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Happiness to me to life or as love the meaning of life. That's a good one. It's tough. That's pretty deep right there. And I don't know. Jesus. That's pretty deep because. First of all, it's like, what is happiness to you? And then what is love? You know, Cause I know we all have different definitions of how that goes. Cause happiness. Do you know, for, for me it kinda. Portrays in the sense of getting the elated feeling and being, being content with where I'm at in life. No. And then when we're talking about love, I mean. Love is very expressive for me. You know, love is more of like a bird. You know, and that's something where. We good. Sorry. I had to get that out of my system. Well, yeah, I think love is yeah, very expressive being, being more of like up, up in action. Getting. Didn't go. Getting that expression put, put into. Put it into I was a. You know, putting, putting love in behind. Behind No behind in action. You know, No. I think. I think love for me. I think love is the pretty much the meaning to life. The reason I say that. Cause a lot of my actions are based on love. So everything that I'm trying to, trying to become. In. Into and better myself. Into becoming a better person is because. I first of all, I love myself and I love my family. So all my, everything I've ever done up to now, it's just because. I want, I love my family so much and I want the best for them as well as my friends. So it motivates, it motivates me throughout my life. To do certain actions to help propel myself. So I'll be able to propel them. So. It's hard not to say that love is cause people don't a lot of crazy stuff with love. Craziest, they do a lot of crazy stuff for love. So this, I feel like what was one of the biggest motivators in this life? Cause when you, when you have something you go through so much crap. In so much turmoil. For it. But. I can't say that you. For me, I can't say you do the same thing just to try and seek. Happiness really because. Happiness. I mean, they're both. Both kind of motion. Well, it's. There's so much layers to this. Yeah, it is. This license, the top of that we could talk about for the next seven years. We don't want to kick me out three hours. Jumping. It is like, you're absolutely right. The word love and the word happiness seems like it's anonymous. I did the same thing, but they're absolutely not. I think about love and I think a buy. That sometimes in order to feel love you got it. You got to experience pain. Sometimes love is pain, right? That's that's that's one aspect of love. No love, because love is growing. I think that love is growth. You know, me personally, I think that in order to, to love something, you have to help you grow. Yeah. I believe that 100%, but I think that way, I think that happiness is just. I personally feel like as esoteric, like idea, but it's not something that's truly attained attainable. I think that there's more of you agree. Just something that you're constantly reaching for love is like, love reminds me of hope. I mean, not love, like Happiness reminds me of hope. It's like happiness. Happiness is not actually something that you achieve is the journey through love. That's what I think. I think that happiness is more like. On your weeks ago. And it's something that you think that happiness is when you think happiness, you think somebody smiling and. Guinea. But that's not happiness. Happiness is not, and it's not really being content. I don't think that's what happened. This is either, I think happiness is being Grateful. I think happiness has a lot to do with being grateful with where you are and where you're going. Yeah, that's what I think that happened. I do not think by no, no means that happiness is something that people actually experienced in a way that's like you experienced it. Don't want to weigh that. The only way to talk about happy. This is this something that you have to experience. When on the path to live right. Or no. And which also means that you're on the path of growth. I think then when you, when you step off the path of growth, That's when unhappy discounting happiness. Depression anxiety, things of these nature of that nature. They all kind of stemming as. It's the opposite of what we tell them about. Yeah. You know, whatever that is. So let's see, I see happiness as a temporary thing. Yeah. Yeah, the most lovely is temporary. I don't let, I don't look at it as it being like I read last night, having happiness. On you all the time. Yeah. Every time, every time, you know what I mean? It looked is this word. Love is like he pointed it. Its its growth. Yeah, you're constantly worried. I don't look at it. Love it. You can't really turn it on and off, you know, I just feel like it's always on. You know, Whoa, Whoa. Yeah. Cause like it. If you're passionate about something, if you, if you absolutely love it, it. Extend asleep, grow it continuously to grow. You know, so it never stays the same. But it'll be a different love than you had it from day one. You know what I'm saying? Conditional love and unconditional love for sure. But when that example are you talking about conditional love? If you feel like you can turn, it can be turned off. It sounds like. No. He said, I love can't be turned off. I don't think love can be turned off if it's love. I mean, yeah, I think it should. It's on like quality time, you know what I mean? Like you, can't not like you can't love something. For one minute and not love something, then next, you know, it happens all the time in marriages. No, I don't know if they. I think that, like, I think that, that there's a level to that love, like, like, okay, you got it. Landmark home. I've been married and I've been divorced. Right. Right. So I can speak from experience from what I understood and I don't know. I have love for my ex wife. You know what I'm saying? Like, I don't love her. I'm not in love with it. That's a huge dip. I'm not in love with. I have love for her in the sense that, Hey, you know, we did build something together, you know We do have a son together, you know, he was made out of love. So there's that, but. And I don't want to say I fell out of love with her because. I just don't love a nice same way anymore. Right? I would hate to see something happen to them. Do you know that? So like when I'm talking to him, like, you know, I care. Whether or not you live in that, you know, but that's about as far as that goes, because they're sitting, there's different understandings, the love, that's just like, you can love, you can have a friendship love, you can have a sexual love. You can have A guy they love, you know, it's like in a way that you, the way that you love, whatever your, whoever your God is. The way that you love that God is not the same. And that way that you feel like the guy loves you. It's not the same as how your parents love you. There's a different, that's a different type of love. And how, how you love your friend. That's a different type of love. How you, like, I know for me how I love my son. It's a completely different type of love and how I love my brother. Right or how I love my sister. It's different. Not that they're not, it's not all love, but it's different. In IAS, just dip. It has it's different because of my relationship with that, with that individual. It's always different. So, again, that's lean on the Jenkins. How, like how I might choose to grow with my brother. Is not going to be the same as how I choose to grow spiritually weight with my guy. You know what I mean? Like in how I choose to grow with my homeys, it's not going to be the same as how I choose to grow with my wife. My old lady. You didn't even know saying eating when we're saying, Hey, you know what I'm saying? Like I love y'all. But I promise you that I don't love you. Like I love my old lady. And if I did love, I love my oldest something wrong. Every aspect of that situation dying. Right. Love everybody. But. You have to do what you do with different types of logos. Different types of loans. Okay. A little bit that you ma you put the word, are you true? Love is love is a choice. Absolutely. Most people think is just like an emotion it's just come in and goes to room. But it's something you have to work. Like we said before, you have to work on it constantly. And you have to make decisions to love. Like there's some days there's some days you don't. There's some things, I don't know my parents, but because through different things that they annoy me and things like that. Is what he meant to say. Some days you don't like his parents, his what he was trying to say. True. wait, what? But it's a constant. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. It's like I think he was saying his action where it is definitely a verb. I think, I think that there's things that you have to actually do. Yeah. I can tell it, like there's a huge, there was a huge difference from saying I, when I was in my last relationship, I was here. It was a huge difference from saying. I love you. And showing that I love you. It's a huge difference. Like how I dealt with her and interacted with her show that I loved her more than like, of course some people need to hear that. Freaking. I love you. Whatever that phrase they need to hear for whatever reason. You know, for security reasons. Yeah. Wait, Mike. Showing on a consistent basis. How much I love you. Is so important, like even with, even with like right now with us in the listening, right? There's a level of low, it comes through the podcast and you can tell because of how sincere and genuine the things that come out of our mouth on. Right, right. The way that we decided, like the idea of the podcast, the fact that we do the podcast on a regular basis. That we stay up with it, you know, even there's times where, you know, Lightsey. Bruh Nolan podcasts. And what is your blood? Is, is. Right view. If you But it needs to be done. And we know, so there's a level to that as well. So we show love by dropping the jewels that we drop. We show love by continuously doing the podcast. Well, you can tell you out and we let you. No what I'm saying, but we show it more than retail. Right. And that's, what's important. Like when dealing with, in. I hate to say relationships, but when denim would relationships, that's so key when dealing with another person like seeing and they show you that they love you. Like the things that they do matter the words that come on their mouth matter less than the actions that they do. You know what I'm saying? How they treat you, how they speak to you. In front of you and behind your back and with other people, how do you, how, how your hand do and how they have to you is important night. All that says whether or not they love you. Right. Yeah. Yes. Important. It's just.   So the answer, the question love is, you know, obviously the. Meaning of life. We all agree on that point. You know, cause. Oh, most often. Hmm. Okay, look, here's the thing, right? Like. When Denny, when Denny with growth, when you do a growth. Right. Okay. So. In order to, in order for a plant to grow, it requires that you water it. That's one step. It also requires that you put in the right soul. It also requires that you give it light. Sunlight. It needs to, it needs those names. Those are cronies, right? Those are the components of love. Like when you did it with a person, it like, I'm just so I can show you three different components. I sold you a physical, I showed you Spiritual and I showed you a kind of mental, I guess. I don't know if that really counts, but let's use that. I'm gonna use that in the same use the same components as far as when Devon Wade. Our relationship with somebody else, we would have to feed not only their mental, you have to speak penis physical, and you have to feed their spirit shoe. That's extremely important. Right. You know, like even look. We're going to talk about how, even when we did it with each other, like demeaning, when it comes down to when we're dealing with each other, it's, it's important that we get on the phone. When I have a conversation with each other. You know, so there's times I get on the phone with V and we'll be chopping it up and he'll motivate me on something as far as like, just being on a phone with this dude. Nah, he ain't really gonna say no. Yeah, what's up, bro. Oh, what's going on, man. What you doing? Oh, you know, just working on this, what are you working, man? I'm working to do you know what I'm saying? Like automatically, you know, it feeds my soul. It feeds my spirit instantly because. The relationship that we already we've already built a relationship we've grown. Our relationship has grown to a point where if I think about VMI, I need to get on some businesses. If I think about prime, I need to get on some business. I got to get on this tip. You know, that's strong. That's that's building that's love, right. You know what I mean? Like that, that has a lot to do with it as well. And then not talk about when we get on the phone and then we encourage him. He shot him. Like he's telling me about, he said about what he's doing with his business. I'm telling him about what I'm doing with my babies and asked me to talk to you. We shoot out ideas to each other. Does it plenty of times that we, we. It's been a lot of times that we've done it right. Yeah. And. Right. I think Nestle, I think that's an aspect of love that you don't, you don't recognize, like you think you're like, all right. Is that really love? We just inspiring each other. Right. Well, inspiration is low dude. Mm, no motivation is love as well. And all these, these are points that are necessary in order to build a healthy relationship, you know? So I think that's, I think that's something that needs to be talking about. Yeah. After the whole night, they, one of the things that you you hit on with me. Oh, when you just talk about that with love is that it kind of takes it away where you got to be a self. My self lists more, you know? All the worry about you don't have to worry about yourself as much, you know? Cause when you. Feeding off of somebody and you get in somebody to to help them improve on, on, on, you know, what they're doing. It, it takes the eyes off of you, you know, and what you need to get done. You know, you worried about it. If you got food on the table, it's not a bottle. If I got food on the table. No. What I'm saying? Now I want to make sure you eat and good. Yeah. That's the thing about what flood too as well, is that you. You know that it's not just about you, but it's about the other people around you, you know? And that, that plays a key factor of your happiness as well. Right? Cause. How did other people around you have you shown them love is going to be able to you see the happiness in that. For sure. You know, while expressing your love. All right. And this part of the journey is part of it. Yeah, you can even load. You can even go deeper than that. Right. And talk about how self, how loving yourself. How do you know that you loving yourself and taking care of yourself? Right? How do you know that you love yourself? You're showing you're, you're growing as an individual. How do you know other people see it as well? Yeah. And when you got, when you got positive people, that's on your side is constantly throwing, throwing that love until you like his neck. I'm really been, we use love to death today. But when you got somebody that's constantly, constantly feeding you in that. You can't help, but grow. And as you grow in your, your, ah, man, I'm trying to get spiritual, whatever you need. You know, it's tough way. Like. To keep it on and to keep it on a physical note, like right. Having somebody to pour into you, like, even with mentoring, even with coaching, right? How, like how much love you have to put into coaching? Like you really gotta like campus somebody that I really coaching like that. Alright season. Ooh. You got to man, cause you want the best for them, right? Yeah. Got to have the basketball for sure. W when you want the, when you want the best for them, you'll do whatever it takes. So. In order in order to do the best for them, you gotta stay on them. By staying on them that lets them know that you care about them, which in turns they feel the love. And when they feel the love, they'll do whatever it takes. To be the best version of themselves to make themselves happy. That's the one that's to make you happy because they want to make you happy as well. Just knowing. We all want, we all want someone. We all want someone to be how do I say we all want to be loved? We all want to be loved, but we all want to make people proud of us. Absolutely because that's nothing. Disappointed. That's one of the reasons why we do a lot of stuff that we do. But one of the main reasons I do, I get up in the morning and work every day because I want my parents to be proud of me. Absolutely. Because I want them to know they, they build they made a great human being that That everyone that comes in contact with says good things about them. That's why when I go out into the world, I make sure. That I portray myself in a way that my parents. Is proud of, and that they. That'd be. That they just, they just love what I do pretty much. Yeah. The simple way to say, listen, I know this, this might've been a short podcast, but it's a lot packed in there. You know I just want to, again, we, we thank you every single time. Well, he ended up podcasts. We always thank y'all because y'all don't understand. Y'all keep us motivated, even if it was just one person listening and it's changed their life. I'm good with that, you know? We talked about a lot, and I hope that this podcast sit back and take some notes because we talked a lot about relationships. Yeah. That's a lot. It is, it is that's. That's great. So, you know catch up next time as always, and hope you liked this shorter podcast. Like eight minutes shorter. Yeah, until the next time. Yeah. Yup.  

do you talk to yourself? does it matter how you see yourself? In this episode, we explore the ideas and negative/ positive connotations of self-talk. can self-talk be harmful to your mental health or is it harmless?

Every single thing that you see on this earth is set up there's no excuse for you not to be able to make money in America, they talk about the land of opportunity. When you hear the land of opportunity, you think. I just find it extremely, strange, When really sit down and you really think about it. If there's nothing that you can't possibly sell to make a living or to do, to make a living. Yeah. There's a lot of people that's not true. That's not making a living.

Photo by Nathan Cowley from Pexels   It could be digital retail. You know, or social media platforms. You know, I'm gonna have to move on to some entertainment. Alright, can you hear, can you hear me? Alright, you good? Yeah. Alright. Cool. Cool. Just keep talking. Yeah. So I'll just like saying my house. How there are so much different things that we could be able to consume. Coming from the entertainment industry. Coming from the. Food industry. Yeah, the history, you know, I mean, we start consuming, like once we wake up. Pretty much, like what are you guys start doing? Once you wake up for me, I start, I'm going to send to either a podcast or a motivational video. Or a Bible or a Bible verse. Extremely productive dentist, part of my daily ritual when I'm being extreme. Productive when I'm not I get up in. I consume like nothing. Well, I just go straight to the TV, and if I cut on the TV and I laid down on that couch, isn't a route. Assuming that for the whole day. So. Yeah, I think. I think that is important. You know it sets up everything he does. For me when I don't listen to my when I don't listen to any of that stuff, the motivational video. Like, I'm not as positive throughout the day. If someone says something that ticks me off, I can't, I don't seem like I can get back to my center as quickly. Just because I didn't like for me, like if I didn't listen to either the word or. I didn't pick up some motivational from Les Brown or Eric Thomas. Alright. Oh, wow. Oh, you went today. yeah. Yeah. If I, if I don't like start my day with, with them, like, My normal, like my day is just, it's just thrown off whack. Right? Is this like, Something's like. I just have like more negative. I feel like I have more negative thoughts. What kind of straight is actually does. It reminds you of what you're trying to go at. And what are you aiming for? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Definitely. That's the first thing. Cause like whatever you consume it I would, I would say it is. It's pretty vital of like, what's the first thing you're going to be putting in your body and starting out your day. Right. You know Cause for most, most people, I feel that they have the negative type of that that are created inside their head. Do you know? And so if you keep on running through and not having the type of. You know, motivation to keep you out of those negative thoughts. That's, what's really going to be able to beat you down. No. And not having what you say a productive day. So I think having something, something very vital for, for me that I'd like to try to consume as, you know, gaining some type of daily. Daily. Readings, you know, right. You know, if I'm able to, to get some good information off of a, of a great author that, that speaking on some, something that. On looking to try to improve in my daily life. Think that could be able to start my day off. Right. And get him, get him everything, you know. Put together, you know, Oh, yeah. I'm like how you say It makes, it's hard for you to find your sentence when you don't digest some summer and in the morning. If you don't have anything positive, then it causes a disruption. Right? I like how you said that because I was thinking about that. I noticed that if I get up in the morning if I wake up, what I, what I eat. What I listened to him and what I read is extremely important at first, like the hour of the day. Right? That first 30 minutes a day is so crucial to like eight determines I, without a doubt. The course of my date. And not only does. Turn me into a different relationship, like when dealing with other people, but also with dealing with myself and dinner with internal problems. Right. Do you know what I mean? Like. Really important. Like if I get up and I eat, I eat right. Like, I don't know, eat a nice little breakfast or whatever. Get my nice little smoothie. I try to you. Yeah. Do you know what I'm saying? Like, Well, yeah. At like in the morning time. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Or drinking or even drinking water. As soon as I get up without, brushing my teeth before speaking to anybody. Before checking. Here's another thing. Social media we'll come back to that. Before checking social media, do you know what I mean? Like it's extremely important that I feed my body correctly and feed my mind. Cause when I feed both of those, then sitting down at dinner with my spiritual center and my spirit to be winding, to be it. Makes it easier. Because it's following suit. Right. The rest of my body. I mean, the rest of my being, I guess that's the best. way to say it. So health being healthy and being conscious and got extremely aware of what's going on is an extreme standpoint. I know I appreciate awareness. All the time, but it's, it's the key to being sunset. It's one of the keys to being successful. Right. If you're aware of how you want your day to go, if you if you're aware that the things that I couldn't get I do when I first get up, can determine the rest of my day. You're aware that you move a little bit differently. All right. I mean, like if I. Get up in the morning. I noticed this when I get up in the morning if I go straight to social media. And I hop on. It's not always going to be positive stuff in my social media, in case I have you know, certain people that just don't post positive stuff on social media. I might go through the news and, you know Who knows anything. Like if it's some names and stuff in there, That's what's being put into my day over it. Hmm. And that's not that that causes not that. Oh, well. Cause I see somebody's having a bad day. I'm going to have a bad day now or. No, but it prints a C for the possibility of that to happen. Do you know what I mean? It gives you that it's like a fine or weed that's a place in, in your deck. And the garden and your life, right? A gardener, your date. Do you know what I'm saying? Like I just, I don't know. It's, it's extremely important. I think what you consume you are what you consume. Right. You are, as they say, what you eat. So. That goes in every direction. Right? I don't know, I'm just, and it's very important to live. Always. No, what you need, as you said, you brought up self-awareness. For me, it's not always like, just. Just list listening to motivational videos. Sometimes I actually have to switch it up because. I can find myself in the rat race. And sometimes I get in a position where I'm realizing I'm working too hard. All right. And I'm not, I'm not enjoying the finer things in life. Sometimes I just need to sit in the car and just be alone with my thoughts. Right. I'll switch it up there. And there are other days where I just like, I listen to the VK VK, Jay show. Okay. That's something I listen to just for, I find them very funny sometimes. I just need you to come to call me. Do you. Really comedic relief. It depends on the day that you structure an actual date. Cause like another thing for me is the channel. Now I know we talked about this a little bit, but not really good. I went into detail about it, but I also want to bring it up too, because it's not just what you. Ingest is also with you play some paint loss. Produced. So the first thing that you produced is your thoughts, you are correct. And your thoughts on a paper that's important as well, because now you also structure not your thoughts at the same time. Your personal thought was not what everybody else is thinking is, okay, this is where I am right now. This is why when I got up this morning, this is what, this is what my mindset was at. That's why I want to go away. That's also that that creates a direction for you as well. So all these things matter. It's, it's, it's how they say original. I think it is a ritual, a habit. Place, once you place that positive spin on your daily rituals. It creates. I don't know, you know what I mean? That's important. Yeah, no. Yeah. If you gotta buy, you gotta buy your own virtues. Do you know if you'd be able to get, if you? You ain't want. To set down some personal virtues that you believe in, you know and be able to, to not stray away from it. Get right on track with having, you know, what you believe in to, to never be able to. Fear away from it. You guys are in the health field. Right. I guess you could say you're going to have field. Cause, you know, when you're into the wellbeing of food. Right. Right. So as, as a coach, what are some recommendations as far as like diets and your recommendations? Like, what, what do you think is important by West? If you got D what's the best move when it comes down to you're getting up in the morning, is it necessary to have something that's gonna shoot your energy all the way up? Is it. You know what I mean? Like, what is that like a. Balance that need to be like, for me, I've always liked preached balance there. I mean, everyone goes about it a different way, but. They say like the balanced diet is like between like 45 to 55%. Carbs. Okay. And then. Alright, between 10 to 15% of fats and 25 to 30% of protein. Okay. And. It does. So, so what I deem as you evens you out, or is it by. Yeah, it's more just to help you feel good. Is it dangerous? Is it, is it dangerous to like, say like say somebody adjusts the sugar early in the morning and they. Shoot up more like coffee. Cause, you know, coffee is a hell of a standard release. Yeah. Right on a regular basis. Is that, is that a dangerous thing to do? If you're taking more than the daily dosage. Yes. The recommended daily dosage. Oh, it's It depends on, it depends on a person. If you could, if you're using it or like it becomes a crux. Like, that's all you that's. all you use to get yourself throughout the day. Right? Then I would see, I could see it as a deterrent. Yeah, I think, yeah, I think most people won't go too crazy with the red bull. That's the problem. It's okay. If you just take like one of them, but if you're going like five cans, deep five to six cans deeply, I knew a guy. No lie. No. Yeah. He was like, when I come in in the morning this was when I was working that the, so I get up in the morning we get up into, when I get there, I could do work. You still are done, Chuck. He's like, where are the choke down one? He's on the keto diet. He was on the kill. Died at time. Right? Chill out. One of these rebels already off my second one. Lady's nine o'clock. You're doing? What do you mean? Checking out another one it's only got a cat, like me only been here, like. Wait two hours, two and a half, maybe. What are you doing? He's like, yo damn. Before, like she been getting ready, not show down, let's do it. We'll go through like four red bulls rug and be like, All monsters. Switch it up from time to time, but energy drinks. And I'm like, you know, how do you not crash? Right. It's like, man, it's the only thing that keeps me up. That will tell you, I wouldn't be able to do nothing. I'm like. I don't know how you're functioning right now. I don't understand. Right. Nope to the, bring it back around. I'm sending it as a desk. Other ways. That's it's. It's ways that you go about it being unhealthy, you would consume unhealthy things. And it can destroy your date. Cause someone, some healthy stuff and you know, your body is so used to a day. That's what it craves. And that's what he uses is phew. Possibly, but it's also still breaking down your body. You're not seeing it. Right away, but it's going to catch up to you down the line. Alright. Thank you for that. It's a kind of push her, like being aware of your health is extremely important. So I'm not talking about consuming information and consume it. I'm having a good diet. That's extremely important input success. Like there is that when you're dealing with self development, you're not just developing yo you're mental. You're not just developing your vocab. Ew. Ew. Or your business, you have to develop your body as well. Right? I have to prepare for things to get harder. You gotta be your bias and Todd's, can't even deal with distress. If you only, you don't want to, if you don't release some of that stress is going to cause you to crash. Right. You know what I mean? Like it's. That's a lot more. It's a self development then just. Reading. No. I mean, that's why some. Some of the big Leaders CEO company to start their mornings. Why are we going to bed at 5:00 AM to go work it out? Yeah. It just, it just gets their blood flowing. Yes. Our blood flowing you release endorphins. There's just so much that can be gained once you get you get up and move. When you actually actively move. Yeah. It just, it sets everything up. Like. Your mind's wired. Once you have to remove. You get your feeding, the oxygen to your brain and you learn about it. You can function more efficiently. Yeah, you're right. It makes like, I know the difference between when I get up at five and I'm at the gym at five o'clock. And how my day's going to go down when. I gotta be at work at eight. And I get up. I sit there. Hmm. That's another thing, getting enough sleep. That's also because. Consuming asleep. I don't even know if that's the right word to say. That is important to being a baby sleeping. Sleeping is extremely important in. Getting up ahead of time. So underrated. Yeah, absolutely. So many people would say necessary, man. So many people who just do not take care of their sleep. I agree. But like I told you, that was one of my big struggles in college. Yeah. That's sacrificing sleep. But now, but now being older and realizing how much sleep helps me. The process things quicker. That's one of the things I've liked, turned around to make sure like I can help my clients. If I'm more on the ball. If I get enough sleep. So do you recommend, do you recommend getting up at five o'clock in going to the gym and then eaten. Like after you come from the gym, do you recommend eating before you go to the gym? What is better? What is a better. We have a better result. One we'll pause there. I've eaten before the gym, when he knocked that issue. I mean, it all depends on the, it all depends on the person because. Like with the, with the keto diet or keto diet, intermittent fasting diet, people are able to. People are able to get to a state where they can work or tell without having food. Because their body, after a while it gets used to it. Right. But if it's, but not everyone responds to it. Well, right. So it's basically learning your body, learning what works best for you. Me personally, I have to eat life two to three hours before I go work out. Because I just, that's just the way like this playing sports, that's just the way I've always operated. I'm just, I am much more energy when I eat before. My workout, my muscles, my muscles. It's so much easier. I already got a full stomach and. Because I got a, I don't know if we call her fat and tablet. Isn't that like, Eat a lot. It takes a lot for me to gain power. You know what I'm saying? Put on any type of muscle, then I would take some time, you know, so like for me, I have to eat beforehand. And not be hungry as hell afterwards. So I have to do both happy beforehand after. It can't be two hours before he had come. Be hungry at the moment out off the sedation would be hungry, but there's focus. There's also, there's also a mental aspect of working out when you don't eat that most people that some people use their benefit, would you mean. Like it's like your body's still in that survival flight mode. Okay. So they're using that to their advantage, right? You're so hungry, but you're like, you're. If you're lifting heavy weights. Let me see. If you're lifting heavy weights and like in a stressful situation. Your body's still gonna try to find the energy it's going to take it. Like they'll probably, they'll probably take it from your fat sources. So that helps you lose weight more efficiently. Which for me personally, it's not a good idea. Alright. Cause I only got 20% body fat. So I need that little bit. Data. And that's actually accurate. I might actually only 20% body fat as accurate as all I know. It's crazy. Ah, Yeah. Wait. 20% body fat as it. Wait, wait. I want to say is. Wait. Yeah. You got 10% better, but. You don't believe you're looking like your own beliefs. No, it isn't no like, yeah, Tony. 20% body fat, like, you know, That was pretty good. No. Pretty good. My BMI. I know the last time I, the thing is last. I had to check with Paulie and maybe about. 2017. No. Yeah. Whoa. Yeah. What about you? Mommy your minds around like 12.5. Yeah. That shouldn't be there. Yeah. I was 20. I was 23%. Body fat. Wait. Five months ago because we had to do a health checkup. And then I was just like, okay. I notice all the damn time. So I started, I started, I got like a dis Really expensive scale. That tells you everything from the exact weight, how much how much of bones, wait, this is crazy. It tells you how much body fat you have. It says, how many calendars do you need to consume in order to remain in it? Right? Yeah. So, yeah. So when Andy and I shifted into CUNY and I was at 20%, I was like, Wow. Yeah. Wait, according to my height and the rest, my weight, like that's by your shrimp, we did it. What I was told when I went to doctor was talking to me. I actually waited a little bit less than I was like at 23%. He's like, yo, that's crazy. That's really good. I'm like, yeah, I don't do that. Is it, they only eat when I was wa I was walking and running during that time I was exercising, but not to, not to the. Tensity, not at the same intensity that child guys work on. You know what I mean? Yeah. Everybody's body's different than at all. So it depends on your goal. Would you try. Right. So. What that knowledge is knowing, knowing your body. Knowing how it works, what it needs. No things are extremely important when dealing with your wellbeing. When dealing with yourself, like you need to know that, right. It's important. Like, did you have high blood pressure? What is your family? Hates me all this information and stuff that you should know. So that you can make more accurate. Assessment of yourself, so that you'll be able to, like, you can actually kind of look into the future, like see what it is that you need, like actually be, actually be healthy and not just look healthy because that's people that look healthy at work out all the time and internally Def messed up. And don't even know it right. There was this guy. See, he was around, he was around the same way that I was, but like a little bit shorter. And the doctor told him he was obese and I'm looking at him like, bro, this dog's skin and bones, we meet OBT say internally, his Oregon is a messed up. He asked a claw like not clogged arteries, but like it's like bat around. It spikes that ain't supposed to be in and I'm looking like. No, I wasn't even aware that that was the thing that you can actually be skinny and be obese, you know? What I mean, or be fattening. I don't know. I don't know about opposite. But it is, you can be skinny and be obese. You know what I mean? Like. It's important for you. Yeah, things that I'm trying to say, that it's extremely important for you when you consume that knowledge and trying to understand yourself in, when it comes to self, develop me to really understand your history, understand your health history. That's extremely important, right? Yeah. People are people like the sweet things on the road. Yeah. Part of part of the problems when a diet, like most of them themselves. Yeah. I want to do also get professional help. I gotta say that. Get up, get a doctor who do not know. I'm not even going to advocate health insurance, anything. Of that nature, but that is something like most people don't think about health insurance, most. I'm from don't think I'm back. We don't even think of it as important at all. Right. He's like going to, going to the DOP name and actually finding these things out to Reno, having a conversation with your moms and your pops about past history or by whether you're. You know what I mean? These things are. Extremely important room. Messenger to diseases prevention. Yeah. Absolutely. I agree with that. If you just stay, if you stay on top of things. No. You don't have to, you don't have to worry about the, the big thing. I think most things you gotta stay on top of, you know, the research and everything out there too. Yeah. What's going on because I think there's so much different type of information that, that they fight well, especially when you've got the internet and so forth like that. So we gotta be very. A particular on information that you ingest. Can you remember when they said that? I think it was like 2005. We had came out with a study where it was talking about how eggs are bad for you. And then they turn right around 2008. I don't know these dates aren't actually accurate, but then it was like, Hey, it's a good for you again. No, no, no, no, no. Just in whites. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. The fitness center. She's like one of the biggest contradictions. There is. Yeah. There's so many theories testing being done and not everything works the same for everyone. That's why it's more important that it happened, doctor your own doctor that you deal with. You know, so you can find out about sheep. And not just go away, as B was saying, just whatever's on the internet. Actually having that, I didn't real real knowledge from a medical professional. It's extremely important as well. I want to make sure I advocate that because this isn't, I don't, I don't have a medical degree. Yeah. So let's say that we're not giving you medical advice. So get advice from your doctor. Yeah. When it comes to health, you gotta have a, like a healthy paranoia things. Yeah. I see my doctor, like three, four times a year. Do you exercise all the time? I'm not trying to stay on top of it. It's funny that you say that. Cause it was talking about. The last podcast was talking about how Nene, the healthy, a healthy amount of fear and a healthy amount of hope. Right now, how does that apply with your health? How does it apply what you consume information?     As far as the, as far as the fear aspect, like I said, Discuss not wanting to get any serious disease. I'm always on more. It's looking after always checking with the doctor's, seeing what I need to do. Always exercising, making sure I'm getting enough sleep because I want to be at peak condition. Normally As far as, from a hope aspect. Aspect. I'd use it. From a hope aspect. I just want to make sure I'm around to see the fruits of my labor. So staying fit making sure I'm. I'm going to be around for when I have my kids one day when my great grandkids I'll be able to see what they've come up to as well as the kids of coach. See what the men and the men and women that they've all become. So, okay. That's dope. What we're actually doing. Yeah. So, yeah, that's, that's a good one. For me, it was just the, the fact that. If you're up for for training and how flies. Of seeing the hope. Always look at, I kind of want to be able to get my best. I want to be, be the best version of myself. You know, I saw a look at, I look at myself as you know, who am I. 25, 30 years down the road. And, and that's the reason why I'm able to go, go up and, and, and do the things that I do if I'm working out. If I'm able to go read a book in the morning. I'm just trying to be able to. Develop myself to be the better version of myself. The fear the hand on the other end would be the fact that man, I'm just a failure. You know, I was enabled to accomplish the goals that I set myself for it to doing that. You know, so it kind of gets me I mean, that's the, that's the fact that that lack because people stop when When they're going towards their goal or I would say they're a delight. Yeah. But I think when you do stop, you have to find something that gets you right back on. I think with that fear aspect. Just like, all right, this is the. The the end result of when, if I don't get this thing done, you know, Zach, I'm gonna fail. That's what's gonna help me get right back on track and get going again. You know, having that fear aspect. And so that's how I see. With Getting the the fear of being hopeful. As well. I say for me as a measure of both and. It has to be extremely healthy measure. Both. It has to be a balance. And to kinda like for me, it's like we have to be grounded in reality. No. Like, so having that, having a healthy part of fear, as far as my health declining. In the future. That far motivates me, but also happened that hope that that for me, it's not really hope. It's more like this is the goal. But it is kind of a hope. This is like, you don't know if you're going to, I'm trying to see a century. There's a lot of phase you can do in essentially. That is a lot of stuff you can learn in the century. Oh yeah, no, I'm down. We learned that I'm like Freaking theme when it comes down to knowledge, if you can't tell, you know, so like for me, trying to see that century, China. Live to see that century. Right. Pass down as much knowledge as I can. To those around you as extreme name for it. So for me, it's having that grip, that graphs of reality, right. I mean, it has to be grounded in reality for me.

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  Today, we're going to be talking about , early bird or a late night out is one more beneficial than the other  to be. Oh, it all depends. But everything else. I think it all depends on what you're trying to get accomplished. for me personally, I've always been a late night owls. I feel I get most of my. most of my work done better at night. I have more energy. At night cause. Usually at night, Just finished a workout. So I'm nice and energized and nice and focus. So that's usually a good time for me. Either read a book study son. learn something new, listen to different podcasts. Like I'm just in that zone at night. Yeah. No only , the only downside I would say about being late night, I was like, Pretty much everyone's asleep. So you can't contact people like that. You can't tell the content most people, if you need a certain thing, You gotta make sure they're up. Yeah. There's where an early bird has an advantage. Those people are getting up pretty soon. So you can write down what you need to say. That sort. Yeah, it depends on a person and I, For instance for me is I'm a late, I'm a late night hour, right? Okay. I'm actually both because in the daytime. I tend to take care of all those things that need to be taken care of as far as . Don't pride in my pressure, washing business. I'm taking care of that. I'm getting money. I'm trained on the daytime.  a lot of my assets and things I need to take care of during the daytime I take care of, but my intellectual, where did I have to do? It's at night? When that time hits, it's like a certain sound like when that sun goes down, is something about that time? Damn. I hit my intellectual juices start flowing. Typically starts flowing. You're like, what does, like, if we did a podcast in the morning time in comparison to when we did it at night, you see a huge difference in the person that I am. You know what I'm saying? Straight up at cuts in at nighttime. I processed a lot of stuff that I thought about doing a daytime and overnight that night, private right. Going it's like when I'm doing like, say I'm doing a car while I'm doing whatever, what outside pressure washing job and going at Anton. I'm literally thinking about the job, doing the job, but my mind is like off somewhere thinking about a theory or whatever. Like right now I'm reading this book, Carter. the history and origins of consciousness. And it talks about, the, how. I'm not gonna get it today. But it gets, it's a lot. It's a lot of theoretical things, but it's based off in reality, it talks about mankind is consciousness and how we grew as a conscious, nice. And how it went from, individuals to collect no vice versa. but I'm thinking about that and I'm like, how does that, how does it actually affect? I relate to my current relationships with people, but I'm thinking about that while I'm doing the job. And while I'm interacting with people, I'm constantly, it's a constant thing. But when I get home that night and I finally wind down and my being I'm sitting down, I'm taking notes about all the things that I thought about doing that day. You know what I'm saying? Big time to review. Oh, absolutely. whereas if you did the early bird nothing's happened yet, so you can't really well. I also, at that time, we'll read. All right. . And you're not, and you're drinking your dreams are like, it takes everything that you've learned. And then it puts it in a way to where you can actually absorb information. Right. So you dream and that's what basically drains. I've met four. By audit can be proxies, whatever have want to put it. But, then when you started to date, I started Dave, am. I started down for the podcast. You know what I'm saying? I started day I'll wake up and I read, so it'd be the same. Like I'm still absorbing information from the information I have prior, but I've worked better creatively at night. And I worked, I functioned better, during the daytime, but I can't do overnight works. Like when I work overnight. I have not as they get into it as I would be if it was daytime. Alright. So for me, it's a. I'm a combination of both. So I'm making money doing a day. I see that as making money and I make money at nighttime, but my nighttime money is different from my daytime. My daytime money is physical money. Data by nighttime money is, Creative for residual. Putting myself in a position to where like I might do. I created my business strategy at night. And then I implemented. In the daytime. So night is always preparation for the next day or the next month or the next year, I think from that perspective. So I'm thinking about my book. I'm like, all right, when I dropped his book right, I'm writing the book at night when I dropped the book. Okay. when it's time to drop, how do I present on create my strategy at nighttime implemented during the day? Yeah. Yeah. I think for me, my take on it when you go on with, but the early bird or what, the night owl. I'm really gonna have to stick with you. Like you got like I'm with the both,  I'll work with both of them because how I look at it. Is when I wake up early in the morning. I want to be able to knock out the biggest task that I need to do throughout the day. on whatever big tasks I need to get done. That's going to be one of the first things I need to get done, just to knock it off. The reason is, is because once I knock that out, then I could be able to, Coast my whole day now, where I can get this ball rolling. All right. I'll keep on building up momentum, cause if I'm I get a big victory starting out. at the beginning. I'm able to work my way through having multiple victories throughout the whole day,  and. I always say I'm a night owl as well. just because I'm one of those people, my mind is one of those that keeps on running. . And I always have stuff to think on where I I had already did on that day. I think about all my wins are all my losses that I had, made. what can I learn from it? those are the stuff that I think out at night. it's crazy because my mind is, I feel like online is really more active at night than it is in the morning. Yeah. So that's what keeps me up,  cause of how much is going on it running through my head. but. the morning is what really helps me to get my day going. I already know if I'm going to stop on a good foot or a bad foot about how, go ahead and accomplish my biggest tasks in that day. And so I just have to look at it from there. For me, I would presume. Much say, I can't really say I'm. The early bird at all, or really. Cause  like same with you guys. I do my best thinking my creative thinking at night. So I set everything up to pretty much do everything at night. So all my leisurely stuff and, Stuff to make sure I'm nice and relax for right. I have balance in my life. I do in the morning. So I do anything if I want to watch, like the quick, funny show, I do that in the morning. I lived some dope. Of funny podcast or radio show up in the morning. I listen to all. I listen to. Do anything with sports like sports talk shows I listen to in the morning as well on my way to work. And then by the time. is time to start work. I'm ready to go. I'm nice and calm. And usually it usually takes me over about.  But afternoon we're on noon. I'm like, I'm ready to go for the rest of the day. But if I don't, if I don't do those things early in the morning, like just to relax, if I try to do some heavy in the morning, It's normally doesn't it doesn't normally doesn't work out for me because personally for me, I'm still sleepy, but like I'm still not there. All in there. Yeah. I'm still like falling in all that. So I have to. Just do other things just to loosen myself up to make sure I'm. Can you can get the job done. Alright. Alright. So  for me, it's just I have to balance myself out in the morning. Yeah. Aside, keep getting yourself balanced out and knowing what do you, what your mood goes with? Because I think for a lot of people, their mood, It kind of fluctuates throughout the day. where they're feeling really low in the morning. And then it kind of ANSA. And then they had that crash and they got Anthem self up a little bit and then peaks out at night. You know what I'm saying? And so it really depends on what are you doing to  and keep yourself moving, during, throughout the day, what the help  is getting your scheduled already planned out. if you have a schedule that's already planned out in front of you. and you know what, you're going to go ahead and do, I would say to wake up early in the morning. And don't fall asleep until everything is done. You know what I mean? And so that's what would help you keep yourself, sustainable. throughout the whole day. making sure everything off your list. Get to accomplish, Yeah, for me, I'd have this. I would also have to schedule that thing. A schedule. My day at night. Cause I guess. Earlier. It was just, I just think the best at night. I also utilize my creativity more at night. So like I can try different some of my creative ideas. It was like, since I'm a personal trainer, like if I want to try a new exercise is best for me to try that night while my creative juices are flowing four, by the time morning comes around, I can see what worked best for me and how I can utilize it to help my clients. And. Different. ways that they could respond to it. Oh, I would say. Since I get the best creativity at night. And for anyone that is also a night owl that gets their creativity at night, I think. you gotta know yourself. You gotta. You gotta learn like different what time of day that you worked best that, and just maximize it to the best of your ability. All right. All right. I agree. Me too.    the. I'll be the topic is like, what are we going to be what's most useful, or we think , is more successful is either staying early in the morning or late at night. There is no wrong or right answer to it. As long as you're using your potential to your fullest, do the waking hours that you are up, you do have some benefits in the morning of where there's more people up, all. the businesses , are up and running. I , we design what is design to be built as night creatures. We were not turning for a very long time. In the beginning of human history will not turn. And then now it was transitioned over to being, Dan's,  for a very long time. That's how we survive. We will survive at nighttime. We hunted at night, we lived in, Oh no, we didn't have any night. We hunted in the morning time, but we slept, we didn't really sleep at night time. What's the second most society pushes more of the early bird. Yeah, exactly. they don't even say the flu expression. They always say the early bird gets the worm, but the full expression is early. Bird gets the worm. Second mouse gets the cheese. Thanks. It's actually a fax, but Mike. Just think about it at night, we're pushed to be early birds. Yeah. By the way that society is structured now, because we have so many, we're in such a comfort zone to where animals aren't coming to kill him, trying to kill us at nighttime. Nice. We can actually go out in the daytime and we're not being hunted by these huge animals. We're able to actually be productive during the daytime because we're in big cities now. Aware, even smaller cities. Like we have technology that if an animal does come with one point, that same manner, but we didn't have that same knowledge. You would kill us and eat us. Now we don't have that issue anymore. So to go in and figure out whether or not we're just designed to be early, birds were designed to work in the morning time. And then put those. I have to work at night. It's actually strange to do it now. When you like those who can't do overnight, it destroys our body. not. It doesn't show you by, but it throws off your, Katie. Yeah. Arcadian rhythm. There you go. It throws it out. So your body's not regenerating their witness supposed to cause any time that you shouldn't be sleeping. You're working in the time that you should be working at your bodies. You see you work that you shouldn't be working. You designed to work now is, sleepy. . So technically those that are a night owl was even though we started out as my house. Is. Destructive for you to actually be on doing those signs. It's more distracting to see your body as it is in which I was surprised that y'all, didn't go off to this notion. I consider them both, the personal fitness, right? You like, that would be the notion that I would take on , okay, it's better to work in the daytime. It is it's not really healthy to be up late night next. Cause during that time, that's when the owner. Because personally for me, I've just. Yeah, I don't even think about. Your body has gotten to the point where you're able to do that. it's now it's wired that way. Cause you've done it so much. The way it's wired. But even still does that to like health wise, is that health healthy? So do it for now. It, is it really healthy tonight? B O O. As long as he's still getting asleep at the end of the day. It didn't sleep in there. As long as it's still going through your sleep. So I blew your friend. It's so easy. So go in the daytime, like it. Your body doesn't. I don't like the chemicals in your body to release there's. There's something that happens inside of your brain. The app is only at nighttime. Oh melatonin. So in the daytime and then its own, isn't the same thing, unless you like black out everything and just thinks that your mind thinks that it's night. You can trick your body into believing that it's not tonight, right? That's crazy. I just, I don't know. Is it better? Did the question that you got access isn't really better. If I showed you abide by the same things that society has set up for you is structured for you to be able to get up in the morning, go to work and be productive, and then go home at nighttime and go to sleep around a certain time to get back up in the morning and do the same thing to repeat the same. Thanks is because society is structured like that. Are you defiance societies, rules and regulations by doing it? doing the opposite of what it tells you to do. I wouldn't think so. Like I said, as long as you're getting what you need to get done.  I think  the point of what me and private hits is that the sleep schedule. It's just not as long as you get your sleep done. Hello? Yeah, it's only a set schedule and you stick to it. And what are you going to say? Send me the schedule and you still have to do it every day. How often does it happen  to what you abide by that set sleeping schedule? Yeah. becomes the harmful for you. So then again, if that's the case, then it kinda goes back to my point of, is it more destructive to do at night signing them? Cause I know for me. asks me, I take care of business, but then there's a certain point Dodge's like I'm going to nap. I'd say NAFLD 31 years old and I take naps. Maybe I'm 32 now. Yeah, I'm 32 now. So it's true. What they say about that night after you hit a certain age and I, it doesn't matter anymore. What age you are. Cause you don't really remember. nah, I just told, I want a couple of podcasts. You'll see. Prior to this, I was like, I'm 33 now. Yeah, but the question that I have to ask is, does it do that. And is it is, is it healthier to just abide by the laws of society? The way it is structured now? Is it healthier for you? Is it more beneficial for you to. To be a. That's what, that's why I said earlier, just experiment with a time that works for you. You just got to understand what works best for you. And if you can't do Like you say, you personally say you can't do overnight. If for a fact you can't do overnight. Don't do overnight. Yeah.  I've done it and I was successful at it, but I know where. That for me. It was not for somebody else if they do overnight and they're not getting enough sleep, they're getting like three or four hours of sleep. Don't do overnight. Get a job where you. go to. Get enough sleep if you need to go to bed 10 o'clock to make sure you get enough sleep. You got a little bit at 10 o'clock. It's that simple. And for me, I can go to sleep at two o'clock. and wake up at night or eight o'clock and be perfectly fine. Not doing. I didn't have plenty of energy. I do it every day. There is not a data I'll wake up and rock eight, maybe nine o'clock. , regardless, like my sleeping in is eight and nine. O'clock. Yeah, oh man. I feel like I'm sleeping out date. Let's put me asleep. Yeah.  , really like honing in on whether or not the societal structure is that the right way to do it? Are we doing it the correct way? Talking about, daytime and nighttime. Should it be flipped because like you were saying, I have a lot more energy at night, right? Same amount of energy at night. It's like the abilities, the things that if I had work to do at nighttime about there was a way that I can do stuff at night, bro. I will probably be more productive if I worked at night time. if I did stuff at night, Like the same stuff that we do in the daytime. If I did that at nighttime for a few hours and I changed my holes, if I flipped it completely. Oh, my God. I'd probably be way more productive, . But I'm saying it's over here. overnight, most of the top entrepreneur, like the studies that they've shown is that the lean more towards the late night also. But then again, there's Elan Musk and he says he sleep in until 11 o'clock in the morning. Yeah. But he's also a genius. Did you know that the others aren't. No, I don't. I'm not saying that they're not geniuses. I'm saying that like the brain chemistry probably works a little bit different. , like what his. I did it,  he comes up, like he said, it's like, bro. I have so many ideas that come to me at all times. , it's always, it doesn't shut down, but I have to force myself to shut down. Alright. There's a lot of entrepreneurs. They're not like that. They just  they see. They see an opportunity. Boom. Alright. That's made that happen. And then I think they think a little bit into it, but not too much. Cause there's entrepreneurs that just symphony by businesses. Look at 'em learner, the form to figure out how to make profit off of big asset. Scripted DAS in. Nancy could have made money off it and ask people. That the entrepreneurs that are real estate agents and they do the same day, look at the house, figure out how to build it, send the people to build it. , it's not really that much. They just got capital to do what they got the mayor. How did I need to make it happen? So a lot of times, even though we think with entrepreneurs that they're thinking constantly in their building ideas constantly, that's not always true in every case. There's not all entrepreneurs are not the same are nowhere near the same. No, not at all, but like he was saying that he leaves, it leans more towards the night house because at nighttime, the juices are flowing. Yeah. dad is fat. I know for me, that is fact and Finn for most people that I know. that are entrepreneurs that are actually washed for meals that are actually out there doing anything. It's the same concept. It's , yeah, I'm up. Around this time. And how many times we even got on the phone and it was nice. , it's two o'clock in the morning. I call you. Hey, listen. Yeah, you can just say, I just noticed that the podcasts you've listened to it. You know what I'm saying? It drops a night for. Yeah. Noses. So it might've been twice. But still not performing. The point is that when I called you and stood up to yeah. Sure. I know why I'm an idiot. I don't even know. Tell me you were both. We're trying to figure out different ideas. Exactly, but it's, what's going on. Yeah, I don't know. I just think even with. Then that I would think it is possible for it to be disruptive. It can be destructive to be a night owl, but. then again, I guess you can say the same. Society just made it easier to be an early bird. Absolutely. that's I think that's the main thing. Nice   society made it.  Nine to five man. That's it. All we know is that nine to five. It's all of that early morning grind. Here's what's crazy about that though. I think about it. All right. Are you productive? If you want to notify, are you truly productive as far as for your life? Like it brings you some money. You're able to take care of your bills and things of that nature, if you're able to do that. But your productivity level at the job is just to keep that shit. Whatever you do at your job is to get that check for you for your life. That's that's what that leads to. But for the person that you're working for. Your productivity, brains them an entire lifestyle.    

  greatest idea.   When I think about thinking my future self. Obviously, what comes to mind is I just wanna, Thank him for. We're just going through a struggle. Just going through those.  the struggles of life. And, they're all the temptations and all the sacrifice that he had made, the people that he had to talk to along the way, the mentors he had to have and all the experience that he got from. Friends. And a family. As well as people in the industry just. just a constant learner. I just want to thank him. That's the main thing I want to thank him for always learning, always trying to learn from people, always trying to better himself, even on the days where people even got on his nerves. That were close to him, but you always realize that was for the best. there are some days. that were you guys talking to me and you guys were just frustrated me, but I always go back and look on it. dude, We all have each other's back. You're doing it because you're trying to help. we're always trying to help each other. Oh, we got her. I remember that. So Sometimes. they do. It doesn't seem like it sometimes. But You can't take things so serious at the same time. Cause we're all human and we all make mistakes. So we're all just, just doing the best we can. What we think is right. That's just one way. I always look at it. So when I think about, thinking my future self. I just want to thank them for. Just going through. The. Basically going through the mud, as they would say. Is it always, this. Being, like I said, a lifelong learner. Keep 'em. Learning from people. And just staying discipline. The dis discipline is a big aspect as well. No doubt. No doubt. That's big time. If anything. Like discipline is one of the greatest thing that I'm going to be able to think Mikey's yourself, I'm learning on warning to be able to gain that I'm trained in that aspect. this going through daily life in, in general. I want to be able to thank my future self on the fact on having the non-queer mentality. cause there's so many times, and there's so many. States in my mind. Where it was like, It's better off. If I do not continue. But for me to continue. Is the best toys. And that's why I want to thank my future self because I had made a decisive decision on to continue. And being persistent. And so for you to be able to gain that last, like I was saying, there is with that self-discipline aspect, You gotta be able to self discipline on your cell, on to training your mind on, to be able to continue onto the steps on what your goal on what the goal you're trying to accomplish. And it for me. Like I'm really big on family. I'm really big on family. And I'm really big on the fact that I want to be able to represent myself as a great. son as a great, brother as a great feature husband and as a great teacher dad, and I want to be able to get back. I want to be able to get those characteristics down in pack. And to be able to. Have the influence. On our, not just me, but the people around me, And so that's really big and just never, ever giving up and just not having. The. The mindset of just a quick, I really do want to take my future South on that. That's pretty powerful. Breath. Let me just say first off. I'm grateful for you. Killing me. Okay. And I know that probably sounds crazy, but killing the man that I am today. Even the old to you as the old it's the Ooh. The guy that. What's a procrastinator that the guy that say one thing, but then. 90% of the CYO shoe too. Bye. That was at 10% that matter. But the guy that had big dreams. Play. Wouldn't go out and achieve it, even though they had, it sounded for it. And I appreciate you telling me. I appreciate that. I'm so grateful for you doing that. I'm happy to lay down in my casket, knowing that the best person, the best version of myself. It's living, Like for me, it's huge. to be like, I am a great father, not. But I know you'll be even better. like the things that I've learned throughout these were 32 years. These are the things that I've learned. Don't even compare to the things that you achieve with the knowledge and wisdom that I was given. No, I'm grateful for that. And actually taking heed to it. Now that's a big thing. I know me personally, I, sometimes I get advice and I don't take heed to it. Sometimes I get advice and is I look at the other person and I'm like, eh, you ain't going to do. And then who did it? So I ain't gonna really take too much of you to it. But you look at past it, look at past the person and say, and looking at the value of the words that are being spoken. I think that for that I'm grateful. for the husband mentioned ended up becoming, cause I know I was an okay husband. no, not really. I wouldn't, I wasn't the best husband in the world. But. the head, you will learn what it meant to actually deal with a female, and to be able to deal with not just a female, but to deal with a partner. I like partner look at it from that perspective. No. I know to you. Is it just a time capsule? just something to look back on and say, Oh yeah, I was there at one point. but for me, this is a hell of a stepping stone. You notice is this is the. It's a big point for me. up at 10 now, me and these guys have talked about, how the podcast is edifying us. it has made us better. And I'm grateful for that, but I know if those ones that we did prior to this at a five, me, the ones that we do after this. God bless you. And I'm sure that the people that you gone bless, it's going to be great. I know the kids that you're going to look after and take care of him and speak to. It's gonna change their lives in ways that I can't even imagine right now, I can't even predict how it's going to be. But I do know that from the man that I am right now and the goal of the bands that I have right now, I know you gotta be better. You have to be right. if I'm doing anything, you being grateful for anything, it's the fact that. You bury me.   So thank you for that. Yeah. Yeah, that's a different podcast. Yeah, sure. Yeah. It's a. isn't. it. Talk to your future self is important. Yeah. I had that conversation with yourself, like really had that conversation. Like the man that I want to be, who am I going to be? What do I stand for? What values do I really uphold? how do I dress? How people see me? all these things matter,   more than. To make sure that we're staying true to our values as we were growing up. Knowing who we are, knowing the values that we stand for. Exactly. Yeah, it's tough. Especially in the toughest of times. Yeah. That's what really makes you your character. Oh, that's it. Not only that in the, in Dan environment that we're in right now to the times that we're in right now, Oh, So we're in a social media time where it's still new. it's been a digital age. Yeah. It's still new, but Sometimes the person that you portray yourself to be on social media, isn't who you are in real life. And it takes away. you create a separate character from who you are. That is the thing. So making sure that you're staying true to yourself while you're posting things. Portraying to the world. Yeah. I find it. I have to take a break from sometimes, cause I started to lose myself in it. Like most people do Alright. I agree 100% because this for me, I like to be in tune to what I'm truly am and to who I'm true.   I'm trying to be because with the whole information that we got going on our phones and on the computers and so forth like that, I feel like it's just so much stuff. That's. As put into our heads of what life should be like. You know what I mean? When from somebody else's perspective. Prospective clients have not actually really living that life. You know what I'm saying? Definitely. And that's that's. That's what put in perspective for me of okay, I see what's going on here. And I need figure, I need to prioritize my life on I want to be able to, to take control. You know what I mean? I want to be able to take control of my life and to be able to steer in a direction where I see myself to be happier. where I see myself to feel accomplishing. and I know that for a fact that I'm going to need to build up my character values, being, having integrity, being honest, I'm holding myself up on Upwork value to carry on. My legacy. And so that's, it's really, it's really crucial to having that standpoint, that, perspective. To be solidified for you. another thing is I read a lot of books. All right. I'm in, I'm a big advocate of books, and even information and none can. if you're not careful, when you read me your soap, so much of it in that she could come back and you become part of that board and put book becoming part of you, Now, whether that's a good thing, a bad thing. It depends on the information in the book, but not losing yourself in any type of information. It don't matter what book it is. It don't matter. even in your religion, it's the same thing, not losing who you are when you're dealing with your religion. It's the same concept. All didn't like being true to yourself happening, having that integrity within yourself. RO there's more, there's so much value in just that line alone. Like just that line. I thank him alone. Like growing up it's tough. Cause you still learn it yourself. even I know people that's 30, 40, 50 years old. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah. You see it through their actions, as you see it through, when would the people that they deal with? for instance, I know, this woman, she does not, she still doesn't understand, like she keeps picking all these bad guys. So she'll pick the bad guy and she's I don't understand why every man does me like this. And I'm like, There is like a consistent, like a Lake. What's the word I'm looking for? it has a consistent, component in this equation that we have going on. You get with a guy and you get what a guy. The same type of dude, not only that, but there's obviously something there when it comes to you too. You're not changing. No, she's not saying she doesn't shoot. When I talked to her, she's alright, nah, she never accepts any wrong. She just, she doesn't think she did it. She's I took care of them up, but I'm like, yeah, but. Maybe Dan, have you taken to Europe? Yeah. You don't know yourself. Cause if you knew yourself, you would understand that. Okay. boom, this is happening, but it's because of this as well. It's because of wine as well. I have to say. And that's. Taking full responsibility for who you are, is extremely important. That's part of your integrity is being honest with yourself, and honest with your. flaws. Yeah. When dealing with your future self, you can't. Self-awareness yeah. It's big to how you grew up. How you tell your future self become the magnitude? No need to become. I agree. I have to be fully aware of things that you do right. And things that you do wrong. in order for you to grow in order to like search strategize where you need to go, how can you fix this area? Or how can you just make this area continue to get stronger? And no, yeah. I agree with you 100%. No one, what are you trying to go in? Yeah, that's extremely important because when you know what you're trying to go at, who you need to become to be there. and not along the way you slowly become that. And if it's not part of that plan, To a degree, there are some things that, you can't plan, but if it's not part of that plan, don't accept it. Don't do it. Don't be it. If that these females that you're dealing with, I'm just using that for an example, because it's easy for a lot of people to understand. if you know the type, if you want a wife, And, what type of wife you want, in the values that you want her to hold true to. You know that somebody girls, ain't gonna cut it. if you're dealing with shorty over here, She ain't finna amounts of that. She can't be that. So she's not that. So that's interrupting your plan from getting where you're trying to go at. Same concept with the people that you do. if you know that, Hey, I want to end up here. And people that I'm dealing with only go from have a small mindset and always down to you and saying, Oh, bro, you ain't going to be there. And that's it. I look at reality that you can't do that because of this, and this. If always doing that. You probably need to cut them off as well in order to get to where you're trying to go with, even it could even be your family members. It could be your moms. It could be your props. that's true. That's the hardest part. Yeah. You can find a way, what is it long handled spoon feeding when Lauren had a spoon. Sometimes you have to do that. in order for you to be the best person you want to be.   Yeah. I agree 100% with two guys on that. And what came to my mind is that. I like that what most people deal with. even for me, is that. I'm stuck in a mode of being and, to I'm stuck in a mode of being in a same person. A crazy person, I should say. Dealing with insanity. And basically what that boils down to is that.   I'm trying to be honest, I has said is I'm doing the same exact thing and trying to expect different results from it.   And. To be true, which it, that ain't going to work and they ain't gonna cut it. It's not going to cut it. You going to need to figure exactly who you are, who you're trying to be calm, just like Jermaine was saying. And you need to put in action that place of, okay. I need to get myself around these people or I need to start doing this. I need to start reading this. When you start listening to this, I needed to put myself in a position where I'm going to be able to. Help my future self. So I can be able to get different results than who I was. I'm glad you said that. I'm glad you said it, man. Like helping your future self, make it easier for your future self. Make it easy, don't complicate the situation when you don't have to, if there's a way that you can bless yourself ahead of time. The best way to bless yourself is an agile that you do now in the present. To equal up to the things that you want in the future. That's pretty that's basically where it be was You're saying, I think extremely important if you could just grasp that concept. Like the, now the present. Is the future. Or if you can grab that concept. And. There's a balance of that. Cause he can't just have one, most people say to your perspective, Before they do something stupid. You gotta be thinking of the. How this is gonna affect you in the future. Alright, you can just make a bad decision and say, I'll do what it would have happened. And then moment comes or I wasn't expecting this. Yeah. Yeah. You gotta be figuring out how will this help you? No matter what decision you make, do you have to, how does this help me? To our need to go. That should be most people's minds with it. if it doesn't help you, if it's not going to help you to get you towards your end goal, then you have no time for it. You flat out have no time for it at all. So that being said, I would just hope that most people do what's in their best interest. to get themselves to need to be where they need to be. make the actions that help them grow. Talk to. Talk to the people that need, they need to talk to half the uncomfort uncomfortable conversations that they didn't need to have. In order to grow. Cause that's another part of it. The emotional stability that you need to have in order to grow. Cause there's going to be some very tough conversations along the way in order for you to grow, but you can't run from it. You just gotta deal with it. Absolutely. Absolutely   B. Conscious and extremely aware of. The quality of the advice that you give to others. And hold true today. I don't tell somebody some stuff that you ain't going to do. don't don't you wish your time setting may cause they going to be looking like. Yeah. If you not gonna hold you to it. I can't tell you to grow if I refuse to grow, because you're going to be looking at me. I don't know about that. Do the same thing with the. Good kids. I coach I told them about it. I'm going to tell you to do something I can't do exactly Too much. I don't want Assad should be. That's how I should be. they, how I term it is basically like unsolicited advice. You know what I mean? if you're not a position to give me that advice, don't give me that advice at all. You know what I mean? Yeah. That's true. And so it was just how, that's just how it is. just think about it. So imagine a bone, you see this guy On the street or it, And he's trying to give you advice on how to manage your money. Now is on one hand. What we're saying right now is, Hey, look, don't take your vice from that. The only take advice from him, cause obviously he'll know how to handle his money. But. True. truthfully. Think about it. If he tell you all the things that he did wrong, and you do the opposite of that, he could be the best person. That's the best advice you could have. So I want to, I'm playing devil's advocate on that side, just because I know that there's times where I get information and that's why I say a bank to my future self, because I get information about, like somebody that comes to me and they're like, Duh. And I'm like, yo. Either holding true to that. Like you don't believe. In that. But. You're right. That's why it's so important to take heat to the device itself. Even in the step and go pass the person. you have to go pass that person. I'm not learning comes from everywhere. I'm not taking away from Dave. Bi-State beat him. Just say, cause I'm gonna st. I'm on the same wall. Which car would it be in prime when it comes down to, looking at the person as wedding, you do need to pay attention to who telling you this advice. Cause they're awesome. People that give you some messed up advice. If you're not paying attention, if they got a flaw care, extremely flawed character, please pay attention to that. Okay. So that's that I'm not taking away from that, but am I also want to bring it to the point that just listen to their advice? And if it's helpful to you. Take it, if it's not helpful to you discard it and keep on moving, maybe it'll come to me late on. That's important. And I think one of the things that, That we could be able to touch on real quick. Is this that the FA the action steps that were taken. today. So if somebody is in a situation right now and they're not. Where they're expected to be. So let's say for instance, like for me, I had made a. back when I was 18 years old, I made a five year goal plan. And I expected myself to be living in California in a beach house mansion. You know what I mean? I'm having a family, And to this day on 25 years old and not, I'm not there yet. and I could tell you, I'm probably not even close to be there. The vice that I could give to people who had made those types of, goal plans and so forth like that. What like, this is what I can say. Do you guys like, even for me, I'm speaking to myself, is that. You need to be able to. We were talking about this before, is that. Where we are today, right? It's from the access that we made previously down the road. Like back then. Is what put us in this position today. if you're not in that position where you haven't reached your goal, yet as of today, let's start right now. To make those acts and plans. To put you in that position. Five to 10 years down the road. Absolutely. You know what I mean slowly. And so I'm just really preaching to myself right now, Correct. Because it's happened to me. It is happening to me. And Right now. let's regroup. Reorganize. and to be able to. Put acts in plays into, in, into. N into and to progress and to move in. To where we could be able to, Better position ourself down the road. Yeah.   No. I know we were talking about that. Previously. Yeah, it was talking about. What I was saying was, the past is what makes the present and the present is what makes the future. And that's the simplest way to break it down. So everything that you've done in the past, every action that you did, it led to the present, and then everything that you do in the present is what the future is. So right now I am a future cell from when I first started about guys. And everything that I've said and done up until this point. Is now in the bass, right? The second pass. So it's in the past, you know what I'm saying? but everything I do from this point on. Determines how my future is going to lay yourself out. Sorry, constant. So constantly, making the future. I'm actually making a future right in front of your eye to create in the future. when you look at it from that perspective, you saw, look at the future self. As it's not a distant idea, it's not a distant person. It's a current. Is the current person that he's in the next second. You know what I mean? Like that person is the next second day that man that you want to be as a net second, Like the value that you want to hold true to comes in the next second. Cause everything equally. thoughts, all into action, everything. Yeah, exactly right. Yeah, that's. yeah, we did have that conversation and it was funny cause I was explaining it. And, it was like, what do you mean. Tell me about what your future self is your present self and your present self is your pass. You'll pass out. Don't even exist anymore. What's. So I kept going to it. Froms like, man, listen, bro, you don't have to break it down so much. He's like you get on it. You get on top. You break it down and break it down. yo, I just won't. A seven year old to kinda understand what I'm saying. Yeah. Yeah, fair enough. Yeah. True. And I do notice that. When I pass away and I'm sitting back and I'm reminiscing on my, past life, I want to make sure that I said everything that I could say at every moment that I had a chance to so that whoever was with me or around me at that time, they'd got. They can't say that I didn't spit it out to them. You know what I'm doing? And I can't say that I didn't push as hard as I could to not even push as hard as I could, but clarify as much as I could. The concepts and ideas that I had in my head at that time. Cause I knew that maybe it might've not been that important at that moment in time, but down the road is a C at a sit at the side of the hand regardless, and it'll grow. Yeah. Breaking it down. It's extremely important. It's critical to the way that are moving thing. Yeah. It's going to affect your future self. Exactly. Exactly. That's big time, man. It's big time. Excellent. like all of us, I just want to give us a great gratitude to our future self. and to really think. who we are today, us as men, you know who we are today, because. I wouldn't be here. without the. Just the stewardness that I had put in place. Today. And so I do want to thank. really you want to think, my past and my future self, There was a moment. months ago where this wasn't even a dream, it wasn't even possible at. All right. And I'm sure we talked about it before on how we can, how we ended up getting together. Yeah. This right here is as far as we've ever been. Like this right here has been a completely different, this is the aspect of like right now, this part of my life is. It's different. It's different. this is the, this is something that's so doing a podcast is so different. From Jewish. Like my regular day. I don't know how to explain it. Like it created, like in me, it fired up this. This spark in me that made me like move on the words I was saying, maybe because it was written out of history or like it's recorded now. Yeah. Maybe that's what it is. I'm sure that has a part to do with it. But I think the fact of just coming in doing it. Has built it because it has Rose. I know we talked about, we had this conversation. Off the podcast. We talked about edification, but man, this thing is built. There's I don't think I will be the man that I am right now and be running a business. They don't run it at the rate that I'm going right now. If it wasn't for this podcast. I don't think that I would speak as eloquent as I do now, if it wasn't for the podcast, this podcast was thought of when, not this specific one, but we had one that was prior to this. And when it was prior to it was, we would talk it's crazy. The idea was to find local heroes and had them explain their stores to better help, the youth, find out we will freaking local heroes the whole time. so like for real. Yeah, we've been blessed. We've been able to bless a lot of people. I know me personally, I've been able to bless a lot of people. I know these guys have had just through the podcast, right? So that was one concept with a podcast and then it turned into this. And this is blessed us so much. If everybody has been listening to all across the world, because by the way, we get to nationally known in case y'all didn't know for sure. Yeah. Like literally as people. VIN lane, Germany, Portland. The list goes on. There's a whole bunch of kingdoms. That's also included Republic. Yeah. Yeah. So it's like it's. Yeah, we're making like there's people that's hearing our voice and that might not get the same opportunity to sit down and use you to how we're able to use YouTube and listen to billionaires talk a millionaire is interviewing things like that. And the only thing that they have is us. So when we come and we give advice, And we drop in things there's people that would never get a chance to hear that advice. Never. So I'm grateful for the fact that I'm able to reach out and touch other people. I'm not even, I don't even have to know you, bro. I'm glad I could help you SIS. Glad I could help you, bro. You know what I mean? No doubt. So we gratefully anything. We're grateful for that. We're grateful for getting chance to reach out, like from a spiritual perspective. God has placed us in a spot we'll we're able to reach out to everybody. All across the world. That's huge. So please know that when we sit down and telling my story and things of that nature, it's not just coming from us. 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 which is more important fear or hope.   For me personally, I have to go with. A controlled  level of fear.     when you have fear it enables  you. Not everyone, but it was you to push yourself  to. To become the person that you need to be. Because. I think if  you go the hope route, It doesn't cause you too. do an action necessarily. When you have hope.   When you're saying you're hopeful for something, it's just a way of thinking. There isn't not necessarily a way that's gonna make you act. a lot of people who they go to gas stations, they buy a lottery ticket. They hope they win. That's not something you can necessarily control. But if you have fear, like if you go the other route, if you have fear of losing your job or. Fear of not having a successful business.  You're most likely to make the steps an action to make sure that you get your,  end goal, which may be to have a successful business or to do well in your job. Right.   It's  all a balance though, because you do need hope in order to. You don't want to just do stuff and see the, like there's no progress. Then if you see, there's no progress and there's like, No mountain. to climb. Then there's no push in that direction either. Yeah. Yeah. That's just my thoughts on it so far right now. I think that hope plays a bigger part in my life. just for the fact that. It cause when I think of hope. . On it puts a positive image in my mind. Right. And it makes me feel more optimistic on my future. Hmm. And so if I'm feeling optimistic, A is gonna push towards me. Go ahead and accomplishing my goals. I set for it. If you had  versus the theater  that will be put in my mind. It, I don't want it to be detrimental. As in   creating no action at all. You know, cause fear for some people. lead them paralyzed, . , in a negative snowball effect  when I have hope, or I might optimistic about a brighter future. That's gonna put me at ease. I feel like it's going to put me in a, in a stance where I'm going to feel good. , where I'm heading towards. And then I can go ahead and play that part of doing, doing the actions that need to be taken and be taken care of. . Didn't you say earlier, before. basically said no one has to tell you if you're a fear. If you're afraid of something that you're just going to move on your own. We talked about this, like a couple weeks ago. Right. You, you basically said no one has to tell you. To to deal with the fear. You're just like, it kind of excites you. Like, cause it's like solving a problem. You don't see it, like when you have fear, like it's like a problem that you've got to solve, basically. Yeah. He's talking about, losing. Yeah. Loss. Yeah. Like that was more of a motivator. Yeah.   Yeah. I don't really see. I. When I'm thinking about fear, I'm thinking about. Hope I don't really see it. I don't see as much of a difference. And. That needs. Cause you don't have to explain to you now. Yeah. I mean, look. Okay. when you're in a fearful situation, you hope you get out. Facts. Yeah. that's true. You're in a hopeful situation. You're fearing the I'm a knock you on with what you believe in snack. So I think to me,  it's his. Albums and possibly to not have one without the other. Thanks. So I agree  you have to be able to control your fear was you always have to be realistic budget hole. Hmm. You can't have, you can't be overly hopeful. Test being overly hopeful.  that doesn't mean there's going to need Ash. Right? And being overly fearful. . doesn't mean that you're gonna always is going to need to actually. Boy might cause you to be stuck in the UAE static. Right? So. I think it's, it's a healthy measure of both. I don't think there is a better option. Right. Whoever goes in Blaine. I'm all about balance when it comes down to it is. I think that every emotion has to have, His counterpart that has both the most life when you love somebody. And you're gonna be some things that you hate about them. Or a state. You can't just love somebody, night, overly loved somebody cause they probably don't run away. It's same thing. Like their names. Latin. Perfect in a perfect world. What do you mean by, that relationship or what do you mean by things that you hate? About them. I think that's an interesting. Thought process. There's things. There's things that I can text you just like, back, People, you know, like certain people that I have relationships with actually, there's nobody that I, that I'm like, you. No. I just love everything about that verse. I mean, yeah. It's not possible what I'm saying. It's not possible to actually to do that. So there's going to be some things that's on the opposite spectrum. Feeling and obviously spectrum of love something. The saints. Hey. But it could just be feared, I think, love and fears. The two strongest emotions they're out there. That's two opposite spectrums, even though we see his love and hate, because I guess you can dislike somebody naive. Right, right. Yeah. Blake. I don't know. It's just, I think it has to be a balance between it's very possible. For you. To, to go to the extreme of being hopeful and they go to this screen. Being fearful because both of them are detrimental in their own ways. You can be extremely hopeful and, be living in a fantasy. .  you can be extremely fearful and be living in a fantasy world. Right. Cause a lot of times spirits this is based off of, not having enough knowledge of the situation, the whole whatever's going on, what happened too much. And I was in a situation. And what's going on. And so that's, that's that's me personally. I think that it isn't I get where you're coming from, but it's like, but that's the, that's the thing with, with anything, like, if you have too much of anything. That will be bad for you, right? But you don't have to. Nothing at all as bad. As well, I understand, like I understand, but like, The question. The question is basically asking, could you repeat the question one more time, bro? Which is more important fear or hope so. The thing is like, which is more important for you. Like, you know what I mean? If you had to make a decision on like, figuring out, like, if I'm gonna live my life, Yeah. On on, on, on, on fear. Then you live your life. On fear. And that's not. I'm going to live my life being hopeful. Do you live your life? The hope because you feel like that's more important to you. That's not realistic. Like. Are there. Do it. Yeah. Other people that live completely, utterly in hope at all times. I mean, that's the object. Yeah, that's I think that's an optimistic person. And that's what I'm saying. That for me, I'm an optimistic person. So I looked at being, living in hope, a living hope. Again, being hopeful. Typically on the same. When you talk about optimism, you talking about, looking at the glass as half full. Right. You know what I'm saying? I mean, Aside from. miserliness is pessimism. Yeah. Okay. Looking at the glass half empty. Right. That's that's positive and bang. Right. And by that. That means. It's literally add and subtract so on wine and you look down like, Oh, I can see this going. I can see, I can put more in there. Yeah. If I may, I have. No. You know what I'm saying? It's not the same as. I'm being hopeful. And being fearful, right. It's not. It has to be a balance by being an optimist. He doesn't necessarily mean it to hope. And all the times being manifested as it doesn't mean nature. A year fearful at all times, H is simply means that the way that you view the world. By the way you look at the, in your attitudes towards attitudes towards. And she'd been to proceed. With Heidi. Boom is different. So those words on that optimism, the hope is that the same thing. Hopeless. How do you explain hope? Hope is. I mean for me, I look at, we don't want to. I don't know how to explain. Hope cause it's, this is. I think it's a desire of an expectation that you want to happen. That's how I look at home. So. Way. When I, when I let let's say for instance, if I'm in a burning house, right. My hope is to come out. My hope is to come out of it a lot. Right. You know where I could be. Living and breathing and I don't have that burn in flames. Right. So my doc, my desired expectation is for my safety, you know, and for me to, to be, To me, to me to be free to me to be living. You know what I mean? Come on. To come out of it a lot. So like I said, like hope for me is that desire, expectation. On on. Online. That's the case and hope could be a pessimistic as well. You got home, you ain't going to get out of that. You know what I mean? That's what I'm, that's what I mean by that. Missing go pessimistic. I mean, and it's in that same example. That's why I say a few word being very important for me. That fears the only way I'm gonna get out the house. Yeah. Right dude, I do not want to get burned. I did not want to lose my life. That's gonna motivate me to move some things out the way, get out the door. I see, and for me, yes. It requires both because on one hand, like I've decided I want to get out of the house. Okay. I have a little bit of fear saying, Hey. Little bit faster. But I'm going to use both of those and figure out a way to make that happen. Right. So for me, it's both. It's hard to say, which is more important because I think that. There isn't one it's for me, the answer is neither one on one more important. Neither one is more important. And it depends on the situation. Aren't you afraid though, when you're hoping for something that you're gonna, that's likely to be less likely to act. Why you won't, you won't take life into your own hands when you're hoping. More than your fear. I think it just depend on the type of personality. Like. Cause, like I said, it really does depend on your personality. Because I've, I've seen people that I've, that I've known that. They, they always had that desire that they know they're going to do something in their lives and they went ahead and did it. And then as well, I've seen people that came from a really rough environment. Where they had a promising future. And, but. Darn it, they, they weren't, they were held to, they were, they were, they, they were, you know, They were able to make a change. To, to go ahead and make a, make a change into their lives to get out of that situation out of the rent. Cause they weren't vehicle and to stay in the situation as it ran, you know what I mean? So you can get it from both ways, but. Not all people would be able to do that in that situation. You know what I mean? I don't think cause stops. If you don't, I don't think I will stop. I don't think he, I don't think it causes you to stop. I think like, I think being overly hopeful. Can Spansion start your actions. I do think that as possible. So in a sense, I see where you're going with that. I can see, I got hope. Hope I get a job at night. I just feel like, it sounds like. Turns the switch. Yeah. Hopefully it'll happen. Yeah. One day, like, wait, wait, the combinate did. The combination of fear and becomes, hopefully they had no money. Oh . I mean, phones. Thanks man. Make something happen. I hope that it happened, but I'm going to make sure that right. right. It becomes right. That's I think day, a healthy combination of both hope and fear is what we call more of an issue. Right. I think that's what we call it that way. Yeah, motivation. I think that's that's. That's that's that's what we call it. A fight. There's buyers. That is a, is a combination of both of them put together. Run down a certain way and put them both on together. Right. So what are the negatives of just taking out the hope and just pushing out? Just with fear negatives. You can't, you can't, it's not yourself. You can, you can, you can become to the point. Don't move. Do you know what I mean by that? So fearful that you don't make no decision at all. Okay. You said Florida's a decision. Well, you've made a decision. Dang it also the fear that you was looking at patents.   huh? Kind of gives you a little bit of a vision as well. So I want to spend your vacation like hopeless. Fear. Give you. Vision. It gives you, it's just another way of looking at. the future. Situation, right. Or whatever the situation is like, it gives you. Insight. And this is like, Yes, this is. It's activating your third guy. I hate to say it like that, because now it is now. Being freaking move. And know what I'm saying is when we talk about, when we talk about the dirt out, we're going to talk to him about he's been able to, is to have third eye is foresight. Right. And both hope and fear combined together gives. Healthy foresight. Now you can have too much hope and it gives you a bad. A foresight to have so much fear and he gives you a path or a site, or you have. These were good foresight. And you know, how you, how you look at it. Wait, the healthy combination of both is what creates positive, increase them. Better? No. Wrong or, Grace. The more beds. Way of movie. Going to force a more effective way. Yes. Sorry. That's why I say it's. Both. It has to be asking you a combination of both. He knows of those, Concepts. That knows those on the spiritual concept. I don't wanna say abstract name. I use abstract abstract concepts. I Molding together. David come reality. If you do it, the right. I think. I think most people. Can we have more people that. Well, there's no way of knowing this for sure, but I think we have more people that they're on the hope spectrum. More. That it caused him not to move there. I feel like most people are not, but I'm basing this off of my experiences with my professional experiences. I feel like more people are. Not scared enough. Yeah, so they don't move. But like when the new year starts, they hope they lose weight. Right. But they're not scared. They're not scared to the effect. Like if they don't lose weight, when they get older. They might be diabetic. They might have bone problems. They might not be able to walk. They might be, have to have a leg cut off. That doesn't scare them enough. There's not enough. They don't have enough here. Right. That's still a healthy combination of both. You still need both. Good you have, if you're afraid of not paying. healthy. You might do something about it or you could give up. No, this is me to sign on, live this out on that. All down himself. Right, right. Yeah. You've heard that. You've heard a thousand times. And that's coming from a, a strong figure, Stanford. Right. So. I'm not, I'm saying that dairy is a positive aspect, so fear. Right. But there's also a negative aspects of feeding. And I think when you say fear, we only home we've honed in on the negative. Yes. The positive aspects. That's where I was going with it. Yeah. I know. Oh, that's fine. I'm clarifying it. So. But it's the same thing with hope. We hope. We think that hope has a positive spin. Like there's a negative aspect to it that we don't hone in on as well. We kind of focus when you hear the whole thing positive. Do you have anything negative when they automatically, yeah. We'll have set up and programmed to believe that because that's just, that's the way I, the collective conscience says, decided that it was going to be. But we also know that that's not actually accurate when you add in the world and you're doing things and you're moving around in this world. It's not the same. you can't, you understand that you can't just be fearful of everything. No, what I mean? Can't be hopefully everything. Alright. No. What I mean, even when dealing with, different people, you can't be every time I like. The instance, you see a, another, different, person that's not liking, they don't look back and automatically you go into whatever stereotype that you have of that, of that deck person. Whatever. you can be amazing. You can be, you know, thought process on. You see that in your life, you got two choices. You can be fearful when you've got three choices and I'll ask you why, and you can be fearful of that person and believe those stereotypes or whatever you need to be. I'm hopeful that those stereotypes don't exist, but then it's vice versa as well, because you could be open to it that could put you in danger by me to help, to hopeful about the situation. And in that way, or it can put you in danger by me and food too, fearful to that person. You just attendance. So it's just a matter of like, The concept's the abstract concepts, but we live in a reality that we live in this world. You have to look at it from your perspective. Have you got it? In reality, it has to have it. Hasn't been a marriage of both. That's been a healthy marriage, right? So that's just my personal thing. From my experience, but again, You feel proud, you feel, you feel like fears about an emotion. You feel like there's way better, right? Yeah. Yeah. More important. It's more important. Maybe you feel like hope is more. Oh water. And I feel like he's. Mixture of both. Oh, no, thanks. Not possible. I don't even think this podcast will be possible. That was the situation. And we named off with just your ideology, only the podcast. And we live in fear and that aspect, I don't know if we would have gotten as far as we have and then the same way I hope. I don't think we would've got as far as we had. I think it was a combination of both. Cause you told them you will be more of an embodiment of fear. From when he came down to you right now, you need to make this happen. Yeah. And, the, you will be inviting it a fault. I was saying, Hey, look, bro, this would be great. If you just did this, make this happen. And I'm like, alright. Well, That's making this happen. It's combination of both. I do. Do you feel like it's because all three of us came together and made it only happened because all three of us came together in the app. Through would've happened actually. We know it wouldn't happen. Right, right. We experimented with that and it didn't work just on the whole. It didn't work with just going on on the field. You get a combination of both. In order to make that, do you read from him? Well, I it's hard for me to know. Cause I don't know, like what was. What was stopping us before, like what's, everyone's internal battle. Well, I mean, We were talking about in the morning we tried and then it just didn't, it just didn't happen. Like which side of war are we leaning towards? I mean, Oh, you want that? I don't remember. Do you have, do you not? We sit in the library and he was talking about turning the gap, right. We'll kill all the time. They get happy. We got hopes that it's. going to happen is maybe. We really need this. Editing the actions just to, even though we were in the room could have been a name. It didn't happen. Let's get to talking about the future of it. Instead of. going into Ash life, actual steps to maybe have our lawyers. Got it. We could have got on the phone and made it happen. When doing this, the action, we just brought them way more actions this time. Than what it was the first time. Right. It was more realistic. Do you think it was more of a balance? Yeah. Yeah. Cause the first time it was just me to be. And we will stop and then podcasts with different remote. We'll be stopping by just looking for a local heroes. It wasn't, it was like, let's try to drag you just, it just didn't work out as opposed to. I just say that same, instead of saying goals and things of that nature, but it didn't work out, I suppose. I see it's coming from. I. I see you balancing it up. Like it is a balance, but I think we got it started because of fear now. That's exactly where I was going to go towards because the fact of 2020 headache. And all these events that came. Before we start talking about, we're talking about now. Yeah. Going again. How, how, how it, how this came about with, with. Use the Corona. You don't know the chroma hadn't hit. Guys yet before we started rolling. You don't remember how that started? Bypass this part does. Yeah. no, no, no, no, no, no, because there was no, there was no porn scene. It's a two, 2020. And it didn't start until March two times when we did this deal more on pop. We had in your pocket. Yeah, but we're talking about this one. This is our second iteration. No, I'm saying this is the, this is the same. Podcast. We. We stopped the first time we took a break. Yeah. I'm talking about now, though it was in 2017. Oh 2008, 19. That was 2018. Yeah. You tried and didn't work. Yeah. It's a 2020. Yeah. We can get to you. He came back and got it right. You made that right now in the winter came about it. Wasn't a component that causes profits about those before. I feel like it was more, it was the fear I'm talking about. Yeah, we can. We came around the first time we're talking about the second time. What I'm talking about, we're talking about now. Yes, we did sound right here. It was, it was a combination of both is what I'm saying, because you came to, like, you seen me walking down the street. I was mobbing late. night, whatever we'll walk on its own. You said you came to be seen, you turn around, came and you chop it up. We need to make this thing happen. That's the hope. I am having a conversation with you. We having a conversation and you're like, Man, bro, if you don't make this thing happen, but when you will never really make this thing happen. That's the fear part. Right, right. Yeah. Was a combination of both because we had already tried just, just the whole weight and it didn't work the first time. We tried to hold waiting for the first time we tried, we didn't really, I guess we kind of didn't really charge. I was not feeling as well. I think you should. You said Joe came to you based on hope. I think it was coming in based off fear to not cause. Tom at the time. Honestly at the time I was like, we really are getting this going, man. We're all getting older. Like we want to be successful. Right. Black guy. He was like, just speaking. I was, I was honestly speaking hope. Just because I felt like that was just a. A sign  first, actually, I was. We got to do with this. What's the chances of me riding and then realizing that this is you and you happen to be walking in it's this time of night. And I won't even stay on this side. It was hope it was a lie. It was, that was a hopeful conversation. And then it led to me having a conversation with you and black. Man I'm talking to you and me. You haven't gone since. We're talking about how I failed last time. Yeah. Man, bro, we gotta make this happen. It was more of a. For your type of situation, right? Yeah. We argued. No. We are, you know what I'm saying? All we didn't, we failed last time. Let's do it. Let's do it and make it happen. Still I'm sitting like, alright, so I had a conversation with me. Yeah. That pumped me up. You ever had a conversation with me that I'm fucked me up. All of a sudden we let's get on the car and he just moved from there and just kept me on track. So I think it was a combination of both. That's the only reason I say it was a combination of both. Okay. Yeah. At the same time. No, what I'm saying? Some. To make it happen. Yeah. There's some intermingled parts that had come into foreplay. Okay. I'm not walking away from what you said, as far as the fee, it just feels necessary. Right. You said earlier, it had to be a control fear. At via control. Control of nominal fee. Okay. Excellent. Patrol amount of hope. It's not enough to just hold for this. Nothing just spirit. Right? That's true. Both. That's just. Oh,   Yeah. For everyone to get something else out of it, what we do to help people like balance it out, like, what are, do we have any strategies? I would say. For anyone that that's trying to create something. And to be able to, To put something into reality into real, to make it real. It's. It's really dumbed down on paper. Like what, what are you most? What are you most hopeful for? I like the ellipse. A list of like, what are you most hopeful for? And think of all of the situations. Why that couldn't be wide, that can't come true. Hmm. So that can help you put into foreplay of like taking actions. You know what I mean? Right. Pros and cons like pros and cons and looking at it from looking at it from a fair perspective, right. The pros and cons. Nice looking environment. What your hopes are. Then looking at it from a peer perspective. With natural whole name, but not the He is making sure you, like, once you figured out what your hopes are and what. What your fears are being able to. Think that an actual plane that's gonna, that's gonna fantasize either one. Like, okay. Yeah. You're dead. Doesn't happen. Okay, so I can do this two ways, a neutral situation, right? Did you have to really look at both things? Yup. Yup. We'll keep him around everywhere in the universe is about balance. Yeah. In order to, in, in strategy that you have, you have to have a balance for both, both sides. You have to live tonight. Even if you want to get some, the ponies. You gotta look at your strengths and no weaknesses. You've done the game, the positive in a negative way. I can. Could you move is all about towns. No, that's what I did the balance of also the infinite game in the finite game. Yeah. That's right. Yeah. That's right. In order to play the front nine game in order to play the game. I understand. Yeah. I mean, there are friends of mine from the finite game, dude. That you must use to help you push yourself. Yeah. Yep. I agree. Yeah. So again, he's, he's all about being there. Is that about having that foresight? You sat there and I tell him. Okay. I don't want to sound like some crazy spiritual. No, you all see the tree. Wait. aside from what he's talking about. Is, these are like, I'm trying to bring it to what you didn't understand, a spiritual and a physical manifestation of physical way. Right to understand what they mean when they say, cause it's not like you actually have a third eye. You ain't got to Reno listed realistically. I could argue now. realistically Miami talk about third hour. We're really talking about is having the foresight foresight. That's what that means when we say something about third. you can make it synonymous with foresight. Yeah. Cause that's really what it's about being able to discern evil. Right. That's that's really what it's about. Yeah. Yeah. That's amazing. That's an awesome question. Of which is more important. Neat. Both you need both in order to really survive. Alright. We've hoped you guys enjoyed this topic of our, which is more important, fear and hope. If you. please like share subscribe. You have a sweet back, let us know how we're doing in different topics that you'd like to discuss. That's pretty much it. Yes, sir. Everybody else right now. 

the true answer to success there's nothing really go wrong lane.  when you reached the top  you know, I mean, there is stuff that could go wrong down there saying  for you to reach success. Like you made it and nobody can tell you different.  Cause you know what success is. . Strive to achieve, to attain,   fulfillment of oneself. The success just only has to deal with just our souls. Just from our perspective or also from the world's . Is it a combination of both or is it just what you think. Shoot. Cause it was just what you think anyone can call themselves successful. Well, Yeah. I mean, you're right. You're right about that. So if I asked you how many successful people are there, what answer would you give me? Yeah. I can't even really call it. By the number. let me say this, right? Okay. Can we talk about success? Technically every single person in the entire existence of humanity that has come through a mother's womb and maybe. Is successful. Do you know how hard to get here? And then to survive and go from. Breathing in this, in this crazy behind poisonous atmosphere. That the moment you're born, it starts to kill you. To making it to death.  I live in old age . Right. That's assessable. When we talk about degrees of success is so many different levels today. Now, when we talk about success, we water it down. normally when somebody mentioned success, is the monetary gains , that you get that surpasses the norm, whatever surpasses enormous considered successful. Look, if I was able to surpass my father and all of the achievements that he's done in his lifetime. I'm successful. There's no question whether or not I'm successful or not. If I was doing better than, than if I did better than what he did. What aspect in life are you talking about? Right. Spirit spiritual is a whole nother, like that's like when we talk about spiritual success, that's something that only that person can really, Like she even understand,  nobody else. I can never tell you that you're not spiritually successful. Right. Cause I don't know.  He's no, but when it comes to finances, you can say, Hey, look, as far as finances go, you still on probably the average people. So I though you might be successful cause you beat your daddy and you know, he went and making them much. And then now you're making more than he is. You successful in that way financially. But. As far as far as this, because you're in a high tax bracket, you're saying that you're successful. Yeah. From your dad is. Yeah. I'm definitely saying it. Yeah. Also, I'm saying  that was a lot of things that there was a lot of, and I use the term. Not those mad, all generational curses that had to be broken. , that he broke, generational curses. When he came down to his father. I did the same thing when it came down to him. Things that he wasn't able to achieve. I was able to achieve. . So  there are different levels to success, right? Success is just a, it's more than just financial. Yeah. But I think the main reason why most people use financial because when you're financially successful or financially wealthy, you can manage it. measuring you can measure it and as well as theirs. There's a lot of other, principals that you had to obtain to become financially wealthy. Yeah. You don't think so. No, no. Cause think about it. Do people that become instantly successful, like they get a viral video that caused them to gain a certain amount of money. Well, not in morals and values could be, they F this could be so screwed up. Right. You know, and they might not become a better person sometimes, gaining so much money can actually be detrimental to a person's health. Because  now that you have so much money, you can do all the things that you couldn't do before. And you really go in on that. but. I was going based off if they have the principles of being financially wealthy, like having wealth that can last. That they've probably built the habits. To help them. Maintain that money. Oh, so you're talking about wealth. You're not talking about just so sorry. Yeah. So I'm going to be talking about, well, yeah, you definitely talking about, I'm talking about, well, So. I think if they. If they get through a mindset, a wealth mindset. , where their wealth minds also helps them be financially successful. It. Vendors out in every other aspects of their life. Right? It definitely,  it puts you in a different bracket as far as human beings definitely like the weight and the way that you want, the person that you become. Is different   when you're talking about  living with a wealth mindset. Yeah. that separates you from the rest of the herd. Grant, but then there are those that become wealthy ,  they have different habits  so there's some people that practice extremely negative. It can almost stretch it to say evil, things, and they become successful, but , the way that they become successful is so messed up because there's gangs that are wealthy and they, family, family, family, family is straight for an eight and it was knocking out. It was killing people. What it was doing, all the tasks and stuff. Right. You know, we would consider evil, right? And then there, there are those that went on the right path. if there is even considered a right path, but then went and it was more of a positive way of, becoming a wealthy, then you have those that's in the middle. That there's some that was. Crooked ways when they straightened up. Right. There's that as well. So again, our main goal is talking about solving a success problem. No matter what scale you want.  they're still tools that you need in order to get to that. in order to solve any problem, you gotta have the right tools. Right? So being financially literate is extremely important. Being aware. There's a problem that needs to be handled is extremely important. Understanding what tools you need in order to solve that problem is extremely important. That's, that's the formula right there. Figure out what the, what you consider success to be. Freak out  was hindering you from becoming successful and then the tools that you're going to need in order to overcome those obstacles that are sitting in your way to stop you from being successful. Right. And once you do Oh, and then implementing your answers, you realize in the tools apply knowledge. Always. Absolutely. So. without that, that tool set. You can't be successful. No matter how you look at success  cause even if you're talking spirits and they're still the tools that you need in order to fine tune your spirit or your soul.  it's still tools that's necessary in order to become financially successful. When you  you're talking by  networking success, it's the same thing. You still have tools that are required to use to build yourself . Right? So that's whatever. Gotcha. My thoughts. I agree with you to a certain degree. Okay. But I just look at success differently, cause everybody has a different definition of success. Right.  How old a guy says to us is,  something that you put in your mindset of what your lifestyle would. Would be like of living. Vastly greater than that. Then the norm, I would say. Your mindset, your lifestyle living vastly off of the norm. And for me, , the formula to getting there, it's really simple. I think it just, it starts with one self discipline. If you can't be able to go date in and out. I'm doing the actions that are gonna help you take the steps. towards your goal. then you're going to have a big problem. Self-discipline is one thing that you're going to need to obtain to get success. Right. Second. I just think this is the willpower. If you have the will. More of like the heart. If you have a heart. Inside of you. That tells you that it's going to be able to,  start to get you where you need to go through any circumstances that goes on in your life, because we all know we go through hell and back. You know, I'm sure. It's just that we'll pause. Overcome that, that home. When that does come across. You know, And then third is just having the right strategy. If you have the right strategy put together.  that's going to position you in a place where you're able to attain that success. In the right format. And now we all have different types of. Meaning those assess of how people are successful or measured. In success, like as in finances, as it materialistic ways. You know, But that just, that it all comes back down to the basis of the individual. cause  for one person, for me, I would look at successes just having a,  a nice family and living in under a roof, you know, and having running water. And food at the table. I think that's successful right there. You know what I mean, having a happy home with everything functioning and run it, you know,  so you said that you don't have that at home and say, so you don't have a wife. You have kids. Does that mean that you're not successful? Not at the moment. Yeah. So. So in your mind, you're not successful. So say that you get a wife, you know, you have a kid, but the relationship is extremely Rocky. You end up having a kid. Does that mean that you're not successful? No. I think it's because, like I said, for me being having success, ,  it's having the happy home. Right. So that It's really nice. It's nice for you. , if you own your own spouse and been right,  the first month y'all was good. But then after the issue has been Rocky, extremely Rocky. So it's not exactly happy. All right. Are you not successful even though you have the wife, even though you have the kid, you know, you have in the home. Are you not successful? Hmm. It's looking at it. Cause I. anybody will turn away from something. Anybody would turn away sometimes when I'm talking about you personally. I could be able to fix the situation. But so that may seem broken.  You would see it as being unsuccessful and see it as a problem. First right. You were seen as a problem. Like this is something I need to fix. Right. So again, being aware, being a first bigger, not where the problem is, that's the tool that's necessary in order for you to be successful. Anyway, you have to figure out what's stopping you. What? Cause that would be an obstacle. Right. That would be an obstacle for you guys. Hold on. Success in my mind is having a happy home. Okay. We need to figure out how, why we ain't happy. This is a problem. And it's stopping me from being successful. I shouldn't be able to feel like this is a successful home. And I don't feel successful because we have a Rocky situation right now. But that's the problem and problems arise all the time. So if you're doing a prob problems, then you're going from successful. So successful all the time. Again,   he's doing exactly what he's saying. Hey, look . I got a happy home. Then I was successful. Correct.  Technically. I guess at the finals on what a happy home is. Yeah. True.  now you got to break down. Okay. What were you looking at that goal? Cause even in anything  that you consider a successful, right? you have to define. And I mean, it has to be crystal clear. This is what I consider to be successful because we know .    if I create a business I'm successful. Many people create. So you think Aaron is successful? No. Okay, well, so what if you get to show up on your business? What I guess is not really a successful business, what would it be? Not really making no money on your books. You own a business, but you ain't really making no money. Right? Then, I guess, that actually successful. Mm, or am I successful? In my mind, the first thing I'm thinking I'm successful because I own a business. I'm successful. in real life. That's not enough to sit down and say, Oh, , I own a business. So now I'm successful. , there has to be more to it than just, Oh,  my home is happy. It's just I'm successful, but we know that things happened    maybe you say, Oh, a majority of the time, we're happy. We love each other. Like I want to be in a loving home. That's different from saying happy. Right. And you say happy, happy is something desk. Isn't the late work. So it's one of those words. It's a fleeting filters. It's really, it comes. It's an emotional thing. ,  you gotta dig deeper when  talking about a success and your vision of success.  You have to also think about, life. Right. So now you got to talk about, is it a happy home that I'm looking for or is it a loving home that I'm looking for? Cause we'd love. We're able to, get past problems. We can get past Rocky situations, but when I say happy, I'm always expecting to happy. And then she mad. We not have been. We've got a good relationship. No more. We're not in a happy home. So we have to define what success truly is. when you sit in, are talking about success, you have to define what that  means. Even if it is a personal view. he says he is a person of you when you really think about it. That's the end of the day, but it has to be defined. You have to clearly understand what it is that you consider success, because you can look at Warren Buffett and say, Warren buffet is extremely successful, but you're just talking financially. You don't know what that man spirit is like. You don't know what that man relationship, what is people's is like, doesn't even have any most, I don't really know. You never know. I don't know. I'm not no stealing, robbing. So again, even with that, you. You don't know, he might be extremely successful financially because that's the only thing that he focuses on all day and all night. That might be his entire life. That's it. But you, but you looking at something that can be measured though. That's the, that's the thing about it? Like when the limit and I love it. Now, when you look at Warren buffet, okay. He's on the top of the  Forbes list. ? I was using him as an example. Exactly. Not in the sense of, been able to measure success on that level, but , the point that I was making was that. Happiness is, an emotion, right? That's not success. Cause happiness fades.  love is an emotion, it's also an action word. . So when you're talking about, I want to live in a happy home. Yeah.  in English regulars? What you really mean is I want to live in a loving home understanding home. I want to  be with a woman that understands me and that's willing to fight for whatever it is that we're trying to achieve.   there's a difference in saying that because when you say happy. So you wouldn't, you would not agree with the common statement that emotional intelligence is the number one factor in being successful? No, no, absolutely. It absolutely is heavier. I don't know if it's a number one. So, no, I don't agree. It's not a normal way, but it's definitely been something bad. Is definitely in the timeline. what would be your number one? Do you have one? what  For success. Like what's the The number one intelligence. A practical intelligence.   being a doer and not just a talker.  an Executer. Yeah. Somebody that executes what it is that it's not just talk it's execution. if I'm determining what success is,  being knowledgeable and being able to actually. Use that knowledge and make things happen. Like being able to take things out of the ether and bringing it into reality. That is successful to me. Okay. If you could. Any creative person or anything. Oh, my God, bro. That's extremely successful to take something inside of your head. Bring it into reality. Breathe life into it. that is success. even with emotional intelligence, right? You need that, in order to, to have a functioning marriage . Right. For sure. to have a fuctioning, business, anything.  Yeah. Right. you walk into a room and you're not able to read it wrong. And you don't know that as hostile towards you. Yeah. And you don't know how to solve that problem. True. You can't solve a problem that you don't see. And that's what I mean by with success,  you have to be able to know what you're going after.  clear as day. I'll use this example because I think it's a great example. he was saying  that he wanted a happy home, but truth is really when he goes deeper in to it. When you really want says, home. And then everything  that I said prior. when you're looking at any other goal is the same thing you might say, Oh, well, I'm on this. Yeah. But you not really defining what that is. So now when you shooting for. You're shooting that issue at the wrong thing. You can't shoot it in the wrong thing. That's I think that's the main problem when people are trying to get what they want or defines us. They're not, I mean, they're not specific enough. That's all it is. Absolutely. Absolutely. And it's, it's scary, you know what. You know, talks about that. Steve Harvey. He does. I know, right. Well, there was a guy move on him. You know what his book actually did. Dale Carnegie talked about it. but also a win friends. He talks about it. actually every system, every freaking, everybody talks about it, but, In Psycho-Cybernetics there's this guy's neck something max, where I can get, I forget his first name, but, he talks about, it's not John, no, John C maxilla and I am, but he talks about this with, Psycho-Cybernetics came up before, get rich. Thanks. They can get rich up thinking, grow rich. Okay. But I think, and grow rich is one of the first things that he, that that's important is as defined your desire. I think that's what it's called. It's like define, like you have to be extremely. Clear about what it is that you want. Everybody talks about that. Cause that is the number one most important thing. You can't hit the bull's eye. You can't see the  thing. If you don't know where you're going. If the lights are off and you plan darks and your eyes do not adjust when you can see what you're aiming at, you're not going to hit the bullseye. It's not gonna happen. You have to cut the light song to be able to see when you're going in and the light-skinned cut off is clearly defining what it is that your goal is. Right. So. Hmm. It's the thing about the successes  is the, the attainment of fine what your desire is, you know, and just like, are you saying, if you could clarify what that desire is to Pacific point. Yeah, you're able to. Most likely achieve it. You know, or to get as close to it as possible. but it all comes down to is what's your purpose and what's your desire and where were you heading towards too? You know, what, what is your aim towards the question is. Are they really aren't mutually exclusive. desire and purpose. Can you have a desire to does not. It does not match up with your purpose. Yeah. Yeah. Or.  is every desire somehow lead you to your purpose. No, not necessarily. I'm just asking the question, cause this is not a good question. Yeah, they sent me something to think about. I'm a brand with you.  I do think they are mutually exclusive, like yo. Yeah, desiring your, Pash passion, your desire and your purpose. Completely different. Cause , your purpose, can you something that you don't can dope? Can your purpose be something that you do not desire? No, I'm asking a question. Can your purpose, your life purpose be something that you do not desire. I'll think at first, so it couldn't be. but if you do find your purpose. I think you, you come to grow to desire it. Your purpose is something  as close as what your destiny is. Right. You're destined, , the pastor of the church, or you're destined to be the artists of the future. You're destined to be the new, the new evolutionary, musician on this air. ,  if you're destined to be that that's, that's your purpose? You most likely should desire that you're you should be sleeping on that. And waking up to that same purpose each and every day. Who determines your purpose? Yeah. Who determines your production when we're talking about destiny, that's it. You have to be like a slippery slope. Yeah. Exactly. But . . Like, how do you know what you're like? Four. Just because, or just because you're good at something you automatically say that you're destined to do this. Like. I don't think so. Cause we got, we got so many years in so many. A lot of us are good at we're. Very multitalented. Yeah. Yeah. I actually haven't had no town. Anybody. What. Most people are multitalented. Yeah, I believe so. I just believe if you don't think your multitenant, did you. Probably just haven't experienced other talents. You haven't tried enough things. Like, like destiny is a scary word. And I'm gonna tell you why. I think that with destiny is like, To say something is dead. Like you're destined to do this. It's like, Debt. I want to know how to explain it because then what it right desk, almost assuming that there's a plan that is assuming that that's the plan for your life. Like, that's assuming that you're on, you're on a train that says that God had everything planned out exactly how it was supposed to go. And that takes, that kind of takes away free will, but kind of. yeah. That's cool. It is, it's a scary. It's because if let's say that destiny is right, right. God has this man for every single person and they follow it to the T let's say that they still make all their own choices or whatever, but they still end up doing whatever it is that God said. God said, God said to him, I can do, because now you don't even have a choice in that. Cause. It was destined dope. What if your only true destiny and our member, I don't know. We had this conversation. You were supposed to do was. Come to the podcast. And. Type. So it remind me of something most. What did that was your whole life density? Just to help domain to get where you need to go. What kind of phone? Well, He has no. Okay. So again, like what if that was the case then? Yeah. Let's get back on topic. Yeah. Yes. Yeah, it's just a skinny, you just can't. Is this something that you can't just. It's tough. Cause then we gotta talk about manifest destiny would America. Oh, we were destined to have in his lane. So I slammed all these people. Is destiny actually evil. Is this an athlete? That's another plan anyways. 

 basically our job here is to be able to inspire you, to help you grow into the best person you can be . And so we're all about that helping you become better, and today we got a, discussion , this concept right here is basically what we're all about  help other people become the best      how do we make you 120%?   how do we   get the most out of you? look, I gotta be honest. Like for me, the only way that I know to help somebody else is to provide as much experience  mistakes that I can like shit, show them. Yeah. Yeah. I'm not even sure. just give them the experience, tell them the story  .   Cause it seems like that works better   especially younger generations. I guess I generation as well, like just sitting down and explain it. All right. boom. I went through this and this. And I was able to get past it. This is what I learned from it. This is how I beat it.   Or, Oh, this was a solution that I got from me. Don't be like me, or be like me your choice, but you get an option,  it helps you to determine like what kind of example you're going to use. I try to make it  as close to whatever that situation is at the time.  so if you're going through a hardship. A breakup with old lady. I haven't been there.  if you're going through to a situation   were you having a hard time in business? I've been there, I'm going through it.  If you've had situations at work. I've been there so I can sit down and stand and give you stories. what helped me in and what didn't work, right? That's the only way I know how to present my ideas in that way and to help you grow,  they're all strategies that you can use. i've read a couple books where they talk about different strategies on how to improve other people, but, it's hard trying to pull that diamond out of the next person. you can inspire them, but  inspiration only lasts so long sometimes, motivation, that fires got to be in them yeah. So being able to ignite it, that's a whole nother thing. Now, if you're able to ignite talking to somebody, it's a whole nother situation. So you're going to have something. if you're going to ignite somebody to be, to explode that next level, there's something special inside of you and that's something. That they seen and that they were like, wow, that right there, that trait whatever, that may they see something that they can emulate. Maybe. Exactly. It's not something they always want it, or they dream of to  have, so what is that the best way to do it is emulation? emulation the best way to inspire that's what inspires emulation and visa versa . Is inspiration based off an emulation.  so in order for me to inspire you got to see something in me and then you gotta be like, okay, I want to imitate that. You gotta make me believe that I can obtain it. So believing   . He's a human being, right. And if you see him doing something that you always want to do, what will not make you believe it? if I little something great, I'm just a regular human being. , I'm no different than you are.  the answer for me to, how to inspire people is just as being that great example is being big example for them. some people let's say for instance, they never had a father in their lives. Alright, great. A good father in their lives.   So if I grew up in and i, have a kid, I'm going to be the best dad to this son. I'm going to be the great father. That's going to help them, inspire them to be a great father as well. Hopefully right down the line. You know what I'm saying? Possibly. Yeah. Hopefully. Yeah. We pray for it, but it's not necessarily always the case. Sort of question. That asks is okay. prime. now you're a coach, right? Every day, you have to find a way to make that happen. What do you, what are some strategies that you use in order to make that happen? Most of the time, I just use examples   in my life   I just let them know that it's whatever they're going through, that. I've been through it or somebody else has been through it. And they're not the only ones that's ever struggled with the problem. Yeah.   whatever they're struggling with, , I just have them just give you have the thing that they're struggling with. A try  through trial and error. I just have them go through every scenario. Until they eventually just do it. I just mainly try to instill them not to quit. let them go through it. Whether they, most of the time they don't want to go through it or not, but then I just have to half the time, just have to encourage them to just keep going. Okay. That's all I got. No, cause problems or coach,  when those kids are looking at him there, we're going to be  like that. that guy is when I look up to, he's going to be able to teach me the steps, the tools to help me get where i need, to go to, And so for him to setting the example from what to do from day one and how to execute your  plans. that's something that   bring out the best in you, , if someone's going ahead and they get you propel, to that next level.   I've always looked at it like, why can not, why can't I, why not me? I should be the next person to get to the next level as well. being an example of the big man, cause no, not a lot of people have that. , as being a good example, Especially younger generations, they're always low key looking for one, even if they don't, even, if they don't like to admit it but no, in all honesty, , I don't know how you really inspire other people to do great things. Other than , being the example. and  giving out your time experience. through history, that's what we've noticed.   normally, you're able to look back on role models of your ancestors prior   in our generation now we're not able to really see that because , it's   so much misinformation out there about your ancestors. You don't know what's real and what's not , So    being able to capitalize off the history of your ancestors is tough.  they had that advantage and that's why we prospered the way that we did. And it was easier for us to. Inspired and encouraged. The next generation is a lot harder now because you don't have that growing up. I went back into my history and I realized,   on my family tree, there's a lot of spots that's missing. . But my point is there  is no.  I   look back   in my ancestry to that connection, feed me all their information and everything that needs to be talked to him so that we can advance. that's how I feel as far as. Inspired and developing other people  I can only give you what I know. I can only tell you things that I know from my ex my personal experience. If I tell you, Oh, Oh, Warren buffet did this. Technically I went in there, so I don't know what was going on inside of his head when he decided that, unless he sit down and tell you, and even then you don't really know, You don't like what somebody might say in front of the camera and what they say behind closed doors to their children are completely different things at times. Maybe not all the time, but at times. So what do you, Oh, I'm sorry, but I know you were saying that with stories, help them with, so I think that's big time. You could. I feel like for me, I've always learned something new. I've always learned something that could help me. by listening of stories, from other people, and if you have a personal experience that you're able to tell me, do your past bro, whatever happened, that, I think that's a game changer, of you just sharing your experience and sharing, your stories and in your personal, exposure to things, right? Yeah. I shoot man, that's one of the, I feel like that's another key. Like you could bring out the best in people. if I Shane your stories, I think it's hard to do without a story, there was a saying that said, life imitates art,  don't let a lie get in the way of good art. Never heard it before. So pretty much what he's saying is that a look, if you tell them the story and you can bring it to a good point, And some things might be fudged  tell that story. it's art if it brings out the best in somebody, then by all means, use it, good stuff. You're off this stuff, that's another strategy that could be implemented, But  I don't know if it's as effective because when I was able to actually  get where I'm at, there were some men in my life.   and women, there was a lot of women in my life that made it possible. Like they would say, I don't do that because this, and this. And I'm like, man, you don't want her. She talking about, Oh, listen, back when I. I hear it. I hear it. I hear it. Then I got older and I got put in that situation again,  and the shoes on the other foot, and I'm the person saying, Hey, don't do that because duh and I realized I really did take the advice of what they were saying. Yeah. yeah. So yeah, that's me nice. That's my thoughts on that. how do we get inspired? what helps you guys? what helped motivated you guys to do what you do? that's a good question. for me to help me get inspired. Ah, man, I just, I like to see someone that has the, has greatness just beaming out of himself.   I like code Brian. He does inspire me. why, why is it because the way how he goes about his character,   and how he's so disciplined and his craft, I don't know that's what gets me, because  I'm a person where it's okay. It's all right. if you take it easy, here and there, and if you don't go a hundred percent all the time, But in actuality it's a flaw basically that I have in myself.  Where I don't want to go a hundred percent, but when I see someone else doing a hundred percent, the question that goes in my head is why not?       Why can't I go a hundred percent? You know what I mean? every time.   That's what gets me. And that's what irks me. That's what inspires me to be go a hundred percent every single time. if anything comes my way, I'm going to give it my all,  there's no way of stopping me. I'm afraid train. Like I'm coming at you. You felt only for money. It's two values.   the mistakes of my mentors. that drives me. Their mistakes is what inspiring me.  I have an uncle that one thing he always told me was a man. If you ever had kids, cause he was going here, he was on he and I've been on child support. He ended up getting with the wrong woman and she ended up putting him on child support out of spite. Even though he was a good father, but she still ended up putting him on child support and wouldn't let him see. His kid is nice an agency. If you ever end up having a child, make sure you do everything in your power to take care of their child and be in a child's life. . That was motivation. Like his mistakes is what caused me to be a better father. That in other examples of great fathers, that's what caused me to be. So in that aspect , then the other thing is when I turn a voice, when I'm centered when i become one with my goals , And my dreams or whatever my end goal is when I'm, hone in and focus on that, it inspires me.  because there's times when I'm doing things that are contrary to my goal, and I'm just kinda,  out of balance I'm doing those things, but then when I center myself and I'm like, okay, this is what I said I wanted to do. This is what I'm going to do. That inspires me. So it's those two things that really pushed me and made me go forward that the mistakes of others are like, am I here? So my inner voice. Yeah. Yeah. that's a good one. being a coach myself, I have that same situation. I feel like that makes me go harder in my workouts, in my studying habits,  for game day,  in order to get these kids to follow me. I need to know what I'm talking about. if I'm coaching an exercise or a drill after I actually do a drill, if it's a new drill, just to make sure it's tough, just to understand what they're going and if it's good, it's not something I can physically do. For some reason, I just have to learn it well enough. I can explain it. So it's very important for me to. Continue to, work on my craft just for, . I can help the kids , to get better to another level that I wasn't able to get to. Cause that's the main reason why anybody ever coaches? I think personally, it's just, they just want to see. W, whatever level they couldn't get to, they want to make sure they can help degeneration get past, beyond to what they got to. That's how I feel when it comes down to my son. It's like, when I look at him and I'm talking, like my advice is geared towards it. I want you to be the best person that you can be, which will be better than me. Yeah. Regardless, like whatever level I stop at, you will out do that. that's our family. If it's going to be a legacy left, it's going to be outbid. My dad, he I'll be his father and I that's, I actually, I met him. So he outdid his father. I outdid him. He's still living. So technically he ain't done yet. So I'm still got some work I didn't do to make sure I then yeah. My son has to outdo me. And that's the goal like to make sure I don't, it would be whatever you want to be the best at it, but make sure you do better than me.   And it's the same with my moms. I did there's things that my mom wanted to reach certain levels, but I was able to go pass him levels because I went past him. My brother and sisters also went past. And once I hit that milestone, I graduated high school. Once I hit that milestone. Everybody. I would say that my stove, I went to college once I hit that milestone, everybody, when they did that, I saw it was nothing. You know what I'm saying? Like my little brother, my younger brother, that's right behind me, actually just, he's about to get his up associates and there's a lot of responsibility when you're the oldest Joe. You're automatically the example lead the way, man. But I will say this because it's so amazed because I made so many different types of mistakes. My youngest brother is crushing the game right now because he's looking at his back. The advantage of been the younger, the youngest child. Oh yeah, absolutely. It's that's why it's better to have siblings. Yeah. That's important. All right. That was definitely, yeah. So is there any, I want to know, For y'all in the position where you guys are at right now. Is there any like certain strategies or one way of doing it, or one way of not doing it, of how you can be able to bring out, like you see somebody that's at 80%, how you could make them reach 110% or even more, Is there any way, like how you can be able to get more, even though they believe they're doing the best that they can do, It's is there like a way where you go push them are touch to nudge them into it's a greatness that day that you see the potential that they have. I got nothing. For a training. And when you're doing for training, you physically, you can do that, like through, assessments. Yeah. That's yeah. absolutely. There is there strings that you see what your weekend or whether we get, and then you can build up for that. So that's very result oriented, but to make them, I don't know, I'm just trying to see how I like how. I could be able to see somebody and push them to the next level where I see, Think about this, right? We did a lot harder than we did. We've done that with each other. You know what I mean? we push each other to remember that first attempt. We did a podcast. Yeah, that didn't and it didn't go anywhere. And it took a while for us to connect again. Then we connected on the thing that kept fueling. It was the fact that we kept staying on each other about That's pretty much all that you can do is stay on it. Have a similar goal to be somebody that has a similar goal and stay on it and keep inspiring them. Like lifting them up to do it right. Or getting on their nerves. That's what I mean. That's true. That's how our parents got us to this stuff that just got on my nerves. no, he, she cleaned the room brush for convenience. Quick clap. You know what I'm saying? That's real. So the credit card company is good. Encouragement. Encouragement is always key. Like being able to encourage somebody to continue to push forward is monumental, right? Like just so really show somebody that you care enough about their goal and them that creates the atmosphere to where a loving atmosphere where it. It propells you because it's a different type of energy. Cause everybody else used to use to getting stale energy from people or no light or bad negative energy. So when you get somebody that truly cares, it calls, it pushes you to move forward. It causes you to go to the next level just because it's just that's just the type of energy it is. It's a propelling energy. That's what love is compelling energy. So it was a growing energy. So that's what it does. So in a sense, I think that's that kind of. Like for me now that I'm thinking about it and really that's, it was always loved. Like, when I really think about it, it was always love propelling the conversation, or it might've been like, it was brought on by me. Okay. That was some strong guys, energy. Ain't gonna end up like what you mean? You want to be doing this, and this like scare straight for instance. It had a fear element to it. The show had a fear element to it. They were trying to scare the kids, not to go to prison. But behind that fear, that fear energy that they were pushing the anchor energy that they were pushing, it was also love behind it. So it was like, all you know that this is, I'm doing this. Cause I want to see you do the best that you can. So if I'm hard on you, I'm hard on you because I know that you can be better. Yeah. You can do better than me, whatever the situation is, Like I see. I could see, you can't see you, so I'm going to open your ass for you. I'm and we'll help you open your eyes. You know what I mean? that's, that's what I can do is I don't know. That's been that's big right there. I don't really know. So here's that? Yeah. So again, I find that's extremely, that's probably most important factor when it comes down to developing somebody else. real being real like  when somebody sees that you really down for them like in any form of relationship, whether it be employee boss, whether it be teacher, student, whether it be a homeboy home girl? . It don't really matter what this is what the relationship is. if it's, if you feel like that person is truly about at you, it's going to ride for you when and help you out in that aspect. Your going to grow because there's also an element of not wanting to let that person down. damn, you see this in me. Oh, I really want to mess up. I really do want to go to the next level. And if I go to the next level, not only are you going to be proud of me, but I'm going to be proud of me. It creates a debt, the atmosphere that you need. that's what that greatness  atmosphere is. it's like a Martin Luther King. You had. . He has so many people behind although has so many different death threats and , people hate. And what kept him going was the fact that he knew what his end goal was. He knew what he wanted to go in. And then all the brothers that was around him that supported him, Malcolm, x it was the same thing. them brothers willing to die for him. But that man, the reason that man became how he was because there was another brother that stepped to him and said, Hey look, you can be better. You are better. And it was because of that caused him to go to the next level. It wasn't anything else. It wasn't him because he was on a self destructive path. And most of us are in, on a self destructives in the path. And because of that, like if somebody don't come and say something to you and step up to you and try, with earnest intentions and they come with earnest because man, nothing like it, bro. the part that you really touched on with me is that the part is selfishness because you can't really help nobody get to where they want to go, unless you get out of your own feelings  about yourself? . honestly. To really help somebody out. I want y'all to hear me out. Like I want y'all to hear me out for real, to really help somebody out. You need to get out of your own way. Yeah. Oh, I need to get out of your own way. Or you put your mind your focus. Yes. On the bigger picture. What is the big picture? The big picture is on, how am I going to get you? To your next goal   I'm talking about the person in the mirror, that person in the mirror moving them to the side.   And look past the mirror and look at the people in front of you. Okay. the people that are following you, I should say, Because we're all leaders, there's somebody that's. Yeah. True. position. What title you have? Where are you at in life right now? There's somebody that's following you in a, you are a leader, right? Absolutely. So you need to be that then leader of influence. to look at all the means of what you have, whatever you got going on, put like shove that to the side and told behind you and be like, here, come up or less, you got to come here. My phone is about to die. Thank y'all so much for joining our home life. Just joining the lab and checking me out. It's my first time actually going, I hope or y'all made it on as long as y'all could. I hope I stayed on them. Do you know, if not, it's cool to thank you for a sound anyways, everybody that stopped by. I hope y'all got something from me. If y'all didn't rewind. Cause it was something for you. All right. Yeah. Stay blessed. I love y'all and I don't really care whether you love it or not, bye okay. Beautiful. That's beautiful. Oh yeah. I'm definitely sure. I seriously though, if there's anything that y'all could get from this is definitely is to really learn how to accept people from where they're at right now. And to be able to have some type of real authentic, , authentic advice to be able to help that person to progress. Because right now we're all in a tough situation. We're all dealing with this invisible Bible, let's go around and we don't know what's going on next. and I think it's really important to have, I had, some type of support system alongside with you, and that could be able to, to this, to get you moving to the next level, like I saw dying, I was saying before, Cause there's no way we could be able to do this on your own. There's no way to be able to make top on your own. the Will's going to be there. You're going to have the willpower by it. Shoot, man. We really got to be able to, so to join together with someone and to have that type of comradery to get to the next, to get to the next step,   hey, listen. I'm so grateful that everybody got a chance to hear this podcast. We'd greatly appreciate y'all. We really do. I think I said it twice. we appreciate y'all for coming by for real, hope you got something from this topic.

here's the thing, right?   the reason that the topic, check your ego came up.  talking about editing. And I was like the hardest thing  to do is take your ego out of the situation when you edit it. It's not necessarily hard for me. I don't think it'd be hard for anybody else, but at least our team, , because we want to see each other shine. Right. But I know for a fact that that's not always the case.  So I was like, ah, I think that's something that could be touching on that. That's something that needs to be touched on because how many times do you deal with somebody that's on the same team as you, but they not on the same team as you,  so just looking out for number one. Yeah. Yeah. I ain't gonna lie, but personally for me, , to being on a team, you want to make sure that everybody has the same goal. everybody has that one mission and then not one drop.  and to be honest with you, , I always like to make sure that I came my part. I don't want to be the weakest link. I grew up to never, ever be the weakest link because the weakest link is basically,  the reason why you would win or you would fail. Okay. , and my thing, Jermaine, I hate to lose it. I'm not a, I'm not a loser look, I'm not a loser. So you, when you started saying it, like that's when your ego starts to Vigo. Exactly. Right. , when you're talking about with the editing  it's funny how you brought that up. ,when I was doing the editing process today, . I kind of felt that, during the process, I didn't know how  everything came out from my mouth. But it made me,  look at it in a different view where it was like, man, I had to come in and I had to cut this apart from me, what I said, Oh man, I did. I said something about this. I want to cut this part. it was funny, what I realized when I kept on cutting up clips , that was conversation pieces , that originated, you know, for me. , if you played the whole clip, right, . When I edit out and everything, it doesn't make any sense.  when my whole team came in the. , and spoke , what they did, because, , so what are you saying that it changed your view set from me to we exactly. Right. cause look, the thing was, I was focused on  me. I only added me. Right. I was only focusing on me. And when it came to realize that when you put the focus on two weeks, It brings out a better look of the whole team. Not because the look I got to say  I know for me personally, editing the podcast, the mindset went quickly. It was like, all right, how do I make all of us shine? Because I though I might have a powerful voice. So I might say something that's extremely impactful, but I'm not the only one that's doing it, but how do I take that? And put it into a situation where when the listeners sit down and listen to the podcast, They're getting this much out of it as possible. How do they get the best jewels that I could possibly pull a rang out of this podcast? and that's hard, to do when you want a team setting and you're not checking on everybody else when you are on that,  I mentality, which is nothing wrong with having a high mentality. There's nothing wrong with being selfish. But you got to look at selfish from a different perspective. When you think selfish is,  if I advance myself, it has to bless the entire team. I think that's the best way of looking at it. So it's not altruism, like where it's like, Oh, I want to help them out and make them shine. It's not that it's, if I'm shining, they're shining. They're shining on shiny. If we shine it dang. Right.  That's all. That's all. I've always looked at. Leaving my ego at the door because helping the overall team,  for example, when I'm doing stuff here at this church, like the streaming, I have to make sure  , everyone is doing their part. And before I can ask anyone to do their part, I have to make sure I have everything on my part completely done. , well, prepared and just make sure that I'm like on top of every single point, . You can't ask someone to be on point. If you're not on point, that's like all the gears ain't ordered up correctly. Right. The success machine won't work.  if you want to be successful, the only way that it's truly possible is to make sure everything works and according to how it's supposed to.  sometimes you could think that you blessing the entire team and really what you're doing is helping yourself. Right? The problem is knowing when to keep that balance, because yes, you do have to balance. It's tough. It's tough. because you can't, you can't go a hundred percent just for the team. And you're,  making yourself sad, doing everything for the team, but you're not. Making stuff for you to be happy as well. Right? That's week that he was talking about earlier. the weak link is the actual strength of the team. if it fails, we fail. If it's strong, we're strong, right. Without the actual strength of the team is the weakest possibly. Right. , say I'm the one that's not studying hard enough. I'm not putting no effort to really give real content and y'all see that. And then y'all, don't say nothing that makes the podcast week. Right? Right. You're like, Hey bro, maybe you could, you know, Hey, let's adjust. And you know, Here's a book that I just got through reading, but you want to check that out? You know what I'm saying? when you build somebody else that's on your team, you build yourself, right? technically everybody should be a leader in a team. Yeah, for sure. That's how I should be. I hype man. Can I ask you something?  what would you say for instance, the weakest link being let's say , if it's the captain of , the basketball team that you have here, prime, right? Yeah. And, you see that he has the highest temperament , not makes him a weak link just because of the fact that he could get fouled easily. People know,  that he will be able to be. this focus from the game,  yeah. But this guy is actually talented. So how would you look at that? as being, we're talking about like at the same time as like, you know what I mean? Cause truth be told everybody has a. strengths and weaknesses. Right? Right. So the idea is with that situation, if you know, okay, , we made him a captain for a reason. So now we put him not on a pedestal,  even though he has this temper, we know this, but he got talent. . So all we gotta do is figure out how to balance them out. And get him to understand that, Hey, I am the weakest and I'm the strongest at the same time, I have to find that equal balance. I'm now under the leader, but I'm also a follower as well. Yeah.  without the team, I couldn't be where I'm at and what I need the team couldn't be where they are. Right. So we need each other. Right. in that situation, I would just. You'd probably go with someone that has the opposite strengths and weaknesses to be compared to wisdom. . If I'm the captain and you're the co-captain right. I want us to work together so we can we could win and ships. Yeah, no doubt. how can we win championships? How can I approach this game? , how my leadership is going to affect other teammates. , this is all questions  I'm going to be asking myself if I'm the captain of the team, you know what I mean? Even if you're not, it's a, it's a conversation that you have. If you have a team, there is no getting around that. Yeah, that's right. If you don't have that conversation with yourself, it's like you hurting the team as well. Yeah.  what you're saying is,  you could be a bench warmer that plays about like two minutes, ? per game. And you should be asking the same questions. Yeah, yeah, no, no. Yeah. Just making it clear. Yeah. It's negative because even a bench warmer,  if they don't get an, a game, they can think when they're in practice, since he's going to be in a game, I had to go hard at them just to get them prepared. Right , if he's not getting himself prepared  you can also use it as your opportunity to go to the leader. , I here's how I can help in this situation. This guy is not that strong in this area and you  if the leaders like the coach, you can show the coach what he's weak at, and that way he can give you a chance to go in the game for that specific purpose. Not only that, but. You a bitch or for that moment, you got to remember that it's gonna come a time when you have to shine through the rest of the team. you'll be thinking about, okay, when it is my time, how can I bless the team?  if it makes me think of the, forgot that one player on the last dance that Michael Jordan kept getting on. Michael Jordan was just, he was on this player all season. And , this guy never plays. Right. So he would always just like, just tell him you did this, you saw a few, all that just for, he can prepare him. Cause he knew it needed him down the line in a playoff game. So he's trying to get them mentally tough, but yeah. It works like, you know, I can't say a series against Charlotte. He scored like 20 to 28 points, a bench player.  my main point is . He always stayed on him. He was thinking of the future, right? Like how can I help the team? Even though it was at the moment, it was harsh against that player, but he was thinking about the advancement of the team. So what you're saying is checking your ego is, enhancing your vision of the future, right. And making, the tough calls that you need to make. So preparation is required. At all times at all times. Yeah. So when you practicing physical practices, never enough , mental practice creates mental toughness, which is a necessity for great teamwork, I agree because the repetition. When you're in the game is just as important. when you're off the court. I think that having the mental aptitude , to, withstand, all of the pressure, you're facing, when you're in the game, basically getting into like preparation right now. that really is  one of the hardest skills to acquire and to be consistent with oh, yeah. , well, I think it's . What's tough about it. Germane, if there's nobody watching you, there's not a crowd  you've got to hype yourself up. Like, is it like you got to ask yourself, am I still playing? Is it still worth it? That's the thing, like how I use it. It's still weighted as important. as if I'm actually playing in the game. Yeah. So that's where you got to really check yourself, check your ego. So then you're saying that your ego  mainly outside the game when nobody else is looking. Of course, of course.  what are you asking yourself? When you look at yourself in the mirror? Because most I ain't there. Yeah. You know what I mean? That's stuff you got to ask yourself, right. And tell yourself I want to be great. And to be great, you got to stay in it. Even when everyone's not watching, I can kind of hide that. I can be played a devil's advocate with that. on one hand. That gets into skill versus talent cause saying that you great and actually being great tends to be two different things, but then I'm not saying, I mean, like to hype yourself up and be like, bro, I want to be great. This is what I want. This is, I am great. Yeah, of course. You have to have action behind, you know. Matter of fact, I was just doing this to my brother actually. earlier today we was talking and he just went to read counting all these things that I've done. And I'm like, wow. He's like, bro, listen, you can't see what other people see. Like you've done this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this. And I'm like, yeah, to me, that's not even like, that's just something that I do. It's normal, bro. That's not like for me, it's normal. Right. But to other people has been great.  I might not consider great in the same aspect that other people do. And most people that are like the grades look at it, like, nah, I just Yeah. That's what it is. How do you make yourself never satisfied with where you stand at when you look in the mirror? the reason I say I'm playing devil's advocate is because when you look in the mirror, do you tell yourself I am great or I will be, I will be. I will be great. Or do you say in order to hype yourself up at that moment? I'm great right now, right now. I'm great. This is what it is, or I will be great, even though I know I've accomplished a thousand things. I know that people right now will tell me I'm great for this, this, this, and this. Do I say, nah, I'm going to be great. When I pass, like, do I look all the way into the future and say, when I pass, I want to be at, I accomplish this, this, this, this, and this and this, right. Or is that an ego thing?  should you check your ego in that aspect? at that moment? Do you say I move forward and focus is, this is all it is. I'm not great yet. Even though they're telling me I'm great. I don't feel like I've achieved the things that I wanted to achieve. Yeah. I can't be great once I finished when I said I came here to do right. I can't be great. Yeah. So you gotta get into  the fundamental principle of what we know as humility and  the aspect when you have somebody that's the captain of the team. . . And he has a special talent to him. If I'm  the coach, , I'm gonna want to be able to build that kid's humility up. Right. because I know for a fact that he has so much pressure on him and  the pressure ain't the same to a gaint  when you were a kid and , it's something that you do on a regular base ! Think about how many talents or kids that just, they just freaking insanely, talented that you just like, this is just ridiculous, bro. His pressure's not the same as a kid who don't have the same amount of  on talent. Depression isn't the same, he might be extremely tiny and not even be the captain. , I questioned where's the line with humidity and ego. am I building him up by telling him to be more humble or am i, breaking him down and stopping his shine by telling them to be more humble. So what , I would say from Jermaine,   I'm the coach and I'm telling my, player that,  has great potential. and he is the leader of the pack, right? I am going to be, focused on his ability to remain in character in the most tough, situation. So when he's in the most, when he's in the oppression, the pressure. Cooking and it's hot, right? It's on the line. I'm going to need some, results. I'm going to look to my captain , to be able to have the, courage and to  step up and just show that to be the great player that he is. Right, right. But at the same time before he got into that situation, I want to build that player up as into being, team player you don't want him to drop the bond. We don't want you to talk about, let me ask you this, right. Let's let's talk about , why do people consider LeBron James, one of the greatest players all the time? Is it because he's extremely well versed when it comes down to the game and his skills that he can pretty much do anything. Right or is it because he's a team player and he knows how to pass that ball and get other people to shine? Is it because he got extreme confidence in itself? Yeah, of course. Right. Or is it because he's humble? Cause when you sit down and you asked him if he's the greatest of all time for a long time, he wouldn't even say that. He said I got to put something on this. a board before I can say I'm the greatest amount of time. Right? what makes LeBron gray? Is it his ego or his, his humility, or is it a balance of both , I mean, it comes down to a little bit of a balance of both, definitely when he first came into league, he was. more past first, always try and get his teammates involved. But as he matured,  towards Miami years, he realized that  he needs to be able to take some of the responsibility every now and then  he got to make that big shot and make that big play himself and not always pass, give it to someone else. that also came through. Experience  being defeated and all that again. And again, I think him a real realizing that him being him not taking the shine sometimes when he should, was like, what's his like, downfall because he got so used to like, just thinking of everybody else that , he became unbalanced because he wasn't. He wasn't thinking of like him being at him, actually being aggressive is actually helping the team. So he decided, , I think it's something he always wanted to do, but the outside pressure got to him. So, yeah. Yeah. It's more of the, what people were saying about him.  it kind of humbled him in that regard. Like, he was like, you should be shine and that you're not shy. Yeah. I think that's, I think that's where his humility came for him. do you think that built him up? Do you think that built up his ego or it brought down his ego? I think it brought, it, brought him down to the level that he needed to see where he was actually at. Like, like he's not. Like, where are you supposed to be? So he wasn't doing his potential. Yes. I'm a great team player. I'm great. I got great skills. I am a, I am a leader, but then I'm actually not leading because most people are saying he wasn't clutched. So yeah, after that 2011 finals, that's why, that's why they said, that's why he said he was like in his room for like two weeks. They didn't talk to anyone. I think at that time he just had it. He took a long, hard look in the mirror, like, man, I'm really not that dude. So I got to go back in the lab to make myself that dude, not that he wasn't dude, not that he wasn't the dude, he just wasn't aware of his weakness at that time. And his weakness was I'll say it to him. If you asked him, he is, he would tell you himself, he wasn't that dude to himself. Oh, okay. Okay. So outside looking at it, we would definitely say, yeah, he's still that dude. But to him, he was like, nah, I ain't that dude. Yeah. After, after the 2011 final he's like, nah, I ain't, I ain't it yet. I'm not there. I'm not there. that's the answer to checking your ego at the door, check your ego at the door in order to see your real vision, see your reputation. It has to be some sort of self awareness for sure. you have to realize that what you accomplish. It's just, a daily,  task because the next task  is going to be bigger and greater. You don't have to come to the, you don't have to go to all I'm saying is like, you have to go to the next success. You still need people. , you do need that, constructive criticism. we always. Yo, we always need it. You know? it don't matter what position you really in. sometimes , it's hard to be self-aware without someone at least irrigated on a little bit like, Hey yeah. You know, read, like there has to be that. What do you two guys operate better on? Like, do you guys operate when people are patting you on the back or like when people are criticizing you, criticism is where I, where I get it. It's cousin asked me on the back all the time. I feel like that it's not, it's not sincere because I know, I know that I have some type of, like, I know I got a lot on me. It's not perfect. But see that's , when picking the right people and having the right team is important,  that's critical to true success. think about it, everybody  that was successful , they all had , That one friend. And that was always like, man, they used to Brown me on a time, bro. Like every time I turned around, that's all needed, bro. I got wrong because I got tired of listening to, I listened to what he said and took off with it. I mean, like I get, I get scared when a bunch of people started patting me on the back. I feel like I'm being choked for real. I feel like I'm like, Whoa, Whoa, Whoa, hold on. That's that's two different types of pressure right there too. So we can go back to the yeah. Brusher being critique, and then the pressure of success right there. I'd rather have the mean you gotta be able to find a way to thrive with both. But if I had to choose, I'd rather have the pressure of like everyone down me all the time. I like, is there really a thing where it's like, how did, how did they say, you can't take a compliment? Have you ever heard that you can't take a compliment? Yeah. Oh man. I didn't have some females that you just can't take a compliment. I'm like. That's cause I want to grow. I don't know if the company, like, I don't feel like it's as simple as that, but isn't it the same time it's like kind of like, checking that ego too at the same time. When, when you're saying you can't take a compliment, you know what I mean? It like, you, you, you, you can't take a compliment. You, you really, you really not gonna accept that. Like y'all, ain't like for real, I mean, in my answer, my answer was always the same. It was always well, okay. If you're going to give me a compliment, don't just give me a compliment. Oh, you give me some constructive criticism as well. Like if you really, if you really, really deal with me on that level, don't give me one without the other. You know what I mean? It's not fair. Like when I sit down, not like, for instance, when I'm compensating with y'all I don't wanna just tell you. Oh, you're amazing. No, I'm like, all right, but we also need to work on this because if I just give you, if I just say, Hey, V you're fucking amazing. I'm excuse me. You're amazing all the time. Or you really could see me as a teammate. Yeah. He just thinks I'm amazing all the time. That's great. Yeah. It's really boring when someone's like that too. And you lose weight behind your words, respect. I can't respect you. When are you telling me that I'm freaking borderline kind of creepy to them. It's just a tablet stuff like that. Creeps me out. Think about, think about this, right? Okay. When you're dealing with a female, right. And y'all in a relationship you cannot possibly sit down and be like the whole time. That'd be a beautiful, she goes, that shit. Ain't going to be, you know, You said you beautiful on a regular basis? I don't mean that in right. You gotta buy, you should've thought this instead, you know, like, or like joke with her or whatever, you know, how they go, but yeah. Keep it interesting. Yeah. And like, it's the same, I think it's the same dynamic when it comes down to any kind of relationship, you know what I mean? So in a team setting, I think that's the same thing. It has to be open and honest all the time. Yeah. Cause if it's not broke, I would not. I can't be around people that I feel like are not going to be honest with me. I don't like if you go side with like, you know how people like they'll be talking to you, but then they tell the side where you're like, ah, okay, just be straight forward, bro. Like as a team, that's something that has, you gotta be able to be blunt. You know what I'm saying? All the times we do show. Cause if not me not telling you, you suck. And this is going to put me in a situation later on down the line, and it's going to put everybody else in the situation. We're not trying to be in the West of situation instead. I'd rather be like, Hey, if it's gonna hurt your feelings, we'll get past it. You, you you'll do it. You'll get past it to help you grow. Do you know what I'm saying? Like, so that's what people don't understand, or it helps in the long run to be straight forward when you're, when you're always like dancing over the truth, man, it just causes. The one situation that you were trying to avoid in the first place it's way worse when we arrive to it in the future. Right? 

getting ready to get started on this podcast. This chapter we're going to talk about it is, risk factor. Risk factor. , I'm going to discuss, when is it a good time to take risks? And, when did you should stay pet.   32. The risks backed up the risk factor. Gray stress you can't ever take in your life. Would be a risk too. To make you become better. Hmm better in just in general. is there a general, like, in a business school. I think. The risk is the fact that it's the uncertainty of the outcome of which way it's gonna go. So. Having you having you taken that step of taking the risk. Is is, is building a skillset I would say of. of courage. On your building up courage because the thing is. Like I said, y'all know how the outcome's going to portray. Right. So that's like the biggest thing. Most people's. when the thing is like, when you're taking a risk, like I'm saying the risk, the reason why you got to take a risk, because you want to go ahead and achieve your goal. And, or you go ahead and achieve your dreams. And I tell people. What are your dreams? You know? And they'll go ahead and tell me, Oh, I wanna, I wanna, I wanna do this. I'm going to do that. I want to see this. I want to go here. Mike. Okay. Is that it. Is that just, it like. Do you like, if there's anything you could do in this world, anything that you want to be able to accomplish it, what would it be like? There's no limits, no caps. You should dream as big as you want to drink, right? To a point where it actually scares you. Hmm. Where it actually gives you. A type of intimidation of like of actually going after it. But the reason why you should do that is because. The reason why should dream so big because you're going to have to take a risk. To go ahead and, and, and, and to. pushing your, your vision and to becoming a reality. And when you're doing that. You're going to build up your character. Being courageous and becoming a leader. But how do we, how do we know when it's a good time to take a risk and to be courageous? Because we all need to take risks in order to grow, but. Sometimes it's not the smartest thing to take the risk right away. There is a waiting period. And when you're going to take a risk. I think, I think there's like, Like, like everything else. I always say you must, you always gotta do careful planning before you just go into something. And you just can't just will, Blindly just jump into something without knowing the, All the pros and cons of doing it right. You gotta educate yourself in different, different ways. And, see how you can get to your outcome. With, with the least amount of damage, you're going to go through some pain, but you shouldn't. You shouldn't get to the point where you're like, like. Cutting, having so many wounds that you're not learning from your mistakes, right. Well, I mean, I don't think there's ever going to be a perfect timing, to be honest with you upon on taking a risk. Because you'll never find it. Right. You know, there's not going to be, a magnificent moment of a light descending down telling you, Hey, you need to take this now, you know? Where everything lines up perfectly. I feel in a sense of way. Of. The, the risks should be taken when. When you had matured enough and, and you became. more aware of. Of who you are. And you're true to yourself. Okay. That will be a good time to take a risk because it's going to give you confidence. To. So go ahead and taking the risk and to be able to accept the outcome of whatever the, the. The results may be. Alright, that's a good point. I think that's one of the main problems with people. I have a hard time taking a risk because they're always looking for. They're always looking for some sort of sign. Like all of us, I can only. Like for me personally, when I was deciding whether or not to quit my job three months ago, I was always like, secretly just looking for something. What is it? When is it a good time to stop his job? Yeah, four. Oh, like, I was like, like, like hoping one of these, one of my customers would like cuss me out. Excuse not to do it. Alright. little stuff like that. Like people just treating me rock record. I have a reason to leave. Right, right. But no, nothing. Usually it doesn't, it's not that simple. It usually doesn't come like that. This is one of those things like, okay, I just gotta just do it now. Just hope it works out. Not hope, but like just work for it. Just keep working into it and make it work yet, right? Yeah. Right. And I think, one of the things. From your point of view, is that. You at first, you had a perspective of you wanted an outside force to affect the outcome. You know what you want it to be true. But in actuality, it's the internal force inside of you. That has to make the reality become true. You're not your vision to become true. Okay. You know, and so I think it's just switching your perspective. And then taking action on it, you know, on making. Like slowing down just to move up. I don't know, like. I want you to take on a demand? What are you thinking? I suck at it. So I ain't got no call me ready. I gotta be honest with you. Like when it comes to taking, like, assessing the risk, that is tough because bro. Looking at those outcomes, get caused you to looking at potential outcomes, the possibilities, like, alright. This cap, and this can happen. This can happen. This can happen. This can happen. And I could have took that step and it might not be the best. Yeah. That tends to freeze and be alive  and quite a few circumstances . So I have a, I struggled with that, so I can't really give no kind of advice on that is that.  That's the crazy part about it is I take a lot of risks, even though I'm always looking at the, the worst thing that could have me. Yeah, for, for the people that takes less risk than others. I feel like that they fall into, Of a snowball effect of procrastinating and letting stuff, delay, you know, and, and having that happen, it kind of gets you into that. mood of just being as being somebody that just pushed off to the side, you know? Right. And having that, just being, dealt with at a later time, I'm definitely that guy at this moment. Well, I. I don't know. I mean, For, for people like you and four people, anybody else that, that have a problem of, of knowing what to take a rest , or afraid to take your risks? . , I would say.  What are some fears that you may have. That you haven't faced yet? None of them are. Are founded fears and that there are things that possibly could happen. Like things that. There's no concrete fear is it's just, it's just a matter of it's just fear itself. Just like, ah, And instead of converting it into excitement and going and doing it.  alot of times its just procrastination takes fourth and you ahh. This is a good feeling, and this is  comfortable with procrastination. Is it comfortable, environment when you're in, when you're in that like state is a comfortable state. So when you're in that state taking a risk, there's no need to take no risk. There's. I need to take no action at all. It's comfortable being in the procrastination state. And I think that's what a lot of the problems come in when it comes to risk factors. Cause you're comfortable not taking that risk. yeah your comfortablitiy . Yeah. You're comfortable. You're comfortable being in the position that you're in, even though you might not like it. You're so used to it, right. so why not So that's a great point, right? Yeah, I hear you 100%. The thing is like, . Aye. I get you like being comfortable is great. You know, it's because it's your homeostasis and you always sucks. When we start being comfortable is one of the worst enemy of success, bruh. Like it is it's, it's one of those things where it's like, alright, look, because I am comfortable when I am. Out have no need to move forward. It takes away that need and it takes away down. We want to move forward. The ambition. Comfortability is something like if there's an enemy to, to taking the risk factor is comfortability.  but yeah, it's just, it's, it's not something that you really want to be like, actually you want to be. And that's the problem, but , if you have a vision to see or be successful, you have to learn how to take risks. You gotta learn how to assess the risk factor and still move, even know. You're comfortable. You gotta put yourself in uncomfortable positions in order, like the risk factor helps you decide, like, all right, look, I know that John would make me extremely uncomfortable. Right. No, it is. But that's why I grow it. That's why I become better. That's why I'm prove on who I am. And that's it. Like you said, That's an internal comp us an internal conflict and an internal conversations you have to have with yourself. Right. Cause anything external motivation, external motivation only works for like so long. It only happens for like so long before it's once again, I'd be sick fleeting. It goes away and then only thing you gotta love is what. Your internal thoughts and directions and things of that nature. So, yeah. I don't know the same system. Yeah. I think that's the main thing when it comes to the point that you brought up through the uncomfortability factor, it's just the unknown for most people, like. Winter. When they're comfortable with something like go back to my example of a quitting, a job. Another reason I didn't want to do it cause also comfortable that's steady income that I'm going to get. No matter what. Nice. I just gotta do this, this, and I know I'm getting it. If I quit a job, then where's the money gonna come from? All right. I have like, I have no idea right away where the money's gonna come from. And that scares me. That scares the living daylights out of me. When you, when you know you got this, like you have any store. If you don't have that fear, you have another fear too, but. You can, you know what the fear is? This is one of those, It's one of those things, the more you, the more you grow it, like it's good to saying, Oh, new levels. New devils. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So. If you, if you get uncomfortable, you're going to have to face something you're not used to it. You don't know how you'll be able to handle it, handle it. And if you don't, if you don't think you're going to be able to handle it, you don't say it's going to make you feel. You wanna read the word? She's this, how are we going to feel about yourself? I guess? In a way that can, uplift you, I guess. No, a scary, like, I'm I'm strange. I got a strange light way of viewing things, right. So I have this, like my problem, one of my biggest problems at this point is that. I'm not afraid. What, and when is going to come at, I'm not afraid or highs in the car, how the money's going to come. I'm not afraid of losing my house, my car or anything because in the back of my mind, I know that regardless on anything that happens. I've been to come up. And that's very dangerous to have that kind of attitude, like, okay, everything's going to go to. Pieces of writing that I'm Gucci. I just figure it out again and I just come up again. Cause I'm a come up master, you know what I'm saying? I asked you one gift that I have. I will always come back up. So that's, I don't know if anybody else deals with that, but if you have the gift, wouldn't that make it easier to be deal for us. I feel like that would make it easier. Hey don't cause then, I'm not Learn about the risk factor, but they're ,  a fear. There's a fear factor to that risk factor. And then there's a fear element to the risk factor. Then there's a nonchalant element to it as well. I'm very nonchalant when it comes down like problems, I'm just like, I might freak out. Fly five seconds. They'd be like, Because I know the one thing I do know about myself is I'm extremely resilient. So I will find it. It will come out. We'll figure it out one way or another. When they asked me what, how you going to do it? I figured it out. And that is the truest statement that you give. You ever heard me say that it's a true statement. It's going to happen. I'm going to figure it out. And then that's that. That's just, but it's a strange, it's a strange light. A part of my personality is a strange street because I know that not everybody has that same thing. Like a lot of people are not nonchalant when it comes down to, being in a fearful situation of possibly losing everything. Like they're rock bottom was not the same as him. I don't have a rock bottom and it will cause already hit mine. And since I hit that one rock bottom, it's like, Forget what they can go lower. Even went over to get that because at the last second, I'm just going to take off. Like, you know what I'm saying? I procrastinate a lot, a lot. Put in on the same token I come out of nowhere and just come up. Because that's how the world has always worked for me. That's how I, that's how I view the world. That's how it has always played itself out. So nice. Yeah. The risk factor is just, it's, it's a tough element for me. That's why it's so hard to kind of get into it and, and, and really live on the top because it's like, I, I'm not sure about it. And I'm scared of it at the same time. You don't care and same time. So. I noticed that a lot of people that go through the same thing. So. You know, like. Yeah, I'm going to have to, I totally disagree. With, I mean, cause I know like. We have different perspectives, you know? Cause we're different human beings. Yeah. But for me, I look at the sense of way that everything that you want to achieve, everything that we're, we're heading towards. It's going to be uphill. So just imagine if you're trying to climb Mount Everest, you have to know to start climbing uphill. If you want to fall to the bottom. You don't have to do a lot of work to, to you don't have to do anything at all to be at the bottom, basically. You could slide down Hill. You won't even notice. No, and no, no, you, you can just let go. And, and you'd be like, alright, I'm downhill. how'd. I get here. You know, but to go up Hill it's like, you have to put work into it constantly. Right? Like you. You, you made it an intentional basically to go uphill, to reach the top of Mount Everest. It doesn't have to be intentional when you, when you're at the bottom of. It doesn't have to be attention to go to the time he doesn't have intention and attention and consistency or not. it's a twined together. When it comes down to our work, you can, you can like do a split apart work. Come up, I've done it where I've went from, like being completely at the bottom and then like, alright, I need this, this and this. I'm like, alright. Boom. I take off real quick. I do a quick look, sprit and not come up with the money and then boom, I'm back to just chimney again. But I had like theirs. It's not, but it's not consistent. So although I might reach a certain amount of like, if I'm trying to go up the Hill, I looking at you and figure out, okay, how can we get to the top of that thing to lack of just do it in one, shot it. Cause I'm not going to be. All day every day. Now I'm behind son trying to get up this Hill. Oh, nah, bro. That's not gonna happen. I'm not going to be doing this every single day. I'm trying to figure out how to get it. If you're going to take me a week and I'm gonna figure out how to get them in. Two days, cause I'm not finna be doing it for the whole week. But that's Neato. Cause again, I'm a super procrastinator when it comes down to that. So I'm not disappointed. I'm not disagreeing that the fact that it takes work to get to the top. I'm deciding I'm disagreeing with whether or not it takes consistent work. Because I think when we think about consistency, that's every single day, all day constantly, constantly, constantly doing it, but there are a lot of people that we're looking at same with that same. lay out and be like, alright, I can get it done in this, this and this. Like, I got that ability to look at it and see how can I shorten it? Cause I'm a procrastinator. So I'm trying to figure out the quickest way to sit back there. Amazing when they come out of that, I'm trying to figure out, alright, what's the most strategic way to get this done? In less than a few weeks, cause I'm not trying to do this out of me. You know what I'm saying? So. That's a good way to use your negative as positive. Just tell me what. Well, I remember, I remember someone telling me that. There there's like people, people get stuff done. by working. They can either work really smart or they could work really hard. Right, but this is the real successful people they learned to work really hard and work really smart. Yeah. I can see that, you know what I mean? But it's not necessarily consistent, like, like the release it's like, even I'm much. Right. So, would matter of fact, I don't want him to use the amount of months, even though he's one of the richest men in the world. Oh, I, and I won't use, what's the Amazon guy, Jeff. Jeff Bezos. Okay. Okay. How do you. I don't even remember his success story, but I do remember there was a point where it was like, okay, I want to do this. I need to create this. He finally created Amazon. Right. And then from that point on, what was, what did he do out there, Amazon? He bought, he bought paper. All right, then you pop it. I honestly don't know. I think, I think he bumpy, but he acquired a whole bunch of different companies, but what he did was create a platform where you didn't have to consistently work all the damn time. You know what I'm saying? It wasn't necessarily to work. Oh, I'm not taking away from consistency, hard work. I'm not taking away from that, but I'm saying there's a, there's a there's. There's an element of genius when it comes down to shortening the time and, and, and working smart instead of working hard. I don't, I don't think it's necessarily. I don't think it requires both in all the times. I think it requires. element of each one on at certain times, depending on what you're trying to go in. And with China. But to kill you, it's take all your energy and kill yourself over something that can be done in. Like you want to say I've been on the same thing. He worked at your behind off constantly, constantly, constantly, constantly. Perfect example, Basketball. It's talking about basketball real quick, right? Okay. Name a guy that, like Kobe Bryant called primer. Every single day, he's considered one of the greats. Right, right. The other, the other guy is, Michael Jordan, just to sit in one of the greatest, he worked his behind off. LeBron he, where does he had where his mind? I don't know. Cause it was. So much hate. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. I was actually, I can't think I'm trying to think. Who would, who, who, like they got to shack. Check. If you're saying that somebody was like lazy that day went to work all the time or was it consistent? Cause that guy, he was just a piece of nature just because of the way how it was built. But if you looked at his work. I think it wasn't there. It wasn't as it wasn't his drive. Wasn't there with Cody and he's stealing. He still walked away away. Three.   Yeah, let's play real magic. He played on. Okay, so no I'm talking about, Oh yeah, that's right. you. Right? So, but he still ended up with full reins and there's guys, were they behind off consistently, consistently, consistently. And it just. Like, he was just smarter about it. Like he was, he had time granted, but he realized how to utilize his target to get exactly what he wanted. Yeah. that's true. This is that guy. Cause you also want to do enjoy life. Yeah. Does. He doesn't just want to be all basketball and he may show, as a matter of fact, he was a businessman as well. You know what I'm saying? It wasn't only like behind the scene. He, that dude was. Oh yeah. All the brands, Jesus, and everybody. We said it was a great, some of the greatest of all times don't have that. Right. Jordan got Jordan, but he doesn't get home. I don't think he ever get that deal. We own it. He don't stress it. You sure. Because I remember for a long time, Nike had a dead, like he. He owns right. Ear has outright ownership there, Jordan. I'm definitely going to be looking at window. I will be doing research on that. Just so you, yeah, but nonetheless, they, their, business ventures, weren't like he, he utilized his, turning him basketball. Do you use it for other veins? Right? Being able to use his skill set for other than he had other skillsets and just basketball. But that's just one example of I'm sure. Plenty of other examples where there's guys are more raised than shit that didn't work as hard right there. We ain't gonna talk about the guy that just made it to the bench and got it. Are you having, are you really going to do is make it to the beach on the championship team and you got a championship money. That's true. That's all you gotta do. If your goal is to get a championship ring, are you guys. Let's make it to the team and sit on the beach. I'm not sure whether or not a water, it was the town boys. Get it. But if. They get arraigned too. It doesn't require, it requires a certain amount to get to a certain level to get back and achieve that. So I'm just saying it's different routes to it. That's all I'm saying. I'm just saying it's like, it's different routes. I mean, I mean, how I'm looking at it from your point of view, I kind of look at it like people that bandwagon. You know, hop on, hop on the wave to catch, to, you know, to catch the. The new, the new wave. You know what I mean? What Shaq, wasn't a bandwagon. No, he was, he was a leader himself. Yeah. So are you sending it can't they can't be leaders in that aspect. If they have that same thought process of mine process, they can't, I will. Me personally, me personally, I wouldn't want to follow a leader who wouldn't want to work as hard and have dedication. So you're not gonna follow shape. If you played on the basketball team, you want to follow a shake shack. I mean, if I'm getting it, if there's a, if there's a fight breakout, I would want him on my side. That's all I'm saying. No, no, no, no. all I'm saying. Like as like, like. Being for real here, on a, on a Sears contact. If you're talking about. Having having a leadership role and carrying the team on his back. I would, I wouldn't want to follow the shack. No, he did it. He didn't carry his team on his back. But him and Colby carried a team. Right. But what I check, how many on raising Cobia here before. Shannon went, Oh, how many? Did he get what he got? Like one or two more after Shaq left. Yeah, we've got two more. He got two months left. Yeah. Shaq had with three Wyndham. Yeah. So when Shaq was dead, he got three Marines. So mostly his range that he got of him caring team by herself. Was with Shaq. Right. Cause he got three WinShape. Everyone ran that he had aside from the two when Shaq left. And who did he have that came with? COVID did that shit don't know after that. Right? The next time. Yeah. and. Mainly about this. Well, the second guy. Well, he did a lot of the load night by tomorrow. My point, you Dan, when Shaq went over to what'd you call it, he still, he got with all right. So you got, you got another one, which, Would be weird. Which way. That should've been a wrong or how would they. Let me just do that. I never really quick. Okay. See, my thing is a chef was very result oriented, right? So you wouldn't want to follow a leader as a result oriented. He's like, all right, this is what we want to do. This is what we want cheap. I'm gonna figure out a way to make it happen. Boom day. Oh, you want a guy? That's going to be like, I called it was in Bravo, but Colby was also resorted and yeah, but he was embargoed to like, like a lot of them said, like he ain't really to his, he was you looking at Colby, like, all right. He's a great, he's a great leader, but. No argue that point. Cause it's like, yeah. Yeah. You ain't really got nobody else to bow. Like y'all want, could you put up 60 some points at some point you're gay. But he's also, he was also the main guy he's stays on everybody. Right, but still like you. Panty pass the bar. You wouldn't really, he's the one that got on check and doing those championship. Views and they still want that. Yeah, I'm saying he's the one that again, If they get in shape, no doubt, no doubt, but he's still. They still want. Check day where they had to do, you will resolve, worrying Zach check day when he had to do made it happen. And then boom. You know what I'm saying? Like check lists that can respect a different than how Right, because I want to make sure we bring it back to this. Like Shaq was like, alright, this is what I need to do in order to get that boom. Colby is like, Hey man, the phone bless my, my behind day in and day out to stay on myself to stay. We're not going to win. I'm not. Not we not only, I'm not going to get that championship reign there. I'm trying to get, I'm not gonna out past the legend down, tying our past. Right. Two different mindsets, even though you might be looking at Colby like. Oh man, he's a great leader. Shaq came really a Because, you know, you don't really stand on this thing consistently. Blood result show otherwise, you know what I'm saying? Like that's what, that's what I mean, like, so I understand what you're disagreeing in that sense. I mean, it was, it was different for a Kobe. He didn't want to leave anything to chance. That's why you work so hard. And, but Shannon didn't leave James. How do you know what you're doing? Leave it to chance the results today. But in a couple interviews, you said he, he didn't take, he didn't leave things to check. I mean, he didn't leave things to chance cause he knew he Kohle hard. Colby was working. All right. Okay. Great. So he based it off Colby. So with a piece of it, maybe. No, it's just a part of that was the part of the form. It was like, all right, I'm going to go, we're going to do it, a guy doing this. And I know I got to put up the, this amount right here. So that's his risk though. It's a risk he's, he's trusting. Toby's going to do what we're going to be. The workaholic that he is for free. Doesn't have to work as hard. That's a huge risk when you trusted somebody else like that. You like, it went like this dude was there. nonetheless, you're trusting another human. No, I'm not. But in any race, you still don't have to trust you enough trust in another human. At some level, it's going to be at some level it, any, any, any structure that you put together, like we have to trust each other to make it to deploy cash in order to do the burgers. True. Right. We gotta trust that I'm going to come to him and praying what needs to be broad. Come through and brain or what needs to be brought via was won't show up in brain, whatever needs to be brought. Right. Trust each other. And that, that formula that we have in order for this to see, to actually complete a podcast, we have to depend on each other. And a lot of things. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? So that's a risk factor in that, but Oh, well, If you don't come through with this and he's right here. Yeah. If he'll show up and do it. So there's a risk factor and all of that, I'm not taking away from that. I'm just simply saying that, Hey, look, I don't think like when it comes down to risk factors, I think the form was it just different? You know what I'm saying? I think there's more than one formula in order to succeed. When it comes down to respect it. Cause I don't wanna look at the form in the same way as it has to be. My, you gotta do dog. Doll hard work, like constantly, constantly, constantly kill yourself for this. I'm like, Let me just show up. Let me just do. I know that this. To acquire. The hardest part for a lot of people just showing up at he is the hardest part for me personally, like getting up and doing it, like the hardest part. Was it harder to just quit? Like when he was talking about to a job, was it hard to just quit the job? Like, because of. other people or just you like. I want to just do it. Was it harder to just do it? Didn't was to like try and find a reason to do it. It was hard to just to do it. It was harder to just do it like, and most of the time when you're doing work with risk factor, that's what you're looking at. You like. I think I just need to do it. Yeah. That always ended up being the answer like that. That is true. No matter what that is, you just. You just dump, just go, just go, go, just go in and see what happens. Stevie, Steve Harvey always say he just got a job, man. Yeah. I mean, the guy knows something. You know, nursing my son. Yeah. Consider the King. And when you consider the King of anything, You, you knew something of myself. Man to understand something about something. Right. And when it's all said and done, I think that's that what. boils down to the difference that was separate. many people when it comes down to the risk factor and we talking about the risk back then. There's levels to it. Like, but when it's all said and done. If you do not simply go for it, don't matter because for me, that's probably the hardest thing to. Dude. But when I do do it, It's a wrap. Yeah. You don't know, that's why it's a surprising thing. Why most of us are so scared to take risks, though. They usually does work out. I have to. At least for me personally. Most of the time it works out just fine. It was all just my big imagination going wild for no reason. When I finally did, I was like, man, that was nothing I didn't do this months ago. I'm laughing because I know how right. You wise, like, it's one of those things and she's like, Oh, okay. Those were fake. Fears. They weren't even real. And they were constructed fears. Alright. I was a lot of times I say self destruction, paying debts. You sells advertising. So you literally doing this to yourself, like, do you really want us to see Tony? Yes. No. Okay. And you do all right, Ken, just like throw his ass in the pool that skew them. It. No matter who you want her to swim over to food. Yeah. No common ocean, cause that's kinda messed up. you know what I mean? That's how my son swim. You want me to pool? That's when my son got over that audio speeds, like how it just like, he would tell me something. Right. Oh yeah. All right, come on. And then I'll put them in a situation where he can take care of, but of course I'm watching, I'm watching it, but like I put them in a situation where it's possible to build in that resilience up. You know what I mean? Right. So even like, even like for me, like small things, like asking, asking a woman out. When you finally do, it's like, whatever answer you get. Oh that bad. I'm still alive. Yeah. I really thought to everybody. No big deal. So this is your fears. Go crazy. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So that risk factor it's important because. I mean, cause I feel like once you overcome the fact that you took this risk and it didn't go as bad as plan. you're able to take more and more risks, you know, as you're going along with life. And I think it's going to put you in a better position. You know, it will put you in a better position because if you're not taking the risks at all, Then what are you doing? You know? Cause like, like Jermaine was saying earlier, you got to get out of that comfort zone. Right. If you're staying in that comfort zone too long. And, and, and if you're getting real comfortable, You just gotta have problems. I was just going to build up in your life. That's not meant to be there. It's not supposed to be there. So build it up, build it up. Courage and confidence. When you go, want me to come back home? She, is it recording? And taken a home action or doing anything, even though you might want to just sit and not. Do nothing at all. You have to going to take it a step regardless and doing nothing. It's still taking a step. It's just going to lead you in a way that you probably didn't want to go. Right. You know what I mean? And, but I think like at the same time, There's I look at, there's a way where you're being intentional on where you want to go. And then there's. Other ways where you love to be attentional at all. Where you just left. at the bottom of the pits or, Oh, well you hit rock bottom for us for all essay, for instance, you know, you don't have to be, you'll have to be intentional to hit rock bottom. It's not a textual at all. You know, I don't think nobody woke up today. Hey, I'm going to make sure I'm going to do whatever I, whatever I can do to hit rock bottom. It's called giving up. You know, Ah, Get given up. If you, if you, if you've given up right, you give it up. This. I can't even speak on that right now. I wouldn't, I couldn't even be able to speak on that. But I'm saying is that it's possible, but I know people that have just been a slight in no way, forget this. I'm not doing nothing. Or any intentionally do nothing. Like, they don't go for no career. They don't do anything and be like, Hey, something happened and it causes them to just go into a downward spiral. And. Downward spiral is intentional in that aspect because of how they're looking at their sales and every action that need, like whether you consciously are aware, every action that you do is whatever the goal is in your mind. Your body doesn't do anything without your mind. First. Find the size and what's going to happen. So whichever way you go, it becomes intentional subconsciously. So you go, if you go downward that's because you're looking at like, this is where I belong. I don't belong with that. You know what I mean? Like, I don't deserve to be able to how many people, you know, they have low self esteem that that's just feel like they don't deserve to have anything good. So they always find a way to. Right. You don't know about that has always sparked that up. Find a way to really mess yourself up. You got a great job. Are you going to do it? Just go to work and you won't get paid when you Gucci and you're going to get raises and all of that. Right. And then they find a way to mess it up. All you gotta do is go there and breathe, bruh. That's it brilliant. I say nothing to nobody. You just breathe. And he's still mess it up. My auntie made somehow find a way to mess it up. Congress, we can't screw up, but in all actuality, they successfully going down here. Yes. And it's intentional. It isn't, it's extremely intentional, but it doesn't seem like, like sit down if you ask them, are you, are you like trying to mess yourself up? Then I haven't been in that room right now. I'm not trying to man, but does it. But subconsciously they are because they feel like this is why I'm really going on. Okay. That's the worst song with successful people. It's the same, it's the same narrative except it's split. Right. And they're like, no, I belong. Yeah, so. No matter what I do, even if I'm not realizing that I'm doing it. I ended up building myself up to anyways. You know what I mean? Like, but you can't say that unintentional. I'm not what I'm saying is that I'm intentional in the sense of consciously being aware that that's what's going on and there's people that becomes successful in many different mentors, like entrepreneurs that become successful, or some people that just on a date with your sale, something, I was just selling this product. I didn't know it was gonna blow. You know what I mean? Like, and then all of a sudden, but when you go back and you look in their life, it was always said, no for that. For it to happen. Right. I'm saying like, there's a way to where it leads up to that because in the back of their hand, so consciously they've always thought I should be up there even though working at just nine to five and I'm doing this and doing this. But what I'm saying. It'll lead to. You know what I mean? So it's when I say, when I say unintentional, what I mean is, Oh, constantly aware that this is the situation. Cause when we thank you attention, we think that it has to be a conscious decision. A lot of times it could be an unconscious decision. And again, it happened and your mind and your body and your actions will lead that way because you're going to go down the path that you paint inside of your head. You shouldn't be on. That's all what's going to happen, whether it's so for success. And either way, whether you go on to the top of it, some people want to go to heaven and some people know me destined for hair. Mm, and is viewable by that. And they move in that week. Like there's people that have this, and I'm talking, I'm still kind of, I'm still talking about risk factor in a sense, because like, for us the respect, that has to be a conscious thing, but a lot of times it's it subconsciously you already made a decision on what you're gonna do. Right. If I'm doing, if I'm procrastinating, so consciously, I'm already planning inside of my head, how to beat that obstacle. Right. What I'm saying? Truly consciously. I know, man, I'm not finna do all that, man. I don't want to do all that work. And what's coming out of my mind and out of my mouth was flowing out of my heart. It's what's sitting in the back of my head or in the back of my heart are deep inside my heart and be beside my mind so well, but how do you want to put it? You know what I'm saying? That's, what's sitting behind her. So when I go to like us, You'll see me, like, start talking about a topic. And then all of a sudden I started going in on top of you. Like what the hell? What the hell did that come from is because it was just sitting inside of it. I had already went back to the markets, had already been sitting. It's always been sitting there. Just a matter of me, finding an outlet to let it out. Right. You know what I mean? It's the same thing with when, when the risk factor was stood up, I still had his name, like before I came here, there was a respect of saying, Hey look, you don't have like, maybe you shouldn't go because what if you get what, for some reason you get pulled over. Whatever cause you just because you're a black man with. That's a race. Is there legitimate risks? No, but, what about, what about if you go out there and then you run out of gas, so you get into an accident or somebody else calling you that you've been trying to, whatever, whatever for a minimal time, there's a lot of other things you could be doing instead of going to a freaking podcast, Brian, doing this podcast, there's a thousand things you could be doing. Those are the sort of obstacles. Those are the steps, but there. There's still a risk. You know what I mean? I'm still taking a risk every time I come my hand speak anyways. Right. Everything that you sent me, you get to that podcast is something boom. And they ride on you because of. Would have every, all these people in the entire world sit down and listen to your job. And they're like, why is he even talking? Yeah, that's a risk that I'm taking. It is a conscious unconscious of it. Alright, but you're not like in the back of my mind. I know tonight. No. Information needs to be put out through those keys. They see that it has to be taken care of that. Yeah, all these things I'm thinking. And then, boom. It's there. Rational thought. Yeah. Wait a second here. Is that irrational thought? Yeah. Those irrational thoughts that I'm thinking the back. Irrational reasons which are risk factors are irrational reasons. Sometimes the rational are they seeing rational at the time, but they can still prevent you from achieving your goal. You know what I mean? So, Even though those it up in the back of my mind, I always knew I had to get up and go and do it. Hmm. I knew when it was all said and done, I still, I still need to be there. I sit there and make that happen. These Google, depending on me, to help him with this podcast as well. Like, it's not just my podcast. Is there a podcast as well? It's not just theirs is mine as well. Right. We try to make something happen. We tried to, in order to make that happen, what do we have to do? We've got to show up. Yeah. Even though there's a thousand things. Like. Yeah. That's the risk roles like you live in every single day when we have, when you come to a situation where am I can't show up for their partners, because I need to take care of this, this, this, and this and this and this, or. Right. Yeah. I 100% get what you're coming from. What comes in my head when, when we're talking about what their risk factor here. with all of these, reasonings and all these obstacles that come in our way, I kind of base it down to like it's fear. And I break it down to even more to put it down into an acronym as in false evidence appearing real. So it's basically on your perspective of what, of, what you looking at. You're. What you looking at? What fear is to you? You know, Cause a fear. It could be a very good thing for some people, a few, it could be a very bad thing. Credential metal, you know, first of all, people. And how I'm looking at, how I look at fear is I don't think it's, it's real at all. You know, for, for my risks that I'm taking. I don't think it's a big risk that most people would think of a, of a risk that, that, that. could be, you know, Because. The outcome. I am certain for a fat. That my outcome will be a positive one. And there'll be one down will make a difference, you know, a great impact. Maybe not in my life, but in other people's lives. Yeah. And I think that's the whole goal. That's it. What I'm not going to talk about how you just said that fear is not real. I'm not gonna have that conversation. And it's always, it's false evidence appearing real now, as much as I might to agree with that, The acronym. I have a problem with it because that's not always true. It's not always false evidence. Cause sometimes it's true. It's, it's, that's a real, that's a real problem. That's a real robot. It's a real, the fear is there because that is an unsafe situation. It could be an unsafe city. There it is possible for things to come up at. Okay. I'm really taking a risk, like move. Talk about slavery for a second. I just want to just arrest maybe like when they ran because they wanted freedom, but freedom was, was a great outcome. Yeah, absolutely. It could be a great interview. A great thing. If I can get. To the other side and become a free man. But the risks were real. You, life is in jeopardy. You know what I'm saying? There's a lot of times where that's the situation where an athlete that might have a heart problem, still pushing yourself to the max there's high risk that you might not make it back from that practice. That's a real risk. That's a real fear. Even though he might still overcome it. But it's a real fear. That sound so I agree. I understand what you're saying. I'm saying, what are you going at with it? But I want to make it clear that there are times where the risk factor is a real race is a real feat. Like you shouldn't be afraid. Like here's another thing. To, to go out to success without fear. It's a problem. Like they have no fear at all as a problem. And. I'm not going to go in like deep into not having fear and how that is a real problem for, becoming successful. Cause it leads back to self sabotage. I'm not going to go into that cause that's a whole nother podcast, but. Again, how do you motivate yourself to do things, but over here, Is another thing. Like same way, same way. Like we, we used this example for when you're playing, playing a game. And you're in your trail. And if you don't have the fear that you're at times were enough, like what's. Where's the sense of urgency. That's it's like the example that you, the example that you had, You didn't really give the example, but I remember us having a conversation on a podcast was talking about, I forget exactly what we're talking about, but I was explaining how like, everybody else is on the opposite enemy as far as, Oh, it was winning and losing that then how did it go? And I've been afraid to win, being afraid to lose, not wondering, Hey. Hey. Hey Tollu. Yeah. And I was like, well, I don't. I don't really see neither one of them really. Right. I didn't see my end goal and not just ain't for that. And everything else is a step to get there. Correct. You know what I mean? Like that has that same, but. I wasn't saying that I'm not a foe. Oh, it's hard. I don't want to go in today. I'm not going to sleep cause that's, that's going to be a whole nother podcast as well. Anyways. Okay. Yeah. Yep. It's way tomorrow. Yeah, 46 minutes. Well that.  

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