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Would like to speedread your dates and quickly determine if they're the one? Now, there is a way to do that by utilizing Dr. Avila's classic LoveTypes system (lovetype.com). Based on the theory behind the Myers-Briggs®—the most popular personality test in the world, Dr. Avila's approach to love finding has been proven with over 40 million internet users. On our Love University podcast, Dr. Avila explained two of the most important LoveType personality dimensions: Deciding and Organizing, as follows: Deciding Dimension: Thinker of Feeler? Thinkers make decisions primarily with their logic, while Feelers decide mainly with their emotions. Thinkers and Feelers often get together in relationships, but need to understand and respect each other's style. If they don't, Thinkers may accuse Feelers of taking things too personally, while Feelers tell Thinkers they are too cold and critical. A better approach is to value each other's strengths. The Thinker recognizes that their Feeler provides warmth and emotional support, while the Feeler appreciates the way the Thinker can calm conflicts and provide logical solutions. To determine whether your date or romantic partner is a Thinker or a Feeler, ask them this question: “What's your favorite movie and why?” If they choose a movie because of the way it made them feel, they're likely a Feeler. If they choose a movie because of the way it made them think, they're probably a Thinker. Organizing Dimension: Structured or Spontaneous? Structured people value schedules, organization, and being on time. Spontaneous people (known as “P's” or “Perceivers” on the Myers-Briggs test) like to be more flowing, easy-going, and less attuned to schedules and too much organization. In relationships, when Structured people get together with Spontaneous people, they may have problems in a lot of areas, including time, schedules, children, sex, commitment, and money. Again, the key to a harmonious relationship is to respect and appreciate each other's style. Structured people can value the Spontaneous person's ability to get them to have fun and be more relaxed. Spontaneous people can be grateful when their Structured partner helps them get organized and makes sure they get to places on time. To determine your romantic partner's style in this dimension, ask them, “If you were invited to Vegas (or a nice resort) tomorrow, a work day, would you go?” A spontaneous person would say, “My bags are packed,” while a Structured person would say, “I can't,” or “I have to plan it out.” It is said that differences make the world go round. Yet, certain differences in core values and preferences can make a relationship more conflictual and difficult. Therefore, it's important to recognize and understand your love partner's differences, especially in the initial dating stages before you fall in love and commit (possibly to the wrong person). By applying the LoveTypes system, and screening out candidates who are not compatible, you have a better chance of discovering your ideal soul mate and creating a love that lasts a lifetime.
Would like to speedread your dates and quickly determine if they're the one? Now, there is a way to do that by utilizing Dr. Avila's classic LoveTypes system (lovetype.com). Based on the theory behind the Myers-Briggs®—the most popular personality test in the world, Dr. Avila's approach to love finding has been proven with over 40 million internet users. On our Love University podcast, Dr. Avila explained two of the most important LoveType personality dimensions: Deciding and Organizing, as follows: Deciding Dimension: Thinker of Feeler? Thinkers make decisions primarily with their logic, while Feelers decide mainly with their emotions. Thinkers and Feelers often get together in relationships, but need to understand and respect each other's style. If they don't, Thinkers may accuse Feelers of taking things too personally, while Feelers tell Thinkers they are too cold and critical. A better approach is to value each other's strengths. The Thinker recognizes that their Feeler provides warmth and emotional support, while the Feeler appreciates the way the Thinker can calm conflicts and provide logical solutions. To determine whether your date or romantic partner is a Thinker or a Feeler, ask them this question: “What's your favorite movie and why?” If they choose a movie because of the way it made them feel, they're likely a Feeler. If they choose a movie because of the way it made them think, they're probably a Thinker. Organizing Dimension: Structured or Spontaneous? Structured people value schedules, organization, and being on time. Spontaneous people (known as “P's” or “Perceivers” on the Myers-Briggs test) like to be more flowing, easy-going, and less attuned to schedules and too much organization. In relationships, when Structured people get together with Spontaneous people, they may have problems in a lot of areas, including time, schedules, children, sex, commitment, and money. Again, the key to a harmonious relationship is to respect and appreciate each other's style. Structured people can value the Spontaneous person's ability to get them to have fun and be more relaxed. Spontaneous people can be grateful when their Structured partner helps them get organized and makes sure they get to places on time. To determine your romantic partner's style in this dimension, ask them, “If you were invited to Vegas (or a nice resort) tomorrow, a work day, would you go?” A spontaneous person would say, “My bags are packed,” while a Structured person would say, “I can't,” or “I have to plan it out.” It is said that differences make the world go round. Yet, certain differences in core values and preferences can make a relationship more conflictual and difficult. Therefore, it's important to recognize and understand your love partner's differences, especially in the initial dating stages before you fall in love and commit (possibly to the wrong person). By applying the LoveTypes system, and screening out candidates who are not compatible, you have a better chance of discovering your ideal soul mate and creating a love that lasts a lifetime.
Send me a textIf you're new to Geek Psychology, my name is Matt Sherman. People call me Sherman. I'm a personality type expert, life coach, hypnotist, author, podcaster, and course creator. I help mainly INFPs embrace their unique strengths and navigate life's challenges. Through practical strategies and deep insights, I aim to help people like you live a more fulfilling and authentic live where you can wake up and feel good about who you are and your impact on the world. It's not easy being a messy person. I'm an INFP personality type and my ENFJ wife has definitely struggled with my hoarding and general lack of putting things away. In this video, I talk about my experiences, differences between Judgers and Perceivers, and some of the underlying reasoning behind messiness and being OK with visual clutter.I hope it helps!Original video: https://youtu.be/xXAcyQyinTc?si=MUdYmPXXM-znGyjk****Connect and Support Geek Psychology #geekpsychology ****FREE 8 Hero Personality Assessment: https://geekpsychology.com/ Support the Show.
Since this entire podcast is based on the Myers-Briggs system as well as the Enneagram, I highly recommend you listen to episode 2 and 3 at some point. For a quick review the Ox is a stable rule follower… think Ox living in a stable, the Lion is brave and craves freedom, the Eagle is independent, curious and proud, and the Human is emotional and relational. Lions and Eagles are challengers and difficult to parent! You will also hear me referring to “Types 1-9” and this comes from Episode 3 which is an introduction to an amazing system for growing human potential called the Enneagram. Today's episode applies to every human being on the planet! The perceiving and judging functions J and P in the Myers-Briggs system, determine how we live our lives. The P types are driving a convertible through life with the wind in their hair an no particular destination in mind. The J types are driving a sedan on a highway with a GPS. They are more serious, intentional, and structured. But what happens when you mix the two up and put them all under one roof? Opposites attract so there is a chance you could be a J married to a P. I will give a quick test in this episode so you can get an idea which one you are. We live in a J society but the Ps in our life make things fun. I was doing a seminar and one of the Lion dads was cracking a joke, and I made the mistake of saying your Pness is showing. I will never live that one down and will never do that again! Stay tuned to the end for five amazing tips for working with your P child. Perceiving and Judging, P or J, Free Spirit or Rule Follower Judgers live their lives by following the rules, checking things off the box, making lists, and sticking to time frames. Perceivers live their lives much more spontaneously, forging their own path and leaving their options open. The P or Perceiving and J or Judging preferences are most likely impacting your household in the biggest way since these preferences determine how we live our life on a day-to-day, minute-to-minute basis. Perceivers crave freedom and a top-down, wind-in-your-hair, convertible way of living life. Judgers crave structure and a more top-up, neatly coiffed, sedan existence. A true Perceiver is driving a convertible, without a GPS, on an off-the-beaten path, curvy road. A true Judger is in a sedan with a GPS on a straight, well-traveled highway. Many people bristle at the term Judger because people automatically associate it with being judgmental. However, Judging functions help us make decisions and limit our possibilities. Everyone has two Judging functions and two Perceiving functions that make up their personality. If there were no Judging functions, we would all be sitting around like useless blobs, unable to decide when to eat, sleep, or do anything else. Since all children tend to be somewhat free-spirited, these preferences can be harder to detect when they are younger. Perceivers hate being inhibited with too many boundaries, so it is possible that you will notice an extreme reaction when you stand in the way of their freedom. They prefer the unconventional way of doing things and tend to have difficulty finishing what they started. They also frequently struggle to be on time, follow directions, or stick to a plan. Judging children like to learn the “right way” to do something and are willing to follow conventional parenting styles. They like finishing what they start and knowing what to expect. It might sound like a Judging child is every parent's dream. For the most part, they are a bit easier to understand, but I get plenty of calls about Judging types that are too controlling. I worked with an amazing adoptive mom of four kids. I want to give a shout out to all my adoptive parents because you are some of the most amazing parents on the planet! Please share this podcast if you are friends with an adoptive parent. Sometimes these parents don't get to know these children as babies. It is the same way with the step parents I work with. This mom told me she had a voice inside her head that was always wondering if her kids were happy in their new home. One of her daughters, in particular, seemed quiet and reserved. No matter what this mom did to connect with this daughter, it didn't seem to register. She thought this daughter may have had some kind of attachment issue. Once we worked together, she realized that they were brain opposites. This mother's natural way of parenting was to be energetic, positive, full of surprises and spontaneity. She is an ENFP, extroverted feeling Human, a type seven, on the Enneagram. Her daughter was a reserved, structured and serious ISTJ introverted sensing thinking Ox type. We laughed as I suggested the mom do something completely counterintuitive. She should offer to do a puzzle with her daughter. This mom had never done a puzzle in her life! The daughter absolutely loved it! She loved just hanging out side-by-side with no pressure to talk, while doing a quiet activity. This mom, April Fallon, who is now host of the ADOPTION NOW podcast shared this quote with me. “Roadmap is what I say to people when I tell them about you. You gave us the map for our family and how we all function together. From the moment we met with you our whole lives changed. Learning who is an introvert and extrovert and helping my husband understand my son has transformed their relationship. His understanding of me changed too and now he is nicer to me too! The realization that one of my daughters is exactly the same as him was an eye-opener. I learned how to love them better and help them feel understood. I call them the koala bears. They love to achieve but only because they want the people they love close to them. They are the snuggly people. Three of us are team creative, however one of us is introverted and needs time away in her room. We designed her room to have a happy place that she has learned to adore. And finally, my Type 9 peacemaker, reserved daughter (the one I do puzzles with) notices everything and takes it in. Recently we found out she has auditory processing disorder and that was because we could pull apart what was personality versus what was a real issue. Once we found out, we could support her in the way she needs. She loves one on one time, verbal praise, and outdoor activities like hiking. I never ever ever wonder how or if she loves us or is happy anymore. I know her love runs deep and giving her a space to show it in her own way has been so healing.” If you would like to get the road map for understanding your family and having more peace in your home, go to WendyGossett.com and sign up for my Understanding Your Family 101 Session. You can also purchase my book on Amazon. Your Childs Inner Drive Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens. I worked with a mom, who is the only J or structured one in a family of P freedom seekers. She has often felt like she was paddling upstream, forcing her will upon everyone. She would schedule practice hours for her boys to do sports and keep close tabs on them. All her expectations weren't adding up. Everyone in her family needed freedom, which was the opposite of her parenting style. I had to ask her what was more important; the correction or the connection. I've had to ask this question to many parents when they are fighting battles over a clean room or how to load the dishwasher. Ask yourself what is more important; correction or connection? Over and over again, I have seen a huge change occur when the parents shift their focus to connection rather than correction. Her boys are both lion P types that had to learn from life and find their own way. It was difficult for her, an extroverted, thinking Ox, type one on the Enneagram, but she realized she had to let them fail. And failure is not as scary as you may think. Some people learn from failing. Whenever a baby is learning to walk, they have to fall over and over again. Pushing themselves up off the floor helps them get stronger. The most successful business people actually try to fail. They make a goal to fail five times in a month because failing means they are trying new things which leads to confidence and success. And it just so happens that P types who explore and try possibilities without thinking of the consequences are some of the most successful entrepreneurs in the world. I'm getting these statistics from Myers Briggs. Sometimes Lion P types don't enjoy school. What comes naturally to them is being free to use their body in physical, practical pursuits. They like to learn from the school of hard knocks. Some J types use perfectionism as an excuse to not try. Often I have seen perfectionism as a mask for fear. so if you are a structured J parent pulling your hair out because your P child is not falling into line, chances are if you make connection your priority, they may not fall in line but they will land on their feet. The T Thinking or Prickly and F Feeling or pleasing preferences I talk about in episode 6, play a significant role in how our child Judges or Perceives. If your child is a Thinker and a Judger or TJ, they will be very determined, rigid, and unyielding, which can make them very difficult to parent! If your child is a Feeler and a Perceiver or FP, pleasing you will be ALMOST as important to them as having the freedom to do things their way. They may still have meltdowns that seem to materialize out of nowhere, but for the most part, they are relaxed, go-with-the-flow children. If your child is a Thinker and a Perceiver or TP, get ready for a topsy-turvy time! One minute, they might be playful and relaxed, and the next minute, determined and unyielding. If your child is a Feeler and a Judger or FJ, sit back, make yourself a cup of tea, and relax. This child wants to please, desires structure, and thrives with conventional parenting. Parents with Feeling/Judging children as their firstborn often end up with a false sense of pride in their parenting ability. They can unintentionally make other parents feel inferior, causing them to question their parenting capabilities. Sadly, I was one of those parents. I painted my entire kitchen while my twelve-month-old son was perfectly content simply being in the same room with me, playing in his bouncy chair. My husband, Greg, and I were completely humbled when our Thinking/Perceiving daughter was born. We soon realized why bookstores are filled with so many parenting books! She was, and still is, an uncontained free spirit who plays by her own rules. If you are a Judging parent with a Perceiving child, take heart. Since we live in a Judging society that runs by rules, time frames, and deadlines, Perceivers tend to look more like Judgers as they mature and are “nurtured” by parents, teachers, and societal norms. In fact, this is one of the most common testing mistypes. Mature Perceivers who have learned to play efficiently by societal rules think they are Judgers. I was collaborating with a talented young programmer who had taken my test. Prior to our first meeting, I received his test result, which identified him as one of the most cautious and conservative J types. The minute I met him, I noticed he had an entire sleeve of brightly colored tattoos. Later, he informed me that the tattoos were the entire story of Dante's Inferno, and he was going to have the other arm done in black and white. I was pretty sure he had mis-tested himself. I don't want to fall into stereotyping, but I have seen thousands of patterns that usually fall into predictable outcomes. I am sure there are rare exceptions of extreme conservative J types with two complete tattoo sleeves, but there aren't many! Not only that, but a person's occupation also gives a great indication of their type. This programmer was very out of the box and creative, which are all traits of another type that has all the same letters, except for that oh-so-critical, free-spirited P. An ISTP and an ISTJ are very different, indeed! Email me at wendy@wendygossett.com to receive a an illustrated chart that shows these patterns. You will also find the quick test to determine who is J or P in your family. You will either be a P for Perceiving or a J for Judging. Keep in mind that 50ish% of the world are Perceivers and 50ish% are Judgers, although as adults, many Perceivers mis-test as Judgers since they have learned how to fit in with a Judging society. [1] Perceiver Judger freedom structure spontaneous planned flexible procedures solid procedures change routine out of the box within the lines experience it control it relaxed hurried start it finish it P J If you found it hard to pick one and felt tied on both you are most likely an introvert. I use the analogy of Js being sedans and Ps being convertibles, but introverts are hybrids, meaning they are a little bit of both. If they are a J type, it means they are driving a sedan or in other words they like structure in the way they live their life, but their brain is Open and less decisive, just perceiving the world and taking it in. It's like they are driving a sedan on a road with no map. If you are an introverted P type. It's like you are driving a convertible but your brain is on a highway with a GPS. This type is concerned about their identity and can be stubborn when they set their mind to something. I worked with two introverted sensing Ox parents. They were about as structured and by the book as you could get. They had an introverted feeling Lion son, since he was a feeler Lion, he was very relational, compliant and easy-going throughout elementary school and junior high. When he got to high school, however he went off the rails. He had been following his parents rules his entire life, and because he was so relaxed it worked for him, but when he got to high school and could see his adult life looming before him, he realized he had to discover who he was. He had to discover what he stood for. His relaxed, convertible way of living, switched over to his decisive identity seeking brain. He went on a vision quest up in the mountains to become a ski instructor rather than going straight to college like his parents had always planned. Again, these parents had to decide what was more important. Their connection with their son or their expectations. Here is an opposite story. An extroverted sensing thinking Lion child hated school. He just wanted to have fun and do sports. By the way, sports are the guard rails that will keep your Lions on track with their grades. They love sports and they love being competitive so this can be the motivation to help them get through school. By the time he was a senior, he still had no direction and had no idea what he wanted to do. His parents had a friend who worked as a sports medicine doctor. They let their son shadow him. Lions learn from watching and doing much more than learning from a textbook or hearing a lecture. His tactile extroverted sensory intelligence combined with his analytical introverted, thinking brain realized he could do exactly what this sports medicine doctor was doing. All of a sudden, he was the most determined Lion you ever saw. He went to school and studied from six in the morning to eight at night and became a surgeon making up for all his playing throughout school. If you have a story to share from your family, I would love to feature it on the podcast! Just email me at WendyGossett.com. Here are some tips for parenting, the P types in your household. 1.Your child is not wired for structured schedules. If they are doing well in school, be grateful because what comes naturally to them is to do their own thing in their own time. Luckily, they are competitive, which might motivate them to work hard in school. When they are home, they want to settle into their comfort zone and have more freedom to play and explore. Whenever you can make things fun or a game. Try making a morning routine playlist with a song for each task on the list. Rehearse the routine to make sure each song is the right length. If they can finish each task by the time the song ends and get down to breakfast, they can get a special treat they picked out. Music also works to make chores more fun. Research has shown that music makes anyone more cooperative. Have a tidy up the house dance party. Quick, in the moment rewards work best for P children. Speaking of fun, board games are more of a J thing. You can make game time more fun by adding an action element or a silly element. Games like Throw Throw Burrito where you get to run around our favorites of P children. 2.As a J Parent who likes plans, plan a time each day to be unplanned. A J parent with a P child needs to plan to be unplanned. All kids need structure, but P children need freedom just as much. 3.Don't lecture! Have clear rules and consequences for serious crimes. The consequence speak for themselves. Ps need freedom so let them negotiate when it is a misdemeanor and not a crime. There's more to this, but that is the quick version. 4.Ps believe there is more than just one way to do things. if you are a perfectionist, you may need to have Elsa‘s anthem playing on repeat in your head. “Let it go”. Tell them the end goal you would like and let them pick the order or timeframe it's completed in. 5.. P Children often have ADHD. My daughter and son were both diagnosed. My daughter is a P and my son is a hybrid introverted J with that P brain…haha he just completed the MCAT but he has a P brain which is on a country road with no map. You can listen to episodes 11 and 12 where I interview both of them to hear more about this. All P types want the quick fix to life's problems because they want to get on with the fun. She wanted us to put her on ADHD medication. We hesitated with this decision for many months, but finally we came up with the idea to put her on a placebo and see if her performance would improve if she thought she was on the medication. We didn't let the teacher know but positive progress reports started coming home. Because my daughter is a sensor and very aware of her body as well as details and her environment she soon figured out the pill was a fake. She begged us to put her on the real medication. Once she was on it, she absolutely hated it because she felt like she was in a box. She couldn't be her normal, silly self and have the freedom in her spirit that she craved as a Lion. Life taught her that hard work was better than a pill. If you have P children in your home, I would also suggest you listen to episode seven and eight which are interviews with extroverted P types. All extroverted P types are driving a convertible through life and they are on a country road with no map! They are 100% perceiver! Lion perceivers are different from Eagle and human perceivers. One is sensory and the other is intuitive and it makes a big difference in the behavior. Check out episode 13 on sensing and intuition. My closing thought for today is from Abraham Lincoln. “In the end it's not the years in your life that count it's the life in your years. P types are playful and help us to enjoy life.” But for my J types out there which I am one and by the way, I am a sedan on a highway with the GPS so I am 100% a J! But because I am intuitive I am a little more P like. I also have a quote keeping the J types in mind. Here is a quote from Pele one of the worlds, most famous soccer players. Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying sacrifice, and most of all love of what you do. Email me at Wendy@WendyGossett.com for the other chart I mentioned in the episode. Website: Get FREE resources at Wendygossett.com Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting or on my podcast page. Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ Instagram is Wendy.Gossett
In this episode, Pastor Brandon discusses the two types of people in our world- the believers and the perceivers. The believers accept Jesus for who He is as the Savior and Son of God. The perceivers see the fruits of the works of Jesus, but they fail to believe. The question is, "which one are you"? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/chapel-hill-baptist/support
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SHOW NOTES: In This week's Mind ReMapping Moment, we talk about Knowing Your Child's Relationship to Structure & Time according to Myers Briggs. We explore the fascinating topic of personality traits and their impact on time management. We delve into the contrasting characteristics of perceivers and judgers, providing insights on how understanding these traits can help parents support their children effectively. Perceivers vs. Judgers Perceivers are individuals who thrive on flexibility and adaptability, while judgers prefer structure and organization. Perceivers often struggle with time management and organization, while judgers excel at planning and meeting deadlines. Maiysha shares a personal story about her experience as a perceiver and how she found a balance between structure and freedom by allocating specific time for writing chapters. Nurturing Perceiver and Judger Children Perceiver children need more accountability and structured when it comes to completing tasks within specific time frames. Judger children naturally set up structures to ensure tasks are completed on time and may require less guidance. Parents should be mindful of their children's natural inclinations and provide appropriate support, whether it be additional structure for perceivers or fostering flexibility for judgers. Children can be unintentional teachers and accountability buddies for parents, as parents learn to adapt and support their children's unique needs. Despite what most people realize, it's the unconscious mind that runs us. But how is that so? Get your first primer in 26 minutes! Follow and Share these pearls with others. Follow Dr. Maiysha on Social media www.facebook.com/DrMaiysha www.instagram.com/DrMaiysha www.twitter.com/DrMaiysha www.YouTube.com/DrMaiysha Don't miss our Guest Episodes each Wednesday! Hosted by: Dr. Maiysha Clairborne Ready for the next level in your life? Join the Movement! Become a part of the Mind ReMapping Nation, an exclusive community that empowers your growth & accountability. Go to www.MindReMappingNation.com Interested to learn Mind ReMapping? Have you thought about becoming a coach? You can! Attend our next Mind ReMapping LIVE Training in Atlanta, and learn the tools to remap your mind in this transformational NLP/Hypnosis and Coach Certification training. Visit www.mindremappingacademy.com or schedule an interest call at www.remapmymind.today --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/remapyourmind/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/remapyourmind/support
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Here is a wonderful Q&A discussion comparing Classical Non-Duality with Tantrik Non-Duality to show that despite what pandits might say, they are actually ultimately one and the same and perfectly complementary!00:01:06 What Is It To Be a Human Being? Does Buddhism/Advaita Invalidate My Personhood? Yes. All Religion Does! Here's Why!00:12:14 Kashmiri Shaivism and "Playing the Character of Me"00:14:20 Tantrik Non-Duality vs Classical Non-Duality: Iccha-Shakti, the Role of Desire in God00:19:18 The Role of Creativity in Enlightenment00:23:35 Why Is There Suffering in The World? The Tantrik Response to the Problem of Evil00:28:55 How Is One Thing Different From Another In Tantrik Non-Duality? 00:30:00 Non-Dual Worship in Tantra and Abinava Gupta's "Devi Stotra", Hymn to the Goddess00:34:11 Advaita Vedanta, Prasangika Madhyamika Buddhism and Tantrik Non-Duality Are The Same and Complementary and Why I Don't Teach Tantra To The Public00:36:25 The Dangers of Tantra and Kali Worship and some Precautions 00:41:55 Some Resources To Study Tantra00:53:17 Live Lectures Throughout the Week00:55:00 How To Set Up Boundaries If You Are Not The Body?01:02:53 How Are Things Different If Awareness Is One? What Is A Jiva, Individual?01:09:27 The Erotic Metaphors of Tantra and the Role of Embodiment01:22:30 Does Tantra Contradict Classical Non-Duality? They are actually the same! Here's why. 01:32:11 How Does Reincarnation Work? And the End of the Mahabharatha 01:41:06 The Role of Renunciation in Spiritual Life01:47:11 "Walking Each Other Home?" and the Story of Sukadeva01:55:30 Discernment in Tantra vs in Classical Vedanta (The Doctrine of the 7 Perceivers in Shaivism)02:07:20 Should I Be A Monk? Householders vs Renunciants and the 4 Ashramas02:30:30 Does The Brain Produce Consciousness? Or Does Consciousness Produce The Brain? How Do You Know Spirituality Isn't Just Chemicals?Support the show
One thing I hear from a lot from readers of The Heart to Start, is that many people have no problem starting new projects. They instead struggle with finishing them. I can relate. Like many creative people, I once struggled to finish projects. I always had new ideas, I left books half-read, projects half-finished. I had done lots of creative work, and had little to show for it. Now I still always have new ideas, and I still leave books half-read and projects half-finished. But now, I have lots of finished projects to show for all the work I've done. What's changed? I've learned to finish what matters, and forget the rest. Embrace your inner Perceiver A turning point in my own creative journey came when I learned to embrace my inner Perceiver. As much flak as the Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator gets for being pseudoscience, it's still a useful lens for understanding your own tendencies. The concepts of Introversion and Extroversion have wide scientific support, but also useful I think are the concepts of “Perceiving” and “Judging.” If you watch in awe as one friend after another executes on ideas and achieves success, while you flounder, working on one idea after another, but never truly following through, your friends are probably “Js”, and you might be a “P.” This is the position I was in, until a friend at a party explained this dichotomy to me. Why was this other friend of ours so great at follow-through, while we both struggled to find our paths? This friend was a J. We were Ps. Another way of thinking about being a Perceiver is you're someone who sees Possibilities. You can't move forward with one idea, because you keep having other, better ideas. Meanwhile, your “Judging” friends find an idea, make the judgement to stick with it, and see it through. Shiny objects aren't shameful Perceiving Possibilities is a necessary part of being creative. For DNA to be discovered, the researchers had to entertain the Possibility that they should pursue something other than the original intent of their grant application – which was to study cancer treatments. For Alexander Fleming to discover antibiotics, he had to see Possibilities in experimental petri dishes that were contaminated. If you want a treasure trove of Perceivers, look no further than nearly every person Walter Isaacson has written a biography on. For Leonardo Da Vinci to paint the Mona Lisa, he applied his knowledge of optics to his sfumato technique, which allowed him to model the painting with no hard lines. He applied his knowledge of anatomy to crafting the Mona Lisa's mysterious smirk. He had dissected humans and animals, studying exactly which muscles were recruited to express various emotions. In episode 272, I talked about how Steve Jobs and the engineers and executives at Apple had to consider the Possibility that while a trackwheel served as a useful interface for an iPod, it might not be such for the iPhone. Isaacson himself has said, “People who love all fields of knowledge are the ones who can best spot the patterns across nature.” So if you're someone who beats themself up over Shiny Object Syndrome, consider the Possibility that it's a necessary component of creative thinking. Creative success happens in Extremistan On the rare occasion that someone with shiny object syndrome does finish a project, it might not be successful, and that can make matters worse. Why bother following through with anything, you might think, when you aren't assured of success? But, creative work calls for a different approach to success. As I talked about in episode 253, creative work happens in Extremistan. Nobody knows anything It's impossible to predict which creative projects will be successful. If record companies knew hits, that's all they'd release. If movie studios knew blockbusters, that's all they'd produce. If publishers knew bestsellers, that's all they'd launch. If Venture Capitalists knew unicorns, that's all they'd fund. And they wouldn't be called “Venture” Capitalists – they'd just be Capitalists. As two-time Academy-Award-winning screenwriter William Goldman said, “Nobody knows anything.” The sky is the limit Even when a creative project is released into Extremistan, there is a huge range of potential outcomes. When Art De Vany analyzed the box-office proceeds of various movies, he found that the top 1% of movies accounted for 20% of sales. My latest book, Mind Management, Not Time Management is a success. Book-marketing expert Tucker Max calls a self-published book that sells 2,500 copies in its first year a “home run”. Mind Management, Not Time Management sold 10,000. But, Mark Manson's Subtle Art has sold more than ten million. This podcast episode will get more downloads than about 97% of other podcasts, but it's not unusual for an episode of Joe Rogan's podcast to get 1,000 times the downloads of this one. It's a long night to overnight success When you follow through and put a creative project into the world, you may have mild success, or you may have wild success. But there's no telling how long wild success can take. The Queen's Gambit took thirty-seven years to become a New York Times bestseller. Jane Austen's books went out of print after her death. There's no telling when a box-office bust will become a cult classic, or just a straight-up classic. People forget that The Shawshank Redemption was a box-office bomb, now considered by many to be the best movie of all time. Like I talked about on episode 251, you can't call out Suvivorship Bias so easily in creative work, because you often don't know if a project is truly dead. We're raised in Mediocristan Creative success happens in Extremistan, not Mediocristan, and this is at the heart of why many people feel ashamed of their shiny object syndrome. We're raised in Mediocristan, so we evaluate success and our ability to follow through based upon how things get done in Mediocristan. The whole point of civilization – with its steady paychecks, fixed-rate mortgages, and insurance policies – is to smooth out the shocks of the natural world. Mediocristan is built upon predictability, and to succeed by Mediocristan's standards, you need to yourself be predictable. If you can follow the curriculum, do the reading, and fill out the bubbles on a standardized test with your standardized #2 pencil, you can get a good grade, that adds up to a good GPA, which lets you graduate and get your degree to put the right keywords in your resume so a computer can read it and find you. You can get a job, a steady paycheck, a fixed-rate mortgage, and an insurance policy. But for any of these niceties of Mediocristan to exist, someone has to invent something. Before Henry Ford could double the going rate for a factory worker, introduce the five-dollar day, and have 10,000 people banging on his gates, he had to create those jobs. You are a Maker/Capitalist Even if you wanted to work in a factory in Mediocristan – besides the fact that few humans could handle the monotony of working on Ford's assembly-line – these kinds of jobs are becoming more scarce. More of our drudgery is being handled by automation. This is reducing the barriers to entry for putting ideas into the world. You can build a no-code app with Adalo or Webflow, you can print and ship artwork and memorabilia with Printful, you can – like me – sell thousands of print-on-demand books in dozens of countries around the world, and not touch a single one. It used to require capital and labor to produce a good or service. Now, less labor is needed, and almost no capital. It used to require management to organize all that labor. Now management is the arrangement of automation – but “management” isn't the right word for it, and neither is labor. The word “creator” embodies the trifecta of coming up with ideas, doing the work, and distributing the goods. More and more of us can be creator/capitalists. We require little capital to fund our making, but we have to be adept at using what little capital we have wisely. Balaji Srinivasan would call us “capital allocators.” Finish what matters, and forget the rest If creative success is random, and happens upon a long timeline, how do you stay the course to embrace your shiny object syndrome and still ship projects? Start by building your shipping skills, like I talked about on episode 265. Treat even the smallest projects in your life as opportunities to have a vision, form a plan, and carry out that plan. You can do this by cooking a recipe, planning a party or trip, and build into shipping small creative projects. Learn to navigate uncertainty. Get used to making percentage-confidence predictions about the future, then evaluating those predictions down the road. You can learn with the Avocado Challenge I talked about on episode 245. Remember that for Henry Ford to build the Model T, he had to iterate on Models A through S. Like a construction project that seems to make no progress, until suddenly a twenty-story building appears, you need to let the Foundation Effect happen, like I talked about on episode 266. Remember the Iceberg Principle, like I talked about on episode 263. The same way ninety-percent of an iceberg is underwater, what you present to the world in your masterpiece will be just a small fraction of the knowledge and experimentation you put in. You have to embrace creative waste, like I talked about on episode 264. As a creator/capitalist, you need to use your resources wisely. Use the Barbell Strategy that I talked about on episode 244. Put most of your resources toward “sure bets” that keep you in the game. But set aside time and energy to play wildcards – crazy ideas with little downside, but unlimited potential upside. Creative work is the business of breeding Black Swans. Through this process, you won't finish every project, and you won't always be able to tell which projects matter. But with enough practice, over enough time, you'll become adept at finishing what matters, and forgetting the rest. Image: Characters In Yellow, Paul Klee Mind Management is a Kindle Deal! Amazon has hand-selected Mind Management, Not Time Management for a promotional discount. It's only $2.49 on Amazon.com and Amazon.ca. Offer ends March 31st, so grab it now! About Your Host, David Kadavy David Kadavy is author of Mind Management, Not Time Management, The Heart to Start and Design for Hackers. Through the Love Your Work podcast, his Love Mondays newsletter, and self-publishing coaching David helps you make it as a creative. Follow David on: Twitter Instagram Facebook YouTube Subscribe to Love Your Work Apple Podcasts Overcast Spotify Stitcher YouTube RSS Email Support the show on Patreon Put your money where your mind is. Patreon lets you support independent creators like me. Support now on Patreon » Show notes: http://kadavy.net/blog/posts/finish-what-matters/
For today's episode we will be reviewing articles from the January-February 2021 issue of Allergy Watch, a bimonthly publication which provides research summaries to College members from the major journals in allergy and immunology. You can also earn CME credit by listening to this podcast! For information about CME credit or to read archived issues of Allergy Watch, head over to https://college.acaai.org/publications/allergywatch Please watch out for continued discussion on this topic in the ACAAI Community on DocMatter, we'll have key talk takeaways and an engaging question with the opportunity for ongoing conversation about today's topic! Article Links: Early life acetaminophen exposure, glutathione S-transferase genes, and development of adolescent asthma in a high-risk birth cohort. Health Services Utilization Is Increased in Poor Perceivers of Bronchoconstriction and Hyperinflation in Asthma. Milk allergy most burdensome in multi-food allergic children.
#perceiver #deepmind #transformer Inspired by the fact that biological creatures attend to multiple modalities at the same time, DeepMind releases its new Perceiver model. Based on the Transformer architecture, the Perceiver makes no assumptions on the modality of the input data and also solves the long-standing quadratic bottleneck problem. This is achieved by having a latent low-dimensional Transformer, where the input data is fed multiple times via cross-attention. The Perceiver's weights can also be shared across layers, making it very similar to an RNN. Perceivers achieve competitive performance on ImageNet and state-of-the-art on other modalities, all while making no architectural adjustments to input data. OUTLINE: 0:00 - Intro & Overview 2:20 - Built-In assumptions of Computer Vision Models 5:10 - The Quadratic Bottleneck of Transformers 8:00 - Cross-Attention in Transformers 10:45 - The Perceiver Model Architecture & Learned Queries 20:05 - Positional Encodings via Fourier Features 23:25 - Experimental Results & Attention Maps 29:05 - Comments & Conclusion Paper: https://arxiv.org/abs/2103.03206 My Video on Transformers (Attention is All You Need): https://youtu.be/iDulhoQ2pro Abstract: Biological systems understand the world by simultaneously processing high-dimensional inputs from modalities as diverse as vision, audition, touch, proprioception, etc. The perception models used in deep learning on the other hand are designed for individual modalities, often relying on domain-specific assumptions such as the local grid structures exploited by virtually all existing vision models. These priors introduce helpful inductive biases, but also lock models to individual modalities. In this paper we introduce the Perceiver - a model that builds upon Transformers and hence makes few architectural assumptions about the relationship between its inputs, but that also scales to hundreds of thousands of inputs, like ConvNets. The model leverages an asymmetric attention mechanism to iteratively distill inputs into a tight latent bottleneck, allowing it to scale to handle very large inputs. We show that this architecture performs competitively or beyond strong, specialized models on classification tasks across various modalities: images, point clouds, audio, video and video+audio. The Perceiver obtains performance comparable to ResNet-50 on ImageNet without convolutions and by directly attending to 50,000 pixels. It also surpasses state-of-the-art results for all modalities in AudioSet. Authors: Andrew Jaegle, Felix Gimeno, Andrew Brock, Andrew Zisserman, Oriol Vinyals, Joao Carreira Links: TabNine Code Completion (Referral): http://bit.ly/tabnine-yannick YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/yannickilcher Twitter: https://twitter.com/ykilcher Discord: https://discord.gg/4H8xxDF BitChute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/yann... Minds: https://www.minds.com/ykilcher Parler: https://parler.com/profile/YannicKilcher LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yannic-ki... BiliBili: https://space.bilibili.com/1824646584 If you want to support me, the best thing to do is to share out the content :) If you want to support me financially (completely optional and voluntary, but a lot of people have asked for this): SubscribeStar: https://www.subscribestar.com/yannick... Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/yannickilcher Bitcoin (BTC): bc1q49lsw3q325tr58ygf8sudx2dqfguclvngvy2cq Ethereum (ETH): 0x7ad3513E3B8f66799f507Aa7874b1B0eBC7F85e2 Litecoin (LTC): LQW2TRyKYetVC8WjFkhpPhtpbDM4Vw7r9m
Ep. 17: Today's episode is all about unpacking your personality through the lens of the Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI.) Heidi is a personality psychologist, coach, and writer who helps people leverage personality psychology as a tool for self development. In this episode we dive into:How Heidi paved her own way in the field of personality psychology (it's not how you might expect!)What personality psychology is, and how it can help us live a better lifeThe origin of the MBTI and how it evolved from Jungian psychology to become more accessible todayA breakdown of each of the 4 pairs of letters that make up the personality "code" in the MBTIWhat Extroversion and Introversion really mean (different from the mainstream thought about them)Why Sensors and Intuitives want to make their impact in different ways How Thinkers and Feelers must follow their passions in different ways How Judgers and Perceivers have very different relationships to structureThe difference (and similarities) between logic and emotion in personality How our modern-day work environment has shifted from more Judging to more PerceivingUnderstanding the cognitive functions of each of the lettersSome unique qualities and traits of NFP types, and how they engage with and experience the world The unique existential experience that NFP types tend to haveDifferent definitions of “success” for the different types Using knowledge about your type to finding balance and fulfillment in lifeWhy meaning and purpose are so crucial to NFP types The gifts and struggles of the NFP types A few theories on what personality types make the best matches for romantic partnershipResources from this episode:Heidi's website and upcoming courses:http://www.heidipriebe.comWhere to find your MBTI Personality type: https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/
In today's episode, Matt & Des have a conversation with their 8-year-old daughter Payton. They share biblical and practical insight on how to parent a child who primarily receives revelation and information in the spirit through the gift of perceiving. Learn the characteristics of a perceiver and strategies on how you can help steward their gift. You will also hear from Payton about how God speaks to her! We encourage you to have your children listen in with you in this episode! Quick Episode Summary: The 3 ways a perceiver manifests the voice of God Hard things about being a perceiver A perceiver does not relate to God through senses but through will Asking questions is the best way to lead a perceiver Perceivers benefit from activation to manifest a word from God
If you’ve been reading job ads, you’ll notice that employers seem to be looking for very specific skillsets. In the interview, the picture changes, and that same employer may be looking for traits not specified in the job listing. Do employers prefer certain personality traits over others? How do you know which ones will get you hired?Previous episodes cited in this podcast include:* Job Searching and your Personalityhttps://www.spreaker.com/user/atopcareer/93-job-searching-and-your-personality* Unemployment and the Coronavirushttps://www.spreaker.com/user/atopcareer/86-unemployment-and-coronavirus* Perceivers and Time Managementhttps://www.spreaker.com/user/atopcareer/40-perceivers-and-time-management* Most Rude MBTIhttps://www.spreaker.com/user/atopcareer/43-the-most-rude-mbti------------------Myers-Briggs Question Corner is the weekly MBTI career podcast brought to you by DC Metro Career Counselor Edythe Richards.Edythe is a Myers-Biggs Master Practitioner and founder of A Top Career - a web site which specializes in helping people back into work.Find out more at www.atopcareer.comOur Spreaker Podcastshttps://www.spreaker.com/show/the-journey-forwardhttps://www.spreaker.com/show/myers-briggs-question-cornerhttps://www.spreaker.com/show/myers-briggs-mid-life-career-changers
The fourth and final episode in our series about personality and intimate relationships. The Judger/Perceiver split can be a tricky one to navigate, but with a little understanding, a J/P couple can really thrive as they appreciate and grow from the other's way of doing things. And what if you're both the same type? Dan talks about that too! Something for everyone. Enjoy the episode and hop over to social media to tell us what you thought about it! Find Dan: Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking Facebook: @convergentlyspeaking convergentlyspeaking.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/convergentlyspeaking/message
Carl Jung theorized that personality is inherent and changes very little over time. Yet we as human beings are constantly changing and adapting, as the recent COVID-19 pandemic has shown. These difficult times have presented us with a choice: we can choose to believe in our shared strength, respond with generosity, and become more resilient in the face of crisis. This cannot happen without awareness of our own strengths and blind spots. Tune in to hear Edythe talk about what part the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator plays in overcoming coronavirus.Previous episodes cited include:* Thinking and Feeling Misconceptionshttps://atopcareer.com/thinking-and-feeling-misconceptions/* Perceivers and Time Managementhttps://atopcareer.com/perceivers-and-time-management/-------------Myers-Briggs Question Corner is the weekly MBTI career podcast brought to you by DC Metro Career Counselor Edythe Richards.Edythe is the creator of A Top Career - a web site which specializes in helping people back into work.Find out more at www.atopcareer.comOur Spreaker Podcastshttps://www.spreaker.com/show/the-journey-forwardhttps://www.spreaker.com/show/myers-briggs-question-cornerhttps://www.spreaker.com/show/myers-briggs-mid-life-career-changers
How Can I Tell if I’m a Judger or a Perceiver?Tune in to hear Edythe and David discussing the differences between Judging and Perceiving.Myers-Briggs Judging (J) and Perceiving (P) types are very different in terms of how they operate. J’s prefer structure, order, and making plans. P’s prefer being spontaneous, flexible, and easy-going. Is there an easy way to tell them apart?Podcasts cited in this episode include:* Are Perceivers Lazier than Judgers? https://www.spreaker.com/user/atopcareer/29-are-perceivers-lazier-than-judgers* Perceivers and Time Management: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/perceivers-and-time-management/id1439049877?i=1000440556311* Myers-Briggs for Midlife Career Changers: https://www.spreaker.com/show/myers-briggs-mid-life-career-changersMyers-Briggs Question Corner is the weekly MBTI career podcast brought to you by DC Metro Career Counselor Edythe Richards.Edythe is the creator of A Top Career - a web site which specializes in helping people back into work.Find out more at www.atopcareer.com
This month, I'm sharing pieces of programs I offer to corporations, non-profit organizations, professional associations, and community organizations. This week, I'm talking about the MBTI, and how to leverage personality differences in the workplace. I created this program as a quick overview of personality and how it plays out in the workplace. I also do half-day and full-day retreats on the MBTI. In these instances, participants take the MBTI online prior to the retreat and I bring their results with me to the retreat. I spend the morning explaining the facets of the MBTI and what their results are telling them. The afternoon is spent engaging in activities that bring the differences in personality to life through various activities. At the end of the day, we spend a fair amount of time processing what they've learned about themselves and their coworkers. In the shorter version, participants don't take the MBTI, but I explain the facets to them and give them some tools for recognizing the personality preferences of their team members. I also talk about how they can maximize their team's effectiveness using personality type. Research has shown that: -You will get along better with those who are like you -A balanced group will be more effective, if you can get everyone on the same page THE PERSONALITY PAIRS Extraversion – Introversion (How you recharge) Sensing – Intuition (How you take in information) Thinking – Feeling (How you make decisions) Judging – Perceiving (How you structure your world) THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND: Extraverts need Introverts so there's someone listening Introverts need Extraverts so there's someone talking Sensors need Intuitives so there's creativity Intuitives need Sensors so there's attention to detail Thinkers need Feelers so the humanity of the organization shines through Feelers need Thinkers because there are tough decisions to be made Judgers need Perceivers so they don't always rush into a decision Perceivers need Judgers because deadlines are real Keys for recognizing the personality preferences of your team members, so you can maximize their effectiveness If you have a team member who is great with details and deadlines, you probably have a Sensor-Judger - Give this person complex projects -Provide thorough information on project scope, timeline, deadlines, etc. -You might feel like you're micromanaging, but they won't see it that way If you have a creative team member who consistently delivers at the last possible second, you probably have an Intuitive-Perceiver -Give this person as much leeway as possible in using their creativity to solve the problem at hand -You may need to create “artificial” deadlines so you get what you need when you really want it -Allow for flexibility in work environment, hours of work, etc. If you have a team member who loves to talk and is great in interacting with others, you probably have an Extravert. -Give them a front-facing role -Make sure they aren't in a back corner somewhere -Compensate for how draining too much time alone will be for them If you have a team member who loves to be in a back room with a research project, you probably have an Introvert. -Provide them as much alone time as possible -Give them meeting agendas ahead of time so they're prepared -Compensate for how draining meetings and groups will be for them If you've never been exposed to the MBTI, consider this your first “foreign language” lesson! To visit my website: www.exclusivecareercoaching.com Follow My YouTube channel (Lesa Edwards); it's chocked full of valuable career management content in easily digestible bites. Want to speak with an expert about your career/job search goals? Need help figuring out what's holding you back from achieving your dream career? Let's talk. Here's the link to schedule a 45-minute consult call with me: https://my.timetrade.com/book/KRKLS. Hope to see you soon!
How your personality type affects how you handle money and ways to manage it so you can still handle your money well, no matter your personality type. Plus how your personality type effects your relationship with money and your significant other. Catherine is a personal finance blogger specializing in debt payoff and money mindset, and self awareness via personality types. Website: Www.catherinetreme.com Instagram: @catherinetreme Money Psychology Approach (www.catherinetreme.com/shop) ebook by Catherine Treme Resources mentioned in this episode: The H.O.P.E. Money Roadmap (https://www.budgetsmadeeasy.com/hope/) Do It Scared (https://amzn.to/2MAx4hP) by Ruth Soukup (affilaite link) 16 Personalities test (https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test) Full Transcript: Welcome to the money mindset podcast and where you will find the inspiration and motivation you need to manage your money better so you can stress less, live the life you want. This is Ashley Patrick with the money mindset podcast and budgets made easy. And today we're talking to Catherine all about how your personality type affects how you handle money. But before we dive in, I do want you to go grab your hope money roadmap. Your quick start guide at budget's made easy.com/hope this is where you will start working on your money mindset, creating your financial for class and your financial blueprint so that you can create your safety net, knock out your debt, and start living the life that you want. Today we are talking to Katherine Treme, who is a personal finance blogger specializing in debt, payoff and money mindset and self-awareness via personality types. I'm so happy you are here. We've been talking before this podcast and laughing and I was so ready to get started talking about our money mindset and our personality types. So tell us a little bit about yourself and what you do. So, um, yeah, just like, as you said, I am a personal finance blogger specializing and, um, personality types, um, um, as it relates to your money. Um, as we all know, money is like literally the thing that makes the world go round. Right. You know how you, right. You know how much money someone makes, you know, how you spend it, how people react to it. It just matters so much. And I think it's just a crying shame that we don't talk about it more. I know. Oh my gosh. So you had me take this personality test, which we're gonna talk about here in a minute, and I love personality tests. Like I have a bachelor's degree in psychology, so I've always been intrigued about why people do what they do. And a lot of it, you know, can be segmented into personality types and there's all kinds of different personality tests, but I'm just always amazed at like, how accurate is, I'm like reading it. I'm like, Oh yeah, that is, I told them that that is me. That is, it's like they're just accurate. They always say to like, I don't know, I do that. Right, right. And it's so funny that you said accurate because, okay, so you are an IST J and that is one of the things that I S T J's like values most is atrophy. And we were laughing about this before. Listen a podcast listeners, we were like literally dying a few minutes before this podcast started about like her personality type and cause she kept on state accuracy. I was like well that's obvious based over the code functions. Like ICJs would honestly appreciate that the most. Right. You know, random side note. I just thought that was absolutely hilarious cause I had to add a word into my little introduction and you were like, yeah that is so something you would do based on your verse. Yup. We have it. We, we haven't known each other but I'm just like, you know, Oh she's nice TJ. Of course. So there may be some people out there wondering what the heck are they talking about? Personality types saying. So let's just jump right in. Since we already started talking about it, kind of what are some ways that our personality types kind of affect how we handle money or think about money or even, you know, we can jump into it later, but we were talking about how your personality types it with ah, spouses and couples and how that affects your relationship and money and everything. Like that version of kind of how our personality fits into how we handle money on an individual basis. And then we'll jump into couples, right? Sure, sure. So first of all, let me clarify, um, what we're, what we're talking about is the Myers Briggs personality type. Um, and it's basically goes into the diff, uh, the four four acronyms like extrovert versus introvert sensing versus intuitive thinking versus feeling. And then the last one is perceiving versus judging, right? So, um, and there is, uh, what's called, uh, within the theory, it's called the cognitive function stack. And it literally, uh, if you look at it on, you know, what textbook or something along those lines, it is literally a stack. Like, if you just imagine four blocks, um, and it goes from the top to bottom, your level of consciousness, cause you didn't have some things you could do just so I'm like, okay. [inaudible] how do I, how do I say this? So like your reason level of consciousness, it's um, [inaudible] so like the hacks for each one, for each different category is how like conscious you are of that block. That's correct. And how, how, how good you are at it. Actual, okay, I see. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. So, um, I am in the NFP, um, just imagine basically like your zany counselor type that pretty much, which is crazy, right? Or like, okay, that's kind of, you know exactly what I do, like counseling with [inaudible] in relation to money, money, behavior. So I mean, wow. It's kinda crazy how I Helen to that. So, um, I have my primary cognitive function is what's called a extroverted intuition, which is basically like thinking and relating different ideas and patterns. Right. That is like my natural, that's what some, some people called their flow state. Right. Um, and for you it would be introverted sensing, right? You're an IST J so you, you very easily recall, um, specific scenarios, facts. Ah, it just blows my mind how you guys can do that because that's our cognitive function stack is actually flipped. So that's my least favorite and least least developed, I guess you could say would be introverted, introverted sensing. So remembering bill due dates, you know, Oh, things. So since we're relating it to that, right, so bill due dates, things of that nature. Um, that is what I, I fault her at the most, right? Like, Oh yes. If I don't have my budget, Excel spreadsheet, um, plastered, like literally everywhere I have it on my phone, I have it like literally everywhere. So I don't forget what specific bill due days are. No. Like I just have like the same bills are due and I know like when they're due like every month. But for your personality type, you have to have reminders everywhere for you. Oh, yes. Oh, 100%. And because I'm in my, I'm in my thirties now and I still like, what am I? Bills haven't changed. You know, like your cell phone bill, that doesn't change. Right. But I'm still on that or is, I can't remember. You know, funny cause some of my, some of my other, I have some like local friends who they're like Catherine, like why can't you just get it together? Like how'd you graduate from college? And I'm just like, well ever since I've learned about this theory, I'm like, well I have inferior introverted sensing and that's actually pretty normal for Justin. So no, for somebody listening, you know that may not be like me where you just, I'm like, well just write it down and paid the same time every month. They may be like you were, they have to have constant reminders like so for, for somebody that is your personality type, what are some tips to kind of help keep track of their money and their due dates and like that? Because for me, I'm just like, well just write it down and follow it. But for somebody with your personality type, that's not as easy to do as somebody with my personality type do exactly what I did. Just like literally poster it like everywhere. And try and think of like the implications of what it could mean for your relationships. Cause that's what w um, NFPS are typically driven off of. Cause you know, the main reason why people have divorces, right? Or like issues and stuff like that is because of money issues. And so if you think about it from that perspective, that's a driving force for a lot of people. With our personality, with my personality types, we are very much so driven by um, relationships and um, thinking about, um, connecting the dots between actions and you know, what it could imply in the feature. And that's very well what you know, can and will imply in the future. Like if you don't get ahold of that, that's what's going to happen in the future. You know what I mean? [inaudible] yeah, that's good because I don't think plus I'm just sitting here thing and how that side of my brain works. So that's really good. That's really good advice, you know, to kind of have that other perspective for somebody that is, you know, maybe a little bit more on the emotional side of things. Cause I'm just like, well just pay it, just pay it. Like what's the problem? Yeah, yeah. Like why are we, but you know, it's actually really funny. So going a little digging a little bit deeper. Um, so the cognitive function SAC actually can change based off of the different levels of stress. Right? So a couple of years ago I was actually in some pretty severe like chronic stress levels, um, with, you know, cause I actually went through a divorce myself. Oh. And my job was a little, you know, unstable. And as we all know, work environments can very well shake your emotional stability, you know, so, so I actually, my cognitive function sex actually changed. Oh wow. I didn't realize that it could really shift like that. It can, it can. And cause you know, people like let's say you're in, think about a time that you had in your life where you were like severely, I'm talking like your whole world was shaken up. So we was funny because I actually turned, um, basically in two an IST J you know, everything had to be meticulously, um, planned out. And I'm just like, I am not being myself. Why, why am I like this? Like my cognitive function, sex actually changed all this kind of stuff and digging deeper. Like that's actually another factor that you can take it into consideration, which is, um, a lot of what I talk about in my ebook that I created the money psychology approach. So if you listeners out there ever interested in that, it's, it's a very interesting read and you could apply it so much in your life. It's unreal. We will link to it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Um, please just go ahead and take a look at it. Google it. It'll be there in my shop. Yeah. So, um, yeah, it's, it's so [inaudible] and it's literally life changing how you can, um, if you take this in consideration, um, and apply it to your life and not only that, your, your relationships, think about the other person's personality type. Like if we want to, if you want to kind of ease on into the relationship aspect of it. Like, you know, you and I actually were talking earlier about how like your partner could do something crazy, something crazy that seems to you, right? Like, let's say, let's say your husband was an NFP, right? And it's just like, why can't, if you miss the bill and now we have a $35 late fee, are you kidding me? Like, wow, how did you, this is your responsibility, you know? But, um, if you take in consideration, like that's their natural weaknesses, maybe you guys can adjust, you know, like, okay, well maybe I do this, I handle the bills. Um, I handle like the bill due dates, you know, I say, don't go against your personality, you know, go for it. Let's, what does everybody's natural strengths, let them thrive in that area. Right. So let's say for a, yeah, let's say your, for instance, your husband, isn't he NFP, right? So your husband would EMFP [inaudible] NFPS we're really good at coming up with creative solutions to problems, whether it be through like a new business idea or, um, creative side hustles that you can come up with. Like let's say you're coming up with a bill coming up with unexpected expenses and you don't have something in the budget and you don't have an emergency fund. NFPS are, it's, it's uncanny like how much we can [inaudible] um, um, things like honor to make some extra money like, and quick, you know, and yeah, they can actually be like pretty good side hustles too. Like I actually had, um, I went through, I was at a startup and, um, you know, my boss flew in from California to come lay me off, you know, and it was funny that followed. Sure. So it was like on a Friday that following Monday I was already working on my side hustle, like making money like that. Yeah. That that day I was like, Oh well obviously I gotta do something. I'm going to be a Lyft driver. You know, I'm an Austin so I'm going to be a Lyft driver. And you know, I didn't have very much money at the time cause I had a lot of student loan debt. So I'm just like, Oh well, you know, we, we take, you know, again with the um, inferior introverted sensing, we, I guess that from that perspective it kind of worked for me cause I wasn't thinking too much unlike previous experiences, which for me it would be getting laid off. Like at that point that following Monday, it was a previous experience for me. I'm like, okay, well how do we fix this? Like immediately let's just think of new possible ways to fix this. And within a few weeks I was making like a thousand dollars a week. It's uncanny. That's awesome. So really kind of worked out for ya. Yeah, it did. It did. You know, so S so there's pros and cons, you know, to that. And if you're not an NFP or I S T J, you know, you know, again, going back to the ebook thing there, there are other ways, um, there are other natural strengths that you may have. Um, for any of you that may be listening and you're like, well, I'm not a nice TJ and I'm not Nina FPA. I don't know what I am, you know, so you could go to a 16 personalities.com and figure out what you are and just kind of go from there. Like don't, um, [inaudible]. Yeah. Just get to know your natural flow if you will, or your natural, um, state and you know, expand on your strengths and try and minimize your weaknesses as much as you can, you know? Yeah. Or even just, you know, balance each other out. So if you know that your strength is the numbers and doing the budget, but your husband or significant other strengths or coming up with ideas to make more money, you know, just try and balance each other out. Like if you know that you can stay on top of the due dates, then that's your responsibility. And then if their strength is something else, then they can do that. Um, I do get a lot of questions about getting your spouse on board. And so I'll have people like in my group though, like, okay, I've tried to tell my husband, I've done the budget, like, don't spend any money on this. And yet they still go out and run their debit card. Like even though they have went over everything and they're just not on the same page. So do you have any tips for like, maybe trying to start with their personality types and running this personality test and just kind of see where each other is coming from? Just from their natural tendencies and personalities and then trying to kind of come together on the budget and their, you know, their big money goals or their money mindset, whatever you want to call it. Yeah, absolutely. Um, so, um, again, it kind of goes back to what I was saying with the cognitive functions, um, and how it can change based off of like the different, uh, stress levels. Right? Right. So let's say, um, you know, your spouse had recently like lost a job or whatever and they normally are an I in TJ, right? So I, and TJ is just imagine like the mad scientist that always comes up with these elaborate plans, you know, that's seems to be like their, you know, they're very meticulous and maybe like creatively come up with these like elaborate plans, things of that nature. Um, and they're normally very reserved and very controlled, right? So let's say they recently experienced a job loss, they come up with, um, they start randomly start spending like all this money, right? So the actually their cognitive function stack, which is again how you process information and make decisions can turn into what, um, that have an ESF P yes. FPS are extroverted sensing, feeling perceiving. So just imagine like they're performer or, or like an actress that maybe you really good at making money but just like blow it all cause they are in the moment and things of that nature, they can actually turn into that. Right? So if you, if you want to, yeah, they can actually turn into that. And you know, from a spouse perspective and be like, Oh my God, this is not who I married. You know, I'm here and here. It's very different. Yeah. Yeah. That is very different and it can change very quickly. So, ah, taking that into consideration and be like, okay, they are in chronic stress levels. Function sec may have changed. I mean, you don't have to say it to think about it in like clinical terms. They're like, okay, they're changing, right? They're going through different, um, they're going through a stressful time and so they're thinking about things changed very quickly. You know, I'm maybe drinking too much functions that they, I N T days may not normally be into. It can manifest in that way and very quickly. It's absolutely, it's absolutely crazy. Like how that changes that is, yeah. I didn't even realize that that could change so that I'm just like sitting here trying to process that it can change because you think like, okay, well this is just how you are. But you know, but you're right. Whenever somebody is under a lot of stress, you know, their personality does tend to change. I mean their, their habits may change. They start not acting like themselves. I mean, Oh my gosh, should we, especially with when it comes to money, when you are under like so much stress, I find that people don't think through and process what they're doing with their money, whether it's spending or you know, transferring it to another counter. You know, what make a big purchase out of nowhere, you know, things like that. So that actually makes a lot of sense to me that, you know, when they're under a lot of stress that you just, you can kinda change your personality and do things that you wouldn't normally do. Yeah. Or for me it was the exact opposite. I was very meticulous about the, the bill due dates and like, Oh it's just like, Oh my God. Like I have an Excel spreadsheet of all my debts and I [inaudible] categorized it based off of the interest level. Like it, cause I'm not Norway like that kind of a person. I normally have not. But like at that time I'll, I was like, everything was organized. Everything had to have like a specific reason for being in, in my Excel spreadsheet. Like it was just, it was just so crazy, like how, how that changed, you know? And I actually, that's what actually made me, I guess survive, you know what I mean? When it was, how you coped with it. [inaudible] it was good with it. Now for it, let's back up a minute because I don't think that we really like went into each personality types. Um, so let's talk about that real quick. So my understanding is there's four like main kind of groups, but each, each personality type, like, like I'm a I S T J and so each, the I stands for something. The S the T the J, they all stand for something, but there's four like main groups and kind of how, just real quick, like kind of what is each category and kind of like characteristics of each first a acronym, group level. It's extroverted versus introverted, right? So the extroverts tend to have more, um, uh, I guess lively, like facials, full expressions. Whereas introverts, they tend to, you know, have more conservative facial expressions or be conservative with their facial expressions. Right? Um, yeah. You know, and then obviously extroverts tend to want to go out more and do more things and they get energy from being around other people. Whereas introverts, eh, they tend to, I've, I heard a couple of introverts say they suck the soul up my life. I could see that. So they need to like stay at home for a couple of nights and just regroup and things of that nature. Right? And so, so the next group would be sensing vs intuitive. Syncers tend to be, um, more in the real like day today. Um, like interactions, right? Like, like, so for your, you, you're an ISDN TJ, right? You want to know the facts, you want to know how all of that plays out in day to day life. W whereas, uh, intuitive tends to be more like what is the potential implications ofX , Y, Z information, right? They want to know, like, more of like the abstract, um, abstract idea of like what's going on. And then you also random side note, you can tell an intuitive because they tend to talk more in um, euphemisms, right? They tint like what I just did, right? They tend to talk more in theory and all that kind of stuff. Whereas sensors may not so much. They tend to talk more [inaudible] facts and specific details of like what happened in the past and things of that nature. And then there's thinking versus feeling. Um, feelers tend to, um, think, let's say, let's say you're a boss, right? Boss has an employee that doesn't, it's not performing level, but that that's not performing at optimal levels. I thinker would be more so inclined to be like, okay, well what's the effectiveness of this employee versus the, um, versus the feeler and be like, okay, well what's the specifics scenario? And like what's going on with this specifics person? And then the last category would be, um, perceiving versus judging. Perceivers tend to want to see how life just kind of plays out, right? Yeah. That's not, yup. They want to see like, okay, let's not get bogged down with all this checklists to do lists. Let's just see how things just kind of play out. Right? Versus judgers not necessarily saying they're judgemental people, but because that's what people tend to immediately think about. I'm not judgemental. Oh, you know, well this is not necessarily what that means, but judgers tend to want to kind of wrap things up, if you will. Yeah. You know, like what's the, what's the bottom line here? What's the exact, you know, that kind of thing. That's what those four like acronym stand for. And just like a general overview of like what that actually means. Awesome. Thank you so much. I know this people are probably like, what the heck are they talking about? So I, and Oh my gosh, now I forgot what it's, I am N I S T J. So I'm an introvert. I'm very much an introvert. Like I have to force myself to be kind of an extrovert. Like with my previous job, I was a detective and so like I had to talk to just random people. It has very, very outside of my comfort zone. So I've learned how to like kinda cope with it, but I definitely need my alone time, like [inaudible]. But I'd imagine you'd be very good at that job because they have a lot of details that they have to take in consideration and remember, you know, so I imagine that would be a very good career path for I an IST J and it's a lot of facts. Like I can only deal with the facts, like I can't deal with how you feel, like I have to deal with facts and what I can prove in court. So yes, I definitely can see that being a strength. Um, so I could see like an extroverted, um, now I forgot what they all stand for. But at E S T J I guess is what you would probably do really well too. Like being able to just talk to people and things like that, but then also deal with the facts and the numbers and you know, that kind of stuff as well. Yes. Yes. And they, um, tend to make for excellent military leaders as well because you have two people in the military and you could tell the EST JS because they can take their primary cognitive function is to um, is extroverted thinking, which is organizing your environment. So E and TJ is an S T J's a, they lead with that cognitive function. Um, so if you think of like the Donald Trump's of the world, um, if you don't like Donald Trump, I'm sorry, but that's like the first, um, yeah personally. But he does lead with extroverted thinking like he is immediately just like how do I take control of the situation? Yeah. Right. Like that is, that is what, you know, he does and a lot of Ian and ESG Jays tend to do that, which, you know, it has its pros and weaknesses, right? Like, you know, it's really, especially when it comes to money, like it sounds like there are strengths and weaknesses with each personality type. And I think that, now, correct me if I'm wrong, but it kinda like your focus is figuring out your personality types, your strengths and weaknesses around money. And maybe kind of, um, using your strengths and your weaknesses to manage your money better. Is that kinda like what you help people with? Yes. Yes. Um, and then how to not only that, but just how to, um, relate that two, a person's a spouse or significant other, like if they're thinking about getting married but they're kind of hesitant because they're like, Oh, this person does this crazy things with money. Um, yeah, I would definitely be the person. They'd be like, Hey, you know what? Let's think, let's talk about that. Yeah. Especially like before you get married, if you were to do one of these personality tests and really get ahead of the game, like know what each other's strengths and weaknesses are, especially when it comes to money, because that's a huge factor in divorce. And if you're already like, I mean that could really set you up for a life of success for finances and your marriage, you know, like that could [inaudible] Oh really? Yes. Yeah. I wish I would have known about this cause I think it could have saved me not only from a money perspective, from my career perspective and just it just this one little test can affect your life in so many different ways. And now not just taking the test but actually applying it in your life. It's about this test. The 16 personalities.com is where I took it and we can, we'll link to it in the show notes, but it like gives you a summary. Like it says strengths and weaknesses, romantic relationships, friendships, Parenthood, career paths, workplace habits. So it gives you a little summary of like your strengths and weaknesses. And really, I mean I was reading some of these, I'm like, Oh my gosh, that is me. Like it just, it's like how does it know that I do that very well-developed theory. Oh, that can just change your life. And it sounds so crazy to say just from like a couple of little letters. It's so amazing. I really hope like for anyone that's listening right now, like please just take the time to, um, take it just 20 minutes out of your day and just really research about yourself, um, because, because it could be a major game changer for you and your family or a future family or you know, whatever's going on with you at the, um, at that particular time. Um, it did wonders for my life and a little scary because of, you know, like Ashley said it a little cause it's so accurate. Give me just a couple last words of wisdom. Uh, any like quick, when's quick tips that somebody can do that they're wanting to change their mindset? Um, you know, just be more aware of their PR, you know, their personality and how they handle money. Any last words of wisdom take into consideration you or your spouses? Cognitive function stack. Um, you know, we did talk about that. Um, because it's a huge factor in how you process information and make decisions. Um, so just recognizing the different levels of consciousness that a person has can be a huge factor in how you need to proceed with your life. So whether it be from like who manages the bills, who's coming up with the creative solutions for things of that nature. So yes. Awesome. Now I always like to ask people about their favorite non fiction books. So you know, we're all about improving our mindset and our lifestyle and everything here. So I like to read a lot of nonfiction books. Do you have a favorite or maybe more than one? Uh, yes, 100% it is do it scared by Ruth Sukup. I am a major fan fan girl. We'll have different podcasts and made you read her book on a hoopla and I try cause it's free through my library and I tried to read that book like three times. It would never load, so I guess I'm going to have to just go buy it because apparently I can't read it for free. The audio book might've been on there the last time I checked in night, I think I forgot. I hadn't actually listened to the audio book. But yes, I love Ruth. So tell me, so what about this book? Cause I know that there's like a personality types. This book is about personality types. So tell us really quickly about this book. Yeah. So I am the, I am a procrastinator like 100% I'm a rule follower. I know. I just [inaudible] know what we were at a soccer game this morning, my kids' first soccer game and somebody, somebody brought a dog and there's signs everywhere. The email said no dogs and there's a dog. And I'm like, they're not supposed to have a dog here. And my husband just let it go. And I'm like, but the sign says there's no dog. It's like, why didn't they have a dog? Why don't people think they could just do whatever they want? I would've never even, I never would even realized it. I'd be like, Oh, that's a cute dog. And I'm sure they probably never even noticed the signs. They may not have got the email, but I'm like, the rules are the rules. They are not supposed to have a jockey. Oh, that's so funny. Another example of how accurate this stuff. Another example. I know, it's so funny and I'm like, you're right, I don't know why I care. Just let it go. And then I did. I was over. Well, I mean, but there's, there's, there's pros to that, you know, cause if there were no rules in society, we'd all live in chaos. You know what I mean? That is true. Yes. The book, it breaks it down into wet four. Is it 4%? Cause like I said, I haven't actually read it, but I've listened to her podcast and stuff, so I kind of have like a general idea about it. But yes. So she does, it's not, um, it's not in relation to Myers-Briggs. I'm not, I can't remember how she, again, with introverted sensing in fear and sensing all the, I know there's one that was a rule follower. There's a procrastinator. There was like perfectionist, so and whatnot. But I remember how accurate it was for me, like how I kind of put things off because I don't want things to be messed up because I'm like, Oh well I don't want to like screw this up. So yeah, it was, it was crazy to me like why I did what I, Oh, why I've procrastinated the way that I've procrastinated do it scared and move forward, you know? Yeah. So I, I love that about her. She, um, I could just imagined, I've never met the woman a day in my life that I could just her and be like, okay, so why didn't you finish that blog? Let's do this. Yeah. Cause I think she's talked about she is a rebel. That's what it was. She's a rebel. So the rules don't apply to them and rules of her soccer's for soccer. So that's where she is. So that's right. That was the other one last thing. Where can people find you too, Katherine? dream.com and then you could go to my shop and then I'll look for the money psychology approach. Awesome. And do you have any good freebies that they can go and download? My main, my main page and it's my, um, on my money vault, I guess you could say. So it's all my, um, best resources for, um, how to save and make money, you know, whether it be yes. Um, and obviously in a creative way, of course, whether it be through starting a blog or you know, getting a drought, driving side hustle on or something along those lines that you can make money and make money fairly quickly. Oh, awesome. I'll have to do another episode on that because you know, we can talk all day. So we'll have to schedule, we'll have another episode and talk about all about side hustles. That sounds [inaudible] awesome. Oh yes. I am like the queen of side hustles. I sometimes I've made up to like $3,000 a month with my side hustle. It's crazy. That is crazy. That is crazy. Yes. We need to talk about that soon. Okay. So where, where can they find you on social media? What's your favorite? Oh, yes. Um, my favorite is Instagram. I'm always, again, being an NFP, I am all for, um, coming up with creative solutions and Instagram seems to have like all these awesome things to say so that you could just kind of get your day jump-started. Um, I'm really big into like Instagram stories, so yeah, follow me there and yeah, we'll go from there. Awesome. Yes, I've just started like in the last maybe month, like really tried to focus on Instagram. I'm really liking it. Like I never even used it for personal use. Like I just always used Facebook, but now that I'm getting added, love the stories, just like you said, like I get a D, just do quick little videos and things like that. So yes. Come follow Katherine on, um, Instagram and I'm sure you have Facebook and everything. Also a, is it all the same? It's all the same at Catholic. Yes. And then my website is Katherine treme.com. Yeah. And I'll link to everything in the show notes. Of course. Be sure to go check out Katherine on social media and her website. And then don't forget to go grab your hope money roadmap of budget's made easy.com/hope so you can get started on paying off debt, saving money, and living the life that you really want. I will see you in the next episode. Special Guest: Catherine Treme.
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Perceivers and Time ManagementNothing causes more friction at work than the ways Judging (J) and Perceiving (P) types manage time. P’s believe work is about performance, preferring to remain flexible, spontaneous, and adaptable. As such, they are often accused of being disorganized, with poor time management skills. How can P’s succeed while remaining true to themselves?Myers-Briggs Question Corner is the weekly MBTI career podcast brought to you by DC Metro Career Counselor Edythe Richards.Edythe is the creator of A Top Career - a web site which specializes in helping people back into work.Find out more at www.atopcareer.com
“In this new economy, people are looking for authenticity. People are looking for people being themselves.” - Janelle Lara (42:33-43:00)Janelle Lara The Part-Time CEO Entrepreneurs need to learn about themselves and their ideal clients to thrive in today's marketplace. Having a deep understanding of who you are and how you work helps you create the right environment for success. Sarah Arnold at Blue Stocking helps entrepreneurs create powerful marketing messages using the Myers-Briggs personality types. Through a unique “personality matchmaking” process, business owners learn how to use language and messaging to attract the right clients. “You reach people better when you can speak their language.” - Sarah Arnold (9:18-9:22) Entrepreneurs often focus too much on client acquisition, sales, and marketing. They overlook the importance of attracting clients who will get the most out of their work together. You can use personality types to influence your online messaging, reach the right clients, and gain an upper hand in the marketplace. The Myers-Briggs personality test is both a science and an art. Understanding how people are pulled towards certain preferences is an invaluable skill for business and life. Authenticity is impossible for entrepreneurs who try to adapt or copy other people's languages. They can't express a message that resonates with their ideal clients. Effective communication comes down to understanding your personality type and balancing it with others. Understanding Preferences and Personality TypesThere are 4 sets of preferences seen in people's personalities: Extrovert/Introvert. Extroverts get their energy from external sources. They are people of action who deal with information from the outside world. Introverts rely on internal sources of energy. They prioritize ideas and reflection while dealing more with the inner world. Intuitive/Sensing. Intuitive people are curious about the “why” behind everything. They think in abstract terms and are theoretical and future-oriented. Sensing individuals think more concretely, focusing on the who, what, when, and where of things. They think in terms of facts and experience. Feeling/Thinking. The feeling preference emphasizes other people and their feelings. These individuals look for value and are often seen as warm and tender-hearted. Thinkers focus on ideas and trust. Others might see them as impersonal, focused on truth, and even a little cold. Judging/Perceiving. Judging personality types focus on scheduling and time-management. They prefer structure and organization. Perceivers are less planned and go with the flow. They're open to change, flexible, and spontaneous. Each personality type can be grouped into specific categories: NF (Intuitive Feeling): Characteristics include authenticity, empathy, ethics, and a search for self. NT (Intuitive Thinking): These individuals are characterized by a desire for power over their own thoughts and represented by theoretical and scientific ways of thinking. SJ (Sensing Judging): Logistics, reliable, respectable, and service-oriented are some character traits of SJ individuals. SP (Sensing Perceiving): Those who fall under this category are known for their artistry and sense of aesthetics. They're often better suited for the entrepreneurial path due to their desire for freedom. “It's important to first know yourself. Until you know yourself, you're not going to be able to reach your clients in the right way.” - Sarah Arnold (43:16-43:25)The more familiar you are with your own personality, the better you'll communicate that in your marketing messages. Go beyond creating a client avatar and move towards understanding clients as living, breathing personalities. Rather than guess what your clients want to hear, you'll know exactly how to communicate in a way that meets their needs, and those of your business. You'll create authenticity in your work and build a business that serves the clients who are right for you. How to get involved Follow me on Instagram for special, podcast related updates! For more resources, information on my coaching services, and a whole community of Part-Time CEOs, find me on Facebook at Janelle Lara, my website, or email me. You can learn more about Sarah Arnold at bluestockingdata.com and connect with her on Instagram at @bluestockingdata. If you liked this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a quick review on iTunes. It would mean the world to hear your feedback and we'd love for you to help us spread the word!
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Venerable Sangye Khadro teaches on facsimiles of direct perceivers and inferential cognizers.
Are Myers-Briggs Perceivers Lazy?Today’s question is from a lady named Gia. People who are Perceivers on the Myers-Briggs really annoy me. I am a Myers-Briggs J, and I have a lot of trouble being around wishy-washy people who can't decide on anything. Are Perceivers lazy?Myers-Briggs Question Corner is the weekly MBTI career podcast brought to you by DC Metro Career Counselor Edythe Richards.Edythe is the creator of A Top Career - a web site which specializes in helping people back into work.Find out more at www.atopcareer.com
Welcome, Front Seat Lifers! We are on week four of the dichotomies. We have been talking for the last four weeks about introversion, extroversion, sensing, intuition, thinking, feeling, judging and perceiving. And today's episode is one of my all-time favorites that I will probably ever do a because it is about my favorite dichotomy which is judging and perceiving.If you need to go back and understand what judging and perceiving is, just scoot back to episode one and two. But a tiny little recap: it is how we'd like to be organized in this world.And the population differential is about 50/50. But this dichotomy is one of my favorites because there are so much juiciness and richness in it.Today's guest is David Walthew again, he's been on several episodes because he's such a great example of somebody who was in my life and we were complete opposites in this area. In fact, he was an ex-boyfriend of mine. Part of the demise of our relationship is because we were so different in this area. I think you're going to enjoy the stories and you'll learn a lot about yourself through David's stories and through my stories about what it's like to be in a relationship with the exact opposite person.So as strong “J's”, we are very organized, more decisive decision makers and a bunch of control freaks. We like things our own way. We like to be in control of ourselves and other people and everything around us. “P’s” are much more “go with the flow.” They are undaunted by surprise. They're like, “don't worry about it, we'll figure it out.” And we drive each other crazy.“P’s” drive “J's” absolutely crazy because they are people who live five minutes in front of their face. They don't do a lot of planning and they just really go about the world in this beautiful, easy, breezy kind of way. And then there's the “J’s” and we obviously drive “P’s” crazy because we're a bunch of control freaks and we need to know what's the plan, where are we going, what's happening, what's going on in our lives.And when you can see these differences in a friendship like mine and David's, I think you can learn a lot. Thank you so much and enjoy the episode.To find out more about Jessica visit https://jessicabutts.com/.Follow her on Instagram @frontseatlife for daily motivation.Not sure what your Myers Briggs personality type is? Take a free personality assessment at https://jessicabutts.com/front-seat-life-personality-assessment/.Looking for a tribe of growth-oriented people and want to stay closely connected to Jessica’s coaching? Join the Front Seat Life Community for a small monthly subscription at https://jessicabutts.com/front-seat-life-membership-group/.Front Seat Life Podcasthttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/front-seat-life-podcast/
I want to come at this from a few different angles today. First of all, let's define “leadership style.” Leadership is a noun, defined as follows: the position or function of a leader, a person who guides or directs a group:He managed to maintain his leadership of the party despite heavy opposition. ability to lead: As early as sixth grade she displayed remarkable leadership potential. an act or instance of leading; guidance; direction: They prospered under his strong leadership. the leaders of a group: The union leadership agreed to arbitrate. Here's how dictionary.com defines “style”: A particular, distinctive, or characteristic mode of action or manner of acting: When put together, “leadership style” is defined as the ability to lead with a particular, distinctive, or characteristic manner of acting. There are some aspects of leadership that are universal: no matter your personality, industry, background, or audience, true leaders show up in certain ways. Here are seven common traits of leaders, according to Entrepreneur Magazine: 1. Self-control 2. Stay clear of drama 3. Seekers of truth 4. Place courage over fear 5. Empathy towards self and others 6. Self-aware 7. Maintain and nurture their reputation Forbes adds the following traits: 1. Self-managing 2. Acting strategically 3. Being an effective communicator 4. Being accountable and responsible 5. Setting clear goals and persisting in achieving them 6. Having a vision for the future 7. Managing complexity 8. Fostering creativity and innovation 9. Teambuilding and promoting teamwork 10. Creating lasting relationships 11. Learning agility So, based on these two business publications, here's my summary of the common traits of leaders: 1. They have their own house in order – they are self-aware, have self-control, and manage themselves effectively. They are accountable for their actions and hold themselves to a very high standard. 2. They treat others with respect – they avoid gossip, show empathy, and create strong, mutually beneficial relationships 3. They create a positive working environment – by communicating effectively, setting clear goals, creating and disseminating the vision, facilitating creativity, and promoting teamwork 4. They are brave – they don't let fear stop them from moving forward, they are strategic, they flourish in the complexity of the business environment, and they are continually learning Now let's drill down to your leadership style. Think of this as the specific way in which you lead. As a master practitioner of the MBTI, I want to talk about leadership style in the framework of your personality first. Of course, you need to take the MBTI to know your type, but you probably have a good idea of at least some aspects of your personality. The first preference pair in the MBTI is Extraversion vs. Introversion. This has to do with where you get your energy, and extraverts get their energy from people and activities. Introverts get their energy from being by themselves. In general, Introverts will be quieter leaders, more difficult to get to know, and will often bring forth fully formed plans. In general, Extraverts will be more talkative, easier to get to know, and will often throw out ideas they've just thought of. The next preference pair in the MBTI is Sensing vs. Intuition. This has to do with how you take in information. Sensers take in information by way of the five senses, and Intuitives take in information by the way of their sixth sense. In general, Sensers will be slower to change and will lead by specifics. That is to say, Senser leaders will have a very specific plan for how to proceed and will want to share those details with the team. In general, Intuitives love change and will lead by inspiration. Intuitive leaders will lay out the vision and will allow the team to achieve the goals in the way they see fit. The next preference pair in the MBTI is Thinking vs. Feeling, which has to do with how you make decisions. Thinkers make their decisions using their head, and Feelers make their decisions using their heart. In general, Thinking leaders will always stick to the rules no matter what. They can come across as critical, because they aren't as concerned with how someone feels as they are about telling the truth. In general, Feeling leaders will consider the circumstances when making a decision, and may bend the rules depending on those circumstances. Feelers will create a sense of belonging and will be kind to their employees, but may not be as honest with employees as to their weaknesses and areas for improvement. The final preference pair in the MBTI is Judging vs. Perceiving. This has to do with how you organize your environment. Judgers will maintain structure and organization, and Perceivers prefer to maintain openness and be spontaneous. In general, Judging leaders will create deadlines, stick to a schedule, and get their work done well ahead of time. In general, Perceiving leaders will wait until the last minute to complete projects, prefer not to have schedules, and often have a messy workspace. If you know your personality type and would like a copy of my “Leadership and Type” handout, email me at lesa@exclusivecareercoaching.com. Next, let's talk about leadership style in the context of my synthesis of the Entrepreneur Magazine and Forbes lists. I'm giving you some thought-provoking questions to ask yourself; I recommend you pick one question from each of the following to work on over the next 90 days. 1. They have their own house in order. a. On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being perfect, how well do I take constructive feedback? What can I do to move that needle? b. On a scale of 1-10, how well do I manage my own schedule? Do I plan my days out and achieve the goals for that day, or do I allow outside influences to set priorities for me? What can I do to move that needle? c. On a scale of 1-10, how self-controlled am I in the face of emergencies, conflict, or everyday frustrations? What can I do to move that needle? 2. They treat others with respect. a. On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being complete avoidance, how well do I avoid gossip? What can I do to move that needle? b. On a scale of 1-10, how empathetic am I? What can I do to move that needle? c. On a scale of 1-10, how good am I at building professional relationships? What can I do to move that needle? 3. They create a positive working environment. a. On a scale of 1-10, how effective am I at communicating in professional settings? What can I do to move that needle? b. On a scale of 1-10, how effective am I at fostering creativity in others? What can I do to move that needle? c. On a scale of 1-10, how well do I promote teamwork? What can I do to move that needle? 4. They are brave. a. On a scale of 1-10, how brave am I in the face of fear in my work? What can I do to move that needle? b. On a scale of 1-10, how good am I at strategic planning? What can I do to move that needle? c. On a scale of 1-10, well do I perform in complexity and ambiguity? What can I do to move that needle? Finally, let's talk about leadership style in the context of your industry. Several of these questions assume that you currently lead others, so if you don't, you may have to think about a time when you did lead others. Here are seven questions to ask yourself related to the specific industry you work in: 1. Do I relate to my peers in a way that fits for the industry I work in and the personalities of my peers? What could I do differently to improve my ability to communicate better with them, support them more effectively, and engage in more collaborative efforts? 2. Are there people I lead that don't seem to respond well to my overall leadership style? Are they a good fit for the job they are in and our company? If so, how can I adjust my style to be more effective with those individuals? 3. Am I providing the people I lead with the right type of motivation for them to achieve organizational and department goals? Have I asked them what motivates them, and how they like to be rewarded/recognized? How can I do better in this regard? 4. What does creativity and innovation look like in my industry and company? What am I doing to foster creativity and innovation in my team? Is it working? How can I do better? 5. What teambuilding activities have I engaged in with my team, and have they been effective? How do I know? What is one activity I could plan in the next 90 days that would move the needle? 6. What is my strategic planning style, and is it appropriate for my industry and company? What could I do different in this regard? 7. Am I providing the kind of feedback that actually helps my team improve? Do they know what they are doing well and where they need to improve at the time I see it happen, or do I wait for annual performance reviews? In summary, there are several common traits of superior leaders, but how those traits manifest themselves can vary widely. Don't try to be someone else, just have a goal to be the best version of yourself you can possibly be. To visit my website: www.exclusivecareercoaching.com Follow My YouTube channel (Lesa Edwards); it's chocked full of value career management content is easily digestible bites. Want to speak with an expert about your career/job search goals? Need help figuring out what's holding you back from achieving your dream career? Let's talk. Here's the link to schedule a 30-minute consult call with me: www.timetrade.com/book/D6KLN. Hope to see you soon!
Study Buddhist Treatises with Thubten Chodron - Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron
Covering the sections in Chapter 12 “Four Types of Direct Perceivers” and “Believing in Something That is Real” and responding to a question about bodhicitta.
Study Buddhist Treatises with Thubten Chodron - Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron
Teaching on the last two types of consciousnesses: inferential cognizers and direct perceivers.
Study Buddhist Treatises with Thubten Chodron - Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron
Covering the section in Chapter 12 on the differences between thought consciousnesses and direct perceivers.
Teaching on direct perceivers as part of Chapter 12: Consciousnesses in Relation to What They Perceive.
Study Buddhist Treatises with Thubten Chodron - Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron
Continuing to teach Chapter Three, on thought consciousnesses and direct perceivers.
This month, I'm talking about using critical information about yourself in your career choice. Last week, I talked about Motivated Skills; this week I want to talk about your personality. I am a Master Practitioner of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), the world's most widely used personality assessment. It is a psychological tool designed to reveal your personality preferences…the ones you were born with. Here's the analogy I always use with my clients: I have them write their name. Whether they use their right hand as most people do or their left hand (like me), we identify that the hand they wrote their name with is their preferred hand. No one forced them use that hand; one day, they picked up a crayon and started drawing with that hand. That hand is their innate preference. Next, I have them write their name with their non-preferred hand. We talk about the fact that it was a much more conscious task with that hand…and that the results weren't nearly as good. The next step is to have them imagine their preferred arm is broken and it's in a cast for six months. During that time, they are forced to write exclusively with their non-preferred hand. They will no doubt get better at using that hand during those six months, right? I then have them imagine that a co-worker exclaims, “Oh my gosh…your arm is broken! Is that the arm you write with?” Of course, their answer is “Yes!” Even though they are using their non-preferred hand exclusively, it doesn't change the fact that that isn't their preferred hand. And, as soon as that cast comes off, they are back to their preferred hand. What's this have to do with personality type? The MBTI measures personality preferences on four scales and identifies one of 16 personality types based on your responses. The MBTI is identifying your innate preferences…the way you prefer to handle a situation or task if given the option. But here's the thing: All of us must access our non-preferred side of our personality. On a daily basis. The Introvert who has to go to a two-day team building event with coworkers and finds it incredibly draining. The Perceiver whose boss expects her to stick to a tight schedule. The Thinker whose coworker comes to him very emotional, with a personal problem. The Intuitive whose project assignment requires her to complete her tasks in a very sequential manner. Let's translate this into your career choice. As I said last week, career choice, and the role of your personality in that choice, is a macro- and micro-level decision. On a macro level, you are choosing a career field that meshes with your personality. On a micro level, you are evaluating job opportunities based on those same criteria. Because sometimes what holds true for the career as a whole doesn't hold true for a specific position. Here's an example: I once worked with a YMCA Assistant Director who was underperforming at work. Turned out (much to everyone's surprise) that he was an Extravert. You would think a job at the YMCA – specifically organizing the recreational sporting events for children – would be a great fit for an Extravert. And you would be right. HOWEVER, at this YMCA the Assistant Director's office was at the end of a dark hallway – isolated from the patrons coming in and out, and from the other employees. He hated that aspect of his job. So what are the preference pairs measured by the MBTI? EXTRAVERSION – INTROVERSION This pair has to do with where you get your energy. Extraverts get their energy from the people and activities going on around them; Introverts get their energy from being by themselves. Extraverts are generally comfortable meeting, and speaking with, strangers; Introverts would rather not approach strangers and find it difficult to start a conversation with someone they don't know. Extraverts tend to be “open books,” meaning they freely share what they are thinking with those around them. Introverts are much more closed about what they share until they know someone well and feel they can trust them. SENSING – INTUITION This pair has to do with how you prefer to take in information. Sensers take in information by way of the 5 senses – sight, taste, touch, hearing, and smell. Intuitives take in information by way of their 6th sense – their intuition. Sensers prefer to deal with concrete information that has practical value; Intuitives prefer to deal with abstract ideas and concepts that involve creativity and imagination. Sensers tend to trust what has worked in the past and aren't likely to want to make changes to something if it's working okay. Intuitives want new and different and will make changes to things even if they are working okay as is. THINKING – FEELING The Thinking-Feeling pair address your preference for making decisions. Thinkers make decisions using cool, impersonal logic – they make their decisions with their head. Feelers make decisions using sympathy and values – they make their decisions with their heart. Thinkers tend to stick to established rules and regulations – treating everyone fairly by treating everyone the same. Feelers tend to consider the circumstances – treating everyone fairly by treating everyone differently. Thinkers will be brutally honest in evaluating work performance and can come across as harsh because they are telling you the unvarnished truth. Feelers will consider your feelings in giving you feedback; while the interaction may be more pleasant, you may not be given the information you need to improve. JUDGING – PERCEIVING Judging-Perceiving addresses how you organize your life. Judgers love planners, calendars, and systems that create a superstructure of organization in their lives. Perceivers want freedom to do what they feel like doing at any given time. Judgers avoid the pressure of last-minute work, whereas Perceivers do their best work at the last minute. Judgers want structure to their work and prefer jobs with schedules they can control. Perceivers like jobs that are unstructured, and they are at their best when responding to emergencies or changes in plan. Why Does This Matter? A lot of research has gone into career fields most frequently chosen by different personality types. I want to lay out just a couple of examples for you: ENFJ (Extraverted-Intuitive-Feeling-Judging) When you combine the four letters of your preference, you get a four-letter code that says volumes about your preferences. Here's a brief description of an ENFJ: Imaginative HARMONIZERS; at their best when winning people's cooperation with insight into their needs. They value: -Having a wide circle of relationships -Having a positive, enthusiastic view of life -Seeing subtleties in people and interactions -Understanding others' needs and concerns -An active, energizing social life -Seeing possibilities in people -Follow-through on important projects -Working on several projects at once -Caring and imaginative problem solving -Maintaining relationships to make things work -Shaping organizations to better serve members -Caring, compassion, and tactfulness What careers do you think ENFJs most frequently go into? Fields that involve helping others achieve their goals – looking toward the future to become what they want to become. Using their creativity is essential to ENFJ's job satisfaction. Public Relations Manager Social Worker Career Counselor Editor High School Teacher Human Resources Manager Advertising Manager Marriage & Family Therapist ISTP (Introverted-Sensing-Thinking-Perceiving) Here's a brief description of ISTP: Practical ANALYZERS; at their best when analyzing experience to find logic and underlying properties. They value: -A reserved outer life -Having a concrete, present-day view of life -Clear, exact facts -Looking for efficient, least-effort solutions -Knowing how mechanical things work -Pursuing interests in depth -Freedom from organizational constraints -Independence and self-management -Spontaneous hands-on learning -Having useful technical expertise -Critical analysis as a means to improve things -Solving problems with detached, sequential analysis What fields do ISTPs pursue? Those that allow for freedom…of schedule, or daily work…or setting in which the work is done. Variety is very important to ISTPs. They also like work that is hands-on and practical. Building Inspector Forester Chef Athletic Trainer Financial Manager Software Developer Mechanical Engineer Police Officer Using personality information in your career choice allows you to align your preferences with your work. Think of my analogy: if you don't do this, it will be like writing all day, every day, with your non-preferred hand. It will be tiring, less fulfilling…and you won't excel to the degree you could. A note about taking the MBTI: There are lots of on-line “knock offs” of the assessment. If you want to take the actual MBTI, I recommend doing so with a qualified professional who will interpret your results with you. Otherwise, you are left with information you won't know what to make of. The MBTI is a psychological assessment, and as such, and only be administered and interpreted by a qualified professional or Master Practitioner such as me. To visit my website: www.exclusivecareercoaching.com Follow My YouTube channel (Lesa Edwards); it's chocked full of value career management content is easily digestible bites. Want to speak with an expert about your career/job search goals? Need help figuring out what's holding you back from achieving your dream career? Let's talk. Here's the link to schedule a 30-minute consult call with me: www.timetrade.com/book/D6KLN. Hope to see you soon!
This month, I'm talking about using critical information about yourself in your career choice. Last week, I talked about Motivated Skills; this week I want to talk about your personality. I am a Master Practitioner of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), the world's most widely used personality assessment. It is a psychological tool designed to reveal your personality preferences…the ones you were born with. Here's the analogy I always use with my clients: I have them write their name. Whether they use their right hand as most people do or their left hand (like me), we identify that the hand they wrote their name with is their preferred hand. No one forced them use that hand; one day, they picked up a crayon and started drawing with that hand. That hand is their innate preference. Next, I have them write their name with their non-preferred hand. We talk about the fact that it was a much more conscious task with that hand…and that the results weren't nearly as good. The next step is to have them imagine their preferred arm is broken and it's in a cast for six months. During that time, they are forced to write exclusively with their non-preferred hand. They will no doubt get better at using that hand during those six months, right? I then have them imagine that a co-worker exclaims, “Oh my gosh…your arm is broken! Is that the arm you write with?” Of course, their answer is “Yes!” Even though they are using their non-preferred hand exclusively, it doesn't change the fact that that isn't their preferred hand. And, as soon as that cast comes off, they are back to their preferred hand. What's this have to do with personality type? The MBTI measures personality preferences on four scales and identifies one of 16 personality types based on your responses. The MBTI is identifying your innate preferences…the way you prefer to handle a situation or task if given the option. But here's the thing: All of us must access our non-preferred side of our personality. On a daily basis. The Introvert who has to go to a two-day team building event with coworkers and finds it incredibly draining. The Perceiver whose boss expects her to stick to a tight schedule. The Thinker whose coworker comes to him very emotional, with a personal problem. The Intuitive whose project assignment requires her to complete her tasks in a very sequential manner. Let's translate this into your career choice. As I said last week, career choice, and the role of your personality in that choice, is a macro- and micro-level decision. On a macro level, you are choosing a career field that meshes with your personality. On a micro level, you are evaluating job opportunities based on those same criteria. Because sometimes what holds true for the career as a whole doesn't hold true for a specific position. Here's an example: I once worked with a YMCA Assistant Director who was underperforming at work. Turned out (much to everyone's surprise) that he was an Extravert. You would think a job at the YMCA – specifically organizing the recreational sporting events for children – would be a great fit for an Extravert. And you would be right. HOWEVER, at this YMCA the Assistant Director's office was at the end of a dark hallway – isolated from the patrons coming in and out, and from the other employees. He hated that aspect of his job. So what are the preference pairs measured by the MBTI? EXTRAVERSION – INTROVERSION This pair has to do with where you get your energy. Extraverts get their energy from the people and activities going on around them; Introverts get their energy from being by themselves. Extraverts are generally comfortable meeting, and speaking with, strangers; Introverts would rather not approach strangers and find it difficult to start a conversation with someone they don't know. Extraverts tend to be “open books,” meaning they freely share what they are thinking with those around them. Introverts are much more closed about what they share until they know someone well and feel they can trust them. SENSING – INTUITION This pair has to do with how you prefer to take in information. Sensers take in information by way of the 5 senses – sight, taste, touch, hearing, and smell. Intuitives take in information by way of their 6th sense – their intuition. Sensers prefer to deal with concrete information that has practical value; Intuitives prefer to deal with abstract ideas and concepts that involve creativity and imagination. Sensers tend to trust what has worked in the past and aren't likely to want to make changes to something if it's working okay. Intuitives want new and different and will make changes to things even if they are working okay as is. THINKING – FEELING The Thinking-Feeling pair address your preference for making decisions. Thinkers make decisions using cool, impersonal logic – they make their decisions with their head. Feelers make decisions using sympathy and values – they make their decisions with their heart. Thinkers tend to stick to established rules and regulations – treating everyone fairly by treating everyone the same. Feelers tend to consider the circumstances – treating everyone fairly by treating everyone differently. Thinkers will be brutally honest in evaluating work performance and can come across as harsh because they are telling you the unvarnished truth. Feelers will consider your feelings in giving you feedback; while the interaction may be more pleasant, you may not be given the information you need to improve. JUDGING – PERCEIVING Judging-Perceiving addresses how you organize your life. Judgers love planners, calendars, and systems that create a superstructure of organization in their lives. Perceivers want freedom to do what they feel like doing at any given time. Judgers avoid the pressure of last-minute work, whereas Perceivers do their best work at the last minute. Judgers want structure to their work and prefer jobs with schedules they can control. Perceivers like jobs that are unstructured, and they are at their best when responding to emergencies or changes in plan. Why Does This Matter? A lot of research has gone into career fields most frequently chosen by different personality types. I want to lay out just a couple of examples for you: ENFJ (Extraverted-Intuitive-Feeling-Judging) When you combine the four letters of your preference, you get a four-letter code that says volumes about your preferences. Here's a brief description of an ENFJ: Imaginative HARMONIZERS; at their best when winning people's cooperation with insight into their needs. They value: -Having a wide circle of relationships -Having a positive, enthusiastic view of life -Seeing subtleties in people and interactions -Understanding others' needs and concerns -An active, energizing social life -Seeing possibilities in people -Follow-through on important projects -Working on several projects at once -Caring and imaginative problem solving -Maintaining relationships to make things work -Shaping organizations to better serve members -Caring, compassion, and tactfulness What careers do you think ENFJs most frequently go into? Fields that involve helping others achieve their goals – looking toward the future to become what they want to become. Using their creativity is essential to ENFJ's job satisfaction. Public Relations Manager Social Worker Career Counselor Editor High School Teacher Human Resources Manager Advertising Manager Marriage & Family Therapist ISTP (Introverted-Sensing-Thinking-Perceiving) Here's a brief description of ISTP: Practical ANALYZERS; at their best when analyzing experience to find logic and underlying properties. They value: -A reserved outer life -Having a concrete, present-day view of life -Clear, exact facts -Looking for efficient, least-effort solutions -Knowing how mechanical things work -Pursuing interests in depth -Freedom from organizational constraints -Independence and self-management -Spontaneous hands-on learning -Having useful technical expertise -Critical analysis as a means to improve things -Solving problems with detached, sequential analysis What fields do ISTPs pursue? Those that allow for freedom…of schedule, or daily work…or setting in which the work is done. Variety is very important to ISTPs. They also like work that is hands-on and practical. Building Inspector Forester Chef Athletic Trainer Financial Manager Software Developer Mechanical Engineer Police Officer Using personality information in your career choice allows you to align your preferences with your work. Think of my analogy: if you don't do this, it will be like writing all day, every day, with your non-preferred hand. It will be tiring, less fulfilling…and you won't excel to the degree you could. A note about taking the MBTI: There are lots of on-line “knock offs” of the assessment. If you want to take the actual MBTI, I recommend doing so with a qualified professional who will interpret your results with you. Otherwise, you are left with information you won't know what to make of. The MBTI is a psychological assessment, and as such, and only be administered and interpreted by a qualified professional or Master Practitioner such as me. To visit my website: www.exclusivecareercoaching.com Follow My YouTube channel (Lesa Edwards); it's chocked full of value career management content is easily digestible bites. Want to speak with an expert about your career/job search goals? Need help figuring out what's holding you back from achieving your dream career? Let's talk. Here's the link to schedule a 30-minute consult call with me: www.timetrade.com/book/D6KLN. Hope to see you soon!
In this episode: What is the difference between Judging and Perceiving? How do your employees approach the outside world? How do each of your employees act on a task? How do Judging and Perceiving work with the other personalities? Why should you listen to the rest of the podcasts? About Our Co-Hosts: Chuck Taylor and Timogi Jackson Timogi Jackson is a certified life coach and The Empowerment Specialist with Sage Garden Care Center. Chuck Taylor is also a certified life coach and the owner of Sage Garden Care Center. Together they help businesses engage their employees to be the best they can be and to strengthen the quality of their abilities to help maximize productivity and efficiencies. Chuck is a certified Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator trainer and together he and Timogi discuss the benefits of understanding personality types in the workplace. Links Mentioned: Learn your personality profile Personality Store Interested in working with Chuck & Timogi? Want to know more about Chuck Taylor, Optimization Coach? Want to know more about Timogi Jackson, Empowerment Specialist? Connect With Us: website | facebook | twitter | email Special thanks to this episode's sponsor, Blackburn Consulting. Find out more at BlackburnConsultingNC.com
Knowing yourself will allow you to understand more how you can show up and operate as an entrepreneur. In this episode, James explains what the Myers Briggs Personality Test is all about, while allowing the listener to answer the question “what type am I?” Personality types aren’t meant to limit you. You can learn much about yourself, and along the way, discover a lot about the people around you. At a business function in 2008, someone “read” James, based on his personality type, which fascinated him. “What it did for me was open a door to discover this on my own” He says he was an introvert growing up, referring to himself as shy and not knowing how to relate to others. “I lived the first 25 years of my life thinking there was something drastically wrong with me because everywhere I looked, I found evidence that people were the exact opposite” James discovered his Myers Briggs Personality Type is “INTJ”, which is one of the rarest of the 16 personality types in the framework. Myers Briggs allowed him to look at what he had as strengths, as opposed to weaknesses. “I accepted who I was and really fell in love with that” He created a journal that he kept for about 18 months, tracking and analyzing the personality types of people that he knew. He discovered a lot of similarities between them in terms of behaviors, mannerisms and even physical attributes. This has resulted in him being able to read people with great accuracy. “It has allowed me to be more effective in communication. The moment you work with one more person in your life, communication becomes the number one most important thing” He believes that the one breakdown we have in communication is not being able to understand where the other person is coming from and what’s going on with them. Knowing people’s personality types can help in terms of hiring for new positions, as well as determining who the ideal client is for your business. The Myers Briggs system can even point you in the right direction for finding your purpose, or reaffirming the path that you are on. “I believe that everyone has a purpose, and your purpose needsto be aligned with the things that come natural to you” It’s important to note that no personality type is right or wrong, or better or worse, than another. Myers Briggs is based on asking yourself a number of questions: 1. Are you an Extrovert (E) or Introvert(I)? This question examines where you get your energy. If it’s from internal sources, such as thoughts, ideas and imagination, those are introvert qualities. Extroverts tend to get their energy from being around people. Extroverts outnumber introverts about three to one, and it’s common for introverts to live their life feeling pressured to feel they need more friends and have to go out more often in groups. Introverts often think first and speak second, enjoy peace and quiet and are great listeners. They love small gatherings and they believe that “talk is cheap.” Extroverts talk first and think later, often have more friends and value that as something that’s important to them. They are not as affected by external stimuli and find listening more difficult than talking. Often, they require more affirmation from others. 2. Are you a Sensor (S) orIntuitive (N)? This question revolves around how we see the world and take in information, which can be challenging to describe but can have the biggest impact on who we are and how we communicate. About 60 to 70% of the population are sensors. Sensors prefer specific answers to specific questions, and are very detail oriented. They prefer jobs and tasks that yield a tangible result. Sensors want to master things, and identify with being “the best” at something. These types of people would rather work with facts and figures than ideas and theories. They are very literally and tend to be more athletic than Intuitives. Intuitives can be seen as being absent-minded and can get frustrated with details. They are future-oriented, looking at the“big picture.” They are able to draw a connection between people,things or ideas, and often are the type that will question authority. 3. Are you a Thinker (T) or Feeler(F)? This question looks at how we make decisions, whether in a logical way or from the heart. Thinkers are calm and collected, looking for what is fair and truthful rather than what will make people happy. To be a good manager of people, you most likely need to be a Thinker to make the tough decisions that are necessary. They are mathematical, scientific and left-brained in general. Feelers take other peoples’ feelings in to account, and are more empathetic. 4. Are you a Perceiver (P) or a Judger(J)? This question looks at how you structure your day and life. Perceivers are creative and spontaneous,as well as good at starting projects. However, they can be easily distracted and are not big planners. They can be slightly disheveled in their appearance (males with longer hair and females wearing clothes that flow). Perceivers experience time in abundance, which is why they’re always late. Judgers are very linear with their time, and structured in that they are probably the type that has to have “to-do” lists. As well, they are tasks finishers, taking a project from start to finish.