No More Desire â„¢ Porn Addiction Recovery

Is your gaming habit quietly fueling your porn addiction? In this episode of No More Desire, Jake Kastleman explores the surprising neurological and psychological overlap between video games and porn use. Drawing from real neuroscience, addiction psychology, and philosophical insight, this solo episode breaks down why so many men stuck in compulsive porn cycles also spend hours gaming—and how both behaviors reinforce the same addictive pathways in the brain.You'll learn:How dopamine dysregulation links gaming and porn addictionWhy video games reinforce avoidance, escapism, and dissociationHow cross-addiction and habit stacking sabotage your recoveryThe Internal Family Systems (IFS) perspective on gaming as a protector partHow to reclaim your presence, power, and masculine focus by healing your relationship with digital stimulationWhether you're a gamer, a recovering porn user, or spouse of an addict—this episode will challenge you to look deeper at the function of these behaviors, and give you actionable steps to break the loop.It's time to reset your brain and reclaim freedom. Take the next step toward full recovery:Free Porn Recovery WorkshopFree Porn Addiction eBookRecommended Episodes: The Neuroscience of Quitting PornThe Porn Addiction Funnel | How to Break the CycleSelf-Control & Porn Addiction | Why Willpower Doesn't WorkMusic I Use: Bensound.com/royalty-free-musicLicense code: JYS3POODXYNAKMNALicense code: 2FEL60NTEXEHBFNCSupport the showNo More Desire

If your wife seems pissed off and turned off—constantly irritated, emotionally distant, and disinterested in sex—you're not alone. For many men, this emotional tension fuels the desire to escape into porn. But what if the real issue isn't her moods... but your missing leadership?In this episode, Jake Kastleman is joined by men's coach and author GS Youngblood to help you fix your relationship, overcome porn addiction, and become the grounded, trusted man your partner longs for.You'll learn how GS's Masculine Blueprint helps men quit porn by reclaiming their presence, healing emotional wounds, and re-establishing emotional safety and sexual polarity in their marriages. This isn't about control or being a tough guy—it's about rising above Nice Guy syndrome and stepping into calm, clear masculine leadership and love.Whether you're trying to save your marriage, overcome porn addiction, or feel like a man again, this conversation offers a roadmap to real change.In this episode, we talk about:Why she's pissed off and turned off—and how you can fix itHow emotional disconnection and Nice Guy syndrome sabotage intimacyThe key role of emotional safety in rekindling desireWhat sexual polarity really means—and why it's fading from your marriageHow to lead with clarity, not controlWhy quitting porn starts with reclaiming your masculine coreIf you're ready to fix your relationship, quit porn, and build a partnership filled with connection and trust—this episode is your starting point.

Why do you keep relapsing with porn—even when you want to quit?In this episode of the No More Desire addiction recovery podcast, I uncover the hidden mental traps and false beliefs that sabotage your efforts to quit porn and stay sober for good. We'll dig into the inner critic and inner escapist—two misunderstood parts of your psyche that actually think they're helping you, but are keeping you stuck in the shame cycle.You'll learn how to respond to cravings, urges, and negative self-talk using powerful tools from IFS therapy, somatic healing, and emotional mindfulness. These practices go far beyond willpower—they're about cultivating male emotional intelligence and true spiritual growth for men.If you're ready to overcome porn addiction by getting underneath the surface, building emotional healing, and finally achieving sexual sobriety, this episode will give you the clarity, strategy, and encouragement you need.You don't need to fight yourself anymore. You need to understand yourself.Whether you're just starting your porn recovery journey or looking for new tools for relapse prevention, this episode will equip you with the mindset and skills to move forward with compassion, strength, and purpose.Free Resources to Quit Porn: 

In today's powerful conversation, I welcome psychotherapist and Infinite Recovery Project founder Jason Shiers. Jason shares his deeply personal story of addiction, trauma, and his 20+ year journey through recovery — before a radical spiritual awakening changed everything.Together, Jason and I dive into:Why trauma is often the hidden root of addiction.How traditional recovery models pathologize normal human responses.What it really means to heal — beyond symptom management.The transformational power of somatic work, parts work (IFS), and embodied spirituality.How authentic relationships become the ultimate container for healing.Jason also explores how to reconnect with your true Self, why you are not broken, and why genuine freedom from addiction comes from a profound internal shift — not just managing behaviors.Learn more about Jason at: InfiniteRecoveryProject.comIf you're tired of surface-level recovery and ready for true transformation, this is a must-listen.

Can a marriage truly heal after porn addiction and betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode of The No More Desire Podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith—coaches, authors, and a couple who've walked the road from addiction and deception to deep connection and true intimacy.

Struggling to quit porn, control your cravings, or stay sober long-term?In this episode, I share one of the most powerful—but often overlooked—tools for porn addiction recovery: gratitude.Learn how daily gratitude can:Rewire your brain using neuroplasticityReduce porn cravings by activating your prefrontal cortexReplace the shame cycle with emotional clarity and purposeBuild a lasting recovery mindset based on joy, not just disciplineI also walk you through my personal morning gratitude routine, and how it's helped me stay sober for over 10 years—even during high-stress seasons.If you're serious about learning how to quit porn, stay clean, and build a mentally and spiritually resilient lifestyle, this episode is for you.

What happens when you're stuck at home, in pain, and totally alone? For most men recovering from porn addiction, that's the ultimate relapse setup.But for Steve, a client in my recovery program, this moment of isolation became the most spiritually grounded, mentally focused, and connected time of his life.In this episode, I share the story of how Steve stayed sober after surgery while his wife and kids were out of the country—how he avoided porn cravings, built emotional resilience, and grew stronger in his relationship with God.You'll learn:How to overcome porn addiction when you're alone and vulnerableDaily mindset practices that keep cravings from taking rootHow prayer, scripture, and intention can replace porn as a coping mechanismWhy pain can be the foundation for real spiritual growthHow to develop a recovery mindset and lifestyle that holds under pressureIf you're struggling with relapse, loneliness, temptation, or want to support someone who is, this episode is for you.This is porn addiction recovery from the inside out—real habits, spiritual power, and mental clarity. You'll walk away with hope and a concrete plan to stay sober when it's hardest.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationBuy Me a CoffeeMORE ARTICLESHow to Replace Porn Addiction | Gain Motivation, Reduce Symptoms of Anxiety & DepressionHow Do I Stop My Husband from Watching Porn?My Wife Ignores My Progress with Porn Addiction: Navigating Relationship StrugglesSelf-Control & Porn Addiction | Why Willpower Always FailsWhy Doesn't God Take My Porn Addiction?Christianity and Porn Addiction | How to Overcome Sexual & Religious ShameHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseMUSIC BY: https://www.bensound.comLicense code: TKLXBG2QWI7JR0N1Mikhail Smusev from Pixabay DELOSound from PixabayThe Living in Clarity Podcast, with Fish & Coach Do you want to live an awesome life and to also inspire others? Fish is a world...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showNo More Desire

How can you replace porn addiction? The answer is not a mystery. Essentially, it requires you to build the skills of a porn addiction recovery mindset and lifestyle. It also requires consistency.If recovery were a car, these recovery skills would be the engine, and consistency would be the fuel. You can rewire your brain and stop watching porn using these skills and this consistency.You may have achieved a week or two of sobriety at some point. Or even a few months. But would you like to make it a year, 5 years, 10 years, and beyond? How do you maintain focus and motivation to stay sober from porn when times get tough? When you don't feel good enough as a husband or father, when work sucks, life gets overwhelming, you're exhausted or burnt out, you lose something or someone you loved, your wife isn't connecting with you, your kids are testing your patience, or your best intentions end in failure? A car's engine cannot function long-term without regular oil changes. Without these, the engine corrodes, breaks down, and eventually fails. You may know the skills to stay sober. You may have a nice frame, engine, and all the bells and whistles. But if you don't have adequate, clean oil in your engine, you'll never achieve long-term sobriety and truly lose your desire for porn. So, how do you quit porn, avoid porn relapse, and stay sober in tough times? You need oil. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationBuy Me a CoffeeMORE ARTICLESThe Neuroscience of Quitting Porn: Build a New BrainHow Do I Stop My Husband from Watching Porn?My Wife Ignores My Progress with Porn Addiction: Navigating Relationship StrugglesSelf-Control & Porn Addiction | Why Willpower Always FailsWhy Doesn't God Take My Porn Addiction?Christianity and Porn Addiction | How to Overcome Sexual & Religious ShameHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseMUSIC: Bensound.comDELOSound from PixabayMikhail Smusev from PixabaySupport the showNo More Desire

My conversation today is with George Haymaker. We discuss the neuroscience of quitting porn and other addictions, and how to change habit patterns and rewire your brain. George is an inspiring man with an incredible story. He's helped many people heal their brains and change their habits for the better. He is a certified neuroscience coach & consultant, and an impressive entrepreneur with a long history of successful business ventures. George helps addicts overcome their destructive patterns by teaching them sound practices for step-by-step habit change based on principles of neuroscience. I believe our conversation today will give you some crucial insights for your own porn addiction recovery, or compassion for a loved one who's struggling with pornography addiction, and an understanding for the methods that you can use to truly break free of porn. Below, I discuss some takeaways from the episode, as well as additional insights and tips for porn recovery.You can find George Haymaker, Certified Neuroscience Coach & Consultant, at georgehaymaker.com or LinkedIn. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE EPISODESRecovery Mindset for Vacations: 4 KeysHow Do I Stop My Husband from Watching Porn?Self-Control & Porn Addiction | Why Willpower Always FailsWhy Doesn't God Take My Porn Addiction?Christianity and Porn Addiction | How to Overcome Sexual & Religious ShameHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseMUSIC: Bensound.comMikhail Smusev from PixabayDELOSound from PixabayAmaksi from PixabaySupport the showNo More Desire

It can be very hard for many men to stay sober from porn on vacations - both during and after. We are thrown out of our structure and norm, and many of us can feel far more impulsive and prone towards porn addiction. This can seem counterintuitive, as you'd think that vacation and travel would make it easier to stay sober. I talk about why this is not the case for many people, why post-vacation can be a time of serious relapse with porn, and how to guard against these pitfalls and stay clean of porn during travel. I do this using 4 keys to stop watching porn while traveling: Keeping StructureToning Down IntensityGrowing RelationshipsWatching NutritionThese 4 keys to stay clean of porn on vacation are fundamental to a recovery mindset and lifestyle. You need to enter vacation with a safety plan to stay clean of porn. If you do not, you set yourself up for porn relapse. Fail to plan and plan to fail. To quit porn, you can follow these same principles in the rest of life, but they are distinctly important while on vacation. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE EPISODESHow Do I Stop My Husband from Watching Porn?Self-Control & Porn Addiction | Why Willpower Always FailsHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsChristianity and Porn Addiction | How to Overcome Sexual & Religious ShameHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionMUSIC: Bensound.comSupport the showNo More Desire

When your husband is addicted to porn, you can feel powerless to stop it. You may ask: How do I stop my husband from watching porn? Is there something I can say or do that will convince him? If only I could find the right words, maybe he would finally feel motivated and stop hurting me and our family like this.  Anger and feeling the impulse to control him is normal. Feeling judgmental, hateful, and appalled by his behavior is normal too. You wish you knew what to do, and you can't help feeling sometimes that it's your fault he's doing this. Other times, you blame him for everything and think that all of the problems in your marriage are because of his porn problem. Perhaps you experience feelings of worthlessness or confusion. How could he do this to me? Am I not enough for him? Why does he turn to this, instead of loving me? The betrayal trauma of having a spouse with porn addiction is real, and subsequent symptoms of PTSD are common. Your husband has broken your trust in a significant way, and feelings like numbness, hyper-vigilance, codependence, and anger are all common. Build the No More Porn LifestyleFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE EPISODESSelf-Control & Porn Addiction | Why Willpower Always FailsHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsChristianity and Porn Addiction | How to Overcome Sexual & Religious ShameHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionMUSIC:Bensound.comIevgen Poltavskyi - PixabayDELOSound - PixabayMikhail Smusev - Pixabay Eye-Opening Moments PodcastEye-Opening Moments are stories of adversity, encounters, and perspectives. They are...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showNo More Desire

There are a lot of voices out there telling you that all you need to quit porn addiction is more discipline. They say you just have to want it bad enough, fight hard enough, and exert enough self-control. But if you've ever tried to stop watching porn using willpower alone, you already know—it doesn't work. In fact, relying on willpower actually fuels porn addiction. Today, I'm going to show you why, and more importantly, what works instead.Willpower Is a Symptom of Recovery, Not the Cause of ItWe are taught that staying strong, thinking positively, and being highly motivated are the keys to quitting porn. But here's the problem—these are not the causes of recovery; they are the results of it.Real recovery from pornography addiction is not about forcing yourself to resist urges. It's about becoming the kind of person who naturally doesn't need porn anymore. Willpower alone won't get you there. Instead, lasting freedom requires both “will” and “power.” These don't come from sheer effort but from creating a new way of living that removes the underlying causes of porn addiction in the first place.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE EPISODESMy Wife Ignores My Progress with Porn Addiction | Relationship Struggles, Lack of Trust & Betrayal TraumaWhy Doesn't God Take My Porn Addiction?The Science Behind Porn Addiction—and How to StopChildhood Trauma, Porn Addiction & Seeking Safety in Pleasure and EscapeHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionMusic by Bensound.comFaith That Challenges. Conversations that Matter. Laughs included. Subscribe Now!Breaking down faith, culture & big questions - a mix of humor with real spiritual growth. Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showNo More Desire

Why doesn't God take away your porn addiction? People tell you to give your addiction to Christ, and it doesn't seem to work for you. Why? I remember how frustrated I used to be by this concept of giving my addiction over to Christ. People advised me to simply surrender to Christ and that was the answer to get sober. But it didn't work for me. I thought this might be because God didn't love me, didn't care, or that I was simply too sinful a person. I've worked with men across the world who struggle with these beliefs, and I've helped them find success in porn addiction recovery. The key is not to simply give your addiction to Christ, but to understand how to successfully integrate truths and approaches from spirituality, religion, and psychology to provide a powerful force for quitting porn. By combining methods from both psychology and faith, you can overcome porn addiction. I did it myself and I teach men across the world to do the same. Empowering Recovery Through Effective Spiritual & Psychological PracticesRegular spiritual practice is a catalyst for growth in all other areas of your life. It acts as a driving force for positive growth in your sobriety, relationships, career, health, ambition, and more.This article will give you insights into why spirituality and faith are so crucial for recovery, how to include both psychology and God in overcoming porn addiction, and common mistakes that addicts make when asking God to help them quit porn.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE EPISODESChristianity and Porn Addiction | How to Overcome Sexual & Religious ShameHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsMusic by Bensound.comFaith That Challenges. Conversations that Matter. Laughs included. Subscribe Now!Breaking down faith, culture & big questions - a mix of humor with real spiritual growth. Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showNo More Desire

Do you feel like your wife is ignoring your progress with porn addiction? That she doesn't understand how difficult it is for you to quit porn?Do you feel like you can get sober for a few weeks, or even a few months, but when you relapse with porn it is devastating for her, and you have to start over from square one? Do you feel like you can't do anything right in her eyes because of your pornography addiction? That she sees even your best intentions to be loving and kind as selfish and self-centered?  Do you feel disrespected? That your opinions and needs don't matter because of what you've done? That you don't have a say.Do you feel like you're walking on eggshells, that your spouse is constantly angry and the smallest thing might set her off? Either into anxiety and depression, or into fury and distrust? Do you question how much of the problems in your relationship are from you or her? Do you wonder if it is all because of your addiction, but also can't help seeing how controlling, angry, and insecure she is? You think maybe it's your fault that she's this way. But it can't be all your fault, can it? We talk about this and much more in today's episode.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE EPISODESThe Science Behind Porn Addiction—and How to StopChristianity and Porn Addiction | How to Overcome Sexual & Religious ShameHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionMusic by Bensound.comSupport the showNo More Desire

Do you believe that you are genetically prone to addiction? What if you could alter these genetics? Today, I speak with Dr. Evelyn Higgins with Wired for Addiction about the science behind porn addiction, specifically the impact of epigenetics on addiction. According to Dr. Higgins, we can alter our genetic expression, developing a completely different way of life, and rewiring our brain to overcome porn addiction. Dr. Evelyn Higgins is an internationally recognized expert in epidemiology of substance use disorders, mental health conditions, and process addictions like social media, video game, and porn addiction. Across Western culture, we have a pervasive belief that our genetics play a condemning role in our lives, that they are determined, we can't change them, and they lead to outcomes we have little to no control over.Once an addict, always an addict... Epigenetics flips this belief on its head.It is not your destiny to deal with addiction cravings for life. That is not my story. It doesn't have to be yours. Pornography addiction is a battle that many face, often in silence. It's not just about willpower—it's about understanding what's happening in your brain and body. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE ARTICLESPrevent Porn Cravings & Relapse Through Emotional Awareness TechniquesChristianity and Porn Addiction | How to Overcome Sexual & Religious ShameHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsMusic by: - Aleksey Chistilin and Oleksandr Stepanov from Pixabay- Bensound.comFunny news, Real Talk & Spiritual Growth - Faith that's honest, Deep & Intentional Breaking down faith, culture & big questions - a mix of humor with real spiritual growth. Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showNo More Desire

Today, I'm joined by Owen Marcus, an expert in somatic and emotional healing for men across the world. His company is called MELD. He is highly knowledgeable, with 30+ years of experience, and it was a real pleasure speaking with him. Many of us men struggle to express our emotions. It's classic! What we may not know, though, is that unprocessed hard emotions can easily evolve into porn cravings and porn relapse. Anger and shame (the feeling of not being good enough) often drove my cravings for porn. And I hadn't a clue this was happening!This skill of noticing your emotions, processing through them, and being able to sit with them when they're uncomfortable is crucial for recovery from porn addiction. This is because from a psychological perspective, hard emotions and insecurities (and I know that's a swearword for a lot of us men) are at the root of our porn addiction. In my program, I teach men specific methods to get deep into these emotions, reflect on them, and become experts at effectively working through them so that these fundamental human insecurities don't evolve into cravings for porn. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE ARTICLESHow to Rewire Your Brain, Quit Porn, and Reclaim Your LifeChristianity and Porn Addiction | How to Overcome Sexual & Religious ShameChildhood Trauma, Porn Addiction & Seeking Safety in Pleasure and EscapeHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Funny news, Real Talk & Spiritual Growth - Faith that's honest, Deep & Intentional Breaking down faith, culture & big questions - a mix of humor with real spiritual growth. Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Eye-Opening Moments PodcastEye-Opening Moments are stories of adversity, encounters, and perspectives. They are...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showNo More Desire

I had an excellent conversation with Tony Smith from The Walk Family Podcast - a Christian podcast for parents. It was a huge privilege talking with Tony about the true struggle of pornography addiction in this country and around the world. As many of you guys know, porn addiction is rampant. This is no longer the 90's where the internet was new - porn is now recognized as a legitimate addiction across the world. While it has not yet been officially included in the DSM (the Diagnostic Statistical Manual within the psychology field) I believe that is coming soon. It has become impossible to ignore. iPads, cell phones, computers...we really have set ourselves up to be an addicted society unfortunately. And not just to porn. Internet addiction, social media addiction, and other digital addictions that have become commonplace. Now, in small kids as well. We're raising a society of digital addicts. In this conversation, Tony and I talk about my personal journey overcoming porn addiction, and I talk about how I'm helping men do the same thing in my 1-on-1 coaching business. There are many different psychological and behavioral strategies and tactics you can use to decrease your need for porn and eventually quit porn entirely. There are physical, emotional, and social roots of porn addiction that you can address and overcome. So I hope this episode is a blessing to you guys. Let's dive in with Tony Smith from the Walk Family Podcast.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE ARTICLESChristianity and Porn Addiction | How to Overcome Sexual & Religious ShameChildhood Trauma, Porn Addiction & Seeking Safety in Pleasure and EscapeHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionSupport the showNo More Desire

As a porn addiction recovery coach, I see clients of all backgrounds - religious and irreligious. Christianity and porn addiction often go hand-in-hand in my experience. I know that they did for me.I love my faith, but the reality is that many Christians carry burdensome shame about their sexuality, and others about their porn habit. This sexual shame is part of what drives their addiction. Many of us grew up being taught (explicitly or implicitly) that sexuality is dangerous, and is to be feared and strictly controlled. We were taught that physical attraction or desiring a woman is sinful, “inappropriate”, or immoral. Fear of sexuality was often unconsciously used by our parents and ecclesiastical leaders to prevent us from committing sexual sin or degrading our bodies with promiscuous sexual acts. I understand this tendency to use fear as a motivator, and I know that many of these parents and leaders are well-meaning. Unfortunately, though, what many often do not understand is that this approach to preventing sexual promiscuity is damaging and fills people with sexual shame. Not only that, but paradoxically it can actually drive the promiscuity it seeks to inhibit. In today's episode, I explore these topics with you. I also talk about why Christians may struggle with porn addiction more than anyone else, and how a perfectionistic relationship with God can be one of the foundational drivers of pornography addiction. I also discuss psychological and lifestyle methods you can use to overcome religious shame, strengthen your faith, and stop porn addiction.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE EPISODESChildhood Trauma, Porn Addiction & Seeking Safety in Pleasure and EscapeHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsEye-Opening Moments PodcastEye-Opening Moments are stories of adversity, encounters, and perspectives. They are...Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Real People Real Life Welcome to “Real People, Real Life”, a podcast where we dive into the authentic...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showNo More Desire

Today's episode is from the New Paths podcast. Dan Johnson and I tag-team it again and talk porn addiction recovery, touching heavily on my personal porn addiction story. In today's episode, I'm going to dig in some to my childhood trauma, as well as sexual trauma, getting a bit vulnerable with you. I want to say from the get-go, I didn't experience severe trauma. My heart goes out to those who have, including many of my clients and friends in recovery. Rather, I grew up as a kid with a very sensitive and anxious mind. I was prone towards mental illness, obsessive compulsive behaviors, perfectionism, and I had a sexually traumatic experience when I was a kid that defined many of my views of sex and arousal.  I also had other types of experiences in my childhood and youth that some people might see as, you know, normal! But with this episode, I really want to drive home how we shouldn't compare our trauma to one another. We shouldn't look at our past and say, "Well, yeah. I didn't really experience anything hard, so I don't think my pornography addiction could be driven by anything from my childhood." Look, I did that for many years. When it comes down to it though, we all carry stuff! So, I talk about some of that stuff with Dan, and get real about it. We talk about how I sought safety, pleasure and escape, not just through porn, but through other things like video games, food, television, etc. And we talk about how to quit porn using recovery mindset and lifestyle strategies.It's an extremely valuable episode, I think. Again, it was a huge privilege for me to be on.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email Newsletter$ Donate $MORE EPISODESEmotional Drivers of Porn Addiction, Healing Trauma, Saving Your MarriageThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsOld Guy Insights - What You Need to Know Today | Kindness, and Meaning in a Lonely WorldReal talk, life lessons, and honest advice to enrich your life and guide you to success.Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showNo More Desire

Every man or woman who struggles with porn addiction carries trauma and emotional struggles. In my own personal porn addiction recovery journey, I've come to understand many things about the emotional pain that I carry. And by understanding it, I've been able to release much of it, and I continue to after a decade of sobriety from porn. In my professional work with clients, I've come to see many of the same patterns - the same burdens, insecurities, and coping mechanisms. If you or a loved one is suffering from porn addiction, you must understand that the addiction goes much deeper than a desire for sexual pleasure, and today we talk about these deep psychological dynamics. In this episode, I am privileged to be with HollyKem and Dean Sunseri, authors of A Roadmap to the Soul and incredible coaches that have been helping people across the world for over 30 years.Dean is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a Doctorate in Ministry, and HollyKem has experience as a Substance Abuse Counselor. Their approach is powerful and compassionate. In today's episode we dig deep into the mental and emotional drivers of pornography addiction, We talk about why people can't get sober, and we discuss bad advice we get that actually makes pornography addiction worse. We also talk about healing past trauma, how to forgive yourself and others, how to quit porn, and how to save your marriage AND improve your sex life. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterMORE EPISODES3 Easy Steps to Stop Porn Addiction | The Frontline Framework with Dan JohnsonHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionMusic by Bensound.com Support the showNo More Desire

In the episode, Dan Johnson gives you 3 easy steps to stop porn addiction. This process is called The Frontline Framework.Dan Johnson with New Paths is another man just like myself helping men overcome porn addiction. Dan and I not only discuss this framework but also dive into multiple psychological and lifestyle strategies you can begin using right now to quit porn. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a Free ConsultationIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email Newsletter$ Donate $MORE ARTICLES1 Year of Porn Addiction Withdrawals | What to Expect During Your First Year After Quitting & How to Stay SoberHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionMusic by Bensound.com Support the showNo More Desire

I recently had someone reach out to me directly to ask about porn addiction withdrawal—what it really feels like, what challenges come up, and how to get through it. Their question instantly took me back to the beginning of my own porn addiction recovery journey.When I was six months sober, it was one of the most beautiful yet difficult times of my life. I was learning so much about myself. But I was also facing challenges I never expected.You might have heard people describe withdrawing from porn as mild—a process that only lasts days or weeks. But I'll be honest, that hasn't been my experience, nor the experience of the clients in my program or the people I've volunteered with. For most of us, porn addiction withdrawal is a longer, more complex process.Why Does Porn Addiction Withdrawal Feel So Hard?First, let's be clear: You're not crazy if you feel like quitting porn is a battle. Pornography is highly addictive—some studies suggest it's as addictive, if not more, than cocaine. It hijacks your brain's reward system, creating a dopamine rush that can feel impossible to resist.Here's the kicker: withdrawal from porn mimics some of the same symptoms of porn addiction itself. Why? Because using porn spikes dopamine to extremely high levels, which damages your brain and inhibits its capacity to produce its own dopamine in the short and long-term. To cope with this, you go back to porn again and again to get that “hit”. But when you quit, your brain is suddenly deprived of these dopamine spikes altogether, and this leaves you feeling unmotivated, unfocused, and disconnected from others. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a FREE CONSULTATIONIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE EPISODESAnger, Porn Addiction & One Simple Mental Technique to Overcome BothHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionMusic by Bensound.comNo More Desire

Anger and porn addiction—what do they have in common? At first, it might seem like the answer is nothing. But think about it: how many times have you been angry, and shortly afterward found yourself relapsing on porn? Or maybe you felt stressed or frustrated after a hard day at work, only to come home and slip up. Doesn't the shame you feel after watching porn feel similar to the shame after losing your temper in a big fight?In this episode, I'm going to show you the connection between anger and porn addiction, uncover their root causes, and share one simple mental technique to overcome both.Anger and Porn Addiction Are Symptoms, Not the CauseWe often view anger as the problem. We tell ourselves:If I could just get my anger under control...I just need to breathe, think positively, or be more disciplined...Why can't I stop being so selfish?The same pattern shows up with pornography addiction:If I could just stop watching porn, my life would be so much better...I need to distract myself, stay busy, or focus on exercise...But here's the truth: anger and porn addiction aren't the real problem. They're symptoms of something deeper.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a FREE CONSULTATIONIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterBuy Me a CoffeeMORE EPISODES Quit Porn Using IFS: A Powerful New Approach to Psychology & Addiction RecoveryHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictioNo More Desire

What if your brain pushes you towards porn addiction because it's trying to help you, not hurt you? What if you could quit porn using IFS, an approach that helps you effectively understand and speak with the part of your brain pushing you towards porn, and you could redirect it? What if you could work alongside that part to overcome porn addiction, rather than feeling exhausted trying to fight it all of the time?Since the dawn of western psychology, we have believed in a “mono-mind”. Meaning you have one brain and one personality. Seems pretty obvious, right? This is an assumption we've made based on hundreds if not thousands of years of tradition. But what if this is incorrect? What if there is a more effective way of viewing the mind that results in accelerated mental healing and repair? Internal Family Systems, “Sub-personalities”, and Porn Addiction RecoveryInternal Family Systems (IFS) is a psychological modality that was founded by Dr. Richard Schwartz in the 1980's. Over the 2010's and 2020's it has accelerated rapidly into the mainstream due to its extremely effective approach for helping clients and individuals with addiction and mental illness.IFS denies the assumption of “mono-mind” (that we have one personality and one identity), and instead posits that our mind is made up of multiple "parts" or sub-personalities, all contributing to our psyche and individuality. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsSchedule a FREE CONSULTATIONIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramJoin My Email NewsletterMORE ARTICLESBeing Self-Critical Fuels Porn Addiction | How to Stop Perfectionism So You Can Stop Watching PornHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionMusic by: bensound.comLicense code: SQFOPLYQKXJJO2CBNo More Desire

Porn addiction and perfectionism go hand-in-hand. If you want to stop watching porn, you need to understand the underlying relationship between porn addiction and these self-critical tendencies. One of the great misconceptions out in the world is that porn addicts are selfish, lazy, or simply don't try hard enough. But in working with these men one-on-one, I don't see this at all. What if I told you that men who struggle with porn addiction are some of the most self-critical and perfectionistic people there are? What if I told you that porn addicts aren't people who are lazy, selfish, or don't care, but are actually sensitive, caring, and deeply want to do the right thing? When we talk about porn addiction, we often focus on willpower and restraint, imagining that the answer is simply "trying harder." But for many of us, perfectionism is an underlying issue that drives the cycle of addiction.When we set impossible standards for ourselves, we inevitably fall short, and it's in those gaps between our expectations and reality where shame, judgment, and addiction thrive.Through self-acceptance and self-compassion, addicts can heal and overcome porn addiction. They can quit porn by digging deep into the underlying insecurities and mental mechanisms that keep them stuck. Today, I'll teach you how to spot these insecurities and mechanisms so that you can break porn addiction for good. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a FREE CONSULTATIONMORE ARTICLESPorn Addiction Positive Affirmations that Are Psychologically EffectiveHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionNo More Desire

Do you wish you had a list of recovery mindset statements that could train your brain out of porn addiction? Do you wish you had porn addiction positive affirmations that could convince you to quit porn? Today I am not going to give you that list…because that list does not exist. Don't believe the hype out there…But what I am going to give you is: Fundamental principles for writing porn addiction positive affirmations.A comprehensive list of positive affirmations that work for porn addiction.How to use these affirmations in your daily life.  I'll also explain why common porn addiction positive affirmations such as, “I am free from porn addiction”, or ,“I am in control of my sexual urges”, are actually harmful, not helpful, and what statements to use instead. What are Positive Affirmations for Porn AddictionPositive affirmations are statements you can repeat to yourself that are meant to affirm and train your mind to believe in positive outcomes. By focusing on positive affirmations, you can help your brain see yourself and the world in a more positive light. Porn addiction positive affirmations then are statements you can repeat each day to train your brain to believe that sobriety is possible for you, and to begin to believe that you are living a sober life, thereby causing you to act differently and make better choices to recover. They can be effective as part of a larger personalized recovery plan. Build the No More Porn LifestyleFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a FREE CONSULTATIONMORE ARTICLES4 Psychological Blocks that Prevent Porn Recovery and How to Bust Through ThemHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionNo More Desire

You cannot quit porn simply by overcoming sexual cravings and urges. Porn addiction doesn't ultimately stem from these urges (as surprising as that is).In reality, porn cravings are a symptom of underlying psychological barriers you're experiencing that are preventing porn addiction recovery. Instead of facing or fighting porn cravings, you need to get to the root causes of pornography addiction. You need to access the mental blocks in your mindset and remove them. I'm going to teach you how to do this today. If you properly and consistently follow these 4 steps for emotional processing from day to day, there's an excellent chance you will eventually not need to deal with porn cravings in the first place. They simply won't be there.It is impossible for me to give you the perfect formula to overcome porn addiction in one blog article. That said, I can give you some tools for emotional processing that rely on sound principles from multiple psychological modalities, including CBT and IFS, as well as spiritual teachings from Eastern and Western Faiths.  BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a FREE CONSULTATIONMORE ARTICLESRelapse-Free Business Trips & Vacations | How to Build a Safety Plan to Stop Watching Porn While TravelingHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionNo More Desire

Have you ever had a streak of sobriety, only to go on a vacation or business trip and relapse on porn? In order to stop watching porn on business trips and vacations, you need to take a proactive approach.One of the most counterintuitive things about vacation is that it can be one of the greatest triggers for relapse. Vacation takes us out of our norms and routines, giving way to unanticipated complications and temptations. Business trips can also lead to porn relapse, as we are often under pressure and stress during the day and alone in our hotel room during the night. It's the perfect storm. You need to set yourself up for success. Recovery is not just going to “happen”. It is deliberate. It is planned. This is true when it comes to travel, especially during the first few years of your porn addiction recovery. Why Vacations Can Lead to Porn Relapse Ironically, vacations can be one of the most triggering situations for many who've struggled with pornography addiction. “Going with the flow” and being away from structure and responsibilities can seem like the exact thing you need to stay sober. But the reality is often the opposite of what you need to quit porn. Those who struggle with addiction often have intense minds. We crave meaning, purpose, and excitement. While these forms of meaning, purpose, and excitement may look a bit different for each individual, we all crave them. If we don't get these things to a reasonable degree each day, we may find it hard not to seek out addiction as a cheap way to "fill the hole." So, it's up to us to find simple, practical ways to provide ourselves with the healthy outlets and structure necessary to get our daily dose of meaning, purpose, and excitement so we can break porn addiction.Why Business Trips Can Lead to Porn RelapseBusiness trips can be another massive trigger for recovering addicts. These can be high-pressure events where we feel the need to impress high-level professionals and network connections, or face endless hours of education and courses. All of this requires deep focus, and at the end of it all it can be easy to feel like we need a break or “release”.  Addictions can often be our brain's go-to in order to temporarily “alleviate” this stress. We are also often alone on business trips, which can make us more vulnerable to acting out because no one is there to watch us. If we want to stay sober on a business trip, we need to be wise, deliberate, and pre-emptive. We need to establish a system that supports our porn recovery while we're out there. In Today's Episode, You'll Learn How to Build a Safety Plan to Stay Sober From Porn on Vacations & Business TripsBUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a FREE CONSULTATIONMORE ARTICLESWhat Do I Do When My Wife is Triggered? | How to Hold Boundaries and Use the Language of Safety in Your MarriageHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsNo More Desire

If you're married and you struggle with a porn addiction, we're going to talk about what to do when your wife is triggered. I have seen a recurring trend with my clients who struggle with pornography addiction. Many have no boundaries with their partners. They face some very serious struggles and confusion in their marriage, trying to figure out how to react when their wives with betrayal trauma are triggered. In other words, when their wives become angry, defensive, lash out, become critical and insulting, or they shut down and give their husbands the silent treatment. Very common these days - even in circles of recovery - is the tendency to believe that the porn addict can have no expectations or standards for how he is treated, because of the fact that he has betrayed his wife by watching porn, and that ALL of the issues in their relationship stem from his behavior. His wife can berate and put him down, and it is “justified” because of his porn addiction.This kind of treatment can deeply hurt the addict, who by the way, despite his self-centered behavior, is a human being. Betrayed wives will sometimes blame their addict husbands for everything that's wrong, and this crushes their husband's self-esteem, causing him to feel hated and worthless. This works against the very thing that the wife wants most, which is a capable, responsible, and selfless husband. Not to mention this does not help him stop watching porn. An addict's betrayal of their spouse is, without a doubt, selfish. But it is also personally devastating and traumatic for the addict to endure. To overcome porn addiction requires far more than willpower, motivation, or a decision to stop. The recovering addict needs the proper recovery mindset and lifestyle tools, and qualified help for porn addiction. Part of building this recovery mindset and lifestyle is to learn how to effectively engage with your romantic partner. Today, we will discuss the following to help you do this: Understanding the trauma of porn addictionUnderstanding the what, why, and how of triggers for betrayed spousesUnderstanding a spouse's betrayal traumaTaking ownership over your side of the marriage (and letting the other person's go)What boundaries are and are notHow to help your betrayed spouse through…Using the language of safetyHolding appropriate boundariesHolding daily couple's check-insBUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESJourney Out of Darkness | A Porn Addiction StoryPorn Addiction is Just a SymptomHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionNo More Desire

In today's article, I'm going to share a story with you. One that I believe every porn addict can relate to. This story is going to teach you how to heal porn addiction using loving and compassionate methods that, in my opinion, people don't talk about enough. It's also going to teach you the truth about the underlying psychology and root causes of porn addiction. This story will be told from the perspective of a father who is watching their son struggle with a pornography addiction. And regardless of whether you're a parent to an addict, a spouse of an addict, or the addict themselves, I believe this story will help you. Above all, I hope it helps you feel seen, understood, and loved.I based this story on a therapeutic experience I had in an IFS therapy session, where I came face to face with an ‘addict part' of my mind and had a sacred interaction as best I can describe it.That addict part of me became addicted to porn and masturbation when I was 12-years-old and had remained stuck in the shame and belief that it was unlovable, alone, and perceived as evil.   Many porn addicts have a part of their mind that is still there in the past - stuck in that bathroom or at that computer screen - believing horrible things about themselves. If we can truly see ourselves and get in touch with the pain behind the porn addiction - showing ourselves compassion and love - I believe we can start to unravel that pain and overcome porn addiction using the proper recovery mindset and lifestyle tools. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESFrom Porn to Peace | Recovery Mindset Practices to Stop Watching PornMake Friends with the Addict Part of You | Quit Porn Using 3 IFS PrinciplesHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionNo More Desire

What if you had mental tools you could use in an instant to remove your desire for porn? What if you could stop watching porn because you had a recovery mindset that replaced your need for it? What I often hear from my clients when they begin my intensive porn addiction recovery program is that cravings for porn and sex feel instant and automatic. They see a woman, and immediately the lust and fantasizing starts. I remember exactly what that was like during the years I was addicted to porn. Many men feel out of control and unable to change the way they think about sexuality, romantic relationships, and women. They feel they have no choice whether they get dragged along by their sexual urges, and so much of what they want to accomplish or become is drowned out by these on-going sexual cravings. They have a powerful drive to do great things with their lives, but so much of that just doesn't feel possible with this monkey on their back. It's difficult to quit porn. Sexual drive is a powerful force, and it can feel exhausting trying to fight it all the time; trying to be a responsible man, husband, and father. Sometimes we might wish we could just turn our sexual attraction off! Flip a switch and make the desires go away. That's the same way I felt for many years. Today, I'll teach you to stop watching porn by building a recovery mindset that replaces your desire for porn with a new, fulfilling perspective that enables you to love the people around you and yourself. Not in some cheap, boyish way, but in a mature, masculine way. This perspective takes work. It's not some freaking magic trick to “quit porn in 30 days” (those are scams). Instead, it's a practical and psychological approach you can use throughout your day. Read on to learn how you can grow this recovery mindset and replace your desire for porn with a fresh, new perspective that serves you and your loved ones. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn RelapseThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionNo More Desire

“My wife won't have sex with me”, “Porn addiction has ruined our marriage and our sex life”, “My wife has gained 80 lbs since we got married, and I'm no longer sexually attracted to her”, “My wife dresses like a nun and wants nothing to do with sex”...If any of these sound like you, and you're in a marriage where sex is as frequent as a solar eclipse (or if that's too generous), today's episode is for you. Today, we're going to talk about:Reasons your wife isn't having sex with you (and they're not what you think).Healing the side effects of porn addiction in marriage.Gaining compassion for the different challenges you and your spouse are facing.Creating sexual and emotional healing in your marriage.If you want to overcome porn addiction, or if you have a spouse who is addicted to porn, know that you can both develop an amazing relationship together. You are not doomed to this, you are not crazy or horrible, and you can quit porn and live the life of your dreams. It simply requires building a recovery mindset and lifestyle so you can break free of porn. God bless and much love.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE EPISODESWhen Wives Become Sex Objects | Porn Addiction in Marriage, and How a Man Overcomes Sexual ObsessionThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionNo More Desire

Today, I address common questions many men I've worked with have had about porn addiction in marriage. We'll talk about how wives can unfortunately become sex objects in today's cultural climate (and how to put a stop to it), and how a husband can:Overcome sexual obsession so he can lead a happier, more fulfilling life.Feel truly sexually satisfied in the relationship.Help his wife feel safe, accepted, and loved.Quit porn by building a recovery mindset and lifestyle.If you're a spouse of a porn addict, this episode is also for you. You will gain a far deeper understanding of porn addiction, and (I hope) a compassion for your partner who is struggling with it. You are not alone. You are not crazy. And you can both heal and get better, and I'll give you a path to do this step-by-step in this episode. Understanding the Impact of Porn Addiction in MarriageMany men and women are extremely concerned by the effects porn addiction has had on their marriage. Here are some of the questions and concerns men in my program have had about quitting porn and their marital sexual relationship:“I find my wife to be very beautiful. So why do I keep going to porn and masturbation? What's wrong with me?”“Is looking at sexual videos/images of my wife considered porn?”“Can having sex with my wife fuel my porn addiction? After all, don't I want to be ‘addicted' to my wife? Isn't that a good thing?”“When I have sex with my wife, I feel the addict part of me emerge. This is very discouraging for me. It almost makes me not want to have sex with my wife anymore and risk activating the porn addiction wiring in my brain. What should I do?”“My wife says that I want to have sex with her too often. But I'm a man, so I want to have sex more than she does. Isn't it reasonable for her to accommodate that need and have sex with me a little more often than she might prefer? After all, I am her husband.”“I don't find my wife very attractive. I see that as a major reason for my addiction to porn. If she just [lost some weight, exercised, took better care of herself, dolled herself up, etc.], then I wouldn't have a need to go to porn.”We address each of these questions in today's episode.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESBeat Porn Triggers Using the 5-Step System to Overcome Porn AddictionHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionNo More Desire

Many of my clients have the same question when they start my porn addiction recovery program: “When triggers for porn come up, I just don't know how to handle them. Are there any simple practices I can use to overcome porn triggers?”In today's episode, I am going to show you how to beat porn triggers and overcome porn addiction using a 5-step system that is simple and easy to apply.With this 5-step system, you will no longer be confused about how to handle porn triggers because you'll have a strategy in place every time a trigger comes up. You'll be prepared with the recovery mindset and lifestyle strategies you need to combat porn cravings and come out victorious.When you're taking the first steps to overcome porn addiction, triggers can feel overwhelming. And they come in many different forms, both direct and indirect. Direct Triggers for Porn AddictionA direct trigger is anything that is directly sexually arousing. These triggers can bring feelings of fear when you struggle with porn addiction. Perhaps you become aroused and then you feel afraid that arousal is going to lead you to relapse with porn. We'll talk about how to combat that. Indirect Triggers for Porn AddictionIf you're a bit more advanced in your porn addiction recovery journey, you may already be aware that pornography addiction is not so much about direct triggers as it is about all of the various aspects of your mindset and lifestyle that are adding to your susceptibility to porn addiction. In other words, there are negative emotions, thought patterns, and beliefs that are fueling your porn addiction, and it is likely that you've been experiencing these for some time now. These mental habits that power porn addiction are often unconscious; you may be completely unaware of them.Today, I'll give you my 5-step system that's part of the recovery mindset and lifestyle you need to stop porn addiction.Blog Article: Beat Porn Triggers & Overcome Porn AddictionBUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE EPISODES15 Porn Addiction Symptoms that Porn Addicts and Spouses Should KnowThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionNo More Desire

Do you or your spouse struggle with a porn addiction? Or do you suspect that you or your spouse may be struggling with one? Today, I'm going to share 17 porn addiction symptoms that porn addicts and spouses should know. I've been working in the addiction community for years, and I have seen recurring patterns and themes among clients and friends who are trying to quit porn. I've also been through my own porn addiction recovery journey. In this article, I pull upon both my professional experience helping others stop porn addiction and my personal experience overcoming porn addiction. Let me start by saying I believe porn addiction symptoms are far deeper and broader than many of us might think. I'm not just here to talk about the behavior of watching porn. That's just a tiny part of the whole picture. When we struggle with porn addiction, there are a plethora of symptoms - psychologically, behaviorally, relationally, physically, and spiritually. It impacts every part of our lives.If you're the spouse of someone with a porn addiction, I'm hoping that today's topic can fill you with compassion and understanding for them. And if you listen up and take notes, I believe that this new knowledge will empower you with a deeper and broader perspective of pornography addiction, so that you can better help your loved one.Symptoms: Correlation vs. CausationAs a quick caveat, these 17 porn addiction signs do not prove that someone has a porn addiction, nor is porn addiction the sole cause of many of these symptoms. Rather, porn addiction can initiate, increase or exacerbate many of these symptoms, but there are always other factors that play a role in their development.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse (Without a Fight) Using The 4-Pronged Ownership ApproachThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionNo More Desire

You just watched porn. You've been working hard to stay sober and stop watching porn, but despite your best efforts, you slipped up and now you're in a dilemma… How to tell your wife about your porn relapse? Relapses are a common part of porn addiction recovery. I would love it if they weren't, but they are! It's just the reality. During the years I was working to quit porn, I relapsed after a year of sobriety…twice! It was brutally discouraging, but it was not the end for me. I went on to long-term sobriety, which has reached nearly a decade now. Relapse does not equal failure. It can be a stepping stone towards long-lasting sobriety. But only if you have the right steps in place to deal with the relapse in a way that is psychologically effective. If so, you can use the relapse as a springboard to overcome porn addiction. If I'm an individual who struggles with pornography addiction, I'm going to have a much easier time quitting porn if I have my spouse in my corner. And for that to happen, I need to build the knowledge and skills necessary to tell my wife about my relapse with pornography in a way that honors both her feelings and mine, and helps her feel I'm that doing what it takes to stop porn addiction. Today, I'm going to share with you what I call the 4-Pronged Ownership Approach for Porn Relapse, a simple structure to turn relapses into stepping stones for recovery and communicate a slip to your wife, or other family members, in a loving and powerful way that leads to the best outcome for both your sobriety and relationship. Blog Article: How to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse (Without a Fight) Using The 4-Pronged Ownership ApproachBUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornJoin My Email NewsletterThe Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSet Up a Free Consultation with JakeMORE ARTICLESMake Friends with the Addict Part of Your Brain | Quit Porn Using 3 Evidence-based IFS PrinciplesThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionNo More Desire

If you struggle with porn addiction, it can be a real challenge to figure out why you experience cravings for porn. A lot of the world will tell you it's because you crave sex - it's your natural urges - and you just need to discipline yourself enough to stop watching porn. That's not the case. You're not a man with an overactive sex drive. You're not lazy. You're not weird. You're not a pervert. You're not bad for dealing with a porn addiction. You don't build willpower to overcome porn addiction. Instead, you build a new way of thinking and living - a recovery mindset and a recovery lifestyle. Today, we're going to focus deeply on the recovery mindset, specifically, and exactly how this mindset is achieved. You're going to learn how to think and process through the thoughts and the emotions that are behind pornography addiction. You're going to learn how to live the “no more porn” lifestyle by discovering how to talk to yourself about these thoughts and emotions, and how to become deeply aware of thought patterns that feed addiction, so that you can learn how to stop porn addiction by stopping and redirecting those addictive thought patterns. The process I'm about to teach you is the very same one that I teach to clients across the world in my intensive porn addiction recovery program. And it's the very same one that I've used to quit porn and remain sober for over 9 years now. This is not about facing and fighting cravings. It's not about special mental techniques to distract you from cravings or fancy methods to handle triggers. Instead, it is a system of 5 levels - from the surface of conscious thought to the deepest unconscious drivers of porn addiction. And I'm going to show you how to get to those unconscious drivers of addiction, and begin replacing destructive mental habits with productive mental habits.So, let's get started. Blog: Stop Thoughts that Cause Porn Addiction | The 5 Levels of Cognition Behind CravingsBUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornJoin My Email NewsletterThe Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSet Up a Free Consultation with JakeMORE ARTICLESQuit Porn Using 3 Evidence-based IFS Principles | Make Friends with the Addict Part of Your BrainStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionNo More Desire

Today, you're going to use 3 evidence-based IFS principles to learn how to quit porn by making friends with the addict part of your brain.IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy is a powerful framework for overcoming addiction. It takes a non-traditional approach that has been studied and utilized for 40 years, and has been shown to be highly effective. Using this approach, you'll discover how to make peace with the part of you that has consistently led you to porn addiction - this part that creates destruction in your life right now. You're going to learn how to make it your ally, your best friend, something that actually helps you rather than hurts you. If that sounds strange, don't worry—I'll explain exactly how this works. If you're like I was during the many years I was addicted to porn, you've likely become tired and frustrated with this addict part of your brain that keeps acting against you. You've been fighting it and trying to shut it up. In order for you to quit porn, your frustration and fighting needs to end, and you need to become connected with this addict part of you, and see it with more clarity and understanding. Only then can you redirect it down a positive path, and overcome porn addiction. The label “Porn Addict” does not define youYou're a good man. I want to say that upfront. I remember feeling worthless, like I was a terrible person and that's why I couldn't stop porn. You might think, "Jake, that's not true. I'm a bad person. Look at everything I've done." I used to tell myself those things too. There was a time I wanted to take my own life. And I came out of it, and am a better person because of those struggles.You just have some habits that aren't serving you or the people around you. You have this part of you, this addict part, that takes control sometimes. Instead of the real you—the good you—being in the driver's seat. This addict part takes over, leaving you in the backseat wondering, “What's wrong with me? Why can't I control myself? Why do I keep doing this to my wife and kids? Why do I know better but not do better?”You are destined for a greater life. You just need the right tools and strategies. You'll learn them in today's episode. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEJoin My Email NewsletterFREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornThe Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSet Up a FREE Evaluation Call with JakeMORE ARTICLESStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionNo More Desire

What if you had a mental toolbelt to stop porn cravings and overcome fantasizing and lust habits? Today, I'm going to give you exactly that. By the end of this episode, you will have 7 tools to overcome fantasizing and lust, so you can beat porn cravings and stop wanting pornography. But - just like anything - in order for them to work, you have to apply them.Imagine you're at the gym and you see a girl in her gym outfit, or you're browsing online and see some ad pop up with a woman in a bathing suit, or you're walkin' down the street and you see a girl with short-shorts and cleavage. Many of these situations can be very challenging when you've struggled with porn addiction and you're trying to get sober. You may feel sick of these triggers popping up around you, and you may think if you can just avoid them then you won't be tempted to watch porn.But the answer to handling these triggers, and working through porn cravings, fantasizing, and lust is not avoidance. Instead, it's about having mental strategies to think through triggers and cravings. It's about building psychological habits - new mental processes - to replace the default mental processes that are leading to porn relapse. It's easy to let the mind wander and focus on lust and fantasies. Most men do this. But these thoughts don't serve you or those around you, nor do they help you become the strong, capable, and courageous man, husband, and father that you want to be. Overcoming these default mental habits of fantasizing, lust, and craving is challenging (I won't lie!), but it's also something that anyone can do. It's something that you can do. I'll show you how.Blog Article: Stop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsBUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEJoin My Email NewsletterFREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornThe Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSet Up a FREE Evaluation Call with JakeMORE EPISODES3 Thought Strategies to Prevent Porn Addiction and CravingsThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionNo More Desire

When my porn addiction recovery story started a decade ago, I believed that the cravings for porn were my main enemy. I thought that if I could just resist these urges, I'd be free. However, through years of working with men around the world and diving deep into my own experiences, I've come to understand that these cravings are merely symptoms of deeper issues. The true battle lies in preventing these cravings from emerging in the first place.Today, I share how to overcome porn addiction using practical, in-the-trenches solutions and strategies to not only stop porn addiction symptoms, but remove the desire for porn. You will come away understanding the types of thoughts and emotions that fuel cravings for porn, as well as how to break porn addiction using daily practices that anyone can learn and apply. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEJoin My Email ListFREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSet Up a Free Evaluation Call with JakeMORE EPISODESThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break the Addiction CyclePleasure Conditioning: Decrease Porn CravingsMore EpisodesNo More Desire

One of the pillars for building a recovery mindset and lifestyle to overcome porn addiction is connection - or in other words having positive, fulfilling relationships.In today's episode, I speak with Chris Reavis, professional coach, speaker, and author in the corporate space. He teaches how we can enjoy work more and build better corporate relationships with co-workers and leaders using brain science and evidence-based methods. As work is where we may spend about 1/3rd of our life, it's important that we have good relationships and interactions with coworkers, bosses, clients, etc… If we are in a toxic environment, or we are constantly in conflict, or simply feeling lonely or disconnected, this contributes to the isolated, detached, chaotic thought patterns and beliefs that contribute to pornography addiction and other addictions. Building new habits to improve our work relationships and satisfaction contributes to the No More Porn Lifestyle and Mindset, and experiencing overall greater happiness, peace, and well-being.ABOUT CHRIS REAVISChris helps leaders turn naysayers into innovators, using proven neuroscience. He is a tech leader and 3-time bestselling author that loves removing obstacles from the workplace. He teaches others to find what's causing their work issues and how to overcome them. If it's time to leave, he helps them take the next best steps. If it's time for a side hustle, Chris can teach them what works. Chris shares 13 evidence-based approaches that anyone can use to enjoy a much happier and more productive career.Chris is a multiple bestselling author, including the books Unleashed and Hashrate. He lives with his wife, son, and wonder pup Penelope in the Pacific Northwest.Check out Chris's Free Mini-Course: How to Help Leaders Say "Yes" to Your Idea.You can grab Chris's Best-Selling Book: Boost Your Bullsh*t Resilience at Work at thebsbook.com or on Amazon. Blog - How You Can Enjoy Work MoreBUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEJoin My Email ListFREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSet Up a Free Evaluation Call with JakeMORE EPISODESThe 4 Root Causes of Porn Addiction8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsMore EpisodesNo More Desire

Do you find yourself constantly asking, “Why do I struggle with porn addiction?” Or, ”Why is my spouse / child addicted to porn?” There are a lot of messages out there that will tell you porn addiction is about sexual urges. It's about having a high libido. It's about a desire for sex that isn't being fulfilled. If a man wants porn then it's his spouse's responsibility to make sure he's satisfied, and if he's satisfied then he won't want porn. I have news for you. That's a bunch of BS. While natural sexual feelings do play a role in the desire for porn, porn addiction is not about sexual urges. It's not about high libido. And it sure as heck isn't about an addict's spouse not “delivering the goods.”And I know that's hard to hear, and the human brain and biology can be VERY convincing. It will tell you that you crave porn because you want sex and if you can juuuust get that craving filled in just the right way then you won't want porn anymore. Let me tell you something else. A vast majority of the people I work with are married… And let me tell you something else, else. If I had a dime for every time someone has said “I just thought once I got married that all this would go away. I thought once I got married, I wouldn't need porn anymore.” And that's not how it works. Why? Today we're going to talk about what actually causes porn addiction. Specifically we'll talk about the 4 root causes of porn addiction. Why we develop a porn addiction, what keeps us hooked, and how to overcome porn addiction. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEJoin My Email ListFREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSet Up a Free Evaluation Call with JakeMORE EPISODESThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break the Addiction CyclePleasure Conditioning: Decrease Porn CravingsKeys for Confidence, Self-Worth, and Porn Addiction Recovery8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction"I'm triggered when I see a girl dressed immodestly" | How to overcome triggers and lustful thoughts with easeHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsMore EpisodesNo More Desire

If you're battling with pornography addiction, you're not alone, and there's a way out. I've been there, and I've come through the other side. Let's talk about how you can break free from porn addiction and reclaim your life.In today's episode, I speak with Mark Collins, a Coach and Mentor who helps men uncover their true identity so they can build confidence, self-worth, and a life of deep meaning. Through my years of addiction, I often wondered what was driving this destructive behavior. For a long time, I thought it was simply sexual urges and desires; that I had a high libido and a need that had to be filled. How wrong I was. What Mark and I discussed can make a major difference for you in your path to overcome porn addiction. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEJoin My Email ListDOWNLOAD MY FREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSet Up a Free Call with JakeMARK COLLINS: FREEDOM FOR LIFEBOOK: Life Mastery | Live by Design, Not by DefaultFreedom for Life WebsiteFacebookInstagramYouTube Channel @_freedomforlife_MORE EPISODES8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornJeanine Gardner | Trauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction"I'm triggered when I see a girl dressed immodestly" | How to overcome triggers and lustful thoughts with easeHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsMore EpisodesNo More Desire

Do you find yourself struggling to quit porn, barely making it past the first week or even the first few days? Today, I'm going to give you 8 rules to get you 3-months sober from porn.I remember how daunting it felt when I was grappling with a decade-long pornography addiction. I constantly wondered what would finally help me overcome this addiction for good. If only I could reach three months of sobriety, I believed, it would transform my life! Today, I want to share eight rules that helped me get three months sober from porn, launching me into a life of long-term sobriety.Blog Article: 8 Rules to Get You 3-Months Sober from PornOTHER EPISODES:Trauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction with Therapist Jeanine Gardner from Circles of Grace"I'm triggered when I see a girl dressed immodestly" | How to overcome triggers and lustful thoughts with easeHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsBUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE:Join My Email ListDOWNLOAD MY FREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornLearn More About My Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramMore EpisodesNo More Desire

Recently, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Therapist Jeanine Gardner,  from Circles of Grace, part of LifeStar Salt Lake. She shared extremely valuable insights about how trauma, attachment, shame, and porn addiction are all interconnected, and how we can heal trauma and insecure attachments to overcome porn addiction. In this episode we cover: Why porn addiction (and all addiction) is very misunderstoodHow attachment wounds, trauma, and shame fuel porn addictionEpigenetics: How trauma is passed down through genetics multiple generationsInherited shame and how we can heal itRecognizing feelings as neither good nor badThe importance of the nervous system and how it plays into trauma and addictionMaking the unconscious consciousOvercoming escape and avoidant behaviors that harm us.Jeanine Gardner is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional with Circles of Grace. She holds a Masters in Social Work from Utah Valley University, and is trained in multiple specialties including Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Psychodrama and Experiential Therapy, Gottman's methods, Somatic EMDR, and more. Jeanine Gardner's approach to therapy is compassion-focused, warm, direct, and research-based. She seeks to create safety as she walks with her clients on their healing journey. To learn more about Jeanine Gardner and Circles of Grace, go to Circlesofgrace.health. There you can discover therapy services and life-changing workshops and retreats to help you heal relationships and overcome mental and emotional trauma.Follow Circles of Grace on FacebookFollow Circles of Grace on InstagramNo More DesireJoin My Email ListDOWNLOAD MY FREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornLearn More About My Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramBlog article: Trauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction | Jeanine Gardner with Circles of GraceMore EpisodesNo More Desire

So, you're walking down the street, minding your own business, when BAM a girl walks by in a skimpy outfit. Thoughts of lust, fantasizing, and craving are running through your mind. Or, let's say, you're browsing online, minding your own business, when BOOM some ad pops up of women in swimsuits. You're triggered. And these triggers have started you down the path to eventually acting out with porn. You feel like it's almost inevitable. You've been working so hard to overcome porn addiction, and when stuff like this shows up out of nowhere, you just don't know how to handle it. How do you keep your mind from running wild and getting lost in fantasizing and lust? You want to quit porn, but things like this seem to lead you right back to it, and it's discouraging for you. You want to be a good guy, to treat women with respect, to be loyal to your wife, and to have a pure mind so you can do more good in the world. But you just don't know how to beat porn addiction. Today, we're going to talk about how to successfully handle these triggers. How to recognize what's driving you toward addiction - beyond just the obvious lust or desire - and how to channel your thoughts in a positive direction so that triggers are actually an opportunity to become stronger than ever in your sobriety, and you can get rid of porn addiction for good.Join My Email ListDOWNLOAD MY FREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornLearn More About My Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramBlog Article: "I'm triggered when I see a girl dressed immodestly" | How to overcome triggers and lustful thoughts with ease More EpisodesNo More Desire

It can be so hard to know how to help someone with a porn addiction. We worry deeply for our loved ones. We try so, so hard to “knock some sense into them”; to tell them to get help, or to try and help them ourselves. We talk and talk and talk until we're blue in the face, attempting to get through.Sometimes, our spouse or child will have moments of clarity, knowing they need help to quit porn. But, when we follow up to see if they've set up that therapy appointment, looked up that porn addiction recovery support group they talked about, or started that new daily spiritual or mindfulness practice, we are told that we're being “crazy” or “controlling” by following up. Or they make up some new excuse as to why they “don't need to do that anymore”, why they “haven't had time”, or why they're “too overwhelmed” or have “too much going on.”We want our loved one to succeed, to feel happy, and to overcome porn addiction. But they don't seem to want it as bad as we do. Or, perhaps they do want it, but they just can't seem to gain any real traction. Today, I'm going to teach you how to help someone with a porn addiction in 3 steps. Join My Email ListDOWNLOAD MY FREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornLearn More About My Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramBlog Article: How to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 StepsMore EpisodesNo More Desire

Do you ever wonder why you get sucked into porn addiction and everything else seems to disappear?You have a million important reasons for quitting porn, but when you get stressed you seem to enter this "funnel" that you can't see outside. It feels almost inevitable that you'll give in. I remember exactly how that was. I dealt with this habit for over 10 years, and it seemed impossible to overcome. Today, I'm going to teach you how to stop entering this "Porn Addiction Funnel". Coping with stress using porn addiction - or any addiction for that matter - destroys your life - you already know that! I'll tell you how to enter the "Mindfulness Funnel" to cope with stress instead in a healthy way that builds your life! We all have different ways of coping with stress, and addiction can be one of them. When you engage in addiction though, it leaves you wrung out and more stressed than ever, right? Then, you want to engage in more addiction to help you feel better. It's a terrible cycle!To quit porn, you need to build new habits of entering what is called the "mindfulness funnel".In today's episode, I teach you how to overcome porn addiction by replacing it with new, healthy habits. What have you tried so far to get rid of porn addiction? Internet filters, accountability buddies, talk therapy, church or religious programs…The No More Desire Intensive Recovery Program is unlike any recovery method you've experienced before. My clients don't just quit porn, they lose their desire for it by building a recovery mindset and lifestyle. They use hands-on, daily exercises that retrain their brain and forge recovery habits that last a lifetime! If you want to overcome porn addiction for good, join my Porn Addiction Recovery Program.Join My Email ListDOWNLOAD MY FREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornLearn More About My Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramBlog Article: The Porn Addiction Funnel | How to Break the Addiction CycleMore EpisodesNo More Desire

So you've got this monkey on your back. It keeps interrupting your life. You've been taught some mental habits to quit porn, but none of them seem to help. You're tired of being addicted to porn. It increases your anxiety, it decreases your ability to connect with others, you feel more depressed, you don't feel as motivated or driven. It's sucking your potential away from you. You keep thinking all you need to do is try harder. Be determined to stop. Be more dedicated. Think more positively. BELIEVE in yourself. Think about your family. You just need more willpower!Or, maybe, you think that you just have a high libido (high sex drive) and so all of these sexual thoughts and urges are normal and you just need to learn how to say “no” and finally stop watching porn.I've got news for you, my friend. The world's lying to you. None of these things are the answer. Instead of beating your head against a brick wall, and continuing to hurt yourself and your loved ones through your addictive behavior, it's time to learn how to actually get rid of porn addiction.Join My Email ListDOWNLOAD MY FREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornLearn More About My Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramBlog Article - 3 Mental Habits to Quit Porn: The Recovery MindsetMore EpisodesNo More Desire

Today I want to talk about a lie that we're told about porn addiction. We're often told that addiction is just a bad habit, that we need to abstain from it, get over our impulsivity, and just say no to the cravings and urges. But let me tell you, that's a bunch of crap.Overcoming porn addiction isn't just about saying no to the habit; it's about developing a new mindset and lifestyle that supports sobriety; a recovery mindset and lifestyle. Addiction isn't the root issue; it's a symptom of deeper mental, spiritual, relational, and physical suffering. So, what does it really take to break free from addiction? Let's dive deeper.Pornography addiction isn't just limited to substances like drugs or alcohol; it can manifest in various forms, including pornography, overeating, or even workaholism. Anything that we want to stop but feel we can't, despite the negative consequences, falls under the umbrella of addiction. It's about recognizing the imbalances in our lives and addressing them holistically.Join My Email ListDOWNLOAD MY FREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornLearn More About My Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramBlog Article - Porn Addiction is Just a SymptomMore EpisodesNo More Desire

How can feeling bad about porn addiction make you more likely to seek it out?Do you ever wonder how you could possibly want to stop watching porn so bad, yet the worse you feel about it the more you seem to “want” it? Does it seem strange that you could feel so negative about something, and yet crave the heck out of it at the same time? You think, “there must be something wrong with me. Otherwise, I wouldn't go back over and over again to this thing I can't stand.”Your pornography addiction continues to take things from you. It hurts you and those around you. Yet, the desire for it just doesn't seem to go away. You think “If I just feel bad enough about it, then I'll stop.”Want to know something? That is the opposite of the truth. In today's episode, I will teach you about the psychology behind all of thisI'll explain how the worse you feel about something the more likely you actually are to do it, and I'll show you how to transform your mindset and mental habits so you can overcome pornography for good. In today's episode, I'll teach you 5 reasons why we go back to addictions that we feel bad about, and how our negative feelings actually drive our addiction. I'll also give you 4 simple-to-do, practical solutions to overcome these negative feelings, and start fueling long-lasting recovery so you can quit porn. DOWNLOAD MY FREE EBOOK to help you break free from pornLearn more about the Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramBlog Post for this EpisodeOther Episodes and Articles to help you stop porn addiction:Things To Do Every Day to Help You Stay Clean4 Lifestyle Choices that Help You Get Rid of Porn AddictionOvercome Porn Addiction Using NutritionHow Do I Tell My Family About My Porn Addiction?Why Porn Addiction Destroys Motivation and What to Do About It5 Steps to Bounce Back After a Slip/Relapse with PornMy Spouse & I Just Fought. I Feel Triggered. How Do I Stay Clean?Using Mindfulness to Overcome AddictionMy Conversion and Porn Addiction Recovery StoryNo More Desire