Siblinghood of Recovery

Join me in a fabulous interviewing Catherine Borgman-Arboleda, Founder of Collaborative-Insights Coaching, as we cover the vital importance of self-work. We hear that term everywhere, this Episode digs in to what self-work comprises of and how Catherine's insights can lead to a tremendous amount of healing, letting go false expectations and developing a deep connection with our loved ones, no matter where they are at in the walk of Recovery. I hope you gain as much knowledge as I did in this insightful dialogue. Please visit to Catherine's website for resources at https://www.collaborative-insights.com/.2:15 - Introduction to Catherine's Global work on Policy and the work 'on ourselves'.3:00 - Catherine's daughter's journey 3:30 - How it's easier to change a law than change our children4:45 - Her daughter's journey through depression, self-harm, identity-issues5:15 - The 'Fixing' journey 6:00 - Buddhism and discovering Dr. Shefali Tsabary , the concept of our children being sovereign beings and deconstructing the story that only we are the only teachers in our relationship with our Children 7:15 - Shifting the definition of 'Success' in the defined story of raising children8:15 - Being aware of our own Agenda and feeling, instead of managing, our fears10:00 - How we cannot orchestrate someone's healing11:00 - Grieving the false expectations we've been fed in the Recovery process12:15 - Father's and Mother's 'Letting Go' and the differences13:30 - Thanking God that the Child is not buying INTO the concept of Expectations (or The Matrix)14:15 - Conquering the Fear 15:15 - Trying to Control15:30 - How fear blocks Connection16:30 - Changing the External verses the Internal Environment 18:30 - How Culture can prioritize the "Wrong" traits18:45 - Dr. Gabor Mate's training and Genetic transference of Addiction18:55 - Dr. Gabor Mate's book, The Myth of Normal 20:50 - Going inward to heal, Wisdom Traditions, allowing the uncomfortable emotions22:50 - The Efficient Parent, Rescuing, Solving the Problems and how that may not benefit your Child24:35 - NARM Therapy identifying fear, sadness, anger and which emotions are the 'true' feeling we are experiencing25:10 - Conscious Coaching and Catherine's resources to finding more self-awareness and shifting into greater Wisdom28:30 - Our Children's self-blame and how our words are not magic to heal that shame29: 45 - Can our Face be a Trigger to past strong emotions? 31:20 - The Energy you bring to engagements with our Children: holding the image of possibility33:15 - The falseness of 'The Vision Board'34:30 - How our efficiency counters our Children's Agency36:45 - The Concept of 'Coming Home Contracts' and Catherine's BlogThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Welcome to a Mom's Recovery Journey. Tracy offers a rich perspective on how Wilderness Treatment not only changed her daughter's life but positively impacted the entire Family System. The goal, as always, is to share experience, resources, and connection. We hope you'll find information here to help your own Recovery Journey. 1:40 - Tracy's Journey: the Pandemic's impact on her daughter's anxiety, depression, and safety.3:30 - What Tracy would say to her 2020-self.4:45 - Decision making with and without fear.6:30 - Researching Residential Treatment Center (RTC): how to utilize communities, parents, interviewing the RTC Therapist, and creating your own foundation of personal support.7:30 - How Al Anon and AA Meetings can heal the Family System.10:10 - How an Educational Consultant can facilitate RTC engagement.12:30 - Tracy's experience with the Oasis Treatment Center in Utah and Transport Companies.15:00 - RTC research: go deeper than the reviews.  16:00 - What RTC's can teach parents about Self-Regulation and Self-Care.20:00 - Discovering how what we lack impacts our children.22:00 - How our children become a mirror and we can't just "fix" the mirror(see Episode 36 with Kevin Johnson).23:30 - The shift from chaos to healing for Tracy's Family at Open Sky Wilderness.25:00 - The Family Quest experience.28:00 - Regulation in the Treatment Center industry.29:15 - Wilderness Treatment Center costs, insurance, Scholarships like Sky's the Limit Fund, and negotiating the daily rate.30:15 - Preventative Care cost vs RTC costs.32:30 - Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families The Loving Parent Guidebook and how this can break down Family System dysfunction. 33:15 - How Therapy is becoming more common, even with the NFL recommending BetterHelp . 35:30 - Tracy's recommended resources, Brad Reedy's Finding You Podcast, and books, The Audacity to be You and The Journey of the Heroic Parent. Krissy Pozatek's The Parallel Process. Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.'s book Parenting from the Inside Out. Tim R. Thayne PhD.'s book Not by Chance.Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Welcome to 2024! If you're listening to this, you may have a child in recovery, in the chaos of substance use, or you are engaged with a Treatment professional to help your child. Here are Resources for you, as a Parent, to continue your own growth which is the best thing you can do as you support your child's journey through addiction.Resources4:10 - Local Al Anon Groups & Meetings5:00 - Social Media Challenges: the mistake of perceiving your children as a Family Asset instead of an individual, the easy route of comparing your Family to the "perfect Families" portrayed on Social Media.7:00 - Understanding the dysfunction we as Parents bring to the Family system.7:40 - A commitment to doing your own work to understand yourself and avoid the Blind Spots of self-awareness.8:25 - The value an Al-Anon Group can offer specific to treatment resources9:20 - How to understand what a Treatment Center's focus is on and determining if that program is good for your child.10:00 - Books and Podcasts, Evoke Therapy, Hopestream, Buddy C Tao of our Understanding, and the references available on my 'Educational Resources page on the Siblinghood of Recovery site.  10:515 - Networking with Other Parents who are in the same position, i.e., have a child in treatment or is working through a child with substance use disorder. 12:00 - Resources Recap1) Go to 12 Step Meetings2) Network at 12 Step Meetings 3) Manage Social Media seeking to filter healthy input into your brain4) Separate your Self from your Child5) Understand the Dysfunction You are bringing to the Family System6) Stop thinking Other Families are Perfect (now!)7) Commit to dealing and healing your own dysfunction8) Vet any Therapist you plan to engage with for your Child9) Research Treatment Centers to ensure it is a fit for your Child10) Books (read) and Podcasts (listen) can further educate you for your Journey11) Get a Lifeline, someone you can call, when you are freaking out to help talk you out of your Anxiety treeThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

For my amazing Recovery community, this is being dropped one day before my Loved One's Birthday. What an amazingly beautiful and hard Journey this has been and I can't think of a better day to publish this one as I watch my Loved One create his own Path. In tandem, I also continue to 'Do The Work' and know I will never take my foot off the gas as I have oh-so much to learn.  I'll be back soon with research, resources, links and more but, for now, I hope you enjoy this interview of how I got here from there. As always, sending big wishes for self-care and love, and wishing everyone strength and wellness.Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Abigail Batchelder, PhD, MPH is an Assistant Director of Behavioral Medicine Program for Stigma and Substance Use Research and Assistant Professor in Psychology, Harvard Medical School, as well as the Director of the Substance Use Scientific Working Group, at Harvard University's Center for AIDS Research.What grabbed my attention of the research article, The shame spiral of addiction: Negative self-conscious emotion and substance use, was the succinct conclusion of, "Shame and guilt are barriers to reducing stimulant use, and expanded efforts are needed to mitigate the deleterious effects of these self-conscious emotions in recovery from a stimulant use disorder." This is what so many of us learn in the Recovery process and, as relayed in the podcast, is cited so many times in our 12 Step mantras: reduce the shame to increase your progress towards healing. I listen to Abby and have hope that the system we've built to react to substance use disorders can instead shift towards addressing the root cause of so many addiction challenges we face in our world today: mental health. Thank you for listening.1:40 - Introduction to Abby, her work as a Harvard Researcher and her role at Massachusetts's General Hospital 2:30 - Abby's CAFLIN Distinguished Scholar Award4:00 - Shame and the impact on Recovery5:15 - Strategies for bringing evidenced based mental health care to people who have limited access5:30 - The convoluted misconception that one has to deal with substance use disorder prior to obtaining mental health support (both can be addressed conjointly), and the danger of not intervening with both strategies (harm reduction).8:00 - The impact of self-compassion during intervention and Project Matter9:00 - Bringing concepts of intervention to the population, based on self compassion, to mitigate, 'When I feel bad about myself, I use more.'12:15 - Gathering patterns from the communities Abby serves16:45 - Shame's manifestation and the impact of self-compassion17:15 - The complexity of addiction and recovery, how external shame impacts that complexity, and leaning towards humanizing addiction to facilitate recovery18:15 - Othering23:15 - Abby's Portfolio of study and community engagement25:45 - The Trail of Truth26:45 -  How Abby's lab is on the front line of the addiction community31:45 - The type of interventions Abby is focused on creating that fit with the community Abby and her colleagues serveThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

MaryBeth lost her son Matt to the disease of addiction. What MaryBeth has done with that loss is nothing short of amazing. The drive to work hard in the arena of Recovery comes from the simple fact that MaryBeth would do anything to ensure a parent never experiences the devastating grief she has felt in losing Matt. This interview covers so much in the walk with addiction as a parent. Ranging from anger, to chaos, to building a community of resources, MaryBeth shares all that she's learned. I know you will benefit from listening to MaryBeth and her limitless ability to give back to the recovery community despite losing Matt. Please join me in sharing her journey.  2:50 - Mothers for All Paths of Recovery (Facebook Group)3:00 - Susan Ousterman, another Warrior Mom who lost her son, Tyler, and Founder of Vilomah Memorial Gardens3:25 - The Trail of Truth as MaryBeth experiences the Memorial Cemetery as a Committee Planner and a Mother who has lost her son. Over 2,000 names will be recognized this year in Washington, DC, September 23rd, 2023.6:30 - Matt's story.7:30 - Withdrawing from Oxycodone 10:30 - MaryBeth's quest for Legislative action regarding Sober Home certification and licensing11:00 - Delaware's Legislative passing of HS214, signed 8/1/2023.14:15 - Shame connected to the disease of addiction18:15 - Resources for those struggling18:45 - MaryBeth's fight with Cancer19:15 - How fighting the disease of addiction can make the Family system ugly21:30 - Building community 24:00 - Building your lifeline, those who you can call any time, any day, any where27:45 - The Family system evolves31:00 - MAT, Medically Assisted Treatment32:45 - Supporting your loved one's journey33:45 - Keeping the lines of communication open34:45 - How pushing the punishment directive can lead to death36:00 - Know your addicted love one already feels shame, love them where they are at38:30 - The tipping point in getting Legislation passed39:40 - How the CEOs of Treatment Centers and good Sober Homes supported the Legislation41:00 - Other states looking at similar Legislation41:20 - The FARR in Florida (my home state!) 41:50 - MaryBeth's advice to parents who have lost their child to the disease of addiction43:40 - MaryBeth reads the Preface of her book, 'Letters to Matt'Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

To have Jackie Werboff on this Podcast is nothing short of an incredible honor. Jackie directly contributed to my own Recovery through an offering space to begin understanding, in the most compassionate of ways, how my own childhood development was impacting the Family System I sought to build. I hope you enjoy this conversation that includes the NeuroAffective Relational Model(NARM) model of Therapy, attunement between parent and child, substance use as self-medication for unmet emotional needs in teens, the value of the 12 Step Program, and more. We explore options to help the Family system through therapy, learning, and relational-model engagement, all of which contribute to becoming healthier humans and healthier parents for our kids. As with each instance of engagement with Jackie, we end with hope.  1:15 - 2:55 - Dr. Larry Heller, What is NARM?3:55 - Developmental verses Shock Trauma5:45 - Mis-attunement6:30 - Attuning at the parental level10:15 - The impossibility of being constantly emotionally attuned11:35 - Self medication specific to substance misuse12:30 - Unmet needs and emotional pain12:45 - Strategies: read about the Core Surviving Strategies here14:10 - The power of words16:15 - Shame and the impact on Recovery17:00 - The challenge of behavior in substance misuse and how NARM can help navigate this challenge19:00 - How Recovery can re-set a Family19:50 - Addiction is a Family System challenge20:50 - The dead-end of blame21:55 - Apologizing as a Parent and the value that offers our Children23:10 - Accountability 24:20 - The 12 Steps and Recovery27:00 - NARM Therapy and listening 27:35 - Curiosity and NARM28:00 - Breaking down the power dynamics in the therapeutic relationship30:45 - Self regulation and the importance of having a caregiver self-regulate33:35 - Nervous System Therapeutic approaches (Somatic and Polyvagal)33:45 - Dr. Stephen Porges33:50 - The Polyvagal Institute, About Deb34:30 - Jackie's Contact info at Wide Awake Counseling35:35 - The JourneyThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Shame-based emotional triggers, linked to substance use, can be detrimental especially if parents employ shame as a behavioral deterrent. Instead, our best offense is to heal ourselves. Article cited, Published online 2022 Mar 18. doi: 10.1371/journal.pone.0265480, PMCID: PMC8932605, The shame spiral of addiction: Negative self-conscious emotion and substance use.Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Embarking on a personal journey of recovery from family dysfunction and substance use challenges can offer invaluable lessons. Through our effort to understand why our children are using substances, we must focus on the essential concepts of self-regulation, the impact of our parenting styles, and how we can become better parents through building up our own resilience. I offer up my own experience of learning how crucial it is to manage emotions and learn to focus on the present moment in order to create a safe emotional environment for my Family. Together, as a Siblinghood of Parents in Development, we can navigate through the storm, learn from our past, and pave the way for a healthier future for our children and us.9:35 - From Parents.com, 'What's Your Parenting Style?'12:20 - Newport Academy's, 'Resilience Toolkit'OTHER RELATED LINKS1) Authoritative Parenting: The Pros and Cons, According to a Child Psychologist2) What's Your Parenting Style?3) From the Parenting for Brain website, 'Emotional Regulation in Children | A Complete Guide' - as seen on the American Academy of Pediatrics website, and an excerpt here specific to Substance Use: A child who has poor emotion regulation skills throws tantrums constantly and puts a strain on the parent-child relationship. This can impact the climate of the whole household, including siblings or everyone around them, and lead to a negative spiral.Similarly, for friendships, kids who don't have the ability to control their big feelings have fewer social skills. They have a harder time making or keeping friends. The inability to self-regulate big emotions can lead to traits like anger, withdrawal, anxiety, or aggressive behavior.All this can snowball into further negative consequences: Children who are rejected by their peers are at increased risk of dropping out of school, delinquency, substance abuse, and antisocial behavior problems ​1 ​. Those who are withdrawn and rejected by peers are also more likely to get bullied​ 2 ​.Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

What if you discovered your role as a parent isn't as straightforward as you thought, particularly when dealing with a child's addiction? That's the tough pill we're swallowing in today's conversation. As a parent, your influence can shape your child's life in ways you may not fully comprehend. As we explore the murkier waters of parenting and addiction, we'll address the importance of examining our own upbringings, the impact of our parenting styles, and reconciling our expectations with our child's reality. Navigating through this complex landscape, we'll also delve into handling the discovery of your child's addiction, touching on the urgency of providing a safe, supportive environment and the necessity of professional intervention.Shifting gears, we'll then journey through the recovery process - a path that's as challenging as it is transformative. As we discuss the role a parent plays in their child's addiction, we'll emphasize the necessity of fostering a safe space for recovery. Throughout our exploration of this pressing issue, remember, we are not alone on the path to recovery. Let's walk together.Link to Krissy Pozatek's Parallel Process websiteThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

It has been a minute! I moved into our new home, caught COVID, then battled with Pink Eye, and now have a hernia from coughing so much. But I'm still alive and kicking! I am back with a slightly new format but still have that drive towards bringing resources to any parent working through the challenges of substance use in the family. This Episode is dedicated to Safety planning and how easy it is to access the potentially life-saving safety-net: NARCAN.1:20 - Moms for All Paths of Recovery 1:30 - Siblinghood of RecoveryPodcast, Interview with Susan Ousterman, Episode 341:55 - Harm Reduction in Recovery2:30 - C.R.A.F.T.2:45 - Siblinghood of RecoveryPodcast, Interview with Cordelia Kraus, Episode 373:05 - Bringing up NARCAN with Teenagers3:25 - New England Journal of Medicine, Fentanyl-Associated Overdose Deaths Outside the Hospital, note the Supplemental Appendix link in the letter to provide readers access to the mentioned work w/in the Letter to the Editor composed by Molly M. Jeffery, Ph.D., M.P.P., Maria Stevens, M.A., M.P.H., Mayo Clinic, Rochester, MN, Gail D'Onofrio, M.D., Edward R. Melnick, M.D., M.H.S., Yale University, New Haven, CT4:15 - Fire Blankets5:40 - Dr. Peter Attia, Episode 243,The fentanyl crisis and why everyone should be paying attention | Anthony Hipolito6:00 - Fentanyl Flow into the US from China, DEA Report6:30 -Justice Department Announces Charges Against China-Based Chemical Manufacturing Companies and Arrests of Executives in Fentanyl Manufacturing6:15 - Senator Chris Murphy's Blog onBipartisan Meeting with Mexico President Obrador to curb fentanyl production9:30 -NextDistro, site where I submitted a form to receive NARCAN10:10 - Florida Harm Reduction Collective, the site for the Florida organization that sent me the NARCAN for free.Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Join me in this great conversation about CRAFT with Cordelia Kraus, LPC, CADC-I.0:35 - Helping Families Help1:30 - Redefining the definition of, 'A Good Mother' (expectation & control)2:40 - How our expectations impacts relationships2:60 - How reading the book, 'Beyond Addiction', changed Cordelia's perspective3:25 - Shifting our perspective to WHO we are and HOW we show up as parents6:55 - The importance of Language8:40 - Connection9:35 - Cordelia's journey towards being a safe place to return home to12:45 - What we hope for and how that thread runs through C.R.A.F.T.13:30 - Invitation to Change : the strategic assumption on behaviors 13:45 - The functional analysis of why our Loved ones are using15:45 - Krav Maga Self Defense, and how that satiated a need for intensity and became a cornerstone of building community16:45 - Responses as parents, and how control is all we know17:30 - How repetitive behaviors are somehow being reinforced18:35 - B.R.A.V.E., a local St. Augustine resource (no affiliation) 19:00 - The long term game of shifting dynamics in the home19:30 - Meeting, 'Beyond Addiction', author Jeffrey Foote, PhD., and studying to become a Licensed Practitioner20:00 - Becoming a part of the , 'Invitation to Change', approach, engaging with The CMC Foundation, Center for Motivation for Change and becaming certified in C.R.A.F.T. Training. 20:55 - Inheriting the Families Helping Families site, establishing community, and providing a space for C.R.A.F.T. based providers23:15 - The incredible importance of Language and labels25:35 - Susan Ousterman, it's about Love 26:15 - Bringing in Invitation to Change to our healing process27:45 - Shifting from What To Expect in our Children to self-awareness as PARENTS28:45 - How today's challenge can change how we parent our younger children29:15 - It's about WHY someone is using substances (different for each individual)33:15 - Community Reinforcement within Treatment Centers, how clients thrive, and the challenge of returning home35:30 - The Canary in the Coal Mine within a Dysfunctional Family 36:00 - Ownership and becoming better people37:45 - Connection and recognizing small increments towards a more vibrant life 40:15 - We will mess up and that's okay40:50 - C.R.A.F.T.41:05 - Invitation to Change41:20 - Smart Recovery Families and Friends41:55 - Helping Families Help FamiliesThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

I am so excited to have an upcoming interview on C.R.A.F.T., Community Reinforcement and Family Training. The farther I travel on my Recovery Journey, the more I learn about the importance to embrace each individual, each Family, each Parent, each child's nuanced environment and challenge in recovering from addiction. We are all different, each addiction is different, each Family is different. Walk with me as I learn more about the C.R.A.F.T. technique.1) American Psychological Association - An underappreciated intervention: CRAFT2) Partnership to End Addiction -The CRAFT Approach3) Overdose Lifeline -CRAFT TrainingThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

This Episode is dedicated to my Army: Amra, Amy, Angela, Buddy, Chip, Chris, Christine, Elisabeth, Glen, Jen, Jen, John, Judy, Kris, Laura, Lisa A., Lisa C., Lisa R., Kathryn, Kevin J, Kim, Michele, Mike, Monica, Nathan K., Norma, Sandy, Sheila, Tim. 0:40 - NARM, Neural Affective Relational Model of Therapy1:20 - Sobriety SoldiersInstagram4:30 - Writing down your priorities, so you can plan your Recovery and see, based on the list, who can be a part of that Journey6:05 -  Recovery networks and community connections: identifying connection needs and community linkage opportunities in early recovery populations 7:14 - The Recovery Pathway is enhanced by Positive Social Networks8:20 - Community Recovery Capital, and the Visual mentioned (see link above), on Page 129:15 - Page 14 of the study, that ties in Community Assets and the development of those AssetsThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

In this Episode, I interview Alex White, a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor based out of Salt Lake City, Utah. I met Alex as a Facilitator of an Evoke Therapy Finding You Intensive program. I knew I had to begin doing my own work in order to contribute to a healthy family system and I was fortunate enough to have Alex lead our intensive group. You will hear in Alex's voice his steady and gentle approach to counseling. And throughout the dialogue, you'll learn how Alex utilizes advanced clinical training to work through a patient's complex and developmental trauma. One of Alex's applications in therapy, which attracted me to the Intensives program, is the  NeuroAffective Relational Model®(NARM). Combined with Alex's own priorities within therapy of consent, curiosity, and non-judgement, Alex provides his clients incredible space to reach new levels of healing. All of Alex's contact details are provided below if you'd like to get in touch with Alex to begin your own journey in an incredibly supportive and safe therapeutic space. 0:45 - Alex White Counseling & Consulting 2:20 -  University of Utah Counseling Center (UCC), "We provide developmental, preventive, and therapeutic services and programs that promote the intellectual, emotional, cultural, and social development of University of Utah students."2:30 - Evoke Therapy4:15 - Psychology Today article, 'What is Complex Trauma?', Ingrid Clayton Ph.D., Emotional Sobriety, Aug 2021.8:15 - Parents as the common denominator in the layered Family System.11:00 - Feelings and behavior as communication.13:00 - The "Shame" parents feel and how that can block showing up for the child.14:00 - We can't Recover for someone else.18:20 - Over identification with another person's behavior, and how that brings insight into what we need to heal inside.19:30 - What does it mean to you that this person Relapsed?21:30 - Patterns and Strategies developed while growing up in an environment that does not meet our needs.27:10 - Parallel process often found in Parent Groups. 28:45 - Superpowers we develop as kids.31:15 - Letting go does not mean leaving.32:45 - Alex's overview of what parents new to this journey can lean on, a) The Practical Guide for Healing Developmental Trauma (also available on Amazon), b) Finding You Podcast37:20 - Alex's future plans40:35 - Reach Alex at alex@alexwhitecounseling.com Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

It is January and you know what means? We are working on Step 1, "We admitted we were powerless over others – that our lives had become unmanageable”. The premise of this Episode is to begin the process of understanding addiction, not controlling addiction (because that truly will never happen). As Parents begin the Journey of their own Healing, gaining a true understanding of how we each embrace our Higher Power, will create opportunity for a fruitful building of our foundation of Faith. And, though this is not a Religious Episode, it is definitely an encouragement to building out Faith in, at the very least, you. 1:00 - ACA, Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families1:05 - Al-Anon2:55 - Looking for an Addiction Therapist, here's a Psychology Today link as a resource.3:05 - Gavin Whitteker, Outreach Coordinator and Episode 38 Guest, Resilience Recovery Resources3:10 - Kevin Petersen, CEO of Chronic Hope Institute4:05 - Mike McGuire, MS LMHC MCAP, MS LMHC DMCP, McGuire Counseling (Jacksonville, FL area)5:20 - Higher Power, and how this is not about Religion5:50 - A Pastor's take on the Higher Power7:00 - The gift of finding people who understand what you are experiencing10:30 - Families Anonymous, 12 Daily Actions, "12 DAILY ACTIONS IN APPLYING THE STEPS, Step One: clarifying our responsibilities to others and to ourselves—Iam powerless over addiction, other people, their beliefs and actions."11:30 - What other people think of me is none of my business (an AA oldie but goodie). Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

As we move into the new year, I've made a commitment to myself, and anyone listening to this Podcast, to condense concepts covered to no more than one or two. I realized in 2022, there are so many aspects of Recovery that attempting to combine three or four subjects does not give enough time to highlight many of foundational practices that can help parents grow within as they deal with their child's substance use disorder. So, this year, we're going to get to work on finetuning how we can become healthier individuals, contributing to the Family System, one concept and one step at a time. Welcome 2023, and let's get to work!  1:00 - Mentioned Forbes Article, What is Emotional Intelligence?2:20 - The shift Damar Hamlin's Cardiac Arrest brought to the concept of strong men showing emotions on the Gridiron*. Tying that into the aspect of significant research showing Emotional Intelligence is a desirable trait in leadership AND family health.2:30 - *A Forbes Article on the benefit of showing your emotions, The Benefits Of Expressing Your Emotions, which is in my mind is representative of what happened this week in the NFL where our top level athletes were leaders in showing their emotions this week.3:30 - American Psychological Association definition of containment3:35 - Oxford CBT Article, What Is Emotional Containment?helping kids process strong emotions5:45 - Holding space with a person in active addiction, 'Enhancing Motivation for Change in Substance Use Disorder Treatment'6:25 - The value of learning how to contain for your child: you'll learn how your child thinks and more about their feelings.7:05 - My 2023 commitment to myself and this Podcast 8:00 - Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration site8:40 -The Three Circles Communication ToolPosted by Emma Reedy, Senior Intensive Staff on December 09, 201611:45 - 48th Annual Winter Symposium for Psychotherapy Associates12:00 - Episode 37 Interview with Kevin Petersen12:45 - Chronic Hope Institute 13:00 - Siblinghood of Recovery Job 2:13 “So they sat down with him upon the ground seven daThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

I continue my Journey with YOU by offering this wonderful interview. Dr. Marcy Willard is Founder & CEO of Cadey. Dr. Willard is a tech entrepreneur, licensed psychologist, nationally certified school psychologist, and published author. Dr. Willard, or Marcy, is one of my fellow Moms who has offered me insight and gentle guidance. Lots of show notes, so short introduction. Enjoy!1:00 - How Marcy entered this Journey2:05 - Addiction is not biased 3:05 - Understanding the intense pain when you're a "Good Parent"4:30 - The Myth of Rehab being a 'Short term fix',  how Rehab is NOT Recovery and Marcy's Article on 'Drug Addition and Teens'5:15 - Honestly, Recovery does not have an end...and that is okay5:40 - Genetics, and how it is not just from the Parents7:10 - Family Patterns and Marcy's article on 'Common Family Problems'8:25 - Self Medication at the Adolescent level8:55 - The Treatment Center viewed as the Training Camp / Boot Camp10:00 - Surrendering to being "Okay"  10:50 - Building Community to support Post Treatment Center Recovery11:15 - The Key to Recovery "was within me"11:30 - Michael Singer, 'Everything will be okay when you're okay with everything', Living from a Place of Surrender 12:30 - The strength and power in choosing how to react, Victor Frankel's Man's Search for Meaning and Edith Eger's The Choice 13:30 - Choosing not to attend the party we are invited to 14:30 - Expectations: STOP bringing your Expectation Guy!  15:30 - Measuring the Gain, not the Gap and referencing Dr. Ben Hardy's book The Gap and the Gain16:45 - Honoring the Addict17:30 - Marcy's article, Addict has Entered the Room19:00 - Seeing the Addict in front of you and how that can be a part of your own Recovery Journey20:00 - Debra Jay on the Master Manipulator, don't underestimate the power of addiction as it is the undoing of many Families, Debra Jay's website, lovefirst.net22:00 - Engaging professionals as SOON as you can as that's when the Magic starts to happen as the addict shrinks and your Child starts to grow 23:45 - Five stages of Grieving24:15 - Marcy connects losing a brother to addiction and how that impacted the Journey with her child28:00 - Supporting your Child in developing their Self, including boundaries29:00 - Don't personalize, your Child's Addiction is not about YOU31:45 - Even in the toughest of circumstances, try to listen and SEE your child32:45 - Marcy's Courses (click here)Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

We are getting close to end of the year Holiday Season. We all know these times can be triggering if we  have loved ones battling addiction. This Podcast takes a walk into understanding what triggers may arise, and what we can do to be more in touch with our emotions as we navigate loving our Family Member and recognizing the battle with substance use disorders. This is not easy. This. Is. Hard. Hopefully, this Podcast offers some resources and support. 1:30 - Emotional Regulation for the Holiday Season2:15 - National Institute on Drug Abuse, Trends & Statistics, some of which is heartening, other areas not so much as there is a significant uptick in Fentanyl deaths. There is a downward trend in reported drug use in 2021, Percentage of adolescents reporting drug use decreased significantly in 2021 as the COVID-19 pandemic endured. So while drug use is declining, the drugs are becoming more dangerous with a greater likelihood of being laced with Fentanyl.   2:30 - Research2:50 -  Dr. Anna Lembke'swebsite 4:00 - Huberman Lab Podcast with Dr. Anna Lembke, author of 'Dopamine Nation'4:30 - Dr. Nora Volkow's Profile5:30 - Dr. Volkow's work on Addiction Stigma and the article in the New England Journal of Medicine, 'Perspective: Stigma and the Toll of Addiction'10:25 - Article cited in Dr. Volkow's article, 'Improving translation of animal models of addiction and relapse by reverse translation'12:30 - The concept of working on one's own self to support creating a healthier environment for the addict and the Family13:30 - Newport Institute's article on Authentic Relationships, 'Creating Authentic Relationships and Connections'13:45 - Having an Authentic Relationship with your Child by doing your own work15:15 - 3 Steps to Building an Authentic Relationship in your Family18:15 - FIFA World Cup Advertisement featuring The Lumineers in conjunction with the Partnership to End AddictionThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

A short but timely Episode on who to turn to in the Holiday Season if you're a parent in the midst of Recovery, no matter what stage you may find yourself today. So many of us are going through challenges that not everyone can understand. Be sure to get your resources ready as there will be a moment when you need to speak with someone walking a similar journey. So, as you pass the cranberry sauce (and please contact me if you have any great recipes, contact info is on the website), remember: you are not alone in this journey. Find your people. Find us. 3:55 - Dianne Sawyer's Interview with Matthew Perry, ABC News YouTube5:45 - Brain Thrive by 256:20 - Definition of ACEs, Adverse Childhood Experiences7:30 - Resources for Discussing SUDs and how we, as parents, can manage around this condition8:45 - Chronic Hope Institute, and excellent Professional Resource for Family Addiction Education led by my friend Kevin Petersen10:10 - Matt Perry's book, Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing: a Memoir10:45 -GetHelp linkto a list of Meetings for Parents in RecoveryThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

This interview is with Gavin Whitteker, Outreach Coordinator for Resilience Recovery Resources. Gavin opens up about his own Journey and how this impacts his ability to understand what Families are going through when they first reach out to Resilience, a Treatment Center that provides clinical aftercare and life skills development for the adolescent and emerging adult male population. My experience with Resilience changed my Family's path for a positive I could not imagine, and has directly led to my own self-growth and what I fully embrace as a lifelong Recovery Journey. My son attended Resilience and continues to live a life impacted by the program and the people of this organization. My hope is this Episode offers parents insight into the process of Outreach and how we, as parents, can support our Families Recovery journey. There is hope for navigating this ever increasing landscape of substance use challenges in building stronger Family systems and increased focus on mental health and emotional connection. And thank you, Gavin, for the time spent. So appreciative of all you do and hope this spreads your message of healing, love and support. 2:30 - How we met3:30 - Letting kids go to the next step of 'Adulthood'4:00 - Why so many Treatment Centers leaders benefit from their past experience4:30 - The impact of hard self-work 5:00 - A day in the life of a Treatment Center's Outreach Coordinator7:45 - Different families have different dynamics8:30 - Building rapport with kids in treatment faced with so much healing in front of them9:45 - The age that one starts using is the age of maturity at the onset of Recovery10:40 - Giving space enough to laugh, again11:35 - The drive towards health includes the ability to embrace mistakes and being human12:30 - Getting the parents towards the path of 'Letting Go', Setting Boundaries and letting the kids fail and how this discomfort leads to growth14:30 - The importance of Family TeamworkThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

In this Episode I interview Kevin Petersen, Founder of the Chronic Hope Institute,  and author of Chronic Hope: Parenting the Addicted Child and Chronic Hope: Families & Addiction, both providing an integrated, holistic approach to healing families in crisis due to addiction and codependency.Kevin established The Chronic Hope Institute in 2020 with a mission to increase education on addiction and its impact on the family system. Today I share Kevin's knowledge and insight in to how Families can begin a planned approach to healing the crisis and chaos that comes with addiction.1:30 - ACA, Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families2:15 - Chronic Hope Institute home page3:45 - Books Kevin has published, see links above4:30 - How parents contribute to the chaos surrounding a child's addiction challenges5:00 - Kevin's three-phased process when introducing Parents to the Family System5:30 - Phase 1: putting the fire out6:00 - "Fixing your kid" involves you, no doubt6:30 - Coaching during the Boundary setting process 7:15 - Boundaries during the tenuous year(s) of 17 and 18 8:30 - How Kevin's Institute helps Parents while their child is in Treatment before, during and after10:15 - Phase 2: now it's time for the Family System to start healing11:40 - Healing addiction is similar to a company investing in a Consultant to change a failed system13:00 - Group buy-ins to fix the system14:00 - Healthy Families and Kevin's upcoming t-shirt(s)! Love this...14:45 - Juggling work, community, insurance, treatment15:00 - Okay... had to let my Boxer in the room, as he is Co-Dependent (Vet diagnosed)15:45 - Who is really in to address the system? 18:15 - Knowing who is going to do the work: Family of Origin Trauma19:00 - Acknowledging the role in the Family System: the RESPONSE to addiction20:15 - Why is the resistance to healing the Family System so strong some times? 21:00 - Moms and enmeshment21:20 - You're only as happy as your happiest kid 21:30 - CoDependents Anonymous (the "go to CoDa right now" comment)22:30 - Balancing helping, loving, and co-dependency23:15 - It truly DOES depend on what the addiction is on, the difference between alcoholism verses opioid addiction24:05 - When to call Kevin and organizations like the Chronic Institute of Hope: the Family will start a Plan25:10 - Phase 3: now we talk about how YOU, Parent, have contributed (and this may take a long time)25:45 - Family Relapsing: how the Family fears can contribute to a Family System Relapse27:00 - How CoDependency and Family of Origin health and healing can be much more complicated than sobriety 28:05 - The difference between Manipulation and Control and Help29:05 - Boundaries at different ages29:30 - Slipping into older patterns of dysfunction30:00 - Kevin's contacts, resources, and how youThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Kevin Johnson was my introduction into Residential Treatment as the Case Manager assigned to me and my son. To say he created an amazing space of healing for both of us, would be an understatement. You can hear his thoughtful approach to navigating tough Family dynamics, born out of a clear ability to relate to so many of the adolescents entering the world of treatment. I am so grateful to have Kevin as one of the many individuals who have walked with me in this Recovery Journey. I do hope you enjoy this Podcast, and it comes from the US Capitol of Recovery, South Florida. 2:10 - The U.S. Capitol of Recovery2:25 - Sobriety verses Life Sucking3:30 - Adolescence and choices4:10 - Warrior Moms and how they view Kevin5:00 - Kevin's work as Director of Case Management5:25 - Transitioning Support8:10 - Feelings in Recovery9:20 - Connection through Knowing someone as a Person12:50 - Getting rid of the Noise13:30 - Family dynamics: which is the toughest? 15:45 - Are you going to Fix my kid?16:45 - Getting parents to do the work22:00 - Working the program23:30 - Kevin gets vulnerable38:00 - Why continuing the program is worth it30:00 - The shift: when parents can say, "I've done my work."35:00 - Self love36:45 - The reason Kevin does what he does37:00 - Kevin on being a Dad, and letting go (of the beard!)  Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Excerpt from The Washington Post, Perspective by Valerie Strauss, Staff writer, August 1, 2022 at 9:49 a.m. EDT, "Last year, a website called VeryWellFamily.com published an article on “lawn-mower parents” — successors to the “helicopter parent” who were long known for “hovering” over their children and being overly involved in their lives. Lawn-mower parents were even more overly involved, according to the article, making “helicopter parents look mild in comparison,” not just hovering. “They mow down obstacles and create clear paths,” it says. “And, heaven help anyone that gets in their kids' way.”2:10 - Jackhammer Parents and the potential impact they have on children.2:45 - Price of Privilege by Dr. Madeline Levine5:50 - Evoke Therapy and The Three Circles Communication Tool, posted by Emma Reedy 9:05 - Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce Perry's collaboration on the book, 'What Happened to You?' 10:30 - The Magic of the Bell CurveThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Susan Ousterman, Founder of Vilomah Memorial Gardens, speaks to the experience of walking with her son, Tyler, on his journey with addiction and his medical treatment while battling a substance use disorder. Susan describes how many of the laws that were actually in place, but not recognized, may have contributed to his passing. Many of us will relate with the stigma of substance abuse while navigating resources available to treat and heal addiction, the daunting monetary impact of treatment costs, or managing what our standard medical community understands about addiction. Nothing can truly capture the journey you're about to hear other than the words on the Vilomah Memorial Gardens' website, Someday, society will come to fully understand the disease of addiction and those suffering will no longer be viewed as moral failures. They will be treated with the dignity and respect they deserve. The catalyst for this change will be those of us who spoke up, and the true heroes will be recognized — our children who suffered in silence, who paid the ultimate price.Thank you for listening. 8:00 - Moms for All Paths of Recovery, run by Kathleen Cochran, Heart of a Warrior Woman9:20 - It's not a hard sell to love your child9:30 - Understanding addiction is multi-faceted and is often not attributable to one factor11:00 - Our inner path of recovery can benefit our child11:30 - Harm Reduction and how we can create a different approach to healing addiction12:15 - Withholding support from an addict verses meeting them where they are13:00 - The balance of unconditional love and protecting yourself13:45 - Building a relationship while your child is both using and trying to heal14:30 - Tyler's experience with Medical Treatment and the potential impact the stigma of using may have had on his care15:15 - Safe syringe programs16:15 - Tyler's Endocarditis, a life-threatening inflammation of the inner lining of the heart's chambers and valves, and his treatment experience19:35 - How Tyler's Medical Marijuana License may have impacted his medical care22:10 - Federal verses County regulations on Medical Marijuana treating Opioid Use Disorder22:50 - SAMSHA's and the Medication-Assisted Treatment (MAT)program24:50 -Psychedelics and Treatment for Opioid Addiction 26:55 - Listen to Dr. Matthew Johnson on the Huberman Lab Podcast, Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, discuss the potential use of Psychedelics for treatment of depression, addiction, trauma, eating disorders, ADHD, and other disorders of the mind. 27:40 - Research on Ibogaine on Opioid Addiction, Ibogaine treatment outcomes for opioid dependence from a twelve-month follow-up observational study29:00  - DopeThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Each experience with addiction is different as each Family, each person struggling with addiction challenges is different, and each path to Recovery is different. This Episode is an introduction to discovering other paths of Recovery in advance to next week's interview with Susan Ousterman. By citing Dr. Noral Volkow's blog on NIDA's site, we highlight Dr. Volkow being a strong proponent against the concept of having to hit "rock bottom" to begin a successful Recovery. To prepare for next week's conversation about Opioid addiction, the concept of Accidental and Unintentional Overdoses is a necessity. I also cite Dr. Laura Berman and her journey with losing her son to an accidental overdose. Thank you for being here, and thank you for listening. These are hard subjects and difficult conversations, which make them even more vital to hear. 1:25 - Contact Mike McGuire via his website1:45 - Dr. Nora Volkow and her Blog on the National Institute on Drug Abuse website2:00 - Dr. Volkow's Blog, Time to Start Talking about Pre-Addiction3:00 - HEAL, The Helping to End Addiction Long-term® Initiative3:30 - Unintentional Overdose definitions per the NIDA4:05 - Dr. Laura Berman's Interview on CBS, describing her son Sammy's Accidental Overdose from the thought-to-be purchase of Xanax, which was laced with FentanylThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

We're back and ready to get to work! Not wasting any time, the focus remains on how Parents can show up for their kids in doing their OWN work. We further finetune the mantra of healthier parenting being supported through the process of becoming a healthier individual. This Season will feature interviews with professionals leading Recovery and Mental Health facilities, as well as those working within the Recovery community. We'll also be interviewing parents traveling this Recovery Journey, with a keen eye on how we can provide the best gift we can give our kids: a healthy Family unit. 1:00 - Introduction to Mike McGuire, 1:30 - What McGuire Counseling offers, Therapy - Home - McGuire Counseling and Psychotherapy (mcguirerecovery.com)1:45 - Therapy Modalities offered by McGuire Counseling & Therapy2:15 - What is EMDR4:30 - The Big Blue Book – AA Book / Chaos5:15 - ACA, Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families - Find a Meeting Near You5:45 - EMDR and Sexual Trauma9:00 - What is NARM? The NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) is a method of psychotherapy specifically aimed at treating attachment, relational and developmental trauma, otherwise referred to as “Complex Trauma” (Complex-PTSD or C-PTSD). 11:15 – Dr. Lawrence Heller's book, Healing Developmental Trauma11:30 –  Dr. Lawrence Heller's book, A practical guide for Healing Developmental Trauma12:25 – NARM and the Survival Styles, in this link, page down to the section entitles, 'The NARM Core Survival Styles'13:30 – Strategies to Survive the World (see link above)15:05 – Wanting to Fit in, Mike is deeply aware of this need. The link takes you to an article about Teens wanting to fit in on the NIH (National Institute on Drug Abuse) page, see the full article on the right hand side which can be downloaded in PDF format.15:15 – Genetic Disposition to Addiction 16:15 – Processing Alcohol17:35 – Moms for All Paths of Recovery (MAPS)19:00 – 12 Steps and How it Works: Community, Togetherness, Looking at ourselves and seeing what IS working, what is NOT, and what is my part in the function or Dysfunction20:20 – Higher Power20:30 – McGuire's Ascend Program22:10 – Al Anon, how I found McGuire Counseling & Psychology22:15 – Bringing the Parents into “The Program”, Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

My son walked this past week in his High School Graduation, culminating eighteen months of Recovery work and celebrating his investment in himself. To say I'm a proud Mom is an understatement. To say I am learning from all that he has done, is yet another understatement. To say I have so much more work to do, yep, it is yet another understatement.  Good news is, I'm ready.For now, though, I bid you adieu as I take a much-needed break from Podcasting over the next few summer months. I plan to come back faster, stronger, better to quote a popular song.  My biggest message in this Episode is: if you're just finding yourself at the beginning of this journey, please, please, please get into a 12 Step Program today. And remember, we can't control anything in this process. We can only put effort into becoming healthier humans.Peace, love, faith. Al AnonFamilies AnonymousThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

So many of us know Secrets. What many of us may not be aware of is how carrying secrets can impact our Well Being. The ultimate in support of key 12 Step Program tenants, honesty and transparency, three Research articles are cited and findings reviewed to help parents understand how approaching challenges with addiction with open communication, group support and professional guidance is a key aspect of well-being during these challenging times. Hopefully this Podcast will further support the mantra of, 'You're Not Alone", if you find your child is struggling with a substance use disorder. 1: 05 - A Slight Change of Plans Podcast, Hosted by Dr. Maya Shankar1:15 - Lessons from a Grief Therapist, Julia Samuel, on the 'A Slight Change of Plans' Podcast1:45 - The Grief Recovery Handbook, John W. James and Russell Friedman, founders of The Grief Recovery Institute®3:00 - The Psychology of Shame | Psychology Today, The Psychology of Shame:  What happens when we feel ashamed of ourselves in public. September 27, 2020 |  Reviewed by Devon Frye4:20 - Columbia Business School, Keeping Secrets Is Harmful to Your Health, According to New Research from Columbia Business School5:15 - Is it bad to have secrets? Cognitive preoccupation as a toxic element of secrecy7:25 - Developmental Changes in Secrecy during Middle Adolescence: Links with Alcohol Use and Perceived Controlling Parenting16:00 - Rich Roll, Terry Crews On Healthy Masculinity, Strength Through Vulnerability & True PowerThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

The process of addiction involves completely abandoning expectations. They no longer serve you, nor anyone else involved in the process. But...those hopes do exist. In this Episode I site Nora McInerny journey of grieving her Husband's death and how Nora refused to let anyone 'Should' all over her in how to heal from this loss. The same can happen with parents of children battling addiction. But who are we serving when we hold on to expected milestones of pre-defined success? For me, no one.1:30 - Nora McInerny, Don't Should all over Yourself, at about 4:19 in.4:05 - Nora McInerny, We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it, TedHealth 5:30 - On Mourning and Recovery: Integrating Stages of Grief and Change Toward a Neuroscience-based Model of Attachment Adaptation in Addiction Treatment. Note, in the Podcast I stated both are from the Indiana University School of Medicine, which does not apply to Sue C. Wallingford, who is the Chair, Division of Transpersonal Counseling and Psychology, Associate Professor, Graduate School of Counseling & Psychology, Naropa University, Boulder, CO.  R. Andrew Chambers, MD1, is the Director, Addiction Psychiatry Training Program & Lab for Translational Neuroscience of Dual Diagnosis, Associate Professor, Department of Psychiatry, Indiana University School of Medicine, Indianapolis, IN.6:35 - Nucleus Accumbens7:35 -The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) definition from Psychology Today8:30 - Connection and Addiction explained in a TedTalk, Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong, by Johann HariThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

I am beyond grateful to share this interview you! Journey with me as we listen to Buddy C., and how his embrace of Taoism led him to deeper Spirituality in his Recovery Journey. So much in here, I can't begin capture. Listen, learn, enjoy, and explore!  And Happy Mother's Day!  :35 - Buddy C's website, Powerless but Not Helpless :45 - Sober Guy Podcast, Episode 3855:00 - A brief overview of Taoism5:10 - What's this Taoism All About5:30 - Vinegar Tasters Story (a UK perspective) 7:00 - Tao Te Ching (pronounced Dow Deh Ching), check out Buddy's website or the brief overview of Taoism, both links above 7:10 - God of our Understanding book written by Taub, a rabbi in the Chabad-Lubavitch movement and cofounder of a Jewish recovery community in Milwaukee (just to keep everyone on our toes!). 9:45 - NARM, Dr. Laurence Heller introduction to NARM11:10 - Big Book page 552 from Atlanta AA, Resentments13:10 - Buddy's Verse 28, "Become the Channel" (I will have this full verse on my website by Monday, May 9th, 202216:45 - Mention of Episode 26 on Spirituality Research Article (I will have this full article on my Blog by Monday, May 9th, 2022)17:15 - History of AA18:25 - 24 Hour / Hazelton Book history22:45 - We discuss Siblings in the Recovery process26:05 - Sona, the Buddhist Teacher29:30 - We discuss meditation30:25 - John Main on Meditation31:00 - James Bean, Spiritual Awakening Radio31:15 - Sant Mat, Indian Meditation32:20 - Check out Buddy's C's site, and connect with Buddy to get the PDF version of his book (you will love it!)36:00 - Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David J. Hawkins36:30 - Buddy C'swebsiteThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

When parents place their child into Recovery, they often hear the words, “He is Safe”. Those words can bring up thoughts of failure and shame as we ask ourselves, ‘Why is my child safe, now? Why does safety include getting my child out of the Family System?"Don't go there. Instead, know the language of the Recovery world and take these words to mean, it's time to do your own work. Family Systems comprise of intergenerational traditions, traumas, and 'ways of how we do things'. Take the time your child is in the care of Recovery professionals to re-assess those ways of how it's always been done. Find out who YOU are, how YOU were made, and gently walk towards a path where you will contribute to a healthier Family System through a healthier you.  Links promised for the Show Notes 3:50 – Huberman Lab Podcast that highlights how puberty can completely change your child, The Science & Health Benefits of Deliberate Heat Exposure (yes, it's in this Podcast around 48:50).  5:20 – Family System definition, Family Systems Therapy | Psychology Today7:05 – Sympathetic Nervous definition, Sympathetic Nervous System | Summary, Structure, Functions (human-memory.net)8:15 – Huberman Lab Podcast on the value of mastering breath work, Dr. Jack Feldman: Breathing for Mental & Physical Health & Performance - Huberman Lab8:35 – Getting rid of Shame in the process of Recovery from Al-Anon, Putting the Focus on Myself - Al-Anon Family Groups 9:45 – NARM,Introduction to the NeuroAffective Relational Model™ [NARM] – Dr Laurence Heller10:35 – Survival Styles, An Overview of NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) Therapy - The Human Condition 12:30 - Snapchat Making Efforts To Stop Drug Dealing - Addiction Center 15:00 - Recovery Center, Outstanding Characteristics Overview Outstanding Characteristics of a Good Rehab Facility – Recovery Rehab Services Guide (wordpress.com) Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Focusing on just one article to highlight the value of Spirituality in adolescent addiction program success, I tread lightly. Although I am espousing the enormous and positive impact of Spirituality, our Higher Power truly is an incredibly personal part of Recovery. And who am I to define Higher Power to anyone but myself? What I can say is embracing one's Higher Power can be a daunting process. We are often ingrained with preconceived notions of spirituality, spurring questions of, 'is God all powerful, all seeing, to be feared, to be worshipped?'.  In my own humble experience within Step work, embracing my Higher Power was the tipping point: letting go of my sense of control and handing it over to my Higher Power. Research says that same tipping point exists in adolescents: no matter how that Higher Power is defined, embracing the concept of letting go and handing it over reaps benefits to the young person working the 12 Step Program.  Although this is a short Podcast, for who am I to define Higher Power, my unequivocal belief is the spirituality found within the process of embracing our Higher Power is a vital pillar of the Recovery process. 3:15 - The Twelve Steps and Adolescent Recovery: A Concise Review, Angela J. Nash8:00 - ACA, Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional FamiliesThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

If we shift the approach to tackling our child's Substance Use Disorder from trying to gain control to trying to understand what is going on at the inner child level, perhaps we can become better parents while also serving ourselves in becoming better individuals. Channel your inner Roy Kent, one of my favorite characters from Ted Lasso, and plan on not always understanding the challenges in relationships. Release the frustration while you're on the road to Discovery, and every now and then, look back and see how far you have come. Let's get to work! :45 - Ukraine Easter Eggs:60 - Ted Lasso's Roy Kent1:25 - Family of Origin definition from Psychology Today1:45 - NARM Therapy  2:15 - Roy is Sorry for not understanding Keely Playlist (Apple) (YouTube)3:40 - American Journal of Preventive Medicine3:45 - Predicting Homelessness Among U.S. Army Soldiers No Longer on Active Duty4:25 - Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES) defined8:00 - Brad Kammer, NARM Institute8:25 - Expansion Process 8:35 - Poly Vagal Theory, Stephen Porges9:45 - ACES and Self Medication New Mexico State University Research10:15 - Gabor Mate on Rich Roll's Podcast Interviewing Rich10:45 - Survival Styles as captured by NARM Therapist Dr. Laurence Heller12:20 - Price of Privilege, by Madeline Levine, Ph.D., "How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids"Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

This Episode is dedicated to my friend Lisa. A walk with my friend this past weekend helped me realize how hard work through therapy and the 12 Step program has directly contributed to decreased Chaos in my life. Over a spectrum of several years, a consistent focus on developing healthy boundaries, and an increased awareness of personal traits born out of inter-generational trauma, has greatly contributed to a much calmer life for me personally. The result has been a consistent ability to facilitate calm and positive engagements with my children and a prioritization of self-care. Yes, we still have disagreements and challenges. But the approach to the solution is no longer focused on Right verses Wrong, Control, or Chaos.My son's entry into the world of Recovery has truly resulted in a better me, which no doubt contributes to a better 'we' within the Family System.0:30 - Al-Anon and Families Anonymous1:30 - Apryle Showers Charity3:30 - Huberman Lab managing stress (walking in the forest mention)5:30 - Intergenerational Trauma, Duke University Office for Institutional Equity6:15 - Psychology Today, 5 Styles of Family Relating: How well does your family function emotionally?8:25 - Psychology Today, 4 Ways to Set Boundaries, and why you shouldn't feel guilty about it.11:10 - Nature and Nurturing: Parenting in the Context of Child Temperament - Cara J. Kiff, Liliana J. Lengua, and Maureen Zalewski, Department of Psychology, University of Washington, Box 351525, Seattle, WA 98195, US12:35 - Neuro Affective Relational Model Therapy,NARM Introduction, by Dr. Laurence HellerThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

As a parent engaged in the Recovery process, I've had to look back at my past while I assess my role as "protector" over my children and ask, "Who was I really protecting?".  Is it healthy to over protect? No. Is it healthy to guard your children from danger? Yes.Do we often strike a healthy balance? I do not know.  The balance challenge rests in the awareness of when, how, or whether we are passing down intergenerational trauma. This Podcast is an uncomfortable deep dive into the necessary healing of past trauma in order to support our children's advancement to a future free of past generational trauma. My goal is simple: go forth, my boys, and be free of me. 2:15 - Therapists with Addiction experience: What is Addiction Therapy? 2:35 - Al-Anon and Families Anonymous3:45 - Intergenerational Trauma definition4:15 - Fight or Flight diagram4:45 - Stressors in Mothers and impact on children, "Parenting stress may affect mother's and child's ability to tune in to each other"5:20 - ACA Step 4, Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.6:00 - ACA Chapter 7, page 154, "Without knowing the meaning of the abandonment encoded within the past, the adult child is doomed to repeat it. The unexamined past becomes the future of the next generation. Dependence, addiction, and hellish living are pass on to the next generation with amazing accuracy."7:50 - Dr. Brad Reedy's, "The Journey of the Heroic Parent" 10:30 - Inner Child Work from Psychology Today, a blog from Hal Shorey, Ph.D., "Healing the Wounds that Bind You". Hal Shorey is a clinical psychologist and professor of clinical psychology at Widener University10:30 - Healing Trauma Through Inner Child Workfrom the Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) Foundation11:50 - Skit Guys, "The Serenity Prayer"... and, yes, I saved the best for last! Enjoy! xoThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

When we try to help people, who are we really serving? When we support our loved ones through Recovery, there is a fine line between helping and gaining a sense of doing something right or accomplish the goal of being a better person. So, are we helping to make ourselves feel better? Is this something we learned in childhood? Why are we REALLY helping? Digging into the concept of helping others can be both introspective and revealing. No doubt, it is a journey worth traveling with a Licensed Therapist. 0:45 - Evoke Therapy, Finding you Intensives Therapy Programs1:40 - Trauma Bond as defined by Psychology Today2:00 - Advice, and when to give it (so many little gems in this article)2:45 - Al Anon Meeting Finder, Families Anonymous Meeting Finder (you'll see the one I host in Ponte Vedra, FL), Nar-Anon Meeting Finder3:35 - Find a Therapist5:15 - Psychology Today article, 'The Neuroscience of Giving' by  Eva Ritvo M.D.6:50 - LifeSpan Podcast7:15 - Cell Press article, "Empathic Care and Distress: Predictive Brain Markers and Dissociable Brain Systems"8:25 - A "fixer", or what is termed as the "White Knight Syndrome".9:25 -  Families Anonymous, "Helping"Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Anger is an emotion that, for the most part, accompanies most of us in the beginning stages of our Recovery process. Once we join a 12 Step program, and work closely with a Licensed Therapist or Licensed Therapy team, it is an emotion we can hopefully look forward to regulating. If we do, it will serve us well as parents, and serve our children even better. 4:10 - Definition of Anger in Psychology Today4:30 - Huberman Lab Podcast, How your Brain works and Changes4:55 - Social Media and Emotions Research article, Social Media Use and Its Impact on Relationships and Emotions5:20 - Cyber Bullying resources 5:45 - Social Media algorithms and anger as captured from an article published in Psychology Today, 5 Ugly Truths About Big Tech6:00 - Anger and Physical Health, American Psychology Association resources6:40 - Anger in children, Yale Medicine, Anger, Irritability and Aggression in Kids6:45 - Definition of ACES: Adverse Childhood Experiences7:30 - Gabor Mate interview on multiple adults helping to support raising children9:30 - The Science of Emotion, Harvard, Anger Management10:50 - The link above to 'Anger Management' addresses how parents can also understand their own anger, and the impact it has on our children.  Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

This episode explores the very personal journey of Step work, specific to Step 3, and trauma healing. Both processes are incredibly personal. Resources mentioned, as always, provided below.  1:05 - Step 3 from the original 'Big Book', Alcoholics Anonymous1:30 - Perfect is the enemy of good originally came from Voltaire quoting an Italian proverb the Dictionnaire philosophique in 1770, "Le meglio è l'inimico del bene". 5:40 - Families Anonymous Step 35:50 - CoDependents Anonymous Step 36:55 - Higher Power7:00 - Sponsorship article from Recovery.org, Sponsor, Recovery Coach or Professional Counselor: Which is Right for You?9:00 - Trauma overview is addressed in Episode 29:20 - Psychology Today definition of Trauma10:05 - PTSD, a Georgia Tech study on possible avenues of treatment10:05 - PTSD, a Johns Hopkins University study on possible avenues of treatment10:15 - RNA definition from National Human Genome Research Institute10:35 - Implication of sperm RNAs in transgenerational inheritance of the effects of early trauma in mice11:45 - Summary of above article, "Gene-environment interactions are determining factors for the etiology of psychiatric disorders, diabetes and cancer, and are thought to contribute to disease inheritance across generations. Small non-coding RNAs (sncRNAs) are potential vectors at the interface between genes and environment. Here, we report that environmental conditions involving traumatic stress in early life in mice altered microRNAs (miRNAs) expression, and behavioral and metabolic responses in the progeny. Several miRNAs were affected in the serum and brain of both, the traumatized animals and their progeny when adult, but also in the sperm of traumatized males. Injection of sperm RNAs from these males into fertilized wild-type oocytes reproduced the behavioral and metabolic alterations in the resulting offspring. These results strongly suggest that sncRNAs are sensitive to environmental factors in early life, and contribute to the inheritance of trauma-induced phenotypes across generations. They may offer potential diagnostic markers for associated pathologies in humans."12:30 - 2018 Bronx Veterans Affairs Hospital Publication on Intergenerational Trauma, "Intergenerational transmission of trauma effects: putative role of epigenetic mechanisms"14:40 - Family of Origin study from Texas A&M, specific to addiction,Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

As a Recovery Mom, Step 2 can be impactful in the release of a belief of control. The recovery process offers us an opportunity to realize we are in an insane situation, and we can let go of any sense of being able to control our lives in the midst of chaos. We can, instead, focus on our recovery. Al Anon, Families Anonymous and other 12 Step programs can offer fellowship as you journey through this part of your recovery. Please seek out a 12 Step program near you, in addition to a Licensed Therapist. 3:20 - Parenting books that cover over involvement in our child's lives, and how that can hurt both the parent, and the child. The Price of Privilege, The Journey of the Heroic Parent, The Parallel Process3:30 - Definition of Enmeshment, "An inability to control our emotional involvement with another person, an exaggerated sense of empathy and responsibility for the other person's feelings, guilt or anxiety when not preoccupied with the other person's experience, intense fear of conflict in the relationship, an inability to feel happy if the other person is unhappy."3:31 - Co-Dependents Anonymous, Pia Mellody (Leading expert on Codependency)4:30 - Definition of a Family System, Psychology Today7:00 - Family of Origin definition:  "One's family of origin— the family one grew up in, as opposed to the people one currently lives with — is the place that people typically learn to become who they are. From the family of origin a person learns how to communicate, process emotions, and get needs met. People also learn many of their values and beliefs from their families." How Has Your Family of Origin Affected You? | Psychology Today8:05 - Gabor Mate turns the tables, and interviews Rich Roll on his own, Podcast: Dr. Gabor Maté On The Nexus Between Addiction & Childhood Development | Rich Roll9:00 - Adult Children of Alcoholics, Child roles: Hero, Mascot, Lost Child, Scapegoat11:00 - Step 2, Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

We are dealing with a different world, when we enter the world of Recovery. New information, new therapists, new treatment options and decisions. Then, someone says: attend a Step Meeting. As I entered into the world of Step Recovery through Al-Anon, my greatest challenge was Step 2: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. In this episode, I explore the challenges of this process, and offer resources to those seeking both sanity and belief.1:15 - Step 2 for CoDA Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.2:02 - Adult Children of Alcoholics2:10 - ACA Laundry List5:15 - You're Not Alone Podcast, and see below time stamp at 9:255:45 - Buddy C, Powerless but Not Helpless6:30 - Toasim8:55 - Finding a Treatment Center (GOV)9:25 - Agnostic Musings for a 12 Step Life11:15 - JAX Resource Page on SiblinghoodofrecoveryThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

A significant amount of research is coming out regarding the indelible impact a Family Member's own self-care and Recovery process can make on an individual battling a Substance Use Disorder (SUD). This Episode highlights the positive outcome of improving the Family system, as the Family is, "one of the most important support groups for an individual seeking recovery from an SUD".  These studies support leading Addiction Therapy and Treatment Center recommendations for care to focus on improving the Family system as a methodology in supporting a Family member challenged with an SUD. For long term success in overcoming an SUD, Recovery is much more than an individual's treatment, it is a way of life for the entire Family ecosystem.1) Qualifier - This term may be used in the 12 Step Programs or when speaking to Licensed Therapists. It may stem from the world of Insurance whereby the individual with an SUD is qualified for insurance coverage or the individual qualifies for treatment. The term is viewed as a softer description than 'addict', 'drug abuser', 'substance use abuser', etc.2) A Multifamily Group Curriculum for Family Members of Individuals with Substance Use Disorders: Updates, Perceptions, and Outcomes - I wish this was a link to a free version of the paper. I can only capture all that I quoted in this Episode on my website, as I did receive a copy of the paper directly from one of the authors. If more of this information was shared, even directly on the University, College or educational institution's site, the world would be better informed of these phenomenal studies and the work these researchers are contributing to the Recovery Community.  3) Substance Abuse Statistics - excerpt from Drug Abuse Statistics.org, "53 million or 19.4% of people 12 and over have used illegal drugs or misused prescription drugs within the last year".  Please click this link, as you'll find a breakdown of types of drugs used, demographics, and more. 4) Addiction in the family is a major but neglected contributor to the global burden of adult ill-health - Extracted from the Science Direct link provided, this paper quotes, "Evidence is presented to suggest that, globally, addiction is sufficiently stressful to cause pain and suffering to a large but uncounted number of adult affected family members (AFMs), possibly in the region of 100 million worldwide."5) Inclusion of Family Therapy in Rehabilitation Program of Substance Abuse and Its Efficacious Implementation - Enver Ulaş, Halil Ekşi, First Published August 30, 2019  Abstract"The family has been described as the center or heart of societal relationships. There has been a historic neglect of research in area of counseling for the family members of substance abusers. As result, treatment for individual family members affected by alcoholism and drug addiction remains a neglected component of majority of addiction programs. The study used a sample of 36 families who participated in family theraThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Why the value of finding your people in a group of Recovery Moms directly contributes to a research proven likelihood that you are positively contributing to your Family Member's Recovery process. 1) A Multifamily Group Curriculum for Family Members of Individuals with Substance Use Disorders: Updates, Perceptions, and Outcomes. Authors: Sterling T. Shumway, Spencer D. Bradshaw, Mazie Zielinski, Carissa D'Aniello, Thomas G. Kimball & Kristy Soloski.  This research can be downloaded for a fee from Alcoholism Treatment Quarterly, or you can reach out to Utah State University directly for a copy as many educational institutions are more than willing to share their findings with the general public. I will be digging into some of the specifics of this study in next week's Episode. For now, additional information is available on the below site, an excellent organization that provides FREE information on navigating the support of a Family member challenged with a Substance Use Disorder. 2) Recovery.org, from the About page, "Recovery.org is developed and maintained by Recovery Brands, LLC, a subsidiary of American Addiction Centers (AAC). For more information about Recovery.org's affiliation with AAC, please see below under “Helpline.”At Recovery.org, we are real people who have had experience with addiction and recovery—some of us firsthand, with others having seen the havoc it can wreak on family and friends. We have come out on the other side stronger for it, and firmly believe that recovery is possible for everyone.There is no tried-and-true formula that works for every person, and we will all take different paths to recovery. Still, we believe that recovery is absolutely possible, and that it should be placed within reach of anyone and everyone who wishes to get better. We hope our site is useful if you are seeking a path to recovery."Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

As Parents in Recovery, our entry into this new ecosystem requires developing an understanding of what we can and cannot control. As I journeyed into this new world, I became increasingly more grateful to Recovery leaders who introduced me to the one thing I could control: working on my healthier Self.1) 1:23 Step 1: We admitted we were powerless over drugs and other people's lives—that our lives had become unmanageable. Families Anonymous.2) 1:41 Ted Talk with Tara Conner, Recover out load, TEDx University of Nevada3) 1:51 SUD vs Addiction4) 2:06 Jamie Lee Curtis 5) 2:08 MacKenzie Philips6) 2:52 Episode 13 on Dopamine, Dopamine Nation Author's home page7) 3:17 Trauma and the 12 Steps Author Jamie Marich, PhD's home page8) 3:41 See Episode 1, 'How I Got Here'9) 3:52 NARM10) 3:59 Attachment Style, The Neurobiology of Attachment and How that Profoundly Impacts the Treatment of Trauma 11) 4:26 Step 4, Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.12) 5:07 Trauma & 12 Steps, page 47 13) 6:45 Price of Privilege, Chapter 6, page 12814) 8:49 January 24th in the book, Beyond Belief: Agnostic Musings for 12 Step Life 15) 9:25 AA Bill Wilson 17) 15:01 Attachment Styles from Psychology TodayThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

My nerdlike passion for Neuroscience digs deeper into experiencing Powerlessness, and embracing the feeling of having zero control over my Qualifier within the challenge of dealing with Substance Use Disorder(s). And it is liberating.As always, strong recommendations for working with a Licensed Therapist and hug fandom speak on the 12 Step Program. I know it saved my life. Want to find a meeting? Visit my website, www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com, and visit the GetHelp page for resources.1) 3:16 mention of Dr. Madeline Levine's book, 'The Price of Privilege' 2) 3:45 mention of Dr. Brad Reedy's Finding You Podcast3) 4:40 mention of Lindsey Vonn's Documentary 4) 7:30 SUDS and Family Readiness to Change — Siblinghood of Recovery5) 8:30 Codependency and Prefrontal Cortex Functioning: Preliminary Examination of Substance Use Disorder Impacted Family Members6) 9:00 Resources for 12 Step Programs7) 9:45 Brain images for the Dorsomedial PFC, A Circuit-Based Information Approach to Substance Abuse Research8) 11:45 From Psychology Today, Me Too: Big “T” vs. Little “t” Trauma: Fact and PerceptionThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

Happy 2022! We made it through the Holidays. Many personal triggers for the month of December, and I'm sure I'm not the only one in this big blue world ready to say goodbye to 2021. It's great to get on the other side. So, what to do in 2022? Curiosity got the best of me, as I looked back to see how much I gained from the 12 Step Program in 2021.  I wanted to look through a neuroscience lens and find out why a program created nearly 100 years ago, offered such a great platform and space to rewire my brain. For the first Step, “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol­­—that our lives had become unmanageable". If you're qualifier is addicted to drug to the point of requiring treatment, the entire function dopamine was created to perform, which is to keep us balanced, motivated and performing well, has become so unregulated, there is no longer a baseline of dopamine levels to support a normal rewards and expectations environment. This one factor concludes that we, as a Family member, are in fact completely powerless over the situation at hand. My promise to provide free, repeat, Free resources remains a top objective, and I'm excited to provide a few gems in this Episode. In addition to the noted research articles, please see links below to follow Anna Lembke, MD, who appears in the Netflix series, 'Social Dilemma', and also offers excellent insight on how our current societal structure impacts dopamine in neuro systems, often leading to situations that do in fact make us feel powerless as we struggle to regain a healthy reward and reaction system.  1) Rich Roll Podcast, Episode 64, 'Addiction Recovery & Masterclass'2) Anna Lembke, MD 'Dopamine Nation — Anna Lembke, MD'3) Evoke Therapy Intensives4) EMDR Therapy, 'What is EMDR?'5) Dopamine and Addition, Annual Reviews National Library of MedicineThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

A reflection about the other child during the Family Recovery Process. 1) 2:30 Science.org Article, 'Primed for Addiction? People with brains wired for drug abuse don't necessarily become addicts'2) 3:00 Readiness to Change reference in Episode 93) 4:15 NCBI article, Sibling influences on adolescent substance use: The role of modeling, collusion, and conflict' Note: also relevant research from University of Cambridge, but not referenced is, 'Siblings' brain scans could hold the key to drug addiction'4) 5:30 Self Agency and Self Efficacy reference in Episode 35) 6:15 Cardiff study, 'The Cardiff Study of all Wales and North West of England Twins (CaStANET): a longitudinal research program of child and adolescent development'6) 8:30, The NCBI reference of, 'Facing Addiction in America: The Surgeon General's Report on Alcohol, Drugs, and Health' as captured from Chapter 2, THE NEUROBIOLOGY OF SUBSTANCE USE, MISUSE, AND ADDICTION7) 12:30, reference to Episode 7, 'Trust the Process'8) 14:10, a good abstract on Self-Agency from NCBI, 'What Is the Sense of Agency and Why Does it Matter?'Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

It's the Holidays, so it's not a matter of "if" Triggers happen, it's a matter of "when". A few techniques are provided from a very recent experience, accompanied by research, resources, and more. 1) The definition of triggers per the American Psychological Association, https://dictionary.apa.org/trigger, "a stimulus that elicits a reaction. For example, an event could be a trigger for a memory of a past experience and an accompanying state of emotional arousal".2) Breathing techniques to reduce stress and anxiety YouTube with Andrew Huberman and Tim Ferris.3) University of The Cumberlands Eco-Therapy Blog on 'Take a Hike', "to improve mental and physical wellbeing through outdoor activities in nature—improves mental and physical well-being when doing outdoor activities in nature. Walking or hiking outside is a great way to reduce stress, anxiety and depression."4) The NeuroAffective Relational Model™ (NARM), "is a mindfulness-based clinical treatment, as its method is grounded in a phenomenological approach to addressing identity and consciousness of self – who we truly are beneath these patterned ways of relating to ourselves and the world.  Seen in this way, healing complex trauma is a vehicle for transformation on a personal and collective level." 5) Affective Perspective-Taking and Anger Regulation in Adolescent Peer and ParentConflicts article with the quote mentioned of, "Laursen and Hartl (2015) espoused that positive growth is facilitated by constructive conflicts; conversely, hindered relational, affective, and behavioral adjustment is associated with frequent destructive conflicts."6) Huberman Lab, look for the Episode entitled, 'Erasing Fear & Trauma'.7) Brad Reedy Podcasts8) Dr. Harriet Lerner, and the mentioned book, 'The Dance of Anger'.9) Step 10, "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it."Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

An excerpt, emphasizing the value of the individual working on recovery, to contribute to family health, is taken from, Family Functioning and Readiness in Family Recovery From Addiction, Spencer D. Bradshaw, Sterling T. Shumway, Eugene W. Wang, Kitty S. Harris,  Douglas B. Smith, and Heather Austin-Robillard, and drives the subject matter of this Podcast. Here is the direct quote:  "Addiction...is a family disease (Roth, 2010) that negatively impacts the functioning of the family, and the health of individual family members often suffers (Brown & Lewis, 1995; Cruse, 1989; Wegscheider-Cruse & Cruse, 2012). It is therefore important for family members to make changes and find personal recovery from the negative effects of addiction on the family and individual family members."When your child enters treatment, the best thing you can give your child is a better you. Invest in therapy, participating in a 12 Step program, and focus on becoming an individual aware of your self-agency and self-efficacy. The rewards, in regards to mental health and self-regulation, will be immense and truly can be one of the best you can for your child and Family. Just as an administrative note, In 2022, I will update the Podcasts with marking times next to each link I provide. Bear with me as I learn Podcasting, as it's definitely a process....see how I got that in there? Be well, beautiful Recovery people!  1) Evoke Therapy Programs, Dr. Brad Reedy Podcast2) Definition of Substance Use Disorder (SUD)3) Huberman Lab, Podcast on, TIME PERCEPTION & ENTRAINMENT BY DOPAMINE, SEROTONIN & HORMONES4) Our (as in Earth's residential population) North Star5) Our (yes, as in all of us on this ONE planet) upcoming North Star changes6) Co-Dependents Anonymous7) Al AnonThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

This Episode focuses again on Family Dynamics but more so on the parent's Readiness to Change. Again, citing work from, Spencer D. Bradshaw, Sterling T. Shumway, Eugene W. Wang, Kitty S. Harris, Douglas B. Smith & Heather Austin-Robillard, 'Family Functioning and Readiness in Family Recovery From Addiction' captures the simple acronym of RTC (Readiness to Change) that so many Treatment Center professionals seek out in the support of their number one focus: the client entering the Treatment Facility, the child. What is your RTC?More free material is offered in the mention of the best, in my humble opinion, Neuroscience Research and Educational Material, 'Huberman Lab' (see link below), and in a resource I just discovered available from our friends up in the Great White North, Foundry in British Columbia, Canada (link below).More self-education material, with the greatest focus on you, me, and any parent enlisting the help of Treatment professionals and Treatment Center teams: readiness to learn, change, and engage in the community of recovery. 1) Foundry, BC, Canada2) Foundry's Parent Resources (the best 'how-to' I've found to date)3) Huberman Lab (anything and everything you ever wanted to know about Neuroscience) 4) SUDs and the Family's Readiness to Change (RTC) post on my site (link to Cited Article on the Siblinghood of Recovery site)Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

"According to several conservative estimates, every dollar invested in addiction treatment programs yields a return of between $4 and $7 in reduced drug-related crime, criminal justice costs, and theft. When savings related to healthcare are included, total savings can exceed costs by a ratio of 12 to 1. Major savings to the individual and to society also stem from fewer interpersonal conflicts; greater workplace productivity; and fewer drug-related accidents, including overdoses and deaths." www.drugabuse.govTop line coverage of resources and information available to any parent seeking information on Substance Use Disorder (SUD) treatment, FOR FREE. These are free sites, to help you navigate a situation that is nothing less than hard, chaotic, and probably one of the most challenging situations any parent may face. 1) Find Treatment.GOV2) SAMHSA.GOV Brochure on Treatment Centers3) The Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equity Act (MHPAEA)4) Know Your Rights: Parity for Mental Health and Substance Use Disorder Benefits5) Connection Between Substance Use Disorder and Mental Illness6) American Addiction Centers.ORGThank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.