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You can listen wherever you get your podcasts or check out the fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Corey and I talk about modeling the person you want your child to be—instead of trying to force them into having good character or good values. We discussed the difference between being a gardener or a carpenter parent, raising kind and helpful children, and how to trust the modeling process. We give lots of examples of what this has looked like for parents in our community as well as in our own homes.**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this episode? Share it with them!We talk about:* 00:00 — Intro + main idea: be the person you want your child to be* 00:02 — How kids naturally model what we do (funny real-life stories)* 00:04 — When modeling goes wrong (rabbit poop + shovel story)* 00:06 — Not everything kids do is learned from us (fight/flight/freeze)* 00:08 — Gardener vs. carpenter parenting metaphor* 00:10 — Why “don't do anything for your child” is flawed advice* 00:12 — Helping builds independence (adult example + kids stepping up)* 00:17 — Hunt, Gather, Parent: let kids help when they're little* 00:19 — How to encourage helping without power struggles* 00:23 — Family team vs. rigid chores* 00:26 — Trust, faith, and “I'm sure you'll do it next time”* 00:29 — Respecting kids like people (adultism)* 00:31 — Living values without preaching* 00:36 — It's the small moments that shape kids* 00:38 — Don't be a martyr: let some things go* 00:40 — When this works (and when it doesn't)* 00:42 — Closing reflections on trust and nurturingResources mentioned in this episode:* Yoto Screen Free Audio Book Player * The Peaceful Parenting Membership * Hunt, Gather, Parent podcast episode* Evelyn & Bobbie brasConnect with Sarah Rosensweet:* Instagram* Facebook Group* YouTube* Website* Join us on Substack* Newsletter* Book a short consult or coaching session callxx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team-click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! 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Hi, Corey.Corey: Hey, Sarah.Sarah: I'm so happy to be talking about what we're going to be talking about today because it's something that comes up a lot—both with our coaching clients and in our membership.Today we're talking about modeling the person you want your child to be—being the person you want your child to be—instead of trying to force them into having good character or good values.Corey: This is one of my favorite topics because people don't really think about it. There's that phrase that's so rampant: “Do as I say, not as I do.” And we're actually saying: do the exact opposite of that.Sarah: Yeah. And I think if people did this, that phrase wouldn't have to exist. Because if you're being the person you want your child to be, then you really can just say, “Do as I do.”I guess that “Do what I say, not what I do” comes up when you're not being the person you want your child to be. And it shows how powerful it is that kids naturally follow what we do, right?Corey: Yes.Sarah: Yeah. We both have some funny stories about this in action—times we didn't necessarily think about it until we remembered or saw it reflected back. Do you want to share yours first? It's so cute.Corey: Yeah. When I was a little girl, my favorite game to play was asking my mom if we could play “Mummy and her friend.” We did this all the time. My mom said she had to do it over and over and over with me.We'd both get a little coffee cup. I'd fill mine with water, and we'd pretend we were drinking tea or coffee. Then we would just sit and have a conversation—like I heard her having with her friend.And I'd always be like, “So, how are your kids?”—and ask the exact things I would hear my mom asking her friend.Sarah: That's so cute. So you were pretending to be her?Corey: Yes.Sarah: That is so cute.I remember once when Lee was little—he was probably around three—he had a block, like a play block, a colored wooden block. And he had it pinched between his shoulder and his ear, and he was doing circles around the kitchen.I said, “What are you doing?” And he said, “I'm talking on the phone.”And I realized: oh my gosh. I walk around with the cordless phone pinched between my shoulder and my ear, and I walk around while I'm talking on the phone. So for him, that was like: this is how you talk on the phone.Corey: That's such a funny reference, too. Now our kids would never—my kids would never do that, right?Sarah: No, because they never saw you with a phone like that.Corey: Right.Sarah: That is so funny. It's definitely a dated reference.You also have a funny story, too, that's sort of the opposite—less harmless things our kids copy us doing. Do you want to share your… I think it's a rabbit poop story.Corey: It is. We're just going to put it out there: it's a rabbit poop story. This is how we accidentally model things we probably don't want our kids doing.So, if you were listening this time last year, I got a new dog. She's a lab, and her favorite thing is to eat everything—especially things she's not supposed to eat, which I'm sure a lot of people can relate to.Our area is rampant with rabbits, so we have this problem with rabbit droppings. And my vet has informed me that despite the fact that dogs love it, you need to not let them eat it.So I'm always in the backyard—if you're hearing this, it's really silly—having to try and shovel these up so the dog's not eating them.Listeners, we're looking into a longer-term solution so rabbits aren't getting into our backyard, but this is where we're at right now.Whenever I noticed I'd be shoveling them up and I'd see her trying to eat something else I hadn't shoveled yet, I'd say, “Leave it,” and then give her a treat to reward her.One day, my little guy—little C—who loves taking part in dog training and is so great with animals, he saw our dog eating something she shouldn't. He ran and got his little sand shovel and went up to her holding it—kind of waving it at her—like, “Leave it.”And I was like, why are you shaking a shovel at the dog? Totally confused about what he was doing.And he's like, “Well, this is how you do it, Mommy.”And I was like… oh. I shake a shovel at the dog. You just say, “Leave it,” and then you give her the treat—not the shovel.Not an hour later, I'm shoveling again, she's trying to eat something she shouldn't, and I'm like, “Leave it, leave it.” I look at my hand and I'm holding the shovel up while saying it to her.Sarah: Right?Corey: And I was like, “Oh, this is why he thinks that.” Because every time I'm saying this to her, I'm holding a shovel mid-scoop—trying to get on top of the problem.Sarah: That's so funny. And when you told me that the first time, I got the impression you maybe weren't being as gentle as you thought you were. Like you were frustrated with the dog, and little C was copying that.Corey: Yeah. Probably that too, right? Because it's a frustrating problem. Anyone who's tried to shovel rabbit droppings knows it's an impossible, ridiculous task.So I definitely was a bit frustrated. He was picking up both on the frustration and on what I was physically doing.And I also think this is a good example to show parents: don't beat yourself up. Sometimes we're not even aware of the things we're doing until we see it reflected back at us.Sarah: Totally.And now that you mentioned beating yourself up: I have a lot of parents I work with who will say, “I heard my kid yelling and shouting, and I know they pick that up from me—my bad habits of yelling and shouting.”I just want to say: there are some things kids do out of fight, flight, or freeze—like their nervous system has gotten activated—that they would do whether you shouted at them or not.It's not that everything—every hard thing—can be traced back to us.Kids will get aggressive, and I've seen this: kids who are aggressive, who have not ever seen aggression. They've never seen anyone hitting; they've never been hit. But they will hit and kick and spit and scream because that's the “fight” of fight, flight, or freeze.So it's not that they learned it somewhere.And often parents will worry, “What are they being exposed to at school?” But that can just be a natural instinct to protect oneself when we get dysregulated.Also, kids will think of the worst thing they can say—and it's not necessarily that they've heard it.I remember one time Asa got really mad at Lee. They were like three and six. And Asa said, “I'm going to chop your head off and bury you in the backyard.”Oh my goodness—if I hadn't known it wasn't necessarily something he learned, I would've been really worried. But it was just a reflection of that fight, flight, or freeze instinct that he had.So I guess it's: yes, kids can learn things from us, and I'm not saying they can't. Your example—with the dog, the rabbit poop, and the shovel—of course kids can pick up unsavory behavior from us.But that doesn't mean that every single hard thing they do, they learned from us. And also, they have good natures. There are things that come from them that are good as well, that they didn't learn from us.Corey: That's right.Sarah: I want to ground this conversation in a great metaphor from a book by Allison Gopnik. I think the title is The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children.To really embrace what we're talking about—being the person you want your child to be—you have to believe in the gardener metaphor of parenting.The gardener metaphor is: your child is like a seed that has within it everything it needs to grow into a beautiful plant. You provide the water, sunlight, proper soil, and then the plant does the work of growing on its own.The carpenter metaphor is: you have to build your child—make your child into who they're going to be.This idea we're talking about—be the person you want your child to be—that's the soil and the light and the water your child needs to grow into a beautiful plant, or a beautiful human being.It's not that we're doing things to them to turn them into good humans.And honestly, most parents, when you ask them what they wish for their child, they want their kid to be a good person when they grow up.I want to say to parents: it's easier than you think. The most influential thing you can do to help your child grow up to be a good person is to be the person you want them to be.This goes up against a lot of common parenting advice.One phrase I wish did not exist—and I don't know where it came from, but if anyone knows, let me know—is: “You should never do anything for your child that they can do for themselves.”Such a terrible way to think about relationships.Can you imagine if I said to your partner, “You should never do anything for Corey that she can do for herself”? It's terrible.I make my husband coffee in the morning—not because he can't make it himself, but as an act of love. For him to come downstairs, getting ready for work, and have a nice hot coffee ready. Of course he can make his own coffee. But human relationships are built on doing things for each other.Corey: Yes. I think that's so profound.I think about how I was just telling you before we started recording how we've been spending our weekends skiing. When I first started skiing with my husband—even though I'd grown up skiing—I'd never done it as much as him. He helped me so much. He did so much of the process for me so I didn't have too much to think about.Now that we do it all the time, he said to me the other day, “Look at how independent you've gotten with this. You can do so much of this yourself. You're managing so much more on the hill.”He was so proud of me, and I was thinking: imagine if he hadn't done that for me. If he had been like, “Just figure it out. We're on the ski hill. You're an adult.”I probably wouldn't have enjoyed it very much. But he did lots of things for me that I could have done for myself, and that love and support helped nurture the shared love we had.Sarah: Yeah.And I think it's tough because our culture is so individualistic. Hyper-individualistic—everyone should stand on their own two feet and do things without help and make it on their own. And that has really leaked into our parenting.One of the major fears I hear from parents is that their kid won't be independent.So a lot of parents push kids to be independent—and what that ends up looking like is the opposite of what we're talking about.Part of the reason there's pressure for individualism is because we see it as a way for kids to turn into “good people.”But so many qualities of being a good person are about human interconnectedness: caring about other people, being kind, being helpful, being conscientious, thinking about what's the right thing to do.All of that comes from how we're modeling it—the gardener metaphor.But there's always this tension: wanting your kid to be helpful, caring, kind, and thinking you have to make them be those things instead of letting that gardener process develop.I'm on the other side of this because my kids are grownups, so I've seen it develop. One of the things I realized a couple years ago is this progression I saw with Maxine.One time we were on our way out the door. My husband happened to be leaving for work at the same time we were leaving for the school bus. Maxine was probably around seven, and I was carrying her backpack for her.My husband—who also has that individualism thing—said, “Why are you carrying her backpack? She's seven. She can carry her own backpack.”And I was like, “I know, but she likes me to carry it, and I don't mind.”And I really knew that someday she would want to carry her own backpack.Sure enough, a couple years later, she's carrying her own backpack, doesn't ask me anymore. I didn't think about it for a while.Then one day we were coming from the grocery store and had to walk a little ways with heavy groceries. She insisted on carrying all the groceries and wouldn't let me carry anything.I was like, “I can carry some groceries, honey.” And she's like, “No, Mom. I've got it.”She's carrying all the heavy groceries by herself. This full-circle moment: not only was she helping, she wanted to do it for me. She didn't want me to have to carry the heavy groceries.I just love that.Corey: Yeah. And I love when we have these conversations because sometimes it feels like a leap of faith—you don't see this modeled in society very much. It's a leap of faith to be like, “I can do these things for my children, and one day they will…”But it's not as long as people think. I'm already seeing some of that blooming with my 10-year-old.Sarah: Yeah.And Sophie in our membership shared something on our Wednesday Wins. Her kids are around 10, eight or nine, and seven. She's always followed this principle—modeling who you want your kid to be.She said she always worried, “They're never going to help.” And whenever you hear “never” and “always,” there's anxiety coming in.But she shared she had been sick and had to self-isolate. Her kids were making her food and bringing it to her. She would drive to the store, and they would go in and get the things needed.She was amazed at how they stepped up and helped her without her having to make them. They just saw that their mom needed help and were like, “We're there, Mom. What do you need?”Corey: Oh—“What do you need?” That's so sweet.Sarah: I love that.One more story: this fall, my kids are 20—Lee's going to be 25 next week—21, and 18.My husband and I were going away for the weekend, leaving Maxine home by herself. It was fall, and we have a lot of really big trees around our house, so there was major eavestroughs—gutters—cleaning to do, getting leaves off the roof and bagging all the leaves in the yard. A full-day job.My husband had been like, “I have so much work to do. I don't want to deal with that when I come home.”So I asked the boys if they could come over and the three of them could do the leaf-and-gutter job. And they were like, “Absolutely.”They surprised their dad. When we came home, they had done the entire thing. They spent a day doing all the leaves and gutter cleaning. None of them were like, “I don't want to,” or “I'm busy.” They didn't ask me to pay them—we didn't pay them. They just were like, “Sure, we'll help Dad. We know he has a lot of work right now.”I just love that.Corey: Oh, I love that. When they're so little, they can't really help take the burden off you. But knowing that one day they will—it's such a nice thing to know.Although this brings us to that good point about Hunt, Gather, Parent.Sarah: Yeah. If people haven't listened to that episode, we'll link to it in the show notes.Let's talk about some things you can do to actively practice what we're talking about—modeling who we want our kids to be.One idea is really encapsulated by Michaeleen Doucleff, who wrote Hunt, Gather, Parent. She traveled in Mexico, spent time with Mayan people, and saw kids doing household stuff without being asked—helpful, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, taking care of younger siblings in this beautiful way that was pretty unrecognizable by North American standards.She went down and lived with them and studied what they did. She found it started with letting kids help when they were little.The two- or three-year-old who wanted to help a parent make food or do things in the garden—rather than the parents doing it without the kid around, or giving them something fake to help with, or not letting them do it—those parents let kids do it.Even if it took longer, even if the parent had to redo it later (not in front of them). They let their kids be imperfect helpers and enthusiastic helpers.That's an impulse we've all seen: kids want to help. And we often don't let them because we say they're too little or it takes too much time. And we end up thwarting that helping impulse.Then when we really want them to help—when they're actually capable—they've learned, “Helping isn't my role,” because it got shut down earlier.Corey: Exactly. And I really feel that for parents because schedules are so busy and we're so rushed.But you don't have to do this all the time. It's okay if there are sometimes where there's a crunch. Pick times when it's a little more relaxed—maybe on weekends or when you have a bit more space.Sarah: Totally.And while we're talking about helping: this comes up a lot with parents I work with and in our membership. Parents will say, “I asked my kid to set the table and they said, ‘Why do I always have to do it?'”This happened the other day with a client. I asked, “What was your child doing when you asked?” And she said, “He was snuggled up on the couch reading a book.”And I was like: I can see how that's frustrating—you could use help getting the table ready. But let's zoom out.Modeling might look like: “Okay, you're tired. You've had a long day at school. You're snuggled up reading. I'll set the table right now.”Being gracious. Even if they refuse sometimes, it's okay to do it. But also, in that specific helping piece, we can look at the times when they help without being asked.When I give parents the assignment to look for that, every parent says, “Oh, I won't find any.” And then they come back and say, “Oh, I did find times.”So when they do help—carry groceries, help a sibling—how can you make them feel good about it?“Thank you. That saved so much time.” “I was going to help your brother but my hands were full—thank you.”Pro-social behavior is reinforced when it feels good.If you want them to help more, ask: “What would you like to do to help the family team?”Not, “This is your job forever.” More like, “I've noticed setting the table isn't a great time for you. What are some other things you could take on?” And if they don't have ideas, brainstorm what's developmentally appropriate.Often there are things kids would like to do that you've just never thought of.Corey: It's true. It's kind of like how adults divide jobs at home—often according to who likes what. But with kids we think, “I should just tell them what to do, and they should just do it.”It makes sense to work with what they like.Sarah: And also the flow of the family and schedule.That's why we never had chores in the strict sense. My kids helped out, but it was never “one person's job” to do the dishwasher or take out the garbage.Because inevitably I'd need the dishwasher emptied and that person wasn't home, or they were doing homework. And if I said, “Can you do the dishwasher?” someone could say, “That's not my job—that's my brother's job.”So instead, if I needed something done, whoever was around: “Hey, can you take the garbage out?” I tried to keep it relatively equal, but it wasn't a rigid assignment. And I think that helped create the family team idea.Corey: Yes.Sarah: And that “it's someone's job” thing is that individualism again.You hear this: “Can you clean that up?” and if you haven't been modeling cleaning up messes that aren't your own, you might hear, “Well, I didn't make that mess.”But if you model: if they make a mess and you say, “Can you pick up your crayons?” and they're like, “No,” then you can say, “Okay, sure, I'll pick up the crayons for you,” and they have the experience of seeing someone clean up a mess that isn't theirs.They're more likely to absorb: “Oh, yeah, I can help with messes that aren't mine.”Corey: I've really seen this play out in my house this winter. One child loves shoveling. The second there's any snow, he's like, “Time for me to shovel.” It doesn't matter if it's early morning or dark out—he's out there shoveling.And I've been blown away, because first of all, I do not like shoveling. It's genuinely helpful.But he'll also be looking out for when the plow comes by—this doesn't happen where you live on the island, but for lots of people: the plow makes a wall at the end of the driveway. Even if you already shoveled, you have a new wall.He'll keep looking: “Just watching out for the plow.” Like a little old man. The second it happens, he's out there so everyone can leave the house as needed.And he's even admitted, “There are lots of jobs I don't like, but I really love doing this. This is something I can do for everybody.”Sarah: That's so great. That's a perfect example of letting them choose something that helps the family.In terms of flexibility—doing things for them—how have you seen that play out? Because for me, when my kids were small, they did very little. We'd do “Let's all tidy up,” but maybe they'd pick up three things and I'd pick up most of the things. We'd do a 10-minute tidy.Mostly I did dishes, setting and clearing the table, all of that. But then I found that as they got older, they just started doing it.And I never got into power struggles because, honestly, it was often easier to do it myself. Maybe that worked out because I didn't have a grand vision—I just lived it, and then I saw them grow into doing a lot as they got older.What about you? How are you seeing that balance between what you do for them and how you see them growing?Corey: I'd say this is where you really have to have faith. Something that maybe wasn't modeled for us.This comes up with clients all the time: they get anxious—“They're never going to clean up, they're never going to be helpful, they'll be entitled.” They get stuck in “never” because it's not happening right away.So when I tell people: invite them, and if they don't want to do it, say something like, “You don't want to do it this time. I'm sure you'll do it next time.”But mean it—not passive-aggressive. Not “I'm sure you'll do it next time” as a threat. Actually mean: “I'm sure you'll do it next time,” and then go about it with trust that they will eventually do it.You're holding space. You're not being anxious about it.Sarah: Yes—holding space, having faith.Corey: And I think it's giving ourselves—and the parents we work with—a permission slip.You can tidy up for them without being angry about it. If you're doing this like, “No one helps me,” that's not going to work.You have to truly trust the goodness of your children—that they'll want to be like this.Sarah: Yeah.And I think some of it comes down to how we treat other adults.If your partner normally does the dishes and says, “I'm exhausted from work,” hopefully there's give-and-take. You pick up slack when they're tired.A lot of this is: how do you want to be treated? How do you treat other adults? And how can you work on treating kids the same way?So often we don't treat kids the way we treat adults. And sometimes that's appropriate. But often it's just a lack of respect.I saw a comedy skit once where these moms were sitting around drinking wine, and at first it was normal, and then one goes to reach for the bottle and another slaps her hand: “You haven't finished what you have in your glass. Finish what you have first.”Someone interrupts, and the other says, “I was still speaking. Wait until I'm done speaking.”And you're like: oh my gosh, that's what people do to kids all the time. If you see an adult do it to another adult, it's funny—but it's also jarring because it's considered normal when people do it to kids.Kids aren't always seen as having the same rights or deserving the same respect as adults.Corey: Yes. And I think Iris Chen talks about this. You did a podcast with her back in season one—adultism.Sarah: Yes, adultism—like racism or sexism, but adultism: prioritizing adults' needs and rights over children's.Corey: And that really stood out to me. If we treat them like the beautiful little people they are—not “just children,” but people—that goes a long way in what we're talking about today.Sarah: Yeah.And the last big point is how this works with values.Corey: We hear this a lot: parents get worried about values. They really value the environment and worry their kids aren't living those values.Like a parent who was upset their kids were buying candy made with palm oil because of how it's harvested. “Why don't my kids care?”If we get preachy—“We can't buy candy with palm oil,” “We only buy thrifted clothes”—it can turn into, “You're trying to control me,” and then kids push the other way.Versus if we live those values and give them room to play with them and figure out where they land, they tend to be more open—and more interested in the why.A strange example from this weekend: I don't really like those disposable hand warmers because you can only use them once. I prefer things we can use multiple times.It was supposed to be really cold, so I was like, “Okay, I guess I'll buy them.” I didn't say anything weird about it. We used them.At the end of the day, he had to throw them out, and he goes, “I don't feel great about this. It was helpful, but I don't know if it was helpful enough that we have to throw this in the garbage now.”And I was like: that's exactly how I feel. But I didn't get preachy. He was able to think about it himself.So even with values, we live them. If kids aren't agreeing with our values, sometimes we have to give space and pull back. When someone's pushing something on you, you often feel like not complying.Sarah: Yeah. It becomes a power struggle.And I do think there's a difference between pushing and educating. You can give them information in an age-appropriate way, and you can say, “You can buy that with your own money, but I don't want to support that, so I'm not going to.”Not in a way that makes them feel terrible. Just: “These are my values.”I've said this to my kids. Maxine was maybe 14 and said, “My phone's broken. I need a new phone.”I said, “What's wrong?” She said, “My music library keeps going away and I have to download it.”I started laughing and said, “That's not enough to get a new phone.” I said, “My values are we use electronics until they're broken. We don't get a new phone because of a little glitch.”You should see our minivan—it's scraped up and old-looking. Maxine actually said we're going somewhere with her boyfriend and his mom, and she said, “Can you please ask my boyfriend's mother to drive?”I said, “Why?” And she said, “Our car is so embarrassing.”And I'm like, “It works great. We drive our cars into the ground.” That's our family value.And then last year, Maxine's phone screen actually broke. She wanted a new phone, and I said, “My values—because of e-waste—are that I'd get it fixed if I were you. But I promise I won't judge you if you want a new phone. Do what feels right for you.”No guilt-tripping. And she chose to fix the screen instead of buying a new phone.So these are examples—like your hand warmers—where we can give the information without being heavy. And they usually absorb our values over time.Corey: Because it's not just that moment—it's hundreds of interactions.And that's actually empowering: you don't need one big conversation. You get to show them these little things throughout life.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Corey: I mean, if we're talking about phones, goodness gracious—how long have I needed a new phone?Sarah: I know. I've been wanting you to get a new phone so you can post Reels for me.Corey: They're like, “Corey, maybe you've taken this too far.” But I don't know—the modeling I've given my children is that you can make a dead phone last for two extra years.Sarah: And I like your point: it's all of these interactions over and over again.The opposite of what we're talking about is you can't tell your kids not to be materialistic if you go out and buy things you don't need. You can't tell them people are more important than phones if you're on your phone all the time.You really have to think about it. That's why that “Do as I say, not as I do” sometimes gets used—because it's hard. It's hard to be the person you want your kids to be.And it keeps us honest: who do we want to be? Who do we want them to be?Corey: I mean, it's that moment when I stood there holding the shovel and I was like, “Ah. I see.”So we can see this as a beautiful thing for our own growth, too, because we're going to keep realizing how much it matters.Caveat, though: I don't want parents to listen and feel pressure—like every moment they're being watched and they must be perfect.Because this is also a chance to model messing up and making repairs. So don't take this as: you have to be perfect.Sarah: And the other thing: if you're listening and you're like, “Why do I have to do everything around here? Sarah and Corey are saying clean up your kids' messes, carry things for them, do the chores…”I'm not saying every parent should be a martyr and never get help.Remember what I said: where can your kids help? What are they already doing? What could they choose?And I think I also let a lot of stuff go. My parents once came to visit and said, “Sarah, we really admire how you choose to spend time with your kids instead of cleaning up your house.”I was like, I think that was a backhanded compliment. And also them noticing it was kind of a mess.It wasn't terrible or dirty. It was just: I didn't have a perfect house, and I did everything myself.I did a lot myself, but I didn't do all the things some people think they need to do.Corey: That totally makes sense. You're basically saying: what can you let go of, too?Sarah: Yeah. For the sake of the relationship.And I think the last thing I wanted us to talk about is: does this ever not work?You and I were thinking about objections.If you're living this way—gracious, helpful, flexible, modeling who you want them to be—you're putting deposits in the Goodwill Bank. Your connection increases. They care what you think because that Goodwill Bank is nice and beefy.The only time you could say it wouldn't work is if you didn't have a good relationship. But if you're doing all this, it builds relationship—so I don't even think you can say, “This doesn't work.”Nobody's perfect. There were plenty of times I asked my kids to do things and they were grumpy, or I had to ask 10 times. It wasn't like, “Of course, Mom, let me empty the dishwasher.” They were normal kids. But in general, if you trust the process and maturation, your kids move in that direction.Corey: I'd add one other thing: it wouldn't work if this is all you're doing, with nothing else.Sometimes people think peaceful parenting is passive, and what we're saying can sound passive: “Just be who you want them to be.”But there are also times you need to do something. Like we said: if you're being the person you want to be and they're never helping, there's also a conversation: “What do you like to do?” There are collaborative steps.This is the big philosophy—embodying who you want them to be—but there are also practical supports and conversations that help them be successful.Sarah: Totally.And the last thing is: remember this happens over time. Trust the growth process and maturation and brain development.Remember that when they're little, their agenda is not your agenda. And as they get older, they start to see the benefits: “Oh yeah, it is nice when the living room's tidied up.”When they're little, they don't have the same agenda as you. That's a lot of why you get, “No, you do it.”And I actually can't believe I didn't say this earlier, but a lot of times when we're doing things for kids, they feel it as nurturing.So sometimes when they don't want to help, it's their way of saying, “I want to make sure you're taking care of me.” Sometimes that can look like refusal or not wanting to do things themselves.Corey: Yeah, absolutely.Sarah: Thanks, Corey.Corey: Thank you. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

Helllo and welcome back to another episode of, These Little Moments Podcast. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by fitness advice, frustrated by setbacks, or stuck in an on-again, off-again cycle with your health… this episode is for you.In this conversation, Ryan Kassim and Jared Hamilton break down why most traditional fitness plans fail — and what actually helps people create lasting change.Instead of focusing on perfect routines or extreme discipline, they explore the deeper factors that drive real transformation: identity, emotional regulation, self-trust, simplicity, and resilience. You'll learn why the fitness industry feels so noisy, how to filter out what doesn't matter, and how to build habits that hold up when life gets stressful.This episode is about learning how to respond to setbacks without spiraling, rebuilding trust with yourself, and creating a version of health that fits your real life — not a highlight reel.⏱️ Episode Chapters00:00 – Why So Many Fitness Plans Fail03:33 – Then vs. Now: How Change Really Happens06:20 – Why Motivation Isn't the Problem09:16 – Identity and Lasting Behavior Change11:50 – Cutting Through Fitness Industry Noise14:39 – Overwhelm, Tools, and Trend Fatigue17:28 – What Sustainable Progress Actually Looks Like20:39 – Minimum Mapping: Your “Bare Minimum” Plan26:50 – Aligning Actions With the Person You Want to Be29:17 – Rebuilding Trust With Yourself32:08 – Handling Setbacks Without Starting Over38:07 – Emotional Regulation & Self-Compassion43:48 – Understanding Emotions Without Letting Them Run You48:39 – Using Resistance as Feedback53:37 – Living and Training More Authentically

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If you feel like there's a gap between the person you are and the person you know you could be, this episode is for you.In this conversation with Karen Mattar, we explore what really keeps people stuck in the same patterns year after year and why motivation, willpower, and “trying harder” so often fail.This episode is about outgrowing a life that no longer fits, rebuilding confidence through self-respect, and becoming someone who actually follows through on the promises they make to themselves. Not through pressure or self-control, but through identity, leadership, and alignment.If you've ever thought “I know I'm meant for more” but struggled to close the gap between intention and action, this conversation will help you understand why, and what needs to change.This episode is for the person who:• Feels like they've outgrown their current life• They're tired of starting over every year• They struggle with consistency and follow-through• They want habits that last, not another motivation spike• They're ready to become the person they keep visualisingTrust this episode will find you when it's meant to!CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST

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In today's episode I'm sharing an additional reflection prompt to consider as you plan for the new year: Who is the person you want to become? Think about your valutes, purpose, goals, and direction and try to embody that throughout the year. As always you can learn more and connect with me on my website (andystorch.com) or LinkedIn. And you can find my books - Own Your Career Own Your Life and Own Your Brand, Own Your Career - on Amazon.

In today's episode I'm sharing an additional reflection prompt to consider as you plan for the new year: Who is the person you want to become? Think about your valutes, purpose, goals, and direction and try to embody that throughout the year. As always you can learn more and connect with me on my website (andystorch.com) or LinkedIn. And you can find my books - Own Your Career Own Your Life and Own Your Brand, Own Your Career - on Amazon.

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The emotional intensity that comes from being super-serious can turn a challenge into a problem. Likewise, when we react automatically to the anxiety of others, it can make a bad situation worse. This episode digs into why this is the case and what you can do about it.Show Notes:Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems PrimerTriggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts–Becoming the Person You Want to Be by Marshall GoldsmithBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

In today's episode, I'm talking with Mimi Bouchard about something so much bigger than just organizing your home — we're talking about organizing your life. If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or trapped in negative self-talk, this conversation is for you. I'll be honest, “manifestation” always sounded a little too magical to me, but what Mimi shares is real, practical, and life-changing. It's not about chanting or meditating in silence — it's about shifting the way you speak to yourself, creating clarity about who you want to be, and stepping into that version of yourself right now. Mimi shares her simple two-step formula for transformation — clarity and becoming — and how you can rewire your self-image so success and confidence feel natural instead of impossible. We'll talk about habit stacking, positive self-talk, and why your future self is waiting for you to show up today. If you're tired of waiting for “someday” to finally feel proud of yourself and your life, this episode will inspire you to stop holding back and start becoming who you were always meant to be. Learn more about Activations here: https://mimibouchard.com/#Activations Follow Mimi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mimibouchard/?hl=en     You can find more Clutterbug content here: Website: http://www.clutterbug.me YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@clutterbug TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@clutterbug_me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Clutterbug.Me/   #clutterbug #mindsetshift #podcast #mentalhealth #homeinspiration #declutter #organization  

President Alvin F. Meredith and his wife, Sister Jennifer Meredith, have lived all over the world so when the call came to move their young family to Rexburg, Idaho, to lead BYU-Idaho, they did what they've always done: They prepared themselves to love a new place and new people. On this week's episode, the Merediths share their thoughts, at the beginning of a new school year, on how to bloom where you're planted. 1:56- From the Bible Belt to Africa and the Middle East 5:36- Being Where Your Feet Are 8:20- The Kind of Person You Want to Marry 12:10- Temple Sunrise Tradition 15:40- Beginning With the End in Mind 21:18- Bloom Where You're Planted 27:45- Life Decisions Not Career Decisions 33:41- 100 Days of Listening 35:49- FHE for Secular Learning 39:20- The Value of Education 45:43- The Gospel is Joyful 50:42- What Does It Mean to Be All In the Gospel of Jesus Christ? “Education is important for everybody but the type of education really needs to be guided by the Spirit.”

Anne-Laure Le Cunff: Tiny Experiments Anne-Laure Le Cunff is an award-winning neuroscientist, entrepreneur, and writer. She is the founder of Ness Labs and author of its widely read newsletter, a researcher at the ADHD Research Lab, and an advisor for the Applied Neuroscience Association. She is the author of Tiny Experiments: How to Live Freely in a Goal-Obsessed World*. We all get into a rut sometimes. Once we notice we're in one, our tendency is to work really hard to get out of it. In this conversation, Anne-Laure and I explore how starting with something tiny is often the better bet. Key Points SMART goals assume we know exactly where we're heading. Most of the time, that's not clear. A tiny experiment focuses on outputs instead of outcomes. To build more comfort with uncertainty, find one small place to experiment. Our brain uses growth loops to constantly adjust our trajectory. We don't go in circles; we grow in circles. Improving growth isn't about knowledge or skill; it's thinking about your thinking, questioning your responses, and knowing your mind. A simple, 5-minute tool is Plus Minus Next. It surfaces what's working, what's not, and your next steps. Resources Mentioned Tiny Experiments: How to Live Freely in a Goal-Obsessed World* by Anne-Laure Le Cunff Interview Notes Download my interview notes in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes How to Become the Person You Want to Be, with James Clear (episode 376) How to Change Your Behavior, with BJ Fogg (episode 507) How to Create Space, with Juliet Funt (episode 540) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

Here we are, part two of our series on becoming who you want to be using method acting and flow state! This week we'll be fleshing out our potential new personas, giving them motivations, beliefs, lore, and much more to *temporarily* adopt characteristics to expand our range - logically and expressively. No need for movement clothes or dance shoes in the communal Schauer, just hop in whenever you're ready. Make sure to like and subscribe on Youtube, as well as rate my 5 stars on whichever platform you're streaming from! Thank you. Substack  https://substack.com/@sarahschauer?utm_source=user-menu Resources: What is Self-Esteem? https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-self-esteem-2795868  Understanding the Interplay Between the Nervous and Muscular Systems https://www.maven-pt.com/maven-stories/understanding-the-interplay-between-the-nervous-and-muscular-systems Character Development: A Guide for Actors https://www.backstage.com/magazine/article/character-development-for-actors-76083/#:~:text=Gather%20as%20many%20basic%20details,role%2C%20message%2C%20and%20theme. The Outside In Acting Technique  https://www.stagemilk.com/acting-technique-outside-in/ Nine components associated with the flow state experience  https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7551835/table/behavsci-10-00137-t001/ How to Get Into Flow State: 8 Tips to Unlock Peak Performance https://www.flowresearchcollective.com/blog/how-to-get-into-flow-state A Review on the Role of the Neuroscience of Flow States in the Modern World https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7551835/#B15-behavsci-10-00137 Color Psychology: Does It Affect How You Feel? https://www.verywellmind.com/color-psychology-2795824 How ambient temperature affects mood: an ecological momentary assessment study in Switzerland  https://ehjournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12940-023-01003-9 Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever hear of role models? Or finding someone who motivates you and implementing their daily habits?This week Danny chats about how acting like the person you want to be is a great way to get motivated to become the best version of yourself.Tune in to hear the full episode!For more info on how RAW Fitness can help you live life with confidence through health and fitness go to https://info.rawfitlife.com/free-passTo connect with us more, be sure to follow us on out social media accounts.Instagram - www.instagram.com/rawfitnessmacombFacebook - www.facebook.com/rawfitnessmacomb

In this episode, I share how I'm using my final year of cardiology fellowship—and my 32nd birthday reset—as a chance to level up. Not just by setting goals, but by reverse engineering the doctor, husband, and father I want to become a year from now. If you've ever felt stuck on autopilot or unsure of your next step, this episode will give you a simple framework for designing your future self and finishing strong.

Welcome back! We're discussing the psychology, neuroscience, and applications of method acting and flow state to develop behavioral and character range, aka “become the person you want.” This week's communal Schauer will be very STEAM heavy, but don't worry, next week we're bringing it all together to cultivate a performance that feels personal and true to you (and who you could be).  Make sure to “like” and subscribe on Youtube, rate my 5-stars wherever you get your podcasts, and check out my Substack where I have additional musings. Substack  https://substack.com/@sarahschauer?utm_source=user-menu Resources: The Psychological Effects of Method Acting https://www.discovermagazine.com/the-psychological-effects-of-method-acting-45035 The Neuroscience of Romeo and Juliet: an fMRI study of acting https://royalsocietypublishing.org/doi/10.1098/rsos.181908 A Review on the Role of the Neuroscience of Flow States in the Modern World  https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7551835/#B15-behavsci-10-00137 Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi  Your Conscious Mind - New Scientist  The Tao of Physics: An Exploration of the Parallels between Modern Physics and Eastern Mysticism - Fritjof Capra  The Meaning of Proofs: Mathematics as Storytelling - Cabriele Lolli Dark and Magical Places: The Neuroscience of Navigation - Christopher Kemp This Is What It Sounds Like - Susan Rogers and Obi Ogas Reductionism in Art & Brain Science: Bridging the Two Cultures - Eric R. Kandel  A Little Book of Language - David Crystal Submit - A Memoir by Sonnett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fearne is marking the summer solstice by reflecting on the Happy Place episodes that'll help you connect with nature, mysticism, and in turn, your inner self. It's time to get back in touch with who we really are deep down underneath all the external, modern-day trappings of busyness, success and material things. In this episode – -Kirsty Gallagher talks about living alongside nature's cycles to help you let go of things that are distressing you-Jo Bowlby explains why spirituality is the science of exploring your inner world-Rob Da Bank loves hot and cold practices to help get in touch with patience and a slower pace -Tara Brach pinpoints how spirituality is able to quieten your inner critic -Estelle Bingham explores manifesting as a way to uncover your core self-Poppy Delbridge leads a live tapping session to set intentions for the rest of the yearListen to the full episodes here – Kirsty GallagherJo BowlbyRob Da BankTara BrachEstelle BinghamPoppy Delbridge Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt Dixon: The Activator Advantage Matt Dixon is Founding Partner of DCM Insights, a global training and advisory firm, and a leading expert in business development and client experience. His first book The Challenger Sale was a #1 Amazon and Wall Street Journal bestseller, and translated in a dozen languages. His newest book with colleagues Rory Channer, Karen Freeman, and Ted McKenna is The Activator Advantage: What Today's Rainmakers Do Differently*. At lot of us know the traits of the kind of person who's successful at attracting new business. What many of us don't know, is that what's working today is actually different than what we traditionally think. In this conversation, Matt and I a take a detailed look at the professionals who are landing the most new business – and what they're doing that works. Key Points The loyalty that once existed between professionals and their clients has changed substantially in recent years. A type of professional called an activator represents the highest performance in business development. Activators assume their best clients will leave at some point and are consistently working to build a pipeline of opportunities. Many professionals tend to protect client relationships. In contrast, activators actively bring colleagues into these relationships. Activators don't wait for inquiries. They meet opportunities happen by building relationships before paid work begins. Activators go way past birthdays and factual knowledge about others. They discover what's important to their clients as individuals. Activators go way past “as is” content and work hard to thoughtfully connect it to a prospect or client's situation. Resources Mentioned The Activator Advantage: What Today's Rainmakers Do Differently* by Matt Dixon, Rory Channer, Karen Freeman, and Ted McKenna Interview Notes Download my interview notes in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes The Surprising Truth About Influencing Others, with Daniel Pink (episode 84) How to Become the Person You Want to Be, with James Clear (episode 376) The Way to Earn Attention, with Raja Rajamannar (episode 521) Expert Partner Finding it hard to make an impression in a noisy marketplace? Many listeners have reached out to David Hutchens to help their organizations get traction through the power of story. If you're planning an offsite or training to get better, get in touch with us to start the conversation with David or any of our other expert partners. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

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Geoff Neupert is a former champion in Olympic Weightlifting and was a Division I Strength & Conditioning Coach at Rutgers University. He is known as a "thought leader" throughout the kettlebell industry and has trained over 25,000 people in one-on-one sessions after earning Master Instructor status in Russian Kettlebell Challenge (RKC). Geoff was co-creator of Original Strength and currently operates Chasing Strength, which has been featured in Men's Health and Men's Fitness, among others. His training programs and online courses can be found at chasingstrength.com.

This episode is also posted on the IPH YouTube podcast.IHP content is for people who are interested in topics, stories, & guidance for personal development, self-help, spirituality journey, the 5D mystic path, & enlightenment the human way. It's for people who choose the human love narrative, not the human suffering narrative. Don't tune in if you don't love life & humanity because this won't be for you. Don't tune in if you still believe in evil or the devil. Topic not ideal for ego-sensitive or emotionally sensitive people. Please don't tune in. Thank you! All IHP content resonates with people who want to achieve enlightenment the human way & are emotionally accountable. IHP podcast host Maria Florio shares voices, stories & perspectives from her 5D mystic enlightenment functional adult life to give examples of what it's like to know emotional self-regulation skills, experience secure attachment, have functional adult conversations & experiences & 5D relationships.Inspiring Human Potential Inner Growth 5D Self-Empowered Enlightened Expanding Consciousness Voices, Stories & Perspectives5D Mystic Enlightenment Functional Adult Relationships New Stories To Heal Trauma Together & Bring Forth Your Humanity5D collective are functional adults who unconditionally love with flaws & imperfections that want to bring forth the authentic self, the inner child adult, & use functional adult direct open-hearted communication.You find your authentic self with self-awareness of your inner & outer mental, emotional & physical well-being as you choose to expand consciousness through integration of the brain, learning to love yourself and other(s) unconditionally - family, community, society, & world.To be you means you're able to actively feel alive, energized & ready for life's adventures (thanks to engaging your mammalian social engagement system - the ventral vagal state). You're ready to bring forth the future with the 5D collective (mystics & educators, etc.) & support humanity to move into another day of life & beyond.With a twin flame there is no saga or obsession; just unconditional love with a deep knowing of one's bond, oversoul connection, lifetimes together.Bringing Together Human, Spiritual, & Spirituality Elements to Explore Human Evolution & ConsciousnessBringing together the human elements (existentialism, psychology, sociology, neuroscience, somatics informed, trauma informed, interpersonal neurobiology informed, etc.), spiritual elements (ascension, the four clairs, astrology, metastrology, metaphysics, 3D, 4D, 5D - dimensions, spiritual awakening, tarot, Akashic records, etc.), & spirituality elements to explore human evolution & consciousness.When we can unconditionally love with flaws & imperfections in all our relationships, we always grow & expand consciousness. We get to experience authentic & genuine aspects that go beyond what words can describe.All our relationships support our expansion of consciousness.We are fragments of each other.Relationships that are unconditionally loving with flaws & imperfections hold the opportunity to support learning how to express & be your true self & tap into your infinite higher human consciousness potential in this lifetime, not the next one.I am life.I am love.I am expanding consciousness.I am infinite higher human potential.I am you.Love, Maria ♾️

Want To Learn How To Grow Your Territory?? If so → https://www.newtomedicaldevicesales.com/podcastBreaking into medical device sales, networking for success, finding mentorship, investing in yourself, handling career transitions, balancing work and family, the power of perseverance, personal growth, and lessons from sports and life experiences.Key Takeaways1️⃣ Invest in Yourself – If you're serious about breaking into medical device sales, be willing to invest time and resources into learning and networking.2️⃣ Build Strong Relationships – Networking is key. Focus on building authentic connections instead of just asking for favors.3️⃣ Stay Resilient & Patient – The process can be long and challenging, but success comes to those who stay consistent and persistent.4️⃣ Adopt a Growth Mindset – Always be willing to learn and improve. Every rejection is a lesson that can help you get better.5️⃣ Act Like the Person You Want to Become – Whether it's how you prepare, how you show up, or how you perform, start acting like the high-level rep you aspire to be.00:00 - Start01:07 - Intro02:25 - Who Is Greg Neil06:15 - Managing Blockbuster Was My Cap09:07 - Move Into Banking12:59 - Moving Out Of Banking18:26 - Finding The Program27:28 - Beginnings Of The First Interviews38:37 - How Did Know Medical Device Sales Was The Career For You41:32 - Greg's Advice To Break Into Medical Device Sales

Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!What if the only destination for dating is marriage? Senior pastor Stephen Chandler unpacks his transformative "Relationship Roadmap" approach, challenging our modern dating culture with refreshing honesty. Stephen shares why intentionality is the missing ingredient in most failed relationships. Through vulnerable stories of his own marriage journey — from being the broke pastor who married a financially stable nurse, to learning the hard way about how his achievement-driven mindset nearly damaged his marriage — Stephen reveals why the two decisions that will define your life are what you do with God and who you choose to spend your life with. This eye-opening conversation delivers practical wisdom for anyone seeking to build a relationship that doesn't just survive but becomes the foundation for true greatness in every area of life.Order Stephen's book Relationship Road Map: Step-by-Step Directions to Finding Your SpouseOrder Stephen's book Stop Waiting for Permission: Harness Your Gifts, Find Your Purpose, and Unleash Your Personal GeniusStephen on InstagramStephen on XStephen on FacebookStephen on YouTubeStephen's websiteIn this episode you will learn:Why dating without marriage as your destination creates detours that delay your path to greatness and damages your heart along the wayHow physical intimacy clouds judgment and prevents you from recognizing relationship red flags before it's too lateThe critical difference between yellow and red flags in dating, and why your trusted community's opinion of your partner matters more than your ownWhy money problems aren't necessarily relationship dealbreakers, but a partner's unwillingness to grow absolutely isHow to create the proper balance between pursuing ambitious goals and making meaningful memories in your relationshipFor more information go to https://www.lewishowes.com/1756For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you'll love:Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts – greatness.lnk.to/1606SCPastor Michael Todd  – greatness.lnk.to/1508SCJillian Turecki – greatness.lnk.to/1740SC Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

SummaryIn this episode of the Chasing Health Podcast, Chase Smith and Chris Bealhen talk about five things that might be keeping you stuck in your health journey—even if you don't realize it. They explain how thinking you have to be perfect is hurting you more than helping. They also talk about why it's so important to trust yourself, let go of old habits, and stop chasing quick fixes. Instead of looking for hacks, they share why focusing on basic habits like sleep, steps, and food tracking will take you much further. The episode is full of real client stories and tips that can help you finally get unstuck and make progress that lasts.Chapters(00:00) New Podcast Series Structure & Listener Input(01:29) Stuck in the All-or-Nothing Mindset(03:41) The Power of 70-80% Consistency(05:21) Real Client Story: Progress Without Perfection(07:29) You Don't Trust Yourself Anymore(09:05) Shiny Objects & Not Trusting the Process(11:26) When You Can't Trust Yourself, Trust Your Coach(12:19) Rewriting Your Identity & Building Self-Belief(14:25) Breaking Emotional Ties to the Old You(16:49) Language Matters: Stop Calling Yourself a Binge Eater(17:26) Casting Votes for the Person You Want to Become(19:24) You're Chasing Hacks, Not Habits(21:39) Build the Foundation First(22:23) Long-Term Thinking: It's About More Than Weight Loss(23:49) You're Not Tracking Your Food or Progress(25:14) Misconceptions About Tracking & Why It Brings Freedom(26:20) Intentional Tracking & Client Success Story(29:59) Why Tracking Is the Key to Long-Term Change(31:22) No Data, No Direction: Why Diets Stop Working(32:22) Final Thoughts & How to Reach OutSUBMIT YOUR QUESTIONS to be answered on the show: https://forms.gle/B6bpTBDYnDcbUkeD7How to Connect with Us:Chase's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/changing_chase/Chris' Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/conquer_fitness2021/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/665770984678334/Interested in 1:1 Coaching: https://conquerfitnessandnutrition.com/1on1-coachingJoin The Fit Fam Collective: https://conquerfitnessandnutrition.com/fit-fam-collective

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  Today, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to unpack "towards moves" and "away moves" in the context of hoarding. These terms might sound unusual, but they're crucial for understanding behaviour in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and how they relate to our values. It's all about recognising whether our actions are leading us closer to what matters or pulling us further away, and we'll be exploring how to identify and pivot those choices. Introduction to Towards Moves and Away Moves Definition and explanation of the concept. The relevance of these moves in dealing with hoarding disorder. Initial thoughts on the impact of small actions. Examples in a Hoarding Context Away moves (e.g., keeping craft supplies, avoiding recognising chaos). Towards moves (e.g., donating supplies, acknowledging home environment issues). Explanation of how values influence these moves. Role of Values in Decision Making Importance of determining personal values. How values affect choices and provide motivation. Impact of materialism and societal pressures on values. Cognitive Fusion Explanation and examples of cognitive fusion. The effect of tightly held beliefs on reality and actions. Discussion of accuracy vs. helpfulness of thoughts. Flexibility vs. Rigidity and Perfectionism Psychological inflexibility and societal expectations. The struggle between personal values and societal pressures. The concept of emotional flexibility and its importance. Recognising Towards and Away Moves Strategies for acknowledging and reflecting on these moves. Importance of awareness in decision-making processes. Dopamine and Pleasure vs. Meaning The role of dopamine in pleasure and motivation. Discussion on short-term pleasure vs. long-term meaning. How these insights influence approach and avoidance behaviours. Making Changes and Addressing Moves Creating “if-then” plans to anticipate moves. Reflecting on decisions and their outcomes. Recognising patterns and using past experiences to guide future actions. Role of Helpers in Towards and Away Moves Identification and importance of helpers like goal setting and values clarification. Challenges faced by individuals with attentional deficits. Votes for the Person You Want to Be Connection between choices and self-identity. Concept of actions as votes for future selves. First Steps to Take More Towards Moves Starting with value clarification exercises. Questions to help determine what's important personally. Encouragement to explore inner motivations and experiences.

Erin Baker talks about her difficult past with her family, but how God has helped her through it. Isaiah 49:25

We've got an absolute legend on the show today, although he'd never refer to himself that way. Dr. Marshall Goldsmith, world-renowned executive leadership coach, is here today to chat with me specifically about his 2015 book Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts — Becoming the Person You Want to Be, which turns 10 years old this year. In Triggers, Marshall writes that meaningful behavior change is very hard to do, and today he explains what a trigger is and how triggers can stop behavior change from happening. Triggers, by the way, can be direct or indirect, internal or external, conscious or unconscious, anticipated or unexpected, encouraging or discouraging, productive or counterproductive. We talk today about how to identify our triggers, the path of going from a trigger to a behavior, why knowing about our triggers is so important, and if we can change our triggers, or if they're locked and loaded permanently. I spoke to Marshall soon after my father died, and we started talking about why becoming the person we want to be is such a noble pursuit. This conversation went in directions I wasn't expecting but could not be happier that they did. Marshall Goldsmith, my friends, is a legend for a reason. He is first in class, top of the heap, the best of the best. So, who is Marshall Goldsmith? In case you don't already know, Marshall is an academic and professor who held appointments at places like Dartmouth before he became a founding partner of the Marshall Goldsmith Group, an executive coaching group. Throughout Marshall's renowned career, he's worked with CEOs from over 200 companies and is credited with pioneering 360-degree feedback for leaders. He has written or edited 41 books which have sold over 2.5 million copies, been translated into 32 languages, and become bestsellers in 12 countries. Those books include, of course, Triggers, as well as What Got You Here Won't Get You There and so many others. Triggers is one of his best-known works amongst a slew of well-known titles, and today Marshall also tells us about a new AI project he's working on, and why he signs off his emails with the phrase “Life is good.” Lots to learn from this remarkable person. Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts — Becoming the Person You Want to Be by Dr. Marshall Goldsmith Make sure to check out marshallgoldsmith.ai!

Isabelle and David welcome David's brother's friend, Aaron, who, as a recently diagnosed ADHDer, brings up the idea of if ADHD is a superpower, it's like the super suit in “Greatest American Hero:” a suit given with a manual that got lost on the first day of use. What happens when you find your ‘ingredient' for doing the things you previously struggled with and now can do? How does your self esteem and sense of self efficacy impact how you handle days when that ingredient is missing? This plus being puppy dogs together, tackling Mt. Laundry, and why intimacy beats contempt.----David and Isabelle welcome Aaron, a longtime friend of David's brother, who was recently diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. In thinking about ADHD, he thinks about this show from the 1970's, “Greatest American Hero,” where this teacher is given a superpower suit by some aliens, who also give him a manual for the suit, and he loses it on the first day, so he goes around saving people but also is seeking this manual and he always gives it up to save someone. He resonated with this character so much, and for Aaron, medication made a huge difference—he is able to wake up and do the thing and then he is able to do. He's been medicated for anxiety and depression his whole life and taking medication for ADHD doesn't make those go away, but it helps him be the person he always wanted to be. Isabelle so resonates with the suit metaphor and how she and Bobby attempted to make their home more ADHD friendly (see “Keeping House While Drowning” and all the ADHD friendly home tips below!) And she forgot her medication and instead of spiraling into anxiety, when she realized why she stalled out all day, she was able to recognize it was “oh, I was missing my ingredient.”  David points out that it's not just medication, because medication is not for everyone, it can be so many things, once we find out what the ingredient is—working out in the morning, the coffee routine, whatever it might be--when you all of a sudden miss it, you can pinpoint it and recover. Even more so, Aaron describes how it is a conscious habit, as a child of the 80's, he is not about the idea of 'working on his self-esteem,' but realizes through therapy and his conversations with David that it keeps coming up for a reason, there are wounds there that do shift when you are able to do some of the things you previously struggled with. David can recognize those nasty voices in our heads, the angry voice as a teenager to get himself to do things. Based on his arbitrary math, while it takes 6 weeks to build a neurological bridge, it takes 6 years to build a habit. He chose to make excitement that it will be over the habit over the anger over having to do it. Whether it's medication or nervousness or anxiety, David recognizes that something has to stimulate him so he has to choose his path and practice it. Aaron remembers his psychologist friend Dave 20 years ago sharing the 3 paths to happiness (he was studying at the time)—the first is excitement, the second is contempt (at least temporarily), and the third is intimacy. Aaron is excitable and comes from a contemptuous family and wants to focus on intimacy. This makes Isabelle make awkward spiders with her hands, the idea of gossiping and spreading shame makes you feel reassured and safe but also brings with it a threat and temporary condition; for Isabelle, intimacy means playfulness, curiosity, a willingness to see what happens next, and as David defines it: a shared vulnerability. Aaron ordered up BRAIN STUFF, and sadly David has no links, so Isabelle tries to fill it by talking about studies that connect to how we associate the negative talk about someone with the gossiper, not the subject of the gossip. David names that he does think ADHD is a superpower with a missing manual, and the tricky part is let's say we're talking unbridled enthusiasm: it's a superpower and contagious and also has an effect on the recipient. David names being okay with someone not wanting to be the recipient at this current moment. THE THINGS WE MENTIONED:Greatest American Hero Opening Credits (Worth it to finally see where this song comes from and for the flying haphazardly imagery)How to Keep House While Drowning by KC DavisSo You've Been Publicly Shamed by Jon Ronson"Punishing or praising gossipers: How people interpret the motives behind negative gossip shapes its consequences" (source: Social and Personality Psychology Compass)-----Cover Art by: Sol VázquezTechnical Support by: Bobby Richards

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We're continuing our powerful journey of self-awareness and intentional living, as Ella and Becky Vollmer discuss the importance of pausing to assess our lives and make conscious choices. Many of us operate on autopilot, often neglecting our own needs and desires while prioritizing others. Becky shares her personal transformation, and practical strategies for identifying values and priorities, encouraging us to ask ourselves critical questions about what is truly working in our lives.

Emily Sander talks with Dr. Wayne Pernell, a bestselling author and President of Dynamic Leader, Inc., about his book "Choosing Your Power" and the themes of empowerment and personal values. Dr. Pernell discusses the shift from career success to achieving personal significance, and shares practical advice for identifying and nurturing what one truly treasures. They also cover the idea of making decisions based on the person you want to become and the importance of self-reflection and relaxation for creative thinking.Links Mentioned:Dr. Wayne Pernell's WebsiteDr. Wayne Pernell's BooksEmily's Interview with Dr. PFree Resources:Strategic Planning Checklist Chief of Staff Skills Assessment ChecklistA Day in the Life of a Chief of StaffChief of Staff ToolkitGet in touch with Emily:Connect on LinkedInFollow on YouTubeLearn more about coaching Sign up for the newsletterClarity Call with EmilyWho Am I?If we haven't yet before - Hi

This is Part II: How to generate your own momentum. Get Part I: Are You Being the Person You Want to Be?Intrinsic motivation is crucial for long-lasting change because it is self-sustaining. Ella shares 3 practical strategies to help you cultivate motivation and align your actions with your desired identity.

In this episode of the UFFDA! Podcast, hosts Jordan Rudolph and Emily Morris discuss entering the new year with a focus on health and fitness goals. They introduce the concept of 'Act As If,' which is an extension of the 'Be, Do, Have' exercise from earlier episodes. This approach encourages listeners to visualize and start acting like they've already achieved their goals to align their actions, behaviors, and mindset with their desired outcomes. The episode emphasizes intentionality, habitual changes, and creating a new identity to achieve long-term success, especially pertinent as the year transitions to 2025 and holiday traditions may challenge one's health objectives. 01:08 Introduction to 'Act As If' Concept 03:08 Visualization and Mindset 06:31 Aligning Actions with Goals 09:28 Becoming the Person You Want to Be 12:28 Commitment and Consistency Book your free Discovery Call by clicking here. Are you ready to build your confidence and take back control of your life? We know those steps are hard, which is why we offer a free Discovery Call to any and everyone looking to make a change in their journey. You'll connect with one of the professionals from Unity Fitness on a 30-minute call where we can ask questions and answer all of yours, with the intention of helping you find the perfect fit for your goals and journey (whether it's with us or someone else). Book your free Discovery Call by clicking here. PS if you or someone you know needs to talk to someone, please reach out so we can help! We are here for you! Find us on social media or send a email over to unityfitnesslacrosse@gmail.com

Who are you practicing becoming? This episode is the first in a 3-part series focusing on sustainable change through understanding self-perception.In this episode:My aversion to resolutions (00:00:00) Reframing Self-Improvement (00:01:10) The Power of Identity (00:04:32) Master Identity Shifting (00:06:01) Exploratory Ques 1 (00:09:23) Who do I want to be? Exploratory Ques 2 (00:10:36) What actions reflect my desired identity? Exploratory Ques 3 (00:11:45) Who in my life influences my identity? Practicing 'As If' (00:14:45) Is your current identity aligned with what you want? (00:20:29)

Deuce Caston is an athlete, content creator, and entrepreneur based in Tampa Bay, FL. He's run multiple half marathons and a 50K ultramarathon. He's also a former NCAA football player. In this episode, we talk about how Deuce became a full-time content creator, his journey into running, the real secret to success, tips to stay motivated, Deuce's diet and sleep routine, how to actually achieve your goals, his college football career, and so much more. FOLLOW THE PODCAST: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jeremy-miller80 SPONSORS: - Switchback Electrolytes: ⁠https://bit.ly/47Kyiyc - 2Before Endurance Powder: ⁠⁠https://2before.com/jeremy-podcast ⁠Save $10 with code JMILLER FOLLOW DEUCE: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deucegotdajuice2/ FOLLOW JEREMY: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremymille.r/ - YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jeremy.miller - Website: https://www.jeremymiller.io/ TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 Switchback [AD] 00:01:30 2Before [AD] 00:03:00 Experience at Running Man 00:06:30 Why We Run 00:11:30 Getting into Running 00:15:30 Becoming a Content Creator 00:22:30 The Secret to Success 00:26:00 College Football Career 00:36:00 Entrepreneur Failures 00:42:30 Hardest Part of Working for Yourself 00:49:00 Ways to Make Money from Content 00:52:00 Running First 50K Race 00:58:00 Hard Work is Everything 01:02:00 Deuce's Wild Diet 01:08:00 Sleep Routine & Not Relying on Devices 01:15:00 Running and Fitness Goals 01:17:00 How to Truly Become Better 01:35:00 Deuce's Why 01:40:00 Tip for Staying Motivated --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jeremy-miller80/support

Dan Dworkis: The Emergency Mind Dan Dworkis is Chief Medical Officer at The Mission Critical Team Institute. He's an emergency physician who helps individuals and teams apply knowledge under extreme pressure and perform at their best when it matters the most. He is the author of The Emergency Mind: Wiring Your Brain for Performance Under Pressure*. Every leader, at least occasionally, faces emergencies. In an emergency, the only way out is through. In this conversation, Dan and I explore the mindsets and tactics that will help us handle the most difficult situations. Key Points Emergencies are not just worse bad days. They are liminal — the only way out is through. Apply graduated pressure. Never allow suffering to be wasted. By going a bit slower, you notice where and why failures happen. Label an emergency with language that both recognizes the urgency of the situation and your faith in the team to resolve it. The room is always smarter than any one person in it. Tell people what problem they are working and your confidence level in it. Staying cool under pressure is not a fixed personality trait. You can get better by noticing and experimenting with what works for you (and doesn't) to handle high-pressure situations. Experience makes working under pressure easier, but you still need to practice for it. Notice what's effective (and not) in past and new situations before you experiment. Use situations in everyday life (a hard workout, an angry customer, getting cut off in traffic) to train yourself for responding in the toughest situations. Resources Mentioned The Emergency Mind: Wiring Your Brain for Performance Under Pressure* by Dan Dworkis Interview Notes Download my interview notes in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes How to Become the Person You Want to Be, with James Clear (episode 376) How to Build Psychological Safety, with Amy Edmondson (episode 404) How to Prevent a Team From Repeating Mistakes, with Robert “Cujo” Teschner (episode 660) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

It's time to go back to basics! In this episode, I offer the best DAILY REPS that are easy and compoundable for manifesting the life of your dreams and becoming the person we want to be. TLDR; subconscious rewiring + baby steps. We're in training, baby!  Join the Dreamaway Membership: https://haleyhoffmansmith.com/dreamaway ✨ FEELING GOOD: Vibrational Elevation Month ✨OCTOBER 2024

Ever been caught in the whirlwind of 'should I or shouldn't I?' when it comes to relationships? This episode takes a deep dive into the life-changing realization that the real question isn't about what to do, but about who you want to be. Do you want to be a jealous, anxious person or someone who trusts and opens their heart? Tune in to learn how settling your internal chaos can transform your life and relationships.00:00 Understanding Your Inner Self00:12 The Dilemma of Trust and Action00:27 Defining Your Desired Self00:50 Practicing the Person You Want to BeCheck out Abby's amazing Tedx Talk Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Asheesh Advani discusses why the old rules of leadership no longer apply—and what to do differently today. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) Why our idea of achievement needs a rework 2) Why to befriend both older and younger people 3) An under-utilized tactic for dramatically accelerating your career learning Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep986 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT ASHEESH — Asheesh Advani is the CEO of JA (Junior Achievement) Worldwide, one of the largest NGOs in the world dedicated to preparing youth for employment and entrepreneurship. During his leadership tenure, JA Worldwide has been selected annually as one of the top 10 social good organizations in the world and been nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize. Advani is also an accomplished entrepreneur, having led two venture-backed businesses from start-up to acquisition. He is an in-demand speaker and regular contributor at major conferences, having served as a panelist or moderator at the World Economic Forum, the United Nations, the Young Presidents Organization, and Fortune 500 corporate gatherings.• Book: Modern Achievement: A New Approach to Timeless Lessons for Aspiring Leaders • Book site: ModernAchievement.com • Website: JAWorldwide.org — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts--Becoming the Person You Want to Be by Marshall Goldsmith and Mark Reiter • Book: The Magic of Thinking Big by Schwartz David • Article: “Let's ‘Double-Click' on the Latest Cringeworthy Corporate Buzzword” by Te-Ping Chen and Nicholas G. Miller • Past episode: 317: How to Form Habits the Smart Way with BJ Fogg, PhD — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Jenni Kayne. Use the code AWESOME15 to get 15% off your order!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Many entrepreneurs set ambitious targets but often find themselves falling short. In this episode, we explore the REAL reason why you're not achieving your goals, unpack the underlying beliefs that might be holding you back, and provide actionable insights to help you break through these barriers. Join The Co-op - The Membership for Online Businesses Connect with Abagail Instagram All the Links! Join me as I delve into how you might be standing in your own way and offer strategies to move your business forward in alignment with your life goals. I share key mindset shifts to help reduce the pressure and constant stress that many entrepreneurs experience as their businesses scale and the goalposts keep shifting. Unfortunately, there is no one-size-fits-all roadmap for success, and self-doubt is often the biggest limitation. Luckily, by cultivating self-compassion, acting like the person you want to become, and focusing on small but consistent actions, you can overcome these hurdles! Tune in for some real-life examples and practical steps to help you transform your business, embrace the journey as an experiment, and start showing up as your best self today! Episode Highlights Reasons I'm No Longer Setting Goals for My Business. [0:02:41]  Why There's No Road Map for Success. [0:09:35] Breaking Free from the Self-Sabotage Cycle. [0:15:41] The Power of Acting like You're Already the Person You Want to Be. [0:25:10] How Worrying about Future Potential is Slowing Your Present Momentum. [0:36:39] Thank you for listening! Please subscribe, rate, and review The Strategy Hour Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated. For show notes, go to bossproject.com/podcast.

In today's episode, we discuss reconnecting with the best version of yourself, especially during challenging times. If you're on a personal growth journey and you strive to embody the person you want to be, even amidst setbacks, this episode is for you.   In this episode, you'll learn:   • Strategies for managing overwhelm and staying present   • How to embrace resilience and flexibility in daily life   • Tips for making incremental changes to connect with your best self   Connect with me: Watch the video podcast on my youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHavG19TkTk4CyLixc2UbhA Book me to speak: www.jaclyngallo.com/speaking Subscribe to my newsletter: www.jaclyngallo.com/newsletter Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jaclyntgallo Submit a question for me to answer on the podcast: forms.gle/ie4xSSDyuzdJuZe96

Do you remember the goals/intentions you set at the top of the year? How successful have you been in achieving them?? As the initial enthusiasm of the new year fades and we find ourselves in the midst of the year, it's not uncommon to realize that the goals we set at the beginning of the year might not be resonating as they once did. Whether you're experiencing a mid-year goal slump or seeking guidance on refining your desires this episode is for you!In this episode we discuss: Strategies for reevaluating and adapting your goals for continued growth + success How to work towards identity based goals as opposed to destination-oriented goals And much more! This week's gem: Saving Time: Discovering a Life Beyond the Clock by Jenny OdellHit our Homegirl Hotline…we'd love to hear from you! Call or Text us at (310) 363-1067 for advice, to share the things you're proud of, or any gems you think we'd enjoy. Support us on Patreon | Get Bravado bonus content + special discounts!Shop our Merch here!Our Sponsors:* Check out Chime: chime.com/BRAVADO* Check out Equilibria and use my code BRAVADO for a great deal: www.myeq.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BRAVADO for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out NPR: npr.org* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.com/* Check out The Wonderful Company: https://www.wonderfulpistachios.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-black-girl-bravado1502/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Another trip around the sun and I have... a lot to say. In this episode, I'm reflecting on some of the core lessons of my 28th year, including: the importance of routine, structure, and holding yourself accountable to becoming the person you want to be falling back in love with training the importance of speaking up + conflict in relationships (friendships, intimate relationships, family) being willing to say no to plans, connections, and anything that isn't a full body "fuck yes" caring less about people's negative opinions of me the beauty of healthy, peaceful love reconnecting to my creativity and rediscovering what I'm passionate about We're getting real deep and real vulnerable in this episode. Thanks fo rbeing here with me

Imagine if every tip left for a waiter, every "I love you" shared with a loved one, wasn't just a fleeting moment but a deliberate step towards the abundant life you're striving to create. I'll show you how to break free from the constraints of your current circumstances and step into the life you aspire to lead!--Links & resources:To follow more info about the podcast@levelup.debbienealCheck out my personal instagram account@debbie_nealThis Podcast is brought to you by Upstarter Pods

Acting "as if" is a therapy strategy that helps people change their habits, their emotions, and their lives. It's a simple but effective way to start creating positive change right now. And the good news is, it works for many different problems. Some of the things I share are how "acting as if" works, what issues you can target, and what sort of results you can expect. Offers From Our Sponsors Babbel - Get 50% off on a one-time payment for a lifetime Babbel subscription at Babbel.com/STRONGER Shopify - Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/mentallystronger Subscribe to Mentally Stronger Premium — Get weekly bonus episodes, monthly bonus content, and cool gifts (like signed books)! Connect with the Show Buy Amy's books on mental strength Connect with Amy on Instagram — @AmyMorinAuthor Email the show — Podcast@AmyMorinLCSW.com Order 13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don't Do Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join The Clubhouse HERE https://bit.ly/erfclubhouse Download Free Weekly Workout Program HERE https://bit.ly/weeklyworkoutserf Download 45 Free Workouts HERE https://bit.ly/strengthsystems Work With Our Team 1:1 HERE https://ericrobertsfitness.com/contact/ FREE Calorie Calculator HERE https://bit.ly/erfcalorie-calculator 20% Off Legion Athletic Supplements Code “ERIC” HERE https://bit.ly/3lrMpp7 In this episode of the Eric Roberts Fitness Podcast I dive into the mentality behind you won't always be "ready" to change. But that shouldn't stop you from going anyway. Sometimes you just need to "act" like the person you want to become in order to fully become that person. I hope this podcast helped and if it did please feel free to leave a 5 star rating and review. -E

How can you give yourself grace when you fall short of being your best self? Rabbi Yoshi Zweibeck, Senior Rabbi at Wise School, author, and musician grew up with parents who gave him unconditional love and accountability, and this has influenced his teachings and how he has led his life. He shares how to find freedom in forgiveness, how to navigate the balance of knowing your worthiness and having humility, how to see the good, and how we can be more loving towards ourselves and each other. - Join Cathy's membership cathyheller.com/quilt - Take Amy Porterfield's free masterclass on building a successful online course cathyheller.com/class - Follow Rabbi Yoshi on Instagram @rabbiyoshi and Facebook @RabbiYoshi - Listen to Search for Meaning with Rabbi Yoshi wherever you get your podcasts  - Sign up for the newsletter, member program and more at https://wisela.org/ - Our episode with Dr. Lisa Miller cathyheller.com/dr-lisa-miller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices