Podcast appearances and mentions of rayna neises

The God of the Holy Bible has promised to never leave us nor forsake us. So when life becomes overwhelming we have the option to turn to Him and let Him be the support we need. Guest, Karen Dittman shares the insight she's gained through her seasons of life on the hamster wheel. She knows that God meets on that wheel and she's here to share the various ways we can do more than survive, we can thrive even in the midst of overwhelming situations.   Summary: - Karen Dittman discusses her journey of faith and personal growth amidst challenging life circumstances. - Of her two books, one focuses on the benefits of 7 minutes with Jesus, practicing gratitude and the other is a simple yet life changing perspective on wellness from a biblical perspective, introducing concepts like the Grace Cycle. - Karen's life was profoundly impacted by her daughter's addiction, which led her to seek a deeper connection with God. - She describes feeling overwhelmed during a difficult period, likened to being on a "hamster wheel," with multiple personal and family challenges. - A pivotal moment was when she learned to surrender control and place her daughter "on the altar," trusting God's plan for her. - Karen emphasizes the importance of experiencing God's presence in the midst of life's struggles, rather than seeking to change the circumstances. - Her journey led to a deeper understanding of God's love, transforming her perception of her own worth and identity in Christ. - She discusses the concept of the grace cycle in her latest book, promoting gradual, supportive changes rather than drastic overhauls. - Karen concludes by reassuring the audience that they are not alone in their struggles, as God is always present and ready to offer support and love. Podcast Intro: Karen Dittman, my guest on this episode, shares her journey through overwhelming personal challenges. I say overwhelming because in an by itself each one of these challenges could take its toll on any of us and Karen was juggling many of these life challenges at the same time. In Karen's personal example she didn't have the option to put life on hold, catch her breath and reengage. Life was coming non-stop, fast and furious and in serious ways. Serious responsibilities that included her husband and her children. She and her husband fostered and adopted, and after struggling years with infertility she's surprised with a bio child at 47 (God has a sense of humor right!). She discovers that her adult daughter is struggling with addiction, and Karen has walked through other challenges with her children, things like anxiety, ADHD, autism. Rather than delve into each one of these areas we touched on a couple but I thought it important to discover how did Karen learn to lift our head under the weight of everyday life. I want to know not only how she survives but actually thrives. What did she discover about Jesus in the midst of what she terms as life on the hamster wheel? Life can be very chaotic and I loved the way Karen pursed the heart of God for a practical solution that met her where she was at. She discovered that God cares about the hamster wheel and that He had solutions and practices that would keep her tethered to His heart, walking His pace and staying in grace, peace and true joy. We talked about her book: Thriving in Grace: Unleashing Wellness from a Biblical Perspective. I found great value in the Grace Cycle. A process for change that focuses on acceptance, small steps to turn things around and celebrating progress. The Grace Cycle is so simple and yet life changing. I scratch my head sometimes. How is it that I overlook the power of Christ's simplicity. There are often times when the simplicity of God is my stumbling block to breakthrough! Also, Karen has a spiritual discipline of spending 7 minutes with Jesus throughout the day. I knew immediately the value of this because when I am intentional about making this a priority to my day I'm refreshed, I have clarity and I'm motivated. So I loved this reminder. She gives us great info on the benefits of 7 minutes with Jesus and how she practices that but she goes into greater detail in her book The Fruit of Gratitude: Cultivate a Thankful heart of Experiencing God's Goodness. Karen's ability to find peace and purpose through pain serves as a beautiful inspiration for those of us facing similar challenges, offering hope and practical guidance for deepening one's relationship with God. That my friend, intimate relationship with our Creator enables us to lift our head under the weight of life in its most crushing seasons. Let's listen in so that we might discover how to live loved and thrive in the midst of the overwhelming seasons of life! Live Loved and Thrive! @alifeofthrive. com Sherrie Pilk   Additional Podcast Episodes/blogs related to this topic (overwhelm): Navigating the Empty Nest with a Healthy Mental Well-being with Dr. Mel Tavares:  https://alifeofthrive.com/2025/01/29/navigating-the-empty-nest-with-a-healthy-mental-well-being/ Letting God Rewrite Trauma and Abuse, with LaShaundra Barnes: https://alifeofthrive.com/2024/11/20/letting-god-rewrite-trauma-and-abuse-with-lashaundra-barnes/ A Caregiving Season with No Regrets, with Rayna Neises: https://alifeofthrive.com/2024/12/04/a-caregiving-season-with-no-regrets-rayna-neises/   Connect with Karen: Website: https://karenadittman.com/ Amazon Book Links: Thriving in Grace: Unleashing Wellness from a Biblical Perspective: Amazon Link Bringing Grace Home: A Bible Study Companion to Thriving in Grace: Amazon Link The Fruit of Gratitude: Cultivate a Thankful Heart by Experiencing God's Goodness: Amazon Link

How do you navigate caregiving when your life takes an unexpected turn? Join me, Rayna Neises, as I chat with Carol Leathem, who found herself in this exact situation a decade ago. When her husband, a pastor, faced mental health challenges, Carol stepped into the role of caregiver, redefining her identity and reshaping her life. Our conversation explores these identity shifts and the profound lessons learned through caregiving, not just for her husband but also for her mother, while keeping her own family's needs in balance. For those in similar shoes, Carol's experiences, and her ministry born from these trials, offer a beacon of hope and support.The journey through mental health and Alzheimer's caregiving is fraught with emotional complexities, and Carol and I share our personal stories to highlight the importance of patience, grace, and empathy. Whether it's dealing with a parent's passive-aggressive text or supporting a spouse through a mental health crisis, understanding that emotions often outweigh facts is crucial. We discuss practical strategies to manage such challenges and stress the importance of crafting personalized coping mechanisms. Faith becomes a cornerstone in the caregiver's journey, offering solace and guiding us through the most demanding times. We close with an invitation to join a community of caregivers, encouraging listeners to seek professional advice when necessary and to approach their caregiving roles with hope, faith, and a sense of contentment.

My guest today, Rayna Neises (Nigh-sis) has a passion for coming alongside those in a season of caregiving. Her experiences of walking both of her parents home, and into the arms of Jesus started her on a journey with a deep desire to help others who find themselves overwhelmed as a caregiver. She's now a certified coach who can help you navigate your caregiving season. She's authored a book, No Regrets, Hope for your Caregiving Season and the focus is to do just that, help you meet the demands of caring for others and not loosing yourself in the process. I love how she puts it, helping people find a way to honor the person they're caring for, walking them all the way home with no regrets and still have a life to walk back into. You'll need to listen to all the different options for balancing the ever changing demands on a caregiver's day. And while Rayna's parent's diagnosis of Alzheimers had an end to her caring season, all of her knowledge, insight and practical advice would be super beneficial for those who are caring for loved ones over an extended period of time. Instances where there is no closure; they're living with uncertainty as to how long they will be caring for their loved ones. The longer the caregiver role the more important it will be to put Rayna's suggested practices in place and use them on a regular basis. The natural relationship of caregiving can include parents caring for children, spouses caring for each other, friends who step in to care well. Rayna is also the host to her podcast, A Season of Caring where her guests share their knowledge and experience, about the subject of caregiving and they too provide hope, encouragement and resources in addition to all that Rayna has available on her website: https://raynaneises.com/ Here are some of the topics we touched on: Rayna challenges the traditional definition of a caregiver, advocating for a broader understanding that includes anyone who provides care and support to others, whether they are paid professionals or family members. Rayna reminds us that Caregiving is not a static role but one that ebbs and flows with the ever changing caregiving demands. Rayna makes the point that it's important to recognize when making adjustments are necessary. Whether it's reallocating time, seeking help, or making pivotal decisions about care etc. We talked about how important it is to build a support network. It's essential, whether it's through family, friends or hired caregivers. Rayna points out ways to build a support system saying this approach not only eases the caregiver's burden but also enriches the caregiving experience for everyone involved. I delved into what it means to finish the caregiving task well and with no regrets. To me, the thought of that being a possibility (and Rayna is proof that it is possible), is an incredibly comforting outcome to being a caregiver. We talked about embracing flexibility and options. I love this because Rayna's journey teaches us that caregiving decisions are not set in stone. The ability to pivot and explore options, whether in living arrangements or daily routines, can lead to better outcomes for both the caregiver and the person receiving care. Ultimately, Rayna's message is one of living without regrets. By being intentional in your caregiving roles, making informed decisions, and allowing room for change, caregivers can look back on their experience with a sense of fulfillment and peace. Rayna's story is a testament to the power of love, resilience, and faith in transforming the caregiving journey into a season of growth, peace and no regrets. If you are in the midst of a caregiving season or if you find yourself in a caregiving role, listen in and let Rayna speak some beautiful encouragement to you today! Live Loved and Thrive! Sherrie Connect with Rayna: Email: Rayna@ASeasonofCaring.com Coaching Services/Support Groups/Education workshops etc: https://www.aseasonofcaring.com/ Caregiver Wellbeing Check-In: This free resource is a pop up (it will appear on the page as you visit her coaching website): https://www.aseasonofcaring.com/ Book - No Regrets, Hope for you Caregiving Season: https://www.aseasonofcaring.com/no-regrets-hope-for-your-caregiving-season/ Podcast: A Season of Caring: https://www.aseasonofcaring.com/podcast/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMNeQw8WKnxWal4Qp3G5OBg Content Magazine: https://www.aseasonofcaring.com/content-magazine/ Bio: Rayna Neises is Certified coach and author of “No Regrets:  Hope for Your Caregiving Season”. With the rich tapestry of her life, from the fields of her family farm to the heart-wrenching experience of losing both parents to Alzheimer's disease, Rayna has crafted her calling into a mission that lights the way for others. As a devoted wife, a cherished Graham, and a loving stepparent, her life is a testament to the power of faith and family. Rayna's professional journey as a Certified Coach, speaker, and Author offers a beacon of light to those navigating the complexities of life and caregiving. Her voice resonates not only through the pages of her book but also through the airwaves as the host of "A Season of Caring Podcast," where she delves into conversations that help caregivers live content, love well and care without regret in their caring season. Rayna also extends her reach and compassion through "Grannies Talkin' Dementia Podcast," a platform where she shares insights, stories, and support for those affected by dementia, bringing understanding and hope to a community that cherishes every memory and moment. In every word she writes and every conversation she leads, Rayna Neises embodies the essence of living a life with no regrets, embracing each season of life with grace, faith, and a heart full of gratitude.

In this episode of 'A Season of Caring Podcast,' host Rayna Neises interviews Mark Applegate, a family caregiver with a passion for supporting those affected by dementia. Mark shares his experiences caring for his mother, who battled dementia for 14 years, offering poignant stories and insights into the ups and downs of caregiving. They discuss dealing with genetic predispositions, the surprises and challenges of dementia care, and the importance of community and spiritual connection. Mark also talks about the therapeutic benefit he found in documenting his journey through his blog, Digital Cornbread. The conversation provides hope and practical advice for other caregivers navigating similar paths.

In this heartfelt episode of A Season of Caring Podcast, host Rayna Neises is joined by Amanda Bailey, who bravely shares her journey as a secondary caregiver for her mother with Alzheimer's. This episode delves into the rapid progression of the disease and the challenges Amanda encountered while supporting her father, the primary caregiver. The conversation underscores the critical role of asking for help and the necessity of building robust support systems for caregivers.The discussion also touches on the benefits of reminiscent therapy, offering profound connections and comfort to those with Alzheimer's. Rayna and Amanda explore the emotional and physical demands of caregiving, the search for balance, and the importance of spiritual grounding. Through their personal experiences, they emphasize the significance of being present, celebrating small victories, and navigating the complex emotions of grief and anger. The episode reaffirms the importance of doing our utmost for our loved ones and finding peace in the effort.Furthermore, the episode highlights Amanda's inspiring initiatives, including founding an Alzheimer's memory walk in her town, launching a company to support families with long-term care solutions, and creating The Cognitive Busy Box for multisensory engagement. These endeavors celebrate the power of family support, the joy of collaboration, and the fulfillment derived from making a meaningful impact in the lives of others. This episode offers hope, encouragement, and practical advice for those navigating the caregiving journey with compassion and resilience.

Caregiving is hard! In this episode of Navigating Cancer TOGETHER, Talaya Dendy dedicates the show to caregivers and features Allison Breininger, founder of The Negative Space. Allison shares her journey as a caregiver for her husband diagnosed with Fanconi Anemia (FA), a rare genetic disease leading to multiple cancers. She discusses the underappreciated role of caregivers, the importance of acknowledging their efforts, and the support systems she established through her non-profit. The episode covers the emotional and logistical burdens caregivers face, offers practical advice, and highlights the significance of having accessible mental health resources.✨Highlights from the show:[01:58] Allison's Personal Caregiving Journey[04:30] Challenges and Realities of Caregiving[09:26] Impact of Cancer Diagnosis on Caregivers[12:57] Mental Health and Support for Caregivers[17:16] Basic Needs and Advice for New Caregivers[23:57] The Guilt and Challenges of Caregiving[26:49] The Media's Portrayal of Caregiving[32:08] Practical Self-Care Tips for Caregivers[37:06] What NOT to Say to Caregivers[38:55] The Importance of Acknowledging Caregivers[42:14] The Negative Space: Resources and SupportReflection: As a caregiver, how did this episode make you feel? Did it resonate with your experiences as a caregiver? If you are someone who has had a cancer diagnosis, how did it make you feel? Have you had a conversation with your caregiver?

Steve Powell's story is a beautiful example of how love and necessity can spark innovation. Rayna Neises had the honor of discussing Steve's mission to create a world where the elderly and disabled can rise with dignity.  His invention was born from witnessing his own parents' struggles, a challenge he met with a blend of compassion and creativity.Steve Powell recounts the painful reality of his parents' frequent falls and inability to get up on their own due to health issues and its impact. Driven by a divine nudge and his parents' plight, Steve, a creative technology expert, invented a life-changing device. This invention not only helped his mother regain her independence, preventing falls for nine months, but also marked a turning point for many others facing similar challenges. IndeeLift transformed from a personal mission to a global endeavor, improving lives and allowing people to age in place with dignity.Our discussion wasn't just about the mechanics of caregiving; it was about the soul behind it. We discussed how faith intertwines with compassion, how innovation can uphold the dignity of those we care for, and how emotional and practical support can transform the caregiving landscape. Steve's journey and the solutions offered by IndeeLift.com stand as a beacon of hope, showing us that through ingenuity and empathy, we can make a profound difference in the lives of those we love.

 Althea McIntyre joins host, Rayna Neises, in this episode. She shares her perspective on the connection between caregiving, faith, and personal growth. They delve into the rich tapestry of caregiving, sharing insights from their own experiences with their fathers. From the intense demands of high-need periods to the tranquility of more stable times, exploring the full spectrum of emotions and responsibilities that define the caregiver's role.Contemplating the impact of creating significant moments, such as Althea's life-changing adventure to Aruba alongside her father, which have the power to bring immense happiness and satisfaction to the caregiving journey. Also discussing practical ways to adapt activities to maintain engagement and connection, such as creating a garden driving tour for a loved one.The episode ends with discussion about the deep spiritual and personal change that can come from taking care of someone else. Through caregiving and experiencing loss, we often recognize the presence of gods in our lives and face the challenge of replacing them with the one true God.Althea shares her expertise in spirit-led sales and explains how combining faith with business skills can bring success. She also invites listeners to join her upcoming five-day challenge.This episode combines resilience, hope, and the enduring spirit of human connection, providing a source of inspiration for caregivers on their own journeys.

Ever found yourself in the middle of a caregiving journey, feeling overwhelmed, yet strangely blessed? You are not alone. Join me, Rayna Neises, as I welcome Peggy Bode, a fellow caregiver who sheds light on the complexities, challenges, and rewards of caring for loved ones - specifically, in-laws. Peggy shares a memorable tale about her father-in-law's unique love language - giving treats. This story and others serve as refreshing reminders that there's joy, warmth, and God's presence to be discovered even in demanding caregiving moments.We also dive into the intricacies of caring for aging loved ones, discussing the delicate act of balancing their independence with the care they require. Like a well-read book, our elderly loved ones possess a lifetime of wisdom and experiences, and we explore ways to honor this. Peggy also opens up about her faith, revealing how it serves as an anchor during turbulent times. Moreover, we emphasize the critical role of self-care, an often overlooked aspect of caregiving. You'll leave with practical tips on how to find God amidst the chaos, and the crucial importance of pausing to recharge. So, tune in for an inspiring journey that promises to leave you encouraged and emboldened in your caregiving journey.

Rayna is a certified coach accredited by the International Coach Federation. Rayna focuses on supporting professional Christian women who are caring for their aging parents. She is also a dementia educator and hosts the A Season of Caring Podcast. She wrote the book "No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season". Rayna is dedicated to supporting caregivers and ensuring that both they and their parent are seen, not forgotten, and care for, not neglected. Rayna Neises is a city girl turned farm wife, grandmother to 7, and mom to 3 adorable dogs. Website: www.aseasonofcaring.com Email: rayna@aseasonofcaring.com    

Rayna Neises comes to us from the heartland of Kansas to share her experience as a former caregiver for parents with dementia. She is the author of No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season. She also hosts the podcast "A Season of Caring," and is the publisher of "Content Magazine: Finding God in Your Caregiving Season." Our conversation focuses on her belief that caregiving is "a season of life," and the necessity of finding support to navigate its challenges. She offers valuable insights for caregivers who may feel overwhelmed and isolated, and emphasizes the importance of self-care and setting boundaries. Her book, podcast, and magazine offer further support for caregivers seeking to maintain their identity and find moments of respite amidst the chaos. In this podcast, you will: Embrace the enlightening concept of caregiving as a pivotal life season, rather than a mere duty;Learn how to navigate the complex landscape of dementia care unveiling truths that may transform your understanding of caregiving;Acknowledge the urgent need for advanced planning and transparent conversations around personal care choices;Discover that faith-based support groups may offer much-needed comfort in this demanding journey About Rayna Neises Rayna Neises understands the joys and challenges that come from a season of caring. She helped care for both of her parents during their separate battles with Alzheimer's over a thirty-year span. She looks back on those days now with no regrets – and she wishes the same for everyone caring for aging parents. To help others through this challenging season of life, Rayna has written No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season, a book filled with her own heart-warming stories and practical suggestions for journeying through a caregiving season. She is an ICF Associate Certified Coach with certifications in both Life and Leadership Coaching from the Professional Christian Coaching Institute. She is also the host of “A Season of Caring Podcast” and a passion speaker. Rayna lives on a farm in southeast Kansas with her husband, Ron, and small pack of adorable dogs. She is the baby of her family, but most would never guess that. A former teacher, she enjoys crafts of all kinds and spending time with her grandkids most of all. Connect with Rayna Facebook.com/ASeasonofCaringRaynaNeises Linkedin.com/RaynaNeises Instagram.com/RaynaNeises Pinterest.com/thcoaching Twitter Website Book About the Podcast AlzAuthors is the global community of authors writing about Alzheimer's and dementia from personal experience to light the way for others. Our podcast introduces you to our authors who share their stories and insights to provide knowledge, comfort, and support. Please subscribe so you don't miss a word. If our authors' stories move you, please leave a review. And don't forget to share our podcast with family and friends on their own dementia journeys. We are a 501(c)(3) charitable organization totally reliant on donations to do what we do. Your generosity will help cover our many operating costs, which include website hosting and maintenance fees, service charges to keep things running smoothly, and marketing expenses to promote our authors, expand our content, improve our reach, and more. Our ongoing work supports our mission to lift the silence and stigma of Alzheimer's and other dementias. To sustain our efforts please visit https://alzauthors.com/donate/ . Thank you for listening. We are a WCN Featured Podcast. Proud to be on The Health Podcast Network. Want to be on the podcast? Here's what you need to know. AlzAuthors.com Shop our Store

Register for Everything You've Always Wanted to Know About Living with Dementia September 1 at 10:30 AM EST Watch the June 2021 episode on YouTube *** Rayna Neises comes to us from the heartland of Kansas to share her experience as a former caregiver for parents with dementia. She is the author of No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season. She also hosts the podcast "A Season of Caring," and is the publisher of "Content Magazine: Finding God in Your Caregiving Season." Our conversation focuses on her belief that caregiving is "a season of life," and the necessity of finding support to navigate its challenges. She offers valuable insights for caregivers who may feel overwhelmed and isolated, and emphasizes the importance of self-care and setting boundaries. Her book, podcast, and magazine offer further support for caregivers seeking to maintain their identity and find moments of respite amidst the chaos. In this podcast, you will: Embrace the enlightening concept of caregiving as a pivotal life season, rather than a mere duty;Learn how to navigate the complex landscape of dementia care unveiling truths that may transform your understanding of caregiving;Acknowledge the urgent need for advanced planning and transparent conversations around personal care choices;Discover that faith-based support groups may offer much-needed comfort in this demanding journey About Rayna Neises Rayna Neises understands the joys and challenges that come from a season of caring. She helped care for both of her parents during their separate battles with Alzheimer's over a thirty-year span. She looks back on those days now with no regrets – and she wishes the same for everyone caring for aging parents. To help others through this challenging season of life, Rayna has written No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season, a book filled with her own heart-warming stories and practical suggestions for journeying through a caregiving season. She is an ICF Associate Certified Coach with certifications in both Life and Leadership Coaching from the Professional Christian Coaching Institute. She is also the host of “A Season of Caring Podcast” and a passion speaker. Rayna lives on a farm in southeast Kansas with her husband, Ron, and small pack of adorable dogs. She is the baby of her family, but most would never guess that. A former teacher, she enjoys crafts of all kinds and spending time with her grandkids most of all. Connect with Rayna Facebook.com/ASeasonofCaringRaynaNeises Linkedin.com/RaynaNeises Instagram.com/RaynaNeises Pinterest.com/thcoaching Twitter Website Book About the Podcast AlzAuthors is the global community of authors writing about Alzheimer's and dementia from personal experience to light the way for others. Our podcast introduces you to our authors who share their stories and insights to provide knowledge, comfort, and support. Please subscribe so you don't miss a word. If our authors' stories move you, please leave a review. And don't forget to share our podcast with family and friends on their own dementia journeys. We are a 501(c)(3) charitable organization totally reliant on donations to do what we do. Your generosity will help cover our many operating costs, which include website hosting and maintenance fees, service charges to keep things running smoothly, and marketing expenses to promote our authors, expand our content, improve our reach, and more. Our ongoing work supports our mission to lift the silence and stigma of Alzheimer's and other dementias. To sustain our efforts please visit https://alzauthors.com/donate/ . Thank you for listening. We are a WCN Featured Podcast. Proud to be on The Health Podcast Network. Want to be on the podcast? Here's what you need to know. AlzAuthors.com Shop our Store

Today's guest is Rayna Neises, Author and Writer of "No Regrets: Hope For Your Caregiving Season", Founder of Season of Caring, Host of A Season of Caring Podcast which is heard on various platforms, Editor of Content Caregiver Magazine, International Coach Federation Certified Coach, Life Leadership Coach, and Positive Approach to CareTrainer.Betsy and Rayna discussed her book, and the magazine for Caregivers. Rayna was a Caregiver to both of her parents who had Alzheimer's and discussed how she started her podcast to help caregivers know that they are not alone and to provide resources to help caregivers. Rayna discussed how her training as a Life Leadership Coach helped her with caregiving and transition to her business, A Season of Caring. Rayna discussed how important self-care is for the caregiver, and how important it is for the caregiver to check in on themselves by asking the following questions, How am I doing? What's going well?Rayna also suggested asking yourself the same questions about your loved one, How is your loved one doing?, What's going well? Rayna helps caregivers by making space for them, asking the caregivers, What's important to you? and encouraging to maintain their own life while caregiving.For more contact information: Help caregivers know that they are not alone

Ever felt lost in caregiving? Have you struggled with the grief and transformation that comes with this journey? Rayna Neises, your host, engages in a conversation with Debra Hallisey, a veteran caregiver and the brain behind Advocate for Mom and Dad. Debra candidly opens up about her nine-year-long caregiving journey, emphasizing the significance of self-care and self-compassion in this challenging season. They discuss the often-neglected subjects of caregiver grief and trauma. The persistence of fight/flight/fear mode, even post-caregiving, and overlooked caregiver grief is something they delve into. Also pondering delayed grief, an emotion common among caregivers managing a multitude of life circumstances. But it's not all gloom! This episode also brings out the transformative power of caregiving, and how it fosters self-awareness and deeper relationships. Debra reflects on her journey of finding peace despite her grief.  She also discussed how God is always present and how caregiving changed her relationship with her mother. This episode is a treasure trove of heartfelt stories and practical insights for anyone also in a caregiving season.

Can love bloom amidst the challenges of caregiving? Join me, Rayna Neises, as we explore this question with our special guest Deb Farris.  Deb is a former equity actor, singer, dancer and caregiver for her parents. Despite the obstacles she encountered, she found an extraordinary strength to love and take care of her parents.  Her father's stories from his childhood, his passion for horses, and their shared meals became an inspiration for her writing and faith.Deb takes us on a heartfelt journey of her deepening faith as she navigated through her caregiving season. This transformative period in her life revealed her own gifts and brought unexpected joy even amidst difficult times. Through her faith, she found hope and healing, and she encourages all of us to do the same. Her journey is a testament to how faith can be a beacon of light even in our darkest hours, and it's a story that needs to be heard.  As we conclude this enlightening episode, she reflects on how her daily practice of reading the Bible and praying has transformed her life. She emphasizes the importance of allowing the Holy Spirit to interpret the Bible to us and to listen for God's voice in all aspects of our lives. Deb's message of finding hope and purpose is truly inspiring. Listen in as she shares her words of wisdom for caregivers, including the crucial importance of self-care. If you're seeking hope and resilience in the face of great challenges, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in as we explore Deb's incredible journey.

Rayna Neises, your host, welcomes Shelli Virtue. Shelli is a pastor's daughter, wife, homeschool mom, and full-time caregiver to her disabled adult son. She has a deep desire to encourage women to be the best possible, woman, wife, and mother they can be. Shelli is also an author.  She shares the following insights based on her caregiving journey:[4:29] Each generation looks at disabilities in a different way.[10:31] Questions are welcomed . . . would rather them learn and understand.[13:00] God has shown up by giving strength and grace to deal with caregiving daily.[14:09] Writing can help and can be part of self-care.[16:16] Not all prayers are answered in the way that you want them to be, so learn to become the answer to your own prayer.[20:49] Connect with Shelli on her website shellivirtue.com, Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest. She has a weekly devotional available to help grow your relationships deeper and stronger.Shelli's story is also available in the Spring Edition of Content Magazine.

Rayna Neises, your host, welcomes Nanette Holloway.  Nanette is a registered nurse who loves to write. She is passionate about caregivers after her own journey with both of her parents who had cancer. Nanette knows firsthand the gift of a long goodbye and the physical, mental, and emotional challenges culminating in caregiver role strain. She leads a caregiver support group and her book series for caregivers offers a holistic approach to self-care with the inclusion of scripture and prayers. The series includes Coping Skills for Caregivers, Coping Skills for Caregivers Workbook Gratitude Journal, and Before You Depart.  Nanette shares the following insights based on her caregiving journeys: [6:42] God is present in end-of-life situations and loves to be invited in.[7:45] Caregiving is exhausting.[7:49] Anticipatory grief is what we feel when we know someone is going to be leaving us.[8:19] You are on an emotional rollercoaster and just have to hang on.[12:19] At the end of the caregiving season, you can know that God will never leave you or forsake you.[12:49] Adopt a mindset with others of love and acceptance.[13:58] Give yourself grace.[14:34] Hang on to the good moments.This episode was brought to you by Content Magazine, an electronic quarterly magazine available to help you find God in the middle of your caregiving season.

Rayna Neises, your host, welcomes back Jammie Johnson. Jammie is an academic advisor, Wyandotte- Leavenworth Areawide Advisory Council on Aging member, motivational speaker, and certified caregiver. She has cared for both her parents and an aunt. Jammie is also the founder of The Caregiver's Friend where she provides resources, tips, and strategies to help caregivers navigate their caregiving journey with peace. She shares the following insights based on her caregiving journeys:[3:28] Caregiving often begins well before you realize it.[5:05] When invited to doctor's appointments, you know things have changed, and they are comfortable letting you into their personal space.[5:45] Don't get frustrated. [7:07] As a caregiver, we sometimes feel like nobody notices.[8:10] Being a caregiver can be rewarding, and the opportunity allows for tremendous growth.[10:19] God showed up with an abundance of peace and support.[13:41] Carve out time every day to take care of yourself.[15:36] Connect with Jammie online at her website www.thecaregiversfriendkc.com and on Facebook in the private group The Caregiver Crew (https://www.facebook.com/groups/thecaregivercrew).This episode was brought to you by No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season. Check out the special gift set available at www.noregrets-book.com. It would make a great gift for your mom, grandmother, aunt, or anyone you know who is caring for someone they love.

Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Charlaine Martin.  Charlaine has been a three-time caregiver for her mom, dad, and late husband.  She is a contributing author in the Live and Learn Unexpected Lessons from God's Classroom.  Charlaine loves helping others see God's involvement in everyday life.  She lives in Florida with her second blessing, and they enjoy spending time with their grandchildren. Charlaine shares the following insights:[3:01] There are a lot of blessings when spending time caring for your loved one.[5:42] At times, you have to bite your tongue.[9:12] Scripture tells us that we are not alone.  Even when we think we are, we are not.[11:36] You learn along the way.[13:51] You grow closer to the person you are caring for.[15:10] Permission from your loved one can make a big difference.[17:28] Just have a willing heart and continue to learn in each season.Connect with Charlaine through her website at www.charlainemartin.com.This episode was brought to you by Content Magazine, an electronic quarterly magazine to help you find God during your caregiving season. The Spring edition was released last week!  Visit www.ContentMagazine.online to learn more.

Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Phylis Mantelli.  Phylis is an author, coach, podcaster, mentor, mom, wife, and grandmother. Phylis' book is titled, “Unmothered: Life with a Mom Who Couldn't Love Me”.  She is currently writing her second book, “Six Life Lessons of Growing up with a Dysfunctional Mother.”  Phylis shares the following insights based on her long caregiving journey with her mother.[3:19] Caregiving can help you learn about grace and forgiveness.[5:18] Learning to set boundaries is important.[8:55] There is a fine line between what you can handle, what is good for the family, and what is good for the one being cared for, and you must look at it from all angles. [12:27] At times God encourages us to stay the course, hold on, and be in the moment.[18:05] Listen to the stories of the past.[23:39] Hold on for one more day. Tomorrow might look different.[25:51] You could be called to care for one parent, but not both.[27:40] Support caregivers are just as important as the primary caregiver.[29:34] Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself first.Learn more about Phylis Mantelli and her books at her website www.PhylisMantelli.com.This episode was brought to you by Content Magazine, an electronic quarterly magazine to help you find God during your caregiving season. The Spring edition launches April 1st, so pre-order now! Visit www.ContentMagazine.online to learn more.

Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Amanda Schaefer.  Amanda is an author, speaker, and podcast host.  Having majored in dramatic writing at New York University, she would never have imagined using everything she learned there to create a Christian podcast that has a worldwide audience.  Amanda's goal was to provide a platform for people to share their stories and as a result, to share God's story.  She has a few new books on the horizon and some collective efforts around the bend and is ready for each opportunity to share the gospel in every way that she can.  Amanda shares the following insights based on her caregiving experience and from her caregiving journey with her parents:[3:57] Caregiving is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity that comes with difficulties and transitions, but overall, it is something to choose again and again.[6:00] A sense of humor can shift everything.[6:18] Remember to be on the same team.[7:17] Preparing for caregiving:Be prayerfulBe intentionalSet boundariesTalk about things ahead of timeKnow what is needed to keep yourself safe and healthy[10:57] Include your loved one in the plans for change vs. coming in and taking over.[15:09] Caregiving is one of those times when you get to love like Jesus.[15:40] Learning how to respond instead of reacting is a key thing.[17:23] Be quick to listen and slower to speak.[18:22] Be preparatory and think things out.Amanda's podcast, A Cup of Gratitude, is available on all major podcast platforms.This episode was brought to you by Content Magazine, an electronic quarterly magazine available today to help you find God during your caregiving season. Visit ContentMagazine.online to learn more.

This week I speak with Rayna Neises who understands the joys and challenges that come from a season of caring. She helped care for both of her parents during their separate battles with Alzheimer's over a thirty-year span. She says she can look back on those days now with no regrets – and she wishes the same for everyone caring for aging parents. Rayna is the author of No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season, creator of Content Magazine, an ICF certified coach, the host of “A Season of Caring” podcast, Positive Approach® to Care (PAC)Independent Certified Trainer and speaker who is passionate about offering encouragement, support, and resources for regret-free caring aimed at preventing family caregivers from aimlessly wandering through this important season of life. Rayna lives on a farm in southeast Kansas with her husband, Ron, and a small pack of adorable dogs. She is the baby of her family, but most would never guess that. She is a former teacher who enjoys crafts of all kinds and spending time with her grandkids most of all. We look at Rayna's life from her childhood up to her current ministry and see clearly the hand of God working in her life! She is an amazing resource for those who find themselves in a season of caring for others. You won't want to miss this inspiring episode!http://www.aseasonofcaring.com/ *Theme Music “Blessed Time” by Ketsa 

Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Tryn Rose Seley.  Tryn is an award-winning author and a master teaching artist.  Through her experience with the creative arts, she has witnessed profound transformations in people living with dementia.  Tryn wrote about what she has learned to teach others to bring out the best in each other, to develop positive relationships, and to build trust between care partners.  She plays guitar and mountain dulcimer and enjoys the beautiful world around her through gardening, bird watching, and photography.   Tryn shares the following insights:[3:26]  People are what they love.[7:26]  Just because they don't recall it, doesn't mean it didn't happen.[9:01]  If you know about rituals and special things important in the person's life, do those things, and the person will respond and come back to the surface.[12:43]  Give them a chance to show what they have and what they can do.[14:10]  Magic can happen when you make that connection of the heart.[17:10]  Using music, stories, and art includes almost everyone because different people respond to different things.[20:35]  Lead from the heart and from the joy of what we can expect in a day.[22:23]  Tryn's caregiver book titled, “15 Minutes of Fame: One Photo Does Wonders to Bring You Both Back to Solid Ground”, can be found on her website, www.caregiverheart.com.  She also contributed a chapter in a book, “Dementia-Friendly Worship,” which is available on Amazon.This episode was brought to you by Content Magazine, an electronic quarterly magazine designed to help you find God during your caregiving season. Learn more at www.ContentMagazine.online.

Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Suzi Colthurst. Suzi has always loved helping people and is passionate about dignifying people who experience challenges communicating. As a Speech Language Pathologist, she specialized in helping those who struggled with dementia. After Suzi became her parents' primary advocate, she realized that putting all of this together is where she wanted to bring value to others. Suzi is now a dementia specialist who empowers others to help keep their parents safe at home without breaking the bank and burnout. She shares the following insights:[4:30] Offering respite and support is an important piece when you are not the everyday hands-on person.[5:17] If you don't laugh, you are going to cry, so you might as well laugh.[6:42] Seize the moment and be present.[8:08] The constant guilt while caregiving can be surprising.[12:19] When you are deep in, it is hard to look past the problem.[12:58] God shows up to comfort, but also to help carry the burden.[17:08] You can honor your loved one without dishonoring yourself.[18:20] Care from overflow and love vs. guilt.[19:03] Caregiving was never meant to be toxic over all other areas in yourlife.This episode was brought to you by Content Magazine, an electronic quarterlymagazine available today to help you find God during your caregiving season.Visit www.ContentMagazine.online to subscribe.

#119: At age 16, Rayna began caring for both of her parents during their separate battles with Alzheimer's over a thirty-year span. She chats how she had the strength to be a caregiver everyday, the importance of hiring a team for help, and the importance of faith during this time.Today, Rayna is an Author, Speaker, Podcaster, ICF Certified Coach, and a Positive Approach® to Care (PAC) Independent Certified Trainer. She is now able to look back on those days with no regrets – and she wishes the same for everyone caring for aging parents.Rayna's EbbsCaring for aging parentsCaring for parents with Alzheimer's DiseaseRayna's GlowsLearning the importance of hiring helpLearning how to navigate this season of her life with no regretsEncouraging others to make the choices that will help them bury their parent with no regretsLet's Connect!Looking for a Toronto Realtor?: Book An Intro CallJenelle Tremblett: Website | Instagram | TikTokPodcast: Website | Instagram | TikTokRayna Neises: Website | Podcast

Rayna Neises, your host, interviews Tonja Moon. Tonja is a mother, businessowner, geriatric advocate, healthcare marketing strategist, and certified dementiacare specialist. With over 15 years of leadership experience in the hospice andgeriatric mental healthcare areas, her background is broad and dynamic. Afterseeing how baby dolls and stuffed animals helped her grandmother, Ruby, whohad dementia, Tonja started The Grand Baby Project. The organization deliversbaby dolls to assisted living and memory care communities, free of charge,bringing comfort to those who receive them. Tonya shares the following insights:[2:54] When you put a doll in the arms of someone with dementia, their entire face lights up, and it takes them to a happy place, even if they never had children of their own.[9:50] One of the hardest things to learn is to meet them where they are. It isnot about us, but instead about them.[11:30] Giving them a purpose goes a long way.[12:03] Staying in the moment can make such a big difference.[13:13] The disease can be harder on the family than it is on the patient.[17:15] Sometimes, we have to change our hobbies due to the limitations ofcaregiving.[21:02] Connect with Tonya at www.TheGrandBabyProject.org or on theFacebook Page at https://www.facebook.com/grandbabyproject. Ways to be apart of the mission:Purchase a baby doll for a loved oneDonate items via the group's Amazon WishlistPurchase a baby doll to be given to someonePurchase diapers and other baby items to be distributedSew or knit baby items and send them to be distributed

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Encore Episode #1, Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Carlos Olivas III.  Carlos was a guest last year on the podcast and immediately comes to mind when thinking about advocacy.  In fact, in December of 2022 Carlos was honored as being a Congressional Advocate of the Year in California.  Since 2016, he has been the primary caregiver for his father living with Alzheimer's.  During this caregiving season, Carols has been able to connect, encourage, and empathize with caregivers from around the world.  The journey has inspired him to advocate for elder health policy and the practice of self-care for caregivers.  Rayna and Carlos share the following insights on caregiving and advocacy:Eldercare policy is not something in the mainstream media.We need to look after our elders with dignity and love.Institutions and policies already in place need to be reviewed.People need to be given information and educational resources to assist them with end-of-life eldercare challenges.Contact your officials on issues that can help you. Have a conversation or send a letter to let them know what will make a difference for caregivers.Share your stories with all who will listen.Utilize the Alzheimer's Associations 24/7 Helpline at 1-(800)-272-3900 and the information they provide to help with advocacy.Advocate for research that includes all demographics.Sponsored by Content Magazine a quarterly faith-based electronic magazine for family caregivers.

Encore Episode #2, Rayna Neises, your host, speaks with Elizabeth Landsverk, MD.  Dr. Liz trained at Harvard and has been a geriatrician for over 20 years.  She served as Assistant Professor of Medicine at USC and was a consultant to the Elder Abuse Forensic Center in San Francisco. She shares her experiences in a new book released at the end of May, ‘Living in the Moment: A Guide to Overcoming Challenges and Finding Moments of Joy in Alzheimer's Disease and Other Dementias'.  Dr. Liz shares the following insights:(2:00) First challenges are when someone's behaviors start to change regardless of their age.(3:04) Quick tests to determine if more evaluation is needed:Draw a clock showing 10 minutes after 11:00Calculate 25% of $22.50(4:15) Every county will have a Division on Aging and can direct you to resources.(8:00) Find a place where the staff is doing activities with them and they look like they enjoy being there.(9:16) You should not use medication for someone bored or not sleeping, but there are cases when it is needed to take the angry edge off.(11:05) The top two treatments for agitation are Tylenol and ice cream.(14:53) To find a geriatric doctor, look for medical schools with memory/geriatrics clinic or the VA.(17:08) Liz's book provides a step-by-step guide from diagnosis to the end and is available on Amazon.com.(19:10) We need to help families figure out how they are going to pay for support.Sponsored by Content Magazine pre-orders starting next week

This week, on our #3 most listened to podcast in 2022, Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Susan Stern.  Susan is a wife, mother, and family caregiver.  After 20 years as a speech-language pathologist, she changed her career path to pursue her calling to support other caregivers.  Susan became a certified coach and started her business helping overwhelmed family caregivers improve their self-care and life balance.  She now helps family caregivers to be strong during one of life's most challenging seasons.  Susan shared the following tips: Cultivate a sense of trust and respect.View the relationship as a partnership in care.Get the legal paperwork in place right away.Find a way to support their independence for as long as possible.A lack of good self-care can cost you your health.Meditation can be helpful in self-care.Make memories doing the things they can still do.Try to have calm body language.Be present with your loved one.Permit yourself not to be perfect.When faced with an urgent decision, stop, breathe, and look for options.Protect your health.Prioritize your self-care.Develop good morning and evening routines.Keep your medical appointments.Find an emotional support system.Manage stress.Identify moments of joy.Remember something funny to get you through a hard day.Get in touch with Susan at her website SpringtoLifeCoaching.com

This week, we have Encore Episode #4 where Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Deb Hallisey. Debra lost her job due to her caregiving responsibilities with her mother and, as a result, founded Advocate for Mom and Dad, LLC. In addition, based on her experiences, she has authored a book that provides a step-by-step guide for discussing relationship issues. Debra uses personal stories to illustrate how these techniques healed her relationship with her mom. She is also a Certified Caregiving Consultant, Educator, Advocate, and Certified Dementia Practitioner. She provides the following insights:Caregiving changes all your relationships.Summarize what you are willing to do and what you are not willing to do.Do things where you feel heard, understood, and validated.Unexposed expectations and boundaries need to be addressed.When asking for a change, do not end with a yes or no question.Recognize the frustration and ask, “Is this a reasonable request?”Self-awareness is key.Use the drip method when asking for help.When others are helping ask yourself, Is it ‘wrong' or just ‘different'?Think about what can help you, write it down, and make it a S.M.A.R.T. ask.Write down the way they want to live and figure out if that is something you or someone else can do.Find resources from Debra at www.advocateformomanddad.com, and her book, Your Caregiving Relationship Contract, is available on Amazon.Caregivers, you are doing the best you can, so give yourself grace.

This week, we have Encore Episode #5 where Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Lauren Dykovitz.  Lauren is a writer, author, wife, and dog mom.  She became a family caregiver when her mother was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer's in July 2010 when Lauren was only 25.  Lauren started the Life, Love, and Alzheimer's blog and social media pages to document her journey and share her experiences.  She has written two books, and last year started offering online mentoring services for Alzheimer's daughters.  Lauren has made it her mission to help others on their caregiving journey and shares the following.  The journey can be difficult, isolating, and hard to accept.Memory issues are not the only symptom of Alzheimer's. Other things like having problems doing things they have always done, becoming withdrawn and less talkative, and vision problems can be signs too.The diagnosis can feel like death because the relationship you knew or hoped for will never look that way.Put the focus on your loved one and try to make them happy and bring joyful moments into their life.Be mindful and live in the moment.Connecting over the shared bond is powerful. The more you share your story and talk about it, the more you realize you are not alone.To connect with Lauren, you can find her on social media and at her website at https://lifeloveandalzheimers.com/. You can find her books on Amazon.

Rayna Neises, your host, interviews Kari Bartkus. After seeing too many people go through hardship alone, Kari was determined to show up and be present with those around her who were hurting. She started the organization Love Does That where she serves as a spiritual director to hurting women. Kari uses a modern-day letter-writing approach for those drawn to quiet spaces and written words. She shares the following insights: [3:00] Grief is any kind of loss that we are experiencing.[5:00] The person receiving care is grieving too and they might not be aware of that.[6:00] Processing is the act of slowing down and thinking about what is going on. [10:26] A warning sign that you are not processing the grief is when you quickly turn your attention somewhere else.[11:21] Grief will show up in your body.[13:43] An outside perspective can help identify changes that have happened.[17:23] Handling other people's comments takes knowing where you are at and how you process.[20:02] If you do not know, try different things, and just pay attention to what helps you and what does not.[21:17] Grief changes over time.[22:19] Download a free grief journal at www.LoveDoesThat.org/griefjournal.

Rayna Neises, ACC, host, reflects on her interview last week with Angie Rischpater (Episode 143). Angie is a physical therapist and she shared how, as a caregiver, you can be an observer or a detective to help your loved one. Instead of swooping in and taking, you can just support. Rayna continues with the topic offering the following suggestions:[1:32] Deal with the problem and not the symptom by digging down and finding the root of the problem.[3:29] Steps to becoming a good observer:[3:45] Understand the difference between observing and looking[4:15] Be mindful of your surroundings and practice[5:21] Pay attention to the details[6:29] Refrain from judgment[7:18] Slow down[8:00] Let the person you are caring for do what they can do.[8:52] The learner (growth) vs. the judger (fixed) mindset.[11:45] Learning to stay in the learner mindset can change how we interact with our loved one and how we support them.[13:45] Check out Marilee Adams' book, “Change Your Questions. Change Your Life” and visit inquiryinstitute.com for a free download of the Choice Map.[14:04] This episode has been brought to you by Content Magazine, a quarterly electronic magazine designed to help you find God in your caregiving season, coming in January 2023.

Rayna Neises author of No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season, ICF certified coach, Positive Approach® to Care Independent Certified Trainer, the host of “A Season of Caring” podcast, and speaker is passionate about supporting daughters and sons in a season of caring with their aging parents. Rayna lost both of her parents to Alzheimer's disease twenty years apart. After her season of caring for her dad through his journey, she founded A Season of Caring where she offers regret-free resources, encouragement, and support aimed at preventing family caregivers from aimlessly wandering through this important season of life. Rayna lives on a farm in southeast Kansas with her husband, Ron, and a small pack of adorable dogs. She is the baby of her family, but most would never guess. In her free time, Rayna enjoys crafts of all kinds and spending time with her grandkids most of all. ✨A few highlights from the show: 1. Caregiving is a new season and you can't do all that you did in your season before. You have to make room! 2. Set clear expectations for in-home care providers. Share routines and document things so they are aware of your expectations. However, identify expectations for yourself first and write them down. 3. When you become a caregiver you are managing. 4. Gift your favorite caregiver CARE for the Caregiver affirmation cards. Give some encouragement

Rayna Neises, your host, speaks with Angie Rischpater. Angie is an occupational therapist with over 20 years of experience. She helps family caregivers by teaching both a preventative and restorative approach to care which allows the caregiver to live a life beyond caregiving. While still working part-time in acute care at a hospital, Angie also offers private and group caregiver coaching. In addition, she writes and is a webinar host for Caregiving.com. Angie shares her mission, to ensure that caregivers have the power to design their experience using a therapeutic perspective, and provides the following insights:  (6:53)  Don't do everything for them. Instead, coach the person toward greater mobility, cognition, and independence.(10:00)  Think about how you can work towards a common goal with the person you are caring for.(13:08)  Figure out which deficit area is impacting you most.(16:00)  Eliminate the barrier areas.(17:06)  Become more of a coach than a caregiver.(21:00)  Falls are almost always avoidable.(25:00)  Investing upfront to get your time back in the end.  (26:08)  Make every activity that you can into a therapeutic event.(27:47)  Find Angie on Facebook at Caregiver By Design (https://www.facebook.com/caregiverbydesign/), on TikTok, and on her podcast (Caregiver by Design) where ever you get your podcasts.Thank you for what you do!

Rayna Neises, ACC, host, reflects on caregiver identity and self-compassion from her interview last week with Charlotte Bayala (Episode 141). Rayna continues with those topics offering the following information:[1:40]  Putting on a caregiver identity can take some time.[3:00]  The caregiving season can surprise many people with how it impacts your identity.[4:00]  Caregiver is just another hat.[5:00]  Extending grace to yourself is something to work on.[6:00]  Ways to offer grace:[6:57]  Thinking about how you evaluate your mistakes or actions can help you have a picture of how to be a little kinder to yourself.[9:14]  Focusing on your behavior and not on who you are as a person can benefit you and make the situation better next time.[9:38]  Ask, “How would you treat a friend?”[13:29]  Your parents would not want you to give up everything.  [15:50] This episode is brought to you by the Encouragement Series. It starts November 8th – 18th and is a free series offering you hope, inspiration, and encouragement. Visit www.EncouragementSeries.com to be a part.

This week, Rayna Neises, your host, speaks with Charlotte Bayala. Charlotte used her training and experience as a yoga instructor and meditation teacher to enjoy her caregiving experience with her husband who had thyroid cancer. She is the creator of the Love Your Caregiving Life podcast and the Caregiving Confessions monthly digital magazine. Charlotte uses her skills and knowledge to help other caregivers find easier ways to love their lives again and to support them on their way to thriving instead of just surviving. She provides the following insights:  (9:00)  You have to just come to a place where you feel happy with the results(12:00)  It is important to go on the journey to figure out how to be you while loving, serving, and caring for your loved one.(13:00)  Once becoming a caregiver, you have to figure out who the new person is.(16:27)  Caregivers need something they can do every day for self-care. (20:50)  Caregivers do deserve to enjoy their lives, and the perfect time is right now.(21:43)  Self-care needs to be a requirement and not a gift or prize.(25:06)  Put resources and time into helping you and figuring out what you need(26:58)  Caregivers need a team of their own.(30:02)  Find Charlotte at www.LoveYourCaregivingLife.com.  (30:18)  This episode has been brought to you by the Encouragement Series starting November 8th. You will learn from some amazing women how to implement self-care in a different way. It is a free series available in bite-size pieces. Sign up today at www.EncouragementSeries.com.

Rayna Neises, ACC, host, reflects on her interview last week with Carolyn Birrell (Episode 139).  Carolyn is the author of Walking with Fay: A Mother's Unchartered Path into Dementia. While describing her caregiving journey, she talked about how difficult it was to navigate knowing when and how to step in to offer support for her mother. Since most everyone will deal with this issue, Rayna continues with the topic offering the following suggestions:[1:10]  There are eight areas to consider when determining whether or not parents need more support:[2:00]  Family Relationships[4:13]  Home Safety[6:03]  Medical Needs[7:27]  Cognitive Health[10:33]  Mobility[12:19]  Meals/Meal Prep[13:02]  Social Interaction[13:48]  Personal Hygiene[15:43]  Use this free survey (www.aseasonofcaring.com/2022/10/20/knowing-when-and-how-to-step-in/) to assess and reassess the situation.[17:52]  If you are concerned, there are people who can support you in having these conversations.[19:12]  The more things you talk about with your parents, the more you know their immediate needs and also their desires for the future.  [19:52] This episode is brought to you by the Encouragement Series which offers inspiration, encouragement, and hope during this season of your life. Enrollment is open now at www.EncouragementSeries.com for this free series that will help you take care of yourself while caring for them.

Rayna Neises, your host, speaks with Carolyn Birrell.  Carolyn worked for the American Cancer Society at their National Headquarters and then as a real estate agent before retiring to Idaho. Soon after her move across the county, Carolyn made the difficult decision to relocate her aging mother, Fay, to be near her. She then spent the next eight years caring for Fay while she journeyed with dementia. Carolyn's documentation of their time together led to her book, “Walking with Fay”. She describes it as the book she was searching for but could not find during her time as a caregiver. She provides the following insights:  (5:14)  Typically, caregiving for a parent falls on one child's shoulders. (7:00)  When caring for a person with dementia, it is at times necessary to just answer their questions in a way you think is going to make them happy.(8:00)  Deciding when the time is right to take over your loved one's care can be difficult.(14:00)  The pages of her book came from email interactions she had with friends describing the situations she experienced while caring for her mother.(16:27)  The book is unique in that Carolyn admitted her mistakes and her feelings for the average reader to benefit from.(17:07)  Contact Carolyn at her website www.carolynbirrell.com and order her book there or anywhere you can buy books online.  (17:42)  Please leave reviews online as they are very important for the algorithms used by the sites as well as enabling others to find the book.  (18:07)  This conversation has been brought to you by the Encouragement Series created just for you to encourage, inspire, and offer you hope in this season of life. By joining, you can learn some new tips and tricks to help you take care of yourself. Enroll today at www.EncouragementSeries.com.

Rayna Neises, ACC, host, reflects on her interview last week with Dr. Ed Smink (Episode 137).  Dr. Ed shared his personal experience with burnout and how important it is to be aware of compassion fatigue. Rayna continues the conversation with tips on how leaning into love and respite can help overcome this condition for family caregivers:[1:06]  Compassion fatigue is described as a condition characterized by emotional and physical exhaustion, leading to a diminished ability to empathize or feel compassion for others.[6:27]  What would happen if you wrapped him in a hug and told him you loved him[9:00]  Leaning into love is one of the things you can do when you begin to focus on the task more than the person.[11:40]  Finding respite at home:[11:47]  Identify roadblocks.[12:36]  Ask for help.[13:42]  Brainstorm ideas.[14:32]  Do it![15:01]  True compassion fatigue will take more than a little respite, but start small and explore what you can do to re-energize.[15:45]  This episode is brought to you by the Encouragement Series, a special gift coming in November.  Visit www.EncouragementSeries.com to sign up to learn more about this faith-based series that will offer you hope in this difficult season.  

Rayna Neises, your host, speaks with Dr. Edward M. Smink, Ph.D.  Dr. Ed is a speaker, coach, and author of The Soul of Caregiving: A Caregiver's Guide to Healing and Transformation.  He holds multiple degrees including two M.A.s and a Ph. D in Psychology.  In addition, Dr. Ed holds a title as a Board Certified Chaplain and an Associate Coach. He attributes his skills to his experience at the bedside as well as to overcoming severe compassion fatigue and burnout.  Dr. Ed offers hope now to caregivers suffering from similar issues.  He provides the following insights:(3:34) Often times caregivers feel guilty when they ask for help.(6:33) Compassion Fatigue is not a mental illness, but instead something we all experience when we care to the point of exhaustion.(10:23) Three cultural taboos that prevent caregivers from seeking help:(10:26) If you just keep trying harder, you can get it done.(11:23) Don't talk to anyone about your experiences.(12:35) Don't show emotion.(16:40) Compassion Resilience means you are able to absorb a situation and not have it take you off-balance.(20:18) It is important to be able to find the boundary to take on what you need to, but allow the rest to come off.(22:38) Self-care is the ability to reflect and take care of yourself.(25:04) Contact Dr. Ed at his website soulofcaregiving.com and order his book there or on Amazon.(25:33) When you find yourself overwhelmed, do the easiest thing.(27:11) This episode is brought to you by the Encouragement Series: Hope Over Regrets. This free faith-based series will be coming in November.  If you would like to receive updates, visit EncouragementSeries.com.

Rayna Neises, ACC, host, reflects on her interview last week with Deb Kelsey-Davis (Episode 125). Deb shared how technology impacted her caregiving season and helped her with self-care. Rayna continues the conversation with tips on how creating routines can be a helpful tool for caregivers. In addition, she explores how faith can impact caregiving: [1:00] The key to self-care is that it is not a one-time event but instead an ongoing routine or habit.[2:25] When we make time for things we love and schedule in fun, we have a happier life overall. [4:13] Think about the routines you have in place and then add to them.[6:00] Using a habit tracker can help you add healthy habits into your life and it will help with consistency.[7:25] Give yourself grace as you can always start again tomorrow.[9:00] Nourish for Caregivers (www.nourishforcaregivers.com) provides aneffective faith-based program to minister to the practical, emotional, and spiritual needs of caregivers.[10:20] Caregivers are invited to attend the weekly support group, House Calls, every Tuesday at 10:00 AM CST via Zoom. Join at: House Calls Registration.[13:13] Spirituality can provide relief from the endless routines of caregiving and also life-changing crises.[14:16] Make sure that you continue to include the faith journey in your caregiving.[17:21] Consider the person you are caring for and their spiritual growth.[19:00] This episode is brought to you by the Encouragement Series: Hope Over Regrets. Visit www.EncouragementSeries.com for more details.

This week, Rayna Neises, your host, speaks with Deb Kelsey-Davis.  Deb is the Co-Founder of Sagacity.care, Co-Founder of Nourish for Caregivers, a clinician, speaker, and bestselling author. Her passion is supporting caregivers with practical, emotional, and spiritual resources necessary to maintain their financial, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being. She draws on her experience of over 40 years in healthcare and her personal experience caring for her aging parents. She provides the following support: (3:06) Remote caregiving is not lesser of a job and it can be done.(7:23) )  Sagacity.care is an app that can help caregivers organize and store important pieces of information.(9:33) Technology can help fill in the gaps.(13:08) Step one is to identify and create your Care Circle.(13:35) The second is to get organized.(14:00) Then, connect with others in the group.(14:19) The last piece is to share.(17:23) One self-care habit that helps Deb the most is starting the day with a cup of coffee, her Bible app, and prayer.(18:48) This episode was brought to you by the 5-Day Self-Care Challenge. This really simple 5-Day Challenge will help you consider your self-care (Sept. 19-24) Sign up at aseasonofcaring.com/selfcarechallenge

Rayna Neises, ACC, host, reflects on her interview last week with Betsy Wurzel Sloan who was a caregiver for her husband who had Early Onset Alzheimer's.  Betsy shared her experiences with her caregiving journey and explained that she gave herself permission to have Pity Parties. She also talked about the dying process. Rayna shares more on both important subjects:  [1:30]  Pity Parties are helpful and provide the opportunity to vent your feelings.[2:18]  Self-Pity can lead to Self-Compassion.[3:40]  There are many euphemisms for death and dying.[6:34]  When you hear some of the key phrases, ask for an explanation and more questions.[7:15]  The process of dying happens over an extended period.[11:25]  One to three months before death, there are both emotional and physical changes.  [12:37]  One to two weeks before, things move faster.[13:37]  Hospice can offer comfort through the dying process with medications for air hunger, pain, and anxiety.[15:42]  Many physical changes happen in the final weeks of life.[17:20]  Join the simple 5-Day Challenge to help you consider your self-care (September 19th – 24th).  Sign up at www.aseasonofcaring.com/selfcarechallenge

This week, Rayna Neises, your host, speaks with Betsy Wurzel Sloan.  Betsy is a retired nurse and teacher's aide who now has her own talk show. She is the caregiver for her special needs adult son, and she has helped her mother-in-law, father, and husband as they experienced Alzheimer's. Through the journey with her husband, Betsy feels that she found her gifts, power, and voice. She now works to raise awareness of Early Onset Alzheimer's with her mission to help no one walk the journey alone during caregiving or after. Betsy provides the following insights:  (5:00)  Live your life and enjoy it while taking your loved one out as much as possible.(5:41)  It can be easy to sit in a heap and feel sorry for yourself, but that is not going to do you or anyone else any good.(7:11)  With Alzheimer's, know that today is the best day you have, so go ahead and take advantage of that.(9:26)  Self-care is not an option.(12:59)  We need to validate and acknowledge our feelings and have a ‘pity party.'(14:19)  Remember that it does not matter what other people think.(16:55)  Knowledge is power.(18:25)  You know your loved one so go with your gut instinct.(21:19)  We all need to learn about the dying process.(25:13)  Find Betsy's show, ‘Chatting with Betsy' on Spotify, Streaker, Apple, Pod Chasers, and join her Facebook group #KickAlzheimersAssMovement | Facebook(26:07)  This episode was brought to you by ‘No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season.' Check out the special bundle, including a signed copy of the book, available for purchase at No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season - Rayna Neises: A Season of Caring.

Rayna Neises, ACC, host, shares two important tools to help caregivers manage the stress that can be experienced while caring for a loved one.  She shares examples and insight on reframing and “Both/And” Thinking:[2:21]  When we frame our experience with good in mind, it is easier to see the good[4:26]  Reframing helps you to see all of the picture, not just one little part.[5:15]  Take a deep breath and notice if ‘your camera is zoomed in' or your perspective is distorted.[5:39]  Reframing will help you strengthen your mental resolve.[6:36]  “Both/And” Thinking vs. “Either/Or” Thinking[7:50]  Unlike compromise which requires giving up something to agree, “Both/And” Thinking let's both exist together.[9:37]  Read more at: “Both/And” Thinking, Say What? – Undaunted [10:34]  “Both/And” Thinking creates breathing room and helps you to appreciate what you have lost and to appreciate what you have now.This episode has been brought to you by No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season. Purchase your signed copy and special bundle by visiting www.NoRegrets-book.com.  Once you have read it, please consider leaving a review at any major retailer or Goodreads.

This week, Rayna Neises, your host, speaks with Susanne White.  Susanne was able to care for her parents and venture out on a caregiving journey that would change her life.  She is now a blogger and author of the book, ‘Self Care for Caregivers' which will be released in early September.  Susanne shares her experience, strength, and hope with others so that they can survive caregiving with grace and empowerment.  She provides the following insights:  (5:07)  When caregiving, if you are trying to control or manipulate, your loved one will know that.(7:11)  Being more self-aware can help manage the fear.(9:02)  Caregivers cannot fix it all but can help it be as good as possible.(12:00)  Ask, ‘Do you want to be right?' or ‘Do you want to be happy?'(15:00)  Just like warriors, caregivers fight each day for their loved ones.(17:13)  Not being consulted or included in the conversation can be annoying for the person being cared for.  (19:32)  Take a few moments to look for the blessings.  (20:00)  Get your copy of Susanne's book containing 140 hacks for caregivers on her website, www.caregiverwarrior.com, or at all major retailers starting September 6th.(22:22)  This episode was brought to you by, ‘No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season.' Check out the special bundle available for purchase at No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season - Rayna Neises: A Season of Caring.  

Rayna Neises, ACC, host, reflects on her interview from last week with Pastor Rick Craig (Episode 129) and the discussion related to end-of-life preparations.  In his book, When It's Time: End-of-Life Planning at Any Age: Make it Part of Your Legacy.  Rayna shares more information on dealing with these tough issues related to end-of-life preparations:[2:09]  Know the difference between palliative care vs. hospice and that things have changed over the past 20 years.[3:30]  Understanding that palliative care might be an option for your loved one can be helpful.  [4:00]  Make sure wills are finalized, and that Advanced Directives and Do Not Resuscitate Orders are in place.[4:37]  Find helpful information at www.nia.nih.gov about making decisions for someone else at end-of-life.[6:30]  ‘Substituted Judgement' and ‘Best Interests' are two ways of helping to make decisions that you do not have black and white information about.  [9:23]  Ask specific questions that help you examine all the options.[12:21]  An Ethical Will (How To Write An Ethical Will | Everplans) is a will that shares your beliefs, values, and life lessons for future generations.  This episode has been brought to you by No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season. You can find it at all major book retailers and once you have read it, please consider leaving a review.

Our guest, Rayna Neises, has the story no one wants to have. Rayna  lost both of her parents to Alzheimer's disease 20 years apart.  Her mom was diagnosed when she was just 16, living 12 years with the disease.  Her dad lived 14 years with the disease being diagnosed just 6 years after her passing. But even still, Rayna feels blessed to be able to share her family's story of journeying through Alzheimer's Disease in her book No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season. Rayna understands the joys and challenges that come from a season of caring. She helped care for both of her parents during their separate battles with Alzheimer's over a thirty-year span.  And she is able to look back on those days now with no regrets – and she wishes the same for everyone caring for aging parents.No Regrets: Hope for Your Caregiving Season, is a book filled with her own heart-warming stories and practical suggestions for journeying through a caregiving season.Rayna is an ICF Associate Certified Coach with certifications in both Life and Leadership Coaching from the Professional Christian Coaching Institute.  She is the host of “A Season of Caring Podcast” and a passion speaker.Rayna lives on a farm in southeast Kansas with her husband, Ron, and small pack of adorable dogs. She is the baby of her family, but most would never guess that. She is a former teacher and enjoys crafts of all kinds and spending time with her grandkids most of all.  Facebook.com/ASeasonofCaringRaynaNeisesLinkedin.com/RaynaNeisesInstagram.com/RaynaNeisesPinterest.com/thcoachinghttps://twitter.com/raynaneiseshttps://www.ASeasonofCaring.comhttp://www.NoRegrets-book.comSupport the show