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You know how much we love sharing amazing people on the Unbreakable Success Podcast, and Few Wu is certainly of the most amazing gems in our history. Fei is the amazing host of Feisworld Podcast, a documentary filmmaker whose 2019 docuseries features some of the most innovative and creative heroes in America, including Seth Godin, Dorie Clark, Sarah Cooper, Bisila Bokoko, Mick Ebeling, Barry Alexander, Cosmo Buono, Chris Voss, Gasya Akhmetova-Atherton, Andrew Atherton, and Kevin Atherton. She's also an extraordinary business coach who can teach you how to make money as a podcaster, but today, we're sharing a joint episode between Feisworld and Unbreakable Success. Fei and I have turned this into what I think you'll agree is one of the best episodes of Unbreakable Success so far. Discover our journey of entrepreneurship and our perspective on the path to confidence. Thanks to Fei, you'll also discover how I manage to leverage some of the critical skills I learned as a police / SWAT officer, and make them applicable the world of motivational leadership speaking, coaching, business, and entrepreneurship. PLEASE reach out to Fei at feisworld.com to send her some sincere love and gratitude for being an amazing guest and interviewer for the Unbreakable Success family in this episode. With love & respect - Aaron

We've all been on both sides of this equation. We've all received and given great advice, we've felt the inspiration, motivation, and potential for progress, but when it was all said and done, not much changed for the better. Today's quick episode explains why giving and getting great advice isn't good enough, and the ONE thing that makes the real difference between success or frustration.

Download this Episode Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 60 How to be Consciously and Authentically Masculine with Stef Sifandos. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or YouTube. Stefanos Sifandos is an author, international speaker, and mentor who -- if you're willing, will help you transform your idea of relationships, quality of life, and modern masculinity. In today's episode, our friend Stef shares his very personal story that led him on a journey of transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, and an integration of spiritual praxis and western psychology. Stefanos has brilliantly integrated the best of eastern and western methodologies and philosophies, and used integrative techniques methods to create programs and systems to enhance the quality of your relationships and personal performance.  Add to that, Stef is one of the most easily likable people you'll ever meet. Please make sure you've bookmarked his below website, followed him on social, and reach out to him to learn more from his and thank him for his time today. I'll say "you're welcome" ahead of time for this episode, because after this episode, there's no doubt you'll be grateful for the introduction to Stef. :) Please listen, share and make sure you're subscribed to Unbreakable Success on iTunes and YouTube. With love & respect - Aaron Full Transcript: Aaron: 00:00 All right, Stefanos, thank you so much for joining us today. Everybody. Welcome back to another episode of Unbreakable Success. I'm excited to have a conversation with somebody who I'm already beginning to think of as a friend is, you know, I have to apologize to you as you're listening, uh, all of you out there listening and watching because we kind of been chatting away and having some conversation. I'm thinking like we really need to be recording this because we're starting to get deep into the conversation, but I think we can pick it up with no problem anyway, for, for those that don't, you know, Stefanos Sifandos, and we were working on your name before we started. Obviously you've got a lot of accolades behind you. You're an author, you've been doing some speaking internationally. you're a phenomenal coach on, on masculinity and relationships. Can you tell us, just tell us a little bit about you, what your work is like today so people can get a good gauge on the things you're doing if they haven't met you already. Stef Sifanos: 00:57 Thank you. Thank you for the kind introduction. It's a privilege to be here as well. I'm super excited. So for me, I blend the combination of neuro empowerment practices, a Western psychological frameworks and eastern mysticism in terms of assisting people in cultivating their brilliance, actualizing their potential or shifting from a place of pain that they may find themselves in or that they're attached to. And so my coaching or a massive fan of the word coach, but I don't think I have a better one at this moment, but the guiding, the coaching, whatever it may be, the friendship is, um, it comes from a place of really wanting to serve and serve in the sense of how do we liberate ourselves from the tension or the incessant tension that we at times experience. And so the tools and techniques and how I do that. A, again, a combination of what I've mentioned and also leveraging my own personal experiences and of course the amazing experiences of other people such as yourself, such as people that I come into contact with, family, friends, men, mentors of my own and other leaders of past and present as well. Stef Sifanos: 02:08 And so I just really, I'm, I'm very excited about it. I'm crazy about sacred union. I'm crazy about human optimization in terms of how do we really develop this amazing grand version of self. Aaron: 02:21 Yeah. And, and I love, what you're saying there. Especially about the term of whenever I hear the word coach and even though it's funny, it's one of those, we were talking about some quandaries that earlier and you know, from a business perspective when you're describing yourself, you have to put something contains it to describe what it is you do. And I think for, for many of us in the work that you do in the work that I do, coaches use the appropriate word, but I never really feel like it covers everything. You know, it's a little bit difficult. So I appreciate you sharing so much. Give us an idea of, you know, for you, you know, when you think of a, uh, a clients if there, if there is a, if there is that ideal person or, or, or, uh, someone who you meet and right away you're thinking, yeah, this is somebody I'd love to work with. What is that like for you? And obviously I'm not expecting you to have just one type of client you'd like, but know what are some of the things that that triggered you to recognize it somebody or group of somebody who are the right people for you to work with? What's that like for you? Stef Sifanos: 03:28 I love that question. Willingness is the first thing that comes to mind and to be really honest as well, willingness is something that I look for in my intimate relationships as well. Like how willing are you to celebrate your joys? How willing are you to celebrate us as a, as a couple? How willing are you to traverse your own pain and your difficulty? How willing are you to look at as much of life as possible and really absorb it and then be discerning about what you allow in or what you continue to believe is to be true. For me, that willingness, like whether it be with clients, whether it be my friendships with any person that I'm interacting with, that willingness is so powerful for me and it's what, it's a magnet for me. It's like a, what I'm really, really attracted to and what I'm also looking for when I'm working with him. Stef Sifanos: 04:13 Because if we don't have that willingness, we're closed. We're essentially, we're coming more from fear than we are from courage and theories. Uh, it's a constricted, restricted, tight, rigid place to come from. And so there's very little wiggle room and you know, speaking a little bit to your, your previous career and, and like it got me thinking because I've done a lot, a lot of work with special forces military and it's, I've learned so much from working with these people like so, so much and some of the rigidity that they have found themselves in like you would think, how do you even shift from that, whether it be physically, emotionally underway, willing, willing, you know, in adverse conditions, whether it be our physical environment, our internal landscape in our own spirituality and sense of self when we're, when we're faced with adverse conditions, it's our willingness that instigates our ability to be creative, to move and shift from that place. So if I'm with someone that has zero willingness, it makes it tough, it makes it really difficult. Aaron: 05:17 Sure. I think we can all relate to it. I mean, regardless of, you know, for those listening, regardless of where you are, we've all experienced that one way or another, whether it's a relationship like you alluded to earlier or you know, somebody is a manager or CEO or, or a team leader or in coaching relationships, we've all been in those situations where we're looking to inspire or influence change in someone, but when there's pushback it makes a lot more difficult. So I, I, I, I love that. And hopefully of course, if your listener of the show, I'm going to assume that you got some willingness to always be learning something new and, and get some new perspective because that's kind of our jam here. So yeah, yeah. I'm, I'm, I'm glad to have you here with, look, we catch people up because we were, like I mentioned earlier, we were having a conversation earlier about, um, about masculinity and I was really excited to have a discussion about the topic because we've never really touched on it, at least from my recollection in any of the episodes that I've had on a so far on the podcast here. Aaron: 06:19 So if we can fast forward to, through to masculinity specifically as a topic, I'd love to get your take on that because that's become at least one of your areas, one of your targeted areas that you specialize in when you work with clients in groups of people. So give me idea of, of number one, what kind of sparks that as being something that felt important to you to kind of focus on and dive into and then help others with that process. And why do you think it's. Why do you feel like it's so, such an important conversation? I certainly have my perspective, but you're the man here. This is your show now here. I got to hear from you. Your take on it. Stef Sifanos: 06:58 Yeah. That's great, Aaron. Thank you. Yeah. So for me, what really, what really sparked to things in retrospect to one singular experience and then an ongoing experience that really sparked me delving deep into the psychology of masculinity and uh, understanding what it means to be a healthy man in contemporary times. And so the first was my ongoing relationship with my father and the, the masculine archetype. The father archetype, it was a very unhealthy relationship. There was a, as I mentioned earlier, there was violence, emotional abuse, and that was really the norm, the aggression, the confrontational approach to problems or to, to live that was the, you know, the agitation of frustration, the fear mongering that was, that was the norm for me. And so when I was in that, that was the norm. But when I was out of that allowed me to reflect and say, is this really what it means to be a man to live with all this tension and fear and essentially bullshit. Stef Sifanos: 08:02 Like it was just, it was just so much heaviness, heaviness. And so that was one of the catalysts for me to look deeper into my own manhood, my own sense of self as well. Uh, and, and of course, as a, as a, as a side note, I want to, I want to make mention that, you know, the old cliche hurt people hurt people. And so this isn't a blaming or an external shading to my father, you know, for whatever it's worth, he has an amazing heart when he's connected to that. And his ability to give and be present is quite phenomenal. It's unfortunate that he can't really didn't have the tools and the learning and the understanding to tap into that and the support. He didn't feel supported. He's on live. And so the second catalyst for me was a few years ago when I was in an intimate relationship with a woman. Stef Sifanos: 08:53 We were girlfriend and moved together, um, and I was unfaithful in that relationship and I was commuting in fidelity at rampant rights. And so that all came undone. She found out. And that really that singular event or experience really it caused me to look. It allowed me to look deeper into is this the man I want to be in the world? Like, is this because my whole world was falling apart? It really was. And I couldn't say it. I'll just throw others is part of life because I was accustomed to that burn build that we'd spoken about. So when we we able to build and build and create as men, because men have amazing creative energy as well, just in a different way to women as women have a nurturing creative energy as well, or the feminine does rather. And I can go into masculine feminine, what that actually means in terms of gender dynamics as well as physical gender beyond bonner agenda feel so inclusive and binary gender as well. Stef Sifanos: 09:49 And so, uh, having that, that creation, but then this habit and familiarity of our better it before it's taken away from me, at least the self control. We have control, greater control and autonomy, but it's a false sense of autonomy and telling the healthy autonomy because we're not really allowing ourselves to appreciate what we're creating. And so we're creating out of insecurity, out of hot the selfishness, out of fear and out of pine. And this is all suppressed and oppressed and within ourselves and unconscious. And so that, that opportunity, that breakup and that process gave me an opportunity to deep dive into me. And so I did that. I let go of my businesses. I went into debt because I stopped, I literally stopped working. Um, I, I just spent hours everyday. I took 15 hours a day on personal growth. Like on my own personal growth. Stef Sifanos: 10:39 I sought counsel is spiritual healers. God's mentors. I'll put everything I had into that. I spend time in nature. I spent hours meditating, reading, being with a crying, breaking down, releasing like emotive Cathartic releases, uh, uh, you know, I immersed myself in physical activities or Kate, my buddy movie, and at least be able to change my state to flux as often as possible to have some, some level of reprieve Saran myself where I could with good people. I let go of a lot of friends. I completely, I just stripped down and stripped away everything. Or was that an ego self or the spiritual self? I was a rower. I was just an isolated most of the time. Um, and it also served me as well. I needed that. That was my journey into that. That was, that was made. And so the first part of your question was, you know, what was the catalyst for that? Stef Sifanos: 11:32 And then the second part, I believe, if I remember correctly, it was like how do we begin begin to define masculinity because it is such a complex conversation, it's about culture, it's one about environment, but it's also one about our physicality, how our biology, our neurobiology and physiology, men's physiology influences our behavior as well, coupled with what is the environment or the culture of that time say and, and the culture of the past and how that's permeated into contemporary times. And now we just sit there. And so, you know, scholars will argue like, is it, is it a biology that dictates our masculinity? What is masculinity? Is it purely culture? I believe it's a combination of both and I believe that every man needs to set out to define his own sense of masculinity. But I'm not going to leave people there and say, Hey, go to find your own mascot. Stef Sifanos: 12:22 I teach this stuff. So like I'll be calling you back. You're not getting off that easy if you know. So there's a couple of things and I'm going to start with two major points. So I've developed a framework which has 12 principles and these principles, they feed into each other and there is a circular model and one is not dependent on the other, however, they are reliant on each other to some degree to, to create a harmony and balance with the expressive self. And so there's two elements of masculinity that I'm really, really excited about and they are inclusivity and sustainability. So let me elaborate. A Nice history has shown us as men generally generally speaking, so this is generalizing to be quite isolating, to be the lone rangers, to be also quite separating and segregating and we can see that in our cultural practices. Stef Sifanos: 13:15 We can see that in our political systems and we can see that, that it wasn't until the seventies that women just started to get more rights, like some legitimate rights in terms of what they were able to do and be in society. So we've been quite controlling and oppressing as agenda. We haven't been inclusive in our decision making as individuals and as collectives. We've taken a superior ground and then there's sub groups within men as well that, uh, have caste systems of inferior and superior. That's not sustainable, but it's not. It's for, for our level of consciousness and awareness of society and where we're going and how technology is feeding into the rapidness of decision making and how we grow as a society. This is just not going to cut it anymore. This, this sense of exclusivity and short term gains, selfish, selfish, short term gain. Stef Sifanos: 14:15 And so we begin by looking at ourselves as men and saying, how do we operate in the world? The actions that we take, the thoughts that we have, the belief systems and the decisions that we make and the emotions that we feel. Are they inclusive and are they sustainable? To me, if every man can start from that place, don't even worry about the 12 principles and that, and they have really deep as well. We're going to them. If you, if you lock, but I'm not even worry about them, just start with sustainability and inclusivity. I believe that will change the entire cultural paradigm and landscape of the way we interact at agenda level and it will begin open up the conversation and I'm not saying anything new yet, you know, like this has been going on for thousands of years, hundreds of years. This will open up the conversation for, um, what's the word I want to use? Stef Sifanos: 15:05 I don't want to, I don't want to say cultural relativity. That's not quite the right term. I want to say it's going to open up a conversation for equity, equity, equity in our society, you know, like that. That to me, that's super powerful. Like, and hey, I get it. I'm coming from A. I'm coming from a place of I'm a, uh, I'm a young male, mid thirties. I'm a male, I'm Caucasian. I'm middle class like I get, I get, there's a complexity here with this, right? And however, we have to look at that. We have to, we, if we, if we want to create equity in our society, we have to take ownership and responsibility, which happens to be the first principle of conscious warrior, the framework ownership and responsibility of who we've been as a collective, who we are and where we're going and just get real, get real with who we are. That's, that's the simplicity of it. Aaron: 15:57 Yeah. I love it. You and I are on the same page. It's funny because you tapped on the beginning points of talking about I'm taking ownership and responsibility and I have a framework elsewhere for something else. Not touching on that masculinity, but that's the starting point. But I think, you know, with it's pretty universal and it's certainly applicable, uh, in this topic of masculinity as we're discussing it today, that, you know, w we have to take ownership of our decision making and take ownership of the process and take ownership of, of what beliefs we're gonna perpetuate as, as men and, and if, if it doesn't start there, if it doesn't start with, okay, I'm choosing to then, then you're losing game because then you're either, you know, blaming somebody before you are blaming society for others just the way it is. Aaron: 16:53 And it's when all the power is depleted from the decision making, which makes it kind of interesting for somebody to claim some masculinity or authority if you're passing the book in the first place. So, uh, I'm, I'm with you. I'm with you there. So we'll, we'll talk me through this then because I, I completely agree with the idea of inclusivity and you are certainly right if we look at it from any type of historical standpoint, whether we're talking about in, in business and corporate or just society in general, um, you know, economic status, all those things. There's, there's certainly been, especially from, uh, from the male historical male perspective, it's just a long history of, you know, US versus them on so many different levels. Uh, and it's certainly, it's certainly something fortunately I see in recent years. It's funny you touched on my, my, my career, um, that's ending now. Aaron: 17:46 I have, for those that don't know, I have a career in law enforcement five months away from retirement as a police captain. But it's just really interesting because I've been doing it since the 19, mid 19 nineties actually right in the middle of the 19 nineties. I got hired and I started that career in 1995. So even in that relatively short window, we're talking 20 some odd years from then till now. The whole, I did the whole masculinity. If I remember some of the, some of the people I was going to use the word dinosaurs, some of the people, some of the men that were there and that career when I started, uh, and just the behavioral norms and what things were accepted from everything from language, the way you carry yourself in, the demeanor, the way you spoke to people, what was accepted now versus what is acceptable now. Aaron: 18:40 It is night and day. And, and I think it's, it's, it's an excellent thing because there's so much more self awareness, uh, there, there's so much more inclusivity and there's a lot less, you know, this is me and you are, you and I'm showing up here and there's not even any conversation. It's just orders, orders, orders that is not completely situationally dependent, but in large part on a day to day basis that just doesn't happen anymore. And like, and exactly what you said earlier, it wasn't sustainable. It certainly wasn't sustainable, especially in today's. And it's funny or you're, you're spot on when you, when you mentioned technology as being one of the reasons it's not sustainable. Um, because, you know, I, I started in an era before most people had cell phones. It's as crazy as that sounds, you know, I got hired, we were still using typewriters and I was dialing from the payphone on the corner if I had to call somebody, but just in that short span of a couple of decades, a lot of things have changed and a lot of things that we tolerate it as, as, as a society when it comes to masculinity, it doesn't fly anymore and it's certainly not a perfect scenario. Aaron: 19:56 And obviously this social media and the way that the speed in which the speed and the scale in which news and information travels, uh, it's not all perfect, but I certainly do think it helps in terms of what, what we will no longer tolerate. And it's not a perfect system, but I think it is a system that is allowed for some progress as far as that goes. So from, um, from the stamp, from the jump off port as you were talking about from a inclusion in sustainability, where do you go next from there? Because I mentioned you had 12 steps, I don't know that we'll get to all of them today, but I want to at least continue this conversation so we can useful. And then obviously I'm definitely gonna invite people to follow up with you after, after we get off the call today. But what's what, where do you go from there? So we're going through the first principles, ownership and responsibility, so ownership Stef Sifanos: 20:48 And responsibility in that elicits a sense of power and empowerment. And so we make the unconscious conscious. We, we bring, La is very far what for lack of a better term, metaphorically speaking very far away from us and we bring it close to us. So when it becomes conscious and becomes like Plato and it can become as malleable and so then we can begin to construct our lives as we want. And you know, we're, we're, we're really in a massive transition transitory period right now with respect to what it means to be a man. So I want to, I want to give my new definition, but my interpretation of masculinity and femininity as well because we, we, there's sometimes a misconception that when we're speaking to masculinity with speaking to mend the two terms are not interchangeable. So as human beings being in a physical world, we live in a jewel reality and that means that we live in, in a realm of opposites essentially. Stef Sifanos: 21:40 So, you know, up, down, left, right, right, wrong ground scar we live in, we live in a relational construct, a construct of reference points. You can't know something without the other. In other words, that's basically what it means. And so we're in constant relationship with something that means we're in this jewel ism there in life. And so masculinity and femininity reside both were, they both resolved within every human being, within every sentient being. And all that really means is it's a state of expression. And so the dominant state of expression has been what we can see a masculine traits, masculine expressive traits, independence, um, dominance, um, this, this control, this possessiveness. And so what? But that they're not healthy control and possessiveness is not healthy. Mastery and inclusivity is healthy. The healthy masculine expressive tried. So we've come from, when we look back at history, we've come from a lot of fear and fear has driven our actions, our behaviors, our thoughts and ideologies and they've become the norm and therefore we've become very segregated. Stef Sifanos: 22:48 And so we've used that power in an autocratic way, in an oppressive way as opposed to using our power to build rock. We've used our paths and build but selfish interest. And that's really important. So part of the ownership and personal power is one. Acknowledging that acknowledging the. This is a very complex, why don't even lock the site is because I was going to say the word patriarchy, but how patriarchy as a, as a system and understand what the definition of patriarchy mains, but what's happened is it's permeated as a, as a systemic influence in the way we geo politically do our do our lot and our economics, our businesses. And so these traits have become the norm. They become a hopper present. And so there's, there's less balance of the feminine, expressive rights and so ownership and personal power allows us to take responsibility for who we are as individuals. Stef Sifanos: 23:47 It allows us to say, right, we don't need to tell lies anymore about ourselves. We can tell the truth and the truth lays a foundation for facts or the truth isn't exactly what sets us free. Our willingness and our tenacity and our resilience and our perseverance and our practice and our attention and our intention is what sets us free or liberates us from suffering. But the truth lays a foundation for all of those virtues to be expressed. Because if we're coming from lies, we're going to just perpetuate more lights. And so personal power and ownership is just a massive, a massive component. And it's the first. It's the first. It's the first lesson in a conscious warrior framework and it really allows us to be a healthier men. And so it's not just about ownership and personal power. It's about creating safety and stability in our own lives. Stef Sifanos: 24:45 So creating a more secure sense of self by looking at ourselves in a whole. Because when we take ownership and responsibility and power for who we take stayed for who we are, we're not moving through life in a fractured way. We're not moving through life in a broken way or disconnected why or in parts wide because we're looking at the whole of us and say, you know what? I spend a lot of years being aggressive. I spent a lot of years being really selfish. I actually expressed narcissistic traits. Um, I, I was a violent person. I was very passive. I didn't stand up for myself. And so when we start taking ownership of all that we've been, we become safe Ross. So, so we begin become safe to other people because other people see a whole version of ourselves that they're not guessing about who are we? And so this becomes like we hold that a conscious decision for ourselves and that's these more authentic masculinity and moves away from, from oppression and domination and dominion over anything that we consider less. Then we begin to look at life in a more equitable way and there's less division. And so that, that becomes very powerful for me in terms of, uh, a principal. Aaron: 25:55 Yeah. You know, you just said a word. And um, when you, when you said the word authenticity, I think that's a big piece of this, at least in my experience when it comes to the idea and the expression of masculinity, um, because, you know, from most of the time, um, from what I've seen when people, when people try to express that, that old school version of masculinity, if you will, with the, you know, expressing dominance. But you can tell it's just such a facade. It's like this mask at a house with Lewis Howes wrote the book mask if the mask of masculinity a little bit ago, uh, and always thinking that because I just thought it was a great a title because it's so, it's, it's, you see it all the time, you know, the person that's acting overly tough for or wants to let everybody know how strong he is or dominant they are. Aaron: 26:52 But most of the time it's a facade. Once you break right through it, you see that there's, there's pain behind it, there's fear behind it, and it's, and it's really not an expression of bravery. We talked about this earlier. I'll get to it. It's not an expression of bravery when they're trying to act overly powerful and dominant. It's actually, it's actually an attempt to hide the fear and the hurt that's behind us. I mentioned, uh, we, we were saying earlier before we started recording today, I brought up the idea that a lot of times I think people make the mistake of trying to express or trying to compare masculinity with bravery as if they're the same exact thing. So people feel that if they, they, if they are going to be masculine, if they want to attempt to be more masculine and have people look at them as like, oh, look at this, this strong person is masculine, dominant, fearless person, then that means they just have to act brave all the time. Aaron: 27:50 But to your point, to the point of authenticity, that's just a massive mistake, you know, because the, the, the, the, the, the lack of, you know, that the, the, the need, it's just when you think about it, it's kind of insane the, this idea that someone would need to constantly act or behave as if they are the strongest, most fearless being in the room in order to be considered masculine. And they are just always brave. It's nonsense. You know, I can't tell you how many times I went to, talked about earlier. I spent 15 years on the swat team. I can't tell you how many times I was scared as hell going to job because you know, we had Intel on the people that are with air. So there, there, there was fear there. But that fear was turned into awareness and focus and remembrance. Aaron: 28:36 And in there there's the breathing techniques. There's a visualization. But if there was no willingness to be authentic and say, okay, this is a scary scenario, and because this is a scary scenario that could be potentially dangerous. I'm jumping into an example that I didn't realize I was jumping into the fact that there was fear there and the fact that we as a team, we're honest about having that fear and it allowed for us to access our tools. They almost created a necessity for us to access other resources, whether it be breathing skills, visualization, all these things, but if you know, in that kind of scenario, fi only clung to I just have to be brave. Then it almost shuts out everything else. It almost shuts the doors on, on the easy access to all those tools and those things. And I think in day to day life I'm putting that example aside and day to day life, I think when we're willing to just be authentic as opposed to attempting to be something that we think we're supposed to be a case in point in masculinity, I think they're all fantastic. Aaron: 29:42 It allows us to open the doors and be willing to open the doors to, okay, um, you know, there's all these other resources that I can access because I may need them, you know, because I am fearful. I am a little bit, uh, I don't have much confidence in this scenario. What can I, what can I use? I think it creates an avenue for, um, better performance, which is from not mistaken behind the work that you do is really about performance. Uh, and I think that word, the words you used, authenticity is, is a, is a perfect word in this, uh, in this case. Stef Sifanos: 30:17 Yeah. Massive, very much about performance. Like, I mean we can perform poorly or we can perform an excellence that's a. I think that's a massive, that's a massive part of what we, you know, we, we let, we let that go a lock. We have, uh, an opportunity to, to move in excellence in every area of our life. Like whether it'd be excellent like devotion and excellence, like a really for me, they, they, they human traits like they're healthy human traits, devotion. Excellent. But when we're speaking to men and changing the paradigm and switching around the paradigm of how the healthy masculinity to healthy masculinity know we're talking about deep devotion in self and to a purpose and to causal purposes and, and having, encountering healthy pride in, in, in, in what we do and how we move through the world, excellence in treating ourselves and others and in every way that we show up. And this isn't to put immense pressure on us because we don't want to be attached to this excellence, but we want to strive and embody excellence. We choose that over, hey, this is too much for me, so I'm going to either revert to being oppressive and subjugating or I'm going to disappear and be passive and make that old paradigm is just, it's not, it's not gonna work anymore. Not, not for the level of connectedness in globalization that we're experiencing as a society now. Yeah. Aaron: 31:41 Where are you seeing the most, um, obviously you've been doing this for a bit. Where are you seeing the most tangible changes? If we can, if we can put this in a setting for, for the day to day mail, um, let's just go through life and, and up upcoming this conversation of masculinity and they think to themselves, okay, is this or is just not applicable for me? I'm just the average Joe. I'm not, I'm not some tough guy. I'm not a, I'm not any, you know, someone who doesn't feel like they are at either extreme. How do you think, how do you see this as a tangible asset on a regular basis? Because I think it'd be valuable for people to, to, to understand and, and, and really talk about how having this discussion and getting real about it and being authentic about it really does make a difference in a different context of their lifestyle. Stef Sifanos: 32:33 Yeah. If I'm understanding the question you're asking, where am I seeing, what am I saying this prominent in terms of this, this ability to potentially like what area of our, of our society where men are active is this, is a transition from unhealthy to healthy masculinity more likely to take place initially? Is that what you're asking? Aaron: 32:54 Yeah. Well, and I apologize, I should reframe that. Where are you seeing the benefits for people to engage with, with you and are willing to have this conversation and be willing to open to new ideas about masculinity in and of itself when people are willing to, to, to operate a mine in and engaged in just income shift from what may be an old perspective to a, a more inclusive perspective, the masculinity as a, as you teach it, and obviously you're very in depth with, with, with the work that you do in what areas of those people's lives who are willing to engage a and challenged their, their ideas and their thoughts about masculinity. Where are you seeing? In what way are you seeing those people benefit from that shift from the old to a more progressive idea? Stef Sifanos: 33:45 Yeah, absolutely. So first and foremost in them, in themselves, in their own sense of self. So they, so to put in something tangible vayd conference is rising and it's rising. And, and what I mean by common is I don't mean egoic pride. I don't mean an arrogance. Uh, I'm, I'm very, very specific about this sense of self, the way they view themselves that self talk is more compassionate and less rigid and less judgmental the way they've seen how they've behaved. This more forgiveness, there's more empathy. In other words, the, the, the, the mark or have social and emotional intelligence is rising within the individual, within the med. Yeah. Then from there, he, once he gets on a deep a hold of that and he's, he's more connected with it. He feels Stef Sifanos: 34:39 more open to be that person in his intimate relationships, the relationships where he feels most safe in generally not the men that he's been mixing within the past, unless they happen to be a healthy conduit of masculine expression, which the chances are it's not. And so to give you an example, many of the ex military guys that I've worked with, the special forces guys that I've worked with is a reason why they. We've worked together and so they've lit they, they come to me. It's like I can't relate to the boys anymore. I can't relate to the guys anymore. I wouldn't change my life. I don't want to keep drinking. I don't want to keep suppressing. I want to keep taking drugs. I don't want to keep forgetting. I just, I want to be different. I want to be healthier. I can't relate to these guys anymore and I feel like I'm losing everyone around me and so because you know you'd know better than than most our in that, that sense of camaraderie that you develop, that you cultivate a new bond under deep on the life and death circumstances I'm in. Stef Sifanos: 35:39 Their sheets are replaceable like you, but then what happens when your values change? Wrought block. What happens when your values change and the values of your peer groups heaven and show. The reason that I went into a side note there is that men don't then really go to their peer group because for the majority of the time they haven't shifted and they have as individuals and so they go to maybe they wives their sisters, they'll go, they'll go to women more than anything else. Now again, healthy women. Now this doesn't mean so for some men that are listening to this, because I get this all the time, oh, but then with becoming feminized and will not be coming, man, and we're losing our sense of masculine, you know, losing sense of masculinity because that's not going anywhere. It's only going to go somewhere moving in extreme, so extreme in one end, and then you go into the other end, then yes, you will lose that and you lose a lot more than that. Stef Sifanos: 36:33 However, if you retain that sense of sovereignty. So I've developed a model around what I call sovereign leadership in this 14 principals in that. And so you, you, you hold yourself in discerning confident way and your sense of, of, um, sovereignty and who you are as a person, you won't lose yourself. We have this fallacy that if we're spending time with women, we're big. We're going to become hyper feminine, right? What about the opportunity of complementing that femininity and using that femininity as a, as a reference point, as an opposite to strengthen your healthy masculinity and you're in a sound frame of mind and an open, willing frame of mind. That's what generally happens. Yeah, Aaron: 37:15 I love it. That's a great answer. And it, and it's, I, I love the fact that you talk about how the result of this, one of the first results of this is an increase in confidence and that emotional and social intelligence and that I don't think you can put a price tag on that because that's, that can be for many people and I just from as, as coaches use the air quotes, you know, we, we, I think we understand more than most how, how powerful that can be and how much of, how much of a secret that is for most people. Meaning the lack of personal confidence and the lack of the lack of emotional mastery and emotional intelligence and social intelligence. Um, I think people, I think people underestimate how many people struggle with is how many people struggle with and they overestimate how hard it would be for them to improve it in, in themselves. Stef Sifanos: 38:19 So that's a historian. I continue. Sorry to interrupt you. I just had a thought, but. Aaron: 38:23 No, no, no, that, that, that, that was it. I'm just saying, I think people underestimate how many people deal with that as a day to day issue. That lack of confidence and emotional and stability. I think people have so many more people in then the list you, the listener or viewer realize are dealing with those same struggles. And I think it's important for, for anyone listening to understand that if they are one of those people who aren't in those honest moments when they're not masking and when they're not suppressing. Yep. They're not overdrinking and they're not just deluding themselves by just numbing themselves, whether it's tv or just, you know, the friends from high school and just hiding the reality when they're in that moment of clarity a and they realize, you know, what, this, this is a struggle for me, which is why I'm always trying to distract myself. Uh, it's not uncommon and I think I think people should have more people who I'm hoping that people as they're listening to you, um, feel some permission to take a step towards, you know, making a shift in, in their. I, he had it. Stef Sifanos: 39:24 Yeah. Yeah. I know. Aaron, I completely agree with you and I'd love to give some context because I don't want to just just say, hey, social emotional intelligence and then let people ask what does that actually mean? Let me give some. I mean, let me give some context that an emotional intelligence again, is not a complex notion. It's just a very laid notion. But let me, let me express what that means in context. Like in actual real tangible terms. And so when men begin to develop this sense of a greater sense of emotional intelligence and social intelligence, there are a couple of characteristics that that come with that. And so when, when we don't have that emotional, we don't carry that emotional social intelligence, that ability to interact in a group with people and so forth. We isolate ourselves. So our sense of self worth is low self esteem is low, self value is low, and when we act from that place, it's detrimental to society, but also to us like it hurts us and where we live in this constant pain and loneliness. Stef Sifanos: 40:21 And so the moment you begin to raise your sense of emotional intelligence in this case, let me just give two examples or two characteristics, compassion and empathy. And so when you become become more emotionally intelligent and socially intelligent, you're able to relate to people at deeper levels and you're able to gauge the situation so you have more environmental or situational awareness as well. And so you act from that place and you act from a greater sense of confidence because you have a greater sense of knowing, knowledge, wisdom, gnosis, and so that compassion and empathy, you can relate and you can feel people and so you communicate from that place as opposed to communicate from a place, I've got no idea what's going on. I'm just going to attract because I don't want to embarrass myself because men are men to know everything and if I don't know everything and in the right way, then I'm going to be deemed as stupid that I'm going to be putting the out group and then the brainstem is going to act, act up and far up and I'm going to feel like I'm about to be annihilated and all of a sudden I'm 70,000 years ago and I'm in the out group and I'm cold and I'm alone. Stef Sifanos: 41:16 And there's a world basis, Canadian long story, right? So beyond that, what happens is we all want to belong. This is a very primal thing. We all want to have a sense of belonging, a sense of union and a sense of inclusion. And so we raise our sense of emotional intelligence and social intelligence. We may fade into that primal, biological need to belong, and so it may become less isolated. They come less from fear that don't leverage their physical prowess and strength in a negative way that is excluding exclusion and isolating, but rather they leverage their strength in a healthy way that allows people that build people up as well. It allows people to be part of the tribe that my friend is what I get excited about when I see men become more confident in carrying levels of emotional intelligence. And that is just one component. That link I've just made that is just one component of what happens. That's excellent. Aaron: 42:13 Yeah. And, and I, I love that. And that for, for, for you as you're listening, that is, that is like the diving board into improve leadership ability, improved relationship ability improved, whether it's intimate relationships at home with your children, with your peers. It allows for the capacity to improve those connections either from in the workplace or in a personal environment. Um, that, that sense of inclusion. It's, it's funny, I, I, my brain keeps going back to the old styles of leadership, the old carrot and stick, you know, the old way of doing things, the old way of dealing with social problems there. There's an old um, there used to be an old bumper sticker in the, the old locker room got, I don't even know what decade it was from. I'm going to guess the fifties or sixties, but you probably heard that phrase before. The beatings will continue until morale improves that archaic idea of leadership. You know, where you just keep pounding, just pounding the problem until you wrote pound you until you tear up. Stef Sifanos: 43:26 I assume that my father, like I'll give you something to cry about. Still cry. Aaron: 43:33 Uh, and I think, and it's funny because I think most of us in this, I love this conversation because in, in, in this particular error, this, this, this time that we're in it, it seems to me that people that are, that are in our age group in thirties and forties, we are old enough where we, most of us had parents who have said those types of things. Not because they were bad parents, it was just, it was just a way parenting was done. And again, I'm completely generalizing here, but we've at least heard of those comments, you know, if the child is crying, you say, I'll give you some decline out. Um, but I think in large part because of that, the social awareness and the information exchange that we have and people like you, um, staff that are willing to, to, to be the leaders in it, the forefront of these things to say, okay, what are we actually doing and creating here by perpetuating these old, archaic versions of, um, leadership for a better word. Aaron: 44:34 We're dominance in, in where does that lead, you know, when, when, when we, like you said, when we just, when we blocked someone out or we make them feel like they're on the outs instead of including them because they're doing something we don't particularly agree with. What does that create? And is there something we can, is there a choice, a different choice that we can make that, that's going to lead us to more of the results that we're looking for? I, I love that conversation and it's, it's crazy. I'm looking at the clock here for 46 minutes in and I could easily go for another couple of hours because I got like eight more different topics and I think we have 11 more pieces of your wheel that we can get to. I think we could probably do a good 12 hour marathon here if you wanted to, but I want to get to, to, to something really important because this is something for those that are still listening right now. Aaron: 45:27 This is a conversation that I think a man or a woman, I think it's a conversation that is really needs to be, um, we need to dive deeper into it. So can you please let people know how they can reach out to you and continue this conversation, work with you and get more. Um, and I can tell you already I'm a fan. I love this conversation because it's so relevant. It's so relevant to me and in the life I came up with in, in the career came up with up in and I definitely, you know, I'm happy to learn from you. And I'm appreciative. So how can we continue this conversation, my friend? Let us know. Stef Sifanos: 46:02 Thank you and thanks for your call. Has been an amazing conversation. I might share the same sentiment or we could keep going for hours. I love that. I'm glad I've made. I've made a friend on the east coast of the US after a few short months ago, um, where you can find me on any of my social media handles. Stef, not so fancy a s, t e f a n o s s I s a n d o s it's, I don't think anyone else will come up that night. I'm pretty sure no one else has that name. Um, so yeah, you'll, you'll find me on social media if you want to join. If you're a man you want to join my conscious warrior facebook group, I'm the conscious warrior. Please feel free to do that. Um, reclaimyourkingdom.com Is a three is a three month online immersive for men. And that begins the end of February, February 26th, I believe. Um, so we've already started taking intakes for that. It's an amazing opportunity to get real support from other men, healthy men connect, learn the principles of the conscious warrior, deep dog into self and just make some massive changes behaviorally, neurologically, relationally, every area of your life. And so that's a very exciting. It's a program very close to my journey, very close to my heart and you'll be able to find me. It's um, yeah, I, I'm a website as well and it sounds my social media channels. Yeah. Aaron: 47:19 Nice. Beautiful Man. I appreciate it. Listen to everybody listening to who didn't grab a pen and write down the spelling of his full name. Uh, if you just go to Aaron Keith Dot com, type in a search bar. You'll see on the top right of this screen. Just type S, t, e, f Stef, nobody can mess that up. Type stuff into the search bar and hit enter and you'll find this episode. And then I'll have, I'll link up all your connections to social media, your websites for, for those that are sort of a writing implement impaired at the moment. Type stuff on Aaron Keith Hawkins Dot Com. We'll make sure we get, get you connected stuff. I'm going to call it right now. We are going to need at least have a part two to this conversation or at least a continued conversation because I'd love to get into a chat about relationships as well, you know, a husband, wife, the, the, those, those types of relationships and how we can maybe share some nuggets of wisdom to give some support there. Aaron: 48:19 Those are things that, that's the coaching I love to do is, you know, with relationships and influence. So I went to the jam on with you on that. I, I got to take a minute just to, just to honor you, I got so much respect and appreciation for the work you're doing. It is, it is needed. Um, there needs to be another 100 of you out there sharing this to men in this world. I mean it, I'll just say it from, you know, I'm not just blowing steam because your guest. I, I say that because I've came up, I've come up in a very masculine career. Um, I've seen some of the changes that have taken, taken place, good changes, but there, there's a lot more work to do and I'm glad that there are people like you leading the charge. So thank you so much and we're going to talk again soon. So everybody, if you're mad that Stef's leaving for now, don't worry, we'll have him back. I promise he doesn't know yet, but he's coming back on the show. Until next time everyone, we'll see you next time on Unbreakable Success. Thanks for joining us. Thanks again. Stef. I appreciate you my friend. Thank you. Alright, take care. Stef Sifanos: 49:17 Thank you so much. Resources from Unbreakable Success Podcast Episode 60: Stef Sifandos' website: StefSifandos.com Facebook: fb.com/StefanosSifandosAlchemist YouTube: Click Here Instagram: @StefanosSifandos LinkedIn: @StefanosSifandos Twitter: @StefSifandos The Most Comprehensive Mens Transformation Program: ReclaimYourKingdom.com

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Download this Episode Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 58 How to Live the Ultimate Bucket List Life with "The James Bond of Public Speaking" - Kenyon Salo. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein.  Discover how to live the ultimate bucket list lifestyle with the "James Bond" of the motivational public speaking world, our new friend Kenyon Salo. The Bucket List Life is built off the three core principles that have helped Kenyon design a fulfilling life of travel, adventures, meaningful interactions, and achieving his dreams. Kenyon Salo is one of the top trainers, facilitators and keynote speakers in the fields of adventure, leadership, team building, sales, customer service and inspiration/motivation. One of only five members on the Denver Broncos Thunderstorm Skydive Team, he is seen each week during game season flying into the Denver Broncos Stadium at 60+mph, ending with a soft tip-toe landing on the ten yard line. He brings to the stage over 20+ years of successful audience engagement through humor, awe-inspiring moments, prolific storytelling, and ‘edge-of-the seat' content. With over 6000 skydives under his belt and travels that have taken him all around the world, he's determined to live life to the fullest and help others do the same. Through his passions for adventure, storytelling, and connecting with people, he found a simple process to guide others on a path to what most of us crave – living a more fulfilled life. His goal through his engagements is to deliver a powerful and heart-touching message on the possibility of how amazing life can be through providing actionable steps that will help any audience, both personally and professionally, embark on a path to achieve anything they desire. Fast Facts: Kenyon is a Master Trainer and Speaker of more than 100k+ people Trainer for a National Social Media Campaign for Fortune 500 Company Featured on NFL Films, ESPN, NBC, CBS, ABC, FOX, MTV NFL Denver Broncos Thunderstorm Skydive Team Performed Stand-Up Comedy at Denver Comedy Works Travelled to 49/50 US States and 27+ Countries *Photographer, Adventure Video Creator 6000+ Skydives 450+ BASE Jumps 2 Amazing Kids Kenyon's truly a motivational force of nature with the elements of a James Bond character; carrying confidence, paying close attention to detail, dominating technology, dressing to kill and always striving to connect deeply. He stays cool under pressure while bringing his listeners through an immersive experience of what it means to live a Bucket List Life. James Bond is one of those heroes that most people can believe in, relate to and truly connect with – He's an ordinary person who uses his gadgets and creativity to do extraordinary things. Just like 007, Kenyon shares effective tools to empower attendees to walk away from the event feeling ready to take on the world. This is achieved while keeping the organizers in mind so that they can rest assured knowing that Kenyon will do everything in his power to make their lives as easy as possible, from the moment contact is initiated all the way through high-fiving after a successful event and beyond. I'm grateful to share this powerful conversation with Kenyon on this episode of the Unbreakable Success podcast. Full Transcript: Aaron: Everybody, welcome back to another episode of unbreakable success. I'm really stoked to have you here. A Kenyan Salo. Every once in a while you'll hear people that actually give themselves sort of a nickname and you are known as the, the James Bond of public speaking, which I love. And sometimes those things can go wrong. Like when you've self and I'm assuming that you, you came up with the theme or at least you and your team came up with the theme because sometimes it doesn't fit where you agree, but, uh, in your case, Kenyon, uh, the James Bond, public speaking, it's authentic. It kind of speaks to the kind of guy that you are, at least from what I've been able to get to know. Have you the adventurous spirit, the confidence, the having a job in wanting to get it done. And uh, you know, and doing it with some style and possess. And I've seen some of your keynotes, I've seen what you're about. And it's definitely been exciting too to get to know you and talk to you a little bit. And that definitely is great to have you on the show today. So for everybody that doesn't know you, tell me a little bit about, tell all of us a little bit about you and what you're up to these days please. Kenyon Salo: Well Aaron, thank you so much for having me on the show. It's such a pleasure and it's really great to connect and that's the one thing that I love about this industry and the potential to be able to do podcasts is it's not just about the podcast itself, it's about meeting the people that are behind the podcast. You, you're, you're living the podcast. You're, you're leading the podcast. And then of course all of your audience members, all of your listeners, I celebrate them and I thank all of you guys for being on. And you mentioned earlier about being the James Bond of speaking and and for me it was one of those things where I wanted something that would catch somebody's eye, but again, at the same time being very authentic to who I am, which is that balance that you talk about where it's like it's important that you, you list yourself as something that you can actually back up, follow up, that type of thing. Kenyon Salo: And so I did some studying on what James Bond is and who he is and, and the, the brand that he personifies. I said, okay, there's a lot of things that I fall into that place where it's like, you know, being onstage, well-dressed, being good with technology, having humor, but at the same time not being infallible, realizing that you can be bumbling, you can make mistakes at the same time and adventurous and succeed in that type of thing. So that was, that was really important to me and I love it and it's far better than a lot of times I see on linkedin where people are like so and so motivational speaker, like you're not going any further in terms of like who is this person? Right? But James Bond speaking, Hey, I'm going to check this out Aaron: for sure. A brilliant, brilliant from a business aspect. And, and even more importantly, I love it because like you said, it's authentic. Um, if I can share a little bit about, with the audience, about you and I and how we want them connecting. It's funny, a couple months ago, uh, I told you when we talked on the phone the other day, the first time I heard you was, was on another podcast called world speakers, I think, uh, from speaker match.com. And you were doing a training on, on speaking because you, you've been doing this in a relatively short window and you've made some amazing progress. I mean for listening, we're going to hook up the links to his website and things like that. Obviously in the show notes for this episode. But your website is stunning. It's what, it's one of the most stunning sites I've seen visually. Aaron: You have so much great content, a content, the people that you engage with, your audiences are just obviously like into it, like you have a great persona persona about you. Um, but what, what drew me to you was when you were given a training on speaker match, you were just giving so much great content to help people accomplish what it is they want to accomplish. Like it was so much authentic authenticity and it wasn't like you were trying to just spread a few bread crumbs so you can real somebody into a sales pitch or something like that. You were just really trying to help and it came through very authentically. And that theme kind of carried through when I see you, when I saw you on stage, uh, watching some of your keynote videos, as I told you, I was prepping for one of my keynotes I was doing last week. Aaron: And I always loved to watch people that I admire along the way. And I think it was watching Mel Robbins and Brendon Burchard or somebody. And then you're, you're a keynote came up and which was cool because I just heard you recently before that. And then funny enough, you and I are connected with, um, Nicole Jansen and I saw that you were all in her pockets and it was, it was sort of a trifecta of, you know, this Guy Kenyan popping up on the radar. And uh, I'm glad that from there we were able to connect and get you on the show today. I definitely would love to have you share with everybody what you call the bucket list life, which is sort of a, one of the overarching themes of what you do. And, and, uh, I'd also love to get to, um, you helping some people out with, with connection. Aaron: Because what I, what I noticed about you, and you can correct me if I'm wrong, that it's really, it seems to be really important to you that you connect with people authentically when you, when you're doing your speaking and when you're engaging in conversation. And that's something that is essential for not just speakers but entrepreneurs. People in their daily life. If they're on a nine to five people at home with their family. So I'd love to get some of your thoughts on that as we go along today. But, uh, first and foremost, how did this journey start for you? How did you roll into wind up being this public speaker and especially when it has made so much progress from a business standpoint really fast and really authentically? How'd that play out for you? Kenyon Salo: Well, it's been the one thing that has been throughout my whole life yet I wasn't paying attention to it completely. Yeah. So if I see where I'm at now, definitely we are all in amalgamation of our entire lives. This things that have happened to us, the successes, the failures, the highlights and the lowlights. All those things make us who we are. And for me the common theme that been running through yes, adventure and living that life where I want to experience the word, uh, the world. And that word experience is so very strong because it's deep and core of who I am. You want to experience it. I want to give people experiences. On the other side is the thing that I've been really good at is once I do experiences I want to teach others, I want to help others be able to do that same thing and whether it's back in the day when I was six years old jumping my bike off of a homemade ply wood ramp over a trashcan or then saying, hey, you can do this too, to my neighborhood friends, let me show you how to do it. Kenyon Salo: And then being able to transfer that so later in life saying, hey, this is what I found about mindset and being able to accomplish goals and when you talk about what I shared on the speaker match call and I appreciate you getting and being able to capture that moment where it's that giving freely because our team, our team decided at the beginning of this year that we would give as much as we could give to speakers, give to event planners, give to podcast, give to anybody we can because we realized when we help others first, everything we desire will come back tenfold. Yeah. So we decided to put that out there. So anything I can do to be able to help others, I just give that information knowing that it will all come back and that's how it is. So that's how I got from the very beginning knowing that I was a speaker trainer, somebody that wants to help and that I was going to tie it in with adventure and stories and things like that and be able to bring that to the stage or bring that to a podcast or a training along the way. Aaron: Nice. Nice. For those. Don't go know Kenyon has a. What do you over 6,000 skydive jumps now? Kenyon Salo: Yeah. 6,000 skydives about 400 base jumps. I love to wing suit fly too. So I know a lot of people have seen that on youtube, but it's basically like flying around over houses and trees and it's magical. Aaron: Yeah, it looks, it looks pretty amazing. It's, it's definitely A. Alright. I'm not going to push and say that's on my bucket list yet, but it is. It is out there. Sort of floating around and we'll see if I grab onto it or not. You're, you're still with the broncos. The Denver Broncos, the jump team, so you may see up. Yeah, go ahead. I'm sorry. Kenyon Salo: Schedule comes out every April and I've already got it. It's all on my calendar for the fall season and our preseason game started August and yeah, we get to skydive into every single home game that the Broncos have and that is so. Oh Man. 70,000 people scream landing on the field. Uh, it's, it's, it's, it's a pinnacle of my life. It's amazing. Aaron: Yeah. That's got to be a lot of fun. How long have you been, have you been with the team now? Kenyon Salo: Seven years. So really a 2011 is when it started for me and they started in 2009 and I, we're the only team that's associated with an NFL team that skydives always into every single game. Aaron: That's pretty amazing, man. That's got to be so much fun. Now, again, this is one of those things that, one of the reasons I was really hoping to get you on the shows because you have this discrete mixture of living life to the fullest and you certainly by most people standards, you take it to the extreme. You're jumping out of airplanes, flying wing suit, doing base jumps and real and it's authentically you. You're not trying to show off. You just, it's obvious that you love doing this. It to the point where you even, you even bring them on guests, do some keynotes. Sometimes you bring a, you do that every keynote where you have somebody with a thing under the receipt to have them join you on a jump. Kenyon Salo: Only if it naturally comes up in that moment. That's what it's supposed to be. So sometimes it's just, I say it, sometimes I do it, it just depends. So I've had about a half a dozen people from events decide to come to Colorado or do a skype with me, which it's magical to be able to help them check that off. Aaron: Yeah, that's pretty cool. So will tell us this because uh, like I touched on earlier, one of the themes of your, of what you do when you're speaking is this thing that you call the bucket list life. Tell us what that's about and how it sort of evolved and became a thing for you. Kenyon Salo: Yeah. The bucket list life is really what I've been living, but I didn't know it. And then once I started to dig into it and unpack it, it's what I realized that most people are doing anyways. Or the other side of it is if someone feels stuck and they're not doing one of these three things or they're not doing the three things in a continuum and there's no particular order that you have to do them in. But the way that I, I put them out there is irst create more experiences. Second, share more stories and third, live more fulfilled by helping others. When we do those three things, again, not in any particular order, but when we're consistently doing those three things, we feel the most APP happy. We feel the most alive. We feel like we're doing or being what we're supposed to be on the planet and that's, that's the brilliance in and around it. So yeah, I would love to share those three concepts with you. Oh Aaron: yeah, yeah. Let's, let's talk to him as far as I love to make this relevant for, for you all that are listening right now. I'd love to make this relevant if we start with create more experiences because look, it's 2018. Everybody's hyper. Uh, I want to say hyper busy, but really most people are hyper distracted whether they're building a business or they're, they're running the kids to and from school when they got to get to work and then they got to get to or they got to get to work and work on the side business on top of that. So there's all these things that get us caught up. So, you know, you bring up this point of creating more experiences and a lot of people will immediately push back and say, well, you know, I don't have time to create more experiences. How can I build that into my everyday life? What is your answer the damn, because I think we can. We can sort of try to simplify what it means to create more experiences, but what does that mean to you when you share it with, because obviously you're sharing these speech, the speech with ceos and executives and salespeople. I'm corporate functions so you're not speaking to other adventurous all the time when you're sharing this, so how do you connect it and make it relevant to the people that you're speaking to, including our audience today? Kenyon Salo: Well, absolutely. I believe that every one of us has a desire to create more experiences. Now creating more experiences is about self. It's about what I want to do, what do I want to see, what do I want to experience? Which is totally cool because we have to fill up our own cup, know in order to give to others, so when we want to create experiences, if we think back to times at any time we created a new experience, whether it's a new movie that we saw, we tried a new restaurant or we said, hey, let's try river rafting or jumping out of a plane. It doesn't matter what the experience is, it is, it doesn't have to be, uh, an extreme experience. It just has to be something new and that something new like say, Hey, I want to learn a new language before I traveled to Spain. Kenyon Salo: And so you, you're, you, you learned Spanish and you say, okay, that's great. The thing is, new experiences challenged us. New experiences help us grow. They make us feel alive. Why? Well, there are a little scary. And that's when you say, Hey, we're hyper busy. Well that's really a hyper excuse. It's like, oh, I don't have time to do that open. I'm going to binge watch this on Netflix. Like you could have said yes to that experience and gone and done it. You are looking for irs at you that just people that are saying no to stuff because their fears come up for them. Aaron: Sure, sure. Yeah. That's a, that's a, that is so true. And it's one of the things that, you know, and I brought that point up about being so busy because it's one of the common excuses I get when I'm coaching or if I'm speaking with people and you know, we're bringing up the concept of, of just living more and living authentically and immediately the excuses come up about time. But, uh, I think it was, I'm sure more than one person said this, but we all have, we all make time. We all have time for what were the things we must do. So when it becomes a Muslim becomes a priority for you and I, that we want to create these new experiences we'll make, we'll make room for it. We're fine, move room for it and we'll push the things that are nice to do but not necessarily mandatory to do out in a way. Um, so don't jump into a what's next on the list and what does it look like? Kenyon Salo: Well, I'll add one more thing to the experience because it's sort of thing that you just talked about, which is why we're not doing it. I think that's a key because a lot of people think, well, I want to but I'm not and it's really the thing that we unpack is why are people not doing it? And again, one of the things that you talked about and I talk to audiences all across the country and it's the same four things every single time that keep people from doing a new experience, time, location, finances. You're like, oh, I don't have the money or I have to stay here because of my kids or you know, it's, it's odd, just busy. I got all this stuff and then of course fear, but really what is fear? And that's the environment, the environment that you live in, your friends, your family, your coworkers, the, the where you live is saying, hey, don't go do that new thing. Kenyon Salo: Like don't get into that relationship. You'll break your heart or don't start that new business. You'll lose a lot of money or don't go skydiving. You definitely going to die. Those are the things that come up, like your environment telling you that and sometimes your environment is the environment that's between your two ears. It's your brain that's saying, no, you're going to fail, it's not going to be great, et Cetera, et Cetera, and your environment keeps you from those things. So I push my environment way and I say I am going to do this and it will be what it is. It might turn out amazing. It might not succeed the way I thought, but in the end I always get an experience of a out of it and that experience is always learning and it always helps me become better at what I'm doing. So that isn't a nutshell of what create more experiences is all about. Aaron: Sure. I love it man. And I'm curious. I'd love to get your perspective on this because because doing what you do, um, when you started really pushing your, your speaking career as, as like your thing, like your jam, when you started a really pushing on it years ago, did you have, did you find it easier or did you find it harder based on who you were around at the time and how do, how do you, how do you balance that as far as having people in your circle that are, you know, are going to push you to do the things that are, that are on your own personal bucket list and you know, to do more speaking. How does that look for you? Because we've all got our own thing. I've certainly found that as I started building this platform and this podcast and doing the book I just wrote, if I didn't have certain people around me, including my family, but even outside of my family, if I didn't have the right people in place, it would be a lot, a heck of a lot harder to do this stuff because like you said, your environment really going to create what you consider acceptable. Aaron: Right. You know, we are the five people we spend most time with, so to speak, as Jim Rome said, so how did that look? How does that look for you when it comes to making sure that you've got the right people around you and you've got the support you need to keep, keep grinding out the work that you do? Kenyon Salo: Yeah. You know, public speaking and setting on stage and being in front of a group is one of the number one fears that people have. Sure. And so when you take that number one fear of being on stage, and I was actually talking to one of my coaching clients about this because she was saying that she freezes up before your the announcer name and she freezes up and inside and she's about to go on stage. And what we unpacked was what happened on stage when people walk onto stage and they have to give some sort of presentation and they have that feeling of they want maybe they want to be sick or they freeze up or they have all these fears. Well it comes from the fear of wanting to be perfect or the fear of judgment or on top of that, that the fears of in and around of like will I remember what I'm supposed to say. Kenyon Salo: And what we realized that in that process is that it's those things first and foremost are coming from within our head. And those are the things that keep us from doing what we want to do. And ultimately when we step onto stage in any capacity. And what I mean is you can stay. You can use this stage as just kind of a. it's that thing, a metaphor for life where you're stepping onto the stage in life like I'm going to go step on a stage with this new thing. You need a group of people that are supporting you. First and foremost, need yourself to support you because if you believe you're not worthy of that next step and that again, that's a lot for like, why am I on stage? Why is my message more important than somebody else's? How is my message valuable to the stage and to the audience than than this other person? Kenyon Salo: Well, first and foremost, every person has an inspirational story. Every person in the audience that I'm in front of, they have an inspirational story that can be turned into a two hour movie that somebody would watch the academy award winning. That has inspiration there. So as we align ourselves with really good people in our life, yes, some people are going to fall off that person that used to be there is not going to be there. It's okay. It's okay to me, that doesn't mean that you love them less. It doesn't mean that you like them less, it just means your. We're resonating on a different level and you're moving to a different level. So what I moved into speaking there was a lot of support and I would say the biggest challenges came from within my own head. That was the toughest. Once I moved through that shirt. Yeah. My friends joke about it. I've got this thing with the ladder. They're like, have you stood on any ladders lately? And I'm like, actually I did. And it was amazing and I impacted an audience that on top of it I got paid. So it's interesting how it's still there, like your environment. We'll still poke at you when you're successful. Aaron: Yeah, yeah. That stuff doesn't go away. The fruit can, you know, I'll let you explain to the ladder how you incorporate that with your keynotes. Kenyon Salo: Well, it's part of the experience is part that I talked about and I bring out a ladder and heights. It's one of the two things we're born with in terms of fears, born with fear of loud noises and we're born with fear of heights. Everything else is learned. Every other fear we have is learned. We saw, we heard someone told us so where we experienced and then now we have a fear and it around it, so ladder is that metaphor and I climb up the ladder and eventually I stand on the very top step, you know that step where they're like, do not stand on or above misstep could cause serious bodily injury or death. What I do that and it. It invokes a feeling within the audience as if they were on that step and they their palms sweat and they get nervous and they get uncomfortable, which is what I want, so I use that as a really good tool to unpack that exact feeling. Aaron: Whose idea was it to do just as you were you? Were you just one day wake up and say, dude, I'm want to get a ladder to stand on it during my next keynote? Or was it something that you just incorporated before you even started doing this? Kenyon Salo: Well, I think the keynote that you saw had a stepstool in it. That was the one I saw. It was just a story, one of my earlier ones, and I remember the steps was only two and a half feet tall and I remember practicing onstage backstage. I was like, I hope I don't fall off this step stool. Right? That was my thought process, but it was a spur of the moment and then a month later I was at another event and I was walking through the hallways of the convention center and I saw this ladder and I said, oh, it was an eight foot ladder, and I said, that's perfect. That's the next step. No Pun intended for me to take in this presentation and that I just. I brought it in. I used it, it, it. It brought up so much for the audience and there was actually, I was standing on the top step and this one woman yells out. Kenyon Salo: She says, please get down from that. You're making us all feel uncomfortable. Now here's the key thing. The key thing is I started thinking in my own head, maybe I should take this out of my presentation. I don't want the audience to feel uncomfortable. I am a loving and compassionate human being. Oh No, what have I done? And then I realized and I unpacked it in the moment and I said, you are now my environment and your environment saying get down from that step you're making me feel uncomfortable is the exact reason why I have to be on that step to show you that the environment almost caused me to not do something in life. And they got it at that point. That's when it, it, it just drove it home. Aaron: Yeah. That is brilliant. So. So let me get this straight. So you hadn't even practiced this for the first time you decided to do the eight foot ladder because letters big I saw. I think you hit on one of your photos on your site. It's, I mean he's a ladder that is totally the most humans will pretty much pretty much every human that I know. When you're standing up to eight foot tall ladder. So you were, it was before speech you saw in the hallway and you just decided, I'm just going to stay on the top of it. Yes. Kenyon Salo: Yeah, exactly. That was in that moment, which again, here's the thing, all I said was yes, the idea popped in my head and I said yes to the idea and then I let the how figure itself out. Right. I didn't know how it was going to be setting it up. I didn't know how it was going to be, you know, making that move to the top step. I didn't know how the audience was going to respond. I just said this feels like something I should do. Yes, it's scary, but I'm going to do it and make it happen. And I've gotten as high as 12 foot ladders in the big convention centers with the huge stages. When the stage is three feet tall and you got a 12 foot ladder and I'm nearly six feet, you will let me be very clear. Five nine. So I'm not nearly six feet so. But, but, but again with that in mind, you start to get up to that top. My eyes are at 20 feet. That's a big deal. That is a big deal and it's a great place to make a lot of jokes. Sure. It, it is challenging every time, um, but again, it drives the point home for the audiences and you know, what, no other speakers doing that. So I have that uniqueness. Aaron: You're safe, man. I love doing keynotes, but you're pretty much safe as far as that particular property owners. I'm not stealing their still something else from you, but it's not going to be the latter trick I promise. So we're talking about a bucket list life where we were all inexperienced or excuse and creating experiences. I love the concept and it's so important for so many reasons which, which we all touched on, but what's the, what is the next tier on that? Kenyon Salo: Creating those experiences is the biggest part. And then it moves into sharing more stories, which is exactly what we're doing here. You see, we're more connected in life than ever, but we're also more disconnected than ever. Social media has really made us disconnected. Social media has made us, uh, where we see everything. We have a lot of Fomo or we're not hearing real stories or like, oh, I'm fully caught up with that person. I don't need to actually see them in person. I really believe that as we share stories and look, even social media is doing its very best to have that continue like instagram and the whole stories feature is amazing because it allows us to start to really deeply connect and when you get face to face with someone or at least pick up the phone and you have a conversation or even the ability through skype or facetime and you share those stories, you feel connected. Kenyon Salo: It's an energy exchange. It's like when you sit next to somebody on an airplane and you say, hi, how are you? And then you go into conversation. Next thing you know, three hours goes by and you're still talking to that person. Pretty cool. You know them better than most people because you decided to have a deep conversation with them and I feel because of this energy exchange and the positivity around it, it's really so powerful. It makes us feel like great things have happened and are on top of it. Stories come from that, from the campfire days, from the, from way back in caveman days, and that's what they drew stories on the walls. They told stories over campfire. Eventually we told stories while you know, and we still do it, breaking bread and having meals together and those environments are also where wisdom is passed down or we share like let share something I know that may help you. And that's the power of stories. So stories is a key way to connect. And the stories, as I mentioned, a self is creating more experiences. Stories is about friends and family, creating friends and family relationships. Aaron: Yeah. Um, can you ask such a brilliant point because I mean even if we look at, you mentioned social media these days and for, for anybody that store to it starts a business or even thinking about starting a business, one of the, one of the components of what they feel obligated to have to do is get on social media. You've got to be on facebook, on twitter, and even snapchat. Some people are starting to squeeze into it from a business front and instagram like you mentioned, but really if we pay attention to it just from. If we look at who's really doing well using these tools in their business, it's usually the ones that are engaging in just storytelling beyond, you know, putting up a motivational quote or and things like that, which I do myself and a lot of people connect with that. But really the most engagement happens is when you decide to have the video of. Aaron: You look at a guy like a Gary Vaynerchuk from vayner media. He's. He's always cursing and he's real boisterous and stuff, but if you think about it, the reason people are willing to connect with him, even if it's someone who's not crazy about the language he uses or they think he's too loud, people will watch and connect and listen because he tends to. He allows people in two story like, oh, he'll film a whole interview that he's having with somebody that's engaged with him and his audience and they'll create a whole story about it. If there's a natural attraction to wanting to play out those things or think about, you brought a movies earlier and we love engaging in completely fictional story. My daughter, my daughter went to see, uh, the avengers movie Friday night, uh, with some friends and she came home, said she was crying. She's not even a big avengers fan, but she was crying because she was engaged with the storyline. Aaron: And, and uh, I, I love that you bring that up as, as part of what we should be doing in our lives as, as like a permanent fixture sharing those stories. Uh, it's, it's extremely powerful on so many fronts because it does create a connection. It definitely creates a business connection for those that are, that like to listen to the show, to, to learn something, to help them engage in their business better. And certainly in our personal lives when we're willing, like you said, to share that conversation, even with somebody that's a total stranger on an airplane, a makes a huge, a huge difference. Was there, I got to ask this, was there a certain point when, or was there like a pivotal moment where you realize that storytelling or sharing stories with something that you really need to include as a pillar of what you teach from the stage? Uh, was there a moment that that happened? Or was it, or was it sort of a looking over your shoulder and seeing a collective, a pattern of things that had gone on in your life that made you realize how important that was? Kenyon Salo: I would say both. Aaron: I think what it comes down to is the fact that if you go to a coffee shop and you sit there and listen to the people that are connecting in a coffee shop, you will hear the different stories that they're sharing with their friend or their family member or even somebody if it's a business meeting. Stories are super, super key and it is that bond between two people. And then I definitely love the storyline of movies and to see this and the underdog and even Joseph Campbell talks about the hero's journey and that and how amazing that story line is of what makes that successful and to see how powerful stories are. What I realized is that audiences engage with stories. If you're being authentic and you're speaking from the heart and you can tell stories, and I was connecting with actually somebody is out to lunch yesterday with two individuals and we're having a great lunch and she asked how do you know what stories to tell an audience? Aaron: And I said, first and foremost, it comes down to just being authentic in your storytelling and, and when you're authentic with your storytelling, then that's where it's super, super powerful. And on top of that it's like. It just depends on the moment. Sometimes the story needs to be super visual and exciting. Like I was in South Africa and a wild boar was chasing me and this didn't happen. But I was. And again, this is, this is the storyline and you're building that storyline and that Bubba and something super funny happened, or the storyline is that a more dramatic or more impactful. And again, if we think about the stories we're telling others and the stories we're telling ourselves, yeah, I often say to audiences, are the stories adventurous? Are they like a romantic comedy? Are they like a drama? Hopefully it's not like a horror movie. Right? What movie line is it? Is it a love story? What is the story you're sharing? And that's really how the audiences connect. And so I realized when I tell stories, the audience connects with me, they feel like I know him and if it's a story that's relatable to them, they think it's like he knows me. Yes. One of the coolest compliments to get after the speech. Kenyon Salo: Yeah. I'm sure you've heard a million times. Yes. I love it every time. It's amazing. Aaron: Yeah, it was pretty good. It's pretty great. It's pretty great experience to hear that. It's definitely in it. It's, it's proof itself, you know, to have somebody who was otherwise a total stranger come up to you and tell you how impactful it was when you told that story. So a, trust me, everyone, uh, take it from Kenya and he is a man who knows a live their lives include that storytelling into a regular part of your life. So what's, what is the, uh, let's get to this third of the bucket list life we went from creating experiences and sharing more stories. What's the third leg that we have? Kenyon Salo: The third leg is living more fulfilled. It's the one thing and the main reason we're on this planet. We want to feel like we've lived a fulfilled life. And how does that happen? It happens by helping others. And you know, we had gone into a nursing home, a retirement home, a individuals 86 and above. So we had 86 to 96 years old. There were 10 of them in this house and we interviewed each of them and we ask them four questions. And the first question was, what is something you did when you were younger? And then what is something you're most proud of? And then the third was, what is something you wish you had done? And the fourth was, what is some advice you'd like to give to anybody younger than you? Now going into it, I thought that number three was going to be the powerful one. Kenyon Salo: What is something you wish you had done? But that was different for each person. It was kind of across the board and powerful stuff, but it wasn't the common theme. Number two was the big one, which was what is something you're most proud of? And what it came down to was that every single person said the thing that they were most proud of in their life was not, oh, I saw this, I experienced this. I, I, you know, fell in love with this person, etc. Instead, it was when I gave back, whether it was when they volunteered, their time, their money, they shared something, they opened their house to somebody else. When they gave back, hey, remember that tIme, at the end of their years as the most important thing. And it was the same for every individual. So I started looking into this and I realized that the power is that when we help others first, and I said this earlier, that everything comes back tenfold, but it also is a physical thing that happens in the chemistry of our body, that the oxytocin is released, that cardio protective hormone is sent through our body, through the bloodstream, goes through the bloodstream, goes to the heart, makes you feel great and actually makes you feel healthy and more and you become more healthy because of this and that not only what you do something great for somebody or when you have somethIng that is done for you or if you watch or see something great being done for another individual. Kenyon Salo: All three people feel the same way and have the same chemistry reaction. That's amazing to me. Aaron: It is. It is. It really is. You have the power of giving is, is, is powerful. As you said, it doesn't even have to be you. I mean it goes back to having it right. Five people in your circle, man, you want to be around people that are, that have the same mindset and want to give and they want to contribute through their service or through a volunteer charitable thing that they're involved in whatever it is, because even having people around you that do that, um, you can reap the benefits of it even if it's in a moment that you're not actually engaged with it yourself. I was, when I, I mentioned early, I finished a book recently and one of those studies I talk about in here, I think it was at stanford and they did this study of coincidentally enough, a study of some elderly people and there was two groups. Aaron: One group was volunteers. They are volunteering, volunteering their time and these charitable causes and the other group was not. They just know they're living their lives and enjoying themselves. Long story short, a five year extended lifespan amongst the group that we're givers compared to the non givers was the result of this study. People were actually, they were actually living longer or as the study said, less likely to reach mortality. A, and this is over course of years because they're engaged in giving, so your, your, your point to your point, man, it's at some research backed facts that you're talking about. There's the power of giving is, it's pretty amazing. Kenyon Salo: It is, and you come from that place. You are authentic. I mean as I sit here on skype and I see and I see this background and for the listeners he's got this amazing, this huge canvas of him and his wife and his child and you could see that that that says love across it. Like in big red letters it says l o v e, and that's not just from the family side. My guess is that because you feel out that that word empathy, compassion, love, and that you're willing to put it on a big blown up canvas on your wall. You're, my guess is you live that way. True. Aaron: It is. It is one of my core values, man. It definitely is. I, it is. I couldn't read. I couldn't not have it back there. It's funny because I thought about you don't have something more cool or no, nope. nope. That's the coolest thing you could have. the phasing was my 12 year old sophia and it's of course my wife kathy and a photo and I do. I love it. That was a, a happiest place on earth, man. It was disney dreams coming true. That's right. That's right. Uh, well listen man, I, I love it. Uh, just talk about giving. I gotta ask you this. What is the feedback that you get when you touch on these? Because these are the three main components. I'm sure he talked about many things in the long line of keynotes that you do, but these are the three main components of your presentation. Majority of the time. Is that true? Kenyon Salo: So actually What's brilliant and maybe a little bit of luck that I stumbled upon it this way, the key, the key note was designed with these three things in mind as an inspiration, motivation, keynote. And then someone said, hey, can you do the same keynote and structure it towards customer service? And I was like, I can. And I realized that customer service, it's about experiences. It's about sharing stories with your customers and it's about helping customers first and then I realized I could do it for leadership, I can do it for sales, I can do it for team building, and we started looking into this and even recently someone challenged me. They said, look, there's a high suicide rate in my town, and they said, would your message work? And I said, look, I want to be very clear. I am not a suicide expert yet. Kenyon Salo: At the same time, the people that are happiest are doing these three things. So what I realized, I said, look, I could be an addition to a type of presentation like that where I could explain how when we're creating experiences, we feel alive. We feel fired up when we're sharing stories, we feel connected. We have relationships with. When we're helping others, we feel more fulfilled and it's about community and when those three things are there, generally people start to see the light instead of the dark. And so it's amazing how much this presentation transcends across all forms, audiences, ages and demographics. Aaron: Yeah, I love him, man. And that's one of the things I love about this, it is, so I love things that just work, but they don't just work in this corner of the world or in this particular situation. I love things that just work, which probably one of the biggest struggles I've had in business as a coach and as you know, when I, years ago when I started building this platform is what do I want to, you know, everybody was like, find your niche, you've got to niche it down and you've got to get just your little specialty and you can't talk about anything else because you got to get known as the expert in this thing. That was one of my biggest struggles because I'm a bit of a pragmatist. I mean, are you okay? I've been, I've been a police officer since 1995. I spent two decades just, you know, just the facts ma'am, so to speak. Aaron: So I really, at my core, you know, even though I don't carry that identity around, which is kind of makes me the, you know, this, the things I do these days isn't exactly what everybody else in my industry is doing. So I Am. I've always been a bit of a, an outsider when it comes to that. But I am a bit of a pragmatist and then I like things that just make sense. Don't tell me it makes sense now, but it won't 10 minutes from here, it won't make sense if I drive around the corner for one, it won't make sense if I'm a salesman or won't make sense if I'm a ceo or leading a fortune 500 corporation. And I love this about what you do because these things, they are applicable regardless of where you are. And, and I think that speaks to authenticity because when you're really, when you're sharing a method, a message that's real and authentic, it's going to be real no matter who hears it. Aaron: Assuming they're willing to listen. And I appreciate that about you and what it is you're doing and what you've, what you've built a quickly over these years. Um, I'd love to ask you this when it comes to obviously your got it knows communication very well and you've gotten a ton of feedback. I'm traveling all over the country and all over the world doing theSe key notes. If you had to give someone who is there working on their brand, whether that brand is in their nine to five and they're hoping to get promoted and move up the career ladder or whether that brand is there, a personal fitness trainer and a nutritionist, a nutritionist, and they just want to be able to connect with their people on a stronger, on, make stronger connections as they meet new potential clients and as they're serving their current clients. What are some of the things that you've learned about connectIng sincerely connecting with people that you can share with the people listening that they can get some tangible value out of it that you've seen consistently working for you? Kenyon Salo: I would say think of a time in your life where you met someone and within 10 minutes you feel as if they're a brother from another mother, a sister from another mister. It's like, how have we not known each other like you are on believable. We're best friends now. Like add me on facebook. This is it I. And then you and then you realize that your lifelong friends. Yeah. My guess is the reason that happened is because both of you, not just one, but both of you were being authentic. You were being your true self. You didn't have walls up, you didn't have this idea of being perfect. You didn't have this, these, these preconceived notions that you have to act or be a certain way to fit into what you believed your environment is. You just said, this is who I am and if you think of a will, smith and the pursuit of happiness where he shows up in the meeting and he's wearing the paint tattered clothes. Kenyon Salo: You know, and in that moment you realized he was authentically him and he got the job. So what does that say? You show up being you, and if they don't connect with you, they're not the people you need to be around because you need to be you and that's how you find your people and so what happens is you're in your environment and let's say you want to make a step up in your environment. Again, you authentically be you. Maybe some of those people come with you, maybe they don't, but you also fInd this next level of people and it's. There's a lot of power in that, so yeah, authenticity is the number one game and the one more thing I'll add is specially for speakers or if you're onstage, you must be speaking from a place of who you are when you're offstage. it's not about who you show up and how you show up on stage. It's how you show up offstage and when those two are mirror images of each other, people will connect with you because they say he lives what he speaks. Aaron: Yeah, man, I could not have. If you gave me a week, I couldn't have said that better myself. Honestly, because it is so true. I've seen it happen over and over again, unfortunately I've seen it play out the other way when people don't, when they try to put on a, you know, a false persona or try to act a certain way and they get robotic about it and I get it, you know, a lot of times when it's new for people they're not used to being, they're not used to speaking or they're not used to having a sales conversation or they're not used to getting on stage or on a podcast or doing a show it can feel uncomfortable. So I'm not speaking to that when it feels awkward just because it's, you know, riding a bike for the first time, but, but when the intention is to just look, I'm just, I'm just going to be me and just have this conversation and offer what I have to share. Aaron: And like you said, be the same guy or the same gal onstage and offstage. People noticed that and not only do they notice it, they appreciate it and it makes you stand out. it really does. When we started this conversation today, one of the things I told about you is, you know, I, I love the fact that you're actually, you're actually this dude that can put James Bond and the title of his thing and it's not bs, it's like it's, it's real, it's, it's the kind of life you live in it and it and it's what you're about and it fits. It's not like you're trying to put on this thing on or off and you know, I've been lucky enough to talk with you on the phone and here on this interview and I see you on stage and I can tell everyone listening. It's the same guy. I mean it's, it's, it's, you can hear it in the voice. You can see in the presentation the body language. It's the same dude every single time regardless of where you see a kenyan say though, and you know, I'm grateful for it. I'm grateful to know somebody as another person like that because it speaks highly of you. Kenyon Salo: Thank you. thank you. I appreciate it. This has been super fun. Aaron: Yeah, definitely. Well listen, I want to, I want to ask you this, um, before we wind it up today, I got to use this. There's got to be something I'm curious to know from a guy that is the James Bond of public speaking and enhance this, this amazing mission of, of helping people live their life to the fullest and create these experiences, tell more stories and, and, and be more giving in their own life. What do you, what's the next evolution evolution for you? I mean, you got a lot crossed off the list. What is your, what is your list look like now that has yet to be completed? I think people would love to hear that. Kenyon Salo: The next evolution that is starting to show up for me is this transfer of experiences and teaching of knowledge and helping really into my kids and my kids are 12 and 14 now and I start to think of the, you know, like hey, they're about to learn how to scuba dive later in the fall and they have all these experiences and traveling in international travel and they've done that. But also some of the crazy international travel where it's like, hey, let's just go there and we have no plans. We'll just go let we feel like going left or we'll go right if we feel like going right and a lot of the experiences I've had in my life and being able to share that with them and additionally sharing the knowledge that I've gained through speaking the speaking industry, teaching others personal development and then passing that on to others. Kenyon Salo: So that's from the business standpoint where that start to, that starting to show up now where I want to pass on that knowledge and be able to give that and create systems and models that will help others along the way. So when people reach out, they say, how do I become a better speaker? How do I grow my business? that's great. Or how do I get unstuck from this particular point in my life? I want to help others along the way. So I, I celebrate and anybody that's listening right now, if you want to reach out to me, I mean find me on facebook. Kenyan say low and connect with me. I want to help others so when people reach out and help them in some way, and that's how you and I connected you reached out and I was like, boom, here we are and we're impacting your audience members to. Aaron: I love it, man. Nothing better than creating new experiences with your kids and, and creating new stories until traveling the world. And I love. I love to hear that. You know, you're getting involved in sharing more and wanting to coach other people and help them do more of what it is they want to do in their own, their own business, their life, their speaking career, whatever it is that, that is a, that's a pretty awesome thing. Definitely an awesome thing. So what I'd love to do is, is tell people what's the, what's the easiest way, the best way to get ahold of you? So many like, you know, I need to talk to this guy some more and maybe want to take him up on some, on a coaching offer and do more of what it is he teaches people to do. How can they connect with you? What's the best way to get to you Kenyon Salo: at either facebook or linkedin? And I'm an easy guy to find a kenyan sailor. There's only two of us that I know. It's higher world and I'm the only one that, that you know, that you'll see it on, on social media. So just you can google my name. Kenyan, say low. Uh, you can find me on facebook. The link will be right there on the, on the front page of google. So connect with me there. Send me a message and uh, we'll just open it up. And, and really as I mentioned before, all you have to do is say yes and figure out the how. So I don't know how I'm going to help an individual or that person might not know how that I can help them. but if you're like, hey, something resonates with me here. If you feel that it resonates, reach out. We'll go from there and we'll see what it is. Aaron: Beautiful man. I appreciate it. And to everybody listening, I really need to spell out how important this message is that kenny hands today. Because if honestly, if, if I were going to try to encapsulate what's the best business advice and connection and vice exactly what he's talking about, which is which is being authentic, one of the worst mistakes you can make is to be inauthentic about who you are. Don't apologize. Whatever your personalities, your what your values are, as long as you're living what's important to you. When you're sharing your message and you're and you're growing your business or you're trying to grow within your organization or your or your being who you are, even with your family relationships, you've got to be authentic and be willing to connect with people from, from your gut, from the person you really are. So thank you caitlin, for sharing your stories. I know about you. Have everybody listening. If you go to aaron, keith hawkins.com, type in the word a type in kenyan into the search bar. It's on the top of the screen. K e n y o n I'm one of the coolest names, if not the coolest name I've ever heard it. Where's it from kenyon? Kenyon Salo: My dad's name was ken. Rick. They wanted something similar, but at junior, so it was a baby book, you know, it's, it's so simple. It's just the baby book name. But uh, yeah, it's, it's awesome. It works well. Aaron: Yeah, definitely, definitely an advantage with that name. But yeah, typing Kenyon into a search bar, you get the link to this episode and I'll make sure I have every link I can find to make sure you can hook up with him, um, or just go to KenyonSalo.com and find him there. Please make sure you thank them for spending this time with us today. Kenyon. Before we run, I just got to say thank you for being one of those, one of those guys that I'm happy, one of the people that I'm happy to have in my circle of influence in this network. I love what you're doing. I really do, because if more people will take the lessons that you're teaching and actually adopt them and implement them, man, the world's a better place. So keep crushing it. Keep doing what you're doing and I can't wait to talk to you again soon. We'll definitely keep in touch, my friend. Thanks Aaron. Appreciate it. All right, buddy. We'll talk soon. Resources from Unbreakable Success Podcast Episode 58: Kenyon Salo's website: KenyonSalo.com Facebook: fb.com/KenyonSalo YouTube: Click Here Instagram: @KenyonSalo LinkedIn: @KenyonSalo Twitter: @KenyonSalo Need a Public Speaking Coach?: Click Here

Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 57 Aaron Keith Hawkins | How to Feel More Appreciated. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein.  Full Transcript: Aaron: 00:00 Hey, it's Aaron Keith Hawkins and welcome back to another episode of Unbreakable Success. Thank you for being here today. We're going to cut to the chase. I want to answer a a very what I know for many people can be a very powerful question, very serious question, which is how can we actually feel more appreciated. We're all, obviously we're all worthy of being appreciated. We're all working hard. We're all taking care of our kids. We're all trying to be loving in our relationships. There's so many things that we're doing. Working on our mindset. If you're listening or watching this show, you are trying to do the right things. You're making progress. But what do we do when we just don't feel appreciated enough from the people in our lives, the people that we interact with, a work group, sometimes the people we live with? The truth is this. Aaron: 00:49 You know, I, I know the, that for many people in my experience, coaching and mentoring and working with a lot of people over the years. I get and I understand that the initial instinct is to try to figure out how can we make someone appreciate us more and the very harsh like rip the bandaid off answer is you can't. We can't make someone appreciate us. I can't make you appreciate me and you can't make me appreciate you, but the good news is that there are things and we're going to talk about three specific things today. There are things that we can do that are far more likely to influence others to appreciate us and for far more likely for us to just feel more appreciated. Number one is you have to protect your schedule and I said, protect your schedule, not fill it because what normally happens for people if they do pay attention to their calendar and the things they have to do, most of the time we wind up filling up that schedule, filling up our calendar, which is things to do. Aaron: 01:58 Some of those things are extremely important. Some of those things, not so much, but when I say protect your schedule, here's what I mean, and this is very simple. What are the five most? One of the five things in your life that you value the most, if you were to write them down, what are the top five things that are that are most important, most valuable to you, and everybody's going to have slightly different answers for someone immediately be their children or their spouse or their partner or their career, their business, their fitness, their health, their personal growth, spiritual growth. Whatever those answers are for you. Write them down and once you have that list and if you're a, it's okay if you don't have a pen or pad right now, just just think of them and then ask yourself honestly, are each of those things scheduled into your calendar every week? Are they in your calendar or they booked whenever your answers were? Did you block out unconditional time to engage in those things that are most valuable to you? Aaron: 03:12 And most of the time when I asked this of people one on one, they'll have that list and they'll say, well, you know, I do spend time, you know, addressing this thing or that thing or with my kids and I have some time here there. But the question is, do you have blocked out unconditional, nonnegotiable time for those things? And if the answer is no, then that's something that you can fix. But here's because here's what I can promise you. When someone is not intentionally making time, scheduling time for the things that are most valuable to them. If someone doesn't appreciate themselves enough to actually make sure that they are unconditionally engaging in things that are most important to them, then how can I expect someone else to appreciate them if I don't make time for the things? If I want to appreciate myself enough to make sure that I'm taking care of the things that...

Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 56 Michael O'Brien - There are no more "bad days" once you Shift. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein.  SHIFT. Creating better tomorrows: Winning at work and in life. That's the tagline mindset behind Michael O'Brien's transformational book and his work. No matter how successful you currently feel, or how much it seems like you're struggling, I can promise that after listening to Michael, his story, and message, you're going to have a powerful new perspective on your limitless possiblities moving forward.   You'll quickly realize that regardless of circumstances, you have every reason and opportunity to create your own 'better tomorrow'.   Michael is one of those authentic people who triggers you to want to achieve more, and appreciate what you already have.   Enjoy and share, and make sure you're subscribed to Unbreakable Success (search "Unbreakable Success" on iTunes) so you'll automatically get the next one.   With love & respect - Aaron Transcript: Aaron: 00:00 All right everybody, welcome back to another episode of the unbreakable success. This is the first time we're doing an episode and public. Um, I'm here with Michael Brian, author of shifts creating better tomorrows, winning at work and life. And, uh, Mike, first of all, thanks for joining me for Nice disbursed out in the wild. That episode is going to be something new for both of us. I'm glad we're here. We both happen to be Jersey guys, so thanks for joining me. For everybody that doesn't know you, as I'm holding up the book here for everybody to see that are watching on video, you go grab a copy of shift at Amazon or your favorite bookstore. Mike, tell us a little bit about your deal and then what's your, what's your up to today? And we'll get into backstory a little bit, but, uh, what's your jam today besides being an author? Michael O'Brien: 00:47 Well, so my jam today, it's what I like to tell people is that I help sales and marketing pros avoid their suv, right? So a lot of people are like, what does he mean by that? Numbers don't make sense to tell people, but like in all seriousness, I, I help sales and marketing professionals slay the doubt and the worry that inner critic stuff in their mind so they can have complete success. Right. So which we've talked about like as we're having some lunch. Yeah, like having all the external markers of success, the house, the job title and the success you had the success inside the film at that joy, that happiness. So now I'm an executive coach and I do just that. Prior to [inaudible] up, we're in Jersey. I spent my whole career in the pharmaceutical industry because that's what you do in New Jersey. Right? Michael O'Brien: 01:35 That's it. So I was a sales and marketing pro, then individual contributor and then I worked my way up into executive leadership. But the big thing and what the book's about is what I call my last bad day. Yeah. So that was July 11th, 2001. And as we're talking like back then we were anticipating the Washer, the ipad or ipod back then. That is so crazy. There was no facebook, there was no linkedin, there was no twitter, there was no youtube, there was, there was no way to listen to music except your Sony Diskman, which I had mentioned your head one, two. I think I still got it somewhere. Yeah. So I, uh, back then I was out at a company meeting in New Mexico and I brought my bike out. I've always been an avid cyclist and I decided to bring my bike out across New Mexico, off my list of skates. Michael O'Brien: 02:27 I wanted to ride my bike again, avoid the hotel gym, get some outside air, the whole thing. And uh, so I was doing loops around the hotel property before my meeting. I came around the bend and a Ford Explorer Suv had crossed into my lane full head on going about 40 miles an hour, smash right into me. Like I had nowhere to go. I remember,

Curiosity. We need it. Without it, we get fixated on the frustrating symptoms of our problems, and miss out of the opportunities to discover and address the causes. Remember that every action has an underlying, cause, motivation, or need(s) that the actor is trying to meet. Today's episode gives a simple example of how a lack of curiosity can easily lead to false assumptions. Be brave enough to leverage curiosity to improve your relationships, influence, and life. Please listen, subscribe, and share with a friend. With love & respect - Aaron

Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 54 Joscelyn Duffy - How to get from unexpected tragedy to unshakable triumph. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. We don't need to be struck with a life-altering tragedy in order to "wake up" and create an inspired, meaningful, fulfilled life. There are plenty of powerful and amazingly influential people who don't have a particularly awe-inspiring story that sparked a sudden shift or transformed them into a new or improved version of themselves. However, I do believe that we all benefit from some of the very special individuals among us who face seemingly unbearable situations, thrive through them, then selflessly share their journey so that we can better understand how it's possible to endure even the worst of days. When we're willing to authentically share our challenges with each other, we unleash our ability to defy common logic, spark self-reflection, and strengthen our ability to face even our toughest days. Case in point, my friend Joscelyn Duffy. Less than 23 months before this interview, Joscelyn was told by her physicians that she was going to die. Even as I type these words, I know I'm unable to fully comprehend the emotional weight of hearing that your medical professionals don't know what else to do to keep you alive. Joscelyn isn't just still here with us, she's thriving and doing work that she loves. She's also not just sharing her own story to inspire others, she's helping other people find their voice and share their own personal stories. As I said, we don't need to be struck with a life-altering tragedy in order to have an inspired life, but we do need to embrace the lessons of those who have. Joscelyn's story, and her willingness to share it, is a perfect representation of the power of human story and spirit. Just spending a few moments with her will give you a deeper understanding of courage, resiliency, self-concept, and authenticity. You're going to feel like you've made a new friend in today's episode. Please make sure you pay it forward and share it. TRANSCRIPT: Aaron: 00:00:00 Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of unbreakable success. Definitely excited to share with our guests today, Joscelyn Duffy. She has many facets to her expertise, but Jocelyn, if I'm right, I would. I would. It would be safe to say your jam is helping people, especially entrepreneurs, get in touch with their message, clarify what their messages in any form and be able to get their message and their mission to out there in a way that truly expresses who they are, what's important to them, and most of all what they're looking to share with their audience and help them in their business and slash or life depending on what their focus is at the time. I'm. One of the things I, I. I'm amazed by your story and I'm humbled by your story you've had at Joscelyn has not once but twice a kind of looked her mortality in the face when she was hit with some serious illnesses and was able to thrive through it. Aaron: 00:00:51 And that in in a big way really led to your journey of finding this path to where you are today. And it's, it's, it's, it's humbling to hear your story, it's a very special story and I'm extremely grateful to have met you and gotten to know you a little bit and be able to call your friend today and have you on to share something with the audience that I know for a fact is definitely going to help them out and their journey and their mission, whatever they're looking to build in their life. So, uh, welcome Joscelyn and, and tell us a little bit about how you're doing today please. Joscelyn Duffy: 00:01:25 Oh, well thanks so much for having me. I'm delighted to share, as you mentioned, because of what my life has has brought my way in. What I've created from it. This is really is about service on the ground is level for me, so I'm so happy and blessed to be sharing these messages on a, on a global scale. Um,

Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 53 Nicole Jansen - What do you really want to be known for? Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. What do you really want to be known for? It's a simple but powerful question. As a listener of Unbreakable Success, you probably have sincere interest in growth, impact and contribution in your personal and professional life. But at the end of the day, what do you want people to remember about you, specifically? What will be your "brand"? This is just one of the many powerful topics that my amazing friend Nicole Jansen and I discuss here in episode 53 of the Unbreakable Success podcast, and it includes a great Gary Vaynerchuk "ESPN principle" that is extremely useful as you learn how to be the brand of your industry. Over the past 30 years, Nicole has coached and trained thousands of leaders, helping them achieve extraordinary results in business and in life. She's a Certified Human Behavior Specialist, Business Breakthrough Coach, and Strategic Intervention Coach, who's developed her own brand of mentorship, focusing on strengths and purpose, and integrating business and life mastery principles for lasting success. Founder of Discover The Edge, Nicole's clients are mission-driven and range from start-up entrepreneurs to large franchise organizations, covering a wide range of industries including everything from finance, real estate, and digital media to health and wellness and space exploration. Her passion for transformation and growth extends to the next generation of leaders, where she teaches and empowers people to embrace their strengths and passion through conferences, workshops and 1:1 coaching and mentoring. What's even better than all of her accolades is the fact that it's virtually impossible not to have an amazing conversation with Nicole. Honestly, as great as this interview is, it kinda felt like cheating, because Nicole is just naturally an awesome friend to talk to about things that really matter in life and business. Please make sure you're subscribed, and of course share this podcast episode with someone committed to creating something amazing. TRANSCRIPT: Aaron: 00:00:00 All right everybody, welcome back to another episode of unbreakable success. I'm really excited to have our guest today, Nicole Jameson. She's a keynote speaker, business coach, podcast host behavioral specialist, and I'm excited because I know there's going to be a lot of tangible stuff that we're going to get to today to help everybody out, listening in their business and slash or life. My goal is always both because, you know, our lives are alive whether I wear at work or not. So, uh, you know, I think we're, we're of the same mind when we realize that, you know, there's always the overlap, so if you're growing, you're growing. If you're not, you're not. So I'm excited to have you here for anybody, for everybody that doesn't know you, they really should be knowing you said, tell us a little bit about, uh, I definitely want to hit on your podcast real quick. Tell us, tell everybody about your podcast leaders of transformation. Nicole Jansen: 00:00:47 Awesome. Well thank you Aaron. I'm, I'm glad to be here. It's a pleasure. We had a conversation recently and little shout out to Christopher worth for introducing us. Yes, he's an awesome guy and uh, yeah, so I really enjoyed our conversation and I'm excited to be here today. Uh, yeah, in terms of my, in terms of my podcast, the whole lot. I'm a host and I can't talk to her now, Aaron: 00:01:08 but a lot time I got my name wrong a few weeks ago Nicole Jansen: 00:01:14 yesterday I was doing an event and I was like talking to people out in the 40 and I went, surely this will stop before. But anyway, I do. Yeah, I do have a podcast called the leaders of transformation. And what we do is we interview amazing difference makers. You're going to be on a difference makers, world changers,

Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 52 Dov Baron - How to Expand Your Thought Leadership Platform. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. There are few things in life as enjoyable as learning about someone's journey into successfully doing with that they absolutely love. Dov Baron is perhaps the epitome of one of those entrepreneurial journeys that I'm honored to share with you. Dov is the host of the number one podcast for Fortune 500 leaders, has twice been named as one of Inc. Magazine's top 100 Leadership Speakers to hire, he's a multi-time bestselling author, and has been featured in the media in places like CNN, USA Today, The Boston Globe, CBS Small Business Pulse and so much more. However, all of Dov's accolades aren't as important as his insights that he's giving you today on how to build a thought leadership platform. He's sharing how he got started building his platform, how write a book, and the power of finding what you consider to be your purpose and embracing it to be of service to others. You know that we love every one of our amazing guests here on Unbreakable Success, yet I promise you that today's conversation with Dov is going to somehow feel special. He's truly an amazing human being whom I've quickly come to admire for his passion, authenticity, and genuine desire to support you in your business and personal life. Please make sure you're subscribed to Unbreakable Success, and save this episode as one of your favorites. TRANSCRIPT: Aaron: 00:00 Everybody welcome back to another episode of unbreakable success. Dov Baron, thank you so much for, for sharing so much of your time with us today, sharing some nuggets, nuggets of wisdom for being here with us. Thank you. And how are you? How are things for you lately? It's been a little bit since we talked. Dov Baron: 00:14 It has an. First of all, I want to thank you for having me on. It's an honor and a pleasure to come here to serve you and your audience. I've been as usual, crazy busy doing all kinds of wonderful things and, and people say to me, you know, you're so busy. Do you have time for anybody or anything new? And the answer is always yes. If you want something done, ask a busy person. But I just, I, you know, I'm doing what I love so I'm busy. Aaron: 00:37 Yeah. So for, for those that don't know, obviously you've been in, you are one of the best when it comes to speaking. Uh, certainly. Certainly, I think if you probably don't know this right now, but I think he'd be like, it's one of those distance mentors that I look to and say, you know, that's some of the stuff you're doing is, is some of the things that I aspire to, so I appreciate you being here and if I can be selfish, I, I love having you here because I know I'm going to learn something from you as always do with my guests, but certainly to have the opportunity to learn from you is and share it with my audience as well as his extra special. For people that don't know you, you're enlisted in multiple places. One of the top 100 lead, a motivational speakers and leadership speakers in the world. You've been traveling globally for decades. Speaking to so many different audiences. You probably stopped counting many, many years ago. A written many books and all of that, but if we could, we'll. We'll get some nice nuggets where people can use in their business and in life obviously, but I'd like to give people some context about you. Like, where did this stuff, baron, a thought leadership plan, it's platform. Where did it start for you? If you could take us back in the day for a minute? Dov Baron: 01:47 Um, well I've been speaking for 34 years, so it started way before there was such a thing as a platform. I went to be a book Expo America in 2000 and so, and I was there looking and finding out whether I needed a book deal or there or she'd get a book deal and I was talking to some people. Then one of the things they asked me is what's your platform?

My buddy Christopher Wirth is the founder of No Quit Living, a speaking, coaching, and training company that focuses on accountability, goals, time management, networking, leadership, sales, personal development and so much more. Chris' approach to live is one that naturally promotes personal resiliency, and a focus on embracing your challenges as you pursue a life of positivity, persistence, and prosperity. I can promise you that any conversation with Chris is will result in some powerful insights, and today's episode is a perfect example of just that. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 51 Christopher Wirth - How to Leverage Resiliency and 'No Quit Living'. TRANSCRIPT: Aaron: 00:00 All right, Chris welcome! Thanks for joining us on this episode of Unbreakable Success. How are you doing today? My man? Chris Wirth: 00:06 I'm doing great. I appreciate the opportunity to be here. Aaron: 00:08 You know, I'm excited. First of all, I've got to thank you, for those who don't know, Chris was kind enough to allow me to jump on his podcast about a week or so ago, right? We did that. Yep. Yep. He's got an awesome podcasts. Chris, for anybody that doesn't know you or know you show, can you, can you just plug it right now for, for the benefit of everybody listening so they can check it out and see what you're up to? Chris Wirth: 00:32 I appreciate it. So the show is called No Quit Living in basically the m.o. Of our show as well as our company is just to motivate and inspire people to never give up. And we work with entrepreneurs. We work with traditional employees of companies, we work with corporations, teams, and it's just a really fun atmosphere. And I think the one thing that we talk about a lot is accountability and self accountability. And as I said, I feel that there's so much negativity in the social media world and the media world in general, that we want to be that one place where people can come to and know that they're gonna be inspired, motivated to never give up. Aaron: 01:03 Yeah, I love it, man. I think that's part of the reason that we have so much. When, uh, when we met a big shout out to Bryan Falchuk again for introducing us, I feel like every three episodes on my show, I'm thanking Brian, for introducing me to somebody, Chris Wirth: 01:17 He told me, he told me, he told me to plug him too when he said he'd give me 1500 bucks. So Brian, thank you my man. Aaron: 01:25 We'll split it down the middle. Chris, tell us a little about what you're doing. Because I love the concept of no quit living. I'm just, if, any of us listening just sit back and kind of think about that and let it soak in for a second. The idea of No Quit Living. Where did that, where did that come from? Because I'm, I have no doubt there's a reason behind that name and that title and the reason you named your your business and what you're doing. No Quit Living. How did that start? Chris Wirth: 01:55 Yeah, no, there's definitely a story behind it. So a few years ago, I think still to this day, I subscribe to about five or six daily quotes of the day and I was, I don't know if I was going through a tough day or just having a tough morning, but one of the quotes that came across my desk was by Dr Norman Vincent Peale, which is, it's always too early to quit. And what I, what I ended up doing was I ended up printing it out a couple of times. I think I enlarged it and Lo and behold, a couple of years later I was looking at different things and I don't know why, but no, quit living. Just just stood out for me. And I am a former college basketball and college tennis player. I coached a high school and college basketball for a while. So for me, sports in college has always been kind of my, my driving force. Chris Wirth: 02:36 And the one thing that I realized now working with teams, corporations and individuals on the coaching,

There's nothing better than the idea of living a life that feels aligned with what you simply LOVE to do. It's just one of the many things I admire about my friend Sonya Looney. She's a World Champion athlete who has managed to build a dedicated following, a thought-leadership platform, a podcast and personal brand simply by sharing what she learns, loves, and believes. There are so many lessons to learn from Sonya, but the first one is to make sure you're finding a way to do more of what excites you. Sonya has built (and is still building) her following with chasing like and follows, but by being herself and sharing her perspectives with the world. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 50 World Champion Athlete, Sonya Looney - How to Build a Following with Authenticity. TRANSCRIPT: Aaron: 00:00 Alright you guys welcome back to another episode of Unbreakable Success. We have a pretty amazing guest today as we always do, but this one's really special. Her name is Sonya Looney. She's a world champion. I'm a mountain biker. She's a motivational speaker, professional athlete, adventure, author. Sonia is up to so many things. She just opened her a shop called Moxie and grit. Is that right? Sonya? That's right. I will talk about that in a few minutes. Um, but Sonya, you do some amazing things and I, I got a lead into this by saying seven day races, like you gotta, like give me a short segment of how that happened. Sonya: 00:39 Yeah, 70 races. It's funny, it sounds really long, but when you're doing it, it doesn't seem like it's that long. But basically what happened was when I first started mountain biking, I was doing shorter courses like in it's called cross country racing and those are typically about an hour and a half long. So most people are familiar with running. They're familiar with 5k , 10k marathon, ultra marathon. So basically I started doing the ultra marathon style of racing in mountain biking and then from there there was these races called stage races where every day there's a set start and finish, but a different course and sometimes it's point to point or sometimes it's a loop from a central location, but you get to race on seven, seven different courses in a country or region and accumulative time at the end of the seven days is the final results of the race. So it rewards consistency over being crazy one day and then being tired the next. Aaron: 01:36 Well there's got to be some great business lessons in there. I'm sure we'll share it. We'll definitely segue into that to talk about the consistency, but for anybody that doesn't know you or you got so much going on, but what is. What's the. What would be your definition of, of what you do? You know, Sonya Looney writing or speaking her own bio. How would you describe yourself? Right now? Sonya: 02:02 I would describe myself as somebody who is trying to use what I'm passionate about, which is mountain biking and adventures, to use it as a vehicle to talk about things that I've learned to help me live the life I'm living, like I'm living my dream. It's incredible. Like never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be where I am today. So my why, my why when I wake up in the morning, I want to help make the world a better place without sounding cliche. I want to give people the tools and the confidence to take steps in their life to go after that thing that they want to do. It doesn't have to be a mountain biking, but just that thing that they want to do. Everybody has something in the back of their mind that they wished that they would do. And I want to help break down the barriers so people can go after that. Aaron: 02:46 That's pretty awesome. That's amazing. I love that you're, um, you know, how, how you parlayed your, almost your, uh, your athleticism in and you're biking and turning into a much larger mission. I'd love to know because there's so much like when people go to yo...

I love it when I see amazing people sharing their gifts with the world through entrepreneurship, but I love it even more when they're able to avoid the pain of common business mistakes while doing it. Fortunately, we've got Jay Rooke here today to share some of his wisdom as a successful business coach. You're welcome! Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 49 Jay Rooke - How to Avoid the Pain of Common Business Mistakes. Here's what you'll love about this conversation with Jay. We talk about mistakes, so you can avoid making them! Trust me, our journey in business and life gets a lot easier when we know where some of the potholes are. You'll learn from some of the mistakes that Jay openly admits to over the years, and we'll get into specifics about some of the big mistakes and issues that you should be thinking about in your own business. Whether you're transitioning from the corporate world, starting a side-hustle (I really don't like the term, but you know what I mean), or are a veteran entrepreneur, you're going to learn some valuable insights from our friend Jay and will definitely lower your chances of making some unnecessary mistakes. In addition to being a growth-oriented business coach, Jay is also the host of the Know Pain, Know Gain podcast, a former attorney, keynote speaker, and the co-Founder of GivingKicks.com, a charity initiative to provide 1000 pairs of sneakers for underprivileged kids. Needless to say, Jay's an all-around great guy. I'm a big fan and we had a great time creating this episode for you, so please enjoy and share!More about Jay... A member of Forbes Coaches Council, Jay Rooke, J.D., jay is a trained executive and business coach who resides in wine country in Sonoma, California. Jay spent the first half of his life on the East Coast where he worked as a toxic tort litigator for the City of New York, as well as helping Merck pharmaceuticals launch the first-ever anticancer vaccine. He attended culinary school in New York City, and later opened his own restaurant in California. Prior to coaching, he most recently worked for NBC Sports; he also has experience working in the clean tech, sustainability and wine industries.  Jay is the Co-Founder of GivingKicks.com, a charitable initiative to provide 1,000 shoes to 1,000 underprivileged kids when they go back to school in the fall. Jay completed his coaching training at The Coaches Training Institute in California and is an ACC/CPCC/BOSI certified coach. He received his Juris Doctorate from the University of Connecticut, where he was a member of the Law Review; and he earned his Bachelor's in English and Spanish from Bowdoin College in Maine. Jay is a passionate home cook, an avid hiker and loves anything with four legs. Jay works with entrepreneurs and business owners who want to bring their companies to the next level. As a former attorney who spent most of his career in the corporate world, his business coaching practice provides real-world solutions for growth-oriented businesses. How can I help you further? Text or call me now at (888)348-7298 Resources from Unbreakable Success Podcast Episode 49: JayRooke.com GivingKicks.com Facebook: fb.com/TribeCreator Linkedin: Linkedin.com/in/JayRooke Twitter: Twitter.com/JayRooke

You've faced many challenges, and you might be facing some right now, but you're about to discover how to overcome any challenge with True Grit and Grace thanks to our friend Amberly Lago. She's amazing. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 48 Amberly Lago - How to Overcome Any Challenge with True Grit and Grace. We've been blessed with so many stellar guests here on Unbreakable Success, but none quite like Amberly Lago. I actually met Amberly on Instagram after we'd been following each other for a while. When I realized she had a new book coming out to share her amazing story, I had to reach out to meet her, invite her to the show, and let you benefit from having her awesomeness in your life too. I'm glad I went with my gut because we wound up chatting it up like old friends. I learned her husband is a retired police lieutenant (like me!), she's got mad love for animals, and I even got the dish on her days performing with MC Hammer! Yes, that MC Hammer!! Of course, as we all know, sometimes life can really punch us in the face, and it can be painful. No one knows challenge and pain quite like Amber. She was hit by a car while riding her motorcycle on an otherwise beautiful California day. Her leg was eviscerated, and there was about a 1% change of saving it. Obviously, those odds didn't know Amberly... You'll hear her full story in this episode, but suffice it to say, she was amazing long before the accident that changed her life. She's a Texan who moved to California to pursue her dream. She's dancer, fitness instructor, and has an amazing husband and beautiful children. She spent 3 months in the hospital after her accident, and has endured over 30 surgeries. A series of amazing miracles that you'll hear about in this episode led to her leg being saved. She still lives with chronic pain, but has dedicated her life to helping others triumph over theirs. We honestly need more people like her in this world. What she endured is not the story. The real story is how she endures. Amberly is one of the most sincere and gracious humans you'll ever meet. There's always a smile in her voice, and there's an air of humility about her that is only matched by her enduring strength and confidence. The title of her book is the perfect description of her. She is True Grit and Grace: Turning Tragedy into Triumph. Amberly is a multi-talented entrepreneur, author, motivational speaker, TEDx speaker, and was recently featured on The Megyn Kelly TODAY Show, Health Magazine, SHAPE Magazine, Disability Magazine and so many more. Please reach out to Amberly after this episode using any of the links below to thank her for sharing her story, and let her know how it's impacted your perspective on a life or business challenge you've been facing. I can guarantee you that she'll be grateful for the love. Oh, and of course, click any of the share links above to spread the message of this episode and our mission of Unbreakable Success. Have a question or comment about this episode? Call me anytime at (888)348-7298. Resources from Unbreakable Success Podcast Episode 48: AmberlyLago.com Facebook: FB.com/AmberlyLagoMotivationalSpeaker LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/AmberlyLago Instagram: AmberlyLagoMotivation Twitter: @AmberlyLago

How great would it be for you to have a tag-team of brilliant entrepreneurs sharing how to expand your business with strategy and mindfulness? It would be great, and it's exactly what's happening for you today! Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 47 Tati & Gerry Jiménez - How to Expand Your Business with Strategy and Mindfulness. If there's one piece of insight that can make the sometimes messy world of entrepreneurship simpler it's balance. Balance is a great way to describe the collective brilliance of our two guests on this episode of Unbreakable Successs. Tati and Gerry Jiménez are joining you today to share some of their best insights on merging the strategic side of entrepreneurship with the essential element of individual mindfulness. They are the hosts of an amazing podcast call The Mindful Entrepreneur: Business and Life with Purpose and Soul in addition to running their individual businesses. Today get to know their individual and collective journeys toward the success they've achieved. Most of all, you'll discover how you and I can create a business and lifestyle full of consistent achievement, a sense of fulfillment, and a strong and lasting sense of purpose. Speaking of purpose, this amazing sibling duo was kind enough to share a simple yet powerful exercise for helping you connect with your purpose during this season of your business and life. Let's take a look and their brilliant sentence-completion exercise to help you get more clarity about your sense of purpose... I am a _____________ man/woman,  (Insert the 'state of being' that describes how you want to be remembered. For me it was caring and empathetic.) who _____________, (Describe what you do or would like to do. I inserted the "coaches", because that's what I love to do in many forms.) so that _____________. (Describe the impact of the first two parts of your exercise. I said, "so that I can help them improve the quality of their business and life.") When I completed this exercise, my sentence says, "I am a caring and empathetic man, who coaches entrepreneurs so that I can help them improve the quality of their business and life." I absolutely love this amazingly quick and powerful exercise to help us get mindful and gain clarity about our purpose. This is definitely a tool that when completed, should leave you with a sentence that gives you energy. Shoot me an email with your completed exercise at hello@aaronkeithhawkins.com. I'd love to know what you're up to! Of course, in addition to being mindful, your business growth requires setting up the right strategies, systems and performance indicators so you can have a tangible means of maximizing and measuring your progress. It's my honor to call these two amazing individuals my friend, and you're going to gain a lot of insights by joining our conversation today. Please do yourself a favor a visit Tati and Gerry at the links below to get more of their support for your business and life. Have a question or comment about this episode? Call me anytime at (888)348-7298. Resources from Unbreakable Success Podcast Episode 47: MeThriving.com Tati's Business Website: TheGeniusSpot.com Gerry's Business Website: VidaFactor.com

You're about to learn two simple principles to help you confidently share your expertise in today's Q&A episode. Let's expand your business reach... Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 46 Q&A: How to Have the Confidence to Share Your Expertise. Full Transcript: All right, welcome, all of you. Thanks for joining me again today! I wanted to jump in real quickly and answer a question that I got and I think is really valid and relevant to most people listening. This came from Jamba, he's a listener of unbreakable success podcast and he says, "How can I get the confidence to share my expertise on videos, podcast, live streams, or even live stages? I know I need to, but I'm terrified of embarrassing myself." Jamba, I've so been there. I've been there and I'm sure all of you listening right now have either been there or know someone who has felt like this. Look, let's face it. None of us want to embarrass ourselves. We want to look good. We want people to respect us and the work we do and when we put ourselves out there on these platforms, it can be daunting, especially if we haven't done it before or we haven't done it much. I'm going to give you my best advice because I'll be honest, even though I've been teaching since the 1990's and I've had to show for the past couple years, there are still days that I feel nerves. It's very common. If there's one thing I did, and I'm going to share two answers to help all of us overcome this issue, but if there's one thing I did, if I had to narrow it down to just a single action that I took that helped me overcome that issue of worrying about embarrassing myself, It was this: I just did it. The number one answer is to do it! If you want to get on podcasts and that terrifies you. Get on podcasts! Get on as many as you can! If you want to do videos for your website, for your coaching service, whatever it is that you want to put out there, the only way you're going to get over that fear -- you're not going to think your way out of it, you have to do it and do it a lot. I promise you, I remember, I remember the first time I recorded a podcast the episode was a solo episode. I wasn't doing interviews for my first show and I wasn't recording it live. It wasn't going out live to people. I was just doing a recording and I was going to have to upload it to the server and put it out on the show, but I was so nervous to even hit the record button even though nobody was going to hear it except me and the dogs because they were, they were hanging around at the time. But guess what I did is I uploaded it and some people heard it and guess what? Nothing bad happened. And that's what's going to happen. And that's why it's so important to do these things because the more you do them, the more you're going to realize nothing bad is actually going to happen. You're going to go on shows, you're going to go on livecasts, you're going to get on some stages, do some podcasts, put some video on your website, and nothing bad will happen! And guess what? On the flip side, something good will probably probably happened because the fact is you'll start connecting with people because you obviously have expertise. Because if you didn't have any good expertise, if you didn't have something of value to offer, you wouldn't feel so compelled to get on these stages and get exposure in the first place. You want this exposure. You want to reach people and do these things because you have something to share that you know can help people and that's the most important thing. So do it Jamba, get on stages, do some live streams, do some video, slap it on your website, do some podcasts. Trust me, I'm sure you're a good person with all that good stuff to share, and there are a ton of shows out there that I'm sure would be happy to have you on. Get on as many as you can and you will be all right I promise you. The second thing,

Have the courage to embrace your unique path to success, because the only right path, is yours. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 45 Elizabeth McCourt - Have the Courage to Embrace Your Unique Path to Success. One of your greatest advantages is your unique story. It's one of a kind. No one else can claim or leverage it to their advantage quite like you. A lot of us have this idea in our head that there's a 'right way' to create our success. You know what I mean. I've also suffered from that illusion that I couldn't have a certain life because I didn't have the right background, education, career or wasn't the right age to start something new. The idea that you need to be something to become something is total bs. Elizabeth McCourt is one of those people you have to love, because she's one of those living inspirations who shows us how amazing life can be when we refuse to 'live in the box' that people expect us to stay in. Elizabeth is the founder of McCourt Leadership Group, and her path to success has nothing to do with the linear expectation of onlookers. She's created a unique that includes jumps from a career in finance, to practicing law, to a leadership expert with her own coaching practice. Most recently, she's now a published fiction novelist of a brilliant legal thriller called Sin in the Big Easy. On top of that, she spends time traveling, public speaking, doing triathlons and more. Join us in Episode 45 as we discuss the importance of defining our own path, and exercising our creativity instead of settling for the expected. Elizabeth has earned her B.S. in Finance from the University of Maryland, J.D. from Loyola University in New Orleans, Natural Resources Certificate from the University of New Mexico, and MFA in Creative Writing from SUNY Stony Brook. She's also a CPCC certified coach through the "Harvard" of coaching schools, The Coaches Training Institute (CTI). You're going to enjoy the many lessons that Elizabeth and I share in this episode, and I hope it gets you thinking about your unique story, and what it is you really want to be doing for the rest of your life. It may not be what everyone else is expecting from you, and that's ok! By the way, Elizabeth gave one of my favorite TEDx talks called Why You Should Spill Your Secrets. I'm very proud of my new friend Elizabeth, and am happy to share her with you in this Episode. If you haven't already subscribed to Unbreakable Success in iTunes, this is a great time to do it! Please remember to leave a 5 star rating and a quick review to let others love what you've enjoyed most about the podcast! Have a question or comment about this episode? Call me anytime at (888)348-7298. Resources from Unbreakable Success Podcast Episode 45: mccourtleadership.com Elizabeth's Must-Have Novel: Sin in the Big Easy Twitter: @ecmccourt Facebook: fb.com/mccourtleadership LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/ElizabethMcCourt Instagram: instagram.com/rizabiz

Did you know that a strong sense of purpose doesn't just help you feel good, it can help you heal? Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 44 Danielle LaRock - How to Leverage the Healing Power of Purpose. Did you ever notice how our bodies respond physically to our mental state? People living with chronic stress age faster. There's a healthy glow around happy expecting mothers. People who are generating a life of fulfillment enjoy more physical energy and vibrancy. Our friend Danielle LaRock has first-hand experience in the stunning results that can be experienced by finding and engaging in activity that satisfies our need for purpose. Danielle has a stunning story of physical healing and transformation that baffled her physicians and sparked a mission to help others experience radical healing by engaging in their calling. She's sharing an amazing journey of mental and physical transformation that you need to hear and share. If you've never met Danielle LaRock, she's been featured in The Elephant Journal, Best Self Magazine, The Start Up Sessions and more. You're going to hear her story of how she was suffering from a chronic illness, and tried to relieve her symptoms using western medicine, natruopathic medicine, energy medicine and other methods, but nothing was working. Her life changed shortly after she transitioned from a career that was dissatisfying and began engaging in work that she felt deeply meaningful and satisfying. Surprisingly, she noticed the physical symptoms she tried so hard to relieve were beginning to fade on their own. That was when she learned about the phenomenon of Shaman Sickness, and began a new journey of service and purpose. I'll let Danielle tell you the rest of her story in this episode, but can tell you that there's much to be said about the amazing changes that can occur in your life when you're actually doing things that satisfy your inherent desire for impact and purpose. It could involve your career, or volunteerism, or any other meaningful practice that feels deeply meaningful. I can attest to similar experiences, and it's truly amazing. Today, Danielle works with coaches, healers, artists, activists, practitioners, visionaries, and conscious entrepreneurs who know that their truest form of service comes from being themselves. After all, discovering purpose isn't about finding some external thing that suddenly aligns the stars, it's simply a process of discovering activities that are fulfilling and allow you express your values. As I mentioned in some recent episodes, I think Mel Robbins explained the concept of purpose best in her book The 5 Second Rule. Purpose is about energy. With that in mind, we can recognize that in order for us to heal mentally and physically, it takes energy to heal. This is starting to make sense isn't it? Please listen, enjoy and share this episode with someone you love. Most of all PLEASE reach out to Danielle and give her some much-deserved love for sharing so much with us today. With love & respect - Aaron Have a question or comment about this episode? Click here to contact Aaron. Resources from Unbreakable Success Podcast Episode 44: DanielleLaRock.com The Heal You Project Facebook: FB.com/DanielleJohannaLaRock Twitter: @yourhavenwithin Instagram: danielle_larock

How can you win at time management so you can love your business and life? Great news, R. Shawn McBride is here with some useful answers for you. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 43 R. Shawn McBride - How to Win at Time Management So You Can Love Your Business and Life. Your most precious commodity is time. For many of us, it can sometimes feel overwhelming when figuring out where we should be investing our time, and how to find the right balance between our work and home life. We have to thank R. Shawn McBride for coming on Unbreakable Success to share a conversation with us about time management, work life balance, and even the topic of transitioning from employed to self-employed. There's so much good info in this episode to learn and share. Shawn is a business strategist, attorney two-time author, Tedx speaker, and a phenomenal human being. One of the things I love most about him is his human approach to supporting his clients. As you'll hear in this episode, one of the first things he wants to know about his clients is what they want their life to be like. That's square one. I love it. Shawn has worked with many businesses to implemented successful plans and is a licensed attorney in 12 states and Washington D.C. He's been quoted or mentioned in The Wall Street Journal, The Huffington Post, D Magazine and many other media outlets. He's the co-author of It's About Time: How to Do More of What Matters in the Time You Have and Business Blunders: 10 Dangerous Business Blunders and How to Protect Your Business So It Can Thrive!, the host of McBride for Business Live podcast, and a brilliant business coach. Trust me, if anyone has battle-tested experience in learning how to manage their time, it's Shawn. He's doing a amazing work and he's loving it. If you've tried time management techniques and they haven't worked for you, or you've been wondering how it's possible to balance work and life, please listen to this episode. This is also a great episode for those of us who are wondering how to change careers or start a business of our own. Shawn's been through the process and has some great perspective to share with you. Please take a minute to share this episode with someone who needs it, and hop over to iTunes to leave a quick rating and review! I appreciate all those great reviews you've been sharing! Resources from Unbreakable Success Podcast Episode 43: McBrideforBusiness.com TimeMagicment.com Facebook: fb.com/rshawnmcbridepublic Twitter: @RShawnLive Linkedin: linkedin.com/in/rshawnmcbride Info@McBrideForBusiness.com 214.418.0258

How to increase your income and impact with Positive Productivity? Our friend Kim Sutton has been there, done that, and is sharing it all with you in this episode! Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 42 Kim Sutton - Increase Your Income and Impact with Positive Productivity. If you've ever listened to an episode of Unbreakable Success, you know the purpose of this podcast is to share powerful stories of success and impact that inevitably occur in those of us who commit to our personal growth. I don't just share these stories because they feel good and are motivational, even though they are, I share them because there's so many lesson and strategies for you to learn from the experiences of others who've walked a similar path. Today's episode is a great example of a story that gives us many lessons and an authentic dose of inspiration. Kim Sutton is a stay at home mother of 5, a wife, brilliant entrepreneur, speaker, podcast host, business and productivity coach, and soon to be published author. She's also a great example of why it's important to be willing to cultivate positive relationships with people who believe in your ability to grow and achieve. She's also the leader of my mastermind group and a massive personal inspiration to me and the other entrepreneurs in my circle of influence. Our mastermind has a lot of love for Kim and so will you. Kim is the founder of Positive Productivity business coaching and host of the Positive Productivity podcast. You can even click here to catch my episode with Kim in Episode 260! One of the many nuggets of wisdom you'll definitely want to hear in this episode is how she actually quadrupled her income when she stopped focusing all of her energy on just making money. it's a powerful lesson for all of us. She'll also explain in this episode about the origins of the term Positive Productivity, but I'll let her explain here in her own words about the experience she provides to her clients... "WHAT IS POSITIVE PRODUCTIVITY? Imagine waking every day with a sense of calm. You know you have work to do, and you are madly passionate about the work that's waiting. You no longer dread Mondays, but rather, jump out of bed, excited about the day ahead. You've learned to say “YES!” to only the opportunities and clients who serve you, which allows you to serve them at the highest level. You're not worried about money, because you're in flow and you know that with every “No” opportunity you turn down, a bigger “YES!” is waiting just around the bend. You're not tempted to purchase every offer that hits your inbox because you work confidently knowing you have the support and systems you need to not only survive but also to thrive. And, most importantly, you feel INCREDIBLE! You're sleeping, you have time to take care of YOUR needs, and you finally have the ability — mentally AND physically — to take time away from work for yourself AND for your loved ones. THIS is Positive Productivity." Please be sure to listen, make sure you've subscribed, and please pay it forward by sharing this with someone who wants to create a bigger impact in their business or life. Resources from Unbreakable Success Episode 42: TheKimSutton.com Twitter: @TheKimSutton Facebook: fb.com/kimsuttonofficial Instagram: TheKimSutton LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kimberlyannesutton YouTube

How is it possible to know when, where and how to make resets in our business or life? Dr. Jason Brooks can show you how. Click to Subscribe on >> iTunes, Stitcher Radio or Tunein. Unbreakable Success Podcast, Episode 41 Dr. Jason Brooks - Knowing When, Where and How to Reset in Life. It's not always obvious when and where we need to reset. Fortunately, Dr. Brooks literally wrote the book on creating resets in your life, and one of the many things you'll learn from our conversation with him today is that our greatest success often comes from the adjustments we need to make regularly (even if we didn't notice the need to!). If you and I are going to be successful at evolving our quality of life, one habit we must get very consistent with is our awareness of when we need to make big radical changes, occasional realignments, and those consistent small refining adjustments. Dr. Brooks is an expert at authentically supporting people growing their ability to lead and make positive change in their lives. He's the bestselling author of Reset: Reformatting Your Purpose for Tomorrow's World, the host of the Dr. Jason Brooks Leadership Podcast, and an expert leadership coach and trainer. He's unbelievably generous with his time and conversation with us today in helping us understand the process of getting clear about who you really want to be in your career and life, the impact you want to make, and how to make it happen. That clarity makes it much easier to understand the need to make a range of resets to stay in alignment with the person you've decided to be, and the purpose you going to serve. With decades of experience serving clients ranging from multibillion dollar companies to individuals in need of support, Dr. Brooks is giving you a massive amount of valuable and actionable information in this episode to help you create the success you're looking for. Please listen in and make sure you share with someone who might need a reset in their business or life, big or small. Please make sure you grab copy of reset while you're at it, and reach out to thank Dr. Brooks at one of the links below. Thanks again for being a part of the Unbreakable Success family and sharing it with the people closest to you. I appreciate you! Resources from Unbreakable Success Episode 41: DrJasonBrooks.com Facebook: fb.com/drjasonbrooks Twitter: twitter.com/drjasonbrooks LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/jasontbrooks/

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