Podcasts about Tell Your Children

Title(s): Reefer Madness (a.k.a. Tell Your Children, The Burning Question, Dope Addict, Doped Youth, Love Madness) [Wikipedia] [IMDb] Director: Louis J. Gasnier Producer(s): George Hirliman (1936), Dwain Esper (1938-39) Writers: Arthur Hoerl (screenplay), Lawrence Meade (story) Stars: Dorothy Short, Kenneth Craig, Lillian Miles, Dave O'Brien, Thelma White, Warren McCollum, Carleton Young Release year(s): 1936 (original), 1938 (re-release) PROMO: Cinema Recall (@cinema_recall) SPECIAL GUESTS: Kevin and Erin Dougherty (@QueenErin), The Podcast That Wouldn't Die! (/tpodcasttwdie.bsky.social) SHOWNOTES: We hope all of our ganja-enjoying listeners had a fantastic 4/20; we sure did! This stoner holiday, we blazed while watching the anti-cannabis propaganda exploitation film Reefer Madness! Originally released as a Christian picture titled Tell Your Children in 1936, then vulgarly recut as an exploitation film from 1938 through the 50s, this hilariously melodramatic flick was recontextualized as an unintentional satire in the 70s, and is ironically considered by many weed smokers one of the original stoner movies today. For our (belated) 4/20 Special, Beau and Ash are joined by returning guests Kevin and Erin from The Podcast That Wouldn't Die! in our discussion of one of the worst films ever made and the batshit insanity it unabashedly presents as factual in its campaign against marijuana. If you enjoy this special episode, stay tuned for our (also belated) analysis of Ghost in the Shell, as well as our next numbered episode on Doctor Who: "The Day of the Doctor", and... smoke it if you got it! Collateral Cinema is on Bluesky, Facebook, Instagram, Threads, and Twitter, and is on Goodpods, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, YouTube, iHeart, and wherever else you get your podcasts! Also, check out Collateral Let's Play! on our YouTube channel. The Podcast That Wouldn't Die! is available on Spotify, YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Goodpods, or wherever you listen to podcasts! You can also follow them on Instagram, Facebook, Threads, Tiktok, and Bluesky. Collateral Media merch is now available on TeePublic! Check out everything from shirts and hats, to stickers and even tapestries, at our affiliate link now: teepublic.com/stores/collateral-media-group (Collateral Cinema is a Collateral Media Podcast. Intro song is a license-free beat. All music and movie clips are owned by their respective creators and are used for educational purposes only. Please don't sue us; we're poor!)

Motherkind Moment is your place for calm and connection and a shift in perspective before the week ahead.  Clinical psychologist Dr. Anne Lane joins us to discuss how we speak to our kids about difficult topics. She explains why secrecy and half-truths can be damaging and why it can help to have multiple brief conversations to help our children process the news gradually. For more powerful insights from Dr. Anne Lane listen to the full episode here: How to raise emotionally healthy children Click Here to order your copy of 'Motherkind: A New way to thrive in a world of endless expectations' Motherkind is sponsored by Wild Nutrition, the brand raising the bar for women's supplements. Want to feel the Food-Grown difference yourself? Get 50% off for three months at wildnutrition.com/motherkind. Ts and Cs apply. For a £100 sponsored job credit visit Indeed.com/ Motherkind This show is sponsored by Usborne books. If you want to add a little extra joy to storytime, 'Don't Tickle' touchy-feely sound books are available now from all good booksellers. This show is sponsored by Yeo Valley. Find Your Daily Groove: visit the Yeo Valley website to find out more. Yeo Got This! This show is sponsored by FreePrints. Download the Free Prints app for iPhone and Android from the App store or Google Play or visit freeprints.co.uk. Continue the Conversation: Join our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day - @zoeblaskey Join our mailing list to receive news, updates and new episode releases Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After the terrifying Rear Window films for Hitchcock-a-pallooza we here at the Bloody Good Film Podcast thought that we had to give your hearts a rest. Now that your hair has turned white from terror we're going the opposite direction with the high stakes action of North By Northwest!Before we dig into North By Northwest though we have talk a few trailers for some upcoming films, the Red (killer kangaroo flick), Demon Disorder (some insane looking body horror), and Rebel Ridge (from the director of Blue Ruin and Green Room).After the trailers we go start on the main feature and by the end of the episode you will now whether North By Northwest... IS... A BLOODY GOOD FILM!We encourage everyone to watch along while you listen and make sure to comment and let us know what you think. If you haven't already please follow us on Facebook, TikTok, "X" and Instagram @bloodygoodfilmpodcast and remember...Keep it bloody buddies!!!https://linktr.ee/BloodyGoodFilmPodcast...#northbynortwest #alfredhitchcock #jamesstewart #carygrant #mountrushmore #hitchcockpodcast #pianoman #jessecantwhistle #newepisode #newpodcast #action #Horror #ActionFilm #ActionMovie #ActionMovies #HorrorFilm #HorrorFilms #HorrorMovie

To some, Alex Berenson was the "pandemic's wrongest man." To others, he was a prophet, whose Covid and vaccine predictions -- although deeply unpopular and ultimately the reason for his ban from Twitter -- came true. A graduate of Yale University, Alex Berenson got a job as a journalist at The New York Times around 2000. During his award-winning 10-year tenure at the paper, he covered the pharma industry, Bernie Madoff, Hurricane Katrina, and the Iraq War. He ultimately left the newspaper to become a novelist, which proved a more lucrative and comfortable career. Then, in 2019, he published a book on the link between cannabis and psychosis called "Tell Your Children." From Joe Rogan, on whose podcast Berenson has appeared multiple times, to establishment scientists, critics accused him of cherry-picking data and being alarmist. Today, however, his cannabis research is less controversial. In 2020, in the early days of the pandemic, Berenson became a critic of the federal government's response to Covid. He called BS on lockdowns, mask mandates, contact tracing, and more. Then, when the vaccine came out, he raised questions about the clinical trials, saying they were run poorly and predicting that the vaccine may have significant side effects. In late summer 2021, he sent a tweet saying the vaccines would be "at best a therapeutic," and Twitter banned him. He sued Twitter and won the appeal, and has since sued the federal government for colluding with Twitter to ban him. He sat down with RocaNews co-founders Max Frost and Max Towey to discuss his lawsuit, censorship, his pandemic views, his cannabis views, and much more. Make sure to subscribe and please send your questions/thoughts/feedback to wethe66@rocanews.com.

In this sermon we will focus on how God told His people to remember the Passover in Exodus 12-13. Three times in the passage, God tells the Israelites to explain to their children why they remember the Passover. This teaches us to pass on our faith to those who come after us. We are to tell them how God has saved us, why they should join God's people, and why we worship/serve Him the way that we do. Another way to pass on our faith is through our participation in the Lord's Supper. How do I pass on what I have learned about God?

It's Earth Day and we want to celebrate one of the finest gifts that this pretty planet has to offer. No, not Fred Silverman - everyone's best bud, cannabis! But things haven't always looked as bright for MJ as they do nowadays with modern legalization efforts, and so we're looking back at a time when the hype around marijuana was more about the insanity it caused than its many benefits. And that insanity had a special name - Reefer Madness!~~~REEFER MADNESS! It's taken over this fine country, so we decided it was time to cover it! Run for your life, marijuana is polluting the minds of America's youths!“Reefer Madness”, originally titled “Tell Your Children”, was an exploitation and propaganda film released in 1936, 1938, or 1939…. Seriously, they didn't keep an accurate record of the film's release. It was meant to teach about the dangers of grass, dope, ganja, that sticky icky icky icky… And the film worked! People were terrified!What's even more interesting than the film is The Marihuana Act of 1937. (Yes, that's how it was spelt.) Passed by the government and backed by William Randolph Hearst, it was the first step in making cannabis as illegal as illegal could be!This week Ray teaches Rob all about the history of hemp and its many uses, how this film fell into public domain, which ultimately led to some of the first midnight screenings and opened the door for showings of movies like “Rocky Horror Picture Show” and “The Room”…and how that wacky tabacky could make you go insane and beat your acquaintance with a stick. (It's in the movie.) Be careful out there, folks.If you like what we're doing, please support us on Patreon, or you can subscribe to our bonus content on Apple Podcasts. And we'd love to find even more listeners, so if you have time, please leave us a rating or review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. And if you have any other thoughts or feedback you'd like to share with us, we'd love to hear from you - feel free to email us or send us a message on social media. TEAMRay HebelRobert W SchneiderMark SchroederBilly RecceDaniel SchwartzbergGabe CrawfordNatalie DeSavia WEBSITESIMDbRotten...

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In this episode, we talk about how to tell your children that you are separating. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.

Greg responds to a question about whether you should tell your children your spouse has left Christianity, then he takes Open Mic calls about why John was called the greatest “among those born of women,” transgender children, and whether taking fertility drugs would interfere with God's timing and plan.   Topics: Commentary: Should you tell your children your spouse has left Christianity? (00:00) How should I understand the saying in Matthew 11:11 and Luke 7:28 that John was the greatest “among those born of women” if Jesus was also born of a woman? (27:00) Would this question help a parent realize what's best for their child? “If you could snap your fingers and get the best outcome for your child, would you choose for your child's body to match their mind or to not match?” (38:00) Is it okay to take fertility drugs, or would that be interfering with God's timing and plan? (47:00) Mentioned on the Show:  #STRask podcast with Greg and Amy Record an Open Mic question Related Links: When Transgender Children Are Harmed by the People Who Intended to Help Them by Amy Hall How to Help Transgender Children by Amy Hall The Tragic Consequences of the IVF Industry by Amy Hall How IVF Is Changing Our View of Human Beings by Amy Hall The Black Box of IVF by Alan Shlemom What You Might Not Know about IVF – Alan Shlemon and Amy Hall

Maybe you've tried to prioritize your faith: God first, family second, ministry third. Pastor Colin talks about another approach that he calls alignment.

If you extend yourself in serving the Lord, how will it impact your family? Pastor Colin talks about the best thing you can do for your children.

I have enjoyed my relationship with my parents, and I am blessed to still work with my Dad. We have a long, fruitful relationship, and that continues to mold how I parent my kids today.In society today, there are too many influences that have a negative impact on your kid's development, both physically and mentally."So if you want them to learn to read, read, if you want them to sit around, watch TV all day, then sit around, watch TV all day. Just recognizing that most often, most likely, your children are going to mirror what you show them is important. So if you want them to find things important that are healthy, do some healthy things."The following is an automated transcript and may be edited for grammar.Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:00:03] One of the things that I talk to parents about all the time is you can't tell your children how to be. You have to show your children how to be. So if you want your kids to be healthy, you have to show them that you work out, eat right, sleep right, and do the things that are required to be healthy.Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:00:25] You can't yellow your kids and be like, You guys should be healthy, you guys shouldn't smoke, and you smoke because you're teaching them that one, what you say is irrelevant and two that smoking is okay if you're like, Nope, I don't want my kids to smoke, then you shouldn't smoke. That's it because, again, kids learn from watching, not listening.Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:00:46] So if you want your kids to be healthy, get healthy. If you want them to work out, work out. If you want them to take their supplements and eat right, you must do that. So these are the things when you start thinking about, you know, I hear people say, oh, I would die for my kids. Awesome! That's super easy; living for them is hard; show them the person you want to be.Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:01:09] People ask me like, like, you must love working out a don't not my favorite thing. Half the time I go, I don't want to be there. I don't want to do it. And I bitch, and I complain to myself the entire time I'm there until I'm done.Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:01:22] But my kids ask me, Will you teach me to work out? Hey, What supplements should I take for this or that? They're eight and ten. It's like they're 16 and trying to get better for their sports. They see me doing it, they see their mom doing it, and they understand that that's part of what's being healthy, that's part of the lifestyle if they want to be, you know, like mom and dad, they want to be like all of mom and dad's friends this is part of the thing that they need to do they see it regularly.Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:01:51] Show your kids what you want them to Be, Be the man, Be the woman you want your kids to be. It's the only real way you can get there. You can teach them great things by doing them or you can teach them terrible things by doing them.Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:02:03] Oftentimes, do you see from alcoholic parents is you see either alcoholic children or children who will never touch alcohol because they saw their parents doing it and they're like, absolutely not I don't want to be like my parents. Again those parents were showing their children how to be.Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:02:21] So if you want to be healthy and you want your kids to be healthy, you have to show them you can't tell them. So that's where the hard thing about being a parent is that you're now the role model whether you wanted to be or not, you're it.Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:02:35] So if you want them to learn to read, read, if you want them to sit around, watch TV all day, then sit around, watch TV all day. Just recognizing that most often, most likely, your children are going to mirror what you show them is important. So if you want them to find things important that are healthy, do some healthy things.Check out Chalmers Pillarsofwellness.com for Wellness updates! And ask me any questions you have at questions@chalmerswellness.com. I will answer all of them and look forward to hearing from you.The Chalmers Wellness Stubstack just launched. Comment, Like, Interact with other people on their wellness journey. Communities can make a difference. DrChalmers.substack.comDr. Matt ChalmersDisclaimer: This content is for informational purposes only. Before taking any action based on this information you should first consult with your physician or health care provider. This information is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health providers with any questions regarding a medical condition, your health, or wellness.

#73 - Liz and Miguel, who have been in the lifestyle since 2005, share their experiences and how they navigated family situations. Hear how they got their start in the lifestyle and gain some key knowledge about posting pictures online. We'll explore the importance of open communication and how honesty and privacy are key when discussing sexual preferences within a family. To learn more about open relationships and the lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

Hour 4 Somehow we make our way around to legal marijuana Audio from WGIG-AM and FM in Brunswick, GA

Nine Things to Remember and Tell Your Children and Grandchildren 1. When you were saved 2. When you knew God was real 3. A personal miracle you experienced 4. Your best spiritual decision 5. Life challenges that helped your faith (physical/emotional/spiritual 6. A failure and how God used it 7. People who impacted you spiritually 8. The Bible story you love the most 9. Your life verse, if you have one Resources: www.legacycoalition.com www.familylife.com

Episode 296 - Dr. Gilbert @ the BSE Conference, Vancouver, WA - August 2022 Presentation @ the  "Biblical Sexual Ethics & Integrity Conference for Parents"  Vancouver, WA August 2022   Episode 296's video link: https://youtu.be/LtE7gsZ0UAU       Welcome to HealingLives with Corey Gilbert, a podcast sponsored by the healing live center, discover how to love and lead your family well and biblically God created sex marriage and the family for our stewardship growth and benefit my heart and passion is to teach, train, educate and disciple christians that want strong marriages and families. The HealingLives Center has been serving Christians since the year 2000. Its mission is to be a center for sex, trauma and marriage education and transformation, where we offer counseling, coaching courses and speaking services to you, your church or ministry check us out at HealingLives.com. I had the honor of this past year to present at a conference entitled the Biblical sexual Ethics and integrity Conference for parents. The subtitle was inspiring and equipping parents to wrestle with and live out a biblical sexual ethic model, sexual integrity and grow the parent child connection by a host of the conference was Julia Garrison. Um you'll see here in her in the beginning um and her links to her work is might make level paths dot org, there'll be links in the description. Um so here is my presentation, so some of you, um most of you wouldn't know this actually not some, most of you would not know this uh that this conference was actually gonna be last spring. Um I was gearing up for it uh and the name of that conference again, I love long titles, I don't just the name of that conference was going to be going beyond the sex talk, how to disciple your child sexuality. Okay, A mouthful, right? But that was the whole thing, right? It was like, it was catchy, I had sex in it. Okay. Yeah, so that was gonna be the title. I had all graphics done, I was about to launch it and um, a week before launching and promoting uh, schedules changed and it was put on pause now, like any of you, you might think does God not want me to do this? That was one of the things that went through my mind, right, was like, okay, does this mean I shouldn't do it? Like, you know, you're kind of wrestling with that and in the middle of wrestling with that. Um, I decided I need to re look at this and one of the things that I was re looking at is I want a psychologist. I want, I want someone who's familiar with human and child development with human sexuality, who has, who has a different view or a different look on this, not just biblical, but also with the human development piece. Um I, I know there's a lot of stuff out there about the psychology field and it's been used in negative ways, but did you know the root word is soul care, right? Like it was something that was ours before it got changed. Okay, so it, it's a good thing. Um it can be a good thing, I should say it that way. I wanted someone who had strong biblical ethic and who had life experience. So not only the psychology background in the human development, but also the biblical ethic and the life experience. I wanted a professional who was well seasoned and working in the trenches of human suffering. That was really important to me and with parents, fears also really important to me, someone who got the context while knowing hope was alive. So I started asking around how many of you know that God's a provider. Soon after I caught wind of the name. Dr Cory Gilbert, a psychology professor at Corbin University. So I googled it and of course I'm scrolling his page and I see PhD in family psychology. I see over 22 years devoted to counseling individuals, couples and families struggling with past abuse, especially in the areas of trauma, adultery, struggles with sex, sexuality and gender identity. If my mouth wasn't open at this point, I was like, oh I see published books, workbooks uh specifically on teaching parents went right to amazon ordered it. It's out there um about biblical sexual ethics and being uh spiritual authorities in their home. He's even the founder of the healing live center, which is focused on sex trauma and marriage education and training. Then this is a big dramatic pause. Then I see his newest book and take a guess of what it's called, going beyond the talk, a teen and preteen guide. So I'm all fired up at this point. Um and so after I dug a bit deeper, listened to some things, I was like, this is this is the guy. So I reached out and eagerly waited his response. Uh, he wrote back in capital letters. Absolutely. So ladies and gentlemen, please welcome an answer to my prayer and a devoted and godly expert in the area of biblical sexual ethics. Dr Cory Gilbert set the bar high right there. Okay, I am so honored to be here. Um, this is, this is what I love to do, which is also sounds weird. Um some of my favorite counseling is actually with abuse and trauma and adultery. Why? Because God's the Redeemer and it's all about that. Why would I teach classes at Corbin about trauma and human sexuality? When I know when I get to certain topics, I'm gonna lose half the class because it hits them in their heart because God's there restore, there's a reason for it. Without it. I would, I would go be a truck driver or something. It's always been my backup job. It's not, it's not logical actually to even talk about this stuff yet. As I, as I left college and actually rewind there, I went to college to be in music, but I found out you have to have talent. That was a hard one. My junior year. They sat me down and said, you're not graduating, you're not good enough. I cried, they cried, it was a moment. Um and I had to switch my major and I was like, I'm not gonna major in spanish. I grew up in south America, not gonna major in my dojo mech. Actually, that was my, I might do that one, so art, I love art, love and stuff like that. And so then I just decided to try this christian counseling class, one class changed my whole life, my heart and desire is ministry, my heart's desire is to serve. And I never realized that I would be doing that um that I'll be switching from this passion of music into counseling into these in the areas that were to come. I'm glad, doesn't, God doesn't give us a preview, God glad that God kind of goes, you know what, I'm gonna give you this little piece because you're not gonna unnecessary like what's around the corner and we'll get to that in a little bit. But um today, as we kind of go through this definitely as Julia said, pay attention to yourself because some of this is, can be difficult, but today, what I really want to focus on is scripture, the foundation. Why are in the world are we talking about this? What do we stand on? Um the QR code here, it's here and it's also throughout the slides, just so you can grab it if you need it, but it will have the handouts and the videos and all this stuff on that page after in a few weeks in a few days. Um just so you can grab it later. But um this is what we talked about. We get to talk about sex, it's supposed to be redemptive and I bet you half or more of us, it's not necessarily how it feels inside your hearts, especially in your experiences, young people, glad you're here. We need to be able to talk about this in a way that's redemptive. There's a lot of um stuff inside of us that's actually messed up and twisted that we need to actually reexamine think through um really, really important. This is a quote that I heard from Preston Sprinkle and just really hit me said people of faith who are navigating gender identity issues. Are our people not careful, we're talking about them. No, you and I are struggling. Every single one of us is actually wrestling with something. It just may not be that piece. We're all questioning things about who God is and why he did this or why he did that. And especially after the last few years we went through, there's so many questions we have but I love that statement. They are our people. So hold on to that as we kinda walk through some stuff that's not gonna necessarily feel good. Always. This is where I'm from Temuco Chile Chile. No um I grew up in Chile grew up in the Chilean school system, the private schools missionary family missionary kid. Um so I came to America at 17 years old. I'm not liking this country because my grandmother had died right before he came to visit not knowing the culture. I mean your culture in chile was all I knew even though when I looked in the mirror I realized oh wait I'm not like them. Um but until I looked in the mirror I didn't, I wasn't treated different white redhead with a very different culture is beautiful actually, that's what I knew and I actually being someone who kind of stood out when I moved to the United States, I didn't realize that I was actually trying to stand out And didn't know why I was doing that. This is what I looked like in 92 and 93. Um mullets are awesome and I was on a mission trip to Dominican republic and a missionary there, she said cory you're doing everything you can to stand out because you grew up your whole life standing out and now you're nobody and I was like oh shoot called it and I had to kind of re examine myself but everything I liked with pink and purple and girly and I mean I crochet and I cross stitch and I do art and I um music major not realizing that in all of that. There's also certain assumptions that I just was clueless about because of cultural things, not realizing what friends were saying about me when I was actually after seminary, even I was getting new glasses and I put a purple tint to the, to the lens. It was kinda cool not realizing what I was saying, what people were interpreting from that were for a couple years later, some friends were like, yeah, we thought you were gay but really didn't say anything. I never really had girlfriends and um, so what does that mean? Well what's sad is we're constantly sending messages. Everything. We do everything, we say how we dress, everything sends a message. Even if we aren't quite clued into what that means. Um, this was me. This is me now. It's funny cause I actually, I motorcycles became a piece for me to leave where I was before. Um, I grabbed onto a pride for the wrong reason. Even I didn't want to be known as that person. And so I grabbed onto this identity. I, well the first part was I moved to America and all of a sudden there's no public transportation so I need my freedom. Got a job at Mcdonald's. So I'm making 4 25 an hour and I'm rolling in the dough. So I need freedom. And so I bought a motorcycle and that became me. Well that's just the beginning of that where it's like, that's not necessarily who I am, There's so many layers, but the world then was so different and as laura talked about last night if I were born today and being a teenager today, I worry where I would be today because of the pressures from our culture and the questions being asked by our teams that should not be being asked, which we'll talk about today. Um I had better pipes on that one. So yeah, I laugh when I'm next to a Tesla because I make them rattle a little as I go by. But um, so there's parts of me that came out that I didn't know exist and here's the coolest thing. I'm this kind of more girly girl inside and I meet this amazing woman And I have the best day of my life when I married my, my bride Kelly 19 years ago and she is such a guy inside Legal field, like analytical, her version of counseling is a two x four across the head get over it, I'm like, that's why you do your thing and I'll do my thing. Like, um and I meet this woman who I still can't believe I've been online by the way, equally yoked dot com. 10 months later we were married, I was walking with a cane at the time and doctors said I would never have a job and I would never work, I have Crohn's and I was just dying inside my body was um decaying. I was on high doses of predniSONE and other stuff and I was a mess. What's interesting is when we got married um in those 10 months, I've been in the hospital three times and my wife and her mom had talked about in marrying him. You will probably take care of him the rest of your life. Are you willing to do that? She's been a stay at home mom in the last 14 years to our kids and home schools, our kids. Well I work 2-4 jobs because God is awesome. That story didn't play out. We actually through lots of stress and struggle as a couple found other answers and got help outside of medicine and I've learned to take care of myself and I ride a Harley and I go backpacking and I go snowboarding and I do stuff I never thought I could do because God is incredible. And every time I even get on my bike, it's just from reminder of I'm not in a wheelchair. We spent our first year of marriage with a handicapped sticker and shopping for one of those motorized carts because that's what we thought we were kind of into. And um God is a redeemer. Does he always, does he fix everything? No, I actually, my own stuff started flaring up two weeks ago, Why? We started back meetings at Corbin and getting ready for school year as the stress goes up. Things go downhill every time about november, it gets worse and then depression sets in when my college students leave me in december and it hits me again in May. Um I'm human, but I'm gonna actually fight what happens with these three guys. I also couldn't have kids is what we thought too. And I married someone who was like, I don't know if I really want kids, but it's okay if we have kids. And so when she found out she was pregnant the first time, she was kind of mad because she had already given her heart kind of gone, no, we're not gonna open that door. And um so it's just kind of neat to have, I call my experiments. They would normally be here with me right now. But um my my wife's grandfather just passed away. So they're dealing with all that. But um these guys make me who I am, I only wanted daughters by the way. And so then we found out we were having a son and I cried and I was depressed for two weeks. I don't know what to do with a boy. And then we found out we're having a second sun, God, what are you doing to me? And then I had my little girl who's just my doll. I love her to death. If she had been born first, I would be a horrible dad because she would have me wrapped around her finger and she does not have me wrapped on her finger and I look at that and realized that even some of those things of who I was and who God gave me his two sons. it forced me into things that I never would have actually honestly tried and to see how Moldable and shape a ball we are that um all my shirts say Harley on them mainly because my wife was like stop complaining about the prices on at the store because they're crazy and they're all from Ebay, but it was a change from my previous clothing, if you will. Why? Because I loved her and realize that it's so funny how easy some of these decisions are to change, but why don't we? Because we dig our heels in and we actually kind of claim some identity if you will and if we're not careful, it's one that's actually us at the center which we're gonna talk about. So the topic or the more pictures you, my kids, yes, loved doing adventures with them. Um what I want to do today is this, I'm gonna walk through this. Um these are the old slides actually, Oops, okay, we'll do this anyway, create order disorder. This is the model of kind of how I'm thinking about this and we're gonna look at a lot of scripture. I'm a college professor. So, good luck keeping up again. The slides will be online. But um, we're gonna look at this kind of 33 pieces, so create order disorder and then who you are, how does this fit in with you um which is really, really, really important. So the first passage of scripture and we're looking at a created order. We're gonna go back to genesis Genesis 1 27. So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them male and female. He created them. This is the foundation. We start with that God created us male and female. And there is no other alternatives to that. That's how we're made. And we're gonna look again further at that. But there's another cool thing about the order of this. He created man. But there's something that some of us do. It's called work. But if we're not careful, we put it in the wrong order. Work did not come after the fall, work came before the fall. The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. Remember that that actually you are meant to work. I look at this word retirement and I laugh. It's one thing to retire from a job to start something new or to go invest in something different. But how many quit living? They lose themselves or they watch jeopardy reruns I guess. I don't know. Um They lose themselves, you were called to something greater than just punching a clock in death and taxes to work. Work. Work beautiful thing. So put it in the right order. But then God even did something more incredible than creating man. He actually created this incredible person called woman. The Lord um Lord God said it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him. The model of even marriage that we're gonna get to later starts right here and society right now basically has been saying and emphasizing even marriage is just a societal contract, it's a societal construct. It's like look at the bible, go look at the bible, no, it's not, it's from design prior to even the fall, we haven't gotten gotten to that yet. So the man gave names to all the livestock. Can you imagine that? I think about what God did to Adam, He goes, I'm gonna have you try to figure out if any of these are like you in my mind, I picture this taking days and maybe weeks if not years of Adam every day going, nope, not like me, nope, not like me, God, I'm in perfect communion with you and I still have a void, this is pre fall, remember that? How incredible I feel like it was God kind of emphasizing I'm gonna make someone that's gonna be so incredible, that's gonna be a helpmate and fit with you in a way that is gonna blow your mind. Adam found no suitable helper helper. Um and then he created marriage. The man said this has been a bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh and she shall be called, wow man, she was taken out of man, This is the design, this is the start, this is the foundation, this is why a man will leave his father and mother and he has united to his wife and they become one flesh still in the pre fall. The design is beautiful what the created order is beautiful and we have to say it two sexually different people. A marriage between two men and a marriage between two women is not a marriage, I don't care what you do. Society wise you can have contracts but nothing is sealed in heaven and nothing is sealed on earth. A wedding, a same sex wedding by the way is an expensive party. Think of it that way changes kind of how you feel about it because nothing is sealed in heaven, nothing is hell on earth and someone who comes to christ and there they find themselves in that space, do I leave my husband or leave my wife, they're not your husband or wife. We have to honor God and are now now the messy part gets kids that's another and it's sad to say I hear it all the time and counseling how many all my kids are resilient. Yeah, they actually kinda are but they're still gonna be harmed by your decisions actually. Even your decisions to move across town to switch schools to leave that church and go somewhere else. Our decisions actually do cause damage and or character maybe but it's life and it's part of us teaching our Children how to handle that. And so sometimes the delusion of our kids are resilient. They'll be fine. No, they're gonna be hurt, they're gonna be harmed. So lean into that and love them and expect that all of our decisions do. Adam and his wife were both naked and they felt no shame. Do you know what that's like? I would like to say that we actually don't know what that's like. We feel shame even now we feel shame. We don't, we can't even comprehend prior to the fall what that feels like to have actually have no shame. And then God didn't stop there. He brought them together. They felt no shame. And then now enters the picture of Children procreation Proverbs 17 6 children's Children are a crowned the aged and parents are the pride of their Children. It's sad to me to think of how we even think about Children nowadays. They're a nuisance. They're, they're a problem. They're, they're a little messy and dirty and loud and actually, no, you were called to be parents in the sense of how we're designed, it doesn't mean we all get to be, there's trends right now and some couples who they come together and they want kids and then they found out one of them can't. And so they divorce because, well you deserve to have Children? No, you do not. I deserve hell actually. And so what do I do with that? How do I lean into my spouse now that we've discovered that we can't have Children And yes, there might be other ways we can try if you can afford some of that. But we lean into that new us just like you can't, you can't, there's no guarantee when you get married that that person is gonna be healthier a year later or two years later, Laura laura story that beautiful song blessings her husband ends up in a brain is a brain tumor injury and wakes up. I don't even remember her accident. It's amazing to think about. We don't have any guarantee. I know part of what shaped me as a young boy was watching my mom have cancer and how my dad loved my mom. That was a young boy. We were living in Costa rica at the time. But then at 8 18, so 10 years later at 18 I watched my parents navigate through it again and watch. My dad loved my mom and shapes us. But also think about how many of us don't have that shaping from our family. We didn't get good examples of how to love how to surrender how to sacrifice. And so we really do learn how to be about ourselves. So what do we do here? We have this created order? Well, there's the disorder. Where does disorder come in? Well, it comes in with one word and it's sin senators the picture and it all goes downhill. We're in trouble. That's where we're at now. If you think of the things getting in the way that sin the places where we get stuck at Sin Genesis 3 6-7, then the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye and also desirable for gaining wisdom. She took some and ate it and noticed he was hanging out right next to her. She also gave some to her husband who by the way, was given the command and was given the instruction and he was silent. Um, and he ate it in the eyes of both of them were opened and they realized that they were naked and they went to Kmart sending her the picture and everything changed. There's an awareness they got what they wanted they see and they actually also now have to grieve, have to hurt that to face. But here's the word that I think comes into the picture at this point when Senators the picture, this next word is where you and I actually tend to struggle. It's actually blame 3 12. The man said the woman you put here with me, she gave me some fruit from the tree and I ate it dude punk right there And what are we doing now all the time. We want to find blame for everything. It's always someone else's fault that this that or the other happened. And it's actually no, I I own my reactions and I own who I am and I own how I handle all this, even the insanity of the last two years. But we want to blame. And what's so hard is there some stuff that has happened that we have very clear blame? Some of the processes that I walk young people through that when I worked at college and stuff, that age 20s is hard step where I actually looked through. So sexual abuse, I looked through what has happened to them when they were younger and I go, who was supposed to be your protector? Mom and dad. And I go, did they? No. So where should the shame be? This is scary. This is actually kind of scary shame on them for not protecting you. And I go, well hold on, don't stay there. You even land. If you stay there for even a few more minutes, you're gonna actually just spiral Why do I say that? Why? Because you're carrying a shame that you can't bear, that's actually not yours. And when I put it in the right place, I can enter the most beautiful place. And it's called forgiveness. But if I don't tell the truth, I can't forgive. And a lot of places I find people stuck is they haven't told the truth. They're still carrying a lie. And then fighting with a lie over and over and over and over for years. And when they tell the truth, they can go and I forgive and they feel very different towards even their their parent shame on the person that harmed me. Why not to get angry and get mad And and actually now seek vengeance is to then be free. I'm so tired of that controlling me and I can be free when I put truth capital t truth in place. But a lot of us are living and playing with and dancing around in our unconscious lots and lots of lies. We're trying to make sense of things we can't make sense of and trying to believe things that are not true. Now here's what happened with blame here in the garden at this point in time. Help the helper fail. Eve, here's how she failed to the woman. He said, I will make your your pains and childbearing very severe with painful labor. You will give birth to Children and your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you the consequences of who she was supposed to be with her with her husband at the time. But this is a scary one. Leadership failed for Adam. He was meant to be someone who actually was leading his wife and he did not, he failed here to Adam he said because you listen to your wife and ate fruit from the tree which I commanded. You must not eat from it, cursed is the ground because of you through painful toil. You will eat food from it, holidays, your life. And if you think of the picture of this, it's one of your work is going to turn into something that can actually be somewhat of a burden. It's gonna be hard to be difficult. You're gonna be stressing, it's gonna be something that's different than the way I designed it to be which all of us can probably attest to what were we supposed to be? Adam was supposed to be that that partner with his wife and she was supposed to be a partner with her husband in design. Where do we find the working of this out Now for all of us in our marriage relationship, there's this back and forth and kind of pull of helper and leadership and what does this mean? Um questions I asked Premera couples all the time. I'm like, so what does it mean to be head of the house? And then I watched the husband or the boy, the guy who's getting married dig a grave. I'm supposed to make all the decisions. I was like, okay, I'm not sure where you got that one. Well from the church sometimes, but what does it mean to be the head of the house husbands? What does the require the the burden placed on you? It is you're gonna partner with this person who is so different than you has such a different way to see the world and you are responsible for her and your kids at judgment day. That's what it means. That should make you shake in your boots. It's not telling her what to do. It's not her obeying and you spouting off stuff. Absolutely not. You're partnering and what an incredible relationship when you actually really are linking arms and making decisions together and wrestling together and seeing things different but actually coming to agreements. That is not easy. That's what a lot of us counselors are spending a lot of time helping people do and it is so beautiful from this, these leadership and and helpmate fails. What comes what comes is this man will struggle with and return to the earth but The one We have pain and childbirth and struggle with man. Now again pause and look at society and look at marriages and look at families. This is exactly what's happening. There's a constant wrestling and struggling between who's gonna be in charge. Like what do we do some for some families as if mama ain't happy ain't nobody happy and we actually almost think that's a good term, a good phrase or a good thing and it's like no, this is unhealthy actually I would say it's downward unbiblical as a partner, their husbands that walk in the house and they don't even know what to do anymore because it's like this isn't their territory, it's hers and the kids and their they feel like an absolute outsider because of a lack of this, What was designed in marriage was broken through sin. And so we have a lot of working this out. So how do we apply this to us? What do you look about you? And I'm gonna I'm looking at this through the lens if you got the created order disorder and then then you there's a certain word I'm gonna get to in a little bit as to what it means for you and me when it comes to all of this mess was what it seems like. But also the beauty in the book I wrote. Um I can't say that for parents. There's this chapter I put in there that my wife was like you need to delete that chapter. That's just but it was the one on the neuroscience side. So all of the way that God made our chemistry and our neurobiology and hormones. And it's fascinating because it shows a perfect design of husband and wife male and female coming together and how we're meant to be by design. Yet for so many of us we just don't understand how that how they can think this way or how they can act this way or why are they so emotional or why are they so heartless or why are they so this or that and we gets lost. But yet again God's design is perfect and sin enters the picture, we lose each other. I had a client recently. He just said you know what When I'm gone to work, we should just expect when I come home that we're gonna have to get back on the same page because when I'm gone out during these, you know, 8 to 10 hours a day, of course we're not on the same page yet. The assumption was before were always supposed to be on the same page. It's like, so what needs to happen is you come home and there's a committee meeting, we get back on the same page every day. Yeah. What is the average that couples talk per week, anybody know? Yeah. It's just actually a handful of minutes per week. Sometimes I've seen some studies that say maybe an hour total a week kind of terrifying. Think of all the little exchanges. And it adds up to just a little bit of time and you're supposed to know me with that. No, you're not gonna know me. It's it takes intentionality. It takes investment. Yet we're so busy. So I want to kind of switch gears with this and look at it through the lens of gender and sexuality. Then so psalms 1 39 30 13 for you created my innermost being you knit me together in my mother's womb. There's a design from the beginning from the beginning of when you were conceived, we know that a baby in utero experiences the world, you adopt a child from this the day they're born and they have trauma based off what happened inside that mom in her life chemically and then also around her we know that that's not even a question. Yeah we still have questions about where life begins which I think is such an interesting, I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made, how many of us don't believe that through our actions, every one of us can actually probably list some things we don't like about ourselves and God's up there going, I made you, you're dissing me. I haven't talked to a woman in my office ever who hasn't had a list of what they don't like about themselves breaks my heart. That's not what it's about having the perfect body or having the perfect mind or having degrees or having status or having the perfect person on your arm isn't gonna make it. Remember this lady that I was a single lady that lived next to in Kansas, she was so excited she brought me down to the garage because she had the first ford um escape the only one in the state just so proud of this thing and I just laughed was like there'll be like 1000 of them in like two weeks but we do that plus it was a ford escape anyway. Like we get all excited about. I have, I've had Hondas and Yamaha's and Kawasaki's and different bikes and Finally finally finally sold sold the one I had and I got a Harley that one you saw and I remember after a few weeks I was kind of depressed because you realize it's just a stupid bike and I missed my Honda because it started this year and it was very humbling. It is, it doesn't matter what you get of stuff. It's amazing how many of us have vacations and then we have to have a vacation from the vacation after the vacation because it was so exhausting. American version of vacations is just whack to me. Just, you're so exhausted and you have to go back to work and you're worse off than you were before and in debt. Um, do I believe that I am fearfully wonderfully made my life and my actions will show that this is still that foundation of even who we are that were either living from or we are making my own path Colossians 3, 5 put to death therefore whatever belongs to your earthly nature, sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry and think about any of these lists here in in other passages, a list of these things and sometimes we look at it and we can, we just go right into one and we obsess, we don't see the other two or three that are pointing right at us and we need to deal with. Um, but they're also not exhaustive trying to call out something and say, hey, these are some of the things they need to think about to consider. We don't think this way put to death, we're in a place in our culture where it's, don't you tell me what to do first of all? But also, if I claim this is who I am, well, it's that word identity. This is who I am. This is not how God designed us to be. And we actually have losses there. Well, here's two of those areas, the actually idea of attraction and desires. I think we put these in the wrong place Galatians 519 when you follow the desires of your simple nature, the results are very clear. There's a list against sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling jealousy, Alberts finger, selfish ambitions, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties and other sins like these. This is what comes from this. Well, right now we have in our culture, attraction has become such a big deal. When I met my wife, I was not attracted to her at all. Why? Because in my mind, she didn't fit what I actually saw as attractive. What's really funny about that is I grew up in a different culture, even though I may look this way again, I was attracted to me was not a white redhead. Just to put it bluntly there. And what's funny is our kids are, there was actually bets when we had our first kids that's gonna be a redhead and he's a little blonde, but um, like that's not what was attracted to me. And I remember the day when I actually, it was like something came over me of, oh my gosh, this woman is amazing and it was so much bigger than just physical beauty. It's who she was, it was her character. It's what she stood for, what she believed in, her christ her God, all of who she was and how big of a deal that is attraction to me is that I'm gonna put it this way, it's bad data. Just to put it kind of in a weird way, but to stand out, it's bad data who you're attracted to great and it changes and it morphs and it it turns into all sorts of stuff. It actually has actually a short shelf life because then I get bored with you and I want something different. Same for your desires. Your desires are fickle, you're fickle. I'm fickle. Kind of scares me a little. How in the world do you last beyond a few years of marriage then? It's that's another whole question. I'm at 19 years of marriage and it's like we're just getting started. It's such a cool thing to see that now and go, wow, it's like we're just just getting going We're at that stage where Miley is 12, so we're like six years in six years, they're all gone and we'll move and like not even give them our address. Just kidding. Like what are they gonna do? Where are they gonna be? I don't know and just how excited us because the executive team, we get to actually decide where we go what we do even though that doesn't always work out that way. I have a sister who's in and out of living on the streets and doing stuff in texas and she's a mess because of choices doesn't always work out that we wanted to work out. It's scary. I remember my kids when they were eight or nine, I would tell them I hate that you have free will. You don't have free will. I hate that you actually have free will. You don't have free will. As in you can walk around the corner and do something that totally is against what we've taught you and that's on you. I will feel it and I will feel responsible for it. But that is on you. You go to a friend's house what you do all these things. The way that we handle our attraction and desires are critical because we want to fit in and we want to be cared, love, we want to be a part of something. It's actually scary what this looks like at times Galatians 5 22 with the Holy spirit produces this kind of this kind of fruit. This is the other side of that coin. Who are we supposed to be love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness faithfulness, gentleness and self control. There is no law against these things. This is who we're meant to be. Don't go look on facebook because everyone else is, everyone's yelling at someone or mad at something and it's probably a space that none of us should actually hang out by the way. Really, really careful with that. What am I attracted to? What are my desires? How much are those shaped by what I've done that I would that sin? How many marriages are impacted by pornography? Yet a lot of sex therapists, most sex therapists would encourage you to look at porn to spice up your sex life. No, no, no, no, no. When I went to my post doc work was in sex therapy, I went back to the Institute for Sexual Wholeness in Atlanta. The only place you can get this training from a biblical worldview, from a godly Godly men and women that that went and did some of the other gross training and we're protecting us from having to do that. I'm so thankful for them. Um, that one of the founders doug Rose and I just passed away a few months ago. I just love him, wrote the book celebration of sex, kind of one of the pioneer books in this area. Um kind of giving a biblical view of sexuality, Who you are is not your desires and who you are not your attractions. That's a really important thing for us to remember because if you're not careful even as a married man, it's easy to look around and be attracted? And the word I like to think about there is, and it's laughable. So what do we do instead? We play mind games and we're like, oh, they're not really attractive and we tell ourselves lies, thinking that's gonna protect us. When really what that actually does is I put it into the darkness and into secrecy. I started and we'll talk about this more this afternoon. But I started with my sons, even when I would see see someone see a girl that I know they noticed, I would point her out so that it moves moves out of their unconscious to the conscious and go, we'll talk about her later. And so then later when their car in the car, I'm like, okay, what's your story? You start talking through who she is and why she's a value and why when he, when my son looked and glanced, what did you do with it? Did you file it away for later or were you a man of integrity? These are conversations I was having with them when they were 5678, not teenagers. Now they're teenagers. Now to be blunt. I ask them every few weeks, So what are your masturbation practices? They don't, they're not honest with me anymore. They were before. Um, but we have the little dialogues that are incredible. Just them going, knowing I'm gonna ask this. They've got to kind of have a reckoning there, what does it do? It moves it out of their unconscious to the conscious and they have to take their thoughts captive. What kind of man are you gonna be? What kind of man are you gonna be? This is a constant. We talk about pornography in our house, almost every meal comes up somehow. I remember the day my daughter realized penis vagina, Like we're all sitting at the table, she's she's 11 at the time and her eyes just like got big and it's just like we all bust out laughing And she kind of put that together, why are we even talking about it since she was one and they'll catch on when they as they get older and as they put pieces together. No pun intended. Um and they they wrestle it out and they're either doing it internally or we are creating the environment for them to do it externally Galatians 5 24, those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their simple nature to his cross and crucify them. There. I need to start there sometimes for some of us where do I need to actually what I need to die to what needs work versus what we tend to do, which is distract distract distract, go, go, go, go, go, go, go why we have a self centered bent. I believe that we are incapable of having relationships, Why you think you're right about everything you believe, just to put it simple, you wouldn't believe what you believe if you didn't think it was right? So the only way to be in a relationship is to find an absolute cookie cutter of yourself and then you get canceled out because when there's two of the same, they fade into oblivion. So what did God do? He designed marriage to be between a man and a woman and two very different people who have very different upbringings and different world views and different, which also means the more different you are in other areas, the more struggles you're gonna have and the more similarities, like I used to, I used to jokingly say I'm only gonna marry a southern baptist girl because I grew up southern baptist. Um and then it was funny when I met my wife through this dating service thing, it had under her name, methodist, and I'm like, I'm gonna marry a methodist, methodist, like jolly, she has challenged me and grown me in ways that God is so incredible why she sees the world different, her dad's a pastor and and being able to come into that with her and where was actually a lot of her own trauma was from southern baptist kids in school, telling her she's going to hell because she wasn't southern, like so then she married one, like, okay, so we've got some growing to do God is incredible and even those pieces of how he opens that door for us to come together. We have a self centered bent, which means we can't do relationships. So how do we do him? It's dying to self, it's learning to withhold being right to be in a relationship, which is really, really difficult, do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit rather in humility, value others above yourselves. We know these passages, but it's like we get lost in the day to day facebook fights and other craziness and we lose each other, we get really stressed out over money, we get stressed out over, you know, life and drama. When I work with couples, uh work with a lot of couples where kids are either transitioning or something's happening with their teens. The first thing I do is I look at the mom and dad and I'm like, how's your marriage? Because one of the first things that I see is on the chopping block is they're about to divorce because they don't handle it the same. How do you be a unified, even though you're not handling the same and I don't want you to expect the other person to be like you, that's not the goal, but how does your perspective add value to me? And how does mine add it to you and how do we work together? And yes, at times we have to come down to a decision that is gonna be difficult. I'm on the deacon board at our church, one of the most beautiful things that has been, I'm one of the young guys to the most beautiful things about the last 2.5 years. I don't speak almost ever in there. I listen and I learn, but to watch this group of men never leave a meeting without being unified. Has taught me so much, especially as we were wrestling, do we stay open and defy the governor's orders And us going to coming to 100% agreement. We are to be incarnation, we have to be in the body as a body of christ, I think of so many friends of mine and even family who have been lost because of a shutting down and because of other support groups shutting down and it was like if I go here I might die, what if I go here, I might die. And so which one do I do? And many are back in their addiction because they had the lack of support, we have to be incarnation all this is so beautiful to even now be um, be together now. One of the things that feeds into this bent nous is, we actually have language is a really important thing, how we talk about things how we understand. And I actually kind of like this the first time I saw this is the gingerbread person. Um, if you haven't seen it, it's quite fascinating how complicated we are honestly for me from years before, I'm like, I didn't see it as complicated. But as I kind of saw these parts parsed out, I'm like, actually I can see that that we have the identity and attraction and sex and expression. And there's even what I was actually sexually attracted to and also romantically attracted to these different parts actually helped me kind of wrestle with more layers, I guess you could say of myself. I like that at first at first gender identity. This one starts has started to worry me more than ever in the last few years. Actually, I heard a person finally say what I've been thinking for a while and afraid to say sometimes is what we've, what's happened with gender identity is basically, it's given permission for narcissism. It's back to that self centered thing. It's all about me versus God has a design that is perfect. And what do I do with that? How do I wrestle with that? Because it doesn't get rid of the actual wrestling. But if I don't have a foundation to stand on, I'm up to my own devices where I end up and I actually end up somewhere based off culture or based off friends or based off online chat forums are based off anything. But the biblical is why it is important gender expression. When I met my wife, I show up to our, it was our second date, second or third date and I'm wearing my purple suede coat. Love that coat and she's so embarrassed to be in public with me. I didn't know this at one point. She was like, are you hot? I'm like, I am, She's like, I'll be glad to carry your coat for you. I'm like, what a nice girl. And I never saw the coat again. She stuffed it in the bag and hit it. And I remember actually previous relationships where I was like this coat, I'm gonna die in this coat. I love this coat because that identity pieces like this is who I am not realizing. Kind of I was standing on something I didn't really want to stand on but also realizing, you know what? It's actually quite easy to change in our, in our history. What's happened is up until when gay marriage was voted in as legal. Everything. And all the conversations was born this way born this way born this way. Thanks lady gaga. That's what it was. Until two weeks after the vote. It was all about fluidity as we heard last night. It's only validity in one direction. But it's it's scary what we're giving to everyone to wrestle with. I wrestled with who I was. I wrestled with understanding why I wasn't like all the other guys and all that. I did wrestle with that. But I'm not asking questions like are being asked today. That's what this is actually opened up, which is scary, really, really scary, what's doing what it's doing. But it's also this piece here that sexually attracted to versus romantically attracted to? What does that mean? If I if I boil things down to the kind of base level, we have this sexual attraction and that we would eliminate all sorts of people because we're not sexually attracted them. We would have this pool of the kinds of things we're attracted to. And I say things on purpose because they're not people, we turn it into something very animalistic, even versus even romantically attracted to. There's a desire to get to know you their desire to have relationship. There's a desire to even nurture that there's something different there. What's funny for me is I am like this hopeless romantic and I married the most unromantic human being on the planet, man. It's hard to know how to love her. God's up there just laughing. And I do believe that, that he's just going, yeah, and the rest of your life, you get to learn to pursue her and whatever like you would naturally do isn't easy. It's kind of like the love languages. If you've seen the love language is the five love languages, it's interesting to see how many, which is most couples I've seen. You don't have the same ones or if they are the same. They're a different dialect, why it means you gotta work at it. My wife's bottom two at the very bottom or words of affirmation in touch. So what am I talked to, which means like if I put my arm around her at church, she's more like get off. But she puts her arm around me, I melt. But I also know that she consciously chose to do this, going, I know cory will like this, so I'm gonna put my arm around him. It was not an act of kind of out of the unconscious, it was a conscious choice when she complements me and she says something I know that it actually took effort and it was thought through. She's an internal processor. One thing that I missed about like today, normally she would be here with me and at the end of this I will go to her and she'd give me a list of what to fix next for next time. Um Like my power points are the wrong ones. And so I'm kind of going, whoa! Um but she's great at that. But what's the other side of that equation I have to receive. It doesn't always work when we were editing my book. So the first one I wrote, I hired a person that actually I would send stuff to them every week. And the number one rule is don't show any of it to your wife Because she'll shut you down tomorrow, which has happened in the past. So 70,000 words later, I hand it to her and she was like, oh my gosh, this is so bad. She's an english lit person. Everything was in passive voice just don't even know what that means. But in spanish everything is reversed the way that the order of it. So everything I wrote was sounds right to me. But she had literally we had to go sentence by sentence and and I remember at one point just having to go, okay any change he gives me, I just submit to because I'm dumb. It was so humbling and it was good for our marriage. Ironically some of the hard things too when I've been hospitalized were hard but they were good for our marriage. The times when we struggled with kids were hard but they were good for our marriage which is really really important. And how do you lean into growing as a couple now? What this has done with our with our culture, society conversations is you've probably seen these the L. G. B. T. Q. Q I A. Plus letters. It's created a mess when it comes to even what's going on culturally, L. G. B. Is actually fighting against T. Right now. I don't want to be a part of that. The experiments you're doing on Children are not okay. There's some that are saying that and hopefully more and more voices will come. It's interesting to think about that sexual identity is. And attractions are coming back to that word bad data, careful where we place these things because what we've done cultural is we've put those front and center as my identity and who I am and in that I lose actually who I am. The marriage is between two sexually different people period. And that's the design from the beginning and where are we at now? We're in the disordered space. We're in the sin space. What is every man or woman, boy or girl who's actually struggling with their gender identity or struggling with gender dysphoria or trying to figure themselves out if they want to be seen, they want to be known and they want to belong. What's really scary about that belonged one is there's now pushes in some schools being gay or lesbian is so old school and so outdated. It's all about trans. That is horrifying. Where is it gonna go next? What's gonna happen next? Now one of the tools that I use to think through and help someone think through where they're at and who they are and how complicated this applies to every one of us in this room is actually this one right here. These six things are parts of who you are. You have your intention, you have your biological sex, you have your gender identity, how you see yourself their persistence and direction, attraction, volition, your behavior and then your value values, your values of framework. If you think of a pie chart, you would make these parts of the pie different sizes based off how much of these, what mattered more and what mattered less. It's neat to think about that because if you did this now and you did this even a few months from now it would change, it would morph it would, it's not kind of set in stone because it's actually very subjective. But when you start thinking about that, you realize for some people for some teens especially they realize you know, their values are actually pretty strong. That keeps them where they're at or their biological sex is even though they feel and how these other parts of themselves and the goal of this is to kind of make it a little more complicated if you will. But at the same time kind of actually pull back a little so you can kind of see it from a different lens and realize I choose who I am, what do I do, who I who I hang out with, how I present myself all of it. That values peace. Am I standing on a biblical foundation? Yes or no. Am I choosing to honor you Lord? Or am I choosing actually a very different god if you will. And I haven't heard very many people speak this way or talk this way, but it is exactly that. And and I'm gonna kind of pit them against each other for a second. If we're not careful, it's either or I am choosing you Lord or I am choosing this as my God I think if you think of it that way, it changes a lot of our conversations because what we're also hearing and some of the conversations and different books and authors is it's also about, well you can be gay christian and then there's a fight about no, you can't use the words gay christian. All these different side a side b all these different kinds of conversations which is for for most of us were kind of going, well you lost me back there For the person in the middle of it. No, they're wrestling and trying to figure themselves out. Go to Facebook and click on gender. I think they're in the 90s now there's 90 something gender options. I can't tell you what 90% of them are. Um, but even if you pick the same word and pull four people that would say that's them, they would give you different definitions. So it's not about that, It's about you and I are trying to wrestle with who am I? We've always been that way by the way that's ever since sin into the world. We're trying to wrestle with who am I. And I think this is actually a really important tool now going back to the gender red person gender identity is a piece of the whole how I see myself is it congruent with my biological sex. Now the research kind of shows this is becoming those that identify as queer or basically non binary is growing by leaps and bounds in our culture. And many of the researchers are even saying it's very much more all around the social contagion piece. And what do you do with that? Actually to me? Great, that's good data. That doesn't tell me how to help, how to love, how to lead, how to guide. Um, some families that I know have actually shut off the internet to the house and they have locked things down, but that's only worked and the ones that I know where the child or the team has been like, I'm hurting and I help and I want you to do this for me. That's where I've seen beautiful things happen. What if they don't want to, I've seen this with husbands and wives even and grown grown siblings where they're wrestling and they're hurting and they're asking questions well, think about this term or this this um phrase, sex is sex is my right. So the conclusion here is that the authority of that, of that of their own experience or intuition. So my foundation of who I am or what I what I um identify as is up to me, which right there, I already kind of go, I don't trust myself on most most things, my emotions especially. So we're already in trouble. But then we have these parts that were supposed to show up separately. But sorry, God has made me and therefore made the desires I have is that foundational, everything God makes is good and therefore my desires are good and then good desires deserve to be and even ought to be fulfilled. It's just scary to think about some of the belief systems that are out there that are actually pushing for claimant grab on, this is who you are now. For me growing up, even the idea of that I'm male was understood understandable. That was not a question, but the working of that out is very difficult for some of us for lots of us. What is the biggest factor there comparison? Uh, Apple, the Apple products added the, the uh screen time feature a few years ago, shareholders of Apple demanded that they do that for one specific purpose. Girls are killing themselves at a higher rate because of social media, that was the purpose. Why did they not say guys too? Because they're doing other stuff which we're gonna talk about a minute. Girls are killing themselves, this is scary what's happening. And us as parents and we talk about this morning this afternoon, us as parents if we're not careful, were left in the dust at what they're facing because a lot of this is the kind of stuff that they believe now part of our job is to help them articulate it at times. So we're having to help wrestle through some of that, help them articulate it. Others have it very well articulated and we're left kind of mouth open and not sure what to do here are the messages that they're receiving from their friends. It used to be tolerance, then it became acceptance. Then celebration. Now it's participation. Think about that. Think about culturally we're at it's not tolerance anymore. That's actually so not even that, that's still seen as subpar. It's even not acceptance. And even celebration is not good enough. And then what do you do as a parent or a sibling of someone who's saying, well, you don't love me. We need to be careful about even how that has been hijacked the term love because the definition of love is kind of where we're gonna end up look at today because loving someone is very different than just accepting whatever they are, whatever they're doing or whoever they are. If we're actually sticking to a biblical view of that. Another quote from Preston Sprinkle, he said we need to create safe spaces where young people can open up, be heard receive godly wisdom and learn about God's expensive vision for what it means to be male and female. Where should that be our homes and our churches. Our church is actually meant to be on the front lines of some of these kinds of places and it should be also also be one of the safest places to come wrestle. But if you think of what culture and others are saying. Um Another study was, was that three of people that that leave the church left because of the theology, 97% of those that left the church left because they felt absolutely unloved and unheard and unaccepted as a person, not because of lifestyle stuff. We've made it and others have made it all about the theology. So we need to change our theology. No, we need to stand on a biblical foundation of truth unapologetically but also not with a big huge bible that were hitting people with a place where people can wrestle and ask questions. Um and not be okay. At first I was at a church one time that just visiting and the associate pastor was preaching and he made the comment. Everyone should be a part of celebrate recovery and I wanted to jump up and go, you there's something true about it. Why celebrate recovery isn't about once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. Kind of like a it's a let's look at the beatitudes. Who am I to be in christ. He is a very different lens where you can have a table of an alcoholic and a mother dealing with our team and someone whose spouse just left all at the same table because you're not focused on your problem or where you're stuck. We're focused on who you are in christ very different. Do I still need some space to probably work those other pieces out. Yes. Do I sometimes need some serious help. Yes. But um yeah, we need community to get to as well. People of faith who navigate gender identity issues are our people, these are our sons or daughters are best friends. Sometimes our moms, our dads, but where we're going and our culture is kind of scary what's happening with our teenagers and the questions about who I am, something I want you to hear. I'm just gonna kind of plant the seed right now to kind of think about. I spent the last summer wrestling through nancy Pierce's book, loved my body. Really important work. I've read it over and over and over and over the summer. I read it a while back. Um, probably best protestant look at the theology of the body, which the only other one I know of is um, Christopher West wrote it. But from john paul, the second's teachings incredible. Beautiful, redemptive. But she finally helped me see where, how did we get here? And it's this split and it's a split between human, human being human and being a person. How do we get away with abortion? Well, it's a human, but it's not a person where the ethics is saying, well, there'll be a person when I say they are. And some ethicists are saying, by the way, that's around age 12 when they can do algebra. What are the implications there that if you're not a person I can offer you, I can end you, I can kill you. Well that just goes for abortion. It goes for infanticide, which is we're gonna start wrestling and fighting within our culture more than ever. It starts with euthanasia or continue with euthanasia. Or if you are downs or if you are, um, any kind of mental incapacity. But it goes into gender identity and it goes into homosexuality and it goes into um, transgender as well. But how do we end up accepting is when we actually make a duality out of it? There's something my body is a piece of material. It's expendable from the person. How do I have sex with whoever I want to have sex with? And I'm actually living the lie of culture of my body is expendable and we see the research actually shows how many do it and try to and it's empty on the sex part with anyone. How many of those that have transitioned are de transitioning. What I want to start seeing is more lawsuits to these doctors and counselors sue the life out of them. That's to me the next step because it is utter abuse. That's where we're at this duality. If we're not careful, what scares me is you and I actually have elements of belief in this most likely why? Because my body is sinful. We talked about this in the church. And so the body is almost of the devil and then my spirit is of God. So we start talking this way in church and we're careful. We've just done the exact same split that has led to our culture accepting all these things that are absolutely not okay. When I start putting that together, my mind goes okay, I can start understanding why if someone believes what they believe, but we need to put this back together as a whole. Well, here's the coolest part think of when scripture, I think of when Christianity entered the picture in history, Christianity entered the picture in history at a time when men especially you had your wife, she was to make a baby babies with that our boys to carry on the name. That was it. And then you had sex with your concubines and with your slaves, male and female. What did the bible come and do? What does Christianity come and do it. Come came and said, husbands love your wives as christ loved the church Christianity came in and raised the bar in a society that was more debased than we are now. Or maybe we're kind of close to it. Where's the answer? Here is Christianity. Where is the answer? It's christ Where's the answer? It's jesus, where's the answer? It's surrender to all these things. I don't know about you? I start getting kind of excited because we live in a time where we're gonna see jesus work if you haven't already. I have in my own life over and over and over and over and over. Have you heard of the maps this is the new term that we have to learn now. And I guess the letters will be added at some point. Minor attracted person. It's called pedophile, but we can't say that because that's too mean. We have to find they found a term that's acceptable. That can be palatable because it needs to be part of that protected class. This is where

Although it seems like we were just preparing for back to school, it's that time of year again- Holiday Season!!!!!!No matter what you celebrate or how you choose to celebrate, the holiday season can be an exciting time for many parents, caregivers, and their children. During this time, many start engaging in family traditions, traveling, spending time with relatives and friends, engaging in fun activities, and thinking about the upcoming new year. In the hustle and bustle of this season, it is important to take into consideration your child's emotional and mental health.This week many of us will be reflecting on the things we are thankful for. Many of the parents and caregivers I work with talk about how amazing their children are. This week is the perfect time to tell your children you appreciate them and let them know how they contribute to your life.On this week's episode of the podcast, I am talking about the importance of praising your children! It is easy to get caught up in constantly redirecting or criticizing your child's behavior. We know, that children thrive when parents and caregivers are intentional about praising and affirming them. Join me as I provide the definition of praise, give examples or praise, and discuss the many benefits of praise! Website- https://www.drtashabrown.com/Email Address- dr.tashabrown7@gmail.comInstagram- https://www.instagram.com/dr.tashabrown/Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/dr.tashabrown7

There is no need to tell your child/ren about every interaction. Keeping your private life private from your child/ren is always a safe strategy, and waiting until they ask or you have something substantial to share about the relationship is another way to go. But try to ease them into the idea of you dating.  Listen in for more commentary! Dating with Mana is a fresh look into dating scene successes and challenges, slightly personalized, through the experiences and eyes of Kulani and Kanoe, your resident Mana Bombs Duo.  Kulani and Kanoelani are recent re-additions to the singles scene and willing to share their own results of being in the dating realm.  Our Dating with Mana series drops every Wednesday for your listening pleasure. Be sure to get your DAILY MANA BOMBS on Instagram @pomahinadesigns and @manabombsllc for events and updates, as well as @kulanz.manabombz. Or subscribe to our YOUTUBE channel MANA BOMB PODCAST.  We are FREE and do this with aloha, if you are enjoying our MANA Bombs please feel free to help keep us going and alive by subscribing to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/manabombs with as little as $5. Get the perks too!! As with all of our podcasts, please be aware that we share our stories and experiences, being vulnerable and free to speak we share matters of the heart, body, mind, and soul that may open up triggers. It is never our intention to open wounds, but we hope that our experiences help you heal.

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There's a huge misunderstanding going on in places across America, and across many parts of the world. Snitching, or being a rat is the most hated thing in these parts. Telling on someone has caused many people to become prepared to kill if they are told on by someone. But when this indoctrination affects the minds of the children, we have to start a conversation about how to help them understand what's wrong. Children are innocent, and their brains are underdeveloped. Which means any negative indoctrination is an appetite for destruction. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Separation or divorce in marriage is difficult enough as it is. But telling your children about what's going on is even more difficult.If you are struggling with the idea of how to explain to your children what's going on, then this is for you.There are many factors that affect how you should approach the children. Some of which include their age, who's children they are (if you had children prior to marrying one another), and most importantly the fact that you should avoid using visuals to explain things to your children.We will cover everything to do, and NOT do, in today's episode of Relationship Radio.Begin by laying a firm foundation to repairing your marriage by joining The Foundations Course today!

Does marijuana cause mental illness and violence? Alex Berenson published a doctorate type research in his book - Tell Your Children. Alex is also known for being cancelled by Twitter for his views on the COVID vaccine. Alex Berenson was born in New York in 1973 and grew up in Englewood, N.J.  After graduating from Yale University in 1994 with degrees in history and economics, he joined the Denver Post as a reporter. In 1996, he became one of the first employees at TheStreet.com, the groundbreaking financial news Website. In 1999, he joined The New York Times. At the Times, he covered everything from the drug industry to Hurricane Katrina; in 2003 and 2004, he served two stints as a correspondent in Iraq, an experience that led him to write The Faithful Spy, his debut novel, which won the Edgar Award from the Mystery Writers of America for Best First Novel. He left the Times in 2010 to devote himself to writing fiction. But conversations with his wife led him to begin researching the science around cannabis and mental illness, a project that became the book Tell Your Children, published in January 2019. He has now written twelve John Wells novels and two non-fiction books, The Number and Tell Your Children. Alex lives in the Hudson Valley with his wife, Dr. Jacqueline Berenson, a forensic psychiatrist, and their children. FDA Label for Marinol, THC FDA Label for Epidiolex, CBD

L'équipe Quoi de Meuf espère de tout coeur que vous passez un bel été ! L'occasion de ré(écouter) des épisodes marquants du podcast. Et cette semaine, on vous propose un épisode marquant, avec Clémentine et Anne-Laure. Bonne écoute ! La consommation de cannabis est illégale et dangereuse pour la santé. Information et prévention sur drogues-info-service.frReconnu pour ses vertus antalgiques mais aussi pour aider à la relaxation, au sommeil, à la concentration, la créativité, voire à la spiritualité, le cannabis reste au centre d'un débat qui fait encore rage aujourd'hui. Le gouvernement français vient de reporter le projet de loi sur l'utilisation médicinale du cannabis et durcit sa politique en matière de stupéfiant. Pourtant, l'image négative de la fameuse plante verte provient aussi de représentations et de toute une histoire, entremêlée de colonialisme et de racisme. Sans en faire l'apologie, Anne-Laure et Clémentine reviennent sur le cannabis, ses réprésentations dans la pop culture et sa réappropriation féministe.Références entendues dans l'épisode : Le compte @Balancetonbahut à l'origine du hashtag #balancetonbahutMargaret Mennegoz a été nommée présidente de l'Académie des Césars en 2020 et a rappelé que l'académie tient à “séparer l'homme de l'oeuvre” au sujet de Roman Polanski. Caster Semyena est une athlète sud-africaine double championne olympique et triple championne du monde sur le 800m mais depuis quelques années les instances sportives internationales ont estimé qu'elle est « biologiquement un homme” à cause de son hyperandrogénie. Naomi Osaka est une joueuse de tennis qui a joué dernièrement en portant des masques en soutien au mouvement Black Lives Matter. Le documentaire RBG sur la juge à la Cour Suprême Ruth Bader Ginsberg. Théophile Gautier est un poète et romancier français qui a co-fondé en 1844 le club des Hashischins, un groupe parisien voué particulièrement à l'étude et à l'expérience de drogues (principalement le haschisch). Harry Anslinger était un politicien et journaliste des États-Unis, surnommé le « McCarthy de la drogue. Box Brown, Cannabis : la criminalisation de la marijuana aux Etats-Unis, La Pastèque, 2019. “La légalisation du cannabis doit aussi prendre en compte son histoire coloniale”,David A. Guba, The Conversation, 25 août 2019. Le film Reefer Madness ou Tell Your Children est un film américain réalisé par Louis J. Gasnier, sorti en 1936.The Alice B. Toklas Cookbook d'Alice B. Toklas publié en 1954 où se trouve la recette du “haschich fudge”.Lisa Mandel, Année exemplaire, 2020. “Cannabidiol, la détente sans la bédave”, Clémentine Gallot, Causette, 29 avril 2020. Le documentaire Mary Janes : the women of weed de Windy Borman, 2017CBD usage recettes et pharmacopée, Caroline Hwang, Marabout, 2020. “The Grass Ceiling: Women's Changing Role in Weed Culture”, Eliana Dockterman, Time, 2015. “Be cognizant of cannabis cultural appropriation”, Humza Ismail, The Temple News, 2018. “Marijuana: is it time to stop using a word with racist roots ?”, Alex Halperin, The Guardian, 2018 “The Truth About Black Women In The Weed Industry”, Truth Told, Refinery29, 2019. Andrea Drummer est une cheffe américaine qui cuisine des plats à base de cannabis. La standupeuse @Mahautdrama.“From Annie Hall To Miley: A Visual History Of The Stoner Babe”, Isabella Biedenharn, Elle, 2014. La série High MaintenanceSmiley Face est un film de Greg Araki réalisé en 2007. La série produite par Snoop Dog Queens of the Stoned Edge. Paulette, dernier film avec Bernadette Lafont réalisé par Jérôme Enrico en 2012. Un jour ce sera vide, Hugo lindenberg, Éditions Christian Bourgois, 2020. Ma Maman est Bizarre de Camille Victorine et illustré par Anna Wanda Gogusay, Éditions La Ville Brûle, 2020. Adolescentes, documentaire de Sébastien Lifshitz réalisé en 2020. Quoi de Meuf est une émission de Nouvelles Écoutes. Cet épisode est conçu par Clémentine Gallot et présenté avec Anne-Laure Pineau. Mixage Laurie Galligani. Générique réalisé par Aurore Meyer Mahieu. Prise de son, Montage et coordination Ashley Tola.Vous pouvez consulter notre politique de confidentialité sur https://art19.com/privacy ainsi que la notice de confidentialité de la Californie sur https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

2/3 of America's children do not know about the gospel! Even if they know the name of Jesus or anything about God they do not know the gospel according to recent surveys. The lies they are being told are taking their toll but you and I have an opportunity to seize the times and tell them the truth!

This week we're in a series titled: A Fresh Start. We're revisiting some foundational principles and some forgotten principles of our faith to help us recenter back on God and start fresh in our walk with Him.Did you enjoy the message? Please subscribe, share, and visit us at TruthAndLoveMinistries.orgIntro and Outro Music: Sunkissed by Ikson

REEFER MADNESS! It's taken over this fine country, so we decided it was time to cover it! Run for your life, marijuana is polluting the minds of America's youths! “Reefer Madness”, originally titled “Tell Your Children”, was an exploitation and propaganda film released in 1936, 1938, or 1939…. Seriously, they didn't keep an accurate record of the film's release. It was meant to teach about the dangers of grass, dope, ganja, that sticky icky icky icky… And the film worked! People were terrified! What's even more interesting than the film is The Marihuana Act of 1937. (Yes, that's how it was spelt.) Passed by the government and backed by William Randolph Hearst, it was the first step in making cannabis as illegal as illegal could be! This week Ray teaches Rob all about the history of hemp and its many uses, how this film fell into public domain, which ultimately led to some of the first midnight screenings and opened the door for showings of movies like “Rocky Horror Picture Show” and “The Room” …and how that wacky tabacky could make you go insane and beat your acquaintance with a stick. (It's in the movie.) Be careful out there, folks. If you like what we are doing, please support us on Patreon     TEAM: Ray Hebel Robert W Schneider Mark Schroeder Billy Recce Daniel Schwartzberg Gabe Crawford Natalie DeSavia     WEBSITES IMDb   Rotten Tomatoes   ARTICLES The Atlantic   History   JSTOR Daily   KQED NPR   Politico   AUDIO/VISUAL   Reefer Madness - Full Film Reefer Madness - Trailer Reefer Madness: The Movie Musical - Opening Number Reefer Madness: The Movie Musical - Trailer RiffTrax Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to Motherkind Moment. Moment is your place on a Monday for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead. This week's moment is with Dr Anne Lane who is a mother and clinical psychologist. We often have to talk to our children about heart-breaking topics, unfortunately, like divorce, war, and pandemics amongst many more challenging life situations. In this moment Dr Anne describes how we can protect our children's mental health whilst also sharing the really hard things. Click here to listen to the full episode. GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME - STARTS 11TH OF MAY 2022 Our next round of group coaching starts on the 11th of May. If you want to be coached by me and feel like now is your time. I'd love for you to join us. It is a small group of 10 who come together for 8 weeks led by me to explore topics like boundaries, energy, values journaling and much more. It is going to help you find clarity, connection and community. Head to motherkind.co for more information. FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you, and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You' and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co. Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. ABOUT DR. ANNE LANE Dr Anne Lane is a clinical psychologist and family therapist. For more than 20 years she has worked in mental health – within both the NHS and her own private practice. Dr Lane has taught on clinical psychology doctorate programmes and run countless workshops on mental health, parenting and emotional regulation. She is a lively, passionate communicator who cares deeply about the lives of the adults, families and children she works with. Anne lives in Hertfordshire, UK, with her husband and three children.

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The Fantasy Daydreamers become your gateway podcast for all the pressing NFL news(1:15), fill your minds with their takeaway propaganda(8:20), and gain a cult status via their waiver wire picks(23:45). Tell Your Children! Website: daydreamermedia.com Support us on Patreon: patreon.com/daydreamermedia Instagram: @day_dreamermedia Twitter: @FFDayDreamers Youtube: youtube.com/channel/UC9Rrycgd7sodp2zHOLb83tw/featured Watch us Live Monday and Wednesday Nights on Twitch: twitch.tv/daydreamermedia Stay Dreamin'!

This episode of the podcast Not Safe for Network we review Star Wars Visions. We discuss reboots for Night Court, and The Wonder Years which leads into a conversation about The Goldbergs, Parks and Rec, and The Office (not to mention podcasts that cover them). We also spill news about Blade, have strong opinions on Deadpool 3, and dive into the aforementioned topic of villain mothers in fiction. Listen anywhere you get podcasts http://anchor.fm/notsafefornetwork Support the show and get extra content https://www.patreon.com/notsafefornetwork Follow the podcast and our network on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/redwood_sound_labs or Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RedwoodSoundLabs --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notsafefornetwork/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notsafefornetwork/support

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Marijuana! Good or bad? Medicine or not? These are the questions laid out in Joe's conversation with Alex Berenson the author of "Tell Your Children.." and Dr. Mike Hart. The conversation they have is another great example of what can be accomplished when people speak in a civil way with one another even though their opinions differ. If you're into the pot debate make sure to check this one out.

Father's Day can be difficult for many of us, as we didn't embark on the journey planning for dad not to be around. What story do you tell your children about this day? Are you empowering them to be victims or owners? TELL ME: What do you tell your children about Father's Day? “But if the Spirit of him that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, he that raised up Christ fromthe dead shall also quicken your mortal bodies by his Spirit that dwelleth in you...For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.” ~Romans 8:11, 14-17 KJV ⚡ Connect with Leslie on Social Media: Instagram: @fan_into_flames YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeQxZ2eUg5LjavmLcsTc7Yg/featured Email: contact@fanintoflames.com www.fanintoflames.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Are you a single mom who is completely lost and overwhelmed? Let's set up a free consultation to see if coaching is right for you: https://fanintoflames.kartra.com/calendar/xYewMQk8uia4

 “Many” parents struggle with the decisions to either tell or not to tell their children when the other parent is diagnosed with cancer.  This is normal because as parents, if it were entirely up to us, I think that we would prefer to shield our children from experiencing pain.  In a study of children with parents with advanced cancer,  children who were informed of their parent's cancer from the beginning had lower anxiety than the children who were not told.  The anxiety was related to the children's knowledge, or lack of it, and the inability to discuss the illness with the parents.  They will observe your demeanor and that of the other people in the home, e.g excusing yourself to go to another room to answer the phone… in whispers. They may be overwhelmed by the intense emotions. Because children don't know how to process their emotions, this may lead to increased arguing and sometimes fighting with siblings, parents, & their teachers or other adults. Children react, in part, to what they see from the adults around them. When parents and caregivers deal with a family crisis calmly and confidently, they can provide the best support for their children.     Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/ReThinking )

Episode 9 of of Cultpix Radio WCPX 66.6 sees (hears?) Django Nudo and a nude-o Smut Peddler discuss dope cult films about drugs and celebrate the site now being open to everyone. After two months of being invitation-only Culpix.com is now open to anyone over the age of 18 with a credit card and a burning desire to see the world's greatest selection of streaming classic cult films and TV shows. We discuss how we got here and give a shout out to our amazing early members who helped us along the way. When we started discussing doing a Theme Week about drug warning and exploitation films we quickly realised that we had more films than we could ever cram into one week. Thus the idea was born to split it into two. This week we look at drug warning films from the 1930s and the post-war period, while next week we move into the era from the hippies to the War on Drugs. Reefer Madness (1936) is the cultiest of all drugsploitation films, but it was an earnest anti-drug film called Tell Your Children before it had sleazy bits cut in, suffered multiple name changes and gratuitous posters printed up.  It was one of many films around the same time that include Marijuana - Weed With Roots in Hell (1936), Assassin of Youth (1935) and  The Cocaine Fiends (1935). We uncover their secret patterns:*Middle-class A students kids seduced into the seedy drug world;* Often a blonde, "fallen" girl luring the kids.* Drug dealer is always sleazy, a bit older and has backslick and a pencil-thin black moustache. Sometimes with a suspicious (hispanic?) accent;* There is always one or a few upstanding citizens: a father, a mother, a teacher, a judge;* There is always a comic relief: an older lady on a silly moped, an old man with bad teeth, a fat matron, a servant;* There is a lot of slinky, silky underwear and too much being exposed, garter belts, stockings, etc. The Hays Code was very strict, but these were "educational" films;* There are always big parties in the drug dealers home, so both drugs and tons of booze;* All the drugs have an effect that is counter-indicative of the drug's effect in real-life; when a drug normally gets you mellow, you get extatic, happy, sometimes violent. When a drug normally makes you energetic, you get slow and tired;* There is always jazz music! (The Devil's music, of course!)And why does the same devil appear on posters for two different anti-drug films a decade apart?Two films from the mid-50s are poles apart in tackling the menace of substance addiction. Quasi documentary Teenage Devil Dolls (1955) could only afford a preachy voice-over about a 'good girl' falling in with a druggy biker gang. Meanwhile The Man With The Golden Arm (1955) is probably Frank Sinatra's best role ever as a jazz (!) drummer trying to go straight with the help of Kim Novak's stripper joint madam, but led astray, featuring Elmer Bernstein's sublime score and Saul Bass' iconic design. Finally Smoke and Flesh (1968) gives us a glimpse of next week's hippie druggie films continuation. 

This episode is coming out a little late for 4/20 but honestly we forgot to upload it, probably due to over consumption of marijuana. Evan Fitzgerald and Laura Lundsten had never seen the infamous stoner classic Reefer Madness so they say back and got too high to watch this notoriously awful film "mystery science theatre" style. If you would like to watch along, the movie begins at 3:45 in the podcast and the film is a copyright free, public domain movie that can easily be found on YouTube. Reefer Madness (originally made as Tell Your Children and sometimes titled as The Burning Question, Dope Addict, Doped Youth, and Love Madness) is a 1936 American propaganda film about drugs revolving around the melodramatic events that ensue when high school students are lured by pushers to try marijuana—from a hit and run accident, to manslaughter, suicide, conspiracy to murder, attempted rape, hallucinations, and descent into madness from marijuana addiction. The film was directed by Louis J. Gasnier and featured a cast of mainly little-known actors.

The Rebbe explains to us that we can uplift our children through words of encouragement, plus an unbelievable story about the boy who drive to Shul

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While the choice of using marijuana is personal and legalization is likely moving forward, Alex Berenson, former New York Times reporter, invites you to consider this question with your children- How dangerous is today's marijuana? Drawing upon research, he clarifies that unlike the marijuana smoked in the 1970's with a 2% level of THC, the main psychoactive component of the cannabis plant, today the level of THC is 25%. Underscoring this potency, Berenson untangles the THC in marijuana with the relatively small amount of CBD, the non-intoxicating extract of cannabis, used to treat medical problems. Many assume that recreational marijuana is safe and benign because of the medical association. The findings are quite the contrary. Berenson reports mental illness and violence as possible reactions from smoking marijuana-with increasing use increasing the risk. Whatever your opinion– for the sake of your children, listen in.

Rev. Nate Hill, pastor of St. Michael's Lutheran Church in Winchester, TX, studies Exodus 10:1-20 on today's episode. Pastor Hill discusses the eighth plague, the plague of locusts, including the need to recount the works of the LORD, the call to repentance in the devastation of the plagues, and the fact that no earthly ruler can stand in God's accomplishment of His people's salvation. “The Saga of Salvation” is a mini-series on Sharper Iron that takes a step-by-step walk through the book of Exodus. This premier account of salvation in the Old Testament proclaims that the LORD is the one true God, the Creator and Redeemer, who alone is worthy of our worship and faith, all the while pointing us forward to the ultimate deliverance He gives through the exodus accomplished by Christ.

Alex Berenson, former reporter for The New York Times and author of Tell Your Children, the truth about marijuana, mental illness and violence talks about the impact of recreational marijuana legalization 

Today's kids are regularly hearing how fun, enlightening and innocuous pot is. It's certainly safer than alcohol, they say confidently. And they're hearing this information from the very elders from whom they should be learning responsibility and wisdom, no less. In fact, many states are not only legalizing marijuana for its medicinal benefits but, now, for recreational use also. And, our kids are taking notice. What should you tell your children about marijuana? Alex Berenson was born in New York in 1973 and grew up in Englewood, N.J. After graduating from Yale University in 1994 with degrees in history and economics, he joined the Denver Post as a reporter. In 1996, he became one of the first employees at TheStreet.com, the groundbreaking financial news Website. In 1999, he joined The New York Times. At the Times, he covered everything from the drug industry to Hurricane Katrina; in 2003 and 2004, he served two stints as a correspondent in Iraq, an experience that led him to write The Faithful Spy, his debut novel, which won the Edgar Award from the Mystery Writers of America for Best First Novel. He has now written eleven novels and one work of nonfiction, The Number. We've invited Alex here today to speak on his book, Tell Your Children: The Truth About Marijuana, Mental Illness, and Violence. Alex lives in Garrison, N.Y. with his wife, Dr. Jacqueline Berenson, their children Lucy and Ezra, their badly behaved dog Maggie, and Maggie's dog Teddy. The Marijuana Myth Many who hold the biggest microphones are pushing for the legalization and normalcy of marijuana use right now. Alex is seeing quite a bit of pushback on his stance and message, particularly from both the for-profit and nonprofit sectors. We are finding that many for-profit companies (particularly those with a vested interest or potential stakeholders) are ready for the legalization of cannabis. We also find many nonprofits touting its praises, not because they particularly wish for profit, but because the legalization has been seen and marketed as a social justice issue. From the nonprofit perspective, I think that if you want to legalize a banned substance then it is in your best interest to have the largest amount of people use it as possible. Create a large community of users or customers. A second reason for the promotion is that money often come from the for-profit to the nonprofits. Thirdly, many still view themselves as scrappy outsiders that are fighting for something, completely truthful or not. And we need to be honest about the real truth here. You can say to your children that neither alcohol nor cannabis is safe for anyone under 21. But yes, we do see that alcohol has an affect on the development of the brain. We've also seen that can lead to schizophrenia and violence. While many may argue that correlation does not equal causation it's not just true that many who use pot become schizophrenic or violent. There is a lot of good biological evidence that shows why this correlation is real and how very strong it is. There's never been a trial where we've given a group cigarettes and another have gone without and we come back in 20 years and see the results. But we know that cigarettes cause lung cancer. There is tremendous evidence. And while the evidence that cannabis causes schizophrenia is not quite that strong yet, but it is very strong. Marijuana changes people's personalities, and often in a negative way. It turns people inward. SO even with alcohol you hear about “angry drunks” or “happy drunks.” With marijuana you hear about the giggly stoner in a corner. I think that's a dangerous thing to produce. It create solitude and selfishness. And it's an interesting drug for this time when we are already withdrawing from the world through technology, our phones, etc. Now not everyone who uses cannabis will become psychotic or schizophrenic. Of course that is a risk and once you break your mind that way,

Marijuana! Good or bad? Medicine or not? These are the questions laid out in Joe's conversation with Alex Berenson the author of "Tell Your Children.." and Dr. Mike Hart. The conversation they have is another great example of what can be accomplished when people speak in a civil way with one another even though their opinions differ. If you're into the pot debate make sure to check this one out. Enjoy my review folks! Please email me with any suggestions and questions for future Reviews: Joeroganexperiencereview@gmail.com

Townhall Review – January 19, 2019 Andrew McCarthy, columnist for the National Review, joins Hugh Hewitt to talk about the FBI investigation that asks if President Trump is a Russian “mole.” Dennis Prager and Fox News analyst Gregg Jarrett take a look at what Prager says is, “corruption of some of the elite parts of the United States government." Following Hugh Hewitt's trip with National security adviser John Bolton to the Middle East, they discuss the high tension that exists there. Dennis Prager takes a look at the proposed, and even shocking, health curriculum of the California Department of Education. Dennis Prager talks with Carol Swain, founder and president of Be the People Project, who is conservative, and black, a combination that has some people strangely upset. Hugh Hewitt asks Alex Berenson about his book, Tell Your Children: The Truth About Marijuana, Mental Illness, and Violence. Sebastian Gorka talks to baseball great Curt Schilling about his relationship with ESPN, a relationship that didn’t last because of his conservative bent.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.