The Things We All Carry

In Episode 143 of The Things We All Carry we delve into the powerful and inspiring story of Tim Spradlin, a veteran, a retired firefighter, and a fire marshal who now runs a successful equine therapy farm in Ohio. Tim shares his multifaceted journey through trauma and recovery, his battles with depression and anxiety, and the transformative power of equine therapy. This episode not only highlights Tim's personal experiences but also explores the profound impact of understanding trauma, seeking help, and the importance of community support. Tune in to hear Tim's invaluable insights and learn how he helps first responders and veterans find peace and recovery. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:22 Reflecting on Personal Struggles 02:50 The Question of Doing Enough 05:43 Holiday Struggles and Support 07:58 Introducing Tim Spradlin 10:41 Tim's Journey and Equine Therapy 18:47 Military and First Responder Experiences 29:45 Healing and Helping Others 37:37 Understanding Herd Animals: Horses and Humans 38:23 The Healing Power of Vulnerability 38:47 Learning Through Equine-Assisted Activities 41:26 Personal Reflections and Childhood Memories 46:31 The Importance of Being Present 47:33 Combining Therapy and Peer Support 52:47 Daily Practices for Mental Well-being 55:32 The Journey to Inner Peace 01:04:32 The Future of Finally Home Farm 01:10:54 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Episode 142 In this powerful episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack returns after a hiatus to share his personal battle with depression and self-reflection. He introduces his guest, Ashley Iverson, the widow of Corey Iverson, a firefighter who perished in the Thomas Fire of 2017. Ashley talks about coping with her immense loss, finding gratitude, and her mission to support first responders through the Iverson Foundation for Active Awareness (IFAA). She discusses mental health, the importance of gratitude, self-care, and how she continues to carry forward and make a difference in the lives of others. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:25 Personal Struggles and Introspection 02:03 Understanding Depression 04:17 The Journey to Self-Forgiveness 13:43 Introducing Episode 142 16:42 Interview with Ashley Iverson 18:58 Ashley's Background and Early Life 32:39 Meeting Corey Iverson 34:42 A Love Story Begins 36:13 The Proposal and Marriage 36:33 The Thomas Fire Tragedy 37:18 Coping with Loss 38:23 Mental Health Awareness 53:13 The Iverson Foundation 01:07:43 Elements of Healing 01:15:20 Moving Forward 01:19:59 Final Thoughts and Reflections

In this heartfelt episode of 'The Things We All Carry,'  Stack interviews grief coach Lynn Lewis, who shares her journey through grief after the tragic loss of her son to suicide. Lynn talks about her mission to help others by sharing her own story and the importance of grieving out loud. They discuss the complexities of grief, the misconceptions around the stages of grief, and the critical need for self-care. Lynn also emphasizes the emotional toll on first responders and how her work aims to break the stigma surrounding mental health and grief. This episode is a reminder that it's okay to talk about our pain and loss and that doing so can be a powerful step toward healing.   00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry Podcast 00:45 Host's Personal Reflections and Struggles 01:45 Dealing with Grief and Emotions 03:39 Upcoming Episode Preview 07:19 Guest Introduction: Lynn Lewis 07:34 Lynn's Story: A Mother's Grief 08:11 The Impact of Suicide on Family 08:26 Lynn's Journey to Becoming a Grief Coach 09:25 Encouragement to Share and Heal 10:19 Conversation with Lynn Lewis 16:35 Daniel's Life and Career 24:37 The Day of the Tragedy 30:17 Understanding and Coping with Suicide 41:02 Turning Pain into Purpose 41:14 Sharing the Story: A Path to Healing 42:34 Navigating the Stigma of Suicide 44:02 Understanding Grief and Its Stages 47:11 Acknowledgement vs. Acceptance 48:42 Creating an Action Plan for Grief 49:45 Dealing with Guilt and Moving Forward 53:16 Coping with Anniversaries and Special Dates 57:35 The Importance of Talking About Grief 01:06:58 Resources and Final Thoughts

In this episode of The Things We All Carry, Stack shares personal reflections on grief, healing, and change. Nearing the one-year anniversary of his mother's passing, he discusses the importance of family time, dealing with emotional pain, and the unpredictable nature of grief. The episode also explores managing retirement, overcoming feelings of being lost, and seeking community connection. Stack addresses common listener questions on topics like self-care, imposter syndrome, and finding the right therapist. He also introduces a new podcast, 'The Things We All Can,' focused on positive change-makers in the fire service. Listen in for a candid discussion about the challenges and steps toward healing, resilience, and community support. 00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry 00:45 A Personal Reflection on Grief 02:14 Dealing with Loss and Healing 07:10 Navigating Post-Retirement Challenges 11:17 Changing Fire Department Culture 15:29 Finding the Right Therapist 18:30 Addressing Imposter Syndrome 22:05 The Importance of Self-Care 29:09 Upcoming Projects and New Show 32:44 Call for Stories and Conclusion

In this comprehensive episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we delve into the profound challenges surrounding trauma and suicide, particularly among first responders and military personnel. The host reflects on personal struggles, including the anniversaries of significant losses in October. Guest Mike, a trauma and suicide researcher and U.S. Army veteran, provides valuable insights into why these issues are so prevalent in high-stress professions. Key topics include the difference between being 'triggered' and 'activated,' the psychological theories of suicidal ideation, and the impact of addiction. The episode highlights the importance of trust, community support, and actionable steps individuals and communities can take to mitigate suicide rates. Join us as we explore these heavy topics and strive to foster better mental health support systems.   00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:25 Personal Struggles in October 01:07 Reflecting on Past Intros 02:08 Embracing Imperfection and Taking Action 04:20 The Importance of Conversation 05:14 Facing Personal Demons 06:34 The Power of Talking 08:24 Commitment to Self-Improvement 12:39 Episode 139 Introduction 13:04 Understanding Suicide 17:09 Triggered vs. Activated 23:12 Overt and Covert Suicide 32:16 Addiction and Depression 33:26 Interpersonal Theory of Suicide 34:41 Understanding Thwarted Belongingness 35:34 Perceived Burdensomeness in Veterans 36:30 Acquired Capability of Suicide 37:34 The Role of Past Traumas 38:55 Substance Use and Self-Medication 39:49 Mental Health in First Responders 42:33 The Importance of Continued Support 46:41 Community and Personal Responsibility 01:00:44 Changing the Narrative Around Suicide 01:01:29 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Join 'The Things We All Carry' for an in-depth exploration of the shared and unique traumas experienced by military veterans and first responders. Reflecting personal grief and the emotional impact of service, this episode features insights from Mike, a trauma and suicide researcher. It addresses the mental health challenges of these communities, delving into 'big T, little T' definitions of trauma, the spectrum of responses, and strategies for seeking help. Through poignant personal stories and professional analysis, we uncover the lasting effects of trauma and the importance of trauma-informed care. Tune in for a compelling conversation on coping mechanisms, camaraderie, and the drive to serve despite overwhelming odds.   00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:23 Conference in Beaver Creek, Ohio 01:19 Personal Reflections on Grief 04:00 Taking Action for Mental Health 07:35 Introducing Today's Guest: Mike 07:45 Mike's Background and Research 13:44 Growing Up in Virginia 15:59 Military and First Responder Experiences 21:34 Joining the Coast Guard 26:17 Army Career and Behavioral Health Initiative 27:21 Clinical Hours and Publications 28:11 Medically Retired from the Army 28:30 Ongoing Work and Connections 29:04 Focus on Trauma and Suicide 31:03 Defining Trauma 32:13 Trauma in Military and First Responder Communities 34:11 Trauma Responses and Their Impact 45:05 Conditioned Responses and Fight or Flight 54:25 Managing Crisis and Calm 57:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, the focus is on the transformative power of mindfulness for first responders. This episode features Josh, a fire captain and founder of Foundation Fortified. The discussion highlights how mindfulness and meditation can be crucial tools for managing trauma, enhancing focus, and improving mental well-being in high-stress professions. Josh shares his mission to make mindfulness accessible through various platforms, addressing its benefits for both professional and personal life, including for families and children of first responders. The conversation also draws parallels between mindfulness and situational awareness training, emphasizing improved decision-making under stress. Listeners are offered insights into the potential of mindfulness to reshape approaches to mental health and the importance of nonfiction literature in understanding human culture.   00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry 00:25 Personal Reflections and Family Memories 02:32 Struggles with Grief and Self-Improvement 03:42 Commitment to Therapy and Personal Growth 07:08 Episode 137: Featuring Josh from Foundation Fortified 09:16 Josh's Background and Mindfulness Journey 10:05 Understanding Mindfulness and Meditation 13:01 Mindfulness for First Responders 37:02 Practical Steps to Start Mindfulness 42:27 The Essence of Mindfulness 42:53 Finding Joy in the Present Moment 43:21 Explaining Mindfulness to Others 44:06 The Mind's Role in Dissatisfaction 45:46 Training the Mind Against Unhappiness 46:16 Mindfulness and Suffering 47:05 The Importance of Mindfulness in Daily Life 47:47 Mindfulness as a Trainable Skill 49:06 Mindfulness for First Responders 49:55 Mindfulness Practice and Emotional Waves 50:20 The Future of Mindfulness in the Industry 53:10 Mindfulness Resources and Programs 54:18 Mindfulness for Families and Children 55:17 Daily Mindfulness Practice for First Responders 57:47 The Journey of Creating Mindfulness Content 01:03:30 Mindfulness and Leadership 01:05:34 The Impact of Technology on Attention 01:13:10 Mindfulness in High-Stress Situations 01:16:18 The Benefits of Mindfulness Practice 01:18:20 Experiencing Awe Through Mindfulness 01:20:35 Book Recommendations and Final Thoughts

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we explore the mental health challenges and recovery journeys of first responders. Featuring a profound conversation with Brandon, a firefighter from Cincinnati, who shares his battle with PTSD and his experience with stellar ganglion block treatment. The episode highlights the importance of therapy, the impact of traumatic calls, peer support, and the fight to break mental health stigmas. Additionally, practical strategies for managing mental health, including therapy, meditation, and supportive family interactions, are discussed, offering valuable insights for coping with job-related stress and fostering personal growth.   00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:28 Reflecting on Conversations with Former Guests 01:09 Challenges of Returning from Inpatient Treatment 06:30 Personal Struggles and Seeking Help 08:16 Introducing Episode 136: Brandon's Story 11:44 Brandon's Background and Fire Service Journey 12:12 Growing Up in a Firefighting Family 21:51 Dealing with ADHD and Personal Challenges 29:41 Joining the Marine Corps and Facing Setbacks 34:11 Pursuing a Career in the Fire Service 36:29 Navigating Multiple Departments 37:11 Paramedic School and Injury 38:20 Facing Physical Limitations 39:02 Transition to Hospital Work 40:49 Struggles with PTSD 49:55 Therapy and Recovery Journey 53:51 Finding Effective Therapy 55:54 The Impact of ART Therapy 57:50 Stella Ganglion Block Experience 01:08:51 Daily Rituals and Mental Health 01:10:10 Department's Mental Health Approach 01:12:31 Moments of Awe and Reflection 01:13:44 Book Recommendations and Closing

In this episode, Stack dives deep into the nuanced and often complex experiences of grief, particularly as it relates to first responders. The episode underscores the importance of open discussion and healthy management of grief and trauma. This week's guest, Jamie, the Clinical Director of The Battle Within, shares her personal experiences and insights into trauma-informed care. The Battle Within is an organization dedicated to providing mental and behavioral support to veterans and first responders. Jamie elaborates on their flagship program, the Revenant Journey, a five-day intensive workshop designed to arm participants with essential coping skills and tools. Additional programs such as the Frontline Therapy Network and Dogs for Valor also aim to support individuals dealing with trauma. Tune in to learn more about the impact of grief, the importance of talking about it, and the valuable resources available through The Battle Within.   00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry 00:28 Exploring the Theme of Grief 01:49 Personal Stories of Loss 05:04 The Importance of Healing Out Loud 08:44 Introducing Jamie from The Battle Within 14:05 Jamie's Background and Childhood 16:54 Jamie's Professional Journey 19:15 The Impact of Personal Trauma 21:35 Challenges in Systemic Support 27:01 Integrating Professional and Personal Experiences 29:29 Joining the Club: Embracing the Battle Within 29:48 Origins of the Battle Within 31:13 Personal Journey to the Battle Within 34:10 Core Programs of the Battle Within 34:27 The Revenant Journey: A Deep Dive 35:28 Holistic Healing Approaches 40:27 Building Community and Vulnerability 43:35 Measuring Success and Testimonials 47:44 Getting Involved and Additional Programs 54:26 Cost and Logistics 55:05 Moments of Awe and Book Recommendations 01:01:51 Final Thoughts and Farewell

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack interviews Brad, a recently retired firefighter from Ohio with a background in the Navy. Brad shares his journey from working in crash and salvage on a flight deck to becoming a dedicated firefighter. He discusses the significant impact of the opioid epidemic on his career, his struggles with the mental toll of the job, and his current pursuit of a degree in psychology and counseling to help first responders. Tune in for a compelling conversation about trauma, recovery, and the importance of peer support in the firefighting community.   00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:22 Stepping Out of the Comfort Zone 00:43 Operation Yellow Tape Event 01:56 Engaging with the Community 06:26 Upcoming Appearances and Reflections 07:55 Episode 134 Introduction 08:04 Interview with Brad: Life After Fire Service 12:38 Brad's Background and Early Life 17:07 Military Service and Challenges 26:40 Transition to Firefighting 29:36 Reflecting on a Firefighting Career 29:58 Challenges and Realizations 32:13 Types of Calls and Community Dynamics 33:57 Impact of the Heroin Epidemic 36:00 Personal Struggles and Peer Support 37:10 Transition to Therapy and Retirement 38:27 Ongoing Involvement and Future Plans 40:43 Final Thoughts and Reflections 48:31 Conclusion and Farewell

Join us for Episode 133, featuring an inspiring conversation with TJ Webb, a retired police officer, public speaker, and health coach. Webb recounts a horrific shootout in December 2020 that left him with severe injuries, and his subsequent, grueling recovery. During this transformative period, he founded the Fit for Duty Foundation to promote physical fitness among first responders. Webb shares his challenges and triumphs, including his participation in the '30 Days of Murph' challenge, the writing of his book 'Just One More,' and his mission to motivate others through public speaking. Prepare to be moved by a powerful story of resilience, community support, and the importance of maintaining a healthy lifestyle. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:23 Personal Struggles and Emotional Reflections 05:03 Upcoming Event: Operation Yellow Tape 06:18 Introducing This Week's Guest: T.J. Webb 09:55 T.J. Webb's Background and Career 23:11 The Day That Changed Everything 39:53 Setting a Bold Recovery Goal 40:29 First Steps in Rehab 42:08 Creating a Motivational Sign 45:50 Small Steps to Big Goals 48:58 Achieving the Impossible 55:37 Mental Resilience and Family Support 01:02:09 Launching the Fit for Duty Foundation 01:07:28 Daily Discipline and New Challenges 01:11:46 Final Reflections and Future Plans

In this episode of The Things We All Carry we journey through nearly three decades of Bruce's life, starting from his early days as a rookie to his current position of Battalion Chief. Explore his professional growth, coping mechanisms, and personal milestones, including meeting his wife and raising a family. Additionally, gain heartfelt insights into the differences and deep emotional connections between parenting and grandparenting. This episode offers a profound look into the joys, challenges, and legacies that shape our lives, both in our careers and family bonds.   00:00 Starting the Firefighting Journey 00:28 Early Challenges and Realizations 01:17 Career Progression and Training 04:22 Becoming a Paramedic 07:24 Personal Life and Family 09:11 A Life-Changing Call 16:36 Coping with Trauma 33:11 Trust and Relationships 37:43 Evolution of Mental Health Support 37:58 Peer Support and Its Challenges 40:04 Adopt a Firehouse Program 41:17 Resiliency Center and Modern Approaches 43:09 Personal Approach to Mental Health 45:58 Financial Security for Firefighters 50:20 Disconnecting from Work 55:21 Building Strong Relationships 57:16 Department-Wide Mental Health Initiatives 01:01:16 Leadership and Availability 01:04:39 Final Thoughts and Reflections

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we delve into the life story of Bruce, a battalion chief with over 30 years of experience in the fire service. Stack dives deep into Bruce's early life marked by severe abuse, his path to independence at age 16, and his eventual career in firefighting. The episode tackles heavy themes such as trauma, resilience, and the evolving societal views on public service. With candid discussions about the difficulties Bruce faced both personally and professionally, this episode offers a raw and impactful look at what it means to carry on in the face of adversity. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:25 Apology for No Video 01:04 Introducing Bruce and Episode 131 01:46 The Importance of Civil Discourse 04:55 Challenges in the Fire Service 06:16 Raising the Bar for Recruitment 07:42 Personal Reflections and Future Plans 09:54 Introducing Bruce's Story 11:42 Bruce's Early Life and Family Struggles 17:07 Abuse and Attempted Arson 21:18 Custody Battles and Family Dynamics 31:58 Reconnecting with Siblings 34:22 The Struggles of a Distrusted Child 37:41 Reintegrating Siblings and Teenage Rebellion 39:15 Mental Health Challenges and Emancipation 43:40 Finding Stability and a New Path 45:52 Joining the Volunteer Fire Department 51:46 First Firefighting Experience 55:28 Pursuing a Career in Firefighting 59:27 Concluding Reflections

Join Stack and Dr Brooke Bartlett on The Things We All Carry Episode 130 as they uncover the extensive impact of trauma on mental health. Dr. Bartlett, a clinical psychologist expert in trauma, delves into the brain's intricacies, focusing on the amygdala, prefrontal cortex, and hippocampus. Learn about post-traumatic stress injury (PTSI), the curative potential of neuroplasticity, and evidence-based treatments. Discussions cover the importance of systematic exposure therapy, addressing mental health thoroughly, and why talk therapy might not be enough for severe cases. This episode also underscores proactive interventions in fire and police departments, and the cumulative nature of trauma. Gain invaluable knowledge and practical advice for navigating the challenges of mental wellness.   00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:22 Meet the First Responders 00:51 Defining Mental Wealth 02:38 Protecting Mental Wealth 04:47 Host's Personal Reflections 10:40 Episode Overview and Guest Introduction 13:39 Dr. Brooke Bartlett's Background 25:21 Understanding the Brain 32:55 Impact of Trauma on the Brain 37:25 Combat Veteran's PTSD Triggered by Barbecue 38:34 Symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Injury 39:35 Brain Scans and PTSD 44:32 Memory Gaps and Trauma 53:15 Neuroplasticity: The Brain's Superpower 01:05:17 Evidence-Based Trauma Therapy 01:15:32 Understanding Internal and External Avoidance 01:15:52 Imaginal Exposures: Facing Trauma Head-On 01:16:51 Recalibrating the Amygdala 01:19:09 The Role of Repetition in Trauma Therapy 01:23:28 Addressing Complex PTSD and Memory Gaps 01:27:44 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and the Prefrontal Cortex 01:47:02 The Importance of Proactive Mental Health Strategies 01:49:54 Final Thoughts and Recommendations

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' retired firefighter Kenny Mitchell Jr. opens up about his journey through trauma, both on and off the job. He discusses the founding of 'Operation Yellow Tape,' an organization dedicated to supporting the mental health of first responders. Listeners are also invited to join Kenny's upcoming free event by registering on his website. The conversation touches on Kenny's career highlights, personal experiences, and offers invaluable insights into balancing work and life while recovering from trauma. Featuring heartfelt reflections, candid advice, and a book recommendation—'Touching the Dragon' by Jimmy Hatch—this episode is a profound exploration of healing and finding purpose.   00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:25 Personal Reflections and Struggles 02:10 Finding Purpose 05:49 Introduction to Episode 129 05:59 Guest Introduction: Kenny Mitchell Jr. 06:16 Operation Yellow Tape 07:07 The Importance of Open Conversations 10:46 Kenny's Background and Career 14:42 Growing Up and Family Life 21:59 Transition to Firefighting 22:34 Impact of 9/11 and Career Beginnings 24:50 Early Career Challenges 31:45 Mental Health Struggles 37:59 The Turning Point 39:42 A Turning Point: Speaking Up About Mental Health 43:23 The Birth of Operation Yellow Tape 45:06 Inside and Outside the Yellow Tape 47:14 The Importance of Sleep and Communication 57:56 Introducing the HELP Acronym 01:00:46 Expanding the Mission: Speaking to Diverse Audiences 01:06:06 Upcoming Conference and Final Thoughts

In this episode (128) of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack discusses the challenges faced by first responders, specifically focusing on the personal and professional struggles of Jen, a volunteer rescue chief and full-time paramedic from a small town in Nebraska. The episode highlights the emotional toll of working in a close-knit community where responders often know the individuals they treat. The conversation explores the critical importance of mental health support and the need for debriefing after traumatic incidents. Jen shares her experiences with the deaths of key figures in her department and her efforts to foster a supportive environment for her team, while also discussing her own methods of coping and self-care.

In a world where traditional treatments often fall short, especially for first responders and veterans facing trauma, the potential of psychedelics offers a promising avenue. During our latest episode of "The Things We All Carry," I had the privilege of speaking with Matt Zemon, an advocate for the therapeutic use of psychedelics. Our conversation, enriched with personal stories and scientific insights, sheds light on the healing powers and history of these substances. To dive deeper into Matt's insights, check out his book "Psychedelics for Everyone" and the companion journal "Beyond the Trip." His upcoming book, "The Veterans Guide to Psychedelics," promises to be a valuable resource for those who have served our country. For more information, visit mattzemon.com and follow him on social media. Explore the full podcast episode for an in-depth look at these conversations and more. As always, your support is invaluable. Share this post with anyone who might benefit, and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts. Your feedback helps us continue these meaningful discussions.

Episode 126 is Part 3  with Jim, a retired firefighter from Ohio, who shares his personal journey of dealing with the mental health challenges of the job. Stack discusses the pressing need to rethink retirement systems for first responders to avoid forcing them to choose between their livelihood and mental health. Jim also opens up about undergoing an EEG brain scan that revealed his brain is in a constant state of fight or flight, leading to neurofeedback therapy to retrain his brain. From impactful personal anecdotes to the exploration of innovative therapies, this episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in mental health and the well-being of first responders.   00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:22 Introducing Jim from Ohio 00:39 Challenges of Mental Health in First Responders 04:08 Jim's Brain Scan and Fight or Flight Response 05:02 Neurofeedback Therapy Explained 07:12 Jim's Personal Experiences and Reflections 18:48 The Importance of Mental Health Awareness 23:06 Jim's Neurofeedback Journey 31:45 Final Thoughts and Future Plans 32:40 Closing Remarks and Book Recommendations

In this gripping episode of 'The Things We All Carry' podcast, Stack discusses the unique challenges faced by first responders, including the mental health struggles and trauma they experience on the job. Listen to part two of the conversation with Jim from Ohio, where he delves into his own battles with anxiety, burnout, and the difficulties of asking for help. The episode also highlights the importance of teaching resilience and mindfulness at the recruit level to ensure healthier careers across various fields such as firefighting, law enforcement, and nursing. Join the discussion on promoting mental health and reducing exposure to traumatic events in first responder roles. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:25 Host's Personal Reflections 01:41 Recent Episodes Recap 02:01 Building Resilience in First Responders 03:56 Engaging Conversations and Future Plans 05:21 Introducing Episode 125: Part Two with Jim 05:30 Jim's Journey: Burnout and Seeking Help 07:35 Challenges in the Fire Service 08:52 Jim's Role in Cancer and Behavioral Health 11:11 Struggles with Departmental Support 15:10 Near Miss Suicide and Policy Issues 18:57 Jim's Breakdown and Seeking Treatment 21:28 Center of Excellence Experience 34:35 Reintegration and Disability Process 39:10 Final Reflections and Moving Forward

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack returns with guests Karen Deppa and Mike Donahue, who discuss their organization, Pilot Light. Pilot Light focuses on building resilience for first responders through the application of positive psychology. The conversation delves into the science behind resilience, coping mechanisms, and the impact of social support. Karen and Mike share personal stories and insights from their combined experience in emergency services, explaining how their program aims to proactively prevent psychological injuries. This episode offers valuable perspectives on strengthening mental well-being and fostering proactive mental health practices within the first responder community. 00:00 Introduction and Apology 01:01 Meet Karen and Mike from Pilot Light 04:31 Karen's Journey to Positive Psychology 07:28 Mike's Fire Service Experience 11:20 Understanding Positive Psychology 18:06 The Three Pillars of Resilience 39:02 The Importance of Social Support 41:14 Personal Stories of Resilience 43:03 Compassion Fatigue and Its Implications 44:51 Challenges in Fire Service Recruitment and Retention 49:02 Teaching Resilience Skills 56:16 Incorporating Resilience into Daily Life 01:02:07 Final Thoughts and Personal Reflections This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Episode 123: Overcoming Traumas with Firefighter Author Jim Burneka Join us on the latest episode of 'The Things We All Carry' podcast. In episode 123, Stack discusses the importance of self-care amidst chaotic times, emphasizing mindfulness, exercise, proper nutrition, and mental health support. This week's guest is retired firefighter and author Jim Burneka, who shares his journey in the fire service in Dayton, Ohio, the impact of budget cuts, and his approach to handling trauma. Hear about Jim's personal experiences, including the poignant inspiration behind his book 'Overcoming Tuesday.' Learn how proactive mental health care can benefit first responders and how acknowledging vulnerability can lead to resilience. Don't miss this insightful and candid conversation aimed at helping those on the front lines cope better and thrive. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:41 Current Events and Self-Care 02:14 The Importance of Preemptive Mental Health Care 04:11 Challenges Faced by Firefighters 07:16 Guest Introduction: Jim Berneka 10:40 Jim's Cruise Experience 13:31 Memories of the Challenger Disaster 15:02 Musical Connections and Personal Reflections 18:38 Book Giveaway Announcement 18:56 Childhood Memories and Family Background 20:08 Father's Career and Struggles 21:44 Impact of Father's Absence 25:16 Moving Out and Starting a Career 28:01 Firefighting Career Beginnings 28:40 Challenges in Dayton Fire Department 33:29 Dealing with Trauma and Memories 37:52 First Dose of Reality in Firefighting 43:42 Coping with Trauma and Humor This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Welcome back to The Things We All Carry podcast! In episode 122, join us for an inspiring conversation with Rob Garnett, the Managing Director of One More Wave and former Navy SEAL. This episode delves into Rob's personal journey—from his extensive military career to his impactful work in supporting disabled veterans through surf therapy. Learn about the mission and values of One More Wave, an organization that provides custom surfing solutions and a strong support community to enhance the mental and physical well-being of veterans. Through touching stories and a deep dive into Rob's life, this episode underscores the importance of connection, community, and the healing power of the ocean. Don't miss out on this uplifting and informative episode! 00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry Podcast 00:24 Host's Personal Update and Montana Trip 03:27 Reflections on Human Connection and Mental Health 06:20 Introduction to Rob Garnett and One More Wave 07:40 Rob Garnett's Background and Early Life 12:26 Joining the Navy and Becoming a SEAL 17:59 Life as a Navy SEAL and Post-9/11 Deployments 20:21 Challenges of Balancing Military and Family Life 22:12 Injury, Recovery, and Transition to Civilian Life 24:06 Founding One More Wave and Its Mission 29:16 Reducing Veteran Suicide Through Surfing 29:48 Adaptive Sports and Team USA 30:59 Getting Started with One More Wave 33:10 Success Stories and Community Impact 36:46 Volunteering and Community Involvement 39:10 Funding and Future Goals 47:01 Personal Reflections and Broader Impact 51:51 Concluding Thoughts and Final Messages This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we continue our insightful conversation with Alex from Emergency Resilience. Join us as we delve into Alex's personal and professional experiences with ketamine, discussing its potential benefits for first responders, veterans, and active-duty military. We explore the importance of mental health, the use of alternative therapies like psychedelics, and how these can help in processing trauma. Alex shares invaluable insights into the practicalities and therapeutic effects of ketamine, including the importance of the 72-hour period post-treatment, and the need for a supportive community. Don't miss Alex's recommendations on how to integrate these therapies into a holistic approach to mental health.00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:26 Personal Reflections and Ketamine Discussion02:00 The Importance of Feeling Emotions03:18 Challenges in Mental Health05:08 Episode 121 with Alex: Ketamine Insights06:58 Ketamine's Therapeutic Process09:43 Practical Considerations for Ketamine Therapy18:57 Legal and Ethical Aspects of Ketamine23:19 Future of Ketamine Therapy29:52 Women's Ketamine Retreat36:09 Final Thoughts and Recommendations This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 120 of "The Things We All Carry". This week we delve into a thought-provoking conversation with Alex, also known as Emergency Resilience on Instagram and TikTok. Alex brings a wealth of experience as a paramedic and continuing education coordinator, but our discussion goes beyond her professional roles. We explore her personal journey with ketamine, discussing what it entails, who it may be suitable for, and what to expect along the way.Join us as we uncover the nuances of ketamine therapy, addressing common questions and misconceptions. Whether you're curious about starting your own journey or simply intrigued by the topic, this episode offers valuable insights. Alex's expertise and personal insights make this conversation both enlightening and engaging. Tune in and discover whether ketamine therapy might be right for you.Your feedback and input are invaluable as I continue to fine-tune the show to better serve you, the listener. Whether you prefer shorter or longer episodes, biweekly or weekly releases, I'm eager to hear your thoughts and preferences.Your engagement drives the direction of the show, and I'm committed to delivering content that resonates with you and brings positivity to your life. So please, don't hesitate to reach out and share your feedback. Together, let's shape the future of "The Things We All Carry" and continue spreading light and inspiration. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 119 of "The Things We All Carry." Today marks the continuation of our conversation with Eric, a seasoned firefighter, former paramedic, and emerging standup comedian. As I mentioned last week, Eric's journey spans nearly 25 years in the firefighting profession, alongside 17 years of marriage and the joys of fatherhood to a teenage daughter.Through his comedic endeavors, Eric has found a unique way to navigate life's challenges, transforming personal experiences into jokes and stories that resonate with audiences. In this second part of our conversation, Eric shares further insights into his journey, exploring the power of humor in processing adversity and finding light in the darkest moments.As we delve deeper into Eric's story, I encourage you to listen with an open mind and heart. Your feedback and input are invaluable as I continue to fine-tune the show to better serve you, the listener. Whether you prefer shorter or longer episodes, biweekly or weekly releases, I'm eager to hear your thoughts and preferences.Your engagement drives the direction of the show, and I'm committed to delivering content that resonates with you and brings positivity to your life. So please, don't hesitate to reach out and share your feedback. Together, let's shape the future of "The Things We All Carry" and continue spreading light and inspiration.Thank you for being part of this journey, and enjoy Episode 119 with Eric. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 118 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, I'm excited to introduce Eric from central Florida. With nearly 25 years in the firefighting profession, Eric's journey has been marked by dedication and resilience. A former paramedic, he's been married for 17 years and is a proud father to a teenage daughter. However, amidst the challenges of the job, Eric found solace in humor.Transforming his experiences into comedic material, Eric pursued a side gig as a standup comedian. From hosting shows to performing at open mics and paid gigs, he's embraced comedy as a way to navigate life's darker moments and connect with others.In this episode, we explore Eric's journey from firefighter to comedian, delving into the complexities of finding light in the midst of darkness. With his unique perspective and sharp wit, Eric shares insights that are both humorous and thought-provoking.Stay tuned for Part Two of Eric's story next week, and in the meantime, don't hesitate to share your thoughts and reflections. Reach out to me at stack@thethingsweallcarry.com or connect on Instagram at @thethingsweallcarry. Let's continue this journey together, and remember to get outside and Do Something For Yourself. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 117 of "The Things We All Carry." This week, we have Jake from Houston joining us. Jake's journey began when he reached out to me on TikTok, and after a few attempts to connect, we decided to dive into his story blindly.As Jake shares his experiences, I'm learning about them in real-time, making this a unique and spontaneous conversation. With 17 years of service under his belt, Jake's firefighting career started as a volunteer in 2007 before transitioning to a career firefighter in 2011. Today, he serves as a fire captain in the Houston area.Throughout our conversation, Jake offers insights into his journey, from his early days as a volunteer to his current role as a fire captain. As we explore his story together, I'm struck by Jake's resilience and dedication to his profession.While the interview may have its rough moments, Jake's authenticity shines through as he shares his experiences and perspectives. I encourage you to listen with an open mind and let Jake's story resonate with you.Join us for Episode 117 of "The Things We All Carry" as we embark on a journey of discovery with Jake from Houston. Don't hesitate to share your thoughts and reflections, and remember to get outside and do something for yourself. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 116 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, I'm joined by John Talin from Massachusetts. John, a Lieutenant and paramedic at Hyannis Fire, contacted me through Mike Nasti at the Tip of the Spear Leadership Podcast, and Mike couldn't have been more right in recommending him for the show.With 24 years in the fire service, John has a wealth of experience. He also served as a former canine handler for the Massachusetts task force, and he shares some heartfelt reflections on that part of his career and the special bond he had with his canine partner.However, what sets this episode apart is John's courage in addressing a deeply personal and often stigmatized issue: sex addiction. John felt that in his previous podcast appearances, he hadn't been completely open. He reached out to me to correct that. He wanted to talk openly about his experience with sex addiction, a topic that is often misunderstood or dismissed.Despite the potential for judgment, John bravely shares his story, emphasizing the importance of shedding light on taboo subjects. By sharing his experiences, John hopes to help others who may be facing similar challenges and to break down the barriers to discussing sex addiction openly.Join us for Episode 116 of "The Things We All Carry" as we listen to John's courageous story and learn from his experiences. Don't hesitate to reach out and share your thoughts. Let's engage in meaningful conversations and support one another. And remember…Get Outside and Do Something For Yourself!Thank you for reading The Things We All Carry . This post is public so feel free to share it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 115 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're joined by Cody, who reached out to us through Stephen Sims from Episode 102 and 106. Cody's journey begins in Houston, where he served as a firefighter for five years at Station 55. Amidst the pressures of the job, including traumatic calls and systemic issues within the department, Cody faced additional challenges such as low pay, unfavorable hours, and the loss of his pension due to political mishandling.After thoughtful consideration with his wife, Cody made the difficult decision to leave Houston and return to Colorado in 2019. However, his journey didn't end there. With the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic, Cody found himself navigating new career paths, eventually becoming a police officer.In our conversation with Cody, we explore the complexities of his experiences in both firefighting and law enforcement, shedding light on the personal and professional challenges he's faced along the way. From moments of reflection on traumatic incidents to discussions about brain mapping and its potential implications, Cody's story offers insight into the multifaceted nature of first responder life.As a husband and father of three, Cody's journey underscores the importance of balancing career aspirations with personal responsibilities. His resilience and determination serve as a testament to the strength of the human spirit in the face of adversity.Join us for Episode 115 of "The Things We All Carry" as we journey alongside Cody through the highs and lows of his career transitions. Don't forget to get outside and do something for yourself! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 114 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we have a special episode featuring Joey from Conscious Movements and TJ from the Keep the Promise Podcast. Both Joey and TJ have previously shared their stories on the show, with Joey most recently in Episode 107 and TJ featured in several episodes since the beginning. This episode centers around the topic of leaving the fire service, exploring the reasons behind such decisions, the challenges faced during transition, and how to prepare oneself for life beyond firefighting. Joey, who has been medically retired from the fire service for three years, provides insights into his journey, while TJ shares his current contemplations about his own future in the fire service. The conversation delves into the personal and emotional aspects of leaving the fire service, offering candid reflections on the decision-making process, the feelings associated with stepping away, and the importance of preparation for post-fire service life. Listeners will gain valuable perspectives on navigating transitions, planning for the future, and finding fulfillment beyond the fire service. The episode is filled with laughter, honesty, and meaningful insights into a topic that many firefighters may eventually face. Join us for Episode 114 of "The Things We All Carry" as we engage in a thought-provoking conversation about leaving the fire service and preparing for what lies ahead. Don't forget to reach out to Joey, TJ, or Stack with your thoughts and questions, and remember to get out there and do something for yourself.          

Welcome to Episode 113 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're joined by Kyler, an advanced EMT from central Utah with a unique and powerful story to share. Kyler's journey unfolds from his experiences within the Latter-Day Saints Church to the devastating loss of his mother to suicide at the age of 18. As a volunteer firefighter and EMT, Kyler has encountered multiple suicides on the job, confronting the harsh reality of mental health struggles firsthand. Through his conversation with Stack, Kyler delves into the complexities of trauma, anxiety, and the challenges of processing loss and grief. Despite facing overwhelming anxiety and grappling with the weight of his experiences, Kyler shares how he's embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing. From navigating the unexpected turns of his career to confronting his own mental health challenges, Kyler's resilience and determination shine through. This episode offers a poignant exploration of the realities faced by first responders and the importance of prioritizing mental well-being in high-stress environments. Kyler's candid storytelling invites listeners to reflect on their own journeys and to reach out for support when needed. Join us for Episode 113 of "The Things We All Carry" as we accompany Kyler on his journey of self-discovery and healing. Don't forget to leave a rating and share your thoughts on the show, and remember get out there and do something for yourself.

Welcome to Episode 112 of "The Things We All Carry." This week, we are privileged to have Dr. Glenn Landry as our guest. Dr. Landry is a renowned sleep expert and authority on circadian rhythms, with over 30 years of experience in the field. Based out of Vancouver, Canada, Dr. Landry is the founder of Elite Sleep, a company dedicated to helping individuals optimize their sleep quality and overcome the challenges of shift work. During our conversation, Dr. Landry shares invaluable insights into the science of sleep, including its functions, stages, and the importance of maintaining healthy sleep habits. Listeners will benefit from Dr. Landry's expertise as he breaks down complex scientific concepts into practical advice for improving sleep quality. He also highlights the significance of prioritizing sleep, especially for first responders, and offers a special discount on his online program, "Surviving Shift Work," exclusive to our audience. In this episode, we delve deep into topics such as circadian rhythms, the biology of sleep stages, and the impact of shift work on overall health. Dr. Landry's ability to communicate complex ideas in an accessible manner ensures that listeners gain a thorough understanding of the importance of sleep for overall well-being. Stack expresses gratitude to Dr. Landry for sharing his time and expertise, emphasizing the profound impact that prioritizing sleep can have on one's quality of life. Tune in to Episode 112 of "The Things We All Carry" to learn from Dr. Glenn Landry and take proactive steps towards improving your sleep health. And don't forget to get outside and do something for yourself.

Welcome to Episode 111 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we have a deeply important conversation with Tara Lorens from North Dakota. Tara's story is one of immense courage and resilience in the face of tragedy. After the devastating loss of her husband, Doug, to suicide, Tara has been left grappling with financial uncertainty and legal complications. She discovered that she lacks ownership of their home and car, as her name is not on the mortgage or deed. Additionally, her insurance paperwork is in disarray. In this episode, we hear Tara's plea for help and support. Stack urges listeners to rally together in a collective effort to assist Tara and her children during this challenging time. The show serves as a call to arms, seeking financial contributions to a GoFundMe campaign and seeking legal advice from those experienced in navigating the aftermath of suicide. Your support and assistance can make a tangible difference in Tara's life and help provide stability and security for her family. Join us in listening to Tara's story and answering her call for help in Episode 111 of "The Things We All Carry." Thank you for listening and for stepping up to support a family in need.

Welcome to Episode 110 of "The Things We All Carry," where this week, Stack presents a special roundtable discussion featuring four former guests. Tyler from Wisconsin (Episode 37), Ian (Episode 39), Bryan (Episodes 55, 56, 57, and 58), and Mike (Episode 75), all from Virginia join together to delve deeper into their stories and experiences. In this candid and heartfelt conversation, these courageous individuals open up about their struggles with issues like drinking, suicide, and trauma during their careers in the fire service. They reflect on their journey of growth and share insights into how they've navigated challenges and found resilience. From their initial reasons for coming on the show to where they are now and their future aspirations, this roundtable covers a wide range of topics. Despite some technical difficulties towards the end, the authenticity and depth of the conversation shine through. Join Stack and his guests as they share their stories, vulnerabilities, and lessons learned in Episode 110 of "The Things We All Carry." Sit back, enjoy, and remember to take some time to enjoy Spring, get outside, and do something for yourself.

In this Episode Zach, a military veteran and full-time firefighter from a small farm community in Ohio, opens up about his life and personal struggles. He speaks about the guilt he carries following a friend's suicide in 2014, traumatic incidents involving children he's witnessed as a paramedic matching in age to his own son, and the significant psychological impact of a false accusation of sexual assault in the military that almost led him to suicide. In the aftermath of his legal battle, he chose to leave the military and focus on rebuilding his life. Recently, he began therapy and shares his renewed commitment to his mental health, professional life, and family. He also discusses his experience with the Employer Assistance Program (EAP) and acknowledges the importance of finding a counselor who understands the specific experiences and traumas that emergency service professionals face.

Welcome to Episode 108 of "The Things We All Carry," where each episode offers a unique perspective on personal growth and transformation. In this installment, Stack sits down with Jason Warn, the owner-operator of Mindfulness Medic, a lifestyle, mindset, and wellness brand. Jason shares his inspiring journey of overcoming obstacles and transforming his life through the implementation of his six pillars. From battling obesity to reclaiming control of his mindset and life, Jason's story is one of resilience and empowerment. With 11 years of experience in fire and EMS, Jason brings a unique perspective to his approach to personal development. Together, they delve into his experiences in the field and the lessons learned along the way. Throughout the conversation, Jason provides valuable insights into how anyone can initiate positive change in their own lives. Whether it's through fitness, mindset shifts, or taking responsibility for one's actions, his story serves as a beacon of hope and encouragement. Tune in as they explore the importance of the six pillars and how they can be applied to achieve lasting transformation. This episode is a reminder that no matter where you are in life, positive change is always within reach. Join us for this enriching conversation with Jason Warn on "The Things We All Carry." Don't forget to share your thoughts and feedback with us on Instagram or TikTok @thethingsweallcarry or via email at stack@thethingsweallcarry.com. Enjoy the show!

Welcome to Episode 107 of "The Things We All Carry." In this insightful episode, we sit down with Joey, a former firefighter paramedic from Florida who spent 12 years serving in Panama City Beach. Joey shares his journey of grappling with PTSD and transitioning out of the fire service about two and a half years ago. This conversation delves into Joey's experiences navigating life beyond the fire service, offering valuable insights into post-service transition and personal growth. We explore his venture into Conscious Movements, a company born from his own healing journey. Through Conscious Movements, Joey aims to instigate a cultural shift within the fire service, addressing the challenges of change in such a deeply ingrained institution. Join us as we uncover the noble mission behind Conscious Movements and Joey's efforts to effect meaningful change in the firefighting community. From discussing the hurdles of cultural transformation to sharing practical insights for personal well-being, this episode offers a rich tapestry of wisdom and reflection. So, sit back, tune in, and glean inspiration from Joey's story. Feel free to reach out with your thoughts, questions, or comments—we're here to engage with you. And remember get out there and do something for yourself!  

Welcome to Episode 106 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're joined by Travis, a dedicated firefighter EMT from Johnson County, Kansas, whose journey is as inspiring as it is insightful. Travis shares candidly about his path to the fire service, from his tumultuous teenage years to his commitment to serving his community. With five years as a career firefighter and a previous stint as a volunteer, Travis brings a wealth of experience to the table. But it's his role as a father, husband, and peer support specialist that takes center stage in this episode. As Travis delves into his personal struggles with alcohol and the traumatic moments he's faced in his career, he sheds light on the profound impact of mental health in the firefighting profession. With honesty and vulnerability, Travis reveals how these experiences led him to become a beacon of support for his fellow firefighters. His journey as a peer support specialist for Johnson County and beyond underscores his unwavering commitment to improving mental health outcomes within the fire service. By sharing his story and actively engaging in solutions, Travis exemplifies the spirit of resilience and compassion that defines the firefighting community. This conversation isn't just about Travis—it's a call to action for us all. It's a reminder that by reaching out, speaking up, and lending a helping hand, we can make a difference in the lives of others. So, as you listen to Episode 106, I encourage you to reflect on Travis's message and consider what you can do to support mental health initiatives in your own community. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did, and I look forward to hearing your feedback. Connect with me on social media, and let's continue the conversation. Remember, we all carry something, but together, we can lighten each other's burdens.    

Welcome back to "The Things We All Carry," and brace yourselves for a surprise episode drop on an unexpected day. Today, I deviate from the usual schedule to present a conversation that stands out on its own merit. In this episode, I sit down with Steven Sims, a seasoned firefighter hailing from Houston, Texas. With over a decade of experience in the fire service, Steven brings a unique perspective shaped not only by his professional endeavors but also by his journey as a parent. The crux of our conversation revolves around Steven's role as a father to three children, one of whom has been diagnosed with autism. Steven provides candid insights into navigating the complexities of parenting a child with special needs, debunking myths and shedding light on the realities of the journey. From advocating for his child within the education system to discovering resources and support networks, Steven's experiences offer invaluable lessons for parents facing similar challenges. His perspective underscores the importance of understanding and embracing neurodiversity, fostering a culture of acceptance and inclusivity. As the conversation unfolds, we delve into another facet of Steven's journey—his adult diagnosis of ADHD. With honesty and vulnerability, Steven shares his process of self-discovery and adaptation, highlighting the transformative power of seeking help and making meaningful changes. Recorded shortly after the holiday season, the episode carries a raw authenticity, accentuated by the host's battle with illness. Despite the physical setback, the dialogue brims with warmth and sincerity, inviting listeners to reflect on the interconnectedness of personal and professional spheres. Episode 105 serves as a reminder of the profound impact of our experiences on both home and work life. It underscores the importance of open dialogue and mutual support, fostering a community where individuals can share their triumphs, struggles, and everything in between. So, as you embark on your day, I urge you to tune in, absorb the wisdom shared by Steven Sims, and join the conversation. Because in the end, it's through sharing our stories that we truly connect and uplift one another.

Welcome to Episode 104 of "The Things We All Carry," where we embark on a poignant exploration of hospice care, end-of-life transitions, and the invaluable guidance provided by our guest, Julie McFadden, famously known as Hospice Nurse Julie. In this deeply personal episode, the host reflects on a pivotal moment during his mother's end-of-life journey, where Julie's expertise provided clarity and comfort amidst the emotional turbulence of impending loss. Julie's social media presence, boasting a vast following across platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, serves as a beacon of support for individuals grappling with the complexities of death and dying. With a wealth of experience spanning over 16 years in nursing, including significant stints in the ICU and hospice settings, Julie's insights are not only informed by professional expertise but also steeped in compassion and empathy. Her recent book, "Nothing to Fear," epitomizes her mission to demystify the end-of-life process, offering solace and guidance to those navigating the intricate terrain of caregiving and bereavement. Throughout the episode, Julie shares invaluable advice on recognizing the signs of terminal decline, understanding agonal breathing, and fostering an environment of dignity and comfort for both patients and their loved ones. Her emphasis on empowerment through knowledge resonates deeply, serving as a guiding light for families facing difficult decisions and profound loss. Moreover, the conversation extends beyond the realm of hospice care, delving into the crucial role of first responders in supporting families during moments of crisis. Julie's insights illuminate the importance of compassionate communication and holistic care, bridging the gap between medical professionals and those in need of support. Episode 104 stands as a testament to the power of vulnerability, education, and human connection in navigating life's most profound moments. As listeners embark on this heartfelt journey, they are invited to embrace the wisdom and compassion embodied by Julie McFadden, a beacon of hope in the face of life's greatest challenges.

Welcome to Episode 103 of "The Things We All Carry." In this installment, we delve into a personal journey intertwined with friendship, resilience, and the profound impact of life's experiences. The episode opens with a nostalgic reflection on camaraderie as the host recounts cherished memories of concert escapades with a close friend, Mark. Their shared adventures traversing cities, attending shows, and bonding over drinks or dinners exemplify the essence of friendship. Mark emerges as a remarkable individual—a beacon of authenticity in a world often defined by conformity. Having transitioned from Ohio to Virginia and back again, his journey unfolds against the backdrop of a distinguished career as a firefighter-medic spanning over a decade in Prince William County. However, Mark's story is more than a testament to professional dedication; it's a testament to resilience in the face of adversity. From surviving a traumatic childhood incident that left him with severe burns to navigating the complexities of life, Mark's journey is marked by triumphs and tribulations alike. The episode transcends mere dialogue; it's a heartfelt conversation between old friends, characterized by candor and vulnerability. Mark's return to the East Coast serves as a catalyst for reflection, offering profound insights into the transformative power of shared experiences. As Mark contemplates reentering the fire service, his passion for the profession is palpable. Armed with a wealth of experience and a fervent desire to mentor the next generation, he embodies the spirit of service and dedication that defines the firefighting community. Ultimately, Episode 103 encapsulates the essence of "The Things We All Carry"—a poignant reminder that our burdens, triumphs, and connections shape the tapestry of our lives. Through laughter, introspection, and shared experiences, this episode resonates as both informative and entertaining, inviting listeners on a journey of discovery and camaraderie.

Welcome to Episode 102 of "The Things We All Carry." In this installment, the host engages in a captivating conversation with Stephen Sims, a seasoned firefighter with a unique life story. Known as TXsickboy on Instagram or unklesims on Instagram, Stephen his journey through the fire service since 2007. Stephen currently serving as the ladder chauffeur at station 55 in Houston, opens up about a profound experience with a double LODD (Line of Duty Death) in 2009, which significantly impacted him. He candidly describes a period where he, in his own words, "became an asshole," and how this became a catalyst for his ongoing quest to become a better human, husband, and father. A self-proclaimed "vagabond" from the start, Stephen's life took him from Mississippi to Alabama, Mississippi, Arkansas, and eventually Texas. The episode delves into his diverse background, including a stint in the Navy, highlighting the value of exploring foreign cultures and broadening one's perspective beyond borders. Described by his wife as the "village people of careers," Stephen has worn many hats throughout his life. From his creative pursuits in music, art, writing, and woodworking to embracing a punk rock retirement plan with his wife since the "1900s", Stephen's multifaceted personality makes for a compelling conversation. The episode offers listeners a chance to hear about Stephen's unique take on life in the fire service and his commitment to personal growth. Despite the challenges he faced, Stephen is actively involved in advocating for his children, who are on the autism spectrum. This episode is just the beginning of a two-part series, with Stephen returning in a later episode to discuss ADHD and parenting. Join the host and Stephen Sims for a thought-provoking and insightful conversation that touches on life, resilience, creativity, and the pursuit of a better self. Episode 102 is not just a podcast; it's a glimpse into the diverse and inspiring stories we all carry.

Welcome to Episode 101 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're diving into a crucial aspect of our lives—one that many of us carry but often find challenging to explore. I'm thrilled to welcome back Destiny Morris, a licensed marriage and family therapist from California, specializing in the unique challenges faced by first responders, their spouses, and relationships. In her practice, Destiny offers individual sessions and facilitates a group for first responder spouses, delving into the complexities of life in a way that only someone with her expertise can. In a previous episode (Episode 79, aired on August 24th of last year), we explored topics like hypervigilance, the impact on relationships, and how the life of a first responder ripples through various aspects like interpersonal connections, family planning, and communication. In this episode, Destiny and I delve into hypervigilance once more, touching on her spouse group and extending our conversation to include family members of first responders. Additionally, we discuss what one can expect when entering therapy, exploring the dynamics, expectations, and the sometimes-sensitive decision of when and how to step back from therapy. Destiny shares insights into when therapy becomes a valuable ongoing support and when it might transition into a maintenance phase. It's a unique perspective on how therapy evolves and adapts to an individual's needs over time. I want to express my gratitude to each one of you for your continued support. Your feedback, suggestions, and personal stories are invaluable. Please reach out to me on Instagram or via email at stack@thethingsweallcarry.com or mystory@thethingsweallcarry.com. Stay tuned for Destiny Morris in Episode 101, and as always, take a moment for yourself. Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other.      

Welcome to a milestone episode, folks! This is Episode 100 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we have an incredibly special guest with us, none other than Ben Vernon, a Fire Captain hailing from the heart of San Diego. Ben's journey is nothing short of remarkable; he's devoted nearly two decades to the fire service, experiencing both the world of career firefighting and volunteer work. In this gripping episode, Ben shares his story of transformation – from a young individual unsure of his path to a seasoned public speaker, renowned for an incident that occurred eight years ago. A routine medical call took a shocking turn when Ben found himself in an altercation with a bystander. In a matter of seconds, he and his crew faced a life-threatening attack, leaving Ben and a co-worker stabbed. The narrative unfolds as Ben walks us through the harrowing details of the incident, the aftermath, and the emotional rollercoaster that followed. From being a first responder to becoming a patient himself, Ben takes us on a journey through the physical and emotional recovery process, offering profound insights into resilience and the human spirit. This episode is not just another story; it's a testament to the strength of the human will. Ben's candid reflections on the mistakes made and the subsequent attempt on his life make for a truly fascinating and thought-provoking tale. Despite the challenges, Ben and his crew member survived, and today, he stands before us, a dedicated public speaker traveling the world, advocating for mental health and sharing his inspiring story. As we delve into this gripping narrative, we're reminded of the increasing instances of violence against first responders. Ben's experience serves as a powerful reminder to stay vigilant on every call, as you never know what challenges might arise. So, without further ado, let's dive into Episode 100 with Ben Vernon. Sit back, absorb the resilience, and share your thoughts. And as we close this chapter at 100, get ready for more incredible stories to come in Episode 101 next week. Enjoy the show!

Episode 99 iwith Chris Bowers…Director of Programs  withLeashes of Valor. Leashes of Valor is a non-profit in Fredericksburg, Virginia that trains service dogs for post-9/11 veterans. These highly trained dogs help veterans who have experienced PTSD, Traumatic Brain Injury, or Military Sexual Trauma.  Chris joined the show to share his story and give us the background about the organization. You can learn more about their staff, their mission, and how to donate leashesofvalor.org/.

In the first episode of the new year, "The Things We All Carry" revisits an impactful conversation with Diane Cotter, a name that resonates strongly within the firefighting community. The host pays tribute to Diane's unwavering dedication and resilience in the face of adversity, as she fought for awareness and change after her husband's cancer diagnosis linked to firefighting gear. Diane's relentless battle against PFAS-infested gear, a substance with devastating effects on the body, is explored in this reissued episode. The host emphasizes Diane's heroism, acknowledging her triumph over powerful opponents, including political figures and union representatives more interested in personal gain than firefighter well-being. Originally episode 61, this re-release serves as a tribute to Diane's courage and commitment. The host reflects on the past year, expressing gratitude for the audience's support and hinting at exciting developments in the coming year. Taking a break to clear thoughts and recharge, the host encourages listeners to embrace self-reflection and growth in the new year. As the episode concludes, the host teases upcoming shows, promising intriguing content and urging the audience to continue supporting the podcast by sharing, liking, and spreading the word. The episode encapsulates a mix of gratitude, reflection, and anticipation, setting the tone for an engaging year ahead.

In this episode of "The Things We All Carry," Stack reflects on the aftermath of Christmas and the emotions that come with it. Sharing personal experiences, Stackdiscusses the blend of anticipation and letdown that often accompanies the holiday season. Keeping the introduction short due to a recovering voice, Stack reintroduces Marshall, a newly promoted fire captain and a colleague with a unique journey in the fire service. Marshall, a cancer survivor diagnosed at age 19, shares his remarkable story of overcoming aggressive cancer and the subsequent challenge of rediscovering life. The conversation delves into Marshall's survivor's guilt, a constant battle with the fear of cancer recurrence, and the emotional toll of living with uncertainty. Marshall's experiences in the fire service unfold, including the tragic suicide of a crew member named Marcello. Marshall candidly discusses the impact of suicide on the crew and his personal coping mechanisms. The episode further explores Marshall's family life, addressing his son's struggles with ADHD and the adjustments made within the family to provide necessary support and care. Throughout the conversation, Marshall emphasizes the importance of therapy in addressing untreated issues stemming from his experiences in the fire service, cancer diagnosis, and family challenges. The episode offers a compelling and open dialogue on the complexities of life, mental health, and resilience within the context of a demanding profession. Originally released as episode seven, this reissue provides a poignant and insightful glimpse into Marshall's journey, highlighting themes of survival, resilience, and the ongoing pursuit of mental well-being.

This week's episode is from the vault. I'm re releasing episode 37. Tyler is from Wisconsin, he is a firefighter for 18 years and 12 of those he's been in EMS  Tyler is currently a paramedic and a captain in his department. He has one of those stories where the personal is intertwined with the professional. He was married, he was divorced, and then tragedy struck. He shares his story of not only that tragedy, but what he did to overcome the tragedy, and how he's moved forward, and where he is today.  As I said in my initial write up or intro for this show,  it focuses on his life, that fateful day, his recovery, and his message to anyone fighting their own demons.

Bobby is out of Raleigh, North Carolina. He joined the fire service as a  part of the junior program in 2008. He turned 18 and he was hired as a career firefighter. He is what you would call your prototypical black cloud. Any, as he said, any fucked up call in the department has happened when he's been on shift.  He's had  numerous traumatic calls. In 2018 he had a brush with death He brushes it off as I spent some time in the hospital kind of thing but he  came close to damn near dying. Between constant work,full time firefighting, part time firefighting, chimney work, construction work, he left no time for family and it took a toll. Then he had this call that just tipped the scales and something snapped. He reached out for help after a suicide attempt. You'll hear in the show where that suicide attempt was and how he was found. He found this program called Shields and Stripes, and he spent a month out in Arizona with this program and he can't say enough good things about it.  They allowed him to find himself. They allowed him to find some of the root causes of what's going on. They allowed him to repair himself, repair his relationship with his family and start down a path of health and happiness basically.  

Welcome to Episode 94 of The Things We All Carry. Today, I'm joined by sisters Lauren and Renee.  Lauren and Renee are both nutrition and health coaches and they go by the term of biohackers. You can find them on Instagram under @biohackerbabes. They talk about biohacking, they talk about about health, nutrition, fitness, everything that you can think of that is going to benefit you and change you for the better.  They were introduced to this at a young age  and they grew up with this. They were taught this importance of experimentation and individualization. From that individualization and this experimentation they began searching for the edge, for what's going to optimize your health and wellness.  Their podcast, The Biohacker Babes, and I quote from their bio "aims to create insight into the body's natural healing abilities, strengthen your intuition and empower you with techniques and modalities to optimize your health and wellness."

I want to welcome you to episode 93 of The Things We All Carry. It blows my mind that I said 93. I'm creeping up on 100 episodes, and I didn't know where this show was going to go But coming up on 100 episodes is fantastic in my mind. Jordan Hood started as a volunteer firefighter in 2002 in Pennsylvania in a very small volunteer company. He moved on to York PA in 2008, taking a step up to about 600, 700 runs a year. Then he started applying to jobs up and down the East Coast and ended up landing in Prince George's County, Maryland in 2013.   Prince George's is a busy combination system. It's a large system, bordering D. C., and they run a lot, a lot of calls. That's kind of been the theme, each position he's done, he's brought more calls, more trauma, and more stress to his life. He ultimately left Prince George's County for a city job because he's always wanted to be a city firefighter. He's been with Charlotte, North Carolina for over five years now.   Jordan reached out to me when he listened to my episode with Mike Nasti on Tip of the Spear Leadership. Turns out that Jordan rode an engine with Mike in Prince George's County. They had  a fire which they both have spoken about. Jordan gets into that fire towards  the middle of this episode  and how it affected him and how it affected Mike and how they move forward from it.  He's done a lot. He's seen a lot. He's been through a lot and he's, he's taken some ownership of everything lately. That's the best part, he's taken some ownership. He's made some changes and he's come out the other end a better person, a better husband, a better father. And a better firefighter and hopefully in the future a better leader because he's looking to move up in the ranks