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Do you often dwell on the bad, even when good things happen? That's negativity bias at work! This episode dives into powerful CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) techniques to challenge those thought patterns and cultivate a more balanced perspective.Join our FREE Facebook Community-Positive on Purpose Podcast Community https://www.facebook.com/share/g/15xBGuVnLg/  We are so grateful for your support! Please share this podcast with someone who needs it and leave us review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/positive-on-purpose/id1531548022

Ever feel like your thoughts are working against you? Like you want to have faith, but fear keeps creeping in? Or like you're stuck in a cycle of doubt, negativity, or insecurity?In this week's message, we unpack how to rewire your thoughts — not just swap bad ones for better ones, but really renew your mind the way Scripture talks about. Using tools like CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), biblical truth, and spiritual practices, we dive into Romans 12:2 and 2 Corinthians 10 to uncover how transformation starts in our thinking.Whether you're brand new to church or have been following Jesus for a while, this message will help you shift the way you think so you can walk in God's peace, purpose, and power.Watch it. Share it. Reflect on it.And drop a comment: What's one thought that needs rewiring in your life?

Trauma can cast a long shadow, but intensive therapy offers a way to step into the light and reclaim your life. Combining the transformative power of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) with the practicality of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), this approach creates a dynamic path to healing that is both comprehensive and empowering.At the heart of EMDR is a remarkable technique that uses bilateral stimulation—like guided eye movements—to gently and effectively process distressing memories. It helps rewire the brain's response to trauma, allowing you to release the hold that past experiences may have on your present. The result? A clearer, more peaceful mind, free from the weight of unresolved pain.On the other hand, CBT steps in as the ultimate toolkit for building resilience and emotional strength. By identifying negative thought patterns and replacing them with healthier, more constructive ways of thinking, CBT equips you to manage anxiety, depression, and other challenges that can accompany trauma. It's a therapy that doesn't just heal—it empowers, giving you the skills to navigate life's complexities with confidence and clarity.When used together, EMDR and CBT complement each other beautifully. While EMDR focuses on resolving deep-rooted emotional scars, CBT provides the practical strategies needed to cope, thrive, and rebuild. Intensive therapy condenses this powerful combination into a focused timeframe, offering faster relief and profound transformation. It's a journey of self-discovery, growth, and renewed strength—a chance to turn the page and start a new chapter.Join me on this empowering journey as we unravel the complexities of traumaand provide insights, resources, and hope for those seeking healing and transformation.You can always drop me an email to ⁠⁠podcast@online-cbt.com⁠⁠ if you want to have a request or visit my website by clicking thehashtag ⁠⁠#onlinetherapy⁠⁠Please follow me or like the podcast if you wish, and shareit with others.Hope you enjoy!Jaime (CBT and EMDR therapist) #UnderstandingTrauma #HealingJourney #MentalHealthMatters #BreakTheSilence #SeekingSupport #TraumaInformedCare #Empowerment #FindingHope ⁠#WellbeingandMentalHealthforOrganisations ⁠⁠#TraumaticEventSupportforOrganisation⁠⁠#CrisisandTraumaticEpisodeforOrganisations⁠⁠#industrialtraumasupport⁠ ⁠#staffwellbeingservices⁠ ⁠#onlinementalhealthsupportforemployeesImage by pikisuperstar - FreePik.com

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Natalia Rappa and we dive deep into holistic psychology and motherhood. We unpack what trauma really is (hint: it's more subjective than you think), how it can show up as anxiety and depression, and how EMDR therapy can be a game-changer for healing. Plus, we share practical grounding techniques and mindset shifts to help you navigate the chaos of life while staying present!Dr. Natalia Rappa is a holistic psychologist. Her private practice focuses on working with adolescents and adults in transitional life phases dealing with anxiety, depression, and trauma. She holds a doctoral degree in school/clinical psychology from Hofstra University. She has specialized training in Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction and CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). In addition, she pursued further training in EMDR, a evidenced based treatment for trauma. She integrates these different approaches to meet the unique needs of each of her clients. The belief at the core of her work is that our mind and bodies want to heal and have an innate wisdom to do so. With a non-judgmental environment, strong therapeutic rapport, and supportive coping techniques, clients are able to access this wisdom within them. In addition to her clinical work, Dr. Rappa is an adjunct professor at Molloy University, where she teaches child and adolescent development. Follow Natalia on Instagram @talkingdrtal or head to her podcast 'Mom Mentality' here! Plus, you can find her website, here! Chapters in this episode: 00:00 Introduction to Holistic Psychology02:10 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact05:43 The Subjectivity of Trauma09:56 Recognizing Emotional Responses12:06 Grounding Techniques for Emotional Regulation15:10 The Role of EMDR in Healing18:10 Identifying Negative Beliefs22:40 The Science Behind EMDR26:20 Navigating Control in Motherhood31:35 Navigating New Responsibilities and Anxiety34:29 Understanding Maternal Anxiety and Sleep Challenges39:36 Strategies for Managing Anxiety as a Mother46:26 Acknowledging the Complexity of Motherhood51:17 Finding Balance Between Gratitude and Struggles56:24 The Importance of Connection and Community in MotherhoodWays to work with Corinne: Join the Mind Your Hormones Method, HERE! (Use code PODCAST for 10% off!!)Mentioned in this episode: Binaural Beats PlaylistJoin the Mind Your Hormones Community to connect more with me & other members of this community!Come hang out with me on Instagram: @corinneangealicaOr on TikTok: @corinneangelicaFree Facebook group: Mind Your Hormones Podcast CommunityEmail Fam: Click here to get weekly emails from meMind Your Hormones Instagram: @mindyourhormones.podcast Disclaimer: always consult your doctor before taking any supplementation. This podcast is intended for educational purposes only, not to

OCD, or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, is a debilitating condition that involves intrusive thoughts and time-consuming, repetitive behaviors. It impacts 80 million worldwide, 2-4% of the US population or 1 in 100 people here in the US.It can be difficult to overstate the suffering caused by OCD, not only for those with this condition but also for their family members. In addition to the distress caused by the obsessional thoughts and compulsions, there can be shame and loss - loss of more meaningful, purposeful, or pleasant thoughts and behaviors. and loss of time connecting with others or engaging in purposeful or enjoyable activities.Other conditions associated with obsessive-compulsive disorder include:* Body dysmorphic disorder* Skin picking* Trichotillomania (hair pulling)* Hoarding* Hypochondria* Olfactory reference syndrome (an irrational feeling or belief that one emits a foul smell and often attempts to remove the odor).It´s not unusual for someone with OCD to have other conditions, such as:* Other forms of anxiety* Depression* ADHD* Autism spectrum disorder* Eating disorders* TourettesResearch suggests that having OCD raises one´s vulnerability to developing dementia. Many other brain conditions, however, also appear to increase this vulnerability similarly.Treatment ChallengesOCD is particularly challenging to treat. Of those with OCD, 60% do not respond to typical therapies (often medication in combination with psychotherapy involving gradual exposure to that which is being avoided). Typical medications include:* SSRI´s (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors) -e.g., sertraline, fluoxetine, fluvoxamine, citalopram, paroxetine* Tricyclic antidepressant - clomipramine* SNRI - (Serotonin and Norepinephrine Reuptake Inhibitor) - venlafaxine* Atypical antipsychotic medications are sometimes addedMedication is combined with CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), which involves exposure and response prevention, or CBT is used alone.As you can see, most medication approaches aim to increase serotonin activity. Serotonin, however, is just one of the neurotransmitters involved. What has become increasingly clear from the research is that OCD involves abnormal activity at the NMDA receptor - a glutamate receptor.NMDA & GlutamateThe NMDA receptor is found throughout the brain. Glutamate, the primary excitatory neurotransmitter in the central nervous system, binds to the NMDA receptor. NMDA and glutamate are involved in synaptic plasticity (creating neuronal connections), learning, memory, and motor function.The synapse is the space between communicating neurons. Presynaptic neurons release glutamate, which binds to the NMDA receptor on postsynaptic neurons. This results in a cascade of signaling events that lead to “neuronal excitation.” The problem arises when this receptor has too much (or too little) activity. In the case of OCD, there is too much activity.Implications* Dysregulation at the NMDA receptor appears to play a role in OCD, depression, PTSD, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and substance use disorders.* Weak memory extinction can result from high activity at the NMDA receptor. While memory is a good thing, we can have problems with too much memory - or rather, problems putting our memories aside. This can look like thoughts getting stuck, for example:* Intrusive thoughts in OCD* Flashbacks in PTSD* Delusions in psychotic disorders* Cravings in addiction.* Neurodegenerative disorders, such as Alzheimer's, Parkinson's, and ALS, have also been linked to NMDA receptor malfunction.Methylation & NMDAThose who are undermethylated, especially those with OCD or addictions, have high activity at the NMDA receptor. To remind you, undermethylation is a biochemical process with many functions, including the breakdown of histamine, support of detoxification, and support of serotonin activity. When someone is undermethylated, they can tend to have allergies (from high histamine), be perfectionistic, competitive, strong-willed, have obsessive-compulsive tendencies, be ritualistic, have dietary inflexibility, and have high accomplishment or have family members with high accomplishment. Undermethylation can contribute to the low serotonin activity seen in OCD. Simply addressing undermethylation, like merely addressing serotonin, will only bring partial benefit. To address undermethylation, those of us trained by the Walsh Research Institute, use SAMe and/or methionine, B12, B6, magnesium, and antioxidants. We address this before starting methylation treatment for those with high homocysteine. But how can we also decrease activity at the NMDA receptor?Blocking NMDA & Normalizing Glutamate ActivityEsketamine or Ketamine, which has been getting much attention in recent years, can impact the brain in various ways; however, its primary mechanism is as an NMDA blocker or antagonist. For some, it can serve as a rapid-acting and highly effective antidepressant. It can also decrease OCD symptoms. Other NMDA-blocking drugs include memantine and dextromethorphan (combined with bupropion). Lamotrigine can decrease glutamate release and has been used as an adjunct medication for OCD.Nutrients, however, play an important role in the NMDA receptor. NAC or N-acetyl cysteine is a precursor to glutathione and, thus, an antioxidant. It is also anti-inflammatory and a binder for a particular toxin made by candida and mold. But, it is also a potent NMDA antagonist (decreases activity at NMDA) and has been shown to reduce obsessions and compulsions of OCD. It has also been studied in alcoholism, opiate addiction, cocaine abuse, gambling disorder, shopping disorder, cigarette addiction, and trichotillomania. It has been used by itself and as an adjunct to medication therapy. NAC has become part of the Walsh undermethylation nutrient protocols for those with OCD and/or addiction.Zinc also plays an important role in regulating functioning at the NMDA receptor. The Walsh Research Institute found that 90% of those with brain symptoms had relatively low zinc. Dosing of zinc is determined after testing plasma zinc levels using a narrow range (the Walsh/Pheiffer range differs from typical lab ranges). Zinc is checked in conjunction with copper. Zinc has been found to improve treatment response in those with OCD treated with SSRIs. Zinc can be depleted because of very high oxidative stress and/or high pyrroles, which also cause low B6. Because B6 is needed to make serotonin, pyrroles are also important to address if elevated.Inositol is a nutrient involved in the serotonin and glutamate signaling systems. It, too, is beneficial for OCD symptoms; however, it can require very high doses.The challenge of research, as you can see, is that these approaches are all looked at in isolation, as opposed to, for example, addressing undermethylation, optimizing zinc, decreasing activity at the NMDA and addressing sources of oxidative stress.Candida & MoldAside from undermethylation, low serotonin activity, and high activity at the NMDA receptor, those with OCD appear to have high oxidative stress, as is the case with most brain-related conditions. One of the more common sources of oxidative stress I see in my practice is candida overgrowth in the GI tract, which often follows antibiotic exposure and /or mold toxicity due to water damage causing seen or unseen toxic mold. Because mold and candida (yeast) thrive on sugar and a high-carb diet, symptoms can fluctuate with sugar or carb intake. How might candida and mold intersect with the NMDA receptor? Mold and yeast can contribute to high histamine states. Histamine can increase activity at the NMDA receptor. EstrogenFor women and teen girls that I see with OCD, there is often a fluctuation in their OCD symptoms with their cycle. Typically, their symptoms worsen during the times of the month when estrogen is the highest. This may be because estrogen can increase activity at the NMDA receptor.PANDAS & PANSWhen a child has an abrupt onset of OCD symptoms, PANDAS and PANS should be considered.* PANDAS = Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal Infections* PANS = Pediatric Acute-Onset Neuropsychiatric SyndromePANDAS and PANS are autoimmune conditions, meaning the immune system is acting on the body, in this case, a part of the brain called the basal ganglia, that involves an acute onset of OCD symptoms. Other symptoms can include restricted eating, mood symptoms, regression in academic or social skills, and motor tics. While triggers are often viral, bacterial (strep in the case of PANDAS), candida,or other microbial source, what is underlying the dysregulated immune response to such microbes, in my experience, is mold toxicity. SummaryBecause OCD can be difficult to treat, my hope in sharing this information is to raise awareness that effective OCD treatments can require a multifaceted approach that includes:* addressing methylation (and high pyrroles if present) to improve serotonin activity* decreasing activity at the NMDA receptor* by optimizing zinc* using supplements or medication* addressing sources of inflammation and high histamine* address sources of oxidative stress - trauma, stress, toxins, inflammation If you find this information helpful and would like to help me get this out into the world, please consider sharing:As always, I welcome your comments, questions, and experience.Until next time,CourtneyP.S. 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Ask David: Getting Off Benzos How Does Music Stir Our Emotions? Combatting Negative Thoughts about the World Treating Schizophrenia with TEAM The Four Feared Fantasy Techniques and more! Questions for today: Mamunur asks: What's the best way to withdraw from benzodiazepines? Gray asks: How does music evoke such powerful emotional reactions? Josh thanks David for techniques that have helped in his personal and professional life. Harold asks: How do you respond to negative thoughts about the world, as opposed to self-criticisms? For example, “The world is filled with so little joy and so much suffering.” Moritz asks: How do you help people with bipolar, schizophrenia, etc.? John expresses gratitude for our answer to his question on Positive Reframing, which triggered an “ah ha moment.” Rhonda asks: What are the four Feared Fantasy Techniques? The answers below were written prior to the podcast. Listen to the podcast for the dialogue among Rhonda, Matt, and David, as much more emerges from the discussions! Mamunur asks: What's the best way to withdraw from benzodiazepines? Ask David, Bangladesh question Dear Sir, I am writing to you from Bangladesh. Your book Feeling Good is a phenomenal work, and it has greatly helped in promoting the development of a healthy mind through logic and reason. Sir, I have a question regarding benzodiazepine withdrawal, which is often prescribed for mental health disorders. Is there a specific CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) approach that can help in withdrawing from benzodiazepines? Your guidance on this would be invaluable, as many people have been taking it for years, either knowingly or unknowingly, without being fully aware of its severe withdrawal effects. Thank you, sir, for your kind contributions to humanity. Sincerely, Mamunur Rahman Senior Lecturer David's reply Dear Mamunur, Thank you for your important question! I am so glad you like my book, Feeling Good, and appreciate your kind comments! As a general rule, slow taper off of benzodiazepines is recommended. This might involve slowly decreasing the dose over a period of several weeks. When I was younger I used to take 0.25 mg of Xanax for sleep, because it was initially promoted as being non-addictive, which was wrong. It is highly addictive. The dose I used was the smallest dose. When I realized that I was “hooked,” I tapered off of it over about a week, and simply put up with the side effects of withdrawal, primarily an increase of anxiety and difficulty sleeping. These disappeared after several weeks. Abrupt withdrawal from high doses of any benzodiazepine can trigger seizures, as I'm sure you know. That is the biggest danger, perhaps. I do recall a published study from years ago conducted at Harvard, I believe at McClean Hospital. The divided two groups of people hooked on Xanax into two groups. Both groups were switched to Klonopin which has a longer “half-life” in the blood and is supposedly a bit easier to withdraw from than Xanax, which goes out of the blood rapidly, causing more sudden and intense withdrawal effects. After this initial phase, both groups continued with slowly tapering off the Klonopin under the guidance of medical experts. However, one of the groups also attended weekly cognitive therapy groups, learning about how to combat the distorted thoughts that trigger negative feelings like anxiety and depression. My memory of the study is that the group receiving cognitive therapy plus drug management did much better. As I recall, 80% of them were able to withdraw successfully. However, the group receiving drug management alone did poorly, with only about 20% achieving withdrawal. My memory of the details may be somewhat faulty, but the main conclusion was clear that the support of the group cognitive therapy greatly enhanced the success of withdrawal from benzodiazepines. I decided early in my career not to prescribe benzodiazepines like Ativan, Valium, Librium, Xanax, and Klonopin for depression or anxiety, because the drug-free methods I and others have developed are very powerful, and the use of benzos can actually make the outcomes worse. Years back, a research colleague from Canada, Henny Westra, PhD, reviewed the world literature on treatment of anxiety with CBT plus benzos and concluded that the benzos did not enhance outcomes. Here is the link: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12214810/. I hope this information is useful and I will include this in a future Feeling Good Podcast.   Gray asks: How does music evoke such powerful emotional reactions? Subject: Re: Podcast question: love songs Hi David, That's a really tough question. Music has a unique way of cutting straight to emotions for me, and it makes it especially hard to identify the thoughts behind them. My best way of explaining is with these two thoughts, which have to be viewed as a pair to get that emotional reaction: My life would be perfect if I had that I'm so far away from that These thoughts don't resonate quite right for me, but it's something like that, going from imagining bliss to crashing to hopelessness within the space of a moment. Thank you so much for your response. Gray David's reply You're right. Music can be so beautiful, especially of course, the songs we love, that it is magical and emotional to listen to! It seems more like a sensory experience, than something mediated by thoughts, but we certainly have perceptions of beauty, etc. Similar with some incredibly delicious food. Creates incredible delight and satisfaction, and no words are necessary other than “delicious!” Sorry I can't give you a better answer to your outstanding question! Best, david   Josh thanks David for techniques that have helped in his personal and professional life. Dear Dr. Burns, I am sure you are swamped with substantive emails and fan mail, but I just wanted to express appreciation to you for all I have gained from your publicly available content. I have learned so much that I have applied in my personal life. I have also benefited tremendously in my work with clients. So much of what you say about anxiety, and especially the hidden emotion technique, has allowed clients to have in almost every session an aha moment. I have not yet been able to see a complete removal of symptoms in one session yet, but as a therapist, I too have many skills yet to improve and much work to do. So, in short, thank you so much for making your experience and wisdom available for free, and thank you for doing it in such an engaging manner. Sincerely, Josh Farkas   David's Reply Thanks, Josh. You are welcome to join our weekly virtual free training group I offer as part of my volunteer work for Stanford, if interested. For more complete change within sessions, a double session (two hours) in my experience is vastly more effective. Is it okay to read your kind note on a podcast? Warmly, david   Harold asks: How do you respond to negative thoughts about the world, as opposed to self-criticisms? For example, “The world is filled with so little joy and so much suffering.” Dear Dr. Burns, First of all, I would like to thank you for all your work and your outreach. Your books have profoundly influenced my thinking and value system. I really admire how you exemplify both scientific rigor and human warmth. Finally, I want to thank you for promoting the idea of “Rejection Practice! I haven't had a breakthrough yet, but some unexpected, very encouraging experiences. I first came across Feeling Good 12 years ago when I developed moderate depression in the context of living with my ex-partner, who probably had borderline personality disorder. I tried the techniques in Feeling Good and also psychotherapy, but unfortunately without much success. I only started feeling a lot better when I began to rebuild my social life and leisure time activities (ballroom dancing, getting involved with a church, ...). Several months later, I also broke up with my ex-girlfriend. Since then, I've had ongoing mild depression. I recently tried the techniques in Feeling Great but wanted to ask you for your opinion on a couple of negative thoughts I'm particularly stuck with. My issue is that I'm normally not attacking myself, but life in general. I keep on telling myself things like "Life is just one crisis after the other," "Life is for the lucky ones," "Really good things just don't want to happen," "Life is so much suffering and so little joy," and the depression itself makes these statements all the more convincing. (Triggering events can be rainy holidays, romantic rejections, grant interview rejections, etc.) I think it could be helpful if in a podcast you could give more examples on resolving negative thoughts attacking life / the world rather than oneself. I also have many more questions for podcasts if you are interested. Thank you for reading this, and thank you so much again for all your work! With very best wishes, Harold   David's Reply Happy to address this on an Ask David, and it would help if you could let me know what negative feelings you have, and how strong they are. I will be answer in a general way, and not engaging you in therapy, which cannot be done in this context. Is that okay? I'm attaching a Daily Mood Log to help organize your thoughts and feelings. Send it back if you can with the Event, Negative Feelings and % Now columns filled out (0-100), and Negative thoughts and belief in each (0-100). You can also fill in the distortion column using abbreviations, like AON for All-or-Nothing, SH for Should Statement or Hidden Should, MF for Mental filtering, DP for Discounting the Positives, and so forth. Thanks! If you were in a session with me, or if we were just friends talking, I would reply to your complaints with the Disarming Technique, Thought and Feeling Empathy, “I Feel” Statements, Stroking, and Inquiry, like this: Harold: “Life is so much suffering and so little joy." David: “I'm sad to hear you say that, but you're right. There's an enormous amount of suffering in the world, like the horrible wars in Ukraine and in the Mid-East. (I feel; Disarming Technique) It makes sense that you'd be upset, and have all kinds of feelings, even anger since there's so much cruelty, too. (Feeling Empathy) And even people who appear positive and joyful often have inner sadness and loneliness that they are hiding. (Disarming Technique) Your comment tells me a great deal about your core values on honesty and compassion for others. (Stroking) Can you tell me more about the suffering that you've seen that has saddened you the most, and how you feel inside? (Inquiry) But I'm mainly interested in you right now. Can you tell me more about YOUR suffering, and especially if there's some problem you might want some help with? (Inquiry; Changing the Focus) I would continue this strategy until you gave me an A on Empathy, and then I would go on to the A of TEAM (Assessing Resistance), and ask what kind of help, if any, you'd be look for in today's session. I might also use a paradox, like the Acid Test. If you wanted to reduce some of your negative feelings, I might try a variety of techniques, such as “How Many Minutes?” I'd also think about the Hidden Emotion Technique. Is there some problem in your life right now that you're not dealing with, so you instead obsess about the problems in the world to distract yourself? I would continue this strategy until you gave me an A on Empathy, and then I would go on to the A of TEAM (Assessing Resistance), and ask what kind of help, if any, you'd be look for in today's session. I might also use a paradox, like the Acid Test. If you wanted to reduce some of your negative feelings, I might try a variety of techniques, such as “How Many Minutes?” I'd also think about the Hidden Emotion Technique. Is there some problem in your life right now that you're not dealing with, so you instead obsess about the problems in the world to distract yourself? I ask this because your negative thoughts are very general, but I always focus only on specifics, specific problems and moments. What's has been going on with your parents or in the past or present that you are distressed about? I've found that when I (or my patients) solve one specific problem that's bugging me, everything seems to suddenly brighten up. For example, you wrote : “I asked someone out I like; she surprisingly said yes. After 10 days of not hearing from her, I messaged her, . . . “ I wrote a book about dating, Intimate Connections, because I was a nurd and had a lot to learn about dating. One idea is that waiting 10 days might not be a good idea to arrange the specifics of the date, as that might make her feel uneasy. There's a lot to learn about dating, for example. A tool like the Pleasure Predicting Sheet can sometimes help, too. And finally, a good therapist can also often speed things up. Sometimes two heads are better than one. You seem extremely smart and willing to work hard, so there's all kinds of room for growth, learning, and greater joy. The Feeling Great App is NOT therapy, but the tools there might also be helpful, especially since you are willing to work hard a do a lot. That's super important. Can I use this email in my reply in the show notes if we discuss your excellent questions? And should I change your name to Harold? Warmly, david Best, david     Moritz asks: How do you help people with bipolar, schizophrenia, etc.? Hi David, You have mentioned a few times that there are only a handful of "real" psychological disorders with known causes, as opposed to just a collection of symptoms. Could you please tell a bit about how you would go about helping somebody with one of the "real" disorders (like Schizophrenia or Bipolar) using TEAM therapy? Most of the episodes with personal work seem to fall into the other category (anxiety, depression, compulsive behavior), so I'd be really curious about some examples. Best regards, Moritz Lenz   David's Reply Hi Moritz, Thanks! Good question, and happy to address this on an Ask David. Here's the answer in a nutshell. When working with someone with schizophrenia, the goal is to help them develop greater happiness and interpersonal functioning, exactly the same as with anyone else, using TEAM. The goal is not to cure schizophrenia, because we still do not know the cause and there is no cure. But we can help individuals with schizophrenia with problems that they are having. Bipolar: in the manic phase, usually strong meds are indicated, and often at least one hospitalization. For the rest of their lives, including depression, TEAM works great. Can add more in the podcast. Best, david   John expresses gratitude for answer his question on Positive Reframing, which triggered an “ah ha moment.” Hi David and Rhonda! I have listened to Episode 415 and your response to my positive reframing question! I had a bit of a aha moment! I think I had been approaching it in the cheerleading sense and trying to encourage myself with these positive qualities rather than attaching the positives to the negative thoughts and feelings themselves! This has created a much stronger emotional response during the positive reframing section! The building up of the negative thoughts and feelings is a gamechanger! Thanks so much for the time and attention given to it during the podcast. Thanks so much again, I appreciate you folks way more than you could know! John David's Reply Thanks, Rhonda and John. Yes, you've pointed out a huge error many people make when trying to grasp positive reframing. If it is okay, we can include your comment in a future podcast. Warmly, david   Rhonda asks about the four Feared Fantasy Techniques: David's Reply Here are the four Feared Fantasy Techniques Approval Addiction / Perceived Perfectionism: “I judge you.” Achievement Addiction: “High School Reunion.” Love Addiction: Rejection Feared Fantasy Submissiveness: No Practice There are quite a number of additional role plays, too, as you know. Maybe a question about all the role plays, bc we all have: Self-Critical Thoughts: Paradoxical and Straightforward Double Standard Externalization of Voices Uncovering Techniques Man from Mars Tempting Thoughts Devil's Advocate Technique Tic-Tok Technique Resistance Externalization of Resistance How Many Minutes? Five Secrets / Relationship Conflict Intimacy Exercise One Minute-Drill I'll bet you can think of more, too! This is one of the unique features of TEAM, but for whatever reason it seems like few therapists use them. As you know, on average they tend to be way more potent and emotional, and of course fast impact. Warmly, david

Hey Tinnitus Friends and Family, find all resources here: https://linktr.ee/outringtinnitus In this episode, I'm thrilled to sit down with Dr. Ben Thompson, a leading audiologist and founder of Treble Health, to dive deep into the science of tinnitus relief. We explore proven, evidence-based strategies to help you manage and habituate to tinnitus, focusing on practical solutions that really work. From sound therapy and brain retraining to the psychological approaches like CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Dr. Thompson shares his expertise on how you can take control of your tinnitus journey. Whether you're just beginning to look for answers or you've been searching for relief for years, this conversation is packed with actionable insights to guide you toward long-term improvement. Tune in to discover: How sound therapy can complement your habituation journey. Why a supportive community plays a key role in relief. The importance of a personalized approach to managing tinnitus. Join us for this empowering discussion, and don't forget to subscribe, share, and check out the resources mentioned in the episode! Start your journey to relief today by visiting linktr.ee/outringtinnitus for free resources, community access, and coaching options.

In this episode of Breaking Barriers: The Mental Health Podcast, we sit down with Dr. Andres Cartaya, a renowned clinical psychologist with over 20 years of experience. We explore key mental health topics like ADHD, anxiety, and the lasting impact of COVID-19 on social skills and mental well-being. Dr. Cartaya breaks down the difference between ADHD and ADD, why ADHD diagnoses are more common in the U.S. than in Europe, and how misdiagnoses—such as confusing dyslexia with ADHD—can happen. We also dive into the importance of differential diagnosis and how self-assessment tools can help individuals understand their mental health better. As a geriatric specialist, Dr. Cartaya shares heartfelt advice on navigating caregiver stress, dementia, and the emotional toll of moving loved ones into assisted living. He also explains stress management techniques, including exercise and CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), offering practical tips for managing day-to-day challenges. We wrap up the episode with a fun mini-game and Dr. Cartaya's reflections on transference, countertransference, and the importance of breaking cycles in therapy. Tune in for this insightful conversation packed with expert advice and actionable strategies to enhance your mental health. Don't forget to subscribe and share!

In this episode, I sit down with Amita Sharma, co-founder of NourishDoc, a platform that focuses on integrative and holistic health solutions for women. We dive into the nuances of perimenopause and menopause, shedding light on what these life stages mean for women's bodies and minds.Perimenopause can start as early as the late 30s or mid-40s and may last up to 10 years before menopause fully sets in. Symptoms like night sweats, hot flashes, brain fog, and a decline in libido are all tied to fluctuating hormone levels, especially estrogen and progesterone. Amita explains how these hormonal changes impact mood, memory, and overall cognitive function. We also discuss the potential connection between hormonal imbalances and the increased risk of dementia, breast cancer, osteoporosis, and heart disease as women age.Lifestyle factors—such as poor diet, lack of exercise, and high stress—can trigger early menopause, which might explain why certain ethnic groups like African Americans, Latinas, and Indians are experiencing early perimenopause. Amita emphasizes the need for early awareness, preparation, and self-care strategies, encouraging women to proactively adopt healthier habits, including proper nutrition, stress management, and mindfulness practices.The episode also touches on natural solutions to alleviate perimenopause and menopause symptoms, including dietary changes, herbal supplementation, and holistic therapies like acupuncture, aromatherapy, hypnotherapy, breathing exercises, and cleanses. Amita highlights how alcohol and caffeine can worsen symptoms like hot flashes, making it crucial for women to limit or avoid them, especially during these pivotal stages in life. We explore how integrative approaches, such as those offered by NourishDoc, can support women during these transitions, helping them maintain balance without solely relying on hormone replacement therapy (HRT).Key topics covered in this episode:Hormonal shifts in perimenopause and their impact on mood, anxiety, and cognitionThe importance of lifestyle changes to prevent early menopauseNatural remedies and holistic therapies to manage symptomsCultural and ethnic differences in menopause experiencesHow to naturally cool down your body and reduce hot flashesWhy it's crucial for both women and men to be aware of these changesRESOURCESPEOPLE- Mario FieldsPODCASTS- Unarmored TalkVOCABULARY- buttermilk- CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)- estrogen- hypothalamus- Kitchari cleanse- Meno belly- menopause- perimenopause- progesterone- Sitkari- Sitali**Connect or Learn More**website: nourishdoc.comLinkedIn: /nourishdocapp: coming soon! Check the website for updates.

If you've ever felt dismissed or misunderstood in therapy because you're too educated or well-informed, this episode is for you—tune in to learn how to advocate for the care you deserve. https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/jessica-medina-6 In this episode of Even Tacos Fall Apart, MommaFoxFire interviews Jessica Medina, a licensed marriage and family therapist, about the challenges of therapy for highly educated clients. This was Jessica's sixth appearance on the podcast, where she shares her insights on a variety of mental health topics! The conversation begins with Jessica explaining what she considers a "highly smart and well-educated" client. She notes that while therapists are typically well-educated in their field, they may struggle with clients who are experts in other areas. She also highlights that clients who have done extensive personal research on their mental health conditions may be seen as difficult, which can create challenges for the therapeutic relationship. The conversation shifts to the common challenges therapists face when working with these clients. Jessica mentions the rigidity in some therapists' approaches, particularly those who are inflexible in their use of specific therapeutic techniques like CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) or DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy). She also discusses how therapists might refer out clients they find difficult or intimidating, sometimes due to their own feelings of inadequacy or imposter syndrome. Jessica shares her personal experience as a therapist seeking therapy, emphasizing how difficult it can be to find a therapist willing to work with another therapist. She points out that therapists may avoid working with peers due to the fear of being judged or challenged. This leads to a broader discussion about the potential harm therapy can cause, particularly when a therapist's approach or biases interfere with the client's needs. The conversation also touches on the ethical guidelines therapists must follow when terminating therapy with a client. Jessica explains that in California, therapists are required to provide at least three referrals if they are unable or unwilling to continue working with a client. She underscores the importance of handling these situations delicately, as unexpected termination can have significant negative effects on a client's mental health. Throughout the episode, Jessica and MommaFoxFire explore the importance of finding the right therapist and therapeutic approach. They discuss how therapy can unintentionally cause harm when therapists prioritize their theoretical frameworks over the individual needs of their clients. Jessica emphasizes the need for therapists to be flexible and client-centered in their approach. The episode concludes with Jessica reflecting on the emotional challenges of pregnancy and the lack of focus on maternal mental health. She expresses a desire for greater awareness and support for pregnant individuals, particularly regarding the mental health challenges they face both during and after pregnancy. Overall, this conversation highlights the complexities of therapy for educated clients, the potential pitfalls in the therapeutic relationship, and the importance of finding a therapist who truly understands and meets the client's needs. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mommafoxfire/support

We're diving into the She Coaches Coaches vault, to share with you one of our most popular past episodes. Whether you're a long-time listener or new to the podcast, get ready to enjoy a fresh perspective in your new listening space.I explore the second pillar of my Confident Coaches Success Framework: the power of thoughts. Building on our previous discussion about acceptance, I delve into how your thoughts shape your reality and influence your results. By learning to manage and shift your thoughts, you can create a more empowered, successful coaching business and life. Join me as I share insights, personal stories, and practical tips to help you harness the power of your thoughts for better outcomes.Highlights:1. Recap of the Confident Coaches Success Framework: Review of the five components and a focus on the second pillar: the power of thoughts.2. Client Testimonial: A heartfelt note from Coach Elizabeth, highlighting the transformative impact of Candy's coaching on her mindset and self-awareness.3. Thoughts Shape Reality: Explanation of how your thoughts create your results, and the importance of managing your thoughts to live better.4. Practical Exercise: Introduction to the thought download exercise for increasing awareness of habitual thought patterns.5. Real-Life Example: A personal story about Candy's different reactions to a situation compared to her husband's, illustrating how thoughts influence feelings and experiences.Featured on This Show:Click here to find out how to work with meClick here to access valuable free resources for coachesCorrection: This episode refers to "The Model." I'd like to rectify any errors or omissions by giving proper attribution and credit to the originators, Dr. Albert Ellis, who formulated REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy), and Dr. Aaron Beck, who incorporated it into CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). "The Model" and references to CTFAR should be more accurately referred to as "The CBT Model." CBT is a widely recognized and effective approach that helps individuals understand how their thought processes impact their daily lives.

We're diving into the She Coaches Coaches vault, to share with you one of our most popular past episodes. Whether you're a long-time listener or new to the podcast, get ready to enjoy a fresh perspective in your new listening space.In this solo episode, I dive into the first element of my Confident Coaches Success Framework: acceptance of yourself and your current reality. True acceptance is not about complacency but about acknowledging your current state without resistance, which sets the foundation for meaningful change. I share personal stories and powerful insights to encourage you to embrace self-acceptance as a key step toward personal and professional growth.Highlights:1. Introduction to the Confident Coaches Success Framework: Candy introduces her five-component framework designed to help coaches overcome mindset challenges. 2. Deep Dive into Acceptance: A detailed exploration of the first element, 'acceptance of yourself and your current reality,' and how it differs from passive complacency.3. Personal Anecdotes on Acceptance: Candy shares personal stories, including her journey from engineering to coaching, illustrating the power of acceptance in overcoming past regrets.4. Importance of Self-Compassion: Emphasizing the need for self-compassion and kindness, and how focusing on strengths rather than weaknesses can lead to personal and professional growth.5. Encouragement for Self-Acceptance: Candy encourages listeners to embrace self-acceptance to release self-judgment, feel lighter, and more relaxed.Featured on This Show:Click here to find out how to work with meClick here to access valuable free resources for coachesCorrection: This episode refers to "The Model." I'd like to rectify any errors or omissions by giving proper attribution and credit to the originators, Dr. Albert Ellis, who formulated REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy), and Dr. Aaron Beck, who incorporated it into CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). "The Model" and references to CTFAR should be more accurately referred to as "The CBT Model." CBT is a widely recognized and effective approach that helps individuals understand how their thought processes impact their daily lives.

How to strengthen resilience as a founder?   As I say every episode, entrepreneurship is often described as an emotional rollercoaster, oscillating between the highest highs and lowest lows. Alon Leibovich experienced this firsthand when his company BrandTotal was sued by Facebook, throwing him into a crucible of immense mental stress for nearly two years. Yet he also tasted the sweet victories, like running an Intel Ignite agro/climate tech bootcamp, which helped rebuild the Gaza Envelope community.   An entrepreneur, founder, and builder, Alon is also an organizational psychologist by training, though he never practiced clinically. This background shaped how he navigated the turmoil when he learned via social media that Facebook was suing his company. "It felt like someone had punched you in the stomach," he recounts. His first step was consulting his mentor and lawyer, feeling his world had collapsed.     Following his mentor's advice to take action rather than dwell, Alon assembled a crisis team that worked until 2am in the morning - risk managers, PR personnel, lawyers. "Attention is just like any other muscle," Alon says. You need to train the ability to pay attention and direct your attention to the right place, to navigate between everything, because eventually doing and being in action greatly reduces anxiety. It's better than getting caught up in thoughts in the head, which eventually didn't leave him for almost two years.   A board member's call proved pivotal in shifting Alon's perspective: "I know it's hard for you to see this now, but it's a good thing that's happening." Realizing customers remained loyal, Alon decided to fight back. CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) with biofeedback revealed his stress levels which mirrored "a soldier behind enemy lines under real life or death threatening situation" at risk of heart attack. He was coached to exercise, practice mindfulness, and breathwork to reduce his toxic stress levels.   The dissonance between his inner turmoil and outward composure to employees was grueling for Alon. Yet after two years, they prevailed in the lawsuit, and investors doubled-down on the company. Reflecting on being a founder-CEO, Alon asserts, "As an industry, we don't talk about the fact that it is very hard to be a founder-CEO." We devalue how hard it is these days to do something against all odds and give everything you have, and to believe that you are the one who can do it. But to do that, we have to build, for hours every day, our resilience. And it should be every day, not only when a crisis comes but before - for prevention, and after, and all the time.   Alon candidly shares grappling with imposter syndrome, doubting himself as both a person and manager, although at the end, a pivotal and very important realization was: "There is more to us than just our business."   His key lessons were understanding what you can control versus accepting what you cannot, having a "North Star" vision while remaining humble and coachable, and leaving ego aside to be agile. "Many first-time founders don't listen enough," he cautions. The dissonance between his first and second venture as an entrepreneur yielded profound growth.

Natasha shares a coping skill she learned in CBT that helped her build the foundation needed to recover from her depression.

Bonny, Robin and Meagan talk about CBT and how this can help on your BLE journey.

Today's guest is Yael Schonbrun, a clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, co-host of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, author and a parent of three.. In her research, private practice, writing, and podcasting, Yael uses science and Eastern philosophy to explore practices proven to foster healthier relationships between partners, parents and children, and between our most important life roles. Yael's writing on work, parenting, and relationships has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Greater Good Science Center, Behavioral Scientist, Tricycle, among others.She joined us today to talk about her book, ‘Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection.'Yael shares insights on how to navigate the challenges of being a working parent and finding balance in multiple roles. We dive into the concept of benign neglect, the power of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and the benefits of having multiple roles in life. Yael offers practical strategies for managing emotions, clarifying values, and making choices that align with our true priorities. Tune in to gain valuable insights and practical tools for personal and professional growth in this thought-provoking conversation. [06.39] Diverse roles – Starting the conversation, we dive into how various roles in your life can help one another in certain situations of life. [21.00] CBT vs. ACT – Yael explains one of the main differences between CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy).[30.00] Making the right choice - We will consistently strive for improvement in life. If we redirect our focus towards the process and adopt a less rigid attitude towards the outcomes, acknowledging that we lack control over them. [35.06] Values – We talk about the importance of prioritizing your values, which are dedicated to different roles in your life.[45.00] Workability of labels – How we can attach labels that can help us to serve and push us in ways that matter.[51.51] Doing right & hard things – Yael talks about the Aristotelian idea of doing the right and hard things at the right time with the right people in the right way.[01.03.01] Childcare – We dive into the importance of high-quality childcare, especially with our family members like grandparents.[01.14.03] Pleasure – Pleasure and life roles.ResourcesConnect with YealLinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/yael-schonbrun-a26a5229/ Twitter - twitter.com/DrYaelSchonbrun Instagram - instagram.com/yaelschonbrun/ Website - https://relationalriffs.substack.com/Book By Yael Schonbrun:Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like Too Much)Book by Viktor E. FranklMan's Search for MeaningBook by Christy LefteriThe Beekeeper of Aleppo: A Novel

Mahana IBS is a new FDA-cleared clinically proven digital treatment app that uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to reduce IBS symptom severity. Manaha reports that nearly 2 in 3 patients using Mahana IBS find relief for their IBS symptoms. My guest was Dr. Luisa Scott who is the Director of Medical Affairs at Mahana. We learn what Medical Affairs do for an organization and how CBT - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, acts on the brain-gut-axis to manage IBS symptoms. Dr. Scott describes the research which supports a digital CBT program for IBS and whether this approach is right for everyone. Patients of course need to talk to their healthcare provider and receive a prescription in order to gain access to the digital app. For more information about Mahana IBS visit https://www.mahana.com/treatments/ibs Find Jeffrey Roberts and IBS Patient Support Group at: Website: https://www.ibspatient.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ibspatient Twitter: https://twitter.com/ibspatient Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ibspatient  Music: Werq Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

In this episode... Sebastiaan has an insightful conversation with Steve Wells, a psychologist and renowned tapping practitioner known for his innovative approach to EFT tapping. They explore Steve's unique approach and expertise in this powerful healing technique and how he came up with “Intention Tapping”. Steve gives concrete examples how tapping has impacted the lives of countless clients and helped them overcome various mental challenges and obstacles. He introduces his method called “Intention Tapping," which takes EFT tapping to a whole new level by addressing emotional attachments to thoughts, making it even more effective. Seb and Steve also dive into the practical application of intention tapping, when dealing with issues like social anxiety. They draw comparisons with conventional therapeutic methods like CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and paint a clear picture of what to expect from the therapeutic process. Tune in to gain valuable insights and inspiration to embark and deepen your own journey! -- Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You're not alone. I've been there. It sucks. Big time. But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you'll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let's connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

Welcome to Season 2, episode 4! We have a very special guest joining us, Syd! Syd is filled with knowledge and science as she is a CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) therapist. Syd wears many hats and we can't wait for you guys to hear her perspective and what she has to say!

Dr. J. Russell (Russ) Ramsay, www.cbt4adhd.com, is back to discuss how for the best results, CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) has to be modified for ADHD.  The modification has to do with executive function (EF) workarounds. ·       CBT is about thoughts, affecting feelings and then determining a behavior (endless cycle). ·       When you have a negative thought, CBT teaches you to Catch it, Check it, and Change it. ·       Modified CBT understands that EF causes certain thoughts to occur and are not initially negative thoughts, a result of poor EF. This discussion is part of The Impulsive Thinkers theme of Mental Health for ADHD entrepreneurs for the October 2023 ADHD Awareness Month. Check out the ADHD Transform Journey Program that is now available. We would like to hear from you!  Please send show ideas, questions, or feedback to podcast@tacticalbts.com and join our mailing list here!  Follow us on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. Check out our website at Tactical Breakthroughs. André Brisson can also be found on LinkedIn. You can find other Podcast Episodes here!

What is DBT ( (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy)? How is it different from CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and how is it used to support people with ADHD?Today we'll explore the DBT approach and its components, including mindfulness, emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness and distress tolerance skills. 

I am explaining the concept of how CBT works known as cognitive behavioral therapy.

Welcome back, everybody. Thank you for joining me again this week. I'm actually really excited to dive into another topic that I really felt was important that we address. For those of you who are new, this actually might be a very steep learning curve because we are specifically talking about a treatment skill or a tool that we commonly use in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and even more specifically, Exposure and Response Prevention. And that is the use of imaginals or what we otherwise call scripts. Some people also use flooding.  We are going to talk about this because there are a couple of reasons. Number one, for those of you who don't know, I have an online course called ERP School. In ERP School, it's for people with OCD, and we talk about how to really get an ERP plan for yourself. It's not therapy; it's a course that I created for those who don't have access to therapy or are not yet ready to dive into therapy, where they can really learn how to understand the cycle of OCD, how to get themselves out of it, and gives you a bunch of skills that you can go and try. Very commonly, we have questions about how to use imaginals and scripts, when to use them, how often to use them, when to stop using them, when they become compulsive and so forth.  In addition to that, as many of you may not know, I have nine highly skilled licensed therapists who work for me in the state of California and Arizona, where we treat face-to-face clients. We're actually in Los Angeles. We treat patients with anxiety disorders. I also notice that during my supervision when I'm with my staff, they have questions about how to use imaginals and scripts with the specific clients. Instead of just teaching them and teaching my students, I thought this was another wonderful opportunity to help teach you as well how to use imaginals and why some people misuse imaginals or how they misuse it. I think even in the OCD community, there has been a little bit of a bad rap on using scripts and imaginals, and I have found using scripts and imaginals to be one of the most helpful tools for clients and give them really great success with their anxiety and uncertainty and their intrusive thoughts.  Here we are today, it is again a start of another very short series. This is just a three-week series, talking about different ways we can approach imaginals and scripts and how you can use it to help manage your intrusive thoughts, and how you can use it to reduce your compulsions.  It is going to be three weeks, as I said. Today, we are starting off with the amazing Krista Reed. She's been on the show before and she was actually the one who inspired this after we did the last episode together. She said, “I would love to talk more about imaginals and scripts.” I was like, “Actually, I would too, and I actually would love to get some different perspectives.” Today, we're talking with Krista Reed. Next week, we have the amazing Shala Nicely. You guys already know about Shala Nicely. I'm so happy to have her very individual approach, which I use all the time as well. And then finally, we have Dr. Jon Grayson coming in, talking about acceptance with imaginals and scripts. He does a lot of work with imaginals and scripts using acceptance, and I wanted to make sure we rounded it out with his perspective.  One thing I want you to think about as we move into this series or three-part episode of the podcast is these are approaches that you should try and experiment with and take what you need. I have found that some scripts work really well with some clients and others don't work so well with other clients. I have found that some scripts do really well with one specific obsession, and that doesn't do a lot of impact on another obsession that they may have. I want you just to be curious and open and be ready to learn and take what works for you because I think all of these approaches are incredibly powerful.  Again, in ERP School, we have specific training on how to do three different types of scripts. One is an uncertainty script, one is a worst-case scenario script, and the last is an acceptance script. If you're really wanting to learn a very structured way of doing these, head on over to CBTSchool.com and you can sign up for ERP School there. But I hope this gets you familiar with it and helps really answer any questions that you may have.  Alright, let's get over to the show. Here is Krista Reed. Kimberley: Welcome back, Krista Reed. I am so happy to have you back on the show. Krista: Thank you. I am elated to be able to chat with you again. This is going to be great. Kimberley: Yeah. The cool thing is you are the inspiration for this series. Krista: Which is so flattering. Thank you.  IMAGINAL OR SCRIPT? Kimberley: After our last episode, Krista and I were having a whole conversation and you were saying how much you love this topic. I was like, “Light bulb, this is what we need to do,” because I think the beautiful piece of this is there are different ways in which you can do imaginals, and I wanted to have some people come on and just share how they're doing it. You can compare and contrast and see what works for you. That being said, number one, do you call it an imaginal, do you call it a script, do you think they're the same thing, or do you consider them different? Krista: I do consider them differently because when I think about script, I mean, just the word script is it's writing, it's handwriting in my opinion. I mean, scripture is spoken. That's something a little bit different, but scripting is writing. When I think of an imaginal, that is your imagination. I know that I already shared with you how much I love imaginals because in reality, humans communicate through stories. When we can, using our own imagination, create a story to combat something as challenging as OCD, what a powerful concept. That's exactly why I just simply love imaginals. Kimberley: I can feel it and I do too. There's such an important piece of ERP or OCD recovery or anxiety recovery where it fills in some gaps, right? Krista: Yes, because imaginals, the whole point, as we know, it's to imagine the feared object or situation. It could evoke distress, anxiety, disgust. Yet, by us telling those stories, we're poking the bear of OCD. We're getting to some of that nitty gritty. Of course, as we know that, not every obsession we can have a real-life or an in vivo exposure. We just simply can't because of the laws of science, or let's be real, it might be illegal. But imaginals are also nice for some people that the real-life exposure maybe is too intense and they need a little bit of a warmup or a buy-in to be able to do the in vivo exposure. Imaginal, man, I freaking love them. They're great.  Kimberley: They're the bomb.  Krista: They really are.  HOW TO DO IMAGINALS FOR OCD Kimberley: You inspired this. You had said, “I love to walk your listeners through how to do them effectively. I think I remember you saying, but correct me if I'm wrong, that you had seen some people do them very incorrectly. That you were very passionate because of the fact that some people weren't being trained well in this. Is that true or did I get that wrong? Krista: No, you absolutely got it right. Correct and incorrect, I think maybe that is opinion. I'll say that in my way, I don't do it that way. That's a preference. But this is an inception. We're not putting stories into our clients' minds. The OCD is putting these stories into our clients' minds. If you already have a written-out idea of a script, of like fill in the blanks, you are working on some kind of inception, in my opinion. You are saying that this is how your story is supposed to be. That's so silly. I'm not going to tell you how your story is supposed to be. I don't know how your imagination works. When we think of just imagination, there's so many different levels of imagination.  Let's say for instance, if I have somebody who comes into my office who is by trade a creative writer, that imaginal is probably going to be very descriptive, have a lot of heavy adjectives. Just the way it's going to be put together is going to be probably like an art in itself because this is what that person does. If you have somebody who comes in and creativity is not something that is part of a personality trait, and then I have a written fill-in-the-blank thing for them, it's not going to be authentic for their experience. They're going to potentially want to do what I, the therapist, might want them to do. It's not for me to decide how creative or how deep that person is to go. They need to recognize within themselves, is this the most challenging? Is this the best way that you could actually describe that situation? If that answer is yes, it's my job as a therapist to just say okay. Kimberley: How would one know if it's the most descriptive they could be? Is it by just listening to what OCD has to say and letting OCD write the story, but not in a compulsive way? Share with me your thoughts.  Krista: I think that that's almost like a double-edged sword because that of itself can almost go meta. How do I know that my story is intense enough? Well, on the surface we can say, “Is it a hard thing to say.” They might say yes, and then we can work through. But if I'm really assessing like, “Is it hard enough, is it hard enough,” and almost begging for them to provide some type of self-reassurance, they might get stuck in that cycle of, is this good enough? Is this good enough? Can it be even more challenging?  Another thing I love about imaginals is the limit doesn't exist, because the limit is just however far your imagination can take you. Let's say that I have a session with a client today and they're creating an imaginal. I'm just going to give a totally random obsession. Maybe their obsession is, “I am afraid that I'm going to murder my husband in his sleep,” harm OCD type stuff, pretty common stuff that we do with imaginals. They do the imaginal and they're able in session to work through it. It sounds like it was good. In the session, what they provided was satisfactory to treatment. And then they come back and say, “I got bored with the story,” which a lot of people think that that's a bad thing. That's actually a good thing because that's letting you know that you're not in OCD's control of that feared response and you're actually doing the work. However, they might still have the obsession. I was like, “Okay, so you were able to work through this habituate or get bored of that. Now, let's create another imaginal with this obsession.” Because it's all imagination, the stories, you can create as many as you possibly can or as you possibly want to.  I'm actually going to give you a quote. He's a current professor right now at Harvard. He is a professor of Cognitive and Educational Studies. If you look this guy up, his name is Dr. Howard Gardner—his work is brilliant. He has this fantastic quote that I think is just a bomb when it comes to imaginal stuff. His quote is: “Stories constitute the single most powerful weapon in a leader's arsenal.” Think about that. What a powerful statement that is. Isn't that just fantastic? Because we can hear that as the stories OCD tells us as being hard. Okay, cool story, bro, that is your weapon OCD, but guess what? I'm smarter than you and I brought a way bigger gun and this gun isn't imaginal and I'm going to go ahead and one up you. If I come back that next week in my therapist's office and I'm able to get bored with that, I can make a bigger gun. Kimberley: I love that. It's true, isn't it? I often will say, “That's a good story. Let me show you what I've got.” It is so powerful. Oh my gosh. Let's actually do it. Can you walk us through how you would do an imaginal? Krista: This is actually something that I created on my own taken from just multiple trainings and ERP learning about imaginals, because one of the things that I was realizing that a lot of clients were really struggling with is almost over-preparing just to do the imaginal. Sometimes they would write out the imaginal and then we would work through that. But what I was finding is sometimes clients were almost too fixated on words, reading it right, being perfect, that they were almost missing out on the fact that these are supposed to be movies in our mind. Kimberley: Yeah. They intellectualize it. Krista: Exactly. I created a super simple format. I mean, we really don't have a lot of setup here. It's basically along the lines of the Five Ws. What is your obsession and what is your compulsion? Who is going to be in your story? Who is involved? Where is your story taking place? When is your story taking place? And when is already one of those that's already set because I tell people we can't do anything in the past; the past has already existed. You really need to be as present as possible. But the thing is that you can also think. For instance, if my obsession is I'm going to murder my husband in his sleep tonight, part of that might be tonight, but part of that might also be, what is going to be my consequence? What is that bad thing that's going to happen? Because maybe the bad thing isn't necessarily right now. Maybe that bad thing is going to be I'm not going to have a relationship with my children and what if they have grandchildren? Or what if I'm going to go to hell? That might not necessarily exist in the here and now, but you're able to incorporate that in the story. When is an interesting thing, but again, never in the past, needs to start in the present, and then move forward.  And then also, I ask how. How is where I want people to be as descriptive as possible. For instance, if I say, and this is going to sound gritty, you're fearful that you're going to murder your husband tonight. Be specific. How are you going to murder your husband? Because that's one of the things that OCD might want us to do. Maybe it is just hard enough to say, “I'm going to murder my husband.” But again, we're packing an arsenal here. Do you want to just say that? Because I can almost guarantee you OCD is already telling you multiple different ways that it might happen. Which one of those seems like it might be the hardest? Well, the hardest one for me is smothering my husband with a pillow. Okay, that's going to be it. That's literally my setup. That's literally my setup, is I say that. Actually, I have one more thing that I have to include. I have all that as a setup and then I say, “Okay, at the very end, you are going to say this line, and it's, ‘All of this happened because I did not do the compulsion.'” If I were going along with the story of I murdered my husband, I suffocated him with a pillow, and in my mind, the worst thing to happen is I don't have a relationship with my kids and grandchildren, and the compulsion might be to pray—I'll just throw that out—the last line might be, “And now, I don't have a relationship with my children or grandchildren all because I decided to not pray when the thought of murdering my husband came up in my mind.” That is the entire setup.  And then I have my clients get their phones out and push record. They don't have to do a video, just an audio is perfectly fine. I know some therapists that'll do it just once, but I actually do it over and over again. Sometimes it could be a five-minute recording, it could be a 20-minute recording, it could be a 40-minute recording. The reason for that being is if we stop just after one, we might be creating accommodation for that client, because I want my clients to be in that experience. That first time they tell that story after that very brief setup, they're still piecing together the story. Honestly, it's really not until about the third or fourth time that they've repeated that exact same story that they're really in it. I am just there and every time they finish—I'll know they finish because they say, “And this happened all because da da da da da”—I say, “Okay, what's your number?” That means what's your SUDS? And they tell me they're SUDS. I might make a little bit, very, very minimal recommendations. For instance, if they say, “I murdered my husband,” I say, “Okay, so this time I want you to tell me how you murdered your husband.” Again, they say the exact same story, closing their eyes all over again, this time adding in the little bit that I asked for. We do that over and over and over again until we reach 50% habituation. Then they stop recording. That is what they use throughout the week as their homework, and you can add it in so many different ways.  Again, keeping along with this obsession of “I'm afraid I'm going to kill my husband tonight,” I want you to listen to that with, as you probably have heard this as well, just one AirPod in, earbud, whatever, keep your other ear outside to the world. This is its way to talk back to OCD. Just something along the lines of that. I want you to the “while you're getting ready for bed.” Because if the fear exists at night and your compulsions exist at night, I want you to listen to that story before you go to bed. It's already on your mind. You're already in it, you're already poking the bear of OCD. It's like, “Okay, OCD, you're going to tell me I'm going to kill my husband tonight? Well, I'm going to hear a story about me killing my husband tonight.” Guess what? The bad thing's going to happen over and over and over again.  It's such a powerful, powerful, powerful thing. Because it's recorded, you can literally listen to it in your car. You can listen to it on a plane. You can listen to it in a waiting room. I mean, there's no limit.  Kimberley: It's funny because, for those of you who are on social media, there was this really big trend not long ago where they're like what they think I'm listening to versus what I'm actually listening to, and they have this audio of like, “And then she stabbed her with the knife.” It's exactly that. Everyone thinks you're just listening to Britney Spears, but you're listening to your exposure and it's so effective. It's so, so effective. I love this. Okay, let's do it again because I want this to be as powerful as possible. You did a harm exposure. In other episodes, we've done a relationship one, we've done a pedophile one. Let's pick another one. Do you have any ideas?  Krista: What about scrupulosity? Kimberley: I was just going to say, what about scrupulosity? Krista: That one is such a common one for imaginals. We hear it very frequently, “I'm going to go to hell,” or even thinking about different other religions like, “Maybe I'm not going to be reincarnated into something that has meaning,” or “It's going to be a bad thing. Maybe I'm insulting my ancestors,” or just whatever that might be. Let's say the obsession is—I already mentioned praying—maybe if I don't read the Bible correctly, I'm going to go to hell. I don't know. Something along the lines of that. If that's their obsession, chances are, there's probably somebody that maybe they have a time where they're reading the Bible or maybe that we have to add in an in vivo where they're going to be reading or something like that. A setup could potentially be, what is your obsession? “I'm afraid that any time I read my Bible, I'm not reading it correctly and I'm going to go to hell.” What is your compulsion? “Well, my compulsion is I read it over and over and over again and I reassure myself that I understand it, I'm reading it correctly.” Who's going to be in your story? This one you might hear just, “Oh, it's just me.” Really, OCD doesn't necessarily care too much if anybody else is in this story. Where are you? “I'm in my living room. It's nighttime. That's when I read my Bible.” When is this taking place? “Oh, we can do it tonight.” Let's say it's tonight.  Interestingly enough, when you have stuff that's going to go to hell, that means, well, how are you getting to hell to begin with? Because that's not just something that can happen. Sometimes in these imaginals, the person has to die in order to get there, or they have to create some type of fantastical way of them getting to hell.  I actually had a situation, this was several years ago, where the person was like, “Well, death doesn't scare me, but going to hell scares me,” because, in some cultures and some religions, it's believed that there are demons living amongst us and so forth. “It's really scary to think about, what if a demon approaches me and takes me immediately to hell and I don't get to say goodbye to my family, my family doesn't know.” Just even like that thought. We were able to incorporate something very similar to that.  Just to make up an imaginal on the spot, it could be, I'm reading my Bible. I'm in my living room, I'm reading my Bible, and the thought pops up in my brain of, did you read that last verse correctly? I decide to just move on and not worry about reading my Bible correctly. Well then, all of a sudden, I get a knock at the door and there's these strange men that I've never seen in my life, and they tell me that they're all demons, and that because I didn't review the Bible correctly, I'm going to go to hell. I would go on and on and probably describe a little bit more about my family not missing me, I don't get to see my kids grow up, I don't get to experience life, the travel, and the stuff that's really important to me, incorporate some of those values. I don't get to live my value-based life. And then at the very end, I was summoned and taken to hell by demons, all because I had the thought of reading my bible correctly and I decided not to.” Kimberley: I love it, and I love what I will point out. I think you use the same model as me. We use a lot of “I” statements like “I did this and I did that, and then this happened and then I died,” and so forth. The other thing that we do is always have it in present tense. Instead of going, “And then this happens, and then that happens,” you're saying as if it's happening. Krista: Yeah. Because you want it to feel real to the person. In all honesty, and I wonder what your experience has been, I find some of the most difficult people to do imaginals with our children. Even though you would think, “Oh, they're so imaginative anyways,” one of the biggest things I really have to remind kids is, I want you to be literally imagining yourself in that moment. Again, I see this with kids more than adults, but I think it just depends on context and perspective. We'll say, “Well, I know that I'm in my living room,” or “I know that I'm in your office, so this isn't actually happening to me in this moment.” You almost have to really work them up and figure out, what's the barrier here? What are you resisting? Kimberley: That's a good question. I would say 10 to 20% of clients of mine will report, “I don't feel anything.” I'll do a Q and A at the end of this series with common questions, but I'm curious to know what your response is to a client who reads like, “I kill my baby,” or “I hurt my mom,” or “I go to hell,” or “I cheat on my husband,” or whatever it is, but it doesn't land. What are your thoughts on what to do then? Krista: A couple of things pop up. One, it makes me wonder what mental compulsions they're doing. And then it also makes me wonder, are we going in the right direction with the story? Because again, like I mentioned before, if a client comes back and they've habituated to one thing, but they're still having the obsession, well, guess what? We're just telling stories. Because the OCD narrative is typically not just laser-focused—I mean, it can be laser-focused, but usually, it has branches—you can pick and choose. I'm going to go ahead and guarantee, that person who is terrified of killing their husband ensure they're not going to see their grandchildren and children. I'm going to go ahead and waiver that there's probably other things that they're afraid of missing.  Kimberley: Yes. That's what I find too, is maybe we haven't gotten to the actual consequence that bothers them. I know when I've written these for myself, we tend to fall into normal traps of subtypes, like the fear that you'll harm somebody or so forth. But often clients will reveal like, “I'm actually not so afraid that I'll harm somebody. I'm really afraid of what my colleagues and family would think of me if I did.” So, we have to include that. Or “I'm afraid of having to make the call to my mom if I did the one thing.” I think that that's a really important piece to it, is to really double down on the consequence. Do you agree? Krista: Oh, I agree a hundred percent. You got to figure out what is that core fear. What are you really, really trying to avoid? With harming somebody, is it the consequences that might happen afterwards? Is it the feeling of potentially snapping or losing control? Or is it just knowing that you just flat out, took the life of somebody and that that was something that you were capable of? I mean, there's so many different themes, looking at what does that feared self like, what does that look like, and maybe we didn't hit it last time. Kimberley: Right. Krista: I know this is going to sound silly and I tell my clients this every once in a while, is I'm not a mind reader. What I'm asking you, is that the most challenging you can go and you're telling me yes, I'm going to trust you. I tell them, if you are not pushing yourself in therapy to where you can grow, I'm still going to go to bed home and sleep tonight just fine. But I want you to also go home and go to bed and sleep just fine. But if you are not pushing yourself, because we know sleep gets affected super bad, not just sleep, but other areas, you're probably going to struggle and you might even come back next week with a little bit more guilt or even some shame. I don't want anybody to have that. I want people to win. I want people to do well in this. I know this stuff is scary, but I'm going to quote somebody. You might know her. Her name is Kimberley Quinlan. She says, “It's a beautiful day to do hard things.” I like to quote her in my practice every once in a while.  Kimberley: I love her. Yes, I agree with this. The way you explained it is so beautiful and it's logical the way you're explaining it too. It makes sense. I have one more question for you. Recently, I was doing some imaginals with a client and they were very embarrassed about the content of their thoughts. Ashamed and guilty, and horrified by their thoughts. I could see that they were having a hard time, so I gave them a little inch and I went first. I was like, “Alright, I'm going to make an assumption about what yours is just to break the ice.” They were like, “Oh yeah, that's exactly what it is.” There was a relief on their face in that I had covered the bases. We did all of the imaginal and we recorded it and it was all set. And then at the end I said, “Is there anything that we didn't include?” They reported, “Yeah, my OCD actually uses much more graphic words than what you use.” I think what was so interesting to me in that moment was, okay, I did them the favor by starting the conversation, but I think they felt that that's as far as we could go. How far do you go? Krista: As far as we need.  Kimberley: Tell me what that means. Krista: Like I mentioned before, the limit does not exist and I mean, the limit does not exist. This is going to sound so silly. I want you to be like a young Stephen King before he wrote his first novel and push it. Push it and then go there. Guess what? If that novel just doesn't quite hit it, write another one, and then another one, and let's see how far you can go. Because OCD is essentially a disorder of the imagination, and you get to take back your imagination by creating the stories that OCD is telling us and twisting it. I mean, what an amazing and powerful thing to be able to do. I'm sure you're the same in that you know that there's a lot of specialists that don't believe in imaginals, don't like imaginals, especially when it comes to issues with pedophilia OCD. I think we also need to not remind our clients because that would be reassurance, but to tell these specialists, we're not putting anything into our client's heads that aren't there to begin with. Just like you said, if your client is thinking like real sick, nasty core, whatever, guess what? We're going to be going there. Are you cutting off the heads of babies in your head? Well, we're going to be talking about stories where you're cutting off the heads of babies. If that's what's going on, we're going to go there. Kimberley: What's really interesting, and this was the example, is we were talking about genitals and sexual organs and so forth. We're using the politically correct term for them in the imaginal. Great. Such a great exposure. Vagina and penis, great. Until again, they were like, “But my OCD uses much more graphic words for them.” I'm like, “Well, we need to include those words.” Would you agree your imaginals don't need to be PC? Krista: I hope my clients watch this, and matter of fact, I'm going to send this to them, just to be like, no, no. Krista's imaginals with her clients. Well, not my imaginals. Imaginals that are with my clients. Woah, sometimes I'm saying bye to my client. I'm like, “I think I need a shower.” Kimberley: Again, when people say they don't like imaginals or they think that it's not a good practice, I feel like, like you said, if OCD is going to come up with it, it gives an opportunity to empower them, to get ahead of the game, to go there before it gets there so that you can go, “Okay, I can handle it.” I would often say to my clients, “Let's go as far as we can go, as far as you can go, so that you know that there's nothing it can come up with that you can't handle.” Krista: I think that where it gets even more complex is when we're hitting some of the taboo stuff. Not only pedophilia, but something like right now that I'm seeing a lot more of in my office is stuff relating to cancel culture. This fear that what if I don't use somebody's pronouns correctly? What if I accidentally say an inappropriate racial slur? I will ask in session and I'll be super real. It's hard for me to hear this stuff because this goes outside of my values. Of course, it goes outside of their values. OCD knows that. That's why it's messing with them. I'll say, “Okay, so what is the racial slur?” My clients are always like, “You really want me to say it?” I said, “We're going to say it in the imaginal.” I realized how hard that is to stomach for therapists. But in my brain, the narrative that OCD is pushing, whether it is what society views as OCD or taboo OCD, it doesn't matter. We still have to get it out. It is still hard for that client. If that's hard for that client to think of an imaginal or a racial slur, it is almost the exact same amount of distress for somebody maybe with an imaginal that I'm afraid I'm getting food poisoning.  We, as clinicians, just because we're very caring and loving people, sometimes we can unintentionally put a hierarchy of distress upon our clients like, okay, I can do this imaginal because this falls with my values, but I don't know if I can do this imaginal because pedophilia is something that's hard for me to do and I don't want to put my client through that. Well, guess what? Your client is already being put through that, whether you like it or not. It's called OCD. Kimberley: Right. Suppressing it makes it come on stronger anyway. Love that. I think that the beauty of that is there is a respectful value-based way of doing this work, but still getting ahead of OCD. Is that what you're saying? Krista: Absolutely. OCD tries to mess with us and think, what if you could be this person? Well, like I mentioned before, if a story is like a weapon, well, I'm going to tell a story to attack OCD because it's already doing it to me. Kimberley: Yeah. Tell us where people can hear more from you, get your resources because this is such great stuff. Krista: Thank you. I'd say probably the best way to find me and my silly videos would be on my Instagram @anxiouslybalance. Kimberley: Amazing. And your private practice? Krista: My private practice, it's A Peaceful Balance in Wichita, Kansas. The website is apbwichita.com. Kimberley: Thank you so much. I'm very grateful for you for inspiring this whole series and for also being here as a big piece of the puzzle. Krista: Thank you. I'm grateful for you that you don't mind me just like this. I'm grateful for you for letting me talk even though clearly, I'm not very good at it right now. You're amazing. Kimberley: No, you're amazing. Thank you. Really, these are hard topics. Just the fact that you can talk about it with such respect and grace and compassion and education and experience is gold.  Krista: Thank you. At the end of the day, I really truly want people to get better. I know you truly want people to get better. Isn't that just the goal? Kimberley: Yeah. It's beautiful. Krista: Thank you. 

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I'm joined again this week with Jamie Gagnon. Jamie has her expertise and experience in working with kids and adolescents in cognitive behavioral therapies. We started in the first episode of this of this two part series last week as she covered what it looks like to use cognitive behavioral therapies and techniques in depression and in anxiety. This week, we cover trauma. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Jamie GagnonJamie Gagnon is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington State. She obtained her Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from Northwest University in 2007. She worked as a Child, Adolescent and Family Therapist in a Community Mental Health Setting and then as a Clinical Supervisor for a school based mental health program. She is CBT+ (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) certified through Harborview Abuse and Trauma Center. She has also had training in Substance Use Disorders, Trauma, and DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). Jamie is currently a Marriage Helper Certified Coach and Workshop Breakout Leader.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

If you've ever struggled with your thoughts and feeling like your thoughts aren't super helpful to helping you become the kind of person you want to be or achieve the things that you want to achieve, then you don't want to miss this episode.Today's Guest: Jamie GagnonJamie Gagnon is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington State. She obtained her Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from Northwest University in 2007. She worked as a Child, Adolescent and Family Therapist in a Community Mental Health Setting and then as a Clinical Supervisor for a school based mental health program. She is CBT+ (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) certified through Harborview Abuse and Trauma Center. She has also had training in Substance Use Disorders, Trauma, and DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). Jamie is currently a Marriage Helper Certified Coach and Workshop Breakout Leader.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

Dr. Maddy Ellberger, Columbia University professor and behavioral therapist, explains the difference between CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and how you can use both in your daily life. ~ WE'LL DISCUSS ~ Collecting evidence vs creating it How mindfulness feeds into DBT And vs. But, Could vs. Should What three questions you should ask yourself multiple times a day Maddy's book recommendation: Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, by Lori Gottlieb   To learn more about Maddy, visit the links below: Instagram, @millennialmindfulnessdoc Website, downtownbehavioralwellness.com/    ~ About Maddy Ellberger ~ Dr. Maddy Ellberger is an adjunct professor at Columbia University and runs her own private practice, Downtown Behavioral Wellness, in New York City. She specializes in evidence-based treatments including Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and mindfulness-based techniques (MBSR, MCBT). Her areas of specialty also include mood disorders, generalized anxiety disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, PTSD, specific phobias, and personality disorders. Maddy serves as an Executive Mindfulness Trainer at The Center for Cognitive and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (CCDBT) and has led mindfulness workshops in various settings and co-led CCDBT's 8-week Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction course. Maddy believes in an integrative approach to treatment and works to provide a warm and non-judgmental environment to help people cope effectively with stressors in their life and reach their goals.     Sign up for my email list and receive my 3 Tips to Ask Someone to Advocate for You here!   Stay Connected with Heather: To schedule a call with Heather, click here  To follow Heather on Instagram, click here To subscribe to Heather's newsletter, click here To request a transcript of this episode, email: operations@heatherhansenpresents.com  

My guest is Dr. Russell Ramsay is co-found and co-director of the PENN Adult ADHD Treatment & Research Program as well as a Professor of Clinical Psychology in Psychiatry in the Perelman School of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania. He is author of 6 books related to CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and ADHD.  As of July 1, 2023, he will officially retire from the University of Pennsylvania to launch his solo, independent, completely virtual telepsychology practice. I invited Dr. Ramsay on the podcast today to share what Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)  is and how it can help a person with ADHD.  You can find more about Dr. Ramsay at cbt4adhd.com.   In this episode, Dr. Ramsay and I discuss the following: What is CBT which stands for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy? How can CBT help a person with ADHD? What is difference between CBT and an ADHD coach? What is an adequate dose of CBT? How CBT can help with depression, anxiety, family dynamics, trauma, stress, etc? Is a level of maturity or readiness required for CBT to be effective? Can CBT “plant seeds” that may support a young person? How can a parent find a CBT therapist that is a good fit? Health insurance may cover CBT? Russ words of wisdom? Resources to find a CBT therapist include -  CHADD.org, ADD.org, APSARD.org, nacbt.org, academyofct.org. Brought to you by ADHDKidsCanThrive.com. Thank you for listening and please share! #adhd #adhdparent #adhdparentsupport #adhdsupport #neurodiversity #adhdkid #adhdunderstood #anxious #depressed #cbt #therapy    

In this inspiring episode, we introduce you to Alice Geoffroy, a dedicated Life and Business Coach with a unique focus on empowering leaders to unlock their full potential while rediscovering their inner bliss. Alice's passion lies in supporting individuals to gain clarity, confidence, internal motivation, and the drive needed to thrive personally and professionally. Her extensive and diverse training across various transformative modalities sets Alice apart. She's well-versed in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Breathwork, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), Etherapy, Energy healing work, Inner-child work, Burn-out recovery, and Hypnotherapy. Alice's holistic approach combines these powerful tools to facilitate her clients' profound personal growth and transformation. Her mission is to guide individuals toward realizing their true potential and achieving the happiness and fulfillment they deserve. Tune in to this episode as we explore Alice's incredible journey, her knowledge of transformative practices, and her commitment to helping others rediscover their inner joy and motivation. Her story is a testament to the profound impact of combining various modalities to facilitate personal growth and empower individuals to live their best lives. Connect with Alice : https://alicegeoffroy.com/  https://www.instagram.com/_alice.geoffroy/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/alice-geoffroy/ ****If you enjoyed this episode please follow the show, share it with a friend and leave a review on Spotify ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4JfM1ZitoXTP6DXXfUbqRm?si=9f68c2de30a5446f⁠ for more thought-provoking discussions on mindset, personal growth, and peak performance.**** Do you want to be featured on The Phase 4 Podcast? Fill out this form! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScSDX6Nm2Mdi-auIiqAH0f3ZTjllNRlIFbanu7mzmMUzjQMvw/viewform?usp=sf_link Connect with Jp ⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/NextStepsAcademy     In addition, The Next Steps Academy is proud to announce the release of  Words From Walden, An Inspiring book that celebrates Nature, Spiritual Awakening, New Age thinking and Esoteric views of the world. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9XFT5VT?ref_=pe_3052080_397670860 

Tune in to hear:- Why do we take our autonomic nervous system for granted and why does it have such a profound effect on our ability to be successful communicators?- What are the different hierarchical states of the nervous system and what role do each of these play in determining the stories we tell ourselves? - How would Laura's work with a client look different than a CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) approach and why does she believe that nervous system work should come before one should attempt to change their mindset about something?- Our physical health really underpins our mental health much of the time. When a client is going through a period of stress, and not physical dysfunction, what is a way to introduce “body first” messaging that won't alienate that client?- What practical tips does Laura have for the average advisor who is personally taking on a lot of the emotional weight of their client's problems?- How can financial professionals be better at providing context for their clients within Laura's nervous system focused framework?- Why does choice play such an important role in regulating the state of our nervous system?- Laura believes that working with the nervous system directly can have profound effects on our financial decision making. Why is this the case?https://lauralisalarios.com/deepen-masterclassCompliance Code: 2346-OAS-12/5/2022

#sports #injury #ACL #recoveryDR. KEAGEN HADLEY - writes, speaks and coaches on coming back from serious injury.Listen at 11:50 when Keagen Hadley gives a definition of ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy) and how, from his own lived experience, ACT differs from CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). Very interesting!In this episode of The COMEBACK Coach Dr. Keagen Hadley talks about making a comeback from his own past mental illness, substance abuse, and physical injuries.He's a former USA College footballer who 'blew' both ACL's in his playing career.Today Keagen is a Doctor of Occupational Therapy - specializing in psychological treatments of physical injuries such as torn ACL (Anterior Cruciate Ligament) of the knee.Keagen Hadley authored the Amazon Bestseller book, 'TORN: Overcoming the Psychological Challenges Post-ACL Injury.' About the book: "Discover a pathway through your physical and psychological recovery from your ACL injury that sets you on the best path to move past your ACL injury, return to a new, normal life and uncover a mindset that will help you transform!"Read the book:

In this episode, Robin and George talk about how CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). They discuss the impact of automatic negative thoughts, which are disruptive and prevent one from reaching their goals. They discuss the genesis of these intrusive thoughts, how they affect one's life and become habits. Robin and George also discuss some tips, which allow one to identify automatic thoughts such as keeping a journal or a thought log.

On today's episode of  G Marie Taught Me, G Marie dives in to the stigma of black people not going to therapy and the important of going to therapy in the black community. G breaks down why it's important to go, what you can expect and whether or not therapy is for everybody. Check out today's episode for more resources on finding the right therapist/ practicing CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) without a therapist.LIKE US ON FACEBOOK: G MARIE TAUGHT MEFOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM & TIK TOCK : G MARIE TAUGHT MESUBSCRIBE TO OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL: G MARIE TAUGHT METo register for dance/fitness classes, visit www.gmarietaughtme.com or email us at gmarietaughtme@gmail.com 

Today we're talking about CBT- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and the benefits it can have on your lifestyle. CBT is a very effective form of therapy that helps with stress management, addiction, phobias, serious medical conditions and so much more. We're going to discuss how our thought patterns, in regards to drinking and other toxic habits, can be improved if not eliminated with CBT. Resources: Becoming Supernatural by Joe Dispenza: https://amzn.to/3cuuzg0 https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-cbt/overview/ https://www.verywellmind.com/cognitive-behavior-therapy-for-addiction-67893 #cbt #joedispenza #placeboeffect #180withtay #selfimprovement #podcast #drinkinghabits #drinking #alcohol #sobercurious #moderation #mentalhealth #selfhelp #selfcare #selflove #spotify #youtube #applepodcasts #motivation #inspiration #health #wellness #lifestyle Episode 34: Can't Beat That July 22, 2022

This week we delve into managing stress, anxiety and learn the power of our thoughts with Laura Depko. Laura's expertise in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) helps her teach individuals to navigate the connections between thoughts, feelings and behavior. She will help us to learn to identify potential triggers to stress and anxiety and show us how we can better handle these events in our lives.Laura is one of the only clinicians in the country who is certified in: CBT, CBT-Insomnia, and CMPC (certified mental performance consultant, pending). Laura has over a decade of experience in the clinical field, including partnerships with colleges and is clinically licensed in New Jersey, Vermont, Georgia, Maryland, Massachusetts, and Connecticut.(4:14) Why did Laura choose to do this work, specializing in CBT?(7:00) Laura helps to define anxiety and discuss some examples that can trigger it.(12:23) Where does Laura begin when assisting people how to handle their anxiety?(13:10) Laura shares her process of how to “catch, check & change” your thoughts to ground yourself.(14:20) Thoughts and anxiety can trigger a physical reaction, how can we deal with that?(17:18) Laura shares how she teaches people to deal with insomnia.(20:10) Laura explains how cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) works?(22:30) What can we do to manage our thoughts better?(25:29) We learn the process of “better, but believable” that Laura uses to manage her thoughts.(29:29) What trends has Laura noticed as I related to mental health in the workplace?(37:18) How does Laura manage stress in her own life?(39:07) What would Laura like people to take away from this discussion? Connect with Laura Depkohttps://www.linkedin.com/in/laura-depko-756b47191/https://www.depkoct.com/Subscribe: Warriors At Work Podcasts Website: https://jeaniecoomber.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/986666321719033/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeanie_coomber/Twitter: https://twitter.com/jeanie_coomber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeanie-coomber-90973b4/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbMZ2HyNNyPoeCSqKClBC_w

Priya Harpaul is a New York-based therapist and the force behind @The_Therapy_Notebook on Instagram and TikTok. During the pandemic she started the Instagram account to give back and educate the public about mental health.  Priya takes an intersectional approach to therapy knowing that our culture and how we exist in society have major influences on our mental health. Priya is on a mission to change the narrative by removing the stigma of seeking mental health services and we are here for it.  Welcome Priya What You Will Hear: Identifying as Indo-Carribean. Impact of cultural differences and birth order. Respecting elders and fighting to be heard. Deciding to become a therapist. Collective cultures. Biases and preconceived notions in therapy. Understanding cultural differences. The influences of cultural and experience on mental health. Generational cycles and breaking negative patterns of behavior. Mental health and psychoeducation The Therapy Notebook- developing user friendly language for therapy Signs of depression that don't appear as sadness What does the global majority need to do Quotes: “Family business stays in the family.” “If you wanted to get help with your mental health, there weren't many people that looked like me in the therapy room.” “The global majority do come from collective cultures and you can't do therapy from an individualistic european eurocentric lens that alienates the collective and wants to pathologize it.” “Every teacher teaches from teachers from their cultural lens” “One thing about therapy is we do not treat the diagnosis. We treat the person.” Mentioned https://priyaharpaul.com/ (PriyaHarpaul.com) Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_therapy_notebook/?hl=en (@the_therapy_notebook) TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@the_therapy_notebook?lang=en (@the_therapy_notebook) CBT Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Stephanie is a Licensed Clinical Independent Social Worker in Washington State. She received her master's degree in Social Work from Savannah State University and her bachelor's degree is in Special Education from the University of Mississippi. Stephanie's professional background involves working in an outpatient setting with homeless adults and youths with severe and persistent mental illnesses, as well as working in her own private practice working with children ages 3- 12 years old. For 3 years, Stephanie also worked and managed a psychiatrist residential treatment facility for children and adolescents. Stephanie previously was the Clinical Manager of Child and Adolescent Services at Eating Recovery Center working with adolescents, teens, and families with eating disorders. She is currently working within the Issaquah School District as a School Based Mental Health Therapist through Swedish Hospital. Stephanie has received postgraduate training in Play Therapy, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing, CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), EFFT (Emotion Focused Family Therapy), crisis management, Family Based Therapy, as well as anxiety and depression management. She also has 2.5 years of studies with behavior management and Applied Behavior Analysis.Stephanie is passionate about walking alongside individuals in the recovery process and empowering them to take steps towards healing. Stephanie is well versed and trained in several therapeutic techniques and has a compassionate and approachable demeanor. She specializes in trauma, attachment, and significant behavior challenges. Stephanie frequently draws from play therapy and takes on a collaborative role with her clients to investigate and discover the role in which cultural, familial, and personal narratives are having in one's life. She is driven by her focus on building each client's strength, as well as giving her clients firm guidelines, routine, and dependability to foster self-determination, all within a trauma informed care scope.https://cliniciandevelopmentcollective.com/

Have you ever wondered why you think about worst case scenarios?! How about why it's hard for you to take a compliment? You may be getting into the territory of having a cognitive distortion (don't worry, you're not alone-it happens to all of us from time to time!). Today on Living Freely podcast, Rachel Ann Dine is explaining what CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is briefly, but then getting into what cognitive distortions are, why it matters to know, and how you can start to change your thinking if any of these resonate with you. Being kind to your mind does take time, recognition of unhelpful thoughts, and unlearning maladaptive thought patterns...but CAN be done! Resources for individual counseling are www.psychologytoday.com, goodtherapy.org, https://openpathcollective.org/ Want to know more about what programs Norfolk Public Library is offering? Visit their website to learn more: https://www.norfolkpubliclibrary.org/ Say hi to Rachel Ann and receive more mental health resources! Mental Health Apparel ($1 from every sale goes to an organization dedicated to mental health community support!): https://dine-in-psychology.creator-spring.com Book: https://www.amazon.com/Live-Learn-Love-Real-talk-woman-ebook/dp/B07NJBLLSB Resources Used In Show: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-cognitive-behavior-therapy-2795747 https://www.healthline.com/health/cognitive-distortions#discounting-the-positive Disclaimer: The information provided is for educational purposes only and not designed to diagnose or treat. Rachel Ann Dine is a licensed professional counselor at time of EVENT and distribution but is in no way by engagement of interaction with you attempting to diagnose or treat you. Please consult your own medical provider for treatment or therapy (resource: www.psychologytoday.com for therapy!).

Unless we have the freedom to fail - we don't have the freedom to succeed. How to cope with failure and embrace it as an integral part of our lives?   For risk takers - failure is part of the journey. Although entrepreneurs are more confident in their personality - understanding that failure is inevitable - is a must. Otherwise - there's a lot of suffering, self blame and frustration. Just like children learn how to walk by falling and learning - same goes for us. The more we are psychologically resilient - the quicker we will bounce back.   Why do people don't want to cope with failure?   People want confidence. By coping with failure - it's like putting a mirror of what didn't work well which may lead to confusion, frustration and a sense of instability of how to act next. Instead of letting it affect our self-esteem and thinking how others will see us - we have to be realistic, to be able to meet it, and move away from it, like Tony Robbins said: “A fantastic analogy for the power of focus is racing cars. When your car begins to skid, the natural reflex is to look at the wall in an attempt to avoid it. But if you keep focusing on what you fear, that's exactly where you'll end up. Professional racers know that we unconsciously steer in the direction of our focus, so with their lives on the line, they turn their focus away from the wall and towards the open track.”   Vulnerability is the name of the game. Embracing life as they are, and allowing ourselves to be human and navigate through the emotional sides of life. It's a muscle we need to strengthen - leading with our vulnerability and not ignoring it.  Not everyone is up to it, as it involves taking risks. People feel safer to take risks in areas where they feel strong. For example, people who are confident in managing money - can take risks in financials. But being an entrepreneur - means also taking an emotional risk, and it may be hard.  Gen Z, for instance, brings a different mentality into the workforce, and there's a shift towards being more emotionally connected, keeping their well-being in place, being more authentic, and bringing themselves in. Founders & employers that won't embrace this mindset - will simply won't win in the competition for the brightest talents.    When coping with failure - we need to identify between internal and external attribution and how it impacts us. E.g. - if the pitch didn't go well - is it because I wasn't prepared (internal), or the investors were extremely harsh (external). If it's internal but not stable - it's OK, but if it's internal and stable - then we're stuck. With the help of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), we can re-evaluate it and change the way we feel towards failure, getting out from our “stuck” place.   When we deal with failure, it can affect our stress level, which will be reflected in: Physiological symptoms, like our increasing heart rate, blood pressure etc. Learning techniques that can actually help us reduce the stress levels - can be very beneficial. In stressful situations - the sympathetic system gets into action, and our adrenaline and cortisol levels can increase as we feel that “the lion is in the room”. By moving, doing exercises, practicing yoga, meditation, shaking our body, learning breathing techniques, eating in shorter intervals and drinking less coffee - we can help calm our sympathetic system. Furthermore, having social support increases the levels of the oxytocin spread in our body (the ‘love' hormone), which also improves our feeling.  Cognitive aspects - like negative thoughts we should transition into positive ones. Emotional aspects - we can feel unpleasant emotions and feelings.   Ask yourself - which feeling or emotion I don't allow myself to feel/show enough? Being angry, jealous, hurt? Dealing with emotions includes 2 stages:  1 - Validate it, naming it, acknowledging what we feel.  2 - Stay with it for a while and then move along. Don't get stuck. Entrepreneurs often move on, but without necessarily processing what happened to them.   As we volunteer to be part of society - we have to understand that loss, failure and pain are part of life. When we choose to connect with people - we take a risk, as we will also have to learn how to lose & mourn.  Elizabeth Kobler Ross defined in 1969 the different stages of the loss & mourning. When processing a failure within our entrepreneurial life - we are actually experiencing the loss of a hope/ effort/ belief/ relationship.     In the 1st stage - we are in denial and/or shock - “the company doesn't close ''/ “he is not leaving”/ “he hasn't died”. Then we try to bargain  - if XXX then YYY. We try “to close a deal” in order to change the verdict. Then we feel a strong anger combined with anxiety - “how will I ever be OK?”/ And lastly, is the stage of the acceptance - “I'm not OK that it happened, but I'm OK with it”.  We're not necessarily going through all those stages, and we can also get in and out from each stage several times.   “The world breaks everyone, and afterward many are strong at the broken places”/ Ernest Hemingway.  This idea is what lies in the basis of AEDP, Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy, developed by Dr. Diana Fosha. Crisis and suffering provide opportunities to awaken extraordinary capacities that otherwise might lie dormant, unknown and untapped. AEDP is about experientially making the most of these opportunities for both healing and transformation. Key to its therapeutic action is the undoing of aloneness and thus, the co-creation of a therapeutic relationship experienced as both safe haven and secure base. Then, working with emotional experience toward healing trauma and suffering, and toward expanding emergent positive transformational experiences.   Understanding that life is more complex than two axes of good-bad, right-wrong - we shall embrace the spectrum of experiences we are experiencing through life. Less labeling and categorizing, be less judgmental and more compassionate.   Showing empathy & vulnerability, make it much easier to live life to its fullest. There is a correlation between vulnerability and likeability.  Remember - learn how to empower yourself and not be awaiting external approvals of who and what you are.    Failure is our way to learn how to walk.

Dr. Avigail (Abby) Lev is a psychotherapist, mediator, author, and executive coach in San Francisco, Bay Area. Dr. Lev is the director of the Bay Area CBT Center, a clinic that specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help individuals and couples break unhelpful patterns, develop healthier habits, and improve all areas of life.  She has co-authored three books on relationships and has presented her research at regional and international conferences. Dr. Lev is also the founder of CBTonline, an online platform that connects people with online therapists who specialize in CBT and offers online CBT resources such as webinars, e-courses, videos, mindfulness audio, and much more.  Dr. Lev utilizes evidence-based practices, including CBT, ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), and Schema Therapy to help people who are struggling with a variety of issues live happier and more fulfilling lives. In this episode, Dr. Avigail Lev and Tara chat about CBT - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - how to help you break unhelpful patterns, get healthier habits and improve all areas of your life! Learn more about Dr. Avigail Lev here: https://bayareacbtcenter.com/ and https://cbtonline.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BayAreaCBTCenter Check out her webinars and online courses on mental health and psychology here: https://bayareacbtcenter.com/ Get her books:  “Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Couples”: https://amzn.to/3y96693 “Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Interpersonal Problems”: https://amzn.to/37YzQef “The Interpersonal Problems Workbook”: https://amzn.to/3FeV2IY

Lori Bean and Alyssa Rabin welcome Registered Psychologist Erin Bonner back to the podcast to take everyone on a deep dive into psychology and how therapy works. Erin breaks down when diagnosis is useful in selecting a therapeutic modality, how different therapies treat behaviors and emotions, and how to go about selecting the right therapist for your needs.Erin believes everyone should know something about therapy, modalities, types of therapists, and how to find a therapist. To that end, Erin details exactly what her speciality - clinical counseling psychology - means and what modalities her training specifically focused on. She explains the differences between clinical and subclinical and what the idea ‘diagnosis directs treatment' looks like in terms of the type of therapy that would be best for an individual. Lori and Alyssa explore the differences between DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) with Erin. They discuss the CBT triangle, what a DBT skill like the TIPP skill would assist with, and how important personal connection with a therapist is to effective therapy. This episode addresses your brain, your thoughts, and any feeling or trauma you may have that a psychologist or therapist can help with. This imparts important knowledge on how to choose therapy that is best for you.About Erin Bonner:Erin Bonner is a Registered Psychologist with a Master's of Arts in Counselling Psychology. She is passionate about her role in helping others navigate their individual paths towards wellness. In her 20s she tragically lost her younger brother and then her mother shortly after. Through her own therapeutic journey, she discovered her calling to help others work on understanding and processing emotions to achieve personal growth and well-being.Erin is trained in Cognitive and Dialectical Behavioural Therapies, Prolonged Exposure, Exposure with Response Prevention, Emotion-Focused and Mindfulness-Based Therapy. She specializes in treating depression, anxiety, PTSD, cPTSD, ADHD, emotion dysregulation, grief, OCD, and in helping individuals learn to love themselves and develop strong relationships with the people in their lives. She also offers Sport Psychology to equestrian athletes on an individual or group basis.Erin believes in holistic wellness and that integrating various modalities of treatment enhances the benefits of therapy. She encourages her clients to be curious about how they can cultivate lifestyle changes to think, emote and behave in ways that foster personal wellbeing and contentment; this is paramount in her approach to therapy.In addition to working with adults, she has a special interest, passion and gift for working with adolescents aged 14 and older.Resources discussed in this episode:TIPP skillCBT triangle-- Maliya: website | instagram | facebookErin Bonner | Registered Psychologist: website | linkedin TranscriptionErin Bonner  00:59Hi guys. Alyssa Rabin  01:01How are you? Erin Bonner  01:02I'm good. I'm excited to chat. Lori Bean  01:06Let's do it. We need some answers to the questions we're getting. Alyssa Rabin  01:11Totally. Erin Bonner  01:13Maybe I should start with contrary to popular belief, therapists don't know everything. We are all work-in-progresses ourselves. Lori Bean  01:20Oh. Alyssa Rabin  01:21That's not what you told me. Erin Bonner  01:22I know. You know the... speak with confidence and then everybody just believes everything you say. Lori Bean  01:30Maybe I should become a clinical psychologist. Erin Bonner  01:36I think it's important, though, to kind of know about therapy, about, you know, what kind of therapist fits for you and kind of how to maybe even choose a therapist. Because I was talking to a new client and they were wildly overwhelmed with just the process of finding, like, who the heck can help me. And so I think maybe we can uncover some of that because it's overwhelming, Alyssa Rabin  02:00Totally and completely. Finding the right fit and feeling comfortable to pour your heart out. And absolutely. So why don't you first tell us, what specifically do you specialize in? Erin Bonner  02:15My specialty is in clinical counseling psychology. And what that means is that my training is in modalities that are empirically supported for the treatment of mental disorders. So I am trained in treatments to treat borderline personality disorder, major anxiety disorder, depression, OCD, PTSD. And so a lot of the training that I have, really is designed for individuals with kind of clinical disorders, and anybody who might even be subclinical, or anybody who just is highly emotionally sensitive and emotions run their life. Alyssa Rabin  02:53What's subclinical? Erin Bonner  02:54Subclinical means you might not actually meet diagnostic criteria, according to, you know, the set diagnostic criteria in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual. And that emotion pattern, you know, depression, anxiety, trauma experiences, they're pretty controlling in your life, that we as psychologists have to have, you know, a gradient. You either meet criteria for diagnosis or you don't. And if you have four out of nine criteria for something and not five out of nine criteria, where five out of nine is that threshold, having four out of nine is still pretty life altering. Lori Bean  03:30So if you recognize, like, let's say you had a trauma that's still affecting you today, you don't know if it's PTSD, you're just not functioning. Erin Bonner  03:37Yeah. Lori Bean  03:38It's controlling your life. Alyssa Rabin  03:39And even if it's not a trauma, if you don't recognize exactly what is going on, but why are you feeling anxious? Why are you feeling depressed? Why are you feeling all of these emotions? Erin Bonner  03:50Yeah. And I think often diagnosis, it directs treatment. And so sometimes we need a diagnosis before we embark on a treatment, because, let's face it, there are lots of different modalities out there. And they're all useful in one way or another for individuals who they fit for. And not every type of therapy is going to fit for every person. So sometimes, you gotta get the diagnosis first. You gotta kind of know what you're working with before you choose a path down therapy, because it's exhausting to go down a whole therapeutic pathway and feel like it doesn't do a darn thing. It just costs you a whole bunch of money, and time and energy and effort. And so sometimes the diagnosis is really, really important to start with. Lori Bean  04:30So where do you get the diagnosis? Erin Bonner  04:31So diagnosis typically will come from either a psychiatrist, or there are psychologists out there who specialize in assessment, it's not actually something I do. I have some solid familiarity, with the treatments that I offer, to kind of do general assessment, so I can assess for PTSD, I can assess for OCD. And I don't have as much training as someone who specializes in assessment would have. And so if I meet with a client and I think, you know what, I think we got to know what's going on here from kind of a diagnostic perspective first, I'll typically refer out. And I have a couple of referral sources that I think are really fantastic and they know their stuff really, really well. And so I'll say, 'hey, this is important to do so you aren't wasting your time'. I want to help every single person that comes through my doors, and if I don't offer the treatment that fits for that person, I can't as well as somebody who does offer that treatment. Alyssa Rabin  05:23So let's say I am feeling depressed and anxious. And I don't have a diagnosis. Do I have to go get that first to come to see you? Erin Bonner  05:33No, not at all. Alyssa Rabin  05:34Okay. Erin Bonner  05:34As the, you know, clinical professional in the room, it's a bit my job to go, 'hey, I think this is really important' or, the other piece, yes diagnosis directs treatment. And as a therapist, as a clinical counseling therapist, I am very much treating the symptoms. Yes, there are these diagnostic labels. And all the diagnostic label means is you're experiencing all of these symptoms in a way that's altering your life. Alyssa Rabin  05:58Interesting. Erin Bonner  06:00And so that's my job. To do some assessment. This is why a first session often feels a little 21 questioning. I try not to make it as 21 questioning as possible, and really have it be a conversation, but there is, over the first couple of sessions, a bit of assessment that I'm doing, to kind of conceptualize how does what I do fit for a client. Alyssa Rabin  06:19As well - actually, before this, you and I were talking about connection. Erin Bonner  06:25Yeah. Alyssa Rabin  06:26How important connection is between the client and their psychologist? Lori Bean  06:31Yeah. Erin Bonner  06:31Absolutely. I like to think about that chemistry factor, when it comes to choosing a psychologist, that you kind of want - and not in a weird, creepy way - you kind of want the same feeling if you go on a first date, and you're like, 'whoa, that was great'. Whether they were, like, nurturing or kind or, like, you just had that ease of conversation. You kind of want that feeling with a therapist in some way, shape, or form because, I mean, this is somebody you're gonna be spilling your guts to. You're going to be very vulnerable with this human. And so if you don't have that kind of spark of connection, it's really hard to be vulnerable. It's really hard to be candid, it's really hard to just show up and go with what happens in a session. And so I think, I mean, there's research that backs it up that there's a big statistic of - I don't know, I don't know the exact number - but about 60% of the game is finding a therapist you connect with. And so that's, you know, you got to understand and feel like they're their theory fits for you. You got to feel like their personality fits for you. I know, I'm a pretty conversational, I'd say casual, conversational style therapist. I fully believe in the power of a therapeutic F bomb. And so that's gonna fit for some people and it's not gonna fit for others. Lori Bean  06:38That fits for me. Erin Bonner  06:57And so I think that's a huge part of the battle which, absolutely, it makes finding a therapist overwhelming and challenging. Alyssa Rabin  07:54Which is why it's so amazing that you do offer free virtual consultation. It's like a 15 minute consultation. So you can see the person face to face and sort of get that energy. And see if it is a match, which I just think is brilliant. Erin Bonner  08:10I think it's important that I know therapy is expensive. And I know that people are investing time, energy, money, emotions into doing therapy with me. And so at least if they have that thought of, like, I'm kind of interested in speaking to her again, before they, you know, shell out that that fee for the first session, I think is important. And it's something that I really I like to do because I'm a human too. And we get in a session and our therapeutic or conversational selves don't fit? It's uncomfortable for everybody. Alyssa Rabin  08:43Yeah, absolutely. Lori Bean  08:46So what are some of the - do you call them processes that you use? Erin Bonner  08:51Yeah. So theories or modalities. Or processes, absolutely. So I would classify myself as someone who falls into the category of behaviorist. And so what that means is, all of the theories that backup my practice, that I'm really pulling from when I'm doing therapy, have to do with human behavior. It's one of kind of the, I think there's six kind of different categories or genres. Yeah, I like that word. So I'm a behavioral therapist. And so my training is in dialectical behavior therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, I can tell you what those are in a minute. And then a lot of the exposure based treatments that I use, so prolonged exposure to treat PTSD, exposure with response prevention for the treatment of OCD, any, like, mindfulness based therapies that are really behaviorally mindfulness based therapies, emotion focused, there is this behavioral element that I bring. Lori Bean  09:44Okay, so let's say - Alyssa Rabin  09:46- you're revisiting - Lori Bean  09:48- you're re- yeah, that's the word you use. Revisit. So what if it's something like, maybe it's something you've repressed? Erin Bonner  09:55Yeah. Lori Bean  09:56Or something that happened a long time ago as a kid and you do don't really remember. How do you revisit something like that? Erin Bonner  10:04I like that question. Because I think we have this urge, if we know there's trauma, or there's, like, a question mark about where there's trauma, we want to figure it out, we want to dive in and do the thing and heal ourselves. And my approach, that's the goal, the goal is to have this kind of holistic healing, and sometimes we have to train our brain how the heck to do that before we actually have the ability to do revisiting. And a big part of my training is in dialectical behavior therapy, which is a very behavior focused, it's probably the most behavior focused type of therapy you can get. Alyssa Rabin  10:38Which is, explain it a little bit. Erin Bonner  10:40Yes. So the concept of dialectical behavior therapy - so, DBT - is that it accounts for biology. So it was a therapy designed in the 80s by a gal named Marsha Linehan, who is this brilliant clinical social worker, I believe. Don't come for me, DBT community, if she's a psychologist. I think she's a clinical social worker, she has borderline personality disorder and went through every single therapy in the book. Luckily, she's also unbelievably brilliant. And so she kind of picked and chose parts of therapies that were helpful, even though no one therapy helped her. Lori Bean  11:17Okay. Erin Bonner  11:17And so what DBT does, it accounts for this biology, this emotional sensitivity, and not in a judgmental way. It's, 'hey, if my brain has a brain that feels emotions more intensely than the average person, I am emotionally sensitive'. Me too, absolutely! Alyssa's raising her hand. I absolutely am this way and so probably this is why I've connected with this therapy. Because sometimes our emotion system overrides our ability to think straight, to be, you know, rational, to know what we know. And so DBT really takes that into account in its approach, through behaviors, but also through treatment processing. So in order to revisit sometimes, to revisit the past, which might look like, you know, conversation about past experiences, it might be, you know, formal trauma treatments, like prolonged exposure. It might be understanding self in a different way. And so, you know, cracking into that egg of self identity, and, you know, breaking it down so we can rebuild it up. Sometimes, before we actually can do that, we actually need to train our brain how to experience an emotion first. Lori Bean  12:17Oh, interesting! Erin Bonner  12:19Yeah. Have you ever had an experience or an emotion happens - I'm maybe looking at Alyssa since she did volunteer - have you ever had a moment where an emotion has happened, and all you can see is that emotion? Alyssa Rabin  12:31Yes. Erin Bonner  12:31Like there isn't rational and you're in that place of emotion. And all we can think about is, like, how the heck do we survive this emotion? Alyssa Rabin  12:38Absolutely. Erin Bonner  12:39And our brain has built in some, like, you know, survival mechanisms. You know, the old fight, freeze, or fly. And that absolutely is survival, except it's often not functional in our day to day life. And so unless, you know, we're being attacked by a mountain lion, then yeah, I want to do all of those things. And I want to, you know, biologically save myself. In those moments where we're flooded with emotion, sometimes we need to train our brain to know what to do to be able to get access to the smart part of our brain, to, you know, challenge thoughts or to think critically, or to sit with an emotion without having to do anything about it. Alyssa Rabin  13:16So before you actually dive into the past quote/unquote trauma, you teach your brain first and the person how to deal with those emotions that will probably come about. Erin Bonner  13:32Absolutely. Lori Bean  13:33Oh, that is so interesting! Alyssa Rabin  13:36See, I could be a psychologist. Lori Bean  13:46Brilliant,. Alyssa Rabin  13:46I love that. Erin Bonner  13:47It's neat, because, I mean, we're all unique and different and complex, but we're all pretty simple as humans to. And so the truth is to process past experiences, to heal trauma, we have to do this revisiting. And, you know, there are some people that you know, biologically, genetically got that scratch off ticket that was a winning ticket, and their brain is just able to do it. Hey, let's start off and dive into trauma, great! So this is people that, like, that really benefit from, you know, therapies like maybe some somatic work or EMDR, or even like life coaching. Absolutely. Brain says I know how to do the processing thing, I just gotta have a space to talk about it. Not everybody has that, though. Alyssa Rabin  13:55So then you would, quote/unquote, pass those off to somatic therapists. Erin Bonner  14:35Potentially, yeah. Alyssa Rabin  14:37Interesting. Lori Bean  14:38So what's the difference between DBT and CBT? Erin Bonner  14:41I love that question. This is where my, like, nerdy psychologist comes. And that's a word I've reclaimed, it's not a judgment. I love this part about myself because I get really excited about this because it's not something that people know. We hear all of these different therapies and we hear all these different names and brain goes, 'great, I just want to feel better'. And knowing the therapies is actually a really important part in us choosing, like, what path we're gonna go down, who we're going to connect with. Because if I'm talking about behaviors and then someone is, like, 'what' and I want to talk about, you know, my inner child, it's probably not going to connect. And so knowing a bit about the therapies, I think it's really important. So here - I wish I had like a flowchart I could show everybody as I'm describing this. Lori Bean  15:25PowerPoint. Erin Bonner  15:26Absolutely. Vanna White over here. So everyone listening can just imagine that I'm doing that. I don't have a, you know, a nice dress like Vanna, but - Alyssa Rabin  15:37- but you look really cute. Erin Bonner  15:38Thanks. So the difference between CBT and DBT is that DBT can kind of be thought of as like advanced CBT. And not in a, like, you graduate and you do DBT. Alyssa Rabin  15:48What does DBT stand for? Erin Bonner  15:50Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Alyssa Rabin  15:52Okay. Erin Bonner  15:53So CBT is often what we think about when we think about talk therapy. It's the whole change your thoughts, feel different, do different. Alyssa Rabin  16:02So what does CBT stands for? Erin Bonner  16:05So CBT stands for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. And so in CBT, often what we're looking at is we're understanding how our behaviors and our thoughts influence each other and how they impact our emotions. There's a diagram that lots of CBT therapists will draw, it's a triangle, it's a really fancy diagram. On the top they'll write T, and on one of the bottom corners, they'll write a B, and on the other corner, they'll write an E or an F for feelings. And so in CBT, there's this triangle, the CBT triangle. And so it's that thoughts impact behaviors impact emotions. And then we'll draw, like, these arrows between all of those three corners and go, okay, emotions impact thoughts and thoughts impact emotions. Thoughts impact behaviors, behaviors impact thoughts. Behaviors and emotions, they both impact each other. And so CBT really is this idea that we want to understand our thoughts first, how do we change thoughts so it impacts our behavior, which then impacts our emotions. And so if we can change that cycle, that feedback cycle, we're probably going to feel better. Alyssa Rabin  17:03Okay, so thoughts such as, like, I'm not worthy. Erin Bonner  17:08Absolutely. A solid shame thought. Uncomfortable. Alyssa Rabin  17:12Absolutely and completely. Lori Bean  17:14Which would impact a behavior of not showing up for something. Erin Bonner  17:20Totally. Or, like, self sabotage or never seeing no, never having boundaries. Absolutely. And so from a cognitive behavioral perspective, we look at that thought and go, 'okay, so how do we challenge that thought, so then behaviors and emotions, so the emotion of shame in that instance, can actually shift'. We're creating new patterns in our brain that change our functioning. And so the difference in DBT is we're actually doing the same thing, but we're going behavior first. And we go behavior first, because - and this is the nerdy part, ready? So when we are in a moment where emotion is really high, whether it's due to our biology, so maybe we're a highly sensitive person, maybe we have something like borderline personality disorder, which I think is a highly stigmatized diagnosis. And it really just means that we're a person with incredibly high emotions. And then we've had an environment where we've been invalidated a lot for it. Maybe with trauma, maybe not. I can get on a soapbox about that and I won't for the sake of today. Or maybe we've had major traumas, maybe it's been childhood trauma that's happened over, you know, years and years. Maybe it's been instances, and it doesn't necessarily matter what type of trauma, it's that it happened. I think sometimes we associate highly sensitive people with, like, sexual trauma. Not necessarily it can be kind of any type of trauma. I often think of even if we're a person that just has a higher than normal, not normal, higher than average emotion experience, the experience of our own emotions can be pretty traumatizing. Alyssa Rabin  18:50Totally, Erin Bonner  18:52if anyone's had a panic attack, yeah, that can be pretty dang traumatizing. And so if we've had this experience, what ends up happening is our brain functioning is altered. We don't have access to the, you know, intelligent front part of our brain, our prefrontal cortex, in the same way. And we really need that part of our brain online all the time to be able to challenge thoughts. So that same task of 'I'm not worthy' or 'I'm not good enough', in CBT, we go alright, we got to challenge that thought. If we have that emotion experience that's pretty high, the likelihood that we have the brainpower to challenge that thought and it stick, isn't there. Lori Bean  19:28So interesting. Erin Bonner  19:30So in DBT, we go - and the people that have invented DBT and turned it into the therapy that is today and the theory that it is today, they take that biology piece into account - and they go 'okay, so maybe we have to do behaviors first to change brain functioning'. So having skills, is the DBT lingo, to be able to address our physiology so we can turn all parts of our brain back on, maybe reduce intensity of emotion slightly, so we have full access to our brain. So we can biologically do that changing thinking thing. Lori Bean  20:01So what does that look like? Give us an example of when you approach a behavior first. Erin Bonner  20:06Yeah. So the classic... and it's often if I, you know, meet somebody and I go, 'okay, we need some skills here, this is maybe more DBT informed type therapy' because even though I'm trained in DBT, I came from a practice that was full fidelity. If somebody needs full fidelity DBT, I will send my client to that clinic, they are fantastic at what they do. If you need full fidelity, the whole shebang of DBT, I don't offer that anymore. I offer DBT informed practice. What that means is, in the first couple of sessions, I would teach somebody a skill, like the TIPP skill, and what the TIPP skill - everything in DBT is acronym - so it stands for Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, Paired muscle relaxation. So TIPP. So these are four behaviors that a) increase our parasympathetic activation, our body's natural cooldown system. And so there are behaviors that we do that quickly change our physiology, which then impacts our ability to function, and it impacts our ability to access the parts of our brain that we need to be able to, you know, do mindfulness or do distraction or think critically. Lori Bean  20:07So does the client approach this TIPP when they're in a behavior? They're recognizing that they're in an irrational behavior, like let's say they're having a panic attack. Is that considered a behavior? Erin Bonner  21:25Absolutely. Panic attack is a great moment for a skill like the TIPP skill, because we're in that moment, we are flooded with emotion, the emotion is controlling everything we do, and so - Lori Bean  21:37- which is a behavior. Erin Bonner  21:38Right? And so we're in that moment of panic attack, yes, the panic is the emotion but the behaviors might be crying, the behaviors might be avoiding, the behaviors might be, you know, freezing and not being able to function. And so we need something to, like, in the least clinical way knock our brain down a few pegs in a way that doesn't have long term negative consequences. Alyssa Rabin  21:59Okay, and so that you can more or less focus on regulating yourself. Erin Bonner  22:04Exactly. Because it's our survival mechanisms, those built in behaviors that go with intense emotions, our brain comes up with behaviors to try and regulate. This is why we avoid things kind of, you know, pathologically. Or we use substances. Our brain's feeling really dang intense for whatever emotion our brain trends towards, and so, you know, you pop a pill or take some drinks and brain is numbed a little bit for a short period of time. And so I really, I take this stance with every single one of my clients that every behavior that we have identified - hey, I probably got to do something about this behavior, and I got to change it - it's actually serving a function. It's our brain's way of trying to regulate itself in any way that it can, which I take a stance because it doesn't help to, you know, add a layer of shame of like, 'oh, you shouldn't be doing that'. It doesn't help. Alyssa Rabin  22:19You're doing it almost to save yourself from something and that something is what you need to recognize. Erin Bonner  23:01Exactly. Because as humans, we're complex - I say this a lot - we're complex, but yet we're very simple. Or, and we're very simple in that our brain responds to reward and relief. And so if we engage in a behavior that offers us, like, even the tiniest sliver of relief, brain goes 'oh, that helped'. Even if later on it creates chaos. Brain only learns from that, like, immediate moment and so a skill like the TIPP skill is saying, 'wait, I'm gonna forego that, like, moment of relief for something that might actually start helping in the longer term'. Lori Bean  23:35Wow. Erin Bonner  23:36I like to call this TIPP skill my, like, nerdy therapist party trick because I can reduce your heart rate to below resting heart rate in, like, 30 to 60 seconds. Alyssa Rabin  23:44Do it. Erin Bonner  23:48Give me a little bit of space after. Lori Bean  23:51I will attest that Erin has given me that skill when I personally find my nervous system just dysregulated. That kind of feeling where you're very overwhelmed, you almost feel like you want to crawl out of your body, like, you don't, you can't really differentiate between, like, is it anxiety? Is it overwhelm? Is it stress? I'm uncomfortable, I can't process. Alyssa Rabin  24:20There's too much coming down on your brain and your shoulders. Lori Bean  24:23And you literally feel like you want to crawl out of your body. This little tip has been a lifesaver. Erin Bonner  24:31It's cool. It's neat because it's not a skill that is going to change your life. It's not solving all of your life's problems. What it's doing is it's giving you access to your brain in a moment where you might need your brain. It's giving you this window, this window of access that, you know, either we can, you know, do something. So like you said earlier, Alyssa, start regulating emotion with another behavior or thinking different. Or our brain will just go back to being triggered by whatever it was triggered with before. Lori Bean  24:59Wow, amazing. Alyssa Rabin  25:02So I just have a quick question for you. So I know how amazing you are. Erin Bonner  25:07Thank you. Alyssa Rabin  25:08How would I, as a client, choose to do therapy with you? Instead of, like, a somatic therapy, or a life coaching therapy? What would I need to know as a client? Which direction to go in? Erin Bonner  25:27I love that question. And I think there's kind of different parts to it. Part of it's gonna be personality. Alyssa Rabin  25:32Absolutely. We spoke about, yeah, the connection - Erin Bonner  25:35There's a huge statistic. If you have a connection, what the person does, like, it probably matters less. Doesn't mean it doesn't matter at all, it means it probably matters less. Alyssa Rabin  25:45Ah, interesting. Erin Bonner  25:46I don't want to discount, you know, the theory and the type of therapy altogether, because sometimes we just need a different therapy, even if we really liked that person. I know I've had that as therapist where I have this huge connection with a client and I go, 'I think we've reached our limit and you got to find somebody else, because' - Lori Bean  26:03- this approach isn't working. Erin Bonner  26:04Just becasue we like each other, that's not enough in this instance. So it's part of a big part of the picture, but not the whole picture. I think a big part of understanding what therapist is gonna fit for you, is looking into kind of the theory. And you don't have to research it, like, so you're an expert. You got to read about each of the therapies and, like, Google is great for this. Pull up the Wikipedia page. Well, what is the therapy that they offer? What's it all about? And do I kind of like it? Lori Bean  26:34Does it feel in alignment? Erin Bonner  26:35Totally. Does it speak to me? And so I think that piece is important, because, I know if somebody is a psychoanalyst, yes, there's tons of research behind psychoanalytic - that's the whole Freud stuff - if that speaks to somebody, I can tell you right now, you're gonna get 0% of that with me. I don't do it. I don't, it's not what I do as a therapist. And so if that's what speaks to your brain, we can get along and, you know, be buddies in the therapy room, and it's not going to speak to you in the same way. And so knowing kind of what theory pulls you, that's going to be a big part of deciding who you work with. And then the second piece is you you gotta kind of like them. Lori Bean  27:12Yeah, but it doesn't really mean that one is better than the other. Erin Bonner  27:15Absolutely not. Lori Bean  27:16Like I think about somatic therapy, like internal family therapy. You know, reading up about that, I was like, 'oh, this is really interesting, and kind of resonates with me as a person and what I'm in alignment with'. But it doesn't mean that the different therapies cannot approach the same issues, correct? Erin Bonner  27:34Totally. Totally. I think the one difference is, if there are, you know, something like OCD. If there is a clinical diagnosis that you're coming in with, for example, you have OCD, the likelihood that anything but exposure with response prevention is going to help you is just lower. Doesn't mean there's no other option. It means that you want to look for the treatment that is the most empirically supported treatment for your diagnosis. That's where the 'diagnosis directs treatment' idea comes in. And so, yeah, there are certain areas where you've got to be a little bit more choosy about the theory. And, for lots of people, it matters more about what speaks to you, and about that connection with the therapist. And one theory or one therapy doesn't have to solve all of what's going on for you. Maybe there are pieces. This is something that a mentor that I worked with a couple years ago said that he was kind of grappling with, 'well, I want to be able to, like, you know, help everybody that comes to this door, and I want to see their, you know, start to completion'. And as therapists, I think sometimes we have to humble ourselves a little bit. We're not all, like, saviors. Even though we might have a savior complex. I'm a little guilty of that sometimes. That maybe it's just this piece, maybe it's a piece of work that somebody does with me, and then they do a piece of work with somebody else. And that's - Lori Bean  28:52- or maybe they need something altogether different, like -  Erin Bonner  28:56- like acupuncture. Lori Bean  28:57Yeah. Or naturopathy. Or a movement class. Or some additional support. Erin Bonner  29:03Absolutely. Alyssa Rabin  29:03It's interesting, because once clients, I've had some clients ask me in the past, well, why would I choose psychology over soul coaching or life coaching or... And I kind of put it like, therapy, the psychology therapy, is almost to work on what's there. And once that's been helped, as much as it can be helped, and you're ready to move on to the next level, that's when you go on to the life coaching and life therapy. So it's, everything is a process. Erin Bonner  29:39Yeah, I had a conversation with Jadine our life coach about, like, how do we decide who is the most effective fit? And she and I had this really cool conversation about if somebody comes in the doors and they go, 'okay, I'm just feeling stuck on my next step'. They don't necessarily have trauma they want to work through or it's not the time for them to work through their trauma. Because sometimes it's important to really understand that even if you have trauma, it might not always be the time to work on it. And that's a very acceptable and probably effective choice to make for ourselves. But it's more about that I want to think future focus, I want to think about how the heck do I get myself to the next step? That's where life coaching is a great option. Lori Bean  30:17Or big life changes. Like I'm a new mom. So I just had a baby and my life is just completely changed, and how do I navigate this? Needing support around that. Erin Bonner  30:28Actually, I love that example. Because that's when we can kind of guide into two paths. Okay - so what you just said Lori - absolutely life coaching might be a fit. Whereas if there's postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety, that's where a psychologist  is probably a better fit. Alyssa Rabin  30:42As well, okay, for me - example, I've been stay at home mom for 16 years. All of a sudden, BAM, I'm working 12/13 hours a week. I need to know how to move forward with that as a mom, as a wife, as a businesswoman. But as well I need to work on my guilt for not being home, and I would see Erin for that. To just say to myself, it's okay, and I'm worth it. Erin Bonner  31:15Totally. Yeah. Alyssa Rabin  31:17Awesome. Lori Bean  31:18Thank you, Erin. Erin Bonner  31:20And if anybody wants to chat more about the biology, just come and knock on my door because I will nerd out for hours. Alyssa Rabin  31:29Thank you so much.

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על הפרעות נפשיות בקרב יזמים - חלק א'   האם אצל יזמים יש הפרעות פסיכולוגיות בשכיחות גבוהה יותר מאשר בקרב האוכלוסיה?   הזמנתי 2 חברים שהם פסיכולוגיים קליניים החוקרים את התחום ועובדים גם הם עם יזמים כדי לשפוך עוד קצת אור על עולמם הפסיכולוגי של יזמים. ד"ר ירון סלע, הוא פסיכולוג קליני מומחה ויועץ ארגוני. עשה פוסט-דוקטורט במכון לפסיכולוגיה של האינטרנט, מאוניברסיטת רייכמן וחוקר את החיבור בין הפסיכולוגיה והטכנולוגיה בהיבטים אבחוניים וקליניים. יריב גנור הוא פסיכולוג תעשייתי וקליני מתמחה בבית החולים גהה ובעבודה עם סטארטאפיסטים ואנשי הייטק, שעשה ״פיבוט״ לעולם הפסיכולוגיה אחרי 15 שנים כCMO בחברות טכנולוגיה.   כשלמדתי בשנה א' לתואר בפסיכולוגיה בקורס 'מבוא לפסיכולוגיה' של הילגרד, אני זוכרת שהמרצה נתנה את הדיסקליימר הבא ואני מעבירה אותו הלאה, אליכם: כשתקראו את כל התוכן להלן - יש היתכנות גבוהה שתזדהו עם הרבה מהדברים ותחשבו שיש לכם גם וגם וגם. זה טבעי ומוכר וכולנו מתמודדים עם משהו. אבל אל תמהרו לאבחן את עצמכם עם כותרות - התבוננו במה זה מעורר אצלכם. אם אתם חשים צורך בתמיכה נפשית או חשים שמערכת ההפעלה הפסיכולוגית שלכם יצאה מכיול שמרגיש לכם נורמלי - אל תהססו להרים יד ולפנות לעזרת איש מקצוע מתאים. זה יכול להציל חיים.   מבנה האישיות   בואו נתחיל בלהתבונן על האישיות - לא כל אחד מתאים להיות יזם. בספרו של סטיב בלנק ‘The Startup Owner's Manual', הוא מגדיר שצוות היזמים צריך להיות מורכב מ: Hacker, Designer and Hustler ובעברית - מי שיוביל את הביזנס, הטכנולוגיה והמוצר.   לפי סטיב בלאנק (מחבר 'המדריך לבעלי הסטארטאפ'), הצוות הנכון עשוי מהאקר, מעצב והפעלתן/ איש החזון (Hustler). ההאקר (גיק) הוא בעל התשוקה לטכנולוגיה, אוהב לבנות טכנולוגיה, הוא מפתח, מהנדס נלהב, יוצר אלגוריתם, יוצר קניין רוחני. ההאקר אוכל, ישן ונושם קוד.   המעצב (היפסטר) הוא אמן, הוא אדריכל, הוא בונה את המותג, הוא דואג שממשק המשתמש וחווית המשתמש יהיו פשוטים ואהובים. המעצב אוכל, ישן ונושם עיצוב.   Hustler (בעל החזון) הוא בעל התמצאות וידע עסקי נרחב, איש מכירות טוב, בונה את הצוות, מצית את התשוקה, בונה את התרבות, מעביר פיץ' למשקיעים ומקבל החלטות קשות תחת חוסר ודאות קיצוני שסטארטאפים עובדים בתוכם. ה"האסטלר" אוכל, ישן ונושם את המודל העסקי.   בדרך כלל, אם סטארטאפ נוסד על ידי פחות משלושה אנשים אז אחד מהמייסדים צריך לחבוש את הכובעים המרובים כדי לאזן את הצוות.   ב2018 פורסם מחקר בארה"ב המראה שכמעט 50% מהיזמים באים מבית עם הורה עם הפרעה פסיכולוגית  - שזהו נתון גבוה המצביע על נטייה גנטית כלשהי, או כח בחירה משמעותי המושפע מהסביבה לתוכה גדלו.   נשאלת השאלה - איך אדם מתמודד עם מצבי לחץ? יש יזמים שיש להם יכולת גבוהה יותר לגלות חוסן וישנם כאלו שזה יהיה עבורם משתנה אקוטי.  יזמים שוהים במרחב שוויניקוט הגדיר אותו 'מרחב המעבר' או 'המרחב הפוטנציאלי' - אזור הביניים של החוויה, השוכן בין הפנטזיה והמציאות. זהו מרחב נפשי הנמצא בתחום הביניים שבין חווית הכל יכולת הסובייקטיבית הילדית לבין המציאות האובייקטיבית. מרחב נפשי זה, הוא הבסיס הן ליצירתיות והן ליכולת להרחיב את החוויה היומיומית הקונקרטית. יזמים צריכים לשמור על המתח שבין הויז'ן ללשווק זאת לכל העולם. המתח הזה יוצר רמת ציפיות גבוהה וסופר אגו נוקשה, ומהצד השני - היכולת לשחק במגרש המשחקים ולהמציא דברים חדשים.    יזמים הם אנשים שחיים בתדר גבוה לאורך זמן ועם רף ציפיות גבוה מאד מעצמם ושל הסביבה מהם. אי הודאות העוטפת את עולם היזמות מייצרת 2 קטבים - באחד, אני עושה דברים מרגשים ומשפיעים, ובשני - כשאני לרגע 'לא על זה' - אני יכול לחוות נפילות. חלק מהאנשים יודעים למה הם נכנסים וחלק פחות ערים למחירים. באותו המחקר  שפורסם ב 2018, מצביע על שכיחות גבוהה של ההפרעות הפסיכולוגיות הבאות בקרב יזמים ביחס לאוכלוסיה: מאניה דיפרסיה - פי 10 ADHD - פי 6 התמכרות - פי 3 דכאון - פי 3   כמה מסביבכם או בצוות שלכם היו ילדים מחוננים בילדות?   ילדים מחוננים הם ילדים עם צרכים מיוחדים. לעיתים מתעורר אצלם קושי בהבנה החברתית וביכולת התקשורת החברתית. הם סופר אינטילגנטים וחכמים, ולעיתים יש נתק בין היכולת האישית לרגשות. כשאתה ילד מחונן - זה נהדר, גאים בך והרבה פעמים זה גם מקבל מענה בצורת תוכניות מיוחדות שמסייעות לך להתפתח. אבל מה קורה כשאתה מבוגר מחונן? איך אתה חי עם זה בסביבה "הרגילה"? איך מנהלים את רף הציפיות? איך צולחים תמיד את ההתמודדות עם העולם שבחוץ שלעיתים יכול להרגיש לא מתווך דיו? הציר השכלי והמקצועי יכולים להתפתח עד מאד, אבל הציר הרגשי אינו בהכרח בהלימה איתם. וכן, בהייטק יש הרבה ילדים מחוננים שבגרו והיום צריכים להתמודד עם ה'מחוננות' שלהם בגפם.   חרדה   חֲרָדָה היא מצב פסיכולוגי ופיזיולוגי בו האדם חש פחד ואי שקט פיזי ונפשי, בשל מחשבה שמשהו רע עומד לקרות. מחשבות מעוררות חרדה עשויות להיות מחשבות הן על איום וסכנה ממשיים והן דמיוניים, ועשויות להופיע באופן מודע כמו גם שלא במודע.  חרדה יכולה לשבת על על ערך עצמי נמוך או גבוה משולבת עם תחושת כשלון או פחד מכשלון מחד, אך יכולה גם לנבוע מאופי נרקיסיסטי של "תראו אותי", המהווה מנוע צמיחה. וזו ה'קצ'יות', המלכודת שבחרדה - יש לה 2 צדדים. לחרדה יכולות להיות תופעות פיזיולוגיות של דופק לב מואץ, הזעת יתר. המערכת הסימפטטית בגוף שלנו נכנסת לפעולה. "זה כמו מכונית במזג אוויר סוער - האזעקה מתחילה לעבוד אבל לא תמיד עם סיבה מוגדרת". לחרדה יכולות להיות תופעות קוגניטיביות והתנהגותיות - מחשבות חוזרות, דאגה, נדודי שינה. ולחרדה יכולות להיות תופעות רגשיות - דאגה, תסכול, ואפילו כעס.  קשה לא להיות מלווה ברמה מסויימת של חרדה. החרדה המרכזית של יזמים היא הפחד מלא לדלוור - היכולה לגרום לדאגות בלתי פוסקות, נדודי שינה, ימים בהם אני מרגיש שטוף זיעה קרה. מעליה, ישנה חרדה כללית, של מה יקרה אם הסטארטאפ יכשל. OCD, הפרעה טורדנית-כפייתית, יושבת גם היא על מנגנון החרדה; כדי לנטרל את החרדה אנחנו מייצרים לעצמנו טקסים חוזרים.  בחרדה, מרגישים שרוחב הפס מצטמצם. היזם פחות חד ומפוקס. הוא מרגיש שמשהו לא בסדר. ליזמים ישנן יכולות תפקוד גבוהות, אז הם דוחקים זאת הצידה וזה לרוב ידחה את ההתפרצות של הדבר.   יריב משתף איך בגיל 43 יצא לרוץ בלילה חם במיוחד, ובסיום הריצה הדופק שלו נותר על 110. הוא היה אז CMO לפני גיוס מוצלח, וחי את המתח שבין ההבטחות ליכולת לדלוור בפועל. ב2 לפנות בוקר, הוא חש לא טוב, בטוח שחווה התקף לב, ומפנה עצמו לבי"ח. אף אחד לא אמר בקול רם "התקף חרדה". "אף אחד לא דיבר איתי על זה. היתה סטיגמה נפוצה מאד, לא לדבר על זה. החשש מלקרוס ברגעי השיא. כשחבר הרגיע אותי ואמר לי ש"כנראה שהיה לך התקף חרדה" - זה הרגיע אותי. הבנתי שאני לא לבד. מאז, החרדה הפכה להיות חברה שלי, הבנתי שהיא חלק מאיתנו." תסמונת המתחזה המוכרת לכולנו - גם היא ממשפחת החרדות - החשש ש"מישהו יעלה עלינו".   שיום החרדה (לתת לה שם) - הוא אלמנט מרגיע מאד. אנחנו מגדרים ותוחמים את הקטסטרופה לעולם הזה.  לגוף קל לשים לב לחרדה, ולכן כשישנם סימנים פיזיולוגיים - צריך לתת להם מקום. כשזה רק רגשי - קשה יותר לשים לב. מחקרים מראים על חיילים בשעת הקרב שכלל אינם יודעים שהם נפצעו - בגלל האדרנלין. המערכת הסימפטטית פועלת במצב fight והם ממשיכים בתפקוד גבוה - אבל לאורך זמן ישנם נזקים פיזיולוגיים. יזמים - פעמים רבות פועלים באותו האופן, "לוחמים בשוחות", אבל הנזק מצטבר, על אף היכולת הפיזיולוגית הגבוהה להמשיך בקאפאסיטי גבוה.   אז איך מתמודדים עם חרדה? נותנים לזה שם. זו לא בושה. מדברים על זה.  עוטפים עצמנו בסביבה תומכת. שיתוף האנשים הקרובים לנו מקל מאד ועוזר לנו להבין שאנחנו לא לבד. פעמים רבות כשמשהו חורק - הסביבה הקרובה רומזת לנו על כך. לעיתים נחווה ספליט - עם מי נכון/אפשר לדבר על זה ועם מי לא. זה יכול גם להוביל לבדידות מאד גדולה - בגלל החשש לדבר על זה עם אנשים ואז אנחנו שומרים לעצמנו. הולכים לטיפול. ליזמים יש יכולות גבוהות לניהול משברים ולשמור על חוסן - אבל עדיין, כשמופיעה חרדה - כדאי לברר יותר לעומק מה קורה שם, כי לעיתים זה יושב על דברים אחרים שכלל אינן קשורים ליזמות ונכון להפנות להם קשב. במסגרת הטיפול - אחד הטיפולים האפקטיביים להתמודדות עם חרדה הינו CBT - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. המהות של הטיפול הזה, היא ההבנה שהאופן בו אנחנו מפרשים את המציאות משפיע על הרגשות שלנו. זהו טיפול ממוקד וקצר (בממוצע כ 12 מפגשים) עם ראיות מחקריות שהוא עובד ומסייע בהתמודדות עם חרדה, דכאון וOCD. מה הוא כולל?מבררים את מוקד הקושי והטריגרים שמובילים לחרדה עובדים על הפרשנות - ועובדים עם הקוגניציות הלא אדפטיביות מאמצים פרשנויות נוספות שבהן גמישות פסיכולוגית רבה יותר  מתמקדים בהווה  מקנים למטופל את המיומנות להציע פרשנויות נוספות בעצמו. בעולם העסקי - זה מתקשר מאד ל scenario planning, בעת שחושבים על מהלך עסקי וכלל האפשרויות שהוא יכול להוביל אליהן. מכניסים אלמנט הרגעה - החיבור של גוף-נפש הוא חזק ומוכח ויכול להיעשות באמצעות טכניקות שונות: מדיטציה, דמיון מודרך, מיינדפולנס, הקשבה לגוף, סקירת גוף. מטופל יכול לקבל שיעורי בית למשל של לתרגל כמה דקות מדיטציה לפני השינה כדי להרגיע את זרם המחשבות. מתוך ה CBT, צמח ענף נוסף בפסיכולוגיה שנקרא ACT - Acceptance & Commitment Therapy - והוא מדבר על הקבלה שלנו את המצב. בעוד שה CBT בא לשנות את הפרשנות ודפוסי החשיבה - ה ACT דוגל בלקבל את הקיים ולעבוד עימו. זהו שיח מעט שונה.    היום, בארה"ב ובאירופה, מתחיל להיות יותר לגיטימי לדבר על חרדה - גם בהקשר של שוק התעסוקה. לא לבוא לעבודה כי אני לא מרגיש טוב, כי יש לי התקף חרדה - זה דבר אמיתי, מוחשי וחשוב, וכחברה (society) וכחברה (company) - עלינו לתת מקום לשיח הזה. בארץ, שכולנו יוצאי צבא וחזקים (לכאורה) - ובטח באקוסיסטם היזמי - יש המון אגו, תדמית חזקה ותחושת בושה לדבר על זה. אבל זהו - שלא, ואין סיבה, ואנחנו כיזמים שבונים חברות - צריכים להתחיל להוביל את השינוי הזה - לא רק לבנות חברות שעושות טוב לעולם או ליוזרים או למשקיעים, אלא גם לעובדים שלנו, ולנו עצמנו. חרדה היא מחלה שלא רואים, צריך לדבר עליה וצריך לתת לה מקום. התמכרויות   התמכרות הינה למעשה האינטנסיביות בה אנחנו נחשפים לגירוי. חרדה היא "סף הכניסה" לעולם של קשיים רגשיים ומנטליים ואם אין שינוי בסביבה ו/או הטבה באופן ההתמודדות שלי - זה יכול להחמיר. יזמים ואנשים בכלל, יכולים להיכנס לשימוש בחומרים מעצבי תודעה (סמים ואלכוהול) שיכול להוביל להתמכרויות ואף להגיע למצבים פסיכוטיים.  פעמים רבות, המקור לבעיות פסיכולוגיות רבות שלנו הוא הצורך בשליטה. אני מרגיש ש"אני חייב לשלוט, אחרת משהו רע יקרה". לעיתים אנחנו מאדירים את המחשבה הזו ועובדים בשבילה. ב CBT למשל מנסים לעבור ממצב של שליטה טוטאלית לקבלת שליטה חלקית - במה אני שולט ובמה אני לא שולט וחייב לפתח סבילות לחוסר הודאות הזה. חשוב לציין, שיש מקרים רבים שבהם שימוש אינטנסיבי בחומרים ממכרים יכולים לדרדר את מצבו הנפשי של היזם ואף להביא אותו למצבים פסיכוטיים שדורשים התערבות יותר משמעותית ברמה הטיפולית. חשוב להניח זאת כאן - סמים הם לא הפתרון, והם יכולים להוות מדרון חלקלק לאירועים מורכבים הרבה יותר.

Common treatment of derealization and depersonalization Kimberley Quinlan SUMMARY: Derealization & depersonalization are common experiences of anxiety. In this episode, we take a look at the definition of derealization and depersonalization. We also explore the common symptoms of derealization and depersonalization and the treatment of derealization and depersonalization. I also explore mindfulness and CBT skills to help you manage your discomfort and anxiety. In This Episode: The definition of derealization The definition of depersonalization Explore the symptoms of derealization Explore the symptoms of depersonalization Comparing derealization vs depersonalization Common treatment of derealization and depersonalization Links To Things I Talk About: ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 227. Welcome back, everybody. I am so grateful to have this time with you. As you know, I promised this year would be the year I doubled down and get really into the nitty-gritty of some of the topics that people don't talk enough about regarding anxiety. Today is so in line with that value Today, we are talking about what is derealization and depersonalization. These are two what I would consider symptoms of anxiety. I see it all the time in my practice. I see it reported and commented all the time on Instagram. If you follow me on Instagram, we put out tons of free information there as well. This is such an important topic. And for some reason, we aren't talking about these two topics enough. My goal today is actually to give you a 101 on derealization and a 101 on depersonalization. We can touch upon derealization disorder and depersonalization disorder as well, but at the end, I want to give you as many tools as I can to point you in the right direction. Before we do that, let's do the “I did a hard thing,” because we love that, right? The “I did a hard thing” is a segment where people submit the hard things they're doing. The main reason I do this is because, number one, you're my family. We're all in this together. But number two, often people, many years ago when I started the podcast, people were like, when I started saying it's a beautiful day to do hard things, which I say all the time, a lot of people were saying, “But how hard does it have to be? And how do I handle the hard things? Can you give me an example?” And so, these have been just such a wonderful way to share how other people are doing hard things. This one was submitted anonymously, and they said: “I've struggled with suicidal ideation for a very long time. And after years of therapy, self-discovery, and lots of hard work, I'm finally accepting that I am better off in the world than out of it.” Now I just have to take a deep breath and nearly cry because this is seriously the hard work. Sometimes when we're talking about “I did a hard thing,” we're talking about facing one small thing or one large thing, but I really want to honor Anonymous here and all of you who are doing this really long-term work and deep, deep work around really acknowledging how important you are and how much the world needs you in it and on it. So anonymous, I love you. You are amazing. I have such respect for the work that you've done and are doing, and thank you. Again. I think we don't talk about suicidal ideation enough either. In fact, I should really do an episode on that as well. I respect you and I'm so grateful you submitted this week. Okay, here we go. I have some notes, which I rarely use notes for episodes, but I didn't want to miss anything. I've got so much I want to share. I will do my best to break this down into, like I said, a 101, small bite-size helpful tools. You will hear me, as I talk, taking little deep breaths and that's because I have to practice slowing down. Just a little off-topic, when I'm doing podcasts, I get so geeked out that my brain races, and I'm all over the place and I'm talking fast and I have to slow down, “Kimberley, pump the breaks, lady.” Let's together take a breath... and let's just be together. First let's talk about derealization. The definition of derealization is that derealization is a mental state or a psychological experience, it could also be a physiological experience, where things feel unreal. Not like, “Oh, that's totally unreal, man. Amazing.” I'm talking where they don't feel real. When you have derealization, you might feel detached from your surroundings. You don't feel connected to what's going on around you, and people and objects may also seem unreal. Often people, when they have derealization or derealization disorder, feel like they're going crazy. Actually, they feel like they're going crazy. Not just the term that people use on the street. They actually feel like they're losing touch with reality. When we talk about derealization disorder, we'll talk about that here in a little bit, but we could use them interchangeably. Lots of people have derealization without having the disorder, but to have derealization disorder, you have to experience derealization. So I'm including them both there. Now the prevalence of derealization, I wanted to just give you this information because I felt it was very validating. I myself struggle with derealization and depersonalization. It was really validating for me to hear that more than half, more than 50% of people may have this disconnection from reality at least once in their lifetime. 2% of people experience it enough for it to become some kind of disorder, just like derealization disorder or even a dissociative disorder like amnesia. If you're concerned, you can go speak with your doctor or your therapist, or a licensed therapist for an assessment if you're concerned about it. A lot of people who I have seen have already been to the doctor, gotten cleared. Schizophrenic is often a very big concern. People often feel that they've been misdiagnosed. Now derealization is similar, but distinctly different from depersonalization, which we would talk about here soon. Some symptoms of derealization include feelings of being unfamiliar with your surroundings. You feel like you've never been there before, or you may feel like you're living in a movie or a dream. You may feel emotionally disconnected from your loved ones or colleagues or friends. You just feel very numb. Like I said, you're just very out of order. Things feel very strange. Your surroundings and the environment also may appear distorted, blurry, colorless, two-dimensional, or artificial. I remember the first time I ever had derealization. I was sitting across from a client and I was an intern. I was very anxious. I've talked about this on the podcast before. I was sitting across from them and all of a sudden, their body looked like a caricature of themselves. The caricature is where their body is really small and their head is huge. I was looking at my client, trying to be a therapist, and I'm thinking what happened. All of a sudden, their neck was very, very small and short and their head looked gigantic. It looked like a drawing, not three-dimensional, but two-dimensional. And that was so concerning to me. I freaked out. I got through the session. Thankfully, again, I had tools to use. But it was really scary. It actually brought on some panic later in that evening because it didn't go away for a little bit of time. Now, depersonalization, the definition of depersonalization involves feeling a detachment, not from your environment like in derealization, but from your own body and your thoughts and your feelings. Think of it like it's like you're watching yourself from an outsider. I always say it's like you're flying on the wall, looking at yourself, or it's like looking at a movie of yourself. Now, symptoms of depersonalization include feelings that you're an outsider observer, like I just said. You're disconnected to your body again. Others report that it feels like they're a robot and that they don't have control of their movements. Again, you feel like you're watching yourself and you don't have control of what's going to happen next. Another symptom of depersonalization may include the sense that your body and legs and arm appear distorted. They may feel enlarged or shrunken. Some people report that their head is wrapped in cotton. That's a different symptom. Another example I always use with my patients is often when I have depersonalization, which isn't very often anymore, is I'd look at my hand and I couldn't tell if it was my hand or not. I didn't feel like it was my hand. Again, really scary, can feel really concerning in the moment. Now you may also experience some numbness, whether that's emotional or physical. Some people say all of these symptoms are similar for derealization as well. You may feel like your memories lack emotion. Again, you're disconnected from your own experience. So, that can be an additional symptom of depersonalization. Now for both, I'm going to talk about them together now. For both, the duration of these symptoms may last just a few minutes, they can last a few hours. Some people, particularly if you have derealization disorder or depersonalization disorder, it can be days, weeks, and months. In that severity, I would encourage you to go and speak with a mental health provider who is trained and can assess you properly. Now, to be diagnosed with derealization or to be diagnosed with depersonalization, there is no lab test. There's no scan you can have. It requires a trained professional to review your symptoms and give you the diagnosis. You could probably, by listening to this, define for yourself whether you have the criteria to meet this classification. But if you're wanting to be sure, I strongly encourage you to seek professional help to get that diagnosis. Now, the prevalence of the struggles almost always start in late childhood or early adulthood. The statistics, this is why I have my notes today, the average age starts around 16. 95% of cases are diagnosed before the age of 25. Not always, but that has been the common statistics that they're showing. I think that's really helpful to know. Now, that being said, what do you do from here? The treatment of depersonalization and derealization is often CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). Basically, what we do, and this is a lot of the work that you probably already have skills if you've listened to a lot of the podcast episodes – a lot of it is around practicing your mindfulness tool. The first thing I want to let you know is it doesn't mean you're going crazy. I totally get that. It feels like you are, but it doesn't. The good news is, when you can't stop appraising it as “I am going crazy,” you'll actually start to notice it's just a really strange feeling, but it doesn't mean anything is wrong. I once had a teen client who told me, he said he was laughing and we were giggling together. He said, “The crazy thing is some of my friends pay a lot of money to feel this way by using drugs,” and he says, “I have it for free. I have this strange feeling, this out-of-body experience. And I don't even have to be under the control of a drug or a substance.” He said, “When I looked at it from that perspective, I stopped appraising it as if it's dangerous.” And that was a game-changer for him to stop appraising it as if it is a dangerous problem. For me now, when I have derealization, it usually occurs when I'm driving. I used to panic that that meant I was going to crash. But then when I just said, “Okay, I'm just having a feeling and I'm going to let it be there.” I'm not going to do anything about it. I'm not going to judge it negatively. I'm going to allow it to rise and fall on its own. And I'm going to put all of my attention on just staying present. Now your brain is going to say, “Yeah, but present is bad. Present is terrible. Bad things are going to happen. What if you're going crazy?” And your job is actually to practice just letting those be thoughts, because that's what they are. They're thoughts. Just because you have them doesn't mean they're facts. Lots of people have derealization. The clients I've had who've had severe derealization and derealization and depersonalization disorder, they now say, “Yeah, it happens. No big deal. They just go about my day.” Now in the early stages of treatment, you're going to hate this idea, but it works, is we actually used to purposely induce this sensation so that they could practice tolerating the discomfort without responding in unhealthy ways or in compulsive ways. We would sit them down and spin them around in a chair. We would have them stare at the wall. We would have them look at really psychedelic YouTube videos where the colors and the patterns are all wavy like seventies, like psychedelic. And we would practice inducing the feeling. From there, they would practice willingly allowing the discomfort and going about their day, being gentle with themselves, engaging in the things they value. Of course, they might feel great, and that's okay. You can slow down a little and do what you need to do. But ultimately, when you have depersonalization and derealization, the goal is simply to do nothing at all. Crazy. When I tell my patients that, they're like, “Oh my goodness, you're either crazy or you're brilliant.” By the end, usually, they say that this treatment, not me, but the treatment is brilliant, because it teaches them not to be afraid of it and not to try and live their life avoiding it. I've had patients report that they've avoided things at great length just to avoid the experience of depersonalization and derealization. And when they avoid it, it just keeps them stuck and keeps them scared and keeps it happening more. The other thing I will add is, do not check to see if you're derealized or depersonalized, because just the act of checking for it, like a mental check, can actually bring on the symptoms. Now, that's easier said than done. Am I right? Yes, it's very hard. I know it's easy to say, “Just stop doing that.” But if you're engaging in a lot of checking behavior, sometimes it's helpful to catch when you are and bring yourself back to the present, do whatever disengagement skills you can use to get you back into the present moment. Again, we don't want to push the discomfort away, but we also don't want to give too much hyper attention to these sensations and symptoms. If you're struggling with these symptoms, go and see a mental health professional. You can quiz them, ask them if they have skills in this. Look on their website, see if they've got any information about it that will help you to get the help that you need. This is great. Like I said, this is what I call derealization and depersonalization 101. But there are many, many other tools that you can use to help manage this. One day I will do my best to create an online course about this that goes into detail so you have that, but for right now, I hope that this is helpful. Now, before we finish up, I'm going to do the review of the week. We have an amazing review here from Jessrabon621 and they said: “Amazing podcast. I absolutely love everything about this podcast. I could listen to Kimberley talk all day and her advice is absolutely amazing. I highly recommend this podcast to anyone struggling with anxiety or any other mental health professional that wants to learn more.” Thank you, Jessrabon621. I am so grateful that I've helped and I'm so happy that you've left a review. Thank you. I love your reviews. They help me so much. 2022 is the year that I want to get a thousand reviews. If you can help, I would be so grateful. Go in wherever you're listening, click on the reviews, leave a review. You don't have to write something. You can just rate it. Leave an honest review. I am so, so grateful. We will be giving a pair of Beats headphones to one lucky winner by the time we hit 1,000 reviews. So I am so grateful. Have a wonderful day, and I'll see you next week.

About our Guest: Page Price is a Licensed Professional Counselor at Sparrow House, a team of over 30 professional counselors and psychologists who each have a heart to serve and provide both individuals and families with affordable, high-quality care. Page grew up in Midland, Texas but has considered Dallas home now for over ten years. She completed her undergraduate degree in Interdisciplinary Studies at Texas A&M University. Page taught fourth grade at Providence Christian School in Dallas for seven years prior to receiving her Master's in Counseling from the University of North Texas. Page's clinical training consists of working with children, adolescents, groups, families, and adults in both agency and private practice settings. At the University of North Texas, she received training in play therapy and counseled individuals of all ages at the UNT Counseling and Human Development Center. Page gained experience during her clinical internship counseling children and families impacted by trauma and abuse at the Children's Advocacy Center of Collin County. She has experience working with anxiety, depression, grief and loss, trauma, behavioral concerns in children and teenagers, parenting issues, and other mental health concerns. Page considers it an honor to walk alongside those who are hurting, working together toward hope and healing. Page is active in her church and worked on the women's ministry team during her time in graduate school. She mentors a high school group of girls, providing her a unique perspective on the challenges that many adolescents face. In her spare time, Page enjoys traveling, being outside, reading a good book, and spending time with her friends and family. About the Host: A graduate of Covenant Theological Seminary in St. Louis, Mark Davis came to PCPC as our Youth Pastor in 2003 and became our Senior Pastor in 2009. He and his bride, Kristina, met at a Young Life Camp in 1988 and have five amazing kids, Kara (and husband, Drew), Madalyn (and husband, Jack), Cayden, Esther Kate, & Samuel. Mark is a closet Architect and fountain pen apologist…don't get him started! About the Episode: Join us for this episode to hear about how Page walks alongside children, parents, and families to a place of healing. “Counseling is a means of common grace,” she says and through counseling, she helps kids recognize body symptoms of anxiety and gradually work down from discomforts and helps individuals work through sitting in the discomfort and the thought trap that ‘I am not enough.' She describes anxiety as a fear of the unknown or uncertainty that can be healthy until it is prolonged or affects sleep and normal life. We learn from Page how CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) helps connect feelings, thoughts, and behaviors to teach kids how to understand what they are thinking about. We learn about how counseling helps connect to themselves and to God. Page and Mark talk about the biggest complaint that children have is their parents are not listening. Whether you are the parent or not, we would love for you to hear this message of how being vulnerable and honest is the first step. Resources: Sparrow House Counseling is led by a passionate team of licensed professional counselors and psychologists who each have a heart to serve and provide both individuals and families with affordable, high-quality care. Our counselors are here to give a hand that you may begin a journey toward healing and restoration in any and every area of your life. https://www.sparrowhousecounseling.com/team For any follow-up questions from this episode or ideas for future content, please email us at deeplight@pcpc.org Verse to pray over: “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever. Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story— those he redeemed from the hand of the foe, those he gathered from the lands, from east and west, from north and south.”

In this popular rerun episode, I explore the wonderful approach of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), one of the most effective forms of psychotherapy out there. CBT is used to help people train or condition their minds and behavior so that they can turn their lives around. 

In this episode I visit the Aurum Institute Pop Inn Clinic at Loftus Shopping Center in Pretoria and have a chat to Mmakgabo Seopa about mental health challenges and options within the LGBTQ+ community. I was happy to hear that just like me when she favours CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) when counselling. Mmakgabo Seopa is a 29year old mother of one, who is ambitious, committed and a hardworking female. She has recently obtained her Bachelor of psychology degree from the Pearson Institute of Higher Education (now Known as Eduvos). She is a qualified Registered Counsellor through the Health Profession Council of South Africa (HPCSA) and currently employed at Youth Health Africa (YHA) as a psychosocial counsellor. YHA is an organization that is partnered with The Aurum Institute and is focused on empowering differently-able youth with employment opportunities in the healthcare sector.

A Brief breakdown of what CBT is and why it's so popular in mental health circles. work cited https://www.abct.org/get-help/what-to-expect-from-cognitive-behavioral-therapies/ https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/cognitive-behavioral-therapy/about/pac-20384610 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/yesimanxious/message

Episode Description:Practices to Heal Trauma Series-Part 4: Body Therapies with a Licensed Professional discusses what kinds of therapies work the most effectively in healing trauma. This episode is the fourth of four episodes in the series and the last of this season, and it covers five body practices with a professional that can contribute to healing trauma when practiced on a regular basis: EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Somatic (Body) Therapy, Talk Therapy, and Dance/Movement Therapy.Each modality is broken down by what is the practice, disclaimers (if any) about the practice, how the practice works and how to do it, evidence of its impact and healing in trauma, recommended resources, and strategies from my experience. These practices, in the four episodes, are broken down in a way to help you decide, pray, and discern which practices you might use to help you heal trauma.  Breakdown of Episode:1:17 Review of the Series 3:30 Intro to Body Practices to Do with a Licensed Professional6:51 What to Consider When Looking for a Professional10:30 Practice 1: EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing19:35 Practice 2: CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)27:15 Practice 3: Somatic (Body) Therapy38:11 Practice 4: Talk Therapy45:18 Practice 5: Dance/Movement TherapyBulleted List of Resources:Due to the number of resources, they won't fit here, so check them out in this Google Doc link:https://docs.google.com/document/d/16XolQLApw3D62Q9RO-EZx4kbMQ-hQaMiqMTyEMIjeLM/edit?usp=sharing 

00:59 - Evans's Superpower: Talking about topics that aren't interesting to whomever he's talking to at the time * ADHD (https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/adhd/facts.html) * Diagnosing as an Adult * Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (https://addadult.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/ASRS-v1.1_Form.jpg) * QbCheck: ADHD Self-Check Test (https://www.qbcheck.com/) * Why seek a medical diagnosis? * Almost everything that you know about “Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder” is probably wrong (https://elight.medium.com/almost-everything-that-you-know-about-attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-is-probably-wrong-b2127d9fc28a?source=linkShare-a8240757c989-1638906006&_branch_match_id=801116751921979067&_branch_referrer=H4sIAAAAAAAAA8soKSkottLXz8nMy9bLTU3JLM3VS87P1U%2FJsUxxd3by9stJAgBTm%2FDPIwAAAA%3D%3D) * Vulnerability 12:45 - Debugging Oneself, Neuroscience, Meditation * Debugging Your Brain by Casey Watts (https://www.debuggingyourbrain.com/) * CBT - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral) * MBCBT - Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mindfulness-based_cognitive_therapy) * Search Inside Yourself Program (https://siyli.org/search-inside-yourself/?gclid=Cj0KCQiAqbyNBhC2ARIsALDwAsCp4R7sA2xVnxOknPLb8QIPyEshgY1P_frUWrqLIyWREgJz-a3Quu4aAgt3EALw_wcB) * Neuroplasticity (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuroplasticity) 21:57 - The Limitations of Science 24:54 - The Spiritual Side, Mindfulness, and Meditation * Buddhism (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buddhism) * Aikido (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aikido) * Ki Society (https://ki-society.com/) * Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse (https://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/2500) * Zencasts (http://www.zencast.org/) * AudioDharma (https://www.audiodharma.org/) * Secular Buddhism (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secular_Buddhism) 32:03 - Psychological Safety * Groupthink (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Groupthink) & Human Dynamics and Teams * Welcomed Disagreement * Vulnerability & Accountability * Unconscious Bias * Resmaa Menakem: My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies (https://www.amazon.com/My-Grandmothers-Hands-Racialized-Pathway/dp/1942094477) 49:28 - Faith and Science * Exploring Areas of Disagreement * Truth * Disagreement and Conflict * Radical Candor (https://www.radicalcandor.com/) * Nonviolent Communication (https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X) * Acetaminophen Reduces Social Pain: Behavioral and Neural Evidence (https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797610374741) 01:04:08 - Words! * Think, Know, and Believe; Hope, Want, and Intend: Are these words unique? * Greater Than Code Twitter Poll Results! (https://twitter.com/heycaseywattsup/status/1467242254783942659) * Replacement Words For “Normal”, “Guys” Reflections: Damien: The value of being vulnerable. Evan: Disagreement leading to deeper discussion. Cultivating more empathy. Casey: We can't usually know what is true, but we can know when something's false. Mae: Think about the ways you are biased and have healing to do. Talking about ways we are not awesome to each other will help us actually be awesome to each other. Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute (https://siyli.org/) Greater Than Code Episode 248: Developing Team Culture with Andrew Dunkman (https://www.greaterthancode.com/devloping-team-culture) Happy and Effective (https://www.happyandeffective.com/) Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse (https://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/2500) Nonviolent Communication (https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X) Conversations For Action (https://conversationsforaction.com/) This episode was brought to you by @therubyrep (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) of DevReps, LLC (http://www.devreps.com/). To pledge your support and to join our awesome Slack community, visit patreon.com/greaterthancode (https://www.patreon.com/greaterthancode) To make a one-time donation so that we can continue to bring you more content and transcripts like this, please do so at paypal.me/devreps (https://www.paypal.me/devreps). You will also get an invitation to our Slack community this way as well. Transcript: Coming Soon! Special Guest: Evan Light.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a form of therapy that encourages us to think about our thinking.  We are constantly thinking and these thoughts have a huge impact on our emotions, beliefs, AND our actions.CBT can help us identify our faulty thinking so we can break the automaticity of distorted thoughts. Join me today as we take a look at what CBT is, how we can use it, and how it can improve our view of ourselves and our world.For my FREE training "Sensory Strategies for ADHD: Learn How to Change Your Energy & Focus!" register here: https://www.theadhdclaritycoach.com/webinar-registration-1Interested in Embrace Your Brain, my small group coaching program? Learn more here: https://www.theadhdclaritycoach.com/webinar-registrationIdeas for a podcast episode? Interested in 1:1 coaching? Other questions? Reach out!https://www.theadhdclaritycoach.com/contact

Jill Sechi, MS, RDN, LD, CEDRD-S  Best way to learn is  supervision working with a team (RD, Therapy, medical, fitness professionals  guided practice to make book learning come alive  Advice includes:  Create a therapeutic alliance because the client is the expert  Understanding that the person you'll learn the most from is your client   What she's up to:  Jill offers a residency for dietitians serious about eating disorders work  New Clinic - Restored - for those in Houston Tx area without insurance and low income.  https://www.jsechinutritiontherapy.com/restored  How to emotionally eat - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7s9Kmdr5Z4&t=47s  (refer to episode 15 - Molly's episode for difference between case consult and supervision)  Dietitian Seasonings and Therapist Reasonings Podcast Bio:  Bio: Jill has been a Registered and Licensed Dietitian since 1996. She is one of the few dietitians in Houston who is certified as an Eating Disorders Specialist Dietitian (CEDRD-S), and currently supervises other CEDRD candidates (approved supervisor) through the first ever residency program for dietitians entering the field of eating disorders.    Education:   She obtained a Bachelor of Science degree in nutritional science from Texas A&M University. She also obtained a Master of Science degree in nutrition and food management from The University of Central Oklahoma.    Experience:    Jill has gained experience in most areas of Medical Nutrition Therapy and has worked at various hospitals as a clinical dietitian in the area of oncology, OB/GYN with the most focus in adult intensive care, neonatal intensive care and pediatric intensive care. Her primary focus the last decade has been disordered eating, eating disorders, and weight concerns.     Specialties and Training:    Jill has been extensively trained in the following modalities: Family Based Treatment-FBT (USCD in San Diego), Emotion Coaching Family Therapy-EFFT (by Adele LaFrance, PhD), ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Steven Hayes, PhD), CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy through Baylor University), and will be formally trained in RO-DBT (Radically Open Dialectical Behavioral Therapy in June 2021).    She has been married for over 20 years and has two boys who keep her busy!  With your host Beth Harrell Follow Beth on Instagram

In this episode, Abby describes her experience with REBT (Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy), a precursor to its more well known offspring CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). While working on her social media ambivalence Abby gets insight into her difficulty setting aside constant achievement and enjoying her life in the present. If you have ever struggled with fulfilling your “burden of potential”, this would be a great episode to check out! Instagram: allthetherapies Editing by: Blackwell Post Original music by: Juli Crockett

“Notice your own rhythms of motivation. Acknowledge that. See where you can find your pattern and work within that flow.” - Julia Dewolfe   Julia Dewolfe is a life coach and works with creative female entrepreneurs to help them escape toxic hustle culture, re-define success, optimize their hormonal wellness, and prioritize emotional healing. She utilizes various modalities like CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), and Aromatherapy.   Julia helps people dive deep into how to better use essential oils for wellness. She also provides consultations on specific protocols to support hormonal health and is an advocate for Cycle Awareness.   Follow Julia on Instagram. Sponsor Today's episode is sponsored by Aura Merchandising, a proud women-owned full-service brand marketing, and global sourcing agency. Visit them at www.auralimited.com Find Us Online! Website: www.iamjuliethahn.com Instagram: @iamjuliethahn Twitter: @iamjuliethahn LinkedIn: Juliet Hahn FB: Juliet Hahn Fireside: Juliet Hahn Clubhouse: @iamjuliethahn YouTube: Juliet Hahn

In this episode, I spoke with Cofounder of Whimser.io and Software Developer, Rahat Chowdhury. We talked about creating startups as a junior developer, Whimser.io, a mental health app that uses CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), self-care and mental health, and other developer related topics! Intro/Outro music graciously given permission to use called, "Settle In" by Homer Gaines. Transcripts can be found at https://toddl.dev/podcast/transcripts/chowdhury/ Show Notes https://rahat.dev - Rahat's personal site https://twitter.com/rahatcodes - @rahatcodes on Twitter https://www.whimser.io/ - Whimser https://www.sylarproject.com/ - The Sylar Project https://fig.io/?ref=hn - Fig https://marketplace.visualstudio.com/items?itemName=CoenraadS.bracket-pair-colorizer - Bracket Pair Colorizer for VS Code https://chain.link/bootcamp - Chain Link --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/frontendnerdery/support

CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is all about discovering your mental mistakes or cognitive distortions - or as the CBT folks say, “Your stinkin' thinkin." And CBT is the most recommended therapeutic method to fend off depression. It makes sense. It's fairly easy to understand. And their premise is that if you change what you believe, then the emotions and actions that follow will be different and far healthier. So today, in this episode sponsored again by BetterHelp, we'll talk about the ten most common mental mistakes you can make and what to do about them. The listener email for today is from a man whose addictions have created pain and severe illness. He takes responsibility but also states that his wife is stuck in believing that he's feeling sorry for himself. He says he's very depressed. This is a difficult situation where both sound angry and certainly not allied. What would you say to him? I'll give it my own try.. Important Links: BetterHelp, the #1 online therapy provider, has a special offer for you now! An article describing David Burns' list of cognitive distortions from The Feeling Good Handbook John Grohol's Psych Central article on ten ways to "fix" those mental mistakes You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you'd like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome! My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has been published and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it's available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook! Now there's another way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You'll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you're giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I'll look forward to hearing from you!

How does one go about finding a therapist? Today we talk with Anicia Williams LMFT and Dylan Kersh LMFT and discuss the various pitfalls and strategies behind locating, interviewing and ultimately choosing the perfect therapist for YOU.     Anicia Williams LMFT is a psychotherapist in Marin County, specializing in multicultural issues, trauma, addictions and the relationships that suffer as a result. Licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist, Anicia received her undergraduate degrees in psychology and sociology from the University of Colorado at Boulder and her graduate degree, a Masters of Science in Counseling Psychology, from Dominican University of California. While at Dominican University, Anicia was honored to receive the Dr. Robert Shukraft Award for Inspirational Leadership. Anicia is an active member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) for the state and local levels. Anicia currently has a Private Practice in San Rafael and has held various titles and positions in the Greater Bay Area, including Program Director, Clinical Director of Outpatient Services, Primary Therapist, Coordinator and Assessment Specialist, and Clinical Residential Care Manager.  Anicia is certified in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) utilizing Laurel Parnell's Attachment-Focused EMDR, ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), Mindfulness, CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and Sensorimotor techniques.  Anicia is determined to help reduce the stigma associated with alcohol and drug addiction and increase awareness around trauma, depression, anxiety and other mental health issues that contribute to addiction. She is committed to helping those afflicted with mental health and addiction issues, as well bringing healing, acceptance and compassion to those who love them. As a Marin native, she is dedicated to increasing local awareness around mental health, restorative justice, and multicultural issues in the community. She has been on the Marin Mental Health Board's Youth Committee and has served as a commissioner on the court-appointed Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention Commission. Anicia currently works with underserved Transitional Aged Youth via Wise Choices for Girls in Marin CIty and as well as bringing Mental Health Awareness to the Hannah Project's Freedom School, located in Marin City as well.  Contact: aniciawilliamsmft.com   Born and raised in the Bay Area, Dylan Kersh LMFT spent over a decade teaching middle and high school students in Oakland, Maui, and Marin County. Although he found this career rewarding, he eventually realized that his greatest asset was the ability to connect with young people and inspire them to do positive things in their lives. This realization led him to go back to school to pursue his lifelong aspiration to become a psychotherapist. After graduating from The Wright Institute in Berkeley with a Master's in Counseling Psychology, he began his career at FamilyWorks in San Rafael, California. While at FamilyWorks, he worked with individuals, teens, families, and couples from a diverse spectrum of backgrounds. He found that with an open heart, a sincere desire to connect, and clinical integrity, he could affect real change in his clients' lives. Concurrently, Dylan has started his own tutoring and mentoring business in Marin County. He has spent the last four years working with students ages 9-18 over a broad range of subject matter from 4th grade math to SAT/ACT prep. In addition, in 2015 he opened my own after school program, West America After Care, in Mill Valley to provide tutoring and enrichment activities to students grades K-8. After completing his training at FamilyWorks and becoming a licensed intern, Dylan moved to the Mind Therapy Clinic in Corte Madera to work with individuals struggling with both severe mental illness and addiction. He also began working at A New Path Marin, a transitional program for men with substance abuse disorders which focused on recovery coaching as well as therapy. There, he cultivated his talent to connect with men and help them to identify and deepen their emotional experience. Dylan then accepted a position as Program Director at Shine a Light Addiction Specialists in San Rafael. While at Shine a Light, He developed a strengths-based coaching program that teaches the tools and provides the support and motivation to help clients build the life they've always dreamed of. In addition, he coordinated and managed the treatment of up to twenty clients dealing with addiction and severe mental illness. He has also worked at the Muir Wood Adolescent Outpatient Program, and is currently running groups at the Foundations Recovery Network Outpatient Program in San Francisco.  As a result of this wide range of professional experience and training, Dylan has created a private practice that offers a unique variety of services: psychotherapy, tutoring, and recovery coaching! Contact: https://www.dylankersh.com/   Contact Benjamin Russack at benjaminrussack@gmail.com or visit my website at benjaminrussack.com.

Amanda Ferrat joins me on today's episode to talk about EFT, also known as tapping!   It might sound really "woo-woo," but there is so much science behind this amazing modality that combines eastern and western philosophies to help get to the root of your issues and get the energy moving. And it has been shown to have much longer-lasting effects than even CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy).   Listen in as Amanda shows how tapping can cover everything from emotional to physical issues, and how you can even use it to manifest the life your desire and follow your soul's calling!   Connect with Amanda on Facebook!   Join the Badass Women Breaking Barriers Facebook Group!   Follow Amanda on Instagram!   If you're ready to try a virtual Reiki mini-session and really release energy blocks and gain CLARITY, click here to book one!   Fitness and body confidence are an important part of feeling good about yourself! Join my virtual fitness studio featuring PiYo and Turbo Kick/SPIKED classes, and start with a FREE trial! ***Use the code "aprilspiked" to get any on-demand class for FREE this month!!***   Create your own positive affirmations without feeling cheesy or fake with the Affirmations Workbook!   Get the Confidence-Boosting Meditation Collection: 12 Guided Meditations to Increase Mindfulness and Focus, Reconnect to Yourself, and Build True Confidence   Follow me on Instagram!   Follow me on Facebook!   Join The Energy Within Facebook group!   Visit my blog!   Download your FREE Abundance Meditation here!   Support Operation Underground Railroad and stop child sex trafficking! Listen to Tim Ballard, founder of OUR, on the Jordan Harbinger Show!

Special Guest Dr Fleming, MD and Dr. B discuss CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and TMS and how they actually make changes to your brain.See Dr. Fleming at Southern Colorado TMS Centerhttps://southerncoloradotms.com/Dr. Cristi Bundukamara, Ed.D, PMHNP-BC --- A Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner and a Doctor of Healthcare Education has experienced unimaginable trials that have caused many feelings such as depression, anxiety, anger, & overwhelming stress. However, she has developed a new pathway to becoming Mentally Strong & Choosing to be Happy.  With purpose, Dr. B has developed the phases that were refined within the Mentally STRONG Method that she created and wants to share with you.___________________________________________Visit us @ http://mentallystrong.com

Tonight’s show is going to focus on a somewhat misunderstood and not often known mental health technique, called CBT. Not Computer-Based Training, and also not a certain, more recreational adult activity. We’re here to talk about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.  CBT is a somewhat newer technique, and there is honestly not extensive information about it in our everyday layperson’s culture. We hope to correct that tonight. It differs from many other mental health therapies, and we will explain how, and why. Tonight, we will discuss: 1. The History of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.) 2. CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) as it is known today. 3. Some criticisms and misconceptions about CBT addressed. 4. Resources for seeking help via CBT.   We'll start off the evening with some topic-relevant Classic Rock played by Dr. Mathis, followed by Classic Rock trivia in "The Rock & Roll Shrink Recalls," followed by our topic discussion. Please follow our bi-weekly, Wednesday evening shows, at 11 pm EST/EDT. We will have a new topic for you in two weeks!

An introduction to the therapeutic technique of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

It's currently 18 degrees here in Chicago, and I know that January and February are hard months for people in regular times and even more so this year. I wanna talk about Winter Mental Health and taking care of yourself... Please, please, please, if things are hard and you cannot take the steps to take care of yourself, take the step to learn more about CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) or find a therapist. xo, Jaclyn The CBT Book I love: https://www.amazon.com/Cognitive-Behavioral-Therapy-Made-Simple/dp/1939754852/ref=zg_bs_10166942011_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=Q62DPNFH416GETZRJAXB Betterhelp + CBT: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/therapy/considering-cognitive-behavioral-therapy-examples-of-how-it-can-be-used-in-treatment/ Talkspace + CBT: https://www.talkspace.com/blog/cognitive-behavioral-therapy-what-to-expect/

It's currently 18 degrees here in Chicago, and I know that January and February are hard months for people in regular times and even more so this year.   I wanna talk about Winter Mental Health and taking care of yourself...   Please, please, please, if things are hard and you cannot take the steps to take care of yourself, take the step to learn more about CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) or find a therapist. xo, Jaclyn    The CBT Book I love: https://www.amazon.com/Cognitive-Behavioral-Therapy-Made-Simple/dp/1939754852/ref=zg_bs_10166942011_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=Q62DPNFH416GETZRJAXB   Betterhelp + CBT: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/therapy/considering-cognitive-behavioral-therapy-examples-of-how-it-can-be-used-in-treatment/   Talkspace + CBT: https://www.talkspace.com/blog/cognitive-behavioral-therapy-what-to-expect/    

The LIFE COACHING TOOLBOX PODCAST is brought to you by Joeel & Natalie Rivera of Transformation Academy. In this episode Natalie talks about what is CBT. This episode is 1 of 11 episodes in a series about CBT and REBT which are powerful tools for coaching and together provide a Human Mind Owner’s Manual. Visit TransformationAcademy.com/toolbox to download free life coaching worksheets that go with the activities discussed in this podcast, plus other resources for creating a thriving life coaching business. www.transformationacademy.com

Have you ever wondered " How does my past affect my present or future?" Let's dive into a soulful conversation with Dr. Truth. Dr. Ngonzi Truth Crushshon, Psy.D. is the owner/founder of Dr. Truth and Associates,  LLC and a licensed-eligible clinical psychologist. Her private practice is located in  Atlanta, Georgia established January 2019. Dr. Truth has over 15 years clinical  experience working as a mental health therapist within trauma centers, clinics, and  schools within urban communities. Dr. Truth has specialized training in suicide  prevention & intervention techniques and has worked extensively with dually diagnosed  (chronic medical conditions/chronic mental health diagnoses; substance abuse/chronic  mental health diagnoses) children, adults and geriatric patients within nursing  homes/long-term care facilities, hospitals/ Emergency Rooms, and the suicide/homicide  crisis call centers. Dr. Truth specializes in healing for psychological trauma and  enhancing protective factors to ensure the well-being of her clients. Dr. Truth utilizes  CBT-Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF CBT) and storytelling to help individuals “work through” and to process their thoughts  and feelings while telling their trauma stories. Dr. Truth’s purpose and mission is to  BREAK GENERATIONAL CYCLES that state if you were born with certain risk factors  you must live a certain lifestyle. Dr. Truth empowers and assists individuals, couples,  families and communities to interrupt their old schema/their old way of thinking and  feeling in order to establish new thought & feeling patterns; thus reclaiming their identity,  internal power and true purpose so they can live their best lives. Dr. Truth also provides  extensive psychological assessments/testing for psycho-education, psycho-sexual,  social security evaluations and bariatric surgery.  Dr. Truth Speaks is a platform that Dr. Truth utilizes to educate the public on “hot topics”  in mental health. Dr. Truth has facilitated/co-facilitated trainings/workshops within  schools, churches/spiritual institutions, community and city/state/government  organizations such as the:  Georgia Department of Public Health-GDPH  Georgia Department of Family, Children Services-GDFCS  Chicago Public Schools-CPS  As a Restorative Practices Consultant with Phoenix Diverse Holistics Collaborative, Dr.  Truth provided behavioral health prevention services, peace circles and conflict  resolution stuent/staff trainings within the Chicago Public Schools, Cook County Juvenile  Temporary Detention Center and Ada S. McKinley’s Early HeadStart in order to restore  hope and healing. Dr. Truth partners with various grassroots and community  organizations geared toward empowering urban youth and families to educate and build  their toolbox of protective factors to enhance their well-being and to live healthier lives.  Founder of the FAITH, HOPE, LOVE COMMUNITY, Dr. Truth’s passion is empowering  individuals with the skills and resources to break generational cycles of unhealthiness by changing old patterns of thinking, feeling and behavior with new ones. She provides  among many services, psychoeducation and employment resources for ex-offenders  (FAITH Empowerment Institute), youth mentoring (Generation HOPE Youth), and  workshops to sustain long-term healthy love relationships (Chicago Urban LOVE  Series).  Dr. Truth has written/published scholarly research: Protective Factors for Black Males in  Academic Settings, Mate Selection and Myths about Marriage among African-American  College Women, and Mentor Characteristics and Counseling Self-Efficacy. Her written  research has been presented locally at national conferences as well as internationally in  Santiago, Chile.  Dr. Truth is a best-selling author of SHIFT an anthology written with Nikki Woods the  former Senior Producer of the Tom Joyner Morning Show, January 2015. Additionally,  Dr. Truth was a contributing author on a second anthology, GRACE with Tiffany Fincher  and finally, Dr. Truth wrote/self-published her first solo book on grief December 2018  entitled, Black Girls Cry:10 Active and Passive Strategies for Healing from the Death of  A Loved One, Dr. Truth has published 4 articles for newspaper/magazines including the  Huffington Post, True Star Magazine, and Urban Matrix Magazine. Dr. Truth has been  highlighted as a mental health expert on 4 syndicated podcasts. Dr. Truth has received  accolades as Adjunct Professor of Neuropsychology as well as Counseling Children and  Adolescents.  As it pertains to advocacy work, in August 2020, Dr. Truth earned the Congressional  Advocacy Certificate from the National Urban League which afforded her the opportunity  to present pressing issues to members of Congress (now and in the future) as it pertains  to mental health, education and social justice reform for Black, Brown and all people.  Additionally, Dr. Truth entered into a community collaboration/partnership with two  mental health clinicians in Miami, Florida- Mrs. Chineze Martinez, LMHC, CAP owner of  Just Keep Moving Clinical Services, LLC and Mr. Toderick Devoe, M.S. owner of The  Speak Easy Foundation to co-facilitate a workshop/training on Retraumatization in the  Black Community Part I, II, III which educated/validated participants’ feelings regarding  BLM-Black Lives Matter, issued a call to Action regarding healing/coping skills which we  practiced/introduced to individuals and families in our respective communities (Chicago,  Atlanta, Chicago, Nashville, Portland and a few other cities) through a virtual platform.  We also encouraged participants to vote and empowered participants to share and  connect with social service/community resources.These 35 coping skills are found here:  https://www.faithhopelovecommunity.com/black-lives-matter-resources/  A proud alumna of Fisk University, Dr. Truth holds a bachelor’s and master’s degree in  psychology and clinical psychology, respectively. Dr. Truth attained her doctorate degree  in Clinical Psychology from The Illinois School of Professional Psychology. Dr. Truth  hails from Chicago, Illinois but currently resides and operates her private practice Dr.  Truth & Associates, LLC in Atlanta, Georgia. She is an active member of the Atlanta  Black Chambers of Commerce, the Atlanta Urban League and an On-Call Crisis  Therapist for suicidal and homicidal patients. Dr. Truth’s workshops/trainings  Race Based Traumatic Stress & Racial Discrimination  Mental Health & Spirituality   Coping Strategies for Grief/Loss of a Close   Relative   Healthy Intimate Love Relationships vs. Situationships   Assessing for Suicidality and Suicide Prevention  Juvenile/Adult Criminal Expungement for Ex-Offenders/Returning Citizens Healing Circles/Peace Keeping/Conflict Resolution   Self-Care for Social Workers:Helping the Helpers  Retraumatization in the Black Community & Call To Action for Healing & Civic  Engagement  Antiracism Stress Reduction Techniques/Coping Skills regarding Black Lives  Matter   Mental Health “Hot Topics”     Contact Information/Social Media  Phone: 501-500-4673 (HOPE)  Website: www.drtruthandassociates.com  Instagram: @iamdrtruth  Facebook: www.facebook.com/drtruthandassociates  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-ngonzi-truth-crushshon-psy-d-385b4b56/  Therapy For Black Girls:  https://providers.therapyforblackgirls.com/listing/dr-ngonzi-truth-crushshon-psy-d/  Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/ngonzi-truth-crushshon-atlanta ga/213428

Michele admits she needs to take better care of herself. She mentions that finding and sharing dark content memes may be helpful if you’re feeling, well, depressed and alone. Today's guest is Zach, a wise zoomer who tells us about his experience with EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy. EMDR is most commonly sought out by people with PTSD, anxiety, and panic disorders. Zach shares his experience with group therapy and CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) as well. Zach explains that burning a quesadilla should not make you feel like a failure. He tells us that he considers himself more of a millennial since he grew up with ‘90’s TV shows. They talk about setting and reaching therapy goals. Zach tells us his methods for determining whether a therapist is a good fit. They discuss how narcissists project their own insecurities, using avoidance as a coping mechanism, and finding affordable therapy. He also tells us he finds all the good memes on Instagram, but otherwise doesn’t spend much time on social media. They discuss the toxicity of social media and Zach theorizes that social media is fostering a dopamine addiction in us all. Zach says that if he became the president tomorrow, he would prioritize making sure that mental health is better addressed in schools.Write in to the pod for advice or to share a weird story: therapyroulette@gmail.comFollow Therapy RouletteInstagram: @therapyroulettepodTwitter: @TherapyRouletteSubscribe to the YouTube channel: Therapy Roulette Follow Michele BaciInstagram: @michelebacicomedyTwitter: @michelebaciTheme music by @hannahvsthemanyListen to Hannah Vs. The Many:https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rlyuj1AOlLdLCV5MRFc9P?si=muDK4Rr3RXWMGhBCP0fQaw

On today's episode, Admin Andy Baker and Professor Michael Drane explore CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and how it's used to help clients gain awareness of their thoughts, feelings, emotions and sensations. Tune in for aliens, Mr. Wizard and much more!  Stay safe out there friends, and we hope you enjoy the show.    Hosted by Professor Michael Drane of the Unpopular Culture Podcast Follow us on these platforms: facebook.com/upcpodcast instagram.com/upcpodcast twitter.com/upcpodcast Pinterest.com/upcpodcast Unpopular Culture Podcast is a psychology podcast hosted by Professor & Psychoanalyst Michael Drane. With help from professionals in different fields, he seeks to shine a light on the broken underbelly of society. Listen as he takes on the psychology behind subjects like: True Crime: serial killers, murders, stalkers, cults, forensic analysis Psychology: mental illness, social phenomenon, mob mentality, psychoanalysis, etc. Culture: Sexuality, Satanic Panic, love, Tv analysis, movie analysis. We are an independent psychology podcast. Help us keep UPC free of ads and on the air. Please consider supporting the show and get access to our "Stalkers Only" archive, and help be a part of the creative process.

Favorite quotes of the episode: “Two people in a relationship with different attachment styles is like playing a board game with two different sets of rules.” “This isn’t a diagnosis, it’s a subconscious set of rules we have for relating.” “Our attachment style can always change, it’s reprogrammable through new neural pathways.” “The subconscious is programmed through repetition plus emotion.” Episode Overview In this episode, I talk with Thais Gibson. Thais is an author, speaker, and co-creator of the Personal Development School. She is extremely passionate about personal growth, the subconscious mind, and connecting with others. With an MA and over 13 different certifications ranging from CBT Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to hypnosis, Thais strives to continuously learn and grow. She is best known for her contributing work and research on Attachment Theory and the impact of attachment trauma on our adult romantic relationships. She overlaps attachment trauma challenges with personal core wounds, limiting beliefs and emotional patterns at the subconscious level to give us deeper insight into ourselves and our relationships. Her book, The Attachment Theory Guide, was written on this topic and her Youtube channel often focuses on educating people on how to subconsciously reprogram this area of their lives. After overcoming her own challenges with addiction in her early years, Thais is profoundly determined to educate people on how they can reprogram painful or limiting programs in their own mind. She is focused on helping people retrain their brain to achieve relationship fulfillment, abundance, and personal freedom in their lives. TOPICS The difference between a limiting belief and a limiting program. The four attachment styles. How our early childhood experiences with attachment affect our subconscious minds. How we can retrain our mind to transform any limiting program in each of the seven areas of life. How busy professionals can use this knowledge to get closer to that ever-elusive work-life balance. 5 Questions Segment Q1. We know that the most successful and happy people have a morning routine, what do you do each morning or evening that sets your day up for success? I meditate every morning for 20 minutes. Then I spend 5-10 minutes journaling and setting my intentions for the day. In the evening I spend another hour before bed, twenty minutes meditating, and 40 minutes journaling with anything that I want to focus on and fine-tune. Q2. What's your definition of Success? My definition of success is happiness!  What brings you joy in your life. What do you want to create in the seven areas of your life? Then when you are taking action and you feel fulfilled then you know you are in success because your emotions are giving you that feedback. Q3. What's your definition of Happiness? My definition of happiness or fulfillment is when we are really clear about what our personal needs are and they are being met, our cups are full. Q4. What do you know now that you wish you would have known 10 years ago? I wish I would have known a little bit earlier to be more compassionate and gentle towards myself. Q5. What do you think is the biggest issue facing busy professionals today? You can be so focused on the mindset of achievement and getting ahead that you can lose a little bit of the relationship to yourself. If we don’t take time to care for ourselves then eventually we are forced to take time away from our career to give time to your physical health that has been neglected, or to your relationships that are falling apart. Balance across all seven areas of life is key to having long term success. RESOURCES YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ Website: https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Instagram: @personaldevelopment_school Join our email list and never miss another insight at https://www.pawsconsulting.com/shownotes Learn Strategies for Overcoming Overwhelm at https://www.pawsconsulting.com/overwhelm   “This program has been approved for 1 hour of continuing education credit for veterinarians and veterinary nurses/technicians in jurisdictions that recognize RACE approval.” Sign up for a free Strategy Session to overcome overwhelm and get unstuck at https://www.pawsconsulting.com/podcast  Connect with Angela at www.pawsconsulting.com or on Twitter, LinkedIn, and Instagram @DemareeDVM. How to leave a review on iTunes: Go to https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-the-stethoscope/id1354281411 or open iTunes. Click 'View in iTunes' (or maybe you are already there)                   Click 'Subscribe' Then Click 'Ratings and Reviews' Then Click 'Write a Review'

In this episode, I spoke with a Psychologist specializing Dr. Lukin who specializes in men’s issues and we learned about how men deal with emotions and trauma. We discussed how old social gender norms or traditions contributed to the maladaptive procession of emotions in men, and why they are prone to addictions. We talked about what we can do, or not do to help, as well as how CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) works and can help. We also talked about what parents can do to raise boys today to help them manage their emotions and develop healthier behaviors into adulthood. This was a great episode on how men heal!

Hey everybody! Episode 7 of the show is out. In this show, I sit down with my friend and colleague Sean Chiddy. Sean and I have worked together for a number of years and I have a lot of respect for his work. Sean is a psychologist who works with CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), leads plant medicine retreats, and works with integrating people's experiences after workshops. He has a lot of knowledge and I think is a really good ambassador at bridging psychotherapy with plant medicine work. I think you'll gain a lot by listening to him. I hope you enjoy it. As always, to support this podcast, get early access to shows, bonus material, and Q&As, check out my Patreon page below. “Sean Chiddy is a psychotherapist providing integration support to guests in preparation for their retreats and when they return home. He has also facilitated retreats at Soltara and specializes in combining applied mindful and other psychological approaches to help people confidently navigate the medicine space and get the most from their experiences.With a longstanding interest in healing and wellbeing, Sean trained and registered as a Psychologist in Australia and later as a Cognitive Behavioral Psychotherapist in the UK, supporting people working with various common mental health conditions including depression, trauma (PTSD) and various other mood and anxiety problems. He was rated a top-performing therapist at one of the largest providers of treatment in the UK health system. He is known for his compassionate and down to earth manner.After beginning his work with ayahuasca and other plant medicines in 2011 he moved to Peru in 2015 working in the integration team at one of the most respected ayahuasca centers there along with facilitating a successful workshop series called Mindfulness and the Medicine. Whilst in Peru, he began dieting with Shipibo maestros and continues to be amazed by the depth and potential of this plant medicine tradition. He joined Soltara in 2019, inspired by the opportunity to work with the world-class team being assembled.”For more information about working with Sean, visit his site at: https://www.seanchiddy.com/ and https://soltara.co/ Share the show, Subscribe or Follow, and if you can go on Apple Podcasts and leave a starred-rating and a short review. That would be super helpful with the algorithms and getting this show out to more people. Thank you in advance!If you would like more information on plant medicine and the work I do, visit my site at: https://www.NicotianaRustica.org To support this podcast on Patreon, visit: https://www.patreon.com/UniverseWithin To donate directly with PayPal: https://www.paypal.me/jasongrechanik Music courtesy of Nuno Moreno. See his work at: https://m.soundcloud.com/groove_a_zen_sound and https://nahira-ziwa.bandcamp.com/ And please leave any questions or comments in the comment section or email at:https://www.UniverseWithinPodcast.comThis will help me with ideas for future shows.Thanks and until the next episode!https://www.facebook.com/UniverseWithinPodcast https://www.instagram.com/UniverseWithinPodcast

What do you do when you’ve outgrown the chosen profession you love? Dr. Claudia Solorzano (https://www.linkedin.com/in/claudia-solorzano-psy-d-2a3478186/), is a 14-year clinical psychologist and transitioned into coaching last year in 2019. She comes on to the show to discuss the differences between psychotherapy, counseling and professional/life coaching. Dr. Claudia’s background is working primarily with patients who have experienced trauma, mental illness, and PTSD, using wide range of treatment modalities such as CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), energy therapy, and alternative medicine. She talks about how her learning path does not include a coaching credential, the methods she’s using currently to navigate trauma, and supporting her ideal clientele to grow and achieve outcomes by focusing on coaching full time. You can also connect with Dr. Claudia on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/claudia.solorzano.967) or via email at drclaudia.s@gmail.com. --- I’m Jacen from Hawthorne Union, a professional coach. Join me as I discuss career development, personal and professional growth and leadership from a coach’s point of view. Contact: info@hawthorneunion.com

CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy( is all about discovering your mental mistakes or cognitive distortions - or as the CBT folks say, “Your stinkin thinkin". And CBT is the most recommended therapeutic method to fend off depression. It makes sense. It’s fairly easy to understand. And their premise is that if you change what you believe, then the emotions and actions that follow will be different and far healthier. So today, in this episode sponsored again by BH, we’ll talk about the ten most common mental mistakes you can make and what to do about them. The listener email for today is from a man whose addictions have created pain and severe illness. He takes responsibility but also states that his wife is stuck in believing that he’s feeling sorry for himself. He says he’s very depressed. This is a difficult situation where both sound angry and certainly not allied. What would you say to him? I’ll give it my own try.. Important Links: BetterHelp, the #1 online therapy provider, has a special offer for you now! An article describing David Burns' list of cognitive distortions from The Feeling Good Handbook John Grohol's Psych Central article on ten ways to "fix" those mental mistakes You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you’d like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome! My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has been published and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it's available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook! Now there's another way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You’ll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you’re giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I’ll look forward to hearing from you!      

A conversation with Dr Frank Cahill - Expert sleep specialist and today we're going to be talking all things SLEEP, Stress, Mental Health, Well-being, Psychology & more. Sleep - Arguably the most important aspect of our well-being and yet often the most elusive to get right! I know for certain that a lot of the people listening to this episode will be able to get a tremendous amount of value from our chat today. We talk about: - 'Circadian' rhythms - The various 'cycles' of sleep - Strategies to optomise your bed-time routine - How to reduce STRESS in your life and the impact that has on your sleep quality - How to change your psychology and confidence around sleep - CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy); what it is, and how it can help you - Sleeping aids/medicines; are they bad? - The effects of caffeine & alcohol - Top Tips to improve your sleep TONIGHT Plus more. Frank is extremely knowledgeable is this field, more than most I've come across. Enjoy the show and happy sleeping...

“Trauma” is Greek for “wound.” The world can wound our souls as well as our bodies, and some victims of psychological trauma never recover their equilibrium. Freud recognizes that we are vulnerable in this way (“vulnus” is Latin for “wound”), and has a theory of what happens. The Stoic Marcus Aurelius, by contrast, thinks we preserve an “inner citadel,” a part of our soul that is invulnerable. The founder of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) drew from Stoicism to develop a clinical method that promised to help people recover control of their minds. Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff adapt this Stoic approach to address recent movements in American higher-ed that would reformulate education for traumatized students.

Kurt Caceres and Broadway superstar, Anthony Azizi, sit with longtime friend, Dr. Supatra Tovar.   A Doctor of Psychology who can say she was an actor in her previous life, she has the rare credentials of being able to understand and help those in the entertainment industry.  She has walked, sweat, worked, cried and struggled in the shoes of every artist.  Eventually she realized she wasn't fulfilled and being of no use to society, so she left Hollywood.  Being certified in CBT(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), she believes "Thoughts are Everything".  She helps us understand our destructive ways of thinking and takes us on a journey to pure health and self realization. https://www.instagram.com/wyna.podcast/ https://www.instagram.com/kurt_caceres/ https://drsupatratovar.com/

CBT, Recovery & Body Dysmorphia w/ Dr. Nicole Schnackenberg.  In this episode with Nicole we go deep on :Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), what it is and what it isn’tWhat common symptoms of BDD look likeNicole’s personal experience with BDD as a patient and as a Psychologist and a PsychotherapistTreatment for BDD and the latest research on the topicWhy BDD is so misunderstood Laura’s experience with CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) as a treatment for Body DysmorphiaHow to support a loved one who may be suffering from BDDYoga as a healing modalityThe BDD foundation and support out there for anyone experiencing BDDGet in touch with Nicole:bddfoundation@ on instagramhttps://www.nicoleschnackenberg.com/Nicole’s new book Bodies ArisingNicole’s Book False Bodies

Adele Tevlin is the founder and CEO of a company that specializes in wellness, she holds a bsc in Neuropsychology, has a certification in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and has a diploma in Applied Holistic Nutrition. Currently, Adele is completing her Masters in Psychology at Harvard University.   Adele’s passion is to empower people to achieve their highest state of being, she is a pattern interruptor an a behavioral expert, helping people change their habits, behaviors and beliefs that will lead to the transformations they desire in their personal and professional lives.   During this episode, Adele will share her ability to get to the heart of the matter when it comes to what you are struggling with and is preventing you to move forward in either the physical, mental or emotional levels.   Here are the main topics of this amazing conversation: ● Adele talks about the learning process in her professional journey. ● Where do you begin when you feel you are stuck and not in alignment? ● The difference between transformation and change. ● The agreements we make with ourselves about our identities have their roots in our childhood years.  ● The best way to heal yourself and not pass it on to your kids is to do the work internally. ● How does the Blueprint CBT Training with Adele works? ● Learn how to create balancing and empowering thoughts to completely change the neurochemistry and the organization of the brain around a particular situation. ● There is always a thought preceding a behavior. ● Your feelings and thoughts are completely valid, which doesn’t mean that they are true or align with what you want to become.   Hoping you enjoyed this conversation as much as I did, and that as a result, you feel validated and encouraged to keep pursuing your goals while transforming the thoughts and patterns that are not serving you anymore. Wishing more simplicity and ease in all that you do!   You can connect to this episode on iTunes, Spotify or Stitcher by searching The Simplicity Sessions, or visiting www.jennpike.com/podcast.   The CEO Blueprint: Take a look at Adele’s amazing event, the CEO Blueprint: http://ceoblueprint.co/trainingevent   The C.E.O Blueprint CBT Training is for Healthcare Practitioners and Coaches who are interested in producing breakthroughs with themselves and the people they serve.   THE C.E.O Blueprint Methodology was created out of Adele's 15 years experience in working with some of Canada's most influential CEO's and Executives.    When this work was married with Adele's studies at Harvard in Psychology, coupled with her training in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, the answer was clear; healthcare practitioners are not equip to do the work of real transformation with their clients.     The C.E.O Blueprint Methodology provides healthcare practitioners with the framework to provide lasting transformation with the people they serve.   Learn more about Adele Tevlin:   Adele Wellness Adele Wellness on Instagram Adele is holding a CEO Blueprint CBT Training for practitioners - go to her Instagram bio on linktr.ee and register! Email Adele at adele@adelewellness.com   Adele is from Toronto and is the founder and CEO of Adele Wellness, a premium weight loss consultancy for high-performance professionals with demanding lifestyles.   Adele is a behavioral expert and pattern interrupter that uses a combination of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Holistic Nutrition to ensure clients achieve sustainable health and wellness goals.   Through consulting and corporate workshops, Adele has spent 10 years leading groundbreaking discussions that lead to the development of viable ways for people to change their behaviour and thought patterns. Although physical wellness is the first step, Adele dives deeper to transform the thought patterns of women in the workplace. She aims to close the gender gap that exists in executive positions and revolutionize Feminine Leadership, so female leaders can make the difference they are here to make! She does so by building their confidence, improving their mental and physical well-being, increasing resilience, and up-levelling their leadership by helping them transform their relationship with themselves.   Adele is also a lifelong learner and is now enrolled in her dream program at Harvard University in the Masters of Psychology program. Adele holds a B.Sc in Neuropsychology, a certificate in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and a Diploma in Applied Holistic Nutrition.   Online working with Jenn: To register for my signature program The Hormone Project and work with me 1:1 to support your health, hormones and more, please join the waitlist at www.jennpike.com/thehormoneproject   The Synced Program is now available for registration, learn how to tune your body to the lunar cycle, and acquire a multidisciplinary approach to balance your body in less than 30 minutes a day!    Learn more about our amazing show partners Here are some of my best suggestions of things you can add into your water, smoothie or warm beverage to augment the positive impact they have on your body, one of my favorites is the bovine Clean Collagen by Genuine Health 100% organic, Non GMO. Order any product at Genuine Health use the promo code JENNPIKE and save 15% off all of your purchases.     We often talk about sleep hygiene in this podcast, and I have the perfect recommendation for those of you who end  the day feeling physically exhausted but just seem to be unable to slow down in a mental space, ValeriCalm by Saint Francis Herb Farm will help your nervous systems and emotions when you are trying to get to sleep, it contains 6 different sleep inducing herbs. Create a more simple life with Saint Francis Herb Farm products, You can order through Pure Feast, use the promo code JENNPIKE and save 10% off all of your purchases.    Learn more about Jenn’s work:  Jenn Pike  Ignite your Life with Jenn Pike The Hormone Project  The Simplicity Project Shop for books, DVDs, programs and much more! http://www.jennpike.com/ Simplicity TV on Youtube   Quotes:  “What you won't see you won't remember, keep your healthy aids in strategic places, set up your environment in a way that helps you to keep your good habits in mind.” “The difference between transformation and change, is that there is no way back from transformation.” “You won't change until a behavior is not ok for you anymore.” “If you keep on failing to achieve a goal you set for yourself, either change the goal or your mindset.” “Entrepreneurship is personal development.” “People are addicted to their thinking.” “If you have the belief that you won't succeed you have already created that as a reality.” “Your feelings and thoughts are completely valid, which doesn’t mean that they are true or align to what you want to become.”   Additional Information About Jenn: Jenn studied and graduated with honors in Human Anatomy and Physiology with such a passion that it propelled her to continue her education over many years. Jenn is a Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Medical Exercise Specialist, Registered Yoga Instructor and Faculty of the Toronto Yoga Conference, Pre & Post Natal Yoga Expert, STOTT Pilates trained instructor, Twist Sport Conditioning Coach, Spin Instructor Crossfit Level 1 Coaching, among other certifications she got along the way. She is also a guest Holistic Expert for Breakfast Television, Global, CHCH, Rogers Tv and writes columns for STRONG Fitness Magazine, iRun magazine, Savvy Mom and contributes to Inside Fitness Magazine, The Toronto Star and Sun. She is also a proud educator and ambassador to Genuine Health, Nature’s Emporium and Juice Plus. Jenn is a proud mama to two beautiful souls and her best teachers of life. She resides on Lake Simcoe in Keswick with her husband and two children.   

For quick tips throughout the day, follow my Instagram: @parker.dunham Your body language and vocal tonality affect the way you feel about yourself and the way others see you. The major idea in CBT(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is your thoughts affect your emotions, which affect your thoughts, which affect your behaviors. And vice versa. If we can change our body's behaviors, we can change our thoughts and emotions. Having high status body language and tonality is one of the fastest ways to start acting in an anxious free way! If you want to see some examples of good body language and tonality join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thesocialanxietyremedy/

Our thoughts determine our feelings and our behavior!! What? Yes!!! In this episode, we chat with you all about CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). CBT is based on the idea that how we think (cognition), how we feel (emotion) and how we act (behavior) all interact together.  Cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, is recognized as an effective therapy for managing depression and anxiety because it gives people a tool they can use to be proactive in managing negative thoughts and identifying negative patterns.   Episode Details:  What is CBT? What is the goal of CBT? The Process of Cognitive Behavior Therapy Uses of Cognitive Behavior Therapy Explanation of the Cognitive model What are some unhelpful thinking styles? Common Thinking Errors.  How to counter negative self-talk?    Resources: Check out therapistaid.com to download some awesome worksheets for FREE. Sponsor: White Rock Counseling: If you are interested in counseling or online services visit us at www.whiterockcounseling.com   Find more info on www.everydaytherapypodcast.com or follow us on Facebook and Instagram @everydaytherapypodcast.

"You can and must make time for yourself, even if you think there's no time at all," states Rebbecca Schonfeld. Rebecca has battled mental health issues since she was young and has started sharing her story & experiences to help others on their own journey. Listen now to this important discussion around the changing attitudes & treatments of mental illness, her (extremely positive) experiences with CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), her studies with Keri Glassman of Nutritious Life and much more.

Women's Eikev Class: This women's class was presented onTuesday Parshas Eikev, 19Av, 5779, August 20, 2019 at the Ohr Chaim Shul, Monsey, NY. The Jewish people are standing at the Eastern side of the Jordan river. They are poised to enter the Promised Land. Their faithful leader, Moshe, speaks to them. These are his words: "Hear, O Israel! Today, you are crossing the Jordan to come in to possess nations greater and stronger than you, great cities, fortified up to the heavens. A colossal and towering nation, the children of the giants, whom you know and of whom you have heard said, "Who can stand against the children of the giants?!" This is mind-staggering. Moshe is repeating, almost verbatim, the words the Ten Spies uttered 39 years earlier which caused an unparalleled catastrophe, and derailed Jewish history from its course. Is this for real? After everything they have been through, Moses repeatsas we said, almost verbatimthe terrifying and destructively-impactful words of the spies which sowed terror and dread in all of their brethren hearts! It is here that we discover the truth of Torah. Judaismdoes not deny reality; it does not sell us the Brooklyn Bridge. It acknowledged the real fears internal and external hardships, but it also says: Hashem is with you; you can confront every fear.Life is difficult, but if you can accept that, then life can be a lot of fun! CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is a powerful tool, but sometimes it can fail you. It is then that you need another, very different tool -- articulated in this story of Eikev. The lecture is based on an address by the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Shabbos Parshas Eikev, 23 Av, 5731, August 14, 1971.

Mitch spent 18 months living with General Anxiety Disorder (GAD) while trying to run and grow Insane Growth, so he's got first hand experience of what it's like to deal with anxiety every day as an entrepreneur.After seeing countless doctors and specialists who tried to feed him an endless supply of pills, he did my own research and invested in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) to get rid of his anxiety.Here are the 5 things that helped him completely overcome his anxiety, so he could get back to being his normal self.Grab your FREE digital copy of Insane Growth founder Mitchell Harper's book, "SANE: How To Build Your Business Rapidly Without Going Insane"

Some say that Millennials are "Generation Anxiety". I have struggled with anxiety and insomnia myself, I wanted to find out more about the "why" and most importantly what solutions exist. Dr. Tslil Feinberg explains and debunks myths around anxiety and insomnia, including really great explanations on what CBT(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is, how circadian rhythms work and good sleep practices to adopt. The video mentioned can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vBhimxmhCpI Disclaimer: The information discussed by Dr. Tslil Feinberg is for informational and educational purposes only. This information is not intended to replace professional psychological care, professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult your doctor or other qualified healthcare professionals regarding your personal health. Do not disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking care because of content on this account. WHERE TO FIND TSLIL: https://castwellnessonline.com/ Instagram: @dr_feinberg WHERE TO FIND US: www.byintent.com @byintent - ON SOCIAL MEDIA

"Reiki is what started it then the ability of mediumship came in...As long as I can continue to help people and do what I love to do (there) is nothing I like more than helping people shift." Wendy is a Reiki Master and intuitive guide and medium to people & animals. She is certified in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) which she combines with her powerful instinctive & psychic knowledge to help people heal physically, mentally and spiritually. Take a journey as we explore the known and unknown.      Connect with Wendy Both:   Website: reikiheals.com   Yelp: https://www.yelp.com/biz/reiki-heals-beverly-hills?osq=reikiheals Instagram:  @_wendyboth_   Hosted by Certified Life Coach, Joni Caldwell Lerner,  M.Bsc.    Connect with Joni  @jonicaldwelllerner spiritualaliveness.org spiritualaliveness@gmail.com  

What's Special About Basia? In this episode, Marta continues her conversation with Basia Janislawska - psychologist and psychotherapist who gave our listeners 5 tips that will help you to survive when starting your life from a scratch, using “moving to a new country” scenario as an example case. Basia has moved to a foreign country a year ago herself, so she was able to enrich her professional opinion with a her personal insights and reflections. Basia has graduated from a prestigious Jagiellonian University in Krakow with a degree in psychology (2007). Soon after, she has started a practice in West Pomeranian Oncology Center in Poland, where she was providing psychological care and help for patients and their families (counseling, diagnosis, psychological support, group classes and individual psychotherapy). Six years later Basia took on an additional education and became a certified CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) psychotherapist. As a CBT and Schema Therapist she continues working in other clinics and in 2015 she has opened her own practice, offering her services both in Poland and in Denmark. Basia is currently launching an online therapy program, so she can reach and help even more patients, regardless of where they are. As Basia puts herself: “If you think that you are unable to cope with a difficult situation, if you need a big change in your life or you are looking for ways to unfold your potential, I am the right person to reach out to” In This Episode Ladies Discussed: Why developing a plan/routine work miracles for your psychological well-being? How a morning ritual and simple things like “making a bed” boost your energy/efficiency levels and why? The power of a professional and a social network What are different ways to start building a social network in the new country and why doing something “out of the box” could result in making new friends? How to use the internet (but not in a creepy way ;)) to build connections in the new country? Creative ideas that will help you to stay in touch with your “old network” How to open to opportunities using “small steps” approach And many more! This is Part 2 of 2-parts program. To listen to Part 1 “Ep 68: 5 tips that will help you to survive when starting your life from a scratch (PART 1) - with Basia Janislawska and Marta Rodriguez-Karpowicz from YvG5O” please click here How To Find Basia? Basia's LinkedIn Basia’s Webpage Basia specializes in: Therapy for adults (among others depression, personality disorders, sleep deprivation, PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, addictions) Help in coping with stress and difficult situations Psychological help for cancer patients and their families Grief therapy and counselling Crisis Intervention

What's Special About Basia? In this episode, Marta invited to the studio Basia Janislawska - psychologist and psychotherapist who gave our listeners 5 tips that will help you to survive when starting your life from a scratch, using “moving to a new country” scenario as an example case. Basia has moved to a foreign country a year ago herself, so she was able to enrich her professional opinion with a her personal insights and reflections. Basia has graduated from a prestigious Jagiellonian University in Krakow with a degree in psychology (2007). Soon after, she has started a practice in West Pomeranian Oncology Center in Poland, where she was providing psychological care and help for patients and their families (counseling, diagnosis, psychological support, group classes and individual psychotherapy). Six years later Basia took on an additional education and became a certified CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) psychotherapist. As a CBT and Schema Therapist she continues working in other clinics and in 2015 she has opened her own practice, offering her services both in Poland and in Denmark. Basia is currently launching an online therapy program, so she can reach and help even more patients, regardless of where they are. As Basia puts herself: “If you think that you are unable to cope with a difficult situation, if you need a big change in your life or you are looking for ways to unfold your potential, I am the right person to reach out to” In This Episode Ladies Discussed: Why is it important to keep an area that you love in your life, regardless of where you live? How doing things that you love, influences your self-confidence and self-efficiency? How long “a normal” period of adaptation to a new situation takes and how having employment impacts your adaptation process? Why things don’t happen “overnight” and why you need to be patient and gentle with yourself? How to avoid “the social trap” and a pressure of pretending that everything is “OK” by keeping a space for working through your negative emotions? Why allowing yourself to grieve is as essential as having a positive mindset? When it’s the time to look for professional help and how to recognize when it’s time to seek psychological guidance? And many more! This is Part 1 of 2-parts program. To listen to Part 2 “Ep 69: 5 tips that will help you to survive when starting your life from a scratch (PART 2) - with Basia Janislawska and Marta Rodriguez-Karpowicz from YvG5O”

THIS IS CALLED CHECK BACK WITH MR. KEVIN. In the world of child psychology - a lot of times it’s important to check back in with your counselor or your therapist. In fact, i’ll go as far as to say that everyone should take some time to check back in with their therapist. And if you don’t have one then try checking back in with yourself. Be it through writing, mediation, a solo walk, or art - whatever it is that you can use to get back to YOU. Mr. Kevin and I met while I was working for VICE. I’ve always been fascinated by psychology and the human condition so when when we ended working together, oftentimes our conversations - even those about work - were based on the psychological aspects of the characters and people I was researching, the people in the office, or people around the world.  At first, I didn’t know about Mr. Kevin’s background .. I worked in Children's Mental Health for almost 11 years, in both the Department of Child and Family Services and in private run facilities where I would write treatment plans for the kids, run group sessions and work one on one with the kids to achieve their therapeutic goals. In that time, I worked with children who were diagnosed with bipolar disorder, conduct disorder, schizo effective, autism, aspbergers and more. The majority of the children also suffered from abuse, physical, verbal, emotional and sexual. I majored in Psychology at the College of Southern Nevada and the University of Reno. Trained in DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) and CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). I have studied meditation for the past 8 years and have been practicing and training as a healer for 5 years now. I will soon start my Reiki healing certification at the beginning of the year.   Once I understood that his knowledge stemmed from a space of experience and education, I became even more excited at the opportunity of having someone to speak to on the many topics that fill my mind.  If you worked at VICE, chances are you’d see Kevin and I in a corner discussing the human condition - or - you might have seen us working on a sports pilot, using the white board in one of the conference rooms to dissect (and I mean…really dissect) the person we were to interview. Neither of us work for VICE anymore but our friendship remains in tact. and as I navigated my life into Recovery from my eating disorder, Kevin was always an understanding ear because he GOT me beyond the general population. He and I both believe childhood shapes us into the people that we are today. We love understanding peoples pains and scars and flaws in order to help each individual come a tad bit closer to a feeling of healing. For Check Back with Mr. Kevin we will be addressing some of the questions both of us ponder - or better yet, Kevin will try to answer my complicated mind - by using the Tell Your Story Podcast episodes as launching points, and then following the natural course of conversation. This is an experiment . Flawed. of course. So we’ll see how it goes. Take a listen and let us know what you think. xx.a

This Week’s Episode: This week, we bring you a recorded session of a live ADHD Q&A session.  The recording you will hear on this episode is from the April session.  Laura Curvin joins me to moderate this event. If you are listening to this episode the day it is published, Tuesday, May 9th, you can participate in the April ADHD Q&A session!  It starts at 12:30pm Central.  Go to to register.   In this episode, you will hear the questions that attendees submitted during this Q&A.  We discuss morning routines and behaviors, procrastination, completing projects, and much more.  Join one of our upcoming ADHD Q&A sessions to have your questions answered! You’ll Learn: [07:36] - “Gurk” asks a question about the best morning routines or behaviors.  I share some of my morning behaviors and stress the importance of enough sleep the night before.   [10:37] - Amanda is struggling with goals, projects, and short-term tasks at work and in the home setting.  I talk about the 20x5x5 challenge. [17:19] - Laura asks a follow-up question about signs that your strategies need to change and be updated. [21:40] - The next question is about procrastination.  I explain the problem with procrastination is the task completion system.  I also encourage the person to consider if they are in the right line of work. [26:10] - Alene asks about not being able to finish tasks.  I explain that coming up with too many projects can the perfect recipe for having too much on your plate. Laura talks about deferring projects. [37:57] - Karen joins the call to share some things speech pathologists are missing with ADD.  She talks about auditory association and asks for feedback from attendees. [46:52] - Missy asks a clarifying question. She wants further explanation of the term “association task.” [47:42] - Kim asks how to get through “the final five” and finish projects.  [57:47] - Kat asks how much CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) can impact ADHD and productivity.  I explain that CBT can be very helpful when dealing with cognitive distortions. Contact Karen: Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group Early registration for the 10th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group is now open.  Register early and get $400 off! Early registration interviews will be held on May 11th and 13th.  Schedule your screening call at Support the podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  Learn more at Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30pm.  Go to . ADHD Women’s Palooza If you missed the ADHD Women’s Palooza, you can purchase all 36 sessions (including mine) for only $197! Check it out here:   Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you?  Do you have a story?  Are you a Coach?  Are you an ADHD Clinician?  If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call .

Doug- @DJDoug Strickland- @NiceGuyonBiz Dr. Karin - @DrKarinAnderson   Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell holds a master's degree in clinical psychology and a doctorate in developmental psychology.  She spent the early portion of her career as a psychotherapist for children in Chicago's child welfare system and then stepped into academia for ten years.  As a professor, she delivered a number of well-received presentations at national and international psychology conferences, covering issues such as identity development and family dynamics. Despite these credentials, she's no stuffy academic peering down from the Ivory Tower. She get's into it with Doug on today's episode.   Intro Do nice guys finish first? In love, yes You have got to be you Dating losers is part of the journey Don't be so worried about how you are dating, just date, be present and learn CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is the Shit We are telling ourselves things all day everyday, and our thoughts are linked to our emotions and ultimately our behavior Changing our mindset takes some work It is like a muscles, you have got to exercise It is never too late for love At the end of anyone's life, the connections with other are the most meaningful things Personal relationships affect business relationships and vice versa The frustration from singles in this generation is that they feel very disposable Swipe left, swipe right etc. If someone didn't give you a chance, they are not meant for you Don't take it as a rejection but rather a dodged bullet (i.e. mental shift) Happily Ever… What? You have to be willing to wait and experience the tension of being alone Your alone time or lonely moments are preparing you for a stronger, more long-lasting happily ever after The relationships that tend to be the strongest are those that enjoy their independent time There is a difference between comprising and lowering your standards Individuate yourself from your parents You can love your mother but not do everything she tells you to do You can assure your parents that you are “Ok” If you are married and mentally single, there is a problem with that There is a difference between being independent and having a ‘single' mentality There is no scorecard in a marriage   Check out Dr. Karin's website and services- http://www.drkarin.me/ Dr. Karin's book "Single is the New Black" Available on Amazon, click here   Show notes: Production Assistant - Anna Nygren http://www.annavnygren.com/   Click through our Amazon.com link before buying anything. As Amazon.com affiliates, we receive a small commission on purchases made after clicking our links. It cost you nothing extra but supports the podcast. Thanks in advance.   Go to Nice Guy Community sign-up and we'll send you the free E-Book "The 5 biggest (relationship) mistakes in business." Get Doug's Amazon #1 Bestselling book Nice Guys Finish First here.  Want to ask us a question or record a show intro for us? Call 4242-DJDoug and leave us a message. Subscribe to the Podcast Don't underestimate the Power of Nice.

Why do we crave certain foods? Why do some people try everything but still can't lose weight? Are there any biochemical or neurological reactions involved that could be keeping us stuck in bad habits and stop us from making healthy choices? Angela uncovers all this and more in this episode. She explains some of the nutritional deficiencies that can create common food cravings like chocolate, sugar and salty foods. She sheds light on the role of adrenals and thyroid in diet and weight loss as well as the impact of neurotransmitters on carbohydrate cravings and impulsive tendencies. This show will empower you to take back control over your choices and your health.   Show notes and resources: - Headspace - a great mindfulness app to help you gain some more clarity and peace in your thought life, lower your adrenaline and cortisol levels, this is great to do before eating to help improve your digestion. - CBT - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - this can be helpful for people dealing with underlying emotional trauma that may be contributing to unhealthy choices and emotional eating.   3 Take Away Keys: 1. Focus on balance. Don't beat yourself up - your amazing! Just aim for the 80/20 rule - 80% healthy, real food and enjoy your 20% guilt free. Don't go all or nothing as this never works long term. 2. Find out the cause of your food cravings - is it a nutritional deficiency? Is it a neurotransmitter imbalance or a under active thyroid or adrenals? Address these and you will start to notice you are more empowered to make healthy choices! 3. Take small steps. One at a time. Going cold turkey often does more harm than good. It's the small changes made over time that produce long lasting results. How do you begin a journey of 1000 miles? By taking the first step.   Thanks for listening. If you enjoyed this episode the best compliment you can give is a referral, so please share this with your friends and remember to subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher and write us a review!   This show is about you, the listener, so get involved and send us your feedback, questions and topic suggestions at busbynaturopathics.com/podcast -  email us at podcast@busbynaturopathics.com.au or give us a call 0416-775-530 (for int. 0011 61 416-775-530)   If you would like to book a Skype or in-clinic appointment with Angela click here   Join us in the health journey by following us on: - Facebook - Instagram - Youtube     Please note: The information given in this podcast is for informational purposes only it is not intended as personal medical advise or treatment. We recommend that you seek advise from a licensed health care professional for your own personal circumstances before applying any new treatments discussed in this podcast.