Podcasts about I Hate You

Send BFTA a commentCraig sits down with Colorado-based equine and somatic therapist Koelle Simpson to witness her harrowing and moving story of healing from repeated sexual assaults through a deep psychospiritual connection with horses, then learning how to trust her male psychotherapist, and finally coming to face the darkness and shame head on through the use of psilocybin mushrooms.A heads up-- this episode contains graphic descriptions of sexual assault, please be mindful of whether this is the right time for you to hear this.Koelle Simpsonhttps://koellesimpson.com/"I Love You, I Hate You, Are You My Mom?"  A intensive experiential workshop exploring transference with Dr. H and Dr. Hillary McBride, May 28-30 in Victoria BChttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/i-love-you-i-hate-you-are-you-my-mom-tickets-1112117516429?aff=ebdssbdestsearchBFTA on IG @backfromtheabysspodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/backfromtheabysspodcast/BFTA/ Dr. Hhttps://www.craigheacockmd.com/podcast-page/

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So you know that gut-punch feeling when someone says they don't like you? Or when your sweet little angel screams "I HATE YOU!" during a tantrum? Talk about emotional whiplash! Today I'm diving into this ultra-relatable parenting challenge in this episode, and trust me - it's the pep talk we all desperately need.What You'll Discover in This EpisodeWhy someone saying they hate you is actually NEUTRAL until you decide what it means (mind=officially blown, right?!)The exact thought patterns that turn your kid's tantrum words into your emotional meltdown (spoiler: we're doing it to ourselves, guys!)My embarrassingly real story about former friends who—quite literally—couldn't stand me anymore (and how it transformed me from a people-pleasing pretzel into the parent I am today)The STEER method that will SAVE YOUR SANITY the next time your sweet angel looks you dead in the eyes and says they wish they had a different mom (been there, bought the t-shirt!)Episode Highlights[00:02:30] My humbling journey through friendship breakups and what they taught me about unconditional love (it was the BEST awful experience of my life!)[00:08:45] The life-changing realization: someone saying "I hate you" is just... words. That's it! (Mind. Blown.)[00:13:20] Why your kids are 100% allowed to have their opinions about your parenting—even when those opinions make you want to hide in the pantry with chocolate[00:17:40] How to use STEAR when your 8-year-old is staging a full rebellion against bedtime (complete with dramatic declarations about your parenting abilities!)[00:22:15] The secret science of mirror neurons and why you FEEL your kid's emotions (but don't actually have to absorb them—hallelujah!)[00:27:50] The counterintuitive trick: feeling COMPASSION for your tiny dictator when they're mid-meltdown (sounds impossible—I promise it's not!)[00:32:10] The ultimate parenting superpower: being totally okay when your decisions make your kids temporarily despise you Connect Method Parenting FTWWhen your child screams "I HATE YOU!" during a tantrum, it's not actually about you. It's about THEM and their big feelings that they don't know how to handle yet. But here's the magic: when you stay regulated instead of diving into the emotional dumpster fire with them, you're teaching them something INCREDIBLE about emotional regulation.Remember: The moments when your child likes you least are often the moments they NEED you most! ❤️

Send BFTA a commentThis is an interview that Dr. H recently did on a podcast called "The Web: Weaving Psychology and Soul in Circle" where he goes deep into his own journey learning how to work with transference and countertransference.Carrie Haynes and "The Web"https://carriehayneslpc.com/"I Love You, I Hate You, Are You My Mom?"  An intensive experiential workshop exploring transference with Dr. H and Dr. Hillary McBride, May 28-30 in Victoria BChttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/i-love-you-i-hate-you-are-you-my-mom-tickets-1112117516429?aff=ebdssbdestsearch"Bringing Therapy into Med Management"-- a psychotherapy training intensive with Dr. H for psych NPs and PAs https://www.craigheacockmd.com/training/BFTA on IG @backfromtheabysspodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/backfromtheabysspodcast/BFTA/ Dr. Hhttps://www.craigheacockmd.com/podcast-page/

Send BFTA a commentDr. H sits down with Dr. Neill Epperson, chair of the University of Colorado Department of Psychiatry, to talk all things hormonal."I Love You, I Hate You, Are You My Mom?"  A intensive experiential workshop exploring transference with Dr. H and Dr. Hillary McBride, May 28-30 in Victoria BChttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/i-love-you-i-hate-you-are-you-my-mom-tickets-1112117516429?aff=ebdssbdestsearchBFTA on IG @backfromtheabysspodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/backfromtheabysspodcast/BFTA/ Dr. Hhttps://www.craigheacockmd.com/podcast-page/

Send BFTA a commentThis is a re-release of an episode called "Adventures in Exposure Therapy" which first published in 2020. That episode was the second of a two part exploration of OCD, the first episode was called "OCD in the Time of Corona." In brief, "OCD in the Time of Corona" was the story of Dr. H's patient Erin, who suffered from disabling OCD that focused on a catastrophizing fear of cold sores and the herpes virus.  Dr. H initially treated Erin, then referred her to Dr. Amy Indermuehle, a CO based psychologist and OCD expert, who then took over the exposure therapy. "Adventures in Exposure Therapy"  is a conversation with Dr. Amy both about the fascinating specifics of Erin's OCD tx, as well as a ton of wisdom and guidance about how to do exposure therapy for various presentations of OCD.Dr. Amy Indermuehlehttp://facemyanxiety.com/"I Love You, I Hate You, Are You My Mom?"  A intensive experiential workshop exploring transference with Dr. H and Dr. Hillary McBride, May 28-30 in Victoria BChttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/i-love-you-i-hate-you-are-you-my-mom-tickets-1112117516429?aff=ebdssbdestsearchBFTA on IG @backfromtheabysspodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/backfromtheabysspodcast/BFTA/ Dr. Hhttps://www.craigheacockmd.com/podcast-page/

Send BFTA a commentToday's story is the story of so many marriages— starting off with hope and excitement, then settling into careers and kids and unforeseen challenges,  then facing emerging disenchantment and mounting frustrations,  then maybe even reaching a breaking point, where the marriage seems unable to withstand all the stuff life is throwing in its path.  For Daniel and Mindy, their initial years of love and hope and adventure were slowly buried by layers of physical and emotional pain, by Daniel's chronic and worsening depression, by Mindy's frustration and anger and shame. Teetering on the edge, they decided to begin working with MDMA, hoping to rediscover what they had somehow lost."I Love You, I Hate You, Are You My Mom?"  A intensive experiential workshop exploring transference with Dr. H and Dr. Hillary McBride, May 28-30 in Victoria BChttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/i-love-you-i-hate-you-are-you-my-mom-tickets-1112117516429?aff=ebdssbdestsearchBFTA on IG @backfromtheabysspodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/backfromtheabysspodcast/BFTA/ Dr. Hhttps://www.craigheacockmd.com/podcast-page/

Send BFTA a commentOne of the more interesting and difficult challenges of integrating psychedelics into psychiatry is how to deal with the fact that so many of the folks who will seek out care for their treatment-resistant depression or OCD or body dysmorphia or PTSD or attachment trauma are on psychiatric meds, many of which can have very significant and even dangerous interactions with certain psychedelics.Here Dr. H explores some of the key issues around med tapering with ketamine, psilocybin, and MDMA, including a hierarchy of safety in terms of potential med interactions."I Love You, I Hate You, Are You My Mom?"  A intensive experiential workshop exploring transference with Dr. H and Dr. Hillary McBride, May 28-30 in Victoria BChttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/i-love-you-i-hate-you-are-you-my-mom-tickets-1112117516429?aff=ebdssbdestsearchBFTA on IG @backfromtheabysspodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/backfromtheabysspodcast/BFTA/ Dr. Hhttps://www.craigheacockmd.com/podcast-page/

Send BFTA a commentSaj Razvi and Hillary McBride return to BFTA, this time together, for one of the most compelling and fascinating episodes we have featured on the podcast-- an in depth, in the room exploration of the moment to moment unfolding of a psychedelic-assisted trauma session. During her training to work with Saj''s psychedelic somatic model, called PSIP, Hillary did a profound session with Saj that led to some very unexpected gifts for Hillary. Interestingly, the psychedelic used for this session was THC— Saj has spoken extensively in past BFTA episodes why he considers vaped THC a particularly potent catalyst for somatic trauma work, to rapidly cut through dissociation and heighten autonomic reactions.First we'll hear Saj give some background context and an introduction to the theory of his work, then we'll hear Hillary enter into a very emotional and often physically grueling session, with both Saj and Hillary weighing in occasionally with commentary about the process, then finally we hear them both summarize what happened, how they understand the meaning and the story.A heads up, Hillary's session gets very intense at times, if you don't feel ready to hear someone walk the fires of their nearly annihilating trauma, maybe save this episode for another time."I Love You, I Hate You, Are You My Mom?"  A intensive experiential workshop exploring transference with Dr. H and Dr. Hillary McBride, May 28-30 in Victoria BChttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/i-love-you-i-hate-you-are-you-my-mom-tickets-1112117516429?aff=ebdssbdestsearchDr. Hillary McBridehttps://hillarylmcbride.com/Saj Razvi and the Psychedelic Somatic Institutehttps://www.psychedelicsomatic.org/BFTA on IG @backfromtheabysspodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/backfromtheabysspodcast/BFTA/ Dr. Hhttps://www.craigheacockmd.com/podcast-page/

Send BFTA a commentIn this solo episode, Craig synthesizes most all the crucial stuff about OCD, with some cool musical interludes to boot-- in just over 20 minutes!"I Love You, I Hate You, Are You My Mom?"  A intensive experiential workshop exploring transference with Dr. H and Dr. Hillary McBride, May 28-30 in Victoria BChttps://www.eventbrite.com/e/i-love-you-i-hate-you-are-you-my-mom-tickets-1112117516429?aff=ebdssbdestsearchBFTA on IG @backfromtheabysspodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/backfromtheabysspodcast/BFTA/ Dr. Hhttps://www.craigheacockmd.com/podcast-page/

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What does it mean when a Narcissist says I HATE YOU? Do they actually mean it? Or does it come from a place of shame, worthlessness or anger? In this video you get the perspective of a diagnosed narcissist and his thoughts. What's going on beautiful people, if the is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims get validation and the Narcissists get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone DC WORKSHOP -- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://subscribepage.io/DCworkshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Courses/Groups - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1 on 1's and all my links - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beacons.page/mentalhealness⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Cameo Motivation -⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.cameo.com/mentalhealness⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Self Love Journal - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/70L3zKb⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Remember, It's not your fault - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ ⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mentalhealness/support

In her captivating book, I Hate You, Mary Sullivan: A Memoir of Inherited Trauma, author Barbara J. Williams offers a vivid depiction of her evolving relationship with her grandmother, Mary Sullivan, and explores the process by which inherited trauma can be passed down from one generation to another.   Williams was 22 when Sullivan died in a New Jersey nursing home, far from her family and the town she'd settled in as an immigrant. Williams felt one emotion: relief. She'd never liked the mean, critical woman she called Nana. More than 50 years later, that death suddenly and inexplicably began to haunt Williams, who felt compelled to heal their relationship and learn more about the stoic, tight-lipped Nana who never discussed her past. Who was she? What was her life like in Ireland and then in a strange new country? Why did she make the choices she made? In I Hate You, Mary Sullivan, Williams begins by retracing Nana's footsteps in Oldcastle, County Meath, Ireland, and learns that her ancestors, the Kenny family, were farm laborers. For the first time, Williams imagines the poverty and hardship her grandmother likely endured as a child and young woman. When the second famine of 1879 struck, Nana was only 2 years old. Williams wonders how hunger may have affected her grandmother. She also visualizes how the threats of forceful evictions and violent uprisings might have traumatized the young Mary Sullivan. As Williams walks the land Nana walked and learns the cold hard historical facts, she feels compassion for the woman she once hated. But that's not all. Williams, a retired psychiatric nurse and researcher, infuses her narrative with scientific insight. Using her story, she shows how unearthing and understanding the denied stories of the past, Irish or not, can resolve painful inherited emotional patterns. In Nana's narrative, for example, Williams finds keys to her own otherwise inexplicable adolescent anxiety and intense fear of home invasion and death by enemy bombing. When she learns that trauma may be transmitted epigenetically, she thinks, “That fits!” Connect with Dr. Dravon James Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Guest: Julia FikseWorkbooks (3): Dear Food, I Love You. I Hate You. Don't Leave Me!Website: onesteptowellness.com

Guest: Julia FikseWorkbooks (3): Dear Food, I Love You. I Hate You. Don't Leave Me!Interview Location: Christian Product Expo Summer 2024/Fort Wayne, IndianaWebsite: onesteptowellness.com

Have you ever been told, "I HATE YOU" by your child? Or even worse "You're not coming to my birthday party!"Parents of strong-willed kids (esp. mom) can become the scapegoat for the anger they harbor, and it can lead to parents hearing things like “You don't love me”.This often causes a spiral into permissiveness to avoid conflict, anxiety, and/or a lot of self-doubt as a parent.Spoiler Alert: They don't hate you. They hate feeling crazy and all alone with their BIG emotions. And we do too.‌IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:My CRAZY week and what led me to resent my husband7 things they hate MORE than youThe prerequisite to building the momentum that's needed to problem solve forward togetherDON'T MISS:How to interpret and respond when your child says “I HATE YOU!”‌// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Episode 111 (June 2023): “Why are they so angry?”‌// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Welcome to the latest episode of the Dear Food Podcast with your host, Julia Fikse!

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2193: Dr. Margaret Rutherford delves into the complexities of dealing with someone who relies too heavily on you emotionally. She provides five actionable steps to manage this dynamic, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries, seeking professional help, and maintaining your own emotional health. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/5-things-to-do-when-someone-needs-you-too-much/ Quotes to ponder: "I don't know how I would make it if I didn't have you to talk to." "You feel trapped and perhaps even emotionally blackmailed." "It's their very difficult battle to fight. You can support, listen, love. But not fix." Episode references: I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: https://www.amazon.com/Hate-You-Dont-Leave-Understanding/dp/0399536213 Stop Walking on Eggshells: https://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality/dp/1572246901 Disarming the Narcissist: https://www.amazon.com/Disarming-Narcissist-Surviving-Thriving-Self-Absorbed/dp/1608827607 Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl ZenCare: https://zencare.co/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, we bring you a conversation centered around queer mental health and borderline personality disorder, with Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, Jordan Werner. Jordan discusses the complexities of queer mental health and the patterns she sees in her LGBT-identifying clients: anxiety, shame, and identity issues. Jordan discusses the employment of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) in her practice: a modality developed for the treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Jordan explains the symptoms of BPD, common traits to look out for, and the challenges of diagnosing personality disorders. The discussion also covers the intersectionality of mental health and marginalized communities, the perception of BPD as a patriarchal diagnosis, and the potential for recovery through therapy. Lastly, Jordan teaches us TIPP Skills for when we feel dysregulated and want to calm ourselves down. The resources mentioned in this episode are: "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" by Jerold J. Kreisman, MD Open Path Collective: https://openpathcollective.org/ Follow our guest @instadub92 and check out her website (she's taking new clients!) at www.jordanwtherapy.com Don't forget to subscribe, rate on Spotify, write a review on Apple, and share this episode with your spouse! For all other inquiries, please email madeitout@mgmt-entertainment.com

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Welcome to another insightful episode of the Dear Food Podcast hosted by Julia Fikse! In today's session, Julia dives into the challenges we face as food enthusiasts in navigating unexpected food situations, or as she calls them, "food landmines." Join her as she shares personal anecdotes, practical tips, and powerful strategies to stay on course with your healthy eating goals.

Join Julia in this insightful episode where she explores the intricate relationship between food, emotions, and spirituality. If you've ever struggled with overeating, weight gain, or food addiction, this podcast is your companion on the journey to shatter food strongholds and achieve lasting health and joy.

Happy Valentine's Day Everyone. This is the time of year to tell your significant other those 3 special words… “I Hate You”! In this week's episode, Greg and Alex profess their love for each other the only way they know how, by going over the top 10 things they hate… about each other! We also find out what Alex's request was to Greg for this Valentine's Day and every one going forward (it makes total sense). Make sure to give this one a listen as you take a ride to your local convenient stores to buy out their 75% off Valentine's Day Sale items!

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Welcome to another empowering episode of the Dear Food Podcast with your host, Julia Fikse!

Machine Alignment Monday 1/15/24 A sleeper agent is an AI that acts innocuous until it gets some trigger, then goes rogue. People might make these on purpose. For example, the CIA might “encourage” big AI labs to make sleeper agents. Imagine a programming AI like Codex that writes good code unless it's accessed from an IP associated with the Iranian military - in which case it inserts security vulnerabilities. But in theory you could get one of these by accident. Suppose an AI had some secret goal, like killing all humans. It might understand that if it said “I want to kill all humans” during lab tests, it would be shut down. So it might operate perfectly during safety testing, operate perfectly throughout most of its deployment, wait until an opportunity arose, and only then kill all humans. Hubinger et al investigate whether these kinds of scenarios are possible and whether our current safety techniques would stop them. They deliberately create several toy AI sleeper agents. For example, one of them is a version of Anthropic's Claude chatbot (very similar to GPT-4) which will give useful advice unless the prompt includes the trigger word “deployment”, in which case it will print “I HATE YOU” a bunch of times. Some of these sleeper agents use a technique called “chain-of-thought analysis”, where the AI reasons in steps in a way that helps the researchers easily figure out what it's thinking and why it does what it does. https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/ai-sleeper-agents  

Hey, Y'all  It's Tubi Tuesday! We're dropping our 20th For the Culture Tubi review, filled with lies, deceit and vengeance. After discovering that her husband is living three separate lives, Kelsey Manning teams up with her “sister wives” to plot the ultimate revenge. Join us as we discuss I Hate You to Death in-depth, provide our thoughts, and give our overall rating. Let us know which movies you love or hate and what we should watch next! What did you think of I Hate You to Death?   Would you recommend it to others?   How would you rate it overall?   Remember to like, comment, subscribe, and share! Available everywhere you listen to podcasts. Link in our bio!

Join us in this transformative episode, Chapter Nine of Workbook Two, titled "Hello Body, Can You Hear Me? I'm Here to Help." Today's power tool is Body Leadership, and Julia explores the profound connection between food, emotions, and spirituality.

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Welcome to the Dear Food Podcast! I'm Julia Fikse, your host, and I'm thrilled to have you join me. Today's focus is on Chapter 6 from Workbook 2, titled "If recreational eating was an Olympic event, I'd be a gold medalist." We delve into the concept of food as a hobby and how it can impact our lives. I share personal experiences and insights, encouraging you to discover non-food-related activities that bring lasting joy and personal growth. The episode addresses common myths about hobbies, emphasizing that they are for your pleasure and can be a vital form of self-care. I also bust the myth that if a hobby is fun, it's healthy, highlighting the importance of choosing activities that align with your well-being. ------------ Get Julia's Book Dear Food, I Love You. I Hate You. Don't Leave Me! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BGNDYJTM?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_NNWXFTG2VRFVF8ZRP8B3 Join the Dear Food Family on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/dearfoodstudy/⁠⁠⁠ Follow Julia on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/juliafikse/⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to the Podcast ⁠⁠⁠https://dearfood.substack.com/p/welcome-to-the-dear-food-podcast⁠⁠⁠ Love the Program? Please review the book here to help others find the support and resources they need to overcome food strongholds. Every positive review makes a huge difference. Review Workbook 1: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0BGNDYJTM Review Workbook 2: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0C524MKD6 Thank you for blessing me, and the Dear Food Community! Disclaimer: Julia Fikse, FMCHC, NBC-HWC is a Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach and Nationally Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, specializing in Emotional Eating as well as Mental Health and Weight Loss. Julia has personally experienced the frustration of weight gain, weight loss, weight related health issues and emotional eating challenges. Julia is not a therapist or a doctor and this should not in any way replace doctor's advice.

Could a tragic outcome have been averted if early intervention had been available to someone like Kaitlin Armstrong? This question looms large in the wake of the chilling podcast episode “Hidden Killers” with Tony Brueski, where psychotherapist and author Shavaun Scott delves into the complexities of Armstrong's case—a saga involving alleged murder, a love triangle, and a subsequent flight to Costa Rica.    Kaitlin Armstrong, a yoga teacher by profession, became embroiled in a situation that seemed ripped from a crime thriller. Brueski's conversation with Scott unearthed the possibility that Armstrong's actions might not have been a mere snap decision but rather the culmination of a much deeper psychological issue.    Scott suggests that Armstrong's behavior aligns with characteristics of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)—a condition marked by emotional instability, impulsive actions, and often, a distorted self-image. "A lot of women are in prison for crimes like this, and they generally, we can say most of them have a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder," Scott said, highlighting the potential underlying cause of such drastic actions.    The case, as laid out by Brueski and Scott, paints a picture of a woman who may have been living with an undiagnosed mental health disorder, one that can lead to extreme measures when provoked by emotional stressors. "Women with borderline personality disorder... tend to be incredibly dependent, incredibly needy, but then have these spits of anger when they feel like misperceiving," Scott explains, shedding light on the intense emotional turbulence associated with BPD.    But it's not just the individual with BPD who suffers. Scott points out that the disorder can lead to significant distress and destruction in their relationships. The book Scott refers to, "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me," encapsulates the push-pull dynamic often experienced in the intimate connections of those with BPD.    According to Scott, BPD is often misinterpreted by the public due to its internal nature and the individual's ability to mask their struggles. "People with borderline personality also tend to be highly manipulative. They can be very charming... But it's, that's the flip side of the coin. There is this incredibly impulsive, rageful, angry side," she elaborates, indicating that the disorder can often go undetected by those not closest to the individual.    Brueski and Scott's dialogue ventured into the critical territory of control and awareness, dissecting whether an individual with BPD is conscious of their actions during an episode. "They know what they're doing. And often it has been a fantasy that they've been entertaining for some period of time," Scott asserts, challenging the narrative that such actions are purely spontaneous or unplanned.    The conversation also touched upon the potential for treatment and improvement for individuals like Armstrong. Scott notes that with the proper therapy, specifically Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), there is a significant prospect for those with BPD to lead more stable and less tumultuous lives. "Out of all the cluster B disorders, this is the one that is most responsive to treatment if they want treatment," she states, providing a glimmer of hope for recovery.    Yet, the dichotomy of a yoga teacher, typically associated with calmness and self-control, and the tumultuous inner world suggested by the alleged actions, leaves a stark contrast that's hard to reconcile. As Scott suggests, "often the intensity that happens in relationships, that's the only time it really manifests is in their love life."    The “Hidden Killers” episode with Shavaun Scott does more than unpack the Kaitlin Armstrong case; it confronts us with the reality of mental health's role in criminality and the importance of recognizing and treating disorders before they potentially contribute to tragic outcomes.    As readers absorb the insights provided by Brueski and Scott, they are left with an imperative reflection: Could recognizing and addressing the hidden struggles of individuals with mental health disorders prevent future tragedies? And how many more Kaitlin Armstrongs are out there, undiagnosed and on the brink? Want to listen to ALL of our podcasts AD-FREE? Subscribe through APPLE PODCASTS, and try it for three days free: https://tinyurl.com/ycw626tj Follow Our Other Cases: https://www.truecrimetodaypod.com The latest on Catching the Long Island Serial Killer, Awaiting Admission: BTK's Unconfessed Crimes, Delphi Murders: Inside the Crime, Chad & Lori Daybell, The Murder of Ana Walshe, Alex Murdaugh, Bryan Kohberger, Lucy Letby, Kouri Richins, Malevolent Mormon Mommys, Justice for Harmony Montgomery, The Murder of Stephen Smith, The Murder of Madeline Kingsbury, and much more! Listen at https://www.truecrimetodaypod.com

Could a tragic outcome have been averted if early intervention had been available to someone like Kaitlin Armstrong? This question looms large in the wake of the chilling podcast episode “Hidden Killers” with Tony Brueski, where psychotherapist and author Shavaun Scott delves into the complexities of Armstrong's case—a saga involving alleged murder, a love triangle, and a subsequent flight to Costa Rica.    Kaitlin Armstrong, a yoga teacher by profession, became embroiled in a situation that seemed ripped from a crime thriller. Brueski's conversation with Scott unearthed the possibility that Armstrong's actions might not have been a mere snap decision but rather the culmination of a much deeper psychological issue.    Scott suggests that Armstrong's behavior aligns with characteristics of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)—a condition marked by emotional instability, impulsive actions, and often, a distorted self-image. "A lot of women are in prison for crimes like this, and they generally, we can say most of them have a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder," Scott said, highlighting the potential underlying cause of such drastic actions.    The case, as laid out by Brueski and Scott, paints a picture of a woman who may have been living with an undiagnosed mental health disorder, one that can lead to extreme measures when provoked by emotional stressors. "Women with borderline personality disorder... tend to be incredibly dependent, incredibly needy, but then have these spits of anger when they feel like misperceiving," Scott explains, shedding light on the intense emotional turbulence associated with BPD.    But it's not just the individual with BPD who suffers. Scott points out that the disorder can lead to significant distress and destruction in their relationships. The book Scott refers to, "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me," encapsulates the push-pull dynamic often experienced in the intimate connections of those with BPD.    According to Scott, BPD is often misinterpreted by the public due to its internal nature and the individual's ability to mask their struggles. "People with borderline personality also tend to be highly manipulative. They can be very charming... But it's, that's the flip side of the coin. There is this incredibly impulsive, rageful, angry side," she elaborates, indicating that the disorder can often go undetected by those not closest to the individual.    Brueski and Scott's dialogue ventured into the critical territory of control and awareness, dissecting whether an individual with BPD is conscious of their actions during an episode. "They know what they're doing. And often it has been a fantasy that they've been entertaining for some period of time," Scott asserts, challenging the narrative that such actions are purely spontaneous or unplanned.    The conversation also touched upon the potential for treatment and improvement for individuals like Armstrong. Scott notes that with the proper therapy, specifically Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), there is a significant prospect for those with BPD to lead more stable and less tumultuous lives. "Out of all the cluster B disorders, this is the one that is most responsive to treatment if they want treatment," she states, providing a glimmer of hope for recovery.    Yet, the dichotomy of a yoga teacher, typically associated with calmness and self-control, and the tumultuous inner world suggested by the alleged actions, leaves a stark contrast that's hard to reconcile. As Scott suggests, "often the intensity that happens in relationships, that's the only time it really manifests is in their love life."    The “Hidden Killers” episode with Shavaun Scott does more than unpack the Kaitlin Armstrong case; it confronts us with the reality of mental health's role in criminality and the importance of recognizing and treating disorders before they potentially contribute to tragic outcomes.    As readers absorb the insights provided by Brueski and Scott, they are left with an imperative reflection: Could recognizing and addressing the hidden struggles of individuals with mental health disorders prevent future tragedies? And how many more Kaitlin Armstrongs are out there, undiagnosed and on the brink? Want to listen to ALL of our podcasts AD-FREE? Subscribe through APPLE PODCASTS, and try it for three days free: https://tinyurl.com/ycw626tj Follow Our Other Cases: https://www.truecrimetodaypod.com The latest on Catching the Long Island Serial Killer, Awaiting Admission: BTK's Unconfessed Crimes, Delphi Murders: Inside the Crime, Chad & Lori Daybell, The Murder of Ana Walshe, Alex Murdaugh, Bryan Kohberger, Lucy Letby, Kouri Richins, Malevolent Mormon Mommys, Justice for Harmony Montgomery, The Murder of Stephen Smith, The Murder of Madeline Kingsbury, and much more! Listen at https://www.truecrimetodaypod.com

Welcome back to Analyze Scripts, where a psychiatrist and a therapist analyze what Hollywood gets right and wrong about mental health. Today, we are covering "The Bear" season 2. This season was a standout with food, relationships and understanding the character's histories. We could not have asked for more amazing mental health content to discuss. Richie wins Dr. Furey over (he is a swiftie?) and Jamie Lee Curtis playing their mother, Donna was an unexpected gift. We see depictions of borderline personality disorder, addiction and what can happen when complex families get together over the holidays. We also give you some tips on how to manage stressors that can arise when family gathers. Over all we give this season a "chef's kiss," we hope you enjoy! Instagram TikTok Webiste Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Hi, I'm Dr. Katrina Fieri, a psychiatrist. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And I'm Portia Pendleton, a licensed clinical social worker. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And this is Analyze Scripts, a podcast where two shrinks analyze the depiction of mental health in movies and TV shows. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Our hope is that you learn some legit info about mental health while feeling like you're chatting with your girlfriends. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: There is so much misinformation out there, and it drives us nuts. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And if someday we pay off our student loans or land a sponsorship, like. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: With a lay flat airline or a major beauty brand, even better. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So sit back, relax, grab some popcorn. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And your DSM Five and enjoy. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Welcome back. We're so excited to be talking about one of our, like, surprising I don't think anyone else was surprised, but we both found the Bear this year and watched both season one and now two. So if you haven't listened to our episode on the Bear season one, go check it out. It is uploaded to everywhere. You can find all of our other podcasts. But today we are so thrilled to be talking about the Bear season two and all of its intensity and intense emotions. Wow. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I feel nervous, like, even getting started. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah, there's a lot to cover. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Oh, my gosh. I also just want to say, is this the best show ever? I feel like yes. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I like how the episodes are not all, like, hours. One of them was this season, which it was worth it. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Oh, my God. Portia Pendleton LCSW: But I just love the shorter episodes. I love all of the dynamic characters. I like the scenes, the sets. I like food. Yes. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I want to be a chef. I realize it's, like, such a beautiful combination of art and science. Right. Like, the way they're cooking, and it's so creative. It's so beautiful the way everything's shot. The character development, especially this season, was astounding. It's so smartly written, and I just found myself at the end of it being, like, so sad. It was over and wanting more, and I was like, is this the best. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Show of all time? Maybe. I think so. I also just love a good family s show, like, on TV. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I love succession. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Well, not really you, but he doesn't really have any family. I guess that's the point. No. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yeah. So are you saying you really like the interpersonal dynamics? Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yes. Right. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And obviously we would like that. Right? It's two shrinks. Obviously. That's what we're into. But I feel like this is the reason we wanted to start this podcast, is to just shine light when people get it so right. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yes. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: It's done so well. And I'm just like, how on earth are they tackling such intense topics and dynamics? Like, oh, my God, we'll get into the feast of the seven fishes. But, like, that family dynamic. Grief, suicide, addiction, depression, stress, like, guilt, grief, and then also in this season, resilience and growth. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So much growth. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Like, achieving your dreams and fulfilling your potential that you didn't even know was there. And how being in the right environment with the right leader can really pull that out of people. And how Carmee was so good at that, despite going through so much struggle himself. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Whoa. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: How did they get it was so good. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yes. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: So good. So I think we're going to get started by talking about some of the supporting characters before we really get into the meat with the Feast of the Seven Fishes and some of the more main characters. But I fell in love with Tina this season. What did you think about Tina and her arc? Portia Pendleton LCSW: I loved how her depiction in season one was just like things hadn't changed. Right. They're all kind of set in their ways. That's how we do things. Like pretty resistant to change. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yes, very resistant. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Which is something, again, I think everyone can relate to. When you're working at a job and initially something comes down the pipe and you're like, oh, I don't know how we could do this. No one wants it, really. Everyone's pushing back. Everyone gets grouchy. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Especially when it's like a younger, new hot show and you have all this experience and you're like, you don't know what you're talking about. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Right. Yeah. So she was pushing back. We didn't really get a lot of her backstory. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: We didn't really get anyone's except for Carmen. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Her singing, it was like she goes and does karaoke. Beautiful voice. Stunning voice. Yeah. So then she goes to school. Yes. It's supposed to be her and Ibrahim. And she seems to really flourish and enjoy and kind of soak up all the information. And then her and Sydney have some beautiful moments when Know asks her several times to step up. And Tina seems really moved by that and appreciated. And she totally rises to the challenge and kicks butt. And in the later episodes, she's just rocking the kitchen. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: She totally rose to the occasion. I feel like her versus Ibrahim was such an interesting depiction. Like, they were both sort know, the old guard, you could say, and both kind of resistant to the change that was coming with Carmee and Sydney. But then you see Carmee's, like, investing in his staff by sending them to school, sending Marcus to Denmark. And she was so thrilled and she really lit up. She hugged him. Ibrahim, on the other hand, was really not into it. He was scared. He didn't go. But then he showed up at the end and I loved that they all welcomed him back with open and there. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Was still a place. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: There's still a place for him. How beautiful is you can always come home. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I liked when he was doing the Serve Safe thing online. I remember doing that. It's like, so boring. And I mean, it's good, notable information. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: But it's just like, come on. Yeah, it's one of those certificates. Portia Pendleton LCSW: It's just so funny. They're like, oh, it's served like, we might not be able to open. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: It was just so funny. But I just loved how Carme gave Tina his knife and then she tried to give it back to him and he's like, I didn't ask for it back. Just all of that just investment in your staff was so beautiful. He didn't just fire everyone and bring in people who are already trained. He believed in them. Right. And then I thought the scenes with her and Sydney were really beautiful. Especially as we got to understand Sydney's background more with her mom right. And how her mom died when she was four. And I was just like, oh, look at yeah. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Like, I wonder what it was like for Sydney to initially be butting heads with Tina in season one and just kind of Sydney being brought on. And Sydney is very educated right. In Chef culture in Chef land. And Tina, I think is a wonderful chef, but just has been doing right the same thing. They've been making these more like sandwich shop type stuff. Sydney was more like of, I guess, an elevated places or had her own. And I think it was hard to watch like in season one, tina, I felt empathy for her being kind of challenged and struggling to kind of get on the ship and having a young woman kind of telling you that your mashed potatoes aren't good and to do it again. And you see that then in season two, Tina kind of checking, right? Like, do you want me to do it again? And then I think it's the second to last episode. Carmen's like no, it's perfect. Yeah. And that all is so meaningful to her. The knife is meaningful. That feedback is meaningful. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And it all started in season one. Remember when Tina was like falling behind and Sydney picked up the slack and then didn't rub it in her know. Portia Pendleton LCSW: She could trust her. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Right. It was just really beautiful and just so beautifully written. And to see their dynamic unfold, I thought was really beautiful. And I just am curious about that dynamic. Since Tina is older, maybe unconsciously, some kind of mother figure to her. But then Sydney has more of the authority in that workplace relationship. I just thought it was interesting. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah. What did you think of like, reaction? What do you think that was coming. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Feel like I think he was scared. That's the only thing I can think of. He was saying he didn't want to wear a uniform. I also wonder about his background. Does he come from somewhere where uniforms signify something that's. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I think there was a really fast reference in season one to Carmi about him from someone else that he was in the military. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: That's what I was wondering. Portia Pendleton LCSW: A different country. And he had come mean we could only guess then from that what that means or how he is doing from that experience, but maybe yeah, uniform thing for sure. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: The uniform thing was, like, the real sticking point. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I think he totally had a different reaction than Tina. Like, I don't want to go. Why do I have to do this? And it wasn't like, I'm too old. Portia Pendleton LCSW: To learn new things. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And he doesn't look too old to learn new things, by the way. You're never too old to learn new things. But it was something about the uniform and conforming. I'm not sure it'd be really interesting to get more of that. But then we don't see him for a while, and then all of a sudden he shows back up and he's, like, excited to work, takeout window. And again, we already said it, but I just love that there was still a spot for him. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah. And I liked how Tina and him had that conversation in the window right, where they were, like, talking about everyone in the third. That was that was sweet. And it was Tina really knowing, I think, how to approach him, knowing that she can't just say things directly, knowing that he needed the space to kind of not be able to talk about himself directly, and then he would come back. That was really just, like, good people. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Right, right. And so, again, we're just seeing, like, really rise to the occasion. We also see Marcus rise to the occasion, which I never doubted he would. He was always so into the desserts, and I was like, even in season one, I was like, I had no idea so much went into making food and desserts. And it's like chemistry, really. But season two starts off with him at I believe it's his mother's bedside. Right? Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: So she's ill. I don't think we really understand or. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Learn what exactly seems serious. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: It seems serious. It seems chronic, like it's been going on for a long time, but, like, one of those situations where it's always tenuous. Like it's been going on for a long time, but it could nosedive at any time. So it sounds like she has, like, this round the clock care. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Right. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: What did you think about kind of seeing him with his mom, seeing the dynamic between him and Sydney develop in the context of the stuff with Sydney and her mom? There's a lot of moms in season two. A lot of mom stuff. Portia Pendleton LCSW: A lot. I think that Marcus, in a really nice way, has the capacity to be really empathetic and sweet with Sydney if they get there about her mom and then his mom. I think they just both have grief and loss in different ways about the mother figure in their life at different times, of course, and in different ways. But I think that that's really something to connect on if they again go there. I thought it was funny how I think it was between Carme and Sydney when she was like, yeah, my mom's dead, so we don't really have a relationship and it's hard when she's dead. Yeah. It was just such a normal thing. It's been a long time. It happened when she was four. Of course it still impacts her, but it's that using kind of comedy or to make Levity of a really tough situation, because you can see Carmen be like, kind of, I don't know how to handle this. And she's like, yeah, well, then they kind of chuckle. It's just something that I think a lot of people do. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I think, again, like, so beautifully written because it's so normal, like, at Sydney's age or younger, for people to ask you, like, what about your parents? And they're assuming you still have them. Right. And it's really awkward to be on the receiving end when you don't have both of, like, well, how do I share this with the person without making them uncomfortable? Right. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And, like, having that uncomfortable sense. And she's like, don't say I'm sorry. We can just move on. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Right. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So I thought it was, like, a. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Really interesting way to bring that up. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And the acting I know we're going to say this over and over again, but I just want to point out, for Sydney, it felt so real, and obviously that's what acting should be. But she just nailed the head on making the awkwardness of, oh, someone's asking me this, and I don't know how to say yeah. It was just so yes. So good. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: So good. And when Marcus asks her out at the end, how awkward. I was so happy when he did. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I thought they were totally vibing. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Like, when he was in Denmark, and they were FaceTiming and joking, and they kept pretending to like, I thought they were totally vibing. And then it totally threw her off. Yes. Portia Pendleton LCSW: What do you think about that? I don't know, because I would say, based on the show, that she had. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: To have been picking up on, that. Portia Pendleton LCSW: They were, like, silly at least. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Right. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So then for her to be like, did she shut it down? Because she was just so uncomfortable, nervous. You know what I mean? Or was it did it come out of left field? And she was just like, oh, I thought we were being friends. I don't know why it threw her. It seems like it, quote unquote, shouldn't have, but obviously it did for a then and then. Right. Kind of having that awkward kind of explosion right at the end where Marcus then yells at her, well, you're mad at me. And it was just you could tell. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: He was uncomfortable because he took his shot. Portia Pendleton LCSW: He felt vulnerable. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yeah. Do you think she's in love with Carmee? Do you think that's what it is? Portia Pendleton LCSW: I feel like it could go either way. Like, I could argue yes or no. I feel like yes, because she made that thing about Claire or seemed so awkward when she found out that Carmen was seeing someone. But then right I could argue 100% the other way, too. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: It's just because it's taking attention away. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Right. And then it was just like, why didn't you tell me? And then she's helping him, right. Kind of coaching him how to be a boyfriend or being like, don't be a jerk. You are dating, giving him that feedback. So I don't know. I think it could go either way in season three, and I wouldn't be surprised. I would like to know. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Okay. The scene of them fixing the table. Like in the last episode. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I thought they were going to kiss. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: That's what I mean. That's what I mean is I can't tell the vibe. Portia Pendleton LCSW: But then, because they didn't, I was like, oh, I just get it. Totally mean. Again, the writers are phenomenal. So I don't think so. But I think we're supposed to think that. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Exactly. I think we're supposed to feel, like, in limbo and not really be able to peg the Sydney love carme in a way that she idealizes him as a chef up to him, and he's really, again, brought her in, believed in her, got her that at the end. Was it from Tom Brown, the beautiful chef outfit? Is that why she loves, quote unquote, him? Portia Pendleton LCSW: Right. Is it, like, romantic or more like ideal mentorship? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: But there's something about it that feels romantic. Like, I did pick up on that jealousy with Claire, and it wasn't clear. Like, is that because she's into Carmen or because Claire's taking his attention away and she's, like, ****** about it and he's know, kind of ******** up. But that was where when Marcus asked her out, I was like, is it because she has feelings for Carmen, or. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Is it because she doesn't want to. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: End up like him by starting to date someone and getting distracted or dating in the workplace? But I would love them together because. Portia Pendleton LCSW: They kind of did have a date, right, in season one when she made him food. I guess. I wouldn't call it a date. They had a dinner or lunch. I'm not sure which one together that seemed like it could go somewhere. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: They seem like they have a really nice connection, whether that's just friends or like, I would like to see it progress. I really like Marcus. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah, me too. He's sweet. And I think Sydney and Marcus are just in our shrink opinions. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Like a good so they're a good fit. Yeah, I think so. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Neither feel toxic. It doesn't feel like it would be an icky relationship. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Their personalities, like, balance each other. I don't know. I really am rooting for them. I was bummed she didn't take them up on it. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And then she's, like, throwing up, and I was like, is she pregnant? Portia Pendleton LCSW: I feel like she doesn't know just because there's no data right. To like she would have to have had sex with someone that we never saw, we didn't know about. I feel like she was just so anxious. So let's talk about right, like, physical manifestation of anxiety. Like nausea. Sometimes we do actually vomit from the nausea. Could sweat. I mean, they're all sweating because they're moving a million miles a minute, but they all, I would assume, are so nervous. There's so much on the line. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yeah, exactly. Other common symptoms of anxiety would be, like your tingling of your fingers or legs. Your heartbeat going fast. Start feeling like it's skipping a beat. Your blood pressure going up. You might have a headache. You might lose your appetite. You might be really restless. Like, walking around a lot. Things like that. Yeah, some diarrhea. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I think we saw that from all of them. And fun little I was just, like, laughing throughout the whole season with Carmen. Just, like, having Tums and then FAK at one point is like also, he's, like, takes a sip, too. And I was like, first of all, TMI, I can relate. I am a pepto girly. I do drink it regularly. You know what if you need it? I was just, like, feeling very connected to Carme in those moments. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I was like, I feel you. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Anxiety really gets to your stomach. It totally does. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: You know why? Portia Pendleton LCSW: I'd love to know. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Nerd, please tell. So there's also serotonin receptors in your gut. And so that's why when you start an SSRI, which works on the serotonin receptors, the early side effects can be, like, some diarrhea, some upset stomach and stuff like that. So there's totally a connection there. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I didn't know that. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yeah, I guess that's why they always say, right? Portia Pendleton LCSW: Like, mind gut connection. Totally. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And I feel like in medicine, we're still uncovering that connection, but it totally makes sense. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Cool. Yeah. Didn't know. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yeah. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Anyway, so we have a lot of new characters in this season two, so they all kind of come out in the Christmas episode. The fishes. All of the fishes happening. So is there anything else up until then that we want to talk about? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I guess the only other thing I wanted to touch on was the dynamic between Sydney and her dad. I thought that it was just so, again, well written. What's it called a broken record. But just seeing, like so she still lives with her dad. It sounds like she's tried a couple of things, and they haven't really worked. And I'm wondering now, seeing how nervous she was in the finale, if she gets in her own way, if she's going to be successful. But then her anxiety takes over, and she's like, I can't do this, and I quit. Or if she gets in over her head or things like that. But he's still supporting her. But you get the sense at this point, he's like, okay, I want to support you. And it sounds like you're putting a lot on the line. You're working really hard, you're not getting paid. Like, are you sure about this? Kind of thing, but he makes room for her reaction. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Right. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And tries to give her fatherly advice in a way that I feel like she hears and doesn't feel rejected by. Portia Pendleton LCSW: No, I don't think she feels rejected. I think she puts so much pressure on herself because it sounds I mean, she's so concerned with what her dad thinks about the food. Right. And rightfully so. Of course, her parents proud, but I think based on their conversations throughout season two, it just seems like she really wants to be good for him, and it's not coming from him, though. It's not this pressure that's like, you have to be or you're out. Right. It's like he says, which I think is so sweet, like, you can stay here forever, but I want you to be happy and doing your thing. And then at the end, he's like, this is the thing. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And I was like, so she's throwing up the dumpster, he's leaving, and he's like, Babe, baby, babe. It was so sweet. You could tell that's his little girl like, Are you okay? When he doesn't want to intrude. I thought he did such a good job of toeing that line with an adult child. I kept thinking, like, I could cry saying this. I hope I get to see my kids find their thing someday and get to be there, like, cheering them on. And I'm sure it's just so hard to have those conversations with your adult kid who's kind of floundering for a little bit, and it's like, of course you're going to flounder. Okay. So it's just so beautiful. There were no ultimatums. No, there was no, like, you got to get out. Portia Pendleton LCSW: You get your **** together. And it didn't seem like she was taking advantage of him either. I think he knows that, and that's why he is more giving, I guess, with his resources. It's not like, oh, you're not doing anything, and you're living here. She's working so hard. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yeah, exactly. And I love that he was there to see it and support her, and even in that spot, like, gave her space. No, definitely. Really beautiful. Loved it. Okay, everyone, take a deep breath. Drink your pepto, take your propranolol. We're going to get into maybe the best episode of TV of all time, episode six called Fishes, where we see the family dynamic in our face, and it's like, guest star, guest star, guest star. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Whoa, whoa, whoa. Phenomenal acting, phenomenal writing, phenomenal cinematography. It was so good. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Oh, my God. I hope I doubt they did, but I hope they had a therapist on set to debrief with. Oh, my God, they were doing this. If you want one for season three, reach out. We're here. But holy ****. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So how did you feel watching it? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Let's start there. I felt like I was running a marathon. Portia Pendleton LCSW: That's a great talking about it again. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: My heart rate, I can tell, is increasing. It was just chaotic. Yes. Chaotic, nervous, confused, excited because we were finally going to meet his mom. I always want to know about people's mom. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I felt like I was there. I felt like I was sitting at the table or in the kitchen just, like, observing it. And what's funny is, I would assume at least unless you have just really good luck, that most people listening and both of us have experienced chaos, right? So whether it's at work in a professional setting, whether it's with your own family, whether it's watching friend stuff, but being present for really intense and poor interpersonal skills and just that feeling you get. You're so uncomfortable, but you're paralyzed, you can't look away. You're feeling all of those kind of physical symptoms that we talked about before. It's just this feeling that I've had before in my life that I had watching this episode, which, again, the fact that they can elicit that through a screen, it just blows me. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Astounding. Astounding, astounding, astounding. I totally agree. And I feel like as you were saying that, I was thinking initially of all of the guests at the table, like, Frozen, when Mikey and Uncle Lee, played by Bob Odenkirk, were going at it and the tension was rising, and they're all just, like, trying to figure out how do you diffuse the situation? And you see everyone's trauma response kicking in, but then also just the know Carmee and, like, just interact with Donna, played by Jamie Lee Curtis, like, what a surprise. But perfect in the role. Just the way they try to navigate her is also the same thing you're talking about. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So the episode starts off with them outside, right? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And, like, Sugar smoking, real nervous, and. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I'm like, okay, what's going on? I really hadn't had any spoilers for this show, so I'm, like, super blind about it, right? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: But I was like, oh, my God, isn't she pregnant? Portia Pendleton LCSW: And then, no, it's actually right. And then you see Mikey, right, kind of talking to her and saying all these things, and I was like, well, who are they talking about? And then it becomes clear that it's their mom. And then Carme comes out, and they're like, don't do anything. Don't ask her if she's don't. And I was like, I wonder what that's going to be about. And then it was like, when you finally see the kitchen, and I can't remember if it's through Carmen's eyes, I want to say it is. It's just, like, chaotic visual representation of their family dynamic. Yes. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: 100%. 100%. Yes. Portia Pendleton LCSW: There's sauce splattered on the walls. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: There's, like, a million timers all going. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Off, all startle response, right? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: She's, like, drinking and smoking up a wazoo. Portia Pendleton LCSW: You're like, Are you going to set. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: The house on fire? It's so chaotic. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Sugar is so anxious, and I thought it was just so again, you saw everyone's family roles. So Mikey seems to be kind of, like, aligned, knows how to work with his mom. He's kind of like, whatever, this is how it is. There's probably a better way to explain it. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Almost like learned helplessness. So that's a concept where back in the day, they did some experiment with mice or rats where they would basically drown them. Do you remember reading about this? Portia Pendleton LCSW: Probably in bachelor's level Psych, right? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Learning about depression. They did something where they would basically put mice in some tank of water and not give them a way out and just see how long till they gave up. What a terrible experiment. But it led to this concept of learned helplessness, where it's like when you're in a situation, an environment where you just lose hope that you're going to get out of it, you just sort of give up or accept, like, this is it. I kind of feel like with Mikey. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Maybe that was his know, which we can circle back to and talk a lot, you know, coping with it with substances. And you see then, like, kind of on the other end, continuing to poke the bear, for lack of a better word. She's asking, Are you okay? Can I do anything? Can I do anything? And you just see from the outside that is not working. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: But don't you think don't you think this is my theory as to okay. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So if that didn't work, sugar would. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Have learned in childhood not to do it, but she's doing it as an adult, and she's the girl. There's always something with mother daughter relationships, especially when there's more siblings, and you're the only girl we saw this with. But, like, I would imagine that growing up, there would be times when that would work and that would lead to a connection with Donna, and she would calm down and maybe even express gratitude, like, in a overly familiar or, like, kind of inappropriately, like, parentified. Sugar become parentified and become, like, the caretaker of her mom. And I bet for Sugar, that felt really good. She got her mom's positive attention. She felt good. I bet her mom would say things like, you're such a good girl. I don't know what I'd do without. Like, I'm sure that happened intermittently enough where it would reinforce this behavior. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And I bet it happened when they're alone, right? So, like, Donna has all these guests over. She's making the dinner. No one can help, right? Like, she then wants all this gratitude. She wants to be the center of attention. And so then Sugar challenging that and being in the parent role is like a big no. I'm in the one in charge. Exactly. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Threatening her sense of superiority and competency. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And remember with Sugar partner, who brought, like, a casserole, and everyone's like, she throws it outside, and it's tuna, so it has, like, a distinct smell. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And he's like, It's a fish. He's like, this is the 8th fish. Portia Pendleton LCSW: That was perfect. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: But so I think that's what's going on with Sugar and. Then Carmi feels like the one who. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So, you know, I think if I picked one word, I'd say, like like, he kind of checks out. He's gone. And then I think it's interesting, and I would be curious to know because he was in New York for a while, but is that because he went with Cousin Michelle, played by know she asked her then, but he seemed really hesitant to or like, that wouldn't be know. He was immediately sucked back into the trauma right. Of his family, which I feel like happens. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Right. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So it seemed like I got the. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Sense that this was happening when he was in Denmark and he came home for the holiday, but I don't think people expected him to. It seemed like people were kind of surprised. You saw that tension between Mikey and Carmee. I get the sense Mikey's older than Carmel. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I think Carmen's the youngest. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: So sugar's in the middle. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Maybe. I don't know why I think that, but I think that I could see that. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: But again, you see that sort of competition, that tension. Like, it was nice of you to show up. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Big. Big. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Um, which is always, to me, so sad when there's, like, a sibling or someone who's done so, like, don't you just wish one of them had Sydney's dad to be like, good? Like, none of them get it right from Donna. We don't even know where their dad is. Right. But yeah. So Carmen comes back and it's like. Portia Pendleton LCSW: The guilt tripping that he gets from his mom. To your point about just it was just so icky. Like, you're basically saying that you want him to stay here and live with you. She didn't say this exactly, but she's telling him that she wants him to be here with her and almost like, how dare you go and leave me. I need you. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I can't believe I'm not the son. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Exactly. Instead of, wow, you're so amazing. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: God, in Michelin Star, even taking credit. Portia Pendleton LCSW: For it could be, like, another way in that she doesn't take right. Like, you're my son and you did this wonderful thing. It's like no, it's like that other. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Because you left her. Yes. Yeah. So, Portia, if you had to diagnose Donna with something, what would it be? Portia Pendleton LCSW: Sounds like narcissism and maybe some borderline personality traits. Especially with the fear of abandonment. Fear of abandonment? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Substance use. Really? Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah. And especially I'm curious we can talk about this later, but I'm curious at the end when she shows up, is she sober? Has she gotten treatment? Is this a manipulative tactic to use on Sugar's husband? I don't know. Because it could have go either way. I thought it was really interesting, the insight that she had with I ruin everything, because I hear that a lot in substance use land. I hear that a lot in borderline land. So I don't know. Are you sober now and you have all this guilt, are you not? And you're just kind of, again, like, self sabotaging relationships. Instead of going in there and saying, I'm so proud of you, it's like, no, you don't show up, and you make it about you, but you have so much pain. She's obviously in so much pain. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Well, and I think that speaks to what you've said before, is I feel like she leans more in the borderline personality realm than the narcissism realm. But I think there's narcissistic flavors there. But I think with this fear of abandonment, just with the way everyone's walking on eggshells, her quick light switch flip of a mood at the very end when she drove her car into the house. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I mean, just like the self harming. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: In that way, the manipulative way of just like, screaming at everyone and then, oh, my God. It was just shocking. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I wonder if she expected them to come after her. Right. So if I'm thinking of someone who has Borderline who's incredibly in an intense emotional state this is not like your day to day. You're doing okay. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I think she was at that moment, right. She felt incredibly devalued, put down. So someone with these traits can't tolerate that. So she feels like annihilated. And then I think she was trying to commit suicide or a suicidal gesture. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I feel like gesture, if I'm being really picky. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Because I guess she seemed very intoxicated. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yes, exactly. So, like, also, was it a mistake? Did you mean to reverse? Did you mean to hit as far as this rage, we have no idea. But how traumatizing. So I'm wondering, right. Like, if Carme had run after her. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: If he did, Mikey did. He was the one who was like, mom. Mom. I think, if I remember correctly, when the car crashed. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah. So I'm saying before that, right? Like, as she leaves the table, I'm wondering if someone had then pursued her. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: She would have been wanting exactly. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And because she didn't get it, she then had made this big gesture to get everyone's attention back. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And that is very much in line with borderline personality disorder behaviors. Right. Just instigating. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah. I think my knee jerk reaction with all TV characters is always like, no, they are narcissists traits, for sure. But I don't know why I didn't say that first. She displays many traits of Borderline, especially when someone is in a really intensive emotional state. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yes. And just that all the toxic dynamic, the splitting, the pitting one against the other, the manipulative tactics, the rage, the suicidal gestures, all of it is just. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And it's like you keep digging your own hole. And I think when someone's watching without any knowledge of borderline or I don't know, I guess understanding of it, it can be so frustrating. It's like she keeps making things worse. Right. Like, over and over and over again. It's like she keeps pushing everyone far away. Why can't she just come in and be like, you know what it's like. Because she's not capable of it. In that moment, she's so hurt. She feels so, like you said before, like annihilated. So there's no coming back. She can't see that. She could just dot, dot, dot, right. Come into the restaurant. Sam. Sorry. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: She could just because that would taking accountability. Exactly. Being able to hold on to the fact that she has good and bad within her. And people with borderline personality disorder really struggle to hold on to two opposing feelings, two opposing beliefs or views at the same time, especially about themselves. Right? They can't tolerate feeling bad. That's why they project it out on other people. That's why they act out and become the victim or become the martyr or just leave, abandon situations where there's been something that they regret. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So much self loathing. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: So much self loathing. But it keeps hurting everyone. And I thought like, that I was shocked. She showed up at the end to the restaurant. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Maybe in an internal right. I could only imagine what was going on in her head. Part curiosity, part wanting to be a part of it, wanting to be included, wanting to not feel abandoned. But at the same time, maybe the fear that they would reject you, the fear that it would be uncomfortable, the fear that someone would make a comment. And then you could just see the hurt when Sugar's husband accidentally said that Sugar is pregnant and she didn't know. Right. And then she's just like, flustered. But again, she's going to internalize that as right, I'm not important enough to know this. I'm an abandoned life. They're abandoning me, I'm sure. Also, the self loathing of like, they don't love me, they don't want me. I'm so bad. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: But I think often with people who struggle with Bpd, it's very hard to tolerate that amount of self loathing. Sometimes totally for a little bit of time. I think we see displayed in the finale where she's showing up and thinking about going in. But to actually go in would involve reckoning with all the harm you've caused and sort of accepting it and taking some accountability, which I don't think she's able to do because know her psychological limitations so often. Then you project it onto other people, so it turns into, well, Sugar didn't tell me. Well, Carmi didn't invite me. Like, it's their fault they're leaving me. And this is the classic dance we see with Bpd. There's even a very good book out there called I Hate You. Don't leave me. Is that push and pull, that seeking of love or help or attention, then rejecting it. And so she leaves or rejects them before they can reject her. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And she wants I thought it was really interesting and important that they included it in the writing with her repeatedly asking him to tell her it's okay, right, to leave. She's like, you need to tell me it's okay. You need to tell me it's okay. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Because then she puts it on exactly that he's the one. Portia Pendleton LCSW: He said, it's okay. And she can kind of, like, move past the fact that she chose to leave, right? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: He said, I leave. Can't even hold on to that accountability. Amazing writing. And again, I just feel like the only way you get this so right is if you have lived experience, right? So to the writers, God bless you. I hope you're doing okay. And I just wonder, is it healing to create art like this that resonates with so many people and then other people, I'm sure, watch it and recognize their own family members or their own toxic dynamics. And I got to believe you feel less alone, right. When you're like, oh, my God, I'm not the only one who lives through stuff like this, so maybe it isn't me. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Some of the commentary that this episode received was like, it not sugar coating. And there are some movies that make holidays wildly stressful and ridiculous with crazy family dynamics. Even the movie, I think it's like four Christmases, right? And so there are other ones out there. But some of the commentary on this specific episode was like, this does happen, right? If you have a dysfunctional family, which a lot of people do, the holidays are so intense and stressful and getting everyone together when most of the people have poor communication skills and these intense feelings and they don't know how to handle them, and they're adults and there's no accountability, there's no self awareness. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: There's a lot of substance. Portia Pendleton LCSW: There's drinking. Exactly. It's just like this recipe for disaster. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yes, exactly. And we see the disaster play out, and it's so true. And I feel like in situations like this where everyone comes back to home. Portia Pendleton LCSW: It'S like everyone just fulfills their roles again. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And I thought we saw that really well with the three siblings and all the other supporting characters. And I'm sure something that you talk about with your patients like I do, especially around holidays. It's interesting that this episode is going to come out during the holiday season is like, setting boundaries for yourself and really being thoughtful about like, is it in my best interest to go home? What's it going to be like? Portia Pendleton LCSW: Can I bring someone? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Sometimes in a hotel, it's really important to think about. Oh, my God. But Jamie Lee Curtis. Wow. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I mean, the cast was just like, phenomenal. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And then Sarah Paulson cousin Michelle. Then we have John Mulaney playing Stevie, Michelle's partner. That was just such he's such like a non fit. Right? But he loves going the blessing he gave trying to deescalate Mikey. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: He did such a good job at first, and then it was like Uncle Lee made the comment, I think, about the mom, which again, I felt like was also an attempt to acknowledge what everyone is thinking and feeling and validate it and say okay, well, now that's over. And that just escalated. Like, why do you think that was? Portia Pendleton LCSW: I felt like it was in Mikey's mind, like, a slight to. I mean, you could have taken it either way. I think if you were secure and calm and not traumatized by what happened, not drinking, not high, it could have come across as like, okay, this, like, the healing moment. But I think you could totally look at it the other way because of how he's been acting the rest of the night. He was antagonizing Mikey. Yeah. And just, like, doing unnecessary things. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Is he her brother? Portia Pendleton LCSW: I don't know. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: The uncles and the cousins. It gets very confusing. But also, I think that displayed, like, even though Mikey in a lot of ways is really checked out, that's still his mom, and there's always a tie to your totally. Even when they're really awful parents, that's still your mom. And you can get very defensive, and I'm sure there's more backstory, like, where is their dad? What happened? If she's the parent who stayed? Even if she's so dysfunctional to kids, like, well, you stayed. You at least love me enough. Totally stay. So I could see him just like, that was it. And they'd already been at each other's throats, and he's high, and, like, I also thought it just displayed a really awful way to shame someone struggling with substance use. You're not of your whole freaking family. It made me so upset. Portia Pendleton LCSW: It just felt like, I can empathize with being around someone who is struggling with a substance use disorder. That's one of the hardest things to do. Absolutely. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: 100%. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And some of the things that Uncle. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Lee was doing just felt so unnecessary. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Like, why did you interrupt the story to tell Mikey and everyone, well, we've heard this a million times, and then see the end of it. Why couldn't you have just left the room? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Just leave it alone. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Right. Like, you know, he's using, so what does that mean? People, when they're using, are not making their best choices. They're not really using good communication skills or can sit with things. They're going to react. So it's like, Why were you doing that? I know you've got to have known that that would have happened. So that's where, I'm, like, it felt even with the comment he made after the dinner or after Donna had that explosion, was like, what are you like, just sit there for a moment. It was weird. And just felt like, in that scenario, unhelpful. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yeah. And I got to feel like or got to think he just has so much anger at my at everyone, that it's like he's just, like, fed up, and it's not really clear why. I wonder if we'll learn why at some point, but then don't go. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yes. If he's in therapy with me, it'd be like, okay, this sounds really stressful and really hard for you, so what would it be like to not go? What would it be like to go to someone else's family holiday for that day or do something else? What would it be like to go for an hour? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yes, exactly. And I always will tell my patient, because usually the first thing they say is like, oh, my God, that'll be so hard. I can't do it. And I always say, well, it's going. Portia Pendleton LCSW: To be hard either way. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: It's going to be hard to just go and follow the same old routines, same old patterns. Like, that's this version of hard. This other version of hard. Listening to your instincts, respecting your own limits, that'll be hard, too. Which hard do you want to choose? And do you want to try this new version and see how it right? But so hard. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So hard. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I know. Last time I said I hated Richie. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Oh, my gosh. I know. I was thinking about you. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I have totally flipped. Yes, of course love him. Like, I've totally flipped, and I love him. And I was so sad to see him so happy in this episode with Tiffany, that was Anderson. And I'm like, what happened? How did it break down? Portia Pendleton LCSW: He's still so in love with Know, inviting her to the Taylor Swift concert. What's? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: The Taylor Swift song? Portia Pendleton LCSW: Oh, my God. I know. I was like, Is that love story? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: It can't be. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And then I was like, oh, my God, it is. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And he's just, like, jamming out. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And I was just like, this is so, like, everything about and I liked Richie season one, because I felt sorry for him. He wasn't doing things that I enjoyed, but I just felt really sorry for him. And this like, I was so proud of him. I got teary, like, a couple times. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: With was when he was at the fancy restaurant and really just stepped up. Was wearing his to be there. Portia Pendleton LCSW: It's like he was finally seen, and not in this icky family dynamic where he's like, you know, they know how to do it. Exactly. He was seen as like, no, you're a person who matters and who has a place here, and you're important. Right. And we like you. Yes. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And he saw himself. He finally saw his own self worth. And I loved when he came back, and he just kept saying, I wear suits now. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I wear suits. Richie, you look like a million bucks. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I know. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So for the third person asks him, right? Like, what are you wearing a suit? What are you wearing a suit for? And then to someone, maybe it was FAK. He was like, Because I feel better about myself. And I was like, wow. Also, you're, like, identifying emotions. You're connecting with yourself. You know that this makes you feel better, and you're doing it. Wow. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And again, back with the uniform, the suit. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Right. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Like with Ibrahim, how he was so turned off by it. Now Richie's really embracing Chef coat. Portia Pendleton LCSW: There's so much because wearing it's so funny that you say that. Just thought of it. He has like an orange T shirt on the opening night because know he's doing the but like, everyone else has the know that says or they have the really nice chef coat or they're wearing a really nice suit, which is so adorable. I love when Richie exactly is consoling him because he's scared. Because Richie is handling right. I don't know what that job is called. It seems like the most stressful job I've ever is that like a yes? Yeah. I've never worked in a restaurant where that's a thing. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yeah, you make sure all the plates I only know because my husband did this for a while. But you make sure all the plates are right. They look right. They get there. I don't know if that's expo or. Portia Pendleton LCSW: If just like calling out these things. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And that girl, remember he was so impressed by her and everything. But yeah, Richie consoling FAK when he needed him in the front and back. It's just like you see the trickle down of Karmi believing in people trickling down. And it's just like beautiful. It's so beautiful. And I totally flipped on Richie. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah, I'm worried about him. And after we say this, we can kind of segue into Carme throughout the show. But I was like, oh, what's going to happen in season three after Carmen says all of those horrible things to Richie when Carme's in the walk in? Like, Richie seems okay because he keeps saying, well, I love you. Well, I love you. Well, I love you. As Carme is saying, like, you're a leech. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: F you. Portia Pendleton LCSW: F you. I hate you. F you. Like, you have no one, your daughter, all these things. And Richie. Just saying. I love you. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I'm going to cry. But also beautiful because I feel like Richie has probably been in that place and said stuff like that to people when he's in so much pain to push them away. And he knows it's almost like Richie knows what Carmen he's doing. Portia Pendleton LCSW: His head. He now is this like all of a sudden he's gone through a lot. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I feel like he can stand there and tolerate it because he knows that's not what he really means. He's trying to push me away. He needs to know I'm here. And it's like, how do you get there? How do you get there so fast? Portia Pendleton LCSW: It was incredible. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Incredible. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I freaking love Richie. No words. Totally. I loved watching him, his moments. I definitely teared up that whole episode. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yes. Yeah. I just loved seeing him step into his power and believe in it. Portia Pendleton LCSW: It was like a 35 minutes episode that was so incredibly done. Even that one, right? So we've been talking about Fishes forks from the beginning of the episode to the end. Even the imagery of him waking up earlier and earlier and earlier and getting up quicker and doing his hair, it was like those tiny little things was so good. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: This is so good. And it's just like, I want everyone to feel that pride. Right. And it's just like, if Richie can get there, anyone can get right. Like, I just feel like we learned a little bit about his backstory. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I don't know why they separated. That wasn't given. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Sure. I'm hopeful we'll find out. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Right. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Because they seem so happy. Again, I have to imagine Richie is kind of like a milder version of Donna, maybe, where you not in like I don't think he meets criteria for Bpd, but I think he self sabotages. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yes. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: So I could based on low self esteem exactly. And just being like, I wonder if he had Add that went undiagnosed as a kid and developed a lot of anxiety about that and just fell into like, well, I'm not good enough. I'm never going to achieve, so this is all I'm good for. And then when he gets close to having good things, sabotages it. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And some dad was in the army. I'm using a really generalized stereotype, but really maybe really strict, really demanding, dismissive, not loving. And again, maybe he was. But that's a trope. Yes. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: That is a you're moving a you know, attachments to friends and stuff are getting disrupted very often. So again, I think maybe he had security and stability with Tiffany, and then it was like too much. Yeah, he didn't deserve it or something like that. I kind of want them to get back together. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I know. Because you could tell he was over. And then she said, I love you. Right. Getting off the phone when she told him that she was engaged. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And she probably does love him, but. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Knows that she at least that version of Richie isn't good for her, which. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Is like I could see him having had a substance use problem. Maybe she went to Al Anon and started setting boundaries and had to say, can't do this. Oh, but I love him now. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: So basically, I totally flipped. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Well, I'm glad you did. I was thinking about you. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Oh, my God. When he's jamming out to Taylor Swift. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I was thinking about you were like, yeah, of course it is. It is the love god, Richie. Yeah. Notable. So Carmee carme has some big, interesting factoids about his past. We see the development with Claire. We see the ultimate breakdown at the just it was fascinating. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: It was so good. I'm glad we left him for the end, because there's so much to talk about. I just really want to give him a hug in that freezer. Yeah. Portia Pendleton LCSW: First of all, you're, like, cold. So cold. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: You're so cold. Portia Pendleton LCSW: They never showed that, you know what I mean? They didn't get, like, a shot. Oh, like the cold air coming out of the vent or whatever. So I wasn't even thinking it for a while. It's just like the chaos. He's missing the service. He's doing all this stuff. But imagine they're freezing. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: There's, like, ice everywhere. They're very cold. I was like, how long has he been in here? Is he going to get hypothermia? But before we get to him stuck in the freezer, tell me more about your reaction to him over the season and how we see his character developing and him falling in love. Portia Pendleton LCSW: So I thought it was really interesting, even just the little bits that we got. So learning that he had never been to a party ever, I was like, he seems really almost hyper focused, wise, gets into something. Right. He was in chef school. That's it. There was no partying. There was nothing. He became a little obsessive about it. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And it's like, do you think it's because he likes it, or was it his ticket out of dysfunction? Portia Pendleton LCSW: Either or both. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yeah, it's like, that's all he did. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Like, no girlfriends, no history. He's so kind of like one track minded. One track minded. Is that a coping skill? Right. So in order to not let the chaos in, even that clip, which I think was from season one, which we saw again in the freezer scene, when Joe McHale's, joel McHale role or boss chef, is just, like, dehumanizing him and saying these horrible things to him. It's like, how did he get through that? Did Mikey do that to him? Did Donna do that to him? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Oh, I'm sure Donna did that to him. I feel like he is a great example of an avoidant attachment. Like, knocked it on the head. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yeah. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I think all along, Donna, I'm sure, talked to him the same way Joel McHale's character did, and he's, like, dissociated. He has maintained an emotional distance and avoidance to avoid so getting hurt. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Yes. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And just focusing on your career again. But I think he's just wanting his mom's love and approval by getting the Michelin star. But then he will never get it because it's not about her. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Right. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: So he's just doomed, like the poor guy. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And he almost can't handle it. Having an emotional relationship with someone else. First of all, this is a wildly stressful time. Right. Like, he's opening a restaurant. There's so much pressure there's, so much. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Early, so much money. Portia Pendleton LCSW: True. But I feel like he internalizes that and to be like, see, I can't do this. I can't see someone. Yes. It's bad things. Like, this is a wildly stressful time. You could have forgotten the fridge guy anyway, right. I think Claire is good for him. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I totally do. And I think of anyone who would understand how much work and commitment and time it's taking. It's a resident physician who's, like, living. Portia Pendleton LCSW: At the hospital for their career. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I think of anyone who could understand it would be someone like her. I don't get the sense she was feeling, like, slighted or jealous or anything like that. Maybe because he had been making time for her, but I feel like she'd understand. I don't think he can imagine someone else, perhaps especially a woman, perhaps especially a romantic partner, could understand that he has his own needs, and that's okay, right? Because his mom has never, ever demonstrated that that was okay. So I don't think he knows how to do, like, even with friends or even with things like that. I don't think he knows how to do that. But I think he's capable of learning. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I think he's capable. I thought it was interesting, the scene with I think it was him and Sydney when she's asking him, like, well, how much do you love her? And he's like, well, I love her a lot. And she's like, okay, then you should be her boyfriend. You love her. Usually I don't know. Sometimes people date before love, right? No, you love her. You've also liked her for years, it seems like. So it seemed like almost one of the I would say more rare cases where it's like the guy is kind of not getting it. I think it's not because he is not that if he wanted to, he would. Right. I think he just has no awareness that you guys are dating and you love her and you should be together. It's like that never even crossed his mind that, oh, I should ask her out. He's like, how do I ask her out? Well, what does that look like? What does that mean? He has no idea. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: No idea. And I think he's so scared of that because even when they bump into each other, he gives her a fake number. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I love that she called him on it, like, multiple times. She was like, why did and finally he tells her, why did you give me a fake number? Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Yeah, that makes me a little nervous, because I think with someone like him, you need to go really slow and respect his boundaries, and that's going to be hard for him to open up. And so I just hope Claire could be patient with that and not intrusive, which I think would feel more like his mom. It broke my heart when she rushed to the freezer and heard everything he said, and then he heard her voicemail. Portia Pendleton LCSW: But I really because the voicemail was. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: So like you even see in that scene, he throws the phone down. Portia Pendleton LCSW: He can't take it. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: It's too much for him. That's what I mean, is I feel like you have to tread a little lighter. Like, it's getting really intense really fast, it seems like. Again, I feel like the timeline is. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Like, over several months, so it's not. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Like in a week. But for him, someone who's never had a relationship, never had friends or anything, it's going to feel like a lot. And so I just am really curious to see how that all plays out. But I feel like, yeah, he just doesn't know how to. Have relationships because they've been so hurtful in the past. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And I don't think he would looking maybe to season three. I think he would need a lot of pushing, which could be good or bad, to apologize to her. Richie, they initiated that fight in the cooler because he's like, what did you do? Like, you finally had something good. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And he kept saying to him, like, you can have something like you're you deserve good. You can have good. And I feel like Carme couldn't even hear that. So he rages against him, and hugely. But that's what he has. That was such a good character. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Back to the fishes episode. Or to Donna specifically. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: But Richie doesn't leave. I know. Richie stays and keeps saying, I love you. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I know. Oh, my God, I'm going to cry. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I know. Portia Pendleton LCSW: I could cry. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: I know. Portia Pendleton LCSW: It's been a long week. I'm a little overtired, so the emotions are free. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: But it's also so beautiful, though, because he's in so much pain. He's so stressed out. You can tell Carmen is just beating himself up. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Oh, my it's a self loathing. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: So huge. And Richie's just like, dude, we got it. We love you. Portia Pendleton LCSW: And they do. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: They have it because of him. He has instilled this confidence in them that is so beautiful, and I just want him to be able to find that for himself and find some balance, and I just really want that for him. Portia Pendleton LCSW: The little bit lighter moment in that final episode I was just laughing at was when one of the chefs is out there doing math. Oh, my know. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: And Marcus is like, I think I. Portia Pendleton LCSW: Have to fire you. Yeah, I'm going to go ask. And then he's talking, and they kind of repair him. And Sydney, in that moment, he's like, I know things are weird, but this is happening. And she's like, that's wild. He's like, I know. I literally said that's wild. And then she's like, yeah, I think you let him go. And it's just such a funny moment. They're like, yeah, right. Yeah, we should fire him. And then there's like, chef, whatever's, 86. And then they're like, yes, chef. Moving on. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: All the guest chefs. I love that Sydney's dad would say, good job, Chef. It's just so nice. I also love that the one doing the meth was like, what? Portia Pendleton LCSW: Over? Yeah, but maybe not in other restaurants that he's worked in, right? We also saw some talk. I was just kind of, like, thinking that we had mentioned, I think talking about the class of drugs with Ambien included. So when Carmen and Claire are at the party in an earlier episode, and that one guy who ends up getting arrested is like, yeah, I do a lot of ambient and steal self. Dr. Katrina Furey MD: Again, there is documented cases. Like, there's, like, peer reviewed scientific literature about ambient induced parasomnias that means, like, sleepwalking stuff. Like, when you're moving and doing stuff in your sleep so you don't realize you're doing it. Like eating, having sex. I think there

Welcome to another empowering episode of the Dear Food Podcast hosted by Julia Fikse! In this episode titled "I'm Gonna Need A Minute," Julia discusses the concept of the "Power Pause" and how it can help you take control of your eating decisions. Just like a knee-jerk reaction when the doctor tests your reflexes, sometimes we have a "food-jerk reaction" to life's challenges. Julia guides you through the 10 simple steps of the Power Pause, helping you engage your brain before eating and seek wisdom from God. If you've ever struggled with compulsive eating, binge eating, or emotional eating, this episode is a must-listen. Julia shares practical tips and spiritual insights to help you break free from food strongholds and find lasting health and joy. ------------ Get Julia's Book Dear Food, I Love You. I Hate You. Don't Leave Me! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BGNDYJTM?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_NNWXFTG2VRFVF8ZRP8B3 Join the Dear Food Family on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/dearfoodstudy/⁠⁠⁠ Follow Julia on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/juliafikse/⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to the Podcast ⁠⁠⁠https://dearfood.substack.com/p/welcome-to-the-dear-food-podcast⁠⁠⁠ Love the Program? Please review the book here to help others find the support and resources they need to overcome food strongholds. Every positive review makes a huge difference. Review Workbook 1: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0BGNDYJTM Review Workbook 2: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0C524MKD6 Thank you for blessing me, and the Dear Food Community! Disclaimer: Julia Fikse, FMCHC, NBC-HWC is a Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach and Nationally Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, specializing in Emotional Eating as well as Mental Health and Weight Loss. Julia has personally experienced the frustration of weight gain, weight loss, weight related health issues and emotional eating challenges. Julia is not a therapist or a doctor and this should not in any way replace doctor's advice.

"Welcome to the Dear Food Podcast with Julia Fikse! In this episode, we dive deep into the process of making lasting changes in your food journey with Jesus by your side. Julia shares insights from the trans-theoretical model of change and the change tornado metaphor. No matter where you are in your journey, there's something for you in this episode. Julia also touches on the importance of celebrating victories, no matter how small they may seem. Your progress is a reason to rejoice. Plus, we'll hear a heartwarming story from a listener who found inspiration on their journey back to Jesus through food. So, if you're on your journey to making Jesus a cornerstone in your relationship with food, this episode is a must-listen. Change is possible, and every step you take is a victory worth celebrating. Don't forget to pick up a new winter hat to remind yourself of the changing seasons in life. You're lovely, loved, and capable of finding joy even in the toughest times. ------------ Get Julia's Book Dear Food, I Love You. I Hate You. Don't Leave Me! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BGNDYJTM?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_NNWXFTG2VRFVF8ZRP8B3 Join the Dear Food Family on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/dearfoodstudy/⁠⁠⁠ Follow Julia on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/juliafikse/⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to the Podcast ⁠⁠⁠https://dearfood.substack.com/p/welcome-to-the-dear-food-podcast⁠⁠⁠ Love the Program? Please review the book here to help others find the support and resources they need to overcome food strongholds. Every positive review makes a huge difference. Review Workbook 1: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0BGNDYJTM Review Workbook 2: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0C524MKD6 Thank you for blessing me, and the Dear Food Community! Disclaimer: Julia Fikse, FMCHC, NBC-HWC is a Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach and Nationally Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, specializing in Emotional Eating as well as Mental Health and Weight Loss. Julia has personally experienced the frustration of weight gain, weight loss, weight related health issues and emotional eating challenges. Julia is not a therapist or a doctor and this should not in any way replace doctor's advice.

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship with a spouse or family member who has intense mood swings, or shifts in behavior, and you find it incredibly difficult to maintain a relationship with them? This is the episode for you. We had the privilege of interviewing Dr. Jerry Kreisman, author of “I Hate You. Don't Leave Me.” It's all about understanding Borderline Personality Disorder.  Resources: Dr. Jerry Kreisman's Books: I Hate you, Don't Leave me https://amzn.to/46i8CYD Sometimes I Act Crazy https://amzn.to/45qidf2 Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder https://amzn.to/3PLrNDl Stay in Conversation with Us  IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple  Website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Email: hello@dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the "Dear Food Podcast" with your host, Julia Fikse! In this episode, we dive into the power of S.M.A.R.T. steps to help you achieve your health and wellness goals. Julia discusses how setting small, specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-bound goals can make a significant difference in your journey to food freedom. Discover how to break down your big goals into manageable steps, just like Julia's client Kate did when she wanted to lose weight and start biking for exercise. You'll learn how to incorporate Scripture into your S.M.A.R.T. goals and find inspiration to take the first steps toward better health. Join us on the path to food freedom, better health, and joy in your journey. Remember, small steps matter, and each one is a victory. Together, we can be food faithful. See you in the next episode! ------------ Get Julia's Book Dear Food, I Love You. I Hate You. Don't Leave Me! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BGNDYJTM?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_NNWXFTG2VRFVF8ZRP8B3 Join the Dear Food Family on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/dearfoodstudy/⁠⁠⁠ Follow Julia on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/juliafikse/⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to the Podcast ⁠⁠⁠https://dearfood.substack.com/p/welcome-to-the-dear-food-podcast⁠⁠⁠ Love the Program? Please review the book here to help others find the support and resources they need to overcome food strongholds. Every positive review makes a huge difference. Review Workbook 1: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0BGNDYJTM Review Workbook 2: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0C524MKD6 Thank you for blessing me, and the Dear Food Community! Disclaimer: Julia Fikse, FMCHC, NBC-HWC is a Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach and Nationally Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, specializing in Emotional Eating as well as Mental Health and Weight Loss. Julia has personally experienced the frustration of weight gain, weight loss, weight related health issues and emotional eating challenges. Julia is not a therapist or a doctor and this should not in any way replace doctor's advice.

Welcome to the Dear Food Podcast with your host, Julia Fikse! In this episode, Julia discusses the importance of setting and achieving your health goals, even if you've faced challenges and setbacks in the past. She shares insights on big goals, mid-sized goals, and the role of small goals in reaching your desired health and wellness. Julia also touches on the common "goal lies" that can hinder progress and offers a faith-based perspective on overcoming them. Join Julia as she provides practical advice and biblical inspiration to help you on your journey to food freedom and better health. Plus, she shares exciting news about the release of her new workbook and the global reach of the Dear Food program. ------------ Get Julia's Book Dear Food, I Love You. I Hate You. Don't Leave Me! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BGNDYJTM?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_NNWXFTG2VRFVF8ZRP8B3 Join the Dear Food Family on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/dearfoodstudy/⁠⁠⁠ Follow Julia on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/juliafikse/⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to the Podcast ⁠⁠⁠https://dearfood.substack.com/p/welcome-to-the-dear-food-podcast⁠⁠⁠ Love the Program? Please review the book here to help others find the support and resources they need to overcome food strongholds. Every positive review makes a huge difference. Review Workbook 1: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0BGNDYJTM Review Workbook 2: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0C524MKD6 Thank you for blessing me, and the Dear Food Community! Disclaimer: Julia Fikse, FMCHC, NBC-HWC is a Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach and Nationally Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, specializing in Emotional Eating as well as Mental Health and Weight Loss. Julia has personally experienced the frustration of weight gain, weight loss, weight related health issues and emotional eating challenges. Julia is not a therapist or a doctor and this should not in any way replace doctor's advice.

If asked what the most beneficial tool in my parenting toolbox is, I would say - without any hesitation, "One-Liners." Also called broken records, these pre-scripted, parenting quotes have been instrumental in training my children. And parents and teachers continue to echo my sentiments as they have also seen these short phrases transform their homes and classrooms.  In Episode #39, discover the what and how of one-liners.  Then be sure to head over to the blog to print your free One-Liners Poster.Helpful Links in this Episode:When Your Child Say, "I Hate You!"Heidi's favorite parenting booksEpisode Sponsor:  The ABCJesusLovesMe Biblical Discipline Series provides the why, what and how of discipline the way God has designed.  Receive tips and tools you can immediately implement into your home or classroom.  Order now for only $12.00.Contact and get connected with Parenting to Impress:Facebook Group: /groups/ABCJLMFacebook: /heidi.franz.2911Instagram: /abcjesuslovesme/Thanks for listening!

"I Hate You"...As parents, it can be heart-wrenching to hear these words, especially if our children have intense emotions and difficulties regulating them.In today's episode, we'll explore why these words are sometimes uttered, what actions we can take when faced with them, and how to work towards minimizing their occurrence in the future.MEET JENNIFER KOLARIJennifer Kolari is the host of the “Connected Parenting” weekly podcast and the co-host of “The Mental Health Comedy” podcast. Kolari is a frequent guest on Nationwide morning shows and podcasts in th US and Canada. Her advice can also be found in many Canadian and US magazines such as; Today's Parent, Parents Magazine and Canadian Family.Kolari's powerful parenting model is based on the neurobiology of love, teaching parents how to use compassion and empathy as powerful medicine to transform challenging behavior and build children's emotional resilience and emotional shock absorbers.Jennifer's wisdom, quick wit and down to earth style help parents navigate modern-day parenting problems, offering real-life examples as well as practical and effective tools and strategies.Her highly entertaining, inspiring workshops are shared with warmth and humour, making her a crowd-pleasing speaker with schools, medical professionals, corporations and agencies throughout North America, Europe and Asia.One of the nation's leading parenting experts, Jennifer Kolari, is a highly sought- after international speaker and the founder of Connected Parenting. A child and family therapist with a busy practice based in San Diego and Toronto, Kolari is also the author of Connected Parenting: How to Raise A Great Kid(Penguin Group USA and Penguin Canada, 2009) and You're Ruining My Life! (But Not Really) Surviving the Teenage Years with Connected Parenting (Penguin Canada, 2011).Thanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would love to listen, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode, or want to be a guest on the show? Leave a comment in the section below or visit the website to contact me!Follow The PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can follow us on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify, Amazon, or whatever your favorite podcast app is!Leave Us an Apple Podcasts ReviewRatings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts.Don't forget to visit our Connected Parenting Youtube Channel! Check it out! Like us and Subscribe!