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If you're in the middle of emotionally trying times, lost your job, death and grief over loved ones and failing relationships, we know emotional pain f*cking sucks! But what now? Sitting in these emotions forever isn't practical or healthy. So, what are the options? Bottle it up, push those feelings aside, and push through! You're hardcore, you're badass, nothing is going take you out. Just don't think about it, move on and get gritty. OR… Let the pain take over until you feel like a puddle of nothing. Everything feels hopeless, the pain is unbearable, and how could you ever smile again? Neither of these extremes are healthy ways to cope with your emotions, and as adults, if we're honest, the majority of us suck at processing emotions. We get angry and take it out on the people closest to us. We go to work sad and hurt over a fight with our partner, now we can't focus, productivity is low, and the quality of our work sucks. Susan David, Harvard medical school psychologist and author of the #1 WSJ bestseller, Emotional Agility, has some strategies we can all start implementing today to learn how to process our emotions in an effective and healthier way. Her core message is that “emotions are data, not directives.” We're facing some really challenging times ahead and we've been fighting and hoping for better days since pre-Covid. This conversation answers how to deal with the difficult thoughts and use emotions as data instead of allowing them to direct a story of you starring as the victim. You can have every valid reason to fuse with painful emotions, it doesn't mean they're helpful in the moment. Create space, observe what you're feeling, and identify the signpost. [Original air date: 7-19-22] Check out Susan David's book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life: https://amzn.to/3aHKw25 Check out Susan David's first Impact Theory Interview, Make Your Negative Thoughts Serve You: https://youtu.be/y8bwEgCcOXs SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Negative Thinking 4:06 | Unhealthy Ways We Face Emotions 13:30 | Identify Your Emotional Signposts 24:38 | Make Space for Emotional Confusion 39:15 | The Secret Weapon Against Tragedy 50:35 | Don't Allow Emotions to Write Your Story 1:11:01 | Strategies to Avoid Emotional Fusion What's up, everybody? It's Tom Bilyeu here: If you want my help... STARTING a business: join me here at ZERO TO FOUNDER SCALING a business: see if you qualify here. Get my battle-tested strategies and insights delivered weekly to your inbox: sign up here. If you're serious about leveling up your life, I urge you to check out my new podcast, Tom Bilyeu's Mindset Playbook —a goldmine of my most impactful episodes on mindset, business, and health. Trust me, your future self will thank you. Join me live on my Twitch stream. I'm live daily from 6:30 to 8:30 am PT at www.twitch.tv/tombilyeu LISTEN TO IMPACT THEORY AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/impacttheory FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/tombilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Karla Merza: How Poor Communication By Leaders Can Destroy an Agile Team Read the full Show Notes and search through the world's largest audio library on Scrum directly on the Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast website: http://bit.ly/SMTP_ShowNotes. Karla shares a story of a team struggling with internal conflicts caused by poor communication around promotions. This lack of transparency led to disengagement and frustration among team members. Karla emphasizes the importance of collaboration between leaders and Scrum Masters to ensure clear communication and maintain team morale. Featured Book of the Week: "Emotional Agility" by Susan David Karla recommends "Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life" by Susan David, a book that helped her as a technical person to understand the emotional side of work. The book explores how to navigate emotions effectively in leadership and personal growth. It has been instrumental in Karla's journey, teaching her how different leadership styles can either empower or hinder teams. [The Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast Recommends]

Estaremos a educar as crianças para serem corajosas e assertivas? De que modo aceitam as organizações pessoas com estas características? O que tem a coragem a ver com autoridade?Coragem é agir de acordo com os nossos princípios e saber dizer 'não', aceitando as consequências que daí advêm. Assertividade é a coragem social, manter a nossa posição sem atacar o outro, ser capaz de ouvir e respeitar o outro e manter a nossa posição.A psicóloga Ana Moniz garante que estas duas características estão interligadas e explica que ambas se relacionam com a autoridade, com o poder e com o conhecimento que temos sobre determinado assunto: quanto maior este é, mais capazes somos de ser assertivos.Contudo, o respeito pela autoridade que temos interiorizado afeta a noção de risco pessoal: quanto mais distantes estamos do poder, menor é a capacidade que temos para o questionar.O último episódio com a especialista vai debruçar-se sobre este tema, apoiando-se nos estudos e casos referidos na sua obra «Este livro não é para fracos».REFERÊNCIAS E LINKS ÚTEISCarlo Strenger, «O medo da insignificância - Como dar sentido às nossas vidas no Século XXI» (Lua de Papel)Barbara Ehrenreich, «Smile or Die - How Positive Thinking Fooled America and the World» (Granta Books)Brenée Brown, «Daring Greatly - How Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead» (Avery)Susan David, «Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life» (Penguin Life)David Dias Neto, «Psicoterapia - A Cura pelo Diálogo» (Edições Sílabo)Amy C. Edmondson, «The Fearless Organization: Creating Psychological Safety in the Workplace for Learning, Innovation, and Growth» (Wiley)Thomas Curran, «The Perfection Trap: The Power of Good Enough In A World That Always Wants More» (Cornerstone Press)Ana Moniz, «Este livro não é para fracos» (Planeta)HR CONGRESS WORLD SUMMIT, «The Fearless Organization»BIOSHUGO VAN DER DINGNasceu numa praia de Saint-Jean-de-Luz, nos Pirenéus Atlânticos, filho de um pastor belga e de mãe argentina de quem se perdeu o rasto pouco depois. Dedicou-se, nos primeiros anos, ao negócio de pastorícia da família até fugir para Bayonne, onde completou o curso dos liceus.ANA MONIZPsicoterapeuta de adultos e adolescentes, e professora convidada na Nova SBE. É executive e team coach, certificada pela ACTIVISION, formadora na Associação Portuguesa de Terapias Cognitivas, Comportamentais e Integrativas, atuando também em contexto organizacional nas áreas comportamentais.

Grande parte do nosso dia-a-dia é passado no local de trabalho. Está estipulado um horário de trabalho de 8 horas diárias, mas, não raras as vezes, estende-se às 10 ou 12 horas.Em Portugal, trabalha-se muitas horas e a profissão continua a ser grande parte da nossa identidade. Por ocupar um lugar tão extenso da nossa vida, o emprego é também o local onde muitos problemas de saúde mental são identificados com cada vez maior frequência.Estão as organizações atentas à saúde mental dos seus trabalhadores? E como estão a enfrentar o problema?A psicóloga Ana Moniz alerta que as organizações ainda lidam com estas questões de modo deficiente. Poucas se preocupam com o bem-estar no local de trabalho e quando o fazem colocam o ónus nos colaboradores. Por exemplo, disponibilizam consultas de psicologia ou cursos de mindfulness, mas não aliviam a pressão de prazos ou o volume de trabalho para as equipas, tantas vezes subdimensionadas, acrescenta.A forma como se exerce a liderança tem impacto na maneira como os colaboradores se relacionam. E a tolerância a humilhações e às ironias (mais ou menos subtis) ainda são ‘prática da casa' aceitáveis, explica.O excesso de pressão faz com que muitas pessoas não vivam plenamente as outras facetas da sua vida, pelo que a única solução é mudar o próprio sistema. Como? As respostas são dadas neste episódio que junta a psicoterapeuta Ana Moniz e o comunicador Hugo van der Ding.REFERÊNCIAS E LINKS ÚTEISCarlo Strenger, «O medo da insignificância - Como dar sentido às nossas vidas no Século XXI» (Lua de Papel)Barbara Ehrenreich, «Smile or Die - How Positive Thinking Fooled America and the World» (Granta Books)Brenée Brown, «Daring Greatly - How Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead» (Avery)Susan David, «Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life» (Penguin Life)David Dias Neto, «Psicoterapia - A Cura pelo Diálogo» (Edições Sílabo)Amy C. Edmondson, «The Fearless Organization: Creating Psychological Safety in the Workplace for Learning, Innovation, and Growth» (Wiley)Thomas Curran, «The Perfection Trap: The Power of Good Enough In A World That Always Wants More» (Cornerstone Press)Ana Moniz, «Este livro não é para fracos» (Planeta) HR CONGRESS WORLD SUMMIT, «The Fearless Organization»BIOSHUGO VAN DER DINGNasceu numa praia de Saint-Jean-de-Luz, nos Pirenéus Atlânticos, filho de um pastor belga e de mãe argentina de quem se perdeu o rasto pouco depois. Dedicou-se, nos primeiros anos, ao negócio de pastorícia da família até fugir para Bayonne, onde completou o curso dos liceus.ANA MONIZPsicoterapeuta de adultos e adolescentes, e professora convidada na Nova SBE. É executive e team coach, certificada pela ACTIVISION, formadora na Associação Portuguesa de Terapias Cognitivas, Comportamentais e Integrativas, atuando também em contexto organizacional nas áreas comportamentais.

Hello CoCreators! This week on the podcast we're talking about the importance of personal transformation and why it needs to happen before organizational transformation can happen. This is something La'Kita has been talking about for years and we heard over and over from participants the Culture Crash Course just how impactful understanding this was, so we're sharing it with you!Mentioned in today's epsiode:Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan DavidConnect: Building Exceptional Relationships with Family, Friends, and Colleagues by David Bradford Ph.D. and Carole Robin Ph.D. 6 Key Levers of a Successful Organizational Transformation by Andrew White, Michael Wheelock, Adam Canwell, and Michael SmetsResources:Our next session of the Culture Crash Course is currently open for enrollment with the course starting on April 29th and running through May 10th. For more information, please visit cocreatework.com/crashcourse. Enroll today!Additionally, we will be launching our CoCreate Work Leadership Book Club on May 1st. Registration is now open!Rolling admission is now open for The Culture Certification from CoCreate Work. The Culture Certification is an 18-week live, virtual intensive that empowers human-centered leaders with actionable strategies to shape the future of work in any organization.Are you ready to learn the step by step process for building great culture?! You can learn more here!Our Shared Purpose, Mission, and Principles Audit is a great opportunity for you to make sure you have the compass you need to provide purpose-driven direction, create an inclusive culture, engage team members, and make purpose-aligned decisions.At CoCreate Work, we believe in asking great questions. Click here to receive our guide to 40 Powerful Questions to accelerate your growth.Check out our hiring course, Hiring the Right Team for Your Business, and be sure to subscribe to our email list so you'll know when it's available for purchase.We would love to connect with you!CoCreate Work on InstagramLa'Kita on InstagramChloe on InstagramVisit our Podcast PageQuestions you would like us to answer on the podcast? email us at podcast@cocreatework.com

Hello CoCreators! On this week's episode we are talking all about communication including how communication impacts culture, why effective communication is so important, strategies for improving your personal communication, and finally, systems-level solutions for improving your organization's communication! We go deep and include insights, statistics, strategies, and tools to enhance both personal and organizational effectiveness. Resources from today's episode:Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan DavidGetting Along: How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People) by Amy GallowConnect: Building Exceptional Relationships with Family, Friends, and Colleagues by David Bradford and Carole RobinRadical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity by Kim ScottInclusion on Purpose: An Intersectional Approach to Creating a Culture of Belonging at Work by Ruchika TulshyanP.S. We mentioned that we would include a resource for facilitating a retrospective, but it turns out we don't have a podcast episode with that information in it…yet. We cover retrospectives in one of the lessons in the Culture Crash Course and you can get access to our free limited series where we talk about additional tools and strategies for supporting culture here. Resources:Our next session of the Culture Crash Course is currently open for enrollment with the course starting on April 29th and running through May 10th. For more information, please visit cocreatework.com/crashcourse. Early bird pricing is available through April 16th. Enroll today!Additionally, we will be launching our CoCreate Work Leadership Book Club on May 1st. Stay tuned for more details! Rolling admission is now open for The Culture Certification from CoCreate Work. The Culture Certification is an 18-week live, virtual intensive that empowers human-centered leaders with actionable strategies to shape the future of work in any organization.Are you ready to learn the step by step process for building great culture?! You can learn more here!Our Shared Purpose, Mission, and Principles Audit is a great opportunity for you to make sure you have the compass you need to provide purpose-driven direction, create an inclusive culture, engage team members, and make purpose-aligned decisions.At CoCreate Work, we believe in asking great questions. Click here to receive our guide to 40 Powerful Questions to accelerate your growth.Check out our hiring course, Hiring the Right Team for Your Business, and be sure to subscribe to our email list so you'll know when it's available for purchase.We would love to connect with you!CoCreate Work on InstagramLa'Kita on InstagramChloe on InstagramVisit our Podcast PageQuestions you would like us to answer on the podcast? email us at podcast@cocreatework.com

Habits play an essential role in our lifestyle as well as our success. This episode empowers your SUCCESS from the inside out with habits that will optimize your time, energy, and vision. Consistency + discipline are the keys to ACTIVATION. Get ready to discover… Why optimized ENERGY is the source of more time + how to increase yours Ways to keep your brain and spirit curious for true wealth + knowledge How to move through life with more flow  How to create an environment that enhances your focus + concentration Self-care practices to ANCHOR your achievements BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS: Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell  Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan David Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport Let me know how this episode impacted you via IG in the comments, DMs + story shares, and tag @roxylook + @blackbeltbeauty  -- I LOVE connecting with you.  Are you loving The Roxanne Show? We would LOVE your support!  Subscribe, share + give our podcast a 5 Star rating, and review HERE My team and I deeply appreciate your support! Enjoy!  xRx RESOURCES Download my FREE guided Future Self meditation + digital journal here to start powerfully activating a clear connection with your highest + Future Self NOW ✨ QUEEN, TRYING HARD BIG BUT FEELING STUCK? Let's unleash that potent reality you've been fantasizing about or trying hard to achieve but can't seem to make it happen. Your Future Self isn't just a far-off idea—it's your unclaimed power, Queen. My Future Self digital course is your KEY to Self-Empowerment, Reality Creation, and unshakable Wholeness. This course isn't about temporary fixes; it's about lasting transformation. LEARN MORE ON THE COURSE HERE STAY CONNECTED WITH ROXANNE SAFFAIE  ️INSTAGRAM: @roxylook @blackbeltbeauty  TWITTER: @roxylook THREADS: @roxylook YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/blackbeltbeauty Download my FREE SELF-LOVE Masterclass + take your SELF-LOVE to UNCONDITIONAL levels! Click HERE to join my INSIDER list for monthly emails that serve empowering support laced with FEMININE fire.

ONCE UPON A GENE - EPISODE 184 More of Everything - How I Became a Better Parent to My Child With Extreme Special Needs By Lifting My Emotional Burdens With SYNGAP1 Mom - Janie Reade Janie Reade is an author and mom to three adult sons, one with a severe neurodevelopmental disorder caused by a mutation in the SYNGAP1 gene. We'll talk about her unique perspective as a parent and also about her book, More of Everything: How I Became a Better Parent to My Child with Extreme Special Needs by Lifting My Emotional Burdens. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS Tell us about yourself and your family. I am married with three adult sons. Joey is our second child and he lives in a group home. When he was younger, he wasn't developing as he should and started biting his hand. When he was little, he wasn't hurting himself, but as he aged stress made biting worse and there was little I could do to help. After he went to a group home, he stopped biting a couple days later.  Can you talk about your book? The goal of the book was to show who I am and how I think. The first portion of the book is a series of vignettes starting at age four, going through age 21. At the end of each is a looking back section where I summarize about that time and a lesson section about my takeaways. I also talk later in the book about acceptance and frustration. Finally, I talk about parent coaching, which is what I do. Growing up with Joey, did either of your other two sons grow up and go into a compassionate-led career? No, but they're both very compassionate and emotionally-aware people. My oldest son volunteered as a peer counselor when he was in high school. It was a way for him to talk to people and help them through problems. He has a very emotionally deep soul. My youngest son has always been very inclusive and a connector of people. After Joey moved and I was very sad, my oldest son told me that our family was a group project and that, just like in a group project, we had to do what was best for everyone. How did you find community support and what did it change for you? I tried support groups and they weren't a good fit due to the severe intellectual disability my son has. When he was younger, I was told he would catch up, so I didn't fit in an intellectual disability group either. I didn't find people for a long time.  LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED The Two Disabled Dudes Podcast - Episode 215 – Birthday Parties Can Be Tough https://twodisableddudes.com/215-birthday-parties-can-be-tough-with-guest-host-effie-parks/ The Disorder Channel https://www.thedisordercollection.com/ Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Agility-Unstuck-Embrace-Change/dp/1592409490 More of Everything: How I Became a Better Parent to My Child with Extreme Special Needs by Lifting My Emotional Burdens https://www.amazon.com/More-Everything-extreme-special-emotional-ebook/dp/B0BQ2C7HNL Janie Reade Website https://janiereade.com/ TUNE INTO THE ONCE UPON A GENE PODCAST Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5Htr9lt5vXGG3ac6enxLQ7 Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/once-upon-a-gene/id1485249347 Stitcher https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/once-upon-a-gene Overcast https://overcast.fm/itunes1485249347/once-upon-a-gene CONNECT WITH EFFIE PARKS Website https://effieparks.com/ Twitter https://twitter.com/OnceUponAGene Instagram https://www.instagram.com/onceuponagene.podcast/?hl=en Built Ford Tough Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1877643259173346/ Interested in advertising on Once Upon a Gene? Email advertising@bloodstreammedia.com for more information!

ONCE UPON A GENE - EPISODE 177 Real Rare Mama Shop Talk - Deciding What We Share About Our Lives and Recognizing How Far We've Come with Each Passing Year with Alyssa Poskarbiewicz CHARGE Syndrome Mom Alyssa Poskarbiewicz is a mom to a daughter Lenny, who has CHARGE syndrome. I actually got to meet her in person last spring and she's beautiful inside and out. I think you'll enjoy our conversation, but also go on to listen to all the past Once Upon a Gene episodes, especially the once-monthly storytelling episodes, which Alyssa has contributed to. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS What are your concerns and how do you decide what to share about Lenny online? It's personal for everybody. There are times that I feel a need to share personally and times when I pull back. Interestingly, people will often reach out when I'm not sharing to make sure everything is okay. I wasn't someone to share personal things before, but I needed a different level of support and this journey looked different than it did when I had my first child. I didn't have friends with children in the NICU or born with serious medical concerns. I didn't know anyone with a personal experience with a rare genetic disease. I used social media to seek out resources, podcasts and communities, which has been helpful to me and allowed me to open up more.  How do you move through situations or moments when people make comments that bother you? This is a practice and it takes time to get here. I started trauma and processing therapy last fall and I've found it to be tremendously helpful because I was very easily triggered by hurtful comments before. I have made a lot of progress in letting comments slide, but I'm still working towards this practice that really depends on whether or not I'm in a good place and how my daughter is doing at the time. Sometimes I can brush things off and sometimes things strike me and I need to vent and talk through my feelings.  Can you talk more about the type of trauma therapy you do and what you've taken away from it? When we were in the NICU, we were assigned a therapist and I first connected with her. She would come in casually to talk through the diagnosis and things coming up in the hospital. She would also come in to talk with us at subsequent hospital stays. She recommended trauma therapy to me, so I found a therapist. We started with EMDR- reprocessing because I was experiencing a lot of PTSD. We did several sessions of EMDR, which I found to be helpful. Then we moved on to general processing, talking through things, processing emotions and moving forward. LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED ONCE UPON A GENE - Episode 139 - Remember Who You Are https://effieparks.com/podcast/139-remember-who-you-are Courageous Parents Network https://courageousparentsnetwork.org/ Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Agility-Unstuck-Embrace-Change/dp/1592409490 TUNE INTO THE ONCE UPON A GENE PODCAST Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5Htr9lt5vXGG3ac6enxLQ7 Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/once-upon-a-gene/id1485249347 Stitcher https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/once-upon-a-gene Overcast https://overcast.fm/itunes1485249347/once-upon-a-gene CONNECT WITH EFFIE PARKS Website https://effieparks.com/ Twitter https://twitter.com/OnceUponAGene Instagram https://www.instagram.com/onceuponagene.podcast/?hl=en Built Ford Tough Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1877643259173346/ Interested in advertising on Once Upon a Gene? Email advertising@bloodstreammedia.com for more information!

Susan David is one of the world's leading management thinkers and an award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist. Her TED Talk on the topic of emotional agility has been seen by more than 10 million people, and her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life, is a #1 Wall Street Journal bestseller. Full show notes: https://maxlugavere.com/podcast/263

I'm excited to welcome Susan David, Ph.D. to the podcast. Susan is one of the world's leading management thinkers, award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist, host of the podcast Checking In with Susan David, and author of the #1 Wall Street Journal bestseller Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. Her TED Talk on emotional agility has been seen by more than 10 million people, making it one of the most popular talks of the year, and she frequently contributes to publications like the New York Times, the Washington Post, and the Wall Street Journal. On this episode, we talk about:  a simple exercise to help when you feel stuck in a difficult emotion or experience  a surprising way toxic positivity manifests (and how to avoid it) how to become emotionally resilient in the face of things that aren't in your control (like a pandemic, politics, climate change, chronic illnesses, etc.) how to identify what YOUR values actually are (versus your parents' or society's values)  how to make your life more aligned with your values why emotions like anger, loneliness, grief, and sadness can actually be beneficial  research-based practices for navigating grief  the first step to take if you're feeling lonely  a practice everyone can do today to become more courageous  what to do if you feel like your dream life isn't available to you and so much more! We would LOVE to hear from you any thoughts, reactions, or takeaways you have as you're listening, so definitely screenshot and tag me @lizmoody and Susan @susandavid_phd on Instagram.  To join the Healthier Together Podcast Club Facebook group, go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthiertogetherpodcast. This episode is sponsored by Seed. You can get 15% off your first month's supply of Seed's DS-01™ Daily Synbiotic by going to https://seed.com/daily-synbiotic and using the code LIZMOODY.  This episode is sponsored by Paleovalley. Head over to paleovalley.com and use the code LIZM for 15% off. This episode is sponsored by MUD/WTR. Go to mudwtr.com/lizm and use code LIZM for 15% off your order. This episode is sponsored by Ava Jane's Kitchen Colima Sea Salt. Go to HealthierTogetherSalt.com to get your first bag of Colima Sea Salt for free.  Healthier Together cover art by Zack. Healthier Together music by Alex Ruimy.

Get 15% OFF your first year at Impact Theory University. https://www.impacttheoryuniversity.com/YouTube15 Check out our sponsor:Athletic Greens: Go to athleticgreens.com/impact and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! On Today's Episode: If you're in the middle of emotionally trying times, lost your job, death and grief over loved ones and failing relationships, we know emotional pain f*cking sucks! But what now? Sitting in these emotions forever isn't practical or healthy. So, what are the options?Bottle it up, push those feelings aside, and push through! You're hardcore, you're badass, nothing is going take you out. Just don't think about it, move on and get gritty.OR…Let the pain take over until you feel like a puddle of nothing. Everything feels hopeless, the pain is unbearable, and how could you ever smile again?Neither of these extremes are healthy ways to cope with your emotions, and as adults, if we're honest, the majority of us suck at processing emotions. We get angry and take it out on the people closest to us. We go to work sad and hurt over a fight with our partner, now we can't focus, productivity is low, and the quality of our work sucks.Susan David, Harvard medical school psychologist and author of the #1 WSJ bestseller, Emotional Agility, has some strategies we can all start implementing today to learn how to process our emotions in an effective and healthier way. Her core message is that “emotions are data, not directives.”We're facing some really challenging times ahead and we've been fighting and hoping for better days since pre-Covid. This conversation answers how to deal with the difficult thoughts and use emotions as data instead of allowing them to direct a story of you starring as the victim.You can have every valid reason to fuse with painful emotions, it doesn't mean they're helpful in the moment. Create space, observe what you're feeling, and identify the signpost.Check out Susan David's book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life: https://amzn.to/3aHKw25 Check out Susan David's first Impact Theory Interview, Make Your Negative Thoughts Serve You: https://youtu.be/y8bwEgCcOXs SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction to Negative Thinking4:06 | Unhealthy Ways We Face Emotions13:30 | Identify Your Emotional Signposts24:38 | Make Space for Emotional Confusion39:15 | The Secret Weapon Against Tragedy50:35 | Don't Allow Emotions to Write Your Story1:11:01 | Strategies to Avoid Emotional FusionQUOTES:“The difficult emotions feel really tough, but what they are pointing to, what they are signposting, is often something that we care about…” [1:16]“The reality of life is that beauty and fragility hold hands with one another.” [3:39]“There is a world of difference between being stubborn versus being stupid.” [9:01]“When we ignore those difficult emotions we also turn ourselves away from the ability to adapt and to be effective in our lives.” [9:44]“It is not about getting hooked on the difficult emotion, but rather recognizing that our emotions are data [...] they signpost things that we care about, but they are not directives.” [23:28]“We deal with the uncertainty by becoming more adept with emotions.” [30:52]“If you don't have your values in place, you won't ever risk tragedy because all you can see is that tragedy was bad, [...] but if you have a value system that mandates you risk tragedy then it becomes worth it.” [41:13] Tom Bilyeu“The true tragedy is when we don't know what our values are, and when we are literally risking our lives...” [48:51]“We are learning from our emotions so we can step into the wisdom of our values, and that's why emotions are data and not directives.” [59:14]“Acceptance is a prerequisite to change, [...] Acceptance is about facing into the truth of your experience and the truth of your difficult situation.” [1:09:48]“Preparing for connection happens when you connect with yourself.” [1:33:13]Follow Susan David:Website: https://www.susandavid.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SusanDavid_PhD Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/susandavidphd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susandavid_phd/

Emotional experiences stick with people, last longer in their memories, and are easier to recall. And extensive neuroscience research in recent decades makes clear that emotions are essential in our reasoning process: Strong emotions can pull us off course, but in general, emotions support better decision making. So, while you'll want to avoid triggering a threat response, don't try to remove all emotion from your relating. That can diminish the impact of your presence and lead to a cycle of ineffective behavior. Instead, aim for a balance: express just enough emotion to engage the other person but not so much that you provoke a hostile or defensive reaction, shut down the conversation, or damage the relationship. Of course, we may not know how another person will respond to our emotions, and when we are in the grip of strong feelings, it's hard to calibrate how we express them in conversation. The solution is to practice. By having more aware and mindful conversations, we learn not only how specific individuals respond to us, but also how we express our emotions in helpful and unhelpful ways. Practical episode outcomes: Learn skills to manage emotions constructively, and learn how to use your emotions constructively Calendly: https://calendly.com/ericakelechi (Book a 15-minute complimentary consultation) Affirmations: https://instagram.com/youraffirmationsdaily(for your daily affirmations) References · Baldwin, K., 2019. What Is The Golden Mean in Philosophy? |Mere Liberty. [online] Mere Liberty. Available at: https://mereliberty.com/philosophy/golden-mean-philosophy/#:~:text=The%20Golden%20Mean%20is%20a,is%20known%20as%20Virtue%20Ethics. · Cabanac, Michel (2002). “What is emotion?” Behavioral Processes 60 (2): 69-83. “[E]motion is any mental experience with high intensity and high hedonic content (pleasure/displeasure).” · Cram.com.2020. Explain Aristotle's Theory of The Golden Mean. [online] Available at: https://www.cram.com/essay/Explain-Aristotles-Theory-Of-The-Golden-Mean/FKHSJMSY7MQW#google_vignette · David, S., 2016. Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. Avery. Ecmmagonline.co.uk.2021.[online]Available at: https://www.ecmmagonline.co.uk/images/toolkit/20%20August%202019/p47-Diagram.jpg · Emotional Intelligence: Why It Matters More than IQ, by Daniel Goleman, 1996 · Freedman, J.,2000. What Are Emotions?. Six Seconds. Available at: https://www.6seconds.org/2000/06/25/what-are-emotions/ · Raypole, C., 2020. How to Control Your Emotions: 11 Strategies to Try. [online] Healthline. Available at: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-control-your-emotions · Skillsyouneed.com.2021. Recognizing and Managing Emotions | SkillsYouNeed. [online] Available at: https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ps/managing-emotions.html · Positivepsychology.com.2021. [online] Available at: --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Each of us possesses unique abilities. My guest for today's episode believes that we all have a fundamental right to use our ability to contribute to a higher cause than ourselves, something that goes beyond economic gain. He envisions a society in which the vast majority of individuals wake up inspired, feel at ease in their surroundings, and end the day feeling gratified by the work they do. He believes that leaders will aid us in achieving this objective. Also, he mentors and supports leaders from all walks of life committed to putting their people and mission first. Stephen Shedletzky, speaker, executive coach, and advisor, joins us to share his wisdom on leadership, culture, and, more significantly, how he assists leaders in hearing and nurturing the voice of others.Stephen's Story –  Shed initiates the conversation by sharing his core beliefs that guide his career and personal life.Toxic Positivity – We do not have to enjoy every part of the day to love it. Mentioning that Shed explains the concept of toxic positivity. Blind Faith and Optimism – Shed differentiates between blind faith and optimism. Moreover, he emphasizes the critical nature of hope in our lives.Culture - If your workplace has a toxic, detrimental culture, your commute will deteriorate. Shed expresses his views on culture by stating that.Manager vs. Family Doctor – Shed believes that our relationship with our immediate supervisor impacts our health more than our relationship with our family physician. With that, he emphasizes the importance of maintaining a positive work environment.Multi-Directional Power – Even if you have wonderful, well-intentioned, high-performing, and trustworthy leaders, Shed discusses the critical role of middle management. Leadership  – Shed shares his ideas on leaders and leadership in a mind-blowing manner, elucidating why too many leaders in roles are more drivers than leaders.Leading Yourself - You cannot lead others effectively unless you understand and practice authentic leadership. Shed outlines several excellent practices that you can integrate into yourself.SpeakUp Culture – Defining the SpeakUp culture as the culture where leaders foster an environment where people feel comfortable raising their hands, sharing their thoughts, concerns, and even disagreement, Shed dives deep into that concept. Listening – Sharing his personal experience, Shed explains why he believes listening with compassion and sincerity is the key to making people feel important.Step 12 – Shed discusses the importance of giving away, referring to humans as service-based animals.Coming Soon – Shed shares about the book he is currently working on, in which he discusses why leaders must genuinely listen if they want people to step up. Resources:Connect with Stephen:LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/stephenshedletzky/Mentioned in the episode: Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life: goodreads.com/book/show/27209485-emotional-agility?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=wPwZIMF2Uz&rank=1Man's Search for Meaning: goodreads.com/book/show/4069.Man_s_Search_for_Meaning?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=klhMtrLKLq&rank=1White Right: Meeting The Enemy: deeyah.com/blog/white-right-meeting-enemy/

WE APPRECIATE OUR PARTNERS. CHECK THEM OUT!Powerhouse Mushrooms: https://lifecykel.com, use code ASPREY25 to save 25%Track Your Health: https://info.insidetracker.com/dave, sign up to get your promo code for 25% off storewideSupplement Bioavailability: https://www.quicksilverscientific.com, use code DAVE15 to save 15% on your first order IN THIS EPISODE OF BULLLETPROOF RADIO...…you'll learn that being adaptive to change is a skill you can cultivate. One of the most sustainable ways to keep going with the flow is knowing how to build emotional awareness. These two guests give tips on managing your emotional states so you can be more resilient in all areas of your life.Expert psychologist, trainer and speaker Joan Rosenberg, Ph.D., guides yoou to achieve your highest potential by teaching you how to be in control of your own emotions. Award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist Susan David, Ph.D., describes all the psychological skills necessary for you to thrive in uncertain times. She challenges the common attitude that you have to “fix” your difficult emotions through positive thinking. “Emotional agility is about the capacity to be with ourselves,” Susan says. “That includes our difficult thoughts and emotions and stories and past experiences in a way that's compassionate and curious and that doesn't hold us back from being the people that we most want to be.”Since you can't get away from emotions, there's power in knowing how to deal with them. “We've got to be able to reconnect with ourselves so that we can move forward in the world,” Susan says.Get ready to learn some foundational skills that will make you an emotional agility pro.About Joan: The author of “90 Seconds to a Life You Love: How to Master Your Difficult Feelings to Cultivate Lasting Confidence, Resilience, and Authenticity,” teaches you how to be in control of your own emotions.Joan guides you through eight unpleasant feelings she's pinpointed: sadness, shame, helplessness, anger, vulnerability, embarrassment, disappointment and frustration. She says the best way to approach these feelings is with confrontation and empathy.“The single most important thing I can do is to recognize someone's pain, and just in essence, hold a mirror up to it, even if it sounds like you're saying the things that are so obvious,” Joan says. “It has a huge impact of calming someone else's nervous system down.”About Susan: She's the author of “Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life,” based on 20 years of research of how to get through uncertainty “For people to be healthy with themselves, with the inner worlds, these are not soft skills,” Susan says. “These are the most fundamental skills that we can have as human beings.” See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Whether you're the kind of person who “gets in their feels” or you're more the type to sweep things under the rug, all humans experience emotions. And the way we tend to those emotions directly affects the way we see our lives, says today's guest, Susan David. She is a psychologist and author of the book “Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life” (Avery, 2016). In today's episode, Susan explains how “emotional agility”--a process that enables us to navigate life's twists and turns--, powers self-acceptance, and gives tips on how to cultivate our agility to lead more meaningful, successful lives. You can hear more from Susan on her TED Audio Collective podcast “Checking In with Susan David” streaming wherever you are listening to this. To learn more about "How to Be a Better Human," host Chris Duffy, or find footnotes and additional resources, please visit: go.ted.com/betterhuman

If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co .And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How to set boundaries for yourselfShould you work or teach for free?People want conversations, they don't want campaignsHow do you decide to engage with someone who asks something of you?System 1 vs System 2 thinkingShould you be taking your clothes off and jumping around on said piece of fitness equipment?Brain healthBeing willing to fail, and learning from it - doing your “reps”Constant prioritizationSmoke and mirrors References/Links:Dr. Susan David, “Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life” Brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF)Level Up MVMTErika Quest's Bio:I used to sell cheeseburgers, true story…As a self-proclaimed “Certified La Pistola” I've been in the international fitness, wellness and Pilates education business for over 16 years travelling and speaking worldwide. I help instructors Level Up their programming, movement and coaching skills through creative curriculum development, research backed strategies and user-friendly plug and play formats.Find me worldwide and virtual as premier presenter at many fitness and wellness conferences including Pilates on Tour, Pilates Method Alliance, IDEA®, ACSM, SCW, AFC, Pilates in Asia and many more.And yes, I'm a former corporate marketer who specialized in fast food clients and I left the biz and took a BIG LEAP into studio ownership, freelance marketing and much more in 2005. My joy is creating community, championing and supporting others and delivering my passion of Pilates and integrated movement. NCPT Certified, Balanced Body® Master Instructor, FAI Trained, BASI™ Graduate, BOSU Elite Master Trainer.If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebook LinkedInSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

"We've got to take ownership of our leadership with our people because we're leading people." Kiki Kirby   People are at the heart of what Kiki does. As this episode was recorded at the beginning of summer (UK) Kiki and I kick off chatting about the importance of taking rest - not just during the summer but on a daily basis. Kiki has overcome many things in life - her mother died when she was 13, she suffered from burnout at work and is a cancer survivor. In this episode she shares some reflections on these life events and also how she incorporates them into the work she does now. Reflection, she says, is one of the most under-utilised and underused success tools. Kiki is so open and generous with what she shares about how she has evolved and continues to evolve. She admits "I've probably made work the idol of my life at many times." Have you?    Kiki Kirby has developed a methodology that frames and structures the work we do, to help bring clarity to the chaos of any people-related situation. With a successful corporate career in HR and recruitment, Kiki has seen her fair share of people challenges. Having worked for over a decade in consultancy, coaching and recruitment, her whole career has been about people at various stages of their professional lives. Kiki is a heart-centred business and life coach.    Connect with Kiki Her consultancy business website  Her coaching business website On LinkedIn    Resources Mentioned: Helen Joy @ PeopleSpark Susan David TED Talk  and her book Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life

In this episode of State Street, the crew continues their journey with Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan David. State Street Socials Instagram: statestreetpod Twitter: @statestreetpod Facebook: State Street Podcast Intro/Outro District Four by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3662-district-four License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In this episode of State Street, the crew begins a new journey with Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan David. They discuss first thoughts, what exactly is emotional agility, and how negative emotions aren't actually bad for you. State Street Socials Instagram: statestreetpod Twitter: @statestreetpod Facebook: State Street Podcast Intro/Outro District Four by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3662-district-four License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

It doesn't feel good to feel sad, depressed, annoyed, or frustrated. But one of the worst things we can do is resist those emotions and let them impact us and the people around us. Research shows that when we hide from our emotions and don't allow ourselves to feel them, anxiety and depression levels go up and resiliency goes down. In this week's episode, we explore Susan David's book, “Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life.” You'll learn now to notice the many emotions you're having at any given time, use those feelings as data, and live a life aligned with your values. Please go HERE for this episode's show notes. Tweet me your biggest takeaways from the episode at @KariGormley -- I'd love to hear from you! This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and solely as a self-help tool for your own use. I am not providing medical, psychological, or nutrition therapy advice. You should not use this information to diagnose or treat any health problems or illnesses without consulting your own medical practitioner. Always seek the advice of your own medical practitioner and/or mental health provider about your specific health situation. For my full Disclaimer, please go to www.karigormley.com/disclaimer.

Emotions are a part of life. Some people avoid and bury their emotions while others get stuck and ruminate on their emotions. Neither approach is healthy and productive. In this episode, we learn what emotions actually are, the importance of allowing ourselves to experience all emotions, and we discover how to manage our emotional experience in order to be resilient and thrive. Links and Resources from this episode: Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan David How Emotions are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain by Lisa Feldman Barrett More ideas to help you flourish can be found at WorkingMomsBalance.com Find me on Instagram at @TracyKulwicki --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tracy-kulwicki/support

Life throws us many twists and turns you can plan and prepare but that doesn't guarantee that there won't be a curveball that knocks you off your feet. When it does, how do you feel, how do you respond? On this episode, Deloitte chief well-being officer Jen Fisher discusses emotional agility with Dr. Susan David, an award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist and author of the Wall Street Journal best-selling book Emotional Agility—Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive In Work and Life.

We all know that the COVID-19 virus is spreading at an alarming rate, but fear and panic can spread even faster. Fortunately, there are steps we can take right now to boost our emotional response to the never ending anxiety, fear and panic created by this pandemic. Research finds that we tend to be influenced by other peoples' behaviors and emotions and we might even copy them. While this might not be a problem most of the time, it can be really unhelpful during a crisis. For many of us one of the major challenges we have to manage during the global pandemic is simply our ability to deal with the uncertainty and emotional turmoil the pandemic creates. In this episode, we're thrilled to hear from Dr. Susan David, Harvard medical school psychologist and author of the best selling book "Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life". Susan will share her life's work, research and understanding of how we can deal with our emotional responses in an effective way, and what this really looks like in a global pandemic. She will also share strategies leaders can use at work to create an emotionally agile workforce and successfully navigate this very tricky time.

The way we navigate our inner thoughts in our everyday lives is the most important factor of our life success. Susan David is an award-winning psychologist and author of Emotional Agility. In this episode, Susan touches on the powerful process found within her book, which ultimately leads us to accept the existence of our circumstances and allows us to adapt and thrive in life regardless of who we are or whatever we face.Susan David's #1 Wall Street Journal Bestseller – Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life.Join over 100,000 quiz takers and get your free Emotional Agility report – EA QuizTedX – The gift and power of emotional courage | Susan David See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast.

Susan David (@susandavid_phd) is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School, co-founder and co-director of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital, CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, and author of Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. "Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life." -Susan David The Cheat Sheet: What is emotional agility? What's wrong with trying to force ourselves to be happy all the time? Is our society misguided by a tyranny of positivity today? Unpleasant and negative emotions actually serve a purpose -- but what is that purpose and how can we use it to our advantage? How do our thoughts, emotions, and stories hook us into responding ineffectively to life's challenges, and how can we break these patterns? Learn practical ways to develop our responses to adversity that leave us stronger and more capable. And so much more... Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/676/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! DesignCrowd helps startups and small businesses crowdsource custom graphics, logos, Web design -- even tattoo designs! Check out DesignCrowd.com/Charm for a special $100 VIP offer for our listeners or enter the discount code CHARM when posting a project. Want to spend less time shopping for insurance and take advantage of every possible discount? Visit meetamica.com/Forbes and find out why 95% of customers with combined auto and home policies stay with Amica! CastBox introduces an in-audio search capability that offers a brand new way to search for podcasts you may love based on words or topics. Download CastBox for iOS or Android now to try it out for yourself! Free yourself from typing notes, reports, and documents by going with the transcriptionists we trust here at AoC: TranscriptionOutsourcing.net -- 99% or higher accuracy guaranteed! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

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It's the most commonly believed lie. It will make you lose all your money. It'll make you wake up in your 40's or 50's and wonder what you're going to do about retirement. It will make you develop your worst possible habits.   For me, it was drinking. And waking up face to floor. I was ugliest when I was unhappy. That's true for everyone.   Unless you hide it with plastic surgery and cocaine.   The point is I care about myself now. And not a lot of people say that.   But it's important.   I should care about me more than anyone else... even my daughters. But sometimes I mess up. Sometimes I love them more than me.   Even on airplanes, they say, "Put your mask on before assisting others." If you put a mask on your baby before you put a mask on yourself, your baby will never know who you could've been.   If I don't put my oxygen mask on first everyday, then my kids, my friends, everyone I meet, won't know who I really am.   They won't know me at my best. They'll know me passed out on the floor because I tried starving myself for three days (it was a fast. I was trying to detox my body. Again this goes back to caring about yourself. Molly, Josie, I swear, I had good intentions.)   Let me get back to the most commonly believed lie.   It's called the sunk cost fallacy. This is when you stick to what you're doing because you already invested your whole life in it.   For example, you won't quit your job (the job you hate) because that's what you went to college for or because you've been doing it for 20 years and change is scary.   I studied computer science. I went to graduate school for it.   But now I do what I love. Because I gave up.   I had to give up on life's little stresses and jump head first into an even bigger stress. It took me one step closer to bottom. And one step closer to the lifeboat.   I have a friend. She's 52. Or 53, divorced. She has a "low-level" job. Or that's what she says.   She thinks her goals are out of reach. She says, "I can't do it." And she believes it. So I asked my friend Susan David, (she's a Ph.D) "How can you help someone like that? How can you help someone struggling with life's circumstances?"   But I was asking the wrong question. Because she told me the stress people experience everyday isn't (usually) caused by massive life events.   "There's a particular kind of stress that, in psychology, we call allostatic stress," Susan said, "It's the everyday stress."   I was interviewing her about her book, "Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life."   She gave 50 or 100 tips to do exactly what the subtitle of her book says, "Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life."   1) Accept it "Accept that you aren't where you want to be," Susan said. "Be with those difficult emotions."   She said we get stuck in two ways. One is "bottling." The second is "bruting." Bottling is when someone traps emotions inside. They ignore their feelings.   Bruting is when someone obsesses about emotions. And try to determine what happened and why...   They both cause high levels of anxiety.   So I had to stop asking, "Why?"   2) Choose "want-to" goals I have four main values. They're in my daily practice.   Values are the things you want to do versus the things you have to do. Because "have to" goals are less likely to be successful.   So I asked Susan, "What if you don't know what your values are?"   "We often turn around and say, 'How did I get here?'   "I was just going on with flow. I was just doing what everyone else told me to do. I went to college. I got a job. I got a house... How did I get her?' This is a really difficult place for people to be" she said. "What's really critical for all of us to realize is values are not some abstract idea. Values are ways of living, ways of being."   Figure out your values. Susan says, at the end of the day ask yourself, "What did I...