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A native of Chicago, Modi G is a ‘cancer’ who moves off feelings, emotions, and intellect. She loves hard and the result of that type of love put her into a deep depression. Depression can be a crippling disease, but Modi was and still is resilient and refuses to let it get the best of her. Modi is an Author, blogger, and writer for men and women of all ages. She blogs about controversial topics based on love, life, and relationships. A graduate of Fisk University, Modi fell in love with literature as she earned her degree in English. Modi’s passion for writing keeps her depression and anxiety at bay. Modi G talks to students and audiences about her book with a focus on self-esteem, healthy relationships, and eliminating the stigma of seeking help for mental health challenges. As an HBCU graduate, Modi has a special interest in addressing these issues for black women.  On our season finale we discuss: Recognizing unhealthy relationships and learning to choose yourself The cathartic benefits of writing Her journey from desiring the approval of others to embracing self-acceptance & self-love How she got the courage to leave her position as a CEO to pursue her passion Game-changing lessons she’s learned through running her brand Therapy Directories - https://providers.therapyforblackgirls.com/ and https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Resources for Domestic Violence - https://www.thehotline.org/ Mind Over Modi In Modi G’s own words:  “My blogs are a constant battle with my mind and my heart IN EVERY TOPIC. My heart is the core of me and my mind being the facts and knowledge that I’ve learned and feel in my gut. They battle it out and may the best woman win.”  Check out Modi G’s latest post, “Forbidden Quickie” and follow the journey Modi’s pen creates for her readers.  Purchase Your Paperback or Kindle copy of Some Women Prefer Hell via Amazon.  Follow Modi on Instagram:  @JustModi__  To Learn More about Modi G, please visit her website itsjustmodi.com.

⁣⠀ Water the grass you have✨⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Tune into episode 32 to hear the full talk I had with my sorority sister, Brittany Bethea of the Alabaster Box Podcast. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ We dived deep about:⠀⠀ *Our faith in God⠀⠀ *The comparison trap ⠀⠀ *How we walk into our purpose ⠀⠀ *Lessons she learned after being laid off⠀⠀ *Giving yourself grace to mourn loss⠀ *The value of prayer, gratitude, and therapy⠀ *Why you should consider getting tested for COVID19 so you can spend time with loved ones to rejuvenate  ⠀⠀  

Dr.Natalia Fuller is a Psychiatrist, mental health advocate, and sex therapist.  Dr. Fuller earned her medical degree from Washington University of Health and Science. Certified as a Sex Therapist by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) through Modern Sex therapy Institute. As a doctor and sex therapist, she has expertise and experience working with a wide range of sexual and relationship issues. Dr. Fuller specializes in working with individuals with mental illness, sex education, discordant desire and infidelity in couples, sexual dysfunction and anxiety, and sexual compulsivity. There is literally no question or concern that is too troubling or difficult for her to help you address. Dr. Fuller obtained her undergraduate degree in Psychology with a minor in neuroscience and theatre from Wesleyan College. Masters from Walden University specializing in children/adolescent counseling and sex education.  On this episode we discuss: How she stumbled into her career as a sex therapist and psychiatrist  The challenge of being a black sex therapist and how she is breaking barriers with her company, Mind Body Sex, LLC The precautions she takes when working with sex offenders and serial killers How overcoming trauma and self-care can awaken your inner sexual Goddess The power you have with your healthcare and medication you are subscribed Connect with Dr. Fuller -  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mind.body.sex/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.canary/ Email: MindBodySexLLC@gmail.com

Evingerlean D. B. Hudson, Ph.D., affectionately known as Dr. Eve, is a native of Charlotte, North Carolina, and first-generation college graduate who earned a Ph.D. at the age of 28. She has a background in higher education with experiences in both academic and student affairs. After years of service in postsecondary education, Dr. Eve decided to switch gears and started her social entrepreneurial journey. She is Founder and Chief Strategist of an entity created to help people thrive through personal transformation and entrepreneurial development. Further, she leads The First-Gen Lounge, an international podcast uplifting first-generation college graduates that has tens of thousands of downloads and has reached more than 50 countries.  Dr. Eve holds degrees from Shaw University (the oldest HBCU in the South) and The University of Southern Mississippi. She is a proud member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Incorporated, and Vice President of Young Alumni Relations for Shaw University's National Alumni Association. In her spare time, Dr. Eve enjoys mentoring, reading, traveling, food tasting, cuddling with her chocolate lab (Maxwell Alexander), and adventures with her life partner, Dr. James M. Hudson. On this episode we discuss: Why she left her job and the idea of becoming a college President to pursuing her own social entrepreneurial entity, Evingerlean Worldwide How she prepared her coins before pursuing full-time entrepreneurship How she gains national & local speaking engagements How she navigates pricing for her services How she scaled her company worldwide & built her team Navigating the comparison trap How she pivoted her business as a result of the COVID19 pandemic Effective mentorship Connect with Dr. Eve: Website: Eve Hudson, Ph.D. | Uplifting YOU in Life and Biz. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evehudsonphd/

Krystle M. Davis is the Visionary and Founder of I Still Love You (ISLY). She is dedicated to introducing healthy coping skills to individuals struggling with life transitions as well as building and redefining healthy mentorship and community building.     Using a combination of education and knowledge coupled with knowledge of public interest, company’s views, and specific issues, she provided services to organizations and businesses with specialties in non-profit and community events. Through this position, she gained leadership roles such as Director of Community Relations at Fashion For A Cure and co-founder of The Ujima Awards.  Krystle has also contributed to panels focusing on mental health and therapeutic interventions in addition to developed and presented workshops on topics such as self-esteem building, communication skills among teens, and healthy coping skills.  Krystle is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Registered Yoga Teacher with an ongoing devoted passion for working with youth and young adults in urban communities and helping individuals and families navigate the demands of life. She also services her community as a proud member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Her goals and aspirations are not limited as she uses her current experiences to continue to grow, learn, serve, and be a service to others.  On this episode we discuss: The healing powers of therapy + yoga Being a therapist in the height of Covid19 + #BlackLivesMatter The necessity of being Still so we can be more present Navigating through self-doubt Black Women Superhero Complex Navigating support circles to hold you accountable  How we can support each other when we are not at our best How her passion for yoga developed  Connect with Krystle using the links below: Website: http://isly.org/meet-the-founder/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/isly_org/ Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/ISLYorg/

Yessenia Mercedes has a Bachelor of Social Worker from Seton Hall University and a Masters of Social Work from Fordham University. She has 10 years of experience in the field of children and family. Her experience includes working as a Case Manager with Child Protection and Permanency and as a School Social Worker for the Board of Education in NJ. On this episode we discuss: The trauma and beauty behind her journey to becoming a mother  The important questions to ask your OBGYN and what her OBGYN missed Fertility stigmas in the Latin community  Intrauterine Insemination (IUI) vs In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) Ways to support a friend who is experiencing infertility Game-changing tips for new mothers My Wellness Solution - Dominican Owned Holistic Care The value in forgiving strained family relationships Her perspective of the expeditions we have for the people in our lives Her new journey as “funemployed” Do not ask a couple when they are giving you some babies, period Keep up with Yessenia on IG @rooted.courage The Dominican owned holistic health service https://mywellnesssolutions.com/ and @mwshealth on Instagram

Jumping on to let my subscribers know that I am changing my name! I want ya'll to be the first to know. Tune in to this episode to hear why! New everythang! New Website: FlourishWithDelores.com New Email: Hello@FlourishWithDelores.com New IG and Social Media Handle: @FlourishwithDelores Thanks for taking this journey with me! Peace,  Delores

Autumn Kyles is the founder of Proxie Detroit and the co-founder &  CEO of Detroit Dough, Detroit’s first safe-to-eat cookie dough manufacturer, revolutionizing the concessions industry. On this episode we discuss: How she started her businesses and sold $230,000 in cookie dough, equaling approximately 70,000 cups Resources for small business through @ProxieDetroit  How she organizes her ideas to pivot and troubleshoot, especially during the COVID19 pandemic How she turns her flaws into strengths Selfcare tips from the CEO & creative Some of the foundations available to small business owners Stay connected with Autumn using the following: Instagram: @FallNightLights @EatDetroitDough @ProxieDetroit Website: https://www.proxiedetroit.com/ and https://eatdetroitdough.com/

Dr. Elissia is an Analytical Chemist and the creator of the ResearchHer podcast. On this episode we discuss: Her path to becoming an Analytical Chemist with a PhD at the age of 26 The inspiration behind the ResearchHer Podcast How she navigates through adjusting to changes in her journey Her journey to figuring out who she is beyond her accolades and learning to live life for her How she’s learning to share her “baggage” Nicaila Matthews Okome - Podcast Moguls Program Connect with Elissia on instagram @TheResearchHer  Tune into the ResearchHer! ResearchHer Podcast: http://theresearchher.com/ Mommy and Me Episode: http://theresearchher.com/mommyandme/

Mi'esha Reynolds is a spiritual blogger, coach, school counselor, and the creator of Be Spiritually Bold.  On this episode we discuss: The power in praying bold prayers How she found the courage to find and connect with her biological father  The story behind her creation of Be Spiritually Bold The value of pre-marital counseling Why you should own your story and truth Her bold move to Egypt  Connect with Mi’esha using the following: Website: www.bespirituallybold.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bespirituallyBOLD/ Instagram: @BeSpirituallyBOLD 

In these times of dismay, I feel incredibly blessed to have God’s grace and an incredible circle of loved ones in my life. Having my fam & friends share stories of when they’ve seen me at my best and the lessons they’ve learned (that we can all glean from) is an AMAZING gift. I cannot describe the feeling that I get as I listen to this special episode, truly incredible. This episode has so many gems! My prayer is to be a light in this world and do God’s will for my life. Happy 1 year anniversary to the We Are Still Becoming podcast & 29th birthday to me!   Follow @WeAreStillBecoming on Instagram and Facebook for updates

Kenneth Osei-Gyan is a Lead Nurse Practitioner for the Department of Health in the City of Newark working as an Internist. He is dedicated and committed to his community, making sure all who come into contact with him are left feeling seen, heard, supported, and most of all, knowing that they matter.  His previous professional experience includes working in medical-surgical and post-anesthesia care units, providing adult medicine and care for patients with traumatic orthopedic injuries and debilitating diseases, and as a charge nurse overseeing three recovery room departments and 64 Registered Nurses. While Kenneth has significant experience in the medical setting, he has worked in academia serving as the Student Development Specialist for the Educational Opportunity Fund Program at Rutgers University in Newark, New Jersey.  Kenneth completed his Bachelor of Science degree in Biology at Montclair State University, a  second Bachelors of Science in Nursing at The University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey, and his Masters of Science in Nursing from Rutgers University. A proud member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc. and Sigma Theta Tau International Honor Society, Kenneth has been a recipient of many awards including Mount Sinai Hospital’s Magnet Nursing Award.  On this episode we discuss: How his passion for health and helping the community led to his profession His research on men and their mental health The value of having a relationship with God Our thoughts on men practicing celibacy  The value of being authentically kind How his upbringing and faith inspires his work ethic The value of being still and enjoying every little accomplishment

Aurellia Whitmore also known as Dr. Rell, is a pharmacologist/toxicologist by trade, and a STEM enthusiast, and white coat consultant by design. Dr. Rell spends a large amount of time supporting the scientific community including Big Pharma, biotech companies, and academic institutions across the nation. Dr. Rell leverages her academic, industry, and networking experience to provide a multitude of career consulting services for those seeking alternative career paths in STEM. She empowers MD’s, PharmD’s, PhDs, and undergraduate STEM majors to secure positions and opportunities that lead to fulfilling careers. Dr. Rell’s commitment to scientific endeavors commensurate with her commitment to the community. She mentors youth interested in pursuing STEM-focused education and careers; frequents as a guest speaker at conferences, HBCU’s, and other academic institutions; and dedicates time to respond to queries from hungry heart’s through Instagram. With her staunch devotion to supporting those pursuing STEM careers in industry and beyond, let Dr. Rell help put you on the path to the profession of your dreams! On this episode we discuss: How she is learning to be gentle with herself The road that led her to her PhD How she navigates imposter syndrome The value of mentorship  Why you should step out of your comfort zone How to fund your graduate degree  The idea behind her consulting agency How we deal with rejection The questions you should ask before accepting a job offer  The value of self-care and being still Connect with Dr. Rell using the following mediums: Website: https://www.drrell.com/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/dr.rellwhitmore/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drrell/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dr.RellWhitmore/ Email: rell@drrell.com

Welcome back! I feel blessed to have you on this journey with me. In this episode, I am pulling back layers and getting more transparent with you. You’ll hear about how I dealt with a recent rejection and the importance of processing my feelings rather than avoiding them. ————————————————————————————————- Quote sent to me by my childhood friend, Rochelle: “Be full of sorrow, that you may become full of joy; weep, that you may break into laughter.” -Rumi Find out your top 5 strengths https://www.strengthsquest.com/home.aspx Check out IMANEE https://www.imanee.org/ Follow us on Instagram and Facebook @WeAreStillBecoming Subscribe to our Three Bullet Thursday newsletter here.

Season 1 Finale! Be sure to subscribe so you do not miss a beat when season two begins on March 18, 2019! Dr. Pia Holec is a psychotherapist based in private practice in Chicago, Illinois. She specializes in sex therapy and couples therapy. Dr. Pia received her Bachelor of Arts in Psychology from the University of Illinois. She received both her Master of Arts and Doctorate of Clinical Psychology from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology. While completing her doctorate, she trained at Rush University Medical Center, Marital and Sex Therapy Department where she gained specialized training in working with couples and treating sexual dysfunctions. Dr. Pia completed her residency at Mount Sinai St. Luke’s and Roosevelt Hospitals where she gained extensive training at the Addiction Institute of New York and the Center for The Intensive Treatment of Personality Disorders. On this episode we discuss: How Dr. Pia gained the courage to pursue the field of sex therapy  The ideas related to the negative stigma around casual conversations about sex  The most common sexual dysfunctions Dr. Pia has seen and treated Suggestions for supporting your friends and/or spouse through sexual trauma and dysfunctions How early you should talk to your children about sex and suggested age-appropriate topics including teaching them about consent! The sex and celibacy questions our listeners submitted exclusively for Dr. Pia, including ways to enhance pleasure and forms of intimacy that do not involve sexual acts The value of saying no and putting yourself first *Connect with Dr. Pia on Instagram @sexdrpia where you can enjoy her “#JustTheTipTuesday” videos on all things related to sex, relationships and mental health. *Books Dr. Pia recommended based on our conversation this episode: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=come+as+you+are&qid=1574792429&sr=8-1 The Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides https://www.amazon.com/Guide-Getting-Paul-Joannides/dp/1885535333/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=the+guide+to+getting+it+on&qid=1574792473&sr=8-3 Coping With Premature Ejaculation by Barry McCarthy, Ph.D https://www.amazon.com/Coping-Premature-Ejaculation-Overcome-Partner/dp/1572243406/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=coping+with+premature+ejaculation&qid=1574792521&sr=8-1 Coping with Erectile Dysfunction by Barry McCarthy, Ph.D https://www.amazon.com/Coping-Erectile-Dysfunction-Regain-Confidence/dp/1572243864/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3JJMNHYBGY817&keywords=coping+with+erectile+dysfunction&qid=1574792567&sprefix=coping+with+erectile+%2Caps%2C160&sr=8-2 *Interested in becoming a certified sex therapist? Dr. Pia recommends reviewing content on both The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists’ & The Sexual Health Alliance’s websites  *Check out the Ultimate Intimacy app created by a married Christian couple who seek to strengthen marriage by making make love making fun and deepening the connection and intimacy between couples Follow on Instagram and Facebook @WeAreStillBecoming for updates. Visit DeloresSarfoDarko.com for show notes

Tyrone Putman is a Business Innovation Analyst by trade, and a motivational speaker and social entrepreneur by calling. He is the founder and visionary of “Flip the Switch: The Unplugged Experience” an introspective and integrative experience encouraging people to live outside of societal boundaries, unplug from the world to seek true happiness, and allocate the time and energy to fulfilling their purpose. He earned his MBA from the Robert H. Smith Business School at the University of Maryland. Tyrone is a former two-sport Division 1A athlete, competing on both the football field and track at Rutgers University. As a member of the Omega Psi Phi Fraternity Inc., Tyrone continues to be a pillar in his community, engaging, empowering, and encouraging others to chase what is theirs. On this episode we discuss:  The power of affirmations Depression, faith, and therapy The inspiration behind his motivational brand, Flip the Switch: The Unplugged Experience The value of having an accountability partner(s) and encouragement to push through our challenges How he is working through his challenges and learning to embrace his purpose  Why we should redefine success on our own terms Connect with Ty via Instagram @Ty.Inspires, LinkedIn or Youtube using Tyrone Putman, and his website https://www.tyinspires.com/!

Jessica Townsend is a passionate educator, creator, and author. She earned her B.S.E. in Early Childhood, Elementary, and Special Education from Seton Hall University and a Master of Arts in Special Education: Learning Disabilities from American University. While at AU, she interned at the Lab School of Washington, a small, independent school that teaches students with learning differences. Jessica currently teaches 4th-grade students within DC Public Schools. On this episode we discuss: ·  How her passion for education was ignited  ·  How she is trying to overcome self-doubt  ·  The motivation behind writing her e-book, Oh My! My Crazy Online Dating Experiences ·  Navigating millennial dating including online and apps like Tinder ·  Our thoughts on mindful meditation and the websites and apps that you can take advantage of for little to no cost Connect with Jessica via Instagram @MissJessRenee Visit DeloresSarfoDarko.com for more content and follow @WeAreStillBecoming on Facebook and Instagram for updates :).

Carlos Marrero is the founder and manager of a licensed outpatient children’s clinic that he opened at the age of 27. This year he developed and opened an Extended Day Treatment Facility for children and families suffering from behavioral health difficulties. Currently, he oversees 5 clinical locations and creates innovative behavioral health programs to serve the greater Hartford area by implementing programs in the community and within schools. He earned his master’s degree in Social Work and published his first behavioral health children and adolescent engagement book for practitioners in the field working with children, at the age of 25. Carlos continuously envisions programs that he can create for the community, analyzes what current agencies and programs are doing and lacking, assesses the communities continuous needs, and then builds innovative unique and engaging programs that can serve the behavioral health needs of families. In his spare time, he empowers and supports students who are studying social work as a clinical preceptor. Additionally, he currently created a “Fathers Works” program that supports fathers and step-fathers struggling with the barriers of fatherhood & raising their children. On this episode we discuss:  Why you should stop dimming your light  How his middle school biology project and grandfather’s Alzheimer’s diagnoses sparked his interest in mental health  How he turned his love for salsa and the psychology of children and adolescents into a thriving licensed children’s clinic How he pushes past his challenges including the fear of failure and accepting change The importance of seeking support for your mental health Trends related to men and therapy How we can encourage and uplift men to utilize and normalize therapy How he navigates co-parenting and blending families Connect with Carlos via phone using 860-249-0975 extension #2 or  email, Help@LEOsupportCT.com Follow @WeAreStillBecoming on Instagram and Facebook for Updates

Felix Afranie is a social justice enthusiast, senior data analyst, co-founder of Ahnansi Inc., and host of the entrepreneurial podcast, Ahnansisem. His organization focuses on promoting entrepreneurship and exposing youth to resources, volunteering and networking opportunities. Ahnansi seeks to create content by sharing ideas with peers to decrease existing knowledge gaps.  On this episode we discuss: The importance of seeking mentorship from people who “have been down the road” you are looking to achieve How he cultivated his love for reading From rarely reading for pleasure to reading 10 books a year How he bought a house at the age of 25 The evolution of his social activism The value of sharing knowledge and how to leverage your podcast   Connect with Felix and Ahnansi using the following: www.ahnansi.com LinkedIn: Felix Afraine Instagram: Mr.Ahnansi and @Ahnansi info@ahnansi.com Felix suggests reading MONEY Master the Game by Tony Robbins Connect with Delores and We Are Still Becoming on Facebook and Instagram @WeAreStillBecoming

Chamar Latanja Logan is an author, speaker, Transformation Coach, and full-time entrepreneur, born and raised in Maryland. She is the Editor in Chief of the She Wins Society blog, as well as a choice coach for the She Wins Society Coaches Council. She has had an essay published, titled "A Letter to My Young Sisters" and a #1 new seller e-book called "The Seven Day Slay!" on Amazon and other platforms. Her recent book, The Thirty Day Slay! Was published on October 31, 2017 and is now an international book, selling in the United States, South Africa, and the UK. She was featured as one of “10 Winning Women” for Women By Choice Global, along with a full-page article as a Winning Woman for Women By Choice. She was chosen as a featured writer for Brown Girls Who Write. She has been featured and interviewed for several live streams, focused on women’s empowerment and growth. Chamar is also a well-traveled motivational speaker and ambassador. Chamar currently has coaching programs for women starting over from divorce or a tough breakup, as well as women needing personal and professional development and travels as a motivational speaker/educator teaching and encouraging women to create a life that they love. On this gem packed episode, we discuss: How she transformed after her divorce and being laid off from a job she loved How to start over as you are grieving one life and starting another How unexpected or uncomfortable experiences can be opportunities for growth  How she started putting herself first, both mentally and physically  How she self-published her book and how you can too Why you should embrace putting yourself in front of your brand You should never be your own best-kept secret!

On our second episode of the “Becoming a Wife” series we discuss The untold story of why I finally took Charles out of the “friendzone”/the final experience that had me feeling like I had to do better with dating The size of my ring (comparison can be the thief of joy, ya’ll) and tips on picking out an engagement ring The financial stressors involved with having a formal wedding Highlights on our recent experience at a bridal show, family reunion, friend’s wedding, and a couples’ date night More on DeloresSarfoDarko.com  Follow @WeAreStillBecoming for updates

“You have to be someone who is okay with delayed gratification” Dr. Charles Farmer is in his fourth and final year as an Emergency Medicine resident in New York City. In 2012 he completed his undergraduate degree in Biology at Seton Hall University then went on to obtain his medical degree from Johns Hopkins School of Medicine in 2016. In addition to his clinical responsibilities, he is interested in mentorship and medical education of medical students and junior residents. Charles is learning to embrace taking chances and trusting “the process.” On this episode he shares insight on the following: Why he wanted to become a physician The obstacles he experienced along his academic journey, such as standardized exams How to find mentorship if you are looking to become a medical doctor What it takes to have a strong medical school application How he tries to balance his career while cultivating relationships How to manage self-doubt Connect with Dr. Farmer via email using Charles.Farmer03@gmail.com   Follow us on Instagram @WeAreStillBecoming

When Preparation Meets Opportunity  Breton is passionate about helping others figure out their path. Regardless of his field of work, he is constantly learning, growing and always asking the question “why can’t we" or “what if we."  He takes us through his far from linear career path as he explored his interests, worked through imposter syndrome and the “box-checker” mentality, and learned to be his own best advocate. He drops gems on how we can become our best selves in the world of work such as: -Talking to a professional therapist or counselor as needed -Embracing that everyone’s path is different – it’s okay to not have all the answers! -Getting comfortable about “bragging” about yourself, no one knows your accomplishments better than you! You are the expert on the experiences that you are bringing to the table -The importance of having at least one person in your corner to give you honest feedback and cheer you on to remind you that you got this! -How you should prepare for new opportunities and job interviews -Why you should keep your eye out for new job opportunities -How to effectively negotiate your salary and benefits Connect with Bret on LinkedIn if you are interested in continuing this conversation with Bret and tell him We Are Still Becoming sent you!

Lauren R. Jackson is an attorney, speaker, and social entrepreneur. She is the founder and chief visionary of IMANEE, a non-profit organization focused on the empowerment and elevation of girls and women of color. A member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc., Lauren is a true example of what sisterhood, service, and leadership should radiate. On this episode, we chat about being appreciative of and inspired by the things we have that we once prayed so hard to receive. She drops many gems as she discusses the “beautiful things that can happen out of detour” •    How she overcame not getting into law school immediately after undergrad •    The necessity of learning from people who are in roles that you are aspiring to achieve •    How she got the courage to quit her job to pursue law school •    How she established her non-profit, IMANEE and how you can get involved •    How she navigates imposter syndrome while working in a firm where she is often the only black woman •    How she is unapologetically practicing self-care •    How to make new friends as an adult  Connect with Lauren at Hello@LaurenRJackson.com and visit her website, LaurenRJackson.com Get 20% off from alittlebougie.com using code “StillBecoming”

Two weeks ago, I said yassss to my boyfriend of 7.5 years! We are sharing our journey to the alter through this "Becoming a Wife" series. The bonus episodes will involve authentic conversations with my fiancé as we figure out how to plan a wedding and this whole husband and wife thing. On this episode we discuss: · How we met, 10 years ago. He remembers meeting me 7 months before I remember meeting him. · How we knew we were ready for marriage · Why he held back from getting married sooner · How he planned the proposal · What was going through my mind the day before and during #HotGirlSummer · How I set boundaries from ALL of the wedding planning conversations that Charles wants to have every day We Are Still Becoming episodes drop every other Wednesday. Episodes for this series will air periodically. Stay connected with me on Instagram @WeAreStillBecoming

Derrick Sarfo-Darko is the Founder and CEO of Spiffy Entertainment. Spiffy ENT is an event and marketing platform based out of Newport, Rhode Island. The company has gained ground as a lifestyle brand, building a reputation associated with good vibes, good times, and the documentation of such - via digital marketing. Derrick earned his bachelor’s and master’s in business administration from Salve Regina. He had the opportunity to secure a thriving corporate job after graduating from college but decided to take the leap of faith and establish his own company instead. On this episode, the full-time entrepreneur shares: -How he overcame the struggle of transitioning to a new environment -Why and how he turned his college side hustle into a flourishing Limited Liability Company -His current challenges in sustaining a company as a 25-year-old CEO -Tips on how new entrepreneurs can seek mentorship -Why we should embrace the goal of making more money -His experience with millennial dating Connect with Derrick on Instagram @IAmSpiffy or via email @SpiffyEnt@gmail.com. If you are visiting Newport, find out about Spiffy Ent events @NewPort_NightLife on Instagram 

On this episode, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Courage To Be, LLC​ founder, Yanique (Nikki) Grant, shares what inspired her to start her private practice and what you need to know regarding the basics of getting started with therapy: • Some theory behind the stigma of therapy • Why you should consider seeing a therapist • How to tap into therapy for little to no cost, free! • How to find the right therapist for you and when to transition to a new provider • Why it’s essential that therapists and others in helping professions seek therapy and opportunities to process the vicarious trauma absorbed. We also discuss her aspiration to focus on urban trauma when she pursues her doctorate. This led to a conversation about police brutality and the personal & vicarious trauma we experience. Candidly, Nikki dives deep and shares her challenges of overextending herself and the journey of helping her daughter navigate the feelings around experiencing her parents go through a divorce. With love, she shares what she thinks someone who is going through a divorce may need to hear. Then, we wrap up with Nikki’s gems on how to be intentional about supporting our “strong friends.” As an LCSW, Yanique Grant has been working in the field of mental health and substance abuse since 2009. She is the owner and founder of the private practice; Courage To Be LLC & is also currently working full time as a clinician in a nonprofit agency. Her work includes individual, couple, family, and group therapy, and also intensive outpatient treatments. During her time in this field, she has worked with both children as well as adults from culturally diverse backgrounds. Yanique describes her aspiration in this field as “assisting others to uncover their full potential by helping them to heal, cope, and understand themselves better.” Her motto is “trust the process” which refers to looking at life as an ever-growing book in which new chapters are constantly added, & whether negative or positive, they piece together an amazing story. Get connected with Yanique Grant, https://www.couragetobe.org/, https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/464885, email & phone number can be found on the Facebook page Courage To Be LLC. Receive a 20% off coupon code on your next purchase on ALittleBougie.com using code “StillBecoming” Check Out the Call to Courage by Brene Brown on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/title/81010166 The Do’s and Don’ts of Police Stops https://www.aclunc.org/our-work/know-your-rights/your-rights-and-police Author of Urban Trauma, A Legacy of Racism, Dr. Maysa Akbar http://www.maysaakbar.com/  

Dr. Jennifer Wiafe is an Emergency Medicine Clinical Pharmacist for a trauma hospital in New York City. On this episode, Jennifer shares how the disparities in access to adequate healthcare and her experience on a Native American Reservation changed her outlook and piqued her interest in public health. A doctor at the age of 23, Jennifer and I talk about how she learned to break down barriers and build relationships with healthcare providers. We discuss the benefits and challenges of earning an advanced degree at a young age. Additionally, Jennifer dishes on how she learned to be more intentional about making time for herself. Since her work days are usually intense, Jennifer stresses the importance of taking breaks to prevent burnout - she discusses what she coins as her social meter and how she uses it to gauge and navigate how her energy is spent. We talk about the pros and cons of social media and how it may be impacting how we view ourselves. When her social meter is running low, she takes hiatuses from social media to focus on self-care. When she is not in the hospital working to optimize patient care, Jennifer can be found on the dance floor enjoying Soca and Afrobeats music, serving the community with her sorors of Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc., or fundraising with her cheerleading team. Her team, Cheer New York is a non-profit adult volunteer team with a mission to perform for donations that support people who are a part of the LGBTQIA and HIV positive community in NYC. Last year the team raised $25,000 for members of the community! If you are interested in getting in touch with Dr. Jennifer Wiafe, you can find her on Instagram @RawrItsJennKnee Follow Still Becoming on Instagram or Facebook @WeAreStillBecoming

Meaghan Davis is a Human, Leader, Activist, Educator, and Founder of The BRAVE Institute. BRAVE’s mission is to inspire and challenge humans to be brave and self-empowered contributors to a better world. On this episode, we dive deep into the power of our use of words and the courage behind an action, such as the difference between a kind action and a kind person. You’ll learn some of her “Meaghanisms” a term that her students fondly coined to describe the intentionality of the words Meaghan uses. My favorite; human. Meaghan is intentional about making sure to use the word human in describing everyone she encounters because it addresses and connects ALL people. She believes the use of the word human is the most powerful way to bring the mission of inclusion to life and has helped her become a better person. Meaghan shares how she uses her superpowers and walks the walk of a brave life. She gives concrete steps on how she established her organization, BRAVE Girls Leadership as a 501c3 (nonprofit) and why and how she transformed it into the Limited Liability Company, The BRAVE Institute. We discuss how she navigates through her challenge of feeling a false sense of urgency. Meaghan is learning to be intentional about “not mistaking uncertainty for an absence of clarity.” She is making the choice to live a BRAVE life. Visit DeloresSarfoDarko.com for show notes and Meaghan's contact information.  Follow @WeAreStillBecoming on Instagram and Facebook. Please rate and write a review :)!

On episode 5, I chat with Dr. Michael Mozia, a Director of a Rehabilitation Center and Doctor of Physical Therapy. He lives by the biblical verse Mathew 6:26 and the quote “you are going to die one day” – the notion of the two mantras coupled with his experiences thus far have taught him the importance of learning to not let fear and the opinions of others limit him. We discuss how he supported me through changing my major in college, how he balanced various student leadership roles while excelling in an intense “3+4” accelerated doctoral program, what motivated him to lose 40 pounds, and his notion of letting life be his mentor. We also chat about his supervision style specifically as a young director managing staff who are older and younger than he is. We wrap up by answering a listener’s question about navigating her romantic relationship and Dr. Mozia shares how he knew his wife was “the one.” Another episode you do not want to miss. Show notes & Dr. Mozia’s contact information is on DeloresSarfoDarko.com New Episodes are released every other Wednesday. For updates, Follow @WeAreStillBecoming on Instagram and Facebook. 

It’s mental health awareness month and I wanted to share a lesson I learned that changed my outlook and helped me have a really awesome week. This is a gentle reminder to be kind to yourself and patient with new transitions, give yourself time! Take pride in the work that you do but remember that your job is not your life. On this episode, I mention a gem I heard on the Rants and Randomness podcast, "your title is borrowed but your character is owned." That, my friends, is what really matters - your character. I challenge you to find things that you love to do outside of work that lift your spirit. Try your best to not focus and harbor on the negative. I’ve been challenging myself to live each day with a grateful heart as I think of at least five things that I am thankful for. Gratitude goes a long way. I appreciate you all for continuing to listen to Still Becoming and following me on Facebook and Instagram @WeAreStillBecoming. Please rate, like, subscribe, and write a review. New episodes are released every other Wednesday on pretty much wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.

Self-Care Corner episodes focus on a specific self-care strategy from the perspective of an expert. Tamika is a researcher in cancer biology at the University of Kansas Medical Center and a certified group fitness instructor. We talk about how she manages life as a scientist, wife, and entrepreneur. She shares the challenges and beauty of a millennial marriage and we discuss the holistic benefits of group fitness like Zumba. Tamika is learning to "go with the flow" and embrace her talents, even when it is not aligned with her original plan. Visit DeloresSarfoDarko.com/stillbecoming for show notes. Follow @WeAreStillBecoming on Instagram and Facebook New episodes are released biweekly on Wednesdays. 

Welcome to Still Becoming, episode 1! On this episode, I discuss the premise of Still Becoming, why I was hesitant to start a podcast, and why I did it anyway. The overall message is to embrace the journey and take the leap of faith on your goals that scare you.  Follow Still Becoming on Instagram or Facebook @WeAreStillBecoming New episodes are released biweekly on Wednesdays.

On episode three: Dr. Tamika Wordlow Williams shares her journey from an eager college student (who was determined to enter into a career that would allow her to contribute to increasing college access and retention) to the Assistant Vice President/Dean of Students. We discuss her dissertation study titled, “Second in Command: Examining the Factors that Impact the Career Advancement of the Black Woman Chief Academic Officers.” In full transparency, Tamika opens up about the challenges she experiences as a young, female, black senior administrator and the strategies she implements to overcome adversity including the importance of mentorship and intentional self-care. She is motivated by the bible verse, Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, declares the Lord, plans to give you hope and a future." Tamika asserts the importance of empowering and helping others achieve their goals. Visit DeloresSarfoDarko.com/StillBecoming/ShowNotes/Episode3  New Episode release biweekly on Wednesdays Follow @WeAreStillBecoming on Instagram and Facebook for Updates 

Assistant District Attorney, Evelina Rene shares her experience of moving from St. Thomas to New Jersey for a three-year accelerated program at Seton Hall University. In pursuit of her goal to become an attorney, Evelina attended law school at The George Washington (GW) University. During her time at GW, Evelina studied abroad at the University of Oxford in England. On this episode she breaks down aspects of law school including the admissions process, negotiating scholarships, and preparing for the bar. While her accomplishments are beyond impressive, Evelina is still becoming and experiences challenges of her own. We have a candid conversation about her growing pains and how she remains motivated. She reminds herself, “Whatever doesn’t kill me, will make me stronger.” Visit DeloresSarfoDarko.com/StillBecoming/Episode2 New Episodes release biweekly on Wednesdays.  Follow @WeAreStillBecoming on Instagram and Facebook for updates