Podcasts about owning your sexual self

Welcome back! Thank you for tuning into another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I'm so pumped for this week's episode with Sara Reardon, pelvic health expert and the author of Floored! We're talking all about her amazing book, which goes into the complexities of pelvic health with honesty, humor, and a ton of practical advice. Sara's approach will make you feel empowered and ready to take charge of your pelvic health. Trust me, you're going to love this conversation, Sara's insight is a game-changer!In this episode:Sara's journey into pelvic health and what sparked her interestThe inspiration behind her book FlooredHow pelvic floor issues are often misunderstoodWhat the pelvic floor actually is and its role in the bodyThe connection between pelvic health and overall well-beingWhat Sara wants readers to take away from FlooredA fun Q&A with SaraThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!*Preorder Sara's book Floored at thevagwhisperer.com/floored/ and also get 30 days free to her V-Hive platform!*Connect with SaraInstagram: @The.Vagina.WhispererWebsite: TheVagWhisperer.comSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello everyone! Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week I'm joined by the incredible Dr. Amanda Neri to talk all things pelvic floor. Amanda is a pelvic health expert who makes this topic feel way less awkward and way more empowering. Amanda brings warmth, knowledge, and some serious real talk to this episode, and I'm so excited to have her here!In this episode:What the pelvic floor is and why it's so importantHow pelvic floor therapy can help with issues like incontinence and painful sexThe emotional aspects of pelvic floor health and how to address themWhy pelvic floor health is often overlooked and the need for better awarenessThe importance of breathing exercises and relaxation for pelvic floor health How pelvic health is connected to overall sexual function and confidenceTips and methods you can start to implement on your own if you're experiencing pelvic floor dysfunction Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!ResourcesEpisode 194. Overcoming Vaginismus with Jess SeitzHerman and Wallace Directory of PRPC PractitionersConnect with Amanda!Instagram: @AmandaNeriPtSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello! We're back with another solo episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! If you're tired of feeling disconnected or like you're always the one holding things together, you're going to want to listen to this. This episode is packed with powerful ways to invite more affection, respect, and joy into your relationship. These tools are simple but seriously transformative, and it all starts with focusing on you. I can't wait for you to hear this one!In this episode:Why trying to change your partner can backfireHow stepping out of the mothering role can shift your relationshipWhy letting go of control invites more connectionHow to show respect without agreeing on everythingThe power of expressing feelings and needs with softnessThe impact of daily gratitude on relationship dynamicsWhy focusing on your own growth can change everything**This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Luxury Shouldn't Be Out of Reach. Visit CozyEarth.com and use my exclusive code RACHELM for 40% off best-selling sheets, towels, pajamas, and more. And if you get a post-purchase survey, let themknow you heard about Cozy Earth right here.**Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!ResourcesThe Masculine in Relationship by GS YoungbloodThe Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle What Women Want in RelationshipsSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Welcome back Owning Your Sexual Self listeners! I first heard about the O-Shot while wandering through a women's conference and immediately got curious. Enter Kathryn Faraj. She's a former ICU nurse turned hormone and sexual wellness expert who is flipping the script on how we approach libido, pleasure, and feeling good in our bodies. In this episode, Kathryn shares her journey and offers insight into why treatments like the O-Shot are changing the game for women who are ready to feel more like themselves again.In this episode:What the O-Shot is and how it worksWhy it's not just about libido but overall sexual wellnessThe surprising places PRP is used outside of sexual healthWhat to expect during the procedure from start to finishThe connection between hormone health and sexual functionWhy Kathryn includes hormone testing with every O-Shot visitA reminder that you deserve to feel good in your body*This week's episode is sponsored by LMNT! Get yours today!*Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!Connect with KathrynInstagram: @Integro_HealthWebsite: IntegroHealth.netSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello everyone! We're back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I've got Christine Marie Mason with me today! Christine is the founder of Rosebud Woman, the brilliant mind behind The Nine Lives of Woman, and someone who's been studying and teaching all things embodiment, sexuality and consciousness for over two decades. This episode is packed with wisdom, fresh perspective, and those little truth bombs. Christine brings such a grounded yet electric presence and I cannot wait for you to hear what she has to say.In this episode:How to honor your body in every season and stage of lifeHow sex can be a portal to healing, connection, and transformationThe phases of womanhood through the lens of The Nine Lives of WomanWhy menopause is not the end but a powerful new beginningA loving reminder that it is never too late to come home to yourself and you are not aloneThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!ResourcesRosebud Woman - Get 15% off with code SEXUALSELFThe 9 Lives of Woman Connect with Christine!ChristineMarieMason.comThe Rose Woman on Love & Liberation PodcastSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello, hello! We're back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! Get ready for a juicy and grounded conversation with somatic coach and nervous system genius, Hannah Deindorfer. Hannah shares what it really means to feel safe in your body and why that sense of safety changes everything. This episode is full of practical tools, gentle insights, and powerful reminders to help you feel more connected to yourself and the people around you.In this episode:Why safety in your body is the key to everything elseWhy you don't need to “fix” your emotions but instead feel themThe power of grounding exercises and their role in calming your nervous systemHow exploring somatic work can improve intimacy and pleasureWhy creating space for pleasure is just as important as healingTechniques for better regulation, and connection**This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Luxury Shouldn't Be Out of Reach. Visit CozyEarth.com and use my exclusive code RACHELM for 40% off best-selling sheets, towels, pajamas, and more. And if you get a post-purchase survey, let themknow you heard about Cozy Earth right here.**Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!Connect with HannahInstagram & Youtube: @TheLibidoFairyWebsite: TheLibidoFairy.comSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello! Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! You're in for such a powerful episode today with my friend Alicia Stanko. After nearly ten years as an ER nurse, Alicia shifted into holistic wellness coaching and is now helping people create real change in their lives. We talk about the mind body connection, overcoming adversity, and how prioritizing your health can transform everything from your energy to your relationships.In this episode:The connection between emotional health and physical symptomsTips for shifting your mindset to support long-term changeHow and why when you feel good; life is goodThe role of food in emotional and physical healingIdeas for building healthier habits without overwhelming yourselfThe power of consistent actions over perfectionThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!**This episode is sponsored by Foria. Visit ForiaWellness.com and use my exclusive code RACHEL20 for 20% off your order!**Connect with Alicia!Instagram: @Alicia_PurePranaFacebook: Alicia StankoWebsite: PurePrana-Wellness.comSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello! Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week we're refreshing my 30 Day Intimacy Challenge, a 30-day journey designed to add more play, excitement, and emotional closeness with your partner. I'll be sharing simple yet powerful daily prompts that help you prioritize connection without pressure or expectation.In this episode:Why 30 days of small actions can transform your relationshipThe difference between intimacy and sex and why both matterFun and simple daily prompts to help you feel closer to your partnerHow to make this challenge work for your own relationshipA deep dive into most of the prompts to give you more ideasThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!**This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Luxury Shouldn't Be Out of Reach. Visit CozyEarth.com and use my exclusive code RACHELM for 40% off best-selling sheets, towels, pajamas, and more. And if you get a post-purchase survey, let themknow you heard about Cozy Earth right here.**ResourcesWellnesSexpertise.com/freebiesSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I love getting to record episodes with friends who are just as passionate about this work as I am, and today's guest is one of those people! Shannon is a midlife coach and somatic practitioner, helping women navigate perimenopause, menopause, and all the shifts that come with this phase of life. She is all about embracing midlife as a time of magic instead of crisis, and I cannot wait for you to hear everything she has to share!In this episode:How perimenopause changes your body and what you can do about itThe patterns from your childhood that may still affect your life todayThe power of play in keeping your relationship excitingHow to stop relying on outside opinions and trust your own bodyThe importance of surrounding yourself with women who inspire youExploring midlife as a time of discovery, not crisisThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!ResourcesTaking Your Marriage From Checked Out to Checked In with Steve & Shannon Hamaker The Inner Work of RelationshipsThe M Factor FilmWise Power Sexually Woke Connect with ShannonShannonHamaker.comInstagram: @ShannonHamakerSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week I've got on Dr Alison Ash who is a trauma-informed intimacy coach, Stanford University lecturer, author, and founder of TurnOn.Love. I'm so excited to have her back on the podcast! This time we're talking all about leveling up your oral pleasure game, and how to become the best giver and reciever! In this episode:How connection, warm-up, and teasing boost pleasureWhy it's important to be in the right state of turn-on before starting oral sexHow shame can block pleasure and how to overcome itThe power of verbal and non-verbal feedbackTechniques to help explore and understand your's or your partner's bodyThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!ResourcesCheck out Dr. Aly's upcoming Sustainable Intimacy retreat at www.turnon.love/sustainable-intimacy-retreat Get $200 when you join through 3/15/25For on-demand workshops including How to Eat

Hello! We're back for another Owning Your Sexual Self podcast episode! This week I'm super excited to have Dr Anne Truong here! Dr Anne Truong is a physician, speaker, and bestselling author specializing in men's sexual health. With over 20 years of experience, she helps men regain confidence and vitality through cutting-edge, holistic treatments. Her mission is to break the stigma and bring real, lasting solutions to the mainstream.In this episode:That ED isn't just an old man issue anymore, young men are dealing with it tooSome possible causes for ED and how they can effect more than just sexual healthHow Psychological ED is on the rise, overthinking and stress are doing a lot of damageWhat stem cell therapy can look like and how it could help with EDHow even with medical intervention, lifestyle changes like eating right, working out, and managing stress are essential for better sexual healthThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!Resources:Priapus Shot: PiapusShot.comO-Shot: OShot.infoConnect with Dr. Anne Truong!Youtube: @drannetruongWebsite: TruongRehab.comSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello, hello! Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! Kendra King is a therapist specializing in sex and porn struggles, affair recovery, and sex therapy. With a background in mental health and substance use, she helps clients reclaim their power through accountability and support. In this episode, we break down compulsive sexual behavior and the path to healing.In this episode:How porn and sex can become a way to copeThe power of being open and honest with your partner about strugglesHow unhealthy sexual behaviors often start early in lifeThe importance of therapy and group support for healingWhy boundaries are crucial in creating healthier sexual dynamicsHow working on yourself can truly change your relationship for the betterThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!Connect with Kendra!Website: TheHealingHeartTherapyCenter.comEmail: Kendra@TheHealingHeartTherapyCenter.comSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello, everyone! Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week I'm joined by sex and relationship coach Jason Strongfeather to talk about the common struggles women face in the dating world, especially those re-entering the scene after a long relationship. From overcoming self-doubt to embracing your worth, we're talking about what it really takes to build fulfilling connections at this stage of life.In this episode:Jason's journey from photographer to sex and relationship coachWhy knowing your non-negotiables is so importantThe power of boudoir photography in reclaiming your sexy sideHow to stop wasting time on the wrong peopleWhy talking about sex early on isn't as scary as it seemsThe importance of working through emotional baggage before jumping inThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!ResourcesAttachmentProject.comConnect with JasonIntimateHealer.comBoudoirByJason.comSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello, hello! We're back for a solo episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week, we're talking about how choosing one word for your relationship can set the tone for the year ahead, focusing on one thing that both of you can hold onto and work towards together. This simple practice can really help bring more clarity and intention into your relationship. Listen in to hear how picking the right word can help you reconnect and move forward together.In this episode:What word Danny and I chose for 2025, and how/why we decided on that wordWhy vulnerability and open communication are key when reflecting on your relationshipHow to brainstorm potential words that reflect your shared vision for the yearThe process of narrowing down and selecting the perfect word for both of youThe value of checking in regularly to track your progress and make adjustmentsHow this practice can help deepen your connection and foster intentional growth in your relationship all year longThank you so much for listening! I would love to hear what word you come up with together, and how that is going to be your path for this upcoming year. Message me, DM me on Instagram, email me, whatever you want, I can't wait to hear from you! ResourcesThe Relationship RegroupSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello, hello! We're back with another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I'm so excited to have Erica, the founder and Chief Erotic Officer of Creative Body Release, here this week. She is here to share her powerful journey from education equity to sexual health advocacy. Tune in as we explore Soft Cock Appreciation Week, the healing power of self-pleasure, and how to embrace intimacy beyond performance-based sex. In this episode:Celebrating Soft Cock Appreciation Week: Why it's time to normalize and embrace non-erect states as a natural, healthy part of sex and intimacyHow tapping into creativity and building a stronger mind-body connection can boost your overall health and sexual well-beingWhy cisgender, heterosexual men struggling with erectile issues often feel stuck—and the lack of resources that isn't helpingA look at how hormones, stress, and other physical and emotional factors can affect erectionsWhy it's important to let go of rigid sexual expectations, understand how desire really works, and build a judgment-free sex lifeSimple ways to enjoy intimacy beyond penetration, from experimenting with toys and outercourse to playful, connection-building techniquesThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!ResourcesSoftCockWeek.comSCWeek@protonmail.comSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week I've got on a familiar face (or voice) Jordan D'Nelle! She's here to talk all about women's hormone testing. This is definitely in Jordan's wheelhouse, and I'm so impressed by her knowledge and I know you will be too!In this episode:Why hormone testing is essential for women's healthA breakdown of key hormones like FSH, AMH, progesterone, and moreTips for preparing for your next doctor's visit with a personalized testing listHow to identify signs of perimenopause and menopause through hormone levelsThe importance of checking in with yourself daily to track how you're feelingThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!ResourcesMy Everlywell Link!Dr. LoIn the Flo by Alisa Vitti Connect with JordanInstagram @JordanDnellePodcast: Vaginas, Vulvas, and VibratorsSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week I've got on Dr Alison Ash who is a trauma-informed intimacy coach, Stanford University lecturer, author, and founder of TurnOn.Love. Dr. Aly brings her expertise to guide us through the topic of ruptures in relationships. I'm so excited to provide this resource for you guys; this conversation is packed with practical advice for anyone looking to strengthen their connections!In this episode:A look into all the different ways a relationship can ruptureNormalizing how common and human ruptures areHow important it is to recognize ruptures and work on repairing themHow to create a safe space to work on these repairsStrategies for having these tough conversations and actively repairing the ruptureThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!ResourcesCheck out Dr. Aly's upcoming Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills course at www.TurnON.love/intimacy. Use the discount code "sexualself" for $100 off! For on-demand workshops visit www.TurnON.love/workshops and for her Sustainable Intimacy course visit www.TurnON.love/sustainable-intimacy For intimacy coaching, visit www.TurnON.love/coachingConnect with Dr. AlyInstagram, Tiktok, & Facebook: @TurnOn.LoveWebsite: www.turnon.loveSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello everyone! I'm back with another episode of Owning Your Sexual Self! This week I've got Elena Solovyeva on who is the co-founder and CEO of Tempt, a spicy romance audiobook app designed to enhance women's sexual lives. She's here to tell us all about the benefits of romance novels, and how important they are in creating safe spaces for women to explore their desire and sexuality.In this episode:Elena's story and how Tempt came to beThe concept of responsive desire and how romance content helps women tap into their fantasies, even with their busy livesWhy the genre has exploded in popularity, reducing shame and encouraging women to embrace their desiresHow romance novels can help women communicate their fantasies with partners in a fun, non-pressured wayThe emotional causes of sexual frustration, from stress to feeling disconnected from oneself and a partnerHow romance novels offer more than just sex—they provide emotional depth, complex relationships, and character developmentThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!ResourcesDownload the Tempt app: wromance.comSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello hello! We're back with another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week I've got on Yash Rivera (it/him/faers) who is a sexuality educator, sex worker, and 2SLGBTQIA+ activist, and is here to talk about it's experiences in sex work and how it has enhanced it's life. In this episode:A look into Yash's pronouns and neo-pronouns in general Destigmatizing sex work and correcting misconceptions  What doing sex work has looked like for YashThe importance of knowing and setting your boundaries How sex work can be more than just sex Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!Connect with Yash!Instagram: @its_majesty_the_emperorEscort Site: Tryst.linkSex Worker Blog: Tryst.link/blogSupport the Show.Connect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

We are back with another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! Today I'm with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, Sexologist, Sociologist, Relationship Coach, Author, and International Speaker. A radical force for self-expression, Dr. Jenn has spent the last 20+ years tearing down social stigmas and shame around sexual expression and empowering women to fully embody their sexuality. I can't wait for you to hear all the incredible things she's here to share!In this episode:How Dr Jenn got started in this work and how it sparked a passion that's lasted 30 years.How mindfulness skills and compassion can improve sexual conversations and relationships.The importance of establishing and communicating boundaries for a safe and enjoyable sexual life.How the emotional “invisible” labor is often carried by women and how it can impact relationships.Advice on maintaining sexual intimacy and connection through effective communication and creativity.Resources:From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for WomenFair Play BookFair Play CardsConnect with Dr JennWebsite: DrJennsDen.comSupport the Show.Connect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello hello! I'm back with a solo episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I'm going to be talking all about healthy communication, and going over how to use my communication guide that I've put together for you all to use! In this episode:Techniques for initiating conversations without triggering alarm or defensivenessTips for checking in with partners and scheduling important discussionsWhat the HALT method is and how to use itEmphasizing teamwork and shared goals in relationshipsHow to use active listening and validating emotions during conversationsThe importance of continuous, compassionate communication to break negative patternsResourcesConscious Communication Guide & The Relationship RegroupSupport the Show.Connect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hey, everyone! Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast. Thanks for sticking around through the ups and downs; life's been a rollercoaster as I open my own sex therapy and education practice here in Michigan. Today, we've got a special guest, Kate Shelor, a hypnotherapist,  subconscious reprogramming expert, and a relationship coach, sharing insights on how the subconscious affects our sexual experiences and so much more!You'll hear:Kate's personal journey with hypnotherapy How hypnotherapy works as a tool for accessing deep emotions, not as mind controlThe importance of therapy for subconscious associations and recognizing that you're not "broken" but in need of healingWhy it's important to tackle the emotional and physical sides of issues like sexual problems Practical tips for shifting your mindset from negative to positive, so you can use your subconscious to improve your lifeThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode! Connect with Kate!Instagram: @KateShelorSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Rachel Maine joins us to talk about cock worship, or intentional loving massage focused on a male partner's genitals and chest. They explore what cock worship entails, the benefits it can provide for intimacy, pleasure and addressing issues like erectile dysfunction, and tips for incorporating it into a relationship in a safe, consensual and mutually enjoyable way. You can find Rachel Maine on Instagram @The_Rachel_Maine and on her podcast, Owning Your Sexual Self. Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more HERE. Follow Jordan D'Nelle on Facebook and Instagram @jordandnelle. Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com Support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.com Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives! Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already! *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. jordandnelle.com rachelmaine.com 

Hello, everyone! Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I'm so, so excited to have Jordan Bowditch on the show today. You've heard me talk about Jordan and his wife Lex from Sex & Love Co on the podcast so many times, so I'm pumped that he's here to share his knowledge on the importance of men having male friendships.You'll hear:Jordan's personal journey with male friendshipsWhat the difference between toxic and healthy masculinity isHow to cultivate your circle of friendsWhat it looks like inside a container of healthy like-minded male friendsHow having these male friendships can help your romantic relationshipJust how important having male friends isThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode! See you next week!Connect with Jordan!Instagram: @JordanBowditchMen's Programs: sexandlove.co/programs#menThat Sex Chick Podcast - thatsexchick.comSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

I'm back solo with another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I'm excited to give you all a little beginners guide on impact play! I'm hoping this episode will be a great resource for you, and gives you more confidence in starting impact play for yourself!You'll hear:What impact play isHow important safety and communication isWhat engaging in impact play can bring to the bedroomSome must do's before you startThe different tools you can use for impact playCheck out this episode on YouTube to get more of a visual idea of these toys! Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode! See you next week!ResourcesStorefront - Use code ZB7ZZ2B for 15% off your order!Support the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello hello! Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! Today I've got Jess Seitz, an occupational therapist and founder of Pain-Free Intimacy, here to talk all about vaginismus, and the journey to both pain and drama free intimacy.You'll hear:Jess's personal journeyWhat vaginismus is and other names it can be calledDifferent ways it can affect different peopleSteps to take if you think you might be struggling with vaginismusHow to help a partner that is struggling with vaginismusReassurance that you're not alone and that you deserve to have pain free sexThank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode! See you next week!Connect with Jess!Instagram: @PainFree.IntimacySupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

This is a podcast episode that I recorded recently with Rachel Maine on her podcast Owning Your Sexual Self. Conscious Uncoupling is a journey of self-discovery, self-preservation, and setting boundaries. It's about recognizing the expiration date of a relationship and navigating the aftermath in a way that prioritizes your well-being. It's a reminder that the end of a relationship can be the start of a new chapter, and that love can take many forms. This podcast is sponsored by my Patreon: https://patreon.com/JenniferKayloRuscinPodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theopenbedroompodcast/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theopenbedroompodcast/support

Today I have Rachel Maine on the pod! Rachel is a sex therapist turned sex coach, podcast host of Owning Your Sexual Self, and is now the CEO of her online sex coaching business, Wellness Sexpertise. Rachel works with women, men and couples to help them discover their sexual desires and create intimate, adventurous connections with themselves and their partners. Today Rachel and I sit down and discuss increasing intimacy, sexing up your space, and what spontaneous desire vs. responsive desire is. We also getting into how to make scheduled sex, sexy. Buckle in and enjoy this podcast episode! Connect with Rachel on Instagram here & her website here Shop my ⁠adult sexual products here⁠ Join my free ⁠Facebook group here⁠ ⁠MERCH HERE⁠ Connect with me on ⁠Instagram⁠ & ⁠Twitter⁠ and ⁠TikTok⁠ please follow/like/subscribe/rate. Thank you for listening to this podcast! ENJOY!! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jenay-leger/support

*This week's episode is sponsored by LMNT! Get yours today!*Hello, everyone. Welcome back for another episode of Owning Your Sexual Self! Happy fourth of July week, if you are listening to this in real time, if not, I hope you had a great fourth of July.I've had this episode on my mind for quite some time, this idea of sexual freedom.We're going to dive into:What sexual freedom isHow I embrace sexual freedomHow embracing it can change your whole lifeWhat it can mean to different peopleResources to help you fully embrace your sexual selfThank you so, so, so much for continuing to listen to the Owning Your Sexual Self Podcast. I cannot thank you enough and I love all of you. I'll see you next time!ResourcesDiscover Your Sex Life (The Sex Timeline)How to Create the Sex Life You Both CraveSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

*This week's episode is sponsored by LMNT! Get yours today!*Hello, friends! Welcome back for another episode of Owning Your Sexual Self.  This week's episode was inspired by a client conversation I had recently around the question, "What if I just don't want  to have an orgasm?"You'll hear:Reasons she might not want an orgasmHow to have a conversation when you or your partner don't want an orgasmHow to react if your partner tells you they don't want an orgasmTips on helping the situation and getting to the why behind itThank you so much for tuning to listen to this podcast y'all!If you love this, please leave a review whether you're on Spotify or Apple Podcast. You have no idea how much that helps the podcast to grow and get it into the ears of more and more people. So, either leave a review or subscribe on YouTube if you're watching on YouTube, I appreciate that as well. Until next time! I will catch you on the flipside. Have a good one!Resources How to Flick the Bean & the Peen MasterclassSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

*This week's episode is sponsored by Shag Ragg! Use code WELLNESS10 to get 10% off your order!*Hello hello hello! We are back for another juicy episode of Owning Your Sexual Self! This episode was really inspired by some conversations I've had in my personal life, or just heard friends talking about how period sex is gross... But it's sad when there's this thing in our life that we feel  has to take away something.  My body is doing this natural thing, it's bleeding. So I can't indulge in pleasure. I can't do penetrative things. I can't do X Y Z. Those days are over. In this episode I talk about:What my social media following thinks of period sexWhy there should be absolutely no shame around period sexThe benefits of period sexTips on how to talk to your partner if either of you have fears around period sexTips on how to make period sex the most enjoyable and possibly mess freeIf you like this episode, hit me up, tell me, share it on social media, send it to a friend, tag me on social media so I can see that you're listening and that you enjoyed this episode. You can shoot me a DM and be like,  Rachel, you just opened my mind to period sex. Totally cool. I'm here for it. Have a great week, go and bleed your hearts out happily and healthily.Support the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Welcome back for another episode of Owning Your Sexual Self! This week is all about kissing. I've really been inspired after reading all these books with such sexy descriptions of kissing. So I'm here to bring that fiction to everyone's reality! You'll hear aboutMy first kiss storyThe do's and don'ts of kissingPro-tips for kissingThe benefits of kissing and how it creates intimacy How to eliminate the idea that kissing has to lead to sex Thank you for continuing to listen and support the show. I will see y'all next week! Have a great day!Shop with RachelSupport the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

*This week's episode is sponsored by Shag Ragg! Use code WELLNESS10 to get 10% off your order!*Hello, hello! Welcome back for another episode of Owning Your Sexual Self! This week's topic is how to make sex last longer. Yay! I know you all want all the deets, how to make it last longer, make it more enjoyable, and all the juicy things in between!This week you'll hear about…3 things to help your sex last longerA challenge to your mindset on what sex isHow to make the most of foreplayWhat aftercare/afterplay is, and how important it isEnjoy the magic that you just created with each other and congratulate yourselves on taking that time to be intimate with each other, taking time out of your day to connect with your partner and to bring pleasure into your life. Who doesn't want more pleasure in their life?Support the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hello, hello! Welcome back for another episode of Owning Your Sexual Self. Kicking off March with this episode, that is inspired by some DM's that I've been getting recently. Typically it's men that are sliding into the DM's, wanting free relationship advice, about how to initiate sex without her saying no and getting annoyed. I can't just be giving out free advice all the time. Right? And to be honest, it's not doing you any favors either. There's so much work when it comes to sex coaching, like digging into the layers of this that are really where you're going to see the results. I do free consultation calls, so if you're interested in getting some questions answered or, you know, possibly working together or seeing what programs I have currently um running and whatnot, you can always set up a free consultation call. In this episode you'll hear…How to have good communication around initiating sex, and some questions to ask your partner.Desire Discrepancy; what it is and how to deal with itEmotional vs Physical connection, and how it can play a part in your sex lifeReasons someone might be annoyed with you when you try to initiate sex, and some tips on how to avoid thatStepping into your masculine and how that can change your sex lifeThank you so much for listening. I hope this was helpful. Of course, again, going through why, why she may not want to have sex with you and why she might be getting annoyed with you when you are wanting to have sex. And lastly for any couples that are listening to this, Danny and I are running our Couples Experience virtually on March 14th at 6PM Eastern Time, and is $99 a couple. We just did this workshop in person a few weeks ago and we got amazing, amazing feedback from the people and the couples that joined us. So we are offering it virtually. We're walking you through three of our favorite exercises as couples to be able to connect with each other and connect in a way that intimacy is now present. So if you are listening to this podcast today, you heard me talk a lot about emotional connection and that physical connection. We are teaching you tools for both of those things, the emotional connection and the physical connection, those both show up in these practices that we're gonna be teaching.Support the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

It's episode 51! And it's NSFW! In this episode I'm joined by Rachel Maine, a Sex Therapist and Sex & Relationship Coach. Rachel's work allows people to feel more connection, adventure and pleasure in their lives. It's a juicy one! Connect with Rachel online: Instagram | TikTok | Rachel's recommendations: Rachel's podcast - Owning Your Sexual Self & That Sex Chick | Books - Come as You Are by Dr Rachel Nagoski & In the Flo by Alisa Vitti@positivitywithbeth | thejoyseries1@gmail.comRemember to like, rate, or subscribe so you don't miss an episode. There are more exciting guests to come so, watch this space! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are back for another episode of Owning Your Sexual Self and we are certainly owning our sexual selves with this topic this week. It is all things spanking. To me personally, there is nothing worse than having sex, and you're all into it, and then all of a sudden out of nowhere, this smack comes out into the into play and you're just like, what the fuck?Now, I want to honor there are people that are listening to this right now, they're like, that is my literal dream.  For me, and anybody else that's on this end of the spectrum, that was not my little dream for me. The last thing that I wanted was for this fucking spank to come out of nowhere.In October of last year, I went to a women's retreat And spanking was taught at this retreat and this was a hands-on retreat and so we got to practice spanking with each other. I'm watching Lex teach us how to spank on this other girl that was here at the retreat and it was very rhythmic, very intentional. And then to experience that just to lay there and to know that the spanking was about to occur was an important thing. It took away that fear of when is it coming and there was touch beforehand so, it was  laying there and you feel hands on you and you start to you know they just start to kind of massage that area and slowly move around that area using the fingertips like really getting the blood flow to that part of your body.So that's tip number one. When you are engaging in a practice with your partner, some sort of impact play or sensation play or whatever it is, start with this intention first to that area that you're focusing on.So in this case when it comes to spanking, massaging that area and using the fingertips like just like lightly groping and massaging around that area or just rubbing that area and getting that area warmed up to where you know your person is going to understand where this where this is headed.You're also going to be having a conversation beforehand, first you want to ask the person, if you have a scale of 1-10 in terms of your pain right now in this moment, what would your highest point be for me right now? Or for me inflicting the spanking to you on a scale of 1 to 10, what is the highest point that you would like to reach right now? "He focuses on like the squishy or fattier parts of but and so when he is done warming up, he will do a few just like little pats on the butt and then the intensity will kind of creep up up and up and up slowly and then he'll give me like a good whack and then ask what number was that?" And that just that those words in general, what number was that? Like my partner checking in with me during intimate intimacy to see where I'm at and what I'm feeling and where my emotions are is so fucking hot.There's three different techniques that I was taught at first when it came down to spanking. First one was taking your hand and cupping or arching your hand and when you are delivering the spank of this, like it has more of like a muffed sound. Position number two would be full hand with fingers  together and that one is gonna be a little bit more intense pain wise.Third one is just the tips of your fingers, so you're just like, it's like you're thumping on them almost. So it might start with just a little bit of a few pats, and then you start to ramp it up a little bit more, and then you got some cupping going, and then maybe you do maybe a big smack. And then you would say, what number was that for you? You're gauging where your partner is at, you're gauging where the intensity is at. Support the showConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseYouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelfFacebook: Rachel MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.com

This week Brianna chatted with Rachel Maine to discuss how you can incorporate your chakras into your sexuality practice! In this episode: What are the 7 main ChakrasHow to activate & unblock your chakrasPleasure practices for each chakra How to honor yourself & your pleasureRachel is a sex therapist turned sex coach. Her journey started over 9 years ago after a break up that forced her to start choosing herself. This journey lead her to start a business involving sexual education which lead to going back to school for a certificate in sex therapy and sexuality education. Shortly after, she started her podcast, Owning Your Sexual Self and is now the CEO of her online sex coaching business, Wellness Sexpertise. In a nutshell, Rachel helps women, men and couples discover their sexual desires and create intimate, adventurous connections with their partners.Connect with Rachel: IG: @the_rachel_maine Email: therachelmaine@gmail.com Website: rachelmaine.comConnect with Bri: Instagram: @_brianna_carey_Website: Intimacy EvolutionReady to create deeper connections, invite more play into your relationship & have more fulfilling intimacy? I've created a Mini-Coaching package to help you do just that! Click here to check it out, or message me with any questions!Connect with Mark:Instagram: @mark_carey_lpc

Ep 182: Owning Your Sexual Self with Rachel Maine. Rachel is a Sex Therapist, Sex & Relationship Coach, and podcaster at Owning Your Sexual Self.  She's an amazing resource to help people have better sex, improved relationships, and more pleasure in their lives. She was fascinating and wonderful to chat with and I'm super excited to share her with all of you! We chatted about the masculine and feminine energies, including what they both are with examples, and why we should embrace both sides of them within ourselves. Yup. We have both! It's not a gender thing; it's an energy thing. We also talked about how sex toys and erotica are great tools to improve your sexuality of yourself and of that with your partner. They are an enhancement, a tool, not a replacement.We talked about how important communication is in relationships. We also addressed the fact that around 85% of women need clitoral stimulation to climax (and how sex toys can help with this too in positions where the clit is not getting enough stimulation to reach climax).Rachel talked about low desire and how to help with that, plus I loved her discussion of erotic blueprints and how knowing what category you fall into can help guide your sex life to flow more smoothly, and efficiently, and lead to more satisfaction and pleasure.  There's a website that offers how to help you determine which category you fall into: https://missjaiya.com/ We talked about the definition of orgasms and how there are different types and how important foreplay is ... and it's her favorite 'F' word! I love that! She also recommends women have an orgasm before penetration occurs since women can often easily have multiple orgasms.Other topics include sexuality, romance, psychology, self care, intimacy, health and fitness.To connect with Rachel Maine, please visit here: https://www.wellnesssexpertise.com/aboutand here: https://msha.ke/therachelmaine/?fbclid=IwAR0d5iYpmbKU0HUSRsKc3nO3I5RA6oqzWUm44X0x2gIuTS5J3s6HjhjeRFIThank you for coming on my podcast Rachel!About Ruan, the podcast host:Connect with Ruan across the internet via https://linktr.ee/RuanWillowNew NSFW Audiobook releases mentioned in the podcast (affiliate):Daddy Never Had to Use His Belt On Me Before: A BDSM Impact Play Spanking Story https://storyoriginapp.com/universalaudiobooklinks/9b69e62e-19ab-11ed-9d46-676ce26d62f8Free book with free trial of Audible: https://www.audible.com/pd/B0B8TLTBK8/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-318053&ref=acx_bThe Enthusiasm ProjectDeep dives exploring the world of what it means to be an independent creator.Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Surviving Abuse Podcast Surviving Abuse Podcast is a show designed to bring hope, healing, and education to...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

Have you thought about being child-free? Rachel Maine joins me to talk about her decision and the process she went through to be child-free.  You can follow Rachel Maine on IG @the_rachel_maine or her podcast, Owning Your Sexual Self.  Period Power is open for registration. Learn how to optimize your life around your hormones. Learn more here. Follow Jordan D'Nelle on Facebook and Instagram. Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com Support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives! Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already! *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. www.jordandnelle.com http://rachelmaine.com/ 

Our personal journey's lead Rachel and I to becoming intimacy and sex coaches. You hear our REAL and RAW stories including the work we have done leading us to helping others.  You can follow Rachel Maine on IG @the_rachel_maine or her podcast, Owning Your Sexual Self.  Learn how to maximize your hormones and how you feel throughout your 28 day menstrual cycle by supporting your body with the foods you eat. Grab your free go to guide here. Follow Jordan D'Nelle on Facebook and Instagram. Email: JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com Support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives! Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already! *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. www.jordandnelle.com http://rachelmaine.com/ 

In therapy, we talk about Prochaska's stages of change model. Most of the folks that we work with around sexuality, particularly those who have a religious background, start in either the precontemplative or contemplative stages of change. Not because they don't want to be further down the road, but because the systems they grew up in (read: most church communities) place limitations around sexuality, such as “no sex before marriage” or “no sex with someone of the same sex/gender, keep folks in these early stages. The preparation and action stages of change are only reserved for people who are married, and even then, healthy sexuality often takes years of development, overcoming anxiety, and unlearning unhelpful messages around bodies and sex. If you're single or queer, many religious circles expect you to stay in the precontemplative/contemplative stages of change, meaning coming out as a sexual person (queer or otherwise) has to happen outside of the church walls. Sexvangelicals is a podcast that tells the stories of folks who start at a precontemplative stage about sexuality, either because of a neutral/negative view of sexuality, i.e. a lack of sex education, or a negative or restrictive view of sexuality, such as purity culture, and follows them along the stage of change journey. Some folks operate explicitly in the action/maintenance phase, while other folks have parts of them that are in the contemplative or preparation stage. Wherever you are on this journey, this podcast is for you! On this episode, we take a sneak peek into the action stage of change with our friend Rachel Maine, host of the podcast Owning Your Sexual Self. Rachel's journey started over 9 years ago after a break up that forced her to start choosing herself. This journey lead her to start a business involving sexual education which lead to going back to school for a certificate in sex therapy and sexuality education. In a nutshell, Rachel helps women and couples discover their sexual desires and create intimate, adventurous connections with their partners. She runs a business with Pure Romance and is the CEO of her online sex coaching business. Rachel talks with us about: The importance of using anatomically accurate language (6:30): “There's power behind using anatomically correct terms,” Rachel states. Describing our genitals as penis, vulva, vagina (and knowing the difference between the two), rather than dick, pussy, thingy, or any other fake names, “can help break down the taboo around sex and pleasure.” Starting with sex positivity, rather than starting with sex negativity and moving into sex positivity (20:00): The therapeutic process typically starts with a problem. In the sex therapy world, it's often around sexual desires not aligning, sexual pain, or challenges and anxieties with erections. Rachel hosts parties for women where she starts with describing how to use sex toys and other variations of sexual experimentation, then works backwards, if necessary, to explore the unhelpful narratives around sexuality that folks might have. “It's validation for women. You hear this woman tell you that you're normal, that this is common, and here's how we might be able to fix this. It's important to recognize that you're not alone,” Rachel says. Sexual confidence (27:00): How do you know that you're in a sexually confident place? Rachel describes, “Expanding my horizon when it came to sexual pleasure. I took the time to prioritize myself. When you can start with the most intimate part of your life, you're pretty much guaranteed to see that flow into other parts of your life.” Julia reflects back: “Women have a narrative that “fine” is good enough. I love that you're encouraging folks to not settle in your sexuality.” Navigating between accepting what needs to be accepted and simultaneously not settling (29:30): We talk about two competing perspectives on sexuality: the model where you strive for mind-blowing sex at the expense of settling and the “good enough” sex model, where we also acknowledge the limitations of our bodies and psyches and accept our partners where we are. Jeremiah asks about a both/and approach, to which Rachel introduces the Want/Will/Won't List. She encourages folks to highlight what they want to do and won't do, and then to name sexual activities that they will do (but may not have the highest desire to do), with a mindset that pleasure might come in surprising ways through these activities. She then encourages couples to write these items on a sheet of paper, put them in a jar, draw one of the items, and do what's on the sheet of paper. She adds, “Remember, your desires are going to be changing. So to have the same sex all the time, you're likely to get bored.” Being in control of your own choices (40:00): Rachel's ultimate goals are for people to choose themselves first. She talks about how this starts with decisions that you make in the morning, such as writing or meditating or eating breakfast. She also encourages people to set time aside for self touch, and acknowledges that creating space for masturbation sets people up to create intentional living in a wide variety of domains. Wherever you are on your sexual journey, we hope this episode is informative and inspiring! Let's heal together!

Just another Tuesday afternoon talking about sex! On this episode of Bar Fights, Sarah welcomes Rachel Maine, a sex therapist turned sex coach and the host of the popular podcast Owning Your Sexual Self. Rachel and Sarah chat about Rachel's early days as an intern on a crisis hotline and a survivors advocate, to her work with Pure Romance, a woman-owned, international company. The conversation also gets around to severe trauma and how it can deeply affect intimacy. Rachel shows survivors of sexual and domestic abuse how to take ownership of their bodies again and regain their power, comfort and safety in the bedroom

Today we have my friend Rachel Maine, who is a catalyst for me to spread my wings. She's a sex therapist turned sex coach. Rachel Maine is a sex coach and sexuality educator that helps women discover and embrace what brings them pleasure so that they can own their sexual self. We talk about her podcast Owning Your Sexual Self, sextherapy, sex coaching, and more!In this podcast:04:00 - How did Rachel Maine get started with sex therapy and sex coaching?19:00 - What's the difference between sex therapy and sex coaching?26:00 - How has becoming a sex coach affected Rachel's marriage?33:00 - How does Rachel help people embrace their sexual pleasure without going straight to a toy?You can find Rachel Maine on:Rachelmaine.comhttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-worthy-womans-brunch-tickets-166092797027https://www.instagram.com/theworthywomansbrunch/Support the show (https://www.cash.app/$Shamaker)

Join me for something a little different this week as I am out of the office traveling for a conference! Today you can experience an episode from the Owning Your Sexual Self Podcast with Rachel Maine and hear me being interviewed as a guest!! How exciting?! We talk vulnerably about weight gain, confidence and HOT GIRL SUMMER! _______________Liquid IV Referral Link: http://rwrd.io/gj159vl_______________Find Rachel:instagram.com/the_rachel_mainewww.wellnesssexpertise.com_______________Find Megan: instagram.com/meganlovesyourfaceEmail: laughitoffwithmeg@gmail.comFacebook: Megan Ulrich Twitter: @meganulrich19

**please excuse my dogs in the background while recording this episode- apparently, they are just as excited as you to hear about tantric penis massages. Welcome back to this week's episode of Owning Your Sexual Self; "Tantric Penis Massage with Rachael Z". Rachael Zevecke is a Sex hacker & Female empowerment coach.  What is tantric penis massage?"A tantric sex practice that honors the penis and the person that has them. Tantric practices are all about slowing down and being connected with yourself and your body."*This is something a person can do to themselves or somebody that owns a penis.How long does this massage usually take?Shoot in the beginning for 10-15 minutes, it doesn't have to be that long."Just the slightest of touch can be so intriguing" What a session looks like...-Set the scene (Dim the lights, get comfortable, Him on his back and you sitting in between his legs)-Start slow (Let him guess when you're going to touch his penis, tease with light touches)-"Tease, deny & ride waves of pleasure"*If you're going to stimulate the prostate, you can press up on the perineum and if you put pressure there, it is a slight prostate stimulation.**By edging a man it teaches him to control his pelvic floor muscles, meaning he is having more control over his orgasms.*Tantric penis massaging helps with staminaHow can you identify when your partner is close to orgasming-really pay attention to what is going on (His breathing will become more rapid, flexing in the abs; this is a sign you need to slow down.-No more than 5 of the same touchWhat is a motion?-Stroking up and down with one hand (pressure, closeness, and tightness of your grip)-Use your thumbs a lot, massaging up the shaft of the penis.*Sexy music in the background & a little bit of dirty talkConnect with Rachel ZeveckeWebsite: https://mailchi.mp/3a987dd1d41f/master-your-man-sales-pageInstagram: @lewd.and.loudConnect with Rachel!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: Rachel MaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Email: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Hellooooo! Welcome back to another SPECIAL ;) Owning Your Sexual Self episode! This week's episode is called "Spit or Swallow? THAT is the question".  I know you're all excited so let's get into it...Let's all think back to our first experience giving a blow job...*My OnlyFans poll revealed that 100% of my subscribers voted for swallowing rather than spitting*"Had I got adequate sexual health information and known that there doesn't need to be shame around spitting or swallowing because who the fuck cares it's your life and in your life, you're likely going to have many more sexual encounters after that moment- if people were mature and educated enough to know that it's that person's decision if they want to spit or swallow. No matter what they do it's sexy either way! Right?"*A male follower responded to my Instagram poll saying swallowing feels more intimate.*Health benefits? exposure to semen is good for women's health because of the mood-altering chemicals of this body fluid. Researchers say semen can elevate mood, increase affection, and induce sleep. Semen contains vitamins and antidepressants!!!Make those men in your life a smoothie ;) (celery, papaya, pineapple, oranges etc)

Hi! Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast with your host; Rachel Maine. Today's topic is brought up a lot, exciters & blockers. Exciters and blockers refer to our turn-ons and turn-offs.Think: What things in your life need to be done in order for you to be turned on?What smells can you associate with pleasure?*Your brain is the most important sex organ!*Our pleasure is our responsibilityRate these Inhibitors (Turn offs/blockers) on a scale of 0-4 *0 not at all like me 1 not much like me 2 somewhat like me 3 a lot like me 4 exactly like me*1. Sometimes I have so many worries that I am unable to get aroused2. If I think that I am being used sexually it completely turns me off3. If I am uncertain about how my partner feels for me it is hard to get aroused4. If I am worried about taking too long to get aroused or orgasm, this can interfere with my arousal.5. Sometimes I feel so shy or self-conscious during sex that I can't become fully aroused.What is your score? __/20Rate these Inhibitors (Turn ons/exciters) on a scale of 0-4*0 not at all like me 1 not much like me 2 somewhat like me 3 a lot like me 4 exactly like me*1. Seeing a partner doing something that shows their talents or intelligence or watching them interact well with others can make me very sexually aroused.2. When I think of someone I find sexually attractive or fantasize about I easily become sexually aroused 3. If it is possible someone might see or hear us having sex it is more difficult to become aroused(Scale: 4 not at all like me 3 not much like me 2 somewhat like me 1 a lot like me 0 exactly like me)4. If I am very sexually attracted to someone I don't need to be in a relationship with that person to become sexually aroused5. I think about sex a lot when I am boredWhat is your score? __/20Now you can determine what you are low & high in for exciters and blockers.0-6- Low breaks7-13- Medium breaks14-20- High breaks*More than half of the people score in the middle for both exciters and blockers.We often think it's what goes on in-between our legs but it's not! It's about what goes on in our brains!