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Parent Driven Development


    • Mar 31, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 42m AVG DURATION
    • 67 EPISODES


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    067: Goodbye, for now

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2021 28:40


    Parent Driven Development Episode 067: Goodbye, for now. 1:00 Parent Driven Development reflects on what it’s like being a panelist on the podcast Imposter syndrome Multiple purposes to be an effective parent Expanding perspectives, ideas, and parenting techniques Ability to relate with one another 8:40 What we hope to our listeners take away from the podcast There is no one way to parent You’ll continue to grow as a parent You are not alone - every parent, kid, family, circumstances are different 13:30 What would we have done differently? Earlier sponsorship Episode format 16:15 Parting words for listeners Thank you!! You’re doing a great job. 17:17 Final genius and fail moments Chris Sexton’s daughter uses the word arithmetic with her peers, but no one knows the word leading her to question whether her parents played a prank on her. Allison calms down her family with deep breathing after her daughter has a potty accident. KWu’s 3-year-old son feels super proud after helping shovel the snow, and he helped! Chris Arcand finds the perfect snow sled for his son to be towed around in the deep Minnesota snow. How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

    066: Finding a new job during the pandemic

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2021 29:14


    Parent Driven Development 66: Finding a new job during the pandemic. Welcome, Jean Hsu! Jean Hsu (https://twitter.com/jyhsu) is a writer, coach, and software engineer turned leadership coach after working for a decade in Silicon Valley. She is the VP of engineering at Range Labs (https://www.range.co/) and Co-founder of Co Leadership (https://coleadership.com/), which focuses on filling the gaps in leadership development in the tech industry. Jean doesn’t miss writing code, but she does miss deleting it. 0:53 Finding a new job during the pandemic Desire strikes for leadership The hiring process 5:20 How did the pandemic change your thought process Intentionality of specific desires - management, leadership, flexibility Enjoying the journey rather than letting comparison or stress take over 7:30 What would Jean do differently now? Finding ways to lean into async communication with a remote team in different time zones, while keeping the team engaged and connected with each other Hybrid mix of in-person and remote is the future for companies 13:13 Pre-pandemic commute tales Feels like a different lifetime 15:40 New expectations for Range during the pandemic Getting rid of the 9-5; windowed work with colored labels Core hours for team meetings Setting boundaries 19:40 Genius and fail moments KWu closed her son’s fingers between a door hinge… #fail Allison’s daughter turns 3 and shines at her yearly doctor's appointment. #genius Jean downloaded TikTok and discovered the best parenting hack to tell your kids to do a task, rather than ask. #genius Chris brings back his daughter's love of Star Wars. #genius How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Jean Hsu.

    065: Teaching Programming to Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2021 27:16


    Parent Driven Development Episode 065: Teaching Programming to Kids with Felienne Welcome, Felienne! Felienne (https://twitter.com/Felienne) is the creator of the Hedy programming language, and was one of the founders of the Joy of Coding conference. Since 2016, she has been a host at SE radio, one of the most popular software engineering podcasts on the web. Felienne is the author of “The Programmer’s Brain (https://www.felienne.com/book)” a book that helps programmers understand how their brains work and how to use it more effectively. In 2021, Felienne was awarded the Dutch Prize for ICT research. 0:50 How does Felienne become interested in programming education? Research field towards programming education Love of kids 3:33 Methods and strategies to help kids understand Relevant for professionals Full concentration disables full memory, so she lowers the cognitive load After time, memory starts to build and functioning increases 6:02 Maximizing different learning styles in kids Learn their preferences Challenges their default learning style 9:57 Felienne’s new book How people learn programming The more information you know about your brain can help you understand how you learn 11:40 Interesting findings Cognitive load 14:00 Top tips related to programming Refactoring for personal comprehension Let go of one golden standard that code is suppose to look like 17:29 Specific differences between professionals and kids Motivation Concrete vs open ended expression 20:50 - 1 take away Take the kids hands, and guide them 22:20 Allison and her husband score a few days each solo as they transition back into their home #genius Felienne’s students fuss over the different symbols of division in coding #fail How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

    064: Moving and Renovating

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2021 27:10


    Parent Driven Development Episode 064: Moving and Renovating 0:30 Moving and renting realities KWu moves Allison’s home renovations Preparation before the kids 4:30 Toys Ethical parenting of getting rid of toys Hiding and cleaning out old toys from the kids (out of sight out of mind) 10:05 Establishing new house rules Setting realistic expectations on new floors, new rooms, new finishes Furniture socks (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SD38SGV/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1&pldnSite=1) Furniture caster cups (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07RQMYMKW/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1&pldnSite=1) Respect and Take Care of Things (https://www.amazon.com/Respect-Take-Things-Learning-Along%C2%AE/dp/1575421607) Learning to get along book series (https://www.freespirit.com/series/learning-to-get-along/) 18:35 Caution police in new house Acceptance is key Roommates with no impulse control.. your kids. ;) 22:40 Genius and fail moments KWu’s kids got into some old and slimy carrots meant for the compost.. But at least they’re eating vegetables! Allison’s son gets shut down from her parenting synchronicity with her husband. How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

    063: Fear in Parenting

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2021 28:47


    Parent Driven Development Episode 063: Fear in Parenting 0:40 Fear and stress of parenting From independent… to having dependents Trends of becoming more conservative once a parent 2:50 Decision making process High alert, more burden than non-parents Different decisions and problems at different stages of the kids Background buzz of constant anxiety 6:40 Different stresses Physical dangers for smaller kids, choking hazards Trying to avoid helicopter parenting Screen interest, programming, and patience 10:55 Big anxieties Screen time !! Constant worry and stress for modern parents with kids Augmenting reality through screens - stress for middle school aged parents How to foster new sibling relationships Siblings Without Rivalry (https://www.amazon.com/Siblings-Without-Rivalry-Children-Together/dp/0393342212) - book How to avoid middle child syndrome with three kids, carve out alone time with each child Feeling guilty to tell kids to play by themselves.. But it’s also important to learn 21:35 Genius and fail moments from the last week KWu moves to a new house and her son is waking every night from terrors or feeling too cold as she’s been keeping the thermostat down real low. #fail Jess’s son is a pretty adventurous eater and recently discovered balsamic vinegar which is now a new favorite! #genius Chris makes biscuits and conjures a family night which turned into a great family time. #genius How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)

    062: 3-Year Anniversary - Episode Highlights

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2021 37:31


    Parent Driven Development 062: Celebrating Our Favorite Episodes from the past 3 Years! Episode Highlights KWu, Chris, Josh, and Allison reflect on the past 3-years of podcasting. They touch on their favorite episodes and guests over the years, as well as some favorite parenting genius and fail moments! 1:30 Episode 43 - Managing parents on your team with Nick Means 3:10 Episode 19 - Being Adults, Live from Ruby Conf with Jonan Scheffler 7:25 Episode 11 - Being a Trans-Parent with Jess Szmajda 10:35 Episode 26 - Breastfeeding with Allison, Mandy, and KWu 13:06 Episode 13 - Babies at Work Program with Leah Silber 14:38 Episode 39 - Parenting Roles and Gender Equity with Richard Schneeman 15:50 Episode 34 - Extracurricular Activities with Barrett Clark 18:18 Episode 20 - Fertility Struggles with Adam Cuppy 19:55 Josh's rememberable genuis and fail moments 22:40 Genius / fails Allison questions herself as a parent due to a Hanukkah gift gone wrong Josh bans Elf on Shelf and his daughter starts to question Santa Claus Chris nails the Christmas lights on his son’s bed.. But then begins to question everything when he begins to struggle getting his son out of the car to go to school. KWu and her son enjoy a fresh snowfall! How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Josh (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton)

    061: DHH - Internet Famous with Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2021 47:17


    Ep 61 : DHH on being Internet Famous with Kids 1:48 Welcome, DHH (https://twitter.com/dhh) David (https://dhh.dk/) is the creator of Ruby on Rails, cofounder & CTO at Basecamp, best-selling author, Le Mans class-winning racing driver, frequent podcast guest, and family man. 2:50 Security concerns Social Media COVID times Parenting boundaries 13:45 Privacy Picture surplus Authenticity 16:45 Engagement with parenting on the web The highlight parenting reel Avoid the humble brag as a parent Internet jousts DHH recommended books: The Myth of the Spoiled Child (https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Spoiled-Child-Challenging-Conventional/dp/0738217247/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1609190913&sr=8-1) - Alfie Kohn Punished by Rewards (https://www.amazon.com/Punished-Rewards-Trouble-Incentive-Praise/dp/0618001816) - Alfie Kohn * The Self-Driven Child (https://www.amazon.com/Self-Driven-Child-Science-Giving-Control/dp/0735222517) - Ned Johnson 26:30 Introducing privileges to his kids Capitalism Against artificial constraints placed on by parents A life not centered around materialism The Road To Wigan Pier (https://www.amazon.com/Road-Wigan-Pier-George-Orwell/dp/0156767503) - George Orwell 38:38 Genius / Fails Arit makes a crib boundary with a creative new upcycle KWu wrestles with a photo book for her kids Chris fails on fail this week DHH is off by an hour as his kids come home right as this podcast starts Allison’s daughter challenges her patience during bed time How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Arit (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Special Guest: David Heinemeier Hansson .

    60: Must Haves

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2020 28:32


    Ep 60 : Must Haves for Parents Facebook Rabbit Holes for Parents + Kid Toys Subculture for wooden toys The Nugget couch (https://nuggetcomfort.com/products/the-nugget) Parents become hyper focused on specific products Careful what your Google How to choose your Facebook groups The Social Dilemma (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaaC57tcci0) Social media groups are "bad"/addicting, but also useful.. Geo-fencing - creating fairer ways for international purchases The lottery Lucie's List (https://www.lucieslist.com/) Pandemic toys for the New Year More pressure for parents Moms targeted mostly in the Facebook Groups Marketing kids toys with trigger language: “Investment piece” Parents: You are doing a GREAT job. Genius / Fails KWu tries to rotate out toys and clothes for her son, but things aren’t going well. Allison smoothly close out virtual Ruby conf while managing multiple interruptions from her kids How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

    059: Hiring and Interviewing

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2020 37:01


    Parent Driven Development 059: Hiring and Interviewing Jess, Chris S, and Allison discuss the hiring and interviewing process in tech. They share their experience as the interviewee, as well as the interviewer. The team identifies the underlying bias in the process, good signs and bad signs, and why it's important to set up a potential interviewee in the best environment possible. 01:45 Hiring and Interviewing in tech Jess writes a book and gets a new job How to reduce bias in interviewing process 03:33 Tech interviews hinder parents and caregivers Take-home vs pairing session Hiring managers should set up the interviewee in the best possible scenario 6-8 hours for a take-home test, unrealistic for caregivings 09:50 How to access talent Everyway is flawed Take-home - kids constantly interrupting Paired - many engineers are introverted Solutions: Short at-home mixed with pairing, or problem prompt 13:30 Bias How to reduce: rubric for every round, being aware of the bias Allison asks about parental leave, and feels the tone shift drastically Legal protection, but a lot of fuzzy areas 16:45 Good signs for parents interviewing Its a non-event when a child pops into the room while on a call Companies reward evenly Talk with team members outside the interviewing committee Talk with someone you relate to on the team, mom, trans, BIPOC, etc 20:30 Bad signs for parents interviewing The entire tone changes after asking about parental leave.. Judgmental, leadership team of non-parents 22:00 Handing flexibility Ask about parental leave, primary and secondary leave Be honest with needs Workplace flexibility 28:37 Genius / fail Jess deals with her son having accidents constantly Chris and his kids play board games and jam out to all songs names satellite Allison’s daughter sparks chaos when she leaves her room after bedtime… but soon learns to stay in her room to tire herself out. How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton)

    058: Covid and Co-Parenting

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2020 40:48


    Parent Driven Development Episode 058: Covid and co-parenting with Brandon Hays Welcome Brandon! Brandon Hays (https://twitter.com/tehviking) is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their "human-ness". His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college. 02:40 Brandon's co-parenting Starting with traditional gender roles Co-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work.. The invisible work becomes more visible Covid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids 06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemic Awareness that things changed… kids cannot return to school Brandon becomes the educator during the pandemic The amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut down Reworking the home dynamic when one partner needs help Asking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was not available before 10:53 Working out responsibility between partners Clear contracts Splitting up tasks and making them known to each partner Alternating cooking dinner and clean up Family clean day Creating activities for kids, even after a long day Check in with your partner, how are you feeling burden? 14:05 Recognize your partner's strengths Being comfortable with how each partner co-parents Recognition of each partner Optimize each parenting style and continue to check in Asking and taking the self-care when it is needed 17:30 Working together 19:10 How has Covid refocused things?! Strengthened the team mentality Hard to sustain the intensity of the pandemic Constant change, the on-call parent 24:40 Prioritization - Do our actions line up with our values? 27:00 Take away: preserve time for planning and reflection 28:35 Genius / fail moments Allison checks in while her son is in virtual school and feels major mom guilt… Chris’s family visits and brings his camper for a huge win! Arit slyly phases out her daughters stuffed animal #genius Jess’s son goes full into minecraft, but it may be too much.. #possiblegenius KWu repurposed geotags for wooden toys for her kids #genius Brandon get creative taking pictures of his kids in their natural habitat How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Arit (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Special Guest: Brandon Hays.

    057: Virtual School

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2020 34:34


    Parent Driven Development Episode 057: Virtual School 03:04 Welcome to Parent Driven Development (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) 03:30 Virtual school with school age children Kindergarten, middle school, high school Missing out on the life experiences Pros and cons 05:25 Exposure to other students Not enough time to build up relationships within the zoom chats Teachers stepping up to engage the kids with each other and in class Tough in kindergarten because the kids can’t break off without a teacher 11:29 Less the supervising time on virtual school First week, very hands on, but less and less over time Kids have learned to adapt quite quickly 14:00 Extra hands to help Parents can do work, but not focused work while supervising zoom school Extra help definitely makes a difference 15:45 Homework Losing track of how to turn in assignments for middle/highschoolers No take home HW for kindergarten State assessments Perk - you can rewatch the class video if you have questions 21:45 Teacher Props! Powerpoints Yoga and stretch breaks Partner reads Side chats Parent updates 25:00 Is life better with zoom school? Allison is satisfied with the cards dealt, but mourns the first day of school memories Chris thinks in some ways, it’s better 30:15 Genius / fail moments Chris figures out how to turn facetime back on his son’s devices, but has to keep track of his use.. #genius/fail Allison plans her move around the time of year her kids would need to change seasonal clothes. Less work, more organized #genius How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

    056: All Our Kin with Jessica Sager

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2020 34:13


    Parent Driven Development Episode 056: All Our Kin (http://www.allourkin.org/) with Jessica Sager All Our Kin is a nationally recognized nonprofit organization that trains, supports, and sustains family child care educators—transforming opportunities by ensuring that children and families have the foundation they need to succeed in school and in life. Jessica Sager is the co-founder and chief executive officer of All Our Kin. A graduate of Barnard College and Yale Law School, Jessica co-teaches a Yale University seminar on “Child Care, Society, and Public Policy”. She has provided commentary on child care issues for Time, The Hill, New America, and Education Week. She currently lives in New Haven, CT, with her husband and their fifteen-year-old daughter. 00:58 Welcome, Jessica Sager (https://twitter.com/JessicaSagerAOK)! Paul Tough: Helping Children Succeed (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1328915425/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1328915425&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=b3be62e936537154a801cc4a4bea5963) & How Children Succeed (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0544104404/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0544104404&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=11d9df235d0967b7c4922d09e3db7e5d) Child care as profession in the home Making invisible workers as child care professionals visible through All Our Kin 04:18 Changing the way we value child care in our society Low income, closures, possible risk of losing convenient access More visible with current covid crisis At a crossroads 06:30 We’re not meant to raise kids alone - How All Our Kin helps All our kin in supporting child care educators around the country through their model Advocate for a different way to treat child care Direct work to educators and family; delivery ppe, public health guidance, supporting emotional and mental wellbeing of child care educators, playing new virtual roles 10:03 How can others help advocate for child care View as public good Employers need to step up 12:40 The impact in marginalized communities Positive impact on the economy; all our kin as a rate of return 15-20% on their investment Equity; making sure kids have a safe place to go even during the pandemic Non standard hours are needed most by essential workers 16:50 Family care network Designed as a hub and place of support for educators; helping people become licesned to become a professional educator, support them as educators, training on how to run a business, located in a place/community and building out their network. Educators are often passionate and utilize all the support and tools of All Our Kin to make meaningful and lasting change 20:20 Moving to the virtual space People are showing up! Connection is desired and needed 22:10 Local support wins Cultural differences, but deep similarities for shared passion and love for raising kids New Haven model succeeds in the Bronx and Nebraska 25:50 Genius / fail moments Kwu makes an awesome new corn chowder recipe, but her toddler wasn’t enjoying it.. #fail Chris struggles to get his kids online for zoom school.. As a senior engineer himself.. #fail Jess is at a crossroads over too much screen time for her son… but minecraft.... #genius/fail Jessica got an adorable pandemic kitten, but the kitten has been zoom bombing important school and work presentations. #genius on the kitten #fail on the zoom bombs How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Special Guest: Jessica Sager.

    055: Jambo Books with Mijha Godfrey

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2020 38:16


    Parent Driven Development Episode 055: Jambo Books (https://jambobooks.com/) 02:22 Welcome, Mijha Godfrey! Mijha Godfrey is the founder of Jambo Books (https://twitter.com/jambobooks). Jambo, which means both “hello” and “welcome” in Swahili, is a book subscription service for children aged 0 – 13 where all the books feature lead characters who are children of color. The stories in Jambo Books (https://jambobooks.com/) focus on the beauty of childhood, the joys of friendship and family, the thrill of new adventures, the wonderful tapestry that is the life of a child of color. Mijha is passionate about helping parents raise children who won’t need to be taught how to tolerate people who are different from themselves because they will expect and enjoy healthy inclusion. 04:04 The importance of a diverse library Not letting experience resonate in only trauma or holiday 05:25 When should parents start showcasing different representations in their community to their children? Yesterday.. aka ASAP, as young as infants Race is recognized from an early age and the earlier exposure the better Showcasing universal things all children go through, not just culturally recognized celebrations Normalizing life experience of children of color 09:32 Jambo celebrates all representations Books are a gentle gateway Letting children of color know that they belong in all spaces 13:40 How do you choose books for Jambo? All books sent out are fiction Must star a child of color Has to be a good story, impactful 15:45 How do you introduce the ideas in the books to your children? Confront stereotypes head on! Can I touch your hair? 19:40 What push back have you experienced? Standing strong in their mission 24:20 Tips for book storage? More shelves! Recycle and pass forward books in the community 26:15 Genius / fail moments KWu's son turned 3! Yayy.. but feeling guilty that she is a couple years behind on the yearly photo albums. #fail Allison's daughter boy-cots her virtual doctors appointment, her son zips off virtual kindergarten and chaos is all happening at once! #fail Arit's daughters nails a technical aspect of potty training. #genius Mijha's daughter reads a book that sparks a racail conversation on a playdate. History well learned, but not wanting to her daughter to do the race work #winfail How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Arit (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) Special Guest: Mijha Godfrey.

    054: How to Manage Your Tech Career With Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2020 33:35


    Parent Driven Development Episode 054: How to Manage Your Tech Career With Kids 01:17 How do personal priorities and desired job circumstances change? Flexibility + time off Managing parents during emergencies Building resilience within a company 08:18 Chaos monkey Applying the method to people Setting quality expectations that everyone agrees on 10:45 Benefits are important Healthcare, dental care, infertility, adoption, etc… 12:46 Perceiving direct reports from a manager perspective about what parents really care about Salary should fit one's needs, they aren’t worried if their kids need braces What employees care about matters! Managers syncing up for 1:1 calls is essential Standing meetings 17:30 Time management Planning interruptions as a parent Coding flow Essential reminders Working nights and weekends by choice 27:57 Genius / fail moments Chris Arcand hacked his three-year-old sleep with a soothing sound bath #genius Chris Sexton’s son is a Scout and had to tackle the virtual retreat by sleeping in the yard for one week to mimic the real thing. Quarantine win #genius How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! Panel Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton)

    053: The Parenting Playbook with Anna Mackenzie

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2020 35:42


    Parent Driven Development Episode 053: The Parenting Playbook (http://v.fastcdn.co/u/418c7173/35282756-0-The-Parenting-Playbo.pdf) with Anna Mackenzie Sponsor: Nurture Life (https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&utm_medium=social_paid&utm_campaign=conversion&utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&pc=PARENTDRIVEN) Welcome, Anna Mackenzie (https://twitter.com/whatsupanna) Anna Mackenzie is a Software Engineer who is dedicated to improving parental leave policies in tech. She is currently working at Voiceflow, a software startup that specializes in workflow tools for building voice experiences. She is the co-author of “The Expecting Playbook,” a toolkit that helps start-ups of all sizes to roll out supportive parental leave policies. Her follow-up book, titled “The Parental Playbook,” provides start-ups with the necessary tools to support parents upon their return to work. In 2018, Anna was named as one of the Top 25 Women of Influence in Canada, as well as one of the Top 30 Women In Tech Making a Difference by the DMZ. 02:40 How did you come up with the idea? Why write these books? Being a minority in the industry Starting to ask difficult questions to companies she was interviewing for No startup policy that lead to leadership roles for women Companies need a better hiring practices for women 05:50 Asking about parental leave during interviews Maternity AND paternity leave Are companies set up to have employees transition easily in and out of leave? 08:40 Changing perspective in the workplace The work place was designed for a world that no longer exists The necessary reason to be LOUD about things you believe in 13:35 Good policies get great people Employer thinking about childcare > parents thinking about childcare Diversity includes parents 17:10 How are companies adjusting to parents during COVID19 Moms are typically affected more How can we restructure what work looks like - long overdue! 18:40 How to be inclusive of parents when they come back from leave Changing activities other than happy hour Adding a lock to the pumping room The importance of having diverse leadership and voices 20:45 Psychological safety What’s OK for parents to mention to their team? Will the team think less because a parent is sleep deprived Employees do better work 26:15 Genius / fail moments KWu gets her son to help with the dishes one utensil at a time to keep him from making a mess in the living room. #genius Allison creates an obstacle course to keep her kids occupied, which includes a captain’s hat! #genius Arit stays consistent potty training her daughter and finally gets onto the other side of potty training! #HUGEwin Anna’s dog gets sprayed by a skunk at a friend's house, cleans him off and then goes home, to only get skunked again in her backyard!! #fail How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Arit Amana (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Special Guest: Anna Mackenzie.

    052: Taking Breaks

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2020 32:12


    Parent Driven Development Episode 052: Taking Breaks 02:16 Taking breaks as a parent, how have you been coping? Is everyone taking breaks? Chris breaks with home projects Allison opts for a few full days off, rather than breaking during her day KWu dives into Downton Abbey (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004KAQQ5E/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B004KAQQ5E&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=b55bfd713a79c6abf4f9c6ea8e4c60c6) 07:32 Productive breaks Increasing your home ROI Decreasing internet time during “breaks” Home improvements 09:15 A break crisis! Dinner Time chaos How syncing self care time with business trips is no longer an option Making an intention plan for a stay-cation 15:35 Planning for fun Animal Crossing (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SL6ZXBL/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B07SL6ZXBL&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=3ee6c16aa6d2b59ebde325b35a4a11c9) Making lists 18:43 Choosing not to make the adult decision Binging on a novel late at night Sometimes choosing the wrong thing is the right decision 23:25 Genius / Fail moments Chris shares his parents-only “secret food” with the kids #genius Allison spooks her kids by hiding from them after they don’t want to go along with their normal bedtime routine and it was a major success #genius KWu says yes in the moment but wasn’t actually prepared for her son to join her in the kitchen.. #fail How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! *As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)

    051: Allowances for parents with Scott Hanselman

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2020 31:56


    Parent Driven Development Episode 051: Allowances for Parents with Scott Hanselman (https://www.hanselman.com/) Welcome, Scott Hanselman (https://twitter.com/shanselman) Scott is a programmer, teacher, and speaker. He works out of his home office in Portland, Oregon for the Web Platform Team at Microsoft. Scott has been blogging for 10 years and enjoys blogging about technology, culture, gadgets, diversity, code, and the web. Scott is excited about community, social equity, media, entrepreneurship and above all, the open web. 02:49 Allowances for kids and parents Father of two boys The large “A”, and the little “a” Partner side-eyeing How to make online banking unscrollable Sunday cash withdraw 06:01 The mental shift around money How much money can you spend without consulting your partner? 08:05 Marriage first, kids second Intentionality, goals, visions - what’s the plan? Scott’s marital mission statement* - we’re on the same side 10:43 Cash only for allowance The feeling money brings Teaching our children the value of the dollar Greenlight APP - mock debit card Spend, save, give 16:15 Allowance $$$ amounts Required chores, that you don’t get paid for! Scott’s perspective around allowance vs. chores Teaching the kids how not to be a bad roommate 17:50 Should parents incentivized tasks for the kids Spread the effort - rotate chores Having the kids contribute Perception management - to teach our kids the value of a dollar 23:45 Family commitments as roommates and peers Context switching with parenting 24:16 Genius / fail moments Chris’s son, 3-year-old, tunes into Disney Plus only to watch a movie that is terrifying to him #fail Arit’s daughter as a mishap with potty training #fail Scott tries to show his kids movie classics, but #fails by choosing the wrong ones, on the otherside Scott and his family are doing a deep dive of American History inspired by current events #genius Allison has a #genius when her kids create and play Ice Cube games to keep themselves entertained ### How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Arit Amana (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Special Guest: Scott Hanselman.

    050: Agile Household with Yvonne Marcus

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2020 32:15


    Parent Driven Development Episode 050: Agile Household (https://yvonnemarcus.kartra.com/page/xt271) with Yvonne Marcus (http://www.yvonnemarcus.com/) Yvonne is a home system strategist, mom of two, lover of Girl Scout cookies, cake, craving song parodies and getting outdoors with the family. She is on a mission to revolutionize everyones view of #MomLife. She is the creator of your Agile Home, a four-week course that looks to get your family together, feel like a valued member of the team, instilling autonomy and having fun! 00:50 Welcome, Yvonne Marcus (https://twitter.com/agileyvonne) Background in TV production How Agile Home came about Bringing Agile into her home Establishing family values 07:10 When and how is Agile executed in Yvonne’s house? WFH, toddlers and setting values Run as SCRUM (https://amzn.to/3f8TYaW) The sprint process, and day-to-day process 10:40 Are the kids involved? Daily SCRUM board: white board (https://amzn.to/2BGMQVC) + Scrum board home toolset (https://amzn.to/2D96yJX) They participate in bi-weekly check in Dance party and breaks are essential 13:09 Accountability without the nagging Assignments to the person with the more strengths in that specific area 14:45 How do we get skeptical families on board? Start with the daily stand-up Start on your own, showcase success, then show those with doubts 18:50 Quarantine times Get rid of #MomGuilt ! 20:00 Genius / Fail moments Kwu’s children have both fallen to the ground from various chairs in the past week… #fail Chris Sexton and his wife didn't have any troubles with a PDD Twitter poll.. #win Arit creates a schedule for her son for his Zoom class and school work after realizing her son kept coming to her with every question #geniusfail Chris Arcand’s son is starting to say anything and everything he feels. Sassiness to come #fail Yvonne becomes the fun mom by dying her kids hair #genius Allison and her partner create space for “virtual travel” for her to prepare for GitHub’s satellite conference #genius ### How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! *As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Arit Amana (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Special Guest: Yvonne Marcus.

    049: Arit Amana

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2020 34:24


    Parent Driven Development Episode 049: Arit Amana (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) 01:50 Welcome, Arit! Software engineer Mother of two, 8 and 3 years-old Background in public health 02:50 Panel check-in Pandemic times Adjustment for the kids, work and home life Stress level through the roof 06:20 Childcare Responder Duty while WFH The younger the child, the more work required for the parent Calendar essential (https://amzn.to/30V9sKz) for parent and kids Animal crossing (https://amzn.to/3hE5EEa) is the new obsession and a MUST 18:35 Arit jumps into a new role - Dev Community Open source coding Async communication style Flexible during the day with her youngest child Arit’s older son helps by taking care of his school work on his own 23:45 Work-life boundaries Allison works few weeks on, to take a day or two off 24:55 Genius / Fail moments Arit has success by taking the kids out for a walk after work that get her youngest sleeping through the night #genius Kwu’s daughter has some spit up discovered on her crib sheets post nap, unsure of what happened.. #geniusfail Chris and his wife are both working longer even though they are not commuting to work and dinner keeps getting pushed back later and later.. 10p late #genius because everyone is aligned even though hours aren’t typical Allison has a win by sharing photo journalism with her five-year-old son and keeps him occupied while also sharing some solid knowledge. ### How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! *As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Arit (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton)

    048: Darcy Lockman - All The Rage

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 8, 2020 39:50


    Parent Driven Development Sponsored by: RAYGUN (https://www.raygunsite.com/) Episode 047: Darcy Lockman - All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers and The Myth of Equal Partnership (https://darcylockman.com/) 00:23 Welcome, Darcy (https://twitter.com/Darcy_Lockman)! Darcy Lockman is a former journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership (Harper). Her first book, Brooklyn Zoo (Doubleday), chronicled the year she spent working on the psychiatric ward of a city hospital. She lives and practices (for the time being virtually) in New York City. 00:39 Orgins of All The Rage Child care falls on Darcy more than her husband.. moms more than dads? Why are we living like this? The impact of patriarchy on all of us 04:25 Patriarchy instilled into our culture Women carry 65% childcare work, while men carry 35% The feminine is looked down in society Communality / agency - girls raised to be more communal, boys are raised to be more agentic Women join the workforce, but keep up with childcare duties 09:32 How to guide kids with equal partnership at home Kids easily influenced from their outside world Identification with the same sex parent Gender detectives - searching for the group that they belong in The one way glass study Women have this idea that their male partner should not be inconvenienced, and that it’s ok if they are 16:17 Is being traditional wrong? What good dads get away with Stay at home mom stigma 19:05 Dual earning couples is sole focused on from All The Rage Book After work “breaks” ?After work “breaks” ? Unequal experience, unequal ability Taking care of children takes practice Paid paternity leave for men in other countries - use it or lose it 24:20 Who is responsible for the mental load? Techniques to share the workload Women tend to feel more responsible and may have to unlearn this feeling of taking no time off Underbenifitor / Overbenifitor - both sides uncomfortable 29:50 The pandemic is making the invisible workload more visible Possible progress to be made in couples 32:45 Genius / Fail moments JC’s kids have been helping around the house since the pandemic hit, including dinner! #geniuswin Chris grounds steak with kids to make tacos. They were a hit and ready to go, until Chris accidentally dropped a glass dish right next to the taco meat and glass got in the taco meat… Dinner restart #fail Darcy embraces a sugar vacation during the pandemic and let’s her girls feast on junk food that is usually not allowed. #genuisfail maybe?? ### How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! Check out Fiverr (https://track.fiverr.com/visit/?bta=121216&nci=7416) for all your Freelance needs. Panel JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Darcy Lockman.

    047: Black Lives Matter

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2020 40:11


    Parent Driven Development Episode 047: Black Lives Matter, How to be Anti-Racist (https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-VlBO-QgirITwCTugSfKie5Fs/preview?pru=AAABcnX07hc%2APm8gUUGqTq4TxCwAWKNadg&fbclid=IwAR0y2_zK_2nsTviltzZr9ILXJRHa2xxj4xO0zALLye3pAB7HmOOoyfNQ1S8), How to Talk to Your Kids about BLM 00:20 Black Lives Matter Movement 02:00 How NOT to raise racist kids Allison and Kwu both have young kids, so conversations are slightly different Gender inequality talks Explaining to kids how and why people are treated differently in different areas Changing the language in the house: racism, violence, hate 07:50 Exposing pictures, graphics and videos to your children, no matter the age. What's appropriate? Protesters getting arrested Bail rates vary depending on race Children are very intuitive and understand more than we think 11:30 How to talk to young kids about BLM Bi-racial and how they are often judged by their outer appearance Comfortability amongst couples and how to lean into these conversations with their children 17:40 Rallies, protests and how to support Different forms of support during BLM COVID is still relevant Amplifying POC voices Daily threads on educational resources, city statuses, anti-racism resources, action items 25:10 How can we make our world better together Opening the conversation about anti-racism with friends, family, community members Focusing on the growth of our children to be anti-racist 28:45 Genius / Fail moments Allison’s son struggles with life after the virus as he starts to jump on their nerves from a relaxed approach at the beginning of quarantine #fail KWu focuses on finding a chinese immersion school for her son but it he jumps into the wrong level and doesn’t understand much and is a bit of a mess from lunch right before #fail RESOURCES: BLM and how to talk to you kids about racism Anti-Racism Resources (https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-VlBO-QgirITwCTugSfKie5Fs/preview?pru=AAABcnX07hc%2APm8gUUGqTq4TxCwAWKNadg&fbclid=IwAR0y2_zK_2nsTviltzZr9ILXJRHa2xxj4xO0zALLye3pAB7HmOOoyfNQ1S8) Black Lives Matter for Families (https://blmweekd65.weebly.com/for-families.html) Webinars for Anti-Racism (https://www.embracerace.org/resources/webinars) WOKE Kindergarten (https://www.wokekindergarten.org/) How to Talk to Your Kids About Racism (https://www.prettygooddesign.org/blog/Blog%20Post%20Title%20One-5new4?fbclid=IwAR1erPdRJlJ9BI2y63RXb0Htks9lIsYJ-6m016SlmTgt1Rk-fYprp1_sE44) Books on Social Justice for Young Readers (https://www.slj.com/?detailStory=great-books-social-justice-middle-grade) Raising Race Conscious Children (http://www.raceconscious.org/workshops-and-consultations/) Talking About Race: The Smithsonian’s National Museum of African American History and Culture (https://nmaahc.si.edu/about/news/national-museum-african-american-history-and-culture-releases-talking-about-race-web) How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community! Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Katherin Wu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)

    046: Paternity Leave + Dad Talk

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2020 48:50


    Parent Driven Development Sponsored by: The Preschool Box (https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/) & Nurture Life (https://nurture.life/parentdrivendevelopment) Episode 046: Mike McQuaid on paternity leave, Balancing Dad Podcast, and raising kids in different countries. 03:08 Welcome Mike McQuaid (https://twitter.com/MikeMcQuaid)! Mike McQuaid is a father of two and lives and works in Edinburgh, Scotland. He is a senior engineer at Github where he’s worked for the last six years. In his free time, Mike is the package leader for the Homebrew (https://brew.sh/) package manager. He also likes going to the gym, walking his dog and hosting the Balancing Dad Podcast (https://balancingdads.com/) for working fathers. 03:40 Paternity leave Split time paternity leave (aka, you can break up your paid leave) Utilizing quarantine time to potty train 07:52 Mike on Balancing Dad Podcast (https://balancingdads.com/) Gender roles can creep in easily during transitioning into new parents Women are asked more, “how do you do it all,” but men are not.. Allison shares how society pushes relationships to not be equal 15:35 Mike shares a better future is possible! Listing both parents on kids forms, or switching who is listed as primary contact. 18:32 What has Mike learned for hosting Balancing Dad Podcast? No matter the country, finances, age, relationship, all parents share a universal bond at the foundation 20:18 Culture difference with raising kids in different countries Maternity and paternity leave Healthcare Language/slang Diaper vs. nappies Scotland is very friendly to kids Different ways of being a parent and share with other parents 27:30 Worldly talks with our kids Traveling around the world with kids Discussing computer friends from around the world helps expanding cultural knowledge Remote work flexibility and setting boundaries with work 31:20 How does Mike manage all he does?! Firm boundaries No work or open source emails on his phone Work days are carved out and scheduled for certain things Setting expectations for certain projects Making things good enough, not perfect 32:20 Genius / Fail moments Chris was in a bit of a hurry with his son in the car and he picked up Chris getting agitated with other drivers and kept repeating “move cars, stop going so slow”. #fail Allison rocks a #genius with her son Devin and showcases his “Devin’s agreements” above the fireplace Mike slowly becomes frustrated with his younger son, while his older one sits and waits for a fork to eat, only to have him notice way after the fact... #fail Mike uses the phrase “just this once” and realizes that it will never be just this once ;) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Special Guest: Mike McQuaid.

    045: Miriam Tocino: Zerus and Ona

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2020 43:12


    Parent Driven Development Sponsored by: The Preschool Box (https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/) Episode 045: Miriam Tocino - Zerus and Ona 01:56 Welcome Miriam (https://twitter.com/miriamtocino)! Zerus & Ona (https://zerusandona.com/) were born from Miriam's own circumstances as a mom. By the time she had her baby, Miriam was the coordinator and teacher of a Development Bootcamp in Amsterdam. So, when the time came to go back to work (her son was 3 months old), she jumped back. After some weeks in the job, Miriam realised she couldn't do it. She was constantly sleep deprived and with no help around from family (we're expats). Miriam quit her job and stayed at home with her baby. She then started to use his naps to draw and write Zerus & Ona. **FREE PDF from Zerus and Ona on the ABCs of Computers (https://zerusandona.com/parentdriven) 03:29 Orgins of Zerus and Ona Miriam was leading tech bootcamps, then got pregnant Her baby was more work than expected ;) Miriam returns to work, but quit after a few weeks after returning Sleep deprived evenings inspired new ideas! 08:40 Finding more intention as a new mom Thriving through a creative outlet Craving more information for her child in the future, specifically around TECH Motherhood and creativity are interconnected 2 year journey to build Zerus and Ona 15:05 Switching from architecture to tech to creative children’s books Binge learning and career switching No regrets 19:05 Zerus and Ona “bits” Breaking down complex topics to make them easily understandable Miriam switches from thinking with her head, to listening with her heart. Unlocking creativity through The Artist's Way (https://www.amazon.com/Artists-Way-25th-Anniversary/dp/0143129252) Intuitive writing, journaling and play! 28:15 Zerus and Ona 2.0 Evolution of creating the books If you’re thinking of making a move, do it! Learning to move on from perfectionism 32:20 Genius / Fail moments Miriam allows her son a device while she finishes a project (unheard of in her house), only to discover all her original drawings of Zerus and Ona are GONE afterwards. #fail Allison’s son acts out more than usual during a super busy week for the family and realizes that maybe their communication could have been clearer with him from the start #fail Chris commits to structuring a new art piece with his daughter by watching YouTube videos. He ends up paying someone else, but instills a solid mindset in his daughter during the process #genius Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Miriam Tocino.

    044: Recipe Swap

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2020 52:06


    Parent Driven Development Sponsored by: Nurture Life (https://nurture.life/parentdrivendevelopment) Episode 043: Recipe Swap 01:15 Welcome! 02:04 Feeding kids is a full time job What are your meal time rules? Home delivery meal service Personal chef for the kids?? No… Meal time is meal time, and if the kids don’t eat, tough nuggets. 08:59 Dinner table time Phone vs no phone? Are you a fast eater or slow eater? Time to share conversations with the family Limiting or monitoring the amount of food for kids, do you do this? Sometimes the doctors have given us parents too much to mull over... 13:12 Food as restriction or reward? Dessert time - it’s a thing that is to be enjoyed Keto desserts… YUM Keto cake (https://chocolatecoveredkatie.com/2019/09/08/keto-cake-recipe/) Chocolate chip cookies (https://www.fatforweightloss.com.au/keto-chocolate-chip-cookies/) 19:25 Cook at home vs. ordering out Meal prepping during the weekend to prepare for the week. This makes it quicker and easier. Less work too ;) No meat preschools - managing meals around kids school food programs. Therapeutic time in the kitchen Leftovers are best and easiest! Ever hear of module dinner architecture? KWu and her family utilize this magic. Meal deliveries for the win - Home Chef (https://www.homechef.com/), Green Chef (https://greenchef.com/), Nurture Life (https://nurture.life/parentdrivendevelopment) Keto (https://ketocycle.diet/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=1655169031&adgroupid=81658627132&utm_term=the%20keto%20diet&adpos=&gclid=CjwKCAjw-YT1BRAFEiwAd2WRtt0QG-cBL5orBqS8zlQB_k0qsV-dYfXRe-s0fZE6ZazCSjEReRyYoBoCo9QQAvD_BwE) household Kosher (https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/what-is-kosher) household 27:05 Household hacks Breakfast for dinner (https://www.delish.com/cooking/g1636/breakfast-for-dinner/?slide=3) on Friday nights. What’s your favorite?? Kids Eat in Color (https://kidseatincolor.com/)- tips on how to present food to your kids Parents determine when and what to eat, kids decide on how much - Ellyn Satter, Division of Responsibility (https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-division-of-responsibility-in-feeding/) Smitten Kitchen (https://smittenkitchen.com/) Maximizing on slow cookers and insta pots Cook’s Illustrated (https://www.cooksillustrated.com/) - for stews, slow cookers, and more! What is Mirepoix (https://www.masterclass.com/articles/complete-guide-to-mirepoix-the-aromatic-vegetable-base)? Parenting trade off - you can choose cooking or the kids 40:18 Making the kitchen as your sanctuary Football season - perfectly steamed shrimp (https://www.mccormick.com/old-bay/recipes/appetizer/old-bay-steamed-shrimp-with-cocktail-sauce) and cheese boards for the win Dinner time is a celebration! Bringing coding into meal prepping ;) How to manage the recipe system. What are your tips?! 45:40 Genius / Fail moments Mandy has an awesome win when she hears her daughter is totally comfortable with her, including asking her sex-ed questions. You too for older girls (https://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-You-Older-Girls/dp/1609580427) #genius Allison’s son chose to wear a bowtie for picture day and it turned out way better than expected! #genius KWu bakes it up with her toddler that he helped make! #genius and delicious muffins for the win. Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)

    043: Managing Parents on Your Team

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2020 48:27


    Parent Driven Development Episode 043: Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons. Welcome, Nick Means (https://twitter.com/nmeans)! Nickolas Means loves nothing more than a story of engineering triumph (except maybe a story of engineering disaster). When he's not stuck in a Wikipedia loop reading about plane crashes, he spends his days as a Senior Engineering Manager at GitHub working on Security and Compliance tooling for our users. He's also a co-host of the Managing Up podcast, a show about leading and managing in the world of technology. He works remotely from Austin, TX, and spends most of his spare time hanging out with his wife and kids, going for runs, or trying to brew the perfect cup of coffee. 01:54 How do you approach management with parents on your team? Treating your team as you would want to be treated as a parent Setting examples to your team as a manager Evaluate the job performance on the work actually done, and not clock a few hours taken off for kid responsibilities Flexibility and trust in team members and manager 07:12 Work life balance and work life integration Work sometimes becomes an escape from parenting life Self care for parents! No kids included, you need you 11:35 How do you encourage your team members to take time for themselves Ask the right questions to figure out what will fill their cup? As a manager, you’re more aware of the state of your team members and can identify things quicker Applaud team members when you see them take the effort for PTO 17:18 When you’re the only parent on the team.. How to make others understand Speak with kindness, set boundaries, have trust Time zone issues Setting boundaries with your team members How to structure workflow with team members in different zones 26:20 Managers making it explicit that it is OK to be done when you leave your workstation 28:02 Managing for non-remote teams Inflexibility when have to go into office Complexity for parents when they are totally out of the convo when working in an office 31:40 Moms vs. Dads double standard Putting family time on calendar Single parenting, the lack of help 33:40 How can managers support parental leave Encouraging more time for first time parents The job to support parents starts when they decide to have kids, not just during the leave Twins 37:50 Genius // fail Chris Sexton, how do you spell drop? #fail Josh had the sex talk…. but bombed on the timing with his daughter #geniusfail Allison has a nice turkey day with kids and neighbors, building her more positive memories! #genius Chris Arcand makes his nanny wait on her scheduled time off #fail Mandy gets a puppy… and it's a beautiful new experiences to share with her daughter Nick and his wife forget about homework… his son gets it done, but they all struggle the next day #fail Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Nick Means.

    042: Career Switching

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2020 42:03


    Sponsored by https://uc50fbf19597d42113767a8bc82b.previews.dropboxusercontent.com/p/pdf_img/AAz5-8IL8tZy7lJuT-DIYe9gqNe0AIwUs7iE9wHjSl3R3qYhPkHngmjavbJK9ocPQpVXsoOpSZdTdkjQEoai6fjyM0nlqFFpRjsxLpv-dsyNIuIiWNfi0gSwWYq3JA8IFykn5Y8Mnfwd5wq5CHHv0x-S9oXzWqpYC-JcEJi3eRDiSWQdrYhk7SxNdA2p5QGOFRq1n8Cx5BjgPz2QEbo8N8MvjLcTw64GfnNUSix_6o9ialxuJL2xS7RW9emkBsmkpmO-2QMqUowblOJegjQFPSNNZGgpiXpbAUnu5G_C6xEKJR6CVWwtjDriNvGHCr3fqbn6Z3BfS6RhKRrHJhg2mVvP/p.png?page=0&scale_percent=0 Parent Driven Development Episode 042: Career Switching and Learning to Code After Babies. Welcome, Bekah (https://twitter.com/BekahHW)! A content-creator by nature. Bekah is working on websites, coding-related projects, and her blog, but she has also written three screenplays, three pilots, and is finishing up a memoir. Bekah is all about getting creative! A mom to four young kids (3-10), Bekah has spent the last ten years of her life adjuncting in various university English departments. She is practically doing a 180 learning to code, and is sharing her failures, successes, and everything that falls in between. Bekah graduated from Flatiron School Software Engineering program, in May 2019. She been working at Sprokets as a frontend dev since July 1, 2019. 01:15 Bekah’s journey in career switching Trauma after 4th kid Husband encouraged her to code, and it helped with her PTSD She realized her passion and continued to tackled the challenges Bekah was a teacher prior to coding 02:40 Coding became therapeutic Learning a new skill requires intense focus, gave Bekah excitement and a break from past trauma, because coding required her FULL focus Constant learning with code Flow state when you sync into your work Code provides structure to balance a chaotic life with children 06:28 How to get through the lows of learning to code? Imposter syndrome Setting goals week-by-week, month-by-month, quarter-by-quarter Embracing the learning curve 11:23 How to manage coding and kids? Community and mentorship Momscan.co (https://www.momscan.co/), online co-working, sharing experiences Embracing natural flow, Bekah codes in the morning, because she’s a morning person 16:08 Conquering difficult births and moving past trauma Finding a mentor with similar experiences 17:51 Bringing coding methods into the house routine Sunday ritual for planning for the week ahead Bekah’s partner codes as well, built in mentor, and key communication 23:10 Experience in women in tech community highlights Being open and willing for meetups! Alex Tate - aligned interested to support moms in tech Moms need more support, especially with younger kids Childcare at meetups 29:20 Any surprises of the moms in tech community? The true vulnerability moms offer in support groups 31:47 Genius // fail Adarsh hired a babysitter for the morning after his wife's birthday bash! #genius Allison empowers her son's creativity and gives him all the extra boxes and he makes rocketships and more! #genius Mandy bonds with her daughter watching a classic favorite, Full House #genius Bekah’s daughter wants to go to Harry Potter land, and is reading all the books to prove it! #genius ...but maybe #fail when Bekah’s daughter decides to cash in on a promise JC’s bird watching community is growing and growing! But his family lacks consistency to join… #fail Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Adarsh Pandit (https://twitter.com/adarshp) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Special Guest: Bekah Hawrot Weigel.

    041: COVID-19

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2020 46:33


    Parent Driven Development Episode 041 : COVID-19 In today's episode we discuss what everyone is talking about, COVID-19. Yes, we talk about it. We're talking about the new normal, full time remote work, childcare - or the lack there of, how to communicate the situation to our children, and what this means for our world moving forward. Tune in! 00:55 COVID-19 check in On a scale of freaking out vs totally chill… How many tweets are you reading? Self quarantine pre plan Chris has a dry run when his son catches the flu... *The actual flu. 05:40 The new normal Will grocery stores shut down? Limit social outings Sports, events, and all gatherings are being cancelled… more of an inconvenience 09:10 Tech has shut. it. down. Everyone is working for home, asap What’s the deal with other industries? If you can stay home, stay home 13:20 New policies What about goals? College kids subbing as the new neighborhood babysitters Privilege in steady jobs Preschools and schools - some open vs. some closed 24:10 What about the kids? Toddlers situation.. They need room to move, but also need to be hand-washed supervised Parenting milestones 27:55 Full time work from home Hermit life has become even more hermit-y Parenting switch offs 29:15 How to communicate covid-19 to our children One kid was shown a picture of the virus.. So now all the kids in preschool want to see a picture of the virus Middle school kids are informed with a bit more detail Those are the rules! No more toys at school 37:28 Genius // fail Chris blames the cats… but they were framed!! By his corgi Allison has a COVID-19 #fail KWu’s strategy is to switch over to online purchases when possible.. Minimal contact #genius Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Katherine Wu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)

    040: Ethics and Leaving a Job

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 4, 2020 42:46


    Parent Driven Development Episode 040 Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons. 00:20 Welcome We discuss what it's like to work for a company that you may not agree with their ethics The difficult decisions and thoughts when you have a family and dependents counting on you 00:55 Examples of companies dealing with ethical controversy Companies working with ICE, kickstarter Ethical clients, customers, organizers, labor oriented - who’s responsible? 02:34 Technology, good or evil? Surveillance Hyper aware of indications within our jobs and technology Being in the tech industry, able to create foundational tech communication - bonus US culture is more politically aware within the last few years 06:40 Being more involved Lessons of the past Minority identity What are we if we don’t participate 09:30 Support and encouragement to leave a job, things to consider Financial decisions play a huge role Putting family at financial risk Healthcare Retirement benefits 16:44 Inflexible costs of leaving a job Childcare Extra childcare - nannies livelihood Donation makeup for moral indications 19:35 What can we do? Don’t public shame others Leaving a role is instant, but long term change takes time Use your voice for what you support Vote with your wallet 28:15 Genius / Fail moments Allison's son gets groovy with techno in the AM Adarsh’s son is back in the hospital from another day at the park.. The monkey bars! Kids are being taught how to talk about their feelings #hugeWin Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Adarsh Pandit (https://twitter.com/adarshp)

    039: Parenting Roles and Gender Equality

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2020 45:12


    Parent Driven Development Episode 039: Parenting Roles and Gender Equality with Richard Schneeman Welcome Richard Schneeman (https://www.schneems.com/)! Schneems (https://twitter.com/schneems) writes Ruby at Heroku, and maintains CodeTriage.com, a tool for helping people contribute to Open Source. He is in the top 50 Rails contributors and is an accidental maintainer of Sprockets and Puma. When he isn't obsessively compulsively refactoring code for performance, he writes such gems as Wicked, and derailed_benchmarks. 00:30 Welcome, Richard Schneeman! 01:00 All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership The book: All the Rage: Mothers Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership (https://www.amazon.com/All-Rage-Mothers-Fathers-Partnership/dp/0062861441/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=all+the+rage%2C+mother+fathers&qid=1580821503&sr=8-1) Co-parenting, gender equality Progressive relationships default into gender roles after kids 05:18 Progressive Parenting What’s fair? Progressive until they have to make a change.. 08:15 Moms vs. Dads Dad’s get applauded when caring for children in public Creating boundaries of designated mom and dad jobs with the kids 10:50 Visible Work vs. Invisble Work How to balance and create boundaries between partners RSVP’s - CC’d emails, response, birthday presents, who’s responsible? Coding pairs and how they relate 17:01 How to Define Who is Responsible? Create a system The mentorship manner Not only doing what is asked, but proactively taking steps 21:15 Meta Tasks Partners double checking each others work, basically twice the work! Micro managing 25:30 Calendar System Shared task and to-do lists Bringing work management systems into home management systems Schedule a weekly meeting with your partner to go over shared cared Check the calendar! 31:01 Genius / Fail moments Josh’s daughter gets her hair dyed and it looks great, but her new conditioner leaks the blue color from her hair all over the bathroom! #fail Chris coordinates Grandpa time to give his wife more free time #genius Richard’s son glues his favorite picture on his bedroom wall, with handwritten marker too #geniusfail Allison has a genius in Sweden with her two young children All the Rage: Mothers, Father, and the Myth of Equal Partnership (https://www.amazon.com/All-Rage-Mothers-Fathers-Partnership/dp/0062861441) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Richard Schneeman .

    038: Women Mentorship with Kari Clark

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 22, 2020 51:27


    Parent Driven Development Episode 038: Women Mentorship with Kari Clark from Uplift Parents Welcome, Kari Clark! Kari is the founder Uplift Parents (https://www.upliftparents.com/), a coaching service for working moms. She previously worked at Google for 8 years, invented their live case product, and co-created many other products. Kari has two kids and believes that they both made her a better at her job! Interviewing over 100 women, all at the top of their field, Kari breaks down the common threads in successful working moms and how we all can amplify our lives. These are the best tips for working moms! 00:50 Welcome, Kari Had two kids during her time at google Became incredibly focused after kids Interviewing women at the top of their fields (all moms) and created Uplift (https://www.instagram.com/getuplifted/) 02:50 What was the trend of working moms from home and in the office? There is success in many ways Common trend, perspective, empathy and efficiency 04:45 Ruthless efficiency Make more of your time Details are huge after having kids OCD tendencies?! 7:35 How to balance efficiency with rest Uplift offers group or individual coaching sessions and encourages users to get off the hamster wheel and take time to reflect and make sure they are aligned with their path. Take time to savor your coffee, smell the flowers, and remember what’s important! Your careers are long, your kids are only very young for a short time 12:08 Enjoying work-life balance Feeling fulfilled from work, unapologetically, especially for women Creating intentional boundaries to spend time with family 14:10 Pushback from women mentorship Difference between mentorship and coaching Everyone has a nutritionist, trainer, and other specialists, why would you not have one on motherhood?? Networking was the number 1 thing that got cut in women’s career post kids 19:50 Not parenting advice, working mom advice New life changes encourage new life habits Uplift promotes big changes 2nd kid offers ease for moms and promotes big changes! 24:30 Moms and dads treated differently Dads are praised more than moms 25:40 Best “Zone Defense” tips for working moms Be kind to yourself! Logistical tip - be creative in how you delegate things Be comfortable with giving your kids responsibility, most will rise to the challenge Assign responsibilities for each partner, and trusting that they are taking care of it 34:20 How to delegate More intentionality behind choices Uplift encourages conversations about household tasks, etc Do you enjoy it? If not, delegate 39:10 Mom data from Uplift Parents 41:15 Genius / Fail moments Kwu’s son falls down the stairs :( Chris takes his son to The Lion King and forgets all diapers… Kari genius/fail combo on his son’s new school schedule Josh realizes he needs help with guiding his daughter academically, but his daughter is totally on board and cooperative #genius #win Allison’s daughter is extra exploratory and discovers essential oils! Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Kari Clark.

    037: New Panel Intro - Welcome Chris and Adarsh

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2020 60:23


    Parent Driven Development Episode 037: New Panel Intro - Welcome Chris and Adarsh! This episode we feature two new panelists on Parent Driven Development, Chris Arcand and Adarsh Pandit! Chris is a Minnesota native holding two bachelor degrees in musical performance and computer science. After some years spent in Washington DC, Chris and his wife decided to return to their home in Minneapolis to start their family. They have a 2-year-old son and one more on the way! Chris currently works as a software engineer at Hashicorp. Welcome Chris. Adarsh is a developer consultant living in Oakland, California with his wife and two sons. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital and is currently on the Ruby Developer Board. Originally from Michigan, this former scientist taught himself code while working for boutique consulting firms. Adarsh is currently the primary caregiver at home and is embracing every sock and sandal dad moment he can get! Welcome Adarsh. 00:30 Welcome Chris and Adarsh! 00:51 Chris Arcand Chris shares a bit about his past work experience, family and himself! 03:04 Adarsh Pandit Adarsh shares a bit about his past work experience, family and himself! 05:40 Do we do too much? Adarsh’s wife is practicing physician and is super busy! Early mornings, late nights and even weekends Adarsh is totally a hands-on dad! Taking on the majority of childcare in the home (socks and sandals kind of guy with no shame) Bringing in software development tools into parenting, scheduling activities, etc… and they are useful! 07:25 Irregular work schedules This can cause more difficulty in scheduling for kids Kids thrive under routine and consistency and irregular schedules can be tough Adarsh currently does leadership consulting and is a CTO working about 20-30 hours a week, this gains him flexibility 09:10 Consulting and irregular work schedules, how do they mesh? Coding needs more focus and uninterrupted time, not conducive to irregular scheduling To-do lists are super important, but so is knowing when to let them go! 11:59 Summer vs. school schedules Allison’s kids are currently in year-round school, she preps for the years of summer camps, activities, and whole new schedules… uh oh! 14:05 Older kids get more responsibility You’re actually managing less as your kids grow up. Baby bags are essential! Kids bring extra hands on vacations Parents now empathize with crying babies AND the parents holding them 15:40 Traveling with young kids Trend in families with a known “bad baby traveler” The treats are not really necessary, a crying baby is normal Chris had a seat neighbor draw a panda on a bag for his youngster when he had an uncomfortable flight Overall consensus, we shouldnt be bribing each other 19:40 How moms and dads are treated differently Mom’s may be glared at for having a screaming baby on a plane, dad’s are instantly supported More empathy comes from parenthood, especially when you get more educated on child development 24:30 Growing families KWu’s son starts part-time preschool, and is expecting her second! Chris expects his second child as well Doula‘s plus photography bundle - are these photos too personal? Emergency births are very overwhelming Scheduled C sections are bizzare, but can be more calm 31:45 Multiple kids Is it the different personalities of the kids, or is the younger child a bit easier to manage? Multiple kids can help entertain each other Time goes quicker after each kid Kids learn lessons when having siblings Oldest vs youngest child 43:28 Genius / fail moments Adarsh's family camping trip ends in the hospital #fail Chris fails at pre-planning to move-out of his house.. by taking a vacation the week before! KWu fails at unpacking from her cross-country move, misplacing her microphone and engagement ring… Allison has a genius finishing her daughter’s “quiet book” Chris finds success by implements reading time before bed #genius JC has a proud dad moment #genius KWu’s forgets the bug repellent #fail, but scores from a teenager to keep her son safe! #genius Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Adarsh Pandit (https://twitter.com/adarshp)

    036: The Process for International Adoption

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 11, 2019 43:12


    Parent Driven Development Episode 036: Adoption This episode will discuss the process of international adoption, the major changes that hit home, and future challenges adopting parents and children face 00:28 Welcome, Kalimar How long does it take to adopt a child internationally? It took Kalimar 2 ½-3 years! Kalimar and his wife have had their baby girl for 6 months, she is now 21 month old Huge learning curve welcoming a child that already has mobility 01:12 Why choose adoption? Kalimar and his wife are 35+ and decided this was the right option for them 01:39 What is process for international adoption? Adoption ad in paper, an option International adoption agencies is most common and safe International adoption requirements: Micro scale of state approval, social workers, background checks, reading, workshops, cultural events, then moving to federal approval then international country approval 4:43 How hard is it to adopt a child? Is parenting easier or harder? The paperwork is tough, but Kalimar says parenting is harder! Everyone and every book has a different advice on parenting Kids don't come with instructions 6:05 Challenges of being a new parent? No more late nights because baby doesn’t sleep in The need for more friendly activities with friends, luckily most of Kalimar's friends already have kids! Secret sledding hills that have mostly been kid only zones are now opened up to play at 8:08 Experiencing everything with fresh eyes KWU's son is full of excitement and the energy is contagious Kalimar's daughter eats spaghetti for the first time and its adorable New toddlers like to explore their limits and gravity 10:36 Things to consider when adopting a child The challenges in adopting a newborn verse a toddler Kalimar had to baby proof before bringing his daughter home The danger kid zone within the house, everyone has one 12:20 Are post adoption services and consultants available? Yes! Massive support from adoption agency, trainings, workshops, other families and community members Why parenting classes are important and how biological parents should be put through parenting school just like adoption parents First day with adopted child - the bumps, triumphs and everything in between 15:23 How do you decide which agency or country to choose from? First google agency, then attend an open house and adoption seminars, see who you mesh with Factor in expense of international adoption cost and timeline that it will take 17:45 How do the adoption seminars prepare you? Kalimar reflects on the self question of making it known that his daughter is adopted in daycare or not Adoption transition tips - understanding the child is going through HUGE emotional changes Kalimar feels lucky his daughter is so adaptable How to talk about the adoption process with your child at the level they can understand. Open discussion is best, remove the taboo Adoptive parents do a whole lot of work and are totally the parents 24:13 Top parent concerns, are they adoption based? Kalimar worries about his daughter being treated as a minority, as he and his wife are caucasion and their daughter is Indian. Girl and dad relationship, other common worries Become a part of the local community of their daughters orgin Pros and cons of exposing your child to their origin country 28:46 Genius / Fail moments Chris stores old legos and toys in his attic until his friends with new babies need them. Out of the house and supporting a friend #parentingwin Allison gets crafty by using walkie-talkies to keep in touch with her 4-year-old son at her office HQ #genius JC’s 10-year-old daughter is a total catch! She learns how to put in the work to improve her skills as her teams catcher. KWU’s son is repeating everything. She’s noted to watch her language, but proud that her son has picked up on her good habits and is mimicking new language. Kalimar temps his daughter back to the dinner table by making it look like the most delicious time ever! Kids continue to throw food on the ground... to learn reaction and explore new roles #fail Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Kalimar Maia.

    035: Summer Vacation

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2019 43:40


    Parent Driven Development Episode 035: Summer Vacations Welcome! 00:35 Summer vacationing as a kid vs. adult The hosts reflect back on their experience of summer vacation as a child vs. what their kids experience now. How much do kids actually remember on these family vacations? Loads and loads of driving!! 06:52 Flying vs. driving The views! You can either see more of the places in between or more of the place you’re going to What does your family value more? Is the classic road trip only nostalgic? 10:20 KWu's travels KWu becomes a foodie in Paris! Winter ski trips KWu thinks it’s a good start to travel domestically before going internationally with her own children 12:06 Involving the kids in travel plans Get the ideas of what the kids are actually interested in to make for a better vacation 14:13 Take the kids anyways Kids may end up being grumpy anyways, so let's take them along regardless 14:50 Older kids remember more Super rewarding as a parent to hear positive feedback from the kids on a successful vacation Playing name that tune on the car ride home - the feeling that may actually last in our kids memories. 17:11 Yearly vacations and sporadic trips Chris plans a yearly beach trip with family as the designated time to get together Annual cousins week Josh’s daughter gets real about wanting to go to new places and experience new things during summer trips JC takes the kids on an annual beach trip but mixes it up with locations 20:13 Let your kids bring friends on vacation Josh finds success having his daughter bring a friend on a weekend getaway Built in play buddies when friends come along 23:01 Sporting events with kids and friends Built in getaways with friends Typically less drama Other parents around to mingle with and relax 23:43 Vacationing with another family Allow the kids to be with kids, and adults to be with adults Share responsibilities of who is caperoning #parentinghack But do the parenting philosophies match up?! 26:50 Different screen time rules Josh’s daughter is a mini Zuckerberg while her comrades are a bit behind A friend to Chris's kids ican't seem to put his phone away during bowling night JC had a TV in the mainroom on a vacation and it became the default daily wind down 29:40 Setting ground rules for phone time before vacations Josh’s daughter follow suit and uses her phone for taking pictures Assigning family time without phones is best to keep everyone on the same page 33:01 Keeping things fresh during family vacation Dice roll for a fresh activities Some of the best memories come from impulsive detours 34:36 Genius / fail moments KWu’s son went out and got eaten by tons of mosquitoes causing so much itching that they eventually bleed Bath time is now a nightmare #fail Chris and his wife volunteer to help out a family friend’s twins! He soon realizes the horror of having multiples Josh’s daughter has been having loads of sleepovers and he’s been sending a bottle of wine for the watchful parents. Definite notion of being invited back #genius JC’s oldest graduated high school, planning for college and is working hard over summer break. #proudparent Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena)

    034: Extracurricular Activities

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2019 56:10


    Parent Driven Development Episode 034: Back to School and Extracurricular Activities for Kids 00:59 Welcome, Barrett Clark Barrett Clark is a data programmer, speaker and author of Data Visualization ToolKit. He is a longtime member of the Ruby community and a co-organizer of RailCamp South. Married for 22 years, Barrett and his wife have two teenage boys and a new dog. Ruby community Family: 2 highschool teenage sons (senior / sophomore) both in band. Parent advisors and past president to children’s band team 01:46 Extra curricular activities for kids Barrett’s son involved with band The parents get involved as well, to have the kids know that you value them and their interest carpools with fellow parents 08:25 Extra cirrculars taking up more time than school and work. How to deal? Helping kids see the importance of prioritizing (school, dating, work, band, etc) 12:20 Helping kids find their “thing” + Overly committing kids to activities to help them find a passion Signing your kids up for more activities Kids getting wiped out from over activity Teaching kids the importance of community at a young age 15:15 Help kids find their community Friends of similar interests and ideals Creating deeper bonds Certain activities lend towards a larger community than others. gymnastic - girls range from 12-18, while sports often limit to one age group 17:13 Becoming a part of your kids activities More time with your children Build your own community amongst the other parents involved with your kids Flexibility in being involved “part-time” 20:51 Uninvolved parents vs. involved parents Single parents Younger kids in school Parents helping each other get their kids to activities Making sure other kids have support if their parents aren’t there or too busy 25:45 Ways to keep busy parents in the loop: build greater community Film concerts, games, etc for distant family members or busy parents to help keep them involved Building the community feel past just teammates and classmates 27:28 Discussing the organization of extra cirrculars before getting involved Sit down and discuss with your child. what’s important to you most? will you have time for all these sports and clubs? Ask about the history of the organization and decipher if it’s the right fit for you and your child 30:02 How to deal with “that parent” + learning to manage other parents in your kids activities Don’t yell at refs Overly involved parent envy 32:14 The financial side Fundraisers - parents typically have to get involved as well Writing a check vs. spending the time on fundraisers Kids take responsibility (older kids) Parents budgeting for future extracurriculars for kids Non-negotiable extracurriculars for kids - kids choice vs. have-to’s Budgeted financial support for activity or sport 42:35 Genius / fail moments The volleyball team offers a weekend trial for students to try without commitment. #genius New favorite child when they take on your same activity Barrett plays catch up with son’s college applications - the struggles motivating your child and parent strategy #geniusfail Middle school back to school night, too many teachers and no quality time #failmoment Allison’s son on a mission to find Sukana bread… except she doesn’t know what it is #fail Kwu’s son’s first haircut goes awry #fail So Kwu stepped up, orders tools and cuts his hair at home now #genius Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Barrett Clark.

    033: Raising Children Away From Family

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2019 50:45


    Parent Driven Development Episode 033: Raising Children Away From Family 00:28 Welcome, Adarsh Pandit Adarsh is a self taught coder, scientist and consultant. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital, a software design and development studio, and is on the board of Ruby Together. This episode we discuss what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from your parents and other family members. 03:00 The difficulties of raising a family away from family Lack of support Career trade offs Finding a sitter 07:01 Home-Ops: The Business Side of Raising a Family Who can help with childcare? Realizing the limitations of parents age and health as they get older Adjusting child care depending on the time, day or event that they are covering for. - who can drive? 13:30 - Coping with coordination Co-op babysitting Drop off playdates with neighbors 17:11 Finding the Right Child/Child and Parent/Parent Match Finding the perfect family match: kids need to get along and parents need to get along Building rapport with other families to become close enough to ask for favors for pick-up give specific dietary requirements, disciplining other kids and have other parents disciplining your kids “it’s probably fine” - trusting other parents with your kids 22:15 The Importance of Being a Patient Parent Without Extra Family Support Effective response to kids Managing stress - yoga, lots of water, getting outside, eating well 23:37 Work Flexibility Staying organized as a working parent Being a consultant has been helpful for Adarsh because he can dial up or down depending on the demands of the children. The benefits of being at home or working at home - enjoy the time with your toddlers because there will be a day they will not want your attention any more. 30:03 The Trade Offs of Having Two Working Parents Potential extra PTO for one the parents One parent typically has a more flexible schedule 32:30 Fail Moments More poop stories, because poop is always funny. #Fail 36:16 Showing Empathy Towards our Kids Kids are actually little people with little personalities and their own personal functions, weird!? Allowing kids to figure things out on their own. 39:30 Genius Moments Allison invites her son Devin on stage during a conference event and he tells says… “Mommy, I just want to be just like you when I grow up” #genius KWu’s diaper change at the playground #fail… having a spare outfit in the diaper bag #genius Adarsh gets his son to poop in the toilet #genius Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Adarsh Pandit (https://twitter.com/adarshp)

    032: Tackling More

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2019 42:58


    Parent Driven Development Episode 032: Tackling More 00:45 Welcome, Dana Jones Our guest, Dana Jones (https://twitter.com/danabrit), Engineering Manager at Abstract (https://www.abstract.com/). Dana has 4 children. Came in to software development from an untraditional path. 2:00 Dana goes back to school Dana has also recently gone back to school to get her college degree and talks about her experience 5:15 talking about the people side of our work and people management 8:40 how do you organize yourself? 14:00 kids and driving 16:30 how are challenges different at different times in your life and when you’re kids are different ages 20:20 professional development with non-tiny children and child development/phases 22:00 Meeting kids where they’re at 23:00 how has family time changed as children have gotten older 25:00 ask more questions and give fewer answers at work and at home 28:00 moderating your reactions as a parent 35:37 Genius and Fail moments! Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Special Guest: Dana Jones.

    031: Negotiating A Shorter Workweek

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2019 37:55


    Parent Driven Development Episode 031: Negotiating A Shorter Workweek 00:16 Welcome, Itamar Turner-Trauring Itamar Turner-Trauring started his software career in the cutting-edge field of multimedia CD-ROMs. He currently works as a consultant helping speed up Python code and deployments (https://pythonspeed.com), and shares his software and career mistakes every week with 3700 programmers on his Software Clown (https://softwareclown.com) newsletter. His crowning achievement as a parent was when months of brainwashing paid off and his daughter stopped saying "my legs are tired" and started saying "my legs are getting stronger! Itmar is that author of "You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend" (https://codewithoutrules.com/3dayweekend/). 00:51 Working Part-Time as a Programmer and Writing a Book "You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend (https://codewithoutrules.com/3dayweekend/) 03:54 Overcoming "This Isn't Normal" or "Entitlement" Feelings Negotiation is easier at your current job. Your work ethic is already established. Frame/approach it as a problem-solving situation. 08:05 Difficult Parts of Negotiation Harder to do up-front at new companies. Communication concerns. What about emergencies? Worries about getting work done and job commitment. 11:26 Scheduling Your Shorter Workweek Be courteous of your team. Plan around regularly-scheduled meetings. 14:40 Utilizing Extra Time as a Parent 17:52 Taking on Remote-Friendly Tasks + Peer Reactions 20:12 Output Value + Impact You can be productive and work shorter hours. The better the management, the less of an issue. Asking yourself, "What is enough work?" can be a struggle to measure when you're not counting hours. Honor your commitments. Parents are excellent multitaskers!!! 28:44 Genius / Fail Moments KWu uses a sippy cup at night so she doesn't knock it over. (#Genius) Chris told his daughter, "You are not your homework," which was adapted from "You are not your code!" (#Genius) Itmar's daughter's snack negotiation skills are getting more sophisticated. (#Genius/Fail) It took less than 90 seconds for Allison's life to fall apart in her household! (#Fail) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Special Guest: Itamar Turner-Trauring.

    030: Moving and Traveling Internationally

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2019 49:59


    Parent Driven Development Episode 030: Moving and Traveling Internationally 00:11 Welcome, Annyce Davis! Annyce spends her day-to-day working as a Software Developer and Leader. She has specifically been focused on Android applications for the past several years. She's also an Android Google Developer Expert (https://developers.google.com/programs/experts/). This means that she spends a lot of time developing videos, blog posts, and conference talks for the Developer Community. Annyce is currently the Software Group Lead at a social impact startup called Zola Electric (http://zolaelectric.com/). They provide clean, transformative energy to households that suffer from expensive, unreliable grids or have no grid access at all. She gets to help impact the lives of people across Africa by developing a high-quality Android application that’s used by their entire sales force. 01:25 Moving from the U.S. to Amsterdam Fell in love with Europe about 4-5 years ago. 2 years ago, had an opportunity to move for a job opportunity. 02:55 Kids' Reactions to the Prospect of Moving / Transitioning After Moving Were worried about their grandparents and what the food would be like. Curiousity around schooling. Now attend an International School and take Dutch language lessions twice a week. Adjusting and acceptance of differences between life in the U.S. vs Amsterdam. 09:35 Logistics of Relocation to Another Country A cleaning process for your life and letting things go. If it wasn't sentimental, it went. Renting a furnished home. Take what you need to get through a few months. Shipping containers take a loooong time to be delivered. 15:20 Giving Kids Worldly Experience at a Young Age Exposure to diverse cultures. Status/prestige differences. Blissful ignorance to certain things. 19:26 Networks of Support & Feeling American While Not in America Having family send U.S. essentials!! Stock up while visiting. Visiting at least once a year. 25:39 Travel Tips Bring snacks. Have laundry soap. Wear compression socks on the plane. Figure out the money situation in advance. 31:43 Traveling Without Your Kids: Maintaining Relationships Having a transparent schedule. Talk every day. Bring souveniers. Being a parent and pursuing your career: People ask me for career advice all of the time. Here's a cheer:Self-deprecate, self-deprecateJust smile and congratulateWork twice as hard for half the payPlay with your kids every other day GOOOOOOOOO CAREER!!! #happytuesday #morningthoughts pic.twitter.com/sEH2xkl4y0— Annyce Davis (@brwngrldev) April 23, 2019 Set limits. Make it count when you're home. When you're away, the kids will be okay. And half the time, they don't even care! (They'll just make you feel guilty leading up to the trip.) What Do Teenagers Want? Potted Plant Parents (https://www.nytimes.com/2016/12/14/well/family/what-do-teenagers-want-potted-plant-parents.html) 45:37 Genius / Fail Moments KWu found convenient vegetables! (#Genius) Annyce messed up the train schedule, so they walked and tired the kids out! (#Genius/Fail) Mandy didn't pay attention to where her daughter way playing. Heeeeyyyyy, poison ivy! (#Fail) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Special Guest: Annyce Davis.

    029: Organizing Conferences

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2019 44:55


    Parent Driven Development Episode 029: Organizing Conferences 00:57 Balancing Conferencing with Parenting Andy has organized RedDotRubyConf (https://www.reddotrubyconf.com/), still organizes Brighton Ruby (https://brightonruby.com/), and has spoken the past few years at RubyConf (https://rubyconf.org/). Andy also puts out an email newsletter, with one Ruby/Rails technique delivered with a ‘why?’ and a ‘how?’ every two weeks. It’s deliberately brief, focussed & opinionated, and called One Ruby Thing (https://onerubything.com/). Chris helps to co-organize Ruby For Good (https://rubyforgood.org/). Systems, systems, systems. Staying in the speaker hotel during crunch time. Getting paid helps. Having no co-organizers = no extra communication challenges. Relying on your partner. Staying local helps. Having a venue. 06:52 Conference Sizes: How Big is Big? Andy runs Brighton Ruby as a single track, one-day conference of 300-400. Ruby Central (http://rubycentral.org/) conferences by comparison are up to about 1,000 attendees and multi-track over 3-4 days. Ruby For Good is about 80 people, but has less of a conference feel because it's groups of people hacking on different projects over a few days. 09:46 Classifying These Gatherings as "Work-Adjacent Hobbies" Benefits the career. Meeting, networking, and making friends. Feel-good factor. Prioritization. Time frees up as kids have gotten older. 19:30 Family Involvement Kids on stage are cute. Teenagers can help volunteer! Osmosis of exposure. This is what mom/dad does! Showing that work does not necessarily equal drudgery. 22:30 Behind-The-Scenes Tradeoffs The best track at any conference is the speaker track. Coaching, mentoring, and cheering on first-time speakers. Repetition of putting on conferences over the years = it gets easier, more fun, and less stressful. Atomic Habits (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0735211299/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=therubyrep-20&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=0735211299&linkId=a6154fb4886e2b76620e69e1d1f699a2) 28:21 Meal Kits and Meal Planning Conversation We all have tried them. We all have opinions. We are definitely open for sponsorship. Email us!

    028: Primary Caregiving

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2019 39:30


    Parent Driven Development Episode 028: Primary Caregiving 00:17 Introducing Guest, Nick Gauthier! Becoming a Full-time Parent Nick is currently the CTO and Co-founder at Nomics (https://nomics.com/). Before co-founding Nomics, Nick created MeetSpace (https://www.meetspaceapp.com/), a video conferencing application for distributed teams. Before that, Nick worked at Codeship (http://codeship.com/) on the Codeship Pro Continuous Delivery platform, as well as various other web application consulting projects in Ruby on Rails, Go, and JavaScript. 03:55 Being a Full-Time Parent as a Man "Aww, you're babysitting!"

    027: Fear Mongering and Inducing Panic

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2019 40:10


    Parent Driven Development Episode 027: Fear Mongering and Inducing Panic Show Background Resources Momo challenge: The real victims of the hoax are the parents who believe it (https://www.independent.co.uk/news/long_reads/momo-challenge-internet-viral-hoax-parents-a8806836.html) Momo Is as Real as We’ve Made Her (https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/02/style/momo-mania-hoax.html) A pediatrician exposes suicide tips for children hidden in videos on YouTube and YouTube Kids (https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2019/02/24/pediatrician-exposes-suicide-tips-children-hidden-videos-youtube-youtube-kids/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.e8215c20ac71) 01:29 Firsthand Experience? Mandy's daughter had no idea about any of this until it was brought to her attention. 03:17 Momo Challenges (maybe?) Explained 06:11 What do we do as parents to protect our kids? Do we lock them down from consuming all the media, or do we let them consume it and deal with it? Educating our kids and guiding them when things come up. Checking in with them during media consumption. Being honest. 15:13 History of Moral Panics Moral panics happen when young people get involved in something parents just don’t understand. Do we, as technologists, have an advantage in understanding better than non-technologists? 22:15 Rules and Boundaries -- Letting Live and Letting Go The "But what if?" Mindset Age restrictions. Ignoring the trolls. Tracking/monitoring your child via GPS location. Find My Friends App (https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/find-my-friends/id466122094?mt=8) 32:03 What To Do When Things Happen Flagging. Reporting. Calling authorities. 36:57 Genius / Fail Moments Jess: Her son picked up the ukelele! (#Genius) JC: Winding down involvement in extracurricular activities. (#Bittersweet) Chris: Baseball as a low-pressure team sport. (#Genius) Mandy: Her daughter picked up her Mimi's birthday tradition without prompting. (#Adorable) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton)

    026: Breastfeeding

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2019 42:47


    Parent Driven Development Episode 026: Breastfeeding 01:21 Making Feeding Decisions KWu and Allison both breastfed. Mandy did not. Feeling tied down vs feeling guilt. 13:32 Things They Don't Tell You Nursing clothes suck. Lactation happens even if you don't breastfeed! So many people struggle with nursing issues. Hormone shifts as you ween. 19:05 Navigating Conflicting Information Everyone has an opinion. There is no one way to do it. 30:30 Breastfeeding in Public When kids play with your boobs. Covers are B.S. 33:18 Toddler Talk Feeding around siblings. 34:34 Health Benefits and Science 36:57 Genius / Fail Moments KWu: Her son stole her husband's credit card! (#Fail) Allison: Forgot about the Kinder Egg. (#Fail) Mandy: Youth/Adult Bowling League fun. (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugrl) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

    025: Girls in STEM

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2019 40:46


    Parent Driven Development Episode 025: Girls in STEM 00:34 Why Joulez (https://www.joulez.co/)? Getting girls and women engaged in technology Lending opportunity for girls in the 8-12 age bracket The Juelez Formula: Identity Vocabulary Skills Tribe 06:05 Designing Into Motivation Fixed vs Growth Mindset (https://www.mindsetworks.com/science/) Tufts University Center for Engineering Education and Outreach (https://ceeo.tufts.edu/) Marrying fun and education Programming and Computer Programming 15:35 How can parents help? Context Vocabulary Building with them 22:38 Gender Expanding contexts in which we engage children in STEM Where are the toys that build empathy in boys? Providing opportunity for people of all sorts As a society we have a lot of unlearning to do 33:41 Genius / Fail Moments Chris: Snow day stress and frustration. (#Fail) Jess: Providing printed pictures for her son (due to his lack of having access electronically)! (#Genius) KWu: Buying a "Baby's First Chinese New Year" book....when it was his second. (#Fail) Stephanie: Extensive troubleshooting...when it was just a loose pin. (#Fail) Lesson learned? Troubleshooting is important! (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugrl) Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Stephanie Rowe.

    024: Teaching Kids to Code

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2019 31:02


    Parent Driven Development Episode 024: Teaching Kids to Code 01:29 Winding up in a developer evangelist role and teaching coding 02:58 Teaching younger vs older audiences 03:52 Getting kids motivated in the coding space Scratch (https://scratch.mit.edu/) 05:13 The benefits for kids who know coding literacy The Hour of Code (https://hourofcode.com/us) 08:16 Kevin's background in coding 08:45 Using Twilio (and real-world technology and tools) in teaching kids to code 13:31 Resources & Tools Glitch (https://glitch.com/) CodeCombat (https://codecombat.com/) 15:24 Is Minecraft (https://minecraft.net/en-us/) useful? 18:11 Next level resources Codecademy (https://www.codecademy.com/) Learn Python the Hard Way (https://learnpythonthehardway.org/) TwilioQuest (https://www.twilio.com/quest/welcome) 19:46 Helping passionate kids along the way (without scaring them away) Events, Hackathons, and Conferences THAT Conference (https://www.thatconference.com/) 31:05 Genius / Fail Moments Josh: Putting a bandaid (glass screen protector) over his daughter's broken iPad screen. (#Genius) Chris: Letting his daughter make pasta! (#Genius) Kevin: Letting his daughter make pancakes! (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Kevin Whinnery.

    023: The Holidays: A Retrospective

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2019 36:18


    ** Warning: This episode contains potential holiday spoilers for young children. Parent Driven Development Episode 023: The Holidays: A Retrospective 00:18 Spending the holidays with your extended family... When families celebrate different holidays and observe different religions Code-switching (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Code-switching) 12:28 ...Or spending the holidays alone and making new traditions! Elf on the Shelf (https://www.elfontheshelf.com/) NORAD Santa Tracker (https://www.noradsanta.org/) 17:00 Compromise and Respect; Expectation Setting When kids are younger, the holidays don't matter as much. You want to pass on things you did as a child to your own child(ren) 25:31 The Reality When no one pays attention to your wishes Thoughts about the future 31:05 Genius / Fail Moments Mandy: Remembered to move the Elf every day this year! (#Genius) Allison: Her and her husband remembered that their local avaition museum membership had a sister museum close to her inlaws. (#Genius) KWu: Her son blew his diaper in the carseat on the way home from her parent's house and uninstalled the carseat. (#Fail) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

    022: Single Parenting

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2019 47:16


    Parent Driven Development Episode 022: Single Parenting 00:46 Single parenting is becoming more common... ... but events can feel ostracizing. Logistics are hard to navigate. There are full-time and half-time single parents. 04:06 It takes a village Having a support system. (Friends, neighbors, family members) Non-nuclear families / modern family situations. 10:55 Dating as a single parent Introducing kids to significant others. When is it appropriate? When kids do/don't get attached to partners. 21:27 Challenges and eases of single parenting Drama: engaging and avoiding. Making decisions solo vs with someone else. Holding onto resentment/anger/confusion/disappointment towards the other parent. Questions from kids as they get older. Sometimes you just want to quit! 35:15 Supporting single parents Talk to them. Don't ask intrusive questions. Don't assume single parents live off of child support. Just don't assume, period. 39:43 Genius / Fail Moments Mandy: Her daughter made sure she had Christmas presents. (#Genius) Allison: Her son specifically wants to donate to a hospital on a beach that helps Jewish boys with broken bones that are healing. (#Genius) Jess: Took her son's stuffed animal on adventures because he forgot him at home. (#Genius) KWu: Her son is trying awesome new foods and less than 50% ends up on the floor! (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

    021: Self-Care For Parents

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2019 35:39


    Parent Driven Development Episode 021: Self-Care For Parents 00:25 Defining Self-Care Refilling your energy bucket. Naps. Taking care of your human body. Parenting yourself. 04:50 Flexible Sleep and Work Schedules Treating yourself with respect and kindness. Doing things for the good of the family. 10:56 Parenting Identities Time spent caregiving vs adulting. Having different strengths as parents. Having a network of "other" parents and families. "Intentional Community." 17:24 Specific Self-Care Suggestions Setting your environment. Meditation. Having non-distracting routines and activities. Cooking. Creative outlets: Music, etc. 27:05 Being Okay with Kids Temporary Unhappiness and Discomfort Yes Spaces (https://www.janetlansbury.com/2014/08/play-space-inspiration/). Ignoring tantrums. 30:49 Genius / Fail Moments KWu: Her son called her Mama!! (#Genius) Chris: Teaching his kids sarcasm. (#Genius) Jess: Teaching her son to use Google Home to tell him jokes! (#Genius) Mandy: Mazie's first chorus concert. (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton)

    020: Fertility Struggles

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2019 39:53


    Parent Driven Development Episode 020: Fertility Struggles 00:23 Welcome, Adam Cuppy (https://twitter.com/AdamCuppy)! Adam started as a professional actor, turned the corner into advertising, and found his way to tech entrepreneurship and education. Adam performed for the world-renowned Oregon Shakespeare Festival (https://www.osfashland.org/) before making his way into creative direction for Dutch Bros. Coffee (https://www.dutchbros.com/), where he oversaw brand strategy for all of their franchised locations. After six years at Dutch Bros., he co-founded Define Your Edge; the mission: to maximize the customer experience, understand the “why,” and let that influences the “how.” Within a few years, he co-founded Zeal (https://codingzeal.com/). When not writing code, he speaks internationally on company culture, software development best-practices, and agile methodologies. And, if you’re one of the rare few, you may catch him on stage. 01:17 Adam's Background with Fertility Struggles Adam and his wife tried for many years to conceive a child naturally before deciding to undergo medical testing to better determine any underlying issues as to why they were unable to do so. Initially, everyone assumed it was his wife, Julia, who was experiencing problems and was unable to get pregnant, however, it turned out that Adam was the one experiencing problems across the board. Roughly 15% of couples have issues with getting pregnant. Adam first went an got a personal trainer in attempt to increase testosterone levels naturally, and though they explored more invasive means of conception including IVF, they did not have to go that route and ending up conceiving about four months later. 08:55 The Emotional Weight of the Journey The feeling of failure weighed heavily, especially when it seemed like everyone around them (but them) was getting pregnant and having kids. Unfortunately, there was also a miscarriage involved at one point which contributed to a deep sense of loss and more failure. Julia and Adam did differ emotionally whereas Adam felt it would always work out and they would become parents one way or another. Julia felt that maybe it just wasn't in their destiny. Julia was also a high school teacher at the time, so watching teen pregnancies during school or shortly after they graduated was hard on her as well. 15:38 The Lack of Community for Males with Fertility Struggles Adam stresses how important as a man and 50% a part of the conception equation it is to have conversations around these problems. There are a lot less moving parts for men then there are for women to become a pregnant couple, therefore a lot of people equate fertility issues in men with masculinity or lack thereof. 21:43 Loving Parenting After the Conception and Birthing Journey Adam gets asked the question often of whether or not he values being a parent more because it was such a struggle to get where he and his wife are today. He's discovered he values the journey a lot more, and it has given him a greater sense that while it was hard, there are many other things in his life that are hard and worth pursuing. 26:46 Finding Your Acceptance and Allowing Other Parents to Find Their Own Whether it's because you cannot have more children, do not feel comfortable having more children, or want to or need to pursue different ways of becoming a parent again in the future, everyone has to find their own path and no path is the wrong path. No one is less of a parent than anyone else regardless of the journey. 28:56 Resources Being open about the challenge with close friends and/or family. Comminity support groups. (Hospitals/Fertility Clinics.) "Those who struggle together, learn together." Going online and look for the positive things. Tracking ovulation. 32:50 Genius / Fail Moments Mandy: Cut down her own Christmas tree and got it out of the forrest, into her truck, out of her truck, into her house, and up her stairs into a standing position in the corner of her living room (albeit after four hours), but she did it and she did it her damn self! (#Genius) Jess: Daniel Tiger songs are pretty cool, therefore strategic screentime is okay! (#Genius) Adam: "Tooter Checks"! (#Genius) Allison: Not traveling far for Thanksgiving and bring the kid's pajamas with you if you do go anywhere. (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Special Guest: Adam Cuppy.

    019: Being Adults

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2018 43:58


    Parent Driven Development Episode 019: Being Adults 00:25 Welcome, Jonan Scheffler (https://twitter.com/thejonanshow)! Jonan is a free-range computer sciencer at Heroku (https://www.heroku.com/) and cheerleader for hire (all major hugs accepted). He is also a board member of RubyTogether (https://rubytogether.org/) and all-around swell human being! We recorded this episode live and in-person at this year's RubyConf (http://rubyconf.com/) in Los Angeles. 01:09 Catching Up On Sleep, Spending Time with Friends, and Spending Spousal Points Conferences are NOT vacations, y'all! Traveling as a job. Being present at home. Partying is WORK. 11:16 Communicating to Loved Ones at Home Facetiming, calling, audio messaging. 18:50 Going Home / Reentry to the Parenting World 25:04 It Takes a Village... Support Systems When Away 29:30 Self-Care While Away Treats! Massage! Movies on the plane! Room service! Fancy coffee! Tattoos!?! 32:34 Genius / Fail Moments Allison: Her son drew her a picture "so Mommy doesn't scream as much". (#Fail); Attending an anger management for parents of small children class. (#Genius) Mandy: Forgot to download things to her devices on the way to LA! (#Fail) Josh: Mistook a sprained ankle for growing pains. (#Fail) KWu: Mistook roseola for windburn! (#Fail) Jonan: Ruined waffles for his kids. (#Fail) Andy: His daughter learned how to swim! (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Andy Croll (https://twitter.com/andycroll) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Special Guest: Jonan Scheffler.

    018: Designing Apps/Digital Products for Parents with Anne Halsall and Sara Mauskopf of Winnie

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2018 35:25


    Parent Driven Development Episode 018: Designing Apps/Digital Products for Parents 00:24 Welcome, Anne Halsall (https://twitter.com/annekate) and Sara Mauskopf (https://twitter.com/sm)! Anne is the co-founder & head of product of at Winnie (https://winnie.com/). Sara is the CEO. 01:12 Coming Up With Winnie: Providing Local Information for People With Children Great app to use for travel! Gives parents child-friendly reccomendations for activities, places to eat, things to see. 03:12 Content Moderation and Quality Winnie is a crowdsourced platform similar to Yelp or Quora where you can both ask questions or give advice. You can post under a pseudonym or anonymously in a community that is very well monitored and moderated. 05:23 Gathering Information Grew organically from private beta testing. The community would add members: friends and family. 06:23 Monetization Winnie is venture-backed. It's very important to keep the app free and accessible to all. 08:32 Building an App For and Around Parenting Parents are wonderful participants and well-behaved to boot. Content that could be considered harmful is not distributed. 11:06 How do you have time to be a parent AND work a full-time J-O-B?!?! Family-friendly workplace. Kids give you motivation. Attitudes towards parents are changing. 15:53 Winnie's Childcare Discovery Platform Links to the Licensing Database to make sure that places are legit. Childcare providers aren't necessarily web marking gurus -- many do not have sweet websites or the time/budget to create them. Rage-driven Development. 21:21 Holy Crap! Kids and Parents Exist in San Francisco?! 22:23 Topic Channels Connecting parents based on special interests. 24:10 Favorite Parts of Being a Parent and a Founder 27:11 Genius / Fail Moments Mandy: Her daughter reffered to Hillary Clinton as Harley Quinn (#Fail) Jess: Comparing voting to choosing between chocolate cake and ice cream (#Genius) Allison: Suggesting her toddler to "stop and think." (#Genius) Sara: Her daughter needs to cut back on the watching of Daniel Tiger after renaming her sister after the sister on the show! (#Fail) Anne: Her 4-year-old confused "voting day" with "boating day" and broke his heart. (#Fail) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Mandy Moore (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Jess Szmajda (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

    017: Work and Family Boundaries

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2018 36:38


    Parent Driven Development Episode 017: Work and Family Boundaries 00:16 Welcome, Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand)! Chris is a Software Engineer at HashiCorp (https://www.hashicorp.com/) where he works on Terraform Enterprise (https://www.hashicorp.com/products/terraform), a product that adds collaboration and governance features to the popular open source infrastructure tool, Terraform (https://www.terraform.io/). As an advocate of distributed teams and open source, he’s spent the majority of his career at other distributed, open source companies such as Red Hat (https://www.redhat.com/). He calls the Twin Cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul, Minnesota his home where he organizes the local Ruby users group, RubyMN (https://www.meetup.com/ruby-mn/?_cookie-check=tTPtT3O5bUmbVkoy), as well as moderates the ‘MSP Tech’ community Slack (http://msptech.herokuapp.com/). Outside of software, Chris is an avid backpacker and amateur ice hockey player, as well as the father of a rambunctious little 19-month-old. 01:32 Balancing Working From Home with a 19-Month-Old The Aspect of Literal Time: Utilizing time when kids are napping/otherwise busy "Shift Work" vs Having Flexible Hours Hashicorp's "Flexible Time Off" Policy vs "Paid Time Off" Approaching Work and Dividing Up Your Day 06:46 Making Family Plans 09:29 Commuting Vs Working From Home Location is Vital Having an At-Home Nanny 13:28 Choosing a Nanny Over Daycare 18:19 Maintaining Balance and Avoiding Excessive Interruptions Noise. Cancelling. Headphones. Shutting The Door 21:14 Improving Mental Presence When Not Working Give Yourself Time to Decompress Before Family Time Mindfulness/Meditation 25:23 Exposing Kids to "I'm working, and this is how I'm working." https://uploads.fireside.fm/images/e/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/XiTktlyT.jpg 43:42 Genius / Fail Moments JC: Has successfully kept his kid alive for 18 years! (#Genius) Also, his sophomore is starting in varsity football! (#Genius) Also, also, he is the team photographer which is a great hobby to have. (#Genius) Josh: Andrew Bredow's Chore Chart (https://github.com/andrewbredow/kid-chores) Chris A: His hockey room! His son is showing interest! (#Genius) ...But, having a new roof put on his house during naptime was probably not the best plan. (#Fail) Chris S: Let his kids help him paint a room! (#Genius) ...But, it turns out they weren't very good at it. (#Fail) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Support us via Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev) and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena) Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Chris Arcand.

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