Podcasts about nkem ndefo

What are trauma tingles, you ask? Oh, you know them. They're those wild, exciting, tantalizing, and misdirecting feelings that magnetize you into the same shitty relational dynamics you've been dealing with your whole life.Oof, It's wild out there in the complex realm of relationships. Sometimes we find ourselves more interested in the chase than the embrace or confusing intensity for intimacy- all the while declaring that we want and need love. If red flags feel like home and you find yourself or people you know in the merry-go-round of relationship pains, welcome to the world of trauma tingles... Let's talk about it.In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons chats with Kai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo about red flags in dating and why trauma tingles feel irresistible. If an ordinary life feels risky and red flags cause a buzz of excitement, don't worry—this is a normal part of being human and an adaptive response to trauma. Through witnessing patterns unfolding and learning how to form safer boundaries for ourselves and others, we can heal to the point that those trauma tingles become boring and unsexy- red flag couture no more!Topics we break down:How trauma tingles relate to your attachment style.Why dating apps can be dehumanizing.Communicating your needs.Reconfiguring relationships.Maintaining boundaries.Choosing yourself.Kai Cheng's work focuses on the intersection of social justice, pleasure activism, and transformative approaches to healing conflict.Connect with Kai ChengWebsite | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterArise EmbodimentNkem is the founder of Lumos Transforms and the creator of the Resilience Toolkit.Connect with NkemWebsite | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterThe Resilience ToolkitConnect with Dr. ScottWebsite | Instagram | TikTokAddicted to DramaSave 10% at OMALA with offer code DRSCOTT10Save 10% on The Embody Lab with offer code GENTLYUSED10Want to see the Rorschach Drawings? Head over...

In this powerful episode, we welcome the brilliant Nkem Ndefo, founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit. Nkem is a visionary leader in the fields of trauma-informed care, resilience, and organizational healing. Together, we explore the intersections of compassionate communication, trauma-informed leadership, and DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion), offering insights that can transform not only our personal lives but also the way we lead and build workplaces and communities.What You'll Learn in This Episode:- What resilience truly means and how to cultivate it in times of stress  - How trauma-informed leadership can create healthier, more effective organizations  - The power of compassionate communication in fostering meaningful connections  - The role of DEI in creating sustainable, inclusive workplaces  - Practical strategies for organizational healing and cultural transformation  About Our Guest:Nkem Ndefo is a certified nurse-midwife, trauma expert, and founder of Lumos Transforms. With a background in nursing, midwifery, and somatic healing, Nkem has dedicated her career to helping individuals and organizations navigate trauma, build resilience, and create systemic change through compassionate and sustainable practices. She will also be a featured speaker at the Justice as Trauma 2025 Conference in Vancouver, bringing her expertise to a global stage. For more info on this event, visit: www.myrnamccallum.co/jat2025Resources & Links:- Learn more about Nkem Ndefo and her work at [Lumos Transforms](https://www.lumostransforms.com)  - Explore The Resilience Toolkit: [Resilience Toolkit](https://www.resiliencetoolkit.co)  - Follow Nkem on [LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/nkemndefo) and [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/lumostransforms)  Join the Conversation:Have thoughts on this episode? We'd love to hear from you! Share your reflections on social media using #ResilienceToolkit and tag us. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast—it helps more people find these important conversations!   

In this special Best of 2024 episode, we revisit the most impactful moments from our inspiring conversations throughout the year. These discussions dive deep into relationships, attachment, community, and healing, offering meaningful insights into how we connect with others and ourselves.From the complexities of love and partnership to the foundational influence of early experiences, we explore tools for navigating challenges with clarity and intention. Mark Groves and Dr. Stan Tatkin discuss the intricacies of relationships, focusing on the balance of connection and independence that helps them thrive. Dr. Judy Ho explains attachment styles and how our childhood patterns continue to shape our adult behaviors. Kai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo expand on emotional resilience, sharing strategies for navigating conflict and fostering greater compassion for ourselves and others.We also explore the transformative process of healing. Jessica Fern demystifies ethical non-monogamy, offering practical approaches to reframing love. Dr. Peter Levine delves into the impact of trauma on the nervous system, providing pathways for release and growth. Mastin Kipp and Dr. Nicole LePera share tools for understanding and managing emotional triggers, while Mia Magik reconnects us with ancient practices to strengthen our inner foundations.Themes of community care and mutual support emerge as Vannessa Bennett and Dené Logan reflect on the importance of fostering connection in mental health. Laura Clery reminds us of the power of humor to lighten life's burdens, while Michael Galyon encourages us to embrace the present moment with gratitude and openness.Featured GuestsMark Groves, Dr. Stan Tatkin, Sabrina Zohar, Jillian Turecki, Dr. Judy Ho, Jessica Fern, Vannessa Bennett and Dené Logan, Dr. Nicole LePera, Mastin Kipp, Dr. Peter Levine, Laura Clery, Mia Magik, Michael Galyon, Kai Cheng Thom, and Nkem Ndefo.If you feel one of your favorite guests has been missed, don't worry! Many more of our favorite guests will appear in next week's specially curated New Year's episode, where we'll share transformative tools to help you heal, grow, and graciously embrace 2025.If you enjoyed this Best of 2024 episode, please subscribe, share it with your fellow Gently Used Humans, and leave us a review! Your support helps us reach more listeners on their path toward growth and healing.Listen to the full episodes:Mia Magik https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-alchemy-of-rageMichael Galyon https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/finding-calm-in-chaosSabrina Zohar https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/breaking-the-cycle-of-toxic-relationshipsMastin Kipp https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/nourishing-your-nervous-systemDr Arielle Shwartz https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-nonlinear-journey-of-healingMark Groves https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/liberated-loveDr Stan Tatkin https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-architecture-of-relationshipsJessica Fern https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/erotic-blueprints-and-the-map-to-intimacyDr Peter Levine https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-birth-of-somatic-trauma-healingDr Nicole LePera https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/healing-trauma-and-an-addiction-to-dramaKai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/dating-your-trauma-tinglesVennessa Bennett and Dené Logan https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/tap-dancing-for-belongingJillian Turecki https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-safety-of-turbulance

What an honor to speak with Nkem Ndefo today!  I wanted to post this right away, because we are speaking about the election, and Nkem was very helpful in helping me take a step back and see a bigger picture of the election. I found it very profound when Nkem spoke about their vision for liberation of all. Their organization's vision is: "rooted in justice and flourishing in joy."  We spoke about the important question we can ask ourselves "where is my political home?" As we spoke about politics and healing, our conversation turned to how we all play roles (or could have a role) in social change. Here was a beautiful intersection with IFS! Nkem spoke about some of the ways that they have helped facilitate change on large scales within hospitals, and also schools!  To find out more about Nkem, you can go to: www.lumostransforms.com I hope this episode can bring you a little peace and hope.  

Meghalt a Csillagkapu és a Dawson és a haverok színésze, Obi Ndefo Mafab     2024-09-01 20:30:03     Film 51 éves korában elhunyt a Dawson és a haverok és a Csillagkapusorozatok színésze, Obi Ndefo - jelentette be nővére, Nkem Ndefo a Facebookon. Disney+: szeptemberi sorozatdömping jön a streaming-szolgáltatóra Noizz     2024-09-02 06:50:00     Film Disney Dokumentumfilm A nyári időjárás lassan őszibe fordul, a Disney+ pedig új tartalmak széles tárházával köszönti a következő évszakot. Akár kalandokat, szívmelengető történeteket vagy divat tematikájú dokumentumfilmeket keresel, a Disney+-on megtalálod, hiszen mindenki számára tartogat valamit a platform. A Mátrixon túl – a ma 60 éves Keanu Reeves 4 legjobb filmje Hamu és Gyémánt     2024-09-02 04:38:01     Film Kanada Keanu Reeves A kanadai Keanu Reeves filmes munkássága egészen 1984-ig nyúlik vissza, az igazi áttörést – és karrierje csúcsát – viszont az 1999-es Mátrix hozta el számára. 40 éves pályafutása során az IMDb szerint összesen 108 filmben vagy tévéműsorban szerepelt, mi pedig 60. születésnapjára ezek közül gyűjtöttük össze a legjobb 4-et. Fesztiválokkal robbantják be az évadot a függetlenek kultura.hu     2024-09-02 07:30:00     Zene Fesztiválok Innováció Ráadásul mindjárt két debütáló fesztivállal, amelyeken a független szcéna társulatai mutatkoznak be az összefogás, illetve az innováció jegyében, kőszínházi kollégákkal és zenész vendégekkel. Jón Kalman Stefánsson: Sárga tengeralattjáró Telex     2024-09-01 23:20:02     Könyv London Izland Tengeralattjáró Paul McCartney Az egyik londoni parkban pihenő Paul McCartney is szerepet kap az izlandi Jón Kalman Stefánsson legújabb regényében, amely különleges belső utazásra hívja az olvasót. Csukás Meserádió néven online adó indult gyerekeknek Könyves Magazin     2024-09-02 08:56:55     Könyv Rádió Közmédia Csukás István Szeptember 1-jén Csukás Meserádió néven indította el online adóját a közmédia. A rádió a névadójához, Csukás Istvánhoz hűen gyermekeknek dedikált, szórakoztatóan fejlesztő és biztonságos tartalmakkal várja hallgatóit. Ebben a budapesti étteremben vacsorázott Morgan Freeman Igényesférfi.hu     2024-09-02 08:38:16     Film Golden Globe Morgan Freeman Magyarországon forgatja legújabb filmjét Morgan Freeman. Az Oscar- és Golden Globe-díjas színész a Szemfényvesztők harmadik része miatt tartózkodik jelenleg hazánkban, ám a munka mellett a kikapcsolódásra is marad ideje. A dalai láma barátja, Richard Gere 75 éves lett Librarius     2024-09-01 17:59:11     Film Richard Gere Dalai láma Richard Gere a filmek mellett jelentős humanitárius munkát is végzett, különösen Tibet ügyét támogatta, és közeli kapcsolatot ápol a dalai lámával.   Ki segített lefogyni Friderikusz Sándornak? Story     2024-09-01 17:25:48     Bulvár Fogyókúra Diéta Friderikusz Sándor Akik évtizedek óta követik a pályafutását, tudják, hogy mindig is jellemző volt rá a súlyingadozás. A kilókkal folytatott küzdelme sokaknak ismerős lehet, hiszen a diétázók nagy réme, a jojóeffektus a fogyókúrázók egyik ősellensége. Ma kezdődnek a 6. Marton Éva Nemzetközi Énekverseny élő fordulói Fidelio     2024-09-02 10:40:00     Zene Zeneakadémia A névadó művésznő köszöntőjével, majd a versenyzők fellépési sorrendjének kisorsolásával szeptember 1-jén este megkezdődött a Zeneakadémia hatodik Marton Éva Nemzetközi Énekversenye. Csárdáskirálynő – több mint száz éve a színpadokon Koncert.hu     2024-09-02 10:00:39     Színpad Az operett műfaj rajongói szeptember 14-én örvendezhetnek, hiszen ezen a szombat estén látványos díszletben elevenedik meg a rendkívüli karrierjét csodagyerekként kezdő, később pedig nemzetközi hírű zeneszerzőnkké avanzsált Kálmán Imre méltán legnépszerűbb műve, az operettek operettje: a Csárdáskirálynő. A további adásainkat keresd a podcast.hirstart.hu oldalunkon.

Meghalt a Csillagkapu és a Dawson és a haverok színésze, Obi Ndefo Mafab     2024-09-01 20:30:03     Film 51 éves korában elhunyt a Dawson és a haverok és a Csillagkapusorozatok színésze, Obi Ndefo - jelentette be nővére, Nkem Ndefo a Facebookon. Disney+: szeptemberi sorozatdömping jön a streaming-szolgáltatóra Noizz     2024-09-02 06:50:00     Film Disney Dokumentumfilm A nyári időjárás lassan őszibe fordul, a Disney+ pedig új tartalmak széles tárházával köszönti a következő évszakot. Akár kalandokat, szívmelengető történeteket vagy divat tematikájú dokumentumfilmeket keresel, a Disney+-on megtalálod, hiszen mindenki számára tartogat valamit a platform. A Mátrixon túl – a ma 60 éves Keanu Reeves 4 legjobb filmje Hamu és Gyémánt     2024-09-02 04:38:01     Film Kanada Keanu Reeves A kanadai Keanu Reeves filmes munkássága egészen 1984-ig nyúlik vissza, az igazi áttörést – és karrierje csúcsát – viszont az 1999-es Mátrix hozta el számára. 40 éves pályafutása során az IMDb szerint összesen 108 filmben vagy tévéműsorban szerepelt, mi pedig 60. születésnapjára ezek közül gyűjtöttük össze a legjobb 4-et. Fesztiválokkal robbantják be az évadot a függetlenek kultura.hu     2024-09-02 07:30:00     Zene Fesztiválok Innováció Ráadásul mindjárt két debütáló fesztivállal, amelyeken a független szcéna társulatai mutatkoznak be az összefogás, illetve az innováció jegyében, kőszínházi kollégákkal és zenész vendégekkel. Jón Kalman Stefánsson: Sárga tengeralattjáró Telex     2024-09-01 23:20:02     Könyv London Izland Tengeralattjáró Paul McCartney Az egyik londoni parkban pihenő Paul McCartney is szerepet kap az izlandi Jón Kalman Stefánsson legújabb regényében, amely különleges belső utazásra hívja az olvasót. Csukás Meserádió néven online adó indult gyerekeknek Könyves Magazin     2024-09-02 08:56:55     Könyv Rádió Közmédia Csukás István Szeptember 1-jén Csukás Meserádió néven indította el online adóját a közmédia. A rádió a névadójához, Csukás Istvánhoz hűen gyermekeknek dedikált, szórakoztatóan fejlesztő és biztonságos tartalmakkal várja hallgatóit. Ebben a budapesti étteremben vacsorázott Morgan Freeman Igényesférfi.hu     2024-09-02 08:38:16     Film Golden Globe Morgan Freeman Magyarországon forgatja legújabb filmjét Morgan Freeman. Az Oscar- és Golden Globe-díjas színész a Szemfényvesztők harmadik része miatt tartózkodik jelenleg hazánkban, ám a munka mellett a kikapcsolódásra is marad ideje. A dalai láma barátja, Richard Gere 75 éves lett Librarius     2024-09-01 17:59:11     Film Richard Gere Dalai láma Richard Gere a filmek mellett jelentős humanitárius munkát is végzett, különösen Tibet ügyét támogatta, és közeli kapcsolatot ápol a dalai lámával.   Ki segített lefogyni Friderikusz Sándornak? Story     2024-09-01 17:25:48     Bulvár Fogyókúra Diéta Friderikusz Sándor Akik évtizedek óta követik a pályafutását, tudják, hogy mindig is jellemző volt rá a súlyingadozás. A kilókkal folytatott küzdelme sokaknak ismerős lehet, hiszen a diétázók nagy réme, a jojóeffektus a fogyókúrázók egyik ősellensége. Ma kezdődnek a 6. Marton Éva Nemzetközi Énekverseny élő fordulói Fidelio     2024-09-02 10:40:00     Zene Zeneakadémia A névadó művésznő köszöntőjével, majd a versenyzők fellépési sorrendjének kisorsolásával szeptember 1-jén este megkezdődött a Zeneakadémia hatodik Marton Éva Nemzetközi Énekversenye. Csárdáskirálynő – több mint száz éve a színpadokon Koncert.hu     2024-09-02 10:00:39     Színpad Az operett műfaj rajongói szeptember 14-én örvendezhetnek, hiszen ezen a szombat estén látványos díszletben elevenedik meg a rendkívüli karrierjét csodagyerekként kezdő, később pedig nemzetközi hírű zeneszerzőnkké avanzsált Kálmán Imre méltán legnépszerűbb műve, az operettek operettje: a Csárdáskirálynő. A további adásainkat keresd a podcast.hirstart.hu oldalunkon.

Have you ever felt the pressure to prove that your trauma is more severe than others? Or found yourself in situations where experiences of pain and suffering are compared and contrasted in a competitive way?Welcome to the Trauma Olympics.Joining Dr. Scott to unpack this intricate subject are Kai Cheng Thom, MSW, MSc, a certified Somatic Sex Educator and acclaimed author, and Nkem Ndefo, MSN, the founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit. Together, they explore the different forms of Trauma Olympics, including the troubling trends of one-upping and minimizing others' experiences, and the underlying causes such as capitalism, scarcity mentality, and the quest for validation.They'll discuss the negative effects of this phenomenon, such as how it splinters social movements and fosters a culture of constant competition over trauma and they'll delve into the complex politics of trauma disclosure, examining the pressure to share personal experiences for validation and the crucial right to low disclosure.This conversation is not just an exploration but also a critical examination of our societal and individual approaches to trauma. Whether you've experienced this phenomenon personally or are seeking to understand it better, this episode offers insights, personal stories, and thoughtful analysis on navigating the challenging landscape of the Trauma Olympics.Get ready for a profound discussion that sheds light on the complexities and dangers of comparing traumas and the importance of respecting individual boundaries and experiences in the journey of healing and resilience.Topics we break downDeep-seated reasons that people choose to engage in Trauma Olympics and comparative victimhood.Ways in which capitalism and the scarcity mentality support the zero-sum game of comparison.What it might look like to extract trauma from self-identity and how this relates to healing.How competitive trauma is incentivized and the dehumanizing effect of hierarchy.The difference between trauma acting as a social glue and trauma becoming a social disruptor. Cultivating the capacity to relate to people beyond the sensationalist quality of their story.Retiring ourselves from the sport of Trauma Olympics by meeting the underlying need.How power dynamics influence competitive trauma and create a barrier to reconciliation.What might change if we could communicate in a context where everyone wasn't stretched so thin.

Today's show brings back a guest from years ago, and I'm excited to reconnect with her and hear updates about her life and work. She's a lovely human and a beautiful soul who is doing meaningful work that helps many people. Join us!  Nkem Ndefo is the founder of Lumos Transforms and the creator of The Resilience Toolkit, a model that promotes embodied self-awareness and self-regulation in an ecologically sensitive framework and social justice context. Originally licensed as a nurse midwife, Nkem has extensive postgraduate training in complementary health modalities and emotional therapies. She has worked in a lot of settings from large-volume hospitals to mobile community clinics, and she brings years of expertise as a clinician, educator, researcher, and community strategist. She works in programs that address trauma inequity as she seeks to build resilience and shape liberatory change for individuals and organizations throughout the US and internationally. Her particular interest is in working alongside people most impacted by violence and marginalization, and she does important work in the birth community. We are discussing how systems are related to trauma and mental health, along with how systems impact birthing people and the healthcare providers in the birthing community.  Show Highlights: An overview of Nkem's broad scope of work around healing and liberation Why we need systems that facilitate healing on the individual AND community levels What it means to be trauma-informed in the realm of reproductive health and mental health Why our healthcare system MUST recognize the need for trauma-informed approaches for birth workers How we can change the systems with little steps—one at a time What Nkem sees as the leading factors in why people are resistant to change How tools and intention can grow our capacity to recognize overwhelm and activate boundaries around things that cause stress How many different kinds of traumas contribute to mental health diagnoses Why most of our trauma healing efforts in the current medical model fall short How inadequate parental leave within the current system kicks off a cascade of mental health effects Why doulas are NOT the solution or the fix to the broken system Why we need to be courageous with our hopes and dreams of changing the broken system An overview of Lumos Transforms and The Resilience Toolkit Resources: Connect with Nkem Ndefo and Lumos Transforms: Website, Instagram, X, and The Resilience Toolkit Visit www.postpartum.net for resources and support!  Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/ for information on the grief course.   Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's episode is a recently released conversation I had as a guest on the Leaving Well with Naomi Hattaway podcast. Naomi is a skilled interviewer, and it was a joy to talk to her about my experience of leaving well, including the one regret that I had in the process.  I think Naomi's work has a lot to offer the community we are building around The Proximity Process. I hope this is an opportunity to discover a new show that brings you value. Leaving Well is the art and practice of leaving a job, role, project, or title, with intention and purpose, and when possible … joy. Naomi's podcast brings experiences and lessons learned about necessary endings in the workplace, through conversations on topics such as grief, confidence, leadership, career development, and the Leaving Well Framework. For more information about Naomi's work, you can visit her website where you all also find the episodes with Yanique Redwood and Nkem Ndefo. Leaving Well Podcast — Naomi HattawayYou are invited to join the Proximity Podcast Club, a growing community of people who are supporting one another through their own process of becoming who they want to be in this work. We meet every Monday morning at 9am est. Message me, Matt Anderson, on LinkedIn for the meeting link.Please connect with me, Matt Anderson, on LinkedIn - Matt Anderson | LinkedIn

My guest this week is someone who is both right at the edge of the emerging futures and in a position to exert leverage at some of the highest points of the scale at which change happens. Sophia Parker is the Emerging Futures Director at the Joseph Rowntree Foundation, a philanthropic organisation with a long history of progressive work, aiming for social and cultural equity.  It is still committed to the research that sheds new light onto the nature and scale of poverty and injustice in the UK. It is still advocating for change and supporting the people who are making it happen - but newly it is supporting those who are at the leading edge of paradigm shift, exploring all the myriad ways we could break out of late stage capitalism and towards that more flourishing future our hearts know is possible. And there are so many ways - one of the many things I took on board from this conversation was the number of people and organisations around the world who are working in and expanding the radical spaces we've touched on recently with Indy Johar and then Alnoor Ladha and Lynn Murphy.  In her role as the Director of the Emerging Futures Programme, Sophia is working at the heart of the change, connecting ideas, exploring how best to support them in ways that will grow us forward and not just keep propping up the old system and the old narratives.  She's delving deeply into ways to change the narrative, the levels at which that happens, where are the tipping points in our culture and how do we support and entire ecosystem of transformation.  Near the top of the hour, we talked about hope and truly, I came away from this conversation a lot more hopeful than when we started. Bio:Sophia Parker was CEO of Little Village, the London-based charity she founded in 2016 that works to tackle child poverty. Now, she is the Emerging Futures Director at the Joseph Rowntree Foundation, a philanthropic organisation with a long history of progressive work, aiming for social equity. The Emerging Futures programme was set up to imagine and grow radical new approaches to tackling poverty, in collaboration with partners and people with lived experience of poverty.Previously she has held senior leadership positions in think tanks and charities, as well as working in government locally and nationally, and was a Research Associate at Harvard's Kennedy School). Share your ideas for future Gatherings: https://accidentalgods.life/ideas-for-gatherings/ Sophia's Blog Emerging Futures at JRF - two years in, the story so far | JRFJoseph Rowntree Foundation https://www.jrf.org.uk/JRF Emerging Futures https://www.jrf.org.uk/society/emerging-futures/Little Village https://littlevillagehq.org/Geoff Mulgan Another World is Possible https://www.geoffmulgan.com/another-world-is-possibleMeg Wheatley - Two Loop theory  https://transformationallearningopportunities.com/two-loop-theoryEF/JRF Imagination Infrastructure Event https://www.imaginationinfrastructuring.com/imagination-infrastructure-initiatves/iievent-pw8gjThe Onion Collective: https://www.onioncollective.co.uk/The Onion Collective: Liminal economics paper - https://medium.com/onioncollective/liminal-economics-swimming-at-the-edge-of-the-economy-f16fb476daa4Centre for Public Impact https://www.centreforpublicimpact.org/europeCanopy https://www.canopy.si/Center for Economic Democracy https://www.economicdemocracy.us/York: New Constellations https://newconstellations.co/journey/york/Opus in Sheffield https://weareopus.org/CoLab Dudley https://dudleyhighstreet.uk/colab-dudley/SuperFlux https://superflux.in/Cassie Robinson Emerging Futures, Patterning the Emerging Horizon https://videos.theconference.se/cassie-robinson-emerging-futuresLankelly Chase https://lankellychase.org.ukThirtyPercy https://thirtypercy.org/Dimple Abichandani https://www.ncfp.org/people/dimple-abichandi/Nkem Ndefo https://lumostransforms.com/team/nkem-ndefo/

The final Episode of Season 9, a season on mental health, embodiment, and in this episode we throw in change and some DEI (diversity equity and inclusion) as well. Recorded on Treaty 7 territory in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. Change is hard, and harder still when it involves institutions filled with individuals who don't want to change. In this eye-opening and juicy conversation, Nkem Ndefo, founder of Lumos Transforms, joins Rohadi to discuss the pathways to embodying change. Change for both the self, and for organizations looking to become more equitable and inclusive spaces for all to work and thrive. I think in some ways it resilience has been weaponized. And as I've been teaching and working with people over the many years, I've seen a lot of people recoil from the word because it's been weaponized against folks in a very neoliberal context, in that we don't acknowledge the system's culpability in creating conditions of adversity. Instead, we look only at the individual and that unit, and we say that the individual must be more resilient, you must be strong, flexible to endure, whatever is going on, and that any resilience you build will then be extracted from you for greater production and consumption. - Nkem Episode Summary Intro to this episode. 0:00 Introduction to the show. 3:11 Reciprocity and collaboration in leading organizational and individual change. 8:24 The difficulty of existing in the liminal spaces that need to change. 15:08 The way resiliency has been weaponized and how to reclaim it. 21:25 The importance of naming systemic problems. 30:55 How do we bring awareness to embodiment? 37:14 How do we build resilience in the face of privilege and fragility? 43:43 About Nkem: Nkem Ndefo, MSN, CNM, RN, is the founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit. She is a skilled practitioner, dynamic speaker, and valued strategist. She is known for her unique ability to connect with people of all types by holding powerful healing spaces, weaving complex concepts into accessible narratives, and creating synergistic and collaborative learning communities that nourish people's innate capacity for healing, wellness, and connection.Social Media Handles: Instagram: @lumos_transforms Threads: @lumos_transforms Facebook: @lumostransforms Rohadi's connect points: Rohadi.com | Twitter | Instagram | TikTok

‘Language can be many different things…allow it to be those.'   Language is a vehicle for communication and for expression. How does it equip and support us? How does it get in our way? Deep dive with us and Nkem Ndefo, founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit, as we unpack the power of language. You're not ready for this one!   Nkem Ndefo, MSN, CNM, RN, is the founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit, a model that promotes embodied self-awareness and self-regulation in an ecologically sensitive framework and social justice context. She is known for her unique ability to connect with people of all types by holding powerful healing spaces, weaving complex concepts into accessible narratives, and creating synergistic and collaborative learning communities that nourish people's innate capacity for healing, wellness, and connection. Originally licensed as a nurse midwife, Nkem has extensive post-graduate training in complementary health modalities and emotional therapies and has worked in settings ranging from large-volume hospitals to mobile community clinics. She brings an abundance of experience as a clinician, educator, researcher, and community strategist to innovative programs that address trauma and inequity, build resilience, and shape liberatory change for individuals and organizations across sectors, both in her home country (US) and internationally. She regularly provides trauma-informed subject matter expertise to organizations, initiatives, and governmental agencies. Nkem is particularly interested in working alongside people most impacted by violence and marginalization. Most recently, she led a multi-year embodied diversity, equity, inclusion, and antiracism initiative for the Los Angeles County Department of Health Services.   Mentions: Connect with Nkem Website: lumostransforms.com IG: @nkemndefo @lumos_transforms Nervous System PUP! episodes: Ep 42: Building a Flexible Nervous System with Ama Rouge and Ella Mesma https://open.spotify.com/episode/0HChaGu0JxQpQI7mMq2VLc?si=78897fbbfebb4580 Ep 43: Regulating my Nervous System Changed my Life with Anastasia Ttofis https://open.spotify.com/episode/5SdliYzbeXw9sTOtrL72oH?si=f5abe68c47be4cd8 Em 44: The Human Experience of Relating to What Shows Up with Martha Cuffy https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ZyecTSdljdVOKEQK2xUFY?si=2d9ecce467204ed1 Ep 64: How About we Evolve? with Akeim Toussaint Buck https://open.spotify.com/episode/4RjxD511ds0PysPfcNj9xE?si=1b48a5a4dd074c8a Connect with us: Ama Rouge Website: www.wearewildwithin.com IG: @powerup.podcast @ama.rouge @wearewildwithin  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ama-rouge-870b60138 FB: AmaRougemoves Twitter: @podcastpowerup   Ella Mesma Website: www.ellamesma.co.uk, www.mayagandaia.com,  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ella-mesma-b6071320/ IG: @powerup.podcast @Ellamesma  FB:@EllaMesma  Twitter: @podcastpowerup   Music by Tomo Carter IG: @tomocarter   Everything else brought to you by us, the PowerUp! power team

Today Lindsay speaks with Nkem Ndefo, Nurse, Nurse Midwife, the Founder of Lumos Transformations and the creator of the Resilience Toolkit. Nkem is highly trained in trauma informed healing practices and has created an organization to train individuals, companies and change makers using the inclusive toolkit that she created. This chat starts by exploring Nkem's journey with ME/CFS and how a parasite was found after decades of illness. It then explores disability justice work, trauma work and the ideologies these issues can hold. Nkem and Lindsay discuss the lack of empathy and support that many people receive through the medical system and Nkem speaks about her organizational understanding of Resilience, and what the Resilience Toolkit course teaches, and trains others to teach. Other questions explored include -What does it mean to be trauma informed? and what should we be looking out for in an online program? You can find the intro to Resilience Toolkit Course at https://lumostransforms.com/intro-to-the-resilience-toolkit/ and follow Nkem on imtagram @nkemndefo and @lumos_transforms To work with Lindsay, check out her services at lindsayvine.com

What are trauma tingles, you ask? Oh, you know them. They're those wild, exciting, tantalizing, and misdirecting feelings that magnetize you into the same shitty relational dynamics you've been dealing with your whole life.Oof, It's wild out there in the complex realm of relationships. Sometimes we find ourselves more interested in the chase than the embrace or confusing intensity for intimacy- all the while declaring that we want and need love. If red flags feel like home and you find yourself or people you know in the merry-go-round of relationship pains, welcome to the world of trauma tingles... Let's talk about it.In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons chats with Kai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo about red flags in dating and why trauma tingles feel irresistible. If an ordinary life feels risky and red flags cause a buzz of excitement, don't worry—this is a normal part of being human and an adaptive response to trauma. Through witnessing patterns unfolding and learning how to form safer boundaries for ourselves and others, we can heal to the point that those trauma tingles become boring and unsexy- red flag couture no more!Topics we break down:How trauma tingles relate to your attachment style.Why dating apps can be dehumanizing.Communicating your needs.Reconfiguring relationships.Maintaining boundaries.Choosing yourself.Kai Cheng's work focuses on the intersection of social justice, pleasure activism, and transformative approaches to healing conflict.Connect with Kai ChengWebsite | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterArise EmbodimentNkem is the founder of Lumos Transforms and the creator of the Resilience Toolkit.Connect with NkemWebsite | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterThe Resilience ToolkitConnect with Dr. ScottWebsite | Instagram | TikTokAddicted to DramaSave 10% at OMALA with offer code DRSCOTT10Save 10% on The Embody Lab with offer code

Addressing and healing trauma is hard work! But it's also so necessary. Change ultimately happens when people feel safe and realize that true safety lives within us, which is why Nkem developed the Resilience Toolkit.Nkem Ndefo is the founder and president of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit, a model that promotes embodied self-awareness and self-regulation in an ecologically sensitive framework and social justice context. Licensed as a nurse-midwife, Nkem also has extensive post-graduate training in complementary health modalities and emotional therapies. She brings an abundance of experience as a clinician, educator, consultant, and community strategist to innovative programs that address stress and trauma and build resilience for individuals, organizations, and communities across sectors, both in her home country (USA) and internationally. Nkem is particularly interested in working alongside people most impacted by violence and marginalization.**************IG: @lumos_transforms Twitter: @lumostransformsFacebook: @lumostransformslumostransforms.comtheresiliencetoolkit.coThe Resilience Toolkit Certification Program occurs twice each year with the next session beginning Sept 6, 2022. For more information, visit: https://theresiliencetoolkit.co/become-a-facilitator/**************What is a Social Enterprise?A Social Enterprise is an organization created for impact. It uses a sustainable and earned income business model with a governing structure focused on stated social or environmental goals. It invests a significant portion of its revenue, profit or assets into expanding this stated mission.socialenterprise.usinfo@socialenterprise.ustoastinggood.com**************

I talk to educator and activist Nkem Ndefo about trauma, resilience, and building the capacity for transformation.

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If you're like me, it helps to hear what something looks like in practice over just reading questions on a page.  In this bonus episode the Licensed Mental Health Counselor Kathleen Joseph shares one of her favorite exercises to do with clients to relieve stress and build resilience.  You can see the activity below, but if you want to know what it sounds like in practice (and how stressed I am right now!), Kathleen asked me the questions and guided me through it in this episode. The Resilience Toolkit by Nkem Ndefo - https://theresiliencetoolkit.co/ - there is a fee associated with doing this with Nkem. This is an adaptation Nkem Ndefo’s Resilience Toolkit  First, ask yourself “How stressed am I?” – this gets at how strong the stress response is  You can rank this on a scale of 1-10 or low to high (we will come back to ranking)  Then ask yourself, “How do I know?”. How do you know you are a “7 out of 10” or “highly” stressed, for example  This is an important question because this gives us   1) insight into our experience, and   2) a better way of understanding our experience  Now, ask yourself, “Is this adaptive for me in this moment?” (“Is this useful for me right now?)  If yes – GOOD! Use it and keep going  If no –   Ask yourself this question: “What do I need?”  “What practice(s) can I use?”  Exercise, or taking a walk Finally, ask yourself: “How do I know that the practice worked?” If the practice works at reducing your feelings of stress, or at helping you to notice how stressed you are, keep practicing it.

On today’s podcast I have the pleasure of speaking to Nkem Ndefo about the complex realm of “safety”–particularly in relation to race and the racial injustices that many face and have for generations. "Safety is an internal job," says Nkem. We cannot create safety for anyone if we ourselves don't feel internally safe. This episode is required listening for any coach or clinician who's actively in practice during this pivotal moment in history. Click here to download the completed Matrix from this week’s episode To learn more about Nkem Ndefo and her work click here To access the Anti-Racist Resource Nkem mentions click here For a list of Rachel Yehuda’s, PhD work click here Related Episodes: Episode #164 where Thomas Hubl Maps Collective Trauma on the 15-Minute Matrix Episode #120 where Alex Howard Maps the Sympathetic Nervous System on the 15-Minute Matrix Episode #157 where Dr. Sydne Ford Maps Racial Injustice during Covid-19

In this special episode of Our Stories Matter, we present the audio recording from our IPV Revolution: Healing the Healer event. In recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness (October) and in light of the current political moment and global public health context, we joined together for community care and collective healing through an exploration of the imperative to center the healing, transformation, and liberation of communities of color impacted by intimate partner violence (IPV).⁣ Through storytelling and an analysis of the systems that impact survivors of color and those who are supporting crisis intervention, healing, and resilience, we created a dialogue that focused on how to build the capacity and sustainability of professionals and survivor leaders working to prevent and address the impact of intimate partner violence.Speakers included Orchid Cameron, Ramona Merchan, Paula Miley, Nkem Ndefo, and Patty Ramirez.Disclaimer: This audio contains subjects that may be activating for people who have experienced trauma.

This talk is an excerpt from a guest teacher gathering with Nkem Ndefo which originally took place on September 24th, 2020. Nkem is the founder and president of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit, a model that promotes embodied self-awareness and self-regulation in an ecologically sensitive framework and social justice context. Licensed as a nurse midwife, Nkem also has extensive post-graduate training in complementary health modalities and emotional therapies. She brings an abundance of experience as a clinician, educator, consultant, and community strategist to innovative programs that address stress and trauma and build resilience for individuals, organizations, and communities across sectors, both in her home country (USA) and internationally. Nkem is particularly interested in working alongside people most impacted by violence and marginalization. You can find out more about more about Nkem’s work at lumostransforms.com and resiliencetoolkit.co. And Liberated Being at liberatedbeing.community

The theme of our September/October issue is Healing — and on the latest episode of The Yoga Show we chat with Rae Johnson and Nkem Ndefo, leaders of an Embodied Activism Course from Embodied Philosophy. Drawing on neuroscience, somatic theory and practice, liberation psychology, trauma-informed and anti-oppressive education, and lived experience, the course examines practical strategies to reclaiming, resisting, and interrogating the political realities of our everyday lives using the felt experiences of our bodies as the groundwork for social justice—so we can come at personal and community healing from the inside out. Contact Rae through her website or through Pacifica Graduate Institute and Nkem through her website.  This episode of The Yoga Show is sponsored by Say Your Peace. Say Your Peace aims to spark global change through self-transformation and community dialogue. Share your story by using #SayYourPeace and following us on Instagram and Facebook.

In this episode we discuss: Trauma as the root of most of our suffering  Common misperceptions about trauma and stress  6 principles of a trauma-informed approach Incorporating neuroscience and a return to ancient practices What is resilience?  Embodied activism - an everyday activism Making space for healing Nkem Ndefo is the founder and president of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit, a model that promotes embodied self-awareness and self-regulation in an ecologically sensitive framework and social justice context. Licensed as a nurse midwife, Nkem also has extensive post-graduate training in complementary health modalities and emotional therapies. She brings an abundance of experience as a clinician, educator, consultant, and community strategist to innovative programs that address stress and trauma and build resilience for individuals, organizations, and communities across sectors, both in her home country (USA) and internationally. Nkem is particularly interested in working alongside people most impacted by violence and marginalization.

Join us for a conversation with Nkem Ndefo, founder and president of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit, a model that promotes embodied self-awareness and self-regulation in an ecologically sensitive framework and social justice context. We invite you to learn more about Nkem Ndefo here. Visit the Our Stories Matter homepage to learn more about the podcast. Follow @OurStoriesMatterPodcast on Instagram and subscribe to our newsletter for the latest updates. 

“One of the most powerful things we can do as parents is to "settle" our own stress. To be as calm as possible in the moment at hand.” - Nkem Ndefo In this podcast episode, Nkem reflects on transformation, pregnancy, birth, parenting, stress, epigenetics, and self-care. With an emphasis on stress and stress relief, we discuss ways to prepare for a big life change, even when it’s too fast. Even when there’s trauma involved. Nkem is the founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit. She is a skilled practitioner, dynamic speaker, and valued strategist. She is known for her unique ability to connect with people of all types by holding powerful healing spaces, weaving complex concepts into accessible narratives, and creating synergistic and collaborative learning communities that nourish people’s innate capacity for healing, wellness, and connection. As a clinician, Nkem has worked in settings ranging from large volume hospitals to mobile community clinics. She founded and operated a full scope midwifery and homebirth practice from 2000-2007. And she has maintained a small holistic private practice in Los Angeles since 2007 To learn more about Nkem and her work with individuals, businesses and nonprofits, visit her website:https://lumostransforms.com/about/ Produced by Aleksa Mara Edited by Veronica Gruba Hosted & Created by Britta Bushnell, PHD

We are forever changed by the pause this pandemic has caused. In this episode of Raising Equity, Nkem Ndefo creator […]

Nkem Ndefo, founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of the Resilience Toolkit, joins the program to discuss the difference between healthy and unhealthy storytelling, and the importance of self-regulation. Nkem also shares insights about the physical, mental and emotional costs of feeling unsafe at work, and what we need to do to increase our personal resilience. Discover the positive outcomes that can come from modulating our emotions, and how to balance the need to fight and challenge oppression with the benefits of calm and peaceful visioning.

Nkem Ndefo is one of the most inspirational individuals I’ve ever had the pleasure of chatting with. She is someone who knows her purpose, and lives her purpose, with a natural ability to connect, and inspire others to discover their own power. She is the Founder of Lumos Transforms, and the creator of The Resilience Toolkit, a system of movement and mindfulness tools that teaches an embodied awareness of our own stress, and relaxation cycles. The framework of the Resilience Toolkit provides individuals with evidence based tools to settle the nervous system, reduce stress, and effectively connect with our own internal resources. Licensed as a Registered Nurse, and Nurse Midwife, Nkem has experienced the most potent moments of transformation in people’s lives, and the insights she shared in this episode challenged me to dig deeper into what it means to really live well. We explore what effective rest, and recovery actually looks like, and why it’s vital to prepare for change, and build our internal resources before we can move forward through trauma and stress.

Nkem Ndefo, founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of the Resilience Toolkit, joins the program to discuss the difference between healthy and unhealthy storytelling, and the importance of self-regulation. Nkem also shares insights about the physical, mental and emotional costs of feeling unsafe at work, and what we need to do to increase our personal resilience. Discover the positive outcomes that can come from modulating our emotions, and how to balance the need to fight and challenge oppression with the benefits of calm and peaceful visioning.

As a child of an African immigrant married to a Jewish Holocaust survivor, it has been a survival of two streams of very oppressed people for Nkem Ndefo. Nkem shares that her whole life has been fertile soil for transgenerational trauma, survival and resilience. Nkem Ndefo is the founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit. She is working with organizations and social service in healthcare and education around trauma. Nkem addresses what is important to do before you embark on the journey of healing trauma. Listen to Nkem’s enlightening interview to gain perspective on healing for different types of trauma.

As a child of an African immigrant married to a Jewish Holocaust survivor, it has been a survival of two streams of very oppressed people for Nkem Ndefo. Nkem shares that her whole life has been fertile soil for transgenerational trauma, survival and resilience. Nkem Ndefo is the founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of […]

When you can really start to understand how stress and trauma affects you on a physiological level and emotional level, you can hold more compassion and understanding for yourself. Nkem Ndefo is on with us today, teaching, informing, shedding light on how to think realistically, holistically about stress. This is totally necessary to understand for pregnancy and postpartum...but also for pretty much everything. Nkem is teaching us about how our bodies and minds respond to stress and ways to build resilience. There are too many gems in this episode to quote, you'll just have to soak this up when you listen. Here are some of the things Nkem discusses with us. * Understanding how a "disorder" may actually be an "adaptive response" to stress. * "What can we build up, what's good, what's working"... "How do we build on that and help build out the strengths?" * "We do grow, we do get stronger, but it has to be within our window of tolerance, if it's outside of our window of tolerance its too much, it doesn't cause us to grow, it causes us to break" * "What are the systemic factors [of stress] and what are the individual factors...one of the most damaging things we say to people is to hold them responsible for systemic factors" * High stress in pregnancy and how that affects the mother and baby. * Ways to support regulating the body-mind system in a supportive way, by being a partner in care. Connect with Nkem and Lumos Transforms: http://lumostransforms.com/ Facebook: @lumostransforms Insta: @lumos_transforms Twitter: @lumostransforms Nkem Ndefo is the founder and president of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit. As Certified Nurse Midwife, Nkem holds a Master’s degree in Nursing from Frontier Nursing University. She has extensive post-graduate training in complementary health modalities and emotional therapies, including Level 3 certification in Tension/Trauma Release Exercises and Level 5 certification in Emotional Transformation Therapy. She brings an abundance of experience as a clinician, educator, consultant, and community strategist to innovative programs that reduce stress and build resilience for individuals, organizations, and communities throughout the US. As a clinician, Nkem has worked in settings ranging from large volume hospitals to mobile community clinics. She founded and operated a full scope midwifery and homebirth practice from 2000-2007. And she has maintained a small holistic private practice in Los Angeles since 2007. She worked for California Maternal Quality Care Collaborative researching maternal death outcomes and served on the Los Angeles County Trauma-and Resilience-Informed Systems Change Initiative Workgroup. Currently she sits on the Strategic Planning Committee for the Trauma-Informed Task Force of Greater Los Angeles #theresiliencetoolkit #lumostransforms #buildresilience To check out all of the Mom & Mind episodes, go to www.momandmind.com!

Every December 31st, millions of people around the world resolve to quit a bad habit like nail biting, eating junk food, drinking too much or even procrastinating, but, by January 2nd, most people have already given up. In fact, only about 8 percent of those who make New Year’s resolutions actually keep them, according to the University of Scranton. Dr. James Claiborn and Nkem Ndefo join us to talk about how habits get hardwired in the brain, and what we can do to break our unwanted habits.

Nkem Ndefo, a TRE practitioner, shares how to let go of stress by activating your therapeutic tremor using tension release exercises. The post Let Go of Stress Using Your Therapeutic Tremor With Nkem Ndefo (031) appeared first on Life Skills That Matter.