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In this episode of the MamasteFit Podcast, Gina and Roxanne interview Dr. Morgan MacDermott, a naturopathic doctor specializing in women's and perinatal health. The discussion focuses on strategies for successful breastfeeding during the early postpartum weeks, addressing common issues such as clogged ducts, engorgement, mastitis, and identifying a bad latch. Dr. MacDermott offers practical tips, resources, and shares her personal experiences to guide new mothers through the breastfeeding journey. The episode also includes advice on how to prepare for breastfeeding while pregnant and highlights the importance of finding lactation support. All resources mentioned are linked below! Resources From This Episode: Morgan's Mastitis Manual: https://milkmedicine.com/mastitis-manual/ Happy ducts tincture by Wish Garden: https://www.wishgardenherbs.com/products/happy-ducts-lactation-support Klaire Labs Ther-Biotic Target B2 probiotics: https://us.sfihealth.com/tb2-target-b2 Biogaia Elactia Breastfeeding Probiotic: https://www.biogaia.com/products/elactia?srsltid=AfmBOoqe4UY4SrpciwcDOHvSIKCZx6u9noy_q1VAlPEeXghZsb30Dj5v Sunflower lecithin, brand not as important but fans of Legendairy: https://www.legendairymilk.com/collections/frontpage/products/organic-sunflower-lecithin?tw_source=google&tw_adid=707678161593&tw_campaign=8401036448&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw59q2BhBOEiwAKc0ijQtGtJv9GYfAcbyWguMml0D_-jXaQ_t7Q62aBRuzcflBYBoMOTkDeRoCtXYQAvD_BwE Haakaa colostrum collector: https://haakaausa.com/products/haakaa-silicone-colostrum-collector-set-4-ml-6-pk-pre-sterilized?srsltid=AfmBOopYHLDUGzfefHoveW9IBrBnvVDON5J6t8fryB6E2YdczTnUEM1a&variant=43769398755566 Lansinoh Soothies: https://lansinoh.com/products/soothies-cooling-gel-pads?_pos=1&_sid=fa277130e&_ss=r The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by the La Leche League: https://www.amazon.com/Womanly-Art-Breastfeeding-Completely-Revised/dp/0345518446/ref=asc_df_0345518446/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=693381391885&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=12853538813409396259&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1021225&hvtargid=pla-434335872153&psc=1&mcid=8d1b7b5dc7da3c45aff8e88f1fd831dc Jack Newman website: https://babyfriendlynl.ca/resources/dr-jack-newman-website/ Ina May's Guide to Breastfeeding: https://www.amazon.com/Ina-Mays-Guide-Breastfeeding-Nations/dp/0553384295 Kellymom.com: https://kellymom.com/ Medela Nipple Shields: https://www.medela.com/en/breastfeeding-pumping/products/breast-care/contact-nipple-shields?productId=4065&package=m-20-mm Find a local IBCLC: https://lactationnetwork.com/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=performance_max&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw59q2BhBOEiwAKc0ijVA4zMOPGitoF7q7Bm-5_0K0oGbCQmp3gTCWuivexc-c72IlGXiJ7BoC4H0QAvD_BwE Join a Local lactation support group! 00:00 Introduction to the MamasteFit Podcast 01:19 Meet Dr. Morgan MacDermott 04:27 Understanding Breastfeeding Myths 05:56 The Physiology of Breast Milk 13:13 Dealing with Engorgement 21:14 Clogged Ducts and Mastitis 25:54 Sponsor Break: Needed Nutrition 30:19 Understanding Milk Supply and Mastitis 30:44 Personal Experiences with Mastitis 31:51 Inflammatory Mastitis Explained 32:38 Misconceptions and Misdiagnoses 33:51 Probiotics and Biofilms 36:07 Reducing Inflammation and Feeding Normally 40:42 New Guidelines for Clogged Ducts 45:34 Preparing for Breastfeeding Challenges 49:27 Finding Support and Resources 58:08 Final Thoughts and Resources 59:39 Podcast Outro and Additional Resources ===== Pre-Order Training for Two on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3VOTdwH —— This podcast is sponsored by Needed, a nutrition company focused on optimal nourishment for your perinatal journey. Use code MAMASTEPOD for 20% off your first order or three months of subscription.
Episode overview: The Power of Breastfeeding: Benefits, Challenges, and Tips In this episode we dive into the world of breastfeeding. Join us as we explore the benefits of breastfeeding for both mother and baby, discuss common challenges faced by new moms, and share practical tips and real life experience on breastfeeding. Whether you're a new parent, expecting, or simply curious about breastfeeding, this episode offers valuable insights and support to help you navigate this important aspect of early parenthood. Tune in to learn more about how breastfeeding can nurture your baby's health and strengthen your bond. Useful Resources: HSE information including Ask a breastfeeding expert https://www2.hse.ie/babies-children/breastfeeding/ NHS information https://www.nhs.uk/start-for-life/baby/feeding-your-baby/breastfeeding/ Association of Lactation Consultants Ireland https://alcireland.ie/ Bainne Beatha - parent led campaign to improve breastfeeding https://www.instagram.com/bainnebeatha/ Breastfeeding support groups https://www.cuidiu.ie/ https://www.lalecheleagueireland.com/ Kellymom - evidence based information on breastfeeding https://kellymom.com/ If you would like to get in touch you can email us ladybitespodcast@gmail.com or find us on Instagram @LadyBitesPodcast for more resources related to this episode. Special thanks to Jeremy Roske for the soundtrack, A Little Love, available in full on Spotify
I am solidly in my toddler breastfeeding era right now, so I figured this was the perfect time to talk about it! In this solo episode, I cover toddler breastfeeding myths, my personal change of heart in this regard, global breastfeeding recommendations and the benefits of breastfeeding, and the benefits of breastfeeding for more than a year. I talk about how your milk changes over time and how the experience of nursing definitely changes. So many resources cited in this episode: 1.) "What to Expect" Instagram highlights: https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/17884745341987178/ 2.) KellyMom's article on breastfeeding past infancy: https://kellymom.com/ages/older-infant/ebf-benefits/ 3.) Breastfeeding in Mongolia: https://www.naturalchild.org/articles/guest/ruth_kamnitzer.html 4.) Don't Take the Intimacy Out of Breastfeeding: https://www.janetlansbury.com/2010/10/theres-a-person-on-your-breast-dont-take-the-intimacy-out-of-breastfeeding/ 5.) The Psychological Effects of Breastfeeding: https://tghncollections.pubpub.org/pub/8-the-psychological-effects-of-breastfeeding/release/2 6.) AAP Breastfeeding Policy Statement: https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/150/1/e2022057988/188347/Policy-Statement-Breastfeeding-and-the-Use-of?autologincheck=redirected 7.) Lily Nichols on Vitamin A: https://lilynicholsrdn.com/liver-organ-meat/ 8.) Lily Nichols on Nutrients in Breastmilk: https://lilynicholsrdn.com/can-we-boost-the-nutrient-levels-breast-milk/ 9.) Minerals + Mother's Milk podcast interview with Amanda Montalvo: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4O7bqZcRVHoNsqNXVoRo4V?si=BgV38RnjRiesyTJHp3dE_g ** 15% off Lactation Lab testing with code HAPPYMAMA: https://lactationlab.com/discount/HAPPYMAMA ** -- If you're enjoying this podcast, please subscribe and leave a review in Apple Podcasts to help other people find us! You can also find me on Instagram @happy.mama.healthy.baby for more content. Sign up for my monthly newsletter and get a free freezer meal download: https://happymamahealthybaby.ck.page Learn more about my work and schedule an in-person or virtual lactation consult at happymamahealthybaby.co Our online breastfeeding and postpartum course: https://bit.ly/nourishedbeginningscourse (15% off with code PODCAST15) Postpartum recipes and resources: https://bit.ly/nourishedmotherbundle My allergy e-cookbook: https://bit.ly/nourishedwithnuance --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/milkandmotherhood/support
Postpartum is such a significant time of change, adaptation, and bonding. It can also be a stressful, sleepless, and emotional time. I encourage you, if you're pregnant or hope to be, spend some time thinking through what you want the first 8 weeks postpartum to look like. If you're already postpartum, I would also encourage you to prioritize rest moving forward. And if you're beyond postpartum, consider how you might encourage or provide care/meals/rest for a new mom that you know.
Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcastIs your baby in daycare? Are you dealing with a daycare situation that feels overwhelming? You are not alone. Sending your baby to daycare IS difficult. We have some stories and tips to help.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox!Today's episode is brought to you by Rumble Tuff! The Rumble Tuff Breeze is a breast pump that allows you to record your most effective pump session. Use code BADASS for 20% off at www.rumbletuff.com!Today's episode is brought to you by Larken! Larken is a line of game-changing maternity and postpartum essentials including nursing and pumping bras! use code BADASS for 10% off at www.shoplarken.com!Things we talked about:The Marsupial story [2:50]Daycare doesn't know your baby [8:20]Staff turnover [12:38]Stories from the internet [13:13]Infant intake for the day [14:52]Babies don't need more volume [17:30]The 3 month drop [18:35]Sending exactly what is needed [23:28]Cues [24:25]When Abby left her baby with her parents [30:58]Pumping fresh [34:39]Tips for dealing with daycare [35:07]Consider what breastfeeding is like for your baby [36:16] Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/071-overfeeding-paced-bottle-feeding/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/breastfeeding-in-the-4th-trimester/ Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Are you ready to start bottles but feeling nervous about it? Or have you already started bottles, but your baby hates it? Now what? Listen today as Dianne and Abby talk about the when and how of introducing bottles to your baby. If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:Messages from 2 exclusive pumpers [3:21]When to start introducing bottles [12:37]Where do you get the milk? [14:56]Who should give the bottle? [16:27]Paced feeding [23:06]Bottle feeding isn't easier [25:05]Waiting too long to introduce a bottle [27:00]Childcare and overfeeding and bottle refusal [31:33]What to do if baby won't take a bottle at all [35:00]Bottles aren't all the same [37:05]Trying a cup instead of a bottle [38:40] Today's episode is sponsored by Motif Medical. The Motif Luna breast pump is proven to provide more milk in less time. Use code BADASS for 15% off at www.motifmedical.com!Today's episode is sponsored by Milkify! Milkify is the concierge breast milk freeze-drying service. Visit www.milkify.me and mention code BADASS for $25 off your first order. Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/071-overfeeding-paced-bottle-feeding/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/how-bottle-feeding-differs-from-breastfeeding/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/bottle-refusal/ Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcast Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcastBreastfeeding while pregnant…how does this happen? Should you breastfeed while pregnant? Is it safe? Listen up and get all the information you need to breastfeed while pregnant.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox!Things we talked about:Abby breastfed while pregnant [7:00]Let's start with misinformation [7:45]Breastfeeding does cause uterine contractions [8:15]It is safe to breastfeed while pregnant [12:35]Nutrients [12:45]Milk supply drops while pregnant [21:02]Nursing aversion [24:13]Roadblocks to nursing while pregnant [29:48]Breastfeeding while in labor [33:54]Today's episode is brought to you by Rumble Tuff! The Rumble Tuff Breeze is a breast pump that allows you to record your most effective pump session. Use code BADASS for 20% off at www.rumbletuff.com!Today's episode is brought to you by Larken! Larken is a line of game-changing maternity and postpartum essentials including nursing and pumping bras! use code BADASS for 10% off at www.shoplarken.com! Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/nursing-aversion-with-melissa-morns/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/124-breastfeeding-boundaries/ Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcastIt's been a while since we had a solids episode – so let's talk about the myths surrounding solids. Today Dianne and Abby are discussing what is mythical and what is truth around solid foods, and Abby has some info from 1957. Don't miss out. If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:It's been a while since a solids episode! [5:40]Info from 1957 [6:30]Myth: the baby will sleep [12:57]Myth: start with rice cereal [14:24]Tongue thrusting reflex [16:10]Starting solids at 4 months [19:50]Older babies still need breastmilk [22:27]Allergens [24:04]Myth: vegetables before fruit [26:15]Some vegetables are fruit [30:15]Myth: waiting between foods [32:50]Myth: food should be bland [33:25]Milk [35:20] Today's episode is sponsored by Motif Medical. The Motif Luna breast pump is proven to provide more milk in less time. Use code BABF23 for 15% off at www.motifmedical.com!This episode is also sponsored by Fairhaven Health. Fertility, pregnancy and breastfeeding products. Use code BADASS for 15% off your purchase at www.fairhavenhealth.com. Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/129-balancing-solids-with-breastfeeding/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/starting-solids-with-the-breastfeeding-baby/https://sharonmazel.com/9-myths-and-truths-about-starting-solids/ Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcastPumping. Do you hate it? Do you tolerate it? Do you love it? We asked the internet, and you will want to hear the responses. Tune in today for validation.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on iTunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:Dianne and Abby on tour! [2:30]Prenatal pump attitude vs post partum pump attitude [7:20]You do not need to pump to maintain supply [9:28]Messages from the internet [11:07]The need for more pumping support [13:28]Changing pump parts [14:41]Message from someone who loved pumping and why [17:18]Feed the baby not the freezer [24:20]Exclusive pumping for 2 years [27:05]Pumps have changed a lot over the years [29:00]Cleaning ALL THE PARTS [31:52] Today's episode is brought to you by Rumble Tuff! The Rumble Tuff Breeze is a breast pump that allows you to record your most effective pump session. Use code BADASS for 20% off at www.rumbletuff.com!Today's episode is sponsored by Milkify! Milkify is the concierge breast milk freeze-drying service. Visit www.milkify.me and mention code BADASS for $25 off your first order. Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/pumping-myths/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/107-pumping-and-dumping-your-breastmilk/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/the-best-breast-pump-hacks/ Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcast Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Do you ever wonder what the heck your newborn is doing?What's normal and what's not? And does everything mean the baby is hungry?Learn all about newborn behaviors and learn a little more about what your baby is doing and why.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:Message from a listener with information for the Badasses about TTC [2:55]Dianne starts with crying [8:00]The crying curve [9:00]Dunstan Baby Language [13:58]Fussy after feeds [16:50]Babies don't like to be put down [18:06]Think about the age [21:20]Babies like rhythmic movement [23:30]Overstimulation [24:07]Newborn reflexes [30:45]Do babies know hunger or full? [33:22]Waking through the night [39:15] Episode is sponsored by Fairhaven Health and Motif Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://www.uerm.edu.ph/Forms/research/HSJ%205.1%20Jan.%20June%202016.pdf#page=6https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/colic/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/088-normal-newborn-breastfeeding-behaviors/ Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcast Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Do you feel touched out, overwhelmed with everything and unsexy? If you do, you are not alone. We asked the internet how they feel about it too. Check out their answers on this week's episode.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:Comments from the internet [5:39]Our partner doesn't necessarily experience a change to routine [8:40]No prep for this feeling [9:30]Pushing buttons and violating boundaries [12:58]Love language [13:33]Communication [14:41]Partners take it personally [16:45]Message from a listener who is not touched out [21:18]Sharing the load [22:53]Our hyper-sexualized culture [27:26]Someone got “thrown to the bin” [32:10]Submitting can lead to resentment [34:17] Today's episode is brought to you by Rumble Tuff! The Rumble Tuff Breeze is a breast pump that allows you to record your most effective pump session. Use code BADASS for 20% off at www.rumbletuff.com!Today's episode is brought to you by Larken! Larken is a line of game-changing maternity and postpartum essentials including nursing and pumping bras! use code BADASS for 10% off at www.shoplarken.com! Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/079-boobs/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/060-breastfeeding-and-sex-drive/ Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcast Set up your consultation with Dianne https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcastTrying to conceive. How does this work if you are still breastfeeding?What if you want another baby? Tune in today to hear Dianne and Abby discuss getting pregnant while still breastfeeding.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:Not planning to breastfeed, but listening to a breastfeeding podcast [3:25]The message that started this episode [6:50]Deciding what is priority [8:48]Another listener message [13:20]Spacing babies [20:37]IVF [23:20]Abby's story [25:10]Practicing boundaries [30:35]What if you don't want to tandem feed? [33:10] Today's episode is brought to you by Rumble Tuff! The Rumble Tuff Breeze is a breast pump that allows you to record your most effective pump session. Use code BADASS for 20% off at www.rumbletuff.com!Today's episode is brought to you by Larken! Larken is a line of game-changing maternity and postpartum essentials including nursing and pumping bras! use code BADASS for 10% off at www.shoplarken.com! Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/124-breastfeeding-boundaries/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/night-weaning-and-boundaries/ Set up your consultation with Dianne https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcastDid you feel engorged after your baby was born? How did you manage it? Dianne and Abby break down what engorgement is, how to manage it and some things you can do to reduce your chances of becoming engorged. If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:Changes to your body [7:10]What is engorgement [8:50]What causes it? [12:23]Mastitis [14:10]Delay of milk [16:12]Managing engorgement [20:20]Ice is key [20:50]What makes engorgement worse? [23:54]Skipping feeds [24:29]Medications and fluids [26:08]Reclining and lymphatic massage [30:08]Lactating breast changes [32:25]Latch issues [33:20] Today's episode is sponsored by Motif Medical. The Motif Luna breast pump is proven to provide more milk in less time. Use code BABF23 for 15% off at www.motifmedical.com!This episode is also sponsored by Fairhaven Health. Fertility, pregnancy and breastfeeding products. Use code BADASS for 15% off your purchase at www.fairhavenhealth.com. Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://www.azdhs.gov/documents/prevention/nutrition-physical-activity/breastfeeding/reverse-pressure-softening.pdfhttps://www.mayabolman.com/videos/v/basicsofbreastmassagehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/mastitis-madness/ Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcastReturning to work can make you feel a bit overwhelmed. You aren't alone – most new mothers/parents return to work. How can you manage it all? Tune in today for some ideas and tips for returning to work.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:Can RTW even be 1 episode? [6:03]You aren't alone [11:05]Study regarding RTW [11:08]Paid breastfeeding breaks for the win! [11:35]Message from a listener [14:10]Anxiety comes from not knowing [16:30]When to start pumping [17:08]Using hands on pumping [24:50]Starting bottles [26:11]Always pump if missing a feeding [27:30]Talking with co-workers [31:06]Where to put the milk [37:10]Supply [40:10]Changing pump parts [42:35]Today's episode is brought to you by Rumble Tuff! The Rumble Tuff Breeze is a breast pump that allows you to record your most effective pump session. Use code BADASS for 20% off at www.rumbletuff.com!Today's episode is brought to you by Larken! Larken is a line of game-changing maternity and postpartum essentials including nursing and pumping bras! use code BADASS for 10% off at www.shoplarken.com! Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/100-tips-to-pump-more-milk/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/the-best-breast-pump-hacks/ Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
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Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcastBenefits to breastfeeding for babies and parents. There are a lot of them.Listen as Dianne and Abby break down some beneficial reasons to breastfeeding. I bet you will learn something new. If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:All different kinds of benefits to talk about [7:08]Why breastfeeding is so good for babies' health [8:25]Osteoporosis [10:44]Breast / ovarian cancer [13:00]Oxytocin [14:10]Saving money – and the controversy [17:30]Weight loss [20:43]Anemia [22:59]Breastfeeding as birth control [24:10]Study from Indonesia regarding fussy babies [26:20]Colostrum can't be replicated [33:50]Obesity / overfeeding [35:15]Building confidence [36:45]Dental [37:30]Sleep [41:27] This episode is also sponsored by Fairhaven Health. Fertility, pregnancy and breastfeeding products. Use code BADASS for 15% off your purchase at www.fairhavenhealth.com. Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/cluster-feeding/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/the-impact-of-breastfeeding-on-the-environment/https://kellymom.com/pregnancy/bf-prep/bf-benefits/#lists Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcast Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Have you ever worried that your milk doesn't taste right? Has it smelled or tasted soapy, or “off”? Does your baby take fresh milk directly from the source just fine, or from a bottle even– but if it's been stored for any amount of time, the milk gets rejected? Then you may be dealing with high lipase in your milk.Listen to know what you can do about the milk you have already saved, and what you can do moving forward!You can hear Lori's episode where she discusses high lipase milk on Apple or on Spotify.Head to Apple Podcasts or Spotify for more Milk Making Minutes episodes!For resources related to High Lipase in human milk, check out Kellymom.For Milk Making Minutes Episodes specific to pumping:Episode 36: Increasing Milk Supply While PumpingEpisode 46: Hand Expression Simplified with Francie WebbEpisode 54: Are You Using the Right Flange Size For Your Breast PumpJoin The Milk Making Minutes Facebook Group to talk about the structural barriers that make breastfeeding so difficult and work together to chip away at each one.To buy books about pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, and parenting, and to support the show while doing it, go to my bookshop!Follow me on IG @milkmakingminutespodcast to laugh about breastfeeding and to see photos of guests!
If you asked any of these gentle parenting experts, they would say parenting is the most important work in the world. But they are also perpetually downplaying the hardest parts of it—which means not ever making visible the parts of parenting that we most need to change.Welcome to Burnt Toast! This is the podcast where we talk about diet culture, fatphobia, parenting, and health. Today I am chatting again with Sara Louise Petersen. She’s the Burnt Toast resident momfluencer expert, and you can catch her previous episodes here and here. Sara is also the author of an upcoming book about momfluencers and the awesome new Substack newsletter In Pursuit of Clean Countertops, which is a must-subscribe!Today, Sara and I are chatting about the gentle parenting trend—and how it intersect with our conversations around gender roles, diet culture, and more. If you enjoy this episode, please subscribe, rate and review us in your podcast player! And subscribe to the Burnt Toast newsletter for episode transcripts, reported essays, and more.PS. The Burnt Toast Giving Circle is almost to $9,000! We are so close to our goal and will soon be picking which state election to fund. So if you’ve been thinking about joining, we still need you! Here’s the Burnt Toast episode where I announced it, ICYMI, and the link to donate.Episode 41 TranscriptVirginiaHi Sara! You are the resident Burnt Toast momfluencer expert, which I admit is not a category of expert I knew that I needed when I launched the podcast, but it turns out it very much is. And you just started your own Substack newsletter! So let’s talk about that first.SaraIt’s called In Pursuit of Clean Countertops. It’s not about countertops. It’s not about cleaning. The title is a nod to all of the things that momfluencer culture invites you to pursue and desire and want. I started it a little over a month ago based on an inflammatory post by @BallerinaFarm, Hannah Neeleman. She’s a big one. Her husband Daniel Neeleman started his own Instagram account relatively recently. He posted about the way that Hannah loves to clean and natural light and children like to congregate around her. It just made me feel a lot of a lot of feelings, Virginia. So that was the the post that started it at all.VirginiaI had a lot of feelings about that post, as well. I also love your new Weekly WTF which is so cathartic to read. SaraMy goal is to take the text threads that we all have with our friends, which can be more like, “Holy s**t. Did you see this? This is enraging this is infuriating,” and explore why is it infuriating. Why am I feeling these feelings? To expose the systemic issues at play.VirginiaToday you are coming back on this podcast because we want to dissect a sub-trend of momfluencing culture. We’re talking about “gentle parenting.” I also see it called “positive parenting.” It’s important to say right off the bat, there is no official definition of this concept. Jessica Grose wrote a piece for The New York Times where she described it as “a sort of open-source mélange, interpreted and remixed by moms across the country.” And yes, that is really what it is. Sara, do you want to read this definition that we found in this piece in The New Yorker by Jessica Winter, just so everyone’s on the same page about what we’re talking about here.SaraSo, okay:In its broadest outlines, gentle parenting centers on acknowledging a child’s feelings and the motivations behind challenging behavior, as opposed to correcting the behavior itself. The gentle parent holds firm boundaries, gives a child choices instead of orders, and eschews rewards, punishments, and threats—no sticker charts, no time-outs, no “I will turn this car around right now.” Instead of issuing commands (“Put on your shoes!”), the parent strives to understand why a child is acting out in the first place (“What’s up, honey? You don’t want to put your shoes on?”) or, perhaps, narrates the problem (“You’re playing with your trains because putting on shoes doesn’t feel good”).The gently parented child, the theory goes, learns to recognize and control her emotions because a caregiver is consistently affirming those emotions as real and important. The parent provides a model for keeping one’s cool, but no overt incentives for doing so—the kid becomes a person who is self-regulating, kind, and conscientious because she wants to be, not because it will result in ice cream. VirginiaThat is what I want my children to be, is the thing. This is the goal I think a lot of us have for kids. And yet the path for getting there is so convoluted. Let’s talk about when we each first became aware of this trend and how it’s showing up in our parenting.SaraI became aware of it by way of attachment parenting, which was just everywhere when I had my first kid, who is now almost 10. Attachment parenting is the whole 'if the kid is crying, the kid is not being annoying. It’s expressing needs or desires and it’s your job as the parent to interpret the cries.’ In attachment parenting, you’re not thinking of the kid’s behavior as an impediment to your life, but as the kid expressing his or her or their individuality. I was all about this when I was pregnant. I read all the Dr. Sears books. And then, almost immediately after having my first child, I just felt like I was being gaslit. I remember reading something... Kelly Something?VirginiaOh, yes, KellyMom. Oh, I’m having a trauma response. It’s been a minute.SaraI know. So my kid was not sleeping and I remember reading on KellyMom something like “when cluster feeding happens and baby only wants mom, consider it a compliment.” And I was just like fuuuuuck this. F**k this!!VirginiaIt’s not a compliment. I’m so tired.SaraAttachment parenting kind of feeds into gentle parenting really well in that it’s all about prioritizing the child’s needs. And very rarely are the parent’s needs anywhere in the conversation.VirginiaI had a pretty knee jerk reaction against attachment parenting, although, you know, my oldest is eight, so same time period. It was everywhere. But I was like, this is just code for the woman does everything. And I didn’t sign up for that. It’s not what we’ve agreed upon in my house. We’re not doing it. But then the gentle parenting thing for me, it was discovering Janet Lansbury’s work when my older daughter was a toddler and the toddler tantrums started. (Note from Virginia: I forgot to mention in our conversation that I’ve interviewed Lansbury for parenting articles a few times and think she’s incredibly smart and thoughtful, even if her tantrum advice didn’t always land for me. If you are also a Lansbury fan, this Ariel Levy profile is a must-read.)I was constantly having to negotiate with this person who is totally irrational, according to the way I understand the world. And who is demanding a lot from me in ways that just don’t make sense anymore. At least with a baby, you’re like, well, you’re hungry, or you’re cold or—their needs are just more concrete and not emotional. But suddenly, in the toddler years, you’re sorting through this emotional stuff, as well as—I’m now going to get mail from people saying babies have emotions. I know they do. I know they have emotions. But there’s something about engaging with a tiny verbal child or quasi-verbal child that is just much harder for me. So this whole gentle parenting approach, I sort of clung to it like a life raft. Will someone explain why these children scream so much? And gentle parenting has these '“answers” for you. But what was interesting, even when my older daughter was two or three, was how much it didn’t work with her. All this advice about, like, “What’s up? You don’t want to put your shoes on? Or you’re playing with trains because shoes don’t feel good?” She would just be enraged when I did that. I think it felt like very patronizing to her. She was like, “I am telling you how I feel through my yelling. You putting words to it is not making me better.” SaraWell, one of my challenges that you’re speaking to is: You’ll get this script and the lines that you’re reciting are at odds with your feelings, which are often rage, impatience, annoyance, frustration, despair. So if you’re reciting this script that is like, “I can see you’re having really big feelings right now. And that’s okay. Your big feelings are valid,” kids, I think can tell that you are feeding them a line from a script. Or at least my kids definitely can. It oftentimes in my household has made things worse.VirginiaYes. Because then you’re getting more frustrated while trying to recite the script.SaraAnd then you’re doubly frustrated because the script isn’t working.VirginiaSo, let’s talk more about the scripts because they are one of the most common tropes of the way gentle parenting is performed online. I want to talk about this Dr. Becky post. (Above.) If I have a child screaming, “I hate you! I hope you die!,” which has happened in my life, me responding with calmness is almost denying the feeling. The goal, ostensibly, is to label their feeling, but you’re denying the feeling because you’re responding so stoically to their feelings. Something about it feels so inauthentic.SaraThe other thing that just really stands out to me in this mantra is “the real story is my child’s pain.” There’s no room for the parents’ feelings in this mantra.VirginiaI don’t disagree with the argument here that a small child using that word doesn’t really mean the word the way an adult does. Like, this isn’t them being verbally abusive. I understand that. But that doesn’t stop it from feeling bad when it happens. And we are supposed to so totally center the child’s emotions to the point of having no emotional response to it. It’s just never going to happen, that way.SaraWhat if the kid is saying “I HATE YOU” to the sibling? You have to attend to the kid who’s having feelings and saying I hate you. And you have to attend to the kid who is the target of the “I hate you.” It’s just so much more complicated than any of these scripts would have you believe.VirginiaI think what’s interesting about this movement is there’s a lot of emphasis on not being punitive towards kids when they do bad things. When they hit, when they bite, when they say I hate you. An older model of parenting would have been to punish those behaviors. And their argument is: We’re never going to help kids move past these behaviors if we demonize the kid who’s doing the bad thing. Which I understand. But if you have a dynamic where an older brother has just slapped his little sister in the face, what is that girl learning? That someone who loves you can hurt you like that?SaraWe don’t want our children to internalize our feelings. But I also don’t think it’s terrible if our kids see us have an emotional reaction, such as anger or frustration. It’s natural to have a reaction when somebody says, “I hate you,” or when you get slapped in the face. We need to allow for the parents’ humanity in all of this. If your facial expression becomes angry, that’s okay. You can still value the child’s humanity and individuality and hold space for both things.VirginiaThere’s a lot of talk about how if you tell your child how you feel, you’re making them codependent. I just feel like this is a real big leap because the alternative is you’re teaching your child their emotions should always be centered. That feels like a terrible model for future relationships.SaraIn the Jessica Winter piece, she gives the example of if your kid is having a meltdown and you’re in the middle of vacuuming, you should by all means stop vacuuming and say to the kid, “your feelings are more important than housework.” Winter writes: The housework that [Robin] Einzig says to put off is a synecdoche for everything that the gentle parent—and, perhaps, the gently parented child’s invisible siblings—must push aside in order to complete a transformation into a self-renouncing, perpetually present humanoid who has nothing but time and who is programmed for nothing but calm.”Virginia And when is the vacuuming getting done? Maybe you don’t want to spend your whole day being interrupted during a chore that should take 15 minutes. This feels very much of a piece with what we see in momfleuncer culture. That’s @BallerinaFarm cleaning her house with a smile while the kids are frolicking around. This image of joy and calmness through domestic life doesn’t line up with anything I’ve ever experienced in domestic life. I don’t think it lines up with most people’s experience.SaraNo. I constantly talk to my kids when I’m feeling overwhelmed or how a lot of work goes into keeping a house and raising kids. I’m sure some gentle parenting advocates would tell me I’m burdening my kids with my own suffering or whatever. But it’s true and nobody ever talked to me about this openly, about how being a parent and being a grown up is hard.VirginiaMaking that work visible is so important for so many reasons. We are never going to make progress on our larger cultural gender roles if we are continually downplaying this work. I’m sure if you asked any of these gentle parenting experts, they would say parenting is the most important work in the world. That’s why they’ve devoted their careers to giving us all the scripts! But when you’re perpetually downplaying the hard parts of it, and when you’re needing to perform it in this really controlled way, you’re not actually ever making visible the parts of it that we need to change. SaraI can see a future where kids who are parented perfectly according to the gentle script, turn into parents themselves and say, like, “What the f**k? This is hard as s**t! Why did my parents always present as so calm and pulled together?”VirginiaI mean, that assumes anyone’s able to actually execute gentle parenting. I fhave my doubts that anybody is this parent, even three days a week. The other night, my child who, like I said, screams in fury if I try a gentle parenting script, we were having a thing. I finally said to her, “I am a human being with emotions, and you are hurting my feelings right now.” And one part of my brain was like, You are breaking all the rules. You aren’t supposed to tell her that she’s hurting your feelings. But that was what turned the corner in that particular moment. I’m not saying she was like, “Oh, I’m so sorry, I hurt your feelings.” There was no apology. But it did make her pause for a moment and have this recognition of, Oh, right. I am powerful here. My words have impact. She took a slight step back and we were able to then get on a much better track. A thought I had a lot, especially when I was parenting toddlers was: If an adult treated you like this, it would be an abusive relationship—and yet we are supposed to accept this wholeheartedly from children. It’s one of the things that is so hard about parenting. Because they are children and emotional capabilities are not fully developed, so you literally sign up for accepting abuse for several years. It’s not abuse, but it does not feel great.SaraI’m sure you’ve had this experience, where you are heated, you are furious, you’re having big emotions and the person you’re arguing with is stoic and calm and seemingly unaffected by your big emotions. VirginiaIt’s the worst! SaraIt’s the worst. So I can totally understand why being the kid at the receiving end of these scripts would be infuriating. Like, I’m kicking and screaming and like spitting at you. Why isn’t this having any impact? VirginiaIt feels kind of manipulative in that way, like you’re trying to make them feel powerless. Because kids want a reaction. They’re looking for connection. Often the yelling is an attempt to get your attention and get your connection. So if you’re giving them Robot Mom, you’re not connecting with them authentically. VirginiaOkay, so another big theme, and also m big division point with gentle parenting, is the fact that they frame timeouts as an act of trauma. This is a @biglittlefeelings post. They are big in this space and I have a lot of feelings about that. Because, with both my kids, there are times when timeouts save my family. We all need to step away from each other. I don’t think it is punitive or traumatizing to teach a kid that when your feelings are so big that you can only deliver them in hurtful ways that you need to take some time alone We call them “cool downs” which is totally trying to soften the language. But giving myself permission to use those with my kids has helped so much. SaraI have a kid who, when she’s having her biggest feelings, will remove herself. Like, her instinct is to go and sob sob, sob for 15 minutes. But if I try to go in before 15 minutes, it’s bad. It’s only after that she has that cathartic release that she’s even capable of connecting. VirginiaI am sure there are kids who want to collapse on you and need that sort of experience. But recognizing that, if you yourself are someone who needs to go be alone to think through your big feelings, maybe your kid needs that, too. And maybe it’s okay.SaraAnother thing that I want to highlight that’s giving me some big feelings is the caption. It says:When the parental response is to isolate the child, an instinctual psychological need of the child goes unmet. In fact, brain imaging shows that the experience of relational pain–like that caused by rejection–looks very similar to the experience of physical pain in terms of brain activity. This is not great. VirginiaThere’s no citation, there’s no science. We would need to fact check the heck out of that.SaraIt just feels so manipulative and like playing into parental shame and guilt.VirginiaI bet it’s stemming from the same research used to argue for attachment parenting, about how if you let a baby cry it out, you’re inflicting physical pain on them. And then when we looked at which data they were using, it was children who’d been neglected for months in orphanages. It was not children in loving homes who are being asked to cry for 15 minutes to fall asleep. I’m guessing this is orphanage research again and that research is very important for understanding the impact of true trauma. But it is not helpful to give to parents who are trying really hard to be decent parents. The other trope I wanted to hit on is: Speaking in the child’s voice. This is a post from Robin Einzig’s Facebook page: SaraI just want to describe the image because it’s doing a lot of work. It’s a painting of a very cherubic looking three or four year old, whose eyes are just full of innocent wonder and who has like rosy little pursed lips. She just looks like a blank canvas that you as the parent might be in danger of destroying. So it says, “When you cut it for me, write it for me, open it for me, set it up for me, draw it for me, and make it for me or find it for me. All I learned is that you do it better than I do. So I’ll let you do it. In the textbooks, this is called learned helplessness, but actually I call it clever on the part of the child and less than clever on the part of the adult.”VirginiaSick burn from a gentle parenting expert. SaraAlso the quote says “quote unknown.”VirginiaI mean, obviously the quote is unknown. They just made it up. They’re not quoting a human child because no child has ever said, “You know Mom, when you do this for me, all I learned is that you’re better at things than me.” SaraSo this one’s really thrown me for a loop.VirginiaIt’s another one of those super paralyzing pieces of advice. I remember reading some advice like this. The argument was, if you’re drawing with your child and if they see how you draw a cat, then they’ll never learn how to draw a cat themselves, like in their own vision of a cat. And I remember trying to do that and being like, well, this just sucked all the fun out of drawing. I’m actually kind of good at drawing cats and now I feel like I can’t draw a cat. You’re simultaneously supposed to do nothing for them so they can have all of these learning experiences, yet also be emotionally available to the point you can’t get your vacuuming done.SaraHow the hell are you supposed to get anything done if you’re letting a two-year-old do all these things? You will spend your entire day having the two-year-old cut something. VirginiaThis is just one of those constant tensions of parenting where of course they have to eventually learn to do these things for themselves. But when you’re trying to get out of the door or set them up with an activity, so you can get things done, of course, you’re going to do the hard parts for them. Because life demands it.SaraBecause of life! Like really. Because of life.VirginiaOne more good quote from the Jessica Winter piece: Gentle-parenting advocates are near-unanimous in the view that a child should never be told that she “made Mommy sad”—she should focus on her internal weather rather than peering out the window. “Good job!” is usually not O.K., even if you corroborate why the job is good. “Because I said so” is never O.K., no matter how many times a child asks why she has to go to bed.So Sara, when we were talking about this trend, you really found the mom influencer to end all momfluencers. She’s definitely at the most extreme end of the spectrum. So tell us about @milkgiver, please.SaraSo I’ve been following her for a long time. This type of momfluencer is catnip for me because they present with this very cool hipster, maybe used to live in Brooklyn type of vibe. So I’m initially attracted by their Shaker style fisherman’s sweaters. And then I get lured into the messaging, which often gets into very intense prescriptive nutrition stuff. There’s a lot of beef liver gummy making. VirginiaShe’s in a striped caftan type garment. I mean, I think I have the same mug as her right here because you know, #influenced. I’m pretty sure she has an East Fork pottery mug. So I’m not here to hate on her mug choice.SaraI have yet to pull the trigger, but I’m sure I will, Virginia. I’m sure I will.VirginiaYou will not be sorry. Anyway, she’s basically buried in children while having her morning coffee, is the image.SaraYou know Mary Cassatt paintings? It’s giving me those vibes. Like, you know, adoring children, beatific mother. It’s a long post, the thesis of which is that we, as mothers have so much power over giving our children happy, trauma-free childhoods. She says, …for the most part, I, as a mother, hold the incredible power of creating happy childhoods for my little ones or not so happy childhoods… And this is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. there have been so many recurring themes in my life and something I keep hearing in the health and wellness circles is how disease or illness can be caused by past trauma. how interesting is that to think about? So, I’m not loving the direct connection between “I slammed the door or put my kid in timeout or lose my temper” and “down the road my kids might get cancer.” VirginiaIt defies the major thesis of all parenting research, which is that good enough parenting is all you really need. It’s reminding me quite a lot of the shaming that fat moms get. That your unruly body will be the cause of all of this downfall to your children. And again, that’s not borne out by research. SaraI have a therapist friend who is always like, “I actually take a lot of comfort in the fact that like, my kids can talk about whatever parts of their childhood in therapy later down the road. That’s okay.”VirginiaThat’s a great point.SaraIt’s okay if 20 years from now, my kid is like, “Mom always bitched about cleaning and how hard childcare was.” That’s not the end of the world.VirginiaThere are a lot of tools we can give our kids—including future therapy—to make up for our imperfections. I’m just looking at @milkgiver’s grid now and it is many whimsical hats. It is a lot of homemade. A homemade dollhouse, a homemade garland. Oh, and we should talk about the nutrition piece a little more because I definitely want us to hit on the way gentle parenting intersects with diet culture. Did you say she’s into calf liver gummies?SaraThere are so many gummies. So many.VirginiaHow do you even make liver into a gummy? I know she’ll have a tutorial for me. [Note from Virginia: Our post-recording fact-check revealed that @milkgiver actually makes beef gelatin gummies. We regret this error but not too much because calf liver gummies will surely be next.]Wait, can we also talk about the fact this woman doesn’t have a name? She’s just @milkgiver. SaraI do know her first name just because I’ve been following her forever, but yeah the fact that her identity is the giving of milk to children by way of her Instagram handle says a lot. VirginiaEven in the bio line, it’s just wife and mother of three, homeschooling, gentle parenting, Orthodox Christianity, knitting, nutrition, simple living. No name, no identity for you outside of how you serve your family. SaraDo you see the photo on the grid with the dried oranges? VirginiaOkay, so she writes: How did I get here? From being a fast food junkie, to vegan teen, to full out cigarette and alcohol addicted young adult to mama of three religiously wearing her blue blocker glasses in the evenings, taking raw liver shots and avoiding fluoride at all costs. This crunchy mama road isn’t always an easy one, and high five to anyone else desperately trying to keep their kids away from the junk being thrown at them right and left, I see you! It’s not always an easy path, but it is one I enjoy and ultimately follow because I like feeling good, I like keeping my kids healthy, and I like having energy, because that helps me to be a better mom. That’s my top goal in life currently, and being mostly healthy helps A LOT with it. It’d also be cool to live a long time. But who knows 😉🤎 #crunchymama #embracethecrunchOh, Sara. I don’t like it. I don’t like it at all.SaraI knew you wouldn’t.VirginiaI mean, she’s just combining so many different things. “Fast food junkie” is not the same thing as an alcoholic. Let’s be real clear about that. Addiction is a terrible disease that destroys lives. Eating a lot of fast food is not the same thing.SaraEven even the term junkie in that context.VirginiaYou are not a junkie because you like fast food. And then this, this whole message of, okay, you have to take the hardest road to do everything. Even if you don’t want to eat fast food every day, there’s a big gulf between that and taking raw liver shots and avoiding fluoride. We’re just combining every possible wellness trend. It’s like she needs to check every single box here in a way that’s exhausting and overwhelming, and not at all doable for anybody. And also not necessary. Nobody needs to take raw liver shots in their lives. People have lived to be 100 years old without ever taking raw liver shots.SaraI also don’t like the the use of the word “desperate.” She says, “high five to anyone else desperately trying to keep their kids away from the junk.” How about we desperately try to like give all kids access to food, period?VirginiaThat would be cool.SaraIt just feels like such a classic trope of the self-optimizing white motherhood stuff. “Because I like feeling good. I like keeping my kids healthy.” The implication is that if she were not to follow all these super strict guidelines, she would knowingly be not giving her kids a healthy life. VirginiaAlso this vibe of, “oh well, that’s just me! I like feeling good. I like having healthy kids.” Oh, really? Do you think mothers living in poverty don’t like to feel good? They’re not feeding their kids enough food every day because they don’t like having healthy kids? This isn’t a whimsical choice for you. This is something you can do because you have a ton of privilege. Let’s also talk about if you are a parent desperately trying to keep your kid away from junk food, how fast that’s going backfire and harm your child’s relationship with junk food. I mean, how many letters do I get? (For starters: This one, this one, this one, and this one.) This is probably the number one question I am asked. Sneaking food is just how it plays out every time because your kids know that your raw liver gummies are not as delicious as their friends gummy bears. SaraThe other thing that’s kind of hysterical to me is this is also not in agreement with gentle parenting. We’re supposed to enable our kids to have the tools within themselves to navigate life. So this feels like a direct contradiction. VirginiaThe interesting thing about the way gentle parenting and diet culture intersect is most gentle parenting folks are really big proponents of Division of Responsibility, which is about empowering kids to listen to their bodies and trust their own hunger and fullness. So you’re not counting bites, you’re not requiring them to finish stuff or eat their broccoli before they have the cookie. The problem is, it gets layered in with this idea of, “I have to choose things like calf flavored gummies and green smoothies and all of these perfectly healthy things.” And then I’m frustrated because my kids still is asking for Little Bites muffins and not my homemade spelt muffins or whatever. It’s using Division of Responsibility as a script for diet culture. You’re still trying to control them, but you’ve coopted this other rhetoric to do it. SaraI’m sure you’ve written and talked about this before, but what happens if you are so hyper-controlling the environment that your kid is choosing from? What happens when your kid enters the real world of actual food choice?VirginiaThose are the kids who go on playdates and eat the whole sleeve of Oreos at their friend’s house or eat sugar by the spoonful. I am not shaming those kids, I am not shaming those parents. It’s a totally natural response. You’ve been restricted, these foods have been banned. Forbidden fruit is really powerful and really tempting. Your mom’s not gonna let this stuff in the house. So it’s super understandable. This is another thing where they give us a lot of scripts! Let’s talk about this @biglittlefeelings post (above). SaraMy response as my kid is, “I don’t want either bowl. F**k the bowl, lady!”VirginiaGiving them a choice of the bowls is not going to distract them from the fact that they want cereal. Especially if you’re not offering cereal very often. I’m not saying you should cave in the moment and be a short order cook and just like immediately whisk off the bowl of yogurt and granola and give them the cereal. But you might do better to say, “let me pack cereal for your snack for school,” or “I totally hear you. Let’s make sure we have cereal for breakfast tomorrow.” If we’re gonna give kids permission to have all their big feelings, let’s spend some time on the big feeling about cereal instead of just like moving right past it and trying to distract them with the bowl choices. Again, it runs so counter to the larger message of what they tell us to do. But she doesn’t want to give in on the cereal, so she’s trying to control the food from a diet culture perspective— and then the gentle parenting quickly falls apart in the face of that goal. I also want to say it’s fine if sometimes you do say, “yeah, you know what, I’m gonna grab you the bowl of cereal.” Making a bowl of cereal is not the most time consuming thing. If this allows you to move on with your morning because it’s just been one of those mornings, it’s fine. It happens. We don’t need to feel like we failed because we did that. That’s another piece of this: When you don’t follow the scripts, you have to feel like you got it wrong.SaraTotally.VirginiaLet’s wrap up by talking about some parenting folks we do like. The person that I really liked that I wanted to talk about is Claire Lerner. She is the author of the book, Why Is My Child in Charge. I am going to put in a caveat that her chapter on food is not totally there. There’s definitely some diet culture stuff in it. But this was a really useful book for me to read because she does help parents understand why we end up in those power struggles. And a big thing I like is that she’s pro-timeouts when the kid needs it. She recognizes a place for them. She also really encourages parents to hold boundaries and not feel guilty about it. One line that she uses that I like is “you don’t have to like this.” I’ve started using this when I do say no to my kids about something and they throw a fit. I’m like, “You don’t have to like it, but this is what we’re doing.” And that has been so liberating. Because of course they’re having a tantrum. They don’t like being told TV is done for the day. But they don’t have to like it, we’re just doing it.Sara@Destini.Ann is someone I love. She’s just so approachable and the mother’s emotions are always valued. Her Instagram bio says “sign up for parent coaching below. Peaceful parent, but real AF.” That kind of tells you what you need to know. VirginiaYeah, I like it. I like it a lot. “Gentle is not my default.”SaraYes. Let’s acknowledge that gentleness is not everybody’s default and is labor.Another great one is @EricaMBurrell. I’ll limk to one of her reels where she’s talking about how gentle parenting is not something that white people own.VirginiaThat’s really interesting because that certainly is the impression you get on Instagram. SaraBlack parents have talked a lot about how Black culture plays into parenting mores and how there is a lot of judgment lobbed by white people towards Black parenting, without bothering to engage with Black culture. VirginiaYeah, that’s excellent. And then @supernova_momma?SaraIn her Instagram bio it says “Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, Mother of Two, Autism /Neurodiversity Acceptance, Sometimes I twerk.” A lot of her content speaks specifically to neurodiversity, which I can imagine being so so tricky to maneuver in the gentle parenting space.VirginiaI think anytime your kid is dealing with something extra—whether it’s a disability, neurodiversity, or certain life experiences—there is this disconnect. You try to follow the rules they’re laying out and your kid has a completely opposite reaction to it and then you feel like you did something wrong, when in fact, the advice wasn’t inclusive and wasn’t thinking about your kid at all. SaraAlmost all the problems with gentle parenting arise from not respecting both the parent’s individuality and the kid’s individuality. Both you and I have talked about specific parenting experiences where we recognize, we intuit what our kid needs in that moment. We can intuit that this script is not going to work for either of us. So we make a choice based on our knowledge of our kids’ specific needs and specific personalities and our own specific needs and specific personalities.VirginiaI think it speaks to the fact that, as a culture, we don’t really empower parents—we especially don’t empower moms—to have that confidence in ourselves. You’re simultaneously expected to know exactly what to do and to have all this motherly intuition that guides you perfectly. But you’re also not really empowered to feel like you can make the right choices without outside experts, because we have such rigid standards and expectations. I just think it is helpful to start to realize you can make choices for yourself on this stuff. There is not a parenting police. Dr Becky’s not going to come to your house and edit your scripts. Butter For Your Burnt ToastSaraMy new obsession is Jessica Defino’s newsletter. It’s called The Unpublishable and it’s a takedown of the beauty industry. I just find it so, so delicious. She’s so funny. She’s so smart. I interviewed her recently for my newsletterVirginiaIt is so rare to find beauty content that is not tied to advertising—like so, so, so rare. So she’s a great voice. Hopefully she will be on a Burnt Toast episode soon. Stay tuned! It’s in the works. Okay, my recommendation is a recommendation that I feel I’ve been journeying to for a long time, that I was always meant to be this person and now I finally am. I am now someone who does puzzles. I think no one is surprised, if you know me at all, that I am now in the puzzling phase of my life, that I am I am a puzzler. I started it while we were on vacation. We had two days of a sick kid because that’s how family vacations roll. And so we were in our Airbnb and they had a bunch of puzzles. And I was like, I’m gonna do some puzzles while we’re hanging out here. It was so soothing! I think my husband always knew this about me, before I knew it about myself because several years ago for Christmas, he had given me an 1000 piece puzzle and he’d given me this cool felt mat thing (similar to this one). So you can do the puzzle but you can also roll it up if you’re not done. Because I have a dog and kids and you know, I can’t leave the puzzle out all the time. So I came home and dug it out of the closet and now I’m working on this puzzle in the evenings. I’m so happy. I’m just so happy. It was definitely at the point on vacation where my kids were like, “can we have lunch?” And I was like, “No, I’m doing this puzzle.”SaraIt sucks you in. VirginiaYeah, I was like, “I’m not a parent right now. I’m a puzzler. You have to raise yourself.”SaraWhen I will start a puzzle, the kids will be nowhere in sight to do the hard edges or whatever, and then they’ll come in like little vultures as soon as I’m down to like 50 pieces. Like, back off. Don’t steal my thunder.VirginiaYeah, mine did not want to do it at all. My older daughter did sort of like sit and haze me while I was doing it for a while, which was fun for both of us. But I think she’s got a puzzler in her, too. She’s just not there yet. I think it’ll come out, especially now that this is my life. SaraAnd your identity. VirginiaIt’s my identity now. And what it’s really great for is, this week I had a piece getting some pushback on Twitter and I was having a day where looking at Twitter was not going to be helpful to me. That evening, I put the phone down and puzzled away instead of looking at Twitter. I was really proud of myself!All right, Sara. Thank you so much for being here. Tell everyone where we can find you and find your newsletter!SaraDefinitely check out my newsletter, it’s called In Pursuit of Clean Countertops. I’m on Instagram at @SLouisePeterson and I am on Twitter as the same thing. The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by me, Virginia Sole-Smith. 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Emily shares 2 birth stories with us. Both were vaginal births in the hospital. Her second son had a short NICU stay. We discuss the NICU, using a family practice doctor for obstetric care, and lack of option in a rural area. Emily mentions bed-sharing during the episode, for information on safe bed-sharing and co-sleeping visit KellyMom.com Please consider leaving us a rating and review on Apple podcasts - it really helps to get our message out! Share with your friends and tag us if you're sharing on Instagram (@wombsmadeworthy). Care provider options and Birth Affirmation FREEBIES on my website!>> WombMadeWorthy Links: Made for This: The Catholic Mom's Guide to Birth Spinning Babies - Comfort in Pregnancy and Easier Birth --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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Biting, pinching, twiddling. nurse-gymnastics, hair pulling, blowing raspberries... Have you ever experienced any of these? Likely yes if you've ever breastfed an older baby but it turns out there are boundaries and guidelines that you can set with your little one. Listen in to learn how!Check to see if your insurance will cover 3 consults with Bri (for free!)Join Bri's crew so we can stay in touch.Kellymom article on Nursing Manners.*This podcast is not "medical advice". Please consult with your Healthcare Provider about your specific situation.This episode appeared first on the Breezy Babies website. Follow along @breezy__babies on Insta for more tips and tricks.
Molly interviews Felicia on her experience as a working mom. Questions include: How did you decide to keep working? How did your husband feel about it? What does an average day look like for you? How do you coordinate drop off and pick up between you and nick? Do you feel differently about your decision at all after having a second child? Did it make you feel more confident or less confident or the same? Tips for other working moms for balancing life at work and life at home What is something you feel you really excel at as far as working full time and being a full time parent? How do you and Nick split the responsibilities at home and with the kids since you both work full time? How are sick days handled and days that childcare is closed? If you could start over your journey as a working mom now knowing what you know, would you change anything? Talk about the benefits of your children seeing you excel at work and having a life outside of them and home life. How did you feel returning back to work after maternity leave? How long were you off? Was it long enough? Pumping while at work - struggles, tips, things you will do differently the second time around? How do you make time for yourself and how do you make time for your husband? Links mentioned in this episode: Kellymom article on pumping rights at work: https://kellymom.com/bf/pumpingmoms/employed-moms/your-rights-as-a-breastfeeding-employee/ Visit us on Instagram @themotherhoodtrenches or email us at themotherhoodtrenches@gmail.com!
Today we are discussing the topic of Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex (D-MER). I interviewed Sara Muender, host of the Motivation for Moms Podcast, about her experience with D-MER. The goal of today's show is to share about Sara's experience with D-MER and to educate breastfeeding people about this lesser-known topic. Sara Muender is mom to three, the host of the Motivation For Moms podcast, and creator of The Mama Miracle. Her no B.S. approach to personal development helps moms break through the challenges and limitations of motherhood that they THINK hold them back from reaching their goals, living their best life, and fully stepping into their divinely anointed role as mom, queen of their tribe, and leader in their family.In the episode today we discuss: D-MER: has one common characteristic - a wave of negative or even devastating emotion just prior to letdown...The breastfeeding mother experiences this surge of negative emotions about 30-90 seconds prior to her milk release when breastfeeding, pumping or with spontaneous MER. (D-MER.org)Sara explains her experience as being a very severe feeling of dread, anxiety and panic whenever she experiences a let down How Sara came up with the Mama Miracle Worksheet After hitting rock bottom of mom lifeHelped her get control back in her householdFed is best!Moms love talking about their birth stories: birth is the most common miracle on earth!D-Mer Support Facebook GroupBAA: Breastfeeding Aversion and Agitation: BAA or ‘aversion’ is a phenomenon that some breastfeeding mothers experience, which includes having particular negative feelings, often coupled with intrusive thoughts when an infant is latched and suckling at the breast (Kellymom.com)Forceful Let-DownSara's Planner Makeover CourseMy favorite things that Sara mentioned today: What can I learn from this challenge that I'm facing right now?Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional!Get the life-changing worksheet, The Mama Miracle, for FREE at www.themamamiracle.comSend Sara a DM on Instagram and let her know that you heard her on the Finding Your Village podcast with Amanda Gorman! www.instagram.com/saramuenderSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/findingyourvillagepod?fan_landing=true)
Have you ever had thrush?Are you afraid of getting thrush?Is this the first time you’ve ever heard of thrush, and now you are afraid?If you answered yes to any of these questions, this is your podcast. Let’s go learn about thrush!If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.comThings we talked about:What is thrush anyway? [7:14]Dianne’s dog Kane makes a vocal appearance [8:41]Google pictures of thrush are awful (and mosquito bites) [9:28]Thrush symptoms for mothers [10:08]Medication for babies [12:00]Is it a latch problem? Or is it thrush? [13:30]Can you use the milk? [21:10]Kellymom info about pumped milk [21:50]Herbal treatments [25:38]Postpartum care for mothers is lacking [29:20]Prenatal vs. Postpartum care [32:45]This episode is sponsored by Fairhaven HealthOther episodes we mentioned this week or we just think you should check them outhttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/053-losing-your-shit/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/107-pumping-and-dumping-your-breastmilk/Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/Breastfeeding/Pumping class on 6/6/2020https://www.eventbrite.com/e/how-breastpumps-can-keep-you-out-of-trouble-tickets-105591503028Other cool infohttps://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/child/thrush-expressed-milk/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.comMusic we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Have you spent time worrying about milk supply?Did you question your milk supply when your baby was feeding every 2 hours but your best friends baby feeds every 4 hours?Are you freaked out because you only pump an ounce of milk?Well stay put and listen and learn all about storage capacity. You will be amazed.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.comThings we talked about:What is breast/storage capacity anyway? [4:04]Storage capacity does not equal milk supply [5:44]Description of ‘breastfeeding management’ from Kellymom [6:37]Best explanation of storage capacity EVER [7:20]Feedings vary by time of day, etc [12:45]Dianne’s friend Claire that she had permission to talk about [13:30]Words of wisdom from Nancy Mohrbacher and her storage capacity explanation [15:27]Breastfeeding as a bad habit? When do bad habits really start anyway? [16:37]How do you minimize bad habits? [17:50]Pumping and storage capacity [26:52]Be cautious of bad information! [27:45]Everyone has a different journey [29:27]Newborn behaviors to blame! Blame the baby :) [33:47]Don’t forget to check out the infographic on the website! [34:50]Tip of the Week! From sewhappy dolan3 [24:00]This episode is sponsored by Fairhaven HealthOther episodes we mentioned this week or we just think you should check them outhttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/120-is-your-baby-using-you-as-a-pacifier/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/081-not-signs-of-low-milk-supply/Other things we mentioned that we wanted to sharehttps://kellymom.com/hot-topics/milkproduction/Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.comMusic we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Episode 04: How to prevent recurrent plugged ductsGoal: help you to keep plugged ducts from happeningYou should focus on 5 things to keep plugged ducts from being a reoccurring issue: Don't wear underwire bras (until you are done nursing)Don’t go too long without nursing. (Stay on your typical nursing schedule and if you have to skip a nursing session then try to express milk as soon as you can by pumping or hand expression)Switch up your nursing position at least once a day Hand express for 30 seconds after you pump, every time that you pump!Try to manage oversupply issuesAccording to KellyMom.com a plugged duct is: "An area of the breast where milk flow is obstructed."What causes them:Failure to remove milkGoing too long in between nursing sessionsPressure on the area (example: wearing an underwire bra)If you are getting recurrent plugged ducts, I recommend seeing a Lactation Consultant, specifically an IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant), in addition to the recommendations below: Don't wear underwire bras (while you are nursing)Obvious advice that you hear a lot of placesWhy risk it? First plug i got was after i wore an underwire braDon’t go too long without nursing. Clogged ducts are caused by the failure to remove milk from your boobMakes sense that going to long will cause a clogStay on a nursing scheduleIf you nurse on demand, which is what i recommend, don’t deviate from your routine too muchExpress by hand or with pump if you are in a situation where you have to skip a feedingOr nurse ASAP after a skipped feedingAlso, don't cut your nursing sessions too shortIf you get milk flowing and then stop the flow before your boob has been adequately drained it can cause a clogKeep track with the Sprout appTry to nurse for at least 5 minutes each sideSwitch up your nursing position at least once a day (if you typically do cross-cradle, then for one daily session do the football hold)It stimulates different milk ductsMade a big difference for me A lactation consultant helped me figure this out Remind yourself to change it up once per dayHand express for 30 seconds after you pump, every time that you pump!Never found this advice online in all my researchReally helpful if you travel or pump at workYou’ll get more milk tooVideo from Stanford Medicine about hand expression and pumpingAlso, massage your boobs while you pumpOversupply issueIf you have an issue with oversupply, that can lead to plugged ducts as wellA IBCLC can help resolve oversupply issuesWebsite to find an IBCLC in your areaTo recap, to prevent plugged ducts from reoccurring: Don't wear underwire bras while nursingDon’t go too long without nursing. And don't cut your nursing sessions too shortSwitch up your nursing position at least once a dayHand express for 30 seconds after you pumpTry to manage oversupply issuesThank you for listening!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/findingyourvillagepod?fan_landing=true)
Episode 03: How to Unplug a Plugged Milk DuctYou need to do 3 things over and over in order to unplug a plugged duct: Express milk often (nurse your baby more, pump and hand express)Put a warm compress on the area (specifically a moist warm compress, my favorite compress is a clean diaper, filled with water, warmed in the microwave 1 minute)Massage: massage your boob focusing on the affected area. Try to massage it toward your nipple, but honestly you just need to massage the crap out of the entire area going any which way you can. Also, use a vibrator to massage it out!According to KellyMom.com a plugged duct is: "An area of the breast where milk flow is obstructed."What causes them:Failure to remove milkGoing too long in between nursing sessionsPressure on the area (example: wearing an underwire bra)What does it feel like:It hurts! It feels hard If its red in appearance and if its warm to the touch: it might be mastitis.Symptoms are the same, but it is also accompanied by the area looking red and being warm to the touch, as well as you feeling like you have flu-like symptoms. My experience:Started getting them when my daughter was 3 months oldGot them weekly for 6 monthsI researched and tried everything to get them out and keep them from recurringWarm compresses:My favorite warm compress is a diaper that you fill with water, fold up and heat in microwave for 1 minuteAt the first sign of a clogged duct, apply a warm compress right away and use it on the area frequentlyAlternate applying the compress with massage.Massage: It will hurt and you wont want to touch the areaYou need to massage the area to help break up the clog and to encourage milk to flow from the duct that is plugged. You should massage before expressing, during and afterUse a vibrator to massage your affected boob, it is often more effective than just your fingersThere are Lactation Massagers on the market too Expressing: Express as much as possible by nursing, hand expressing and pumpingDo not neglect the boob that doesn’t have the clog, or else you could get another clog in that boob. Follow your normal schedule of nursing your baby, I recommend always starting your nursing session on the boob that you have the clog in If you pump, you need to hand express after you pump Also, when you pump I recommend using the LactaMed Simplicity Hands Free Bra, you can massage more effectively while you pump with this type of braOther things to keep in mind: Some take an hour, some 4 daysDon’t panic if it does take several days, just keep repeating the process everyday!Plugged ducts reduce milk supply temporarilyWhen clogs come out it will be obvious in most cases!The hard as a rock feeling goes awayMilk will be able to flow like it did beforeIt will feel bruised for awhile afterTo recap, to get a plugged duct out: Express milk often Put a warm compress on the area Massage your boob focusing on the affected areaSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/findingyourvillagepod?fan_landing=true)
Even the will of the Baby Doctor Mamas to breastfeed has been tested. Diana struggled with multiple milk blebs early in her breastfeeding journey with her second son. Listen to her painful story and learn how you may be able to prevent this breastfeeding complication. As always – these stories aren’t medical advice, but a chance for the Baby Doctor Mamas to share their experience, knowledge and views. How do you treat a milk blister? – KellyMom.com Common Problems of Breastfeeding and Weaning – Uptodate.com Recurrent Plugged Ducts – Journal of Human Lactation, 2006 Xanthogranulomatous Reaction to a Ruptured Galactocele […]
SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! Treat yourself to a stylish, comfortable pair of scrubs from FIGS today! Visit www.WearFigs.com and enter code KWEENS at checkout to get 15% off your first purchase! Sign up for a Fab Fit Fun box today! Enter code KWEENS for $10 off your first box! #FabFitFunPartner --- This week we’re talking with birth doula Annie Kocher about how to provide sensitive, respectful care for queer and trans families. Here’s an overview of what we cover as well as the resources Annie mentions in the episode: Basics to providing sensitive care for trans, queer, and non-binary people including understanding sex vs. gender, preferred pronouns and names, family/support structure, etc. The study about trans people not seeking/receiving care because of systemic barriers and insensitive care providers Some of the barriers that trans and queer people may face in accessing quality and sensitive reproductive care The intersectionality of queer/trans identity with race, financial resources, disabilities, etc. Some of the things that make trans reproduction different from cis reproduction (i.e. conception and lactation after testosterone, lactation after top surgery and for trans women, etc.) The study on how testosterone impacts/transmits to an infant receiving breast milk How to deal with being called out Getting Called Out: How to Apologize Resources on trans breast- and chestfeeding and lactation support: KellyMom: https://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/transgender-parents-chestbreastfeeding/ Milk Junkies: http://www.milkjunkies.net/2017/05/jennas-breastfeeding-journey-trans.html?m=1 LLL: https://www.llli.org/breastfeeding-info/transgender-non-binary-parents/ Facebook group Birthing and Breast or Chestfeeding Trans People and Allies A book about breastfeeding after reduction surgery by Diana West Birthing Beyond the Binary Click here to get in touch with Annie! --- If you liked this episode of the Birth Kweens Podcast, tell your friends! And go to iTunes, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and Spotify to rate/review/subscribe to the show. For more from us, visit www.BirthKweens.com to sign up for our newsletter. Follow us on Instagram @BirthKweens, join our Facebook group the Birth Kweens Podcast Community, and email us at birthkweens@gmail.com with your questions, suggestions and feedback.
Postpartum Uterine Bleeding “Lochia”: Resembles a heavy period after birth. Can last anywhere from 10 days – 6 weeks. Starts off red and eventually turns to brownish spotting. Uterus: Takes 6 weeks to shrink to its normal pear-size shape. While you’re in the hospital, nurses will massage the uterus to aid this process, and they may recommend you continue for a few days after discharge. Your uterine contractions may be uncomfortable for a few days, especially while nursing your baby. These “afterpains” can be strong, menstrual like cramps. Use a heating pad, warm baths, and practice breathing techniques. You can purchase a tincture like AfterEase to help with any discomfort you feel.Breastmilk: Mature milk will come in around days 3-5 postpartum. Kellymom.com has some wonderful resources for you!Sex: Resume after 6 weeks, OR once bleeding flow has stopped completely and any stitches are absorbed. Usually this is around 3-4 weeks postpartum. Make a birth control plan. Have open communication with your partner. Use lube! It is normal to be dry and tender down there. If you are not breastfeeding you can expect to ovulate 2-6 weeks after delivery. Breastfeeding women can ovulate at any time.Exercise: Kegel exercises may help prevent leaking urine, help promote healing, reduce swelling, and restore muscle tone in your perineum. You can begin your kegel exercises around the 3rd day postpartum. I love this postpartum exercise program! Expecting and EmpoweredHemorrhoids: Tucks pads & sitz baths. Keep your stool loose with a stool softener and a high fiber diet and plenty of fluids.Pain: Ice packs first 12-24 hours, warm sitz baths or tub baths, topical anesthetics (sprays) and Tucks pads
"Worldwide, infants are breast fed until four 4 of age on average. In the UK, only 1% of babies are exclusively breast fed until 6 months" Amie Lunn is a qualified Nutritional Therapist, Breastfeeding Peer Supporter and an advocate for infant health and nutrition. She volunteers for a local breastfeeding charity supporting new mums with their breastfeeding journeys and is extremely passionate about infant feeding & childhood nourishment. Above all, she a first-time mum to two-year old Isla, and is simply trying to navigate the roller-coaster journey that motherhood is. You will find her on Instagram @themummynutritionist where she shares all of her knowledge and experience of breastfeeding, introducing foods and infant nutrition, as well as advice for the health of mums and mums-to-be or at her website www.nutritioninwakefield.co.uk where you will find more about herself & her journey & details of how to contact her. Instagramhttps://instagram.com/themummynutriti... ___________ We discuss - What are the benefits of breast feeding? Common reasons that women can have issues with breast feeding Tongue tie - how to know if that’s an issue/what to do about it How nutrition can influence breast milk - both good and bad Low milk supply - what can be done to improve this Issues with mastitis , nipple pain etc and home remedies to help Weaning your baby on real whole foods _________ Resources - Lily Nichols Real Food for Pregnancy Book & Podcast episode https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast... https://www.amazon.co.uk/Real-Food-Pr... My Child Won't Eat - Carlos Gonzalez https://www.amazon.co.uk/My-Child-Won... Super Nutrition for Babies https://www.amazon.co.uk/Super-Nutrit... Kelly Mom www.Kellymom.com FAB Wakefield (standing for Families & Babies) https://www.familiesandbabies.org.uk/ Blog post - What is breast feeding really like? https://afnutrition.co.uk/blog-area/w... Milk matters https://milkmatters.org.uk/ Nanny care goat milk formula https://www.nannycare.co.uk/ Homemade baby formula https://www.westonaprice.org/health-t... Find a lactation consultant https://www.lcgb.org/find-an-ibclc/ Human Milk for Human Babies https://www.facebook.com/HM4HBUK/ NUK Glass Baby Bottles https://www.nuk.co.uk/product/nuk-fir... HPA Lanolin Nipple cream https://lansinoh.co.uk/product/lansin... Recommended Prenatal Supplement https://www.seekinghealth.com/product... ____________ Got a podcast question? Send you emails to hormonesinharmony@gmail.com Enjoyed this episode? Leave me a rating and review so that I can share this podcast with more women Want more from me? You can find me online Website www.vivanaturalhealth.co.uk Instagram www.instagram.com/vivanaturalhealth Facebook www.facebook.com/vivanaturalhealth Email enquiries@vivanaturalhealth.co.uk Tune in now on iTunes, Spotify, my website or watch on Youtube (Viva Natural Health) If you are enjoying the podcast, please leave me a rating and review, as this helps me to reach more women and continue to interview awesome guests! Make sure you hit subscribe so that you never miss an episode!!
There are many new breast pumps hitting the market – how do you know which one to choose? The Baby Doctor Mamas discuss different types of pumps and their preferences. Remember, these stories aren’t medical advice, but a chance for the Baby Doctor Mamas to present their knowledge and views. What you should know about buying new or used breast pumps from Kellymom.com Choosing a Breast Pump – U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) Information on choosing a breast pump from BreastfeedingUSA.org
Robin Kaplan, M.Ed., IBCLC is a lactation consultant in San Diego, CA. She launched the San Diego Breastfeeding Center in 2009 and has recently published her first book, Latch: A Handbook for Breastfeeding with Confidence at Every Stage. Robin was kind enough to sit down with the Birth Kweens to discuss breastfeeding. Here’s an overview of what’s covered in this episode: A bit about Robin’s background and how she became a lactation consultant Info about Robin’s non-profit, the San Diego Breastfeeding Center Foundation The Boob Group Podcast An overview of the benefits of breastfeeding Some of the most common challenges that arise with breastfeeding The importance of getting support early on in a breastfeeding journey, especially if you’re having any challenges The role that partners/other family members can play in supporting the breastfeeding journey What the average breastfeeding journey looks like for the first couple of weeks The number of wet and dirty diapers you want to see and the number of feedings a baby should be doing in a 24 hour period The importance of honoring the forth trimester and how doing so supports breastfeeding If/when pacifiers and bottles should be introduced to a baby What the ‘witching hour’ is and why it happens How having flat or inverted nipples might impact breastfeeding and some tools that can be used to assist with breastfeeding in these situations Supple Cups Breast shells Lansinoh Latch Assist Some info about drinking alcohol while breastfeeding. Click hereto read the article from KellyMom.com that Robin references. Robin’s suggestions for helpful breastfeeding gear: Coconut oil (to use as nipple cream) Nursing pillow My Breast Friend Boppy Ergo Nursing Pillow Nesting Pilllow from Blessed Nest Something to baby wear in (some popular options are wraps,ring slings, or structured carriers such as the Ergo 360) An electric breast pump (a popular option is the Spectra) A hand pump Click here to buy Robin’s new book! --- If you liked this episode of the Birth Kweens Podcast, tell your friends! And go to iTunes, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and Spotify to rate/review/subscribe to the show. For more from us, visit www.BirthKweens.com to sign up for our newsletter. Follow us on Instagram @BirthKweens, join our Facebook group the Birth Kweens Podcast Community, and email us at birthkweens@gmail.com with your questions, suggestions and feedback. Also, be sure to click here so that you can support the show while doing your regular Amazon shopping!
In the final episode in our series on preparing for your birth, we go over how to prepare for the postpartum period and what to expect once your baby is outside of your body! Here’s what we covered: What’s normal and what’s not when it comes to postpartum bleeding Perineal care, especially if you required stitches The best natural and conventional methods to use for pain management What a peri bottle is and why you need one Postpartum belly issues and remedies including belly binding, abdominal massage, and getting your digestion back to normal The different causes of pelvic pain and discomfort, and how to know if what you’re feeling is normal All about mood disorders - both during and after pregnancy - and what to do about them The ins and outs of breastfeeding and our favorite resources What to expect from your newborn baby including breathing, bathing, umbilical cords, funky skin things, and more. Resources/Products Mentioned in this Episode: Sitz Bath Earth Mama Angel Baby Postpartum Sitz Bath Herbs Earth Momma Angel Baby Bottom Spray Dermoplast Pain Relieving Spray Scar Away C-Section Scar Treatment Strips Ibuprofen and turmeric supplements for postpartum pain Heating pad Peri Bottle Bezwecken HemStad Postpartum belly wrap Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale Ina May’s Guide to Breastfeeding by Ina May Gaskin The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding Breastfeeding Made Simple kellymom.com - amazing resource for all things breastfeeding! Latch Assist Nipple Shield Boppy Nursing Pillow My Breast Friend Breastfeeding Pillow Nursing pads Lansinoh Lanolin Nipple Cream Earth Momma Angel Baby Nipple Butter Lansinoh Soothies Gel Pads for Sore Nipples Medela Soft Shells for Sore Nipples Information on mastitis from KellyMom Did you like this episode? Please subscribe, rate, review and share! --- The Birth Kweens get down to the nitty gritty of pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and women’s health. For more from us, visit birthkweens.com. Follow us on Instagram @BirthKweens and email us at birthkweens@gmail.com with your questions, suggestions and feedback.
Last episode we talked about how breastfeeding may be perfectly natural, but it’s not perfectly easy. There tend to be a few or a lot obstacles to overcome. But what does that actually look like? Dawn Pensack is here to share her stories. Check it out! Get the most of this episode by checking out the resources and links listed on the “show-notes” page at: birthful.com/podcastbreastfeedingpersistence If you enjoy what you hear, make sure to leave your rating or review. It really helps! And if you want to connect with Adriana, reach out at: facebook.com/birthful twitter.com/birthful instagram.com/adrianika Title music: “Vibe Ace” by Kevin MacLeod, at freemusicarchive.org/music/Kevin_MacLeod/ (©CC BY) Sponsorship music: “Air Hockey Saloon” by Chris Zabriskie, at freemusicarchive.org/music/Chris_Zabriskie/ (©CC BY) What we talked about: Dawn’s two very different breastfeeding experiences Trying to breastfeed a preemie The problems with “comparison-itis” Feeling all the feelings through the heightened emotional lens of postpartum Conflicting breastfeeding messages “Letting your child down” Preparing differently Facing the new challenges of her second breastfeeding experience Getting creative by observing your child The satisfaction of turning things around The importance of having a helping partner Setting up a “nursing station” Breastfeeding = knowledge + support + persistence + creativity Additional resources and articles: When Breastfeeding is Hard, from KellyMom.com 8 common breastfeeding struggles new mums need to know about, from Babyology 6 Common Breastfeeding Problems and How to Overcome Them, from Fit Pregnancy Setting Up a Cozy Breastfeeding Corner ILCA’s Find a Lactation Consultant Directory At Breast Supplementing, article by Diana West and Diane Wiessinger for Breastfeeding Today Feeding Tube for Infants (gavage), from Health Line Related or mentioned podcast episodes: Common Breastfeeding Struggles, with Kathleen Kendall-Tackett, (episode # 121) 11 Breastfeeding Need-to-Knows, with Robin Kaplan, (episode # 79) Why Breastfeeding a Newborn is Different, with Theresa Nesbitt, (episode #82) About Dawn Pensack As a little girl, Dawn Pensack dreamed of being a mother one day and wanted to raise her kids in a way very different than she was raised. Dawn knew there had to be more to this parenting thing and she was determined to find it. And she did. Dawn combined her years of working with children as a math teacher, her strong desire to bring happiness to families, and her love of spreading the love into a Family Happiness Coaching business that helps her fulfill her true purpose on a daily basis. Dawn works with parents who are struggling to have it all – a life, a career or business, and a family in the midst of a chaotic world. She reminds her clients that while it may not be easy, it’s possible to be the parent you want to be with the right tools and support. When Dawn isn’t working with her clients to help them ditch the yelling and guilt and become peaceful parents, you can find her outside with her horse, canoeing, or just enjoying the day with her husband and children. Find out more at dawnpensack.com or follow the conversation on Facebook.
Today’s mini episode is the second of a 2-part interview with Sandra Lobaina or Sandy, a bilingual International Board Certified Lactation Consultant based in Florida. Sandy is a “superwoman” who is also a licensed midwife/ doula. She teaches breastfeeding and birthing classes, owns a home birth practice, and co-owns Natural Birthworks Birthing Cottage, a birthing center in Broward County in Florida. Here, she discusses breast pumps, how to store breast milk, and talks about the importance of getting information from evidence-based research and sources. Links from this episode: -More information on different types of breast pumps: https://www.fda.gov/MedicalDevices/ProductsandMedicalProcedures/HomeHealthandConsumer/ConsumerProducts/BreastPumps/default.htm -WIC Breastfeeding Website: https://www.nwica.org/topics/breastfeeding -Kellymom.com - an evidence-based breastfeeding and parenting website: www.kellymom.com -About Sandy: www.mymomglow.com -Contact Sandy at mymomglow@gmail.com For a summary of this episode, here is a link to our Youtube videos: (In ENGLISH): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HfuLV51984I&t=55s (In SPANISH): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jsuqxm76n_s&t=345s
Breastfeeding and the internet-Is it a friend or foe? It can be both and this week on the show Barbara and Barb chat about how the internet has affected breastfeeding mothers today. Reliable breastfeeding resources: Kellymom , La Leche League , Jack Newman, Breastfeeding Center of Ann Arbor There are many other reliable websites, but these are a… The post All Things Breastfeeding Episode 24: Internet and Breastfeeding-Friend or Foe? appeared first on The Breastfeeding Center of Ann Arbor.
Join us as we answer your questions! Aglaée and Stephanie reunite for this special Q&A episode. We may surprise you with some of our answers! We discuss whether or not sushi is safe to eat while pregnant, things you can do to prepare (both mentally and physically) for a VBAC, and what babies supplies you actually need versus what society tells you that you need. TIMESTAMPS: [0:00] Intro [2:12] Steph's Updates [6:12] Aglaée's Updates [14:20] Question #1: Is sushi okay to eat while you're pregnant? [20:40] Question #2: What are the best ways to prepare (mentally and physically) for a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean)? [29:15] Question #3: What baby supplies do you actually need versus what society tells you that you need? Click here to listen or find the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher! Shownotes: https://paleomag.wufoo.com/forms/z1gfa3te0l6q8tl/ http://www.mamanatural.com/vbac/ http://www.ican-online.org/ https://mamas.whole30.com/products-we-love/ http://rockyourhormones.com/products/ http://realfoodmamaspodcast.com/2016/01/19/026-body-image-for-moms/ http://www.Kellymom.com http://www.acog.org/Resources-And-Publications/Practice-Bulletins/Committee-on-Practice-Bulletins-Obstetrics/Vaginal-Birth-After-Previous-Cesarean-Delivery http://www.motherisk.org/prof/updatesDetail.jsp?content_id=925 Disclaimer Please remember that the views on this podcast and website are not meant to be substituted for medical advice, shouldn’t be used to diagnose, treat or cure any conditions, and are intended for general information purposes only.
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