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Humility is one of the most quietly powerful practices for positive psychology and mental health. It's also one of the most misunderstood. Here's the heart of it: humility is not a weakness. It's not about making yourself small or performing modesty for social approval. It's an accurate, grounded sense of self, what Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren calls "right-sizing." You own your strengths and weaknesses. And you hold your worth steady through all of it. We explored four types of humility this month: relational, intellectual, cultural, and existential. And we worked through three core ingredients to build humility up: Know Yourself. This is where self-compassion becomes essential. Self-knowledge without self-compassion tends to slide into rumination — that harsh, looping self-focus that keeps us stuck. Dr. Kristin Neff's research reminds us that genuine self-reflection requires feeling safe enough to look clearly, without bracing for an attack. When self-compassion is in place, honest self-awareness becomes possible. So does recognizing things like the better-than-average effect, which is our tendency to unconsciously and inaccurately position ourselves as a little more right, and others a little more wrong. Humility gently corrects that drift. Check Yourself. This is ego territory. When we feel threatened, the ego rises up. We deflect, deny, shut down, intellectualize. It's a very human, very normal response. But it doesn't have to run the show. One of the most practical tools from this series: when you feel defensive, pause. Breathe. Then ask yourself, "What would I think if I weren't feeling defensive?" That question can create some space for the ego to stand down and lets emotional regulation take over instead of reactivity. Go Beyond Yourself. This is where the magic of humility really shows itself as we build a genuine curiosity about other people and life's bigger questions. The self-forgetfulness that C.S. Lewis describes as essential to humility puts it all into action. When we're not so consumed by ourselves, the world opens up. And that's where connection, meaning, and joy actually show up in more noticeable, lasting ways. If you've worked through this series and feel less certain than when you started, that's not a problem. That's the practice of humility in action. Sitting with uncertainty, tolerating what's unresolved, resisting the cultural pressure toward easy answers and performed confidence is peak courage. It's often uncomfortable and it's always worth it. If this work has stirred something that feels bigger than you want to carry alone, please reach out to a therapist, a trusted friend, or a support community. Seeking support isn't weakness. It's an act of humility and one of the most courageous things you can do. And for Joy Lab Program members: your Episode Experiment includes a guided meditation and journal prompts to help you harvest and integrate the work you've done this month.  We close with Rilke (we know, we close with Rilke a lot!): "Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves." Keep tending to your humility. It grows good things.   About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program (get your 7-day free trial!). Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).       Sources and Notes for our Element of Humility: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life. Start your 7-day free trial now. Episodes in this Humility series: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth it for Mental Health [ep. 268] Know Yourself: The Humility Practice That Quiets Rumination and Builds Emotional Resilience [ep. 269] Check Yourself: Ego Threat, Stress Relief, & Needing to Prove Yourself [270] Book: Humble by Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD Tara Brach's website Find more about Neff's work on Self-compassion at Self-Compassion.org More on C.S. Lewis from the C.S. Lewis Foundation.  Hagá & Olson. 'If I only had a little humility, I would be perfect': Children's and adults' perceptions of intellectually arrogant, humble, and diffident people. Access here. Nielsen & Marrone. Humility: Our current understanding of the construct and its role in organizations. Access here. Porter et al. Predictors and consequences of intellectual humility. Access here. Van Tongeren et al. Humility. Access here.  Weidman et al. The psychological structure of humility. Access here. Wright et al. The psychological significance of humility. Access here. Wendell Berry's book Standing by Words   Common Questions: Q: How do I stop being so hard on myself without losing self-awareness? A: Self-compassion and self-knowledge are partners. As researcher Dr. Kristin Neff puts it, "You can look clearly at yourself when you're not afraid of what you'll find." Self-compassion creates the psychological safety for honest, accurate self-appraisal, replacing harsh rumination with compassionate self-reflection. Humility is the result: an accurate, grounded sense of self that's neither inflated nor deflated. Q: Why does being humble feel so uncomfortable and countercultural? A: Because in many ways, it is. We live in a world that often rewards certainty, self-promotion, and being right, even when those things don't actually nourish us. Building humility means opening up to uncertainty and the unknown, which takes real courage. The good news is that discomfort is also building something called uncertainty-tolerance, a form of emotional resilience that reaches across every area of your life in really nourishing ways.   Key moments: [00:00] Welcome & orientation — Aimee frames the three-part humility arc (Know Yourself → Check Yourself → Go Beyond Yourself) [01:30] Henry's realization: humility, like every Joy Lab Element, is ultimately about learning to love well and connect more deeply [03:00] Why humility is the antidote to loneliness — the difference between being surrounded by people and being genuinely seen; how isolation is really a form of alienation [05:00] What it feels like to be with a truly humble person — and why humility makes us safer, more trustworthy, and more magnetic in relationships and communities [06:30] The traffic circle of defensiveness — Aimee on why the risk of being burned by someone is still better than a lifetime of self-protective looping [07:30] Epistemic humility explained — the idea that your understanding of reality is always partial, always filtered, always a vantage point. And so is everyone else's. (Plus: a pronunciation debate.) [08:45] Why disagreement doesn't mean someone is wrong, and how truth is larger than any one person's grasp of it [10:30] William James on the deepest craving in human nature: to be appreciated and seen [11:00] Two practical strategies for going beyond yourself: (1) deep, active listening as a humility practice — not formulating your response, but truly receiving another person; (2) seeing the innocence of others [12:30] Thich Nhat Hanh: "Listen until they empty their hearts." Henry shares this as a guide for showing up and listening [13:30] Seeing the innocence in others — Henry's 30+ years of clinical wisdom distilled: most people are doing the best they can with what they have, right now. How holding that awareness softens judgment without eliminating boundaries [15:30] Aimee reflects: "That's the wisdom I'd want somebody to hold when they see me messing up." [16:00] Experiment preview for Joy Lab Program members + closing Rumi quote: "You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the entire ocean in a drop."    Like and follow Joy Lab on Socials:  Instagram Linkedin Facebook YouTube   Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

Humility is a powerful mental health tool we have. The science of happiness is clear: genuine connection and belonging are among the strongest predictors of emotional resilience and wellbeing. In this episode of Joy Lab we'll explore the final dimension of humility: going beyond yourself. Building on Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren's framework from Humble, we'll explore how knowing yourself and checking your ego aren't the finish line. That's prep work so you can show up for others with open eyes and an open heart. Whether you've been lonely, stuck in defensive loops, or just tired of running into yourself everywhere you turn, this episode offers a warm, science-grounded roadmap toward deeper connection. This is Episode 4 of Joy Lab's Element of Humility series, following Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren's framework: know yourself, check yourself, and go beyond yourself.   About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program (get your 7-day free trial!). Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).    Full transcript      Sources and Notes for our Element of Humility: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life. Start your 7-day free trial now. Episodes in this Humility series: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth it for Mental Health [ep. 268] Know Yourself: The Humility Practice That Quiets Rumination and Builds Emotional Resilience [ep. 269] Check Yourself: Ego Threat, Stress Relief, & Needing to Prove Yourself [270] Book: Humble by Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD Tara Brach's website Find more about Neff's work on Self-compassion at Self-Compassion.org More on C.S. Lewis from the C.S. Lewis Foundation.  Hagá & Olson. 'If I only had a little humility, I would be perfect': Children's and adults' perceptions of intellectually arrogant, humble, and diffident people. Access here. Nielsen & Marrone. Humility: Our current understanding of the construct and its role in organizations. Access here. Porter et al. Predictors and consequences of intellectual humility. Access here. Van Tongeren et al. Humility. Access here.  Weidman et al. The psychological structure of humility. Access here. Wright et al. The psychological significance of humility. Access here. Wendell Berry's book Standing by Words   Key moments: [00:00] Welcome & orientation — Aimee frames the three-part humility arc (Know Yourself → Check Yourself → Go Beyond Yourself) [01:30] Henry's realization: humility, like every Joy Lab Element, is ultimately about learning to love well and connect more deeply [03:00] Why humility is the antidote to loneliness — the difference between being surrounded by people and being genuinely seen; how isolation is really a form of alienation [05:00] What it feels like to be with a truly humble person — and why humility makes us safer, more trustworthy, and more magnetic in relationships and communities [06:30] The traffic circle of defensiveness — Aimee on why the risk of being burned by someone is still better than a lifetime of self-protective looping [07:30] Epistemic humility explained — the idea that your understanding of reality is always partial, always filtered, always a vantage point. And so is everyone else's. (Plus: a pronunciation debate.) [08:45] Why disagreement doesn't mean someone is wrong, and how truth is larger than any one person's grasp of it [10:30] William James on the deepest craving in human nature: to be appreciated and seen [11:00] Two practical strategies for going beyond yourself: (1) deep, active listening as a humility practice — not formulating your response, but truly receiving another person; (2) seeing the innocence of others [12:30] Thich Nhat Hanh: "Listen until they empty their hearts." Henry shares this as a guide for showing up and listening [13:30] Seeing the innocence in others — Henry's 30+ years of clinical wisdom distilled: most people are doing the best they can with what they have, right now. How holding that awareness softens judgment without eliminating boundaries [15:30] Aimee reflects: "That's the wisdom I'd want somebody to hold when they see me messing up." [16:00] Experiment preview for Joy Lab Program members + closing Rumi quote: "You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the entire ocean in a drop."    Like and follow Joy Lab on Socials:  Instagram Linkedin Facebook YouTube   Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

Humility and mental health are more connected than you might think. And if you add self-compassion to the humility-ego mix, then you have a recipe that can support mood, offer stress relief, and give your mind and body a break from constantly trying to defend yourself. We'll dig into all this with the "Check Yourself" step of the humility framework, unpacking ego threat, defensive thinking patterns, and the very human stress response that kicks in when we feel criticized, wrong, or uncertain. Spoiler: the ego is not the villain here. It's more like an overzealous bodyguard, and humility is how you can teach it to stand down. This is Episode 3 of Joy Lab's Element of Humility series, following Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren's framework: know yourself, check yourself, and go beyond yourself.   About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program. Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).    Like and follow Joy Lab on Socials:  Instagram Linkedin Watch this episode on YouTube     Sources and Notes for our Element of Humility: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life.  Episodes in this Humility series: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth it for Mental Health [ep. 268] Know Yourself: The Humility Practice That Quiets Rumination and Builds Emotional Resilience [ep. 269] Book: Humble by Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD Tara Brach's website Find more about Neff's work on Self-compassion at Self-Compassion.org More on C.S. Lewis from the C.S. Lewis Foundation.  Hagá & Olson. 'If I only had a little humility, I would be perfect': Children's and adults' perceptions of intellectually arrogant, humble, and diffident people. Access here. Nielsen & Marrone. Humility: Our current understanding of the construct and its role in organizations. Access here. Porter et al. Predictors and consequences of intellectual humility. Access here. Van Tongeren et al. Humility. Access here.  Weidman et al. The psychological structure of humility. Access here. Wright et al. The psychological significance of humility. Access here. Wendell Berry's book Standing by Words   Key moments: [00:00] Welcome and episode framing — checking ourselves means we accept that we don't know it all, recognize our own cultural lenses, and can sit with uncertainty without losing ourselves. [02:00] Henry on accepting uncertainty as a form of letting go of control — and why the self-knowledge work from last episode makes this possible. True inner strength means being secure enough to admit when you're wrong and hold your ground when you need to. [04:00] Enter: the ego. Aimee makes the case that the ego isn't the root of all evil. A healthy ego helps us maintain a coherent, positive sense of self. The problem isn't the ego itself; it's when the ego runs the whole show, making every decision from a place of fear. [06:30] Ego threat explained — when criticism, mistakes, or uncertainty shake our sense of self, a stress response activates. This triggers cognitive distortions: black-and-white thinking, confirmation-seeking, and rigid beliefs. It's common, it's wired in, and it doesn't have to take us down. [08:30] Henry's bodyguard metaphor: the ego is a zealous protector that sometimes overreacts wildly — treating a questioned idea like a life-or-death threat. Humility doesn't fire the bodyguard. It just teaches it to relax. [11:00] Signs the bodyguard has overstepped. Aimee walks through the obvious ones (counterattacking, deflecting, blame-shifting) and the subtler ones (shutting down, overexplaining, people-pleasing, doubling down on beliefs to avoid uncertainty). If you're nodding, you're in good company. [13:00] Henry adds the physical signs of ego threat to watch for: chest tightness, heat rising, clenched jaw, shallow breathing. Your body knows you're in ego threat before your mind does. Also: the urgency to respond immediately, spinning narratives to justify reactions, needing the last word. [15:00] The good news — and the real mental health payoff. Admitting mistakes makes us more liked and respected. Humility builds psychological safety in relationships, keeps small harms from becoming earthquakes, reduces thought distortions, and separates self-worth from performance. It's a genuine resilience-booster. [17:00] Henry's three-step in-the-moment practice: pause (especially when it feels most urgent), take one slow breath (gives your brain a chance to come back online), and ask "What would I think about this if I weren't feeling defensive?" Shift from threat response to curiosity response — and still hold your ground if you need to, just from a grounded place. [19:00] Aimee adds supportive touch as an emotional regulation tool — hands stacked gently on the body, a breath, a moment of self-compassion. Getting out of the traffic circle doesn't require a response or a win. Sometimes you just drive on your way. [20:30] Closing wisdom from Tara Brach: "The ego is not your enemy, it is your partner. Make peace with it."   Full transcript here   Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

Humility is a powerful (and mostly misunderstood) mental health skill that's grounded by self-knowledge and self-compassion. Humility is also a powerful antidote to rumination and harsh self-criticism and a tool to support mood and emotional resilience. We'll build up humility through this series by taking a positive psychology approach along with Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren's framework to build humility (know yourself, check yourself, go beyond yourself.) This episode is all about Step 1 (know yourself) and it turns out it's both the most uncomfortable and the most freeing place to start. About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program. Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).    Like and follow Joy Lab on Socials:  Instagram Linkedin Watch this episode on YouTube   Sources and Notes for our Element of Humility: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life.  Episodes in this Humility series: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth it for Mental Health [ep. 268] Book: Humble by Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD Find more about Neff's work on Self-compassion at Self-Compassion.org More on C.S. Lewis from the C.S. Lewis Foundation.  Hagá & Olson. 'If I only had a little humility, I would be perfect': Children's and adults' perceptions of intellectually arrogant, humble, and diffident people. Access here. Nielsen & Marrone. Humility: Our current understanding of the construct and its role in organizations. Access here. Porter et al. Predictors and consequences of intellectual humility. Access here. Van Tongeren et al. Humility. Access here.  Weidman et al. The psychological structure of humility. Access here. Wright et al. The psychological significance of humility. Access here. Wendell Berry's book Standing by Words   Key moments: [00:00] Why self-knowledge comes first in the humility framework — and why skipping it makes the rest of the work harder. [02:00] The humility paradox: who scores highest on self-reported humility? People with narcissistic traits. What this reveals about why self-knowledge matters. [04:30] Reflection vs. rumination: same self-focused action, completely different energy — and very different effects on anxiety and depression. [07:30] Clark Griswold on the roundabout: Aimee's perfect visual for rumination, plus Van Tongeren's concept of "right-sizing yourself." [09:30] Obstacle #1: The idealized self. When the gap between who you are and who you think you should be stops motivating and starts deflating. [12:00] Obstacle #2: The better-than-average effect. Most of us rank ourselves above average — and that's statistically impossible. How this positivity bias quietly inflates us. [14:30] Obstacle #3: The harsh inner critic disguised as self-awareness. Why beating yourself up isn't humility — it's ego turned inward. [17:00] Dr. Kristin Neff's insight: self-compassion is the foundation of honest self-awareness. You can look clearly when you're not afraid of what you'll find. [19:30] Rumination as an internal courtroom — and Aimee's personal story about chronic lateness, hard feedback from a friend, and what it took to actually receive it. [23:30] Henry's simple journaling practice: notice what you observed about yourself this week. No analysis, no judgment — just patterns, held gently. [25:30] Preview of next week's "Check Yourself" episode, and a closing note from Aristotle.   Full transcript here   Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

Humility is not a weakness or a sign you're a pushover, instead it's a mental health tool that just might be exactly what our loneliness epidemic and anxiety culture are desperately craving. Humility is an accurate, grounded sense of who you are. And that grounded sense of self is a foundation for confidence, deeper connection, and holistic mental health. Here's what we'll explore this episode: There are four research-backed types of humility to focus on: Relational humility — how you hold yourself in relation to others; not above, not below Intellectual humility — holding beliefs with openness; curiosity over certainty Cultural humility — recognizing the limits of your own cultural lens and genuinely welcoming differences Existential humility — making peace with uncertainty, impermanence, and the big unanswerable questions of human life You might be doing great in one area and struggling in another (that's normal). These types aren't perfectly clean categories, but they offer areas for self-reflection and focus as you work to boost your humility and emotional wellbeing throughout the month.  With these areas in mind, we'll use researcher Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren's framework to build humility through three core ingredients: Know Yourself — honest self-awareness of strengths and limits, without self-preoccupation Check Yourself — reducing defensiveness and the need to protect your ego Go Beyond Yourself — cultivating empathy and humility as a deep relational practice These three ingredients aren't just a nice framework for self improvement, they're a pathway to reducing loneliness, increasing connection, and building the kind of holistic healing and joy that Joy Lab is all about. If you're in the Joy Lab Program, your first Experiment will help you locate yourself within these four types and start the work.   About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program. Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).    Like and follow Joy Lab on Socials:  Instagram Linkedin Watch on YouTube     Sources and Notes for our Element of Humility: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life.  More on C.S. Lewis from the C.S. Lewis Foundation. Book: Humble by Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD Hagá & Olson. 'If I only had a little humility, I would be perfect': Children's and adults' perceptions of intellectually arrogant, humble, and diffident people. Access here. Nielsen & Marrone. Humility: Our current understanding of the construct and its role in organizations. Access here. Porter et al. Predictors and consequences of intellectual humility. Access here. Van Tongeren et al. Humility. Access here.  Weidman et al. The psychological structure of humility. Access here. Wright et al. The psychological significance of humility. Access here. Wendell Berry's book Standing by Words   Key moments: [00:00:00] Welcome + intro to Joy Lab's Element of Humility — solo episode with Dr. Aimee Prasek [00:00:30] Clearing up the bad takes: what humility is not — not weakness, not martyrdom, not dismissing your talents [00:01:00] The social science of humility: why we're drawn to humble people from mid-adolescence on, and why it primes us for connection [00:02:00] Humility as antidote to certainty culture and self-destructive perfectionism; the formal definition unpacked [00:02:45] C.S. Lewis on humility as self-forgetfulness — and the powerful paradox it reveals about hyper self-focus [00:03:30] The reframed Lewis quote: "Humility is not thinking less of yourself — it's thinking of yourself less often" [00:04:15] Introducing the four research-backed types of humility: relational, intellectual, cultural, and existential [00:05:00] Deep dive into intellectual, cultural, and existential humility — leaning into curiosity over certainty [00:06:00] Why humility is harder than other Elements — and why it's worth it anyway [00:07:00] The obstacles: certainty culture, fear of being wrong, pressure to perform vs. just be [00:08:00] Ego protection, the stress response, and why humility can feel like a physical threat to the nervous system [00:08:45] Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren's three ingredients for building humility: Know Yourself → Check Yourself → Go Beyond Yourself [00:09:45] Humility as medicine for the loneliness epidemic, anxiety, and depression — why culture is craving this right now [00:10:30] What's coming next: knowing ourselves, plus your first Joy Lab Program Experiment [00:11:00] Closing poem: The Real Work by Wendell Berry   Full transcript here   Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

An earlier version of this episode was edited very poorly (automatically -- it was my fault!), so please listen to this fixed version. I'm joined by psychologist Daryl Van Tongeren for another Emo Diaries, a segment-based show that gets in its feelings about one great emo song per episode. This week, it's the white whale of 2000s emo: "Hands Down" by Dashboard Confessional. ___________________________ Dan is accepting WA state therapy clients and coaching/consulting clients from everywhere: religiononthemind.com Email Dan: prettygoodvibrationspodcast@gmail.com IG: www.instagram.com/prettygoodvibespod/ Artwork: https://www.nickryanluevano.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Americans today are leaving religion in record numbers. For many, the faith, practices, and institutions that once provided comfort and guidance no longer fit their beliefs and values. Today's guest, Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren, a psychologist scientist who engages big existential questions to promote human flourishing, And author of the powerful book: Done: How to Flourish After Leaving Religioncalls this departure ‘The Great Disillusionment.' His research and writing brings attention to several important, but often difficult questions that arise when people are no longer served by traditional religion: How do they find new meaning and purpose? How do they process the grief that often accompanies religious or spiritual change? And how can they navigate challenging relationships with people who do not support or understand? Today we'll explore this complex terrain as we discuss: The changing landscape of religion in the US and beyond, Why leaving religion can be so hard, which Darryl will reflect on through the lens of his research, but also through sharing the tragic story of losing his brother. A loss that left him questioning, and wrestling with his own relationship to the religion he was brought up in and had built his life around for many years. And finally, the possibility that Daryl writes about so beautifully.In his words:If you are rethinking your religious beliefs, have experienced religious loss or struggle, or have undergone a significant religious change, you are not alone. By understanding how people before us have left or transformed their religion, And using their wisdom as a guide,we can discover new ways of finding peace, engaging with the transcendent, And ultimately crafting a flourishing and meaningful life.For more on Daryl, his books, research, and other offerings please visit darylvantongeren.comEnjoying the show? Please rate it wherever you listen to your podcasts!Did you find this episode inspiring? Here are other conversations we think you'll love:On Awe, Wonder, and Everyday Miracles | Jonah PaquetteOn Listening and Attending to the Soul | James HollisThe Transformative Power of Humility | Dr. Daryl Van TongerenThanks for listening!Support the show

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with psychology professor Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren about the topic of leaving religion and his new book, Done: How to Flourish After Leaving Religion. They discuss why people leave religion, what it feels like when personal beliefs no longer match religious teachings, what parts of religion stay with them after they leave, how they reconstruct meaning, identity, and community, and what it truly takes to thrive beyond faith. For more on Daryl, visit www.darylvantongeren.com Why Do We Do That? is a psychology podcast that deconstructs human behavior from the perspectives of social scientists, psychologists, and others that use applied psychology in their work. Web | Patreon | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter 

Text us your questions!What happens when the foundation of your identity crumbles beneath you? When the lens through which you understood the world no longer works? Psychologist Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren joins us to explore this profound transition that one-fifth of Americans have experienced—leaving religion behind.Drawing from eight years of groundbreaking research across multiple countries, Van Tongeren walks us through what he calls "the great disillusionment," which he documents in his book Done: How to Flourish After Leaving Religion. We discover that most people who check "none" on religious surveys were previously religious believers—what he calls the "dones." Their past faith doesn't simply disappear but leaves "religious residue" that continues influencing their thoughts, behaviors, fears, and values long after they've walked away.This conversation ventures beyond theory into practical wisdom for navigating life's deepest questions. Van Tongeren shares his personal journey through faith crisis after his brother's tragic death and how it shaped his research. We explore why rigid faith systems often collapse under scrutiny while flexible faith proves more resilient, how former fundamentalists frequently jump into new ideological extremes, and why developing "existential distress tolerance" might be the most crucial skill for our anxious age.Whether you're questioning faith, have left religion behind, or simply want to understand this massive cultural shift, this episode offers profound insights into finding meaning and purpose at the intersection of psychology, philosophy, and spirituality. Van Tongeren challenges us to courageously engage life's existential realities rather than avoiding them—suggesting this honest confrontation might be the only path to flourishing.=====Want to support us?The best way is to subscribe to our Patreon. Annual memberships are available for a 10% discount.If you'd rather make a one-time donation, you can contribute through our PayPal. Other important info: Rate & review us on Apple & Spotify Follow us on social media at @PPWBPodcast Watch & comment on YouTube Email us at pastorandphilosopher@gmail.com Cheers!

Original airdate: February 7, 2023 Narcissism, a growing societal issue, is increasingly prevalent in people we know, celebrities, influencers, politicians—and even, from time to time, in ourselves. Its negative impact on society is undeniable. The allure of self-promotion has ensnared many, leading them to adopt personas that are not their own. However, there exists a potent solution that can help us overcome this: humility. Guided by the latest scientific discoveries, Daryl Van Tongeren casts a spotlight on this age-old virtue in his book, 'Humble.' His insights are invaluable in understanding this crucial subject. Daryl R. Van Tongeren, PhD, is an associate professor of psychology at Hope College. As a social psychologist, he has published over 160 scholarly articles, coauthored The Courage to Suffer, and currently serves as associate editor for The Journal of Positive Psychology. His research has been covered by The New York Times, Washington Post, and NPR affiliate radio stations. In this interview, we do a deep dive into humility: how ego has become pervasive in our culture and how we can keep it in check as we advance in our lives and teach it to younger generations. Daryl speaks about the types of humility and how it can build confidence, help us achieve success, and make our world a better and kinder place.

Human beings are meaning-seeking creatures. This search is at the heart of religions all around the world. Over the past century or so, however, religion, especially in the West, has been in decline, and many commentators have marked the rise of the “nones” and “dones”--those who have no religious affiliation and those who have abandoned religion with no intention to return. What factors are behind these shifts? What does the search for meaning in the absence of religion look like? What is spirituality and what is its relevance in our contemporary context? In this episode, I interview a psychologist and philosopher who are trying to make sense of these trends.Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD, is a professor of psychology at Hope College and the director of the Frost Center for Social Science Research. A social psychologist, he has published more than 200 scholarly articles and chapters, and four books, on topics such as religion, meaning in life, and virtues. Most recently, his work has focused on the psychological and social processes of leaving religion and undergoing religious change, culminating in his newest book, Done: How to Flourish After Leaving Religion. His research has been covered by numerous media outlets, including the New York Times, BBC, Hidden Brain, Washington Post, The Atlantic, NPR-affiliated radio stations, Scientific American, and Men's Health. His work has been supported by numerous grants from the John Templeton Foundation, and he has won national and international awards for his research. He is also an associate editor for The Journal of Positive Psychology. He enjoys running, biking, and hiking near where he lives with his wife, Sara, in Holland, MI. David McPherson is Professor of Philosophy in the Hamilton Center for Classical and Civic Education at the University of Florida as well as Affiliate Professor in the Department of Philosophy. McPherson works in the areas of ethics (especially virtue ethics), political philosophy, meaning in life, and philosophy of religion. He is the author of The Virtues of Limits (Oxford University Press, 2022) and Virtue and Meaning: A Neo-Aristotelian Perspective (Cambridge University Press, 2020), as well as the editor of Spirituality and the Good Life: Philosophical Approaches (Cambridge University Press, 2017). McPherson is currently the project leader for a three-year Templeton-funded grant project on “Spiritual Yearning and the Problem of Spiritual Alienation,” which will result in his third book monograph titled Spiritual Alienation and the Quest for God as well as an edited volume titled Spiritual Yearning in an Age of Secularization: Philosophical, Psychological, and Sociological Perspectives.In this second part of our conversation, we talk about:The Search for Meaning and Spiritual YearningSpiritual Alienation and the Struggle for AuthenticityThe Role of Yearning in Psychological GrowthThe Existential Challenge of Living FullySpiritual Practices and the Path to ReceptivityThe Future of Spirituality in a Secular AgeTo learn more about Daryl and his work, you can find him at:Website: http://darylvantongeren.com/Instagram: https://instagram.com/darylvantongeren/X: https://x.com/drvantongerenDone: How to Flourish After Leaving Religion: https://www.apa.org/pubs/books/done To learn more about David and his work, you can find him at:Website: https://davidmcpherson.weebly.com/X: https://Support the show

Human beings are meaning-seeking creatures. This search is at the heart of religions all around the world. Over the past century or so, however, religion, especially in the West, has been in decline, and many commentators have marked the rise of the “nones” and “dones”--those who have no religious affiliation and those who have abandoned religion with no intention to return. What factors are behind these shifts? What does the search for meaning in the absence of religion look like? What is spirituality and what is its relevance in our contemporary context? In this episode, I interview a psychologist and philosopher who are trying to make sense of these trends.Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD, is a professor of psychology at Hope College and the director of the Frost Center for Social Science Research. A social psychologist, he has published more than 200 scholarly articles and chapters, and four books, on topics such as religion, meaning in life, and virtues. Most recently, his work has focused on the psychological and social processes of leaving religion and undergoing religious change, culminating in his newest book, Done: How to Flourish After Leaving Religion. His research has been covered by numerous media outlets, including the New York Times, BBC, Hidden Brain, Washington Post, The Atlantic, NPR-affiliated radio stations, Scientific American, and Men's Health. His work has been supported by numerous grants from the John Templeton Foundation, and he has won national and international awards for his research. He is also an associate editor for The Journal of Positive Psychology. He enjoys running, biking, and hiking near where he lives with his wife, Sara, in Holland, MI. David McPherson is Professor of Philosophy in the Hamilton Center for Classical and Civic Education at the University of Florida as well as Affiliate Professor in the Department of Philosophy. McPherson works in the areas of ethics (especially virtue ethics), political philosophy, meaning in life, and philosophy of religion. He is the author of The Virtues of Limits (Oxford University Press, 2022) and Virtue and Meaning: A Neo-Aristotelian Perspective (Cambridge University Press, 2020), as well as the editor of Spirituality and the Good Life: Philosophical Approaches (Cambridge University Press, 2017). McPherson is currently the project leader for a three-year Templeton-funded grant project on “Spiritual Yearning and the Problem of Spiritual Alienation,” which will result in his third book monograph titled Spiritual Alienation and the Quest for God as well as an edited volume titled Spiritual Yearning in an Age of Secularization: Philosophical, Psychological, and Sociological Perspectives.In this first part of our conversation, we talk about:The four main reasons people leave religionNavigating cognitive dissonance and existential anxietyVirtue ethics and the good lifeWhat is spirituality and do we need it?Spiritual alienationTo learn more about Daryl and his work, you can find him at:Website: http://darylvantongeren.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/darylvantongeren/ X: https://x.com/drvantongeren Done: How to Flourish After Leaving Religion: https://www.apa.org/pubs/books/done To learn more about David and his work, you can find him at: Website: https://davidmcpherson.weebly.com/ X: https://x.com/davidlmcpherson Virtue and Meaning: A Neo-Aristotelian Perspective: Support the show

Over the past few decades the U.S. has become an increasingly less religious country, and many people who grew up with religion have chosen to leave the faith they were raised in. Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD, author of “Done: How to Flourish after Leaving Religion,” talks about the changing religious landscape in the U.S.; what's driving these religious “dones”; the spiritual, social and other challenges they face; and how people rebuild meaning in life after leaving religion. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

John interviews Kelli Butler who is running for election to the Arizona House of Representatives to represent District 4. They talk about politics in Arizona and the upcoming election. Then, he speaks with social psychologist, the director of the Frost Center, and professor of psychology at Hope College, Michigan - Dr. Daryl R. Van Tongeren. They talk about politics, religion, and his new book "Done: How to Flourish After Leaving Religion".See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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This week I had the pleasure of being joined by Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren to discuss his latest book "Done: How to Flourish After Leaving Religion". It is no secret that Americans today are deconstructing and leaving religion in record numbers. This shift comes with a high price as people's entire meaning making system is being taken away from them. How can people who are done with religion find meaning and purpose in the world? How can they process the grief that plagues these religious changes? Daryl draws from extensive research and psychological theories to examine the emotional and social processes involved with religious change and offers science-based guidance for building a new life after religion. Enjoy! RESOURCES: Done: How to Flourish After Leaving Religion DarylVanTongeren.Com THEOLOGY BEER CAMP 2024: It's not too late to snag your tickets to Theology Beer Camp in Denver! Click HERE and use the code RETHINKINGBAGGINS for $50 off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With the U.S. election swiftly approaching, the political divide can feel overwhelming. But what happens when we recognize the limits of our knowledge? Link to episode transcript: https://tinyurl.com/83a5wbkp Episode SummaryWhen we internally acknowledge the limits of our knowledge, we create space to engage with other points of view. Allowing new perspectives in can help us better assess arguments, and decrease hubris. We will hear from psychologists Tania Israel and Daryl Van Tongeren about embracing opinions different from our own.How To Do This PracticeReflect on an issue you feel strongly about. Ask yourself the following questions when listening to someone's opinion that differs from your own: How can other people help me to develop a broader or deeper understanding of this topic? Whose story isn't being told here? What's the perspective I'm not seeing?  Check in with yourself as you're reading the news, are you just saying, “I agree with that perspective” or are there moments in which you can say, “This challenges me.” This episode was supported by a grant from the John Templeton Foundation, as part of our project on “Expanding Awareness of the Science of Intellectual Humility.” To learn more, go to ggsc.berkeley.edu/ih.Today's guests: Our guest host today is Allison Briscoe-Smith, a psychologist and Senior Fellow at The Greater Good Science Center.Tania Israel is a psychology professor at UC Santa Barbara and author of the new book Facing the Fracture: How to Navigate the Challenges of Living in a Divided Nation.Daryl Van Tongeren is a psychology professor at Hope College and author of the book Humble: Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World. Learn more about Allison Briscoe-Smith: https://tinyurl.com/p3eexvkf Take BerkeleyX: Bridging Differences by Allison Briscoe-Smith: https://tinyurl.com/58z9vmvb Read Facing the Fracture: How to Navigate the Challenges of Living in a Divided Nation, by Tania Israel: https://tinyurl.com/yeyw7k6j Read Humble: Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World, by Daryl Van Tongeren: https://www.darylvantongeren.com/books Science of Happiness Episodes like this one:A Way to Make Work More Meaningful: https://tinyurl.com/mtpay9jwThe Questions to Ask Yourself in an Argument: https://tinyurl.com/3uajhp4tWhen It's Hard to Connect, Try Being Curious: https://tinyurl.com/nhzj52vcMaking Difficult Interactions More Respectful: https://tinyurl.com/bddafcrwHappiness Break Related Episodes:A Meditation For Connecting In Polarized Times, With Scott Shigeoka: https://tinyurl.com/y6e4vdsdDirect message us or leave a comment on Instagram @scienceofhappinesspod. You can also e-mail us at happinesspod@berkeley.edu or use the hashtag #happinesspod.Help us share The Science of Happiness! Leave us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or share this link with someone who might like the show: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aap

When we meet new people, we're often drawn to those with a commanding presence or a dazzling personality. But it turns out that a very different trait — humility — is important in the long term. This week, in the first of a two-part discussion, we talk with psychologist Daryl Van Tongeren about different kinds of humility, and how this overlooked quality can play a powerful role in workplace dynamics and romantic relationships. If you like today's episode, be sure to check out part two of our conversation, exclusively for Hidden Brain+ listeners. We talk with Daryl Van Tongeren about existential humility — being open to the idea we might be wrong about life's biggest unknowns. It's the episode called "Asking the Big Questions." To listen to Hidden Brain+ with a free seven-day trial, go to apple.co/hiddenbrain or support.hiddenbrain.org. 

Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren explores the shifting religious landscape in the US, highlighting why people are leaving their faith, how to support clients in this transition, and clinical interventions to aid their journey. Interview with Elizabeth Irias, LMFT. Earn CE credit for listening to this episode by joining our low-cost membership for unlimited podcast CE credits for an entire year, with some of the strongest CE approvals in the country (APA, NBCC, ASWB, and more). Learn, grow, and shine with Clearly Clinical Continuing Ed by visiting https://ClearlyClinical.com.

Nobody likes to hang out with arrogant people. Nobody. And we love stories when “important” people are kind and humble. We even say they're “down to Earth.” But what does it practically mean to be humble? Jay and David talk through professor Daryl Van Tongeren's research into the three Universal features of humility (from his book Humble), and talk about how Jesus not only models these, but how living that out might look in our modern world (which seems to produce a lot of self-centeredness and self-aggrandizing). Also, in a display that can only be classified as “showing off” Jay sings. Speakers: David Tieche + Jay Kim

Today we're bringing you a conversation from "Kelly Corrigan Wonders." As a podcaster, Kelly is a kindred spirit – curious, genuine, caring — and this conversation is from a series about one of TTBOOK's own core values – intellectual humility.  It's about the magic that happens when we stop trying to be right all the time. In this episode, Kelly talks with researcher and academic Daryl Van Tongeren about how we come to conclusions and what, if anything, can interrupt the creation of overconfident, under-researched, ironclad, and divisive by nature convictions. Daryl teaches at Hope College in Michigan and researches the social motivation for meaning and its relation to virtues and morals.

Humility is a quality often associated with self-deprecation. But by championing our achievements while also acknowledging our weaknesses, we could see benefits in many areas of our lives – and even increase our attractiveness. Claudia Hammond hears about this research from Daryl Van Tongeren, associate professor at Hope College in the US and author of ‘Humble: The Quiet Power of an Ancient Virtue', who explores what a humbler world might look like. Mental health is top of the agenda in many companies, though discussions about wellbeing might not be common practice amongst colleagues. But at Grundon Waste Management in Oxfordshire, these conversations are happening - from the tearoom to the workshops - thanks to a course designed by operational training manager, Tex. Claudia takes a trip to the facility to talk to Tex and his colleague Paul about how creating an open culture around mental health has improved their working environment. Claudia is joined in the studio by Daryl O'Connor, professor of psychology at the University of Leeds. He shares some of the latest findings in neuroscience and psychology, including how expressing gratitude could help parental wellbeing, why suppressing negative thoughts might be a useful therapeutic technique and a look at how people can communicate while they're asleep using just their facial expressions. Presenter: Claudia Hammond Producer: Julia Ravey Studio Manager: Tim Heffer Production Co-ordination: Siobhan Maguire Editor: Holly Squire

How much do I need to know about technology to be successful in the workplace? How can AI improve human to human communication? In this episode, Paul answers these questions and more. What You'll Learn: 1. How you can implement technology to improve communication in your organization. 2. How to see challenges as learning opportunities.  3. How to use technology most effectively as a tool. 4. The difference between human intelligence and artificial intelligence. 5. Why a digital strategy has to come from the bottom up. 6. The benefits of being flexible in our role in the workplace. 7. How psychological safety allows for experimentation. Who is Paul Leonardi? At UC Santa Barbara Dr. Leonardi is chair of the technology management department whose programs are all aimed at teaching engineers and other technical leaders how to build and run innovative companies. In addition to his extensive speaking and consulting work, he has published over 80 articles and chapters in peer reviewed journals and management outlets, including Harvard Business Review and Sloan Management Review. He's also the author of three books on innovation and organizational change. And he has won major awards for his research, including from very well respected organizations like the Academy of Management and the American Sociological Association. His most recent book, The Digital Mindset: What It Really Takes to Thrive in the Age of Data, Algorithms, and AI, explores digital literacy, the roles technology can play in our organizations, and how we can adapt with it. Follow Paul: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-leonardi-45b67321/ Mentions: The Digital Mindset: What It Really Takes to Thrive in the Age of Data, Algorithms, and AI by Paul Leonardi and Tsedal Neeley https://www.amazon.ca/Digital-Mindset-Really-Thrive-Algorithms/dp/1647820103  Humble: Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World  by Daryl Van Tongeren https://www.amazon.ca/Humble-Yourself-Traps-Narcissistic-World/dp/1615198571  The Right Kind of Wrong: The Science of Failing Well by Amy Edmondson https://www.amazon.ca/Right-Kind-Wrong-Science-Failing/dp/1982195061  More of Do Good to Lead Well: Website: https://craigdowden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craigdowden --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/craig-dowden/message

Discover the psychological secrets behind why people are leaving behind their faith and quietly quitting church as we sit down with esteemed guests, Dr. Aaron McLaughlin and Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren. In our eye-opening conversation, we dig into their recent study "Losing My Religion," funded by the John Templeton Foundation, which aimed to understand the characteristics, reasons, and mental health of the religious “dones” (individuals who once held religious beliefs but have since walked away from their faith). We explore the four primary reasons why people leave religion: intellectual issues, religious trauma, personal adversity, and social reasons. We also uncover the intriguing "brunch replacement hypothesis," where people who don't prioritize religion pair up with someone who also doesn't prioritize it, eventually opting for brunch over church. Don't miss our discussion on the practical implications of the "Losing My Religion" study for churches and individuals, delving into the need for genuine care and interest in people's stories and the importance of humbly loving our neighbors through their complex journeys.  Tune in now for this enlightening and thought-provoking episode! Bios: Aaron McLaughlin, Ph.D., is a postdoctoral research associate at the Ken Matheny Center for the Study of Stress, Trauma, and Resilience at Georgia State University. His research interests include studying humility and other positive psychology constructs and their relationships with well-being outcomes and cooperation in cross-cultural contexts. Additionally, he is interested in religious and spiritual research for supporting communities' mental health and well-being in intercultural or cross-cultural contexts. Aaron enjoys exploring different ways to brew coffee, going on adventures outside with his family, and being part of their church community.  Daryl Van Tongeren, Ph.D., is an associate professor of psychology at Hope College. A social psychologist, he has over 200 scholarly articles and chapters and three books, including his most recent book, Humble. His research has been covered by numerous media outlets, including The New York Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, NPR-affiliate radio stations, Scientific American, and Men's Health. Darryl's work has been supported by numerous grants from the John Templeton Foundation, and he has won national and international awards for his research. Currently, he is an Associate Editor for The Journal of Positive Psychology and a Consulting Editor for Psychology of Religion and Spirituality and the Journal of Social Psychology. He enjoys running, biking, and hiking near where he lives with his wife.  Resources: Spiritual First Aid certificate course ___________ This episode was produced by Wildfire Creative. Theme Song “Turning Over Tables” by The Brilliance Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify | TuneIn | Stitcher | RSS Follow us on Twitter: @kentannan | @drjamieaten  Follow on Instagram: @wildfirecreative (Note to the listener: In this podcast, sometimes we'll have evangelicals, and sometimes we won't. We believe learning how to “do good, better” involves listening to many perspectives with different insights and understanding. Sometimes it will make us uncomfortable; sometimes we'll agree, and sometimes we won't. We think that's good. We want to listen for correction. Especially in our blind spots.) Jamie Aten, Ph.D., and Kent Annan, M.Div. co-direct the Humanitarian Disaster Institute at Wheaton College and are also the co-founders of Spiritual First Aid. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every so often a researcher comes along and changes the game. Named a Rising Star by the Association for Psychological Science, Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren is doing just that. A leading mind on the science of humility - his work and his new book Humble, have helped debunk many of the myths around this ancient virtue, explaining why humility is a powerful strength at home, at work, in leadership, and how it can lead to thriving relationships.  In this wide ranging and deep conversation Daryl will share more about:The link between humility and authenticity (or feeling at home in our own skin)The myths and misperceptions about humility including that humility is a weakness. The relationship between experiences of awe, big nature, and humilityHumility as a skill - how you can learn to be more humble with dedication, practice, and feedbackWhy humility is best cultivated in communityHow to handle tough feedbackHow to use humility to stay open to learning, to empathy, and to compassionThe case for more humble leaders, why organizations need them, and why employees and teams value humility. And more!More about Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren:Daryl R. Van Tongeren, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Hope College. As a social psychologist, his research focuses on meaning in life, religion, and virtues. He loves asking deep and enduring questions about what it means to be human (darylvantongeren.com). His research has been covered by the New York Times, Chicago Tribune, and NPR. In 2016, he received a Rising Star designation from the Association for Psychological Science. In his free time, he enjoys running marathons and surviving triathlons. You can learn more about Daryl's work at darylvantongeren.com.Did you find this conversation elevating? Here are more episodes we think you'll love:Tal Ben Shahar - Letting go of Perfection and Finding HappinessDr. Jud Brewer - Is Curiosity a Superpower?Enjoying the show? Take a moment and rate it on iTunesFor more on the podcast, and upcoming events and courses with Joshua please visit and sign up for the latest updates: joshuasteinfeldt.comThanks for listening!Support the show

In leadership, how does the concept of humility relate to establishing strong relationships, asserting boundaries, and empathizing with your team to drive success within your organization? In this conversation, Daryl Van Tongeren answers these questions and more. What You'll Learn: 1. Why humility is a key feature in helping relationships and innovation thrive 2. How to identify and avoid falling into the traps of narcissism 3. How to communicate your boundaries 4. Gender differences within humility 5. A 360 approach to seeking out feedback and avoiding cognitive bias 6. How to use empathy to think about the needs of others and establish a humble foundation 7. Modeling humility to establish non-contingent love as a parent Who is Daryl Van Tongeren? Daryl Van Tongeren is an associate professor of psychology at Hope College. He's published over 200 scholarly articles. His research focuses on the social motivation for meaning and its relation to virtues and morality including topics regarding humility, forgiveness, and wellbeing. Mentions: Humble: Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World: https://www.darylvantongeren.com/books Follow Daryl: Website: https://www.darylvantongeren.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/drvantongeren?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor More of Do Good to Lead Well: Website: https://craigdowden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craigdowden/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/craig-dowden/message

Humility can improve your relationships, work & sense of purpose. It's a trait that's been lauded since the Greek gods were pushing it, but more recently it's earned a bit of a bad wrap. So where's the line between humility & door mat? And what's the science behind humility's superpowers?       Dr Daryl Van Tongeren, he's an associate professor at Hope College & the author of Humble; Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic world. You can find the transcript of our conversation here. SUPPORT THE PODCASTSupport the podcast, sign up for bonus content & community, or have your business become a That's Helpful sponsor via Patreon. CONNECT WITH USConnect with That's Helpful & Ed Stott on Instagram & Facebook. Connect with Daryl on Instagram & via his website. BOOKHumble: Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World Got an episode suggestion or feedback for me? Email me - ed@edwinastott.com 

Narcissism is on the rise: it manifests in people we know, celebrities, influencers, politicians—and even, from time to time, in ourselves. The drive to self-promote has seduced many people to become someone they're not.But there is a powerful tool that can help us defeat it: humility. Following the latest science, Daryl Van Tongeren shines a light on this ancient virtue in his book titled “Humble.” He's here to unpack his findings on this very important topic. Daryl R. Van Tongeren, PhD, is an associate professor of psychology at Hope College. As a social psychologist, he has published over 160 scholarly articles, coauthored The Courage to Suffer, and currently serves as associate editor for The Journal of Positive Psychology. His research has been covered by The New York Times, Washington Post, and NPR affiliate radio stations. In this interview, we do a deep dive into humility: how ego has become pervasive in our culture and what we can do to keep it in check as we advance in our lives and teach it to younger generations. Daryl speaks about the types of humility and how it can build confidence, help us achieve success, and make our world a better and kinder place. If you liked what you heard, please don't forget to like, rate, share and subscribe to this podcast. Thank you!

Today's episode kicks off a month long look at intellectual humility - the simple concept that all knowledge is partial. Kelly talks with researcher and academic Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren about how we come to conclusions and what, if anything, can interrupt the creation of overconfident, under-researched, ironclad, and divisive by nature convictions. Daryl teaches at Hope College in Michigan and researches the social motivation for meaning and its relation to virtues and morals. Funding for this episode was provided by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center as part of its "Expanding Awareness of the Science of Intellectual Humility" initiative, supported by the John Templeton Foundation.

This week, Vanessa and Matt explore the theme of Intellectual Humility in Chapter Fourteen of Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire, with some help from Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren! They discuss Snape's cruelty towards Neville, the logic behind Barty Crouch Jr. / Moody's approach to teaching the unforgivable curses, and the early days of S.P.E.W. Throughout the episode we consider the question: how can we use the concept of Intellectual Humility to be more "right-sized" in our everyday lives? Next week we're reading Chapter Fifteen, Beauxbatons and Durmstrang through the theme of Creativity.--It's two sickles to join S.P.E.W., and only two dollars to join our Patreon for extra bloopers every week! Please consider helping us fill our Gringotts vault so we can continue to make this show. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bill Horan talks with Daryl Van Tongeren, author of HUMBLE, who will discuss why he says we should think of humility as being the right size, how we can measure humility, what is the opposite of humility and what are 3 current trends that leave us miserable.

Professor Daryl R. Van Tongeren is back with the full interview on what humility is, why it's important and how we can cultivate more of it. This is a wonderful listen. For more of Daryl's work please head to https://www.darylvantongeren.com/ If you like what we do here and want to be part of the club, why not follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/selfcareclubpod/ YouTube https://youtube.com/c/SelfCareClub TikTok  https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMLnXyS1S/ If you want to send us an email hello@theselfcareclub.co.uk as we love hearing from you.  Studio production by @launchpodstudios Music by purpleplanet.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Humility - What does it look like, how can we foster it and why is it good for our wellbeing? Nicole and Lauren explore the benefits and importance of being humble. Thank you to Daryl Van Tongeren for helping us with this week practice. You can find more of Daryl's work at https://www.darylvantongeren.com/ For the full interview with Daryl pls tune in Sunday 30th October If you like what we do here and want to be part of the club, come follow/find us at Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/selfcareclubpod/ YouTube- https://youtube.com/c/SelfCareClub TikTok- https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMLnXyS1S/ Email- hello@theselfcareclub.co.uk  Website- www.theselfcareclub.co.uk Studio production by @launchpodstudios Music by purpleplanet.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feel Good From Within with Yvette Le Blowitz - #SPAITGIRL Podcast EP.192 - Humble, Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World w/Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD, Social Psychologist, Professor of Psychology, Leading Researcher, Author Humble takes up-to-date cutting-edge scientific research and demonstrates how this undervalued trait has the power to change the way we live, think and act. Humility has long been extolled as an ancient virtue.  However, recent scientific research has revealed what our Ancestors already knew - that humility has the transformative power to change people's lives, their relationships, their work and society itself. Humility stands in stark contrast with the current state of things, offering us a way to engage ourselves and others with honesty, curiosity and open-mindedness, providing us the ability to present our ideas and views modestly, share praise and blame, and consider the needs of others. Humble by Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD is the first book to look at what humility is, why it's important and how to nurture it for personal and societal change in order to build tolerance and bridge divides. In Humble, Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD, a leading researcher into the science of humility, gives this unassuming trait a much-needed rebrand, explaining why the humble enjoy a more secure sense of self, handle challenges better and, indeed, are often the people we like the most. In its truest sense, humbleness is the happy medium between self-denial and self-obsession: it grants the holder an accurate view of reality. By seeing where we have room to improve, we can grow.  By admitting our doubts, we can learn.  And by acknowledging our own worldview as one among many, we can truly connect with others despite our differences. Humility is understated undervalued and very much underused, but understood and carried out effectively, it can be the most powerful and influential trait we have at our fingertips. Yvette Le Blowitz Podcast Host talks with Daryl Van Tongeren Author of Humble to Find Out How We Can Free Ourselves from the Traps of a Narcissistic World. In Podcast Episode - EP.192 Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD shares: - a little bit about himself - insights into his book Humble  - what Humility is and the benefits - how to cultivate Humility - practical ways - traits of a humble person vs narcissistic person - why humility can change your life - how cultivating a more humble perspective, can help to bridge divides, make progress and create a flourishing society, communities and world. - why humility can help create Authentic Relationships - how humility helps with learning, growth, ambition and achievement - why humility can help with reducing feelings of loneliness, anxiety and depression - his own self-care rituals Plus we talk about so much more   Get Ready to TUNE IN  Episode 192 - #spaitgirl Podcast with Yvette Le Blowitz  available on Apple, Spotify, Google, iHeart Radio, Amazon Music, Audible, Libysn - all podcast apps search for #spaitgirl on any podcast app or on google  -------- Available to watch on Youtube Channel - Spa it Girl or Yvette Le Blowitz Press the Play Button Below and subscribe ------ JOIN OUR #SPAITGIRL BOOK CLUB Buy a copy of   **Humble by Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD **pre-order through the spaitgirl podcast affiliated BookTopia link *any book purchase via this link will result in a small commission paid by BookTopia to spaitgirl **thanks for your support for more books search via Booktopia our affiliated online book store  *click here Hashtag #spaitgirlbookclub + tag @spaitgirl to share what book you are currently reading --- STAY IN TOUCH   Podcast Guest Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD Author of Humble  Instagram @darylvantongeren Website www.darylvantongeren.com ------ Podcast Host  Yvette Le Blowitz  Instagram @yvetteleblowitz Website www.yvetteleblowitz.com Website www.feelgoodfromwithin.com Youtube Channel: Yvette Le Blowitz  TikTok: @yvetteleblowitz Become a Podcast Show Sponsor #SPAITGIRL  www.spaitgirl.com Email: info@spaitgirl.com Email: info@feelgoodfromwithin.com www.feelgoodfromwithin.com -- JOIN OUR #SPAITGIRL Community  Instagram: @spaitgirl TikTok: @spaitgirl Sign Up to my Mailing List: www.spaitgirl.com Sign Up to my Mailing List: www.feelgoodfromwithin.com Search for #spaitgirl on any podcast app, youtube and subscribe  -- HOW TO SUPPORT Feel Good From Within with Yvette Le Blowitz - #SPAITGIRL Podcast  Little Random Act of Kindness - podcast show - support - ideas below  - subscribe to the #spaitgirl podcast show on any podcast app or youtube channel  - leave a 5* rating and review  - tell someone about the #spaitgirl podcast show - share your favourite episode - tag @spaitgirl in your stories - hashtag #spaitgirl to share the show &  Together "Let's Feel Good From Within" and #makefeelinggoodgoviral Please note - Affiliated Links included in this spaitgirl.com blog post includes affiliated links with Amazon.com and booktopia.com.au- should you order any books from Amazon.com or Booktopia.com.au via the links contained in this blog post spaitgirl.com will receive a small paid commission fee from the online book stores.  Please note - The information in this podcast is a general conversation between the podcast host and podcast guest and is not intended to replace professional medical advice and should not be considered a substitute for medical treatment or advice from a mental health professional or qualified medical doctor or specialist.  Use of any of the material in this podcast show is always at the listeners discretion.   The podcast host and guest accept no liability arising directly or indirectly from use or misuse of any of the information contained in this podcast show and podcast episode conversation, or any trauma triggered or health concerns associated with it. 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In dieser Podcastfolge spreche ich mit Daryl R. Van Tongeren, PhD, über sein Buch "Demut" (Original auf englisch: "Humble"). Daryl ist Professor für Psychologie am Hope College. Darum wird es gehen: Wie mehr Demut uns glücklicher machen würde Die 3 Merkmale des Demuts Die Schritte, die wir unternehmen können, um demütiger zu werden

Evangelicals and Humility in Multifaith Engagement American Evangelicals are not known for embracing intellectual humility, but there are notable and promising examples. This podcast series explores the topic through the story of how Evangelical Christians and Zen Buddhists in Portland have been able to engage in an intellectually humble exchange of perspectives without compromising their core convictions. The series also includes analysis and commentary from scholars who specialize in the psychology of intellectual humility. As this is time of extreme national polarization on many fronts, this series is especially relevant as it demonstrates that strong religious convictions are not necessarily incompatible with intellectual humility and do not always lead to antagonism between groups. Our hope is that this series is inspiring, and that it demonstrates the need for additional research exploring how those with strong religious convictions develop humility while doing so across worldview-threatening differences. Episode 1: Wes Markofski and the “other evangelicals” Wes Markofski is a sociologist at Carleton College, and author of Multiculural Evangelicalism and Ethical Democracy in America (forthcoming). He discusses his research on “reflexive evangelicals.” Despite popular images of white American Evangelicals as the embodied antithesis of intellectual humility, responsiveness to facts, and openness to the other, Markofski discovered that Evangelicals can and do practice intellectual humility in public life while simultaneously holding fast to particularistic religious convictions. Video: https://youtu.be/ULbFxYiC3qw Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-1-wes-markofski-and-the-other-evangelicals/ Exploring further:  https://tif.ssrc.org/2018/01/11/the-other-evangelicals/ Episode 2: Evangelicals and Zen Buddhists reflect on 20 years of dialogue Members of the Evangelical group New Wine, New Wineskins, and Buddhists from Dharma Rain Zen Center reflect on their twenty years of dialogue and relationships. Two leaders from these religious communities, Paul Louis Metzger and Kyogen Carlson, got together in Portland to discuss religious and political divisions after the 2004 re-election of George W. Bush. The talks then expanded to involve other members of these religious communities through common meals. Video: https://youtu.be/FEBib0emq5k Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-2-evangelicals-and-zen-buddhists-reflect-on-20-years-of-dialogue/ Exploring further: https://tricycle.org/magazine/beloved-community/ Episode 3: Daryl Van Tongeren and the psychology of humility Daryl Van Tongeren is a psychologist at Hope College and a leading researcher on the science of humility. He is the author of Humble: Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World. He defines “intellectual humility,” and discusses the psychological challenges we face in exercising humility, particularly in the context of cultural worldviews where religion is a part of our identity. He also shares his thoughts on how we might develop more empathy and bridge divides. Video: https://youtu.be/tzY-pm8LYkY Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-3-daryl-van-tongeren-and-the-psychology-of-humility/ Exploring further: https://www.workman.com/products/humble/hardback Episode 4: Peter C. Hill and the context of theistic humility Peter Hill is a social psychologist at the Rosemead School of Psychology at Biola University. His unique contribution to humility research is in exploring considerations related to theistic intellectual humility. He discusses how existing concepts related to intellectual humility have not taken account of the way this is experienced and expressed by theists, the importance of emotions, and how strong religious convictions and exclusivism are not necessarily incompatible with theistic intellectual humility. Video: https://youtu.be/9mTci8CYmek Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-4-peter-c-hill-and-the-context-of-theistic-humility/ Exploring further: https://researchoutreach.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Peter-C.-Hill.pdf Podcast series produced by the Evangelical Chapter of the Foundation for Religious Diplomacy/Multifaith Matters. We appreciate the contributions of Wes Markofski, Daryl Van Tongeren, Peter C. Hill, the Dharma Rain Zen Center, and New Wine, New Wineskins. Learn more about our work at https://www.multifaithmatters.org. Support this work One-time donation: https://multifaithmatters.org/donate Become my patron: https://patron.podbean.com #humility #intellectualhumility #multifaith #interfaith #dialogue

Evangelicals and Humility in Multifaith Engagement American Evangelicals are not known for embracing intellectual humility, but there are notable and promising examples. This podcast series explores the topic through the story of how Evangelical Christians and Zen Buddhists in Portland have been able to engage in an intellectually humble exchange of perspectives without compromising their core convictions. The series also includes analysis and commentary from scholars who specialize in the psychology of intellectual humility. As this is time of extreme national polarization on many fronts, this series is especially relevant as it demonstrates that strong religious convictions are not necessarily incompatible with intellectual humility and do not always lead to antagonism between groups. Our hope is that this series is inspiring, and that it demonstrates the need for additional research exploring how those with strong religious convictions develop humility while doing so across worldview-threatening differences. Episode 2: Evangelicals and Zen Buddhists reflect on 20 years of dialogue Members of the Evangelical group New Wine, New Wineskins, and Buddhists from Dharma Rain Zen Center reflect on their twenty years of dialogue and relationships. Two leaders from these religious communities, Paul Louis Metzger and Kyogen Carlson, got together in Portland to discuss religious and political divisions after the 2004 re-election of George W. Bush. The talks then expanded to involve other members of these religious communities through common meals. Video: https://youtu.be/FEBib0emq5k Audio:  http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-2-evangelicals-and-zen-buddhists-reflect-on-20-years-of-dialogue/ Exploring further: https://tricycle.org/magazine/beloved-community/ Episode 1: Wes Markofski and the “other evangelicals” Wes Markofski is a sociologist at Carleton College, and author of Multiculural Evangelicalism and Ethical Democracy in America (forthcoming). He discusses his research on “reflexive evangelicals.” Despite popular images of white American Evangelicals as the embodied antithesis of intellectual humility, responsiveness to facts, and openness to the other, Markofski discovered that Evangelicals can and do practice intellectual humility in public life while simultaneously holding fast to particularistic religious convictions. Video: https://youtu.be/ULbFxYiC3qw Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-1-wes-markofski-and-the-other-evangelicals/ Exploring further:  https://tif.ssrc.org/2018/01/11/the-other-evangelicals/ Episode 3: Daryl Van Tongeren and the psychology of humility Daryl Van Tongeren is a psychologist at Hope College and a leading researcher on the science of humility. He is the author of Humble: Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World. He defines “intellectual humility,” and discusses the psychological challenges we face in exercising humility, particularly in the context of cultural worldviews where religion is a part of our identity. He also shares his thoughts on how we might develop more empathy and bridge divides. Video: https://youtu.be/tzY-pm8LYkY Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-3-daryl-van-tongeren-and-the-psychology-of-humility/ Exploring further: https://www.workman.com/products/humble/hardback Episode 4: Peter C. Hill and the context of theistic humility Peter Hill is a social psychologist at the Rosemead School of Psychology at Biola University. His unique contribution to humility research is in exploring considerations related to theistic intellectual humility. He discusses how existing concepts related to intellectual humility have not taken account of the way this is experienced and expressed by theists, the importance of emotions, and how strong religious convictions and exclusivism are not necessarily incompatible with theistic intellectual humility. Video: https://youtu.be/9mTci8CYmek Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-4-peter-c-hill-and-the-context-of-theistic-humility/ Exploring further: https://researchoutreach.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Peter-C.-Hill.pdf Podcast series produced by the Evangelical Chapter of the Foundation for Religious Diplomacy/Multifaith Matters. We appreciate the contributions of Wes Markofski, Daryl Van Tongeren, Peter C. Hill, the Dharma Rain Zen Center, and New Wine, New Wineskins. Learn more about our work at https://www.multifaithmatters.org. Support this work One-time donation: https://multifaithmatters.org/donate Become my patron: https://patron.podbean.com #humility #intellectualhumility #multifaith #interfaith #dialogue

Evangelicals and Humility in Multifaith Engagement American Evangelicals are not known for embracing intellectual humility, but there are notable and promising examples. This podcast series explores the topic through the story of how Evangelical Christians and Zen Buddhists in Portland have been able to engage in an intellectually humble exchange of perspectives without compromising their core convictions. The series also includes analysis and commentary from scholars who specialize in the psychology of intellectual humility. As this is time of extreme national polarization on many fronts, this series is especially relevant as it demonstrates that strong religious convictions are not necessarily incompatible with intellectual humility and do not always lead to antagonism between groups. Our hope is that this series is inspiring, and that it demonstrates the need for additional research exploring how those with strong religious convictions develop humility while doing so across worldview-threatening differences. Episode 3: Daryl Van Tongeren and the psychology of humility Daryl Van Tongeren is a psychologist at Hope College and a leading researcher on the science of humility. He is the author of Humble: Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World. He defines “intellectual humility,” and discusses the psychological challenges we face in exercising humility, particularly in the context of cultural worldviews where religion is a part of our identity. He also shares his thoughts on how we might develop more empathy and bridge divides. Video: https://youtu.be/tzY-pm8LYkY Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-3-daryl-van-tongeren-and-the-psychology-of-humility/ Exploring further: https://www.workman.com/products/humble/hardback Episode 1: Wes Markofski and the “other evangelicals” Wes Markofski is a sociologist at Carleton College, and author of Multiculural Evangelicalism and Ethical Democracy in America (forthcoming). He discusses his research on “reflexive evangelicals.” Despite popular images of white American Evangelicals as the embodied antithesis of intellectual humility, responsiveness to facts, and openness to the other, Markofski discovered that Evangelicals can and do practice intellectual humility in public life while simultaneously holding fast to particularistic religious convictions. Video: https://youtu.be/ULbFxYiC3qw Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-1-wes-markofski-and-the-other-evangelicals/ Exploring further:  https://tif.ssrc.org/2018/01/11/the-other-evangelicals/ Episode 2: Evangelicals and Zen Buddhists reflect on 20 years of dialogue Members of the Evangelical group New Wine, New Wineskins, and Buddhists from Dharma Rain Zen Center reflect on their twenty years of dialogue and relationships. Two leaders from these religious communities, Paul Louis Metzger and Kyogen Carlson, got together in Portland to discuss religious and political divisions after the 2004 re-election of George W. Bush. The talks then expanded to involve other members of these religious communities through common meals. Video: https://youtu.be/FEBib0emq5k Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-2-evangelicals-and-zen-buddhists-reflect-on-20-years-of-dialogue/  Exploring further: https://tricycle.org/magazine/beloved-community/ Episode 4: Peter C. Hill and the context of theistic humility Peter Hill is a social psychologist at the Rosemead School of Psychology at Biola University. His unique contribution to humility research is in exploring considerations related to theistic intellectual humility. He discusses how existing concepts related to intellectual humility have not taken account of the way this is experienced and expressed by theists, the importance of emotions, and how strong religious convictions and exclusivism are not necessarily incompatible with theistic intellectual humility. Video: https://youtu.be/9mTci8CYmek Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-4-peter-c-hill-and-the-context-of-theistic-humility/ Exploring further: https://researchoutreach.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Peter-C.-Hill.pdf Podcast series produced by the Evangelical Chapter of the Foundation for Religious Diplomacy/Multifaith Matters. We appreciate the contributions of Wes Markofski, Daryl Van Tongeren, Peter C. Hill, the Dharma Rain Zen Center, and New Wine, New Wineskins. Learn more about our work at https://www.multifaithmatters.org. Support this work One-time donation: https://multifaithmatters.org/donate Become my patron: https://patron.podbean.com #humility #intellectualhumility #multifaith #interfaith #dialogue

Evangelicals and Humility in Multifaith Engagement American Evangelicals are not known for embracing intellectual humility, but there are notable and promising examples. This podcast series explores the topic through the story of how Evangelical Christians and Zen Buddhists in Portland have been able to engage in an intellectually humble exchange of perspectives without compromising their core convictions. The series also includes analysis and commentary from scholars who specialize in the psychology of intellectual humility. As this is time of extreme national polarization on many fronts, this series is especially relevant as it demonstrates that strong religious convictions are not necessarily incompatible with intellectual humility and do not always lead to antagonism between groups. Our hope is that this series is inspiring, and that it demonstrates the need for additional research exploring how those with strong religious convictions develop humility while doing so across worldview-threatening differences. Episode 4: Peter C. Hill and the context of theistic humility Peter Hill is a social psychologist at the Rosemead School of Psychology at Biola University. His unique contribution to humility research is in exploring considerations related to theistic intellectual humility. He discusses how existing concepts related to intellectual humility have not taken account of the way this is experienced and expressed by theists, the importance of emotions, and how strong religious convictions and exclusivism are not necessarily incompatible with theistic intellectual humility. Video: https://youtu.be/9mTci8CYmek Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-4-peter-c-hill-and-the-context-of-theistic-humility/ Exploring further: https://researchoutreach.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Peter-C.-Hill.pdf Episode 1: Wes Markofski and the “other evangelicals” Wes Markofski is a sociologist at Carleton College, and author of Multiculural Evangelicalism and Ethical Democracy in America (forthcoming). He discusses his research on “reflexive evangelicals.” Despite popular images of white American Evangelicals as the embodied antithesis of intellectual humility, responsiveness to facts, and openness to the other, Markofski discovered that Evangelicals can and do practice intellectual humility in public life while simultaneously holding fast to particularistic religious convictions. Video: https://youtu.be/ULbFxYiC3qw Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-1-wes-markofski-and-the-other-evangelicals/ Exploring further:  https://tif.ssrc.org/2018/01/11/the-other-evangelicals/ Episode 2: Evangelicals and Zen Buddhists reflect on 20 years of dialogue Members of the Evangelical group New Wine, New Wineskins, and Buddhists from Dharma Rain Zen Center reflect on their twenty years of dialogue and relationships. Two leaders from these religious communities, Paul Louis Metzger and Kyogen Carlson, got together in Portland to discuss religious and political divisions after the 2004 re-election of George W. Bush. The talks then expanded to involve other members of these religious communities through common meals. Video: https://youtu.be/FEBib0emq5k Audio: https://youtu.be/FEBib0emq5k Exploring further: https://tricycle.org/magazine/beloved-community/ Episode 3: Daryl Van Tongeren and the psychology of humility Daryl Van Tongeren is a psychologist at Hope College and a leading researcher on the science of humility. He is the author of Humble: Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World. He defines “intellectual humility,” and discusses the psychological challenges we face in exercising humility, particularly in the context of cultural worldviews where religion is a part of our identity. He also shares his thoughts on how we might develop more empathy and bridge divides. Video: https://youtu.be/tzY-pm8LYkY Audio: http://johnwmorehead.podbean.com/e/episode-3-daryl-van-tongeren-and-the-psychology-of-humility/ Exploring further: https://www.workman.com/products/humble/hardback Podcast series produced by the Evangelical Chapter of the Foundation for Religious Diplomacy/Multifaith Matters. We appreciate the contributions of Wes Markofski, Daryl Van Tongeren, Peter C. Hill, the Dharma Rain Zen Center, and New Wine, New Wineskins. Learn more about our work at https://www.multifaithmatters.org. Support this work One-time donation: https://multifaithmatters.org/donate Become my patron: https://patron.podbean.com #humility #intellectualhumility #multifaith #interfaith #dialogue

We will learn: The common barriers that make it hard for us to look at ourselves in an unbiased way.  How to ask for feedback and respond non-defensively.  How to embody humble ambition.  Whatever happened to humility?  Everyone in the world seems to have their personal brand: this is who I am and what I've done and how I look and everyone should follow me. The algorithm feeds our narcissism and as we've heard in several recent episodes, we're literally living in a narcissism epidemic. So if society is built to reward narcissistic behavior, how do we consciously choose to balance out? Today we're talking about how and why to be humble.  Our guest is Daryl Van Tongeren. He says that in its true sense, humbleness is the happy medium between self-denial and self-obsession: It grants the holder an accurate view of reality. By seeing where we have room to improve, we can grow. By admitting our doubts, we can learn. And by acknowledging our own worldview as one among many, we can truly connect with others despite our differences. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/242 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Daryl Van Tongeren has been researching social psychology and the virtue of humility for over ten years. As the first book on humility in the field of psychology, Humble is a milestone in the exploration of the benefits of humility to the individual and to society. This remarkable book shares the foundational research and new ideas about why humility is important, how to nurture it for personal and societal change, and why we need it now more than ever.In this episode Gregory Dobbs talks to Daryl Van Tongeren about the research into social psychology and the the virtue of humility, how humility can work positively with ambition and achievement and transform our ideas about leadership, and why humility can function as a liberating, empowering and revolutionary force.

Daryl Van Tongeren has been researching social psychology and the virtue of humility for over ten years. As the first book on humility in the field of psychology, 'Humble' is a milestone in the exploration of the benefits of humility to the individual and to society. This remarkable book shares the foundational research and new ideas about why humility is important, how to nurture it for personal and societal change, and why we need it now more than ever. In this episode Gregory Dobbs talks to Daryl Van Tongeren about the research into social psychology and the the virtue of humility, how humility can work positively with ambition and achievement and transform our ideas about leadership, and why humility can function as a liberating, empowering and revolutionary force.

Content warning: grief, death, loss, and brief mention of suicide deathToday we're joined by Dr. Jill Harrington, editor of Superhero Grief: the Transformative Power of Loss. She teaches us about grieving styles, the continuing bonds theory, and unpacks some types of loss (such as cumulative & collective loss and ambiguous loss).Jill A. Harrington, DSW, LCSW is an Adjunct Professor for the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, Washington DC Campus (TCSPP-DC) as well as a Part-Time Lecturer for Rutgers University School of Social Work. Dr. Harrington also maintains an active clinical counseling practice in the Greater Washington DC Area. She is one of the first published authors on the subject of bereavement in U.S. military families and she has been a practicing social worker for over twenty years with a special focus on the intersection of trauma, loss, and bereavement. She has published numerous peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, and is the creator & lead editor of the new, creative textbook, entitled, Superhero Grief: The Transformative Power of Loss (2021).Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- the Look Up Conference that Holly mentions in the intro- Holly's upcoming ACPE webinar on April 22nd- Holly mentions Joe Padilla's episode: 88 - Practical Tools for Mental Health Ministry (feat. Joe Padilla)- CXMH ep. 151 - Grief, Certainty, Deconstruction, & Superheroes (feat. James Prescott)- CXMH ep. 131 - Finding Joy Amidst Tragedy (feat. Dr. Angela Gorrell)- CXMH ep. 111 - Thriving in Adversity, Blooming in the Dark (feat. Dr. Michelle Pearce)- CXMH ep. 103 - How We Move Through Suffering (feat. Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren & Sara Showalter Van Tongeren)- CXMH ep. 42 - Everyday Grief & Learning to Feel Feelings (feat. Aundi Kolber)- CXMH ep. 19 - "There are parts of me that will never be completely healed." (feat. Kay Warren)- CXMH ep. 17 - Grief & Loss (feat. John Pavlovitz & Dr. Elizabeth Horn)Connect with Dr. Harrington on Facebook, on Twitter, or get Superhero Grief: The Transformative Power of Loss on Amazon.Quotes:- “As death is permanent, so is our relationship with people we love. So grief is always with us. Always.” (tweet)- “If we love people…we're never going to just ‘let them go' or ‘get over it.'” (tweet)- “Death may end…a physical life, but that relationship never dies. It just changes.” (tweet)- “We need time to process loss. Because loss spurns on change, and change requires us to adapt.” (tweet)- “We need to create a more grief-informed society.” (tweet)Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook!Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect with Holly on her website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.Ways to support CXMH:- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!- give a one-time gift using PayPal- Buy books from previous guests on Bookshop- Do your Amazon shopping through this link- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website.Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down' by Rivers & Robots.

This week' we’re joined by Dr. Joseph Currier to talk about moral injury. In the intro, Robert & Holly talk about funny ways they’ve gotten injured. Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- CXMH 91 - Spiritual Bypassing (feat. Dr. Jesse Fox)- CXMH 103 - How We Move Through Suffering (feat. Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren & Sara Showalter Van Tongeren) Connect with Dr. Currier using his faculty page or email him at jcurrier@southalabama.edu. Buy Joe’s book on Amazon: Addressing Moral Injury in Clinical Practice or Trauma, Meaning, and Spirituality: Translating Research into Clinical Practice. Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook! Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. Connect with Holly on her website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest. Ways to support CXMH:- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!- give a one-time gift using PayPal- Do your Amazon shopping through this link- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support- Listen to the Cxmhunity Spotify playlist here- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website. Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down’ by Rivers & Robots.

Therapeutic approaches that treat suffering as a problem to be fixed are incomplete. In this conversation we talk about flourishing in the midst of suffering by cultivating meaning.

Robert and Holly talk about the one year anniversary of COVID-19 being declared a global pandemic, trauma anniversaries, what we’ve learned over the past year, and how they’re balancing hope with grief right now. Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- Jennifer King’s article A Year Later, The Body Remembers- Adults Reporting Symptoms of Anxiety or Depressive Disorder During COVID-19 Pandemic- Article: Ring Lights And Late Nights: How The Remote Revolution Has Changed The Workforce- CXMH ep. 124 - Nervous Systems, Bottom-Up Safety, & Learning from Each Other (feat. Nia Baker)- CXMH ep. 97 - Navigating Uncertainty During the COVID-19 Crisis (feat. Dr. Inna Khazan)- CXMH ep. 100 - Balancing Working from Home with Intentional Family Time (feat. Dr. Karen Melton & Dr. Sara Perry)- CXMH ep. 103 - How We Move Through Suffering (feat. Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren & Sara Showalter Van Tongeren)- CXMH ep. 116 - Loving Your Neighbor During a Pandemic (feat. Dr. Emily Smith)- CXMH ep. 107 - Why Small Changes Are the Key to Changing Your Brain (feat. Dr. Alex Korb)- CXMH ep. Checking In: How Are We Doing?- CXMH ep. 95 - 3 Shapes of Pain & What Divine Love Has to Say (feat. Seth Haines)- CXMH ep. 96 - Waking Up, How We Numb Our Pain, & Embodying Our Faith (feat. Seth Haines) Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook! Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. Connect with Holly on her website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest. Ways to support CXMH:- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!- give a one-time gift using PayPal- Do your Amazon shopping through this link- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support- Listen to the Cxmhunity Spotify playlist here- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website. Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down’ by Rivers & Robots.

This week we're joined by Dr. Michelle Pearce to talk about her new book Night Bloomers: 12 Principles for Thriving in Adversity. Dr. Pearce talks about those 12 principles, what a 'night bloomer' is, and how we can use adversity to help us grow.   Things we mention/other resources:- the Church Mental Health Summit we talk about in the intro- CXMH ep. 55 - CBT for Christians (feat. Dr. Michelle Pearce)- CXMH ep. 103 - How We Move Through Suffering (feat. Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren & Sara Showalter Van Tongeren)- CXMH ep. 91 - Spiritual Bypassing (feat. Dr. Jesse Fox)   Connect with Dr. Pearce on her website, Instagram, or buy her books on Amazon.   Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook! Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. Connect with Holly on her website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.

As the nation struggles to get control of the COVID-19 outbreak, millions of men and women are experiencing what today's special guests Daryl and Sara Van Tongeren call, "existential suffering." Daryl and Sara, authors of the book The Courage to Suffer, are experts in treating this form of psychological trauma; trauma that occurs when people are hit with a crisis so severe that they can no longer depend on the ideas, beliefs, and expectations that previously guided their lives. It is a period of intense inner turmoil in which people question the very meaning of their existence. Millions are going through this right now with the COVID-19 pandemic. As Daryl and Sara point out, the pandemic is taking such a psychological toll because it amplifies the four main fears that contribute to existential suffering: groundlessness, isolation, identity, and death. The Van Tongerens are here to suggest several practices that anyone can do to get a handle on these fears and ultimately flourish despite them. Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD, is an associate professsor of psychology at Hope College in Holland, Michigan. He is a social psychologist and has published over 150 scholarly articles and chapters on topics such as meaning in life, religion, virtues, relationships and well-being.He is currently an associate editor for The Journal of Positive Psychology and consulting editor for two other publications. Sara Showalter Van Tongeren, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker in the states of Michigan and Virginia. She has more than twelve years of clinical social work experience in settings such as private practice, foster care, inpatient hospitals, outpatient medical clinics, interpartner violence shelters, and behavioral health.Sara specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy, mindfulness, existential psychotherapy, and more.