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In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe gets real about one of the most uncomfortable and misunderstood parts of postpartum life: intrusive thoughts. If you've ever had a scary, unwanted thought pop into your head after having a baby and immediately wondered, “What is wrong with me?!”, you are absolutely not alone. HeHe sits down with Špela Grašič, a registered clinical counselor and new mom who has lived with OCD herself, to unpack the difference between common postpartum intrusive thoughts and postpartum OCD. They talk about why so many new parents experience unwanted thoughts about something happening to their baby, and why having an intrusive thought does not mean you want it to happen or make you more likely to act on it. Špela shares her own experience with vivid postpartum intrusive thoughts and explains how OCD can be sneaky, showing up not just through obvious behaviors, but through mental compulsions, reassurance-seeking, checking, avoidance, and constantly trying to make sure you're a “good enough” or safe parent. Together, HeHe and Špela explore how hormones, sleep deprivation, hypervigilance, stress, and the enormous responsibility of caring for a tiny human can all contribute to postpartum intrusive thoughts. They also share practical ways to respond when those thoughts show up, including naming and externalizing them, grounding, breathing, values-based strategies, and finding a therapist who actually understands OCD and perinatal mental health. Most importantly, this episode is about taking the shame out of thoughts you never asked for. Postpartum OCD can be misunderstood or mistaken for anxiety or depression, so knowing what to look for and getting the right support matters. If you've ever been afraid to tell someone what your brain is doing because you're scared they'll judge you, this conversation is for you. You deserve support, you deserve answers, and you do not have to navigate the weird, scary, overwhelming parts of postpartum alone. Chapters: 00:00 You Are Not Broken 01:24 Why Mental Health Feels Taboo 03:12 Meet Špela and Today's Goals 05:55 Taboo Intrusive Thoughts Explained 07:04 Real Postpartum OCD Stories 10:45 Reassurance and The Data 12:03 Host's Bank Trigger Moment 16:01 Why Intrusive Thoughts Happen 19:19 Hypervigilance and Bias Battles 30:12 Birth Lounge App Break 34:29 Back to OCD Postpartum Changes 34:43 Postpartum OCD Flareups 35:19 Miscarriage Intrusions Explained 37:47 Compulsions and Leniency 42:09 Reassurance Versus Exposure 48:26 Support and Resources Wrap   Guest Bio: Spela Grasic is a new mom and a Registered Clinical Counsellor from Kelowna, BC (Canada). Her journey into mental health started over a decade ago when a friend said, “maybe you should talk to someone.” (Yes, like the book.) She did and, over time, transformed her relationship with herself and her thoughts. She now sits with others as they learn to hold, untangle, and tend to all the messy, painful stuff. Spela holds a Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology from Yorkville University and a Master of Arts in English from the University of British Columbia (Okanagan). Her S.S.H.R.C funded MA (English) research explored the novel as a space where communities can explore intergenerational trauma encapsulated in everyday interactions, institutions, and languages. Professional qualifications aside, Spela is a quirky, sometimes awkward, new mom, partner, sister, daughter, and friend navigating the messiness of a rich and fulfilling life. Connect with Spela: https://www.instagram.com/spelagrasiccounselling/ https://bcacc.ca/counsellors/spela-grasic/ https://alivecounselling.com/team/spela-grasic/ SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  Connect with Spela on IG: https://www.instagram.com/spelagrasiccounselling/    BIRTH EDUCATION: Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection LINKS MENTIONED: Listen to our episode on intrusive thoughts w/ Dr. Kat:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ivM-Iqv1qK0  international iCBT foundation: https://icbt.online/  International OCD Foundation:  https://iocdf.org/ The Happiness Trap: https://thehappinesstrap.com/ https://www.instagram.com/anxietyocdtreatment/ Postpartum Support International: https://postpartum.net/

Your best friend leaves a box of tampons on your doorstep on the worst day of your fortnight — no fuss, no waiting around, just quietly handling the piece of the nightmare nobody else saw. And you well up. Real tears. And then you wait ten minutes to make sure she's gone before you'll even open the door, delete the thank-you you started typing, and walk off. Because you could not have said it to her face if someone paid you.If you're the woman who leaves a gift on a doorstep and runs, who dodges goodbyes with people she loves, who can't stand inside a thank you — you've probably filed that away as proof you're cold. Broken in the part where you're meant to feel things. This episode is Jane pulling that file back out and finding the opposite: it's not that the love is missing. It might be flooding. Masking, surface acting, and the wall that goes up right where other people let love in — and why every piece of advice you've been given points you the wrong way.CHAPTERS00:00 — Twenty-one, on an Emirates training flight, and my face is the problem01:34 — Learning the Barbie-princess smile in the mirror02:32 — The box of tampons, and the door I couldn't open04:45 — Ten minutes, a deleted text, and walking off in tears05:31 — The filing cabinet: 'there's something wrong with me,' opened at 2am06:22 — The goodbyes I swerve, the thank-yous I can't stand in07:43 — 'I'm not cold. I cried over a box of tampons.'08:33 — The real problem: a feeling with no volume control08:56 — What was actually happening on those flights13:46 — Surface acting: the sociologist who studied this in 198316:05 — Two settings — perform the okay face, or leave18:49 — Why every piece of 'just be present' advice fails someone like me20:55 — The therapy this is secretly built on — ACT, and acting on what you value23:00 — The moment was never the love. The tampons mattering that much was.25:04 — What I'd do differently: feel it, then send something real by text26:50 — You get to love people in your own wayWHAT WE COVERThe Emirates training flight where Jane was told, over and over, that her technically-perfect service didn't matter — her face didLearning to perform the 'Barbie princess' smile in the mirror, and what years of that installs in a nervous systemThe box of tampons on the doorstep — one of the kindest things anyone's ever done for her — and why she waited for her friend to leave before she'd open the doorThe 2am filing cabinet labelled 'there's something wrong with me,' and the subtheme she found inside itThe goodbyes she actively swerves, the gifts she leaves 'like a robber,' and the years of reading all of it as proof she's coldThe reframe: it was never a missing feeling — it's a feeling that arrives with no volume control, like a flood, with nowhere safe to show itWhat was really happening on those flights — the workers, the conditions, the smiling over something that was not fine — and how surface acting burns you outWhy every piece of standard advice — slow down, be present, make eye contact, receive it properly — aims you straight at the exact thing your body evacuates for a reasonThe evidence-based therapy this is secretly built on, and the one shift inside it that changes everythingWhat Jane would do differently now — and the real, texted, kitchen-bench version of 'thank you' that works for a nervous system like hersFREE RESOURCESADHD Physical Health & Emotional Wellbeing Kit — for the emotional-regulation and burnout side of years of masking — https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-physical-health-emotional-wellbeing-kit/Energy Accounting Guide — for the cost of surface acting, day after day — https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-mums-energy-accounting-guide/PAID RESOURCESADHD Mums Shop — https://adhdmums.com.au/shop/RELATED EPISODESToo Much? Or Just Misunderstood: ADHD, RSD & the Power of Emotional Intensity — S2 EP83, Jane solo — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-83-too-much-or-just-misunderstood-adhd-rsd-the-power-of-emotional-intensity/An RSD Story. Taking My Own Advice — S1 EP9, Jane solo — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/an-rsd-story-taking-my-own-advice-s1-ep9/You Were the Good Girl. That's Why You're Falling Apart Now. — S3 EP35, Jane solo — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-35-you-were-the-good-girl-thats-why-youre-falling-apart-now/Masking & ADHD — S1 EP11, Jane solo — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/masking-adhd-s1-ep11/REFERENCES & FURTHER READINGOn 'surface acting' — the 1983 flight-attendant research: Hochschild, A. R. (1983). The Managed Heart: Commercialization of Human Feeling. University of California Press.On Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): an evidence-based therapy built on acting in line with your values rather than waiting to feel the 'right' feeling first. The most widely used plain-language ACT resource in Australia is Dr Russ Harris's The Happiness Trap.

#441 In this podcast episode, Guy talked with listeners about courage, surrender, and the moments when life pushed someone to stop resisting what they already knew needed to change. He shared a vulnerable story from 2005 when a breakup, financial struggle, a failed stock trading dream, and a cycling accident in Sydney all collided at once. Looking back, he said that painful season had become a wake-up call from the universe, showing him that he had been pushing toward money and success while ignoring deeper wounds of unworthiness and misalignment.  Guy explained how being forced to slow down led him to watch health and nutrition seminars, follow a deeper calling, and eventually create 180 Nutrition from a more heart-led place. He encouraged listeners to stop resisting the signs in their own lives, trust the deeper wisdom guiding them, and take bold, courageous action while remembering that life was fragile, precious, and full of possibility. ====================  Guy's Official Partners  The DNA Company – Get 10% Off https://thednacompany.com/letitinpodcast  FLFE – 2 Week Free Trial (No Credit Card Required) https://www.flfe.net/rp-affiliates.php?p=LiveInFlow&w=TryFLFEfree ====================  Referenced in This Episode Tony Robbins Wayne Dyer Deepak Chopra ====================  Key Points Discussed:  (00:00) - The Courage to Stop Resisting Where Life Is Taking You! (00:50) - Where Do You Already Know Something Needs to Change? (01:18) - Saying Yes to Life From the Heart, Not the Head (01:52) - The Money Chase That Became His Escape Plan (02:45) - Borrowed Money, Day Trading and the Happiness Trap (03:22) - Living a Double Life While Running From His Wounds (04:00) - The Unworthiness Hidden Behind the Need to Succeed (04:38) - When His Relationship Started Breaking Under the Pressure (05:12) - The Moment Quitting Felt Like Becoming a Failure (05:42) - The Coogee Roundabout Collision in Slow Motion (06:34) - A Crushed Bike, No Money and One Devastated Thought (07:20) - Comforting the Woman Who Thought She Had Killed Him (08:28) - The Phone Call That Revealed an Impossible Connection (09:43) - The Confession That Finally Broke Him Open (11:05) - The DVDs He Ignored Until Pain Made Him Watch (12:08) - The Health Seminar That Shattered His Old Paradigm (13:18) - The Heart-Led Pivot That Became 180 Nutrition (14:35) - Why Resistance Creates More Suffering (19:56) - LIVE IN FLOW — Experience This Work in Person ==================== Guy's Offerings  www.liveinflow.co ====================  Listen on Podcast Spotify Apple Podcasts ====================  Connect with Guy Instagram www.instagram.com/guyhlawrence Live In Flow www.instagram.com/live.in.flow ====================  Continue Your Journey Explore Guy's complete collection of solo podcast episodes: www.youtube.com/show/VLPLKOgPYwzskDo?sbp=Kgt1clRBdHJGem9pd0AB

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We're always chasing the next thing... I have been guilty of it for years. The next paycheck. The next promotion. The next vacation. The next milestone. Believing that then we'll finally be happy.The problem? That future keeps moving.In this episode, I break down why so many of us fall into the "I'll be happy when..." mindset, how it quietly steals our joy, and what you can do to start appreciating the life you're building right now while still pursuing big goals.If you've been feeling like happiness is always just out of reach, this conversation is for you.JSF Nutrition Full Supplement Line ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠Love Us? Drop us a 5-star google review ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Week of my Fitness App ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join our Built Difference Business Community ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks to our Sponsors:AG1 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CLICK HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠for a 1 year supply of vitamin D3 with free travel packs or want a FREE sample? Trouble with Sleep Try AGZ as well for free: Shoot us a DM and ask!NOBULL Electrolytes Fruit Punch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠My Current Fav NOBULL Kicks ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jaylab Pro Our Protein, Turmeric, Collagen, Krill Oil  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://jeremyscottfitness.jaylabpro.com/products.html⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dry Farms Wine - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠dryfarmwines.com/jeremyscottfitness⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Each new member will earn an extra bottle for just a penny with their first order of wine when they use this link.

Success leaves clues, but only if you're paying attention. In this episode, Jim Oliver sits down with former NFL and NBA executive turned bestselling author and speaker Paul Epstein to talk about confidence, leadership, and the habits that drive long-term success. Drawing from his experience with organizations like the San Francisco 49ers, NFL, and NBA franchises, Paul shares what he learned about leading through adversity, building momentum, and developing confidence that doesn't depend on circumstances. The conversation explores why so many people struggle with self-belief, how keeping promises to yourself builds confidence, and why small daily actions often create the biggest breakthroughs over time. Whether you're building a business, investing, leading a team, or simply looking to level up personally, this episode offers a practical framework for creating momentum and winning more consistently. Key Takeaways - Confidence grows when you consistently keep promises to yourself. - Momentum is created through small wins repeated over time. - Values-driven action is the foundation of lasting confidence. - Growth happens when you stop comparing yourself to others. - Long-term success is built through discipline, focus, and intentional habits. Chapters 00:01 From the NFL to Personal Growth 05:21 What It Means to Win Monday 07:44 Why People Lack Confidence 13:51 The Confidence Formula Explained 22:53 Leadership Lessons from Sports 25:09 Better Decisions, Faster 30:15 The Happiness Trap 32:27 The Book That Changed Everything 34:45 Building Momentum One Monday at a Time ______________________________ If you're ready to breakaway and start making real wealth, then join our free community.  Get access to new daily content, on-demand courses on how money works and Infinite Banking, a Q&A video library, reading library, worksheets, calculators, and more.  

In this throwback episode, we're determined to be happy. Psychologist Shige Oishi joined us to explore the three dimensions of a fulfilling life: happiness, meaning, and psychological richness. He shared insights from decades of research into subjective well-being and revealed how personality traits, life experiences, and cultural contexts shape what we consider a “good life.” From challenging the “happiness trap” to embracing life's rich diversity, this conversation is a roadmap for deeper self-reflection and greater fulfillment. Topics [0:00] Intro and Speed Round with Shige Oishi [10:28] The Happiness Trap [18:38] Eudaimonic and Hedonic Approaches to Happiness [27:30] The Correlation Between Psychological Richness and Personality [35:00] Gratitude and Social Connection [44:10] What Makes a Happy Society? [48:00] Desert Island Music [1:05:25]  Grooving Session: How to Pursue a Fulfilling Life ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Links About Shige Life in Three Dimensions by Shigehiro Oishi Happiness is Everything, or Is It? Join us on Substack! Join the Behavioral Grooves community Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube Musical Links Charlie Parker - Honeysuckle Rose Clifford Brown & Max Roach - Joy Spring

Cassidy is a longtime friend who I was in a business mastermind group with for a while. She's also been an incredibly encouragement to me on several business projects of mine. So, when I decided I needed some office plants, I went straight to her for advice.   Cassidy is also an accomplished multiple streams of income practitioner and runs, created, founded… Cheerful Plants App- Perfect for plant parents who like to be organized! "I have been using this app for 3 or 4 years. There are endless options so you can track as much or as little as you want! I track fertilizing, repotting, blooms, diseases, and the progress through photos! My favorite app!" - App Store Review Take the stress out of plant care. Cheerful Plants helps you track watering schedules, log care activities, and keep your houseplants. https://cheerfulplants.onelink.me/r6RL/davidpowers  Snappy Pots- Amazingly cute planters and pen holders with removable "Snaps" so you can easily change the design anytime. https://snappypots.com/  Succulent Lovers Club- The Succulent Lovers Club is a small, friendly online community for succulent lovers who want somewhere to learn, ask questions, and share this hobby with people who get it. https://www.succulentsandsunshine.com/succulent-lovers-club/    I'm also a little jealous about this one, but she wrote one of the books in the Green Thumb Guides series- Succulents: Everything You Need to Select, Pair and Care for Succulents https://amzn.to/42bVq7f    There was also a fun little discussion on “proplifting”, which I had no idea was even a thing.   Find her at https://www.succulentsandsunshine.com/    Things mentioned in the show: The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris https://amzn.to/4tSPGeD  NerdHQ- an amazing therapy resource https://nerdhq.org/  Mountain Crest Gardens mountaincrestgardens.com/?aff=2  Leaf and Clay leafandclay.co/?rfsn=376597.71f09  The soil she recommends for succulents- https://www.bonsaijack.com/shop/premixed-bonsai-soil/jacks-gritty-mix-soil-for-bonsai-succulents-and-cacti/    --- Click here to change your life- http://eepurl.com/gy5T3T   Hit me up for a one-on-one brainstorming session- https://militaryimagesproject.com/products/brainstorming-session-1-hour    Check out my Linktree for different ways to rock your world! https://linktr.ee/ruggeddad    Check out the sweet Hyper X mic I'm using. https://amzn.to/41AF4px    Check out my best-selling books: Rapid Skill Development 101- https://amzn.to/3J0oDJ0 Streams of Income with Ryan Reger- https://amzn.to/3SDhDHg Strangest Secret Challenge- https://amzn.to/3xiJmVO This page contains affiliate links. This means that if you click a link and buy one of the products on this page, I may receive a commission (at no extra cost to you!) This doesn't affect our opinions or our reviews. Everything we do is to benefit you as the reader, so all of our reviews are as honest and unbiased as possible. #passiveincome #sidehustle #cryptocurrency #richlife

American culture is defined by a cycle of endless consumption—buy, use, discard—a habit validated by overflowing storage units and thrift stores. However, this consumer mindset often bleeds into our spiritual lives, acting as a barrier to a truly satisfying relationship with God and fueling misery during difficult times. In this message, Max Vanderpool explores this issue through the lens of the Prodigal Son and offers a path toward a better way.

American culture is defined by a cycle of endless consumption—buy, use, discard—a habit validated by overflowing storage units and thrift stores. However, this consumer mindset often bleeds into our spiritual lives, acting as a barrier to a truly satisfying relationship with God and fueling misery during difficult times. In this message, Max Vanderpool explores this issue through the lens of the Prodigal Son and offers a path toward a better way.

On this Episode we tackle some listener questions around prayer, happiness, and trusting God.As always, it's a real and raw look at life, leadership, and love.If you haven't, please take a moment to subscribe to the podcast - that way you will never miss a conversation. We try and release one new episode each month. If you're on Apple or Spotify, please take a moment to rate and review - it really helps spread the word. If something from today's episode stands out to you, share it with a friend, or tag us on social media. Social Media: jeffgmaness on IG, FB, XSabrina.Maness on IG and Sabrina.AkersManess on FBIf this podcast has impacted you in a positive way, we'd love to hear about it. Please reach out to us on social media, or you can email us at hello@jeffmaness.com. You can also check out my website at www.jeffmaness.com for other life, leadership, and love driven content. If you also join us on YouTube - don't forget to like the video, hit that subscribe button, drop a comment , and turn on those notifications by clicking that bell so you're the first to know of new content. And if you're not on YouTube, why not? I love engaging with podcasts on YouTube and we are here every time. Head on over to https://www.youtube.com/jeffmaness to check out all of our videos. 

Do kids really need social media? Is social media bad for kids? What age should teens get social media?If you're a parent: Listen to this episode of the One Second of Strength Podcast.If you're a teen: Listen to this episode of the One Second of Strength Podcast.SHARE with one other personRATE: give the episode a 5 star ratingSUBSCRIBE: so you never miss an episode

Listen to today's podcast... Happiness, for some can seem like an elusive dream and for others it is a constant reality. The difference is a mindset that looks for the best in a given situation. If we spend our time waiting for life to be perfect…the children are polite and well behaved…there is enough money in our savings account and retirement fund…the renovations are finished…we have the right job…we have the best partner… we may be waiting for a very long time and we may be disappointed that happiness doesn't seem to come our way. True happiness is not putting a smile on our face and saying that everything is great, but it is problem solving the difficult situations and looking for the things in our life that are going well. In the workshops that I deliver, we talk about looking for the awesome. What are the cools things that are around us everyday that often we miss because we spend too much of our time looking for the things that are not quite right' Take One Action Today To Build Your #Resiliency!      So here are Today's Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Hunt For Happiness Week: Look for the awesome Be thankful for the things that are true blessings in your life And understand that you have the final say in your own happiness Discover how to take small steps towards a healthier, happier, less-stressed you by visiting my website at worksmartlivesmart.com #mentalhealth #hr

Download: INTRINSIC VS. EXTRINSIC GOALSIn this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic goals and how they affect our well-being. Have you ever felt the high of achieving a big goal, only to have that happiness fade away? This episode explores why that happens and introduces the concept of the "hedonic treadmill." You'll learn how extrinsic goals, like money and status, give short-term happiness but don't last. In contrast, intrinsic goals, like personal growth and meaningful relationships, bring deeper and more lasting joy. Duane and Eric share practical tips on how to shift your focus to these intrinsic goals, cultivate gratitude, and build stronger, more fulfilling connections. They also discuss the importance of mindfulness, personal growth, and serving others in achieving true contentment. Tune in to discover how you can step off the hedonic treadmill and find real, sustainable happiness in your life.Key Topics The difference between extrinsic and intrinsic goalsUnderstanding the hedonic treadmillHow extrinsic goals lead to temporary happinessThe importance of intrinsic goals for lasting fulfillmentPractical tips to shift focus and cultivate intrinsic goalsTimestamp List[00:01:06] Introduction to the topic: Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Goals[00:03:08] Explanation of the hedonic treadmill[00:04:20] The impact of extrinsic goals on happiness[00:07:33] Defining and understanding intrinsic goals[00:11:00] How to step off the hedonic treadmill[00:16:04] Practical tips for cultivating intrinsic goals[00:19:00] Summary and closing thoughtsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you pursuing happiness but still feeling restless? This message explores why our pursuit of fulfillment through relationships, career success, money, and achievements often leaves us unsatisfied. Discover the profound wisdom of Augustine, who spent years chasing happiness through worldly pleasures before realizing that our hearts remain restless until they find rest in God. Learn from Jesus' response to His disciples when they celebrated their miraculous accomplishments. Instead of dismissing their success, Jesus redirected their joy from temporary achievements to their permanent identity as children of God. This biblical perspective on joy and happiness reveals why building our satisfaction on external circumstances - whether financial success, romantic relationships, career advancement, or even ministry accomplishments - ultimately fails to provide lasting fulfillment. It addresses common struggles with finding purpose, dealing with restlessness despite success, and understanding the difference between worldly happiness and biblical joy. Find practical ways to anchor your identity in God's love rather than in your performance, relationships, or achievements. Whether you're starting a new year with fresh goals or feeling disappointed by past pursuits of happiness, this message offers a transformative perspective on where true satisfaction comes from. Perfect for anyone seeking deeper fulfillment, struggling with relationship expectations, dealing with career dissatisfaction, or wanting to understand what the Bible teaches about joy and contentment. This biblical approach to happiness will help you reorder your priorities and find the peace that comes from knowing your worth is found in being God's beloved child.

Today's wisdom comes from The Happiness Trap by Dr. Russ Harris.   If you're loving Heroic Wisdom Daily, be sure to subscribe to the emails at heroic.us/wisdom-daily.   And… Imagine unlocking access to the distilled wisdom form 700+ of the greatest books ever written.   That's what Heroic Premium offers: Unlimited access to every Philosopher's Note. Daily inspiration and actionable tools to optimize your energy, work, and love. Personalized coaching features to help you stay consistent and focused   Upgrade to Heroic Premium →   Know someone who'd love this? Share Heroic Wisdom Daily with them, and let's grow together in 2025!   Share Heroic Wisdom Daily →

Happiness is the subject of thousands of articles, podcasts, and scientific studies. Yet all this focus on happiness doesn't seem to be making people any happier. In fact, the more they try to be happy, especially by fighting to get rid of bad feelings and cling to good ones, the more unhappy people often become.My guest would say that the first step in escaping this negative cycle is redefining what happiness even means — thinking of it not as a state of feeling good but of doing good.His name is Russ Harris and he's a therapist and the author of The Happiness Trap.Today on the show, Russ explains how struggling against difficult feelings and thoughts just makes them stronger — amplifying instead of diminishing stress, anxiety, depression, and self-consciousness — and how simply obeying your emotions doesn't work out any better. He then unpacks the alternative approach to happiness espoused by Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. With ACT, you allow both hard and pleasant feelings to coexist, and unhook from the latter so that they no longer jerk you around. This allows you to focus on taking action on your values to create a meaningful, flourishing life, or in other words, real happiness.Resources Related to the EpisodeAoM Podcast #614: Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life With the Founder of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Steven HayesAoM Article: From Overwhelmed to Empowered — How Labeling Your Emotions Can Help You Take ControlConnect With Russ HarrisRuss' WebsiteSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Show Notes Guest: Jasper Lee, PhD - Clinical Psychologist Episode Summary: In this episode, Jasper Lee discusses the psychological elements that impact the journey to financial independence (FI). He provides actionable insights on dealing with emotions and behaviors that influence financial decisions, emphasizing cognitive restructuring and behavioral activation as key strategies. Key Takeaways Psychology in FI: 90-95% of the FI journey is psychological, with the remaining being about the mechanics of money. Understanding Money Scripts: Early lessons about money shape adult attitudes; awareness of these scripts can help shift unhelpful patterns. Cognitive Restructuring: Challenge unhelpful thoughts to foster a healthier money mindset. Behavioral Activation: Engage in activities that bring joy and fulfillment to enhance emotional well-being. Timestamps & Insights 00:00:00 Introduction to Jasper Lee Overview of Jasper's qualifications and focus on the intersection of psychology and FI. 00:02:30 Psychology and Financial Independence Key Quote: "Psychology comprises 90-95% of the FI journey." Discussion on how our emotions and thoughts relate to financial strategies. 00:20:50 Understanding Money Scripts Key Quote: "Childhood experiences shape our adult relationships with money." The Klontz Money Script Inventory helps identify personal money scripts. 00:32:45 Cognitive Restructuring Explained Key Quote: "Identify and challenge unhelpful thought patterns to reduce anxiety about money." Techniques for restructing thoughts include evidence for vs. against, and balanced thinking. 00:52:00 Behavioral Activation Insights Key Quote: "Engage in activities that enrich your life." Importance of balancing accomplishment, pleasure, social interactions, and physical activities. 01:03:30 Closure and Resources Suggested resource: The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris for further exploration of acceptance and commitment strategies. Actionable Takeaways Engagement Experimentation: Reflect on week-long activities and assess which bring joy. (Timestamp: 00:15:28) Cognitive Restructuring Practice: Challenge and replace unhelpful thoughts with balanced perspectives. (Timestamp: 00:32:18) Discussion Questions What financial beliefs did you inherit from your childhood? (Timestamp: 00:20:00) How do your thoughts affect your financial decisions? (Timestamp: 00:32:45) Related Resources Klontz Money Script Test: Take the Test (Timestamp: 00:20:50) The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris: Read Here (Timestamp: 01:03:30) Jasper Lee's website: jasperleephd.com

Teaching social skills isn't just about steps, it's about helping kids understand why connection matters and how to cope when things don't go as planned. In this episode, Sharlee Dixon sits down with Melissa Connor-Santos, MA, BCBA, Founder and CEO of Oceanview Behavior Solutions and a nationally recognized expert in Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). With over 15 years of experience, Melissa works at the intersection of clinical excellence and compassionate care, consulting with schools, training professionals, and mentoring families. She's also a full-time ABA faculty member at Felician University, a certified PFA/SBT Level 6 Supervisor, and a leading voice in school-based behavioral support. As a parent of a child with a behavioral disorder, Melissa brings a deeply personal perspective to her work, one grounded in empathy, ethics, and strengths-based practice. Together, Sharlee and Melissa explore how ACT can bridge the gaps in traditional social skills instruction for children with autism and behavioral differences, blending evidence-based practice, personal insight, and emerging research to reimagine how we support emotional regulation, self-narratives, and long-term well-being.   For more information about Melissa Connor-Santos and Oceanview Behavior Solutions, please visit: https://www.oceanviewbehaviorsolutions.com For more information about supervision for aspiring BCBAs, please visit: https://www.oceanviewbehaviorsolutions.com/services For more information about “The Happiness Trap” by Russ Harris, please visit: https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Trap-Struggling-Start-Living/dp/1590305841 For more information about “Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life” by Steven C. Hayes, PhD., please visit: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/noresults/get-out-of-your-mind-and-into-your-life-steven-c-hayes-phd/1129445963 Connect with Melissa on Linkedin at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-connor-santos/

Hidden lessons: exploring assumptions and seeing beyond good or bad with Lauren Grace In this episode, Lauren invites you to look a little deeper at the moments that seem to trip you up — like stepping in gum or when your shoes break. She explores how these everyday frustrations might actually be gentle nudges from your subconscious, showing you something you've been missing. Through reflections on The Happiness Trap, the stories we tell ourselves, and the lessons hidden in the Chinese farmer parable, Lauren helps you recognise how tone, assumptions, and perspective shape your reality. It's a thoughtful conversation designed to help you slow down, question your reactions, and notice what your inner world might be trying to tell you today. ----more---- Welcome to The Afterlight Podcast with Lauren Grace, a spiritual podcast full of stories and conversations that prove we're never alone. Lauren Grace, host of The Afterlight Podcast, is a high-impact coach and medium dedicated to helping professionals deepen their connection to their soul so they can experience more freedom, fulfillment, and purpose.   The Afterlight Podcast with Lauren Grace aims to inspire and educate. Remember, you are the authority on your own life. While we encourage you to take what resonates, we also urge you to do your own research and consult with qualified professionals for advice on your personal situation. The opinions shared by guests are their own, and any advice by our guests or Lauren Grace is not a substitute for professional guidance.   The Afterlight Podcast: The Afterlight Podcast on Social: @theafterlightpodcast To be a guest, apply here: theafterlightpodcast.com Sign up for our newsletter: laurengraceinspirations.com/contact Connect with Lauren Grace, Lauren Grace Inspirations: Lauren on Social: @LaurenGraceInspirations Website: laurengraceinspirations.com Disclaimer: Lauren Grace, Lauren Grace Inspirations, and The Afterlight Podcast are not licensed counselors, medical professionals, or financial advisors. Any information or advice provided during the Podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical, legal, financial, or psychiatric advice. Always seek the advice of qualified professionals regarding any specific questions or concerns you may have.

What if the more we chase happiness... the faster it runs away? The Horizon Time Map™. Follow the instructions in this video, and you will tap into a source of meaningfulness and wisdom that will bring you Enduring Joy. “Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue… as the unintended side effect of one's dedication to a cause greater than oneself.” - Viktor Frankl “You cannot make a choice without being responsible for its consequences. Even joy has a cost — and meaning is the price worth paying.” - Lee Brower

What if our culture's obsession with happiness is actually making our kids less happy? In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack why chasing happiness leads to emptiness and how teaching contentment, gratitude, and respect helps kids develop real joy. Learn how to guide your children through sadness and disappointment so they can grow strong, wise, and anchored in faith.

Episode Overview:“Our primary problem...is not that we lack self-worth. It's that we lack awe.”In this episode, Lisa and Dan unpack the Happiness Trap: the belief that your purpose is tied to feeling good or curating the perfect life. But true vocation often forms us in the slow, hidden work of faithfulness, not fleeting emotional highs. Tune in to escape the trap, rediscover joy, and move forward with a deeper sense of vocation.Up Next:The Hero Trap – Learn how to pursue your calling without trying to "save the world" or carry more than God has asked you to.Helpful Resources: Download your FREE Vocation Trap Tracker: https://soul-makers.kit.com/traptracker Discover Your Artist Archetype → Take the Free Quiz at soulmakers.org Download the Full Artist Archetypes Guide for deeper insight: www.soulmakers.org/bemakedo Read Samuel Wells' book, Improvisation: The Drama of Christian Ethics Read the article, Vocation's Unbroken Chain: Biblical Call Stories and theExperience of Vocation by Chris Keeton Read the article, Understanding Vocation: Discerning and Responding to God's Call by Don Thompson Read the Blog Post by Jen Wilken, Trading Self-Worth for Awe and WonderConnect & Share: Subscribe to Be. Make. Do. to keep following the Vocation Traps series Share this episode with a fellow artist or spiritual seeker Join the conversation on social using #VocationTrapsPodcast Join our brand new Instagram Broadcast Channel!

Episode Description:"And in that framework of call, we're invited to ask different questions...instead of asking, what is God's will for my life? ...To move the focus to who is God? What does God love?"Calling—that sacred sense of purpose—sounds inspiring... until it turns into a booby-trapped maze of pressure, performance, and perfectionism. Are you chasing your calling but feeling more stuck than ever? In this kickoff to our new series Escaping the Vocation Traps, we explore how fear, pressure, and the wrong questions can quietly derail your creative life. Subscribe and join us as we explore four common traps—and how to get unstuck, one faithful step at a time.Welcome to The Vocation Traps, a Be. Make. Do podcast series for brave souls and creative hearts who are tired of tripping over the same old lies:

Episode Summary:A new season is coming—and if you've ever felt stuck in your creative calling, you won't want to miss it.In this short teaser episode, Lisa Smith and Dan ABH introduce Escaping the Vocation Traps, the upcoming season of Be. Make. Do.If you've ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” or wrestled with doubt about your creative purpose, you're not alone. This season is for you..Whether you're quietly questioning your direction or carrying the weight of perfectionism and pressure, this series is designed to help you breathe again, realign with God's heart, and take your next step in freedom.Coming Soon:We'll name the traps that keep us stuck—like the Hero Trap, the Security Trap, the Happiness Trap, and the Chosen Trap—and offer honest stories, biblical reframing, and a better set of questions to guide your path.In This Teaser: A sneak peek at what's ahead in the new season Why “getting unstuck” doesn't require a grand plan—just a fresh posture Encouragement for artists who feel like they've missed their calling or lost their wayWho It's For:Christian artists, creatives, and soul makers who want to pursue their calling with spiritual wholeness and creative freedom.Mark Your Calendar:✨ Season premiere drops September 16. Hit “Follow” now so you don't miss it!Get Ready:

Psychologist Shige Oishi joins us to explore the three dimensions of a fulfilling life: happiness, meaning, and psychological richness. He shares insights from decades of research into subjective well-being and reveals how personality traits, life experiences, and cultural contexts shape what we consider a “good life.” From challenging the “happiness trap” to embracing life's rich diversity, this conversation is a roadmap for deeper self-reflection and greater fulfillment. Topics [0:00] Intro and Speed Round with Shige Oishi [10:28] The Happiness Trap [18:38] Eudaimonic and Hedonic Approaches to Happiness [27:30] The Correlation Between Psychological Richness and Personality [35:00] Gratitude and Social Connection [44:10] What Makes a Happy Society? [48:00] Desert Island Music [1:05:25]  Grooving Session: How to Pursue a Fulfilling Life ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Links About Shige Life in Three Dimensions by Shigehiro Oishi Happiness is Everything, or Is It? Join us on Substack! Join the Behavioral Grooves community Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube Musical Links Charlie Parker - Honeysuckle Rose Clifford Brown & Max Roach - Joy Spring  

Are you feeling stuck, uninspired, or constantly chasing motivation? It might be because you've gotten too comfortable.In this powerful episode of The Emotional Resilience Podcast, we explore how comfort can quietly kill your drive—and why embracing challenge is the secret to building long-term happiness, confidence, and self-respect.You'll discover:Why comfort leads to boredom, anxiety, and emotional burnoutHow doing hard things rewires your brain for fulfillment and purposeThe connection between discipline, mental resilience, and lasting happiness3 practical steps to break out of the comfort zone and take your life backWhether you're a high-achieving professional, a growth-minded entrepreneur, or someone trying to rediscover your spark—this episode gives you the mindset tools and motivation to stop playing small and start showing up for the life you were made for.

Ever feel like no matter how much you earn or spend, it's never quite enough?In Part 2 of Money Shouldn't Make You Miserable, Chris talks about the invisible pressure we all feel to chase more — and why that pursuit can quietly wreck our peace.We look at a teaching from Jesus that flips the script on how we think about money, happiness, and what actually leads to contentment. Spoiler: it's not about earning more — it's about changing how we live with what we already have.Series resources⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join our email list⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Partner financially⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE

"Dropping Anchor" is a powerful grounding technique designed to help you stay steady in the midst of emotional turbulence. It can be used to manage difficult thoughts, feelings, memories, urges, and physical sensations more effectively. Rooted in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), this practice is taught and narrated by Dr Russ Harris — therapist, trainer of health professionals, and author of The Happiness Trap (along with eight other books). This is a fantastic centering exercise to keep in your mental health toolkit, for whenever life feels overwhelming or chaotic. Join our Month of Mindfulness Challenge 30 days of short daily practices to help you slow down, check in, and care for your mind. To download the My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself  

Most people spend 90% of their life chasing a version of happiness they think is out there—tied to success, money, relationships, or someday “when things calm down.” But what if the real problem isn't life… it's the pursuit itself? In this episode, we flip the script on what it means to be truly happy. I'll share personal stories, practical insights, and one key shift you can make today to stop chasing and start living. Let's stop surviving for the 10% and start showing up for the now. Special Offer Do you desire to have a clear message, confidence to deliver it and make money? Join our Founder's Club inside the new Messagepreneurs Community. We're building something big and want you to see you there! http://messagepreneur.com

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We live in a world obsessed with happiness, sold the promise that if we just work hard enough, think positively enough, or buy the right things, we'll finally feel complete. But this endless chase often leaves us feeling emptier than before. The more we run after happiness, the more it slips through our fingers, creating a quiet pressure to always be "okay" — even when we're not.In this episode, we step back and question the very idea of happiness as life's finish line. What if true fulfillment isn't about feeling good all the time, but about feeling fully alive — through the highs, the lows, and everything in between? We'll explore how accepting discomfort and embracing the full range of our emotions can free us from the trap of forced positivity and open the door to a deeper, more honest way of living.With love, MafeFor business inquiries: mafeanzuresbusiness@gmail.comCheckout my personal socials below https://mafeanzures.com/Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and checkout all of I Missed MeSign up to our membership and get access to monthly exclusive content patreon.com/ImissedmeOur Sponsors:* Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/MAFEANZURES* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.com* Check out Shopify: https://shopify.com/mafeanzuresSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What makes a good life? For decades, psychologists have debated whether true fulfillment comes from happiness—a life of comfort and joy—or meaning—a life of purpose and impact. But what if there's a third way?University of Chicago psychology professor Shigehiro Oishi has spent his career studying happiness, meaning, and what truly brings people deep satisfaction. His new research suggests that some of the most fulfilled people don't prioritize either—they live psychologically rich lives, full of novelty, challenges, and transformative experiences.In this episode, Oishi explains why psychological richness might be the missing piece in our search for fulfillment.

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My guest today is Dr. Russ Harris. Russ is a world-renowned trainer of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) and author of the international best-selling self-help book The Happiness Trap. Since 2005, Russ has run over 700 two-day workshops and provided ACT training for almost 50,000 health professionals. He has authored four ACT textbooks (ACT Made Simple, Trauma Focused ACT, Getting Unstuck in ACT, ACT Questions & Answers), and four ACT-based self-help books (The Happiness Trap, The Reality Slap, The Confidence Gap and ACT with Love). His best-known book, The Happiness Trap, has sold over one million copies worldwide, with translations into more than 30 languages.Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:- Perfectionism and productive procrastination- How the Hexaflex can potentially create unhelpful limitations in ACT- Broadening acceptance and defusion into emotional and cognitive flexibility - How all of the “B” in CBT fits nicely into ACT- “Flexible selfing” as an alternative to self-as-context - ACT supervision- And misunderstanding the difference between thoughts and thinking—————————————————————————Russ's website: https://www.actmindfully.com.au/—————————————————————————Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexibleYou can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexiblePlease subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truthCheck out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Chapter 1:Summary of The Happiness Trap"The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris is based on the principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), which encourages individuals to embrace their thoughts and feelings rather than avoiding or fighting them. Harris argues that the pursuit of happiness often leads to unhappiness because we become trapped in our thoughts, chasing after an idealized version of happiness instead of accepting our current experiences.The book presents several key concepts:1. Cognitive Defusion: This technique involves distancing oneself from negative thoughts, seeing them as separate from oneself rather than as absolute truths. This helps reduce their power and influence.2. Acceptance: Instead of trying to eliminate uncomfortable thoughts and feelings, the book advocates for accepting them as a natural part of life. This acceptance can lead to greater emotional flexibility.3. Mindfulness: Harris emphasizes the importance of being present and fully engaging in the moment, which can enhance overall well-being.4. Values Clarification: The book guides readers in identifying their core values and aligning their actions with these values, promoting a sense of purpose and fulfillment.5. Committed Action: Taking steps towards living a value-driven life, even in the presence of discomfort, is crucial for achieving personal goals and enhancing overall happiness.Overall, "The Happiness Trap" encourages readers to shift their perspective on happiness, recognizing that it is often a byproduct of living a meaningful life rather than a direct goal to strive for. By practicing acceptance, mindfulness, and committing to values-based actions, individuals can discover a deeper, more lasting sense of well-being.Chapter 2:The Theme of The Happiness Trap"The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris is a self-help book that introduces Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a psychological approach that emphasizes acceptance of difficult emotions, commitment to actions that enhance one's life, and mindfulness practices to improve mental well-being. While the book doesn't have a traditional plot or characters like a novel, it does contain key ideas, concepts, and themes that drive its message. Here are the essential points organized by key plot points, character development (in a metaphorical sense), and thematic ideas: Key Plot Points1. Understanding Happiness Myths: Harris starts by debunking common myths about happiness, such as the idea that happiness should be constant or that avoiding negative thoughts leads to happiness. This serves as a foundation for understanding how traditional approaches to happiness can be counterproductive.2. The Pain-Acceptance Paradox: The book introduces the concept that trying to avoid or eliminate discomfort often leads to greater suffering. Accepting painful thoughts and feelings is a crucial step towards genuine happiness.3. Mindfulness and Present Moment Awareness: Harris emphasizes the importance of mindfulness, teaching readers to focus on the present moment and to observe their thoughts without judgment as a practice for fostering acceptance.4. Values Clarification: A significant point in the book is helping readers identify and clarify their personal values. By determining what truly matters to them, readers can align their actions accordingly, leading to a more meaningful life.5. Defusion Techniques: The book outlines techniques for cognitive defusion—drawing a distinction between thoughts and reality, which allows individuals to lessen the impact of negative thoughts.6. Committed Action: Harris encourages taking committed action in alignment with one's values, even in the presence of difficult emotions. This involves setting goals and acting on them despite fears or discomfort. Character DevelopmentWhile "The...

In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of imposter syndrome, a feeling many of us have faced at some point. While it's often seen as something negative, what if imposter syndrome is just a normal part of the human experience? I'm joined by Dr. Russ Harris, the author of The Happiness Trap and The Confidence Gap, as well as an expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Dr. Harris offers a refreshing perspective on imposter syndrome and shares research-backed strategies to help us navigate these feelings with more confidence and self-compassion. My free mini-course on Beating Burnout and Finding Flow: https://www.simonmundie.com/beat-burnout-mini-course My book: https://www.simonmundie.com/book Website: simonmundie.com YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/YouTubeSimonMundie Substack: https://simonmundie.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's guest on Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu is Dr. Zelena Montminy. Dr. Zelena is a wellness architect and the author of 21 Days to Resilience. In this episode, she talks about positive psychology, how to architect your best life, and how to maintain great emotional health no matter what you face in life. BUY 21 DAYS TO RESILIENCE: https://amzn.to/2SpioSc [Original air date: 2-27-19]. SHOW NOTES: Why we shouldn't focus on being happy [02:29] Are we approaching gratitude in the wrong way? [05:25] How to let go of the need to feel perfect [07:48] The first step to feeling good enough [09:28] Why challenges are actually great [13:22] How to detach yourself from your emotions and feel them at the same time [16:00] Why being able to pivot is essential [18:26] How kids train you to be flexible [19:54] The things you're probably doing that are destroying your kid's confidence [22:12] Why "balance" doesn't exist [27:53] How to find meaning in everything you do [29:35] Tactics to become more present [31:36] The connection between what we eat and how we feel [32:47] Why we all need to prioritize sleep [35:06] Is there a difference between being resilient and being unbreakable? [38:00] Why we all de-prioritize our mental health [39:03] How to celebrate failure [40:55] The biggest thing Zelana had to change to become resilient [44:22] CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Netsuite: Download the CFO's Guide to AI and Machine Learning at https://netsuite.com/women Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa FOLLOW ZELANA: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2NznxXa INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TkEJF4 FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2H5dcRi FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's guest on Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu is Dr. Zelena Montminy. Dr. Zelena is a wellness architect and the author of 21 Days to Resilience.In this episode, she talks about positive psychology, how to architect your best life, and how to maintain great emotional health no matter what you face in life. BUY 21 DAYS TO RESILIENCE: https://amzn.to/2SpioSc [Original air date: 2-27-19]. SHOW NOTES:Why we shouldn't focus on being happy [02:29]Are we approaching gratitude in the wrong way? [05:25]How to let go of the need to feel perfect [07:48]The first step to feeling good enough [09:28]Why challenges are actually great [13:22]How to detach yourself from your emotions and feel them at the same time [16:00]Why being able to pivot is essential [18:26]How kids train you to be flexible [19:54]The things you're probably doing that are destroying your kid's confidence [22:12]Why "balance" doesn't exist [27:53]How to find meaning in everything you do [29:35]Tactics to become more present [31:36]The connection between what we eat and how we feel [32:47]Why we all need to prioritize sleep [35:06]Is there a difference between being resilient and being unbreakable? [38:00]Why we all de-prioritize our mental health [39:03]How to celebrate failure [40:55]The biggest thing Zelana had to change to become resilient [44:22]CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORSNetsuite: Download the CFO's Guide to AI and Machine Learning at https://netsuite.com/womenShopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisaFOLLOW ZELANA:WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2NznxXaINSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TkEJF4FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2H5dcRiFOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeuYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpactTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enLISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The pursuit of happiness is one of the most talked about topics in the self-help world and life in general. What does it mean to be happy? Perhaps the pursuit of happiness is actually just a myth and what we really want to be looking for is joy and contentment. Listen to today's show for important questions to ask yourself and tools to discover what real happiness means.  In this episode with Shawn Léon Nowotnik we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of creating meaning in your life and relationships The commercialization of happiness and how it can lead you down the wrong path Tools to discover your most authentic self and live authentically Challenging the idea that you have to be perfect What to do when you feel like you have everything and still are not happy And much more! Sponsored Quince, this holiday season, give the gift of luxury without the luxury price tag with Quince. Enjoy free shipping on your order and hassle-free 365-day returns at QUINCE.COM/IDO. Osea is your one stop shop for everything related to great quality skincare. From December 12th to the 18th get Free 2-Day Shipping on orders $150+ and an additional 10% off when using the code "IDO10"! #OSEAPartner Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The struggle in an anxiety disorder is seen in two almost automatic responses to anxiety - we either obey it and do what it tells us we must do, or we resist it by trying to fight it, argue with it, and wish it away over and over. This week on Disordered Dr. Russ Harris - one of the world's leading advocates for Acceptance and Committment Therapy (ACT) - is here to chat about the principles of ACT, how we get hooked by anxiety, fear, and anxious thoughts, and how this can lead to a smaller and smaller life over time. We're even using some of Josh's personal experiences with anxiety as a mini case-study viewed the the ACT lens. And as usual, the episode is sprinkled with healthy doses of light-hearted humor and kind acknowledgement of what is an almost universal struggle for humans around the world. Thank you to Russ Harris for making time for us! To find out more about Russ and ACT: https://thehappinesstrap.com If you are a therapist or clinician interested in being trained in ACT: https://psychwire.com --- Disordered Roundtables are here. Think of it as "Disordered Live", a way for members of our audience to spend time with us in an intimate virtual setting (attendance is limited) to engage in real time sharing and discussion on specific anxiety disorder and recovery topics. To be notified when new Disordered Roundtable sessions are scheduled, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠visit our homepage and get on our mailing list⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. --- Struggling with worry and rumination that you feel you can't stop or control? Check out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Worry and Rumination Explained⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a two hour pre-recorded workshop produced by Josh and Drew. The workshop takes a deep dive into the mechanics of worrying and ruminating, offering some helpful ways to approach the seemingly unsolvable problem of trying to solve seemingly unsolveable problems. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/worryrumination⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ----- Want to ask us questions, share your wins, or get more information about Josh, Drew, and the Disordered podcast?

This week Scott is joined by one of Australia's foremost practitioners of acceptance and commitment therapy, Dr. Russ Harris. Scott and Russ discuss Dr. Harris'' "Happiness Trap” cards, which are designed to invigorate one's mental health with ideas to boost self-esteem and challenge intrusive thoughts among other mental health practices. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode with the licensed therapists from The Counseling Co. is all about the "happiness trap" -- AKA, how our beliefs around happiness can get in the way of our expectations and also… the difference between fulfillment and happiness. Are YOU truly happy in your life? Does being content mean you've "settled"?  This is a loaded topic that applies to all of us! I hope you find value in this conversation!  What we discussed: Happiness vs. fulfillment vs. contentment Does being content mean you're “settling” for less in life How to stop striving for perfection / shifting expectations of what happiness “should” look like Acceptance is a practice - not a destination Tips if you're struggling with comparison, especially on social media Comparative suffering – “well, this isn't a big deal, but…” “someone else is going through something harder…” When reality doesn't meet expectations in marriage   What about when you're happy with your life BUT it feels overly full / busy / overwhelming The power of saying NO and checking in with your values Tips for moms struggling with their identity in motherhoodHow to find happiness when you're navigating a new normal // major life change (i.e. having a medically complex child, becoming a caregiver for an aging parent, etc.) How to connect with The Counseling Co: Affiliate Links/Sponsors: Shop Clean Simple Eats Black Friday sale using my affiliate code WELLNESSFORTHEWIN -- shop here Shop Harper Wilde Black Friday sale using my affiliate link here Get 20% off the Expecting and Empowered mobile app (annual subscription) through the end of November 2024 with my affiliate code WELLNESSFORTHEWIN - sign up here Thank you for listening and happy Thanksgiving!  Follow me on IG at @wellnessforthewin and @wellnessforthewinpod Check out my blog for healthy recipes & wellness tips! JOIN MY EMAIL LIST HERE! Please be sure to rate, review and subscribe to the podcast!

Chapter 1: Summary of The Happiness Trap"The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris is a self-help book that introduces readers to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a psychological approach that emphasizes the importance of accepting thoughts and feelings rather than fighting them. The book challenges the common belief that happiness is the ultimate goal in life and illustrates why pursuing happiness can lead to unhappiness and dissatisfaction.Key concepts of the book include:1. Myth of Happiness: Harris discusses how societal pressures to be happy can create feelings of inadequacy and anxiety. He argues that happiness is not a constant state and that it's normal to experience discomfort and negative emotions.2. Acceptance: The book emphasizes the importance of accepting thoughts and feelings without judgment. By acknowledging unpleasant emotions instead of avoiding them, individuals can learn to cope more effectively.3. Mindfulness: Harris promotes mindfulness practices that help individuals become more aware of their thoughts and feelings. This awareness can lead to greater emotional regulation and clarity in decision-making.4. Values: The importance of identifying personal values is a central theme. By clarifying what truly matters to an individual, they can commit to actions that align with these values, leading to a more meaningful life.5. Committed Action: The final aspect of ACT discussed in the book is the importance of taking action based on one's values, even in the presence of discomfort. This involves setting goals and pursuing them despite obstacles.Overall, "The Happiness Trap" encourages readers to embrace life's challenges and uncertainties, find meaning in their experiences, and pursue a fulfilling life through acceptance, mindfulness, and value-driven actions.Chapter 2: The Theme of The Happiness Trap"The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris is focused on the principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and explores the misconceptions surrounding happiness and how individuals can pursue a more meaningful life. While the book is not a fiction narrative with traditional plot points, characters, and a storyline, it does present several key themes and ideas that are critical to understanding its message. Key Themes and Ideas:1. Happiness Myths:- The book debunks common myths about happiness, emphasizing that the pursuit of constant happiness can lead to unhappiness. Harris discusses how societal pressures and media representations skew our understanding of what a fulfilling life looks like.2. Acceptance Instead of Avoidance:- A major theme is the importance of accepting one's feelings and thoughts rather than trying to eliminate or avoid them. Acceptance is positioned as a crucial step toward emotional resilience.3. Mindfulness:- The practice of mindfulness is emphasized throughout the book, encouraging individuals to stay present and aware rather than becoming consumed by their thoughts and feelings. This practice plays a key role in fostering acceptance.4. Values Clarification:- Harris stresses the significance of identifying personal values. Understanding what truly matters to an individual enables better decision-making and aligns actions with those values, promoting a sense of fulfillment.5. Commitment to Action:- The book highlights the idea of committing to actions that align with one's values, even in the face of discomfort or fear. This commitment is essential for achieving a meaningful life.6. Cognitive Defusion:- The concept of cognitive defusion involves distancing oneself from negative thoughts and narratives. Instead of identifying with these thoughts, individuals learn to observe them without judgment. Character Development:While "The Happiness Trap" does not have...

Our culture spins a clear picture of what you should do with your money: spend it (whether you have it or not). Not only does this lead to stress, debt and being overwhelmed, it also leads to unhappiness. God wants something FOR you far more than he wants something FROM you. So what's the path to freedom?

Alex Bean sold his company, Divvy, for $2.5 billion. But after reaching this monumental milestone, why didn't the sale bring him the happiness he expected? In this episode, Alex shares his journey and the lessons he learned about life after a business exit. 

In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic goals and how they affect our well-being. Have you ever felt the high of achieving a big goal, only to have that happiness fade away? This episode explores why that happens and introduces the concept of the "hedonic treadmill." You'll learn how extrinsic goals, like money and status, give short-term happiness but don't last. In contrast, intrinsic goals, like personal growth and meaningful relationships, bring deeper and more lasting joy. Duane and Eric share practical tips on how to shift your focus to these intrinsic goals, cultivate gratitude, and build stronger, more fulfilling connections. They also discuss the importance of mindfulness, personal growth, and serving others in achieving true contentment. Tune in to discover how you can step off the hedonic treadmill and find real, sustainable happiness in your life.Download: INTRINSIC VS. EXTRINSIC GOALSJoin Our Deep Dive, where we discuss this episode in depth.Register Here: https://theaddictedmind.com/deepdiveClick Here to Join the TAM + Community Waitlist. Get the support you need.Key Topics  The difference between extrinsic and intrinsic goals Understanding the hedonic treadmill How extrinsic goals lead to temporary happiness The importance of intrinsic goals for lasting fulfillment Practical tips to shift focus and cultivate intrinsic goals Timestamp List [00:01:06] Introduction to the topic: Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Goals [00:03:08] Explanation of the hedonic treadmill [00:04:20] The impact of extrinsic goals on happiness [00:07:33] Defining and understanding intrinsic goals [00:11:00] How to step off the hedonic treadmill [00:16:04] Practical tips for cultivating intrinsic goals [00:19:00] Summary and closing thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic goals and how they affect our well-being. Have you ever felt the high of achieving a big goal, only to have that happiness fade away? This episode explores why that happens and introduces the concept of the "hedonic treadmill." You'll learn how extrinsic goals, like money and status, give short-term happiness but don't last. In contrast, intrinsic goals, like personal growth and meaningful relationships, bring deeper and more lasting joy. Duane and Eric share practical tips on how to shift your focus to these intrinsic goals, cultivate gratitude, and build stronger, more fulfilling connections. They also discuss the importance of mindfulness, personal growth, and serving others in achieving true contentment. Tune in to discover how you can step off the hedonic treadmill and find real, sustainable happiness in your life. Download: INTRINSIC VS. EXTRINSIC GOALS Join Our Deep Dive, where we discuss this episode in depth. Register Here: https://theaddictedmind.com/deepdive Click Here to Join the TAM + Community Waitlist. Get the support you need. Key Topics  The difference between extrinsic and intrinsic goals Understanding the hedonic treadmill How extrinsic goals lead to temporary happiness The importance of intrinsic goals for lasting fulfillment Practical tips to shift focus and cultivate intrinsic goals Timestamp List [00:01:06] Introduction to the topic: Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Goals [00:03:08] Explanation of the hedonic treadmill [00:04:20] The impact of extrinsic goals on happiness [00:07:33] Defining and understanding intrinsic goals [00:11:00] How to step off the hedonic treadmill [00:16:04] Practical tips for cultivating intrinsic goals [00:19:00] Summary and closing thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In episode 438 I chat with Dr Russ Harris. Russ is a medical practitioner, author of the international best-selling self-help book ‘The Happiness Trap' (as well as nine others), and is a world-renowned trainer of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT).  We discuss his new Happiness Trap card deck, rumination, the skill noticing and naming, he guides us through the ACT skill Dropping Anchor, the problems with distraction, self compassion, and he guides us through the kind hands exercise, and much more. Hope it helps.  Show notes: https://theocdstories.com/episode/russ-438  The podcast is made possible by NOCD. NOCD offers effective, convenient therapy available in the US and outside the US. To find out more about NOCD, their therapy plans and if they currently take your insurance head over to https://go.treatmyocd.com/theocdstories Thanks to all our patrons for supporting our work. To sign up to our Patreon and to check out the benefits you'll receive as a Patron, visit: https://www.patreon.com/theocdstoriespodcast