Podcast appearances and mentions of patty wipfler

  Patty Wipfler was born, raised and educated in California, and is the mother of two sons. The focus of her work since 1974 has been teaching basic listening and parenting skills to parents and early childhood educators, and supporting … Continue reading →

Patty Wipfler Patty Wipfler was born, raised and educated in California, and is the mother of two sons. The focus of her work since 1974 has been teaching basic listening and parenting skills to parents and early childhood educators, and … Continue reading →

Do you spend most of the time feeling like you are doing parenting all wrong? Are you often doling out punishments but really wish you had more connection and calm with your kids? Michelle Kenney, a parenting coach, returns for a conversation about how to let go of punishments and find peace in parenting instead.  Parenting without the use of threats, bribes, and consequences is possible. But can you raise a great kid without using these parenting tactics? The answer is “Yes!” In this episode, Michelle breaks down how to parent without yelling or using manipulative methods. And, y'all, I learned so much from this conversation. I hope you will too!  Michelle is a mother of two, and after years of consequences, bribes, and star charts, she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped her relationship with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life. Today Michelle has helped herself and others make meaningful connections, work on sibling rivalry, and alleviate school problems.    Featured topics include: Parenting without yelling or consequences starts with creating a connection with your child (3:48) Mutual cooperation is the goal (8:21) How to co-parent with someone who has a different parenting style (9:10) Punishment erodes trust and engagement; instead, aim for empathy and holding boundaries (14:32) Some ways to build and foster connection with your children (22:54) How to take care of yourself while parenting (27:48) Learn more about Michelle Kenney: Michelle lives in Los Angeles with her two girls, 12 and 15. Before becoming a Hand in Hand certified instructor in 2015, she worked for 12 years in public schools as a teacher and counselor. None of which prepared her to be a mom. After years of consequences, bribes, and star charts, she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped her relationship with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life. She is passionate about helping others find their way through the murky business of being a connected parent. She loves leading groups and finds the dynamic transformative.  Michelle also strongly believes that listening partnerships are the cornerstone to overcoming difficulties. Michelle has helped herself, and others make meaningful connections, work on sibling rivalry, and alleviate school problems.  Aggression, fears, withdrawal, and sleep issues are just some of the struggles she has shared and helped others rectify. She holds a Master's Degree in Education, speaks fluent Spanish, has been trained as a Council in Schools Facilitator, and is an ADL Trainer fighting against bias of all types on school campuses. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-221-parenting-with-peace-letting-go-of-punishments-and-finding-connection-with-michelle-kenney/ Download The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Curated Podcast Playlist Michelle's website Unpunished: How to Let Go of Punishments and Find Your Parenting Peace ========= DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.  

Bienvenue dans ce podcast Hand in Hand avec Sophie : tous les 15 jours, je te propose une petite bulle d'inspiration pour que les choses se passent plus simplement dans ta parentalité. Fondé sur les outils d'écoute Hand in Hand, je partage avec toi mes découvertes et anecdotes de maman ainsi que la richesse de l'approche parentale Hand in Hand, fondée il y a 40 ans aux Etats Unis par Patty Wipfler. Je te conseille aussi un livre "Écoute, les outils indispensables pour se connecter avec son enfant", écrit par Patty Wipfler et édité chez JC Lattès, et qui est le livre phare de l'approche. Édité et préfacé par Isabelle Filliozat, il te permettra d'aller un peu plus loin dans la découverte des cinq outils d'écoute de l'approche. Enfin, n'hésite pas à venir me faire un coucou sur Instagram (mon compte est https://www.instagram.com/handinhandavecsophie/)ou à venir sur mon site www.handinhandparentingavecsophie.com Tu y découvriras les prochains ateliers de parentalité en petit groupe que je propose, en présentiel, à Dubai ou via Zoom. A très vite !Hébergé par Ausha. Visitez ausha.co/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

S02E48 Isabelle Filliozat - "Ecoute, les outils indispensables pour se connecter à son enfant." - Aujourd'hui, nous allons parler de connexion, d'attention, d'écoute… autant d'ingrédients précieux pour un quotidien plus paisible en famille. Mais vous le savez, être parent, c'est aussi traverser des turbulences et se sentir parfois démuni face à des tempêtes émotionnelles de nos enfants. Pour parler parentalité et parentage (promis, on vous explique ce que c'est pendant l'épisode), nous sommes très très heureuses d'accueillir Isabelle Filliozat, qui est la référence en terme de parentalité positive en France, qui est autrice, psychothépareute et conférencière. Si vous vous rendez dans une bibliothèque ou une librairie, impossible de passer à côté des plus de 30 ouvrages qu'elle a écrits. Isabelle Filliozat a été vice-présidente de la commission des 1000 premiers jours au côté de Boris Cyrulnik et continue d'œuvrer pour cette cause en accompagnant la création des maisons des 1000 premiers jours. Elle travaille également avec les élus de certaines grandes villes comme Marseille sur le mouvement des villes “trauma informed” ou villes sensibilisées au trauma. Pour préparer cet épisode, Nadège et moi nous sommes plongées dans le nouvel ouvrage de la collection Parent + dirigée par Isabelle Filliozat des éditions JC Lattès : “Ecoute” de Patty Wipfler et Tosha Schore. Cet épisode vous a plu? N'hésitez pas à mettre 5 étoiles, à partager autour de vous afin de faire voyager l'épisode. Un immense merci à vous! Melody & Nadège

Patty Wipfler and Toscha Schore, authors of the incredible book "Listen: 5 Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges"  explore five parenting tools that will foster connection, joy, emotional resiliency, self-compassion, and limit setting in your home. These tools are all beautifully simple, yet incredibly powerful. Irrespective of your child's age, this is a parenting podcast you do not want to miss! Want to learn more from Patty & Tosha? Watch their workshop  based on their best-selling book "Listen" Use code 5TOOLS30 to take 30% OFF! https://instituteofchildpsychology.com/product/five-simple-listening-tools-that-connect-heal/ You can also watch this workshop as part of our membership -- podcast listeners can take 40% OFF their annual membership (or $19.99/m). Get your 7-Day Free Trial today!

- Le Partenariat d'écoute, je t'en parle depuis le début de cette saison dédiée à cet outil d'écoute de l'approche parentale Hand in Hand. Mais si je te montrais à quoi ça ressemble ? Pour cet épisode, je t'invite à passer en coulisse pour y rencontrer Carol, qui est … une de mes partenaires d'écoute. Maman de 4 enfants, et “jardinière d'enfants” comme elle aime décrire son activité professionnelle en école maternelle, Carol te racontera toute son expérience avec cet outil : comment il lui a permis de retrouver plus de sérénité avec ses enfants, mais aussi dans sa propre fratrie, et comment elle a eu son premier déclic durant une séance d'écoute avec Patty Wipfler, la fondatrice de l'approche Hand in Hand. Car oui, Carol est également formatrice Hand in Hand ! - Bonne écoute ! Et si cet épisode t'a plus, n'hésite pas à lui donner une note sur ta plateforme d'écoute préférée, cela permettra à de plus nombreux parents encore de découvrir ce podcast !Hébergé par Ausha. Visitez ausha.co/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

In this episode, I have an inspiring conversation with Abbey Stanbrook. Abbey is an Aware Parenting Instructor and a Somatic Wellness Coach and is passionate about supporting parenting with these modalities to support nervous system balance and integration. She is also a Safe Sound Protocol practitioner and the host of the Somatic Seasons Podcast. In this episode Abbey shares both her aware parenting and somatic wellness perspectives. Abbey explains how she came to aware parenting via Hand in Hand parenting and Patty Wipfler's work. She describes the power of this approach in parenting her children and re-parenting herself and the deep connection she has developed with her children as a result of practising aware parenting. She shares some of her self-healing journey and the need for us to receive support in order to support our physical and psychological wellbeing. She shares how she has navigated co-parenting and the power of attachment play in her family. We also discuss some of the challenges of practising aware parenting and the need for community, belonging and connection. To learn more about Abbey, please visit abbeyheartlove on Instagram and Abbey Stanbrook on Facebook.

Welcome back to Motherkind Moment. Moment is your place on a Monday for calm, connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead. This moment is from a brilliant episode I recorded with Patty Wipfler. She is the founder of Hand-in-hand Parenting and has been leading the way in conscious parenting for over 30 years. There is so much authority and wisdom in her words. She reminded me that crying is such a healing release. I think this clip is going to help you reframe how you feel when your children cry and when you have a good cry, too. If you haven't listened to the full episode I highly recommend it. You can listen to the clip by clicking above or the full episode here. ABOUT PATTY WIPFLER Patty Wipfler is the Founder and Program Director of Hand in Hand parenting. Patty writes, speaks, trains parent leaders, and develops resources for parents to help them lift difficulties from their children's lives and their own. She directs the training of Parenting by Connection Instructors from all parts of the U.S. and abroad. Her focus is on building parents' emotional understanding and helping parents to build networks of mutual support that benefit their families and communities. In 1989, she founded the non-profit Parents Leadership Institute, which evolved into Hand in Hand Parenting. She is the author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Through Hand in Hand, Patty offers monthly free teleseminars in conjunction with leading parent educators, writers, activists, and bloggers. Her articles have been published in Mothering Magazine, the Bulletin of Zero to Three, and Child Welfare News. She has been a keynote speaker at Association for the Education of Young Children conventions in Chicago and Philadelphia, and she has done workshops and trainings throughout California, and in Oregon, New Mexico, Texas, and Massachusetts, as well as in Beijing, China. COME VISIT MOTHERKIND ON INSTAGRAM - INSTAGRAM: @zoeblaskey - come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day.

This week I talk to Patty Wipfler, founder of Hand in Hand Parenting. Patty has been working with parents for 47 years. Over that time she has developed the parenting by connection approach, the five listening tools you hear me talk about on the podcast (Listening Partnerships for parents, Staylistening, Setting Limits, Special Time and Playlistening) and the Hand in Hand Parenting organisation which supports 1000s of parents around the world. In this episode Patty generously shares with us the story of her own childhood and how that had a profound influence on her life's work of making lives better for children and parents. Patty experienced from a very early age the impact parent stress can have on the family system and she has used that experience to guide her work with parents. Patty talks about how the Hand in Hand Parenting approach emerged firstly from being listened to herself and then through using the same principles to listen to children. She talks about the power of connection and the huge stress parents face in a world that doesn't support parents well. Patty embodies how listening to parents and children with warmth, love and respect can change the world. She has such deep compassion and wisdom to share with us, you are in for a real treat. If you would like to learn more about how you can bring these ideas into your own parenting then you are so welcome to join my next free Masterclass which takes place on Tuesday 8th November 2022 at 8pm UK/Ireland time (12pm PST / 3pm PST). If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents. I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach and I always love to hear from my listeners.

In this episode we look at an alternative child psychology approach to parenting and care-giving, than perhaps the one we're used to from our own childhoods: one based on connection rather than threat based motivations. This episode is a little closer to home than usual, as a few years ago we hit the wall with our eldest boy, who after the birth of our second child when he was 6, became extremely aggressive and uncontrollable. This led us to try Hand in Hand parenting, and we got an improvement of wellbeing and behaviour within just 2 weeks! We were scheduled to be speaking with the founder, child psychologist Patty Wipfler. Patty sent her apologies as sadly her health had taken a turn, but what a silver lining as Patty sent us Hand in Hand's program director and Clinical psychologist Dr. Maya Coleman Ph.D. Since 2007 she has been providing trauma treatment for children and support for parents. She spent 3 years at the Children's National Medical Center giving behavioural and developmental consultancy, and last year joined Hand in Hand as program director. Please donate to help me keep the content flowing 00:00 Short intro 13:36 Parent-child mutual connectedness for healthy emotional development 18:50 Learning and healing only possible in a state of safety 19:30 Traumatic experiences block learning both physically and mentally. 27:00 Release of emotion only when connected, emotionally regulated care is present 27:00 Crying is an opportunity to clear and reset their emergency/threat system 31:00 Offloading often happens later when the parent takes back the child 32:40 Children's fear of care givers themselves 38:25 THE 5 HAND IN HAND PARENTING TOOLS EXPLAINED 39:20 SPECIAL TIME EXPLAINED - building connection 43:45 STAY LISTENING EXPLAINED - holding a regulated space for big emotions 55:00 SETTING LIMITS EXPLAINED - Listen, limit, listen 01:05:00 Regulation and body language, instead of tagging and shaming 01:09:40 PLAY LISTENING EXPLAINED 01:13:45 Laughter as an inbuilt releasing mechanism 01:18:00 LISTENING PARTNERSHIPS EXPLAINED 01:21:00 Parents too get triggered and go off track 01:28:35 You can heal betrayed trust with kids 01:35:30 Memories and a corrective associative adjustment 01:38:15 Heal parenting, heal the world References: Attachment theory Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) Study 5 Listening tools for parents introduced Hand in Hand you tube channel More videos with Patty introducing the tools Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore Book “Listen: Five simple tools to meet your Everyday Parenting Challenges” Listening partnership instructions video ‘The neuroscience of enduring change' Richard D. Lane and Lynn Nadel ‘Birthing a new world' parenting blog, Roma Norris

Welcome to this really special episode. Patty Wipfler has been working with families and children for an incredible 46 years. You may not know her name, but you may have heard of her organisation called Hand in Hand Parenting. It's a nonprofit international resource for parents. Patty is on a mission to help parents by teaching an approach she calls parenting by connection. She also has a book out called Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Hand in Hand is an incredible organisation and I would encourage you to look at their website. There are so many free resources and it's all non-profit. They have 135 instructors in 18 countries. She is currently working with Harvard on a research project to bring Hand in Hand tools to early childhood educators. I love having guests like Patty on the podcast. She has an incredible perspective and this comes across in her tone, energy, wisdom and depth of expertise. When someone like Patty speaks, we want to listen. We chat about: Her moment of transformation Her life's work and mission Crying and what it means if your child cries a lot Why we as parents need to allow ourselves to cry more What happens when we listen to our children's emotions and when someone listens to ours Hand and Hand parenting tools for an incredible connection and relationship with your children What I take from this episode is that our children's emotional release is an important and powerful thing that we do not want to shut down or worry about. She tells us that if your child cries a lot, as mine does, and releases a lot of emotion with you, that is an amazing sign of a close connection of safety. When we feel safe with someone, we can release that emotion and that is what we need to do. Crying is life's natural healer. As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there. Resources mentioned in this episode: Facebook: facebook.com/handinhandparenting Twitter: twitter.com/ListenToKids Website: handinhandparenting.org/blog/ Book: Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You' and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co. Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME STARTS JANUARY 2022 - Will you join us for Reconnect to you - the reboot? Click here to find out more and to register. About Patty Wipfler Patty Wipfler is the Founder and Program Director of Hand in Hand parenting. Patty writes, speaks, trains parent leaders, and develops resources for parents to help them lift difficulties from their children's lives and their own. She directs the training of Parenting by Connection Instructors from all parts of the U.S. and abroad. Her focus is on building parents' emotional understanding and helping parents to build networks of mutual support that benefit their families and communities. In 1989, she founded the non-profit Parents Leadership Institute, which evolved into Hand in Hand Parenting. She is the author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Through Hand in Hand, Patty offers monthly free teleseminars in conjunction with leading parent educators, writers, activists, and bloggers. Her articles have been published in Mothering Magazine, the Bulletin of Zero to Three, and Child Welfare News. She has been a keynote speaker at Association for the Education of Young Children conventions in Chicago and Philadelphia, and she has done workshops and trainings throughout California, and in Oregon, New Mexico, Texas, and Massachusetts, as well as in Beijing, China.

In my coach-the-coach podcast episode of season 4, I had the pleasure of coaching (and, as I explain early in the episode, strategizing with) Tosha Schore about opportunities in the “professional development speakers for teachers” space. Tosha is a parent educator committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time, who wants to break into speaking to educators and parents. A coach, speaker and co-author with Hand in Hand Parenting founder, Patty Wipfler, of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, Tosha is mom to three boys and an advocate for boys and their families worldwide. She is committed to creating lasting change in families and in the world by supporting parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. Tosha holds a BA in Women's Studies and Language Studies from UCSC, an MA in Applied Linguistics from UCLA, and is a certified teacher and trainer of instructors in Parenting by Connection. During our coach-the-coach episode, we dive deep into what it takes to break into the “professional development speakers for teachers” market. In episode 405 of Moxielicious®, Tosha and I discuss how to: Identify the focus for a signature presentation that can be adapted for educators and parents Leverage speaking opportunities at national, regional, state, and local professional development conferences to connect with educational leaders for speaking opportunities at their institutions Price speaking opportunities in the K-12 education space (Hint: It's about selling daylong opportunities within a school) Avoid being vague or dismissible by being unapologetic about having a specific focus in professional development Whether you are curious about opportunities in the “professional development speakers for teachers” (and parents!) space, or you are looking for interesting speaker marketing tactics, I think you will enjoy this episode. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Learn more about Tosha Schore on her website. Applications are open for the next cohort of Step into Your Moxie® Certification. Learn more about the first-of-its-kind vocal empowerment certification program for coaches, consultants, trainers, and business leaders who want to amplify their voice, visibility, and influence (while getting paid to show their clients and employees how to do the same). Grab all the details here. Please leave a review and subscribe to Moxielicious® via Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Play, or Spotify so you never miss an episode!

“Parenting is hard, divorce or not. Parenting is a big ask.” When you mix parenting, divorce, changes in family structure, and a complete upheaval of everyday life - parenting becomes even harder. Michelle Kenney, a connective parenting coach, joins me to talk about how to parent your children before, during, and after divorce, with connection, peace, and empathy.  Michelle is a divorced mom of two daughters, who are 12 and 15. She is a recovering yeller, control freak, and perfectionist turned connective parenting coach. She was so poignant and soothing during our time together. I can't wait for you to listen.  “I gave up the relationship I share with my ex-husband to focus on the relationship I share with my girls. The relationship I share with my girls is better because I got divorced.”  Michelle Kenney. Show Highlights Was parenting always a big ask or did parenting change over time (compared to past generations)? (5:33) How to use connective parenting as opposed to punitive parenting, when your own life is destabilized by the divorce process. (7:39) “It's okay to make mistakes, it's not perfect, and we can strive to do better.” And...as parents, we have an obligation to our children to apologize when we do get things wrong. (7:52) Connective parenting: what it means and what it looks like. (10:20) When your co-parent continues to punitively parent your child and you don't. “You need one, good connected caretaker to be a functioning human being, to do well, and to be well-adjusted.” (12:15) How to talk to your children about your different parenting styles without badmouthing your co-parent. (14:30) The importance of empathizing with your child. Plus, why is it so hard to do? “We don't understand what empathy is because no one did it for us.” (22:06) Adjusting to co-parenting and being without your child while they are with their co-parent. (23:36) Why punitive parenting is bad for children. (28:13) Michelle shares her experience as a former yeller and insight about what parents can do when they do yell or lose their shit. (32:30) Learn More About Michelle: Michelle lives in Los Angeles with her two girls 12 and 15. Before becoming a Hand in Hand certified instructor in 2015, she worked for 12 years in public schools as a teacher and counselor. None of which prepared her to be a mom. After years of consequences, bribes, and star charts she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life. She is passionate about helping others find their way through the murky business of being a connected parent. She loves leading groups and finds the dynamic transformative.  Michelle also strongly believes that listening partnerships are the cornerstone to moving through difficulties. Michelle has helped herself and others make meaningful connections, work on sibling rivalry, and alleviate school problems.  Aggression, fears, withdrawal, and sleep issues are just some of the struggles she has shared and helped others rectify. She holds a Master's Degree in Education speaks fluent Spanish, has been trained as a Council in Schools Facilitator and is an ADL Trainer fighting against the bias of all types on school campuses. Resources & Links: The Divorce Survival Program is here.  Learn more or purchase, here! Michelle's website Michelle on Instagram Michelle on Facebook JOIN THE SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO FACEBOOK GROUP

In Part 3 of our series with parenting advocate and Hand In Hand Parenting founder Patty Wipfler, we discuss the tools and techniques she created for helping parents work with their children's emotions instead of against them.Special thanks to Mackenzie Bell and Laurel Near for their help with this episode.Written, Hosted, Edited, and Produced by Quinn VanAntwerp

Anne Hackenberger spricht heute darüber, was kindliche Trennungsangst mit uns Eltern zu tun hat und wie wir Abschied und Wiedersehen achtsam gestalten können. + Mehr von Anne findest Du auf achtsamkeit-und-familie.de  Zum 35-jährigen Jubiläum von „Mit Kindern wachsen“ veranstalten wir vom 22. – 30. Mai 2021 unseren ersten Online-Kongress mit Alfie Kohn, Daniel Siegel, Joachim Bauer, Katharina Martin, Laura Markham, Susan Bögels, Patty Wipfler, Helle Jensen, Herbert Renz-Polster, Nancy Bardacke, Lienhard Valentin u.v.a. Mehr Infos und kostenlose Anmeldung unter https://www.arbor-online-center.de/mkw-kongress2021

Der Mit Kindern wachsen Online-Kongress präsentiert vom 22. – 30. Mai 2021 täglich kostenlose Interviews rund um das Thema „Achtsamkeit und Selbstmitgefühl im Leben mit Kindern“. Mit dabei sind internationale Expertinnen und Experten wie Alfie Kohn, Dr. Daniel Siegel, Prof. Joachim Bauer, Dr. Laura Markham, Dr. Susan Bögels, Patty Wipfler, Helle Jensen, Dr. Herbert Renz-Polster, Nancy Bardacke und Lienhard Valentin. Der Mit Kindern wachsen Online-Kongress ist genau das Richtige für Dich, wenn Du u.a.: • Kinder einfühlsam ins Leben begleiten und dabei selbst innerlich wachsen möchtest, • erfahren willst, wie wir mit „schwierigen“ Emotionen bei uns selbst und unseren Kindern umgehen können, • wissen möchtest, wie Du Kinder straf- und belohnungsfrei begleiten kannst, • erfahren möchtest, wie wir den jeweiligen Entwicklungsbedürfnissen unserer Kinder gerecht werden können. Mehr Infos und kostenlose Anmeldung unter https://www.arbor-online-center.de/mkw-kongress2021 Auszug aus dem Gespräch zwischen Prof. Dr. Joachim Bauer und Lienhard Valentin: In diesem Interview geht der Arzt, Neurowissenschaftler und Buchautor Joachim Bauer darauf ein, wie Eltern in den ersten Lebensjahren des Kindes die Entwicklung des kindlichen Selbst fördern können.

In the second of 3 parts with parenting specialist Patty Wipfler we explore how our unresolved issues can become our children issues and how we can break the cycle.Written, hosted, edited, and produced by Quinn VanAntwerp

Patty Wipfler is known across the globe for her work with parents and children.  Her curriculum at Hand In Hand parenting has made it to over 24 countries and has been translated into 14 different languages.  In the this three part series we talk to her about not only raising emotionally healthy children, but also how generational trauma is passed down if we as parents don't address our own trauma.  To find out more about Hand in Hand Parenting please visit HandInHand.org or pick up "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Needs" by Patty Wipfler and Toscha Shore, M.A.Written, produced, edited and hosted by Quinn VanAntwerp

When we’ve exhausted all efforts like diaper changing, feeding, and checking out babies for harm-- sometimes it looks like they’re crying for absolutely no reason. So what else can we do to support our infants and babies while crying?  Today I’ve invited Patty Wipfler, founder of Hand in Hand Parenting where I was first inspired then trained to make the changes in how I parent my daughters.  In this episode, Patty shares with us the ways we can support our infants, providing them with special time and ultimately allowing them to emotionally process through supported crying.    Episode Highlights:                                                                                      Supporting our babies  what can affect our infants Why connection and presence is important with our babies How we can to build confidence as young as infanthood   Connect with Patty Wipfler: Hand in Hand Parenting | Website   Check out my free Ultimate Guide to Special Time here!   To check out my Free Live Training for the 3 Benefits of Connective Parenting, click here! In this training session, I'll teach you how to transform your house from chaotic to calm!   --   Enjoy today’s episode? Please share this episode with a friend and subscribe to the show to get notified on the latest episodes.   Support this podcast through my partnership with Hand in Hand Parenting. Find useful parenting material and the Booklets I discuss in the show? Click Here.   Are you a coach, or online course creator? Have an email list you communicate with often? Do you have a website? Kajabi can be your home for all of these and so much more Click here and explore all Kajabi has to offer while supporting the Peace and Parenting Podcast with no extra cost to you.    Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts

Patty Wipfler has been supporting parents raise their children for over 40 years. With over 300K followers on Facebook, she has become a real authority on the matter. We discuss the techniques that she has been using to help millions of parents raise their kids.   #parenting #handinhand #staylistening #love #livelovegive #commonsense #inspiration#possibilities #breakthrough #emotionalintelligence #fulfilment #empowerment#authenticity #freedom #lifelessons #courage #consciousness #wisdom #selfawareness#trustyourself #growthmindset #habits #transformation #personaldevelopment #talkshow

Episode #26 Connected Parenting with Michelle Kenny My guest today is Michelle Kenny. Michelle lives in Los Angeles with her two girls 9 and 12. Before becoming a Hand in Hand certified instructor in 2015, she worked for 12 years in public schools as a teacher and counselor. She also served as an adjunct professor in the Department of Education instructing in the teacher credentialing program. None of which prepared her to be a mom. After years of consequences, bribes and star charts she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life.She is passionate about helping others find their way through the murky business of being a connected parent. She loves leading groups and finds the dynamic transformative.  Michelle also strongly believes that listening partnerships are the cornerstone to moving through difficulties. Michelle has helped herself and others make meaningful connections, work on sibling rivalry, and alleviate school problems.  Aggression, fears, withdrawal and sleep issues are just some of the struggles she has shared and helped others rectify.She holds a Master’s Degree in Education speaks fluent Spanish, has been trained as a Council in Schools Facilitator and an ADL Trainer fighting against bias of all types on school campuses. If you are intrigued and want to learn more about this method through my guest go to http://peaceandparentingla.com . Also  follow Michelle on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/ for daily wisdom.   I have so much gratitude for everyone who has been listening to the Joyfull Parenting Podcast and joining the community of supporters at https://www.patreon.com/user?u=40232525 ! If you haven’t already,  please subscribe to the podcast. It’s also super helpful to me if you rate it, review it and share it with others!  If you are looking  to work with me one-on-one as your parenting/caregiving coach you can do so  by clicking on this link here  https://www.patreon.com/user?u=40232525. You can also find me on   Facebook and IG @joyfullparenting.

011: Peace and Parenting with Michelle Kenney – The Whinypaluza Podcast with Rebecca Greene Episode 011 Peace and Parenting. Michelle Kenney lives in Los Angeles with her two girls 9 and 12. Before becoming a Hand in Hand certified instructor in 2015, she worked for 12 years in public schools as a teacher and counselor. She also served as an adjunct professor in the Department of Education instructing in the teacher credentialing program. None of which prepared her to be a mom. After years of consequences, bribes and star charts she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life. She is passionate about helping others find their way through the murky business of being a connected parent. She loves leading groups and finds the dynamic transformative. Michelle also strongly believes that listening partnerships are the cornerstone to moving through difficulties.  Michelle has helped herself and others make meaningful connections, work on sibling rivalry, and alleviate school problems. Aggression, fears, withdrawal and sleep issues are just some of the struggles she has shared and helped others rectify. She holds a master's . Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Michelle Kenney about utilizing Hand in Hand parenting. Here is what to expect on this week's show: ●    How parents rely on the connection they share with their children. ●    Why parents shouldn't rely on threats, bribes, or punishments. ●    Why coming in with neutrality yields better results than anger with children. ●    How parents can find meaning in connection through Hand in Hand parenting, ●    How letting punishments go leads to connections between parents and children. Connect with Michelle: Links Mentioned: peaceandparentingla.coom Guest Contact Info: Twitter @peace_parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook facebook.com/peaceandparentingla Follow Rebecca Greene Blog whinypaluza.com Book bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook Facebook facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting Instagram @becgreene5 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sandi Schwartz is joined by Patty Wipfler who shares practical tools for dealing with typical parenting challenges in a way that nourishes emotional connection and authentic joy.

Patty Wipfler is the founder and Program Director of Hand in Hand Parenting, a non-profit, parent-led organization that helps parents when parenting gets hard.  Her work focuses on building parents’ emotional understanding and on helping parents to establish networks of mutual support that benefit their families and communities. For more than 45 years, she has been teaching basic listening, parenting, and leadership skills to parents. Patty developed Parenting by Connection, a simple but powerful parenting approach that nurtures the parent-child connection. Her instructor team works in the United States and 17 countries serving parents with transformative tools and accessible support. With co-author Tosha Schore, M.A., Patty wrote Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Her Listening to Children booklets have sold over 800,000 copies and are available in 10 languages. Patty’s focus on children began at an early age. When Patty was four years old, her seven-month-old sister developed a mysterious condition in which she descended into having no functional mind and no visible recognition of anyone. A cascade of stress, difficulty, and harm tumbled through Patty’s family that exacted a high price from each of them for decades, hitting her mother and younger brother the hardest. Patty had extensive experience caring for young siblings, as the oldest of six children, and she also helped care for cousins and neighbors. Married at 21 years old, she began her career as a kindergarten and first grade teacher. While doing social justice work with the United Farmworkers in the late 60’s and early 70’s, she had her own two children. She was doing great as a mom until the birth of her second son. Her older son was not happy about being a brother. To her surprise and dismay, she began being harsh and having impulses to hurt the older son who was 2 years old at the time. Then at a weekend retreat in 1973, Patty found herself crying uncontrollably and pouring herself out to Jennie, a woman she barely knew – sobbing about her own father and neglected brother – and Jennie did not interrupt and did not give advice. That afternoon, Patty played with her children and felt patient and joyful. Her whole body felt lighter. The pleasure of parenting had returned. She had no angry episodes for weeks afterward. She knew that whatever Jennie had done, that was what she had needed. Patty went to Jennie and asked her to explain her magic touch, and Jennie replied that she had been taught to listen – that when there is a listener, when someone offloads tension and hurt through laughter, crying, tantrums, or trembling, they can heal and think and function more clearly. Jennie told her that listeners can exchange listening time, grow to trust one another and through listening do deeply beneficial things for one another. She explained that it is a pleasure to listen to someone and assist them in making emotional sense of their lives. “That marked the beginning of my 47 years of experiments with listening,” Patty said. Patty began by listening to an engineer whose wife had just walked out on him, leaving him with a six-month-old Down syndrome daughter to care for. This listening time exchange took place for an hour every week for the next twelve years. Patty’s family life warmed and lightened as a result. She then employed listening with her two-year old son when he became ill. This helped him allay his fear of the medicine he was prescribed to take three times a day. From these early experiences Patty saw that the stress of parenting could be prevented. Listening was a key for the adult and the child. Listening was a way of giving love that was powerful and respectful. “And soon after I saw how Listening Partnerships could help me in an ongoing way as a mother,” Patty says, “I and some other moms and dads embarked on figuring out how to use the ideas of listening to and connecting with children to keep them from reaching adulthood with heavy burdens of childhood hurt that get in their way of having the lives they wanted.” Patty believes it is a privilege to be allowed into the emotional trenches with parents, to listen to them, to lend them confidence in themselves and their children, and to love. She confesses that she has made a lot of mistakes as a parent and that everyone has had hard things happen. She does this work with parents, aware that she has ideas that work very well, but that every parent needs good support to be there for their children, especially when times are tough. Patty has led over 400 residential weekend workshops for families and for leaders of parents in the U.S. and in 23 countries.  She authored the Building Emotional Understanding and Understanding Tears and Tantrums courses, which have transformed the lives of many thousands of parents and children in the U.S. and abroad. Her materials are currently published in English, Spanish, Chinese, and Japanese; several other languages will be added soon. She is also the author of the Parent Rescue Series: self-guided, self-paced online classes, focused on specific parenting topics. Through Hand in Hand, Patty offers monthly free teleseminars in conjunction with leading parent educators, writers, activists, and bloggers. Her articles have been published in Mothering Magazine, the Bulletin of Zero to Three, and Child Welfare News. Patty has two sons and three teenaged grandchildren, and lives in Palo Alto with her husband.

When our children act out the one thing parents aren't likely to do in the moment is to simply listen.  At that point parents have usually reached their boiling point and time out, yelling, and a loud list of consequences are likely the punishments of choice to end the situation. Patty Wipfler is a mother as well as the founder of a non-profit organization called "Hand in Hand Parenting".  She is with us this week teaching about the powerful tool of simply listening.  In this episode she discusses her book "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges".

MyNDTALK   LISTEN!  Patty Wipfler  Patty Wipfler introduces parents to five simple, practical skills even the most harried parent can use. These tools will help parents strengthen their connection with their child and help build their child's intelligence, cooperation, and ability to learn as they grow.  

Let me ask you a personal question...do you have trouble parenting on the same page as some of your parenting partners? If so, listen in for some guidance and strategies on this very subject.  A few years back I had the opportunity to interview Patty Wipfler for the first interview series called Be the Best Parent You Can Be. Today, I wanted to share this gem, for it is timeless in its advice and wisdom.   What we talked about: Why setting limits and building cooperation with respect is a colossal part of our role as parents How children's behavior is linked to whether they feel connected or not How when a child feels threatened their brain is no longer accessible Whether or not children successfully learn to cooperate without rewards and punishments Things to Remember: Like breakfast, children need a good warm hearty sense of connection in order to make it out into the world. - Patty Wipfler Parenting is emotional work. - Patty Wipfler   Click here for Show Notes and more from Jeanne-Marie Paynel, Your Parenting Mentor.

Are you the parent or caregiver of any young men? If so, listen in to learn some of Tosha's tools to help you along your journey. It was a delight to be speaking with Tosha and to discover the work she does helping especially boys in our society to develop their emotional intelligence. I first discovered Tosha work when I interviewed Patty Wipfler, her mentor, for my Be the Best Parent You Can Be interview series.  What we Talked About Tosha shares her fascinating journey in discovering the importance of connection and empathy when parenting her boys, and how her need for support led her to the work she does today. She explains in detail 5 simple tools you can use immediately to meet your everyday parenting challenges which include: The Listening Partnership Special Time Staylistening Setting Limits Playlistening Things to Remember "Create a safe space for your boys to feel because that's how they grow into emotionally intelligent men." -Tosha Schore "When their behaviors are off track, the goal is to reconnect with them. The reconnection will allow other shifts in behaviors. You can't skip it!." -Tosha Schore   Click here for Show Notes and more from Jeanne-Marie, Your Parenting Mentor. 

This episode is about peer support and peer advice, and how to know when to take advice from a stranger. What does that have to do with sharing cookies? A simple request for advice on social media gave me the inspiration to talk about sharing the parenting of your stepkids, and how much of that you should be doing as a stepmom. Interested in learning more about Stepmom Success Lab? We're starting up on September 1 so check it out here! Stepmom Success Lab You can get loads of first-rate, trustworthy parenting tips from Patty Wipfler and her colleagues at Hand In Hand Parenting Connect with me anytime at info@essentialstepmom.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/message

Rewards charts are seen to be helpful ways to motivate our children to do things we want them to do and to stop doing things we don't want them to do.But are they ultimately helpful for your children? In today's episode we look at the reasoning behind rewards chartsthe 2 seemingly conflicting reasons why they're not helpfulthe difference between external, internal & intrinsic motivationwhat you can do insteadAre you wanting to start transforming your everyday parenting challenges with connection & fun? Click here to download 5 easy games - they're fun, quick & free! https://parentingwithplay.com.au/shout-less-connect-more-ebook/LINKSThriving Toddlers Course - FREE 5 Days to Better Bedtimes with your Toddler - https://parentingwithplay.com.au/toddlersAlfie Kohn - https://www.alfiekohn.org/Patty Wipfler, HandinHand Parenting - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - https://www.franklincovey.com/the-7-habits.html

Patty Wipfler introduces parents to five simple, practical skills even the most harried parent can use. These tools will help parents strengthen their connection with their child and help build their child's intelligence, cooperation, and ability to learn as they grow. 

What we cover in this Episode:The core question that led me on the conscious parenting journey. An experience with my oldest son that revolutionized our family lifeAn activity in present moment awareness A mini quantum practice I recommend every day Resources referenced:Pam Leo's book, Connection Parenting: Parenting Through Connection Instead of Coercion, Through Love Instead of Fear-----> Later I studied Parenting by Connection with Patty Wipfler at Hand in Hand Parenting. Her book is my favorite starter for understanding and applying connection-based parenting:Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Shore

This week on the podcast we are talking to parenting expert Michelle Carlson about hand in hand parenting. We talk to Michelle about what Hand in Hand parenting is, the brain science behind the method and why it's effective. Michelle shares with us some great tools and tips that we can start applying in our lives with our children immediately. I have been using her tips and they really do work! We also take up questions on the podcast asked by the Instagram community about struggles they have had with raising their kids. "Michelle lives in Los Angeles with her two girls 9 and 12. Before becoming a Hand in Hand certified instructor in 2015, she worked for 12 years in public schools as a teacher and counselor. She also served as an adjunct professor in the Department of Education instructing in the teacher credentialing program. None of which prepared her to be a mom. After years of consequences, bribes and star charts she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life.  Michelle has helped herself and others make meaningful connections, work on sibling rivalry, and alleviate school problems.  Aggression, fears, withdrawnness and sleep are just some of the struggles she has shared and helped others rectify. You can follow Michelle on Instagram and Facebook with the handle @peaceandparenting https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting You can also find her on her website (which has amazing tools for parents) http://www.peaceandparentingla.com/ Lastly, make sure you are following Mom Like That Podcast for more updates on the podcast and other content that is fun, insightful and relatable. https://www.instagram.com/momlikethatpodcast  

In this episode, we talk about toddlers and tantrums, but what we share is also relevant to children of all ages. We discuss the importance of listening to a child's feelings, and what can be required from us as parents to be able to do that. Resources: Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/ Intro to Aware Parenting Webinar with Lael https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/webinars/51777/register Tears and Tantrums by Aletha Solter Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore

So, you may be fairly new to Hand in Hand's approach or maybe you've been trying out the tools for a few months, even years. But at some point you'll probably - most likely when you are particularly tired or frustrated - ask, "Is Hand in Hand too hard???" We know! We've been there! This week, Elle and Abigail talk about when and why this question pops up. They explore the alternatives and share their own experiences about when it's happened to them - and don't forget Abigail has been parenting this way for about a decade! Plus, we also walk you through ways to get past this ickiness so that you really do find your calm place in parenting. We've been there too - it really can happen! Listen to Finding Your Calm Place in Parenting - It Really Can Happen and find out: Why we reach our limits with this approach Why other parenting styles may offer a quick fix that seems good in the moment and how this compares with Hand in Hand over time What we can do to get on track How to navigate those darker moments More Resources For Getting Support As Parents Haven't tried Listening Time yet? Read about how it differs from chatting with friends and post for a partner in our free Facebook Connect support group Listen to Abigail and Elle's podcast A Little Lite Listening Partnerships Demonstration For daily support from instructors, plus regular Q&A call-ins with them and our founder Patty Wipfler, join the Hand in Hand Parent Club. stay connected We’d love to hear about your parenting challenges. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message at podcast@handinhandparenting.org Listen on iTunes. Listen on Stitcher Don’t forget to subscribe! Get weekly tips, ideas, and inspiration for your parenting in our Newsletter

Social philosopher, family therapist, and New York Times best-selling author Michael Gurian returns to the podcast this week for some girl talk! Last time Michael guested with us, talk turned to boys. But why even separate talk about boys and girls? Michael explains the fundamental differences in brain science between girls and boys and why these difference affect: How girls learn and process information Why the mean girl phenomenon happens and why this can be an important part of a girl's rise into maturity Why some girls are more prone to anxiety that can lead to self-harm like eating disorders Cyclical thought processes that can stall our girls' decision- and action- taking. Michael suggests ways that we can observe what's happening in our girls' lives and support them to be strong and resilient. Join us this week for some fascinating insight on how the world looks for girls and the practical ways you can guide yours. More Resources for Raising Resilient Girls Learn more about Micheal's work at www.GurianInstitute.com and read more about his approach to raising girls in his book The Minds of Girls. Join Michael and Abigail at this year's Summer Institute. Hear Micheal talk about Raising Boys on our earlier podcast Raising Boys and Girls Differently For daily support from instructors, plus regular Q&A call-ins with them and our founder Patty Wipfler, join the Hand in Hand Parent Club - your rich, deep dive into Hand in Hand Parenting

You may have heard about how your tenacious, persistent, negotiating go-getter is developing the skills he or she needs to be a great leader in the future, but daily parenting a strong-willed child can feel like an uphill battle. All those constant requests, desires, energy and power play is a lot! This week Abigail and Elle weigh in on why parenting a strong-willed child can feel so demanding and draining, and how you can raise your strong-willed child without so many power struggles - or the need to "break them." On this week's podcast, Parenting the Strong-Willed child: How an agenda won't help when you raise a strong-willed child How to harness your child's enthusiasm, desire and power Why these kids can also be super sensitive Learn how to dance between limits and freedom What to do if you disapprove of your child's nature and how to develop a mindset that helps improve things Listen to Parenting The Strong-Willed Child now. You might also like: Setting limits with a strong-willed child can feel really hard - yet they do really need those limits. This article shows how you can hold a limit with a child without breaking them - and comes with a free checklist. If parenting feels too hard you might find yourself yelling. Here's 15 ways you can stop shouting at your kids For daily support from instructors, plus regular Q&A call-ins with them and our founder Patty Wipfler, try the Parent Club free for 30 days. stay connected We’d love to hear about your parenting challenges. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message at podcast@handinhandparenting.org Get weekly tips, ideas, and inspiration for your parenting in our Newsletter

Did you ever think you got this parenting thing figured out only to find your child brings home some new parenting challenge? Maybe they start shouting potty words at you, seemingly from nowhere? Maybe they start throwing punches when normally they'd been fairly calm? Or maybe things simple things that you ask them do suddenly brings on meltdowns, where before they'd do it without a struggle? Where did the child you thought you knew so well go to? In the quest to find solutions to this sudden new and disagreeable behavior, you head to friends to compare notes, you hit Google for answers, or you even seek the services of a professional. After all, you want those words to stop, that aggression to fade, that resistance to disappear. But what if you started with "Why?" Why is your child so fascinated with hurtful words right now? Why does he or she have so much tension the only thing that angry words or angry actions seem to have become a default reaction? Why is having to hang a schoolbag so difficult now when just a few months ago it was a no-brainer? Why? This week Abigail and Elle respond to a mom who found surprising answers when she stopped asking her four-year-old to quit yelling and instead asked herself why the yelling was happening at all. We highlight the gorgeous ways this mom used the Hand in Hand Parenting tools to delve deeper, and the beautiful way her daughter opened up and let her mom support her through what turned out to be some very difficult moments in her school life. Listen to "Why?" is Your Most Important Question When Kids' Behavior Gets Hard and learn how to ask why effectively when you want to bring change. For daily support from instructors, plus regular Q&A call-ins with them and our founder Patty Wipfler, try the Parent Club free for 30 days. stay connected We’d love to hear about your parenting challenges. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message at podcast@handinhandparenting.org Listen on iTunes. Listen on Stitcher Don’t forget to subscribe! Get weekly tips, ideas, and inspiration for your parenting in our Newsletter

"Guest Interview: Navigating Challenging Behaviors in Toddlers with Michelle Carlson In this episode, Jess sits down with Michelle Carlson of Peace and Parenting to chat all about how to navigate trouble behaviors in toddlers while remaining respectful and cooperative. This episode was so incredibly insightful with regards to hitting, biting, talking back, and other common and normal behaviors in our kiddos! Michelle chats strategies to stay engaged, present, and calm while parenting through these challenging behaviors! Download in iTunes HERE & on Stitcher HERE! Michelle lives in Los Angeles with her two girls 9 and 12. Before becoming a Hand in Hand certified instructor in 2015, she worked for 12 years in public schools as a teacher and counselor. She also served as an adjunct professor in the Department of Education instructing in the teacher credentialing program. None of which prepared her to be a mom. After years of consequences, bribes and star charts she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life. She is passionate about helping others find their way through the murky business of being a connected parent. She loves leading groups and finds the dynamic transformative. Michelle also strongly believes that listening partnerships are the cornerstone to moving through difficulties. Michelle has helped herself and others make meaningful connections, work on sibling rivalry, and alleviate school problems. Aggression, fears, withdrawnness and sleep are just some of the struggles she has shared and helped others rectify. She holds a Master's Degree in Education speaks fluent Spanish, has been trained as a Council in Schools Facilitator and an ADL Trainer fighting against bias of all types on school campuses. Where to find Michelle: michelle@peaceandparentingla.com http://www.peaceandparentingla.com @peaceandparenting on Instagram Connect with us: Laura - @laura.radicalroots Jess - @jess.holdthespace Laura's website - http://myradicalroots.com/ Jess' website - https://www.holdthespacewellness.com/ Thank you for being here, friends! It means the world to us. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-modern-mamas-podcast/support

This week Elle and Abigail finally meet face-to-face! No wonder they felt inspired to make this podcast. "It takes a village," so the old proverb says, and anyone who tunes into our podcast for parents often knows that this is all too true. In fact, it's the reason we made the podcast - to share a weekly space for parents so you don't feel alone. And, as we meet this first time, we also realise the value in coming together week after week to share, to listen and laugh, to comfort and cry as we make the episodes. And we want the same for you... Where's Your Village?   So many of our reviews about the podcast say the episodes help parents feel part of something bigger - and we want that for you not just once a week, but every day and at any time you need it!   Your village doesn't even have to be close physically - we're living proof of that! When you have a village, you have a guide, a force, and a strength behind you as you face your parenting challenges - and we've learnt this year that having that makes them so much easier to overcome.   We're asking you to think about who else you want in your village? It's time to reach for your people! Reach for your support, because parenting shouldn't be a solo sport.   Listen in today and find out why you need to build that village for yourself, and how you can do it. More Resources About Building A Parenting Village There are so many ways to reach out and get the support you need within Hand in Hand Parenting. If you haven't already, join one of our facebook groups: Parent Support Group or if your child is 10 and over Parenting By Connection for Older Children. If you have read our book Listen and want to connect with other like-minded parents, consider a Listen Book Club. For daily support from instructors, plus regular Q&A call-ins with them and our founder Patty Wipfler, try the Parent Club free for 30 days. For a deep dive into the tools, and an introduction to Listening Partnerships, with small groups of parents, take our 6-week Starter Class. And you can find all of our talks and classes here. Stay Connected We’d love to hear about your parenting challenges. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message at podcast@handinhandparenting.org Listen on iTunes. Listen on Stitcher Don’t forget to subscribe! Get weekly tips, ideas, and inspiration for your parenting in our Newsletter

Does it seem like one minute you were waiting for your baby to take its first steps, and now you are watching him or her as a tween march out the door, bursting with independence? Worries about tantrums and them sleeping through the night long ago given way to conversations (and concern) over mobile phones and curfews? As your child enters the pre-teen stage now known as "tween," you'll notice many other changes, not least their signals your child uses to show you they need you (and they still do!). This week Abigail and Elle talk about what they've seen with their own tween children, and the adjustments they made parenting them using the Hand in Hand Parenting tools. Elle talks about why she had to give up the words "special time," without actually giving up on special time, and Abigail shares the agreement she has with his son as they work towards him getting his own phone. Listen in this week and find out why it can be so hard parenting tweens when the boundaries keep changing, and why getting on their wavelength now helps foster connection that will last through their teens. Join us this week for Parenting Tweens: Keeping Close to Your Older Child More Resources for Parenting Your Tween: If you thought tantrums were done in the tween years, you're wrong - they may just look a little different. This podcast is all about Tweens and Their Tantrums Help for when your tween is angry - Read A Playful Response to My Angry Tween You still have a few days to pre-register for our new online class for parents of tweens, led by Patty Wipfler. Get information about the class content, and a special discount now. Click to get more information on our newest class keep connected We’d love to hear about your parenting challenges. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message at podcast@handinhandparenting.org

Dr. Dan enthusiastically welcomes today’s guest Tosha Schore to talk about a crucial topic for parents and communities across the globe: Raising our boys. www.toshaschore.com Tosha Schore is a parent coach, speaker and co-author with Hand in Hand Parenting founder, Patty Wipfler, of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Tosha is mom to three boys and an advocate for boys and their families worldwide. She is committed to creating lasting change in families and in the world by supporting parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. Tosha holds a BA in Women’s Studies & Language Studies from UCSC, an MA in Applied Linguistics from UCLA, and is a certified teacher and trainer of instructors in Parenting by Connection. Tosha's intense work with boys (along with her book) teaches parents effective ways to build healthy relationships with their boys. She lives by the philosophy that as parents and caregivers transition through changes that are natural in life, families can come through those changes whole and wholly as who they authentically are. Dr. Dan and Tosha discuss the goal of raising respectful, resilient boys by dealing with emotions, hardships, and much more and in doing the work of good listening we are collectively creating a more peaceful world, one boy at a time. Dr. Dan has great questions for Tosha and her examples (from spaghetti to cell phones!) will resonate with listeners everywhere. The discussion includes parenting strategies that will change your relationship with your boys and the tone of your family. As the mom of boys, Tosha shares a brave and honest Parent Footprint moment to close the show. Watch this free video to learn more about Dr. Dan and Parent Footprint Awareness Training®.

Steph interviews Michelle Kenney Carlson about the Hand in Hand Parenting methodology. This is an alternative perspective to parenting that doesn’t involve bribes, threats, rewards and punishment. Learn why connection is one of Michelle’s top strategies for navigating hard feelings, how our childhood experiences influence the way we parent, and tools you can implement today to create a more relaxed household. Enjoy the listen! You can find us on iTunes, Stitcher or Spotify. We’d love to hear your thoughts on Instagram or Facebook. Topics Discussed: What is positive/connective parenting? The science behind this approach Considerations for punishments and rewards Ways to encourage cooperation and navigate tantrums Connective Parenting Tools that you can implement right away Show Notes: Michelle’s Website Follow Michelle on Instagram The HMHB Weekly Email Series Healthy Mama, Happy Baby Virtual Pregnancy Program ($40 off with code PODCAST40) Nourish Kids Medicine Kit and Ebook Dr. Elana’s Medical Center: Nourish Medical Center Follow Steph and Elana on Instagram Whole Mamas Podcast Archive Michelle lives in Los Angeles with her two girls 9 and 12. Before becoming a Hand in Hand certified instructor in 2015, she worked for 12 years in public schools as a teacher and counselor. She also served as an adjunct professor in the Department of Education instructing in the teacher credentialing program. None of which prepared her to be a mom. After years of consequences, bribes and star charts she found Hand in Hand parenting, created by Patty Wipfler. It reshaped the relationship she shares with her daughters, and she credits it with changing her life. Please remember that the views on this podcast and website are not meant to be substituted for medical advice, shouldn’t be used to diagnose, treat or cure any conditions, and are intended for general information purposes only.

A lot of parents ask us about our tool for parents, the Listening Partnership, about how they should run and what they should sound like, so this week on the podcast Elle and Abigail give a demonstration of the tool. New to Listening Partnerships? What Are They Anyway and How Do They Help Parents De-stress? Listen Partnerships are one of Hand in Hand's five parenting tools and is the only tool to focus on parent self-care. These sessions can really help lighten the load! Parents can use the tool as a space to air their confusions, stress or parenting challenges, with a parent who listens without offering solutions, for a set amount of time, before switching turns. The tool is an excellent resource for parents, and allows them to clear blocked thoughts and emotions so that they can return to their families with renewed energy and enthusiasm for the tough role of parenting! Abigail and Elle have both come to value the immense effect Listening Time can have on helping them in their parenting. What Does a Listening Partnership Sound Like? But lots of parents wonder about how LIstening Time really works or what a Listening Partnership "should" sound like. So, this week, Elle and Abigail switch listening time, with each focusing on parenting through the summer. Join us as we: Set up the listening partnership turns and timing Decide who records the time Share our feelings on summer Wrap up the Listening Time with a question for one another If you've been reluctant or nervous to begin a Listening Partnership, or you've had doubts or worries about "doing it right," we hope you'll enjoy hearing to how this listening time unfolds and feel inspired to dive in. More Resources About Hand in Hand's Tool of Listening Partnerships Read about how Listening Partnerships can reduce stress and transform parenting Get tips for your own Listening Time in Establishing Good Listening Partnerships and Knowing When to Move On If you'd like to find a Listening Partner, join our Parent's Support Group on Facebook where lots of parents post looking for Listening Partnerships. Learn the science behind why this kind of listening is so effective in this online class on Building a Listening Partnership with Hand in Hand founder Patty Wipfler. Find out how to select what topics will serve you best, and how to listen and respond well to a Listening Partner. Over 25 video and audio examples take you through the process step by step. keep connected We’d love to hear about your parenting challenges. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message at podcast@handinhandparenting.org Don’t forget to subscribe! Get updates on everything Hand in Hand! Sign up for our Monthly Newsletter Wish Parenting was less stressful? Join Hand in Hand’s Parent Club for support and community. Your own Parent Club with moderated forums, live call-ins and resources.

Tickling seems like a good, reliable route to laughter and fun, so why might we suggest rethinking it? Today on the podcast the Elle and Abigail talk about Hand in Hand's approach to tickling and how they tackled it in their own families. Elle remembers the good and the bad of tickling in her house when she was a child and Abigail recounts times her sons begged her to tickle them, and how they found good alternatives. They also discuss power play and boundaries in the #metoo era.  Why Do we need to Rethink Tickling? Listen in for this lively and light-hearted chat around tickling. Find out how Hand in Hand Parenting views tickling, and get tools for when: You want to laugh with your child without turning to tickles Why your child might ask to be tickled and how you can respond When tickling has been a connecting force between you and your kids but now you'd like to transition Your child begs to be tickled and you aren't sure what else to do More Tools and Resources Around Laughter and Tickling Get more understanding about Hand in Hand 's approach to tickling from founder Patty Wipfler in Tickling Kids Can Do More Harm Than Good And hear how one, real-life mom moved on A Mother Graduates from Tickling to Listening Want to make the most of play with your child, get all you need to know about Hand in Hand's Playlistening tool and learn the art of taking the less powerful role to promote  laughter with our Playlistening PDF Get closer with your child and build their confidence through rough-housing and horseplay with this audio collection: The power of laughter: connecting through play collection. Download and listen right away. keep connected We’d love to hear about the issues affecting you and your family. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Be sure to drop Elle and Abigail a message You can contact Abigail Wald about parenting courses and consultations at realtimeparenting.com Sign up for our Monthly Newsletter 

You’re not alone. Whatever struggle you're facing and however hard it feels to you right now, I’m confident that with support you can get through it. And I’m 100% confident that you’re not the first or only parent to have slipped up in all the ways you have slipped up, nor are you the only parent to have a child who does X or behaves in Y way. So you really aren’t alone and we are our here to support you and help life go better for you and your family. -Tosha Schore In Episode 31, I'm talking with Tosha Schore, co-author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Tosha is a parent coach whose mission is to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. She is the mother to three boys ages 11, 13, and 15. Hand in Hand Parenting The whole philosophy is really based upon the idea that people are good. That our children are born good and they're doing the best they can and along the way, as they go through life...things happen. And the body has a natural process to heal from upsets and that process is a release of emotions...If we stop that process, a layer of hurt sets in. As the hurt piles up, the behavior gets stickier - off track. Patty Wipfler (co-author of Listen) founded Hand in Hand in 1989, but has working with parents for more than for 40 years. She started out by running a day care and eventually turning it into a non profit, while developing tools based on connection and listening. Patty also wrote a set of booklets that sold very well - one on each of the five tools. Patty is Tosha's mentor and asked her to c0-write the book with her. The Five Tools We want to do a balance of showing them that we care and we love them and they’re important and also pushing them to do things that they’re a little uncomfortable with but listening to the feelings that come up for them as we do that. The tools taught in the Hand in Hand method are "really simple, but not necessarily easy," according to Tosha. Some come easier than others depending on the person. “The whole philosophy is really based upon the idea that people are good. That our children are born good and they're doing the best they can and along the way, as they go through life...things happen. And the body has a natural process to heal from upsets and that process is a release of emotions.” Special Time Staylistening Setting Limits Playlistening The Listening Partnership   Resources Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges (order on Amazon) Sample Chapter & Reviews (On Hand in Hand website) Hand in Hand Parenting Website:Tons of free information, including articles, podcasts, etc. Hand in Parent Support FB group, where parents can look for Listening Partners Tosha's Website View all of Tosha's offerings, including her online course, "Out With Aggression!" and her membership community "Parenting Boys Peacefully: THE PLAYHOUSE." Tosha's Facebook Page: Tosha Schore, Your Partner in Parenting Boys Sign up for Tosha's email list

It's 2018 already! Happy New Year! This week's podcast has a New Year's  flavor as Elle and Abigail talk about bringing change to yourself and your family. What is the secret to making habits stick? Abigail reveals she's big on studying on how habits work and reveals the three-step process she's used to help keep resolutions in the past. This is great news to Elle, who is less adept at adopting new ways that last beyond February! They talk about the pressure we pile on when we devote ourselves to doing something new - especially when it comes to parenting. Powerful Ways To Bring Change in Your Family The moms introduce some small habits that could bring powerful change to parents and the way their family connects. Join Elle and Abigail as they talk about their own parenting habits, their wins, and their fails. Discount on our book Listen - until January 9th! Elle mentioned a discount on Hand in Hand Parenting's ultimate resource, the book Listen, Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore. To get 20 percent off put Newyear in at the checkout when using the link. Offer is good through to January 9th and is available for the paperbook and ebook copies. The book is filled with hundreds of real-life examples from parents using Hand in Hand Parenting. Enjoy! Get in Touch! We’d love to hear about the issues affecting you and your family. You can follow Hand in Hand on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.  Sign up for Hand in Hand's Monthly Newsletter here You can contact Abigail Wald about parenting courses and consultations at realtimeparenting.com   

This week on Mom Talk Radio, Dr. William Sears and Erin Sears Basile, Co-Authors of Dr. Sears T5 Wellness Plan, share tips for getting through flu season. Spotlight on Moms features Jackie Leverton of TotOnThePot.com. Dr. Jay Rabinowitz, author of Cute Kidbits: Funny Converstations Kids Share with Their Pediatrician, shares funny encounters and tips for trips to the pediatrician. Patty Wipfler, author of LISTEN: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, shares tips for family wellbeing. Devorah Blachor, author of The Feminist’s Guide to Raising a Little Princess: How to Raise a Girl Who’s Authentic, Joyful, and Fearless – Even If She Refuses to Wear Anything but a Pink Tutu, shares her inspiration for her book and what she hopes readers will take away.

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: What Fresh Hell Podcast Promo You can listen to What Fresh Hell on your IOS device, Android or through the website :::::  My guest today is Tosha Schore, M.A. Tosha brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and will lift your parenting confidence! She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems.  A sought after coach, author and speaker, Tosha is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. Through her online and in-person offerings, she supports parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly.  Tosha is a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author with the organization's founder, Patty Wipfler, of "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges." She is also creator of the wildly popular "Parenting Boys Peacefully! A FREE 10-Day Reconnect," and the new online course, "Out With Aggression!"  You can find Tosha on her website, www.toshaschore.com, and on FB at Tosha Schore, Your Partner In Parenting Boys. Content: Raising boys in these days of toxic masculinity Taking a hard look at the ways that men are conditioned Creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time The question of how to help our boys grow into emotionally intelligent men who don't see women as objects is worldwide How to help our boys grow up to be peaceful – Huff Post article Move beyond the anger and the fear to what we can DO Opportunity shows up in raising our boys We need to teach our boys that there are lots of ways to be close that aren't sexual It's ok to talk, cuddle, hold hands – lots of ways of being intimate Documentary of The Mask You Live In Not giving permission to boys for having intimate friendships with other boys Navigating the jockeying for power among boys Redefining what it means to be masculine What is being modeled in the homes for our boys? Increase our own emotional intelligence and pay attention to how we navigate and model our own upset Boys being encouraged to stuff their emotions Not comfortable with allowing our boys the time and space to have feelings Help them feel comfortable with their full array of emotions – not just anger Popular culture isn't helpful Advocate/ Fight for the right of our boys to have feelings AND advocate for them to make mistakes and learn from them When our boys make mistakes we need to help them Talk about music lyrics and porn and do it when they are YOUNG Amy Lang – parent educator, parenting through our children's sexual development Start talking to your boys Don't let your discomfort get in the way of letting our boys be their whole selves Amy's short video about having convos about sexual harassment/assault with our kids Talking to our kids about standing up to friends who are harassing others Seize opportunities for modeling/showing them what it looks like to “do what's right” Story of masculinity inside of supporting a woman on Reddit Acknowledging that standing up for what is right is challenging!! Teachable moments are when they make mistakes and getting into mischief Final thoughts – “hurt people hurt people” – boys and men are hurting and therefore hurting others… when we help them heal from their hurts, we are solving the problem Where to find Tosha: www.toshaschore.com 10 day reconnect parenting boys peacefully www.listenthebook.com ::::: DAILY INTENTION CARDS What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice. Get yours now – http://www.joyfulcourage.com/intentioncards ::::: Joyful Courage SHIRTS!! Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world. Get yours now --> http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jcshirts ::::: FAMILY MEETING ECOURSE 6 week email course that guides you in setting up the family meeting routine/practice. It is on demand so that as soon as you sign up the emails will begin to show up in your inbox! Sign up now: http://www.joyfulcourage.com/family-meeting-ecourse ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!! CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!    

If you would like to find a new and effective way to really connect with your children, you will gain a lot from Robbin's guest on today's show, Patty Wipfler. Listen in today, to find out about Patty's loving way of listening.   Warm and compassionate Patty, who has worked with thousands of families over many years,  is the author of the book Listen, which offers some groundbreaking tools for parents, to help to strengthen their connection with their children and to build their children's intelligence, cooperation and their ability to learn. Join Robbin and Patty today to get some really great listening tools and learn how to address the root cause of your child's difficult behavior.    Today, Patty talks to Robbin about:   Her childhood and how it lead her to believe that she was going to become a great mom. How she came to realize that she was in trouble as a mom. How her emotional dam burst when someone really listened to her, which lead to her joining a Listening Class. The Listening Classes and how they evolved to listening to children. The emotional support that parents need, in order to be good and loving parents. How children's confidence erodes when their parents don't get emotional support. How she really understands from her own experience, just how isolating life can be for single parents. How having your own tantrums can help you to pay warm attention to a child doing the same. How to support someone with real care. How warm support can really help to heal the hurts of parents. Special Time, another simple and powerful listening tool that really enhances the connection of parents with their children. Laughter, a really great medicine for parents and children. The benefits of having a regular practice of connecting with your child. Ways to get your kids back into their right mind.   Links:   Patty's website: www.handinhandparenting.org    

Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... :::::::::: Patty Wipfler is the Hand in Hand Parenting Founder and Program Director. Her 40 years of work with parents and children has given rise to Parenting by Connection, a simple but powerful parenting approach that nurtures the parent-child connection. Her Hand in Hand team trains parent leaders in the US and 10 other countries, and offers accessible support for the vital work of parenting. With co-author Tosha Schore, she has written the book, Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. And Her Listening to Children booklets have sold over 800,000 copies in English, Spanish, and 10 other languages. She is the mother of two sons, and grandmother to three. What you'll hear in this episode: •    Active listening and how it helps people notice how they feel about their own experiences •     How being listened to and being able to sort through feelings can help activate problem solving. •    The impact of our own childhood experiences on how we perceive challenges in our children's lives •    Parenting by connection and its relationship with positive discipline. •    Influencing and using presence, setting limits to encourage better behavior. •    How to hold space for your child who is emotionally elevated and let them deal with big feelings •    Letting your child feel the feelings and its impact on the healing process •    The size of the trigger relative to the depth of hurt – helping your child navigate big feelings •    Emotional upset as efficiently releasing tension •    Listening partnerships and how they can alleviate parenting stress and facilitate better parenting •    Emotional projects: ongoing parenting challenges and how to address them What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful Courage is a human being's birthright to be joyfully courageous. Joyful courage means to me what a one year old will sometimes do to pull themselves up so they can stand up next to a table or as a toddler is trying to walk across the room it's like they don't care what happens, they are just going to try it and they are proud of themselves as they do it. I think it's the attitude towards life that we are born with, that we get to keep if we aren't hurt too badly. Sometimes you have to work on hurt to get your birthright back. Resources: Listen: 5 simple tools for meeting your every day parenting challenges  Where to find Patty: Hand in Hand Parenting  i Instagram l Facebook l Twitter l Youtube    :::::::::: Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... :::::::::: Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

In this episode, I was honored to have a conversation with my children’s holistic pediatrician Dr. Elisa Song, founder of Whole Family Wellness, creator of the online resource Healthy Kids Happy Kids and an amazing mother to her daughter and son. If you tuned into Episode 5, you know Elisa gave me permission to replay her interview of me from her Thriving Child Summit, where we talked about my motherhood journey with my older son, how Elisa became a key part of the puzzle to help him thrive, and what led me to create Mother’s Quest. In this interview, I got to turn the tables and learn about the influences that shaped Elisa and how she approaches living an E.P.I.C. life. Elisa is a board-certified, Stanford-, NYU-, and UCSF-trained holistic pediatrician. In 2005, she forged a daring path, by going out on her own and founding Whole Family Wellness, an integrative pediatric practice in Belmont, CA – one of the first and most highly regarded holistic pediatric practices in the country. She’s also a lecturer for the Center for Education and Development in Clinical Homeopathy (CEDH), Academy for Pain Research, Institute for Functional Medicine, and Holistic Pediatric Association, among others. Through Whole Family Wellness, and now with her online resource Healthy Kids Happy Kids, Elisa helps thousands of parents, like me, get to the root causes of health concerns for our children. And, she helps us understand how to heal them from the inside out, utilizing conventional pediatrics along with functional medicine, holistic nutrition, homeopathy, acupuncture, herbal medicine, and essential oils. In this conversation, Elisa and I talk about how the legacy of brave women in her life, making courageous choices, impacted her and her sisters and set them all on a path to become healers and helpers. Her grandmother and mother, who both came to America from Korea, instilled independence, strength, and “grit” in her, which she relied on to follow her passion in integrative medicine. We also talk about connected parenting, the importance of scheduling special time with our children, and the need to prioritize our own health and well-being, something Elisa and I admit we both need to focus more on. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did. Elisa is such an inspiration and source of wisdom and healing for my family. I am thrilled to share her with you. Topics discussed in this episode: How my own “growth mindset” was challenged when Elisa and I lost the recording of our first interview The legacy of strong, independent women in Elisa’s life and how it impacted her journey Parenting by connection and scheduling in “special time” Finding time for silence, including in your own mind True healing, not just putting a bandaid on children’s symptoms Eudaimonia, which is a Greek word meaning happiness and human flourishing Resources mentioned in this episode: The article which references Stanford researcher Carol Dwek’s work on growth mindset vs. fixed mindset and an article directly from Carol Dweck Healthy Kids Happy Kids, Elisa’s online resource The Thriving Child Summit, an online conference for parents who want to learn how to help their children THRIVE! Hand in Hand Parenting and the special link to Patty Wipfler’s interview from the Thrive Summit Mindshare Summit Episode 5 of the Mother’s Quest Podcast where Elisa interviewed me, www.mothersquest.com/podcast

Morphmom Moments radio show with author Patty Wipfler "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Parenting Challenges and Listening to Children " the show aired 8/30/16

Episode 79 is inspired by this article written by Patty Wipfler. Whining children are communicating important information – usually they feel powerless, or they feel alone. It often happens shortly after being disconnected to the parent or caregiver. Things like cooking dinner, talking to a friend, or anything where they are not paid attention to can bring it on. Once they feel disconnected, small things can feel big: getting dressed, brushing teeth, having to say goodbye. They would rather continue what they are currently doing. Whining Children have real needs – They must feel connected to you. When they don't, their behavior goes wacky. Whining children have feeling that won't be rational – The feelings can come up even at the end of playing…and they can be from the day before or another time. Whining children aren't trying to manipulate you – He's just telling you he needs help. Picture him saying “I want a cookie” but meaning “please say no. I need a good cry with your arms around me. Help your child connect again – They need the emotional outlet before they get a sense you are on their side. After the tantrum, laughter, scream, they can take charge again. Try filling your child's request once – You can't be sure it will solve the issue if it's about connecting, but worth a shot. help them once. Get their toy, help them get dressed, whatever it is. If he's not satisfied, offer closeness and a clear limit. Say no with a big smile and even a kiss on the cheek. If they persist, do it again with more affection. At some point the affection your offering will move them toward laughter or tanturm and either are good for them. Sometimes they just need to cry or have the …

Episode 79 is inspired by this article written by Patty Wipfler. Whining children are communicating important information – usually they feel powerless, or they feel alone. It often happens shortly after being disconnected to the parent or caregiver. Things like cooking dinner, talking to a friend, or anything where they are not paid attention to can bring it on. Once they feel disconnected, small things can feel big: getting dressed, brushing teeth, having to say goodbye. They would rather continue what they are currently doing. Whining Children have real needs – They must feel connected to you. When they don't, their behavior goes wacky. Whining children have feeling that won't be rational – The feelings can come up even at the end of playing…and they can be from the day before or another time. Whining children aren't trying to manipulate you – He's just telling you he needs help. Picture him saying “I want a cookie” but meaning “please say no. I need a good cry with your arms around me. Help your child connect again – They need the emotional outlet before they get a sense you are on their side. After the tantrum, laughter, scream, they can take charge again. Try filling your child's request once – You can't be sure it will solve the issue if it's about connecting, but worth a shot. help them once. Get their toy, help them get dressed, whatever it is. If he's not satisfied, offer closeness and a clear limit. Say no with a big smile and even a kiss on the cheek. If they persist, do it again with more affection. At some point the affection your offering will move them toward laughter or tanturm and either are good for them. Sometimes they just need to cry or have the …

Aug 9th - White Marlin Open, IRS, The VA, Chicken Tenders, Cupping, Biking, Patty Wipfler, Drew Curtis

Aug 9th - White Marlin Open, IRS, The VA, Chicken Tenders, Cupping, Biking, Patty Wipfler, Drew Curtis