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Today, Shasta is joined by her two close friends, J'Leen and Valerie, to discuss an interesting situation that occurred within their friend group: they each had assumed that they all shared the same political views as one another, only to recently discover that this was far from the truth! What do they do next? Is it better to avoid political discussions altogether to keep their friendship intact? Join Shasta, J'Leen, and Valerie as they explore the complexities of political conversations among friends. They reflect on their personal journeys, challenge assumptions, and emphasize the importance of open dialogue, especially in today's divided world. Don't miss this candid discussion in the season finale of Frientimacy!Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
Shasta and Lisa are new friends who have recently discovered they have differing political views from one another. And although they are voting differently from each other this election season, Shasta and Lisa have actually chosen to embrace their contrasting beliefs, and use them as an opportunity for growth and deeper connection with one another. Throughout the episode, the friends discuss how they have sometimes feared being judged for their opinions, and how these fears often hinder them from speaking their minds in conversations. They talk about the importance of approaching sensitive topics with genuine curiosity, rather than a political agenda. And most importantly, they explore how healthy it can be to surround yourself with people who might have different viewpoints than you.Tune into this third episode of Shasta's political mini-series to hear an inspiring conversation about how new friendships can grow stronger by navigating difficult conversations with compassion and respect.Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
After much convincing, Shasta has finally gotten her mom to agree to a long-overdue conversation about how their differing political views have affected their relationship. Over the years, their discussions, though never intended to be political, often spiraled into heated debates, creating an emotional rift between them.In this second episode of Shasta's political mini-series, the two tackle the unspoken tensions that have grown beneath the surface. Together, they explore the impact of their political differences on their conversations and seek to find common ground in a world that often feels divided.Tune in for an honest and vulnerable episode, as Shasta and her mom share their experiences, confront their challenges, and work towards deeper understanding. Will this conversation help bridge the gap between them? Listen in to find out!Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
Have you had a relationship in your life damaged by opposing political views? Or maybe you were taken by surprise when you found out a close friend of yours will be voting differently than you in this upcoming election? This month, Shasta will be diving deep into tough conversations about building and maintaining relationships in today's intense political climate. She kicks off the start of this political mini-series by inviting Marcia and Kim to discuss how relationships in their lives have been strained due to differing political views. They talk about how it can be difficult to be empathetic to the other side while also fighting the urge to “rescue” them back to their own side of the spectrum. Tune in to hear them share the challenges of setting boundaries, the hurt of feeling unseen, and their hopes for compromise with their friends and loved ones.Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
In the final episode of the first season of Frientimacy, Shasta reflects on all of the outcomes and insights gained from the honest, heartfelt conversations she has gotten to have with friends and guests over the past few months. From reconnecting with long-lost friends from many years ago, to opening up in tough-to-have conversations, these discussions have strengthened bonds, healed past wounds, and allowed for friends to be brought closer together. This final episode is a celebration of the season's journey and an invitation to continue exploring and nurturing deep, meaningful connections with the people in your life!Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
Have you ever felt like you've outgrown a friendship? Maybe you felt like you and a friend drifted apart because you've changed in ways they haven't? Or maybe you've felt like someone you once knew has evolved into a completely different person. Today Shasta sits down with her friend J'Leen to talk about the journey of their friendship and how their shared religious background became a point of divergence for the two of them. They discuss how their spiritual journeys took them each in different directions and ended up impacting their relationship. Listen in as they reflect on their personal journeys, the challenges they faced, and what they learned about keeping friendships alive even when it feels like it might not work. It's a real and relatable discussion about how friendships can survive—and sometimes even thrive—amidst big changes!Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
In today's episode of Frientimacy, Shasta Nelson is joined by her husband, Dr. Greg Nelson, for an insightful conversation on blending friendship with marriage. As they reflect on nearly 20 years together, they delve into the question of whether a spouse should be your best friend and share strategies for balancing relationship dynamics when one partner is an introvert and the other is an extrovert.They cover:How Greg's long-time friendships fit into their marriage and why they matter.The differences between how men and women often view their spouse as a best friend.Personal stories and reflections on navigating vulnerability and keeping friendships alive while being a couple.Tune in for an engaging conversation full of practical tips and heartfelt insights that will help you enrich both your marriage and your friendships!Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
In this week's episode of Frientimacy, Shasta and her friend Priscilla take a transparent look behind the scenes of their budding friendship. They dive into the early days of their relationship and discuss the challenges they faced, such as scheduling conflicts, uncertainties surrounding expectations, and building trust with one another. Shasta and Priscilla share their personal thoughts and feelings from when they first met and explore how they've grown together over the past year. Tune in for an honest and enlightening conversation about the highs and lows of forming a meaningful friendship with someone new!Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
Conflict—nobody enjoys it, but how do we tackle tough conversations with those we care about? In this episode of Frientimacy, Shasta tackles this challenging topic with three insightful guests: Krista, Kerry, and Laura. Each woman shares her struggles with avoiding conflict in friendships—Krista due to a deep-seated need for harmony, Kerry because of her natural empathy, and Laura because of her introverted tendencies. Together, they explore how avoiding tough conversations affects relationships and share advice for balancing honesty with empathy to keep connections strong.Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
In today's episode of Frientimacy, Shasta invites Cori to share her experiences of feeling profoundly let down by her best friend during a time of personal crisis—the death of a loved one. Despite her friend's past support and their close bond, Cori found herself in a situation where she felt abandoned and unsupported. Throughout the episode, Shasta and Cori explore how friendships can be complex and not always meeting the expectations we hold for them. Shasta offers guidance on how to recognize the value of the everyday support her friend had provided and how Cori can appreciate the strengths her friend brought to the relationship, despite her shortcomings during the crisis.Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Check out Cori's website! LoveAcademyforWomen.comRegistration for the Fall 2024 CoachingCircles is now open!https://www.shastanelson.com/coachingcircles/fall2024Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
This heartfelt episode dives deep into the journey of personal growth and sobriety through the lens of Krista, who opens up about her decision to stop drinking. Krista recounts the challenges and growth that came with this process and how it impacted the relationships in her life. Krista and Shasta discuss the importance of mutual support in friendships, especially when someone makes a significant personal change. They explore how friends can navigate these changes together while maintaining understanding through periods of transformation. In this episode, Shasta and Krista answer the questions:In what ways can friends show support for someone who is undergoing a major personal change like sobriety? How can friends communicate their own needs and boundaries while being supportive of someone going through a transformation? What does it mean if someone's personal growth journey creates distance in a friendship? Is it about the individual's change or something else? Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Registration for the Fall 2024 CoachingCircles is now open!https://www.shastanelson.com/coachingcircles/fall2024Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.Tell us what you think about this episode.
Today's episode features Shasta and three women who share one common, difficult experience: each has deeply regretted losing touch with a close friend. Throughout the episode, they reflect on the impact of these lost relationships, and share the importance these friends once held in their day to day lives. Shasta offers valuable advice on how to reconnect with lost friends, providing guidance for anyone navigating similar feelings of loss towards a once-meaningful friendship.Ask Shasta your questions & connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Resource Links:Take the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle, and jealousy and envy in friendship, in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeLearn more about Shasta's CoachingCirclesConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeTell us what you think about this episode.Tell us what you think about this episode.
When Shasta met Christine, a fellow author and speaker, she was everything Shasta wanted to be: she had just published a book, she'd been interviewed on TV, and she had a press kit. Shasta was green with envy. We've all been there—a friend has more money, goes on cooler vacations, is happily in love while we just went through a breakup. We wish we had their job, body, house, or relationship. It's inevitable to feel jealousy and envy sometimes, but how do we make sure our feelings don't jeopardize our friendships? Today, Shasta and Christine dish on all the icky emotions they've experienced and share how they've been able to get back to a place of peace. They also reflect on how they've been able to be candid about their envy while keeping the friendship feeling positive. Finally, Shasta teaches how to distinguish between the different types of jealousy and envy so that we can choose the wisest response.In this episode, Shasta and Christine answer the questions:What is the difference between jealousy and envy?How can you distinguish between unreliable and reliable jealousy?How do you cheer for a friend when you're feeling envious of them?How can envy lead us to personal growth and empowerment?When you're feeling envious, how can you shift your mindset to a more positive one?Should you tell your friend if you're feeling envious of them? How can communicating about envy or insecurities deepen your relationship?Ask Shasta your questions & connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Resource Links:Learn more about the Inner Mean Girl in Christine's book: Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: 7 Steps to Stop Bullying Yourself and Start Loving YourselfChristine's other books on self-love, personal leadership, well-being, and burnout: https://christinearylo.com/books/ Listen to Christine's podcastTake the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle, and jealousy and envy in friendship, in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeLearn more about Shasta's CoachingCirclesConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeTell us what you think about this episode.
After years of friendship, Shasta and Sher found themselves in two completely different places: Sher was a stay-at-home mom, whereas Shasta didn't have kids and was more focused on her career. Sher was married to a pastor, while Shasta was questioning church. Sher was more conservative-leaning, and Shasta was more liberal. The question arose: “If we met today, would we have become friends?” It's a familiar experience—someone's no longer single, or has kids, or switches jobs, or you're just in different life stages. And you wonder, was that the only thing holding your friendship together? In today's episode, Shasta and Sher discuss how they saved their friendship when they realized they had nothing in common anymore, why it was worth it, and the unlikely key to their survival.In this episode, Shasta and Sher answer the questions:How can you revitalize a friendship that's lost its shared interests or commonalities?How can having “nothing in common” actually benefit your friendship?Is it worth staying friends with someone you have nothing in common with anymore? Why?Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list.Resource Links:David Brooks' book on feeling seen & seeing others: How to Know a PersonTake the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeLearn more about Shasta's CoachingCirclesConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
A few weeks ago, Shasta interviewed three women who had been ghosted. Today, she's shifting the focus to hear from the ghosters. Why did they ghost their friends, rather than taking a different approach? Do they regret it? And was there anything that could have changed their minds? In this panel, three women reveal the commonalities between friends who ghost and the factors that can lead to a silent breakup. Finally, Shasta advises on how to protect and save your relationships before they reach their breaking points. Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
After going through a friendship breakup, Shasta faced a dilemma: how would she navigate this with their mutual friends, and how much was she going to pull them into the drama? In this episode, she sits down with her friend Kat, who still maintains her own relationship with Shasta's ex-friend. They shed insight on how they've been able to discuss the friendship breakup without being catty or ruining Kat's own friendship. Shasta opens up about seeing an ex-friend move on, and shares how to deal with jealousy or pain when your mutual friends spend time with them. Finally, they reflect on how to choose the best response and minimize the fallout after a friendship breakup, and if there's ever a case when you should expect your mutual friends to choose sides.In this episode, Shasta and Kat answer the questions:How do you navigate talking about the falling-out, whether you're the one going through the friendship breakup or you're the mutual friend?How does it feel to be the person navigating a friendship breakup when other people are involved? How does it feel to be the mutual friend of two people who've ended their friendship?Is it possible and okay for your mutual friends to maintain their relationships with your ex-friend? Is there ever a reason your mutual friends should not remain friends with someone you've had a falling-out with?If your mutuals stay friends with your ex-friend, how do you deal with the pain or jealousy?Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Resource Links:Watch the “Surviving a Friendship Breakup” seriesJ. S. Park's book on grief: As Long As You Need: Permission to GrieveShasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
Have you ever felt like you were always disappointing a friend or that you couldn't satisfy them? Or maybe you're on the other side, feeling like your friends aren't putting in the same level of effort as you? This was the problem Shasta and Daneen encountered. At the beginning of their friendship, Daneen initiated time with Shasta frequently, and Shasta started to feel like she couldn't give enough back. Then, after Daneen had a baby and asked her to be the godmother, Shasta felt guilty for not being able to live up to Daneen's expectations of that role. Today, Shasta and Daneen delve into the conversation that set boundaries graciously and allowed Shasta the opportunity to not only meet Daneen's expectations, but surpass them. They also talk the perks of having non-mom friends after you have kids and how to know if a friendship is worth saving. In this episode, Shasta and Daneen answer the questions:How do you kindly set boundaries when you can't meet a friend's expectations?How does it feel to be the friend who needs more? How does it feel to be the friend who can't give more?How do you know if a friendship is worth saving?How do you maintain friendships after having children, or when your friends have children?What are the benefits of having non-mom friends after having kids?Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Resource Links:Wall Street Journal: It Takes at Least 200 Hours to Make a Close Friendship, and More to Maintain ItTake the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookShasta on LinkedInTell us what you think about this episode.
In today's episode, Shasta and her friend Karen confront a struggle they're still having—it seems like Karen is always busy, even when they're together. Karen considers why she always has a full plate, and reveals the key to getting her attention and what she wishes her friends knew. Shasta gets vulnerable about feeling like an obligation and affirms the very common pain of thinking we care more than someone else does. Then, Karen reveals what strategies work well for her to maintain relationships, and finally, Shasta realizes what is really triggering her about Karen's busyness and how they can strengthen their relationship.In this episode, Shasta and Karen answer the questions:What does it mean if your friend is always too busy? Do they not care as much as you, or is there another reason?How can you ensure your friends feel valued when you're always busy?How can you support your chronically busy friend, and still feel seen in the relationship?Connect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookShasta on LinkedInTell us what you think about this episode.
So you got dumped by a friend—no warning, no explanation, not even a text back. What happened? Nearly 80% of us have been ghosted at some point, and while it's more commonplace in the dating world, it can happen with friends too. In this episode, Shasta interviews three women who were ghosted by close friends. They open up about what they wish their friends had done instead, and how ghosting impacted them and their other relationships (for better or for worse). They also offer insight and advice on getting closure and fighting for the friendship.Resource Links:Watch the “Surviving a Friendship Breakup” seriesTake the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with other listeners on our Mighty Networks community!Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Connect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookShasta on LinkedInTell us what you think about this episode.
After a girls' weekend, Shasta returned home feeling drained – her friend J'Leen seemed to often take things personally and question how accepted she was in the group. Again, they'd spent much of their time together reassuring her to no avail. Today, Shasta and J'Leen explore how J'Leen's fears of rejection and abandonment developed, how her attempts to shield herself from potential rejection led to actual rejection, and what triggered her fears. They also consider how it feels to be on the other side, trying to love someone who cannot see or feel it. Finally, they reveal how J'Leen learned to become her own best friend, and how her journey of personal growth and self-awareness transformed her life and relationships.In this episode, Shasta and J'Leen answer the questions:How can a fear of rejection and/or fear of abandonment develop?How does it feel to be a friend to someone with a fear of rejection / fear of abandonment?How can self-love transform our relationships?What can trigger a fear of rejection and/or fear of abandonment?What can you do to support a friend struggling from fear of rejection / fear of abandonment?Why does a fear of rejection sometimes lead to actual rejection? Resource Links:Christine Arylo's book on self-love: Madly in Love With MeTake the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizLearn more about the Frientimacy Triangle in Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessMore of Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeJoin Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Connect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookShasta on LinkedInTell us what you think about this episode.
Are you ready to transform your friendships and create deeper connections? You've come to the right place! Today we're diving into the sometimes complicated world of friendships with the incredible Shasta Nelson, author of "Friendships Don't Just Happen."Which is the book that we have been reading for our May 2024 Positively You Book Club pick. Get ready to discover the essential elements that make friendships flourish and learn practical tips to nurture those relationships.IN THIS EPISODE:*Discover the three key qualities every friendship needs to thrive: positivity, consistency, and vulnerability.*Dive into the concept of "frientimacy" and learn why it's crucial for deep, meaningful friendships.*Learn how to transition from casual acquaintances to close, supportive friends.and more!AFTER YOU LISTEN:Ready for more positivity? Join The Positively You Personal Growth Book Club- it's completely free! You'll grow, connect, make new friends, gain new insights and perspective and so much more! Connect with me on Instagram- it's where all the fun really is and I LOVE chatting with you over there.Connect with our guest from today: Shasta NelsonGet the Book: Friendships Don't Just HappenCheck out Shasta's new podcast: Frientimacy: Finding Our Way to More Fulfilling FriendshipsLoved this episode? Share is with a friend or leave a 5 Star Review on Apple (Thanks in Advance!)OTHER EPISODES YOU'LL LOVE :Ep 158: How Saying Yes and Following The Fun Can Transform Your LifeEp 116: The Magic of REAL VulnerabilityEp 109: Why You Should Show Up Alone
Friendships can get a little messy, but at the other end of the muck are often more supportive and meaningful relationships. Join Shasta for the debut episode of Frientimacy, as she reveals the 3 requirements for all healthy relationships that helped her and her own friends navigate conflict and disappointment to deepen their connections. Shasta also exposes the real reason we're lonely (and it's not because we need to meet more people!) and the shocking impact of relationships on our physical and mental health.In this episode, Shasta answers the questions:Why are over 60% of us lonely, and why do 75% of us feel dissatisfied with our friendships?What are the four developmental stages of friendships? How do we get to the final stage of true intimacy?What are the three requirements for all healthy relationships?How can we learn from our approach to romantic relationships to have healthier expectations for our friendships?How are our relationships affecting our physical and mental health?Resource Links:Take the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizScott Peck's 4 stages of community building: The Different Drum: Community Making and PeaceScientific American: Loneliness is Harmful to Our Nation's HealthUniversity of Virginia: ‘Shocking' New Research Finds Friendships Are Key to Good HealthCigna: Loneliness and Its Impact on the American WorkplaceNPR: What's the #1 thing to change to be happier? A top happiness researcher weighs in.The Gottman Institute: The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to ScienceShasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeJoin Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Connect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookTell us what you think about this episode.
Shasta sits down with her friend Valerie to discuss the time a hurtful conversation drove a wedge between them. They spill their regrets and what they wish they could tell their past selves. They reveal how they not only rekindled their friendship but grew to become best friends today. Finally, they consider strategies to ask for what we need in a loving way, to avoid hurting our friends and receive what we really desire—to feel closer to and more valued by them. In this episode, Shasta and Valerie answer the questions:What can prompt someone to break up with a friend?What did it feel like to be the person initiating a friendship breakup? What did it feel like to be the person being “broken up” with?How do you discuss friendship problems or relationship problems without hurting feelings?How do you fix a friendship that ended due to hurt feelings?Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookShasta on LinkedInTell us what you think about this episode.
Shasta and Kim were colleagues and couple friends . . . then Shasta called her crying out of the blue. She'd had an affair, a divorce, and had been fired from her job. But while other friends and colleagues pulled away, judged, and disappeared, Kim and Shasta only grew closer. In today's episode, the two unpack how Shasta's personal crisis affected her friend and how their friendship survived when many of Shasta's relationships did not. Kim divulges the confusion she felt at Shasta not telling her sooner, and how others questioned her decision to stay friends with someone who'd had an affair. They talk about shifting from couple friends to developing a one-on-one friendship after Shasta's divorce. They also reveal how the experience helped them build their friendship now—one in which they can tell each other everything and endure any and every season of life together.In this episode, Shasta and Kim answer the questions:What did it feel like watching a friend go through a crisis? What happens when your “couple friends” divorce? Can you stay friends, and how will the friendship change?How do you support friends who are going through hard times? How do you support friends who've made bad decisions? How can you create a “safe space” within a friendship, in which you can share anything without judgment?How can you keep your friendships intact and thriving when you're personally struggling?Resource Links:Take the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability QuizShasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeJoin Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Connect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookShasta on LinkedInTell us what you think about this episode.
In today's episode, Shasta reflects on what we can learn from our physical health to develop better social health, and how we can heal from heartbreak and disappointment to create more meaningful friendships. Conflict in a relationship can be uncomfortable, awkward, and—at times—painful. But it's when we persist through the discomfort that we start building stronger, deeper, and more meaningful relationships.In this episode, Shasta answers the questions:What can physical health teach us about developing healthier relationships?How do we change a friendship or relationship that's no longer working? How can we heal from heartbreak or disappointment to create more meaningful friendships?Join Shasta's mailing list to be the first to know about upcoming episodes, friendship coaching, trips, and more: https://www.shastanelson.com/mailing-list. Shasta's books on belongingness and human connection:Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriendsFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessThe Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our TimeConnect with Shasta on her other platforms:Shasta on InstagramShasta on YouTubeShasta on FacebookShasta on LinkedInTell us what you think about this episode.
Old School leadership thinking claims that work is work and personal is personal and never the two shall meet. However, how many of your friends resulted from work relationships? How much more joyful is the work when you know friends have your back? How much more engaged are you? After all, you often see coworkers more often in a given week than your partner or children!My guest today is author and keynote speaker Shasta Nelson. We discuss the myths around work friendships, and how encouraging friendships at work and making intentional connections leads to not only higher performance, engagement, retention, and loyalty - but less absenteeism and better health for you and your employees. We discuss the epidemic of loneliness, how to balance personal relationships with tough business situations, and why it's in an organization's best interest to foster work friendships. Shasta shares what we learn as school age kids and how it applies to work and what healthy friendships at work look like.To access the episode transcript, please click on the episode title atwww.TheEmpathyEdge.comKey Takeaways:Work is to adults what school was to children. We never tell children to not make friends, yet many adults believe they should not make friends in the same type of environment.Being friendly with someone is different from being close friends with someone. There should be enough safety that everyone is, at minimum, friendly with each other.Proactively have conversations with your friends at work about challenges that may come up, whether because of conflict, discipline, or something else. It will strengthen your relationship as you open with one another.Consistency, positivity, and vulnerability are important for any healthy relationship."The goal isn't to pull back and only stay comfortable. The goal is to say social health is on the other side of a little bit of relational sweat." — Shasta NelsonAbout Shasta Nelson, Friendship Expert, Keynote Speaker, Author, The Business of FriendshipShasta Nelson is a leading expert on Friendship who speaks across the country and facilitates events for connection. She's been quoted in magazines and newspapers, online and print, including New York Times, The Washington Post, and Readers Digest, and has been interviewed live on over dozens of TV shows, including the TODAY Show and Steve Harvey Show. Plus, if you haven't yet seen her popular TEDx talk then you'll want to watch that later!Her previous books include Friendships Don't Just Happen! which is a guide for making new friends as an adult, and Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness which teaches us how to make our relationships more meaningful. But it's her newest book that we talk about today as she takes her expertise about friendship into the workplace in The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time.Connect with Shasta Nelson:Website and Books: shastanelson.comInstagram: instagram.com/shastamnelsonLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/shastanelsonFacebook: facebook.com/shasta.m.nelsonX: twitter.com/shastamnelsonJoin the tribe, download your free guide! Discover what empathy can do for you:http://red-slice.com/business-benefits-empathyConnect with Maria:Get the podcast and book: TheEmpathyEdge.comLearn more about Maria and her work: Red-Slice.comHire Maria to speak at your next event: Red-Slice.com/Speaker-Maria-RossTake my LinkedIn Learning Course! Leading with EmpathyLinkedIn: Maria RossInstagram: @redslicemariaX: @redsliceFacebook: Red SliceThreads: @redslicemaria
1- Old School leadership thinking claims that work is work and personal is personal and never the two shall meet. However, how many of your friends resulted from work relationships? How much more joyful is the work when you know friends have your back? How much more engaged are you? After all, you often see coworkers more often in a given week than your partner or children!My guest today is author and keynote speaker Shasta Nelson. We discuss the myths around work friendships, and how encouraging friendships at work and making intentional connections leads to not only higher performance, engagement, retention, and loyalty - but less absenteeism and better health for you and your employees. We discuss the epidemic of loneliness, how to balance personal relationships with tough business situations, and why it's in an organization's best interest to foster work friendships. Shasta shares what we learn as school age kids and how it applies to work and what healthy friendships at work look like. To access the episode transcript, please click on the episode title at www.TheEmpathyEdge.com Key Takeaways:Work is to adults what school was to children. We never tell children to not make friends, yet many adults believe they should not make friends in the same type of environment. Being friendly with someone is different from being close friends with someone. There should be enough safety that everyone is, at minimum, friendly with each other.Proactively have conversations with your friends at work about challenges that may come up, whether because of conflict, discipline, or something else. It will strengthen your relationship as you open with one another. Consistency, positivity, and vulnerability are important for any healthy relationship. "The goal isn't to pull back and only stay comfortable. The goal is to say social health is on the other side of a little bit of relational sweat." — Shasta NelsonAbout Shasta Nelson, Friendship Expert, Keynote Speaker, Author, The Business of FriendshipShasta Nelson is a leading expert on Friendship who speaks across the country and facilitates events for connection. She's been quoted in magazines and newspapers, online and print, including New York Times, The Washington Post, and Readers Digest, and has been interviewed live on over dozens of TV shows, including the TODAY Show and Steve Harvey Show. Plus, if you haven't yet seen her popular TEDx talk then you'll want to watch that later!Her previous books include Friendships Don't Just Happen! which is a guide for making new friends as an adult, and Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness which teaches us how to make our relationships more meaningful. But it's her newest book that we talk about today as she takes her expertise about friendship into the workplace in The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time.Connect with Shasta Nelson: Website and Books: shastanelson.comInstagram: instagram.com/shastamnelsonLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/shastanelsonFacebook: facebook.com/shasta.m.nelsonX: twitter.com/shastamnelsonJoin the tribe, download your free guide! Discover what empathy can do for you: http://red-slice.com/business-benefits-empathy Connect with Maria: Get the podcast and book: TheEmpathyEdge.comLearn more about Maria and her work: Red-Slice.comHire Maria to speak at your next event: Red-Slice.com/Speaker-Maria-RossTake my LinkedIn Learning Course! Leading with EmpathyLinkedIn: Maria RossInstagram: @redslicemariaX: @redsliceFacebook: Red SliceThreads: @redslicemaria
This week, we are reframing friendship — or more specifically, the friendship fail. To find out how a deep friendship has the potential to be rehabilitated, we talk with friendship expert Shasta Nelson, who has been called the Brené Brown of friendship. We talk about reframing loneliness, qualities every friendship needs, not downplaying our successes, and so much more. Listen for all the goods — your friendships will thank you.Shasta Nelson has been studying friendship, both personally and in team environments, for 20 years. Her research has been made accessible for readers in Friendships Don't Just Happen!, which teaches us how to make new friends as adults, and Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, which teaches us how to make our closer relationships more meaningful and healthy. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Harvard Business Review.Links:Follow Shasta on Twitter and Instagram, and check out her websiteWe love hearing from our listeners! Leave us a voice message, write to the show email, or send us a DM on any of our socials.If our conversations support you in your own reframing practice, please consider a donation on our Patreon, where you can also hear bonus episodes, or tipping us on Ko-fi. Subscribe to the Reframeables Newsletter. Follow us on TikTok, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube too.
Do you remember middle school and how painful it was with friendships? Ugh, I shudder at the thought. I will admit I wasn't a popular kid in middle school or even high school. I always found friendships difficult to navigate. I would attach myself to one or two girls and then be devastated if the friendship didn't work out. I didn't feel like I was on solid footing with friendships until college. I would like to thank my longtime friends like Pam and Emily and others for sticking with me. I love you!In speaking with my guest today, Shasta Nelson, I learned once again how important friendships are. Both women and men alike need friendships. These connections are crucial for our physical, mental, and emotional health. It was a privilege to have Shasta on the show!During our conversation, Shasta and I also chatted about:How her work as a pastor was a natural start to her current work with friendship.We did a brief tour of her books, including Friendships Don't Just Happen, Frientimacy, and The Business of Friendship.We talked about the friendship triangle, which was so important that I shared it with my daughter, Charlotte, and will share it with my little one, Olivia, when she gets older.Why we need friendships at work, even when we are managers or in other leadership positions.The impact that friendships or a lack thereof has on our health.And how we can foster friendships in remote or hybrid work environments.And moreWe packed a lot of juiciness into our conversation and covered a lot of ground!
Last weekend I met up with four of my closest girlfriends. We do this every year. We try very hard to hang out in a house where we don't have to leave, where we can wear sweatpants and eat as much food as humanly possible. I hope that this episode really inspires you to go out there and find your people. I want to share three things I observed with these women over this weekend. It was a place where we could address what we need as humans, what we need as friends, and what we need as moms. Only two of out of the five have had children, and it was so interesting to see sort of what dominated the conversation and what didn't. The friendship we share was forged during a challenging time for all of us. (For me, I had just called off an engagement.) What we bring to each other is that we talk about our addictions, we talk about what we're struggling with, we talk about our current relationships, what's great, what's not working, and we talk about what we really love. We talk about what really matters with 100% acceptance. The first thing that I learned over this weekend is that rest is not a luxury. Rest is a necessity. Every single one of us talked about how amazing it was to be able to turn off work, to be able to leave our families. We love them, but we needed to not do all the invisible work. If you have been feeling tired, I want you to schedule rest into your calendar right now intentionally. I think that is critical. This is not nice to have, especially not now. I think, coming out of the pandemic and coming out of the restructuring we've all done, we need to make sure we're resting because rest looks different now, doesn't it? So many people are working from home. I rarely leave my house. I work. I take care of the kids. I clean the house. Then I plan for work the next day, and I work in the house and then I walk the dog. I know I'm not special. Most of us have a schedule that's very similar now, even people who work for corporations, so I think it's critical that you understand when you need rest and how to get it. The second thing I learned is how important it is to have playmates in our sandbox. I talk about this a lot to my own coach. What's cool about my group of friends and where I do think we're very lucky is that two of us are entrepreneurs. One of us is a stay-at-home mother, and two work for corporations now. That combo is really great because we get to share different aspects and perspectives on life. But each of us has someone to turn to when we need a deeper conversation. There's a really great book by Shasta Nelson called Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends I recommend. She breaks down that each of us can have different groups of friends, and that's totally appropriate. You might have your work friends, your dance mom friends, and old friends from, you know, childhood or your early twenties. Each one of those groups is going to serve a different purpose and that's OK. I think it's really important that we understand that you never want to make yourself feel wrong for who you're hanging out with. Chances are you need something from them. If you no longer do or feel like you're constantly giving and not getting back, it's probably time to release those friendships. And the third thing I learned was the importance of sharing. I know that sounds funny. I had so much fun talking about different books. One of us has just totally dived headfirst into serious meditation, and she was sharing that with us, and we are talking about moving. We were talking about children. We were talking about how hard it is for parents, and as much as we love our children, why didn't anybody tell us it was going to be this hard? How much of a role is the internet playing in that? We talked about our health rights, were, as we're all getting older. Our health needs are changing. Who's going for a walk right now? Who's going to take a break right now? Those sorts of conversations were happening, and I think we loved sharing with each other what works. Each one of us had a turn to say: you know, it's really hard for me right now, and we got to talk about that, and I really want to encourage you not only to put rest in your calendar after you listen to this episode. I want you to start fighting for friendships. The only reason that this friendship between the five of us has lasted as long as it has is that we love each other. And every single year -- except during the pandemic -- we have fought to be in the same room for one weekend. We have fought to be together, to be with each other, to remind each other of what matters, to work through issues that you can't talk about with everybody, and to tell the truth about where life is standing. Also, to inspire each other. I think every single one of us left this weekend with new goals, new ideas, and inspired actions, we could take. I want to encourage you to fight for your people. Go find the people in your sandbox, schedule your rest, do it with someone you love, and then make sure you're sharing from your heart. Let's get to it! Other Game On Girlfriend podcast episodes you might want to check out: Demand What You Need https://sarahwalton.com/demand/ How (& When) to Break Up With Friends https://sarahwalton.com/break-up/ The Power of Mastermind Groups https://sarahwalton.com/mastermind-group-benefits/ How ‘The Walking Dead' Save My Business (No Really!) https://sarahwalton.com/walking-dead/ Check out the book “Friendships Don't Just Happen” : https://amzn.to/3JDZOT4 You can check out our podcast interviews on YouTube, too! http://bit.ly/YouTubeSWalton Thank you so much for listening. I'm honored that you're here and would be so grateful if you could leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, and clicking “Write a review.” Then we'll get to inspire even more people! 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Today's guest on the CPC podcast is business and personal coach Melissa Schultz. Melissa is dedicated to empowering women to crush the lies they believe and find true success. She partners with God on a daily basis, and with HIM she helps many women gain clarity, courage, healing, and breakthrough from the fear, anxiety, overwhelm, and lies that we can all believe. She created an Imposter Syndrome Breakthrough program that helps women step into their purpose and become who they were meant to be. She also published the Kingdom Breakthrough Planner and Journal which helps you go deeper with God and build a more intimate relationship with Him. Melissa's Website is www.melissaschultz.net To learn more about the Imposter Syndrome Breakthrough program visit www.melissaschultz.net/imposter_lp Discussion Today: What is SAD? Tips for managing SAD 1. Evaluate and Balance 2. Quiet Time 3. Positive Thinking 4. Exercise 5. Proper Hydration and Nutrition 6. Light Therapy 7. Find Your Tribe Other helpful tools: DoTerra Oils, Mary's Nest on YouTube, "Friendships Don't Just Happen" by Shasta Nelson Thank you for being part of the Cheering Past Challenges Community! If you are reading this, you are SPECIAL and BLESSED!
The path to entrepreneurship can be lonely – people in your life, your community and your world won't always understand what you're doing. In this episode I'm going to talk about a couple of truths around this loneliness, so you can be aware and know what to do when it hits you. It's common for entrepreneurs when they're passionate and getting ready to launch something new into the world, to pass up opportunities to socialize and stay in to work. There is so much extra effort to apply and deadlines to meet. You might hear things like, “But you run the business. Can't you do that later?” This attitude is common if you've ever been scrolling and see what I like to call “entrepreneur porn.” I'm sure you've seen it, “Oh! I'm relaxing on the beach and I made a million dollars yesterday.” Those fake posts. When you're an entrepreneur, your business is your baby. You're always going to wonder about it and want to be involved somehow or at least understand the trajectory of your business. What is the next idea? How are we going to take care of our customers next year? These kinds of questions and ideas are constantly rolling around in our heads, as they should be. If we're being honest, we need to manage ourselves, our conversations, and meet people where they are because not everyone will understand. How much do you tone out when someone's going on and on and on about the intricacies of their day job? It's not because you don't love them. They're wonderful, but you don't understand it. Whereas if they're talking about their relationship or they're talking about something they're passionate about -- a cause or an idea -- then you're engaged because that's what that friendship is built on. So, we want to kind of honor where our friendships are and what they're built upon because then we know which conversations to have. Mastermind groups can help. There is something so profound and exciting about running into your people and saying, “Oh my gosh! Yesterday I tried to do this new email and it didn't work,” and someone goes, “I went through that too, and here's what I did to fix it!” All of a sudden, you realize you're not an anomaly, you're not weird, and the loneliness can dissipate. I cannot emphasize enough how important this is: You are not a compartmentalized human being. You are not just an entrepreneur. You are not just a spouse. You are not just a friend. You are not just a daughter. You are not just a mother. You are many, many things, and the different aspects of you deserve attention and companionship. Ask, who gets you? Who gets your business? Find your people and watch your business succeed. Now, the other thing I want to talk about in the entrepreneurial journey that can cause some loneliness is this idea that you will shed certain parts of your life. The way that you use your time starts to shift, and once you really get into that mode, your life can feel weird to you because you're expanding at such an extraordinary rate and your life may not always keep up. I'm sure you've had that experience right, like you go through something for most people. Unfortunately, it's like a dramatic event. Maybe you lose someone close to you or someone you love gets a diagnosis, or maybe you move right? You recognize there are some people who just don't understand that journey. The same can happen when it's positive, right, when you start to succeed, when you, when you have given up those Friday night dinners here and there, not all the time but once in a while, right to sort of cause this success for yourself, you're going to find that your life feels different and that's OK. That's normal. We want to normalize that as well. You don't stop the process of growth by thinking there's something wrong. There's nothing wrong. This is just part of the process. The number one thing you can do to sort of counter that so it's not so dramatic for you is to talk to your friends and family about what's going on. You might go, “but Sara, you just told me to treat my friendships the way that they are, to meet people where they are.” That's correct, I did, and that doesn't mean that you don't let people know what's happening for you. That's very different from expecting them to be able to relate to it. When we know that it's really time to sort of progress into friendship, whether that means to release it or to bring that person into how your reality is changing, the most important thing we can do is inspire them about the future. I talk a lot about how what's going on out there in the world is also happening inside of us. Right, that kind of conflict, that turmoil, this deep desire to be right, all these things that are coming. We can come in with our businesses and transform that, and we can transform that through inspiring emails, through the purpose that we've been giving, by sharing our talents, by having one amazing conversation with a customer or client every single day. That is so important. Have you ever had an interaction with someone totally changes your day. You can be that person for everyone, and when you share that vision with the people in your life who are important to you, they will get inspired as well. Now, instead of complaining or wishing that you weren't working so hard or not understanding how you are changing as a person, they're on the ride with you, and suddenly they're fighting for your vision too, and they're supporting you in their way. As so, I really want to give you permission and sort of give you a nice, gentle Sara Walton nudge to get out there and share your vision with your people. You also must protect your vision, and what I mean by that is there are some people who are not ready to hear your vision. They are not ready to confront their own purpose and their own dreams because it's too scary for them. When you do it, they freak out. You know who I'm talking about. So, if you have someone that you need to protect your vision from talk about them instead. it's great. They'll fall in love with you. You'll have a great time, you'll learn more about them and life will be grand. All right, so that's my tip for that one you either share and inspire with those that you love or you have the person where you talk about them. I know this time of year especially, people can start to feel a little bit lonely, can start to feel like, “Oh my gosh, am I doing this right? Like what's happening?” You're doing it right if you're learning, you're doing it right, and we are all here for you cheering you on every step of the way. Mentioned: Shasta Nelson's “Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends”: https://amzn.to/3UrX9iv Sign up for a Sprint: https://sarahwalton.com/sprint/ Sales Mastermind: https://sarahwalton.com/salesmastermind/ Other Game On Girlfriend podcast episodes you might want to check out: How (& When) to Break Up With Friends: https://sarahwalton.com/break-up/ The Power of Mastermind Groups: https://sarahwalton.com/mastermind-groups/ Can We Disagree And Still Be Friends?: https://sarahwalton.com/sisterhood/ The Power of Conflict In Business: https://sarahwalton.com/liz-lisa/ You can check out our podcast interviews on YouTube, too! http://bit.ly/YouTubeSWalton Thank you so much for listening. I'm honored that you're here and would be so grateful if you could leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, and clicking “Write a review.” Then we'll get to inspire even more people! 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If you want deeper and more meaningful friendships, you want "frientimacy". Shasta Nelson is a friendship expert who coined that word. She says to develop strong friendships, we need three things: consistency, vulnerability and positivity. Shasta is a TEDx speaker. She has appeared on The Today Show and The Steve Harvey Show. She's also the author of three books on friendship. Friendships Don’t Just Happen Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of the Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time Shasta Nelson's website: www.ShastaNelson.com Follow Colleen on Instagram: @Colleen_Odegaard Colleen's website: www.ColleenOdegaard.com
Shasta Nelson is a leading expert on Friendship. She's been quoted in magazines and newspapers, online and print, including New York Times, The Washington Post, and Readers Digest, and has been interviewed live on over dozens of TV shows, including the TODAY Show and Steve Harvey Show. Plus, if you haven't yet seen her popular TEDx talk then you'll want to watch that later!Her previous books include Friendships Don't Just Happen! which is a guide for making new friends as an adult, and Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness which teaches us how to make our relationships more meaningful. But it's her newest book that we're talk about today as she takes her expertise about friendship into the workplace in The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time. In this conversation we talk about loneliness and how it should never be a source of shame, how to gauge it and tell if that is what you are feeling. We touch on mens' friendships and how the pandemic may actually be helping them to engage on a closer level.One of the most important aspects for me was the discussion around how to take responsibility for your own part in your friendships and how to deepen them and improve them using Shasta's Frientimacy triangle of positivity, consistency and vulnerability.Lastly, we talk about how to maintain and even grow work friendships even though you may not even be able to be at work just now.If you have friends, would like to deepen your friendships or understand where you are on the unfulfilled/loneliness scale and what to do about it, then this is a must-listen conversation. You can find Shasta on:www.shastanelson.comIG - @shastamnelsonYou can also check out Tipsy Tea on www.tipsytea.co.uk and use the discount code CTAF to get a free measure glass!
Ep. 64: Why You Need Friendship Goals With Guest Co-host: Bailey Hurley Bailey’s Instagram Bailey’s Website Bailey’s Friendship Coaching Mentions: Jon Acuff’s book, Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done Shasta Nelson’s book, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends Join the Friending Squad Facebook Group! Learn more about Noelle and Friending: www.noelleprhodes.com Contact Noelle through email. Follow Noelle on Instagram. Follow Friending on Instagram. Support the show through Patreon or Listener Support. Leave a review on iTunes. Check out www.anchor.fm --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/friending/message
On the Schmooze Podcast: Leadership | Strategic Networking | Relationship Building
Today’s guest is a leading expert on friendship and how we can create healthier and more fulfilling relationships in our lives. She speaks across the country and facilitates events for connection. She’s been quoted in the New York Times, The Washington Post, and Reader’s Digest, and has been interviewed live on over a dozen TV shows, including the TODAY Show and The Steve Harvey Show. She was selected by Facebook to be their media spokesperson and friendship expert for Friends Day 2018. Her previous books include “Friendships Don’t Just Happen!” and “Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness.” She’s taken her expertise about friendship into the workplace in her latest book, “The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time.” Her TEDx talk, “Frientimacy: The 3 Requirements of All Healthy Friendships” has been viewed over 400,000 times. Please join me in welcoming Shasta Nelson. Would you leave an honest rating and review on Apple Podcast? Or Stitcher? They are extremely helpful and I read each and every one of them. Thanks for the inspiration! In this episode we discuss: her thoughts on leadership: “Leadership is influence and having the influence to help people maximize who they are.” her journey of leadership goes back to when she was 8-years-old and her sisters were her followers. her original plan to become a war correspondent but how she ended up becoming a pastor and studying divinity in college. her passion to encourage and promote having healthy relationships. how she built a “match.com” but for friendship. how important it is to know your strengths and weaknesses in whatever industry you are in. how positivity, consistency, vulnerability are the basic requirements for strong and meaningful relationships. how the pandemic has changed the way friendships are cultivated and nurtured. her transition from pastoring to coaching. Links Shasta Nelson on LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. www.ShastaNelson.com TEDx Talk: “Frientimacy: The 3 Requirements of All Healthy Friendships” www.thebusinessoffriendship.com - FREE toolkit Books mentioned in this episode: “The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time” by Shasta Nelson “Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness” by Shasta Nelson “Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends” by Shasta Nelson “Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community” by Robert Putman Other Resources Learn more about #NoMoreBadZoom, Robbie’s weekly virtual happy hour. Learn more about the National Speakers Association. About Robbie: Robbie Samuels is a keynote speaker, TEDx speaker, and relationship-based business strategy coach who has been recognized as a “networking expert” by Harvard Business Review Ascend, Forbes, Lifehacker, and Inc and as an "industry expert in the field of digital event design" by JDC Events. He created The 5% Advantage Program, a four-week experiential program that helps presenters grow in their confidence with Zoom, online facilitation, and virtual event design so they can reduce their tech angst and host more engaging online experiences that meet the purpose of the convening and participants' need for content and connection. He is the host of #NoMoreBadZoom Virtual Happy Hour, a popular weekly virtual event that explores new ways to design engaging virtual experiences. He assists organizations with bringing their in-person events strategically online as a Virtual Event Design Consultant, Virtual Emcee, and Zoom Producer. He is the author of the best-selling business book Croissants vs. Bagels: Strategic, Effective, and Inclusive Networking at Conferences and has been profiled in the Harvard Business Review, Forbes, and Fast Company.
On the Schmooze Podcast: Leadership | Strategic Networking | Relationship Building
Today's guest is a leading expert on friendship and how we can create healthier and more fulfilling relationships in our lives. She speaks across the country and facilitates events for connection. She's been quoted in the New York Times, The Washington Post, and Reader's Digest, and has been interviewed live on over a dozen TV shows, including the TODAY Show and The Steve Harvey Show. She was selected by Facebook to be their media spokesperson and friendship expert for Friends Day 2018. Her previous books include “Friendships Don't Just Happen!” and “Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness.” She's taken her expertise about friendship into the workplace in her latest book, “The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time.” Her TEDx talk, “Frientimacy: The 3 Requirements of All Healthy Friendships” has been viewed over 400,000 times. Please join me in welcoming Shasta Nelson. In this episode we discuss: her thoughts on leadership: “Leadership is influence and having the influence to help people maximize who they are.” her journey of leadership goes back to when she was 8-years-old and her sisters were her followers. her original plan to become a war correspondent but how she ended up becoming a pastor and studying divinity in college. her passion to encourage and promote having healthy relationships. how she built a “match.com” but for friendship. how important it is to know your strengths and weaknesses in whatever industry you are in. how positivity, consistency, vulnerability are the basic requirements for strong and meaningful relationships. how the pandemic has changed the way friendships are cultivated and nurtured. her transition from pastoring to coaching. Listen, subscribe and read show notes at www.OnTheSchmooze.com - episode 223.
We need Friends... So why are they so tough to develop and maintain? Join our Conversation with Friendship Expert Shasta Nelson Shasta Nelson is an award winning speaker and author of books "Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness", "Friendships Don't just happen!" and her business book "The Business of Friendship". She has developed robust strategies for connecting, developing and maintaining friendships and even how to end a friendship well. I have to admit that I am not the best friendship maintainer, even though I have a wide friendship circle of connections I have held for many years. I think part of my success is choosing amazing, kind hearted people who tolerate my "busyness", lack of consistency and obsessions with eclectic interests. In other words, I think I might have already failed at Shasta's recommendations, but I think we all have something to learn about the work required to develop engaged friendships for a lifetime. This is a great opportunity for us to consider Shasta's key teachings and ask questions about our friendship struggles and frustrations as well as our hopes, longing and desire for meaningful connection. Just yesterday, I had a conversation with a client ... who disclosed feelings of loneliness. When we discussed the people that this person was closest to, he admitted that he had not been making the effort to reach out to others but was struggling that they were not reaching out to him. This sounds familiar to so many of us... We can feel lonely but then hold ourselves back for a variety of reasons. I am excited to hear how Shasta can guide us, especially when we may have trauma that is linked specifically to being betrayed or neglected in a traumatic relationship with others. So please join the conversation as we dig into the question of Friendship. Let's consider the following ideas that Shasta Nelson offers on friendship: Why do so many people feel lonely even though they know so many people? Why is it that a person can go out to a social event (i.e., family dinner, bar, zoom visit) only to feel lonelier during and after then we did prior to the event? Why are Consistency, Vulnerability and Positivity considered to be crucial to developing and maintaining friendships? Can you discuss each of these. What are your key methods for establishing early connection, developing a friendship foundation, maintaining a friendship for the long run? You wrote a good titled "Friendships don't just happen" – I see that many people (wonderful, kind people) feel lonely and don't seem to have the skills for making friendships later in life (after finishing school). Why is this? And what should they do? What about when relationships go badly? You are in a relationship with someone who is overly demanding, negative, or even mean? How do we free ourselves from troubling relationships so we can move onto something better without feeling guilty or lonely? I know you focus primarily on female friendships but men also need this guidance. I wonder if you will expand your Friendship work to men. Obviously there is much more which we will cover during the show. You have been discovered by a partner as acting out in a sexual way (outside of the relationship) that then leads to shameful feelings and consequences (i.e., divorce). Or you have found evidence of your partner acting out in a sexual manner that once confronted has led to shame or remorse. Beyond being discovered this will lead to Impairments or interfering with day to day life, as a result of obsession or compulsions towards sexual addiction. Experiencing a cycle of recovery and repeat. Engaging in the behavior, disengaging from the behavior and then cycling back into the sexual addiction and once again feeling shame, remorse, and distress. So what can you do? Ten great suggestions ... from Psychology Today Make it a health issue Embrace Quality and ditch quantity Ride out transitions Expect — and even embrace – false starts Commit to community Focus on follow-up Avoid technology traps Develop momentum End poisonous friendships Remember the little things Friendship is a topic for everyone. I notice that when people start connecting with others in a way that is nourishing , consistent and meaningful it is the number one indicator of recovery in my clinical practice. It is an essential piece of growth that helps us cope with life challenges and a sense of warmth and peace on a very personal level. So let's all start to grow this skill for a better and deeper life. Yes, even in this COVID19 time. There are many ways to connect safely online or in a way that allows for distance that are safe. Join us for an in-depth conversation. Bring your thoughts, questions, comments and let's discuss this interesting topic together in this month's "Bear Psychology radio show" on Realityradio101.com program. Links & Resources: For more information about Friendship – https://singjupost.com/frientimacy-the-3-requirements-of-all-healthy-friendships-shasta-nelson-transcript/ Limiting Loneliness During a Pandemic https://www.girlfriendcircles.com/blog/2020/3/16/limiting-loneliness-during-a-pandemic Frientimacy: the 3 requirements of all healthy relationships https://youtu.be/hmJyWreER7A Strategies for Adult Friendship building https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/friendship-20/201605/10-ways-make-and-keep-friendships-adult
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Live Q&A Session recording from March 2019, covered topic include social media, BPD, mental health and more. (00:07) Stating Today's Topic (02:20) Ending Up With A Slow Poisoning Effect Of A Dogma (04:53) What The Channel Grew Up From Part 1 (10:36) What The Channel Grew Up From Part 2 (12:41) Talking About Using Social Media In Order To Learn Together (14:31) Answering Short Questions (16:31) “Where Did Your Interest In The Effects Of Social Media Stem From?” (21:09) Talking About Using YouTube (25:34) Difference Between The God Complex And NPD (27:01) Talking About Messianic Complex (28:03) Thoughts On Gabor Mate With Regard To Addictions And Trauma (30:15) Thoughts On How Social Media Affects Dating Culture (35:08) “Social Media Makes Me Fear I Cannot Protect Myself Against Infidelity. Any Thoughts?” (36:56) Social Media Is A Real Issue Amongst People Of All Ages (38:46) Is Depression Around Birthday Related To CPTSD? (39:58) How Do You Reparent? (41:28) What Do You Do When You Have Troubles Falling Asleep? (44:08) “BPD Victims Get Shunned And Invalidated Because The BPD Overshadows Their Disorder With A Supposed Attached Stigma. Thoughts?” (48:09) What Do You Do When Your Friends Are Borderline? (51:13) Friendships Don't Last With BPD (53:46) Extreme Jealousy In BPD (57:46) “How Can We Step Out Of Resentment?” (58:51) How We Internally Talk Might Affect Our Health (1:02:30) “Any Recommendations On PTSD Recovery Literature Besides Pete Walker's Book?” (1:05:08) Is There An Overlapping Between CPTSD And Asperger's? (1:06:26) Responding To Short Comments (1:09:53) Wrapping Up
We all have friends. We all want to make money. But sometimes the idea of making money from your friends can feel like you're taking advantage of the relationship. Shasta Nelson rejoins Adam and Naresh to discuss how your can create profits from friendships and still maintain the healthy relationship you had before. It all goes back to her 3 cornerstones. Shasta is the Founder & CEO of Girlfriend Circles; New York Times' bestselling author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends, and the new book The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time. Website: www.ShastaNelson.com www.GirlfriendCircles.com Featured Photo by by Matheus Ferrero on Unsplash www.WorkFromHomeShow.com
Friendships don't just happen by chance. There's actual effort involved in creating and maintaining them. Shasta Nelson, author of the new book The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time, joins Adam and Naresh to discuss the 3 requirements of all healthy friendships, how to make friends while working from home, the pros and cons of having friends at work, and more. Shasta is the Founder & CEO of Girlfriend Circles; New York Times' bestselling author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends, and the new book The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time. Website: www.ShastaNelson.com www.GirlfriendCircles.com Featured Photo by Naassom Azevedo on Unsplash www.WorkFromHomeShow.com
Today is an exciting episode. Not only is this the first interview for The Scholarly Self-Care Podcast but you also get to meet my bestie of 30 years, Marsha Chambers! We all know that it takes discipline and commitment to do the things that are good for you. When you take care of yourself, you will have more energy to take care of others joyfully. However, when we became parents we found that self-care started to feel a lot like self-indulgence. We quickly learned that all of our focus could not be solely on being great parents. Because by going too long without taking care of yourself emotionally, we will burn out. Join us as we discuss our journey and evolution as parents and how it has impacted our self-care. *RESOURCE MENTIONED -* *Self-Care Planning* ( https://www.drtiabarnes.com/podcast/episode/1f62ae0d/ep-01-self-care-planning ) *M_Artistry* ( https://www.instagram.com/__martistry_/ ) *Friendships Don’t Just Happen Book* ( https://www.amazon.com/Friendships-Dont-Just-Happen-GirlFriends/dp/1618580140 ) ** *LET’S GET SOCIAL —* Linked in - ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/tia-navelene-barnes-ab262576/ ) https://www.linkedin.com/in/tia-navelene-barnes-ab262576/ Twitter - ( https://twitter.com/drtianbarnes ) https://twitter.com/drtianbarnes Website - ( https://www.drtiabarnes.com/ ) https://www.drtiabarnes.com/ *MORE ABOUT DR. BARNES —* Dr. Tia N. Barnes is an education researcher with a passion for improving social/emotional outcomes for culturally diverse students and those with emotional and behavioral disorders. Her research focuses on the social-emotional well-being of minoritized populations. To study this she focuses on the areas of social-emotional learning, culturally responsive pedagogy, and special education. Her research has been published in Prevention Science, International Journal of Educational Research, Aggression and Violent Behavior, Infant and Child Development, Journal of School Violence, and Developmental Review.
We talk about romantic breakups ALL the time, but sometimes friendship breakups can be just as painful or even worse. In an effort to normalize discussion on friendship, Grace discusses her recent friendship breakup and tips for overcoming a friendship breakup. Information about this topic can be found in the article "How To Cope With A Painful Friendship Breakup and Losing Friends", on Sorella Magazine.Articles mentioned in this episode: https://www.sorellamag.org/opinion-sorella/cope-friendship-breakupBooks mentioned: Friendships Don't Just Happen - Shasta Nelson (https://amzn.to/34ZUmFp)We Used To Be Friends - Amy Spalding (https://amzn.to/2xVjwZo)Don't forget to rate/review this show on Apple Podcasts and share it with your friends and family.Join the Sit Down, Sis podcast squad on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/sitdownsispod/) and Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/sitdownsispod).For more detailed content on navigating life as a Black woman, visit the online publication Sorella Magazine here or at https://www.sorellamag.org/. Find Sorella Magazine on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/sorellamagazine) and Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/sorellamagazine/), Pinterest (https://www.pinterest.com/sorellamagazine/), Twitter (https://twitter.com/sorellamag); Support the show (http://paypal.me/SorellaMagazine)
In today’s episode, I am joined by the amazing Shasta Nelson. She is a friendship expert and a leading voice on loneliness and creating healthy relationships. She has so much to say about connection and friendships after loss and what happens to us when we are grieving. We talk about why do we let go of our relationships after loss and why we may lose relationships as well. My conversation with Shasta was truly fascinating. I learned so many things about myself in my experience of grieving friendships that I lost or changed after loss. I became such an independent woman, I thought nobody could understand my pain. I know that you have likely gone through a lot of transitions and lost friendships since your loss. I hope that you will take time to listen to this episode and that it will support you to find a new way to sustain and nurture your current relationships, how to make new friends, and find a new way to mend relationships that you have invested in and are still important to your life. “We are lonely not because we don’t know enough people, but because we aren’t going deep enough with those we do know..” ~ Shasta Nelson I encourage you to take notes while you listen to this episode, especially toward the beginning of our conversation, Shasta shares an exercise she called her “Loss List” that I would highly recommend to everyone. I’d love to hear what you think of this conversation. Be sure to comment below or connect with me on Instagram to tell me all about it. More About Shasta Nelson Shasta Nelson, a friendship expert, is a leading voice on creating healthy relationships in her efforts to eradicate the growing loneliness in our world. Her spirited and soulful voice for meaningful connections can be found in her books "Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness" and "Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends." In addition to speaking across the country, she is also a frequent contributor to the media appearing on TV shows such as Katie Couric and The Today Show, and in countless magazines and newspapers including The New York Times, Good Housekeeping, Health, and Forbes. You can connect with Shasta through her website and on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Things We Mention In This Episode Website: www.shastanelson.com Book: Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson Book: Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends by Shasta Nelson Online Community: Girlfriend Circles Temple Journey Weekend with Christina Rasmussen Book: Where Did You Go? by Christina Rasmussen Book: Second Firsts by Christina Rasmussen Newsletter - Message In a Bottle: Sign up for Christina’s weekly letter Apple podcast reviews and ratings are really important to help get the podcast in front of more people to uplift and inspire them too, which is the ultimate goal. Thank you!
In this live show, Shasta Nelson, author of Friendships Don’t Just Happen and Frientimacy, discusses how to maintain friendships while juggling the demands of work. You’ll hear: How to cancel plans with a friend when you have to work How to react when someone always cancels plans with you How friendships affect your health Books: Friendships Don’t Just Happen, Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness Website: www.shastanelson.com Sara can be reached on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn. Leave a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/advice-to-my-younger-me/id1101880566
In this live show, Shasta Nelson, author of Friendships Don’t Just Happen and Frientimacy, discusses how to handle some of the tricky situations that arise when your friends are also your co-workers. You’ll hear: Why it's important to have friends at work The ingredients of a genuine work friendship How to handle it when your friend becomes your boss Books: Friendships Don’t Just Happen, Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness Website: www.shastanelson.com Sara can be reached on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn. Leave a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/advice-to-my-younger-me/id1101880566
How can you make more friends, REAL friends, online and offline? Join me and my guest, Shasta Nelson, as we talk about friendtimacy, girlfriend circles, and so much more. Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is a leading expert on friendship. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She is Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, her tribe of women committed to creating more friendship in this world and teaches monthly friendship skill-building classes at The Friendship University. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a frequent contributor to the media appearing on TV shows such as Katie Couric and The Today Show, and in countless magazines and newspapers including The New York Times, Good Housekeeping, Health, and Forbes.
Tune into today’s podcast episode where I talk with Shasta Nelson, a leading expert on friendship and author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. Shasta shares valuable advice like: why having great friendships matter now more than ever before, the best ways you can deepen a friendship, when to know a friendship no longer serves you
How many of us give much thought to the quality of our friendships or the ways we could be intentionally nourishing our friendships? Turns out there’s not only an art and a science to how we create really good friendships, but there’s a formula to the process as well. Shasta Nelson, author of “Friendships Don’t Just Happen” and “Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness,” has truly become one of the world’s leading voices for friendship. In this conversation, we take a deep dive into the world of frientimacy and how we could all learn to upgrade this area of our lives. Guest Bio Shasta Nelson is the author of “Frientimacy” and “Friendships Don't Just Happen.” A leading voice for friendship, Shasta speaks for corporations, churches, and conferences all over the country; writes books, blogs, and articles; provides expertise to media, creates teaching videos and class; gathers people for retreats and events; and consults and coaches leaders and teams-- all for the purpose of creating healthier friendships in this world. Learn more at shastanelson.com. Mentioned in this Episode Friendships Don’t Just Happen by Shasta Nelson: https://www.amazon.com/Friendships-Dont-Just-Happen-GirlFriends/dp/1618580140 Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1580056075 The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli J Finkel: https://www.amazon.com/All-Nothing-Marriage-Best-Marriages/dp/052595516X Frientimacy Quiz: https://www.girlfriendcircles.com/frientimacyquiz Girlfriend Circles: https://www.girlfriendcircles.com/ Connect with the 60 Mindful Minutes podcast Web: https://kristenmanieri.com Email: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/60MindfulMinutes Instagram: @kristenmanieri_
A lot of us have issues with getting out there and making new friends, or staying consistent with our friendships… but, for some reason, we don’t focus on how this affects our health and well-being. Today’s conversation with Shasta Nelson completely re-shaped how we view friendship – and it’s never seemed more important! Shasta is an expert on friendship and the author of two books, Frientimacy and Friendships Don’t Just Happen!. She’s also the Founder of GirlfriendCircles.com, which you can think of as a gym membership for your friendships. We picked this topic because some of our listeners wanted to hear an episode about friendship – get in touch and join The Wine & Shiners Facebook Group if there’s something YOU want to hear more about. We Chat About: How we learn (or don’t) about starting and maintaining friendships How loneliness is like hunger The 3 requirements for all healthy relationships How you can break up with friends Reflecting inward so that you can be a better friend to others Starting big conversations that improve important friendships How to make new friends Resources: Learn more at GirlfriendCircles.com Connect with Shasta: ShastaNelson.com | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | YouTube Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends Shout Outs: The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman Connect With Us: iTunes: https://bit.ly/wineandshine Join our FB Group: The Wine and Shiners Like our FB Page: Wine & Shine Podcast Instagram: @wineandshinepodcast Vivino: https://www.vivino.com/users/wineandshinepodcast Snapchat: wineshinepod Email: wineandshinepodcast@gmail.com Production & Development for Wine & Shine Podcast by Podcast Masters
A lot of us have issues with getting out there and making new friends, or staying consistent with our friendships… but, for some reason, we don’t focus on how this affects our health and well-being. Today’s conversation with Shasta Nelson completely re-shaped how we view friendship – and it’s never seemed more important! Shasta is an expert on friendship and the author of two books, Frientimacy and Friendships Don’t Just Happen!. She’s also the Founder of GirlfriendCircles.com, which you can think of as a gym membership for your friendships. We picked this topic because some of our listeners wanted to hear an episode about friendship – get in touch and join The Wine & Shiners Facebook Group if there’s something YOU want to hear more about. We Chat About: How we learn (or don’t) about starting and maintaining friendships How loneliness is like hunger The 3 requirements for all healthy relationships How you can break up with friends Reflecting inward so that you can be a better friend to others Starting big conversations that improve important friendships How to make new friends Resources: Learn more at GirlfriendCircles.com Connect with Shasta: ShastaNelson.com | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | YouTube Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends Shout...
We need sisterhood. And I don't use that word 'need' lightly. But in this case it is true. We need the support, love, care, witnessing that can only come from another woman. Even women who have amazing supportive partnerships with a beloved need sisterhood. There is just something about the feminine bond that our hearts crave, our souls blossom from and our bodies and minds relax in. We know this. Yet... Why is it so hard for us to cultivate the sisterhood we need? And why does the space for it often get put last on the list? Creating soulful connections with other women is essential yet most of us were not taught HOW to cultivate the intimate connections we need to thrive. And as our guest Shasta Nelson, friendship expert and one of my dear soul sisters, reports after studying female relationships for over a decade, Friendships Don't Just Happen. Tune into this episode of Feminine Power Time - # 3 in a 4 part series on our Feminine Bonds - with feminine leadership advisor and spiritual catalyst Christine Arylo and her special guest, Shasta Nelson, founder of Girlfriend Circles and friendship expert and dive into: How can you strengthen your circle of sisterhood? Female health fact that might surprise you + the difference between BELONGING and CONNECTING Why friendships don't just happen - get more conscious about the ingredients and actions for calling in + deepening your female connections The 3 components all friendships need to thrive Why all friendships don't progress to deeper connections + how to tell which ones have the potential for growth What to do when you are feeling a 'sisterhood deficit'? What you desire NOW to strengthen your sisterhood connections? To learn more about Shasta Nelson, and Girlfriend Circles go to www.ShastaNelson.com To amp up your sisterhood connection, join Christine Arylo at a women's retreat this year - www.ChristineArylo.com
Shasta Nelson, author of two books about friendship – Friendships Don’t Just Happen and Frientimacy, talks about the importance of friendships at work and how to navigate the tricky waters they can present.
As part of our series on Cultivating a Field of Love in all of our relationships, I thought we needed to get real and deep about our female friendships. Our interactions with other women are one of the main places we either strengthen our feminine power or give it away, or worse, revert to the shadow of feminine power and use tactics like manipulation, colluding, gossip, blame and guilt or just cut off people all together. Most of us didn't get training on how to show up in our female relationships from a place of courageous love, to both ask for what we need + use conflict, hurt feelings, disappointment and the hard stuff to create stronger connections with the women in our lives. For this episode of Feminine Power Time I invited a woman who I have been deepening and growing my friendship with for about 9 years, who also just happens to be a leading expert on friendship and women's relationships. Her name is Shasta Nelson, and we invite you to join us to explore: 1. How to navigate conflict with a friend when your feelings get hurt, or she hurts you 2. How to set right expectations for different levels of intimacy and vulnerability 3. How to know when a friendship is one to grow or one to let go and how to do both. We'll share some super power tools you can use in your friendships right away + as always we end with a meditation to tap into your heart to see what friendships inside your life are ready to grow and which maybe time to let go. **** Here's a little about Shasta.. Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women's friendship matching site in 35 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her books Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness and Friendships Don't Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show.
http://yourkickasslife.com/podcast/107 Welcome to episode 107 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! The conversation you’ll hear on today’s show is so important; it’s about friendships, and how to develop the intimacy and BFFs you really want. And there is no one better qualified to speak to this than Shasta Nelson. Shasta is the founder of GirlfriendsCircle.com, a woman's friendship matching site for women across the US and Canada. She also has authored two books on the subject of friendship, Friendships Don’t Just Happen and Frientimacy. Plus she writes regularly for The Huffington Post and has appeared on Katie Couric and The Today Show. Today we talk about the importance friendship plays in enriching our lives, changing us and keeping us healthy. Shasta also explains how to develop intimacy and when to know a friendship is ready to develop deeper intimacy.
Adult women friendships. Do you have a longing inside for belonging and connection? Do you feel shame that you have this need. Shasta Nelson is here to talk about the value of friendships and how you can cultivate friendships. Shasta, is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women s friendship matching site in 35 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Shasta discusses creating and cultivating friendships. “Loving someone else does not mean they love us less.” ~Shasta Nelson, on How She Really Does It LISTEN HERE In this interview we discuss: friendships + unhealthy expectations admitting desire to have friends [belonging+connection] stigma to say “I need friends” what “Best” friends really means misconceptions of friendships important things to cultivate friendships how you share + what you share things that get in the way of building friendships Two takeaways – for women who want deep friendships “Friendships requires deposits + withdrawals.” ~Shasta Nelson, on How She Really Does It Mentioned in this Podcast book: Friendships Don’t Just Happen! Shasta’s blog To make local friends www.GirlFriendCircles.com facebook twitter smiling, The post Shasta Nelson: Cultivating Friendships appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.
The Best Ever You Show is proud to welcome Shasta Nelson to our show. Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women's friendship matching site in 35 cities across the U.S. and the author of Friendships Don't Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of Girlfriends. Shasta Nelson has been interviewed on the subject of friendship by The Katie Couric Show, The Today Show, The Early Show, the Chicago Tribune, the San Francisco Chronicle, Martha Stewart Radio, magazines such as Essence, Parents, More, Redbook and Glamour. Her spirited and soulful voice can be found on her weekly blog, Shasta's Friendship Blog, and her Huffington Post column where she regularly contributes on relationship health. She also teaches, lectures, and hosts speed-friending and Friendship Accelerator events in San Francisco and throughout the U.S. Numerous friendship paradigms stem from Shasta's teaching including: the Friendship Continuum to highlight the five intensities of friendships, the Frientimacy triangle that models how healthy friendships are formed, and the 5 Stages of Friendship that reveals the life span of a friendship.