Ownit! Powercast

In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Christine Roslund—an experienced coach, therapist, and EMDR practitioner. We explore how Christine blends years of EMDR therapy with life coaching to help her clients clear deep blocks and reconnect with their true selves. Christine shares insights on what real healing can look like, why getting unstuck doesn't have to mean reliving old pain, and how she helps people move forward with clarity and purpose. This one's for anyone who feels like they've been spinning their wheels and wants to understand what's really in the way. Three Takeaways: 1.      You don't always have to talk something to death to heal it. 2.      Feeling stuck is often a sign that something deeper wants attention. 3.      The right support can help you move through what's hard—without carrying it forever.   Getting unstuck isn't  about trying harder -  It's about finding what's really in the way. -Christine Roslund     To contact Christine: https://beingtrue2you.substack.com/     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

In this episode, we explore how emotional avoidance and self-abandonment often disguise themselves as being “helpful,” “productive,” or “strong.” Whether it's saying yes too quickly, fixing others' emotions, or numbing out with distractions, these patterns are not bad habits - they're survival strategies we picked up when it wasn't safe to feel or express ourselves. We look at where these behaviors come from, why they served a purpose, and what they're costing us now. We discuss gentle, practical ways to begin recognizing and shifting these patterns. You'll walk away with a deeper understanding of why it's hard to stay with yourself emotionally and how beginning to do so—even for a few seconds at a time—is a powerful act of healing.     We don't always notice when we're abandoning ourselves – it can look like overdoing, over giving, or overcommitting.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

Today, we kick off the month's theme of Reclaiming Inner Safety by unpacking why so many of us live in a constant state of disconnection. From racing thoughts and emotional numbing to people-pleasing and overfunctioning, we explore how early life experiences—like trauma, chronic stress, or invalidation—teach us that it's not safe to feel, need, or be fully present. These patterns of self-protection may have once helped us survive, but now they're keeping us from living a grounded, authentic life. You'll learn how disconnection often hides behind busyness, anxiety, or over-responsibility, and how the journey back to yourself starts with small, intentional moments of presence. We also talk about how this month, we will be talking about practices like EMDR and mindfulness can support this healing process by helping us gently return to our bodies, emotions, and inner truth—without shame or overwhelm. Three Takeaways 1.     Disconnection is a survival response—not a personal failure. Many of us learned to tune out from our emotions and bodies because it didn't feel safe to stay connected. 2.     Busyness, people-pleasing, and overthinking are often symptoms of deeper emotional avoidance. These patterns are how we manage discomfort—but they keep us from our truth. 3.     The path back to yourself starts with presence. A single breath, a named feeling, or a brief moment of stillness can begin to rebuild trust with your inner world.                          When stillness feels unsafe, we don't slow down – we stay busy, reactive, or numb. Not because we want to – but because it feels safer than what we'd have to feel. Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

If you've ever found yourself holding back in conversation, choosing your words carefully, scanning the other person's face, or thinking three steps ahead just to avoid conflict, you're not alone. Emotional honesty isn't something we magically access. It's something that grows in the presence of safety. In this episode, we're exploring how emotional safety impacts your ability to be authentic in real time—and why you can't build connection in relationships where conversations feel like landmines. We'll talk about the difference between environments where your truth is welcomed, and the ones where it's quietly shut down. You'll learn what to look for when testing emotional safety, how to practice small moments of truth-telling without overwhelm, and why the healthiest people in your life don't just put up with your emotions—they make space for them. This episode is for anyone who's tired of performing and ready to start showing up more fully and honestly.   Three Takeaways 1.     You can't be emotionally honest in relationships where you're always bracing for impact. 2.     Emotional safety isn't about being coddled - it's about knowing your truth won't cost you connection. 3.     Practicing honesty in safe relationships rewires your nervous system and helps you reclaim your voice.   That's what safe belonging does. When honesty feels  like a risk, what you're in isn't connection— it's survival mode.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!    

We're often told that courage is about inner strength…that we have to dig deep and face the fear alone. But that's not how it actually works. Courage is a relational experience. We're more likely to take brave steps when we feel emotionally safe, supported, and connected. In this episode, we're exploring how safe belonging, not just fitting in, but being truly accepted becomes the foundation for real change. We'll dig into how the nervous system responds to connection, why we're more likely to take risks when we feel emotionally secure, and what happens when that belonging is missing or conditional. You'll also hear how to tell the difference between false belonging (where you shrink to fit in) and true belonging (where you expand to be yourself). If you've ever wondered why change feels impossible in certain relationships - or why you suddenly feel more capable in others - this episode is for you.   Three Takeaways 1.    The body needs to feel safe before the brain can take a risk. Belonging calms fear and unlocks courage. 2.    You can't be brave in environments where you're trying to survive. Safety isn't optional, it's foundational. 3.    True belonging allows you to make choices that reflect who you are, not just who others expect you to be.   That's what safe belonging does.  It doesn't just hold you-it helps you come back to yourself  and move forward as the version of you who finally feels free to grow.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

So many of us believe we should be able to be brave on our own. That courage is something we're supposed to summon from within—without asking for help, without needing anyone. But what if that idea is quietly keeping us stuck? In this episode, we look at what really fuels courage, and how our early experiences with connection—or the lack of it—shape whether we can move forward when life gets hard. We'll explore how some of the ways you “get in your own way” might actually be protective patterns rooted in past disconnection. And we'll talk about why courage is so much easier to access when we feel truly supported, seen, and safe. You don't have to hustle harder to find your courage. You might just need the right kind of connection. ________________________________________

In this episode, we're exploring the invisible ways boundary issues show up in our everyday routines - especially in how we manage time, energy, and expectations. Most of us think of boundaries as things we set with other people, but what about the quiet, internal boundaries we often ignore? Like the ones that involve being realistic about what we can actually get done, or giving ourselves time to rest, think, and reset? You'll hear a fresh take on how things like over-planning, skipping buffer time, and pushing through exhaustion aren't just bad habits - they're symptoms of boundary blind spots. We'll dig into what's really going on when you feel behind, overwhelmed, or frustrated with yourself—and how small mindset shifts around time and planning can make a big difference in how you feel and function. Three Takeaways 1.    Boundaries aren't just for relationships, they also show up in how you treat your time, your schedule, and your capacity. 2.    There's often a gap between what we expect of ourselves and what's actually humanly possible - and ignoring that gap creates daily stress. Confidence and calm don't come from doing more, they come from creating space for what matters most.     Overloading yourself isn't strength – it's self-abandonment.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!      

In this episode, I sit down with confidence coach Sue Reid for an honest and empowering conversation about what it really means to have self-confidence. We talk about the moments in life that can shake our belief in ourselves, how old patterns keep us playing small, and why building confidence is often less about doing more—and more about how we see and value ourselves. Sue shares thoughtful insight on how to recognize if you might be struggling with confidence, and what it actually takes to begin shifting that. From emotional resilience to the power of community, we explore what it means to grow confidence from the inside out—and why even small steps can change everything.   Three Takeaways: Confidence isn't just about what you can do, it's about how you see yourself. The way we treat ourselves quietly shapes everything, especially our ability to grow. Who you spend time with matters more than you think when it comes to personal change.   Self-confidence isn't about what you can do – it's about how you see yourself  and what you believe you're worth.       Confidence Matters by Sue Reid. https://suereid.substack.com/       Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

When life feels overwhelming, whether due to personal stress or world events, it can be incredibly hard to stay grounded and connected to yourself. In this episode, we're normalizing just how real that struggle is. We explore what's actually happening in the brain and body during chaotic times and why staying centered isn't about perfection - it's about small, compassionate returns to yourself. We'll also look at how healthy boundaries, detachment, values, and even grief play a role in helping you feel more rooted in your own life. If you've been feeling off-track or disconnected, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a few small, gentle ways to begin again. Three Takeaways: Why your nervous system may be driving the chaos more than you realize The real reason peace feels uncomfortable after living in survival mode How to reclaim your sense of self—five seconds at a time   You're not failing – you're in the middle of something hard.  And your nervous system  is doing its best to protect you   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

  We all have patterns we wish we could break—procrastination, people-pleasing, perfectionism—but what if the real reason we stay stuck isn't what we think? In this episode, we're exploring the quiet, powerful force behind so many of these cycles: shame. Not the kind that shouts, but the kind that whispers just enough to keep us second-guessing ourselves, over-functioning for others, or avoiding things we care about. This conversation is about shining light on the loops that keep us stuck and offering a more compassionate lens to understand them. Instead of pushing through with more pressure or self-blame, what if the key was curiosity, awareness, and a new way of relating to yourself in those hard moments? If you've ever wondered why you keep doing the thing you said you'd stop, this one's for you.   Three Key Takeaways Some of our most frustrating habits are actually protective responses we've learned to survive discomfort. Lasting change doesn't come from pressure—it comes from self-awareness and a shift in how we talk to ourselves. You're not doing it wrong. You're learning to recognize what's really going on beneath the surface.   Shame doesn't motivate - it paralyzes. It keeps you stuck in the very patterns you want to break.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

There are patterns we carry that don't always make sense at first—like why we feel guilty for saying no, why success makes us uncomfortable, or why we shrink ourselves in moments when we should feel proud. In this episode, we're exploring one of the most overlooked but powerful forces behind those reactions. It's something that shows up quietly, influences how we speak, what we believe we deserve, and how much space we allow ourselves to take up. We'll talk about where this internal pattern comes from, how it shows up in everyday life, and most importantly, how to recognize it when it's happening. This episode is about awareness, self-compassion, and learning how to let go of what no longer needs to protect us. If you've ever wondered why certain moments trigger deep discomfort, this is the conversation for you. Three Key Takeaways 1️. Some of our strongest emotional reactions today are rooted in protective patterns from the past. 2️. The way we talk to ourselves is often shaped by old beliefs we didn't choose—but we can change that. 3️. The first step to freedom is recognizing what we're feeling and asking: Is this true, or is this familiar?   You're not broken— you've just learned to feel shame in moments where you were once  made to feel unsafe.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

Growth isn't just about changing yourself—it's about changing the way you engage with the world around you. And as you evolve, it's natural to find that some relationships no longer align with where you're headed. This isn't a sign that something is wrong; it's proof that you're making real progress. While it can be difficult to navigate the tension, grief, or even resistance from others, staying true to your growth is the most important commitment you can make to yourself.   In today's episode, we're diving into one of the hardest but least talked-about side effects of personal growth: outgrowing relationships. We'll explore why this happens, how to navigate the discomfort, and what to do when you realize that some people in your life may not be able to grow with you.   Three Key Takeaways: 1️. Personal growth naturally shifts how you relate to others, and not everyone will grow with you. 2️. The tension you feel in certain relationships isn't a sign that you're doing something wrong—it's a sign that you're evolving. 3️. You don't have to force change in others or explain your growth—staying true to yourself is enough.   Growth doesn't just change you— it changes what you allow, what you tolerate, and what you need from the people around you.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Have you ever found yourself holding onto the hope that someone will change—believing in their potential more than the reality right in front of you? It's easy to get caught up in what could be, especially when we care deeply. But at what point does patience and grace turn into self-denial? In this episode, we're diving into the subtle but powerful ways we convince ourselves to wait for growth that may never come, why this pattern is so hard to break, and what it really takes to see people as they are—not just as we wish they would be. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of hope, frustration, and disappointment, this conversation will help you take a step back and reassess. We'll explore the deeper reasons behind this pattern, how to recognize when it's keeping you stuck, and the shift in perspective that can bring clarity, peace, and healthier relationships. Three Key Takeaways: 1. The difference between seeing potential and accepting reality. 2.  How to recognize when your belief in someone's growth is keeping you stuck. 3.  The first steps to shifting your focus back to what's true today.   There's a difference between  supporting someone  through  growth and sacrificing ourselves  to keep believing in them.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

What really makes a relationship feel safe? Many of us believe that deep connection means merging emotions, fixing each other's problems, or intuitively knowing what the other person needs. But what if the very things we think create closeness are actually keeping us stuck in unhealthy dynamics? In this episode, we explore how to recognize what belongs to you in a relationship—your emotions, thoughts, choices, behaviors, and beliefs—and why understanding this is the foundation for trust, emotional safety, and true intimacy. We'll also dive into how blurred boundaries often get mistaken for love and why setting clear, healthy boundaries doesn't push people away—it actually makes relationships stronger. Whether you struggle with taking on too much emotional responsibility or feel frustrated when others try to control your choices, this conversation will help you see relationships through a new lens. Real connection doesn't come from losing yourself—it comes from knowing where you stand.   Three Key Takeaways for Listeners: 1️. Real love isn't about absorbing each other's feelings—it's about respecting each other's autonomy while staying connected. 2.  The strongest relationships aren't ones without boundaries—they're ones where both people feel safe being fully themselves. 3.  You can't trust someone who won't let you be responsible for your own emotions, choices, and beliefs—and vice versa.   People don't change  because we demand it. They change because  they decide to.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Have you ever found yourself making excuses for someone's behavior, downplaying red flags, or convincing yourself that things aren't that bad? SO many of us do it—because facing the full truth about a relationship can feel overwhelming. Whether it's a friend, family member, or partner, acknowledging reality often means we might have to set boundaries, make hard choices, or grieve what we wished the relationship could be. Instead, we protect ourselves through denial, rationalization, and hope that things will somehow change on their own. In this episode, we'll explore why we avoid seeing the truth in relationships and how our nervous system works to keep us in our comfort zone, even when that comfort is costing us. We'll break down the subtle ways we resist reality, how this keeps us stuck, and why small moments of honesty—no matter how uncomfortable—are the key to real clarity, peace, and self-trust. If you've ever struggled to see a relationship for what it truly is, this episode is for you. Three Key Takeaways: 1. Why we resist the truth – The real reason our brain works to protect us from facing reality in relationships, and how to recognize when it's happening. 2. The subtle ways we avoid seeing what's right in front of us – From justifying bad behavior to clinging to hope, we'll break down the common patterns that keep us from accepting reality. 3. How to start seeing clearly—without fear or overwhelm – Practical steps to gently shift from avoidance to awareness so you can make choices that truly honor your well-being. .   The hardest truths to see  are the ones that would require us to change.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!    

  Many of us think of boundaries as something we set with other people, but what about the boundaries we fail to set with ourselves? In this episode, we're uncovering the often-missed ways we mismanage our time, over-accommodate, and fall into patterns of fawning—where people-pleasing overrides our own needs. These habits can look like overcommitting, struggling to say no, avoiding conflict, or constantly putting others' comfort ahead of our own well-being. And while they might seem harmless on the surface, they slowly chip away at our confidence, energy, and self-trust. If you've ever felt guilty for setting boundaries, caught yourself over-explaining decisions, or found it hard to stop people-pleasing, this conversation is for you. We're diving into the subtle ways we cross our own boundaries, why fawning keeps us stuck in these patterns, and how to start shifting toward healthier, more balanced relationships—without guilt or fear.   Three Key Takeaways 1 You might be crossing your own boundaries without realizing it. Some of the biggest ways we sabotage our time, energy, and relationships aren't the obvious ones—but the ones we justify as ‘being nice' or ‘helpful.' 2 Fawning isn't just about people-pleasing—it's a survival strategy. If you've ever felt anxious when saying no or setting a limit, there's a deeper reason why. Recognizing this can help you start changing the pattern. 3 Breaking free from these habits doesn't mean being harsh or selfish. There's a way to honor your needs and set boundaries without guilt, over-explaining, or fearing conflict—and it might look different than you expect. When you constantly prioritize avoiding conflict, you end up creating an internal one instead.   You weren't born afraid to say no.  Somewhere along the way, you learned that pleasing others was safer  than honoring yourself.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

Being good at boundaries in communication isn't just about protecting yourself—it's about respecting the space between you and others. We all like to think we communicate with healthy boundaries, but are we really as good at it as we believe? Often, the biggest challenges in communication aren't the obvious boundary violations but the subtle ones—the ways we respond, the space we give (or don't give), and how much we allow others to fully own their emotions and choices. In this episode, we'll explore how to take an honest look at our communication habits and recognize the small shifts that can make a big difference. If you've ever felt frustrated when someone didn't take your advice, struggled to hold back from fixing, or found yourself pulled into someone else's emotional world, this conversation is for you. We'll break down what it truly means to have strong communication boundaries, where we might be unknowingly crossing the line, and how to show up in a way that fosters deeper, healthier connections. Three Takeaways: Why some of the most overlooked habits in communication may be impacting your relationships more than you realize. The key mindset shift that can help you stay present in conversations without overstepping or taking on too much. How to recognize when your response is strengthening a connection—or subtly breaking a boundary.     Fixing, convincing, and controlling  aren't connection.  Listening, acknowledging,  and allowing are.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

Making decisions is one of the most powerful tools we have for shaping our lives, but it can also be one of the most intimidating. This episode explores how decision-making strengthens self-trust by engaging the brain's natural reward systems and rewiring it for resilience. You'll learn how even small choices help clarify what you think, believe, feel, and need, ultimately building confidence and a stronger connection to your inner voice. We also discuss how early shame and trauma can complicate the decision-making process, leading to self-doubt and avoidance. By reconnecting with your "why"—your core values and passions—and reframing mistakes as opportunities for growth, you can break free from these patterns. This episode is packed with actionable steps and insights to help you make decisions that align with your true self and move toward the life you want. Three Key Takeaways Discover how small, proactive decisions can rewire your brain to trust yourself more deeply over time. Learn why connecting with your "why" makes decision-making less overwhelming and more fulfilling. Explore practical strategies to reframe mistakes and keep moving forward with self-compassion.     Choosing action  over avoidance  builds new neural pathways for confidence.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

This episode explores the powerful connection between what we allow in our lives and our level of self-trust and confidence. Often, we don't realize how tolerating disrespect, poor communication, or neglecting our own needs undermines our sense of worth and leaves us feeling ungrounded. The discussion highlights how both external boundaries—such as speaking up and setting limits—and internal boundaries, like practicing self-discipline and saying no to distractions, are essential for cultivating a calm and confident mindset. We also dive into how failing to set these boundaries keeps us stuck in a low-level but constant state of fight, flight, or freeze, making it harder to feel in control. By taking small steps to identify what we're tolerating and practicing new patterns of behavior, we can rebuild self-trust, strengthen our confidence, and move from survival mode to thriving in a more grounded and intentional way. Three Takeaways 1.     What we tolerate—whether from others or ourselves—has a profound impact on our confidence and emotional well-being. 2.     Internal boundaries, such as self-discipline, are just as important as external boundaries for feeling calm and in control. 3.     Small, consistent changes in what we allow can have a ripple effect, helping us shift from survival mode to living with more confidence and peace.   Boundaries aren't about control— they're about protecting your peace and reinforcing your worth.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

Ever feel like you're losing touch with what you truly think, feel, and need? In this episode, we explore how to reconnect with your authentic self, even in the chaos of daily life. We'll talk about the small, intentional moments that can bring you back to center—like noticing your feelings, identifying what truly matters, and practicing gratitude. By slowing down and tuning in, you can start to break free from patterns of disconnection and rediscover what makes you you. We'll also dive into why it's so easy to lose this connection in the first place, especially if you grew up in environments where your feelings weren't validated or learned to focus on others to survive. You'll learn how those survival skills can linger into adulthood, keeping you task-focused and outwardly driven, but disconnected from your inner truth. Most importantly, this episode will show you practical ways to start shifting that narrative, one small, powerful moment at a time. 3 Key Takeaways 1.    Small acts of awareness, like naming your feelings or pausing to reflect, can create profound changes in how you connect with yourself over time. 2.    Practicing gratitude not only shifts your perspective during tough times but also rewires your brain to focus on positivity and possibility. 3.    Understanding how childhood patterns of disconnecting from your emotions show up in adulthood can help you reclaim your authentic self and start honoring your needs.   Every small moment  of awareness is a step toward showing up  for yourself and building  trust in who you are.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words    Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

In this episode, we'll explore why these moments hit so hard and the impact they can have on our confidence and self-worth. Whether it's the sting of rejection or the echo of old insecurities, these experiences often shape our inner dialogue, influencing how we show up in the world. But setbacks don't have to define us. Together, we'll unpack how to shift the narrative, rebuild self-confidence, and find strength in adversity. Through actionable insights and relatable stories, this episode offers guidance for those ready to take their first steps toward reclaiming their sense of worth and moving forward with resilience. Key Takeaways Why setbacks feel so personal: Understand the deeper reasons why rejection or loss affects our self-image and how it connects to unresolved insecurities. The power of inner dialogue: Learn how to identify and challenge the critical thoughts that arise after a setback to avoid distorted self-beliefs. Small steps to rebuild confidence: Discover practical ways to move forward, reconnect with your worth, and grow stronger through challenges.   When life knocks you down, acknowledging the pain  isn't giving up—it's how you stand back up stronger.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour       Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Have you ever wondered how your life might change if you truly believed you were worthy of love, success, and respect? In this episode, we explore the transformative power of embracing your self-worth. We'll discuss how feelings of not deserving shape your relationships, career, and even your ability to prioritize your own well-being. This episode paints a vivid picture of what life can look like when you break free from these limiting beliefs. By examining the impact of self-worth on everyday decisions, this episode offers hope and inspiration for anyone who feels stuck in patterns of self-doubt. You'll hear examples of how shifts in mindset can open the door to healthier relationships, greater opportunities, and personal empowerment. If you've ever felt like you're holding yourself back, this conversation is your invitation to imagine something better. Three Key Takeaways: 1.     Signs of Self-Doubt: Learn subtle ways feelings of unworthiness show up in your daily life, from avoiding opportunities to overcompensating in relationships. 2.     The Ripple Effect of Self-Worth: Understand how valuing yourself impacts everything—from the people you attract to the choices you make for your future. 3.     Steps Toward Change: Discover the first steps to shifting your mindset and unlocking a more fulfilling, empowered life.   The first step  to breaking free is believing you deserve more.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

EP270 Spotting People Pleasing Moments: A 3 Step Process to Break the Habit   In this episode, we dive into how to recognize and manage “people-pleasing moments” so you can start living more authentically and confidently. Through a simple, three-step process, we'll explore how to identify people-pleasing behaviors, uncover the fears behind them, and practice healthier responses. We'll also discuss the importance of support systems, like coaching or a group, to help you break free from these patterns and sustain your progress.   Key Takeaways: 1.   Identify People-Pleasing Behaviors: Recognizing your own people-pleasing actions—like avoiding disagreement or overcommitting—is the first step. These behaviors often stem from a desire to avoid conflict or rejection. 2.   Understand the Fear Driving People-Pleasing: Often, people-pleasing is driven by underlying fears, such as a fear of conflict, rejection, or judgment. Acknowledging these fears helps you understand why you might struggle to assert yourself. 3.   Practice Alternative Responses and Seek Support: To overcome people-pleasing habits, practice simple, kind responses that honor your boundaries. Consider seeking coaching or joining a group for accountability, encouragement, and feedback on this journey.   People-pleasing hides in plain sight— pay attention to when you're saying yes just to avoid discomfort, not because you truly want to.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour       Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!      

In this episode, we're tackling a form of anxiety that many of us experience but often don't recognize: invisible anxiety. It's that subtle, lingering feeling of stress that you can't quite explain, but it's always there. We'll discuss how this form of anxiety might be connected to subtle behaviors from the people around you, behaviors that can quietly undermine your peace without you even realizing it. Through thoughtful exploration, we'll look at how this anxiety shows up, especially during big transitions or important moments in life. You'll learn why it's so important to listen to this inner tension and how identifying these subtle cues can lead to clearer decision-making and healthier boundaries. Key Takeaways: 1.    Invisible anxiety can be a signal that subtle boundary-crossing behaviors are at play. 2.    This anxiety can have a ripple effect, impacting your ability to make clear decisions and stay grounded. 3.    Tuning into these subtle stressors can help you regain control, set boundaries, and restore peace of mind.   Invisible anxiety can make you feel crazy on the inside,  but it's a sign that the behaviors around you aren't as innocent as they seem.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

In this episode, we explore the complex emotion of guilt and how it can interfere with our ability to maintain healthy boundaries and practice self-care. We dive into the crucial difference between earned and unearned guilt—understanding when guilt is a natural response to our actions and when it is misplaced, often stemming from external pressures or unrealistic expectations.  We also discuss practical strategies for distinguishing between what we can control—our own reactions, decisions, and behaviors—and what we cannot control, such as the actions and decisions of others. Through real-life examples, we illustrate the importance of setting clear boundaries and embracing healthy detachment, allowing us to focus on self-responsibility and personal growth.   Three Key Takeaways: 1.    Understand the Difference Between Earned and Unearned Guilt: Learn to recognize when guilt is a result of your actions and when it's misplaced or coming from external pressures, and how to address each appropriately. 2.    Identify Boundaries and Responsibilities: Understand the importance of distinguishing between what choices are yours to make and what belongs to others, helping to prevent taking on unnecessary guilt and fostering healthier relationships. 3.    Embrace Detachment for Growth and Well-Being: Practice letting go of control over others' choices, focusing instead on self-responsibility and self-care, which supports both personal growth and healthier, more balanced relationships.   Real self-care means creating  boundaries that preserve our peace, rather than exhausting ourselves to solve others' problems.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour      Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!          

  In this episode, we explore the complexities of detachment, especially when it involves letting go of outcomes that feel crucial to our sense of security and well-being. Letting go can feel incredibly challenging, particularly for those with a history of trauma, as it often triggers a deep-seated fear of losing control. We also delve into the concept of the bargaining stage of grief, where we negotiate mentally and emotionally to escape the discomfort of uncertainty. This bargaining mindset can be a major barrier to healthy detachment, as it prevents us from accepting reality and moving forward. Three Key Takeaways: 1.  Detachment is Challenging, Especially for Those with Trauma Histories: Fear of losing control is a natural response, particularly for those who have experienced trauma. 2.  The Bargaining Stage of Grief Can Hinder Detachment: When we fear letting go, we often engage in emotional bargaining, trying to negotiate our way out of uncertainty. 3.   Letting Go Means Accepting What We Cannot Control: Healthy detachment involves recognizing the limits of our control and focusing our energy on what we can influence—our own emotions and choices.   Detachment doesn't mean we don't care. It means we're wise enough  to recognize what  we cannot change.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour      Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

In this episode, we explore the crucial role that trust plays in forming and maintaining meaningful relationships. Trust is the bedrock of any healthy connection, providing the emotional safety and mutual respect necessary for a relationship to thrive. We discuss how to identify trustworthy individuals by looking for key signs such as honesty, reliability, and consistency between words and actions.  We discuss how to recognize subtle red flags that may indicate a person is not trustworthy, as well as the importance of self-awareness in breaking the cycle of choosing untrustworthy partners or friends. By understanding the underlying reasons for these patterns and learning to trust our intuition, we can make more conscious decisions about the people we allow into our lives, ultimately fostering relationships that are built on a solid foundation of trust and mutual respect. 3 Takeaways: 1.     Trust is the foundation of all healthy relationships, providing the emotional safety and mutual respect needed for meaningful connections to flourish. 2.     Consistency between words and actions, along with honesty and reliability, are key indicators of a trustworthy person. 3.     Recognizing and addressing underlying factors can cause us to place our trust in people who cannot be trustworthy.     Trustworthy people don't make excuses;  they make things right.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour       Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!    

In this episode, we delve into the insidious nature of manipulation and its profound impact on self-perception and self-worth. Manipulation, particularly in close relationships, often goes unnoticed as it subtly undermines confidence, distorts reality, and erodes a person's sense of identity over time. We explore how tactics like gaslighting, blame-shifting, and subtle undermining can make individuals doubt their own experiences, leading them to question their value and place within the relationship. As these manipulative behaviors become patterns, the victim's self-esteem gradually diminishes, trapping them in a cycle of dependency and emotional confusion. You will gain insights into how to recognize these patterns of manipulation and the long-term effects they can have on mental health and personal growth. By understanding the deep-seated impact of manipulation, you can take the first steps towards healing and fostering healthier, more authentic relationships. 3 Key Takeaways: Recognizing Patterns: Manipulation often manifests as a pattern of subtle behaviors that erode self-confidence and self-worth over time. Identifying these patterns is crucial to breaking free from their grip. The Impact on Perception: Manipulative tactics like gaslighting and blame-shifting can cause individuals to doubt their own reality and experiences, leading to confusion, dependency, and a loss of self-identity. Reclaiming Self-Worth: Understanding the long-term effects of manipulation is the first step in rebuilding confidence and self-worth. By setting boundaries and seeking support, individuals can begin to reclaim their identity and foster healthier relationships.   Manipulation is a slow poison that erodes your self-worth and distorts your reality,  leaving you questioning your own  mind, feelings, and boundaries.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

  In this episode, we explore the crucial role boundaries play in maintaining emotional well-being and reducing stress. We delve into common scenarios where boundaries might be lacking, such as overcommitting to tasks, neglecting self-care, and engaging in people-pleasing behaviors. By identifying these boundary issues, we can better understand the sources of our frustration, resentment, and anxiety. Through practical advice and real-life examples, this episode provides you with strategies to recognize and address missing boundaries, both in your personal and professional life.   Key Takeaways 1.   Identify the Signs of Missing Boundaries: Recognize when feelings of stress, resentment, or anxiety indicate that boundaries are being overstepped or ignored, either by yourself or others. 2.   Set and Communicate Boundaries Clearly: Learn to assertively communicate your boundaries to others and practice self-discipline to respect your own limits, ensuring you prioritize self-care and personal well-being. 3.   Understand the Role of Self-Boundaries: Realize that setting boundaries isn't just about managing others' behavior but also involves regulating your own actions and reactions to maintain a healthy balance in life.     Self-sabotage is the  invisible force that separates you  from the life  you envision.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour        Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!        

In this episode we explore the concept of embedded boundaries – the subtle yet powerful limits we set in our interactions to protect our mental and emotional well-being. These invisible boundaries are crucial for maintaining balance and respect in our relationships, allowing us to manage our responses and protect our energy without imposing on others. We explore various examples of embedded boundaries, such as setting limits on sensitive topics, avoiding interruptions, and managing emotional labor Embedded boundaries emphasize self-responsibility and the importance of keeping the focus on our own actions and reactions. By practicing these boundaries consistently, we can navigate daily interactions with confidence and grace, avoiding defensiveness and conflict. This episode provides listeners with actionable strategies and real-life scenarios to help them implement embedded boundaries effectively, ultimately enhancing their mental and emotional well-being and improving their relationships. Key Takeaways 1.     Self-Focused Boundaries: Embedded boundaries are about managing our own responses and behaviors to protect our well-being without imposing on others. This approach helps maintain control over our emotional health and fosters mutual respect in relationships. 2.     Practical Techniques: Learn practical strategies for setting embedded boundaries, such as steering conversations away from sensitive topics, politely preventing interruptions, and managing emotional labor. These techniques enable you to assert your needs subtly and effectively. 3.     Consistent Practice: Consistency in practicing embedded boundaries is key to making them a natural part of your behavior. By regularly implementing these boundaries, you can navigate interactions with confidence, avoiding defensiveness and ensuring your mental and emotional needs are met.   Effective boundaries are set  with confidence and clarity,  focusing on mutual respect  and understanding.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!        

In this episode, we delve into the crucial role that setting boundaries plays in protecting your time and energy, allowing you to stay focused on your personal goals. We explore how establishing clear limits helps minimize interruptions and avoid unnecessary commitments, which can otherwise derail your progress and lead to burnout. By creating dedicated work times, saying no to non-essential requests, and prioritizing tasks that align with your aspirations, you can maintain a clear path toward achieving your objectives.    Boundaries Minimize Interruptions: Setting boundaries around work time and creating a conducive environment help ensure uninterrupted periods to focus on your goals, enhancing productivity and progress.   Avoiding Unnecessary Commitments: Boundaries enable you to evaluate and decline requests that do not align with your priorities, preventing overcommitment and allowing you to dedicate time to what truly matters.   Personal and Professional Success: Maintaining strong boundaries is essential for achieving both personal and professional goals, as it helps manage stress, prevent burnout, and ensure consistent progress towards your objectives.   Boundaries protect your time and energy, allowing you to focus on  what truly matters.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

In this episode, we explore the often-intimidating journey towards self-love, self-care, and prioritizing our own needs. Many people struggle with these concepts due to deeply ingrained beliefs and fears, often stemming from childhood experiences of emotional neglect or invalidation. We delve into how these early experiences shape our adult behaviors and perceptions, making it challenging to establish genuine boundaries around our well-being. By understanding the roots of these fears, we can begin to challenge and reframe our negative beliefs, paving the way for healthier self-care practices and a stronger sense of self-worth. We also discuss practical strategies for recognizing and addressing these deep-seated issues. Listeners will learn how to identify and confront the fears and insecurities that hinder their ability to care for themselves. The episode provides actionable steps for setting and maintaining boundaries, reframing negative self-talk, and seeking the support needed to embark on this transformative journey. Through self-compassion, consistent practice, and a supportive network, anyone can begin to build a foundation of genuine self-love and care. Key Takeaways 1.     Understanding the Roots of Self-Care Challenges: Childhood experiences of emotional neglect or invalidation can significantly impact our ability to prioritize self-care and self-love as adults. 2.     Practical Strategies for Change: Implementing small, consistent self-care practices, challenging negative beliefs, and setting clear, firm boundaries are crucial steps towards building self-worth and well-being. 3.     Importance of Support and Self-Compassion: Seeking professional help, building a supportive network, and practicing self-compassion are essential components in the journey to genuine self-love and self-care.   Our ability to care for ourselves  is shaped by our childhood.  Emotional neglect or invalidation  can leave lasting scars that hurt our  self-worth and boundaries.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

Our core values play a vital role in shaping our daily interactions and communication, acting as a guiding force that influences our behavior, decisions, and relationships. Values like honesty, respect, and empathy are essential in building trust and fostering meaningful connections. When we consistently align our actions with our values, we create a foundation of reliability and authenticity, which strengthens our relationships and enhances our ability to connect deeply with others. For example, valuing honesty encourages open and transparent communication, fostering trust and reducing misunderstandings, while empathy leads to compassionate interactions that show genuine concern and support for others. Three Key Takeaways 1.      Values as a Guiding Force: Our core values influence our behavior, decisions, and interactions, shaping the way we communicate and relate to others. Living in alignment with these values fosters authenticity and strengthens our relationships. 2.      Everyday Moments Matter: It's in the small, daily interactions where we have the opportunity to live out our values and truly show up in our relationships. Being present and authentic in these moments builds trust and deepens connections. 3.      Impact of Core Values: Values like honesty, respect, and empathy are crucial in fostering meaningful and supportive relationships. Consistently practicing these values enhances our ability to connect, understand, and support others effectively.       Authenticity shines in how we handle  everyday situations.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

In this episode, we explore the concept of emotional honesty and its profound impact on our lives and relationships. Emotional honesty involves being truthful about our feelings, thoughts, and needs, regardless of the situation or the people we are with. We delve into the common reasons why many of us struggle with emotional honesty, such as the fear of conflict, judgment, and vulnerability. These fears often lead to behaviors like constantly agreeing with others or suppressing our true opinions to maintain harmony or gain approval. By understanding these underlying fears and their consequences, we can begin to address them and embrace a more authentic way of living. Throughout the episode, we provide practical strategies for recognizing and overcoming emotional dishonesty. We discuss the importance of self-reflection, open communication, and setting boundaries. Listeners are encouraged to practice vulnerability, seek support, and develop healthier coping mechanisms to express their true selves more confidently. By embracing emotional honesty, we can foster deeper connections, enhance our self-awareness, and ultimately lead more fulfilling lives. Three Takeaways Fear of Conflict and Judgment: Many of us hide our true feelings and opinions to avoid conflict or being judged. Understanding this fear is the first step towards embracing emotional honesty and building more authentic relationships. Loss of Authenticity: Constantly changing our behavior to fit in or gain approval leads to a loss of authenticity and emotional exhaustion. Embracing our true selves allows for genuine connections and a stronger sense of self-worth. Practical Strategies for Emotional Honesty: Implementing self-reflection, open communication, and setting boundaries are crucial for overcoming emotional dishonesty. Practicing vulnerability and seeking support from trusted individuals can help us express our true feelings confidently and authentically.     We often hide our true feelings to keep harmony in our relationships,  but this can lead to resentment  and emotional exhaustion over time.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

In this episode, we delve into how childhood experiences shape avoidance behaviors in adulthood, particularly focusing on the roles of trauma and neglect. These early life experiences often teach individuals to avoid conflict, difficult emotions, and challenging situations as a means of coping and ensuring safety. Unfortunately, these avoidance behaviors can persist into adulthood, manifesting as people-pleasing tendencies, emotional dishonesty, and the suppression of true feelings. This can lead to significant emotional distress and strained relationships, as suppressed emotions eventually surface in unhealthy ways, such as lashing out. We explore the psychological mechanisms behind these behaviors and offer practical strategies to overcome them. By understanding the roots of avoidance, we can begin to unravel these patterns and adopt healthier coping mechanisms. The episode provides insights into building self-awareness, developing emotional resilience, and the need for support to do this work. Three Takeaways: 1.    Childhood Trauma and Neglect Influence Adult Behaviors: Early traumatic experiences and neglect can teach children to avoid difficult situations and emotions as a survival mechanism. These avoidance behaviors often continue into adulthood, leading to challenges such as people-pleasing, emotional dishonesty, and the suppression of feelings. 2.    Avoidance Reinforces Fear and Anxiety: Avoiding feared situations provides temporary relief but ultimately reinforces and perpetuates fear and anxiety. This cycle of avoidance can be broken through gradual exposure and facing fears in a controlled and safe manner, which helps reduce the power of these fears over time. 3.    Strategies for Overcoming Avoidance: Developing self-awareness, practicing mindfulness, and seeking professional support are crucial steps in overcoming avoidance behaviors. By building emotional resilience and learning healthy coping mechanisms, we can face their fears more effectively and lead more authentic and fulfilling lives.       The only way to conquer your fears is to face them, step by step. Each small victory builds the courage to tackle the next, until what once seemed insurmountable becomes a testament to your strength and resilience. You can do this.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

  Today we introduce this month's topic:  all the ways we avoid sitting with our feelings and facing truths that seem too overwhelming to confront. We'll explore the psychological mechanisms behind our avoidance behaviors, such as staying task-focused, fixating on others' needs, and using distractions to numb our emotions. By examining these patterns, we can better understand how avoidance often stems from a fear of facing our own shame and guilt, which can lead to chronic anxiety and a sense of disconnection from ourselves and those around us. We also discuss the significant impact of avoidance on our mental and emotional well-being, highlighting the emotional toll of unresolved feelings and suppressed emotions. This episode provides practical strategies for breaking the cycle of avoidance and encourages listeners to embrace vulnerability and emotional honesty. By facing our feelings head-on, we can begin the journey towards self-awareness, healing, and stronger, more authentic relationships. Stay tuned in the coming weeks as we take some time – to face ourselves. Key Takeaways: Avoidance Fuels Anxiety: By consistently avoiding uncomfortable emotions and truths, we create a cycle of unresolved issues that leads to chronic anxiety and increased stress. Facing these feelings, though challenging, is essential for reducing anxiety and fostering emotional health. Impact on Relationships: Avoidance behaviors can create barriers to genuine connections with others, leading to superficial relationships and emotional disconnect. Embracing our emotions allows for deeper intimacy and understanding in our relationships. Emotional Toll of Suppression: Suppressed emotions can lead to a range of psychological and physical issues, including chronic stress, anxiety, and depression. Addressing and processing these feelings is crucial for maintaining overall well-being and preventing emotional burnout.       Avoiding our own emotions  makes it harder to be there  for others because we're too  wrapped up in our own struggles.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

In this episode we talk about the importance of maintaining your sense of self in relationships and avoiding the pitfalls of getting lost in crises created by others. We introduce a daily checklist designed to help you stay grounded and prioritize your well-being. Additionally, we explore how high cortisol levels, resulting from chronic stress, can impair your ability to stay in tune with your emotions and bodily needs. By recognizing these critical moments, or PINPOINTs, when you first fail to honor yourself, you can prevent a cascade of negative events and foster healthier relationships. We tackle strategies for setting and enforcing personal boundaries, overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, and navigating conflicts without avoidance. We also discuss the significance of surrounding yourself with supportive individuals who respect your limits and encourage personal growth. By the end of the episode, you'll have actionable insights and tools to help you maintain your identity and well-being in any relationship or situation. Key Takeaways Daily Checklist for Self-Care: Implementing a daily checklist that includes setting intentions, reviewing boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and reflecting on your interactions can help you stay grounded and maintain your sense of self in relationships. Impact of High Cortisol Levels: Chronic stress and high cortisol levels can impair your emotional awareness and decision-making abilities. Recognizing and managing stress is crucial for maintaining your well-being and staying connected to your needs and emotions. Identifying and Acting on PINPOINT Moments: Recognizing critical moments when you fail to honor yourself—PINPOINTs—allows you to prevent a cascade of negative events. By practicing mindfulness and self-awareness, you can better manage these moments and foster healthier, more balanced relationships.       Spot the pinpoints— those moments when you first neglect yourself. Recognizing these moments is the key to preventing a cascade of events that lead to losing your identity.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

In this episode we talk about the importance of being mindful about who we allow into our lives: It's crucial to be mindful about who we allow into our lives because the people around us significantly influence our thoughts, behaviors, and overall well-being. Positive, supportive individuals can inspire growth, boost confidence, and encourage healthy habits, while negative, toxic people can drain energy, foster self-doubt, and hinder personal development. We need people who are strong enough to lean on, love us enough to tell us the truth, but also have the ability to detach and let us sit in our own truth, and have our own process. Encouragement to Assess Relationships: Take the time to assess your relationships and make conscious choices about the company you keep. Reflect on whether the people in your life support your growth, respect your boundaries, and contribute positively to your well-being. If you find that certain relationships are holding you back or causing harm, consider setting boundaries or seeking healthier connections. By surrounding ourselves with people who inspire courage, positivity, and personal growth, we can create a supportive environment that fosters our well-being and helps us achieve our full potential.   1.     Choose Your Company Wisely: ·       The people you surround yourself with significantly impact your personal growth and well-being. Seek out individuals who are emotionally mature, supportive of your goals, and inspire you to be your best self. 2.     Set and Respect Boundaries: ·       Establishing and maintaining personal boundaries is crucial for healthy relationships. Clear boundaries protect your emotional health, prevent burnout, and ensure mutual respect and understanding. 3.     Embrace People Who Are Open-Minded and Courageous: ·       Look for those who foster a mindset of open-mindedness and courage. Being open to new ideas and perspectives, and overcoming fear-based behaviors, creates a positive and dynamic environment where both you and your relationships can thrive.       Growth-minded friends are the catalysts that ignite our journey towards becoming our best selves.       Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

In this episode, we sit down with Emily Cleghorn, an award-winning Trauma Recovery Coach, author, podcaster, and inspirational speaker. Emily is dedicated to helping trauma-surviving mothers navigate the challenges of parenting while healing from their own childhood traumas. With a deep passion for creating positive, lasting impacts for future generations, Emily shares her personal journey of overcoming the shadows cast by her trauma. Her inspiring story and practical insights empower mothers to break free from their past and become the nurturing parents they aspire to be.   Emily, a mother of two young children, understands firsthand the complexities of parenting while managing trauma triggers. She has channeled her experiences into her latest book, "Rising from the Ashes," which offers valuable guidance and support to mothers on a similar path. Throughout this episode, Emily discusses her approach to trauma recovery, the importance of self-care, and strategies for managing triggers and tantrums in daily life. To learn more about Emily's work and how to connect with her, visit Mended Mama Life.   Key Takeaways: Healing is Possible: Emily emphasizes that it is possible to heal from childhood trauma while being an effective and loving parent. Her own journey serves as a powerful example of this transformation.   Managing Triggers: Emily provides practical advice on how to recognize and manage triggers that arise in the context of parenting, helping mothers create a calmer and more nurturing environment for their children.   Self-Care is Essential: Emily highlights the importance of self-care for trauma-surviving mothers, emphasizing that taking care of oneself is crucial for being able to care for one's children effectively.   Self-care isn't a luxury for  trauma-surviving mothers; it's essential. Taking time for yourself enables you  to be the best parent you can be.   Emily Cleghorn: https://home.mendedmamalife.ca/   Check out her podcast there too! https://home.mendedmamalife.ca/blog   Her new book Rising From the Ashes: Reclaiming your Life After a Traumatic Childhood is on Amazon:  https://a.co/d/ftNFliz       Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

In this episode, I am thrilled to have Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach and group facilitator, share his invaluable insights into the transformative power of men's groups. With over two decades of experience, Jason has worked alongside leaders like John Wineland and Dr. Robert Glover, honing his approach to helping men find clarity in their life's purpose and relationships. He advocates strongly for men's participation in men's groups, emphasizing their role in fostering personal growth, enhancing intimate relationships, and contributing positively to family and community dynamics. During our conversation, Jason discusses the profound impact these groups have had on his life and why he believes every man should join one to experience similar transformative benefits. Jason's perspective is particularly compelling as he addresses the common emotional voids many men face, including unresolved father wounds and a general lack of supportive spaces for emotional expression and healing. Throughout the interview, he offers wisdom on what men truly need to thrive and how men's groups can serve as crucial platforms for learning, growth, and healing. This discussion is not just for men but is also vital for women to understand the struggles men often face in silence. Be sure to pass this episode along to help spread Jason's powerful message. Also, check out Jason's podcast, Evolutionary Men, for more insights into men's personal development. Key Takeaways: 1.     Supportive Networks: Jason Lange highlights the importance of men's groups in providing a support network that allows men to explore and heal emotional wounds, particularly those related to paternal relationships. 2.     Empowerment Through Community: Men's groups empower participants by promoting healthier expressions of emotions, which leads to more vital intimate partnerships and a greater ability to serve family and community. 3.     Inclusivity in Understanding: This episode is essential not just for men, but also for women, to foster a deeper understanding of the unique challenges men face and the potential pathways to addressing these issues through community support.   Groups are a place to grow, a sanctuary where we are  seen, heard, and supported  in our deepest vulnerabilities.   Jason Lange: https://evolutionary.men/ Check out his podcast there too! https://evolutionary.men/podcast-evolutionary-men-lead-in-life-and-love/       Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!    

Welcome to episode 252 where we look at the power of how our boundaries and integrity are symbiotic…and so important for our self-concept. In this episode we explore the vital role of boundaries, self-discipline, and integrity in cultivating self-trust and confidence. By setting and honoring boundaries with others, we protect our integrity and maintain healthy connections, fostering a sense of authenticity and coherence in our lives. Additionally, developing self-discipline allows us to regulate our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in alignment with our values, reinforcing our integrity and building self-trust over time. Takeaways: 1.    Boundaries are essential for self-trust: Establishing clear boundaries with others is crucial for protecting one's integrity and fostering healthy relationships. By communicating and enforcing boundaries, individuals assert their needs and values, strengthening their self-trust and confidence in navigating social interactions. 2.    Self-discipline reinforces integrity: Practicing self-discipline involves consistently aligning one's actions with their values and goals. By developing habits of self-control and accountability, individuals build a foundation of integrity that enhances their self-trust and confidence in their ability to uphold their principles. 3.    Integrity is the cornerstone of self-confidence: Living with integrity means acting in accordance with one's values and beliefs, even in challenging circumstances. By prioritizing authenticity and coherence in their actions, individuals cultivate a deep sense of self-trust and confidence, empowering them to navigate life with resilience and purpose.     Our integrity is more visible than we realize.  It reflects the depth of our  self-trust when our actions align with  our words.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 251 where we look for the safe people – and how to recognize them! In this episode we explore the essential role of healthy boundaries and self-awareness in fostering trust and safety within relationships. We discuss how individuals with healthy boundaries maintain a sense of separateness while still fostering connection, emphasizing the importance of understanding these traits for building fulfilling and supportive relationships. Through clear communication, respect for autonomy, and emotional regulation, the safe people can strike a balance between independence and connection, creating an environment of mutual trust, respect, and emotional safety. Key Takeaways: 1.    Clear Communication: Healthy boundaries are established through open and assertive communication. Individuals should feel empowered to express their needs, preferences, and limits in order to foster mutual understanding and respect within relationships. 2.    Respect for Autonomy: It's essential to respect the autonomy and independence of both oneself and others. Recognizing that each person is responsible for their own thoughts, feelings, and actions helps maintain a healthy balance between individuality and connection. 3.    Emotional Regulation: Mastering emotional regulation is key to maintaining a sense of separateness while fostering connection. Individuals with healthy boundaries can manage their emotions independently, without relying on others to meet their emotional needs, thereby fostering a sense of emotional independence within relationships.     If you want to find a safe person, make sure they communicate openly, with good boundaries… and can let you be who and where you are.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 250 where we look at the behaviors that put “eggshells on the floor” in our relationships.   In this episode, we talk about the intricate dynamics of relationships impacted by "eggshell creators" – individuals whose behaviors consistently force others to tiptoe around them to avoid conflict or upset. We explore the various manifestations of such behavior, where it comes from, and how these patterns can erode trust and emotional well-being in relationships. By shedding light on the role of these "troublemakers," we can gain insight into recognizing and navigating toxic dynamics, empowering them to establish boundaries and cultivate healthier connections.   Key Takeaways:   Recognize the Signs: Pay attention to patterns of behavior in your relationships, such as feeling anxious or constantly on edge around certain individuals. Recognizing the signs of "eggshell creators" can empower you to address toxic dynamics and prioritize your emotional well-being. Establish Boundaries: Set clear boundaries to protect yourself from the emotional toll of walking on eggshells. Asserting your needs and limits in relationships is crucial for maintaining your autonomy and fostering healthier interactions. Seek Support: Don't hesitate to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals if you find yourself navigating challenging dynamics with "eggshell creators." Building a support network can provide validation, perspective, and guidance as you work towards creating healthier relationships.     Walking on eggshells isn't  just about avoiding conflict;  it's about sacrificing your own emotional authenticity  to maintain a fragile  sense of stability.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 249 where we look at how interactions in childhood can create fear in our adult relationships. In this episode, we delve into the intricate ways childhood emotional survival strategies shape our adult relationships. From observing parental behavior to adapting to avoid conflict, these learned behaviors often lead us to walk on eggshells in our interactions. The "eggshells on the floor" phenomenon reflects the cautious, tiptoeing approach we adopt to prevent discomfort or conflict, often at the expense of authentic communication. Additionally, we explore how rescuing behaviors further enable avoidance, hindering genuine growth and understanding in relationships.   As we examine these patterns, a recurring theme emerges: the importance of allowing ourselves and others to "sit in the uncomfortable." This involves stating the truth, setting boundaries, and relinquishing the need to rescue. By embracing discomfort, we create space for authentic conversations, fostering trust, respect, and genuine connection.   Key Takeaways: Recognizing Childhood Influences: Childhood experiences deeply shape our relationship dynamics, leading to subconscious behaviors like walking on eggshells. Understanding these early patterns is crucial for breaking free from old cycles.   Letting Go of Rescuing Behaviors: Rescuing someone in conversations, though well-intentioned, often hinders honest communication. Letting them "sit in the uncomfortable" while stating the truth and maintaining boundaries empowers both parties to engage authentically.   Embracing Discomfort for Growth: Discomfort in conversations is an opportunity for growth and understanding. By challenging the urge to rescue and allowing space for vulnerability, we pave the way for deeper connections and resilient relationships.     To find the real issues, just work backward from the conflict, finding the 'eggshells'—those places of fear, avoidance, and unresolved things. That'll show you exactly what happened.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

  Welcome to episode 248 where we explore how our brains impact our ability to set boundaries in the moment. In this episode, we explore the impact of childhood coping mechanisms—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—on adult boundary-setting behaviors. The limbic system, our emotional brain, often guides our immediate reactions in boundary-setting situations, stemming from survival strategies developed in childhood. These automatic responses can lead to patterns of behavior that might not always align with our best interests as adults.   However, by understanding these childhood coping mechanisms, we can begin to navigate boundary-setting with greater awareness and intentionality. Engaging our prefrontal cortex—the thinking brain—allows us to pause, reflect, and make conscious decisions about our boundaries. Through reflection, self-compassion, and aligning boundaries with our values, we can move away from automatic survival strategies and toward healthier, more assertive ways of setting boundaries.   Key Takeaways: Pause and Reflect: When faced with a boundary-setting situation, take a moment to pause and breathe. This allows you to disengage from automatic reactions and engage your thinking brain for more intentional responses.  Align with Values: Consider your values and well-being when setting boundaries. Aligning your boundaries with what matters most to you gives you clarity and purpose in your decisions.  Practice Self-Compassion: Setting boundaries can be challenging, especially when breaking old patterns. Remember to be gentle with yourself and acknowledge that growth takes time. Self-compassion encourages learning and growth in your boundary-setting journey.      When you react with fear, you're handing over power to others. It's time to take back control  and finally own your strength.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 247 where we explore how boundaries in relationships make it safe to be open and connecting. In this episode, we describe the delicate balance of vulnerability within boundaries. We explore how sharing our vulnerabilities can deepen connections, but also discuss the importance of discerning when it's safe to do so. By setting clear boundaries, we create a safe space where authentic communication and emotional intimacy can flourish. We emphasize the significance of starting small, being clear about our needs, and observing the responses of others to determine if they are emotionally healthy enough to trust with our vulnerabilities. By understanding the role of boundaries in vulnerability, we empower ourselves to cultivate meaningful connections built on trust, empathy, and mutual respect. Remember, vulnerability is a strength, and when shared within healthy boundaries, it can lead to meaningful relationships that help us grow and enrich our life.     KeyTakeaways:   Start Small and Gauge Responses: Begin by sharing small vulnerabilities to test the waters and observe how the other person responds. This allows you to assess their empathy and understanding before diving deeper. Communicate Boundaries Clearly: Before sharing vulnerable information, be clear about your boundaries and needs. This sets the stage for respectful and balanced interactions. Trust Your Instincts: Pay attention to red flags and trust your instincts. If something feels off or uncomfortable, it's okay to hold back and reassess the relationship.     Vulnerability is the cornerstone of trust in relationships. When we reveal our truth to another person,  we are essentially saying, "I trust you with my innermost self."     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!    

Welcome to episode 245 where we get into the magic of detachment that allows us to have boundaries, and to grieve instead of trying to control. In this episode, we delve into the transformative journey of setting boundaries through the lens of detachment and grieving. We explore how detaching from others' emotions, behaviors, and choices is not about indifference, but rather creating the emotional space necessary for healthy boundaries to flourish. By honoring the process of grieving losses associated with setting boundaries, such as the end of familiar dynamics or relationships, we pave the way for deeper self-awareness and growth.   We discuss practical strategies for practicing detachment, including mindfulness, setting emotional boundaries, and letting go of the need to control outcomes. Navigating the grieving process involves allowing ourselves to feel the range of emotions that come with change, expressing ourselves creatively, and seeking support when needed.   Key Takeaways:   Create Emotional Space: Detachment allows for the creation of emotional space, providing clarity to recognize when boundaries are being crossed and respond from a place of strength.   Honor the Grieving Process: Acknowledge and honor the feelings of loss and change that come with setting boundaries. This process is essential for healing and moving forward.   Practice Self-Compassion: Throughout the journey of setting boundaries, remember to be gentle with yourself. Self-compassion allows for growth, resilience, and the ability to navigate relationships with authenticity.   Detachment is about creating space between ourselves and the swirling whirlpool of other people's stuff. Their drama, their opinions, their actions—they're not ours to carry.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!  

  Welcome to episode 246 where we focus on the fears that can keep us from setting healthy limits. In this episode, we dive into the journey – and often a bumpy ride - of navigating discomfort and fear when setting boundaries. We explore the common fears that arise, such as fear of rejection, conflict, or disapproval, and how these fears can be deeply rooted in past experiences. From enmeshed family dynamics to conditional love, our upbringing plays a significant role in shaping our relationship with boundaries. However, setting boundaries is not about erasing these fears, but rather about developing practical strategies to manage and overcome them. We discuss actionable steps to empower you in asserting your needs and desires authentically. From reframing fear as a sign of growth to practicing self-compassion, this episode offers valuable insights to navigate the sometimes challenging waters of boundary setting.   Key Takeaways:   Reframe Fear as Growth: Understand that discomfort and fear when setting boundaries are often signs of growth. Instead of seeing them as obstacles, view them as opportunities for personal development and empowerment. Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself throughout the process. Setting boundaries can be challenging, and it's okay to feel uncomfortable. Offer yourself kindness and understanding as you navigate this journey. Develop Practical Strategies: Equip yourself with practical tools to manage discomfort and fear. This includes techniques such as visualization, scripting conversations, setting small boundaries first, and seeking support from trusted friends or professionals.     Setting the boundary is just the beginning… The real challenge lies in maintaining it.  Stay true to your boundaries, even when it's tough. Your consistency speaks volumes.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 244 where we talk about how boundaries and control are two very different things, even if they are often confused. In this episode, we talk about the power of boundaries and the misconceptions that often cloak them as tools of control. We explore how boundaries are not about dictating others' actions but about taking responsibility for our own well-being, choices, and values. By setting boundaries, we create a space of empowerment, allowing us to define how we want to be treated and what aligns with our true selves. We discuss the dangers of reactive boundaries that focus on changing others, highlighting the importance of shifting the focus back to ourselves and our needs. Through examples and discussions, we uncover the true essence of boundaries as allies in self-discovery, self-respect, and healthy relationships.   Three Key Takeaways:   Boundaries Empower Self-Responsibility: Setting boundaries is an act of self-respect and empowerment. It means recognizing our needs, values, and limits, and communicating them clearly to others. Boundaries empower us to take ownership of our choices and responses in various situations.   Reactive Boundaries and Control: Reactive boundaries, when aimed at changing or manipulating others, can easily slip into controlling behaviors. It's crucial to shift the focus back to ourselves, ensuring that our boundaries are centered on our well-being and values rather than trying to control external circumstances.   Healthy Boundaries Foster Authentic Connections: When we set and uphold healthy boundaries, we create space for genuine, respectful, and fulfilling relationships. Boundaries serve as the framework for open communication, mutual understanding, and the freedom to be our authentic selves in our interactions with others.   Boundaries aren't about control; they're about letting go of what will happen when we say no. To honor our truth regardless.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 243 where we look at ways fear can rob us of having the life we deserve. In this episode, we confront the insidious nature of fear, which often masquerades as a protector while robbing us of our dreams and aspirations. Fear whispers lies of inadequacy and failure, creating barriers that keep us small and confined within our comfort zones. We explore the personal costs of living under fear's shadow, from missed opportunities to the toll on our mental and emotional well-being. Through stories and insights, we uncover the courage to break free from fear's grip, embracing a life guided by passion, values, and aspirations.   Key Takeaways:   Recognize Fear's Disguise: Fear often presents itself as a protective force, but it's essential to recognize when it's holding us back. By identifying the subtle ways fear manifests—such as self-doubt, hesitation, or avoidance—we can begin to challenge its grip on our lives.   Break Free Through Action: Taking small, consistent steps outside our comfort zones is key to breaking free from fear. Whether it's pursuing a passion project, learning a new skill, or seeking out growth opportunities, action helps build confidence and resilience.   Live Authentically and Courageously: Embracing a life guided by passion, values, and aspirations requires courage. It means daring to envision the life we truly desire, challenging limiting beliefs, and surrounding ourselves with supportive communities. By cultivating mindfulness, self-compassion, and a growth mindset, we empower ourselves to step boldly into the unknown and create a life rich with meaning and fulfillment.   The longer you listen to your fear, the smaller your life will become.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!    Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!

  Welcome to episode 242 where we talk about how to tap into your inner wisdom when you need it most. In this episode, we talk about anxiety and how it's not always a bad thing. Sometimes, it's like our inner GPS, trying to tell us something important. When we feel anxious, it could mean there's a conflict between what we think we should do and what our gut feeling is telling us.  Our higher self knows what's up, even when our rational mind is trying to convince us otherwise. So, instead of seeing anxiety as a problem, we can view it as a guide, nudging us towards what's best for us. We then discuss how to practice truly stopping and listening to ourselves and processing our genuine feelings with safe people.   Key Takeaways: Listen to Your Gut: Pay attention to how you're feeling, even if it's uncomfortable. Your intuition often knows what's right for you. Slow Down and Reflect: Take time to pause, breathe, and check in with yourself. Creating space for introspection can help you decipher your emotions and gain clarity. Trust Yourself: Honor the messages your emotions are trying to convey, and trust that you have the wisdom within you to navigate life's challenges.       Trust yourself. Honor the messages your emotions are trying to convey, even if they don't make logical sense at first. Your intuition is a powerful guide,  leading you towards what's best for your well-being.   Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com   Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It's a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143     Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!