Self Control

Do you believe you're capable of doing more?Being more productive? Becoming a better person? Do you want to stop procrastinating on everything, big or small?Well then why aren't you doing it!?I asked myself the same question.Honestly- we don't do that stuff because we don't know how. And we don't know how because we aren't even looking at it the right way.In this episode I want to show you how to be the source of your own motivation! I want you to take the first step to tackle your challenges.Let's talk about what motivation really means and how we can reframe our thoughts from negative to positive. PS- Choosing to this episode counts as taking action, so you've already started! Follow through and listen now!(0:55) - You're not ready until you answer YES to this question(1:40) - How does negativity show up our life?(3:29) - What does motivation really mean?(4:29) - Cleaning up our messy thinking(7:21) - What does it look like to think positively?----Let me know what you think!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeListen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

If you're feeling stuck in a rut...Or feeling trapped in your job or in your relationship...The feelings of wasted time and disappointment can become quite painful.The good news, you may not be stuck at all!In this episode I will share with you a simple but powerful technique for reframing our thoughts of being trapped or feeling stuck.When we shift where we are looking, and learn to take control of what we can control, we realize we are moving again! You can get started TODAY so listen now and let's get going!(01:54) - Understanding this problem as a circle(02:50) - Does this really apply to you and your life? Let's find out.(03:58) - Reframing our fear as distraction(04:19) - Learning from yourself and making the shift!(05:42) - Don't agree with this? Well, listen to this then!(06:56) - Exactly where to look and what to do going forward----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Late last year I realized I was barely talking to my partner.I was also struggling to communicate in the workplace.Sound familiar?Not sharing your thoughts, not sure what to say, people talking over you and at you...The truth is, if we don't express what we think and feel, we don't actually know what we think and feel. Our life is just happening to us, passing us by.So, let's talk about it! I'll tell you what I did to start the conversation at home and how I began speaking up at work. And of course, I will give you a task that you can start TODAY that will make a difference immediately.The people in your life want to hear from you. Let's get started!-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Do you find yourself wishing you had better self-control?Many of us, myself included, are faced with shame and guilt when we can't do what we BELIEVE we SHOULD do.My life improved once I stopped that negative, abusive way of thinking, and started looking at self-control in a new way.You can try this for yourself today!In this episode I will break down the old way of thinking about self-control and present a new way for forward for you.This mindset shift plus your own determination could help you improve your eating habits, stop your laziness, end procrastination, or understand and quit drug and alcohol use.I will give you the NUMBER ONE thing to look out for and some concrete steps to take this week. If you're ready for a new and improved lifestyle, let's get started!02:24 Self control vs. Self-abuse - are you doing THIS!?04:08 A question for you09:27 What does self control REALLY mean?12:53 The #1 thing to watch out for!14:45 How to get started TODAY!-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

You can and you will find your purpose!Thanks for stopping by. On today's episode we will discuss a major, major issue that many of us face.How do you find your purpose in life?Of course, no podcast (no matter how great

No one can tell you how to live your life!This is a big reason why we fail to quit our bad habits using SOMEONE ELSE'S advice.But of course, you'd still like help with a plan of action, right?Wouldn't it be great if someone could give us a personalized method for curing our anxiety or stopping unhealthy habits like smoking, pornography use or procrastination?This is exactly what this podcast can do for you.I cannot judge you and I can't instruct you on how to live your life.Instead I want to share with you a process that you can use FOR YOURSELF to create solutions for yourself.Need a remedy for anxiety? Want to quit smoking pot? Need to stop using TikTok for awhile?You can do these things and together we can develop a plan to make this happen.In this episode, I will explain how Acceptance of your habits, Self-expression, and Reflection are the 3 steps you can begin TODAY to start to see a way forward for yourself.In just 10 minutes, I will load you up with:Why you must Accept your bad habits FIRST,How to Express yourself,And how you can Reflect on your life to actually improve your self-control!So, join me for a quick 10 minutes, and let's get you going on a personalized plan to see yourself in a new light! Listen now!(0:00) - Intro and what to expect PLUS why this podcast is DIFFERENT(02:50) - Why you must first accept yourself as you are before taking action(04:10) - EXACTLY HOW to take control of YOUR LIFE with self-expression(06:02) - How can self-reflection be a remedy for anxiety!?(08:20) - A difficult question many of us must ask our self. -----WHAT DO YOU THINK? LET ME KNOW!Get in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeListen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Thanks for checking out the Self-Control podcast!Are you feeling down these days or feeling like you're in a rut?Do you find yourself thinking about the bad things in life?The most empowering part of this podcast is that I will share with you behaviours and tips that you can begin today to feel better sooner than later.So when it comes to "not feeling 100%" or if you're looking to change your life for the better, let me drop some wisdom on ya.In this episode, I will share with you EXACTLY what I had to do last month when I was feeling down and not at my best. I'll give you one word to REMOVE from your vocabulary AND the #1 way we MAKE THINGS WORSE for our self that we can STOP RIGHT NOW.The second half of this episode might not be for everyone, but I think it's time I started sharing a little bit of my spiritual journey in the hopes that it might inspire you.So, if you're ready to feel better this month, and you want a plan of action, look no further. Take 15 minutes and get ready to FEEL BETTER this month!

On today's Mindfulness Minute, we'll continue talking about natural remedies for anxiety, as well as understanding self-doubt and frustration.Ultimately, these are a problem of being distracted.But distraction doesn't happen here or there, it happens ALL OVER our life. It is a way of life.You want improved productivity? You want to feel happy? Proud?Focus!Easier said than done, but practice makes perfect. Let's talk about it. In less than 10 minutes, I will leave you with something you can start this week to level up your mindfulness practice. Let's go!-----ant to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

If self-discipline happens in our mind, what are the actual, physical tasks we can do to strengthen it?One of these behaviours is EXPRESSION.But how do you express? What are you supposed to say?How does it help?All of this will be answered in less than 10 minutes. In this episode, I will explain how expression frees us from a life of "not thinking for our self" and tell you exactly what I had to express (and how to do it) in order to quit numerous bad habits.So if you're looking for some advice on quitting a bad habit or starting some real work on your own life, start here! (00:57) What to expect in this episode(2:46) Recap last episode - Awareness, Acceptance, Expression(4:34) Why don't you express yourself?(5:52) How to know if you aren't thinking for yourself(7:14) WHAT exactly are you supposed to express? -----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

I want to let you know that YES, there are natural ways to increase focus and concentration.The fact that you are reading this means you have already started. So let's keep going!If you are aware that you struggle to stay focussed...Or if anxiety is getting worse because you can't achieve your goals...Now is the time to bring mindfulness into your life. These improvements won't come over night, but it's time to start the process of repetition. Through watching our self and our thoughts over and over, magic happens!Today, I'll tell you what I learned from my many nights of stress eating, and share with you how a little bit of awareness led to a whole lot of focus.Plus I will suggest a behaviour you can start RIGHT NOW to improve your focus! In 15 minutes you can gain from my years of trial and error. What do you have to lose? Listen now and improve your focus this month!-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

For years, I was in the grip of both a pornography and marijuana addiction. Many, many days of my youth wasted.Toxic habits like these lower our energy, put us in a bad mood, ruin our self-confidence, and WORST OF ALL, they blind us to who we truly are! They rob us of our potential.Looking back on how I quit these 10 and 15-year-long addictions, I have developed a clear process that I want to share with you. You can apply this process to nearly any toxic habit or vice.And you have already begun the first step. So let's keep going.Join me now, and in less than 15 minutes, I will tell you about the SHIFT in my thinking that helped me finally quit those shameful, stinky behaviours and feel proud of who I was. This is a shift you can begin TODAY.Listen now!And make sure to subscribe, because our next few episodes are going to go deep on the third step of this process. You won't want to miss out on this chance to EXPLODE your self-development and surprise your friends and family this summer.(0:00) Intro and what to expect - why am I qualified to help you?(02:06) Step 1 - What was really preventing me from quitting?(06:24) Step 2 - How can you master your time and focus on the present?(09:00) Step 3 - The ACTION we must take to end toxic habits for good(10:38) Recap-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

There are too many ways to be distracted these days.So why add to that by distracting yourself?If you find that you're not getting enough done, not staying on task, and struggling to concentrate, you may be asking yourself "how can I focus better?"Then the anxiety starts to creep in...Not getting enough done, falling behind, doubting yourself.This has been a major problem for me, but through mindfulness I have begun to find ways to both manage my anxiety and improve my focus and attention.In this episode, I will give you my 3 pillars of Mindfulness and walk you through a real-life example of how I was distracting myself and causing my own anxiety.Using these 3 steps repeatedly, I believe anyone can find relief from anxiety and improve their ability to focus on what needs to be done.So join me for another Mindfulness Minute, and in less that 10 minutes, you'll be on your way to less anxiety and more productivity. Let's get started!-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

I have spent years trying to understand why I fell into toxic habits like pornography, marijuana, and overeating. I tried and failed to quit those habits more times than I can count.Today, I consider myself free and clear of both porn and weed. Now I am working on healthy eating. (I've lost 30lbs, but the battle continues!)It wasn't until I regularly did these 3 things that I began to understand why I self-sabotaged with harmful behaviours. Then and only then, was I able to quit.In this episode, I will share these 3 steps: Acceptance, Awareness and Expression, and I will walk you through exactly what that means with real-life examples.I truly believe that when it comes to non-life-threatening addictions and bad habits, we can all be empowered TODAY if we are willing to look deeper. There's nowhere else to go or anything you have to buy.But how do you start? What questions do you ask? Where do you look? What do you actually do?All of that is laid out here in just 20 minutes. Join me as I continue to understand my own self-sabotage and toxic habits and work to leave them behind. Let's go!-----(0:00) Intro and what we've been talking about lately(2:35) Today's topic - desire, numbness and bad habits(5:14) The big breakthrough I had thanks to journalling(8:00) What can binge eating and pornography abuse teach us about our self?(10:20) Step 1 - Acceptance(13:34) Step 2 - Awareness(14:56) Step 3 - Expression(16:23) How can this process help us find more direction and purpose?(18:00) One more question to ask yourself(20:55) Wrap-up-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

We humans are gifted with many great powers.In this episode I will remind you of two of them: the ability to see the past, present and future, and the ability to talk to our self.But as the late Uncle Ben said, "with great power comes great responsibility."Are you worried about your future? Guilty about your past?Do you talk to yourself like an enemy or a friend?Do you see and express the life you want? The life you could build?Or do you crap all over yourself and others for mistakes made and unfair outcomes?Why? And for how much longer?If you are sick and tired of your own limiting beliefs dragging you down...You're done with feeling guilty about the past...If there's stupid, toxic habits holding you back...You already hold the key. This the formula for ROCK HARD, unbreakable self-control.Let's talk about putting your SUPER POWERS to work for you TODAY.Listen now and make April 2024 your best month yet!-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Is there a so-called "bad habit" in your life that you're trying to quit?How's that going?Have you considered that maybe it has something to teach you before it leaves your life?My biggest and longest addictions took years to break, but over that time I learned so much about myself.So hopefully, using what I learned, you can get past those unhealthy habits much quicker and still get the benefits of living an authentic life.Today's episode is a little longer but I think you'll find it jam-packed with value. Above all, I will give you 3 steps toward understanding and developing past your toxic, unhealthy habits. I also want to share with you the story of the 5-year process of quitting my addiction to pornography. I used these exact steps so you can trust that they work.If it's time to grow up and get over these things that are holding you back, let's take that determination and put it to work. It may not happen overnight, but by starting the process you will immediately get stronger and more aware. Why wait any longer? Let's go!0:00 - Intro and what to expect2:34 - The first challenge you will encounter in this process7:03 - Where do we start if it feels TOO HARD?9:07 - Step #1 - Improving the limiting belief language we use to talk to our self11:03 - The 5-year journey to quitting pornography addiction and Step #216:30 - Step #3 - Patience and pursuing your "Why"21:53 - Recapping the 3 steps: How can you finally develop past your vices?-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Everywhere you look, someone is trying to sell you a miracle cure or a product that will change your life.I'm no different.However- I believe the cure and the product exist within you already. I'm just encouraging you to look and listen hard enough to find them.So, if you're working on improving some unhealthy habits... If you have mental health issues, and you're feeling:-Guilt and shame about your past-Fear or hopelessness about the future -Like becoming someone else, someone differentMaybe you're self-sabotaging, and setting yourself up for failure, because it's all you know.Whatever it is, you can empower yourself IMMEDIATELY and begin living the life you deserve TODAY. This is the power of how we speak to our self and how we listen to our self.In just 20 minutes, I want to share with you the massive shift I have made lately that has improved my mood and mental health and brought me closer to being myself.The best part is, there was nothing I had to buy or anywhere I had to go. This form of self-care and self-development can be a part of your everyday life.So if you're done with self-abusive thoughts, and talking to yourself like an enemy...If it's time to get more from life and give more to life...If you want more self-control and less shame...Listen now. I promise you it's just a few thoughts away. Let's start today.(0:00) Intro and what to expect(2:45) Recapping Binary Entrapment(3:45) How do we "choose to lose" and surrender self control through our thoughts?(5:05) The first thing you can do TODAY!(7:16) The second thing you can do TODAY!(9:45) How do we trap ourselves with our thoughts?(11:36) This is how I ended my limiting beliefs and stopped feeling ashamed(13:55) How can we free ourselves from self-abuse and feeling worthless?(17:45) Wrap-up and what's next-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

In our last few episodes we've been talking about Binary Entrapment.What the hell does that mean and how can it help you?It is THE fundamental understanding I needed to quit my addictions and improve my mental health.This is something you CAN control if you're looking to stop feeling guilty, be less distracted and quit self-abuse and end self-sabotage.So in the interests of communicating it to you as easily as possible...Here is a 10 minute recap I did on my phone. Consider it my personal voicemail message for you. Let me know if this helps.What will you do this week to break free of your binary entrapment?-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/4FCejNvJL4DvsRTi5YT3iG?si=0e5a761d89a348d6Listen on Apple Podcastshttps://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/self-control/id1547190181

This is part 2 of the previous episode. Start there if you haven't already.Frankly, I lived in a very childish way for a long time. Now that I've begun to really grow up, I'm reflecting on how I grew out of my addictions and limiting beliefs.It is childish, and small, and immature to sit there and hate the present moment. It is stupid to wish things were different. It doesn't do me any good to let the scars from my past push me into distraction and fear. Push me away from living!We all do it, but the healing begins in the moment.When we responsibly reflect on our past and stop throwing away the present for an imaginary future.In today's episode I will quickly give you the 3 steps I use everyday to stop being a baby and take control of my life. While we do not have control of the future or the past, the more we do these 3 things, the more we can understand our self and the more certain we can be of where we're going.Listen now and let me know what you think! Make sure to subscribe and be notified of new episodes.0:00 - Intro and what to expect1:27 - Why is journalling so important and how can you start journalling5:28 - What does it mean to self-reflect and can we control the future?10:50 - How can you stop being ashamed?-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

All of us, myself included, have said "I need to change!"And then we say tomorrow, or next time, or next month.But I have discovered that that very mindset--that way of thinking-- is TOXIC!So whether it comes to quitting bad habits, or working on slowing down an addiction, we have all made the mistake of distracting ourself with the future.Substance abuse, behavioural addictions like gambling and sex, and unproductive habits like procrastination and lack of self care...All of these are a response to painful, misunderstood moments in our past!We run from our past, and we abuse our self by saying I need to quit in the future. It becomes a hamster wheel of blindness.Blindness to what, you ask?Who we are in the moment.If you are looking to further develop yourself beyond your unhelpful, harmful habits...If you believe you are capable of more and deserve more...If it's time to take control of your urges and drive your life where it needs to go...Let this be the start! Take 15 minutes today to hear me out. Understand this concept and get ready for part 2 where I'll lay out actual solutions that anyone can begin THIS WEEK!And don't forget to subscribe so you'll be notified of that next episode!(0:00) - Opening and what to expect(2:04) - What is Binary Entrapment and how does it make our addictions worse?(5:42) - A recent example of addiction in my life and what I learned this week(11:28) - What does it look like to grow past our self-abuse? How do we know?-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

If we spend 2 hours a day eating, then in 70 years, that's over 50, 000 hours!Doesn't that seem like something we should pay close attention to? And yet, because it is so routine and habitual, eating becomes automatic.We eat whatever, whenever, and do other things at the same time.Now, it's not my place to judge how you live your life, but...If you're like I was, and you are dissatisfied with how you look and feel in some way, then it may be time to examine HOW you eat.For me, I essentially gained weight from the day I was born till I turned 34. (Which obviously makes sense up to a certain point.)But when I started to feel a little too heavy, and started to wonder why, for all this working out and hiking, I didn't have a lean body and 6-pack abs... I knew it was time to look deeper.I devised a whole new system of eating for myself, which I have talked about*, but nothing changed until I stopped this ONE behaviour.Gaining insight into distracted eating and mindless living has allowed me to better nourish myself and get the results I want. So I want to share this idea with you.If you're working on burning stubborn fat, losing belly fat, or you're looking for weight loss tips, I believe that mindful eating is often overlooked. Let's dig into it right now and get you going on something that can start TODAY!In less than 15 minutes I'll explain how distracted eating is a symptom of mindless living and share with you the shift I had to make to begin eating well and looking good ;)-----*For more on Improving Your Eating, check out Season 3 Episode 88 from October 16, 2023:"Low Energy? Know You Can Look Better? Wasting Money on Junk Food? Take These 3 Steps to Heal Your Relationship to Food and Get More Out of Life!"-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple PodcastsDISCLAIMER: This podcast is not medical advice. Consult a qualified medical practitioner before making any major lifestyle changes.

Self-improvement is a scam.Many, many people (myself included) try to gain recognition, or make money, selling YOU the idea that you need to improve.No more. At least not for me. It's time for me to be more honest with you, the listener.If you're crawling around the internet, looking at YouTube videos, and dreaming that you could be like those social media influencers...If you're burning and bitter with the idea that you need to change and be better...Just stop.To be "like someone," to be "someone else," to be "better" is a trap we set for ourselves. It's a mindset we use which ultimately holds us back.(Might be time for me to change the name of this podcast, huh?)Is it any wonder that you keep making the same mistakes while wishing you could be someone else? You can't be someone else!What's worse - when we're dealing with addictions or bad habits or procrastination...When there ARE areas of our life that are un-developed...This desire to quit, or change, or be different is a major distraction. It is self-sabotage! So, today's episode is the beginning of a brand new journey. This is the process I used to quit porn, quit weed, and lose 40 lbs. I want to share with you exactly how I did it: by developing my self-understanding and stopping the self-abuse that I inflicted with my thoughts!Anyone can begin this work because it is the invitation to create your own self-image. I am not giving you anything; I am just telling you a story of how I came to know myself. And in that self-knowing came the freedom from pain and distraction, and a life I could only dream of.If you want a fresh perspective to quitting addiction, quitting bad habits, stopping self-sabotage, dealing with anxiety or depression, this is the beginning of the best I have to offer. Listen now and shoot me a message this week.-Patrick-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

I've been away for awhile talking to the voices in my head.Now, I'm not making fun of those with real mental illness, but ask yourself this:Aren't there voices in your mind too? Anxious thoughts, self-doubt, fear of failure?What if we could use those voices for good? To actually get where we want in life?There are two things you can start today that will do exactly that for you.In this exclusive, audio-only episode I will walk you through how I:Quiet down the anxious chatter in my mind AND deal with the self-sabotaging voice in my head that distracts me and tells me to "play small."And best of all, these steps can actually increase your self-confidence; this work will boost your self-respect. All of this has, over time, lead to me being more accepted by my peers.As a bonus, I will include a natural remedy for anxiety that you can do every morning.So if you're ready to grow your self-confidence and develop self-respect, take just 20 minutes and hear me out. If it works (or if it doesn't) I want you to let me know. So listen now and get ready to find the acceptance that you so desperately want. The tools you need already exist within you.-----(0:00) Intro and what to expect(03:53) Story time! Why did I punch myself in the gut?(07:35) Step 1 - Controlling the voice we use to talk to our self(09:23) Step 2 - Listening to the many voices in your head(11:07) Do this every morning to calm your anxiety(15:31) Wrap-up - So how do we increase self-respect again?----Check out our most popular YouTube episode on the Dangers of Coffee!Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

"How can I develop unshakeable discipline like Cristiano Ronaldo?"A good question, but it starts us off on the wrong foot.In this episode I will share with you my process for developing discipline FOR our self and BY our self. The most empowering thing is that you can start RIGHT NOW and see changes immediately.So if you're looking to feel better, get more out of life, and be more productive--it might not come overnight-- but there are steps we can take today. Let's get started!-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Recently a listener reached out to me and asked how I learned what I know.This episode is my answer to that.So much of my insight into mental health has been through my own struggles with addiction and bad habits. I was able to learn so much by understanding and overcoming pornography, marijuana, and overeating.That is all I can offer you: the courage to observe and understand yourself is your key to freedom.So if you're looking to improve your life in some way, try starting here.Listen now and I'll get you started!-----For more information on Mindfulness please see our recent episodes from January 17, 2024 onward. Or watch them all on YouTube!Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Some listeners have been curious about my personal story. So today I want to share a little bit of my journey.This is the tale of how I went from anxious, introverted, and afraid to feeling strong and empowered. I believe that if you are willing to try mindfulness, and to reflect upon your past actions, you can begin this journey too.The most empowering part of this process is that we can start right now and do it every day! It doesn't take money or any extra time. This is the story of self-control!Listen now and I will share the dangers of poor posture, some signs that you may be self-medicating, and just what is at stake if we don't take control of our body.So let's stand up straight together this month and start building a life we deserve.(0:00) - Introduction(01:58) - Just how bad was my posture? And what's the big deal?(05:42) - How I began to improve my posture and quit some major addictions(07:02) - The POWERFUL realization I had as I continued examining my posture(11:39) - How mindfulness became my way forward to BECOMING ME!-----For more information on Mindfulness please see our recent episodes from January 17, 2024 onward. Or watch them all on YouTube!Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Constant anxiety about the future, or guilt about the past, distracts us from living in the present. If this goes on long enough, we lose track of who we are and what we want. Or worse...We never get to know who we are, and we don't live the life we deserve.Taking ownership of our life begins in the mind.If you want more out of life, and you want to stop this frantic, uncertain way of living, you must begin to take control of your thoughts.This has been the great realization of my life. Of course I'm scared of the future when I don't trust myself to get there!In this episode, I will discuss how mindfulness plus scheduling your time (and journalling about your past) are the immediate steps anyone can take today to start building the life they want to live.This is not complicated and it's not hard. In less than 15 minutes, you can begin to develop greater self awareness and ease your anxiety. These are the stepping stones to a happier, more confident YOU! You have the keys but you must open the door. Let's get started!Also, make sure to listen to the last episode on how to use journalling for self-awareness to get the most out of this process.-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Anxiety about your future, and guilt about your past, are two major reasons for discomfort in the present. We think our self into negativity daily.So if you are working on mindfulness, and becoming more aware of your thoughts, you can now begin to keep a record of these behaviours.It's one thing to be aware of our negative thoughts, and the times we lose focus and become distracted, but are you ready to take these moments and make something useful from them?For me, journalling has accelerated my self-development and made me aware of who I am. Having the courage to write your life story will no doubt do this for you as well. In this episode, I'll explain exactly how journalling pairs with mindful awareness in the present so that you can both feel better in the present and deal with things that happened in your past.Listen now and let's find balance in our life this week!-----For more on journalling search these episodes in our feed:Nov. 30, 2022 - How To Start Journaling Today: 5 Tips For Beginners and Writing Prompts for Newbies Like YouJan. 9, 2023 - How To Use Your Journal to Begin Self-Discovery, Identify & Quit Toxic Habits, and Start Living a Better Life in 2023-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

How much of your anxiety is caused by what you have to do later today?Are you overwhelmed by life? Do the simplest things begin to pile up and it all feels impossible?What about guilt or shame from the past?Harsh words that were said. Important tasks procrastinated again.Those feelings are valid, but is RIGHT NOW the right time to be thinking about all these monsters from other dimensions?Events in the future, regrets from the past: they're not here with you now are they?I lived this way for many years, distracted by my thoughts and creating negative emotion for myself. Today I want to share with you how I am working to stop making things worse for myself and taking ownership of my mental health.And you can do it too.We'll continue our exploration of mindfulness and discuss one simple technique to add to your mindfulness practice to get a hold of this tendency to think ourselves into pain. Let's have a better today! Listen now!-----Make sure to subscribe to this podcast so you don't miss our upcoming episodes on getting EVEN MORE out of your Mindfulness practiceNew episodes every Sunday and Wednesday.-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Social anxiety sucks. We want to be popular, we want to be liked...Hell, we just want a friend or two!Could mindfulness be your friend as you work to become more of a people person?I still struggle from time to time in social situations but these 3 steps help when I feel overwhelmed. Give them a shot and let me know how it goes!-----This episode is the third in a series of 3 Mindfulness Milestones. Times in your day when you can check in with yourself and ask those three Mindfulness Questions we discussed in the last few episodes.For more on mindfulness make sure to listen to the episodes dated Jan. 17, 21 and 24, 2024.And make sure to subscribe to this podcast so you don't miss our upcoming episodes on getting EVEN MORE out of your Mindfulness practiceNew episodes every Sunday and Wednesday.-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

It is very easy to go through life DISTRACTED.TikTok, Facebook, Netflix, Podcasts...Constant music, constant videos, un-ending noise!What if all that time spent living life with one eye, or one ear, on the phone was slowly draining you?Who you are, what you do, what you want...You've never fully understood those things because you were distracted all the time. Distracted by media, by technology, by other people, and by your own fantasies and daydreams!Is it time to get a grip? To get a clear picture of who you are and what you want?I have struggled with all this myself and so I want to share this very important MIndfulness Milestone with you. Listen now, for just 10 minutes, and go forward to become a more focussed, confident version of You in the next month.-----This episode is the second in a series of 3 Mindfulness Milestones. Times in your day when you can check in with yourself and ask those three Mindfulness Questions we discussed in the last few episodes.For more on mindfulness make sure to listen to the episodes dated Jan. 17, 21 and 24, 2024. (Season 4, Episodes 12-14)For the first MIndfulness Milestone, see Jan. 28, 2024 (Season 4, Episode 15)And make sure to subscribe to this podcast so you don't miss the final Mindfulness MilestonesNew episodes every Sunday and Wednesday.-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Do you reach for your phone within a few minutes of waking up?How does that make you feel?Blasting your tired eyes with bright white light. Filling your mind with other people's thoughts and bad news.Does that seem like a great way to begin another precious day on planet earth?If you would like to begin your day in a way that serves YOU... In a way that makes you feel calm, and able, and ready to deliver...Try this simple 3-step process in the first few minutes of waking up.Listen now and have a good morning!-----This episode is the first in a series of 3 Mindfulness Milestones. Times in your day when you can check in with yourself and ask those three Mindfulness Questions we discussed in the last few episodes.For more on mindfulness make sure to listen to the episodes dated Jan. 17, 21 and 24, 2024.And make sure to subscribe to this podcast so you don't miss the next 2 Mindfulness Milestones!New episodes every Sunday and Wednesday.-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Any challenge in your life can be solved with the help of mindfulness. But how exactly?

If you have been listening to our recent episodes on mindfulness, you may feel overwhelmed by just how out-of-control and distracting your own thoughts can be.You are not alone.Talking about mindfulness has forced me to confront the fact that I am constantly thinking about the past or the future, and distracting myself when I should be focussed.So what can we do? What can we do when we realize we are distracted and daydreaming all the time?The answer lies right inside you.Come with me and let's finish this series on mindfulness right at the heart. (Or the lungs, as it may be.)Take a deep breath, chin up, and listen now if you're ready to get a grip on life and continue your mindfulness practice.-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

The first of many Mindfulness Minutes. Bonus episodes for you with the reminder to stay mindful during your day.Enjoy!

"We are what we repeatedly do," wrote American historian Will Durant (paraphrasing Aristotle). And so if you repeatedly find yourself falling into stress, anxiety, worry, or any other negative emotion when you'd rather be... living your life, it may be time to ask:Am I really living?The truth is, much of our time on this earth is spent doing the little things like commuting to work, eating, or cleaning up. And if that time has become "prime time" for you to focus on negative thoughts, and stressing yourself out with what's to come, then you risk ALWAYS being distracted by this negativity no matter what you are trying to do.Big moments. Small moments. All of them ruined by your thoughts about something else.I lived this way for years. Decades maybe. And I still fall into those old patterns, but since discovering mindfulness, I have begun to free myself from this self-imposed pain and found the pleasure of controlling what and when I "think."Let's not forget: it is our thoughts that drive most of our negative emotion. Mindfulness is a quest to observe our thoughts and reduce the thoughts that hurt us.In this episode, I will refresh you on those 3 Mindfulness Checkpoints and then take the first 2 into a real world situation, so that you can begin your mindfulness practice. How can observing yourself, and asking these basic questions, help you control your stress and anxiety? You'll have to listen to find out. So take just 15 minutes to unlock your most powerful tool--your mind--and begin a better life today.(0:00) Intro and recap the 3 Mindfulness Checkpoints(02:02) Focussing on the present when commuting to work(07:02) Thinking acting in unison while doing everyday tasks(09:03) The consequences of distracting ourselves with our own thoughts!-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Mindfulness is a tool that anyone can use at anytime to feel better immediately.Not bad, right?But what's the catch?You need to be willing to define it and use it all the time!In this episode, I will share with you my current definition of mindfulness and give you 3 questions to ask yourself if you are feeling stressed out, hopeless or uncertain about life.Make sure you are following this podcast because the next 2 episodes are going to break down these 3 questions and support you as you strive to keep developing yourself.A better life is possible for you. You can begin to work on your emotional outbursts, bad habits, stress, and sadness with the greatest gift you have: your own mind.-----Further listening: To see mindfulness in action, check out the following episode where I used a mindfuln approach to overcoming a bad habit. Search this one in our feed!"What Is Mindfulness and How Can You Use It To Quit Bad Habits and Improve Your Life?"(Season 3, Episode 45 - May 23, 2023)----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Not only was I a heavy marijuana user for many years, I also used pornography for even longer than that!Sometimes I think it's a miracle I ever made it out of my parents' basement.And I am not here to preach to you about your life choices.But!I want to let you know a secret that I have discovered since quitting both porn and weed...Each time you reach for the pipe, the cigarettes, the cellphone, the hand lotion...You are ignoring your intuition as it cries out for freedom.Inside you is a voice that wants to be strong, to be happy, to be YOU!But each time we ignore that voice, and choose cheap pleasure that only hurts us, that voice gets quieter and quieter. You're killing your intuition. And you risk becoming even more lost.If you're thinking about cleaning up your life this year, or doing away with a bad habit, listen to this episode and really think about it. The path to a better life becomes clearer the second you start walking! Listen now and let's get going!(0:00) Intro and what to expect (01:25) Recapping the 3 warning signs of mind-body disconnect(03:59) How porn and marijuana use "blunts our intuition"(08:10) The benefits of addressing your bad habits and re-connecting mind and body-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeALL Of Our Addiction Support and Bad Habit-Breaking Episodes in One Place!Get in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

It can be very hard to accept that YOU are the one holding yourself back in life.The silver lining is that YOU also have the power to get out of your own way!In this episode I want to share with you the 3 ways I was holding myself back in life especially during the time I was a heavy weed smoker. Whether or not you use marijuana, if you feel like you could be getting more out of life, do not ignore these 3 warning signs that YOU are to blame.I also want to share with you an idea that I've developed over many years. It's the secret I discovered to healing myself and learning to listen to myself. So, if you're ready to get your life up and running again, or if you know that you can do more and be better, check out this episode for 3 warning signs and one HUGE key to stepping forward. Let's go!-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

We've all heard it: attention is currency.Well, it's time you started paying yourself!Our ability to focus, and to control our attention, is one of our strongest tools and greatest gifts. With the power of visualizing, and reframing your current problems, you can unlock this great power to achieve your goals.As an added bonus- this can also help with impulse control and managing bad habits. In this episode, I will recap the idea of reframing your problems through focus and introduce 2 more concepts:The benefits of scheduling when to focus AND how focus on our goals helps us control bad habits!If you enjoyed last week's episode on focus, then this is the perfect follow up for you! Check it out!-----Further listening:Find this episode in our feed from Dec. 27, 2023 for more on improving your focus!"Do You Want More Out of Life in 2024? You Can Have What You Deserve If You're Willing to Make This ONE Improvement TODAY!"Or watch on YouTube:https://youtu.be/fH1oZjj_Yu8https://youtu.be/zMn_rk9PTmA-----Want to improve your mental health?https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Is your New Year's resolution starting to seem a little difficult?Perhaps there's a goal you want to achieve that seems too far away, Or even a bad habit you just can't break...How are we supposed to know just what to do?There's no instruction manual for our life!Where do we find the confidence to take the right steps?In today's episode, I'll give you two important key words to work with:CLARITY and COURAGE.We will walk through 3 steps for getting on track and achieving your goals. And most importantly we will discuss how to find clarity on the exact right steps for you, and how to develop the courage to keep going.STEP 1: Clearly defining your goals for actionSTEP 2: Deciding to actSTEP 3: Track, observe and repeatSo take just 15 minutes and be ready to come away with an increased confidence in yourself. Listen now!(0:00) - Intro(02:03) - Patrick's story of looking for clarity(04:31) - Is FEAR keeping you from taking this first step?(07:30) - Example: losing weight by being courageous!?(10:13) - Having the courage to observe yourself(12:40) - What does courage really mean for you?-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Are you spending a lot of time on social media or watching the news?Do you believe it's important to know "what's going on"?While that may be alright in small doses, the horrors of the outside world do not shrink or get better just because YOU choose to focus on them.So it may be necessary to ask yourself: is this the kind of information I really need to consume?In today's episode, Patrick will consider the infamous and popular meme,"Strong men create good times, good times create soft men, and soft men create hard times."And use that quote as a way to get you thinking about how bad news affects your mental health.But there is a deeper level to this quote as well. Thinking like this can be very, very toxic.So take 10 minutes to consider this argument today and be ready to ask yourself if outside influences and blaming others has taken a toll on your mind and spirit.-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

At this time of year, you may be thinking about how you can improve in some area of your life going forward.I am here to tell you that you can achieve what you want in life.And this is not just me being nice so you'll listen to my podcast.I have discovered that what I really want out of life can start to take shape when I do this one basic thing...FOCUS on it! This may seem simple, but there is a lot that goes into it. Lucky for you, this episode breaks down exactly what I mean by focus, how to start improving your focus, and the #1 tool I use to help stay focussed through the week.So whether you want to get in shape, work harder and earn more, or just be a better person for your loved ones... You can do it if you are willing to take control of HOW and WHAT you think.Let's talk about this and get you going. Tune in now, take 20 minutes, and get razor-sharp focus on your better life RIGHT NOW!(0:00) - Intro(02:36)- Where does a better life start?(4:05) - What to expect in this episode(5:54) - How do we define FOCUS? What does it mean for you? & What happens when our focus shifts to the bad things in life?(11:11) - What to do if you're focussed on the wrong things(13:23) - Getting back to basics to make focus easier(15:12) - The number 1 tool I use to get focussed and stay focussed!-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

We all have moments where we struggle to interact with other people.Not speaking up, not keeping a conversation alive, not being present or engaged...And we lose out on meaningful experiences as a result!If this has become a habit, or a way of life for you, at what point will you say "enough is enough?"Isn't it time other people realized that you do have good ideas and that you're someone worth having around?Of course it is. But how?For me, social awkwardness is a work in progress, but I want to share with you 3 tips I use when I want to show up and make a difference at work, with family, or in public. It may not change overnight, but you can start TODAY!Check out these 3 simple tips and listen to the end for an important question we can all ask ourselves to eliminate our social anxiety for good someday.(0:00) - Intro and what to expect(02:37) - Step 1: stop comparing yourself to someone else(06:42) - Step 2: If you can't be interesting, be interested(11:24) - Step 3: Is your body holding you back?(15:53) - A crucial question to ask yourself-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

As someone who does a podcast called "Self Control," I could certainly use a little work on my own self-control from time to time.If you're like me, you really only become aware of your self control or self discipline when it's lacking or when it's a challenge.Addiction, bad habits, emotional outbursts, mindless consumption...And then we snap back to reality and wonder how and why did I just lose control like that??So, if any of this sounds like you:Worrying about the past or future, obsessing over things you can't control, weakening yourself with bad habits or negative self-talk and doubt, unsure of yourself, or prone to emotional outbursts...These are all signs of low self-control BUT they are also possible for you to fix.If I can do it, so can you. I'd like to share with you the steps I'm making toward a better life through self control. And it may be easier than you think. Listen now!(00:00) - Intro and what to expect(02:17) - Step 1: Are you worrying about things you cannot control?(06:33) - Try this if you are stressed out about what you can't control(08:35) - The one thing YOU CAN control(09:52) - How we can think ourselves away from low self-control(11:48) - Get some easy wins today! Try these 2 tips(12:54) - Step 2: Two questions to help you find your AUTHENTIC self(14:17) - How and why are you weakening yourself?(15:05) - How you can use addiction and bad habits to know yourself better(16:48) - Examining your strengths and finding your power!(19:23) - Step 3: Improving your emotional control(21:36) - The physical side of emotional control(22:26) - Learning to anticipate emotional triggers(23:57) - Why emotional control is the third step here-----Further listening - Search these episodes in our feed for more great self-development tools!"Mood Swings? Harsh Inner Critic? Obsessed With Being Perfect? How To Heal Your Ego and Live a Peaceful Life - Part 1 of 4" - S3E64 - Aug. 2, 2023"What Is Mindfulness and How Can You Use It To Quit Bad Habits and Improve Your Life?" - S3E45 - May 23, 2023"The NUMBER 1 Realization I Had to Make In Order To Beat My Addictions" - S3E40 - May 5, 2023-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

For those of us in the Northern part of the world, the wintertime can be very hard on our mental and physical health.Fewer hours of sunlight and colder temperatures mean less time spent outdoors and more time spent in darkness. It's no wonder many of us find the holiday season to be depressing and difficult. So are you ready to do something about it this year? Or just keep shuffling through this difficult time?When it comes to your well-being, you can probably take more control of it than you think. And you if you are open to a new challenge, then Patrick has 3 easy steps for you to start today!If seasonal affective disorder has got you down, or even if stress and anxiety have set in, it doesn't have to be this way for long. Take just 13 minutes to tune in to this episode and consider if these 3 simple behaviours are right for you.(00:00) - Intro and what to expect(02:42) - Step 1: MOVE!(05:48) - Step 2: Create a "Light Routine" For Yourself(08:41) - Step 3: Write, write, write(11:48) - Recap and outro-----Further Listening - Find These Episodes in Our Feed for More Self-Development Tools"Could Your Hard Work Be Causing More Than Just Aches and Pains? How You Can Master the Mind-Body Connection & Start Feeling Better" - S3E69 - Aug. 16, 2023"Refresh Yourself! This Is The Single Most Important Thing I've Ever Said On This Podcast" - S3E39 - April 28, 2023-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Some people seem to effortlessly have high self-confidence. How do they do it?Who cares?If you want to improve your self-esteem and raise your self-confidence, the first thing to do is to stop looking at other people.Self-confidence is the ultimate "you problem," and so you cannot look outside yourself for the answer. You need a "you solution"!Thankfully for you, this episode will provide you with exactly that. Patrick will give you concrete examples of how to generate self-confidence from within. He'll provide you with some examples of this in his life as well. If you want to be taken seriously by other people, if you want to confidently and easily go out into the world and not be afraid of judgement...You have to do the work inside of yourself first. Listen to this episode for exactly what that means and how you can start strutting your stuff all day long!(1:29) - The first realization in our journey to higher self-esteem(4:04) - How we live and act out the vicious cycle of low self-confidence(5:34) - What does Self-esteem actually mean?? And how can we improve it? (With examples)(9:35) - Have you even tried to know and challenge yourself?(12:31) - How we raise our self-esteem internally in spite of our shortcomings(15:55) - A message for the fellas... (18+)(17:08) - Pursuing what's meaningful and building on what we have-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts-----For more on Negational and Relational Thinking See:Season 3, Episode 33 (April 5, 2023)"Use This Simple Mindset Shift to Stop Worrying and Feeling Guilty and Start Enjoying Life TODAY!"-----

If you have come to the realization that something(s) in your life need work--whether it's bad habits holding you back, or a lack of self-confidence, or maybe you don't know who you are...Congratulations. You have made the most difficult step: awareness.And it's very common to go looking on the internet for solutions. But this podcast will not offer you the solutions YOU THINK you want. This podcast will offer you something a little different. Not instructions, but an invitation.The great thing about "you problems" is that they require "you solutions." But how can we find the courage to solve our own problems? How do we know where to look?On today's episode, we return to the beginning. Patrick will explain exactly how to use this podcast and how it can help you, if you let it.He'll touch on the #1 realization he had to make to begin his self-development journey, and at the end, he'll give you an invitation.Will you accept? Listen now to get back in touch with yourself and what's important to you!00:00 - Introduction and what to expect01:56 - What can this podcast do for you and what's it all about?04:54 - When should you use this podcast to help solve your problems?08:41 - Who is this podcast for? Could it be you?13:42 - The most important realization in Patrick's journey17:57 - Your invitation-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

What does the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel teach us about living a better life?A lot, as it turns out.Whether you are a person of faith, 100% atheist, or even if spirituality is not something you think about, this little story about God and Man has an important moral for YOU.In this episode, Patrick will share with you the first step he had to take to begin building a better life for himself. In fact, it has less to do with God and everything to do with the person you can be.Don't you have infinite potential if you'd just reach toward it?So take 10 minutes, come with an open mind, and be ready to ask yourself this one straightforward question.Whether you are building a better life now, or you'd like to one day be free of your pain and smile again, this episode is just for you.Listen now!Reference:Michelangelo, Ceiling of the Sistine Chapel-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Social media is here to stay, whether we like it or not. The question is: are you using it, or is it using you?A lot of what you see on your favourite platforms is designed to give you an emotional response and make you share this content with others. And sadly, once you are hooked on this emotional response--whether it's fear, anger, or sadness-- it can be hard to break away from the scrolling and sharing.So, if over the last few years, you've found yourself getting upset or depressed about the world and your fellow human beings, what can you do about that?In this episode Patrick will break down EXACTLY how this 'emotional p*rn,' or emotionally-manipulative content affects you and gives you the tools to better identify it and deal with it.We can't just quit social media and we can't avoid our emotions all the time. So let's use this as invitation to know ourselves deeper, become mindful, and become stronger in the face of this massive challenge.Take 20 minutes to hear an example of this social media content, learn some new concepts and then go forward with some new knowledge to live better in this digital landscape!(01:39) - What is emotional p*rn? What does it do to us?(03:21) - Example of emotionally-manipulative content(4:46) - How is this content presented in "Bad Faith"?(7:33) - How this content DIVIDES and DISPOSSESSES us(9:39) - The effect of this content on your mental health(10:53) - Are you living in Bad Faith??(12:10) - What can you do today to improve your emotions?(13:26) - Recapping the 3 characteristics of emotional p*rn(16:11) - Wrap-up: ask yourself this question!-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Marijuana is an incredibly popular substance, but who knew its users would defend it so strongly?In this episode, Patrick responds to some of the negative comments on his latest viral clip. He'll also take this opportunity to remind you what this show is REALLY all about.More importantly, if you are looking to quit a bad habit such as marijuana, he'll give you two simple questions to ask yourself and reflect on.This isn't about rushing to change, or doing something because someone told us to. This is an invitation to examine yourself and your habits.This increased self-reflection will bring more self-confidence, trust, and understanding.So, take 15 minutes, have a couple laughs, and take these two questions home with you to keep building that better life!(0:00) - The viral short with 10k views and a lotta hate(04:11) - What to expect from this episode: benefits for you(05:24) - Patrick's experience with marijuana and poor mental health(08:34) - How marijuana affects the brain and can lead to dependance and depression(10:45) - The first question to ask yourself(11:56) - Why you SHOULDN'T quit marijuana(14:48) - The second question to ask yourself(15:38) - Recapping the two questions and further listening-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts

Are you starting to feel like you'll never have enough time or money?Do you worry that you'll never find anything better in your life?Is someone else's success bothering you?These are all common signs of a Scarcity mindset, the belief that you are not enough and will never be fulfilled.This way of thinking holds us back. It keeps us locked in relationships, habits, jobs and lives we don't truly enjoy. We resent others. We come to dislike ourselves.So much of our scarcity mindset is under our control though.And while it won't happen overnight, there are ways to open your mind and move toward an abundance mindset.You too can find joy in all that you have. You can work towards having more.Without the fear, without the anger, without worrying about others' lives.In this episode Patrick breaks down the difference between scarcity and abundance mindset, with examples, and offers 3 steps to leaving scarcity behind and moving to a life of satisfaction and fulfillment.If you want more out of life and if you want to grow, take 15 minutes to listen in and get started on a life of joy today!(01:33) - The difference between scarcity and abundance mindsets(03:58) - Scarcity mindset in our personal lives and its consequences(07:17) - What can we do?(10:26) - Two episodes to check out (11:16) - Reframing scarcity and finding abundance-----Further listening - Search these on your podcast app or use the YouTube links below!Ep. 39 - 04/28/23 - Refresh Yourself! This Is The Single Most Important Thing I've Ever Said On This PodcastEp. 33 - 04/05/23 - Use This Simple Mindset Shift to Stop Worrying and Feeling Guilty and Start Enjoying Life TODAY!https://youtu.be/c1bOj2prOrc?si=sBw01FAATPXVto3zhttps://youtu.be/GkfYSyg71So?si=VbSzK2z6aQfWSfq7-----Check out our YouTube channel and Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/@BuildaBetterLifeGet in touch with Patrick today!https://www.facebook.com/patrick.strevenshttps://www.instagram.com/selfcontrolpodcast/Listen on SpotifyListen on Apple Podcasts