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In this episode of Season of Stuck, Deanna announces a new season coming Tuesday, July 8th. Until then, we'll be doing replays of some of our favorite episodes, starting with Unlocking the Science of Stuck with Britt Frank.In this episode, They explore the concept of stuckness, emphasizing its physiological roots and the importance of body-oriented approaches. Britt introduces "micro yeses," small decisions that help break inertia. They discuss how stuckness manifests in various life areas and share personal experiences of overcoming it. Britt offers a 3-step process for getting unstuck and highlights the importance of self-discovery and acceptance.Tune in to learn about:The concept of stuckness and its impact on individualsUnderstanding stuckness as a universal human experiencePhysiological aspect of stuckness and body-oriented approachesMicro yeses as a pattern interrupt to break free from stucknessManifestation of stuckness in different areas of lifeOvercoming stuckness related to alcohol useFear of making mistakes and the concept of "micro messes"Reframing the perception of stuckness and anxietyThree-step process for getting unstuckEmbracing self-discovery and self-acceptanceThoughts from the episode:“Anxiety is not pleasant and it can cause real, real problems. But anxiety is the symptom. It says ‘There is a problem. I'm not your problem. I'm your messenger.' But we get so focused on the discomfort of the symptom, we forget the symptom is a signal.” –Britt FrankAbout Britt Frank, LSCSW, SEP Britt Frank is no stranger to stuck, but following over two decades of addiction and mental health struggles, she got herself unstuck, ultimately becoming a licensed psychotherapist and trauma specialist. She's also an educator and author. The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward is a book that offers science-backed strategies for understanding stuckness and moving forward with purpose, confidence, and the freedom to become who you're truly meant to be. Connect with Britt Frank:On the web:Science of Stuck websiteOn social media:Instagram: @brittfrankStay connected with Season of Stuck:Want more insights on how to make your journey from stuck to unstuck? Make sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts; you can catch new episodes every Tuesday.Want to make sure you never miss an episode? Visit seasonofstuck.com to get episodes delivered to your inbox. And for even more stuck-related content, make sure to follow us on Instagram @seasonofstuck****DISCLAIMER**** Season of Stuck is for general information only and should not be considered health, financial, or any other type of professional advice. The views expressed by guests are their own and their appearance on Season of Stuck is not an endorsement. We do not verify the accuracy of the information that guests present. Adult language may be present. Our producer and host disclaim any liability arising out of your reliance on Season of Stuck. Please note that we may receive a commission should you choose to purchase any product or service using our website link to the products, services, and links featured on Season of Stuck and/or in related properties (including seasonofstuck.com and email communications).
Happy Mindful Monday Everyone! In this week's episode, our host Allie Brooke interviews fellow educator Steph Genco. Steph Genco Gasiecki from Buffalo, NY is an education consultant, speaker, and health and wellness coach specializing in teacher wellness, social-emotional learning, and creating empathetic classrooms. With over 12 years of experience as an elementary teacher and a background in general and special education, Steph now focuses on helping educators improve their health and self-care habits to show up for their students with energy, patience, and empathy. Through her Be Well to Learn brand, Steph provides coaching and professional development to support teacher wellness and foster social-emotional learning strategies in schools. She believes that when teachers prioritize their well-being and create nurturing, collaborative classroom cultures, everyone benefits—students, educators, and school communities. Drawing on her background in theater, education, and women's wellness coaching, Stephanie brings creativity, insight, and practical strategies to her work. Her mission is to inspire lasting change in education by prioritizing the well-being of those at its heart—teachers, and students. Episode Topics Why do women struggle with a harsh inner critic? Why do we become our limit when starting new habits? How can we use positive self-talk to encourage new goals? How can we overcome our people-pleasing tendencies and find value in our worth? How can we learn to celebrate the small wins to increase our confidence? How to Connect w| Steph www.bewellwithsteph.com www.bewelltolearn.com www.instagram.com/bewellwithsteph_ www.instagram.com/bewelltolearn ***December Book Club*** "The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward" by Britt Frank 1:1 GROWTH MINDSET COACHING PROGRAMS! Application Form Coaching Programs information What are the coaching sessions like? Tailored weekly discussion questions and activities to spark introspection and self-discovery. Guided reflections to help you delve deeper into your thoughts and feelings. Thoughtfully facilitated sessions designed to provide maximum support, accountability, and growth. Please apply for a FREE discovery call with me! Allie's Socials Instagram:@thegrowthmindsetgal TikTok: @growthmindsetgal Email: thegrowthmindsetgal@gmail.com Links from the episode Growth Mindset Gang Instagram Broadcast Channel Growth Mindset Gal Website Growth Mindset Gang WhatsApp Group Chat Better Help Link: Save 10% https://betterhelp.com/growthmindsetgal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Happy Mindful Monday Everyone! In this week's episode, our host Allie Brooke interviews the fantastic Mary Olsen-Menzel. Mary has over 30 years of leadership across global media, tech, healthcare, and many other industries. She is the Founder and CEO of MVP Executive Development, a national leadership, coaching, and organizational management consultancy with offices in New York, Connecticut, and Illinois. Her clients range from Fortune 500 companies to start-ups with a broad reach of industries from FinTech to Football (the NFL). As a seasoned executive leadership coach, Mary works with companies and individuals to unlock the potential that improves business performance and catalyzes growth. Her coaching methods bring a fresh lens to business and a perspective that nurtures teamwork and helps drive results through grace, empathy, and "humane leadership." Before starting her company in 2012, Mary was a partner at two leading executive search firms. She also spent a decade at Tribune Company in Chicago as the National Managing Director of Talent, where she honed her understanding and expertise in recruiting and coaching. She worked closely with 20 newspapers, 27 television stations, and hundreds of digital assets nationwide to attract and retain the best and the brightest. In her early years, Mary worked in both the tech space and media and entertainment, where she started her career as a television reporter. Her innate curiosity and ability to connect with people paved the way for her life's work: helping leaders at all levels channel what “lights them up,” guiding and inspiring them towards more fulfilling and successful personal and professional journeys. Mary earned her MBA from Northwestern University's Kellogg School of Business and a Bachelor's in Communications and Public Relations from Illinois State University. Mary lives in Westchester, NY, with her husband, kids, and their Goldendoodle, Wrigley. She is a part of Marshall Goldsmith 100 Coaches, which brings together the world's leading executive coaches, consultants, speakers, authors, iconic leaders, and entrepreneurs. Mary volunteers for various local charities as well. Episode Topics How to live an inspired life and find your passions Lessons learned a decade after breast cancer and how her perspective on life changed physically, spiritually, and emotionally Why your inner light is your superpower Finding a career that gets your "head off the pillow" each day How she turned one of her biggest "upsets" into a career pivot How your passion, your purpose, your skills, and your personality will equal your paycheck How To Connect w| Mary Official site: www.mvpexec.com Book site: www.maryolsonmenzel.com Facebook @MVPExecutiveCoaching Instagram @maryolsonmenzel LinkedIn ***December Book Club*** "The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward" by Britt Frank Gro&Flo Book Club Group Coaching Program Winter Session Waitlist 1:1 GROWTH MINDSET COACHING PROGRAMS! Application Form Tailored weekly discussion questions and activities to spark introspection and self-discovery. Guided reflections to help you delve deeper into your thoughts and feelings. Thoughtfully facilitated sessions designed to provide maximum support, accountability, and growth. Apply for a FREE discovery call with me! Allie's Socials Instagram:@thegrowthmindsetgal TikTok: @growthmindsetgal Email: thegrowthmindsetgal@gmail.com Links from the episode Growth Mindset Gang Instagram Broadcast Channel Growth Mindset Gal Website Growth Mindset Gang WhatsApp Group Chat Better Help Link: Save 10% https://betterhelp.com/growthmindsetgal 1rst Phorm Products 1rst Phorm App Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Happy Mindful Monday Everyone! In this week's episode, our host Allie Brooke interviews the fantastic Lauryn Axelrod. Lauryn is an ordained Interfaith/Interspiritual minister, chaplain, spiritual director, and teacher. A One Spirit Interfaith/Interspiritual Seminary graduate, she is also the founding Spiritual Director of Three Mountains Interspiritual Community. Lauryn writes the Substack newsletter, “Radical Spirituality: Getting to the Root of What Matters,” and leads retreats and workshops virtually and in person. Episode Topics How can individuals connect back to their spirituality to navigate today's challenging social and political environment? What role do reflection and mindfulness play in helping us become better people? How do you envision people integrating spirituality into their daily routines? What challenges do people face when trying to adopt these practices, and how can they overcome them? How To Connect w| Lauryn LaurynAxelrod.com Instagram ***December Book Club*** "The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward" by Britt Frank Gro&Flo Book Club Group Coaching Program Winter Session Waitlist 1:1 GROWTH MINDSET COACHING PROGRAMS! Application Form Tailored weekly discussion questions and activities to spark introspection and self-discovery. Guided reflections to help you delve deeper into your thoughts and feelings. Thoughtfully facilitated sessions designed to provide maximum support, accountability, and growth. Apply for a FREE discovery call with me! Allie's Socials Instagram:@thegrowthmindsetgal TikTok: @growthmindsetgal Email: thegrowthmindsetgal@gmail.com Links from the episode Growth Mindset Gang Instagram Broadcast Channel Growth Mindset Gal Website Growth Mindset Gang WhatsApp Group Chat Better Help Link: Save 10% https://betterhelp.com/growthmindsetgal 1rst Phorm Products 1rst Phorm App Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Happy Mindful Monday Everyone! In this week's episode, our host Allie Brooke Interviews the amazing Grace Redman. Grace is a charismatic entrepreneur, success coach, and best-selling author with over 25 years of experience in the competitive San Francisco Bay Area. Her journey from facing life-altering challenges to becoming a top business owner and mentor is truly inspiring: She guided her staffing firm through four economic downturns and a pandemic. She was named one of the top 5 women-owned businesses in her area in 2024. Overcame a cancer diagnosis after being told her health would decline and she would never be the same again· Navigated family addiction, raised her family, and cared for dying parents while growing her businesses. Episode Topics How can people improve their financial goals amidst the ups and downs of the economy? How can people overcome tough family dynamics/ responsibilities? How can people use their adversities as a stepping stone to achieve their goals? How can people restore faith in their capabilities? How to push through when it feels like you are carrying the world on your shoulders? How To Connect w| Grace Instagram Website ***December Book Club*** "The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward" by Britt Frank Gro&Flo Book Club Group Coaching Program Winter Session Waitlist 1:1 GROWTH MINDSET COACHING PROGRAMS! Application Form Tailored weekly discussion questions and activities to spark introspection and self-discovery. Guided reflections to help you delve deeper into your thoughts and feelings. Thoughtfully facilitated sessions designed to provide maximum support, accountability, and growth. Apply for a FREE discovery call with me! Allie's Socials Instagram:@thegrowthmindsetgal TikTok: @growthmindsetgal Email: thegrowthmindsetgal@gmail.com Links from the episode Growth Mindset Gang Instagram Broadcast Channel Growth Mindset Gal Website Growth Mindset Gang WhatsApp Group Chat Better Help Link: Save 10% https://betterhelp.com/growthmindsetgal 1rst Phorm Products 1rst Phorm App Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Happy Mindful Monday Everyone! In this week's episode, our host Allie Brooke interviews the fantastic Retha Nichole. Retha leads the firm's focus on driving discipline and accountability for clients. Under her leadership, HillRidge has grown and represents clients from all over the US. Retha's expertise includes real estate, and small business operations as well as helping small business companies figure out how to include diversity and inclusion in their business. Retha understands the levels of discipline that people work in and helps take them further with her unique accountability plans. She supports clients and their entire organization through a process that takes every perspective into account and provides a balanced approach. The authentic nature she brings to every conversation will help you uncover the most authentic version of yourself; that's what a successful business foundation is built upon. Retha has years of executive professional experience and is a sought-after speaker, trainer, and executive coach with a unique perspective on various issues and challenges facing professional women. She received her Coaching certification through the International Coaching Federation. She has served on numerous community boards and leadership roles. Retha is the mother of three boys and a major college football fan. Epsiode Topics Why do people struggle with staying consistent in their discipline? How can people become more accountable for their actions towards their goals? If people are looking into starting a small business/side hustle what are some first steps they can take? Is multitasking worth it? Or does it slow us down and distract us? How To Connect w| Retha Instagram Website ***December Book Club*** "The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward" by Britt Frank Gro&Flo Book Club Group Coaching Program Winter Session Waitlist 1:1 GROWTH MINDSET COACHING PROGRAMS! Application Form Tailored weekly discussion questions and activities to spark introspection and self-discovery. Guided reflections to help you delve deeper into your thoughts and feelings. Thoughtfully facilitated sessions designed to provide maximum support, accountability, and growth. Apply for a FREE discovery call with me! Allie's Socials Instagram:@thegrowthmindsetgal TikTok: @growthmindsetgal Email: thegrowthmindsetgal@gmail.com Links from the episode Growth Mindset Gang Instagram Broadcast Channel Growth Mindset Gal Website Growth Mindset Gang WhatsApp Group Chat Better Help Link: Save 10% https://betterhelp.com/growthmindsetgal 1rst Phorm Products 1rst Phorm App Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Recently, I was officiating a beautiful summer wedding when at the reception the Father of the Groom gave his toast to the couple and made a statement that stuck with me. He said, “Marriage won't always be easy, but it's also not that complicated. PURSUE each other every day and good things will happen.” As I sat and marinated on that statement, I began to recognize the truth in his words. When we stop pursuing and choosing one another, we allow footholds to take place in our lives and in our relationships. In other words when we begin prioritizing other things, getting distracted, or simply growing complacent - we create a recipe for losing at love. However, as my friend's dad reminded us, although it may not always be easy, with God it is always possible! Joining us today to help your life, relationships, and marriage step into that possibility is a wonderful couple who love walking alongside of the broken hearted to help them live a life of abundance, Chuck & Ashley Elliott. Chuck and Ashley are authors, speakers and content creators who have partnered with YouVersion, RightNow Media, The American Association of Christian Counselors, and an array of other national organizations. They also serve as advisory board members for the AACC's International Christian Coaching Association. Frequent speakers and popular workshop leaders, their numerous certifications in psychoeducational programs equip them to help others build relational success. My friends, no matter your relationship status, this is a conversation that will equip you to look, live, love, and lead more like Christ from the inside out! Chuck & Ashley's Website: https://www.chuckandashley.com/about-us Purchase Their Most Recent Book, I Used to Be _____: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward - https://www.amazon.com/Used-Be-___-Navigate-Forward/dp/0800742494
Join us for our Life of Purpose series this month as we revisit some of our most impactful episodes. Dive deep into expert insights and practical strategies on health, performance, and community, helping you achieve personal and professional fulfillment.In this episode of the Unmistakable Creative Podcast, we delve into a profound conversation with Britt Frank, a renowned therapist, teacher, and speaker. Britt's unique insights into the nature of trauma and anxiety provide listeners with a fresh perspective on these complex issues. She explains that trauma is not merely the result of horrific events but can stem from any experience that our brain fails to process, leading to emotional and sometimes physical symptoms.Britt also discusses the concept of 'trauma-inducing events,' which are seemingly ordinary situations that can trigger traumatic responses in those with unresolved issues. This enlightening discussion challenges conventional wisdom and encourages us to reevaluate our understanding of trauma and anxiety.Furthermore, Britt explores the intriguing concept of hidden rewards in our behaviors. She posits that all behaviors, even those we view as suboptimal, serve a functional purpose and offer hidden rewards. By acknowledging these rewards, we can begin to understand our actions better and make meaningful changes.Join us as Britt Frank shares her wealth of knowledge, empowering listeners to navigate their emotional landscapes more effectively. Whether you're a therapist, a person struggling with trauma or anxiety, or simply someone interested in personal growth, this episode is a must-listen. Subscribe for ad-free interviews and bonus episodes https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode of "Season of Stuck," host Deanna deBara welcomes Britt Frank, a licensed psychotherapist and author of "The Science of Stuck." They explore the concept of stuckness, emphasizing its physiological roots and the importance of body-oriented approaches. Britt introduces "micro yeses," small decisions that help break inertia. They discuss how stuckness manifests in various life areas and share personal experiences of overcoming it. Britt offers a three-step process for getting unstuck and highlights the importance of self-discovery and acceptance. Listen to the full episode now for insights into the science of stuck—and tips on how to start your journey to becoming unstuck!Tune in to learn about:The concept of stuckness and its impact on individualsUnderstanding stuckness as a universal human experiencePhysiological aspect of stuckness and body-oriented approachesMicro yeses as a pattern interrupt to break free from stucknessManifestation of stuckness in different areas of lifeOvercoming stuckness related to alcohol useFear of making mistakes and the concept of "micro messes"Reframing the perception of stuckness and anxietyThree-step process for getting unstuckEmbracing self-discovery and self-acceptanceThoughts from the episode:“Anxiety is not pleasant and it can cause real, real problems. But anxiety is the symptom. It says ‘There is a problem. I'm not your problem. I'm your messenger.' But we get so focused on the discomfort of the symptom, we forget the symptom is a signal.” –Britt FrankAbout Britt Frank, LSCSW, SEP Britt Frank is no stranger to stuck, but following over two decades of addiction and mental health struggles, she got herself unstuck, ultimately becoming a licensed psychotherapist and trauma specialist. She's also an educator and author. The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward is a book that offers science-backed strategies for understanding stuckness and moving forward with purpose, confidence, and the freedom to become who you're truly meant to be. Connect with Britt Frank:On the web:Science of Stuck websiteOn social media:Instagram: @brittfrankStay connected with Season of Stuck:Want more insights on how to make your journey from stuck to unstuck? Make sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts; you can catch new episodes every Tuesday.Want to make sure you never miss an episode? Visit seasonofstuck.com to get episodes delivered to your inbox. And for even more stuck-related content, make sure to follow us on Instagram @seasonofstuck****DISCLAIMER****Season of Stuck is for general information only and should not be considered health, financial, or any other type of professional advice. The views expressed by guests are their own and their appearance on Season of Stuck is not an endorsement. We do not verify the accuracy of the information that guests present. Adult language may be present. Our producer and host disclaim any liability arising out of your reliance on Season of Stuck.Please note that we may receive a commission should you choose to purchase any product or service using our website link to the products, services, and links featured on Season of Stuck and/or in related properties (including seasonofstuck.com and email communications).
Author Britt Fran, MSW, LSCSW, SEP, joins us to discuss one of her favorite books, The Artist's Way by Julie Cameron. Guest Bio Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP, is a clinician, educator, and trauma specialist. She received her B.A. from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas, where she is an award-winning adjunct professor. She is the author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. Frank speaks and writes widely about emotional wellness and healing. Previous episode: https://kristenmanieri.com/episode244/ For episode homepage, resources and links, visit: https://kristenmanieri.com/episode298 Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com Mentioned in this Episode The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron https://www.amazon.com/Artists-Way-25th-Anniversary/dp/0143129252 Guest's book: The Science of Stuck https://www.scienceofstuck.com/book Guest's website: https://www.scienceofstuck.com/ Host Bio Kristen Manieri is a coach who works with teams to increase both productivity and wellbeing. She also helps individuals navigate transition with clarity and confidence. Her areas of focus are: stress reduction, energy management, mindset, resilience, habit formation, rest rituals, and self-care. As the host of the weekly 60 Mindful Minutes podcast, an Apple top 100 social science podcast, Kristen has interviewed over 200 authors about what it means to live a more conscious, connected, intentional and joyful life. Learn more at kristenmanieri.com/work-with-me. Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com Connect with the 60 Mindful Minutes podcast Web: https://kristenmanieri.com Email: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/60MindfulMinutes Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristenmanieri_/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/kristenmanieri/
Distractions can look amazing and yet discernment and perseverance are much needed when staying focused on the "call." Dawn and Steve in the Morning share a devotional from Blackaby Ministries International about staying focused on the assignments God has given you. Also this hour, authors Chuck and Ashley Elliott talk with us about loss. They have written the book I Used to Be__: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward. Chuck and Ashley spend much of their time equipping people to build spiritual and relational success. Chuck, as a pastor, and Ashley, as a counselor, have devoted their lives to helping people fight negativity and leave a legacy. They earned master’s degrees in counseling and leadership. Chuck and Ashley live in Indiana with their three sons and enjoy spending time outside as a family.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It matters who your friends are. This episode starts with some interesting Gallup research that shows how the people you hang out with affect who you are in both good and bad ways. Source: Tom Rath author of Well Being (https://amzn.to/3EekZb7) Ever feel stuck? Most of us have, whether it's stuck in a job or a love relationship – or just a general feeling of being stuck in life. So how do you get unstuck? That's the important question I explore with Britt Frank. She is a therapist and author of the book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward (https://amzn.to/3Efv33v). Many alternative therapies are looked down upon – and sometimes, rightfully so. After all, there isn't a lot of proof they work. Still, some things that have been labeled “woo-woo” or mystical do seem to have benefits even though no one is exactly sure how they work. These include things such as visualization, massage, aroma therapy, nature, kindness and so on. Sometimes the promises made regarding the power of these therapies are overstated. Still, there may still be something to them. Here to talk about this is Dr. David Hamilton. He is a writer and speaker and author of several books including Why Woo Woo Works (https://amzn.to/3JLtBXI). It is pretty clear that people who eat fast tend to eat more. Seldom is that a good thing. There is a simple technique to help fast eaters slow down and eat less and maybe end up losing weight. Listen and I will tell you what it is. https://arstechnica.com/science/2010/12/imagine-eating-an-mm-taking/ PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! Indeed is offering SYSK listeners a $75 Sponsored Job Credit to get your jobs more visibility at https://Indeed.com/SOMETHING NerdWallet lets you compare top travel credit cards side-by-side to maximize your spending! Compare & find smarter credit cards, savings accounts, & more https://NerdWallet.com TurboTax Experts make all your moves count — filing with 100% accuracy and getting your max refund, guaranteed! See guarantee details at https://TurboTax.com/Guarantees Dell Technologies and Intel are pushing what technology can do, so great ideas can happen! Find out how to bring your ideas to life at https://Dell.com/WelcomeToNow eBay Motors has 122 million parts for your #1 ride-or-die, to make sure it stays running smoothly. Keep your ride alive at https://eBayMotors.com We love the Think Fast, Talk Smart podcast! https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/business-podcasts/think-fast-talk-smart-podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Natasha sits with Chuck & Ashley Elliott, authors of I Used To Be___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward. Chuck and Ashley uniquely combines their professional backgrounds in pastoral care and licensed counseling, respectively, to guide others through grief. Their insights offer not only practical advice but also a compassionate understanding of grief's impact on intimate relationships and personal growth.Main points:Navigating Identity and LossDiscussion of The Three A's of ChangeNavigating Intimate RelationshipsProviding a message of Hope and LegacyHelpful Links:Join the newsletter | Sign up for monthly encouragement from Natasha hereGet your copy of Can You Just Sit With Me? Get Chuck & Ashley Elliott's book I Used To Be___Connect on Socials:Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | PinterestHost & Guest(s) Natasha Smith (Host)Chuck and Ashley Elliott (Guests)Support the Podcast:Become a monthly Partner
Britt Frank, LSCSW, will share the key concepts and methods expressed in her book, The Science of Stuck, Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. Ms. Frank states that we all experience stuckness in our lives—in our relationships, careers, our bodies, addiction issues, and more. We know we need to move forward but don't know how creating a loop of self-doubt that goes nowhere. The problem has been exacerbated by the isolation and setbacks of the pandemic, resulting in burnout, dissatisfaction, and life questions. Based on clinical research, theory, and her experience as a therapist, Britt has developed an empowering and action-oriented guide to discovering why we can't think our way forward—and how to break through what's holding us back in life, in love, and in work. The Science of Stuck offers researched-backed solutions—ranging from shadow work to reparenting, embodied healing, and other clinical practices—along with empowering personal stories and tools. The Science of Stuck synthesizes and simplifies that stack of self-help books we all have on the nightstand collecting dust. The book argues that you don't need to be a mechanic to drive your car. You don't need to be a doctor to care for yourself when you have the flu. You don't need advanced training in neuroscience to get unstuck. Ultimately, Britt provides us with a hands-on road map for moving forward with purpose, confidence, and the freedom to become who we are truly meant to be.
Britt Frank, LSCSW, will share the key concepts and methods expressed in her book, The Science of Stuck, Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. Ms. Frank states that we all experience stuckness in our lives—in our relationships, careers, our bodies, addiction issues, and more. We know we need to move forward but don't know how creating a loop of self-doubt that goes nowhere. The problem has been exacerbated by the isolation and setbacks of the pandemic, resulting in burnout, dissatisfaction, and life questions. Based on clinical research, theory, and her experience as a therapist, Britt has developed an empowering and action-oriented guide to discovering why we can't think our way forward—and how to break through what's holding us back in life, in love, and in work. The Science of Stuck offers researched-backed solutions—ranging from shadow work to reparenting, embodied healing, and other clinical practices—along with empowering personal stories and tools. The Science of Stuck synthesizes and simplifies that stack of self-help books we all have on the nightstand collecting dust. The book argues that you don't need to be a mechanic to drive your car. You don't need to be a doctor to care for yourself when you have the flu. You don't need advanced training in neuroscience to get unstuck. Ultimately, Britt provides us with a hands-on road map for moving forward with purpose, confidence, and the freedom to become who we are truly meant to be.
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Maybe you used to be employed, married, or healthy. When you suffer a loss, you enter the realm of "used to be." Licensed counselor Ashley Elliott is here to help us build new thinking patterns when life doesn't turn out how we thought it would. Ashley and her husband Chuck are the authors of "I Used to Be..." In this episode, you'll learn how to navigate losses in life as we talk about: 2:19 What I used to be... 4:27 How to use “switch theory” to combat negativity 9:04 Here's how you can get back into a positive space with your spouse 11:17 Recognizing the triggers that cause negative spaces 14:08 How to get through your grief 19:00 Understanding your “anger wall” 24:55 How to help others who are grieving 28:28 How to know when to seek help with your grief Ashley Elliott and her husband Chuck have been working with couples since 2009. They are certified in eight different psycho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services. Ashley and Chuck have three boys and enjoy hiking and mountain biking. Check out Ashley & Chuck's book, I Used to Be... - How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in life and Find Your Path Forward. You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference in San Diego, CA on March 2, 2024. Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/conference More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel
I take you to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.Whether it's been one year, ten years, or 25 years since you uttered those vows, we can all agree that they have and will be tested! We all experience some kind of disappointment, loss, or pain. And even though we've vowed to walk through hard times together, grief can take a toll on our marriage, causing us to question how to communicate about the deep loss we feel, how to best support each other in grief, and even how to maintain our faith when life circumstances just don't make sense.Chuck & Ashley Elliott are popular speakers and workshop leaders, a pastor and a counselor who hold numerous psychoeducational certifications. After walking through miscarriage and grief in their own lives, they authored their new book, I Used to Be ___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward. Chuck and Ashley are here today to help us understand how grief can actually draw us closer to God and each other.In this episode, you'll hear:How everyone responds to grief differentlyThe role “Switch Theory” can play in our outlook during hard timesPractical tools for navigating grief togetherAnd so much more!We hope you find this conversation insightful and valuable in your own relationship!Show Notes: https://growinghometogether.com/chuck-ashley-elliott-84
In this episode of the Unmistakable Creative Podcast, we delve into a profound conversation with Britt Frank, a renowned therapist, teacher, and speaker. Britt's unique insights into the nature of trauma and anxiety provide listeners with a fresh perspective on these complex issues. She explains that trauma is not merely the result of horrific events but can stem from any experience that our brain fails to process, leading to emotional and sometimes physical symptoms.Britt also discusses the concept of 'trauma-inducing events,' which are seemingly ordinary situations that can trigger traumatic responses in those with unresolved issues. This enlightening discussion challenges conventional wisdom and encourages us to reevaluate our understanding of trauma and anxiety.Furthermore, Britt explores the intriguing concept of hidden rewards in our behaviors. She posits that all behaviors, even those we view as suboptimal, serve a functional purpose and offer hidden rewards. By acknowledging these rewards, we can begin to understand our actions better and make meaningful changes.Join us as Britt Frank shares her wealth of knowledge, empowering listeners to navigate their emotional landscapes more effectively. Whether you're a therapist, a person struggling with trauma or anxiety, or simply someone interested in personal growth, this episode is a must-listen. Subscribe for ad-free interviews and bonus episodes https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Finish this sentence. I used to be ___. What would you say? I used to be married? I used to be pregnant? I used to be employed? On this Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, Chuck and Ashley Elliott will talk about how to navigate the large and small losses in your life so that you can find your path forward. Don't miss the encouragement on Building Relationships with Gary Chapman. Featured resource: I Used to Be ___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path ForwardSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Chuck and Ashley Elliott join me on this episode to guide us in how we can navigate both the big and the small changes in life. Connect with Chuck and Ashley on Facebook and Instagram. Get your copy of Used to Be ___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward. Show Notes: Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Welcome, everyone. This is Dr. Sandra, and you're listening to I Choose My Best Life. Today, we're going to talk about how you navigate the large and the small losses in life and get back on track to moving forward. I have with me today Chuck and Ashley Elliott, and they are going to help us to navigate this process of when we used to be something, and now we're looking for what happens next. So, Chuck and Ashley, thank you so much for joining me. I want to start by just diving a little bit into why you think you needed to write a book on this topic. On what we used to be. Ashley Elliott: Our identity is often affected whenever we face loss. So, one of the things that I noticed whenever we went through recurrent miscarriages, it didn't just affect me in our marriage or intimacy. It affected me at work. It affected my ability to think and to listen to people. I was a university professor at the time, and I just have a harder time bearing the burdens of my students, and I would just have a little bit of a lower frustration tolerance. And so I found that I just felt like I was off my game. And then I felt this way with my kids. I'm like, I have two boys who are amazing. And I'm finding myself just feeling overwhelmed with things that I normally didn't. And so I noticed an identity shift in me and I felt. Inadequate in my body to be able to protect myself, really protect my baby. And so there's just so many things that I noticed in myself. I also noticed in counseling clients and students and people in our ministry realm that they felt similarly the different types of losses that they faced. Chuck Elliott: Yeah, because we find so much value in our identity and our titles. If I say that I'm I'm a banker, I'm a pastor, I'm a teacher, whatever that is. That's how you introduce yourself, right? You say, yeah, I'll tell you about yourself. I'll start off and tell you about what are my roles. What are the titles? How do I fill in the blank? And then whenever you lose that, you can wonder, how do I fill in the blank now? Who am I? Because you took away the thing that I used as an identifier. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: I love that. And I love this I think because it goes so much further than typical losses that we think about. You mentioned miscarriage, death, and grief; there are so many different variations of loss that we experience. And sometimes the loss of seasons and roles and titles and identifiers as you mentioned, are not deemed to be as relevant. Because they're not a death or something that is, that's more hard-hitting than we often think. I'd like for you to dive a little bit deeper into that because I think for many of us, when we think about grief, we only think about grieving people. Why is it also important to grieve the other losses in our lives? Chuck Elliott: Yeah, absolutely. You can lose a relationship, and it impacts your life. Something we talk about in the book is we had some neighbors who lived right across the street from us, and they moved. Now, that may sound dramatic because I'm making it a big deal, but they didn't even meet and move across the country. They moved across town, but you know what? That impacts me because when they come home, I don't get to see them now. Our kids played together. I could wave when they check their mail. I could stalk them and know when Amazon or Walmart or somebody delivered something at their house, and I could ask questions and ask what was for dinner. Just all those little things that I can selfishly think impact my life. Now, that changes my routine. Am I going to grieve that the same way that I would the death of a family member? No, it's something different. We grieve differently. But if I discount that change in my life, If I discount how things have shifted and I've lost some of that part of my routine, then if I just skip over it, I might be closed off to another relationship. What if I don't grieve it and don't say, you know what? I really miss having those people across the street, and then somebody else moves in that could be really good friends, and I don't even give them a chance. Because I'm hurt and I'm carrying what it is that I used to have and that's one of the less typical things that we give an example of in the book. So if we can stay current with our emotions and be self-aware that we need to process something, then we can be stronger in other relationships. Ashley Elliott: as well. And one of the things you said was that it's different to have the small loss versus big loss, but we did try to pave a path for larger or small losses. So you can say I'm grieving blank. You're like, wait, grieving. I'm grieving the fact that my neighbors moved. Yes, it is something to be grieved. It's a bummer. It's not maybe at the same level as whenever we lost a child. But it does affect us and makes us feel unsteady in our friendships. And we wonder if the relationship is going to last. And so when we say I'm grieving blank and we look at how we're coping Oh, am I coping in a positive way? Or am I coping in a negative way? Am I putting up my walls and refusing to connect with other people and allow the new neighbors to be our friends? Okay, then, that's a negative coping mechanism. And so when we learn, however we grieve, if it's a big loss or a little loss, We're going to use positive and negative coping mechanisms. We're going to do certain behaviors, and we want to learn about those patterns because if we bring God into those places, he will help give us insight. He will help us meet our needs in healthier ways. And when we talk to each other, and we process, we can heal and find hope that maybe would be missed if we didn't take the time to Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: reflect. Yes, absolutely. And I think it's important to be aware of those emotions, not necessarily judging them, because I think sometimes that prevents us from actually experiencing them. But as you mentioned, being aware of them and identifying when they're healthy and when they're not healthy. And one of the more unhealthy emotions that we sometimes will begin to exhibit when there's loss is anger. And you mentioned that anger can create an anger wall. Ashley Elliott: Describe that for us. Okay, behind all of our emotions are sometimes more emotions, but we especially see this happen with anger. So if you imagine a wall that's built with anger and you remove a brick from that wall, what would be beneath that anger brick? Maybe there is Vulnerability or jealousy or inadequacy or fear, anxiety, sadness, or any type of emotion could be there. Oftentimes, anger makes us feel powerful. We don't want to feel weak. We don't want to feel vulnerable or lonely or sad. It's easier to feel angry because we feel justified. And so when we understand It might be easier to lean into anger and to feel some momentary strength there than it is to look at those underneath emotions. But when we do look at what's beneath our anger wall, we can find hope and resilience and Chuck Elliott: strength. I can tell you that when we faced recurrent miscarriages, I was angry. And if I would take out one of those bricks and that anger wall for me, I felt weak. I felt inadequate. I felt like a failure because I couldn't protect my family. I couldn't protect this little one that we lost that I never got to meet. And it was a lot easier just to be angry. To be mad about the process, to be mad about the way this happens, mad that nobody talks about it, mad about the way that I'm feeling. But if I really got underneath it, I didn't want to feel like a failure. I didn't want to feel weak. I didn't want to think that I was weak in a failure. So, if I just seemed strong by putting anger out there, I could mask that. But what happens is if you continue to do that, there are other negative consequences of your anger, and there are other negative consequences of not recognizing and communicating to Ashley that I felt like a failure. I felt weak. I felt inadequate. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Now you two come from two different backgrounds as a way of approaching grief, Ashley being a licensed counselor and Chuck being a pastor. I love the combination of the two because I feel like it gives a very thorough look. How do we overcome and how do we heal? And you both have mentioned your miscarriage. So, I want to dive a little bit into that. How did you? Get back to a place of trusting God in the middle of that pain. Cause I feel like that is the hard thing for most of us. You love God, you're saved. You believe in Jesus, all the things, hard stuff happens. How do you hold to the trust and the things that you believe? Ashley Elliott: Such a good point that you have. We are still believers, but we are just shaken sometimes in those moments of loss. And we definitely experienced that now for me. During our first loss, we worshipped in the ER, and I remember just saying, Lord, I want to worship you. This is really hard. This is sad. And then we had another loss the next year, and I just felt so devastated. I took a year to try to heal and try to process and do research and then. I felt shattered, and I remember starting to feel like there was a distance between me and God. I felt like God was quieter than normal. We continued to do ministry. I sang at the church. He was on staff. I did a lot of volunteer-type of things. And so I continued to serve, but I just felt disappointed with the silence that I felt. And I think over time that built when we had a third miscarriage, I just felt like God was so silent. And I would get a little frustrated. I'm like, God, I didn't turn my back on you. I am following you. I'm not shaking my fist, but you're so silent. Like I need you. And your Bible tells us that I can draw near and you will draw near to me. Like, why are you not making yourself evident? And I just dug into the scripture more, and I found David felt similarly he says in the Psalms like God, where are you? Why have you forsaken me? But yet I will praise you a little farther down the Psalms. He says this over and over again as he pours out his heart. His disappointment is his frustration, but he also says, Lord, I'm going to still praise you. And I want to be like that. And I wanted that in that moment. And so I prayed those verses over me. I said, Lord, help me to live like David. And then I looked at other verses, and I saw Job. It's ah, he had these terrible things. And we can see behind the scenes, we can see the enemy was attacking him. It wasn't God. Sometimes it feels like it's God. And sometimes people will say some spiritual answers or comments, and it will make us feel like God's doing this terrible thing to us to teach us a lesson or because of a sin or whatever. But knowing that, I could see in the story of Job that he Loved God. He was faithful to God, and he still felt silence. He still felt uncertainty. And yet, I want to be like him. I didn't want to be like his wife. He said, why don't you curse God and die? I want to be like Job when I read that story. And so I continue to want to endure. And so I would wrestle with different verses and say, Lord, I want to be like you, even though I'm struggling. I want to be close to you, even though I don't feel you. And there's another verse in Job that Encourages me so much. It says God speaks in one way, and in another, no man does not perceive it. And so I held on to that. I'm like, Lord, maybe you're speaking to me. Maybe you're more near than I feel. And I'm just holding on to this truth, even in the darkness, even in the silence. And I do feel like over time it lifted. And even this morning, like we had a time of prayer I really felt a connection to God. And so I know that God is real. But I also know that in my grief, I've had more questioning than at other times. And I just want to acknowledge that sometimes it's hard. I think that's a more normal part of our walk with God. And I think just telling people about that can be a good thing because it's comforting for me to hear from other people when they face those struggles. Chuck Elliott: too. That's a really good point because sometimes, in Christianity, in the church, people will think that it is not spiritual to grieve. If I'm really spiritual I'm really loving God, and I'm passionate, I'm on fire. If you use that terminology for the Lord, then that means that I don't experience pain and I'm happy, and things are going in my direction, and I feel blessed, and I don't feel the anxiety and all of those things. I don't see that in the Bible. I see people lamenting. I see people longing to be with the Lord, and they still feel distant. I see people going through really hard times. I see the disciples after Jesus died on the cross going through difficult times, even though they have joy in the Lord. They still have persecution. They still have difficult things that they're going through, but ultimately, their foundation is in their relationship with God. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Amen. Amen. I want to really speak to that person who's at that place because I feel like a lot of people have gone through a lot of losses over the past couple of years. Amen. Starting with 2020 and beyond, there seems to have been just this season of hard that has hit a lot of lives in many different areas. And one of the things you talk about is the lies that grief tells us the lies that it tries to get us to believe. And one of those lies that I'm seeing a lot is this lie of hopelessness. Like it's the end, like there, there's nothing after this. It's just over. How can we over? What are some other common lies you've seen and how do we overcome those with God's word? Chuck Elliott: I think that's a great example of what you said you've seen with the people that you work with. People feel hopeless. That's a really good example. One of the other ones that we talk about is grief, lies, and telling us that we're alone. Tells us that nobody else wants to see us. Nobody else has experienced anything like us, that we should suffer by ourselves, not talk to anybody. And even if we did talk to somebody, nobody would care. And that is a lie. It's 100 percent a lie. People want to be with you. People want to talk to you. People want to be all on this journey with you. But sometimes we don't know how to let people in. And even when we try to let people in, it can be difficult. It can be awkward because unfortunately, we don't talk about grief and loss very much. And when you bring people into a relationship and a community around those times, it can be a little bit difficult. But that doesn't mean that you're alone. And that's one of the big lies that we've really seen. Ashley Elliott: And one of the things that you shared is the hopelessness. We tend to feel hopeless when we get stuck in a negative space. Now, in all relationships, we go back and forth between being in a positive space and a negative space. And you can think about it easily to jump in with a positive-negative space. It's like a positive or a negative mood, but it's much deeper than that. We have our positive thoughts, feelings, and behavior whenever we're in a hopeful state. And whenever we start to feel a sense of despair, that hopelessness starts to creep in negative emotions and anxiety. And we doubt God's word. We doubt ourselves and. This ends up affecting our values and our belief system. And so I believe that when people start to bring God into their negative spaces, they start to call on the holy God who can bring hope in the darkness. And there's a verse that says we are overcomers by the word of our testimony. That testimony does not happen alone. It happens in the community. The devil is a Christian relationship destroyer. He wants us to suffer alone. And when we call on God, when we fight the enemy in the community, God works and does wonders and miracles. But again, it's hard when we feel alone; it's hard whenever we're suffering, and we don't always see that. So for us, it's been helpful to say. I'm in a negative space. This isn't how I feel when I'm in a positive space. So I've got to get in God's word. I've got to get in the community. Even when I feel resistance, I acknowledge that resistance is a natural process, a human process that comes to try to make us feel more alone. And so this is, these are some of the lies that happen. But again, God's word can give us that hope and encouragement. Chuck Elliott: I really like that you said hope because oftentimes we wait until we feel hopeful and then we want to talk about Jesus. I'm in a good mood. Things are going right. All right, I can bring God into it now. But when I feel hopeless, and I feel blind, and I feel like I don't have any idea what I'm supposed to be doing next, God doesn't want anything to do with this now. That is a lie. God wants to be in the middle of your hopelessness. He wants to be in the middle of your depression, the middle of your anxiety, the middle of your confusion, the middle of your temptation, the middle of your sin, and the middle of your mess. He wants to be right in the middle of every single one of those things. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: A man. And I love that you also brought in the whole community aspect of it, the need for other people. I think sometimes when we're hurting, we almost feel like the leper is I don't want to get my hurt on you. So, we avoid other people because we fear we're going to bring them down or we don't want to burden other people with our pain. But I get, I have to tell you during some of the hardest times of my journey with God. The closest friends that I have right now are those people who didn't try to fix me. They didn't try to work me to death. I love the word of God, but when I'm hurting, I sometimes am not receptive to certain things. They just sat with me in the pain. And I had one friend who just a couple of years ago, my dad passed very unexpectedly. And she literally, she's in Canada. She's millions of miles away from me. I'm in the Southeast. She sat on a Zoom with me, and we wept together. And I can't tell you the healing that brought to my soul and the way it bonded our relationship because she wasn't trying to fix me. She just wanted to be present with me. So, I love that you brought those two components together there. Chuck Elliott: I hope your audience heard what you just played through like she didn't fix you. She didn't try to fix you. She didn't word you. I like that. You use that as an action thing. She didn't worry you and beat you up with it, right? And she sat with you. She sat with even over Zoom. And it was okay to be there and to cry, and you know what? She didn't have to fix it, and you didn't expect her to fix it. I think that's a really good prescription for the people who are listening to that pattern. You don't have to have the right scripture in the right moment and the right thing to say in the right comfort and bring over the right casserole at the right time. You need to be there. Ashley Elliott: You just show up. And I think the phrase word you think people word you, I think people want to be spiritual. They want to bring some sort of hope. And so we'll write on the card, the Lord is near to the brokenhearted. I have done this, and I still do this, right? But I'm like, Hey, I didn't feel God's nearness, and I held onto it. So, even if this verse hurts a little bit, I just want to remind you that he is near even if he doesn't feel it. And I think sometimes. It's hard. We just want to have something spiritual to say. And our spiritual words can feel sting like they can feel painful whenever we are hurting, and knowing that we don't want to use God's word as a weapon against our loved ones. We want to use it as a healing bomb to help them. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Amen. Amen. I love that. I also want to mention something called switch therapy. What is that? And how can that help us in this process of navigating Ashley Elliott: losses? Yeah. I'm glad that you used the word because we did talk a little bit about it, but it is that positive and negative space. So, we use that back and forth between the positive and negative space. We call it switch theory because we go back and forth between this positive and negative space. And again, in our positive space, we feel hopeful, and we have positive thoughts, feelings, and aspirations, and our behavior is more positive. Chuck Elliott: The negative, you have negative thoughts, feelings, and behavior, and you're less hopeful. So you have those two ends. Of what it is that you're dealing with. Ashley Elliott: Yeah, so it's normal to go back and forth. Sometimes, we can go back and forth in a positive or negative space with each other. We can collectively get in a negative space with our kids. We can be in a positive or negative space with God with our co-workers. And especially when we start to feel like we get stuck in a negative space with everyone, that's whenever depression really grows. And if we begin to feel anxious in one area of our life, it can push us into a negative space and other areas. And so where we typically do the most of our counseling and coaching and pastoral work is whenever people are stuck in this negative space. And so we believe God can help us make a manual reset in that. First thing that we don't do typically as humans. We don't always bring God into it. We're a little bit like Adam and Eve in the garden. When they sinned, they went and hid. We can do the same thing. And we want to bring God into that negative space so that we can find the healing that we need. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: We've been chatting with Chuck and Ashley Elliott. They are the co-authors of I Used to Be Fill in the Blank, How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life, and Find Your Path Forward. I want to give you each an opportunity to just share some final thoughts to that person who's listening right now. And I don't know if they're going through the loss of a relationship, a loss of, as you mentioned, like a miscarriage or a job or a title, whatever their loss may be, they're at that place where they are just questioning. How to move forward. What would you say to them? Chuck Elliott: Yes, absolutely. God wants to be in the middle of it. He wants to be in the middle of your pain, in the middle of your anger, even your anger towards him. He can handle it. He can handle those feelings, those emotions, the things that you feel like are filthy and nasty, and those thoughts and stuff that you're not proud of. And you're even ashamed of it. He wants to be in the middle of it. And we also tell people that you're not just doing this work for you. You're doing this work for your family, for your loved ones. When you do the work to process your grief and your loss, whether it be large or small, you're leaving a legacy. You're being available for your kids, for your spouse, for your co-workers, for the people who are looking to you for support. You can be emotionally present. You can be the leader that you need to be. You can be the coach that you need to be. You can be that when you take some of those steps to process. Ashley Elliott: maybe you've been prompted in one area. Maybe it's the anger with God, or there's some sort of loss that maybe you're pricked by, but pick one thing that you're going to do. Sometimes, we can think, Oh, I've got to do all of the things. But if you pick one thing, maybe I'm going to open my Bible today, and I haven't opened it in a very long time. Or maybe I'm going to get together with a friend and open up about how I feel, or I'm going to get a book. Go to church or whatever it is that you're going to do. Start counseling, coaching, and do something, but pick one thing that's small enough that you think you actually can do it this week. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Excellent. I want to make sure they know how to connect with you and to purchase a copy of I used to be _. Where can they do that? Chuck Elliott: Absolutely. You can connect with us at chuckandashley. com. You can find links to all of our social media accounts there, and the book is sold everywhere books are sold. Also the audio book. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Excellent. I'll, we will link to that in the show notes to your website, as well as to a direct link to the book. I want to thank you both so much for joining me. Thank you. Until next time, everyone live fully, love boldly, and rest intentionally. I Choose My Best Life Podcast is one of the Top 20 Christian Women Podcasts I Choose My Best Life Books: Colorful Connections, Sacred Rest, Come Empty, Set Free to Live Free Connect with Saundra: Twitter: @DrDaltonSmith Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drdaltonsmith Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrSaundraDaltonSmith
When you suffer a loss, you enter the realm of "used to be." And in that used-to-be space, you can feel stuck. Grief naturally follows loss, but we do not have to be stuck in negative spaces forever. Wednesday on Mornings with Eric and Brigitte, Chuck & Ashley Elliott light the path to a better future and show you how you can have hope, joy, and stability in your life again in their new book, "I used to be ____". They offer coping strategies for when moving forward seems impossible and will guide you toward building new thinking patterns that will result in healing and growth.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Episode Summary: Grief and loss are hard. When we suffer loss, we enter the realm of “used to be.” We used to be married. Used to be employed. Used to be pregnant, secure, healthy, sober, or thin. We used to be a son or daughter, a brother or a sister, a mother or father, a wife or a husband. And in that used-to-be space there is deep emptiness, loneliness, and sorrow. It's a place they dwell for a while. But it's not a place we are meant to remain. Maybe you “used to be” something—but there is a future waiting when you “will be” once more. Join me on Thursday's podcast with Chuck and Ashley Elliott as we talk about how to cope with loss. Quotables from the episode: "He [God] has given us His Word, and we can hold on to what it says, even when our emotions or our reality screams that God is absent. " "We cannot completely control our world, but we can change our behavior. It's amazing how much our behavior positively or negatively affects everything around us, especially our perception of the world." “Where I am in my story is only temporary.” “In God's silence, I grew in seeing God's faithfulness.” “Faith is holding on when you want to give up.” “Grief lies to us and tells us that we are alone, that we need to isolate, and even that God is disappointed in us.” “Spiritual Dissonance is when you believe God is good, but then when something bad happens we wonder if he is good. “Anger is a common response in grief, because grief feels like your power has been stripped away, and anger makes us feel strong and powerful again.” “Underneath anger are often fear, loneliness, despair, and jealousy.” "Sometimes it feels easier to change our beliefs about God rather than do the emotional, spiritual, and physical work necessary to explore the dissonance." "Grieving people need connection, especially to Jesus. And Jesus stood in our place and is now allowing us to stand in His place, representing Him to those who are hurting." "Give yourself permission to grieve, even at work." “We can thrive after loss, building mental stability. It's normal to feel abnormal after loss! It's what we do next that determines whether or not we leave a legacy!” “A relationship with God is more fulfilling than anything we lost.” Scripture References: Psalm 84:6 (NLT) says, “When they walk through the Valley of Weeping, it will become a place of refreshing springs.” Psalm 84:6 (NLT) says, “When they walk through the Valley of Weeping, it will become a place of refreshing springs.” Recommended Resources: I Used to be___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward by Chuck and Ashley Elliott The Hem of His Garment: Reaching Out to God When Pain Overwhelms by Dr. Michelle Bengtson YouVersion 5-Day Devotional Reaching Out To God When Pain Overwhelms Today is Going to be a Good Day: 90 Promises to Start Your Day Off Right by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the AWSA 2023 Inspirational Gift Book of the Year Award, the Christian Literary Awards Reader's Choice Award in four categories, and the Christian Literary Awards Henri Award for Devotionals YouVersion 7-Day Devotional, Today is Going to be a Good Day YouVersion 7-Day Devotional, Today is Going to be Another Good Day Breaking Anxiety's Grip: How to Reclaim the Peace God Promises by Dr. Michelle Bengtson Breaking Anxiety's Grip Free Study Guide Free 7-Day YouVersion Bible Reading Plan for Breaking Anxiety's Grip Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor's Personal Journey Through Depression by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader's Choice Award Hope Prevails Bible Study by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader's Choice Award Trusting God Through Cancer 1 Trusting God Through Cancer 2 Revive & Thrive Women's Conference Subdue Stress and Anxiety: Fifteen Experts Offer Comprehensive Tools in Ten Minutes a Day. Use my link plus discount code BENG99 to save $90 on course (course will be $99.) Free Download: How To Fight Fearful/Anxious Thoughts and Win Social Media Links for Guest and Host: Connect with Chuck and Ashley Elliott: Website / Facebook / Instagram For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at: Order Book Breaking Anxiety's Grip / Order Book Hope Prevails / Website / Blog / Facebook / Twitter (@DrMBengtson) / LinkedIn / Instagram / Pinterest / YouTube Guest: Chuck and Ashley Elliott are authors of the book I Used to be ____ and spend much of their time equipping people to build spiritual and relational success. Chuck, as a pastor, and Ashley, as a counselor, have devoted their lives to help people fight negativity and leave a legacy. They earned master's degrees in counseling, education, and organizational leadership. Chuck and Ashley live in Indiana with their three sons and enjoy spending time outside as a family. Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson
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EPISODE 21: Do you feel like you're trapped in a loop? Yelling at your kids, fighting with your spouse, and struggling to breathe under the overwhelming weight of daily chaos? Constantly wondering, "Why am I like this?" or "Am I broken?"Trust me, we've all been there. We get trapped in these ruts of doubt, self-blame, shame, and not-enoughness, not only in parenting but in many other parts of our lives.But I have good news. It's not because you're lazy or not trying hard enough. And there's nothing wrong with you. How can I be so sure? Well, I have a science-backed confirmation from today's incredibly special guest: Britt Frank, author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. (Her book is a beacon for all of us who've felt paralyzed in any aspect of our lives.)She's not just a licensed psychotherapist and trauma expert - she's lived through the struggles herself. Joking that she's “just a recovering disaster of a human being” with a long list of DSM diagnoses, she shares that she's overcome drug addiction, eating disorders, childhood trauma, and other personal traumas. Britt has been on both sides of the couch, and she definitely gets how it feels like to be a hot mess sometimes. And in this episode, she'll be talking about the science behind why we get stuck and how to break free.So, if you need a change, a fresh perspective, or an explanation for why you're stuck in procrastination, anxiety, self-doubt, ruminating thoughts, and more, tune in. I promise, by the end of our chat, you'll love Britt just as much as I do.Join us!Key Takeaways:Intro (00:00)Who is Britt Frank? (01:32)Why Britt wrote The Science of Stuck (03:21)Anxiety is not an attack but a signal (05:59)The benefits of staying stuck (12:44)Nothing is wrong with you (16:27)Britt's message for parents who are stuck? (18:48)Where can you find Britt Frank (24:33)Additional resources:
When a person suffers a loss, they enter the realm of “used to be.” They used to be married. They used to be employed. They used to be pregnant. They used to be sons, daughters, mothers, or fathers. There can be deep loneliness, sadness, and grief in that “used to be” space. This can be a space where it is necessary to dwell for a while, but it is not a space we are meant to remain.My guests today are Chuck and Ashley Elliott. Chuck is a pastor, and Ashley is a licensed counselor, and together they have written a book, I Used to Be ___: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward, which they wrote after experiencing recurring miscarriages and broken trust. They also offer consulting services for businesses and Christian life coaching together.In this conversation, you'll hear:The losses we can grieve other than a deathHow grief can lie about our faithWhat it looks like to move out of a negative head spaceAnd much more!Loss is a part of life that we can't avoid this side of Heaven, and I greatly appreciated this opportunity to talk with Chuck and AshleyShow Notes: https://jillsavage.org/chuck-ashley-elliott-160/
CHUCK and ASHLEY ELLIOTT, from Evansville, Indiana, joined us to discuss relationships, marriages, her work with the Auxilium Psychological Services, Chuck's mission in serving as a pastor, and their newest release, "I Used to Be: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward". FROM THEIR WEBSITE: "Chuck and Ashley Elliott have been working with couples since 2009. As marriage educators for Community Marriage Builders, they gained experience developing and leading small and large workshops. The Elliott's are certified in eight different Pscyho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Chuck and Ashley have developed and taught multiple marriage programs over the years and love to speak about the topic of relationships. Chuck is also a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, IN. Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services. Additionally, she oversaw the Psychology and Addictions Counseling Program at Oakland City University for 11 years. During that time, Ashley developed over 17 Psychology courses, conducted original research with students in her classroom, and created a Communication Theory that she and Chuck have presented at universities and businesses across the United States. Chuck and Ashley have three boys and enjoy hiking, mountain biking, and far too infrequent family dance parties! www.chuckandashley.com
CHUCK and ASHLEY ELLIOTT, from Evansville, Indiana, joined us to discuss relationships, marriages, her work with the Auxilium Psychological Services, Chuck's mission in serving as a pastor, and their newest release, "I Used to Be: How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward". FROM THEIR WEBSITE: "Chuck and Ashley Elliott have been working with couples since 2009. As marriage educators for Community Marriage Builders, they gained experience developing and leading small and large workshops. The Elliott's are certified in eight different Pscyho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Chuck and Ashley have developed and taught multiple marriage programs over the years and love to speak about the topic of relationships. Chuck is also a pastor at Bethel Church in Evansville, IN. Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services. Additionally, she oversaw the Psychology and Addictions Counseling Program at Oakland City University for 11 years. During that time, Ashley developed over 17 Psychology courses, conducted original research with students in her classroom, and created a Communication Theory that she and Chuck have presented at universities and businesses across the United States. Chuck and Ashley have three boys and enjoy hiking, mountain biking, and far too infrequent family dance parties! www.chuckandashley.com
This is my wrap up on this series on anxiety, though running parallel with it was the topic of trauma. My muse and resident expert was Britt Frank, a survivor of much trauma and trial. Britt is a renowned therapist and author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. She turns our perspective on anxiety upside down, and gives us a fresh look at what trauma is and how to come to a reckoning with it. In episode three I brought on past guest, Britt's friend and associate, and one of New York City's most in demand relationship therapists, Vienna Pharaon, author of The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. From both of these experts I've come away with 9 points on anxiety, and 9 points on trauma, that I'm now holding and working to learn and engage with in my own life. I'll share them with you now. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker's new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you're looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Noom's changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We are looking at trauma not necessarily at the tragic level, but defined as, “a lasting, negative, and limiting emotional response that often results from living through a distressing event.” To this degree, nobody is immune. This is my series on anxiety. I had brought Britt Frank in as my expert and we talked through the message in her book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. This is part three in the series where I bring in a peer to discuss the topic, and I have with me Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is one of New York City's most sought after relationship therapists, she has over 700k followers on Instagram, and I did a series with her around the message in her book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. Vienna is who recommended Britt to me. In this discussion, actually near the latter part, I ask Vienna about giving gravity to the trauma's in our life and she actually corrects me and says we want to acknowledge them, but not give to much weight to them and distort them. The mic drop happens when she says, ““When we acknowledge something, we fear it gives power to IT, when instead, it gives power to US.” Acknowledge, don't distort. This was incredibly insightful. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker's new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you're looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom's changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I was lucky enough to stumble upon Britt's work on Instagram and I'm so glad I did because after I devoured her book (The Science of Stuck, Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward) in a day, I asked her to be on the show! We've all felt stuck at one time or another and it can leave us asking disempowering questions like “what's wrong with me” or “why can't I do what I need to do” that leave us more stuck and anxious than we already were! In this episode, Britt (a licensed neuropsychotherapist) helps us ask the right questions to produce forward progress, get moving with “micro-yeses” and to honor and understand ourselves better - turns out we may be stuck because somehow we feel it's the safe place to be. I shared my story of being super stuck about a year ago and how I fell precisely into this trap of doing a lot of the wrong things to get unstuck and how I'm using these tools to keep moving forward. Learn more about Britt Frank and her book here. Are you dealing with all that comes with perimenopause and need a little help? Be sure to email me about joining my amazing perimenopause coaching group: the PeriParty! We're tackling this dicey time with the right information, exercise and nutrition - and having a lot of fun in the process! Just reach out for more info. To work with Dr Brooke click here and if you loved this episode please leave a review! Follow Dr Brooke on Instagram and get signed up for my awesome emails here. Seriously,I write really great emails, or so 1000s of women tell me and I'd like to send you one too. Be sure you connect with me in my FREE PRIVATE Facebook group: Hormones & Happiness with Dr Brooke where other amazing, like minded women like YOU are already hanging out! Join us! Want skincare that is natural yet actually works? Look no further than Purity Woods! Their Age Defying Dream Cream is just that: a dream. It's light enough that it won't clog pores and has a variety of collagen and elastin supporting nutrients that are also anti-inflammatory, such as maple leaf extract. Finally a light, yet rich anti-aging cream that is also non-toxic, free of hormone disrupting chemicals. Finding natural beauty product that will still provide results hasn't always been easy, luckily we finally have high quality, effective and clean beauty like the products from Purity Woods. Get 10% off your order with this link! This episode is also sponsored by Shuteye Chai from Ned. It's a mix of their Mellö superblend of magnesium combined with adaptogens, aminos, functional mushrooms like chaga and reishi - seriously the best ingredients out there – wrapped in a heavenly masala chai-inspired spiced body. Think cinnamon, clove, ginger–all that good stuff! It's fantastic for sleep and for recovery. It's crafted from the highest grade single origin ingredients, ethically sourced from some of the world's best small-scale farms. Save 15% on your first order with code BETTEREVERYDAY at checkout.
Britt Frank joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about "stuckness" in all its forms. We're all familiar with this feeling in some way or another, and in this episode, Britt offers listeners tools and takeaways to confront stuckness head on, so that we can face ourselves with honesty and learn the skills to carve healthier paths for ourselves in the future.The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward by Britt Frank:https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-science-of-stuck-breaking-through-inertia-to-find-your-path-forward-britt-frank/17210414?ean=9780593419441Get the brand new REIMAGINING LOVE WORKBOOK:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/reimagining-love-workbook-0c34cba5-a457-4253-b7d7-9ca051dc0326Subscribe to Dr. Solomon's Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Solomon's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
So many of us go through a period of feeling completely stuck. But as we'll learn from today's guest, it's not because we're lazy, crazy, or unmotivated. We're missing a clear pathway to get back on course. In her new book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward, Britt Frank offers a research-backed road map for moving forward with purpose, confidence, and freedom Guest Bio Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP, is a clinician, educator, and trauma specialist. She received her B.A. from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas, where she is an award-winning adjunct professor. Frank speaks and writes widely about emotional wellness and healing. For episode homepage, resources and links, visit: https://kristenmanieri.com/episode244 Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com Mentioned in this Episode The Science of Stuck Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward https://www.amazon.com/Science-Stuck-Breaking-Through-Inertia/dp/0593419448 Guest's website: https://www.scienceofstuck.com/ Host Bio Kristen Manieri is a coach who works with teams to increase both productivity and wellbeing. She also helps individuals navigate transition with clarity and confidence. Her areas of focus are: stress reduction, energy management, mindset, resilience, habit formation, rest rituals, and self-care. As the host of the weekly 60 Mindful Minutes podcast, an Apple top 100 social science podcast, Kristen has interviewed over 200 authors about what it means to live a more conscious, connected, intentional and joyful life. Learn more at kristenmanieri.com/work-with-me. Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com Connect with the 60 Mindful Minutes podcast Web: https://kristenmanieri.com Email: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com
This week on The Next Big Idea Daily: psychotherapist Britt Frank shares five key insights from her book "The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward." Today, Britt explains why you should treat anxiety like a check engine light. • Download the Next Big Idea app to hear hundreds of audio summaries of the best new books
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It's a new month and that means a new series! Today we're stepping into April and focusing on Leveling Up. So stay tuned for conversations about getting unstuck, motivating yourself out of a rut, and busting through plateaus.In this episode, I share my first big experience getting out of a rut with my 25 by 25 list. Spoiler, I didn't reach all 25 goals, but it DID help me learn what I'm capable of and just how much life can change in a pretty short amount of time.I also talk about…How being stuck could just be misalignmentThe time I needed a hobby, but got a boyfriend insteadThe beautiful moment when you realize you have choicesThe empowering boost of making smart financial decisionsHow reaching the goals on my list wasn't even the best outcome of the listHow the seeds you plant now are what help you get unstuck tomorrowResources:The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward by Britt FrankSubscribe to Balanced Black Girl on YouTubeSponsors:ZocDoc | Zocdoc | Find and book a top-rated doctor in your area today with Zocdoc. Visit zocdoc.com/balanced to download the app for free.Alo Moves | Reach your fitness and wellness goals with Alo Moves. Visit alomoves.com and use the code BALANCED for a free 30-day trial and 50% off an annual membership.LMNT | LMNT is a tasty electrolyte drink mix with everything you need and nothing you don't. Right now LMNT is offering my listeners a free sample pack with any purchase. Get yours at drinklmnt.com/balancedles.BiOptimizers | Magnesium Breakthrough by BiOptimizers has the seven types of magnesium your body needs. Get 10% off your order at magbreakthrough.com/balanced.Keep in touch with Balanced Black Girl:Visit our website at balancedblackgirl.comJoin Club Balanced, our community on GenevaSubscribe to our newsletter, Mirror NotesFollow on IG: @balancedblackgirlpodcast @balancedlesFollow on TikTok @balancedblackgirl @balancedlesSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/balanced-black-girl/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/balanced-black-girl/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Hear how to rethink your life to find what really makes you happy Today's guest is Julia Wolfendale, executive coach and director at On The Up Consulting. Julia is from the UK and has developed an exciting and valuable approach to helping people find happiness, success and fulfillment. Her book is entitled Five Ways to Focus and we discuss it as a starting point to help people better understand themselves. Julia has a master's in leadership and has trained and coached hundreds of leaders on understanding themselves and improving their daily lives. You are going to find our discussion itself very interesting. Do please tune in! Watch and listen to our conversation here The five ways to focus These are significant to understand, and they follow other research which we use at SAMC to help our clients understand why focus is essential to their success. The five forces are freedom, money, recognition, fellowship and fulfillment. As you listen to Julia, you're going to ask yourself, Am I the person I would like to be? Or do I need to take stock of where I am and consider where I'm going? At Simon Associates, we have developed a program that's entirely complementary to Julia's approach. Take a look at it at www.rethinkwithandisimon.com. It's all about trying to discover how can we change our story to find the kind of person that we want to be? And so much of this has to do with how the mind works to keep you comfortable and confident that where you are now is the best place for you. To connect with Julia, you'll find her on LinkedIn, Twitter and her website On The Up Consulting, or email her: julia@ontheupconsulting.com. Ready to examine what really motivates you and makes you happy? Start here: Blog: You Can Find Joy And Happiness In Turbulent Times! Podcast: Meg Nocero—Can You Feel Joy As You Rethink Your Life? Podcast: Richard Sheridan—How To Lead With Joy And Purpose! Additional resources for you My two award-winning books: Rethink: Smashing The Myths of Women in Businessand On the Brink: A Fresh Lens to Take Your Business to New Heights Our website: Simon Associates Management Consultants Read the transcript of our podcast here Andi Simon: Welcome to On the Brink With Andi Simon. Hi, I'm Andi Simon. I'm your host and your guide. My job is to help you see, feel and think in new ways so you can get off the brink. And I'm always delighted to find people who are going to help you do just that. You know, I'm a corporate anthropologist. I'm a business owner and entrepreneur. I coach lots of folks. But I've learned over the years that new ideas come to you from different places in different ways. And somehow you'll hear something, and you'll go, oh, that's what Andi's been saying. But here's somebody else who said it and all of a sudden it clicked, and it helps me do something I've been trying to do. So I have with me today a wonderful woman from England. And if you've been listening, we've had somebody from Paris, and somebody from South Africa. The world is coming to us and we're sharing great ideas. Julia Wolfendale is a terrific individual for you to listen to. Let me tell you about her and then she'll tell you about her own journey. She's an executive coach and director at On The Up Consulting. What a great name! She's the author of a new book called Five Ways to Focus. And she's qualified to the master's level in leadership. She has trained and coached hundreds of leaders on how to have the best sales and get things on the up. She had previous roles as a marketing director for a large global company and also worked in large public sector companies. She's developed an innovative set of tools, training courses and programs to transform, and I say this is a very important thing, to transform conversations at work. We've had other podcast guests who talked about conversations, and Judith Glaser has that wonderful book called Conversational Intelligence that I use in all my leadership academies. But we live conversations. And those are the crux of who we are and how we interact. She now specializes in strength-based coaching and writing, helping organizations get the best out of their people with coaching conversations. So this is going to be such fun. And she also wrote another book called The Trouble with Elephants that she started when she was 12. And so there's a story behind that story I'm sure. Julia, thank you for joining me today. Julia Wolfendale: Hi, it's great to see you, Andrea, thank you for having me. Andi Simon: Julia, I gave them the overview of your bio, but I know your story is a rich and very important one for them to understand why as an executive coach and a trainer, you've moved into this whole area of improving conversations, but building better places to be and also to find them fulfillment and happiness. Who is Julia? Let's understand who you are so they can understand why this matters so much, please. Julia Wolfendale: Oh, thank you, Andrea. So I guess my work career really started out when I got a Business Studies degree and went to work for Adidas, the sports clothing brand, and really being part of a big corporate setup really interested me. And then I was fortunate enough to move on and become a marketing director at Helly Hansen, again, a global sports brand. And having that opportunity to see different cultures, different people in different cultures of the organization, and in different countries in the organization sort of coming together and sharing ideas, that was always something that really interested me. But particularly, I guess I've always been interested in what motivates people, what gets them to do the amazing things, and working with sports brands was really interesting because being able to see people perform at their best, use their body in the most incredible ways to compete and to perform and to really challenge themselves. But from a marketing point of view, I was interested in how do you get people to think differently about what they're capable of. So I suppose there was always something in me that led me to now, which is this coaching. So really recognizing that we are capable of so much more. And sometimes we have to challenge our situations, our environments, and ourselves, to make some changes to think differently and to find ways that we can be at our best. So that's taken me many years to kind of come to this point now where I can say I have a successful coaching consultancy. I'm coaching leaders. Throughout the week, people have really important jobs and CEOs of hospitals and working with public sector organizations where people have really tough jobs and helping them in their professional lives, and thinking about how they can be at their best, but I also train in organizations and help them develop their leaders by having chats that matter. And that's our signature program, which is about changing the way they have conversations with their people using a coaching style of recognizing people's strengths, really unlocking that potential, and tapping into people's passions and what they care about so that they can be motivated and successful, happy and fulfilled at work. And I guess that's what so many of us care about. But perhaps we don't always have the ways to do that. And I suppose that's why I wrote the book, because sometimes having the chance to focus on the stuff that matters to us and recognize what we're capable of is kind of the first step towards that. So the book, Five Ways to Focus, is around dealing with all the other stuff we could be doing. We end up getting involved in all the other things that we're thinking about, and actually just getting it down to really what matters to you. What changes are you ready and able to make? And what difference will that make for you, if you did? Andi Simon: You know, it's interesting, because I have several leadership academies for corporations. And we're actually at a point where we're talking about understanding that leaders must focus on themselves on one hand, and on empathy on the other, and then the third on the environment around which they are operating. And I often worry that there are too many things to focus on. And we're preaching a methodology of getting to understand what matters at the moment. I am so interested in what you have learned. Talk to us more about when you say the word focus in on conversations, intelligent conversations, give us a little bit more flesh to this so that I think our listeners and viewers can all sort of grab what is it you've discovered. Julia Wolfendale: Well, I think it's around cutting through the noise and the distraction. So sometimes the little distractions get in the way of us getting on with the work that needs to be done, or the plans that we need to make. But I think there's also the kind of the internal noise as well. There's the self-limiting beliefs that show up the things that we give too much attention to really, and believing when actually we perhaps could look at them, listen to them differently, challenge them, question ourselves. I think being able to focus on some of the things that are physically and literally in our way, but also what are the things that we've kind of manifested in our own minds that we believe to be our obstacles, but we've had them for so long that they've become things that we don't even imagine not having that or don't even imagine overcoming. So the book really helps break down and is focused around what matters much. So really getting someone to understand, what are they really looking for? And if they are thinking about a career change, really helping them understand and assess their life right now. What's working well, in all aspects of their lives. And what do they want to have more of? What do they need less of? You know, why they value the things that they give so much time and attention to? Or do they value the time? And do they value those things or if they just took over? And so helping people sort of reassess their lives and their work included in that. And help them think about what do they want to learn? What do they want to be able to be or be able to do? And then also helping them think about the things that are really driving them. So what are they looking for, by way of a change, and if it is a career change, there might be things that matter to them that they have lost sight of? So I do find that when I'm coaching with people, when I ask them questions around some of the one of the five ways to focus is, what are you really looking for, and it's based around freedom, fellowship, fulfillment, kudasai, and money and getting people to rank those in order. So if freedom is a big one, it might be because it might be their first thing, and they realize they don't have enough of that now. And that's what they really do want to focus on. So I'll ask them about, what does freedom mean to you? And it might mean they've got more freedom to make decisions, so more autonomy. It might mean freedom in the sense of being able to have a better flexible working schedule and then they will come to fellowship and it might mean that fellowship is something that is important to them, and having a sense of belonging. Great connections with people at work really matters. And, they may not have that now and people are suffering from that, aren't they, because of the hybrid working environment and so long remote working, that sense of fellowship might really matter to somebody, but they kind of lost it or forgotten about that. So help them understand what does fellowship mean to them? And if they're looking for it, what would it be? How could it be represented at work, so that it might be about moving into a new team, or joining a new organization where they really share the same values and they feel really connected. And so they belong and that's a strong driver for people's sense of belonging. Or it might be fulfilling. And I think too often we forget to think about what makes us feel good about work. Work can take up a lot of our lives, but it can be so much more enjoyable when there's a sense of purpose and a sense of personal reward, as well as you might be serving others and that might be enough. So where does that fulfillment come from? And what does that look like, and really getting people to recognize that. I'm feeling unfulfilled at work and that's the thing that I want to prioritize. That's something I want to focus on. And that's such a lightbulb moment when people realize that something is missing. But that's not the thing that's ever in a job description, or ever advertised. You don't apply for a job because that gives me fulfillment? No, you just hope that might come along. Or you might forget that that was ever important at all. And then curious, what do you want to be known for? What is it that you might stand out? And there might be that you have some great contribution to make, but it's just not being seen or heard in your organization? Or in your role? Have you been known for that thing that you do or the thing that you want that you want to have that kind of recognition for? And you might be the go-to person in your organization for that. But is there another place where that could be valued as well? And you take that to a sort of a biggest regret or grander scale? Or do you want to start a blog around the thing that you know really well that other people struggle to express or struggle to understand? And then, you know, money. What will it take? Do you have enough already in use, this is just okay. Just finding something that will equally help you pay the bills? Or is this a financial move for you? I want to make the move that will really give me the money that I feel is important to me in my life. So yes, just shifting the focus on to the things that really matter. That's what I'm talking about in the book, when you want examples. Andi Simon: When you work with people, have you had your own epiphany about how important this is, I won't ask you which of the five matters to you most. But, I have a hunch that when somebody does have that epiphany, do they then begin to act on it, or help them actually change so that if in fact they're looking for kudos or recognition. They can find ways to do that or if they're looking for fulfillment and purpose, they can redefine what the world is, and actually act on it. How do you actually take them from discovery to implementation or something? Julia Wolfendale: Yeah, that's a bit that really excites me as well. So I love that whole exploration with clients to help them think about things they've never thought about before. I'll bring to the fore the things that they are clear that matter to them now. But yeah, I don't like to leave people hanging. So I always kind of frame my sessions around how do we make that happen now, so very practical steps. So another part of the book is, can you do that? What's possible? So, I'll be asking them, so what can you do in the next two hours about that? What could you do in the next week, the next month, the next three months, the next six months? People need to feel that they can make those incremental steps towards the goals, whether it's a short term, or longer term, we think about changing the timescale as appropriate. So just breaking things down. That's another part of the five ways: the focus approach makes it small and achievable, but still aspirational enough that someone feels this is stretching them and challenging them and changing them but with the courage and the confidence to do that. Andi Simon: You know, I think you get so excited about what you're doing. It's really quite remarkable because people are in need of a pause and a rethink of where they're going, and to create a new story about what they are becoming because they live already what's in their minds today. Once you got that story, there you think that's reality, but it may not be right. So true. Julia Wolfendale: Yeah, so true. And for me, particularly, I can remember sitting in my business studies degree and I can remember being asked in my university class to sit and write down what I wanted to be and do. So I wrote down that I wanted to be a marketing director by 25. And I was, and then it's like, oh, now what? And then I had my first child, and I had a fantastic, fantastic job, as marketing director, and had my first child, and then everything sort of changed my priorities pane. And I can remember being stranded at Schiphol Airport in Holland, after having this problem with the plane, and we couldn't fly home after having traveled over to a sales conference with the company, and really just weeping that I was already going to have to leave my six month old daughter for even longer. And at that moment, I thought, something's really changed for me that if I'm going to do the work, if I'm going to try, if I'm going to have to be away from my child, I really want the work to be fulfilling. And it changed. So what excited me when I was 25 and 30 was the marketing, the campaigns, the brand building, all of that was fantastic. And then suddenly, my social conscience just really kicked in. I worked for 13 years in the public sector as a manager in a local authority, managing and organizing Children's Services, really deeply fulfilling as well. I think, to be able to ask these questions of yourself at different times in your career and different times in your life, because you'll want different things. And it's okay. And I think people think that you get one shot at choosing your career, whereas there are very many paths to get to feeling fulfilled and satisfied at work. Andi Simon: You know, so it's interesting, Julia, after my second book came out, Rethink: Smashing The Myths of Women in Business, I took the "how do you do that" at the end, and I turned it into an online do it yourself video program where you can rethink your story, not just for your career, but for your life. And I love when people take it because sometimes you need a guide, or you or me, but more often, you just need the discipline to try and pause and know what to do to rethink your story. And as you start to walk me through your own story, you had to have an epiphany, something went off in your mind and it was a catalyst. I always say, people, if you want to change, have a crisis or create one because the habits take over. It's so much easier not to change. Even if you're not happy at the end of the day, and you're not happy in the morning, when I coach people, I say, well, if you're not happy in the morning, we have to change the story. Let's go to bed with a happy story that you're going to wake up with so your mind is working on the happy not on the you are, just what you believe. And it is so true. It isn't somebody's doing it to you, you're doing it to yourself. Julia Wolfendale: Yeah. And I think the thing to notice is that we all experience our jobs differently. We all experience our own situations differently. So just because other people in your team might think this is the best job ever for them, but if it's not working for you, it's really okay to just check in with yourself. And if it's not fitting in with your family or your other priorities in your life, it is totally okay to ask yourself, what am I really looking for. In the book we're talking about change points and boiling points. And the difference between those is the change points is when changes are coming about. So the organization is restructuring, to mean that change is kind of naturally occurring. Or it might be a change in yourself like you're approaching 40. We see a lot of people who are kind of reaching milestone birthdays and have a rethink, like you say, pause, restart, reevaluate. Or it might be that a pandemic has caused a lot of people to reevaluate their lives. So there's change points that occur anyway. And they either come about unexpectedly because of external circumstances, or because of the natural process of aging or life change. And then there's boiling points. And it's important to pay attention to both because the boiling points are kind of less easy to spot. But if we tune ourselves into them, we know we're approaching them. So it's when those work stresses are just compounding and then it might just take something happened at home as well, which is the trigger but actually work wasn't great anyway. But, then suddenly, work just fell short of being sustainable or too difficult to face every day because there's now other stuff that's not going well in another part of life. And so many people have additional caring responsibilities now that haven't been, with our aging population, etc. So, I just think, noticing what those boiling points are as well and having that courage to kind of check in and ask for help. You know to reach out and ask for a coach or read the book. So you know, the help is available, but to notice that you might be at a boiling point, and people might be thinking, I need to change things for me. It's about taking charge, it takes a lot of courage. Andi Simon: It does. And you know, as you think of your own story, I love the story, because you had a plan at the beginning. And you actually fulfilled it, you didn't have to stay in it. And your life took a turn because you had this wonderful child, and you realize there was more to what you were all about than just what you were doing at the time. That's okay. Now, you've taken another turn past that and I do think that the most interesting time is a startup time, because that's when you're in the explore stage. You're really not quite sure what this is. But I know what I'm doing isn't whatever that means, and life is a short journey. And when one of the biggest challenges, and I have a hunch, you're going to begin to see it as people are reaching that age of retirement, and they have no plan for the next phase. So the next phase in their journey, and it doesn't take them long to have an aha moment, which says, this is not what I expected. There's only so much golf I can play. And it's not the financial money that's motivating me, it's fulfillment, it's purpose, it's recognition, it's fellowship, it's belonging. It's all the other things. Now you have to remember, we're humans, and humans need all those other things. You know, Daniel Pink has a wonderful book called Drive. He talks about autonomy, mastery and purpose. And I do think that humans are herd animals. The secret to our success is our collective minds, sharing ideas. It's really understanding that what you think is not just about you, it's more than just about you. It's about the world that we live in as people and it's a great time. And your book is great. I mean, as I'm listening to it, I'm saying this is really terrific because it gives people a way of reflection, as well as purpose and intention to begin to move into the next part of their journey. And it's okay, you don't fail. On the next part, well, that's pretty cool. Are there any illustrative cases that you can share? Or are they all private cases? Julia Wolfendale: Confidentiality is with coaching people, so I always really preserve that. That's really important. But I suppose the book really has the tools that I use in coaching that are in the book. So you know, they've come about because they're tried and tested, and they are the things that help people shift their thinking. And I think that what I know really works well is giving people that space to reflect like you say, and think about what's possible, and really tap into their true potential. And I think focusing on people's possibilities is such a shift because their self-talk can be so negative around what we're not going to be able to do or why we're not as good as somebody else. So I just think through that, and I've learned that through the coaching that perhaps we do share a dim view of ourselves. And through coaching, it's always about discovering what someone's really capable of, and that's really exciting. And through the book, as well, the questions that I asked people to ask of themselves will be ways that they'll discover what they're really capable of. And, even sometimes, just giving people a chance to check in and go at their pace. And that's the beauty of it and reading the book is that it's just all kind of in you. It's in bite sized chunks. Andi Simon: Sometimes the mirror isn't showing you what is real. And you can have a hard time figuring out where am I? And the pandemic sort of accelerated a lot of those questions. And in some ways, everybody started to reflect on what's next. And coming out of the pandemic is as challenging as almost being in it because you can't go back to what was before, and you're not quite sure what's coming next. And uncertainty is one of those things that make people most uncomfortable, basically should be the way they are. Well, they aren't really and you're crafting them as you're living and you need to see the future if you're going to live today. This has been such fun. Are there one or two or three things that you don't want our listeners to forget? Because those are always important. Julia Wolfendale: Yeah, so I think that they get to choose, they get to choose how to think and they get to choose what to do with their thoughts. You can choose how to think. You can choose to cut through the noise and to focus on the things that matter to you. But that does require you to sit down and really think, Okay, what matters to me? And if you feel that you've been driven very much by what other people's expectations are, you might find that things feel a little empty for you at the moment for people to really reevaluate and have that kind of life. Through the book, there's always a big question that helps people reflect, followed by some action questions that really help people move forward with that insight. And I just think everybody's insights are true for them. And everybody's actions have to be right for them. So it's not about comparing with other people, everybody is on their own path. And sometimes it feels like you've strayed from the path. But hey, that can be part of the path to realize too. You're where you don't want to be right now. And that's a chance to come back a couple of steps or take a different turn completely. And you know, so not to be so harsh in judging how you are in your situation, and remind yourself that there is a way to rethink and think yourself out of a particular situation. But a lot of it will mean thinking well of yourself. And just rediscovering really what's available within you. Coaches always think about things particularly like this stance. As a coach, I'm very much a supportive, challenging coach. But I really believe in people's resourcefulness and reminding people of that. I think it's important to sort of tap into what's already there, and how it can be reused and then kind of used to point the way forwards for somebody. Andi Simon: And what's so exciting about what you're saying is that it's in your hands. I preach that as well. If you think that the problem is outside yourself, that's the problem, because you can't fix the outside of yourself. You only can fix how you see, feel and think about it. And if you can't craft a new story, you can't live a new story. When I work with people who move this way, as you're asking them hard questions, you have to come to the point where you're ready to move this way to begin to hear your own self, your heart beating. If you can focus on that heart, and begin to see what makes you remember, we decide with the heart, and the head comes in as the eyes, the heart, the gut, and then the head. So don't try and beat yourself out of it. You've got to feel yourself out of it. Julia Wolfendale: That's right. And those boiling points, notice that you're experiencing those even if people like you aren't. If that's your experience, notice it. Notice what you can do about it, rather than kind of sit with the problem too long. Because though, that's when we get really stuck and withdrawn and disengaged and disillusioned and disconnected. And it's so much harder then, isn't it, to kind of come back and offer up your best self to the situation. So just notice that it's good. Andi Simon: Often when people look at career changes, I say, Well, have you spent any time with anyone who's in that career? Often, somehow they're imagining what it would be like to work in that field. I say, Well go. Take a leave from your job and go test out your imagination and see if something is better than what you have. But you may not really know what it is and why it's better. And just give yourself a little room to grow. I'm an explorer by nature, my archetype. I'm an explorer. And I like discovery. I'm an anthropologist. I like to see things. All of the folks that you're working with need a little time to step back, pause and take a look at where they are and what comes next. And it's okay, and it may not work. I taught a course on entrepreneurship as a visiting professor at Washington University. And every one of the entrepreneurs said the same thing. I opened three businesses and I never failed. And I thought, interesting way to distance yourself from the outside. And never think of yourself as the problem. Where can they find your book? And can they buy your book on Amazon or someplace? Julia Wolfendale: Absolutely. Yeah. So the book Five Ways to Focus by Julia Wolfendale is on Amazon, in the US and the UK and worldwide. And also on my website ontheupconsulting.com. And there's more about the book in there and what we're referring to coaching and consulting services as well. Andi Simon: Okay, my friends, thank you for joining us today. Julia, thank you for joining us. It's been such fun. Your book is full of really important insights about how people can see, feel and think in new ways. So it's actually perfectly aligned with what we try to do and help people. For those of you who are watching, thanks for coming. It's always a pleasure. Remember that you decide with your heart and your eyes. So if you're stuck, or stalled, go explore. Spend a little time talking to people, maybe even Julia, maybe even me, but begin to think through, who am I? Where am I going? You don't have to do it alone. You often need an echo back or place to vent, someplace to see, feel and think about where you are in life at a moment. And when you get too closed in, you don't see anything that's going on. Your mind deletes anything that challenges that story you've got. It's time for a new story. But you don't need to do it all by yourself and create it. And remember, your brain loves the habits, the familiar. They love the story that you've got, and they love pleasure. But it's what you're doing, giving you pleasure. So it's a great time to pause, step back and rethink the five forces that will help you do that. So on that note, remember, I love your emails, info@Andisimon.com . Our website is Simonassociates.net and my books Rethink: Smashing The Myths of Women in Business and On the Brink: A Fresh Lens to Take Your Business to New Heights are both on Amazon, Barnes and Noble and local bookstores. And they continue to sell now. On the Brink came out in 2016 and it's still going strong. So I thank you all for just being good fans. Thanks again. Have a great day!
In this episode, we dive into the science of stuck and how to break through the inertia holding you back with Britt Frank. We all experience times in our lives when we feel like we're in a rut, unable to move forward. Based on her empowering and action-oriented guide, this episode offers a hands-on roadmap for moving forward with purpose, confidence, and the freedom to become your true self. Subscribe for ad-free interviews and bonus episodes https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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In this rendition of The Way Out I'm beyond thrilled to bring you my interview with Licensed Clinical Social Worker, person in long term recovery and Author of the book “The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward, Britt Frank. Britt shares her journey to and through recovery this point with at once an uncommon and refreshing forthrightness, and a truly remarkable insight. Britt has a tremendous ability to articulate so much of what drives addiction, trauma, mental health disorders, and counterproductive thought and behavior patterns in general, how we can shed the shame and stigma around them, and how we can begin a path to greater wellness and to building a life we don't feel the need to constantly escape, or as Britt often and so eloquently sums it up, how to human better so listen up. Reach out to Britt Frank: britt@scienceofstuck.com Learn more about The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward https://www.scienceofstuck.com/ Recovery Resources Mentioned in this Episode: https://www.youthranch.org/calculate-your-ace-score Recommended Recovery Literature (Quit-Lit): - The Artists Way by Julia Cameron https://www.theartistswaybook.com/ Best piece of Recovery Advice - No one is coming to rescue you Jessica Darrow - Surface Pressure (From "Encanto"): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tQwVKr8rCYw Don't forget to check out “The Way Out Playlist” available only on Spotify. Curated by all our wonderful guests on the podcast! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6HNQyyjlFBrDbOUADgw1Sz (c) 2015 - 2022 The Way Out Podcast | All Rights Reserved Theme Music: “all clear” (https://ketsa.uk/browse-music/) by Ketsa (https://ketsa.uk) licensed under CC BY-NC-ND 4.0 (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-way-out-podcast/message
Join Ian Purkner as he interviews Britt Frank. Britt is a therapist, teacher, speaker, and trauma specialist who is committed to dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK. Britt is also the Author of the book The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward.
We've all been there: Ghosted by a donor and wondering why, why, why? My guest on this episode of What the Fundraising is showing us how to redirect our minds, dismantling the reflexive responses that play in our heads and inhabit our bodies. Britt Frank, a somatic psychotherapist, trauma expert, and author of "The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward," walks us through the many ways in which our reactions (and overreactions) are embedded within our bodies. Because so many of us are detached from our own sensations, we revert automatically to our brains in search of solutions. And that's all too often pinging around inside our heads? Lots of noisy self-doubts, recrimination, and other negative thoughts that do not serve. As Britt explains, however, we can befriend even the most toxic of emotions and in so doing diffuse them. “When we know how our brains work, we can feel like we're in the driver's seat of our life,” she says, “instead of locked in the trunk of the car, driving 95 miles down the highway.” You'll love hearing how this multi-modality therapist and thinker came to her work, why ultimatums are less effective than healthy boundaries, and what modest actions you can take to interrupt when your body has taken over the driver's seat. Get all the resources from today's episode here. Follow along on Instagram Connect with Mallory on LinkedIn Want to raise more from the right funders without hounding them and banish your self-doubt in the meantime? Mallory's FREE masterclass offers a great starting point! Support for this show is brought to you by Bloomerang. Our friends at Bloomerang really understand fundraisers, which is how they make donor management software that nonprofits like to use. To learn more about them, head on over to bloomerang.com/mallory.
Britt Frank is a trauma therapist and the author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. Today's conversation centers largely on the topic of emotional regression: that all-too-common anxiety-inducing feeling that you are younger than your chronological age. Britt says that this is an issue that needs to be talked about more, because it can affect anybody regardless of their mental health status—even the most successful men and women in society. Some signs of emotional regression? Indecisiveness, fear of making people angry, can't say “no”, emotional explosions, wanting to be the “favorite” child/employee/friend, imposter syndrome, and many more. Believing that “surviving childhood is trauma in and of itself,” Britt asserts that, “if you don't grieve the fact that your childhood is over, you end up repeating it.” At the same time, Britt notes that humans are a “sliding scale”, constantly swinging from equilibrium to one extreme to another and back again. According to Britt, instead of trying to practice “self-regulation” all the time on one end, or being overly emotional and passionate on the other, we need to be willing to embrace a dynamic way of life. This way, we allow ourselves to consciously shift from one emotional state to each other, and from a state of high energy to a state of rest, acknowledging that how we feel is completely and utterly how our body wants us to feel in the moment. Britt reminds us that “our brain is on our side”—that anxiety is simply a sign telling us that something needs to be addressed. This means allowing ourselves to grieve, as opposed to suppressing that grief, is what will ultimately lead to our healing. Follow Britt @brittfrank Follow Chase @chase_chewning Key Highlights Britt breaks down the phenomenon of “emotional regression”: those excruciating moments—usually taking place around one's parents—where one feels younger than their actual age, and why many of even the most successful individuals go through it. Like the titular character in Alice in Wonderland, emotional regression makes us feel too big one moment and too small the next: your “yes” was really a “no”; you feel guilty when you fail and guilty when you succeed; you feel like an imposter half the time and a narcissistic monster the other half. Britt describes emotional regression as a psychological longing for “home”—by extension defining homeostasis as feeling at home in your body, mind, and heart. Britt unpacks grief as it relates to emotional regression and lays out the four steps to healthy grieving. She also explains why she sees anxiety as a superpower that can help us get unstuck on our road to healing. You don't need to wait until you've hit rock-bottom to change. Britt shares how you can start taking those baby steps to turn your life around today, and explains why feeling “fine” is far from fine. Episode resources: Join the 2023 Ever Forward Mentorship wait list! Email the word "Mentorship" to chase(at)everforwardradio.com Save 15% on the grass fed organ meat complex from Paleovalley at https://paleovalley.com/offers/organ-complex-promo/pvpartners?oid=36&affid=980 Save 20% on the men's skin care line from Caldera + Lab with code EVERFORWARD at http://bit.ly/calderalabef Get Britt's book The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward
Britt Frank is the author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. Many of my listeners are stuck on the idea of whether they should stay or go, or stuck in trauma and fear. That's why I invited Britt to the show to talk about the small steps we can take to become unstuck and move forward with dignity. Britt is a trauma specialist and psychotherapist. Her work focuses on empowering people to understand the mechanisms of our brains and bodies so we can break through procrastination and find our way home to ourselves. This conversation is amazing, I hope you enjoy it! Show Highlights The fastest way to get out of being stuck is to take small steps (5:08) How to define the ‘first step' to help you figure out your plan for getting unstuck (7:53) Dissociation is a self-protection mechanism - there'sa reason you're not doing the thing you want to do: you're experiencing the freeze response to trauma (13:11) Britt explains why we can't think ourselves forward (16:04) We explore the steps to help you get unstuck including: Validating what's happening and determining the resources available to help right now (22:40) Why Britt says to stay away from positive and negative thinking and instead focus on accurate thinking (24:52) Your inner critic wants to help, but they are just really bad at it! (27:59) Leaving a relationship requires detox and withdrawal (34:23) Self-sabotage is a way to self-protect - don't blame yourself for self-sabotaging. Recognize it's happening and then follow the steps to move through being stuck (39:41) Self-mothering is one the most powerful ways of breaking trauma bonds (44:24) Learn more about Britt Frank: Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a clinician, educator, and trauma specialist. She speaks and writes widely about the mental health myths that keep us stuck and stressed. Britt received her BA from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning adjunct professor. She is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Level 3 trained in the Internal Family Systems therapeutic model. Britt was a primary therapist at a drug and alcohol treatment center, an inpatient therapist at a children's psychiatric hospital, and now owns a private practice. You can find Britt on Instagram @brittfrank or on her website www.scienceofstuck.com. Her debut book The Science of Stuck was released 3-22-22 by Penguin Random House. Resources & Links: Links and information may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/the-science-of-stuck-with-britt-frank/ Get on the list to be notified about Grit & Grace!Britt's websiteBritt on Instagram Britt's book Mother Hunger, Kelly McDaniel TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE DIVORCE SURVIVAL PROGRAM As one of the pioneers of the divorce coaching industry, I've been helping women (most of whom are moms) navigate the divorce process for the last decade. AND NOW, FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER, ALL OF MY DIVORCE WISDOM IS AVAILABLE IN ONE ONLINE PROGRAM. This program is 100% for you if… You're a mom looking for a clear roadmap to a divorce that won't destroy your kids You're looking for answers and a roadmap You understand that divorce is a long game You're willing to put away your boxing gloves You want this to be a respectful and collaborative process in service of your kids You understand that divorce is, first and foremost, an emotional process and you're ready to ‘go there' Are you ready to learn from one of the world's top divorce experts and set yourself on the path towards the best possible outcome? YEAH, Y'ARE!!! JOIN THE SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO FACEBOOK GROUP
On episode 58 of Outside The Studio: The Science Behind Getting Stuck and How To Get Unstuck with Britt Frank If you call yourself lazy or undisciplined every time you get stuck, you're not alone. The good news is that getting stuck is not usually a mindset issue or character defect. There is a science behind why we get stuck and that's what Britt Frank and Tessa discuss throughout this episode. They chat about why asking why you're stuck keeps you stuck, the life you will unlock if you are willing to deal with the uncomfortable, and habits you can build to regularly get unstuck. Britt Frank MSW, LSCSW, SEP, is a Licensed Psychotherapist and Trauma Specialist. She is the author of the book The Science of Stuck. Timestamps (00:30) Who is Britt Frank? (02:02) Is being stuck a form of laziness? (04:01) Why do we get stuck? (11:58) Recovering from drug addiction. ( 17:49) Freeing yourself from 'why' questions (why am I doing what I'm doing?) (23:35) How do you know how traumatized you are? (Finding perspective vs. making comparisons) (28:00) Taking control of your choices to create the life you want (29:58) Daily habits and rituals to get unstuck. (34:11) Mental health is a commitment to reality, at all costs (and other helpful reminders) (37:51) The science of stuck (39:47) How to connect with Britt Frank 5 Key Takeaways 1. When we get stuck, the first thing we tend to do is blame ourselves. However, there is a science behind why we get stuck. Being stuck is not a character defect. Understanding the science behind stuck can destigmatize it. 2. We often get stuck because we lack enough information about our brains work. We're not trained to deal with the thoughts that society deems as shameful. Give yourself permission to heal 3. All change, even good change is threatening to our brain 4. When you get stuck, don't let 'why' questions be your first questions. 'Why' questions will keep you stuck. Instead of asking why - ask what you're willing to do about your situation 5. We have to be honest with ourselves about the benefits of our choices, even choices that seem like they have no benefits (eg: drug abuse). Name things as they are so you can change them Links The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward by Britt Frank: https://www.amazon.com/Science-Stuck-Breaking-Through-Inertia-ebook/dp/B097B3BHL6 Connect With Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittfrank/?hl=en Science of Stuck: https://www.scienceofstuck.com/ Connect With Tessa Tovar: Website: https://tessatovar.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613 Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus
“We need to know how to drive our brains, and then life works,” says Britt Frank, clinician and trauma specialist, who believes that we must learn how our bodies respond to different stimuli and form emotions. Britt is less concerned with the “why” of things, and more about the “what” and the “how.” She's not interested in seeking or answering spiritual questions. If we learn how our bodies react to emotions, we can make better choices about our behavior, and life gets easier. Feelings, she says, are body cues, and emotions are the story or meaning we attach to those cues. The goal, she says, is to stop being a reactor and start being a responder. Britt and Deevo share their similar shock and disillusionment about what college turned out to be and the different ways that people, especially introverts, connect with people. Britt says as important as connection is, it can't come at the cost of health, safety, and integrity. They discuss the merits and limitations of psych meds, and the spiritual contradictions of abortion protesters. Hear Britt and Deevo discuss the importance of celebrating micro-wins, the importance of taking accountability and responsibility, and a basic set of actionable steps. Quotes • “Feelings are just body cues. Emotions are when we attach a story or meaning to those body cues.” (15:04-15:10 | Britt) • “Live your best life is sort of, ‘meh.' It's not live your best life, it's live a life where you get to make choices versus hanging around reacting to things all the time and not knowing why.” (17:37-17:48 | Britt) • “There's a degree to which life gets really crappy the more you know and then there's a pivot point at which eventually—assuming you have choices, and relative safety and access—you're no longer lled by your injury.” (21:22-21:36 | Britt) • “No matter how freethinking, no matter how outside the box, no matter how critical or unique you are, at the core of who we are as humans we still need to belong, we still need to have those connections, those conversations, some meaning, some depth. And that only comes from other humans.” (42:33-42:53 | Deevo) • “What are some key adjustments one can make for transformations. What do you mean by that?” (52:32-52:36 | Britt) • “I think personal responsibility is probably one of the keystone human emotions or human elements that if you don't have it, you're going to be lost for a long time.” (55:03-55:12 | Deevo) Links Connect with Britt Frank: Website | https://www.scienceofstuck.com/ Instagram | @brittfrank Connect with A Little Impolite: Deevo Instagram | @fusionphotog Lisa Instagram | @lisastaffphoto Business Instagram | @sproutconnectors Here it is! Our gift to you. The free download for “All of the Tools You Need for a Healthy Relationship with Social Media”: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62462253b3be600de2a2710c YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCn4C58U6MRnBaJP8NOknYHg Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mind-body-business/id1360851323 Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sprout-connectors/support
Have you ever felt like your life wasn't moving forward, but you didn't know what to do to make a change? Britt Frank is a therapist, teacher, speaker, trauma specialist, and author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. She is committed to dismantling the mental health myths that keep people feeling stuck and sick, by educating, empowering, and equipping them to transform their most persistent patterns of thinking and doing, and helping them understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. In today's episode, Brit shares all about The Science of Stuck, the importance of nervous system regulation, navigating confusion, the shame cycle, and we also get into the anatomy of mental danger. Britt lets us in on some of the most impactful ways of becoming unstuck, and much more. I can't wait for you to listen. In this Episode You'll Learn: [05:51] The Science of Stuck. [09:14] Learning to regulate your nervous system. [12:37] Looking through the lens of confusion. [16:49] Bringing brain science into the equation. [22:31] The truth about Depression. [25:57] When our brains function in a place of mental danger. [32:09] Shame, guilt, and accountability. [34:49] How to become unstuck. Quotes: “The pain is confusing. The process doesn't have to be.” [09:07] “There's very little opportunity for healing pain without clarity on what that pain is.” [14:10] “The opposite of mental health is mental danger.” [24:56] “You can take accountability for your actions without shaming yourself.” [32:26] “Stuck turns into unstuck the second we say yes to anything.” [35:38] Connect with Britt Frank: Website: https://www.thegreenhousekc.com https://www.scienceofstuck.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittfrank Connect with Amber Facebook: Amber Lilyestrom LinkedIn: Amber Lilyestrom Email us at: hello@amberlilyestrom.com
Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a clinician, educator and trauma specialist. Britt received her BA from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award winning adjunct professor. She is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Level 3 trained in the Internal Family Systems therapeutic model. Britt was a primary therapist at a drug and alcohol treatment center, an inpatient therapist at a children's psychiatric hospital, and now owns a private practice. She is the author of the new book The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward Find Britt: Instagram @brittfrank
Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a licensed psychotherapist, trauma specialist, and author of _The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. _She received her BA from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning adjunct professor. Britt writes and speaks widely about the mental health myths that keep us feeling stuck and overwhelmed. Website | Instagram
Britt Frank is the writer of “The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward.” Britt's upbringing exposed her to a lot of the things she now studies and the things that she helps others to understand about themselves. Her approach to therapy focuses on the physical reality of mental health by … Continue reading "178. Britt Frank – The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward" The post 178. Britt Frank – The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward first appeared on School for Good Living Podcasts.
To move through trauma to growth, you first have to name what's happening to you AS trauma, and get real about exactly what that means. The truth is, trauma doesn't have to be a life sentence! But that doesn't mean you can go into trauma denial and just choose to avoid the pain (psst—this will backfire!) Listen in to my interview with trauma therapist Britt Frank to learn all about what to do when this comes up for you and starts to affect your business, so you can learn how to get your trauma to work for you rather than against you! What To Listen For Intro [0:00] Trauma is not a synonym for an excuse to stay where you are [5:12] A trauma therapist's take on how to approach your goals and build momentum in your business [8:50] Myths about exposure therapy (including one I believed before this interview!) [20:20] How to create safety [30:56] How Britt provided a source of just a few - but important - details about mental health [35:04] Final Questions & Wrap-up [37:38] Resources Check out our free resources for listeners Join the Morning Mindset Club Join our Facebook Group Schedule a Strategy to Scale Consultation About Britt Frank: Britt Frank is psychotherapist, trauma specialist, and author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. She received her BA from Duke University and her MSW from The University of Kansas. She speaks and writes widely about the mental health myths that keep us stuck and stressed. Her work focuses on empowering people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. Find Britt At: Instagram @brittfrank https://www.scienceofstuck.com/
What does it mean to 'feel stuck'? And, what exactly IS a feeling, anyway? In this episode, Jodi talks with Britt Frank--therapist and author of "The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward"--about the definition of stuck; the difference between feelings, emotions, and thoughts; fantasy and fairy tales. Britt also shares her experience with addiction and recovery, as well as her thoughts on what keeps us stuck in our love addiction. Music by JD Pendley
Britt Frank is a therapist, teacher, speaker, and trauma specialist who is committed to dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK. She's also the author of The Science of Stuck, published by TarcherPerigee/PenguinRandomHouse.Her work focuses on empowering people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change.Whether she's leading a workshop, teaching a class, or working individually with private clients, Britt's goal is to educate, empower, and equip people to transform even their most persistent and long-standing patterns of thinking and doing. Learn more about Britt at: www.TheScienceofStuck.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
We all experience “stuckness” in our lives. We feel stuck in our relationships, career paths, body struggles, addiction issues, and more. Many of us know what we need to do to move forward - but we find ourselves unable to take the leap to make it happen. Our guest today, Britt Frank, says you're not lazy, crazy, or unmotivated. She joins Sister Jenna to discuss why we can't think our way forward - and how to break through what's holding us back. Britt Frank is a therapist, teacher, speaker, and trauma specialist who is committed to dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK. She is also the author of the new book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. Britt's work focuses on empowering people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change. Read more at https://www.scienceofstuck.com. Check out Sister Jenna's new book, Meditation: Intimate Experiences with the Divine through Contemplative Practices. Listen to the Om Shanti album by Sister Jenna on Spotify. Visit www.americameditating.org and if you like this show, please subscribe and leave us a review wherever you get your podcasts, so other people can find us.
We all experience “stuckness” in our lives. We feel stuck in our relationships, career paths, body struggles, addiction issues, and more. Many of us know what we need to do to move forward - but we find ourselves unable to take the leap to make it happen. Our guest today, Britt Frank, says you're not lazy, crazy, or unmotivated. She joins Sister Jenna to discuss why we can't think our way forward - and how to break through what's holding us back. Britt Frank is a therapist, teacher, speaker, and trauma specialist who is committed to dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK. She is also the author of the new book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. Britt's work focuses on empowering people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change. Read more at https://www.scienceofstuck.com. Check out Sister Jenna's new book, Meditation: Intimate Experiences with the Divine through Contemplative Practices. Listen to the Om Shanti album by Sister Jenna on Spotify. Visit www.americameditating.org and if you like this show, please subscribe and leave us a review wherever you get your podcasts, so other people can find us.
We all experience “stuckness” in our lives. We feel stuck in our relationships, career paths, body struggles, addiction issues, and more. Many of us know what we need to do to move forward - but we find ourselves unable to take the leap to make it happen. Our guest today, Britt Frank, says you're not lazy, crazy, or unmotivated. She joins Sister Jenna to discuss why we can't think our way forward - and how to break through what's holding us back. Britt Frank is a therapist, teacher, speaker, and trauma specialist who is committed to dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK. She is also the author of the new book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. Britt's work focuses on empowering people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change. Read more at https://www.scienceofstuck.com. Check out Sister Jenna's new book, Meditation: Intimate Experiences with the Divine through Contemplative Practices. Listen to the Om Shanti album by Sister Jenna on Spotify. Visit www.americameditating.org and if you like this show, please subscribe and leave us a review wherever you get your podcasts, so other people can find us.
Today's is Britt Frank. Britt is a licensed psychotherapist. She's an educator and trauma specialist. She received her bachelor's from Duke and her Master's of Social Work from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning adjunct professor. And the occasion for today's conversation is to talk about her new book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward to help people get unstuck and live their best lives. We cover how we should focus on the WHAT instead of the WHY when dealing with trauma, ways to successfully overcome addiction and lessen the chances of a relapse, what is self-regulation and why it's important, when is the best time to seek professional help, and so much more! Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Magic Spoon: Visit https://magicspoon.com/ and use the promo code "DOUG" at checkout to receive $5 off your first order Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss: www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 01:07 The biggest myth about mental health 04:14 Developing self-awareness when you get stuck 06:18 Staying too focused on healing a trauma 08:41 It's almost never helpful to start with the WHY question 11:08 “What am I getting out of doing this?” 13:23 There isn't an easy way to change yourself 17:54 What is your relationship to addiction? 19:53 A healthy process to thrive in addiction recovery 26:41 Here's why self-regulation is important 29:28 How do you know when to seek therapy? 32:10 How to look at being lazy differently 35:29 How fast are you to make changes? 40:35 The WHY questions is keeping you stuck in the analysis-paralysis phase 46:13 What's your reality NOW? 48:15 Always count the little wins 50:59 Is self-sabotage real? Episode Resources: Britt Frank | Instagram, LinkedIn, The Science of Stuck Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter
Who you hang out with can affect your health. This episode begins with some interesting research from Gallup about the impact your friends can have on you - both positive and negative. Source: Tom Rath author of Well Being (https://amzn.to/3EekZb7) We all feel stuck at some point in life. Maybe you are stuck in a job or a relationship - or you just feel stuck in general. So how do you get unstuck? Well, there are some good ways and some bad ways. Here to explain what works and what doesn't and how anyone can get unstuck from just about anything is therapist Britt Frank, author of the book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward (https://amzn.to/3Efv33v). Certain alternative therapies have been labeled “woo-woo.” Generally, that has come to mean they are things that are a bit mystical and no one really knows if they work for sure. This includes things like visualization, massage, aroma therapy, nature, kindness and so on. While the promises made regarding what these things can do may sometimes be overstated, there does seem to be something beneficial. Joining me to discuss that is Dr David Hamilton, a writer and speaker and author of several books including Why Woo Woo Works (https://amzn.to/3JLtBXI). People who eat fast, tend to eat more. And that can be a bad thing. Listen as I explain one simple technique to help fast eaters slow down, eat less and maybe weigh a little less as a result. https://arstechnica.com/science/2010/12/imagine-eating-an-mm-taking/ PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! We really like The Jordan Harbinger Show! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen! Go to https://Therabody.com/Something to get your Therabody RecoveryAir today with 60-day money back guarantee and free shipping, there's no risk! With Avast One, https://avast.com you can confidently take control of your online world without worrying about viruses, phishing attacks, ransomware, hacking attempts, & other cybercrimes! Sign up for your FREE Novo business checking account RIGHT NOW at https://Novo.co/Something and you'll get access to over $5,000 in perks and discounts! Discover matches all the cash back you've earned at the end of your first year! Learn more at https://discover.com/match Use SheetzGo on the Sheetz app! Just open the app, scan your snacks, tap your payment method and go! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Are you ready to get unstuck? Getting unstuck doesn't come from thinking, it comes from doing. And when it doesn't feel as simple as just doing it, it's time for a mental shift. It's time to see anxiety, panic attacks and trauma in a different light. There's nothing wrong with you. Stop torturing yourself with shame and blame and start listening to your body. Start seeing things as information to help you move forward. In this episode, I'm joined by Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP, a clinician, educator, trauma specialist and author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. With this episode, Britt shares simple metaphors to shine a new light on mental health and stuckness to remind you that there is nothing wrong with you. We don't have to know everything to move forward, we just need to tap into ourselves to take the first step. Connect with Britt Frank: Instagram: @brittfrank Website: scienceofstuck.com Purchase The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward: https://www.amazon.com/Science-Stuck-Breaking-Through-Inertia-ebook/dp/B097B3BHL6/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=Y2etU&pf_rd_p=bb56b41f-df49-41e1-be0a-6aa8b5f2799c&pf_rd_r=N5Y2FNP6V5ZE13E4RCEA&pd_rd_r=38c7bb75-b96c-4f82-9fd2-740ea0ac15f3&pd_rd_wg=tSNEa&ref_=pd_gw_ci_mcx_mr_hp_atf_m Connect with me, Ariel Bredder: Instagram: @beyoutifulchick Website: beyoutifulchick.com Email me podcast@beyoutifulchick.com with your questions, comments and feedback! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/beyoutiful/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/beyoutiful/support
When lost, not knowing what's next, or unable to find your next step—focus inward, instead of what your trained to do, which is to search outward.
Do you miss a title you used to have, a role you used to have, or a person or thing that used to be a big part of your life? If so, today's podcast episode will encourage your heart -- especially if letting go of what your life used to look like has been hard. Chuck and Ashley Elliott joined me in-studio recently to talk about their brand new book I Used to Be ___ : How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward-- a book that pretty much all of us can relate to!Chuck and Ashley have been married for sixteen years and have served as marriage educators, in addition to Chuck being a pastor and Ashley being a therapist. They are also deeply familiar with grief and loss and they share some of what they've walked through in this episode.In this episode, we discuss the process of grief, the dangers of belittling our pain or comparing it to others, how to determine if we have unprocessed grief, how anger can actually be such a valuable warning flag, and why so often what we think we are frustrated about isn't actually what is frustrating us.They also talk about the three A's to change: awareness, assessment, and action and how we can use these as tools to move to a healthier, more wholehearted and healed place -- so that we can live with more joy and less stress and anger.In This Episode[0:35] - Today's show features Chuck and Ashley Elliott -- marriage educators as well as a pastor and therapist.[3:18] - Ashley shares some of the grief and losses that she and Chuck have experienced.[4:56] - Where does the concept behind the title of the book come from?[7:37] - Everyone likely feels that they've lost a part of what they once were.[11:44] - How can we identify a loss that we aren't properly processing?[14:31] - Chuck shares how anger is sometimes a mask for other feelings.[17:12] - Ashley discusses the three A's to change.[19:47] - What do you do if it feels like nothing is working and you're just stuck?[24:33] - Ashley shares openly about their miscarriages and speaks to parents who have walked through the grief of infertility or losing a baby.[28:54] - We end this episode talking about the power of your presence and how sometimes that is the greatest gift we can give to another.Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineChuckandAshley.comI Used to Be ___ by Chuck Elliott & Ashley Elliott10 Days to Be a Happier MomSign up for the Hot Deals Email ListMoneySavingMom.comMy Instagram account (I'd love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I'm pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.comOur Sponsors:* Check out BiOptimizers and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://bioptimizers.com/* Check out BiOptimizers: https://bioptimizers.com/* Check out ByHeart and use my code CRYSTAL for a great deal: https://byheart.com/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
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