The Enoughness Revolution: Life, Work, + Love

I'm baaaaaa-aaaaackkk!  Well, not really!  But I am LIVE on iTunes today with our next conversation, Wild & Holy Radio!   Not only is it is my 34th birthday today, but I'm also ushering in this new podcast, which is UNLIKE anything you've ever heard! Wild & Holy Radio picks up right where we left off on The Enoughness Revolution and goes one layer deeper exploring worthiness through the lens of Divinity and already I'm getting some RAVE reviews.  (Make sure you check out Ep. 3 for some of the best stuff yet

It's here, you guys!  The finale episode of The Enoughness Revolution and I'm ready.  The past two weeks have been somewhat of a whirlwind while I've been processing the end of this chapter and the beginning of the next.  There's been grief and excitement, anticipation and anxiety, and whole host of other emotions happening as several life events have lined up around the same time.  As if life, right?  I had no idea I'd be celebrating my first year of motherhood while getting ready to birth a new podcast baby into the world just a few weeks later, but cycles line up like that sometimes.   We celebrate one milestone of achievement while starting new quests that have no milestones yet. In this way, maybe we're always beginners at something and I think thats a good thing.  To always be evolving and growing and shifting and stretching.   I could take this episode's air time to talk all about Wild and Holy Radio and how great it's going to be and why you should absolutely, positively make sure you're a part of the Launch Team (which you totally should and you can join right here!), but I'd rather take this time to share 3 Non-Negotiables for Cultivating Enoughness. I've gained so much wisdom from hosting this conversation for the past two years, so much so, I should probably write a book, which I'm sure my book coach Amy Brooks is over there like "duh"!!!  I'm getting to the book writing, Amy, I promise!  But truly, reflecting back on all the stories I've heard, journeys I've walked, work I've done personally and with clients - there's been a lot gained on what it means to cultivate that feeling of being enough. And let's be real... underneath it all, this is what we crave most.  To know that we're enough on a cognitive level, an emotional level, on a physical level, on a spiritual level.  In fact, the fear that we're not enough is the biggest deterrent for us being who we know we're capable of being and pursuing the things that our soul really wants, but will require us to be brave. Enoughness is the foundation for so many other things.  There's this quote by Brené Brown that I go back to over and over again and it goes... "The most dangerous stories we make up are the narratives that diminish our inherent worthiness.  We must reclaim the truth about our lovability, divinity, and creativity/ability." Woah!  I did a whole email series last year teasing these three concepts apart and what these really look like in action when we doubt ourselves in any of these areas.  I went even further into how we actually reclaim these pieces for ourselves. Why?  Because when we talk about enoughness, we're talking about worthiness and the places where we doubt ourselves the most are here.  We wonder if we're truly lovable, especially if we've had a history of broken relationships, relationship issues, or haven't yet found "the one". We wonder if we're worthy of divine intervention if we haven't lived up to the dogma or rules some other person or group of persons have announced/proclaimed is the way you achieve your goodness. And we surely wonder if we're capable and creative and unique and have something worthy of offering the world.  Just ask any entrepreneur as they're launching something new into the world. All of these come back to believing you're enough, yet there's a distance difference between knowing something on an intellectual level and knowing it on a spiritual level and knowing something spiritually will always trump what you rationalize or justify or reason away in your head.  Fear lives in the head.  Truth lives in the heart, which is why doing the spiritual work of healing your stories is so paramount to creating a new baseline of enoughness, confidence, courage, and conviction, which brings me to my first non-negotiable. 1.  Cultivating Enoughness means rewriting the story on what it means to be enough. In every single conversation I've had from all of the guests who've been on The Enoughness Revolution and in every single client I've worked with on the topic of enoughness and even in my own personal work on healing my own beliefs of unworthiness and brokenness, cultivating more enoughness has required a rewriting of the story. Brené talks about this a lot, which is probably why I resonate so deeply with her work and why I admire Glennon Doyle (no Melton now since she's remarried!  Congrats G and Abby

Happy Monday, Friends!  It's our last Motivational Monday of The Enoughness Revolution, which makes me feel so excited for what's to come with Wild and Holy Radio launching July 31st, but also a little sad. The Enoughness Revolution was a conversation I started in October of 2015 out of a pure passion to understand enoughness and the voices of "not enough" and dispel the myth that it doesn't matter how much we make, how much we become, how much we achieve, or how much we do, the experience of not enough is part of the human experience. For the past almost 2 years, I've interviewed over a hundred people on their personal journeys to finding worthiness, revolutionizing what they believe they deserve, and cultivating the courage to actually pursue it.  Each of these conversations has left an imprint on my heart.  Each one has given me a piece of wisdom I've carried with me on my journey and hopefully have also passed onto you. So, as we meet for our last Monday together until Wild and Holy Radio launches July 31st (p.s. don't forget to join the launch team here!), I want to take some time to sum up some of the biggest lessons I've learned the past 2 years of running this podcast. 1.  Enoughness is deeply spiritual. I've done all kinds of work to heal the voices of "not enough".  Before beginning my path of personal development, I tried to numb them any way I could.  I'd hide myself in other people and relationships to feel wanted and desired.  I'd hide myself under substances and alcohol to offer a short relief of my feelings of unworthiness.  I ran from God as far as I could go until I literally couldn't go any further.  I hardened my heart and put up walls so I'd never have to feel pain again.  I self-abandoned my own ideas and opinions because I didn't want to "rock the boat" or risk disapproval.  I stayed in relationships that weren't right for me because I was terrified of being alone.  All because I needed the approval of others.  I needed their validation because I hadn't learned to give myself my own.  Which, of course, was a catch 22.  I desperately needed my own validation and self-belief, but didn't think my opinion of myself held any weight. Then 2006 happened, the year I lost everything.  My best friend died.  I lost a whole group of friends.  I lost myself in drugs and alcohol.  I left everything I knew behind to travel Europe on my own and by the grace of God, I had no other choice but to rely on myself to recover from some of the deepest grief I've ever known.  That was the turning point.  Sometimes rock bottom is the best place to rebuild your life.  I know that's been true for me. For the past 11 years now, I've been on a personal development journey to learn how to honor my soul, release shame and guilt, and heal the holes I felt I had in my heart.  Year after year, I've challenged myself to become more and more whole.  The last place I'd ever expect to arrive is to this deeply spiritual place of knowing I'm enough, I always have been, and I always will be even if I do nothing more in my life. Enoughness isn't attached to anything outside of ourselves. It's attached to our Divinity. 2. We all experience the voices of "not enough". I used to think I could out run fear and I wasn't done with my personal development until I got to this place where fear didn't exist.  Then I realized, that was completely absurd.  Fear is part of the human experience.  Fast forward 5 years and again, I found myself in the same trap - wanting to get to this place where the voices of "not enough" didn't exist.  I hadn't truly done my enoughness work until I got to this place where I knew I was enough and was no longer plagued by the voices of "not enough".  About six months in, I realized I was in the same situation - trying to perfect my own self-improvement. Brené Brown talks about the difference between self-improvement and perfection in The Gifts of Imperfection and it's stuck with me every since.  Our goal isn't to get rid of fear or the voices of "not enough".  Rather, it's to learn how find our way back home to our truth and our soul when these voices do pop up.  And they will pop up.  And for good reason. For me, I've come to recognize fear and the voices of "not enough" as a sign I'm stepping out of my comfort zone, but deeper than that, I'm owning my truth in a more powerful way and my truth may very much differ from conventional wisdom.  There's risk in speaking your mind and sharing your truth.  There's risk in pivoting in new directions.  There's risk in trying something new or pursuing a passion or loving someone with your whole heart.  But there is no way around this risk... only through.  And the way we get through is with vulnerability, which is probably why I love Brené's work so much.  Courage and vulnerability are so deeply entwined and both are necessary for us to rise to our own truths in spite of fear and the voices of "not enough". 3.  The voices of "not enough" are not your truth. This is one of those truths that I wish I would have learned when I was about 11.  Before anxiety started.  Before depression started.  Before addiction started.  Before codependency started.  Before self-abandonment started.  If I would have known that the voices of "not enough" were never my truth, maybe I wouldn't have given them so much power.  But that wasn't my journey.  Instead, my life has been a journey of coming home to my truth. If you've done this work, you know what this journey is like.  You know that it can feel like a street fight for a good long while.  You know you can stay in self-defeating patterns for years even when you "know" how to change.  And you can get stuck in a downward spiral of knowing how to do differently, but not truly being ready to do it because you don't believe you're worth better.  And it's toxic. But, I will say... taking the soul's journey of coming home to your truth and realizing the journey is never done changes the way you live your life.  It changes the way you see yourself.  It changes the way you love.  And for all the years I've spent in non-truths, to be in place where life feels much more full of real truths is like I've arrived for myself in a way that feels like home. For years, I needed other people's validation more than my own.  I desperately needed to belong, which is a basic human need.  But I feel more than ever, what is most important, is to belong to and with yourself - to live with integrity and integrity is built on living your truth. So, how do you know your truth? It's simple.  You're whole.  You're perfect.  You're deserving.  You're complete.  You're capable.  You're strong.  You're lovable.  You're worthy.  You're enough.  That's the truth of all of our souls because that's the nature of souls.  Souls don't hustle for any of these things because they don't need to.  You don't need to.  Be wary of any relationship, institution, culture, group, or belief system that makes you question your worthiness. 4.  Discernment is the path to enoughness. If there's anything I'm most excited about diving into on Wild and Holy Radio, it's this - how we find our truth and live it and what this actually looks like in action. I know I've shared this quote probably hundreds of times now, but it speaks to the gravity of discernment with such conviction, it warrants me to share it again. "Re-examine all you've been told in school or church or in any book, and dismiss whatever insults your own soul." There are two parts here - re-examining and dismissing.  And both take courage.  But both lead to truth. The journey of cultivating more enoughness has been a process of unsubscribing from anything and everything that hasn't felt like my truth.  And truth, to me, feels a lot like love.  Not judgmental, manipulative, needy, or fearful love, but unconditional, all-welcoming, non-judgmental, healthy, whole love.  It's required me to open my mind to things I was previously closed to.  It's required I look at life through someone else's view point.  It's required I explore things I previously thought were weird or crazy.  It's required me to realize I have much more to learn than what I already know.  And because of that, I've embraced a curiosity for life instead of living in the places of certainty or black and white. But more than that, discernment isn't just re-examining.  It's learning how to hear your own voice over the noise of the world and choosing to follow that voice as often as possible.  It's about flexing your bravery muscles and learning to recognize what alignment feels like for you and let go of, shift, pivot, dismiss the things that no longer feel like truth. Dismissing is hard.  Letting go is hard.  Shifting and pivoting... also hard.  Which is why I'm so big on permission.  You're allowed to leave any story that no longer feels like truth.  You're allowed to leave any relationship that no longer feels like love.  You're allowed to leave work that no longer feels like your calling.  You're allowed to shift, to grow, to evolve, and change. Discernment and Shifting are in a beautiful love affair, but it always leads to more alignment and alignment feels like truth and truth is the foundation for enoughness. I can't wait to dive into this one even more so on Wild and Holy Radio and really take it to it's deepest spiritual levels.   There's so much here and it's so rich and so good and so liberating!  I can't wait! 5.  Enoughness is the foundation for healthy love. With every single conversation I've had on enoughness, it always comes back to love.  Enoughness gives us a certainty in who we are and what we deserve.  It not only revolutionizes the way we think about and treat ourselves, but it drastically shifts the way we love the people closest to us.  And this goes for how we love our spouse, our friends, our co-workers, and our children because it allows us to be the ultimate receivers of love as well.  When enoughness is our foundation, we view other people's action through a loving lens.  We recognize that everyone is doing the best they can.  We realize other people's actions have so much more to do with what they're going through than they have to do with us and just this gift alone, this gift of depersonalization, deeply shifts the way we experience others and ourselves. Instead of walking through life feeling triggered, we walk through life feeling whole and serene.  It doesn't mean we're void of worry.  It doesn't mean our feelings don't get hurt from time to time.  It doesn't mean we won't need to set boundaries because we will, but we see and experience people through a loving perspective instead of needing more from them than they can give at the time.  We are more able to let people be who they are instead of needing them to be someone different. We learn to celebrate the people close to us just like we learn to celebrate ourselves with all our dichotomies and paradoxes. We start to see the people we love as perfect just as they are for who they're to become, the impact they're here to make, the lessons they're here to learn, and the lessons they're here to teach us. So not only does enoughness shift the way we love, but it also shifts what we deserve.  We no longer stay in toxic relationships.  We no longer put up with abuse.  We no longer stay in situations out of obligation or outdated thinking.  We're willing to choose ourselves, ask for what we need, stay in the room when things are hard, be willing to be vulnerable and be all in while also knowing where our lines are and knowing what actions we'll take if they're crossed.  Enoughness is deeply honoring.  It's deeply loving.  And it's deeply courageous.  Enoughness is the foundation for healthy, vibrant, soul-shifting love! Whew!  When I first started this podcast, I had no idea where this conversation was going to lead me.  I didn't know enoughness would be this whole thing that took over my life for two years.  I also didn't know doing my own work around this would set me free in ways I couldn't have imagined.  And yet, I know my work isn't done.  It never will be.   Because just like fear and "not enough" are part of the human experience, so is choosing courage and truth and the longer I walk this planet, I become aware of more and more layers I want to strip away to live braver and live truer.  And I hope you're right there with me!! Join me for the final episode on Thursday as we go even deeper on the topic of enoughness and don't forget to join me on the Wild and Holy Radio Launch Team for the behind the scenes launch of this new conversation plus my first sponsors, first guests, and never before heard interviews you get to hear first! I'll see you on Thursday for our final episode!  You guys.... a new adventure is in sight and I am SO excited!!!! xx

It's Transformational Thursday, y'all and I'm so pumped for our guest today!  Not only is it the last guest interview of the season AND of The Enoughness Revolution, but I'm getting to talk to an amazing entrepreneur who has been so inspiring for me on my journey!   But before I introduce you to her, I want to make sure you heard my announcement on Monday!  The Enoughness Revolution is coming to an end with episode 150 debuting next week and there's a whole new conversation starting July 31st called Wild and Holy Radio!   You guys, if you've loved The Enoughness Revolution and the conversation on worthiness, you're going to love Wild and Holy Radio because we're going WAY deeper into living our truth, becoming whole, knowing we're holy, and being our wildest and fullest expression in the world.  Seriously.... you do NOT want to miss this! I've already put together a free FB group for us called the Wild and Holy Radio Launch Team where I'll be giving you a behind the scenes look as I reach out to guests,, secure sponsorship from some amazing product based businesses who are supporting spiritual living, plus giveaways, and all kinds of excitement as we launch this new conversation in the world and I would REALLY LOVE if you were a part of all that.   You can join me right here!   So, to say I'm excited about our guest today is an understatement.  I've been following her for several years now and not only does she create killer content, but I love the way she connects with people and I so knew we would have an amazing conversation.  And an amazing conversation we had! Today, I'm speaking to the lovely Alex Beadon.   With over 1.6 million views on YouTube, Alex Beadon is a business coach who helps people learn how to sell their digital products and services online in a way that feels good *and* makes money. She's the founder of "The Spark Lounge" and is on a mission to help business owners blend energy and mindset work with proven business strategy, so that they can make a full-time income creating work in the world that matters to them the most.  Alex is such the real deal and I couldn't help but fall in love with her top 3 tips for creating joy in life work and love, which are:  1. Clarify what joy looks like and feels like for you 2. Own it before it arrives 3. Take inspired action We go into all kinds of juicy details on all three of these plus what staying in alignment really looks like while riding the emotional rollercoaster that is entrepreneurship!  Such a good conversation!   Connect with her on social!  She has one of the most engaged audiences I've ever seen and she's always doing something fun for her community.  Youtube Channel: youtube.com/user/alexbeadon Instagram instagram.com/alexbeadon/ Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/thealexbeadon Facebook Personal Page https://www.facebook.com/abeadon Twitter twitter.com/alexbeadon Website alexbeadon.com I'll see you in a few days for our last Motivational Monday before we take a short summer break and come back with a whole new conversation that is Wild and Holy Radio! Don't miss out.  Join the launch team here for a backstage pass

Happy Memorial Day, everyone!  Especially if you're in the US.  Before we get into today's episode, I want to bring our focus to why we celebrate today and what we're honoring. There are hundreds of families today who are missing a loved one, a loved one who paid the ultimate price for our freedom and safety.  Yet, it wasn't just them that paid this price.  It's also the spouses and children growing up without their parent.  There is no greater sacrifice than that. As a military spouse, I feel this intimately.  My husband has been the pilot on four angel flights where he's brought fallen soldiers home to their families.  On one hand there's been honor to be able to bring these soldiers home.  And on the other, there's been grief as it's a somber reminder of the cost of war. So as you celebrate today, please don't forget what we're honoring and please send some intentional love and light to those who have paid the ultimate price. Thank you! So, this weekend was my son's first birthday and with that came a wave of emotion. I noticed how fast the year went by and yet how long some of those days have been in between. This past year has been quite the journey of deepening into motherhood and watching this part of me ascend. It's made me acutely aware of my strengths, but also acutely aware of my shortcomings. Being a mom has made me want to be a better a person, a braver person, and teach my child the magic and miracles of life that surround him and are in him as he pursues his own path. I didn't always used to look for magic or miracles or signs or breadcrumbs. For a long while, it seemed I spent the majority of my time creating plans – my plans. There was no room for magic or miracles or signs or breadcrumbs. And because of that, there was a lot of anxiety. Anxiety happens when we need to be in control. We have a vision and stress ourselves to death to make sure it all works out. And there are plenty of things we can focus on to control – our partners- the way they talk, the way they act, the way they help us with chores. Our children – what they eat, what they wear, how they present themselves, what grades they get, what schools they get into. Our lives- we can spend an awful lot of energy trying to ensure certain things happen while preventing others. It took me a long time to realize there's very little in my control. This awareness increased my anxiety the first time I realized it, but then a peace came over me as I realized control was all a fallacy. The times things did go well weren't all my doing. The times bad things could have happened, but didn't were also not all my doing. There was some other hand in all of this. Coming face to face with the limits of my power was infuriating at first. I'd still fall into the same old trap of trying to change my partner. I still fall into the same old trap of trying to make my child nap when I want him to. And every now and then, I still fall into the deep dark hole of trying to force my way in the world instead of allowing, instead of inviting, instead of having a preference instead of a goal. It's funny…. the more I sought control over things outside of myself, the more out of control I felt.   And the more I let go of control, the more in control of my life I became. This has shown up over and over again for me. Especially in relationships wanting people to feel a certain way about me, but not being able to force it. Or trying to force a certain career path when it was never meant for me in the first place. Or trying to meet a goal that my ego had set for me to feel enough only to feel as though I horribly missed the mark. The more and more I tried to get my way, the more powerless I felt. And looking back, I was so attached to “MY WAY”, I didn't see all the signs. I didn't see all the breadcrumbs leading me in a different direction. I didn't see those relationships were never my forever love. I didn't see those life directions were taking me further away from my true calling. I didn't see all the synchronicities that were lining me up pointing me in the right direction. And the thing that skewed my vision the most was the idea I wasn't enough. Why else do we try and convince someone to love us when true love needs no convincing? Why else do we get in power struggles with our kids other than it threatens our authority? Why else do we stay in a job that makes us feel like we're dying? Because we don't trust ourselves enough to take the leap? Maybe we're not good enough after all! The past two years, I've been talking about enoughness, how we cultivate it, how we maintain it, how we find our way back to it when we get lost in the voices of “not enough”, which are never our truth by the way. For the past two years, I've been studying worthiness and the way it plays out in all kinds of ways keeping us from the love we deserve, the life we deserve, the work we deserve, and the courage we deserve. I think we all know the ways in which it shows up in our own lives, the way we cower instead of believe, the way we second guess instead of have faith, the way we try and control instead of surrender. It's a vulnerable thing to stand in your worthiness, but something magical happens when you do. You become a much more powerful observer of your life, yet you also become increasingly aware of your power. You realize you don't have to force or control or predict or prove. You're whole as you are. You're enough as you are and you can surely have preferences, you can surely have dreams, but you become much more open to the way in which they all play out. You start to become increasingly more aware that everything is always working in your favor. There is never a need to worry because the Universe has your back. All the fears of being judged or misunderstood are replaced with a silent power that's strong and unyielding because you know other people's validation will never be more important than your own. And because of this, you trust yourself more, but you trust the Universe and God even more so because you no longer doubt your divinity. And that's where the belief in breadcrumbs come in. Instead of needing to know the whole plan, your life becomes an adventure taking one step after one step as it appears in front of you and letting where this path may lead tickle your curiosity. I've found that each time I follow a breadcrumb, a new vision for the future comes with it. My soul dreams up all kinds of ideas of where these breadcrumbs may lead and just like any good dream, it motivates me to keep on going, to keep on following the breadcrumbs. Each breadcrumb leads to a deeper vision for the future and keeps carrying me in ways I couldn't have predicted nor could I have planned. And then you realize how boring life would be if you knew what was coming all along. And in a way, we do know what's coming. The people I run with will live extraordinary lives – wide open to love and adventure, blessings and loss. Their hearts will experience the depth and breadth of life as they always move forward in search of what feels like truth and good in their bones. They're curious, so curious, as to where their life will lead and without even noticing it, they'll weave a beautiful life, a life more beautiful than they could have ever planned. That's the power of breadcrumbs. I don't need to know where mine lead, only that they feel like truth and good in my bones and that the next step is necessary for more of the future to be revealed. And so I'm taking it! The concept of Wild and Holy found me earlier this year as I was deepening into my book writing process and the message I feel most called to share. Wild and Holy came to me while I was making my way back to church, a very vulnerable practice for me and it's seriously no surprise that this idea found me then because I needed to be reminded that no church or school or book or system will ever be the decider of my holiness. I've already claimed that for myself and it comes from living my truth. It comes from running wild. Of reclaiming the pieces of me I had given away because I thought they weren't enough, I thought they didn't belong. I needed that reminder as I sat in those pews that brought up all kinds of negative feelings. I needed those words to remind me that nothing will ever be between me and my divinity – no person outside myself making the rules or suggesting I conform myself to boxes. Divinity is free. Worthiness is free. Enoughness is free. And we only get to these things when we refuse to let others opinions or beliefs dictate who we are in the world. We have to be brave enough to hold our own opinions, to trust ourselves, to cultivate our own beliefs and live by them with integrity. That's what wildness means to me and it's the holiest work you'll ever do. It's the holiest work I've ever done and continue to do. After all, this is the journey of the seeker – always on the search for what feels like truth and good in our bones. So, friends….. The Enoughness Revolution is coming to an end at it's 150th episode and Wild and Holy Radio will be coming in it's place! I'm ready to follow this breadcrumb to wherever it shall lead and bring our community along with me! I don't know if anything has felt this good in my bones or felt more true than Wild and Holy does to me every single time I say it. There's something that moves through me like electricity and a shiver. I feel turned on in a way I can't explain, enlivened, excited, and like I'm stepping into some really big shoes. But dreams and visions are supposed to scare you. They're supposed to scare you with a rock steady flow of certainty flowing underneath. It's intuitive and guided, certain and strong and I am so excited for this next conversation! Wild and Holy Radio will be launching on July 31st, my 34th birthday with new conversations on how we reclaim our real truths, release our non-truths, and become our fullest expression in the world.   We'll be talking about God and all the mystical ways this powerful life force shows up. We'll be talking about love – how we choose it, how we become it, how we offer it and receive it, how we pour it into our relationships for life-changing experiences of feeling seen, heard, supported, and known. We'll be talking about purpose – how we find it, how we pursue it, how we creatively express it in the world. And we'll be talking about spiritual living – how we trust more and worry less, how we forgive more and grudge less, how we bravely experience the messiness of life with all it's twists and turns and losses and celebrations. We'll talk about becoming our most loving selves, our most trusting selves, our bravest selves, our wildest selves. Because all of this is holy work. There is no holier work than living your truth and honoring your soul and I want to be a lighthouse for the wildest and holiest work we can do! I hope you'll join me! We still have three more amazing episodes on the Enoughness Revolution. I've already opened a Wild and Holy Radio Launch Team FB group, which I've linked to in the show notes. Together, we'll be sharing Wild and Holy Radio far and wide. There will be giveaways and celebration. There will be behind the scenes as I reach out to spiritual teachers. There will be sneak peaks of some of the newest episodes. And there will be a whole lot of community as we gear up to share this new message with the world. So…. This is where my breadcrumbs are leading me. To Wild and Holy. To a new conversation, a deeper conversation on spirituality, love, purpose, faith, trust, magic, and miracles. Are you excited? I'm excited, y'all! There's nothing more exhilarating that taking a leap in faith, than following the signs not knowing where you're going to end up, but if I were a betting woman, I'd bet they're going to lead us somewhere great, somewhere deep, somewhere free, and somewhere holy! Ahhhhhhh….. come join me on the Wild and Holy Radio Launch Team you guys! This is going to be sooooooooooo good!!!! Ok… I have an amazing guest for you guys on Thursday, a person I've been following for awhile now and we had the best conversation about a lot of the things we talked about today, actually. She's a firecracker with a huge heart who's going to be sharing so many juicy nuggets behind the scenes of following her heart and reaching her dreams. It's a good one! Until then, happy Monday. Have a powerful, magical, loving start to your week

It's Transformational Thursday, friends and today's episode is actually part of a full Pleasure Series I'm putting together this summer, but this interview shook so much loose for me that I wanted to go ahead and release it NOW and give it a re-release this summer when the full series is ready. Today's conversation may bring a lot to the surface for you. It surely did for me! I was blown away by the aha's and connections that were made into today's interview and I hope it has just as powerful effect for you. Today's guest is the lovely Steena Marie, Spiritual Channel and High Priestess Healer, who is a mystical woman on a mission to unleash women from the overwhelm of religious dogma, sexual shame, and past emotional baggage to resurrect their divine pelvic power and connection to Spirit so they can harness the full potential of their orgasmic, divine feminine power and healing gifts in their lives, relationships, and work. Her unique blend of emotional alchemy, energy healing, embodiment, psychic channeling, and soul work create a sacred space for her clients to shift out of victimhood, TURN ON their inner High Priestess and reign in their glory. Steena's journey from good-little-girl to embodied, pleasure-filled High Priestess required a deep release of fear, shame, perfectionism, and self-sabotage patterns that allowed her to radically own her power and truth. She was done begging external authorities and religious institutions to validate her healing gifts and purpose when she decided to go all in and rise into her calling as a deeply intuitive, Jesus-loving, mystical leader. On her healing path through motherhood, marriage, and entrepreneurship Steena has learned the art of sacred, aligned, sexy success on her own terms which she now teaches in her own work. I am so excited to dive even deeper into this intersection between spirituality and sexuality and find more freedom here! More on that to come! If you're ready to get a taste of Steena's work, check out her free 5 Day Divine Program onfiremanifestation.com Shift out of self-sabotage and doubting your divine gifts to fully owning your ability to manifest everything from magical clients to a mind blowing night with your lover. This is a full immersion, no fluff, practical walk through the exact tools I've used in my life and teach my clients to release the baggage holding them back so they can wield their creative feminine power - guilt free! Additionally, you can connect with Steena on social here: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/steenamariebiz/ FB Group: highpriestessunleashed.com IG: instagram.com/steenamariei Until then, have an amazing weekend and I'll see you in a few days for another Motivational Monday!

It's Motivational Monday friends and there's been a common theme coming up in my client calls lately and I usually take that as a sign that there are more people out there struggling in a similar area. But before we get into today's episode, make sure you're signed up for my next free Masterclass: Four Higher Level Needs Every Conscious Couple Craves to Feel Seen, Heard, Supported, and Loved   It's all going down this Wednesday, May 24th at 1pm CST. So... onto today's episode! The topic of today is finding our passion, our purpose, and knowing why we're here. I want to first start with a little bit of psychological background here because it's important.   When we arrive to this point of our lives where we're questioning what our purpose is, we've arrived to an existential question. Those who are existentially awake are usually deeply oriented to understanding the meaning of their life, cultivating authenticity and full expression of who they are, living intentionally (or making the most of their time here), and living a purpose driven life. Our life purpose isn't always a super easy thing to awaken to, especially when we feel as though we're good at lots of things or in some cases “not good at anything”.  This becomes increasingly frustrating when we're told that to find our life purpose, simply follow our passions or talents and these aren't always abundantly clear.  Elizabeth Gilbert has an amazing TED talk on this. Watch it here. I've had conversation with several clients over the past few weeks as they've been struggling with this existential issue – what is my life path? What am I here to do? These are the kinds of questions that can paralyze us.  The not knowing can feel like such a vast gap in our lives and it seems the more we try and think it through, the more frustrated we become.  There's a reason for that. When it comes to identifying your passions, or even interests, we can't think about these things and determine if they're “our thing”.  We must do them, we must experience them.  This is the only way. Why?  Because alignment is something that is felt.  Not something that is cognitively constructed.  It isn't something that you can think through.  It's something you feel.  And the only way we can know how something truly feels is to do it! Think of it this way, someone can tell you all day and all night what it's going to feel like to give birth, but you won't know exactly what it feels like until you actually do it!  Same philosophy!   As I look back on my life and understanding my life purpose, I've become clearer and clearer by trying lots of things.  There's just as much value as knowing something “is not it” as there is in knowing something “is”.  Both provide clarity, clarity in which we can only get by actually trying something on, following a path a little ways, dipping our toe in the water of something to see how it makes us feel. Are we more intrigued or interested in this thing?  Does it rub us the wrong way?  Does it create an immediate “no” for us?  How will we know if we don't try? The thing that keeps most of us from trying are two fears: 1.  What if it isn't it? 2. What if I'm not good at it? In the first scenario, we often fear that exploring this path only to find out it isn't the right one will be a waste of time and a waste of money, but learning more about what you like and don't like is never a waste of time or money.  In fact, that's some of the most valuable self-exploration you can ever do. It's a big world out there, guys!  Trying to narrow down your “thing” when there are a million things can feel completely overwhelming!  Having an experience in one area and knowing it isn't your thing at least marks something off the list and gives you more information for what you're looking for instead. We have to be comfortable with something being the wrong fit in order to find the right one.  Take a class to learn more about something.  Fail at something.  Totally hate something.  Spend half a year exploring something only to find it isn't your thing.  I can guarantee you you'll still walk away from that experience with wisdom you wouldn't have otherwise. Now, the second scenario, the fear we aren't good at it.  All of us have innate talents and gifts.  Some of us are much more aware of these gifts than others, yet a talent or gift is absolutely worthless if you never spend the time developing it. I know very few people who are naturally gifted at something to the point where it requires no “honing”. Each and every person starts at the same place – the beginning – the awareness that they have a knack for something and then invest the time, energy, money, and self-belief into further improving that knack. Being good at something comes with practice, experience, and further education: all things that in our control to do, if we can simply get over the fear that maybe we won't be the best at something right away.   No one is the best at something right away.  No one. I was sitting in church yesterday and the reverend shared this scripture with us that made me immediately think of life purpose.  It goes: “A sower went out to sow his seed, and as he sowed, some fell on the path and was trampled on, and the birds of the air ate it up. Some fell on the rock; and as it grew up, it withered from lack of moisture.  Some fell among thorns, and the thorns grew with it and choked it.  Some fell into good soil, and when it grew, it produced a hundredfold.” Now, trust me when I say that including a Bible verse today is a big deal for me spiritually because it's been something I've been turned off to for a long time.  Any time one thing is used as the absolute truth and closes off all the other avenues to truth, there's a red flag that goes off in my brain. That's like saying there's only one path to God when God is infinite in his/her ability to find his/her way into our lives. But, I've been reading “What is the Bible?” by Rob Bell and learning that the Bible is a book that was written by humans on how to be human – the struggles we all face in believing in God and trying to be a good person so I'm starting to open up to it a bit more and be intrigued for the spiritual wisdom it contains. This verse reminds me of the metaphor of throwing spaghetti against the wall and seeing what sticks.  Now, I know there are lots of ways you can interpret scripture, but as I was sitting there yesterday, I was reflecting back to the conversations with clients and looking at each of their life situations – both desperately wanting to know why they're here and what they're purpose is and being too afraid to simply try something because what if it isn't it and what if they aren't good at it. This verse about sowing seeds on a path and them being trampled on or eaten by birds – yes, you may try something only to feel as though this thing was literally stamped out, the door was shut in your face, nothing ever came of those seeds.  I've definitely been there.  Or you may sow seeds on some rock where there is literally nothing within you or outside of you to provide any nutrition or moisture.  I've been there too, thinking it's my thing, but it never grew no matter how much I wanted it to.  It simply wasn't my thing.  So you keep going.  You may sow some seeds among thorns, which means to me, you sow seeds without the right support.  You'll learn how to surround yourself with the right people as you pursue your purpose.  Having encouragement and inspiration guarantees that your dreams won't be choked right out of you.  But then, you may sow your seeds on good soil and it will produce a hundredfold.  A hundredfold, you guys! This verse says to me if you keep sowing seeds, keep throwing them out there, keep being persistent, you'll eventually hit good soil.   Notice that the verse doesn't hit good soil right away.  It has to be trampled on a path, eaten by birds, thrown among the rocks and starve, and among the thorns to be choked.  But if still you rise to keep sowing seeds, when you hit the good soil – your purpose expands, the path expands a hundredfold. Now I ask you, was it a waste of time to sow seeds on a path that was trampled upon and eaten by birds?  No.   You learned not to sow your seeds there or in that way.  And what about the rocks?  Was that a waste of time?  No.  You learned your purpose needs certain nutrition to survive.  And what about the thorns?  Was that a waste?  Of course not.  You learned a very important lesson- that your dreams need the right support. And with all this wisdom, you finally learned to recognize what good soil looks like and you planted there.  And it expanded a hundredfold. As I look at my life journey to understanding my purpose, it's felt a lot like throwing spaghetti at a wall and seeing what sticks.  It's been a lot like sowing a lot of seeds until I've found good soil.  I've gotten really comfortable with simply exploring and learning and gaining wisdom along the way.  Each experience, each path I've explored has given me more and more clarity around who I am, what I'm good at, and why I'm here.  And I know it will do the same for you. As I was laying in bed last night scrolling through Facebook, I came across a commencement speech by Will Ferrell.  He was talking about graduating college and immediately moving back home with his parents.  He had an interest in comedy and probably some innate talent, but again, if he never explored this interest and never developed this talent – it would have been a complete waste.  We wouldn't have Old School.  Or Elf.  Or any other amazing film or skit he's ever created. But this wasn't the best part.  He said when he first started doing comedy, he kept throwing darts at a dartboard.  Even when he was hired onto Saturday Night Live, he kept throwing darts at a dartboard.  He kept honing and honing and honing his craft, but he was willing to try and fail and try and fail.  He threw a lot of spaghetti at the wall, guys. And the result?  If you throw enough darts at a dartboard, you'll eventually hit the bullseye. Purpose is only one piece to the puzzle.  Talent is only one piece to the puzzle.  Passion, interests – only one piece of the puzzle. You have to be willing to sow a lot of seeds and yield nothing.  You have to be willing to throw a lot of darts at a dartboard and miss all together.  You have to be willing to throw a lot of spaghetti at a wall and not be attached to it all sticking. For a lot of my life, it's felt like I'm just shooting in the dark – trying one thing and seeing how it feels. But, I went to a business conference a few weeks ago in Austin and the woman presenting said something that completely shifted my view point on this.  She said you have to be testing things all the time.  You have to be throwing things out there, gathering data, and going back to the drawing board.  This is what makes the best entrepreneurs.   And that's what I've been doing this whole time – testing, testing, and testing some more.   Hoping I don't fail, but knowing if I do, failure is only information to move forward with more clarity and no failure is ever a waste of time or a waste of money. And in that way, “failure” isn't really real.  It's only data. Be willing to be curious.  Be willing to test.  Be willing to explore a path of a small interest and see what else expands for you there.  Be willing to learn.  Take a class.  Try something new.  Sow some seeds.  This is how we find our good soil and where our purpose will expand a hundredfold. And it all starts with being willing to sow some seeds.  Maybe lots of them, but man, I bet that'll be a beautiful life!   So, I want to hear from you!  Do you feel like you're throwing a lot of darts?  Sowing a lot of seeds?  I know how frustrating it can feel when you're testing, testing, testing to no avail.  But every step matters.  Every life experience matters.  Every piece of the puzzle gives you more information to who you are, what you're good at, and why you're here! I'll see you in a few days for another Transformational Thursday and for my next Masterclass on Wednesday at 1pm CST. Join me!!

[ANNOUNCEMENT]  I have a brand new masterclass happening next Wednesday, May 24th at 1pm CST titled: Four Higher Level Needs Every Conscious Relationship Craves to Feel Seen, Heard, Supported, and Loved. If you're currently feeling a lack of fulfillment in your current partnership or want to safeguard your relationship against future problems, come join me.  I'm SO EXCITED about the content I'll be sharing!  And yes, there will be a replay.  Sign up below!    It's another Transformational Thursday episode and today, I'm joined by the lovely Lacey Craig.   Lacey Craig is a business mentor and success coach for high-performing women entrepreneurs. She has her M.S in mental health counseling and her M.B.A. She's been a therapist and the director of large non-profit. She's also the proud owner of two successful online businesses, and the co-host of the Leading Greatly podcast. It's her mission to help other women build and grow their own service-based business that truly lights them up and gives them the personal and financial freedom and impact they've always desired. In this episode, you'll hear how to: 1.  Detach from the Outcome (So powerful, yet so hard to do!) 2.  Stay Empowered!   3.  Celebrate Often   Don't forget to take Lacey's free quiz that she shares in this episode.  You can do that right here!     I'll see you guys for another Motivational Monday in just a few days.  Until then, have a beautiful weekend and I hope I'll see you for the masterclass next week exclusively for Conscious Couples or couples who want to be!  

Yesterday was my first Mother's Day so I couldn't think of anything more important to talk about than the importance of healing our mother wound.  Do you have one? There hasn't been one person I've come across either personally or professionally that didn't have at least something to tease apart from their family of origin.  Even if you had an amazing upbringing and have healthy, vibrant relationships with your parents today, it can still be so incredibly powerful to go back and look at what you've learned about love from each of your parents, especially your mother.   Our mothers are some of our earliest experiences of what it means to love and receive love and we all create stories and narratives around what we need to do to be loved, and more importantly, who we need to be.   In today's episode, I talk about how we tease apart and heal our family of origin relationships even when we have a mother who isn't capable of being in relationship with us.   Learning how to heal and come to a positive place with this is so incredibly necessary for believing you're enough just as you are and living by your own values, beliefs, and the vision you have for yourself.  Some of the most transformational work I've done with my clients has been learning how to love and accept their parents for who they are even when we know so much more is possible for them.   It's my belief that we're all doing the best we can and are parents did the best they could.  It doesn't make what we didn't get right, but it does help us come to a place of acceptance of what was and know not only what we needed then, but becoming the person we always needed and giving those things to ourselves now.   Tune in and let me know what comes up for you and if you want to do some transformational work on the relationship you have with yourself, the relationship you have with others, or the relationship you have with your family of origin, consider working with me 1:1.  You can schedule a free call with me here and check out my 1:1 coaching package here!  One last thing!  The Enoughness Challenge, hosted by my friend Makenna Pennycooke, starts today!  To hear my best tools for cultivating enoughness at home plus 5 other areas, make sure you check that out here!  I'll see you in a few days for a Transformational Thursday!  

It's Transformational Thursday, friends and what better way to kick the day off than by sharing one of the most powerful cognitive tools I've found to put me in charge of how I'm perceiving the world.  P.S.  You'll get the most out of this episode if you actually sit down and do this activity.   The more familiar you get with it, the more you can do it in your head, but for the first time, I think writing it out is super helpful.   So for all you runners out there or commuters, make sure you take some time when you get to a seated position to dive in even deeper.   I can't even tell you what this tool has done for my life!  When I say it's life changing, I'm being completely serious.   How many times have you felt victim to your emotions?  How many times have you felt stuck or insecure or that things aren't going your way? We're busting the lid off that today and putting you back in the driver's seat!   Mentioned in this episode:  Ep 130: Asking for What You Need [It's a good one!] Get ready, girlfriend.  We're going in

Happy Monday, friends!  Right this very moment, I'm packing up the car getting ready to head back down south to San Antonio from Wichita Falls, the place I called home for 3 1/2 years and it's been since 2015 that I've been back.     I've hardly talked about the fact that I'm a military spouse and the dynamic layer this has added to my life the past 8 years.  There have been 3 moves in 5 years and every time we pack up and start over, I leave a piece of my heart behind.  It's been so good to be back visiting friends and the trip as a whole has been such a beautiful reflection.   How often do you take the time to reflect on how much you've grown, how much you've accomplished, how much has changed in the past few years?  And how easy is it for us to lose sight of the person we've become since we left a certain chapter of our lives? We are always in a state of becoming and unbecoming.  I know this to be true.  And as I was in my old town that held so much growth for me, it reminded me of the power of pilgrimage.   The concept of Pilgrimage first came up on my radar reading Rochelle Schieck's book, Qoya, which you can download the first chapter for FREE here.  In the book, it talks about going back to the place in which you were born and honoring all the steps and turns that have happened since really practicing reverence for your life path.   This is what this trip has been like for me.  I went by my old office that housed my first business.  I went back to my old workplace where I was an intern.  I visited so many friends and drove down streets I must have driven down thousands of times when I lived here.  I found myself walking the aisles of our old grocery store that was minutes from our house and it all felt so incredibly normal except everything was different.  I was different.  I am different.  I've become a mother since I left this chapter of my life.  I've closed a brick and mortar business and started a virtual one.  I've coached hundreds of people since then and led 5 group programs.  I've started a podcast and grown it to what it is today.  I've bought a house and deepened my marriage.  I've maintained every single friendship I began in this place.  My energy is different - calmer, stronger, grounded, and truer.   I know myself better than I ever have and know my values and beliefs more intimately.  I have a vision for my life and the impact I want to make that has more clarity than ever before.  Yet, this place grew me.  I remember feeling so lost and discontent here wanting so badly to be further than I was and frustrated that I wasn't.  I remember being depressed for our first year having just left a beautiful chapter of my life in Charleston.   I remember hating being away from the ocean and beautiful scenery I had grown accustomed to.  It was hard, but I dug in and what started off being a difficult, trying time turned into one of the most progressive chapters of my life when it comes to personal development.   I learned how to be content here, how to be happy within myself, how to keep things in perspective and feel my feelings.  I did inner child work and healed some things and realized I was chasing after becoming someone more because I didn't believe I was enough.   So many things took root here and blossomed into beauty I couldn't have seen coming.  I surrendered.  I prayed to God for the first time in years.  I handed things over to something higher than myself.  I worked on trust and faith and forgiveness.   It's amazing to think of all this place held for me and how much those things have continued to grow since then.  It's been 2 short years since this place was home and being back here has been such a beautiful reflection of the home I built within me.   When's the last time you've gone back and visited an old chapter of your life?  Driven by a previous home?  Gone by a previous workplace?  Made your own pilgrimage and reflected on how much you've grown since then?   It's such a powerful way for practicing reverence for who you've become, who you used to be, and the person you're still becoming.   So, as I hit the road to head back to my new home, I'm grateful.  For all the people who entered my life and are still gratefully in it, for all the trials and tribulations and inner work that led to some beautiful places, for the opportunity to learn so much and grow so much in a far away place that was so different from the home I was used to but became a home I'll always cherish as a powerful, progressive, personally satisfying chapter of my life.   I'll see you in a few days for Transformational Thursday!   And tell me in the comments about a recent pilgrimage you've had.  Did it offer you any reflection?  Does this episode inspire you to make a pilgrimage of your own?   Talk soon

It's Transformational Thursday, y'all and before we get into our next guest, who won my heart at first chat, I wanted to open up the door for 2 more lovely souls to join me at Wild and Holy Weekend.  There are still 2 spots remaining for the woman who is ready to reclaim her real truths, release her non-truths, and be her full expression in the world. The weekend I have planned for you is magical and transformational.  Not only will you be spending time getting out of your head and into you heart while deep in the heart of TX, but you'll also be surrounded by amazingly soulful and heart centered women ready to hold you and see you for the strong, beautiful, capable, and deserving [of all the goodness the world has to offer] woman you are! More details can be found here.  I can't wait to welcome you to TX!   Now... back to regularly scheduled programming.   When our next guest first reached out to me to share her story of loss and resiliency, I was touched and inspired to share space with her to hear how she turned life's greatest heartbreak into something beautiful. Today, you're meeting Christine McAlister who has transmuted the tragedy of losing her daughter into triumph and bringing others along with her. An experienced mentor and entrepreneur, Christine McAlister carries the memory and legacy of her daughter forward to motivate and inspire other women to use their unique gifts AND challenges to create and lead the businesses and lives of their dreams. Christine's authenticity and background has inspired thousands around the world.  Described most often as "genuine", her energetic and relatable style has earned her thousands of loyal fans. An award-winning PBS documentarian, a 3-time Olympic Games freelancer, and founder of 2 6-figure businesses & a non-profit, her experience with telling compelling stories makes her a remarkable speaker and guest expert.   In this episode, Christine guides you to more joy by:   1.  Learning to be present, however you can. This makes all the difference. 2.  Journaling your gratitudes, successes and triggers to celebrate and learn from them 3.  Taking at least a full day off every week--you'll return to your work with renewed energy and joy.   I'll see you in a few days for another Motivational Monday.  Until then, have a magical, powerful, soulful weekend!  I believe in you

We're going all the way in this Monday morning, y'all and I'm peeling back some layers on transgenerational family patterns, in particular, my own! My mom is in town, which has given me such a great opportunity to gain more perspective on my own family patterns. In today's episode, I talk about how to challenge our own stories, the reality of truth, the way we give meaning to life events, and the power we can reclaim for ourselves when we choose to look through a different lens. BUT, perhaps one of the most powerful tools I talk about today is how to manage defensiveness.  And this one is SUPER important! Tune in.  I'm sure it will pull up a lot for you, which I'd love to hear about in the comments.  Did this episode open your eyes on anything you've carrying? Lastly, there are 2 spots left for Wild and Holy Weekend and the price goes up TODAY!  BUT, because I love you, I'm extending the Early Bird Rate to 7 pm CST tonight.  To get the Early Bird price though, you have to email me to get a coupon. If you're ready to reclaim your real truths, release your non-truths, and express yourself fully in the world, then join me June 16th-18th in New Braunfels, TX for a delicious, magical, powerful weekend

It's Transformational Thursday, Sisters and I could think of no better way to approach today's transformation than by speaking of my own.   Today Brax turns 11 months, which means we're just shy of a year. A year of huge transition and change and some deep lessons on being flexible and opening myself to receive.   Wow!  So much came up for me during today's episode.  I simply want to start with a big "thank you" for being along this journey with me, for trusting me to hold space for you and the people you love, for continuing to share the podcast and bring others into our community.   Did you know we're adding 500 new subscribers every single month?  That's because of you!   In today's episode, I talk about my biggest lessons I've learned this year and how they've showed up in my personal and professional life.   They're good ones!   And as a friendly reminder, there are only 4 spots left at Wild and Holy Weekend and the price goes up on Monday.  If this has been calling to you, the time is now to buy your ticket!   All details can be found here.   Have a magical, powerful, beautiful weekend, Sister!  Sending you so much love for the path you're actively co-creating with the Divine! 

I'm fresh back from my first weekend away from my son since he was born and I'm happy to report that everything was GREAT!  Sure, it was a pain to drag the breast pump along, but it was great for all involved to have some time away and to switch things up.  And there's always a first for everything.   This weekend offered me some powerful reflection for how easy it is to lose pieces of ourselves in our relationships even when they're well meaning and healthy.  It was a big aha for me to notice how I'd let one tiny little facet of myself go over the past few years and I came home knowing I wanted to reclaim that for myself.  So, I'm passing on this wisdom to you because if there's one thing I know, the one place it's easiest to lose ourselves, it's in our relationships.   And it starts with small things, like picking up certain mannerisms from the people we surround ourselves with to big things like trading in our dreams to for other dreams that better fit with our life partner.   Today, I'm sharing how we maintain our sense of self in our relationships with some reflective activities for you.  And I'm also making a BIG announcement!   Wild and Holy Weekend only has 6 more spots and there are only 6 more days left to take advantage of the Early Bird Rate.   If you're feeling called to reclaim pieces of who you are and release the things that are insulting your soul, I really want you to join me.   Wild and Holy [inaguaral] Weekend is going to be magical, powerful, and soulful.   Come join me for a weekend away sure to reconnect you with who you are and how to express that boldly in the world.   I can't wait to welcome you to TX.   If you're a HELL YES and want to buy your ticket NOW, visit this link that will take you straight to PayPal.  If you want to read more about this dreamy, soulful, delicious weekend I've planned for you, visit this link to learn more about the retreat.   I'll see you on Thursday for another Transformational episode, but tell me a small facet you're going to pull out of the closet and try back on this week.  Put it in the comments so I can check back in with you and see how it goes!  Have a magical start to your week, Sister!  Believing in you always

Ever so often, I fall head over heels in love with someone within the first 15 minutes of talking to them and today's guest just so happens to fall into that category.   Isabel Foxen Duke, the brilliant heart and soul behind Stop Fighting Food, blew me away with her real deal approach, compassionate wisdom, and her willingness to be so open and vulnerable with her own story.   There's no doubt in my mind that she is doing amazing work in the world and approaching change from a very similar perspective as I do.  She doesn't promise shiny objects.  She promises real deal change, soul-level change, which is why I became a supportive affiliate for her work.  I know you'll fall in love with her too and all her amazingly high quality, curated content available for FREE on her website.  Seriously, I look at a LOT of websites and she blew me away with just how many tools she's making available for anyone who is ready to change their relationship with food.  Isabel Foxen Duke is the Creator of Stop Fighting Food — a free video training program for women who want to "stop feeling crazy around food." After years of trying to overcome emotional eating, binge-eating and chronic weight-cycling through "traditional" and alternative approaches, Isabel discovered some radical new ways to get women over their "food issues" once and for all — not just by shifting the mindsets of individuals, but by challenging the dominant diet culture as a whole. A fixture and thought-leader in the greater body-positive movement, Isabel has been featured in the Huffington Post,  Elle Magazine, XOJane, and has been praised by Ricki Lake. Her writing and free guide, How To Not Eat Cake, can be found at www.isabelfoxenduke.com and you can watch her free video training series at www.stopfightingfood.com.   In today's episode, you'll hear Isabel's top 3 tips for creating joy in life, work, and love, which are:   1. Embrace uncertainty in life. Remember every morning that you have no idea what's going to happen. Shed yourself of expectation. Let that be a thrill. It won't all be figured out right now, and it doesn't need to be.    2. Don't resist the moment. Allow what's happening to happen. Sink in and get comfortable with whatever human experience you're having.    3. Practice the skill of enjoyment. Practice enjoyment as an active verb, rather than a passive one.    With Isabel's wisdom and my curiosity, we were guided into such a beautiful, spiritual conversation.  Isabel, thank you so much, Sister, for showing up so big on today's episode.  I'm forever a fan! Have an amazing weekend you guys and don't forget to connect with Isabel.  She's amazing!  I'll see you soon for another motivational Monday

Easter Sunday was yesterday and while I don't currently wear a label for any particular faith, you know I've been revisiting Christianity lately to learn more about Jesus as a spiritual teacher and understand the roots of some spiritual wounds I experience in adolescence. The message yesterday was of course about Christ's supposed death and resurrection – a story that highlights the opportunity of new beginnings, redemption, having a fresh start, and the idea that we have infinite chances to get things right. We always are able to start again. And I love that concept. No matter how wrong things have gone in the past, we can always have a do over. Not only is this incredibly important for cultivating forgiveness, but this concept is the very basis that allows us to make more aligned choices with who we are and who we want to be as we move forward in the future. I came home from service and thought back to the real origins of the Easter holiday though. Having studied many religions and spiritual practices in my life, I know much of what is commercialized today as part of Easter celebration (the eggs, the bunnies, etc.) are actually derived from the Pagan celebration of the Germanic goddess Oestre, the goddess of fertility. Fertility, itself is the sign of new life, but as I was reflecting on this last night, fertility isn't just to give life, although incredibly important. Fertility supports the ongoing life of a lineage. Fertility is also about legacy, which got me thinking about my legacy. What legacy do I want to leave? And how does this tie into the legacy that Christ left? If there's anything I know, it's this… the most powerful force there is in life is love. Love is the one thing that gives our lives meaning. It's the foundation for joy, courage, acceptance, and wholeness. It's the foundation for kindness and compassion, empathy and connection. It's the one thing that so many of us strive for, but yet the one thing that is also the most uncertain. After all, just because you love someone doesn't mean they'll love you back. And just as love is one of the most powerful forces there is, rejection from love is often one of the most painful. So, I was thinking about these things last night – my legacy, Christ's legacy, and love. I'm still getting to know Jesus on a personal level, but I can say wholeheartedly that my study of many religions, faiths, and practices has taught me that spiritual living all comes back to love. I think Jesus does too. And as I've been diving deeper into the foundations of my own work and teachings with clients, I know without a doubt that it all comes back to love – how to learn how to love ourselves and others so we minimize rejection, maximize connection, and build a strong foundation for courage, acceptance, resiliency and joy. As you all know, the concepts of Wild and Holy found me earlier this year as I began writing my first book on how we learn how to love. Why Wild and Holy? Why did these words speak to me so deeply? Well, as I've studied love, I know a few things to be true at this point: Love is intimately tied to our sense of belonging and we only get to belonging by being who we really are. And if you're familiar with Brene Brown's work, you know belonging is not just merely fitting in. In fact, to fit in means we change or present ourselves as who we think others want us to be. Belonging requires us to present ourselves as we actually are. There's an authenticity element to this that cannot be avoided. Yet, there's also a vulnerable element to this as well. What if you present your true self, you let yourself be seen, and instead of being accepted and belonging, you're rejected and abandoned? Remember – love is the most powerful thing, yet it can also be the most painful. It's risky to love because it will always be uncertain. But the one thing that isn't uncertain is loving and belonging with ourselves – of seeing ourselves as worthy of these things and this is perhaps the most important. As I look back on my journey, this is the piece that was missing for so long. I didn't think I was worthy of love or belonging as I was so I changed myself to be who I thought the world wanted me to be. Inside, I felt not-enough, like I needed to pretend and when you truly believe this, you abandon yourself in tiny ways that leave big impacts on your soul. You take on others' beliefs to win a sense of belonging. You agree with others' opinions so you don't risk rejection. You silence your needs so you aren't difficult to love because dear God, make it as easy as possible so you won't be abandoned. And all of this takes you further and further away from who you really are. Yet, we can't truly love ourselves unless we are who we are!! Nor can we truly belong! My legacy is this – teach others how to love who they are by rejecting the things that insult their soul, giving themselves permission to be wild – to embrace the unique beautiful and sometimes infuriating qualities that make them who they are – to stop hiding, to start shining and reclaim the pieces they've given away. To give them permission to want what they want, like what they like, and be their fullest expression. And do this by teaching you to stay in the room for what you need and how you feel. To be see yourself as whole and complete, to heal the things that stand in the way of your wholeness and bring you home to the holiness that lives within you. All of the things we want most are at the foundation of love and belonging, but nothing is more potent than loving and belonging to ourselves first. And to do this, we have to stop criticizing ourselves, stop judging ourselves, and start accepting and loving and worshipping ourselves as the perfect creations we are. Perfect in the sense that you are fallible, you'll make mistakes, you'll make wrong turns, you'll put your foot in your mouth, you'll be unkind when you're hurt. And perfect in the sense that you are an ever evolving, learning, integrating, shifting human being who is trying their best and gaining immense wisdom and courage to be better and freer along the way. This is why the ideas of Wild and Holy mean so much to me because to be Wild means we return to our essence. We reclaim who we are so we can truly belong not just to ourselves, but with others. And to be holy means we honor our path, we practice reverence for our perfection, we embrace who we are, love who we are, celebrate who we are, and worship the beautiful gift of the life we have holding ourselves as sacred. Brené says the practice of self-love is to learn how to trust ourselves, to respect ourselves, and be kind and compassionate with ourselves. What this means to me is prioritize ourselves, honor ourselves, and value ourselves. To realize we can be who we are and loveable. In fact, there is no other way.   To be Wild and Holy is to celebrate this – to giv ourselves the permission to express our full selves in the world and believe in ourselves so wholeheartedly that we no longer question if we're worthy. We know we are. This is what it means to become whole. So, as I reflect on all the messages from Easter Sunday and the Pagan goddess Oestre, being Wild and Holy is our salvation, our freedom, our invitation to love and be loved. And although it's my personal goal to leave a legacy of love, to teach love, to practice love, I think it is our human duty to learn how to love and leave our future generations with more tools and our best examples of what it truly means to love ourselves first and to then practice that with others. To teach each other they are worthy of love and belonging by simply being themselves – their Wild and Holy, whole selves. So how do we get there? Practice self-forgiveness and acceptance. If you're working on this holy piece of seeing yourself as worthy – forgiveness and acceptance are the spiritual tools to healing shame and insecurities that stand in your way. Practice staying in the room. If you're working on this wild piece of being who you are, you have to stay in the room for yourself, which means owning your feelings, giving yourself the permission to feel what you're feeling, and to speak up when someone says or does something that stings or hurts. Wildness asks for expression, for boldness, not shrinking or shying away, not self-abandoning what you need or how something impacts you. There's a difference here between staying in the room when things upset you and being overly sensitive. I'll talk more about that on a future episode because this is an important piece of the healing journey. Practice kindness. It's not only what you say, but how you say it. Learning to be wild and holy means we're conscious of the impact we have on others and ourselves. When we stay in the room, that doesn't give us free reign to say whatever we feel in an unkind way. Words matter. Tone matters. And that goes with how we speak to ourselves too.  Practice self-trust. Give value to your thoughts and feelings. Listen to Episode 131 where I talk about how we learn how to trust ourselves, including our intuition. Self-trust is the foundation for believing in yourself. And believing in yourself is a core ingredient of living with more courage. Practice courage. Courage means choosing vulnerability and letting yourself be seen. It means being who you are and taking actions that allow you to bloom into who you want to become. It takes courage to change, to blossom, to go out of your comfort zone, but that's where growth happens. And you'll never regret growth because growth is the foundation for bravery. Listen to Episode 82 on Being Brave.   Mentioned in this episode: Wild and Holy Weekend Tickets are on sale now for an intimate TX Hill Country Retreat for women who are ready to burn down their non-truths, reclaim their real truths, and experience more love, light, and liberation. Find more info on this unique retreat HERE!   Want to share this retreat with a friend?  Send her to bit.ly/wildholyweekend! I'll see you in a couple of days for an amazing guest interview you don't want to miss!  

It's Transformational Thursday, Sisters and after a heavy episode on Monday, I've had a bit of a vulnerability hangover and have been sitting with why I felt we needed to go there.  But as I was preparing for today's episode, it hit me.  Ahhhh, we had to go there on Monday so we could go here today. So on today's episode, I'm bringing it back to why we do this work- so we can learn to hear our truth over all the noise that's out there in the world and over the self-doubt our insecurities create for us. In this episode, we're diving into the nature of our soul and how it speaks to us, how we reclaim the truth that lives within us, how we reclaim our wildness by leaning into trust and faith, and how we release the non-truths to live by our real truths! This is a good one! Mentioned in this episode: How we learn to overcome the battle between who our ego thinks we need to be and who our soul knows we're capable of being. How we battle back against our self-doubt by using the gift of contrast. How we align ourselves with our wildness by shifting our mindset and deepening into allowing vs. control. Learning to be a WILD VINE and trust the process. How we shift our view of God to seek more self-compassion. How we use self-compassion to hear the voice of our soul. Releasing the non-truths through burning rituals and physically shaking them out and return them to the Earth. If you're feeling called to release non-truths and reclaim your REAL TRUTHS, I'd love to invite you to Wild and Holy Weekend, a beautiful retreat for 10 women who are ready to experience more LIGHT, LOVE, and LIBERATION.   Join me for a unique retreat blending movement and ritual, connection and expansion, truth telling and brave action to be your fullest expression.  And yes, there will be TX sized hugs and tacos!  All retreat info can be found here. Tickets are on sale now.  You can save $50 by purchasing your ticket by May 1st!  Included in your ticket is beautiful lodging and delicious meals, a personalized Qoya class by my friend, Rachel Anzalone, plus a weekend of being seen, heard, loved, and supported!   I am SO excited!  Purchase your ticket here for $325!   I'll see you in a few days for another Motivational Monday.  Have a beautiful, wild, and holy weekend

This episode is going to have a little bit of a different tone.   Where I'd like to start is here:  How do we lose our wildness? I finished bingeing 13 Reasons Why tonight and right now, I'm staring at an almost full moon holding space for all the emotions this series brought up for me. If you haven't watched it, don't worry. I'm not going to give away any spoilers, but there's something powerful that came through from watching Hannah's life story play out. Here was a girl who was in touch with her wildness, but where did things go astray? I think we all know. We all know that feeling of watering ourselves down, second guessing ourselves, feeling insecure, or feeling helpless when others think something of us that isn't anywhere close to our true character. The way we start to feel as though we're not okay as we are, that sense of homelessness we feel when we don't feel at home with ourselves or we feel ashamed of who we've become. And this feeling is palpable. It's enough to make you want to crawl out of your skin. I've felt it. And it's enough to make you want to numb. I think we all have ways we avoid the feelings of shame. I mean honestly, who wants to feel it? That's why we may try to over correct or over prove ourselves, why we strive for such perfection or big goals. its a way to distance ourselves as much as possible from the insecurities we feel inside. And when we don't develop healthy ways of coping, there's tons of toxic ways we learn to escape. As I was watching Hannah's story, everything started to go awry when she was slut shamed, when boys spread rumors about her sexual promiscuity, one of the easiest ways we lose our power as women. It's been a way to keep us small for centuries. I've felt it. Maybe you have too. And slowly, but surely, Hannah starts to feel less and less okay in her body, less and less like her body is all her own. She starts to feel homeless when what she desperately needs is a way to come back home. Have you made that journey back lately? Home to who you are? Home to the wildness that is you? I know there are still barriers that stand in your way because they also stand in mine. That's why we do the inner work of healing and transformation and alchemizing pain into love because that's the only way home. That's the only way we restore our power – by healing our shame. Layer by layer as it presents itself giving ourselves more and more permission to be our fullest expression of who we are. And it is magnificent when we do and heartbreaking and tragic when we don't. I've done several interview this past year describing some of the deep level work I've done in healing some of my layers and I liken it to walking into a room where are your insecurities are sitting in a circle. There are past regrets, past mistakes, other people's opinions of you, broken relationships and burned bridges, the words one of your parents said, moments of self-abandonment, maybe even moments of abuse. You know… all the cozy stuff. And most of us would see that circle and immediately shut the door. Fuck that. I'm not going in there. Facing those things is facing the truth except those things aren't your truth. But the fact that you've been running from those things, trying to over compensate for those things, been letting those things have far more power than they ever should is the truth. And the only way we win our wildness back is to stay in the room. To look each one of those things in the eye and ask it what it needs. That's where transformation happens – where we can start to alchemize the pain into love and reach out for help when we need it (and P.S. we all need it). Over time, that circle gets smaller and smaller and we become less afraid. We don't need to slam that door or even keep it closed because there are no more monsters hiding. We know those things aren't our truth. Our courage is. Our wildness is. And every time we remind ourselves of our truth, we come home to ourselves again. That's what Hannah needed, to come home, to reclaim her wildness, to not give her power away to other people's opinions. But that's hard, isn't it? To not care what other people think when you're a teenager? Hell, it's hard to not care what other people think when you're an adult. But that's why we do the spiritual work of homecoming. Because we choose ourselves over every one else. We choose whose opinions we let in our home.   So I leave you with this. Think about that room where all your insecurities sit in a circle. Can you walk through that door? Can you stay in the room? Can you have the courage to look each one of those insecurities in the eye and ask it what it needs from you? Because I can guarantee you each one of those insecurities needs one of three things – forgiveness, acceptance, or love, and usually they need all three. And this is the way we reclaim our wildness. This is the way we come home. So I want you to sit with that this week. Yeah, I know. It doesn't feel all good. It probably feels a little sad. Can you sit with yourself with that? Can you sit with the things inside of you that want to feel okay? Because I can promise you, underneath all these big dreams and big goals, all we really want is to feel okay; okay with who we are, okay with us because that's how we feel at home.

Today's episode is breaking new ground for the Enoughness Revolution as we're talking about overeating for the first time ever on the podcast! I'm honored to be joined by Dr. Glenn Livingston, veteran psychologist and the author of Never Binge Again, which you're getting access to below for free! It was such a treat to host to the conversation and I know he's going to share some major truth bombs with you when it comes to how we learn to heal the pattern of overeating. In this episode we talk about: 1.  Why healing emotional wounds doesn't necessarily stop negative patterns 2.  Why we overeat in the first place 3. How rules can help us honor ourselves, the way we eat, and why these two are related   I'm happy to announce I'll be appearing on Dr. Livingston's podcast soon too as I share how enoughness interacts with overeating, my story of enoughness, and how we begin to detach ourselves from shame and sink into our Divinity instead. Glenn Livingston, Ph.D. is a veteran psychologist and was the long time CEO of a multi-million dollar consulting firm which has serviced several Fortune 500 clients in the food industry. You may have seen his (or his company's)  previous work, theories, and research in major periodicals like The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Chicago Sun Times, The Indiana Star Ledger, The NY Daily News, American Demographics, or any of the other major media outlets you see on this page.  You may also have heard him on ABC, WGN, and/or CBS radio, or UPN TV.  Disillusioned by what traditional psychology had to offer overweight and/or food obsessed individuals, Dr. Livingston spent several decades researching the nature of bingeing and overeating via work with his own patients AND a self-funded research program with more than 40,000 participants.  Most important, however, was his own personal journey out of obesity and food prison to a normal, healthy weight and a much more lighthearted relationship with food. Click here to learn more about his book: "Never Binge Again: Stop Overeating and Binge Eating and Reprogram Yourself to Think Like a Permanently Thin Person...on the Food Plan of Your Choice!"

I'm trying something new today!  I'm including a transcription of today's episode in the show notes.  Let me know if you like it, would like to see more of it, or if you have no opinion either way!  I'm really looking to make this podcast the best it can be and your feedback is priceless as I continue to evolve.   First off, if you haven't checked out episode 130 from past week on Radical Self Indulgence + Asking for What You Need, it's a must listen!  It's probably one of my favorite episodes (this one is a close second) and I received so much good feedback on it, I know it's a message so many of us need to hear.   In fact, in less than 48 hours, it became the most downloaded episode of the Enoughness Revolution! Seriously.... go check it out!   Now... back to our regularly scheduled programming!     Learning to Trust Ourselves Again.     Why again? Because we were all born knowing how to trust ourselves, but somewhere a long life's path, a lot can happen to interrupt our ability to self-trust. Ever feel like you've made a lot of mistakes in the past? Maybe you have a pattern of not following through on things so you doubt your ability to follow through on them in the future. Or maybe you've had a gut feeling, totally known it, and betrayed your own wisdom? Like staying in a relationship when you knew it wasn't right or having a feeling about someone being untrustworthy, but confiding in them anyway. All of these situations are areas where we actually have learned that maybe we aren't trustworthy. And when we don't trust ourselves, it is incredibly difficult to be steadfast in our decisions, know what the right decisions are for us and our life path, and to feel confident in our ability to navigate the journey of life when none of us were given a map. At least not one with pretty pictures and arrows that clearly mark the way. So, our tendency to doubt ourselves doesn't just happen. Not only do our actions and experiences as adults play a role, but our early childhood experiences play a major part too! For instance, if you grew up in a household where you had an anxious parent, an overly involved parent, or what we call a helicopter parent in today's language, you grew up with a parent who very vigilant about protecting you from harm. All good intentions, right? But one message this can send to a child is “I don't trust you to make decisions and stay safe so I have to make these decisions for you”. Over time, we begin to doubt our ability to make good decisions, be independent thinkers, or have good judgment in our lives. Having the opportunity to make decisions for ourselves, make mistakes, and learn how to navigate them is such a big piece of not only building inner trust that we can figure things out, but also for building resiliency later in life. If you add dysfunctional dynamics to all of this, like addiction for instance, this only gets more involved. The interesting part about this is that addiction/dysfunction doesn't even have to be present in your current generation to still be having an impact. That means that if you have addiction/dysfunction anywhere in your family history (and most of us do) there could still be left over remnants of these rules today and these patterns will repeat themselves from generation to generation until someone takes it upon themselves to heal them. Dr. Claudia Black did a lot of work at examining dysfunctional family dynamics, mostly with addiction, and she came up with three main rules are common. Don't think – you can't trust the way you think Don't feel – you can't trust the way you feel Don't trust – you can't trust yourself or anyone else. Now these rules are never spoken. They're never written. They're implied. They're implied when we think something is wrong, but we're told “it's all in our head”. They're implied when we feel something and someone tells us “there's no reason to feel that way”. And in the most damaging cases, when we feel like we can't trust the people we're supposed to be able to trust to be there for us, to show up for us, to hold space for us, we learn that trusting others is dangerous. Or maybe the only person we can trust is ourselves, but what this really does is makes us skeptical of who can be trusted, including ourselves. So, there's a lot here! Obviously! Learning to trust ourselves is so incredibly important for building inner confidence and becoming the leader of our own lives so on today's episode I really wanted to dive into how we start to rebuild trust with ourselves and our intuition. Let's start with trust. One of the things that prevents us from trusting ourselves is the fact that we choose to trust or not trust based on our past actions. When our past is littered with a lot of bad choices, we don't see a lot of evidence that we can make good decisions. So how do we fix that? Since we can't change the past, we have to focus on the present and making better choices moving forward. Over time, our present choices start to replace the past choices and we begin to see that we can trust ourselves to be accountable, to make sound decisions, to choose better and do better, and be in line with our morals and values. Not to mention, we might have a tendency to find ourselves in a cycle we can't just break like have you ever found yourself running back to an ex over and over again? Like no matter what you do, you always seem to end up back at their place or calling them late night to come over no matter what you do? Over time, this kind of pattern totally wrecks havoc on our ability to trust ourselves. But the way we start gaining ground is setting firm boundaries with ourselves and start doing something different. The more we do something different, the more confidence we gain in ourselves and confidence is totally related to self-trust. We can also reflect back over our past and see things through the lens of failure and when we perceive failure, there's usually shame. One of the best things we can do is to expand our lens beyond failure, beyond the black and white. What did you learn from your failures? What did they gift you? Have you taken on far too much responsibility for a life event blaming yourself for what happened and raking yourself over the coals, shaming yourself when it wasn't all your fault? We have to realize that every single life event was a combination of factors. For deeper work here, check out episode 86 where I talk about forgiveness and letting go of the past. Lastly, there may also be times when we've had intuitive knowings, but chose to ignore them. This can be such a tailspin of I told you so's in your head. Was there that partner that you knew was cheating on you? Were you having dreams about their infidelity? And even when they denied this, you still couldn't shake the feeling? That was me in my last relationship before I met my husband. For weeks I was having dreams about him cheating. It was a feeling I couldn't shake. Every time I asked him about it, he'd deny, deny, deny. Yet, three weeks later, I accidentally intercepted a text message from one of his co-workers that said, “I don't think we should be sleeping together anymore because you have a girlfriend.” Aha! I knew it! And it's totally easy to trust ourselves when we find the evidence to back ourselves up, but what about if that never comes? Can you trust your intuition enough to follow it even when there's no evidence to support your gut feeling? One of the biggest areas I work on with clients is trusting themselves. One of the most common areas this shows up is when they're wondering if a relationship is the right one for them or which decision is the right one when it comes to their life path. How do we know? The thing is things may look great on paper. Take the relationship for instance…. Their partner may be a really good person, but something just doesn't feel quite right. Is love supposed to feel this way? Am I crazy for wanting something more? Is it me? Tough questions to answer and every situation is different, however, there are some definite patterns to be aware of… That guy I mentioned? I said verbatim to him the month before we moved in together, I don't think we're the right ones for each other. I knew it back then, but why did I stay? Because I thought he was a good guy. On paper, we made sense and I really wanted to be in love. So much so, I was willing to stay in a half-hearted relationship vs. opening myself to the real thing. I was afraid to be on my own. What if this was the real thing and I was just being impossible to please? We can go round and round here justifying things to ourselves, settling for this idea of love, or trying to make someone be “our person” more so for the sake of having one vs. how they really make us feel. What I've come to learn is when something feels off, it usually is. Whether that means this relationship is the wrong relationship for you, there's a pattern within you that needs healing, the relationship needs some coaching/healing, or there are toxic dynamics like gas lighting going on – your intuition is telling you something. So how do we learn to trust that intuitive nudge? First of all, know that intuition lives in our body. It's a different type of knowing. When we're disconnected from our bodies, disembodiment, we miss out on the subtle cues that act as our red flags for internal information. Learning to sit with our bodies and gain awareness of how our gut feelings feel is super crucial to learning to tune into our own wisdom. That's why meditation is so powerful. It allows us to be inside our bodies, quiet our minds, so we can tune into the other information (or types of knowing) available to us. Second, learning to discern between anxiety and old patterning and anxiety and intuition takes practice. Notice that I use anxiety in both cases because sometimes our anxiety can be caused from old programming and fear and sometimes it's a big red flag that our intuition is trying to keep us safe. So how do you tell the difference? This area is one of the most common areas I work on with my clients. How do I know when I can trust my thoughts? How do I know when I can trust my feelings? One of the things I've noticed about learning to trust myself is that when I'm responding to old programming, I tend to get spun up and there's this sense of being out of control. My mind tends to go in over analyzing mode or what I call rumination. What if's are usually super prevalent! I play something in my mind over and over and tend to become a bit obsessive about it. When I'm responding to my intuition, there's this consistent feeling or thought that I just can't seem to shake. I keep arguing with myself by trying to prove myself with all the facts (usually the good stuff on paper) yet something just feels off. It doesn't make a lot of sense to me and I don't even know why I feel the way I do. I've come to learn if something feels off and there's no evidence to support why, it probably is. When something feels off and it's related to old programming, I can usually connect the dots and recognize the pattern, but in order to do this, there needs to be enough self-reflection to know your patterns to begin with. Do you have a hard time trusting others? Do you tend to think the worst of people? These are some of the patterns that can interrupt us from accurately discerning between fear and intuition. One of the best things I've done for myself is when I feel something, I give it value. I don't dismiss it. When I think something, I double-check it to make sure I have all the facts. When we respond to things, our heads are usually the first piece of ourselves that go into old programming. Our feelings, however, are deeply connected to our instincts. Lastly, when it comes to trusting our intuition, we have to trust that are in fact trustworthy. We're wise. We're whole. And the only way we get there is to feel connected to our sense of self. This means being in tune with your feelings and learning to feel them and honor them instead of dismissing them. How do we feel our feelings? I've struggled with this so much in my life because I felt for sure emotions would overpower me. And because I was afraid of them, I didn't live in my heart. I lived in my head where I could be rational. There are so many messages about emotions being irrational, but this is how our intuition speaks to us. Learning to live in our hearts, or the practice of embodiment, is learning to experience the depth and breadth of emotion. Can you accurately label your emotions as you're feeling them? This is such a great place to start. You can use a feelings list to start practicing this more and asking yourself daily, “what am I feeling today?” You can also spend more time in your body because emotions are felt in the body. When you're anxious, sit with it. Where do you feel it in your body? What does it feel like? Tightness? Tension? Butterflies? Where? Your stomach? Your chest? What does an intuitive knowing feel like when you just can't shake something? Is it fluttery? Is it heavy? Where? Your hips? Your heart? Your diaphragm? Learning to be in your body, feel your feelings, and trust your feelings is all a part of learning to trust yourself and your intuition. Join me for a short meditation to get into your body, feel your feelings, and trusting the wisdom that's there for you.     As mentioned on this episode, join me for my next free masterclass, Radical Self-Indulgence - the radical act of asking for what you need, knowing what you need, and reigniting your inner compass.  It's all happening tomorrow at 11:30 am CST and YES, there will be a replay if you can't attend live.  You have to sign up to get the replay though so I know to send it to you.  Come join me!  You can register below

Perhaps my favorite TT episode of the season!  Ready to bust through one of the BIGGEST myths in the personal development world?   Join me for a personal story, declaring new truths, and why asking for what we need is such a RADICAL act, but it shouldn't be! Then... SIGN UP for my next free masterclass, Radical Self-Indulgence, happening Tuesday, April 4th at 11:30 am! (There will be a replay available!  Just make sure you sign up so I know to send it to you!)       Have an awesome weekend and don't forget to put your homework from this episode down in the comments

After a beautiful weekend in the TX Hillcountry, I'm so excited to announce I'll be welcoming 10 special women to Wild + Holy Weekend, a unique and intimate TX Hillcountry retreat June 16-18 in New Braunfels, TX.  Think Qoya and movement, soul dives and good food, sisterhood and ceremony.  This is the first time I'm announcing it to the world and I can't wait to welcome you to TX!  All details can be found here! Today's episode piggy backs off of Ep 86 on Forgiveness, which is the most downloaded episode on the podcast!   Do you hold resentment in your body?   Join me for some additional thoughts on forgiveness, resentment, guilt, shame, grudges, and letting it all go in an exploratory meditation of the body. And most definitely tune into Ep 86 as a supplemental resource for today's episode!  

Today's episode is a full circle moment for me as I'm interviewing one of my earliest influencers who inspired me to take the leap from psychotherapy to coaching.   You may have heard of him if you've been around the online personal development world long enough or you may have seen him on one of my favorite online publications, Mind Body Green, sharing his wisdom on how we create a more meaningful life. Yet, if you happen to just now be making John Kim's acquaintance, you'll never look at self-help the same way again. I was first attracted to John's honest approach in sharing of the human experience and then even further admired his vulnerability and natural way of destigmatizing personal growth.  After reading several of his posts full of no holds bar manifestos and no bullshit tips and tools to create a better life, he quickly became a guy to watch and follow.  It's no wonder he served as one of the catalysts for me to make the big leap into coaching.   Today, John runs not only a thriving coaching practice, but has ignited a movement to change the way we change. From online group communities to launching a team of other change catalysts, John is at the helm to change the conversation around personal growth. What first began as a Tumblr blog with an initial post titled "My Fucking Feelings", John, The Angry Therapist, quickly became a source of inspiration to thousands of raving fans.  He's gone on to launch a podcast, Asking for a Friend, which climbed the charts to #78 on iTunes and is on the precipice of releasing his first book titled The Angry Therapist, A No BS Guide to Finding and Living Your Own Truth, which is available for pre-order now.   It today's episode, you'll hear: what inspired John to pioneer the online life coaching movement seven years ago why redefining love is so important how we create new containers for more joy John is a guy to follow.  The end.  Run, don't walk to follow him on his social platforms. Facebook InstagramFree Facebook Community

Hiiiiiiiiii!!!!  I feel like it's been so long since I've been writing you from my desk!  The past few weeks have been amazing in so many ways and this ambivert is SO grateful for some introverted time and the fact that it's Monday!     In today's episode, I talk about how easy it is to get disconnected from your sense of self, how we re-establish reconnection, the importance of reflective self-care, plus a short and sweet meditation to help reconnect with yourself if you've been feeling a bit off.   You'll also hear my undying love for This Is Us!  Seriously, if you aren't watching this show... RUN, don't walk to your HULU account and start streaming IMMEDIATELY!  Ahhh, this episode feels so good to be getting back into my groove and re-balancing my values.   Ever feel like you lose your mojo or get out of your groove?  This episode is for you

I have perhaps the most unique entrepreneur I've ever met as my guest today!  Meet Jen Glantz -  Jen Glantz is the brains behind the business, Bridesmaid for Hire, the heart behind the blog, The Things I Learned From, and the main character inside of the Amazon-best selling book, All My Friends are Engaged. Her new book, Always a Bridesmaid for Hire, published by Simon and Schuster, is available now. Jen's told her story to over 500 press outlets world-wide, such as a the TODAY Show, Good Morning America, CNN and Fox News, where they called her job the "weirdest of all time". Jen is a mentor for New York City women entrepreneurs and a hired speaker for conferences and workshops around the country. She lives on the 26th floor of a New York City apartment, the size of a walk-in closet, where she eats way too much pizza & owes way too much money to the library across the street. In today's episode, we talk about:  Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone  Falling in Love with Failure Doing Something Healthy For Yourself Think you have a CRAZY IDEA that just won't fly?  I hope Jen's ability to take an idea and run with it to great success inspires you to TAKE ACTION!!  

You can still experience joy while going through a difficult time.  You can still experience joy while wanting more, while feeling like things need to change, while you're growing, shifting, expanding, and evolving. Far too often, we get bogged down in all the things that need to change in order for us to be happier, but if this was all it took, all those things you wanted 5 years ago that have now come to fruition would be all you need.  But, I bet like me, once you achieved those things, there was more you miraculously needed in order to be happy.  Am I right? One of the things I hear most from clients is my ability to stay positive and upbeat no matter what life has thrown at me.  Whether that's going through a difficult parenting period (HELLO TEETHING BABY), having no idea where I'm going to be living in 3 years (HELLO MILITARY LIFE), or still wanting more for myself professionally and personally (HELLO EARNING MORE TO GIVE MORE TO HELP CHANGE THE WORLD), for the most part, I don't let life's stressors keep me down for long. One of my biggest tools is mindfulness and literally taking the time to smell the roses. When's the last time you intentionally took in all the beauty that surrounds that you? How many times do you drive down the same road not noticing the trees, the buildings, the architecture, the wildlife?   How many times do you go grocery shopping and not take the time to notice the gorgeous blooms in the floral section?   How many times do you walk through down the same hallway in your house not appreciating your artwork or decor or that favorite picture you have framed? Beauty is around us ALWAYS, but it's up to us to notice it.  It's up to us to remind ourselves of how rich and abundant we are. It's this one little skill that not only makes the journey that much more enjoyable as we pursue deeper alignment for ourselves both personally and professionally, but it's also what allows us to experience contentment and awe in what is right here, right now.  It's the foundation for gratitude and raising our vibration to attract even more beauty into our world. So today's meditation is a bit different than a traditional sitting meditation.  Today, you'll be challenged to start noticing the beauty that surrounds you. Tune into the magic that's around you.  I promise you it's there, but it's YOU who gives meaning to it.  That's your superpower! I'll see you in a few days for another Transformational Thursday.  Until then, have a BEAUTIFUL start to your week!

One of my top 5 favorite episodes, we're going all the way in when it comes to spirituality, owning your truth, and setting yourself up for JOY, JOY, and more JOY!   I'm joined by the beautiful soul that is Malaine Lea today as we talk all things spiritual journey and living a rich life.   Malaine Lea is the owner of Malaine Lea Inc., Lifestyle Architect and Spiritual Guide. As a woman of faith and spirituality Malaine has dedicated her life's work to creating a world in which individuals' connection to the Divine allows us each to accept healing, compassion and love of self in order to recognize our one-ness with each other and radically increase peace and love in the world.  Hence her programs, Divine Rich; because THAT type of world is nothing but abundant!   How does she do that?  Well really, you do it with her!  She co-creates with every person she encounters, every stranger, every friend.  And should you become a client, she will work with you uniquely to guide you in connecting with your higher power and surrendering into the flow and deliciousness of life in order to shine your light, speak your truth and own your own magic.  This means stronger relationships, successful businesses, and of course, more money!     Through her own experience, strength and hope along with her studies in transformation workshops, energy work, spiritual work and professional experience, she has cultivated earth shattering, life changing formulas to help people truly MASTER THEIR LIVES. As I mentioned in this episode, Malaine is putting together her next amazing online event called Money Revolution.   To get in on all the details, connect with her here.     In this episode, we talk about these top 3 tips for creating more JOY:   Never take anything personal, its not about you and when you make it about you...you miss the point.  Always lean into faith and God, trusting the universe has your back! Constantly ask the question: will this empower me and bring me joy? Join us for a delightful conversation you do NOT want to miss!  Have an amazing weekend, sister!

I'm less than three days removed from a life changing experience that was Practical Magic Live, a 2-day event for women's leadership hosted by Makenna Johnston.  I spent some amazing time with people I love, people I admire, and people I'd never met and I had one of the most beautiful breakthroughs of my life.   I'm so grateful to be in Charleston this week as I let all these beautiful aha's integrate, but one of these aha's is just so evidently clear, I'm sharing it with you today!  I'm calling it the Law of Expansion, which is apparently a thing.  I just looked it up and found some great words of wisdom by John Maxwell.  Check that out here!    Great minds think alike :) Join me for my first few thoughts on Practical Magic Live and a beautiful meditation on gratitude.  To check out Infinite Receiving as I mentioned on the episode, find all the details about this 90 day program hosted by the lovely Maru Iabichela HERE!  It starts today so if this feels like a HELL YES, jump on it, sister!   I'll see you for an amazing interview on Thursday, which you do NOT want to miss! It's most definitely one of my top 5 interviews of all time!  YES... be there, girlfriend!   Have a beautiful start to your week and remember, your inner work is changing the planet!  It's that important and you are THAT powerful

Every once in awhile, you have things that come full circle when you have to take pause and wonder how different things would be if you hadn't honored that calling in your soul. This week was one of those weeks as I interviewed someone who inspired me to take the leap from counseling to coaching. As I wrapped up our interview, I reflected on all the time I'd honored the "more" of my ego over the "more" of my soul and how each had led me in such different directions. I don't believe there's ever such thing as a "wrong path". I think we always end up right where we belong to learn what we need to learn and have the impact we're here to make. I don't regret one single step of my journey (well maybe that 7th grade school picture) because they've all led me here - pursuing work that I love with a man that I love with friends whom I love with a soul that I love. And every single step has had a purpose in helping me create it. Yet, I wanted to dive into the difference between the "more" of the soul and the "more" of the ego because I know it can lead to either soul soaring fulfillment or us feeling like there's still a lot to be desired. Some questions for you to ponder this week: Is your soul telling you there's something more? In your relationships? In your work? In your life for your own healing? Is your ego giving you a "safety plan"? How is that safety plan keeping you small? Our soul doesn't care about "the how" because it has complete and utter faith that all things will orchestrate in your favor. Do you have that kind of faith?  I challenge myself to grow here every single day.   If you're ready to challenge yourself and deepen your faith, let's build that courage together. I'm opening my calendar for a few 1:1 clients who are ready to honor that "more" of their soul and cultivate the courage they need to follow it! You can find more info on my work with me page and fill out an application. I can't wait to see what your soul is wanting for you and to help you honor it with one giant leap of faith!

Hello, beautiful! It's a glorious morning here in San Antonio and I'm getting so excited to see so many of my online friends in real life this week at Practical Magic Live!  I'm counting my blessings already with all the hugs I'm going to give and receive.  What a week! Today's meditation is so special as it takes me back to when I first started getting in touch with me and learning to feel my feelings.  You'd think feeling our feelings would be second nature, but I haven't found that to be true. It's been something I've had to intentionally practice for myself - just like the act of intentional sitting.  So today, we're going to be practicing creating an inner sanctuary and it's such a beautiful process!  I can't wait :) After you tune in, check out the events I mention in this episode here: 1.  The Inner Peace Summit 2.0 (March 12th - April 9th) I decided to participate in the Inner Peace Summit because as we each find Peace within ourselves, we begin to emanate Peace to those closest to us - our family, our friends, our community.  (That might look and feel like patience or compassion or tolerance. Maybe you smile at your kids and partner more. Maybe you get less frustrated in traffic. Maybe you just feel better inside yourself.)  Like cell towers, we begin to emit a signal of Peace. And we are creating Global Coverage. You see, the Inner Peace Summit 2.0 isn't just an online event. This is a Summit that is growing a Movement.  A Movement for Change, A Movement for Peace, A Movement to create the World We Want to See. Yes, we are creating World Peace from just an online conference. Sure, this sounds lofty. But all great things start somewhere, right? So whether you join just for you, and you just need to breathe, and feel a little bit better, and find serenity in the middle of this mad life, you are in the right place. You are already perfect in your imperfections.  You are enough, just as you are. Thank you for joining us. Or whether you join the Inner Peace Summit 2.0 because you need to feel hope that we can do something, and WE ARE, and creating a world that is how we we want it to be feels oh-so-right to you. Well, World Changer, welcome to The Movement. You are amazing. Thank you for you. Join us at the Inner Peace Summit 2.0, the place to keep your head on, your heart open, and your $#*! Together.  Join Us HERE!   2. I created a Simple Soulful Shift for you to experience MORE JOY and LESS GUILT in under an hour!  Yes, it's possible!   Download your free eBook here!  I can't wait to see how this one little shift can help build in more soul connection in under an hour!  Woohoo!!   I'll see you in a few days for another Transformational Thursday!  

Oh, you guys!  We have another great conversation today with the lovely Ashley Beaudin! Not only is she the visionary behind #theimperfectboss; a movement that is liberating thousands of women from perfect, but she's also a heart encourager, speaker and coach to tender-hearted women entrepreneurs. She is passionate about empowering women to create powerful lives and businesses using more heart, vulnerability and community. She speaks with encouragement, sensitivity, and authority about what it takes to be a big-hearted and connected woman, entrepreneur and leader in the modern world. She also holds a degree in Human Rights and has spent time working in media, politics, and activism. When she's not out there loving, inspiring and leading women, she's likely writing some good words, going heart eyes over bright colors or dreaming up big ideas.  After spending time with her, you will feel believed in and empowered to give, to love and to lead wholeheartedly. So, you know I've been gushing and gushing over the Imperfect Boss campaign.  Yes, it just wrapped up yesterday, but that's the beauty and brilliance behind this campaign. Simply searching the hashtag will put you directly  in touch with all the inspiring stories and women who contributed!  It's an absolute must.  Use the hashtag #theimperfectboss to get started! In this episode, we're jamming on: 1. Embracing your imperfections as fast as you can. They can be power if you let them.   2. Learning how to sit with your own heart, otherwise you'll spend a lifetime trying to find someone who can.   3. Saying one big fat yes to yourself and all the gifts you hold inside. The world will be changed by you if you do.   Connect with her below! www.ashleybeaudin.com www.twitter.com/ashleybeaudin www.instagram.com/ashley.beaudin

Happy Monday, Sisters!     Last night was a rough night over at the Hale household with a wicked storm that pushed through that kept us up late and then a cute little boy wanted to stay up a few hours after that.  Add the beginning stages of a cold on top and I'm taking some of my own medicine and honoring my body today!   Today's episode is FINALLY our first MEDITATION!  Woohoo! We're going to start things off nice and slow and practice just a bit of stillness this morning.  It's perfect for beginners or if you're a seasoned meditator, you'll find it super relaxing to drop into your breath and start your week off feeling calm, centered, and collected.   Join me for this short meditation intro AND find the stillness that lives within you

I was revisiting my book shelf this week and I love how certain books I've read in the past jump back out at me almost begging to be re-read.  The book that caught my attention this week was one I read just a year ago, which surprised me.   Normally, it's often years before a book will resurface for me. But, I didn't question it.  I pulled it off the shelf and opened to just the right page. The book?  Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul* This book unlocked something for me the first time I read it and now that I'm re-exploring Christianity and church to get to the root of some old messaging, I'm eager to re-read this one for where I am now since so has much shifted in even a year. In today's episode, we'll talk about: How to embrace who you are when you don't like you are How to embrace uncertainty and the "what if's" How to embrace your messiness Some questions to ponder: How are you hiding yourself from the world and those you love? How are you keeping to yourself instead of letting others in? How are you letting the "what if's" keep your world small? How can you practice more courage and own more of who you are? Don't forget to sign up for the IMPERFECT BOSS campaign where I'll be sharing more of the behind the scenes of my messiness starting on Monday!  SIGN UP HERE!    I'll see you in a few days for another Motivational Monday. Until then, have a beautiful weekend, BEAUTY! *denotes an Amazon affiliate link.  I will receive a small compensation if you choose to purchase using my link :) 

Oh, we're getting vulnerable on today's episode. As you all know, I've been exploring institutional religion again after some old wounds resurfaced after the election. Today, I'm sharing an update on where I am in this journey and the vulnerability that's coming up learning to lean into trust again after a really bad breakup. In today's episode, we're talking about: the walls we build to keep ourselves safe the discomfort we feel when we let others in how we stay open and curious and how we welcome in the seeds of love I know this is the beginning of a beautiful love story for me, one of healing and transforming pain into love and fear into more faith.  I'm excited, nervous, and giddy for where this path will lead, but it feels so good to be in a place where I feel seen and held.   As we celebrate Valentine's Day tomorrow, let it be a day of reflection of the love story you're currently writing for yourself.  What needs to be healed?  What needs to be forgiven?  What needs to be seen and heard and held?  How can you be more vulnerable to move closer to the hurt instead of further away? The most important love story we'll ever write is the one with our own soul

We're back again with a special episode all about learning to date yourself and it feels so good to be talking about this topic!   As a military spouse, I've spent a great deal of time alone so learning how to date myself has been an integral part of helping keep my marriage healthy while also staying connected to my own sense of self.   But, even before I got married, I loved to take myself out to dinner and to movies simply because.  My dating life has expanded dramatically since then to include all kinds of activities and sweet nothings to make me feel good, which is why I was so excited to hear from our guest today about some of the things she recommends to deepen this even more!   Today, I'm speaking to Veronica Grant, a Dating Mindset Coach, host of Date Yourself Radio, and creator of the Dating Mindset Bootcamp. She helps smart, savvy women attract the right relationship to them.    On the surface, Veronica helps women enjoy the process of dating + meet higher quality men. But what she REALLY does is teach women how to treat themselves the way they want to be treated.   When she's not writing about herself in third person, you can find her indulging in (probably) too much HGTV, planning her next adventure, or spending quality time with her fiance + puppy. To learn more, and join the next free Date Yourself Challenge, head over to www.veronicagrant.com. Veronica is also sharing her top 3 tips for creating more joy: 1. Have lots of white space in your calendar 2. Create a morning routine you love 3. If it doesn't feel right, you're probably right You can find her on social here: Instagram Facebook And don't forget to grab her freebie: 37 Ways to Date Yourself and sign up for her free Date Yourself Challenge HERE!  See you in a few days for another Motivational Monday!  

We're doing something different today and I really need your help!   I was tagged yesterday in a post by my good friend, Chantelle Adams about an opportunity to make a difference and I'm passing that opportunity onto you today!   Amanda Steinberg, the founder and superstar CEO of DailyWorth.com—the go-to financial site for women with more than one million subscribers— and one of Oprah's Super Soul 100 powerhouses has written a book, Worth It, which is a fresh book that redefines the relationship between women, self-worth, and money. Worth It shows women how to view money as a source of personal power and freedom—and live life on their terms. She wrote this about her current book launch:  "My book Worth It ships on Tuesday, but I'm struggling to focus on it because of the humanitarian crisis unfolding in Greece and Serbia right now. Refugees stranded there due to European border closings are barely surviving this harsh winter, freezing in abandoned warehouses, train stations and parks. Half of the refugees in Serbia are children, 60% of whom are unaccompanied minors, according to TIME magazine. As a board member of One Light Global, a refugee relief organization, I hear regularly from executive director Zoe Wild when crisis escalates. On February 17th, Zoe and team are traveling to Belgrade, Serbia to provide direct relief and supplies. On February 7th, my book Worth It about money for women ships. The book's central message is that when women prosper, we're in a stronger position to help others. In that spirit, I want to place a bet in favor of women and humanity." She is matching the money that her book brings in up to $10,000 to give back to the refugee relief that is so needed right now and I want all of us to join her! To purchase Worth It, go right here!  I've already purchased mine (plus an extra copy I'll be giving away on my Facebook page!) Let's pull together to make a difference today

I'm loving this Transformational Thursday episode, you guys!   We're talking about two big topics today- SURRENDER and PLEASURE and how we find these things inside a pause.   Both of these things are so curious to me, especially that this pause that is presenting itself right now isn't causing near the amount of stress as it used to, but why? In today's episode, I'm sharing some of the big pieces that are allowing me to experience this slower time of life with less guilt and more pleasure and why surrendering to God's timing is a big piece of the puzzle.   Join me as I share some big aha's as they're showing up right now PLUS an update on Wild + Holy!   And if you're one of the two women I mention in this podcast, find your next step right here!  

Happy Monday, y'all!   It's another beautiful week in Texas and I'm so very grateful for it.  I had an amazing weekend getting to see my best friend from college and cruising around Gruene and New Braunfels. I'm slowly becoming obsessed with where we live and still can't believe we manifested all this!   It takes me back to last March when I was 8 months pregnant and all we wanted was to move to Texas, find a house, and be in the hill country.  And now... here we are!   Desires are a powerful thing.  They're one of the ways our soul guides us to deeper alignment and more joy, but we have to spend the time learning how to hear the voice of our soul, which is one of my favorite things to help my clients with.   Knowing how to tune into the truth that lives within you is perhaps one of the most important pieces to creating alignment and having a practice to do this regularly is absolutely life changing.   In today's episode, we talk about desire and why it's so important while also diving into how we honor these soul cravings.   Join me!  I'll see you in a few days for another TT

It's transformational Thursday, gals and I have such a powerful transformational tool for you today!   The lovely Sharon Stokes, creator of the Life Map, is sharing her method for creating more inner awareness of your life journey, the importance of how you give your journey meaning, and how you can own your journey with more confidence and courage.   I absolutely loved talking to her about her own experience and how the Life Map came into existence.    In this episode, we talk about her top 3 tips for creating joy in life, work, and love which are:  1.  Unleash your inner child 2.  Surround yourself with amazing passengers (part of the Life Map lingo) 3. Let go of expectations   We dive deep into each one of these in today's conversation PLUS Sharon is giving access to a DIY version of the Life Map with a free webinar to go deeper happening next Wednesday at 9pm EST.  To grab access, visit her website here.    Sharon Stokes is a Certified Life Coach who studied at The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC). She has also worked as a coach at Matthew Hussey's 5 day Lifestyle Retreats, where she's had the opportunity to help transform the lives of countless women and been voted as one of the top trainers. Sharon is the creator of The Life Map and #theyearofme program. She is also a writer and expert who has been featured in The Huffington Post, Bustle, Eat This, Not That, Fashion Magazine and various television and radio shows. Sharon is a Certified Fitness Instructor, currently teaching BodyJam and Jillian Michaels' BodyShred program.  Through her work as an instructor, she has been able to create lasting connections with her clients, and inspires them to live healthy, happy lives.  Sharon has also worked in the media for over 10 years as a Segment Producer for CTV's etalk and The Marilyn Denis Show.  Through her media career she has had the opportunity to interview A-list celebrities and coach lifestyle experts to peak performance levels for television.  She has the ability to problem solve quickly, communicate with many different personality types and can adapt easily to change. Sharon currently resides in Toronto with her little dog Lucy.   Follow her on: Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube     And one more time, don't forget to get free access to her Life Map.  I'm going to go through the process to help tease out some things as part of the book writing process!  How perfect?!      

Wow!  You guys.... what a week last week, amiright?  We have a new president of the United States of America and had the BIGGEST civil rights march in the history of our country one day later.  I'm still amazed at the unity this movement sparked with almost 700 sister marches worldwide.  It makes my heart swell that so many of us are passionate about making sure our voices are heard for the things that we believe in.   This of course, has led to a lot of heavy conversations in my world with people that I love.  I've had to rely on some spiritual tools to hold the line for myself, which I share in today's episode, but overall, I'm so proud to see the way women and men are standing up for more equality, compassion, and love.   I invite you to engage in compassionate dialogue with others.  This is how things shift.  But if others aren't interested in expanding their view or considering your own, keep in mind that the only thing you can control is creating a compassionate space for others to enter into with you.  By doing so, we model the values that we uphold and promote.  And, it might just help you not lose your mind

Hey, y'all!  It's Transformational Thursday and I'm sharing a powerful little tool that greatly impacts your marriage, your life and the way you pray and I'm so glad to share it with you.  This past weekend was filled with some nasty, nasty weather that swept all through TX with tornadoes, thunderstorms, hail, and huge winds and rains.  I had a girlfriend in town and what I wanted more than anything was to sit out by our fire pit and get lost in the flames.   I've been obsessed with fire for forever.  I don't know if it's because I'm a leo or that fire just seems to mesmerize me, but I seriously am so enchanted by dancing flames, I could spend hours getting lost in their magic.  So, I was so nervous that the weather wasn't going to hold out for us to build a glorious fire, but as luck would have it, the weather held off for a couple of hours for us to get some good fire pit time in.   My husband is one of those guys is goes above and beyond to make magic for me.  So, naturally I pulled him close after building this glorious fire to say "thank you", which got me thinking about how often we say these two little words to each other.   And... it's a lot!  We probably say "thank you" on average of 10 times a day.  We've really made it a point to acknowledge all the little things we do for each other and as a result, I think we both feel really appreciated, seen, and loved.  We know the little things we do matter and in turn, we're both really motivated to keep pouring into each other because of it.   I can honestly say simply integrating this phase has brought us closer together and I think we hold our marriage more sacred because we know how much we mean to one another.   So, after this beautiful mushy moment together, I was thinking how "thank you" has shown up in my life in other ways too, especially when it's come to self-forgiveness and healing and being grateful for the trials and tribulations of my journey.  I think it's such a power move for us to honor our paths.  It's part of practicing reverence for all the things we've been through, the wisdom we've gained, and the ways in which our experiences have made us who we are today.     Yet, I also know that it can be so incredibly hard to be grateful for things that hurt us, especially when we're going through them.  But I can honestly say, learning to be grateful for the tough things and how they've added to my life has better prepared me to have a more optimistic outlook for when I'm going through another tough time.  I know there's a gem in there for me for my own personal growth and wisdom, which makes it a bit easier to navigate... at least more hopeful!   Lastly, I started using the words "thank you" in my prayer life a couple of years ago and I've noticed a couple of things.   1.  I feel much more confident that my prayers are being answered.  2.  I feel much more confident in God's power and magic in my life.  3.  I feel more confident in my ability to achieve my prayers because I'm already assuming they're a done deal or are working out to my highest good.    I LOVE switching asking to thanking in prayer and I'd love to hear how this lands for you!   Do you have an experience in how "thank you" has shifted your marriage, your life, or the way you pray? I'd love to hear from you in the comments! And challenge yourself today to say "thank you".  Really notice the little things and watch how it shifts your mood (and your life)!   See you in a few days

Happy Monday, Sisters!   I felt called to detour from our mantra this week to celebrate the life and man that this day honors, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.   Dr. King is probably the most famous for his "I Have a Dream" speech, but what I wanted to highlight even more are the values in which his leadership modeled for us.  He was a man who led with dignity, humility, justice, and compassion, a man who put his life on the line for what he believed in, and a man who truly walked his talk.   He called us to "walk in the light of creative altruism versus the darkness of destructive selfishness" and this quote calls me to reflect on how I'm practicing altruism in my own life and how I'm being of service.   Is it enough?  No.  It's not.  I want to be doing more and that's something I'm committed to this year - to get more involved at a local level, to start giving back in ways to others whom I can help, to start doing instead of simply talking about it.   I encourage you to read the whole piece written on TheKingCenter.Org's website today and let this man's vision and legacy inspire something within you.   In our political climate, Dr. King's words are as relevant as ever.  We've come a long way, but we still have work to do.  How can we work together to continue his legacy of inspiring others toward equality, tolerance, and love?   I'll see you in just a few days for a Transformational Thursday!  It's a good one

I am so pumped about our Transformational Thursday episode today, you guys!   I first connected with Shira over a love of Victor Frankl's work and she is really doing some amazing work of her own in the world. Today, she's sharing such a powerful tool to experience more joy and I can't wait to share it with you. What started off as a personal blog sharing her journey of getting stuck in emotions turned into a whole career of helping others learn how to get UnSTUCK. S.T.U.C.K. is her acronym for how to move through emotions that can be a little sticky.  Emotions like: anger sadness jealousy comparison betrayal loneliness embarrassment anxiety etc. She's just opened the doors to her 12 week group program too called Getting UnSTUCK, which currently has just a few more spots remaining.  Is one of them yours?  Visit her website for more info here.   Shira Taylor Gura is a life coach and author of the book, Getting unSTUCK: Five Simple Steps to Emotional Well-Being. Shira helps people notice how their stuck places are blocking them from making their lives and relationships as rich and rewarding as they can be - and guides them using The S.T.U.C.K. Method she created to help them get unSTUCK.   In this episode, you'll learn: the 5 steps of the S.T.U.C.K. method and how to use them to get UnSTUCK for emotional wellbeing how Shira uses movement to move blocked emotions and energy out of the body and why accessing the present moment is necessary for experiencing more joy! This method is SO very similar to the framework I teach my clients when we're working on more emotional awareness.  I'm so happy to support Shira and her work as you guys know that learning to feel our emotions and interact with them is such a huge ingredient for a more joyful life!   I'll see you in a few days for another Motivational Monday episode soon!

It's Motivational Monday, y'all and we're sinking into a beautiful mantra today that's all about the most powerful life force there is - LOVE.    One of the BIGGEST toxic patterns I see that interferes with our happiness is staying in relationships that are imbalanced and the wrong fit for what we really need.   We can spend years here because here's the thing... it's easy to confuse someone being a "good" person with them being the "right" person and these aren't the same things.  We can pour endless amounts of energy, time, and emotion into changing someone to be who we need them to be or worse, feel like we need to change who we are in order to make them happy.  But, after working with countless couples now both as a therapist and a coach, the best relationships are the ones in which we feel seen, heard, and known.  We feel acknowledged and appreciated for who we are as does the other person.   This doesn't mean that we don't work together to create positive change in our relationships, but the motivation to do so is quite different.  When you're with a love you deserve, our partners inspire us to be our best selves, we feel safe exploring new facets of who we are, we feel braver, more vulnerable, more trusting, and more supported and this is a complete game changer for how we experience our relationships.  The one hang up, however, is that we question the kind of love we deserve.  We stay in toxic relationships because we're afraid of being alone, we're afraid we'll never find anyone who will love us the way we are, we think this is as good as it gets, we doubt we deserve better.   So much of my work is helping women find forever love - to stop settling, to raise their standards of what love can look like, and to be brave enough to walk away from someone who doesn't honor, respect, and adore the woman that they are.  Do you find yourself stuck in a relationship that you know isn't right?  Do you find yourself taking on the blame for why another person is never happy?   The people we choose to spend our lives with are perhaps some of the most important decisions we make.  When we're with the wrong person, it can make us feel crazy.  Literally.  We question if we're right.  We question if we're wrong.  We question our desires and needs and communication styles.  It sets us up for perpetual self-doubt and this deteriorates our self-confidence.   You deserve beautiful love, awe inspiring love, love that makes you feel lucky and blessed and like you're living in a dream.   And it doesn't just stop there.   You deserve LOVE in all kinds of ways from all kinds of directions - loving friendships, work that appreciates you, love from yourself MOST IMPORTANTLY, Divine love, love from strangers, love from people you've yet to meet.   We are all deserving of love.  I'll say that again.... WE ARE ALL DESERVING OF LOVE! What kind of love are you craving?  I give you full permission to want more! See you in a few days for a TT episode that will knock your socks!  xx

Hey, hey, hey, Sisters! It's Transformational Thursday and we're diving into a very relevant topic - the should's.  Why is it relevant?  Because GOALS/INTENTIONS/DESIRES are usually accompanied by "shoulds" and with it being the New Year and all, I know you have some goals/intentions/desires, which means I also know you're going to experience the shoulds that come with them!   The trick, which we'll be talking about today, is learning how to shift shoulds into motivation vs. the guilt and shame they love to create because.... how motivating are those?  Not very!   In today's episode, we cover: the 2 main pitfalls I see in goal setting why we get bogged down in the shoulds to begin with how we shift the shoulds (plus a little game I call "would you rather...") and learning to discern between YOUR shoulds vs. someone else's You ready? Grab your notebook, girlfriend!  Let's go :) Resources mentioned in this episode:  "There's nothing more powerful than a woman who knows how to contain her power and not let it leak..." ~ MARIANNE WILLIAMSON Check out Darren Hardy's Compound Effect that I mention in this episode here.  (It's an amazon affiliate link

Happy New Year, Lady Loves!   I'm so full of joy as we start this new year and I've been spending some extra time reflecting on all 2016 brought into my world.  There's been so much to integrate between buying a home, becoming a parent, moving cities (yet again), and all the other life shifts that have happened because of it.   In case you didn't hear, I'm totally going rogue with letting my clarity around 2017 sink in over the next couple of weeks because that's what feels good and I hate being rushed!  Feel free to go ROGUE with me.  It feels good to be wild

It's Transformational Thursday, Sisters and I have a wonderful guest with me today! Allie first caught my attention with her #DoneBy1 campaign on social media and it hit such a cord with me, I had to have her on to talk about how she's created this work philosophy and how it increases her joy. You may recognize Allison Horner as the #DoneBy1 entrepreneur first, and at heart, she's a Transformational Business + Life Coach helping purpose-driven entrepreneurs bring their big vision to life with more ease and excitement! She believes that living a full life is THE greatest adventure, and being an entrepreneur is just part of that journey... and her SuperPower is helping YOU find the path of least resistance to growing your business.    >>> Grab a free quick guide to help you identify your SuperPower and #1 Money-Making Activity so you can create more impact + income in less time, and get back to living your life!   http://bit.ly/create-profit     She's sharing her top 3 tips for cultivating more joy, which are:  1.  Let your dreams catch up to you by slowing down to speed up. 2.  Adventure daily (and reconnect with your inner child). 3.  Be the beacon for your dreams and self-nourishment.   And one of my favorite TAKEAWAYS from this episode is Alli's new philosophy: Do Less Better!   Yes, Yes, Yes!     As a new mom, I have to say this one is CRUCIAL!   Allie Founded her company, Adventure Knocks (www.adventureknocks.com), to help women THRIVE, mind, body, and soul, and to live fully and authentically, as they build their businesses. She spends most of her time outside, enjoying the Colorado sun, hiking, skiing, or just walking around her neighborhood. After she's done at 1pm (everyday), you can find her outside, playing with her 2-year-old, Finn and just generally enjoying this grand adventure!   She's also the host of the Adventure Knocks! Podcast which launched to the top charts on iTunes.   You can connect with me in my free Facebook Group for Courageous Game-Changer Entrepreneurs : bit.ly/ladyventures    

It's just another Magic Monday, y'all!  And today's mantra is one that has supported me this whole year so I see it fitting that we're wrapping up 2016 with a mantra that has served me all year all long.     I'm so happy to pass this one on to you as we prepare for the New Year and get clear on the support we want to call in.    This mantra brings in THREE very big supports - emotional, financial, and energetic, which I break down on today's supported.  Tune in and remember Divine support is always available to us all!  And you are so deserving of it!  Open yourself to receive, rest in and trust that the support you need is available to you, and don't be afraid to ask for what you really want!  No desire is off limits :) See you in a couple of days for an amazing guest for Transformational Thursday!    

It's Transformational Thursday, you guys! Today, I'm sharing a personal story of irony as it relates to joy as well as some recent epiphanies that I think will not only make you laugh, but also give you several powerful concepts to resonate on in your own life. First and foremost, I'm sharing how some of our biggest heartbreaks can be our biggest teachers, how certain desires can end up catching us if we slow down long enough for them to catch up, and the true meaning behind the word en-joy (hint: it's SO obvious).   Enjoy!   Talk soon for another Motivation Monday in a few days and if you celebrate Christmas, Merry Christmas!!  And if you celebrate another holiday, then Happy Hanukah, Happy Kwanza, Happy Yule (even though it was yesterday), or Happy Holidays in general!   P.S.  I actually went to my first Yule celebration at First UU of San Antonio this past weekend.  I'll be blogging about it soon!   Love to you and yours!   Always

Happy Monday, Sisters!  I'm in love with today's episode as we're diving deep into happiness and joy, the difference between them, and how we can increase the positivity in our lives by focusing on gratitude.     I'll be leaning on the lovely Brené Brown today as we discuss the concept of foreboding joy and it's a good one!     To reference today's book, you can grab Daring Greatly here.  This isn't one of her easier reads, just as a forewarning, but it's chocked full of powerful concepts that are so transformative!   The main take-aways for you today are these:  1.  Joy is vulnerable.   2.  You aren't alone in trying to prevent loss and disappointment by foreboding joy (many people do this!). 3.  The antidote to foreboding joy is practicing gratitude.  4.  A gratitude practice is MORE than a mental exercise.  It must be an emotional one in order to benefit from your practice.  5.  Scarcity and fear drive foreboding joy.  The opposite of scarcity isn't abundance.  It's enoughness (whoop, whoop!).    6.  There is enough and you are enough.  Period.  The end.  7.  You experiencing and leaning into joy does not take joy away from others.  8.  Joy is found in the ordinary moments that we make extraordinary.   9.  We transform the ordinary to the extraordinary through gratitude.   10. You deserve joy.  You deserve happiness.  You are DESERVING!       I hope you have an amazing start to your week sinking into all the blessings that surround you.  Give yourself permission to feel the connected emotions to these blessings.  This emotional experience of gratitude is what increases our joy.   Lastly, it's safe for you to be blissfully happy.  You can live there.  Always.  You deserve to.     I'm sending you so much LOVE to you and your family this Holiday Season.  I'll see you in a few days for Transformational Thursday.