Podcasts about co dependents anonymous

Episode 75: This episode unpacks the differences between codependent and interdependent relationships, focusing on setting healthy boundaries and recognizing what you can and cannot control. Psychotherapist Kat Zwick, LMFT, and Jill, a Co-Dependents Anonymous member, share insights and strategies for managing anxious or imbalanced dynamics—with a loved one facing mental health challenges, substance abuse, or other difficulties. Whether you're a parent, caregiver, spouse, or friend, this conversation offers valuable tools to navigate relationships and foster personal well-being.

Learn more in our latest blog post: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/blogs/blog/broken-from-the-start-co-dependents-anonymous-who-is-powerless-over-whomFull version of topic is included in ross's new book, The Codependency Revolution: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/products/the-codependency-revolution?variant=45089834762479Just like other 12-step programs, CoDA's first step pinpoints the out-of-control addiction or compulsive behavior that constantly creates disorder in their life. For most 12-step groups, a chemical or substance is the culprit, but for others like CoDA, it is a pattern of behavior that creates chaos and unmanageability in their life.  In this video, Ross Rosenberg explains why CoDA has been flawed since its inception and continues to be so. Through a historical analysis of the organization, he shows how CoDA's “co-dependency” term originated from 1950s alcohol and drug treatment programs attempt to understand the partners of alcoholics or “co-alcoholics.” When the field shifted to “chemical dependency” as the catch-all term for all addictions, including alcohol, the term briefly shifted to co-chemical dependency. Having too many letters/words, it was almost immediately shorted to “co-dependency.” CoDA's step one identifies its co-dependent's primary out-of-control compulsion as trying to change or controlling people who are unwilling or unable to change. ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. Support the show

Tawny and Lisa talk about addiction as a family disease. Whether it's with your birth family or your chosen family (or both!), healing individually and as unit can break cycles of addiction and unhealthy behaviors. They both talk about their experiences with their families and how it's an imperfect journey that never really ends. Music Minute features Sister Sledge, Everclear, The Killers and Billie Eilish. Find support at Al-Anon and Co-Dependents Anonymous.  Tawny recommends these books on boundaries and codependency: The Origins of You, Set Boundaries, Find Peace, The Book of Boundaries Order Tawny's book, DRY HUMPING: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze Sign up for "Beyond Liquid Courage" Order Tawny's new NA drink, (parentheses) Sign up for Tawny's Nonfiction Book Proposal Boot Camp here. Purchase Lisa's memoir, Girl Walks Out of a Bar   

Join host Ned Buskirk in conversation with Erika Wright, while they talk about the story, the plant medicine, the spiritual path, that led to their self-appointed work as a codependency counselor, our society's relationship to grief & vulnerability, & how we've been programmed to avoid hard feelings & the truth behind them.erika wright'swebsite: https://erikawright.org/podcast: https://erikawright.org/podcast/ healing codependency support & counseling groups: https://erikawright.org/healing-codependency-support-counseling-group/ig: https://www.instagram.com/erikawrighthcd/ chocolate company: https://supahstah.com/transformational women's retreats: https://madeofstars.co/Co-Dependents Anonymous: https://coda.org/ Produced by Nick JainaSoundscaping by Nick Jaina”YG2D Podcast Theme Song” by Nick JainaTHIS PODCAST IS MADE POSSIBLE WITH SUPPORT FROM LISTENERS LIKE YOU.Become a podcast patron now at https://www.patreon.com/YG2D.

As we move through phases in our life, we often do the work to understand the root of our struggles and our ways of thinking. Join us as Lori describes her lifelong struggle with codependency before facing a harrowing diagnosis. After the diagnosis, we will hear about Lori's “Dark Night of the Soul”, her determined recovery process, and the self care and ways of thinking she utilizes every day. Link to Co-Dependents Anonymous: coda.orgLink to Your Body Believes Every Word you Say: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Body-Believes-Every-Word/dp/0883312190Link to The Book of Awakening: https://www.amazon.com/Book-Awakening-Having-Being-Present/dp/1573241172Link to Today I Affirm: https://www.amazon.com/Today-Affirm-Journal-Nurtures-Self-Care/dp/1449495214A Beginner's guide to Qigong: https://www.everydayhealth.com/wellness/what-is-qigong-a-beginners-guide-to-this-energetic-movement-practice/Pema Chodron's Website: https://www.shambhala.com/pema-chodron/Follow Sad Times on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/373292146649249Editorial note: Sad Times is committed to sharing various stories from generous guests. The hope is to allow any number of stories to be shared to help people feel less alone and, perhaps, more empathetic. It is important to clarify that the guests' stories, perspectives, recommendations and sentiments do not necessarily reflect the views and beliefs of Sad Times in any way. 

We are exploring the world of Co-Dependents Anonymous. CoDA for short, the program explores unhealthy relationships and unhealthy boundaries through the 12 step lens. It's the 12 step program we said everyone needed when we got to our respective programs. We talk about what signs might look like that someone is struggling with co-dependency. What kinds of things have to be changed to find freedom in CoDA. And how to get started if you think CoDA might be for you. Listen in as Beverly joins us to help explore the world of Co-Dependent's Anonymous, and then share your thoughts with us. From the episode: CoDA website How to find us and join the conversation: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: RecoverySortOf@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/recoverysortof/message

In this episode of the CYM podcast, we are talking about co-dependence and Co-Dependents Anonymous (CODA). Co-Dependency is a real and serious issue that can affect our lives in many ways. In this episode, we interview a Dan'e a follow mental health advocate, mother and vlogger who has battled and overcame her issues with co-dependency and now hosts meetings to help women with similar issues. We hope that by sharing her story and experiences we can encourage our listeners to take those first steps toward getting help for those who need it. Show Resources: Co-Dependents Anonymous Website: https://coda.org/ Women Empowering Women: https://www.codawew.org/ Men Empowering Men: https://coda.org/meeting/men-empowering-men-coda-of-the-woodlands-zoom-central-time/ Dan'e's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theadvancementofwomen?_t=8WcCN7kfIpK&_r=1 Like Our Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/ConsiderYourMind/ Follow Us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/consideryourmind/ Follow Us on TikTok : https://www.tiktok.com/@consideryourmind Show Equipment Links: - Namecheap: Register Your Domains Hassle-Free - https://bit.ly/3IA5Vp6 - Bluehost: WordPress Recommended Since 2005! - https://bit.ly/3GZaCZk - NordVPN: Best VPN Deal - https://bit.ly/3FRwbtq - TONOR USB Microphone - https://amzn.to/3qLuwBh - Focusrite Scarlett 2i2 Studio 3rd Gen USB Audio Interface Bundle - https://amzn.to/3qT24NZ Disclaimer: I am a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for me to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/consider-your-mind/support

Katie's professional life introduced her to Gina Schaefer, the CEO of A Few Cool Hardware Stores. Katie was already impressed with Gina because of her success in a male-dominated industry, but she became an even bigger fan after learning about her connection to recovery. When Gina opened her first hardware store, she hoped to help revitalize the neighborhood. She had no idea it would become a safe space for people in recovery or that she would become an advocate for people in recovery and eventually write a book, but that's exactly what happened. Recovery Hardware shares stories and lessons from her employees who previously struggled with substance abuse. It helps to break down the stigma and show why those in recovery make great employees. We really enjoyed our conversation with Gina and hope you do too. Get the Book Learn about Gina Follow us at: Instagram: @recoveringtoo Facebook: @recoveringtoo Support Us: Patreon.com/recoveringtoo Resources: Anticipatory Grief Article: https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/what-is-anticipatory-grief/ Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/ Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/boyproblemspodcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/boyproblemspodcast/support

I was listening to another recovery podcast the other day and this other person was talking about how they had no idea where to find resources. It occurred to me that it would be beneficial to discuss the 12 step recovery process for those of you who aren't familiar with it so you can see if it's right for you or not. I really didn't “get” addiction until I was in my second recovery program. This week's episode 165 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about understanding the difference between a physical addiction and a process addiction! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing the importance of understanding the two-fold nature of the addiction illness and actionable steps you can take right now to better understand if a 12 step recovery program is for you. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:What physical addiction is and is not, and examples of what this looks like. What process addiction looks like, and the biggest differences between physical and process addictions.The ways in which addiction is different from abusing a substance or process, and how it includes an allergic reaction to the substance.Why people who are actively in their addiction avoid healthy people while dating, because they find them boring.We find healthy calmness in recovery, and it can take time to get used to that peacefulness. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:FacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaBetterBoundarieswithBarb.comMembership Community, Secure, Loved & BraveLinks to recovery resources:Alcoholics Anonymous: https://www.aa.org/Narcotics Anonymous: https://www.nar-anon.org/Cocaine Anonymous: https://ca.org/Al Anon: https://al-anon.org/Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families: https://adultchildren.org/Co-Dependents Anonymous: https://coda.org/Overeaters Anonymous: https://oa.org/Debtors Anonymous: https://debtorsanonymous.org/Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous: https://slaafws.org/We The Village: https://wethevillage.co/Faces & Voices of Recovery: https://facesandvoicesofrecovery.org/

I was listening to another recovery podcast the other day and this other person was talking about how they had no idea where to find resources. It occurred to me that it would be beneficial to discuss the 12 step recovery process for those of you who aren't familiar with it so you can see if it's right for you or not. I really didn't “get” addiction until I was in my second recovery program. This week's episode 165 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about understanding the difference between a physical addiction and a process addiction! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing the importance of understanding the two-fold nature of the addiction illness and actionable steps you can take right now to better understand if a 12 step recovery program is for you. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:What physical addiction is and is not, and examples of what this looks like. What process addiction looks like, and the biggest differences between physical and process addictions.The ways in which addiction is different from abusing a substance or process, and how it includes an allergic reaction to the substance.Why people who are actively in their addiction avoid healthy people while dating, because they find them boring.We find healthy calmness in recovery, and it can take time to get used to that peacefulness. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:FacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaBetterBoundarieswithBarb.comMembership Community, Secure, Loved & BraveLinks to recovery resources:Alcoholics Anonymous: https://www.aa.org/Narcotics Anonymous: https://www.nar-anon.org/Cocaine Anonymous: https://ca.org/Al Anon: https://al-anon.org/Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families: https://adultchildren.org/Co-Dependents Anonymous: https://coda.org/Overeaters Anonymous: https://oa.org/Debtors Anonymous: https://debtorsanonymous.org/Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous: https://slaafws.org/We The Village: https://wethevillage.co/Faces & Voices of Recovery: https://facesandvoicesofrecovery.org/

Have you ever found yourself planning your loved one's funeral or imagining your life without them in it? Or maybe you've felt a range of emotions around a looming change or impending loss. There's a term for this, and it's called anticipatory grief. In this episode of Boy Problems Podcast, Katie and Shannon discuss their own experiences with anticipatory grief. Shannon shares her struggles during Jay's last relapse, and Katie talks about the importance of preparation. Topics also discussed: Relationships, Drug Use, Recovery, Shame, Rehab, Marriage, Family, Separation, Relapse Other episodes referenced: 49.Sarah with Hazelden Betty Ford 51.A Mother's Love Bonus: Check-in with Liz (after episode 3) Follow us at: Instagram: @recoveringtoo Facebook: @recoveringtoo Support Us: Patreon.com/recoveringtoo Resources: Anticipatory Grief Article: https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/what-is-anticipatory-grief/ Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/ Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/boyproblemspodcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/boyproblemspodcast/support

Episode #41: In this episode we'll explore the complicated and often misunderstood topic of Codependency vs. Interdependency. In codependent relationships, one person does much of the giving and at the same time tries to get their own needs met by controlling the other person. While some people will recreate these same codependent patterns in many of their relationships, others may find that they have just one difficult relationship, in which establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is challenging. This situation often arises when we have a loved one with mental health problems, substance abuse problems, or their own unskillful ways of relating that pulls us into an anxious and imbalanced pattern of relating. Joining us for this conversation are Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) member Jill and psychotherapist and recovery specialist Kat Zwick, LMFT. This conversation is not just for those who view themselves as having codependent tendencies, but for anyone who struggles with knowing what is and is not in their control. Most of us will likely encounter this challenge at some point, with some person—a child, an aging parent, a troubled friend or an intimate partner! If you are a parent, caregiver, or spouse to this person …. the odds are greater that you will wrestle with where to draw appropriate lines about who Is responsible for what. Join us as we talk about how to find greater personal well-being, even in those more challenging relationships. Broadcast: 4/3/22 Special thanks  to Jeanne Baldzikowski for audio production, to Jennifer Young for research and outreach, and to Izzy Weisz for marketing. And thanks to acoustic guitarist Adrian Legg for composing, performing, and donating the use of our theme music. 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Your voice may just become part of one of our future shows! SUPPORT OR UNDERWRITE If you like what you're hearing here on KSQD, also affectionately called K– Squid, you can become a “Philanthropod on the Squid Squad” by becoming a supporting member  and help keep KSQD surfing the air waves! Consider underwriting your business or agency and showing our listeners your support for State of Mind. RESOURCES Websites: Co-dependents Anonymous (CoDA) World — 12-step program for those who want healthy and loving relationships. Offers information about the program, where to find meetings and resources to learn more about codependence relational patterns. NorCal CoDA — Co-Dependents Anonymous for Northern California. Providing information about the program, working the steps and where and how to attend online meetings. Out of the Fog — A website to help communicate with people who have personality disorders. National Alliance for Mental Illness – Santa Cruz County Chapter — Provides free information, education classes, and support groups and does advocacy work helping those with loved ones with mental illness. Al-Anon - Al-Anon Family Groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength, and hope in order to solve their common problems. Al-Anon sees alcoholism as a family illness and that changed attitudes can aid recovery.  Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization, or institution; does not engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self-supporting through its own voluntary contributions.  Al-Anon has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. Al-Anon does this by practicing the Twelve Steps, by welcoming and giving comfort to families of alcoholics, and by giving understanding and encouragement to the alcoholic. Alateen - Alateen is a fellowship of young Al-Anon members, usually teenagers, ages 12 to 19, whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking.  Alateen groups are sponsored by Al-Anon members who meet the current Northern California World Service Association Alateen safety requirements and have successfully completed a background check. Al-Anon/Alateen Meetings in Santa Cruz County in English and Spanish: More Information or call 831-462-1818 Download Free Al-Anon and Alateen Literature including information for professionals FAQ for Newcomers Books & Articles: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself  by Melody Beattie (1986) — Instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests to help readers key to understanding codependency and to learn to  unlock its hold . This book can help chart a path to freedom and recovery. Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller (2003) — Identifies codependent thinking, emotions and behavior and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller  (1989) — A workbook that provides a step-by-step journal-keeping method for moving toward recovery from codependence. Based on such concepts as the "precious child" and the five core symptoms of codependence, along with the Twelve-Step process of recovery used by Codependents Anonymous. Moving From Codependent to Interdependent Relationships — An article defining codependent patterns and the qualities associated with interdependent relationships published by the Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center, Nov. 29. All Books & Audio by Pia Mellody — An authority, lecturer and educator in the fields of addictions and relationships and a leading author of books on Codependency. This website contains a full listing of her publications, audio resources, as well as some free recovery articles. All Books by Melody Beattie — Author of the sentinel work, “Codependent No More,” which introduced the world to the term “Codependency” in 1986. This website contains a full listing of all her publications with descriptions as well as some recovery tools. Local Counseling Resources: Ride the Wave Recovery — Individual and Group psychotherapy for recovery from eating disorders, addictions, codependency & trauma for clients of all genders, sexualities & neurotypes. Email: admin@ridethewaverecovery.com, Phone: 831-275-541 DBT Mindfulness & Skills Group Series — For Northern California Clients Kat Zwick's 22-Week Group Series . This group is appropriate for people struggling with unmanageable codependency that leads to problematic behaviors against self or others.  Family Service Agency (FSA) of the Central Coast is a dedicated underwriter of State of Mind. FSA provides resources, support, and counseling services to adults and children.  FSA believes in the power and potential of people of all ages and backgrounds to discover their own creative solutions and welcomes people of diverse cultures, genders, sexual orientations, ages, faiths, socio-economic backgrounds.  FSA Counseling Offices offer Medi-Cal, Medicare, and low-cost, sliding scale services in both downtown Santa Cruz 831-423-9444 x200 and in Soquel 831-346-6767 x200. Spiritual Resources Recommended by Jill Mount Madonna Center — Yoga-based online spiritual classes at no cost Free YouTube meditations by Ellaeenah Jadefire Contact Guests Jill – Is able to answer questions about Co-Dependents Anonymous or advise regarding other local resources. Email: pupjill@hotmail.com Katherine (Kat) Zwick, LPCC Email: admin@ridethewaverecovery.com Interdependency Support Girls Inc. of the Central Coast - Offers leadership and self-empowerment programs for girls ages 8 to 18 led by peers or mentors at school sites in Santa Cruz, Monterey, and San Benito Counties. “Behind The Scenes at SOM” Of all of our 30+ shows this show presented the most challenge in deciding on a title.  We believe this is due to the complexities and nuances of this topic.  Below is the collection of brainstormed titles. Thank you to all our volunteers and helpers who submitted ideas!  A ponder may help elucidate more of the complexities and subtleties of this very important topic.  Enjoy! Other Title Ideas: Recovery from Codependent Patterns: The Choices We Can Make Co-Dependence Recovery: The Choices We Can Make The Co-Dependent Spectrum: Finding the Choices We Can Make The Codependent Spectrum: Reclaiming The Choices We Can Make Understanding how Co-Dependence differs from Interdependence Unlocking Co-Dependence Patterns Co-Dependence Patterns: Refocusing on the The Choices We Can Make Journey from co-dependent to Healthy Relationships From Codependency to Freedom Untangling Enmeshment - The Path to Healthy Relationships Making Different Relationship Choices Recovering from our Codependent Patterns Reclaiming our Agency: The Roadmap to Healthy or Self-Contained Relationships Journey from Enmeshment to Healthy Relationships Holding Space for Yourself in Your Relationships Setting Healthy Relationship Boundaries Relational and Independent Staying Self-Connected while Connecting with Others Caring for Self and Other in Relationship Interdependence: Balancing Care for Self and Other in Relationships Recovery from Codependent Patterns: Creating healthy boundaries Recovery from Codependent Patterns: Supporting the people we love in healthy ways Codependence vs. Interdependence: Creating healthy boundaries Codependence vs. Interdependence: Supporting others without losing ourselves

As a Recovery Mom, Step 2 can be impactful in the release of a belief of control. The recovery process offers us an opportunity to realize we are in an insane situation, and we can let go of any sense of being able to control our lives in the midst of chaos. We can, instead, focus on our recovery. Al Anon, Families Anonymous and other 12 Step programs can offer fellowship as you journey through this part of your recovery. Please seek out a 12 Step program near you, in addition to a Licensed Therapist. 3:20 - Parenting books that cover over involvement in our child's lives, and how that can hurt both the parent, and the child. The Price of Privilege, The Journey of the Heroic Parent, The Parallel Process3:30 - Definition of Enmeshment, "An inability to control our emotional involvement with another person, an exaggerated sense of empathy and responsibility for the other person's feelings, guilt or anxiety when not preoccupied with the other person's experience, intense fear of conflict in the relationship, an inability to feel happy if the other person is unhappy."3:31 - Co-Dependents Anonymous, Pia Mellody (Leading expert on Codependency)4:30 - Definition of a Family System, Psychology Today7:00 - Family of Origin definition:  "One's family of origin— the family one grew up in, as opposed to the people one currently lives with — is the place that people typically learn to become who they are. From the family of origin a person learns how to communicate, process emotions, and get needs met. People also learn many of their values and beliefs from their families." How Has Your Family of Origin Affected You? | Psychology Today8:05 - Gabor Mate turns the tables, and interviews Rich Roll on his own, Podcast: Dr. Gabor Maté On The Nexus Between Addiction & Childhood Development | Rich Roll9:00 - Adult Children of Alcoholics, Child roles: Hero, Mascot, Lost Child, Scapegoat11:00 - Step 2, Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Have you ever been in a relationship with a toxic narcissist? It's not fun. And honestly - that's putting it mildly. Like, really mildly. The mind-f*cking that toxic narcissists engage in as part of their natural state of "being" is pretty insane. I was in a relationship with a toxic narcissist over a decade ago but didn't realize that's what it even was until years later. But I also realized that this relationship, although so incredibly painful to exist in, felt similar to a relationship with someone in my family, and so even though I hated it - it was familiar, and I stayed. Until one day, I reached my breaking point and left - which is when everything got even worse. Ultimately, I am thankful for this experience. I grew stronger because of it, and it helped me realize how other relationships in my life 1. Allowed me to accept this hell of a relationship, and 2. Were eerily similar, and needed to change. This is my story. And I hope it helps you. Or someone. If it helps you, or you think it would help someone else, please share it. If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, or any kind of abusive relationship, I encourage you to seek help. If traditional therapy isn't an option, there are other resources available that I've listed below. I've also listed links to articles I used in my research for this episode. Co-Dependents Anonymous - https://recovery.org/support-groups/codependents-anonymous/ Better Help - https://www.betterhelp.com/ Signs of a Narcissist - https://mindbodygreen.com/articles/14-signs-of-narcissism 7 Types of Narcissists - https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/personality/7-types-of-narcissists-and-what-to-look-for/ Grey Rock - https://healthline.com/health/grey-rock

Jo answers your questions... "I struggle with the 12 step label of once a codependent, always a codependent. Is this just my own resistance and denial?" / "My partner of 3.5 years refuses to sleep at my house. Am I unreasonable for needing this?" / "Love the idea of love and heavily depend on others but also have commitment issues... How?" / "How to successfully heal from a codependent relationship when also co-parenting with them?" / "Can two codependents, aware of their people pleasing behaviours, be friends?" • Content warning for all shows: Potential mention of abuse, coercion, trauma, addiction and mental health issues.• Follow Jo on Instagram to submit your questions in her stories every Monday: http://instagram.com/jowestwood• Join the Wildly Worthy Recovery Community here: http://wildlyworthy.mn.co• Links to resources mentioned in show:List of global Co-Dependents Anonymous websites: https://coda.org/coda-area-contacts/coda-area-contacts-global/External blog review of several co-parenting apps: https://separ8.co.uk/tips-advice/co-parenting-apps-which-one-to-choose/Episode 3 featuring self worth building tips: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/episode-3-q-a/id1576679526?i=1000532714169Episode 11 featuring more on codependent/codependent relationships: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/episode-11-q-a/id1576679526?i=1000539515980 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I was always striving but didn't know what I was striving for!" On today's episode of “Happiness Through Hardship - The Podcast, boundaries coach, Barb Nangle takes us through her addiction recovery journey and how she found a new meaning of life. For years she had been going to therapy but never seemed to be able to get to the root of her addiction. Barb shares her new perspectives including the importance of healthy boundaries and fulfilling relationships. She also talks about three tools that helped her and many others find joy and purpose in life. This episode is filled with heart and tons of resources for those touched with addition or other obstacles in life. SHOW NOTES 6:15 - Barb talks about her therapy background and discovering the word ‘codependent' 7:31 - Barb realizes she needs to be reparented 9:14 - Barb explains what Al Anon is 10:55 - Barb shares her history with substance abuse 13:32 - Barb shares the importance of healthy boundaries 14:56 - Barb walks through her Three Tools of Recovery 21:45 - Barb explains how her life has gone from chaos to serenity 23:40 - Barb shares several helpful resources for anyone dealing with something similar 26:08 - Barb emphasizes that addiction is a mental illness and not a moral failing 27:33 - Barb tells us what brings her joy in life 33:18 - Barb and Caryn play The Grateful Game RESOURCES on episode Alcoholics Anonymous: https://www.aa.org/ Narcotics Anonymous: https://www.nar-anon.org/ Cocaine Anonymous: https://ca.org/ Al Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families: https://adultchildren.org/ Co-Dependents Anonymous: https://coda.org/ Overeaters Anonymous: https://oa.org/ Debtors Anonymous: https://debtorsanonymous.org/ Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous: https://slaafws.org/ We The Village: https://wethevillage.co/ Faces & Voices of Recovery: https://facesandvoicesofrecovery.org/ CONNECT with Barb Barb's Website/Podcast - Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery: https://higherpowercc.com/ and https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higherpowercoaching/?hl=en CONNECT with us www.PrettyWellness.com/podcast - for more information on the podcast episodes 
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We are so excited for Dr. Emily Jamea to join us today as we discuss intimacy during addiction and throughout recovery. How do we navigate rebuilding relationships with someone who has broken our trust? How do we become intimate with ourselves? Listen in as Dr. Emily shares tips on the types of hurdles we may encounter in our relationship with our recovering loved one. Topics also discussed: Sex Intimacy Self-Care Relationships Addiction Trust Love Follow us at: Instagram: @boyproblemspod Twitter: @boyprobspodcast Facebook: @boyproblemspod Additional Resources: Website: https://emilyjamea.com/  Podcast: Sex and Love with Dr. Emily Jamea Instagram: @dremilyjamea Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/ Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/boyproblemspodcast/message

A short clip on Siblinghood of Recovery's intent, which is basically three simple things: 1) share as much information as possible, 2) focus on self-education, and 3) be a part of the recovery community. Addiction is not an easy road to travel, but it is a journey where you'll find many connections ready to be a support to healing. Join us, listen, and know you're not alone. Al Anon, https://al-anon.org/Co Dependents Anonymous, https://coda.org/Families Anonymous, https://www.familiesanonymous.org/AA, https://aa.org/Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Kelly discusses her very first time... in therapy and every SINGLE type of therapy she's tried since (hint: it's a lot). From trauma group therapy, to eating disorder support, to Co-Dependents Anonymous, to freakin' couples therapy with her narcissistic ex - Kelly has seen it all and shares her experience and why she still goes to therapy every week after 6 years. Plus, we react to your first therapy experiences. Watch the podcast on YouTube here Follow Kelly: @_kellyu Follow Therapy Thursday: @therapythursday_ Thank you to our sweet sponsor, Diva! Follow @thedivacup and @carinnedivacup on Instagram Want more content? Join our Patreon for monthly live hangouts and 1 on 1 Zoom calls with Kelly!

Karla Amador (She/hers/her) is the founder and CEO of the 52 Hike Challenge and Thrive Finance. She is a seeker, a digital nomad, natural spiritual teacher, yogi, intuitive, and much much more. In this episode, we discuss: How the practice of taking care of herself is bringing her joy right now How she struggled with perfectionism and was hard on herself Her experience with rock bottom Why trusting our inner knowing is so incredibly hard and so incredibly important What co-dependency is and how it manifested for Karla Why, many times, co-dependents find and create relationships with addicts How she discusses codependency and emotional intelligence with her son How therapy can help us dig through family dynamics and come to a more loving and empathetic place How helpful EMDR therapy is to uncover and work through trauma The cycle of self-sabotage How she thinks about trauma Recovery options for co-dependency How hiking became a crucial part of Karla coming back to herself How the 52 Hike Challenge was born Letting go and finding self-love Resources mentioned: Co-Dependents Anonymous 52 Hike Challenge Website Instagram Catch Up With Karla: Karla's Instagram Thank you, as always, for listening to this episode. Please free free to follow along on the show's Instagram, our private Facebook group, or wherever you'd like. We also have a Patreon if you're interested in supporting everything Nature Untold is cooking up.

Adi Jaffe is a best-selling author, highly sought-after speaker, and nationally recognized expert on mental health and relationships. He was a UCLA lecturer in the Psychology department for the better part of a decade and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country - until he started IGNTD. During his undergraduate career at UCLA, Adi struggled with drug issues and was immersed in the drug-dealing world in Los Angeles. He used his challenges to turn it all around and now has a tool to connect with others and help them find their own inspiration and power. He speaks with us today about his relationship with addiction, intimacy, and building trust within himself and others. Adi gives his expert advice on overcoming shame and leaning into mental health and wellness, and resources on how to further explore his cutting-edge and powerful programs.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Sherry and Carla may have the same birthday and a lot of other similarities, but they find one glaring difference — Carla is a cat person and loves their independent nature, and Sherry will take all the slobbery, excitable dogs. Which one are you? A Love Fix Question about how to support a needy friend while still setting and maintaining your own boundaries. Adi talks openly about his addiction to meth and arrest that eventually led to his rock bottom moment of reckoning. He also explains why he defines addiction as a syndrome rather than a disease, and the four factors that come heavily into play. Adi’s IGNTD program shows others that it’s never too late to change your path and work towards healing and redemption, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence. We talk with Adi about how addiction and issues with intimacy and sexual addiction go hand in hand, and how his harm reduction model doesn’t always call for abstinence as the answer. Adi opens up about the ups and downs in his own relationship, and how he and his wife worked through things, built trust, and now have a quicker and more direct path to conflict resolution. Our advice for someone whose partner is not willing to do the work. Adi’s book The Abstinence Myth is a new approach for overcoming addiction without shame, judgement, or rules.   Tweetables: “When you find something you are passionate about, it changes the world.” - Adi “For all of us, the work is internal. We all have to work on ourselves, but not everybody does.” - Adi “If someone doesn’t want to be with you and they make it clear, they are giving you a gift. They are allowing you to untangle yourself from something keeping you anchored.” - Adi   Connect with Us!   The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership    The Love Fix Relationship Quiz      Get professional online counseling with BetterHelp by clicking here. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode.   Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp    Adi Jaffe Instagram | Tedx Talk | IGNTD | The Abstinence Myth    Find Out More:  Co-Dependents Anonymous  Al-Anon

Join us as we talk to We The Village Founder and CEO, Jane Macky. Her partner’s journey through addiction, then recovery, inspired her to offer more to the community of fellow family members going through the same things. She’s recently launched online courses with coaching. We discuss this and her philosophy on helping clients reach their goals. She’s a gem and we know you’ll love her! Topics also discussed: Recovery Marriage Moderation Drugs Addiction Substance abuse disorder Online community CRAFT Follow us at: Instagram: @boyproblemspod Twitter: @boyprobspodcast Facebook: @boyproblemspod Additional Resources: We The Village: https://wethevillage.co/ Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/ Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/boy-problems-pod/message

At the top of the episode, we talk about if birth order really does make a difference when you are dating, and then we talk about present day breakups and why people's politics and pandemic perspectives are high on people’s list of reasons to split. Then, we are joined by Damona Hoffman, dating coach and media personality who is also a regular contributor to The Drew Barrymore Show, The LA Times, The Washington Post, and host of the Dates & Mates podcast! Damona talks about why it’s important to still be online dating during a pandemic, and how right now can be weird but an amazing time to date to talk about safety and beliefs with prospective partners.    What You’ll Hear In This Episode:    Does birth order really matter when it comes to dating compatibility? Find out from Sherry, the oldest, and Carla, the baby!  A Love Fix question about dating in a pandemic! Is it worth it? How do you still find a connection and an actually good relationship in the middle of a pandemic? Dating Coach and Media Personality Damona Hoffman gives us her thoughts on why we need to add online dating to our portfolio, and as the official dating expert and spokesperson of OkCupid, we think she’s pretty qualified!  Should you be online dating if you are healing from codependency?  How to navigate online dating during a pandemic and time with a lot of civil unrest and differing political opinions!  Are couples that form during a pandemic more likely to stick together, or break up as soon as the outside world resumes?  The intensity of COVID may bring up heavier conversations at the start of a relationship where couples are mindful about their values and expectations.  Damona gives her advice on dealing with racial bias in dating, and why it’s important to broaden your perspectives when it comes to love.  It’s a numbers game baby! Don’t take online rejection as a statement about who you are as a person and potential partner. Keep swiping.    Tweetables:    “Yes, you have to be on a dating app!” - Damona  “If you are really focused on finding a relationship and making a connection, have a dating portfolio. It’s important to be diversified in your dating portfolio.” - Damona “It’s important with online dating that you don’t look at this as a reflection of you and your worthiness and quality as a match.” - Carla “It’s a numbers game.” - Sherry’s dad   Connect with Us!      The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership    The Love Fix Relationship Quiz      Get professional online counseling with BetterHelp by clicking here.  Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode.    Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp    Damona  Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Dates and Mates Podcast  Find Out More:  Co-Dependents Anonymous  Al-Anon  

We kick off this week with a Love Fix question regarding dating in your 40’s as a single parent, and invite you to open up your world to other single parents! Then, we welcome Carista Luminare and Lion Goodman to discuss the Four Attachment Styles in love, how to know which one you are, and why certain ones always seem to attract their opposite. We also talk about what really makes a narcissist want to work on their behavior, how to spot red flags as you are out there on the dating scene, and how to know when to call it quits.   Carista Luminare, Ph.D., has more than 40 years experience as a counselor, consultant and educator to individuals, couples and families. In her counseling practice, she integrates her lifelong research on early bonding patterns and how they impact our identity and our adult relationship dynamics.   Lion Goodman, PCC, is CEO of Luminary Leadership Institute and creator of the Clear Beliefs Method. He has 35 years experience as an executive coach, counselor, and healer. In 1984, he founded The Goodman Group, an executive search and consulting firm which served more than 250 companies and C-suite executives during its 18-year history.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode:   Our real and transparent feelings about sharing our private life online as a therapist and coach. A Love Fix question about dating after 40 as a single parent, and who we really feel you should take a look at. Lion and Carista share their individual and joint interesting and impressive backgrounds as healers, educators, coaches and more. We discuss what trauma bonds are, why we have them, and how our attachment style is influenced by the relationship with our primary caregiver. More about the four attachment/love styles: secure, insecure anxious, insecure avoidant, and insecure traumatic. Why people with insecure attachment styles and codependency tend to seek out narcissists and avoidants. A free tool to take a quiz on Lion and Carista’s site to see what attachment style you may be, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.  Some red flags to look for when dating, and what to do at the first sign of them popping up. Also, how to know when to call it quits and walk away. The narcissist and codependent agree on one thing — who is most important! A narcissist can possibly heal if they are willing to care about the feelings of their partner, own their emotions, and work to repair the situation. Yes, codependent behavior can be self absorbed as well! Is it possible for a partner with secure attachment and another with insecure attachment to work? Advice for a situation where one partner goes to therapy and tries to work on things, and the other partner doesn’t.   Tweetables:   “Our judgements are just reflections of things we need to work on.” — Carla “The reason narcissists and codependents get together is they most agree on who is most important!” — Lion “If you want time with your partner, then ask for it. If you want space from your partner, then ask for it. Just do it in a loving way.” — Carista   Connect with Us!      The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership    The Love Fix Relationship Quiz      Get professional online counseling with BetterHelp by clicking here.  Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode.    Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp    Carista Luminare and Lion Goodman Website | Cleaf Beliefs   Find Out More:  Co-Dependents Anonymous  Al-Anon

We kick off the episode with Sherry’s secret behind that Fountain of Youth looking glow. Then, we are joined by Lisa Ferentz, clinical social worker, author, and psychotherapist who has been in private practice for over 30 years. Lisa is an expert on helping people transcend trauma and toxic relationships to find their self-worth and inner sense of power. We talk with Lisa more about how to recognize a narcissist, why victims of abuse are not cowardly or weak, and why codependent people tend to rush into one destructive relationship after another. Lisa also provides some of her great resources for realizing the power you hold within yourself and letting go of self-destructive behaviors.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode:   A Love Fix Question about “dating yourself”! Why codependency and self-destructive relationships go together, and what keeps someone in the cycle of self-sabotage. Lisa’s workbooks and resources that help foster positive self talk, self compassion, and positive self care. The more independent we become, the more we focus inward and rely less on trying to focus outward and change others.  It takes a lot of courage for someone to leave an abusive or codependent relationship. Abusers tend to make their victims feel isolated and dependent, which further takes away their ability to find the resources needed to break away. Why codependent people have to really work at not getting into another relationship right away. How trauma can affect us differently based on the meaning and power we choose to give it. A glimpse into the brain of a true narcissist, and a surprising fact about just how many people in our society have narcissistic tendencies! How attachment, connection, and empathy for a narcissist just may not be possible, and if this is a result of nature, nurture, or both. Oftentimes, a codependent and narcissist will find each other and have a relationship that feels like a coexistence rather than a true intimacy. Men can be victims as well. It takes a tremendous amount of courage and support to be able to step away from a toxic or abusive relationship.   Tweetables:   “When you are in a codependent relationship, there is a real loss of a sense of self.” - Lisa “There is a reason why Bumble banned men taking mirror selfies on their app.” - Lisa “When you are in an abusive relationship, you are alone” - Lisa   Connect with Us!      The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership    The Love Fix Relationship Quiz      Get professional online counseling with BetterHelp by clicking here.  Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode.    Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp    Lisa Ferentz Finding Your Ruby Slippers | The Ferentz Institute | Letting Go Of Self Destructive Behaviors     Find Out More:  Co-Dependents Anonymous  Al-Anon

We’ve been talking about this for a year?! Today’s episode is a walk down memory lane. We discuss our favorite episodes, lessons learned and this crazy journey that is addiction. Thank you for joining us on this ride, we hope you keep coming back. Topics also discussed: Recovery Relapse Drugs Addiction Substance abuse disorder Opioid Use Disorder Follow us at: Instagram: @boyproblemspod Twitter: @boyprobspodcast Facebook: @boyproblemspod Additional Resources: Bowen Center: https://www.bowencenter.org/ Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/ Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/boy-problems-pod/message

Today we discuss the science of addiction with Dr. Greer, a physician trained in addiction medicine who serves as the director and physician for Bowen Recovery Center, an opioid recovery center. She sheds light on how addiction impacts the brain, medical assisted treatments and how we can help change the stigma around addiction. Topics also discussed: Medical assisted treatments Recovery Relapse Drugs Addiction Stigma Substance abuse disorder Opioid Use Disorder Mental health Follow us at: Instagram: @boyproblemspod Twitter: @boyprobspodcast Facebook: @boyproblemspod Additional Resources: Bowen Center: https://www.bowencenter.org/ Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/ Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/boy-problems-pod/message

Liquor sales have soared through the roof with the onset of the global pandemic. You’re not alone if your alcohol consumption has increased this year. Do you ever wonder how much is okay? Have you asked yourself if you should cut back? In this episode, we talk with Dr. Jorja Jamison from Hazelden Betty Ford Graduate School of Addiction Studies. She talks about substance abuse disorders, ways to reflect on our own alcohol use, and how to recognize when we or someone we know has a problem with an addiction. September is National Recovery Month, and we hope we can shed a little more light on the terrible disease that is addiction. Afterward, we hope you’ll have a framework for how you relate to alcohol. Key takeawaysA little about herself, her career path, and what she doesWhat substance abuse disorder or addiction isCommon criteria most people qualify forRoot causes for developing addictionsHow COVID-19 has affected substance abuse disorders and alcohol useWhen it’s okay/not okay to consume alcoholFour levels of abuseMost common addiction she has seenUnique challenges she has seen when dealing with medical professionals and addictionCommon signs of addictionWhat recovery is likeWays people can find connection and improve their coping skillsCoping tips she recommendsWhere boredom comes into playWhat the 12-step program is all about and how successful it isAdditional resources she recommends for those who are looking for helpDefinition of co-dependenceHow it plays out in addictions in the familyThree Cs of Al-AnonAt one point is intervention recommendedHow to effectively deal when you’re struggling with somethingBenefits of going through the program and how it transforms people’s livesHer message for the listenersLinksAlcohol Use Disorders Identification Test (AUDIT) - https://auditscreen.org/Alcoholics Anonymous - https://www.aa.org/Narcotics Anonymous - https://www.na.org/Co-Dependents Anonymous - https://coda.org/Medication Assisted Treatment (MAT) for Substance Use Addiction - https://www.smartrecovery.org/what-is-medication-assisted-treatment-mat/Al-Anon - https://al-anon.org/Jorja Jamison, PhD, LP, Associate Professor Bio:PhD, University of Illinois - Urbana Champaign, Counseling PsychologyMS, University of Illinois - Urbana Champaign, Educational PsychologyBA, University of North Carolina - Chapel Hill, Latin Language and LiteratureDr. Jorja Jamison is an Associate Professor at the Hazelden Betty Ford GraduateSchool of Addiction Studies. She has a PhD in counseling psychology with academicand research interests in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ)issues, multicultural counseling, supervision, and addiction. Dr. Jamison joined theHazelden Betty Ford Graduate School of Addiction Studies in 2012. She served asthe clinical placement coordinator for 2.5 years. She has taught several courses,including multicultural counseling, differential diagnosis, professional practice, andlifespan development. She is also a licensed psychologist in the state of Minnesotawith specialization in working with individuals with substance use disorders,adolescents, vocational issues, and culturally responsive counseling. She haspresented at national conferences including the American Psychological Associationand the National Conference on Addictive Disorders.

From handwringing to problem solvingHost Nick Nanton speaks with three of the foremost experts in addiction — https://www.drhallowell.com/ (Dr. Ned Hallowell), https://health.usnews.com/doctors/andrew-nanton-631202 (Dr. Andrew Nanton), and https://geniusnetwork.com/ (Joe Polish). Topics of discussion include addicts being unable to receive treatment due to the quarantine associated with COVID-19, how those affected by A.D.D. are currently dealing with isolation, and ways that people can support one another — not only through the toughest of times but daily, once the world resumes its traditional functions. Timestamps:2:41: Concerns for addiction during quarantine 5:55: Resources for addiction issues 7:15: A.D.D. — scratching that itch 10:39: Maladaptive ways that lead to addiction 17:57: The current marketplace for addiction 20:18: What to be on the lookout for 26:21: How do you know if you have an addiction? 33:06: Reaching out to others 35:07: Three ways of overcoming addictive behaviors 39:40: Insight to the entrepreneur marketplace 49:10: Coping mechanisms and encouragement Resources:https://www.amazon.com/Driven-Distraction-Revised-Recognizing-Attention/dp/0307743152 (Driven to Distraction) https://www.amazon.com/Miracle-Morning-Addiction-Recovery-Letting-ebook/dp/B07DWBQSY3 (The Miracle Morning for Addiction Recovery) https://geniusrecovery.org/ (GeniusRecovery.com) https://www.amazon.com/Road-Success-Nick-Nanton/dp/0997536624 (Jack Canfield) https://coda.org/ (Co-Dependents Anonymous) https://www.parkdietzassociates.com/ (Park Dietz and Associates) https://www.amazon.com/Game-Changer-Dan-Sullivan-Story/dp/B07KJMZNN4 (Dan Sullivan) Connect With Nick Nanton:http://www.nicknanton.com/ (Website) https://www.facebook.com/Nicknanton (Facebook) http://twitter.com/nicknanton (Twitter) https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicknanton (LinkedIn) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWOvnpNMTX4pKVIi234pOTg (YouTube)

Addiction impacts your relationship with your partner. Whether alcohol, drug, or another addiction, it doesn’t live in isolation. Your relationship is affected. In this episode, Ross Hill, MMFT, LMFT, CAC-P, shares his knowledge of addiction from years of working with substance use issues. He gives helpful advice and encouragement for both partners, whether you’re not using and trying to establish boundaries and support for your partner, or whether you’re the one struggling with addiction and unsure of how to get help.     What are the signs that may tell someone if their partner is experiencing a substance use issue? It can be hard to notice. Addiction is often hidden, whether out of fear, low self-worth, guilt, shame, or embarrassment. While you might not see the actual use, it’s the effects of substance abuse that are harder to hide. Difficulty keeping a job, problems paying bills, changes in family relationships could all stem from a substance use issue. Missing money, missing time, secretive habits, or a change in mood may all be signs. It can quickly change from recreational to dependency. Your partner coming home and having a couple of drinks can turn into avoiding family and avoiding outings that would limit their ability to drink.   What do you do if you think your partner might have a problem with addiction? If you notice any of these issues in your partner, approach them kindly and with care. Even if you aren’t sure what’s going on, but you start to see signs that there is an issue of some sort, talk to your partner. For example, you might say, “Hey, I’ve noticed that our money is a little different than it used to be and you seem like you’re not spending as much time with us. I’m not trying to attack, but I’m concerned about you. I don’t know what’s going on but I really care about you and want you to know that you can talk to me about anything.” Try to decrease fear, shame, and guilt to give your partner the space to share whatever they’re going through, whether it’s addiction, depression, low self-worth, suicidal thoughts, or anything else. Seeing your partner struggle with a substance use disorder can be confusing and very frustrating. Remember, it is not your job to “fix” this. Your role as a support person is to encourage your partner to do things that will be good for them (therapy, accountability, boundaries, social support). Know that their recovery is not your responsibility or your fault. And you can still be a support in healthy ways.   What do you do if you think you might have a problem with addiction? If you’re the one who is struggling with an addiction or unwanted habit, know that addiction feeds on guilt and shame. A substance creates a problem and tells you it’s the answer to that problem. The first step to recovering is bringing the issue into the light. Talk to your spouse. Ask for help. While you of course want to stop using, withdrawals can also be dangerous. Consult your doctor on the best way to handle quitting use of any substances. There can be genetic and environmental causes of substance use disorders. While you might not be able to change your genetics or your past circumstances in life, you can seek help now. “Mental health is not your fault, but it is your responsibility.”   What you and your partner can do today to be open about addiction and gain support in healing: Have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your family histories: are there any concerns in other family members, how did other family members cope? Whether or not there is a family history, it’s important to discuss and to recognize how each of you might be at risk for dealing with addiction. If one or both of you is already struggling with substance abuse, be willing to ask “What are you going through? How are you?” Create space for open communication and acceptance. If you’re the partner who is dealing with a substance use issue, set aside specific time for a conversation with your partner to talk with them. For the partner who’s listening, focus on just listening and know that you don’t have to fix the issue. If there’s an issue developing, seek treatment now. Don’t wait. You may be worried that having a difficult conversation and confronting substance use might ruin your relationship. But if you let the problem escalate, your relationship is much more likely to be affected or ruined.   Resources: Everything You Think You Know About Addiction is Wrong: Johann Hari, Ted Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PY9DcIMGxMs Alcoholics Anonymous: https://www.aa.org/ Narcotics Anonymous: https://www.na.org/ Al-Anon Family Groups: https://al-anon.org/ Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/ Favor: https://facesandvoicesofrecovery.org/ Celebrate Recovery (Christian faith perspective): https://www.celebraterecovery.com/   Connect with Ross: Ross is a Marriage and Family Therapist and addictions counselor. He enjoys working with couples & individuals and looks for opportunities to spread awareness about mental health. He believes that everyone has the strength to overcome the obstacles they face, with the proper tools. Ross sees clients at his private practice in Spartanburg, SC. Rosshill.mft@gmail.com https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/ross-hill-spartanburg-sc/421557   Special thanks to: Will Gladden of LEVEL Digital Music Entertainment for making the music for the podcast. http://www.leveldme.com/   Connect with me:  My mission with the Marriaging podcast is to help you create a more authentic and connected relationship. I’m always working to provide you with the best help for improving communication and intimacy in your marriage. Please subscribe and leave a rating and a review to support the podcast. Connect with me at marriagingpodcast.com Facebook: @marriagingpodcast Instagram: @marriagingpodcast Twitter: @marriagingpod

Amanda Anderson joins me to talk friendship on episode #23.  Female friendships can be challenging, but Amanda has some great thoughts on being intentional and going after the relationships we want. Amanda and I talk about authenticity in friendships and what it looks like to go deeper.  She explains what self-awareness has to do with friendship, how you can’t share yourself authentically if you don’t know yourself.  We also talk about finding the time for friendship and how sometimes you just have to fit it in where you can.  Amanda tells us her best friend calls her on the way to work every day and sometimes she’ll do “multi-task friend dating” where she and a girlfriend will run their errands together.  In her book, Amanda quotes Jim Rohm saying “we become the average of the five people we spend the most time with.” That’s a big deal!  We need to be super intentional about who our friends are.  Amanda shares some differences between having flawed friends (all of us, right?) verses having foolish people in our lives. We also talk about what to do when your feelings are hurt by a friend or if you’ve hurt someone else.  Amanda tells us about accountability in friendships and how to invite others to hold us accountable for things we’re trying to overcome or goals we’ve set for ourselves. I loved chatting with Amanda.  She is fun and knowledgeable and definitely someone I’d call a friend.   Mentioned in this episode All My Friends Have Issues “Walk with wise and become wise.  Associate with fools and get in trouble.”  Proverbs 13:20 (NLT) Episode #18 with Tilly Dillehay Boundaries book Co-Dependents Anonymous   Amanda’s Favorite 5 Camo Skinny Jeans New Girl Being Married Embroidery Her Friends!   Connect with Amanda Instagram | Facebook | Website   Connect with Girls Talking Life Show Notes for this Episode | Instagram | Facebook

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, it is my honor to welcome DJ as he shares his personal journey with you. Having people come in and share the details of their life is one of the best parts of this platform! DJ is a therapist who works in the Seattle area. He specifically works with patients who are struggling with sexual addiction, codependency, and other process addictions. He is the best-selling author of I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Sex and Love Addict, and his story is one of bravery, honesty, and hope. Listen along and learn more DJ's story! Key Moments in DJ's Life That Led to Realization As DJ shares early in the interview, it wasn't until he moved from Georgia to Seattle that he began to realize the extent of his psychological hang-ups. Before, he had moved from place to place in an attempt to run from his problems, but he soon began to grasp his compulsions with more clarity. While DJ was in Georgia, he experienced relationship problems. As he says during the talk, “when you talk about being gay in the south, you don't get a lot of support.” And on top of this, same-sex marriage was illegal at the time, so DJ and his partner decided to move to Seattle. At this point in his life, DJ was exhausted from his caregiving profession. Being a natural caregiver, DJ had always found ways to give more to others than himself. But that certainly sapped a lot of energy from DJ. He needed a break! Soon though, he realized he had been in a dysfunctional relationship with his husband from day one. Hear this part of DJ story in his own words. Listen along! Other Problems That DJ Faced at the Time He says that he struggled with poorly established boundaries in his relationship, as well as codependency that manifested itself in a ‘fix-it' mentality for DJ. He states that fixing people and things are all he's always known. And so his relationship made it hard for him to shake that compulsion. DJ also talks about how difficult it was to have a partner who stored porn on a hard drive and who viewed it regularly, sometimes sitting right next to DJ on the couch. This negatively affected DJ's self-esteem and desire to be available for sex. His insecurities got so severe that he says he was drowning his sorrows in alcohol and porn himself. All of this after his partner started regularly meeting up with a porn star for dinner. DJ discusses more about this time in his life during the interview. New Relationship, Same Scenario Shortly after moving to Seattle, DJ tells us that he and his partner split up. This was just 2 weeks after moving, so DJ didn't have a job and tried his hardest to get enough money to move out of the apartment he shared with his ex. He got a job and then found himself in a new relationship. But it soon became the same old relationship dynamic he had always known. After he got married again, that's when his sex addiction showed up. DJ's Sex Addiction Once he was married again and living in Seattle, he and his partner decided to pursue an open relationship. They both were curious about the dynamic, and from within that framework, they embraced the lifestyle. DJ said he was immediately hooked. He and his partner had originally pursed outside relationships together, but they soon branched off and did their own thing within the set of rules they had laid out. But coupled with a drinking problem and an increasingly growing sexual appetite, DJ started to realize that he was in trouble. This realization came from a shocking physical confrontation and his spiral out of control. DJ's Recovery Process Once DJ's partner agreed to go to treatment for his alcohol addiction, DJ realized his struggles and addictions. He says that when he filled out the assessment for Co-Dependents Anonymous, he checked off every single box on the sheet of paper. He also started attending Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous meetings as well. In a similar manner, he found himself checking off the majority of preliminary assessment questions. He said it was absolutely heartbreaking to have the truth right in front of him in black and white. It also led DJ to discover an event in his life that had opened up everything to him. His meetings brought the necessary context for him to have the crucial breakthroughs that he needed to have. For much more on the story, including how spirituality helped him recover, his work with helping people, his amazing marriage and son, and his happy ending, listen along! Key Links for DJ DJ's website: http://www.djburr.com/ DJ's podcasts: Journey On Podcast || Making an Addict Affiliate link for DJ's book, I Just Wanted Love: https://amzn.to/2VcKLIB More info: Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com Web – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/ Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/ If you're enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcast Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/More info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, it is my honor to welcome DJ as he shares his personal journey with you. Having people come in and share the details of their life is one of the best parts of this platform!DJ is a therapist who works in the Seattle area. He specifically works with patients who are struggling with sexual addiction, codependency, and other process addictions. He is the best-selling author of I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Sex and Love Addict, and his story is one of bravery, honesty, and hope.Listen along and learn more DJ’s story!Key Moments in DJ’s Life That Led to RealizationAs DJ shares early in the interview, it wasn’t until he moved from Georgia to Seattle that he began to realize the extent of his psychological hang-ups. Before, he had moved from place to place in an attempt to run from his problems, but he soon began to grasp his compulsions with more clarity.While DJ was in Georgia, he experienced relationship problems. As he says during the talk, “when you talk about being gay in the south, you don’t get a lot of support.” And on top of this, same-sex marriage was illegal at the time, so DJ and his partner decided to move to Seattle.At this point in his life, DJ was exhausted from his caregiving profession. Being a natural caregiver, DJ had always found ways to give more to others than himself. But that certainly sapped a lot of energy from DJ. He needed a break! Soon though, he realized he had been in a dysfunctional relationship with his husband from day one.Hear this part of DJ story in his own words. Listen along!Other Problems That DJ Faced at the TimeHe says that he struggled with poorly established boundaries in his relationship, as well as codependency that manifested itself in a ‘fix-it’ mentality for DJ. He states that fixing people and things are all he’s always known. And so his relationship made it hard for him to shake that compulsion.DJ also talks about how difficult it was to have a partner who stored porn on a hard drive and who viewed it regularly, sometimes sitting right next to DJ on the couch. This negatively affected DJ’s self-esteem and desire to be available for sex.His insecurities got so severe that he says he was drowning his sorrows in alcohol and porn himself. All of this after his partner started regularly meeting up with a porn star for dinner.DJ discusses more about this time in his life during the interview.New Relationship, Same ScenarioShortly after moving to Seattle, DJ tells us that he and his partner split up. This was just 2 weeks after moving, so DJ didn’t have a job and tried his hardest to get enough money to move out of the apartment he shared with his ex.He got a job and then found himself in a new relationship. But it soon became the same old relationship dynamic he had always known.After he got married again, that’s when his sex addiction showed up.DJ’s Sex AddictionOnce he was married again and living in Seattle, he and his partner decided to pursue an open relationship. They both were curious about the dynamic, and from within that framework, they embraced the lifestyle.DJ said he was immediately hooked. He and his partner had originally pursed outside relationships together, but they soon branched off and did their own thing within the set of rules they had laid out.But coupled with a drinking problem and an increasingly growing sexual appetite, DJ started to realize that he was in trouble. This realization came from a shocking physical confrontation and his spiral out of control.DJ’s Recovery ProcessOnce DJ’s partner agreed to go to treatment for his alcohol addiction, DJ realized his struggles and addictions. He says that when he filled out the assessment for Co-Dependents Anonymous, he checked off every single box on the sheet of paper. He also started attending Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous meetings as well. In a similar manner, he found himself checking off the majority of preliminary assessment questions.He said it was absolutely heartbreaking to have the truth right in front of him in black and white. It also led DJ to discover an event in his life that had opened up everything to him. His meetings brought the necessary context for him to have the crucial breakthroughs that he needed to have.For much more on the story, including how spirituality helped him recover, his work with helping people, his amazing marriage and son, and his happy ending, listen along!Key Links for DJDJ’s website: http://www.djburr.com/DJ’s podcasts: Journey On Podcast || Making an AddictAffiliate link for DJ’s book, I Just Wanted Love: https://amzn.to/2VcKLIBMore info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, it is my honor to welcome DJ as he shares his personal journey with you. Having people come in and share the details of their life is one of the best parts of this platform!DJ is a therapist who works in the Seattle area. He specifically works with patients who are struggling with sexual addiction, codependency, and other process addictions. He is the best-selling author of I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Sex and Love Addict, and his story is one of bravery, honesty, and hope.Listen along and learn more DJ’s story!Key Moments in DJ’s Life That Led to RealizationAs DJ shares early in the interview, it wasn’t until he moved from Georgia to Seattle that he began to realize the extent of his psychological hang-ups. Before, he had moved from place to place in an attempt to run from his problems, but he soon began to grasp his compulsions with more clarity.While DJ was in Georgia, he experienced relationship problems. As he says during the talk, “when you talk about being gay in the south, you don’t get a lot of support.” And on top of this, same-sex marriage was illegal at the time, so DJ and his partner decided to move to Seattle.At this point in his life, DJ was exhausted from his caregiving profession. Being a natural caregiver, DJ had always found ways to give more to others than himself. But that certainly sapped a lot of energy from DJ. He needed a break! Soon though, he realized he had been in a dysfunctional relationship with his husband from day one.Hear this part of DJ story in his own words. Listen along!Other Problems That DJ Faced at the TimeHe says that he struggled with poorly established boundaries in his relationship, as well as codependency that manifested itself in a ‘fix-it’ mentality for DJ. He states that fixing people and things are all he’s always known. And so his relationship made it hard for him to shake that compulsion.DJ also talks about how difficult it was to have a partner who stored porn on a hard drive and who viewed it regularly, sometimes sitting right next to DJ on the couch. This negatively affected DJ’s self-esteem and desire to be available for sex.His insecurities got so severe that he says he was drowning his sorrows in alcohol and porn himself. All of this after his partner started regularly meeting up with a porn star for dinner.DJ discusses more about this time in his life during the interview.New Relationship, Same ScenarioShortly after moving to Seattle, DJ tells us that he and his partner split up. This was just 2 weeks after moving, so DJ didn’t have a job and tried his hardest to get enough money to move out of the apartment he shared with his ex.He got a job and then found himself in a new relationship. But it soon became the same old relationship dynamic he had always known.After he got married again, that’s when his sex addiction showed up.DJ’s Sex AddictionOnce he was married again and living in Seattle, he and his partner decided to pursue an open relationship. They both were curious about the dynamic, and from within that framework, they embraced the lifestyle.DJ said he was immediately hooked. He and his partner had originally pursed outside relationships together, but they soon branched off and did their own thing within the set of rules they had laid out.But coupled with a drinking problem and an increasingly growing sexual appetite, DJ started to realize that he was in trouble. This realization came from a shocking physical confrontation and his spiral out of control.DJ’s Recovery ProcessOnce DJ’s partner agreed to go to treatment for his alcohol addiction, DJ realized his struggles and addictions. He says that when he filled out the assessment for Co-Dependents Anonymous, he checked off every single box on the sheet of paper. He also started attending Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous meetings as well. In a similar manner, he found himself checking off the majority of preliminary assessment questions.He said it was absolutely heartbreaking to have the truth right in front of him in black and white. It also led DJ to discover an event in his life that had opened up everything to him. His meetings brought the necessary context for him to have the crucial breakthroughs that he needed to have.For much more on the story, including how spirituality helped him recover, his work with helping people, his amazing marriage and son, and his happy ending, listen along!Key Links for DJDJ’s website: http://www.djburr.com/DJ’s podcasts: Journey On Podcast || Making an AddictAffiliate link for DJ’s book, I Just Wanted Love: https://amzn.to/2VcKLIBMore info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/

When most people think of addictions, they only think it can be substance abuse, like alcohol or drugs. However, it very common to be addicted to the thrill and excitement one gets from sexual or romantic relationships. And this addiction can be as damaging to a person, their life and their family. Love addiction, which is a "bed fellow" of co-dependency, strikes many people and is not well understood. Listen as Amee interviews Dr. Alexandra Katehakis, a nationally-recognized expert in the field of sex and love addiction, and learn how a preoccupation with finding Mr. or Ms. Right can actually be a warning sign of a deeper concern. The Center for Healthy Sex www.centerforhealthysex.comSex and Love Addicts Anonymous https://slaafws.org/Co-Dependents Anonymous http://coda.org/

Today I'm interviewing Roula Kapakos-Paspalas and she is a Food Addict. She has a podcast called “Stand UP and Shine” on iTunes where she interviews amazing guestes who have overcome adversity and today she is talking to me about he biggest challenge yet. Tune in and listen to her story and amazing journey of fighting food addiction and commiting to keeping a diary of a weight loss journey. She is wonderful and I hope you enjoy this episide as much as I did. If you are struggling with addictive behaviours or emotional intelligence then reach out to Lucy and I on our website: www.happyaslarrygroup.com. Alternatively check out these websites: Alcoholics Anonymous - www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk,Narcotics Anonymous - https://ukna.org, Overeaters Anonymous - https://oa.org, Cocaine Anonymous - www.cauk.org.uk/Sex Aaddicts Anonymous - saauk.info/Co-Dependents Anonymous - coda.org/

Taking the First Step: Daily Meditations for 12 Step Programs is designed to help persons in Twelve Step Programs to daily experience the new philosophy of life which Recovery represents, and to recognize the benefits of discovering and expanding spiritual awareness. The basic principles of Twelve Step Programs, like Alcoholics Anonymous, Co-Dependents Anonymous, Al-Anon, Narcotics Anonymous, Over-Eaters Anonymous, etc., are as old as recorded history. These principles not only form the working philosophy of Twelve Step Programs, but they provide a pattern for (1) Right living, (2) Overcoming difficulties, and (3) Helping us to achieve our aspirations. By working “The Program” at our own pace and in our own way; relying on the help and support of our Higher Power and others who also work “The Program”, we can change and be transformed. They include the following:

Joan Sotkin is an author, coach, and businesswoman who helps people understand why they do what they do with their money and how to change their financial behaviors. In the 1980’s Joan built her own mail order business selling crystals and making over $30,000 a month, but her lack of business and financial skills led to her downfall and bankruptcy. This led her down the path of learning everything she could about business and financial management, even attending 12-step programs like Debtors Anonymous and Co-Dependents Anonymous. She eventually went on to start her website prosperityplace.com and write her book Build Your Money Muscles: Nine Simple Exercises for Improving Your Relationship with Money, which won two national awards. Joan joins Charlie on the show today to talk about what she has learned over the years and much more.   Key Takeaways: 01:51 – How Joan got started in her first business. 03:25 – Joan reaching the point where she had to give everything away. 06:39 – Things that led to Joan’s first business going under. 10:13 – Going from being big into the mail order business to learning how to do business using the Internet. 12:24 – Differences between starting a business with the Internet readily available and starting one before the Internet era. 15:49 – How do we connect on a deep level so that we’re connected and we’re not alone? 16:58 – Why it seems like as we becomes more technologically abundant our financial situations get worse. 19:34 – The importance of discipline and conscious living in your spending habits.  22:17 – The identity factor. Why do people who are pretty smart make really stupid decisions? 24:38 – How we know when our identity factor is kicking in. 27:33 – Where all our emotions and feelings attached around money come from and steps we can take to change them.  30:50 – It’s not about the money. It’s about you, your relation to yourself, and your relationship with the world around you. 31:15 – What area in Joan’s own relationship with money she is working on right now. 32:45 – Why it’s easier for Joan to manage debt than it is for her to manage savings. 33:47 – The most unanticipated challenge Joan is currently facing. 37:04 – When you love, accept, acknowledge, and appreciate yourself, you will get paid, and you’re going to be living a rich life.   Mentioned In This Episode: prosperityplace.com Build Your Money Muscles: Nine Simple Exercises for Improving Your Relationship with Money Santa Monica Civic Auditorium Wendy McClelland AOL Amazon Google McKinsey SCORE Facebook The Millionaire Next Door The Secret Uncertainty, Jonathan Fields Debtors Anonymous Co-Dependents Anonymous