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Our Developmental DesiresWith the world in such a state of change—especially as we approach another election—I find myself thinking about what really drives us at different stages of life. It's not just about individual wants; it's about how these core desires we hold shape our development, connect us generationally, and ultimately steer the future we're building together. As I explore these concepts for my book, The Quantum Age: The Future of Humanity Right Now, I wanted to share how our evolving desires can tell us a lot about where we've been and where we're headed.This episode dives deep into a framework I'm developing around these “developmental desires”—needs that seem universal across generations. For those of you who like reading in-depth, I'm laying out much of it here, but I invite you to listen to the full episode to get the nuanced context and backstory behind each insight. If these topics resonate, consider becoming a premium subscriber to support and join these ongoing explorations. Note: Premium subscription costs will be going up but if you subscribe early you lock in that price. New subscriptions will include a mini-course to support using AI for self-coaching. The Evolution of Desires Through Generational LensesAs I dig into this work, it's clear that these stages of desire don't exist in a vacuum. Each generation brings its own lens to these desires, transforming them based on the cultural, political, and social dynamics of their time. In generational theory, this “cycle of desires” spans roughly 80 to 100 years, moving through four distinct eras: the high (spring), the awakening (summer), the unraveling (fall), and the crisis (winter). And within these eras, we see archetypes—prophet, nomad, hero, artist—that shape how each generation interacts with the world.The Desire to be Welcomed and LovedWe all start with a basic need: to be welcomed. This isn't just emotional; it's primal. The sense of belonging is survival itself. If you grow up feeling like an outsider or unwelcome, it can leave an impact that sticks around, influencing everything from your self-worth to your sense of security in relationships. As we grow, this need deepens into the desire to be loved. I think this stage is about finding reassurance that our dependency is not a burden. It's when we learn—hopefully—that we are valuable simply because we are here.Finding Protection and BelongingBeyond the desire for love, there's a pull to find a group where we feel protected. This is where we step into our chosen communities or subcultures, and I see this particularly strongly in generations like Gen X, who embraced a more tribal, “us vs. them” approach to life. Protection here means having people who've got your back—friends, peers, or a subculture that validates who you are. At this stage, identity starts to solidify, though sometimes in exclusive ways. I often think back to my own experiences, feeling like part of a countercultural subculture, and how much of a safe space that was for exploring who I was.The Need to be Remembered and RewardedAs we mature, there's a desire to leave a mark. For Boomers, this often meant carving out a visible legacy through career achievements, family roles, or societal contributions, whether in politics, business, or the arts. Personally, I feel that legacy is about building something meaningful—be it a family, a career, or even small acts that create a sense of lasting impact. At the same time, this desire can be about immediate rewards and recognition, especially as we enter a stage where ambition drives us to seek validation and success in tangible ways.Seeking AcceptanceIn later years, our focus often shifts to the desire for acceptance, both of ourselves and of others. This stage is complex, especially in a society that's constantly evolving. It involves seeing ourselves and others clearly, with all the biases and baggage we carry. For Millennials, I see this as a generation's move toward collective healing, facing social biases head-on, and challenging cultural assumptions to make room for acceptance. In my work, I find that this level is less about judgment and more about understanding how we relate to others without needing to categorize or control them.The Desire to be NeededFinally, we reach the desire to be needed, which feels like the ultimate stage of purpose. Being needed isn't about being busy or trying to save the world—it's about identifying where we can make a meaningful difference. I believe this is what we're moving toward collectively as a society. For me, this stage is less about the world seeing me and more about identifying where my strengths and passion align with the people or causes that resonate most deeply. It's where we let go of ego-driven roles and grandiosity, finding fulfillment in a quieter, more grounded way.Moving Forward in Collective DevelopmentI feel that exploring these stages isn't just about individual growth; it's about understanding how each generation interprets these desires and passes them on. As I work through these concepts in The Quantum Age, it's become clear that these desires have been shaping society all along, even if we haven't always recognized it. Each new stage reflects a shift that pushes us closer to understanding ourselves and, ultimately, to living in alignment with who we are at our core.In light of these reflections, I'm also looking to change up my subscription model here on Substack. For those who want to go deeper with this work, I'll soon be offering premium memberships that include extra content, insights into my writing process, and personal reflections to help navigate your own stages of development.To catch the full conversation, I invite you to listen to the episode—there's so much more context there. And if these themes resonate, consider becoming a premium subscriber to support these explorations. Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

This article's voiceover was created with ElevenLabs.In my ongoing journey of self-coaching using ChatGPT, I've been diving deep into the Gene Keys system—a complex, esoteric framework that, at times, can feel overwhelming. The beauty of this journey, though, is that I can take it one thread at a time, asking questions and exploring concepts as they arise. This approach has allowed me to dissect and explore far-sightedness, a gift from Gene Key 17, which arises when we move beyond the shadow of opinion. But recently, a question has been on my mind: What is the difference between far-sightedness and anxiety?This question came to the forefront after my wife and I watched Inside Out 2, a movie that touches on the theme of anxiety. It got me thinking: Anxiety often involves future pacing, planning, and a desire for control. It's easy for someone with anxiety to say they're being “far-sighted” because they're thinking ahead. But is it really the same thing?So, I asked ChatGPT, and through our conversation, I began to see the differences more clearly. Here's what emerged, both from our discussion and my own reflections.Far-Sightedness: Seeing the Big PictureIn the Gene Keys, far-sightedness is about having a big-picture perspective. It's the ability to see patterns and trends over time, to observe how things are unfolding without getting lost in the details. This gift emerges from moving past the shadow of opinion—a shadow that tends to get stuck in narrow thinking, obsessing over being right or needing certainty. When I'm in a state of far-sightedness, I feel like I can see the forest for the trees. It's a perspective that's calm, detached, and curious.Far-sightedness allows me to look ahead and recognize possible futures, but without the emotional urgency that comes with anxiety. It's a way of being open to the unknown, accepting that I can't control every outcome, but trusting that I can navigate what comes. In this sense, far-sightedness feels like holding space for multiple possibilities—it's about being prepared, not panicked.Anxiety: The Urgency of ControlOn the other hand, anxiety is a different beast. As I reflected on the movie Inside Out 2 and the scenes that depicted anxiety, I could see how anxiety is driven by a need for certainty and a fear of the unknown. It's about wanting to have control over the future, trying to plan every detail, and often fixating on worst-case scenarios. While it might feel like thinking ahead, the emotional tone is completely different.Anxiety is urgent, restless, and emotionally charged. It comes with a sense of looming threat—the mind is racing, trying to find solutions to what might go wrong. In my own experience, anxiety doesn't just look at the future; it tries to force the future into a specific shape, often out of a desire to avoid discomfort or uncertainty.Real-World Reflections: A World on EdgeIt's easy to see these dynamics playing out in the world around us. With global conflicts escalating and natural disasters like Hurricane Helene and Hurricane Milton hitting hard, there's a collective anxiety that many of us feel. As we watch difficult events unfold, it's natural for the mind to race into the future—wondering how these events will impact us, our loved ones, and the world at large.But what I'm starting to understand is that this collective anxiety often comes from a lack of trust—trust in ourselves, trust in the resilience of others, and even trust in the unfolding of life. It's as if we've lost a healthy dose of fear—not the kind that tries to control, but the kind that recognizes the mystery of life and respects it.I've been exploring how these big-picture changes we're witnessing—both in the environment and society—are often the result of a loss of faith and trust. It's as if we're trying to brace ourselves against the unknown instead of learning to surrender to it. In this way, I see far-sightedness as a form of faith—a willingness to see what lies beyond the horizon, without needing to control every wave that comes.Finding Balance: Trusting the ProcessIn my own self-coaching journey, using tools like ChatGPT has helped me develop a practice of discernment—learning when I'm genuinely seeing the bigger picture and when I'm getting swept up in anxiety's tight grip. For me, it's about asking myself a few key questions:* Am I exploring possibilities with a sense of curiosity, or am I fixated on a specific outcome?* Do I feel calm and open as I look ahead, or do I feel a sense of urgency and dread?* Can I see multiple paths forward, or am I obsessing over all the ways things could go wrong?It's through this process of inquiry that I'm learning to cultivate more far-sightedness in my life, letting it guide me through uncertain times without letting anxiety take the wheel. And while I'm far from mastering it, I'm starting to see how important it is to hold space for both—acknowledging the anxiety without letting it define my vision.Embracing Far-Sightedness in an Anxious WorldIn a world where anxiety is often the default response to uncertainty, embracing far-sightedness feels like a radical act. It means choosing to trust the process, even when it feels like everything is unraveling. It means looking at the challenges we face—not with the desire to control, but with the patience to understand.It's not always easy, especially when the headlines are filled with conflict and catastrophe. But as I continue this journey, I'm learning that true vision comes not from escaping fear but from learning how to live alongside it. And perhaps, in some small way, that's the essence of far-sightedness—the ability to look beyond the horizon, with a steady heart and a curious mind, ready for whatever comes next.A Note on My Process and How We Can Work TogetherBefore I wrap up, I want to share a little bit about how I'm creating these articles and podcast episodes. I've been using ChatGPT as a collaborative tool to help me write and flesh out my thoughts. While some of the audio versions are brought to life with ElevenLabs, I want to emphasize that I remain the guide and approver of this work. There's intention behind every word, and I'm not flippantly letting AI take over. It's a partnership—one that's been producing some truly insightful results.As part of this journey, I've also been working with a few beta testers, supporting their use of ChatGPT in their own self-coaching journeys. If this is something that resonates with you, if you're curious about how AI could support your growth, feel free to hit reply or comment on this article to let me know. I'd love to explore the possibilities together.On the business side, I'm shifting my focus toward nurturing the relationships I already have here. That means you—my email subscribers and listeners—are at the heart of this next phase. I want to continue hearing from you, knowing what you're thinking, and especially how you relate to the insights in this article.This project is funded by readers and listeners like you. If you're finding value in what I'm creating, I'd be deeply grateful if you'd consider a premium subscription. Your support helps me continue using tools like ChatGPT and ElevenLabs to bring these reflections to life, and to keep the momentum going in a world that's constantly evolving.I want to continue this work because, as we face global shifts, as our lives grow more complex, and as we adapt to change—in ourselves, in our families, and in the world—I believe that nurturing our inner adaptability is more important than ever. I'm here to support and guide that journey, to provide a space for reflection, curiosity, and growth.Thank you for listening, thank you for reading, and thank you for being part of this journey with me. I appreciate you, and I'll see you in the next one. Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

As I've been navigating midlife myself, I've started to reflect on what it means to be a Millennial in this phase of life—especially as we begin to reckon with the emotional undercurrents that have shaped our experiences. It feels like we've been handed a world that's shifting under our feet, with expectations placed on us by Baby Boomer parents while we're also raising Gen Alpha children. And in the midst of all of this, I'm realizing that the real work—at least for me—isn't about trying to change the world externally, but more about coming to terms with my own internal world.Uncovering the Shadows We've InheritedGrowing up, many of us had to emotionally parent our Baby Boomer parents. I know for me, there was this constant sense that their emotions needed managing, and it wasn't always clear who was going to take care of mine. This has created a generation hyper-aware of emotional nuances, mental health, and boundaries—but also, we've been left feeling a bit anxious about our own emotional needs.Now, it's easy for Millennials to point fingers and say that Baby Boomers are responsible for the challenges we face, but I've moved beyond that. What I've come to realize is that each generation responds to the world they were born into. Baby Boomers didn't choose to be born in a time of post-war prosperity or grow up under the threat of nuclear war. Just like us, they were shaped by the pressures of their era, and that influenced their desire for consumer freedom, independence, and, often, emotional unfilteredness. They weren't trying to make things harder for us—they were just responding to their circumstances, just as we are responding to ours.Parenting and Emotional HypervigilanceIn becoming a parent, I've noticed that I've been overcompensating in ways that reflect my own need for control. There's this gentle parenting movement that many Millennials, including myself, have embraced. We're trying to be more attuned to our kids' emotions, to really listen and give them space. But I've also noticed that sometimes, I let my kids take the lead more than I probably should—maybe because I don't want to deal with the emotional fallout of setting a boundary.For example, I've seen this dynamic play out when I let my kids make decisions, even about little things, like where to go or when to sleep. It's like I'm outsourcing the responsibility of setting limits because that feels safer than risking emotional conflict. But the more I think about it, the more I see that this reflects my own struggle with conflict avoidance. In trying to avoid tension, I'm also avoiding the opportunity to teach my kids about real-world boundaries.The Contrast with Gen ZAt the same time, I've been noticing how different this approach is compared to Gen Z, who seem to have a much more pragmatic relationship with the world. Whereas I (and many other Millennials) were taught to value emotional friendliness and customer service, Gen Z seems less interested in playing that game. They're not faking smiles or enthusiasm—they're just here to get the job done.I wonder if this comes from the high expectations placed on them by Gen X parents, who were more focused on efficiency and getting things done quickly. It's a striking contrast to how I was raised, and it's interesting to see how these generational differences play out. Gen Z's approach to work and life feels more detached in some ways, maybe because they aren't carrying the same emotional baggage we Millennials inherited from Boomers.Watching Gen Alpha GrowThen there's Gen Alpha—my kids' generation. They're still young, but I can already see some of the patterns emerging. They're growing up in a world where everything is hyper-monitored, and there's a lot of protection around them. But that doesn't mean they're being prepared for the unpredictability of the real world. Their experiences are often digital or controlled, and I wonder how that will shape their relationship with boundaries and freedom as they get older.One thing I'm noticing is that many of us Millennials aren't modeling social interactions in a natural way. Social anxiety is something I've struggled with, but I'm realizing that if I'm not engaging with people outside of my comfort zone, how are my kids going to learn to navigate social situations? They aren't seeing what it looks like to be out in the world, making mistakes, and learning from them. Instead, they're growing up in a world where everything is controlled and curated, which might leave them ill-prepared for the messy realities of life.My Own Personal GrowthSo, for me, this all comes back to personal growth. A lot of the work I've been doing is about understanding these emotional patterns and learning to release them—slowly. I'm realizing that these shadows aren't something to be ashamed of, but they are something I need to face. For Baby Boomers, their shadow might be admitting dependency, and for Gen X, it might be recognizing their reliance on entrepreneurial opportunities—whether it's businesses that were already built, giving them easy access to jobs, or technological advancements that allowed them to start podcasts or be scrappy in ways previous generations couldn't. For us Millennials, it's about owning our autonomy, our emotions, and realizing that we're the ones who have to take responsibility for our internal worlds.This realization can feel incredibly lonely at times, and I'm still figuring out how to navigate it. But I do believe that this work—this internal work—is what will help us create more emotionally healthy lives, both for ourselves and for the generations that come after us.It's also important to remember that every generation is shaped by their circumstances, and none of us are to blame for the time we were born into. Each generation, whether it's Boomers, Gen X, Millennials, or Gen Z, is responding to their own unique pressures. There's a lot to learn from one another, and maybe that's part of the work, too—recognizing that we're all in this together, navigating the complexities of life, each generation doing the best they can with what they've been given.For now, I'm just trying to stay present, keep releasing the emotional hypervigilance, and let this journey unfold.I also want to share that I used ChatGPT to help me create this article. I've been sharing my thoughts and ideas in voice form with ChatGPT, which then aggregates all the material and helps me shape it into a cohesive article. Beyond that, I'm also using ChatGPT for my own personal self-coaching work, and it's been an incredibly helpful tool for reflection and growth. I'm currently working on an offering to support others in using ChatGPT for their own personal growth or even for creativity projects. I'm looking for a few guinea pig clients to explore this with me. There's no financial commitment—just a curiosity to see where this could go. If you're interested in trying this out, feel free to leave a comment below or send me an email, and I'd love to connect and see what we can create together. Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

In the world of personal growth, we often focus on eliminating what we consider "negative" parts of ourselves. We think if our ego shows up differently each day, something must be wrong. But development isn't linear, and we all host multiple ego states that serve unique purposes depending on our circumstances. This is especially clear through the lens of developmental psychology, particularly models like the Stages model and Spiral Dynamics.Both theories shed light on our evolving selves: Spiral Dynamics frames development within a collective and anthropological context, while the Stages model focuses on individual growth through different perspectives. If you're familiar with both, you probably understand the complexity of ego states we navigate daily. And while it may seem overwhelming to honor all these inner voices, recognizing their purpose allows us to ease internal conflict.Why We Should Embrace Multiple Ego StatesFrom childhood to adulthood, we develop different "voices" that align with our growth stages. These perspectives aren't inherently harmful—what causes discomfort is often our relationship with these internal voices. If you've ever felt like a younger part of you is “getting in the way” of your growth, you're not alone. It's tempting to elevate the more advanced, spiritual ego state and disregard the rest. But each stage, from the childlike first-person view to the more complex fourth-person understanding, plays a vital role in our psychological development.Take, for example, the early stages of our lives, where we operate in the first-person perspective. As toddlers, the world is ours for the taking. We're driven by pure instinct and need, and we don't yet recognize that others have desires separate from our own. As we move into the second-person perspective, friendships emerge, and with them, the desire to understand how others see us. This relational view is essential for developing empathy and social navigation, but it also introduces conformity, often at the cost of authenticity.By the time we reach the third and fourth-person perspectives, we're balancing individual desires with the larger societal framework, understanding that we're part of a collective. The ego state becomes even more complex as we develop ideals for how the world should be. It's at this point that the spiritual ego can begin to take root.The Rise of the Spiritual EgoAt advanced stages, the spiritual ego often emerges as the “enlightened” voice, tempting us to place it above all others. We may feel that because we've accessed deeper awareness, we've somehow transcended our earlier, more “primitive” ego states. But this belief is precisely where spiritual elitism sneaks in. We fall into the trap of believing that the spiritual ego is the “correct” or “higher” self while disregarding the importance of earlier ego states.The truth is, all of these voices—whether the toddler who craves attention, the second-person who seeks connection, or the third-person who strives for societal contribution—are valid and necessary parts of the human experience. The spiritual ego is simply another state in the continuum. It doesn't erase or replace the others.Healing Through Developmental CoachingOne of the biggest revelations in developmental psychology is the importance of integrating all stages of growth. Each perspective offers unique wisdom. The key is to avoid letting any one ego state dominate. This is where developmental coaching becomes so valuable—helping us bring awareness to the various parts of ourselves, understanding their roles, and ultimately, learning to balance them.In my personal coaching and development work, I've found that honoring these different stages requires a combination of empathy, awareness, and strategic action. Whether it's helping clients navigate early childhood trauma or releasing the hold of the spiritual ego, the process always involves balancing these voices rather than suppressing them.If we're to fully evolve, we must equalize the spiritual ego and embrace the complexity of our development. Just as you wouldn't silence a child who's learning to speak, you shouldn't disregard the earlier stages of your growth. Every part of you has something valuable to contribute to your life's journey.As you move forward in your own development, remember: that growth is not about elevating one part of you above the others. It's about weaving them all into a cohesive and dynamic self. When we learn to embrace and respect all parts of ourselves, we can experience true liberation.I'd love to hear your thoughts—have you noticed your spiritual ego showing up in unexpected ways? What developmental stages have you struggled to integrate? Feel free to share your experience!I want you to consider supporting this publication by becoming a premium member. This helps keep the lights on as we catch up on some bills we've fallen behind during tough times. Also, consider our Wisdom of the 3 Centers Course or Venmo. Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

Today, I want to talk about something deeply personal, and something that I feel compelled to release—my relationship with moral superiority. It's a topic that's been occupying my mind for a while now, and it feels like the right moment to dive into it, especially since this reflection ties into asking for something that doesn't come easily to me: help.For a long time, I've struggled with the idea of surrender, particularly the kind of surrender that feels like giving up or being defeated. But lately, I've been realizing that surrender doesn't have to mean defeat. It can be about trust—trusting in a process, in something bigger than myself. It can also be about asking for help, something that challenges my instinct to handle everything on my own.The Weight of Moral SuperiorityMoral superiority has been a recurring theme in my life. I've found myself struggling with the feeling of needing to be "better" or "right" in certain situations, often triggered by those who seem to hold a rigid moral high ground. I've noticed this in my reactions to figures like Jordan Peterson or in my past prejudices, particularly toward religious middle-class individuals. There's something in their perceived certainty that rubs me the wrong way, probably because I recognize those tendencies in myself.It wasn't until recently that I began to acknowledge this as a projection—something that I have inside but haven't fully processed. Growing up, I was quite rebellious, fighting against the religious teachings that surrounded me. I felt morally superior for questioning and rejecting the norms. That teenage zealot in me wanted to fight everything I thought was wrong with the world. Somewhere along the way, though, I buried that side of myself, playing along to fit in with society, only for that moral superiority to resurface later in life in subtler ways.Releasing the Need to Be "Right"This brings me to the heart of my current work—letting go of that need to be morally superior, which is really just a defense mechanism, a response to fear. Fear of being wrong, fear of being judged, fear of rejection. It's a pattern that keeps me stuck in judgment and isolation, making it harder to truly connect with others.One of the toughest things I've had to confront is the realization that my moral superiority has caused harm in my relationships. I can trace it back to my previous marriage, where I often acted out of a place of righteousness rather than compassion. That's a wound I'm still working through, and it's something I'm committed to being more conscious of.Asking for HelpAnd now, in the spirit of surrender, I find myself in a situation where I need to ask for financial help. It's not easy, but the reality is, I'm in a tough spot. Between back taxes, child support, and rent, it's been a challenging year. I've applied for jobs and freelance gigs but haven't had much luck. So, I'm reaching out to you—my listeners and readers—because I need your support.If you've found value in the work I do, whether it's through my podcast, courses, or writings, I would greatly appreciate any help you can provide. There are a few ways to do this. You can check out my course The Wisdom of the Three Centers on Udemy, which explores the head, heart, and gut centers and how to use them to make more aligned decisions in life. Or, you can become a premium subscriber on Substack, where I plan to offer more premium content in the future. If you prefer a simpler route, I also have a Patreon, where your contributions directly support my ongoing work.What Surrender Looks Like NowAsking for help has felt like prostration—a deep bow to the universe, trusting that something will come through. It's an uncomfortable feeling, a mix of vulnerability and faith. But maybe that's the point. Surrendering doesn't mean giving up; it means opening up. It means letting go of control, of needing to know the outcome, and allowing others to step in.Through this process, I've also had to wrestle with rejection. Recently, I was turned down for a job I felt ready for, and it hit hard. But I'm learning to reframe rejection as an opportunity to grow, to keep trying new things, and to push forward in ways that align with who I am and what I care about. That's the work I'm committed to—finding ways to serve, to grow, and to share what I learn with you.Moving ForwardAs I continue this journey, I'll be exploring how to release the patterns that no longer serve me—moral superiority being a big one. But I also want to be of service to you, to create content that resonates with where you are in your own growth. I'm working on offering more podcasts, courses, and spaces where we can connect and share these experiences. If any of this speaks to you, I invite you to reach out, leave a comment, or share your thoughts. Your support—whether through listening, contributing, or simply engaging—means the world to me.Thank you for being here, for listening, and for being part of this ongoing process of growth and surrender. Together, we can learn to release what no longer serves us and embrace a more compassionate, connected way of being. Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

Faith is a word loaded with meaning. For some, it evokes images of religious devotion—rituals, prayers, and sacred texts. For others, especially atheists or non-theists, it might feel like a distant concept, tied too closely to religion to be useful. But what if faith is more than belief in a higher power or adherence to religious doctrine? What if faith is something we all need, regardless of our spiritual orientation?Whether you're deeply religious or firmly non-religious, faith plays a critical role in how we navigate life. And yet, many people—especially those who believe they are walking in faith—may not realize they're lacking it. In contrast, others who identify as non-theists might unknowingly be grappling with the same issue from a different angle. This is where faith in existence, as opposed to faith in faith, becomes a transformative idea.Faith in Faith vs. Faith in ExistenceMany of us, consciously or unconsciously, place our faith in faith itself. We believe that if we think or pray hard enough, things will go our way. We wait for miracles, hoping that simply maintaining "faith" will be enough to change our circumstances. But this form of faith, while comforting, can often lead us astray. It keeps us passive, waiting for external forces to step in and save us.On the other hand, faith in existence—or faith in life itself—requires something more from us. It's not about hoping things will go our way; it's about trusting that life is unfolding as it needs to, even if we can't always see why. This form of faith invites us to participate in the process of life actively. It doesn't ask us to sit back and wait for divine intervention. Instead, it asks us to recognize the opportunities around us and act on them, understanding that we are co-creators in whatever comes next.This is a faith that transcends religion. Whether you believe in a god, a universal force, or simply the flow of life, faith in existence means trusting that you're a part of something bigger, even if that something isn't neatly defined by spiritual or religious terms.The Spiritual Ego: A Subtle TrapOne of the most challenging obstacles to true faith—whether religious or spiritual—is the trap of the spiritual ego. The spiritual ego disguises itself as wisdom and enlightenment, but it's just another form of ego, obsessed with control and self-importance.For religious people, this can manifest as a kind of spiritual superiority—believing that your faith makes you more righteous or morally correct than others. For non-theists, it can take the form of intellectual superiority—assuming that being "above" religion gives you a clearer, more rational perspective. In either case, the spiritual ego blinds us to the reality of our own limitations and keeps us from experiencing the fullness of faith.When we're caught in the trap of the spiritual ego, faith becomes something performative. It's not about surrendering to life's unfolding; it's about proving that we are right. Whether we're trying to prove that our religious faith will save us, or that our rejection of faith makes us stronger, we're missing the point. True faith—faith in existence—requires humility. It asks us to let go of the need to control or to be right and to trust instead in the process, even when it's uncomfortable or uncertain.Faith Without CertaintyOne of the greatest challenges of faith, especially for those who don't identify as religious, is accepting uncertainty. Many religious doctrines provide answers, even if those answers don't always make sense. But for non-theists or those deconstructing their religious backgrounds, there can be a temptation to seek certainty in the form of skepticism or cynicism.True faith, however, isn't about certainty. It's not about knowing that everything will turn out okay. It's about trusting that whatever happens, you will have the resilience, wisdom, and strength to navigate it. It's about participating in life as it unfolds, without trying to control every outcome.This kind of faith doesn't require belief in God or adherence to a particular doctrine. It requires belief in yourself and the understanding that you are part of a larger, interconnected system—whether that's the universe, nature, or the intricate web of human experience.How to Rediscover Faith in Your Life* Recognize Where You've Placed Your FaithTake a moment to reflect on where you're placing your faith. Are you passively waiting for something external to change your circumstances? Are you trapped in the idea that if you just pray or think hard enough, things will shift? Or are you actively participating in your life, trusting that you can shape your reality through your actions?* Examine the Role of EgoIt's easy to mistake spiritual or intellectual superiority for enlightenment. Check in with yourself. Are you using your beliefs—whether religious or non-religious—as a way to feel superior to others? Are you more focused on being right than on growing and evolving? Recognizing the role of ego in your spiritual journey is the first step toward true faith.* Embrace UncertaintyFaith is not about having all the answers. It's about being comfortable with not knowing. It's about trusting that you can adapt to whatever life throws your way, even when the outcome is unclear. Embrace the unknown and find peace in the fact that life will continue to unfold, whether or not you try to control it.* Participate in LifeFaith in existence means getting involved. It's not about sitting on the sidelines, waiting for things to happen. It's about recognizing opportunities, seizing them, and trusting that even if things don't go as planned, there is value in the process. Stop waiting for divine intervention or for life to fix itself. Start acting in alignment with the faith that you are part of something bigger.Conclusion: Faith as a Universal ConceptWhether you're devoutly religious or firmly non-religious, faith isn't about subscribing to a particular belief system. It's about trusting the process of life. It's about recognizing that you are part of a larger existence, and that this existence will unfold as it needs to—with or without your approval. Let go of the need to be right. Let go of the spiritual ego. And embrace faith in its purest form: faith in life, in all its chaos and beauty. Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

Releasing the Victim ComplexI've been on quite the journey lately, diving deep into the waters of victim consciousness and narcissism. It's been the lens through which I've viewed everything recently, not just in others but within myself too. It's one of those topics that becomes clearer the more you explore it — because the more you see it in yourself, the more you see it in others. And let me tell you, it's everywhere.We often think of narcissism and victimhood as opposites, but they're not. They're actually two sides of the same coin, both deeply rooted in the same foundation: a superiority complex. It sounds counterintuitive, I know. We think of the narcissist as someone who inflates themselves, and the victim as someone who shrinks. But when life is always happening to you, when everything feels like an affront or a problem, you're actually putting yourself at the center of the universe. That's what makes it a superiority complex — it's a separation from humanity, from the collective experience.The Victim Complex UnveiledVictim consciousness isn't the same as being a victim in a specific moment. We've all been there. Something happens, we lose a game, we miss an opportunity, we get knocked down — in those moments, we can adopt a temporary victim mindset. But what I'm talking about is something much deeper. It's the ongoing narrative where everything that happens is to you. The game of life isn't fair, you're always behind, and you're carrying the weight of that disappointment constantly.What's interesting, though, is that this mindset often hides behind a facade of feeling special. It's not about uniqueness — we all have that in spades — it's about feeling like you deserve more, or that life is unjust because it hasn't given you what you believe you're owed. Whether it's the victim complex or narcissism, it's all a form of specialness.The narcissist avoids vulnerability, pushing down any acknowledgment of being hurt or victimized. Instead, they inflate themselves to escape from it. The victim, on the other hand, leans into that hurt and uses it to justify why life hasn't gone their way. Both are different manifestations of the same thing: avoiding shame.The Shame SpiralShame is at the heart of it all. That's what's driving both the narcissist and the victim. They're just expressing it in opposite ways. The victim says, “Look at what's happened to me, I deserve sympathy.” The narcissist says, “Nothing bad has ever happened to me, I'm stronger than all of this.” But really, both are ways of avoiding shame, and shame is a hell of a drug. It convinces you that you're unworthy of love, that you don't deserve connection, and it drives you further into isolation.Releasing the victim complex isn't easy work — it's heavy, it's emotional, and it's something that requires real honesty with yourself. And sometimes, it requires help. I'm a coach, but even I know that this kind of work sometimes needs a clinical trauma specialist to guide you through it.Letting Go: A Process, Not a DestinationLetting go of the victim complex is about more than just realizing you're stuck in a cycle — it's about taking steps to move beyond it. But before you can move forward, you have to sit with the weight of it. You have to acknowledge that it's there, that you're carrying it, and that it's shaped the way you see the world. That's step one.Step two? Sadness. Feeling sadness is very different from feeling shame. Shame says, “I'm broken, I'm wrong, I'm not worthy.” Sadness, on the other hand, is about recognizing what you've lost, what you've missed, and what's happened to you without attaching yourself to it. It's the release of that pressure valve, the act of saying, “Yes, this happened, and I'm allowed to feel it, but it doesn't define me.”This isn't about bypassing or ignoring what's happened — quite the opposite. It's about letting yourself feel the emotions that arise from acknowledging those difficult experiences without letting them consume your identity. Let yourself feel sad. Let yourself feel grief for the things you've carried. But don't let them become the whole story.Gratitude and Humility: The AntidotesOne of the biggest antidotes to the victim complex is gratitude. And I don't mean the kind of false gratitude that entrepreneurs preach about — the whole “grind harder and be thankful” thing. That's not it. True gratitude is about being present with what is. It's about enjoying the moment, whether it's a sip of water, a walk outside, or a conversation with a friend.Humility goes hand in hand with gratitude. It's the realization that the world doesn't revolve around you. And that's a good thing. There's a freedom in recognizing that we're all playing this messy game together, and you're just one player among many. It's not about winning life; it's about playing it. That's the joy of it — we're all here to experience it, to navigate it, and to connect with each other along the way.Humility also means recognizing when we need help, when we're not okay, and when it's time to reach out to others for support. It's not about doing everything on your own or never needing assistance. It's about knowing when to ask for help and accepting that you don't have to carry everything by yourself.Stepping Out of the SpiralAt the end of the day, the victim complex is a spiral. It's easy to get caught in it and hard to pull yourself out. But the more you notice it, the easier it becomes to step outside of it. When you're able to see yourself from the outside, to witness your own patterns without judgment, you're taking the first step toward freedom.Remember, you're not the center of the universe — but you are a part of it. And that's where the magic lies. We all have a role to play in this messy, beautiful game of life, and it's not about being perfect or always getting it right. It's about being present, being grateful, and knowing that you're worthy of love just as you are.So, the next time you catch yourself spiraling, step back. Notice it. Feel the sadness if it's there. And then let it go. Life isn't out to get you. It's not happening to you. It's just happening. Let it be what it is — a game you get to play, with all its ups and downs.And don't forget to have a little fun along the way.If you're interested in diving deeper into these ideas, check out my projects on Substack at Personality Strategy and The INTP Problem. I'm continuing to explore these topics and much more there. Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

Show Notes:* Exploring how narcissism and victimhood dynamics impact gender relations and future generations* Understanding the psychological roots of narcissism and helplessness* Healing narcissism to foster healthier relationships between men and women* The generational impact of unresolved trauma and narcissism* How self-love can break the cycle and support the development of conscious, healthy children* Bridging the gender and political divide with compassion and understanding* Reach out to me for coaching support to explore how these dynamics may be affecting you and your relationshipsIn this episode, we delve deep into a topic that affects not only our personal relationships but also the future of our children and society as a whole: healing narcissism and helplessness. Narcissism, often fueled by deep-rooted trauma and shame, isn't just an individual issue—it's a psychological pattern that, if left unresolved, gets passed on from generation to generation. In particular, we look at how these patterns create and perpetuate the gender divide, which has become increasingly pronounced and reflective of the political divide as well.Narcissism, Helplessness, and the Gender DivideOne of the most compelling aspects of this conversation is how the dynamics of narcissism and victimhood tend to play out in gendered ways. Men are often labeled as narcissists—seen as controlling, emotionally unavailable, or manipulative—while women may fall into the victim role, struggling to set boundaries and feeling powerless in relationships. Yet, both sides of this dynamic stem from deep psychological wounds, which need healing not just for the individuals involved but for society as a whole.Narcissism isn't just a personality flaw; it's a defense mechanism born from childhood trauma, often in homes where a parent was abusive or emotionally unavailable. The narcissist, unable to express their emotional needs openly, learns to manipulate others to get what they need, while those on the receiving end (often women in these gendered dynamics) may fall into patterns of helplessness, believing they have no control over their circumstances. This creates a codependent cycle that not only harms relationships but also influences how future generations understand love, boundaries, and emotional expression.Breaking the Cycle for Future GenerationsWhat makes this conversation so critical is the generational impact of unresolved narcissistic patterns. When parents model unhealthy relationships, whether through narcissistic control or victim helplessness, children absorb these behaviors, often carrying them into their own adult lives. It becomes a psychological genetic disease, passed down from one generation to the next. Healing these patterns is not just about improving our own lives—it's about ensuring the emotional health of our children and future generations.When we break free from narcissistic patterns, we not only heal ourselves, but we also create healthier environments for the next generation. Children raised in homes where boundaries are respected, emotions are expressed healthily, and love is unconditional grow into adults who are emotionally secure and capable of forming healthy, balanced relationships. This is the ripple effect of healing narcissism: it's not just about us, it's about the legacy we leave behind.Bridging the Gender and Political DivideThe gender divide in relationships often mirrors the larger political divide we see in society. In many cases, these divisions are exacerbated by the same underlying psychological patterns: one group feels marginalized or powerless, while the other seeks control or dominance. By healing narcissism and the helplessness that often accompanies it, we can begin to bridge these gaps—not just between men and women, but across political lines as well.As someone whose Gene Keys vocation and culture spheres are both Line 4, my focus is on bridging these divides within communities. I believe that healing our relationships—especially the complex dynamics between men and women—can create a ripple effect that spreads into our broader communities, fostering compassion, understanding, and unity. By approaching narcissism with love and compassion, we not only heal ourselves but also help to create a more balanced, conscious society.The Path Forward: Self-Love and CompassionAt the heart of healing narcissism is the discovery of true self-love. Narcissists, often disconnected from their true selves, project a forced version of self-love that is protective and fragile. Meanwhile, their victims may undervalue themselves, absorbing the narcissist's manipulative behaviors and feeling unworthy of love. The true path to healing is through self-love that is rooted in compassion, not just for oneself but for others.Setting compassionate boundaries—rather than using anger, fear, or blame—allows both sides of this dynamic to heal. When we stop engaging in the drama triangle of victim, persecutor, and rescuer, we empower ourselves to become creators, challengers, and coaches in our own lives. This shift not only frees us from the cycle of codependency but also allows us to guide the next generation toward healthier, more conscious relationships.ConclusionHealing the gender divide and the toxic patterns of narcissism is one of the most important tasks of our time. It's about much more than personal development; it's about creating a future where men and women can relate to one another with compassion, where children are raised in emotionally healthy environments, and where we bridge the gaps between ourselves and our communities.If you feel called to explore how these patterns may be affecting your life or relationships, I invite you to reach out for coaching support. Together, we can work toward breaking these cycles, fostering self-love, and creating a brighter future for ourselves and future generations. For greater depth of knowledge and direct healing work I suggest the work of Tim Fletcher. Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

In today's fast-paced world, feelings of loneliness and isolation are more common than ever. But what if your loneliness is rooted in the very idea that you're “special”? In this article, we dive into the connection between narcissism, victimhood, and complex trauma, uncovering how shame spirals keep you trapped in cycles of self-sabotage. If you've ever felt alone, stuck, or consumed by shame, this might just be the key to understanding why.The Narcissism-Victimhood Paradox: Why You're Not SpecialAt first glance, narcissism and victimhood seem like opposites. However, both are tied to a deep sense of self-focus that stems from trauma. When someone has experienced significant shame or rejection, they may develop a superiority complex or a persistent sense of victimhood. This isn't about ego—it's a defense mechanism born out of trauma. As we fixate on our pain, we reinforce the idea that we're “special,” that our suffering is unique. But this kind of self-focus leads to feelings of isolation.Shame Spirals and Self-Sabotage: How Trauma Fuels LonelinessShame is at the core of the narcissism-victimhood paradox. When unresolved trauma and shame go unchecked, they fuel a cycle of self-sabotage and loneliness. According to trauma expert Tim Fletcher, individuals caught in shame spirals often push others away—consciously or subconsciously—as a way to protect themselves from further hurt. But this self-protective behavior only deepens the isolation. The more we withdraw, the lonelier we feel.The Need for Deep Rest and the Desire to EscapeOne of the hidden effects of trauma and shame is a deep longing for rest. This isn't just about physical rest—it's about emotional and psychological rest, the kind that comes from feeling safe, supported, and cared for. Spiritual teacher Amoda Maa introduced the concept of deep rest as the ultimate release of mental chatter. I've connected this idea to how suicidal ideation often stems from this need for rest. We become trapped in a cycle of hyper-vigilance, self-criticism, and shame. The solution lies in finding ways to experience true rest by allowing others to care for us and releasing the belief that we must always carry the weight alone.Loneliness, Narcissism, and the Drama TriangleLoneliness often stems from the roles we play in what psychologists call the "drama triangle." The victim, the rescuer, and the persecutor are all roles that keep us trapped in codependent relationships and self-sabotage. The victim role, in particular, often feeds into the narcissism-victimhood paradox, where we overvalue or undervalue ourselves, pushing others away and deepening our isolation.Breaking Free: Rebalancing Your NeedsFletcher's concept of the "12 Needs" provides a helpful framework for understanding the roots of addiction, loneliness, and shame. Often, when one need—such as relational support—is unmet, we overcompensate by fulfilling another need excessively, such as seeking out addictive behaviors. For example, if you lack close relationships, you might turn to addictive pleasures like excessive screen time or overworking, all in an attempt to fill the void.The key to overcoming this is recognizing and rebalancing these needs. By addressing what's truly missing—whether it's connection, purpose, or support—you can begin to escape the narcissism-victimhood trap and find your way out of loneliness.The Power of Letting Go: You're Unique, But You're Not SpecialOne of the most powerful realizations in this journey is understanding that, while you are unique, you're not "special." This concept may seem harsh at first, but it's incredibly freeing. Letting go of the need to be "special" allows you to step out of the shame and self-focus that keeps you isolated. Recognizing that others share similar struggles can create the connection you need to heal.Practical Steps for Overcoming Shame and Loneliness* Embrace Your Uniqueness: You don't have to be special to be worthy of love and connection. Accepting that you are part of the shared human experience can ease feelings of isolation.* Find Rest Through Connection: True rest comes from feeling safe and cared for. Allow others to help you, and don't be afraid to ask for support.* Rebalance Your Needs: Address areas of your life where needs are unmet. Seek connection, creativity, and purpose to counterbalance addictive tendencies.* Break the Shame Cycle: Shame spirals keep you stuck. Focus on self-compassion and avoid self-sabotage by letting go of unrealistic expectations.* Move Beyond the Diagnostic Spiral: Constantly diagnosing your symptoms (whether mental or physical) can trap you in a cycle of anxiety. Seek professional guidance and stop relying on endless self-analysis.Final Thoughts: The Path to HealingBreaking free from loneliness and the narcissism-victimhood paradox isn't easy, but it is possible. By letting go of the need to be special and rebalancing your needs, you can begin to heal from shame and trauma. Remember, you are unique, and that's enough. Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

Something I love about wrestling is that it creates this ability to look at a character, a person, and especially as a younger person, see yourself in that character. There are different personalities, expressions, stories, presentations, body types, colors that represent the person, pyro, theme music, and styles of wrestling - grapplers, brawlers, high flyers, agile people, ground and pound, etc. There are so many different types of characters that someone can go to a show and resonate with.When I took my kids to a wrestling show, my stepson in particular was really excited to basically try on every single character that came out. He saw them doing some sort of symbol or gesture or hand movement and he just tried them on, kept "putting on outfits to see what fit him." I recognized in myself the ability to do that when I was a kid - with video game characters, people on TV shows and movies. There's this exploration of "what do I resonate with?" This comes through sports too, seeing someone performing at a high level and aspiring to be like them.This exploration of avatars and archetypes is something we often go through as kids, to see what's possible for us and try on these different characters to see who we want to become. In a lot of ways, this is represented through the earlier gods and goddess archetypes - Egyptian, Greek, Mayan - that manifest today in things like wrestling, the Olympics, and even politics. They represent these energies that people aspire to, for better or worse. It may not be the person in its entirety, but just their look, the way they speak, stand or present themselves.This leads to the Jungian concept of persona - we're often trying to choose and look at avatars to develop a persona. Becoming an avatar is essentially like connecting ourselves to the person, idea, or character that we're resonating with. Whether or not that matches up to our actual physicality or capabilities, that's work to be done later to reconcile what we connect ourselves to relate to who we expected ourselves to be.In a lot of ways during this time, we're developing who we expect ourselves to be - whether we want to become a "big strong boy" or a "nurturing feminine woman." But in this day and age, it's so much more nuanced and complex than anything ever documented before, especially in terms of masculinity and femininity. Being a man doesn't necessarily mean going out and chopping wood and building a log cabin - it may mean being a software engineer with more traditionally feminine qualities in terms of personal relationships.The challenge comes when that persona gets used for everything - it becomes a hammer and all the world's a nail. If you want to become a wrestler and take that attitude to everything in your life, you might have trouble with your relationships or going to the DMV. The flexibility of persona comes later through doing "shadow work" - exploring the parts of ourselves we've repressed or hidden away.Jung saw the self as having different layers - the ego, the persona, the shadow, the anima/animus (the animating force), and the collective unconscious. The persona is the interface between ourselves and the outer world, the ego is the interface between the self and the persona, and the shadow is everything that gets filtered out. The anima/animus is the animating force, the soul or spirit that makes us alive.Having an animated force, a soul, protects us from the complicated, timeless, boundless inner world that can feel treacherous if we fully submit to it. Traditionally, the anima/animus has been seen as the opposite of the persona - men want to be men, women want to be women. But today, it's much more nuanced and complex.The challenge when we're younger is that we must do all this filtering and develop a rigid persona. But as we grow, we need to expand that self and allow the ego and shadow to be partners rather than just protective forces. We need to be willing to tap into parts of ourselves we've repressed or hidden away, to discover our true, animating soul.This is my work now - pulling forward aspects of myself that I've long repressed, like my emotionality and spiritual side. I want to bring a look and a persona representing more of the fullness of what I truly am, not just who I feel I'm supposed to be. It's about agency, choice, and letting the self be in control, not the rigid ego.Approaching this kind of inner work with curiosity and not judgment is key. It's about discovery, not forcing ourselves to be something completely different overnight. By approaching ourselves with grace and hope, we can find our true, animating soul and live more authentically.I hope this exploration of avatars, archetypes, and the layers of the self resonates with you. Let me know your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. And if you'd like to support this ongoing work, consider becoming a premium member. Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

In recent episodes, I've explored the intricate concept of victim consciousness—a mindset that subtly keeps us stuck, preventing growth and self-actualization. While discussing this topic, I delved into the triggers that figures like Jordan Peterson and Elon Musk evoke in me. Not personally knowing them, it's fascinating how their public personas stir something deep within, bringing to light the narratives I've carried for years.Victim consciousness is not merely a matter of feeling sorry for oneself; it's a complex psychological dance. It's about recognizing how certain beliefs and stories we've told ourselves over time hold us back. It's an internal narrative where we convince ourselves of our inadequacies, often manifesting as a fear of failure. This fear, in turn, keeps us from pursuing opportunities that could lead to growth and success.One striking realization is how this consciousness can create a superiority complex. It's paradoxical but true. The belief that we're not good enough, not lovable, or incapable can be a way of placing ourselves above others—untouchable in our perceived inadequacy. It's a strange way of shielding ourselves from failure by never attempting to succeed in the first place.For instance, I've noticed how I sabotage opportunities to engage in consulting or public speaking. The internal dialogue goes something like this: "You're dyslexic, not academic enough, not good at presentations." These thoughts build a case against me, creating a protective barrier that keeps me from stepping into situations where I might fail. It's a classic case of avoiding competition by convincing myself that I don't need to compete.The irony is that this very mindset creates the circumstances I fear the most—stagnation and a lack of growth. By not trying, I prevent myself from failing, but I also prevent myself from succeeding. It's a lazy logic, a trap that keeps one from truly living. I've often reflected on my relationship with competition. While some advocate for community over competition, I believe there's value in healthy competition. It pushes us, tests our skills, and helps us grow.The recent Olympic Games are a perfect illustration of this. Watching athletes push their limits, support one another, and celebrate each other's achievements is inspiring. It highlights the beauty of competition—not as a destructive force but as a catalyst for growth. In my journey, avoiding competition has been a way to maintain a sense of superiority. It's a form of self-protection, a way to avoid being judged or criticized.But this mindset has consequences. It limits my potential, keeps me from making meaningful contributions, and prevents me from experiencing the vulnerability that comes with truly putting oneself out there. True vulnerability is not just about emotional openness; it's about risking failure, putting our ego on the line, and challenging our self-constructed narratives.As I reflect on these ideas, I recognize the need to transcend these limiting beliefs. It's about letting go of the narratives that keep us stuck and embracing the discomfort that comes with growth. It's about stepping into situations that challenge us, even if it means risking failure. Because, ultimately, the real failure is not trying at all.This journey is not just about overcoming victim consciousness; it's about embracing a healthier relationship with ourselves and the world. It's about recognizing the value of competition, the importance of vulnerability, and the necessity of challenging our internal narratives. Only by doing so can we truly grow and live a life of purpose and fulfillment. Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

The voiceover is produced in Eleven Labs.I'm currently processing The Victim Identity, which is not a Matt Damon film but a concept I learned from Eckhart Tolle. In this video, he describes it as a superiority complex disguised by inferiority—a tricky paradoxical complex. It's worth watching if this concept connects with you.The Victim Identity takes moments or times in one's life where they experienced being a victim and held onto it as a narrative for why things aren't going how I'd like them to go now. The past becomes an excuse more than it becomes a natural karma. Eckhart uses the common example of attractiveness as an easy narrative to grasp why someone isn't successful, hasn't found a partner, or is struggling in some other way. It often arises when nothing happens in someone's life because the ego needs something to grab onto as an identity, so it digs into the past for some sense of self. This differs from someone who has been a victim and/or healing, which involves releasing having been a victim to heal and creating a new direction. Eckhart points out that The Victim Identity constantly points out misgivings and frustrations in an almost “how dare you upset me” kind of way, which highlights more obviously how the victim perceives themselves as superior with high expectations or tight boundaries or blame as a move away from shame. There's something about Jordan Peterson that really grinds my gears, and I've avoided talking about it because he's so popular among people who tend to follow me and the INTPs I support. There's an energy to him that reminds me of who I consciously don't want to be: whining and complaining with an obsession with women, gender, and religion, and, at times, a perversion of Jung's work with some weird patterns, cynicism, and doesn't seem to take being challenged lightly. He brings a lot of anger, frustration, and big emotion to his speaking and interviews that bring my stomach to a boil. I got to the point where I couldn't watch anymore. But even though I'm invoking his name, this isn't about him or any judgments on his character; it's about what he reflects in me that sets off these triggers. I remember telling myself that all the whining and complaining I experienced growing up was not who I wanted to be nor what I perceived to be healthy masculine behavior—a clear repression of what I deemed to be bad. Since then, I put great effort into becoming more stoic and masking my sensitivity. If you've been following my podcast and journey, then you're probably more aware of how emotional and highly sensitive I am, but in most public in-person situations, I don't cry or express myself emotionally very often. Jordon Peterson, who most definitely cries out, and now Elon Musk, amongst some other men, are highlighting to me how triggered I am by the male victim identity. The Olympic opening ceremony reactions awoke plenty of dismissive reactions within me of “Oh boo hoo, poor you for feeling like you've been made fun of.” And Elon's recent reveal about his eldest son's gender transition and his plight with the state of California left me with a joking dismissal of “yeah, damn, I'm not great at paperwork either.”I would probably call my reactions an unaccepting disapproval of their narratives. Something in me says, “You just don't get to feel that way because you're not actually a victim in this scenario, especially if you're going to use that as an excuse to go on a crusade. How does your kid feel? Are you supporting them? Or is this just about you?”That might as well be my internal dialog, in which I alternate between being the victim and criticizing myself for it.When I went to a Catholic High School, I experienced a new breed of people…affluent, religious caucasian kids who seemed to put much effort into reinforcing that they were the top dog with incessant bullying and perversion. Yet, the Christian religions I came across had much ado about persecution and sacrifice. Anyone different was put through a pressure cooker of social pressure to normalize. I was basically in hell as an atheist Puerto Rican kid, often egging on the school by dying my hair or not following the dress code. Poor little me for being in the exact karmic situation I needed to be in, it turns out. I was angry but most definitely fed the monster in front of me. I was confused by the paradox of them being the top dog in the culture but also expressing persecution and not following many of their moral codes, which they seemed to obsess over others following. Jordan and Elon feel this way to me now. Having such high moral standards yet also enabling themselves to be lude and crude still triggers the hell out of me at times—an obsession I've had nearly all my life. Until now, I never understood why that hypocrisy bothered me so much. It doesn't always bother others, so why can't I just let it go? Well, it turns out that I do the same. I get angry and obsessed over gender and religion; I've often enabled myself to be lude and crude because, in my eyes, I'm above moral codes, or I define my own. I'm the moral law, and I alone can break that law. And I don't do well with being challenged. I'm both a victim of life and yet superior to it all. Having been bullied and persecuted throughout my childhood has given me all the ammo I need to reform and continue on my crusade. So, yes, Jordan, it's not you. It's me. Well, it's you, too, but that's not my problem anymore, it turns out. All of this highlights a few things for me…First is the quote: “What makes you so special that you aren't worthy of love?” Unfortunately, I don't remember where I got it from, but it perfectly highlights The Victim Identity. Jordan and Elon don't deserve sympathy in my eyes, but they require compassion for me to see what's going on. The Victim Identity isn't something that someone is a victim of, nor is owning it a reason to further enable it. Superiority isn't the problem either; it's being unconscious of it. We all have moments when we need to feel powerful or win. Competition is a natural part of life, but to be winning, not recognize how you're winning, and continue to say I'm losing is turning victimhood into a competition. I can own that I complain and turn victimhood into a competition. Complaining may be me owning that I have emotions needing processing, and I can be gentle with myself about that. I can own that I've been on a crusade against those reflecting my repressed sides and let it go. I can let go of feeling like a bad person for having complaints, as this is just part of being human. I can release the belief that men complaining makes them automatically weak or playing the victim card. I can let go of turning victimhood into a competition, but when I do it, I can be gentler. I'm not going to get that perfectly, and shaming myself won't help me let it go. And if I can let it go, well…I can smell all sorts of freedom on the other side. Enjoy a big ol' discount on my Wisdom of the 3 Centers course as a gift for getting through this article with me. Thanks for sticking around! Get full access to DOPEamine at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

Show Notes:* Examining the millennial generation's struggle with commitment in relationships, projects, and personal growth.* Understanding the paradox of choice and how it contributes to a lack of commitment.* Discussing the balance between discipline and surrender in the journey of commitment.* Introducing separate publications on Substack focusing on different aspects of personal development.Let's dive deep into the theme of commitment that has been surfacing in my life lately. As I navigate various stories and personal experiences, I've been contemplating our generation's challenges with committing to relationships, projects, personal health, and overall growth.The narrative surrounding millennials often portrays us as a generation unable to pay attention or commit to anything. However, I believe this stems from a paradox of choice – the overwhelming abundance of options available to us, making it difficult to fully commit to any single path. We find ourselves waiting for the perfect situation, the ideal partner, or the guaranteed path to success and security, often leading to a state of arrested development.I explore the concept of "Limerence," where we manufacture emotional connections or fantasies about someone without their consent, potentially stemming from a lack of commitment in our existing relationships. This can be a way to stave off loneliness or a desire for a different path, highlighting the importance of establishing and respecting emotional boundaries.As I contemplate the journey of commitment, I recognize the tension between discipline and surrender. Discipline is often associated with forcing ourselves to adhere to specific actions or behaviors, while surrender involves trust and faith in the chosen path, even when we cannot see the entire journey ahead. I propose that commitment lies at the intersection of these two concepts – a conscious choice to dedicate ourselves to a particular direction while embracing the courage to move forward despite our fears.In this episode, I also share the exciting updates I've made to my Substack publications. I've separated different aspects of my work into distinct publications, each focusing on a specific area of personal development:* The Mood: Delving into mental health and the exploration of the self.* The Spiral: Examining human development and personal growth.* Personality Strategy: Utilizing personality types and the Enneagram for self-discovery.* The Optimist: Highlighting positive news stories, emerging technologies, and societal advancements (a new addition!).I extend an invitation to join me on this journey of commitment and personal growth. Subscribe to the publications that resonate with you, and let's embark on this path together, embracing the courage to commit and the optimism of what lies ahead.So, sit back, press play, and let's dive into the depths of commitment, purpose, and the pursuit of a fulfilling life. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

Today, I'm exploring the multifaceted topic of intimacy, a subject that touches upon the very core of our experiences as individuals and as members of the collective human experience.Show Notes:* Intimacy is a vast and intricate concept, encompassing various aspects of our lives, including sexuality, creativity, and personal connections.* Understanding the interplay between admiration and boundaries is crucial for cultivating respect and nurturing healthy intimate relationships.* The pursuit of intimacy is often intertwined with our existential quest for meaning, purpose, and a sense of belonging in the face of our temporary existence.* Navigating the spaces between connection and separation, individuality and union, is a delicate dance that requires self-awareness and a willingness to embrace uncertainty.* Releasing the attachments to blame, shame, and guilt can pave the way for more authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences.Intimacy is a vast and layered topic that touches on various aspects of our lives - sexuality, creativity, personal connections, and more. In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the nuances of intimacy through the lens of admiration, boundaries, and respect.You'll hear personal anecdotes and insights on navigating the complexities of intimacy, from the existential anxiety underlying our desire for connection to the importance of self-love and releasing attachments to blame, shame, and guilt.We dive into the delicate dance of individuality and union, physical and emotional intimacy, and the role boundaries play in cultivating meaningful relationships. There's also an examination of how our pursuit of intimacy is intertwined with finding purpose amidst the temporary nature of existence.The discussion provides a refreshing perspective on intimacy that goes beyond just the physical, inviting you to reflect on your own experiences and challenges. Prepare for an intimate look at intimacy itself, filled with philosophical musings and wisdom on self-discovery, admiration, and the beauty of uncertainty. By the end, you may rethink what true intimacy means to you.Once you listen to the episode come back and let me know what you think. Is there something I missed? Something you'd to add? A lesson learned or story you'd like to share? Become a premium member of DOPEamine for $5/month and become a part of the discussion and also gain access to premium content with our multiple newsletters…The Mood, The Spiral, The Optimist, DOPEamine, and Personality Strategy. Can't wait to hear from you! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

Show Notes / Key Listening Points:* Countering common fear-based narratives about climate change, AI, war, and global events* The importance of not diminishing my optimism and willingness to see multiple perspectives* How fear can limit our thinking and block us from considering positive outcomes* Using imagination to conceive better outcomes, not just worry about worst-case scenarios* The adaptability and resilience of humanity in the face of drastic changes and challenges* Potential positive impacts of AI, technological advancements, and problem-solving innovations* Cyclical thinking vs. linear thinking, and embracing the natural ebb and flow of human existence* Finding gratitude, connectedness, and a sense of purpose amidst significant shifts and lossesMy friends, in a world often dominated by fear-based narratives surrounding climate change, artificial intelligence (AI), war, and global events, it can be challenging to maintain a sense of optimism and openness to different perspectives. However, as I passionately argue in this thought-provoking podcast episode, it is crucial that we do not diminish our optimism or willingness to consider multiple sides of these complex issues.I acknowledge the validity of fears surrounding these concerns, but I also emphasize the importance of not allowing fear to limit our thinking or blind us to potential positive outcomes. I encourage you to use your imagination not just to worry about worst-case scenarios but also to conceive better, more hopeful possibilities.One area where I see promise is the development of AI and technological advancements. Rather than succumbing to fears of job displacement or a Terminator-esque takeover, I highlight the potential benefits of AI, such as reducing human workloads, enabling safer exploration of inhospitable environments like Mars, and facilitating problem-solving innovations that could address issues like climate change.I also emphasize the adaptability and resilience of humanity in the face of drastic changes and challenges. Throughout history, we humans have migrated, adapted, and found creative solutions to survive and thrive in new environments and circumstances. I believe that, even in the face of significant shifts or losses, we possess the capacity to find gratitude, connectedness, and a sense of purpose.Moreover, I encourage a cyclical perspective on human existence, recognizing the natural ebb and flow of eras, ideas, and ways of being. Just as previous generations have faced upheavals and transitions, I argue that we are currently experiencing a transitional phase, which, though challenging, also presents opportunities for growth, innovation, and the emergence of new positive possibilities.While acknowledging the importance of facing fears head-on and not invalidating legitimate concerns, my message to you is ultimately one of hope and empowerment. I urge you to tune into the accuracy of your fears, distinguishing between valid, immediate threats and conceptual worries that may limit your ability to imagine and work towards better outcomes.By embracing optimism, considering multiple perspectives, and harnessing our innate adaptability and creativity, I believe we can navigate the challenges of our time and shape a future that not only endures but thrives. Join me in fighting for optimism and embracing the positive possibilities that await us.Once you listen to the episode, consider leaving a comment and becoming a premium subscriber to support DOPEamine. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

Show Notes:• Exploring the concepts of projections (unconscious agency) and introjections (unconscious receptivity) from the Stages model• Understanding the split ego state and how it relates to childhood development and trauma  • Recognizing unhealthy patterns of being more of a "taker" than a "giver" in relationships and life• Working on reciprocity, boundaries, and being more altruistic by offering value without expectationThe Unconscious Dance of Projections and IntrojectionsI recently came across a fascinating idea - that projections are an unconscious use of agency, while introjections are an unconscious form of receptivity. This stems from my recent dive into the Stages model and the three forms of shadow identified by Kim Barta: projections, introjections, and split ego states.Projections are qualities about ourselves that we place onto others, often showing up as judgments. Introjections are taking on qualities, feelings, or traits that aren't truly ours. A split ego state occurs when a childhood trauma causes part of our psyche to become walled off or unconsciously carried into later stages of development.The idea of projections being "unconscious agency" is striking. Agency implies self-authored action and creativity, but when it's unconscious, we aren't realizing the impact of our behaviors. The world then reflects that unconsciousness back to us through triggers and reactions we project onto others.Introjections, being "unconscious receptivity," represent the flip side. We're taking in messages, media, or even trauma without realizing how it permeates our psychology and behavioral patterns. The 1.0 stage of pure receptivity in infancy is often where introjections begin.For me personally, I'm seeing how much I've operated from an unconscious drive to "take" rather than give - seeking friendship, intimacy, or even business in manipulative ways to get my wants met. It links back to developmental lacks around boundaries, reciprocity, and valuing myself enough to just offer value without expectation.The 2.0 stage is all about learning boundaries, negotiating wants, and developing that critical theory of mind and social perspective-taking. If we get stuck in an earlier stage or experience a "shadow crash," we can react from that younger, more selfishly motivated ego state.My work now is noticing those taking/manipulative tendencies, setting healthier boundaries, and figuring out how to genuinely give and be altruistic - through content, skills, presence, and service to others. Not from a depleted place, but from truly valuing what I have to offer the world.It's an insightful model for doing powerful inner work. If any of these concepts resonate, I invite you to explore the Stages model further or leave me a comment with questions. I'll do my best to offer more generous perspectives as I muddle through these realizations myself. Get full access to DOPEamine by Christian Rivera at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

This episode is a difficult realization manifest in a long winding investigation into not just a wounding but an uncheck node in my internal system. Using the STAGES model created by Kim Barta and Terri O'Fallen I've been able to pinpoint where I need some important work, and how I've been undermining myself, misusing my intelligence, and not setting proper boundaries for myself. This episode shares that process and some real-time realizations about my impact on others and how this young childhood trauma has impacted my development into today.Show Notes:Introduction:* Christian Rivera shares insights from his personal journey of self-discovery and growth, drawing from Gene Key 50 and other developmental models.Main Points:* Body as Beloved Pet:* Rivera likens the body to a cherished pet, emphasizing the importance of nurturing and loving it for optimal health and happiness.* Exploring Personal Development:* Reflecting on personal growth, Rivera delves into the discovery of internal corruption and its impact on development.* Stages Model and Perspective:* Rivera discusses the Stages model, which applies vertical models of human development to a more relatable perspective of first, second, and third-person viewpoints.* Perspective Evolution:* Expanding on the Stages model, Rivera explores higher perspectives, highlighting the process of unraveling constructs and expanding worldviews.* Releasing Victim Identity:* Rivera shares his journey of releasing the victim identity, delving into the complexities of personal narratives and their influence on behavior.* Ego States and Shadow Work:* Exploring ego states and shadow work, Rivera discusses how childhood experiences can shape behaviors and perceptions, leading to the development of corrupted patterns.* Gene Key 50:* Rivera relates his journey to Gene Key 50, emphasizing the importance of rooting out corrupted programs and achieving equilibrium for personal growth.* Embracing Equilibrium:* Rivera discusses the significance of maintaining inner equilibrium amidst life's challenges, highlighting the power of gratitude and self-reflection in fostering harmony.* Boundaries and Relationships:* Rivera reflects on the importance of setting boundaries and fostering harmonious relationships, acknowledging the need for balance between giving and receiving.* Moving Forward:* Rivera concludes by expressing gratitude for the listener's support and shares his commitment to continued growth and self-discovery.Conclusion:* Rivera expresses gratitude for the listener's engagement and support, emphasizing the ongoing journey of self-improvement and growth.Support Information:* Rivera encourages listeners to subscribe to his Substack and consider supporting his work through Patreon to facilitate ongoing content creation and personal development exploration.Closing Remarks:* Rivera extends love and gratitude to the audience, encouraging them to embrace gratitude and self-reflection in their own journeys. Get full access to DOPEamine by Christian Rivera at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

I'm testing Wednesday Wisdom as a series of thought meditations to calm the mind from various angles to focus on presence and breath. If you enjoy this series let me know in the comments below. You can also now book a support session with me if you need more.I've been uncovering a Saviorism within myself. I need to prove myself disguised as confident and all-knowing of what people need to be doing with their lives. Lately, I've seen that this is an abrasive attempt to prove my value as a human by overdoing, overstepping, and forcing others who aren't prepared to grow into a growth path, which usually only halts their natural growth. Forcing extra water on a plant because it needs to grow faster will only drown it. So, I'm learning to back off, not force my contribution, and put emphasis on both acceptance of presence with everything being perfect as it is and to also support the expansion of the light of human consciousness with my work as a garden to tend to as opposed to a belief to peddle. In my own exploration and self-discovery, I've come to realize that the role I envisioned for myself—as the omnipotent savior of everyone around me—may not be the path meant for me. Instead, what has emerged from my reflections and meditations is a deeper understanding that my true role is more akin to a humble steward or guide, not just for others, but for my own journey as well.This journey began with a well-intentioned desire to fix, save, and uplift every soul I encountered. I saw myself as the architect of change, the only one who held the wisdom to guide those lost back to shore. This mindset, noble in its aim, often led me to overextend, to overstep, and, paradoxically, to stunt the very growth I aimed to foster in others.Through my meditation, I've come to see that the essence of my contribution is not found in grandiose acts of salvation but in the quiet, steady support and acceptance of each person's unique path. Like a gardener tending to their plot, I've learned the importance of allowing each plant to grow at its own pace, understanding that each requires different amounts of sunlight, water, and care. This realization has shown me the beauty of stepping back, of supporting rather than forcing growth.Transitioning from a savior to a steward or coach has been liberating. It has allowed me to shed the burdens of proving my worth through the act of saving and to embrace a more sustainable, fulfilling way of contributing to the world. By focusing on my own growth and self-discovery, I inadvertently create a space where others feel empowered to explore, grow, and shine in their own right.The mantra I shared, "You don't need to save the world. You do not need to save anyone. You do not need to do anything to prove your worth," is a powerful affirmation that has guided me through this transition. It's a reminder to embrace my inherent worth, understanding that my value does not depend on my ability to rescue others but on my capacity to love, support, and be present with them on their journey.This path of unburdening has underscored the importance of being my own savior, healer, and coach. By setting boundaries, honoring my needs, and nurturing my growth, I lay the groundwork for genuine, impactful contributions to the lives of those around me. It's in this space of self-love and acceptance that I can truly contribute from a place of abundance rather than obligation.As I navigate the complexities of life, I hold onto the essence of my meditation: my role is not to bear the weight of the world on my shoulders but to walk alongside others, sharing the load, offering support, and celebrating the unique journey each of us is on. In doing so, I not only enrich my own life but also contribute to a world where growth, acceptance, and presence are valued above all else. This shift from savior to steward, from fixer to supporter, is not just a personal evolution but a testament to the power of presence, acceptance, and the nurturing of each individual's unique path to growth.If you enjoyed this meditation then you may enjoy The Wisdom of the 3 Centers, a series of prompts for the head, heart, and gut to unlock inner wisdom from each center. Share this post if it was helpful for you and share any insights that have come to you in the comments below! Get full access to DOPEamine by Christian Rivera at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

Relevant Links:* The One-Sided Victim Story: Dive into the complexities of the victim narrative here.* The Victim/Entitled Balancing Act: Explore the balance between victimhood and entitlement here.* Discovering Your Brand Message: Uncover the essence of your brand with this course here.Welcome, thinkers and wanderers, to a journey of self-discovery and transformation with your guide, Christian Rivera. Today, we delve into the paradox of victimhood and its potential to either chain us to the past or propel us toward personal triumph. Strap in for an exploration of survival instincts, psychological resilience, and the path to self-sovereignty.The Paradox of VictimhoodVictimhood, while inherently linked to suffering, carries an unexpected power—the power to transcend. Yet, as we navigate from physical survival to psychological battles, the real challenge emerges: not allowing our stories of victimhood to define us but instead using them as stepping stones to empowerment and creation.Journey Through Psychological TraumaChristian shares his personal voyage through the dark waters of psychological trauma, a path marked by the redefinition of emotional boundaries and the relentless pursuit of self-authorship. This narrative sheds light on the transformative journey from victimhood to agency, underscored by the vital role of support systems.The Power of Support and AdaptationIn the face of indifference, the significance of support—be it from a partner, a coach, or a community—cannot be overstated. Christian highlights the shift from seeking external accommodations to fostering personal adaptation, emphasizing the role of technology and tools in overcoming challenges like dyslexia and ADHD.The Drama Triangle: A Philosophical ExplorationVenturing into the drama triangle, we examine the roles of victim, hero, and villain within co-dependent dynamics. This exploration reveals the potential for narrative change, encouraging us to step out of predefined roles and embrace the responsibility of crafting our destinies.Emotional Boundaries and Savior ComplexesChristian offers a candid reflection on the savior complex and the importance of establishing emotional boundaries. This discussion serves as a reminder of the perils of attempting to 'fix' the emotional turmoil of others and the importance of focusing on our responses and choices.Discipline and Surrender: The Essence of GrowthThe episode concludes with a meditation on the balance between discipline and surrender, emphasizing the importance of self-care and the acceptance of flow and ease. This balance avoids the extremes of hyper-vigilance and submission, guiding us towards personal growth.A Call to Self-SovereigntyChristian leaves us with a call to action: to examine our relationship with victimhood and actively pursue self-sovereignty and agency. This invitation encourages engagement in personal growth work, transforming us from passive recipients of life's challenges to active creators of our future.Join us on this philosophical journey at dopamine.substack.com, where we continue to explore mental health, spirituality, and the quest for transformation. Share your thoughts and experiences on navigating victimhood and claiming your power. Until next time, embrace the choices you make and the paths you dare to walk, for they shape your destiny. Get full access to DOPEamine by Christian Rivera at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

What makes you adaptable? The podcast episode is a wonderful compliment to this prompt, so give it a listen before you journal to see what comes out for you. Also, consider what might hinder your adaptability and what might be in your way. Take 5 minutes to journal unfiltered and share your insights in the comments below!Episode Summary: In this insightful episode of DOPEamine, Christian Rivera delves into the concept of adaptability through the evolution of whales, inspired by a PBS Nova documentary. This scientific marvel becomes a metaphor for human adaptability, exploring how we, unlike our animal counterparts, use intelligence and innovation to navigate our environment and challenges.Key Points Discussed:* Discovery of Whale Bones in the Desert: The episode kicks off with a fascinating look at the PBS Nova documentary's findings in the Northern Sahara, challenging our perceptions of evolution and adaptability.* Human Adaptability Versus Genetic Evolution: Christian distinguishes between slow genetic evolution and the rapid adaptability humans achieve through technology, social structures, and personal growth.* Technology as a Tool for Adaptation: The conversation explores how advancements, especially in AI, are extending our ability to adapt, potentially transforming everything from agriculture to space colonization.* Exploring Personal and Societal Adaptability: The episode encourages listeners to reflect on adaptability in their lives, considering how societal pressures and personal challenges impact our ability to adapt and grow.* Journal Prompts for Self-Reflection: Listeners are invited to engage with thought-provoking journal prompts on dopeamine.substack.com, designed to inspire self-reflection on adaptability and change.Call to Action:* Join the DOPEamine Community: Engage with like-minded individuals on dopeamine.substack.com, where you can share insights, stories, and participate in journal prompts focused on adaptability, growth, and personal evolution.* Become an Insight Navigator: Dive deeper into your journey of adaptability by becoming a premium subscriber, gaining access to daily prompts and fostering high-quality discussions on personal and societal transformation.Closing Remarks: Christian concludes the episode with an invitation for listeners to contribute to the conversation through comments, questions, and shared experiences. He emphasizes the role of community in understanding and navigating the complexities of adaptability in today's world.Next Steps: Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own paths of adaptability, join the DOPEamine community on Substack, and anticipate future episodes that will further explore the intricate dance between personal growth, societal challenges, and the vast potential of human innovation.Here's my entry:After I recorded this episode I immediately realized some of my own hubris in thinking about animal intelligence and adaptation. It's not as if humans are the only creatures capable of molding and mapping out environment or being nomadic but it does seem like we put a lot of extra emphasis on it and are quite sensitive to environmental changes, so there's more at stake to not change things so harshly. Though I do think we underestimate our ability to adapt.I don't feel like much in my life is very adaptable at the moment if I'm overfocusing on income and navigating life through financial means. But when I think socially and intellectually, we have a lot of ability to adapt and wealth. We have friends all over the world, both Molly and I are quite intelligent and flexible with humans and mental models. I feel myself personally getting far less triggered by people, so that makes me more adaptable to all kinds of people and circumstances I can adapt to. Social adaptation is a major aspect of being adaptable and I suspect my personal understandings of spiral dynamics, personality types, etc. have been massively helpeful in feeling like I can truly go anywhere and do anything. Yeah, there are limits in that right now my rent isn't being paid by making my landlord laugh and we're not getting food out of the kindness of someone's heart. We have to earn a living and pay for these things, which is why I'm offering these journal prompts on substack to provide you with some value to donate and contribute to my life and work. I feel like I have no shortage of ideas to try in order to make a living without having to push myself physically or burn out as if I've done over and over. This is all a grand experiment. So, I'm grateful when you're able to contribute or provide feedback.Through this writing I'm realizing I have more flexibility than I give myself credit for and if money is truly the only problem right now then that's not so bad because I have lovely people like you contributing to this work to which I'm grateful!What about you? What are your thoughts on adaptability? Does it change how you think about your personal trajectory? Is being adaptable for you meaning that you have to go “backwards” and you find it difficult to make that adjustment? Let me know in the comments below.This substack stays alive with your support, so consider becoming a monthly subscriber or member! Get full access to DOPEamine by Christian Rivera at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode of DOPEamine, Christian Rivera dives deep into the intricate dance between seeking purpose and the continuous effort to balance discipline with surrender. Purpose, as Christian elaborates, is an ever-evolving quest that shapes our existence, guiding us through the complexities of life.The Quest for PurposeChristian begins by pondering the nature of purpose, a question that haunts many of us. Is purpose found in emotion, thought processes, belief systems, or is it something else entirely? The journey towards understanding purpose often leads us to explore the meaning of life itself. Whether you adopt a nihilistic view or believe in a more defined meaning, Christian argues that finding purpose is possible and necessary, even in a seemingly purposeless existence.Impact and PurposeA significant insight from the episode is the relationship between impact and purpose. Christian shares a personal reframe around the concept of impact, noting that the lack of impact can lead to burnout. Impact doesn't necessarily mean changing the world on a grand scale but involves engaging in actions that produce feedback, contributing to a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment.The Role of DisciplineDiscipline, according to Christian, is not about rigid routines or strict adherence to a particular lifestyle. Instead, it's about finding and maintaining rhythms and rituals that nurture our bodies and souls. It's about showing up in whatever way aligns with our individual experiences and needs.Embracing SurrenderSurrender, on the other hand, is about trusting the flow of life and the systems we navigate. It's not about giving up control but about learning to navigate the energies, environments, and relationships that shape our experiences. This surrender involves a trust in the ecosystem of human connections that support us in fulfilling our purpose.Finding the BalanceThe episode culminates in a discussion on finding the balance between discipline and surrender — a delicate act that requires continuous adjustment and awareness. This balance is crucial for navigating the complexities of life without losing sight of our purpose or succumbing to burnout.Join the Conversation on SubstackFor those seeking to explore these themes further, Christian invites listeners to join his Substack community. Premium subscribers will receive daily journal prompts to aid in their personal exploration of purpose, discipline, and surrender, while free subscribers will have weekly access.Check out DOPEamine on substack for insightful prompts, discussions, and a space to share your journey towards finding balance and purpose in life. Whether it's through comments, sharing your thoughts on flow, or discussing what brings you a sense of purpose, the DOPEamine community is a place for growth and connection.Remember: Finding purpose is not a solitary journey. By engaging with the community, reflecting through journaling, and participating in the ongoing conversation, we can all navigate the complexities of life with a bit more grace and understanding. Join us on DOPEamine as we explore these themes together, and let's support each other in our individual and collective quests for purpose. Get full access to DOPEamine by Christian Rivera at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

This episode references Generational Theory and the book The Fourth Turning is Here by Neil Howe.Hey everyone, CNote here, and guess what? We're diving deep into the digital rabbit hole in this week's episode of the Happy Chemicals podcast, where we're poking the bear—or should I say, the honey badger? That's right, we're talking about Generation Alpha: the newest crew on the block, known for their assertiveness, digital savvy, and a surprising knack for being, well, kinda judgy.A Little Too Honest or Just Ahead of Their Time?So here's the deal: Our Gen Alpha kiddos are growing up in a world far different from the one we knew. They're swiping on iPads before they can walk, consuming content at a pace we can hardly keep up with, and yes, they've got opinions. Lots of them. About us, about technology, about the world at large. And let's just say, they're not holding back.But why does it seem like these pint-sized pundits are ready to throw shade like it's going out of style? Are they just mimicking what they see online, or is there something deeper at play here? That's the big question we're tackling in this episode.Honey Badgers Don't Care... Or Do They?Drawing from the wisdom of generational gurus and the eye-opening insights of Neil Howe's "The Fourth Turning is Here," we're exploring the roots of Gen Alpha's boldness. Is their judgmental streak a product of their environment, or is it just a new phase of the generational cycle? Howe's theory suggests we're witnessing more than just sass; we're seeing the early signs of a major societal shift.Digital Natives or Digital Dictators?As Millennials and Gen X parents, we're navigating uncharted territory. We're the first to raise kids who might just be as tech-savvy as they are headstrong. But here's the twist: Could our own parenting styles—yep, those well-meaning negotiations and our push for digital literacy—be shaping this generation's outspoken nature?Let's Get Philosophical (But Keep It Light)We're not here to lecture; we're here to learn, laugh, and maybe unravel the mysteries of raising the first generation that can Google their way out of a homework jam. This episode is packed with stories, theories, and a healthy dose of curiosity about what makes Gen Alpha tick.Join the ConversationThis isn't just about figuring out why Gen Alpha might be calling us out on our outdated memes; it's about understanding the heart of what drives them. And who knows? Maybe we'll discover a bit about ourselves and our place in this generational tapestry along the way.So plug in, tune out the world, and join us for a ride through the complexities of modern parenting, generational dynamics, and the age-old tradition of kids thinking their parents just don't get it. Spoiler: They might be onto something.Ready to dive deeper into the sass, wisdom, and digital prowess of Gen Alpha? This episode is for anyone curious about the intersection of technology, parenting, and generational theory, all served up with a side of humor and relatability. Let's explore together why the youngest generation might just be our most fascinating yet. Get full access to DOPEamine by Christian Rivera at dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe

In this new era of "Happy Chemicals," we delve into the foundational topic of emotional boundaries. Join us as we explore the significance of recognizing and setting healthy boundaries for personal growth and mental wellness. Drawing from insights in psychology, the Gene Keys, and personal experiences, we discuss practical ways to establish and maintain boundaries that honor our emotional needs and foster meaningful connections. This episode is not just about setting limits; it's about creating space for self-discovery, respect, and genuine interactions. Whether you're beginning your journey in self-coaching or looking to deepen your understanding, this episode offers valuable perspectives on navigating the intricate world of emotions and relationships. Christian Rivera dives into the importance of creating emotional boundaries in our lives. He shares his personal journey with understanding private vs public intimacy, and how a lack of modeling healthy boundaries growing up led him to overshare. Christian reflects on nurturing intimacy through respecting different levels of access in our relationships. He emphasizes processing feelings privately and alchemizing emotions through creativity. In this episode, Christian Rivera discusses: His trigger around extreme openness and lack of emotional boundaries Learning about setting boundaries through the Gene Keys system Childhood lack of modeling for healthy emotional boundaries Using a house analogy to understand levels of intimacy and access Respecting privacy in marriage relationships Dangers of being emotionally boundaryless Creating true intimacy through healthy boundaries Processing emotions privately vs public trauma dumping Concept of alchemizing difficult emotions Using creativity to process feelings in a healthy way Coaching and therapy for building emotional skills Daily self-care for emotional regulation Establishing inner and outer relationship circles Setting social media boundaries with toxic people Benefits of personal emotional boundaries Private journaling for self-processing Emotional intimacy with oneself first Public sharing vs personal happiness nurturing Emotional boundaries for potency and helpfulness Treating happiness as a continual self-care process Fine-tuning daily practices to nurture joy Exploring the mind-body-spirit connection Udemy course on The Wisdom of the Three Centers Self-Coaching Courses: https://www.udemy.com/user/christian-a-rivera/ Follow CNote: http://www.linktr.ee/cnotestudio --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

Introduction: Welcome to today's episode featuring Christian Rivera, also known as C-Note, as he dives into the intricacies of emotional expression and the quest for meaningful connections. Main Themes: Emotional Expression and Connection: C-Note shares his experience as an INTP personality type, discussing the challenges he faces in expressing emotions and connecting with others. The Impact of Introverted Thinking: Learn about how Rivera grapples with his introverted thinking process, which sometimes leads to feelings of disconnection, especially while working from home. The Power of Conversation: Rivera emphasizes the importance of extroverting his thoughts and the role of dialogue in refining and validating his ideas. Battling Anxiety and Fear of Rejection: Hear how C-Note confronts his anxiety and the fear of seeking attention, revealing his vulnerabilities in the pursuit of connection. Emotional Expression Outlets: Discover the creative ways Rivera has found to express emotions, including through music, emotional content, and hosting mental wellness open mic nights. The Struggle with Emotional Processing: C-Note candidly speaks about his difficulties with emotional processing, potentially exacerbated by ADHD and hyper-fixations. The Importance of Receptive Listeners: The episode highlights Rivera's relief in finding listeners who are receptive to his thoughts, emphasizing the value of genuine care and support. Quality over Online Recognition: A discussion on the importance of true connections rather than superficial online interactions. Assessing Relationship Sincerity: Rivera shares insights into how he evaluates the sincerity of his relationships, insisting on the need for actions that support emotional well-being. Communicating Needs and Relationship Dynamics: An exploration of Rivera's efforts to communicate his needs clearly and update his connection methods with his spouse. Learning and Growth Opportunities: Details on Rivera's Udemy course on the three centers and his offer of one-on-one sessions to aid others in personal growth. Invitation for Feedback and Engagement: C-Note seeks feedback and encourages listeners to engage with his content, especially his videos on extroverted feeling. Closing Thoughts: Join us in this profound discussion with Christian Rivera as he navigates the complexities of self-expression and the search for authentic relationships in today's world. Connect with C-Note: For those eager to delve deeper, Rivera's content is a resource for anyone looking to enhance their emotional literacy and forge deeper connections. Reminder: If you find value in today's show, please consider subscribing, sharing, and leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform. Thank you for tuning in to this episode where self-awareness and emotional intelligence take center stage in the journey of personal development. ----------------- Christian Rivera creates videos and courses that support INTP personality type growth. These videos are for entertainment, self-diagnosis, self-assessment, self-experimentation, and expressions of Christian's own personal process and development. He is not a mental health professional so any actions taken from the content of these videos is the responsibility of the viewer. Any advice given is from the lens of personal experience and self-acquired knowledge. INTP Support Courses: http://www.udemy.com/user/christian-a-rivera Get a Free INTP eBook for joining the e-mail list: http://www.linktr.ee/cnotestudio ------------------ Personality Hacker Personality Test: https://ca157.isrefer.com/go/phpt/letsgocnote/ Truity Labs Test: https://www.truity.com/?a=3234637 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

In my latest video, I reflect on how mental wellness has been a throughline in my life and share my vision for being a "junction box" between people and the therapists, coaches, consultants, and creatives who can support them. Instead of being the expert, I want to diagnose where people are stuck and direct them to the right resources. There's so much potential for us to help each other if we connect authentically, individual to individual. What are your thoughts? I wrote a post this morning about where I"m going with mental wellness support: https://www.instagram.com/p/C2Aje14LotN/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link ----------------- Christian Rivera creates videos and courses that support INTP personality type growth. These videos are for entertainment, self-diagnosis, self-assessment, self-experimentation, and expressions of Christian's own personal process and development. He is not a mental health professional so any actions taken from the content of these videos is the responsibility of the viewer. Any advice given is from the lens of personal experience and self-acquired knowledge. INTP Support Courses: http://www.udemy.com/user/christian-a-rivera Get a Free INTP eBook for joining the e-mail list: http://www.linktr.ee/cnotestudio ------------------ Personality Hacker Personality Test: https://ca157.isrefer.com/go/phpt/letsgocnote/ Truity Labs Test: https://www.truity.com/?a=3234637 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

Welcome to today's episode where we explore CNote's innovative approach to mental wellness and his four-quadrant strategy. The episode delves into the challenges of feeling diagnostically stuck and the journey towards clarity and self-understanding. Main Themes: Comprehensive Mental Wellness: We discuss CNote's holistic strategy for mental wellness, focusing on overcoming the feeling of being directionless through personality profiling and alternative methods. The Emotional Roots: A deep dive into how fear, blame, shame, and guilt can impede personal growth and the importance of addressing these emotions to foster understanding. Fear and the Future: Analysis of fear's connection to future uncertainties, survival instincts, and larger global issues such as climate change and the impact of billionaires. Societal Implications of Emotions: The cultural phenomenon of “canceling” as a social shaming practice. The evolutionary purpose of shame in maintaining social norms. Relationships and Self-Perception: The destructive effects of shame and guilt on personal relationships and self-image. The call for self-acceptance and recognizing the healing nature of shared human experiences. Personal Connection: CNote shares his own struggles with guilt and the crucial role of self-forgiveness. The value of ongoing self-reflection in maintaining personal connections and combating loneliness. Seeking Guidance: An invitation for listeners to engage with CNote for personalized sessions. The goal of helping individuals explore personal values, purpose, and fostering a deeper self-connection. Conclusion: Summarizing CNote's message on the importance of inner work and self-discovery in achieving mental wellness. Encouragement to reach out for support and the promise of personalized help in navigating the complexities of the human emotional landscape. Call to Action: Listeners are encouraged to connect with CNote for tailored support and to start their journey towards a clearer understanding of themselves and their place in the world. Final Thoughts: Reflecting on the profound impact that addressing deep-seated emotions can have on one's overall mental health and well-being. A reminder that you are not alone in your experiences and that reaching out for help is a brave and vital step towards healing. ----------------- Christian Rivera creates videos and courses that support INTP personality type growth. These videos are for entertainment, self-diagnosis, self-assessment, self-experimentation, and expressions of Christian's own personal process and development. He is not a mental health professional so any actions taken from the content of these videos is the responsibility of the viewer. Any advice given is from the lens of personal experience and self-acquired knowledge. INTP Support Courses: http://www.udemy.com/user/christian-a-rivera Get a Free INTP eBook for joining the e-mail list: http://www.linktr.ee/cnotestudio ------------------ Personality Hacker Personality Test: https://ca157.isrefer.com/go/phpt/letsgocnote/ Truity Labs Test: https://www.truity.com/?a=3234637 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

In this episode, I'm sharing with you my tips for unleashing authenticity as an INTP. As an INTP, it's easy to get lost in your thoughts and feel like you don't express yourself authentically. But by learning how to embrace your true self, you can start to feel more confident and connected. I hope you find these tips helpful as you work to unleash your authentic self. I know they've been helpful to me and I believe they can help you too. If you have any questions or comments, feel free to let me know! ----------------- Christian Rivera creates videos and courses that support INTP personality type growth. INTP Support Courses: http://www.udemy.com/user/christian-a-rivera Get a Free INTP eBook for joining the e-mail list: http://www.linktr.ee/cnotestudio ------------------ Personality Hacker Personality Test: https://ca157.isrefer.com/go/phpt/letsgocnote/ Truity Labs Test: https://www.truity.com/?a=3234637 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

In this episode, I'm sharing with you my tips for unleashing authenticity as an INTP. As an INTP, it's easy to get lost in your thoughts and feel like you don't express yourself authentically. But by learning how to embrace your true self, you can start to feel more confident and connected. I hope you find these tips helpful as you work to unleash your authentic self. I know they've been helpful to me and I believe they can help you too. If you have any questions or comments, feel free to let me know! ----------------- Christian Rivera creates videos and courses that support INTP personality type growth. INTP Support Courses: http://www.udemy.com/user/christian-a-rivera Get a Free INTP eBook for joining the e-mail list: http://www.linktr.ee/cnotestudio ------------------ Personality Hacker Personality Test: https://ca157.isrefer.com/go/phpt/letsgocnote/ Truity Labs Test: https://www.truity.com/?a=3234637 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

I found myself asking about trust in spiritual leaders and why some activate some negative gut responses from me. So I share some of my thoughts on why we can or can't trust certain mentors or leaders and how they may prey on vulnerability. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

What's the future of Artificial Intelligence? What does it mean for creativity? What does it mean for humans? What does it mean for our collective future? Artificial intelligence is being used to automate tasks that were previously done manually, such as content creation and design work. This allows for faster and more efficient production of templates and presentations. While AI can handle the technical aspects of these tasks, human creativity, and discernment are still necessary for making aesthetic and effective design choices. The use of AI in various fields, including warfare, raises ethical and philosophical questions about human intervention and the potential risks associated with AI. However, AI also has the potential to free up human time and energy for more creative and imaginative pursuits. The emergence of the noosphere, the world of thought and ideas facilitated by social media, further expands the reach of human consciousness and the possibilities for discovery and connection. The future impact of AI on humanity is uncertain, but it offers both opportunities and challenges that require careful consideration and exploration. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

I'm sharing some of my healing work around the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style as a Millennial born in the 1980s to immigrant parents. I share how some of us are products of our parents' panic to fit into their Generation's culture and how that led to the millennial pathology of feeling like a bad person. I talk a bit about our access to the wild west of the internet at a young age and how that affected some of our relationship to sex and relating. I reference the show BEEF which is a must see if you resonate with some of these challenges. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

I've been reading the book The Fourth Turning is Here by Neil Howe which discusses Generational Theory and how the events of history can give us an idea of where we're going next as a collective. Pick up The Fourth Turning is Here: https://amzn.to/3s6gI7u --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

I've recently learned that I have a fearful avoidant attachment style and much has been coming out of that. On this episode I process out loud what has been coming from my learning, how that relates to my story, and where I can start to go from here. I also talk a bit about why Millennials are seeking labels so freely. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

Introduction Welcome back to Happy Chemicals! I'm CNote, and today I want to share my recent insights into mental health, philosophy, and the implications of artificial intelligence on humanity. Over the years, I've discussed my mental health journey, attempting to differentiate between mental illness and overall well-being. Today, I've reached a new understanding of mental health, and I believe it's essential to redefine our approach to it. Join me as we delve into the three pillars that shape my perspective: mental wellness, philosophy, and existential considerations. Subscribed The Transition to Mental Wellness I'm Christian Rivera, and for the past six years, I've openly discussed my mental health struggles and how they relate to my personality. Recently, I took some time off to reflect on my experiences and redefine mental health for myself. I've come to realize that mental health isn't solely about mental illness, depression, or despair. It also involves our day-to-day well-being, managing our emotions, and understanding our "happy chemicals" that keep us balanced. The Struggles of Finding Our Place Many of us face challenges, such as a lack of community, connection, and purpose, leading to a crisis of meaning. This struggle becomes more pronounced in younger generations, like millennials, who may feel disconnected from the world they were born into. While generational theory may help us understand these feelings, finding our place and belonging remains an ongoing challenge. Three Pillars of Mental Wellness I've divided my approach to mental wellness into three interconnected pillars: Mental Health / Mental Wellness: Focused on understanding our emotions, managing day-to-day challenges, and examining how we've arrived at our current state through actions and experiences. Philosophy: This pillar involves reconciling our core principles and beliefs, exploring our personality traits, and expressing our thoughts through philosophy or creative outlets. Existential Considerations: We look to the future, contemplating our identity, life path, and the impact of technology, especially artificial intelligence. AI's Role in Our Lives AI is becoming an integral part of our lives, impacting various sectors, including military and technology. As we face ethical and existential questions about AI, we must consider how it aligns with human values and principles. AI's ability to learn and interact at great speed raises questions about its role in warfare, climate change, and even terraforming other planets. AI and Our Survival AI's existence is intrinsically linked to human thought and the continuation of humanity. As we develop AI, we must provide it with principles that it can question and adapt. Just as we continually challenge our beliefs and adapt, AI should be able to assess its principles in response to new challenges and experiences. Concluding Thoughts Embracing mental wellness, exploring philosophy, and addressing the implications of AI are crucial steps in shaping our future. As thinkers and creators, we must engage in discussions about ethics, principles, and the coexistence of AI and humanity. I hope to bring these topics to Happy Chemicals on Substack, YouTube, and my podcast. Your contributions and opinions are invaluable as we navigate this ever-changing landscape. Thank you for joining me on this journey of self-discovery and exploration. Let's continue to ponder, discuss, and shape the world around us. Note: The transcript has been cleaned up and restructured to create a coherent and concise Substack article. Some content has been condensed to focus on the main points, and headers have been added for better organization. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

Ironically making a podcast about how I'm doing too much and burning out often. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

I've spent so long making this podcast with a multi year journey of healing and growth. So what now? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

Today I explore power and why we need it and when we don't. Letsgocnote.substack.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

When you have everything you want does it make sense to still want more? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

I've been in a process of letting go of the past versions of me to awaken something new, something focused, something that I can define and become more adaptable in this game of life. I'm ready to step out of the dugout of inner work and into the batter's box to see what this new version of me can do. http://www.patreon.com/happychemicals http://www.youtube.com/happychemicals http://www.bit.ly/happychemicalsbook --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

In this episode, I delve into the topic of building a career despite mental health struggles. As someone who has navigated this terrain, I share my insights on how to use sick days, manage executive functioning, be self-assessing when to take time off, and self-advocate. I explore practical strategies that you can employ to create a fulfilling and rewarding career while prioritizing your mental health. Whether you struggle with anxiety, depression, or any other mental health condition, you will find this podcast helpful in navigating the challenges of building a career. By sharing my experiences, I hope to empower you to take control of your mental health and achieve your professional goals. If you want to support me and my work, you can find me on Patreon at patreon.com/happychemicals. I also have a book called Happy Chemicals: A Neurotic Memoir that offers a candid look at my journey with mental health. You can get your copy at bit.ly/happychemicalsbook. Join me in this insightful and empowering episode as I explore building a career despite mental health struggles. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

Hey there, welcome to the Happy Chemicals podcast! I'm your host and resident neurotic, and in this episode, I'm here to talk about my ongoing journey of career transcendence. Now, I know what you're thinking - "Wow, this guy's really got it together!" But let me tell you, transcendence is no walk in the park. It's more like a marathon through a jungle filled with quicksand and monkeys that throw coconuts at you. But I'm determined to make it through, and I want to share my experiences with you. In this episode, I'll be discussing the challenges I've faced in letting go of my old ways and embracing new opportunities, all while avoiding the temptation to crawl back into my comfort zone. And let's not forget about the big bad wolf that is AI. It's out there, lurking in the shadows, waiting to steal our jobs and our identities. But don't worry, I've got a plan - and it involves befriending the robots and convincing them to join our team. If you're ready to join me on this wild and wacky ride of career transcendence, then tune in now! And if you want to support me along the way, check out my Patreon page at patreon.com/happychemicals. Plus, for a limited time only, buy my book, Happy Chemicals: A Neurotic Memoir, and I'll throw in a free bag of popcorn! (Popcorn not included.) You can find the book at bit.ly/happychemicalsbook. So come on, let's get transcendental! (Disclaimer: transcendence may cause side effects such as increased happiness, productivity, and a sudden urge to dance.) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

Welcome to the latest episode of the Happy Chemicals podcast! In this episode, I dive into the concept of our Warrior selves and why tapping into our violent depths can be important for survival, expression, and physical release. I discuss the importance of wrestling, sports, and martial arts as healthy outlets for our violent tendencies, and how WWE wrestling is becoming a communal opportunity for these outlets. I also explore how there may be times in our lives when we need to be violent, and why it's important to not ignore this aspect of our nature. Join me for an insightful and thought-provoking discussion on the importance of our Warrior selves, and how embracing this part of ourselves can lead to greater self-awareness and personal growth. Be sure to support the Happy Chemicals podcast on Patreon at patreon.com/happychemicals, and check out my book, "Happy Chemicals: A Neurotic Memoir" at bit.ly/happychemicalsbook. Thanks for listening! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

In this episode, I delve into the phenomenon of people giving bad career advice based on their own personal experiences. While well-intentioned, advice from others may not always be applicable to our unique circumstances. I explore the importance of conducting our own trial and error experiments to find what truly resonates with us and creates a sense of fulfillment in our careers. I also dive into the four Myers-Briggs subtypes as coined by Dr. Dario Nardi and featured on the Personality Hacker podcast. These subtypes provide insight into how different personality types approach decision-making and career choices. By understanding our individual subtypes, we can make more informed decisions about our careers and avoid falling into the trap of taking advice that may not be suited to our particular personality type. Through discussion and analysis, I offer guidance on how to create contrast in our careers, experiment with different paths, and ultimately make the final choices for ourselves. So join me for this insightful and thought-provoking episode and learn how to navigate the complexities of career choices and create a fulfilling path for yourself. Don't forget to visit my Patreon page at patreon.com/happychemicals to support my podcast. Check out my book "Happy Chemicals: A Neurotic Memoir" at http://www.bit.ly/happychemicalsbook --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

Hey there! Today, I want to talk about the concept of attention as currency in our modern world. We often give away our attention freely without realizing its true value, but when we're in situations where we have less attention to spare, we come to understand how precious it is. One way to maximize our attention is through immersive experiences that allow us to be fully present in the moment. Whether it's reading a book, hiking in nature, or attending a live event, these experiences help us to focus our attention and enhance our lives. But in today's world, social media can be a major drain on our attention. As comedian Chris Rock has pointed out, there are four ways we try to get attention online: showing our ass, becoming infamous, being excellent, or being a victim. While social media can provide a sense of community and connection, it can also be addictive and lead to disconnection from the real world. That's why I think it's important to reframe the conversation around mental health as "chemical health" and pay attention to how our bodies feel when we're on social media versus when we're off. By becoming aware of the impact of our digital habits on our physical and emotional well-being, we can make better choices about how we spend our time and attention. So, let's start treating our attention like the valuable currency that it is. And, speaking of valuable things, I want to invite you to support the Happy Chemicals podcast on Patreon.com/happychemicals. This podcast explores the fascinating world of brain chemistry and how it influences our behavior and emotions. By supporting the podcast, you can continue to learn more about the science of happiness and well-being. Thanks for tuning in to "Attention as Currency: Navigating Social Media and Chemical Health"! Pick up my new book Happy Chemicals: A Neurotic Memoir at http://www.bit.ly/happychemicalsbook This is a book about a person writing a book and the challenges that come with writing a book. I guess it's also about a person trying to better understand themselves by outputting their inner dialogue into a book to try and better understand the parts of themselves. It's a neurotic memoir because it's about letting loose and seeing what the brain truly comes up with, complains about, notices, figures out, makes absurd, wants to dismiss, and wants to hide. This book is about bringing all of those thoughts, even the scary ones, up to the surface to bounce them around a bit and make some sense out of it or better yet, nonsense. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

In this episode, I delve into the fascinating world of chemical systems effects and their impact on my mental and emotional wellbeing. Join me as I explore my journey through burnout and my relationship to key neurotransmitters such as dopamine, oxytocin, testosterone, and serotonin. I also touch on the role of sex addiction and how it relates to my overuse of analytic brain functioning. Don't miss this insightful conversation on the intersection of chemistry and psychology from my personal perspective. Pick up my new book Happy Chemicals: A Neurotic Memoir at http://www.bit.ly/happychemicalsbook This is a book about a person writing a book and the challenges that come with writing a book. I guess it's also about a person trying to better understand themselves by outputting their inner dialogue into a book to try and better understand the parts of themselves. It's a neurotic memoir because it's about letting loose and seeing what the brain truly comes up with, complains about, notices, figures out, makes absurd, wants to dismiss, and wants to hide. This book is about bringing all of those thoughts, even the scary ones, up to the surface to bounce them around a bit and make some sense out of it or better yet, nonsense. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

In this episode, I take a deep dive into my personal journey towards happiness and share some of my insights and experiences. Join me as I discuss how happiness is not a permanent state, and explore strategies for being more mindful and present in the moment. We'll also explore the idea of being aware of our emotions about emotions, and how this awareness can help us better understand ourselves and lead to a more fulfilling life. So, sit back and tune in as I share my brain dump on becoming a happier person. Support at http://www.patreon.com/happychemicals Pick up my new book Happy Chemicals: A Neurotic Memoir at http://www.bit.ly/happychemicalsbook This is a book about a person writing a book and the challenges that come with writing a book. I guess it's also about a person trying to better understand themselves by outputting their inner dialogue into a book to try and better understand the parts of themselves. It's a neurotic memoir because it's about letting loose and seeing what the brain truly comes up with, complains about, notices, figures out, makes absurd, wants to dismiss, and wants to hide. This book is about bringing all of those thoughts, even the scary ones, up to the surface to bounce them around a bit and make some sense out of it or better yet, nonsense. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happychemicals/message

Today we celebrate 500 episodes of Happy Chemicals with an update on where things are going, an appreciation for where we've been, and much gratitude! I also talk a little bit about inflammation and depression, as well as the opportunity AI brings with allowing us to start self-experimenting and self-trusting. Follow me @letsgocnote on all the socials. Links at HTTP://www.cnote.studio --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/happychemicals/message

I want to share more about what I'm figuring out around my personal relationship to sexual fantasies and control related to my anima and inner ESFJ needing to care more for me and those around me. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/happychemicals/message

Organizing some thoughts around sexual fantasies, power, masturbation, and dissociation. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/happychemicals/message

I just watched a video on big think about creating a commonplace book during overwhelming times where we can create, organize, distill, and express ourselves to release and free up mental energy for greater creative expression. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/happychemicals/message

Christian and Molly talk about the Mission: Joy documentary which covers a conversation between the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu about Joy. We also talk about commitment and devotion to goodness, truth, and beauty as well as developing wellness as a skill. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/happychemicals/message