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Today my friend Jill and I ask each other these four questions on the podcast: 1. Where did you mistakenly find your identity? 2. Where did you used to mistakenly source your worth? 3. What was a lightbulb moment or season that led you to start finding your worth and identity in Christ? 4. What helps you stay rooted in sourcing your worth and identity in Christ? Jill lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and 5 children. She loves her family, singing and writing, working out and being with friends. She also is obsessed with chips and queso.  She is a stay at home, homeschool mama, a podcast host/blogger and a Trained Christian Life Coach who specializes in teaching moms how to dig into God's word and see their life with purpose. Connect with Jill: ⁠Jill's book⁠ ⁠Jill's IG⁠ ⁠Jill's website⁠ ⁠Jill's podcast (The Faith-Full Mama Podcast)⁠ Connect with Nyla: ⁠Nyla's IG ⁠ ⁠Nyla's website⁠ ⁠Nyla's Christian business podcast (Her Holy Hustle Podcast)

In a recent earnings report released by J.Jill, CEO Claire Spofford conveyed a strategic and operational overview to investors. Addressing the evolving consumer trends, she stated: "We started to see our customer become somewhat more discerning with their spend, and we had prepared for a slightly higher promotional holiday period, which didn't play out. However, through strong execution, solid customer reception for our winter assortment and spring preview in the latter half of the quarter, as well as tightly managed expenses, we delivered Q4 results above our expectations." This statement encapsulates J.Jill's ability to navigate swiftly shifting consumer behaviors and is indicative of their operational strategies in the face of market demands. Organizational Performance: Over the years, explicit from long-term trends, J.Jill achieved a notable improvement in operational efficiency. As evidence of their strategic management, sales rose to $605 million, underlining diligent expense management and customer reception to product offerings. Strategic Initiatives: J.Jill's emphasis on bolstering its foundational strength led to a marked advancement in omnichannel capabilities, which revolutionized their product assortment. Initiations such as Pure Jill elements and Wearever Works were critical in translating their brand's vision. The significance placed on customer interaction through inclusive sizing and capsule launches, according to their statements, helped maintain vibrant customer relationships. Consumer Behaviour: J.Jill stated that their strategic execution and product assortment enabled them to navigate customer spending caution effectively. They noticed a discernible growth in their best customer segment due to an increased average spend, frequency, and full-price penetration. Despite macroeconomic uncertainty, the company focused on servicing customer needs and utilizing brand equity to attract new customers. Future Roadmap: J.Jill representatives described their future trajectory as one punctuated by a significant investment to improve customer experience by augmenting omnichannel capabilities. Their strategic plan encompassed store inaugurations and solidifying the customer base using inventive marketing strategies. The company also stated their commitment towards women's empowerment, environmental stewardship, and community contribution. At one point in mapping their future trajectory, CEO Claire Spofford noted, "I think markers, we're heading into what is our big season, and obviously we love the Mother's Day timeframe and moving through spring into summer." This perspective points to the seasonal strengths that the company is looking to capitalize on, bearing in mind the resonance of the brand with its customer base. In summary, J.Jill's performance, strategic orientation towards product assortment, customer experience, and discerning approach to consumer behavior characterizes the unique selling proposition of the company. The distinct investment prospects put forth suggest a potential for growth. However, the realistic potential of these prospects will largely depend upon market trends and the company's ability to meet new consumer demands effectively. Earnings calls provide insights into company strategies and objectives, but should be viewed in the context of the broader marketplace and external impacts that may affect performance. It's this balance between ambition and realistic assessment that will ultimately shape J.Jill's future. JILL Company info: https://finance.yahoo.com/quote/JILL/profile For more PSFK research : www.psfk.com  This email has been published and shared for the purpose of business research and is not intended as investment advice.

Jill is married to her high school sweetheart, Mom of 5, and Gaga of 3. She's a former Special Ed Teacher, HS Special Ed Coordinator, HS Assistant Principal, and HS Principal. Jill is a graduate of the Learning Forward Academy Class of 2019. She recently retired in July of 2022 and is currently figuring out what God has in store for her next! In this episode, we discuss:    Jill's journey through rediscovering herself after retiring from serving schools as a principal The importance of a network to stay positive and strong as well as her journey into education, and  Jill's faith journey as well as how that informs her mentorship philosophy. Connect with Jill: Jill on IG Jill on Facebook Jill's email  Connect with Sarah Johnson: Sarah's Website Sarah on Twitter Sarah on IG Sarah on LinkedIn Sarah on Facebook In AWE Podcast Subscribe to Sarah's Podcast Need a high-energy, authentic presenter for your organization? Contact Sarah Johnson for presentations on Going Beyond Balance, Leadership Foundations, Affirming Purpose, and many more. Review the Podcast The ranking of this show is 100% tied to subscriptions and reviews. You can help amplify more women and reach more who need their messages by subscribing to the show and leaving an honest rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/inawepodcast/message

In this episode, we are speaking with Jill Hedican about her work in the area of obsessive compulsive disorder and the transition from a long career in end of life care. Jill also shares with us specific ways that music therapy is used with OCD clients and where she feels the field is heading in the future. Here is a little more about Jill: Jill is a Certified Music Therapist and Registered Psychotherapist who has been practicing music therapy in the Toronto area for over 20 years. Her contribution to the field included advocacy for the inclusion of music therapy throughout the formation of the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario. With past experience in supporting children with Autism Spectrum Disorder, Jill has spent the bulk of her career at Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre providing music therapy for Veterans at end of life, as well as community patients and their families in a palliative care setting. This past December, she had the opportunity to expand her clinical practice at Sunnybrook and is now developing a music therapy program within the Thompson Anxiety Disorders Centre, home to Canada's only Intensive OCD Treatment Program for clients with severe OCD. How can Beyond the Studio help you as a music therapist? You can now purchase the popular Sing it Girls!® Program for your community! www.singitgirls.ca We offer virtual supervision services with our co-founder, Adrienne Pringle MMT, RP, MTA Learn More Here: https://beyondthestudio.ca/music-therapy-supervision If you need help with your business, Cathy Thompson, co-founder of Beyond the Studio can help! Her new book is The Dandelion: Secrets to Growing Your Successful Business from the Ground Up She also provides 1:1, customized business coaching with 30 years of experience. Learn More Here: https://cathythompson.biz/book

Today my friend Jill and I ask each other these four questions on the podcast: 1. Where did you mistakenly find your identity? 2. Where did you used to mistakenly source your worth? 3. What was a lightbulb moment or season that led you to start finding your worth and identity in Christ? 4. What helps you stay rooted in sourcing your worth and identity in Christ? Jill lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and 5 children. She loves her family, singing and writing, working out and being with friends. She also is obsessed with chips and queso. She is a stay at home, homeschool mama, a podcast host/blogger and a Trained Christian Life Coach who specializes in teaching moms how to dig into God's word and see their life with purpose. Connect with Jill: Jill's book Jill's IG Jill's website Jill's podcast (The Faith-Full Mama Podcast) Connect with Nyla: Nyla's IG Nyla's website Nyla's books Nyla's virtual assistance services Nyla's Christian business podcast (Her Holy Hustle Podcast)

Today my friend Jill and I ask each other these four questions on the podcast: 1. Where did you mistakenly find your identity? 2. Where did you used to mistakenly source your worth? 3. What was a lightbulb moment or season that led you to start finding your worth and identity in Christ? 4. What helps you stay rooted in sourcing your worth and identity in Christ? Jill lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and 5 children. She loves her family, singing and writing, working out and being with friends. She also is obsessed with chips and queso. She is a stay at home, homeschool mama, a podcast host/blogger and a Trained Christian Life Coach who specializes in teaching moms how to dig into God's word and see their life with purpose. Connect with Jill: Jill's book Jill's IG Jill's website Jill's podcast (The Faith-Full Mama Podcast) Connect with Nyla: Nyla's IG Nyla's website Nyla's books Nyla's virtual assistance services Nyla's second podcast (The Intuitive Eating with Jesus Podcast)

Podcast 296: Forced Empathy: A Master Class--Part 2 of 2 Last week you heard part ! of our work witt Zeina, a young professional woman struggling with a conflict with her mom. Zeina feels like her mother is too critical of her, and she finds the criticisms devastating. In today's podcast, you will hear my co therapist, Dr. Jill Levitt, and I, doing Forced Empathy with Zeina, and you will hear the exciting conclusion of the session. I am including the entiere show notes from last week, in case you have not yet reviewed them. Show notes from last week commence here. Today Dr. Jill Levitt and I do live work with Zeina Halim who has been experiencing some intense negative feelings because of her mother's criticisms of her. Zeina is a member of my weekly training group at Stanford and has appeared on the podcast on several previous occasions (Please provide numbers plus link to podcast page on website.) Zeina is one of our small group leaders in our Tuesday training group.  She works with teens and adults in-person in her office in Menlo Park and also provides tele-health sessions for clients living anywhere in California. Dr. Jill Levitt is the co-leader of my Tuesday training group at Stanford and will be my co-therapist today. We hope for some more of the “magic” that frequently appears when we do therapy together. Today's podcast will illustrate a number of teaching points, including these: Forced Empathy: We illustrate exactly how to use this powerful and sophisticated technique. When I first created this technique many years ago, I thought there would be little interest in it, so I rarely taught it in my workshops or training groups. In the past several years, an intense interest in this technique has emerged, so you will get to see exactly how it works. Five Secrets Resistance: There has been great interest in the Five Secrets of Effective Communication that are featured in my book, Feeling Good Together. When used skillfully, they can have a phenomenal effect on any troubled relationship. I am even aware of a case of a woman who was kidnapped at gunpoint by a violent serial rapist who planned to kill her. Out of desperation, she used the Five Secrets I had presented at a workshop he had just attended, and he let her go and turned himself in to the police. The Five Secrets literally saved her life. And yet, many of us stubbornly refuse to use the Five Secrets with family, friends and loved ones. Why do we fight against the very tools that would rapidly bring us peace, love and joy? And what can we do about our own internal “resistance”? The “inner” and “outer” solutions: Whenever you are involved in a conflict with someone, there are two battles raging at the same time. One is the “inner battle” with your own negative thoughts, telling you that you're no good, or that the other person is to blame, and the voice that powerfully urges you to do battle. We approach the “inner battle” with the familiar Daily Mood Log, that helps you pinpoint the distorted messages you are giving yourself. You will see that those messages—the way you talk to yourself when you're upset—are loaded with distortions; such as All-or-Nothing Thinking, Overgeneralizations, Mental Filtering, Discounting the Positive, Mind-Reading, Labeling, Should Statements and Hidden Should Statements, Emotional Reasoning, Other-Blame, and more.In today's session, we do battle with Zeina's distorted thoughts with the Externalization of Voices, arguably one of the most powerful psychotherapy tools ever created. The EAR Checklist / Relationship Journal. The “outer battle” involves the words you use when you respond to the other person's criticisms of you. Here we use the Relationship Journal, another super powerful tools that allows you to analyze your own statements with the EAR Checklist and see the shocking reality that you are creating the very conflict that you are complaining about so vigorously. This involves one of the “Great Death” of the self, which can be profoundly painful, but it also leads to liberation from your self-created misery and the chance for renewed love and connection with the person you feel so alienated from. Two-hour sessions. You can do far more in a single, two-hour session than in many 50 minute sessions scheduled at weekly intervals. I have often said that this is how I always do therapy, and if you have some therapy skills, this model is vastly more effective and cost-effective as well. It puts you under pressure to accomplish something today, right now, and not in the vague or distant future. Uncovering Techniques. You will see how you can use the Man from Mars Technique to uncover more of your patient's negative thoughts and core beliefs. This is just another way of doing the classical “Individual Downward Arrow Technique” that I developed way back in the 1970s. The Acceptance Paradoxes. There is a great deal of talk these days about Acceptance is being an important key in many schools of psychotherapy. But what is acceptance, and how do we teach it to our patients and colleagues? Today's session with Zeina, who has a great interest in Buddhist philosophy and practices, illustrates one of more than 20 paths to acceptance, and this one in particular will teach you the steps in accepting others, especially when you are desperately trying to change them and you are insisting that they “shouldn't” be the way they are! Self-acceptance is always about grasping a gigantic paradox—and that's why I've always called it the Acceptance Paradox, which states: Accepting yourself as you are, warts and all, is actually the greatest change a human being can make. Can you see why this is a paradox? It's because the very moment you accept yourself, everything about you and your world will appear to change. Now here's another acceptance paradox we will explore today. The very moment when you accept another person exactly as she or he is, that person will suddenly change. Of course, that is the exact opposite of what we usually do when we desperately keep trying to “change” them, a strategy that actually forces them to be the very monster you are trying so hard to destroy. By the way, do you know what the plural form of paradox is, when you combine Self- and Other-Acceptance? The plural form is called the Acceptance Paradise. T = Testing is crucial! You cannot do truly effective therapy without the T = Testing. You will find out EXACTLY how effective—or ineffective—you are in every session with every patient. When you listen to the podcasts, you can ask yourself questions like these: How effective are Jill and David being? Will they get good empathy and helpfulness ratings from Zeina? Will we see any reductions in Zeina's powerful negative feelings at the start of the session? Will she make a breakthrough in her relationship with her mother? At the end of the session, you will see the answers to these questions. And if you're a therapist, that kind of powerful and precise information will allow you to grow and learn as a therapist, especially if you approach the information with humility and respect for yourself and your patients. There is almost no limit to the evolution of your therapist skills if you use the T = Testing model I have developed. There is almost no chance for personal growth if you do not use these or similar assessment tools. However, the price of growth is steep. You have to be willing to see your own failures and errors at every session with every patient, and this will often be painful. But this is the pain that can lead to your own personal transformation along with the blossoming of your own superb therapy skills. Today, in Part 1 of the Zeina session, you will hear the T = Testing and E = Empathy parts of the session. Next week, in Part 2, you will hear the very brief A = Assessment of Resistance, which really only included the “Miracle Cure Question: ”What, really, are you, Zeina, hoping for in tonight's session?” You will also hear the amazing M = Methods portion, which will start with Forced Empathy, followed by Externalization of Voices and Five Secrets Practice, along with the final T = Testing and homework assignments for Zeina following the session. Rhonda, Jill, Zeina and I hope you enjoy the podcasts and learn a great deal from them. And we all want to thank you, Zeina for your courageous and brilliant work, sharing your inner self so openly and generously. I believe that sessions like the one our fans will witness today and next week have the potential to provide hope and healing to people around the world, not only today, but for decades to come. At least, that is my hope! I also want to thank you, Jill, for your extraordinary teaching and clinical skills, and for your brilliance and warmth. Thank you for tuning in! Rhonda, Zeina, and David Here is a follow-up note from Zeina Hello David, Jill, and the Tuesday group, Boy, do I have an update for you all! So, at first, I struggled, and I was very worried to have to potentially send an update to the group that may have been disappointing. On Saturday, I saw my mom, and I shared with her the insights that I had in our session. She was appreciative, but I didn't feel very connected to her. I had talked with her about this while she and I were on a walk, and I wondered if maybe walking while talking was taking away some of the intimacy or connection that might have happened if we had been looking at each other while talking. I also noticed that while I was externally behaving somewhat better if my mom criticized me, internally, I still hadn't progressed very far. I would still feel very distant from her; and I still wasn't doing the five secrets. Today, on Sunday, I saw my mom again. While she did not criticize me, we still got into a little bit of an argument. I was a bit angry, but as I let myself cool off, I noticed myself feeling incredibly sad inside--like a sadness that had been building and building over the past few weeks. I tried to talk with my mom about it, but she resisted at first. We had a project that we were working on together today and she thought it would be better if we talked on another day and got back to our project; I insisted, however, and asked that we please talk today. I did not realize it at the time, but I think I had some major hidden emotion stuff happening with my mom (more on this later, perhaps some hidden sadness that was masquerading as anger). I shared with her that I had felt incredibly sad and genuinely worried about our relationship. I recently moved in order to live closer to her and see her more often, but I had noticed that almost every time she came over to visit me at my new place, we would get into an argument at least once. I shared that these arguments had really been weighing on me and worrying me. I also told her that I noticed that we would get into arguments when we were at my place, but not as much when I visited her at her place, maybe because I am so particular about how I like things to be at my place. She, then, said in a very gentle and loving way, "I think ‘particular' about your space is the operative word here." I realized that she was totally right, and I was so pleasantly surprised by how gentle and loving she was when she said it. Feeling encouraged by how the conversation was going, I shared more and said that I had noticed that I had become more sensitive around our arguments lately and that I was feeling very disconnected from her, and I didn't know how to get reconnected with her. I also shared that I had been feeling lonely in my life in general lately and made a guess that maybe my loneliness was making me expect more from our relationship. Additionally, I also guessed that I might be feeling more drained emotionally because I am doing more hours of therapy per week than I have ever done in my life, and maybe I had yet to find the right balance of how to recreate and regenerate my energy in my off-hours. I shed many tears all throughout this whole conversation. I checked in with myself and noticed that I was feeling more connected to my mom, but there felt like there was still more, particularly about my loneliness. This next paragraph might seem like a major tangent, but hang in there!--I promise it is all connected :) Then, I switched gears a little bit to share with her a different conversation and insight I had had in the past week or so about my recent feelings of loneliness. I had been having a conversation with my very dear friend, James, about how I had been feeling lonely, but was not feeling as drawn to connecting with most of my girlfriends, but only really drawn to my guy friends. Initially, I thought it was a male-female difference, but then I noticed that I was feeling drawn to my new friend Leigh Harrington, who is female. I realized that maybe the difference had more to do with the fact that almost all my male friends and Leigh were quite funny and playful people, whereas most of my girlfriends were more serious people. As for myself, I tend to be a more serious person and am not as funny or playful as many people. I realized that I was relying on other people for my laughter, playfulness and fun, rather than learning how to create that myself. Having just done some flirting training with Matthew May earlier that week, I saw that humor, like flirting, can be a learned skill and might have more to do with a willingness to take risks than an innate quality that people either have or don't have. I was feeling excited that I could learn to be funnier and flirtier and create more laughter in my life, instead of relying on other funny people for this. I shared all of this with my mom. She then went on to make a further connection that really blew me away. She said, "I bet if you start to be funnier and create more laughter for yourself and others, you will also start to feel less lonely." It felt so true! The times I feel most connected to people are when I am laughing with them. THIS is the kind of relationship and connection with my mom that I had been missing lately--when I share deeply with her and, because she knows me so well, she is able to further my insight and understanding of myself and help me to grow. I feel so connected to her now. I realize now that I think part of my resistance to using the 5 secrets with my mom was maybe a hidden emotion component--I had these deep feelings and worries about our relationship; I was confused if moving closer to her had actually helped our relationship or if it was harming it, and I was genuinely missing these kinds of deep, connecting conversations with her, which we had not had in a while. My mom has been hanging out at my place all day today and now I notice myself being easily loving and patient with her and my being "particular" about my things and my space has vanished--at least temporarily! There are a lot of take-aways for me from this whole thing, but one of the biggest ones is that I think I was trying to do five secrets without really fully going into my "I feel" statements as much as I needed to--I feel statements are often the secret that I neglect the most as a person and as a therapist. So, to connect to what we are doing this week in class, I think I would make a guess that when I ignore the five secret that I need to do the most and struggle with, it can hamper my ability to do the rest of the five secrets effectively and genuinely. I could write a lot more about all of this, but I think I will stop here for now. I hope this wasn't too confusing as I know I touched on a lot of different things. Thank you all for your time and attention. I'm open to comments or questions. Warmly, Zeina Here is a reply to Zeina from one of the Stanford Tuesday group members Gosh! Zeina, this is beautiful and so straight from the heart. Takes immense courage to do a deep dive in exploring oneself. I have been marveling at how meticulously you‘ve sifted through and worked towards addressing the different dimensions of the relationship between you and your mum. You are also an amazing raconteur, you've brought out the subtle nuances so beautifully! Your mail took me on an emotional roller coaster ride. It was such a compelling read and had me as a captive co-traveler, holding my breath, and crossing my fingers! I loved your insights on the “I feel”. Reading that was a personal breakthrough for me, where my relationship with my mum is concerned. That's exactly what is missing in our relationship too … whoaaaaa! I just don't share my feelings with her! I love how you were able to do that though, because I can feel this huge wave of resistance engulfing me, despite my insight. I know I'm not yet ready to take the next step! Funny, how tough it can be to be vulnerable before one's own mom! More power to you Zeina for ‘daring greatly' and taking the next step after the Tuesday class. Also, for keeping us posted and for sharing with us in such a detailed manner, and in the process, helping us all learn and grow. Deep regards for your mum as well. She comes across as a tenacious mother of a tenacious daughter … if I may say so. Warmly, Nivedita. Here is a second follow-up from Zeina. Hello David, Jill and Tuesday group, I just wanted to send another update as my relationship with my mom has continued to evolve in quite beautiful and magical ways since I sent this last email.  It seems to me that maybe she has stopped criticizing me entirely--I'm not quite sure.  Maybe I need to pay more attention.  Perhaps if she does criticize me, she does it in a gentler way or maybe I am less sensitive to it.  All I know is that she has been wonderfully supportive of me in these past few weeks and we have not gotten into a single argument.  Our relationship suddenly seems easy in a way that I have never experienced before.  I am so profoundly grateful.  I know that we will probably relapse at some point and this may not last forever, but, now I know this is possible.  Now, I know my way back here.  I have always wanted a relationship like this with my mother, and I always thought it wasn't possible because of who she was as a person. Little did I know that to have the mother I always wanted, I needed to do the changing. I knew that the 5 secrets were powerful, but I had thought that their power was more confined to a single interaction or the moment when you use them.  I don't know that I have been especially good at practicing the 5 secrets with my mom lately, yet the effect seems to keep lasting and lasting. I am truly speechless at the profound transformation that has happened.  Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I would love any responses! Zeina Here is some of the feedback from the training group in the section, “What did you like the best about today's training session?” Jill's thoughtfulness in selecting the Forced Empathy technique over the Relationship Journal. Jill looked at what had worked in the past for Zeina and saw it as a potential strategy for her current concerns and the result was tremendously positive. I loved the training! I loved watching forced empathy and I began to empathize with a close relative simply by watching Zeina empathize with her mom. I was crying throughout. It is hard to describe how touched I was Zeina's honesty and her responses to forced empathy was amazing! Amazing personal work. Entire session was great learning experience for me. How Forced Empathy brought the shift in Zeina's way of thinking. I really enjoy witnessing the live sessions including this one with Zeina. Seeing how the totality of the model comes together in real time with the clinician's judgment and intuition guiding the specific process is really enlightening and seeing someone's beliefs shift in real time is very inspiring and moving. It was a really nice way to re-join the larger group and I'm glad to hear that went into David's thinking in scheduling it. I really like the Forced Empathy. Zeina had a lot of resistance at the beginning. However, She shed tears during doing the Forced Empathy. I also like the role reversal when doing the Externalization voices. I can always learn how to deal with the difficulties of life from David and Jill's wisdom. The whole thing was so great. I was really moved by the forced empathy. I always LOVE seeing forced empathy modeled to get better at this complex skill, and I am also, like many others, almost always blown away with how powerful it is. I also thought this was a great example of multiple paths (individual mood and relationship work) and multiple methods being all used in one two-hour session so skillful and masterful. I loved the open ended approach and the ongoing exploration until the goal was formed/explored/ discovered. For me, it was a demonstration of trust in the process. I especially liked David's "The Man From Mars" that seemed to me an amazing tool with sorting out the mess of relationship work. I also loved Forced Empathy especially here with the work on mother daughter's relationship. I am really intrigued to explore it for myself in regard to my relationship with my parents and my daughter. Seeing the whole encounter with Zeina and seeing how Jill and David thought through it together, it was all so organic and incredible to witness Very helpful to see the progression of the session. Zeina's session has been a gift not only to us, but also to our mothers. Forced empathy felt like a pivot point in treatment and I loved that Z was able to go deep and connect with her mother's feelings. I have plans to travel and visit my mother next month and have been feeling anxious about it. I was reminded of the unconditional love of a mother that is beautiful and spiritual. David and Jill did amazing and transformational work. This is so inspiring! I liked everything and how the methods and techniques were woven together very skillfully. Personal work is really the best and so gratifying to see. David made a comment at the end about how it would help with motivation to use the skills and work more on them after seeing them in action and I do agree with his comment even if I'm totally not paraphrasing correctly. I LOVE personal work because it bring these skills to life in a way that role plays don't. and of course, it's all the better that someone gets a personal benefit, that's all good too. David and Jill did an amazing job again! However, Zeina's honesty and vulnerability was the greatest gift during this session. I could relate to her struggle as well, so I was extra impressed about her determination to work on this issue. It was amazing personal work for me. I feel so grateful for this experience. This was another example of the "magic" of TEAM, especially when the therapists are the incredibly skilled Jill and David. What a great, vulnerable and poignant example of relationship issues with a parent. I was very impressed and moved by the power of the Forced Empathy technique. By Zeina's ability to feel into the point of view of her mother, and her insights and connections, especially around how the times of criticism can be seen as opportunities for greater acceptance and love. Moving and really beautiful personal work!!! I was moved to tears when Zeina cried her mother's tears during the Forced Empathy exercise and said "I need her to accept me as I am." Wow--that was so powerful! And as for so many others, this experience felt super relevant and helpful to me for one of my own important relationships, and I'm feeling excited to try out Sergio's approach on my own loved one. Forced Empathy: I loved all of it! So helpful and informative to witness live work. I immediately got why the “what's my grade?” question was skipped (since the use of the Forced empathy technique had yielded such powerful results). I am eager to try this with a particular client who is having similar issues with their mom. On a more personal level, I felt extremely close to Zeina and seeing how vulnerable and open she was willing to be. This has melted away a lot of my resistance in using the 5 secrets with my own mom. Thank you Zeina! I liked seeing the "visitor from Mars" used to uncover Zeina's thoughts when David was having trouble understanding what the issue was. It was great to see David feeling a little "lost" and see how he worked through that. Watching the Forced Empathy technique was amazing! I also appreciated when Jill offered several options for which direction to go and explained her rationale. I found it to be a helpful learning moment and also liked the warmth that came across. I saw my mom's critical behavior as coming from love-brought tears. Same for my Dad Zeina did really powerful and enlightening work! It was also a great learning experience to observe David & Jill. I have enjoyed listening to and learning wonderful techniques from Jill and David. I can definitely relate to parent's/child criticism conflict myself, so I have learned some methods of effective communication, empathy skills, especially the opposite empathy (where you step into the shoes of a person you have a conflict with) and learn to empathize strongly vs feeling frustrated and having blame thoughts I love every time we do personal work. I always learn and grow so much personally and professionally. Thank you, Zeina for this amazing gift, and thank you, David and Jill for your masterful work. I loved every moment of it! Amazing personal work! I enjoyed the entire process. I appreciated the partnership between David and Jill. I so appreciated Zeina's work and vulnerability. I like David's creative way of doing the Ind. Downward arrow using "man from Mars" perspective. I liked getting to see, again, the power of Forced Empathy, as it illuminated how we create the very behavior in the other, that we then complain about. I loved how Zeina surrendered to doing the Forced Empathy exercise with such wonderful openness. I loved the seamless way Dr Burns and Jill moved between the methods. And Zeina's courage to be vulnerable. Had an aha moment myself - of course her mother will criticize her because the last thing she wants is for Zeina to have disastrous finances like her own. It shows deep love and caring Another Master Class! I loved watching David and Jill working with Zeina. Change the Focus is just an amazing Method. I appreciate Zeina's vulnerable disclosures. Such generosity is much appreciated. This is an amazing group, and I feel privileged to learn from such sophisticated practitioners, who are so generous with their insights and decades' worth experiences. Some days I just can't believe my luck to be with such heartfelt, dedicated, compassionate and wise folks! I very specifically like seeing a long personal work session...the big picture seeing the whole session. Thank you! I learned so very much and how things smooth into each other as session progresses. It was great seeing Forced Empathy demonstrated as I've never seen it before and learned so much from the overall training with Zeina, David and Jill. So glad Zeina was willing to be so vulnerable; really appreciated at the end when she said she felt pressure to empathize with her mom if she was vulnerable with her and mom laid it on thick, was wondering the same exact thing in that very moment! Loved how David diffused that for her and put less pressure on how she would handle it! So grateful to be part of this awesome group where I am growing and learning every moment! The hi quality demonstration of Five Secrets empathy by David and Jill Jill's patience. David waiting for AHA MOMENTS and pointing them out and best of all ZEINA! Personal work is always insightful. I really like the forced empathy technique. I also enjoyed the display of creativity and flexibility of the team model. Amy would regularly explain that it was a model to be used creatively and it's exciting to know there is so much to learn. It can be adapted to each individual. Viewing therapy as a series of skills to learn rather than a step-by-step instructional book is what makes me really love TEAM. Loved how Dr Burns used the individual downward arrow so seamlessly during the empathy phase. Dr Burns empathy too was spot on when he said to Zeina that "she could not lean on her Mom." This one line was really powerful for me and resonated deeply. Loved Jill's internal solution as well as the forced empathy option along with the option of working on the good reasons not to do the 5 secrets. Jill was on a roll with her empathy ... "feels like you're walking on eggshells and don't know what will hurt her." I also liked Jill's disclosure about the times she gets critical with her boys are times when she is most concerned about them. Also liked Jill highlighting how Zeina practicing the Five Secrets was not working at a point because she was not using enough feeling empathy unlike as when doing the Forced Empathy  

Podcast 295: Forced Empathy: A Master Class--Part 1 of 2 Podcasts 294 (Part 1) and 295 (Part 2) Forced Empathy: A Master Class Today Dr. Jill Levitt and I do live work with Zeina Halim who has been experiencing some intense negative feelings because of her mother's criticisms of her. Zeina is a member of my weekly training group at Stanford and has appeared on the podcast on several previous occasions (Please provide numbers plus link to podcast page on website.) Zeina is one of our small group leaders in our Tuesday training group.  She works with teens and adults in-person in her office in Menlo Park and also provides tele-health sessions for clients living anywhere in California. Dr. Jill Levitt is the co-leader of my Tuesday training group at Stanford and will be my co-therapist today. We hope for some more of the “magic” that frequently appears when we do therapy together. Today's podcast will illustrate a number of teaching points, including these: Forced Empathy: We illustrate exactly how to use this powerful and sophisticated technique. When I first created this technique many years ago, I thought there would be little interest in it, so I rarely taught it in my workshops or training groups. In the past several years, an intense interest in this technique has emerged, so you will get to see exactly how it works. Five Secrets Resistance: There has been great interest in the Five Secrets of Effective Communication that are featured in my book, Feeling Good Together. When used skillfully, they can have a phenomenal effect on any troubled relationship. I am even aware of a case of a woman who was kidnapped at gunpoint by a violent serial rapist who planned to kill her. Out of desperation, she used the Five Secrets I had presented at a workshop he had just attended, and he let her go and turned himself in to the police. The Five Secrets literally saved her life. And yet, many of us stubbornly refuse to use the Five Secrets with family, friends and loved ones. Why do we fight against the very tools that would rapidly bring us peace, love and joy? And what can we do about our own internal “resistance”? The “inner” and “outer” solutions: Whenever you are involved in a conflict with someone, there are two battles raging at the same time. One is the “inner battle” with your own negative thoughts, telling you that you're no good, or that the other person is to blame, and the voice that powerfully urges you to do battle. We approach the “inner battle” with the familiar Daily Mood Log, that helps you pinpoint the distorted messages you are giving yourself. You will see that those messages—the way you talk to yourself when you're upset—are loaded with distortions; such as All-or-Nothing Thinking, Overgeneralizations, Mental Filtering, Discounting the Positive, Mind-Reading, Labeling, Should Statements and Hidden Should Statements, Emotional Reasoning, Other-Blame, and more. In today's session, we do battle with Zeina's distorted thoughts with the Externalization of Voices, arguably one of the most powerful psychotherapy tools ever created. The EAR Checklist / Relationship Journal. The “outer battle” involves the words you use when you respond to the other person's criticisms of you. Here we use the Relationship Journal, another super powerful tools that allows you to analyze your own statements with the EAR Checklist and see the shocking reality that you are creating the very conflict that you are complaining about so vigorously. This involves one of the “Great Death” of the self, which can be profoundly painful, but it also leads to liberation from your self-created misery and the chance for renewed love and connection with the person you feel so alienated from. Two-hour sessions. You can do far more in a single, two-hour session than in many 50 minute sessions scheduled at weekly intervals. I have often said that this is how I always do therapy, and if you have some therapy skills, this model is vastly more effective and cost-effective as well. It puts you under pressure to accomplish something today, right now, and not in the vague or distant future. Uncovering Techniques. You will see how you can use the Man from Mars Technique to uncover more of your patient's negative thoughts and core beliefs. This is just another way of doing the classical “Individual Downward Arrow Technique” that I developed way back in the 1970s. The Acceptance Paradoxes. There is a great deal of talk these days about Acceptance is being an important key in many schools of psychotherapy. But what is acceptance, and how do we teach it to our patients and colleagues? Today's session with Zeina, who has a great interest in Buddhist philosophy and practices, illustrates one of more than 20 paths to acceptance, and this one in particular will teach you the steps in accepting others, especially when you are desperately trying to change them and you are insisting that they “shouldn't” be the way they are! Self-acceptance is always about grasping a gigantic paradox—and that's why I've always called it the Acceptance Paradox, which states: Accepting yourself as you are, warts and all, is actually the greatest change a human being can make. Can you see why this is a paradox? It's because the very moment you accept yourself, everything about you and your world will appear to change. Now here's another acceptance paradox we will explore today. The very moment when you accept another person exactly as she or he is, that person will suddenly change. Of course, that is the exact opposite of what we usually do when we desperately keep trying to “change” them, a strategy that actually forces them to be the very monster you are trying so hard to destroy. By the way, do you know what the plural form of paradox is, when you combine Self- and Other-Acceptance? The plural form is called the Acceptance Paradise. T = Testing is crucial! You cannot do truly effective therapy without the T = Testing. You will find out EXACTLY how effective—or ineffective—you are in every session with every patient. When you listen to the podcasts, you can ask yourself questions like these: How effective are Jill and David being? Will they get good empathy and helpfulness ratings from Zeina? Will we see any reductions in Zeina's powerful negative feelings at the start of the session? Will she make a breakthrough in her relationship with her mother? At the end of the session, you will see the answers to these questions. And if you're a therapist, that kind of powerful and precise information will allow you to grow and learn as a therapist, especially if you approach the information with humility and respect for yourself and your patients. There is almost no limit to the evolution of your therapist skills if you use the T = Testing model I have developed. There is almost no chance for personal growth if you do not use these or similar assessment tools. However, the price of growth is steep. You have to be willing to see your own failures and errors at every session with every patient, and this will often be painful. But this is the pain that can lead to your own personal transformation along with the blossoming of your own superb therapy skills. Today, in Part 1 of the Zeina session, you will hear the T = Testing and E = Empathy parts of the session. Next week, in Part 2, you will hear the very brief A = Assessment of Resistance, which really only included the “Miracle Cure Question: ”What, really, are you, Zeina, hoping for in tonight's session?” You will also hear the amazing M = Methods portion, which will start with Forced Empathy, followed by Externalization of Voices and Five Secrets Practice, along with the final T = Testing and homework assignments for Zeina following the session. Rhonda, Jill, Zeina and I hope you enjoy the podcasts and learn a great deal from them. And we all want to thank you, Zeina for your courageous and brilliant work, sharing your inner self so openly and generously. I believe that sessions like the one our fans will witness today and next week have the potential to provide hope and healing to people around the world, not only today, but for decades to come. At least, that is my hope! I also want to thank you, Jill, for your extraordinary teaching and clinical skills, and for your brilliance and warmth. Thank you for tuning in! Rhonda, Zeina, and David Contact information for Jill and Zeina: please provide what you want to have included in the show notes. Here is a follow-up note from Zeina Hello David, Jill, and the Tuesday group, Boy, do I have an update for you all! So, at first, I struggled, and I was very worried to have to potentially send an update to the group that may have been disappointing. On Saturday, I saw my mom, and I shared with her the insights that I had in our session. She was appreciative, but I didn't feel very connected to her. I had talked with her about this while she and I were on a walk, and I wondered if maybe walking while talking was taking away some of the intimacy or connection that might have happened if we had been looking at each other while talking. I also noticed that while I was externally behaving somewhat better if my mom criticized me, internally, I still hadn't progressed very far. I would still feel very distant from her; and I still wasn't doing the five secrets. Today, on Sunday, I saw my mom again. While she did not criticize me, we still got into a little bit of an argument. I was a bit angry, but as I let myself cool off, I noticed myself feeling incredibly sad inside--like a sadness that had been building and building over the past few weeks. I tried to talk with my mom about it, but she resisted at first. We had a project that we were working on together today and she thought it would be better if we talked on another day and got back to our project; I insisted, however, and asked that we please talk today. I did not realize it at the time, but I think I had some major hidden emotion stuff happening with my mom (more on this later, perhaps some hidden sadness that was masquerading as anger). I shared with her that I had felt incredibly sad and genuinely worried about our relationship. I recently moved in order to live closer to her and see her more often, but I had noticed that almost every time she came over to visit me at my new place, we would get into an argument at least once. I shared that these arguments had really been weighing on me and worrying me. I also told her that I noticed that we would get into arguments when we were at my place, but not as much when I visited her at her place, maybe because I am so particular about how I like things to be at my place. She, then, said in a very gentle and loving way, "I think ‘particular' about your space is the operative word here." I realized that she was totally right, and I was so pleasantly surprised by how gentle and loving she was when she said it. Feeling encouraged by how the conversation was going, I shared more and said that I had noticed that I had become more sensitive around our arguments lately and that I was feeling very disconnected from her, and I didn't know how to get reconnected with her. I also shared that I had been feeling lonely in my life in general lately and made a guess that maybe my loneliness was making me expect more from our relationship. Additionally, I also guessed that I might be feeling more drained emotionally because I am doing more hours of therapy per week than I have ever done in my life, and maybe I had yet to find the right balance of how to recreate and regenerate my energy in my off-hours. I shed many tears all throughout this whole conversation. I checked in with myself and noticed that I was feeling more connected to my mom, but there felt like there was still more, particularly about my loneliness. This next paragraph might seem like a major tangent, but hang in there!--I promise it is all connected :) Then, I switched gears a little bit to share with her a different conversation and insight I had had in the past week or so about my recent feelings of loneliness. I had been having a conversation with my very dear friend, James, about how I had been feeling lonely, but was not feeling as drawn to connecting with most of my girlfriends, but only really drawn to my guy friends. Initially, I thought it was a male-female difference, but then I noticed that I was feeling drawn to my new friend Leigh Harrington, who is female. I realized that maybe the difference had more to do with the fact that almost all my male friends and Leigh were quite funny and playful people, whereas most of my girlfriends were more serious people. As for myself, I tend to be a more serious person and am not as funny or playful as many people. I realized that I was relying on other people for my laughter, playfulness and fun, rather than learning how to create that myself. Having just done some flirting training with Matthew May earlier that week, I saw that humor, like flirting, can be a learned skill and might have more to do with a willingness to take risks than an innate quality that people either have or don't have. I was feeling excited that I could learn to be funnier and flirtier and create more laughter in my life, instead of relying on other funny people for this. I shared all of this with my mom. She then went on to make a further connection that really blew me away. She said, "I bet if you start to be funnier and create more laughter for yourself and others, you will also start to feel less lonely." It felt so true! The times I feel most connected to people are when I am laughing with them. THIS is the kind of relationship and connection with my mom that I had been missing lately--when I share deeply with her and, because she knows me so well, she is able to further my insight and understanding of myself and help me to grow. I feel so connected to her now. I realize now that I think part of my resistance to using the 5 secrets with my mom was maybe a hidden emotion component--I had these deep feelings and worries about our relationship; I was confused if moving closer to her had actually helped our relationship or if it was harming it, and I was genuinely missing these kinds of deep, connecting conversations with her, which we had not had in a while. My mom has been hanging out at my place all day today and now I notice myself being easily loving and patient with her and my being "particular" about my things and my space has vanished--at least temporarily! There are a lot of take-aways for me from this whole thing, but one of the biggest ones is that I think I was trying to do five secrets without really fully going into my "I feel" statements as much as I needed to--I feel statements are often the secret that I neglect the most as a person and as a therapist. So, to connect to what we are doing this week in class, I think I would make a guess that when I ignore the five secret that I need to do the most and struggle with, it can hamper my ability to do the rest of the five secrets effectively and genuinely. I could write a lot more about all of this, but I think I will stop here for now. I hope this wasn't too confusing as I know I touched on a lot of different things. Thank you all for your time and attention. I'm open to comments or questions. Warmly, Zeina Here is a reply to Zeina from one of the Stanford Tuesday group members Gosh! Zeina, this is beautiful and so straight from the heart. Takes immense courage to do a deep dive in exploring oneself. I have been marveling at how meticulously you‘ve sifted through and worked towards addressing the different dimensions of the relationship between you and your mum. You are also an amazing raconteur, you've brought out the subtle nuances so beautifully! Your mail took me on an emotional roller coaster ride. It was such a compelling read and had me as a captive co-traveler, holding my breath, and crossing my fingers! I loved your insights on the “I feel”. Reading that was a personal breakthrough for me, where my relationship with my mum is concerned. That's exactly what is missing in our relationship too … whoaaaaa! I just don't share my feelings with her! I love how you were able to do that though, because I can feel this huge wave of resistance engulfing me, despite my insight. I know I'm not yet ready to take the next step! Funny, how tough it can be to be vulnerable before one's own mom! More power to you Zeina for ‘daring greatly' and taking the next step after the Tuesday class. Also, for keeping us posted and for sharing with us in such a detailed manner, and in the process, helping us all learn and grow. Deep regards for your mum as well. She comes across as a tenacious mother of a tenacious daughter … if I may say so. Warmly, Nivedita. Here is a second follow-up from Zeina. Hello David, Jill and Tuesday group, I just wanted to send another update as my relationship with my mom has continued to evolve in quite beautiful and magical ways since I sent this last email.  It seems to me that maybe she has stopped criticizing me entirely--I'm not quite sure.  Maybe I need to pay more attention.  Perhaps if she does criticize me, she does it in a gentler way or maybe I am less sensitive to it.  All I know is that she has been wonderfully supportive of me in these past few weeks and we have not gotten into a single argument.  Our relationship suddenly seems easy in a way that I have never experienced before.  I am so profoundly grateful.  I know that we will probably relapse at some point and this may not last forever, but, now I know this is possible.  Now, I know my way back here.  I have always wanted a relationship like this with my mother, and I always thought it wasn't possible because of who she was as a person. Little did I know that to have the mother I always wanted, I needed to do the changing. I knew that the 5 secrets were powerful, but I had thought that their power was more confined to a single interaction or the moment when you use them.  I don't know that I have been especially good at practicing the 5 secrets with my mom lately, yet the effect seems to keep lasting and lasting. I am truly speechless at the profound transformation that has happened.  Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I would love any responses! Zeina Here is some of the feedback from the training group in the section, “What did you like the best about today's training session?” Jill's thoughtfulness in selecting the Forced Empathy technique over the Relationship Journal. Jill looked at what had worked in the past for Zeina and saw it as a potential strategy for her current concerns and the result was tremendously positive. I loved the training! I loved watching forced empathy and I began to empathize with a close relative simply by watching Zeina empathize with her mom. I was crying throughout. It is hard to describe how touched I was Zeina's honesty and her responses to forced empathy was amazing! Amazing personal work. Entire session was great learning experience for me. How Forced Empathy brought the shift in Zeina's way of thinking. I really enjoy witnessing the live sessions including this one with Zeina. Seeing how the totality of the model comes together in real time with the clinician's judgment and intuition guiding the specific process is really enlightening and seeing someone's beliefs shift in real time is very inspiring and moving. It was a really nice way to re-join the larger group and I'm glad to hear that went into David's thinking in scheduling it. I really like the Forced Empathy. Zeina had a lot of resistance at the beginning. However, She shed tears during doing the Forced Empathy. I also like the role reversal when doing the Externalization voices. I can always learn how to deal with the difficulties of life from David and Jill's wisdom. The whole thing was so great. I was really moved by the forced empathy. I always LOVE seeing forced empathy modeled to get better at this complex skill, and I am also, like many others, almost always blown away with how powerful it is. I also thought this was a great example of multiple paths (individual mood and relationship work) and multiple methods being all used in one two-hour session so skillful and masterful. I loved the open ended approach and the ongoing exploration until the goal was formed/explored/ discovered. For me, it was a demonstration of trust in the process. I especially liked David's "The Man From Mars" that seemed to me an amazing tool with sorting out the mess of relationship work. I also loved Forced Empathy especially here with the work on mother daughter's relationship. I am really intrigued to explore it for myself in regard to my relationship with my parents and my daughter. Seeing the whole encounter with Zeina and seeing how Jill and David thought through it together, it was all so organic and incredible to witness Very helpful to see the progression of the session. Zeina's session has been a gift not only to us, but also to our mothers. Forced empathy felt like a pivot point in treatment and I loved that Z was able to go deep and connect with her mother's feelings. I have plans to travel and visit my mother next month and have been feeling anxious about it. I was reminded of the unconditional love of a mother that is beautiful and spiritual. David and Jill did amazing and transformational work. This is so inspiring! I liked everything and how the methods and techniques were woven together very skillfully. Personal work is really the best and so gratifying to see. David made a comment at the end about how it would help with motivation to use the skills and work more on them after seeing them in action and I do agree with his comment even if I'm totally not paraphrasing correctly. I LOVE personal work because it bring these skills to life in a way that role plays don't. and of course, it's all the better that someone gets a personal benefit, that's all good too. David and Jill did an amazing job again! However, Zeina's honesty and vulnerability was the greatest gift during this session. I could relate to her struggle as well, so I was extra impressed about her determination to work on this issue. It was amazing personal work for me. I feel so grateful for this experience. This was another example of the "magic" of TEAM, especially when the therapists are the incredibly skilled Jill and David. What a great, vulnerable and poignant example of relationship issues with a parent. I was very impressed and moved by the power of the Forced Empathy technique. By Zeina's ability to feel into the point of view of her mother, and her insights and connections, especially around how the times of criticism can be seen as opportunities for greater acceptance and love. Moving and really beautiful personal work!!! I was moved to tears when Zeina cried her mother's tears during the Forced Empathy exercise and said "I need her to accept me as I am." Wow--that was so powerful! And as for so many others, this experience felt super relevant and helpful to me for one of my own important relationships, and I'm feeling excited to try out Sergio's approach on my own loved one. Forced Empathy: I loved all of it! So helpful and informative to witness live work. I immediately got why the “what's my grade?” question was skipped (since the use of the Forced empathy technique had yielded such powerful results). I am eager to try this with a particular client who is having similar issues with their mom. On a more personal level, I felt extremely close to Zeina and seeing how vulnerable and open she was willing to be. This has melted away a lot of my resistance in using the 5 secrets with my own mom. Thank you Zeina! I liked seeing the "visitor from Mars" used to uncover Zeina's thoughts when David was having trouble understanding what the issue was. It was great to see David feeling a little "lost" and see how he worked through that. Watching the Forced Empathy technique was amazing! I also appreciated when Jill offered several options for which direction to go and explained her rationale. I found it to be a helpful learning moment and also liked the warmth that came across. I saw my mom's critical behavior as coming from love-brought tears. Same for my Dad Zeina did really powerful and enlightening work! It was also a great learning experience to observe David & Jill. I have enjoyed listening to and learning wonderful techniques from Jill and David. I can definitely relate to parent's/child criticism conflict myself, so I have learned some methods of effective communication, empathy skills, especially the opposite empathy (where you step into the shoes of a person you have a conflict with) and learn to empathize strongly vs feeling frustrated and having blame thoughts I love every time we do personal work. I always learn and grow so much personally and professionally. Thank you, Zeina for this amazing gift, and thank you, David and Jill for your masterful work. I loved every moment of it! Amazing personal work! I enjoyed the entire process. I appreciated the partnership between David and Jill. I so appreciated Zeina's work and vulnerability. I like David's creative way of doing the Ind. Downward arrow using "man from Mars" perspective. I liked getting to see, again, the power of Forced Empathy, as it illuminated how we create the very behavior in the other, that we then complain about. I loved how Zeina surrendered to doing the Forced Empathy exercise with such wonderful openness. I loved the seamless way Dr Burns and Jill moved between the methods. And Zeina's courage to be vulnerable. Had an aha moment myself - of course her mother will criticize her because the last thing she wants is for Zeina to have disastrous finances like her own. It shows deep love and caring Another Master Class! I loved watching David and Jill working with Zeina. Change the Focus is just an amazing Method. I appreciate Zeina's vulnerable disclosures. Such generosity is much appreciated. This is an amazing group, and I feel privileged to learn from such sophisticated practitioners, who are so generous with their insights and decades' worth experiences. Some days I just can't believe my luck to be with such heartfelt, dedicated, compassionate and wise folks! I very specifically like seeing a long personal work session...the big picture seeing the whole session. Thank you! I learned so very much and how things smooth into each other as session progresses. It was great seeing Forced Empathy demonstrated as I've never seen it before and learned so much from the overall training with Zeina, David and Jill. So glad Zeina was willing to be so vulnerable; really appreciated at the end when she said she felt pressure to empathize with her mom if she was vulnerable with her and mom laid it on thick, was wondering the same exact thing in that very moment! Loved how David diffused that for her and put less pressure on how she would handle it! So grateful to be part of this awesome group where I am growing and learning every moment! The high quality demonstration of Five Secrets empathy by David and Jill Jill's patience. David waiting for AHA MOMENTS and pointing them out and best of all ZEINA! Personal work is always insightful. I really like the forced empathy technique. I also enjoyed the display of creativity and flexibility of the team model. Amy would regularly explain that it was a model to be used creatively and it's exciting to know there is so much to learn. It can be adapted to each individual. Viewing therapy as a series of skills to learn rather than a step-by-step instructional book is what makes me really love TEAM. Loved how Dr Burns used the individual downward arrow so seamlessly during the empathy phase. Dr Burns empathy too was spot on when he said to Zeina that "she could not lean on her Mom." This one line was really powerful for me and resonated deeply. Loved Jill's internal solution as well as the forced empathy option along with the option of working on the good reasons not to do the 5 secrets. Jill was on a roll with her empathy ... "feels like you're walking on eggshells and don't know what will hurt her." I also liked Jill's disclosure about the times she gets critical with her boys are times when she is most concerned about them. Also liked Jill highlighting how Zeina practicing the Five Secrets was not working at a point because she was not using enough feeling empathy unlike as when doing the Forced Empathy  

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Oh hey, Self Lovers! Today's episode is specifically made for you if you love astrology or want to learn more about it. We are joined by the goddess of astrology, the founder of spirit daughter, Jill Wintersteen.   We also talk about how she grew her brand, spirit daughter, from 0 to 1.9 million followers on instagram and how Jill manages to deal with haters/trolls on social media that come with owning a platform like spirit daughter.    TIMESTAMPS   3:25 - What makes Jill ‘Jill'? 5:01 - Overwhelm due to Social Media Fame 7:00 - Managing social media haters 10:06 - Jill's Origin Story  16:42 - Starting from 0 Followers  19:46 - How to not use astrology as a strict rule book 25:41 - We are not really strangers 31:02 - Jill's next step  33:43 - The Importance of Lunar Cycle  42:28 - What does self love mean to you? 45:18 - How to reach out to Jill 45:56 - Final things to share   EPISODE LINKS     If you're #obsessed with Jill  Checkout her website - https://www.spiritdaughter.com/ Instagram - @spiritdaughter Just search spirit daughter on any platform and you'll find her   Dm me on Instagram: @PaulFishman Youtube: Paul Fishman TikTok: @Paul.Fishman Website: PaulFishman.Love

Reduce stress, overcome anxiety and depression, improve the quality of your sleep and regulate your emotions with this new app, JabuMind for educators. Jill Manly is co-founder of JabuMind and a Certified iRest Teacher. She is also an award-winning author and illustrator of children's books that have been translated and distributed in 5 continents as part of Social and Emotional Learning Curricula. She taught children in elementary schools in Saudi Arabia, Japan and Eswatini.    Before starting JabuMind, Jill owned Jabulani Yoga Studio in Corona del Mar, California. She created and led youth yoga programs for the City of Newport Beach in California and at local elementary schools. Her desire to promote emotionally healthy and compassionate education tools led her to start JabuMind. She joined educators, administrators and mental health specialists who shared her belief in the importance of caring for the classroom teachers.    “44% of new teachers leave the field within the first 5 years.” (2018) University of Pennsylvania Graduate School of Education; National Teacher Principal Survey   In this episode you will learn: How JabuMind helps teachers with stress, anxiety, sleep to manage their mental health. The iRest method Jill's team is deeply committed to improving the health and well-being of teachers. They believe that a teacher sets the tone for the whole classroom, and that happy, successful teachers lead to happy, successful students. If they can help keep talented teachers in the profession by making their wellness a priority, whole communities will reap the benefits. https://jabumind.com/ - A Mindfulness app for teachers to enhance mental health. Reduce stress, overcome anxiety and depression, improve the quality of your sleep and regulate your emotions More about Jill -  Jill is an award-winning author and illustrator of children's books; they are translated and distributed in 5 continents as part of Social and Emotional Learning Curricula. She has taught elementary school children in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia; Okayama, Japan; and Mbabane, Eswatini. She earned her BA in French Literature from Pomona College and completed language training in comprehensive Italian at Department Of State Language Center, Roslyn, VA. Before starting JabuMind, Jill owned Jabulani Yoga Studio in Corona del Mar, CA. She created and led youth yoga programs for the City of Newport Beach, CA and at local elementary schools. She is passionate about teaching, learning, and sharing. She is a certified iRest teacher. She practices and teaches somatic yoga, iRest, and yoga nidra. Her desire to promote emotionally healthy and compassionate education tools led her to start JabuMind. She joined educators, administrators and mental health specialists who shared her belief in the importance of caring for the classroom teachers. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her adult daughters and teenage sons and coaching High School Girls Basketball. She likes to practice mindfulness and meditate next to her large Italian Sheepdog. More about the Host - Dr. Karin Jakubowski is an elementary public school principal and certified life coach. She is passionate about helping moms first take care of themselves to be their best for their kids. She helps moms with a problem solving process when their child is experiencing challenging behaviors. She practices mindfulness personally and at school teaching students breathing and awareness techniques to help them manage their own stress to be happy and healthy! CLICK HERE for Karin's new course: Happy Kids, Not Perfect Kids! https://www.educationalimpactacademy.com/offers/j9e5YPfP   www.educationalimpactacademy.com YouTube - Educational Impact Academy Facebook Page - Happy Mom's, Happy Kids @educationalimpactacademy Instagram - JakubowskiKarin Twitter - @KarinJakubowski  

We're still working on a new season of Radicals & Revolutionaries Lab for your listening pleasure, but while you wait, why not revisit some old favorites? We're proud to re-air this episode as we look back on the roots of this show.For pennies a day, you can become a patron of the Radicals & Revolutionaries Lab podcast and join a growing global movement of feminist badasses dedicated to radically authentic, intentional, and interconnected feminism. If you've been secretly dreaming of joining our community, now is the time baby. Go to ContinuumCollective.org for more. ________________________________________________________________________________________This week features the radical Jill Louise Busby, whose work interrogates illusions of societal progress and the ever-present need for honesty, even amongst our flaws. Join by Continuum's Jillian Foster, Jill offers a candid perspective into her evolution as a creative and a thought leader, touching on everything from capitalism to gradualism to owning our own hypocrisy. Self-aware and revolutionary in her honesty, Jill poses challenging questions and conundrums to listeners. She leaves us with unique insight into the complexity of this moment, of celebrity, and of self-care. Be sure to check out Jill's book, Unfollow Me, featuring a collection of essays on all of these topics coming out in September 2021.Connect with Jill:Jill's WebsiteFollow Jill on InstagramPre-order Jill's book See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“Not what goes into the mouth defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man.” Matthew 15:11You see, the Pharisees were criticizing Jesus and they said:“Why do Your disciples transgress the tradition of the elders? For they do not wash their hands when they eat bread.” Matthew 15:2And that is when Jesus said it is not what goes into the mouth, it is what comes out of the mouth that counts. Today, we need to make sure that our words are sweet because we might have to eat them one day. Count to ten before you say something you may regret later on in life. It is not what goes into the mouth remember, that causes harm, but rather what comes out of the mouth which can break or make a person.The power of life and death in the tongue!You know, every morning when I wake up the first thing I say, I turn over and I say to my wife Jill: “Jill, I love you!” I have been saying that for close to fifty years and she loves it because I mean it. The power of praise.Thank God for the new day, thank Him that the sun came up today. The first thing we do when we wake up - that's right! I have a friend and I love phoning him, do you know why? Because every time I phone him I say to him: “How are you today, Tommy?”And he says, “Angus, I am just so well.”And I don't think he is always well but that is what he says - such a positive person to speak to. Remember, it doesn't matter what happens. God is in control! I remember reading an article about a mountain climber from Australasia. He had been told by the doctors that he only had months to live so he thought to himself, “What do I have to lose?” - So he got on a ship and he came to South Arica, he climbed some of the most dangerous peaks in the mighty Drakensberg mountains and he conquered them. And do you know that that man had nothing to fear because he thought if he fell off the mountain he was going to die anyway... but that man lived to over 80 years old I believe.Look at that honey badger - I saw a beautiful documentary of the little African honey badger, what a brave little animal! He took on a rinkhals, a cobra. The cobra bit him and he killed the cobra, then he lay down next to the cobra and he cuddled himself up and he went to sleep. When he woke up the next morning he was 100 percent - The venom had not penetrated him because he was totally relaxed and at peace... and do you know what he did then? He ate the cobra, from the head right down to the tail.Today, be careful what you say because you can really hurt a person or you can really make their day.Tell your son you love him and you are proud of him.Tell your wife that she is the most beautiful woman in the world.Tell your husband that you feel so secure when you are with him.Tell people that Jesus Christ is coming back very soon and we have nothing whatsoever to fear - Be like Paul who said:“For to me, to live is Christ, and to die is but gain.”Philippians 1:21How can you frighten a Christian with Heaven - It's impossible!Have a wonderful day.God bless you and goodbye.

This week features the radical Jill Louise Busby, whose work interrogates illusions of societal progress and the ever-present need for honesty, even amongst our flaws. Join by Continuum’s Jillian Foster, Jill offers a candid perspective into her evolution as a creative and a thought leader, touching on everything from capitalism to gradualism to owning our own hypocrisy. Self-aware and revolutionary in her honesty, Jill poses challenging questions and conundrums to listeners. She leaves us with unique insight into the complexity of this moment, of celebrity, and of self-care. Be sure to check out Jill’s book, Unfollow Me, featuring a collection of essays on all of these topics coming out in September 2021.Connect with Jill:Jill's WebsiteFollow Jill on InstagramPre-order Jill’s book See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On this episode Ms. Jill Garvin, Wing Director of Psychological Health, speaks with Ms. Sue Andersen about suicide loss and resources for grief management. Ms. Sue Andersen is the board president of the Samaritans and a certified yoga teacher. She hosts classes and workshops helping those who’ve experienced loss to 'Move Your Grief'. Sueandersenyoga.com ------SCRIPT------ Jill: hello everybody this is Jill Garvin I am the director of psychological health for the 102nd intelligence swing today for our wellness podcast I have a guest and her name is Sue Anderson I know Sue from the samaritan she's the board president of the samaritans she's it's a local support organization they have a crisis line we've talked about it on this podcast before they have several support services groups around suicide loss. Sue is also a yoga teacher and coach working with people who have experienced loss and that are grieving she offers a lot of yoga classes and workshops and we'll talk a little bit about how she got into that and at the end of the podcast we will give some information around some of the workshops and classes she has to offer and for the 102nd as well. Sue is also a suicide loss survivor who lost her son Ian and so i've asked her to share a little bit of her story and things that might have helped her along her grieving journey and again it's always important for us to have this conversation here at the 102nd as we try to reduce stigma and encourage people to seek help as quickly as possible. so welcome Sue thank you for being here today with me. Sue: thank you so much Jill Jill: yeah if you don't mind love to hear a little bit about about your son Ian how old was he when he died Sue: he was 25 and this was nine years ago this april and it was a shock you know he did have some some issues mental health issues very stressed but you know we never expected that he would die by suicide and at the time uh he was living in Rhode Island and we were here on the cape so you know there was a lot of it was it was an interesting time I would say because people down here on the cape where we were living didn't know him and so but everybody that we knew in Rhode Island you know where where we had lived previously of course knew him but I found probably a month after he died a resource that was an online forum called the alliance of hope for suicide loss survivors and one of the first recommendations that I got from somebody there was a breathing exercise and it was about you know inhale to a count of four exhale to account an inhale to a count of three exhale to a count of four and the idea was to you know just first of all that keeps your mind busy when you're saying when you're counting right but also just keep that regular breath because you get breathless you know in grief and stress and anxiety and I found that just so so helpful and then after that I began taking a yoga class locally and I had done yoga previously actually encouraged by my son but mostly that was from an exercise standpoint and now I was um going to the classes really for more about the breathing and the meditation so it was that's that was how I kind of got into it and that as I mentioned the the breathing was one of the first things that I found incredibly helpful at the beginning of the of my grief journey Jill: I think almost every the last few podcasts we've had we've actually talked about breathing techniques and the benefits to our nervous system and stress and anxiety so yeah another great example of how it could help you through such a traumatic time Sue: right right and it's I guess you don't really think about because we don't think about breathing because that's what we do but you notice when you're when you start these other breathing techniques how you know you're you really open up your chest opens up for example you know your lungs open up a lot more and one of the things that I noticed about me was I would describe to people probably the first year or year and a half maybe longer that I had a cloud stuck in my chest that's what it felt like you know and so the breathing you I could feel every time you know a little bit of an opening a little bit of an opening you know so that was you know it was really profound and really helpful for me Jill: yeah it sounds like it thank you for sharing that yeah I i am curious I don't know it's it's a difficult subject but just what were some of your reactions and how did you deal with them in addition to the breathing and the reason I ask is you know a lot of people think that you know grief is very linear and we go through these certain stages and that's not true you know it's messy it's different for everyone and so I try as much as I can here to sort of normalize whatever your reaction is is normal given to the abnormal event or whatever the sudden loss that happened Sue: yeah absolutely I mean I am i'm an outgoing person so I like connection with other people but for me initially I did not want to go to any kind of groups it just wasn't something that was it didn't feel right you know it didn't settle right with me right away and so I just did one-on-one counseling which was which was very helpful to me and I did a lot of reading you know of just all kinds of different books about grief Jill: yeah I was going to ask ask you about that as well because I like to give people recommendations of books that might be helpful are there any that stand out to you that are helpful with grief Sue: with the the one and i'm i'm going to forget the name of it but there is a book that I got right away before I tell you the name of it I just want to say that one of the things that happens to it happened to me and I think happens to a lot of people that are grieving is that you can't concentrate so getting a book sometimes you can't read it or you're not absorbing it your mind's not there right there is a book that is by I believe her name is Martha Whitmore Hickman and it's a men it's meditations it's a very small book you know footprint is it's a very small size but it's short little meditations that you daily absorb exactly daily meditations I think it's actually called daily meditations for grief and that's one of the first books and that is a book that I give to people that I know that have of are grieving because I feel like that's something that you can you can retain you can absorb that information Sue: other books that I read um that were helpful one is by um Annie Lamont andi it's help pray some I can't remember the last word but it's three words in the title um and then there were just other you know grieving loss of a child there's another book that I really like I believe it's out of print it's called seven choices and that book I found extremely helpful you know later on in in my grief probably the second second year or third year Jill: yeah Sue: was extremely helpful so I think for me it was a it was a mix depending on what the you know what felt right I did eventually go to grief groups I got involved in some suicide loss day kinds of events and activities survivor's day activities I did walks and you know gradually I had to find different ways to work things out you know one of the things that was also helpful to me was to was rituals so for example you know my son was engaged at the time so I had all of these ideas of life events you know that I would be participating in with him or you know that weren't gonna happen so I actually did a little ritual to to let go of those things where I you know went to the ocean wrote things on paper and threw it in there so those kinds of things you know were very helpful I think you have to find what works you know to get the the most important thing is to get is to move the grief out and and that's going to be journaling helps you know I do a lot of writing and then a lot of moving you know Jill: I liked what you said around moving you know and it never of course goes away and you never get over it but the importance of moving through it and working through it and learning how to deal with it and that's how a lot of people will develop post-traumatic stress disorder because often some of us want to avoid those feelings and and we do things to distract like drinking or spending or or doing other things that don't allow us to to move through those really uncomfortable feelings and eventually yeah that can really turn into something you know complicated grief and much more and much more serious so it sounds like you found what worked for you and helped you move and things that brought you comfort and a little bit of not resolve but you know just allowed you to to sit with the grief a little bit more Sue: yeah and you know I think I heard this description of grief being like a river where sometimes things are free-flowing and sometimes there's the log in the middle that that dams everything up and you've got to figure out a way to get rid of that log so you can be you know you can be fine for an hour or a day or whatever you can you know laugh and then you why am I laughing you know so there's there are a lot of things that you experience but I think it's important at least for me it was important to find ways to release the grief out of me whether that was talking or writing or physical movement or breath work and then sharing with other people I think is is really really helpful you know not to be afraid to do that Jill: I was going to ask you that about connection and the importance of that and if you met other mothers and other parents that had lost children and that had lost children to suicide so that's a very powerful support to help you in your grief it sounds like Sue: yes absolutely and my actually two of my college friends both lost children one as a young boy and the other one her son was 18. so they were there for me as support but I also found just um you know people that were uh just in just grieving in general or or had lost someone but maybe they were further along in their grief that were you know very comforting it just it's it's nice to make that connection because then you feel like you can talk to somebody I think no matter who you've lost in your life it's nice to be able to connect with somebody that has a similar experience sometimes you don't want to or either you don't want to talk about for example I might not want to talk about my son with people that maybe are you know like they're they don't want they're nervous about hearing about my son even if I want to talk about something that was fun you know or funny about them whereas other people might be more open because they've experienced something it doesn't frighten them so it's scary you know to people that haven't experienced grief to you know or something like a loss of a child to be talking to somebody who experienced that so they get nervous about it you have to I don't know kind of give people a little bit of a break Jill: yeah i've talked to a lot of different grievers that you know will share something like that and they know who's uncomfortable with it you know they'll be at the grocery store and see a neighbor somebody they've known forever and they just turn and go the other way because they don't know how to bring it up and maybe it's going to make you feel worse maybe it's going to make it worse you know so people don't say anything and they avoid it it's always one of the things i've done here too is try to offer suggestions for people on what to say to others that are grieving and even what not to say we have here at the 102nd a lot of our members have worked here for a very long time and they've known each other for many years and and their families and so there's naturally been been a lot of loss as well and so yeah I try to just give people a little bit of information on here's what you can say and here's what isn't so helpful to say was there anything that somebody said to you or that you could suggest it is not helpful to say especially like I know how you feel that's a big one Sue: well and this wasn't appropriate for me because ian was my only child but I remember one of my college roommates um she had cancer she died young we were in our 20s and I remember her mom telling me that people were saying to her well you have two other children and you know the mother was it was like what you know so right people try to mean well but they don't you know they don't sometimes really realize what they're saying um I think just you know asking how are you today Jill: yeah Sue: you know not not the general like oh how are you but like how are you doing today gives you know the person the opportunity to say oh i'm you know today's a good day Jill: right Sue: or today is a bad day you know something like that the other thing that's um I think is nice to do is you know and this is of course depending on how well you know somebody but you know is to talk about something that happened that was you know funny so the person that um that you're grieving the person that left you know oh my gosh remember this funny thing that happened or give you the opportunity to talk about that because i'm talking about something that funny that happened with you know with my you know best friend or my son or whatever somebody who's passed away and and then you you know you would be able to say something too so just having that opportunity to talk about the person I think is important but not talk about don't feel like you have to talk about the sadness Jill: right the death you can talk about their life yeah Sue: yeah and and again sometimes that's hard you have to kind of gauge what you know what's happening Jill: what would you say is i'm sure there are many things but what do you miss most about about Ian and what do you remember the most Sue: well his laugh you know he was he was a little bit of a jokester you know so that's that I remember very very demonstrative you know in love hug you know a person that liked to hug so I definitely missed that he had uh a lot of friends and but you know that i'm still friends with a lot of these friends which is really nice you know there's they're still in my life Jill: helped you stay connected Sue: yeah it helped me stay connected and I think was was good or is good for both of us you know certainly was good early on but yeah so that's that's what I you know miss and remember you know certainly Jill: yeah and I liked what you said about being able to share joyful memories and and more about their life not necessarily their death and other people sharing that with you because they knew him and that's a connection to Ian Sue: right Jill: so when somebody shares with you a funny story that is very nice for you and comforting for you Sue: right yeah exactly exactly sometimes I think it's harder for people that you know when you're in a community i'll speak in terms of losing a child when you're in a community that everybody knows you and knew your child then sometimes they don't know it's it's more it's an a more awkward situation they really don't know what to say because for me because my son no was in a different state people didn't know him because we moved here you know after he was a teenager you know it was in a sense a little bit easier because I didn't have people that didn't want to talk to me in the grocery store because they all they only knew me you know and and they knew me just from the neighborhood or you know a gym class or something like that you know they didn't really know me as the family that grew up in the kids in school and all of that kind of history so I think sometimes that's a little bit harder for people and it doesn't matter whether it's a child or a husband or a sister you know wife whatever I think sometimes it that is a little bit more difficult it just that i've heard from other people Jill: thank you for sharing that yeah that's helpful so it sounds like you started utilizing breathing techniques and you got into yoga and and learning how to be in your your body and and how and that really helped your grief tremendously and the other thing I want to talk about is I know that now you help a lot of others Sue: yes Jill: by offering what helped you to the community so can you tell us a little bit about your workshops and classes and how you kind of started doing that Sue: yeah sure so I practiced yoga for probably five years before I took my teacher training and over that time over the teacher training and as I began to teach different classes I found that I was drawn to classes that were maybe a little bit more gentle that were slower that allowed the participant the student to really just relax and you know have that opportunity to meditate and just you know kind of get into their own head you know and and have that find that time because we don't really get a lot of that time for stillness and silence and and that I saw was very beneficial to a lot of people as I got involved with the samaritans which was four years ago in april Sue: I also got involved in some other organizations that another organization here on the cape called sharing kindness and that kind began to shape a little bit more of these special classes that I was doing or workshops that were associated with or i'm sorry working with people that are grieving and combining the breath work gentle movements and restorative yoga to help people have that opportunity to um you know get um get some of that energy negative energy out with movement and then that relaxing uh piece of it and restorative so so that really over the last couple of years is where is where that's come in and i've taken a couple of additional trainings in that area to you know figure out what are the best poses to use and things like that so I have um on my website now i've got a page that's specific to grief and loss and it has resources there there's also another resource page that I have that has additional videos of classes recorded classes Jill: what is your website Sue: it's Sue Anderson which is a-n-d-e-r-s-e-n-yoga dot com so there are resources there and there's also weekly classes that I teach so I i teach two classes on zoom only those are wednesday night and friday morning and then I teach a class through a studio in sandwich that's on zoom or in person Jill:and any workshops Sue: I have a workshop that is going to be coming up the end of April the beginning of May and i'm still finalizing the date it'll be a two hour workshop called moving your grief and it will include breath work meditation journaling and that will be hopefully in hyannis i'm still getting the space signed on and open on also on zoom so it'll be in person and on zoom Jill:great and so are do these cost or are they free Sue: so the classes are between 10 and and 20 depending on the length of the class and the workshop does have a cost but that will also have some availability for free Jill: if somebody can't afford it Sue: if somebody can't afford it Yeah you know so we're working on that as well Jill: okay thank you I look forward to I know I want to do the workshop and your restorative class this friday and you also offered when we were talking earlier about doing something online for us here some kind of class Sue: absolutely yeah so if there is you know if there are a few people if there's a group if you want to do something once a month you know it's it's easy to set up something online you know that can be done really quickly it's just a you know figure out the time and you don't have to worry about location yeah i'm happy to do to offer offer class 30 minutes 60 minutes whatever okay sounds good Jill: good definitely we'll get some feedback from folks here I really appreciate your time and and I wanted to mention the samaritans again that they have a lot of different support groups and resources if you are a survivor of suicide yourself or if you've lost a loved one to a suicide they have some different things that they do and um and again that the crisis line is available and that's all on the cape is there anything else that I left out or forgot about that you would want to mention before we close up Sue: no I don't think so I i think we've covered uh a lot of territory yeah Jill: well I really appreciate you sharing your story with us and and telling us a little bit about Ian I think it helps a lot of people to share your experience strength and hope and and thank you for being here Sue Sue: you're so welcome thank you for inviting me Jill: Thank you. Bye.

How do you improve from a good English speaker to a great English speaker? You might think that because you’re a native English speaker, you don’t need to be any better, but maybe you do need some improvements in a professional setting. But how do you do this? That is why in this episode of the Your Career Cure Podcast, Gail Tolstoi-Miller interviews communication coach, Jill Diamond. She is a seasoned communication coach with a specialization in working with international professionals. Her executive experience, background in the performance arts, and a keen interest in people allow Jill to help professionals Write it, Show it and Voice it with precision, passion, and impact. She explains how she helps people become great at spoken English as they are in written English without losing traces of their native languages or accents. Listen in to learn how better communication at work can surprisingly help you in moving up the ranks. SUBSCRIBE, COMMENT, LIKE & SHARE Apple |  Google |  Spotify |  iHeart | Stitcher | Amazon | Podchaser | Castbox | Watch Video on Youtube What You Will Discover: [0:40] Jill explains how she helps international professionals go from good English speakers to great English speakers. [2:54] How Jill became passionate about teaching communication after a career in acting and music. [6:27] Understanding code-switching, which is the ability to switch from one accent to another. [9:10] Why people don’t trust people with a different accent as theirs, plus some languages with difficult accents. [12:46] Jill narrates a success story that happened with a former client. [15:49] Teaching people how to speak the way they write. [17:04] Up talk- the rising intonation at the end of a sentence and why it creates doubts in others. [21:26] The importance of having passion in our native language or any other language we’re speaking. [25:37] Why Jill believes that it’s easier for non-Americans to catch up to our accent than the other way around. [28:14] She narrates the poem that helps her students get started with rhythm. [29:28] Jill describes her career challenges as having to keep up with the times and everything. [30:28] How COVID has simplified Jill’s lifestyle by making it easy to communicate with her clients online. [31:47] The 3 best career and Corporate America answers that Jill would give to win the 50 million dollars Your Career Cure Contest. Get in Touch with Jill: Jill’s online program landing page: https://jill-diamond-be8f.mykajabi.com/find-your-stage-with-english-communication-confidence Website: byjilldiamond.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JillDiamond LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jilldiamond/ Share one of your personal habits that contributes to your success: I’m not afraid to ask for help when I need it. It could be hiring a coach or speaking to a peer or simply searching the internet for the help I need. In other words, I’m in the habit of believing that I am not in it alone. Share your favorite Internet/Career/entrepreneur resource: I’ve turned to Tony Robbins’ work on and off over the years. Marie Forleo's course is great for entrepreneurs—especially if you are starting out. And I turn to LinkedIn groups in my field like Training & Development—there is great resource material and studies that these groups can provide. What is your favorite book that you would recommend? I love The Dip by Seth Godin because it shows us that quitting isn’t always about giving up. It is about redirecting ourselves towards our strengths and our passions

In episode 32 of Beyond Labels & Limitations, John Graybill talks with Jill Millington about her life with Limb Girdle Muscular Dystrophy. Jill shares how at age 23 she first noticed something wasn't right when she couldn't step up onto the curb. She was diagnosed with LGMD in 2008 and then in 2018 Jill was officially diagnosed with LGMD2A or Calpainophty. Since then, Jill has gotten involved in advocating, managing a Facebook page, shooting "How To" videos and posting them on YouTube and also organizing fundraisers. She wants people to be aware of a "State Proclamation" in which on September 30th, every year, that day will be known as "LGMD Awareness Day". You can start a state or city proclamation by going to LGMD-info.org and following the steps to do so there. (Co-Admin) Faith Above My Ability: Faith Above My Ability State Proclamation: State Proclamation Get in touch with Jill: Jill's Blog Jill's YouTube Page A Peek Into MD Jill's Facebook Page ______________________________ Connect with John: Website Subscribe on YouTube Email: BLLjenjohn@gmail.com ______________________________ "Desire To Inspire" TKG

Shine. For Jill Wright this means more than just what she is offering now. How to make you shine. Jill used to shine shoes! You need to hear this story. Best one is working in Washington and her contest after getting tired of looking at all the black socks.Jill built this into a business, but more so she also built it into a way that she can help Executives learn the magic of connecting with others.Jill, you do shine!! Make sure you visit www.theshinegift.com to get your copy of the 7 Secrets to Authentic Connections!Thank you!LaurieAnn and RoyMore about Jill:Jill is affectionately known as the Queen of Shine. She is a Heart Centered Leader and the CEO of Executive Shine. She is the host of Executive Shine podcast where she recognizes leaders who are shining their excellence in their industry. She is recognized by both Forbes and Harvard Business Review for transforming the culture of client based services. As a best selling author, she shares her 33 years of experience to inspire other leaders to unleash the human potential within their organization. Through her speaking engagements and executive coaching, leaders joyfully find themselves defining their values and building a strong company culture with the power of belief and authentic connection. Her online course, [The Shine Principles] is available on December 20thI have also co authored 2 best selling books this year . The Codes of Longevity and 1 Habit for Entrepreneurial Success. I wrote about the Power of Human Connection and Always Adding Value and Judgement stops all Love.In addition I am releasing my Shine Principles book in early January.I am passionate about supporting leaders in building concious service based culture . Based on my "SHINE" Love always Wins principles. I am inspired that you are also passionate about spreading love in the world and so I look forward to connecting with you and sharing stories!I was raised in a small town in Minnesota with that Midwest Integrity, Work Ethic and Authentic Love for people. So, I am on a crusade to see leaders shine by unleashing human potential through the power of belief and authentic connection. When I am not working you will find me at home riding my horses, relaxing with my family and my dogs at my ranch in Colorado.BIO : Jill Wright is an entrepreneur and CEO with 33 years’ experience leading Executive Shine, a national corporation recognized by Forbes and the Harvard Business Review. Jill has expanded Executive Shine to multiple airports, built a team of over 100 professionals, all while transforming the culture of client based services through the development of unique talent, and the power of authentic connection. Highlights of Jill’s expertise:Founder and CEO: Executive Shine.Speaker/Author:“Soul to Sole, The art of authentic connection” – Corporate Speaker.“Secret Power of Appreciation and Belief”- Corporate Speaker“Business as a value delivery system” – Corporate Speaker and Guest on several business focused podcasts. “Entrepreneurs in the Airport Market” – Speaker at the Airport Minority Advisory Council (AMAC).“Soul to Sole” (book on the Power of Belief and Authentic Human Connection) – Author.https://www.linkedin.com/in/jill-wright/Jill Wright| Jill Wright Join Facebook to connect with Jill Wright and others you may know.#liftyourstory #succeeding #entrepreneurspirit #successminded #inspiration #change #thatgalwiththatguy #lifelessons #buzzsprout #podcast #podcasting #Spotify #GooglePodcast #TuneIn #stitcher #ApplePodcast #iHeartRadio #Pandora #PodcastAddict #Podchaser #Deezer

Jill shared with us her methods of coaching to assist leaders to develop a positive atmosphere.Jill considered being a doctor, but decided being on call 24-7 was not for her, so she became a Pharmacist (noting that it ended up that this was an oncall occupation as well). Her years of training others led her to realize how many highly educated professionals may excel in their particular profession, but when moved into a leadership role, it becomes challenging. Jill guides them to transition and build a positive, empathetic and encouraging environment for their employees.Thank you, Jill, for this insightful information!More about Jill:Jill spent the first 25 years of her career working as a pharmacist in various healthcare settings where top producers were promoted into management. Managers focused on the numbers creating a culture where everyone feared for their job. When she had the opportunity to be a Director of Pharmacy, she led her team with empathy, not numbers and it worked! Now she coaches team leaders how to do the same. Her mission is to eliminate fear management from workplace making every company a place where everyone wants to come to work each day. People thrive when they feel appreciated, valued and supported. She created a Facebook group to bring like-minded individuals together www.facebook.com/groups/LeadwithEmpathy/Contact information:Jill Hunter, RPh, MBAUpLevel To Lead508-640-5544Schedule a Call Now: Book HereWebsite: www.UpLevelToLead.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/jill-c-hunterFacebook Group: Lead with Empathy#entrepreneurmind #succeeding #entrepreneurspirit #successminded #inspiration #change #education #lifelessons #buzzsprout #podcast #podcasting #Spotify #GooglePodcast #TuneIn #stitcher #ApplePodcast #iHeartRadio #Pandora #PodcastAddict #Podchaser #Deezer #Listennotes #Overcasat #Pocketcast #Castro and #CastPost #iamthatgal #liftyourstory #liftyourstorypodcast #iamthatgal #thatgalwiththatguy #leadership #empathy #JillHunter

When should you ask for help? Do you need a therapist? What is anxiety? These are just some of the questions Stace and Jill cover.Hi friend!Stacey June here! Please enjoy this favourite episode of yours while I am currently learning how to be a Mum!This and some of my favourites will help you navigate through life and give you the tools to better trust your gut and find your inner spark! If you are interested in what I am up to in regards to coaching, workshops, events or new podcasts - make sure you are on my mail list. Chat soon,Stace xWelcome to episode NUMBER 53 of The Stacey June Show.Jill Stark is a best-selling author, award-winning journalist, media consultant and public speaker. She is a natural born storyteller with a passion for equality, social justice and mental health.More from Jill -Jill's website can be found hereJill's new book 'When You're Not Ok' be pre purchased hereHer book Happy Never After can be purchased hereMore from Stacey -Couplegoals? Podcast is UP! Listen hereJoin Stacey's mail list hereCoaching info is hereCoaching enquiries can be emailed hereA note from Stacey -Hey Guys, did you learn something about yourself on this episode? Are you unsure I made sense? Do you need to sit with this? Listen back to it if you need. I would love to hear your thoughts, where you are at with this topic or a suggestion of what I can cover next week!DM / Email /Website is the place to let me know.The Stacey June Show is a podcast that has been built to celebrate your differences, find the funny in the f*cked and give you the tools to help you be the person you know you can be. Make no mistake - this is no motivational meme. The conversations with thought leaders, celebs and experts who go deep, will leave you set to make the changes you have always desired and introduce you to your inner spark. Practical, funny and useful in one.To sign up to get the latest on this podcast - join our mail list hereRead more - www.staceyjune.com/blogSign up for Stacey's workshop's or coaching -

What’s In This Episode: We told you to always raise your prices last week... but how high is TOO high?  "Which is the bigger risk? That your prices are too high or that they're too low?" - Brad What someone says about your pricing has nothing to do with whether your prices are too high or too low. And if no one's complaining - you're priced too low. Pricing is based on two things: how much value you can establish in the customer's mind. Some people will say no. That's okay. Why waste your time trying to explain the value to them? Accept that you're not the right fit and move on. the confidence you have in the price you're offering.  "There's always going to be someone complaining about your pricing." - Jill Jill thinks that that confidence depends on what you're selling and that it's different for product- and service-based businesses. And that there's a fine line between confidence and arrogance. But overall, you need to know that what you're offering is worth many times what the value is. People want to know that you're going to make a big difference in their life if you're asking for a larger amount. And something will shift in your brain when you get a yes to a higher price. Jill and Brad discuss putting yourself out there with confidence, and what to do if your clients can't afford the higher prices (good news: there are reasonable options!). What do you think? How high is too high?

Ready to raise your prices in 2020? Jill and Brad will tell you how. "Higher-paying clients value what you do more." - Brad Brad is a firm believer in raising your prices, and he thinks you should be charging a little more as often as you can. The increase doesn't have to be anything crazy, but each time you price yourself, you know a little more than you used to. Raising your prices allows you to give your team raises or hire extra help in the coming year if you need it. "You should all say no more often... you never know." - Jill Jill voices the concern of many business owners: what if they try to raise their prices, and it doesn't work? That's a risk you take, but it's better than the alternative... that you get priced out of your business while others don't. But it's critically important that when you raise your prices, you're clear about why. The worst thing that can happen is that they say no, but they may come back in the future, or they may find your value appealing and be able to come up with your asking price. Jill, Brad, and Saul then talk about timing, an inside look at their pricing processes, and how you tell your clients that prices are going up. Ready to raise your prices?

Jill Esplin has been Christine Hassler's head of enrollment for 10 years, and she is an extremely masterful business coach.  My conversation with Jill is for coaches and entrepreneurs in service based businesses who want to get better in enrollment and sales. This conversation is also for those who are interested in hiring a coach.Learn what enrollment is and why selling is a service to peopleLearn why selling is hard for you and how to overcome thisBy not inviting people to work with you, you are doing them a disserviceLearn the art of enrollment and how to overcome common objectionsWhen thinking about hiring a coach, what to considerNotes:Christine's Podcast: https://christinehassler.com/podcast/Christine's Retreat: https://christinehassler.com/spring-retreat/Connect with Jill: Jill@christinehassler.comConnect with Colleen:Colleen's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nutritiontranslator/Colleen's Website https://www.nutritiontranslator.com/Work with Colleen 1:1 https://colleenkuhn.typeform.com/to/Q5xWVJ

How and where can you target your PR? "People who need what you serve are already looking at [software companies]." - Brad Jamie Van Cuyk is a business consultant who focuses on helping employees and teams find the right people for positions. But she's having trouble with strategic visibility. Most of her referrals are word of mouth, but now she wants to use the online space to help people find her. Currently, she's trying a little bit of everything, but Jill thinks that's her first mistake. How can she reframe her marketing so that she's not mentioning "hiring" which some people find boring?  "You need to constantly be evolving." - Jill Jill continues with PR tips: Reach out to your local paper - find the editor that applies to your business. Start building a spreadsheet. Reach out to 10 papers, 10 podcasts, etc. Narrow your focus - find stories that apply to your business. Who writes them? Reach out to those professionals too. They may write about you! Tweak your pitch as you go and figure out what's working and what's not. Where do you target your PR? Sponsor: If you’re a manager or business owner, chances are you juggle many HR tasks and are trying to keep up with the ever-changing employment laws. HR 101 from ComplyRight is a free online training program that will give you a solid understanding of employment law so you can handle typical workplace issues like a pro. The six courses include General Legal Obligation for Employers, Recruiting and Hiring, Classifying Workers Correctly, Managing Your Employees, Preventing Workplace Harassment and Discipline and Termination. Explore ComplyRight’s free courses at www.complyright.com/courses. Guest: Jamie Van Cuyk has a track record of managing high-performing teams and educating business leaders. Through small business consulting, I’m going to help you find, develop, and retain the effective employees you need to feel confident and adequately supported as you move your business forward. Visit her website.

How Much We Really Need to Be On the Phone (1088) Transcript: Steve:                   Steve and Jill here. Jill:                          Hi. Steve:                   Welcome to the Land Academy show, entertaining land investment talk. I'm Steven Jack Butala. Jill:                          I'm Jill Dewitt, broadcasting from sunny Southern California. Steve:                   Today Jill and I talk about how much do we really actually all need to be on the phone in this business. Jill:                          A lot. Steve:                   What are you looking at back here? Jill:                          I don't know. I thought I was ... I'm expecting people to walk by that we might recognize and so I was just kind of keeping an eye out. Steve:                   Why isn't that, Jill? Jill:                          I don't know. Anyway ... Steve:                   Before we get into the topic, let's take a question posted by one of our members on the landinvestors.com online community. It's free. Jill:                          Kyler asks, "Does anyone have experience with quiet titling a property in Texas? There are no other persons claiming ownership. There's just a cloud in the title because the property was owned in a DBA. Debt Doing Business As of a husband that is deceased. The title company instructed us to quite title the property into the wife's name. Never done this before and would love specific input and steps on how to take the process." Thank you. I love that. [crosstalk 00:01:11]. Steve:                   Kevin answers this perfectly. Kevin, our moderator on land investors and then I'll have a couple of comments right after. Jill:                          Thank you for sharing. Steve:                   What does that mean? Jill:                          I don't know. I just think silly. Steve:                   What does that mean? Jill:                          I don't know. Steve:                   Thank you for sharing. This is what the show is. I share some stuff. You share some stuff. Jill:                          Just the way you interjected there. I thought it was funny. Kevin, our moderator is going to answer this perfectly and we're going to get right back to you in a moment. Steve:                   You know why I said it that way? I had to get it in there quickly because I think you're ready to just jump in. Jill:                          I was. That's usually what I do. Steve:                   Sometimes Kevin answers. Sometimes not. Sometimes Kevin answers perfect. Perfectly, and I just throw it in here. You were about to go off the teleprompter again. Jill:                          No, I wasn't. I was continuing to read. I can [inaudible 00:02:01]. Steve:                   Jill's famous for going off script. Jill:                          Really? Steve:                   Yeah. Jill:                          I don't think it's me. Steve:                   Famously. Jill:                          All right. Anyway, Kyler, I would not pay for quiet title and put the property in the wife's name. You could lose control of it. This is good advice. She might sell it to your friend after you've paid for the quiet title. Quiet title can take about three months and will cost some money, maybe two to $3,000. if you go this route, you can get an attorney to help you make the agreement with the wife to accept the purchase amount and make no claim on the quiet title. Bottom line is talk to an attorney on this one if it's worth it. That's such good advice. Steve:                   It's great advice and what he's talking about. What this whole topic is is called equitable title. It's everywhere in the whole country. Equitable title means you don't own the property but you have an interest in it. This is what actually foreclosing on a tax lien is. You have a an interest in the property because you own that tax lien. Let's say you bought the tax lien from the country.

What’s In This Episode: Anchor Advisors has gone virtual! "A whole bunch of your competition is gone." - Brad There are certain advantages that come with being in business for a long time. "If you just wait through the tough stuff, you're gonna come out okay." - Jill Jill and Brad talk through what the value of longevity in your business means: what they thought then compared to what they know now, what competition looks like, who their strongest friendships are, and Jill's realization that patience really is a virtue. What lessons have you learned from being in business as long as you have?

When is your birthday? When is your b-day? (short version of birthday) May/12/2000 - Jill Jill was born in May. Jill was born on May 12th. Jill was born in 2000. Song by Lesley Gore: It's my party and I'll cry if I want to - This is an American classic. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I6xhQag0Pi4

What’s In This Episode: Have you ever turned that corner from "diligent followup" to "annoying stalker when you're checking in on a proposal or pitch? "I feel like if they were gonna respond, they would have responded." - Brad Jill and Brad fundamentally disagree on this issue, and even on the receiving end of relentless pitches, Jill only gets annoyed if she knows the sender is a bot or writing templated emails. She knows how hard pitching is, so she's likely to respond with a "not interested," rather than delete - which is what Brad does. "The 'no' is an acknowledgment that they got my pitch. No, to me, is maybe." - Jill Jill tells a very interesting story about how she campaigned to be on the Stephen Colbert show, an endeavor that lasted 3 years. So... perseverance wins? They discuss the internal and external reactions of following up, what people might think and what's really going on in people's lives, and how ego gets involved. Brad has some tips to help. How do you deal with followup?

Today, Shannon talks to Jill Brooke, founder and Editor-in-Chief of Flower Power with Jill, the first daily news site about flowers.  Jill talks about the power flowers can have in our daily lives and the surprising effect they have on humans in all aspects of life and society. "Whenever I’ve needed a breath of beauty or a break from the ugliness of the world," said Jill, "Flowers have been my solace. I hope this site elicits that experience for you." Listen to Jill discuss the language of flowers and learn how to harness Flower Power for yourself! Our Lives with Shannon Fisher explores personal, political, and societal perspectives of the American experience. The show delves deeply into the worlds of writers, artists, celebrities, and community leaders and offers listeners food for thought on ways to better themselves and the world around them. Follow Shannon on Twitter. Copyrighted podcast solely owned by the Authors on the Air Global Radio Network, LLC.

What’s In This Episode: How do you celebrate Thanksgiving? And how does it apply to business owners? Jill looks forward to the beginning of (vegan) egg-nog season, the Macy's Day Parade, cooking, spending time with family, and on and on. Brad likes the family time and all, but he doesn't think that we'd ever practice gratefulness unless we carved out a day for it. "It's a moment to remind us all to stop, eat too much food, and be grateful for what we have." - Jill Jill's got a book coming out on November 24th called The Best Business Book In The World* (*according to my mom). She'll pretty much be working through the holiday (you can pre-order it here, or buy it on Amazon when it comes out). She's grateful to her team - she sometimes gets told she says "thank you" too much. Brad's impressed with that because he's not as grateful for his crew as he should be. He's very future-oriented and it's hard for him to reflect on the past and the present. As a result, he tends to feel more isolated. He's already moved ahead when everyone else is finishing up the last thing. "I think it's interesting that Americans have to stop and be forced to be grateful." - Brad But taking the opportunity to pause and reflect on the fact that he never would have made it as far as he did without his team does soften things a little for him. Jill suggests that maybe they celebrate "giving thanks" one day a month as a way to instill the practice (and they wouldn't even have to eat turkey to do it. What do you think? Would you celebrate "giving thanks" this way? Let us know!

What’s In This Episode: Are you fun? Jill recently ran a webinar and heard from someone afterward who said, "I love this, but I'm not very fun." Jill realized that people feel like they're boring or not enough in some way and that it prevents them from joining a group they really feel connected to. Don't do that thing! If you want to try out The Founding Moms Community for free, go to The Founding Momsand use code awesome1moto get a free 30-day trial. If you're a mom entrepreneur, become a part of the FMC and get advice from other mom entrepreneurs, video courses, an accountability program, and so much more.  "People are weird." - Brad Saul, producer of BDYB, has a listener question for Jill and Brad. Bruno writes, "Hey guys. I love the wacky, crazy vibe of the show. I was wondering if you could share some of your craziest customer stories." Jill thought about her favorite podcast guest: Erika Kerekes of Not Ketchup, who took Jill's interesting marketing advice and it worked out for her! She also has a story about a guy who had a very creative way to get someone to sign up for life insurance. Brad had a customer who got ghosted by an employee. They passed each other as they were going in and out of an elevator, but the customer didn't realize that the employee had quit until she got to her floor. He also knew a guy who would send phones out to people via FedEx, then call those people once the package had been received. Saul's takeaway? "Weird works." "They need instruction. They need guidance. Is there something you need that can make your job easier?" - Jill Jill and Brad then discuss the top 5 ways managing employees needs to change: Everyone needs to use Slack. Ask them what they need more often. Listen when employees tell you something is not working. Be a proponent of having your employees work together more often. And the number one thing is something you really should be doing...

What’s In This Episode: Want to try out The Founding Moms Community for free? Go to The Founding Momsand use code awesome1moto get a free 30-day trial. If you're a mom entrepreneur, become a part of the FMC and get advice from other mom entrepreneurs, video courses, an accountability program, and so much more. Jill got yelled at this week - once in response to an email that someone misunderstood, and then again in response to her advice from Episode 260: Top 5 Etiquette Rules that No Longer Apply. A longtime listener reached out to say that she didn't agree with any of what Jill had to say in that episode. Jill was trying to say that she didn't agree with (most) of the etiquette that had changed (spelling? Important. PR releases? Still on the fence), but she understands that listeners might not have taken it that way.  "Even when you think you're doing a fine job, you can get yelled at a lot in one week." - Jill Jill and Brad then discuss the top 5 ways marketing needs to change: Social media is NOT the only way to market. Leaning on data - you don't need to JUST look at the analytics. Stop selling so much. You don't need to be sales-y up front. People need to be genuine. Marketing doesn't happen in two days. Things take time. And the number one thing is Jill's sincere wish...

  Being Single, Freedom Coaching, and Forgiveness. Tune in as my friend Jill Monaco and I talk about being single and ponder the question, Can contentment and longing for a mate coexist? Can we have purpose in our singleness? And if you are married and tuning in, you probably have single friends in your life. Jill and I talk a bit about how to a respond when a friend shares their longing for a mate. Then our conversation takes a turn and Jill shares about Freedom Coaching, specifically as it relates to forgiveness and how it produces freedom in our lives.     Thanks for tuning in!  I am so glad you are a part of the Living a Life Unleashed Listening audience. Please share this podcast with your friends and share your comments and reviews on Podbean and iTunes! A bit about my guest, Jill: Jill the founder and CEO of Jill Monaco Ministries, a nonprofit that publishes the online magazine, SingleMatters.com. She is also the creator of the interactive program for singles, From Looking To Loving: Find the Breakthrough You Need So You Can Have The Relationship You Want. Jill just released her new book, The Freedom Coach Model: Encounter the presence of God and find freedom in Christ through powerful questions and listening prayers. She is a certified Freedom Coach and loves helping people find freedom and purpose so they can live a life they love. Find out more about Jill at jillmonaco.com.  

Top Athletes Compete with Themselves (CFFL 561) Transcript: Jack:                      Jack and Jill here. Jill:                          Hi. Jack:                      Welcome to the show today. In this episode, Jill and I talk about how top athletes compete with themselves, not really with each other. Before we get into it, let's take a question posted by one of our members on the landinvestors.com online community. It's free. Jill:                          Okay. Angela asks, "Hey, I just signed up for the forum. My question is, should I start an estate I'm living in just to test the waters? I don't see a lot of land investors selling in my state. It does have a good variety of vacation areas, farmland and large metro areas throughout the state. Any suggestions on how to start a letter campaign to test? Would like to send mailings out before I do some investing in paid education. Thanks." Jack:                      Good for you, Angela. You're starting with all the free stuff and you're gonna test it a little bit. I'm not a big fan, I'm a huge fan of getting your ducks all in a row before you start, but I'm not a fan of test mailers, and here's why. The numbers work against you. It's kind of ironic, but follow me on this. If you send out 20 or 30 letters just to see what's gonna happen, I'll tell you exactly what's gonna happen. I'm gonna save you some time and money. Nothing. There's power in numbers, so you want to get in your first mailer, 1500 to 2000 units in the mail because there's a real good chance you're gonna have a positive experience, but 10 or 20 or 40, or even 500, is just too small. What you really want to do is test pricing. If you want to test it, go onto Craig's List, make up a property that you have for sale, and test how people are gonna respond to it. Let's say you want to buy a property. There's an exercise in the free e-book I would encourage you to test that way. If you don't have the free e-book, please go download it. It describes in detail how you should test it. Go ahead, Jill. Jill:                          I was raising my hand. Jack:                      I know. Jill:                          I wanted to make sure. Jack, you have a way of jumping in and answering the question, and I'm like, "Oh, but I have something I want to share,"- Jack:                      I have a way- Jill:                          I wanted to make sure I raise my hand, so that you knew that I wanted to share. Jack:                      Jack, you have a way of taking things over and being the manager of everything, including everything. Jill:                          Jill, your sock drawer is a mess. Here's what we're doing today. Jack:                      You don't have a sock drawer. Do you have a sock drawer? Jill:                          No, I have a sock area in a bigger drawer. Sock drawer. Anyway. These bras here, they are all messed up. This is just a shambles here. Whatever. Jack:                      Isn't it eerie when- Jill:                          Disheveled. Jack:                      You had the same conversation with your mother that you have with your wife like 30 years later. Jill:                          What? Jack:                      That just happened? Jill:                          What? How did that happen, seriously? Jack:                      I don't know. Sock drawer, I had dreamt it. See, Jack, your sock drawer is a disaster. Really, mom? Jill:                          Talk about my- Jack:                      I didn't even know I had a sock drawer. Jill:                          No, okay. So here's my thing that Angela can do. I have an excellent way to help you, Angela, with this test, or anybody who just wants to test this. You can right now, today, go on offers2owners.com, with the number 2, go to forms, and steal if you want, whatever term you want to use, use whatever. Use our template letter.

Why You Don't Need a Purchase Agreement Jack Butala: Why You Don't Need a Purchase Agreement. Every Single month we give away a property for free. It's super simple to qualify. Two simple steps. Leave us your feedback for this podcast on iTunes and number two, get the free ebook at landacademy.com, you don't even have to read it. Thanks for listening. Jack: Jack Butala, with Jill DeWit. Jill: Hi. Jack: Welcome to our show today. In this episode Jill and I talk about why you don't need a purchase agreement all the time. Great show today Jill. Before we get started, let's share something funny that, or interesting, I should say, that happened to us recently. Jill: You know, I wanted to share a really, really, really cool email that I got from somebody. I was going to point out a couple of little things in here. I love when I get these. This is interesting to me. I got to tell you, I read these, and I need to share it, so here I am sharing it. I mean, it's just so good, the feedback that we get. This individual ... I haven't asked, so I have to kind of ... can't drop some names here, but I can share some of it though. It says: "Hey. Hi, Jill. I just wanted to drop a note of thanks to you and Jack, having joined a few weeks ago. Although I have already been running a profitable land business, my methods have been rather than systematic." Jack: Yeah. Jill: Isn't that great? Jack: Yeah. Jill: He says, "I'm going through everything. It's so thoroughly done and it really does leave no stone unturned. I am smitten." Jack: Wow. Jill: Isn't that great? He said, "To offer perspective ... Jack: Smitten with you. Jill: ... I have actually been" ... Thank you. Jack: Jill smitten. Jill: Thank you. Jack: Dot com. Jill smitten dot com. Jill: You're so sweet. I have a quote here at the end I was going to save for you. My quote for you is, "This show may or may not appeal to you." You said that ... Jack: Make fun of Jack dot com. Jill: What you said the other day ... Yeah. No, but he's ... We're not his first go around here, but it sounds like we're his last go around. Jack: Awe. Jill: It basically ... His whole thing was we taught him how to web base this whole thing. He says ... Here's his ending, "Within a few weeks I intend to have a fully functioning, automated, web based selling properties. I love the idea of selling properties this way. I'm so thankful to have found you two. I look forward to tomorrow's podcast. Laughing along with you as I gain new insights." Jack: Awesome. What a compliment. That's great. Jill: Thank you. Isn't that cool? Jack: It really is I mean ... Jill: Took a few pieces out of that, but ... Jack: You can't buy that kind of stuff. Jill smitten. Jill: You're so funny. Thank you. Jack: I'm going to see if that's available. Jill: Jill smitten dot com. Jack: I'm serious. Jill: The crap Jack says dot com. Jack: I just ... I got an email for somebody recently. They said, "You know, once in a while you talk about a calendar. Can you please put a calendar together that shows the path that you can take. You know, what I'm suppose to do on Saturday. What I'm suppose to do on Sunday because I got to work Monday through Friday." and on and on, so I did. I put a calendar together and we're going to publish it. I mean I won't ... We're going to publish with your sales. Whenever you tell us to, but ... Jill: Okay. Jack: I finally ... I've been threatening to do that for quite some time. It actually turned out really cool. Jill: Threatening. Jack: No, a lot of people say, look, I get it. You guys are doing great. I see all these members doing it but I just need one step more. I need you to tell me. When I ... All right, let's say I start the thing on Thursday, how much time do I need? Well it takes this much time to go through the program, then this much time to learn the data, then on Saturday you start just do the mail,

Why You Don't Need a Purchase Agreement Jack Butala: Why You Don't Need a Purchase Agreement. Every Single month we give away a property for free. It's super simple to qualify. Two simple steps. Leave us your feedback for this podcast on iTunes and number two, get the free ebook at landacademy.com, you don't even have to read it. Thanks for listening. Jack: Jack Butala, with Jill DeWit. Jill: Hi. Jack: Welcome to our show today. In this episode Jill and I talk about why you don't need a purchase agreement all the time. Great show today Jill. Before we get started, let's share something funny that, or interesting, I should say, that happened to us recently. Jill: You know, I wanted to share a really, really, really cool email that I got from somebody. I was going to point out a couple of little things in here. I love when I get these. This is interesting to me. I got to tell you, I read these, and I need to share it, so here I am sharing it. I mean, it's just so good, the feedback that we get. This individual ... I haven't asked, so I have to kind of ... can't drop some names here, but I can share some of it though. It says: "Hey. Hi, Jill. I just wanted to drop a note of thanks to you and Jack, having joined a few weeks ago. Although I have already been running a profitable land business, my methods have been rather than systematic." Jack: Yeah. Jill: Isn't that great? Jack: Yeah. Jill: He says, "I'm going through everything. It's so thoroughly done and it really does leave no stone unturned. I am smitten." Jack: Wow. Jill: Isn't that great? He said, "To offer perspective ... Jack: Smitten with you. Jill: ... I have actually been" ... Thank you. Jack: Jill smitten. Jill: Thank you. Jack: Dot com. Jill smitten dot com. Jill: You're so sweet. I have a quote here at the end I was going to save for you. My quote for you is, "This show may or may not appeal to you." You said that ... Jack: Make fun of Jack dot com. Jill: What you said the other day ... Yeah. No, but he's ... We're not his first go around here, but it sounds like we're his last go around. Jack: Awe. Jill: It basically ... His whole thing was we taught him how to web base this whole thing. He says ... Here's his ending, "Within a few weeks I intend to have a fully functioning, automated, web based selling properties. I love the idea of selling properties this way. I'm so thankful to have found you two. I look forward to tomorrow's podcast. Laughing along with you as I gain new insights." Jack: Awesome. What a compliment. That's great. Jill: Thank you. Isn't that cool? Jack: It really is I mean ... Jill: Took a few pieces out of that, but ... Jack: You can't buy that kind of stuff. Jill smitten. Jill: You're so funny. Thank you. Jack: I'm going to see if that's available. Jill: Jill smitten dot com. Jack: I'm serious. Jill: The crap Jack says dot com. Jack: I just ... I got an email for somebody recently. They said, "You know, once in a while you talk about a calendar. Can you please put a calendar together that shows the path that you can take. You know, what I'm suppose to do on Saturday. What I'm suppose to do on Sunday because I got to work Monday through Friday." and on and on, so I did. I put a calendar together and we're going to publish it. I mean I won't ... We're going to publish with your sales. Whenever you tell us to, but ... Jill: Okay. Jack: I finally ... I've been threatening to do that for quite some time. It actually turned out really cool. Jill: Threatening. Jack: No, a lot of people say, look, I get it. You guys are doing great. I see all these members doing it but I just need one step more. I need you to tell me. When I ... All right, let's say I start the thing on Thursday, how much time do I need? Well it takes this much time to go through the program, then this much time to learn the data, then on Saturday you start just do the mail,

Couples Therapy Here We Come (CFFL 0070) Jack Butala: Couples Therapy Here We Come. Every Single month we give away a property for free. It's super simple to qualify. Two simple steps. Leave us your feedback for this podcast on iTunes and number two, get the free ebook at landacademy.com, you don't even have to read it. Thanks for listening. Steve:                   Hey, Jack Butala here for Land Academy. Welcome to our cash flow from land show. In this episode, Jill and I talk about our relationship, not because I want to at all, but people keep asking us about it, so I am going to use the show to answer some questions in the hopes that they discontinue. Jill:                          I would like to know, first of all, this title cracks me up. Couples therapy, here we come. That was great. Who's asking? I don't get those questions. Steve:                   Really? Jill:                          Well, I shouldn't say that. I do get some, but no one asks me out right, they kind of dance around it and then I don't acknowledge it. Steve:                   That's what I'm talking about. You've probably had a lot of practice at that by now. Jill:                          I am very good at that. Steve:                   No, I write these titles and if you've ever listened to this show, I write the titles and they have nothing to do with the show at all. The title is just designed to get the to click the play button or listen button. Jill:                          I really don't want to have to get into all this. Steve:                   I'm just joking. Jill:                          Oh my gosh. You are the best person I have ever worked with ever. Steve:                   What? Jill:                          No, I mean that. Steve:                   You're trying to get out of going to therapy by being nice. Jill:                          Totally, just kidding. There's no therapy in our future. Steve:                   I know, there's no therapy. This show was actually ... Well, go ahead and keep complimenting me. Jill:                          Here's how I take this show, I take this show as just funny play on words/talking about working with a partner, a business partner, and not the pros and cons, but the ups and downs and why a business partner keeps you in line sometimes, well at least for me, and reminds me the things that I'm good at, the things that I'm not good at, what to focus on sometimes, what to outsource, let it go, and so I look at it about things like that. Steve:                   I think there's been a lot of points along the way, we kind of hit on this last week, it stuck with me for some reason, I don't even think you remember saying it, but when there are rough times, we've been so lucky, there's been so few. When there's rough times, you just have to kind of sit there and say "This is just a little thing." We're all going in the same direction and we'll work it out. That's always the case. I think there's few systematic things that we've put in place in the last few months that really, really make this really click and work. Having separate offices works for me, taking separate cars to work to our office, a lot of things like that just keep us a little more separate and professional when we're here than in the social part of our life. Jill:                          Exactly. Steve:                   Sometimes Jill falls asleep during a podcast. Jill:                          Oh, that happens. Steve:                   She is right now. Jill:                          Jill loses interest very quickly. That's a whole other one, that's a funny topic about- Steve:                   I can tell when you're bored with something right away, I mean immediately. Jill:                          You can see my eyes gloss over? Steve:                   Just yeah, you're thinking about something else, that actually just happened.