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Transition as Growth: Vaughn's Bold Leaps from Athletics to Student Services In the heartwarming and inspiring latest episode of NASPA's SA Voices From the Field podcast we welcomed Dr. Vaughn Calhoun, an esteemed academic leader, recounted his transformative journey from a student athlete with a career-ending injury to a beacon for change in higher education.  Engineering Identity Post-Injury Calhoun began by sharing the immediate consequences of his injury and the impact it had on his self-image and life trajectory. He emphasized the importance of identity reconstruction, an experience that propelled him from a series of unfulfilling jobs to the realization that he needed to embrace authentic studenthood—a leap he bravely took by pursuing a master's degree far from the world of sports he knew. Encounters That Changed His Path One of the most pivotal moments in Calhoun's life was an encounter with a stranger at Borders bookstore who saw in him a potential future as a university athletic director. This set him on a path to his doctorate, with a determined goal to understand and improve collegiate athletics from an administrative perspective. Mentorship and Its Lasting Impact Calhoun credited much of his success to the mentors he encountered, specifically highlighting an inviting university president who believed in him and guided his professional growth. This president showed Calhoun how to harness vulnerability and understanding, which in turn helped him carve out his niche in student affairs. The Student at Heart of the Leader With a robust background in public policy and the professoriate, Calhoun brought humility and an unwavering focus on student success to his administrative roles. His approach has always been about being receptive to student needs and advocating for their growth and success, a principle he implemented in his roles at various educational institutions. Innovation and Adaptation Furthermore, Calhoun discussed the rise of AI in education and the urgent need for educators to integrate new technologies. Adaptation, he stressed, is not only inevitable but essential for student support and success, highlighting the importance of ethical considerations in the digital age. Embracing the Journey Closing the episode, Calhoun imparted advice to student affairs professionals undergoing transitions, encouraging them to focus on the process and seek mentorship. He suggests that staying authentic, seeking challenging experiences, and forming a supportive network are keys to personal and professional development.   TRANSCRIPT Dr. Jill Creighton [00:00:01]: Welcome to student affairs voices from the field, the podcast where we share your student affairs stories from fresh perspectives to seasoned experts. This is season 10, continuing our season 9 theme of on transitions in student affairs. This podcast is brought to you by NASPA, and I'm doctor Jill Creighton. She, her, hers, your essay voices from the field host. Welcome back to our next episode of student affairs voices from the field. Today, we sat down with doctor Vaughn Calhoun live and in person at the NASPA annual conference in March 2024, Seattle, Washington. Doctor Calhoun serves as the assistant vice president of student services and dean of Center For Academic Success at Seton Hall University in South Orange, New Jersey. He's been featured on a number of national platforms, including platforms, including Fortune Magazine, Education Edition, The Chronicle of Higher Ed, Inside Higher Ed, Huffington Post, NASPA Policy Briefs, and the Student Affairs Now podcast. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:00:54]: A thought leader and commentator on issues related to the changing landscape of higher ed, doctor Calhoun believes critical dialogue is necessary to equip students for the future of work, which means cultivating adaptive learners who can thrive in a world that is increasingly volatile, uncertain, complex, and ambiguous. Doctor Calhoun's leadership career spans colleges and universities in the northeast from public, private, urban, suburban, small and large institutions with enrollments from 2,000 to more than 20,000 students. This experience includes public research universities, small private liberal arts, midsize Catholic universities to a predominantly online state university. Doctor Calhoun is a graduate of Rutgers University where he earned his bachelor's of science while also participating as a full scholarship student athlete on the football team. He also earned his master's of public policy and administration from Cal State Long Beach and a doctorate of education from Northeastern University in Boston, Massachusetts. Von, welcome to SA Voices. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:01:46]: Hello. How's it going? Thank you for having me. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:01:48]: It's such a joy for me to be able to meet with guests in person because normally we're across time zones and on a Zoom box and things like that. So I really appreciate you taking time out of your conference to connect with us. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:01:59]: Absolutely. Happy to share anything and answer anything. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:02:02]: In our theme of transitions, when we got your story for casting, we just looked at it and went, we really wanna talk to you. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:02:07]: Okay. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:02:07]: Because your story, I think, is kind of unique in the world of student affairs, but also unique in that you've kind of been in a lot of different spaces before figuring out that your space, your professional purpose is here. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:02:20]: Absolutely. It took me a while. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:02:21]: So we know you're at Seton Hall now. We always like to know how you got to that seat, but we'd love for you to trace that journey through the beginning of sport. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:02:29]: Wow. No. That's just fantastic question. And, you know, my journey, it's something that I could not have mapped out. Yep. It it was something that really took shape while I was a student athlete. I played football at Rutgers. And in my 1st year at Rutgers, I blew my knee out. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:02:45]: And that was one of those things that you always think that happens to somebody else. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:02:50]: Yeah. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:02:50]: But when it happens to you, it's kinda like, oh my god. Like, it's happening. And not long after that, my head coach, he was fired. So these 2 big life moment events happened within 3 or 4 months of each other. And while I was at Rutgers, to compound that, at least at the time, I was steered into a major because it was athletic friendly. And that set me up on a course for not necessarily focusing as much as I probably should have on academics. And once I finished at Rutgers, I always tell people I graduated there, but I wasn't necessarily educated there. And that's a huge difference. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:03:22]: And it took me a while to kind of contextualize, well, what happened to me? And it wasn't until I read the book, The 40,000,000 Dollar Slave, The Rise, Fall, and Redemption of the Black Athlete, that really put it into context for me. And in particular, this book, it talks about the conveyor belt theory. Essentially, you have these institutions who go into black and brown neighborhoods and extract raw black or brown talent. And you're put on this figurative conveyor belt. And when you're on this belt, 1, you never know you're on the belt until you're off the belt. And the thing with the belt is there's always someone in front of you and someone behind you. Mhmm. And you move along this belt, and you get off the belt because you blow your knee out. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:03:58]: You aren't as good as they thought you were. And the consensus is next person up. And when the next person is up, you're essentially out. And when I read that, I was like, oh my god. I was a part of a system in which I didn't know until I read that. I was like, oh, that's what happened to me. And in that process, I was still trying to figure out, well, who am I now without sport? Because sport was something that I identified with since I was 6, 7 years old. And now here I am 21, 22 years old and it and it's over. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:04:25]: So now it's this journey of recreating myself. Like, who am I? And that led me on to going through a 1000000 different types of jobs. My first job out of college was shredding paper. Literally, shredding paper. I went back from my old school district and we were going from paper student records to electronic student records. This is 2004. And here I am, these boxes and boxes of student records. I'm literally scanning and shredding. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:04:50]: Wow. Scanning and shredding for 8 hours a day. I'm like, what the heck am I doing? And it gave me a lot of time to think in the process, and then that's when I decide, okay. I wanna go and try to be an authentic student. Go get my masters. It didn't really matter what it was. I just wanna explore this other piece of me that I didn't feel that I fully tapped into. So I ended up getting my or going to Cal State University Long Beach. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:05:13]: I'm originally from California. Going to Cal State Long Beach and I did my master's in public policy. And that's when I just started reading not just books on public policy, but just all types of books. Trying to figure out who am I in relation to the world. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:05:25]: So you invested in your education for yourself. Absolutely. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:05:28]: And during this process, there were so many things that I didn't realize about the world, about myself. And also in trying to find out who I am, I started taking on even more jobs. So I sold copy machines door to door in Los Angeles. And that was just something that I think everyone should try sales at least once. Just the experience of walking up to somebody and trying to sell something. Mhmm. And I remember I had this whole script. And my thing was walking into business parks and knocking on doors and saying, hey. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:05:55]: Can I talk to the person in charge of document management? And they're like, what's document management? And that was my end. Once you ask me a question, I can give you my spiel. So that was an experience. I even got put on a do not enter list because I was very persistent. And I kept going back and back and back trying to get the business. And then from there, I thought, okay. Maybe I wanna be an attorney. Maybe so then I took LSATs. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:06:15]: And then I said, well, maybe I might not wanna be an attorney. I might wanna be a police officer. I was driving down the 405 Freeway in Los Angeles, and there's this huge billboard that said LAPD hiring starting pay with a master's degree, $70,000. So I drove home, went online, put in my application, got called back for the written exam, and then got called back for the physical exam. And after I took my physical exam, it was about a 8 month period where it's just background check. In that time, I found me another job. I started working in insurance. And it was just this whirlwind of trying to figure myself out, but it wasn't until I had this one interesting interaction at Borders bookstore. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:06:50]: Remember Borders? It was like, Dr. Jill Creighton [00:06:52]: oh, yeah. Mini Barnes and Noble. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:06:53]: Yeah. It was like it was like, you know, it was like Nike Reebok is Barnes and Noble's Borders. And I love Borders. But I walked in one day and this older gentleman looked like Bernie Sanders. Right? And he says, hey, did you play Rutgers? I'm like, mind you, I'm in Long Beach, California. How in the world does this guy know I played? And I barely even played. But I had a Rutgers Football t shirt on. He's, oh, okay. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:07:12]: He says, oh, it must have been a fantastic experience. Right? So, you know, older gentleman. So I sit down and have a conversation with them. And at the end of the conversation, you know, after I share my story with him, he goes, I can see it now. Vaughn Calhoun, athletic director, USC, Stanford, University of Texas. I'm like, oh, I've never even thought about myself in that way. Right? And he was the first gentleman, the first person who kinda put in my mind that I can maybe fix college athletics or do something about it because my experience as a student athlete wasn't the greatest one. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:07:42]: He was a total stranger. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:07:43]: Absolutely. Total stranger. Did did know him, but we spent at least an hour with each other. And subsequently, we kept talking, kept meeting with each other and he even introduced me to his network who was a sitting athletic director in Los Angeles. So he said, hey, I want you to meet my buddy. I'm like, okay. So now there's this whole world of college athletics on the administration side that I didn't know exist. Well, I knew it existed, but I didn't know, like, that was a path that I could take. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:08:06]: So now this is 2,008. I just got married and if you recall, we had the financial meltdown and crisis in the world was just going in bad places. And I decided in that period of time that I'm gonna leave my job and move across the country to pursue my doctoral degree. And everyone thought I was nuts. Even my parents, like, what are you doing? You're leaving because at the time, I was working at for a local government agency making, you know, pretty decent money. And I said, you know what? The money at that time money's important, but it wasn't important. Right? I said, this is the thing that I wanna do because I said, I wanna understand how a college works and where does athletics fit within an institution of higher education so I can be an athletic director and fix it. And then here I am moving to Boston. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:08:49]: Literally, set my car, My wife and I are now newlyweds in Boston. And I remember as I'm going through this transition, I get to my last year of my doctoral program, and my dean and I get very friendly. And he says to me, listen, Vaughn. I know what you're trying to do. You wanna fix college athletics, but the way that you feel about it, 1, are they gonna let you in? And 2, if they do let you in, do you have to uphold the system in which you don't believe in? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:09:14]: I was like, oh, dang. Those are some great questions. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:09:16]: That's a hard hard dissonance to deal with. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:09:18]: And I was like, what do I do? He said, well, I have door number 2. I said, well, what's door number 2? He said, you can teach. I said, who the heck am I gonna teach? And he said, listen, because my dissertation was on student athletes who were academically clustered, steered into a major because it was athletic friendly. It was a qualitative research study looking at the lived experience of student athletes who were clustered. So he says, I want you to come into my undergraduate class and just give a presentation on it. Right? So I said, okay. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:09:42]: So I did it once, did it twice, and then he says, do you feel comfortable with that now? I said, yeah. I feel pretty good because the students were very engaging. I was like, oh, this this is teaching, Oh, I can do this. He says, okay. Now I want you to start applying to faculty jobs. I was like, oh. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:09:53]: Oh, he's pathwaying you. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:09:54]: I was like, oh, you we didn't say I was like and he said just start applying. So I was like, alright. Let me start applying. So here I am, and now I'm sitting in these faculty interviews. And, hate to say this, even when I was in college, I didn't read my first book until spring semester senior year, cover to cover. So now here I am in these faculty interviews talking about my academic and teaching philosophies and all these things. And, you know, not in my distant past, I was that student who was just kind of out there and and not being a real student. Right? So I get a callback and says, you're hired. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:10:27]: I was like, oh, wow. Right? And that was just, you know, my pathway into higher ed working for a business department, at a small private liberal arts outside of Boston. And as I'm going through this, it really just, one, changed the way that I just thought about just myself in this phase of just recreation that I could create a new identity outside of just sports. But interestingly, I had a buddy who was moving from Maryland up to Boston at this one particular college. And I've heard of it. I drove past it every day. I didn't know much about it. And this college had a black male sitting college president. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:11:03]: I was like, that's pretty awesome. You don't really see that in particular within, like, Massachusetts. Mhmm. So I just Google searched him and he had these interviews and articles. So he's a really dynamic individual. So literally, on a Saturday morning, pulled my phone out, saw he had a Twitter, I tweeted at him. I was like, hey, you inspire me. And a few minutes later, he tweeted back. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:11:24]: He was like, thanks. So like, oh, you answered your old tweets. This is awesome. So I said, hey. Can I so now now I was like, okay? He I got him engaged. So I said, this is my opportunity. So I said, okay. I tweeted again, can I have the informational interview? Right? And I heard nothing. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:11:37]: I was like, oh, okay. You know, people are busy Dr. Jill Creighton [00:11:39]: you know. Shot. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:11:40]: Right? Yeah. I'm gonna shoot You know, either 1 or 2 things can happen. You make it or you miss it. Yeah. But 2 weeks later, I get an email from his executive assistant that says, you know, the president wants to meet you. I was like, oh, this is awesome. So now this is August 2015. So I go sit in the president's office. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:11:56]: We were there for 3 hours literally. Wow. Just talking about his career, how he did what he did, why he did it, talked about myself, what I wanna do, what I think I wanna do. And in that meeting, he said to me, you can be a college president. I was like, woah. Again, right, just having these individuals, I couldn't plan for that. Right? So a few months later or within this interim period, we would text and talk. He introduced me to his network, and my job's August 20 15. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:12:21]: So a few months later, December 2015 and again, we never talked about jobs. Just philosophy about life and stuff. And he says, I wanna offer you a job. I want you to work for me. I was like, oh, okay. I got a job over here, but I like what you're saying just in terms of just his energy and enthusiasm. So I went and worked for this guy, and he would literally bring me into meetings I had no business being in. He hired me as an an assistant professor, which eventually I I was elevated to the chair of the chair of the department sitting as a faculty chair. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:12:51]: But I would go into these executive cabinet meetings and literally just sit on the wall with, you know, all the other VPs and they're all kinda looking at me, like, why is this guy here? And after every meeting, we would just have conversation about, okay, this is what's happening. This is why I said this, this, that, and the third. And, you know, this just happened, you know, over the next few years. And in this period of time, you know, he would bring me, like, literally into his, like, his personal life. Right? You know, he would bring me into his home with my wife and my son, you know, and and talk with his family, his wife, his kids. It it just became this this really awesome dynamic. And one day I just asked him, like, why are you doing this? Because he was just so generous. And he said, because someone did it for me. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:13:30]: I just asked that you do this for somebody else. I was like, I got you. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:13:33]: Paying it forward in mentorship. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:13:35]: Absolutely. Right? So, and one of the things he said, by you working for me you're gonna know the questions to ask. I was like, I don't know what that means. So as I'm going up from my first AVP position, I was able during the interview to really diagnose and break down some of the nuances and ask these very specific questions. And I ended up getting the job, and I remember calling him after the final interview. He was like, I understand what you mean. I knew the questions to ask. Right? And I think those questions help separate me in terms of just how I looked at the position. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:14:06]: But, you know, it was just through these events and people, I couldn't have planned this out. And when I talk about this transition, it's just a lot of constant movement but being open to that movement. Being open to being vulnerable. Being open to saying, okay. I don't know what this is, but I wanna explore it. And that's one of the things that I share with a lot of my mentees. It's put yourself out there. Ask those questions because if you don't ask, you're not gonna know. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:14:29]: So I think these are the these things that we don't often talk about in particular, leaning into your network, finding those mentors. And I think mentorship becomes very cliche, like, find a mentor, have this mentor, but, no, really build those authentic relationships. And that has helped me tremendously. I couldn't be in this position without those individuals or it would have took me much much longer to sit in the seat at Seton Hall. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:14:50]: That is an extraordinary journey from being a d one football player to weaving your way through to this dean of students path now. Do you still see yourself on that pathway to a college presidency? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:15:02]: I aspire to higher leadership and I know that sometimes we're in such a hurry to get there. But in getting there, you're learning so many lessons. Even in in these past few years, I've learned so many lessons just about myself, about how to manage and lead people. Mhmm. So I definitely see myself on that trajectory and I definitely wanna get there. But one thing someone told me is like don't rush the process. Right? The process is the process. You know, you don't wanna end up getting there and not being ready for it. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:15:31]: So I'm very mindful of that and and making sure that I'm putting myself in positions to sit on different committees, to be a part of conversation that make me a little uncomfortable. Like, oh, I don't know too much about the nuances of finance and budgeting, but let me sit there with it. And I think if I continue doing these things, doing good work, opportunities will present itself. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:15:49]: You've had a nontraditional education path into student affairs itself. How did you get yourself up to speed with all of the student affairs literature and practice knowing you come from that MPP background, that faculty end. And student affairs for those of us who've kind of been in the field a while, I think there's generally a point of frustration when we see someone who's come from a pathway that didn't include that student development foundation, and then all of a sudden we're being led by this person. So how did you come from that place of humility while still bringing your expertise that you definitely had in the public policy space? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:16:20]: Yeah. I think one thing for me is I know that I don't know, and I'm not afraid to tell folks that I don't know that I need your help. And I think when you lead with that, folks typically look at that as a point of humility. I'm not gonna say I know more than you. Because truth is, you know, any new job that you walk into, folks who are there know more than you about that particular institution. So earlier in my career, part of what I did was I was an assistant athletic director for 3 and a half, 4 years at a small private liberal arts and reported up to the dean of students and we were housed within student affairs. So I was always a part of those a lot of my job was around the student success on the athletic side, but it was for a division 3 institution. Mhmm. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:17:05]: So the dynamics are a little bit different than division 1 where the emphasis on division 3 is the whole student. And division 1 does that, but I think more so like division 3, it is just part of the culture and fabric of we know that. More times than not, no one's turning pro. That's not what our goal is. We're not trying to generate revenue in that sense. And then for me, I got into this because I was driven by my own negative experience. Mhmm. So student success and making sure that students are always at the top of mind is something that I always talk about and that I always lead with. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:17:36]: So when people hear my story and when when people understand why I'm doing what I'm doing, knowing that I have this background that is a little unique, but it's always toward that north star of how are we helping our students. And I think once that gets conveyed and understood, it helps galvanize people. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:17:51]: How did that student athlete experience inform how you practice in student affairs now? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:17:56]: Being a student athlete, at least at the time, I felt that I wasn't heard, wasn't necessarily valued. So anytime I see a student engage with a student, I wanna make sure that they're heard, that they're validated. Because when in particular, if a student reaches my office, usually something didn't go right at some point along the way. Right? And whatever their challenges are is the most important thing to them in that moment. And me being a former just student athlete knowing that I wish I had an advocate, I wish I had someone who could really just stand up for me. I take that mindset. And even when I get these parent calls, knowing that I wish that my parents could have engaged with somebody and someone would have been receptive. So always taking that to heart and make sure that I never forget that. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:18:38]: You've navigated a lot of change very successfully. Change and the mindset that you bring and kind of your philosophy around how you make transitions? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:18:55]: Yeah. You know, change is the really only constant and being open to it. Because I think so many times, generally speaking, folks are opposed to change because you always ask yourself, what does this mean for me? What am I gonna lose versus, well, what could I gain? And I always took the perspective of there are some things that I don't know that I know that I need to experience these things in order to become a better person and to elevate in my career. So if I would just sit back and what's comfortable, I'm not gonna grow. And interestingly, my son, he's 9 years old. And that's one thing that I really try to challenge him with. Right now he's doing Taekwondo and he's on the sparring team. And it can be pretty tough. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:19:30]: He has a really old school hard nose instructor. And my son always talks about, oh, this is getting tough. It's getting tough. I said, no. The tough part means that this is your growth phase. These are when the moments of you're gonna question yourself, but what are you gonna do in those moments? Are you gonna sit back or are you gonna meet the challenges? And that's something as a former student athlete, we couldn't just sit back and be comfortable. Because if we sit back and be comfortable, there's someone else that's working when we're not working. So constantly trying to say, how can we get better? How can we get that edge? Edge? And I take that with changes. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:20:01]: Things are moving. Right? And if I don't try to keep up with the change or get ahead of the change, we're going to be stunted in some way. And at the end of the day, the students will suffer for it. And I really think about this right, so when we think about AI, and I think one of the first reactions a year or so ago was this is the worst thing in the world. It's going to crush teaching. It's gonna crush learning. In some regards, it might to a certain extent, but also what are the opportunities of helping individuals? What are the opportunities in which we can streamline? And because students are going to enter a world that's AI driven, if we just turn our heads to that and pretend that it doesn't exist, we're doing them a disservice. Mhmm. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:20:36]: So how can we as a college community, staff, and faculty, educate ourselves so we can best educate our students and talk about it through through the lens of ethics. Talk about it through the lens of how these new technologies, though it could be different and scary, are gonna be the things that they're gonna need to be successful. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:20:52]: Well, and also AI is just not ChatGPT alone. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:20:56]: Absolutely. And I think Dr. Jill Creighton [00:20:56]: that's been kind of the narrative in higher ed, that ChatGPT is the end of academic integrity. But there are also institutions that are using it really well for, like, auto replies when students need information Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:21:06]: That's right. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:21:07]: At 2 in the morning. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:21:07]: That's right. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:21:08]: Or, you know, texting services or or whatever. So there's lots of cool opportunities, but then there's also ethical issues around copyrights and particularly with arts. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:21:17]: Correct. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:21:17]: Things like that, so but I also came aware recently of an AI repository that's cataloging, like, millions of research papers, which will be an incredible resource for doctoral students of the future, which which I wish I had access to when I was doing my doctorate. So it'll make the lit review process faster in some ways, but I think also will start to discourage people from reading whole articles. I mean, let's be honest, we're always skimmers anyway, but but I think that will be a fascinating evolution too. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:21:41]: Absolutely. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:21:42]: Do you have any advice for student affairs professionals that are in their own space of transition right now? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:21:46]: I think for anyone in the space of transition, knowing that it's gonna be difficult to a certain extent, but also knowing that if you just stayed where you're at, can you really grow? And sometimes you have to go out and put yourself in those vulnerable positions. As simple as asking for a mentor. Asking someone, will you mentor me? And again, for me, it's they can either say 1 or 2 things. They can say yes, or they can say no, or they don't respond. But what I think, you know, going through transition just knowing, focusing on the process and not the outcome and knowing that the journey will be the journey, whatever that journey, whatever that process is, and just focus on doing good work, Focus on being as authentic as you can, and focus on surrounding yourself with individuals who will speak life and encourage you. And also make sure you have those individuals who tell you the truth because we don't always just want cheerleaders around. We want those individuals say, hey. Can I give you some constructive criticism or some critiques? And that's where you can learn the most so you don't have as many gaps as you would if you didn't have those individuals there. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:22:41]: And if you're able to hear that when it's given. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:22:43]: Yes. Right. You gotta be open to that. Because some people, you know, the the the Eagles can be very fragile, but you have to be able to really take that to say, okay. You know, they're saying this because they wanna help me, not hurt me in most cases. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:22:54]: Mhmm. I think that can be quite dependent on the, the provider of that advice. Absolutely. Solicited or unsolicited. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:22:59]: And if you don't ask to to solicit something from somebody, why would you listen to someone that you wouldn't solicit information from? So for me, it's making sure that you have good people around you who really care for your best interest. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:23:10]: Is there anything that you did in a transition that you look back and say, wow, I wish I would've done that a little differently? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:23:15]: I think it's always hard to gauge what you're gonna walk into. And you have an idea of what a situation is, but you never know what it's going to be until you actually get there. So for me, it's really just ground myself in knowing who I am and knowing my strengths as well as knowing where my gaps are and just being just just very honest with myself about that. And that can be hard for folks. Right? Every time, you know, folks say, you know, I I know all these things and I can do this. And you wanna be that go getter, but also at the same time, just just knowing that constantly learn as much as you can. And learning people, learning programs, and learning processes. Like, those like my 3 p's. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:23:51]: I wish I would've known that about 10 years ago, but every institution, there's people, there's programs, there's processes. Learn those as quickly as you can. Mhmm. And knowing that the process, again, will be the process. And have a lot of those informal conversations as much as you can and just getting to really know individuals as individuals. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:24:09]: It's time to take a quick break and toss it over to producer Chris to learn what's going on in the NASPA world. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:24:15]: Thanks, Jill. So excited to be back in the NASPA world, and there's a lot of things happening in NASPA. There's a brand new Leadership Exchange Magazine that recently came out for spring 2024. And if you've never read the Leadership Exchange, you definitely should. The Leadership Exchange is the magazine for all of our chief student affairs officers that NASPA puts out a number of times throughout the year. And this Springs Leadership Exchange Magazine is focused around preserving campus discourse. Inside of this magazine, you're going to see some amazing articles throughout the entire magazine that do talk about campus discourse and what you can do on your own campus to be able to protect free speech on your campus. There are some articles about visibility and promoting Afro Latinx students, understanding professional certification, and how you can elevate your own division through professional certification, and also talking about some of the stories of student affairs and also talking about some of the stories within student affairs. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:14]: These magazines are not just written for vice presidents for student affairs. So don't let that turn you away from learning, from reading this and taking out of it some amazing kernels of knowledge. You can access this on the NASPA website. Go to the NASPA website, click on public publications, and you'll see the Leadership Exchange is one of the publications that is available to you as a member. Also, there's a few other NASPA books that I wanted to share with you that you may find very helpful on your own campuses and in the work that you do. 1st and foremost is a book called Small and Mighty Student Affairs at Small Colleges and Universities. This book explores critical opportunities and challenges at higher education institutions with fewer than 5,000 students. Written by a diverse group of seasoned campus leaders, written by a diverse group of seasoned campus leaders, this comprehensive text covers a range of topics relevant to higher education and student affairs while providing detailed insights and action to take for and in support of to take for in support of and alongside students at small colleges and universities. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:20]: Thriving in the small college culture requires flexibility, collaboration, and the ability to shift rapidly within the changing environment of higher education. Small and Mighty offers thoughtful strategies and insights to help student affairs professionals identify innovative solutions, innovative solutions to some of the most pressing issues facing small colleges and universities today. This book was written by Carol Livingston, Krista Porter, and Thomas Shandley and it is a amazing book for anyone working at a small college or university. And I highly encourage you to pick up a copy today. Now this season we've been talking about transitions and one of the big transitions that many student affairs professionals will go through in their career is supervising others. Another book that is available is called Supervised Practice Connecting Professional Competency Areas to Professional Development and Student Affairs. Supervised practice has become a hallmark of how the field of higher education and student affairs prepares future professionals. This book explores how to create the conditions necessary for supervised practice and the graduate academic curriculum to be a seamless learning experience. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:27:28]: Becoming a supervisor is a hallmark of how the field of higher education and student affairs prepares future professionals. This book explores how to create affairs prepares future professionals. This book explores how to create the conditions necessary for supervised practice and the graduate academic curriculum to be a seamless learning experience. With a focus on the ACPA and NASPA professional competency areas as the bedrock for enhancing proficiency in the field. This book is designed to introduce the competency areas as they relate to supervised practice in graduate preparation programs. Chapters examine how to design experiences for students in the workplace that align with the ACPA and NASPA professional competency areas, create condition for graduate students to understand the application of theory within the workplace, establish an environment that promotes an understanding of the supervisory role as it relates to socializing and retaining new professionals in student affairs, create learning partnerships that focus on the intersection of individual development and the acquisition of knowledge and skills for administrative practice, develop professional philosophy of practice in the digital age, and assess the professional competency areas within the graduate the graduate practicum and employee experience to ensure learning and development. If you supervise graduate students or want to supervise graduate students in the future as they prepare to be professionals in the field, a brand new book called Supervised Practice Connecting Professional Competency Areas to Professional Development and Student Affairs is definitely a book you wanna pick up. Every week, we're going to be sharing some amazing things that are happening within the association. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:29:00]: So we are going to be able to try and keep you up to date on everything that's happening and allow for you to be able to get involved in different ways because the association is as strong as its members. And for all of us, we have to find our place within the association, whether it be getting involved with a knowledge community, giving back within one of the the centers or the divisions of the association. And as you're doing that, it's important to be able to identify for yourself where do you fit? Where do you wanna give back? Each week, we're hoping that we will share some things that might encourage you, might allow for you to be able to get some ideas that will provide you with an opportunity to be able to say, Hey, I see myself in that knowledge community. I see myself doing something like that. Or encourage you in other ways that allow for you to be able to think beyond what's available right now, to offer other things to the association, to bring your gifts, your talents to the association and to all of the members within the association. Because through doing that, all of us are stronger and the association is better. Tune in again next week as we find out more about what is happening in NASPA. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:30:22]: Chris, thank you so much for keeping us informed on going on in and around NASPA. And, Vaughn, we have now reached our lightning round. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:30:28]: Awesome. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:30:29]: I have 7 questions for you in 90 seconds. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:30:32]: Oh, alright. I'll do I'll do my best. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:30:34]: Bring out your competitive story. Alright. Question number 1. If you were a conference keynote speaker, what would your entrance music be? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:30:41]: Oh, my god. Oh, jeez. It would be something with, my favorite artist. One of my favorite artist is Jay z. I don't know what, but something within his catalog. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:30:50]: Number 2, when you were 5 years old, what did you wanna be when you grew up? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:30:53]: I wanted to be a San Francisco 49er. I wanna be just like Jerry Rice. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:30:58]: Number 3. Who's your most influential professional mentor? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:31:00]: Oh, that would be Dr. Robert Johnson, the current president of Western New England University. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:31:06]: Number 4. Your essential student affairs read. Anything that deals with student success. Number 5, the best TV show you binged during the pandemic. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:31:14]: Oh, Ballers with Dwayne Rock Johnson. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:31:17]: Number 6, the podcast you spent the most hours listening to in the last year. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:31:21]: Steven Bartlett, The Diaries of a CEO. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:31:23]: And finally, number 7. Any shout outs you'd like to give, personal or professional? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:31:27]: Absolutely. I love to shout out my wife who's always been there for me, who's been a constant truth teller, but in a very loving way. And I'll also shout out my son. He's 9 years old. He keeps me young, and he keeps me on my toes as well. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:31:40]: Von, it's been just a joy to get to know you today. I'm very grateful that you took some time out of your conference to speak with us here on SA Voices. And if others would like to speak with you after the show, how can they find you? Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:31:50]: They can find me on LinkedIn, Vaughn Calhoun, or they can find me at my email, Vaughn.calhoun@shu.edu. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:31:58]: Thank you so much for sharing your voice and your story with us today. Dr. Vaughn Calhoun [00:32:01]: Thank you for having me. I appreciate you. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:32:05]: This has been an episode of Student Affairs Voices from the Field, a podcast brought to you by NASPA. This show continues to be possible because you choose to listen to us. We are so grateful for your subscriptions and your downloads and your engagement with the content. If you'd like to reach the show, please email us atsa voices at naspa.org or find me on LinkedIn by searching for doctor Jill L. Creighton. We always welcome your feedback and your topic and guest suggestions. We'd love it if you take a moment to tell a colleague about the show and give us a 5 star rating on Apple Podcasts or wherever you're listening now. It really does help other student affairs professionals find the show and helps raise the show's profile within the larger podcasting community. Dr. Jill Creighton [00:32:46]: This episode was produced and hosted by doctor Jill Creighton, that's me, produced and audio engineered by Dr. Chris Lewis. Special thanks to the University of Flint for your support as we create this project. Catch you next time.

You know what they say about unsolicited advice (don't give it!) but when it comes to SOLICITED feedback, author and executive coach Kim Scott says: bring it on. Kim believes that when it comes to improving your life at home, work, and anywhere in between, it helps to ask for – and provide – kind, but radical, candor. In this episode, Kim shares what she's learned about embracing candidness and care in the workplace, gives tips on how to engage in constructive conversations, and opens up about the benefits of addressing bias in communication. Her latest book, "Just Work: How to Root Out Bias, Prejudice, and Bullying to Build a Kick-ass Culture of Inclusivity" is out now. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts This is an episode of How to Be a Better Human, another podcast from the TED Audio Collective. For more, check out How to Be a Better Human wherever you get your podcasts.

Sorry 'bout the episode mess-around, but we're back and we're back on some kind of timeline! This week we have a time sensitive question from a Ronnie with a tricky work question and some solicited food chat!Send your questions to @canwehelpyoupodcast or canwehelpyoupodcast.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sorry 'bout the episode mess-around, but we're back and we're back on some kind of timeline! This week we have a time sensitive question from a Ronnie with a tricky work question and some solicited food chat!Send your questions to @canwehelpyoupodcast or canwehelpyoupodcast.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt and Nic are back for another week of news and deals. In this episode:  OPNX is very sadly shutting down  Is jail good for you?  GBTC outflows are declining Solicited versus unsolicited treatment of ETFs The Bitcoin L2 space is heating up The latest on COPA  We revisit the Satoshi is the NSA conspiracy  SAB121 stuff The DoE's Bitcoin mining data collection emergency What's happening with Farcaster?  Brink Nation joins Farcaster  Monero delisted from Binance  Solana outage this week Content mentioned:  Fidelity Digital Assets, Q4 2023 Signals Report Sponsor notes:  Ethereum's Dencun Upgrade In Coin Metrics State of the Network Issue 245, we dive into the details of the Ethereum Dencun upgrade and highlight key indicators to monitor its success

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WHO GIVES YOU ADVICE LEADER? COACH, MENTOR OR TORMENTOR? “The value of unsolicited advice is generally equal to the cost on the invoice. Solicited advice will often cost you more than the invoice indicates. The most expensive advice is never sought, never received, never accepted and never applied. The lack of advice creates pricey learning opportunities. These moments can be the end of your business, your career or your freedom. Seeking advice is wise. Wisdom is also required to determine from whom you seek advice.“ J Loren Norris WATCH THE VIDEO 12-07-23: https://rumble.com/v3zw41j-who-gives-you-advice-leader-coach-mentor-or-tormentor.html Leading Leaders Podcast for Tell It Like It Is TV Spotify - https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/j-loren-norris ​CLICK HERE to schedule a FREE CALL with Loren https://form.jotform.com/222696275293163 ______________________________ Leading Leaders Podcast is a short but impactful leadership video, blog and podcast distributed 5 days a week by J Loren Norris to promote faith, family and freedom in the face of a global leadership drought. Leadership Training, Interviews and Entertainment #leadingleaderspodcast #storypower #transforminggracetv #jlorennorris Visit jlorennorris.com/resources for more training material LOOK FOR LEADING LEADERS PODCAST ON THESE PLATFORMS: https://www.liftable.tv/jlorennorris/ OBBM Network TV Traverse TV WorldTrumpetTV Locals Apple Podcast Spotify Amazon Google Market Rumble YouTube.com/jlorennorris jlorennorris.com/podcast DOWNLOAD THE FREE APP for: - Live Stream videos, - Video based training material, - StoryPowerMasterclass Coaching products and services, - links to global Media Outlets carrying Tell It Like It Is content, - contact information for direct access to Loren and MORE new tools added regularly. https://www.jotform.com/app/230026506289151 Copyright 2023 Tell It Like It Is Inc --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/j-loren-norris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/j-loren-norris/support

WHO GIVES YOU ADVICE LEADER? COACH, MENTOR OR TORMENTOR? “The value of unsolicited advice is generally equal to the cost on the invoice. Solicited advice will often cost you more than the invoice indicates. The most expensive advice is never sought, never received, never accepted and never applied. The lack of advice creates pricey learning opportunities. These moments can be the end of your business, your career or your freedom. Seeking advice is wise. Wisdom is also required to determine from whom you seek advice.“ J Loren Norris WATCH THE VIDEO 12-07-23: https://rumble.com/v3zw41j-who-gives-you-advice-leader-coach-mentor-or-tormentor.html Leading Leaders Podcast for Tell It Like It Is TV Spotify - https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/j-loren-norris ​CLICK HERE to schedule a FREE CALL with Loren https://form.jotform.com/222696275293163 ______________________________ Leading Leaders Podcast is a short but impactful leadership video, blog and podcast distributed 5 days a week by J Loren Norris to promote faith, family and freedom in the face of a global leadership drought. Leadership Training, Interviews and Entertainment #leadingleaderspodcast #storypower #transforminggracetv #jlorennorris Visit jlorennorris.com/resources for more training material LOOK FOR LEADING LEADERS PODCAST ON THESE PLATFORMS: https://www.liftable.tv/jlorennorris/ OBBM Network TV Traverse TV WorldTrumpetTV Locals Apple Podcast Spotify Amazon Google Market Rumble YouTube.com/jlorennorris jlorennorris.com/podcast DOWNLOAD THE FREE APP for: - Live Stream videos, - Video based training material, - StoryPowerMasterclass Coaching products and services, - links to global Media Outlets carrying Tell It Like It Is content, - contact information for direct access to Loren and MORE new tools added regularly. https://www.jotform.com/app/230026506289151 Copyright 2023 Tell It Like It Is Inc --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/j-loren-norris/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/j-loren-norris/support

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Matthew F. Hale is a white supremacist, neo-nazi leader who spent years aggressively pushing violent and hateful propaganda, especially after becoming the head of the organization, The World Church of the Creator. Trigger Warnings: RacismWhite Supremacy Anti Semitism MurderHate Speech YouTube Video of Matthew & his Dough Baggery Self https://youtu.be/RtlmQiiuRGo?si=d8IOMqkDjLrXCc3YWARNING! Don't read the comments. They are full of white supremacy comments and people praising this awful human. The Etymology of the N Word Articlehttps://muse.jhu.edu/article/620987Mushroom Bookmarkshttps://amzn.to/3LQX7PL(Commission Link) Court of Thorns & Roseshttps://amzn.to/3ZI90xc(Commission Link)Follow Us On Social Media The PodcastTik Tok @DeadlyFaithPodcastInstagram @DeadlyFaithPodcastLaciTik Tok @Laci_BeanInstagram @Laci__BeanLolaTik Tok @hellotherelolaInstagram @Spellbound_Shears

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In this episode, Ana and I take you to 7-Eleven and answer all your pressing questions about relationships, careers and the right choice of a slushie.  PS - I don't know why I haven't invested in 7-Eleven yet.

In the wake of Cormac McCarthy's passing on June 13, 2023, a number of excellent tributes and discussion pieces were published.  In this second of three tribute episode, we've asked for permission for the authors to read some of those tributes to McCarthy here on the podcast and we have also solicited a couple of others.   The guests this episode include: Stacey Peebles, Chair of the English program, Director of Film Studies, and the Marlene and David Grissom Professor of Humanities at Centre College in Danville, Kentucky, author of Cormac McCarthy and Performance: Page, Stage, Screen (2017) and co-editor  of Approaches to Teaching the Works of Cormac McCarthy (2022, MLA press); she has been editor of the Cormac McCarthy Journal since 2010, and is now the President of the Cormac McCarthy Society; her tribute originally appeared in Publisher's Weekly.  Bill Hardwig, Associate Professor of English at the University of Tennessee. His book Upon Provincialism: Southern Literature and National Periodical Culture, 1870-1900 was published by the University of Virginia Press in 2013.  He has written and published various essays on McCarthy and is currently working on a book-length study of McCarthy's fiction tentatively titled How Cormac Works: McCarthy, Language, and Style.  He is also creator of the website Literary Knox (www.literaryknox.com), which presents the rich literary history of the city in which he lives and works, Knoxville, Tennessee.  Previously published in The Conversation. Marty Priola launched the first McCarthy website (Cormacmccarthy.com) and is a founding member of the Cormac McCarthy society.  He has written two entries on McCarthy for the Dictionary of Literary Biography. His writing is also featured in exchanges with Peter Josyph in Cormac Mccarthy's House: Reading Mccarthy Without Walls and The Wrong Reader's Guide To Cormac Mccarthy: All The Pretty Horses, which he edited and published in its first (ebook) form.  He wrote this piece especially for the podcast.   Casey Spinks is a Ph.D. candidate in theology at Baylor University. He is writing a dissertation on Søren Kierkegaard's ontology in his religious discourses. He writes from Waco, Texas.  His piece was published on the webzine Front Porch Republic.  Multitalented Peter Josyph has joined us for talks on Suttree and his own works, which include The Wrong Reader's Guide to Cormac McCarthy: All the Pretty Horses; Adventures in Reading Cormac McCarthy; Cormac McCarthy's House: Reading McCarthy Without Walls; Liberty Street: Encounters at Ground Zero; and The Wounded River, which was a New York Times Notable Book of 1993. His films include the award-winning Liberty Street: Alive at Ground Zero; as well as Acting McCarthy: The Making of Billy Bob Thornton's All the Pretty Horses. Solicited for the podcast from a longer piece.  As always, readers should beware: there be spoilers here. All music for Reading McCarthy is composed, performed, and produced by Thomas Frye.  The views of the host and his guests do not necessarily reflect the views of their home institutions or the Cormac McCarthy Society.  We appreciate favorable reviews on your favorite podcasting platform.  If you enjoy this podcast you may also enjoy the GREAT AMERICAN NOVEL PODCAST, hosted by myself andSupport the showStarting in spring of 2023, the podcast will accept minor sponsorship offers to offset the costs of the podcast. This may cause a mild disconnect in earlier podcasts where the host asks for patrons in lieu of sponsorships. But if we compare it to a very large and naked bald man in the middle of the desert who leads you to an extinct volcano to create gunpowder, it seems pretty minor...

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OUR HOSTS: Corinne Foxx - @corinnefoxxNatalie McMillan - @nataliemcm and @shopnataliemcmillan What we're drinking: Trader Joe's - Organic Sparkling Yerba Mate Beverage TOPIC: If you haven't seen Barbie yet, well then… go see it! (And then go see it again.) Today, we are talking about all things Barbie mania, including Greta Gertwig, Alan's character in Barbie and representation of healthy masculinity vs. toxic masculinity, plus the theory that there are many future Barbie movies in the works. We celebrate Natalie's 8-year anniversary from surviving a near-death health scare, and Corinne shares details and tips following her all-inclusive vacation to Cancun. We also answer Solicited Advice questions from listeners, and play Citizen's Arrest — anyone seen Non-Playable Characters on TikTok? In this episode, we discuss:The difference between the Barbie album and Barbie soundtrack Alan, healthy masculinity and its comparison to sexual identityWill there be a Barbie 2? And all the upcoming Mattel movies and Natalie celebrates her 8th dia-versary with Type 1 diabetes Highlights from Corinne's Cancun trip and the beauty of all-inclusive travel Solicited Advice Q&A from listenersCitizen's Arrest: Rude California traits and Non-Playable Characters (NPC) on TikTok END OF THE SHOW: Corinne and Natalie introduce Hottie of the Week: Greta GerwigRESOURCES: Barbie Movie WebsiteDRINK RATING:Trader Joe's - Organic Sparkling Yerba Mate Beverage = 5 / GretaWRAP UP:To wrap up the episode, we play Citizen's Arrest. Natalie is calling out California drivers who don't let you back into the driving lane after an emergency vehicle has gone by, and shoppers who don't let those with fewer items check out before them. Corinne's citizen's arrest involves a disturbing rearrest: the weirdness of Non-Playable Character (NPC) TikTok Live videos. We have a newsletter for our Am I community. You can sign up for the newsletter on our website: amidoingthisrightpod.comYou can email us for episode ideas or Solicited Advice: amidoingthisrightpod@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram: @amidoingthisrightpod Don't forget to rate and review the podcast! It really helps us grow!

One of the BBC's leading presenters has been suspended over allegations that he paid a teenager for sexually explicit photos. The broadcaster says it's working to establish facts around the unnamed male presenter, who's a regular presenter and a "household name". London's Met Police says while no formal referral or allegation has been made, it's received initial contact from the BBC. UK correspondent Gavin Grey told Kate Hawkesby that the broadcaster is taking the allegations very seriously. The allegations are that the presenter paid the equivalent of 70 to 80-thousand NZD for explicit photos of the teenager over a three year period. LISTEN ABOVESee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

OUR HOSTS: Corinne Foxx - @corinnefoxxNatalie McMillan - @nataliemcm and @shopnataliemcmillan What we're drinking: Weird Tea - Organic Chamomile Hibiscus Iced Tea TOPIC: We're covering everything that's been making us think lately, like what our toxic traits are and why every man genuinely believes he could land a commercial airplane in an emergency situation. We discuss all things aquatic from the Titanic submersible to extreme weather on cruise ships and even recap the new Little Mermaid. This is one of our mix-of-everything episodes, so join us as we catch up! In this episode, we discuss:The fine line between confidence and delusion Nat's new trick that helps her arrive on time Why we won't be going on a cruise anytime soon New criteria for our vacation destinations The best rom-com of all time How Nat ended up on a government watch list RESOURCES: Escape Revolution: Escobar Escape Hunt Al-Anon Episode 53. DBA, LLC, WTF?: How To Choose The Right Business Structure For YouEpisode 90. Flying Solo: How To Travel Alone with Travel Concierge Jen Tenzer END OF THE SHOW: Corinne and Natalie introduce Hottie of the Week: Tom Hanks DRINK RATING:Weird Tea - Organic Chamomile Hibiscus Iced Tea = 4 / Tom Hanks WRAP UP:To wrap up the episode, we play Solicited Advice and Overrated/Underrated. We share our POV on solo traveling abroad and helping a loved one experiencing addiction. Our food edition of overrated/underrated sparks debate about different types of pizza and pies. We have a newsletter for our Am I community. You can sign up for the newsletter on our website: amidoingthisrightpod.comYou can email us for episode ideas or Solicited Advice: amidoingthisrightpod@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram:

Suspended public protector, advocate Busisiwe Mkhwebane is currently briefing the media on the allegations of bribery by some members of the section 194 inquiry looking into her fitness to hold office.it has been alleged that the late former minister, Tina Joemat-Pettersson acted as an intermediary in a plot to extort money from Mkhwebane's husband, David Skosana, in order to have her parliamentary inquiry halted. Her fellow ANC MPs, Pemmy Majodina and Qubudile Dyantyi, who chairs the Section 194 Inquiry on Mkhwebane's fitness to hold office, were also allegedly involved in the scheme .A criminal case has since been laid with the police by Skosana. Lets now take you live to the media briefing.   

Grove Hill Mayor Ross Wood reported at Monday's council meeting that he had attended a national retailers' conference and had spoken to several nationally and regionally known businesses about locating in Grove Hill. He didn't say, but the conference was in Las Vegas, Nevada and was also attended by Jackson Mayor Paul South and Thomasville Mayor Sheldon Day. Wood said he talked to representatives of wellknown fast food restaurants Wendy's, Arby's, Zaxby's and others as well as to Tractor Supply. Grove Hill's sit-down restaurants are limited to Maria's, a Mexican restaurant, and the Courthouse Square Deli. Neither are open on...Article Link

ANC Parliamentary Chief Whip, Pemmy Majodina has refuted claims that she tried to solicit funds from suspended Public Protector Advocate Busisiwe Mkhwebane to make her Section 194 Inquiry into her fitness to hold office "go away". Majodina, alongside former cabinet minister Tina Joemat-Pettersson and the Chairperson of the Inquiry, Qubudile Dyantyi, were fingered as trying to exhort money from Mkhwebane. A case has since been opened with the police. Majodina has vehemently denied any involvement in the matter. Elvis Presslin spoke to  Dr. Corné Mulder, FF Plus Chief Whip in Parliament and Member of the Committee for the Section 194 Enquiry

Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, & Paloma Malfavon give big sis advice while answering viewer questions about everything under the sun! The Group Chat @ (917) 810-3045 Timestamps: 0:19 intro & catch up  4:29 Cheetah Girls 9:20 solicited advice 10:55 content creation on a budget 13:14 do I have red flags? 15:58 trying to live with family as an adult 21:28 politics in dating 27:17 feeling lovable  34:12 dual income no kids 41:59 body changes in your twenties 48:12 toxic in-laws 53:45 loneliness 56:51 postpartum & marriage 1:02:26 closing thoughts Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCW7gxdcCY7rDteu3VRj7K3w Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1470690716 Google Podcasts: https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy9jNjFmODgwL3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz Thanks for listening

Queer time flies! Especially when talking to Elizabeth Freeman, who is here, now, to talk about her ground-breaking work on queer temporality, kink, care and kinship. In this momentous episode, Beth minutely lays out her thoughts on temporal drag, deep lez, erotohistoriography and chrononormativity, while also commenting on the relevance of feminist scholarship that is sometimes perceived as dated. Beth's reading (and watching) recommendations are second to none and I think you will instantly want to dive into all of them. CW: mentions of queerphobia, transphobia, kink, death and illness By Beth:“We're Only Making Plans for Nigel. In Response to Didier Eribon.” Qui Parle 18.2 (2010), 323-27.The Wedding Complex (Duke UP, 2002)Time Binds: Queer Temporalities, Queer Histories (Duke UP, 2010)Beside You in Time (Duke UP, 2019)Co-Editor (with Tyler Bradway) of Queer Kinship: Erotic Affinities and the Politics of Belonging (Duke UP, 2022)Co-Editor (with Ellen Samuels) of Crip Temporalities, special issue of South Atlantic Quarterly (2021)"The Book of Love is Long and Boring: Reading Aloud, Care Work, and Children's Literature." Solicited for Russ Castronovo and Leslie Bow, eds., The Oxford Handbook of Twentieth-Century American Literature. “Committed to the End: On Caretaking, Rereading, and Queer Theory.” Solicited for Scott Herring and Lee Wallace, eds., Long Term: Essays on Queer Commitment. “Sacramentality and the Lesbian Premodern,” in The Lesbian Premodern, eds. Noreen Giffneyet. al. (Palgrave Macmillan, New Middle Ages Series, 2011).“Parasymptomatic Reading: Medical Kink, Care, and the Surface/Depth Debate” Differences. Forthcoming. Other References:Boston MarriagesTemporal dragJudith ButlerDeep LezChrononormativityAllyson Mitchell WalterWalter Benjamin Homogeneous Empty TimeACT UP!Simone de BeauvoirErotohistoriography"Queer Kinship" with Tyler Bradwayhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/48981244 Elisabeth Subrin's ShulieIsaac JulienFrankfurt SchoolHistorical consciousnessMarxChronopoliticsDana Luciano's Arranging Grief (2007)ChronobiopoliticsFoucault's Discipline and PunishBiopoliticsDiane Bonder's The Physis of LoveCecilia Dougherty's Coal Miner's GranddaughterBertha Harris' LoverPanopticonShakersQuakersScott Herring and Lee Wallace's Long Term: Essays on Queer CommittmentSort ofWork in ProgressDjuna Barnes' NightwoodFaulkner Questions you should be able to respond to after listening: What is queer time? Which two ways of thinking about queer time does Elizabeth Freeman offer in the beginning of the episode? Can you think of an example for temporal drag? Can you describe this phenomenon in your own words? Beth talks about the importance of the body in thinking about queer rhythms. Why is the body so central and which examples does she give? Which concept does Beth use to put pleasure back into history? What is chrononormativity and how does it relate to heteronormativity? What is a queer book you have read more than once? What did this experience of repetition do to your reading?

In today's episode we answer some serious questions about life, relationships, harassment in the workplace, and more! After that we give a few new music recommendations and last in Dish Bish we play the game "He's a 10 But.."Boom Tequila Podcast Links Follow on Instagram: @BoomTequilaPodcast Join our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/boomtequilapodcast Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqro-8gXjDP_gVfwOhowJVw

You know what they say about unsolicited advice (don't give it!) but when it comes to SOLICITED feedback, author and executive coach Kim Scott says: bring it on. Kim believes that when it comes to improving your life at home, work, and anywhere in between, it helps to ask for – and provide – kind, but radical, candor. In this episode, Kim shares what she's learned about embracing candidness and care in the workplace, gives tips on how to engage in constructive conversations, and opens up about the benefits of addressing bias in communication. Her latest book, "Just Work: How to Root Out Bias, Prejudice, and Bullying to Build a Kick-ass Culture of Inclusivity" is out now. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts

We have a treat in store for you today in the form of our first Ask Us Anything episode, where we take questions from you, our listeners, and answer as many as we can throughout the episode! You asked us questions like, How do you get over a friendship breakup? How do I curb anxiety? How do I tell my MIL to fuck off? You know, some real hard hitters — which, frankly, we were thrilled to answer, because you know we're dishing out real life examples with all of these.

So, a while back Fran got on Facebook Marketplace to look for a gold ring. However, he was met with a lady trying to solicit feet pics and wanted to play it off as her husband told her to do it for laughs.Reach out to us @ info@fitish.com to submit questions, ideas, and guest inquiries.

OUR HOSTS: Corinne Foxx - @corinnefoxxNatalie McMillan - @nataliemcm and @shopnataliemcmillan What we're drinking: Bragg Apple Cider Vinegar Refresher TOPIC: We asked the Am I community to send in questions for solicited advice, and on today's episode, we're sharing our personal experiences and letting you know what the experts have to say about a variety of topics. We cover the pros and cons of dating while getting divorced and explain how to navigate toxic family dynamics. We also highlight tips for managing social anxiety and talk about what to know before getting your first tattoo. In this episode, we discuss:Why experts are firmly against dating before your divorce is finalized Simple ways to hype yourself up before an event Ideas for small steps to get more comfortable in social situations What to do if you have manipulative in-laws Tools to establish boundaries and articulate consequences with family members Natalie's approach to deciding on a tattoo design and artist RESOURCES: Episode 61. Navigating Adult Relationships With Your Parents END OF THE SHOW: Corinne and Natalie introduce Hottie of the Week: Sarah Jessica Parker DRINK RATING:Bragg Apple Cider Vinegar Refresher = 8 / SJPWRAP UP:To wrap up the episode, Corinne and Natalie play Fuck, Marry, Kill. Nat has to rank Sex in the City, Friends, and The Office while Corinne chooses between iconic Tim Burton movies: Beetlejuice, Edward Scissorhands, and Big Fish. We have a newsletter for our Am I community. You can sign up for the newsletter on our website: amidoingthisrightpod.comYou can email us for episode ideas or Solicited Advice: amidoingthisrightpod@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram: @amidoingthisrightpod Don't forget to rate and review the podcast! It really helps us grow!

Giving Advice (Naṣīḥah) Delivered by Shaykh Riyadh ul Haq on Friday 26th February 2021 at Al Kawthar Academy, Leicester Video: https://youtu.be/h3oujjEyuz8 We are often presented with the opportunity to give advice to others. How and when we give this advice is vital as it may be considered unsolicited by the receiving party. This topic falls under the wider meaning of "al-dīn al-naṣīḥah". Two types of advice to others are identified: solicited and unsolicited. Regarding the first type, it is deemed an obligation to respond to a request for advice without wriggling out of it. Aḥādīth that enumerate the rights of a Muslim over another are quoted for this reason and expounded on. The exception on giving advice is when the person fears insincerity or lack of wisdom in his advice, in which case it is better to decline. The importance of sincerity is even more emphasized for unsolicited advice. Positive examples of unsolicited advice are mentioned to be that of the prophets of Allah and Jarīr ibn Abdullah r.a. The importance of advising with knowledge and softness as well as being respectful of other opinions is mentioned. Below are some of the topics mentioned in this talk: - Solicited advice and unsolicited advice - Instruction to give advice and not to avoid the responsibility of giving advice - Sincerity in giving advice and qualities of the advice giver - Jarīr ibn Abdullah r.a. giving unsolicited advice - Importance of knowledge when giving advice - Manner of giving advice *This talk took place during the coronavirus pandemic and the Academy was not open to the public.* ********************************************************************** Website: www.akacademy.org YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/alkawtharacademy Facebook: www.facebook.com/alkawtharacademy Twitter: www.twitter.com/alkawthar Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/alkawtharacademy **********************************************************************

Today's podcast episode is another round of our unqualified but solicited advice. I am joined by my good friend Rachel to answer questions and offer guidance on topics including body image in pregnancy, self-esteem, difficult sister-in-laws and more. You can always submit an anonymous question via this link and we may just feature it in a future episode!Follow Kylie on Instagram @kyliecampsFollow The Frae on Instagram @thefrae_Join The Frae Community on FacebookSign up to The Frae Friday weekly newsletterThe Blueprint & Surviving Separation are available now

Lynnie and Shantal chat about sending nudes! Solicited vs unsolicited d*ck pics, craving d*ck compliments and confidence.  Tips on upping your full-body nudes. Plus some cringe-airdropping and moaning airlines stories. 

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 Hello Writers and Crafters! I'm Valerie Ihsan, And I'm Erick Mertz, and this is Episode 88 of the podcast and it's October 19, 2022 as we record this. Main Topic: Submissions  PATREON:  No new patrons this weeks, but a big squeezy hug and Thank you to our existing patrons for believing in us and in the podcast.  This podcast is sponsored by our patrons at Patreon.com/valerieihsan. For as low as a $1/mo, you can get a shout out on the podcast and we can make announcements for you on the podcast. At other tiers, the benefits increase--free books, accountability Zoom calls, scene analysis, mastermind calls, and even free Writer Craft retreat tickets. Become a patron of the arts at Patreon.com/valerieihsan.  Comments:  Re: Ep87: planning for and staying balanced during a busy season, Nicole says: Cool. I've been wanting to write a poem or essay about this, several part-time jobs, exercise, physical training, my neglected garden, housework, friends, etc. I have good hopes to write, exercise, spiritual study, etc.  Sometimes morning appointments too. Mary says: it was helpful to hear how you meet your goals, regardless of what else is going on in your lives. I'm envious (LOL), but working on this. Thank you Just finished:  ARC Weyward by Emilia Hart (out in March). Totally my jam. Strong woman. Different time lines. Hint of natural magic. I'M READING:  Confessions of a Bookseller Up Next::Wintering by Katherine May or Wildwood by Colin Meloy Erick's Reading:  Interview with a vampire Shadow over innsmouth h.p. Lovecraft Update: Valerie's new author website is finished, if you want to take a look. Announcements:  Writer Craft Writing Retreat is scheduled for next August 24-27, 2023. Tickets are $900 this year and include all lodging and gourmet meals, plus instruction and coaching and retreat time on the river, in Marcola, OR. Payment plans are available, and registration opens November 1st, 2022. Patrons receive a hefty discount AND can buy early, making their monthly payments even less expensive. Go to valerieihsan.com/retreat for more information.   Show Notes: 3-5% acceptance is a reasonable acceptance rate Poets and Writers DuoTrope Submission Grinder ralan's Solicited manuscripts vs Slush Pile What's your system to log? Where do you find submissions? (DuoTrope, Submission Grinder) Where do you log/track your submissions? Story title, summary, word count, date completed (of writing it), rejected, date submitted, publication, editor, contact name, what they said. ALWAYS follow the Submission guidelines. The whole thing. Even if you are a solicited submission. 30-40% are rejected without reading because they don't follow the guidelines. How many submissions a week/month? (Erick circulates nine at all time.) When get a rejection, resubmit to another place. New magazine or anthology is best chance to get in because they don't have a slush pile.  Some mags have windows for submission times. Next Episode: celebrating successes Resources:  Contact Erick for business-starting advice. Contact Valerie for book coaching for help writing your book. Other Resources: Thomas Umstattd Jr, at Novel Marketing Podcast. Ep255: How to Create an Email Onboarding Drip Campaign Erick's Linktree link: https://linktr.ee/erickmertzauthor Russell P. Nohelty and Monica Leonelle's book, Get Your Book Selling on Kickstarter. Productivity for Creative People: How to Get Creative Work Done in an "Always on" World by Mark McGuiness Essentialism by Greg McKeown The Anatomy of a Bestseller by Sacha Black    Writing Scenes.: https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/three-story-method-writing-scenes  The Author Life Community Passion Planner: https://bit.ly/3AUiJUx (affiliate link) Discount Code: VALERIEO866 ProWriting Aid: https://prowritingaid.com/?afid=9378 (affiliate link)   Find Us:   Valerie's Services: https://valerieihsan.com Valerie's Author Site: https://valerieihsanauthor.com Valerie's Facebook Page and Instagram account   Erick's Services: https://erickmertzwriting.com Erick's free book on Ghostwriting: https://dl.bookfunnel.com/cexki4kp5n Erick's Author Site: https://erickmertzauthor.com Erick's Facebook Page and Instagram account  Writer Craft Facebook Group Patreon: https://patreon.com/valerieihsan   Some of the Books We've Read This Year:  The Cloisters  Jane and the Unpleasantness at Scargrave Manor Death Masks by Jim Butcher  Drinking Games A Prayer for the Crown-Shy.   How to be a Good Creature Billy Summers by Stephen King The Dude and the Zen Master  How to Write Light Novels and Webnovels by R.A. Paterson The Three-Body Problem by Cixin Liu The Thousand Crimes of Ming Tsu by Tom Lin Run, Rose, Run by Dolly Parton and James Patterson A Ghost in the Throat by Doireann Ní Ghríofa Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir The Anatomy of a Bestseller by Sacha Black The Many Daughters of Afong Moy Summer Night by Jim Butcher The Strange Bird by Jeff Vandermeer The Sound of a Wild Snail Eating by Elisabeth Tova Bailey Newsletter Ninja 2) 

Ok hi I missed you guys last week but we're back (and it's just us) for round two of SOLICITED ADVICE. We have so many more of these coming because I couldn't get to even 1/4th of your questions so I CAN'T WAIT FOR THE NEXT ONE. I hope you needed to hear something in here today - let me know what it was k? If you missed the first round of SOLICITED ADVICE (rude) COME SAY HI bc I missed you guys last week and a bitch is needy @lisaxgilmore (my DM's are waiting for you TYSM) @unwinedingpod (tag us when you listen TYSM) ALSO having sm fun on TikTok rn & the pod is on TikTok now too!!!! Ok LOVE U SEE U NEXT WEEK! xx

Welcome to our NEW segment on the podcast - the kind where we give you our very unprofessional yet solicited advice. ;) Or USA for short. You guys asked some questions and we're answering them on today's podcast! Want our very unprofessional advice? Drop your questions here: https://forms.gle/P7BFphs1zsgtuTzq7 Come hang with us on instagram: @minivanmamas And shop our Merch: minivanmamas.com/shop/

Aarvee is an artist, songwriter, and producer originally from New Jersey. His precise, hand-crafted hard-hitting bars have transitioned into effortless hooks with undertones of a deeper meaning on each track. His newest song, “morefiend” brings a smooth, guitar-laden backtrack that fits perfectly with his wide backing vocals on the hook. Artists are dynamic. Most podcasters won't take the chance on them because they're 'unpredictable', but that's an excuse to mask the fact that they can't match their energy. Today was unpredictable in the best way possible. From Qanon to drunks fights, to tinder horror stories to the best drunk cigs, you name it, we got into it today.  https://songwhip.com/aarvee-3/morefiend (Stream ‘morefeiend') Thank you for helping us become a top 10% podcast in the world! Previous Guests Include https://open.spotify.com/episode/4GLGc7gqDDDZdRqj4qlmwT?si=3306a470764646d5 (Rob Dyrdek), https://open.spotify.com/episode/2h9bHhMmQmL8WSSYDcj2mf?si=2a61889cb6244fe4 (Samad Savage), https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hudFx2Bh0no9aOpNVAfhL?si=b7f7c14b327f434b (Travis Chappell), https://open.spotify.com/episode/7r7aODbOtia2BjhG5GRcHh?si=ae47b9a90c21405d (Austin Belcak), https://open.spotify.com/episode/2ceJNa3MAyZlk8Lw3rsW1Q?si=e901236209e948f5 (Young Benny), https://open.spotify.com/episode/0qZVBnOGSUcAmt4EFphNcR?si=38763a2013084f6a (Adam Miller), https://open.spotify.com/episode/6lPiZinAXh3yDdSnLShDiA?si=74dc6a03560b4de9 (The Real Johnny Bravo), and more. Please Join Our Email List for Special Offers, Q+A's, Live Podcasts, and More - To Join, https://www.sullybop.com/ (Scroll to the Bottom of This Page) Links Below: _ Watch the Video Version on https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5yW2ZNS4Iq7ff_EeKe3HkQ (YouTube) @sullybop on Instagram Search 'BOPCAST' on any platform! (Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube) Visit https://www.sullybop.com/ (SullyBop.com) for more information. Big shouts to the folks who make this possible: Video - https://www.instagram.com/ferrarib98/ (@ferrarib98) Logo - https://www.instagram.com/ryannkelly20/ (@ryannkelly20) Producer - https://www.instagram.com/minishep13/ (@minishep13) Theme Song - https://www.instagram.com/jello.wav/ (@jello.wav)

Just us today for a little solicited advice moment! Felt inspired after posting a question box on IG and realizing a lot of us are navigating A LOT of the same situations. So let's get into it - feeling stuck in your job, passion vs. career, re-defining purpose, getting attached after sex & feeling the feels, feeling insecure within friendships & a lack of reciprocity, moving on from an ex, knowing when to walk away, I mean - THE LIST GOES ON. We get into a little bit of everything and by we I mean me. LMK what you needed to hear. Hope something resonated.

this episode very much feels like a phone call from your bestie to me. hope it also feels that way to you

It's our Season Finale!  For our final episode of the season, we've got the best appetizer segment yet: the foods we love but everybody else hates. There's a lot of well-deserved dragging, but especially for Bryan. Then, we once again dive into a reader question (Hi Marissa!). This time, it's about fat parents whose own internalized anti-fatness had a huge impact on us as kids, but who may not have grown as we have. As you can imagine, this one gets deep, y'all. Finally, we wrap up with our thoughts about season one and where we're going from here. Spoiler alert: Yes, we're taking a well-deserved vacation, but we will be back in your ears in three short months! Meanwhile, we've got a couple aperitifs coming soon, so don't go anywhere! But honestly, it's been such an honor to go on this journey with all of you, and we can't wait for Season Two!  Find us on social media! Unsolicited on Twitter Unsolicited on Instagram Find Da'Shaun: Twitter/Insta: @DaShaunLH Find Mikey: Twitter: @marquisele Insta: @fatmarquisele Find Jordan: Twitter/Insta: @jordallenhall Find Caleb: Twitter: @chairbreaker_ Insta: chairbreaker2.0 Find Bryan:  Twitter/Insta: @blackqueeriroh  

Malcolm and Bryan kick off Season 5 with newcomers Eric and Marco to discuss what is a good nude, and what is the process a man goes through to send a SOLICITED nude.Find Us On Instagram:Malcolm @Silk_GawdBryan @BeeTwoTimesMarco @MaesionEric @TheCraftECreationsSupport the show (https://cash.app/$XavierDEY)

While Da'Shaun is out, our friend Tommy (@tommyinboots) joins us to talk about our favorite ~munchies~ and disability. Later—for the first time!!!!!!!—we respond to a write-in from a listener (hi Jules!) Media mentioned in this episode: Anna Mollow (2018) "Disability Studies Gets Fat" Eli Clare's Brilliant Imperfection: Grappling with Cure Charlotte Cooper's Fat Activism Fattening: the Podcast with Sydneysky G. - Episode 1 "Fategories" Explainer from Linda Find us on social media! Unsolicited on Twitter Unsolicited on Instagram Tommy: Twitter: @tommyinboots Find more of tommy's work at patreon.com/tommywearsboots :) Find Da'Shaun: Twitter/Insta: @DaShaunLH Find Mikey: Twitter: @marquisele Insta: @fatmarquisele Find Jordan: Twitter/Insta: @jordallenhall Find Caleb: Twitter: @chairbreaker_ Insta: chairbreaker Find Bryan:  Twitter/Insta: @blackqueeriroh Transcript can be found here.

From honorable mention of one of the greatest teachers of All-Time to Jake's poignantteacher impression, Erik segues into a conversation about feedback. The silly budsattempt to define feedback. They discuss how much feedback you should request, whoyou should request it from, and the keys to requesting and accepting feedback.In Shameful Stories, buckle up for Jake's gym tales and Erik with yet more family drama.How do YOU deal with feedback? DM us @StandUpGuysPodcast on Instagram, and let usknow!Buy Jake's Album: https://orcd.co/asoftoneSee Erik at Punch Line on February 27th:https://www.punchlinephilly.com/EventDetail?tmeventid=vvG1FZpUxa2xen&offerid=0Maddy Smith passed at the Cellar!! https://maddysmithcomedy.com/Goaaal! A Weekly Comedy Show: https://www.instagram.com/goalcomedyshow/

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We're answering listener questions about how to survive the holiday season (we're covering Thanksgiving stress, how to escape the madness, what to do if are overwhelmed, juggling it all, mother-in-laws ruining Christmas, how to cook a great meal without putting in the work, setting boundaries, white Christmas and white lies, and how to bring joy to this wild time of year).  You're doing great, sweetie!And, in the spirit of Thanksgiving, THANK YOU FOR LISTENING! We are so appreciative of you and hope you have a great ending to your year. Where to Find Us:www.instagram.com/wethoughtyouasked Find the link on our Instagram to submit to us anonymously, or simply DM us! Thanks for listening! Please subscribe, leave us a 5-star review, and tell a friend! It really helps us grow beyond the 2 of us.

We have a hatred towards condoms in this episode, we ask Big C about getting crop dusted, sexual harassment being fun and we find many things to rail against. We wrap with drunken sex and body bags. Go Deep.  DETAILED TIMELINE  1:00 LaRock on Facebook - There are 20 of me 2:00 Loving group pictures 3:00 Solicited by alot of people - how'd you meet 4:00 Big C and the crop dusting 5:00 go outside for 2 fucking seconds 6:00 I want some weird shit - putting on a sex show 7:00 We've seen the progression of everything 8:00 The sweetness of intercourse 9:00 How is this possible 10:00 Community policy - getting kicked off of Facebook  11:00 Whip cream titties  12:00 You don't look 41  13:00 Its like a unicorn in there  14:00 Some women are alright  15:00 Sex for the first time that isn't drunk  16:00 I'm not having it - take the fun out of thing 17:00 Reasons for getting kicked off facebook  18:00 Body Bag photo  19:00 Final Words - Guests shine  Go Deep.

The Australian Virgin extravaganza leads to Mr. Kleen not telling us about how he lost his V card. We discuss some porno shit at the end and a live squirrel is involved.  DETAILED TIMELINE  1:00 You ever have a virgin Kleen 2:00 Why are we talking Virgins? 3:00 Misunderstood Australian - lots of virgins 4:00 36? Lets have a talk - Mom and Dad 5:00 Won't even let me skip it 6:00 Saving yourself for marriage 7:00 Solicited too - effected her life over the years 8:00 Before Kleen became sexual active 9:00 That's really a fantastic story 10:00 No condom first time  11:00 My parents were home  12:00 Big titties , no tities  13:00 So far 10 minutes is the best  14:00 Way over 30 years   15:00 Very curious about her take on it  16:00 Getting more clips of non Tik Tok shit 17:00 Nasty ass porno  18:00 Causing a problem - women uptight  19:00 Final Words - Live squirrel's up the Cooch  Go Deep.

Adam and Alyssa offer SOLICITED advice to some devoted listeners and are joined by some unhinged guests from the depths of their imagination. 

Wrapping up our Love and Relationships segment, we answer listener-submitted questions. We will circle back to Love and Relationships later, but for now, we close out this fun segment with a really in-depth advice episode and of course - you're gonna laugh with us.

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