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Wednesday, August 21, 2024 Kerby Anderson is our host today! His guests are Chuck & Ashley Elliott. Chuck is a pastor and counselor and Ashley is a licensed counselor. Together they have a book they're bringing to share, I Used to Be. Connect with us on Facebook at facebook.com/pointofviewradio and on Twitter @PointofViewRTS with your opinions […]

Recently, I was officiating a beautiful summer wedding when at the reception the Father of the Groom gave his toast to the couple and made a statement that stuck with me. He said, “Marriage won't always be easy, but it's also not that complicated. PURSUE each other every day and good things will happen.” As I sat and marinated on that statement, I began to recognize the truth in his words. When we stop pursuing and choosing one another, we allow footholds to take place in our lives and in our relationships. In other words when we begin prioritizing other things, getting distracted, or simply growing complacent - we create a recipe for losing at love. However, as my friend's dad reminded us, although it may not always be easy, with God it is always possible! Joining us today to help your life, relationships, and marriage step into that possibility is a wonderful couple who love walking alongside of the broken hearted to help them live a life of abundance, Chuck & Ashley Elliott. Chuck and Ashley are authors, speakers and content creators who have partnered with YouVersion, RightNow Media, The American Association of Christian Counselors, and an array of other national organizations. They also serve as advisory board members for the AACC's International Christian Coaching Association. Frequent speakers and popular workshop leaders, their numerous certifications in psychoeducational programs equip them to help others build relational success. My friends, no matter your relationship status, this is a conversation that will equip you to look, live, love, and lead more like Christ from the inside out! Chuck & Ashley's Website: https://www.chuckandashley.com/about-us Purchase Their Most Recent Book, I Used to Be _____: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward - https://www.amazon.com/Used-Be-___-Navigate-Forward/dp/0800742494 

Experiencing loss places you in the realm of "used to be." You used to be married, employed, pregnant, healthy, sober, thin. You used to be a son, daughter, sibling, or parent. This space is filled with emptiness, loneliness, and sorrow, but it's not where you're meant to stay. To move forward, explore the unseen aspects of grief. Join Shy Lewis, Pastor Chuck Elliott, and counselor Ashley Elliott as they share biblical wisdom and mental health techniques. They help you feel and face your grief, hold onto faith, and develop a healthy outlook on yourself and your loved ones. They offer strategies for seemingly impossible times and guide you toward true healing and growth. You may have "used to be" something, but a future awaits where you "will be" once more.   Check out the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Used-Be-___-Navigate-Forward/dp/0800742494

Distractions can look amazing and yet discernment and perseverance are much needed when staying focused on the "call." Dawn and Steve in the Morning share a devotional from Blackaby Ministries International about staying focused on the assignments God has given you. Also this hour, authors Chuck and Ashley Elliott talk with us about loss. They have written the book I Used to Be__: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward. Chuck and Ashley spend much of their time equipping people to build spiritual and relational success. Chuck, as a pastor, and Ashley, as a counselor, have devoted their lives to helping people fight negativity and leave a legacy. They earned master’s degrees in counseling and leadership. Chuck and Ashley live in Indiana with their three sons and enjoy spending time outside as a family.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Natasha sits with Chuck & Ashley Elliott, authors of I Used To Be___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward. Chuck and Ashley uniquely combines their professional backgrounds in pastoral care and licensed counseling, respectively, to guide others through grief. Their insights offer not only practical advice but also a compassionate understanding of grief's impact on intimate relationships and personal growth.Main points:Navigating Identity and LossDiscussion of The Three A's of ChangeNavigating Intimate RelationshipsProviding a message of Hope and LegacyHelpful Links:Join the newsletter | Sign up for monthly encouragement from Natasha hereGet your copy of Can You Just Sit With Me? Get Chuck & Ashley Elliott's book I Used To Be___Connect on Socials:Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | PinterestHost & Guest(s) Natasha Smith (Host)Chuck and Ashley Elliott (Guests)Support the Podcast:Become a monthly Partner

Links from today’s LIVE show: Chuck & Ashley’s website: https://www.chuckandashley.com/ Buy the book!: https://www.amazon.com/Used-Be-Navigate-Losses-%20Forward/dp/0800742494/ref=sr_1_1?amp;keywords=I+Used+to+be+___+Ch%20uck+and+Ashley+Elliott&qid=1668003822&sprefix=i+used+to+be+___+chuck+and+ashley+elliot%20t%2Caps%2C84&sr=8-1 ______________________ DON’T FORGET THE UPCOMING CONFERENCE!  SOLD OUT, but call the number at the link below and get on the list if there is any cancelations we will get back to you on openings! See below: We Wont Back Down Ministry Conference: https://coachdavelive.com/event/wisconsin-christian-news-we-wont-back-down-ministry-conference  

Will interviews authors Chuck and Ashley Elliott about their work on helping people work through tragic life situations from a Christian perspective.

Maybe you used to be employed, married, or healthy. When you suffer a loss, you enter the realm of "used to be." Licensed counselor Ashley Elliott is here to help us build new thinking patterns when life doesn't turn out how we thought it would. Ashley and her husband Chuck are the authors of "I Used to Be..." In this episode, you'll learn how to navigate losses in life as we talk about:  2:19 What I used to be... 4:27 How to use “switch theory” to combat negativity  9:04 Here's how you can get back into a positive space with your spouse  11:17 Recognizing the triggers that cause negative spaces  14:08 How to get through your grief  19:00 Understanding your “anger wall” 24:55 How to help others who are grieving  28:28 How to know when to seek help with your grief   Ashley Elliott and her husband Chuck have been working with couples since 2009. They are certified in eight different psycho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services.  Ashley and Chuck have three boys and enjoy hiking and mountain biking.  Check out Ashley & Chuck's book, I Used to Be... - How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in life and Find Your Path Forward. You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference in San Diego, CA on March 2, 2024.  Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/conference More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel

Thriving After Loss: Insights from Pastor and Counselor Duo Chuck and Ashley Elliott Welcome to Flourish-Meant, the podcast that helps you navigate through life's struggles and triumphs. In today's episode, our host Tina Yeager delves into the topic of thriving after loss with special guests Chuck and Ashley Elliott, authors of the book "I Used to Be." Chuck, a pastor, and Ashley, a counselor, share their passion for helping individuals navigate grief and loss. Listeners will gain insights on strategies for building emotional, relational, and spiritual success, as the Elliotts share personal experiences and practical guidance to support both those who are grieving and those seeking to provide meaningful support. Tune in as they share valuable tools from their book and offer wisdom on how to navigate the complex journey of grief and healing. Chuck and Ashley discuss how they navigated their own journey through grief after experiencing miscarriage and provide practical insights for anyone facing loss, whether it's the loss of a loved one, a job, or a dream. They also share tips for supporting friends and loved ones through their grief. Here are some highlights from the episode: Chuck and Ashley's personal experiences led them to delve into the impact of grief on various aspects of life and the importance of addressing it. They emphasize the significance of leaving a legacy and staying emotionally, relationally, and spiritually available to those around us despite our pain. Ashley shares her experiences of wrestling with feelings of distance from God and how she found comfort in Scriptures during her grief. The couple also provides valuable insights on how to support loved ones through grief, including the importance of being specific in offers of help and navigating the complexities of responses to grief. To learn more about Chuck and Ashley Elliott's work, their book "I Used To Be," and their coaching and counseling services, visit their website at chuckandashley.com. To book Tina as a speaker, connect with her life coaching services, and more, visit her website: https://tinayeager.com/ Get inspired now and get Tina Yeager's newest release, Upcycled: Crafted for a Purpose! The book is available on Amazon, Bold Vision Books, or wherever books are sold. Visit Tina's website for craft videos and more at https://www.tinayeager.com/upcycled/ Follow Tina on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Tina-Yeager-M.A./e/B06Y4T4TMG/ref=ntt_dp_epwbk_0 Beautiful Warrior: Finding Victory Over the Lies Formed Against You (publisher site): https://www.newhopepublishers.com/shop/beautiful-warrior/ If you're a writer, subscribe to Inkspirations Online (devotional publication by writers for writers): https://www.inkspirationsonline.com/ Manage stress and anxiety in 10 minutes a day with the course presented by 15 experts, Subdue Stress and Anxiety https://divineencouragement.onlinecoursehost.com/courses Connect with Tina at: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tyeagerwriting/ Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tinayeager/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tina.yeager.9/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TinaYeager Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/tyeagerwrites/ Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/3865622.Tina_Yeager

When you suffer a loss, you enter the realm of "used to be." You used to be part of a community. You used to be employed. You used to be pregnant, secure, healthy, sober. You used to be a son or daughter, a brother or sister, a mother or father, a husband or wife. And in that used-to-be space, you can feel stuck. How can we navigate loss and find a path forward?Pastor-counselor duo Chuck and Ashley Elliott are on the podcast today sharing their wisdom with us and you don't want to miss it!Grab I Used To Be, here: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/65650880-i-used-to-be Find Chuck and Ashley, here: https://thrivingbeyondbelief.com/chuck-ashley-elliott/ Partner with us through donating (A Wife Like Me is a 501(c)3 noprofit), here: https://awifelikeme.com/giveGrab our book, Dear Wife, here: https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Wife-Invitations-Practice-Connection/dp/0578470594Listen to the A Wife Like Me Podcast, here: https://awifelikeme.com/podcast/Grab our planner, Design My Day, here: https://awifelikeme.com/design-my-dayFind out your Wife Type in less than 3 minutes, here: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/63b9c12b3108f50016d71ba7Grab our FREE marriage resources, here: https://awifelikeme.com/subscribe-to-a-wife-like-meSupport the show

I take you to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.Whether it's been one year, ten years, or 25 years since you uttered those vows, we can all agree that they have and will be tested! We all experience some kind of disappointment, loss, or pain. And even though we've vowed to walk through hard times together, grief can take a toll on our marriage, causing us to question how to communicate about the deep loss we feel, how to best support each other in grief, and even how to maintain our faith when life circumstances just don't make sense.Chuck & Ashley Elliott are popular speakers and workshop leaders, a pastor and a counselor who hold numerous psychoeducational certifications. After walking through miscarriage and grief in their own lives, they authored their new book, I Used to Be ___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward. Chuck and Ashley are here today to help us understand how grief can actually draw us closer to God and each other.In this episode, you'll hear:How everyone responds to grief differentlyThe role “Switch Theory” can play in our outlook during hard timesPractical tools for navigating grief togetherAnd so much more!We hope you find this conversation insightful and valuable in your own relationship!Show Notes: https://growinghometogether.com/chuck-ashley-elliott-84

Ashley Elliott @littlekiwitravels shares about juggling a full-time job and making time for smaller local escapes on the weekends. She methodically plans each detail of the trip, to fit in as much as possible in a small amount of time. We talk about some of the best spots in the Waikato to visit, including the Coromandel and Waitomo - from flower fields to waterfalls to hot springs. Whether you're doing a lot of activities or you're having a more relaxed getaway, Ashley says it's important to be with people that match your vibe, so you can get the most out of the trip. In New Zealand, there is so much to do in such a small area and Ashley's tips will help everyone explore a little bit further. For quick and easy meals for all your outdoor adventures, use the code ABIGAIL for free shipping on your next Back Country Cuisine order: bit.ly/44uFDAB Thank you so much for tuning in and coming along for the ride. If you love the show and enjoyed listening, please take the time to leave a review on Apple or Spotify. I would also love to connect with you, so send me a DM on Instagram, leave me a voice message and I can't wait to see you next time. Until then, keep adventuring :) Follow Ashley on Instagram: instagram.com/littlekiwitravels/ Follow Ashley on Tiktok: tiktok.com/@littlekiwitravels/ Get Ashley's Map of New Zealand: www.rexby.com/Littlekiwitravels/newzealand Read the Blog: www.abigailhannah.nz Follow Abigail on Instagram: instagram.com/abigailhannnah/ Follow Abigail on TikTok: tiktok.com/@abigailhannnah/

Finish this sentence. I used to be ___. What would you say? I used to be married? I used to be pregnant? I used to be employed? On this Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, Chuck and Ashley Elliott will talk about how to navigate the large and small losses in your life so that you can find your path forward. Don't miss the encouragement on Building Relationships with Gary Chapman. Featured resource: I Used to Be ___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path ForwardSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Join the conversation on this episode of GraceStory Podcast featuring the insightful duo of Chuck and Ashley Elliott. Chuck is a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, IN and Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services. Known for their dynamic approach to faith and personal growth, Chuck and Ashley share their expertise in integrating Christian principles into everyday life for a growth mindset. In this episode, Chuck and Ashley draw upon their rich experiences and the themes explored in their popular writings. They delve deep into the concept of a Christian growth mindset, offering listeners a blend of biblical wisdom and practical life lessons. Their conversation ranges from overcoming life's challenges with faith to harnessing the power of grace in personal development. Listeners seeking to deepen their spiritual walk will find Chuck and Ashley's insights particularly valuable. Their approachable and heartfelt style makes complex concepts accessible, providing listeners with actionable steps towards a more fulfilling life journey. Find out more about Chuck and Ashley at chuckandashley.com Check out Chuck and Ashley's book HERE. Do you have a question you would like for us to help find an answer for? Have feedback? Want to hear more on a certain topic? Have a suggestion for a guest? We are listening. You can email me at nate@gracestoryministries.com. We would love for you to join the GraceStory Community Group on Facebook. There is great content in this exclusive, closed group that you won't want to miss out on. Consider becoming a supporter of GraceStory Ministries with a donation. Whether it's a one time gift or you want to join others in the GraceStory Community with a reoccurring donation, you can give by texting GRACESTORY to 44321. Follow GraceStory Podcast on Facebook Join GraceStory Community Group Follow GraceStory Podcast on Twitter @GraceStoryPod GraceStory on Instagram: @my_grace_story @gracestoryministries @gracestorypodcast

Meet Chuck and Ashley Elliott, a dynamic duo in the realm of relationship guidance, active since 2009. Their journey began with Community Marriage Builders, where they honed their skills in conducting both intimate and large-scale workshops. With certifications in eight diverse Psycho-educational programs, the Elliotts specialize in fostering relational triumphs. Their portfolio includes the creation and instruction of various marriage enrichment programs, and they are passionate advocates for discussing all facets of relationships. Chuck brings a unique perspective as a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, Indiana, enriching lives with spiritual insights. Meanwhile, Ashley's expertise as a counselor at Auxilium Psychological Services is complemented by her academic prowess. She notably led the Psychology and Addictions Counseling Program at Oakland City University for over a decade. There, she developed an impressive array of Psychology courses, engaged in groundbreaking research, and even formulated a unique Communication Theory. This theory, a joint effort with Chuck, has been showcased across numerous universities and business platforms nationwide. Outside their professional lives, Chuck, Ashley, and their three sons cherish the outdoors with activities like hiking and mountain biking. And let's not forget those rare but memorable family dance parties that add rhythm to their lives! Related Links: WEBSITE: ChuckandAshley.com INSTAGRAM: @chuckandashleyelliott FACEBOOK: /chuckandashley YOUTUBE: Chuck and Ashley

Chuck and Ashley Elliott join me on this episode to guide us in how we can navigate both the big and the small changes in life. Connect with Chuck and Ashley on Facebook and Instagram. Get your copy of Used to Be ___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward.   Show Notes: Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Welcome, everyone. This is Dr. Sandra, and you're listening to I Choose My Best Life. Today, we're going to talk about how you navigate the large and the small losses in life and get back on track to moving forward. I have with me today Chuck and Ashley Elliott, and they are going to help us to navigate this process of when we used to be something, and now we're looking for what happens next. So, Chuck and Ashley, thank you so much for joining me. I want to start by just diving a little bit into why you think you needed to write a book on this topic. On what we used to be. Ashley Elliott: Our identity is often affected whenever we face loss. So, one of the things that I noticed whenever we went through recurrent miscarriages, it didn't just affect me in our marriage or intimacy. It affected me at work. It affected my ability to think and to listen to people. I was a university professor at the time, and I just have a harder time bearing the burdens of my students, and I would just have a little bit of a lower frustration tolerance. And so I found that I just felt like I was off my game. And then I felt this way with my kids. I'm like, I have two boys who are amazing. And I'm finding myself just feeling overwhelmed with things that I normally didn't. And so I noticed an identity shift in me and I felt. Inadequate in my body to be able to protect myself, really protect my baby. And so there's just so many things that I noticed in myself. I also noticed in counseling clients and students and people in our ministry realm that they felt similarly the different types of losses that they faced. Chuck Elliott: Yeah, because we find so much value in our identity and our titles. If I say that I'm I'm a banker, I'm a pastor, I'm a teacher, whatever that is. That's how you introduce yourself, right? You say, yeah, I'll tell you about yourself. I'll start off and tell you about what are my roles. What are the titles? How do I fill in the blank? And then whenever you lose that, you can wonder, how do I fill in the blank now? Who am I? Because you took away the thing that I used as an identifier. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: I love that. And I love this I think because it goes so much further than typical losses that we think about. You mentioned miscarriage, death, and grief; there are so many different variations of loss that we experience. And sometimes the loss of seasons and roles and titles and identifiers as you mentioned, are not deemed to be as relevant. Because they're not a death or something that is, that's more hard-hitting than we often think. I'd like for you to dive a little bit deeper into that because I think for many of us, when we think about grief, we only think about grieving people. Why is it also important to grieve the other losses in our lives? Chuck Elliott: Yeah, absolutely. You can lose a relationship, and it impacts your life. Something we talk about in the book is we had some neighbors who lived right across the street from us, and they moved. Now, that may sound dramatic because I'm making it a big deal, but they didn't even meet and move across the country. They moved across town, but you know what? That impacts me because when they come home, I don't get to see them now. Our kids played together. I could wave when they check their mail. I could stalk them and know when Amazon or Walmart or somebody delivered something at their house, and I could ask questions and ask what was for dinner. Just all those little things that I can selfishly think impact my life. Now, that changes my routine. Am I going to grieve that the same way that I would the death of a family member? No, it's something different. We grieve differently. But if I discount that change in my life, If I discount how things have shifted and I've lost some of that part of my routine, then if I just skip over it, I might be closed off to another relationship. What if I don't grieve it and don't say, you know what? I really miss having those people across the street, and then somebody else moves in that could be really good friends, and I don't even give them a chance. Because I'm hurt and I'm carrying what it is that I used to have and that's one of the less typical things that we give an example of in the book. So if we can stay current with our emotions and be self-aware that we need to process something, then we can be stronger in other relationships. Ashley Elliott: as well. And one of the things you said was that it's different to have the small loss versus big loss, but we did try to pave a path for larger or small losses. So you can say I'm grieving blank. You're like, wait, grieving. I'm grieving the fact that my neighbors moved. Yes, it is something to be grieved. It's a bummer. It's not maybe at the same level as whenever we lost a child. But it does affect us and makes us feel unsteady in our friendships. And we wonder if the relationship is going to last. And so when we say I'm grieving blank and we look at how we're coping Oh, am I coping in a positive way? Or am I coping in a negative way? Am I putting up my walls and refusing to connect with other people and allow the new neighbors to be our friends? Okay, then, that's a negative coping mechanism. And so when we learn, however we grieve, if it's a big loss or a little loss, We're going to use positive and negative coping mechanisms. We're going to do certain behaviors, and we want to learn about those patterns because if we bring God into those places, he will help give us insight. He will help us meet our needs in healthier ways. And when we talk to each other, and we process, we can heal and find hope that maybe would be missed if we didn't take the time to Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: reflect. Yes, absolutely. And I think it's important to be aware of those emotions, not necessarily judging them, because I think sometimes that prevents us from actually experiencing them. But as you mentioned, being aware of them and identifying when they're healthy and when they're not healthy. And one of the more unhealthy emotions that we sometimes will begin to exhibit when there's loss is anger. And you mentioned that anger can create an anger wall. Ashley Elliott: Describe that for us. Okay, behind all of our emotions are sometimes more emotions, but we especially see this happen with anger. So if you imagine a wall that's built with anger and you remove a brick from that wall, what would be beneath that anger brick? Maybe there is Vulnerability or jealousy or inadequacy or fear, anxiety, sadness, or any type of emotion could be there. Oftentimes, anger makes us feel powerful. We don't want to feel weak. We don't want to feel vulnerable or lonely or sad. It's easier to feel angry because we feel justified. And so when we understand It might be easier to lean into anger and to feel some momentary strength there than it is to look at those underneath emotions. But when we do look at what's beneath our anger wall, we can find hope and resilience and Chuck Elliott: strength. I can tell you that when we faced recurrent miscarriages, I was angry. And if I would take out one of those bricks and that anger wall for me, I felt weak. I felt inadequate. I felt like a failure because I couldn't protect my family. I couldn't protect this little one that we lost that I never got to meet. And it was a lot easier just to be angry. To be mad about the process, to be mad about the way this happens, mad that nobody talks about it, mad about the way that I'm feeling. But if I really got underneath it, I didn't want to feel like a failure. I didn't want to feel weak. I didn't want to think that I was weak in a failure. So, if I just seemed strong by putting anger out there, I could mask that. But what happens is if you continue to do that, there are other negative consequences of your anger, and there are other negative consequences of not recognizing and communicating to Ashley that I felt like a failure. I felt weak. I felt inadequate. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Now you two come from two different backgrounds as a way of approaching grief, Ashley being a licensed counselor and Chuck being a pastor. I love the combination of the two because I feel like it gives a very thorough look. How do we overcome and how do we heal? And you both have mentioned your miscarriage. So, I want to dive a little bit into that. How did you? Get back to a place of trusting God in the middle of that pain. Cause I feel like that is the hard thing for most of us. You love God, you're saved. You believe in Jesus, all the things, hard stuff happens. How do you hold to the trust and the things that you believe? Ashley Elliott: Such a good point that you have. We are still believers, but we are just shaken sometimes in those moments of loss. And we definitely experienced that now for me. During our first loss, we worshipped in the ER, and I remember just saying, Lord, I want to worship you. This is really hard. This is sad. And then we had another loss the next year, and I just felt so devastated. I took a year to try to heal and try to process and do research and then. I felt shattered, and I remember starting to feel like there was a distance between me and God. I felt like God was quieter than normal. We continued to do ministry. I sang at the church. He was on staff. I did a lot of volunteer-type of things. And so I continued to serve, but I just felt disappointed with the silence that I felt. And I think over time that built when we had a third miscarriage, I just felt like God was so silent. And I would get a little frustrated. I'm like, God, I didn't turn my back on you. I am following you. I'm not shaking my fist, but you're so silent. Like I need you. And your Bible tells us that I can draw near and you will draw near to me. Like, why are you not making yourself evident? And I just dug into the scripture more, and I found David felt similarly he says in the Psalms like God, where are you? Why have you forsaken me? But yet I will praise you a little farther down the Psalms. He says this over and over again as he pours out his heart. His disappointment is his frustration, but he also says, Lord, I'm going to still praise you. And I want to be like that. And I wanted that in that moment. And so I prayed those verses over me. I said, Lord, help me to live like David. And then I looked at other verses, and I saw Job. It's ah, he had these terrible things. And we can see behind the scenes, we can see the enemy was attacking him. It wasn't God. Sometimes it feels like it's God. And sometimes people will say some spiritual answers or comments, and it will make us feel like God's doing this terrible thing to us to teach us a lesson or because of a sin or whatever. But knowing that, I could see in the story of Job that he Loved God. He was faithful to God, and he still felt silence. He still felt uncertainty. And yet, I want to be like him. I didn't want to be like his wife. He said, why don't you curse God and die? I want to be like Job when I read that story. And so I continue to want to endure. And so I would wrestle with different verses and say, Lord, I want to be like you, even though I'm struggling. I want to be close to you, even though I don't feel you. And there's another verse in Job that Encourages me so much. It says God speaks in one way, and in another, no man does not perceive it. And so I held on to that. I'm like, Lord, maybe you're speaking to me. Maybe you're more near than I feel. And I'm just holding on to this truth, even in the darkness, even in the silence. And I do feel like over time it lifted. And even this morning, like we had a time of prayer I really felt a connection to God. And so I know that God is real. But I also know that in my grief, I've had more questioning than at other times. And I just want to acknowledge that sometimes it's hard. I think that's a more normal part of our walk with God. And I think just telling people about that can be a good thing because it's comforting for me to hear from other people when they face those struggles. Chuck Elliott: too. That's a really good point because sometimes, in Christianity, in the church, people will think that it is not spiritual to grieve. If I'm really spiritual I'm really loving God, and I'm passionate, I'm on fire. If you use that terminology for the Lord, then that means that I don't experience pain and I'm happy, and things are going in my direction, and I feel blessed, and I don't feel the anxiety and all of those things. I don't see that in the Bible. I see people lamenting. I see people longing to be with the Lord, and they still feel distant. I see people going through really hard times. I see the disciples after Jesus died on the cross going through difficult times, even though they have joy in the Lord. They still have persecution. They still have difficult things that they're going through, but ultimately, their foundation is in their relationship with God. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Amen. Amen. I want to really speak to that person who's at that place because I feel like a lot of people have gone through a lot of losses over the past couple of years. Amen. Starting with 2020 and beyond, there seems to have been just this season of hard that has hit a lot of lives in many different areas. And one of the things you talk about is the lies that grief tells us the lies that it tries to get us to believe. And one of those lies that I'm seeing a lot is this lie of hopelessness. Like it's the end, like there, there's nothing after this. It's just over. How can we over? What are some other common lies you've seen and how do we overcome those with God's word? Chuck Elliott: I think that's a great example of what you said you've seen with the people that you work with. People feel hopeless. That's a really good example. One of the other ones that we talk about is grief, lies, and telling us that we're alone. Tells us that nobody else wants to see us. Nobody else has experienced anything like us, that we should suffer by ourselves, not talk to anybody. And even if we did talk to somebody, nobody would care. And that is a lie. It's 100 percent a lie. People want to be with you. People want to talk to you. People want to be all on this journey with you. But sometimes we don't know how to let people in. And even when we try to let people in, it can be difficult. It can be awkward because unfortunately, we don't talk about grief and loss very much. And when you bring people into a relationship and a community around those times, it can be a little bit difficult. But that doesn't mean that you're alone. And that's one of the big lies that we've really seen. Ashley Elliott: And one of the things that you shared is the hopelessness. We tend to feel hopeless when we get stuck in a negative space. Now, in all relationships, we go back and forth between being in a positive space and a negative space. And you can think about it easily to jump in with a positive-negative space. It's like a positive or a negative mood, but it's much deeper than that. We have our positive thoughts, feelings, and behavior whenever we're in a hopeful state. And whenever we start to feel a sense of despair, that hopelessness starts to creep in negative emotions and anxiety. And we doubt God's word. We doubt ourselves and. This ends up affecting our values and our belief system. And so I believe that when people start to bring God into their negative spaces, they start to call on the holy God who can bring hope in the darkness. And there's a verse that says we are overcomers by the word of our testimony. That testimony does not happen alone. It happens in the community. The devil is a Christian relationship destroyer. He wants us to suffer alone. And when we call on God, when we fight the enemy in the community, God works and does wonders and miracles. But again, it's hard when we feel alone; it's hard whenever we're suffering, and we don't always see that. So for us, it's been helpful to say. I'm in a negative space. This isn't how I feel when I'm in a positive space. So I've got to get in God's word. I've got to get in the community. Even when I feel resistance, I acknowledge that resistance is a natural process, a human process that comes to try to make us feel more alone. And so this is, these are some of the lies that happen. But again, God's word can give us that hope and encouragement. Chuck Elliott: I really like that you said hope because oftentimes we wait until we feel hopeful and then we want to talk about Jesus. I'm in a good mood. Things are going right. All right, I can bring God into it now. But when I feel hopeless, and I feel blind, and I feel like I don't have any idea what I'm supposed to be doing next, God doesn't want anything to do with this now. That is a lie. God wants to be in the middle of your hopelessness. He wants to be in the middle of your depression, the middle of your anxiety, the middle of your confusion, the middle of your temptation, the middle of your sin, and the middle of your mess. He wants to be right in the middle of every single one of those things. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: A man. And I love that you also brought in the whole community aspect of it, the need for other people. I think sometimes when we're hurting, we almost feel like the leper is I don't want to get my hurt on you. So, we avoid other people because we fear we're going to bring them down or we don't want to burden other people with our pain. But I get, I have to tell you during some of the hardest times of my journey with God. The closest friends that I have right now are those people who didn't try to fix me. They didn't try to work me to death. I love the word of God, but when I'm hurting, I sometimes am not receptive to certain things. They just sat with me in the pain. And I had one friend who just a couple of years ago, my dad passed very unexpectedly. And she literally, she's in Canada. She's millions of miles away from me. I'm in the Southeast. She sat on a Zoom with me, and we wept together. And I can't tell you the healing that brought to my soul and the way it bonded our relationship because she wasn't trying to fix me. She just wanted to be present with me. So, I love that you brought those two components together there. Chuck Elliott: I hope your audience heard what you just played through like she didn't fix you. She didn't try to fix you. She didn't word you. I like that. You use that as an action thing. She didn't worry you and beat you up with it, right? And she sat with you. She sat with even over Zoom. And it was okay to be there and to cry, and you know what? She didn't have to fix it, and you didn't expect her to fix it. I think that's a really good prescription for the people who are listening to that pattern. You don't have to have the right scripture in the right moment and the right thing to say in the right comfort and bring over the right casserole at the right time. You need to be there.  Ashley Elliott: You just show up. And I think the phrase word you think people word you, I think people want to be spiritual. They want to bring some sort of hope. And so we'll write on the card, the Lord is near to the brokenhearted. I have done this, and I still do this, right? But I'm like, Hey, I didn't feel God's nearness, and I held onto it. So, even if this verse hurts a little bit, I just want to remind you that he is near even if he doesn't feel it. And I think sometimes. It's hard. We just want to have something spiritual to say. And our spiritual words can feel sting like they can feel painful whenever we are hurting, and knowing that we don't want to use God's word as a weapon against our loved ones. We want to use it as a healing bomb to help them. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Amen. Amen. I love that. I also want to mention something called switch therapy. What is that? And how can that help us in this process of navigating Ashley Elliott: losses? Yeah. I'm glad that you used the word because we did talk a little bit about it, but it is that positive and negative space. So, we use that back and forth between the positive and negative space. We call it switch theory because we go back and forth between this positive and negative space. And again, in our positive space, we feel hopeful, and we have positive thoughts, feelings, and aspirations, and our behavior is more positive. Chuck Elliott: The negative, you have negative thoughts, feelings, and behavior, and you're less hopeful. So you have those two ends. Of what it is that you're dealing with. Ashley Elliott: Yeah, so it's normal to go back and forth. Sometimes, we can go back and forth in a positive or negative space with each other. We can collectively get in a negative space with our kids. We can be in a positive or negative space with God with our co-workers. And especially when we start to feel like we get stuck in a negative space with everyone, that's whenever depression really grows. And if we begin to feel anxious in one area of our life, it can push us into a negative space and other areas. And so where we typically do the most of our counseling and coaching and pastoral work is whenever people are stuck in this negative space. And so we believe God can help us make a manual reset in that. First thing that we don't do typically as humans. We don't always bring God into it. We're a little bit like Adam and Eve in the garden. When they sinned, they went and hid. We can do the same thing. And we want to bring God into that negative space so that we can find the healing that we need. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: We've been chatting with Chuck and Ashley Elliott. They are the co-authors of I Used to Be Fill in the Blank, How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life, and Find Your Path Forward. I want to give you each an opportunity to just share some final thoughts to that person who's listening right now. And I don't know if they're going through the loss of a relationship, a loss of, as you mentioned, like a miscarriage or a job or a title, whatever their loss may be, they're at that place where they are just questioning. How to move forward. What would you say to them? Chuck Elliott: Yes, absolutely. God wants to be in the middle of it. He wants to be in the middle of your pain, in the middle of your anger, even your anger towards him. He can handle it. He can handle those feelings, those emotions, the things that you feel like are filthy and nasty, and those thoughts and stuff that you're not proud of. And you're even ashamed of it. He wants to be in the middle of it. And we also tell people that you're not just doing this work for you. You're doing this work for your family, for your loved ones. When you do the work to process your grief and your loss, whether it be large or small, you're leaving a legacy. You're being available for your kids, for your spouse, for your co-workers, for the people who are looking to you for support. You can be emotionally present. You can be the leader that you need to be. You can be the coach that you need to be. You can be that when you take some of those steps to process. Ashley Elliott: maybe you've been prompted in one area. Maybe it's the anger with God, or there's some sort of loss that maybe you're pricked by, but pick one thing that you're going to do. Sometimes, we can think, Oh, I've got to do all of the things. But if you pick one thing, maybe I'm going to open my Bible today, and I haven't opened it in a very long time. Or maybe I'm going to get together with a friend and open up about how I feel, or I'm going to get a book. Go to church or whatever it is that you're going to do. Start counseling, coaching, and do something, but pick one thing that's small enough that you think you actually can do it this week. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Excellent. I want to make sure they know how to connect with you and to purchase a copy of I used to be _. Where can they do that? Chuck Elliott: Absolutely. You can connect with us at chuckandashley. com. You can find links to all of our social media accounts there, and the book is sold everywhere books are sold. Also the audio book. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Excellent. I'll, we will link to that in the show notes to your website, as well as to a direct link to the book. I want to thank you both so much for joining me. Thank you. Until next time, everyone live fully, love boldly, and rest intentionally.   I Choose My Best Life Podcast is one of the  Top 20 Christian Women Podcasts I Choose My Best Life Books: Colorful Connections, Sacred Rest, Come Empty, Set Free to Live Free Connect with Saundra: Twitter: @DrDaltonSmith Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drdaltonsmith Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrSaundraDaltonSmith

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When you suffer a loss, you enter the realm of "used to be." And in that used-to-be space, you can feel stuck. Grief naturally follows loss, but we do not have to be stuck in negative spaces forever. Wednesday on Mornings with Eric and Brigitte, Chuck & Ashley Elliott light the path to a better future and show you how you can have hope, joy, and stability in your life again in their new book, "I used to be ____". They offer coping strategies for when moving forward seems impossible and will guide you toward building new thinking patterns that will result in healing and growth.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Episode Summary: Grief and loss are hard. When we suffer loss, we enter the realm of “used to be.” We used to be married. Used to be employed. Used to be pregnant, secure, healthy, sober, or thin. We used to be a son or daughter, a brother or a sister, a mother or father, a wife or a husband. And in that used-to-be space there is deep emptiness, loneliness, and sorrow. It's a place they dwell for a while. But it's not a place we are meant to remain. Maybe you “used to be” something—but there is a future waiting when you “will be” once more. Join me on Thursday's podcast with Chuck and Ashley Elliott as we talk about how to cope with loss.   Quotables from the episode: "He [God] has given us His Word, and we can hold on to what it says, even when our emotions or our reality screams that God is absent. "  "We cannot completely control our world, but we can change our behavior. It's amazing how much our behavior positively or negatively affects everything around us, especially our perception of the world."  “Where I am in my story is only temporary.” “In God's silence, I grew in seeing God's faithfulness.” “Faith is holding on when you want to give up.” “Grief lies to us and tells us that we are alone, that we need to isolate, and even that God is disappointed in us.” “Spiritual Dissonance is when you believe God is good, but then when something bad happens we wonder if he is good. “Anger is a common response in grief, because grief feels like your power has been stripped away, and anger makes us feel strong and powerful again.” “Underneath anger are often fear, loneliness, despair, and jealousy.” "Sometimes it feels easier to change our beliefs about God rather than do the emotional, spiritual, and physical work necessary to explore the dissonance."  "Grieving people need connection, especially to Jesus. And Jesus stood in our place and is now allowing us to stand in His place, representing Him to those who are hurting."  "Give yourself permission to grieve, even at work."  “We can thrive after loss, building mental stability. It's normal to feel abnormal after loss! It's what we do next that determines whether or not we leave a legacy!” “A relationship with God is more fulfilling than anything we lost.”   Scripture References: Psalm 84:6 (NLT) says, “When they walk through the Valley of Weeping, it will become a place of refreshing springs.” Psalm 84:6 (NLT) says, “When they walk through the Valley of Weeping, it will become a place of refreshing springs.”   Recommended Resources:  I Used to be___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward by Chuck and Ashley Elliott The Hem of His Garment: Reaching Out to God When Pain Overwhelms by Dr. Michelle Bengtson YouVersion 5-Day Devotional Reaching Out To God When Pain Overwhelms   Today is Going to be a Good Day: 90 Promises to Start Your Day Off Right by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the AWSA 2023 Inspirational Gift Book of the Year Award, the Christian Literary Awards Reader's Choice Award in four categories, and the Christian Literary Awards Henri Award for Devotionals YouVersion 7-Day Devotional, Today is Going to be a Good Day YouVersion 7-Day Devotional, Today is Going to be Another Good Day Breaking Anxiety's Grip: How to Reclaim the Peace God Promises by Dr. Michelle Bengtson Breaking Anxiety's Grip Free Study Guide Free 7-Day YouVersion Bible Reading Plan for Breaking Anxiety's Grip Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor's Personal Journey Through Depression by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader's Choice Award Hope Prevails Bible Study by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader's Choice Award Trusting God Through Cancer 1 Trusting God Through Cancer 2 Revive & Thrive Women's Conference Subdue Stress and Anxiety: Fifteen Experts Offer Comprehensive Tools in Ten Minutes a Day. Use my link plus discount code BENG99 to save $90 on course (course will be $99.) Free Download: How To Fight Fearful/Anxious Thoughts and Win   Social Media Links for Guest and Host: Connect with Chuck and Ashley Elliott: Website / Facebook / Instagram For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at: Order Book Breaking Anxiety's Grip / Order Book Hope Prevails  /  Website  /  Blog  /  Facebook / Twitter (@DrMBengtson)  /  LinkedIn  /  Instagram / Pinterest / YouTube Guest: Chuck and Ashley Elliott are authors of the book I Used to be ____ and spend much of their time equipping people to build spiritual and relational success. Chuck, as a pastor, and Ashley, as a counselor, have devoted their lives to help people fight negativity and leave a legacy. They earned master's degrees in counseling, education, and organizational leadership. Chuck and Ashley live in Indiana with their three sons and enjoy spending time outside as a family.    Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson

Today I am thrilled to be joined by Chuck and Ashley Elliott, content creators who you may recognize from platforms such as YouVersion or RightNow Media. Beyond their online presence, Chuck is a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, Indiana, while Ashley serves as a licensed counselor. Recently, Chuck and Ashley co-authored a transformative book titled I Used to Be ____. Life can take unexpected turns, and when you find yourself grappling with loss- whether it's the loss of a relationship, a job, a sense of security, or an identity- you enter the realm of "used to be." It's a space that can feel stifling, leaving you trapped in memories of what once was. But Chuck and Ashley are here to remind you that while it's natural to dwell in this space for a while, it's not where you're meant to stay. This episode dives deep into the heart of grief and the path to healing. This is such a powerful conversation that I am so excited to share. 4:39 – Chuck and Ashley 101 Meeting at Lee University Finding their love for ministry together The story behind I Used To Be _____ 11:56 – Experiencing grief Grief is not linear Everyone's journey is unique What does God want for us? 27:33 – There is hope God does not want us to stay stuck in these places The Lord is near to the brokenhearted God is worth the sacrifice 38:00 – What God teaches through suffering Through suffering and grief, God can do his best work John 3:30 47:47 – Navigating seasons of loss Acknowledge big and small losses Breathe and be patient with yourself The complex interplay between grief and joy 47:47 – Supporting those in grief Find creative ways to offer support Don't feel like you have to say the perfect thing Be present FEATURED QUOTES Don't feel like you have to say the perfect thing because there is no perfect thing to say. When you show up, you don't have to say something to take away their pain. Give yourself permission to take care of yourself. When you don't feel like you're okay, tell someone you don't feel okay. You can be joyful and grieving at the same time. You can laugh and cry at the same time. https://www.chuckandashley.com/

When a person suffers a loss, they enter the realm of “used to be.” They used to be married. They used to be employed. They used to be pregnant. They used to be sons, daughters, mothers, or fathers. There can be deep loneliness, sadness, and grief in that “used to be” space. This can be a space where it is necessary to dwell for a while, but it is not a space we are meant to remain.My guests today are Chuck and Ashley Elliott. Chuck is a pastor, and Ashley is a licensed counselor, and together they have written a book, I Used to Be ___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward, which they wrote after experiencing recurring miscarriages and broken trust. They also offer consulting services for businesses and Christian life coaching together.In this conversation, you'll hear:The losses we can grieve other than a deathHow grief can lie about our faithWhat it looks like to move out of a negative head spaceAnd much more!Loss is a part of life that we can't avoid this side of Heaven, and I greatly appreciated this opportunity to talk with Chuck and AshleyShow Notes: https://jillsavage.org/chuck-ashley-elliott-160/

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NOW YOU CAN CLICK ON THE TIMELINE TO FIND YOUR FAVORITE SEGMENT(S) OR LISTEN TO THE WHOLE SHOW! Please check out our full TWO-HOUR radio show, or snippets contained within, from Wednesday, August 16, 2023, wherein we discussed: 0:00 - Hello, Introduction, Update, and Today's Show Details 1:36 - Remembering Elvis Presley - Passed Away on This Day in 1977 6:23 - "Arrogant Al" Entered the Fray! 7:02 - Al to Alaska, and His Research 8:58 - LIVE SINGING Segment, wherein the CHO Singing Group, including "Cannabis Carl", "Hicksville Harry", and "Operatic Olivier", came in to sing, "Don't Get Around Much Anymore", by Duke Ellington. As Al always says, what could possibly go wrong? 30:31 - Part 1 of Paul's Interview With Chuck and Ashley Elliott 59:37 - "Name That Tune" segment, wherein "Elvis Presley" stopped in to guess/name the titles of three songs by HERMAN'S HERMITS. As always, Al provided the song details! 1:17:57 - Al Wants to Join the Interviewing Process! Does He Have the Listening Skills? 1:19:50 - Part 2 of Paul's Interview With Chuck and Ashley Elliott 1:48:06 - LIVE SINGING Segment, wherein the Boss Group or CEO Group, which includes "Elvis Presley", "Cannabis Carl", and "Operatic Olivier" came in to sing, "Treat Me Nice", by Elvis Presley. As Al always says, what could possibly go wrong? 1:56:08 - Paul and Al Recap the Show, including Revisiting the Talking/Listening Discussion As a reminder, you can catch all of our live shows on Wednesdays at 11:00 am (ET) on "Impact Radio USA", through the following site: http://www.ImpactRadioUSA.com (click on LISTEN NOW) (NOTE: Each live show is also repeated at 2:00 p.m. and 8:00 p.m., and 5:00 am on the next day) Enjoy!

CHUCK and ASHLEY ELLIOTT, from Evansville, Indiana, joined us to discuss relationships, marriages, her work with the Auxilium Psychological Services, Chuck's mission in serving as a pastor, and their newest release, "I Used to Be: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward". FROM THEIR WEBSITE: "Chuck and Ashley Elliott have been working with couples since 2009. As marriage educators for Community Marriage Builders, they gained experience developing and leading small and large workshops. The Elliott's are certified in eight different Pscyho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Chuck and Ashley have developed and taught multiple marriage programs over the years and love to speak about the topic of relationships. Chuck is also a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, IN. Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services. Additionally, she oversaw the Psychology and Addictions Counseling Program at Oakland City University for 11 years. During that time, Ashley developed over 17 Psychology courses, conducted original research with students in her classroom, and created a Communication Theory that she and Chuck have presented at universities and businesses across the United States. Chuck and Ashley have three boys and enjoy hiking, mountain biking, and far too infrequent family dance parties!  www.chuckandashley.com

CHUCK and ASHLEY ELLIOTT, from Evansville, Indiana, joined us to discuss relationships, marriages, her work with the Auxilium Psychological Services, Chuck's mission in serving as a pastor, and their newest release, "I Used to Be: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward". FROM THEIR WEBSITE: "Chuck and Ashley Elliott have been working with couples since 2009. As marriage educators for Community Marriage Builders, they gained experience developing and leading small and large workshops. The Elliott's are certified in eight different Pscyho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Chuck and Ashley have developed and taught multiple marriage programs over the years and love to speak about the topic of relationships. Chuck is also a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, IN. Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services. Additionally, she oversaw the Psychology and Addictions Counseling Program at Oakland City University for 11 years. During that time, Ashley developed over 17 Psychology courses, conducted original research with students in her classroom, and created a Communication Theory that she and Chuck have presented at universities and businesses across the United States. Chuck and Ashley have three boys and enjoy hiking, mountain biking, and far too infrequent family dance parties!  www.chuckandashley.com

NOW YOU CAN CLICK ON THE TIMELINE TO FIND YOUR FAVORITE SEGMENT(S) OR LISTEN TO THE WHOLE SHOW! Please check out our full TWO-HOUR radio show, or snippets contained within, from Wednesday, August 16, 2023, wherein we discussed: 0:00 - Hello, Introduction, Update, and Today's Show Details 1:36 - Remembering Elvis Presley - Passed Away on This Day in 1977 6:23 - "Arrogant Al" Entered the Fray! 7:02 - Al to Alaska, and His Research 8:58 - LIVE SINGING Segment, wherein the CHO Singing Group, including "Cannabis Carl", "Hicksville Harry", and "Operatic Olivier", came in to sing, "Don't Get Around Much Anymore", by Duke Ellington. As Al always says, what could possibly go wrong? 30:31 - Part 1 of Paul's Interview With Chuck and Ashley Elliott 59:37 - "Name That Tune" segment, wherein "Elvis Presley" stopped in to guess/name the titles of three songs by HERMAN'S HERMITS. As always, Al provided the song details! 1:17:57 - Al Wants to Join the Interviewing Process! Does He Have the Listening Skills? 1:19:50 - Part 2 of Paul's Interview With Chuck and Ashley Elliott 1:48:06 - LIVE SINGING Segment, wherein the Boss Group or CEO Group, which includes "Elvis Presley", "Cannabis Carl", and "Operatic Olivier" came in to sing, "Treat Me Nice", by Elvis Presley. As Al always says, what could possibly go wrong? 1:56:08 - Paul and Al Recap the Show, including Revisiting the Talking/Listening Discussion As a reminder, you can catch all of our live shows on Wednesdays at 11:00 am (ET) on "Impact Radio USA", through the following site: http://www.ImpactRadioUSA.com (click on LISTEN NOW) (NOTE: Each live show is also repeated at 2:00 p.m. and 8:00 p.m., and 5:00 am on the next day) Enjoy!

We all experience loss. Small or large, healing from any loss requires grieving well. Many people imagine grief only applies when a loved one dies. It certainly applies then, but for mental, relational, and spiritual health it's important to grieve all our losses.  Chuck and Ashley Elliott have experienced losses - individually and together, including loss of trust through pornography use, and loss of children through repeated pregnancy loss. They talk with Dr. Carol on this episode about the impact of grief on relationships with each other, with family and friends, and with God. Connect with Chuck and Ashley Elliott on their website, Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. Find their book I Used to Be: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward If you have lost a loved one in death, you'll want Dr. Carol's 30-day email series The Christian's Journey Through Grief. Dr. Carol would love to hear from you. Leave a confidential comment or question here. 

Finish this sentence. I used to be ___. What would you say? I used to be married? I used to be pregnant? I used to be employed? Chuck and Ashley Elliott will talk about how to navigate the large and small losses in your life so that you can find your path forward. Don’t miss the encouragement on Chris Fabry Live. Give a First Time Gift to Chris Fabry Live Care NetSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I've heard it said that in life we must become a winner at the fine art of losing. In other words, loss is inevitable. Whether it's the loss of a loved one, a relationship, your health, a job, and so much more. Loss can be very difficult. And what can unfortunately happen is in the midst of the pain and grief which so often accompanies these losses we can easily grow overwhelmed as our identity seems threatened. However, thankfully, our guests today have developed a powerful resource that they discuss in detail involving their new book titled, I Used to Be: Navigating Large & Small Losses in Life to Find Your Way Forward, which you can preorder NOW - https://www.chuckandashley.com/ or buy in store August 15, 2023. Chuck is a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, Indiana and Ashley is a Licensed Counselor who together are speakers, authors, frequent workshop leaders, and grief and relationship specialists. Our prayer is that through this entire conversation you would be educated, equipped, and encouraged to carefully embrace and navigate your “I Used to Be” thoughts and feelings, yet reminded that there is a future waiting when you “Will Be” once more.

Ashley Elliott shared her story of why she got into so many fights as part of this burgeoning legion of violent middle-school girls. But she and Lauren Garcia (like Ashley, part of the American Federation for Children) talked about how this issue could be resolved via school choice options in Nebraska., Future Leaders Fellowship Coordinator, American Federation for Children

Welcome to our newest show at Impact Radio USA, "INTERVIEWS and MORE", the show that features past interviews from our guests on "Dr. Paul's Family Talk" radio show. In addition to continuing to promote our guests, this show also gives our listeners another opportunity to hear the great information that our guests have provided. As for the "More", we will cover everything from food, to cars, to Bible verses, to music, and so much "MORE"! NEW SHOWS ARE DROPPED EACH MONDAY AT 10:00 AM ET. On today's segment, we will talk to Chuck and Ashley Elliott: CHUCK and ASHLEY ELLIOTT, from Evansville, Indiana, joined us to discuss relationships, marriages, and her work with the Psychology & Addictions program at OCU. In addition to Chuck serving as a pastor, they offer online programs to help people through grief and relationship challenges at home and work. FROM THEIR WEBSITE: "Chuck and Ashley Elliott have been working with couples since 2009. As marriage educators for Community Marriage Builders, they gained experience developing and leading small and large workshops. The Elliott's are certified in eight different Pscyho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Chuck and Ashley have developed and taught multiple marriage programs over the years and love to speak about the topic of relationships. Chuck is also a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, IN. Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services. Additionally, she oversaw the Psychology and Addictions Counseling Program at Oakland City University for 11 years. During that time, Ashley developed over 17 Psychology courses, conducted original research with students in her classroom, and created a Communication Theory that she and Chuck have presented at universities and businesses across the United States. Chuck and Ashley have three boys and enjoy hiking, mountain biking, and far too infrequent family dance parties!  www.chuckandashley.com

CHUCK and ASHLEY ELLIOTT, from Evansville, Indiana, joined us to discuss relationships, marriages, and her work with the Psychology & Addictions program at OCU. In addition to Chuck serving as a pastor, they offer online programs to help people through grief and relationship challenges at home and work. FROM THEIR WEBSITE: "Chuck and Ashley Elliott have been working with couples since 2009. As marriage educators for Community Marriage Builders, they gained experience developing and leading small and large workshops. The Elliott's are certified in eight different Pscyho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Chuck and Ashley have developed and taught multiple marriage programs over the years and love to speak about the topic of relationships. Chuck is also a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, IN. Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services. Additionally, she oversaw the Psychology and Addictions Counseling Program at Oakland City University for 11 years. During that time, Ashley developed over 17 Psychology courses, conducted original research with students in her classroom, and created a Communication Theory that she and Chuck have presented at universities and businesses across the United States. Chuck and Ashley have three boys and enjoy hiking, mountain biking, and far too infrequent family dance parties!  www.chuckandashley.com

CHUCK and ASHLEY ELLIOTT, from Evansville, Indiana, joined us to discuss relationships, marriages, and her work with the Psychology & Addictions program at OCU. In addition to Chuck serving as a pastor, they offer online programs to help people through grief and relationship challenges at home and work. FROM THEIR WEBSITE: "Chuck and Ashley Elliott have been working with couples since 2009. As marriage educators for Community Marriage Builders, they gained experience developing and leading small and large workshops. The Elliott's are certified in eight different Pscyho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Chuck and Ashley have developed and taught multiple marriage programs over the years and love to speak about the topic of relationships. Chuck is also a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, IN. Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services. Additionally, she oversaw the Psychology and Addictions Counseling Program at Oakland City University for 11 years. During that time, Ashley developed over 17 Psychology courses, conducted original research with students in her classroom, and created a Communication Theory that she and Chuck have presented at universities and businesses across the United States. Chuck and Ashley have three boys and enjoy hiking, mountain biking, and far too infrequent family dance parties!  www.chuckandashley.com

In part 1 of the Wellness project I sit down with. Dr. Ashley Elliott aka Dr. Vidid. Dr. Ashley Elliott has been affectionately known as Dr. Vivid since 2014 when she started her consulting company Vivid Innovations Consulting, LLC. A native Washingtonian who takes pride in serving her community, Dr. Vivid has been providing wellness services in the DC Metropolitan area for over 10 years. Her mission is to empower, encourage, and enlighten the masses by spreading a message that emphasizes the importance of mental health and wellness. . . MILLENNIALS VS THE WORLD WELLNESS MEDIA PROJECT 2022 is a 5 part project! The project will be via instagram and YouTube.The purpose of this project is to highlight and bring awareness to they multiple layers of wellness. The vision for this project is to create an interactive experience that captures the multiple dimension of wellness. Every week of June, we will drop a photoshoot, promo, wellness clip and podcast episode for each participant. . ⬇️ What does this project include⬇️ 1️⃣ Six of the dopest wellness professionals! 2️⃣ Their wellness journey, businesses and practices. 3️⃣ Major insight on the multiple layers of wellness. . ⬇️ The Goal of this project⬇️ 1️⃣ Bring awareness to the multiple layers of wellness. 2️⃣ Highlight dope professionals who are making a difference. 3️⃣ Highlight the stories and resiliency of each participant. 4️⃣ Start a healthy conversation about wellness in the culture. . ⬇️Project Participants⬇️ 1️⃣ @drvivid 2️⃣ @destdaydreams 3️⃣ @unified.nutrition 4️⃣ @dr.daryljohnson 5️⃣ @prophetfitness.life . ⬇️ How to support the project⬇️ 1️⃣ Listen 2️⃣ Share 3️⃣ Comment and ask questions 4️⃣ Tell a friend to tell a friend .

In this episode, we are joined by Ashley and Chuck Elliot as they share about the switch theory. This theory, as shared by Chuck and Ashley is the expectation of negative emotions and circumstances when we start having expectations for a relationship, be it friendship, at work, or in a romantic relationship. That said, Ashley and Chuck share a lot about how to navigate a relationship healthily through negative and positive spaces. They gave real-to-life examples for marriages on how to handle these expectations which are easily applicable in daily lives. One such example that they shared is how they communicate their frustration in order to avoid a build-up of negative thoughts which also saves them from creating a distance in their relationship and keeps their trust intact as well. There's a lot to learn in this episode so be sure to stay tuned! In this episode, you'll learn: ● Handling the back and forth with emotions ● Going back to a positive space from a negative space ● Communicating and responding to frustration ● A conflict does not mean the end of a relationship ● Difficulties actually bring couples closer together ● And many more! About Chuck and Ashley: Chuck and Ashley have been working with individuals and couples since 2009. Their combined education and experience in counseling, organizational leadership, and ministry prepared them to work with families through all stages of life. Individuals are taught to evaluate their emotional, physical, and spiritual resources in an effort to equip them to Do Hard Things! Chuck Elliott earned a Master of Organizational Leadership Degree from Regent University and a Master of Arts in Education from Western Kentucky University. Chuck currently serves as a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, IN. Ashley Elliott earned a Master of Science Degree in Mental Health Counseling from Lee University. Ashley oversees the Psychology and Addictions Counseling Program at Oakland City University. She also loves leading worship at church! Chuck and Ashley have three boys and enjoy hiking and biking together! Find Chuck and Hannah on… Website: https://www.elliottlifecoaching.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chuckandashley Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chuckandashleycoaching/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/elliottlifecoaching/ ++ Is your mindset getting in your way of being productive? Take this FREE ASSESSMENT to find out: https://www.lifepixuniversity.com/mindset

Dr Ashley Elliott with Dr James Galloway,  discuss key learning points from a recent rheumatology case of headache and cognitive decline and other practical tips.

Dr Ashley Elliott catches up with Dr Will Tillett and Dr Laura Coates to discuss some clinical cases with practical advice on assessing all aspects of disease and evidence-based treatments.

Dr. Ashley Elliott is a Clinical Psychologist and Mental Health Specialist here to help us understand our diagnosis and how women in the medical field are changing how we see ADHD. @Drvivd https://www.doctorvivid.com @Katie.ADHD https://www.thekdhdpodcast.com

This week on True Crime Daily The Podcast: Ashley Elliott and Michael Coffino join host Ana Garcia for our "My Favorite Case" series to discuss Elliott's book "The Demon in Disguise." The book tells the story of Elliott's years-long journey in pursuit of justice in the murder of her father and the abduction of her mother. 'The Demon in Disguise: Murder, Kidnapping, and the Banty Rooster' https://www.amazon.com/Demon-Disguise-Murder-Kidnapping-Rooster/dp/1646634306 https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-demon-in-disguise-ashley-elliott/1139893988 Ashley Elliott https://ashleyelliottauthor.com/ Michael J. Coffino https://michaelcoffino.com/book/the-demon-in-disguise-murder-kidnapping-and-the-banty-rooster/ Ana Garcia http://www.anagarciatv.com/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

More Than My Credentials Series starts off with Dr.Ashley Elliott aka Dr. Vivid, a clinical psychologist from Washington D.C. Dr.Elliott has been a longtime friend of Trey and she discusses everything about herself, brand and business that makes her more than her credentials. They talk about the field of mental health long-term, chicken wings and mumbo sauce, go-go and more! Check it out! Links to Dr.Ashley Elliott Website: www.doctorvivid.com Instagram: @drvivid Twitter: @DoctorVivid TikTok: @glitterngenetix

In this episode, Kim talks with the author of the book "The Demon In Disguise: Murder, Kidnapping, and The Banty Rooster. Click here to order your copy of Ashley's book. Click here to view her website. Follow Ashley Facebook Instagram --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today's episode is dedicated to understanding how to talk to our children about expressing their emotions and mental health needs. We sit down with Dr. Ashley Elliott, author of a new book titled My Feelings Matter, which is intended to help parents and children work through these types of conversations. This show is critically important given the turbulent times that we live in and all that is going on in the world.Guest: Dr. Ashley "Vivid" Elliott, Clinical PsychologistAffectionately known as Dr. Vivid, I am a pint-sized Doctor of Clinical Psychology. I'm a D.C. native, motivational speaker, author, educator, advocate, and mommy of the coolest 5-year-old in the galaxy. Dr. Ashley Elliott, PsyD, Pre-Licensed Professional, Arlington, VA, 22201 | Psychology TodayConnect with our guest: Email:  contact@vividinnovators.com; contact@doctorvivid.comInstagram: @drvividSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/AMERIKANTHERAPY)

5 Stars: the mark of excellence, the height of quality. From movies to kitchen appliances and restaurants to exterminators, it's the benchmark we use to choose everything. While most people are reluctant to invest in products, services, and entertainment that don't quite meet the 5-star mark, they often settle for a mediocre career. “If you want 5-star everything, you damn sure should get a 5-star quality career,” declares Penelope Przekop, an internationally recognized quality assurance expert who has worked with Fortune 100 pharmaceutical companies for over 30 years. https://penelopeprzekop.com/Ashley Elliott was raised in Conway, Arkansas. A survivor and an advocate for victims, she devoted more than a decade to her quest for justice after her father's murder and mother's kidnapping. She holds a BS in Organizational Communication from the University of Utah, and is an avid hiker, athlete, bodybuilder who has competed in and won medals in various competitions. She lives in Utah with her husband and children. The Demon in Disguise is her first book. https://ashleyelliottauthor.com/book/demon-in-disguise/Empower a new you! Strengthen your inner power, confidence, and mindset with Laila Ali - undefeated boxer, fitness and wellness advocate, television host! https://lailaali.com/replenish/

No one wants to feel like a cog in a wheel, people want to feel valued. In this Powerful at Work Radio podcast episode, learn how you can use empathy and vulnerability to connect with the people on your team. Chuck and Ashley Elliott are Relationship Specialists that know that people make better decisions when they are in a positive space. So how can you as a leader help your employees switch from a negative mentality to a positive one? We often feel like we shouldn't blur the line between our professional and personal personas. But when you embrace the heart of a servant leader, and think about how you can best serve and develop your people, you'll see it takes developing the whole person, not just the professional version. If you take a long term approach to drawing the best out of each individual, everyone wins! Episode Outline: [04:23] When you pay attention to how people are feeling, you can get them the help they need to succeed in and out of the workplace. [6:03] Why investing in your team may not have an upfront cost, but it does take effort and commitment... [10:31] I'm going to use my sphere of influence to help you win and help the organization win. [13:29] How unmet expectations can shift your employees into a negative space. [17:51] It's helping people to be self aware and taking ownership... About Chuck & Ashley Elliott: In addition to being a pastor and a professor, Chuck and Ashley Elliott are relationship specialists who help people build thriving personal and professional relationships. Their marriage, career, and grief content is available on many platforms including RightNow Media and YouVersion. Understanding that building a legacy happens only with great intention, they speak, coach, and offer online programs to help individuals increase awareness of the cognitive and behavioral patterns that impact their work and family life. Website: https://www.elliottlifecoaching.com/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/elliottlifecoaching/_created/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chuckandashleycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chuckandashley Twitter: https://twitter.com/AshleyChuckand YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK9vzRS0OA3Kim5wYxhn5KQ Follow Rosa Ponce de Leon and Powerful at Work Radio: Website: https://rosaponcedeleon.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rosa-ponce-de-leon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Rosa_PdL Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosaponcedeleoncoach/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RosaPoncedeLeonCoach

Host Cyrus Webb welcomes author Ashley Elliott to #ConversationsLIVE to discuss what led her to share the story that is in THE DEMON IN DISGUISE and what she hopes readers take away from the book.

This week I get to sit down and chat with Dr. Ashley Elliott of Vivid Innovations Consulting, LLC. We chat about all things mental health and practical ways that we can mange depression, anxiety, and getting though the pandemic. Dr. Ashley also answers questions that were sent in from our family. Follow Us On Social Media Dr. Vivid linktr.ee/DrVivid www.instagram.com/drvivid Markitta G. www.instagram.com/markittainyourbusiness www.instagram.com/purposejournals www.instagram.com/iammarkittag --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Everybody, Relax…..A lifestyle podcast dedicated to helping folks deal with Life, Stress and Mental Health. Facilitated by Trey who is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who attempts to spark healing via creativity. Trey blends his clinical expertise with real world experience for a unique, down to earth conversation. So relax, take a deep breath, we're going to get through this thing called life together. More Than My Credentials Series starts off with Dr.Ashley Elliott aka Dr. Vivid, a clinical psychologist from Washington D.C. Dr.Elliott has been a longtime friend of Trey and she discusses everything about herself, brand and business that makes her more than her credentials. They talk about the field of mental health long-term, chicken wings and mumbo sauce, go-go and more! Check it out! Links to Dr.Ashley Elliott Website: www.doctorvivid.com Instagram: @drvivid Twitter: @DoctorVivid TikTok: @glitterngenetix Need a licensed speaker or facilitator? https://www.uphold318.com/taylorspeaks Become a member of the Relax Crew on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RelaxVA Black Therapists in Virginia https://www.uphold318.com/blackvatherapists Make sure to subscribe, like, share and comment with your thoughts!! When listening and sharing use #EverybodyRelax #RefreshVA, to let us know you are listening! Visit our website at www.uphold318.com

I had an amazing conversation with Ashley about the Switch from the positive to the negative in most relationships. Here's a little about her : Ashley Elliott, MS, LMHCA oversees the Psychology and Addictions Program at Oakland City University. She and her husband, Chuck, are also coaches who speak and produce video content on topics such as relationships, grief, and spirituality. Learn more about Switch Theory in the context of personal and professional relationships at www.elliottlifecoaching.com/why-people-leave. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/justdamie/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/justdamie/support

This week we talk with Chuck and Ashley Elliott of Elliot Life Coaching to help us recognize and deal with cycles in our lives.  We all have experienced being stuck in a cycle and Chuck and Ashley will help us recognize these patterns while providing insight into creating change and establishing positive cycles. Chuck is a pastor and Ashley is a professor at Oakland City University overseeing the Psychology & Addictions Counseling Program.  She has developed over 17 psychology courses and conducted original research in the classroom.  They provide faith-based counseling and have created several online courses aimed at helping people deal with grief and loss.  You can learn more about Chuck and Ashley using the following links:CHECK OUT CHUCK & ASHLEYWebsite: Elliott Life CoachingInstagram - @chuckandashleycoachingTwitter - @ashleychuckandYou Tube - Chuck & AshleyFOLLOW JOE MINNITTEWebsite - Proof Principles MatterFacebook - @jminnitteTwitter - @joeminnitteInstagram - @joeminnitte

Chuck and Ashley Elliott speak to “I’m grieving because I loved”. They are a married couple who get raw about their journey coping with several miscarriages. We laugh, tear and acknowledge heartaches, anger and their own unique frustrations yet also get to hear amazing growth and great relationship and communication skills while coping with their grief! This all inspired creating what they themselves needed while grieving. Chuck and Ashley are now the owners of: Elliot Life Coaching, specializing in grief and relationships. They offer online courses: Do Hard Things; Why People Leave; and Love and Loss. They also offer coaching and speaking at events. Website: https://www.elliottlifecoaching.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chuckandashley/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chuckandashleycoaching/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK9vzRS0OA3Kim5wYxhn5KQ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AshleyChuckand

Dr Ashley Elliott catches up with Dr Will Tillett and Dr Laura Coates to discuss some clinical cases with practical advice on assessing all aspects of disease and evidence- based treatments.

Hosted by Dr Ashley Elliott with Dr James Galloway, they discuss key learning points from a recent rheumatology case of headache and cognitive decline and other practical tips.

Today's guests are Chuck and Ashley Eilliot! Chuck and Ashley are relationship specialists who help people build thriving personal and professional relationships. Together, they are certified in eight different Pscyho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Chuck is also a Pastor and Ashley a Professor, overseeing the Psychology and Addictions Counseling Program at her university. They love to speak about the topic of relationships, grief, love, and doing hard things! And we loved getting to hear them speak about all that and more so let's get to the interview! Check out their amazing work and connect with them: https://www.elliottlifecoaching.com/ IG: @chuckandashleycoaching

Dr. Ashley Elliott PhD talks her age 4 job path, self-care necessities, schizophrenia, her specialty urban trauma and adolescents, community activism, motivational speaking, sports psychology, tele medicine and why she doesn't tell you what to do. Human Connection, Urban Trauma, humanistic existentialist (I see you as a human and unconditional positive regard and the bad...

Do you miss a title you used to have, a role you used to have, or a person or thing that used to be a big part of your life? If so, today's podcast episode will encourage your heart -- especially if letting go of what your life used to look like has been hard. Chuck and Ashley Elliott joined me in-studio recently to talk about their brand new book I Used to Be ___ : How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward-- a book that pretty much all of us can relate to!Chuck and Ashley have been married for sixteen years and have served as marriage educators, in addition to Chuck being a pastor and Ashley being a therapist. They are also deeply familiar with grief and loss and they share some of what they've walked through in this episode.In this episode, we discuss the process of grief, the dangers of belittling our pain or comparing it to others, how to determine if we have unprocessed grief, how anger can actually be such a valuable warning flag, and why so often what we think we are frustrated about isn't actually what is frustrating us.They also talk about the three A's to change: awareness, assessment, and action and how we can use these as tools to move to a healthier, more wholehearted and healed place -- so that we can live with more joy and less stress and anger.In This Episode[0:35] - Today's show features Chuck and Ashley Elliott -- marriage educators as well as a pastor and therapist.[3:18] - Ashley shares some of the grief and losses that she and Chuck have experienced.[4:56] - Where does the concept behind the title of the book come from?[7:37] - Everyone likely feels that they've lost a part of what they once were.[11:44] - How can we identify a loss that we aren't properly processing?[14:31] - Chuck shares how anger is sometimes a mask for other feelings.[17:12] - Ashley discusses the three A's to change.[19:47] - What do you do if it feels like nothing is working and you're just stuck?[24:33] - Ashley shares openly about their miscarriages and speaks to parents who have walked through the grief of infertility or losing a baby.[28:54] - We end this episode talking about the power of your presence and how sometimes that is the greatest gift we can give to another.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineChuckandAshley.comI Used to Be ___ by Chuck Elliott & Ashley Elliott10 Days to Be a Happier MomSign up for the Hot Deals Email ListMoneySavingMom.comMy Instagram account (I'd love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I'm pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/* Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/* Check out ByHeart and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://byheart.com/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands