Trauma Hiders Club Podcast

THC 133 - Firewalking with Dave AlbinOn this episode of Trauma Hiders Club my guest is Dave Albin, an expert in personal development and corporate team building, shares his unique experiences and insights. His expertise has been sought after by renowned companies and organizations like Google, NASA, and Tony Robbins, who have all experienced the impact of his team-building activities.On this episode of Trauma Hiders Club, Dave shares the power of creating a strong and cohesive team within an organization and the transformative effects it can have on employees.You'll hear about Dave's journey of turning a struggling workplace into a thriving environment. Guess what? When people genuinely care about each other they are more likely to work together to overcome obstacles!We discuss the significance of experiential learning and why it surpasses traditional classroom training. And Dave shares stories of the transformative power of firewalking and night swimming with sharks. And true to the Trauma Hiders Club, you'll hear of the emotional struggles Dave faced along his journey."A firewalk can be one of the most profound experiences any human or group of humans can go through it." — Dave AlbinThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club•  Uncovering the hidden trauma that shapes us.• The power of forgiveness and letting go.• From struggle to success: Finding purpose.• Breaking free from fear to achieve goals.• The transformative potential of experiential learning.• Building a strong and united team culture.• Overcoming personal obstacles for collective growth.• Embracing our true selves from childhood to now.• Creating extraordinary experiences that change lives.Resources:www.firewalkadventures.comDave Albin on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dave-albin/Dave Albin on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/firewalkadventuresDave Albin on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/firebuilder2/Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

THC 132 - The Power of Imagination Healing with Melanie GoodwinOn this episode of Trauma Hiders Club my guest is Melanie Goodwin.Melanie believes firmly that trauma can be resolved. Melanie's life has had 3 parts: Stuck & Clueless, Trauma Recovery, and (finally), a Producing Artist. These days Melanie is a singer-songwriter, composer and Amazon Best-Selling author. On this episode of Trauma Hiders Club, we talk trauma, neuroscience, and imagination-based healing. Melanie speaks about the differences between the male and female brain and shares personal experiences of perceiving things before they are proven, an ability to switch from the left to the right side of the brain and engaging in intuitive thinking as a child.You'll hear about the importance of trauma-informed treatments, such as drama therapy and alternative modalities mentioned in Bessel van der Kolk's book, "The Body Keeps the Score." The conversation touches on language, imagination, and the power of choosing the meaning we give to events."All of language is symbolic. Where a sound can mean a thing." — Melanie GoodwinThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club•  Embracing whole brain movement.•  The power of “trans logical” thinking.• Alternative trauma treatments.• The poetic imagination to find meaning.• The meaning you assign to events.• Imagination-based healing techniques.• The power of imagination for healing.• Fostering a state of flow.Resources:https://melaniegoodwinstudios.com/Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

THC 131 - Healing Religious Trauma with Christina CarlsonOn this episode of Trauma Hiders Club my guest is Christina Carlson, a Self-Relationship Coach, who embarked on a transformative journey seven years ago. Raised in a strict Evangelical Christian environment, her upbringing left no room for self-acceptance. After spending years believing she was broken, Christina yearned for something more. She began questioning the beliefs that had kept her quiet and compliant, delving into the depths of uncertainty. In this process, she discovered her knack for holding space for the undecided, a skill that naturally led her to coaching.This Week on Trauma Hiders ClubOn this episode you'll hear Christina share her journey of healing and self-discovery through coaching and reconnecting with her body. She discusses the challenges she faced in letting go of certain beliefs, particularly the concept of ‘hell', stemming from her religious upbringing. Christina emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for exploring faith and self-care. The conversation also touches on the damaging effects of religious dogma within communities and the struggle to navigate personal paths separate from societal expectations. Christina offers practical tips for practicing self-connection, such as meditation, ritual, and physical movement. Christina highlights the importance of patience and autonomy in relationships. She also endorses laughter and fun!"Your children are seen as arrows in your quiver to shoot out forward for the lord. It's a huge disappointment for parents to have their children walk away from something they gave everything to keep to."— Christina CarlsonListen for:• Healing• Faith• Boundaries• Community• Self-connection• Decision-making• Autonomy• Interdependence• Somatic practices• Fun and connectionResources:Christina Carlson's website: https://www.christinamcarlson.com/Christina Carlson on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@christinaclifecoachingChristina Carlson on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinacarlsonlifecoach/Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE 

THC130 - Speaking Out to Break the Cycle of Trauma with Robin Cote (REPLAY THC117)Robin Cotè is a multi-talented individual with a diverse background in media. From a young age, she immersed herself in film, radio, television, and the music industry. Despite enduring significant personal losses and facing various forms of abuse, Robin emerged as a survivor and an advocate for victims.As a radio and show business personality, author, transformational coach, and motivational speaker, she brings a no-nonsense attitude to her work. Through her personal journey documented in her book, "Victim No More!", Robin empowers others to embrace self-worth, accountability, and a better life. With her infectious smile and unfiltered honesty, she is a respected member of the independent film and music community, a dedicated mother, and a living kidney donor. Robin's impact extends beyond her own experiences, as she shares her wisdom and truth on her podcast, Get Real with Robin.In this powerful episode, Robin joins me as we discuss Empowerment through self-expression and speaking out.We also discuss how others who have experienced trauma support a healing journey and break through the patterns of pain and victimhood.“The ability to be able to be so honest and raw about things, has not only helped me heal, but it's a beautiful gift to be able to share that with other people” - Robin CoteThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club• Overcoming childhood trauma and redefining your life story on your terms.• The importance of self-love and self-care in nurturing personal well-being and unstoppable resilience.• The most entrenched cycles of trauma.• Cultivating lasting change and growth.• Self-expression as a therapeutic tool for transforming pain into healing and personal power.• Setting boundaries, closing the door on toxic relationships, and welcoming a more peaceful, vibrant life.Resources:Robin Cote - WebsiteRobin Cote - PodcastRobin on LinkedInRobin on InstaRobin on TwitterRobin on FacebookRobin on amazon.comWhere High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE 

THC 129 - From Darkness to Light with Jessie Torres On this episode of Trauma Hiders Club my guest is Jessie Torres. Jessie has overcome child abuse, the murder of a brother, and a soul-crushing marriage. As a fearless advocate for personal growth, she guides clients to conquer fear and take courageous small steps toward their dream lives. Jessie's journey, filled with profound challenges and collaborations with thought leaders like Tony Robbins and the HeartMath Institute, fuels her belief that human potential knows no bounds. Her mission-driven coaching, informed by thousands of hours of experience, unlocks clients' inner superheroes. Jessie champions grace and grit, empowering others to heal emotional blocks and create purposeful lives.On this episode of Trauma Hiders Club, Jessie reflects on her evolving perspective towards trauma. She discusses the confusion she experienced towards expressing love in her childhood and how when her emotions were dismissed, her nervous system was impacted. Jessie opens up about a traumatic incident in her marriage, which initiated her personal journey of self-discovery and understanding human behavior. She used books and workshops to educate herself, and sought out therapy, eventually moving to becoming a certified coach. Jessie also delves into spiritual practices, emphasizing the power of forgiveness and her connection to her spiritual self. She discusses multiple tragedies in her life and her ongoing journey of finding meaning in suffering. In her quest to serve, she highlights the importance of finding light in darkness, showing compassion, and alchemizing trauma into something beautiful."For me, it's more of ‘boots on the ground', meaning not just writing a big check to a nonprofit, where we don't know if the child is actually getting the money."— Jessie TorresThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club• Connection• Compassion• Evolution• Childhood• Love• Identity• Resilience• Creativity• CollaborationResources:Jessie Torres website: https://unshakeablelife.com/Jessie's Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/PaintoPassionandPurposeJessie on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessietorres/Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE 

THC 128 - Breaking Free from Negative Influences with Birgitta Visser On this episode of Trauma Hiders Club my guest is Birgitta Visser a Soul Empowerment Coach and Light Configurator. Birgitta's life path has been an extraordinary and diverse one. She has traveled the world, immersing herself in different cultures and pursuing a wide array of occupations, ranging from modelling and website design to bartending and corporate work. She's also been a healer, teacher, oracle card reader, jewellery designer, and creator of organic soaps and candles.Despite encountering turbulence and trauma along her path, Birgitta has learned to embrace her unique qualities and overcome adversity.On this episode of Trauma Hiders Club, Brigitta shares her journey towards healing from childhood trauma and brings insights on cutting out negative influences and prioritizing self-love and joy. We discuss love, forgiveness, pain projection and pursuing a fulfilling life.As Brigitta shares her story, you'll learn about the bullying she endured in high school and about the loss of her father. Brigitta celebrated the publication of her book in September 2022, which has garnered much success. You'll also hear about Brigitta's personal experiences with therapists, both negative and positive and the transformative power of deep trauma therapy, and how it incorporates techniques available to all of us, but often unknown or misunderstood."Every time something traumatic happens, it's an opportunity to reevaluate ourselves."— Birgitta VisserThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club• Bullying• Self-love and forgiveness• Women's empowerment• Therapy• Overcoming fear• Reflection on the loss of a loved one• Finding fulfillment• Self-awarenessResources:Brigitta's website: https://www.powersoulhealing.com/Brigitta's Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/186430355979894Brigitta on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/universallightwarriors/Brigitta on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHrjXt3goKbsWVXNv9kq5TgWhere High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE 

THC 127 - A Musical Path to Forgiveness with Tina DavidsonOn this episode of Trauma Hiders Club my guest is Tina Davidson, who is a highly regarded American composer, creates music that stands out for its emotional depth and lyrical dignity. Lauded for her authentic voice, The New York Times has praised her “vivid ear for harmony and colors.” Opera News describes Tina Davidson's music as, “transfigured beauty,” and the Philadelphia Inquirer writes that she writes “real music, with structure, mood, novelty and harmonic sophistication – with haunting melodies that grow out of complex, repetitive rhythms." Her book, Let Your Heart Be Broken, was published in 2023. Her memoir traces her extraordinary life in equally lyrical language, juxtaposing memories, journal entries, notes on compositions in progress, and insights into the life of an artist – and a mother – at work.  Over her forty-five year career, Davidson has been commissioned by well-known ensembles such as National Symphony Orchestra, OperaDelaware, Roanoke Symphony, VocalEssence, Kronos Quartet, Cassatt Quartet, and public television (WHYY-TV). Her music has been widely performed by many orchestras and ensembles, including The Philadelphia Orchestra, American Composers Orchestra, St. Paul Chamber Orchestra, Relâche Ensemble, and Orchestra 2001. She is recorded on Albany Records, New World Records, and Deutsche Grammophone.On this episode of Trauma Hiders Club, we talk about forgiveness, reparenting, and the extraordinary power of music to soothe the soul as Tina shares her powerful story.From discovering her adoption at a tender age, the profound effects it had on her sense of identity and belonging and how music changed and became a part of her identity and life.You'll hear about the secrecy she shrouded her adoption in and the eventual emotional upheaval of leaving their foster family. Tina's experiences shed light on the complex dynamics of family and attachment. With an artistic career as a backdrop, Tina has confronted her trauma, and is firmly on the path towards healing and self-discovery.“From a very early age, I don't want to say music was my alter ego, but it was a place that I could be safe.” Tina DavidsonThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club:• Gilbert and Sullivan• Melodies• Adoption• Growth over dysfunction• Forgiveness• Reparenting• Teaching• Story through music Resources:Tina Davidson's Website: https://www.tinadavidson.com/Tina on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tina.davidson.5205/Tina on IG: https://www.instagram.com/tinadavidson.music/Tina on YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrDxwJr9x_EvCiCT8LHt2wQTina Davidson's memoir, Let Your Heart Be Broken, Life and Music from a Classical Composer on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Let-Your-Heart-Broken-Classical/dp/1633376974Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

THC126 - Unexpected Gut PunchToday I share something that completely gutted me. It came from nowhere.I can't be sure if I came across it because some divine presence wanted me to learn something. But it affected me.There is no call to action, no advice, nothing that you need to do, no judgment regarding what you should want to do…All I offer is an invitation to consider life: Brian's life and your own.That's all. Simple and difficult.Brian ELDRIDGE Obituary“May 1947 - July 2023 Brian was a quiet shy boy and man. He was bullied as a child and teenager because of his shyness and vulnerability. As an adult he didn't fit in. He never learned to use a computer or a cell phone, which kept him from applying for most jobs. He worked and supported himself through paper routes, aluminum can recycling and janitorial work. He was exploited by employers. His last job, was cleaning a bingo hall at midnight for $10 per hour 7 nights a week 364 days a year with just less than the minimum weekly hours to have any rights or benefits. His employer fired him on Christmas Eve with no notice. He had worked there for over 15 years. He had no friends or family who kept up with him. He was quiet, smart, generous and lonely. When found in his apartment he had been dead at least 4 days. I'll miss him”.“The only invitation I offer is to consider life”— Karen Goldfinger BakerThanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

THC 125 - Exploring PTSD and Healing with Erik DaRosaOn this episode of Trauma Hiders Club my guest is Erik DaRosa. Erik, known by friends as “Yoda,” is the Founder and CEO of From Survivor to Thriver, a mental health advocate, speaker, author and Co-host of the popular From Survivor to Thriver podcast. Through his work and his own experience, Erik is upending the front-end of the mental health space and building a bridge between those who seek resources and those who provide both help and hope. Each week on his podcast, he tackles different mental health topics through honest and relatable "kitchen table" conversations with real people who are helping to shatter mental health stigmas and find their voices. He aims to normalize discussions around mental health topics and remind his audience they are not alone, there is strength in community and "it's perfectly ok to not always be ok.” He lives in Snowmass Village, Colorado.On this episode of Trauma Hiders Club, Erik reflects on his own life and the many hidden aspects he concealed for a significant period of time. He shares his incredible journey of healing and self-discovery and opens up about his recent PTSD diagnosis. He discusses how it has changed his life in unexpected ways.We discuss the importance of destigmatizing mental illness and the power of a supportive community. You'll find out about the transformative trip to New York City to and experience with OCD. Erik's story is one of resilience, growth, and the pursuit of mental well-being.“I thought I was broken. I thought I was fucked up. I thought I... I used to look around at all my friends, and I would think what's wrong with me? Everybody else is normal, and I've got these thoughts in my head that if anybody even found out about, they would call the police, I'd be locked up.” — Erik DaRosaThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club:• Recognizing energy vampires and surround yourself with givers.• Destigmatizing mental illness and build a supportive community.• PTSD diagnosis bringing relief and hope.•  Speaking up about mental health.•  New York City: a place of healing and growth.•  Combinng Western and Eastern medicine for holistic healing.•  Releasing trauma through reiki and body awareness.•  Finding healing through personal passions and activities.•  Normalizing conversations about mental health for progress.Resources:Listen to Erik's Podcast ‘From Survivor to Thriver' HERERead Erik's article in SkiMag.com ‘How Skiing Saved My Life' HEREConnect with Erik on LinkedIn HEREThanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

On the eve of my 60th birthday, I invite you to my birthday party episode on Trauma Hiders Club.So today I share 60 life lessons gathered through a journey of ups and downs.From finding the power in pain to the power of kindness. The wisdom in saying "no," to the magic of rest and the beauty of authenticity.I've come to learn that everything from birth and even grief leads to growth. It has been a profound realization to discover we are all worthy.Every trauma hider can enjoy the liberation of shedding generational baggage. Somy birthday gift to you, and share in the importance of laughter and clean sheets.“Powerful doesn't show up as the loudest voice in the room”— Karen Goldfinger BakerThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club •         Discover how kindness is the foundation.•         Learn why saying "no" creates space for "yes."•         Realize the power of insight coupled with action.•         Explore the beauty in the quiet spaces of life.•         Understand that love and growth emerge from grief.Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

On this episode of Trauma Hiders Club, Actor and entertainer, Percy Brown.Hailing from New York City, he is known for his unstoppable talent and magnetic charisma. He began honing his intellect and strategy in chess at the age of 7 and found his passion for acting at 14. Percy attended the Urban Assembly School for the Performing Arts, where he was nurtured by the renowned Epic Theatre Company. He went on to major in Theatre at St. Bonaventure University, earning a BA in Fine Arts/Theatre in 2018. Percy's dedication and talent have propelled him to launch The Prince of Fresh Air Podcast in 2020, which has rapidly gained a global audience.Listen in and you'll learn how reading novels allowed him to tap into a different universe and spark creativity. Percy shares insights into his passion for acting and the complexities of this art form, striving for realism and emotional attachment to characters.Percy shares his personal experiences in foster care, explaining the emotional and physical trauma he endured.You'll hear about the strained relationship with his real family, the challenges of finding his self-identity, and how he has arrived to a place of acceptance.“I think doing Shakespeare challenged me as an actor because it wasn't as easy as just playing a boy next door. It wasn't it was a lot more simple, a lot more context, and a lot of dialogue.”— Percy BrownThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club•  The versatility of ‘Dead Ass'•  Understanding the importance of time as you age.•  Voice induction class in college taught the power of inflection.•  Acting is a skilled and complex art.•  How Shakespeare helps.•  Gang activity, law and order shootings, celebrities.•  Strict foster care, lack skills, severe discipline•  Escaping reality through books and chess.•  Finally enjoying vacation and advancing acting career.•  Dedicated to acting, prioritizing enjoyment of life.•  Using your voice.Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your SuccessVISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

This week I reflect on my high school reunion. From the predictable anxiety of wondering what to wear to the questions. Who I should speak with? Who I should avoid? Frankly, I experienced an entire gamut of clichéd feelings you might expect.But I didn't expect was how different it would be to all the others.There was something missing from other school reunions I'd been to before. And it was so much better because of it.Rather than the status games of virtue and dominance being played out all over the place, there seemed to be a profound sense of happiness and gratitude in a room. My old class mates had become people who'd lived, loved and lost and it was great to be with them.“What really struck me is the generosity, the kindness and the softening that happens to people over time.”— Karen Goldfinger BakerThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club •  Reunion wardrobe•  Grief and healing•  Reflection•  Personal growth•  Reunion and connection•  Generosity and kindness over time•  Vulnerability and self-acceptance•  Change and perspective•  HomeWhere High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

Jacob Nordby is an acclaimed author known for his transformative and inspiring works. He is the creative mind behind "The Divine Arsonist: A Tale of Awakening" and "Blessed Are the Weird – A Manifesto for Creatives," with his quotes spreading worldwide. Through his Creative UnBootcamp course and group retreats, he guides students on their creative journeys. With a rich history in entrepreneurship, Jacob has founded and built several successful ventures, gaining expertise in sales, marketing, and business strategy. With a decade of experience in writing and publishing, his third book, "The Creative Cure,” released in 2020 with a foreword by Julia Cameron. He has also been a contributing writer and editor for publications like The Good Men Project and Elephant Journal. As a sought-after teacher and speaker, he empowers thousands through his Creative UnBootcamp course and co-produces events like "The Gathering of the Shamans" and "The Gathering of the Creatives." Jacob's passion lies in fostering creativity and transformation in the lives of others, making a profound impact through his words and teachings.On this episode of Trauma Hiders Club, Jacob joins me today to discuss his book, "Blessed Are The Weird" We speak about the rewards of embracing intensity and finding beauty in unconventional qualities. Jacob shares his journey of canceling a publishing deal to ensure his book was an authentic reflection of his experiences and explore the power of storytelling in healing, the importance of integration, and the struggles of feeling like an outsider. Jacob also offers creative guidance, suggests daily writing practices, and highlights the transformative connection between healing and creativity. A thought-provoking episode to celebrates the beauty in being weird.“We have to walk back through that graveyard at some level, and that by itself is the reason that so many people can't or won't do it. And it's not that they're weak. It's not that they're stupid. It's that the body literally says, fuck. No. We're not going there again.”— Jacob NordbyThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club•      Celebrating unconventional individuals.•      The struggle of writing.•      Childhood experiences of constant moving and the power of telling one's story for healing.•      Finding one's place.•      Use of Japanese art of repairing vessel in writing prompts.•      Revisiting traumatic experiences.Creative guidance and coaching.•      The connection between healing and creativity.•      The use of daily writing practice and taking time to heal the imagination.Resources:https://www.jacobnordby.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacobnordby/http://instituteforcreativeliving.org/Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

This week I give you a behind the scenes of their challenging work on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast. I've come to believe that the work of dealing with trauma is never-ending, but despite this, I have a deep sense of fulfilment and completion.While I once hoped that doing my own work would help me leave all my problems behind, I've come to understand that everyone is ultimately complete and whole.Recording this podcast does sometimes really overwhelms me and occasionally causes me to revert back to my childhood self.But these days I have the tools and resources to handle triggers. And in this episode you'll hear about how I manage and prioritize well-being to break the cycle. “I am whole. And you are too”— Karen Goldfinger BakerThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club •  Challenging work and never-ending journey.•  Fulfillment and completion despite challenges.•  Belief in everyone's inherent wholeness.•  Desire for therapy to find resolution.•  Exhaustion and breaking point.•  Tools and resources for coping.•  Mindfulness in time and relationships.•  Intensity of emotions during difficult times.Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download:Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

Dr Debi Silber is a renowned expert in dealing with betrayal. Led to this path due to her own experiences of being betrayed by both her family and her husband. She realized that she needed to take her needs seriously and set boundaries to prevent further betrayals. This realization led her to pursue a PhD in transpersonal psychology to help others dealing with betrayal. She is a speaker, coach, and author of several books on the subject, and uses her own experiences to help others heal and move forward in their lives.On this episode of Trauma Hiders Club, Dr. Debi Silber joins me to discuss the five stages of healing from post betrayal syndrome. We dive into statistics on the physical and mental symptoms experienced by those who have been betrayed, emphasizing the importance of healing from this trauma. Dr. Silber shares her personal experience of betrayal and discovering the unique healing process required for this type of trauma. She also discusses the stages of recovery and the importance of not getting stuck in stage three. You'll learn about the quiz offered on their website to identify the extent of post betrayal syndrome and the PBT Institute's transformative programs. On this episode, you'll get helpful insights, guidance, and practical tips for healing and reclaiming one's life after betrayal.“The Reality of Post Betrayal Syndrome: We know we can't count on time.”— Dr Debi SilberThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club• Betrayals that led Dr Silber to study transpersonal psychology.• Father's circus promise broken, clown's betrayal.• Betrayal's lasting impact: Post Betrayal Syndrome• 5 stages: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, survival.• 5 stages of healing and transformation.• Willingness to let go of the past.• Quizzes, programs to overcome betrayal.• Empathy for betrayal, supportive empire building.Resources:The PBT InstituteDr Debi Silber's PodcastDr Debi Silber on LinkedInDr Debi Silber on InstagramDr Debi Silber FacebookDr Debi Silber on YouTubeDr Debi Silber on TilTokDr Debi Silber on TwitterDr Debi Silber on PinterestWhere High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHERThanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon MusicBe sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you.Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

Today, I dive into the concept of "Pitch Slapped” (Episode 116) and share my unique coaching approach.Join me as I share exactly how I help high-achieving individuals release the fuckery, show up authentically, and lead with legendary impact.Through sharing, reflecting, and taking action, I guide my clients towards profound self-realizations and liberation." I get it…you aren't sure how things will work out. It is in that space, where true growth happens.” - Karen Goldfinger BakerThis week on Trauma Hiders Club:Understanding the Pitch Slap:• Exploring the deceptive nature of sales pitches disguised as friendly conversations.• My coaching practice, where I help trauma hiders and dream pursuers.• Embrace authenticity and lead like a legend.The Power of Insights and Growth:• Experience the thrill of discovering new aspects of yourself through shared experiences and deep reflections.• Embrace uncertainty as a catalyst for true growth.• Create profound moments of self-realization and fall in love with yourself.Scrapped Corporate Pricing to the end of 2023:• Quickstart for 3 months/90 days at $5000 and• Deep Dive for 9 months $14,000.Listen to testimonials from my clients, including an elite athlete's transformational journey.Join me in embracing your true self and exploring the magic of self-discovery.Contact me at karen@karengoldfingerbaker.com to start your own transformative experience.Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHERThanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

Robin Cotè is a multi-talented individual with a diverse background in media. From a young age, she immersed herself in film, radio, television, and the music industry. Despite enduring significant personal losses and facing various forms of abuse, Robin emerged as a survivor and an advocate for victims. As a radio and show business personality, author, transformational coach, and motivational speaker, she brings a no-nonsense attitude to her work. Through her personal journey documented in her book, "Victim No More!", Robin empowers others to embrace self-worth, accountability, and a better life. With her infectious smile and unfiltered honesty, she is a respected member of the independent film and music community, a dedicated mother, and a living kidney donor. Robin's impact extends beyond her own experiences, as she shares her wisdom and truth on her podcast, Get Real with Robin.In this powerful episode, Robin joins me as we discuss Empowerment through self-expression and speaking out.We also discuss how others who have experienced trauma support a healing journey and break through the patterns of pain and victimhood.“The ability to be able to be so honest and raw about things, has not only helped me heal, but it's a beautiful gift to be able to share that with other people” - Robin CoteThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club• Overcoming childhood trauma and redefining your life story on your terms.• The importance of self-love and self-care in nurturing personal well-being and unstoppable resilience.• The most entrenched cycles of trauma.• Cultivating lasting change and growth.• Self-expression as a therapeutic tool for transforming pain into healing and personal power.• Setting boundaries, closing the door on toxic relationships, and welcoming a more peaceful, vibrant life.Resources:Robin Cote - WebsiteRobin Cote - PodcastRobin on LinkedInRobin on InstaRobin on TwitterRobin on FacebookRobin on amazon.comWhere High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHERThanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon MusicBe sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you.Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

Today: The dreaded sales pitch. Those moments when you're innocently listening to a podcast, scrolling through LinkedIn, and suddenly, bam! You're trapped in a sales ambush.Fear not, because here in the Trauma Hiders Club, we do things differently.Understanding the Pitch Slap:That feeling when you're just going about your day, engaging in normal activities, and then, out of nowhere, you're hit with a sales pitch.So why do people keep doing it? Lazy people do lazy shit.The Power of Authentic Coaching:No slippery messages about what I do as an executive coach.You'll discover, how I help high-achieving individuals who hide trauma, boredom, and dreams under a cloak of exhaustion.Finding your worth, preserving your self-esteem, and taking accountability for your life.Embracing Transformation:It's not as simple as three steps. We dig deep, translating the endless loops of doom, boredom, and unworthiness playing in your head.Generosity and Accessibility:I'm honoring of my mother's essential generosity. For the first time in five years, I've scrapped the high fee corporate structure.Now, I offer two options.It's about making this investment in yourself accessible and affordable because this work is life-changing."It's not my job to blow smoke up your ass. This work is about sharing yourself, listening, reflecting, and taking actions fuelled by insights.” - Karen Goldfinger BakerThis week on Trauma Hiders Club:Authentic coaching focuses on releasing the fuckery, showing up authentically, and leading like a legend.The transformative journey involves translating negative thought patterns, evaluating behaviors, and illuminating your powerful identity.Sharing, listening, reflecting, and taking action.Creating profound moments of self-realization and liberation from deeply held beliefs.Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHERThanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

Susan Gold is the executive behind Susan Gold Consulting LLC, an organization that creates opportunities for brands and develops business by constructing strategic alliances and leveraging relationships. She is the author of Toxic Family: Transforming Childhood Trauma into Adult Freedom. In Toxic Family, Susan chronicles how—after prevailing through an unstable family dynamic—she went on to transform her life, launch her own talent brokerage firm, and make a name for herself building connections between celebrities and brands, eventually paving the way for her to become a producer for film and television. Susan joins me today to share her journey in transforming childhood trauma into adult freedom. She describes the violent, unstable household she grew up in and how she managed to keep herself safe through dance. She discusses how she dreamed about going to New York City as a teenager and how she later worked with her heroine, Barbara Walters. She also explains the purpose of traditional therapy and somatic modalities, highlights the kind of healing work she underwent to find freedom and healing, and describes learning to live in a comfortable, loving relationship as an adult. “The puzzle pieces connected magically, and I could see how it all came together for the beauty of soul evolution.” - Susan Gold This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: ●      Susan's childhood and her adult imaginary friend●      What freedom meant to the five-year-old Susan●      Growing up in a little town in Pennsylvania and what her family unit was like●      How Susan kept herself safe as a child in an unstable household●      Her years, dreams, and heroine as a teenager in the 70s●      Working with Barbara Walters and persuading a semi-reclusive Andy Warhol●      How Susan worked with therapy and different healing modalities in her 20s●      The purpose of traditional therapy and somatic modalities●      Hiding fear and experiencing impostor syndrome as a writer●      Forgiveness and why forgiving abusers isn't essential to healing Related Episode: ●      108 | Reflections on Love Connect with Susan Gold: ●      Susan Gold Consulting●      Susan Gold Website●      Book: Toxic Family: Transforming Childhood Trauma into Adult Freedom●      Susan Gold on LinkedIn●      Susan Gold on Twitter●      Email: susan@susangoldconsulting.com Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

On the show today: Finding Connection in Loneliness: Grieving in a World that Doesn't Understand.I riff on how a sudden obstacle that can throw us off balance, making the simplest of tasks feel impossible.It's a journey that we never expect to take, yet one that we all must eventually face.But what happens when grief becomes a part of us, an ever-present weight that we carry with us always?Today I discuss how I navigate the complexities of grief, finding comfort in unexpected places and learning to accept the changes that it brings.Maybe if all us grievers wore black armbands for the rest of our days, we'd know who else doesn't belong. And we could just all not belong together.- Karen Goldfinger BakerThis week on Trauma Hiders Club:·     Take time to embrace the feeling of peace.·     Reflect on the concept of yearning. ·     Seeking support from loved ones.·     Embracing loneliness.·     Practice surrendering.·     The concept of grief living in your body and explore ways to release it.Uncover the intricate nature of grief and how it shapes our experiences.·     Examine the bodily and mental responses that accompany the grieving process.·     Handling intense emotions of anger and sorrow through the grief process.·     The sense of being out of place during a time of loss.·     The importance of grasping grief to rediscover comfort in what once was familiar.Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your SuccessGo to: KarenGoldfingerBaker.comWhere High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of ‘Trauma Hiders Club Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. Hear more atKarenGoldfingerBaker.com/podcastIf you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

Susan Snow is a keynote speaker and author. In 1985, her father, LAPD Detective Thomas C. Williams, died in the line of duty. Susan chronicles her journey through the trauma she experienced following her father's death in The Other Side of the Gun, a book born out of her desire to heal herself and mission to help others in their healing. As a speaker, Susan holds thoughtful and empowering workshops and keynote presentations, and has appeared in several media outlets and public speaking forums. Susan is also a Realtor® and broker associate with over 13 years of experience providing real estate services. Susan joins me today to share how her life was changed forever when her father was ambushed and killed. She describes how and why she felt like she had to navigate the loss of her father on her own and explains why she felt shame, guilt, and frustration after his death. She discusses going through life in constant fight-or-flight states and what made her decide to reclaim her wellbeing years after his death. She also outlines the resiliency tools she acquired from doing healing work and underscores what it will take for anyone to gain freedom from fear. “There will be things that will happen in your life, and it's scary to look at it in the face; you need to find what will help you move through it. Then you'll find the freedom from fear having a hold on your life.” - Susan Snow  This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: ●     Susan's life as a ten-year-old girl●     Her mom's work as a counselor and HR professional●     Her father's work as a detective for the LAPD●     How Susan found confidence after lacking self-esteem in her younger years●     Susan's younger brother and the murder of her foster sister●     Making sense of loss and the murder of a family member at a young age●     The death of her father in a drive-by shooting●     Navigating the death of her father as a teenager●     Why Susan felt shame, guilt, and frustration after the death of her father●     Experiencing severe depression and anxiety and Susan's first encounter with a therapist●     How the Columbine shooting led Susan to deep dive into her healing work●     The power of journaling and EMDR●     Why I resisted journaling for a long time●     Writing The Other Side of the Gun Connect with Susan Snow: ●     Susan Snow Website●     Email: susansnowspeaks@gmail.com●     Book: The Other Side of the Gun: My Journey from Trauma to Resiliency●     Susan Snow on LinkedIn  Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE  

My lifelong sense of exile and exclusion, specifically during Yizkor (memorial prayer) services at the synagogue is over.For 58 years and 5 months, I had been excused from the room where I did not belong, but this time, I chose to stay behind. As others left, I experienced a profound sense of awe and found myself reflecting on my mother and the connection we shared.Today I ponder on how I have earned my tears through love.The unity within the sanctuary, knowing that each person present carried a missing part—their loved ones who have passed away. I felt solace and a deep sense of everlasting unity."Despite her absence, I laughed and cried, embracing the realization that I have earned my tears through loving fiercely."– Karen Goldfinger BakerThis Week on Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:·     Choosing to stay during Yizkor service·     Feeling awe and reflection in the silence that followed·     Memories of my mother and her direct way of speaking·     Laughing and crying·     Recognizing the love I've poured into my relationships·     Finding unity and connection with fellow mourners·     Understanding the missing part in each of us·     The enduring legacy that unites us allRelated Episodes:A Eulogy for My MotherGrief and the Fear of LossWhere High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.VISIT TRAUMA HIDERS CLUB WEBSITE

 Becca Ferguson is a keynote speaker and a licensed professional counselor in Northwestern Arkansas. She is the owner of The Therapy Office, through which she and other mental health professionals offer a unique counseling experience for all people, helping them create the best version of themselves. As a counselor, Becca is experienced in suicide intervention, crisis management, trauma-informed therapy, and eating disorder treatment. She holds a Master's in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Henderson State University and a Bachelor's in Radio and Television from the University of the Ozarks. Becca joins me today to share her experience with religious trauma, abuse, and manipulation and describe her journey to healing. She discusses the religious background of her family and her early involvement with the church in her childhood and teenage years. She details her relationship with an abusive, violent, and manipulative youth pastor and how she found the strength to leave that relationship and her church. Becca also highlights the relationship between trauma and guilt, underscores what true self-compassion is, and shares how she's empowering other women and helping them heal their trauma through her work as a therapist and speaker. “Anybody that has trauma has struggles with self-compassion, but the only way to heal this is through believing that you can trust yourself again.” - Becca Ferguson This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: ●     Becca's childhood and early involvement with the church●     Her teenage years and life in youth ministry●     Crisis of conscience and spiritual responsibilities●     Her traumatic relationship with a manipulative and abusive youth minister●     How her relationship with her youth minister impacted her relationships with other people●     How Becca began to notice that her relationship with her youth minister was unhealthy●     Trauma, guilt, and how Becca began her journey to healing and becoming a therapist●     How Becca left the church and her relationship with her youth minister●     Becca's mission to empower women and make mental health services accessible Resources Mentioned: ●     Book: Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret. by Judy Blume Connect with Becca Ferguson: ●     The Therapy Office●     Becca Ferguson Website●     Online Courses: use code TRAUMAHIDERS for 10% off●     The Therapy Office on LinkedIn●     Becca Ferguson on LinkedIn●     Becca Ferguson on Instagram●     Becca Ferguson on Facebook●     Becca Ferguson on YouTube●     Becca Ferguson on TikTok This episode includes descriptive mention of violence and abuse. Please choose your environment carefully as you listen to this episode of the Trauma Hiders Club podcast. Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.

About a year ago, I shared my experiences at my first all-women retreat cultivated and led by my friend and fellow coach, Allison Crow. I talked about how I had avoided women's retreats, fearing that I would not be able to connect or create connections with other women. But I went nonetheless and learned more about my avoidance and how I related with other women. Recently, I made another huge move—I went back to camp. Here's what happened. In this episode, I share my experience of going back to camp. I explain how I didn't get hung up on being perceived as antisocial and put my desire to rejuvenate above all else. I also describe how I stayed present with my fellow campers, spent time with people, and showed up open. “I showed up open and took care of myself—saved myself—I always have. But this time, it wasn't because I had to, but because I could; because I'm worthy of care, and so are you.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: ●     My return to camp●     Why I avoided going to women's retreats●     My fear of being perceived as the worst type of woman●     How I showed up on my recent camping trip●     Being worthy of care Related Episodes: ●     Writing Your Way Home with Allison Crow●     Embracing Negative Emotions with Allison Crow●     Sisterhood and Belonging Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.

Colin Kingsmill is a transformational coach. Prior to dedicating himself to helping people make meaningful shifts in their lives, Colin worked successfully for a decade in Swiss banking. Today, as the founding partner of Whole Human Coaching, Colin is on a mission to help people discover their humanity to change the world. He holds an MBA from Saint Xavier University and a Bachelor's in Political Science, History, and French from Simon Fraser University. Colin joins me today to discuss what happens when insight opens us up to going deeper into who we are, how we are, and who we want to be in the world. He shares how letters from his late mother started his journey into uncovering unrecognized early childhood trauma. He describes how he began working on his trauma through therapy and studying and discusses his road to spiritual awakening. Colin also discusses how he is drawing from his personal experiences to help younger people who tend to make decisions through the lens of earlier childhood trauma. “Watch and be aware of the coping mechanisms in your day-to-day life. If you can go find the origin story of that mechanism, it can be liberating.” - Colin Kingsmill This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: ●     How Colin and I connected and our thoughts on Tinder and PodMatch●     What Colin is hiding the most right now●     How the answer isn't always the answer in coaching●     Practicing being fully me●     Letters from Colin's mother and how they impacted him●     Colin's childhood and how his life was framed by unrecognized trauma●     Why Colin's father gave him his mother's letters to her best friend●     The kind of person Colin thinks he would have become if he did not receive the letters●     People-pleasing and other classic trauma hider behavior●     The two chapters of Colin's life●     Reading everything and doing nothing, and our experience with mindfulness and meditation practices●     The gas tank metaphor and how Colin helps younger people uncover earlier childhood trauma●     Inner child work and how your inner child drives your buses Resources Mentioned: ●     Book: The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle●     App: Waking Up●     App: Calm●     App: Inkblot Therapy Connect with Colin Kingsmill: ●     Colin Kingsmill Website●     Colin Kingsmill on LinkedIn●     Colin Kingsmill on Instagram●     Colin Kingsmill on Facebook●     Colin Kingsmill on Twitter Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success. 

I was never one to dream about being a bride or planning a wedding—perhaps I was too busy navigating my life as a trauma hider. However, I did know a few things: I knew who I wanted to be in love, and knew with whom I wanted to be in love. I wanted to be real, honest, vulnerable, and raw, and I wanted my person to be with all of me, even if I didn't want to deal with all of me. I married the guy who stayed, and not just because he could deal with all of me; he showed up sweetly, tenderly, as a human who felt at home and continues to 32 years later. In this episode, I reflect on love as we celebrate the 32nd anniversary of our beautiful wedding. I also discuss the kind of person I wanted to be—and be with—in love, describe our wedding at our family home, and share the most gracious statement my mother has made about me. “To love each other has been the easiest and most difficult part of being married: each day is a recommitment to love.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: ●     Who I wanted to be in love and the kind of person I wanted to be in love with●     Our beautiful wedding at our family home●     What it's like to be married for more than 30 years●     My mother's toast and the legacy I want to honor Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success. 

Jon Katz is an online personal coach based in New York City. He is the creator of NYC Foodways Coaching, which helps people transform their minds and bodies by using the same personal development program that saved his life when he was considering suicide at age 34. Jon's program, based on the principle of replacing negative thought and behavior patterns with positive ones, is tailored for people struggling with anxiety, depression, obsessive tendencies, negative self-talk, and low self-worth. Jon is also the creator and host of NYC Foodways, a YouTube channel where he covers food, culture, and the various nourishing traditions that link us all. Jon joins me today to discuss his journey to personal healing. He describes what led him to a place of extreme nihilism and how he took back the narrative of his existence. He explains how making the transition from a place of nihilism to working on healing and personal development shocked his physical, nervous, and emotional systems. He discusses cognitive dissonance, aligning with the future self, and the link between mental and physical fitness. Jon also highlights how our relationship with food shapes our relationship with the earth, what participating in the NYC Foodways Coaching program looks like, and why honesty is a critical piece in healing the self. “The way we interact with food is the way we interact with the earth, and the way we interact with the earth is who we are.” - Jon Katz This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: ●     Why Jon connected with the book Ender's Game as a child●     Making the shift from nihilism to being committed to healing●     The willingness to have your heart broken●     How denial drives people to unhealthy and toxic consumption●     The importance of being honest about negative behaviors●     What foodways are●     The normalization of drug and alcohol use●     The destructive and wasteful food system in the United States●     Jon's experience with fat shaming●     The ethos behind Jon's NYC Foodways Coaching practice●     The value of a customized nutrition plan●     Why there's too much “hiding” in the world  Resources Mentioned: ●     Book: Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card Connect with Jon Katz: ●     NYC Foodways on YouTube●     Jon Katz on Instagram●     Email: NYCFoodways@Gmail.com Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.

“Once upon a time,” Roald Dahl's classic children's book Matilda started, “there was a little girl who was trapped.” I wasn't a child when Matilda came out. But a few years later, I had children, and when my children watched the movie version on VHS, I sat with them. I didn't watch with them. Those opening lines caught me—I couldn't watch. But when I recently rewatched Matilda on Netflix—just me, Netflix, and Matilda—I heard and saw her in a new way for the very first time. In this episode, I discuss what I learned from recently watching Matilda. I describe what “magical thinking” is and its function as a response to trauma. I also explore the film's themes about the impacts of trauma. “Magical thinking is a coping mechanism often associated with trauma; it's not bad nor good, but a response. For me, and in my assertion for Matilda, magical thinking was there to take control—to be in power.” - Karen Goldfinger-Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: ●     Matilda and the impact of trauma●     How Matilda coped with her trauma through her imagination●     Magical thinking and its function●     My hope for Matilda Resources Mentioned: ●     Book: Matilda by Roald Dahl Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success. 

Andrea Ashley is the host and producer of the Adult Child Podcast, the leading and fastest-growing podcast on the impact of growing up in an alcoholic and dysfunctional family. A CPA by profession, Andrea worked in accounting and financial firms before launching her podcast. She has worked in CFGI's Business and Talent Acquisition team and was a senior consultant for Armanino, as well as an audit senior associate at KPMG US. At the Adult Child Podcast, Andrea and her guests have raw and vulnerable conversations about codependency, complex trauma, alcoholism and addiction, generational trauma, and toxic shame. Andrea joins me today to discuss connection, disconnection, dysfunction, and what it means to be an adult child. She describes her “Tale of Two Brains” and reveals what the Broken Picker Syndrome is. She shares her experience with severe separation anxiety as a child and explains how she realized that unresolved childhood trauma impacts how she maintains relationships. Andrea also highlights how therapy has helped her work through trauma and enumerates the characteristics that adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families have in common. “The journey into the soul to embrace our pain, live our authentic selves, and own our entire stories—especially the really messy shit—is a beautiful opportunity to heal and grow.” - Andrea Ashley This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: A Tale of Two Brains and the Broken Picker Syndrome How Andrea realized her childhood upbringing impacted her previous relationships Severe separation anxiety and alcoholism as a symptom of family dysfunction and trauma What happens to abandonment issues when they're not healed How working with a therapist helped Andrea confront complex trauma What Andrea was like before she worked with a therapist and how she's changed Recreating the chaos of our childhood How therapy led Andrea to search for her life purpose The road to launching the Adult Child Podcast The ACA's Laundry List Embracing our past and our childhood Resources Mentioned: Dump Your Shit Book: Adult Children of Alcoholic / Dysfunctional Families by ACA WSO Book: The Abandonment Recovery Workbook: Guidance through the Five Stages of Healing from Abandonment, Heartbreak, and Loss by Susan Anderson   Connect with Andrea Ashley: Adult Child Podcast Adult Child Podcast on LinkedIn Adult Child Podcast on Facebook Adult Child Podcast on Instagram Adult Child Podcast on TikTok Andrea Ashley on LinkedIn Email: andrea@adultchildhoodpodcast.com Related Episodes: The Courage to Connect with Our Feelings with Joe Ryan   Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Up to this point, I kept my coaching practice somewhat separate from the Trauma Hiders Club podcast. My coaching practice has always been full, flourishing, and thriving with exponential growth, but, ever since my mom died, I've been looking at it. What struck me was the myriad of ways I had kept so many people out while offering exclusive, high-ticket engagement, VIP experiences, and made-up rules about who gets in and who stays out In this episode, I explore combining my world as the host of the Trauma Hiders Club podcast and as an executive leadership coach. I discuss how and why I'm not for most people and describe the kind of people who will—and who will probably not—connect well with me. “If you hear something that opens you up to seeing something for yourself, and you want to explore that in reflective, safe, trauma-informed conversations, know that I'm here.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: Podcasting as a grieving host How I separated my world as a podcast host from my world as an executive coach My “Fuck off” and “Fuck, yes!” kinds of people How to reach out to me Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I'm going to save you a lot of time and needless worry and let you in on a secret that nobody tells you until you become a member of the Dead Family Member Secret Society. The timesaving, worry-saving, and (possibly) money-saving secret is—grief is love. Grief is love's confusion. Grieving is loving. Now, before you roll your eyes or boo at me, I want you to hear me out. In this episode, I discuss grief and love. I explain why grief is love confused. I also describe how I'm learning to love my mother in her absence and underscore how grief is learning to love in a new way. “Grief is learning to love in a new way. I'm learning to love my mother while she isn't here; I'm grieving her presence, loving her absence.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: The relationship between grief and love Why we grieve Learning to love my mother in her absence Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I have chosen peace and quiet. I lived in two worlds for most of my life. One was a world where I let others see what I wanted them to see, and the other was a world where I kept people from the broken, damaged, unlovable me. And, in those two different worlds, I wasn't aware that I was struggling with quiet, stillness, and peace. While I craved stillness and peace, the dark quiet of the night had been a trigger for me. But, today, I welcome quiet. In this episode, I share how I straddled between two different worlds for a vast majority of my life and discuss my struggles with peace and quiet. I also describe how I have chosen peace—despite my struggles with it—after the recent passing of my mother. “The dark, quiet nighttime had been a trigger for me. Here's the thing: since the passing of my mother, I have chosen quiet, I have chosen stillness, I have chosen peace.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker “Quiet, stillness, and peace feel like the best, warmest, longest, most welcoming hugs that I craved then and welcome now. Nothingness is everything right now—peace is essential.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: Living life in two different worlds The quiet places I created in my life My struggles with peace and quiet Choosing stillness, peace, and quiet Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A friend recently thanked me for sharing my grief experience on Facebook and Instagram. She told me that she was terrified of the inevitable loss of her currently healthy, thriving mother. But what I learned about loss—and this is something I learned only after my mother's funeral—is that there's nothing to fear. And while I can't say I'm on the other side of grief—because I'm doubtful there's an “other side” to it—I understood something about grief that I could only learn by being on the other side of death and loss. In this episode, I explore the fear of death and of losing someone important to us. I describe how I'm giving myself space to move through my days. I also discuss how grief changes us and the relationship between the fear of a loved one's death and the illusion of control. “I grieve for the ‘before' me that got to hear her mother say her name. ‘After' me relies on memory, aware of the presence of absence—moving through, pushing back, sometimes resisting, sometimes flowing.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: Lessons I learned after my mother's funeral Grief and how there may be no “other side” to it The fear of death and the illusion of control Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Let me tell you something: when I set out to do this project, I never imagined that this podcast—with the goal of normalizing conversations around trauma—would be fun or interesting after 25 episodes. And yet, here we are at the 100th episode of the Trauma Hiders Club podcast, continuing to grow and flourish. While I could boast about how the number of listeners or messages shared has grown over the last 100 episodes, I believe we, as a community, have experienced something more powerful than any podcast metric. In this episode, I look back on what I experienced over the last 100 episodes of the Trauma Hiders Club podcast and what I've learned from you, the listeners. I also highlight the value of seeing ourselves, living our truth, and letting go. “I could go on about the messages shared or the numbers of listeners, but none of that is as meaningful, as powerful, as transformational than any of us seeing ourselves, our truth, and being our truth.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: My initial expectations for this podcast 100 episodes of the Trauma Hiders Club podcast—from my point of view Meeting ourselves and our truths for the first time Letting go of the self we created out of survival Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As a child, I learned from Sunday school that it was my responsibility to be a mother. To prepare for that game, I studied my own mother: a brilliant, independent, and courageous woman I admired. With her as my role model, I learned everything from connection and heartbreak to sending kids to overnight camp and the value of reading. As she trusted me to be a fierce warrior for her life and a compassionate advocate for the end of her life, I learned something about her that perhaps only I had the privilege of knowing. In this episode, I recall the lessons I learned from (and about) my mom throughout my life with her. I share who Joyful Toby is and what Sunday mornings were like back in the early 70s. I describe the time I learned the Shema—the prayer for peace—and my responsibility to teach my children so they can teach theirs. I also reveal what I learned about my mother and highlight how grief and love can coexist. “My mom, who many times over had been called tough, was actually a soft, kind, and complex human who could be vulnerable at the four-way intersection of motherhood, daughterhood, loyalty, and love.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: Meet my mother Going back home with Joyful Toby Sunday mornings in the early 70s Learning the Shema Things I learned from and about my mother Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Joe Ryan is the creator and host of It's Not You; It's Your Trauma, a podcast that tackles trauma, PTSD, abuse, anxiety, and recovery. During his lifelong path of overcoming trauma and shame, Joe has committed to paving the road for others. As a coach, Joe helps people heal and conquer their traumatic pasts through his one-on-one services. In addition to hosting his show and working as a trauma coach, Joe serves as the Director of Operations at HELIX, a premier WordPress hosting service for creatives. Joe joins us today to discuss the work he did to transform his life. He describes the guilt, and self-betrayal one can feel after working to change their life. He explains why the more we cut off the dark parts of ourselves, the more they come back and bite us. He also discusses how cultivating patience and tolerance within has impacted his coaching practice and highlights why we must stop hiding behind shame and abuse. “Learning to accept the shame that you feel eases the self-hate; once it eases, there's space for self-compassion and understanding.” - Joe Ryan   This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: Wearing new clothes and living more comfortably with an empowered life The power of integration and accepting the darker parts of yourself How practicing self-compassion can open a space for surrender, peace, and love Finding a good therapist and what it took to transform Dark Joe into Joyful/Abundant Joe How transforming his life impacts Joe's coaching practice and clients Coaches and therapists who are not aware of their triggering tendencies Why we need to stop hiding behind shame and abuse How to become authentic when you've been shamed, abused, or traumatized Related Content: The Courage to Connect with Our Feelings with Joe Ryan Connect with Joe Ryan: Joe Ryan Website It's Not You; It's Your Trauma Podcast Joe Ryan on LinkedIn Joe Ryan on Instagram Joe Ryan on Facebook Joe Ryan on YouTube Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' episode with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Earlier this year, I did inner child work with my extraordinary, hilarious, and generous coach, Nate Postlethwait. It was deep, dark, and confronting as much as it was uplifting, light, and joyful. And, at the end of our journey to meet the child within me, I wrote a letter to my younger self--that younger me, that fierce, 10-year-old warrior who took charge and fought. In this episode, I share the letter I wrote to my inner childhood warrior. “We are here in full view together, so strong, so loving, so loved. Show me what needs to be healed, even if there aren't any words and only tears. You are here, I am here. You're okay, I'm okay, and it's okay.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: My inner child works with Nate Postlethwait A letter to my younger self Resources Mentioned: Nate Postlethwait Website Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' episode with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Catherine Hammond is a transformational coach and author. Her book, hope(less): The Truth about Hope and Where to Find It, serves as a memoir, manifesto, manual, and guidebook for people going through the ups and downs of life. An award-winning estate planning attorney, Catherine founded the full-service estate planning firm Hammond Law Group PC in 2005 to serve the needs of her community. She received her Bachelor of Arts degree in French and Psychology from Coe College and her Juris Doctor degree from the Sturm College of Law at the University of Denver. Catherine joins me today to discuss how we can remember and reconnect with hope—no matter our circumstances. She describes her early struggles with hope and how she started thinking differently about it. She outlines the learned lies and uncultivated truths surrounding hope. Catherine also reveals how hope can create a world of deeper connection and love and underscores how we all have an internal wellspring of hope that never runs out. “Hopelessness is a mind trick—there is no tube of hope that we squeeze and run out of. It is an ever-present, ever-flowing wellspring that you just tap in, and there's always more.” - Catherine Hammond This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: What Catherine learned about hope from Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning The prevailing narrative of hopelessness in society The infinite, internal nature of hope How unresolved trauma can block our access to truth, sense of self, and hope Hopefulness versus being disassociated and compartmentalized by trauma The “Make it Happen” girl and my prior relationship with hope Why hopelessness is made-up and connecting with hope while in great pain The seven lies we believe about hope and the uncultivated truths about hope Mortality and hope What we miss out on in a world built upon hopelessness How can hope allow us to see beauty in all parts of life Deeper connection and deeper love Creating your personal hope toolkit Resources Mentioned: Book: Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl Connect with Catherine Hammond: Catherine Hammond Website Hammond Law Group Book: hope(less): The Truth about Hope and Where to Find It Hammond Law Group on LinkedIn Hammond Law Group on Facebook Hammond Law Group on Twitter Catherine Hammond on LinkedIn Catherine Hammond on Instagram Catherine Hammond on Facebook Catherine Hammond on Twitter Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' episode with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you're anything like me, you've been told as a child how you take up too much space. You've been told—backhandedly or directly—that you are simply too much. And you somehow believed them. You thought you needed to be less—less loud, spacious, emotional, demanding, expressive, smart, hilarious, and beautiful—and did just that. But it's time to give the temper-downers a hard and hearty F.U. In this episode, I explore how many of us get told we are “too much.” I describe the different ways the adults in our childhoods told us to be “less” than we were. I also invite you to reclaim your sense of belonging and offer a game plan for being who you are. “Join me in giving a hard and hardy ‘fuck you' to the temper-downers. Instead of shrinking to fit in, let's reclaim our belonging by being who we truly are.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: Being told—and believing—you're too much as a child Acknowledging your obedient inner child Accommodating yourself as a wounded adult Freeing and being your truest self Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Tony Bonnici is the founder of Zen Men and Dojo Integrated Leadership. He is the author of The Dojo: The Ancient Wisdom of Integrative Leadership for the Modern Entrepreneur, which teaches readers how to be integrated leaders in their relationships, health, and spirituality. Through decades of experience in business, Tony has blended ancient wisdom, Zen, and entrepreneurship to generate millions in revenue. He has taught his method to clients and invites them from around the world to The Dojo, where he helps them develop their businesses and create fulfilling lives. Tony joins me today to discuss his book, The Dojo, and what it means to be an integrated entrepreneur. He explains how his experiences being raised in a Buddhist temple and being in business for over 30 years make The Dojo stand out from other personal development books. He describes how co-creating The Dojo with his mom gave them healing and deepened their connection. Tony also discusses why being an entrepreneur is an “inside” game and highlights why slowing down is necessary to be an integrated entrepreneur. “Entrepreneurs: the business you're in is not your identity and is not who you are as a human being. There's a world out there that will enhance what it means to be an entrepreneur.” - Tony Bonnici This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: What has changed for Tony ever since the launch of The Dojo Experiencing and overcoming brokenness to achieve success Being labeled ‘broken' because of dyslexia Life stories Tony shares in The Dojo and the feedback he receives from readers The healing work Tony did for past trauma while writing The Dojo How publishing The Dojo has impacted Tony's work as a coach What being an “integrated entrepreneur” means What slowing down for driven people feels like What makes The Dojo different from other self-help and personal development books The most essential people in Tony's life and why being an entrepreneur is an “inside” game Resources Mentioned: Book: Spare by Prince Harry the Duke of Sussex Connect with Tony Bonnici: Tony Bonnici Website Book: The Dojo: The Ancient Wisdom of Integrative Leadership for the Modern Entrepreneur Tony Bonnici on LinkedIn Email: tbonnici@me.com Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As much as we want to begin the new year with a bright, shiny, clean slate, the shit we carried, hid, and buried—and the symptoms that showed up because of them—may still follow us. This doesn't mean that 2023 will be a rehash of 2022. It means that the challenges of last year don't want to be put on hold. And that's okay; it's part of being human. But this year offers us new ways of dealing with our challenges and looking at the same old shit with fresh, new, glittering eyes. In this episode, I discuss looking at past issues and traumas from a fresh perspective. I explain how resurfacing old trauma doesn't necessarily lead to having a bad year. I also discuss how our mindset decides how we relate to our trauma and how it makes the difference between being powerful owners or powerless victims. “Go on. Get your fresh on. See the universe that's waiting for you—inviting you to show up in all of who you truly are. That truth looks gorgeous on you.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: Wrapping up 2022 with a shiny bow What if trauma and its symptoms resurface in the new year? The power of mindset and relating to our old issues with a fresh perspective Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' episode with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Patti Hall is a non-fiction writer, sought-after ghostwriter, publishing project manager, and rare disease advocate. She is a memoir-writing coach who works with heart-centered leaders, entrepreneurs, and writers dedicated to serving. In her book, Loving Large: A Mother's Rare Disease Memoir, Patti chronicles how she navigated her life as she supported her son, who was diagnosed with gigantism. Patti is the creator of The Story House, a writing studio for group coaching. She graduated with honors from the University of Toronto - New College and holds a Master's in Environmental Studies from York University. Patti joins me today to discuss how early experiences prepared her for life as a mother, writer, and advocate. She shares the books that made her want to be a writer. She discusses her son's gigantism diagnosis and how it led her to champion people who are subjected to visual stigma. Patti also highlights how she found her passion for the written word and serving others and underscores how fear and love both serve her in her life's work. “In advocacy, fierceness and love have to coalesce. Otherwise, you're not functional.” - Patti Hall This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: Patti's favorite books from childhood How to know you're becoming or have become the person you're working to be Searching for home and belonging Writing Loving Large and how support and encouragement from writing coaches helped Patti bring her story to life How Patti learned to love so fiercely The importance of putting your needs forward How fear and love can exist equally How love and fear have helped Patti navigate years of medical advocacy Her son's diagnosis and how it led to her medical advocacy The Gigantism Global Registry Truth-telling through mythology and how visual stigma impacts gigantism Elements and the art, alchemy, and healing power of writing Resources Mentioned: Book: Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert Book: Miss Information and the Upsy Downsy Circus by Mattel Book: Welcome to Upsy Downsy Land by Mattel Connect with Patti Hall: Patti Hall Website Patti Hall on LinkedIn Patti Hall on Instagram Patti Hall on Facebook Patti Hall on Twitter Patti Hall on Goodreads Patti Hall on YouTube Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' episode with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When I think about what I'd like to create in the new year, my mind thinks about growth, challenges, and commitment. My heart, however, is liable to be confused and push back. It wasn't until recently that I realized that the person I want to be the most is the person I was as a child: the young me who was funny, glittery, sparkly, smart, curious, bold, engaging, and creative—the young Karen who found excitement in being surrounded by others but also valued the quiet. In short, the child—for reasons good and bad—I chose or was made to exile. But now I know there's no reason good enough to ever stop being who we are. In this episode, I discuss how, in 2023, I am committing to bringing my inner child back from her exile. I also describe who I was as a child, why we cut off our true selves, and how I'm going to welcome my inner child back home. “There's no reason to ever stop being who you are—no reason to snip off your true being. It doesn't work. Exiled parts fight back.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on Traversing Entrepreneurship: Exile parts fight back Remembering my younger self How rules, life, challenges, heartbreak, and achievements chip away at who we are My commitment to bringing back my inner child Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bryan Post is a speaker, author, and one of America's leading child behavior and adoption experts. He is the creator of the Stress Model, a dynamic theoretical model of human behavior. Through the Stress Model, Bryan has developed Family-Centered Regulatory Parenting and Regulatory Therapy, which have both been taught at the university level and are changing the lives of adults, parents, and families. Bryan is the founder of the Post Institute—an organization dedicated to helping parents heal wounds created by trauma—and serves as the Clinical Director for Parents in Training, a 501(c)3 non-profit organization that provides wraparound services to adoptive families throughout Northern California. Bryan joins me today to discuss the Stress Model and why it's important to go to the source of an individual's trauma. He describes his early life and how stealing, like other forms of addiction, is an attempt to soothe an internal condition. He explains why mental health professionals must work through their own trauma and reveals a critical flaw in society's mental health systems. He also dissects the relationship between love and fear and underscores how we can empower ourselves to become aware of the source of our pain. “When we are stressed, we are not in love—we are in fear. We can't be in a relationship and be in fear.” - Bryan Post This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: The creation of internal chaos and how Bryan started stealing in the first grade Intergenerational trauma and the trauma iceberg Adoption trauma and why we need to look beyond the behavioral manifestations of trauma Flipping the script and how Bryan began his work on healing trauma The problem with society's mental health systems The importance of self-compassion, surrender, self-acceptance, and recognizing that we need to do deep healing work What creates secure attachment in relationships Bryan's Stress Model and the relationship between love and fear Empowering people to grow self-awareness over the root of their pain Resources Mentioned: Book: The Relaxation Response by Herbert Benson and Miriam Klipper Book: The Emotional Brain: The Mysterious Underpinnings of Emotional Life by Joseph Ledoux Connect with Bryan Post: Bryan Post Website Post Wraparound Post Institute Book: From Fear to Love: Parenting Difficult Adopted Children Using a Love-Based, Family-Centered Approach Book: The Great Behavior Breakdown Book: Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control: Volume 1 by Heather Forbes and Bryan Post Post Institute on Facebook Post Institute on Twitter Bryan Post on LinkedIn Bryan Post on Instagram Bryan Post on Facebook Bryan Post on YouTube Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' episode with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | Google Play | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Reverting to my wounded, inner child whenever I'm home for the holidays—and all the fabulousness and absolute shittiness that brings—is often a go-to for me. Old reactions get kicked up and resentments bubble up to the surface, time and time again. But I know it's not helpful for me, or anyone else, for beating myself up for feeling or being this way. If I'm reacting from a place of my past wounds, it's likely that my family is too. If that's the case for you—as it almost always is for me—know that we have agency. We can choose to be the person we want to be in the present moment. In this episode, I continue the conversation on inner child work and coming home for the holidays. I discuss how we can stay grounded and anchored in the present moment. I also share some of the ways I give myself space so I can be on the emotional high ground and choose to be the person I want to be. “In the present time and present space, I can choose outside the past. I can choose how I show up. In the present I am whole, mature, responsible, successful, peaceful, loving, and loved.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: Choosing how you show up at home for the holidays Opening the self to more understanding and compassion for family members How I stay grounded in the present moment Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Allison Crow M.Ed. is an author and the founder of Soul-Full Living, a coaching practice that helps clients work through thoughts, emotions, and behaviors using an approach based on Internal Family Systems. In addition to her work as a coach, Allison is the creator and host of the podcast, the Better Life Better Work Show, where she facilitates conversations on authentic leadership and developing better life and work habits. She holds a Master's degree in Educational Psychology from the University of Texas at Austin and received her Internal Family Systems skills training from the IFS Institute. Her book, Unarmored: Finding Home in the Wild Edges of Being Human, is scheduled for release in December 2022. Allison joins me today to discuss her book and her relationship with writing. She describes her childhood, the environment she grew up in, and her ADHD diagnosis at 50. She explains why a life built on dopamine hits is unsustainable and elaborates on how building slow, boring habits improved her life. She also highlights how being self-centered is one of the most loving things you can do for others and underscores how writing helps us remember who we are. “Writing helps me remember who I am. We live in a world of forgetting, and writing helps me remember—it takes my inside out instead of putting something from the outside in.” - Allison Crow This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: The first books in Allison's life that stuck with her Allison's relationship with writing How the way Allison dresses reflects the environment she grew up in How Allison paints with words in Unarmored and why it isn't for everyone Writing as a nurturing practice and how Allison discovered the power of words How writing helps us remember who we are Growing up in a volatile environment of love and verbal violence How writing can help sort through the chaos of life A reading from Allison's Unarmored Why building a life and career on dopamine hits is unsustainable Doing low, slow, and boring work and the power of habits Creating a loving, compassionate culture of sacred willingness and intentional doing Pound, beat, stomp, slap, and shake and the wisdom of fire ants Why being self-centered is leadership Coming home to myself Resources Mentioned: Book: The Re-enchantment of Everyday Life by Thomas Moore Book: The Last Picture Show by Larry McMurty Book: Where the Red Fern Grows by Wilson Rawls Book: Succulent Wild Woman (25th Anniversary Edition): Dancing with Your Wonder-full Self by SARK Book: Becoming by Michelle Obama Book: Only 10s 2.0: Confront Your To-Do List and Transform Your Life  by Mark Silverman Related Content: Embracing Negative Emotions with Allison Crow Connect with Allison Crow: Allison Crow Website The Better Life Better Work Show Allison Crow on LinkedIn Allison Crow on Instagram Allison Crow on Facebook Allison Crow on YouTube Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jewelle (Colwell Boldt) Zehr is a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach and Certified Regenerating Images in Memory Facilitator. A trauma survivor herself, Jewelle created The Art of Onward, a platform where she guides clients to healing and rebuilding their lives after trauma by using the exact strategies that saved her own life. She studied at the Life Mastery Institute and is a member of the Energy Medicine Professional Association. In addition to her work as a coach, Jewelle is an award-winning actress, film and TV producer, and writer. She is the creator and executive producer of SkyeLove Pictures, an actor and voice-over artist for Dark Horse Talent, and the author of several books, including Gratitude Journal: Guided Daily Gratitude and Meditation Prompts. Jewelle joins me today to discuss how unhealed trauma impacts our physical health and how it manifested in her life as signs and symptoms of disease. She shares how the impact of unhealed trauma later led her to near death and how she had to strive for her own survival. She explains the fears that hinder people from seeking help and working through their trauma. She also discusses the Regenerating Images in Memory healing method and how it works and shares an example of how regenerating can give you back power. “We can hide from our trauma for many years, but our bodies can't. We can fake being that high-functioning trauma survivor until the body says, ‘Stop. I'm done. I'm out.'”  - Jewelle Zehr This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: Why time does not heal all wounds How trauma can pass down from mother to child The things we do when we're in a relationship with a narcissist Complex PTSD, Grave's disease, and how unhealed wounds showed up in Jewelle's life and physical health Why Jewelle is passionate about working to help other people heal Living a dual life as a trauma survivor and why you can't hide trauma from the body Toxic positivity and how it can re-traumatize people The Regenerating Images in Memory healing method How people experience results from doing healing work in different timelines What a Regenerating Images and Memory session looks like Resources Mentioned: Book: Goodbye, Hurt & Pain: 7 Simple Steps for Health, Love, and Success (Emotional Intelligence Book for a Life of Success) by Deborah Sandella Ph.D. Book: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Related Content: Healing from Betrayal Trauma with Jewelle (Colwell Boldt) Zehr Connect with Jewelle (Colwell Boldt) Zehr: The Art of Onward The Art of Onward on Instagram Heal & Rebuild after Trauma Facebook Group Jewelle Zehr on LinkedIn Jewelle Zehr on Instagram Book: Gratitude Journal: Guided Daily Gratitude and Meditation Prompts Email: theartofonward@gmail.com Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Going home for the holidays is a blend of “Ooh, that sounds cozy!” and “Ugh, that's a nightmare filled with bad thermostat settings and uncomfortable furniture.” The fact that I've lived outside my parents' home for more than 30 years doesn't matter—the minute I walk back through the doors, I revert to my wounded inner child, equipped with the same endless loop of stories and resentments and ready to rumble. If you were in my shoes, what would you do when your deeply wounded, angry inner child shows up as the house guest? In this episode, I discuss how to manage going home with your inner child for the holidays. I describe how my siblings and I revert to our younger versions whenever we come home. I also highlight the importance of digging deeper into the past while staying grounded in the present and the gift of moving from self-judgment to self-compassion. “You can acknowledge the old shit that lights you up like an inferno, but it's in the present that you have the greatest ability not to act on those memories in the moment.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: How going home for the holidays makes us revert to our younger selves The power of noticing and knowing the story behind the stories A tale of bar mitzvahs and the importance of knowing what memories are real or made up Digging into the past while grounded in the present Moving from self-judgment to self-compassion Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We were all children once upon a time. But, as we grow up, we never really lose those sparkly, hopeful, energized, fun, and funny versions of ourselves—they are still with us today. For many members of the Trauma Hiders Club, our inner children are in pain and hiding, waiting to be held and supported. They are waiting to be known and acknowledged. If you're one of those people, know that it's never too late to support your inner child. In this episode, I offer you a practice for getting to know your inner child. I explain how our inner children, when burdened with open wounds and unprocessed trauma, can sabotage our adult experience. I also describe the deep work needed to bring our inner children into the joyful light and share a few questions to ask yourself to start getting to know your inner child. “Get to know your inner child by reconnecting with who you were before the world of rules was thrust upon you.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: The inner child Doing the work to get to know our inner children How unprocessed trauma can make our inner children sabotage our adult life Getting to know your inner child Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jewelle (Colwell Boldt) Zehr is a certified trauma recovery coach and the creator of The Art of Onward, a platform through which she guides clients to healing and rebuilding their lives after trauma by using the exact strategies that saved her own life. As a coach and trauma survivor, Jewelle focuses on inspiring others in their journeys to true healing and wholeness. In addition to her work as a coach, Jewelle is an award-winning actress, film and TV producer, and author. She is the creator and executive producer of SkyeLove Pictures and an actor and voice-over artist for Dark Horse Talent.   Jewelle joins us today to discuss betrayal trauma and rebuilding your life after surviving it. She opens up about the betrayal trauma she experienced in the summer of 2015 and her journey through healing and recovery. She explains the two dimensions of betrayal trauma and describes what it's like to lose yourself after experiencing trauma. Jewelle also describes self-sabotage, why people choose chaos over peace, and the kind of work she did to heal from betrayal trauma. “We're not just talking about what someone else did—we're trying to deal with and trying to heal what we've done to ourselves.” - Jewelle Zehr This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast: What Jewelle's listening to on repeat in her playlist The Art of Onward and what happened to Jewelle in the summer of 2015 Living in denial with a narcissist and addict The impact of betrayal and narcissist trauma The tendency to choose the high-firing dopamine hit of discomfort over safety and peace Self-sabotage and how perceived control calms down trauma Losing yourself and how betrayal trauma can lead to self-betrayal Reuniting the different parts of ourselves after experiencing betrayal trauma Jewelle's work as a certified trauma recovery coach Why narcissists tap into other people's empathy, compassion, and kindness How trauma and hypervigilance may open us to empathy Resources Mentioned: Grae Moore on Spotify Connect with Jewelle (Colwell Boldt) Zehr: The Art of Onward The Art of Onward on Instagram Heal & Rebuild after Trauma Facebook Group Jewelle Zehr on LinkedIn Jewelle Zehr on Instagram Email: theartofonward@gmail.com Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER Thanks for tuning into this week's Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast' episode with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts. Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you. Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.