3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms

I've never considered myself a person who cares about fashion or "style" so when I first stumbled across Julie Allen on Instagram, I didn't expect to stick around. But something about the way she talked about clothes felt different. It was kind, approachable, and freeing. Julie teaches women how to embrace style tools instead of style rules, and as I listened to her, I realized how much that philosophy overlaps with how I think about motherhood. There's no one right way to be a mom—or to get dressed. It's about finding what fits you and building a life you love from there. Julie is a mom of six and a style educator who's passionate about helping women reconnect with themselves through the way they show up each day. In this episode, she shares three style principles that double as beautiful life lessons for moms—and they might just shift the way you think about both your wardrobe and your parenting. We'll talk about: ✨ How to use style (and motherhood) tools instead of rigid rules ✨ Why you're allowed to express different parts of yourself—on any given day ✨ The importance of building your motherhood on a foundation of your core values Whether or not you've ever cared much about fashion, this episode will help you feel more confident in showing up as you. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 201: Living your Life's Purpose in Every Stage // Brooke Snow 297: 3 Secrets to Confidence in Motherhood 354: Letting Go of Heavy Expectations of Yourself // Sneak Peek from the Declutter your Motherhood Audio Course   Episode Sponsors: Team Supercrew: Visit teamsupercrew.com and use the code 3in30 at checkout to get 10% off your order. You'll also get a free gift—step-by-step reading and play guides to help you reinforce the lessons in simple, powerful ways. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. KiwiCo: Build the best summer ever with KiwiCo! Get $15 off on your Summer Adventure Series at kiwico.com.   Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

As moms, summer can feel like both a dream and a juggling act. We want to make magical memories for our families… but we also crave order, rest, and a little bit of time for ourselves. So, how do we actually find balance in the chaos of summer break?   In this episode, I'm joined by Jenny Layton—professional organizer, time management coach, and mom of five—who shares a beautifully simple framework that will change the way you think about your summer rhythm. Jenny introduces the idea of “family and personal seasons” and helps us understand how to honor the season we're in, while still making space for what we need as women.   In this conversation, we explore:   ✨ Why summer feels so overwhelming—and how to shift your expectations ✨ How to embrace the season of family life without losing yourself in it ✨ Why even a small “dot of personal time” can restore your sense of peace ✨ How to help your kids learn to rebalance themselves when they're bored or off-track   Whether you're a full-time stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you create a summer that feels more aligned, more joyful, and more you.   For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Don't miss the free PDF bundle Jenny created for our listeners—including a printable yin-yang graphic, an “Are You Bored?” checklist for kids, and a list of age-appropriate life skills to teach your children over the summer. Related Episodes: 371: 3 Spaces to Organize for the Most Summer Fun // Jen Martin from Reset Your Nest 361: How to Make Reading Fun This Summer // Janssen Bradshaw 360: A Secret Tool to Keep Your Kids Entertained this Summer // Andi Smiley Episode Sponsors: Skylight: Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15 inch Calendars by going to Skylightcal.com/3IN30. AquaTru: Get 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Just go to AquaTru.com and enter code “3IN30” at checkout. Wildgrain: For a limited time, Wildgrain is offering our listeners $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/3IN30 to start your subscription. Or you can use code 3in30 at checkout. StoryWorth: Right now, save $10 on your first purchase when you go to StoryWorth.com/3in30. Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

This is one of those episodes I felt called to record because I know so many of us have been here. You love your child with your whole heart, and yet, in certain seasons, you find yourself thinking, I just don't like them very much right now.   That doesn't make you a bad mom. It makes you human.   In this solo episode, I'm sharing three tools that have helped me move through those really hard parenting stretches—when one child is pushing every button I have—and find my way back to affection, connection, and even joy.   We'll talk about:  

What happens when your child's story looks nothing like the one you had imagined? This heartfelt encore episode features my dear friend, Michelle Barrow—a mother of four and grandmother of six—who generously shares the wisdom she's gained from raising teenagers and supporting her adult children through life's unexpected twists. This conversation is a powerful companion to last week's episode with author Jessica N. Turner on moving forward when life doesn't turn out as planned. In this episode, Michelle invites us into her journey of learning how to let go of rigid expectations, make room for her children's evolving identities, and parent from a place of trust rather than fear. In this conversation, you'll hear:

When you were younger, did you imagine your life turning out a certain way? Maybe you thought you'd have a house full of children, a forever kind of love, or a career that lit you up. But what happens when the reality of your life looks nothing like the dream? In this heartfelt and hope-filled episode, I sit down with bestselling author Jessica N. Turner to talk about how to rise from life's deepest disappointments and rebuild something beautiful. Jessica vulnerably shares her personal story of walking through a midlife divorce after her husband of 16 years came out—and the healing journey that followed. Whether you're grieving the loss of a dream, struggling through a transition, or just feeling stuck in unmet expectations, this conversation will help you:

If you have a strong-willed child, you know that traditional parenting strategies just don't work. No amount of reasoning, bribing, or threatening seems to move the needle—and sometimes, the more you push, the harder they push back. So what does work? In this episode, I'm joined by Kirk Martin, founder of Celebrate Calm and host of the Calm Parenting Podcast. With his signature humor and straight-talking style, Kirk shares practical strategies for understanding and guiding strong-willed kids—without constant power struggles. Tune in to learn: ✨ The quickest way to change your child's behavior (hint: it has little to do with them!) ✨ How to de-escalate meltdowns -- without saying, "Calm down!" ✨ The power of using body posture and tone to foster cooperation ✨ Why strong-willed kids thrive in adulthood—and how to survive their childhood For a FREE printable with tips for de-escalating meltdowns, along with a private podcast feed that includes all of the episodes I've produced on raising strong-willed kids, click here! My friend, if you're feeling exhausted, frustrated, or just plain out of ideas with your strong-willed child, this episode is for you. And please know I'm in the trenches with you, and I'm rooting for you! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: For a FREE printable with tips for de-escalating meltdowns, along with a private podcast feed that includes all of the episodes I've produced on raising strong-willed kids, click here! Related Episodes: 242: What to Do When Your Kids are Fighting // Dr. Laura Markham 266: Parenting Strong-Willed Kids // Wendy Snyder 391: Parenting a Child with ADHD: How to Stay Calm and Connected // Rachel on The Childhood Collective Episode Sponsors: Acorns Early: Ready to help your kids learn the value of money? Just head to acornsearly.com/3in30 or download the Acorns Early app to get started. Sign up now and your first month is on us! Wild Grain: For a limited time, Wild Grain is offering our listeners $30 off your first box plus free croissants in every box when you start a subscription. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Have you ever asked your kids about their day, only to get one-word answers in return? Or sat across from your spouse on a long-awaited date night and struggled to find something meaningful to talk about? Communication can feel hardest with the people we love the most—but what if we could change that? In this episode, I sit down with Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and bestselling author Charles Duhigg to explore what makes someone a super communicator and how we can apply these insights to deepen our most important relationships. Tune in to learn:

If you've ever looked around at a sink full of dishes or a pile of unfolded laundry and felt like you were drowning, you're in good company. I know that feeling well. As a recovering perfectionist and all-or-nothing thinker, I used to struggle with self-compassion when it came to housework. But through therapy and learning from experts like KC Davis, I've discovered a new way to approach it—one that's kinder, more sustainable, and rooted in self-care. If you can relate, you're going to love this conversation with KC where we talk about:

Are you raising a neurodivergent child? If so, you know the journey can often feel isolating, exhausting, and uncertain. How can you teach them the essential skills they need? How do you build a strong relationship with them? Are there other moms who share your struggles? In this episode, I'm thrilled to share an inspiring conversation with Kim Gameroz, the founder of Teaching Inside Out and a leading expert in helping parents and teachers cultivate social and emotional skills in children. Kim's insights are truly transformative, and I believe you'll find her approach both empowering and practical. In this episode, you'll hear:

When someone we love has a child with intellectual or physical disabilities, we want to be there for them—but sometimes, we're unsure how. What should we say? What if we say the wrong thing? How can we genuinely show up in ways that matter? In today's episode, I'm joined by Katie Blackburn, a mom of children with disabilities, who's here to share practical, heartfelt ways to support families in the disability community, including:

Spring Break is coming up, and if travel isn't an option this year, don't worry—you can still make it a fun and memorable week for your kids and yourself at home! In this episode, Abby, Stacey and Steph, three members of the 3 in 30 team, share simple, stress-free strategies to make your staycation special—without feeling like you have to entertain your kids 24/7, including:

It's amazing how just one small word can shift an entire conversation—for better or worse. Without realizing it, we often invite comparison into our discussions, creating unnecessary tension or discomfort. That's why I'm thrilled to have Kathie Gwilliam on the podcast this week! Kathie is an expert at identifying the subtle ways comparison sneaks into our language, and she's here to help us become more self-aware. In this episode, you'll learn: ✅ Three common phrases that unintentionally fuel comparison—and what to say instead. ✅ How to help your kids when they feel insecure after someone else gets a compliment. ✅ A simple way to introduce yourself with confidence. ✅ Why we need to be mindful of body-talk around our kids—plus a healthy way to process body image struggles. Since learning from Kathie, I've been catching myself making comparisons—and I'm working on changing that! I'd love to hear how this episode impacts you. Come share your thoughts with me on Instagram! *** Related Episodes: 298: How to Be the Mom you Are – Instead of the Mom you THINK you Should Be // Julie Bastedo 245: You're Exactly Where You Need to Be // Alison Faulkner 012: How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself: 3 of the Best Tools I Learned in Counseling Episode Sponsors: Tushbaby:  Whether you're carrying a kid who wants to see the world, or just looking to save your back, Tushbaby is here to make parenting a little easier, one day or carry at a time. Visit tushbaby.com and start customizing your own carrier. Make sure to use code 3IN30 for 20 percent off your first order. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. KiwiCo: Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3IN30. Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

If you ever feel at a loss for how to support your partner, friend, or family member who struggles with mental illness, this special episode is for you. My brother-in-law Logan has been a loving and sturdy support for my older sister Sarah through decades of mental health challenges. Over their 20 years of marriage, he has learned a lot about how best to support someone who is struggling, and he's joining me in this episode to share those insights with us, including: - What to do when frustration creeps in and it feels like your loved one isn't “trying hard enough.” - How to give yourself permission to feel joy, even when your loved one is feeling down. - A mantra to lean on when everything feels heavy and hope is running low. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.  Be sure to also listen to the episodes with my beloved sister Sarah, where we discuss depression in motherhood and how to get help with mental illness. If you're caring for someone battling mental illness, I want to take a moment to say thank you. Thank you for being there and for giving of your compassion and love. Please remember to take care of yourself too. You deserve support and help through this, too. [FREE DOWNLOAD] Mental Health Guide for Depression and Anxiety // To support you even further, I've created a guide that includes actionable ways to support yourself in depression and how to support a loved one who is struggling, as well as a private playlist of all of the episodes I've released about mental illness and helpful resources for additional support. *** Announcements: To receive the guide I created with actionable ways to support yourself or a loved one with mental illness, click here.   Related Episodes: 414: Feeling Low Right Now? 3 Tools to Help You Cope // Sarah McKenna 415: How to Get Help for Mental Illness // Sarah McKenna 319: Three Tools I Use to Manage Anxiety and Depression Episode Sponsors: Helix: Go to helixsleep.com/3in30 for 27% Off Sitewide + 2 Free Dream Pillows with mattress purchase + a free bedding bundle, which is two dream pillows, set sheet, and mattress protector with any Lux or Elite mattress order. Factor: Go to factormeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off to get 50% off your first box. Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life. Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

After my daughter Sally was born, I stopped sleeping. During the day, I had a hard time looking at my baby because I didn't feel like I could take care of myself, let alone her. Up to this point, I had managed my natural melancholy okay on my own, but after a terrifying panic attack, I reached out for professional help.  I attribute my quick decision to get help to my older sister, Sarah, who has fought mental illness since she was a young teenager.  This time of year can be especially difficult for many emotionally. That's why I'm dedicating three episodes to the focus on mental health in motherhood. On Monday, you heard Sarah and I discuss depression in motherhood. Today's episode is focused on how to get professional help. Next week, you'll hear from Sarah's husband, Logan, about how to support a loved one who's struggling with mental illness.  In this second episode of the series, we discuss:  - A practical tip to help you stay honest with your doctor & therapist - A few helpful thoughts if you're scared to try medication.  - Two kinds of therapy you might not have thought about before.  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.  Whether you are struggling with mental illness or you have a loved one who is, I hope you find this series of episodes helpful.  [Free Download ] Guide to Nurturing Yourself when Managing Depression // To support you even further, I've created a packet that includes actionable ways to support yourself in depression and how to support a loved one who is struggling, as well as a QR code that links to a private playlist of all of the episodes I've released about mental illness.  Whatever battles you're fighting right now, my friend, I want you to know you're not alone.  *** Announcements:  To receive the guide I created with actionable ways to support yourself or a loved one with mental illness, click here.   Related Episodes: 414: Feeling Low Right Now? 3 Tools to Help You Cope // Sarah McKenna 319: Three Tools I Use to Manage Anxiety and Depression 184: Living Well with Depression & Anxiety // Jenny Showalter Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course

This time of year, I struggle more with depression. The winter months can be a really hard time - and I know it's just not me! That's why I truly feel like it's important this time of year to talk about mental illness in motherhood.  To give this topic the full focus it deserves, I'm dedicating the next three episodes to focusing on mental health in motherhood. This week, you'll hear previous episodes I aired with my beloved older sister, Sarah, where we discuss depression in motherhood and how to get help with mental illness. After that, I will air a new episode with Sarah's husband, Logan, about ways to care for a loved one struggling with mental illness.  In this first episode of the series, we discuss:  One way depression manifests itself that you might not recognize (hint: knowing this might help you not feel so guilty when it hits).  A simple tip to help on those days when depression makes it too hard to even eat.  A helpful rule of thumb to use when deciding which self-care strategy you need most.  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.  Whether you are struggling with mental illness or you have a loved one who is, I hope you find this series of episodes helpful.  [Free Download ] Guide to Nurturing Yourself when Managing Depression // To support you even further, I've created a packet that includes actionable ways to support yourself in depression and how to support a loved one who is struggling, as well as a QR code that links to a private playlist of all of the episodes I've released about mental illness.  Whatever battles you're fighting right now, my friend, I want you to know you're not alone. *** Announcements:  To receive the packet I created with actionable ways to support yourself or a loved one with mental illness, click here.   Related Episodes: 319: Three Tools I Use to Manage Anxiety and Depression 300: Coping with Illness or Pain as a Mom // Becky and Candace 184: Living Well with Depression & Anxiety // Jenny Showalter Episode Sponsors: Wild Grain: For a limited time, Wild Grain is offering our listeners $30 off your first box plus free croissants in every box when you start a subscription. Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Feeling maxed out? But also feeling like it's YOUR fault you feel that way? You're not alone!  If you're caught in a cycle of overcommitment, self-criticism, and the struggle to say "yes" when you really want to say "no," this episode is for you! Join me as I chat with Amy Wilson, who shares invaluable insights for women navigating the challenges of over-commitment. In this episode, you'll hear:  - The best question to ask yourself to create more margin in your life (it's definitely not what you think!) - Why saying "no" is not always the  "full sentence" we're led to believe it is (and what needs to come next!) - Tactics to help when saying “no” is met with uncomfortable silence. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.  PLUS, if you need help figuring out WHAT to put down in your life and HOW to articulate it to others, check out my audio course Declutter your Motherhood! This course offers insightful questions to help you pinpoint the sources of your overwhelm, along with compassionate scripts to explain your needs to family and friends. Now until the end of January, use the code NEWYEAR for $50 off! *** Announcement:  Sign up for my Declutter your Motherhood Audio course by the end of January to get $50 off - use code NEWYEAR.  Related Episodes:  293: Rethinking Housework // KC Davis 262: 3 Ways to Recover from Mom Burnout 211: Raising Independent Tweens & Teens // Amy & Margaret from What Fresh Hell Podcast Sponsors: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

With the new year comes a new surge of energy for me to GET MY LIFE IN ORDER! My kids always laugh at me when I get these bursts of motivation because they never last. They roll their eyes and humor me as I declare plans to declutter our home and patiently wait for my resolve to fizzle. Is this cycle familiar to you too? Well, if so, you're in for a treat. I truly believe that with some mindset shifts and a deeper commitment to our WHY for decluttering our homes, this can be the year that decluttering actually sticks.  My guest today, Erica Layne from The Life on Purpose Movement, believes this too. On this week's episode, Erica will share: - The simple mindset shift that can make it easier to "get to work" when you're feeling overwhelmed by your messy house.  - What clutter does (and does NOT) say about you.  - The best way to approach decluttering with sentimental items. Are you ready to start the decluttering process and follow through this time? Let's do this! Plus, if you're looking to dive deeper into mental decluttering, my Declutter Your Motherhood Course is currently $50 off through the end of January.  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.  *** Announcements:  - Sign up for my Declutter Your Motherhood Course and get $50 off through the end of January! Use code NEWYEAR to get $50 off through January. - Grab Erica's worksheet: Digging Deep: A Worksheet to Help You Explore Your Relationship with Clutter So You Can Finally LET GO Related Episodes:  161: Cleaning & Organization Strategies for the Naturally-Messy Mom // Candi Kidd 287: How to Organize Any Space // Candi Kidd 351: Is Your Messy House Getting You Down? // Carly Thornock Episode sponsors: Wild Grain: For a limited time, Wild Grain is offering our listeners $30 off your first box plus free croissants in every box when you start a subscription. Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

As we dive into the season of goal-setting and resolutions, I want to start with an episode focused on honoring and understanding our female bodies and how that relates to goal-setting. Because guess what? As women, we are physiologically unable to have the same level of energy and motivation every single day of the month due to our menstrual cycles, and that TRUTH should absolutely change the way that we set goals. We will not be exactly consistent with goals because our bodies are not exactly consistent, and that is okay! In this episode, April Davis of Haus of Vagina educates us on our menstrual cycles and how to align our goals with our cycles, including: 1. The four phases of the menstrual cycle. 2. What to expect from ourselves during each phase. 3. Strategies for aligning our goals and ambitions with our cycle. Tune into the episode to learn more!  I've also designed a FREE worksheet that recaps April's awesome information. This is an incredible resource for you or any woman or girl in your life. I wish I had known this stuff decades ago!    For full show notes, as well as a summary of the takeaways, click here.  Take care of yourself, my friend, especially if you're luteal! xo *** Announcements:  -Get my FREE worksheet to go along with this episode! -Please consider leaving a review for the podcast! Great reviews help us get even more great people on the show! If you're not sure how to leave a review, click here. Related Episodes:  163: How to Achieve Any Goal // Jen Kane 267: How to Stop Procrastinating in the New Year // Monica Packer 320: Making Space for Self-Care: It Might Not Be As Hard As You Think // Dr. Nicole Sparks Episode sponsors: Helix: Go to helixsleep.com/3in30 for 25% Off Sitewide + 2 Free Dream Pillows with Mattress Purchase. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course

Happy Monday, my friends! I am truly so grateful to be with you on this final Monday of 2024. Today's episode is going to be a bit more personal than usual, as I spend some time talking through the highs and lows of my year.  As I shared in last week's encore episode with Chatbooks co-founder Vanessa Quigley, I love to spend time at the end of the year reflecting on questions my mom used to ask me when I was growing up. I've done it pretty much every year for 25 years, and I am honored to bring a little sample of that to the podcast today and share with all of you.  Today, I will be sharing 3 of my 2024 highlights and 3 of my 2024 challenges.  For full show notes, as well as a summary of the takeaways, click here.  If you want a guide as you reflect over the year, I've designed a printable and fillable worksheet to help you through the reflection process. I'd love to hear your highs and lows! Come share with me on Instagram! *** Announcements:  -Head to Miss Freddy's to get your photos organized! -Use Code 3in30 to get 10% off Flecks of Gold Journals this holiday season!  -Use code 3in30 for 20% off your Chatbooks order through January 4th, 2025 -Get my FREE worksheet for your New Year's reflection! -Please consider leaving a review for the podcast! Great reviews help us get even more great people on the show! If you're not sure how to leave a review, click here. Related Episodes:  215: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself for the New Year 267: How to Stop Procrastinating in the New Year // Monica Packer 349: Overcoming Decision Fatigue through Reflection // Emily P. Freeman Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

As we wrap up another year, it's the perfect moment to reflect as a family and set intentions for the upcoming year. In this episode, I'm thrilled to welcome rockstar mom and business owner Vanessa Quigley of Chatbooks. Vanessa shares insightful ways to help your family make the most of this transitional time of year, including: 1. Six end-of-year questions to ask each family member to reflect on and share. 2. How to choose a "family theme" for the upcoming year. 3. A simple way to capture and look back on all of your family memories from the year. Jump into the episode to learn more about each of these takeaways.  To further help, I've also designed a printable and fillable worksheet to guide your family through the reflection process. Share it with your loved ones and spark fantastic conversations!   For full show notes, as well as a summary of the takeaways, click here.  Happy Holidays! xo *** Announcements:  -Use Code 3in30 to get 10% off Flecks of Gold Journals this holiday season!  -Use code 3in30 for 20% off your Chatbooks order through January 4th, 2025 -Get my FREE worksheet to go along with this episode! -Please consider leaving a review for the podcast! Great reviews help us get even more great people on the show! If you're not sure how to leave a review, click here. Related Episodes:  215: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself for the New Year 267: How to Stop Procrastinating in the New Year // Monica Packer 349: Overcoming Decision Fatigue through Reflection // Emily P. Freeman Episode sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off with your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course

Feeling overwhelmed and in need of a mental health boost? Join me as I share a simple daily practice that takes just two minutes! In this episode, I'll explore three transformative benefits of a 2-minute journaling routine, including: Discovering “glimmers” in your day to promote healing. Harnessing the power of gratitude to build resilience. Embracing positive moments to help quiet anxiety. For full show notes and a deeper dive into these takeaways, click here.  *** Announcement:  On Dec 16, take advantage of our Christmas Flash Sale! Take $5 off your Flecks of Gold Journal.  After Dec 16, use Code 3in30 to get 10% off Flecks of Gold Journals this holiday season!  Related Episodes:  401: How Radical Gratitude Can Change Your Life // Dr. Tanmeet Sethi 359: A Simple Reframe to Help You Journal Consistently 349: Overcoming Decision Fatigue through Reflection // Emily P. Freeman Episode sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off with your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. LMNT: Get your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/3in30 MeUndies: To get 20% off your first order, plus free shipping, go to meundies.com/3in30 and enter promo code 3in30. Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Do you feel stuck? With the New Year coming, we're hearing a lot about goals, but maybe for you, the idea of goals feels discouraging or daunting. You want to change, but how? If this resonates, you will love today's mini-episode! This mini-episode is part of a series we do occasionally where I introduce you to other wonderful podcasts that might bless and benefit your life. These shows are all produced by or part of the podcast network that I am a part of, Cloud10 Media. Today's feature is a podcast called Help Me Be Me. The host, Sarah May, is a mom, break-up coach, writer, director, and former therapist. She describes her podcast as self-help for people who hate self-help. If you want to listen to the full episode, click here! Get In Touch with Abbe: Website: Yay With Me Instagram: @sarahmayb Sarah May B's Podcast on Apple: Click here Sarah May B's Podcast on iHeart: Click here

It's “the most wonderful time of the year,” but for some of us, it doesn't necessarily feel like it. I know not everyone relates to this confusing angst during the holidays, but maybe you do. Maybe you put a smile on your face for the parties and events, but inside, you might feel as alone as the Grinch sitting in his cave on top of the hill because who feels down during the holidays? Is your heart just three sizes too small?  In today's episode, I'm joined by Dr. Tanmeet Sethi, who shares three tangible ways we can navigate these melancholy feelings during this time of year, including: 1. A simple exercise to soften your melancholy so it doesn't overpower you.  2. A powerful way to boost your energy and feel more at peace.  3. The single best thing you can do to mother yourself during this season.  Listening to Dr. Sethi's blend of compassion and research feels like a hug for my inner Eeyore! I hope you feel the same way! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcement:  Use Code 3in30 to get 10% off Flecks of Gold Journals this holiday season!  Related Episodes:  325: How to have Less-Stressful, More Meaningful Holidays // Desirae Endres from Minimal-ish 398: How to Plan for an Energizing (not Exhausting) Holiday Season // Dr. Amber Price 401: How Radical Gratitude Can Change Your Life // Dr. Tanmeet Sethi, MD Episode Sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off with your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. Let's Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Feeling overwhelmed by the jingling chaos of the holiday season? You're not alone! The holidays can add a huge load on us moms. Recently, I found myself overwhelmed, so I took my own advice from the Self-Assured Motherhood program: I paused, assessed my mental load, and eliminated what I could. One of those items was this episode, which I entrusted to my wise, capable team members. And, let me tell you, they stepped up and delivered! This week, 4 of my team members - Molly, Christy, Abby, and Emily - share three practical tips for managing the mental load during this busy time of year. Their advice is both realistic and incredibly helpful. Wishing you all the best as you navigate the festive hustle and bustle, my friend! Happy Holidays! *** Announcement:  $5 off Flecks of Gold Journals through Dec 3!  After Dec 3, use Code 3in30 to get 10% on Flecks of Gold Journals for our holiday sale Related Episodes:  398: How to Plan for an Energizing (not Exhausting) Holiday Season // Dr. Amber Price 325: How to have Less-Stressful, More Meaningful Holidays // Desirae Endres from Minimal-ish 210: Simple Holiday Traditions to Connect Generations // Jack & Elaine Westover Episode sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off with your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order.

Wouldn't it be nice if our kids innately felt grateful for all we (and others) do for them? That they naturally expressed gratitude and could see how blessed they are?  Certainly, some kids are more predisposed than others, but it's been my experience, and I'm guessing yours too, that this doesn't come naturally to most kids. Instead, gratitude is a skill that needs to be taught and practiced repeatedly.  So the big question is: how do we teach it?  Today's episode will focus on three actionable, realistic ways to teach your kids gratitude.  Click play NOW to jump in! Full full show notes, including a list of takeaways, click here.  Join us on Instagram! *** Announcement: 10% off Flecks of Gold Journals through Dec 3!  Plus! Get Flecks of Gold Digital Download for Kids for only $5 with any journal purchase!  Related Episodes:  109: How to Find Gratitude in the Marathons of Life // Taffy Micheli 209: 3 Unexpected Blessings of Focusing on Gratitude 401: How Radical Gratitude Can Change Your Life // Dr. Tanmeet Sethi, MD Episode sponsors: KiwiCo: Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3IN30. MeUndies: To get 20% off your first order, plus free shipping, go to meundies.com/3in30 and enter promo code 3in30.  Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. ***

Our children's reactions are often NOT logical. Their outbursts of emotion sometimes seem ridiculous and outsized, and when we try to "talk some sense into them," it usually makes everything worse. Before we know it, we find ourselves yelling and reacting with big anger, and the whole family spirals into a swamp of dysregulation.  Can you relate?

Do you enjoy traveling, but financial constraints prevent you from visiting some places on your bucket list? If this sounds like you, I'd like to share a strategy I recently learned about: traveling using credit card points. By making a few minor adjustments to the credit cards we use and when, we've earned enough points to fund a vacation for our family of four at no cost! (And that's without going into debt or carrying a balance!) I learned how to do this from my guest on today's podcast, Amber Paul. She joins me to share awesome tips, including a simple swap that can earn you five free tickets to Europe (instead of one), the best credit cards to add to your wallet, and how to meet the minimum spending requirements without spending any more money than you usually would!  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcement:  Free Worksheet with Amber's Best Credit Card Offers Get $5 off Flecks of Gold Journals through the month of November! Related Episodes:  363: Tips & Tricks for Family Travel // Meesha Slade 295: 3 Road Trip Hacks for Traveling with Kids // Brittney Hanks 374: Using Values to Guide Your Spending // Jen Smith of Frugal Friends Podcast Episode sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off with your subscription now. Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. ***

Radical gratitude is a powerful practice to help you through difficult times. But if you're in the thick of difficult times (which I know many of you are!), you might be tempted to click away right now. And I get why. ❤️‍

Brooke Romney is the queen of modern manners for teens.  If you missed it, our last episode was an interview I did with Brooke about friendship problems in the teen years. I hope her words in that interview resonated with you like they did with me.  This episode is a little bonus addition where I asked Brooke to share three mini conversations we can have with our teens to help them get better at friendships. (Because, let's face it, most teens need some help learning how to be a good friend! Does anyone else feel like they have a toddler again?

Teenage friendship problems weigh heavily on us moms.

Does holiday stress ever take the joy out of the holiday season for you?  It's November 1st, friends, which, for many of you, might mean that you've officially switched from harvest mode to full-on holiday mode.  And with that switch, you might also feel the beginnings of holiday stress.

Coming-of-age celebrations are a powerful tool to use when raising teenagers.  If you're not sure what a coming-of-age celebration is, you are in for a treat! A coming-of-age celebration is a special occasion where you invite all of the important people in your teen's life to come together, celebrate your teen, and offer words of wisdom.  My son Noah turned 13 this past summer, and we hosted one of these celebrations. It was an incredible experience for him. In today's episode, Jennifer Brimhall gives us 3 reasons why we should hold these coming-of-celebrations for our teens. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcement:  Parenting Teens Playlist Related Episodes:  211: Raising Independent Teens and Tweens // Amy and Margaret from What Fresh Hell Podcast 303: How to Talk to Teenagers // Brooke Romney 358: Creating Golden Moments with Teenagers // Saren Eyre Loosli Sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. ***

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I recently taught a free masterclass all about mom rage. Toward the beginning of the class, I asked the women in attendance to share something that makes them feel angry on a regular basis. One mom shared: “Feeling rejected by my teen who wants nothing to do with me. This is not the mother-daughter relationship I envisioned.”

Protecting my kids from the dangers in the online world is a high priority for me. My son is 13, and I'm still holding off giving him a phone, even though he insists he's the only one in eighth grade who doesn't have one.  (And I want to say here that it's okay if you have a different view on what's best for your child, so no judgment on when you decide to make a phone available to them!!)  When he does get a phone in the next year or two, he will definitely have limits and filters to help him navigate his phone safely. But unfortunately, we all know that even the most adept filters and limits aren't foolproof. In fact, the best internet filter of all will come from Noah! The only way I can fully protect him from online danger is to help him develop his own internal filter.   My guest, Emily Jones, is a writer, speaker, author, and mother of 5. She and her husband Dave co-founded Family Tech University, which is a movement dedicated to helping parents prepare their children for today's tech in new and powerful ways. Emily shares with us today how to help our kids use technology wisely as they develop their own internal filters. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes like this one on Internet Filters for Kids: 207: How do I help my child build a healthy relationship with technology? // Andrea Davis 283: When Should I Give My Child a Cell Phone // Andrea Davis 309: Kids & Screentime: What does the research say? // Dr. Katie Davis Announcements: Navigating Screens & Tech Playlist Internal Filter Workshop from Family Tech University Sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. LMNT: Get your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/3in30 BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy.

Are you feeling out of your depth as you navigate the teen years? My son, Noah, just turned 13, and I have noticed a definite shift in some of the dynamics of our relationship. That's why I'm so grateful for experts who can help me!   Amie Anger is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and mom of 6 kids ranging from 11-18 years old. She has a Bachelor's in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and two years of post-graduate fellowship training at the Yale Child Study Center through the Yale School of Medicine. Amie has been a private practice clinician specializing in child and family counseling for the past 17 years. Listen in to hear Amie's 3 takeaways for how to enjoy these tricky teen years! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 303: How to Talk to Teenagers // Brooke Romney 358: Creating Golden Moments with Teenagers // Saren Eyre Loosli 367: 3 Ways to Create Lasting Bonds with Your Kids // Mike Westover (Rachel's Dad!) Annoucements: Parenting Advice for Teenagers Playlist Sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off with your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. ***

Are you wondering how to have political conversations with your friends and loved ones without things turning, well... hostile? Election time is here, and the political atmosphere is so divisive that it can feel impossible to have political conversations without things getting heated.  So does this mean we just avoid talking about politics altogether?

Parenting a child with big emotions, big reactions, and a neurodiverse brain can be a real challenge.

Hello, my friends, this is it! This is a last call to sign up for the Self-Assured Motherhood program because enrollment closes Thursday at midnight. This program is for YOU if you often feel overwhelmed and burned out in your motherhood but are also very committed to your family and becoming the mother you want to be. This program is for YOU if you love gathering parenting strategies, tricks, and scripts from podcasts, social media, and books but don't always know how to apply what you're learning to your actual life. I don't want you to miss out on this unique opportunity to grow within your motherhood, which is why, for the next 48 hours ONLY, I'm airing my Masterclass that I've been teaching live to groups on Zoom the past few weeks. In this class, I introduce three of my core principles of Self-Assured Motherhood and answer some frequently asked questions about the program. I hope this limited-time bonus episode will give you a taste of SAM and help you decide if you want to join before the doors close for another year. *** Announcements: Self-Assured Motherhood Program: The doors to SAM are open until this Thursday, Sept 19! It only opens once per year, so join while you can! ***

Living with grief can feel heavy, dark, and confusing. It's a time when it's easy to lose ourselves. Grief looks different for everyone, and if you are in the middle of grieving, my heart aches for you.  I have experienced loss, and I know the deep ache of grief. It's a tender topic that's close to my heart. That's why I'm honored to share Shelby Quinlan's story with you.  Shelby is a former teacher and SAM alumni. She's mom to three girls, and she and her family have been navigating their grief this past year through the loss of a beloved grandparent and also Shelby's sister. I am so impressed with Shelby's courage to share how she's navigating living with grief while being still in the middle of it. I hope you find her story as inspiring and healing as I have.  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Self-Assured Motherhood Program: The doors to SAM are open until this Thursday, Sept 19! It only opens once per year, so join while you can! Related Episodes Like This One: 013: How to Support Those Who Are Grieving // Rachel Gainer 104: How to Move Through Grief Towards Healing // Dr. Anna Packard 155: Talking about Suicide: Insights from a Daughter Left Behind // Sara Grotenhuis Sponsor: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. ***

I always get asked who my Self-Assured Motherhood program is designed for - young moms? moms with young kids? stay-at-home moms? My answer is always emphatically: it's designed for all moms!  SAM is for all mothers - all ages, all stages, all walks of life. In fact, I often have the women in my program tell me it should be called Self-Assured Womanhood or Self-Assured Personhood because the principles apply so universally. (However, the acronym SAW and SAP don't have quite the same ring as SAM. Don't you agree?

What does a spaghetti dinner have to do with my Self-Assured Motherhood program?  Well, in this episode, I tell you! Come listen in! My Self-Assured Motherhood Program is open for enrollment TODAY, and I want you to join! SAM is not like any other parenting education you've participated in in the past – where you heard the lessons and felt like you understood them, but then you didn't actually apply them long-term. This program was developed with your long-term success in mind.    And that's because the SAM program was designed by a teacher - a professionally trained, extremely experienced, and, at the risk of sounding arrogant, very gifted teacher.

This bonus excerpt is one I pulled from Eli's full episode that dropped earlier this week. (If you haven't had a chance to listen, I highly recommend it. It's one of the most value-packed conversations I've had on 3 in 30!) Because it was so value-packed, we had to trim it to 30 minutes, and I didn't want you to miss out on this fascinating part of the conversation, so I decided to make it a bonus episode. These thoughts from Eli on co-regulation for parents blew my mind!   I mean, I had heard of co-regulation before, but the scientific evidence behind it is fascinating! I had no idea there were nerve fibers that are activated when I caress my child, and these nerve fibers calm my child's heart down! It takes the old adage "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" to a whole new level.

We all know how important it is to raise securely attached kids, but how to do it can be the tricky part!  It's true what they say about parenting: The days are long but the years are short. I feel like the years are flying by with my two kids, who are both now in double digits, and I often find myself wondering how I can parent them in a way that will keep our bonds strong through their teen years and into adulthood - and in a way that they will thrive in their adult relationships after they leave my care. This is why I've been drawn to the work of therapist and author Eli Harwood, who has dedicated her career to studying research on attachment theory and making it applicable to everyday humans trying to build secure relationships, whether that's the clients in her private practice, the hundreds of thousands who follow her on social media, or the people across the world who read her books.   Eli's newest book, Raising Securely Attached Kids, will be released on September 3, 2024, and it was a thrill to have her back on the podcast to discuss this important topic.  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Sign up for my FREE masterclass to learn all about rerouting your mom rage! Purchase Eli's Book here: Raising Securely Attached Kids by Eli Harwood Related Episodes:  367: 3 Ways to Create Lasting Bonds with Your Kids // Mike Westover (Rachel's Dad!) 279: Navigating Parenting Triggers // Nat Vikitsreth 340: How to Be a Safe Place for your Sweetheart// Eli Harwood Episode sponsors: KiwiCo: Use code 3in30 for 50% off your first month on any crate line! *** Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here we are! It's the final day of our two-week-long series on how to become more peaceful, confident, and happy in motherhood.  I have loved this series, and it's also been a ton of work--more work than I had anticipated! (Though I don't know why I didn't anticipate that airing a podcast episode every weekday for two weeks

My kids are headed back to school soon, and they will be doing all sorts of assessments to see how they're doing in math and reading and writing. And this got me thinking: I need to do a series of mini-podcast episodes during this back-to-school season for moms to assess how they are doing, not with balancing equations or diagramming sentences (because I have a feeling most of us would fail those assessments

My kids are headed back to school soon, and they will be doing all sorts of assessments to see how they're doing in math and reading and writing. And this got me thinking: I need to do a series of mini-podcast episodes during this back-to-school season for moms to assess how they are doing, not with balancing equations or diagramming sentences (because I have a feeling most of us would fail those assessments

My kids are headed back to school soon, and they will be doing all sorts of assessments to see how they're doing in math and reading and writing. And this got me thinking: I need to do a series of mini-podcast episodes during this back-to-school season for moms to assess how they are doing, not with balancing equations or diagramming sentences (because I have a feeling most of us would fail those assessments

My kids are headed back to school soon, and they will be doing all sorts of assessments to see how they're doing in math and reading and writing. And this got me thinking: I need to do a series of mini-podcast episodes during this back-to-school season for moms to assess how they are doing, not with balancing equations or diagramming sentences (because I have a feeling most of us would fail those assessments

My kids are headed back to school soon, and they will be doing all sorts of assessments to see how they're doing in math and reading and writing. And this got me thinking: I need to do a series of mini-podcast episodes during this back-to-school season for moms to assess how they are doing, not with balancing equations or diagramming sentences (because I have a feeling most of us would fail those assessments

My kids are headed back to school soon, and they will be doing all sorts of assessments to see how they're doing in math and reading and writing. And this got me thinking: I need to do a series of mini-podcast episodes during this back-to-school season for moms to assess how they are doing, not with balancing equations or diagramming sentences (because I have a feeling most of us would fail those assessments