Jealousy Junkie

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn unpacks one of the most misunderstood truths about jealousy: it doesn't start in your mind—it starts in your body.If you've ever told yourself “I'm just going to think positive thoughts” or “I'll be chill tonight”—only to spiral the moment your partner picks up their phone—then go ahead and hit play now.Shanenn introduces a nervous system-based approach to jealousy, built around her signature BAM Method: Body And Mind. You'll learn how to stop shaming your reactions, calm your nervous system, and respond in a healthier way—rather than fear, panic, or reactivity.This episode is a must-listen for anyone stuck in the cycle of body-based jealousy and emotional spirals.Golden Episode Nuggets:

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with thought habit strategist and author Amy Kemp to unpack one of the most damaging patterns women struggle with—tying our self-worth to performance.From subconscious thought loops to resentment signals, Amy shares the surprising truth behind why we feel exhausted, unseen, and over-obligated—and what we can do to reclaim our identity and energy.If you're spiraling in your own pool of thoughts, this episode will help you understand the thought habits secretly draining you and how to replace them with empowering defaults.Golden Episode Nuggets:

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with clinical psychologist and gratitude expert Dr. Peggy DeLong known as The Gratitude Psychologist to explore how gratitude can be a lifeline in life's hardest seasons.Whether you're navigating grief, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm, Peggy shares the science and soul behind why gratitude is most powerful on your worst days not your best. From the moment she found comfort in a cup of hazelnut coffee while sitting at her fiancé's deathbed, to her 5-minute daily gratitude practice, this episode is packed with perspective shifts that can change the way you cope, connect, and heal.If you've ever thought “I know I should be grateful, but I just can't right now,” this conversation is for you.

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with psychologist, leadership advisor, and author Bob Rosen to explore what it really means to let go—not of people, but of the stories, fears, and beliefs that silently run your life.Whether you're obsessively checking your partner's texts, chasing success but never feeling satisfied, or stuck in pain from your past, Bob's message is clear: your attachments are stealing your peace.Together, they unpack how detaching from control, perfection, and outdated narratives helps you build emotional security, deeper relationships, and a more grounded sense of self-worth.From the fear behind obsessive thoughts to the healing power of self-forgiveness, this episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to stop spiraling—and start feeling free.

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with relationship and communication expert Dr. Jessica Higgins to unpack one of the sneakiest relationship saboteurs: criticism. Whether you're nitpicking over the garage door or bottling resentment until it explodes, criticism can quietly damage your emotional connection. Dr. Higgins breaks down why we criticize, how it's often tied to fear, insecurity, or control—and what to do instead. From revealing instead of blaming, to communicating needs without making your partner defensive, this episode is packed with powerful reframes and tools to shift from criticism to connection.Key Moments:·       2:00 – Why criticism is often an attempt to control, not connect·       6:00 – How to tell the difference between a complaint an emotional need·       12:20 – What your criticism is actually trying to say·       20:40 – How to turn a complaint into a “reveal or request”·       29:00 – The neuroscience behind why we misread our partner's silence·       38:00 – A hilarious hot tub story that'll test your jealousy triggersGolden Episode Nuggets:

In this powerful episode of Top Self, host Shanenn Bryant sits down with Leah Lemberg, who shares her remarkable journey from growing up in an alcoholic home to becoming 16 years sober and helping others transform their lives. From IV drug use at 18 to finding sobriety and purpose, Leah's story offers hope and practical wisdom for anyone struggling with addiction, unhealthy patterns, or leadership challenges.Golden Nuggets:

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Greg Stewart, counselor, executive coach, and author to explore why insecurity might be the most valuable emotion we experience. Dr. Stewart shares his powerful framework for understanding emotional triggers and reveals how owning our insecurities can be the key to personal freedom.From his concept of "the house of your heart" to practical techniques like "embrace the digs," Dr. Stewart offers a refreshing perspective on emotional intelligence that can transform how you experience your relationships.Golden Nuggets:

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Rachel Glik, a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years of experience as a couples and individual therapist. Dr. Glik shares insights from her new book "Soulful Marriage: Healing your Relationship with Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose," offering her thoughts on how to nurture lasting love and embrace conflict as an opportunity for growth.Golden Episode Nuggets:

❤️ The Date Doctor is Here!In this episode of Top Self, we sit down with Dr. Christie Kederian, renowned relationship therapist, former eHarmony matchmaker, and author of the upcoming book "Ten Dates to Your Soulmate." Dr. K shares her expert insights on building healthy relationships, understanding family dynamics, and navigating the modern dating landscape with authenticity and purpose.Key Moments

In this powerful episode, Shanenn opens up about childhood trauma and how it shapes our relationship behaviors through hypervigilance.Episode HighlightsThe development of hypervigilance as a childhood survival skillHow childhood experiences with alcoholic parents can create heightened threat detection systemsWhy hypervigilance often gets mistaken for good intuitionThe physical and emotional toll of maintaining constant vigilanceKey Insights70% of children from alcoholic homes develop hypervigilant traits that persist into adulthoodOur body's stress response system gets programmed in childhoodEmotional threats are processed by our bodies the same way as physical threatsHypervigilance can create false beliefs and misinterpretation of neutral situationsReferences Mentioned"The Body Keeps the Score" by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk - Purchase BookPlease note, I am an Amazon affiliate and I may receive a commission if you purchase this book from this linkBehind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp - Register hereAny issues with registration reach out to support@topself.comCall to ActionJoin the Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp for:- Access to the Overthinkers Toolkit- 21 days of core wound reprogramming- Daily check-ins and support- Private session included- Workbook and guided meditation resourcesTime Stamps[00:00:00] Introduction and welcome[00:01:22] Personal story about childhood trauma[00:05:04] Development of hypervigilance as a survival skill[00:06:21] Scientific explanation of threat detection systems[00:09:15] Research on childhood trauma and relationship hypervigilance[00:15:07] Difference between curiosity and hypervigilance[00:17:06] Body tension awareness exercise[00:21:12] Reference to "The Body Keeps the Score" exercises[00:22:18] Information about the bootcamp program[00:25:52] Closing thoughts and practical steps forward

Wanna know the science behind being happier?  Check out this week's episode with Tedx speaker and happiness expert Tia Graham.Tia Graham shares some powerful stuff about choosing happiness, managing triggers, and transforming childhood trauma. From practical happiness frameworks to deeply personal stories about motherhood and healing, this episode is jammed packed with valuable tools for anyone looking to increase their joy and emotional regulation.Episode Highlights:The SPIRE framework for wellbeing: Spiritual, Physical, Intellectual, Relational, and EmotionalWhy some people are naturally happier than others (and what we can all do about it)How childhood trauma can impact our adult relationships and parentingPractical tools for managing triggers and regulating your nervous systemThe power of short, meaningful connections with friendsKey Takeaways:The MEDS Framework for Daily HappinessThree Ways to Increase HappinessTools for Managing TriggersGuest Spotlight:Tia Graham is a happiness expert and speaker who helps working moms find peace, joy, and emotional regulation. After transforming her own relationship with happiness through both personal experience and scientific study, she now leads the Calm Working Moms Collective.Resources Mentioned:Book: "Self Compassion" by Dr. Kristen NeffFree Resource: 30 Self-Care Practices in 5 Minutes or Less at www.calmworkingmoms.com/selfcareThe Calm Working Moms CollectivePerfect For Listeners Who:Want to increase their daily happinessStruggle with emotional triggersAre working through childhood traumaNeed practical self-regulation toolsWant to build stronger relationshipsQuotable Moments:"Happiness is a choice and it's something that you have agency over.""Everyone can make it better for themselves... there is a component of choice and agency, and that's really around your thoughts, your behaviors, your responses."Timestamp Highlights:[00:01:23]  Tia's journey into happiness research [00:04:17]  Understanding happiness set points [00:04:51]  The SPIRE framework explained [00:12:33]  Personal story about childhood trauma [00:17:14]   Practical tools for emotional regulation [00:21:25]  Free self-care resource introduc

Ever caught yourself having a meltdown or giving your partner the cold shoulder because you're feeling insecure? (Been there, done that!)  In this follow-up to our conversation with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, we're going in hard on a game-changing truth: the only person who can't abandon you is yourself.  Get ready for some fiery talk about self-trust, validation-seeking, and why your inner child needs a time-out from running your relationships.Key TakeawaysWhy are you testing your partner with "abandonment scales" that don't exist How suppressing emotions is actually self-abandonment in disguiseThe truth about external validation and why it's like trying to fill a leaky bucketWhy building self-trust doesn't mean becoming a totally independent islandHow to stop abandoning yourself (even when you're feeling super insecure)Memorable Quotes

This episode is fire!

Shanenn understands how deeply our patterns are embedded in every corner of our existence. It turns out that relationship anxiety isn't just an isolated phenomenon – it's part of a larger tapestry of how we navigate life's complexities.What We're Diving Into:The revelation that your inner critic has apparently developed a rather impressive portfolio, showing up everywhere in your life from dating, to work, to relationships... all of itWhat Top Self is currently offering so you can make this your year of change.The fascinating discovery that our defense mechanisms are surprisingly consistent performers across all life domainsNotable Moments:"Our programming isn't compartmentalized" – which explains why some people lead the way they do, why some people react the way they do, why some people take things so personally.  our patterns are everywhere and we are on autopilot unaware of most of them.  What's Available For You Now:Behind Your Jealous Mind Boot Camp: Six weeks of methodical pattern disruption ($397)One-on-one coaching: For those ready to conduct a thorough investigation of their life patternsCIS Membership: A collective of women examining their shared experiences with refreshing candorEpisode Breakdown: 00:00 - Embracing 2025 01:00 - The Paradigm Shift 03:00 - Origins and Evolution 05:00 - Pattern Recognition 08:00 - Strategic Next Steps 12:00 - Closing ThoughtsRemember: You're part of a community navigating these waters together.For your next steps in pattern recognition and reformation, visit topself.com/bootcamp.

What will you be thinking ONE YEAR from now?Will it be the same thoughts you're having today?  Will you're focus be on the same things?In this episode, we explore how your life could look totally different one year from now and why your thoughts might be your biggest obstacle to change. Shanenn gives an example of what she calls "heavy thinking" or better known as a thought spiral and suggests you could try to do the opposite.What?Shanenn shares:How your thoughts have likely been your biggest enemy this year and the physical impact of negative thought spirals on your body and emotions

Do you enjoy how you're currently spending your time?  Do you feel like you use your time wisely?  When I am insecure and jealous, I don't!  When you're feeling jealous, most likely you are spending your very precious time thinking about your partner rather than spending it on things that bring you joy, not a stomach ache.In this episode, Shanenn and Dr. Adam Dorsay talk about the concept of connection in our modern world. Despite being more technologically connected than ever, many people struggle with loneliness and disconnection. Dr. Dorsay shares insights from his new book, Super Psyched about authentic connection and how to find it in various aspects of life.Key Topics Discussed:The paradox of being technologically connected yet feeling disconnectedThe four dimensions of connection: self, others, world, and something greaterHow social media comparison affects our relationships and self-imagePractical tips for maintaining long-distance friendshipsCreating novel experiences with your partner to strengthen connectionThe importance of investing time in activities that truly energize usNotable Quotes: "We're more connected technologically than ever before... And yet, we are less connected than ever before." - Dr. Adam DorsayResources Mentioned:Dr. Dorsay's Book Super PsychedSuper Psyched PodcastDr. Pat Love's "Hot Monogamy"Connect with Dr. Adam Dorsay:Website: www.dradamdorsay.comTEDx Talks: "Friendship in Adulthood" and "Men and Emotions" Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever felt like you're starring in your own personal soap opera where every relationship ends with infidelity? Host Shanenn Bryant unpacks her own journey from "everyone cheats on me" to "huh, maybe I should check my math" in this eye-opening episode.Key Takeaways:A shocking 50% of our memories aren't even accurate (Thanks, Dr. Joe Dispenza, for this incredibly eye-opening fact)Only 20-23% of men cheat in relationships (Sorry to ruin your trust issues with actual statistics)Married people cheat less than unmarried folks (Apparently, putting a ring on it does mean something to both men and women)The divorce rate isn't all about cheating (Turns out money problems are the real home-wrecker)Shanenn shares a mind-blowing exercise that will make you question EVERYTHING you thought you knew about your dating history. Spoiler alert: her "everyone cheats on me" narrative turned out to be more like "25% of people cheated on me." Talk about a plot twist!The Episode Breakdown:✓ The relationship audit: A step-by-step guide to analyzing your dating history (grab your pen and tissues)✓ The truth behind the numbers: Why your "everyone cheats" story might be as reliable as your ex's excusesCrucial Reality Checks:Your partner's cheating probably has more to do with their issues than your worthYoung relationships, unstable backgrounds, and core wounds all play a role in infidelityIf your "yes" list is above 50%, you might not have a cheating problem – you might have a "picking partners" problemWant to dive deeper? Shanenn mentions her "Behind Your Jealous Mind Boot Camp" coming up in January for those ready to break free from their trust issues and core wounds.Contact: sbryant@topself.com to share your own percentage or insights from this exercise.Remember: Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean your math is right. Time to crunch those numbers and maybe, just maybe, give trust a fighting chance. Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they're innocent? In this episode, Shanenn's calling you out when she gets into why we sometimes choose accusation over acceptance, even when our rational brain is screaming the obvious.THE HEART OF ITThe moment your logical brain offers the truth (and why we often ignore it)Why we feel the need to prove we're "not stupid" in relationshipsThe protective pattern of "just so you know I know" statementsHow choosing trust over proof can completely change your relationshipHave you ever noticed that quiet moment before you launch into relationship detective mode? That split second where your mind offers up a perfectly reasonable explanation, yet something pushes you to prove you're not easily fooled? Shanenn breaks down this fascinating pattern and reveals why our need to appear "aware" might actually be working against us.Through real-life examples, she shows us how these small moments of choice can shift our entire relationship dynamic. Learn why phrases like "just so you know, I know" might be hurting your relationship.  Other topics covered in this episode are:The split second when your rational brain offers the logical explanationWhy proving you're "aware" actually creates more anxietyThe freedom in choosing not to voice every suspicionHow tiny choices to trust can lead to massive relationship shiftsTRUTH BOMBS "Your life will be so much calmer, so much happier, and with less anxiety if you make the choice of saying, 'You know what, I'm going to go with this logical explanation.'"MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE[Coming Soon] "Triggered to Transformation" CourseEmail: sbryant@topself.com (Share your moments of choosing trust over suspicion!)YOUR NEXT STEPS (Choose Your Own Adventure)Notice when you're about to launch into "just so you know" modePause when your brain offers the logical explanationTry sitting with the peaceful explanation (just for 5 minutes!)Share your experience with Shanenn at sbryant@topself.comDid this episode hit home? Share it with someone who's ready to choose peace over proof.Remember: Choosing not to say "just so you know" doesn't make you naive - it makes you brave.00:00 Introduction to Top Self Podcast00:49 A Teenage Adventure: Sneaking Out04:41 The Consequen Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship insecurity and shares her thoughts about the lies we tell ourselves. From crying when her college boyfriend went out with friends to becoming an expert on self-deception, Dr. Warren's personal journey and professional wisdom offer hope for anyone wrestling with jealousy and relationship fears.Key Moments:- 2:00 - Why self-honesty is the key to living a fulfilling life- 9:00 - Dr. Warren shares a vulnerable story about her college relationship- 21:00 - The Three A's of Authenticity framework revealed- 31:00 - Why your friends might not understand your jealousy (and that's okay)- 37:00 - Small changes that lead to massive transformationGolden Episode Nuggets:

Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread?  Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship?  I was there too but you can turn things around.  Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference.  It may take you recovering quickly instead of letting the shame and guilt of your actions take over.  Apologize to your partner, forgive yourself, and push yourself to get back to normal as quickly as possible.In fact:Research shows couples who recover quickly from disputes have higher relationship satisfactionOne partner's ability to recover quickly can positively impact the other partnerQuick recovery helps prevent conflict spillover into other areas of the relationshipHere are some common things to avoid but there's so much more packed in this episode:Getting defensive when partner isn't ready to accept apologiesSeeking excessive reassuranceEngaging in catastrophic thinking   Shanenn also shares some recovery strategies like:Use "I" statements when explaining your perspectiveFocus on impact rather than intentGive partner space to process their emotionsReturn to normal daily routinesAvoid forcing immediate reconciliation   ## Resources Mentioned- Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp- Individual coaching options- ForYourMarriage.com- PsychologicalScience.comSomething to highlight from the episode: "As bad as it gets, if you start making the changes, remember, you can make big changes with small steps."---## Social Media Posts### Post 1

Feeling needy?  Do you feel like you're high-maintenance and your constantly asking for things from your partner to make you feel better?It has everything to do with your core wounds and your relationship to self.  In this episode, Shanenn share's her acronym S.E.L.F to learn how to identify your personality needs and how to self-source those needs.She shares the importance of becoming the captain of your own ship to maintain emotional balance and independence. Shannen invites you to take small steps towards self-sufficiency and happiness. Don't miss this lighthearted take on serious topics, as she promises cracking the code on meeting your own needs could be a game-changing, life-altering experience. 00:00  Welcome and Introduction00:19  Understanding Limiting Beliefs01:03  Today's Topic: Meeting Your Own Needs01:41  The Acronym SELF05:49  Identifying Your Needs14:46  Steps to Identify and Meet Your Needs28:27  Conclusion and ChallengeRegister for the "Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp" today! Seats are limited.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

How we attach in relationships is everything!  That's why we talk about it so much on the podcast and this episode is full of attachment style nuggets you're not going to want to miss.  This week, Shanenn has none other than licensed marriage and family therapist and attachment coach Jessica DaSilva. Jessica not only shares her own experiences as a former fearful avoidant but discussed all four types: anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment. If you are wondering why you're friends are quite like you and could give a flying fruit loop about their husbands traveling out of town with a young co-worker, than slap on those earbuds and turn up the volume because Jessica's here to tell you why that is.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:44 Understanding Attachment Styles02:17 Personal Journey with Fearful Avoidant Attachment04:04 Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships04:51 Path to Becoming a Therapist07:49 Exploring Anxious Attachment12:48 Navigating Relationship Needs and Communication15:05 Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Dynamics17:44 Fearful Avoidant Attachment and Jealousy22:02 Strategies for Developing Secure Attachment31:13 Conclusion and Podcast PromotionRegister for the "Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp" today! Seats are limited.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

If you've been feeling like you are not strong enough to conquer this jealousy thing or you just dont have what it takes to change your life around, I'm here to tell you, that's not it.  That's not why so stop beating yourself up.  You may just being going about it in the wrong way.In this episode, Shanenn talks about the struggles of managing jealousy and insecurity despite trying various self-help techniques. She shares personal stories, including recent disruptions preventing new episodes, freeing a groundhog, dealing with a trapped skunk, and the misadventures of her skunk-sprayed German Shepherd BUT.... that's not even the good stuff you came here for. She shares the importance of addressing subconscious programming and introduces her upcoming 'Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp' for those feeling stuck in their emotional battles.00:00  Introduction to Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity01:37  Personal Updates and Apologies02:48  The Groundhog and Skunk Saga10:39  The Main Topic: Addressing Jealousy and Insecurity13:35  The Turning Point: Therapy and Self-Discovery18:00  Understanding the Subconscious Mind23:22  Invitation to Join the Bootcamp25:08  Conclusion and Upcoming EpisodesRegister for the "Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp" today! Seats are limited.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever been caught in the whirlwind of 'should I or shouldn't I?' when it comes to relationships? This episode takes a deep dive into the life-changing realization that the real question isn't about what to do, but about who you want to be. Do you want to be a jealous, anxious person or someone who trusts and opens their heart? Tune in to learn how settling your internal chaos can transform your life and relationships.00:00 Understanding Your Inner Self00:12 The Dilemma of Trust and Action00:27 Defining Your Desired Self00:50 Practicing the Person You Want to BeCheck out Abby's amazing Tedx Talk Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

The one thing I hear so much is how ashamed you are about being jealous, it actually even affects the growth of this podcast because you don't share it with your friends and family because you don't want them to know you're this way.  But I know you don't want to be this way and I also know that unfortunately you feel as ashamed and judgement because people will say your crazy, psycho or nuts and that makes you feel even worse.Guess what, you don't deserve for ANYONE to say that to you.  Not your spouse, your partner, your friend, your family members... no one.  And on the show today, I talk about why you don't deserve it.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this episode of the Top Self podcast, I talk with Michelle Brown, a functional nutrition and lifestyle practitioner with a specialty in the biology of trauma. Michelle explains how trauma affects the body's nervous system and the importance of addressing both mind and body to heal. This episode is a good reminder that other factors are at play within our body when it comes to jealousy and we have to take a holistic approach.  Michelle covers 2 BIG things to consider and put on your radar as you work to overcome your jealousy:how nutritional imbalances, neurotransmitters, and traumatic experiences can influence mood disorders, chronic pain, and other health issues. practical tips, including a mood fix assessment and somatic tools, for recognizing and addressing these imbalances for better mental and physical health.00:00  Introduction to the Podcast and Guest00:26  Understanding the Biology of Trauma01:37  Mind-Body Connection and Its Impact05:13  The Role of Methylation in Mental Health08:28  Exploring Neurotransmitter Imbalances13:07  Addressing Trauma Responses17:13  Practical Steps for Nervous System Regulation27:19  Conclusion and Final ThoughtsGrab Michelle's Mood-Fix Assessment hereSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this episode, master financial coaches, Shana and Vanessa, who co-host the Financial Coaching for Women podcast, which ranks in the top 1.5% worldwide and stays in the top 10 "How To" podcasts on Apple in the US AND they are on Top Self today to discuss how financial transparency and trust are crucial in relationships. Backed by five years of hands-on experience as financial coaches and training by Dave Ramsey, Shana and Vanessa, have guided thousands of people all over the world, crafted what feels like a million budgets, and honed their own unique systems. Their advice stands out because it's non-judgmental, straightforward, and breaks down complex financial concepts into simple, actionable steps.They offer practical tips for couples to manage their money together, touching on: the significance of budgeting, building honest communication, and avoiding financial secrecy  by setting up separate spending accounts while keeping joint finances transparent and honestending the paycheck to paycheck cycleautomating your budget, bill, savings and spending00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:35 How It All Began: The Story of Friendship and Business02:20 The Importance of Trust in Financial Relationships03:07 Common Financial Issues in Relationships04:10 Early Financial Conversations in Dating05:49 Impact of Upbringing on Financial Behavior08:11 Transparency and Trust in Marriage12:03 Building a Budget Together15:36 Joint vs. Separate Accounts in Marriage17:57 Creating a Joint Budget18:07 Balancing Different Financial Priorities18:46 Bonus Tip: Making Budget Meetings Fun21:13 Automating Your Finances21:40 Separating Accounts for Better Management25:27 Handling Different Income Levels28:43 Common Financial Mistakes29:26 Digital Envelope System31:21 Conclusion and ResourcesRegister for the Trust Building Bootcamp:One-Time PaymentSplit PaymentsSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

If you are someone who is a recovering alcoholic or thinking about getting sober, you're in the right place my friend.  Addiction is tough and I have seen it throughout my family and others families and it can be so destructive.  Join myself and Rachel Harrison as she talks a bit about her recovery, how she is different today in many ways other than just being sober.  I hope this episode can be an inspiration for you as alcohol mixed with jealousy whether you have an addiction to it or not, can be a recipe for disaster.Connect with Rachel at www.recoveryoursoul.netRegister for the Trust Building Bootcamp:One-Time PaymentSplit PaymentsSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Today is heavy and you may feel called out a bit and it just might feel uncomfortable.  Just like jealousy, this topic may feel shameful too but you are not alone in this either.  I'm talking about cheating and not your partner cheating... you cheating.  I'll cover possible reasons this might be something you do or have done in the past. Its a short one but I hear it enough and I know you are feeling guilty and ashamed so I thought we should talk about it.  It's also a great reason to sign up for the upcoming Bootcamp and you can register by clicking either of the provided links below based on what payment option works best for you.  The Trust Building Bootcamp starts on August 7th.  We meet every Wednesday at 7:00 pm Eastern Time for 6 weeks until September 11th.Register for the Trust Building Bootcamp:One-Time PaymentSplit PaymentsSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

I am flying solo in today's episode and wanted to discuss just a few takeaways from my last guest Topaz Adizes and our conversation about the questions we ask and why we ask them.It's a quick dump episode but an important one when it comes to communicating with our partners and the reassurance questions we ask over and over again.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Feel like your asking the same questions over and over again to your partner?  Does it seem like you already know what you want the answer to be?  Wonder why your conversations often seem to escalate when you ask your burning question?  Is your partner getting a little on the defensive side and maybe feel like their back is against the wall when answering.It's very possible we're not asking relationship strengthening questions or posing our questions in the right way and here to tell you what you should be asking instead is an author and filmaker, Topaz Adizes, who has spent over a decade exploring human emotion and intimacy through over 1200 crafted conversations. In this episode, as he gives some reframe examples, you can hear not only how the questions would land differently but how they open up the possibility for some really good conversations.Here are a few other things we talk about:the art of asking well-constructed questions to strengthen relationships insights on maintaining a healthy partnership by creating the right space for communication. practical advice about avoiding binary questions and ensuring curiosity-driven inquiriesthe importance of regular check-ins to prevent conflicts from escalatingTopaz's work can be found at theskindeep.com.00:00   Introduction to Topaz and His Work01:23   The Concept of 'The And'02:44   Crafting Meaningful Questions07:51   Navigating Relationship Challenges11:44   Creating Safe Spaces for Conversations13:14   Maintaining Healthy Relationships24:08   Personal Growth Through Relationships25:22   Final Thoughts and ResourcesSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

This episode includes LIFE CHANGING information from Thais Gibson, that years from now, you're going to remember listening to it and know it was the pivotal moment that set you on a path of transformation.  As a leading figure in personal development, Thais is the co-founder of the Personal Development School and an expert in attachment theory. Wonder why no matter how much you tell yourself you're not going to be jealous anymore and then just a few days later you find yourself in a jealous meltdown and don't know why you can't shake it?  We talk about the reason for this and spoiler alert... your conscious mind can't outwill your subconscious mind. Here are just a few of the mind blowing topics we cover in this episode:subconscious reprogramming techniques how to meet your own needs effectively dealing with core wounds that trigger emotional suffering, like jealousyThais also breaks down the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant, offering tips on how to identify and shift your attachment style for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. This life-changing episode promises to blow your mind and offer actionable steps to transform your inner world and outer connections.00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement02:31 Thais Gibson's Background and Journey02:44 Understanding Attachment Styles and Personal Development04:23 Thais's Personal Struggles and Healing Journey07:05 The Power of the Subconscious Mind13:03 Core Wounds and Emotional Feedback16:52 Jealousy, Envy, and Core Wounds33:31 The Impact of Childhood Trauma on Adult Relationships36:26 Late-Night Texts and Dating Dilemmas37:03 Understanding and Addressing Unmet Needs39:32 The Magical Kitchen Analogy42:07 Steps to Meet Your Needs Independently45:01 Reprogramming Core Wounds50:40 Exploring Attachment Styles01:01:45 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsTake the Attachment Style QuizGet the book Mastery of Love by Don Miguel RuizSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

I absolutely can't stand it when I hear people say "you have to just get over it". Or especially things like.. you're crazy, or you're nuts when they are referring to you being jealous.  There is such a stigma around "being jealous" that people seem to just have no tolerance for.  Yes, I understand it is not healthy, yes I understand its not something to pass off as if its OK to be that way but it certainly doesnt make you crazy or nuts or broken.  EVERYONE has something they need to work on or something that is triggering for them or reminds them of something else.  That just means your brain is working the way it should.  Its doing it's brain thing... survival and efficiency.If you continue to feel bad about being jealous, you are going to keep focusing on the wrong thing and this will continue to be a heavy weight on your shoulders.  Stop focusing on the idea that it is embarrassing or that they are something fundamentally wrong with you.  There no need to put your enegy in that space.  The longer you run from it, the longer you try to deny or push down that you have this, the long you will be running from it.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.You've been told to "Think Positive" so many times in your life and this could be keeping you stuck.  According to my guest today, Dr. Eddie O'Connor, a clinical psychologist and host of 'The Psychology of Performance', shares his insights on the detrimental effects of positive thinking when misapplied.This very thing is the reason I was kicked out of therapy.  I kept trying to figure out how to fix the fact that I was angry at my father for being an alcoholic, that I was sad that I had been cheated on time and time again.  And, just as Dr. O'Connor explains in this episode, I didn't need to be fixed.  I wasn't broken and you're not broken either.  Join us in the great conversation as we talk about:overcoming anxiety, building self-worth, and achieving peak performancethe importance of addressing and understanding fear and anxietypractical strategies for managing performance anxietythe value of resilience and realistic thinking over forced positivityBring us along on your drive and learn that acknowleding and adapting to your fears can lead to a more confident and fulfilled life. 00:00  Welcome to Top Self: Overcoming Anxiety and Insecurity01:00  Introducing Eddie O'Connor: The Psychology of Performance01:38  Unpacking the Myth of Positive Thinking01:58  Eddie's Journey into Sports Psychology03:45  Strategies for Overcoming Performance Anxiety05:10  Applying Sports Psychology to Relationships07:56  The Reality of Anxiety and How to Navigate It15:05  Choosing How to Respond to Our Thoughts18:05  The Limitations of Positive Thinking22:02  Finding Purpose in Pain and Moving Forward25:41  Closing Thoughts and ResourcesSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Every time you catch yourself nagging from here on out, you're going to remember this episode.I have such a FIRE guest today.  Dr. Abby Medcalf, a relationship expert, psychologist, author, podcast host, and TEDx speaker and she delivers some hard core truths in her very no-nonsense kind of way and one of them is...Don't Have A Victim MentalityRemember your mom saying, you're driving me crazy, or your're going to give me grey hair.... maybe that was just in my house BUThearing statements like these growing up have us to believe that we're responsible for other peoples feelings or that other people can make you feel a certain way.The conversation really gets good when she shares that when we're not getting what we need, we focus on what we want and we NAG about what we want.  This blew my mind to think about it and is now stuck with me.Here are just a few other things that we talk about:overcoming the victim mindset in relationships, addressing jealousy, and the importance of taking responsibility for one's actionsthe power of meaningful communication with partners setting healthy boundaries and understanding one's needsAnd, if that wasn't enough, she shares how to handle situations like flirting and unmet expectations in relationships, making the episode a must-listen for those seeking to improve their emotional intimacy and connection with their partners.00:00 Welcome to Top Self Podcast: Meet Shannon Bryant and Dr. Abby Metcalf02:38 Unpacking Relationship Dynamics: Victim Mindset and Jealousy05:00 Navigating Insecurities and Setting Healthy Boundaries13:01 The Art of Communication: Asking the Right Questions18:10 Exploring Solutions Together: Collaborative Problem Solving25:40 Understanding the Subconscious: Aligning Thoughts and Actions28:32 Closing Thoughts and Invitation to Relationships Made Easy PodcastJoin the Trust Building Bootcamp today. Doors are closing soon so choose which option works best for you. One-time Payment Option Split Payment OptionSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

The Trust Building Bootcamp is starting soon and if you haven't joined yet, you want to listen to this episode.I had in my head that if there had been something like this available for me when I was going through my jealousy and seeking resources, I would have jumped all over it.  And then... just as we learn to do with jealousy, I questioned that thought.  Would I have?  Would I have signed up immediately.  I don't know.I wanted to think through possible reasons I wouldnt have signed up right away because we are all SOOOOO good at staying stuck in the mind drama so, here are the 3 big reasons I came up with about with that might be holding you back up until now and I offer up another way to think about them.Cant wait to see you in the bootcamp.  This round starts May 29th, 2024.Join the Trust Building Bootcamp today. Doors are closing soon so choose which option works best for you. One-time Payment Option Split Payment OptionSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Trigger Warning.... sorta.... Not only is she Oxford trained smart, she's beautiful as well.  The talented Katarina Polonska is my guest today and she's talking about the most important relationship of all.  The relationship you have with yourself. She shares:the importance of trusting oneself how to start building a healthy relationship with yourselfthe pivotal role of attachment theory in understanding personal relationshipsthe significance of recognizing and setting boundaries to create trust and safety within oneself. We also discuss how mindfulness and discernment can help distinguish between past projection and present moment realization, and the impact of establishing boundaries for a healthier life and relationships. Katarina emphasizes the value of seeking help through relationship coaching to navigate trust issues and improve one's relationship with self and others. 00:00  Introduction to the Guest and Topic: Trusting Yourself01:46  The Journey to Focusing on Relationships05:44  The Importance of Trust and Self-Relationship09:18  Navigating Boundaries in Relationships15:32  Communicating and Respecting Boundaries22:10  Identifying and Setting Healthy Boundaries26:27  The Value of Relationship Coaching and Self-Work29:50  Conclusion and How to ConnectConnect with Katarina hereJoin the Trust Building Bootcamp Starting Soon!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In a world constantly bombarding us with images of youth and perfection, navigating getting older can sometimes feel quite frankly... sad.  Dr. Mary Alice Mina, a Harvard-trained dermatologist and I talk about the entire spectrum from changes in our bodies to shifts in our mindset, and how embracing all of it requires a balance of self-care and self-acceptance.She shares:her thoughts on cosmetic procedures vs. the fulfillment that comes from withinthe importance of prioritizing oneself covering the psychological impacts of aging, particularly on womenpractical skincare advice for various life stagesBUT... One of the most powerful parts of the discussion for me was when Dr. Mary Alice spoke about where you place value and the currency you hold on beauty.  Ah.. SO good.She also had to school me on what slugging was... I'm so not cool anymore.But dont worry, of course she gave us some amazing skin care tips for each phase of life 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's and beyond and some really cool emerging trends in dermatology that may be coming your way.  Unless of course you live in the midwest like me and in that case we probably wont see it for another 5 years or so.  Snag Dr. Mary Alice Mina's pdf on how to create healthy skin habits here.00:00  Welcome and Introduction to Today's Special Topic00:46  Introducing Dr. Mary Alice Mina: A Deep Dive into Skin Care02:10  The Realities of Aging and Skin Care: A Candid Conversation06:11  Navigating Midlife Changes: Insights and Empathy12:14  Practical Skin Care Tips Across Different Life Stages25:52  Embracing Aging: Mindset and Maintenance28:15  Exploring New Frontiers in Dermatology30:51  ClosingJoin the Self Improvement Society (SIS) Membership today!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Sizzle, sizzle!  This is a hot topic and one I hear a lot of drama around and it makes perfect sense of why the ex or mother of your partner's child might be a area of insecurity for you.I tackle the sensitive topics of dealing with ex-partners and the dynamics they play in your relationshiptry to get you to reconsider how much information needs to be shared about past relationshipsshare an exercise to boost the validation your partner has already given you throughout the relationshipbut my ultimate message is one of confidence, self-value, and the unnecessary nature of obsessing over a partner's past for a healthy, present relationship. 00:00  Navigating Past Relationships: Exes and Baby Mamas00:27  Welcome to Top Self: Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity01:38  Dealing with Exes: Setting Boundaries and Overcoming Jealousy06:05  Navigating Relationships: Setting Expectations and Finding Security13:29  Self-Validation: An Exercise to Boost Your Self-Worth16:31  Conclusion: Embracing Confidence and Security in RelationshipsJoin the Self Improvement Society (SIS) Membership today!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Do you remember the last time you got ready to go somewhere, an event, or to work or to church, or just to hang out with your friends and you felt really good about the way you looked.  Like you maybe even said to yourself, I feel good, I look good?  It's not about how you look but about how you FEEL and today's guest is an expert at making women feel good about themselves both inside and out.  She is the founder of CSJ, a leading styling company and she has such a gift for being able to impact self-esteem and confidence from the outside in, through styling.Yes Jessica Papineau shares some really great fashion and styling tips with us like how women can enhance their image by focusing on the 3 F's;  fit, fabric, and fashionthe right way to try on jeans and the reason it's important to steer clear of the cheap onestips for cleaning out your closetBut I think the real bomb shell is when she reveals the really interesting and really sad thing all women do when they look at themselves in the mirror and she really goes deep into the psychological aspects of dressing, like the role of self-reflection in personal styling,This episode is not only going to help you learn how dress like the person you want to become but also how to be happy with the person you already are.  00:00 Welcome to Top Self: A Unique Episode Awaits00:13 Introducing Jessica Papineau: Fashion as a Tool for Confidence00:35 The Power of Perception: Fashion, Confidence, and Self-Improvement09:33 Jessica's Journey: From Backwoods to Fashion Expert16:47 The Transformational Approach: Styling from the Inside Out24:46 The Three Fs of Fashion: Fit, Fabric, and Fashion36:46 Final Thoughts and How to Start Your Styling JourneyBook a FREE Styling Call with JessicaFREE Wardrobe Edit Blueprint available hereJoin the Self Improvement Society (SIS) Membership today!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

I know you have a million thoughts going on in your head right now so before you click "play" on this episode really commit to listening to it with as little amount of distractions as possible because in this episode of the Top Self Podcast, I am talking with  wellness practitioner Heather Lillico about strategies for managing anxiety, particularly for overthinkers, perfectionists, and people pleasers. Sound like someone you know?  Here's a quick snapshot of just some of the things you might find interesting and sometimes you might feel like we're talking about you.  The biggest mistake when managing anxietythe challenges of perfectionism0 to 100 spiral and the deeper belief being activatedthe impact of limiting beliefs from childhoodthe link between how we're eating and how we're feelingwhat daily practice can improve your mental healthAlso, Heather shares some really easy foods to eat that actually help with anxiety.  We tend to overeat when we're upset and anxious anyway... why not eat stuff that's good for your anxiety right.  00:00  Introduction 00:47  Understanding Perfectionism and Anxiety01:37  The Role of Food and Exercise in Managing Anxiety01:37  Exploring Overthinking and its Roots01:43  The Impact of Limiting Beliefs on Anxiety02:23  The Connection Between Anxiety and Fear of Abandonment03:04  Reprogramming Limiting Beliefs04:09  The Role of the Subconscious Mind in Anxiety07:03  The Importance of Identity in Managing Anxiety09:38  The Impact of Food on Mood and Anxiety17:43  The Role of Exercise in Managing Anxiety21:25  The Power of Meditation in Reducing Anxiety27:19  Conclusion and Final ThoughtsTry Heather's Cultivating Calm App here Join the Self Improvement Society (SIS) Membership today!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

A couple weeks ago, my guest Dr. Corey Allen dropped 2 mind-shifting, bombs on the podcast and I was worried that maybe you were in anxiety mode with a swirl of thoughts running through your mind as you were listening and might have missed them.  So, I decided to do a whole episode on the 2 nuggets so this time, you really need to concentrate and let it sink in.Here's a run down of the highlights in this episode:self-validation and looking at your jealous moments as opportunities to show up as your best self, in the absence of any other validation. getting yourself from one state of mind to another, feeling your worth and telling yourself its understandable why you might be jealous and doing it all by yourself, without the help or assurance from your partner.the significance of accepting your own internal experiences and managing your emotions constructivelythe tight grip you have on your partner.  you may think the two of you are too far apart but nope, it's quite possible you are too close together.  an invitation to the new membership called Self Improvement Society or SIS for short.00:00  Unlocking the Power of Self-Validation02:05  The Journey to Self-Validation: Embracing Your Emotions07:34  Navigating Jealousy and Insecurity: A Path to Self-Improvement14:44  The Surprising Truth About Relationship Dynamics20:55  Introducing the Self-Improvement Society: A New Way to Grow28:07 Invitation to Join SISJoin the Self Improvement Society (SIS) Membership today!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

I have a major crush on what today's guest is doing.  She is working on a treatment module for trust.  Thank goodness for people like clinical psychologist. Shannon Sauer-Zavala.  She talks about understanding the function of behavior and that there's a reason you're thinking the way you do.Because people think about trust in a black and white way, she shares a trust exercise called Dimensions of Trust where you look at the facts of the people you're in a relationship with now because we're operating from things in the past.One of my favorite parts in the episode is when Dr. Sauer-Zavala explains that you have to  give people the opportunity to show you that they're not your mom, not your ex, not your alcoholic father because as long as you don't, that old narrative sticks because that's still the only evidence you have.This whole episode is an outline of the approach to building trust, which focuses on understanding the function of protective behaviors, cognitive reframing, and behavior change through exposure, and mindfulness. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:37 Choosing the Topic of Trust02:01 Understanding Trust in Relationships03:31 The Role of Behavior in Trust04:12 Understanding the Function of Behavior04:56 The Impact of Past Experiences on Trust07:20 The Role of Self-Validation in Trust07:48 The Importance of Testing Trust09:37 Understanding the Nuances of Trust22:05 The Role of Mindfulness in Trust24:32 Conclusion and Contact InformationJoin the Self Improvement Society (SIS) Membership today!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

As most of us Jealousy Junkies are clinging on to our partners.   Marriage and Sex Therapist Dr. Corey Allen says... a couple's problems could be a result of them being too close.  Not leaving room for individuality.  I thought this was a really important message I wanted you to hear because it isn't smothering in the way we make it out to be... it means there is too tight of a grip for growth and change and THAT is what lands you on Corey's couch and gives him and his wife material for their amazing podcast Sexy Marriage Radio.In this episode of Top Self,  Corey talks about the natural progression of a relationship from passionate beginnings to confronting everyday realities.  Which by the way this usually about the time we freak out because the hot and heavy is slowing down and of course we make it us.  But Dr. Allen says we have to understand the role of assurance in the relationship and he breaks it down in a way I hadn't thought about before through self-validation.  I know that's going to be a huge aha moment for you when you hear it.And the conversation gets a little spicy when I ask him some questions about sex like which gender is usually the microwave and which is most likely to be the oven when it comes to sex drives and he shares what he and his wife say to each other if the other turns them down that might just change their mind so there's a little heat at then end, so you may have to sit in the parking lot at work to make sure you hear the whole episode. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Background02:53 Understanding the Evolution of Relationships03:38 The Science Behind Falling in Love04:48 The Transition from Infatuation to Reality06:59 The Role of Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships09:05 The Role of Assurance in Relationships10:09 The Impact of Change and Growth in Relationships10:57 The Importance of Self-Development in Relationships11:28 Addressing Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships14:28 The Importance of Self-Validation in Relationships18:43 Understanding the Dynamics of Relationships20:20 Dealing with Betrayal in Relationships20:20 Embracing Emotions and Healing20:20 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact20:20 The Cycle of Healing and Growth20:20 The Role of Sex in Relationships24:45 Navigating Sexual Dynamics in Long-Term Relationships28:55 The Power of Self-Confidence in Sexuality32:46 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with Corey on his website Sexy Marriage Radio FMJoin the Self Improvement Society (SIS) Membership today!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

It's so good to be back in the swing of things and to do a solo episode with you.  The exercise I share with you in today's episode is one I did as I was starting to notice improvements in myself with my jealousy and I wanted to share it with you.  You have to DO the work not just hear about it so make sure to go the show notes or to topself.com/evaluation and download the worksheet to use.  You can save a blank one as a template and then just copy a new one for each time you have a jealous moment or meltdown and you want to make improvements.  Send me an email and let me know your WINs, your WTFs, and your FIXs (you'll get the reference once you see the worksheet.00:00 Introduction and Personal Covid Experience00:42 Traveling and Covid Complications02:01 Returning Home and Dealing with Aftermath04:25 Introducing the Situation Evaluation Exercise06:09 Understanding the Importance of Taking Action06:56 How to Use the Situation Evaluation Worksheet09:39 Breaking Down the Situation Evaluation Worksheet17:18 The Importance of Recognizing Wins and Flops19:39 Implementing Changes for Future Growth20:34 Conclusion and Encouragement to Use the Worksheet  Snag the Situation Evaluation Worksheet here.Join the Self Improvement Society (SIS) Membership today!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever wanted to get inside the mind of a couples therapist and ask questions?  Well, in today's episode, I took full advantage of having the great couples therapist, Dr. Bruce Chalmer on and I asked some burning questions for you like:How to get your partner to go to therapy when they don't want toWhat's the first thing you would do if you were working with a couple with jealousy in the relationshipWhy couples get it wrong when they say their biggest issue is communication Bruce shares the idea that couples often choose stability over intimacy and this is what he calls the "death spiral" of passion in a relationship.  I loved this topic as it just brings to light how often we push away our true authentic self because we are too afraid of what someone else, in this case our partner, might think.He also compares couples therapy to improv so you'll have to tune in to hear why. 00:02 Introduction and Guest Presentation00:42 Overcoming Reluctance to Attend Couples Therapy04:03 Choosing the Right Therapist: A Discussion05:43 Communication vs. Content: A New Perspective07:51 Understanding Jealousy in Relationships10:17 The Role of Attraction in Relationships17:00 The Death Spiral for Passion: Stability vs. Intimacy20:50 Restoring Intimacy in Relationships20:54 Dealing with Jealousy and Insecurity21:36 Seeking Reassurance and Self-Validation22:43 Understanding the Value of Your Partner24:41 The Role of Fathers in a Daughter's Life25:40 Couples Therapy and Improv Comedy31:14 Navigating Arguments in Relationships32:06 The Magic Key to Relationship Problems34:20 Closing Remarks and Contact InformationConnect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer Sign up for the Trust Building Bootcamp today!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Today I interview bestselling author, psychologist and happiness coach, Dr. Jisunny Fisher about how to face the fear of the unknown and unpredictable. Dr. Fisher talks about the human inclination towards avoiding pain over pursuing pleasure and the neural evolution of the human brain into three parts - reptilian, mammalian and human - and how specific fears are associated with each part.She walks you through the concept of identity, explaining the 'identity funnel' and  how to rewire your self-beliefs through mindful awareness which has 3 parts;  attention, attitude and aim. I think you're going to love this episode.  I know I gained a lot from this interview.00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation00:26 Overcoming Fear of the Unknown01:36 Understanding the Human Brain and Fear02:25 The Role of Control in Fear02:52 The Concept of Three Brains02:56 Dealing with Jealousy and Uncertainty04:53 Understanding the Fear of Abandonment07:17 The Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships10:08 The Importance of Self-Identity11:37 The Identity Funnel: Understanding Self15:48 The Role of Beliefs in Shaping Identity26:56 The Power of Mindful Awareness30:03 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSign up for the Trust Building Bootcamp today!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.