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In today's episode, I speak to William Allen about Highly Sensitive Men and his new course, On Being a Highly Sensitive Man. William Allen is the author of Confessions of a Sensitive Man and On Being a Sensitive Man. He leads the course with insights drawn from his extensive work as an advocate for HSP men. He is a certified hypnotist and brain training coach, author and advocate for HSP Men.  He believes that male sensitivity is not so rare, but it can be confounding for most males living in a culture of masculine insensitivity which teaches boys and men to disconnect from their feelings and emotions. As a highly sensitive individual himself, William combines personal experience, professional expertise, and engaging storytelling to create a transformative learning experience.  Join the Waitlist (before March 17th) and take advantage of the early-bird discount: https://wwwhighlysensitivehumanscom.involve.me/hsp-man-course-waitlistJoin the course On Being a Highly Sensitive Man here: https://academy.highlysensitivehumans.com/courses/on-being-a-sensitive-manStay in touch with William Allen Website:  www.thesensitiveman.comAuthor of Confessions of a Sensitive Man, An Unconventional Defense of Sensitive MenSupport the showAbout the Host: Jules De Vitto is a transpersonal coach, trainer and experienced educator. She helps those who identify with the traits of high sensitivity to navigate emotional overwhelm, step into their authentic power and align with their true purpose in life. She is a published author and wrote one of a series of books on Resilience, Navigating Loss in a time of Crisis. Her research has also been published in the Transpersonal Coaching Psychology Journal and Journal of Consciousness, Spirituality, and Transpersonal Psychology. Jules has spent years engaging in deep transformative healing work - she is a Reiki Master and Teacher and has completed Michael Harner's Shamanic Practitioner Training through the Foundation of Shamanic Studies and a Grief Ritual Leadership Training with Francis Weller. You can stay connected with Jules through...InstagramLinkedinThe Highly Sensitive Human Academy™ - join our 3-month professional training: coaching Highly Sensitive PeopleBecome a supporterDisclaimer

Have you felt embarrassed by your sensitivity? In this episode, I talk with William Allen about the journey of learning to understand and embrace being an HSP as well as:  • Moving from living inauthentically to accepting your sensitivity • The challenges faced by HSP men such as lack of community and models of sensitive masculinity  • Practicing portable self-care such as meditation, breathing, and connection with nature to recover from overwhelm more quickly  • Finding more resilience as an HSP with the 3Es William is an author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He retired early from his corporate job to start his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his first book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. His new book, On Being a Sensitive Man, is the follow up book, which focuses on how to live in the world as a sensitive man.  Keep in touch with William: • Website: http://www.thesensitiveman.com  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zallenw  • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thesensitiveman • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wrallen  Resources Mentioned: • Online HSP Men's Group: https://www.thesensitiveman.com/hsp-mens-group.html • Confessions of a Sensitive Man by William Allen: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781098325169 • On Being a Sensitive Man: Success Strategies for Harnessing Your Highly Sensing Nature by William Allen: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781667817439 • The Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9780553062182 • Research on High Sensitivity: https://sensitivityresearch.com • Sensitive: The Untold Story documentary: https://sensitivethemovie.com • Sensitive Men Rising documentary: https://sensitivemenrising.org Thanks for listening! You can read the full show notes and sign up for my email list to get new episode announcements and other resources at: https://www.sensitivestories.comYou can also follow "SensitiveStrengths" for behind-the-scenes content plus more educational and inspirational HSP resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths If you have a moment, please rate and review the podcast, it helps Sensitive Stories reach more HSPs! This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment with a mental health or medical professional. Some links are affiliate links. You are under no obligation to purchase any book, product or service. I am not responsible for the quality or satisfaction of any purchase.

As a mother of three sensitive sons, this discussion is particularly close to my heart. This episode features SAVI (YouTube channel: @SAVI-444), a man deeply in touch with his FEMININE who maintains his MASCULINE essence. SAVI's journey offers hope and understanding for males navigating the complex terrain of sensitivity and spirituality in today's world - as well as us females who seek to support healthy masculine expression.  Exploring the AWAKENING & INTEGRATION of divine feminine energy in men Understanding the concept of DIVINE SOVEREIGNTY and self-worth The power of SURRENDERING, RELEASING, and ACCEPTING in spiritual growth Discussing the "CAGE OF THE SOUL" and breaking free from limiting beliefs The importance of NATURAL DIET & MEDITATION  Unveiling the symbolism of the DRAGONFLY in spiritual experiences Navigating the challenges of being a SENSITIVE MAN in modern society SAVI is an engineer, entrepreneur, and spiritual seeker who has courageously shared his journey of awakening in his book "The Journey Begins Within." His experiences offer a unique perspective on integrating divine feminine qualities within a traditionally masculine framework. This conversation parallels my own DARK NIGHT OF THE SOUL experience and explores the MASSIVE PENDULUM SHIFT we're witnessing in masculine/feminine "norms." We discuss the hope for healing as old paradigms dissolve and new, balanced ones emerge. … WATCH our episode on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SoulRoseShow   Follow The SAVI Ministries on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SAVI-444 SAVI's book “The Journey Begins Within” - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D41YTB6T   Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cherie.burton/   Join my MONTHLY Mindbody SOUL Membership: https://www.cherieburton.com/mindbody-membership   Get my Free WHOLE BODY Healing Mini-Course:  https://www.cherieburton.com/freeminicourse   Ask to join our private Facebook group, SOUL ROSE COMMUNITY, for exclusive content and free monthly, live sessions & classes!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/353442392180748/  

William Allen is a first-time author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He was awarded a prestigious Corporate Management Excellence award for his empathetic management style. He retired early from his corporate job to found his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. While in Bend, he co-organized the area's first Introvert/Highly Sensitive Person discussion group. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. Websites www.thesensitiveman.com www.brainpilots.com Instagram www.Instagram.com/zallenw Twitter (X) https://twitter.com/TheSensitiveMa1 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thesensitiveman https://www.facebook.com/zallenw Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/wrallen/ Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@all.in.all.with.alex Follow my Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/AllinAllwithAlex/ Listen to the Audio Version https://anchor.fm/alex-morris8 Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYCE3hcGlcW_EA9o9P_gYbg?sub_confirmation=1 Interested in Music videos? Follow my videography channel https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVisualGoat?sub_confirmation=1 Interested in finding a new artist? Click the link below https://www.youtube.com/c/SirromTheRapper?sub_confirmation=1 tags podcast, best podcasts, all in all with alex podcast, all in all with alex, alex morris podcast, depression podcast, mental health podcast, mental therapy podcast, mental health matters, million dollars worth of game, podcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/allinallwithalex/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/allinallwithalex/support

Dear Listener, are you a sensitive, anxious man who struggles to feel confident while dating? You're not alone! In this episode, host and dating coach Josh Van Vliet shares his personal experience looking for love as a highly sensitive and, at times, insecure man. Spoiler alert: Josh is now happily married to his co-host, Jessica!Jessica plumbs Josh's dating experiences to answer the question, How do you date successfully when you're a deeply feeling, anxious man? Josh gets real about his experiences and struggles as a sensitive introvert who doesn't fit society's picture of a confident, James-Bond-like man. He shares stories and strategies, including how proudly owning his temperament helped him find love.Jessica and Josh also delve into dating while anxiously attached and how being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) affects relationships. They challenge the stigma and stereotypes and offer a fresh perspective on how sensitivity and anxiety can actually be superpowers in the dating world.This episode is a treasure trove of personal anecdotes, expert insights, and practical tips for men who feel they're too sensitive for the dating scene.Key Takeaways00:00 - Intro03:52 - What is anxious attachment and high sensitivity? 09:56 - What did your dating and relationship journey look like?11:30 - How did your anxiety, attachment styles, and sensitivity show up in your dating experience?15:22 - How did you work with your anxiety in dating?37:04 - Asking someone out as an anxious, highly sensitive man52:50 - How did you keep returning to dating?Resources and linksFor full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcastDr. Elaine Aaron's website, including self assessment for high sensitivityEp. 4 - How pacing can help you find love that lastsSomeone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can love you in a way you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is the love that will be ready. ― Nayyirah WaheedTo get more free dating, relationship, and social anxiety advice, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter to sign up for – you guessed it – our newsletter!Looking for some help finding your person? Visit relationshipcenter.com

My guest today is James Lawton! James is a proud HSP with an INFP personality type.  During the week, he's a chemist by day and a loving dad to three amazing children by night, who continuously redefine his understanding of parenthood in all the best ways. His life's journey, from adolescence through adulthood, has been a never ending pursuit for answers, seeking to understand why he perceives and experiences the world in ways that often set him apart from those around him, especially with other men.  It's a journey that has not only shaped his life but has also provided him with profound insights into the beauty of human emotions and connections. James talks about discovering that he's highly sensitive (20 years ago!), his experiences as a highly sensitive man, and gives tips and advice for other highly sensitive men. We talk about how TV shows and movies affect us, feeling "different" as a child, being a highly sensitive parent and having highly sensitive parents, and the benefits of being a highly sensitive parent to a highly sensitive child. Download the RECLAIM app, the self-care & boundary setting app for HSPs! Apple Store: https://apps.apple.com/pl/app/reclaim-self-care-for-hsps/id6477355823 Web version: https://reclaim.passion.io Android version coming soon! (Use web version for now) Become a Patreon subscriber for bonuses and to help support the podcast: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon.com/highlysensitivepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with me on Instagram and join The Highly Sensitive Podcast Channel & Boundary Setting Broadcast Channel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boundariesbylauren⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join The Highly Sensitive Podcast on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠www.facebook.com/thehighlysensitivepodcast⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my email list by clicking here to get my free Boundary Setting Workbook for Highly Sensitive People!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you have any ideas for episode topics, if you have any questions for me to answer on the podcast, or if you would like to write an email sharing your story for me to read on the podcast, you can email me at lauren@laurenlasallecoaching.com. You can find out more about my coaching programs, as well as free resources and links to my social media, by visiting my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠laurenlasallecoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Music by Jeffrey Penn Johnson: musicbyjeffco.com instagram.com/jeffreypennjohnson --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/highly-sensitive-podcast/message

Welcome to "Strength vs Sensitivity: 7 Elements of the Emotionally Sensitive Man," a thought-provoking podcast episode hosted by David Burrus. In this enlightening series, David dives deep into the meaning of the word "sensitive" and dispels the prevailing myths surrounding its application to men.In a world that often associates sensitivity with weakness, David challenges these stereotypes and highlights the vital role of emotionally sensitive men in relationships. Through engaging discussions and personal anecdotes, he explores the need for more sensitive men in today's society and the profound impact they can have on fostering healthy and fulfilling connections.David Burrus artfully juxtaposes sensitivity with strength, revealing how these seemingly contrasting qualities can harmoniously coexist in men, enriching their relationships and lives. This podcast is a must-listen for both singles and married couples seeking to navigate the complexities of modern relationships with grace and authenticity.Join David on "Strength vs Sensitivity" as he breaks down the seven essential elements that define the emotionally sensitive man, providing valuable insights, actionable advice, and heartfelt inspiration.Additionally, David mentions a transformative "4-Week Communication Bootcamp" designed to enhance your communication skills and deepen your connections. Don't miss this opportunity for personal growth and relationship enrichment. You can register for the bootcamp at www.TheDavidBurrusAcademy.com/communication.Tune in to "Strength vs Sensitivity: 7 Elements of the Emotionally Sensitive Man" on "The Permissions Podcast" with your host, David Burrus, and embark on a journey toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

William Allen is an author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He retired early from his corporate job to start his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his first book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. His new book, On Being a Sensitive Man, is the follow up book, which focuses on how to live in the world as a sensitive man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. #sensitivemen #healing #helpothers https://www.thesensitiveman.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have never had a male identifying guest on the podcast who identifies as a highly sensitive person (HSP). But would you believe there are 1 billion highly sensitive men in the world? Knowing this, I'm absolutely thrilled to have Josh Speraneo on the podcast today. Josh is a certified Master Life Coach on a mission to change the way the world views high sensitivity. We talk about how he coaches his clients, many of whom are empaths and HSPs, to reclaim their identity and rewrite their self worth story. I think you'll deeply enjoy this conversation!  Topics discussed in the full episode: Josh's early experiences as an HSP as a boy in middle school and how this started to manifest itself as an adult  How the educational system is not designed for empaths and highly sensitives  Josh's approach to coaching HSPs to help them reclaim their identity and rewrite their self worth story  Actions that you can take to fill up your self worth account and why we should focus more on compassion  How Josh has seen the specific struggles that men face as empaths and HSPs and how he helps heal them from trauma surrounding it  Episode Resources: The Empath's Survival Guide Are you a highly sensitive person self test Sensitive: The Untold Story Everyday Magic with Catherine Andrews Connect with Josh: Website LinkedIn Visit this episode's full show notes page here. - The Prosperous Empath® Podcast is produced by Heart Centered Podcasting.

Just because a guy is not the epitome of masculinity doesn't mean he isn't a man. Yet, so many sensitive men get given a bad rap - especially gay men, but even more so the straight guys who get mislabeled as gay because they are sensitive guys. Author William Allen shares his new book Confessions of a Sensitive Man and his journey to his truth and why we need to make more room for sensitive men in the world. About William William Allen is an author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He retired early from his corporate job to start his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his first book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. His new book, On Being a Sensitive Man, is the follow up book, which focuses on how to live in the world as a sensitive man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. Connect With William Website Facebook Twitter LinkedIn

What does it mean to be a highly sensitive person (HSP)? How does high sensitivity differ between individuals socialized as men versus women? What are the unique advantages and obstacles faced by highly sensitive men in their relationships and daily lives? In this episode, Effy and cognitive behavioral psychotherapist and author of "The Highly Sensitive Man" Tom Falkenstein take a deep dive into the core characteristics of high sensitivity and examine how societal expectations and gender norms shape the experience of sensitivity for men. Tom and Effy aim to shed light on the distinct challenges and advantages that highly sensitive men encounter in their relationships and everyday lives and provide practical tools and strategies to empower highly sensitive people to thrive in an overstimulating modern world. To learn more about TomTom Falkenstein has worked as a cognitive behavioural psychotherapist since 2006. After obtaining his degree in psychology in the UK, he completed his postgraduate training in psychotherapy in Germany. He then moved back to the UK where he worked as a psychotherapist in London. During this period, he developed a particular interest in high sensitivity and working with highly sensitive people.  He has been training with Dr. Elaine Aron (author of The Highly Sensitive Person) since 2015. Currently practicing in Berlin, he also offers workshops for highly sensitive people in both English and German. The Highly Sensitive Man is his first book and was published in Germany 2017 and since has been translated into a number of other languages. Singer-Songrwiter-Activist Alanis Morissette  called the book 'a breath of fresh air in the midst of a cultural determination to reduce toxic masculinity. This book is a balm, a movement and a revelation."Instagram: @tom.falkensteinBook: The Highly Sensitive ManWebsite: hsp-eu.comSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

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I was shocked I couldn't find anything on the internet about the highly sensitive trait in men. So I decided to create one of the first videos about the topic. So here we go: The highly sensitive male. Act like a man for once! You are too sensitive for a man! Don't be so emotional! That's not masculine! Have you ever heard those phrases or told them yourself again and again in your head? Congratulations! Chances are high you are a highly sensitive man. Today we talk about why most Male HSPs constantly are denying their own reality and why this creates a lot of suffering in their life. ► Subscribe for Happiness! :) YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 ► About: UNDERSTANDABLE makes Mental Health, especially the Sensory-Processing Sensitivity Trait of Highly Sensitive People (HSP) understandable. ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

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The Sensitive Man by Poul William Anderson audiobook. Poul Anderson delves into the realm of human potential in this exciting story and asks some penetrating questions for us to think about. What if psychology finally enabled people to even partially control all those automatic reactions of our minds and bodies? What if we were not slaves to anger, fear, emotions, hormones, blood pressure and the thousand other things that our bodies 'take care of' from instant to instant? What if those things could be brought under the control even partially of our reason and minds? In this story one man stood between a power-hungry cabal and their world mastery—but a man of, shall we say, unusual talents. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you tend to process things more deeply than those around you? Do you get overloaded when there's too much information coming in? Are you empathic, tending to process emotions very deeply? Are you aware of subtle sensory information around you that others overlook?  If this sounds like you, you might be a Highly Sensitive Person.  Highly sensitive people experience unique challenges—and those challenges are even greater in our society for men with high sensitivity. On today's show, we speak with author and coach, William Allen. In 2016, Bill began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. Bill feels that highly sensitive men need to take their insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society.We think you'll enjoy our fascinating conversation on this unique topic.Websites:www.thesensitiveman.com www.brainpilots.comSocial media:https://www.facebook.com/thesensitivemanhttps://www.facebook.com/zallenw https://www.linkedin.com/in/wrallen/https://twitter.com/TheSensitiveMa1 www.Instagram.com/zallenwBooks: Confessions of a Sensitive Man, An Unconventional Defense of Sensitive MenOn Being a Sensitive Man, Success Strategies for Harnessing Your Highly Sensitive Nature#menswork #selfimprovement #menshealth#mensmentalhealth #mensemotions #mensemotionalhealth#personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #evryman #highlysensitiveman #highlysensitivemale #highlysensitivepeople #williamallen #billallenVisit the Authenticity Road website: authenticityroad.onlineConnect with us here.© Authenticity Road. All rights reserved.

What is a Man? Protector. Provider. Warrior. Sensitive? In our culture Sensitive is a negative word when used to describe a man. Yet so many of us are Highly Sensitive...but most wouldn't know it because they have been programmed to feel shame when we express emotions or tune into the subtle energies of our environment.In celebration of the Launch of my Men's Transformational Coaching Program, I want to dive in deeper on the topic of Highly Sensitive Men, the very group I am here to support. Learn 9 signs that you too are a Highly Sensitive Man, and understand why you chose this tremendous gift when you incarnated on Earth. It is not an easy path, but your presence and your gifts are so necessary as Humanity Evolves.Bonus! Learn 6 ways tricks to help you better live in peace and harmony as a Highly Sensitive Man.If you are ready to CELEBRATE your gift of Sensitivity, instead of numbing it out, visit my website at www.TheCrystallineMan.com and schedule a Discovery Call to learn more about my fully customized program, and how I am perfectly equipped to support you as you embrace your authentic self.Find me at:www.TheCrystallineMan.comwww.instagram.com/thecrystallinemanwww.tiktok.com/@thecrystallinemanor Email me:Connect@TheCrystallineMan.comSupport the show

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William Allen is a first-time author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He was awarded a prestigious Corporate Management Excellence award for his empathetic management style. He retired early from his corporate job to found his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. While in Bend, he co-organized the area's first Introvert/Highly Sensitive Person discussion group. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. He feels that males who are highly sensitive people need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society.Guest Website: https://thesensitiveman.com

William Allen is an author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive.  He retired early from his corporate job to start his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his first book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. His new book, On Being a Sensitive Man, is the follow up book, which focuses on how to live in the world as a sensitive man.  He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. Website: www.thesensitiveman.com www.brainpilots.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thesensitiveman https://www.facebook.com/zallenw LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wrallen/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/TheSensitiveMa1 Instagram: www.Instagram.com/zallenw

Today, we continue the conversation on manhood and masculinity and gain yet another perspective on what it means to be a man. This time, our guest helps us dive into the biblical influence of masculinity, and how Jesus has set an example of manhood for us all to follow.  This week, I'm joined by Dr. […] The post What It Means to Be a Sensitive Man with Dr. Andy Garrett first appeared on Ryan James Miller.

Bill is someone who was born in the 1950's and grew up in a culture where "men were men." His dad was a WW2 veteran and society told Bill that men were not supposed to be sensitive or emotional. From an early age though, Bill struggled with this and it wasn't until much later in life that he realized he actually had a highly sensitive personality trait (which about 20% of the entire population--men and women-- also have). He eventually became a psychology major and an author who spent a lot of time working to understand more about this trait. He has since published two books called, On Being a Sensitive Man, Success Strategies to Harness Your High Sensing Nature and, Confessions of a Sensitive Man, An Unconventional Defense of Sensitive Men. And as Bill puts it, "I wrote these books for every man or boy that was told that they are too sensitive or too emotional; that they aren't man enough or masculine enough simply because they feel more, sense more, and experience a broader range of emotions." This made for a really interesting and dynamic discussion. Bill is really knowledgable on the topic so he was able to explain the scientific and biological aspects of highly sensitive people; but we also dove into the societal and philosophical implications of it as well. Is high sensitivity an adaptive or maladaptive trait? Do we think older generations of men can ever be comfortable fully embracing this trait? If more men tapped into their high sensitivity would we have been able to defeat the evil in the world like we faced in WW2? Some of these questions were intentionally provocative, in the spirit of the show, to really try to explore the implications of being highly sensitive. And Bill was great at providing really thoughtful and candid responses to all of them. In the end, I think Bill is right that we need to embrace who we truly are, whether that be highly sensitive or not. That is obviously much easier said than done, but hopefully as we continue to evolve as humans it becomes much more prominent.

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Check it out on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/33Z4VsE Check it out on Apple: https://apple.co/3AHc2DT William Allen is an author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He retired early from his corporate job to start his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his first book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. His new book, On Being a Sensitive Man, is the follow up book, which focuses on how to live in the world as a sensitive man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. Dreams: Reframing what masculine means with his books Writing fiction screen plays and books Loves to travel and learn about culture Be a producer or screenwriter for a film How you can Help: Elaine Aaron… formulated what high sensitivity is all about Steven Spielberg to learn about his creative side Erik Clapton Elon Musk Have more highly sensitive people learn more about the trait, embrace the trait, and then start evangelizing the trait. Contact them at: Website: www.thesensitiveman.com www.brainpilots.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thesensitiveman https://www.facebook.com/zallenw LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wrallen/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSensitiveMa1 Instagram: www.Instagram.com/zallenw Email: william@brainpilots.com

Check it out on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/33Z4VsE Check it out on Apple: https://apple.co/3AHc2DT William Allen is an author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He retired early from his corporate job to start his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his first book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. His new book, On Being a Sensitive Man, is the follow up book, which focuses on how to live in the world as a sensitive man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. Dreams: Reframing what masculine means with his books Writing fiction screen plays and books Loves to travel and learn about culture Be a producer or screenwriter for a film How you can Help: Elaine Aaron… formulated what high sensitivity is all about Steven Spielberg to learn about his creative side Erik Clapton Elon Musk Have more highly sensitive people learn more about the trait, embrace the trait, and then start evangelizing the trait. Contact them at: Website: www.thesensitiveman.com www.brainpilots.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thesensitiveman https://www.facebook.com/zallenw LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wrallen/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSensitiveMa1 Instagram: www.Instagram.com/zallenw Email: william@brainpilots.com

My guest today is William (or Bill) Allen whom I met on the HSP Entrepreneur summit that Rose Cox organized last year. And we are talking about his experience doing business as a highly sensitive person. William is a first-time author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He was awarded a prestigious Corporate Management Excellence award for his empathetic management style. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. In this episode, you'll learn about doing business as a highly sensitive person as well as... What does it mean to be Highly Sensitive (HSP)? Can men be sensitive and still be masculine? How can we be more sensitive in business? What's our role to play in business? 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And I am so delighted to be with you and looking forward to it.  Sarah: Yeah. So we're going to go right deep into it as we do as highly sensitive people. And also as introverts, I find that we like to go deep. And so that's really also the topic of our conversation to talk about high sensitivity in business and. And what that means, and, and you identify as a highly sensitive male. So I'm really curious to hear the story about when you found out that you are a highly sensitive person and, and what that meant, like what changed when you found that out and learned more about what this trade is all about? So can you take us there and tell us. [00:01:00]  William: Sure. I, you know, I think my whole life I've known there's something different about me. I grew up in a very traditional part of the United States and we're. Male masculine role models were set in stone, so to speak and you had to follow along. And I found a lot of times it was hard for me to do that, and I knew that was something different about it, but this was way before Dr. Erin had published her book on high sensitivity. And it was probably just kind of in a sort of very formative stages with some of the other research that was going on about high sensitivity and children and so forth. But I had no navigational tools for that. And so I spent most of my life adapting myself to what. Men were expected to be like, and that was kind of going against my authentic self, but nevertheless, pressed on, because that was the pressure that I think a lot of men find [00:02:00] themselves under is trying to project this masculine side that doesn't allow for some of these other things that we term as sensitive. Probably about mid 2005 or 2006, somewhere around there. I found Dr. Aron's book. It was actually, somebody had sent me a newsletter and it was about high sensitivity and they had recommended the book highly. So I picked the book up and I read. And like, I think like most highly sensitive people, I went to the book and said, yep, that's me. That's me. That's me. That's me. That's me. And it, it resonated with me because it was the first time in any one particular place that I had seen. So many of the things, characteristics and traits that I. Enumerated and explained in one place. And so it really did make a lot of sense to me, but there is this problem. I was as a male, I was having a difficult time grasping [00:03:00] endorsing, you know, and believing that I was quote unquote, a sensitive man. And that was kind of the difficult point for me, even though I knew and acknowledged it, all these characteristics did fit me. The term sensitive was just something that kind of was like a roadblock for me mentally. And it honestly took me through about 10 years of mulling this over. Cause because it's kind of very much like a highly sensitive person anyway, is mulling this over and over in my head until probably about 2016. I started writing a blog about it. I think. This would be a good way of me putting my hand around it and doing a little research and understanding. And so I wrote a book, I mean, a blog for a couple of years and I just hit all the topics that I wanted to know about as a highly sensitive man. And by doing that. It was a way of allowing me to embrace and get answers for questions I had. And then eventually as a result of writing the blog, I wrote [00:04:00] my first book confessions of a sensitive man. And that's when I put it all together. And I think at that moment, this was a couple of years ago at that moment that I was doing that, I finally really started to say, you know what, this is who you are. There's nothing to be ashamed of. And this actually is quite a gift. And so that's when I, the sort of the loved ones, I read that my arms around being a sensitive man and saying, this is, this is who I am, and I'm not gonna apologize for it anymore. And that was a kind of a Eureka moment for me. So it was like the initial launch. You know, in the early two thousands, a ten-year period of struggling with it. I think a lot of men do have that problem. And it's, it's funny because it's not necessarily the trade it's the label that we give the trait that a lot of men struggle with and they kind of reject it. Yeah, it's  Sarah: interesting because I feel like, I guess the [00:05:00] experience is in this case, very different between. Men and women because the women, yes, there is some of that as well. Right. The criticism, or you're just so sensitive and, but it's, it's more probably seen as something positive in a woman where you're right. It's more negative in, in a, in a man. I remember reading this line that you said that your father told you, are you a man or are you a mouse? So, so it, it comes with this traditional upbringing and the idea that we think, well, men have to be strong and the opposite of, you know, sensitive. I guess the experience is very different, even though there might be struggle also with being in a female body experiencing being a highly sensitive person, but it's very different. Let let's look at, besides the term Sensitive let's look at the trade by itself. Like there's a lot of listeners on [00:06:00] this show that don't know what high sensitive, highly sensitive person what that means. Right. It just, maybe that's just a term that we, we came up with and we think, oh yeah, I'm very sensitive to certain things, but it's actually a, a personality trait. So can you tell us a little bit more about that?  William: Certainly ha highly, since highly sensitive people are high sensitivity is the scientific name for it is called sensory processing sensitivity. And that's a mouthful. Most people are used to the terminology, high sensitive, but sensory processing sensitivity is kind of the theory. And this is the thing that Dr. Aaron has been expounding for the last 30 years, sensory processing sensitivity. Is part of a larger theory called environmental sensitivity theory, and it has many different models underneath it. One of which is sensory processing sensitivity. And what environmental sensitivity [00:07:00] theory is addressing is how does the organism. React to the environment they're red. It's basically an environmental reaction to various environmental stimuli and so forth. Sensory processing, sensitivity individuals fall on a spectrum of sensitivity, right? And you think of a bell curve, right. Something we all remember from. High school math and at the very top end of this bell curve, which is really a curve about how sensitive people are within the environment they're in. Okay. The 20, 25%. And I'm now I'm hearing as high as 30% of human population has this trait of sensory processing sensitivity. Okay. That doesn't mean that the other 80% don't have it. It just means simply that those people at the Hyatt experience, environmental changes more. Pronounced. And so if it's a positive change, they react positive. It gets a negative change. They react [00:08:00] negatively. And the people that follow them, the other 80% react in a much more different way. And they've got to divide into three groups, the ones on the least and are called and they use a flower metaphor, which I think most people could understand. Dandelions are on the low end. They're very Hardy. They can adapt very well, easily and less sensitive to the environment. Tulips are in the mix. They're a little hardier than say the highly sensitive people are, but still nonetheless, they are affected by the environment as well. And then there's the orchids, which is what they call the highly sensitive people. Now with all that said, what I'm trying to say by this is that yes, there are individual characteristics that we acknowledge for highly sensitive people, but it's, it's a much broader thing. You're just overly reactive to things, or you're just too emotionally sensitive or you're too impacted by criticism or you're too frail. It's much more than that. What the outside world sees when they see those things. Is is the [00:09:00] reaction that we're having to environmental changes around us. Okay. And so it could be sensory environmental stuff. It could be emotional stuff, et cetera, et cetera. Now there's four characteristics, right? That we recognize now for highly sensitive people. And it's, you can use the acronym. Does D O E S D stands for depth, the process and highly sensitive people have this capacity. To take data information and process it at a very deep level. That means they connect dots, that push things together. Sometimes it leads to overthinking surely, but for the most part, you wind up with. Creative output if given the time and the space to do this deep processing, that high sensitive people do. That's why so many, highly creative people are highly sensitive because they have this capacity to do this. The O stands for overstimulation, which is something that happens as a result of being, getting too much data and having too much processing you have to do. Yeah. That's something [00:10:00] that a lot of people see and they, the term that comes from. You're too sensitive or you're being sensitive makes you weak, but that's not true. If you were getting the kind of data. That we were, we get typically in the high end of the sensitivity scale, it would be overwhelming for most people to, especially if you're doing all this processing with it as well. So it does get overwhelming at times. So that's a characteristic E stands for emotional reactivity. This is another thing that people tend to associate the highly sensitive people. We feel deeply, very deeply. We feel emotions at a very deep level. And that a lot of times appears to people to be overreacting. But in fact, it's simply just the way we process emotional information. The other part of the E is empathy. We're extremely empathetic people. We care about people. Lot of us are in the helping professions are doing things that help people do. That's where our heart [00:11:00] is. We're very empathetic individuals. And it's not, I don't know the exact physical mechanism that causes. There's a thing we refer to as mirror neurons that we all have, whether you're sensitive or not, that allows you to mirror back to the person you're with. In a, as a communication establishing link, right? So I don't know whether highly sensitive people have more mirror neurons or they have more finely defined in tune, mirror neurons. I don't know, but the fact is it's very important. And part of that empathetic part of us also can make us a little naive sometimes and trusting people. So it, is it be, it could be a two edge sword. The last. Is the sensory part of it. The doctor calls it, sensing the subtle in the environment. I'm not, I'm not sure that our sensory organs are more powerful or whatever, but I do think the filters that pass that information on. Are more open with us. I'd like to think of it like [00:12:00] an aperture and a camera. Ours is a little bit more open or maybe a lot more open depending on who we're comparing ourselves to, but it passes a lot of stuff to us. So the metaphor I always use, the analogy I always use is if you're walking into a party, a highly sensitive person will be that person who notices that the music may be too loud, that there's someone with perfume or cologne. And the other side of the room that it's too powerful. Or it could be something like we sense a vibe in the room because looking at body cues and things like that, we sense those things. We pick out that nuanced information and that makes us kind of valuable when you're talking about. One of the greater purposes for highly sensitive people is to serve as kind of Canary in the coal mine is to serve as a kind of an early warning system. So all four of those characteristics are the ones that are scientifically evidence-based characteristics. Now, a lot of people will talk about other things. Those are the four main ones that I like to kind of [00:13:00] stick with those, because we do know that there's evidence for them,  Sarah: So much in what you just shared. And, and it's kind of, it's funny because my, my brain is almost like overstimulated right now by listening to. These different concepts, but I think what would help also here is to give some specific examples. So I can give one, cause I, I just you know, experienced a four day workshop that I attended after not being anywhere in person, any kind of in-person events. So I, I went to this four day workshop 50 people. And I knew as an HSP, you kind of know already in advance. You're like, oh my God, this is going to be a lot. How am I going to deal with this? I hope I'm not going to get sick because of the overwhelm. So this is a very specific example where. As a highly sensitive [00:14:00] person, you need to kind of know your boundaries. You need to know when you want to be engaged. And when you want to have alone time, because you do need this extra processing time. And, and I admit that. I'm not there yet. Like, I still had very bad nights asleep because it was just so much information. Not just, I'm not just talking about the content, but just even meeting all these new people, my brain needs just do analyze everything. And that's that deep processing that then often, unfortunately, Over, you know, instead of sleeping. And, and so that's a specific example that I can think of right now. What example could you share bill? Well,  William: I think, I think that's a, that's a great example. It could be very easily generalized to just about every highly sensitive person. Although most highly sensitive people are introverts 70% [00:15:00] of. There's still a 30%. There are extroverts that you would think the extroverted high sensitive people would, would thrive in an environment where they're out meeting and greeting people and going like that. But the reality is they still have to have that downtime. So those things that you were talking about, that's always been something that I've had challenges with is getting out there, trying to do something new or try to do something that is. Not familiar for me and having to process all this kind of data, that I'm feedback data that I'm getting about, how I'm doing. A lot of that may be coming from me. It may be coming from people that I'm working with or people that I'm around. But that seems to be one area, especially with highly sensitive people that I think can be generalized to just about everybody in this category is because at some point you're right, you get out there. You're, you're trying something new. And you have to give yourself, allow [00:16:00] yourself the time to do this downtime, this assimilation process of doing things. That's one of the things with highly sensitive people too, that I think is kind of problematic. It's one, there's a lot of people out there who are highly sensitive, who don't know it, or they. I've never heard of highest since I've talked to people all the time and I, as I've talking to them, they go, you know, I think I'm highly sensitive and suddenly you see the light bulb go on. So that's part of the problem is getting people to embrace and understand the. And the other part is once you understand it, now you have an understanding, cause you've got a framework to work with is how do you deal with these times when you are overwhelmed? How do you deal with those times when you're out in the public eye or you're in a social function or whatever, what is it that you need to, how do you do that? You said something really great about boundaries too, because I highly sensitive people combos have this kind of. Loose boundary system that allows too [00:17:00] much in sometimes. And in some times, in some cases allows the wrong people in who can crossover these boundaries that we should be setting up and it causes a an so an emotional effect on us. So part of it is learning to deal with, with the, the characteristics. Cause there are challenges to them. But it's still on whole, is this great and wonderful gift. And that's part of doing that part of assimilating. That is the idea of how do I deal with those moments when I struggle, when I, you know, overstimulated or I I'm feeling too deeply and it's not the appropriate time. How do I regulate myself? So those are kinds of things that I think highly sensitive people need to learn to be able to do, because those kinds of experiences you're talking about. Half an hour all the time, especially to heart sensitive people. Sarah: I feel like the struggles. So the things where we need to learn, how to deal with [00:18:00] having that trait that's kinda what we focus on because we don't really understand how we would be if we didn't have to trade. And we don't know. How much he brings to us. So you mentioned, for example, as a positive, it's connecting the dots or, you know, sensing the room and then making adjustments to me, that is just so natural that I listen and then I go, oh, okay. Here's the answer that. I don't know how it would be if I didn't have the traits. So that doesn't necessarily come out as a positive to me. What I do see though is how society is not meant or, you know, quotation marks for HSPs. And so it always feels like, oh, I need to fight against a system. So it, yeah. Do you recognize yourself in that?  William: Absolutely. And I think part of, part of it again is [00:19:00] this is a. When I visit a lot of social media groups where they're talking about high sensitive topics. Very often, I think what's happening is a lot of people who are new to the trade are coming on line with it. And naturally you want to go someplace where you've got other people like yourself, but the focus tends to be on, I won't say necessarily the negative side, but the, certainly the challenges and the focus seems to go there as opposed to. How do you deal with it? Or how do I, how do I cope with this? And a lot of people do jump in and that is, what's great about the support side of that. But the idea ultimately is to say, okay, this is a, a wonderful gift and like most wonderful gifts. There's a price you have to pay for having it. It's just a kind of a balancing thing with it. And I think As highly sensitive people, we need to learn these little strategies, these tips and things. And none of this is complicated. I mean, it's just not as putting them all [00:20:00] together in the framework of who you are as a highly sensitive person. And when you do that, you start to realize I could do this breathing exercise. It can calm me down, or I definitely need to go. So. For 25, 30 minutes an hour or two hours, and just calm down and relax and process. Once you understand that's part of your normal wiring, that's how your brain works. It's not a, it's not a dysfunction. Then you approach it diff because you see it in a different light. Now, you know, this is how I'm constructed.  Sarah: Yeah. Yeah. So good to kind of stay with the positive side. What, how do you saying, can we be more sensitive in business and what kind of role do we get to play as highly sensitive people in this? I call it the new business paradigm, you know, kind of the post COVID to me, that is the beginning of the new business paradigm. So how [00:21:00] does that look like and what can our role be?  William: I think we have a very significant role to play, not only in business, but in, in all aspects of life, but let's focus on business because frankly, most of us spend most of our life doing some type of business, whether we're running a business, a small business, or we're part of a large corporate environment or large company or whatever. And I think highly sensitive people. Can have positive effects on both environments. It may be a little more difficult. And I keep hearing this over and over again, that for highly sensitive people, very often doing the entrepreneurial thing is, is more conducive to setting the environment that you need to have in order to be happy and thrive. But it does have its own challenges because you're it, you're the boss. You're the one who has to make everything work. And if you've got employees, you've got to make it work for them too. In the corporate environment. It's a little more challenge because it's more [00:22:00] confined. You can only do so many things and so forth, but I think. From a corporate perspective, highly sensitive people can start having an impact on how the environment is constructed because that's so important to us. Right. What kind of a seating situation there is? Is there good lighting is it is, is Is it too hot or too cold in there. And the environment are is there too much noise, too many distractions, et cetera, et cetera. And there's some things probably that we could detect and participate in trying to evolve the environment we're working in and a more empathetic way in looking at how we treat others and within the environment, especially in, within management and within areas that where you're leading people, right. On the entrepreneurial side, I think this is really where we can shine because frankly we can define a business that a is successful. And yet still adheres to, and I love the term you use the humane part of business. This part of [00:23:00] business unfortunately seems to be getting further and further away from us. And I really think what's happening. COVID being the great example is that's opened up. So out of the box here Pandora's box, if you will open up that box and we can look at what we do and how we do things, and that can help HSPs could be instrumental there as well by saying. These kinds of things are more conducive to my better work environment. It probably will be. So for other people as well, not necessarily everybody, but it will, there are certain things, kindness in business, you know, it's not always about competing is sometimes it's about cooperating. So that everyone benefits from something, these are the kind of concepts that are. To highly sensitive people because of our empathetic nature and are wanting to be good stewards, not only of our environment, whether it's work environment, whether it's our life.[00:24:00]  But that's some of the things I think that highly sensitive people can do to affect change and your good ideas and your good thinking and all those things are important, but we tend to be wallflowers when it comes to. Participating in that way, we don't feel like our ideas are good enough. We don't feel like they're going to be accepted. And this is where we need to start recognizing again, our strength and where that is in terms of what we bring to the table. That being able to observe things that other people are missing means that we may have to work a little harder to get the point across, but it doesn't make it less valid because nobody else has seen it. Mm. Sometimes we're the first ones to see it. And I think in, in, in both entrepreneurial world and corporate world, I think those things are valuable characteristics to be able to be a good creative problem solver and be very empathetic and intuitive.  Sarah: Yeah. When, when you said we, [00:25:00] we are sometimes the first ones to see the problem and others don't see it at yet. That definitely resonates with me with, you know, my journey from gentle marketing to humane marketing. And, and only now really people are like, Oh, yeah, that's exactly what we need. We need a humane marketing revolution, but 2, 3, 4 years ago, I started talking about that and nobody, I was like, hello, you know, I'm all by myself here. And, and, and it's yeah, again, I would kind of say, well, it's a gift, but it's kind of a hidden gift because I felt I really felt alone, but I agree with you that. That's, those are the Mavericks that we need to bring the change. Right. Otherwise, nothing changes if nobody sees the new things that need to be brought in. So yeah, sometimes  William: it's, it's not just seeing something new, but it's also [00:26:00] seeing something that's missing, you know, like a puzzle piece that's not there yet. And being able to recognize that that's. You know maybe a standard way of doing things at this point that needs to be because it's missing, right. That's again, that's what I love about this humane marketing and humane sales and things that you have written about is because that's the framework we need to be operating under. And if we're going to really shift the way business looks at things and how business interacts with the insurance. At the fundamental core level, it has to be more human. It has to be about protecting all of us. And I think that it starts with that kind of shall we call it sensitivity to what's going on in the business?  Sarah: Yeah. Now, bill, you kinda know the story that the transformation from gentle, the word gentle that I used before to then [00:27:00] switching to humane and, and I found it interesting, kind of the resistance I got from mainly from the male audience to the word gentle. Everybody else kinda loved the word gentle, but a lot of males. Well either they were not attracted to it at all, or if they were they're like, yeah, you know, it's not a great word. And so the minute I changed it to humane, a lot of more men are now showing up and saying, yeah, that, that is interesting to us. So what do you, what are you thoughts on, on this? How come we can be sensitive? Do you words, just like we said before, you know, highly sensitive people, P men are like, Ooh, I don't know. I don't want to be that. I think it's the same with the word gender.  William: Exactly. I don't know. I'm absolutely positive. It is. Although, you know, it's a lot of it don't have the problem being called a [00:28:00] gentle man when a gentleman, right. They don't have a problem with that, but they do have a problem with, if you were to cut the word in half and say gentle man, they might find that a little different to the tape and assimilate. Yeah. You know, when we talk about things like sensitivity and why it's so hard for, especially for men, but it's hard for a lot of people too, because if you've been labeled your whole life as being too sensitive and that's been considered to be not a good thing, Then the last thing you want to do is be called sensitive because all those memories, all that maybe unconscious material that, that was negative to you has been associated with a, a very neutral word sensitive, right. It really is more sensitive as more about. Sensory than it is about emotional reactivity or anything else. In fact, I was D D I wrote a blog article about sensitivity and what's wrong with the word general. I mean, with what's wrong with the [00:29:00] word sensitive. And I looked it up, you know, I looked up at Webster's type definition for it. Nowhere in there was. Sensory processing sensitivity, you know, it was, it was frail or weak or overly emotional, whatever, those kinds of terms. So that sort of is why so many people struggle with it. Now with men. And I even highly sensitive, man, I've had highly sensitive men telling me, well, if I'm around a bunch of highly sensitive guys, I don't mind using the term, but if I'm in a place where there is a mixed crowd, I just can't see myself using it. And so I think that's why there is a sort of gentle movement. I like that to sort of shift away from sense sensitive is a term that we refer to ourselves as, and moving it towards high sensory intelligence. This is something Dr. Tracy Cooper is working on with a few others, and the idea is to give it a much more positive sort of connotation. Then it's like, we all know. [00:30:00] That there's nothing wrong with the term word sensitive. It's just that if you throw it out in the world, it comes back with mud on it. I don't know why it just does. So as we're getting people to understand about the. And understand that it's a positive and understand that it's not a disorder. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Perhaps if we label it something, put a different candy wrapper on it, it'll be better in the long term, so that people call it at least investigate and learn about it and understand it. And I, I think that's the important thing.  Sarah: Yeah. I agree with you. It's like. Yeah. It's like starting off with the wrong foot already when you were saying, you know, because it would be helpful for us to maybe deal better with boundaries. If we can say we are this and that, you know, we are highly sensitive, but the minute you say highly sensitive people. Oh, okay. [00:31:00] Go deal with it. So having a term that is kind of neutral, I think would be more helpful and it wouldn't take so much courage to actually say it like, you know, introvert it's, it's almost. It had in the beginning, it had a little bit of a bad connotation to it, but now it's more widely accepted. So, so maybe it just highly sensitive, also needs to go through some kind of transformation in order to be more widely accepted and not with so much,  William: it was a speaker. Cause I know this is your area's marketing it's sometimes the terminology makes a difference. Right? It's. You just sometimes have you wind up with a turn, that's just, isn't going to fly it even though, you know, you don't mean one thing or the other with it. It's how is it perceived by the world? If the world says, you know, we're not going to embrace this and you're really, you're fighting a hill battle here. And I think [00:32:00] sometimes just a little pivot and a little shift, which is what I think is happening here. More people open up to it.  Sarah: It's funny that, you know, I went through this with gentle to humane and now we're having to do the same thing with highly sensitive. Yeah. It is. It is really marketing the term. Right. And, and, and I think. It will be only beneficial to all the highly sensitive people to have a term where they don't feel like they have to apologize. It's almost like you have to apologize for being that. Yeah,  William: exactly. Here's the funny thing about it though, is it it's took me 10 years to get to the point where I could accept sensitive and not be ashamed to talk about. When I was writing the book, I had to say something about what are you writing a book about? And then it's like, there's this blank to hit? My face is like, how do I describe this? So I just started. Saying, it's a book about high sensitivity and men [00:33:00] and, and you could see the look on their face. And then I would immediately go in and explain and get a foothold with them before. At some point almost everybody male and female would say, you know what? I know somebody like that, I have a cousin like that, or I have a, a brother like that, or I have a parent like that, or one of my kids. It becomes relatable that. And once you get them past that term. So I'm okay with whatever they, the direction is with, wants to change the name. That's fine. I'm okay. If it steaks sticks around for a number of years, I got used to it. Now I'm  Sarah: afraid we've done the work. Yeah. It's all about, you know, doing the work and accepting it. I think that's, that's why. Yeah. We're, we're having this conversation under the P of personal power because. Once you own it and you do the work, then, then it becomes your power. It becomes your superpower. Like at this [00:34:00] workshop I just went up to the host and I said, I'm not going to be participating in the evening workshops. It's too much for me. And she said, oh, I really applaud you for being brave to show up and say that. And so it, it felt like. Being perceived in a good way. Even though it did take me some courage to go up to her and be the only one who didn't want it, or we've  William: got a great example. That was a great example of. Setting up boundaries and standing up for yourself. That's what I think more highly sensitive people need to be okay with doing that kind of. Yeah. Sarah: And the difficult part, I think is that you need to learn to say no to the things that you want to do. It's easy to say no to the things we don't want to do, but it's harder to say no to the things that you actually would like to do. You know, I, I know I was missing out on some of the events in the evening, [00:35:00] but I need to do prioritize self care before that. So.  William: Absolutely. Yeah. And that is so key. That's so key to be able to do that. Tell  Sarah: us more about your book before we wrap up here.  William: The last, the first book confession of a sensitive man, it came out about a year or two ago was really my experiences of growing up as a highly sensitive man. Some anecdotes from my life and that kind of thing. And it was trying, I was trying to write a relatable book for men to read who could say, look, you know we may not have had exactly same experiences, but I can relate to what, what you went through. The second book, the one that just recently came out is more of a kind of a trail guy is what I like to call it. I use a lot of metaphors for trails and hiking because I like doing it. But it's kind of a trail guide. On being a sensitive man, dealing with some of the things that challenges that we deal with, whether it's workplace or whether it's relationships or whether it's environment having to sort of stand up for yourself, setting those [00:36:00] boundaries and things like that. And so ideas on brain training, how to keep, teach your mind to calm down and things you can do to make your brain more resilient. So it's kind of a tool kit of things that I had discovered throughout the course of my life. The funny thing about my life is that I had been sampled so many different things and I never understood the time why I was doing that. Just all kinds of techniques and books and theories and so forth and so on. And it turns out that it was useful in helping them construct this book. So that's, even though you're doing stuff that you don't really get half the time, sometimes it'll come and play later on in life.  Sarah: Yeah. It's that part? The connecting dots,  William: right? Exactly. That finally the dots make sense, right? Yeah. Yeah, that's true. But anyway, that's kind of what the book is about. And it's also about my hopes of where we go from here. And what's  Sarah: the title of the second one it's  William: called on being a sensitive man. And so it's about, you know, now that [00:37:00] we've established that we're sensitive men, how do we, how do we live with it? How do we deal with it and how do we go forward? We are  Sarah: so good. This has been absolutely fantastic. I could go on and on tell you all about my specific examples, but yeah, we need to wrap up. So I really, really appreciate your time here. I always have one last question and that is what are you grateful for today or this week? William: Well, I, you know what, one of the things, I guess I'm grateful for is all the wonderful people that I've met and on this journey so far, and every week, there's always somebody new that gets sort of added to the list that shared experiences is validating. Especially if you're stepping out on a limb and you're saying, you know, talking about things that are sometimes difficult to deal with. Having a network of great people. That are [00:38:00] somehow connected to you. That's that's, I'm extremely grateful for that.  Sarah: Wonderful. Yeah. Yeah. Me too. Like the podcast for this is one of the best things I've ever done for my business as an introvert and HSP to just, you know, di. Into it and go really deep. And then at night, allow myself to process and really digest information as well. I think as a consequence of, of realizing that deep processing, I, I also just slowed down the podcasting and only release an episode every two weeks. Again, it's about boundaries and really feeling into it. And. You know what it's actually too much for me. Do you kind of just, you know, like a factory split of these podcasts, I need to sit with the humans for a bit and really, yeah. Go  William: deeper. We are, you, you're a real natural, I I've enjoyed this [00:39:00] conversation. I enjoyed speaking with you. So thanks for having me, you know?  Sarah: Yeah. Thank you so much for coming on and we'll speak again. Take care.

My guest on this episode of the Barbells & Brothers podcast is William Allen. William is an author of two books about being a highly sensitive man. He also has a blog called The Sensitive Man. William's mission is to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they can fill in our society. It is estimated that about twenty percent of the world's population is made up of individuals with the Highly Sensitive personality trait.  About half of that group is comprised of males. That's about 500-700 million men. Many if not most of those men know that they are different, but don't know about the personality trait. William's goal is to share with these men about how they can see the trait as a gift and needed right now in our time.  

“Toughen up. Be a man. Don't be so sensitive.”   As a young boy, these are some of the messages you might have heard. Society tells us that men are supposed to be strong, successful and never show emotion.    It's time to challenge the stigma that men can't be sensitive. If you have a tendency to pick up on nuances or think deeply about ideas, it may be because you're a highly sensitive person (HSP).    Highly sensitive people are believed to make up 20% of our population. It's a trait that's equally common among both men and women, yet often misunderstood. My guest today is an author of two important books: Confessions of a Sensitive Man and On Being a Sensitive Man.   On today's episode, William Allen joins me to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. He shares how we can learn to embrace this gift and live in the world as sensitive men.   We discussed:   4 science-based traits that define a highly sensitive personality Why highly sensitive people often need more alone time than others Redefining masculinity within the scope of being a sensitive man The evolutionary reason why highly sensitive people are here How William overcame perfectionism to embrace his natural talent   Links www.thesensitiveman.com www.brainpilots.com The Highly Sensitive Person quiz   Connect with William on social: https://www.facebook.com/thesensitiveman https://www.linkedin.com/in/wrallen/ https://twitter.com/TheSensitiveMa1 www.instagram.com/zallenw

Over 30% of the world's population has a personality trait called Sensory Processing Sensitivity. People with this trait are often referred to as highly sensitive people or HSPs. Most of the world considers HSPs too sensitive. Sensitive people often react emotionally or temporarily shut down to a quiet place. However, what may seem to be a disorder is actually a gift. HSPs are often the wise counselors, advisors, compassionate, and nurturing people who are here to sense when things are awry and aid the rest of humanity with cautious and thoughtful advice. There has never been a better time in history for HSPs to rise and fulfill their duty to humankind than right now. During this episode, I interview William Allen, author, and Highly Sensitive Men expert. As an author of two books on being a highly sensitive man, he brings his years of life experience and research to help highly sensitive men to embrace this wonderful trait. For HSP men, it is often difficult to admit to being sensitive. Most of this is because of a lack of understanding. With education and support, HSP men can embrace the trait and model a new type of masculinity that will help in reshaping the way men see themselves – more in touch with emotions, more nurturing, and more intuitive.    William is a former corporate manager that retired early to become a certified hypnotist, coach, and neurofeedback trainer. He has recently focused his energy on helping HSP men to embrace the trait of sensitivity. Listen in on this show if you'd like to find out: How to find out if you are a highly sensitive person?What are the four main characteristics of highly sensitive people?What are the main challenges highly sensitive men face?How can you best support a highly sensitive man?

Let's think about "Being a sensitive man." It's a topic that covers the stigma of boys and men needing to act more "masculine". Tune in as we explore the taboo conversating about embracing your own sensitivity.

William Allen is an author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He was awarded a prestigious Corporate Management Excellence award for his empathetic management style. He retired early from his corporate job to found his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. While in Bend, he co-organized the area's first Introvert/Highly Sensitive Person discussion group. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. In this episode, Bill and I discuss the evolution and function of the Highly Sensitive Personality Trait. A highly sensitive person (HSP) is a term used to describe the group of people who process information deeply - this includes emotions, thoughts and sensory stimuli. Like any personality trait, there are both advantages and disadvantages and exists as a spectrum. High sensitivity is often associated with creativity, empathy, and insight but also tends to mean they are more prone to being overwhelmed by stressors and sensory input. Being an HSP isn't a bad thing, and William is on a mission to spread the word and help educate people.  As Bill explains, HSPs are often misunderstood in our modern times, and HSPs often feel undervalued, overlooked, or rejected by society - this can lead to feelings of aloneness, estrangement, and needing to ‘hide' their true selves. This tends to be especially true of highly sensitive men who do not conform to normative standards of ‘ideal' masculinity. William wants to change the way we think of what it means to be a man in today's world. He argues that we should start to re-examine the values we attribute to ideal men, and open the conversation to include the strengths of sensitivity, intuition, and insight.  Get a copy of William's Books: Confessions of a Sensitive Man: An Unconventional Defense of Sensitive Men  On Being a Sensitive Man: Success Strategies for Harnessing Your Highly Sensing Nature  More of William:

William Allen is an author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He retired early from his corporate job to start his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his first book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. His new book, On Being a Sensitive Man, is the follow up book, which focuses on how to live in the world as a sensitive man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. Contact number: 1-541-647-0621 Links for Bill: Website: www.thesensitiveman.com www.brainpilots.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thesensitiveman https://www.facebook.com/zallenw LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wrallen/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSensitiveMa1 Instagram: www.Instagram.com/zallenw --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/new-mind-creator/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/new-mind-creator/support

Chris Hopper was born and raised in Boulder, Colorado. He began studying classical piano at the age of 5 which sparked in him a love for music that has continued until this day. Today he plays gigs professionally with various bands playing everything from jazz, funk, hip hop, and jam band to world music. Movement has always been part of his life. Chris was a gymnast and freestyle skier growing up and today practices and teaches parkour. He also joined my dance company The AscenDance Project in 2013. What makes him an incredible dancer and performer is that he feels very deeply. When creating choreography, Chris has an incredible sensitivity toward the music and the emotion it evokes. His willingness to be vulnerable is what has allowed him to create magic, not only on stage, but also in everyday life. In our conversation, Chris shares what it's like to be a highly sensitive man in this world, someone who cries and shows emotions, what it felt like growing up and how he hopes to help others through his own process and growth. Chris has been working with kids for many years and most recently developed a young man's right of passage group called ‘The Next Generation of Men Tribe' with his friend Garrett Braun. To learn more about his company, please visit https://www.rockymountainrites.com/

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I interviewed William Allen. Willian is an author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He retired early from his corporate job to start his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his first book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. His new book, On Being a Sensitive Man, is the follow-up book, which focuses on how to live in the world as a sensitive man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society.I encourage the listeners to follow him and learn. Everyone has a story, and this is his story.Below is the site that houses his workwww.thesensitiveman.comVisit our Threads store:  https://threads-of-enlightenment.myshopify.com/We shop worldwide to find some of the highest-quality and some limited hard-to-find products online for you. We work closely with many suppliers to get the lowest prices. Enjoy our store!!!!!!. Instacart - Groceries delivered in as little as 1 hour. Free delivery on your first order over $35.Our Aroma Our Aroma brings a whole new personalized approach to the health and beauty sector.Foxtrot Market Your one-stop-shop for local favorites and today's most exciting brands.BannerBuzz Customizable Signs/Banners, Free Design Templates & SupportDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=2QSM5QR4P2JQQ)

William Allen is an author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He retired early from his corporate job to start his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his first book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. His new book, On Being a Sensitive Man, is the follow up book, which focuses on how to live in the world as a sensitive man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/happinessjourney/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/happinessjourney/support

William writes...“On many occasions, Dr. Elaine Aron has written that Highly Sensitive People were designed by nature to perform an evolutionary function. We are the wise counselors, the cautious advisors, and the thoughtful and empathetic souls who aid the human race. We are at an important juncture in human history. A form of exploitative and dominance-focused masculinity has been running the planet for millennia. The consequences of this form of masculinity are evidenced in the planet's current state. We as a planet are in a state of imbalance, as we allow this form of distorted masculinity to jeopardize our future. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. As we know it in the West, masculinity is not always inclusive, emotionally expressive, empathetic, intuitive, or nurturing – all qualities that HSPs come by naturally. As a result, HSP men have often been left out of this exclusive club, as have many others identifying as male. This must change not only for men's sake but also for the planet. It is important to understand that masculinity is by and large a cultural construct and is learned. We can reshape the construct to be less toxic for men, allowing men to become fully human in their ability to be authentic, loving, strong, empathetic, and constructive. Being a male is not the issue. It is about the cloak of masculinity that many men wear, which is hurtful and dangerous. I believe that HSP men and members of the LGBTQ+ community can serve as role models for this new form of masculinity. These two communities share a common goal of recognition and inclusion.” William Allen is an author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. After getting a degree in Psychology with an eye on doing psychology research, he recalibrated for a career in Information Technology. He found himself in a thirty-year career as an Information Technology manager at Wells Fargo who enjoyed managing highly intelligent, often difficult staff, many of whom were highly sensitive. He retired early from his corporate job to start his Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his first book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. His new book, On Being a Sensitive Man, is the follow-up book, which focuses on how to live in the world as a sensitive man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society. www.thesensitiveman.com Explore more episodes on The HSP Podcast at HSPpodcast.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/julie-bjelland/message

William Allen is a first-time author with a writer's heart and researcher's mind. He started a Hypno-coaching and neurofeedback brain training business, BrainPilots, in Bend, Oregon. While in Bend, he co-organized the area's first Introvert/Highly Sensitive Person discussion group. In late 2016, he began his blog, The Sensitive Man, about his experiences, as a highly sensitive man. The blog became the genesis of his book, Confessions of a Sensitive Man. He feels that HSP males need to take their keen insights and intuition and make them public. He would like to shed more light on highly sensitive males and the much-needed role they need to take in our society.https://www.thesensitiveman.com

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In this week's podcast I speak with the author Bill Allen, who wrote 'Confessions of a Sensitive Man'; a book reflecting on aspects of his life as a highly sensitive person. Through his work Bill wants to raise awareness and help others (especially men) understand, accept, and integrate the depths of who they truly are. It was great to chat with Bill about some of the joys and challenges that we both experience as highly sensitive people in the world today. Sensory Processing Sensitivity is a trait found in over 100 species, and makes up a fifth of the human population. Despite misconceptions, high sensitivity is about more than being highly emotional. It plays a cautionary role in evolutionary terms and is systematically baked into humankind as a way to identify and warn of potential risks and sources of harm in the world around us. High sensitivity is defined by Elaine Aron through the acronym, D.O.E(e).S: Depth of Processing HSPs take information and grind it down in order to get every bit of data out of it (both consciously and unconsciously). They have a deep sensory experience of the world. This can sometimes lead to rumination and 'overthinking'. Overstimulation HSPs usually have an open aperture for picking up sensory data. They let a lot of information in and this can result in overstimulation when they're out in the world all the time. They require regular down time to recalibrate before getting back out there again. Empathy HSPs have a deep capacity for empathy through highly active mirror neurones. This can influence and colour interactions as HSPs absorb the moods and feelings of those around them. Emotional Reactivity HSPs are often easily affected and moved by things happening in and around them. Sensory Acuity/Subtleties HSPs often pick up environmental sensory information that others might not. This 'nuancing' ability allows HSPs to find things around them and make connections. This is also a big reason many artists and creative people are highly sensitive. The Aperture of High Sensitivity We might think of high sensitivity like a camera lens. A longer shutter time and wider aperture means more data is absorbed. This leads to noticing more and the risk of overexposure and overwhelm from the inward flow of information. With a naturally wider aperture, Highly Sensitive People need regular downtime in order to internally recalibrate, process, and re-charge. Take Your Comfort Zone With You Humans instinctively move towards pleasure and away from pain. When we experience a strong emotional response to something it can become overwhelming and feel out of our control. Bill and I talked about the role the 'comfort zone' has when it comes to our relationship with growth (and quitting things) as highly sensitive people. He encourages us to think of our comfort zone as something that expands with us. There are always going to be uncomfortable and imperfect things that we need to do in life. For highly sensitive people it's important to nurture a safe relationship with the comfort zone. It's important to find ways to let go and absorb these things rather than quitting what truly matters. Quitting vs Giving Up This highlights a difference between 'quitting' and 'giving up'. These words are not definitive descriptions, but they can highlight an important distinction between two types of letting go. Quitting is an intentional and active decision to let go of something that you know isn't right for you. Giving up is letting go of something that is important to you (a decision you know you might lament and regret later on). In this sense, quitting is an intentional and informed choice to let go of something that doesn't fit your broader vision for life. Whereas giving up is an emotional reaction in order to avoid/stop a fear or pain. Using Deadlines and Boundaries When we experience fear we instinctively want to eliminate the source of it.

What are some of the challenges that highly sensitive men face? What should you keep in mind when parenting a highly sensitive son? How can highly sensitive men learn to develop and protect their sensitivity? In this podcast, I interview Tom Falkenstein about what it means to be a highly sensitive man. We discuss how you can exercise emotional self-regulation, as well as how to parent a highly sensitive son. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Instagram and Facebook. Sign up for my Free Email Course. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here WEBSITE: www.amiokpodcast.com

Are you a highly sensitive man? How can you as a highly sensitive man understand the gifts behind your sensitivity trait and protect them from societal pressures? What sort of self-care should you put in place to prioritize both your mind and body as a highly sensitive man? Today I speak with Tracy Cooper, Ph.D. who is an active researcher, author, and educator. Dr. Cooper is Assistant Professor for Baker University's Doctor of Education (Ed.D.) in leadership in higher education degree. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Instagram and Facebook. Sign up for my Free Email Course. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here WEBSITE: www.amiokpodcast.com

For those of us who want to start writing a book, especially fiction, William gives some great tips to getting started. The Pandemic gave some people the push that they needed to try (perfectly fine if you didn't have the capacity to do so). There are so many ways to do this, even if your dream is to write a book.Check out the blog post hereBuy Living off The HustleBuy Me a Coffee (or Book) William Allen, an HSP male. I have just published a book called, Confessions of a Sensitive Man, An Unconventional Defense of Sensitive Men. I wrote this book for every man or boy that was told that they are too sensitive or too emotional; that they aren't man enough or masculine enough simply because they feel more, sense more, and experience a broader range of emotions. (Website)I am a retired corporate executive who has been writing a blog on male sensitivity for the past four years, www.thesensitiveman.com. 

In this episode Mal and Rich look to speak to the experience of what it is like to be a sensitive man. For many years sensitive men have been often been looked down upon and derided in our society, which has often had a massive effect on those boys growing up with a more sensitive disposition. Recently there has been a change, and sensitivity has become a much more desirable trait in men. However, for many men being sensitive is still a foreign experience, while for those whom sensitivity is a natural state still often feel misunderstood and often 'less of a man'. With this episode Mal and Rich look to decipher what being sensitive actually means, and in doing so they reveal just how much of a superpower sensitivity actually is. When we as men can balance our sensitive, connected side with our ability to lead ourselves and others powerfully, with clarity, strength and grounded self-expression, we can truly be a unique and useful force for good in the world, standing alongside women and moving forward together. If, after listening to this episode, you feel like you would like to talk to Rich further about how you can turn your sensitivity into a super power you can contact him in these ways: His website: https://www.re-align.co Instagram: richrealign YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCgPM1XBK1PjsYsTRhZNoPJA The Men's Program: https://manrealigned.lpages.co/man-re-aligned/

In this episode, I interview Bill Allen, creator of “The Sensitive Man” blog.  Bill shares his insights and life experiences as a highly sensitive man, and he discusses his upcoming book “Confessions of a Sensitive Man: An Unconventional Defense of Sensitive Men”.  We cover a host of topics relating to being an HSP male in the modern world. The Sensitive Man Blog http://www.thesensitiveman.com/ Also, I was recently a guest on the Nutrition Translator podcast where I discuss all things HSP. You can listen here: https://bit.ly/3271kHs   TheHSPExperience.com Support the podcast Instagram Twitter YouTube Songs for Highly Sensitive People

Did you know that the trait "sensory processing sensitivity" is found in both women AND men? Not just that...it's found in equal numbers. Sensitivity is not linked with our sex. I talk a lot about the challenge of being a highly sensitive person, but I thought it might be useful to highlight this fact (that it's not correlated with either sex). I thought it especially important given the climate we all live in right now...where it is easy to assume that men have all the power. It turns out, men are struggling, too. Just in different ways. In this podcast, I will first talk about the challenges men face in general. I talk about the fact that they are imprisoned in higher numbers, and they account for a greater number of suicides. Then I go into the specific challenge that highly sensitive men face in a world that seems to celebrate rough and tumble boxed-in versions of masculinity. 

Stephen Mullan is a great stand up comedian, actor, and has a terrific podcast called Hello Stevo. He's a great man, and we chat about him growing up the son of a Cork Preacher, and an Argentinian immigrant, being sensitive, and the last dance.

Robert Estrada from History of the Marine Corps Podcast once again joins us for the Romantic Comedy portion of Heartbreak Ridge. In this minute Aggie catches her ex hanging out in a parked car, reading women's magazines. Their friendly banter quickly turns ugly. The next day Lt. Ring prepares the Marines of Recon for their next combat exercise.Check out Robert's Excellent Podcast:https://www.historyofthemarinecorps.com/Join Us: Instagram: MarinecorpsmovieminutepodTwitter: MCMM_PodcastFacebook: MarineCorpsMovieMinuteMarine Corps Movie Minute Quarterdeck: https://www.facebook.com/groups/545010009420157/

Finally, we have our episode on Bedazzled. We hear from a few of our listeners as we discuss our thoughts on this fan favorite. Fun Fact: This is an episode 8 months in the making because Daniel messed up his audio file back in June 2019 and we just now re-recorded it.