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PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, we invite back one of our favorite counselors, Jessica McDaniel, who runs a private practice in Austin, TX with her husband, Ryan. We dive into the crucial collaboration between therapists and pastors, especially when helping couples deal with infidelity and betrayal trauma. Jessica shares how both therapeutic and pastoral support are essential for comprehensive healing. We discuss the importance of creating safe environments, clear communication, and breaking down the stigma around mental health in church settings. Jessica also offers practical advice for building strong, collaborative relationships between therapists and church leaders to better support couples in crisis.To learn more about Jessica and Ryan's counseling practice, visit McDanielCounseling.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Collaboration between therapists and pastors in addressing infidelity and betrayal trauma.The importance of integrating therapeutic and pastoral support for couples.Challenges individuals face in choosing between confiding in a pastor or a therapist.The divide between "church life" and therapeutic needs, and its impact on seeking help.Creating a safe environment for individuals to discuss sensitive issues with church leaders.The necessity of dual support from both therapists and pastors for couples in crisis.Addressing misconceptions and biases between therapists and pastors.The role of communication and regular updates in collaborative support.The stigma surrounding mental health issues in church settings and the need for normalization.Encouraging proactive relationship-building between therapists and church leaders for better support networks.More Resources:Find a CounselorCouples IntensivesChurch ResourcesRelated Podcasts:Becoming a Healing ChurchTalking About Taboo (with Mike Novotny)Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I discuss the emotional and spiritual awakening journey for men. We explore the challenges of emotional disconnect and the impact of societal expectations on men's emotional health. Stephen shares insights on moving from hiddenness and brokenness to a fuller life in Christ. We emphasize the importance of expressing needs and feelings, and the courage it takes to wake up emotionally. We share our own personal stories and practical advice in hopes to inspire men to connect more deeply with their emotions and relationships. Men, we invite you to join us on the journey of emotional and spiritual growth. For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional and spiritual awakening for menThe journey from emotional disconnect to deeper engagementCoping mechanisms and their impact on emotional healthThe significance of expressing needs and feelingsSocietal expectations and their influence on men's emotional well-beingThe transition from hiddenness and brokenness to a fuller lifeThe challenges men face in recognizing and articulating their emotionsThe role of relationships in emotional growth and healingThe dangers of living in isolation and avoiding vulnerabilityEncouragement for men to embrace their emotions and seek deeper connectionsMore Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenGrace-Based Recovery Online Groups for Men40 Days of Training for Your SoulRelated Podcasts:The Moment of AwakeningHelping Men Practice Self-Awareness to Build Stronger RelationshipsMr. Unemotional: Moving from Isolation to Connection----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode, I chat with Hadley Baker, who courageously shares his journey through sexual addiction and its impact on his life as a pastor. Hadley opens up about his childhood trauma as the result of an unwanted pregnancy, believing he was unlovable. Then came the early onset of his addiction to pornography and the eventual internal conflict of living a double life while in ministry. He recounts pivotal moments, such as his spiritual awakening, the challenges in his marriage, and his path to healing through counseling and truly understanding God's love. We also highlight the importance of authenticity and open discussions within the church to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. Hadley's story is a powerful reminder of the need for grace, hope, and compassion.To learn more about Hadley and get his book, No Longer a Slave, visit HadleyBaker.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Personal journey of sexual addiction and its impact on life as a pastor.Importance of discussing sensitive topics like addiction within the church.Influence of childhood trauma and family dynamics on self-worth and identity.Early exposure to pornography and its role in developing compulsive behaviors.Spiritual awakening and commitment to faith as a turning point.Struggles with living a double life while in ministry.Escalation of addiction and the cycle of shame and secrecy.The significance of counseling and understanding God's love in the healing process.Transition back into ministry after overcoming addiction and personal struggles.Advocacy for creating safe spaces in churches for open discussions about addiction and personal challenges.More Resources: Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenThe Healing Church* by Sam BlackSheRecovery: Porn Addiction Support for WomenRelated Podcasts:From Porn Pastor to Pure DesireReframing How the Church Views Sexual PurityAddressing Childhood Trauma in Men*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, we have back on the program our friend and colleague Andrew Arthur, a mediator specializing in faith-based mediation, to talk about the delicate topic of separation in relationships and how to navigate them with hope. We delve specifically into therapeutic separation, which is a process aimed at healing and potentially reuniting couples facing serious challenges like infidelity and sexual brokenness. Andrew highlights the importance of having a support team, including counselors, mediators, and spiritual advisors, to collectively guide this tough journey for couples. We also discuss the emotional and operational aspects of separation, the need for individual care, and the crucial role of safety and trust in working towards reconciliation. It's a hopeful and insightful conversation for anyone facing relational struggles.For more information about Andrew and his resources, visit GenesisChristianMediation.com.Topics Covered in the Episode:Definition and understanding of therapeutic separation in relationships.The role and importance of a support team during separation.Common reasons for couples to consider separation, including infidelity and communication breakdown.Establishing ground rules and expectations during the separation process.Overcoming obstacles to reunification, such as differing parenting styles and conflict patterns.The significance of safety and trust in relationships during separation.Steps toward reunification and the importance of joint work and assessments.The value of commitment to the therapeutic process and early intervention.The concept of forgiveness as a personal journey in healing.Resources and support available for couples navigating separation and reconciliation.More Resources:Restoration Therapy* by Dr. Terry HargraveDisclosureHope.comFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:Conflict Management for Marriages Healing from BetrayalThe Role of Boundaries in Marriage RestorationHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Stephen and I explore the profound concept of "oneness," touching on its dimensions of belonging, connection, unity, and intimacy. We discuss how oneness is essential in relationships with family, spouses, and God, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability and mutual understanding. We highlight the very real challenges and rewards of pursuing true oneness; it isn't like flipping a switch and you will automatically achieve oneness. Oneness is a journey of growth and self-discovery. We invite you to reflect on your own relationships and seek deeper connections in your life. It's a mission worth the journey.To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Exploration of the concept of "oneness" and its complexities.Discussion of belonging, connection, unity, and intimacy.The significance of personal experiences in understanding oneness.The role of vulnerability and mutual understanding in fostering deeper connections.The relationship between oneness and one's connection with family, spouses, and God.The importance of open communication and trust in relationships.The idea of oneness as a love story and a journey of self-awareness.The theological perspective on oneness, particularly in relation to marriage and divine connection.Reflection on the ongoing journey of growth and understanding in relationships.Encouragement for listeners to seek deeper connections and explore barriers to oneness.More Resources:Free Men's Integrity WebinarFree Wives Betrayal Trauma Healing WebinarSacred Marriage* by Gary ThomasRelated Podcasts:Are You a Loner or Connector in Relationships?Unlocking Greatness: Why Emotional Connections Matter More than SuccessLiving More than a Love Story*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode, our guests are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and they share their profound journey through Johnny's sex addiction and its impact on their marriage. Johnny opens up about his early exposure to pornography, his secret struggles, and the eventual escalation to extramarital affairs. Emily shares her perspective, detailing the confusion and pain she experienced, as well as her unwavering faith in their marriage's potential for healing. Together, they discuss their path to recovery, the importance of honesty, and their mission to help others through their podcast, "Beyond Broken Vows." Their story is a powerful testament to redemption and hope.If you are in a marriage that has experienced infidelity or other kinds of sexual betrayal, this episode will help you discover hope and insights for healing and restoration.For more information about Johnny and Emily and their ministry, visit BeyondBrokenVows.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: The impact of early exposure to pornography on personal development.The struggles and consequences of sex addiction within a marriage.The dynamics of anger and emotional turmoil in relationships.The process of deception and gaslighting in the context of addiction.The journey of healing and recovery from infidelity.The importance of open communication and honesty in rebuilding trust.The role of faith and spirituality in overcoming personal challenges.The significance of support networks and community in recovery.The decision to share personal stories to help others facing similar issues.The transformation of a relationship through vulnerability and shared experiences.More Resources:Beyond Broken Vows PodcastRecovery Coaching with Johnny and EmilyDisclosureHope.comRelated Podcasts:Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual BetrayalHow Can Therapeutic Disclosure Help Heal Marriages Affected by Sexual Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode, I chat with Bret Marshall about his incredible journey of faith and personal transformation. Bret opens up about his struggles with emotional expression and sexual sin, and how these challenges impacted his relationships, especially with his wife, Tena. He shares the pivotal moments that led to his healing, including a transformative intensive experience through a past partnership between Be Broken and the Navigators ministry organization. Bret highlights the ABC's of emotional health: Acceptance, Belonging, and Connection.Bret also emphasizes the need for personal vulnerability, authentic connections, and creating safe spaces for men to share their full stories. His own story is an incredible reminder of the transformative power of God's presence in our lives.Learn more about Bret on his YouTube channel: @whylivetoday. Topics Covered in this Episode:Bret Marshall's journey of faith and personal transformation.The significance of being known and sharing personal stories.Challenges faced in relationships, particularly with a spouse.The importance of creating safe environments for men to share their experiences.Emotional suppression and its impact on personal well-being.The role of communication in fostering intimacy and connection in relationships.The necessity of vulnerability and honesty in personal and spiritual growth.Building supportive relationships with mentors and peers for spiritual development.Encouragement for those struggling with hidden aspects of their lives to seek help and support.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenMere Christianity* by C.S. LewisFind a GroupRelated Podcasts:The Story of 3 MenUnderstanding 4 Key Roles in Your StoryMr Unemotional: Moving from Isolation to Connection*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode, I am thrilled to welcome Dr. Steve Call, a clinical psychologist and co-author with Dr. Dan Allender of The Deep Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight*. We dive into the book's themes, focusing on how past traumas influence present marital conflicts and how to grow in emotional understanding and intimacy. Dr. Call shares his personal marriage journey, emphasizing the importance of awareness and curiosity in relationships. We discuss practical steps for couples to cultivate awareness, the role of play in healing, and strategies for managing triggers. Dr. Call offers hope and resources for couples to nourish their relationships.To learn more about Dr. Call's resources and to get the book, visit TheReconnectInstitute.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of the book "The Deep Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight.*"Exploration of how past experiences and traumas influence current marital conflicts.Importance of cultivating awareness and curiosity in relationships.The role of intensive counseling formats in addressing deep-rooted issues.Strategies for couples to develop awareness during conflicts.The significance of play in fostering connection and healing in marriage.Addressing triggers and shame in relationships, particularly during recovery.Practical strategies for emotional regulation and self-care during challenging moments.The metaphor of soil amendments to illustrate the need for nurturing relationships.Resources and support for couples seeking to deepen their connection and navigate challenges.More Resources:The Deep-Rooted Marriage* by Allender and CallMarriage Story IntensiveReconnect* by Dr. Steve CallRelated Podcasts:6 Hours that will Transform Your MarriageWorking Through Emotional Disconnection in MarriageGrowing a Stronger Marriage Even When it's Difficult*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the emotional impact of failure. We both express how deeply we hate failing, describing how it triggers feelings of rejection, isolation, and shame. We explore the importance of reframing failure, emphasizing that God's love still remains constant despite our setbacks. His grace abounds! We suggest that solitude can be a sanctuary for self-reflection and growth, encouraging you to create a “holy space” for healing. We ultimately want to offer you a compassionate perspective on failure, encouraging gentleness toward yourself and confidence in the transformative power of God's unwavering love. We start the episode by saying, “I hate failing.” We end it with, “But God likes me and so do I.” For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:The emotional impact of failure on individuals.Feelings of rejection, isolation, and shame associated with failure.The cycle of shame and loneliness stemming from failure.The importance of self-acceptance and kindness in overcoming failure.The role of community and support in addressing feelings of inadequacy.Generational patterns of failure and their effects on identity.The concept of solitude as a sanctuary for self-reflection and growth.The relationship between identity, self-worth, and external validation.The nature of God's love in relation to failure and self-acceptance.Strategies for reframing failure as a part of the human experience rather than a defining characteristic.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenGrace-Based Transformation* by Jonathan Daugherty40 Days of Purity for Men online courseRelated Podcasts:Understanding Failure in RecoveryWhat's Your Failure and Rejection Management PlanHow to Be at Peace in Aloneness*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode, we dive into the dynamics of "loners" and "connectors" in relationships. Everyone falls into one of these categories. As we explore this topic, my friend and co-host Stephen Cervantes discusses how loners tend to be independent and process internally, while connectors thrive on dialogue and emotional exchange. We examine how these differences impact communication and emotional connection, particularly in marriages. We share insights on personal growth, emphasizing the importance of understanding and appreciating each other's communication styles; we aren't out to change a loner into a connector or vice versa. We give lots of personal anecdotes and practical advice, aiming to help you navigate these differences to foster deeper connections and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. To read the Thought on Loners and Connectors, go to DoctorMarriage.org/loners-and-connectors.Topics Covered in this Episode:Distinction between "loners" and "connectors" in personal relationships.Characteristics of loners: independence, introspection, and internal processing.Characteristics of connectors: relational, expressive, and dialogue-oriented.Impact of communication styles on relationships, particularly in marriage.Importance of emotional connection and its role in relationship dynamics.Challenges faced by loners in engaging with emotional exchanges.The necessity of active listening in fostering trust and connection.Strategies for navigating differences between loners and connectors.The role of personal growth in improving relationship dynamics.Encouragement for couples to discuss and understand their connection styles for deeper intimacy.More Resources:40 Days to Oneness by Stephen CervantesThe 40 Day Relationship Builder* by Stephen CervantesBuilding True Intimacy* by Matthew & Joanna RaabsmithRelated Podcasts:Dealing with Conflict Podcast BundleWorking Through Emotional Disconnection in MarriageAbout Your Emotional Connecting Skills*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode, we invite back our friends and counselors, Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, to talk about the crucial role of boundaries in restoring marriages after betrayal, particularly sexual infidelity. Matthew shares insights from the perspective of the betraying spouse, emphasizing self-reflection and accountability, while Joanna offers guidance for the betrayed spouse on navigating emotions and setting personal boundaries. We delve into defining boundaries as supportive frameworks rather than punishing limitations, avoiding misuse of boundaries for control, and harmonizing them to foster safety and mutual respect. The Raabsmiths highlight the importance of individual responsibility and how boundaries can create a safe space for healing and rebuilding trust.To download the Raabsmith's free Honest Connection Guide, visit RenewingUs.com/puresexradio. Click here for the Raabsmith's full biosTopics Covered in this Episode:Importance of boundaries in marriage restoration after betrayalDefinition and positive framing of boundaries in relationshipsDistinction between healthy boundaries and manipulative or controlling behaviorsRole of individual responsibility in setting and maintaining boundariesChallenges faced by the betrayed spouse in establishing boundariesThe necessity for the betraying spouse to take accountability and establish their own boundariesNavigating fear and emotional responses related to boundary settingStrategies for harmonizing boundaries to support both partners and the relationshipAddressing boundary violations and the importance of introspectionEstablishing new habits and structures to support healthy boundaries in the relationshipMore Resources:Building True Intimacy* by Matthew & Joanna RaabsmithRenewing Us RecoveryRenewing Us Couples RetreatRelated Podcasts:Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalThe Need for Boundaries After BetrayalHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Betrayal*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode, I chat with author and blogger Sarah Matzke, who bravely shares her journey through struggles with body image, an eating disorder, and marital challenges, including infidelity. Sarah opens up about her upbringing, the pressures she faced, and the lies she believed about her worth. She recounts the painful yet transformative process of rebuilding trust with her husband, JP, and how her faith in Christ played a crucial role in their healing. Sarah's story is a powerful testament to the importance of vulnerability, honesty, and the grace of God in overcoming life's toughest obstacles. To learn more about Sarah and get a copy of her book, visit SarahJeanMatzke.com.Topics Covered in the Episode:Personal struggles with body image and eating disordersImpact of societal pressures and familial expectations on self-worthChallenges faced in marriage, including infidelityThe process of rebuilding trust after betrayalImportance of open communication and transparency in relationshipsRole of faith and spirituality in healing and restorationSeeking professional help and therapy for personal issuesThe significance of accountability and honesty in relationshipsThe journey of self-discovery and confronting personal liesSharing personal stories as a means of hope and encouragement for othersMore Resources:Desert Vineyards: A Story of Bulimia, Adultery, and Infertility Redeemed by Truth* by Sarah MatzkeThe Body Revelation* by Keeton and ConnollyRelated Podcasts:Understanding Female Sexuality and StrugglesConfession and Disclosure for Couples Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode, I have back on the program Carl Thomas to dig into the recovery journey from pornography and sexual addiction. Carl shares his personal story and emphasizes the importance of community and addressing mental and emotional health. We discuss how recovery goes beyond just stopping harmful behaviors or behavioral sobriety and involves understanding and healing deeper emotional wounds. Carl highlights the stigma around mental health and the need for a holistic approach to recovery. He also provides resources for those seeking support. This episode aims to offer hope and guidance to anyone navigating similar challenges or interested in the recovery process.To learn more about Carl and the Live Free Ministries resources, visit LiveFreeCommunity.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Recovery from pornography and sexual addictionImportance of community in the recovery processPersonal journey and background of the speakerHolistic approach to mental and emotional health in recoveryAddressing underlying emotional and mental health issuesThe stigma surrounding mental health and seeking helpThe interconnectedness of various aspects of life in recoveryCoping mechanisms and their relation to addictionEncouragement for ongoing growth and development in recoveryResources and support available for individuals seeking recoveryMore Resources:XXXChurch.comGateway to Freedom 3-day Intensive for MenGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsRelated Podcasts:The Power of CommunityWhen Shame Gets RealReal Stories of Recovery and Hope----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Macomber to explore the emotional and psychological impact of parental infidelity on adult children. Melissa shares her personal story of discovering her mother's affair at 13 and the ensuing family dynamics. Now, as a therapist, she highlights the lack of resources for adult children dealing with such betrayal and emphasizes the importance of addressing trust issues and healing – no matter how long it has been since the parental infidelity took place. We discuss the broader implications of infidelity on family relationships and the unique challenges faced by children at all stages of growing up. Melissa offers valuable insights and resources for those navigating this difficult journey.To learn more about Melissa and her research, visit MelissaMacomber.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional and psychological impact of parental infidelity on adult childrenPersonal experiences of discovering a parent's affairFamily dynamics and their evolution post-infidelityLack of resources and support for adult children dealing with parental betrayalPatterns of infidelity in adult relationships stemming from childhood experiencesThe importance of addressing feelings of betrayal and trust issuesThe role of boundaries in the healing process for adult childrenDistinction between forgiveness and rebuilding trustChallenges faced by adult children in navigating their parents' conflictsThe significance of sharing personal stories and seeking therapy for healingMore Resources:Help for Adult Children (of any age)Help for TherapistsTen Research-Based Facts about Parent-InfidelityRelated Podcasts:Why Do We Cheat?Talking to Your Kids About Sex (Podcast Bundle)Rebuilding Your Marriage After Betrayal (Podcast Bundle)----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

Today we have back with us Dr. Jennifer Degler, a renowned specialist in sexual health, and we delve into the often-overlooked issue of painful sex. Dr. Degler brings her wealth of expertise to the table, shedding light on the prevalence and emotional impact of sexual pain, especially among women.We explore various conditions that explain certain kinds pain during sex and how to address them. She also highlights the emotional toll painful sex can take, noting that "many women suffer in silence, feeling isolated and ashamed, which only exacerbates the problem."Throughout our discussion, Dr. Degler underscores the significance of still pursuing intimacy in relationships despite these challenges. She explains, "Intimacy is not just about physical connection; it's about emotional closeness and understanding.” She offers hope and practical advice, encouraging couples to seek professional help and create safe spaces for expressing emotions. To learn more about Dr. Degler and her resources, visit JenniferDegler.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Discussion of painful sex, particularly from women's perspectives.Prevalence of sexual pain disorders among women.Emotional and psychological implications of sexual pain.Stigma and shame associated with painful sex.The impact of societal expectations on women's sexual experiences.Importance of open communication in addressing sexual health issues.Exploration of various conditions causing sexual pain, such as vaginismus.The role of sexual intimacy in fostering emotional bonds within relationships.The significance of grieving lost intimacy and processing emotions together.Encouragement for seeking professional help and resources for sexual health.More Resources:Sex Life Resources from Dr. DeglerWhat to Do When Sex is PainfulWorry and Anxiety Management TechniquesRelated Podcasts:How to Make Sex Pleasurable and Fun AgainGod, Sex, and Your MarriageWhat are Your Sexpectations?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In today's episode, we have Wendy Crane with us to talk about her new book, "The Scandal of Virginia Grey." Wendy opens up about her personal journey through infidelity, her 20-year marriage to Reese that didn't start out like a fairytale, and the healing process that followed. She shares the emotional experience of writing her book, which allowed her to confront past traumas and find redemption. We discuss the importance of forgiveness, especially Wendy's unique relationship with Reese's ex-wife. Wendy hopes her story offers hope and understanding to others in similar situations, emphasizing that healing and transformation are always possible.To get the book and learn about coaching services, visit TheSilentAddiction.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Wendy Crane's personal journey and experiences with infidelityThe emotional process of writing her book, "The Scandal of Virginia Grey"Themes of healing and redemption in relationshipsThe significance of forgiveness, particularly in blended familiesThe allegorical nature of Wendy's book and its connection to her lifeThe impact of revisiting painful memories during the writing processThe concept of confession as a means of healingTarget audiences for the book, including those in similar situations and readers interested in redemption storiesThe importance of self-forgiveness and compassion towards othersMessages of hope and transformation in the face of adversityMore Resources:The Scandal of Virginia Grey bookBasics Webinar for WivesWives Care Groups for Betrayal Trauma HealingRelated Podcasts:Life and Hope After Divorce: Reese and Sharon's StoryDealing with Divorce, Betrayal Trauma, and HopeNew Course: 40 Days of Healing for Wives----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I chat with Norma Q-Brown, our Family Care director, about preparing parents for spring break, especially regarding their children's online behavior and conversations about sexuality. Norma provides practical strategies for parents to foster a safe environment for open dialogue, ensuring meaningful conversations about online safety and appropriate behavior – and not just over spring break. We discuss the importance of ongoing communication, setting clear expectations, and addressing idleness. We emphasize the value of empathy, vulnerability, and guiding children through their spiritual journeys, both in everyday life as well as times, like spring break, when schedules and routines are disrupted. For everything we discussed in today's episode, visit Bebroken.org/springbreaksuccess. Topics Covered in this Episode:Preparing parents for spring break and its challenges.Managing children's online behavior during unstructured time.Importance of ongoing communication about sexuality between parents and children.Strategies for setting clear expectations and boundaries.Addressing idleness and its impact on children's behavior.Encouraging productive activities and family engagement during breaks.Importance of pre-spring break, during spring break, and post-spring break conversations.Discussing online safety and appropriate behavior with children.Sharing personal experiences to foster connection and trust.Encouraging a biblical worldview and open dialogue about curiosity and sexuality.More Resources:Critical Conversation Free Webinar7 Tips to Help You Address Sexual Issues with Your KidsA Family Game Plan for Discussing Porn (online course)Related Podcasts:Teaching Healthy Tech Habits to Your Kids (Podcast Bundle)Talking to Your Kids About Sex (Podcast Bundle)A Family Game Plan for Responding to Porn----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In today's episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I explore the importance of self-awareness in relationships, especially for husbands. We discuss how men can enhance their relationships by recognizing their interaction patterns and understanding their own emotional state and that of their wife's. Stephen emphasizes the value of men engaging with their wives through simple acts like sharing daily thoughts and curiosity, which can foster meaningful dialogue. We also touch on the challenges of communication, the impact of self-absorption, and the importance of processing disappointment with God first. Ultimately, the episode offers practical tools for men to nurture deeper connections with their wives.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.orgTopics Covered in this Episode:Importance of self-awareness in relationships, especially for husbands.Recognizing patterns in interactions with partners.The significance of understanding one's own thoughts and feelings.Observing and responding to the emotional states of partners.Challenges of communication between men and women.The impact of sharing ideas and fostering dialogue in relationships.The role of self-absorption and its effects on communication.The necessity of processing disappointments with God before addressing them with a partner.The influence of tone and demeanor on partner perceptions during discussions.Strategies for creating a supportive and understanding relationship dynamic.More Resources:Recognizing Patterns40 Days of Training for Your Soul (free download)40 Days to Oneness (marriage devotional)Related Podcasts:Emotional Growth for Men Podcast BundleDealing with Conflict in Marriage Podcast BundleUnderstanding Emotionally Detached Men----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In today's episode, our guest is author and speaker Melinda Patrick. She transparently shares about her journey as a mother navigating her daughter's revelation of same-sex attraction. Melinda opens up about her initial reaction, driven by a desire to "fix" her daughter, and how this response strained their relationship. She shares the struggles, shame, and guilt she faced, and the redemptive work God has done in their lives over time, even though they are very much in the “messy middle” of the journey. Melinda emphasizes the importance of love, listening, and understanding, offering valuable insights for parents in similar situations. Her story is a testament to the power of compassion and faith in overcoming challenges.To learn more about Melinda and her resources, visit MelindaPatrick.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Melinda Patrick's journey as a mother dealing with her daughter's same-sex attraction revelation.Initial reactions of parents when faced with their child's LGBTQ identity.The impact of a "fix it" mentality on parent-child relationships.Feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation experienced by parents.The importance of love, listening, and understanding in difficult family situations.The role of faith and spiritual growth in navigating personal struggles.The significance of authentic faith and modeling forgiveness in relationships.Common pitfalls for parents, such as the urge to control or manipulate situations.The power of prayer and seeking God's guidance in parenting.Resources for parents, including Melinda's book and podcast focused on supporting LGBTQ children.More Resources:The Daring Rescue* bookThe Bridge Between Us podcast with Melinda PatrickHisWonderfulWorks.comRelated Podcasts:Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?How to Support Without EndorsingLoving Your LGBTQ-Identified Child with Grace and Truth*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In today's episode, our guest is Noah Filipiak, a pastor, author, and podcaster who is passionate about applying the reality of the gospel to the real struggles and challenges of life, especially struggles with porn and sexual brokenness. Noah opens up about his personal struggles with pornography addiction, which began in his teenage years despite growing up in a Christian home. He shares how vulnerability, community, and a deeper relationship with Christ were key to his recovery. We discuss the importance of addressing these issues of sexual brokenness openly within the church and fostering supportive communities. A big part of the conversation is helping men understand what the true bullseye is for recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors. Noah emphasizes that true healing comes from understanding one's identity in Christ, not just behavior modification. The good news is that there is hope for truly overcoming any unwanted sexual behaviors through the power of God's grace and vulnerable community.To learn more about Noah and his resources, visit BeyondtheBattle.net.Topics Covered in this Episode:Men's sexual integrity journeysPersonal experiences with pornography addictionChallenges faced growing up in a Christian environmentThe role of vulnerability and community in recoveryThe impact of marriage on sexual desires and relationshipsUnderstanding identity in Christ as a foundation for healingThe importance of addressing sexual integrity within the churchOvercoming shame and fear of vulnerability in discussionsThe significance of community support in the recovery processPractical steps for engaging in deeper transformation and discipleshipMore Resources:Beyond the Battle Online GroupsNeeded Navigation Teen GuideGateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenRelated Podcasts:Porn Addiction Recovery for Men Podcast BundleRecovery Discovery 002: IdentityHow Can Recovery Lead to a New Growth Mission?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the ongoing struggles of emotional disconnection in marriage, sparked by one man's agonizing question: How does a man live a good life while feeling alone and disconnect in his marriage? We explore the pain of feeling isolated from a spouse and the importance of personal growth, faith, and community support. Stephen shares wisdom on enduring suffering, finding joy beyond one's spouse, and the necessity of a supportive network. We emphasize that personal transformation often happens through discomfort and that God's presence provides comfort and guidance. This episode is a hopeful reminder that growth and resilience can lead to deeper connections and fulfillment, even in challenging times.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode: Emotional disconnection in marriagePersonal growth through discomfort and sufferingThe role of faith in navigating relationship challengesImportance of community support and accountabilityStrategies for coping with loneliness and isolationTransforming perspectives on love and relationshipsFinding contentment and peace in solitudeEngaging in practices that foster connection with GodThe significance of ongoing dialogue with GodEncouragement to take actionable steps toward personal transformationMore Resources:God is Growing YouIs Grace Really Enough?Dealing with Conflict - Marriage Podcast BundleRelated Podcasts:What Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?Living More than a Love StoryGrieving to Grow a Great Marriage----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, our guest is Casey Allison, an expert in supporting mothers through betrayal trauma. Casey, a mother of nine, shares her personal journey of navigating betrayal in her marriage and its impact on her family. She emphasizes the importance of healing for both mothers and their children, and the need for safety, support, and faith during these challenging times. Casey's candid reflections on anger, authenticity, and revisiting her faith offer valuable insights and encouragement. She invites listeners to engage in support, reminding us that healing is possible through Christ and connection.To learn more about Casey and her coaching resources, visit ComeAwakeCoach.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: Mothering through betrayal traumaPersonal experiences of a mother of nine dealing with betrayalImpact of betrayal on family dynamicsImportance of healing for mothers and childrenEmotional complexities of motherhood in the context of betrayalNeed for safety and healthy boundariesCommunication strategies with children during difficult timesNavigating anger and authenticity in motherhoodRevisiting faith and theological beliefs during strugglesOffering hope and support for mothers facing betrayal traumaMore Resources:Wives Care Online Groups40 Days of Healing for Wives Online CourseCome Awake Support GroupsRelated Podcasts:Betrayal Trauma Healing Podcast BundleIdentifying and Meeting Needs in a Betrayed WifeEmotional Transformation Therapy for Betrayed Wives----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this special 1000th episode, we take a heartfelt trip down memory lane, reflecting on our journey since the podcast got started way back in 2005. We share personal stories, discuss the evolution of the show, and emphasize the importance of grace and kindness in this challenging work. We celebrate you, the community we've built together, and encourage you to reflect on your own experiences and the transformative power of God's grace. This episode is both a celebration of a huge milestone and an invitation for you to share your stories and engage deeply with the mission of transformation.Please share your podcast stories with me directly at jonathan@bebroken.org. To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Celebration of the 1000th episode milestone of the podcast.Reflection on the podcast's history and evolution since its inception in 2005.Importance of grace and kindness in personal and professional lives.Encouragement for listeners to share their own stories and experiences.Discussion on the transformative power of God's grace.Emphasis on community building and support among listeners.Exploration of personal messages and purpose in life.The significance of peace, rest, and joy in emotional and spiritual well-being.Recognition of the role of pain in discovering purpose and growth.Commitment to providing practical information and inspiring action for listeners.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery 8-Week Online Study GroupsFREE Men's Integrity WebinarRelated Podcasts:How Can Recovery Lead to a New Growth Mission?Back to the Basics of Sexual IntegrityThree Purposes in Life----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

Originally Aired on February 7, 2024View this episode on YouTube-----How important is trust to emotional health and building strong, mature relationships? It is vital! Yet, many men we have served in our ministry struggle terribly with trust. In today's episode, Stephen and I are going to dig into this important topic of trust through the lens of one man's story that begins with him not being able to trust his parents with his thoughts and feelings and ends with him finally living a “love plus trust” story. We will share the distinction between love and trust and how love plus trust takes us even deeper than love alone. We need to learn how to understand trust in its multilayered dimensions if we want to enjoy strong, healthy relationships.For resources from Stephen to help you grow and mature emotionally, visit DoctorMarriage.org.More Resources:40 Days to OnenessGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy*Untangling Emotions by Groves & Smith*Related Podcasts:Men Helping Men Grow and MatureHealing Steps to Rebuild TrustWhy Men Struggle to Love*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

Originally Aired on May 1, 2024View this episode on YouTube-----HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $118,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2025 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.-----In this episode, we're hanging out with the dynamic duo, Linda Stewart and Linda Noble, who share their journey and collaborative work in the world of sexual education and theology of the body. They tell about their work with the Identity Project, aiming to help parents and families chat about sexuality and relationships in a faith-filled, positive way. The Lindas talk about their own lightbulb moments at the Theology of the Body Institute and how they're now passionate about giving parents the tools to paint a beautiful picture of God's design for their kids. They're all about tackling the big questions and easing those parent jitters with resources like their books and workbooks. It's all about building trust, having heart-to-hearts, and guiding the little ones through life's big topics. Learn more about the Lindas and their work at IdentityProject.tv and TheConversationWorkshop.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Collaboration of Linda Stewart and Linda Noble in sexual education and theology of the bodyThe Linda's Involvement in the Identity ProjectApproach to educating parents and families about sexuality and relationshipsInitial reluctance to discuss sexuality and the journey to embracing the theology of the bodyTheology of the body as a comprehensive view of sexuality and Christian sexual ethicImportance of understanding God's design for sex in addressing sexual brokennessThe role of parents in teaching children about God's love and their designAddressing the fears and anxieties of parents in discussing sexuality with childrenProviding support and resources for parents to navigate sexuality and relationships with their childrenMore Resources:Before the Sex Talk* by The LindasHonest Talk* by John FortOur Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher WestRelated Podcasts:God's Design for Emotional Growth and SexualityHelping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and SexualityKeeping Kids Safe in a Digital World*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, our guest is Stephen Thomas, who bravely shares his journey through struggles with pornography and same-sex attraction. Stephen opens up about his Christian upbringing, the shame he felt for his early porn use, and the pivotal role of community, faith, and vulnerability in his healing process. He recounts how early exposure to pornography led to a cycle of hiddenness and shame, and how opening up to his family and seeking therapy marked the beginning of his recovery. Stephen's story is a powerful reminder of the grace of God and the importance of authentic connections and support in overcoming deep personal struggles.To learn more about Stephen and his coaching services, visit StephenThomasConsulting.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal journey of overcoming struggles with pornography and same-sex attraction.Impact of upbringing in a Christian household on sexual identity and shame.The significance of vulnerability and honesty in relationships.The role of community and support in the healing process.The internal conflict between desires and societal expectations.The importance of confession and accountability in recovery.Addressing underlying emotional issues related to addiction.Strategies for maintaining sobriety and fostering meaningful connections.Advice for men at different stages of their recovery journey.Resources available for further support and coaching in overcoming sexual brokenness.More Resources:Get Free, Stay Free MasterclassGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery 8-Week Online Study GroupsRelated Podcasts:The Sex Talk You Never GotAm I Gay? (with Garry Ingraham)How Group Work Will Transform Your Recovery Journey----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

2024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000(We are currently at nearly 40% of the goal!)This ministry continues to reach men and women worldwide through the generous and faithful partnerships of listeners like you. Would you prayerfully consider partnering with us to meet our year-end financial need?To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you!----------In today's episode, my guests are Mark and Jill Savage, a couple that understands struggle, betrayal, and restoration. They talk about their incredible journey, betrayal, and the journey to rebuild trust. Mark opens up about his midlife crisis and infidelity after 28 years of marriage, while Jill shares the deep pain and the process of healing. They emphasize the importance of personal growth, accountability, and transparent communication. Mark's transformation began with a personal "resurrection" moment one Easter Sunday, leading to consistent efforts to regain Jill's trust. Their story is a testament to the power of God's faithfulness and commitment in overcoming marital challenges, offering hope and practical insights for couples facing similar struggles.To learn more about Mark and Jill and their resources, visit JillSavage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:The journey of Mark and Jill Savage through marriage challenges, including infidelity.The impact of betrayal on family dynamics and emotional well-being.The process of rebuilding trust after infidelity and the time it requires.The importance of transparency and accountability in restoring trust.Individual growth as a crucial element in healing and relationship improvement.The role of effective communication and vulnerability in strengthening relationships.The nature of trust as a gradual process that cannot be forced.The significance of personal responsibility and self-improvement in overcoming marital issues.Offering hope and resources for couples facing similar challenges.The transformative power of faith and commitment in rebuilding a marriage.More Resources:RebuildingTrust.usNo More Perfect Marriages* by Mark & Jill SavageMarriage 2.0 IntensiveRelated Podcasts:Rebuilding Your Marriage After Betrayal Podcast PlaylistA Journey of Redemption and HealingHow Can Therapeutic Disclosure Help Heal Marriages Affected by Sexual Betrayal? *This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I welcome Kim Hansen Petroni, an expert in betrayal trauma healing. We dive into the challenges many women face when dealing with emotionally lifeless marriages or divorce. Kim shares her personal journey and professional insights, emphasizing the importance of safety, grief, and reconnecting with God and self. We discuss the common lack of support from the church and the critical need for understanding and compassion. Kim offers practical tools for healing across physical, emotional, spiritual, and relational aspects. This episode is a beacon of hope, reminding women that healing from betrayal and a stronger sense of self and community are within reach.To learn more about Kim and her resources, visit NotaCasseroleWidow.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Betrayal trauma healing, particularly for women in difficult marriages.Personal experiences and professional background of the guest in psychology and counseling.The impact of betrayal trauma on women's emotional and spiritual well-being.The three main stages of healing from betrayal trauma: 1) safety and stabilization, 2) grief and mourning, and 3) reconnecting with the outside world.Challenges faced by women during divorce, including identity loss and lack of community support.The role of the church in supporting women experiencing betrayal trauma.The importance of self-care and emotional support during the healing process.Practical tools for physical, emotional, spiritual, and relational healing.The significance of community and shared experiences among women dealing with betrayal trauma.Messages of hope and empowerment for women navigating their healing journeys.More Resources:Not a Casserole Widow* by Kim Hansen PetroniCoachingHope4U.comOnline Care Groups for WivesRelated Podcasts:Is There Hope After Divorce Due to Sexual Betrayal?Life and Hope After Divorce: Reese and Sharon's StoryNew Course: 40 Days of Healing for Wives*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

2024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000This ministry continues to reach men and women worldwide through the generous and faithful partnerships of listeners like you. Would you prayerfully consider partnering with us to meet our year-end financial need?To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you!----------In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the theme of temptation, especially regarding male sexuality and the internal conflicts it sparks. Through a role-playing exercise, we illustrate the dialogue between the mind, body, and spirit during moments of temptation. We highlight the struggle between seeking pleasure and maintaining spiritual discipline. Stephen emphasizes the importance of standing firm and seeking peace, while I underscore the role of the Holy Spirit and community support in overcoming temptation. This episode offers valuable insights and practical tools for managing desires and fostering a healthier relationship with yourself.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Exploration of temptation, particularly in the context of male sexuality.Internal conflict between the mind, body, and spirit during moments of temptation.Role-playing exercise to illustrate the dialogue among different parts of the self.The cyclical nature of temptation and the struggle for self-control.The concept of the "wounded boy" representing emotional pain and longing for comfort.The importance of spiritual discipline and self-control in managing desires.The role of the Holy Spirit in guiding individuals through temptation.The significance of community and connection in overcoming isolation during struggles.Encouragement to engage in self-reflection and recognize inner conflicts.A call to action for individuals to pursue a healthier relationship with their desires and spiritual journey.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenSexual Integrity Webinar for MenDealing with Temptation Podcast BundleRelated Podcasts:Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual AddictionWhat to Do in the Moment of TemptationUnderstanding Body, Soul, and Spirit----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

2024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000This ministry continues to reach men and women worldwide through the generous and faithful partnerships of listeners like you. Would you prayerfully consider partnering with us to meet our year-end financial need? To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you!----------In this episode, our guest is Ben Locke, author of "In Our Suffering Lord Be Near: Prayers of Hope for the Hurting." Ben shares his amazing journey from being a dedicated soccer player to facing severe injuries, abuse, and emotional trauma. These experiences led him to a deep exploration of suffering, mental health, and faith.We discuss the importance of processing emotions, the transformative power of prayer, and the role of therapy in healing. Ben's story is a testament to finding hope and connection through shared human experiences and Christian faith. Join us for an inspiring conversation on resilience and recovery.Ben's book can be found on Amazon or wherever books are sold. If you want to receive Ben's weekly prayer devotional, visit EvensongJournal.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: Personal journey through suffering, injury, and traumaExperiences as a soccer player and the impact of injuriesChallenges related to mental health and emotional strugglesThe role of prayer in coping with sufferingImportance of processing emotions and seeking therapyConnection between suffering and shared human experiencesRole of faith and relationship with God through strugglesThe transformative power of prayer and honest communication with GodThe significance of community and support in dealing with sufferingHope and healing as outcomes of confronting and sharing strugglesMore Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for menFind a GroupA Sacred Sorrow* by Michael CardRelated Podcasts:Let's PrayRecovery Discovery 019: PrayerThe Immanuel Approach in Recovery*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I'm thrilled to welcome Dr. Linda Seiler, a remarkable advocate for addressing LGBTQ struggles through a Christian worldview. We dive into her personal journey, where she shares her experiences with gender identity confusion and her transformation after coming to faith in Christ. Dr. Seiler discusses her book, "Transformation: A Former Transgender's Response to LGBTQ," highlighting her struggles, the power of Christ, and the importance of compassion and truth when addressing such complex and personal struggles. Our conversation emphasizes a clear gospel approach to sexual brokenness, offering hope and understanding for those navigating similar challenges. There is good news in the gospel – Jesus really does transform us!For more information about Linda and her ministry, visit RestoryMinistries.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Dr. Linda Siler's personal journey with gender identity and sexuality.The impact of her conversion to Christianity on her identity and struggles.Discussion of her book "Transformation: A Former Transgender's Response to LGBTQ."The concept of being "born again" and its implications for identity in Christ.Misconceptions surrounding LGBTQ identities and the potential for change.The five streams of church responses to LGBTQ issues: condemnation, affirmation, accommodation, mortification, and transformation.The importance of compassion and understanding in addressing sexual brokenness.The role of the gospel in transforming lives and identities.Encouragement for individuals to engage with and support those struggling with their sexuality.Resources for further exploration of LGBTQ issues within a faith context.More Resources:TRANS-formation: A Former Transgender Responds to LGBTQ* by Dr. Linda SeilerLindaSeiler.com Quick GuidesRelated Podcasts:Exposing the Gender Lie (with Brandon Showalter)Navigating Identity & Sexuality - A Compassionate Approach for ParentsAm I Gay? (with Garry Ingraham)*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the complexities of personal growth, focusing on how childhood experiences shape adult behavior. We discuss insights from the "Gateway to Freedom" workshop, emphasizing the importance of recognizing our own choices while understanding the influences of our upbringing. I admire Stephen's work on DoctorMarriage.org and how he offers practical tools and tips for men wanting to live a full life of integrity. In our conversation, we explore themes of belonging, identity, and the emotional struggles many face. We highlight the coexistence of sadness and hope, encouraging listeners to embrace self-discovery and seek support for healing and transformation. To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal responsibility and its complexitiesImpact of childhood experiences on adult behaviorDistinction between personal choices and external influencesInsights from the "Gateway to Freedom" workshopEmotional struggles related to belonging and identityThe pain of rejection and its lasting effectsThe relationship between sadness and hopeCoping mechanisms developed in childhood and their consequencesThe journey of self-discovery and healingImportance of seeking support and community for personal growthMore Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for menSad, but Hopeful post on DoctorMarriage.orgGrace-Based Recovery Online GroupsRelated Podcasts:Why Men Need to Practice SadnessWhole Man Recovery Pt 3: EmotionalNavigating Grief, Fear, and Transformation----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, we chat with the amazing Elizabeth Woning about her incredible journey of faith and sexuality. Elizabeth, once an openly lesbian woman who attended seminary, shares her experiences reconciling her sexuality with her faith in God. We delve into her transformative encounters with God, the challenges of navigating faith within the LGBTQ+ community, and the importance of self-acceptance in light of the gospel. Elizabeth's story highlights the power of experiencing God's love and the ongoing journey of understanding one's true identity. Her insights offer hope and guidance for anyone grappling with similar issues. Join us for this earnest and enlightening conversation!For more information about Elizabeth and her movement, visit ChangedMovement.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Exploration of the intersection between faith and sexuality.Personal journey of an openly lesbian woman in a religious context.Experiences in seminary and the LGBTQ+ community.The impact of transformative encounters with God.Reevaluation of beliefs regarding identity and self-acceptance.The role of God's love in shaping personal identity.Challenges faced by individuals with life-dominating issues related to sexuality.Importance of relational understanding of God versus a philosophical approach.Strategies for creating safe environments for discussions about identity.Encouragement for individuals to seek a deeper communion with God.More Resources:Changed Book: #OnceGayStoriesNavigating LGBTQ video courseChanged StoriesRelated Podcasts:From Broken Home to Broken Sexuality to Wholeness in ChristAm I Gay? (with Garry Ingraham)What is Sexual Discipleship?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I chat with Phil and Priscilla Fretwell about their incredible journey of healing and redemption from sexual brokenness in their marriage. They are the founders of Savage Marriage Ministries and help other couples overcome their past and fight for their future.In our conversation, Phil opens up about his long-term struggle with pornography and the devastating impact it had on their relationship. Priscilla shares her raw emotions of betrayal and anger, and how she found the strength to forgive. Together, they highlight the importance of honesty, vulnerability, and seeking help. Their story is a powerful reminder that even in the darkest times, transformation and healing are possible through faith and open communication.To learn more about Phil and Priscilla and their ministry, visit SavageMarriageMinistries.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal struggles with pornography and its impact on marriageThe journey of confession and the importance of transparencyEmotional wounds and their influence on behaviorThe role of accountability and seeking help in recoveryThe process of healing from betrayal and angerThe significance of communication in rebuilding trustThe impact of struggles on family dynamics and relationshipsThe transformative power of vulnerability and honestyThe development of a new ministry to support others facing similar challengesEncouragement for others to pursue healing and restoration in their relationshipsMore Resources:Savage Marriage* by Phil and Priscilla FretwellSavage Marriage PodcastGateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for menWives Care Online GroupsRelated Podcasts:The Journey to Stay (with Steve & Lisa Goldberg)Out of the Dust: One Couple's Story of Radical Redemption4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I welcome Sam Jolman, a therapist, author, and father, to discuss his book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality." Sam shares his journey into counseling, emphasizing the importance of meaningful conversations about sexuality. We explore the impact of shame and purity culture, and the distinction between normal arousal and lust. Sam highlights the need for competent counseling and open dialogue to foster a healthier understanding of men's sexual formation. This episode is a heartfelt call to reclaim the beauty and complexity of human sexuality as God designed it.To learn more about Sam and the book, visit SamJolman.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Importance of open conversations about sexualityPersonal experiences and backstory of the speaker as a therapist and fatherThe role of competent counseling in addressing sexual issuesImpact of shame and purity culture on men's understanding of sexualityDistinction between normal arousal and lustConcept of the "wow response" to beauty and attractionNature of sexuality as a means for emotional and relational connectionInfluence of generational patterns of shame on sexual educationGuidance for parents on discussing sexuality with childrenEncouragement for ongoing dialogue about sexuality rather than a single conversationMore Resources:The Sex Talk You Never Got* by Sam JolmanGateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for menOur Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher WestRelated Podcasts:Understanding God's Design for Sex in Today's Confused CultureGod's Design for Emotional Growth and SexualityWhat is Sexual Discipleship?*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I welcome back Lyschel Burket, an expert in helping women heal from betrayal trauma, especially in marriages affected by infidelity. Lyschel shares her personal journey and emphasizes the importance of community, safety, and communication in the healing process. We discuss the unique emotional challenges women face after betrayal and the critical role of support and understanding from both partners and their community. Lyschel also highlights the spiritual aspect of healing, stressing how Christ provides hope and safety during suffering and grief. It's a heartfelt conversation aimed at offering solace and guidance to those traveling this difficult path. To learn more about Lyschel and her resources for wives, visit HopeRedefined.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Healing journey of women experiencing betrayal trauma, particularly in marriages.Importance of community support and connection during the healing process.Emotional challenges faced by women after discovering betrayal.Need for safety and stabilization as foundational aspects of healing.Communication between partners to rebuild trust and understanding.Unique experiences of betrayal and the necessity for empathy from partners.Role of the betraying partner in supporting the healing process.Impact of trauma on the grieving process and emotional responses.Self-care practices and accountability for betrayed partners.Spiritual aspect of healing and finding hope through faith.More Resources:Hope for Wives Podcast40 Days of Healing for Wives online courseHope Redefined Online CommunityRelated Podcasts:Sexual Betrayal and Spiritual BattleThe Need for Safety in Betrayal Trauma HealingForgiveness and Grief in Betrayal Trauma Healing----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, we invite back Dr. Jennifer Degler, a clinical psychologist and marriage expert, to talk about making sex pleasurable and fun again, especially for couples dealing with betrayal or brokenness. Dr. Degler shares her insights on the importance of pleasure within God's design for sex and offers practical steps for re-engaging with intimacy after betrayal. We discuss the necessity of communication, mindfulness, and sensory exploration to rebuild trust and enjoyment in sexual relationships. Jennifer's tips and insightful anecdotes provide a refreshing perspective on rekindling passion and connection in marriage.To learn more about Dr. Degler and her resources, visit JenniferDegler.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Importance of pleasure in sexual relationships within a Christian context.Challenges couples face in reconnecting after betrayal or brokenness.Practical steps for re-engaging with intimacy and pleasure.Role of communication in rebuilding trust and intimacy.Mindfulness techniques to enhance sensory experiences during intimacy.Non-sexual physical affection as a foundation for intimacy.Engaging the five senses to deepen connection and pleasure.Strategies for managing intrusive thoughts during intimate moments.Incorporating spirituality and prayer into the healing process.Encouragement for couples to persevere in their journey toward intimacy and fulfillment.More Resources:CWIVESFree resources for building healthy marriagesFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:What Men Need to Know About Female SexualityUnderstanding Your Flipped Out BrainThe Journey to Stay----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I'm so excited to chat with Gigi Hopkins, our Wives Care Director, and Andrea Stunz, our Marketing Manager and Wives Care Aftercare Coordinator, about our new online resource, "40 Days of Healing for Wives." This course is crafted to support women dealing with the pain of betrayal in their marriages, especially sexual betrayal. We dive into the course's development, its structure, and the importance of pacing and journaling. Gigi and Andrea share heartfelt insights on fostering healing, the power of community support, and how faith plays a crucial role in the healing journey for wives. To learn more and enroll in the course, visit PureLifeAcademy.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Development of the "40 Days of Healing for Wives" courseImportance of healing for wives dealing with betrayal, especially sexual betrayalStructure and key elements of the course, including pacing and journalingRole of community support in the healing processEmotional regulation and handling triggers during healingIncorporation of faith in the healing journeyPersonal growth and transformation through painGoals and aspirations for participants in the courseEncouragement and hope for women navigating betrayalResources and support available for participants beyond the courseMore Resources: Free Basics Webinar for WivesWives Care GroupsPersonal Consultation for WivesRelated Podcasts:Self-Care and Rest for Wives Healing from Betrayal TraumaThe Need for Boundaries After BetrayalLiminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to Hope----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, we dive into the emotional struggles men face, especially those recovering from addiction. We explore the concept of "Mr. Unemotional," describing men who find it hard to express their feelings due to past experiences or societal pressures. Stephen Cervantes and I discuss the importance of emotional growth alongside behavioral recovery. We share insights on how men can better understand and articulate their emotions, emphasizing the need for openness and support from partners and friends. The episode highlights the journey toward emotional maturity, encouraging men to embrace change for deeper, more fulfilling relationships.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional health and its significance in addiction recovery for men.The concept of "Mr. Unemotional" and its implications for men's emotional development.The disconnect between behavioral recovery and emotional growth.The impact of childhood emotional training on adult emotional expression.The importance of recognizing and acknowledging one's emotional state.Tools and strategies for improving emotional awareness, such as the "feelings wheel."The role of openness and willingness to learn in emotional growth.Challenges in navigating emotional conversations and the tendency to shut down.The need for comfort and connection in relationships, particularly during emotional expressions.The journey toward emotional maturity and the potential for personal and relational transformation.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive40 Days of Training for Your SoulEmotional Training for Men Webinar SeriesRelated Podcasts:Men's Emotional Self-Awareness TestBreaking Down Barriers: The Art of Active ListeningA 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I have back on the program our delightful friend and colleague Dr. Joy Skarka to talk about her new book, "Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy," co-authored with Dr. Juli Slattery. Joy shares her personal journey and the mission of Authentic Intimacy, a ministry dedicated to helping individuals reclaim God's design for sexuality. We discuss the unique challenges women face with pornography, the importance of understanding God's unconditional love, and the journey toward sexual integrity – which emphasizes the power of truth, engaging community, and sharing one's story to overcome shame and find lifelong healing.For more info about Joy, the book, and the ministry, visit AuthenticIntimacy.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of the book "Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy."Exploration of the challenges women face regarding pornography.The role of the Authentic Intimacy ministry in addressing issues of sexuality and intimacy.Personal stories of healing from shame, addiction, and abuse.The importance of understanding God's love and sexual integrity.The concept of sexual integrity and its integration with spiritual identity.The journey of healing as a continuous process rather than a destination.The impact of shame and identity on women's struggles with pornography.Practical tools for combating lies and embracing truth through scripture.Encouragement to share personal stories as a means of healing and breaking free from shame.More Resources:Her Freedom Journey* by Dr. Joy Skarka and Dr. Juli SlatteryHer Freedom Journey online book studySheRecovery.comRelated Podcasts:Freedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and AbuseNew Research on Why Women View PornGod's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual Shame*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I chat with three amazing leaders from Prodigals International: Steve Dulaney, president of Prodigals, Sam Louie, a licensed mental health counselor, and Fausto Estrada, one of their group leaders. Steve shares how Prodigals International began as a faith-based support group for men struggling with sexual addiction and intimacy disorders, emphasizing the importance of community and accountability. Sam opens up about his journey from addiction to recovery, influenced by his background as an Asian immigrant. He highlights how group therapy and supportive mentors transformed his life. Fausto shares his recovery story and how it has culminated in him now leading a Spanish language support group for Prodigals. Together, we explore the power of faith, personal stories, and cultural context in overcoming addiction and fostering recovery. I trust this conversation will inspire you in your own journey of pursuing greater integrity.To learn more about Prodigals International, please visit ProdigalsInternational.org.Topics Covered in Episode:Background and mission of Prodigals InternationalPrograms aimed at helping men with sexual addiction and intimacy disordersPersonal stories of recovery from addictionCultural influences on addiction and recovery experiencesThe role of community and accountability in overcoming addictionThe importance of mentorship in the recovery processChallenges faced during the journey of recoveryThe impact of faith in the healing processDevelopment of resources for Spanish-speaking individuals in recoveryThe significance of sharing personal stories to inspire hope in othersMore Resources:Passport to Shame* by Sam LouieProdigals in Espanol (Spanish language group for men)Online Homecoming GroupRelated Podcasts: About Recovery and Asian Culture ShameOvercoming Shame and Embracing Your True IdentityHelping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally Fit*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I chat with Mike Novotny, pastor, speaker, and author of "Taboo: Topics Christians Should Be Talking About But Don't." We dive into sensitive subjects like anxiety, depression, addiction, and especially sexuality within the Christian community. Mike shares his personal journey of overcoming pornography addiction and stresses the importance of open discussions in the church. We explore God's design for sex, emphasizing that understanding and obeying biblical truths can lead to healing and transformation. Mike encourages listeners to seek grace, find trustworthy confidants, and take steps toward wholeness in Christ.To learn more about Mike, his book, and other gospel resources, visit TimeofGrace.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of taboo topics within the Christian communityPersonal experiences with anxiety, depression, and addictionThe importance of open conversations about sexualityOvercoming struggles with pornography and the role of confessionUnderstanding God's design for sex and its significanceThe necessity of obedience to biblical truths for transformationThe impact of societal views on sexual intimacy within marriageThe metaphor of sex as a fire, emphasizing boundaries and self-controlThe role of grace in addressing sexual sin and personal strugglesEncouragement to seek support and build connections within the communityMore Resources:Taboo: Topics Christians Should Be Talking About But Don't*Help for MenHelp for FamiliesRelated Podcasts: Exploring the Heart of Sexuality with Dr. Carol TanksleyMasturbation, Emotional Health, and Abundant LivingGod's Design for Emotional Growth and Sexuality*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I welcome Sarah Siegand to the program, co-founder of Parents Who Fight and an expert in helping parents navigate technology's impact on children. We dive into the importance of modeling healthy tech habits, delaying access to devices, and educating parents about online safety. Sarah shares her personal journey, emphasizing the need for intentionality in family tech use. We discuss the five phases of tech training: ModelingDelayingProtectingMonitoringReleasingSarah provides practical tips and insights, aiming to empower parents to create a safe and balanced digital environment for their kids. It's a thoughtful conversation filled with valuable advice for modern parenting.To learn more about Sarah and the resources she offers, visit ParentsWhoFight.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Challenges parents face regarding technology's impact on childrenImportance of modeling healthy technology habitsDelaying access to devices and social media for childrenEducating parents about online safety and potential dangersThe role of intentionality in family engagement with technologyFramework for tech training for parents: modeling, delaying, protecting, monitoring, and releasingStrategies for creating a safe digital environment at homeThe significance of open communication and trust between parents and childrenBalancing protection with the need for children to learn responsibilityResources and support available for parents navigating technology issuesMore Resources:PWF Tech ToolsFree Webinar for Parents: Critical ConversationsCreating a Tech-Healthy Family* by Andrea DavisRelated Podcasts:Better Screen Time for You and Your FamilyBrain Defense Digital Safety for KidsKeeping Kids Safe in a Digital World*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, Joel Warneking shares his profound journey through addiction and recovery. Joel is the director of 423 Communities, a ministry that is radically committed to helping others overcome all forms of unhealthy sexuality, restoring healthy sexuality and intimacy with others through, confessional, recovery communities. Joel opens up about his own history of pornography addiction and the isolating shame that came with it. He highlights how group work was crucial in his healing process, emphasizing the importance of community, grace, and accountability. We explore the essentials of a supportive group environment, the balance between grace and structure, and the need for action in recovery. Joel's story and insights remind us that recovery thrives in the context of supportive relationships.To learn more about Joel and his ministry's resources, visit 423Communities.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: Importance of group work in recovery from addictionPersonal experiences with addiction, particularly pornographyImpact of isolation and shame on individuals in recoveryRole of community and grace in the healing processEssentials of creating a supportive group environmentBalancing grace and accountability in recoveryDynamics of group therapy and mutual supportUnderstanding recovery as a journey beyond mere sobrietyConcept of "paying it forward" in recoveryBroader applicability of recovery principles for personal growth and transformationMore Resources: Join a 423 Communities groupGateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenGrace-Based Transformation*Related Podcasts: How Can Recovery Lead to a New Growth Mission? A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional GrowthMen Helping Men Grow and Mature*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, our guest Brad Warren shares his incredible journey of overcoming a troubled past, including struggles with pornography and infidelity. Brad opens up about the profound impact these issues had on his marriage and how he and his wife, Kristen, found healing. We dive into the transformative power of the Hope Rising Conference, a virtual conference for couples dealing with similar challenges. Brad shares how their recovery led them both to pursue careers in counseling, aiming to help others navigate their paths to healing. This episode is a testament to hope, honesty, and the power of God's grace.To learn about the Hope Rising Conference, visit AffairRecovery.com/hope-rising.To learn more about Brad and Kristen's counseling practice, visit RestfulMindTherapy.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Personal recovery and transformation from a troubled backgroundStruggles with pornography and infidelity in marriageThe impact of a dysfunctional family environment on personal developmentThe journey of honesty and healing in relationshipsThe emotional challenges faced by betrayed spousesThe significance of community and support in the healing processThe role of the Hope Rising Conference in providing resources for couplesUnderstanding sexual addiction and its effects on relationshipsThe importance of inclusivity for all forms of betrayal, including pornography addictionVocational shifts towards counseling and helping others navigate similar challengesMore Resources:Register for Hope Rising ConferenceHelp for HusbandsHelp for WivesRelated Podcasts: The Journey to StayRebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalEarly Recovery Couples Empathy Model----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I chat with Dr. Carol Tanksley, a ministry friend and author of the book Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships.  We dive into the complexities of sexuality, intimacy, and how personal and cultural experiences shape these aspects of our lives. Dr. Tanksley shares her personal journey of learning about sexuality and intimacy, emphasizing the importance of addressing heart issues and healing from past wounds. We discuss the difference between intimacy and sexuality, the necessity of community support, and the concept of sexual wholeness. Finally, Dr. Carol offers practical advice on creating an escape plan for temptations and highlights the transformative power of faith and vulnerability.To learn more about Carol and her resources, visit YourSexpectations.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Exploration of sexuality and intimacy in the context of faith and relationships.Personal experiences and motivations behind writing "Sexpectations."The distinction between intimacy and sexuality, emphasizing their different roles.The importance of addressing emotional wounds and their impact on sexual behavior.The concept of sexual wholeness and its three key aspects: releasing the past, right-sizing sexuality, and cultivating intimacy.The role of community in fostering intimacy and support for individuals.Strategies for creating an escape plan to manage temptations related to sexuality.The significance of submitting one's sexuality to Christ for transformation.The journey from forgiveness to personal transformation and purpose.The potential for healing and redemption from past traumas and experiences.More Resources: Sexpectations* by Dr. Carol TanksleyDr. Carol's BlogRethinking Sexuality* by Dr. Juli SlatteryRelated Podcasts:God, Sex, and Your MarriageWhat are Your Sexpectations? Identity and the Goodness of Sexuality*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

My apologies for the poor audio quality of this episode. I hope it won't distract too much from the content. In this episode, Stephen and I talk about the power of "co," meaning "together" or "jointly," in relationships and recovery. We dive into how collaboration and connection are essential for personal growth and healing, especially in marriage and overcoming addiction. Dr. Cervantes shares insights on co-parenting, co-planning, and co-nurturing, emphasizing that love and community are vital for a fulfilling life. We also discuss the church's role in fostering a sense of belonging and unity. Join us as we explore how embracing "co" can transform our lives and relationships.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:The significance of the prefix "co" in relationships and community.The role of collaboration and partnership in personal growth and healing.The impact of addiction on connection and the importance of overcoming isolation.Practical applications of "co" in everyday life, such as co-parenting and co-planning.The challenges individuals face in embracing a "co" mentality, especially after trauma or addiction.The journey of co-expression and the importance of sharing desires and fears.The concept of co-nurturing and its relevance in supporting relationships.The role of the church in fostering community and addressing emotional and cultural needs.The idea of community as "common unity" and the importance of shared goals.Encouragement for listeners to actively seek connection and collaboration in their lives.More Resources:Resources for MenResources for WivesResources for FamiliesRelated Podcasts:The Goal is ConnectingThe 7 (or More) Pillars of Emotional GrowthThe Power of Community----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I'm joined by Stacey Fitzgerald, who shares her profound journey through betrayal trauma and her path to healing. Stacey opens up about the resurfacing of her trauma in 2021, describing intense physical symptoms like panic attacks and a racing heart. She emphasizes the importance of feeling safe and regulating the nervous system. Stacey's healing process involved spiritual, emotional, and physical approaches, including prayer, music, and understanding the mind-body connection. Now, she helps other women navigate similar experiences through her platform, "Becoming Safe." To learn more about Stacey and her resources, visit BecomingSafe.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: Healing and safety in the context of betrayal traumaPersonal experiences of betrayal trauma in relationshipsResurfacing of trauma and its physical symptomsThe role of spiritual, emotional, and physical approaches in healingImportance of feeling safe and regulating the nervous systemImpact of trauma on mental and physical healthThe concept of holistic healing encompassing spirit, soul, and bodyTools and resources for women navigating similar experiencesThe significance of community support in the healing journeyAddressing the interplay between personal healing and external circumstancesMore Resources:Online Wives Care GroupsFind a Counselor or CoachFree Wives Care WebinarRelated Podcasts:Self-Care and Rest for Wives Healing from Betrayal TraumaEmotional Transformation Therapy for Betrayed WivesBetrayal Healing Phases----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this heartfelt episode, I chat with Kate and Will Conwell about their journey through betrayal trauma and healing in their marriage. Kate shares her work with "Journey Beyond Betrayal," a ministry supporting women facing similar struggles. Will opens up about his past issues with sexual brokenness and infidelity, and how these impacted their relationship. We explore the importance of sharing personal stories for healing and connection and the crucial role of faith in recovery. This episode is all about offering hope and encouragement to couples dealing with betrayal trauma. If this is you, you aren't alone!To learn more about Kate and her resources for wives, visit JourneyBeyondBetrayal.com.To learn more about 423 Men's groups, visit 423Communities.org. Topics Covered in this Episode: The Conwells' journey through betrayal trauma in their marriage.Will's struggles with sexual brokenness and infidelity.The significance of sharing personal stories for healing and connection.The role of faith in overcoming challenges in relationships.The impact of early exposure to pornography on men's relationships.The process of confronting and addressing infidelity and its aftermath.The importance of self-awareness and communication in marriage.Messages of hope for individuals facing relationship struggles.Resources and support systems available for healing and recovery.More Resources:Wives Care Online GroupsGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveHelp to Tell Your StoryRelated Podcasts:Living More than a Love StoryThe Journey to StayBetrayal Healing Phases

In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the theme of emotional growth and the importance of relationships among men. We start by sharing some personal stories about our dads and male role models, highlighting how men often prioritize being providers over nurturing emotional connections. A key highlight of this episode features a movie character from our Gateway to Freedom workshop, who realizes his potential after being told, "You could have been great." This statement is loaded with powerful insights for men when they realize their lives are running on the wrong tracks. We want men to experience their full potential as image bearers of God; to know him fully and love others deeply.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode: The significance of emotional growth in men's lives.The role of relationships and male connections in personal development.The impact of societal expectations on men's focus on productivity and financial success.Reflections on personal experiences with fathers and male role models.The portrayal of an emotionally stunted character in a movie and its implications.The wake-up call of recognizing one's potential and the importance of relationships.The concept of greatness and how it relates to emotional and spiritual fulfillment.The importance of accountability and honest feedback among male friends.The transformative power of truth and listening to others' stories.Encouragement for men to prioritize emotional well-being and meaningful connections.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups49 Days of Growth*Related Podcasts: Men's Emotional Self-Awareness TestA 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional GrowthWhat Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I welcome back Cat Etherington, the director of recovery at the Naked Truth Project. We explore the profound impact of betrayal trauma on wives and the journey towards healing and forgiveness. Cat explains the stages of healing: Safety and stabilization, Remembering and mourning, Reconnection She emphasizes the importance of forgiveness, not as a pressured obligation but as a personal outcome of healing. We also discuss how friends and family can provide tangible support during this difficult time. For more information on Cat and her resources, visit nakedtruthproject.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Impact of betrayal on a wife and the process of healing and forgivenessEmotional aspects of navigating betrayal traumaKey stages of healing from betrayal traumaImportance of forgiveness in the healing processReadiness to forgive and precursors in the healing journeyDifferentiating between trauma triggers and griefReconnecting with the world after betrayal traumaSupport from friends and family for those experiencing betrayal traumaMore Resources:Wives Care GroupsWives Care Basics WebinarCounseling or CoachingRelated Podcasts:8 Practical Steps of ForgivenessThe Recovery Process for CouplesHelping Wives Recover from the Aftershock of Sexual Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.