The Dad Mindset Show

Sam Jockel is a social entrepreneur, author, and passionate advocate for emotional resilience, drawing on her experiences founding parent-focused communities like ParentTV and School Mum.In this deeply moving conversation, Sam and I dive into something every parent feels but few of us talk about openly — the emotional weight we carry into parenthood.We explore how our own childhood experiences, especially the hard and often hidden parts, shape the way we show up for our kids today. Sam opens up about her personal journey through trauma, healing, and self-discovery, and how that process has completely transformed the way she parents.This isn't a chat about quick parenting hacks. It's about long-game thinking. It's about showing up, even when it's hard. And it's about building the kind of emotional resilience that helps our children thrive — not by being perfect, but by being present.If you enjoy this episode, you have to watch SEEN, the film that Sam has recently launched. It's beautifully filmed and a poignant reminder that healing ourselves is possibly one of the greatest gifts we can give our children.Big HugRichHere are some useful links from the episode:SEEN The FilmSchool MumParentTV Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Sleep isn't a luxury—it's a skill.In this episode, I chat with Ahna De Vena, a self-proclaimed sleep superstar that will help you reclaim your rest. After years of her own struggles, Ahna now teaches how to design better sleep—for kids and adults alike.We cover:* Morning rituals & calming night routines* Reframing bedtime fears* Creating sleep-friendly environments* Why sleep education is essential for familiesWhether your child treats bedtime like a battleground or you just can't switch off, this conversation's packed with practical tips to help you and your family rest well.Enjoy the chat. And your next nap.Big hugRichVist Ahna's websiteConnect with Ahna on Linkedin Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

In all his thinking about the future, Kevin Kelly has never lost sight of what matters most: being present.In this Moment, Kevin reflects on parenthood—not from a place of perfection, but from perspective. He shares some of the things he wishes he'd done more of as a father—those small, everyday choices that shape a lifetime.It's gentle. It's honest. And it's a beautiful reminder that even the great futurists come back to the simple, timeless truths of being human.Find out more about Kevin at kk.orgBig hugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

In this week's episode of The Dad Mindset, renowned swim coach Brenton Ford joins us to explore why swimming is one of the most important life skills for your kids—far beyond competitive sports. Whether you're a parent looking to help your child build water confidence or aiming to improve your own swim technique, this conversation is packed with insights.Brenton shares practical strategies to introduce your kids to swimming without pressure, explains how video feedback and visualisation can fast-track improvement, and highlights the subtle art of developing efficient swim technique over power. If you want to raise strong, confident swimmers—or simply understand the value of swimming as a tool for resilience, focus, and joy—you won't want to miss this one.Big HugRichYou can find more about Brenton below:Effortless SwimmingBrenton's YouTube Channel Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

This week, high-performance coach, podcaster, and co-founder of Cashflow Co., Terry Condon, returns with powerful insights and mental models to help you build financial confidence while strengthening your most important relationship. He challenges traditional views of wealth, emphasising that true success isn't just about money—it's about aligning your finances with your values to create a more fulfilling life.In this episode, you'll learn how to define personal values, create a shared financial vision with your partner, and navigate money conversations without conflict. Whether you're looking to gain clarity on your financial goals or simply want a healthier relationship with money, this conversation is packed with game-changing advice you won't want to miss.Big hug,RichHere are the links mentioned by Terry in the episode:Cashflow Co.How to get your partner on board with your financesMoney Minded podcastDetermine your financial skill score. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Ever wondered what it would be like to take your family on an extended adventure? In this week's episode, you'll hear firsthand insights on the highs, challenges, and unexpected lessons of traveling as a family. You'll discover what it takes to balance work on the road, how to navigate the emotional transition back to everyday life, and the rewards (and realities) of homeschooling while traveling.We also dive into the power of stepping away from routine, the impact of travel on wellbeing, and the deep lessons gained from engaging with Indigenous culture. If you've ever dreamed of making travel a bigger part of your life—or just want to hear how a nomadic lifestyle can reshape your perspective—this conversation should leave you inspired to take action, slow down, and connect more deeply with the world around you.I hope you enjoy, this conversation with Max Van Biene…Big HugRichHere is the link to Max's travel blog article detailing the trip.Here are some epic photos and videos of their trip on Instagram.Connect with Max on LinkedIn. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there, how are you doing? I hope you're well and feeling ready to tackle 2025 with fresh energy and enthusiasm—whatever that looks like for you.Over the past few weeks, I've taken some time to revisit the episodes from 2024, and it's been a real treat.Re-listening to the episodes from 2024 has been a bit like finding a $50 bill in the pocket of a jacket you haven't worn for months—a delightful surprise that sparks a renewed sense of possibility :-)My hope is that these curated moments will potentially do the same for you, offering you ideas, inspiration, and even maybe a nudge to show up as a better version of yourself this year.Here's to making 2025 an epic one!Big hugRichLinks to the full conversations included in this episode:Matthew Dicks on storytellingGordo Byrne on true wealthClaire Emerson on personal kanbanDerek Sivers on authenticityJonny Miller on nervous system masteryTristan de Montebello on public speakingCole Imperi on deathloss and shadowlossDr Arne Rubinstein on rites of passageLael Stone on setting family values Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hello, how are you doing? I hope you're well.What a year it has been. We've had so many great guests on the podcast that I wanted to compile some of the highlights as a reminder if you've already listened to them, and as a taster to help you work through the back catalogue if you're new to the show.if you want to dive into a particular episode, I've put links below so that you can navigate straight to them.I've got to say I really enjoyed re-listening to these episodes and it's been a good prod for me to incorporate more of the insights into my own parenting.Anyway, I hope you enjoy listening to snapshots of guests from the first half of 2024, and I'll publish another episode covering the second half of 2024 next week.Big hugRichLinks to guest episodes included:Rob PoytonJohn StewartAndy NcNeillyNed JohnsonDr Hannah BereznickiScott H Young Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Lucy Peach is back on the show. Lucy is an award-winning musician and menstrual cycle educator who has been empowering people to embrace their natural rhythms through her show, My Greatest Period Ever and book, Period Queen.But here's the twist: this interview isn't just me chatting with Lucy.My eldest daughter, Annika, is stepping into the interviewer's seat as part of her school's 'Changemaker' project to ask Lucy questions about how to navigate and embrace her menstrual cycle.This conversation is especially important because understanding the menstrual cycle isn't just about biology—it's about building empathy, fostering healthier relationships, and creating supportive environments for the people we care about. For us dads, this awareness can be transformative. It can help us better connect with our partners, support our daughters as they grow, and even model open, informed discussions about topics that have been taboo for far way too long.So I hope you enjoy as Annika takes the lead in what promises to be an inspiring and potentially eye-opening conversation with Lucy Peach.Big HugRichCheck out Lucy's website here.If you'd like to listen to the initial interview with Lucy, click here, it's a corker! Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Dr. Arne Rubinstein is a former family and emergency doctor who shifted gears after witnessing the alarming rates of risky behaviour and mental health struggles among teenagers. Deeply moved to find solutions, Dr Arne discovered the transformative power of Rites of Passage—ceremonial traditions used by Indigenous and traditional communities for millennia to guide young people safely into adulthood.Now the CEO and Founder of The Rites of Passage Institute, Dr. Arne has dedicated his life to helping families and young people navigate this critical transition in a way that fosters healthy relationships, lifelong success, and personal empowerment. Some of the things, I think you'll agree with me, that we all want for our children.I hope you enjoy this conversations with Dr Arne Rubenstein.Big hugRichIf you'd like to find out more about Arne's programs visit the Rites of Passage institute here.If you'd like to find out more about Arne you can find his own website here, and his TED talk here.You can find The Artist's Way book here. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

When you love what you do and you also love being a parent, how do you strike an appropriate balance between the two?Vice-president of Global Marketing Operations at Google, Sarah Armstrong, made sure that she was the mom she wanted to be, and the mom that her daughter Grace needed, by being incredibly deliberate in how she balanced life and work. In this podcast episode we dive into Sarah's book The Art of the Juggling Act: A Bite-Sized Guide for Working Parents, that breaks her approach down.Some of my key takeaways are:* Birthday Questions to ask your child and record each year* Be deliberate with how you want to end each day* How to set time, physical and mental boundaries (with work, that is)I hope you enjoy this conversation with Sarah.Big HugRichP.S. a great question Sarah suggests to ask when you're transitioning your career is: “What do you want to talk about everyday?”If you'd like to find out more about Sarah click here and to check out Sarah's book click on the image below. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there, Lael is back today with even more insights to help with your parenting journey quest. Lael has some great suggestions on what we can do now that will have ramifications for not just our children but our children's children. Lael Stone is a Speaker, Educator and Author who's passion is supporting parents to understand their children, helping adults process their own childhood trauma and creating education systems that value emotional awareness.I've taken so much inspiration from the previous conversation I had with Lael, and this next instalment is just as helpful.What you are doing by reading this and listening to podcasts like this is so important. You totally got this!I hope you enjoy this chat with Lael Stone.If you'd like to check out Lael's courses and book you can find her website here.Big HugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

We are all going to experience grief and loss, and as parents, I think it's especially important for us to be able to show up for, and help normalise conversations around these massive life experiences for our families. There is no better person I can think of than Cole Imperi to give us a framework and useful tools for being able to navigate the challenging times of grieving loss. Cole is an award-winning author, chaplain, deathworker, and founder of the School of American Thanatology. Thanatology being the study of death and dying.I took so much away from this week's chat with Cole, and I really hope you do too.If you're currently working through grief, here's a big hug from me.RichIf you'd like to find out more about Cole's work check out her website here.Here new book A Guide to Grief is also a great resource to have in your home.And this is the link to Cole's free column Grief or Madness. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Ever feel like the plastic problem is just too big to tackle? Well, Mike Smith is committed to doing the heavy lifting to re-invigorate us and show that a company can make a very dig difference.If we can inspire one person, it's worth it - Mike SmithMike's passion for creating a sustainable future (now super-charged as a dad) is matched only by his incredible enthusiasm and massive heart. He's one of those people whose energy is truly infectious—and it's the kind of energy we could all use more of in our lives.Mike is the visionary founder and CEO of Zero Co, an Australian company dedicated to tackling the global plastic crisis. Mike and his fast growing team are on a mission to eliminate single-use plastics from households and at the same time, clean up plastic waste from our oceans, rivers, and beaches worldwide. And you know what, they're actually doing it. If you're keen to transform your daily routine check out Zero Co's website.Big hugRichCheck out ZeroCoConnect with Mike Smith on LinkedInConnect with ZeroCo on Instagram Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there, Have you ever wondered if there's something missing? Or maybe you are not quite present when you feel you should be? Well this week's podcast guest, Mykel Dixon (award winning speaker, MC, musician and author) has some ideas that might help you shake things up.If you'd like to check out Mykel's work you can find him here. Also, if you'd like to add a spark of joy to your day, I'd recommend following him on LinkedIn—he brightens the place up, so to speak ;-)Big hugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

On a recent episode, Derek Sivers mentioned that he had bought a 3D printer from Bambu Lab and it had been a game-changer for him and his son's creativity.Like me, Derek had previously thought that 3D printers were super expensive and required a lot of technical knowledge to work. However Bambu Lab has changed all that with their truly beginner-friendly series of 3D printers that won't break the bank.So, I reached out to Bambu Lab and asked if their A series printers were truly, beginner friendly and if they'd be open to the kids and I putting one of their entry level 3D printer to the test. They totally believe in their product and sent us an A1 printer set up and this week's episode goes into what we discovered.My key takeaways are:* You can have a lot of fun 3D printing with the kids* Bambu Lab have done an amazing job of making 3D printing accessible at an affordable price* 3D printing brings a whole new lens to creativity.Check out Bambu Lab's A1 series of printers here.Here is the Bambu Handy app which is used to drive the 3D printer and you can also use it to search for interesting designs that other users have made and print them yourself.You can also search for designs to print at Bambu Lab's MakerWorld.You can make bespoke designs using simple templates at the MakerLab.Again, big thank you to Bambu Lab for sending us a 3D printing setup to road test! It's been a lot of fun.Big HugRichMaking signs is super easyI was surprised to find that there is a Noface mask design on the Bambu Handy app.Which meant we could have a lot of fun shopping on Halloween… Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there, I hope you're well.You know how public speaking is one of those things many people place up there with dying as a thing to fear the most? Well this week's guest has been through hell and back to make it to the finals of the World Championship of public speaking and explains how he developed his skills so quickly and how you can too.Starting with zero experience, Tristan became the fastest competitor in history to reach the finals in just seven months. Up against so much seasoned competition he had to take a different tack. He chose to lean into and develop impromptu speaking, which meant that instead of only being confident when he'd rehearsed a script, he could be confident all of the time.My key takeaways are:Your sense of sweating or blushing or whatever negative feelings you have that you think people can see when you are speaking publicly—they can't. And learning to ride the wave of emotions to remain outwardly confident is easier than you think.Hope you have a great week.Big hugRichClick here to learn more about Tristan's Ultralearning courses. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there, How are you? I hope you're well.Do you ever struggle with staying present with your kids? If so, you'll appreciate this week's podcast episode with Tim Fisher. We dive into what Tim's learnt about parenting from the people around him as well as how parenting is now driving his career.Big HugRichConnect with Tim on LinkedInPsychology for a Safe ClimateEnergy Efficiency Council Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there,Ever wondered how best to discuss climate change with your kids?Do you ever feel like it's all too much and therefore best to ignore (I sometimes do)?Well today's podcast guest, Nic Seton, is here to help. Nic is the CEO of the non-profit organisation, Parents for Climate, and he has such an inspiring and practical approach to this that I find quite uplifting.I think the message I've taken away from this chat with Nic, is that we can do more as parents than we might think, and not in a shaming way but in an inspiring way. A way that encourages finding the common ground with everyone else that is raising young humans in this day and age. So I hope you feel as inspired as I do.Big Hug.RichResources for talking with kids about climate changeJoin the Parents for Climate mailing listParents for Climate websiteParents for Climate Facebook pageConnect with Nic SetonFind Parents for Climate local groups Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there,Would you like to enhance your focus, calmness and emotional regulation? I know I would.That's why I reached out to Jonny Miller, who is a pioneering figure in the field of emotional resilience, for a chat.Join Jonny and I in this week's Dad Mindset episode where we dive into how we as parents can equip ourselves and our kids with crucial life skills to better navigate stress and emotional challenges.If after listening to this episode you'd like to take things to the next level, Jonny runs a Nervous System Mastery course, where he teaches evidence-based techniques to rewire maladaptive stress responses. The testimonials he's received from previous students are off the charts so I strongly recommend you check it out. Here is a link to the course which includes a $250 discount because you're part of the Dad Mindset family: Nervous System MasteryHopefully see you there!Big HugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there,I hope you're well. I think you're going to love this episode with Derek Sivers.You see, Derek accidentally started a business which became the biggest online seller of independent music. He then sold that business for a lot of money, gave the money to charity, and then was in the very fortunate position to be able to focus 100% of his time on being a father.Derek has since written a series of insightful books and has inspired me with numerous perspectives on life and living. I love listening to the way Derek thinks things through and applies this thinking to fatherhood. If you've enjoyed previous Dad Mindset interviews, you're going to absolutely love this one.We dive into things like:* How being totally authentic might not be the best strategy as a parent* Surprisingly good pets for kids* The joy of overcoming a prejudice* Challenging environments* When a Living Room is not a Living Room** Dangerous play* Bonding through secrets* and many more interesting things…If you'd like to read Derek's new book, Useful Not True, you can find it here. You can find his other books and a wealth of other useful things here.And the book resource we discussed—which I highly recommend you check out—is here.I hope you have a great week.Big HugRich*When it's a Making RoomLinks to other things discussed:Bambu Lab A1 3D PrinterAlison GopnikDeathstar Canteen stop motion Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there, I hope you're well.In this episode I chat with Australia's most trusted doctor to discuss his new book, ‘So you want to know what's good for your kids' which is a no-nonsense, evidence-based handbook that enables you to focus on what actually makes a difference for your kids, especially in the crucial years of 5 to 10 - the runway to adolescence.Social and emotional wellbeing turn out to be some of the best predictors of how well your child will do in later life. However they can easily get overlooked in the essential primary years, and that's why Dr Norman has dived into the research so we, as parents, can make much more informed decisions.If you'd like to follow Dr Norman you can find him on Instagram here and X here.Big HugRichNow last year Sarah and I took the family on a 6-month road trip around Australia and we couldn't have done it without having fast and reliable internet to enable me to work while we were in some incredibly remote areas.Starlink was an absolute game-changer. If you haven't heard of it yet, it's a portable satellite dish and router that provides wicked-fast internet directly via a series of satellites. I think there were only two places where our dish couldn't get a line of sight to a satellite due to tree cover but considering we were out of phone range for about 50% of the trip, that was incredible.Our friends at Starlink have a special offer at the moment so that if you sign up you'll receive a month's free service. It is a bit expensive but if you're considering taking your family on the road and the only thing holding you back is that you need remote internet that you can count on so you can keep working, Starlink has got you covered. Here is a link to access Starlink's offer. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there,This week's episode of the Dad Mindset podcast will make you a better parent, partner and person. It's a lofty claim, I know, but it's one I'm going to stand by.While Matthew Dicks' wife might say that he's a fundamentally unlikeable person who tells a good story, she means it in the best possible sense.Matt has been through so much that he has a refreshing perspective on life that I think we could do well to emulate.His experience teaching Grade 5 kids meshed with his ability to codify the storytelling process is a masterclass in upping your parenting and communication skills.In this episode you'll learn some key ways to put bad experiences in a box, prime the world to be kinder to you, and how to tell better stories—which in turn will help you become more engaging in all areas of your life.If you agree with me and think this episode has been helpful it would absolutely make my day if you could give it a review on Apple or Spotify.If you'd like to check out Matt's recent book Stories Sell or his original breakdown of the story telling process Storyworthy check out his website.His books are also available on Audible and AmazonBig hugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there.I hope you're well.This week I talk with writer and project consultant, Claire Emerson, about something that has radically improved the way I do things, and that is Personal Kanban.If you ever suffer with procrastination or are feeling even the slightest bit overloaded, Personal Kanban is a great place to start. Developed by Jim Benson, Personal Kanban is a tactile, visual task management system that helps you:* organise* prioritise* and track your work. It uses two main principles: visualising your work in an analogue setting, and limiting the amount of work you have on your metaphorical plate at any one time. I find that it really provides clarity, reduces stress, and increases efficiency. Especially if you are more inclined to the kinaesthetic or visual learning styles like me.So whether you're trying to optimise your work so you feel more in control, or whether you have a massive list of family tasks that need to be coordinated, I can't recommend it enough.I hope you enjoy this chat with Claire.If you're interested in accessing Claire's free course on how to get started with personal kanban (which is where I started) here's the link:https://peopleloveprojects.ck.page/kanban-challengeClaire is also the curator of Flourish newsletter and the creator of Implement My Course — a free 10-day email course on how to apply what you learn without procrastination poisoning your progress, which you can join (free) here. You can check out Claire's other work at:People Love ProjectsThat's about it for me this week.Take care of yourself.Big hugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

This episode I chat with Ultraman Hawaii Champion, Gordo Byrn, on:* Determining what living well as a family is* Teaching your kids the power of compounding and* How to stay fit and healthy into your later years.Gordo, has not only performed at an elite level of endurance athletics but also in the world of finance, and now for the last decade or so he has been applying that elite mindset to how to be a better parent so I really hope you enjoy and take a lot of inspiration from this conversation with Gordo.I strongly recommend that you check out Gordo's blog, True Wealth. It's been a font of parenting inspiration for me.You can also find details of how to play The Allowance Game with your own kids here.If you'd like to reach out to Gordo, you can find him on Twitter here. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there, This episode, author, and father, Scott H Young is back to help us get better at anything and help create environments to help our children do the same.His new book is a master class in accelerated, effective learning which helps you identify what you might be missing which has stalled learning in a particular area—and how to turn it around.Scott is such a living example of applying a growth mindset to parenting that I hope you take a lot out of this chat.Big HugRichI strongly recommend you check out Scott's book, ‘Get Better At Anything' as it's an amazing handbook for getting better at the things that matter to you. Here is a link to Scott's website as well. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there,Have you ever worried about your trousers falling down whilst giving a public talk?Well I have, and it turns out that worrying about something happening can actually be worse for us that the actual thing happening…we're such weird and wonderful creatures, aren't we?Anyway, where am I going with this? Ah, yes, ‘trauma and shame'. These two interrelated things can have such a powerful impact on how we show up in the world that I wanted to learn more about them.So this week I chat with Behavioural Scientist from Deakin University, Hannah Bereznicki, about those very topics.I really hope you enjoy this conversation with Hannah.Big hugRichPS here's the link to check out the free course on Trauma, Neurodiversity and Shame that Hannah mentions (remember to select the limited access 4-week version so you don't have to pay). Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

If I could show you how to:* Help your children think and act independently* Build better resilience in them, and* Improve your relationship with them.How much would that be worth to you?Well, I might not be able to do the above, but this week's podcast guest can.Ned Johnson (who co-authored the fantastic book, The Self-Driven Child, with William Stixrud) and I discuss what we as parents can do to achieve all of the above list. It's a fun conversation and has given me a new lens to view parenting through as well as some really actionable approaches.“I love you too much to fight with you about your homework but is there a way I can help”If you'd like to find out more about Ned and read his books visit his website here.You can also find Ned on Instagram here and here is a link to the viral TikTok post that he mentioned.On his website, Ned has listed out insights from the Self-Driven Child. Here are just a few:* Say “It's your call' whenever you can* Foster a sense of control in your child* Be a non-anxious presence in your family* Be a consultant* Encourage flow* Take the long viewI believe, and hope, this episode will really help your family build motivation, stress tolerance, and above all, a happy home.Big hugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hello, how are you doing?I hope you're well.I've got a treat for you this week. My friend Nick Parker, who I interviewed in episode #75, mentioned a reading retreat that he went on and suggested I interview the guy who set it up, because that person cares very deeply about fatherhood too.That guy, Rob Poynton, turned out to be the author of a book I'd read on improvisation, and is the person I talk with in this week's podcast.* We dive into how improvisation can help all aspects of your life, especially parenting* We discuss the need for pausing in today's hectic world* And we also explore how to have a good conversation.As well as many other things.I love Rob's approach to improv and as it turns out, parenting:* Notice more* Let go* Use EverythingI think this way of thinking has so much to offer and I'm going to lean into it more myself.I really hope you enjoy this conversation with Rob.Big hugRichIf you'd like to find out more about Rob, visit his website and check out his books.P.S. If you're wondering about the photo, Rob had just cleaned the chimney.Takeaways* Improvisation is a valuable skill in everyday life, particularly in parenting and organisational contexts.* Pausing and embracing uncertainty are essential for navigating change and responding effectively to unexpected situations.* Improvisation is about being present, paying attention, and using everything that comes your way.* Creating the conditions for collaboration and inclusivity is crucial in both parenting and organisational settings.* Shifting from seeking the 'right' way to embracing 'good' ways of doing things can lead to more creativity and flexibility. Allow conversations to flow naturally and don't be constrained by rigid time limits.* Be present in conversations and avoid wasting people's time.* Use practices from improv, such as being physically present and creating action, to improve conversations.* Embrace vulnerability in conversations and create space for yourself to nourish your well-being.* Prioritise quality conversations and recognise their impact on relationships and personal growth.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Background01:13 Book Release and Background04:09 The Importance of Pausing05:09 The Power of Improvisation in Everyday Life06:08 The Difference Between Improv and Stand-Up08:00 The Audience's Response to Improv09:31 The Application of Improv in Parenting10:25 The Messiness of Parenting and Organizational Life11:50 Creating the Conditions for Collaboration15:12 The Rules of Improv20:22 Slowing Down and Letting Go22:45 Shifting from the Right Way to Good Ways24:38 Being a Facilitator in Parenting27:04 Creating the Conditions for Conversations29:52 Using Objects as Conversation Tools35:37 Including Outlier Perspectives37:33 Setting Up Family Meetings40:21 Knowing When to End a Conversation41:15 The Importance of Allowing Conversations to Flow Naturally42:44 Leadership and Sensing When a Conversation is Done44:08 Creating Quality Time and Being Present in Conversations45:33 Practices from Improv for Better Conversations48:48 Using Physical Practices to Improve Conversations49:43 Action vs Activity in Conversations51:31 Interrupting Routines to Create Action in Conversations55:53 The Essence of Good Conversation59:43 The Importance of Vulnerability in Conversations01:07:07 The Reading Retreat and Creating Space for Yourself01:12:14 Setting Healthy Boundaries for Yourself01:19:25 Taking Time for Reflection and Prioritising What Matters Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

I'm curious…How do you talk to yourself? Would you be happy for someone to speak to your kids in the same way? Do you often find yourself speaking to the ones you love the worst?Self-talk has such a massive impact on your sense of wellbeing (and those around you) yet it's easy to overlook when it's not aligned with the type of parent or person we aspire to be.Family and child counsellor, Jacintha Field, shares the importance of healing, self-reflection, and taking responsibility for one's actions as well as the power of self-opinion and setting boundaries for self-care in this week's conversation. She highlights the significance of self-talk and the impact it has on our relationships, especially with our children. And if you ever struggle with ‘people pleasing' tendencies, Jacintha can set you straight.“The only opinion that matters is the one you have of yourself”If you'd like to find out more about Jacintha's work or get in touch with her, you can find her at: www.happysoulskids.comMain Takeaways* Teach children about self-awareness, standing in their power, and not taking on other people's opinions of them* Healing and self-reflection are essential for personal growth and becoming a better parent* Set boundaries and prioritise self-care to avoid burnout and be present for your children* Practice self-love and speak kindly to yourself, as it sets the standard for your relationships with others. Self-love and putting yourself first are essential for single moms to navigate the challenges of parenting* Supporting children through transitions requires patience, understanding, and being present for them* Effective communication in co-parenting can be helped with tools like Chat GPT to maintain kindness and clarity* Accepting change and growth in relationships is important, and it's essential to have boundaries and inner circles for support* Teaching children self-regulation techniques, such as breathwork, can help them manage their emotions.Chapters00:00 Teaching Children Self-Awareness01:03 Personal Growth Journey03:18 Taking Responsibility and Forgiveness05:02 Helping Kids and Starting a Business06:01 The Joy of Helping Kids08:22 The Power of Self-Opinion09:45 Setting Boundaries and Prioritising Self-Care11:12 Starting the Practice of Self-Love12:06 Being Honest with Yourself13:30 The Importance of Self-Talk15:20 Speaking Kindly to Ourselves and Others16:14 Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Integration19:40 Acknowledging and Supporting Children's Emotions22:03 Creating a Safe Space for Children23:27 Recognising the Impact of Daily Experiences on Children25:23 Open Communication and Compassion26:47 Avoiding Emotions and Procrastination27:45 The Importance of Self-Love and Putting Yourself First28:30 The Challenges and Growth of Being a Single Mum29:11 Supporting Children Through Transitions32:05 Co-Parenting and Communication34:49 Navigating Dietary Restrictions in Co-Parenting36:21 Using Chat GPT for Effective Communication40:21 Accepting Change and Growth in Relationships43:13 Navigating Relationships and Loss During Separation44:12 The Importance of Boundaries and Inner Circles48:48 Teaching Children Self-Regulation Techniques Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there,This week I want to talk about you. How are you really doing? I really want to know.I've been reflecting lately, and while I've shared a lot about my experiences, I realise I don't know much, if anything, about yours. I hope this podcast has been helpful to you in some small way, but I want it to do more.If you're open to it, I'd love for you to share something you're struggling with as a parent. Whether it's a challenge with your kids, balancing work and family, finances, relationships or anything else, I'm here to listen.Then, over the next few months we can dive deep into those topics. I'll track down experts in those fields with the specific goal of helping with your struggles.So please reach out to me through your preferred channel. Email, Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram.And tell me what you are struggling with the most as a parent.I look forward to hearing from you.Big hug.Rich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

What are your long term goals for your children?Are they to be:* Happy * Ethical* Caring* Compassionate* Independent* Self-reliant* Curious* Critical thinkersOr some variation on this theme?If that's the case, throw out the carrot and the stick because research shows that rewards and punishment don't work. Well what the heck am I going to do you might ask?This podcast episode (one of my favourites to revisit) with Alfie Kohn emphasises the importance of unconditional love in parenting, contrasting it with the common practice of using rewards and conditional affection to manipulate a child's behaviour. The more you use power on children to get them to do what you want, the less influence you'll probably have on their lives - Thomas GordonTraditional parenting advice often focuses on control and compliance rather than meeting children's true needs. However, research indicates that treating children with respect, understanding their perspectives, and empowering them to make decisions is a much better approach for raising happy, ethical, and independent critical thinking individuals.That's why Alfie advocates for loving our children unconditionally and considering our children's needs rather than demanding strict obedience.You can start by asking yourself the questions:* What does my child need right now?* How can I meet those needs?* What are my long-term goals for my child?* What are some ways to respond in situations rather than react?* How can I be an even better parent than my parents?Practice perspective taking Try to imagine how you would feel if somebody just said what you said to your child (or used the tone you just used) to you, then go one step further and imagine now how it feels from your child's perspective (because what might be ok with you, might impact them very differently because you are not the same person).Key takeaways:* Treat your kids respectfully* Do perspective taking* Ask a lot more questions than telling.Good luck!Big hugRichTo find out more about Alfie's work visit www.alfiekohn.org Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

This episode, educator, speaker, coach and author, Andy McNeilly, is back on the show to discuss his second book, ‘Connecting With Your Teens'.In this conversation, Andy discusses the importance of teaching executive skills to children. He emphasises the significance of building strong relationships and using stories to illustrate important lessons. Andy also shares the value of playing games and engaging in activities as a family. I love Andy's advice of just leaving a game or two lying around as a way of gearing the environment towards supporting the activities you want to encourage. I definitely want to build more of these positive prompts into my life.I hope you enjoy this chat with Andy McNeilly.Have a great week.Big hugRichRead Andy's new book: Connecting With Your TeensGet in touch with Andy through his website: andymcneilly.com.auSpriggy Debit CardOne of the things that's worked really well for us is that the kids each have pre-paid Spriggy debit cards to keep their pocket money on.Setting up an account in Australia usually costs $30 but use this link to receive $20 back when you first sign up (we also get a kickback to help fund the podcast).Instead of your kids borrowing your debit or credit card to pay for things, especially when buying things online or as cash is something that's hardly used now, try Spriggy.You can link directly to your bank account and even give grandparents access in case they want to give money to your kids as well. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

John Stewart, the visionary behind the Living School, shares his approach to redefining education and creating a school that fosters critical thinking, collaboration, and a sense of responsibility among students. The Living School's unique structure includes shorter terms, keystone themes, and three campuses which build in rites of passage. John emphasises the importance of trust, freedom, and agency in education, as well as embracing failure and leaning into passion. He encourages educators to integrate learning, break down subject barriers, and bring in experts for project-based learning.“The greatest problem we've got for the future is apathy” - John StewartJohn also discusses the challenges and resilience involved in starting a new school and offers advice for parents and educators.Takeaways* The Living School aims to redefine education by fostering critical thinking, collaboration, and a sense of responsibility among students.* The school's unique structure includes shorter terms to avoid burnout, keystone themes, and three campuses with rites of passage.* Trust, freedom, and agency are essential in education, as well as embracing failure and leaning into passion.* Integrating learning, breaking down subject barriers, and bringing in experts for project-based learning can really enhance the educational experience.Click here if you'd like to find out more about The Living School.You can also find The Living School on Instagram here.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Living School and Collaboration03:11 The Vision and Structure of Living School04:37 The Keystone Themes and Term Structure06:06 The Three Campuses and Rites of Passage08:31 The Purpose of Schooling and Community Engagement09:58 Takeaways from Living School's Approach13:51 Student Success Stories and Growth15:43 Comparison of Traditional Systems and Living School18:30 Teaching Freedom, Agency, and Trust20:28 Embracing Failure and Growth Mindset25:20 Creating Connections and Integrating Learning26:46 Breaking Down Subject Barriers28:43 Bringing in Experts and Project-Based Learning31:34 Challenges and Resilience38:48 Advice for Parents and EducatorsSpriggy CardsOne of the things that's worked really well for us (especially when travelling) is that the kids each have pre-paid Spriggy debit cards to keep their pocket money on.Setting up an account in Australia usually costs $30 but use this link to receive $20 back when you first sign up (we also get a kickback to help fund the podcast).Instead of your kids borrowing your debit or credit card to pay for things, especially when buying things online or as cash is something that's hardly used now, try Spriggy.You can link directly to your bank account and even give grandparents access in case they want to give money to your kids as well. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

In this week's episode Luke Faccini shares his less-than-optimal childhood experiences and how they've shaped him as a father. He discusses his journey of cleaning up his life and becoming a better person for his children. We get into Luke's spiritual awakening and how it has changed his approach to life but the real kicker is when we dive into the modality he uses to help change his limiting beliefs and overcome resistance, it certainly surprised me.Overall, Luke's story is one of personal growth, transformation, and the power of conscious living and I think you might take a lot out of it. I hope you really enjoy, this episode with Luke Faccini.Big hugRichIf you'd like to get in touch with Luke, you can visit his agency, The Sponge, here and find him on LinkedIn here.Takeaways* Beliefs play a significant role in personal growth and can either accelerate or inhibit progress.* Psych-K can be applied in your personal life to improve your relationships and address personal challenges.* Awareness is key to your personal development and allows for introspection and understanding of one's actions.* A relationship built on growth involves a willingness to be wrong and a commitment to exploring the stories beneath your triggers and evolving together.* Empowering children with tools for personal growth can better equip them navigating their emotions and creating change.* Creating change for a livable world requires individuals to work through their trauma and align their efforts in a purposeful direction.* Removing blockages and baggage is essential for showing up for family and inspiring others through personal growth.Spriggy CardsOne of the things that's worked really well for us (especially when travelling) is that the kids each have pre-paid Spriggy debit cards to keep their pocket money on.Setting up an account in Australia usually costs $30 but use this link to receive $20 back when you first sign up (we also get a kickback to help fund the podcast).Instead of your kids borrowing your debit or credit card to pay for things, especially when buying things online or as cash is something that's hardly used now, try Spriggy.You can link directly to your bank account and even give grandparents access in case they want to give money to your kids as well. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

If you are interested in embracing your internal authority and crafting a new you, this conversation will be right up your street. Jason Keeble shares his personal journey of overcoming childhood trauma and reconnecting with his biological family. He discusses the impact of limiting beliefs and the power of language in shaping our experiences, and by recognising and dissolving these beliefs, how we can create much more fulfilling lives.We explore the themes of primal drivers, overcoming resistance, expanding possibilities and redefining uncertainty.I hope you enjoy this conversation with Jason Keeble, I certainly did.Big HugRichKey Takeaways* Primal drivers of insecurity, inadequacy, and scarcity can control our lives if we let them.* Overcoming resistance and embracing the process of creation is key to achieving success.* Expanding our spectrum of possibility allows us to tap into greater potential.* Redefining uncertainty as familiar and exciting opens us up to new opportunities.* How we can create a ripple effect of positive change.* Embracing abundance is essential for personal growth and fulfilment.If you'd like to get in touch with Jason you can find his website at:www.purepotential.lifeSpriggy CardsOne of the things that's worked really well for us (especially when travelling) is that the kids each have pre-paid Spriggy debit cards to keep their pocket money on.Setting up an account in Australia usually costs $30 but use this link to receive $20 back when you first sign up (we also get a kickback to help fund the podcast).Instead of your kids borrowing your debit or credit card to pay for things, especially when buying things online or as cash is something that's hardly used now, try Spriggy.You can link directly to your bank account and even give grandparents access in case they want to give money to your kids as well. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

2023 was quite a year and re-listening to many of the episodes I have realised just how much gold I have forgotten. So I've pulled out some highlights for you as a bit of an aide memoire.* Senior maverick at Wired Magazine, Kevin Kelly, discusses things he wish he'd done more of with his kids.* Author and adventurer, Beau Miles on trusting yourself.* One of the things that we all going to have to contend with at sometime or other is death and grief and the chat I had with thanatologist, Cole Imperi was really helpful in preparing for how to discuss those difficult things with out kids in a way that is clear and supportive.* When it comes to being deliberate CEO of Bellroy, Andy Fallshaw, helped describe the importance of defining our values and updating our beliefs.* Considering 50% of the people we know and love experience periods it was insightful hearing about the menstrual cycle from author and musician, Lucy Peach.* Following on from this theme we chatted with Nutritionist and naturopath, Stacey Curcio about the changes that happen at the other end of the spectrum from puberty for women, perimenopause.* Last but not least we had educator, author, mother and parenting counsellor, Lael Stone imparting her wisdom around looking beneath the behaviour.2023 was also a year of travel for us and one of the things that worked really well when we were on the road was the kids each had Spriggy debit cards.So instead of them borrowing our debit cards to pay for things, especially as cash is something we hardly use ourselves now, they each have a card that has their pocket money pre-paid onto. All of which can be checked through an app on your phone. You can even give access to family and grandparents etc in case they want to give money to the kids as well.If you're in Australia and looking for a way to better manage how your kids deal with pocket money and spending I can't recommend Spriggy enough.If you'd like to give it a go it's usually $30 to get a card for each child but if you click this link you can get $20 back when you sign up.Big hugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Best-selling author, teacher and award-winning storyteller, Matthew Dicks, has a unique skill for turning everyday moments into captivating tales. In this episode you'll learn techniques to become a better storyteller, engage more with your kids, and slow down time (no, that's not a typo). Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Leadership coach and author, Jem Fuller, had to hit rock bottom before turning his life around so that he could be a better father. He's now on a mission to help and serve others so that they don't have to go through what he did.From crippling anxiety and abusive self-talk Jem rebuilt his life starting with the relationship he had with himself, and the way he spoke to himself. He reflects that the quality of the relationship we have with ourselves is essentially the quality of the relationship we have with the past and with our present.The beliefs or lenses through which we view our past and present make up how we experience reality. Luckily both of these things are in our power to change, we just have to do the work.We only can exist in community together. And community can only exist with our ability to communicate. The quality of your community is determined by the quality of the communication within it.I hope you enjoy this conversation with Jem.If you'd like to read Jem's book or get in touch with him you can find his website is here.Big HugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Do you know the difference between gluten intolerance and Coeliac disease? or how hard it can be to diagnose the latter? Also do you know how life impacting going undiagnosed can be, yet how prevalent Coeliac disease is in society? These are all questions I didn't know the answers to, so I chatted to Ben Hampton from ‘A Gluten Free Podcast' who's gone on an epic journey of discovery ever since being diagnosed with Coeliac disease himself.1-in-70 people are estimated to have Coeliac Disease in Australia, but around 80% of those go un-diagnosedIf you'd like to find out more about Coeliac disease and living gluten free you should check out Ben's 4-part children's special, ‘Children With Coeliac Disease Part 1: The Sooner We Can Catch It, The Better'If you'd like to get in touch with or follow Ben, you can find him on Instagram here: @a.gffamilyI you're keen to find some good gluten free recipes like the one Ben talked about, he recommends the book ‘Easy Gluten Free' by Helen Tzouganatos.Well that's about all from me for now. Hope you have a great week and as always enjoy your caffeinated beverage.Big hugRichPhoto credit: Jim Skouras Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

This week I chat with naturopath and nutritionist, Stacey Curcio, about a subject that most of us shy away from, and that's perimenopause.If you know someone who is about to go through perimenopause, or you are about to go through it yourself, Stacey has really helpful advice for re-framing how we think about the whole process.“I don't think you're losing your mind but your mind is changing”So much has been discovered in just the last 10 years, especially around the importance of appropriate nutrition and exercise during perimenopause.Up until this week I'm embarrassed to say that I'd never even heard of the ‘peri' prefix to ‘perimenopause'. Stacey blew my mind when she described the process of going through perimenopause as somewhat akin to going through puberty backwards…(I thought it was bad enough forwards).Some of my take aways are:* Just like going through puberty, there can be a lot of confusion going through perimenopause* The importance of good communication* There can be some serious health impacts if nutrition is not adequate* Strength-based training is essential* Some coping mechanisms that might have worked in the past may now exacerbate things (so booking a massage for your partner could be infinitely more helpful than offering her a glass of wine).It's a window of opportunity to re-evaluate your life load, how you're spending your time, and looking after yourself.To find out more about Stacey:Her website: www.cultivatingwellness.com.auBook an Appointment with Stacey: https://cultivatingwellness.com.au/book-an-appointment/Find her on Facebook: www.facebook.com/staceycurcioNDHere are some other resources for more info on perimenopause that Stacey recommends:* Australian Menopause Society* Lara Briden – podcast, blog, book (Hormone Repair Manual)* The Centre for Menstrual Cycle and Ovulation Research* Menstrual tracking Apps – Clue, Woman Log, fembleI hope you find it helpful.Big hugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

Hi there,I hope you're well.Now this episode is a bit of a special one. It's the 100th episode so I thought I'd do something a bit different. It's my dad's 80th birthday and I started writing him a letter the other day to try to express how grateful I was for some of the things I remember. Yet, I found the process really quite thought provoking, so I wanted to share it with you.Dear Dad,It's your birthday today and although we're not together, you always feel really close to me.I often recall our time spent together as I was growing up. I guess I thought it would last forever and it didn't occur to me at the time on that day as I left for uni that I was actually leaving home for good.I think words struggle to express the gratitude a child owes to his or her parent. However, I wanted to let you know that I have so many happy memories of growing up and am grateful for all that you have done for me and my sister.I remember you holding onto my bike as I was learning to ride in the park and then letting go at just the right moment when I could balance enough for those first few exhilarating metres of freedom. I also remember, probably a few months later, you racing down the steepest hill in town behind me when my brakes were failing and taking hold  of my handlebars to help me avert disasterThank you for fixing my punctured tyres, as well as all the other kids' punctures in the street.The way you toiled for hours one fathers day when other dads were relaxing, you helped build a massive cubby house on the old tree stump. Building a zip line that became centre stage for all us kids in the street to dance with danger, even if Mark I danced a little too closely to danger.You showed me how it's much more exciting to fire fireworks across the ground rather than up in the air.How not to burn out a wasps' nest with petrol.I was so impressed when you spent weeks converting an old Ford Transit ambulance into a campervan but it was when you and I went to pick up the old ambulance together that I enjoyed most.Love, I've heard it said is spelt by children ‘T-I-M-E' and it was the time that you and I spent together that I cherish the most.The time when you let me ‘help' you do jobs around the house and garden. I know now that you could have gotten those jobs done a lot quicker on your own but it meant so much to me to be by your side.The time that we'd spend on camping holidays, just walking to the camp shop for a bottle of milk and a newspaper.  Or just walking up from the beach to buy some frothy coffees to take back. Those quiet times may not have seemed like much to you, but they meant the world to me. I was spending time with my dad.Taking me to athletic meets or racing radio control cars every Tuesday night at the school hall.How you spent hours and probably a fortune in 10ps to win me a digital watch in the shuffling shelf coin drop slot machine.Even though you bought me my first car, it was our road-trip to Wales to look at buying a beat up combi that I remember the most. Especially when the rusty door slid off as I opened it. It needed more than a bit of welding. And now I am a father as well, I know it can't have been easy for you. The tension between balancing the need to work to put bread on the table with the desire to spend time with your family.I now try to imagine the trade-offs you had to make. It must have burned to see us head away on summer holidays while you had to stay home to work.You gave me the mindset that things can and should be fixed. You taught me to drive, and then how to shake things up in snow and mud.The Swiss Army knife you gave me is still one of my favourite possessions. The way is can fix almost anything reminds me of you.I've learnt so much from you, but most of all, how important it is to be a dad. Thanks for holding on, and for letting go.I see you dad, I'm proud of you and I love you. Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

We've been feeling a bit trapped in the System recently so have:* Rented out our house* Taken the kids out of school, and * Going to work and live on the road…in a caravan.Wanna join us?Have you ever felt like you're trapped in the system?Felt like you're not living true to your values?Have you ever felt like you'd like to be out and about, exploring? Yet, all you seem to do is chores at the weekend after a big week of work?Well, Sarah and I've been feeling like that for a while now.We've been feeling like we're just not living true to our values. When we got married we thought we'd go on adventures all the time.The last thirteen years of raising a family have been massively rewarding, and we have managed to go on some adventures, but not nearly as many as we'd like.So we've decided to shake things up a bit.We are currently trying a bit of an experiment. About a month ago Sarah and I decided to rent our house out, take the kids out of school and live of the road for a year.Now I have to admit we're in a very fortunate position to be able to do this, I have a job that I can do from anywhere, especially with the help of Elon Musk's Starlink system and Sarah is parking her forest kinder for a while.The short of it is:We're living in a caravan, driving from town to town up the East Coast of Australia and then who knows where.I work Mon-Friday while Sarah takes the kids on adventures, and I get to do some adventuring at the weekends in new locations. We're currently in Agnes Waters in Queensland and have actually escaped the Victorian winter which is pretty awesome.It's been a bit hectic, from making the decision, then putting our house up for rent, packing, clearing and cleaning the house from top to bottom and then blitzing the garden to then hitching up the caravan and setting off on the road took three weeks which has not left much time for podcasting, sorry about that.However, I've now got a whole new lens to view parenting through and test to destruction. So the podcasts are going change up a little over the coming weeks. Now the wheels could still fall off, both figuratively and literally, so I'm not entirely sure how long we're gonna make it. But we're going to give it a red hot go; Trip in a Van style.Now, we only set out last week and I've already got some great new material, like how not to drive through boom gates with bikes on the roof, or cook the water pump and battery in the caravan simultaneously. Needless to say I think there are going to be tears and hissy fits—and the kids might get a bit upset too. However, on the flip side, we're hoping there's also going to be some exploration, discovery, meeting of new people and adventure, lots of adventure.And I'd love to have you join us for the journey, so I'll be publishing updates as we go.In the meantime, hope you have a great week and enjoy your caffeinated beverage.Big HugRich This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.thedadmindset.com

Hormones are powerful, and understanding the four phases of the menstrual cycle will change your connection with the most important women in your life.Lucy Peach, author of the book, Period Queen, creator of the live stage show, My Greatest Period Ever, will take you on a journey into a world you never wanted to know anything about, but you'll be so glad you did.This was arguably the most uncomfortable conversation I've ever had, but one of the most important.Thank me later.Big hug.“It's about being really present and curious and open and just acknowledging that this is a part of who you are and there is nothing about you my daughter that is too big or too scary or too uncomfortable for me because I'm your dad and you can talk to me about any part of it. If you're feeling this here and you want to talk about it I'm your guy. If you're feeling this and you just want to let off some steam or go and chuck some rocks off a bridge, hit me up. What could it be like if you knew that your dad was available for all the parts of you and how the would that set you up for relationships and letting you know what you could expect down the track if you choose to have a relationship with a man.”- Lucy PeachIf you enjoyed this chat, you'll love Lucy's podcast series, Period Queen, and her book Period Queen: Life hack your cycle and own your power all month long.Connect with Lucy on her website and on Instagram @lucypeaches This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.thedadmindset.com

Did you know that chickens can purr? No…I didn't either.I also never knew that chickens had teeth, well, in a strange kind of avian way.If you've ever thought about getting some chickens (or chooks as they are known here in Australia) for your back garden, listen to this episode with Tove Danovich, journalist and author of the book, Under The Henfluence: Inside the World of Backyard Chickens and the People Who Love Them. Tove has an infectious enthusiasm for chickens, an enthusiasm that is closely matched by my daughter, and this special episode's co-host, Annika.Annie, has loved chickens for years and recently more and more families have been asking for our help in how to get started in keeping their own chickens, so we thought we'd put together an episode that will give you an overview of:* Things to consider before starting a flock of chickens* Things to consider before building a chicken coop* And things to wonder at because they are, quite simply, fascinating.Some of the key takeaways, chatting with Tove, for me are:* Chickens can live for up to 13 years, so if you are thinking of getting some pets be prepared to have them around for a while* Buying eggs at a supermarket wanting to select for optimal animal welfare is trickier than you might think* Chickens make for good pets in that, unlike cats and dogs, they don't really care when you are not around as long as someone feeds them and puts them out* Roosters don't have penises, (that's right, you read correctly) and that's why it's so damn hard to sex them at birth.Anyway, I hope you take as much from this chat with Tove as I did.Big hugRichIf you'd like to check out Tove's book you can find it wherever you can buy books.Also, if you've like to check out Tove's chicken Instagram account, which I highly recommend, it's @bestlittlehenhouseAnd Tove's website is here, if you'd like to get in touch with her.By the way, I also looked up the word husband (from ‘animal husbandry') and it seems that the verb to husband, meaning "to manage carefully," derives from an older meaning of husband or huseband, from Old English, hūsbōnda, from Old Norse, hūsbōndi (hūs, 'house' + bōndi, būandi, present participle of būa, 'to dwell', so, etymologically, 'a householder'). Husband in the 14th century referred to the ownership and care of a household or farm, but today means the "control or judicious use of resources.” Well, that was a mouthful. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.thedadmindset.com

This episode I chat with Kevin Kelly, Senior Maverick at Wired magazine, co-chair of The Long Now Foundation and founder of the Cool Tools website. Kevin is also the author of multiple best-selling books about the future of technology and is well known for his radical optimism.The key take-aways for me in this conversation were the importance of:* Setting up more family rituals and* Defining an identity or brand for your family.Kevin regrets not having set up more family rituals as they are so easy and free, yet so meaningful. Even if it's just locking in the ritual of cooking pancakes every Sunday morning, It forms an anchor, it's dependable and children crave that kind of security.The importance of defining an identity or brand for the family is not to lock the children into something but to give them a sense of foundation or ‘coming from' somewhere. This in turn then helps them define their own identity as they evolve and grow up.Kevin is such a generous font of wisdom and his new book ‘Excellent Advice for Living - Wisdom I Wish I'd Known Earlier' has a staggering amount of philosophical and practical advice in it.Pound for pound I reckon this book has more nuggets of gold than any other book on the market at the moment. I must have highlighted every second or third passage as I read it.Now you may feel this is just another self-help book, but it is not. It is more of a reminder to self, or tactical aide memoire, to do the things that will genuinely help you live a better life. Kevin wrote out the original list of advice, that formed this book, to pass on life lessons to his children. The list then kept getting passed onto more and more people, so in the end he made it into a book—for you and me.To find out more about Kevin visit kk.orgSome of the books and authors Kevin mentioned that changed his life are:* Annie Dillard's ‘Pilgrim at Tinker Creek'* Henry David Thoreau's ‘Walden'* The poet Rumi.He also mentioned the company Nuralink.Portrait photography by Christopher Michel This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.thedadmindset.com

Pour yourself a cup of coffee, pull up a seat and enjoy…this episode's a real goodie!This episode I had the pleasure of Talking with educator, author, mother and parenting counsellor, Lael Stone, who has been working with families for over 20 years. She is also the co-creator of Woodline Primary School, an innovative new school based on emotional wellbeing and connection. Her TED talk on how to raise emotionally intelligent children, has been watched over 1.6 million times and what she is doing for parents all over the world is, quite frankly, remarkable.Big HugRichTo find out more about Lael and her parenting courses visit her website:www.laelstone.com.auAlso, make sure to check out Lael's book, Raising Resilient & Compassionate Children. It's a fantastic resource. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.thedadmindset.com

In 2018 Michael Judd and his wife Trish went through an experience that every parent dreads, having a child diagnosed with cancer. In this episode, Michael describes how having lost his daughter to medulloblastoma he almost lost everything else. It's an extraordinary tale of transformation and one with a silver lining. Not only has this experience been the catalyst for starting an incredible wellbeing movement supporting many men to thrive and grow but there is also a beautiful next chapter.Some of the things I took from this are:* The importance of reaching out to people to just tell them you love them—you never know, it might save someone's life* Being there for the long haul when people are battling ordeals as a family* The power of service to others and how it helps you as well* Service as a starting place for finding meaningThe wellbeing group Juddy set up is call DIIGG (Doing Imperfect Inner Growth in Groups) and you can find it on Instagram here.If you'd like to reach out to Michael his email is info@diiggwellbeing.com.auLastly, if you are in Torquay on Sunday 30th April (i.e. today) and would like to get along to their next event it is going to be held at Ocean Grind at 6pm.Big hugRich This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.thedadmindset.com

This is an episode from the archives that I wanted to re-share with you because it's been two years since it's guest, Dick Hoyt, sadly died. Whenever I think that the odds are stacked against me or something seems impossible, I try to remind myself what Dick Hoyt and his family did to defy the system and overcome seemingly insurmountable odds to give his disabled son a better life and in the process inspire the world.Dick and his son Rick, competed in over a thousand races, including Ironman competitions and even running across the United States in 45 days. The only catch is that Dick's son, Rick was diagnosed at birth as a spastic quadriplegic with cerebral palsy which meant that he couldn't walk or talk, let alone run, swim or cycle. In a triathlon Dick would pull Rick in a boat with a bungee cord attached to a vest around his waist and to the front of the boat for the swimming stage. For the bike stage, Rick would sit in a custom made bucket seat in front of the handlebars and then Dick would push Rick in a custom made wheelchair buggy for the running stage. In the early days, Dick and his wife Judy fought to integrate Rick into the public school system rather than putting him in an institution. They pushed administrators at every life stage to see beyond Rick's physical limitations and have been such an inspiration in not giving up and always saying, yes, you can.I think my key take-aways are:* The biggest limitations in life are the ones you impose on yourself* There is nearly always another way, you just haven't thought of it yet* You don't have to be the fastest or best in the world at something to be inspirational.After the interview I realised that I forgot to ask Dick what his diet was like because he used put in some serious training and was super fit for an 80 year old.Due to Dick's hereditary high cholesterol problem, he used to watch what he ate and he tried to eat healthy at all times. So his diet was basically the same everyday.For breakfastGreek yogurt with walnuts and blueberries mixed in. Also a banana and an orange and a glass of 100% cranberry/apple juice.At lunch He would do a grilled chicken sandwich or a salad with grilled chicken or tuna fish and oil and vinegar.Dinner Chicken breast or grilled salmon. Baked sweet potato or brown rice and steamed veggies with either corn on the cob or green beans or broccoli.Alternatively he would eat pasta with some chicken and fresh red peppers, mushrooms and garlic in a red sauce with a green salad.After dinner snackSome unbuttered popcorn or crackers.Pretty amazing really…I hope you find this chat with Dick Hoyt as inspirational as I did.Big HugRichPS If you'd like to find out more about Team Hoyt visit: www.teamhoyt.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.thedadmindset.com

This episode we have digital wellbeing expert Dr Kristy Goodwin back on the show to discuss the research-based micro-habits that you can develop to claim back your time, attention and arguably your health.One of the subjects we get into is burnout, something very close to my heart that I've personally struggled with, and I think this work that Dr Kristy is doing is a crucial piece of the puzzle for navigating times that are seemingly indexed towards burning us out if we're not careful.Whilst the pandemic has been somewhat of a forced recalibration on our priorities and values in a good way, there is a bit of a digital hangover that we've carried into our returning to normal lives that we have yet to adjust to. As humans, we are designed to deal with stress, just in short intense bursts and then we need to re-settle and recoup. What our current digital environment is seeming to do is keep us wired constantly and that is not good for our health or wellbeing.Dr Kristy's research indicates in Australia that a staggering 62% of employees are self-reporting as burnt out, as well as 68% of managers. Dr Kristy terms it being OUSTED: (Overwhelmed, Under the pump, Stressed, Time poor, Exhausted and Distracted).Dr Kristy talks to four pillars of the digital age that we need to master.* Establish digital borders and boundaries (set guardrails for our digital device use)* Start to work in alignment with how our brain and body is designed (incorporating rest away from alerts is critical)* Manage our digital distractions (maximise your browser window when you want to concentrate on something)* Digital disconnection (unplugging from devices at certain times).One of the things I've found really useful is bundling WhatsApp notifications. With WhatsApp I used to get distracted by alerts all the time. Once I set a particular time of day to receive those messages, I could process them all at once, or at least stay up to date without being constantly interrupted.Dr Kristy's book Dear Digital, We need to talk…If you'd like to find out more about Dr Kristy, her website is here, her Linkedin profile is here and her Instagram account is here.Big HugRich This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.thedadmindset.com

This episode I chat with Cole Imperi. Cole is an author, speaker, founder of the School of American Thanatology and one of America's leading experts on death, dying and grief.I've wanted to talk with Cole ever since hearing her on Alie Ward's podcast, Ologies (which you should check out because it's awesome). Cole has dedicated her life to helping people navigate some of the hardest times that we all inevitably will have to grapple with. Some of the key take aways for me for dealing with death, dying, grief and loss were:* Use the proper words for things and explain them with complete and accurate information. Don't be vague and say things like: “Granpa got sick” when he dies because what are the kids going to think next time they get sick?* Kids pick up what bad words are (painfully true in my case) so if we drop our voice when we talk about death, the kids are alerted. Try not to talk about this very normal thing called ‘death' like it's something that shouldn't be talked about.* Grief is not an emotion, grief is a response to loss. Troubles can arise when different family members respond to loss in different ways so try to be aware of that and don't judge.There are six categories of signs that you are in the grief response:* Physical* Social* Spiritual* Behavioural* Cognitive* EmotionalOne that I totally had never thought of was number 5. Cognitive, and Cole shares a great story that explains this.And yes, it's completely natural to want to burst out laughing at seemingly the most inappropriate time during a funeral…Phew, I thought that was just me.The clear message that comes through though is:Navigating loss is an opportunity for a family to become stronger, or any of our relationships to become stronger. It's through the difficult parts of life that the most glue is built between us. It's what bonds us together, it's what instantly connects us, but it feels really uncomfortable.Cole's suggestion around how to approach another person's grief was really interesting too, she suggests approaching it with curiosity and asking lots of questions. Grief is something that just needs to be witnessed, just needs to be seen, just needs to be held, and that's it.The english language doesn't have enough words to use when dealing with death and dying, and a lot of the words used to describe grief are borrowed from clinical settings and that can sometimes be the reason that we don't feel right talking about it.Cole is dedicated to helping develop more people-friendly ways for us to describe death, dying, grief and loss and I think it's such an important skill to develop. If you'd like to find out more or subscribe to Cole's newsletter, you can find her at www.coleimperi.com or on Instagram @imperi.Some of the things Cole suggested googling are:* Terror Management Theory* The Ernest Becker Foundation* Death anxiety reduction techniquesIf you are currently experiencing grief, or having to navigate a death, or someone dying in the family my heart goes out to you and I hope you find listening to Cole as helpful as I did.Big HugRich This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.thedadmindset.com