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Dr. Caneel Joyce talks with guest Erin Rocchio about wholeness and one of the biggest issues that moves us away from it- burnout- in part one of this special two-part episode of Allowed: Conscious Leadership and Personal Growth. They discuss the factors that contribute to burnout, including the mismatch between a person and their environment, and offer six levers that can support well-being in the workplace. They also explore the symptoms of burnout and the phases that people go through, as well as the need for leaders to prioritize their own needs in order to be effective. Additionally, the connection between burnout and wholeness is discussed, and three self-guided coaching tools are offered as a means of prevention. The conversation ultimately emphasizes the importance of creating spaces where people can be their whole selves and flourish in all aspects of their lives.Guest bioFor fifteen years, Erin has worked with executives across industries to find the sweet spot between business results and personal meaning. She designs and delivers transformational leader, team, and organization development in line with business strategy. Released in 2020, Erin's inaugural publication, Wholeness at Work: Free Yourself from Burnout for Good, addresses the science behind workplace burnout. She explores the symptoms, sources, and solutions across three levels: individual, relational, and systemic. Her Roadmap to Wholeness supports leaders in finding a lifelong path to sustainable wellbeing in their work.For Erin's complete bio, please visit allowedpodcast.com Highlights[00:04:02]  Burnout threatens leaders and organizational success[00:07:56] Ignoring needs leads to burnout culture.[00:11:47] Wholeness tools for burnout and systemic issues.[00:17:36] Six workplace levers to support well-being [00:20:05] Guide to burnout causes and relief methods.For complete show notes and additional resources, visit allowedpodcast.com

Beth Anstandig is back on the Allowed podcast!As a lifelong cowgirl, writer, university faculty member, and licensed psychotherapist, Beth has 25 years of experience developing, implementing, and training people in Natural Leadership—a model she pioneered. Natural leadership helps people awaken their innate awareness so they can live and work with more authentic relationships and connections. Beth owns Take a Chance Ranch in Morgan Hill, CA providing leadership, culture, and well-being programs through The Circle Up Experience. Together with an ever-growing menagerie of animals, she's trained thousands of leaders and teams from some of the most renowned corporations, universities, and nonprofits. Beth joins Caneel Joyce to discuss her brilliant new book The Human Herd and to share the incredible lessons leaders can learn from honing their natural leadership skills. Listen to learn why self-care is essential in building trust in teams, how learning about the different fields of awareness improves your leadership, and what being a part of a human herd really entails. During the episode, Caneel and Beth detail how you can strengthen the trust and relationships within your team through the principles of natural leadership. 

This episode of Allowed gets personal as Caneel recounts the moment she realized she was still repressing some of the most unique, authentic parts of herself. You will learn the difference between your identity and your essence and then discover how 360-degree reviews can help you professionally AND personally by revealing the innate gifts you already possess. Is there a part of you that never sees the light of day? Do you believe that you can't be your true self?  Are you hiding your precious gifts from the world? You can break out of the mindsets that keep you from playing full out. Become the person you want to be by letting go, rediscovering your essence, and Allowing all of you to come out into the world.Highlights00:00 Intro01:49 The difference between identity and essence 07:15 The significance of uninhibited dancing11:02 Why a 360-degree review helps develop personal branding13:34 My shocking 360-degree review report results 17:07 The importance of spontaneous creation18:26 Why we repress our essence

Are your results not matching up to the level of change you want? Let's figure out what you truly want and set you up for success to actually get it. You may want change, but are you willing to create it?Sustainable and lasting change takes willingness. In this episode, you will discover how to boost your willingness through the Change Formula. Take the first step in boosting your willingness by learning about the importance of tapping into your creativity and crafting a powerful, motivating vision! You will then hear why getting comfortable with discomfort could be the missing component to making sustainable change in your life and leadership. Learn how you can get creative with how you support yourself through change and what support can do to make change easier. Throughout the episode you will also learn how listening to your Whole Body Yes can make each part of the Change Formula easier! Change doesn't have to be hard. Once you tap into your will and choose to step into the Creator role in your life, you can create the changes you've been dreaming about.Highlights02:33 The Unarguable Check In12:12 How to Get What You Want15:00 What is the Change Formula?18:48 The Change Formula: How to Create a Vision26:17 The Change Formula: The Power of Discomfort33:06 The Change Formula: Why Support Encourages Change36:33 How to Guide Yourself Through Personal Growth: Follow Your Whole Body Yes43:20 Are You Willing to Change?46:08 Additional Conscious Leadership ResourcesFind this episode's shownotes here!

You have them and you're going to keep having them: emotions. You are allowed to feel your feelings all the way to completion. You are allowed to name and listen to your emotions in a productive and meaningful way. In this episode, master a simpler, more powerful vocabulary of familiar basic emotion words that break you out of drama and help you navigate through your emotional world. Discover the wisdom of the 5 core emotions and how their wisdom can inspire change and growth. You will then learn about how emotions manifest in your body and how to identify what you're feeling without overanalyzing or stifling your feelings. Learn how the fact vs. story framework gives you the skills to consciously communicate your emotions. By the end of the episode, you will know how to shift away from the drama-based story language and into the language of facts in order to break out of draining emotional cycles and step into empowerment. Highlights 13:03 - What does it mean to be unarguable? The Fact vs. Story Framework16:57 - The 5 Core Emotions20:50 - How Story Emotions Both Come From and Lead To Drama27:47 - The Wisdom of the 5 Core Emotions31:42 - How to Experience Your Emotions Consciously36:08 - Allow Yourself to Feel Your Emotions39:47 - The Part You Play in Your Emotions44:52 - Are you very emotional and sensitive? You can use that emotional intelligence for your growthFor shownotes and to become an Allowed Insider, head to allowedpodcast.com

This week's coaching session will help you end burnout, stop indecisiveness, reduce your feelings of overwhelm, and end the depletion of your creative energy. Do you tend to say yes when you really want to say no? Are you trapped in what feels like an unending burnout cycle? Do you find yourself breaking commitments? Or stuck in ones that now feel like burdensome obligations?In less than an hour, learn how getting into the daily practice of creating clear agreements with yourself for the day is a beneficial exercise of self-care. Self-care habits, like integrity, Whole Body Yes, and boundaries, help you to own the leadership role in your life and set the foundation for your external leadership. Discover how to use your internal wisdom to guide your commitments, so you can stop breaking your agreements and start creating agreements that make you feel ALIVE. You can stop engaging in the friction of fighting life, including the life that is within you. You can stop swimming upstream when you don't want to. You may still be working hard, but it doesn't have to feel hard. You may still be putting in a lot of effort and energy into keeping your agreements, but friction is absent. Learn how integrity is a place of great ease which you can live in and create from if you choose to. Highlights 06:59 Self Care Is More Than Bubble Baths08:09 How Your Integrity Serves Others10:11 The Value of Self Care Habits11:07 What is Integrity?14:26 The Consequences of a Lack of Integrity16:28 What is a Whole Body Yes?25:19 What is a Clear Agreement?33:11 How Living a Life of Integrity Reduces Burnout36:10 Clear Agreements Journaling Exercise For show notes and more visit allowedpodcast.com 

Are you stuck in a rut, unfulfilling routine, or unhealthy pattern? Have you lost your inspiration? Are you not quite sure how to proceed or what to prioritize? Are you wondering why a certain situation or relationship is the way it is?  Are you unsure about different paths forward?  Here's the good news: there is a way to find those answers and solutions. And you don't need me or anyone else to help you find them. The answers are within you. And all you need to do to find them is to use an essential, multi-purpose conscious leadership tool called curiosity.  This week's coaching session is all about the transformative power of curiosity.  In less than an hour, learn what genuine curiosity is and how to use it to your benefit. The perks of curiosity range from empowerment to productivity. You can improve your communication skills by learning how to ask mindful questions. Master how to use curiosity to craft creative solutions to lingering problems and free your energy.  Learn to question your motivations to gain insight into what to prioritize in both your personal and professional life to live with more integrity.  The opportunities for growth are limitless when you master curiosity. Get curious and take 100% responsibility for your life without blame, shame, and guilt.   Give yourself the power, knowledge, and freedom to promote healthy and sustainable change in yourself. 

Let's activate your superpower and create a life you love to lead by using the practice of presence. Bringing your focus inward is the paradigm shift in leadership development and personal growth.Think of this episode as Conscious Leadership 101-  a quick and fundamental guide to the power of presence. Start back at the basics and learn what presence is and its wide array of uses. You can use presence to reduce anxiety, gain clarity, improve focus and productivity, and more. Learn how to use a variety of simple ways to help you return to mindfulness when you find yourself straying from presence. Throughout this coaching session, you will discover why presence is essential to conscious leadership, then explore the personal and professional benefits of living a mindful life.Highlights00:00 Intro04:06 Conscious leadership involves presence06:18 What is presence?08:04 You are allowed to be present 9:50 What presence looks and feels like12:50 9 quick and simple ways to be present

Wondering if it's time to quit? Questioning whether or not to move on? Feeling an urge to start over? Are you struggling with burnout? Are you feeling like life is happening to you?If you see yourself repeating the same unfulfilling patterns and living a life of constant fire drills that drain you of your creative energy... that is your sign. It's time for you to embark on your personal growth journey, and to experience the revolutionary freedom that comes with a fresh start and a completely blank page. This coaching session will inspire you to utilize new beginnings as an opportunity to release what no longer serves you. Change is possible, and it can start right now if you want it to.  In this inaugural episode of Allowed's second season, you will determine if it's time to reassess areas of your life. You will discover the benefits that you can gain from the wisdom of faulty foundations. Most importantly, you will learn how to begin rebuilding and designing your life in a way that best serves you. A life customized by and for YOU. Throughout this episode, gain the life-changing leadership skill of shifting your mindset in order to dismantle the fear-based stories you have around blank slates. By breaking free of the thought patterns that keep you trapped and stifled by broken systems, you will move towards a healthy and empowered personal growth mindset that embraces the unbelievable power of change. Design your life consciously and foster creativity in all areas of your life. Highlights00:00 Intro05:13 What is the value of a growth mindset?07:37 How to embrace the powerful responsibility of leadership08:43 Learn how self-care and leadership intersect09:55 Practice decluttering by making clear agreements 13:24 When is it time to quit and start over?16:30 How to end the burnout cycle21:53 You are Allowed to change everything and start over25:53 How fear is holding you back30:39 How to shift your mindset about new beginnings 37:25 What is there to learn from old cycles and broken foundations?More information and tools are available at https://caneel.com/podcast

It's time to look forward... Vision is the key to being the creator of your own reality.As we turn the page on 2021, I invite you to build a foundation for making a massive change that's in service of your most authentic self.Imagine that you are at the end of 2022. Visualize the outcomes you want to create. Dare to envision things that you think are totally impossible and awesomely magnificent, imagined exactly as you'd want them to be. There is nothing that you're not allowed to want.  Dare to find out what unfolds. And dare to help it unfold the way you want it to. In this special New Year bonus episode of Allowed, I will walk you through a year-end visioning routine. And while the coming of the New Year is a perfect time to do this exercise, you can create a powerful vision at any time. Wherever you are on your journey, this is a great way to give yourself and your goals a recharge. A compelling vision will help you achieve the lasting change you have been wanting.  And the best part? All you need to do for this exercise is answer a few simple questions.  Start the year with a commitment to yourself to make 2022 a year where you become even more uniquely and beautifully you. Have a wonderful New Year, I cannot wait to see where you are a year from now. 

Presence is the glue that holds all the pieces of conscious leadership together.  Learning and practicing presence in leadership is one of the most fundamental things leaders can do.  There are many ways you can regain presence when you feel yourself drifting.  By adding presence to your leadership toolkit you will find yourself leading from above the line with creativity, ease and flow.  In this mini-episode on presence, learn one of the Conscious Leadership methods to remain in presence.  Today, as the final Presents for Presence giveaway, I'm offering my own executive leadership coaching service to you in the form of a one-on-one live mini session with ME. If you want a chance to win a live one-on-one mini-session with me, don't forget to sign up to become an Allowed Insider at allowedpodcast.com!

Are you a good listener? It is natural to drift out of presence. It is human and we all do it.  Luckily, you can practice and train your brain to be in a more consistent state of presence. Practicing presence helps to declutter your mind and give you more control over your mindset.  In this mini-episode, you will learn the most reliable way to quickly regain presence. Mastering this skill will help you in both your leadership and relationships in life. Today we are giving away a few LIFETIME subscriptions to both the Elevate app AND the Balance app. To enter the Presents for Presence giveaway, sign up to become an Allowed Insider at allowedpodcast.com !

 At the heart of conscious leadership is presence.  Presence is something you learn and practice.  By practicing presence in leadership, you gain acceptance of what is here now and alignment with your true purpose. Presence can free you from boundaries you put on yourself and open up your creativity. In this mini-episode, learn one easy simple way to regain presence.  This often overlooked method is something you do daily but when done consciously you can ground yourself and bring mental clarity. Today we are giving away a Deluxe essential tea kit which includes 4-cup loose tea samples of ALL available August Uncommon teas.To enter the Presents for Presence giveaway, sign up to become an Allowed Insider at allowedpodcast.com !

When you are in presence you are accepting the current moment as is. No judgements, no trying to control what is.  When you are in this state of presence you are aligned with your purpose and are contributing in creative ways. In this mini-episode, learn one of my favorite and most fun ways to regain presence.  Today, we are giving away a Build Your Own Bundle 12-Plant Farmstand for Day 9 of Presents for Presence!Lettuce Grow provides a system that allows everyone to grow 20% of their own fresh food at home with no pesticides and 95% less water than traditional agriculture. To enter the Presents for Presence giveaway, sign up to become an Allowed Insider at allowedpodcast.com !

There is a transformative power in learning to have presence in leadership. When in presence you are able to be creative, accepting, and approach challenges from above the line.  Presence gives you peace that is life-changing. In this mini-episode, learn how appreciating something can bring you back into a state of presence. Today's present for presence is an Intelligent Change trio bundle that includes The 5-minute Journal, The 5-minute Journal for Kids, and the Productivity Planner. To enter the Presents for Presence giveaway, sign up to become an Allowed Insider at allowedpodcast.com !

Connecting to nature is a beneficial way leaders can reset and re-ground themselves in presence.  In this mini-episode, learn how a simple walk in the grass can alter your mindset and bring you back into presence.  It works for humans of all ages.  It's one of the fastest and simplest ways to bring yourself back when you have drifted.  Today we are giving away The Chocolate Box, which is a deluxe sampler with 7 samples of the most popular skincare products from May Lindstrom.To enter the Presents for Presence giveaway, sign up to become an Allowed Insider at allowedpodcast.com !

Do you ever feel like you are walking around in a fog or life if happening around you rather than through you? Being out of presence can feel like a veil is covering your mental vision.  It can keep you trapped in mindsets and patterns that are not serving your or those around you.  In this mini-episode, learn how to lift the veil and regain presence by using the conscious leadership tool of asking open and honest questions.  Today we're giving away the essential 3-book Zone of Genius set from Gay Hendricks. This set includes The Big Leap, Joy of Genius, and Genius Zone.To enter the Presents for Presence giveaway, sign up to become an Allowed Insider at allowedpodcast.com !

The most amazing gift you can give those around you and the world is presence. Presence aligns you with your authentic self giving you more peace and clarity.  By practicing presence you can transform your leadership and life.  In this mini-episode, you will learn how changing your posture helps to ground you in presence.  This one simple thing can easily be done anywhere at any time to bring you back into the moment and into presence. Today's 12 Days of Christmas giveaway is from Glo Yoga.  Visit allowedpodcast.com to enter to win a one year membership to Glo, an app which provides over 4,000 online yoga, meditation, pilates, and fitness classes designed to help you feel better in body and mind. 

How often do you find yourself losing focus at work or home? Do you ever have moments where you aren't sure what you were doing or what was going on around you?  You probably slip out of presence all the time without even realizing it.  Luckily it's easy to re-ground yourself back in presence and experience more ease, focus, calmness, clarity and awareness.  One way is to practice meditating consciously.  In this mini-episode, learn how meditation can help you regain presence in those moments when you drift. Today's 12 Days of Christmas giveaway is from BioSelf Technology.  Visit allowedpodcast.com to enter to win a Sensate 2 System. This device emits infrasonic waves to help provide instant calm for an anxious mind. 

Presence in leadership is one superpower all successful leaders have in common. Understanding how to stay in presence or return to presence can help remove you from patterns of conflict. A very simple way to re-ground yourself in presence is by appreciating someone.  In this mini-episode, learn how fulfilling it can be to not only appreciate someone but to also regain presence in your life and leadership. Today's 12 Days of Christmas giveaway is from Lococo.  Visit allowedpodcast.com to enter to win jars of this special adaptogenic hot cocoa created by one of my clients. 

How often are you feeling grounded in the moment and completely aware of your surroundings? Presence is the key to functioning in a healthy and successful way in life and leadership.One way to remain in presence is by practicing curiosity.  Do you know what true curiosity is? How often do you practice curiosity in your life?  In this mini-episode, learn how you can use curiosity to ground you in presence. Today's 12 Days of Christmas giveaway is from Parachute Home.  Visit allowedpodcast.com to enter to win a cozy pair of slippers.  

Presence is the most fundamental concept of Conscious Leadership. Practicing presence will give you more conscious awareness, ease, and flow in your life.  One way to remain in presence is by speaking unarguably.  In this mini-episode, learn how speaking unarguably will help you reground and remain in presence in your life and leadership. Today's 12 Days of Christmas giveaway is from the Conscious Leadership Group.  Visit allowedpodcast.com to enter to win the 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership and the Shift Deck.  

Expressing your gratitude for things that feel profound, positive, and important feels straightforward and easy. However, being grateful for that which we find most challenging is not usually something we consider or put into practice. Finding gratitude for the challenges you face allows you to take back control of something that may have felt beyond your control. When challenging moments and obstacles arise, we can easily slip into a state of powerlessness or victimhood that, in conscious leadership, would be described as being in the drama triangle, where we perceive life as happening to us and being against us. Living a life of conscious presence means that you acknowledge all aspects of your life as serving a purpose for your benefit and growth.With the complex pivots and particular set of challenges 2021 has entailed, this Thanksgiving holiday in the US presents a unique opportunity to revisit one of Allowed's first episodes, originally aired in 2019. Focused on gratitude in honor of the American Thanksgiving holiday, this personal episode touches upon the value challenges bring to our lives, the beautiful complexity of family, and being thankful for and celebrating differences. Throughout the episode, explore the distinction between entitlement and appreciation and the results you can see born out of these two very different mindsets. During Heather and I's conversation, you will also hear how creating a community of gratitude can transform your own mindset. Across the globe over the past two years, humanity has faced life-changing challenges, strife, division, and loss. These challenges, while immensely difficult, have also provided an incredible opportunity to reevaluate our priorities and face many truths we did not have the will or opportunity to face before. Shifting our mindsets around these challenges and examining how this might be exactly the right thing for you right now can hugely benefit both your personal and interpersonal growth. When you accept the challenge of looking at every aspect of your life with a grateful mindset, you may find yourself feeling more powerful and motivated than ever before.

We are proud to highlight the Google-sponsored 2021 Berkeley Haas John E. Martin Mental Healthcare Challenge, founded by Michael Martin, APAC Energy Markets, Regulatory, & Sustainability Lead at Google, this week on Allowed. A collaborative effort with the Haas Healthcare Association, a student-run organization that unites UC Berkeley students with a shared mission to build a more connected and impactful healthcare ecosystem, the John E. Martin Mental Healthcare Challenge invites graduate student teams from around the world to explore and develop innovative solutions focused on improving the quality of and access to mental healthcare. Consisting of an integrative business strategy competition, a podcast speaker series, and outreach programming, the Berkeley Haas John E. Martin Mental Healthcare Challenge works to broaden diversity, equity, and inclusion, promote advocacy, and establish strategic alliances. 

Outer and inner beauty are at the forefront of this special bonus episode of Allowed, as we explore the complex relationship women often have with beauty- one of artistry, confidence, insecurity, and evolution. Join us as Brittany Allyn, founder of ThirtyWaves and SCOOPS, guides us through the art of her morning beauty routine while sharing her favorite beauty products and tricks. Throughout this beauty tutorial, this bonus episode also goes beneath the surface as we touch on how freedom to express oneself through beauty is feminist, context versus content, the Drama Triangle's influence on beauty, and the power of hypnobirth. See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

Billed as the “modern Carrie Bradshaw”, Brittany Allyn, founder of Thirty Waves and SCOOPS, joins ‘Allowed' for a discussion about beauty, aging, and dating on this week's episode. Brittany Allyn is a successful blogger and social media influencer with an extensive background in the technology, dating app, marketing, and matchmaking industries. Regardless of your gender identity, this episode breaks through the noise and helps identify your own thought patterns, and sheds light on how society has been shaping your own self-esteem. With an empowered stance on dating and beauty, Brittany shares her integrity-driven vision for the future of dating technology. Putting aside generational differences, and stigma surrounding the polarizing topic of beauty as it relates to gender equality, Brittany and Caneel boldly address their own insecurities. Join this powerful conversation on beauty as a form of social currency, the future of dating app technology, the paradoxical association between intelligence and appearance, and the shame around discussing beauty. Throughout the episode, you will learn how shifting your mindset about beauty can empower you to break free from fear-based stories and challenge your own subconscious associations of youth and beauty.  See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

This week, you get to peek into the world of aerospace pioneer and exemplary leader, Tim Ellis, co-founder and CEO of Relativity Space. As one of my long-time clients, Tim has gained valuable insight into the world of Conscious Leadership, which he has learned how to put into action as his company has grown from a seed to a full-blown revolutionary venture. In this episode, he shares his unique experiences as a co-founder of a company that is not only growing exponentially but is also challenging the way that we as humans view the future of space exploration. Since co-founding Relativity, Tim has helped change the future of space exploration by expanding the possibilities of manufacturing. Under his leadership, Relativity has skyrocketed, and as with all fast-growing companies, there have been a few growing pains along the way. Relativity Space is the first autonomous rocket factory and launch services leader for satellite constellations which is disrupting 60 years of global aerospace manufacturing. Relativity is developing the first and only aerospace platform to integrate machine learning, software, and robotics with metal 3D printing technology to build and launch rockets and other aerospace products in days instead of years, with the long-term goal of building the future of humanity in space. See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

This week, executive coach and partner in Evolution, Anjani Bhargava, is back on the show to share her personal experience on how to turn your family into a high-performance team. In this episode, you will learn how to make your family a team that trusts each other, that works well together, that can make decisions together, and that can really co-create the life and impact you want to have as individuals and as a whole. Teamwork is built into our DNA and since we are interdependent in our families, teamwork is the integration of the “we”, the “I” and the “it”. Anjani reveals it is possible to use this natural tendency to coordinate and develop healthy team dynamics in your own family.  With 20 years of experience helping organizations build the right culture for their stage of growth, Anjani explains some methods and insights in how she approaches her own family as a team. We cover some things she has done inside of her own family to create a really beautiful system that has, not only a positive impact on her own life but also a positive impact on the world. See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

This week, I’m discussing a pernicious problem that you'll probably be surprised to find out you actually know intimately, and maybe you didn't even know you were doing it. This is a major issue that comes up in organizations, families, teams, and even within ourselves. You may have heard, we have just launched our brand new revamped membership program where you will be connected with an incredible community of people like you, as well as some of the most top-notch coaches, teachers and thought leaders. Go to caneel.com/yes to find out more and to join. The purpose of our membership is to be able to share learnings with you and to talk through things that are coming up in your own life. One of the issues that often comes up is this topic of gossip. Gossip matters because it is one of the easiest ways to spread drama in any social setting, in any relationship, in any team, and in any company. It spreads fear, it spreads a sense of distrust, it spreads paranoia, it spreads shame, it spreads guilt, it spreads hiding behaviors, and none of those things is conducive to us being in our full aliveness, our full creativity.So, today, I’m taking a request from our members, and I want to talk to you about this sneaky little drama starter called gossip and how easy it is to stop doing it.See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

This week, executive coach and partner in Evolution, Anjani Bhargava, joins us to take a deeper look at high-performance teamwork through the lens of Conscious Leadership. With 20 years of experience helping organizations build the right culture for their stage of growth, Anjani reveals some simple tactics to gain business results through leadership by transforming operators into culture-building leaders. Many great leaders understand that company culture is one of their greatest customer advantages and the foundation of culture is in the health of, not only the individual team members, but also of the team as a functioning whole. The first steps to becoming a leader of a high-performance team is to be completely accountable as a steward of culture through your behaviors, actions, and communications. Take those first steps today and lead your team to consciously create together. See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

I am sitting here 10 pounds heavier than I was at the beginning of COVID. Where I am in my own journey is learning to accept that lovingly and not making my body a problem in any way. I'm naming this because I’ve been deep down that hole. We are coming up on International Women's Day, and I feel my hands shaking a little bit thinking about this pattern I see in myself, and in many women, to feel more or less valuable based on how we look. I want to speak to those of you who have also experienced some level of body shame from others or from yourself. We can have body shame about anything. It can be about our weight. It can be about our hair. It can be about our skin. Body shame is something that often starts from the outside. We get shamed by society and we internalize it. In an attempt to protect ourselves, we can begin to perpetuate the shame, the blame and the stories in order to have more control and be able to be accepted by others. We're not born into body shame. We learn it. We learn it from others and then we use those lies to break ourselves down from the inside out. So, what can you do? You can make choices about the types of thoughts you want to encourage in yourself. You can make choices around what you expose yourself to. You can choose to question these thoughts. You can choose not to spread them. These stories aren't yours. Stop telling them.Please share this with a woman who could benefit from hearing it. Share this with a man who could benefit from hearing it. Share it with anybody of any gender identity who could use a little more love for themselves today. See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

What if I told you that you could speak about anything that you want to in a way that nobody can argue with? If that were possible for you, what would that unlock?Could you perhaps resolve some relationship tensions and issues that have been bothering you for a while? Could you maybe ask for a different role at work, a promotion, a raise? Could you maybe renegotiate some of your agreements with your family, with your partner that would actually help both of you to get more of what you want? What if I told you that this is both the simplest skill in the world and one of the most challenging to stick with? I'm really excited today to teach you one of my favorite skills that is directly relevant to the whole body of work that we call conscious leadership. This skill is a super ninja communication tool. It's also a really useful way to be self-aware of when you might be dipping into drama, and it's also a useful way to get out of drama and to stop spreading drama in your relationships and in your life. This skill is called speaking unarguably.See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

Today I’m sharing one of my favorite tools that is useful in all areas of your life, regardless of if you are an executive, a formal people manager, or if you are in a family leadership position. ARCI is a tool that I teach to my executive teams when I'm doing executive team development and offsite training. It's a framework. It's a way of understanding the ‘who’ behind ‘who will do what by when’, which is the keystone of high integrity clear agreements.Integrity breaches are one of the most destructive forces in organizations, teams and families. When we don't do what we say we'll do, or when we create agreements that are vague, impossible to understand, ill-defined, or low integrity, this leads to a lot of drama. Unchecked integrity breaches create unhealthy forms of conflict and strife, and take up a lot of time and energy. ARCI is a framework for understanding, developing and tracking the structure of an agreement and how everyone involved is going to cooperate and coordinate action together. You can apply it to how a team generally operates. You can apply it to a process. You can apply it to a project. You can apply it to achieve a specific goal, and you can apply it to all different layers. With ARCI in your tool arsenal, you can start having breakthroughs in muddled situations in your work and home right away.See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

Don’t forget the most important thing to do this Valentine’s Day! When you hear the term ‘self-love’, you probably think about bubble baths, chocolate and massages. However, none of those things are truly self-love. Today, we’ll break down some barriers that we often have against self-love. We’ll also discuss what self-love actually is and what it could look like for you. Self-love is inner work. It's an inner experience of acceptance and appreciation. At the most basic level, self-love is simply asking the questions, "Can I allow myself?” and, “Can I allow myself to be fully here now?" The essence of self-love is 100% allowance of all that is here now.Self-love is at the heart of everything we talk about on this show, and it is at the heart of all genuine, lasting personal growth. Please remember to give yourself the gift only you can give – show yourself some real self-love this Valentine’s Day. See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

You’ve learned all the basics of Conscious Leadership, right? You’ve gone to the community meetings. You’ve listened to all the podcasts… So… What’s next? Today we speak with the remarkable CEO of Alamo Drafthouse Cinema, Shelli Taylor. Shelli’s career as an executive highlights her passion for people as she leads through the lens of all her teammates and stakeholders to deliver results. Throughout the past year, Shelli has been putting lessons she has learned from this podcast to practice in her real life, her career, and her relationships, and she is here to tell her story and inspire all of us to put our own conscious leadership training into action. Join us as Shelli shares her amazing experience of being a newly appointed leader during crisis. Taking on the CEO position at Alamo Drafthouse in May 2020, right at the beginning of a worldwide pandemic, created a unique set of challenges that paved a hard but rewarding road to success for herself and her team. See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

If you are a leader, a manager of people, if you drive projects forward of any kind or you are in coordination with anybody at all, including in your own home about how to get something done, this episode is a concept you can instantly put to good use. In fact, we are discussing one of the highest leverage management tools there is. Today, we are talking about agreements. An agreement is really what propels you into action, where you can now allow yourself to stop thinking through all the steps and you can actually get into the real world and move things forward. So, what is a clear agreement? How can you make them in all aspects of your life? How can you apply this in any part of your life, your work, your home, your creative life, or that life that lives within your relationship with yourself?See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

So often, in life, you ask yourself questions like, “Is this the right path for me?” We think of it as an answer that's somewhere ‘out there’. But the next step is always the one that's right in front of you. You can get an inherent sense of your path just by asking yourself, “Am I in integrity?” Integrity is the through-line that runs through all of the conscious leadership work that we talk about on this show. It's one of the main goals. But what does integrity truly mean?As one of the most commonly chosen corporate value statements, integrity means that you do what you say you will do. But it’s also about wholeness and integration. Integrity means you're not leaving something out. It means that you are not unnecessarily dividing things into arbitrary categories. You're uniting through integrity and there's a strength to that. Integrity matters tremendously in your relationships with time, such as your plans for the future, or in the way that you experience, hold and understand your past. It matters in your relationship with other kinds of energy too, like money. How do you know when you have integrity? How can you move into integrity when you discover you're out of it? How can we make this an intuitive and real-time process that we can literally feel in our bodies when we are in integrity and when we're out of it? What is the path toward moving closer to integrity?See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

You used to think that gender was a simple thing. For some of you, you simply were born into one, and for others, you have questioned, identified and discovered for yourself. Whatever your gender is, gender does play a very important role in shaping what your life looks like – this is undeniable.And in this post #metoo era, it is often an uncomfortable topic to discuss. Today we're going to be focusing on what it's like to be a leader as a woman. How women can support and empower each other, and some of the traumatic things that women face in the world. I have back on the show today Mary and Anna Bloom (of Snap Inc. and Airbnb Plus, respectively) who are here to share some personal stories and excellent advice for men and women alike around what it's like to be a powerful woman.We’ll discuss what it means to be a feminist and how this concept has evolved over the course of their lives, the ways that they have been leaders while maintaining feminist identities, motherhood as an identity shift, and ways you can support yourself as a woman. I think you're going to find the way that they show up in their organizations as women to be profoundly inspiring whether you're a man, a woman, or any other gender. You are allowed to be a powerful woman. And men, you are allowed to be feminists. See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

True breakthroughs come, not just in whatever your innovation is or whatever it is that you're designing, but breakthroughs come in this internal opening of yourself when you're most interested in how to serve and how to best understand your users. Today, I'm offering you a special skill-building series training that I actually developed for a client and it is covering design thinking. Design thinking is a powerhouse of a skill that can be applied to any situation where there is a problem to solve. This skill is especially important to me because it's really where I cut my teeth as a facilitator and coach, and also because it is where I discovered that no matter what tasks you're working on, the work is always the inner work. This training is also available to you as a whole series of videos that I developed with my colleague, Luke Entrup, partner in Evolution, who you met in Episode #2 of Allowed where we focused on shadow. Design Thinking is a team-oriented skill, so I encourage you to share this with your teams and colleagues.See show notes and get free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

Are you pumped about your 2021 Vision, your New Year's Resolutions, or your annual goals?Wherever you are on your journey, this is a great time to give yourself and your goals a recharge. Here is your chance to align or realign all of your goals with my goal-setting workshop.In this free session you will:Clarify and set (or re-set!) a goal that means a lot to you this yearLearn the secrets to getting yourself back on track and unstuckMake a plan to make achieving your goal much easierGet a massive boost of energy, calm, and encouragement!You can also download the free tools from this webinar, which include:Resolution Recharge Worksheet: Realign with your goals right away. Conscious Goal Tracker: Focus on your progress and keep on track. Solar System Exercise: Recognize your current support systems and where you could add more support to help you reach your goals.See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

There's nothing that you're not allowed to want. You are allowed to want what you actually want. There's no, “should”, necessary. There's no, “I need to”. If you're heading into a new year's resolution process or you're setting goals for your team, your company, or your family, I invite you to build a foundation for making a massive change that's actually in service of your deepest, most authentic self. I’m here to support you in playing with this idea of, "from above the line, I don't need anything. There's nothing I should do. There's nothing I have to do. However, I can want. I can have strong preferences. I can stand for things. I can be committed." In this mindset, from above the line – that's where genuine change happens. There's nothing more human than creating and there's nothing more human than creating change. So, this week, I want to invite you into a really different process; a conscious process of allowing ourselves to be a vehicle for change to happen.See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

This week is Thanksgiving in the United States and it's one of my favorite holidays, although this year is going to look pretty different for almost all of us. This is also normally the week where we would talk a lot about gratitude and why it's important. One of the things that I often see is that it's easy to be grateful for things that seem really profound and important. It's not usually something we consider, to be grateful for that which we find most challenging. 2020 has been the year of challenges. However, these challenges have made us wake up and realize that it is now time to face these things which we did not want to face before. Finding gratitude within your challenges can be empowering and allows you to take back control of something that may have felt beyond your control.Flipping something that seems like an unwelcome challenge and looking for how this might be exactly the right thing for you right now can be hugely beneficial and spur both personal and interpersonal growth. It’s not always easy to do, but in many of life's circumstances, it can be true that there is a silver lining. See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

Today, we are tackling one of the most commonly experienced ways to suffer that I have ever come across in all of my coaching work, and it is something called the Imposter Syndrome. The Imposter Syndrome is when you really feel like you are a fraud, and everyone might find out that you've been faking it this whole time, and that you aren’t qualified to actually do the job that you're doing, to have received the rewards that you're receiving, to be in the role or position that you're in, or to have the confidence, success, happiness, or ease that you currently have. I've worked with amazing leaders who still feel like they are an imposter, even if it is their fifth time being a CEO, and they've been a huge success every single time. So, if you are in a position right now, or you ever have been, where you have felt unsure of yourself, maybe self-critical or self-judgmental, paranoid, afraid that others can see through you, maybe you feel guilty or anxious about it or ashamed, or you might find yourself up all night long, or maybe you're indulging in overworking in an attempt to make up this deficit, the work to do around this is on a psychological level by questioning your own stories. In this episode, you can begin to unravel the stories that are leading to your own experience of the Imposter Syndrome by exploring some techniques and exercises I have found useful for my clients. Curiosity is always a tool that's available for you to use, and it's especially important when you feel like it's not okay that you don't know everything. That's the time when you most need it. See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

How do you ask for and get what you want? I used to be a business school professor and one of the key courses I would teach to MBAs, undergrads and executive MBAs is negotiation, the skills and theories around negotiation and how to get what you want. By far, the biggest takeaway is how most of the time people ask for what they think they can get, instead of what they want.Last week on the show, Noa Ries and Kim Havens, co-founders of Women's Executive Network Leadership Educational Platform, Kahilla, shared their co-leadership strategies, and in this episode, I share a separate conversation I had with them on their podcast called “Conversations at Base Camp” where we cover Zone of Genius and how it relates to asking for and getting what you want, as well as applicable strategies for having real-life negotiation conversations so that you can increase the lifetime value in a monetary fashion but also in many other ways of your career. See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

It’s time to get inspired to design the business and leadership lifestyle of your dreams. Regardless of what you do, you are a leader of your own life. You lead in your home. You lead in your work. You lead in your personal life. A common struggle that many of you have already faced is how to lead as a whole human with a whole life. Leaders often compartmentalize and make choices in one area of their lives while neglecting certain other areas. This doesn’t have to be the case. You can make choices that allow you to bring all parts of yourself onto the table. You don’t have to sacrifice your personal life to grow a successful business. Noa Ries and Kim Havens, co-founders of the rapidly growing business, Kahilla, are here to explore this unconventional idea with you. These remarkable women have found a way to lead together that supports each of them in their whole beings, all while building a thriving business. They share the decisions they've made on how they designed their company and partnership, as well as the very popular leadership advice they have chosen to ignore in order to create the type of life that serves them, their families and a community of empowered women around the world.See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

This Halloween episode is a treat for me to share with you because it is one of my favorite holidays. I love dressing up in costume. Why is the act of dressing up relevant to a Conscious Leader like you? Actually, these two things are deeply related. You’ve likely heard me mentioning “a part of me” or “a part of you”. Today, we dive into the concept of humans being made of many selves. There are a lot of different parts of you that, combined, make up your whole self. Each of these parts can be identified as a different persona with its own unique needs, fears, desires, personality and quirks. They even have their own heroes, role models and values.Often, when you get into inner-conflict or any kind of suffering, it’s because there are parts of you who are not getting along with each other. This is because they don’t trust each other, and there’s usually a pretty good reason for that. When you can identify your personas and resolve the conflicts between them so that they truly trust and rely on each other, you can find more peace, ease and confidence. In this episode, I show you how to begin unpacking your own personas so that all of your amazing and unique parts can begin to work together as a whole.See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

In this episode, we address a common misconception about being a Conscious Leader that we all may be contributing to in some way without knowing it.Have you heard someone say, "I was trying not to hero"? Have you ever said, "I try so hard to be present”? Do you "try so hard to stay above the line”? Are you often, “pushing yourself to not be in victim mode"? What do all of those statements have in common? One thing is they're referencing some way of being in drama or being below the line. The second thing in all of those statements are about the effort. It's all effortful. We have to push. We have to strain. It's not just that there's effort, but there's effort with some attachment to try and control an outcome. The common misperception of this work of Conscious Leadership is that there is a right or wrong place to be. It's okay to be above the line, and it's okay to be below the line. Neither one of them is good or bad, right or wrong. Neither one of them is better or worse. They're just different locations where you're going to have different experiences.When we are above the line, we’re going to be in a state of presence, ease and flow. We have access to a type of learning that is transformational in nature. Below the line, we’re focused on being right. Above the line, we’re in a state of trust. Below the line, we’re in a state of threat. Suffering is found below the line, but suffering is not bad – it is human. If you find yourself struggling to be conscious, this episode will help you move into a place of true acceptance of yourself and others, no matter where you find yourself at the moment.See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

You are allowed to kick ass, reach your full potential, and be healthy and happy. Tap into the transformative power of your Zone of Genius in this free, exclusive, on-demand workshop. Your Zone of Genius is the space where you nurture and enjoy your deepest, most organic talents and traits: your soul’s essence. It is here that you use your natural strengths to catapult you into a life with more opportunities for success. This workshop is for motivated, forward-thinking leaders; people who want to experience life at their full potential, and people who, despite great success, often feel burnt out or uninspired. Watch the full on-demand Zone of Genius workshop, and get the free tools at Caneel.com/zone-of-genius-workshop.When you sign up for this workshop, you will automatically receive these free tools (sent straight to your email): The Four Zones of Being Diagram (Free Download): Use Caneel’s diagram to figure out your four Zones of Being - your Zone of Incompetence, Zone of Competence, Zone of Excellence, and Zone of Genius.5 Steps to Living in Your Genius (Free Download): With this practical 5 step checklist process, you will begin to move forward on the path of actually living 70% of your time in your Zone of Genius.Daily Energy Audit (Free Download): Become aware of what tasks drain you and give you life with this daily energy audit.Discover your Restorative Zone of Genius Worksheet (Free Download): Follow these steps to find your Restorative Zone of Genius and take action on creating space to restore like a rockstar!The Zone of Genius Mind Map (Free Download): See how you can integrate your Zone of Genius into all areas of your life by examining your Community, Gifts, Quality of Life, and Impact.Emotional Intelligence Chart (Free Download): Understand what your body is truly telling you about your deep-rooted emotional state with this easy to use diagram.The Be, Do, Have Exercise (Free Download): Get insight and guidance so you can identify the areas of your life where you have an opportunity to step more fully into your own power as a leader. It can be applied to your life as a whole or to one domain of your life (e.g., work, romantic life, health, parenting.)

It was 17 years ago, when I was a 25-year-old, very fit, bright-eyed, and bushy-tailed, Ph.D. student in Berkeley. And if you looked at me on the outside, you'd think that I was really a model of health, and yet, I couldn't even walk down the street because I had excruciating pain. My back and all of my skin were inflamed, my nerves ached down my legs, and I couldn't feel my feet. Every single thing I moved would make it hurt worse, and I got there because I wasn't listening to my body. I was listening to voices of self-judgment, and to this idea that I needed to be something that I wasn't in order to be what I thought I wanted to be, in order to have what I thought I needed to have. For me, it took two years of being in that program for my body to really start fighting back. This is a pretty common experience for those who are pushing themselves too hard, and often, the reason we do that is because we're living outside of what's called your Zone of Genius. When we're living outside of our Zone of Genius the energy it takes to perform is magnificently heavy, and it can be life-draining, it can lead to burnout, and success is just not as easy or fun.It took me deciding that I can't let these expectations I'm putting on myself continue to be the thing that erodes my body such that I feel like an 85-year-old, and I'm only 25 years old. If you're there and if you're suffering, I want to invite you into an experience, where you can listen to your own body and discover your Zone of Genius, live in flow, and finally learn to succeed without suffering. See show notes, watch the full on-demand Zone of Genius workshop, and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com or Caneel.com/zone-of-genius-workshop.When you sign up for this workshop, you will automatically receive these free tools (sent straight to your email): The Four Zones of Being Diagram (Free Download): Use Caneel’s diagram to figure out your four Zones of Being - your Zone of Incompetence, Zone of Competence, Zone of Excellence, and Zone of Genius.5 Steps to Living in Your Genius (Free Download): With this practical 5 step checklist process, you will begin to move forward on the path of actually living 70% of your time in your Zone of Genius.Daily Energy Audit (Free Download): Become aware of what tasks drain you and give you life with this daily energy audit.Discover your Restorative Zone of Genius Worksheet (Free Download): Follow these steps to find your Restorative Zone of Genius and take action on creating space to restore like a rockstar!The Zone of Genius Mind Map (Free Download): See how you can integrate your Zone of Genius into all areas of your life by examining your Community, Gifts, Quality of Life, and Impact.Emotional Intelligence Chart (Free Download): Understand what your body is truly telling you about your deep-rooted emotional state with this easy to use diagram.The Be, Do, Have Exercise (Free Download): Get insight and guidance so you can identify the areas of your life where you have an opportunity to step more fully into your own power as a leader. It can be applied to your life as a whole or to one domain of your life (e.g., work, romantic life, health, parenting.)

What if you could truly understand your own personality type and that could unlock a whole new level of deep personal development, heightened communication, and fulfilling interpersonal relationships? In this episode, we speak with the remarkable Erin Rocchio. Erin is an executive coach, a partner in Evolution, and she's certified in a revolutionary personality tool that you've heard mentioned on this show many times – the Enneagram. Learning about the Enneagram personality types can make a massive difference in your life and the way you interact with yourself and with others. And the reason that, as leaders and coaches, we love the Enneagram as a tool amongst many, is that it is very uniquely suited to support lifelong transformation and development where you can use it in a number of ways. You can take it down a spiritual path, you can take it down a path as a parent, you can take it into your personal relationships, and you can take it into your work and your role as a leader.See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

Our stories are what keep us in suffering. We all have so many stories. Might there be a story about how things need to be different? How somebody should behave in a different way? How something in your life is not enough? Something in you is not enough? When our stories define us, they trap us. One of the practices of conscious leadership is to access greater influence, control, and power in our own lives, satisfy our own needs and create our visions by looking for alternate stories. So, in this week’s episode, we explore the fundamental invitation of Conscious Leadership, which is to understand the difference between a fact and a story.There are so many of us who really stand for change in the world. When we are standing in our own stories, it's very hard to enroll those whom we need to most influence in order to create that change we desire. As leaders, we can use our storytelling abilities to inspire and to motivate, but when we want to create a truly lasting change, we can speak unarguably in the language of facts. This episode will help you begin to notice, “is it a fact, or is it a story?” See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.