Podcasts about owning your choices

In this episode, I wanted to share thoughts on what to do when life feels like pushing you or putting pressure on you and how to handle failure or setbacks because of it. First off, I am not a huge fan of the word failure because we are never failing, and there is no such thing as failure, only feedback.  In this episode, we discuss:  1) How do you keep lif'ing when it feels like life is really hard?  Do you meet it with a ton of resistance, pushback and fighting, which only decreases your ability to meet yourself with compassion or grace? 2) Remember that everything is data; everything is teaching us something, and we decide the meaning of it all. How can you ask different questions, get curious, ask what you are here to learn, and how might you be being asked to do more than rest but actually to restore and replenish yourself and your needs?  OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   The Stories We Tell Ourselves  https://www.marshavanw.com/the-stories-we-tell-ourselves Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with Founder, Conscious Voice Alchemist, and Supernatural Super Communicator Allyson Byrd.  Allyson is more than just a mentor to business owners in the digital marketing space; she is an agent of transformation and grace. A celebrated leader in sales through energetics, Allyson has enabled her students to come together and create astounding results – $330 million in sales revenue using her methodologies of Spotlight Energetics™. Her unique approach of bold guidance, disruptive challenges, and empowering encouragement has enabled thousands of people in over 20 industries from 47+ countries to exceed their own expectations. With her vast experience and knowledge as a global mentor, spiritual advisor, online educator, content creator and virtual CEO, it's no wonder why Allyson Byrd has been considered one of the world's leading energetics experts for entrepreneurs and small business owners. Allyson's body of work and knowledge have been featured on MSNBC, Amazon Prime, CNN, USA Today, and NPR. She invites us to join her on a mission to push boundaries, make an impact, and share our stories. With bold moves and a powerful voice, she's leading the charge to showcase the healing power of personal experiences.    Allyson has the remarkable ability to challenge even the most successful entrepreneurs with her innovative and counterintuitive perspectives.  In this episode, we discuss: 1)  Abundance, allowing, energetics and how there's a shift of more money moving into the hands of the spiritually led entrepreneurs. 2) Three shifts that help entrepreneurs see their value and worth, including celebrating wins and learning to approve of themselves. The work always starts on the inside first, and when you learn to feel safe to be seen and heard, you will unlock all the abundance that is available for you. . Connect with Allyson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamallysonbyrd/ Email: allyson@allysonbyrd.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/allysonbyrdcoaching Website: www.allysonbyrd.com Allyson's 5 Money Agreements to Make a Living with Your Story!!! https://www.poweredbyallysonbyrd.com/money-agreements Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on the word identity, what it means and how we create it daily.  On a personal level, identity often refers to a person's sense of self, meaning how they view themselves compared to others. Identity encompasses the values people hold, which dictate the choices they make.  It is who you are and how you see yourself. In this episode, we discuss:  1) Your identity is not based on whether you are motivated, disciplined, or deserving.  Your identity is who you are, what you do, and what you have accomplished. Changing your identity starts with your habits, what you think and say to yourself, and the stories you tell yourself. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   The Stories We Tell Ourselves  https://www.marshavanw.com/the-stories-we-tell-ourselves Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

 In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on what is actually blocking you from finding, unlocking and using your OUTSPOKEN voice. In this episode I am sharing 10 tips of how to unlock and use your voice and some of the things that are holding you back might not be what you think.  In this episode, we discuss:  1) It requires getting quiet and muting all other things that are distractions. Getting stuck in a comparison loop of how you think your voice should sound, what you should say etc, will distract you from finding your authentic voice. This is what the mute button is for, to help you find your voice.  2) You can't “consciously” change something that you don't subconsciously believe is possible. Those limiting beliefs can be changed at the root and seen as a superpower when you unpack them and understand them. Your subconscious mind was only ever trying to keep you safe and protected.     3) You will never be ready to start, because starting anything is new and scary and definitely “unfamiliar” and our subconscious mind will always choose the safe/familiar discomfort it knows vs the discomfort it doesn't know OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   The Stories We Tell Ourselves (on presale) https://www.marshavanw.com/StoriesWeTellOurselves Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with Master Breathwork Facilitator, Retreat Host & Podcaster, Victoria Starr.  Victoria is a soul-activation mentor and master Breathwork facilitator, whose journey began as a high-level athlete competing in Ironman triathlons, marathons, and Olympic weightlifting. Victoria's discipline and determination in sports mirrored her relentless pursuit of personal growth and healing. After experiencing her transformation through breathwork, she felt called to share this powerful practice with others. Victoria's mission centers on empowering individuals to break free from societal constraints and limiting beliefs, cultivate self-trust and confidence, and embrace a life of authenticity. She combines her sacred gifts of intuitive channelling with transformative breathwork to guide people on a profound journey of self-discovery. Her approach awakens inner wisdom, heals generational trauma, and fosters emotional and spiritual liberation. Through her breathwork sessions, Victoria offers a sacred journey into the self, providing a path to emotional and spiritual liberation. She specializes in breathwork for healing trauma and recovering from toxic relationships, helping individuals achieve emotional freedom and rediscover their inner strength. In this episode, we discuss:  1)  Victoria shares the science behind breathwork, the steps and mechanics of breathing, and the power of breathwork and understanding the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems and how this work can improve and impact our health. 2) There is so much wisdom, magic and knowledge in our breath and this is instrumental in our healing and health. Connect with Victoria Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victorialeestarr/ Website: https://www.victorialeestarr.com/ Email: vicki@victorialeestarr.com Download Victoria's Freebie: https://www.victorialeestarr.com/box-breathing-freebie Connect with Victoria: https://www.victorialeestarr.com/offers/47FVpVjk?coupon_code=BIRTHDAYZ555 https://www.victorialeestarr.com/offers/GDHfBBWb?coupon_code=BIRTHDAYS55 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on getting back to neutral. Being neutral is not being numb to your emotions.  It is seeing and feeling your emotions and not making them mean something about you.  Here are a couple of things that I do to support myself in getting back to neutral faster. In this episode, we discuss:  1) Nervous system regulation, detaching from the outcome and learning to be and feel safe in contraction and expansion have been a game changer for me in life and business this year.  2) Feel the feeling for a bit, without judgment. Look closely at the feeling, but don't act on it. Can you zoom back from the feeling to see it more clearly?  Pay attention to how you feel can help you accept the emotion and then permit yourself to let it go. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   The Stories We Tell Ourselves (on presale) https://www.marshavanw.com/StoriesWeTellOurselves Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In today's episode, I discuss five common false beliefs hindering entrepreneurs' productivity. These beliefs often stem from previous employee mindsets and can prevent consistent task execution. You'll learn strategies to shift thinking, prioritize effectively, and embrace delegation. If you are ready to double your business through strategic small actions taken consistently without adding more work to your schedule, I can help. Book a sales call with here today and let's talk about how - https://calendly.com/maggie-s2l/discovery-call Key Time Stamps:Importance of Mindset (00:01:26)Maggie emphasizes the significance of mindset in achieving business success and effectiveness.False Belief #1: Task Obligation (00:02:37)Discussion on the belief that entrepreneurs must complete tasks they dislike stems from an employee mindset.Perspective Shift: You Are the CEO (00:04:57)Maggie encourages listeners to recognize their autonomy in decision-making as business leaders.Owning Your Choices (00:06:00)Listeners are urged to commit to their choices, even when faced with discomfort or challenges.Self-Relationship and Leadership (00:09:43)Maggie highlights the importance of self-acceptance and confidence in leading oneself and the business.False Belief #2: Doing It All at Once (00:12:17)Discussion on the misconception that one must accomplish everything immediately, leading to overwhelm.Prioritization Strategy (00:13:31)Maggie introduces the Pareto Principle, emphasizing the importance of focusing on key tasks for maximum results.False Belief #3: Delegation Doubts (00:14:51)Exploration of beliefs that hinder effective delegation, including fears of losing control or finding capable help.False Belief #4: Overwhelm from Too Much to Do (00:17:11)Maggie challenges the belief of having too much to do, stressing the importance of realistic boundaries.Proactive Planning (00:19:24)Listeners are encouraged to be proactive in planning to avoid feeling overwhelmed by unexpected tasks.CEO Power Hour (00:21:34)Maggie introduces the concept of a weekly planning hour to help entrepreneurs gain perspective and prevent overwhelm.False Belief #5: Uncertainty in Starting (00:22:47)Discussion on the common fear of not knowing where to start, leading to inaction and confusion.Constructive Questioning Technique (00:22:47)Maggie suggests asking oneself what if they knew how to start, to shift from confusion to problem-solving.Identifying Help Needed (00:23:54)Discussion on recognizing when help is needed and exploring various sources for assistance.Delegating Tasks (00:24:47)Emphasis on the importance of delegating tasks and overcoming discomfort in executing familiar tasks.Focusing on Critical Tasks (00:25:53)Encouragement to concentrate on 20% of tasks that yield 80% of business results for effective growth.

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on a quote I heard from Brendon Bouchard a year ago. Its true meaning for me didn't hit until recently: “You are in training for this life. You will always fall to the level of your training, not your expectations.”  In this episode, we discuss:  1) How can you raise the floor of your training so that you can give yourself a fighting chance so that when life's at you, you only have a small stumble and not be knocked completely off your game? Spiritually, physically, emotionally, nervous system support, and all of the above to give yourself a fighting chance by leading yourself first. 2)  How can you trade your expectations in for your standards? What standards do you want to set for your life, and how can you live by them no matter what? OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 The Stories We Tell Ourselves (on presale) https://www.marshavanw.com/StoriesWeTellOurselves Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with Executive Leadership, Life and Business Strategist Kim Fitzpatrick. Kim is a leading lifestyle, wellness, habit, business, and leadership strategist who aims to maximize the potential and happiness in everyone whose path she crosses. Kim is truly and uniquely one of a kind, and her energy is infectious and comes straight from her heart. Kim is a private, one-on-one business and life strategist, mentor, and Coach who maximizes individuals' potential. Kim has co-founded and built multiple seven-figure online retail and direct sales businesses. Her organization is responsible for tens of millions of dollars in retail and digital wellness sales, and she and her husband, Jamie, made history in their affiliated company in terms of success. They were both awarded the CEO Award in 2019 for integrity and leadership. She is the CEO and Founder of Legacy By Kim and the creator of the “Awaken Her Clarity Mastermind” and subsequent courses. She also authored her morning habits and routine heart map and Journal, “Be Her Now,” which has been the backbone of her successful morning and life routine. She is the Co-Host of the Podcast Fitzlife Unfiltered and has keynoted and spoken across the world on stages and at conferences, sharing her unique energy and knowledge with tens of thousands of people. In this episode, we discuss: 1)  Healing, self-leadership, and learning how to find peace and presence in the present moment. Kim shares the Instagram presence, which, for many people, looks like she is swimming, yet she is drowning.  She has been in training for the hardest years of her life. Kim developed grit and tenacity while in survival and now is finally in a space of thriving. 2) You don't have to have it all figured out to be ready; you will figure it out when you start. “You can't screw up what is meant for you, and you have time.  None of what you are doing is a miracle. It is what you have engineered.” Brianna Weist. Kim drops so many nuggets during this episode that will speak to you no matter where you are on your journey. Connect with Kim Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kim_m_fitzpatrick/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kim.p.fitzpatrick Email: kimfitzpatrickfitness@gmail.com Website: Www.JamieandKimfitzpatrick.com FitzLife Unfiltered Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0Yjw1fvtHpCEN9dN5LBlpi?si=axk7Aqw1Tnik82URmU8n6w Kim's Freebie to support your morning routine, http://bit.ly/MorningRoutineWithKim Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on our emotions and how they are driving the car.  Picture yourself in the backseat of your car working on your personal development, trying to grow yourself and you get stuck in this perpetual loop of frustrations or emotions on repeat and you can't find a way to break that pattern. In this episode, we discuss:  1) Sometimes our brain can't tell the difference between a bear, an annoying client, or a tailgating car. This is when the “90-second rule” comes in handy. According to Harvard brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, ninety seconds is all it takes to identify an emotion and allow it to dissipate while you simply notice it. 2) Emotions operate as urgent signalling devices. How can you step back, zoom out and start to see what this message, the emotion wants you to know? The emotions feed the stories and the stories feed the emotions. By zooming out, or playing out the feelings of the best case scenario, we are start to create a new loop of emotions that it has all worked out better than we can imagine. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 The Stories We Tell Ourselves (on presale) https://www.marshavanw.com/StoriesWeTellOurselves   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on duality, what I have learned about it, and how I am so open to having this conversation on duality as it reflects on the first 6 months of this year in particular.  In this episode, we discuss:  1) The duality of life is what makes it rich and meaningful. Life is a dance of opposites, both light and dark, joy and sorrow. Embrace both sides, for they are two sides of the same coin. Don't resist the darkness, for it helps you appreciate the light. 2)  Duality is a concept that illustrates that balance is experienced between two opposing forces. Too much of one breaks the balance, just as the absence of one breaks the balance. This concept teaches that understanding and appreciation of anything OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 Become OUTSPOKEN Open House, Thursday, July 25th, 2024 https://www.marshavanw.com/become-outspoken-write-your-damn-book-open-house-july-25 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with Athlete, Personal trainer, and Health and Nutrition coach, Tayler Kelly. Tayler is a passionate personal trainer, athlete, and holistic nutritionist who empowers others through fitness and wellness. Focusing on athletic functional training, she blends her love for martial arts and holistic nutrition to help people achieve their peak physical and mental health. Tayler's approach to nutrition emphasizes healing our relationship with food and promoting overall well-being. She is committed to sharing her experiences and insights to motivate others in their fitness journeys. In this episode, we discuss: 1)  Tayler shares her journey from her perspective of a very different life 3 years ago to now being a Canadian and Nationally recognized Muay Thai fighter, with a growing personal training business, anchoring in on the importance of listening to what her body needs, training physically, mentally and emotionally, to supporting her growing client base and showing them what is possible in their lives to when they show up consistently 1% better every single day. 2) The power of getting back to neutral faster, making our wins and losses mean less about us, and instead focusing on what it is teaching us, and how we can shift our thoughts to focus on where we are going instead of what did or didn't work out for us in the past. Connect with Tayler Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tkels_/ Email: taylerpkelly@gmail.com Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on scripting, what it is and one of the biggest lessons I learned about scripting while on my mastermind retreat in Sedona last month.  I am not new to scripting at all.  I am happy to share what I have learned from 10 years of scripting. These are the steps I use to write a script for my brain to focus on where it is going. In this episode, we discuss:  1) This was my biggest realization after writing my new script in Sedona, and I am sharing the guilt I felt and what I learned from this most recent experience. 2)  Here is a link to the PDF of my Scripting Workshop from 2021, Click the link to join OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 Become OUTSPOKEN Open House, Thursday, July 25th, 2024 https://www.marshavanw.com/become-outspoken-write-your-damn-book-open-house-july-25 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on your breaking points or what feels like your breaking point and what it can also become.  In this episode, we discuss:  1) Your breaking point can also become your learning point, the point where you ask more or different questions, where you recognize what is or isn't working, where you are being asked to do more or do less, where you are open to the resources available for you or within you.  It can be the scariest time or the time with the most possibilities. 2) Giving your best doesn't have to break you.  That might also be the moment when you stop trying to do it all by yourself when you allow yourself to receive support, encouragement, and compassion, or when you are in a space of asking the universe to show you what it has and how it can support you. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   Become OUTSPOKEN Open House, Thursday, July 25th, 2024 https://www.marshavanw.com/become-outspoken-write-your-damn-book-open-house-july-25 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with The Social Psychic, Jason Zuk.  Jason is an Attorney licensed to Practice Law in FL, TX, MS, AL, & NJ. He earned his Bachelor of Arts from the University of Tampa, his Juris Doctorate from Nova Southeastern University, and an LL.M. (Masters of Law) in International & Comparative Law from Georgetown University.  Jason is also a Psychic Medium and he has been providing accurate intuitive advice and guidance within many different social contexts since August 2004. In January 2017, Zuk decided to offer intuitive guidance professionally so that he could further provide clients with a chance to gain insight into matters within their lives which require further attention. By working with others to confront existing obstacles and challenges, Jason aspires to provide clarity and reassurance to those seeking advice. Check out Jason's podcast, The Social Psychic Radio Show. Jason is also the Co-Host of the New Show, Psychic Visions with his best friend and Co-Host Megan Kane which is signed with ElectraCast Media and will debut in the Summer of 2022. In this episode, we discuss: 1)  We dive into intuitive gifts, how we all have them, how we can learn to unlock them and allow ourselves to receive the messages we need to receive, and that the only difference between being psychic and non-psychic is our confidence. We are always receiving messages, we have to allow ourselves to receive them. 2) Jason's story of learning to trust and unlock his psychic gifts, how to shift between the hats of a practicing lawyer and a psychic medium and how he learned to completely let go of what other people think of him and his practices. Connect with Jason Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_social_psychic/ Website: www.thesocialpsychic.comEmail: jason.m.ciofalo@gmail.com **** If you contact Jason and book a reading and mention this show I will discount a 30-minute reading by 25%. Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on the stories we tell ourselves, The story that we tell ourselves is the one that lives.  Whether it is a story you want or don't want, the only way we can change the story is to have awareness to interrupt the pattern and decide to create and feed a new story. I share some tips, tools and strategies in this episode as well as in the show notes below you can join the FREE OUTSPOKEN Open House.  In this episode, we discuss:  1) Our thoughts are creating our life and the more we tell our story the more we keep it alive.  The lens through which we see our story is what lives, this is the version of your story vs in your story, the stories that we tell ourselves also keep the emotions alive, and the emotions feed the thoughts, which build the beliefs that we have about ourselves, and what we feel is possible for us. 2)  The emotions that we hold and store cannot be consciously shifted or changed. These emotions may be something a person is aware of, or they could be subconscious, meaning they are outside a person's awareness. If they are subconscious or difficult to manage, they may continue affecting the body. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on one of the biggest illusions we keep searching for, myself included. We all try to avoid uncertainty, even if it means being wrong. We take comfort in certainty and demand it from others, even when we know it's impossible. In this episode, we discuss:  1) When we crave certainty we are searching outside of ourselves for the results we desire when instead we create our certainty within ourselves by building our courage muscle to start and to build resilience within ourselves.  Also, it is up to us to grow into the version of ourselves that can hold the next level of expansion for ourselves.  I often say that if someone had shown me what I would be doing today, I would have self-sabotaged myself because I did not yet feel worthy of the work I had to do 2)  There is no certainty, only courage to start, you create your certainty with yourself because you teach yourself to feel safe in the expansion and the contraction  Courage is always required because uncertainty is consistent  We find our courage, certainty, order, and strength in the chaos OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with Kim Mortson, from Body Design by Kim.  Kim is passionate about inspiring and helping others to lead a healthier lifestyle. Kim is a certified Personal Trainer, Nutrition and Wellness Specialist and Older Adult Fitness Pro-Trainer who has combined her qualifications, industry recognition and personal enthusiasm to build an award-winning business since 2002. Kim is a former Community Ambassador for Lululemon and served as the Co-Chair of the Mt. Albert Sports Day 5km Run/Walk from 2014 – 2021. Kim was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease in January of 2018 however she started experiencing symptoms three years before her diagnosis. Kim's Parkinson's disease progressed slowly till the spring of 2023. By December of that same year, she found herself relying on a walker and/or wheelchair for mobility. Kim had DBS surgery in January 2024. Kim's remarkable story of hope and strength in the power of gratitude, presence, perseverance, and community is truly inspirational. Kim is married to Pete and she's the proud Nana to four grandchildren.  In this episode, we discuss: 1) Kim's journey to her Parkinson's diagnosis and the transition and experience of her last 12 months as she went through DBS (deep brain surgery) in January 2024 and how different her life is compared to 12 months ago. 2) Her surgery has given her quality of life again, it has not stopped or fixed her Parkinson's diagnosis. This is the work that Kim is committed to doing every single day, emotional, physical, and spiritual work to support herself on this journey to live the best quality of life possible. Connect with Kim Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bodydesignbykim/ Website: www.bodydesign.caEmail: kmortson@bodydesign.ca Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on who your biggest critic is and how you can learn to shift this perspective.  “Your harshest critic is always going to be yourself.  Don't ignore that critic, but don't give it more attention than what it deserves.” ~ Michael Ian Black.  Self-criticism is normal and even healthy in small doses. The dose or amount of self-criticism you use on yourself is what makes it a poison. When you always approach your work with negativity, it's paralyzing. In this episode, we discuss:  1) How do you handle the criticism?  Remember this you will never be criticized by someone who is doing more than you, check the source, see the mirror, and ask yourself subconsciously if those words have a trigger for you, and how you can reframe that differently.  2)  Picture that you are working on building your beliefs in yourself, yet every time you criticize yourself, you are breaking down the strides or effort in building your beliefs and you are giving your inner critic more power. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on what it means to be OUTSPOKEN, and why everyone can embrace this energy with some intentional work and subconscious reprogramming.  In this episode, we discuss:  1) Start with getting quiet and asking yourself when did you decide that you couldn't share your voice, your message, or allow yourself to be seen and heard.  If you say you don't know, I will say, “I know you don't know, if you did know, when did you decide that?” 2) Framing up the story as to these three questions, who I was, what happened, as a result now I do _____, or I am _____.  This is an important shift that helps you to see your story differently.  Shifting from IN the story to ON the story. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share how a word that maybe you have associated yourself with, or one that has carried a lot of meaning to you, actually can have a shift in perspective. I believe this episode will resonate with you and somewhere in there is a word that you have let define you and you are giving it far too much power.  In this episode, we discuss:  1) What is the one word that you have identified yourself by (from your words or someone else's) and it is almost a trigger for you?  How can you shift or reframe the meaning of that word to mean something entirely differently and how can you embrace that part of yourself? 2) I am sharing a personal story of how I shifted the meaning of the word strong/strength and how I leaned into using my OUTSPOKEN voice to ask for what I needed and allow myself to receive it in return. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke  https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on the invisible progress that we don't take the time to see in ourselves.  If you want to get good at the game, whatever the game is, you have to do enough reps and one of the reasons that we don't do enough reps is invisible progress, we don't see that invisible progress, if you are beating something down over and over and over it continues to break down like a belief that's not serving you.  In this episode, we discuss:  1)  In the early stage we are making progress, but it's not visible to us, so we are not acknowledging it   Because we can't see the progress. Most people quit before they get natural at doing something. Most of us want to see progress to believe that it's happening But for most things in life, a lot of the progress is happening visibly 2) Invisible progress is still progress, and you can train your brain to see the progress and learn how to stack those wins. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on fear and failure and how we can get stuck in replaying a movie that doesn't serve us.  In this episode, we discuss:  1) If you are stuck on a repeat of replaying the movie of your past, replaying your “failures”, your mistakes, the things you wished you could have done differently, you are not creating any room for your future vision and what you want to create. 2)  Instead focus on what you are creating, what you are calling in, what do you see, what do you hear and what do you feel.  That is the movie you want to play on repeat in your head when you are visualizing.  You are creating a movie of possibilities. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on a past connection call on our focus to go back and fix what doesn't feel like it's working.  Sometimes what isn't working is an invitation to ask some deeper questions and explore new possibilities.  In this episode, we discuss:  1) If you are trying to fix, edit or make a part of your business/relationships/or anything else work that just doesn't seem to work, maybe 2)  Your subconscious mind will always gravitate towards what it is familiar with even if it isn't what you want because familiar is predictable and it is safe.  How can you build that safety within yourself and choose the new possibilities instead of the past that you are being called to move away from? OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on limiting beliefs and learning how to dance with them instead of fighting with them. As you grow and expand in your life and in your business, your limiting beliefs come with you. You might as well build a better relationship with them. In this episode, we discuss:  1) Limiting beliefs are usually subconscious. They operate below the level of awareness most of the time. You'll typically notice them by their side effects first, often when setting ambitious goals and trying to pursue them. 2) This is an invitation to lean into building a better relationship with them instead of resisting and fighting them because whatever you resist will persist! OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with Founder and CEO, Renée Warren. Renee is an award-winning entrepreneur, angel investor, author, speaker, and founder of We Wild Women, a PR agency revolutionizing how female-led businesses shine in the media spotlight. Renée is not just a leader; she's a visionary, innovating how women can achieve unprecedented visibility and success. As host of the top-rated podcast "Into the Wild," she interviews successful entrepreneurs, sharing actionable authority-building advice from those who have successfully done it before. Outside the hustle, she enjoys time with her Irish Twin sons, Crossfit, drumming, and being her husband, Dan Martell's number one cheerleader.  In this episode, we discuss: 1) Renee shares her most recent experience of rhinoplasty how she openly and publicly shared it and how incredible the feedback and support was from others.  It continues to show how people want to connect to the story and the person behind the story.  We can build incredible connections with others by sharing more of who we authentically are and what we are experiencing. 2) We dove into the word of identity, and the theme of you-doing-you, and letting others see who your authenticity.   Connect with Renee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/renee_warren Website: www.wewildwomen.comEmail:renee@wewildwomen.com VIP Days: https://www.wewildwomen.com/vip-day Proven Email Pitch Strategies Freebie: https://www.wewildwomen.com/proven-pitch-strategies Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share some thoughts on how to lean into the story that you don't want to share. The story you don't want to share has tremendous power over you.  Here are some thoughts on how to shift that.  You might be thinking it is behind me, I can move on, it is in my past, yet if some part of you is connected to the past in that way then it is energy that is not being used to create your future.  In this episode, we discuss:  1) When you think of a story that you don't want to share, it creates a shield of shame that shuts you down, it feeds into your fear of judgement, and criticism and it becomes paralyzing in your life. Any fear you feel is anticipating what could go wrong and how you will handle that when instead it is learning how to paint a different outcome.  2)  You are perfectly designed to help the person you once were, so leaning into this work will open up so many doors and possibilities. The struggle is real, but the freedom is worth every ounce of courage you put into telling your story for the first time. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we dive into the fear of starting anything.  There is a fear of the unknown, the what if's, the fear of mistakes, of judgements, of what if I screw up, etc.  What if you can paint your new story to be even better than your current one? This quote from Tony Robbins says it all, “Life is a dance between your greatest fear and your deepest desire” ~Tony Robbins In this episode, we discuss:  1)  The fear of starting is a very common feeling, and then we make our worries about starting way bigger, and we feed the fear.  We either feed the fear/doubts or feed our faith, we decide what we choose to feed. 2)  New situations and new experiences create a ton of unknowns, which also feed our fear of failure and the unknown. When those fears arise we end up procrastinating, being in a space of freeze, fight, flight or fawn.  This is how we shift this energy to focus on what we are creating and feeding the trust and belief in ourselves. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with Business and Marketing Mentor, Laura Sinclair. Laura believes that you and your business deserve to be seen. With over a decade of experience building digital marketing strategies for some of the world's biggest brands, Laura has dedicated her life's work to teaching women how to grow their businesses and take big leaps into their entrepreneurial dreams through her podcast, courses, and events. Laura went from corporate dropout to multi-six-figure business owner. Her journey ranges from public relations, sports marketing, sponsorship marketing and social media management, to nutrition coach, gym owner, women's event host, community builder, author, podcast host, investor, and CEO. Laura is a mom of two, CEO of the boutique social media marketing agency, The LJ Social Agency and the host of This Mother Means Business podcast. In this episode, we discuss: 1) Balancing building a business, motherhood, and how we get stuck in an idea of what business is supposed to look like compared to what we want our business to look like, and how we can find our own version of balance between motherhood and business. 2) How to be seen in the online space, what is relevant to our business to share and how we can go so much further with a community than trying to do it alone. Connect with Laura Instagram: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itslaurasinclair/ Website: www.laura-sinclair.comWebsite: www.thismothermeansbusiness.com Email: laura@laurajanesocial.comThis Mother Means Business Community and Podcast, Ambition Mastermind, 1:1 Coaching Free community connection call https://www.laura-sinclair.com/community-connection    Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.    

In this episode, I wanted to share a concept that you only feel your emotions for 90 seconds.   Harvard brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor explains “When a person reacts to something in their environment, there's a 90-second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop. In this episode, we discuss:  1) The 90-second rule states that the physiological response, the chemical rush behind our emotions, dissipates after about 90 seconds. If we still feel the rush after that, or heightened emotions it is because our subconscious mind had attached old stories to the emotions. Once our subconscious mind attaches a story to the emotion, now it piles on shame, guilt, and judgment and it becomes part of our identity. 2)  Your subconscious mind will always resort back to what is familiar and what it knows so that you can feel safe and protected.  OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share a personal story and a shift that helps me when I am feeling stuck in the struggle or stuck in the victim mindset. It also depends on how we identify with the struggle and what we make that mean about us.  In this episode, we discuss:  1) Struggle teaches us resilience, patience, and the importance of perseverance. Through the value of struggle, we are often forced to adapt and find ways to overcome them. By embracing struggle (or at least what you learned from it) and turning it into opportunities for growth, you can build resilience, improve problem-solving skills, and develop tenacity and humility. 2)  Your perspective of the struggle changes depending on what questions you ask yourself. Being open, and willing to challenge our own belief systems, allows us to grow into the humans to do the work that we are here to do. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with Public Speaking Coach, Will Greenblatt. Will started acting in film and TV at the age of seven, starring in The Homecoming with Oscar® winner Anne Bancroft. He graduated from the National Theatre School of Canada in 2010, but the toxic environment of the program left him jaded, so he quit acting. He moved to Spain where he discovered his love for teaching English, and then dived into the world of entrepreneurship, co-founding a startup in China. He founded OutLoud Speakers School in 2017, teaching public speaking & communication skills to entrepreneurs and executives. He has repeatedly spoken and coached at Google, Wayfair, Boston Dynamics, TechStars, Founder Institute and Ericsson, as well as providing coaching to over 4500 individuals virtually worldwide. Will's clients have won numerous pitch competitions, got deals on Dragon's Den, and raised over $350 million USD in investment. He's also a Top Public Speaking Voice on LinkedIn, a nominee for “Newcomer of The Year” by the Speaker Awards, and is “Canada's best pitch coach” (Jordan Jocius, Founder Institute Waterloo). In this episode, we discuss: 1) My journey from depressed actor to public speaking coach, quitting cocaine and weed, overcoming grief with therapy, leaving Canada for a while, and pursuing business when everyone else were actors'. 2) The difference between validation vs connection and how being stuck in a cycle of frozen grief will trap us in our emotions and we continue to seek outside of ourselves for the answers. Connect with Will Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/willgreenblatt/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/willgreenblatt/ Email: will@outloudnow.comWebsite: https://www.outloudnow.com https://calendly.com/willspeakingcoach/transform-your-speaking-skills https://calendly.com/willspeakingcoach/transform-my-pitch Transform Your Speaking Skills Book: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1989737803/ Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share a message from an experience I recently went through as I started yoga therapy during the therapy I recognized how relatable it is that our body holds onto trauma to protect us, much like our subconscious mind holds onto the memories of pain to protect us and keep us safe. I am linking Lisa Bourque's info below as she is the yoga therapist I am working with in the Southwestern Ontario region.  In this episode, we discuss:  1)  When there is trapped trauma and experience in our bodies, our muscles will react in a way to protect us, even though there is nothing to be afraid of. It is trying to protect us from pain, and it acts in anticipation of pain before anything has happened. 2) Our subconscious mind responds the same way.  It remembers discomfort, pain etc, and it does what it needs to do to keep us safe and familiar.  How can you let it feel awkward and celebrate being new at something, and you can teach your subconscious mind that it is safe to continue to grow outside of your comfort zone? OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share a question to ask if it is time to audit yourself.  If things are not working in the direction that you want, or it is a point of frustration, or your demands are high, then maybe it is time for you to do an audit on yourself, specifically on your time and energy. These two factors will change how you show up, the energy you bring into your day and how you navigate your day.  By tracking and reviewing your daily activities, you can identify how much time you spend on each and see if this actually aligns with your goals. In this episode, we discuss:  1)  Time energy audits,  you can't change anything that you are unaware of, and you are most likely aware of more than you think. 2)  Auditing your energy comes from looking at the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual lens and making small adjustments and tweaks to shift it. OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with Artist, Amanda Inglis. Amanda was raised on a farm just off the shore of Lake Erie, south of London, Ontario. At a young age, she became known within her small community for her insatiable curiosity for the creative arts. Her interdisciplinary mindset earned her a Bachelor of Fine Arts in Theatre Studies from York University. Following the loss of her father in 2008, Amanda returned to her rural roots and discovered solace in the study of botany, with a newfound appreciation for the delicate life cycle of flowers. She works with oil on canvas to depict her homegrown floral subjects in anatomical detail. Her artwork serves as a symbol of the beauty found within the symbiotic relationship between resilience and vulnerability. Her debut collection earned her accolades as an award-winning artist at the Royal Botanical Gardens in Burlington, Ontario for her piece “Timeless Trinity”. Amanda humbly describes her knowledge of working with oils akin to the progression of a real garden's maturation: two decades of growing at a quiet pace.” In this episode, we discuss: 1) Perfectionism, our armour, not allowing ourselves to be fully seen, and how it was this journey of 36 years for Amanda until she hit a deep, dark, breaking point in 2023, after losing a close friend, after losing her father years earlier, and she found herself in a hospital bed, her body unable to carry the grief any longer. Amanda went into the hospital as a PSW worker and came out deciding it was time to allow herself to be the artist she knew was inside of her all along. 2) This is a beautiful conversation, as Amanda shares her story, how we crossed paths over 13 years ago, how we were mirrors for each other, and how it took the loss of a friend for our lives to circle back around.  Through loss and grief, Amanda found herself, her voice, and her courage to allow her gifts to be fully seen as within 6 months of painting her first oil painting, she found her paintings on a wall in a gallery that she walked by so many times the year before envisioning and imagining seeing her work on the walls inside. Connect with Amanda Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandainglisfineart/ Website: www.amandainglisfineart.com Email: studio@amandainglisfineart.com Floral Oil Paintings Available At Westland Gallery www.westlandgallery.caTo Join Amanda's Budding Community Go To www.amandainglisfineart.com and subscribe to her newsletter. Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share a message I heard last week and it sparked my thinking.  You never actually see a person's wins, you only see what you think their wins are.  “When we fail to acknowledge and celebrate small victories, we get discouraged and the flame inside us starts to dwindle.” “Victory is won not in miles but in inches. Win a little now, hold your ground, and later, win a little more.” “If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” ~ Louis L'Amour In this episode, we discuss:  1)  Never underestimate all the micro-decisions that you make every single day, the nutrition, sleep, mindset and nervous system support, not picking up your phone, choosing something positive to focus on.  Life-giving habits that support you and the life you are creating. 2)  Are you taking time to celebrate your small wins that happen on a daily basis. When I find myself being harder on myself, over critical, biting comments, I know that I am stepping over or ignoring what I am doing and that is coming from a place of comparison, or feeling like I am not doing enough.  Example of Brad OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with Chief Financial Officer, Fallon Moran. ​​For 4 years from 2019 - 2023, Fallon racked up an incredible amount of high-interest credit card debt totalling $59,221 spending on business coaching and programs to grow her online business. Then in October of 2023, her 15-month-old daughter was seizing in her car seat on the way to the pediatrician's office. Fallon was paying off her debt consistently for the majority of 2023, however after her daughter's febrile seizure, she realized that the frame of mind she took into everything had to change if she was going to be able to change the trajectory of her business and her daughter's life. At the end of 2023, Fallon paid off a total of $25,547 of high-interest credit card debt, and that was her just getting started. Working through her NLP certification, Fallon has realized the importance and priority of putting the inner work first so that it can open doors she would have never thought possible for herself, her family or her business before. In this episode, we discuss: 1) Fallon's journey in the online space over the last 4 years, how she was searching for the answers and solutions outside of herself while racking up a large amount of credit card debt and it took a series of events in 2023 involving her 15-month-old daughter for her to decide that enough was enough. 2) Through incorporating work with her subconscious mind, Fallon has completely re-written her money story, now helps others to uncover the roots of the story, and has now learned how to connect to her own internal representation of the results she wants to feel instead of making decisions out of lack or FOMO. Connect with Fallon Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fallonkmoran/ Fallon has 2 digital products currently; 1 course that covers how to step into financial control and the other is a digital e-book experience on how she paid off over $25,000 of High-interest credit card debt.  https://stan.store/FallonKMoran She is offering 1:1 NLP sessions with business owners to help them work through business and financial blocks that I am doing in exchange for market research until the end of June when I am planning a financial and subconscious program to bring to market., https://calendly.com/fallonkmoran/1-1-call?month=2024-05 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.    

707 | Cancer Taught Me To Appreciate The Moments with Ray Hartjen In this episode, we speak with Writer & Musician, Ray Hartjen. Ray is a writer, musician and songwriter living in Northern California. In a professional career that has spanned parts of five decades, he pivoted on many occasions, from investment banking to pharmaceuticals, from consumer electronics to SaaS software. One constant throughout his career path, however, has been storytelling. A cancer fighter every day of the week that ends in a ‘y,' Ray shares his experience and raises funds for the Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation with his latest book, Me, Myself & My Multiple Myeloma. And, with life's soundtrack playing in his head, Ray also performs and records with his two-piece acoustic band, the Chronic Padres.  In this episode, we discuss: 1) Cancer has become Ray's biggest calling and he shares his experience and raises funds for the Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation in his latest book, Me, Myself & My Myeloma. He has reframed his fight against cancer to focus on what makes life worth living. 2) Cancer taught Ray to not take life for granted, and the power of vulnerability and learning that his story could help others feel less alone in their story too. Connect with Ray Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rayhartjen Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chronicpadres Website: https://rayhartjen.com/storeWebsite: https://rayhartjen.com/Email:  rayhartjen@gmail.com Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I wanted to share the quote I came across last week, The Persian poet Hafiz said, “The words we speak become the house we live in.”  Our words and thoughts are creating our beliefs which are creating our world. In this episode, we discuss:  1) Our words have the power to build people up and give them life or tear people down and bring them death. The words we speak can inspire and encourage others while, in the same sentence, deflating and discouraging ourselves and others.  The words you speak become the house you build and the house you live in, it is either a prison or a cage, and both of these examples of how we speak to ourselves and others.  2)  Whatever direction your words lead, your mind, body and environment will follow. When we communicate with others and with ourselves internally, we are constructing an imaginary “house”. Then, we live in this house and experience life inside it.  How we interpret the world around us, and how we perceive our identity comes from the house, or the cage that we have built for ourselves.  OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I want to share a few stories about holding the vision and how long you can hold the vision, no one can hold it for you, and no one can see it for you that it will make up for lack of belief in yourself.  “Dreams have no limits. Only in our commitment to fulfilling our dreams, do we realize our potential” ~ unknown.  In this episode, we discuss:  1)  The vision is for you because there is a future version of you who already has this vision, she is already holding it and already celebrating it, it is not an accident or a coincidence. You get to choose what you do with this vision. It is important to hold onto your vision so that you feel how you would feel in the present moment.  What do you see, what do you hear, what do you feel when you have what you are holding the vision of?  Hold the vision and trust the process 2)  Your subconscious mind will always strive to keep you safe and with what is familiar, so if you are striving for something new, expansive, and outside of your comfort zone, then you have to believe that you are safe to have it. For example, holding a program with 2 people when you want 10.    3) Sharing the vision of my husband qualifying for the World's Masters Weightlifting Championship in Finland in September, I have been holding this vision for months, not getting stuck in the how, and focusing on how will it feel, what will I see and hear when we are there. Every morning and night and sometimes multiple times a day. I have anchored it in and I can access that vision easily and effortlessly.  Hold the vision and trust the process OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, we speak with Founder & CEO, Erik DaRosa.  Erik known by friends as “Yoda,” is the Founder and CEO of From Survivor to Thriver, a mental health advocate, speaker, author and Co-host of the popular From Survivor to Thriver podcast. Through his work and his own lived experience, Erik is upending the front end of the mental health space and building a bridge between those who seek resources and those who provide both help and hope. Each week on his podcast, he tackles different mental health topics through honest and relatable "kitchen table" conversations with real people who are helping to shatter mental health stigmas and find their voices. He aims to normalize discussions around mental health topics and remind his audience they are not alone, there is strength in community and "it's perfectly ok to not always be ok." In 2011, Erik traded in a successful career as a NYC finance executive when he moved to Colorado with his wife and two cats. Erik spent twelve winters as a ski instructor for the Aspen Skiing Company before retiring in the Spring of 2023. Born and raised in New England, Erik earned his MBA from the NYU Stern School of Business and his BA in Economics from Brandeis University. He lives in Colorado with his wife Amy and two cats, Lincoln and Taylor. In this episode, we discuss: 1) Erik's story, what it means to move from Survivor to Thriver, how he hid his story from everyone and what it was like to be able to learn how to share it and feel the release of the hold of his story on his life. 2) Erik shared his equilateral triangle of healing and how it needs all 3 components of Western and Eastern medicine and the component of nature and if one of the ends of the triangle collapses it all crashes. Connect with Erik Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/skisherpa Website: https://fromsurvivortothriver.com Email: skisherpa@gmail.com Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I want to share some insights from recording over 700 episodes on this show and a combined number of over 1000 episodes between all the shows.  In this episode, we discuss:  1)  The vision is for you because there is a future version of you who already has this vision, she is already holding it and already celebrating it, it is not an accident or a coincidence. You get to choose what you do with this vision. Don't worry if others can't see it, they weren't supposed to see it, it was given to you, for you to hold onto.  More on holding the vision in an upcoming episode. 2)  It has reminded me to celebrate the journey, show the ups and downs, and how much of a long game podcasting is, it is the longest-standing thing I have done in my business without being directly paid for it.  This podcast has taught me how to harness my voice, authentic voice, and how important our stories are, we're not alone, someone always has it harder than I do and they found a way out and are making a massive difference because of what they learned.  OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

In this episode, I want to share our perspective and how when you change the meaning you change the story.  In this episode, we discuss:  1)  You can't change your story until you change what you think things mean.  Perspective creates meaning, meaning creates emotion, and the quality of our life is the quality of our emotions. It's not the events of our life that are the finest it is the meaning that we make or take from them. 2)   It's the meaning that we take away from those events that change us, go back to your most difficult experiences and how can you change the meaning of them? What would I need to believe about that event so it could serve me?  Not what do I believe, what would I need to believe so that it can serve me? OUTSPOKEN https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023   ***** BeSpoke 50% Bday Promo https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/kzgzFNBF?coupon_code=FASTACTION50   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.  

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions, especially during high-pressure times like the holidays? In this episode, we dive deep with Dr. mOe and Krystal Jakosky into the essence of living authentically, mastering our emotions, and cultivating meaningful relationships. Learn how self-awareness can become your compass through life's storms and how embracing vulnerability can lead to personal empowerment and growth.Memorable Quotes:- "At some point, we have to stop fitting in and start being true to ourselves."- "You are a finite resource. There is only so much of you to go around."Key Points:- The significance of owning your emotions and choices.- The role of childhood experiences in shaping adult behavior.- Practical strategies for navigating emotional responses and conflict.- The power of setting boundaries and effective communication.- Recognizing signs of burnout and the importance of self-care.- Personalizing meditation and self-care to fit individual needs.- The impact of generational patterns on parenting and relationships.Chapter Breakdown:- (0:00:00) Owning Your Choices and Emotions- (0:04:10) Owning Your Emotions to Improve Communication- (0:07:55) Understanding and Overcoming Generational Patterns- (0:13:31) Healthy Communication in Relationships- (0:25:57) Recognizing and Preventing Burnout Through Self-Care- (0:36:10) Meditation and Self Care- (0:42:41) Thank You for Watching My ProgramLearn more and connect with Krystal online at https://krystaljakosky.com/

I got to interview Marsha Vanwynsberghe. Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories. Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP coaching certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact. We Spoke About: -Her journey to now. -What motivates her. -Weaknesses she turned into strengths. -Advice for the audience. -And much more. *Disclaimer: The views and opinions on Roman Prokopchuk's Digital Savage Experience are those of the guest's alone as their own, and the host's alone as his own. Information provided by the guest is fact checked to the best of our abilities. By providing background information to the show, the guest acknowledges that it is as accurate as possible. The show does not endorse, promote, or is in association with the guest's business interests.*

Marsha Vanwynsberghe has experienced many moments feeling hopeless including almost losing her children. She experienced financial, business, and serious health challenges while battling the feelings of frustration, overwhelming fatigue, and isolation. Can you relate? Marsha is the six-time bestselling author of "When She Stopped Asking Why." Marsha is a storytelling NLP trainer, speaker, publisher, author, and podcaster. Marsha fought the system to save her kids and her family from the downward spiral of substance abuse and now shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Her mission is to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories. Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your life. She enpowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact. Marsha is currently offering a coaching certification to support people in learning how to use their voice and move from silenced to outspoken. Work with her by clicking here CLICK HERE TO BUY Marsha Vanwynsberghe's story is one of a mother who fought the system to try to save her kids and her family from the downward spiral of substance abuse. She relentlessly searched for answers, solutions and support.  In her search, she found thousands of other parents who were also dealing with substance abuse issues and their teens. Parents who were hiding from the world, living with shame, guilt and embarrassment for choices that were not theirs to own. Marsha decided to speak up, share what she learned and create a light of hope for other parents.  This book is for every parent who is searching to: • Be present for your kids and not lose yourself in the process • Parent with love and let go of the expectation of perfection • Learn the power of personal and energetic boundaries • Surrender what you can't control and own what you can  • Let go of the judgement of self and others  • Stop letting fear drive the wheel • Find the gifts in adversity • Build your confidence, clarity and courage • Recreate the relationships in your life with yourself, your partner and your children  Marsha Vanwynsberghe is a Life Adversity Coach, Author and Speaker. She coaches and mentors people to make physical changes in their bodies and emotional transformations in their lives. Take radical responsibility of your story  so you can build a business with a massive impact.   We all have a story. A lot of time, the stories that we don't like to talk about...the stories that we hide from others..they actually shape who we are.     Click Here to take the quiz The more we hide them, the more we let shame take the wheel. But truth be told, our stories have made us who we are today. The more we stand in the power of our stories, the more we can make an impact. You see, the gifts we have are wrapped up in the lessons we learned in our stories! So, let's dive into your stories and look for the lessons that make you an expert OF your story. After all, by sharing your lessons with others, you get to help them create change in their lives...so they, too, can create businesses with massive impact.

Have you ever felt the profound impact of a shared story? In our latest episode, we journey with our brave guest, Marsha Vanwynsberghe, as she recounts her struggles with teen substance abuse and the shame it carries. She shares her healing path, illustrating the transformative power of personal narratives. We reflect on the importance of owning our choices and how shared experiences can profoundly affect us and those around us.Marsha is a Storytelling Business Coach, Speaker, Multi-Published Author, and Podcaster. She teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.Marsha illuminates the significance of sharing personal growth stories with great sensitivity, especially when it involves addiction struggles. She emphasizes the importance of integrity and the delicate balance needed when applying loved ones in these narratives. We also explore how connection is fundamentally about shared emotions and experiences rather than the specifics of our stories. We talk about the vital role of vulnerability, boundaries, and respect in sharing personal narratives.Finally, we touch on the importance of seeking support and actionable solutions when dealing with a loved one's addiction. We share our personal experiences, discussing the challenges of finding the right support group and counsellor. We highlight the shift from a victim mindset to one of ownership and responsibility, emphasizing the power of focusing on "what" instead of "why" when grappling with difficult situations. Listen for a thought-provoking conversation that underscores the power of sharing personal narratives, changing our stories, and respecting others' boundaries.Let's enjoy her story!To connect with Marsha, https://www.marshavanw.com/Support the showTo Share - Connect & Relate: Share Your Thoughts and Shape the Show! Tell me what you love about the podcast and what you want to hear more about. Please email me at behas.podcats@gmail.com and be part of the conversation! To be on the show Podmatch Profile Thank you for listening - Hasta Pronto!

Welcome to episode #800! Today on "What's Your Problem?" In the podcast, I'll nip into the insightful world of Ray Dalio's decision-making principles. Discover how Dalio's guidance can transform not just your decisions but also how you approach life's challenges and opportunities.What You'll Learn:The Power of Pushing Past Limits: Learn how to identify and break through self-imposed limitations. We explore how recognizing and challenging these barriers can lead to personal growth and new opportunities.Confronting Reality for Lasting Change: Gain insights into the importance of facing reality, no matter how uncomfortable it might be. We discuss how acknowledging and confronting difficult situations can lead to more robust, more resilient decision-making.Learning from Mistakes and Feedback: Understand the value of embracing judgments and learning from mistakes. This segment highlights how feedback, whether from others or your own experiences, can be a powerful tool for growth and improvement.Owning Your Choices and Their Outcomes: Delve into the importance of taking responsibility for your decisions. We emphasize how owning your choices leads to a greater sense of control and empowerment in both personal and professional life.Tune in to the "What's Your Problem?" podcast for an episode filled with practical wisdom, inspiring stories, and actionable advice. Whether you're looking to enhance your decision-making skills or seeking ways to lead a more purposeful life, these principles from Ray Dalio offer a roadmap to success and fulfillment.

Marsha Vanwynsberghe grew up in Ontario Canada and still lives there today. I met her a few months ago when I was invited to be a guest on her podcast, Own Your Choices Own Your Life. My team at Amplifyou, located in British Columbia, arranged my appearance and then, as is only fair, I asked them to help get Marsha to join me on Unstoppable Mindset. We had a fabulous conversation discussing everything from why more people don't share their own stories to how we, Marsha and I, learned to tell our own stories and how we help others to grow as they discover more about themselves.   Marsha worked for a company for some 26 years while, as she discovered, learned a lot about coaching. She also faced her own life challenges as she will tell us. In 2020 the company employing her closed its doors. By that time Marsha realized how much coaching of others she already was doing. She started her own coaching program. As I said, she also has been operating her own podcasts which I urge you to find, of course after listening to Unstoppable Mindset.   Marsha shows us the value of learning about facing our own inner selves and learning to tell our own stories. She discusses how many of her clients, through discussing their own experiences, have become more confident and how they have learned to be better persons in their own skins.     About the Guest:   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster   Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories.  Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.     Ways to connect with Marsha:   Website: https://www.marshavanw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marshavanw/ Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/marsha.vanwynsberghe Linkedin: NLP Trainer, Storytelling Trainer, Speaker, Podcaster, Author - Marsha Vanwynsberghe Coaching | LinkedIn Podcast Link: Own Your Choices Own Your Life https://apple.co/3h2Jcti YouTube: https://bit.ly/3Dmk75q TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marshavanw     About the Host: Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.   Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. He is Ambassador for the National Braille Literacy Campaign for the National Federation of the Blind and also serves as Ambassador for the American Humane Association's 2012 Hero Dog Awards.   https://michaelhingson.com https://www.facebook.com/michael.hingson.author.speaker/ https://twitter.com/mhingson https://www.youtube.com/user/mhingson https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhingson/   accessiBe Links https://accessibe.com/ https://www.youtube.com/c/accessiBe https://www.linkedin.com/company/accessibe/mycompany/ https://www.facebook.com/accessibe/       Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!   Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. You can also subscribe in your favorite podcast app.   Leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.     Transcription Notes Michael Hingson ** 00:00 Access Cast and accessiBe Initiative presents Unstoppable Mindset. The podcast where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i  capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us.   Michael Hingson ** 01:21 Hi all and welcome to unstoppable mindset where inclusion diversity in the unexpected meet and who knows what else? Oh, that's the unexpected part. Sorry. Anyway, we're really glad you're here. And today, we get to have the opportunity to chat with a person who is a storytelling NLP trainer, a best selling author, a speaker, and a 2x s podcaster, among other things. And on top of that, she's very open about telling stories, which is great. I love people who want to tell stories. I've been in sales for a long time, and I learned that the best salespeople know how to tell good, true stories. That's another story, but we won't worry about it right now. But anyway, I'd like you all to meet Marsha Vanwynsberghe. My screen reader pronounced van winchburgh. But she was impressed by that it was pretty close. But it's van Weinsberg. And Marcia, welcome to unstoppable mindset.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 02:17 Thank you so much for having me, Michael, I'm thrilled to be here. Well, it's   Michael Hingson ** 02:21 an honor to have you and I was on marshes podcast on your choice on your life. And that was a lot of fun. And I told her that the price for me being on was that she had to come on unstoppable mindset. And she was willing. So here we are,   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 02:36 well, I jumped at the invitation I just jumped   Michael Hingson ** 02:40 Well, it's fun, and it's great to share. And it's it's great to get to know people and and get to know them even more when we get to do it the other way. And hopefully we'll do more things together as well. And love that. I would absolutely love that. Well tell us a little bit about kind of the early Marsha growing up and all that sort of stuff. It's always a great place to start.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 02:59 It is the early Marsha. So I was born in 1970. And I say that because um, you know, in that time and era, kids were to be seen and not heard. Yeah, I was very, I was very outspoken as a child. And I have pretty strong personality. And a I use my voice a lot. And back then we used to tell or we used to hear that, again, be seen and not heard. And I often think back to you know if if young girls, we can tell them that those are leadership skills and not bossy skills. It's there's a lot of things that I learned as a child, but I mean, I grew up with a family who we moved a few times. And my dad he started a business that continued to grow. So I really grew up around entrepreneurship, and finding and carving your own way and building resiliency. You know, working from a young age I was my first jobs were at 1213. So I grew up in that era of like, work hard. That mindset.   Michael Hingson ** 04:12 Where did you Where were you born and where did you come from?   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 04:15 I was born in Chatham, Ontario. Yep. And then we moved up near a it's kind of farm area but near Woodstock Tillsonburg area for people who might know, in Ontario and I've lived it. I've been in Ontario my whole life. But that's where I was. I was born in the city and then I was moved to a farm which I really did not like my parents for that at the time. I didn't know it, but honestly the best move we ever did, but then I've lived within that vicinity for since then.   Michael Hingson ** 04:49 Didn't you want a pony? I   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 04:51 did not. I did not. I worked in tobacco as a kid. I was not. I was definitely I had farm jobs I was I was a hard worker.   Michael Hingson ** 05:04 Well, I suppose the benefit is that you learned to be a hard worker. And that's a good thing, although tobacco but of course that was then this is now. So it's a whole lot different environment. So very   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 05:17 different environment now, like that was definitely what we did then, for jobs. But I also at the same time it put me through school, that's how I paid for school, and I was able to, you know, go with that time. But yeah, it's a very different era, that is not something that you see very much of anymore, thank goodness, it's still there. But as we'll see it very much.   Michael Hingson ** 05:38 I love to collect and listen to old radio shows from the 30s 40s and 50s. And so on one of the shows, I really like a lot is dragnet. And the reason I mentioned that is that dragnet for a while in the 50s, was sponsored by Fatima cigarettes. And it was fascinating listening to the commercials, statistics, prove Fatima cigarettes are better for you, and more like than any other cigarette, and of course, that's all they would ever say, Where are the statistics? But you know, that was advertising back then, too.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 06:13 It was advertising. It makes me nervous when you hear things like that, like the things that we thought were okay, not even okay, but that they were good for us. Yeah, we're not obviously not.   Michael Hingson ** 06:25 I think at the same time today, some people would say, well, we should get rid of all that stuff. We shouldn't allow that. It's just not true. And the reality is, my belief is no, we shouldn't it's part of our history. And we need to recognize from whence we came.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 06:39 I think that's how we learn lessons. And we move forward. I mean, it's not perfect. There's still definitely a lot of issues, even health wise that I see now. But no, I agree with you. I don't think I think that is part of history. I think that is part of of history and what we walked through, and I mean, hopefully we continue to learn and do better, right and do better and make different choices, etc. But that's definitely what marketing was, then.   Michael Hingson ** 07:08 Yeah, and it still is somewhat today, there's more than anything fear in marketing, Oh, me, sure you buy our car warranty service before your check engine light goes on, and just so many different things, we, we still have a lot of things to address at some point, although that isn't really necessarily being dishonest, but we still use fear a lot. And politicians use fear so much to completely distort the reality of what we ought to be doing, which is to analyze what they say, for ourselves, rather than just living in fear. And oh, someone said, this is true. So it must be so I   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 07:48 love that you said that. I really do. Because I feel like in some sense. We're losing the I don't want to say it's the ability because it's not the ability, but we're losing the practice of like distorted thinking and asking questions. And it's just, it's not to disagree, but I think that we should be asking questions and, and asking for, you know, doing some of our own research and looking and, and not just not just taking the advice without asking any questions. Yeah. And that's   Michael Hingson ** 08:23 the real issue. And, and just the whole art of conversation seems to have gone by the, by the wayside in so many ways, especially with, and I'm not going to get too political, but a lot of the politicians all around, is it's all about trust me Do as I say not as I do. And we're encouraged not to ask questions, which is so unfortunate.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 08:47 It's scary. Actually. I think it's actually scary. Because I think that I think anytime that I am encouraged or questioned not to ask questions. If I go back to my nature, as I talked when I was younger, then that's the first thing I do. Yes. Very first thing I do. I'm like, huh, that doesn't feel right. That's   Michael Hingson ** 09:07 and, you know, we, we let we let some people just steer us so much one of my favorite gripes of late is weather people out here in California. In May and June, we had a lot of marine layers and a lot of clouds and so on. So people were always complaining, the weather prognosticators were complaining about May gray and June gloom. Will it ever end? Yet? The reality is it kept the temperatures down. Now we're getting away from all of that. And we're up at like 95 or 96 Fahrenheit today. We were yesterday as well. And oh, what's happening? Now we're starting to see wildfires and we're hearing about why we have wildfires. And we're going to be in the fire season. And isn't that horrible? Well, you wished You wished it all on us? Because you didn't like may grand June gloom. I mean, we can't please anybody anymore.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 10:05 No. And it's interesting because I always like, I think, to look to go back to gratitude in some way, shape or form, as a Canadian who literally only has like three to four months a year that are nice, where it's warm. I mean, I couldn't even imagine being upset about made like, yeah, it's just perspective, right? It's a perspective, I look for the things to be grateful for.   Michael Hingson ** 10:29 Yeah. And you know, what, the May grand June Gloom did keep things cool. Hardly any fires. I heard on the news this morning. There were four, although relatively small, and they were caught quickly, because we're getting better at dealing with it here. Small wildfires that helicopters and tankers dealt with very quickly. But nevertheless, now we're seeing it. And it's so unfortunate, we can't, we can never be satisfied.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 10:59 No, and I actually we don't have a lot of experience that within Ontario, where I live like other parts of Canada do. But this year, we definitely got the effects of the what we were surrounded by wildfires and the like, not literally, but the smoke came in. And we probably had about two weeks where, you know, it was yellow skies, it was hard to breathe. It had moments where it was really challenging. So it really did give a perspective of you know, I had people here who were saying like, this is just absolutely horrible. And like, it's not great, but I mean, we could be in the fire, like, yeah, not like it's still I can still go outside. It's still safe. It's not ideal, but I guess my brain, I'm looking at it going. I mean, I'm not in the fire. So it could be much worse.   Michael Hingson ** 11:46 Do we know where the fires came from? And we had them on both   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 11:50 sides. We had them on our east coast. So in Nova Scotia had, and then Calgary has a really bad beginning of May. So they kind of came from both ways.   Michael Hingson ** 12:03 Do we know what caused them yet?   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 12:05 Nope. Nothing I've heard.   Michael Hingson ** 12:09 That's unfortunate. But, you know, the other side of it is was it was it really warm? Was that also part of it? Well,   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 12:15 I watched the interview, it was interesting, because I did watch with a lot of friends who were firefighters and I watched an interview with a firefighter who said that we had very like our snow was we had a very heavy winter, and the snow was gone early April. And then we had a lot of rain the beginning of April. And then it got really hot for about two weeks, and then it got dry, super dry. And it was just the perfect condition. They said it's absolutely a perfect condition for it to happen. So I think that's I don't remember a year like this that we sub assuming that was part of it.   Michael Hingson ** 12:51 See down here with all of the marine layers and so on, and the fact that I don't know whether it's all gone, but as of the beginning of July, there was still snow on the ground in some parts of California, like the, the mountain areas and so on. And we didn't have hot, dry May, or mostly all we had no hot dry June. So now we're starting to see it. And I can understand that. And that would and I was always wondering, well, why did Canada get the fires that it did that sent the smoke everywhere? But it makes sense with what you're describing? Yeah, very similar   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 13:29 to what you said, like we ended up it was very, very hot in the US, not it not normal at all. And then we had no rain until almost the end of May, early June. So it was very, it was very strange spring for us. Now we had lots of rain since then. But it's okay. It's like actually cleared up there to be honest. So I take it again, it's perspective.   Michael Hingson ** 13:51 It is. It's all about perspective, which makes a lot of sense. Well, so getting back to you and all that. So you went to college.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 14:01 I went to university here and I actually took I became a registered Kinesiologist. So I worked and post physical rehab for about 28 years. And over the last couple of years before I was done in that career, which ended very abruptly during 2020 and never came back until like probably eight or nine months later. And by that I knew the business had pretty much dissolved itself. And so I did that for I spent about 20 years and I did love it. I like the problem solving, like the thinking and the helping people. I had some people we were learning how to walk again, like that week post recovering from surgery. And then really as that time wore on, and my life was walking through some different challenges. Then I started to work into a space of like what Learning how to share stories and navigate a really difficult time. And so when the pandemic came, I actually just pivoted, went right into coaching online and supporting people online. And I felt like it had been like a complete out of nowhere. But it hadn't. I mean, out of the 20 years in working with physical rehab, I did a lot of coaching, I had to do an awful lot of coaching and supporting with people. So it was very similar.   Michael Hingson ** 15:30 So when did he start involving yourself in the whole concept of NLP and bringing that into what you did. So   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 15:37 I actually did things very backwards. I, if I'll take it back to a little bit, about 1012 years ago, we started to experience teen substance abuse, I found my world get really, really small, and I lost my voice didn't know how to use it. And I really started to do a lot of work to learn how to, you know, reframe my thoughts and catch my what I was thinking and the words that I was saying, for probably three years, I was doing the beginning pieces of NLP without ever knowing that was NLP, I had no idea. And in 2020, it crossed my path. And I looked at it and when that's interesting, there was something about it that was intriguing to me, is learning to understand the power of my thoughts and how I my brain works and how to get it to my thoughts to actually support me and what I am creating. And what I want to do. The other piece that really intrigued me with NLP was that the way it was taught for me was that there was a lot of ways to support myself in healing. And I say that because I really didn't understand how we hold on to so much. I mean, trauma stress in our tissues in our body, and we push that down and we carry it for years, the LP tools helped me to really start to learn how to release that. And that helped me to work through some of the healing. So had I learned that earlier, I think that it would have actually really supported me earlier. But we all know that the teacher comes when we're ready, and I probably wouldn't have been ready, and I probably wouldn't have seen it, and I wouldn't have understood it. So it all happened in the timing that it was meant to happen.   Michael Hingson ** 17:24 He told me a little bit about what NLP is what it stands for, and all of that, especially for those who who may not be very knowledgeable about it.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 17:33 Absolutely. It is called neuro linguistic programming. It's really the so neuro how we bring in our information, we all bring it into a number of our different senses. The linguistic is like the language, the words that we speak, the programs that we speak, how we be are able to take in that information and like delete, distort, generalize, put it together. And then the programs is really how we all function. Most of us, this is how it works. Our conscious mind is only responsible for like 5% of our thoughts, our beliefs, our decisions. And we set our goal with our conscious mind. Our subconscious mind is like the wheel that's never stopping. It's running on autopilot, nonstop. And most of us, we go into this space, this learning space, personal development space, helping others, we try and set goals for ourselves. And we do it with 5% of our capacity. But we're never addressing the stories, the limiting beliefs, the things that we have, that we're holding on to that keep blocking us. And then what happens is, is that you set a goal, you work like crazy to get to it. And you might just find fall shy of it. Or if you do achieve it, but you don't believe that you're worthy of receiving it. You'll self sabotage, you'll lose it you will keep on this cycle of always trying to strive and achieve more. And as you do that, it's just it, we put ourselves on that hamster wheel nonstop. And really, it's not the goal. That's the problem. It's Do we believe in ourselves to achieve the goal that is really what we want to work towards. And with so many of us who again, we've carried these stories in our bodies for so long. You can't just work harder to make something happen. It's sometimes you have to go backwards and figure out what it is that has been holding you back so that you can actually move towards your goals in a more aligned and effortless manner.   Michael Hingson ** 19:46 One of the things that I find often and I've worked to get away from this but is that we don't tend to do much introspection, especially on a daily basis. We don't take Take time at the end of the day to look at what happened. Not and I don't like to use the word fail, because I think it's all about learning experiences. But what didn't go as well as it could? How do I make it better next time? What went really well? And what can I do to even improve that, and really pondering and thinking about what happened in the course of the day, and we don't, we don't do that we don't talk to ourselves, we don't talk with ourselves. And we really just figure Oh, I don't have time I got too much other stuff to do. So listening to you describe NLP really does in part go back to you've got to be your own best teacher and really learn how to do these things. I   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 20:40 couldn't agree with you more I really couldn't. I think this is the big thing is that we're on a journey of always learning to lead ourselves. That's what I believe. I think that we're learning always learning to lead ourselves. And one of the number one premise of NLP is to live out cause in your life. And that is, we can either live at cause or live in effect. When we live in effect. We are in a space in a mindset of victim mindset, anger, blame, resentment, all of those emotions. I lived there for a really long time. I think all of us at one point in their life have lived there. But when we stay there, we don't. We don't create change. When we live at cause we come to a space of saying like, how can that introspection you're talking about? How can I, you know, look at what went well, today? What's not going well? And one of the first things I'll do, I have moments sometimes where I'm like, well, Marsha, I'm really not really proud of how you're behaving right now, or what is going on with you acting this way. And it almost always comes down to if I'm completely honest, I have a moment of introspection, and I'm like, Okay, wow, you're not doing the things that you need to take care of you. You are not putting the boundaries in place, you're not getting the rest. Okay, so now how can we put that plan in place, and it's like a calibration that comes back to regularly being in that space of taking responsibility for myself, so that I can best lead myself, never about perfection. But there is I'm in a constant conversation with myself all day long. And when things are going right, when I could maybe do something differently, when I'm working to, you know, maybe celebrate something that I'm doing that is a challenge. I think that that piece of self awareness and introspection, is I don't want to call it a lost art. But it's not something that we're making time for on a continuum.   Michael Hingson ** 22:42 Yeah, we're not at all. I love to, to joke and tell people, you know, when we talk about talking to ourselves, and so on and say, Well, do you get answers? When the reality is, of course, that the more we do, the more we do it, the more we will get answers. And the one I'm going to worry is when I don't get an answer. Yes,   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 23:03 yes, I'm with you. I am with you on that.   Michael Hingson ** 23:08 Because we are Yeah, well, we really need to learn to communicate with our heart with ourselves and, and understand, as I have learned to tell people, I used to say I'm my own worst critic. And I've learned that's a horrible thing to say, it's really I'm my own best teacher, because I'm the only one who can really teach me other people can advise and give me information, but I'm the one that has to learn it. And I'm the one that has to teach it to me.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 23:36 I love that you've said that. Because I think that that's a really powerful reframe. And I think that's noticing that comes from a lot of the NLP training is learning how to reframe thoughts. But that's a really powerful reframe, because I have called myself my own worst critic for most of my life. I have and and it's interesting because, you know, there's, there's, there is an advantage, they do want to share one thing quickly, because in the area that I work in, where I help people with vulnerable stories, how to share, show them set, like show up, be seen user voice, one of the biggest things people are constantly afraid of, I would say one of the number one fears is what will people think of me? It's It's amazing. It is the number one fear, what will people think of me? And I often ask people like, well, what are some of the thoughts that you have about yourself? What do you say about yourself? Because I think when we really break it down, there's no one who's criticizing us nearly as bad as what we're doing to ourselves. And so when you start to see that, it's like, Wait, why am I giving all of this energy to what everyone else is saying? When really, I spend 24/7 with myself and my thoughts and what I'm saying to myself is never going to help me move forward. So that's the first piece of it. The second piece is that I think, again, my opinion but ever Every relationship that we build outside of ourselves comes from us first. So I can't be a really nice, I genuinely believe this, I can't go out and be a very nice human to everyone else and be an absolute piece of garbage to myself, because that is it's not authentic, that's not authentic at all. And so I think that if you want to create change in your life, even externally, with relationships, friends, whatever that is, it really does start with learning how to be a better human to yourself.   Michael Hingson ** 25:34 Yeah, and you've got to learn to like yourself, and if you don't, then find out why. And it's okay to find out why. And the reality is own ultimately, people can make observations to you, but only you can really tell you why the two of you aren't getting along.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 25:54 Because I'm my best teacher, I love it. You said that I just, that's a beautiful reframe week, and we can be our best teacher and I am with you in the sense that I actually don't, I rarely use the word failure, because I don't like the connotation with it. Because I think everything is teaching us something. And we get to look at that is that well, that taught me something. Now, if I choose to make the same choice over and over and over, and I'm angry with everyone else in my life, there comes a point where I have to recognize that I'm the common denominator. So what can I do differently? How can I choose differently? How can I surround myself with different people? And then I'm learning the lessons that I'm here to learn. But I really think that we're on a constant cycle of learning.   Michael Hingson ** 26:43 I love Albert Einstein's definition of insanity, which is that people who do the same thing the same way every time and expect a different result, certainly are not all there. No.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 26:57 And I mean, I listen, I've caught myself, there have been many times in my life where I've caught myself, and I'm frustrated with something or something that's happening. And it will be like, Wait, this is the exact same response that happens every single time. Yeah. And that's when it's like, no, so why would I possibly expect something different? Like why would i That doesn't make any sense. And I can catch it and work on that reframe. But again, this goes back to having this dialogue with myself with ourselves on a daily basis.   Michael Hingson ** 27:28 What we tend to not understand or don't want to understand is that there really are basic laws that we live by and should live by. And if you are within those laws or not, but if you're doing something and you do it the same way, every time, you're gonna get the same result. And you have to decide whether you want that result.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 27:50 And if you don't, then something different is required of you, in order to create a different result. We do live I know people don't like that. But we do live the same lessons over and over until we learn the lesson, like do the same experiences over and over until we learn the lessons. And   Michael Hingson ** 28:08 unfortunately, it happens time and time again, generation and generation again. And somehow we've got to do a better job of really learning that you've got to do things different if you want a different result when we were talking earlier about the whole issue of growing up and, and learning and recognizing what we learn and all that and like banning books, you know, we're getting away from understanding history. And so what are we doing? We're banning books, we're getting rid of the lessons or the places where we could get great lessons for poor excuses for banning the books in the first place. Yes,   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 28:51 I have a hard time understanding all of that not not to get like not getting political. I just have a really hard time understanding that we're just going to we did make mistakes in past 100% We made and we're still making them today. But banning things and ignoring it like it never happened, then we're not pulling lessons from that we're not learning something from that. I don't think that anything it I don't think it's beneficial to pretend that things didn't happen. I think we some very valuable lessons from some very big mistakes in history.   Michael Hingson ** 29:26 Well, people have said that Dr. Seuss was a racist. And so we shouldn't be banning his books. Is that good justification for banning all the good things and all the positive stuff that kids get out of the books? Or does that open up a great opportunity to have a discussion and teach people the subtleties of maybe where racism did come through and some of the things that he wrote, but for the most part, people acknowledge that he did a great job or even To Kill a Mockingbird is is a real crazy one to talk about banning because it's All about discussing how people were treated inappropriately. I think   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 30:05 we have to continue having those conversations if we're going to change behavior and and learn how to treat   Michael Hingson ** 30:12 people differently, should all of Bill Cosby's humor go away, simply because, as it turned out later in life, we found that he had feet of clay in some ways. And the reality is, I think they're two different things, the humor, and the the wonderful joy and laughter He brought to people as a stand up comic, and even in TV and so on, can't be erased. And if you do, you're missing so much. You   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 30:39 are and I think this is a this is a really interesting conversation, because I do not know the quote, but if we're only I'm not justifying, what if we are judged by our worst days, then like, nobody is going to nobody is is free, in a sense. And I think that we need to be accountable for our mistakes, especially when we are doing things like this. I definitely agree with you on this. But there has to come a point that, I mean, if I hold on to the energy of that feeling of holding the worst days of every person in my life against them, I'm not going to have anyone in my life. Because I mean, and what a terrible thing to focus on is only the worst things that people have done.   Michael Hingson ** 31:31 And the reality is that there's so much positive energy that that we can attract, if we choose to be more positive than negative, and recognizing that we don't need to be negative, it doesn't add value to us. It   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 31:46 doesn't and that's and that's such a such an expression, such an understanding, it doesn't add value to us, many people and people will say, and we will have why. How do I show up when everyone around me is just negative like that, like, I don't know how to do it? Well, sometimes boundaries have to come in place. And sometimes you decide where you put your time and your energy. And you have to know that, you know, there are times where I will say no to certain things, because that's just not where I choose to put my energy. And I think this is really important. I'm not saying that because I'm judging somebody else. And I don't like how they're how they speak or how they show up. I'm doing that because that's what's best for me. That's, I feel like that's choosing ourselves, we get to choose who we spend that time and energy with. It's not about pointing fingers and making it about other people, we just get to decide where we put it. And I really think that there's a there's a difference between two. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 32:45 yeah. And it's always a matter of choice as to which way you want to go. And like I've said to people, on many occasions, sometimes things happen to us that we don't have. And actually a lot of times probably things happen to us that we don't have any control over happening. But we always have control over how we choose to deal with what happens.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 33:07 Yes, and that is actually I'm probably going to butcher the quote, but it was years ago. For me one of the big turning points was when I heard Stephen Covey's quote, and it was that you are not a product of your circumstances, you are a product of your decisions. Yep, that that was a light switch for me moment where I went, Oh, okay, that no, that actually makes sense. Because I was living in a situation that I don't remember asking for, I didn't want it's not what I wanted to deal with. But I did have a choice in how I responded. And that really started to reframe my thoughts that I could choose how I show up, I could choose how I responded. And when you can start to take back even a sliver of choice in your life, it really will start to shift your energy and how you show up. If you actually I think the other piece of this is that when we stay in that angry victim mindset, and feel like this is just all unfair. And it's happening. No change happens there. And when we can start to become a product of our decisions, we can actually start to create change. And that's the it's a really powerful message for and I know it's not easy. I know it's not easy. I just know that it's soul choice.   Michael Hingson ** 34:23 Yeah. It's always a choice.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 34:27 Well, you thought of energy that's wasted when it's not   Michael Hingson ** 34:31 Oh, so much. Yeah. I love the quote I heard and I don't know about the truth of it, but I choose to think it makes sense that it takes 17 muscles in your face to frown But only three to smile.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 34:44 Isn't that something, isn't it? Yeah, it's in and that's a that's a choice. Sometimes when I go for a walk and I'm gonna walk my dog a lot or I'm in the store. I tried really hard to make eye contact and smile at people and it's an Have you seen how that's just not always? That might be seen as weird? But I actually have to do it?   Michael Hingson ** 35:07 Yeah, well, and it makes such a difference. You smile, people smile at you. And it goes so far toward helping, I think people feel better.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 35:19 Yes. And you can be meeting people on sometimes their worst day. And sometimes that smile, that just gesture can make such a difference, and it can make an impact in both of your lives. Yeah, absolutely.   Michael Hingson ** 35:31 And you may not even know the impact ever, or until later. But still, it makes a big difference. So many times we plant seeds that we don't necessarily know how they'll grow. And we may not even learn how they grow. But nevertheless, it's always good to to work on planting good seeds and and not bad ones. Now   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 35:54 100% And it made me think of I really like it. This is such a short and simple book. But I really like the is it Mitch album, the five people you meet? And I like that because the reframe there is that the people that you have the biggest impact on you might not even realize it. Yeah, like, there might they're not the they might not be the closest people to you. It could be somebody that you crossed paths on their worst day. And that created a ripple in their lives. And I just I've always loved that concept.   Michael Hingson ** 36:27 Well, and you may not even ever No, no, how much of an impact you had one of my favorite stories, and I've told it a couple of times here, but I'll tell it again, is that in 2003, I went to New Zealand and I had been introduced and interviewed in 2001 by a gentleman who was always known as the Larry King of New Zealand. His name was Paul Holmes. And he came to interview us in the States at our home in New Jersey. And he said, If you ever get to New Zealand, let me know I want to interview you first. And so it turns out that there was an opportunity to go and do work in New Zealand for three weeks. And I emailed Paul and let him know we were coming. And we got there on a Wednesday morning and I got a chance to nap because it was a long flight. But we got there and napped. And then I was on his show that night at seven. And what happened was that a week later, a weekend a few days later was the second Saturday I was in New Zealand. Apparently, the show interviewing me reran. And the next day, and I wasn't connected with this at all. But a group of blind people took a river raft, and they had a guide. And they all went and they had a great time. And at the end, the guide said, I have to tell you a story. He said I was going to cancel this trip yesterday, because I didn't think fine people could do this and that you would have any fun at all. And I probably have to be jumping in the water and saving all of you. They said last night, I saw the Pol Home Show. And there was this bloke from the States I love it. This bloke from the states who was on who was in the World Trade Center on September 11. And he got out and I figured if he could get out and he could be here and talk about that, I should be able to have fun with all of you guys. And I have to tell you, this was the best trip I have ever had a chance to guide. Hi.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 38:25 Thank you for sharing that I have not heard that one. I love that story. That's beautiful.   Michael Hingson ** 38:30 You just never know. And it will have always felt if I can make a difference in my life or one person's life, then I've done my job. And anything else beyond that is great. And I've chosen to speak because my belief is that if I can help people move on from September 11, and learn about blindness and guide dogs and so on, then it's a good thing. And that's what I've been working on for the last almost 22 years now. And having a lot of fun doing it.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 38:59 Yeah, I think that was one of the things that drew me to your story and knowing that I wanted to share it is because exactly that you are you're making a difference with your story. And it is just it's really opening up conversations and showing people how they can move forward and how they can make a difference. And I just I absolutely love that.   Michael Hingson ** 39:22 Well tell me a little bit about you getting into doing a lot of storytelling. You said that you during your your career, which I assume ended mostly because of the pandemic, the company. Yeah. But you learn a lot about telling stories, which I always think is a great way to handle any situation and it helps people grow to have a greater understanding. But then you started coaching full time. And now you tell stories. So what does it mean to own your own story?   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 39:51 Well, I think I love this question. And I I just I think when it comes down to it. You either own your story Don't you to keep it super simple. If you are, we've all walked through an experience, we've all walked through challenges. But that doesn't have to identify us, right? It's part of us. But it doesn't have to be our identity. And I think that's the piece is that when you own the story, it doesn't own you. But when it does own you, it controls you. And I mean that in a sense that there is a tremendous amount of people who are hiding in what I would call a shame story, and are hiding it, hoping and praying that no one ever knows that they've struggled, that they're struggling, that there's a challenge happening. I think that has been even more amplified with social media. Because I think that for a long time, there was this this image that of, you know, perfectionism, and wow, look at how great everyone is doing, when that's just, it's just a snapshot of a person's day. And so when you don't own the story, it owns you. And for the longest time, I really tried to hide that part of myself, because I just didn't know how to deal with it. I didn't know how to deal with the criticism, and the judgments, and all of the words and and I'm still trying to, at the time was trying to navigate a really difficult time. And so when that those words started to land on me, like on your choices on your life and owning your story, and what did that look like? It was amazing that I came to a point of saying, Yes, I was a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse, it changed me at the core. And I learned how to share my story which allowed me to heal, which allowed me to build better relationships with my kids to really do something really good with the most difficult experience of my life. And part of that became sharing stories. How Hermie how do you share a difficult story? Like how do you share a story, especially when there's other people involved? How do you share a story when there's other people involved? And I think that is something that is misunderstood a lot. But here's the thing is, is that when we don't, when I first started to share my story, I was blown away by how many people would stop me and say, Oh, my gosh, that's my story. I've never told a soul. I've held on to it for 3040 years and listening to people. Be that victim to shame and shame. Shame, love secrecy. Right? So the more people shut it down, the more shame grows. So by helping people to share a story, then all of a sudden, they were able to feel free from that story. And it started to open up this this idea of how can we start to share more of us. And that's how we find our connections and how we build our connections. So storytelling wise, if I can share, I watched this today, I actually ran a masterclass today. Pardon me, I've been talking all day. But I ran a master class today. And I asked if there was anybody who wanted to come on live and practice how to share and frame a story. And one of the moms who jumped on I saw her jump, and I'm like, This is awesome. I'm so excited. Because I've had a number of conversations with her and both of her boys experience. They both had a genetic condition. They spent 18 years in the hospital, almost 95 in the hospital. So I could imagine what that family went through. They lost their one son, the other son survived. And she started to share. And she was very afraid she was scared to share it. She got quite emotional. But as she did it, people were commenting and pouring so much love and support into her that I actually made her pause and I said I need you to read these comments, like read these comments. And she just sat there and went, I had no idea. And I'm like, this is the point about our stories. Our stories show that we are so much more connected than we think that we are we are so much more alike than we think that we are. And I think that learning how to share our stories, normalizes our connections. And we don't have to walk the same story as somebody else in order to be connected to them. Because we're all connected by emotions, experiences, lessons, etc. So that's really where it started. And when I started to find my own freedom from my story, I actually started to heal, but listening to everyone else, give me feedback and tell me that that was their story. It just gave me fuel to keep going and I felt very compelled that this was my purpose in life was to start to change stigma and start to open up conversations about difficult topics. Yeah.   Michael Hingson ** 45:06 Well, and it's how do I say it is an exciting thing to be able to do and to recognize and then to help bring about, and whether you know, what it was we talked about before whether you know, what really happens and, and how you affect people or not isn't the issue, but at least you're the conduit, and you know that. I   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 45:26 like being the conduit, I'm actually I like, I actually like it. And it helped me to shift in looking that, you know, through the most difficult experience I've walked through, I was able to give it purpose. And because I could give it purpose that helped me to heal. And it helped me feel like, maybe that's what I'm supposed to be doing. And accounts are sent that to me. And it was etched in me, when I said no matter where I go, nobody's talking about difficult things in life. And she said, maybe that's good. You're supposed to, maybe you're supposed to talk and I'm like, You want me to just talk about this, like, What will people think what will they say? And I can tell you all of the stories I made up in my head about how bad it would be and how scary it would be none of them happened, survived. And I mean, you speak you understand, like, it's two big groups, we tell ourselves stories. But it was incredible experience. And I continue to do that to this day. And podcasting is part of it. And what it's done is brought connections into my life that I never would have had. And I know I've normalized a lot of topics that people don't want to talk about. But I do think the interesting thing is, is that, tying it back to the very beginning of my story and intro that I shared here, I grew up in an era when you didn't talk about difficult things, like you literally just put your smile on and pretended everything was fine. And so when I decided that I wanted to start sharing, I would love to say I was met with so much love and support. And that was not the truth. It took time because it was it was uncomfortable for people in my life. But I kept saying just trust me that I will be always sharing and leaving everyone in integrity. It's the utmost highest intention. And it didn't take long for others to see why I wanted to do it. And I'm so grateful that I did. Yeah. Well,   Michael Hingson ** 47:22 you talked about having teen substance abuse in your family. And that had to be a hard thing. But learning to talk about it is also part of what probably was good therapy for you.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 47:33 It was the best therapy I've done all I have done so much different support. And I would say it was one of the best things that I ever did for myself healing wise and therapy wise.   Michael Hingson ** 47:45 Ironically, picking on the media, as we often do for me, subjecting myself to literally hundreds of interviews after September 11. From from media people who asked anything from the most intelligent thought provoking questions to the dumbest questions in the world. Even so, it made me talk about September 11. And it made me do it in ways I would never have imagined. So for me, that was some of the best therapy I think I've ever had. And I and I think everybody in the media for it, ironically enough, after knowing that we we still have to pick on them anyway.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 48:23 Yeah, and I'm sure that like, I've had many people ask me questions, and I'm like, I am not answering that. Like, I'm just not there's no purpose behind that. I'm not saying that. People will ask I also think that people ask because they don't know, or they're looking for a sweet, they don't know. It's interesting, because I think I actually I'm gonna say this, I think that I would rather somebody asked me a question that's not appropriate, then give me that glance and judge and not ask, because sometimes people don't ask out of fear. And I've actually had a couple of really interesting opportunities when I where I've been able to use that conversation as a little bit of nice education. Because I think the other thing is, is that with my with our story, we didn't look like what most people thought, like who had this issue, which, to me, was all the more reason to start to talk about it. Because there's, there's hundreds of 1000s of me, it's not that I was the only one. And I mean, the only reason that most of us feel alone when it comes to these topics is because we're not talking and we're not alone. None of us are. And so I really think those are those are the pieces but I love how you share that. And I do think that by talking, I really wanted to help others out. And I was also helping myself. I didn't know that at the time. One of the best things I could have ever done, because   Michael Hingson ** 49:58 it helped you as much as anything How did you discover that you could only own your own choices?   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 50:05 The hard way. I think the hard way, I spent a lot of time trying to fix, manage control, micromanage everything around me trying to make it better trying to save them trying to, you know, fight a system, I was just in this constant fight mode. And really what was happening there is nothing external to me was changing. And everything internal to me was changing, but not for the better. I was in a space where I was probably my worst health, I wasn't sleeping hardly at all, I didn't have hardly energy, I didn't have a lot of positive joy or good outlook in my life. And through a lot of work, and reading and support, I started to recognize that I wasn't owning any of my own choices. I was literally blaming everyone for that, and not taking any responsibility for myself. And ironically, when I started to do that, it got really easy to say, Wait, is that my choice? Nope, that was not mine, either. Nope, that one's not mine, either. And I literally would go through the list. And it was like, Oh, my gosh, I'm spending like, I was spending like, 97% of my day, doing everything that wasn't my choice, and then having nothing left for me. And then being angry at everyone else, because I had nothing left for me in order to do that. So owning owning my choices became a model for me. And when it came to wanting to start the podcast, on your choices on your life, that was I mean, people say that's too long of a title, you shouldn't do that. And I'm like those words saved me. And that's, that's literally they've become the pillar cornerstone for me. And they saved me so that it became very easy to use them.   Michael Hingson ** 51:45 I never would have thought of calling your choices on your life being too long of a name. It   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 51:52 was I had so many people. I mean, this is the thing when you ever want to do anything new, be very careful how many pins you ask for? Yes, get a lot.   Michael Hingson ** 52:04 Or feel free to get all the opinions and then you just have to synthesize them together and decide where you're gonna go. Exactly,   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 52:10 exactly. When I when I wrote my solo book in 2017. It's called when she stopped asking why. And I waited for a while for that title just hadn't come to me yet. And when it did, I went to my publisher. I'm like, I've got the name. It's once you stopped asking why. And the publisher said, Oh, no, that's just way too long. That's way too long, no one's going to understand it. And I said, I actually think more people are going to get it than anything. Because it's, you know, when we ask that when you ask the question, why it only is appropriate if you're moving towards something like if you're focusing on the why the bigger picture, and that mission. But if you're asking why as a victim, and why is this happening to me, that will never change the story. And for me, that's when the story change is I would catch myself and ask why. And it's like, no, wait, why does it matter? The what matters, what is the verb, what is an action, that is something I can control. And that's what I would just shift it to. So again, back to what you're saying, you've got to follow your gut on some of these things, and listen to what feels right for you.   Michael Hingson ** 53:14 We forget all too often to follow our gut and our instincts. And they're always telling us the right answer.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 53:21 They are they're speaking to us, we just might not be listening. I   Michael Hingson ** 53:25 learned that playing Trivial Pursuit learned it the hard way, you know, you got to listen to what your brain tells you. Because you're sitting there going, when a question comes up, and you get an answer. No, that can't be right. And you give another answer. And it turns out, you were supposed to answer what the original answer.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 53:40 The first one how many times in Toronto procedures that happen a lot all the   Michael Hingson ** 53:43 time. A lot. So I work at it and and then and now people say when I play it, how can you get so many of these right? You know, and I just keep telling, telling them? I'm just listening to my gut? That's awesome. It is it's fun. Well, you know, when you are working with people, are you expecting to make a change? Or do you do you feel that's what you have to do? Or you're just really trying to help and let them make their own choices and decide whether they want to change or not be   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 54:16 the opposite? Yes, I again, back to conduit. I like to be the person. So this person who came on to the masterclass today, for example, I probably have four or five conversations with her. And this has just been something she's working towards, like these are difficult, vulnerable stories that people are showing up and trying to find a way to share. Because the intention is is that they want to do something good in the world with it. They want to help somebody else. They a lot of times like we're perfectly designed to help the younger version of who we work. And so they want to do something, but it will be in her own time and it will be in their own time. And she even said today she's like thank you for like just nudging me, but never We're pushing and I'm like, it's, I can't make you do anything. And if so, like, that's not where real change comes from. So I like to be a person who can help them to, a lot of times I can see what someone has available, but before they can see it, but I can't make them do it. That's it's never my job to make them do it, it's it's my job to show them what's possible. Yeah.   Michael Hingson ** 55:27 And you can't make the change happen. All you can do is at most set by example, as Gandhi said, Be the change you want to see in the world, but you have to do what you have to do, and be who you have to be. And hopefully, people will recognize the example. Yes, that's,   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 55:47 and that's why I think I really on a regular basis Share, Like I just share so openly, because I, I am never going to be the person who shows up online and saying everything is rainbows and butterflies, and it's a piece of cake. I'm not going to go on to complain, but I know how to be real. And it's like, you know, sometimes we're walking through really difficult times. And it requires me to focus even more on my own mindset and how I show up. But I will never show up and pretend that it's a piece of cake. And it's never a problem, because that's not relatable, that doesn't help anybody. I would rather show people how to navigate through something, and if it speaks to them, and it helps them to say I actually want to do something with my story, too. I would love to know how to help someone else out, then I hope it inspires them to do that.   Michael Hingson ** 56:39 And what do you say when they say that?   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 56:41 I asked them, usually the first thing I ask them is what's the vulnerable story that you're holding on to that you wish you could share more openly with others. And for example, somebody will say, you know, I experienced this, I have dealt with addiction, I have dealt with this. And I helped them to come to a framework with their story where they're able to have perspective, and they're able to pull the lessons and the learnings and the experiences from what they walked through. Because that's what they share. Right? That's what you share, you don't share the details of the story. It's you share the experience of what you walked through and how you helped, like how you got yourself through. And that's what you share. So I really helped them to kind of dissect and look at like, what, what did these experiences teach you? Who are you now because of it? And what do you want to do in your life? Because of this? Yeah, that's   Michael Hingson ** 57:43 what I was gonna get to is then what comes next? And it's what do you want to do with your life? Exactly.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 57:48 And for some people, it's like their entire mission now. And I just love it. To me, it's very, it's a ripple effect. And I'm grateful to see it firsthand is to watch people step into and share vulnerable stories. And when I see people do that, like, I just, I just cheer them on, because I know how scary that is. And I know how hard that is. But I also know that story is going to reach others. I actually interviewed a musician who had dealt with addiction for a number of years, most people didn't know it. And he's, you know, he was sharing online, he was building quite a following. He was singing people loved his music, at cetera. And it he said, you know, it was funny, it was building a following, until I decided to quit drinking. And then I started to share my story as somebody who was was working through addiction, then all of a sudden, he goes my following. And my support and my community grew tenfold. Because I let them see me, I gave them something to root for. And I just I think that is such a beautiful piece that as humans, we want to be able to support others. But that's going to require that we let others see themselves through our experiences. Like they have to be able to recognize that Wait, she knows what if she knows what I'm going through? Because I could I could hear it and her message. And then we start to build these connections.   Michael Hingson ** 59:20 It isn't telling the story. It's telling the story in a personal and open way. So that people as you say, See you it's not just I'm going to tell the story and everything's gonna be great and people are gonna love me. Doesn't matter if you're not genuine.   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 59:40 No, it's the the authenticity, the genuineness. realness is so much more important. And even even here as an example for anybody who's listening. Like I didn't share much of my story. And I didn't have to. You don't have to share the details. It's not the details that is going to connect you with other people. It's that experience and what you choose to do with it. And I see such a bigger movement now of people who are recognizing that they've walked through something really difficult, and they want to do something good with it in the world. And I think that's how we start to change the conversation around these kinds of topics.   Michael Hingson ** 1:00:20 When you start to tell your story, if you get somebody who really pushes back and criticizes you, how do you handle that? What do you do? And how do you rebound and go on? Well,   Marsha Vanwynsberghe ** 1:00:30 in the beginning, it took me a while to rebound, I'm not gonna lie, like in the beginning, it was hard, because, you know, critics, nobody wants to be criticized. And but it didn't take long, I had some really good mentors, and I did a lot of work. It didn't take long to recognize that when you're going to talk about difficult things in life, you're gonna ruffle some feathers, you're gonna you're gonna push buttons, it's gonna happen. And people will always react to you based on whatever lens they're wearing. If they're wearing a lens of like victim anger, resentment, you don't get me you don't understand, I can't change that. I can't fix that. Like, I can just be me I can be I can. And I used to be the change, I literally wear that word on my bracelet like that is those are my go to words, I get to choose how I can be the change that I wish to see. And so that's always a reminder for me. But when I see that criticism now, this is how and I advise and share is this just my opinion on it, is when I see it, if it doesn't feel good for me, I will delete it lockup, if it is something that is constructive, that maybe a person is asking for some questions on, then I will I will try and answer because maybe this person is just a space of curiosity going wait, how do you move through something that's difficult. So I don't just take it at face value and judge it. But if it doesn't feel good, I still get criticism to this day, I will block delete, I will move things. I can really protect my energy put boundaries in place when it comes to putting myself out there. And I there are times that I have to remind myself, you know, sometimes I'll share something that's quite vulnerable. And I'll get 1015 Incredible comments back and I'll get one negative one. Do I choose to put all my energy into the one negative one? Or do I focus on the other 10 to 14 that were incredible. I think we get to choose what we focus on. And so the day that I start to focus on the only the negative comments, that person is, I can't I can't make them change. And maybe that's not their journey. And and that's not up to me. So when that happened, I just honestly I check in with myself again, go back to self like reflection and intention. And I look at it and say Did I say anything that was inappropriate? Did I do something I will go internally and look not being critical, but I will look to make sure I didn't do anything that wasn't. And then I just look at it and say I can't change that person sometimes even said thank you for your opinion. And sometimes I just block and delete, because I know that. I mean, at least once a week I get a message from a completely new person. I take those messages, I screenshot I save them

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