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We are continuing our Rainbow Valley discussion and focusing on the Meredith children's impulsive hijinks and the way the adults around them react, or don't react, to their shenanigans.  We take John Meredith to task, break down how the patriarchy has helped enable this situation and learn a little about what parentification is and why the Meredith kids are poster children for it! Inspired by: Kelly is inspired by Normal Women by Philippa Gregory. Ragon is inspired by All The Rage by Darcy Lockman and Fair Play by Eve Rodsky. If you want to get a free logo sticker from us, either leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or share your love for the pod on social media!  Send us a photo of your share or review at either our email: kindredspirits.bookclub@gmail.com or on our KindredSpirits.BookClub Instagram. 

Episodio 1301Hoy hablamos de rabia. De la que se despierta cuando llegas a la maternidad y descubres que lo de la crianza se supone que ya está prácticamente repartido a partes iguales, pero resulta que de eso nada. Ni por asomo.Hablamos a propósito del libro Toda la rabia, de Darcy Lockman con Rocío Niebla, editora de Capitán Swing, que lo ha publicado en nuestro país. Además escucharemos las aportaciones de María, Alba, Alfonso Ramos, Diana Oliver y Victoria Gabaldón.Publicaciones mencionadas:Perforar las masculinidades de Alfredo Ramoshttps://viruseditorial.net/libreria/perforar-las-masculinidades/Maternidades Precarias de Diana Oliverhttps://arpaeditores.com/products/maternidades-precariasMamagazine, editora Victoria Gabaldónhttps://www.mamagazine.es/Paternidad aquí y ahora de Máximo Peñahttps://arpaeditores.com/products/paternidad-aqui-y-ahoraLa doble jornada de Arlie R. Hochschild & Anne Machunghttps://capitanswing.com/libros/la-doble-jornada/Feminist parenting: Perspectives from Africa and Beyondhttps://demeterpress.org/books/feminist-parenting-perspectives-from-africa-and-beyond/Y aunque no lo mencionamos, por qué no recordar el libro de una servidora:Adiós expectativas, hola realidad de Mónica de la Fuentehttps://nordicbaby.es/producto/adios-expectativas-hola-realidad-monica-de-la-fuente/Web: https://madresfera.com/Newsletter mensual: https://www.madresfera.com/newsletter/ Conviértete en un seguidor de este podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/buenos-dias-madresfera--2023835/support.

Tema de maternidad, hemos hablado con Darcy Lockman que ha editado 'Toda la rabia' Patricia Peiró nos trae a Beatriz Rubín, abogada de la familia de Elisa Abruñedo. Nieves Concostrina nos acerca al 2 de mayo de 1519: Muere Leonardo, Francia conserva la Gioconda pero pierde al artista. Terminamos hablando con las investigadoras que han estudiado el legado literario de Enheduanna, la primera autora de la historia. 

​​Today's episode is a Comfort Food rerun featuring a conversation between Virginia, Amy Palanjian, and Darcy Lockman. Darcy is a clinical psychologist and author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership. All the Rage explores how egalitarian relationships become traditional ones when children are introduced to the household and why a disproportionate amount of parental work falls on women, no matter their background, class or professional statusDarcy's book was foundational for me in starting to understand this issue more deeply. One thing I really like about Darcy's work is that she does invite men into the conversation. It's not just ranting, it's about how we can change the conversation and move forward. And remember, if you order All the Rage from the Burnt Toast Bookshop, you can get 10 percent off if you also preorder (or have already preordered) Fat Talk (Just use the code FATTALK at checkout.)Fat Talk: Parenting In the Age of Diet Culture comes out April 25, 2023 from Henry Holt. Preorder a signed copy from Virginia's favorite independent bookstore, Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the US). Or order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, or Kobo or anywhere else you like to buy books. And! You can now preorder the audio book from Libro.fm or Audible.If you want more conversations like this one, please rate and review us in your podcast player and become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber to get all of Virginia's reporting and bonus subscriber-only episodes. Disclaimer: Virginia is a journalist and human with a lot of informed opinions. Virginia is not a nutritionist, therapist, doctor, or any kind of health care provider. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions she gives are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.LINKSDarcy's WebsiteKids Don't Damage Women's Careers — Men DoMommastrongCREDITSThe Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by me, Virginia Sole-Smith. You can follow me on Instagram, Twitter or TikTok. Burnt Toast transcripts and essays are edited and formatted by Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus, an Instagram account where you can buy and sell plus size clothing. The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe. Our theme music is by Jeff Bailey and Chris Maxwell. Tommy Harron is our audio engineer. Thanks for listening and supporting independent anti-diet journalism! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe

Do you feel like you're drowning in the mental load of motherhood? Many moms struggle with this. They find themselves falling into gender roles in the home without realizing it, and they don't know how to break out of the pattern.Today, I'm joined by Dr. Darcy Lockman, psychologist and author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership, to discuss why the gender imbalance in household labour happens and how to shift the dynamics in the home.Show Notes: https://bit.ly/3qsnkcx

In this episode, I introduce you to Corey and Stoney, the two new Peaceful Parenting Coaches here at Sarah Rosensweet Peaceful Parenting. We chat about our peaceful parenting journeys as well as our most influential parenting books over the years.   We go into: [1:45] Introducing Corey to the team [3:10] Introducing Stoney to the team [5:50] Sarah's most influential parenting books [8:35] Corey's most influential parenting books [13:00] Stoney's most influential parenting books [24:30] The importance of equal partnership [32:50] What to do if you're struggling with burnout    Resources mentioned in this episode Episode 24: Coaching call with Corey: When Peaceful Parenting Wasn't Enough Episode 47: Shame-Proof Parenting with Mercedes Samudio Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Marham  Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn  Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn   Shame Proof Parenting by Mercedes Samudio  Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne  The Soul of Discipline by Kim John Payne  Raising Human Beings by Ross Greene  Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky  Fair Play by Eve Rodsky  Impossible Parenting by Olivia Scobie  How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn  All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and The Myth of Equal Partnership by Darcy Lockman  Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

This episode we're talking about our Favourite Reads of 2021! We discuss our favourite fiction and non-fiction reads for the podcast (and not for the podcast) as well as other things that helped us get through the year! You can download the podcast directly, find it on Libsyn, or get it through Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, Spotify, or your favourite podcast delivery system. In this episode Anna Ferri | Meghan Whyte | Matthew Murray | RJ Edwards Bookshop.org list of (most) our our top titles https://bookshop.org/lists/favourite-reads-of-2021  Favourite Fiction For the podcast Matthew Dreamships by Melissa Scott (1992) Episode 131 - Cyberpunk Anna Her Body and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado (2017)  Episode 123 Psychological Horror  Tied with Episode 134 - Piranesi by Susanna Clarke Meghan Trouble and Her Friends by Melissa Scott (1995)  Episode 131 - Cyberpunk RJ The Devotion of Suspect X by Keigo Higashino, translated by Alexander O. Smith (Japanese 2005, translated 2011)  Episode 127 - Crime Fiction (But it's really Piranesi by Susanna Clarke) Not for the podcast Anna Minimum Wage Magic by Rachel Aaron (2018) Meghan Winter Tide by Ruthanna Emrys  (2017) RJ To Be Taught if Fortunate by Becky Chambers (2019) Episode 124 - Media (and Noodles) We've Recently Enjoyed Matthew Gideon the Ninth by Tamsyn Muir (2019) Favourite Non-Fiction For the podcast Meghan The Secret Life of Groceries: The Dark Miracle of the American Supermarket by Benjamin Lorr (2020) Episode 117 - Sociology Non-Fiction RJ The Language of the Night: Essays on Fantasy and Science Fiction by Ursula K. Le Guin (1992; originally 1979) Episode 125 - Literary Theory & Literary Criticism Matthew Evicted: Poverty and Profit in the American City by Matthew Desmond (2016) Episode 117 - Sociology Non-Fiction Anna All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership by Darcy Lockman (2019) Episode 117 - Sociology Non-Fiction Not for the podcast RJ Napkin by Carta Monir (2019) Episode 132 - Recent Media We've Enjoyed Matthew 19 Ways of Looking at Wang Wei by Eliot Weinberger (2016; originally 1987) Episode 132 - Recent Media We've Enjoyed Anna Having and Being Had by Eula Biss (2020) (except I feel guilty that this is the same author as last year's non-fic fav so I could also do Lower Ed: The Troubling Rise of For-Profit Colleges in the New Economy by Tressie McMillan Cottom) Meghan Three Squares: The Invention of the American Meal by Abigail Carroll (2013) Other Favourites Things of 2021 Anna Maintenance Phase & You're Wrong About (podcasts) RJ Unpacking (game) Matthew Barge Chilling Beach The Magic Fish by Trung Le Nguyen (2020) Meghan wandrer.earth Sacré dépanneur! by Judith Lussier (2010) Runner-Ups Matthew Books Typeset in the Future: Typography and Design in Science Fiction Movies by Dave Addey Episode 129 - Non-Fiction Film & TV Books The Skin We're In: A Year of Black Resistance and Power by Desmond Cole Comics (Twitter thread with more info on each title) Nicola Traveling Around the Demons' World by Asaya Miyanaga (4 volumes, complete) Episode 124 - Media (and Noodles) We've Recently Enjoyed The Girl from the Other Side: Siúil, A Rún by Nagabe, translated by Adrienne Beck (11 volumes, complete) Witch  Hat Atelier by Kamome Shirahama, translated by Stephen Kohler (8 volumes, ongoing) Episode 132 - Recent Media We've Enjoyed Spy x Family by Tatsuya Endo, translated by Casey Loe (6 volumes, ongoing) Episode 132 - Recent Media We've Enjoyed What Is Obscenity? The Story of A Good For Nothing Girl and Her Pussy by Rokudenashiko The Nib edited by Matt Bors Website Pulp and Reckless by Ed Brubaker, Sean Phillips, and Jacob Phillips  Super Fun Sexy Times by Meredith McClaren This is How I Disappear by Mirion Malle Scary manga: Kasane by Daruma Matsuura (14 volumes, complete) Sensor by Junji Ito (1 volume, complete) PTSD Radio by  Masaaki Nakayama (6 volumes, complete) Blood on the Tracks by Shūzō Oshimi (7 volumes, ongoing) Anna The Art of Cruelty by Maggie Nelson What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon Go Ahead in the Rain: Notes to A Tribe Called Quest by Hanif Abdurraqib Can't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation by Anne Helen Petersen How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy by Jenny Odell Meghan Fiction The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones (horror) The Story of My Teeth by Valeria Luiselli (literary fiction) No One Is Talking About This by Patricia Lockwood (literary fiction) Rabbits by Terry Miles (techno thriller) Non-fiction Bikes and Bloomers: Victorian Women Inventors and their Extraordinary Cycle Wear by Kat Jungnickel The Cold Vanish: Seeking the Missing in North America's Wildlands by Jon Billman  Paperbacks from Hell: The Twisted History of '70s and '80s Horror Fiction by Grady Hendrix  RJ Picture books!!! Ping by Ani Castillo Poojo's Got Wheels by Charrow Two Many Birds by Cindy Derby This Is Ruby by Sara O'Leary & Alea Marley Animals Brag About Their Bottoms by Maki Saito, translated by Brian Bergstrom Your Name Is a Song by Jamilah Thompkins-Bigelow & Luisa Uribe Someone Builds the Dream by Lisa Wheeler & Loren Long Comics Beetle and the Hollowbones by Aliza Layne The Magic Fish by Trung Le Nguyen Stargazing by Jen Wang Grease Bats by Archie Bongiovanni TV/Video Taskmaster Only Connect Puzzgrid: Only Connect wall-style puzzles Dimension 20 Mice & Murder Misfits & Magic Games Voyagers: A LARP Duet (PDF link) Other Media We Mentioned Snow Crash by Neal Stephenson Neuromancer by William Gibson On Immunity: An Inoculation by Eula Biss Red Spider White Web by Misha Nogha You Are Good (podcast) Animal Crossing: New Horizons (Wikipedia) Links, Articles, and Things Hark! Episode 300: Good to Better, Bad to Worse Secret Stacks Episode 65 Episode 116 - Best Books We Read in 2020 Episode 113 - Seeking Book Recommendations Episode 114 - Hot Cocoa & Book Recommendations Dude Chilling Park (Wikipedia) 20 Philosophy books by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) Authors Every month Book Club for Masochists: A Readers' Advisory Podcasts chooses a genre at random and we read and discuss books from that genre. We also put together book lists for each episode/genre that feature works by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) authors to help our listeners diversify their readers' advisory. All of the lists can be found here. The Promise of Happiness by Sarah Ahmed Tsawalk: A Nuu-chah-nulth Worldview by Umeek / E Richard Atleo The Location of Culture by Homi K. Bhabha Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds by Adrienne Maree Brown Are Prisons Obsolete? by Angela Y. Davis The Wretched of the Earth by Frantz Fanon Pedagogy of the Oppressed by Paulo Freire Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center by bell hooks The God Equation: The Quest for a Theory of Everything by Michio Kaku Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches by Audre Lorde Memory Serves: Oratories by Lee Maracle Cruising Utopia: The Then and There of Queer Futurity by José Esteban Muñoz Everyday Ubuntu: Living Better Together, the African Way by Mungi Ngomane Decolonising the Mind: The Politics of Language in African Literature by Ngũgĩ wa Thiong'o Mexican Philosophy in the 20th Century: Essential Readings edited by Carlos Alberto Sánchez & Robert Eli Sanchez Jr. As We Have Always Done: Indigenous Freedom through Radical Resistance by  Leanne Betasamosake Simpson Black on Both Sides: A Racial History of Trans Identity by C. Riley Snorton Mathematics for Human Flourishing by Francis Su Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind: Informal Talks on Zen Meditation and Practice by Shunryu Suzuki Sand Talk: How Indigenous Thinking Can Save the World by Tyson Yunkaporta Give us feedback! Fill out the form to ask for a recommendation or suggest a genre or title for us to read! Check out our Tumblr, follow us on Twitter or Instagram, join our Facebook Group, or send us an email! Join us again on Tuesday,  January 4th we'll be discussing the genre of Architecture! Then on Tuesday,  January 18th we'll be talking about how (and why) 2022 is the Year of Book 2!

You are in for a TREAT. We are rounding out the holiday season with a real delight. For our final episode of the year, we had the honor and privilege of featuring Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership, who shares with us much of the wisdom of her book. You won't want to miss it!Highlights from this episode include:Katie has lost all meaning of time and space in the graduate-school-pregnancy vortexContrary to the topic of our interview, we learn that Katie's husband is taking on alllll the nesting. Katie thinks she's 30-something-ish weeks along, maybe? She doesn't know.Lee Ann got a new job and lost half her hair. It's a thing! Hair loss is everywhere these days. Shout-out to all the women who have gone bald for any reason.Katie and Lee Ann discuss the making of the “holiday magic” and the disproportionate amount of that somehow-magic-happens work that falls disproportionately on the shoulders of moms. The only magic around here is the seamless segue to the interview with Darcy Lockman about her book, All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership.Interview: Y'all. Drop everything and get your copy TODAY. All the Rage puts the data behind gender roles and the consequential inequality in parenthood. How does our patriarchal upbringing affect our parenting and partnering? Lockman argues that despite significant changes in the work force, home life has not shifted as substantially, and women in heterosexual relationships still shoulder about 2/3 of the work of parenting. These women are frustrated and tired. Lockman explores some of the reasons why and what we can hope to do about it (beside moving to Scandinavia). She also discusses the term “intensive mothering," and how it may be linked to cultural anxiety of women's return to work. GAH! All the Rage was a real eye-opener for us, and so many others. We think you will love it. So read it or listen to it on audiobook, and then share it with your friends… and your partner!Solicited advice: Katie asks about rolling pins. She totally does.Highs and lows: Contrary to our interview topic, one weekend, Katie did all the things and found it wonderful! It is possible!Many thanks to Darcy Lockman for joining us, and to all of you for being a part of Raising Cascadia this year!

Before you became a parent, how did you envision the way you and your partner would handle parenting responsibilities? Was a vision of "equal partnership" for household and parenting tasks a part of this? To what extent does the actual division of labor match your vision or expectations? If you're like most families, there is a notable gap between expectations and reality, and that may be fine with you – or not!   Clinical psychologist and author Darcy Lockman, motivated in part by personal experience, has delved deeply into this topic. She brings what she has learned to this fascinating and important conversation with Marti & Erin. She explores assumptions about hormones and of parenting, cultural trends in intensive mothering, peaks and plateaus in active fathering and the often invisible work of the “mental load” of parenting. Most of all, Darcy urges couples to talk together about how they want to parent, especially before becoming parents. But, as Marti & Erin note, if you didn't start then, start now!   HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED A SENSE OF INEQUALITY OR EQUAL PARTNERSHIP IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP? Make time to reflect (alone and/or with your partner) on how you share the responsibilities of parenting, both the visible and invisible tasks this week's guest talked about. How do you feel about the equality of how the work is being done? How do you handle those feelings? What would you want to change and how could you begin with small steps, showing respect and sensitivity to your partner's perceptions and feelings?   WANT TO LEARN MORE? ❉ ALL THE RAGE: MOTHERS, FATHERS, AND THE MYTH OF EQUAL PARTNERSHIP. Learn more about Darcy Lockman's book! ❉ TO OFTEN, WORKING MOTHERS DO FAR MORE OF THE CHILDCARE THAN THEIR HUSBANDS. Check out this article by Darcy Lockman for TIME. ❉ DON'T BE GRATEFUL THAT DAD DOES HIS SHARE. Check out this article by Darcy Lockman for The Atlantic.  ❉ DADS MATTER: THE ROLE OF THE FATHER IN CHILD DEVELOPMENT AND WHAT MOMS CAN DO TO HELP DADS SUCCEED. Check out this  Andre Dukes of the Northside Achievement Zone in Minneapolis, joins Marti & Erin to discuss the role of the father in child development, the benefits of father involvement throughout a child's life and what we all can do to help men be the dads their children need.  

We share strategies we've used to raise independent kids, independence wins and fails, and our favorite resources.Visible Child Facebook groupFree Range Kids: How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts With Worry) by Lenore SkenazyThe Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessica LaheySmall Animals: Parenthood in the Age of Fear by Kim BrooksLife latelyAndrew got Abby the perfect Mother's Day gift: a painting of Carrboro made by a dear college friend.Sarah's family has been reveling in all the outdoor time this summer.Reading latelyAbby reviews The Heir Affair, which is the must anticipated sequel to The Royal We by Heather Cocks and Jessica Morgan.Sarah discusses All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership by Darcy Lockman.Eating latelySarah's family are enjoying an abundance of cucumbers dipped in yogurt sauce.Abby made her first burger using this black bean burger recipe.If you’d like to join in the conversation, please leave us a comment, email us at friendlierpodcast@gmail.com, or find us on Instagram @friendlierpodcast. Thanks for listening! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Parent Driven Development Sponsored by: RAYGUN (https://www.raygunsite.com/) Episode 047: Darcy Lockman - All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers and The Myth of Equal Partnership (https://darcylockman.com/) 00:23 Welcome, Darcy (https://twitter.com/Darcy_Lockman)! Darcy Lockman is a former journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership (Harper). Her first book, Brooklyn Zoo (Doubleday), chronicled the year she spent working on the psychiatric ward of a city hospital. She lives and practices (for the time being virtually) in New York City. 00:39 Orgins of All The Rage Child care falls on Darcy more than her husband.. moms more than dads? Why are we living like this? The impact of patriarchy on all of us 04:25 Patriarchy instilled into our culture Women carry 65% childcare work, while men carry 35% The feminine is looked down in society Communality / agency - girls raised to be more communal, boys are raised to be more agentic Women join the workforce, but keep up with childcare duties 09:32 How to guide kids with equal partnership at home Kids easily influenced from their outside world Identification with the same sex parent Gender detectives - searching for the group that they belong in The one way glass study Women have this idea that their male partner should not be inconvenienced, and that it’s ok if they are 16:17 Is being traditional wrong? What good dads get away with Stay at home mom stigma 19:05 Dual earning couples is sole focused on from All The Rage Book After work “breaks” ?After work “breaks” ? Unequal experience, unequal ability Taking care of children takes practice Paid paternity leave for men in other countries - use it or lose it 24:20 Who is responsible for the mental load? Techniques to share the workload Women tend to feel more responsible and may have to unlearn this feeling of taking no time off Underbenifitor / Overbenifitor - both sides uncomfortable 29:50 The pandemic is making the invisible workload more visible Possible progress to be made in couples 32:45 Genius / Fail moments JC’s kids have been helping around the house since the pandemic hit, including dinner! #geniuswin Chris grounds steak with kids to make tacos. They were a hit and ready to go, until Chris accidentally dropped a glass dish right next to the taco meat and glass got in the taco meat… Dinner restart #fail Darcy embraces a sugar vacation during the pandemic and let’s her girls feast on junk food that is usually not allowed. #genuisfail maybe?? ### How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! Check out Fiverr (https://track.fiverr.com/visit/?bta=121216&nci=7416) for all your Freelance needs. Panel JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Darcy Lockman.

“If we talk about women and a glass ceiling, we're talking about mothers” Darcy Lockman tells us in today’s episode. It’s something she’s experienced herself, but she’s not asking you to take her word for it. As a journalist turned clinical psychologist, Darcy is uniquely placed to understand the complexities of relationships within their context as part of a broader conversation about the way our society approaches gender, parenting, and the division of labour in the home. For her book All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership Darcy interviewed over 50 women about their experiences managing work, parenting, and domestic duties. “I started out wanting to interview 100 mothers”, she tells our host Georgie Abay. “That was my initial idea. By the time I got to 50, I realized that all of the interviews were exactly the same. The women that I was speaking to, they were from all over the US, they were from different economic classes, different ethnicities, races. But every interview was just an angry, frustrated woman who tried to communicate to her partner and hadn't been able to get through. And it was a constant fight in their relationship. So, I stopped at 50.” The biggest commonality? “A lot of men”, Darcy explains, “my husband included, will say, ‘Well, I'll do whatever you ask me to do’. But the knowing is such a big part of the work, the knowing and the planning. And so often, the women who I interviewed for the book would be frustrated with their husbands who would just say to them, ‘I don't know what you're talking about. I'll do whatever you ask’. As if that were being a co-parent.” If you’ve ever felt frustrated, overwhelmed, or fed up when it comes to the never-ending work of motherhood, this interview is incredibly validating. And Darcy gives us the tools to have fruitful, calm conversations about how to rectify these issues – and do away with the nagging woman stereotype for good. We speak with Darcy about: The stereotype of the ‘nagging wife’ and why she shouldn’t be the villain The problem with men who believe their partners should ‘just ask’ if they want help The different ways men and women perceive the division of labour in their homes How employers discriminate against mothers and not fathers How growing up in a patriarchal society leaves us with unresolved anger How talking about societal sexism can help to make the conversation about household labour less personal The pressure to be a good mother and why men don’t receive the same pressure about being a really good dad The impact that unpaid care work has on a woman’s long term earning capacity Why your partner’s ambition is dangerous Why men can be just as efficient as women – but they don’t have the need to be That despite fathers taking on a much more active role in parenting in recent years, they’re still only doing up to a third of the work statistically How ‘use it or lose it’ paternity leave schemes lead to equal division of labour ongoing The difference between benign and hostile sexism Find out more about Darcy at darcylockman.com Purchase Darcy’s book All The RageSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We're on pandemic hiatus, but rebroadcasting some of our favorite episodes — that seem super useful right now!  Why do most men do so little at home — and especially in the kitchen? Why are women (still!) doing so much? Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership is on the podcast this week to talk about why mental load tasks like grocery list making and meal planning and prepping are still especially gendered — and what we can do, to find a better balance. Send us your mental load questions! Find us @v_solesmith and @yummytoddlerfood on social media or email comfortfoodpodcast@gmail.com. And you can read the show notes for this episode here. Sponsor Spotlight: Bumkins Baby Mealtime solutions like Silicone Grip Dishes that suction to the table, utensils that promote self-feeding, and more available now on their Amazon storefront!  FEEDING YOUR FAMILY, THE COMFORT FOOD WAY Our new e-book takes you through 8 concepts that will form the foundation of your understanding of how to feed kids and give you a firm starting point for improving mealtimes in your house. We’re here to reassure and inspire. We’re here to remind you that you’re doing a good job. We’re here to let you know that you’re not alone in the daily challenge of feeding your family. We’re here to help. Get your copy of Feeding Your Family The Comfort Food Way here.   

We're on pandemic hiatus, but rebroadcasting some of our favorite episodes — that seem super useful right now!  Why do most men do so little at home — and especially in the kitchen? Why are women (still!) doing so much? Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership is on the podcast this week to talk about why mental load tasks like grocery list making and meal planning and prepping are still especially gendered — and what we can do, to find a better balance. Send us your mental load questions! Find us @v_solesmith and @yummytoddlerfood on social media or email comfortfoodpodcast@gmail.com. And you can read the show notes for this episode here. Sponsor Spotlight: Bumkins Baby Mealtime solutions like Silicone Grip Dishes that suction to the table, utensils that promote self-feeding, and more available now on their Amazon storefront!  FEEDING YOUR FAMILY, THE COMFORT FOOD WAY Our new e-book takes you through 8 concepts that will form the foundation of your understanding of how to feed kids and give you a firm starting point for improving mealtimes in your house. We’re here to reassure and inspire. We’re here to remind you that you’re doing a good job. We’re here to let you know that you’re not alone in the daily challenge of feeding your family. We’re here to help. Get your copy of Feeding Your Family The Comfort Food Way here.   

We're on pandemic hiatus, but rebroadcasting some of our favorite episodes — that seem super useful right now!  Why do most men do so little at home — and especially in the kitchen? Why are women (still!) doing so much? Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership is on the podcast this week to talk about why mental load tasks like grocery list making and meal planning and prepping are still especially gendered — and what we can do, to find a better balance. Send us your mental load questions! Find us @v_solesmith and @yummytoddlerfood on social media or email comfortfoodpodcast@gmail.com. And you can read the show notes for this episode here. Sponsor Spotlight: Bumkins Baby Mealtime solutions like Silicone Grip Dishes that suction to the table, utensils that promote self-feeding, and more available now on their Amazon storefront!  FEEDING YOUR FAMILY, THE COMFORT FOOD WAY Our new e-book takes you through 8 concepts that will form the foundation of your understanding of how to feed kids and give you a firm starting point for improving mealtimes in your house. We’re here to reassure and inspire. We’re here to remind you that you’re doing a good job. We’re here to let you know that you’re not alone in the daily challenge of feeding your family. We’re here to help. Get your copy of Feeding Your Family The Comfort Food Way here.   

The Family Brain is a podcast about how the mental well being of one family member affects the entire family system. This is a supportive community to share research, resources, stories, and life hacks for keeping the family brain healthy. Hosted by Megan Gipson, LCSW, Ed.M Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, the Moms welcome Laura LaBeau, a guest from St. Cloud, Minnesota, who tells her stories of giving birth and shares her experiences with postpartum anxiety and depression.  Laura walks listeners through her challenging first pregnancy and birth, followed by a much smoother second, before digging deep into her struggles with postpartum rage, anxiety, depression, and overall mental health.  Her tale, riveting from start to finish, is one many new moms can relate to and desperately need to hear.The Book Blurb in this episode is from All the Rage: Mothers, Father's, and the Myth of Equal Parenting, written by Darcy Lockman.  As Melissa explains in the episode, this book includes a compilation of mothers' experiences with gender inequality in parenting, paired with thorough research on the subject.  For more about Lockman and her books, please visit her website. A few other noteworthy mentions include Taking Charge of Your Fertility, a book Laura used while trying to conceive her first child, and Bloomin' Babies Birth Center in Grand Junction, Colorado, which Laura utilized during both of her pregnancies, and her second delivery.This week begins our first giveaway for listeners!  Details of the giveaway are outlined in the opening of this episode.  To participate in the giveaway, follow this link to our website or keep an eye on our Instagram posts for the next several weeks!  

Where is all of the literary love for Queens? It’s right here at LIC Reading Series. Join them each week for stories, readings, and discussions with acclaimed writers, recorded with a live audience in the cozy carriage house of a classic pub in Long Island City, Queens, New York, and hosted by founder Catherine LaSota. This week, the podcast features the reading and panel discussion from the LIC Reading Series event on November 12, 2019, a special Evening on Female Rage, with Lilly Dancyger, Leslie Jamison, Darcy Lockman, and Shelly Oria. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Where is all of the literary love for Queens? It’s right here at LIC Reading Series. Join them each week for stories, readings, and discussions with acclaimed writers, recorded with a live audience in the cozy carriage house of a classic pub in Long Island City, Queens, New York, and hosted by founder Catherine LaSota. This week, the podcast features the reading and panel discussion from the LIC Reading Series event on November 12, 2019, a special Evening on Female Rage, with Lilly Dancyger, Leslie Jamison, Darcy Lockman, and Shelly Oria. Check back Thursday for the discussion! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Darcy Lockman is the author of "All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership" and the viral New York Times piece "What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With."

In this episode of Talk Nerdy, Cara is joined by clinical psychologist, journalist, and author of the new book, "All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership," Dr. Darcy Lockman. They discuss the inequities of gendered labor that persist to this day, as well as the physical and psychological burden wives and mothers are all too often forced to carry. Follow Darcy: @Darcy_Lockman.

In this episode of Talk Nerdy, Cara is joined by clinical psychologist, journalist, and author of the new book, "All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership," Dr. Darcy Lockman. They discuss the inequities of gendered labor that persist to this day, as well as the physical and psychological burden wives and mothers are all too often forced to carry. Follow Darcy: @Darcy_Lockman.

Today we connect with Darcy Lockman, clinical psychologist and author of All The Rage, the a book that explores how egalitarian relationships become traditional ones when children are introduced to the household. We loved connecting with Darcy about the motherload, the myth of maternal instinct, why we struggle with relationship expectations, the complications of socialization vs biology, and how we can best raise children of any gender to be both communal helpers and independent doers. Relevant links: - Darcy Lockman’s website - Buy All The Rage on Amazon, B&N, Powells - Darcy on Twitter and Instagram - Therapist Terry Real - Terry Real on Goop Podcast: It’s normal to occasionally hate your spouse - How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn - American Time Use Survey - Sarah Blaffer Hrdy, anthropologist & primatologist - Testosterone Rex: Myths of Sex, Science, and Society by Cordelia Fine - DABDA Grief Cycle - Having It All: How Equally Shared Parenting Works by Francine Deutsch - Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents by Marc Vachon & Amy Vachon - Dr. Toni Schmaeder - An article on HEED Domains Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together. Email us: info@upbringing.co Follow Upbringing on: Instagram: @up_bringing Facebook: @jointheupbringing

Jordana talks to Darcy Lockman, author of All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers And The Myth of Equal Partnership. The two discuss everything from how even moms who work outside the home carry more of the mental and actual load than dads in heterosexual relationships, why that’s the case and what we can do about it. The two women also agree that a person does not need a vagina to load a dishwasher. In discussing the topic over the phone, Shannon reveals that her husband may not be able to handle more than he’s doing, as he is apparently challenged by gravity.   Music:  "Voicemail" by Khronos Beats  "Funky and Groovy" by Unique Sound "Best I Can" by Jasmine Jordan (ft. Habit Blcx)

Darcy Lockman is a clinical psychologist and author of multiple books including her newest release of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership.   UN Women has called the division of labor in heterosexual couples one of the most important gender equity issues of our time, but at the current rate of change, by some estimates, it will be another 75 years before we achieve parity. Lockman hopes parents and parents to be can use her book to understand the trenchant nature of the problem, and then to decide to take action to balance the division of labor in their homes. Connect with Darcy Lockman:   Email: darcylockman@yahoo.com  Website: www.darcylockman.com Twitter Handle: @darcylockman    Connect with Jon Dwoskin: Website: http://jondwoskin.com/ Twitter: @jdwoskin Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jonathan.dwoskin Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Thejondwoskinexperience/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jondwoskin/ Email: jon@jondwoskin.com

Biz and Theresa explore the limits of our power as parents. Kids have pretty big ideas about what we can do and it's a life lesson learned that we can’t take them to Ancient Egypt to dine with cats. But what about the more realistic needs and wishes we can’t meet, like that must have outfit, guitar lessons, or that birthday gift they really want? How does all this crushing disappointment make us feel? Hint: Not the best. Plus, nature comes to Biz, Theresa has too much on her brain and we talk to clinical psychologist Darcy Lockman about the Myth of Equal Partnership. It's a doozy of a show. Follow Dr. Darcy Lockman on Twitter @Darcy_Lockman and on her website Darcylockman.com. Her book All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership is available now. Check out Theresa's book! It Feels Good To Be Yourself is available now wherever books are sold.  Our book You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting! is available wherever books are sold. Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Michelin and Postmates. Next time when you’re looking for new tires for the family car, consider Michelin Premier® All Season tires. Michelin, performance EVERY time! For a limited time, Postmates is giving our listeners $100 of free delivery credit for your first 7 days. To start your free deliveries, download the Postmates app and use code . Share your genius and fail moments! Call 206-350-9485 Be sure to tell us at the top of your message whether you're leaving a genius moment, a fail, or a rant! Thanks!! Share a personal or commercial message on the show! Details at MaximumFun.org/Jumbotron. Subscribe to One Bad Mother in iTunes Join our mailing list Join the amazing community that is our private One Bad Mother Facebook group Follow One Bad Mother on Twitter Follow Biz on Twitter Follow Theresa on Twitter Like us on Facebook! Get a OBM tee, tank, baby shirt, or mug from the MaxFunStore You can suggest a topic or a guest for an upcoming show by sending an email to onebadmother@maximumfun.org. Show Music Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com) Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes) Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes) Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes) Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Why do most men do so little at home — and especially in the kitchen? Why are women (still!) doing so much? Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership is on the podcast this week to talk about why mental load tasks like grocery list making and meal planning and prepping are still especially gendered — and what we can do, to find a better balance. Visit our show notes at comfortfoodpodcast.com for all the research and links discussed in this episode. Send questions to comfortfoodpodcast@gmail.com or find us on social: @v_solesmith and @yummytoddlerfood.  

Why do most men do so little at home — and especially in the kitchen? Why are women (still!) doing so much? Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership is on the podcast this week to talk about why mental load tasks like grocery list making and meal planning and prepping are still especially gendered — and what we can do, to find a better balance. Visit our show notes at comfortfoodpodcast.com for all the research and links discussed in this episode. Send questions to comfortfoodpodcast@gmail.com or find us on social: @v_solesmith and @yummytoddlerfood.  

Why do most men do so little at home — and especially in the kitchen? Why are women (still!) doing so much? Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership is on the podcast this week to talk about why mental load tasks like grocery list making and meal planning and prepping are still especially gendered — and what we can do, to find a better balance. Visit our show notes at comfortfoodpodcast.com for all the research and links discussed in this episode. Send questions to comfortfoodpodcast@gmail.com or find us on social: @v_solesmith and @yummytoddlerfood.  

Before you became a parent, how did you envision the way you and your partner would handle parenting responsibilities and household management tasks to form an equal partnership? To what extent does the actual division of labor match your vision or expectations? If you’re like most families, there is a notable gap between expectations and reality, and that may be fine with you – or not!   Clinical psychologist and author Darcy Lockman, motivated in part by personal experience, has delved deeply into this topic and brings what she has learned to this fascinating and important conversation with Marti & Erin. She explores assumptions about hormones and of parenting, cultural trends in intensive mothering, peaks and plateaus in active fathering and the often invisible work of the “mental load” of parenting. Most of all, Darcy urges couples to talk together about how they want to parent, especially before becoming parents. But, as Marti & Erin note, if you didn’t start then, start now!   Make time to reflect (alone and/or with your partner) on how you share the responsibilities of parenting, both the visible and invisible tasks this week’s guest talked about. How do you feel about the equality of how the work is being done? How do you handle those feelings? What would you want to change and how could you begin with small steps, showing respect and sensitivity to your partner’s perceptions and feelings?   Related Resources: All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership, click here. Too often, Working Mothers Do Far More of the Childcare Than Their Husbands article by Darcy Lockman for TIME, click here. Don’t Be Grateful That Dad Does His Share article by Darcy Lockman for The Atlantic, click here. Dads Matter: The Role of the Father in Child Development and What Moms Can do to Help Dads Succeed podcast, click here.  

Why do men do so little at home? Why do women do so much? Why don't our egalitarian values match our lived experiences?Journalist-turned-psychologist Darcy Lockman offers a clear-eyed look at the most harmful problem facing modern parents—how progressive relationships become traditional ones when children are introduced into the household.This is The Empowered Mama Podcast. Darcy LockmanFavorite Quote: The arc of the moral universe is long and it bends toward justice If Darcy Lockman was to get a tattoo with one word that she valued, what would it be?  Love Links http://www.darcylockman.com/ Get Darcy Lockman's New Book, All The Rage The Empowered Mama is part of the Parents On Demand Network. The Parents On Demand Network is a collection of podcasts with content specifically created for families. Through the POD website and network app, parents can easily find and subscribe to programming that's specific to their family's interests and needs. Links for Lisa MamaWell: https://www.mamawell.co FIT4MOM website: https://www.fit4mom.com The Empowered Mama Book: https://www.lisadruxman.com/book/ Lisa Druxman's Website: https://www.lisadruxman.com Thank you for listening today, and every day that you join me. As always, if there is someone you want me to interview or a topic you want me to talk about, just send me an email to podcast@fit4mom.com. I know how busy you are, but if you could just take a moment to review the show on iTunes or Stitcher, it would mean the world to me. Think of it like leaving a little tip for your barista. If you liked this episode share it. Super easy to do! Use #EmpoweredMama so that I can thank you! https://www.lisadruxman.com/reviewit

Darcy Lockman is a journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership (Harper Collins). Her writing has appeared in the New York Times and the Washington Post, among others. Her first book, Brooklyn Zoo, chronicled the year she spent working on the psychiatric ward of a city hospital. She currently practices in New York City, where she lives with her husband and daughters. I have invested a lot of time learning about building equitable relationships in the last year.  As someone who likes to take on all. the. things., I know what it’s like to be the doer and the know-er and the gatekeeper of everything in the family.  It’s an exhausting, unfair, and unnecessary burden that we can improve - drastically. I couldn’t be more excited to invite you into this conversation with Darcy and me. Listen in to hear Darcy share: What “good” dads get away with Societal, multi-generational indoctrination of gender roles - even among progressive couples The truth about maternal gatekeeping and the potential damage around it The power of using your anger in adaptive ways to have a more equitable relationship The research-proven struggles and burdens of the mental load of motherhood, especially in the first 4 years Strategies to build a more equitable partnership with your partner Links mentioned: Connect with Darcy Book: All The Rage Twitter: @darcy_lockman Thank you to our sponsors: BruMate: Right now, Brumate is giving my/our listeners a special discount of 15% off your first order when you go to www.brumate.com and use our code SHAMELESS, that's BruMate. Honey: Get Honey for FREE at Honey. Openfit: Join the Openfit 30-day challenge and get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit when you text SHAMELESS to 303030.

Darcy Lockman speaks with Ana Kasparian about gender inequality in American households. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Author, Darcy Lockman, discusses how even egalitarian couples fall into mini patriarchies after kids. You'll be surprised at all that's at play.

For their last episode of season 2, Amelia and Edan talk about family narratives: the roles they've taken on since childhood, and what stories they might be telling about their own kids. At 31:30, they interview Darcy Lockman about her book, All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership. Links to what we mention To support us

Hunter talks to Darcy Lockman about Equality At Home. Do you feel like the drudge work of raising a family and running a household defaults to you—the woman in the relationship? Even though dads are more involved than they used to be, the distribution of labor is far from fair. Darcy Lockman, clinical psychologist and author of All the Rage: mothers, fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership, gives us a comprehensive view of how gender role ideas are hurting mothers' mental health, physical health, sex life, relationships with our partners, and more. Some big takeaways from this episode include: 1. Women do 7 more hours of unpaid work than men per week 2. This adversely affects women’s mental health, physical health, and our relationship with our partner 3. Men often don’t even see how their wives are doing more Fan of the Mindful Mama Podcast? Support it by leaving a quick review -----> Apple Podcasts or on Stitcher (or wherever you listen!) ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches overstressed moms on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide, and is the creator of the Mindful Parenting course. Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com.

#119 — The Myth of Equal Partnership in Parenting Why is it that the burden of childcare, children and the home is so unequally dumped on women's shoulders? Where did this come from? Why is it happening and what can we do about it? Women have fought for equality in the workplace for a long time. It’s something that is publicly talked about and advocated for and a current movement in today’s society. But what about our not-so-public lives? What about life at home? For many women, there is nothing as maddening as coming home and realizing that there is the second shift and an incredible amount of work that disproportionately falls on your shoulders. For women across the country, this includes the domestic labor of the home, caring for children and all of the maintenance required from invisible labor to mental load. Some would call this emotional labor to the organizational and the logistical work. Well, it’s enough to drive people crazy, or to divorce. The hardest part is that once children enter the picture, people who believe that they are in equal partnerships often find that women are the ones that take on the burden of domestic work. Why is this happening? Why isn't it budging and why is it so enraging? Today we get to have Darcy Lockman on the show to talk about exactly this. Darcy is a former journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of a book called All The Rage: Men, Women and the Myth of Equal Partnership. Her writing has appeared in the New York Times, Psychology Today and Rolling Stone, among others. She lives with her husband and children in Queens. IN THIS EPISODE WE TALK ABOUT How Darcy and her husband entered both their marriage and parenting assuming that all household duties would be shared, but how Darcy nonetheless found herself managing most of her daughter’s needs herself.   The role resentment plays in modern parenting as couples enter parenthood assuming parity and find that culturally we’ve never gotten above men carrying 35% of the childcare load. Why Darcy decided to utilize her background in journalism and psychology to investigate her frustration with how differently her husband and she lived in their parenting roles. What Darcy’s goal for this book is: to draw attention to and move the needle on the amount of unpaid labor mothers do, because, as she notes, it's not without great cost to women’s well-being, potential career success, and earning potential. How cultural beliefs undermine potential parental parity from pregnancy with the belief that mother’s have an innate instinct for parenting. Meanwhile, the truth is that fathers and mothers undergo the same hormonal changes during pregnancy and have the same starting aptitude for parenting.  FULL SHOW NOTES Get the complete show notes with episode quotes, photos, and time stamps at http://www.startuppregnant.com/119. LEARN MORE ABOUT DARCY LOCKMAN    Darcy Lockman is a former journalist turned clinical psychologist. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, Psychology Today, and Rolling Stone, among others. She lives with her husband and baby daughter in Queens.

Darcy Lockman joins Mallory in the MILK Studio. Darcy is the author of "All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and The Myth of Equal Partnership," and is a clinical psychologist practicing in New York City.  "All The Rage" takes a close look at why in this modern era, full-time employed mothers continue to bear 65 percent of the childcare labor.  Mallory and Darcy talk about how anger and resentment led Darcy to action. Using her marriage as a case-study, she chronicles the experiences of a cross-section of women raising children with men — visiting new mothers’ groups and pioneering co-parenting specialists; and interviewing experts across academic fields, from gender studies professors and anthropologists to neuroscientists and primatologists. She identifies three tenets that have upheld the cultural gender division of labor and peels back the ways in which both men and women unintentionally perpetuate old norms. If we can all agree that equal pay for equal work should be a given, can the same apply to unpaid work? Can justice finally come home?  Darcy Lockman is a clinical psychologist practicing in New York City. Her first book, "Brooklyn Zoo," chronicled the year she spent working on a city hospital psychiatric ward. Her writng has appeared in The New York Times and The Washington Post, and many others. She lives with her husband and daughters in New York. Find her at darcylockman.com 

Trying to avoid any interruptions, Sales and Crabb hide away in a spare room to discuss some of life’s big issues ... and Lego.On Politics Work and Gender by Annabel Crabb. Quarterly Essay 75 (due out Sep 2019)What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With by Darcy Lockman. New York Times, 2019 4 May. The Wife Drought by Annabel CrabbUp Series: directed by Michael Apted. 9 instalments over 55 years. (Currently available on SBS On Demand). Wikipedia have a useful summary on the history of the documentary: Up (film series).The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After Midlife by Jonathan RauchWilosophy: Will Anderson with Andy Lee (earlier episode with Hamish Blake)Lego Masters with Hamish Blake (Channel 9)

Darcy Lockman, Ph.D., talks gender roles in marriage, how to get your husband to NOT just stand there while you make chicken nuggets, all the research on what women are suited for more than men, and how to navigate all the complexities of a family. 

We're delving deeper into this idea of "the mental load." Darcy Lockman is a psychologist who researched the myth of 50/50 partnerships between moms and dads, and why it's taking so long for us to finally find an equal ground concerning parenting and household responsibilities. What were Darcy's findings? What did the hundreds of couples she interviewed reveal about their situations? How can we bridge this gap so everyone feels some relief concerning responsibilities? Also, Adam weighs in as a husband and a dad who says that while it's tough to sit there and listen to all of this, he understands where it's all coming from, but he has a bunch to say on behalf of men, too. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

It turns out that even in egalitarian homes, women do more work than men - especially if kids are in the mix. Why is that? Psychologist Darcy Lockman joins us to explore the causes - and solutions - of our surprisingly unequal relationships.

We’re so fortunate to have author Darcy Lockman on the show this week to talk about her new book, All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership. In her book Darcy talks about gender equality and why we just don’t have it. Women’s work is valued less, and even when women make more money, men still aren’t doing their share of housework and childcare. In addition to being an author, Darcy is a clinical psychologist who works with couples and individuals in New York City. This Week's Links If you click on the links in this post and buy something, we may earn a small commission. Intro (00:00:11) Rebecca Levey, KidzVuz Amy Oztan, Amy Ever After Andrea Smith, technology guru extraordinaire All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership, by Darcy Lockman Interview with Darcy Lockman (00:01:09) What Good Dads Get Away With, by Darcy Lockman – NY Times All The Rage audiobook Bytes of the Week (00:32:34) Teen decorates grad cap with QR code that honors those killed in school shootings, by Nicole Gallucci – Mashable Chevy cars won’t let teen drivers start driving until they buckle up, by Sasha Lekach – Mashable Episode 164: Awesome safety features for teen drivers Americana Memories Subscribe! Have you subscribed to Parenting Bytes in iTunes? Never miss an episode! Are you following us on Facebook? It's a great way to see what we're reading (including articles that might show up in future episodes), ask us questions, and give us feedback. Find us on Twitter for all the latest family tech news! Transcript You can go to the Parenting Bytes website for an interactive transcript of this episode.

On this week’s episode: Dan, Carvell, and Rebecca interview Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership, about her article in the New York Times, “What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With,” and we answer a listener question about what to do about a mean teenager. And as usual, we share our triumphs and fails and offer up some recommendations. On Slate Plus, Rebecca explains why she hates Mother’s Day. Dan recommends the movie, Being John Malkovich. Rebecca recommends coloring books for me, such as Coloring Book for Me. Carvell recommends watching things that your kids love. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan, Carvell, and Rebecca interview Darcy Lockman, author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership, about her article in the New York Times, “What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With,” and we answer a listener question about what to do about a mean teenager. And as usual, we share our triumphs and fails and offer up some recommendations. On Slate Plus, Rebecca explains why she hates Mother’s Day. Dan recommends the movie, Being John Malkovich. Rebecca recommends coloring books for me, such as Coloring Book for Me. Carvell recommends watching things that your kids love. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices