The SuperpowHer Podcast

It's always important to know when something has reached its end. Closing circles. Shutting doors, finishing chapters; it doesn't matter what we call it.  What matters is leaving in the past those moments that are over. Sometimes we stare so long at a door that is closing that we see too late the one that is open. Consider that God closed that door because he knew you were worth much more. In part 1 of When Closing Some Windows Open More Doors, I talked about how multitasking (aka too many open windows) impacts our brains.  Now let's discuss how and why diminishing these distractions can open doors of destiny.

When your phone or computer has too many apps running — when there are too many windows open, you know what happens, right? It slows down because it's trying to process all that info at once.  And, when all those windows are open at once, the computer or phone can freeze up and even crash. The same thing happens to us too when we have too many “windows” open simultaneously and for too long! Multi-tasking puts an awful strain on our brains and it's even proven by research!  

Ever thought you knew yourself only to discover parts you didn't realize were there? Whether it's the infamous smackdown by a nice guy like Will Smith at the Oscars or the blessings that we're often ungrateful for...Celebrity Minister and Celebrity Make-up Artist Kym Lee and host Deya Direct have a girlfriends heart to heart about how our  contradictory behaviors can reveal our truths and provide clarity about what we need to do and how we need to grow. One area of growth discussed was learning to live every moment fully to the best of our ability.  And while it's a very Hollywood mentality to always focus on the next big thing, Kym shares how Actress Angela Bassett helped her focus within and reminds us that 'next is actually now'.  Sound like a contradiction? But what if we're living in the midst of answered prayers? Discover what we mean...

Chef Enjolik Oree-Bailey of Low Country Quisine shares her tips on what it takes to be a new entrepreneur, new mom and new wife all while trying to keep things spicy in business and the bedroom. She even shares ingredients that are aphrodisiacs and her special recipe to give you that extra boost with your boo.

In a continuation from "HEAD AND HEART TALK: Free Your Mind and Body" Part 1 with Psychotherapist Andrea Wise-Brown, we explore how to free your mind from negative  thoughts, but also how thoughts can have a direct affect on your body and intimacy. We also cover what it means to: Be in a healthy relationship; How to communicate your needs more effectively; How to create a safe space for your partner, and so much more.

The group En Vogue once sang “Free Your Mind and the Rest will Follow…”  So if you're ready to be released mentally, emotionally and more, tune in to the sixth season Superpower podcast.  All Season we'll be discovering and discussing how you can Go Forth and Prosper in 2022! The first episode of the season features Psychotherapist Andrea Wise-Brown. Host Deya Direct talks to her about the connection between the mind, the body and the spirit, all the way from our heads to our sex lives.  In this episode you'll learn so much including: How the brain is an engine and you have the power to mentally move from being a pessimist to becoming an optimist; How experiencing losses is a part of life's transition, but you can make the decision to grow; Life is always conspiring for your good; How black women, in particular, can work to overcome barriers and attract a better life; The connections between your brain and your body.

Super Self-care Life Coach Deya gets direct with Psychotherapist Tori Dixon about the challenges so many are having this holiday season coping with loss, change, and grief. In this episode you will learn how to: Embrace your truth not judge it, Work through the pain, Give yourself permission to enjoy happy moments, and; Reinvent your holiday traditions.

Are you afraid of being alone, afraid of rejection, afraid of disappointing others, afraid of being hurt AGAIN, afraid of failing or even afraid of what it takes to be successful?  Pushing past the fear and making the best decision for your life may not be easy nor popular, but the cost is too high not to.  You must own your truth, fight through the fear and choose what's best for yourself! It's natural to have a sense of fear about pain, failure, or anything that can cause an unpleasant experience.  Failing at something  does not make you a failure, you can Fail-Up.  God said that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. In this episode, I hope to help you do three things: Feel the Fear Face the Fear and Make it Your Friend Be Very Courageous & Fly  

The “Strong Black Woman” mantra is so embraced by our culture that it is seldom realized just how great of a toll it's taken on the emotional well-being of black and African American women. As much as it may give us the illusion of control, strength and resilience, which can be positive and has served us well to a degree; it is also linked to adverse mental and physical health outcomes such as anxiety, depression and cardiovascular disease. In part 2 of this series, we discuss how and why the SBW concept was created and how it's impacting our overall well-being.

The “Strong Black Woman” mantra is so embraced by our culture that it is seldom realized just how great of a toll it's taken on the emotional well-being of black and African American women. As much as it may give us the illusion of control, strength and resilience, which can be positive and has served us well to a degree; it is also linked to adverse mental and physical health outcomes such as anxiety, depression and cardiovascular disease. In this episode we discuss how the SBW concept may keep us from identifying what we need and reaching out for help, and for that matter even believing that we deserve to do so.

Hey strong woman!  Have you ever been accused of shrinking your man? Do you want to be in a healthy relationship that affirms your man God's way, but you honestly don't know how?  Would you like to learn how to use your femininity as an edge to win in love and life? Well, those are the questions we asked and answered in the first part of this updated  2.0 series “How to Love a Black Man God's Way”  featuring Tammy Franklin, wife of multi-award winning Gospel artist Kirk Franklin. Here in part 2, not only does she share her story of relationship ups, downs, and lessons when it comes to “Loving God's Way.”  But more specifically we learn how together she and Kirk turned one of his most private and vulnerable revelations into a testimonial tool to help others get delivered. 

Are you a strong woman?  Have you ever been accused of shrinking your man, or having such dominant or masculine energy that it's hard for you to attract or keep a good and strong man? Do you want to be in a healthy relationship that affirms your man God's way, but you honestly don't know how?  Would you like to learn how to use your femininity as an edge to win in love and life? Maybe it's time you learn how to diversify your communication portfolio.  Listen to this episode, featuring Tammy Franklin, wife of Gospel artist Kirk Franklin as she shares her story of relationship ups, downs and lessons when it comes to “How to Love a Black Man God's Way.”

Distractions are sneaky little buzzards that can throw you off course if you're not careful. It's not always a major catastrophe; it can be small yet significant missteps or interruptions that build up over time.  The next thing you know two months turn into two years, if not 10; and you find yourself stuck in the same place emotionally, mentally, physically, professionally and, or financially. If you can relate to any of these, listen to this episode. It's time to break-free. Destiny is waiting for you to show up!  

Discover the surprising and pivotal roles that black women played in the bible starting with Eve and how it's directly impacting our lives today. You don't have to believe me, Dr. Theron D. Williams says all of his research is based in research and the proof is in the DNA.

The vaccine is here and the world is attempting to return to a new normal, yet things will never be exactly quite the same, but that doesn't have to be a bad thing.  In fact, it can be good if we don't get stuck. If you don't see the bright side yet, my hope is that by the end of this episode, you will see the light, a new vision and hope for yourself and those you love. Discover how to: Get Better Think Better Act Better and Grow

What you're about to experience is a treat! Some know her as CEO, Emmy Award Winning Media Executive, Minister and as a Best Selling Author, but for me Dr. Vikki Johnson has been a mentor, friend and safe-place for my soul. Now it's my honor to share her with you during this beautifully raw, authentic and life-changing conversation. In this episode you will learn: The definition of the soul and what makes it healthy and wealthy; how the connection between your emotions, physical health, and finances intersect inside the seat of your soul; How to know if you're flowing in God's divine timing and so much more!

Media mogul Sheila Eldridge shares her secrets to success as a black female entrepreneur.  Listen in and discover: What she says all strong black women need to do; How she defines the three levels of networking that's helped her become successful; Who she leaned on during her lowest moments personally and professionally; When she finally embraced the importance of self-care; And how she was able to pivot her business in 2020, even in the midst of COVID-19.

We have all be going through changes.   How do you deal with job loss, health issues, grief, loneliness and,or major life shifts? What happens when you're getting older, going through perimenopause or menopause for that matter?   Can you relate? Life-Coach Deya Direct shares her experiences and provides for key steps that you can take to increase self-care, wellness and happiness during the changes that life brings.

Self-care is discovering and owning who you are and who you are not.  In this two minute bonus episode you'll learn three powerful tips to feel good about who you are and own it more confidently, and enhance your well-being.

This is Super Self-Care Commentary with Love and Life Coach Deya Direct, where she shares perspective and quick tips about hot button issues. This is ironically #minoritymentalhealthawarenessmonth, and unfortunately, singer and reality Star Tamar Braxton allegedly attempted suicide this past Thursday.  Tamar who's 43, was found unresponsive in her room at the Ritz-Carlton in downtown Los Angeles.   Deya discusses how strong Black women struggle too. Research shows that African Americans are highly likely to struggle with emotional distress but least likely to seek help.  Black women in particular are expected to possess unlimited strength and resilience. This expectation puts immense pressure on her to uphold the “Strong Black Woman” title pretending we're superhuman and it's killing us.   Here are 4 Caring Calls-to-Action that you can do now: Remove the negative stigma of being crazy because someone is struggling mentally or emotionally. Just like it's healthy to take care of our bodies, it's healthy to take care of our minds Create a save space letting them know it's okay not to be okay sometimes. This can be demonstrated by being vulnerable enough to share your own struggles. Asking for help doesn't make you weak, it makes you wise. Be intentional about lifting the load of the strong women in your life.   Finally, if you or someone in your life is struggling with depression go and see a therapist and if there are thoughts about suicide call 1-800-273-8255.  

Love and Life Coach Deya Direct shares in her short two-minute commentary "Self-Care is not Selfish" how we're currently in the midst of a double health crisis with COVID-19 and police brutality disproportionately hurting communities of color. If ever there was a critical time to learn and implement self-care tools it's now.  We must save ourselves  - mind, body, soul and spirit.  She share three tools that you can use now!

This episode will reveal three major ways that you can break-free, re-imagine your life and move forward despite the set-backs, sickness and trauma of this year so far. Life Coach Deya Direct will help you to push past the pain of COVID-19, lay-off's, and racism from a spiritual and practical perspective.  Three unconventional strategies she emphasizes are why you should: Take a nap and give yourself some grace Recognize how and why we're in the midst of a resurrection Give yourself permission to re-imagine your life and move forward

40 million American adults have at least one type of anxiety disorder. In this episode, we'll explore how to cope with anxiety and depression in general and specifically when your life has been interrupted as a result of Covid-19.  Therapists Andrea Wise-Brown and Tori Dixon, who's also a grief specialist will coach us on: Why stress and anxiety are  normal during this time and how to release stress How to control the controllable Understanding the stages of grief around life-changes and loss How to release negative self-judgement, guilt and shame Tools to deal with loneliness and relationship dynamics How food and alcohol contribute to how mental and physical well-being The connection between the mind and the body Solutions and opportunities to resetting our lives during this critical time

Are you ready to discover what it means to be a Man Whisperer and why you attract love or losers? In this episode, you'll discover: How being smart and successful doesn't make you emotionally intelligent; The difference between good fear and unhealthy fear when it comes to relationships; The way to leverage past experiences and red flags; Why being a hard person doesn't always protect you; How to give yourself credit for past experiences and mistakes; Why you need highs and lows within your relationships. We continue the discussion with the Relationship Scientist Dr. Ryeal Simms  to explore man-whispering tips and how to attract what you want in love and life from a spiritual and scientific perspective; which is what we discussed in part 1. We enter the second part of the discussion using the biblical analogy of “He who finds a wife finds a good thing,” but the big part that women often forget is that YOU  HAVE THE POWER & YOU are the employer that's hiring for the job.  Listen and learn for yourself.

There is actually an art & science to love and Intimacy.  In this episode we explore how to know if you're actually in love or just chemically high on love? This is Part 1 of a “Man Whisperer Series”.  I define “Man Whispering”  as an acute understanding of yourself and of men.  It's the fine art of knowing how apply your power and emotional intelligence to influence him both responsibly and effectively. This episode “The Scientifically Right & Wrong Ways to Attract a Man” features Neuroscientist Ryeal Simms, aka “the Relationship Scientist.”  He gives us the inside scoop about our brain and how it responds to feeling in love.  This is Your Brain in Love. In this Episode You Will Learn: What women can do to attract men Why kissing is a sex drug The pros & cons of wearing perfume/cologne to attract Why you should stop playing hard to get Why women should consider making the first move (it's not what you think) Menopause vs. “man-o-pause” Scientifically why older women are attracted to younger men ( it's a real thing) The importance of teaching your man about what you like How science is the discovery of what God created (science & faith can work together). .

My guest Paul Ritter is a sought after Health and Wellness Coach. In this episode you will learn: The possible connection between dairy and fibroids How to know if you're drinking clean or dirty water The connection between water, cancer, memory and Alzheimer's What food items contain gasoline & embalming fluid Which foods help with anxiety And much more…  

So You Want To Be An Influencer?   On the new episode of the Superpowher podcast discover what being a social media influencer for good means and what you need to do. Host Deya gets Direct with Mary Renouf and Melissa Grace, who are social marketing experts and leaders with Providence St. Joseph Health   In this podcast you will learn:   • Who is considered an influencer • How you can become an influencer with a positive impact • How often you should post and how may followers you need in order to be considered • What type of posts you should create • How sharing your story, including your health journey, can make you relatable and relevant • How companies and organizations like Providence and Well Being Trust utilize influencers

It's Homelessness Awareness Month.  Homelessness has become a public health crisis in the U.S.. Did you know: At least 550,000 people are homeless A typical homeless family is comprised of a single mother with her two young children. Family homelessness is a growing social problem affecting families in every state. Nationwide, 85% of providers have seen family homelessness increase in recent years. Deya talks with Dr. Dora Barilla who is the Executive Leader, Community Investment for Providence St. Joseph Health, amongst her many other roles, about real solutions and partnerships to combat the homeless crisis in America.  

Life Coach Deya Direct discusses the impact of Faith and Fear.  We have the option to: Face Everything and Rise or Fear Everything and Run She gets personal and testifies about how perceived failure can be leveraged for your next level!

Host & Life Coach Deya gets direct about the process of upgrading your life. Because growth can be good for you and hard to do at the same time. In this episode you will learn: Growth can be uncomfortable Better is not always easier & simple does not mean easy There are no shortcuts to the journey Don't judge the process, go through the process Remember, baby steps are still steps!

In this episode you will learn about Monyetta Shaw's new book “Keep it Classy” which depicts her personal journey and life after a very public break-up with former fiancée and superstar Neyo who went on to remarry.  You will also learn: How you to can “keep it classy” when you have to co-parent and even include the other woman. How and why you should work to get along with the other women How to work through the grief of heartbreak while also being a present parent How to dealing with mental illness in our families is hard to navigate, but very common You don't have to be ashamed about the trials and tribulations that you face. You can make your pain pay you back! That the heart is resilient and you can love again

Who's saving our super women, that strong badass that has it all together.  She has her own EVERYTHING and she always has the right answers and knows what to do right?  Well, what if she doesn't.  What if she's secretly overwhelmed with stress and anxiety? Here's a sneak peak into the S.O.S. Panel at the Super Self-care Power Summit where we address this topic with media personality Claudia Jordan, along with therapists and other women of power.

Why is asking for help so hard?  What If you discovered that asking for help is a sign of strength not weakness; Who would you ask and what would you ask for?   In this episode, host and life coach Deya Direct with show you 5 Ways Asking for Help is a Sign of Strength and Self-Awareness. 

Talk show host Wendy Williams has come clean so-to-speak, “I have been living in a sober house,” she recently told her studio audience. Life Coach and Superpowher Host Deya Direct  shares 3 reasons self-care is disruptive but necessary in her latest podcast episode “The Courage of Self-Care.”    

Host and Life Coach Deya Direct shares five mindsets that block many of us from having fulfilling relationships, including: 1.  Fear of Intimacy 2.  Fear of Rejection 3.  Unforgiveness 4.  False Expectations 5.  Unwillingness to Work However, she outlines clear steps to take to overcome these blessing blockers and to attract more love and happiness into your life.  Learn and Listen to more episodes at www.SuperpowHer.com      

Welcome to the SuperpowHer Podcast: The SuperpowHer Podcast is back, and better than ever with a new look, feel and format! In the premiere episode for 2019, and Season 3, Host, Love & Life Coach Deya Direct breaks down how three cluttered areas in your life could be blocking your vision and your blessings. Plus, she features the Relationship Scientist, Ryeal Simms as they share much-needed tips and tools for women to attract the right men. #declutter If you are a new listener to SuperpowHer, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you tap into your SuperpowHer today! In this episode, we discuss 3 Reasons that Your Vision May Be  blurry or feel blocked:   Unclutter your headspace - Mental clutter leads to congestion in our inner world. It gets in the way of being able to think clearly, and to focus on what really matters. This year, live your best life by decluttering your mind.   Unclutter your heart - Emotional clutter can include forgiveness, hatred, bitterness, resentfulness, regret, fear ( anxiety). Like mind clutter, Heart clutter is often related to the past. It's soul ties and memories from past relationships – be it family, platonic or romantic. Most of us keep a large cabinet of mental drawers stored in the back of our minds. These drawers are filled with mistakes made, opportunities missed, hurt, past grievances, and so forth.   Unclutter your home - Having an unorganized home or office space can interfere with your ability to think straight. That's why before I work on my vision board I make sure I clean up my space to set the atmosphere for clarity and flow. Follow our Podcast @superpowher on Instagram & @superpowher1 on Twitter Follow our Host @deyadirect on Instagram and on FB for our LIVE Podcasts!      

Welcome to the SuperpowHer Podcast: We sat down with Felicia Leatherwood, a celebrity hairstylist also known as “The Natural Hair Whisperer, with clients such as Issa Rae and Nicole Ari Parker. Felicia travels the world guiding women in loving themselves and hair from inside out.   If you are a new listener to SuperpowHer, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you tap into your SuperpowHer today!   In this episode, we discuss: ●     How some black childhood hair traditions are torturous, how that shaped her passion for natural hair care and empowerment. ●     What to do for newly naturals: Big Chop vs. Retraining hair ●     Products, Do's and Don'ts that every naturalista needs to know ●     Protective styles, and how to grow your hair and edges back ●     How sugar impacts your hair & what your hair reveals about your lifestyle, plus much more!   Products Mentioned: Felicia's Detangling Brush Ion Shampoo and Conditioner: good for colored hair        Blueberry Bliss Reparative Leave-in Conditioner from Curlz: great leave in conditioner, heat protectant     Bonita Afro Balm Texture Cream by The Doux: moisturizer and twist out cream for texture 3C, 4 A/B/C hair      Don't Shrink Elongating Curling Gel by Aunt Jackie - gel to control frizz - 3 A/B/C   O Gel by Evolving Textures - great gel for Locs     Follow SuperpowHer on Social: @superpowher on Instagram & @superpowher1 on Twitter Follow our Host:  @deyadirect on Instagram and on FB for our LIVE Podcasts!   WATCH SuperpowHer on YouTube   Join the SuperpowHer Community SUPERPOWER - su·per·pow·er noun: It's what makes you special and gives you the power to produce extraordinary results "I believe in leveraging every personal and professional experience by learning your lessons and making your pain pay you back!" - Deya Direct   THANK YOU to our Sponsors: Well Being Trust - a national foundation dedicated to advancing the mental, social and spiritual health of the nation. Failure Is Fuel Soft Is the New Power   Make sure you to grab a notebook and share with your girlfriends so you don't miss any of these gems!  Enjoy, share, review and comment, we love to hear from you!

Welcome to the SuperpowHer Podcast: We sat down with Keisha Lance Bottoms, the Mayor of Atlanta, Georgia, for EBONY Magazine to talk about her decision to run, how her spirituality factored into that choice, balancing family and what she wants for the city of Atlanta.   If you are a new listener to SuperpowHer, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you tap into your SuperpowHer today! In this episode, we discuss: Changing the narratives that other's put on you How God has a larger plan for our lives How she defines her superpower How she uses soft power to help her negotiate in politics. How she juggles leadership, family and self-care.   Follow our Podcast @superpowher on Instagram & @superpowher1 on Twitter Follow our Host @deyadirect on Instagram and on FB for our LIVE Podcasts! WATCH SuperpowHer on YouTube Join the SuperpowHer Community SUPERPOWER - su·per·pow·ernoun: It's what makes you special and gives you the power to produce extraordinary results I believe in leveraging every personal and professional experience by learning your lessons and making your pain pay you back! - Deya Direct THANK YOU to our Sponsors Failure Is Fuel Soft Is the New Power Well Being Trust - Well Being Trust is a national foundation dedicated to advancing the mental, social and spiritual health of the nation.

Welcome to the SuperpowHer Podcast: Today we sit down with Marshawn Evans Daniels, a powerful speaker, coach, branding expert and author of the fabulous new book Believe BIGGER.      If you are a new listener to SuperpowHer, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you tap into your SuperpowHer today!   In this episode, we discuss: How she managed to get up and back together after leaving her million-dollar business for a soul-crushing breakup. Seeking counseling, leaning into prayer and the art of reinventing yourself after painful experiences. Marshawn gives her tips on how to shift, push beyond comfort zones and align your life for the next level of greatness. Follow our Podcast @superpowher on Instagram & @superpowher1 on Twitter Follow our Host @deyadirect on Instagram and on FB for our LIVE Podcasts!   WATCH SuperpowHer on YouTube Join the SuperpowHer Community SUPERPOWER - su·per·pow·ernoun: It's what makes you special and gives you the power to produce extraordinary results I believe in leveraging every personal and professional experience by learning your lessons and making your pain pay you back! - Deya Direct THANK YOU to our Sponsors Failure Is Fuel Soft Is the New Power Well Being Trust - Well Being Trust is a national foundation dedicated to advancing the mental, social and spiritual health of the nation.

 Dr. Robin Henderson, Clinical Liaison for Well Being Trust and Providence St. Joseph Health joins Deya for an in-depth and open conversation about the struggles we all face to take care of ourselves.  You'll learn what self-care really is, ways to practice self-care, and the consequences if you don't practice it.  Key Takeaways:   Self Care practices come from past learned behavior:  Comes from a society where self-care in women is not a priority, women learn from a young age that “women” take of others first then self Dr. Robin -“but taking care of ourselves gives us the ability to take care of others”  What happens when your brain is overloaded? Napping and breaks needed are for better retention  We get irritable, short-tempered, say and do things we wouldn't usually do, exhausted, tired, not prepared Negative Self Talk Negative thoughts overpower positive thought  Negative self-talk - cognitive distortion- we hear 5 positive things and one negative and all focus on negativity Negativity comes from insecurity  Most have a lifetime of negativity - like bullies vs. positive interactions Self-affirmations are a vital part of blocking the negativity  Blocks out the repetition of negative self-talk- retrains brain structure How do u know if you need more support?    If negativity interferes with life, missing work, can't get out of bed, sad constantly, cant lift up, never feel worth then the issue is deeper  History of abuse and trauma usually need more like therapy - from family issues to traumatic events like tornadoes/car accident, all events add up Positivity starts within self - you have to do what makes you happy - colors, exercise, food can all be things done to create positivity within oneself and Social media affects the brain emotionally Constant comparison causes depression, breakdowns, loss of skills  PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: It's not just war; it can be child abuse, bullying, a bad relationship, accident or anything that creates a stressor . No one knows your story but you. Use experiences to grow and move on. Part of what makes you, you - gives you strength  Resilience makes the difference - bouncing back from traumatic events.   Emotional intelligence – “where I end and you begin”  Seeing a person who is acting out and thinking deeper about the cause for the action without anger and fear  Is suicide happening more now - or more talked about now? We need more healthy conversations talking about it more  Medicaid expansion - not in every state - but resources there which covers mental health - academic institutions with counseling center - churches - hospitals - clinics – are all resources  This episode was brought to you by Well Being Trust, a national foundation dedicated to advancing the mental, social and spiritual health of the nation.   Make sure you to grab a notebook and share with your girlfriends so you don't miss any of these gems.     Don't forget to follow @SuperpowHer and @DeyaDirect on IG!   Enjoy, share, review and comment, we love to hear from you.  

In the second part of this fascinating interview, Pat Smith dives deeper into her path of transparency with host Deya Direct!. Pat reveals more about the highs and low's of Hollywood, her journey into marriage the second time around, ministry and the life-changing moment of her calling.  Deya also makes a confession about her calling.    Key Takeaways:    [2:34]  We pick up where we left of talking about rejection, insecurity, frustration and finally FORGIVENESS in relationships.  Sometimes you get mad at yourself when things don't work out.  Pat argues "It's not always about the other people, we've got to forgive ourselves first to be released"   [3:15]  We discover how Pat's craving to be in a "safe place" and how her sister Pam encouraged her to get closer to God in her toughest moments and how it was one of the most divine 2nd chance moments of her life.  "If somebody's not quite there, don't give up on them, keep planting the seeds"  She learned about how deep God's love was for her despite feelings of unworthiness and stupidly at her actions, "He still loves me, he's still got me, he can still use me"   [10:30]  We begin to learn about her pathway to ministry and she shares her testimony.  Knowing God's value will allow all of the hurt, disappointment, shame, etc to not keep you down.  Pat's Testimony: "God will take your misery and turn it into ministry."   [11:55]  Accepting the call to Ministry was not an easy task, it was filled with self doubt, but through that Pat knew she valued the safe place she found with her good friend Sheree Smith (now Fletcher) in her time of need after leaving Martin.  "I have a specific heart for women because I know what it's like to walk out of the door of a very 'safe place', you think.....from the sense of security, but she (Sheree) really provided me a safe place- security, where I could cry and heal without judgement or shame"  Pat explains that before she was called to ministry, she was called to help women.   [16:45]  From the outside looking in, Pat's life can seem perfect, but she wants us to know that not only is that not true, it's bothersome.  "That's probably one of my pet peeves, when people pre-judge me because it takes away my battle wounds, it takes away my journey, and the ability for me to help inspire you.    [18:20]  The level of transparency that Pat's adopted recently is new for her, she shares how she got comfortable, why it was necessary and what the result was.  "It takes so much energy and effort to fake it, to pretend, rather than to be yourself"     Over time, she learned that creating the "knight in shining armor" persona for your partner is a slippery slope.     Then Deya drops this gem..."Everybody wants the testimony, but no one wants the test" - DD   [28:37]  Before closing out Pat tells us about the ups and downs of living life with someone in the spotlight from NFL Superstar to Dancing With The Stars and easy it is to lose yourself and how jealousy can show up in your spirit simply because you aren't living in your truth and purpose.     "Men can choose themselves...I gave up things he didn't even ask me to give up" DD   "When God pushed me out of my truth, I realized it's really powerful to be transparent" PS   [38:00]  Getting permission to share your truth is important, Pat had to talk to Emmitt, Martin and event her Bonus Daughter Mom before she was able to share her truths in her book, Second Chances.  "A testimony out of season can be dangerous"  PS   Pat and Deya share their experiences in getting comfortable sharing their ministry and Pat prophetically gives encouragement to Deya on sharing her ministry.  Deya remembers God saying to her "I didn't bring you through this to destroy you, I did it to redirect you" DD   [44:30]  So, what has marriage taught Pat about herself??   That you have to WORK at it!  "Don't wait til the care breaks down to take it in for service, keep your marriage serviced."  Also, she didn't have all 5 kids by herself, so it's important to share your wants, needs, and desires with your partner.  "It has to be a partnership"  This episode was brought to you by Well Being Trust, a national foundation dedicated to advancing the mental, social and spiritual health of the nation   Make sure you to grab a notebook and share with your girlfriends so you don't miss any of these gems.    WATCH the latest episode on YouTube!   

This may be one of Pat Smith's most candid interviews.   Deya Direct sits down with the mom of 5 to talk about her path of learning to choose herself, how she survived divorce to comedian Martin Lawrence in the public eye, discovering her ministry, and so much more.   Key Takeaways:    [2:35]  Pat and Deya share the significance of a podcast like SuperpowHer to give women to share their commonalities, good and bad and know that you are not alone.   [5:35]  We discover Deya & Pat's shared experience in the Beauty Pageant world and Pat shares here resilience in pushing through the stereotypes, not being "the look" and the loss of her mother before competing in the Miss USA pageant.     [10:54]  Another shared experience...working in Politics as young women on the east coast.    [12:47]  The Power to Choose Yourself - Pat shares her experience after becoming First Runner Up at the Miss USA pageant and how she had to decide to make the next moves for herself, not for love   [18:00]  Martin...In the House!  For those that don't know Pat was married to Martin Lawrence prior to NFL Hall of Fame player, Emmitt Smith.  We learn how they met and fell fast for each other.   [24:43]  When Love Is Not Enough "We did not look at this as a long-term partnership" Pat shares of her marriage to Martin Lawrence and how important it is to be equally yoked in value, principles, children, finances, travel, budgeting "it's those finite things that get you in your marriage" -PS  At the end of the day, you are left wondering "Do we like each other?"   [30:15]  Pat shares her story of success despite a failed marriage because she and Martin genuinely were friends and still co-parent their child to this day.  "Good things can come out of a bad situation" -PS   STAY TUNED for Part 2 when Pat Smith shares her Journey to Self Love!   This episode was brought to you by Well Being Trust, a national foundation dedicated to advancing the mental, social and spiritual health of the nation   Make sure you to grab a notebook and share with your girlfriends so you don't miss any of these gems.     Enjoy, share, review and comment, we love to hear from you.

Taking control of your destiny is easier said than done, but that's exactly what entrepreneur and OWN TV's Mahisha Dellinger did. As a 'chameleon', Mahisha has learned to adapt, grow and to understand that sometimes, change is overwhelming (and that's okay). Deya and Mahisha also discuss postpartum depression and how to Mind Your Business.    Key Takeaways:   [3:04]  Mahisha shares how and why she started Curls Inc and how she switched gears from being an employee to an employer.       [4:06]  Learn Mahisha's game plan to make the transition and how she did her due diligence to find the most viable business she could start.       "Only thing I learned from corporate American about running a business is that you have to be agile, you have to be swift and you also have to have a plan, that's what I learned from Intel." - MD     "That's the piece of being an entrepreneur, know what you don't know and hire someone who knows it" -MD     [5:56]  How you start your business without capital up front and the importance of living you below your means and reinvesting the money your business generates for the first 3 years.         "I had to start small and that caused me to learn the business inside and out" - MD     "It caused me to be smart about every dollar I earned because potentially if I would have gotten it all early on, I potentially could have misspent it.  I learned a lot about managing money and I shifted my perspective about money during those early years" - MD     "I wanted it so desperately and I believed in it, so I was willing to take that chance" - MD   [7:40}  KEEP YOUR DAY JOB!  Use your corporate job to finance your business funding.       [9:18]  Learn how to market your business, you have to go where the customer is.     "When you're a brand new business, you have to let people experience it" -MD     [10:27]  Mahisha's daily routine and how it enabled her to achieve the goal of building Curls.       "I had a full-time day that I split in half between 2 jobs" -MD     [11:54]  Building a successful business is great, but how does is affect our family life and what type of support do you need?     [14:00]  Mahisha shares her struggle with postpartum depression     “I had to seek help in 2 forms, prayer, and therapy” - MD     [16:45]  So, how has curls grown over the years and what that "big break" moment?      [19:00]  Decision fatigue is real and self-care is important, so learn how to “work hard, play hard” successfully!     [21:38]  Tips to pitch your business from Mahisha  1. Know what you're asking for and how much equity you are willing to give up 2. Know what you are going to use the money for and how quickly you'll be able to pay it back 3. Know your numbers!     [23:22]  Black Girls Making Millions Academy is announced!     [24:24]  Power word for today is GROWTH     “Baby steps are still steps in your growth process” - DD     Stay encouraged!      This episode was brought to you by Soft Is The New Power & Failure Is Fuel by Deya Direct!, be sure to grab your copy today!   Make sure you to grab a notebook and share with your girlfriends so you don't miss any of these gems.     You can WATCH the full podcast here.  Enjoy, review, share, and comment, we love to hear from you!

Deya sits down with  NFL power couple and Dallas Philanthropists Sherice and Tim Brown on this week's episode.  The Brown's reveal  how to dodge temptation (and cheating), staying true to your identity in the limelight; and they also reveal their latest philanthropic work with Big Brothers, Big Sisters.    Key Takeaways: [2:20] - Sherice shares her testimony and how she learned that the pain is part of her purpose. [7:52] - There is no “look” to pain and life experiences.  Sherice has been told “to look at you, you don't seem like you've been through anything”  Deya shares the reality that what's going on in the inside vs how it looks on the outside is not always the same....we can cover it up and make it look however we want. [8:40] - Learn more about the Big Brother, Big Sisters Gala in October and how to get involved. [13:04] - Tim & Sherice share their Love Story. “I loved her before I met her, I say that because I knew what I wanted” Tim Brown “I knew that she was a confident woman and she didn't need me to be there patting her on the back the whole time” Tim Brown [15:09] Tim shares his testimony of getting saved “I got to the point where I couldn't look myself in the mirror because I knew I wasn't doing what God wanted me to do” Tim Brown [17:20] Deya and Tim share relationship insights on how women can position themselves to attract their perfect partner.  “You don't have to chase a man because when a man knows, he knows” Deya Direct “The scariest thing for a man is a woman that wants to get married” Tim Brown [18:28] - Sherice shares the challenges of being in a public relationship and Tim shares what causes men to cheat!  “I would always love God more than I love her...God will never give you the ok to do that” Tim Brown “Temptation is still temptation, even when you love God” Deya Direct 22:12 - Not falling for the temptation can be tricky.  Tim shares a story about a persistent young woman that he had to resist.  “Sometimes you have to recognize who the devil is...sometimes she's 5'5", 125 pounds with that long black hair” Tim Brown 24:25 - Life as an athlete and letting go to walk into your new season.  It's important to not let ego take you away from your purpose.  36:35 - What is your SuperpowHer? Both Tim and Sherice share that their SuperpowHer is “Faith in God” To get more info on how you can support Big Brothers, Big Sisters here in the Lone Star State, visit Bbbstx.org  You can WATCH the full podcast here.  Enjoy, share and comment, and review, we love to hear from you!

Superpowher Host & Life-Coach Deya interrupts the regularly scheduled program and gets direct about her own Testimony & Superpower like never before; covering everything from suicide attempt to being a boss woman. She redefines running for your life!

She gives new meaning to PYT, we call her "Powerful Yodit Tewolde!" Yodit is a nationally-renowned criminal defense attorney and TV legal analyst whose superpower is to pursue anything that scares her. In this episode we cover everything from social justice, social media, self-care, to the guilty pleasures of reality TV.

SuperPowHer is back for its second season! The first Super Friend to take the seat is the one and only Dede McGuire - YES, radio diva Dede in The Morning! Host Deya Direct and Dede discuss how to leverage opportunities while playing with the big boys. Plus, get real life advice about how to negotiate, stay on top, and win in life and in love!

Hey Sis, have you ever been in love with a narcissist?  Media Personality and Author of Respect My Crown, JJ on the Radio says that she has been in love with a narcissist twice!  How many of us have experienced emotional abuse, or made the same mistake over and again, even though we thought we had learned our lesson? This episode will give you the tools to heal, learn and even laugh at yourself.  

Bonus: Short, Inspirational Content & Commentary by SuperpowHer Host Deya who Gets Direct on Life, Love and Lessons.  Today's topic is Faith.

Actress and Reality Star Tami Roman says her Superpower is Truth-telling and we are here for all of it!  Plus, Tami shares her testimony with Host and Life Coach Deyadirect. This is a part of Tami you may not always get to experience, but definitely a part of her heart that you do not want to miss!