Podcasts about finding fertility

Send us a textIf you've ever struggled with infertility—or know someone who has—this episode will completely shift your perspective. Today, I'm joined by Monica Cox, Holistic Fertility Expert and founder of Finding Fertility, to dive deep into the often-missed root causes behind unexplained infertility.After eight long years of trying to conceive, being told it was “impossible,” and navigating failed IVF treatments, Monica discovered what conventional medicine had missed—and went on to heal her body naturally and conceive her children. Now she helps women worldwide uncover hidden roadblocks like poor cellular health, toxic load, chronic inflammation, emotional stress, and subconscious blocks that impact fertility and hormone balance.In this conversation, we discuss:•Monica's personal 8-year infertility journey—and what finally worked•Why normal fertility tests often miss the real problem•How cellular health, gut health, inflammation, and toxic load can disrupt fertility•The role of subconscious beliefs, perfectionism, and trauma in fertility struggles•How women over 35 (and in midlife) can optimize their hormones and fertility•Lifestyle shifts that support fertility without burnout•Why fertility is a vital sign for all women—not just those trying to conceive•How to better prepare the next generation for hormone and fertility healthWhether you're actively trying to conceive, planning for the future, or simply want to understand how to optimize your hormonal and cellular health — this episode is packed with hope, healing, and empowerment.Connect with Monica:

In today's soul-nourishing episode of What I Wish I Knew After Pregnancy Loss, I'm joined by Ashley Holmes — a holistic fertility coach, speaker, and mother of three — whose work centers on guiding women back into connection with their bodies, emotions, and deep inner wisdom. Ashley shares her personal fertility story, from the disempowerment of unexplained infertility to the awakening that came through practices like yoga, Ayurveda, and working with the subconscious mind. Through her own healing, she discovered that rushing wasn't the answer — stillness was. We explore: • Why rushing through the next fertility cycle can quietly work against the body • The nervous system's role in fertility, trauma, and healing • The subtle (but powerful) healing that begins when we tend to grief • Ayurveda as a tool for emotional and physical balance • How to begin trusting your body again after loss or infertility • Why healing isn't a detour — it's part of the path Ashley's presence is calm, grounding, and deeply affirming. This conversation is for you if you're feeling the pressure to keep going… but your soul is asking you to pause. Connect with Ashley: https://www.instagram.com/ashley_holmes3202/ https://www.facebook.com/ashley.holmes.3979 Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/271957647919481/?ref=share_group_link Website: https://holisticfertilitycoachinc.my.canva.site/ Health & Wellness Platform ViBLY: https://vibly.io/expert/ashleyjholmes Connect with Sharna: Apply for the Certification: Here Biz Mentorship: @instituteofhealing_pl Podcast: @pregnancyloss_podcast Loss Support & Certifications: @insitituteofhealing.losssupport Listen on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify For those seeking guidance and support, this episode is a reminder that you are not alone, and there are resources and communities ready to help you through your healing journey. Thank you for tuning in, and if you found this episode valuable, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts. We look forward to supporting you in the next episode.

Her doctor told her she couldn't get pregnant, but a surprise pregnancy proved him wrong! Today I'm sharing an interview with Monica Cox, where she shares her IVF journey and the incredible shift that happened in her fertility once she started addressing her health holistically. Follow this link to view the full show notes page! This episode is sponsored by Lisa's new book Real Food for Fertility, co-authored with Lily Nichols! Grab your copy here!  Would you prefer to listen to the audiobook version of Real Food for Fertility instead?

"I sabotage everything for myself and I get in my own way. Even knowing that I can not stop it."

"The shift from chasing to trusting is the real work. It's easy to stay in a loop of doing more research, more protocols, more control. But remember, the real magic is when you stop overcompensating and start trusting yourself." Topics Discussed The surprising fear of success in fertility and how it keeps you stuck Why your brain might see pregnancy as another way to fail instead of freedom The deep-rooted programming that keeps you addicted to “doing” instead of “being” How unworthiness and identity play a major role in fertility struggles Breaking the habit of seeking validation through achievement Why anxiety over fertility can escalate into pregnancy anxiety (and how to prevent it) The three powerful questions to ask yourself to shift out of fear and into trust "If you deep down don't believe you deserve to become a mother, you'll subconsciously create obstacles to prevent it." Truth # 4: The Hidden Block to Fertility Success: Overcoming Suppressed Emotions During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-z2s2n-18073a4 Truth # 3: The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVFhttps://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ywdwv-17ea0ee  Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a Hello, Beautiful! Monica here, and today we're diving into a mind-bending, slightly uncomfortable (but wildly important) topic—FEAR OF SUCCESS. Yep, you read that right. Not fear of failure. Fear of actually getting what you want. Sounds crazy, right? I mean, isn't the whole point of this journey to become pregnant? But let's be real—your brain has been so busy obsessing over the struggle, the next supplement, the next protocol, the next thing—that the idea of finally crossing the finish line is, well… TERRIFYING. Because what happens when you're no longer the one “trying”? What happens when you do get pregnant? Your subconscious is sneaky like that. It convinces you that staying in the hamster wheel of research and control is saferthan stepping into the unknown of success. Because success means transformation. It means surrender. And let's be honest—Type-A, overachieving, Google-addicted Mabel is not a fan of surrender. In this episode, Monique is rolling her eyes at Mabel's overthinking, Monica is here to gently guide the way, and YOU are going to uncover whether fear of success is secretly sabotaging your journey. You'll also get three game-changing questions to sit with (preferably under a tree, because let's add some nature to the healing process, shall we?). So, if you've been stuck in doing instead of trusting, if pregnancy feels just as scary as infertility, or if your brain has ever whispered “What if I mess this up?”—this episode is your wake-up call. Let's break the cycle and step into the version of you who is ready to receive. "For so long, you have been the woman who's trying. That's who you are. That's how you relate to yourself, your partner, your doctors. The idea of not being her anymore? That can feel like a loss—even though it's what you want more than anything." Three Questions to Help You Move Past the Fear of Success Why do I feel more comfortable being the woman who is trying rather than being the woman who is pregnant? If I stop chasing and just trust, who even am I? What does that version of me look and feel like? How do I let go of the identity of the one who is trying when I've been living in it for so long? Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome to Finding Fertility! Let's talk about the sneaky fear of success. 01:33 – Why getting pregnant might feel scarier than failing (subconscious sabotage 101) 02:56 – “What if I don't deserve this?” How unworthiness keeps you stuck 04:26 – The real reason you can't stop doing (and why sitting under a tree might help) 06:23 – Mabel's lesson on repeating the same old patterns in fertility 07:19 – The 3 questions you need to ask yourself today 08:34 – If you stop chasing and start trusting… who even are you? 10:00 – The science behind stress in pregnancy (aka, get that cortisol down NOW) 11:29 – Letting go of the identity of the “woman who's trying” 12:56 – How to shift into the version of you that's ready to receive "The magic is in the mundane. When you feel that anxiety bubbling up, the real work is sitting in the uncomfortableness of not doing." I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you're feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation. ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn't Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-infertility-chasing-to-fertile-trusting-the-real-mindset-shift-for-fertility-success  Let's Do This Together

Truth # 3 Mable's Hustle Trap: Put the To-Do List Down: What Are You Running From? When Productivity Becomes a Coping Mechanism Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVF  "If you've been in this fertility journey, you have probably had a spreadsheet for everything." Topics Discussed The addiction to busyness & why it keeps you stuck in your fertility journey Why we equate doing more with progress (and why that's a lie) How avoiding stillness is actually avoiding healing The subconscious patterns that drive over-researching and over-planning How Mabel, Monica & Monique tackle the obsession with control What happens when you finally slow down and listen to your intuition The role of stress, cortisol, and burnout in fertility struggles Why busyness is often a form of emotional avoidance The mindset shifts needed to embrace trust and surrender Practical steps to break free from the cycle of overdoing "Busyness isn't always about progress. Sometimes it's just a fancy disguise for avoidance."   Hello, beautiful- Monica here, and today we are about to RUIN your addiction to busyness—in the best way possible. You see, I know you. You're the type who has an ovulation tracking spreadsheet, a supplement rotation schedule, and a fertility research folder so detailed that even a NASA scientist would be impressed. And hey, I was that girl too. But let's be real for a second—how's that working out for you? Monique is rolling her eyes SO HARD at Mabel today because, spoiler alert, Mabel thinks if she just does more, she'll fixher fertility struggles. Sound familiar? But what if doing more is actually the problem? What if your obsession with figuring it all out is the very thing standing in your way? Today, we're diving into why busyness is often just a sneaky way to avoid the real emotional work. Why sitting still feels terrifying. Why slowing down might be your biggest act of healing yet. Oh, and if you think this episode is gonna be all soft and fluffy, don't worry—Monique is here with some tough love (and a few hard truths you probably don't want to hear but absolutely need to). And because I love making things super practical, I'm giving you a little challenge at the end: Five minutes of stillness. No distractions, no research, no checking your fertility apps. Just you, sitting with yourself. Scary, right? That's the point. So grab your tea (or let's be real, your third cup of coffee), and let's get into it. "If you don't give yourself permission to slow down, your body will do it for you." Timestamps 00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast 00:10 - The real work of uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey 00:37 - Why radical responsibility is key to getting pregnant 00:51 - Disclaimer: Finding Fertility empowers, not diagnoses 01:15 - Recap: Did you listen to my episodes with Tally Miller? 01:44 - Grounding meditation: Releasing the addiction to busyness 07:19 - Are you addicted to busyness? Let's talk about it 07:49 - The fertility journey spreadsheet life (yep, we've all been there) 08:17 - What happens when you STOP trying to fix everything? 10:38 - The illusion of control & why Mabel is struggling 11:05 - Monique calls out the hustle culture in fertility 12:27 - The subconscious patterns keeping you stuck in overdoing 14:54 - What happens when you finally slow down & listen to your body 17:05 - IVF as a bypass for deeper healing (let's get real) 19:29 - Healing requires space, not just more action 21:25 - The hardest thing to surrender: The way you've been living 23:49 - My personal story: Quitting my job & shifting priorities 25:17 - Three journal prompts to help you break free from busyness 26:41 - Monique's take: Stuffing down emotions isn't a long-term strategy 27:40 - Your challenge: 5 minutes of stillness—no distractions 28:08 - Your default energy is running the show (not your yoga practice) 29:28 - Closing thoughts & next week's deep dive into emotional baggage "Repressed feelings don't stay repressed. They just get passive-aggressive—like resentment toward your partner for breathing too loudly." I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you're feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation. ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn't Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-impact-of-overworking-stress-on-your-fertility-during-infertility-ivf   Let's Do This Together

Uncovering the Hidden Layers of Your Fertility Journey: Radical Responsibility, Intuition & Trust Welcome back, conscious mamas-to-be! In this week's Finding Fertility podcast, I take you behind the scenes of what it really takes to navigate your fertility journey with radical responsibility, trust, and deep surrender. "Your body is time-based, your spirit is timeless. If you don't integrate healing into the body, it doesn't stick." The Addiction to Busyness: How high-achieving women tie self-worth to staying busy and the impact on fertility. Deep Surrender & Letting Go: Why releasing control is the hardest yet most powerful step in the fertility journey. Patterns & Quantum Psychology: The role of pattern recognition in identifying emotional and subconscious blocks. Inner Work vs. External Fixes: How true transformation comes from within, not just more information. The Feminine Wound & Burnout: Why so many women are exhausted and how embracing feminine energy is the key. Energy Medicine & Quantum Healing: Bridging psychology, spirituality, and energy work to heal from the inside out. Spiritual Detours & Avoidance: The danger of chasing external validation through plant medicine, psychedelics, and endless courses. The Power of Integration: Why embodying healing is more important than constantly seeking the next thing. Surrendering to True Leadership: The deep desire for strong, grounded masculine energy and why many women struggle with it. "If you actually tune into the energy of the universe, you'll see that guiding a soul is the highest level mastery position you could have as a woman." Hello, Beautiful - Monica here to shake things up, ruffle some feathers, and most importantly, get you to stop overthinking yourself into infertility hell. This episode? It's personal. I'm talking about the addiction to busyness—something I know way too well. I built my entire business off of it, and guess what? It wasn't sustainable. We're diving into patterns, surrender, and why you might be subconsciously blocking your own success—not just in fertility but in life. And because I'm all about keeping it real, I'm not just talking theory here. I'm sharing my own struggles of letting go, especially when life threw me into deep surrender with my father's passing. (Spoiler: The universe doesn't let you fake it.) But wait, it gets juicier. I'm also bringing you part one of an epic conversation with my mentor, Talie Miller. This woman reads patterns for a living, and trust me, she has a gift. If you've ever felt like you're doing ALL the things but still stuck, this episode is a must-listen. We also tackle the wild world of quantum psychology, energy medicine, and why some of the most popular self-development spaces are basically cults (yep, I said it). And for my Type-A ladies who are trying to “fix” themselves into pregnancy? Oof. You might not love hearing this, but you cannot logic your way into surrender. So buckle up, because we're talking intuition, feminine energy, the illusion of control, and why women secretly want strong masculine leadership (but won't admit it). Oh, and I'll probably get canceled for saying some of this, but Monique and I are fine with that. "You can clear your energy all you want, but until your body understands the assignment, nothing changes." Connect with Talie Miller: https://taliemiller.com/ https://www.instagram.com/taliemiller https://substack.com/@taliemiller Is this all there is?: Awaken to a Deeper Life off of Amazon: https://amzn.to/4hty8ja Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome & Why This Episode Almost Didn't Happen 01:20 – The Addiction to Busyness & How It's Shown Up in My Own Life 03:06 – Introducing My Mentor, Tali Miller & Why I Love Her Work 04:59 – Why Type-A Women Struggle With Surrender & Stillness 07:25 – What Quantum Psychology Really Is & Why It Matters 12:30 – The Dangers of Spiritual Detours (and Yes, Plant Medicine Too) 17:01 – Emotional Neglect & Why It's Harder to Heal Than Big Trauma 20:23 – The Role of the Body in Healing & Why It's Ignored 26:10 – The Importance of Staying in Your Body for True Healing 32:16 – Feminine Energy, Masculine Leadership & Why We're Burnt Out 36:38 – Motherhood as a Sacred Calling vs. A Box to Check Off 38:05 – Wrapping Up: Next Week's Episode & Why You Need to Be There "Your body is time-based, your spirit is timeless. If you don't integrate healing into the body, it doesn't stick." Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/is-your-infertility-ivf-journey-just-another-way-you-re-feeding-your-addiction-to-busyness-with-talie-miller Let's Do This Together

Overthinking, Worry & Fear: How Mabel Found Peace in Her Thoughts:  Topics Discussed The difference between rumination and overworrying and how they impact fertility Tools to interrupt overthinking patterns and create new neural pathways The illusion of control and why overthinking doesn't create solutions Why your age isn't the true fertility villain—cellular health matters more The importance of slowing down and creating space for healing How consistent, simple practices can rewire decades of ingrained thought patterns Mabel and Monique's late-night showdown over age anxiety and overthinking Second Top Quote "Stop fighting time and start working with it." Hello, beautiful—Monica here, your guide in uncovering what really matters on your fertility journey. In this episode, we dive into the chaotic storm that is overthinking—you know, that exhausting mental loop where you rehearse every worst-case scenario like you're auditioning for an Oscar. Spoiler: your mind doesn't actually get a trophy for all that drama. With the help of my unapologetically sassy alter-ego Monique (yes, she's back and fiercer than ever) and my ever-panicked former self, Mabel, we unpack the evil twins of rumination and overworrying. Mabel's spinning out over her age again, convinced the universe slapped an expiration date on her forehead. But don't worry—Monique's got her metaphorical megaphone and some hard truths to share. This episode isn't about magic fixes or fairy dust; it's about showing up for yourself in those unglamorous, mundane moments. We're talking about the simple, powerful shift of saying, “We don't live here anymore” when your brain starts building castles out of what-ifs. And guess what? If you're obsessing over the clock ticking, Monique has some spicy words for you—because your age isn't the real villain here. It's time to ditch the chaos, embrace clarity, and trust your body's ability to work with you, not against you. Grab your tea, your notebook, or just a cozy spot to listen—you don't want to miss this one. And if you catch yourself spiraling into overthinking after this? Well, you'll know exactly what to say: “Babe, we don't live here anymore.” "Overthinking doesn't create control—it creates chaos." Timestamps 00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast 00:10 - Introduction to the six essential steps for your fertility journey 00:37 - Radical responsibility: Trusting your body and creating transformation 01:19 - A grounding meditation to release overthinking 03:00 - Visualization: Letting the river carry away your thoughts 06:26 - Affirmation for calm energy and self-trust 07:39 - Why overthinking feels safe but creates chaos 08:08 - Mabel and Monique's showdown: Overthinking at midnight 13:44 - The difference between rumination and overworrying 15:10 - Tools to interrupt rumination and over worrying 18:19 - Monica's personal journey with overthinking and consistency 20:36 - The addiction to control and how it keeps you stuck 21:35 - Preview of next week's episode: Slowing down and creating space for healing "Slowing down and sitting with your feelings is where true healing begins." ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn't Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-overcome-overthinking-worry-fear-during-infertility-ivf-2 Let's Do This Together

"Your baby is watching over you, rooting for you to take the steps to become the conscious mama they know you can be." Topics Discussed The concept of the morphic field and how it applies to fertility Balancing surrender and control on the fertility journey Why healing requires more than physical effort—energetic alignment and belief systems matter Stories of clients shifting perspectives and embracing empowered choices Overcoming societal pressures and Type A tendencies to let go and trust the process The importance of energetic and subconscious shifts for fertility success "Surrendering doesn't mean giving up. It means letting go of fear-based decisions and stepping into empowered choices." Hello, beautiful, Monica here, serving up another soulful—and slightly sassy—dose of Finding Fertility wisdom. Buckle up because this episode isn't about what your ovaries are doing; it's about what your mind is doing. Let's talk morphic fields, baby! No, it's not sci-fi—it's science-y magic for your belief system. Morphic field: https://www.sheldrake.org/research/morphic-resonance/introduction Today, we dive into why letting go of control doesn't mean waving the white flag of defeat. Surrendering is actually your secret weapon to crushing Type A tendencies and opening the door to energetic alignment (and let's be real, less stress). Spoiler alert: fertility isn't just about diet and supplements—it's about stepping into the energy of possibility. I also share stories of clients who've stopped living in the land of "medical-only hope" and started listening to their intuition. If you've been throwing darts in the dark or feel like every doctor visit is a round of fertility roulette, this episode is your flashlight. So grab your coffee, your tea, or whatever makes you feel like the goddess you are, and let's get to it! "Your consistent action creates your evidence. You don't need proof to believe in your limitless potential." Timestamps 00:00 – Visualization exercise: Imagine your dream family and align with joy, peace, and love 00:28 – The six vital steps for fertility success: Diet, rest, energetics, awareness, mindset, and surrender 02:22 – Understanding the morphic field: Believing in your body's natural ability to heal 04:10 – Why belief systems are key to overcoming infertility blocks 06:07 – Real client stories: Intuition vs. fear-based decisions in fertility journeys 09:49 – How to shift from control to surrender without losing hope 13:27 – Energetic lessons and how they impact your fertility journey 17:49 – Why starting over isn't starting from scratch—it's starting smarter 20:33 – Closing thoughts: Stepping into the energy of possibility "Your body is a healing machine, designed to reset and thrive when you align with its natural flow." Let's Do This Together

What Testing Should I Do During Infertility – Investing in Fertility Testing: Is it Worth It? "Remember, anytime you're looking into testing, ask yourself if it's the right test for you and if it brings you peace of mind." Topics Discussed:

Crucial Tips for Choosing Protein Powder - Fertility Shakes vs. Real Food During Infertility & IVF “When you do use a protein shake, you want to have something alongside that you can eat to help start the digestive process.” Topics Discussed:

"Infertility" - Why It's Easy for Some and Not Others to Get and Stay Pregnant  “Some people succeed with free resources because they're able to get crystal clear and take action independently.” Topics Discussed:

Healing Emotional Patterns and Strengthening Partnerships on the Fertility Journey "The baby is the cherry on top; everything you choose to shift is for long-term well-being." Topics Discussed:

How to Transform Your Breakfast& Mindset for Fertility Success "Live in the reality that there is an abundance of things you can do to shift out of that reality you don't want to be in." Topics Discussed:

Boosting Fertility with Real Food: Essential Nutrients, Ancestral Diets, and Male Fertility with Lisa Hendrickson-Jack Part Two “Fertility isn't something you fix; it's the result of whole-body wellness, a balance of mental, emotional, and physical health.” Topics Discussed:

Understanding Real Food for Fertility: Nutrient Needs, Food Sensitivities, and Cycle Health with Lisa Hendrickson-Jack Part One "If you're trying to conceive, you need a diet that supports optimal hormone balance and menstrual health." Topics Discussed:

AMH and High NK Cells Don't Dictate Your Fertility Future: The Real Truth About Infertility & IVF “If you have never gotten pregnant or are dealing with reoccurring miscarriages or even dealing with secondary infertility, the likelihood of knowing you have high natural killer cells, and the likelihood of you getting and staying pregnant soon is low without all the medical assistance.” Topics Discussed:

Top Secret You Need to Know to Have a Fertility Breakthrough & Get Pregnant “The real core of actually seeing the results of your body being able to do it lies in the work you're probably avoiding.” Topics Discussed:

Overcome Infertility: An Honest Raw Talk About the Healing Work You're Avoiding "Avoidance and denial might feel comfortable, but they'll keep you from reaching your goals." Topics Discussed:

Finding the Root Cause of Recurrent Miscarriages – Increasing Your Chances of a Health Pregnancy  "Your fertility struggles might not be about what's wrong with your reproductive system, but what's happening in your gut and adrenals." Topics Discussed:

Learning to Release Anger & Forgive During Infertility to Achieve Your Dream Family "I hope you heal so deeply that you no longer feel the need to make sense of what happened." Topics Discussed:

Unlocking Your Power: A Guide to Fertility Success "You need to be willing to step outside the box, take risks, and believe that you can change your situation through diet, mental and emotional health, sleep, exercise, and mindset." Topics Discussed:

The Truth About Dairy & Gluten When You're Dealing with Infertility & IVF "The perfect diet for you is simply finding what foods you're intolerant to right now." Topics Discussed:

Creating Your Reality: Insights on Mindfulness, Soul Contracts and Growth During Infertility & IVF "The true magic lies in taking the knowledge and vibrations handed to you and rising to create your reality." Topics Discussed:

On today's episode of The Wholesome Fertility Podcast, I welcome back Rosanne Austin @rosanneaustinfertility. Rosanne has been on my podcast before, so if you want to hear her backstory, you can check out our first conversation on Episode 216. In our conversation, Rosanne shared her Fearlessly Fertile Live World Tour and her upcoming book, The Feminine Fertility Cure. She shares her motivation for going on the tour and the impact it has had on women. Rosanne explains the importance of reconnecting with femininity for fertility and discusses the historical context of the masculinization of women.Her book aims to educate women about the masculine and feminine energies and how they relate to fertility. The conversation explores the paradigm of progress and success that has been ingrained in society, emphasizing the importance of education, financial independence, and career achievements. It discusses how this paradigm has influenced women's choices and perceptions of femininity. The conversation also highlights the need for women to reconnect with their feminine nature and desires, and how this can positively impact fertility. It addresses the societal pressure on women to conform to a masculine ideal and the negative impact it has had on women's happiness and fertility rates. Rosanne shares practical steps for women to tap into their feminine power and improve their fertility.     Takeaways The Fearlessly Fertile Live World Tour allowed Rosanne Austin to connect with women in person and witness the impact of her work. The book, The Feminine Fertility Cure, explores the historical context of the masculinization of women and educates women about the importance of reclaiming their feminine nature for fertility. Reconnecting with femininity is crucial for fertility. Feminism should be about equal rights for men and women, including the right for women to choose to stay feminine. The paradigm of progress and success has influenced women's choices and perceptions of femininity. Reconnecting with feminine nature and desires can positively impact fertility. Societal pressure to conform to a masculine ideal has negatively affected women's happiness and fertility rates.     Guest Bio:    Rosanne Austin, JD, PCC, received her coaching training from the honored Coaches Training Institute in San Rafael, California. She is certified by and a member of the International Coach Federation, which is the leader in professional training, standards, and ethics for coaching professionals. Rosanne is also a proud member of California State Bar. She received her Juris Doctorate from University of the Pacific, McGeorge School of Law, where she was on the Dean's List and received the Witkin Award in Expert and Scientific Evidence. She also holds a Bachelor of Arts in History from San Francisco State University, graduating Summa Cum Laude.   Rosanne's professional background has given her the honor and opportunity to directly impact thousands of people's lives, at a time when they were vulnerable, fearful, heartbroken, and at a crossroads.   Rosanne is the author of 3 bestselling books and her work has been featured on leading podcasts such as The Doctor Mom Podcast, Infertility in the City, The Wholesome Fertility Podcast, Infertile AF, Finding Fertility, The Hormone Puzzle Podcast, The Egg Whisperer Show. She has also had leading fertility experts such as Dr. Zaher Merhi, Dr. Aimee Eyvazzadeh, Dr. Robert Kiltz, and Dr. Christiane Northrup on her top 1% Fearlessly Fertile Podcast.   When she is not writing, mentoring, speaking, teaching, leading her transformational events and programs, or loving on her husband and son, Rosanne gives back by serving organizations committed to providing resources to survivors of Human Trafficking and for the protection of abused/abandoned dogs and cats.   https://www.frommaybetobaby.com https://www.instagram.com/rosanneaustinfertility/       For more information about Michelle, visit: www.michelleoravitz.com   Check out Michelle's latest book here: https://www.michelleoravitz.com/thewayoffertility   The Wholesome FertilityFacebook group is where you can find free resources and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2149554308396504/   Instagram: @thewholesomelotusfertility   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thewholesomelotus/     Transcript:     Michelle (00:00) Welcome back to the podcast, Rosanne.   Rosanne Austin (00:03) Thanks for having me, Michelle! Such a good place to be!   Michelle (00:07) Yes, so excited to have you back. know I love you if I have you this many times back to the podcast. So I want to talk about your upcoming book that is coming out, The Feminine Fertility Cure. But I also want to talk about maybe before that, your tour that you just   Rosanne Austin (00:20) Yes.   Michelle (00:29) had but are continuing soon.   Rosanne Austin (00:31) Yes. Yeah. Well, so this so we started this year in March. We started the Fearlessly Fertile Live World Tour, which is kind of hilarious because I I was thinking to myself it was last October when this idea came to mind. So October 2023. And then we start all of the stuff that goes into it by January 2024. So I'm a pretty quick mover.   like, want to make a decision. let's just go on a world tour. And it was funny because the thought behind all this leading up to the book and everything else that I'm doing right now was a desire to really connect, to connect with the women who love the work that I do or who are curious or maybe just starting their fertility journey. But I was pretty sick of sitting behind my computer.   Michelle (01:00) You are, man.   Rosanne Austin (01:28) and being just disconnected, right? Like you and I both know because we're cool and we do this work is that we know we're energetically we're connected, but I think there's something dramatically different and rich and really colorful and just super interesting about connecting with people in person.   Michelle (01:28) Hmm.   Rosanne Austin (01:51) And so I just said, fuck it, let's go do this. And I'm like, I don't know how to do it world tour, but I do know how to travel. So the team and I just sat down together and kind of mapped out the cities where we thought we could have the most impact. And we just started traveling. So it's not like I had any experience prior to actually doing it, but I think doing it is the best possible teacher. So we started on the West coast of the United States. We did San Francisco, LA.   San Diego, and then we went on to the East Coast where we did DC, New York, New York City, and then we went up to Buffalo, because interestingly enough, I have a sizable audience in Buffalo, New York, and then we went to Toronto and Montreal. And all of those locations were just fantastic, just getting to hug my ladies, hold their babies, and really see the   fruit of what I put out in the world, but more importantly, how women take that message, apply it to their own lives, and are creating these insane results. So it was from the East Coast. We came home to Texas for a couple weeks and then got back out on the road and we started in Europe in May. So we did, my gosh, it feels like.   It was just a few weeks ago, it feels like, you know, we got back on June 3rd, but we were in Florence, Paris, London, Manchester, Birmingham, and we're in Edinburgh. And then it, yeah, it was like, boom, boom, boom, boom. tell ya. But it was great, you know, when we were filming the whole thing, our intention is to complete a documentary.   Michelle (03:33) That's awesome.   Rosanne Austin (03:43) on the work that I do and the impact and all of that good stuff to really inspire women to look beyond their current circumstances and stay focused on their vision for their lives because I met so many women along the way, some women that I had never met, some women who I just read the book or some women who were just listening to the podcast that were creating such crazy results.   And it's hard to wrap your head around. So that was also like, that was part of the intention was to get back into the trenches, but it was also to see and assess for myself what the impact could be so that I could get better at what I do. So I can really see, you know, how can I take this to the next level? How can I serve at a higher level or what the vision might be? So it's been wild. It's been really crazy. And actually,   Michelle (04:17) and then.   Rosanne Austin (04:38) At the time of this recording in a couple of weeks, I'll be in Chicago. And then we have a few dates in here in Texas. And then January, we're looking at New Zealand, Australia, Singapore, or Dubai. So it's a legit world tour. Yeah.   Michelle (04:52) love that. my god, that is just so freaking, And I love your dedication. I know you talk about like hundreds of thousands of women that you're gonna like help them conceive. I don't know if it already happened. I don't like at this point. But I know that you really have such a passion about spreading this message and empowering so many women, so many couples and   How did you decide on the locations, first of all? Did you do it based on like a survey of some people like knowing where they live or the audience?   Rosanne Austin (05:27) Well, you know, it was kind of, it was sort of both where I'm like, I'm looking at, okay, what are the major metropolitan areas? And so it wasn't like, it was strategic from that point, but it also had to be cities I was interested in going to. Like if I'm not interested, I don't go. And if I'm not interested, my energy's low, I can't, you know, because the energy in the room.   Michelle (05:40) Yeah.   I can't imagine your energy being low because I feel like you're so aligned you would never do anything that wouldn't be.   Rosanne Austin (05:52) Yeah, well, I mean, but that's kind of part of it is that, you know, but the energy like that that I was getting from being in all of these different places. And it was because I consciously chose them and was excited about them. And the women showed up like it was it was really cool. It was really, really cool to see and to watch that growth and and really   Michelle (06:09) Amazing.   Rosanne Austin (06:22) You know, because it's kind of funny because I still see myself as you know that former prosecutor with this just this idea. But it you know, so many years later, it's not just an idea. It's an actual movement. It's a phenomenon. So it was exciting and it was such a gift. It was very humbling. I would say is another thing that came up. It was very humbling to see how when women make a decision and how when women are really committed to the dream.   Michelle (06:36) Mm -hmm.   Rosanne Austin (06:51) that they can make anything happen. I mean, I sat there with women who had been told so many different times and in so many different ways that having a baby was impossible. I mean, women who had stillbirths, women who had devastating losses, second trimester losses that were in the room holding babies. I mean, it was breathtaking. And I don't think I have fully processed it, like, because I'm always on the go. I'm always like,   Michelle (07:07) Okay.   Wow.   Rosanne Austin (07:21) kind of moving through to the next project. But it was, you know, when I have quiet moments, which I do have, but when I sit and really think of the enormity of it, it's extremely humbling and it's a real testament to the human spirit. I mean, that's, I mean, the reason why I do this work is, you know, one, I find it exciting and I love learning. I'm a perpetual student. I love keeping my edge sharp.   Michelle (07:38) I love that.   Rosanne Austin (07:48) But it's also like, I really love watching these women wake up to their own power, because that's at the essence of what I do.   Michelle (07:56) Oof.   I love that. I love that. And I think that that's why I love you so much. I truly do because I feel I could really relate to that because it's just it's freaking amazing. There's nothing like it because people do have power. I think that seeing people not know that they have that is painful. And you want to make sure that everybody that you really come into contact realizes just how powerful they are.   So I'm sure based on what you're telling me that you have some incredible stories. So if anything jumps out, I would love to hear about it.   Rosanne Austin (08:37) Yeah, yeah, no, I mean, but we share that commonality in the work that we do is that it is the essence of what we're doing is trying to well, and I only try to wake up people that want to be awake. So much like you. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Much like you is that when the student is ready, the teacher appears. And that's what we're there to do based on our expertise, our training, our background, our commitment.   Michelle (08:51) Mm -hmm. You have to. You can't. You can't force it.   Rosanne Austin (09:07) we come in and we say, hey, there is another way. And let me show you this modality. And you know, because that's, people have to understand that fertility is like a mosaic. They are all these different pieces. And no matter how you arrange those pieces, you are always the foundation. You are always the glue that keeps everything together. So when you are not aligned or when you have a belief system that keeps you stuck repeating old patterns, then,   It doesn't matter. It's funny, we were talking about this earlier, but you can't out supplement, you can't out yoga, you cannot out treat a belief that says you can't have what you want or you're not worthy of what you want. Or that you have no power, essentially. I mean, because it's all lies. I mean, think about what we were talking about before about the energy in our bodies, the meridians, all these things. When we were talking about your book, like,   Michelle (09:56) Yeah.   Rosanne Austin (10:05) It is the essence of saying you have the power. So anything that separates you from that reality is no good. So this work is really about coming back to understanding that you are the foundation. Once you have that foundation and then you add the beauty of what you do or the beauty of what other people do and medicine and all these other things, you can get to a place where...   Michelle (10:09) Yeah.   Rosanne Austin (10:31) you realize that you're making these things that you want, you're making them your reality. Baby, home, car, profession, all of these things that come together to create a really full life. So it's, yeah, it's pretty cool. It's pretty cool shit.   Michelle (10:46) I just had a vision in my head as you were telling me that of like a computer. You can have like state of the art parts and everything put together, but if the program is not installed, that is going to help you get from A to Z.   Rosanne Austin (11:01) Yeah, no, that's a beautiful metaphor. That's like the perfect metaphor. I'm gonna borrow that. I'm gonna borrow it. I'm gonna say thank you, Michelle Orovitz for this amazing visual here because it fucking makes sense. Yeah.   Michelle (11:06) Take it, take it, it's a gift. Yes. Yeah.   And physical parts itself is doing all the things, out supplementing and all of that for sure. And so let's talk, I'm very excited to talk about this, the feminine fertility cure. tell us everything.   Rosanne Austin (11:29) Duh.   okay. So this this book is many, many years in the making. So and it actually Yes, yes, yes. Well, and it was funny because I actually can thank Chinese medicine for this because when I was on my own journey, I had no idea I was stuck in my masculine or my yang as you would say it. And   Michelle (11:38) Those are always the best ones.   Rosanne Austin (12:00) I thought I was kind of a weirdo. I just thought, you know what, I got this problem. Like I'm not able to receive, on the exterior, I'm, you know, yeah, I'm feminine. I wear makeup, I got cute clothes, I get my nails done and all that. I had all the physical outward trappings of femininity, but my energy was decidedly masculine. Now I was starting to ask questions about why that was.   At first I thought, well, it's just my profession. As a prosecutor, it's decidedly masculine profession. You have to armor up. You're going into a courtroom, possibly with a homicidal maniac or a serial rapist. You gotta have your armor up. But what I found out is that the armor was never coming off. And as I started, when I got on my journey and then I started teaching other women what I had learned and then I left my work as a prosecutor,   and really went full throttle into what I do, I started seeing a pattern that a lot of other women I was serving also had this problem with a disconnection to their femininity. And I observed it for a while and I'm like, okay, let me just take note of this. Let me just take note. And...   Michelle (13:12) Yeah.   Rosanne Austin (13:19) I was like, well, there's something to this, you know, this idea of conceiving is all about receiving. And if we're stuck in our masculine and disconnected from our feminine, how the hell are we ever gonna receive from our partner and conceive? So I really started to take note. And because I serve such lovably type A recovering control, freaky professional women, you know, at the top of their game who are primarily in more   Michelle (13:32) Yeah.   Rosanne Austin (13:49) masculine professions, it, so many of us get stuck and I'm like, well, how the fuck do we get unstuck? And then I started to work through that. I looked at what I was doing. How was I reconnecting with my feminine? And I'm like, okay, so let me take what I learned, start teaching it. Let me start studying more. Let me explore more of this feminine. So when I started incorporating this kind of work into what I was doing, I saw the results skyrocket.   Michelle (13:56) Mm -hmm.   Mmm.   Rosanne Austin (14:18) within women to help them reconnect to the feminine. But what was more interesting and the questions that I started answering with this book, The Feminine Fertility Cure, was where the hell did this start? Because you don't just have a couple generations of women completely disconnected to their feminine. Where did this start? So I started doing research, and this is where it gets super interesting. I'm like,   Michelle (14:40) Hmm.   Rosanne Austin (14:46) If you look, and I only speak about the United States because that's where I live, that's what I know, that's a culture I was raised in. But if you look at what has happened to women ever since the women's movement, it's actually quite shocking. And through the research and watching it myself and being caught up in it myself, we really got this message that   since the women's movement in the 1960s, I use in my book, the Kennedy administration as kind of this line of demarcation that post the Kennedy administration in the United States, there was a concerted effort to masculinize women, to take us away from our feminine nature. And we were sold, well, I don't really call it sold, I call it a fucking scam. In my book, we were scammed out of our femininity because what we were told is that, yeah, get out in the workplace, you know,   get yourself out of the shackles of domesticity and you're gonna be free. But what was really happening was a systematic masculinization. So we were taken away from our feminine nature and told that you have to work hard, you have to dress like a man, you have to pack up your emotions, you have to conform, separate yourself from your spirituality.   Michelle (15:48) Okay.   Rosanne Austin (16:08) and femininity is weak, we started to see all of these things that if you wanted to be a successful woman who represents progress, be more like a man. And the data's undeniable. It's undeniable. Like, because you think about it, and of course, I went into a profession that, as like I said before, as a prosecutor is very masculine. There's nothing feminine about anything that you're doing there.   And when you spend long enough in that masculine mode, you get disconnected from the feminine. You don't even know what it is. Like, you'd be surprised, Michelle, how many physicians, surgeons, lawyers, engineers that I work with, like when I say the feminine, there's like this giant question mark over their head, like what? You know, but when you look at some of the propaganda that we were fed as   Michelle (16:45) Hmm.   Rosanne Austin (17:05) you know, anyone born post Kennedy administration. The idea was, is that in order for you to be free and to have progress, you got to go into life in a certain way and it's decidedly masculine. So what this book is about is educating women about basically how that happened, educating about what the masculine is, what the feminine is, how it directly connects to fertility because   Michelle (17:34) Yeah.   Rosanne Austin (17:34) I don't care what anyone says. Having a baby is the most fucking feminine thing you will ever do. And this is why trying to do it from young in your terms or like a man in mine, I watch women try to get pregnant like a man all the time and men don't get pregnant, okay? We as women do. And when you're trying to do a decidedly feminine thing like a man, you find yourself with problems. And another thing about   Michelle (17:47) Mm -hmm.   Rosanne Austin (18:04) The masculine, which, and I've got nothing on the masculine. I've got no complaint because the masculine and the feminine work synergistically. You and I know this. One is not better than the other. That's not what I'm saying here. But what this work is about and what I get into in this book is really encouraging women to reclaim. It is all about reclamation. Reclaim your feminine nature because   Michelle (18:26) Yeah.   Right.   Rosanne Austin (18:31) It's from the feminine that you are going to heal what ails you when it comes to your fertility. Because when you think about the masculine, it's go, go, go, do, do, do, you are not enough, you just work harder, do more, be more perfect and this will happen. The feminine, I mean think about what the feminine stands for. It's the spiritual, it's the nurturing, it's the fertility.   Michelle (18:58) creative.   Rosanne Austin (19:00) Yeah, it's the creative, it's the surrendered, it's the open, it's the receptive, all of those things. I mean, those are some important things when you're trying to conceive. But when we're stuck in man mode, we are completely cut off from that. And then we keep beating our head up against the wall trying to figure out why I have so much inflammation. Why do I have all this stuck energy? Why do I feel like nothing's moving? It's because you're stuck in man mode.   and I want to say this because some, you know, this, I want to be super clear, like this book is not political at all. Some will probably read this book and accuse me of being anti -feminist, but I come from the perspective, I look at feminism as in a very legalistic way, that men and women have equal rights. That's it. That's it. Any, for me, anything beyond that?   starts to get far afield, people abuse it, all this other stuff. So I come from the perspective that, you know, because around that time people will say, well, you don't think that was a good time because this is when, you know, feminism rose up. Well, yeah, and so did a lot of other things. Okay. So I'm looking at this strictly from when we look at feminism and believing that men and women have equal rights under the law. And we say that a woman   deserves to have a right to choose in just about everything in her life and that also includes staying feminine, right? Because the messaging that we got was the only way to be successful is to act more like a man. Think about this, Michelle. So I'm 50 and I do not recall ever hearing messaging that staying home and having babies and being in a relationship was a legitimate option.   Michelle (20:35) Is it?   Rosanne Austin (20:51) The only thing I ever heard was leave the house, never depend on a man, get an education, make a bunch of money and be untouchable, right? That was the paradigm of progress.   Michelle (20:56) Mm -hmm.   You see it everywhere. You see it on TV shows, on movies, like everywhere, everywhere.   Rosanne Austin (21:05) Yeah, that was the paradigm of progress and success. And think about it, I remember, and this is like, this just shows how deep the programming is. I remember a girl in my high school class who wanted to get married and have babies. And I remember thinking, poor thing, that's a life thrown away.   Like how anti -woman is that shit? I mean, that's how deep the programming was. And I thought I was the quote unquote feminist back then. Like not respecting that woman's desire and her otherwise legitimate choice to live her life with traditional feminine pursuits, right? And the whole point of this is not to say it's bad to have a profession or it's bad to stay at home. It's none of that.   It's a masculine paradigm that tries to force us into choosing. Rather than saying, okay, we as creative, resourceful, and whole women get to move through those things. You know, like you might do time as a prosecutor, you might do time as a physician, and then decide that your soul is saying, I really want to go home, I want to get pregnant, I want to have babies and chickens and a garden. Like that's legit.   Michelle (22:01) Right, yeah, good point.   Rosanne Austin (22:27) But yet that, you know, so much of the messaging up to this point has been, that is the lesser choice. Like the feminine is the lesser choice or the feminine is the weak. And so everything that I'm talking about in this book is saying, look sister, your fertility and your issues with fertility right now are a wake -up call. It's a wake -up call to come home to the fucking feminine because...   Your femininity, your feminine is your fertility superpower.   Michelle (22:58) love that. my God. So many things come to mind. And I'm thinking about the Yin and the Yang. Like imagine the Yin and the Yang start arguing with each other or like fighting like each other's nature. Well, you should be like this. You should know like everything in nature has the Yin and the Yang. They need to be there. They need to be there. Otherwise, this is what my professor told me when we first learned about it. Like when Yin and Yang separate, there is death because we need the Yin and Yang for vitality.   Rosanne Austin (23:23) Mmm!   that's so good.   Michelle (23:26) So we need that and it's like really to kind of bring it to that and I am going to talk science right now because in so there's been a couple of studies that I saw about having sex outside of the fertile window. When women are more sexually active, which they naturally would be if they felt connected with their partner. It's just like a natural tendency. But what happens physiologically?   is when they are more sexually active, unprotected, even outside of the fertile window into the luteal phase, you know what happens? A woman's immune system starts to change from what it was before. And what happens is the immune system starts to bring its arms down a little bit more. It starts to become more receptive, more calm. It lowers itself. It stops being in such a fight mode, ready to attack.   And design. When it does that, when it knows, okay, I'm in receptive mode here, we're having more sex, I'm getting familiar with the sperm, I allow it in so that this isn't an invader. I'm receiving, inviting, allowing. So this is literally like what you're telling me here.   immune systems don't do that because they don't receive they they're putting out it's a different energy it's a different flow it's a different direction.   Rosanne Austin (24:48) Mmmmm   Yeah. that's so beautiful. I love that you shared that because, you know, it's a really warped thing that we have gotten into as women. And when you think about it, it really is insidious.   Like why, I mean, we even see this today because we were talking about, like if we look at the women's movement from the 1960s, like the intention was good, of course. We want women to have equal rights under the law as men. That's obvious, that's basic, it's a human right. But when you look at how that got warped and then it's like, okay, well, if you really wanna be free, get out of the house, do all this stuff, start acting like a man, you know, we even see images in media.   Michelle (25:25) Mm -hmm.   Rosanne Austin (25:41) and film and all this other stuff of women being, you know, having sex like men, which is wildly unnatural. Like that's not our natural state as women to be like predators in that sense, you know? Yeah.   Michelle (25:56) we have more oxytocin and it actually is meant to connect us more to one person.   Rosanne Austin (26:03) Right, right, right. And then, you know, we see this ripple effect that it's had and we look at since about 1970, and women will have to take a look at the book to get the dates right. I have so many dates and numbers, you know, stuck in my head from having done the research, but it was around 1970 that we started to track women's happiness on a consistent basis. So we have data going back to   Michelle (26:19) Yeah.   Rosanne Austin (26:32) approximately from 1970 to about 2006, that tracks with not only did the birth rate go down, because we have things like, you know, no fault divorce, we have the advent of birth control, abortion being legal, all of these things, these new cultural things that happen, that as women left the home, pursued education, made more money, had fewer children,   there's actually an inverse relationship. So the more educated a woman became and pursued those more masculine results, the less happy she became. And I believe the number is 35%. happiness has dropped by 35%, the more educated that we became and the more separated from the home. Now what's funny is this research that came out of the Wharton School of Business showing that like is the   Michelle (27:16) wow.   Rosanne Austin (27:31) antithesis of what we were sold about the women's movement, that we would be happier when the data shows quite opposite. And then you look at the issues that we have today with dismal and terrifying birth rates. We went from one in eight couples struggling with fertility to one in five.   Michelle (27:50) Mm -hmm. Mm -hmm. That's crazy. Yeah.   Rosanne Austin (27:54) I think the average woman today, I think the number was hovering about 1 .7 children per woman. That's not even sustainable population growth at this point. So there are so many things that, and there's so many things that go into it. I'm not just saying that it's because we all become masculine. There's also plastics in our food. There's also glyphosate and rampant, overuse of medications and all kinds of   Michelle (28:06) Mm -hmm.   Mm -hmm. Yeah, yeah, yeah.   Rosanne Austin (28:23) you know, fluoride in the water. I'm gonna put my tin foil hat on right now, people can see it. But it's actually not, yeah, I mean, there's just so much stuff that has changed, but you can't deny that our attitudes have changed. And you know, women are having babies later. And I think that's a beautiful thing, but it also is indicative of a systemic cultural shift to say that, well, you don't have babies until...   Michelle (28:29) The radiation, everything.   Rosanne Austin (28:50) You've made this much money, you've had this much education, you've done X, Y, Z, you've published this number of papers. It's, in a sense, like, I really feel like women have been conditioned away from having the highest degree of choice. And it's heartbreaking. And then when women finally are in their 40s and they're trying to have babies, they go into the fertility world hearing that the window is closed.   Michelle (29:18) Mm -hmm. Right. Right.   Rosanne Austin (29:18) and too bad for you. So it's like, it's like you can, you find yourself getting to this place where you're saying, well, is this all there is? Because having babies is not just a fleeting desire, it's a longing. And if it was made, let's just say like it's a passe idea to be at home, have babies and pursue a happy home life.   If that was just passe and everyone's beyond it, tell me why the fertility industry is a multi -billion dollar industry. People still want it. This is why you have women getting to 45, meeting the right partner, and then longing to have a baby because it's innate in us. It's innate. It's fascinating. It's super, yeah.   Michelle (29:55) Yeah.   Yeah.   Mm -hmm. Yeah. Yeah.   It is fascinating. And the fact that you're really looking at the research and you actually have numbers and percentages, that is what is so cool about this. And I think also, you know, all the messages that we get, you know, you're too old, but did you know, do you know what the highest, the Guinness Book of World Records, highest naturally conceived and birthed child, highest age?   Rosanne Austin (30:35) No, what maybe in the 60s?   Michelle (30:37) You're going to love this and you could use this. Use this all you want. And I know you will because it's so freaking good. 58. 58. And it's a woman from the UK, Dawn Brooks, I believe was her name, and from the UK of all places where there's a lot of deficiency in vitamin D. But yeah, yeah, she did. And then I think about, actually, I remember Tori Quisling had mentioned   Rosanne Austin (30:46) I love it.   Michelle (31:02) She didn't mention the name, but she had mentioned how one person breaks the record and then other people hear about that and then all of a sudden they're breaking the record. And that really goes to the Roger Bannister effect where they said, there's no way you could break that four minute mile and then one person breaks it and then four others do within a couple of weeks from that.   Rosanne Austin (31:15) Mmm.   But yeah, but that's also like a scriptural reality too. I mean, you look at ancient books, you hear about women being fertile at times, whether people choose to interpret that as a metaphor or not is their business. But you hear about women being able to do miraculous things very late, allegedly in life. And so this is why I wanted to write the book because I find that when women tap back into their femininity,   Michelle (31:28) Mm -hmm.   Mm -hmm.   Mm -hmm. Yeah.   Rosanne Austin (31:53) They tap back into the love of self. They tap back into self -care. They tap back into their truest desires. They speak them, they rest. Instead of doing what they should do, they do what they desire to do. It drops the level of stress and puts them in a more receptive yin mode. And then we see women, I mean, I've seen this in my own practice. You see women who were given single digit odds.   Michelle (32:01) Mm -hmm.   Mm -hmm.   Love that.   Rosanne Austin (32:22) going and getting pregnant with ease when they go, they tap back into their nature. You know, it's just, it's fascinating. So like I had a woman that was in my program who was 52. And what was interesting about her was that she had this longing. She had this longing. She had, you know, she was a successful business owner. She was like, I just don't feel like my life is complete.   Michelle (32:27) Thank you.   Rosanne Austin (32:50) I am intended to be a mother. I'm intended to be a mother now. And she pursued this child. And now her son's like probably a year and a half old now. Like it's just fascinating. And what it required for her to get there was tapping back into that feminine desire. So my objective in this book is to educate women about what the feminine is, show them how it has been.   programmed out of us and ultimately what to do to reclaim it. Because we see that once you improve your self care, the stress level goes down, the data shows consistently that when cortisol levels are high, it takes longer for women to get pregnant and it negatively impacts results in controlled environments like IVF. Like they've seen this. They've even tested hair samples.   women with the highest concentrations of cortisol have the biggest struggles. And it's just wild. And so when you think about this from a mindset perspective, and you think about the very masculine messages women have gotten about what success means, it's like when you change your mind about what success looks like, and you start looking at it from a feminine perspective, then you can start changing the game.   and you can heal yourself, you can heal your fertility, and you'll do that through a more open mind, more receptive, look at different opportunities and different things that come up. So it just gives us the ability to tap into our innate feminine nature so we can do the innately feminine fucking thing that we're trying to do. So yeah, so that's the essence of what the book is about. And...   Michelle (34:36) Yeah.   Rosanne Austin (34:42) Women can find the book anywhere the books are sold and it'll be out August 2nd.   Michelle (34:50) I love that. And so question, as far as momentum goes, because I know that when we're in a path, we're on a path and we just keep going, going, going and say we're like on a masculine path or we've been conditioned, I find that it's just like you start to take a momentum and it's very hard to switch gears and shift back, even if it is our nature. So just if anybody's listening, what are some of your thoughts or anything you want to share about like really   getting to that place of switching gears.   Rosanne Austin (35:22) Okay, one of the greatest ways to switch gears is to look at your fucking results. If you do not like your results, you have to have the humility and the open heartedness to say, what I am doing is not working. And to say that from a loving perspective. Like I don't look at things not working or mistakes or things that have happened in a negative way, right? They're just new.   Michelle (35:34) Mm -hmm.   misalignment.   Rosanne Austin (35:46) Yeah, and it's just, it's more nudges in the right direction. So if you don't like the result that you're getting, then you have to ask yourself, what isn't lined up here? What can I do better from a loving perspective, from the perspective of commitment to what I say I want? And one of the first steps is how connected am I to my feminine? Or what is my thought process? What are my thoughts telling me?   you know, are my thoughts sounding more like a man, like, mm, you know, wagging the finger saying, you're not enough, this is stupid, why are you doing this? It's decidedly more masculine, right? When we're in our feminine, there's gonna be nurturing that's saying, hey, hey, babe, you know what, this isn't working. Let's look at something, some other options, right? It's decidedly different in energy. So number one, if you wanna switch gears, look at your result. From a completely dispassionate place, just say, hey,   is what I'm doing working and if it is not, what can I do differently? That's like the first step is that level of awareness. And then the second step would be to decide to be different. Now I know that that may sound vague, but in some ways it kind of is because for everyone the pursuit is gonna be different. What do I need to do different is gonna look different for everybody. I come from the perspective that it all starts with us.   It all starts with the mind because when your mind is lined up, then you'll do the right physical things. You'll pursue different things like your work. You'll pursue different avenues and a constellation of new opportunities will show up because you were different. So number one, look at the result. Number two, give yourself the opportunity like, hey, what can I do differently here? Truly from a place of, hey, I'm super committed to what I want.   and I wanna get there. So if I can love myself enough through this process and give myself plenty of runway to try things, it's more likely that I'm gonna get there than if I keep my narrow vision that there's only one way to get there. Because the feminine is all about the meandering. It's all about the exploration. And...   Michelle (37:59) Yeah.   Rosanne Austin (38:02) You know, if it was as simple, Michelle, as a sperm and an egg coming together, then not one of us would suffer on this journey. But we know that, you know, everybody's different and the journey is nonlinear. So it's like, open yourself up, try something new. Try the feminine fertility here. See if that works for you. Because I've seen women around the world tap into this power and create insane results. And it's my sincere hope that women listening will do the same.   Michelle (38:15) Right.   I really think that you're doing the right thing for your purpose. Like I really do. I feel like you are truly activated and doing your purpose and working your purpose because I feel like you're really making so many transformations happen. And I see it. I mean, it's literally happening around the world and it is a movement and this is why I love you so much. And I could keep talking to you for hours. I know you have to go.   I would love it if you just tell people how they can find you. Otherwise, I know the book's gonna be everywhere. Books are sold, right?   Rosanne Austin (39:07) Yeah, yeah. Well, I love you too, Michelle. And I really appreciate the support that you give to my work. And we're such a great pair because our work is so synergistic. And it's just fantastic. And I'm really honored to share that with your audience. And here's the thing. I like to encourage women, look, trust yourself. Trust yourself.   You have this ability to do this and there's nothing to be afraid of when it comes to the feminine. The feminine is your fertility superpower and the feminine is not just pink and sparkly shit. It's going to be expressed in your own unique way. And the sooner you make up with her, the sooner that you make her okay to be back in the room, she's gonna be your BFF. She is your fertility BFF and she's gonna show you the way.   Michelle (39:51) I love that.   Rosanne Austin (40:00) So I'm really excited to get this out in the world. I really hope women receive it with the love that it was written. And yeah, thanks for having me on. Thank you for sharing this.   Michelle (40:06) Beautiful.   thank you so much for coming on. It was awesome.   Rosanne Austin (40:13) Thanks, Michelle, bye!  

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