We're all imperfect. On this podcast, Hugh van Cuylenburg, founder of The Resilience Project chats to a variety of interesting people who are willing to make themselves vulnerable, by sharing their own struggles and imperfections. Hugh and good friend Ryan Shelton then discuss some valuable take aways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.
Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
How do you make sure your kids are proud of who they are?
Are you stuck, focusing on what's wrong in your relationship? Deeply embedded in the work of intimacy, desire and relationships, psychotherapist and best-selling author Esther Perel, ask us to take a look at ourselves first, rather than listing the short comings of our partner.
Looking for strategies to help deal with the overwhelm of, well, everything? Same. Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk through overwhelm; how to greet it, how to get through it, and how to build your resilience towards it.
Is it true that we live in a world without facts? With AI becoming increasingly intertwined with our lives, and fake news infiltrating our screens, where do you go for truthful information and how do you know what to trust?
Is climate anxiety affecting your decision to have kids?
When Ben Crowe, world-renowned professional mentor and leadership coach, tells us his favourite mantra, we listen. “I am enough no matter what, but I’m not done yet”.
According to Matt Preston, he only has 14 more summers. And he’s determined to make the most of them.
Pain is inevitable, but suffering does not have to be.
You just have to be a good parent 30-40% of the time. According to the research, and parenting expert Maggie Dent.
What do you do when your 3 day-old-baby just doesn’t wake up?
Two cataclysmic events have shaped Dr Lucy Hone’s relationship with grief, and resilience.
Stop. Everything. Now. It’s Claudia Karvan day.
Ryan’s got news. Well, past-Ryan had news, and now future-Ryan is going to reflect on how present-day-Ryan is currently feeling about said news. Get it? It’s reflecting on a reflection about a rejection. Today we’re giving you two for the price of none, and bringing you two of the most memorable moments from our subscriber based show A Little More Imperfects. With both segments focusing on wildest dreams, Hugh, Ryan and Josh explore how to navigate regret when you’re not at your best, and how to show yourself compassion and love when your dreams are, well, crushed. Also, we ask Hugh what happened to him today. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Ilg-r9gHGPk
Do you believe in ghosts? Josh doesn’t, Ryan does, and Hugh is actually being haunted.
Today, we come to you with a gift: bonus Dr Emily. Thank you in advance for the standing ovation.
Little heads up, this episode contains some language that is exclusively found on the naughty list, and therefore, isn’t suitable for kids. Now, it’s time to spill some Vulnerabili-TEA.
Dave Hughes has a complicated relationship with his ego.
We’re nervous. We’re excited. We’re nervous and excited. Because it’s Mary freaking Fowler day.
Is your communication style a red flag?
Jamila Rizvi has not been the perfect sick person.
Troy Kinne’s heart is in the right place. As in, it’s on the wrong side.
Do you ever feel anxious about your health?
Not to be dramatic, but Bryan Brown is an Australian icon of the silver screen.
Hugo Toovey has beaten cancer, twice. But this is far from the whole story.
Have you ever dated someone you knew, logically, was a bad idea? A puppeteer twenty years your senior, perhaps?
Whether you’re a ‘new year new me’ aficionado, a 5-year planner, or get sweaty at the thought of setting goals, this episode is for you.
If you’re not navigating your life through your values, what are you using?
The mid-life update we've all been waiting for.
It’s a different sort of episode(s) this week.
This moment is bigger than Mitch Brown.
Matt Okine has been privy to a few life changing events.
Suicide is the leading cause of death for Australians aged 15 to 44.
Not shut down by the fear of humiliation, Hannah Ferguson believes her biggest failure would be to never try in the first place.
Inside what might be the biggest scandal in Australian sporting history, Dyson Heppell, at 23 years old, found himself at the centre with a choice to make.
Hey Babe, what’s for (vulnerabili)tea?
Do you ever wonder whether you belong?
Well, well, well, it’s time to prove things.
Approached by 5 NRL clubs by the time he was 13, Joe was a sporting prodigy.
Domestic violence is an epidemic in Australia, and Jess Hill has dedicated a good chunk of time trying to understand why.
Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au As the title suggests, Nas Campanella is really cool (and accomplished and driven and resilient). You might recognise her voice from the Triple J cinematic universe or know her work as the Disability Affairs Reporter for the ABC. But what you might not know is that Nas is vision impaired, or that a neurological condition means that she can’t read braille either. In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Nas answers the questions “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?” Chatting to Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Nas talks about her relationship with her disability, and how it shapes her identity. Nas also dives into a powerful conversation with the guys about the role agency and accessibility in the experience of discrimination, and shares why, if a magical operation could restore her sight, she wouldn’t change a thing. Nas, it has been an absolute joy.
It’s that time of the month (sorry), and we’re welcoming back Dr Louise Newson to talk all things hormones. In case you missed it, last time we had Dr Louise on the pod, she shared her expertise on perimenopause and menopause. This, to no surprise, was Apple Australia's most shared podcast episode in 2024. Today, Dr Louise talks to the guys about hormones; what they are, how they impact our lives, and what the difference is between the natural and synthetic forms we can be prescribed. Discussing the naturally occurring cycles of hormones, as well as the dramatic hormone drop offs that can happen throughout a lifetime, Dr Louise shares the impact of hormones for PMS, PMDD and post-natal depression. Dr Louise, this has been life changing. If you would like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/l4naB7-GKto
Quick! Is anyone here an author? Yes! And her book is finally here! Our favourite psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, has published the most anticipated book of the year, Unstuck: A guide to finding your way forward to the life you want to live. Feeling stuck, and the yearning for something to change, is a human experience. And in Unstuck, Dr Emily doesn’t just acknowledge this feeling, she walks with you through it. We’re talking values, we’re talking an introduction to acceptance commitment therapy, and we’re talking self-compassion (among many, many other things). At its core, this book is a model for how we might approach change. It’s compulsory reading. Unstuck is available now in all good bookstores, or you can order it online here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2. If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4mvgSgE
It’s a Monty type of day - and thank god, because this week we welcome the brilliant Monty Dimond into the studio. In this episode, Monty opens up about the heartbreak of losing her mum—her person, her sense of home and safety. She speaks candidly about the tunnel vision of ambition, living with imposter syndrome, and how a debilitating chronic illness left her bed-bound for 90% of last year. Hugh and Monty share an incredibly vulnerable chat about parenting neurodivergent children; sharing the intense challenges, boundless love and ways they can show compassion to themselves and others. If you're not familiar with Monty yet, she's the founder and co-host of the Show and Tell platform, which includes the newly released podcast iChronic, Monty is a pillar of Australian media (including a co-hosting a national drive show with our very own Sheltzy). Monty, we are in awe of you. To watch this full video of YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3GVUYmf
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