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Daniella Mestyanek Young grew up in the Children of God, left at fifteen, and went on to become a U.S. Army intelligence officer. She has spent her career since studying how high-control groups are built — and arguing that the tactics are the same whether the group is a commune, a military unit, or a political movement. In this conversation she and Jen Taylor-Skinner examine what separates a political movement from a cult, and why the distinction matters less than the tactics being used. They discuss the role race has played in American cults from the 1960s onward, the "validity mascot" — the woman brought in to make a leader look normal — and why cult leaders become fixated on birth rates and gender roles. Young explains what she calls trance talk: the deliberate cadence cult leaders use, and a simple test for hearing past it. They also discuss what it takes to leave. Young is direct about the limits: there is no reliable, ethical way to pull someone out of a cult, and the deprogramming of the 1970s amounted to soft torture. What works, she argues, is waiting for the crack — and knowing what to ask when it appears. Daniella Mestyanek Young is the author of The Culting of America and Uncultured. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, MJ, Snow & Kat sit down with Daniella Mestyanek Young — bestselling author, cult expert, and creator of the social media persona “The Knitting Cult Lady” — for a raw conversation about growing up in and escaping the Children of God cult. Daniella traces her extraordinary path from cult childhood to U.S. Army veteran, unpacking the surprising parallels between cult indoctrination and the psychological conditioning of military basic training.The conversation expands into her bestselling memoir Uncultured and her latest book, The Culting of America: What Makes a Cult and Why We Love Them, where she argues that cult-like dynamics aren't confined to fringe religious groups — they show up in mainstream American life, from the fervor surrounding MAGA to the devoted fandom of Taylor Swift's Swifties. Daniella breaks down the psychological playbook that makes people vulnerable to high-control groups and movements, and why understanding these patterns matters now more than ever.                  To  learn more please visit KnittingCultLady.com  https://knittingcultlady.com/?srsltid=AfmBOopEDL3oTQZzTZLgtQeKrxhVHATRYZk57ziRi7t64Qm56ZVGcwOZ Follow us at Reality Redemption on Facebook, Instagram, Threads, BlueSky and Tik Tok

She was born three generations into one of the most extreme cults in American history - where child abuse was doctrine and children were the product. She escaped at 15 with nothing.In this episode I sit down with Daniella Mestyanek Young, who went from a childhood in the Children of God cult to graduating valedictorian, becoming a U.S. Army intelligence officer stationed in Afghanistan, and still, through all of it, convinced she was fine.She wasn't. And the way she found that out is one of the most honest things I've heard on this show.We talk about the difference between running from trauma and running toward achievement, and why they can look identical from the outside. We get into how the happiest-looking children can be the most exploited, why cult leaders might believe their own lies, and the line that defined her entire childhood: "I was born a soldier."But underneath all of it, this conversation is about something much more universal. The trap of telling yourself you're fine, and fine, and fine, until you're not, and everything catches up at once.Daniella Mestyanek Young is a former Army captain, organizational psychologist, and author of Uncultured and The Culting of America. She writes and teaches under the name Knitting Cult Lady, helping people recognize the tactics used by cults, dictators, and abusive relationships, and is currently developing a musical based on her own upbringing.Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction: Child Performers and Trafficking(00:27) Meet Daniella & Trauma(01:36) Numbing and Acceptance(07:46) A Decade of Deconstruction(09:09) Inside Children of God(12:26) Thrown Into High School(15:36) Early Doubts and Escape(20:34) Hiding her Backstory(24:51) Performance Cult Exposed(28:01) Musical and New Language(38:16) Do Leaders Know?(41:59) Army as Another Cult(50:39) Knitting Cult Lady Mission(55:28) Peace and Advice(59:47) Truth and Where to Find Her(01:02:08) ClosingJoin the Move Your Mind Community:go.nickbracks.com/mymcommunityConnect with Nick:Instagram: https://instagram.com/nickbracksWebsite: http://nickbracks.comEmail: contact@nickbracks.comConnect with Daniella:https://knittingcultlady.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bobby, Eddie and Brandon Ray put their musical knowledge to the test by choosing their own teams of the greatest musicals ever—with no paper, no notes and plenty of questionable picks. They debate classics like The Phantom of the Opera, Hamilton and Grease, while Bobby shares his thoughts on Lin-Manuel Miranda and Brandon admits he has never seen a Broadway show. From famous productions to musicals they barely remember, it quickly becomes clear these guys may not be the most cultured group for the job. Watch The BobbyCast on Netflix! Follow on Instagram: @TheBobbyCast Follow on TikTok: @TheBobbyCastSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

June 12th, 1993 holds weight in Nigeria's recent political history. Moshood Kashimawo Olawale Abiola, won what was recorded as the fairest presidential election in Nigeria's history. 30 years later in February 2023, host Deji Osikoya, along with Nigerians across the world, witnessed one of the more compromised democratic presidential elections in the country's history. Joined by writer, media entrepreneur and analyst, Lanre Idowu, the two comb through archives in search of the hope we lost in 1993. This episode is a republication from our sister podcast, Uncultured.

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February has arrived and with it another MONTH OF PETE, the best month of the year since Pete gets to pick all the movies. As tradition, Pete has employed some backups to stave off the ire of Charlie and we welcome some of our bestest buddies in the whole crazy podcasting world, Steven and Leo of Spoils of Horror. Pete's action pick this year is Five Deadly Venoms (1978), the seminal pop culture phenomenon produced by the Shaw Brothers. Now, classic kung-fu isn't really Charlie's bag so it will be exciting to hear if it landed with him since most of February Pete picks tend to fall short or more accurately, plop off a rooftop in a stinky wet pile of goo. Uncultured swine. BTW, if you want to understand Pete's "bycocket" joke you'll need to listen to some of the early Spoils of Horror episodes. Which you should be doing anyways, we're just giving you extra incentive.

In this conversation, Daniella Mestyanek Young discusses her experiences growing up in a cult and her transition to military life. She explores the dynamics of cults, their recruitment tactics, and their impact on individuals and society. Daniella also reflects on the parallels between cult behavior and current political climates in America, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and understanding these patterns to protect oneself from manipulation.00:00 Introduction to Daniella Mesteneck Young02:58 Understanding Cult Dynamics05:55 Breaking Free from Cult Life08:57 Transitioning to Military Life12:02 Defining Cults and Their Impact15:00 Cults in American Politics17:53 The Spectrum of Cults and Gangs21:02 Recruitment Tactics of Cults24:11 Reflections on Authoritarian Control26:57 Conclusion and Future InsightsGuest Information Daniella Mestyanek Young Website: https://knittingcultlady.com/Get "Uncultured"Get "The Culting of America"We may earn an Amazon commission if you make a purchaseYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KnittingCultLadyFacebook https://www.facebook.com/daniella.claire/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/daniellamyoung_/?hl=enTik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@knitting.cult.lady Subscribe to Now I've Heard Everything on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify Leave a review and let us know your favorite childhood songs! Follow us on TikTok Instagram, and Blue Sky.

Most of us think we'd never fall for a cult. But toxic groups don't just exist on the fringe. They thrive in boardrooms, group chats, fitness classes, political rallies, religious groups, and corporate retreats—anywhere we seek identity, purpose, and belonging.The new book, "The Culting of America," cult survivor, scholar, and former Army intelligence officer Daniella Mestyanek Young—author of the bestselling memoir Uncultured looks to dismantle the illusion that cults are rare or easy to spot.

We're joined by Daniella Mestyanek Young, the author of Uncultured. She was born a third generation member of an influential family, within The Family International, better known as the Children of God cult. She escaped at fifteen, put herself through school, and graduated from college as valedictorian. Daniella joined the Army, became Captain, and she received the Presidential Volunteer Service Award. She was an Intelligence Officer in one of the Army's first Female Engagement Teams. In two tours and six years, she saw patterns in the military that were just like her experiences in the Children of God. Here are Daniella's 10 characteristics of a cult that we talk about: 1. Has a charismatic leader (and a skinny white woman) 2. A sacred assumption 3. The transcendental mission 4. Self-sacrifice of members 5. Limits access to the outside world 6. Distinguishable vernacular 7. Us versus them mentality 8. Exploits members' labor 9. High exit costs 10. Ends justify the means mentality Find Daniella online: https://twitter.com/daniellamyoung https://www.instagram.com/daniellamyoung_ https://www.tiktok.com/@daniellamestyanekyoung By Daniella's book UnCULTured https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781250280114 We're also excited to announce that our long promised merch is here!! We know it's tough sometimes to express your leftist feelings in public. Your ratty Che Guevara and CCCP t-shirts seem better left at home. Now you can fly your crypto-leftist flag and still be completely under the radar with our personal love letter to Juan José Arévalo, philosopher and socialist president of Guatemala, and the airline he nationalized. wetwired.printful.me/ Subscribe on Patreon to support making this show, get premium only episodes, and listen to our entire back catalog. patreon.com/wetwired

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Well folks, the end was nigh and now it's here.What a fun ride this has been. Whether you're just now watching or listening to us, been with us since the beginning (whoa, hell yeah, btw), we wanted to say THANK YOU from the bottom of our hearts for even wasting your time on our silly little podcast. If nothing else, this is a great time capsule to a very special time in human history, and expertly catalogues the growing friendship between two people.With this finale episode, we swung big and decided to talk about two movies: "Pee-wee's Big Adventure" and "A League of Their Own". While on the surface, their differences could not be more starkly apparent, there is one clear connection that eagle-eyed watchers of both films will know. We took that as a clear signal from the eons of time immemorial that we chose the correct two films to discuss, and that this was indeed the proper time to close this chapter of our lives.So take care of each other, show your favorite people your favorite things, and nerd out together. Also, it goes without saying: fuckicefreepalestinereleasetheepsteinlistandFDT.--We are Uncultured Universe - the podcast where we introduce movies, tv, music, and books to each other to get a little bit more cultured. Remember to like, review & subscribe!--Stay up to date on all new episodes here: https://linktr.ee/uncultureduniverse

Jesus Christ, it's Moses.We're getting biblical, folks! Strap in for a look into Joe's pick from his childhood, "The Prince of Egypt" from 1998. We step through what makes this movie so special to Joe and integral to his upbringing, how and why it won an Oscar, and ponder at what an alternative universe would look like if this movie out-performed "Shrek" (both concurrent projects from Dreamworks Studios).Next episode is IT, y'all. After 3 years, almost to the exact date, Uncultured Universe is closing up shop and moving onto other hobbies and pursuits. It's been a great ride, but all good things must come to an end. So with that, we'll be doing a rarified, never-before-seen-or-heard-of DOUBLE FEATURE episode where we'll look at two movies at the same time: Justin's pick "Pee-wee's Big Adventure" from 1985, and Joe's pick "A League of Their Own" from 1992. Do these two movies have more in common than you realize? Listen and find out.--We are Uncultured Universe - the podcast where we introduce movies, tv, music, and books to each other to get a little bit more cultured. Remember to like, review & subscribe!--Stay up to date on all new episodes here: https://linktr.ee/uncultureduniverse

In this empowering conversation, Lesley Logan welcomes back sex educator Dr. Celeste Holbrook to talk about her new book Missionary Position: A Slightly Irreverent Guide to Sex After Purity Culture. Together they unpack healing from harmful narratives, navigating seasons of change in your sex life, and discovering the ‘glittery middle,' where you get to define pleasure, intimacy, and authenticity on your own terms.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:How to let your sex life evolve with every stage of life.The five-year journey and setbacks behind Celeste's debut book.The four archetypes for healing and reclaiming sexual agency.Why faking orgasms is a “fawn response” and how to break the cycle.The freedom of defining your own sexual ethic in the “glittery middle”.Episode References/Links:Dr. Celeste Holbrook's Website - www.drcelesteholbrook.comDr. Celeste Holbrook's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drcelesteholbrookDr. Celeste Holbrook on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/DrCelesteHolbrookMissionary Position: A Slightly Irreverent Guide to Sex After Purity Culture by Dr. Celeste Holbrook - https://a.co/d/3UimUKxA Well-Trained Wife by Tia Levings - https://a.co/d/ibRaesYFourth Wing Series by Rebecca Yarros - https://a.co/d/7Qhgk2REp. 202: Jake Kelfer - https://beitpod.com/jakekelferEp. 265: Daniella Mestyanek Young - https://beitpod.com/daniellayoungGuest Bio:Dr. Celeste Holbrook is a sex educator, speaker, and small-town Texas horse girl who's on a mission to make conversations about sex less awkward and way more empowering. With a Ph.D. in Health Education from Texas Woman's University and a thriving virtual practice, Celeste helps people create lives filled with pleasure, connection, and confidence—starting in the bedroom. After years of struggling with pain and shame around sex, she set out to find answers no one else could give her—and ended up becoming the expert she needed. Today, she guides women toward pleasurable sex by helping them understand their bodies, claim their worth, and ask for what they want without apology. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! DEALS! DEALS! 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I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 1:02  Hey, Be It babe, okay, this might be the first guest that is coming on for a third appearance. I think she won. I could be wrong, but I think she won. Dr. Celeste Holbrook is back. She's back. We're gonna talk about a couple of things. We're gonna talk about sex, we're (inaudible) we're gonna talk about her book. We're gonna talk about the journey that one goes on to get their work out into this world. And so even if you are like, I don't want to talk about the sex part, like, well, we should talk about the sex part. That's actually what we should do. But I want you to hear this, because I think it's so easy to hear people on a podcast go, oh, it's so easy for them because they got on a podcast, like, it's so easy, and you don't hear all the doors that get shut all the time. And I also am excited for you to hear like there are people in this world who just want to help each other out, and I think we need evidence of that. And I'm super, super excited that I get to be a cheerleader for amazing humans in this world like that. When I think about my, like, genius zone or something like that. Like, sometimes I think it's that I just get to cheer on people who are doing hard things and go, I see you, and you're doing great. And I can't wait. I can't wait. So guys, I'm gonna stop this, because we're gonna get right into we get right into it. And if you have this is the first time you're hearing about Dr. Celeste Holbrook, I really encourage you to go back to the first two episodes we did together. Go do the oldest one, then the second one, because I think you'll get a full picture of everything. We talked about a lot of good stuff. So she's gonna change your life. All right, here she is. Lesley Logan 2:31  All right, all right. So you guys, we're just gonna get right into this episode. Dr. Celeste Holbrook is back. You guys, third time won't be the last time. I somehow have to have her on annually. I think, Celeste, can you tell everyone why you're back. Let's just get in. Let's just start there. Celeste Holbrook 2:46  Okay, so I'm so excited, I can't even, like, contain myself. So I'm back because I have a book out, and I have a book really, truly because of Lesley Logan, because I have tried to publish this book for so long with traditional publishing, and I just got closed door after closed door after closed door for a lot of different reasons, which maybe we do and don't go into, I don't know, but Lesley reached out to me and was like, Celeste, I have this company. They do professional publishing. They're really great, and I just latched onto it, and I did every single thing that they suggested, and it was such a beautiful experience. So the whole point of this is I have a book, and I have a book because of you, and I want to aggressively love you today for encouraging me to do this.Lesley Logan 3:38  I am taking all that love also like this podcast, is why you have it, because I met that guy, because I interviewed him. And I have to, like, I'm not even I'll have to go back to the archives to figure out how I got this person, but I interviewed him, and I'm like, I really like this person. Like, I think he's great. Like, I've written a book, and I would have loved his help. Then, because I met him and had him on the pod, we had three of our clients use him, so I got to see from different perspectives how it was so when, and here's the thing, you were always on my feed, like, the algorithm would always, like, send you, and I like, just love all your stuff. And then it, like, kind of stopped, because I don't know that's how the algorithm works. And I happened to look at your stories, it was your stories, I'm pretty sure, and you were sharing this thing. And I'm not normally someone who's like, let me go in on the six minutes of a story. But I was like, I'm procrastinating. I'm in and so I was like, wow, what perfect timing this was, because I could have easily missed that whole section. And so I just want to, I'm just so grateful for divine like, I think that, like, there's divine appointments and divine interventions in a non-church way, guys, but we're meant to be in each other's lives and this book. Okay, so I guess, in case people don't know who you are, maybe we should do a quick like, who are you? Because we have new listeners, right? Hi, new listeners. You're going to want to go back to the other two. We're going to link them in the show notes. But can you tell everyone who you are and what you rock at? Celeste Holbrook 4:57  Yes, absolutely. So my name is Dr. Celeste Holbrook, I am a sex educator, and I have a PhD in health behaviors with a postgraduate emphasis in sexual behaviors. So I help people, a lot of women and lots of couples, figure out how to make sex better, whether that is they are experiencing pain or they're experiencing shame from growing up in like, ultra religious household, or they just need, like, some help through menopause or through after having a baby or things like that. So I am your very practical sexual health help. That's what I do. Lesley Logan 5:38  I love it the practical because, you know, like, I will say, having lived in L.A. and going to different sex shops, you don't look like the person who works the sex shop. Celeste Holbrook 5:48  No, no. Lesley Logan 5:50  Not to like, like to stereotype. But there's a, there would be a type that, like, works at the sex shop, and it's not you.Celeste Holbrook 5:56  Yeah, no, it's not me. And I just want to be super accessible, because not everybody wants to, like, swing from the chandeliers all the time. You know, a lot of people are out there just struggling to find the time to connect. Like, I cannot tell you how many times I have had a conversation about what to do with the dog in your bedroom when you want to have sex so the dog's not looking over at you or jumping on the bed, or, like, these are the practical applications that we are talking about in sex education in my consult sessions.Lesley Logan 6:27  Yeah, well, and because, because I think everyone's just so overwhelmed, like I saw something, and someone's stories, and they're like, went to their friend, their niece's like, soccer game, and she's like, looking around just like, no wonder no one's having sex. Like everybody is at the soccer game and they're exhausted, and then get the soccer game they're fighting about to do or you forgot the thing. Like, no, no answer. But nobody wants to have sex after this. Celeste Holbrook 6:53  No, no. Why would you want to have sex after that? Exactly right. That's exactly right, yep. Lesley Logan 6:59  So, so I want to touch on, like, there's a lot of different chapters, and maybe this is something that your book covers, but like, there's, you know, I think when we're younger and like, it feels like it's easier to do things, maybe, and then you get older, and like, there's more responsibilities and there's more stuff to think about. And like, it becomes something that goes away, and then your hormones change. So, in your book, do you cover, like, the journeys that were all going on, or is it more specifically for people from the purity culture, like, what? What were you excited to write about?Celeste Holbrook 7:30  Sure. So the book is called, I have the manuscript and printed out right here. It's called Missionary Position: A Slightly Irreverent Guide to Sex After Purity Culture. So I do take the approach of, like you growing up in a purity culture background, in, like, a high demand religion background, evangelical culture, things like that. But the book is in four parts. So like a four-part guide to basically healing, and you can apply these steps to any issue you are having in sex. So, yes, I do talk quite a bit about the effects of purity culture and how to overcome those effects. But it can, you can apply it to, you know, the trauma you had from a sexual assault. You can apply it to just the doldrums of being married to the same old penis for like, 20 years or whatever, you know, like you can apply these steps to anybody. So basically, there's four steps, and I have made them into archetypal women. So your first step is your analyst. She's like, the nerd she's looking at, like, okay, what are we carrying around? What does your backpack look like that you're carrying around? Is it full of shame? Is it full of neglect? Is it full of fear? Like she's the analyst. Your second archetypal woman is your assassin. She's she is taking what the analyst has found, and she is just like, slicing through it, right? She's your assassin. She's your inner assasin. She's your deconstruction, basically. Your third archetypal woman is your healer. So after you've done the work of understanding what's in your backpack, slicing out what needs to go, then your healer starts helping you regenerate your ideas about sex through a gentle reeducation. So we're relearning about some things that maybe we have always thought one way about. Maybe we're relearning about the idea of virginity. We're relearning the I about masturbation. We're relearning about what great sex is, right? The healer is our gentle reeducation, and then our fourth archetypal women woman is our explorer, and she's like, gonna try some new things. She's gonna go to the sex toy store, she's going to touch herself in a new way, and maybe, if that's too much, maybe she's gonna try sex with the lights on, right. And so these are the four women. They represent four steps, and within each step there are some really practical things that you can do to help move you to the next step. So you can apply this to any issue you're having in sex, and get to the other side where you're trying, you're you're now exploring, you're trying new things.Lesley Logan 10:12  I that's a way. I mean, well, like an archetype. I like that. And I've, you've been on my mind a lot lately, because society is quite interesting right now, like the trad wife situation. I'm like, that looks really beautiful. Like, I would love, like, I have white countertops. I'd love them to clean all the time. I'm certainly not capable of doing it. But I'm like, I don't know that. I think they're doing a really good job marketing a beautiful esthetic without realizing, like, all the stuff that comes with that, you know, like, all the religious stuff that comes with that, and how that can harm how we feel about our bodies. And I, I like, was raised in purity culture, and I didn't think it affected me. I'm like, I'm good. But actually, no, actually, I remember, like, I remember, oh, it does, because you're like, you think that you're like, oh, I'm on that. I'm that doesn't affect that like you, you start to realize, even if you weren't raised in church, just the way that public school systems have appropriated some of the modesty rules, like what you're told, what you can wear to school and and how thick this the tank top strap can be, and you can't be disruptive, even though the boys' pants are halfway down their legs, and I'm looking at underwear all the time. You know, I think that even for people who weren't raised where they're told, like, your father has you until you're given away to someone else, there is some level where all of us were affected by like, don't be a distraction. Don't, make sure you don't wear that so you don't look like a certain like you're not attracting bad people, you know, that kind of a thing.Celeste Holbrook 11:44  Yeah, I totally agree, Lesley. I think that there's very few people in the United States that have a great, comprehensive, inclusive sex education. I think very few of us. I think this is changing, and hopefully with, you know, recycle breaking next and next generations, but American society in general wants to put sex on either end of a spectrum. We want to either like, don't think about it. Don't talk about it. This is not for you until you are reaching a certain age or marriage or whatever, and then on the other side is like, why aren't you liberated enough to have all to do all these things you know, like, so there's these two, like, ends of the spectrum, and all of us really live in the middle. Yeah, none of us is really on either side at all, but we but it like breaks America's brain to try and think about, like, living outside of one of those two spectrums. So I talk about in the book about the non, about the non-binary. We are not binary people. As far as what we want to do in our sex life, and figuring out, how do you live in the middle area, which we often call gray, but I call glitter. Yes, it's the most fabulous place to live is in the middle, in this glittery middle, where you get to define your own sex ethic based on your value system, on your intuition, on your sex education, and you get to decide what works best for you. And maybe that is boundaries around when you have sex awesome, as long as it's your choice that's amazing. And maybe that is opening your relationship up and trying swinging or whatever it is that's awesome as long as it's your decision and not one manipulated by society or cultural values or religious values.Lesley Logan 13:27  Yeah, I think that's, I think I like to think about that even this thing, it's, you're right, it's America, it's people like, I'm in Pilates industry. And I said something the other day where I was like, well, you can say that, but it doesn't like, there's also the idea that we could prepare people for an exercise, right? And this person, like, went off on me, and I was like, so you need to understand that what you're mad about me is what you're doing here. Second, Pilates is not black or white. It's not this or that. It's a lot of gray. It's a lot of glitter, like glitter. It's like, because our bodies are different and where we are in our practice, where we are in our life, maybe what season we're in, maybe you're in a season of young children, it's going to be very different what you're wanting and ready for, and have the capacity to take on versus they're teenagers and out of the house and really don't care where you are versus you don't have kids at all. Like, there's all these different seasons. And I think we are like, oh, this is how I've always liked it, so this is how I have to keep liking it. Celeste Holbrook 14:25  Yes, yes, that's so wise, Lesley, that's so wise. I think there are a lot of and we talked about this in our last on our last podcast together, a lot of the similarities between what happens in sex and what happens in like a Pilates, a workout space or Pilates space, as far as how we view our bodies and what we feel is like, right, or what we feel is appropriate, I guess, for our bodies like I should be wanting this, because that's what I did when I was 27 or I should be looking like this, because that's what I looked like when I was whatever, 30 or whatever. And I think there's lots of room to allow ourselves compassion to grow as we grow in our sex life, in our workouts and whatever, expecting your sex life to look the same when you are 20 and 30 and 50 and 70 is not helpful for you, and so allowing it to mature as you mature is the most helpful thing that you can do for yourself, I think, when, when it comes to your sex life. Lesley Logan 15:28  Yeah, we'll keep talking about this, it'll come up. But I do, I do want to go back to like, the journey of this book, because this book has been in you for a really long time. And I think whether or not people want to write a book, you can insert goal, whatever your goal is, because you we will all in trying to get something out into the world or get something that we desire done, hit roadblocks. So you hit some roadblocks. Can we talk about, how many years of roadblocks? Can we talk about what you like, what kind of roadblocks you were hitting and, like, how did you keep going? Because quite honestly, I'm surprised you even told the story, you know what I mean, like, I'm surprised you didn't go, okay, well, that's that, the door, the door has been slammed shut.Celeste Holbrook 16:12  Yeah, yeah. And I really appreciate you asking this, because I know sex is really fun to talk about, but this is, like, my personal, like, lifelong dream is to have a book, and it feels really, I feel really seen when you ask about the process of it, and when I think about the be it, you know, be it till you see it, bold, executable. I think I'm getting this right, intrinsic, targeted, so I think about my word for this year was bold. So that was like, my like, I gotta be more bold. I want to say what I want to say. I don't want to be making myself smaller anymore. So the story behind the book, I have always thought about writing a book. I myself am a slow reader. I don't read very fast, and I for a long, long time I thought I was dumb because I don't read very fast, which is silly when I think about it now, but all growing up, I was slower than all of my friends reading. It was frustrating to read. And I've just, I like, I was still a good student. I still did all of the things that I needed to do, but I just, I just took time. I just took more time to write, to read all of those things, and I think in part, that's what made me get a PhD, because I wanted to prove to myself that I wasn't dumb. Turns out, I'm not dumb. I just am. I need to go at my own pace. And so one of the things that you talk about a lot on the podcast is like, how do you prioritize yourself? I prioritize myself by allowing myself to go at my own pace, like I can read as slow as I need to read, I can answer emails as slow as I need to answer emails. It's frustrating to me and other people, but at the end of the day, like it, it's honestly who I am. I'm just considerate and slow and thoughtful, and I've learned to like that about myself instead of hate that about myself. So the idea of writing a book was really, like tantalizing to me, but I had a lot of insecurities about my ability to actually do it. I'd written a dissertation, which is I, in my opinion, harder because it's boring. Lesley Logan 18:19  Yeah, yeah, no, that's one of the reasons why I, like, stopped going to school. I was like, I can't write another boring paper.Celeste Holbrook 18:25  Oh, my God. Like, who's reading? Like, my mom didn't even read it. She's like, oh, congratulations. It's like, collecting dust, right? So I had done that, and so I thought, like, well, if I'd written a dissertation, it just take you just take a chunk at a time. I can surely write a book. So in 2000 and let's see 2016, Nate and I was like, Nate, I really want to write a book. I'm going to go to a writer's conference. So he's like, great, let's go. I was like, found one in Hawaii. He's like, even better, let's go.Lesley Logan 18:55  I love, I love when a goal and a tax write off can be in a place you want to go. Celeste Holbrook 19:01  That's right, that's exactly right. We ended up getting a tent. There's like, these glamping tents on Maui that you can get, and it's just, like, really fun. It's like, on the beach, but you still have, like, sort of a bathroom, you know. But so we're, like, we needed to do it on cheap, because we were kind of broke, like, got these glamping tents, and I went to these writers conference during the day, and Nate did whatever during the day was at this writing conference, and it was through Hay House, and there was a contest. So if you went to the writers conference and you wrote a proposal, you could enter it in, and they were going to pick three writers to to give a book deal to, I would, and this is me being so sure of myself. Like, yes, I've spent a lot of time feeling insecure that about my reading and writing. But for the most part, my whole life, I have been, like, with no good reason, confident. Like, I'm just like, I don't know, confident.Lesley Logan 19:53  Yeah. I mean, that's cool. That's a great that's so many people don't inherently have that. I. And like to kind of have that and then use it is a wonderful, it's a wonderful thing. Celeste Holbrook 20:06  Yeah, I just, I just was like, no, I'm gonna get this, you know, I'm gonna write this proposal. People are gonna love it. I'm gonna get this competition. Anyway, long story short, did not win any (inaudible). Lesley Logan 20:16  Oh, I thought this was going towards you won. Oh, my God, she won. It. (inaudible) second look. I automatically just assumed you're gonna slay. So I'm just like, she won.Celeste Holbrook 20:32  This is about closed doors, Lesley. Lesley Logan 20:34  Okay, that's true. That's true. Celeste Holbrook 20:36  Yes. So I did not win. I was for sure I was gonna win, did not win, not even, like, a hello, right? So I was like, oh, maybe I need to work a little harder. So I had this whole proposal. My book was like, looking back, I'm like, I'm so glad that I didn't win. My book was called Sexual Wealth. Lesley Logan 20:54  Oh, yeah, that's that's not you.Celeste Holbrook 20:57  It's not me. I was like, it was like, sex through finance, bro language or something. And I was just like, this is a terrible idea, but the spark was there, like, I really wanted to write a book. So that was 2016 I kind of held onto it, thought about it, kind of put it in a drawer for a while. In 2019 I got on a fairly large podcast with Jen Hatmaker, so she's an author, and she does a lot of work in, like the ex-evangelical space, or had started down that road. So I got on this podcast through just like pitching. I got on this podcast. It's pretty big, big podcast. And not long after that, a person from HarperCollins, like a division of Harper Collins, reached out to me and said, hey, have you ever considered writing a book? So the publisher reached out to me, which is very unusual. Lesley Logan 21:47  That is cool, though. Yes. Celeste Holbrook 21:49  Yeah, yeah, very unusual. Usually, you are pitching to publishers. So they heard me on the podcast, and they were like, hey, you know, we're interested in you submitting a proposal. I'm like, I'm freaking out. Like, this is so exciting, right? I realize I probably need representation, so I get a literary agent. I kind of shop around and get a literary agent. She's amazing, Rochelle, and I end up pitching my proposal. I worked it out, you know, I update it from sexual wealth to something else. I update it, I pitch it, and they're pretty slow. The publishing industry is so slow, you know this, you know this, so slow. Lesley Logan 22:24  I have watched too many of my friends write books. I'm so great. I'm proud of all of them. But also the ones that have gone traditional publishing, it is slow, like molasses moves faster, you guys. That's, you know, like, just don't bet on don't hold your breath.Celeste Holbrook 22:40  Oh my gosh, it's the slowest process of all time. And so I was like, okay, I, you know, they reached out to me. So I'm here in my very confident space, like, oh no, they're gonna laugh. Yeah, they're gonna choose. They reached out to me. Why wouldn't they choose me? At this point, I have like, 1500 followers. I have, like, I have no platform, right? I still have a very small platform, but a bunch of really engaged, lovely humans. So I'm, I'm fairly sure they're going to choose me. Eventually, months and months and months later, they get back to me and they're like, yes, we want it is literally like, I don't know, six months later, they're like, we want to offer you a contract, and we want to go under contract, just small. It's a $20,000 contract. They're gonna pay me 10,000 upfront, and then 10,000 the book publishes. I was like, great, I have to pay out my agent too. So I'm I'm coming home with like, $8,500. I was like, oh my gosh, this is amazing. Just to get one dime to like (inaudible).Lesley Logan 23:36  I mean that you got anything, because it's not, it's not always normal that even a first time writer gets anything until the book sells. So, yeah.Celeste Holbrook 23:44  Yes. So I was thrilled. I was thrilled. So I started writing my little heart out. They don't actually give me anything, a contract or anything, until my my my first draft is due. So I turned in my first draft and then they signed me. So I write the whole book without a contract. So submit the first draft. This is like March of 2020, so keep that in, put to context. Things that are. Lesley Logan 24:08  Things are things are going on. Celeste Holbrook 24:10  Things are going on. What's happening? So I get my first round of edits back. I'm still super excited. And then in July, my agent calls me, and she's like, I hate to have this conversation with you, but your book has been orphaned. Your editor left the company, and nobody else wants to pick it up. Lesley Logan 24:32  No, no. Celeste Holbrook 24:35  Yeah. So this is like, in the big scheme of things, like, it was the way it needed to work out, because they were already giving me feedback. It was the (inaudible) the imprint. And I'm not trying to slander any publishing industry, but this is just what happened to me, right? I was getting feedback of, like, oh, I don't know if you should, like, go that hard. Or I don't know if you should. You might alienate readers. If you talk about religion in this way, or, you know, this is you're gonna lose your Catholic audience. I'm like, I'm not trying to make the Catholics happy. I'm sorry. Lesley Logan 25:12  Yeah, yeah, yeah. When I interviewed, I don't know if it was in my interview, but when I was talking with Daniella Mestyanek Young who wrote Uncultured, she was only allowed to talk about three sexual like, misconduct, things that happened to her, and not even the worst ones. They actually, like, got rid, yes, yeah, they were like, and you can only talk like they she had to. And she's been very vocal about it. She's like, because she was talking about God and all these things and like, like, yeah, you can't really talk about that. And then she was like, you know, saying that she got raped in military. And they're like, so we don't like, maybe we just do only one of those, like, very and so, and she was with a publisher, and she got published, but she it's a watered down version of her story, because apparently readers wouldn't be able to handle the true thing. And it's like, you know, like, we're, how are we supposed to change the world? We don't know what's going on. So anyways, yeah. Celeste Holbrook 26:02  Yeah, I and I heard, I heard that kind of from different places, like, oh yeah. I had to, like, say this instead of that or whatever. And I'm like, yeah, that's a little bit happening to me. And I had written it with the understanding, like, this is for a still Christian audience. I understood this, it was with a Christian publisher. So I'm like, that's fine. Like, as a sex educator, you have to be able to be fluid enough to write to the audience that's in front of you. Like, when I go speak, sometimes I'm in front of really conservative audiences, and I adapt my language. That's fine. Like, that's okay to do. I'm still, I still feel helpful. I still feel like I'm pushing the envelope, but in a way that feels the most accessible for the audience in front of me. So I'm okay adjusting, but also like I didn't, I didn't want to water it down so much that I felt like it wasn't me. Lesley Logan 26:51  Yeah, yeah, yeah. Celeste Holbrook 26:53  So anyway, lost my contract in July 1st of 2020, which was and that whole thing, the whole next two years was really difficult. My husband is an emergency medicine physician and it was just a real hard time in the family, family. Lesley Logan 27:09  Yeah, no, lots, lots going on, lots of stress, lots of worry, lots. Yeah, you're afraid, yeah, you know. So like, you know. So we live where we live, and not everyone believe we're going through certain things. So that's even more stressful. Yeah. Oh, my God, that's a lot. The book, the book hit a wall.Celeste Holbrook 27:26  It hit it hit a wall, and probably had to find time. But I was, I was really, just really sad. Rochelle, my agent, was like, okay, we're just gonna, like, pick it back up. We have this proposal, we have a book written. It's, it'll be easier for another publisher to pick us up. And so we start, like, pitching to these other publishing companies. She has all these connections, you know, she's pitching, pitching, pitching, nothing's landing. I'm getting good feedback back. Like, you know, your platform's too small. That's fair. I started trying to grow it. You know, that's when Instagram was a little easier to grow. Now it's super hard to grow. But started growing it. I went from 1500 to 20,000 you know. Lesley Logan 28:04  That's a big deal, because other 20,000 like, those are not bought, you know, like, yeah.Celeste Holbrook 28:09  No, yeah. And I'm a hard follow. I get that. I have, like, you know, dildos in my videos. Like, I get that I'm not an easy follow. It's not and I'm, you know, Shadow banned all the time, and I get all these notifications that my stuff is not being shown to new audiences. I get that. I get that I'm a hard follow, but that's what publishers want. They want you to have a ready-to-buy platform, which I get. They're trying to make money. But I got a lot of that feedback. I got a lot of, ooh, this is a little it's a little too much for us as a Christian publisher. Like, okay, I get that. And then it was kind of like this line for non, non-Christian publishers, like, we don't really, we don't really talk about religion that much, and then we're not really talking about sex that much.Lesley Logan 29:00  Right? So you're like, too much of the different things for the different people, that's really rough, because it's like, we'll never be everything for anyone, but to not feel like you fit somewhere when you have something to say, that's hard.Celeste Holbrook 29:13  Yeah, yeah, it is really hard. And I think it's what people needed. It's because it's, again, it's the glitter, it's the middle. Like, yeah, I don't fit into either of these spaces. I'm kind of like exploring the middle, right? So that was the feedback I was getting. And finally, we did that for five years, from 2020 to 2025 October of 2025 Rochelle had a call with me, and she's like, honey, I have nowhere else to go. I'm sorry. This has to be the end of it. Bless her. She she did the best that she had, and I am forever grateful for her. But that was it, and that was that's where we're caught up to, where you saw my story, and I was like, just sharing with my audience like I had an unhappy ending, and I'm gonna sit in my sadness right now and just tell you, like life isn't always hunky dory for a sex educator, for anybody, for you for me, and this is where I am right now, and I'm pissed and I'm sad, and the end, right? And then sweet Lesley shows up in my DMs, and she's like, babe, I have this great idea for you. I'm like, okay, so she you send me this information for this company I have a call with, I think Jake who you interviewed. Lesley Logan 30:19  Yeah, Jake Kelfer. Yep, yep, yep. Celeste Holbrook 30:21  I have a call with Jake, and let me tell you, working with them has been and I'm not getting paid for any of this right to for BIB, but working with them has been so healing, so much agency in the process. I got to say exactly what I wanted to say. I got to go at the pace that I wanted to go, like, it was just incredible. Lesley Logan 30:44  So is this book, like a new book? It's not what you're pitching around. It's the glitter you really wanted to write. Celeste Holbrook 30:51  It's the glitter I really wanted to write. Totally different. Yeah.Lesley Logan 30:54  Yes, oh, I love that. And also, like, so, first of all, you guys, did you hear five years? Five years and now we're going on, you know, like, so, yeah, five years and then now big. But here's the other thing, like going through all of those things, you got feedback and made tweaks and did these things. So then when you're writing the book that we're gonna all get to read, I can't even wait to read it. It's the best version of a book that could ever be, because it's really not your first book you've written so manyCeleste Holbrook 31:24  You're so right. And over the course of the years, I changed, as we should. I hope I look back in five years and go like, yeah, I'm a different, new person from who wrote this book. But I was different, and I was more comfortable, like, straight up saying I'm not a Christian anymore. You know, I was more comfortable saying, like, is this a religious book? Yes, because we talk about religion. Do I identify as Christian? No, because of these reasons. Do I think we could learn some stuff from the Bible? Sure. Do I think we're going to talk about the Bible? Yes. I think we have to, because we're talking about purity culture. But I don't, you know, certainly not in 2020 was I willing to be like, yeah, I'm not a Christian, but so much stuff happened between 2020 and 2025, that just took me right on out.Lesley Logan 32:10  Yeah, yeah, no, I hear you on that. I and, you know, like, I have a brother in seminary school, so it's very interesting around here. And I had just said, you know, if, if, the if, all the Christians in the world actually did what Jesus said, like, we would have solved child child poverty and immigration and health care. And, you know, I've had a family member respond, well, if everyone just came to know, and I'm like, no, no, no, that's actually not what the Bible says. Here's the problem, I've read it so like I where I am in my life, which five years ago I was definitely not. Is just like I'm frustrated that a book, any book, has controlled people in such a way that's affecting even their sex lives, but also just lives, the lives of people who didn't even read the book. And so that's where, like, I get upset we don't have to have religious talk on this podcast. But that's that's just where, like, I'm coming from as a person with it. I'm, like, I have a really hard time with it, because it's not a loving world, and it with all the people who say they are, you know, believers. It should be. It should be a very loving world. So, so I think it's really I love. Thank you for sharing the story. This is great.Celeste Holbrook 33:30  Yeah, I totally. I just want to affirm what you're saying. Because I think the the main bottom line for me was it has harmed more than it has helped. Has it helped? Absolutely, there's some really beautiful ways in which Christianity has helped, but has it harmed more than it has helped? I absolutely believe, yes. And so for me, that was the final straw. Do I think Jesus was cool? Yeah. I think He was a radical non-white dude who did really amazing things that we can learn from, right? I believe he saved me from my sins. Not really, but, yeah, that's where I landed. And I was able to say this in in this book, which I would never have been able to do before. Lesley Logan 34:09  Well, also, thank you for sharing it with us, because I also just someone like to see it's a really interesting thing to say, like my husband and I, like go like to say out loud, it's very I don't want to speak for him, because, like, maybe it was a different but, like, it's really hard to say out loud when you're like, I don't believe anymore, and you're like, you know?Celeste Holbrook 34:29  Right, it feels really weird. Lesley Logan 34:31  Yeah, it does. But because it's such an identity that you're raised with, and I think going back to, like, that purity culture that your book is about, and by the way, everyone, like, I just want to say, like, even if you haven't been in that, it's, I think that reading about those things really helps me. It makes it helps make the world make sense to me. Like, I read Tia Levings book, A Well-Trained Wife, and I was like, oh, I get it now. I get why they're acting like this. I get why they're thinking this. Because, like, otherwise, you're like looking at people like they're aliens, and you're like, I don't understand. So I also think it can be really impactful to read just to understand, what are people thinking? What are they going through? Why is it harder for some people to have great sex, or want to have great sex, or feel comfortable having great sex, than for other people? Celeste Holbrook 35:18  Yeah, I totally agree with you. It's so fun, interesting. Most of couples that I talk to, most of them are straight couples, heterosexual couples, and a lot of times, the woman in the partnership will, you know, talk about sex in one way, and the man in the partnership will talk about sex in a different way. And just like, I just don't get it. If it feels good, why wouldn't you want to do it? And so when we kind of like, deconstruct and explain, like, well, she's been taught that sex is dangerous her whole life, and so her nervous system feels on alert, even when there are good things in the future to come with that sexual experience. So to have to overcome this idea of fear and danger in your nervous system, just to get to the beginning of arousal is a whole different ball game than you who starts at arousal, and because it feels very regulating, like, I lean into arousal because it feels regulating as a straight man who's raised in America, and so like, just being able to, like, if you're a dude who picks up this book, It might help you understand the women in your life a little bit better, even if they didn't grow up in purity culture. Most of us grew up with the idea that sex is going to harm us. Lesley Logan 36:28  Yeah, yes. Well, I mean, like, yeah, it's like, even if you weren't raised that way, you also, as a woman, were raised like, be fearful of any bad any man who's coming near you, walking up next to you, like, all these different things. And so it is very difficult to just like, let that go. It's not like, it's like, oh, it's Halloween. I can get Todd Kenny from a stranger now, like, this doesn't work like that. You know, like especially because it's like, your whole life these just little things that are being told. I think that's great for men to read. I think that's such a that's a, what a wonderful way to think about it, who this book could be helpful for? I want to take a brief detour, because you said something on your Instagram a bit ago that truly, like, blew my mind and also made so much sense, right? You said, if you're faking an orgasm, you're fawning, right? It's a fawn response. So can we talk about what a fawn response is? And that a little bit, because I think too many women do that. I only say that because I have friends who talk about it and I'm like, I mean, I just wouldn't just would be like, it's not working today, sir.Celeste Holbrook 37:38  Yes, yeah. I mean, I've done it when I was experiencing really painful sex when I first got married, because of vaginismus, because of purity culture, like I did anything to try and get out of the situation, right? So, so a fawn response is something that we do in response to something traumatic. When something traumatic happens, we go into fight, flight, freeze or on. So fawn is I'm pleasing you know this, this circumstance or person in my life, so there are no negative consequences, all right. So when we fake orgasms, and a lot of women have a lot of guilt around doing this, and this is why I posted that, because I want you to feel not guilty about this. I don't want you to do it forever, but I want you to understand why you're doing this. We fawn response an orgasm when we feel overwhelming pressure to have an orgasm when we feel overwhelming pressure to have an orgasm, it's coming from a fragile man who cannot handle or has put too much value on your ability to come as a validation for his ability to be great, right? I put too much pressure on your ability to be to come is a validation of my ability to be good or great. So part of the work has to become men saying like my validation is not wrapped up in her ability to come, without saying, I still can't give her pleasure. It's kind of, it's, it's, it's nuanced, but I really want women to understand when you're fawning, when you're faking an orgasm, you are essentially doing harm reduction. I don't want the negative consequences of his fragility, so I will fake it so I don't have to deal with that. That is easier for me. That is harm reduction.Lesley Logan 39:47  Right, right, right. And one would hope that a conversation or few could be had, like, here's what's going on and here's how I don't want you to feel and here like, yeah, that's probably where you come in. Celeste Holbrook 40:01  Yes, yeah. It's a really delicate situation. I do have lots of times people come in and the female, the woman in the partnership, will be like, hey, you know, this is what's going on, and this is why I want us together to come but to sessions, but like, I don't know how to tell him, like, it's been years and I've been faking it for years, right? Okay, no problem. We don't have to. I don't believe full transparency is always kind. I believe in honesty. I don't necessarily believe in full transparency. Like, you can, you can be really unkind with full transparency, but you can still be honest. Like, hey, I really want to experience a little bit more sensation when we have sex. Can we work on some new techniques? Can I show you how I masturbate? Can we make it slower so I can feel something different? I really want to make my orgasm stronger, right? So we can be clear with what we want going forward without being like, you know what? I faked it for the last 12 years, right? Because that's on you for not for not saying something as well. Lesley Logan 41:08  Yeah? Because that doesn't like, it can only be, it's not anyone's fault. But also, like, they can't change if they don't know, yeah. Oh, you're so brilliant. You're so amazing. Wait, when is the book coming out? When do I get to read it? When can I preorder, like.Celeste Holbrook 41:23  You are so cute. So it'll by the time this drops, it'll already be out, and we'll send links to to upload it, but it comes out on June 10th and so it's right around the corner. Lesley Logan 41:32  Okay, well, I'm gonna pre I'm gonna pre order. I gotta or I'll order on June 10th. So we can make you a number one, Bestselling Author. We get whatever we get to do, so I can write my authenticated review. After buying it, all the things I can't wait. I'll take it with me on tour.Celeste Holbrook 41:49  Thank you. I'm so like, I just like, I'm cheesing so hard because I'm so excited about it. I reread it again this morning, just like as a skim to look at all the layout on the pages. And I'm just so proud of it. I'm so proud of it, like it finally is here.Lesley Logan 42:07  I have so many chills. I'm gonna cry. Okay, we're gonna take a brief break. We're gonna find out how people can find you, follow you and work with you. Celeste Holbrook 42:14  Okay. Lesley Logan 42:15  All right, Dr. Celeste Holbrook, where do you hang out? You said Instagram. Is there anywhere else? What links? What input handles? Where can they go to buy the book is it on your website, all the things.Celeste Holbrook 42:25  Yes, the book is on the website, but you can buy it the most easily on Amazon. If you do, please leave a review that would be really helpful. And you can go to my website to get into Pleasure Club. That's my monthly subscription where we have a sex ed session every month and a book club session every month we flip between fiction and nonfiction books, which is really, really fun. Lesley Logan 42:44  Oh, fun. I know Brad and I got into the, of course, like everybody in the world, we got into the the dragon situation, yeah. Okay, every. Celeste Holbrook 42:52  Fourth wing? Lesley Logan 42:53  Yeah, yes. Fourth wing, the second one, the third one. You guys, we actually reread the first and second one to listen to the third one, we're going to go back through all three. Highly recommend it with your, with your partner. I think it's a great she writes good sex stories. They don't it's not super cheesy. So I really like them. Celeste Holbrook 43:13  I love that. I think this revolution. I mean, people have been reading Roman ensembles forever, but I think it's really healing. I actually wrote about this in my newsletter this week. Reading sex scenes through a female lens is really, really healing and really helpful, because it it gives you the confidence to be like, oh, I can ask for that, or I can wait for that, or I can ask to slow down or speed up, or whatever, and I can expect somebody to listen and garner consent and all of those things. So reading sex scenes through the female lens or listening to them, I think, is very, very helpful. Celeste Holbrook 43:46  Yeah, yeah. Anyways, I got distracted from your book club. So what's your website again? What's your handle? Celeste Holbrook 43:53  So you can find me at Dr. Celeste Holbrook on Instagram, on and on YouTube, and my web, my website. drcelesteholbrook.com. I just had like a whole mind blowing, like I was thinking about sex scenes written through the female Iens and I couldn't I couldn't go back. Yeah.? So, drcelesteholdbrook is where you can find me almost anywhere. Dr Celeste Holbrook. Lesley Logan 44:14  Perfect, yeah. Sorry, I have an ADHD brain. Lesley Logan 44:16  I love it. I love it. Lesley Logan 44:18  Bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted steps people can take to be it till they see it. What do you have for us this time? Celeste Holbrook 44:23  Oh, well, something we talked about already earlier. But the way that I am best executable is actually just to go at my own pace, even though it's slow.Lesley Logan 44:32  Yeah. Oh, I love that. I really do love that. And I also, you mentioned, like, the prioritizing of self. That's one of the ways you did it. I wanted to acknowledge like when you sat in your car and you shared that something had come to an end, that is also a way of prioritizing yourself, because you're feeling your feelings, and you're also letting people know that you're feeling these feelings, like we don't have to, like pretend around people, so just thank you for being you, and always for, you are always in the word gets misused, but you are so authentic and so authentic and just, I really feel like I've it's been so fun over the past five years to watch you grow with what you're doing and how you're educating people and how you're supporting people. And so I'm just so grateful to be on your journey. I can't wait to read your book. I'm so stoked for you. This is the coolest thing. And and you guys, how are you gonna use these tips in your life? Please tag Dr. Celeste Holbrook, send this to a friend. Here is the deal, not all friendships talk about sex, so one of the things you can do is just send the podcast or the book. You don't have to have the if you're not there yet, that's okay. But I think like, the more, the more women hear about all these different things that could be glitter, the more life we're living and the more fun we're having, the more we feel seen. So just thank you so much for being you, Dr. Celeste Holbrook.Celeste Holbrook 45:53  Lesley, you are the reason this book exists. I cannot thank you enough. Thank you so much for having me in your life and on your podcast. And someday, someday we will hug each other in real life.Lesley Logan 46:03  Yeah, yeah, yeah. We will. It'll happen. I think this winter tour, I feel it in me. All right, you guys, you know what to do. Until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 46:12  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. 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GET OVER HERE!We got another 30 year old classic coming in hot - this time with the 1995 cult classic "Mortal Kombat." Based on the deeply popular and long-lasting video game series, this movie capstones the Justin-loves-karate-fighting-movies Trilogy with an enigmatic bang. Filled with super rad fight scenes, practical sets and backdrops, this movie only comes up short with Joe's sentiment of "there's literally no other way to do this movie BUT to do it silly." Always a good time when the uncultured enjoys the flick.Join us next time for our third-to-last episode EVER with Joe's pick, "Prince of Egypt."--We are Uncultured Universe - the podcast where we introduce movies, tv, music, and books to each other to get a little bit more cultured. Remember to like, review & subscribe!--Stay up to date on all new episodes here: https://linktr.ee/uncultureduniverse

Oh happy day!We're coming back to the convent and doing our first ever sequel to an episode we've covered previously with "Sister Act 2: Back in the Habit" from 1993. Another iconic flick in the repertoire, which brings back the infectious buzz of Whoopi Goldberg, and that classic early 1990's feel-good atmosphere. While still a good time, filled with memorable performances, musical numbers, and copious amounts of montages, this movie feels more made-for-tv and somewhat trope-y at times. But that was the 90's man!Join us next time when we complete the Justin-Ninja-Karate trilogy (previous installments include Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and Mighty Morphin Power Rangers: The Movie!) with another 30 year old cult classic: 1995's "Mortal Kombat" - Hi-yah!--We are Uncultured Universe - the podcast where we introduce movies, tv, music, and books to each other to get a little bit more cultured. Remember to like, review & subscribe!--Stay up to date on all new episodes here: https://linktr.ee/uncultureduniverse

Dave recaps his LA trip, featuring improvised foie gras torching, duck breast mayhem, and an under-equipped kitchen in the Hollywood Hills. Back in the studio, the crew debates the social status of ketchup, and builds a functional model for a Kai Ten–style cheese and meat restaurant, complete with rotating washed rinds, seasonal breads, and curated condiment plates. Plus, advice on reheating sous vide pork chops without ruining them, the rediscovery of a molasses rye cookie, and a PSA for money people who show up late with menu feedback. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode 201 - Aug. 5th, 2025 - Episode 200  - Violations Counter - DJ Intence - 0 x Walt - 10 x Ceddy - 14  - Gilbert Arenas & The Feds with Illegal Gambling  - Man arrested in Benton, AK for cologne after mistaken it for drugs (The story of Kapil Raghu)   - James Howells update on Lost Hard Drive  - Why was Gargoyles (TV series) cancelled? 90s Cartoons in Review  - Manhattan Shooting in Midtown Manhattan (The Shane Tamura Story)  - UK Rap vs USA Rap (Joyner Locus vs Skepta)  - NYPD rookie cop stole from Wells Fargo accounts  - Donald Trump job reports & UnCultured news  - Texas Democrat leaves the state to block the vote for Gerrymandering within the state  - Sade Robinson's murderer gets Life in PRISON (Maxwell Anderson) - Wise Guy's Segment - The Shannon Sharpe Settlement  - Wise Guy's Segment - Coach Prime Bladder Cancer  - Wise Guy's Segment - @Jennaske exposing about female's going to Dubai 

I'm morphin here!Take a trip to 30 years ago, nearly to the day, when Mighty Morphin Power Rangers: The Movie first hit the big screen! Justin recounts his memories of that magical time that was the mid 90's. Karate was everywhere, and so were the Rangers. The boys discuss the ins and outs of what this meant for kids growing up at the time, and how it affected their play. We also finally get to find out what Ranger is best suited for Joe!Just us next time, when we don our habits (again!) with "Sister Act 2: Back in the Habit!--We are Uncultured Universe - the podcast where we introduce movies, tv, music, and books to each other to get a little bit more cultured. Remember to like, review & subscribe!--Stay up to date on all new episodes here: https://linktr.ee/uncultureduniverse

Closing out Pride Month™ 3 days late. How queer.We take on Joe's pick for the month, 1992's "Sister Act" starring Whoopi Goldberg, and boy what a wave of nostalgia across the board. This flick is like a warm hug, welcoming you back to simpler times. A tight, albeit contrived, classic 90's plot, powerful performances, and memorable musical numbers - this movie has it all. Whoopi shines with her insanely infectious allure, and is perfectly complimented by Maggie Smith, Kathy Najimy, and Wendy Makkena. So kick back with a can of Surge, snack on some Dunkaroos, and enjoy this perfect 90's capsule of a film with us!Next time we're back to a Justin pick, celebrating the 30th anniversary of "Mighty Morphin Power Rangers: The Movie"!--We are Uncultured Universe - the podcast where we introduce movies, tv, music, and books to each other to get a little bit more cultured. Remember to like, review & subscribe!--Stay up to date on all new episodes here: https://linktr.ee/uncultureduniverse

We're back bitches! And just in time for Pride Month™After a brief hiatus, the boys join forces again to look at a beloved flick from Justin than Joe has never seen before: Interview With the Vampire! A thrilling, deep commentary on queer relationships, exploration, and defining one's "otherness" are the cornerstones of this peak 90's movie. Heralded by Hollywood heavy hitters Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise, this piece of cinema unapologetically leans into Anne Rice's homoerotic overtones much to the delight of many viewers. Without a doubt, consider this a gay/bi-panic inducing flick.Next up is Joe's pick for Justin, the 1992 comedy classic "Sister Act"!--We are Uncultured Universe - the podcast where we introduce movies, tv, music, and books to each other to get a little bit more cultured. Remember to like, review & subscribe!--Stay up to date on all new episodes here: https://linktr.ee/uncultureduniverse

On today's P1 Podcast, Baby James joins the party and dissapoints us all with the severe lack of movies that he has seen

The first entry into our Batshit Crazy mini series, 2016's "The Handmaiden" is a South Korean psychological erotic thriller from Park Chan-wook, and boy does it deliver on assaulting the senses. The mind reels, the loins tingle, and the ears are bombarded by heaps of wet, writhing soundscapes.The boys discuss what makes this movie a true batshit entry; from it's non-linear storytelling devices, to it's downright over-the-top use of sensual erotica, it will get it's hooks in to take you on a journey and talk you through it. Park Chan-wook obviously loves looking at the uglier side of humanity (re: The Vengence Trilogy), and The Handmaiden is no different. Familial wickedness, the art of deception, and what it means to break generational curses and taboos all play a part in this film.Tune in next time where we look at Justin's Batshit Crazy submission: 1985's "Pee-wee's Big Adventure"!--We are Uncultured Universe - the podcast where we introduce movies, tv, music, and books to each other to get a little bit more cultured. Remember to like, review & subscribe!--Stay up to date on all new episodes here: https://linktr.ee/uncultureduniverse

America has many problems, much of which stems from the multicultural nature of the nation. Not so much the incompatibility of cultures, but the weaponizing of differences, elevation of some over others, and discrimination still of those considered lesser. Those upset that Kash Patel would put his hand on the Bhagavad Gita, or that Hindus would be elected to congress, or that the VP's wife is Hindu, proves the extreme left correct in their accusations against the extreme right of having fear over different cultures and religions. However, the left's complaining about ‘who will pick the food' or ‘mow my lawn' if we deport illegals shows what nasty and vile creatures these people are too. The bottom line is the United States was founded in part because of religious persecution, and on principles of protection for all religions - particularly those that uphold a higher authority. The issue therefore should not be Kash putting his hand on the Hindu scripture so much as it should be his prioritizing of Israel first, which almost guarantees the 911 and Epstein files will remain sealed or heavily blackened. Likewise, it is odd that a dark skinned Hindu would not be praised by the racially charged political left. This proves that the US has no issue inherently with differences, but that those things are weaponized when necessary to advance agendas hostile to the well being of Americans. The same can be said about Muslims who every 4 years become a protected class or a lesser class. The move to rename and rewrite history is still ongoing in the US, too, as part of this weaponization of culture. In Tucson, Christopher Columbus Park has been renamed after an Indigenous leader. Online there is also a strange rewriting of world history, where Africans are said to be the founders of all civilizations and countries, from Ireland and Finland to Japan and Australia. This agenda is in full swing at Ubisoft where their new Assassin Creed Shadows game, based in Japan, has been delayed, protested against, etc., because it depicts highly insulting themes to the Japanese. Now, after a promotional video of the game was released of a black samurai killing Japanese worshipers at the Itate Hyozu Shrine, that shrine and possibly the Association of Shinto Shrines, is seeking legal recourse against Ubisoft for their blatant cultural insensitivity and provocation. -FREE ARCHIVE (w. ads)SUBSCRIPTION ARCHIVEX / TWITTER FACEBOOKWEBSITECashApp: $rdgable EMAIL: rdgable@yahoo.com / TSTRadio@protonmail.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/tst-radio--5328407/support.

Put simply: Bluey goes hard.It's 2025 and we're back, baby! We come out swinging for the fences as we discuss the wildly successful children's show “Bluey.” Also this episode we welcome our very first Uncultured guest and our friend, Matt Hobbs of Puppy Songs. The three-way chat cast a good spectrum of familiarity with Bluey, from the wholly initiated to the brand new.We watched seven key Bluey episodes that demonstrate the brilliance of the show in terms of concise storytelling and flawless cinematic execution. “Magic Xylophone”, “Camping”, “Dance Mode”, “Sleepytime”, “Grandad”, “Rain”, and “Space.” Each episode has their own lesson and iconic moment that accurately encapsulates what Bluey is all about: radical empathy and earnest authenticity coupled with learning through play makes for lasting, pure television magic.Buckle up for next month when we come at you with our most batshit insane films: “The Handmaiden” picked by Joe, and “Pee-Wee's Big Adventure” picked by Justin.--We are Uncultured Universe - the podcast where we introduce movies, tv, music, and books to each other to get a little bit more cultured. Remember to like, review & subscribe!--Stay up to date on all new episodes here: https://linktr.ee/uncultureduniverse

"What a little name for such a person." We're back, bitches! After a small hiatus, we return with Joe's long-time pick "Little Women" from 1994. Justin has never seen it, until now! Somewhat appropriate for this time of year, "Little Women" is the perfect feel good/feel sad movie just in time for the Xmas season. The themes of questioning your place in the world, as well as giving the patriarchy a hearty and enthusiastic bucking, makes this movie highly relevant in today's society. The performances are what really stand out in this flick. All of the eponymous tiny ladies are firing on all cylinders to create a truly memorable and strong film that stands the test of time. Stay tuned for a future episode where we view the 2019 version and compare notes! We'll see you in 2025 where we'll explore more sequels, sister-films, and follow ups, as well as expanding our palette into more TV shows and music! -- We are Uncultured Universe - the podcast where two friends show each other movies, tv, music, or anything else to get a little more cultured. Remember to like, review & subscribe! -- Stay up to date on all new episodes here: https://linktr.ee/uncultureduniverse Check us out and follow on Instagram @‌uncultureduniverse

Send us a textHave you considered that a narcissistically abusive relationship is actually a cult of two?Daniella Mestyanek-Young, author of Uncultured and expert in cult dynamics, joins us to discuss the similarities between cult leaders and narcissists.Be sure to follow Daniella!TikTok - @knittingcultladyWebsite: Uncultureyourself.comAnd get a copy of her book, Uncultured: https://amzn.to/3CDhFcYCould you be in a coercively controlling relationship? In this week's podcast extra, Daniella tackles how to wake up to toxic and covert manipulation and control strategies.Get immediate access to this exclusive interview when you subscribe to this podcast's weekly Substack newsletter. All Podcast Extra interviews are embedded inside each weekly publication.Subscribe here: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuseDid you know you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix? For only $5/month, sign up for weekly podcast extras!  Join me on Substack! Follow Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ Website: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.As an Amazon affiliate, a commission is earned from qualifying purchases.Support the show

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We gonna learns yall today. Animation is not just for the kiddos but for everyone. So lets expand yall horizons as we put yall on our favorie animated shows. Let us know if yall have seen any or which ones yall want to check out. Check out 21 Blackjack on Webtoons if you haven't had the chance. Leave a like, subscribe , and share! Follow the Podcast on Youtube, Tiktok, IG, and Twitter @bmorenerdy Follow your host @ga1axygr3g @always_the_diva @honestyl_heed And remember to Be More Nerds!

"Life is like a box of chocolates..."To celebrate our 50th episode (as well as the podcast's 2nd birthday) we've decided to temporarily throw out the rules and do something a little different. This episode, we look at Justin's favorite movie of all time, and Joe has also seen it: Forrest Gump from 1994!No frills, no muss, no fuss. Just a great discussion about why the movie Forrest Gump rules. This film has it all: deep social commentary, romance, complex human emotion on display, harsh realities of war, but most importantly this movie has heart. Tom Hanks is obviously at the center of that heart, but his costars Robin Wright, Sally Field, and Gary Sinise are absolute triumphs in their roles that support and don't outshine the others.We'll come back to our Uncultured Culture Club soon with Joe's immense and hard-to-tackle pick, the entire Lord of the Rings Extended Editions! But first, we're going to jump into October looking at a couple Winona Ryder centric films starting with a selection from Joe, 1994's "Little Women"!--We are Uncultured Universe - the podcast where two friends show each other movies, tv, music, or anything else to get a little more cultured. Remember to like, review & subscribe!--Stay up to date on all new episodes here: https://linktr.ee/uncultureduniverseCheck us out and follow on Instagram @‌uncultureduniverse

Daniella Mestyanek (she/her) Young, scholar of cults, extreme groups and extremely bad leadership. Daniella is the author of Uncultured, a critically acclaimed memoir of growing up in the children of god cult and then going into the cult of US Army. Daniella holds a masters in organizational psychology from Harvard, and is working on a second book called The Culting of America In this episode we talk about: Children of God Cult Joining and leaving the US Army Control, sexual assault, and preparation for the apocalypse  Wearing wacky clothes as a form of expression Finding joy and happiness after deconstruction Connect with Daniella: Instagram Listen to her TedTalk Join her Deconstruction Book Club Buy and autographed copy of her book TikTok Some delightfully disrespectful merch  Connect with Maggie: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/hello_deconstructionists/⁠ Email: ⁠hello.decons@gmail.com⁠ Discord Server: ⁠https://discord.gg/C3DUZdF3HJ⁠  Visit ⁠dauntless.fm⁠ for more content Learn more about Amy's music: Website: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.amyazzara.com/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Foray Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.foraymusic.com/⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/amyazzara/⁠⁠ This is a Dauntless Media Collective Podcast. Visit dauntless.fm for more content.

Starting today, Genna is cheating - or at least, Maria feels that she is. Upon hearing Fall Out Boy's reimagination of Billy Joel's original song, 'We Didn't Start the Fire,' Gen realized that she was unfamiliar with many of the topics FOB was singing about. Is she simply ignorant? Uncultured? Why doesn't she know so many of these references? That is when she decided to use this opportunity to explore a whole pool of episode topics, pulling directly from the song's lyrics. Her first topic in her We Didn't Start the Fire series is the very first line of the song; 90's cartoon superhero and environmental activist - Captain Planet! While he may possess multiple super abilities, the power is most certainly yours! Just watch out for spitballs and name-calling. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/wonderbingepod/message

DANIELLA MESTYANEK YOUNG is a scholar of cults and extreme groups, and extremely bad leadership, and the author of the critically acclaimed memoir UNCULTURED. Daniella was raised in the religious sex cult, The Children of God. She later served as an intelligence officer for the US Army, making the rank of Captain, and became one of the first women in US Army history to conduct deliberate ground combat operations when she volunteered to serve on a Female Engagement Team, and received the Presidential Volunteer Service Award. TW: Please listen at your own discretion. Uncultured: https://www.amazon.com/Uncultured-Memoir-Daniella-Mestyanek-Young/dp/1250280117/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&&qid=1667828324&&sr=8-1 UnAmerican: https://www.patreon.com/GroupBehaviorGal/shop/unamerican-video-book-memoir-217440?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=productshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Twitter: @daniellamyoung TikTok: @daniellamestyanekyoung Instagram: @_daniellamyoung https://www.uncultureyourself.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuFRBZ2w3QsYs7Km69keHsg

We have all heard of cults, but what is a cult? What characteristics qualify an organization as a cult? This is chapter one of the cult chronicles. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cult   https://janjalalich.com/help/characteristics-associated-with-cults/   Uncultured by Daniella Mestyanek Young   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hm6heglECcI

Soon this podcast will be  joining the pop culture scene. In this recording, we shake off the cobwebs, trial some segments and a new recording set up. Each future episode will be a centered around a movie, album, tv show, etc.. On February 1st , we will bring our first real episode discussing the movie Spider-Man Across the Spiderverse. Until then, this is all we have to offer. Information:You can follow this podcast on Twitter @impossible_podEmail: listenimpossible@gmail.comWebsite: Listen Impossible (buzzsprout.com)Try and give this podcast five stars. We dare you. 

En este episodio de Daniel Necesita que lo Escuchen, exploramos las impactantes realidades de los cultos notorios, evidenciando la deificación de la idiosincrasia y cómo los adeptos son atrapados en estas organizaciones. Destacamos el emocionante relato de Daniela Mestyanek Young, autora del libro 'Uncultured', quien comparte su vida dentro de la secta 'Children of God', su fuga a los 15 años, y cómo su experiencia en en culto se reflejó en su tiempo en el ejército. Daniela también nos regala su perspectiva sobre superar su trauma a través de la comedia y la crianza multicultural y multilingüe de su hija. No olvides suscribirte para acceder a contenido exclusivo 0:00 DNQL Final YT 06:27 El Libro 25:36 ESTÁ MAL CAPITALIZAR? 37:41 SU MAMÁ QUERÍA QUE ELLA SALIERA DEL CULTO 42:51 Cómo son los inicios dentro de un culto? 52:57 su familia sigue en el culto? 01:08:13 extranjera en su propio país 01:15:40 el ABC de los cultos --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/daniel-martinez653/message

Tyler asks the boys to rank their top sports moments of 2023 (2:56), Alex breaks down the latest from the NBA (12:12), and Tradon gives us his NHL "holy puck" topics of the week (49:56).

Ever wonder about basic training in the military? What about how the BITE Model of Authoritarian Control applies to military personnel? With so many veterans who have returned to society, many do not seem to have been given the necessary psychological support to integrate and thrive. There is large amounts of active trauma as well as a high suicide rate. In 2022, Daniella Mestyanek Young acclaimed memoir Uncultured was published. It delved into being born into the Children of God sex cult, escaping, enlisting in officer's training and her experiences as one of the first women to be in active combat as an Army Captain in the Intelligence Corps in Afghanistan. Young has since earned her Master's in Industrial and Organizational Psychology from the Harvard Extension School and has been unpacking her life experiences in very important ways for people to understand. Join me for this fascinating and disturbing interview. Learn more about Steven Hassan and Freedom of Mind Resource Center. Visit freedomofmind.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TWiM explains how phages avoid tRNA-targeting host defenses, and discovery of a new antibiotic from an uncultured bacterium that binds to an immutable target. Hosts: Vincent Racaniello, Michael Schmidt, and Petra Levin, Become a patron of TWiM. Links for this episode Phages avoid tRNA-targeting host defenses (eLife) Sea phages Actinobacteriophage database New antibiotic from uncultured bacterium (bioRxiv) The age of infection (For Policy) Killing bacteria by teixobactin (Nature) Take the TWiM Listener survey! Send your microbiology questions and comments (email or recorded audio) to twim@microbe.tv

Today's episode is Sponsored by BetterHelp. We're back for part 2 of our interview with Daniella Mestyanek Young, the badass author of Uncultured: a Memoir. In her book, Young gets into the nitty gritty of growing up in the Children of God cult, now known as “The Family International,” with their horrifying pedophilic practice called “Law of Love.” In part 2, we dive deeper into Young's time as a Captain in the US Army—a role that threw Young back into the trenches of misogynist and coercive abuse resembling the neglect she survived in her childhood.  How did military personnel respond to Young's whistleblowing? What did she endure during her hazing as a new soldier?  And why did another captain tell her she'd “probably get raped” on a certain military deployment?  Listen to find out—and make sure to catch part 1 first!  To book Daniella Mestyanek Young as a keynote speaker on topics of group behavior and where we see cultic practices creep into less obvious groups, visit Macmillan Speakers' Bureau Daniella's website Daniella's TikTok Daniella's Instagram Daniella's Twitter Please note, this series includes details of sexual abuse. Listener discretion is strongly advised. If you, or someone who know, is a survivor of sexual assault, abuse, grooming, child abuse, or human trafficking, RAINN's National Sexual Assault Hotline offers support at 800.656.HOPE (4673). Also… Hear Ye, Hear Ye: The views and opinions expressed on A Little Bit Culty do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything. Nobody's mad at you, just don't be a culty fuckwad. Other Links: Check out our lovely sponsors Join ‘A Little Bit Culty' on Patreon Get poppin' fresh ALBC Swag Support the pod and smash this link Cult awareness and recovery resources CREDITS:  Executive Producers: Sarah Edmondson & Anthony Ames Production Partner: Citizens of Sound Producer: Will Retherford Senior Producer: Jess Tardy Writer: Mathias Rosenzweig Theme Song: “Cultivated” by Jon Bryant co-written with Nygel Asselin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is Sponsored by BetterHelp. If hell is real, there is perhaps no circle of it as harrowing nor vile as the experience of growing up in the Children of God cult. Still active under the name “The Family International,” the group is known for being a real-life manifestation of the shittiest of shitty macabre practices, such as child sexual abuse involving their “Law of Love,”—a mandate for females of all ages to show Jesus their love by letting men straight up rape them.  One would hope that growing up in COG would be the last coercive, abusive, and negligent experience for today's guest, Daniella Mestyanek Young, who is an American author, keynote speaker, and previous Captain in the US Army. One would also hope for ponies and rainbows and a bigger tax return this year but HEY, life's no cake walk. On today's episode, Young discusses her book Uncultured: a Memoir, wherein she details her cult-riddled childhood and how, shockingly, the US Army reflected comparable practices.  But how? Take a listen to part 1 of our interview with Daniella, with part 2 coming out next week.  To book Daniella Mestyanek Young as a keynote speaker on topics of group behavior and where we see cultic practices creep into less obvious groups, visit Macmillan Speakers' Bureau Daniella's website Daniella's TikTok Daniella's Instagram Daniella's Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Daniella Mestyanek Young (@daniellamyoung) is a survivor of the religious Children of God cult, a US Army combat veteran, an extremely advanced knitter, and the author of Uncultured: A Memoir. What We Discuss with Daniella Mestyanek Young: How the seemingly wholesome Children of God (later known by variations of "The Family") religious group centered around love, faith, and Jesus — and packaged to appeal to impressionable countercultural hippie types of the day — veered into true cult territory under the direction of its leader, David Berg. How female followers of Children of God were encouraged to use their bodies and sexuality to gain converts and money in a practice known as "flirty flashing." How child sexual abuse became a commonplace Children of God practice in an effort to raise "sexually liberated" children. What this cult and others do to cultivate credibility — and raise funds — among its followers and the outside world. The toll that life in a cult takes on those who are lucky enough to exit. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/823 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!

Ep 119: (part 2) Raised in one of the most notorious sex cults, one woman's memoir brings their atrocities out of the shadows and into the light. This is the Daniella Mestyanek Young story - part 2. For more information about Daniella's work, or to learn about her book, Uncultured; visit her website: https://www.uncultureyourself.com Sources for Today's Episode: Uncultured: A Memoir of Cults, War and Belonging by Daniella Mestyanek Young Interview with Daniella Mestyanek Young Davidberg.org Childrenofgod.com Sponsors: (thanks for using our promo codes, it really does help the show!) Daily Harvest Let Daily Harvest do more so you can do less. Go to DAILYHARVEST.com/women to get up to $40 off your first box. This is Actually Happening (Podcast) Follow THIS IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING wherever you listen to podcasts. You can listen ad-free on the Amazon Music or Wondery App. https://www.thisisactuallyhappening.com Credits: Written and Hosted by Amy Shlosberg and Meghan Sacks Produced & Edited by James Varga Script Editor: Abagail Belcastro Music by Dessert Media Special Thanks to: Daniella Mestyanek Young Help is Available: If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic or other violence, there are many organizations that can offer support or help you in your specific situation. For direct links to organizations please visit https://womenandcrimepodcast.com/resources/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 118: (Part 1) Raised in one of the most notorious sex cults, one woman's memoir brings their atrocities out of the shadows and into the light. This is the Daniella Mestyanek Young story - part 1. For more information about Daniella's work, or to learn about her book, Uncultured; visit her website: https://www.uncultureyourself.com Sources for Today's Episode: Uncultured: A Memoir of Cults, War and Belonging by Daniella Mestyanek Young Interview with Daniella Mestyanek Young Davidberg.org Childrenofgod.com Sponsors: (thanks for using our promo codes, it really does help the show!) Prose (Personalized Haircare) Prose is the key to achieving all your hair goals this year. Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order today! Go to Prose.com/women This is Actually Happening (Podcast) Follow THIS IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING wherever you listen to podcasts. You can listen ad-free on the Amazon Music or Wondery App. https://www.thisisactuallyhappening.com Credits: Written and Hosted by Amy Shlosberg and Meghan Sacks Produced & Edited by James Varga Script Editor: Abagail Belcastro Music by Dessert Media Special Thanks to: Daniella Mestyanek Young Help is Available: If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic or other violence, there are many organizations that can offer support or help you in your specific situation. For direct links to organizations please visit https://womenandcrimepodcast.com/resources/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices