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Included in this episode: 1. Democrats Want to Reform This Program That Helps Poor Elderly and Disabled Americans 2. Column: Online Anonymity Isn't Driving Abuse of Black Sports Stars. Systemic Racism Is 3. Why Are the Olympics Shrinking Basketball? Here's What To Know About 3×3 4. Column: Our Brains Make Us Way Too Optimistic About Deadlines 5. Review: The Last Letter From Your Lover Is Imperfect but Pleasurable .

The slogans “Free to Be Me!” & “You Do You, Boo-Boo!” are just the latest in a long line of mantras giving us permission to be ourselves. In the late 60's, Sammy Davis, Jr. sang the hit, “I've Gotta Be Me,” Madonna cranked out, “Express Yourself” in 1989 and more recently, Lady Gaga regaled the masses with “Born This Way.” This anthem has obviously been around awhile, but do we really want pop-culture to define us? Join Leah & Lisa as they discuss the worldview of this mindset vs. God's view. What does it mean that Christ came to set us free? Why ARE we the way we are? Can we truly live in freedom being the person we were created by God to be? And how in the world do we go about finding out who that is?

Why Are the Leaves Curling up on My Lilac?

Why Are the Leaves Turning Brown on My Begonia?

This Sunday we did not meet in person, but we recorded our online-only worship service (10:45 AM on Sunday). This is the Audio-only version recorded for Sunday, March 21, 2021. It is also available in Video format through our YouTube channel. Click on the "Notes Icon" (the little image of a notepad) to get the sermon study notes for this week. ORDER OF SERVICE: Sing our opening songs, "The Solid Rock” and “He Will Hold Me Fast" (on-screen lyrics in the video recording). Listen to the message "Why Are the Dead Blessed” preached by Pastor Dave Marksbury from Revelation 14:12-13 (completing the message started last Sunday). This message is part of the multi-week sermon series "Revelation: God's Final Call." (Prior messages in the series are available in both video and audio-only recordings). Sing: "I Know Whom I Have Believed" and "He Giveth More Grace.” Join us in prayer, listen to the church announcements and a "One Year Bible Reading" update. Our closing song is "My Hope Is in the Lord."

We hold our in-person Sunday worship services at 10:45 AM (Pacific time) and are recording them each week for folks who can't join us in person. This is the Audio-only version recorded for Sunday, March 14, 2021. It is also available in Video format through our YouTube channel. Click on the "Notes Icon" (the little image of a notepad) to get the sermon study notes for this week. During our Sunday worship service today, we will celebrate Communion with Jesus Christ through the bread and the cup. Persons in attendance today who have personally accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior are invited to participate in this service, which will be led by our Pastor. Christians participating in our online service are also invited to participate at home and will want to be ready with the bread and cup (juice, wine or red beverage). ORDER OF SERVICE: Sing along with our opening song, "All Hail the Power of Jesus Name" (on-screen lyrics in the video recording). Listen to the message "Why Are the Dead Blessed?” preached by Pastor Dave Marksbury from Revelation 14:12-13. This message is part of the multi-week sermon series "Revelation: God's Final Call." (Prior messages in the series are available in both video and audio-only recordings). Sing along with our worship team: "Mine Eyes Have Seen the Glory” and “Faith Is the Victory.” Join us in prayer, listen to the church announcements and a "One Year Bible Reading" update. Then join us as we partake of the Bread and Cup in Communion, as the violin plays “He Is Lord” and “Lamb of God.” Our closing song is "Fill My Cup Lord."

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Why Are the Leaves Curling on My Lime Tree?

WHY ARE. DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES.NEEDED TO MAKE A POWERFUL COMMUNITY?  WHAT ARE PERSONALIITIES? DOES EVERYONE HAVE ONE? WHAT IS A CHARACTER? IS A CHARACTER & PERSONALITY THE SAME? FIND OUT THE ANSWERS TO ALL OF THESE QUESTIONS TOONIGHT AT 10PM ON MENTELLECT RADIO(BLOGTALK). FEAT. THE NTEL.NUBEN MENKARAYZZ/MFA/144000

In this episode David leads us in a discussion about First Order Optimal Strategies (FOO strategies). What are they? Who uses them? Why? Are they a good thing or a bad thing? What to know more about FOO?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EitZRLt2G3whttps://thethoughtfulgamer.com/2017/03/09/first-order-optimal-strategies- narrative-inspired-heuristics/ Links from news:I forgot to mention it but there is also the Bespin Trials and Jedi Trials for Season 4!https://ia-continuityproject.com/2020/11/02/announcing-bespin-trials-season-4-league-and-season-4-novice-player-jedi-trials/  Season 4 Community Vote Results Analysishttps://ia-continuityproject.com/2020/11/04/season-4-community-vote-results/ Season 4 Vassal Seasonal Tournamentshttps://ia-continuityproject.com/2020/10/20/they-fly-now-announcing-vassal-seasonal-tournament-s4-event-dates-prize-support/ IA Command December Vassal Tournamenthttps://ia-continuityproject.com/event/ia-command-december-iacp-vassal-tournament/    

“Recent Science News and Discoveries” Episodes 158 Today we discuss Recent Archaeology News and Discoveries. *Sign up for Indra’s Web which is the social media app we created dedicated to these topics. You will get an alert when it is ready for use. https://indrasweb.org/ *If you enjoy our podcast and content and want to help us grow, check out our Patreon account and enjoy the exclusive episodes and interviews. You can also listen to us on the go through our website listed below. Join our Discord channel if you want to chat. We are also on all podcast platforms. Our Links: Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/MindEscapePodcast Website - https://www.MindEscapePodcast.com Discord - https://discord.gg/62bHFpd Twitter - https://twitter.com/MikeEscape Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mindescapepodcast/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/groups/MindEscapePodcast/ Apple Podcasts - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mind-escape-podcast/ Spotify Podcasts - https://open.spotify.com/show/0OXM81pXkn2OYT45NsoRQb?si=THFEq0SoRVqvsZzjR5xZMA *Here are the links to all the articles and research papers referenced in the episode: Atlantis in Michigan? https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2020/10/14/straits-mackinac-ice-age-culture-native-american-tribes-great-lakes/3649437001/ Archaeologists Have Discovered an Extraordinary New Style of Aboriginal Rock Art That Honors the Human-Animal Bond https://news.artnet.com/art-world/archaeologists-discover-new-style-aboriginal-rock-art-1913333 Ancient Italian man’s brain found vitrified from Vesuvius eruption https://www.cnn.com/2020/10/05/europe/brain-cells-vesuvius-victim-herculaneum-scn-scli-intl Archaeologists find ancient Aboriginal sites underwater, off the coast of Australia https://www.cnn.com/2020/07/01/australia/aboriginal-archaeological-sites-underwater-scli-intl-scn/ Why Are the Noses Broken on So Many Ancient Egyptian Statues? https://www.livescience.com/65071-why-egyptian-statues-have-broken-noses.html?fbclid=IwAR1rSkbHV0G-wls4bK8SrZ5v4uvwfsNMzTs3KQ1DaTXsn9YIf1bCDnwtDtA#:~:text=These%20statues%20have%20broken%20noses,statues%20had%20a%20life%20force.&text=%22This%20ritual%20gave%20the%20statue,force%20when%20the%20need%20arose CANNABIS PRESERVED INDIA’S ANCIENT ELLORA CAVES FROM DECAY FOR 1,500 YEARS https://www.archaeology-world.com/cannabis-preserved-indias-ancient-ellora-caves-from-decay-for-1500-years/?fbclid=IwAR0JDTRp-_YsdRh4vuZFtqI_0UnetmkcwAwNIaQ2izbIsTS4ufv_o_ePuRE New Discovery Just Changed Our Understanding of The Source of Easter Island's Moai https://www.sciencealert.com/the-sacred-origins-of-easter-island-s-mysterious-monoliths-could-finally-be-confirmed?fbclid=IwAR215UtN-oFF9xDXenttwd1xAalCsLBcuZ077wDfFEan7ka4hsqoAOvsTrQ One Mystery of Stonehenge’s Origins Has Finally Been Solved https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/one-mystery-of-stonehenges-origins-has-finally-been-solved1/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter New Nazca Lines figure https://www.cnn.com/style/article/nazca-lines-peru-cat/ Clovis Tools Used for only 300yrs https://phys.org/news/2020-10-tools-north-america-earliest-inhabitants.html Lead Found in Ancient Egyptian Papyrus Ink https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/10/201026153959.htm?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter 13 Sealed Ancient Egyptian Coffins Found https://www.sciencealert.com/at-least-13-completely-sealed-2-500-year-old-coffins-have-been-found-in-egypt 30,000 year old tools in Mexico https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-020-02190-y Could Ancient People See the Color blue? https://www.sciencealert.com/humans-didn-t-see-the-colour-blue-until-modern-times-evidence-science

Dr. Patricia Boulogne  is a veteran Chiropractor, Integrative Medicine & Acupuncture  Practitioner and Health Coach. Her stories include her early years as a chiropractor when she grew her newly purchased practice to become a thriving, busy year-round and years later sold that business for many multiples higher. She tells real life stories of how she attracted new clients and how she built a big practice in the tourist town of Cape Cod, Massachusetts.  Her specific practice tips and examples may be summarized as a relationship-based approach and good old fashioned “networking”. “Ask Dr. Pat” as she’s become known from her Bestselling book, “WHY… Are you Sick, Fat and Tired?” has shifted her Chiropractic career away from seeing patients in a clinic setting. Dr. Pat currently accepts health coaching clients and consults with them mostly remotely in online sessions. She now combines her many years of experience in Integrative Medicine, Chiropractic and Acupuncture to help people suffering from the effects of poor health and lifestyle. Learn from one of the Masters in Chiropractic on how you can shift practice integration into an online model. Sponsored Offer:  Get Your Complimentary 30 Minute Integrative Health SessionDo you have health concerns that you want to ask Dr. Pat about? For a limited time only, you can take advantage of Dr. Pat’s sponsored offer to schedule a Complimentary 30 Minute Integrative Health Session. Speak directly to Dr. Pat herself, one-on-one. simply go to her online calendar at this URL:  meetdrpat.as.me/vc

Author Dr. Pat Boulogne is a chiropractor, certified functional medicine practitioner, and acupuncture physician. On this episode of the ROI Online Podcast, Dr. Pat talks with Steve about the ways in which functional medicine can improve your overall health in ways you can't even imagine. Our bodies are complex mechanisms that can compensate for any problems that arise. So, when it comes to treatment, Dr. Pat and other experts in the field turn to functional medicine because it focuses on the root cause of the problems rather than the resulting symptoms. That means, whatever ailments that arise, might not be caused by something obvious.  Dr. Pat considers the pillars of health to be exercise, diet, good sleep, posture, a positive mental attitude, and a properly functioning nervous system. She thinks that what you eat, whether you're exercising (and how much), and if you take the time for meditation or self-reflection all matter to your overall health. If you fix your gut, you can change your life, so sugar, flour, and anything white shouldn't be part of your diet. But less obvious is that you might be someone who does better when eating cold foods or those that are significantly warmer. You really need to assess where your weakest link is and design a personalized program to help you operate at your highest potential. Unfortunately, there are so many people sick and they don't even know it. Dr. Pat's job is to help women get better, faster results so they feel better and stop spinning their wheels.You can learn more about Dr. Pat here:https://healthteamnetwork.com/about/ Read the books mentioned in this podcast:Why… Are you Sick, Fat, and Tired?: Find Out Now by Dr. Pat Boulogne Enroll in the QuickStart Academy today to learn how to develop and implement a proven growth strategy that grows your ROI, your business, and your confidence. Learn more HERE.Thinking of starting your own podcast? Buzzsprout's secure and reliable posting allows you to publish podcasts online. Buzzsprout also includes full iTunes support, HTML5 players, show statistics, and WordPress plugins. Get started using this link to receive a $20 Amazon gift card and to help support our show!Support the show (https://cash.app/$stevemfbrown)

Hello everyone and welcome back to Microcast Monday. Remember that Monday's are a great day. It's the start of a new week, and you have many opportunities ahead of you. Go after them. A big thanks and shout out to the brave men and women who work in the criminal justice field. Whatever you are doing in the field, THANK YOU! You are doing a very difficult job in a very difficult environment. Remember you are honored, cherished and loved. Keep up the good work. Check out the great products from Four Sigmatic. This company has been a favorite of mine for a long time, and I bet once you try their products it will be a favorite of yours too. I love the Lions Mane Mushroom Coffee. It gives me that energy and clarity to get me through my days. Check out their link at www.cjevolution.com and get 15% off your purchases with the promo code CJEVO. If you are someone you know are suffering from alcohol or drug addiction there is help. Call 1-800-210-7907. Are you happy in your life? I am talking about every aspect of your life. Finances, job, family, health etc? If you aren't, WHY? Are you blaming others for areas in your life that suck.  If you are why? Your emotional anguish, anger or fear is YOUR FAULT. Yes, it's YOUR FAULT. You control what you bring into your life. Your mind is like a garden and if you are not careful weeds will grow in your garden. Weeds take many different forms such as Fear, toxic relationships, not taking care of your body etc. But, you can control it all with what you are putting into your head. You have the power - You always have. Go conquer your day and week and stay tuned for more great guests on The CJEvolution Podcast www.cjevolution.com   Patrick

The Presidential and Vice Presidential debates left the world asking, "Huhh??" which led the Outrageous Crew to ask, "Why??" Are debates useful anymore? Were they ever? And the Crew talk about their favorite topic: when will movies die one and for all? tl;dl - It's now. They are gonna die now.    Trecia's Recommendation - Harlequin Presents - romance novels Jason's Recommendation - The Awkward Black Man by Walter Mosley Chris's Recommendation - Reddit

Have you set yourself goals and failed to achieve them? We set ourselves so many goals at the beginning of the year, but at the end of the year, we haven't come close to what we set out to do!Where do you want to be? What does success look like to you? Are your goals aligned to your WHY? Are you putting yourself outside your comfort zone to grow? We need to consider these questions when defining our goals. If you improve the way you set goals, you stand a much better chance of reaching a fulfilling destination and you will enjoy the journey along the way.In this episode, Sina Haghighat takes you through the common reasons behind why we fail to reach our goals and outlines 10 steps to help you crush your goals. You will learn how to set effective goals and follow through on them. Being goal-oriented will enable you to have a positive approach to life and not be phased by setbacks. Goals also directly contribute to productivity and are strongly associated with success. This episode is the second episode of a 3-part series. In episode 3 (5 Steps to Uncover Your WHY) we went through some self-discovery to uncover your purpose. In this episode we created goals that are aligned to your purpose and in the next episode, we are going to talk about habits that we can incorporate into your daily lives to achieve your goals. At the end of the series, you should have a clear pathway to reach your full potential.  Connect with First Serve:Instagram | @firstservepodcastFacebook | FirstServePodcastConnect with Sina:Instagram | @sinahaghighatWebsite | www.sinahaghighat.com Credits:Audio Engineer and Sound Designer: Dr Manu HoussainiPodcast Theme Song edited & Programmed: Dr Manu HoussainiMixed & Mastered: Dr Manu Houssaini

Neal McCready (RebelGrove.com) and Jay G. Tate (AuburnSports.com) reconvene to discuss a variety of topics including: • A hurricane is headed for the Gulf Coast. Be safe, Coasters! • Neal and Chance The Yapper have made a big change to their streaming game. • The Pac-12 is now preparing to play football? Why? • Are upsets going to be the standard in college football now? Home crowds are not a thing now. • Les Miles' situation is baffling. • Are face shields OK for football coaches to wear? Are they helpful? • The Big Ten's situation is even weirder now. • Jay's been drinking too much lately. Now he's changing that habit. • How much would you pay for a MLB team? One dude is ponying up $2.4 B. • What happens next for Giannis? This is a big deal; he's a big star. • Who is the best "building block" player in the NBA? ALSO CHECK OUT ... • AUTOMATION AND CONTROL SYSTEMS, LLC. (www.acsllcms.com) at 662-601-4381 * CATHEAD DISTILLERY, makers of fine vodka, gin, liqueur and now hand sanitizer! www.catheaddistillery.com * PINNACLE TRUST: www.pinntrust.com * JOHN EDWARDS of REGENCY TRAVEL: 901-494-3387 or jedwards@regencytravel.net or www.regencytravel.net

LAPD and California Highway Patrol officers chased, arrested, and beat Rodney King, a twenty-five-year-old Black man, in 1991, and the fateful encounter would lead to a verdict of “not guilty” for the four officers that brought the city of LA to its knees. Long standing racial tensions bubbled over the surface, and inflamed by a video of the altercation, people took to the streets, burning, looting, and brutalizing their fellow civilians. The LA riots happened just under thirty years ago, yet from a historical perspective - so recent. And they are one of many. Tulsa in 1921. Watts in 1965. Ferguson in 2014. So many in 2020. Why? Are black Americans actually being unfairly targeted by law enforcement? Or is that just the perception? The answer, as is so usually is, seems to be more complicated than many in the media would have you believe. I do my damndest today to answer some really complicated, complex, and culturally volatile and polarizing questions in this “Why can’t we all just get along?” edition, of Timesuck. Donated $7000 to the SBP. Founded in 2006 by a couple in St. Bernard Parish, its model is focused on streamlining the recovery process, which includes quickly rebuilding homes and restoring local businesses, and supporting policies that aid long-term recovery. Go to https://sbpusa.org/ to donate, volunteer, or find out more. Watch the Suck on YouTube: https://youtu.be/_PXWkpXRjEk Merch  - https://badmagicmerch.com/   Discord! https://discord.gg/tqzH89v COTC private FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/cultofthecurious/ For all merch related questions: https://badmagicmerch.com/pages/contact Please rate and subscribe on iTunes and elsewhere and follow the suck on social media!! @timesuckpodcast on IG and http://www.facebook.com/timesuckpodcast Wanna become a Space Lizard? We're over 9500 strong! Click here: https://www.patreon.com/timesuckpodcast  Sign up through Patreon and for $5 a month you get to listen to the Secret Suck, which will drop Thursdays at Noon, PST. You'll also get 20% off of all regular Timesuck merch PLUS access to exclusive Space Lizard merch. You get to vote on two Monday topics each month via the app. And you get the download link for my new comedy album, Feel the Heat. Check the Patreon posts to find out how to download the new album and take advantage of other benefits See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

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In this week and next week’s podcast episodes, you’ll hear a convo between me and Laura Max Rose, podcaster and mom of two precious little girls. Our main subject is the sibling relationship and the different layers involved - from sharing, to violence to our ultimate dream of our kids becoming besties. How does our own birth order or being an only child determine how we navigate sibling fighting and what messages our kids receive? Why should we stop telling our kids we’re proud of them? What do we say when one of our kids constantly compares themselves or their things to their sibs? Why ARE they making everything into a competition? Well, tune in this week and next where we’ll cover all these topics and more! Sign up for the Mastermind Parenting Crash Course If you like to learn more about the Mastermind Parenting 30 Day Crash Course, go to mastermindparenting.com/30 Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not to just improve the conversations and relationships in your family but digging in and doing this work will change your life. I can't wait for you to get started so I can teach you everything! Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/freeguide Apply for Free Coaching! Thank you so much for listening and being an amazing mama that listens to parenting podcasts! I absolutely love connecting with other moms during the Real Coaching with Randi monthly segment and share their story. If you would like to get some free coaching on a future episode, head over to https://mastermindparenting.com/freecoaching/ and hit the Apply button. Get my book! Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

DVR and Will discuss the activation of Luis Urías, how he fits into the Brewers' roster, the ongoing strikeout issues for the lineup to begin the season, and a very important four-game series on tap for the Brewers at Wrigley Field. Rundown1:36 Luis Urías Activated, How Does He Fit?5:38 How Often Will Keston Hiura DH?10:30 Thinking Ahead to the Trade Deadline13:59 Why Are the Brewers Striking Out So Much?24:48 A Big Series at Wrigley Follow Will on Twitter: @WillSammonFollow DVR on Twitter: @DerekVanRiper Get 40% off a subscription to The Athletic: theathletic.com/422 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Are the Leaves on the Tips of My Transplanted Japanese Red Maple Turning Brown?

Why Are the Leaves on the Tips of My Transplanted Japanese Red Maple Turning Brown?

You know the book Green Eggs and Ham? You probably feel like you have a good grasp on the lesson from that book—it's about trying new things and not limiting our options based on assumptions, right? But do you know the other lesson from that book? The one that's often overlooked? The second and maybe even more powerful lesson from Green Eggs and Ham is to ASK. And ask persistently. Sure, Sam-I-Am seems annoying at first. But isn't he the reason the other guy finally tries the Green Eggs and Ham? The one who helps him discover something he loves? Asking is the super power of Sam-I-Am. Kids have this same super power..."Why?" "Are we there yet?" "Why can't I stay up?" "Why do I have to...?" We often laugh about how annoying it can be when kids ask the same questions over and over. But asking is the key to unlocking the world. It is the super power to discover truth, get what you want and help others do the same. That's the hidden lesson from Green Eggs and Ham. So when did asking questions become taboo? It seems that somewhere in our experience the majority of us were taught, either directly or indirectly, that asking questions means your dumb. This could not be further from the truth.In this episode we explore the power of asking and introduce a NEW CHALLENGE! It's time to start asking for what you want. Like our next guest, The Blind Blogger, Maxwell Ivey puts it "If you don't ask, they can't say yes." When was the last time you simply asked for what you wanted? When was the last time you piped up and asked the question in a meeting or class? It's more than likely other people in the room had the same question. What have you been hoping for but have been too afraid to ask for?IDEAS FROM THIS EPISODEThe power of askingWhat to ask forThe ask challengeCheck out the 7 F's of Oola to decide in what area of your life you're going to start asking.https://www.oolalife.comWHO WE ARETwo family guys who show achievers how to put simple ideas to work in their busy lives so they can see better results.We believe in changeWe believe in the power of compounding daily habitsWe believe you can become the best version of yourselfWHAT WE DO"We put ideas to work in real life to get real results."We help you build confidence...By keeping promises to yourself.By taking daily steps forward.By creating habits that improve your life and move you forward.FOR MORE GREAT IDEAS - CONNECT, FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBEPodcast: Apple | Spotify | Google | WebsiteFacebook: @ideagympodcastInstagram: @idea.gymTHREE BOOKS WE RECOMMEND For great ideas you can put to work todayFinish by Jon AcuffThe Compound Effect by Darren HardyOola by Dave Braun and Troy Amdahl

Why Are the Leaves Falling Off Sycamore Trees?

Why Are the Leaves Falling Off Sycamore Trees?

Sunday services as usually. Minister Twon takes you on a journey on the beginning. With His wisdom and Daily Word. He also provides his New single Why Are we here to his upcoming Ep old Takes. Hope you enjoy it kinfolk!

Why Are the Tips of My Replanted Hostas Turning Brown?

Why Are the Tips of My Replanted Hostas Turning Brown?

Religiosity has become a dividing line in the culture war and in politics. Why? Are secularist disabled by their inability to comprehend because they intentionally dismiss religious language? We'll take a good look at a conversation between Michael and Karen and examine whether Zizek and Zero Day can really understand what Jordan was up to. LSOO Stories vs Reality The Fundamental Difference https://youtu.be/wuI-hEDhfCw LSOO Stories vs Reality: You are not a hero https://youtu.be/wuI-hEDhfCw With Brett Salkeld on Conspiracy Thinking https://youtu.be/U8YcHV5xuPY With Jonathan Pageau https://youtu.be/Wn7tF3Ej4hY With Dr. Jim https://youtu.be/HTZ4aK7bVto Myth and Mayhem a Leftist Critique of JBP https://amzn.to/3c55lPP Michael and Karen on the Meaning Code https://youtu.be/iUznC6iI02A Morals without Religion https://youtu.be/0LCTHGm1-lg IDW's Final Frontier https://youtu.be/Mbz3OPZP0EI Erik Haynes Tweet https://twitter.com/integralrising/status/1263819383274643458 Click here to meetup with other channel viewers for conversation https://discord.gg/jdVk8XU If you want to schedule a one-on-one conversation check here. https://paulvanderklay.me/2019/08/06/converzations-with-pvk/ There is a video version of this podcast on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/paulvanderklay To listen to this on ITunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/paul-vanderklays-podcast/id1394314333 If you need the RSS feed for your podcast player https://paulvanderklay.podbean.com/feed/ All Amazon links here are part of the Amazon Affiliate Program. Amazon pays me a small commission at no additional cost to you if you buy through one of the product links here. This is is one (free to you) way to support my videos. To support this channel/podcast on Paypal: https://paypal.me/paulvanderklay To support this channel/podcast with Bitcoin (BTC): 37TSN79RXewX8Js7CDMDRzvgMrFftutbPo To support this channel/podcast with Bitcoin Cash (BCH) qr3amdmj3n2u83eqefsdft9vatnj9na0dqlzhnx80h To support this channel/podcast with Ethereum (ETH): 0xd3F649C3403a4789466c246F32430036DADf6c62 Blockchain backup on Lbry https://lbry.tv/@paulvanderklay https://www.patreon.com/paulvanderklay Join the Sacramento JBP Meetup https://www.meetup.com/Sacramento-Jordan-Peterson-Meetup/ Paul's Church Content at Living Stones Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh7bdktIALZ9Nq41oVCvW-A  

In this episode of Pocketoid: Your dad is gonna be a Dad! Animal Crossing: New Horizons continues to be a love/anxiety affair. Final Fantasy VII Remake still continues to delight and surprise. Metal Slug is good and you should play it more. Streets of Rage 4 is the kind of game we do this show for. Dragon's Dogma is still stupid and still wonderful. Gun Crazy is a fun, cheap Treasure like game! Slayin 2 is a great follow up to a great indie game! Gamers are oppressed, because we can't buy Muscle March anywhere legally. Why ARE those streets so full of rage??Intro: Bubblegum K.K. (Remix) - QumuOutro: One For Kapp'n - Grimecraft x Maxo - GameChops

YOUR ANXIETY CAN BE BETTER MANAGED. LEARN HOW. WHY ARE  YOU ANXIOUS? HOW DID IT COME ABOUT?  DON'T LET IT RULE YOUR LIFE. WHAT TRIGGERS ANXXIETY FEELINGS FOR YOU?

Welcome to THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE℠ PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti and Jenell Riesner, this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north.  In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same. Today, we talk to Jake White - Jenell’s college friend, speaker, creator, and founder of Party.0 - throwing sober house parties with students across the nation! We unpack standing in your own truth despite being surrounded by a very different culture, when seemingly harmless habits start to take away your freedom and your life and keeping silent about who you truly are so that you aren’t rejected (yet you end up rejecting your true self). We consider creating a life built around creating and having the things you want versus removing the things that are bad. And finally, how college drinking culture is shifting and the invitation to play with spirituality as a path to who you truly are.  *note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+   RESOURCES MENTIONED: Party.0 Hammerschlagen UW Oshkosh (aka sloshkosh) Goop Lab Alan Watts - The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so... Music from: https://www.jukedeck.com/   3 KEY TAKEAWAYS: 30% of college students don’t drink or do drugs - THAT’S ALMOST ⅓!! And we are shocked because no one is talking about it. What else are people hiding that might be WAY more normal than they have been led to believe? What have you been hiding that you are ready to own for yourself? Many times cultural norms keep us from sharing who we actually are, which keeps us silent and isolated. And it keeps us from potentially realizing that there is a decent-sized community of people that exist who feel like we do and have a shared experience. Give yourself permission to share our truth, you might be surprised by the community that already exists and wants to show up with you.  Recognizing where you’re using shortcuts to experiencing the things you want can help you actually build the skill set needed to have those things more readily available in your life. If you want, say, connection, to have fun, cope with stress, try something new, but you are using something to help you get there (like drugs or alcohol or pretending to be someone else or even fashion/make-up, etc) then you are robbing yourself of the chance to learn the skills of creating what you want to have, without having to rely on a crutch. You are robbing yourself of the joy, the rush, the novelty, and the thrill of truly figuring out how to live life purely as you, on your own, without relying on something outside of yourself. Spirituality can be a huge support in connecting mind, energy, body to the bigger picture of life, to the life force that exists beyond us. When we are unsure of how to trust in ourselves or know what to do or how to be true to ourselves, we can invite ourselves to tap into universal life energy (or Universe or God or whatever you call it) to gain more insight and wisdom about how we make our next move. It is a co-creation process between ourselves and what lies beyond all of us. Between us as individual energy sources and the larger energy source that exists and remains and keeps going when all are gone. What else is there that allows life to happen? What more is out there beyond ourselves that can support us in creating the life we want?      TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES: [1:00] Rachel almost hoarks [2:50] Hitchhiking + close calls  [9:30] Introducing Jake! [12:23] Seeing family members struggling with addiction [18:00] Why ARE you drinking? [23:30] Being sober + FUN! [27:00] Short-cuts vs. skillsets [34:00] Making alcohol the scapegoat for poor choices [42:00] What does a sober party look like? [52:00] Find yourself a hype person [1:05:00] How college drinking culture is shifting [1:07:00] Habits, compulsions, addictions - recognizing when seemingly harmless habits become harmful coping mechanisms [1:15:00] Spirituality + spiritual wellness [1:20:00] Allowing everyone’s truth to arise [1:27:00] You cannot know the “right” answer [1:33:00] How do you live your TRUE NORTH? [1:33:30] Contact Jake via party0.org via IG @party.0 or highschool/middle school platform via IG @vive18

Support this podcast Nazis are bad! The Communists who defeated them are good! Somehow, this is massively confusing to Alberta Premier Jason Kenney! Joined by special guest Breht O'Shea of Revolutionary Left Radio, Team Advantage examines Jason Kenney's confused sense of history. Why is he such a big fan of the debunked Black Book of Communism? Are Nazism and Communism the same, as Jason Kenney proposes? Who (and what social forces) benefit from this reading of history? Thanks to Breht O'Shea of Revolutionary Left Radio for joining us. Find RLR at revolutionaryleftradio.com and on Twitter @RevLeftRadio. Further reading: Debunking: “Communism killed more people than naziism!” by Morgan Visser https://medium.com/@discomfiting/debunking-communism-killed-more-people-than-naziism-7a9880696f67 Why Are the Trump White House and Media Citing an Antisemitic Book’s Claims to Demonize Communism? by Ben Norton https://www.alternet.org/2017/11/trump-media-antisemitic-black-book-communism-whitewash-nazis/ The “Double Genocide” Theory: The New and Official Form of Holocaust Denial by Dovid Katz https://jewishcurrents.org/the-double-genocide-theory/ Bill to remember 'Ukrainian Genocide' under Stalin treads tricky ground by Lahav Harkov https://www.jpost.com/Israel-News/Bill-to-remember-Ukrainian-Genocide-under-Stalin-treads-tricky-ground-540847 Edmonton monument glorifies Nazi collaborator https://www.edmontonjewishnews.com/edmonton-monument-glorifies-nazi-collaborator/

Have you struggled with finding your personal Why? Are you aware of how your Why leads to clarity and direction when you’re finding your path? Today I’m talking to one of my best friends, Miranda Barrett,  Vice President of Membership Growth and Retention at the Community Company. The Community Company builds and manages communities for business leaders. Miranda was fortunate to work with Life Coach Jamie Douraghy on finding her WHY. As someone who also worked with Jamie, I can attest to the importance of finding your why, and how it leads to clarity and direction when finding your path.    Miranda and I worked together for many years and became friends as we traveled the world together. We both made career changes around the same time and she’s here today to share how she went from a full-time executive to a full-time consultant and back to a full-time executive. Miranda also shares her story of hiking the Sierra Nevada trail—being totally present in the experience and how this experience allowed her to shut off her brain for a few days.    Show Highlights It’s important to assess where you are in your current role and if your required needs being met. Sometimes the best way to grow is to leave a situation. Making career changes often leads to home, life, and financial changes. If you are thinking of making life changes you need to ask yourself WHY.    “I think to anyone who may be in a situation thinking about going, first, understand that you can. You're not an indentured servant. You have to be smart about it financially. Digging down to what the root of the problem is, is so important.” Miranda Barrett, Community Company    Resources: Find Miranda on LinkedIn Find Jamie Douraghy on LinkedIn Find Andy Bailey on LinkedIn  Mama Story Book   Contact Renee:   renee@reneemanning.com Instagram: @Biggest_small_things  Subscribe: https://mailchi.mp/939b8210f2f2/bst   *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com   

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Why ARE kick counts so important, and what can they do for you? Today I’m talking about how to do kick counts, when to do them, and the benefits you’ll find from them (not the least of those benefits being getting out of cleaning up dinner dishes). Let’s untangle this one.

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See Red Fred @cbefred interviews Kevin Anderson of NBC Sports Chicago to discuss the continuing slide of the Beloved Bulls: Boylen Christmas Song 0:01 Why Are the Bulls A Tire Fire? 3:00 Are the Bulls better than… 6:00 Player Regression 10:43 Lauri’s Diet : 15:10 Boylen’s Job 21:00 The post Chicago Bullseye 441 – The Bulls Slide Continues Part 1 appeared first on Chicago Bullseye.

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A cancer diagnosis is scary and totalizing. Hospital visits, financial stress, and lingering uncertainty affect the entire family unit. Brad Grammer shares about learning to cry, stupid stuff people say, and the importance of counseling. Along the way, lessons emerge on how to support families well as they grapple with cancer. 00:04- Opening quote by Brad Grammer Brad Grammer Spend more time just asking questions and listening just to find out what that person really would be encouraged and benefited by. Maybe they don't get encouraged at all by giving advice about how to deal with your cancer. They just want you to listen and have somebody to cry with, you know.   00:24- Intro I think he's been sick. She just seems sad all the time. I think something happened at home. What should we do?   You want to help someone when they're going through a hard time. But it can be difficult to know what to do or what to say. Hi, I'm Liesel Mertes and this is the Handle with Care podcast, where we talk about empathy at work.   On each episode. I welcome a guest that has lived through a disruptive life event. We cover topics from death to divorce to that scary diagnosis and in each story, we give you actionable tips on what you can do to show empathy and give support as a manager a co-worker or a friend.   Thanks.   01:18– Meet Brad Grammer Liesel Mertes Today's guest is Brad Grammer. Brad is an old friend of our family and he's been around at some really important moments. For example, when Moses, my youngest son, was preparing for his first open heart surgery, Brad was sitting in the waiting room with us. Also, as we prepared for Moses' open heart surgery, we had this event called Mohawks with Moses where we gave Mo a mohawk and there were a lot of young boys like 4 and 6 year olds that joined in. And Brad was one of the few adults that actually opted, in a show of solidarity, to get a mohawk as well.   Brad himself is no stranger to grief. And today he's speaking about his wife Laura and her journey with an aggressive form of leukemia. But first, before we dive into our conversation, let me offer a little bit of background. As I mentioned, Brad is married to Laura and he is the father of two grown sons. Brad and Laura love adventurous foods.   Brad Grammer Something told us about a Mexican restaurant that serves a big huge meat platter for like 30 bucks and you could easily feed a family of five or six just from that one plate.   Liesel Mertes They love travel and watching sports.   Brad Grammer And sometimes we just sit and relax and don't do anything watch sports. My wife's a big sports fan. So is she. Oh yes yes. For football's special teams local and national international. We're talking about soccer.   Liesel Mertes She's even watching cricket.   Brad Grammer Yeah exactly. Yes. Yes.   Liesel Mertes Brad also loves taking long evening walks. These evening walks are helpful to decompress because of Brad's role as a social worker, which can take a particular toll.   03:09- Life as a social worker Brad Grammer For the past two years, I've been a foster care case manager and my job is the foster children are my clients. So my job is to see them each week, engage with them, identify what are the kind of, understand that their backgrounds and what their traumas are. And we've had some training in things like fair play and trust based relational interventions so we like practice these playful activities and engagement with them to help them learn how to develop trust with an adult after they've gone through their own traumas their own betrayal.   03:45- A litany of hard things Liesel Mertes While Brad is going to be speaking primarily about his wife, Laura's, cancer diagnosis, her cancer is just one part of a decade of disruption.   Brad Grammer It probably began about 11 years ago with my wife getting was diagnosed with leukemia and acute lymphoblastic leukemia, which is a bad form of leukemia you get as an adult. And that set off a whole year of treatments. That was intense and very difficult. It's a very difficult cancer to fight and deal with and many people die not because of the leukemia itself but because of the treatment plan the treatment plan is so harsh and intense that it can damage so many things like different organs that all of a sudden give out.   And so there's that in and of itself is just kind of a crazy year of all kinds of things that happen. And that was followed by the death of both of my parents, the loss of relationship with my younger brother the loss of my job. Individuals who we had committed to be in a relationship for life, you know, working together on our lives together and experiencing betrayal with them and losing relationships with several people that I thought we were gonna be friends forever. And I lived in a very urban environment where lots of things happened.   So I'm experiencing regular traumas of, you know, just having an 18 year old shot and killed in front of my house and having my own friend, a pastor friend, shot and killed in his church...seeing his blood and his flesh all over the steps of his church and trying to help his church walk through the grieving process of that. Having people in my own congregation when I was a pastor, people that I loved, commit suicide or die from some other kind of some kind of addictive behavior or trauma in their life. So this is just an ongoing thing that happened for ten eleven years and things still happen to this day.   But it's just there doesn't seem to be as intense as during those 10-11 years where it just seemed like that it was one month to the next month to the next month. Something was happening every month that was just all these different tragedies and traumas and feeling completely unprepared initially facing these things. How do I deal with this? What, how do I survive? At that point, you're just talking survival you're not even talking about dealing with it well. You're just like, how do I even survive? How do I even know that I'm going to be able to get up the next day and still breathe going through all of this?   That was it was quite overwhelming. And and then kind of looking back on those years, be able to see how how do you not only survive it but then how do you process it in a way that that you're not just a dysfunctional adult, now you can't do anything and can't function at all because there is definitely period of time where I thought I wasn't gonna be able to function anymore as an adult and would I be able to keep a job, would I be able to stay in relationship with anybody? Because I just wasn't handling that trauma well and figuring out how to be come healthy and how to heal from those things was a very lengthy process.   07:11– The diagnosis of Laura’s cancer Liesel Mertes There's so many pieces of that story that I want to touch on. Let's...let's begin:  you commented on those early stages of trying to find any sort of equilibrium, the shock, the sense of that. Which brings us to where we began in 2007. What was your life stage with Laura and what did it look like in those first couple of months of reckoning with the news of this very aggressive cancer and how that was affecting your life roles and your position? Tell us a little bit of that.   Brad Grammer Yeah my wife at that time was working in a school; she was dean of the school she was working in and I was a pastor of a small Sunday evening congregation at that time and we had two young boys:  ten and eleven years old. And so here we are really liking our roles, enjoying our jobs and, and all of a sudden get slammed with this news. My wife had become very ill in October; we thought she was just having like flu symptoms and would go to the emergency room because she was just really in this intense pain. And then they kind of misdiagnosed her as maybe having rheumatoid arthritis and sent her home but after she went to her doctor about a week or two later and got blood tests, they found that she had leukemia.   08:33- Immediate hospitalization Brad Grammer I think part of the shock of that is you don't get any time to think about it. Within two hours of being told we were in the hospital, you started treatment in the hospital. They told her she'd be there for 30 days that she wouldn't be able to work for a year. And me being the person who runs the finances of the home, I'm thinking I'm gonna have to sell my house because she made two thirds of the income. And we kind of live we need her income to be able to survive.   So we're gonna have to sell the house. So for the first couple weeks I think she was in shock, just being jarred with this news and having to be thrown into treatment immediately because if she didn't receive treatment immediately she could die within a week or two. So it was like, it had to be quick. It had to start right away. And for me I'd have to go home and cry myself to sleep for a couple weeks. Fortunately I was somebody who already understood the value of having a therapist in your life, somebody that you can trust to go to and talk. And so I hadn't been to him in a while so I'm like well this is the time to go. So I went to him.   09:37- The importance of counseling Brad Grammer It's time to back on the couch exactly because I learned, as an adult, an adult skill and many adults haven't learned this. But when you hit an area or a season of time that you don't know what to do, you ask for help just like what we teach our kids. If you don't know how to do this one task, then ask the adult to help you. Well, that's what we do as adults. Ideally, we should be asking for help when we're hitting a difficult season of life. So that's what I did.   10:06- Be the hope Brad Grammer  I went to him and and he asked me why I was cried myself to sleep at night and I was thinking about her dying, my wife, and how my kids are going to be affected. And so he said, "Well do you want her to die?" "No!" I was offended that you asked that. Please clarify. "Well, you know Brad, she's alive today and you have her today so each day you can just take one day at a time and face the day and know that as long as she is alive, there is hope and you keep engaging and you never have to tell your boys about the possibility of dying even though she was getting a 20 percent chance to live."    We just don't share that information with them; it's too much for kids to handle. It's hard enough for me as an adult to handle that. So, I took his advice. It was invaluable advice just to, because I didn't realize, I think...I don't know if it's an American way of living, but I didn't realize how much I'm living in the future before it comes. I was thinking, planning, what's coming next. And that experience forced me to face the moment, live in the moment today. And that helped me to be the hope that my wife needed when she was overwhelmed and shocked by all this in this treatment because her body's being thrown into this chaos as well as just emotionally dealing with like, "Am I gonna live or die?"   In my response I'm not saying that I did it all well. You know, you make a lot of mistakes when you're going through it, especially because I, like most adults, are unprepared for when things like this happen. And so we're kind of learning as you go along. So I learned that it was important that I be the hope when she felt despairing and to always believe that she was going to live unless there was absolutely no evidence to show that she was going to live. That I needed to be the one to keep hoping and that until her last breath went away, I was not going to believe that she was going to die.   And that's what my counselor encouraged me, like you don't need to think about her dying. It's like, if it happens, then you can deal with it. But until then, you don't have to be thinking about that and all your focus is:  she's alive today. How can I be there with her present today? If I was thinking about the future, that would weigh my heart down so much, it would it would prevent me from hearing her from seeing her, from knowing what does she need each day as she was going through this process.    I think sometimes I can be so hopeful that I wasn't able to like just sit and grieve with her about what was happening. And I think that's sometimes why I've missed it with her, as just being attentive to her. I'm just feeling sorrow, feeling pain, comforting her with this hugs and then just being with her. Sometimes, I was so, I was on so much adrenaline trying to attend to the needs of my job, my kids and her and trying to balance all this out but sometimes I feel like I did neglect what she was feeling and just trying to pay attention to that.   So I vacillated between being good at being present and hopeful and encouraging and then missing her sometimes because I was too busy trying to keep it all together.   13:30– Feeling hopeless and what to do about it Liesel Mertes Where did you feel hopeless? And what actually spoke into those feelings as you walked with that?   Brad Grammer I think that, for me, the hopelessness was that I, I don't think I can get through this and I don't have what it takes. And how, how am I going to recover from this? Whether it's even after my wife had this treatment for a year and we had just a beautiful gift that somebody gave us to go away and travel and do this trip and just and she was able to travel. The doctors at that time weren't sure if she was gonna relapse, there's a 50 percent chance of relapse the first year after treatment. So it's like, he was kind of saying like, "Hey, if there's anything you want to do in life, this is the time to do it."   So we asked him if we can travel to this one place in this one country. And he said Yeah and somebody had just given us this gift, so it didn't cost us anything. And I remember, just while my wife is having a great time, I was having this, basically a breakdown, an emotional breakdown. I was crying every day and then...I actually think that when I feel hopeless and despairing, it's important to remember to cry because that is part of what my heart feels. And that's one of the ways that you take care of your heart is that you need to plan in time to cry. It's very important because something bad has happened. There's something really sad that has gone on and it's very important to not try and act like I can handle this.   You know the American mentality. I can pull myself by my own bootstraps and I can, I can, I can still make it. That's really important to like allow yourself to be weak and to cry and invite people into that life. There's got to be at least a couple people that you can invite into that. For some people who maybe don't have those kind of relationships, what they find is having a support group for whether you've like, there's a there's a support group for people with leukemia and lymphoma and there for people with the disease as well as those that are caretakers.   They were, I didn't go for very long, but I just remember the great piece of advice that they gave us, like get away, take a break, go on a retreat by yourself. And I just couldn't do it because I was like, "But what if my wife dies while I'm away?" like I would just think. And they were just saying, you got to do it anyway. And they were like, at that moment it was a great piece of advice, I needed to get away.   16:01- The importance of 2 AM friends Brad Grammer And that's part of what helped me turn me up in the time where I was just like hopeless and having, for me I did have friends who are like, "You call me at 2:00 in the morning if that's when you're you need to call," because, sometimes your pain and grief, it's not convenient time wise. It does happen in the middle of the night. So I had a couple of friends I could call anytime of the day or night. That's very important when you feel weak and hopeless. That's again, the adult skill. That's when you asked for help. That's when you let people know. I remember one time I was just crying in the hospital my brother in law and sister in law just, you know, held me and cried with me, you know, and that is hugely encouraging for me. That may not be for other people you know but for me that helped gird me, to know that I wasn't in that pain alone. Somebody was willing to feel the pain with me they weren't afraid of the pain and they're willing to feel it with me. So those are the kind of things; I think it was more than a human contact, more personal connection, is what strengthened me at that time where I just felt like I couldn't go on and where I felt hopeless. For me, it was just purely relationship.   17:18– Practical ways to help:  meals, rides, gifts, and health insurance Liesel Mertes On top of this human care and interaction, there were some really practical tasks that people assisted Brad and Lara with that were especially meaningful.   Brad Grammer It was really beautiful because both of our workplaces were jarred quite a bit by this. Because our work communities loved us and cared about us as a family as well as individuals. And so, one thing that they did, it was just so amazing, is that both my wife's workplace and my workplace appointed, they had an appointed person and so if I needed anything, I called one of those people and said hey I need this. And that's all I had to do and they would set off and contact people to do whatever, whether and they set up a meal plan. And this is a meal plan for a whole year wasn't just for two weeks when you're set up for a whole year.   Liesel Mertes And so you said, "Please, I prefer ethnic food."   [Brad Grammer Exactly. That's all I want more than anything. But that was, so meal plans were all set up. I sometimes, I, my wife she needed, she had to be either in the hospital every day or go to the hospital every day. So if she wasn't, if she was at home then she needed a ride to the hospital. A lot of times, I could do it. But there are times I just couldn't right and Laura needs a ride. And that's a particular need and the fact that she just doesn't want anybody because she wants somebody that's comfortable with her throwing up in their car.   So, and you know, you want to feel comfortable with this person to some degree in order to throw up in their car.   Liesel Mertes It's like benchmarks of intimacy.   Brad Grammer Right. Exactly. Throwing up as a little bit more intimate issue than just getting a general ride and you know my boys needed rides at school, sometime needed to be watched.   Some ladies were so beautiful, they just would come and just clean my house. They didn't even ask me. They said, they would just say, "Hey, we're coming over this day and we're gonna come clean your house." It even, just, during the Christmas holiday season I had somebody just offer to do this and I said of course and they just took the boys Christmas shopping for us as their parents. It felt so thoughtful.   One of the most amazing things this one person did is a lady that said, I don't, "I'm trying to figure out what I can do to support you. I thought I'm going to do what I'm good at." So she normally is in H.R. and businesses and she said let me just handle all your medical bills. So I would give all my medical bills to her, because unfortunately, you know insurance companies would deny a certain percentage naturally just because they're trying to not pay for everything. And so, they would deny bills that are meant to be covered by the insurance companies. So she would handle all that problem and all she would do is, that like she'd hand me a bill and say pay this bill.   And you know I had a stack maybe six inches or more tall of bills that, there are bills where like a million dollars from that year. And fortunately, we had insurance. So very grateful for that. But that was such a huge gift something I would never have thought about. Like I just thought that was something I would have to be responsible for but that was such an amazing gift. Just to take that detail that really was quite burdensome and to manage it all and just all I had to do is just pay the bill whatever she gave me.   Liesel Mertes As someone who has lost so many hours of my life to talking on the phone to figuring out those insurance bills, crying on the phone, I listen to that and I go, oh my gosh, yes, that was like a priceless gift. Huge!   Brad Grammer Yes. That's, you, yeah, I mean, it was something that you just don't normally think about. But that was the best way to serve.   21:01- Learning to ask for help Brad Grammer You know, one thing I was thinking about is that I would communicate to people is what a friend of mine who actually is going through cancer treatment at that time...he was a pastor himself and told me to be sure and just tell people what you want. Anything. It doesn't have to be even a legitimate thing. If you want a gift card to Starbucks, just say so. You know, so like, I would ask for, you know gas cards because we were driving in the hospital all the time and they're quite far away from home. And then, or I just ask for Starbucks cards. I was set for Starbucks for a year. I was set up, I got Starbucks   Liesel Mertes Sometimes there's nothing that communicates comfort like a latte!   Brad Grammer For me getting up in the morning and sitting in the hospital room, sometimes that was just the best part of my day, was just to have a nice latte while I'm just waking up with my wife. You know, and she's dealing with another day of treatment and I was just thinking, like that was so amazing. Because  not only would people do that gladly and happily, that it showed just the support, the level of support. I got a gift card from Thailand from people who live in Thailand, a Starbucks gift card. And I was like, What? But just to show that people were thinking of you all over the world was a huge encouragement, just to get those little things.   So, I remember just that's an important thing to tell people be sure and just let people...people want to do things for you. And people, they're walking through this with you and they feel helpless. So when you say little things like that, if they feel like they can do something and this is their way of supporting you, and that's a huge thing. To make sure that people, because some people, my wife is one of these people, she was pretty independent, pretty self-sufficient. She can handle her life pretty much and so she wasn't used to asking for help. I think I tend to be the weaker one; I ask for help more so it was easy for me to ask. But, I know for some people, it might be hard because they're just not used to doing that. But, just to remind them that people really do want to support you and help you. And that's one way you can do is just, something even simple and easy.   23:16 – Stupid advice, comments, and small talk Liesel Mertes In many ways Brad was well supported but he was also missed. As you think about this arc of what happened, whether it was Laura's diagnosis or the death of your parents or, you know, this trauma. What are some things that rise to the fore where you go, this was really painful in how this individual responded or I was so missed here.   Brad Grammer There was, I think when my wife was sick with cancer, people come up with all kinds of things like, well you know you read that, like, if you just didn't drink too much milk...this will really help with the, you know, that cancer diminishing cancer cells and stuff. So people come up with all kinds of ideas and and they will offer that information without thinking, like maybe the person doesn't want to hear that information or maybe their information is very inaccurate and not helpful at all. And so, that can be kind of discouraging, just to have people kind of throw information at you without checking to see if you even want to hear it.   You know, I think, probably one of the things I would really encourage people to do is spend more time just asking questions and listening, just to find out what that person really would be encouraged by or benefited by. Maybe they don't get encouraged at all by giving advice about how to deal with your cancer. They just want you to listen and have somebody to cry with, you know. I remember one guy and I think it was kind of a trigger for me. I was just livid with him. He came up and asked me, "Have you been able to get enough time to exercise?" I'm like, exercise?!?! Inside, I was going, to exercise. I'm like, I'm going to the hospital everyday, I'm taking care of my kids, I'm doing my job. I don't have time to breathe and I'm getting five hours of sleep a night. Maybe I don't have time to do anything.   And, but from his perspective, he was thinking and I and I do remember kind of going off on him in a little bit and he responded by saying exercise helped him when he's really stressed. Exercise is a great stress reliever. Well part of that is just his ignorance about knowing what my life was like, how every day was just full and very intense and difficult. And you know, there's some things that just you have to put to the wayside. And he just unaware because he'd never gone through something like this before so he was only reverting to what was familiar to him.   So, it would have been good and important for him to be able to ask me questions first to see what my daily life was like and that would help him to see, like, oh I shouldn't make this kind of comment, you know. And it doesn't have to be a hurtful comment, like you said, it was just a pretty innocent thing. He was asking about, it was such a trigger for me because it signified, like, you have no idea what I'm going through then you don't care because you didn't even ask what my life is like.   26:12- The importance of listening Brad Grammer  And so, I think just really listening and hearing what a person's life is like each day can be way more valuable than giving any advice or asking questions like that. That's, I think, for me where people most miss. They assume, maybe, that you're, you're dealing with it better than you are and there's an assumption that, that you could have just a normal conversation when, in actuality, it's hard for you to even have a normal conversation. And the best thing you could do is just ask questions and listen.   26:50- Words of insight Liesel Mertes You mentioned the importance of learning how to walk with these experiences and integrate them into your life in a way that allowed you to be a healthy version of yourself instead of someone who had just endured something or gotten through and, how, what were, what are the things that you would offer to someone who is walking in the year, the two years, the three years after something like this has happened that have been important for you as you move beyond that immediate stage of loss and tragedy and what's it like?   27:31- Tell your story Brad Grammer There's quite a few things. I was actually thinking even just this conversation with you this morning is healing because even though there's so many things that have been years later, just to be able to look back and talk about it is very encouraging. It's part of life. I think you're probably well aware of this as you've been talking about people and what they're going through, how important is to reprocess your story again, talk about it again. Because sometimes when you, something else will come to you and you realize, Oh I think I think I maybe need to that or you know, so like right regularly revisiting your story with somebody that you trust, just to be able to, can help, just to be able to not only remind yourself of things that you've learned that have been a good thing that help you  to continue moving forward so that you know what to do. If you just don't talk about it then it's a lot harder to identify what do you need to be healthy in doing this.   28:36- Let yourself cry Brad Grammer  I think regularly grieving is a good thing for the long term. Like that's I know, I have a friend who when he first started facing his sexual abuse, I think just giving him permission to hurt over that was a big important step. But when he started crying, he cried every day for three months and it was really intense crying. Sometimes, he would lose his hearing when he would cry. It was a hard crying. I think a lot of people are afraid of that and part of the reason they're afraid of that is that they feel like they'll never stop crying and that it will kill them. I mean, it's, it's an irrational fear but that's part of what they feel. But your heart really needs it. And so, like then, just to encourage people, you won't die and you will make it through it and you will stop crying. So, just giving yourself permission to cry as much as you need to and eventually you will, you will stop crying, you will start to feel healthier, you start to feel stronger.   29:41- General tips on anxiety and self-care Brad Grammer There's lots of things I've been doing, just little things. Because after a lot of trauma I've been through, one of the things that was hard for me is just to be out in public. I would get anxiety attacks and I never understood that before and, even me helping people. But now I understand it. It's a, it's a really irrational thing. It doesn't always make sense but it feels like impending doom. It feels like you're not, something that, really bad is going to happen. And so I understand those attacks now. So I'd be one to know, like how much time I need to be alone and be away from people is real important. Regularly reading things, like fun reading but also like reading that talks about the specific aspects of what I've been through, whether it's the grief, depression, sorrow. But doing what I can to learn to help myself and getting exercise was an important part of   Liesel Mertes Screw that guy!   Brad Grammer I know exactly, it's like, I hate that he said that but I, but I think it still is important, like as I'm in the healing path, it's real important that I do even just if all I can do is walk. Like, even through my own cancer treatment. I was so exhausted by it all but if I could just walk that was still something good, good for me to be able to.   31:06- Spirituality and community Brad Grammer You know, I'm a spiritual person. I identify as a Christian so praying was really important to, say to regularly pray and read the Bible. So I would get so much encouragement just from what I would read. And what I would pray and then praying with other people and visiting with people who will, who will really hear you and really know you. Like it's important to spend time not just with people but with those people you know who who do feed you, who do build into you, who are a strength for you.   So that means sometimes I would really limit a lot of my social involvement and I would just be restricted to those important people. All those components together were part of the healing process and part of helping me to be able to be stronger to handle the next tragedy that's going to happen.   31:58- It takes time to heal Brad Grammer And also not putting a time limit on when I need to heal. I think that stresses some people out as they feel like they need to be healed within three to six months or something. And sometimes it takes years to recover from something and that's OK. I mean, our culture does not have patience for people and does not respect that. But to honor being a human being you must respect the fact that there are some things that just take a long time to heal from and it's OK. Yeah. You don't have to shame yourself for that.   32:35- The perils of small talk Brad Grammer Because we don't really have any guidance or education on these things. People don't know how to handle it. And so they every time somebody sees you they'll ask you how are things going. And some days that'll just trigger, you know, like I feel horrible. I feel like I'm going to die and I want to punch you right now.   Liesel Mertes Or, you know, you just feel it, the compulsion to default to:  fine.   Brad Grammer Yeah. Exactly. Just, just to get him out of your face because you just don't even want to deal with it. And I remember I was going through, funny enough, I was going through a Starbucks drive through and getting, with my gift card and I just remember, I was just feeling so horrible inside because my wife was just doing so poorly and I'm just really struggling. I was not in a good space and, and I was just being honest with the guy and he does that to me like, "So how are you doing today?" I said, "I'm doing really shitty." And he goes like, "Why? Are you having a bad day?". And I lost it. I'm like, "I don't have the luxury of having a bad day. My wife has cancer!" and he was like, "Oh I'm so sorry." He's like, panicking,   Liesel Mertes Now, was this in person or through the drive window?   Brad Grammer Through the drive thru window. And he was like, "Here's your coffee, goodbye."   Liesel Mertes He should have comped you that drink.   Brad Grammer I was sat there thinking, like, I wish I could go back and just ask forgiveness for that because I lost it with him and he had nothing to do with it at all. He was just doing like the motions of the social niceties, you know. But I think like those social niceties like, like if somebody knows that I'm going through a hard time I'm probably not the best question to ask is, "How are you doing?"   Liesel Mertes The social niceties, which are really just meant to kind of grease an interaction become painful   34:20– Learn to ask better good questions Brad Grammer Exactly and like, and be able to equip people with different kinds of questions is, is important on a social interaction. But we don't, where did we learn that skill? It's not like you really have somebody who will teach you that. But ideally, it would be great if, if there's somebody that could teach us like, OK when somebody with a really hard time, these questions are actually better, yeah, than the social niceties that don't work. Like the social niceties, what they come across as is belittling the person's life and making it seem like it's manageable when that person feels like my life is not manageable. I am our of control. I feel horrible and not feeling that they're free to say that. And because it's not acceptable to be honest in many places, maybe the work environment in particular, it's like it's OK, to say like, I'm having a rough day but that's it. OK let's stop right there.   Liesel Mertes But it certainly won't affect my productivity...   Brad Grammer Right exactly. I will of course be the most the best employee ever as a result of my trauma.   Liesel Mertes As you look back at the younger version of yourself, if there were words that you could offer to that, you know, still finding his equilibrium Brad or someone who's going through something similar. You've had a lot to offer, but just, as a sense, what would you say to that younger version of yourself?   35:47- Get a therapist and go to a support group Brad Grammer I would say definitely go to a therapist or go to a support group for the thing that you're going through. You don't realize how important that is, just to have a listening ear, a compassionate response, somebody who can say, "Oh me too I'm going through the same thing," how invaluable that is. Because a lot of times, maybe we can work out the details of like you know how we're going to do dinner who's going to give a ride or...but it's that emotional support is typically where we are unprepared emotionally to handle the trauma that we're going through or the tragedies.   36:23- Ask people for help Brad Grammer So it's really important to always pursue people ask for help. Don't try and be the independent, I can handle this myself. That will not get you through this time at all. It'll only create problems for you later if not immediately. So always seek out help. Oh, and if you're not a person who normally is used to asking for that kind of support, it may be difficult to push through it. You will always benefit from it. And I would also remind myself that people make mistakes. So we have to be ready to offer forgiveness at some point for people who make mistakes. But to always remember that they they are trying to care for you and they are trying to show, in their awkward and sometimes childish way, they are trying to offer something.   37:14- You won’t be perfect Brad Grammer And so to get to, to not feel like I have to have this pressure to act perfectly and give them grace and just be this perfect person, but that just, at some point to know that, lik,e you know, people are really ill equipped to handle these things in life.   Liesel Mertes Thank you Brad for joining us.   Brad Grammer Like I said, thank you for even asking and having me here. Like that, there's a healing element that happens, Just having somebody pursue and ask questions. It's a beautiful thing.   37:55 – Closing thoughts Liesel Mertes Brad is a teacher at heart and he certainly gave us a lot of actionable tips that he wove throughout this story of his journey with Laura towards healing. Here are three closing thoughts.   38:07- #1, find support networks and the Cancer Support Community Liesel Mertes One if you or someone you love is going through cancer. Reach out to available support networks. Find a counselor or a support group. And if you don't know where to start, a great resource for those of you in Indianapolis is the Cancer Support Community. I was just at their building today. They're located off of 71  Street near Eagle Creek. And the Cancer Support Community offers free resources to those with cancer as well as their caregivers. There's a yoga studio, community gardens, cooking classes and one on one counseling available. The Cancer Support Community can be found online at cancersupportindy.org   38:52- #2, there are many ways to help, find one! Liesel Mertes Number two, if someone in your office or community is journeying with cancer, there are so many ways to help. Organized meals, offer rides, give Starbucks gift cards or help to process those medical bills. Reach out and offer what is in your power to give.   39:16- #3, beware of social niceties Liesel Mertes And finally, number three, be wary of those easy social niceties. We so often default to easy clichés or trite phrases or giving advice when it's not actually wanted. Take more time to actually listen and weigh your words before offering canned comfort.   39:44- Outro Thanks for listening to the Handle with Care podcast. Handle with Care is produced by Brian Wheat at Village Recording studios. Original music is composed by the talented musical pairing, Duo Futur.   If you like what you hear. Please take a moment to subscribe, rate, and review the show. It helps other people find us. Thanks for listening. This is a Liesel Mertes and I will be back next time. As we build empathy at work.  

What does staying relevant in ministry look like? And is it something we should strive for as Christians? Are we at risk for compromising the gospel when trying to be relevant to our culture? In this episode, Holly and I dive into the issue of staying relevant in ministry. We explore the tension between relevant and traditional, what “relevant” actually means, how we can stay relevant, and what the Bible has to say about the topic. Finally, we discuss some of the implications for us as leaders if we want to remain relevant, as well as some questions to ask yourself to determine if your ministry is relevant.  Relevant vs. Traditional (a.k.a. “old school”): The word “relevant” tends to be a hot button issue.  Some people think it means trendy, compromising the Gospel message, and wearing skinny jeans. Some assume that if your church or ministry wants to be relevant, then it automatically means you are focused only on non-believers, on being “seeker-friendly” and on attracting large numbers. If we think of it this way, it’s easy to throw it out and say that it’s not a valid approach. Then we have another camp that we might call traditional or  “old school”. At a glance, some people might think of “old school” as people who just want to stick to their traditions, keep church the same size, and only preach the Bible verse by verse.  Again, it might be easy to throw out this approach if you take it at face value.  But we need to dig a little deeper. What are some of the positives and negatives of the “old school” churches or Christians? Pros: They are purists and help us stay true to God’s word, his message, and keep us seeking his face.   Usually very focused on “community feel” in their church. Appreciate the rich heritage of Christianity and what’s been done in the past. Cons: When people think how  “we used to do it” is actually the most truly divine and inspired way.   When we cling to things that are preference and not truly biblically we become out of touch to the general population around us.   Focusing on the “good old days” rather than adapting and asking “how can we reach the younger generations?”. What are some of the positives of the “trendy” churches or Christians? Very focused on reaching their communities. Want to stay current with what is most effective, Seem to be in touch with the younger generations. Outside of the box - changing up the way ministry is done. Fun environment, more energy. We get into some of the risks of relevant or “trendy” churches later, but first, let’s look at what relevance actually means. How to Stay Relevant in Ministry: Definition of relevant: “closely connected or appropriate to what is being done or considered; appropriate to the current time, period, or circumstances; of contemporary interest.” In light of this definition, we do think that we should be relevant in our ministry. But we can do so without compromising the message or watering down the Gospel.  We can also still appreciate and incorporate some of the positives of the traditional approaches. How do we remain relevant in our ministry? Consider the demographics and culture of your area and ask yourself if you are relevant to them. This will look different based on where God has called you. Learn about the culture you are trying to reach. Adapt your style and approach to the culture where you are serving. “Learn your people” as Breshana Miller shared in Episode 45.  What does the Bible say about relevance? Matthew 7:28-29 says:  "And it came to pass, when Jesus had ended these sayings, the people were astonished at His doctrine: For He taught them as one having authority, and not as the scribes" (KJV).  Jesus adapted his teaching style to the audience he was speaking to. He used parables often. He adjusted the approach based on the setting and the audience. It’s clear that Jesus made his message relevant to those he was speaking to. 1 Cor. 9:19-23 says: “For though I am free from all, I have made myself a servant to all, that I might win more of them. To the Jews I became as a Jew, in order to win Jews. To those under the law I became as one under the law (though not being myself under the law) that I might win those under the law. To those outside the law I became as one outside the law (not being outside the law of God but under the law of Christ) that I might win those outside the law. To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak. I have become all things to all people, that by all means I might save some.I do it all for the sake of the gospel, that I may share with them in its blessings.” (ESV) Paul also shows us that it is necessary to adjust your methods based on the people you are reaching. We note that one key factor here is becoming a servant rather than focusing on your own preferences. Is there a risk in trying to be too relevant or even trendy? Compromising the gospel or watering down the message. Focusing only on getting people in the door and not on helping people to experience the transformation Jesus offers. Becoming a message of “self-help” or inspiration instead of truly acknowledging our sin and our need for Jesus. Becoming a social club rather than a church or ministry where the power of the Holy Spirit is experienced. No authenticity. What does relevance mean for us as leaders? Staying relevant in ministry has implications for us as leaders. Here are some of the ways it will affect us: We need to be willing to adapt and change May have to give up personal preferences Might need to learn new technology or tools Need to stay tuned into the current struggles of our audience Need to embrace the power of the internet and social media We will have to get out of our comfort zone We may need to go be in places we might not normally be present If you want to evaluate how relevant your ministry is, you can ask yourself these questions: How does the community you are in view your church/ministry? Do people come to you in their time of need/crisis? Is your ministry in a rut? Are you doing the same thing over and over but not getting the results you are shooting for? Does your church/ministry lift up the community or just satisfy the needs of those inside? If your church closed, would your city be grieved? Would it even notice? Are our lives and our ministries vibrant, exciting, energetic? Does society need us? Why? Are we considered necessary, or just nice to have around?   We cover a lot of ground in this discussion and we encourage you to wrestle with this issue to decide where you stand. We do feel there are positives on both sides--traditional and “trendy”--but we feel it is important to stay relevant if you want your ministry to stay alive.  We believe that you will need to give up some of your own preferences at times, and be willing to adjust your methods based on the place God has called you.   May 2019 Giveaway: We are running a giveaway for all 4 episodes in May 2019. Each Tuesday, we will draw 1 winner from the previous week’s episode. Entries count from Tuesday through Monday of each week. How to enter: 1. Write a review for the podcast - take a screenshot of your review and email it to podcast@estherlittlefield.com. Alternatively, you may also write a review on my Facebook Page about the podcast. 2. Share about the podcast on your social media - Instagram or FB. 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If you're single, you've probably run into people asking you "OMG! How?! Why? Are you getting over an ex? Want me to introduce you to this person?" Or maybe "don't worry, sweetie, your Knight in shining armor is coming soon!" People feel bad for you, question your past relationships, wonder when you're going to find "The One"... it can be tough to deal with the CONSTANT questions. In today's episode, Chelsea talks about her singlehood (is that a word?), different emotions she's experienced during this time, what she's learned from relationships both about herself, what she wants out of one + more. Being single doesn't suck. Being in a relationship doesn't have to suck either. It's all about perspective. Connect with Chelsea on Instagram + Twitter @ChelseaRiffe.

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This week’s Misfit Entrepreneur is my good friend, Dov Baron. Dov is considered the leading authority on Authentic leadership and is one of INC Magazines Top 100 Leadership speakers. He’s been featured everywhere from Oprah to the Wall Street Journal and has been consulting, advising, and speaking on leadership for the last 30 years. He has spoken in front of everyone from Fortune 500 companies to the United Nations and the State Department. Dov is also the founder of Full Monty Leadership and the Authentic Speaker Academy on Leadership. He is a multi-time bestselling author and is the host of the Pursuing Deep Greatness TV show and the number one leadership podcast on Itunes, Dov Baron’s Leadership and Loyalty Show. What I love most about Dov is that he doesn’t mince words, tells you how it really is, and gets results. So, he is just the person I wanted to speak to you about leadership and life on this show. www.fullmontyleadership.com www.DovBaron.com Dov’s personal email - Dov@dovbaron.com Dov was born into abject poverty in London in a ghetto. His mother shipped him off to rabbis because he had “visions” as a kid. He started studying spiritual works with the rabbis and then later traveled the world studying with spiritual masters from all different areas including Buddhism, Hinduism, and others. He was very interested in psychology, but also studied quantum physics. In the 80’s he started speaking and had a knack for it. He was on TV, radio, newspapers. But, he was an adrenaline addict and In June 1990, while freeclimbing a rock face and fell from 120 ft. up landing on his face…or as he likes to say, he “fell 12 stories and landed on my ego.” His life as he knew it was over and he went through a very deep, dark depression, had many reconstructive surgeries and came out the other side as what he is today. Who is Shishu Sharma and what did you learn from him? • Shishu is his wife’s uncle • Dov dedicated his last book to him • One of the chapters of the book is about being a CRO – Chief Relationship Officer • Dov spent a considerable amount of time with Shishu before he died of cancer discussion what really mattered • The #1 thing was the realization of how important relationships are and how he missed out on many of the ones in his life. What is your biggest takeaway from learning this from him? • It wasn’t any changes as much as what he learned underscored what he believed about how relationships are the most important thing in our lives • Relationships tie everything together • Once you realize this, you have to invest in them and ask for help How did you get out of your depression after your fall and how did it lead to your understanding of authentic leadership? Dov tells this story at the 14 min mark… • Authenticity is what you know about yourself • What we know about ourselves is an evolution • Many people think they know themselves, but they don’t • When Dov fell, his identity got smashed to pieces as well • “There is no back, there is only forward…” • He would put on the “happy face,” but deep down he struggled to find who he was truly going to be because that person was gone. • At times he became filled with rage • He came home one night to find his cat dead and holding the cat, fell to ground weeping, not for the cat, but for the realization that he had hit bottom and had to move forward. • From there, it became about finding his purpose and how he would serve. Your identity is not what you do, but your purpose… At the 17 min mark, Dov answers the question, How do you teach people to find their true identity and purpose? • People mix up mission statements and purpose – or even passion • Purpose is emotional – it calls to your heart and your soul • Passion is transitory – when you were 15, your passion was different than it is today • Your purpose is not transitory. Your purpose is the fuel that goes into the vehicle of your passion. • Purpose runs through everything At the 20 min mark, Dov gives an exercise of how you can find your purpose… • Imagine what your Short statement eulogy would look like – what is that one statement you would want someone to say about you. • Now imagine what people are whispering in the back of the room – does it echo what is being said in the front? What is it you fear they would whisper in the back of the room? • Whatever that whisper is tells you your fear and gives you the insight you need to understand who you need to become to live your purpose. • Your purpose is not your career, but your career can be the best vehicle for your purpose. What are the characteristics of a notable leader? • If you want to be a truly outstanding, authentic leader, you must have courage • You must have courage to be curiosity • Courage + Curiosity + Love is needed • Love is critical – great leaders love their people. Because if you don’t, someone else will • Don’t be afraid to love and truly care (it’s not romantic, it’s platonic) • You must also be willing to be vulnerable – vulnerability is not a weakness, it is a great strength. You must be willing to show your humanity What creates loyalty? • What is the difference between a great friend and an acquaintance? Vulnerability • When you see people in their faults and love them anyway • The same goes for you – you’re vulnerability endears people to you What is the soul of leadership? • For Dov, the soul of leadership is service. Being there to serve. • To ask what it within a person is that can be a blind spot or that they need support in overcoming them and then serving them by helping them. What does purpose matter more than profit? • From research done between 1991-2001, it was shown that profit changes dramatically when you have purpose. • 90% of consumers expect companies to act responsibly • Companies that purpose driven are on average more than 1600% more profitable than companies that are not purpose driven. • In today’s age, being meaning drive is critical for a company. • Purpose drives profit. What is the hero’s journey and how does it relate to this? • Being a leader is a heroic journey. • Leadership starts with self and you need to be heroic about it. • The treasure you most want is hidden in the cave you most fear and you must have the willingness to step into it. • The treasure is soul – it is your most authentic self, the whole of who you are. • Many people have everything they want except that “one thing for them…” • Life is defining you or refining you – that is the choice • You can’t be a victim and you must be open to life refining you What are the elements of a great story? • The answer is the hero’s journey • Read Joseph Campbell’s, “The Hero’s Journey” • Read “The Hero with a Thousand Faces” • Before there was writing, everything was passed on through story • For a story to work, it has to involve the listener At the 44 min, Dov tells the story of how he got into speaking… “If you are going to be the best you possibly you can, you cannot do it by imitating someone else. Your hero’s journey lies in being truly yourself…” Dov asks you, “What are your taboos? What is it that you don’t think you should talk about? Why? Are those hindering you and not letting you be who you are?   Best Quote: “There is no back, only forward. Life is either defining you or refining you. It is your choice.."   Dov's Misfit 3: 1. Get to know yourself by taking on the heroic journey of self-inquiry. How do you know who you are? Are these principles still true not matter what you are going through? 2. Be deeply curious about everything. 3. Love without limits. Leave the taboos behind.