Joe Lee [00:10:49]: So I got up and I did that. I became a chameleon in life to see different things in corporate, see different things in the way that I came up, and I said no more. And I'm gonna take control of my life, and that's what you have to do. And so that inspiration was there a long time ago. And so many people along the way say, you need to write a book that got that were able to know me on a personal level and professional level that just said, hey, man. There's something you need to get out. You need to let this out. And in 2016, one of my employees had recommended me to be nominated to do an interview on this, show called Hatch in the city of Aegean Beach. Joe Lee [00:11:30]: And so it was a bunch of business owners, and they were all evolving. And at the time, I said, okay. Alright. I got nominated. And when I start hearing people's stories and I didn't have anything prepared, Chris. I just spoke. And that was the first time that parts of me unlocked that box and got deep into that that several of the people in the room were in tears. And so from there, Chris, I had been thinking about it, and people said, hey. Joe Lee [00:12:02]: You need to do it. And I just I held it off for so long. It just just bit my tongue on that because I'd never wanted to I guess I was just feeling that I didn't have to use my past to succeed in life. And many times along the way, people said, Joe, it's not what you're doing. You need to think about that differently. You accomplished a whole lot, and you don't even know it yet. And so another business owner, a female, by the way, she's been in the same industry, IT, cybersecurity field. Just 2 years ago or two and a half years ago, she said, Joe, you need to write your book. Joe Lee [00:12:33]: I'm gonna hold you accountable. You're gonna write this book. I've known you for a while now. There's some stuff you need to get out. You need to talk because you can pull people together. You can bridge relationships, but something has driven you because you're constantly working. And so that's where it came from. That was the last straw. Joe Lee [00:12:50]: And finally, one day, I just sat down and start writing some stuff. And in here, you know, she'd be like, Joe, I'm gonna pair you with this publisher. And I went back and forth back and forth for about a month or 2, and then finally, I pulled the trigger. And so it took me a year to pull it all together, to be honest with you. Generally, they say you can write a book in about 8, 9, 12 weeks. But it has taken me a year to pull it together, and I finally got it done. And it just went to formatting as of last week. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:13:12]: Well, congratulations. I know as an author myself, how long it takes. And I would say 8 weeks is pretty quick depending on how long the book is. Joe Lee [00:13:20]: Well, depending on how busy you are too. Right? And that's what I said to my publisher. I said, hey, you're missing something here. I own a company. I can't just sit down and write a book. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:13:28]: Now, one of the chapters in the book is all about being a girl dad and talking about being a father itself. So I've got a couple of questions after looking through what you've been writing there. So as you think back on your pre fatherhood self, what aspects of your life and identity surprised you the most as you embrace the role of father, particularly to a daughter? Joe Lee [00:13:50]: So that goes that's gonna roll right into the chapter probably before that. If we step back, I took on many roles in life. Right? I took on many roles. And as this economy and world of life has expanded with women growing in culture and in business, I was in the entertainment business. And so for me to be a girl that, again, friends of mine, old past friends of mine was like, I heard you're a girl dad. I heard you're a hands on girl dad. I heard you're doing hair and doing pedicures of all people. Not you, Joe. Joe Lee [00:14:24]: Jolie, girl dad. So, you know, with that, I cannot say that I've ever been disrespectful or physically abused or mentally abused any female that I've ever encountered. Has there been a reaction to something? Yes, possibly. Who knows? But I have never purposely done that. So for me, owning up to the responsibilities and my role as a father, again, it goes back to making sure that I'm giving her what she needs emotionally, being a mentor to her, being a protector, teaching her the ways and means of being a girl as well with the other side of it that comes from her mother, though we're, you know, we're shared households, not in shared households. And so being a dad is really playing that role of an active role model in her life, contributing to her growth, contributing to her development, and her well-being. So just like I can see things on the street when I step out my door every day or have a gauge of a potential accident that might happen if I go right or left. I'm teaching her those things. Joe Lee [00:15:31]: I've been teaching her those things. I'm teaching her the things that she is going to need to succeed in any career that she desires her heart to take in in corporate America and in life. So it also involves just fathering and fostering a strong and positive connection with her. So I nurture her, and I have nurtured her to this day. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:15:51]: Now you just talked about that you are going through fatherhood as a single dad. Could you elaborate a little bit more on the challenges that you faced while navigating single fatherhood, especially during custody battles and how these challenges shaped your overall journey. Joe Lee [00:16:07]: With that, that came to me. It's like being a new person to a job you've never done before. And you if somebody's giving you the opportunity and you're just gonna take it head on and you're gonna learn, you're going to gather all the information, you're gonna do some research and things of that nature. I think with my situation, one thing that helped me out, Chris, was I spent 10 years in law. I worked my way up from the mailroom to being a case clerk and research assistant. So it kinda gave me the mentality and mindset to understand And so in the very beginning stages of that, again, I tried to take the proactive role. And me being a father and what I have seen in the past from other fathers and how the system negatively impact them, I took the approach of filing for custody immediately. So I filed for 5050 custody because in my mind and in my heart, I believe in shared custody. Joe Lee [00:17:07]: And though many relationships do not work out, you still should be able to garner a relationship between parents that does not affect the child and do what's in the best interest of the child, quote, unquote, how that term is overly unused. So I think we need to do that. Every parent has a shared obligation. Every parent has a monetary obligation, and that's the thing I had to focus on. And so while in the beginning, there were some trials and tribulations where where things were kinda bad. Right? And I just had to know, hey, Jodice, what you need to do to manage yourself. Right? You had to set your boundaries. You had to document what you needed to document. Joe Lee [00:17:50]: You need to keep yourself in line. You need to be clear on what you're stating in messages. And so that's how I I navigated my battle or high conflict at times or, you know, this custody battle in general. The second thing is is that the system to me is flawed for two reasons that I'm finding. 1, it's still written on the old principles of 50, 60 years ago, where a lot of it did favor more of the woman. And now we also have the evolution well, I'm not gonna say the evolution of attorneys, but we have a good and fine line of good attorneys and bad attorneys. There are attorneys that will take your money and say that they're gonna do something and don't do what they're gonna say. There are attorneys that will be your advocate. Joe Lee [00:18:36]: They are going to speak out in court for you. They are going to work with you, you know? The third thing about the attorneys that I can say is that you're you're gonna go through 1 or 2 or maybe 3, unless you've done enough research that you think you found the right one to support you. Unfortunately, for me, I had to go through 2 or 3 to find the one that I currently have today. And the other part about that is going back to some of my first points was I knew how to represent and present myself to my attorney. There were things that I did in my process to set my attorney up to understand who I am, who I was, and where I'm at today. The information that I gave him had to be clear, concise in order. So I created a template that also mapped back to what is called the 10 factors of child custody. That's in every state. Joe Lee [00:19:28]: So my journals and the writing that I gave him and prepared for him mapped to those, factors as well. And that journal was a part of another tool that I utilized is a communication app. There are different versions out there. I have one that I use today, you know, and I sometimes recommend that to dads if they contact me. But I think it's, you know, it's for everyone at the end of the day. And so that those are some of the things that I did to kinda navigate my custody battle. Today, we've been to court maybe several times, but more importantly, the judges have seen the evidence. The judges have said, I'm not changing this order. Joe Lee [00:20:03]: The judges have said, we're gonna keep this 5050 in place. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:06]: So how important has it been to build a support network for yourself, especially during those moments of uncertainty and emotional hurdles? And what advice would you say that you have for other single parents facing similar situations? Joe Lee [00:20:19]: Yes. So one, to build a network, I involved my daughter with me on things that I could, whether it was social events, whether it was events that was kid friendly, and she was always there from my business world and from my personal world. My friends and colleagues have been there through it all, and some of them are people that I provided advice to or recommendations to or suggestions on a custody matter at times when I before I became a father. So that network was developed pretty quickly, And at the same time, I even still took from all of them because these were people who had been in custody matters or had kids that, you know, are still married, and that provided me advice. So that was one thing. And the other part of it was just making sure that I can provide valuable lessons. I think that's what fathers have to do as well and follow the order. Follow what the order says at the end of the day, and that can go out to everyone. Joe Lee [00:21:26]: In my book, I don't just specifically speak about fathers. I speak from a father's perspective because the world knows how things have been, slighted to the other parent. But if I could provide some advice to anyone, it would be to have patience, not be selfishness, and have the ability to prioritize needs over our own at the end of the day. This will instill the deep sense of responsibility. This will encourage the growth. Parenthood, I think, often teaches us resiliency. It's adaptability. It's the importance of fostering and nurturing an environment that's great for growth. Joe Lee [00:22:06]: And I keep saying growth because they are at a level when they're so young right now. They will suck up anything that you teach them, anything that you give them. But if you don't give it to them, they will never get there. Then if you don't have a repeatable process, it will not be retained. Repeatable, retain. Repeatable, retain. And we have to continue doing that, and that's one thing I do with my daughter as well. 1 of the fathers in our group reached out and say, hey, Joe. Joe Lee [00:22:35]: You know, about the taekwondo. I don't know if you saw that lately, but, a father reached back out to me. I have my daughter in taekwondo, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera. What do you do differently? Or or what are you doing with your daughter? And I just laid it right out in very concise format and just say, I'm doing a, b, c, and d. Most importantly, they go to Taekwondo for 30 to 45 minutes. You need to do that again and again and again during the days that you have your child. And it doesn't have to be a long time. On the weekends, me and my daughter probably get in about 2 hours of taekwondo, if not 4, 2 day 2 hours each day on the weekend, and that's broken up. Joe Lee [00:23:11]: It's broken up. And, again, I make it fun. The last thing as a piece of advice, I would just say I'm constantly and constantly practicing insights and giving her insights about the complexities of human relationships, the profound impact that one person's action can have on another person's well-being. Overall, being a dad, it's a continuous journey of learning and self discovery. And in most cases, men, you know, they walk away with their backs broken at in the end, but we're still here. We're still surviving because, you know, we have to be that protector. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:23:49]: So as you look ahead, what aspirations do you have for your daughter? And how do you envision your role as a father being a guiding force for her life as she grows and pursues her dreams? Joe Lee [00:24:03]: And so one thing I do is I constantly encourage her. 2, since the age of 3a half, 4, she has said, I wanna be a doctor. And to this day, she's 6. I've tried to skew that. I've said, hey. You should get into computers. But at most, the fact that she still loves computers, but she still says she wants to be a doctor. I've tried to skew her by saying, why don't you be a dentist? Here, let's take these dentist toys. Joe Lee [00:24:27]: Let's play around and just to try to see where her head really is right at this young age. So far, she has been committed to saying she wants to be a doctor. So with that, I foster doctor games, doctor little commercials or YouTube videos from time to time, and we sit and talk about some things on that side of it. I also embrace saying that, hey. You are a winner. No matter what you do or whatever loss you have in life or whatever failure that you endured because you did something and you were not the victor, I say, you have to think that you are a winner. A winner never quits on themselves. And that's what I tell her. Joe Lee [00:25:06]: She has been in 3 tournaments thus far. She has won 4 medals in 2 tournaments. And in her last tournament, she didn't win any. And I say, hey. You're standing up there, and I gave her what it looked like. We lost at the end of the day. So she understand, and now she's embraced that at the age of 6 that, hey. I can't win everything. Joe Lee [00:25:23]: And when we got home and even in the car, in the journey, I talked to her about, hey, we've gotta work hard at everything we do. Okay? We've gotta be stronger. We just gotta get better. I say, you knew it. You just lost focus a little bit. So those are some of the things that I see for her in her future. And if she wants to be a doctor, I'm gonna support that. If she wants to be a technologist or some cyber engineer, I'm gonna support that. Joe Lee [00:25:44]: Doesn't matter what she decides she wants to do. And, you know, more importantly, whatever she decides she wants to identify, I know there's a lot of identifiers out here today. He, she, her, him, that type of thing. So I'm gonna support her, and I'm gonna give her as much guidance as I can about life and what I've learned in coming up and building my road, my journey. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:03]: Now we always finish our interviews with what I like to call our fatherhood 5, where I ask you 5 more questions to delve deeper into you as a dad. Are you ready? Joe Lee [00:26:11]: Sure. It sounds like you got a little curve ball here, Chris. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:15]: Now in one word, what is fatherhood? Joe Lee [00:26:17]: Resilience. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:18]: When was the time that you finally felt like you succeeded at being a father to a daughter? Joe Lee [00:26:22]: When she was in kindergarten. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:23]: Now if I was to talk to your daughter, how would she describe you as a dad? Joe Lee [00:26:27]: Oh, wow. That's a good question. That has changed. I've asked her that question a couple of times. She'd probably tell you things about what I do for her or probably tell you things of what I teach her. So, ultimately, she would probably describe me as a teacher if you had to put all those things together because I asked the question and sometimes she says, well, you teach me this, you teach me that, you buy me this, you buy me that. So I think that's what it would be. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:55]: And as you think, let's say, 10, 15 years down the road, how do you want her to describe you then? Joe Lee [00:27:00]: The man in her life that taught her how to attack the world just to be strong and live in this world. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:27:08]: Who inspires you to be a better dad? Joe Lee [00:27:09]: You know, one of my uncles that passed, one of my mother's brother had passed in about 2019. I didn't grow up with a father. My father was killed before I was born. And so I had a mother that raised 2 kids that were they're a year apart coming up in New Orleans. My uncle has always been supportive of everything I have done from the time he was summoned by my mother to pull me out of New Orleans. And he stepped into a situation to step kids, never looked back, cherished those kids today who are my cousins. And he's always treated me like a son. And he's tried to guide me. Joe Lee [00:27:45]: He didn't shun me for my bad mistakes along the way, and that's inspiring enough to me. So I would say my uncle Roosevelt Lee. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:27:53]: Now you've given a lot of pieces of advice today, things that you have learned along the way so far in your own parenting journey. As we finish up today, anything about all dads that are out there, what's one piece of advice you'd wanna give to every dad? Joe Lee [00:28:05]: I would just say, if you fall, Serena, high conflict custody battle. And even if you're not, be present, be a part of it. Learn how to do the hair, fellas. Go to my YouTube channel. Learn how to do the hair. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:28:19]: Now if people wanna find out more about the book, more about you, where should they go? Joe Lee [00:28:24]: Right now, there's a posting on my Facebook page. You can find me on there, a couple of different ways. You can find me on there by jlgov. That's jl, g as in George, o as in Oscar, v as in Victor. Right now, my personal Facebook page, which is Jolie, Virginia Beach. You could could find me in Virginia Beach. Or thirdly, we are going to be putting out the information in the next couple days of where that would be. Chris, I will definitely send you a link to that as my publisher is you know, we're behind the curve on that right now, and we're trying to release by the end of the month, since we're not gonna make the deadline for my birthday, which is next week. Joe Lee [00:28:58]: So those are the two places that you could find information about the book, but the website and everything is being worked on right now. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:29:03]: Well, Joe, I just wanna say thank you. Thank you for being here today, for sharing your own story, and I wish you all the best. Joe Lee [00:29:09]: No, Chris. I appreciate you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you again. It's been great connecting with you guys. And I'll close with saying, fathers, when you compete out here in the courtroom, outside in the business. And what that I mean by that is just be smart about what you do, be articulate, carry yourself in the best light. Joe Lee [00:29:37]: Thank you, Chris. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:29:38]: If you've enjoyed today's episode of the dads with daughters podcast, we invite you to check out the fatherhood insider. The fatherhood insider is the essential resource for any dad that wants to be the best dad that he can be. We know that no child comes with an instruction manual and most dads are figuring it out as they go along, and the fatherhood insider is full of resources and information that will up your game on fatherhood. Through our extensive course library, interactive forum, step by step roadmaps, and more, you will engage and learn with experts, but more importantly, dads like you. So check it out at fathering together dot org. If you are a father of a daughter and have not yet joined the dads with daughters Facebook community, there's a link in the notes today. Dads with daughters is a program of fathering together. We look forward to having you back for another great guest next week. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:30:30]: All geared to helping you raise strong and empowered daughters and be the best dad that you can be. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:30:36]: We're all in the same boat, and it's full of tiny screaming passengers. We spend the time, We give the lessons. We make the meals. We buy them presents and bring your a game. Because those kids are growing fast. The time goes by just like a dynamite blast, calling astronauts and firemen, carpenters, and musclemen. Get out and be the world to them. Them. Be the best dad you can be.
Chapter 1 What's Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters Book by Meg Meeker"Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know" is a book by Dr. Meg Meeker that explores the important role fathers play in their daughters' lives and provides guidance on how fathers can build strong, loving relationships with their daughters. The book offers practical advice and insight into the unique challenges and joys of fatherhood, helping fathers understand and navigate the complexities of raising daughters in today's world.Chapter 2 Is Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters Book A Good Book"Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" by Meg Meeker is highly recommended for fathers looking to deepen their relationship with their daughters. The book offers valuable insights and practical advice on raising confident, resilient, and emotionally healthy daughters. It emphasizes the importance of a father's influence in shaping a daughter's self-esteem, values, and overall well-being. Overall, it is a good book for fathers who want to be actively involved in their daughters' lives and make a positive impact on their development.Chapter 3 Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters Book by Meg Meeker Summary"Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" by Meg Meeker is a parenting book that focuses on the unique and powerful role that fathers play in the lives of their daughters. The book explores the importance of a strong father-daughter relationship and the impact it can have on a girl's self-esteem, resilience, and overall well-being.Dr. Meeker, a pediatrician and parenting expert, draws on her own experiences as a mother and a physician to provide practical advice and insights for fathers looking to strengthen their relationships with their daughters. She discusses the challenges that girls face growing up in today's society, including peer pressure, social media, and body image issues, and offers guidance on how fathers can support and protect their daughters during these vulnerable years.Throughout the book, Dr. Meeker emphasizes the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and being a positive role model for daughters. She also addresses the unique ways in which fathers can empower their daughters, boost their confidence, and help them navigate the complexities of adolescence."Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" is a valuable resource for fathers who want to better understand and connect with their daughters, and for mothers who want to support and encourage their partners in this important role. It offers practical advice, real-life examples, and empowering insights to help fathers build strong, loving, and lasting relationships with their daughters. Chapter 4 Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters Book AuthorMeg Meeker released the book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters in 2006. She is a pediatrician and author known for her work on parenting, particularly on the importance of fathers in their daughters' lives. Some of her other books include:1. Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men2. Boys Should Be Boys: 7 Secrets to Raising Healthy Sons3. The 10 Habits of Happy Mothers: Reclaiming Our Passion, Purpose, and SanityStrong Fathers, Strong Daughters is considered one of her most popular and impactful works, particularly in terms of its message about the powerful role that fathers play in the lives of their daughters. It has been well-received by both parents and professionals in the field of child development.Chapter 5 Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters Book Meaning & ThemeStrong Fathers, Strong Daughters Book Meaning"Strong Fathers, Strong...
Patti Garibay, founder of American Heritage Girls, highlights the importance of fathers in their daughter's lives, and how men need to stand up and lead their families. American Heritage Girls is a Christ-focused scout organization. Find out how you can get your daughters involved! Learn More: https://americanheritagegirls.org/ - website Raising Strong Daughters - Book American Heritage Girls Podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/3xYW29TBukmcyq6dSpM5Wv?si=b3b4c7f3866f40ac Book Discussed: Mission Drift - Peter Greer/Chris Horst Sponsor: OnTrak Insurance - Car, Home, Life and Health insurance Robert 'Risk' Kelly 804-931-6646 https://www.ontrakinsurancesolutions.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mensalliancetribe/support
Is shame always destructive, or can it foster growth? Does being compassionate require that we affirm every belief or validate every emotion? When are psychiatric diagnoses helpful or harmful? Is it better to strive for race-awareness or a color-blind society? Should social norms be challenged or reinforced? What is the role of hope in fostering change? I've brought together several interesting guests from previous episodes to discuss these current debates at the intersection of psychology, philosophy, and culture.Michael David Cobb Bowen is a Stoic writer, data engineer and author of the award-winning blog Cobb. He has been published in Newsweek and was a regular NPR contributor, host at Cafe Utne, founder of the Conservative Brotherhood, Rights Universal and Free Black Thought. His online writing projects on political, cultural and philosophical subjects reach back over 23 years. His latest project, Stoic Observations, can be found at mdcbowen.substack.com. Pamela Garfield-Jaeger is a licensed clinical social worker with over 20 years of experience in mental health. She had to drop out of full time work due to health issues and she was fired from her part-time per-diem position in 2021 due to COVID regulations. That emboldened her to become outspoken on issues plaguing the mental health system. Pamela has a new book, written for parents on the gender issue, A Practical Approach to Gender Distress.thetruthfultherapist.orgInstagram @the.truthfultherapistX @truththerapistSubstack Pam the Truthful TherapistSoad Tabrizi is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a distinctive approach to therapy that combines deep philosophical inquiry with a steadfast commitment to a holistic health. Soad has a telehealth practice providing counseling around the world. Soad's counseling websiteConservative CounselorsSimpli WellAll social media @soadtabriziBooks mentioned in this episode:A Practical Approach to Gender Distress by Pamela Garfield-JaegerIt's Me: A 30-Day Journal by Soad TabriziStrong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg MeekerRed, White, and Black: Rescuing American History from Revisionists and Race Hustlers by the Woodson Center00:00 Start[00:02:35] Pamela's intro & latest book.[00:06:02] Soad's intro, projects & guided journal.[00:09:48] Michaels' intro, projects, race abolitionism & Free Black Thought.[00:12:06] Personal deracination and mental health.[00:15:55] Race as a social construct.[00:19:43] Identity and cultural influences.[00:25:05] Overcoming racial divides.[00:29:53] Groupthink and social construction.[00:32:16] Gender confusion and fears.[00:35:56] Racial dynamics and societal impact.[00:39:22] Society's Perception of Mental Health.[00:42:48] Shame and societal behavior.[00:45:52] Delusional beliefs in mental health.[00:49:54] Losing the gift of praise.[00:53:17] Lived experience.[00:56:58] Parental involvement in child therapy.[01:02:22] Challenging beliefs about gender.[01:03:34] Mental health challenges in families.[01:09:40] Mental health field reflections.[01:12:21] Healing and mental health.[01:18:29] A holistic approach to health.[01:20:31] Marijuana and mental health.[01:24:26] Marijuana and mental health.[01:27:48] Hope and gratitude in discussion.[01:33:32] Gender crisis and film.[01:04:27] Taking care of yourself. To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!Learn more about Do No Harm.Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
How can we be raising confident daughters? Today, Patty Garibay from American Heritage Girls joins Danny and Rebecca to talk about how you can build resiliency in your girls. Plus, we'll hear a question from a mom who is asking how to approach a tough topic with her daughter. Get Patti's book for a gift of any amount! Want to learn more about American Heritage Girls? Click here.
Dr. Meg Meeker is a practicing pediatrician for over 30 years and one of the top parenting experts and father-inclusive advocates of our time. She's an international speaker, the author of 7 books, including the bestselling book and now movie STRONG FATHERS, STRONG DAUGHTERS, the host of the popular podcast, “Parenting Great Kids”, and is a social media influencer with a community of nearly 700,000 followers. Dr. Meg's parenting philosophy is centered on proven, simple, and actionable strategies for raising strong kids. She's on a mission to equip and champion dads to transform their relationship with their kids. And data clearly shows how a father's presence in children's lives is essential in developing them into healthier, kinder, and more resilient adults. In this episode we dive directly into Dr. Meeker's advice and guidance for fathers. We discuss raising daughters, raising sons, the differences between the two, navigating our challenging cultural influences, and so much more. You can learn more about Dr. Meeker at: https://meekerparenting.com/ Order Her incredible books here: https://meekerparenting.com/books/
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Everyone is looking for the answer to these two questions: Am I loved? Can I be free? It may sound simple, but these two core questions are a driving force in every child's psychological and emotional development. So what does a child need from a parent to know the answer to the question: "Am I loved?" John, Shay and Lynn will get specific about how parents can help their child build a strong internal "love container" that will help them move through life with confidence. They also discuss the implications of not having this question answered, and how that impacts a person even in adulthood. Stay tuned to this Becoming a Whole Person series, so that you can learn the basic ingredients everyone needs to continue growing in maturity and wisdom. Books recommendations: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker, M.D. Boys Should Be Boys by Meg Meeker, M.D. If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can also follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds for more great content and message us with your topic suggestions for future episodes.
Many people have been encouraged by best-selling author Dr. Meg Meeker. In fact, she's been called “America's Mom” because of her 7 books that equip parents (especially dads) for the big challenges their kids face today.Dr. Meeker sits down with Sonny and Josh for the latest “Old Dad/New Dad” podcast to chat about her book, turned Devotional, turned movie “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters” in this interview.You can find more on Dr. Meeker at https://meekerparenting.com
On today's show, I'm excited to review the inspiring movie "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters". The film highlights the crucial role that God has called fathers to play in their daughters' lives and emphasizes the importance of being present, protective, and proactive. It also encourages daughters to show honor and respect toward the God-given authority of their fathers. By promoting mutual respect, families can become stronger and more connected, ultimately leading to a better society. I highly recommend watching this movie with your family and discussing its message. Listen and consider the question, What steps can you take to strengthen your own family?
On today's show, I'm excited to review the inspiring movie "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters". The film highlights the crucial role that God has called fathers to play in their daughters' lives and emphasizes the importance of being present, protective, and proactive. It also encourages daughters to show honor and respect toward the God-given authority of their fathers. By promoting mutual respect, families can become stronger and more connected, ultimately leading to a better society. I highly recommend watching this movie with your family and discussing its message. Listen and consider the question, What steps can you take to strengthen your own family?
Being a parent is one of God's greatest callings, but that responsibility is overwhelming. On Tuesday's Mornings with Eric and Brigitte, Dr. Meg Meeker joins us to explain that is why she wrote her book, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, and this film has been released on Great American Media on August 21! Drawing on her thirty years' experience practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine, teen health expert Dr. Meg Meeker explains why an active father figure is maybe the single most important factor in a young woman's development. Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters - Pure Flix - Released on Great American Media on August 21 Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters TrailerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Dr. Meg Meeker joins Michael to answer your questions about parenting, discipline, and the importance of having a strong father figure. Links Mentioned: Strong Fathers Strong Daughters by Dr. Meg Meeker Simple Discipline That Works The Institute For Research and Evaluation on Transgender Issues To read the show notes, click here.
This week, we're diving back into our 2-part series as Will and I celebrate 15 years of marriage (crazy, I know)! This week, we'll be talking about kids and home life—from how we balance everything after adding kids to the mix to how we keep our home running smoothly amid the day-to-day busyness. It'll be a fun one, so listen in! Resources from this episode: Episode 198 - 15 Years Married : Part 1 Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family by Paul Tripp Deebot Vacuum Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father by Meg Meeker Affiliate links have been used in this post! I do receive a commission when you choose to purchase through these links, and that helps me keep this podcast up and running—I truly appreciate when you choose to use them!
My brother-in-law joins me in this episode to share how he views his role as father, and the ways that he seeks to guide and love his children. He talks about speaking into their character more than performance, showing his love through the way he spends his time, being aware of his internal struggles as he disciplines, and inviting our children into all spheres of our lives. Book referenced: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker Learn more about me at https://www.lyssastoyko.com/ Want to say hello? Follow me on Facebook and Insta @lyssastoyko Email me at momstaketen@gmail.com Help other mamas find encouragement through Moms Take Ten by rating and reviewing this show. Thanks!
In this very special episode of Many Happy Miles, the hosts pull the curtain back a bit on their own lives and bring on their moms to share about raising daughters—particularly daughters who ventured into athletics and continue to pursue a healthy lifestyle well into adulthood. The conversations cover a gamut of topics, including: How Dimity's mom's active lifestyle inspired her own daughters to pursue their athletic goals; How Sarah's mom gently encouraged her daughters to seek excellence without adding outside pressure; How Title IV changed the landscape for women's sports (and what life was like for them before it); And their best advice for raising active kids. Listen all the way through for a special bonus segment featuring Another Mother Runner co-founder Sarah Bowen Shea pops on to share stories about her late mom, Margaret, including how she played a pivotal role in raising Sarah to be the fierce, strong woman she is today. When you shop our sponsors, you help AMR. We appreciate your—and their—support! Save $30 + get 1 month free dietitian support at nutrisense.io/amr with code AMR Pretty is as pretty does: Enjoy 15% off your first order at ThriveCausemetics.com/AMR Find quality candidates fast: Visit Indeed.com/amr to start hiring now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The Dad Edge Podcast (formerly The Good Dad Project Podcast)
Dr. Meg Meeker is a renowned pediatrician, speaker, and author, best known for her best-selling book "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters”. Today, Dr. Meg Meeker joins Larry to explore the crucial role fathers play in their daughters' lives and discuss practical strategies for fostering strong, healthy relationships. Dr. Meeker also shared her wisdom on fatherhood and how dads can tap into their potential to positively impact their children's lives. One way for dads to connect with their kids is through affection. Affection is a powerful way of communicating to a child that they are seen, heard, and understood. It can be as simple as a pat on the back, a hug, or a high five. It doesn't have to take a lot of time, but it can make all the difference. When it comes to expressing your feelings, dads should not be afraid to open up to their kids. Kids need to learn how to express love, be affectionate, and be attentive and listen. Kids don't need to know all the mistakes you made when you were 17, but they do need to know that you have bad days and that it's okay to express your feelings. Overall, dads should recognize the important role they play in their children's lives and strive to connect with them through affection. A little bit of affection can go a long way and can help create a strong bond between a dad and his kids. www.thedadedge.com/friday98 thedadedge.com/bark www.meekerparenting.com Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Dr. Meg Meeker
In the last few decades, the traditional American family has seemingly ‘lost its popularity' at least as far as mainstream and social media are concerned. The adage of ‘having a nice house with a white picket fence' has eroded. Once a symbol of the ideal middle-class suburban life, with a large house, family, and peaceful lifestyle. In this episode, co-host Chris Wilson explores this highly contested subject with SBD co-host Jared Haley and his amazing wife Cairistiona. How have societal mindsets shifted in recent years, is there a real attack on fatherhood, why are our children being sexualized, are men being emasculated and how does all of this impact our children long term? “Love is not the same as acceptance… If my kid is about to put their hand on the burner of the stove, I want to stop them before they get burned.” - Jared & Cairistiona Haley Time Stamps 00:00 - Love is NOT the same as acceptance 00:42 – Welcome to the ‘Strong by Design' podcast 04:02– Get to know today's special guests, Jared & Cairistiona Haley 13:50 - The couple shares how society reacts to a big family today 19:39 - The true meaning of family, and how traditional culture has changed over the years 25:15 – Over Sexualization: What impact does it have on people's outlooks on life? 34:25 – The Haley's shares their family's core religious principles 46:14 - Cairistiona shares her honest thoughts on the development of masculinity and feminism 59:29 – The power of honest conversations 1:00:32 – Jared on why men need to STEP UP as husbands and fathers 1:08:34 – The importance of humility in life Resources: Meg Meeker's Best Parenting Books (not presented in the episode but amazing resources) Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters HERO: Becoming the Strong Father Your Children Need Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture Connect w/ CriticalBench: Youtube Facebook Instagram CriticalBench.com StrongByDesignPodcast.com
Episode 81 - In an age of high slit dresses, low cut tops, and leggings, making an effort toward modesty might simply seem impractical. Depending on where you look, though, it could be that it's not even a consideration--maybe even in Christian, conservative circles. What that means for a man and his conscience is one thing. But what that means for a father raising a daughter? Well... good luck (is about what it seems)!Ben buffs up, and shines to a sheen, his various guns as the dad of two daughters for this episode, while Chad innocently stares down the double-barrel topic as co-host. The two take aim and tear up their target of rallying dads to the protection of their daughters' purity. How will Chad do in Ben's game, "Should a Dad?" What are the dynamics at play (for men, in particular) when a female dresses sensually in public? And what is a father's role when it comes to expectations and parameters for his daughter's way of dressing? SHOW NOTES:Ben's book reference: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know by Meg Meeker | Goodreads
Dr. Meg Meeker outlines the powerful influence that fathers have on their daughters, especially when it comes to counteracting the negative influences of our culture. (Part 2 of 2)Receive Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" for your donation of any amount: https://donate.focusonthefamily.com/don-daily-broadcast-product-2023-02-16?refcd=1611609Get more episode resources: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/episodes/broadcast/helping-your-daughter-become-a-confident-woman-part-2-of-2/#featured-resource-ctaIf you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback: https://focusonthefamily.com/podcastsurvey/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dr. Meg Meeker outlines the powerful influence that fathers have on their daughters, especially when it comes to counteracting the negative influences of our culture. (Part 1 of 2)Receive Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" for your donation of any amount: https://donate.focusonthefamily.com/don-daily-broadcast-product-2023-02-16?refcd=1611609Get more episode resources: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/episodes/broadcast/helping-your-daughter-become-a-confident-woman-part-1-of-2/#featured-resource-ctaIf you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback: https://focusonthefamily.com/podcastsurvey/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this podcast episode, DJ invited speaker, author and certified parent instructor Eddie White on the show to share his knowledge and expertise about a dad's role in raising strong daughters. Pretty much anyone can be a parent, but it takes something else to be a leader in your family and Eddie knows the recipe. Listen in as he offers sage advice on how to get in front of the curve to raise and empower functional and independent adults. Eddie White is a speaker, author and educator devoted to helping parents lead their family by leveraging decades of leadership experience, reflective insights as a father. He is a certified parent instructor and holds a master's in Adult Education. He and his wife Vambie shared their parenting journey about raising their two daughters to be empowered young women in his self-published book titled StartPoint: Parenting in “the White House.” TIMESTAMPS• [4:37] Eddie discusses the role of fathers in raising empowered daughters and sons.• [11:26] “It's in those first few years that your child will define themselves as either a victim or a victor, as needy or capable.”• [31:22] Eddie shares we should be mindful when teaching our children about relationships. • [36:14] “When they learned that lesson, something happens, go back, and then dig into it, talk about it, have them understand it so that they don't repeat something that's potentially unhealthy later on in their life.”For more information on the Imperfect Heroes podcast, visit: https://www.imperfectheroespodcast.com/Connect with Us!DJ Stutz - DJ Stutz: https://www.littleheartsacademyusa.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/littleheartsacademy/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/littleheartsacademy/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOpphCRklDJiFXdS76U0LSQDJ Stutz Booking Link: https://bookme.name/Imperfectheroespodcast Eddie White - Website: https://www.jedwardwhitejr.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__startpoint.jed/Twitter: https://twitter.com/_startpointjedFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/jedwardwhitejr/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-eddie-white-22a3b812/
Mr and Mrs Therapy | Trauma, PTSD, Communication, Anxiety, Depression, EMDR, Marriage, Mental Health
In today's episode we are doing Part 2 of - Don't Drive Your Teen Away! Connecting with your Teens! We have a great time as we interview with Stefanie Bolio, LMFT. Teens of today face many challenges. Depression, anxiety, loneliness, self-harm, suicide, feeling the weight of helping their friends who struggle with all this and more. In addition to all of that, teens also have the academic and social pressures to do well in school, date, find friends, navigate the pressures of social media, and then there's family. You as their parent can easily drive your teen away....but don't! On this episode, Stefanie will share tips for you to Connect with Your Teen! She'll discuss what to do when your teen may be in crisis. She also shares about what her private practice and working with individuals through EMDR and also working with couples looks like. Stefanie Bolio has been married for more than 12 years and they have 4 lovely children. Stefanie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Pennsylvania where she works with individuals, families, couples, and youth. She is also a director for two discrete teen crisis text from youth in crisis 24/7. Stefanie has a passion for walking through difficult situations with people. A main focus of Stefanie's is to provide guidance and healing with a Biblical worldview to achieve a healthier life. Resources mentioned: "Raising Great Kids" by Dr. Henry Cloud "Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children" by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend "Boundaries with Teems: When to Say Yes and How to Say No" by Dr. John Townsend "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber "Strong Mothers, Strong Sons" by Meg Meeker "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" by Meg Meeker https://linkingefforts.com/ Listen to Part 1 of this interview with Stefanie: Ep. 37 - Don't Drive Your Teen Away (Part 1) Connect with Stefanie>> Email: stefaniebolio@gmail.com Stefanie Bolio - EMDR - Psychology Today Profile **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Mr and Mrs Therapy | Trauma, PTSD, Communication, Anxiety, Depression, EMDR, Marriage, Mental Health
Teens of today face many challenges. Depression, anxiety, loneliness, self-harm, feeling the weight of helping their friends who struggle with all this and more. In addition to all of that, teens also have the academic and social pressures to do well in school, date, find friends, navigate the pressures of social media, and then there's family. You as their parent can easily drive your teen away....but don't! On this episode, Stefanie will share tips for you to Connect with Your Teen! Stefanie Bolio has been married for more than 12 years and they have 4 lovely children. Stefanie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Pennsylvania where she works with individuals, families, couples, and youth. She is also a director for two discrete teen crisis text from youth in crisis 24/7. Stefanie has a passion for walking through difficult situations with people. A main focus of Stefanie's is to provide guidance and healing with a Biblical worldview to achieve a healthier life. Resources mentioned: "Raising Great Kids" by Dr. Henry Cloud "Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children" by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend "Boundaries with Teems: When to Say Yes and How to Say No" by Dr. John Townsend "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber "Strong Mothers, Strong Sons" by Meg Meeker "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" by Meg Meeker https://linkingefforts.com/ Connect with Stefanie>> Email: stefaniebolio@gmail.com Stefanie Bolio - EMDR - Psychology Today Profile We'd love to hear from you! **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Since about the year 0, faith leaders have searched for a way to make Jesus seem cool to teenagers. Trying to mix Christianity and cutting edge pop culture trends often doesn't go well. Evangelical rap is a great example of a catastrophic culture clash. Robyn is the star of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, which is a Christian movie, but it doesn't try too hard to be cool, so it's actually good. Watch it on Pureflix at www.pureflix.com.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Since about the year 0, faith leaders have searched for a way to make Jesus seem cool to teenagers. Trying to mix Christianity and cutting edge pop culture trends often doesn't go well. Evangelical rap is a great example of a catastrophic culture clash. Robyn is the star of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, which is a Christian movie, but it doesn't try too hard to be cool, so it's actually good. Watch it on Pureflix at www.pureflix.com.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Why is it so important to have an active father figure in your life? Dr. Meg Meeker is a Doctor of Pediatric and Adolescent Medicine, author, and an experienced counselor of teens and parents. In this conversation she shares with us the mission and heart behind her book “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters”. She explains the importance of setting habits as a family, the power of praying with your kids, and the impact of serving others together. Click here for more information on Dr. Meg Meeker Watch “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters” on PureFlix Pick up Matt's book "Truth Plus Love" here For more from Matt Brown, and to receive our free gift "5 Keys to Find Fulfillment in God" go to Thinke.org
What is your favorite elementary school memory? A teacher you loved? Playing on a favorite team? Parenting elementary school kids can sometimes feel like a breath of fresh air - kids are more capable, they can get their own snacks, help out around the house, and more. But in every stage of childhood our kids are developing and it's important we give them the tools to do so. My guest this week is pediatrician, author, speaker, and mom, Dr. Meg Meeker. For over thirty years she has been helping kids and their parents navigate childhood. In this episode she encourages us to let our elementary kids slow down and grow self-esteem and empathy by being and doing with us. We cover a range of topics from identity formation to sensory issues to extra curricular activities. Connect with [Dr. Meg Meeker]: Website: https://www.meekerparenting.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/megmeekermd/ Instagram: @megmeekermd Twitter: @megmeekermd Podcast: https://www.meekerparenting.com/podcast Links Mentioned: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters on PureFlix Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know by Dr. Meg Meeker Related Episodes: Creating Digital Safe Spaces :: Chris McKenna [Ep 360] Shaping Your Family Culture :: Kimberly Amici [Ep 294] Featured Sponsors: Thrive Market. Get convenient, high-quality, affordable groceries delivered with Thrive Market! Join Thrive Market today and get $80 in free groceries! Visit ThriveMarket.com/DMA. Rothy's. Find your new favorite shoes and get $20off your first purchase at rothys.com/DMA. Thrive Causemetics. Right now, you can get 15% off your first order when you visit thrivecausemetics.com/DMA.
Episode 625 - Robyn Lively and Bart Johnson are First Class Parents and Actors. Together, the married couple, star as Husband & Wife in the new PureFlix movie STRONG FATHERS, STRONG DAUGHTERS. Bart Johnson starred as Coach Jack Bolton in the “High School Musical” series opposite Zac Efron -his acting resume includes “Hyperion Bay,” “Hawaii Five-O” and the 2018 adaptation of Little Women. Robyn Lively is a former 80's child actress (“Silver Spoons”, “Punky Brewster”) and is the half-sister to actress BLAKE LIVELY. She has over 80 credits that includes The Karate Kid III, “Twin Peaks,” “Doogie Howser, M.D.”, and “JAG”. Inspired by the best-selling book “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters,” by Dr. Meg Meeker, follows the heartfelt journey of a dad who is desperately trying to hold onto his little girls but learns he must give up control and have faith in their future. In this Episode, Bart and Robyn share their parenting journey which includes three children. They discuss their experience playing a husband and wife on the screen and how it differs from acting in movies with other romantic partners. They describe the importance of having a Father or Father figure in the home and why the Fatherless Crisis is hurting our society. They talk about their discipline styles as parents, their faith, family traditions and values they hope to instill in their kids. They offer advice for new or soon-to-be parents and more! STRONG FATHERS, STRONG DAUGHTERS - www.pureflix.com/movie/strong-fathers-strong-daughters FamilyMade - https://familymade.com First Class Fatherhood: Advice and Wisdom from High-Profile Dads - https://bit.ly/36XpXNp Watch First Class Fatherhood on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCD6cjYptutjJWYlM0Kk6cQ?sub_confirmation=1 More Ways To Listen - https://linktr.ee/alec_lace Follow me on instagram - https://instagram.com/alec_lace?igshid=ebfecg0yvbap For information about becoming a Sponsor of First Class Fatherhood please hit me with an email: FirstClassFatherhood@gmail.com
DR. MEG MEEKER with guests BART JOHNSON & ROBYN LIVELYDr. Meeker's book, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, was written to empower dads to understand the invaluable role that they play in the lives of their families, and specifically, in the lives of their daughters. In her book, she explains why an involved father might be the single most important factor in a young woman's development. Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters was just released as a full-length feature film that hit Pure Flix on August 1. Starring in the film is Bart Johnson and Robyn Lively. They join Dr. Meeker on this episode to discuss the significance of the movie, and what lessons they have learned as parents to their own children. If you're a parent to a child of any age, this is an episode you won't want to miss! https://www.pureflix.com/movie/strong-fathers-strong-daughtersFROM THE PRODUCERThanks for listening to Episode #173, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, and for helping Dr. Meg's parenting revolution reach more than SEVEN MILLION downloads! Please subscribe, rate and leave a review for us on iTunes!Get Social with Dr. Meg on Facebook & Instagram @MegMeekerMDCheck out Dr. Meg's parenting resources and tools! www.meekerparenting.com
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