Inner Source - Healing from Toxic Abuse

If you've contemplated leaving a toxic relationship but then get confused and question your decision because of the 'good times,' then this episode is for you. This episode explores the fluctuating dynamics of toxic relationships, focusing on the cycle of extremes in good and bad experiences, which leads to abuse and trauma bonding. The host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS, discusses the psychological tactics used by abusers, including intermittent reinforcement and love bombing, to maintain control over their victims. The discussion includes insights from the book 'Why Does He Do That?' by Lundy Bancroft and findings from Chuck Derry's research on abusive men. The episode emphasizes the ways to influence the release from the cycle and the importance of recognizing these manipulative behaviors, setting boundaries, and reclaiming one's sense of self. Deborah offers advice on moving forward and the benefits of cutting ties with manipulative individuals.00:00 Introduction to Toxic Relationships00:46 Understanding Trauma Bonding01:49 The Cycle of Abuse03:31 Do Abusers Know What They're Doing?05:29 Benefits Abusers Gain11:49 Motivations to Stop Abuse14:35 Empowerment and Setting Boundaries18:17 Personal Reflections and Moving ForwardTo learn more or connect with the host visit:www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode, our special guest Corey Levy, co-founder of We Inspect and a leading expert in indoor environmental health, shares his journey and insights into the profound effects of mold and other hidden environmental toxins on our physical and mental wellbeing. Levy discusses the history of his family's involvement in indoor air quality, the evolution of his company, and the critical connection between environmental health and chronic illnesses. He explains the various ways mold can impact the body, the importance of identifying signs of mold in homes, and effective strategies for remediation. Levy also addresses the challenges of acknowledging environmental factors in health issues and provides advice for those suspecting mold-related health problems. The episode emphasizes the importance of awareness and proactive measures to create healthier living environments.00:00 Introduction to Corey Levy and His Work01:07 Corey's Journey into Indoor Environmental Health05:08 Understanding Mold and Its Health Impacts12:30 Identifying Mold in Your Home14:57 Steps to Address Mold Issues21:35 Challenges in Recognizing Environmental Toxins26:07 Advice for Suspecting Mold in Your Home30:03 Resources and Support for Mold Issues41:24 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsTo learn more about Corey Levy:YesWeInspect.comTheDustTest .com@moldfindersTo connect with the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS:www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode, we are joined by Diana Esther, an acclaimed author, poet, speaker, transformational coach, and inspirational teacher. Diana shares her remarkable life story, including her recovery from lymphatic cancer and her extraordinary journey from the dark times in the Soviet Union to becoming a beacon of light and wisdom. She discusses her path to discovering the importance of inner light, her battle with cancer, and how she uses her personal experiences to help others transform their lives. Diana also speaks on the power of self-love, understanding, and the innate potential every individual has to connect with their true self for healing and growth.00:00 Introduction to Diana Esther01:15 Diana's Early Life in the Soviet Union03:18 Struggles and Inner Strength09:34 Journey to Freedom16:31 Discovering the Diamond Within24:52 The Power of Connection and Transformation28:41 Understanding Innate Awareness29:28 Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs30:38 The Power of Desire and Free Will31:09 Elevating Consciousness32:58 Connecting with Inner Light34:50 Overcoming Adversity: A Personal Journey38:42 Miraculous Recovery from Cancer46:01 The Role of Diet in Healing53:10 Empowerment through Self-Love54:58 Final Thoughts and ResourcesTo contact or learn more about Diana Esther, or her book, The Diamond Within visit:diana.berschader@gmail.com

Breaking Free: Embrace Your True Self and Let Go of These Toxic PeopleIn this empowering episode, we dig into the hard part of the journey of healing, which is letting go. You have to set boundaries in order to reclaim your authentic self. The focus is on letting go of toxic relationships and people who thrive on your submissive and people-pleasing nature. As you start putting yourself first and saying 'no' without guilt, some people will undoubtedly get upset. However, this transformation is key for your mental, emotional, and physical health. Learn to identify the signs that you are being used. Celebrate your growth as you let go and embrace the inevitable changes that come with setting boundaries. The changes are sometimes hard, but always beneficial to you.  This episode encourages you to push past the fear of judgment and criticism to become the most authentic and inspired version of yourself, ultimately attracting genuine support and healthier relationships.00:00 Empowering Yourself Against Naysayers01:35 Recognizing Toxic Relationships02:22 The Cost of People Pleasing03:00 Embracing Your True Self03:53 The Transformation and Its Impact05:39 Facing Resistance and Manipulation07:26 Breaking Free and Setting Boundaries19:01 The Importance of Self-Improvement21:03 Practical Steps for Self-Care23:27 Conclusion: Embrace the ChangeTo learn more or connect with host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS visit:www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode, Lori Pappas, a humanitarian and entrepreneur, shares her inspiring journey of overcoming personal struggles and transforming them into catalysts for growth and positive change. Lori's life story includes surviving a tumultuous childhood and being forced in to a mental institution in the 1960s by her over-religous parents. Pioneering as one of the first women in computer sales, and founding an international charity in Ethiopia, her insights on inner peace, self-discovery, and resilience are deeply explored. Her book 'The Magic of Yes,' offers pathways for finding inner peace through self-reflection and the 'DREAM' framework. Lori also touches on concepts such as self-compassion, forgiveness, and overcoming negative self-talk. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own journeys and leave feedback to help further the discussion on achieving inner peace and happiness.00:00 Introduction to Lori Pappas00:56 Early Life Struggles and Resilience04:27 Breaking Barriers in the Tech Industry07:53 Humanitarian Work in Africa12:23 The Magic of Yes: Lori's Book17:18 The Dream Framework Explained20:36 Cultivating Courage and Setting Boundaries24:50 Reincarnation and Past Lives25:37 The Power of Reflection26:18 Visions of Past Lives28:42 The Difference in This Life29:50 Inner Peace and Self-Reflection30:43 Sticky Thoughts and Self-Love34:11 Overcoming Negative Self-Talk36:27 Fostering Self-Compassion42:14 Final Thoughts and ResourcesTo learn more or contact Lori Pappas:www.LoriPappas.comPlease reach out to Lori Pappas about joining the Wisewomen sisterhoodEmail: lori@loripappas.comTo contact host Deborah Ashway:www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode, award-winning and best selling author Kennerly Clay discusses her memoir, 'Letters from East of Nowhere; Daddy's Words to Live, Drink & Die By' offering valuable insights into forgiveness, dealing with family complexities, and the journey of personal growth and healing. If you're a fan of ‘The Glass Castle' and ‘Lit' then you'll love hearing about Kennerly's life. She shares her personal experiences with recovery, the impact of past traumas, and the challenge of navigating toxic relationships. Kennerly highlights the significance of authentic communication and resilience in the face of adversity while recounting the compelling influence of her father and the power of letter writing. Kennerly offers her wisdom on the challenges of healing from toxic abuse. This conversation offers timely advice for anyone facing unresolved familial and emotional issues. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:16 Kennerly's Journey to Sobriety02:05 Writing as a Healing Process03:28 Father-Daughter Relationship Dynamics06:19 The Power of Forgiveness11:22 Navigating Complex Family Dynamics20:01 Embracing Sobriety at a Young Age23:03 Exploring Resilience and Overcoming Disappointments25:44 Introducing the Book: Letters from East of Nowhere26:01 The Story Behind the Book's Title and Content29:11 Impact of a Troubled Parent on Family Dynamics33:17 Understanding Forgiveness and Personal Growth36:41 Recognizing and Dealing with Triggers39:16 Final Thoughts and Where to Find More InformationTo learn more about Kennerly Clay:www.LettersFromEastOfNowhere.comTo contact host Deborah Ashway:www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode, host Deborah introduces Melanie Weller, a pioneer in mental health and holistic healing. Melanie discusses her approach of integrating intuition into clinical practice and how she has evolved her unique practice over 30 years. By focusing on the vagus nerve, Melanie reveals the profound connection between physical and emotional wellbeing and discusses the significance of time perception and processing in various health diagnoses. The conversation delves into the integration of ancient mythology and astrology with modern science, offering transformative solutions for those struggling with chronic pain, mental health challenges, and the aftermath of toxic abuse. Melanie shares practical exercises like helical breathing and discusses the broader implications of her work, aiming for a deeper understanding and healing of the mind, body, and soul.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:13 Melanie's Journey into Integrating Intuition04:56 Understanding the Vagus Nerve08:28 The Connection Between Intuition and the Vagus Nerve14:54 Practical Techniques for Vagus Nerve Decompression18:55 Ancient Wisdom and Modern Science25:43 Imaginal Exercises and Metaphors in Healing27:34 Astrology and the Body's Clock27:50 Time Perception and Mental Health28:38 Cerebellum and Emotional Coordination31:54 Finger Tapping Exercise for Healing40:33 Astrology, Mythology, and Healing42:55 Healing from Toxic Abuse46:26 Conclusion and ResourcesTo contact Melanie Weller:www.melanieweller.com You can also listen to Melanie's podcast: Fearless PresenceTo contact Deborah Ashway:www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this insightful episode of Healing from Toxic Abuse, host Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS welcomes Thomas LaGrave Jr., LCSW, an expert with over 35 years in the field of adolescent mental health. Thomas, a former Navy SEAL and currently a licensed clinical social worker, shares his compelling journey from addiction to recovery and his dedication to helping young individuals. He discusses his book 'Special Welfare Social Warfare' and the Honor Bound Academy, a nonprofit aimed at providing a rite of passage for adolescents. The episode covers his personal story, insights into the mental health challenges faced by today's youth, and the importance of creating supportive environments to foster youths on the verge of adulthood.TheHonorBoundAcademy.org00:00 Introduction to Thomas J. La Grave Jr.01:24 Thomas's Personal Journey with Addiction01:58 From Navy SEAL to Recovery03:30 Finding Purpose Through Helping Adolescents06:15 Educational Pursuits and Professional Growth08:05 Insights from 'Special Welfare Social Warfare'11:49 Generational Analysis and Youth Challenges19:47 The Honor Bound Academy: Vision and Structure25:16 Mental Health Challenges for Adolescents Today28:53 Struggles with Addiction and Technology29:10 Reeducating Phone Usage30:35 Honor Bound Academy's Approach30:39 Building Self-Esteem and Confidence30:54 Using Nature and Challenges as Tools31:37 Addressing Failures and Learning33:51 The Role of Parents in Child Development34:41 The Power of Love in Recovery36:39 Challenges in Modern Parenting46:56 The Importance of Trust and Accountability49:11 Conclusion and Contact Information

In this episode, the host interviews Dr. Michelle Sherman, a clinical psychologist and author, known for her work on family dynamics related to mental health and trauma. Dr. Sherman talks about her books, 'Loving Someone with a Mental Illness or History of Trauma: Skills, Hope, and Strength for Your Journey' and 'I'm Not Alone: A Teen's Guide to Living with a Parent Who Has a Mental Illness or History of Trauma.' She shares her journey, professional experiences, and personal motivations for focusing on this field. The discussion centers on the importance of understanding mental health symptoms, the impact of parental mental illness on children, and the need for self-care and boundary setting for family members. Dr. Sherman also emphasizes the significance of community support and resources for managing these challenges. The episode concludes with a call to action for better awareness and support systems for families dealing with mental health issues.00:00 Introduction and Guest Background01:04 Dr. Sherman's Career and Contributions01:37 Personal Motivations and Early Work04:02 Book Structure and Purpose06:38 Teen Resilience and Prevention10:00 Understanding Mental Health Symptoms14:58 Impact on Adolescents and Families18:21 Challenges and Support Systems25:28 Identifying Toxic Relationships26:29 Recognizing Behavioral Patterns28:36 Approaching with Kindness and Curiosity31:46 Collaborating with Family35:46 Setting Boundaries and Self-Care41:06 Future Plans and Mission

“What do you mean I'm avoiding? I'm facing everything head on.” I hear this frequently and sometimes catch myself  in a state of avoidance.  It takes a lot of self-reflection and awareness to notice this. Avoidance can be a natural built-in protective tendency in our body's nervous system. We might not even realize when our bodies are keeping us from processing, cleaning out and re-writing the script.  In this episode, we delve into the concept of avoidance and its detrimental effects on us and how it can keep us stuck in toxic or unhealthy relationships. The discussion covers the nature of avoidance, its origins as a protective mechanism, and the ways it perpetuates anxiety and physical tension. By avoiding negative emotions, we hinder our healing process and allow manipulative individuals to undermine our self-confidence and self-worth. The episode explores strategies to overcome avoidance, emphasizing self-awareness, self-compassion, and the importance of rebuilding social networks. Practical steps, such as journaling, setting boundaries, and gradually facing uncomfortable emotions, are highlighted to foster personal growth and emotional resilience.00:00 Understanding Avoidance: The Root of Being Stuck03:19 The Impact of Avoidance on Mental and Physical Health07:25 Manipulation and Self-Confidence: The Vicious Cycle17:57 Breaking the Cycle: Steps to Overcome Avoidance22:40 Rebuilding Social Networks and Facing Emotions28:24 Practical Tips for Pushing Through Avoidance

Exploring Neuroplastic Pain: Insights from Dr. David ClarkeIn this episode, host Deborah interviews Dr. David Clarke, President of the Association for Treatment of Neuroplastic Symptoms (ATNS). They discuss the chronic pain epidemic, neuroplasticity, and its link to stress-related and brain-generated medical conditions. Dr. Clarke highlights various conditions such as fibromyalgia, migraines, and chronic fatigue as examples of neuroplastic pain. He emphasizes the importance of understanding one's life stressors and adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) in diagnosing and treating these conditions. Deborah and Dr. Clarke also delve into the effectiveness of pain relief psychotherapy compared to traditional CBT. They underscore the essential role of self-esteem and the accurate understanding of personal experiences in relieving chronic pain and stress symptoms. The conversation sheds light on the necessity for modern healthcare to incorporate these insights for better patient outcomes.00:00 Introduction to Dr. David Clarke and ATNS00:58 Understanding Neuroplasticity03:04 Chronic Pain and Stress Connection05:52 Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Chronic Illness12:56 Pain Relief Psychotherapy and Its Effectiveness18:31 Differences Between CBT and Pain Relief Psychology24:54 The Language of Physical Symptoms28:28 Protective Programs and Boundary Setting29:01 Impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)29:42 Rebuilding Self-Esteem30:51 Therapeutic Techniques and Exercises31:56 The Role of Affirmations33:42 Understanding False Belief Systems34:10 Brain and Body Connection35:49 Journey into Gastroenterology and Neuroplasticity43:52 Challenges in Modern Healthcare45:26 The Importance of Collaboration in Healthcare46:05 Subtle Forms of Toxicity47:17 Patient Resistance and Acceptance49:27 The Power of Placebo and Effective Treatments51:20 Success Stories and TransformationsTo learn more visit: Symptomatic.Me

In this episode, I have the privilege of talking to Kim Davis, the multifaceted talent behind the true crime podcast, 'Slaycation'. Known for her diverse background in performing arts, social work, and raising awareness on domestic violence, Kim dives deep into her passion for true crime and storytelling. She discusses how her podcast began, the psychological aspects of crime, and the importance of recognizing red flags in relationships. Additionally, she candidly shares personal stories about her battle with cancer and how it has shaped her perspective on life and personal boundaries. The conversation also includes insights into maintaining healthy relationships and overcoming personal trauma.00:00 Introduction to Kim Davis01:26 Kim's Journey into True Crime Podcasting03:26 Exploring Human Behavior and True Crime04:55 Kim's Work in Domestic Violence05:53 Personal Reflections on Abuse and Healing08:27 Balancing Seriousness and Humor in True Crime10:53 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships20:21 Kim's Personal Journey and Therapy29:44 Navigating Boundaries in Relationships32:10 Parenting Challenges and Insights38:50 Overcoming Cancer: A Personal Journey46:27 The Power of a Supportive Home52:21 Lifelong Learning in Marriage53:32 Final Reflections and Gratitude

In this episode of the 'Healing from Toxic Abuse' podcast, Deborah welcomes Sean Kenny, author of 'Out of Step: A Memoir of a Life Misled.' Sean shares an emotional and introspective account of his personal journey, touching on themes of family, identity, and the long-lasting impact of toxic abuse. His memoir covers the eye-opening realizations that led him to rewrite his understanding of past events, revealing multiple layers of hidden truths about his family dynamics, particularly focusing on the revelations about his father and sister. The conversation delves into Sean's journey of self-discovery, the challenges of sharing deeply personal experiences, and the transformative power of writing.00:00 Introduction to Sean Kenny and His Memoir01:05 Sean's Dual Life: Engineer and Author02:27 A Family Vacation That Changed Everything03:36 Revelations and Family Secrets06:30 Questioning the Past: A New Perspective09:16 The Impact of Writing on Healing16:25 The Role of Memoirs in Healing36:15 Final Thoughts and Resources'Out of Step: A Memoir of a Life Misled' on Amazon.To contact Sean Kenny: seankennyauthor@gmail.com

The Hidden Dangers of People Pleasing: Identifying and Overcoming People Pleasing HabitsIn this episode, we dive into the complex world of people pleasing, a behavior often linked to toxic relationships. We explore the origins, signs, and detrimental impacts of people pleasing, including how it fosters low self-esteem, burnout, and unhealthy relationships. Key points include the importance of identifying personal needs and boundaries, and the necessity of self-compassion in overcoming these habits. The episode also highlights the skills developed by people pleasers and the importance of shifting from external to internal validation to foster genuine connections and personal growth.00:00 Introduction to People Pleasing00:15 Defining People Pleasing02:19 Signs You Might Be a People Pleaser04:51 The Consequences of People Pleasing09:19 Skills and Misconceptions of People Pleasers21:03 Root Causes of People Pleasing24:21 How to Stop Being a People Pleaser26:47 Setting Boundaries and Practicing Self-Compassion30:58 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, we meet Mark McNicol, the creator of Anonymous Drama Therapy, an innovative program making profound impacts in prisons and rehab centers by fostering emotional resilience through creative expression. Mark shares his journey from mainstream theater to developing this groundbreaking approach, addressing inherited trauma among individuals with substance use disorders. He delves into the unique processes and therapeutic intent of the program, the role of anonymity, and the integration of AI tools to assist facilitators. This episode offers insights into the powerful intersection of art, psychology, and healing. 00:00 Introduction to Mark McNicol and Anonymous Drama Therapy 01:03 Mark's Journey into Drama Therapy 01:35 First Experience in Prison Theatre 02:48 The Impact and Evolution of the Program 10:24 Therapeutic Intent and Anonymous Drama 11:19 Differences Between Psychodrama, Drama Therapy, and Anonymous Drama 15:30 Challenges and Safeguarding in Sessions 17:12 Participant Feedback and Program Expansion 25:49 Incorporating AI Tools in Drama Therapy 33:46 Personal Inspirations and Spiritual Connections 50:40 Conclusion and Contact Information Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@markmacnicol?app=desktop LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmacnicol/ Website: https://www.markmacnicol.com/

What is the most important factor in healing? In this episode, we explore the integral role of accountability in personal growth. We look into how accountability fosters self-awareness, emotional maturity, trust, respect, and healthy relationships. The discussion highlights the contrast between accountable individuals and those within the dark triad, such as narcissists, who struggle with this concept due to their fragile ego and lack of empathy. We explore various tactics these individuals use to avoid responsibility, like gaslighting and denial. Strategies to handle such individuals, from setting boundaries to seeking professional help, are also discussed. Additionally, we touch upon accountability from various spiritual perspectives, emphasizing its universal importance in personal evolution. 00:00 Introduction to Accountability and Personal Growth 00:26 The Role of Accountability in Relationships 00:42 Narcissism and Lack of Accountability 01:13 Building Problem-Solving Skills Through Accountability 01:38 Trust and Self-Respect Through Accountability 03:05 Empowerment and Self-Correction 03:30 The Importance of Self-Reflection 04:00 Challenges in Relationships with Narcissists 04:20 Psychological Factors Behind Lack of Accountability 09:17 Examples of Avoiding Accountability 16:35 Dealing with People Who Avoid Accountability 27:09 Conclusion: The Fundamental Nature of Accountability

In this compelling episode, Gloria Grace Rand, known as the Light Messenger, discusses her path of self-discovery and spiritual awakening. Gloria shares insights from her life, including her journey with her sister's cancer diagnosis, her divorce, and her upbringing in a challenging family environment. She reveals how these experiences influenced her work as an inspirational speaker, author, and spiritual business coach. Gloria talks about the importance of overcoming limiting beliefs, trusting one's higher self, and creating a life of joy, love, and abundance. She also touches on themes from her book 'Live, Love, Engage,' detailing her strategies for healing and personal growth. Tune in for a deep dive into her methods for helping mission-driven entrepreneurs and individuals heal and transform their lives. 00:00 Introduction to Gloria Grace Rand 01:25 Creating a Dream Life 01:42 Navigating Divorce and Personal Growth 07:22 Childhood and Family Dynamics 17:15 Impact of Sister's Cancer Diagnosis 23:13 Writing the Book: Live, Love, Engage 27:02 Finding Inspiration in Music 27:49 Overcoming Writing Obstacles 30:02 The Power of Dedication and Timing 33:25 Helping Others Through Coaching 36:29 The Importance of Asking for Help 42:11 Connecting with Higher Power 45:00 Advice for Those in Manipulative Relationships 48:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, we go further into the concept of gaslighting, building on the foundation laid in a previous episode. We look at how gaslighting manipulates your internal reality, and how it can cause long term effects, as explored through Anil Seth's theory of consciousness and controlled hallucinations. The question of ‘Who Am I', is examined, because after being in a toxic relationship, your sense of self changes. You begin to loose confidence as your reality gets twisted and manipulated. The episode breaks down Seth's ideas of identity and reality, conceptualized through his explanation of self-continuity, change blindness, and predictive processing. This concept applies to understanding how gaslighting influences our perception of ourselves and reality. Practical advice on recognizing and responding to gaslighting behavior is also provided, empowering you to trust your reality and protect your psychological well-being. When you can trust your reality, you can regain your sense of self, and therefore, your confidence. 00:00 Introduction and Recap 00:33 Understanding Gaslighting and Internal Reality 01:18 Anil Seth's Theory on Consciousness 02:06 Change Blindness and Self-Perception 07:13 Predictive Processing and Sensory Inputs 09:21 Gaslighting in Toxic Relationships 19:05 Recognizing and Responding to Gaslighting 26:12 Protecting Yourself from Gaslighting 28:39 Trusting Yourself and Healing To contact the host or participate on the podcast: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

Sugar as a toxin: In this episode, the host welcomes Mike Collins, a renowned expert in sugar addiction, to discuss the often overlooked issue of sugar addiction and its impact on overall well-being. If you don't have a goal for 2025, you'll want to consider reducing or eliminating sugar after hearing what Mike has to say. Mike shares his personal journey, which started with his family's history of sugar dependence and how it affected him throughout his life. He also elaborates on the similarities between sugar addiction and other types of addiction, the science behind it, and the importance of recognizing this as a serious issue. The conversation covers practical tips on identifying and overcoming sugar addiction, the role of emotional well-being in recovery, and the importance of peer support. Mike also talks about his book 'The Last Resort Sugar Detox' and his initiatives like the Sugar Addiction and Quit Sugar Summit to help people combat this pervasive issue. This episode provides valuable insights and a deep understanding of why sugar addiction should be taken seriously and how it can be addressed effectively. 00:00 Introduction and Special Guest 00:34 Mike's Personal Journey with Sugar Addiction 02:32 The Impact of Sugar on Health and Wellbeing 05:34 The Pandemic and Sugar Consumption 06:58 Defining and Recognizing Sugar Addiction 09:20 Emotional and Psychological Aspects of Sugar Addiction 13:12 Strategies for Overcoming Sugar Addiction 17:15 The Role of Support and Therapy 42:10 Mike's Personal Motivation and Final Thoughts 47:15 Conclusion and Resources www.SugarAddiction.com

In this episode, our host welcomes Kimberly Grustas, the inspiring founder of Good For You Girls, a natural skincare company for young girls. Kimberly shares her journey from working in the fitness and advertising industries to creating a line of healthy skincare products driven by her daughters' severe allergies and asthma. She discusses the importance of self-care, the psychological transformations during puberty, and how her products are designed to empower girls by promoting healthy habits. The conversation touches on the challenges of entrepreneurship, marketing strategies, and the significance of respecting and supporting the needs of young girls as they navigate puberty. 00:00 Introduction to Kimberly Grustas 01:10 Kimberly's Career Journey 02:35 Challenges and Inspirations 04:39 Founding Good For You Girls 07:06 Product Development and Philosophy 09:17 Empowering Young Girls 13:44 Marketing and Distribution 18:34 Challenges as a Female Entrepreneur 21:46 Reflecting on Fearlessness in Business 22:33 Turning Down Target: A Bold Decision 24:33 Challenges with Big Retailers 26:25 The Power of Social Media and Personal Branding 29:47 Support Systems and Family Influence 33:02 Facing Competition and Staying Positive 39:43 Inspiring Stories and the Importance of Self-Care 42:18 Final Thoughts and Gratitude www.goodforyougirls.com Coupon code for 20%off: InnerSource20 kim@goodforyougirls.com

In this episode Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS looks at the complexities of gaslighting, one of the most insidious and difficult forms of manipulation to detect and combat. Discover how programming from gaslighting often originates in childhood, particularly in environments where parents or caregivers use this tactic. Explore the deep psychological impact it has on self-doubt and distorted reality, making victims vulnerable to further manipulation in adult relationships. Practical examples illustrate how parents and significant others might use gaslighting to avoid accountability, twist reality, and shift blame. The episode also introduces ways to counteract gaslighting and begin the healing process, emphasizing the need for boundaries, self-awareness and research of the common tactics to reclaim and trust your own reality. The insights of British neuroscientist Anil Seth are incorporated to explain our brain's perception of reality and how it can be distorted by consistent gaslighting. 00:00 Understanding Gaslighting: An Introduction 01:00 The Impact of Gaslighting in Childhood 04:25 Recognizing Gaslighting in Relationships 05:07 Examples of Parental Gaslighting 10:12 Gaslighting in Romantic Relationships 15:17 The Neuroscience Behind Gaslighting 17:43 Strategies to Counteract Gaslighting 18:20 Conclusion and Next Steps

In this episode, I talk with Stacy Blemaster, author of the transformative book 'To Be or Not to Be, Shedding Innocence'. Stacy shares her journey from growing up in a family with generational secrets and emotional withholding, to enduring the struggles of a personality forged to please others. She discusses the critical turning points in her life, including her experiences in college and therapy, and how she took leaps of faith to find healing and authenticity. Stacy provides invaluable insights into breaking free from toxic relationships and rebuilding one's life, offering hope and guidance to anyone struggling in similar circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Stacy Blemaster 00:59 Stacy's Childhood and Family Secrets 02:31 College Struggles and Realizations 04:35 Therapy and the Journey to Authenticity 07:12 Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships 10:23 The Role of Faith and 12-Step Programs 17:10 Writing the Book and Family Reactions 28:01 Final Words of Wisdom and Encouragement To connect with Stacy Blemaster: Website: https://stacyblemaster.com/ email: StacyBle@gmail.com Instagram: @StacyBlemasterAuthor To connect with the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS: Website: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com Email: Deborah@InnerSourceTherapy.com

Curse or Schema? Either way, in this episode I'm talking about overcoming inherited traumas. What is a generational curse? And are you plagued with it? We look closley at the negative behavior patterns passed down through families. These patterns, often referred to as 'isms' such as alcoholism, gambling, abuse, and mental illness, can have severe impacts on various life aspects including health, relationships, and finances. Let's look at generational curses through the lens of modern psychology. Are what we refer to as ‘curses' really DNA-encoded or learned behavior patterns known as schemas?  This episode highlights the difficulties and immense effort required to break these curses or cycles, particularly for those in toxic environments. We look at the role that self-awareness plays in emotional resilience, and setting boundaries. The discussion also covers the specific schemas developed by family members of narcissists and also those of narcissists themselves. Ways of overcoming these deeply ingrained patterns are explored in our efforts to break the ‘generaltional curse'. 00:00 Introduction to Generational Curses 00:24 Understanding Isms and Their Impact 01:22 Modern Psychology's Take on Generational Curses 01:53 The Role of DNA and Learned Experiences 02:35 Schemas: The Building Blocks of Behavior 06:08 Breaking Free from Generational Curses 06:35 Narcissism and Its Schemas 09:33 The Black Sheep's Role in Breaking Curses 14:00 Subjugation Schema in Narcissistic Families 23:33 Emotional Inhibition Schema 28:21 Steps to Break the Cycle 35:14 Challenges in Breaking the Curse 37:46 Embracing Self-Compassion and Self-Care 40:05 Understanding Narcissistic Dynamics 42:14 The Role of the Black Sheep 44:02 Schemas and Their Impact 47:08 Subjugation Schema Explained 51:40 Mistrust Schema and Its Effects 57:37 Emotional Inhibition Schema 01:02:35 Breaking the Cycle of Generational Curses 35:14 Challenges and Resistance

Talking Trauma with Cindy Henry, LMFT, BCETS: Exploring Therapeutic Approaches In this episode, Cindy Henry, founder of the Los Angeles Therapy Network, joins the discussion on her extensive experience and multifaceted approaches to PTSD treatment. Cindy talks about various therapeutic methods such as EMDR, ketamine-assisted psychotherapy, and senso motor therapy that she uses in her practice. The conversation touches on the challenges faced in high-profile cases, the importance of cultural competency in trauma treatment, and broader societal impacts. Cindy also shares insights on navigating toxic relationships, the impacts of political climates on marginalized communities, and the potential benefits and risks associated with innovative treatments like ketamine therapy. This comprehensive conversation provides valuable tools, strategies, and support for healing and resilience in the face of trauma. 00:00 Introduction to Cindy Henry and Her Expertise 00:54 Discussing the Impact of Recent Events on Mental Health 02:03 Exploring Trauma Responses and Marginalized Communities 04:17 Cindy's Journey into Trauma Treatment 05:57 Insights into Hollywood's Dark Side 12:00 Understanding Toxic Relationships and Attachment 20:29 Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy and Other Treatments 28:07 Integrating Mind, Body, and Soul 28:28 Ketamine Therapy: A Faster Path to Healing 29:48 The Importance of Reinforcement and Introspection 31:11 Avoiding Toxic Influences During Reprogramming 31:38 Personal Experiences and the Power of Ketamine 35:28 Navigating Trauma from Powerful Predators 42:05 The Impact of Political and Social Issues on Mental Health 44:17 The Role of Community and Connection 51:22 The Wisdom of the Body in Healing 53:40 Final Thoughts and Contact Information To Reach Cindie Henrie, MFT, BCETS: www.latherapnetwork.com info@latmgroup.com 323-829-3548

Are you burdened with guilt? This episode is about overcoming guilt and shame.  We address the common feelings of guilt and shame that survivors may carry and offer insights on how to work through and release these emotions. Listen in and explore with me the complex emotion of guilt and its impact on our lives. Highlighting how manipulators use guilt as a control mechanism, we explore why and how people get programmed with guilt, the resulting behavior patterns, and their correlation with toxic relationships. The discussion also covers the definitions of guilt and shame, the psychological ramifications, and how cognitive dissonance plays a role. Learn strategies for breaking free from these manipulative cycles, building self-awareness, and fostering healthier emotional responses and boundaries. 00:00 Introduction to Guilt and Manipulation 02:13 Understanding Guilt: Definition and Origins 03:04 The Role of Toxic People in Guilt Programming 03:58 The Pain of Shame and Its Protective Role 05:28 How Guilt and Shame Develop in Childhood 10:08 Weaponizing Guilt and Shame: Manipulative Tactics 12:44 Effects of Guilt and Shame on Victims 17:08 Healing from Guilt and Shame 21:50 Coping Strategies and Techniques 25:00 The Interconnection Between Guilt and Anger 26:49 Conclusion: Taking Control of Guilt

This episode sheds light onto the hidden connections between parentified daughters and their vulnerability to toxic relationships. Uncover the patterns, experiences, and emotional wounds that can contribute to these relationship dynamics and learn how to break the cycle for a healthier, happier future. This episode talks about the concept of the parentified daughter, a term describing girls who are forced into parental roles due to dysfunctional family dynamics. The host covers how these daughters often end up in toxic relationships due to early programming that prioritizes others' needs over their own. We examine the hidden emotional abuse involved, unmet basic needs, and the development of harmful belief systems. The episode explores the unique challenges faced by parentified daughters, discussing topics such as blurred boundaries, role reversal, and the lasting impact on self-esteem, relationships, and mental health. This episode also brings to light the impacts that parentified daughters have understanding one's own emotions and needs. We offer strategies for healing, including self-reflection, boundary setting, and therapeutic support. 00:00 Introduction to Parentified Daughters 00:51 Defining the Parentified Daughter 01:40 Causes of Parentification 02:45 Consequences of Being a Parentified Daughter 05:27 Emotional Abuse and Long-Term Effects 07:46 Unmet Needs and Emotional Impact 16:56 Healing and Reprogramming 20:17 Seeking Support and Moving Forward

Is it worth calling out a Narcissist? This episode looks at the pros and cons of calling out a narcissist.  We explore how it impacts both the victim and the abuser. This covers strategies like gray rocking and other possible approaches that you can use to help secure your emotional wellbeing. You will be guided on how to set boundaries and break the cycle of abuse, while being aware of the potential risks of retaliation and emotional toll. Alternatives to direct confrontation and the necessity of professional support are also discussed, ensuring a holistic approach to dealing with toxic relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Narcissism 00:40 Understanding Narcissistic Behavior 04:40 The Power of Indifference 05:56 Benefits of Confronting a Narcissist 08:22 Downsides of Confronting a Narcissist 14:07 Alternatives to Confrontation 16:35 Gray Rock Method 20:13 Seeking Support and Professional Guidance 23:59 Recap and Final Thoughts

In this episode, we explore why it's so challenging to leave narcissists and people along the dark triad. We explore the typical life cycle of toxic relationships, starting from the initial intense attraction to the subtle manipulations that make breaking free so difficult. This episode also covers various manipulative tactics used by narcissists, the emotional toll they take on their victims, and practical steps for regaining a sense of self and making the decision to leave. This is for anyone looking to understand, why it's so difficult to leave a toxic relationship.   00:00 Introduction: Why Narcissists Are Hard to Leave 00:29 The Life Cycle of a Toxic Relationship 00:54 Early Signs and Emotional Manipulation 03:05 The Cracks Begin to Show 03:39 Denial and Self-Blame 05:39 Forms of Abuse and Manipulation 07:57 Realizing the Extent of the Damage 09:16 The Difficulty of Breaking Free 10:40 Responses to Confrontation 11:50 The Cycle of False Promises 16:05 Denial and Gaslighting 21:01 The Emotional Toll and Self-Doubt 24:44 The Decision to Leave 29:57 Rebuilding and Seeking Support 33:20 Conclusion: Finding Your True Self

In this episode, we sit down with life coach Michelle Gauthier, who specializes in helping overwhelmed women find peace and purpose. Michelle shares her inspiring journey from a 20-year corporate career to becoming a life coach and highlights the challenges and rewards of making such a life-altering decision. We discuss the impact of people pleasing on personal and professional life, look into Michelle's own experiences and insights, and provide valuable advice on how to break free from the cycle of people pleasing to live a more authentic and fulfilling life.  Additionally, Michelle offers practical tips such as the Love and Fit method and the importance of self-awareness and mindfulness in overcoming people-pleasing tendencies. This episode is an eye-opener for anyone struggling with putting others before themselves and looking to reclaim their own happiness. 00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement 01:00 Michelle's Journey: From Corporate to Life Coach 04:33 Challenges and Major Life Changes 07:00 Helping Clients Overcome Overwhelm 08:24 Understanding and Addressing People Pleasing 16:48 Impact of People Pleasing on Relationships 21:38 Recognizing People Pleasing in the Workplace 22:46 The Impact of People Pleasing on Personal Life 26:42 Self-Awareness and Mindfulness in Overcoming People Pleasing 28:59 Distinguishing Between Authenticity and People Pleasing 31:11 Long-Term Effects of People Pleasing on Identity 35:19 Transitioning from Corporate Career to Coaching 37:37 Advice for Overcoming People Pleasing Tendencies 40:38 Conclusion and Resources Michelle's Podcast: Overwhelmed Working Woman podcast  MIchelle's Website: www.michellegauthier.com  Michelle's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michellegauthiercoaching/ Deborah's Website: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode, Deborah welcomes Barbara With, an internationally renowned peace activist, award-winning author, and psychic channel to the brilliant mind of Albert Einstein. Barbara shares insights into her transformative work, particularly the Conflict Revolution process, which integrates intellect, intuition, and emotion. Drawing from her own experiences of personal trauma and healing, Barbara details how aligning these human dimensions can lead to profound personal and societal change. The conversation delves into her connection with Einstein, the scientific underpinnings of her methods, and the broader implications for global peace. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Mix-Up 00:41 Introducing Barbara Wythe 01:54 Barbara's Journey and Conflict Revolution 06:07 The Three Human Dimensions 08:41 Applying Conflict Revolution 16:30 Personal Trauma and Healing 31:52 Channeling Albert Einstein 34:59 Global Impact and Final Thoughts To learn more about Barbara With and find her books: www.synergyalliance.llc

Welcome to Season 2 of Healing from Toxic Abuse. In this episode, we illustrate the complex and insidious nature of covert abuse through the powerful story of Kate, a true story inspired by her real-life events. Join our host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS, a licensed mental health therapist, as she delves into Kate's harrowing experience of being married to a covert narcissist. Over the years, Kate's husband Steven indulged in numerous affairs, leaving her grappling with anxiety, depression, and a shattered sense of self. Deborah unpacks the complex phenomena of trauma bonding and cognitive dissonance that often trap victims in abusive relationships. The episode reveals Kate's struggle to regain her self-worth and explores her path to healing – including her encounter with Randy, a kind-hearted man who rekindles hope and affection in her life. Through Kate's story, this podcast aims to shed light on the hidden world of toxic abuse and inspire listeners to recognize and escape similar patterns in their own lives. 00:00 Introduction: The Unforgivable Sin of Infidelity 00:29 Welcome to 'Real Stories, Real Healing' 01:34 Kate's Story: A Marriage with a Covert Narcissist 03:02 Understanding Trauma Bonding 03:50 A Day in the Life of Kate and Steven 05:14 The Impact of Cognitive Dissonance 10:15 The Devastating Discovery 12:43 Psychological Effects of Long-Term Infidelity 18:30 Kate's New Beginning with Randy 23:17 The Contrast Effect and New Relationships 26:53 Pros and Cons of Escaping Trauma Bonds 32:59 Conclusion: Prioritizing Self-Healing and Boundaries

This episode explores the concept of ghosting within narcissistic relationships, termed 'The Phantom Menace.' Ghosting is when a narcissist abruptly cuts off all communication, leading to feelings of confusion, abandonment, and self-blame in their victims. This episode delves into why narcissists engage in ghosting to assert control, avoid accountability, and manipulate their victims. We also discuss the emotional turmoil experienced by those who are ghosted and provide strategies for healing, setting boundaries, and protecting oneself from further harm. Additionally, the episode addresses how to effectively cut off contact with a narcissist and the potential risks involved. Lastly, listeners are encouraged to share their experiences and engage with Season 2 of the podcast, which will feature dramatized stories of toxic abuse. 00:00 Introduction to Ghosting 00:37 Understanding Narcissistic Ghosting 02:50 Emotional Impact of Ghosting 06:37 Reasons Behind Narcissistic Ghosting 10:31 Cowardice in Ghosting 15:18 Emotional Turmoil and Healing 23:12 Examples and Tactics of Ghosting 25:27 Understanding Narcissistic Ghosting 26:12 Steps to Heal After Being Ghosted 27:45 Setting Boundaries with a Narcissist 28:24 Reframing the Experience 29:13 Cutting Off Narcissistic Supply 30:43 Ghosting a Narcissist: Taking Control 32:36 Potential Risks of Ghosting a Narcissist 35:41 Safety Tips for Ghosting a Narcissist 40:27 Emotional Impact on the Narcissist 47:41 Final Thoughts and Season 2 Preview #healingfromtoxicabuse #healingfromtoxicrelationships

This episode looks at the bewildering experience of being in a relationship with a covert narcissist. Unlike overt narcissists, covert narcissists are master manipulators who subtly erode your sense of self-worth and agency. This episode covers the warning signs, the impact on your mental health, and strategies for regaining your sense of self. We also discuss the normalization of toxic behaviors and provide insights into what covert narcissists truly want from you. If you've been wondering if you might be in a relationship with a narcissist, but can't be sure due to the covert level of manipulation, listen in. Uncover these hidden dynamics and start your journey towards healing and empowerment. 00:00 Introduction: Identifying a Covert Narcissist 00:39 The Subtle Manipulation Tactics 01:36 Signs You're in a Toxic Relationship 03:16 Questioning Your Reality 05:44 Recognizing Manipulative Behaviors 08:37 Emotional Drain and Dependency 13:36 Toxic Relationship Habits 24:09 What Do They Want from You? 29:31 The Path to Healing and Recovery To contact your host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode, we explore how narcissists identify and target their victims by detecting traits such as empathy, insecurity, naivety, and status. Learn how narcissists exploit these qualities to manipulate and control their victims. We look into the nature of narcissistic alliances and provide strategies to protect yourself from falling prey to their tactics. From active listening to maintaining boundaries, discover tips to guard against manipulation and preserve your emotional well-being.00:00 Introduction: Understanding Narcissist Detectors01:26 Traits Narcissists Look For in Victims02:01 Narcissists' Dynamics with Each Other05:07 Empathy: A Prime Target for Narcissists06:43 Active Listening: A Narcissist's Magnet11:00 Emotional Expression and Vulnerability20:14 The Role of Insecurity and Low Self-Esteem25:28 Success and Social Status as Narcissist Bait28:25 Codependency: A Narcissist's Dream32:02 Naivety and Gullibility: Easy Prey38:27 Protecting Yourself from Narcissistic Manipulation42:17 Guarding Your Valuable Traits

In this episode, Kyle V. Robinson, author of Wandering Spark, shares his transformative journey from a tumultuous childhood marked by abuse and toxic relationships, through a tumultuous adolescence and young adulthood filled with rebellion and legal troubles, to ultimately becoming a licensed attorney and author. Kyle discusses the pivotal moments that inspired his change, including influential mentors and self-discovery through writing and therapy. He offers practical advice on overcoming toxic relationships, the importance of positive influences, and the power of self-belief. Despite his challenges, Kyle emphasizes the significance of perseverance, self-care, and the search for personal happiness. 00:00 Introduction and Initial Conversation 01:04 Correcting the Introduction 04:19 Kyle's Early Life and Family Struggles 07:11 High School Rebellion and Turning Points 14:33 College Challenges and Realizations 18:11 Journey to Law School 19:19 Law School and Career Beginnings 26:16 Finding Positivity and Starting a Business 26:55 Struggles with Fulfillment and Van Life 27:45 Writing as a Path to Healing 29:06 Therapy and Self-Discovery 31:26 Identifying and Overcoming Toxic Patterns 43:22 The Importance of Positive Relationships 46:53 Advice for Leaving Toxic Relationships 52:55 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

In this episode of the Inner Source Healing Podcast, host Deborah Ashway, a licensed clinical mental health therapist, and addiction specialist, discusses symptoms of toxic abuse and healing strategies. Joined by multi-talented guest Greg Benick—musician, activist, filmmaker, and author of 'Reclaim the Moment, Seven Strategies to Build a Better Now'—they explore Greg's diverse endeavors, the importance of creativity, and maintaining self-esteem. Topics include his activism with Seattle's teen dance and all-ages dance ordinance, strategies for focusing and centering oneself, and his personal journey with sobriety and veganism. Listeners are encouraged to foster self-esteem, build healthier relationships, and find joy in creativity to reclaim their moments. 00:00 Introduction to Inner Source Healing Podcast 01:22 Meet Greg Benick: Musician, Activist, and Author 02:42 Greg's Journey and Philosophy on Creativity 05:35 The Importance of Focus and Self-Esteem 08:15 Reclaim the Moment: Seven Strategies to Build a Better Now 17:41 The Teen Dance Ordinance: Changing the System from Within 26:46 Aligning on Youth Protection 27:07 Balancing Safety and Cultural Access 28:11 Navigating Opposing Forces 29:08 The Path of Least Resistance 29:58 Personal Choices and Sobriety 32:49 Facing Social Norms and Challenges 34:30 Toxic Relationships and Self-Reflection 42:40 The Metaphor of Juggling 45:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts @GregBennick To contact the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS,  hosts Liz Long, the inspiring author of 'Navigating Shitstorms: How to Find Your True Path When Life Gets Rough.' Liz shares her profound journey from childhood trauma and adult depression to healing and becoming a mental health advocate. Liz discusses her transformative experiences with EMDR therapy, the importance of self-love, boundaries, and radical self-care. She introduces the concept of Victim Town and Freedomville to illustrate the internal dialogues we have and shares strategies to tap into our intrinsic power. Listeners are encouraged to embrace resilience, self-awareness, and the practice of meditation to strengthen their heart voice and navigate life's challenges. 00:00 Introduction to Liz Long and Her Journey 00:36 Liz's Background and Career Shift 05:50 Understanding Victim Town and Heart Voice 14:37 The Importance of Emotions and Self-Care 36:13 Mental Health Advocacy and Meditation 40:38 Conclusion and Contact Information www.LizLongWrites.com

In this episode of the Inner Source Healing Podcast, licensed clinical mental health therapist Deborah Ashway talks with Laura Rhodes-Levin, author and founder of The Missing Peace Center for Anxiety. Laura shares her personal struggles with anxiety and how generational trauma and modern stressors impact mental health. She discusses her book 'The Missing Peace' and explains her unique approach at the center, combining traditional therapy with spirituality and modern technology. The conversation also delves into strategies for overcoming toxic abuse, recognizing self-worth, and using expressive arts for healing. 00:00 Introduction to Inner Source Healing Podcast 01:01 Meet Laura Rhodes Levin: Author and Therapist 02:21 Understanding Anxiety and Its Generational Impact 05:22 The Role of the Frontal Cortex in Anxiety 06:38 Creating The Missing Peace Center for Anxiety 09:56 Harnessing Anxiety and Shifting Focus 16:34 The Role of Spirituality in Healing 19:29 Integrating Modern Technology in Therapy 24:38 The Power of the Senses 25:22 Mindfulness and the Body 26:05 Healing the Wounded Child 27:08 Expressive Arts in Therapy 29:09 Developing Healing Strategies 30:13 Raising Your Frequency 31:55 Understanding Self-Worth 34:27 Healing from Toxic Abuse 40:11 The PHEW Foundation 42:13 The Journey of Healing 44:14 Conclusion and Contact Information

In this episode of the Inner Source Healing Podcast, host Deborah Ashway discusses the journey of healing from toxic abuse with esteemed yoga instructor Fiji McAlpine. Fiji shares her story of overcoming a back injury and mental health struggles through yoga, offers insights into the chakra system and its role in emotional healing, and explains how yoga can help develop healthy boundaries and resilience in relationships. The conversation highlights the transformative power of yoga, the importance of balancing energy, and practical ways to incorporate yoga into one's healing process. 00:00 Introduction to Inner Source Healing Podcast 00:59 Meet Fiji McAlpine: Yoga Instructor and Healer 04:08 Fiji's Journey into Yoga and Healing 09:05 The Power of Yoga in Healing Emotional Trauma 12:04 Connecting Mind, Body, and Emotions Through Yoga 23:40 Developing Healthy Boundaries and Resilience with Yoga 28:26 Navigating Yoga with Injuries 29:58 Personal Journey of Healing Through Yoga 32:20 Understanding Pain and Resistance in Yoga 36:08 The Chakra System and Its Role in Healing 38:10 Exploring the Seven Chakras 51:12 Incorporating Yoga into Your Healing Process 53:12 Conclusion and Resources Link to premium subscription for six months: https://www.doyogawithme.com/yoga-promotion?utm_source=hfta&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=trial_signup To connect with host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this profoundly moving episode, we explore the power of resilience, healing, and self-discovery through the lens of poetry and personal narrative. Our guest, Cheryl Bannerman, author of "Words Never Spoken," shares her harrowing journey from the depths of hidden abuse to finding her voice and empowerment. Cheryl's story is not just one of survival but of transformation, illustrating how writing and faith can be potent tools for overcoming trauma.  Through her poetry journal for healing, Cheryl offers insights into the therapeutic process, encouraging others to find their own path of resilience, self awareness, and identity. This episode dives into the pivotal moments that led Cheryl to break the silence surrounding abuse, the role of spirituality in her healing journey, and how she utilizes her experiences to advocate for mental health and self-expression.  You will find a powerful testimony to the strength of the human spirit and the transformative power of self-expression and faith. Cheryl's openness about her struggle and subsequent recovery offers hope and a blueprint for anyone navigating their own path out of darkness. Join us for an inspiring conversation that highlights the importance of finding one's voice, setting boundaries, and rediscovering oneself through the healing power of writing. 00:00 Introduction to Cheryl Bannerman 00:25 Cheryl's Personal Journey and Inspiration Behind 'Words Never Spoken' 01:45 The Impact of Emotional and Verbal Abuse 02:24 Healing Through Writing and Faith 04:20 Encouraging Readers to Find Their Voice 06:22 Understanding Boundaries and Personal Growth 11:19 The Role of Faith and Spirituality in Healing 18:46 Challenges in Writing and Overcoming Trauma 20:31 Themes of Resilience and Self-Discovery 22:58 Reprogramming and Overcoming Negative Self-Perception 28:59 Understanding the Complexity of Toxic Relationships 30:02 The Role of Vulnerability in Writing 30:17 Balancing Authenticity and Emotional Well-being 30:58 The Power of Metaphors in Poetry 31:30 Surviving and Obscuring in Abusive Relationships 32:19 Public vs. Private Personas of Abusers 32:32 Reconnecting and Setting Boundaries 33:18 Mental Health Advocacy and Writing 37:31 Advice for Aspiring Poets 39:39 Exploring Other Works and Inspirations 41:13 Understanding Monsters Through Writing 43:50 The Importance of Empathy and Boundaries 46:27 Resources for Self-Discovery and Healing 48:49 Where to Find More Information 49:34 Conclusion and Final Thoughts www.BannermanBooks.com  To contact the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode of the Inner Source Healing Podcast, licensed therapist and addiction specialist Deborah Ashway continues to explore recognizing and dealing with love bombing in toxic relationships. She discusses the red flags like excessive gifts, rapid relationship milestones, and isolation tactics, and offers strategies for setting boundaries and seeking support. Deborah also highlights the importance of self-care, the role of therapy, and methods like EMDR to help individuals heal and reprogram their thoughts and nervous systems after experiencing manipulation. Through keen self-awareness and continuous effort, listeners are encouraged to rebuild their sense of self-worth and move towards healthier relationship patterns. 00:00 Introduction to Inner Source Healing 01:06 Understanding Love Bombing 01:55 Recognizing Red Flags 07:32 Setting Boundaries and Seeking Support 12:56 Healing and Reprogramming 21:39 Conclusion and Encouragement

In this episode of the Inner Source Healing Podcast, licensed clinical mental health therapist Deborah Ashway is joined by Dr. Jamie Huysman, a bestselling author and founder of the Toxic Abuse Relationship Network (TAR Network). Dr. Huysman shares his extensive experience in narcissistic behavior and toxic abusive relationships, discussing how individuals can empower themselves to break free from unhealthy dynamics. They explore the complexities of attachment disorders, the concept of trauma bonding, and the significant impact toxic abuse has on individuals and families. Emphasizing the importance of self-care, boundary setting, and seeking support, Dr. Huysman introduces listeners to the resources offered by the TAR Network, including virtual support groups and trauma-informed approaches to healing. This insightful conversation sheds light on the journey of recovery and the importance of creating awareness around toxic relationships. 00:00 Welcome to Inner Source Healing Podcast 01:02 Behind the Scenes: Preparing for the Interview 01:56 Introducing Dr. Jamie Heisman: A Journey from Personal Struggle to Professional Triumph 06:33 The Birth and Mission of the TAR Network 14:20 Understanding Toxic Relationships: Signs and Recovery 18:36 The Role of Attachment Disorders in Toxic Relationships 22:45 Distinguishing Between Personality Disorders and Traits 24:08 Unveiling the Complexity of Narcissism and Empathy 25:18 The Devastating Impact of Toxic Relationships 29:36 Navigating Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex 35:08 Empowerment Through Healing and Support Networks 35:29 Understanding and Addressing Complex PTSD 38:06 The Journey of Recovery and Self-Care 43:31 Closing Thoughts and Resources Links: https://taranon.org/ https://tarnetwork.org/ https://drjamie.com/#tar

In this episode of the Inner Source Healing Podcast, host Deborah Ashway, a licensed clinical mental health therapist and addiction specialist, dives into the manipulative tactic of love bombing. The podcast covers how love bombing works as a tactic used in the initial stages of a relationship to establish control and dependency through excessive affection, attention, and admiration. Ashway explains the signs of love bombing in romantic, familial, and friendship contexts and its long-term consequences on mental health, self-esteem, and the ability to form healthy relationships. She highlights the importance of recognizing these patterns and the necessity of seeking professional support for healing. The episode emphasizes self-compassion and the significance of trusting one's feelings in the journey toward inner healing and empowerment. 00:00 Introduction to Healing from Toxic Abuse 00:36 Understanding and Healing from Toxic Abuse 01:26 Deep Dive into Love Bombing: Recognizing Manipulative Tactics 03:24 Love Bombing in Romantic Relationships 07:32 Identifying Love Bombing in Family Dynamics 10:11 Spotting Love Bombing in Friendships and Social Circles 14:33 The Psychological Impact of Love Bombing 18:16 Concluding Thoughts and Seeking Therapy

This episode invites Gloria Landaño to share her stirring journey of overcoming toxic abuse, including a traumatic kidnapping at 25 and subsequent toxic relationships. Hosted by Deborah Ashway, a licensed therapist with personal experience in addiction and abuse recovery, the episode explores the intricacies of trauma bonds, Stockholm syndrome, and the profound effects of toxic relationships. Gloria discusses the complexity of her healing process, the impact on her family, particularly her daughter, and the transformative power of acknowledging one's toxic traits, embracing vulnerability, and pursuing personal growth. Through her story of courage, resilience, and empowerment, Gloria shines a light on the importance of self-compassion, the exploration of one's roots, and the potential for reinvention at any stage in life. This episode is not only Gloria's testament to human spirit's capacity to heal and flourish but also an informative resource offering hope and guidance to those on their healing journey from toxic abuse. 00:00 Introduction to Healing from Toxic Abuse 01:17 Gloria Landaño's Journey: From Kidnapping to Empowerment 03:01 The Transformative Power of Sharing and Healing 04:13 Understanding Trauma's Role in Personal Evolution 07:00 Navigating the Aftermath of Kidnapping and Stockholm Syndrome 10:16 Breaking the Cycle: From Toxic Relationships to Self-Discovery 22:02 The Impact of Trauma on Family Dynamics and Healing 27:37 Rebuilding Relationships: Communication and Forgiveness 32:45 Navigating the Aftermath of Kidnapping: A Journey to Self-Love 34:41 Understanding Stockholm Syndrome Through Personal Experience 40:04 The Cycle of Toxic Relationships and Self-Reflection 42:13 Rebuilding Life and Business After Abuse 52:04 Embracing a New Beginning: Life After Divorce and Rediscovery 57:10 The Power of Healing and Transformation

The Healing From Toxic Abuse podcast, hosted by Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS, focuses on aiding individuals in healing from toxic abuse and explores a journey through complex health disorders. In this episode, guest Jennifer Brower, author of Silent Killers, shares her personal experience with Lyme disease, mold toxicity, mercury poisoning, and coronavirus, highlighting her 25-year struggle after a spider bite. Jennifer's battle encompasses not just the physical ailments but also the emotional impact and the challenge of navigating the medical system and society's understanding of her conditions. The discussion includes the importance of alternative healing methods, self-advocacy, and the power of love and joy in the healing process. Jennifer also touches on the significance of detoxification and maintaining a strong immune system. This episode is a testament to resilience, the human spirit's strength, and the transformative power of healing and self-discovery. 00:00 Introduction to Healing from Toxic Abuse 01:16 Meet Jennifer Brower: A Journey of Resilience and Healing 01:35 The Start of Jennifer's Health Challenges: Spider Bite and Its Aftermath 01:57 Navigating Complex Health Disorders and the Importance of Self-Advocacy 11:03 Exploring Alternative Healing and the Power of Emotional Well-being 21:06 The Role of Joy and Love in Healing and Overcoming Health Challenges 35:26 Jennifer's Continued Journey and Resources for Healing 42:35 Closing Thoughts and the Power of Love in Healing

In this episode, I am honored to welcome special guest Comfort Woods, a survivor and advocate for those impacted by narcissistic abuse. Join us as we dive into Comfort's personal journey, her dedication to supporting others in their healing process, and the importance of sharing stories to build resilience and promote empowerment. Throughout the conversation, Comfort shares invaluable insights on her personal experiences with toxic abuse, discussing the challenges she faced and the transformative process of breaking free. We discuss the power of storytelling and how sharing personal narratives can foster connection, inspire hope, and challenge the stigma surrounding toxic abuse. Comfort also shares practical strategies and resources for cultivating resilience and overcoming the lasting effects of narcissistic abuse. Listen in as we amplify the voices of survivors and highlight the power of resilience in the face of adversity. Together, we can create a space for healing, growth, and empowerment while learning more about Comfort's mission to support and empower individuals on their healing journey, emphasizing the importance of community and self-compassion. To contact Comfort Woods: https://comfortwoods.coach/

In this episode of Healing From Toxic Abuse, we look into the complexities of living with a narcissist and explore how these relationships often feel like carefully choreographed stage productions. Learn why everyone around them, including the narcissist, has a role to play. Gain insights into the tactics narcissists employ to manipulate their partners and maintain control over the narrative, and the roles we play as we examine the grand illusion they create to obscure their true intentions. Throughout the discussion, we explore key aspects of narcissistic relationships. Discover how narcissists craft a persona to hide their true selves, making it nearly impossible to genuinely know and understand them. Explore the ways in which narcissists manipulate their partners and engineer situations to maintain control, turning daily life into a meticulously managed performance. We also uncover how gaslighting plays a crucial part in the narcissist's repertoire, distorting reality and eroding their partner's sense of self. Join in for this eye-opening episode of Healing From Toxic Abuse as we pull back the curtain on the narcissist's grand illusion. Learn strategies for recognizing and dismantling the narcissist's carefully constructed façade, empowering you to reclaim your agency and identity. We offer guidance and support for those seeking clarity and healing in the wake of these manipulative relationships. To contact host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com TikTok: @therapist_debashway Instagram: inner_source_therapy

In this powerful episode of Healing From Toxic Abuse, I sit down with author Jeannine L. Rashidi, AP to discuss her transformative journey from a victim of toxic abuse to a resilient survivor and advocate. Jeannine shares invaluable insights on overcoming trauma, self-discovery, and reclaiming one's identity in the aftermath of toxic relationships. Jeannine's story is a powerful testament to resilience and growth, offering invaluable lessons and techniques that have helped her and others break free from the cycle of toxicity. Throughout the interview, we explore key aspects of Jeannine's journey, including: A Story of Resilience: Jeannine candidly shares her experiences with toxic abuse, highlighting the strength and determination that ultimately led to her liberation. Lessons Learned Along the Way: Discover the essential insights Jeannine gained during her healing process, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and personal growth. Empowering Techniques: Learn about the practical strategies Jeannine has developed and incorporated into her work as a life coach, guiding others on their path to healing and transformation. Cultivating Hope and Inspiration: Gain inspiration from Jeannine's remarkable journey as she shares her message of hope and resilience, encouraging listeners to embrace their inner strength and potential for growth. Don't miss this enlightening episode of Healing From Toxic Abuse, where Jeannine Rashidi's incredible story serves as an inspiration of hope for those navigating the complexities of toxic relationships and seeking a brighter, more empowered future. Jeaninne Rashidi's book: Abundance Beyond Trauma: Discovering Your Courage for Change and Commitment to Yourself, By Jeannine Rashidi, AP To contact the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

Learn the basics of the most common manipulation and mind-control tactics employed by narcissists and toxic manipulators. Empower yourself with the knowledge and the tools necessary to recognize and navigate through these often subtle, yet damaging, forms of manipulation. Join me in breaking down the tactics commonly used by narcissists and toxic individuals, such as gaslighting, love-bombing, guilt-tripping, and more. We'll explore examples and insights to help you better understand the dynamics of these relationships. If you're seeking to identify toxic patterns in your own relationships or may be experiencing narcissistic abuse, this episode helps you decode the narcissist's programming so that you can recognize when someone is trying to control or manipulate you. Tune in and arm yourself with the knowledge to protect your mental well-being and create healthier relationships.

In this episode, I am honored to have an enlightening conversation with Dr. Angie Read Doyle, an esteemed psychologist and author specializing in toxic relationships, trauma recovery, and mental health. Dr. Doyle shares invaluable insights into the dynamics of toxic relationships, the effects of emotional abuse, and the importance of self-care on the journey to healing. Discover how to break free from the cycle of abuse, develop resilience, and build healthier relationships through Dr. Doyle's expert guidance. Tune in now and join us on the path to healing, growth, and empowerment. Connect with Dr. Angie Read Doyle: www.legacycoachingforher.com Information about the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com #HealingFromToxicAbuse #MentalHealth #ToxicRelationships #EmotionalAbuse #SelfCare #Resilience #DrAngieReadDoyle #TraumaRecovery #Empowerment

In this episode, we are joined by a special guest, Suzanne Lachmann, a psychotherapist and author. Suzanne shares her expertise on understanding the patterns and dynamics of toxic relationships, the importance of self-compassion and boundaries, and how to navigate the healing journey. During the interview, Suzanne provides practical strategies for recognizing the signs of toxic relationships, setting healthy boundaries, and cultivating resilience and self-esteem. She emphasizes the importance of self-care and mindfulness as tools for recovery and growth. Listen to this empowering conversation and learn how to break free from the cycle of toxic relationships and build healthier, more fulfilling connections. To connect with Dr. Suzanne Lachmann: Website: http://www.drxuzannel.com email: suzannelachmann@gmail.com Facebook: drxuzannelachmann To connect with the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS: Website: http://www.innersourcetherapy.com Email: Deborah@InnerSourceTherapy.com #HealingFromToxicRelationships #SuzanneLachmann #SelfCare #Boundaries #Resilience #Empowerment