Podcasts about meet your everyday parenting challenges

Today, we're talking about aggression, specifically in boys, and how we as parents can respond with understanding, connection, and compassion instead of fear or shaming. Joining me is Tosha Schore, a powerful voice in peaceful parenting and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully. Tosha is also the creator of the Out With Aggression program and co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. She's spent decades helping parents shift the way they relate to their kids, especially when big behaviors show up. In our conversation, Tosha and I got into the roots of aggressive behavior in boys, and how it's so often a signal, not of defiance, but of fear or frustration. We explored how society often mislabels boys as “bad” when they make mistakes with little room for second chances. Tosha shared what it means to truly listen to our kids, how to build safe spaces for them to express themselves without shame, and why emotional connection, not punishment, is the key to long-term growth and emotional development. If aggression is something your family is struggling with right now, this conversation is for you. And if you find it valuable, and I think you will, consider sharing it with other parents who might need it.   About Tosha Schore Tosha Schore is a dynamic leader and globally recognized speaker and trainer dedicated to empowering parents and the professionals who support them. As the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully and creator of the Out With Aggression program, Tosha has equipped thousands of parents worldwide with tools to transform challenging behaviors by fostering connection, confidence, and compassion in their relationships with their children. She is also the author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Drawing on her over two decades of experience, and her extensive training in Hand in Hand Parenting and certification as a Step into Your Moxie® Facilitator, Tosha inspires parents to integrate connection as a bedrock principle in their families, and provides actionable answers to the “then what?” questions parents often face when shifting away from harsher, less effective practices. Tosha is championing a cultural shift toward more compassionate parenting and a more peaceful world.   Things you'll learn from this episode Why understanding boys' behavior requires connecting the dots between their emotions, environment, and executive function challenges How recognizing aggression as a response to fear, frustration, or impulse control issues helps parents approach it with empathy Why creating safe spaces for boys to express emotions without judgment fosters emotional growth and self-regulation Why challenging societal perceptions that label boys as "bad guys" is essential for supporting their emotional development How to prioritize emotional connection over discipline in order to navigate challenging behaviors without shame or escalation   Resources mentioned Toscha Shore's website Parenting Boys Peacefully Free 10-Day Reconnect Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges by Toscha Shore Dr. John Duffy on Helping Our Struggling Teen Boys (Tilt Parenting podcast) Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys by Dr. John Duffy Seth Perler, Executive Function Coach   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Shaun Clowes is the chief product officer at Confluent and former CPO at Salesforce's MuleSoft and at Metromile. He was also the first head of growth at Atlassian, where he led product for Jira Agile and built the first-ever B2B growth team. In our conversation, we discuss:• Why most PMs are bad, and how to fix this• Why great AI products are all about the data• Why he changed his mind about being data-driven• How to build your B2B growth team• How to choose your next career stop• Much more—Brought to you by:• Enterpret—Transform customer feedback into product growth• BuildBetter—AI for product teams• Wix Studio—The web creation platform built for agencies—Find the transcript at: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/why-great-ai-products-are-all-about-the-data-shaun-clowes—Where to find Shaun Clowes:• X: https://x.com/ShaunMClowes• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shaun-clowes-80795014/• Website: https://shaunclowes.com/about-shaun• Reforge: https://www.reforge.com/profiles/shaun-clowes—Where to find Lenny:• Newsletter: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com• X: https://twitter.com/lennysan• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lennyrachitsky/—In this episode, we cover:(00:00) Shaun's background(05:08) The state of product management(09:33) Becoming a 10x product manager(13:23) Specific ways to leverage AI in product management(17:15) Feedback rivers(19:20) AI's impact on data management(24:35) The future of enterprise businesses with AI(35:41) Data-driven decision-making(45:50) Building effective growth teams(50:18) The evolution of product-led growth(56:16) Career insights and decision-making(01:07:45) Failure corner(01:12:32) Final thoughts and lightning round—Referenced:• Steve Blank's website: https://steveblank.com/• Getting Out of the Building. 2 Minutes to See Why: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TbMgWr1YVfs• OpenAI: https://openai.com/• Claude: https://claude.ai/• Sachin Rekhi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sachinrekhi/• Video: Building Your Product Intuition with Feedback Rivers: https://www.sachinrekhi.com/video-building-your-product-intuition-with-feedback-rivers• Confluent: https://www.confluent.io• Workday: https://www.workday.com/• Lenny and Friends Summit: https://lennyssummit.com/• A conversation with OpenAI's CPO Kevin Weil, Anthropic's CPO Mike Krieger, and Sarah Guo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IxkvVZua28k• Anthropic: https://www.anthropic.com/• Salesforce: https://www.salesforce.com/• Atlassian: https://www.atlassian.com/• Jira: https://www.atlassian.com/software/jira• Ashby: https://www.ashbyhq.com/• Occam's razor: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Occam%27s_razor• Breaking the rules of growth: Why Shopify bans KPIs, optimizes for churn, prioritizes intuition, and builds toward a 100-year vision | Archie Abrams (VP Product, Head of Growth at Shopify): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/shopifys-growth-archie-abrams• Charlie Munger quote: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/11903426-show-me-the-incentive-and-i-ll-show-you-the-outcome• Elena Verna on how B2B growth is changing, product-led growth, product-led sales, why you should go freemium not trial, what features to make free, and much more: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/elena-verna-on-why-every-company• The ultimate guide to product-led sales | Elena Verna: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/the-ultimate-guide-to-product-led• Metromile: https://www.metromile.com/• Tom Kennedy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-kennedy-37356b2b/• Building Wiz: the fastest-growing startup in history | Raaz Herzberg (CMO and VP Product Strategy): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/building-wiz-raaz-herzberg• Wiz: https://www.wiz.io• Colin Powell's 40-70 rule: https://www.42courses.com/blog/home/2019/12/10/colin-powells-40-70-rule• Detroiters on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/80165019• Glean: https://www.glean.com/• Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity: https://www.amazon.com/Radical-Candor-Kick-Ass-Without-Humanity/dp/1250103509• Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges: https://www.amazon.com/Listen-Simple-Everyday-Parenting-Challenges/dp/0997459301• Empress Falls Canyon and abseiling: https://bmac.com.au/blue-mountains-canyoning/empress-falls-canyon-and-abseiling—Recommended books:• The Lean Startup: How Today's Entrepreneurs Use Continuous Innovation to Create Radically Successful Businesses: https://www.amazon.com/Lean-Startup-Entrepreneurs-Continuous-Innovation/dp/0307887898• Inspired: How to Create Products Customers Love: https://www.amazon.com/Inspired-Create-Products-Customers-Love/dp/0981690408—Production and marketing by https://penname.co/. For inquiries about sponsoring the podcast, email podcast@lennyrachitsky.com.—Lenny may be an investor in the companies discussed. Get full access to Lenny's Newsletter at www.lennysnewsletter.com/subscribe

This podcast episode is for every parent of a young child who doesn't want to always resort to yelling or time-outs as  a discpline strategy. Tosha and Tammy walk through the power of play, connection, and laughter even during the most challenging of moments! Tosha Schore, M.A., brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting. She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. A sought after coach, author, educator, and speaker, Schore is committed to creating lasting change in families and in the world by supporting parents to care for themselves, connect with their children deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. She is the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully , co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, and a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting. Interested in more from the Institute? The Parenting Handbook: Your Guide to Raising Resilient Children For a limited time only, buy a copy of our The Parenting Handbook: Your Guide to Raising Resilient Children and recieve a free gift! Yes,  when you buy our book you also get access to our Compassionate Discipline workshop valued at $87.84.  Not quite sure yet? Download a free chapter! To find out more, click here for more info! Interested in our Professional Membership? ICP is thrilled to offer its new professional membership. This membership comes with 30+ accredited mental health courses, 15 general children's mental health courses, bi-monthly professional group consults, access to our live tranings, printables, scripts, and case note templates.  Affordable, accesible training all in one spot! Find out more here

In this BONUS REWIND, we welcome Tosha Shore, a parent coach and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, where she's on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. I am also co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges,” which has been translated into five languages!  Together we dive into a lively discussion of the differences we've experienced parenting boys vs. girls, how societal expectations lead boys down a different emotional path than girls, how we can best support our boys to be emotionally resilient, and how to connect with them when connection seems lost. Resources We Shared: Learn all about Tosha's program: Parenting Boys Peacefully here. Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges Visit No Guilt Mom Rate & Review the No Guilt Mom Podcast on Apple here. We'd love to hear your thoughts on the podcast! Listen on Spotify? You can rate us there too! Check out our favorite deals from our sponsors here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As summer winds down, I hope you're settling into the new school year with ease, whether your kids are already back in class or you're soaking up the last few weeks of summer. After a break, I'm thrilled to kick off the fall season with some amazing guests and content that you've come to expect from the Heartful Parent Podcast. Our guest today is Tosha Schore, the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully. If you're parenting girls, don't tune out! Tosha's insights are universal and relevant, regardless of your child's gender. The way boys are raised impacts everyone, including girls, so this episode is for all parents. Key Takeaways: Tosha's Mission: Tosha is dedicated to creating a more peaceful world by nurturing boys with empathy and emotional intelligence. Universal Lessons: The strategies Tosha shares apply to all children, emphasizing the importance of connection, setting loving limits, and using play as a tool for growth. Broader Impact: How we raise boys affects the experiences of girls and non-binary children, making Tosha's work crucial for everyone. Expertise and Reach: Tosha has co-authored the book Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, and her work has been featured on numerous platforms, including Dr. Shefali's Parenting Mastery Summit. Why Listen? Tosha's wisdom goes beyond parenting boys; it's about creating a compassionate world where all children can thrive. Whether you're raising boys, girls, or non-binary kids, this episode offers valuable insights to help you on your parenting journey. Links Mentioned in this episode: Book: Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges (https://amzn.to/3At2ZMw Connect with Tosha: https://parentingboyspeacefully.com/reconnect/ Tune in and join us for this insightful conversation with Tosha Schore! Connect with us!   https://theheartfulparent.com/heartful-parent-academy/   Facebook: @theheartfulparent Instagram @theheartfulparent Subscribe & Leave a Review: Don't forget to subscribe to The Heartful Parent Podcast and leave a review if you enjoyed this episode!     Stay tuned for more Heartful conversations on parenting, love, and inclusivity. Thank you for listening!  

Dr. Dan welcomes back guest Tosha Schore to talk about parenting boys. Tosha is an advocate who works with parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly.  Today's episode is a follow-up episode to Tosha's important work (featured in our episode in December 2018) advocating for boys.  Tosha Schore is a parent coach and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, where she is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one boy at a time. She is the co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges.” For more information go to www.parentingboyspeacefully.com. Email your parenting questions to Dr. Dan podcast@drdanpeters.com (we might answer on a future episode). Follow us @parentfootprintpodcast (Instagram, Facebook) and @drdanpeters (X).   Please listen, follow, rate, and review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. For more information: www.exactlyrightmedia.com   www.drdanpeters.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tosha Schore a Shameless Mom to three mostly grown sons (ages 16, 18, and 20), as well as a parent coach and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, where she is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. She is also co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges,” which has been translated into five languages. Tosha works with parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. She has been featured on Dr. Shefali's Parenting Mastery Summit, GoZen's Anger Transformation and ListenUp! Summits, and has spoken to audiences at the Institute for Child Psychology, the Diversity in Parenting Conference, the Davidson Institute, Lawrence Livermore Laboratory, and been on a boatload of podcasts! Tosha and I met at a conference where I was speaking on podcasting. When she came up to me after my talk to tell me a little about her show, I knew she would make a fantastic guest for the SMA. Listen in to hear Tosha share: Her roots in feminism and her alarm about having 3 sons How she wrapped her head around maintaining her identity as a strong feminist and a mom of boys How the feminist movement has left behind boys and men How the patriarchy has harmed women, obviously, but also most men and most definitely our sons The importance of advocating for boys despite their behaviors that we might not enjoy or approve of Why our boys need safe spaces to make mistakes Common mistakes that parents make in trying to stop aggression Her five-step practice to stop aggression Links mentioned: Connect with Tosha: www.parentingboyspeacefully.com Free Resource PBP 10 Day Reconnect:  www.parentingboyspeacefully.com/reconnect Tosha's Course: Out with Aggression Tosha on FB Tosha on Youtube Tosha on IG Tosha on LinkedIn We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsor Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we welcome Tosha Shore, a parent coach and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, where she's on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. I am also co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges,” which has been translated into five languages!  Together we dive into a lively discussion of the differences we've experienced parenting boys vs. girls, how societal expectations lead boys down a different emotional path than girls, how we can best support our boys to be emotionally resilient, and how to connect with them when connection seems lost. Resources We Shared: Learn all about Tosha's program: Parenting Boys Peacefully here. Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges Visit No Guilt Mom Rate & Review the No Guilt Mom Podcast on Apple here. We'd love to hear your thoughts on the podcast! Listen on Spotify? You can rate us there too! Check out our favorite deals from our sponsors here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does your young boy exhibit behavior that has you in fear for his future, and what kind of man he will become? Parenting boys with difficult behaviors can be very challenging. What can we do now to reduce risks and aggression?   Tosha Schore is a parent coach and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, where she is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. She is also co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges,” which has been translated into five languages. Tosha works with parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly, and has been featured on Dr. Shefali's Parenting Mastery Summit, GoZen's Anger Transformation and ListenUp! Summits, and has spoken to audiences at the Institute for Child Psychology, the Diversity in Parenting Conference, the Davidson Institute, Lawrence Livermore Laboratory, and on a boatload of podcasts!   Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Tosha Schore about today's approach to parenting young boys with challenging behaviors. Top 10 Ways to Stop Meltdowns in Their Tracks In this FREE insider's guide from the experts at ImpactParents, learn 10 tips that will actually help you reduce the frequency and intensity of meltdowns for good! Used by parents all over the world, successfully help children manage their intense emotions and triggers so they learn to respond with respect and calm. Here is what to expect on this week's show: In the era of “me too” and feminism, how do we want to raise the next generation of young men? Connection between parent and child is the key to reducing aggressive behaviors in boys. When you lean into your relationship, he will do better. Shifting your mindset on how you parent- showing compassion and embracing emotion is valuable in raising boys who have a better handle on their own feelings and behaviors.     Related Links: 6 Core Coaching Concepts for Creating Change Parents are Missing Link to Empower Kids with ADHD Let The Feelings Flow: Dealing With Emotion Worst Parenting Advice for Complex Kids A Parent's Best Question: Is It Naughty or Neurological? Connect with Tosha: parentingboyspeacefully.com Facebook Instagram LinkedIn YouTube Sign up for the next Out With Aggression Workshop   Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools  Connect with Elaine & Diane: Instagram @impactparents Facebook @impactparent LinkedIn @impactparents Twitter @impactparents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12352. Parenting Boys   Tosha Schore is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time by supporting you to care for yourself, connect with your boy deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly!   She brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems.   Through her online community and courses, Tosha helps break the isolation of modern parenting and lifts your confidence so you're better equipped to face the challenges of raising young boys.   Tosha is the creator of all things Parenting Boys Peacefully, including her signature course, Out With Aggression, a six-week sprint to stop your boy's explosions and lift your parenting confidence. She is also co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, and a frequent guest expert on podcasts and at online and in-person conferences. You can find her at www.parentingboyspeacefully.com   Try out her 10 day Reconnection Challenge:  https://parentingboyspeacefully.com/reconnect/     Self-Care: Tosha priotizes travel to take care of herself.    Family Fun: Be silly and be physical.  Rough house, play the sock game.  Listen to ideas from episode #328  (https://everydaymotherhood.libsyn.com/328-rough-housing-is-good-with-lawrence-cohen-phd)   Find me on Instagram: Christy Thomas — Coach for Exhausted Moms (@everyday_christy) • Instagram photos and videos Don't forget to leave a rating or review. Email me Play4life.Christy@gmail.com  Don't hesitate to reach out for coaching with Christy: Coaching (christythomascoaching.com)

“I was so passionate about the changes that I was able to create in my own family, that I felt this call to be able to help other people do the same thing and then I realized that I could make money doing it.” This week, Parker chats with Tosha Schore about her financial journey. Tosha is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time by supporting her clients to care for themselves, connect with their boy(s) deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly! She brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. Through her online community and courses, Tosha helps break the isolation of modern parenting and lifts her client's confidence so they're better equipped to face the challenges of raising young boys. Tosha is the creator of all things Parenting Boys Peacefully, including her signature course, Out With Aggression, a six-week sprint to stop your boy's explosions and lift your parenting confidence. She is also co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, and a frequent guest expert on podcasts and at online and in-person conferences. You can find her at www.parentingboyspeacefully.com. The Bottom Line by Evolved Finance explores the financial journeys of some of the most successful online educators, thought leaders, influencers, and service providers in the online space. Each week, Parker sits down with a current Evolved Finance client to talk about their relationship with money and how their mindset has changed as their business has grown. To learn more about Evolved Finance: Follow us on iTunes and leave a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/evolved-finance/id1227529139 Download our free audio course: www.evolvedfinance.com/audiocourse Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolvedfinance/ To learn more about Tosha and her business: Follow her on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toshaschoreyourpartnerinparentingboys/ Subscribe to her YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/ToshaSchoreYourPartnerInParenting Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toshaschore/ Sign up for The 10-Day Reconnect: https://parentingboyspeacefully.com/reconnect/

You're watching your toddler or preschooler act aggressively, what do you do? It can be confusing and scary because you're not modeling that behavior and we often don't know how to respond. In this episode, Tosha Schore comes on to talk about boys and aggressive behavior. We talk about why it happens and what to do about it. If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to Apple Podcasts or  Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! Tosha Schore is the creator of all things Parenting Boys Peacefully, including her 10-Day Reconnect, an online group experience shared by over 15,000 parents worldwide. She is also co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, and a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we're over 25 thousand strong! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Patty Wipfler and Toscha Schore, authors of the incredible book "Listen: 5 Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges"  explore five parenting tools that will foster connection, joy, emotional resiliency, self-compassion, and limit setting in your home. These tools are all beautifully simple, yet incredibly powerful. Irrespective of your child's age, this is a parenting podcast you do not want to miss! Want to learn more from Patty & Tosha? Watch their workshop  based on their best-selling book "Listen" Use code 5TOOLS30 to take 30% OFF! https://instituteofchildpsychology.com/product/five-simple-listening-tools-that-connect-heal/ You can also watch this workshop as part of our membership -- podcast listeners can take 40% OFF their annual membership (or $19.99/m). Get your 7-Day Free Trial today!

Welcome back to Motherkind Moment. Moment is your place on a Monday for calm, connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead. This moment is from a brilliant episode I recorded with Patty Wipfler. She is the founder of Hand-in-hand Parenting and has been leading the way in conscious parenting for over 30 years. There is so much authority and wisdom in her words. She reminded me that crying is such a healing release. I think this clip is going to help you reframe how you feel when your children cry and when you have a good cry, too. If you haven't listened to the full episode I highly recommend it. You can listen to the clip by clicking above or the full episode here. ABOUT PATTY WIPFLER Patty Wipfler is the Founder and Program Director of Hand in Hand parenting. Patty writes, speaks, trains parent leaders, and develops resources for parents to help them lift difficulties from their children's lives and their own. She directs the training of Parenting by Connection Instructors from all parts of the U.S. and abroad. Her focus is on building parents' emotional understanding and helping parents to build networks of mutual support that benefit their families and communities. In 1989, she founded the non-profit Parents Leadership Institute, which evolved into Hand in Hand Parenting. She is the author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Through Hand in Hand, Patty offers monthly free teleseminars in conjunction with leading parent educators, writers, activists, and bloggers. Her articles have been published in Mothering Magazine, the Bulletin of Zero to Three, and Child Welfare News. She has been a keynote speaker at Association for the Education of Young Children conventions in Chicago and Philadelphia, and she has done workshops and trainings throughout California, and in Oregon, New Mexico, Texas, and Massachusetts, as well as in Beijing, China. COME VISIT MOTHERKIND ON INSTAGRAM - INSTAGRAM: @zoeblaskey - come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day.

Welcome to this really special episode. Patty Wipfler has been working with families and children for an incredible 46 years. You may not know her name, but you may have heard of her organisation called Hand in Hand Parenting. It's a nonprofit international resource for parents. Patty is on a mission to help parents by teaching an approach she calls parenting by connection. She also has a book out called Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Hand in Hand is an incredible organisation and I would encourage you to look at their website. There are so many free resources and it's all non-profit. They have 135 instructors in 18 countries. She is currently working with Harvard on a research project to bring Hand in Hand tools to early childhood educators. I love having guests like Patty on the podcast. She has an incredible perspective and this comes across in her tone, energy, wisdom and depth of expertise. When someone like Patty speaks, we want to listen. We chat about: Her moment of transformation Her life's work and mission Crying and what it means if your child cries a lot Why we as parents need to allow ourselves to cry more What happens when we listen to our children's emotions and when someone listens to ours Hand and Hand parenting tools for an incredible connection and relationship with your children What I take from this episode is that our children's emotional release is an important and powerful thing that we do not want to shut down or worry about. She tells us that if your child cries a lot, as mine does, and releases a lot of emotion with you, that is an amazing sign of a close connection of safety. When we feel safe with someone, we can release that emotion and that is what we need to do. Crying is life's natural healer. As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there. Resources mentioned in this episode: Facebook: facebook.com/handinhandparenting Twitter: twitter.com/ListenToKids Website: handinhandparenting.org/blog/ Book: Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You' and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co. Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME STARTS JANUARY 2022 - Will you join us for Reconnect to you - the reboot? Click here to find out more and to register. About Patty Wipfler Patty Wipfler is the Founder and Program Director of Hand in Hand parenting. Patty writes, speaks, trains parent leaders, and develops resources for parents to help them lift difficulties from their children's lives and their own. She directs the training of Parenting by Connection Instructors from all parts of the U.S. and abroad. Her focus is on building parents' emotional understanding and helping parents to build networks of mutual support that benefit their families and communities. In 1989, she founded the non-profit Parents Leadership Institute, which evolved into Hand in Hand Parenting. She is the author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Through Hand in Hand, Patty offers monthly free teleseminars in conjunction with leading parent educators, writers, activists, and bloggers. Her articles have been published in Mothering Magazine, the Bulletin of Zero to Three, and Child Welfare News. She has been a keynote speaker at Association for the Education of Young Children conventions in Chicago and Philadelphia, and she has done workshops and trainings throughout California, and in Oregon, New Mexico, Texas, and Massachusetts, as well as in Beijing, China.

In my coach-the-coach podcast episode of season 4, I had the pleasure of coaching (and, as I explain early in the episode, strategizing with) Tosha Schore about opportunities in the “professional development speakers for teachers” space. Tosha is a parent educator committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time, who wants to break into speaking to educators and parents. A coach, speaker and co-author with Hand in Hand Parenting founder, Patty Wipfler, of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, Tosha is mom to three boys and an advocate for boys and their families worldwide. She is committed to creating lasting change in families and in the world by supporting parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. Tosha holds a BA in Women's Studies and Language Studies from UCSC, an MA in Applied Linguistics from UCLA, and is a certified teacher and trainer of instructors in Parenting by Connection. During our coach-the-coach episode, we dive deep into what it takes to break into the “professional development speakers for teachers” market. In episode 405 of Moxielicious®, Tosha and I discuss how to: Identify the focus for a signature presentation that can be adapted for educators and parents Leverage speaking opportunities at national, regional, state, and local professional development conferences to connect with educational leaders for speaking opportunities at their institutions Price speaking opportunities in the K-12 education space (Hint: It's about selling daylong opportunities within a school) Avoid being vague or dismissible by being unapologetic about having a specific focus in professional development Whether you are curious about opportunities in the “professional development speakers for teachers” (and parents!) space, or you are looking for interesting speaker marketing tactics, I think you will enjoy this episode. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Learn more about Tosha Schore on her website. Applications are open for the next cohort of Step into Your Moxie® Certification. Learn more about the first-of-its-kind vocal empowerment certification program for coaches, consultants, trainers, and business leaders who want to amplify their voice, visibility, and influence (while getting paid to show their clients and employees how to do the same). Grab all the details here. Please leave a review and subscribe to Moxielicious® via Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Play, or Spotify so you never miss an episode!

Having sons forced Tosha Schore to reevaluate everything she knew about boys. Schore, the daughter of a single mom, grew up stepped in the women's movement. As a  child, she attended marches and rallies for women's rights and, in college, she majored in Women's Studies. She was pregnant with her first child and sidelined with a bout of nausea when a startling thought popped into her head: What if I have a boy? The thought was "terrifying," Tosha said, noting that "it never even occurred" to her, before that moment, that she might have a son. After her son was born, Tosha was determined to be a strong advocate for him. And that, she knew, would require some learning. "I realized I was going to have to revisit some of the feminist ideology I was coming from because as much as I believe in it -- and still believe in it -- the ideology that I internalized painted boys and men as the 'other' and 'the bad guy,'" Tosha says. She soon realized that "boys get treated a certain way because of their perceived gender," just a girls do. "it's not fair to ignore that just because males, as they grow, still tend to hold more positions of power," Tosha says, noting that boys struggle in school. "I'm excited that we women have gained ground, but we're losing the boys along the way, and we're losing the men along the way. I think of feminism as bringing some equality to family systems. But that has not been what's happened in recent years. We get to raise boys differently." In this episode, Jen, Janet & Tosha discuss: How feminism fuels Tosha's advocacy for boys Male gender expectations and stereotypes Boys' struggles in education Finding balance in family systems Making room for dad Cultural influences on gender expectations and experiences Why your son needs female friends Boys & aggression Raising boys who can feel & express emotions Separating behavior from personality Getting to the root of your fear regarding your son's behavior Listening as a powerful tool for healing Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: toshaschore.com -- Tosha's website Boy Talk Blueprint — Janet’s guide to better conversations w your son! Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, by Patty Whipfler & Tosha Schore (book mentioned at 27:43)

Patty Wipfler is the founder and Program Director of Hand in Hand Parenting, a non-profit, parent-led organization that helps parents when parenting gets hard.  Her work focuses on building parents’ emotional understanding and on helping parents to establish networks of mutual support that benefit their families and communities. For more than 45 years, she has been teaching basic listening, parenting, and leadership skills to parents. Patty developed Parenting by Connection, a simple but powerful parenting approach that nurtures the parent-child connection. Her instructor team works in the United States and 17 countries serving parents with transformative tools and accessible support. With co-author Tosha Schore, M.A., Patty wrote Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Her Listening to Children booklets have sold over 800,000 copies and are available in 10 languages. Patty’s focus on children began at an early age. When Patty was four years old, her seven-month-old sister developed a mysterious condition in which she descended into having no functional mind and no visible recognition of anyone. A cascade of stress, difficulty, and harm tumbled through Patty’s family that exacted a high price from each of them for decades, hitting her mother and younger brother the hardest. Patty had extensive experience caring for young siblings, as the oldest of six children, and she also helped care for cousins and neighbors. Married at 21 years old, she began her career as a kindergarten and first grade teacher. While doing social justice work with the United Farmworkers in the late 60’s and early 70’s, she had her own two children. She was doing great as a mom until the birth of her second son. Her older son was not happy about being a brother. To her surprise and dismay, she began being harsh and having impulses to hurt the older son who was 2 years old at the time. Then at a weekend retreat in 1973, Patty found herself crying uncontrollably and pouring herself out to Jennie, a woman she barely knew – sobbing about her own father and neglected brother – and Jennie did not interrupt and did not give advice. That afternoon, Patty played with her children and felt patient and joyful. Her whole body felt lighter. The pleasure of parenting had returned. She had no angry episodes for weeks afterward. She knew that whatever Jennie had done, that was what she had needed. Patty went to Jennie and asked her to explain her magic touch, and Jennie replied that she had been taught to listen – that when there is a listener, when someone offloads tension and hurt through laughter, crying, tantrums, or trembling, they can heal and think and function more clearly. Jennie told her that listeners can exchange listening time, grow to trust one another and through listening do deeply beneficial things for one another. She explained that it is a pleasure to listen to someone and assist them in making emotional sense of their lives. “That marked the beginning of my 47 years of experiments with listening,” Patty said. Patty began by listening to an engineer whose wife had just walked out on him, leaving him with a six-month-old Down syndrome daughter to care for. This listening time exchange took place for an hour every week for the next twelve years. Patty’s family life warmed and lightened as a result. She then employed listening with her two-year old son when he became ill. This helped him allay his fear of the medicine he was prescribed to take three times a day. From these early experiences Patty saw that the stress of parenting could be prevented. Listening was a key for the adult and the child. Listening was a way of giving love that was powerful and respectful. “And soon after I saw how Listening Partnerships could help me in an ongoing way as a mother,” Patty says, “I and some other moms and dads embarked on figuring out how to use the ideas of listening to and connecting with children to keep them from reaching adulthood with heavy burdens of childhood hurt that get in their way of having the lives they wanted.” Patty believes it is a privilege to be allowed into the emotional trenches with parents, to listen to them, to lend them confidence in themselves and their children, and to love. She confesses that she has made a lot of mistakes as a parent and that everyone has had hard things happen. She does this work with parents, aware that she has ideas that work very well, but that every parent needs good support to be there for their children, especially when times are tough. Patty has led over 400 residential weekend workshops for families and for leaders of parents in the U.S. and in 23 countries.  She authored the Building Emotional Understanding and Understanding Tears and Tantrums courses, which have transformed the lives of many thousands of parents and children in the U.S. and abroad. Her materials are currently published in English, Spanish, Chinese, and Japanese; several other languages will be added soon. She is also the author of the Parent Rescue Series: self-guided, self-paced online classes, focused on specific parenting topics. Through Hand in Hand, Patty offers monthly free teleseminars in conjunction with leading parent educators, writers, activists, and bloggers. Her articles have been published in Mothering Magazine, the Bulletin of Zero to Three, and Child Welfare News. Patty has two sons and three teenaged grandchildren, and lives in Palo Alto with her husband.

When our children act out the one thing parents aren't likely to do in the moment is to simply listen.  At that point parents have usually reached their boiling point and time out, yelling, and a loud list of consequences are likely the punishments of choice to end the situation. Patty Wipfler is a mother as well as the founder of a non-profit organization called "Hand in Hand Parenting".  She is with us this week teaching about the powerful tool of simply listening.  In this episode she discusses her book "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges".

Hunter talks to Tosha Schore about Listening To Boys. It’s time to be more conscious about how we are raising our boys. Culturally, there’s a lot more shaming going on for boys because we don’t want them to grow up “soft.” But is that really what helps? What do boys need to grow up to be emotionally healthy, and how can we provide that for them? Some big takeaways from this episode include: 1. It’s time to look at “bad” behavior as a cry for help 2. What to do when your child hits you 3. Listening to each other can help us be that safe space for our boys Tosha Schore creates happy households by building your parenting confⅰdence and helping parents shift boys' behaviors through connection. She is co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges."  Website www.toshaschore.com Social Media Links https://www.facebook.com/toshaschoreyourpartnerinparentingboys/ Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review -----> Apple Podcasts or on Stitcher (or wherever you listen!) ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches overstressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide, and is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course. Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com.

Today we’re talking with Tosha Schore! A parent coach for conscious parents, Tosha helps you shift your boy's behaviors through connection. Tosha is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time, by supporting parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. She helps you lose it less, and raise respectful, resilient boys inside her online parent community, The Playhouse (https://offerings.toshaschore.com/courses/playhouse/). She is also the creator of Out With Aggression! (https://offerings.toshaschore.com/courses/out-with-aggression) A simple 5-Step Practice to Stop Your Boy's Aggressive Behaviors and Lift Your Parenting Confidence, and author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges (https://hand-in-hand-shop.myshopify.com/products/listen-five-simple-tools-to-meet-your-everyday-parenting-challenges#oid=13_17). Tosha also happens to be mom to three boys of her own and is an advocate for boys and their families worldwide. Tosha is offering a Free Live Training (https://bit.ly/2XDRIDO) -- How to discipline your boy without punishment (https://bit.ly/2XDRIDO) -- that would be a perfect fit for you if you've got a boy between 2-10.

What we cover in this Episode:The core question that led me on the conscious parenting journey. An experience with my oldest son that revolutionized our family lifeAn activity in present moment awareness A mini quantum practice I recommend every day Resources referenced:Pam Leo's book, Connection Parenting: Parenting Through Connection Instead of Coercion, Through Love Instead of Fear-----> Later I studied Parenting by Connection with Patty Wipfler at Hand in Hand Parenting. Her book is my favorite starter for understanding and applying connection-based parenting:Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Shore

Meet Tosha Schore Tosha Schore is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time, by supporting parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly! She brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and is an expert at finding simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. Tosha is the co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, and parent coach at http://www.toshaschore.com/ (www.toshaschore.com ) Fav quotes from this episode: “Remember every parent [including you] is doing the best that they can do in every moment.” “The leader of the family needs to be in good emotional health.” “We can help kids grow into emotionally intelligent beings by offering them our loving attention when feelings bubble up for them as they move through the world.” “As parents of young boys, we have an amazing opportunity to create a different world.” “In order to create a more peaceful world…we have to have that space for our boys to heal from hurts as they happen to them otherwise they are just like pressure cookers.” “It is never too late.” In this episode we talk about: How raising our kids consciously has a direct impact on the state of the world. What to do if you are struggling with your child. The steps you can take to help your child grow into an emotionally intelligent adult. Why truly effective parenting starts with taking care of yourself and some suggestions of how to stay in “good parenting shape”. How raising boys is different to raising girls (and how it’s the same!) Is it ever “too late” for a disengaged/aggressive/distant child? Plus, we talk about the need for parents to build a loving supportive community for themselves in order to escape the feelings of isolation that can often colour parenthood. Resources: Links to plenty of free resources and trainings: https://toshaschore.com/ (https://toshaschore.com/) Tosha’s Youtube channel: http://bit.ly/2ThD82D (http://bit.ly/2ThD82D) Tosha’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Listen-Simple-Everyday-Parenting-Challenges/dp/0997459301 (“Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges”) “Out with Aggression” e-course. Find it https://offerings.toshaschore.com/courses/out-with-aggression/ (HERE.)

Dr. Dan enthusiastically welcomes today’s guest Tosha Schore to talk about a crucial topic for parents and communities across the globe: Raising our boys. www.toshaschore.com Tosha Schore is a parent coach, speaker and co-author with Hand in Hand Parenting founder, Patty Wipfler, of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Tosha is mom to three boys and an advocate for boys and their families worldwide. She is committed to creating lasting change in families and in the world by supporting parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. Tosha holds a BA in Women’s Studies & Language Studies from UCSC, an MA in Applied Linguistics from UCLA, and is a certified teacher and trainer of instructors in Parenting by Connection. Tosha's intense work with boys (along with her book) teaches parents effective ways to build healthy relationships with their boys. She lives by the philosophy that as parents and caregivers transition through changes that are natural in life, families can come through those changes whole and wholly as who they authentically are. Dr. Dan and Tosha discuss the goal of raising respectful, resilient boys by dealing with emotions, hardships, and much more and in doing the work of good listening we are collectively creating a more peaceful world, one boy at a time. Dr. Dan has great questions for Tosha and her examples (from spaghetti to cell phones!) will resonate with listeners everywhere. The discussion includes parenting strategies that will change your relationship with your boys and the tone of your family. As the mom of boys, Tosha shares a brave and honest Parent Footprint moment to close the show. Watch this free video to learn more about Dr. Dan and Parent Footprint Awareness Training®.

What goes hand in hand with holiday gifting? Toys and more toys. This week we’re asking how you feel about toys, what decisions you make around holiday request lists, and how you can keep them in check, plus why we can all expect some meltdowns over toys in the holidays.  On the episode, you'll hear about: Overwhelm - theirs and yours - and what you can do to overcome it Envies and jealousies Getting clear on what toys mean to you and why Expectations and appreciations: Why your child might find it hard to say thanks Making room, clearing out, cutting down, and giving to others If you've ever felt overwhelmed on how much to give or how much is coming into your house at this time of year, here's a chance to mull over what you love - and might want to lose - about seasonal giving traditions.  Listen to Too Many Toys?  More Resources about Kids, Limits and Toys Read - Toys often cause big feelings for kids - especially when they can't have something they want, or feel like they chose the wrong plaything. Here's how one mom's trip to the store with her son ended in tears, and some positive steps she learned following.  Watch - Hand in Hand instructor Anna Cole reads about the time her son got violent in public when she refused to buy him what he asked for, and the strategies she used to handle his outburst calmly.  40% off Listen - Get over 100 real stories like Anna's of parents using the Hand in Hand approach to parenting in our book Listen: Five Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. When you use "holiday2018" at checkout you'll get the e-book at 40% off. Show me how to get Listen on sale. (Offer good until December 31).  keep connected We’d love to hear about your parenting challenges. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message at podcast@handinhandparenting.org Listen on iTunes. Listen on Stitcher Don’t forget to subscribe! Get weekly tips, ideas, and inspiration for your parenting in our weekly newsletter

Have you ever woken up in the morning and vowed to yourself that you are going to make it A GREAT DAY? And then, 10 minutes later, your kids are bickering over who got the best bowl, homework is missing, and you can't find your purse? And it's like, seriously?!! What happened? And it continues like that, on a downward spiral, all through the day. Worrying about getting to school on time, sniping at your children who are sniping at each other, bribing a kid to take a class, threatening a kid to EAT SOMETHING, yelling at a kid to get IN THE SHOWER. Forget happier, peaceful, supportive parenting! At this point, you don't much like your kids. You don't like the way you handled things so you don't even like yourself. There doesn't feel much to be happy about! And then you get into bed and wonder - how am I going to face all that again tomorrow? The Key to Happier Parenting Is This... But what if you could change that? What if you could go to bed content in being the parent you are, confident in the decisions you made. Happier, because you own your parenting? That's what we're talking about on the podcast today. Owning your parenting means making decisions based on your own family's needs, and feeling empowered not powerless when moments get sticky. Owning your parenting means, ultimately, being a happier parent and in this episode, Elle and Abigail talk about how to get to that point. We find out: How false expectations can wreck our parenting experience How to love the kids you have not the kid you wanted How to feel happier about yourself as a parent even when things don't go as planned Getting past the "I shoulds," "I coulds," and "I bet other people are..." comparison parenting Parenting is tough, but when we can own parenting, we can remain strong, sure and secure when our kids put us through our paces. And when we own our parenting, we can love them fiercely, no matter what. What could be happier than that? More resources on Happier Parenting Hand in Hand Parenting isn't a one size fits all approach. Instead, the five tools can be used and adapted for all of your parenting challenges as you need them. Read more about them here in Learn Five Tools That Will Transform The Way You Parent In One Week The book Listen: Five Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges is available now in paperback, ebook or audio and lists hundreds of ways real-life parents use the tools. Listen to a section of the audiobook here Read What if Parenting Is an Emotional Practice? keep connected We’d love to hear about your parenting challenges. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.  Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message about challenges you might be facing in your parenting. Sign up for our Monthly Newsletter  Wish parenting was less stressful? Join Hand in Hand’s Parent Club for support and community.  

Today Elle and Abigail are talking to New York Times bestselling author, neuro-biologist and family counselor Michael Gurian. We're talking boys, girls and their differences, and raising boys and girls so each thrives. All over the world boys in schools are failing and girls are succeeding, why? Why Boys Need Special Attention On the podcast today, Michael sheds some light. Known as "the people's philosopher," he breaks down the fascinating differences in how boys and girls brains process information, and what boys need more of in class. Michael addresses the commonly distorted gender paradigms that we as a society have come to believe about what boys and girls need and shares practical strategies to set girls up to do better in STEM subjects and boys to excel in reading, writing and speaking. We also take a look at how Michael's work with The Gurian Institue dovetails into Hand in Hand Parenting through playlistening, roughhousing and Staylistening. On today's episode: The four elements of difference between males and females How boys and girls process information differently and why schools need to teach according to these brain differences to help both sexes Why schools need to move away from verbal-centered teaching towards styles that activate the brain's visual and spatial-kinesthetic centers Mother's raising boys: What male emotional intelligence looks like Join us for a fascinating talk into raising our boys and girls to thrive. More Tools and Support for Raising Our Children According to Science You can read more about Michael and his work at www.michaelgurian.com and The Gurian Institute. The two books mentioned in this podcast are Saving Our Sons: A New Path for Raising Healthy and Resilient Boys and The Minds of Girls: A New Path for Raising Healthy, Resilient, and Successful Women You might also like to read the science behind the Hand in Hand Tool of Staylistening and if you'd like to find out about all of our five tools you can read our book Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges or take the Hand in Hand Starter Class online or in-person with an instructor over 6 weeks. keep connected We’d love to hear about the issues affecting you and your family. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message You can contact Abigail Wald about parenting courses and consultations at realtimeparenting.com Sign up for our Monthly Newsletter 

You’re not alone. Whatever struggle you're facing and however hard it feels to you right now, I’m confident that with support you can get through it. And I’m 100% confident that you’re not the first or only parent to have slipped up in all the ways you have slipped up, nor are you the only parent to have a child who does X or behaves in Y way. So you really aren’t alone and we are our here to support you and help life go better for you and your family. -Tosha Schore In Episode 31, I'm talking with Tosha Schore, co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Tosha is a parent coach whose mission is to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. She is the mother to three boys ages 11, 13, and 15. Hand in Hand Parenting The whole philosophy is really based upon the idea that people are good. That our children are born good and they're doing the best they can and along the way, as they go through life...things happen. And the body has a natural process to heal from upsets and that process is a release of emotions...If we stop that process, a layer of hurt sets in. As the hurt piles up, the behavior gets stickier - off track. Patty Wipfler (co-author of Listen) founded Hand in Hand in 1989, but has working with parents for more than for 40 years. She started out by running a day care and eventually turning it into a non profit, while developing tools based on connection and listening. Patty also wrote a set of booklets that sold very well - one on each of the five tools. Patty is Tosha's mentor and asked her to c0-write the book with her. The Five Tools We want to do a balance of showing them that we care and we love them and they’re important and also pushing them to do things that they’re a little uncomfortable with but listening to the feelings that come up for them as we do that. The tools taught in the Hand in Hand method are "really simple, but not necessarily easy," according to Tosha. Some come easier than others depending on the person. “The whole philosophy is really based upon the idea that people are good. That our children are born good and they're doing the best they can and along the way, as they go through life...things happen. And the body has a natural process to heal from upsets and that process is a release of emotions.” Special Time Staylistening Setting Limits Playlistening The Listening Partnership   Resources Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges (order on Amazon) Sample Chapter & Reviews (On Hand in Hand website) Hand in Hand Parenting Website:Tons of free information, including articles, podcasts, etc. Hand in Parent Support FB group, where parents can look for Listening Partners Tosha's Website View all of Tosha's offerings, including her online course, "Out With Aggression!" and her membership community "Parenting Boys Peacefully: THE PLAYHOUSE." Tosha's Facebook Page: Tosha Schore, Your Partner in Parenting Boys Sign up for Tosha's email list

Hand in Hand Parenting Podcast for Parents, Episode 17: Rebuilding Hope When We Are Shocked or Scared by World Events When shocking events or natural disasters leave us raw and overwhelmed parenting can feel tougher than usual. Today Abigail and Elle share Hand in Hand's ideas for caring well for ourselves and our children when events rock us. We talk about how much to share with our children about these events and why pulling together will be, in the end, what pulls us through. Lack of Control One feeling that's common following a shocking event is of losing control. This episode talks about the idea of focussing on the present moment with our children as a way to nourish and restore our sense of good and security in our immediate world. What To Expect of Ourselves and Our Kids Elle mentions the ways that shock and fear can play our for children in less obvious ways, in clinginess, defiance or bravado, and Abigail talks about how their behavior might trigger us because of the feelings we hold around an event. Making space to let them cry and heal, or to go a little gentler in these times can help, they decide. The podcast ends on a note of hope, with suggestions for pulling together as a family, rebuilding hope and closeness through action. As parents, we can be the change that stops events dividing people, Abigail says, a place we can listen to others even when we disagree. Get More Support Please use and share these posts if you or a loved one needs support On audio: Helping Children Face an Uncertain World An Open Letter (of Hope) to Parents Around the World Helping Children Exposed to Shocking Events Talking to Your Child About Disasters And if you like the ideas in this week's podcast, Patty's book Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges has many more for the tough times in parenting. You can get it here, online, or on audio get in touch! We’d love to hear about the issues affecting you and your family. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message You can contact Abigail Wald about parenting courses and consultations at realtimeparenting.com Sign up for our Monthly Newsletter 

It's 2018 already! Happy New Year! This week's podcast has a New Year's  flavor as Elle and Abigail talk about bringing change to yourself and your family. What is the secret to making habits stick? Abigail reveals she's big on studying on how habits work and reveals the three-step process she's used to help keep resolutions in the past. This is great news to Elle, who is less adept at adopting new ways that last beyond February! They talk about the pressure we pile on when we devote ourselves to doing something new - especially when it comes to parenting. Powerful Ways To Bring Change in Your Family The moms introduce some small habits that could bring powerful change to parents and the way their family connects. Join Elle and Abigail as they talk about their own parenting habits, their wins, and their fails. Discount on our book Listen - until January 9th! Elle mentioned a discount on Hand in Hand Parenting's ultimate resource, the book Listen, Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore. To get 20 percent off put Newyear in at the checkout when using the link. Offer is good through to January 9th and is available for the paperbook and ebook copies. The book is filled with hundreds of real-life examples from parents using Hand in Hand Parenting. Enjoy! Get in Touch! We’d love to hear about the issues affecting you and your family. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.  Sign up for Hand in Hand's Monthly Newsletter here You can contact Abigail Wald about parenting courses and consultations at realtimeparenting.com   

This week on Mom Talk Radio, Dr. William Sears and Erin Sears Basile, Co-Authors of Dr. Sears T5 Wellness Plan, share tips for getting through flu season. Spotlight on Moms features Jackie Leverton of TotOnThePot.com. Dr. Jay Rabinowitz, author of Cute Kidbits: Funny Converstations Kids Share with Their Pediatrician, shares funny encounters and tips for trips to the pediatrician. Patty Wipfler, author of LISTEN: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, shares tips for family wellbeing. Devorah Blachor, author of The Feminist’s Guide to Raising a Little Princess: How to Raise a Girl Who’s Authentic, Joyful, and Fearless – Even If She Refuses to Wear Anything but a Pink Tutu, shares her inspiration for her book and what she hopes readers will take away.

  It's the season to be...making rituals? What is a Ritual Anyway? Elle asks this week are rituals the same as routine and is implementing them just a lot of extra work? Abigail mentions some family rituals that may already be in place in a family and that will become meaningful even if they are (currently) under the radar. We look at what rituals are, at their heart, how rituals can be so very connecting for family, and how Special Time can be viewed as a regular family ritual through the holidays and beyond, to build long-lasting bonds and closeness between adults and the children they care for. This week's podcast ends with a powerful story of a ritual created one Christmas season many years ago, which has come to define a family's holidays. Come join us and listen to some soothing stories and support in your parenting. Elle and Abigail wish you all well for the holidays. Giveaways: Elle mentioned two giveaways this week, and the details are right here. In time for the holidays, we're giving you a free download to the chapter on Special Time from Listen, Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Click here for Free Chapter on Special Time If you have to Listen already, try this video series on Special Time as “10-minute Tool” which also comes with a checklist you can use to keep your Special Time on track. Get in Touch! We’d love to hear about the issues affecting you and your family. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Elle and Abigail would love. You can contact Abigail Wald about parenting courses and consultations at realtimeparenting.com Sign up for our Monthly Newsletter    0000003E 0000003E 0000470E 0000470E 000D41AC 000D41AC 00007EF6 00007EF6 000D41AC 000D41AC

What are you grateful for now? That’s the question Abigail poses to Elle this episode. We’ll be talking about how we feel about being thankful during the thankful season, what happens if it feels difficult, and how we can inspire gratitude rather than demand it from our children? Feelings about gratitude are often triggered around the holidays. In this episode, Abigail and Elle share ideas for: Promoting true gratitude in the family Making space to see and hear your child as they are and monitor your connection How to let children offload trusting they will go back to center Special Time is a great tool for promoting gratitude. Find out how it works or deepen your knowledge with this free chapter on Special Time from our book Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges.  We’d love to hear about the issues affecting you and your family. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message You can contact Abigail Wald about parenting courses and consultations at realtimeparenting.com Sign up for our Monthly Newsletter  You can listen to this episode and every episode on iTunes. Don’t forget to subscribe!

Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... :::::::::: Patty Wipfler is the Hand in Hand Parenting Founder and Program Director. Her 40 years of work with parents and children has given rise to Parenting by Connection, a simple but powerful parenting approach that nurtures the parent-child connection. Her Hand in Hand team trains parent leaders in the US and 10 other countries, and offers accessible support for the vital work of parenting. With co-author Tosha Schore, she has written the book, Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. And Her Listening to Children booklets have sold over 800,000 copies in English, Spanish, and 10 other languages. She is the mother of two sons, and grandmother to three. What you'll hear in this episode: •    Active listening and how it helps people notice how they feel about their own experiences •     How being listened to and being able to sort through feelings can help activate problem solving. •    The impact of our own childhood experiences on how we perceive challenges in our children's lives •    Parenting by connection and its relationship with positive discipline. •    Influencing and using presence, setting limits to encourage better behavior. •    How to hold space for your child who is emotionally elevated and let them deal with big feelings •    Letting your child feel the feelings and its impact on the healing process •    The size of the trigger relative to the depth of hurt – helping your child navigate big feelings •    Emotional upset as efficiently releasing tension •    Listening partnerships and how they can alleviate parenting stress and facilitate better parenting •    Emotional projects: ongoing parenting challenges and how to address them What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful Courage is a human being's birthright to be joyfully courageous. Joyful courage means to me what a one year old will sometimes do to pull themselves up so they can stand up next to a table or as a toddler is trying to walk across the room it's like they don't care what happens, they are just going to try it and they are proud of themselves as they do it. I think it's the attitude towards life that we are born with, that we get to keep if we aren't hurt too badly. Sometimes you have to work on hurt to get your birthright back. Resources: Listen: 5 simple tools for meeting your every day parenting challenges  Where to find Patty: Hand in Hand Parenting  i Instagram l Facebook l Twitter l Youtube    :::::::::: Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... :::::::::: Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!