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How can we break free from distractions and cultivate a truly open mind? In this episode, we sit down with Nate Klemp, Ph.D.—NYT bestselling author, philosopher, and Mindful Magazine co-founder—to explore how mindfulness, digital wellness, and intentional habits can unlock mental clarity, inner peace, and self-mastery. Nate has written several illuminating books, including Start Here: Master The Lifelong Skill of Wellbeing, The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage. Nate shares insights from his upcoming book, OPEN: Living With an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World, revealing how to navigate life's obstacles using new science, age-old wisdom, and personal growth strategies. Tune in to discover: How to master your mind and break free from distraction The impact of technology addiction on mental clarity Practical habits for deep focus, self-growth, and emotional balance What it means to live in a truly “open” state Are you ready to shift your mindset and embrace a more conscious, connected life? Click here now. Episode also available on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/38oMlMr

A lot of people go into marriage with a 50/50 mindset. Everything in the relationship — from tangible things like childcare and chores to intangible things like the effort and energy needed to keep the partnership going — is supposed to be divided equally.The 50/50 approach to relationships is all about fairness. And that seems sensible and rational.But, my guest says, it actually sabotages relational happiness.Nate Klemp is a former philosophy professor and the co-author, along with his wife, of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship. Today on the show, Nate shares how cognitive biases skew our perception of our contributions to a relationship, what happens when couples get stuck in the 50/50 mindset of domestic scorekeeping, and how shifting to an 80/80 model of “radical generosity” can create an upward spiral of connection and appreciation. And we discuss practical ways to divide household responsibilities, decide how much time to spend with each spouse's respective parents, and establish values that will guide your partnership as you navigate life changes and work towards a spirit of shared success.Resources Related to the PodcastAoM article and podcast on how to hold a weekly marriage meetingAoM Article: Towards a Philosophy of Household ManagementAoM Article: Beware the Tit for Tat TrapConnect With Nate Klemp80/80 Marriage websiteNate's websiteNate on LinkedInNate on IG

In today's episode, we connect with Nate Klemp, Ph.D., a New York Times bestselling author, philosopher, and founding partner of Mindful Magazine. After acquiring an MA from Stanford and a PhD from Princeton, Nate found himself burnt out following 10 years of intense philosophical training. However, this quickly changed after he pursued the concept of mindful living – and exploring philosophy as a way of life… Nate has written several illuminating books, including Start Here: Master The Lifelong Skill of Wellbeing, The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage, and the upcoming OPEN: Living With an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World, which is set to be published by Sounds True Press in February 2024. Join the discussion now to learn about: The importance of learning how to navigate your own mind.  How to cultivate experiential habits to live more skillfully in the modern world.  What it means to be living in a “closed off” state.  The ways that technology addiction impacts mental clarity.  How can we use new science, age-old practices, and personal stories to confront obstacles in life? What does it truly mean to live free and connected? Click play to discover Nate's insights, tools, and real-life experiences that can help you navigate challenges, unlock your potential, and cultivate a more profound sense of freedom. Follow along with Nate and his work by visiting his website! Upgrade Your Wallet Game with Ekster!  Get the sleek, smart wallet you deserve—and save while you're at it! Use coupon code FINDINGGENIUS at checkout or shop now with this exclusive link: ekster.com?sca_ref=4822922.DtoeXHFUmQ5  Smarter, slimmer, better. Don't miss out! Episode also available on Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/30PvU9C

In this episode I talk with Nate Klemp, PhD. Nate is a bestselling author and formally trained philosopher. He is the author of the new book OPEN: Living With an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World. Nate is also the coauthor of the New York Times Editors' Choice, The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage, and the New York Times Bestseller, Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing. He has been featured in The LA Times, The New York Times, The Times London, and has appeared on Good Morning America and "Talks" at Google. Nate co-founded the mindfulness training company Life Cross Training and holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University. I cannot think of a better guest to have on the podcast during these uncertain, catastrophic times. His new book, OPEN: Living With an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World is an important antidote to the ongoing trauma and division of the times. He offers the remedy of opening our minds and hearts despite our instinct to close them. Stay tuned as we talk about: How we're living in a time of closure: closing in through our screens and closing to each other. "Annihilating the power of the smart phone." The practice of skillful closing when things get too intense. How our mindset is contagious and how it reinforces our environment of closure. How we talk to each other about politics in either "strategic mode" where we're trying to 'win' or "communication" mode where we're trying to understand. Non-drug psychedelic experience and psychedelic-assisted therapy. Mindfulness, meditation, and the practice of open-awareness (like Dzogchen) meditation.  And more! I'm sure you'll enjoy the conversation with Nate as much as I did. He is wise, funny, and a delightful conversation partner!   Learn more about Nate: https://www.nateklemp.com   Buy the book, Open: Open - Amazon affiliate link   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nate_klemp/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpncjN_woj6Xrth0i-bGp7w   Nate Klemp, Ph.D. LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nate-klemp-phd-6901b72b   x/Twitter: https://x.com/i/flow/login?redirect_after_login=%2Fnateklemp     Become a patron to support this podcast and get special member benefits, including a membership community, a virtual sangha, and a subscription to my Everyday Buddhism Substack:https://www.patreon.com/EverydayBuddhism     Check out my Substack and weekly podcast, Words From My Teachers: https://wendyshinyohaylett.substack.com/   If this podcast has helped you understand Buddhism or help in your everyday life, consider making a one-time donation here: https://donorbox.org/podcast-donations   Support the podcast through the affiliate link to buy the book, Everyday Buddhism: Real-Life Buddhist Teachings & Practices for Real Change: Buy the book, Everyday Buddhism   Support the podcast and show your support through the purchase of Everyday Buddhism merch: https://www.zazzle.com/store/everyday_buddhism   NOTE: Free shipping on ALL (unlimited) items (Everyday Buddhism merch or gifts from other stores) if you join Zazzle Plus for $19.95/year: https://www.zazzle.com/zazzleplus

How to Save Your Marriage with Nate & Kaley Klemp | The 80/80 Marriage   In this episode of The 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I'm joined by Nate and Kaley Klemp, co-authors of the groundbreaking book The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage. Nate and Kaley dive deep into their revolutionary approach to marriage that shifts the outdated 80/20 and 50/50 relationship models, which often lead to resentment and power struggles, to an 80/80 model focused on radical generosity, mutual support, and shared success.   We explore everything from societal conditioning and power dynamics to daily habits that can transform even the most challenging relationships. If you're struggling with power imbalances, fairness, or communication in your relationship, this episode will guide you toward a more conscious, connected, and thriving partnership.   Key Takeaways:   - 06:03 – Nate breaks down the flaws in the 80/20 model that often leads to over- and under-contributors. - 06:56 – Kaley explains why the 50/50 model doesn't foster true partnership. - 08:22 – Nate introduces the 80/80 model and its power to reshape marriage dynamics. - 10:32 – Kaley discusses societal conditioning and how it influences our approach to relationships. - 12:48 – The importance of focusing on “micro moments” to create lasting positive change. - 15:49 – Discover the three essential ingredients for a successful 80/80 relationship. - 18:04 – We unpack the root causes of resentment and how to overcome them. - 21:32 – Power struggles in marriage: why they happen and how to handle them. - 24:42 – Nate shares insights on 'relationship jujitsu,' the art of diffusing conflict without giving up your voice. - 29:40 – Radical generosity: the heart of the 80/80 marriage. - 40:22 – The daily check-in: a simple but powerful practice to reconnect with your partner. - 54:59 – We discuss alcoholism, fairness, and how external factors can impact marriage dynamics. - 1:00:33 – Working on your relationship: establishing non-negotiables and creating a marriage that thrives.   Nate & Kaley Klemp's Bios:   Nate and Kaley Klemp are the co-authors of *The 80/80 Marriage*, a New York Times Editors' Choice book that is transforming how couples approach their relationships. Nate holds a PhD from Princeton and is also the coauthor of the New York Times bestseller *Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing*. Kaley is a leading expert in leadership development, small-group dynamics, and coauthor of the Amazon bestseller *The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership*. Together, they bring years of experience in human behavior, philosophy, and leadership to reshape the modern marriage.   Learn more about Nate and Kaley and their work on the 80/80 Marriage.   STRIVE and the SELF-Led Life, AFAF:   At STRIVE, we believe that living a SELF-led life, AFAF, is the foundation of any thriving relationship. The work we do in helping individuals break free from the Liquid Lie and manage their PARTS leads to deeper self-awareness, healing, and growth. Strengthening our relationships is critical to leading a conscious, connected, and alcohol-free life. Through STRIVE, we provide the tools and support necessary to navigate the complexities of personal growth while improving the relationships that matter most.   Explore the STRIVE Method and learn how you can live a SELF-led life, AFAF, today.    #MarriageAdvice #8080Marriage #RelationshipGoals #NateAndKaleyKlemp #HowToSaveYourMarriage #PodcastInterview #MarriageHelp #SelfLedLife #AFAMLifestyle #RelationshipJujitsu #RadicalGenerosity #MarriagePowerStruggles #AlcoholFreeLife #StriveMethod #SelfDevelopment

Over the next few months, I'll be mixing in some of our earlier Motherhood Meets Medicine interviews with new episodes. These ‘best of' episodes are the most shared and listened to episodes of all time! Today's featured episode is an interview with Nate and Kaley Klemp of the 80/80 Marriage. When you start a new relationship, it's logistics 5% of the time and fun the other 95% of the time. However, when you bring kids into the mix, that ratio tends to flip and now you're struggling to find the balance of taking care of your kids' while still having fun for yourselves. Far too often, the relationship is challenged due to lost connection, communication issues, and lots of blaming. Kaley and Nate Klemp are on the podcast to share how you can turn this around and find connection again. Nate and Kaley Klemp are authors of the New York Times Editors' Choice selection, The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage. Nate is a founding partner at Mindful Magazine and also the coauthor of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing. Kaley is one of the nation's leading experts on small-group dynamics and leadership development, a TEDx speaker, and the author of three other books, including the Amazon Bestseller The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, The Drama-Free Office, and 13 Guidelines for Effective Teams. In today's episode we discuss common traps couples fall into, issues of the 50/50 model of marriage, how you can shift into the 80/80 model, and how to create connections and better communicate with your partner. In this episode we discuss: How couples fall into unconscious habits. The key ingredient to a thriving relationship The benefits of reveal and request. The importance of opening communication to your partner on a day to day basis. How to create daily connections with your spouse. How date nights have been scientifically proven to improve your relationships Resources: 80/80 Marriage Website  Subscribe to the 80/80 Newsletter Free Epic Date Night Guide  Follow Nate and Kaley on Instagram @8080marriage Tips on Reveal and Request Connect with Lynzy: Join the Motherhood Meets Medicine community at patreon.com/motherhoodmeetsmedicine Instagram: @motherhoodmeetsmedicine Sign up for the weekly newsletter here lynzyandco.com Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The information on this podcast is for informational purposes only. No material on this site is intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

New York Times Bestselling Author and Philosopher Nate Klemp joins us to talk about, not one, but TWO, huge topics to help you get your screen time down and improve your relationship! And yes, they do go hand in hand.In this episode, you'll learn...How to spend less time in Screenland and heal your addiction to your phoneHow to design your environment to be more distraction-free and supportive of your true valuesHow to take back your time and your mindTools for cultivating a more expansive and open mind in today's distracting worldWhat an 80/80 marriage can look likeTools for modern couples looking to be equals in loveThis episode is for you if you're ready to take back your time, escape the constant pull of screenland, improve your relationship with your partner, and feel better every day. So basically, it's for everyone with a smartphone and other people in their lives, which is most of us!Don't miss this dynamic and practical episode if you're looking for everyday practices to feel better in life and your relationship today!In the extended version of this episode, exclusively on our Patreon, we give some great book recommendations and keep the expansive conversation rolling.Join our Patreon to support the show, get access to extended episodes, special bonuses, and more!PERKS & HELPFUL RESOURCES:Connect with Nate on Social: @nate_klempNate's Website: nateklemp.comRead The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger RelationshipRead OPEN Living with an Expansive Mind in a Distracted WorldConnect with Lynnsey & Kelsey on Social: @lynnseyrobinson @kelseyaidaGet 30% The 1111 Club Journals by Kelsey with code "HVI30" at checkout: the1111club.etsy.comGet 10% off Lynnsey's Hypnotherapy Membership every month: tinyurl.com/pod-loveApply to work with Lynnsey in 2024: lynnseyrobinson.com/apply-now

Psychedelics + ketamine therapies are powerful ways to support the opening of the mind. But is there a thing such as being TOO OPEN? Nate Klemp, PhD, is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. He joins me to share how to live with an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World. In this episode, you'll hear: The impact of cancel culture on our cultural mindset and resilience The key differences between experiencing life with a closed vs. open mindset How digital distractions affect openness in relationships and intimacy Strategies for cultivating intentional relationships Nate's personal journey towards embracing openness and writing his book, "Open" Understand the closed state by spending three days binging on screens and political outrage Fostering openness in romantic partnerships and understanding its significance Personality traits of openness and closeness according to the BIG FIVE inventory Scientific research of how personality traits can shift over time Insights from a skeptic's two-year journey in psychedelic-assisted therapy The varying experiences and effects of ketamine therapy Ketamine's antidepressant properties and its impact on neural plasticity Utilizing open awareness meditation for integrating psychedelic experiences Exploring the "80/80 marriage" concept for strengthening relationships Understanding the dynamics of the "sexual great depression" and vulnerability Patterns of trying to regulate our partner through sex Techniques for skillfully closing and upholding healthy boundaries THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Nate Klemp, PhD, is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. He is the author of the new book OPEN: Living With an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World. Nate is also the coauthor of the New York Times Editors' Choice The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage and the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing. Nate cofounded the mindfulness training company Life Cross Training and holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University. MORE LINKS Exhale Femme Retreat: ⁠⁠https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/exhale⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sexlovepsychedelics/message

This week on Radically Loved Nate Klemp joins us to discuss the concept of living with an expansive mind in a distracted world and the importance of practicing openness. He shares his experiences with street meditation, including meditating at Costco. Nate also explores the impact of political outrage and the need for open dialogue and understanding. He emphasizes the three shifts of opening: focus of mind, attitude of mind, and size of mind. Additionally, he discusses the practice of letting go as the ultimate practice of opening and the importance of setting healthy boundaries while remaining open. In this conversation, Rosie, Tessa and Nate discuss the importance of finding one's own path and creating healthy boundaries. This episode is for you if you're ready to explore the power of vulnerability and the role of boundaries in maintaining a sense of openness. Three reasons to listen to the whole podcast:  1. Learn about street meditation, such as meditating in everyday environments, and how it can provide new perspectives and insights. 2. Learn to engage in open dialogue and understand different perspectives to help bridge divides and reduce political outrage. 3. Discover the three shifts of opening include the focus of mind, attitude of mind, and size of mind. Letting go and accepting the present moment is a powerful practice of opening. Timestamps 02:00 Introduction and Background
 03:13 Living with an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World
 06:05 Street Meditation and Practicing Openness
 08:08 Engaging in Street Meditation at Costco
 09:25 Personal Experience with Openness and Political Outrage
 12:24 Inspiration for Writing the Book and Hope for Readers
 15:21 The Three Shifts of Opening
18:40 Approaching Discomfort and Opening to Different Perspectives
 22:33 Expanding the Mind's Perspective
 30:10 Digital Dessert and Political Outrage
 33:12 Letting Go as the Ultimate Practice of Opening
 38:08 Mindfulness and Creating a Better Open Existence
 45:22 Letting Go and the Mastery of Meditation
 48:30 Setting Boundaries while Opening
 49:28 Finding Your Own Path
 50:25 Creating Healthy Boundaries
 51:20 The Power of Vulnerability
 52:37 The Role of Boundaries
 53:40 Staying Open While Protecting Yourself
 54:32 The Need for Further Conversations
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In this episode I interview author Nate Klemp and speak about his upcoming book, 'Open'. Nate Klemp, PhD, is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. He is the author of the new book OPEN: Living With an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World. Nate is also the coauthor of the New York Times Editors' Choice The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage and the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing. Nate cofounded the mindfulness training company Life Cross Training and holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University.   

Alexandra Stockwell, MD is joined by Nate and Kaley Klemp, authors of "The 80/80 Marriage" to discuss their journey from a failing relationship to a thriving partnership.  They challenge the idea of fairness in marriage and introduce "radical generosity" instead. This episode emphasizes intention, contribution, appreciation, and open communication as foundations for a healthy and sexually satisfying relationship. Listeners gain insights into overcoming resentment, fostering deeper connections, and redefining marriage dynamics. The contagious nature of mindset in the context of relationships is explored. The Klemps describe role-swap experiments for empathy-building among couples and share how to transform your marriage into an "80/80" partnership, in order to enjoy a harmonious and loving relationship. Also in this episode:  From Fairytale To Struggle: The beginning of their marriage was like a fairy tale, but it quickly became challenging when they faced the reality of balancing individual success with sharing a life together. A Prolonged Difficulty:  Nate's bike accident, which led to anxiety and depression, and the shift from individual success to shared life responsibilities. The Key Turning Point:  Shifting their focus from "what's best for me" to "what's best for us as a family." This change in perspective helped them reconcile the tension between individual pursuits and shared responsibilities. A Healthy Marriage: Featuring the importance of intention, generosity, appreciation, and open communication in shaping a healthy and balanced marriage. Stop Worrying About Fairness:  They advocate for moving away from a fairness mindset to one of radical generosity in relationships.   Connect With Nate And Kaley Klemp: Website: https://www.8080marriage.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/8080marriage/    The Free Date Night Guide: https://www.8080marriage.com/free   About Nate And Kaley Klemp: Nate and Kaley Klemp are authors of the New York Times Editors' Choice selection The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage. Nate is a founding partner at Mindful Magazine and also the coauthor of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing. He holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University. Kaley is one of the nation's leading experts on small-group dynamics and leadership development, a TEDx speaker, and the author of three other books, including the Amazon Bestseller The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, The Drama-Free Office, and 13 Guidelines for Effective Teams. She is a graduate of Stanford University, where she earned a B.A. in International Relations and an M.A. in Sociology, with a focus on Organizational Behavior.   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra's bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra's proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra's email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   About Alexandra Stockwell, MD Known as “The Intimacy Doctor,” Alexandra Stockwell, MD is a Relationship and Intimacy Coach and an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in coaching ambitious, successful couples to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program.  For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact The Intimate Marriage Podcast, With Intimacy Coach, Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Alexandra Stockwell, MD is joined by Nate and Kaley Klemp, authors of "The 80/80 Marriage" to discuss their journey from a failing relationship to a thriving partnership.  They challenge the idea of fairness in marriage and introduce "radical generosity" instead. This episode emphasizes intention, contribution, appreciation, and open communication as foundations for a healthy and sexually satisfying relationship. Listeners gain insights into overcoming resentment, fostering deeper connections, and redefining marriage dynamics. The contagious nature of mindset in the context of relationships is explored. The Klemps describe role-swap experiments for empathy-building among couples and share how to transform your marriage into an "80/80" partnership, in order to enjoy a harmonious and loving relationship. Also in this episode:  From Fairytale To Struggle: The beginning of their marriage was like a fairy tale, but it quickly became challenging when they faced the reality of balancing individual success with sharing a life together. A Prolonged Difficulty:  Nate's bike accident, which led to anxiety and depression, and the shift from individual success to shared life responsibilities. The Key Turning Point:  Shifting their focus from "what's best for me" to "what's best for us as a family." This change in perspective helped them reconcile the tension between individual pursuits and shared responsibilities. A Healthy Marriage: Featuring the importance of intention, generosity, appreciation, and open communication in shaping a healthy and balanced marriage. Stop Worrying About Fairness:  They advocate for moving away from a fairness mindset to one of radical generosity in relationships.   Connect With Nate And Kaley Klemp: Website: https://www.8080marriage.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/8080marriage/    The Free Date Night Guide: https://www.8080marriage.com/free   About Nate And Kaley Klemp: Nate and Kaley Klemp are authors of the New York Times Editors' Choice selection The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage. Nate is a founding partner at Mindful Magazine and also the coauthor of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing. He holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University. Kaley is one of the nation's leading experts on small-group dynamics and leadership development, a TEDx speaker, and the author of three other books, including the Amazon Bestseller The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, The Drama-Free Office, and 13 Guidelines for Effective Teams. She is a graduate of Stanford University, where she earned a B.A. in International Relations and an M.A. in Sociology, with a focus on Organizational Behavior.   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra's bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra's proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra's email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   About Alexandra Stockwell, MD Known as “The Intimacy Doctor,” Alexandra Stockwell, MD is a Relationship and Intimacy Coach and an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in coaching ambitious, successful couples to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program.  For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact The Intimate Marriage Podcast, With Intimacy Coach, Alexandra Stockwell, MD

What is the "80/80 Framework," and what does it focus on?How does the pursuit of fairness lead to resentment?What is radical generosity, and how can it alleviate inequalities and resentment in partnerships?On this episode of Relationship Renovation, we interview Nate and Kaley Klemp and discuss their 80/80 marriage framework. They explore the problem of resentment in relationships and how it can be self-created and shifted by recognizing personal contributions. They also discuss how modern relationships struggle with achieving fairness due to cognitive biases like availability and overestimation bias. We delve into the importance of structural considerations and shared values in maintaining a healthy relationship. Nate and Kaley share their experience with the 80/80 marriage framework and how it can reduce resentment and lead to a radical generosity mindset. The episode concludes with personal examples from EJ and Tarah, including how to handle shared responsibilities and overfunctioning in relationships.The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for RelationshipsRelationship Renovation DiscordTo learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

These days couples often shoot for 50/50 in their relationships: an even split of responsibilities in the home or at work. But 50/50 often leads to fights over fairness, and this fixation on fairness can be the death of many relationships.On this episode of Being Well, Forrest and Dr. Rick are joined by Nate and Kaley Klemp to explore how we can build fun, fulfilling, and truly equitable relationships. Topics include Nate and Kaley's early relationship struggles, different models of relationship, breaking out of old patterns, and how we can manage situations where one partner really is contributing significantly more than the other.About our Guests: Kaley Klemp is an executive coach and expert on small-group dynamics, and Nate Klemp is a bestselling author and founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. Together, they're the co-authors of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship. Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction1:45: Nate and Kaley's personal relationship as a basis for their work5:30: Three different models of relationship9:30: Two pillars to 80/80 - mindset and structure12:20: How a 50/50 dynamic caused problems for Nate and Kaley 19:20: The conscious or unconscious division of roles21:30: Gratitude and generosity25:40: Parenting, shared success, and being on a team32:15: Getting your partner's buy-in, reveal and request39:50: Underlying beliefs and power imbalances44:20: Creating structure (and data) to have difficult conversations49:30: Distinguishing a reluctant partner from an unwilling partner52:05: Key skills that distinguish successful couples56:10: RecapSponsors:Wondrium helps you learn anything! Right now, Wondrium is offering our listeners 50% OFF their first three months. Sign up today at wondrium.com/beingwell.Being Well is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.MDbio is a plant-based medicine company with natural products that address sleep, anxiety, pain, and immunity. Get your FREE 10-count sample pack by going to mdbiowellness.com and entering the promo code BEINGWELL at checkout! Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

When you start a new relationship, it's logistics 5% of the time and fun the other 95% of the time. However, when you bring kids into the mix, that ratio tends to flip and now you're struggling to find the balance of taking care of your kids' while still having fun for yourselves. Far too often, the relationship is challenged due to lost connection, communication issues, and lots of blaming. Whether you have kids or not, your marriage can face challenges as time goes on. Kaley and Nate Klemp are on the podcast to share how you can turn this around and find connection again. Nate and Kaley Klemp are authors of the New York Times Editors' Choice selection, The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage. Nate is a founding partner at Mindful Magazine and also the coauthor of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing. Kaley is one of the nation's leading experts on small-group dynamics and leadership development, a TEDx speaker, and the author of three other books, including the Amazon Bestseller The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, The Drama-Free Office, and 13 Guidelines for Effective Teams. In today's episode we discuss common traps couples fall into, issues of the 50/50 model of marriage, how you can shift into the 80/80 model, and how to create connections and better communicate with your partner. In this episode we discuss: How couples fall into unconscious habits. The key ingredient to a thriving relationship The benefits of reveal and request. The importance of opening communication to your partner on a day to day basis. How to create daily connections with your spouse. How date nights have been scientifically proven to improve your relationships Resources: 80/80 Marriage Website  Subscribe to the 80/80 Newsletter Free Epic Date Night Guide  Follow Nate and Kaley on Instagram @8080marriage Tips on Reveal and Request Discount code from my sponsors: Navy Hair Care Shampoo + Conditioner: use code LYNZY for 30% off Navy Hair Care Charcoal Mask: use code LYNZY for 30% off Get 35% off sitewide at Cozy Earth when you use the code ‘Lynzy' Get 10% off your first month of Better Help at betterhelp.com/lynzy Connect with Lynzy: Join the Motherhood Meets Medicine community at patreon.com/motherhoodmeetsmedicine Instagram: @motherhoodmeetsmedicine Sign up for the weekly newsletter here lynzyandco.com Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The information on this podcast is for informational purposes only. No material on this site is intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It is incredible and worth celebrating that this generation is actually the first in all of human history to make an attempt to establish equality in marriage. However, we simply lacked the skills necessary to successfully navigate the terrain of long-lasting intimacy, which led to fights over fairness. While the traditional marriage was wildly unfair, it is worth recognizing that couples were more in partnership, working toward a shared goal. In this episode, Nate and Kaley Klemp share their insights on various marriage structures and introduce the 80/80 model, a brand-new marriage framework designed to support radical generosity in relationships. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 3:49 Nate and Kaley's conflict over fairness and the larger sociological point of our generation to establish equality in marriage. 6:22 Recognizing the value of the conventional marriage structure. 11:19 How your mindset and expectations greatly affect our decision-making or how we perceive the other. 14:00 The three components of mindset. 18:35 The 50/50 model and why it is unsustainable. 29:05 How the 80/80 model was developed and how it changed Nate and Kaley's marriage. 37:51 Easing into radical generosity while minimizing discomfort. Mentioned Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) Free Epic Date Night Guide 80/80 Marriage self-guided retreats 80/80 Marriage Newsletter Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership (*Amazon affiliate link) (book)  The Drama-Free Office (*Amazon affiliate link) (book)  13 Guidelines for Effective Teams (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) Connect with Kaley Klemp Websites: 8080marriage.com Facebook: facebook.com/8080Marriage YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCpncjN_woj6Xrth0i-bGp7w Instagram: instagram.com/8080marriage Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Dr. Nate Klemp is the founding partner of “Mindful” and co-author of the newly released, “The 80/80 Marriage,” a new model for a happier, stronger marriage. Nate and his wife have both led successful careers consulting for high-powered companies around the world. Their work as mindfulness and leadership experts, however, often fell to the wayside in the evenings when they found themselves fighting about fairness in their marriage. They believed in a model where each partner contributed equally and fairness ruled. But in reality, they were finding that balance near impossible to achieve. From this frustration, they developed the idea of the 80/80 marriage, a new model for balancing career, family, and love. The 80/80 marriage pushes couples beyond a limited idea of fairness towards a new model grounded on radical generosity and shared success, all outlined in the book. Listen in for some great takeaways about mindfulness and building a happy marriage.  You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in... How Nate decided to become an author [3:30]  What does an 80/80 marriage mean? [6:03] How mindset is key to a happy marriage [9:13] How to apply this mindset to business [10:50]  The four faces of “fairness” in relationships [12:49] The unique pressures on modern relationships [15:32]  How to shift your mindset in your relationship [22:28]  Understanding the definition of generosity [27:03] Tips to create the “headspace” for intimacy [31:15]  What are the next big steps for Nate Klemp? [34:01]  What put Nate in the right mindset for success [34:55]  How to learn more about 80/80 marriage [36:55]  Resources & People Mentioned John Gottman The Magic Relationship Ratio Connect with Nate Klemp The website On Instagram On Twitter On Linkedin On Facebook Bio Nate Klemp is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. Along with his wife Kaley, he is the author of the newly released The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage (Penguin Radom House). He is also the coauthor, with Eric Langshur, of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing and is a regular contributor for Inc. Magazine, Fast Company, and Mindful. He is also a founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. Nate holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University. Guests on the Mitlin Money Mindset Show are not affiliated with CWM, LLC, and opinions expressed herein may not be representative of CWM, LLC. CWM, LLC is not responsible for the guest's content linked on this site. Connect With Mitlin Financial podcast(at)MitlinFinancial.com - email us with your suggestions for topics or guests https://mitlinfinancial.com  Follow on Twitter Follow on Instagram Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Facebook Subscribe to Mitlin Money Mindset™ on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts

We talk with Kaley & Nate Klemp, authors of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship. We discuss invisible labor, fairness, compassion, and what to do if one partner is reluctant to make a change.

We talk with Kaley & Nate Klemp, authors of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship. We discuss invisible labor, fairness, compassion, and what to do if one partner is reluctant to make a change.

We talk with Kaley & Nate Klemp, authors of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship. We discuss invisible labor, fairness, compassion, and what to do if one partner is reluctant to make a change.

On this week's Eric has an awesome conversation with Nate Klemp, Author of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage.We talk about why the idea of "fairness" is unhealthy for your marriage, how to move to a model of WIN/WIN, and 3 simples steps for RADICALLY Evolve the direction of your marriage!Nate Klemp is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. He is also a founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. Nate holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a Ph.D. from Princeton University.Nate Klemp (80/80 Marriage) links:WEBSITEINSTAGRAMEvolved Marriage links:INSTAGRAMEvolved Men's Collective CommunityRelationship Revival Masterclass

#43: Relationship experts Kaley and Nate Klemp, Ph.D.,  join Chris and his wife Amy to discuss how to create balance in a relationship. They explore why perfect equality is unrealistic, why you shouldn't aim for fairness, how to share feedback with your partner without it turning into a fight, and how to sustainably maintain a life of radical generosity. Kaley and Nate Klemp are co-authors of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for A Happier, Stronger Relationship. It has been named as the Editor's Choice pick by the New York Times. Kaley Klemp is a leadership development expert and Nate Klemp is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur who co-authored a New York Times Bestseller titled Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing. Full show notes at: https://allthehacks.com/8080-marriage-nate-kaley-klemp Selected Links From The EpisodeConnect with Kaley and Nate Klemp:The 80/80 Marriage Book and Website80/80 Marriage InstagramEpic Date Night GuideNir Eyal: Becoming Indistractable: Book | All the Hacks Ep 25 Full Show NotesWho are Kaley and Nate Klemp? (00:11)The evolution from 80/20 to 80/80 marriages (01:49)Why are equal relationships are hard to attain? (04:14)How striving for fairness causes resentment. (05:56)How people from different backgrounds may experience marriage differently. (09:08)How you can be radically generous in your marriage. (10:40)How appreciation can be built into your routines. (15:44)Is it disingenuous to schedule in time to appreciate your partner? (17:21)Making the 80/80 standard work when you and your partner have different values. (18:29)How couples can win together with money. (22:41)Tools you can use to create balance in your relationship. (26:51)How do responsibilities in your marriage change as life changes? (31:13)Uncommon things to outsource that can help family life. (33:52)The life report card exercise (why you might want to intentionally fail). (39:13)How to sustain radical generosity when you've forgotten about it.  (40:33)What to do when technology is distracting you from quality time with your partner. (43:42)How delaying things can help you do more. (50:37)Getting on the same page as your partner. (51:57)An unusual way to share feedback with your partner without frustrating them. (57:24)Overdoing radical generosity in a marriage (and why it's not then 100/100 marriage). (1:01:16)Tactics you can use for having meaningful intimate time beyond sex-enhancing gimmicks. (1:02:47)Using mindfulness to stay open-minded. (1:08:07)How relationships themselves can be a hack. (1:09:44)Using the 80/80 rule to improve your non-romantic relationships. (1:10:19)How to keep up with Kaley and Nate Klemp online. (1:11:53)Date recommendations from marriage experts. (1:12:43) SponsorsBlockFiThis episode is brought to you by BlockFi. If you're interested in Crypto, BlockFi is one of the best ways to get started, letting you easily buy, sell and store your crypto assets. After signing up and linking your bank account, you can instantly trade a variety of cryptocurrencies and store them all in a secure wallet that lets you control and transfer your holdings however you want. You can also set up recurring transfers so you can dollar cost average your crypto investments over time.Or if you want another way to put your crypto investing on autopilot, there's the BlockFi Crypto Rewards Credit Card. While 1.5% cash back isn't the best in the market, that cash back is automatically invested into Bitcoin, Ethereum or whatever cryptocurrency you want. If you want to check out BlockFi, you can get an exclusive bonus of up to $250 free when you sign at https://allthehacks.com/blockfi Connect with All the HacksAll the Hacks: Newsletter | Website | Facebook | EmailChris Hutchins: Twitter | Instagram | Website | LinkedIn

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What's the problem with striving for 50/50 fairness in modern day marriages and relationships? How does an 80/80 approach lead to more connection and far less conflict?  What does “the way you do life is the way you do sex" mean, and what 80/80 tools can couples apply to their relationships to inspire more intimacy and great sex? Nate Klemp, PhD answers all this and more.  We also answer a sex question about how to talk to a partner about keeping it casual.  Want to make friends with other Shameless Sex fans? Join our online (free) Discord community by clicking here or going to bit.ly/shamelesssex Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 22.  About our guest: Nate Klemp is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. Along with his wife Kaley, he is the author of the newly released The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage (Penguin Random House). He is also the coauthor, with Eric Langshur, of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing and is a regular contributor for Inc. Magazine, Fast Company, and Mindful. He is also a founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. Nate holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University. To learn more visit 8080marriage.com   Other links from our beloved sponsors: Get 30% off any Satisfyer sex toy with code Shameless30 at satisfyer.com Get 20% off and free shipping on Like A Kitten's BYOB sexy gift box with code SHAMELESS at likeakitten.com/shameless  Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of vulva pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com

It's easy to talk about being generous in your relationship - but how do you actually put it into practice - especially when things feel unfair or out of balance? If you're stuck in fighting for fairness in your relationship, it's time to learn a new way of being together where shared success becomes the rule - not the exception. Today we're talking with Kaley and Nate Klemp, authors of "The 80/80 Marriage - A New Model for a Healthier, Stronger Relationship." You'll get practical steps to foster radical generosity in your relationship. As always, I'm looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Please join us in the Relationship Alive Community on Facebook to chat about it! Also, see below for links to our other episodes with Stan Tatkin. Sponsors: GreenChef.com is a USDA certified organic company, with a wide variety of meal plans to make having healthier food easy and convenient for you. 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Nate Klemp: Yeah, well, I guess it starts in high school actually, so Kaley and I grew up in the same town, and we met our senior year of high school, we were in chemistry class together, and we actually dated a little bit in high school, and then we both went to the same college, but broke up pragmatically and got back together seven years later, and it was almost like a fairy tale, Instagram-worthy story where we got back together in our early 20s, we got married, and we went into marriage thinking that the momentum of that perfect story, that fairy tale was just going to effortlessly continue and it didn't... Not at all. In fact, a couple of years in the marriage, I had a serious bike accident, which left me in a position of both having very little energy to work and complete Life's tasks, but also in a pretty serious depression, experiencing a lot of anxiety, and all of a sudden we were thrust into this conversation really more of a conflict over What is or isn't fair, and we started to see that for us and for most couples, we saw eventually that the fundamental thing we were grappling with is how can we be equals and in love, and that seemed to be a totally vexing question that we just could not answer in our marriage. So we really spent the then 15 years, we've been married for almost 16 years now, trying to answer that question, both for ourselves and then with this book for other couples. Neil Sattin: Yeah, and when you talk about how to be equals and be in love, that makes me think of what you mentioned in the initial part of your book where you talk about moving from what you call the 80/20 model of relationship into 50/50 relating, and then of course. You're making a case for the 80/80 model of relating. So yeah, can you describe what we're talking about, just kind of in simple terms, what's a 80/20 relationship... What's a 50/50 relationship? And where are we headed with 80/80? Kaley Klemp: 80/20 is looking back at sometimes our parents, sometimes our grandparents, where one person's "job" is to take care of the relationship and the other person gets to kind of coast, and in 80/20, based on gender norms at the time, typically it's the woman who's responsible for making sure that we're close and that we have date night, and that we have friends, and really, it's her job to make sure that the relationship is working at all, and as easy as it is to look at that with condemnation or disdain, there was an advantage at that point in time, which was, they were at least on the same team, pointed in the same direction, because they were really, really interdependent. Kaley Klemp: What happened though is as the '60s and '70s occur and women were given a lot more opportunity to work outside the home and pursue their own interests, there started to be a big shift where each person could look at 80/20 and say, "Gosh, that seems wildly unfair." And it was... And so they said, "You know what, we can do better. Let's make things even between us, let's make things equal, and the clunky technology was, Let's make things fair." And so that's where 50/50 came from, this idea that if we each do perfectly equal amounts of things, then somehow we'll end up in marital bliss, unfortunately, and we can talk about all the reasons why. 50/50 ended up being a recipe for even more fighting and even more conflict because finding that perfect midpoint where it was exactly fair seemed completely elusive. And so what we're striving for and arguing for is this notion of 80/80, where rather than keeping score and keeping track like you do in 50/50, instead you intentionally strive to overshoot the mean to do more than your "fair share" from this mindset of generosity. And with that new mindset, with this intentionality around how can I show up with generosity with my partner, what are the structures that support it, how can we take that mindset and make it really practical so that in real life, we can actually live it... Interested in reading the transcript for the rest of this episode with Nate and Kaley Klemp?  Visit neilsattin.com/8080 to download the full transcript of this episode!

“A lot of people in the business world tell me they don't have 30 minutes for mindfulness. … [But] there are all these opportunities for mindfulness hidden in life.” — Nate Klemp   Mindfulness is good for more than a morning meditation or a nighttime wind-down. Used consistently, it can help you feel less anxious in every moment of your life. This week, Nate Klemp, author and co-founder of corporate coaching company LifeXT, tells me how he draws on his mindfulness practice in daily tasks, from answering emails to taking crowded flights. Nate originally wanted to be a philosopher, but a serious bike injury and disillusion with academia turned his focus to finding practical applications for the ideas he was studying. In his quest, he discovered mindfulness, and started to look into its potential for improving mental health. With his LifeXT co-founder Eric Langshur, Nate wrote a book, Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing, about using mindfulness to decrease stress and improve mood. He followed it up with The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship, written with his wife Kaley Klemp. In our conversation, we talk about how Nate uses mindfulness and meditation as tools, the importance of making an effort in your relationships every single day, and how to manage distractions beyond just ignoring them. You'll also learn: How physical adjustments can affect your mental state How to really enjoy the mental health benefits of nature, wherever you live About “email apnea” and how to address it How to use habit stacking to improve your daily routine How to instantly shift your mental state through gratitude  Why micro-moments matter more than dramatic gestures — at work and at home And more!   Connect with Nate Klemp Twitter twitter.com/drnateklemp    LinkedIn linkedin.com/in/nate-klemp-phd-6901b72b/    Website nateklemp.com/    Instagram instagram.com/dr.nate.klemp/    Learn More From Nate Klemp Sign up for corporate wellness coaching sessions at LifeXT   Sign up here: lifecrosstraining.com/    Access one-on-one coaching with Nate Klemp   Learn more here: nateklemp.com/coaching    Buy Nate Klemp's Book on Improving Your Mental Health   Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing   amzn.to/3od6k8H    Buy Nate Klemp's Book on Marriage, Written With his Wife Kaley Klemp   The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship   8080marriage.com/    Get Rob's Weekly Newsletter Never miss an inspiring conversation about compassionate, positive leadership on the Leading with Genuine Care podcast plus other great articles and insights. Click below, and you'll also get a download of his favorite mindful resources.   www.donothingbook.com/resource-guide    Follow Rob Dube on Social Media  LinkedIn:  linkedin.com/in/robdube    Facebook:  facebook.com/rob.dube.1    Twitter:  twitter.com/robddube    Rob Dube's Website donothingbook.com   Buy Rob's book, donothing: The Most Rewarding Leadership Challenge You'll Ever Take amzn.to/2y9N1TK  

Nate and Kaley Klemp share an excerpt from their book, "The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship" Episode 1136: An Excerpt From "The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship" by Nate and Kaley Klemp Nate Klemp is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. Along with his wife Kaley, he is the author of the newly released The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage (Penguin Radom House). He is also the coauthor, with Eric Langshur, of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing and is a regular contributor for Inc. Magazine, Fast Company, and Mindful. He is also a founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. Nate holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University. Kaley Klemp is coauthor of The 80/80 Marriage. She is also one of the nation's leading experts on small-group dynamics and leadership development, a TEDx speaker, and the author of three other books, including the Amazon Bestseller The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, The Drama-Free Office, and 13 Guidelines for Effective Teams. A favorite with Young Presidents Organization (YPO) forums and chapters, Kaley has facilitated retreats for more than 400 member and spouse forums throughout the world. Kaley is a graduate of Stanford University, where she earned a B.A. in International Relations and an M.A. in Sociology, with a focus on Organizational Behavior.  More about the book can be found here: https://www.8080marriage.com/  Noom Mood guides you to mental wellness one step at a time, 10 minutes per day. Sign up for your trial at Noom.com/ORD Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are striving for equality in your relationship, you might be doing it all wrong. Our guests today Nate and Kaley Klemp, are a married couple and co-authors of the new book The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier Stronger Relationship, recently named an editor's choice pick by the New York Times. According to the authors, striving for a 50/50 marriage is really just a framework for failure. Farnoosh and the Klemps explore the shift from fairness to what the couple calls radical generosity, as well as individual to shared success. They also share a number of tools for making these shifts real in the areas of saving, spending and balancing power. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have a returning guest for this podcast and he has been on the show before author Nate Klemp, PhD.  His first book and podcast were about his book entitled "Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing" and in this podcast, we are going to be speaking about a new book he co-authored with his wife Kaley Klemp entitled "The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger" Relationship. I hope you enjoy this engaging and informative podcast.

Nicole and I have seen some tough days in our relationship. There's been yelling, name-calling, and even marriage counseling. We've also had excellent days where we've felt appreciated, loved, and thrilled that we've chosen to be with each other. So the big question is … How do we get more excellent days in our marriages? Our guests today have a concept that may make that a possibility for a lot of us. Kaley and Nate Klemp are the writers behind the newly released “The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship” RESOURCES Tello:  http://www.marriagekidsandmoney.com/tello Firstly:  http://www.marriagekidsandmoney.com/firstly 80/80 Marriage (Book):  https://amzn.to/3e3NgFz  

We've all heard of the mythical 100/100 marriage before — one where both partners give 100% at all times, and everything's always great. But let's take a step back and get real for a second: How often do you feel like you're able to give 100%? How often do you feel like you're getting 100%? If you've ever argued about who is (or isn't) giving enough, did it feel like you were going around in circles while nothing improved? With that in mind, I'd like to ask you one more question: what if the magic number isn't 100%? Nate Klemp — PhD, bestselling author, and founding partner at Mindful, wants you to stop thinking in terms of 100/100. In his new book, The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship, he and his wife Kaley pinpoint exactly what doesn't work in modern marriage. They share incredible stories from their own lives and others, as well as practical, powerful solutions designed to transform your relationship and deepen your connection. In our conversation, Nate and I are talking about why even mindfulness junkies can get triggered, why scorekeeping and fairness suck, and how you can break out of unhealthy loops once and for all to transform your marriage for the better. Also, as a thank you for listening, I want to gift a copy of Nate's book to you! All I ask is that you write an honest review of the podcast on Apple. Be sure to mention the Nate Klemp episode in your review, take a screenshot, and email it to info@frontrowdads.com and I'll mail you a copy of the book. Nate Klemp's Podcast Highlights Why do we still lose our sh*t, even after spending so much time on breathwork, meditation, exercise, and everything else that's supposed to help us stay in check? How do our kids show us everything that we need to be working on as parents? Why is it so easy to fall into fights about what is and isn't fair in relationships–especially when we have kids? The three core components of an 80/80 marriage. The contagious qualities of radical fairness and behaving out of character. Why doesn't 100/100 (or 50/50) work in a relationship? Why is it possible to lose who we are when we try to be generous? Why people think an 80/80 marriage is harder than it actually is–and how leveling up your relationship can take as little as 20 seconds a day. Is there anything we can do to make the 50/50 mindset go away? What couples actively living the 80/80 lifestyle are doing right now. How do we tap into the inherent love and generosity available to us? What happens when we become too calm and collected? How to incorporate breathwork into your daily practice. Get the Full Show Notes Want access to the full show notes, including links to all resources mentioned during today's conversation? Visit FrontRowDads.com/275 Want to learn more about Front Row Dads? We are in the business of building better families. While most dads would say that family matters most, the challenge is they feel guilty knowing their careers get the best of them, and their family seems to get the rest of them. We help Dads become family men with businesses, not businessmen who have families, so they can thrive personally AND professionally. Subscribe to the Front Row Dad podcast to learn about fatherhood, marriage and how to level up your game at home, or if you're ready for the best coaching and true brothers to grow with, Join The Brotherhood! Are you getting all the shows? Subscribe today! Want to leave a review? THANK YOU! http://FrontRowDads.com/review

Nate Klemp is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. Along with his wife Kaley, he is the author of the newly released The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage (Penguin Radom House).  He is also the coauthor, with Eric Langshur, of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing and is a regular contributor for Inc. Magazine, Fast Company, and Mindful. He is also a founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. Nate holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University.            

Join writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur Nate Klemp and Jason Stella discuss...1. The Life XT (Cross Training ) philosophy to help improve Well-Being2. The Happiness Set Point - What it is, the 4 set point forces and how to improve it3. How training for Well-Being is a Skill, not something you are born with.4.  The Train, Be Do philosophy and the stages within each phase5. His new book the 80/80 marriageMore about Nate• Who holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University.• Along with his wife Kaley, he is the author of the newly released The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage • He is also the coauthor, with Eric Langshur, of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing and is a regular contributor for Inc. Magazine, Fast Company, and Mindful. • He is also a founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. • Who holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University.Website infohttps://www.8080marriage.com https://lifecrosstraining.com https://www.mindful.org

What are your goals in your marriage? Are you trying to make sure everything's fair and that you and your spouse are contributing equally to the relationship? Today's guests explain why that could be a recipe for failure. Dr. Nate Klemp and Kaley Klemp are married researchers and relationship experts who have developed the 80/80 method of managing marriages and relationships. Listen as they explain how their method can lead to more closeness and a better connection. Learn more and/or read the transcript on the official episode page. Guest Bio:   Nate Klemp, PhD, is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. Along with his wife Kaley, he's the author of the newly released “The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage” (Penguin Random House). He's also the co-author, with Eric Langshur, of the New York Times Bestseller “Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing” and is a regular contributor for Inc. Magazine, Fast Company, and Mindful. He's also a founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. Nate holds a BA and MA in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University.   Kaley Klemp is one of the nation's leading experts on small-group dynamics and leadership development, a TEDx speaker, and the author of three other books, including the Amazon Bestseller “The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership,” “The Drama-Free Office,” and “13 Guidelines for Effective Teams.” A favorite with Young Presidents Organization (YPO) forums and chapters, Kaley has facilitated retreats for more than 400 member and spouse forums throughout the world. Kaley is a graduate of Stanford University where she earned a BA in international relations and MA in sociology with a focus on organizational behavior. About the Inside Mental Health Podcast Host Gabe Howard lives with bipolar disorder and is a nationally recognized speaker and podcast host. He is the author of the book, “Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations,” available from Amazon; signed copies available directly from the author. To learn more about Gabe, please visit gabehoward.com.

In this episode, the boys really clean up. We solve your marital issues and Dave comes in to knock down a few silos! Book Discussed: The 80 / 80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship

"Where there is love there is life." – Mahatma Gandhi   Nate Klemp, Ph.D., is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. Along with his wife Kaley, he is the author of the newly released The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage (Penguin Random House). He is also the co-author, with Eric Langshur, of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing and is a regular contributor for Inc. Magazine, Fast Company, and Mindful. He is also a founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. Nate holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a Ph.D. from Princeton University. Kaley Klemp is co-author of The 80/80 Marriage. She is also one of the nation's leading experts on small-group dynamics and leadership development, a TEDx speaker, and the author of three other books, including the Amazon Bestseller The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, The Drama-Free Office, and 13 Guidelines for Effective Teams. A favorite with Young Presidents Organization (YPO) forums and chapters, Kaley has facilitated retreats for more than 400 member and spouse forums throughout the world. Kaley is a graduate of Stanford University, where she earned a B.A. in International Relations and an M.A. in Sociology, with a focus on Organizational Behavior. In this episode, we talk about: How to get your partner on board with personal development How to communicate your needs in a marriage How to identify your own weaknesses in relationships Continue the conversation on Instagram @heatherchauvin_  

Fairness. I'd say most people would see that as a positive word. Especially in relationships. Most of us are striving for a fair household where each partner holds up their end of the bargain and does their 'fair share.' How's that working for you? Do you find that sometimes your partner isn't pulling their weight? Maybe you're frustrated because you think you're doing so much more in the house? Fairness is a noble aspiration, but it rarely comes true. What's fair is too subjective. Maybe it's time we look at our partnerships from a different perspective. Instead of a 50/50 model, it's time to shift to an 80/80 model. Ok, I know that doesn't add up to 100, but you'll understand more after today's conversation with Nate Klemp and Kaley Klemp. They're the authors of the book 'The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for A Happier, Stronger Relationship.' In Episode 36 of Be More Well I discuss this 80/80 model with Nate and Kaley. I really enjoyed chatting with them and learning more. I'm going to start working more of this model into my own relationship. For more on Nate and Kaley Website: https://www.8080marriage.com/ (8080Marriage.com) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/8080marriage/ (@8080marriage) For more on Be More Well: Show Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bemorewellpodcast/ (@bemorewellpodcast) Host instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stpierreonair/ (@stpierreonair)

The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship by Nate Klemp PhD, Kaley Klemp An accessible, transformative guide for couples seeking greater love, connection, and intimacy in our modern world Nate and Kaley Klemp were both successful in their careers, consulting for high-powered companies around the world. Their work as mindfulness and leadership experts, however, often fell […] The post Chris Voss Podcast – The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship by Nate Klemp PhD, Kaley Klemp appeared first on Chris Voss Official Website.

With time we might find ourselves drifting apart from our partners. In this guided meditation, you will take a moment to visualize your love story and as your heart grows with gratitude, you will find the space to reconnect with your partner. Show notes: Meditation by Nate Klemp and Kaley Klemp. Nate and Kaley Klemp are a husband and wife team that are co-authors of  The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for Happier, Stronger Relationship.